Hey, what's it you guys welcome back to my channel today? I thought we could talk about some of the struggles relating to being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder BPD is a heavily misunderstood mental health condition. Personally, I remember when I was first diagnosed with borderline personality disorder I was in crisis all the time and I phoned the crisis team pretty much every day and It never really helped.  BPD has caused me so many problems over the years It's ruined most of my relationships with people Basically to prove it in my life But what are the struggles of BPD? The main struggle is getting help or support. I had three different care coordinators when I lived in south-west London and and None of them helped. BPD is a very complicated disorder and Honestly members of the NHS staff In the community setting They just don't want to deal with it. Well, I'd get to appointments about my mood And they just talk about bipolar My PTSD My eating disorder and my anxiety But never BPD. They never mentioned BPD. I Only found out I got diagnosed with BPD because a psychiatrist wrote it in a letter No one said anything to me about you mean the zest for borderline personality disorder I find it's one of the hardest disorders to live with because professionals don't want to hell We're seen as attention seekers Time wasters When in reality, we're just struggling Personally, I'm in a much better place than I was before and I have got it under control now. I Don't act on my impulsiveness. I don't Impulse if you do things anymore But those years I did struggle. I never had any help It's just really sad to think about how little support people BPD get I There is such thing as personality disorder pathway is Who do we see actually getting off of these things?  Oh, just don't do it Urges don't work that way When we're suicidal we need you to listen to us If someone was there to just listen to us, I Could guarantee there would be less suicide attempts In people who borderline personality disorder If we had someone that would listen to us when I tried to phone the crisis team and I was suicidal. I got hung up on Multiple times I recorded one because I I suspect it was gonna be the one not how it was hung up on me I wanted proof that this is what he was doing to me. So I recorded the phone call and It's he was like it doesn't seem like they're being challenged Like I was crying and I said I spent years trying And I said okay, bye Yes borderline personality disorder is a complex disorder, but you also have complex care treatment teams I used to be on the complex care treatment team So it's not like there's not resources available It's just then used. I see it on Instagram all the time people saying they're reaching out for help and then police turning up It's really unnecessary Just because someone's suicidal doesn't mean they need to go to hospital Suicide of thoughts come and go The only reason you need to talk to a suicidal thoughts is if you're thinking of acting on them It's the intent Personally, I don't ring ring a crisis team if I'm struggling Because I have no little respect for them. I Call a charity helpline called shout Drop on screen now Basically shout a charity organization that you can text This is UK only so sorry if you live in another country. I don't know helplines abroad But I do have some links in the description down below Whereas first diagnosed with BPD all I wanted was someone to listen My mom didn't understand it and my grandparents didn't understand it it was just a Diagnosis nobody knew anything about Which is the reason I make videos I make videos to raise awareness for things like borderline personality disorder But also PTSD bipolar other mental health conditions as well It's a really hard disorder to live with and I said some of the struggles are that staff don't care They don't listen you're left to your own devices And there's not enough support Because self-help shit only works if you're ready to put in the effort And if you're struggling with suicidal thoughts, you don't want to be sitting reading Documents for hours. I think one of the things that has helped me overcome my borderline personality disorder a bit is my medication So those don't know I take haloperidol 10 milligrams a day So it commands a pan 0.5 milligrams twice a day. I Take vortioxygen 20 milligrams at night To tracidone 50 milligrams at night to lithium a thousand milligrams at night I take a lot of medication, which I know is it's a lot, but it helps me get on with my life I'm able to go to university and sit through a four and a half hour lecture Which I just I've never been able to do I've always struggled and I've always had to take time out of lectures to refocus But I'm still allowed to use the autistic lounge, but uni They're a sensory room service that Which I think it's pretty cool for a university to have Honestly, so do you get met film school has been amazing And you're back on the topic of the video There are so many struggles of having borderline personality disorder You never know what's gonna hit you next You never know if you're gonna be happy or sad, you know, and if you're gonna be suicidal or not You might be impulsive that day So I might have left your life so you're the number of abandonment issues Then there's the trauma of how you've been treated Because we're getting BP these stems from trauma slash unstable homes It just needs more awareness and more support His staff weren't so afraid of the language borderline personality disorder It decreased all the suicide attempts We often attempt suicide and in the PD especially We attempt suicide here because We don't know what else to do That feels like the only option so we take an overdose we try to hang ourselves we Do whatever we're going to do to end our lives Sometimes look has it and we're saved Other times we lose people to us to suicide Which isn't right professional's need to bulk up And actually start dealing with the issues at hand I genuinely do blame professionals in this Because they don't help at all because they're afraid of the diagnosis That's all I've got for this video. I Hope it made some sense and if you do have a PD and you are struggling feel free to reach out to me And I'm happy to talk, but please remember. I'm not a professional and Don't send triggering content to my own strong DMs, please Thanks Have to put that a little bit. I don't want to get triggered


Well, I'm very proud of one case that we handled several years ago in the state of Florida when we brought suit against the Department of Transportation of the State of Florida. Our client was raped when she was using the restroom at the Florida Welcome Center off of Interstate 75 in Florida late at night. An escaped prisoner from a nearby prison entered the facility from entered the restroom from an unsecured rear door and raped her while she was in the in the restroom. That case went to jury trial. We prevailed and obtained a favorable verdict for our client and it was the immediate cause for the state of to provide nighttime security at the various rest stops along the interstates. So I'm very proud for example that we were able to accomplish something above and beyond what we accomplished for our client.


Hi stampers, I'm Jill Olson and I'm excited to show you this advent calendar kit that we have in a new holiday catalog. It's so cool, I've always loved these. The neat thing about these are you have both sides, you can actually do a second side. You can order September 4th and you'll want to order it soon because these are very popular. It comes with the die cuts already ready to go for you for the background. And then you add these stickers that come in the kit and the numbers are already done for you. If you're ordering the stamp set that coordinates with this, it's called Christmas Countdown. And you'll notice I've used the cherry cobbler and mossy meadow and early espresso in this. And I've used some of the die cuts that come that already have the adhesive on them. So it's super simple, you'll want to use your own dimensionals and adhesives to put this together. And it's already cut out so you just stick them on. You'll have to have your own stamp pads and these are the three colors that you'll use. I added this 2 inch by 11 inch piece to put all the way around it at our cardstock. And I added the ribbon for a nice touch. You can go ahead and use this in a different way. So I wanted to make one that has the other holiday on it and for Thanksgiving. And it's so fun to be able to put all the things you're thankful for or grateful for or your blessings that you share. So I'm going to turn this around and you notice that it says thankful, blessed and grateful. I went ahead and used some of the Magnolia leaves right here from the Magnolia die set. And these right here are called gathered leaves right here and I use those in the copper. All these letters are brand new in our new catalog and they're called hand letter pros. And they're such a great size to use for cards and for home decor. And you notice what I've done is I've just taken this as a template and it's a little shorter than two inches on both sides. And I cut strips and then I took seven different patterns. The paper I've used for this is called come together and it's got the peacock colors in it and the cranberry and just some really beautiful colors. I actually added of this mossy meadow. The reason why is because I covered this. Now this ribbon really doesn't go with it. So I went ahead and velcroed this on so you can take it off. So if I was to use this, I would use something that has either the peacock in it and this is some of our ribbon. So I just did it like this. So you wrap this around and then I'm just going to cut this so it overlaps. So what I'm going to do is I went ahead and cut this and I'm going to overlap that. And then I've got these little self adhesive where you peel off the adhesive of the velcro. You can cut this to get this at a local sewing machine store or big box store. And so I'm going to peel this off because it has super strong adhesive on it. So I go ahead and wrap that around. Stick this down. And then I'm going to put the top of the grabby part of the velcro. So I'm going to go ahead and do this. Then put that part right there so it's on the spot it needs to be. And then I'm going to wrap this around kind of adjust it so it's in the middle. And then I'm going to press this down so it sticks onto the velcro. So now you've got your ribbon velcroed. And then from there I'll go ahead and do a ribbon which I've already done. And you can take your glue dots and just put that on the back of the ribbon. I do like three glue dots so it really sticks. And then press it down like so. And then you've got your thankful, blessed, and grateful calendar that you can go ahead and put all these messages in for your family. This right here, I'll save and you can put it in two of these. You can put the bow in one and just roll it up and put it inside here for storage. The same thing with this one. And you can put it back in the box that it came in because it's got a box that you can store it in. So it's very useful. So I hope you've enjoyed seeing the alternative way that you can use your advent calendar. And we'll see you next time on Watch It Weekly Wednesday.


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So welcome to the presentation We'll we'll make a quick presentation of free wing which is a decentralized communication platform It allows for audio video and text messaging in a decentralized manner ring A dev is developed by a free software consulting company in Montreal called file unix where both me and small work Yes Well, my name is Simon So during the talk we'll go over rings distributed peer-to-peer architecture and explain how we managed to make he called and calls and Transfer text messages in a decentralized manner Then we will go some security and privacy concerns and finally have a look at new up and upcoming features such as multi-device and You just use a name registry using a blockchain Finally, we'll have a look at the available clients First let's do a small demonstration All right, so on your right you will see Camera for the Android phone So when you just download the app on Android, as you see you can find it on Android If I just show you not the first in the list, but you can Find it Just go So what I did here in my computer is I've created an account what I bring account is is it's it's a nearest a key pair and The idea that you see here Actually contains my public key. So now small small can scan this QR code and send a message to me Okay, so now when you will start a ring on Android You will see the screen and then you can just create a ring account and then the time it takes to create the account Is actually the time for generating a pair of RSA keys keys So it takes Little time and once it's done now you can use your phone to Scan QR code when you have a friend is just nearby Just scan the code All right, and then once it scan You have this you jump in a conversation in which you can write some text So yeah, we could yeah right on from now The time is sent and as you can see he has received the message and all of this is Being exchanged Through distributed hash table. So we don't have any connection between us for now Um, so if we want to any instantiate a I'm calling you already. You're already calling me trying to so some I shouldn't receive your call in any time in any time We'll see how calls work later Maybe maybe you can try calling me. I don't know if you have a good connection to the Wi-Fi I always have another Oh So I did receive a call I could not make it I'll won't try and fight against the Wi-Fi and instead go over with the explanation of what happened here Before you understand how a ring calls work You need to understand what a ring ID is and I've already explained it It's a pair of RSA keys and it's your public identity on the network Your ring ID is meant to be public and it contains no private information other than your public key Now let's jump in in some explanation of what the distributed hash table is. So first We wanted to make some this distinction between two three types of networks So at first we have the centralized network, which we all know. It's all of your Google and YouTube and all of that You have the federated network and the distributed network so Out of curiosity here, who could name me maybe federated network? any anyone what Identity cut I don't I don't know that but okay Now I know There's an easy there's an easy one. You you know mail, you know mail and if you know Diaz porra, which is a kind of a Facebook Twitter, but this is this is a federated network in which you can choose for your Your your pod the pod which is the central server you use to connect to the whole network But this is not yet distributed and Ring ring is a software that wanted to Bring distributed network a reality for everyone to communicate So if you want to differentiate between the federated network and distributed network Well, every node in a distributed network is equivalent to another and another node So, yeah, this is the special thing about this so what makes us able to do that is Open DHT open DHT is the distributed hash table we use For those of you who don't know what the distributed hash table is will just walk you through the process of what it does but in short this is some tool that will allow you to Distribute some load of that data storage over a network. So it's it's pretty it's pretty efficient and pretty useful So in the network every node has an ID which is of length 160 bits and we use those IDs to Compute the distance between each of them using the XOR metric. This is a sort of Abstract distance which which is a computed yet again using the XOR metric and Yes, there are other Distributed hash table that exists already, but we wanted to have some specific features such as the lesson feature which will enable each nodes to be Notificated on new data storage We also implemented Some powerful queries allowing you to fetch partial data partial set of data on the network which could Reduce the traffic traffic we we get using the distributed hash table and also Some features that is a work in progress. We have the value indexation over the DHT So yeah, if you want to contribute if you want to know if Anymore things about the the the project open DHT or in order to provide a patch You can you can do do so on Get hub. Here's the link So Just just to show you what's the process behind distributed hash table. We'll just start here by looking at this at the circle where you have the key space every every key every ID, which is the same thing will be will be on this circle and when some Alice want to communicate with anyone or just use the the Distributed hash table. She first has to know a first node and once she knows a first node Which is here the the node that is labeled by the the key ID a 10 dot dot dot F4c She just asked to that node Which are the list of which is the what is the list of nodes? that is the closest to the ID I am looking for and on the screen you can see that the ID Alice is looking for is Actually 0 0 2 k 5 p and represented by the sort of mailbox And so then the first node will just say oh, I know I know Some ID that is a closer to the target you're looking for and here here it is and then we ask again and then again And we will eventually find the closest node to the to the target we're looking for and once we have found this this closest node we can just Exchange data between between this node in and us some operation that are Available to use in the distributed hash table are such as the get get operation for getting data and put for putting data and we have also as we We've talked to you just before The lesson the lesson which helps another Another node in the network to be notified if for instance Alice were to to put some data on the mailbox of So that's the way we we exchange some some data on the distributed hash table So one big issue with Communicating in peer-to-peer network is creating connections with one another one another This is not always possible because we have not and firewall issues So ring has to implement a number of methods to try to To go through a not very firewall If there is several methods that ring tries and it tries them in order in order to establish a connection in the best way possible So obviously like the class in the class in a classic situation Alice could be could have a public IP address and Bob could be on a private network in this case it might not be possible for Alice to contact Bob because he has a A private IP and he might not have configured his firewall to let Alice in so in this case She cannot send any packets to him, but he can contact her in in this situation here Only Bob is able to make calls to a list But it can get even worse where both of them are behind the firewall that they don't control this means that neither Bob nor Alice is able to instantiate a call and in this situation There is nothing we can do Most most home home routers allow for you PNP Which means that you will open ports on your on your on your machine and then you can make calls But your your IP changes all the time and of course you don't want to communicate with your IP with friends It's it's not convenient to share to open connections that way so Other other techniques techniques we can use to make a wire not in firewall Transversal is done So if you have a router that does not cooperate with you meaning that he does not want to tell you what your public IP is Then you could ask someone else on the internet Which is what we call a stun server and this stun server will answer to the quiet to the following question What is my one IP? When he tells it to you then you can you can tell it to your friends and they might be able to call you there This does not solve all issues because you could still have a firewall and packets won't go in So if that does not work you can you can revert to using a turn server What a turn server is is a point on the internet where both parties can connect that will relay all packets This means that you need the server somewhere that is willing to relay all your traffic So you're the color quality might be degraded or Yeah, it's a it's a less convenient situation The so what we use for for this is a protocol called ice So essentially what ice does is is Alice will tell Bob all the possible ways She thinks she can be contacted and he will do the same then they will create a match a matrix of Possible ways they could talk to each other try them all and then and then order the working ones and pick the best The way the way this works with open DHT is simple So all this time I've assumed that Bob can already talk to Alice without even having a connection open The the way this works is they use open DHT By within inside the DHT both Bob and Alice have what we call a mailbox like somewhere Somewhere you can send messages and they will notice So Bob is listening to the top and the top right mailbox And if Alice wants to make a call she will just put a message here This message is encrypted for only Bob to see and Bob is subscribed to this mailbox So as soon as this message arrives, he will receive it what this message says is hello I'm a list I want to make a call to you and these are the possible ways you could try to contact me Now Bob's Bob wants to answer the call so he will do the same He will send a message to Alice's mailbox She will be notified and what this message says is yes I want to make a call with you and her here are the possible ways you could try contacting me Now as of this very moment Alice tries to contact Bob's in every possible way With every possible like meanings of connection she has Now they both discover what is the best way to talk to each other and they have a call So this is how we establish calls in Ring Now there is the issue that you might not have access to a stunt server Well stunt server is pretty easy because they're available for free on the internet Because they don't do anything much they don't require much bandwidth But then turn servers it's a bit more of an issue because you have to set one up If it's not possible to make calls in any other way We are looking into ways to solve this such as pools of turn server contributed to the by the community but in general you should be able to make calls using just upnp So from top to bottom all of the messages that were exchanged between Alice and Bob are all encrypted. First of all the ring ID contains a RSA key pair that can be used to encrypt messages So it's all encrypted on the OpenDHD network and then calls in Ring are incendiated using SIP So we are compatible with whether a cell phone you have And so we leverage this existing standard same thing for audio Now there is the issue that we face that a ring ID is connected to a device It's connected to a node on the network so you might you might not find this practical because when you're used to those non free solutions right you can just call a username and it's going to ring whether he's on this laptop on his cell phone or whatever So what we do is we this is an up and coming feature by the way that it is not yet merged Alice will sign devices and now you can know that these devices are owned by Alice Whenever you want to make a call you will make a call to all of Alice's devices and she will answer on only one this allows for Alice to revoke a device that was stolen and not have to redo her whole identity again So this means that somewhere on the network Alice has to put the list of devices she owns So she will she will put information on the DHT network saying So these are my devices when you call me call me there And the way it works right now is only you have only one device So more features that are coming to ring are the issue that like ring IDs are not easy to share they are long hashes complicated like you won't ever remember it so you have to scan it for the QR code or send it to you via email instead we would like to propose a solution which is which is building a decentralized registrar so what we are working on is an Ethereum contract I won't go in depth about explaining how Ethereum work but Ethereum essentially what it does it is it allows you to write decentralized apps so you have a program that runs in a decentralized manner all over the internet what we will build is a program that registers username so you can talk to him and say I want to register this username to this ring ID and he'll say yes he'll remember it forever but but now there is the issue that not all not all ring nodes are willing to run this this potentially heavy Ethereum node so what we are building also is a light rest API that will that anyone could run on his own server for example or us we could run it for the community that will do the registrations for you so talking to Ethereum for you this is always going to be optional in the ring because it will always be possible to call a ring ID directly instead of calling a username but we will have a solution for a decentralized username registry it's interesting especially since we're here at webcam like everyone has probably a pgp key which is a 4096 bit rsa key pair we could imagine generating those keys from exist as an existing pgp keys so from from the what we could leverage the the usage of their web the existing web of trust to to know who's like what Alice's ring ID would be since I already know her pgp key um so if you want to see the source course search code or contribute to ring you can always find us on our gear it server and uh yep now available clients we all of our clients are open source even on another few platforms so uh we we already have a working client in debian that is in the repositories as of this week so you can type apt get install a ring right now if you're using another distro we have repositories our apps are available on both fjared and the google play store and you can download the apps for the other platforms on our website yeah find the ring if you have any questions um any technical questions you can handle them one one one one yeah it works um so it relies on a fleet of nodes yes uh does that imply that only the the phones that are out there that have a ring installed participate in that fleet or does that imply that you need some other servers on the internet to act as basically inactive or unanswering nodes and if that is the case can we help all of the all of the ring clients are joining are joining the open dhc network so by default you are you are a node so yeah we have hundreds of nodes already running all over the internet and the more so you come see the the answer uh the more the network is big the more the network is is healthy so uh yes you could also run well the community could also run some some nodes and some on some machines uh anywhere and you can run multiple nodes on on the on the same machine so um but yeah that's how the that's that's what the ring is based on for the first time you will boot your client you will we will have to know one existing node of the network right this is called a bootstrap node um what we do at saval file index is we host a we host a bootstrap node at bootstrap.ring.cx but what we plan to do is to instead ship ring with a list of community maintained servers so that you would not have to like trust saval file index to host the the first node it's already configurable configurable in your client you could put any node there you don't have to use ours to get bootstrap and whenever you restart your client it won't use the bootstrap node anyways uh i think uh thomas it's answered all right i want to know how you get into the network yeah you have to know a node yeah any other question all right i think we're done all right thank you


My name is Sam Vaknin, and I'm an honorary member of the Hell's Angels. Oops, wrong video. My name is Sam Vaknin, and I'm the author of Malignance of Love, Narcissism Revisited, and you know the rest, visiting professor currently on the faculty of CIAPS. Today, we are going to ask the question why people disbelieve victims and survivors of abuse. When you try to communicate your experiences, why do people invalidate you?  Why is that? The experience of having been with the narcissist, of having shared the fantasy, of having teamed up in a couple, in a friendship, in a workplace, with a psychopath. These experiences are, after all, human experiences. Where's the barrier? Why is it so difficult to accept the veracity and the proportionateness, proportionality of the victims' accounts? Why do we tend to dismiss the victims, to ignore their testimonies, to play down what had taken place? The narcissist and the psychopath offer you a tundra, a wasteland of missed opportunities, pain, abuse, coercion, and worse. And yet, when you have emerged, all wounded, and bleeding, and scarred, there's no one there to hold your hand. Simply because people reject and deny the possibility of any of this ever having taken place. But why is that? This is the topic of today's video, and as usual, I'm going to introduce you to a few theories in psychology and to some new concepts, or at least concepts new to you, I assume. Let's start with the psychopath. You know, in Auschwitz, there were SS people, SS guards, SS commanders, SS bureaucrats, and of course, SS doctors. These people spend the day killing other people, cremating their remains, breaking apart families, torturing inhumanly. And then, come evening, it was a 9 to 5 job, come evening, they would go back to their families, to their beloved dogs, to their cherished, and sometimes worshipped children, to their wives. And these people were good fathers. They shed a tear when a dog died. They embraced the children and helped them grow. They played the piano. They were sentimental. They were romantic. They knew how to do intimacy well, and none of this, none of this was make-belief. This is the crucial fact. These people were not acting the husband. They were not pretending to be a good father. They were great husbands. And good fathers. And pet owners. And generally, generally, pillars of the community have helpful members in their societies, altruistic and charitable, and giving and kind and caring, and all in all, agreeable and nice. How could they have reconciled what they've been doing throughout the day, and sometimes at night, when there were transfers of people from all over Europe? How did they reconcile what they've been doing during the day, and this other existence is a normal, empathic, compassionate, and affectionate human being? How did they put the two parts together? Where was the seam line? Where was the boundary? Where was the border? And how did they succeed to cross this border in such a facile, facile manner, so easily, almost imperceptibly? So this process is known as compartmentalization. I've been asked once if psychopaths are capable of positive emotions. Can they love? Yes? The answer is yes, actually. Psychopaths are capable of loving. Loving deeply. They are capable of acting as good people, and they compartmentalize their psychopathy, the psychopathic side. It's as if there is a partition which reaches all the way to the stars, which divides them to two people, two persons. It's not multiple personality disorder because there's no dissociation involved, not even minimal. The psychopath in this case is aware of both his parallel lives.  There's awareness there. There's self-consciousness. And so the explanation cannot be dissociation. The explanation cannot be dissociative identity disorder. Multiple personality, no. That's not the case here. What's at work is a defense mechanism known as compartmentalization in conjunction with the first cousin of this defense mechanism known as isolation. We'll discuss it a bit later. But before we come to these defense mechanisms it's important to understand that the narcissist and the psychopath divide the world into an in-group and an out-group. They show one face to the out-group. It's a mask. It's a persona. It's play-acting. It's thespian. This mask and persona usually are prosocial, communal, altruistic, charitable, kind, nice, loving, caring, saving, rescuing, healing, and fixing face. That's the public facing. Public facing facade. Public facing shell of the narcopath, the narcissist and the psychopath. And then there's the in-group. The in-group is the narcissist and psychopath's nearest, if not dearest. A wife, children, close friends, neighbors, colleagues, that's the in-group. The narcissist with the in-group, the narcissist is actually real, is exactly what it is. That's not the true self. I've heard self-styled experts saying that the narcissist shows his true self with his intimate nearest and dearest. That's not true at all. The true self is deactivated, disabled, ossified, dead for all intents and purposes. Psychodynamically dead. That's not the true self. It's the false self. The narcissist shows Grant's access to his false self when he is with his family, when he is with his friends. Then he allows the false self to show. He exhibits the false self. He doesn't firewall it. He doesn't defend it. He doesn't falsify it. He doesn't reframe it. He's not defensive. With the out-group, I don't know, the workplace, church, the authorities, then he acts. That's a mask. That's a persona. That's not who the narcopath is. So there's an in-group and out-group. And this makes it very difficult for victims and survivors of the narcopath to be credible, to be believed because people who have known the narcissist, people who have interacted with the narcissist, they deny the victim's experience. They invalidate. The survivors claims they say, what's wrong with you? The narcopath is a nice guy. He's so helpful. He never harmed me on the very contrary. He lend a helping hand whenever needed. He was caring. He was kind. He was nice. So the out-group the experience of the out-group is diametrically opposed to the experience of the in-group and the members of the in-group therefore are never believed by the members of the out-group. This involves, of course, Machiavellianism. One element in the dark triad personalities. Machiavellianism is a form of manipulativeness. The need to manipulate other people. The belief that the only way to secure beneficial outcomes from the environment is by controlling and manipulating and deceiving and playing with the minds and the power of other people. So it's a power play. And so within the power play it's a topsy-turvy world. It's a humpty-dumpty world. For example, falling in love is perceived by the psychopath and the narcissist as defeat. Defeat. Because catching emotions renders you weak and vulnerable. And then because they cannot admit that they are weak and vulnerable they blame the survivor. They cast the survivor as a manipulative abuser. You made me fall in love with you. You manipulated me into emotions. I am the victim.  Says the narcissist. The narcissist perceives emotions as weaknesses and anyone who induces emotions in the narcissist. Anyone who causes the narcissist to experience emotions is an abuser and renders the narcissist a victim. That is the core belief that underlies narcissistic modification. So that's an example of the upside-down world of the narcissist and the psychopath and why it's extremely difficult to explain to people to somehow communicate to them what's going on. The narcissist will be furious at you precisely because he had fallen for you. The narcissist will resent you and become aggressive and even violent if you offer advice and help and support because offering advice implies that he is not all-knowing, he is not omniscient. Offering support implies that he is not all-powerful so that is considered offering help and support and advice are considered to be attacks. They are considered to be aggressive acts intended to humiliate and shame the narcissist and the psychopath. They would react very badly to this. So it's all a mirror image of the world. The world is among normal healthy people offering advice is commendable. Offering support and help are nice acts kind acts but with the narcissist here, you see, Helz Angels are on the way but with the narcissist and psychopath everything is exactly the opposite.  The only time you gain real access to the internal world of the narcissist and psychopath is when something is a food something not good so what I'm trying to tell you is you are disbelieved because the narcissist and the psychopath show one face which is public facing, one face to the outside and one face inside there's an in-group and out-group and the behavior of the narcissist and psychopaths are very different with the out-group totally opposed to their behaviors with the in-group second thing in the distorted sick minds of narcissists and psychopaths everything is reversed everything is reversed so when you try to communicate it to normal healthy people they just can't grasp it when you tell a normal healthy person I offered my narcissist advice and he became very aggressive no one would understand this it's not possible to communicate this it's so sick, so outside the purview and remit of a typical experience of a human being and narcissists and psychopaths also engage in decoy behaviors they behave in ways that attract attention elsewhere distract like sleight of hand of a magician so while you are focused on one thing the real events are taking place elsewhere and you end up miscommunicating what has happened and so so this is the general background why you're disbelieved but how does a narcissist and how does a psychopath manage this how do they pull this through how do they succeed in this in maintaining this parallel double life two concurrent personalities which have nothing, which are mutually exclusive have nothing in common how do they succeed to do this without dissociation and without ego-distony without discomfort without a sense of dissonance without a feeling that something is wrong something is alright something is not as it should be narcissists and psychopaths are not dissonant mostly they're ego-syntonic as long as things go well, of course they become highly dissonant and ego-distonic and depressive when things go bad but as long as things go well they're okay with themselves they don't feel that anything's wrong but how can you how can you murder 20,000 people during the day and then play with your kids and make love to your wife and not feel that anything's the matter not feel that something is not as it should be how is this accomplished even more consider for example comorbidities someone who is both a narcissist and a borderline borderline is the exact opposite of narcissism in narcissism there's no empathy and the narcissist has no access to his positive emotions in borderline there is empathy, although diminished and there is too much access to positive emotions positive emotions overwhelm and swamp the borderline she becomes dysregulated so how can someone have narcissism and borderline a very common comorbidity again the answer is compartmentalization and isolation similarly malignant narcissism malignant narcissism involves psychopathy sadism and narcissism but narcissism and psychopathy the narcissist relies on other people for the regulation of his sense of self-worth so the narcissist exactly at the borderline is dependent upon other people, upon external regulation the psychopath on the other hand couldn't care less about narcissistic supply it doesn't give a hoot about other people he's a lone wolf in many cases so how could someone be both a psychopath and a narcissist how can we put together these comorbidities again the answer is compartmentalization ok, it's time to explain to you it's time to discuss compartmentalization and isolation and bear in mind all these questions that I've raised about comorbidities about psychopathic behavior followed by loving behavior all these discrepancies all these splits in the same individual bear this in mind when I discuss the defense mechanisms known as compartmentalization and isolation these are defense mechanisms and they are at the heart they enable the engine behind multiple very very very relevant to cluster B or generally to personality disorder so for example compartmentalization and isolation as defense mechanisms they are the foundation of dissociation of splitting even when you concentrate on something when you focus on something or your attention is riveted by something actually you are compartmentalizing similarly, cognitive dissonance is often resolved via compartmentalization and isolation I mentioned comorbidities and self-states I encourage you to watch my video on IPAM the Intra-psychic activation model self-states also involve compartmentalization and isolation because many self-states are mutually exclusive think for example about coping with death you know that you are going to die all of you are going to die I have breaking news for you recent discovery I am going to die also everyone is going to die but we forget about death we put it aside we lock it in a box behind a partition behind a wall with no window we continue with life we proceed with our affairs and petty squabbles and arguments and plans and goals as if there is no tomorrow as if we are never going to die that is an example of compartmentalization similarly addictions like walkaholism situation is bad at home there is strife there is acrimony there is dysfunction in your marriage with your children with your wife, with your husband and so you immerse yourself in your work you overwork keeping busy working thereby forgetting about home and its problems that is a form of compartmentalization and so you play it like role play but in compartmentalization you usually play two roles one role is grounded in reality and one role is surrealistic one role is dreamlike is not also experienced as fully real and the other role is real is internal responsive to changes in the internal environment and one role is external responsive to changes or mutations in the outside environment so these are characteristics of compartmentalization and isolation but what are these defense mechanisms we have just seen how important, how crucial they are they allow us to survive in effect even victims of abuse and survivors of abuse compartmentalize they say they experience the abuse they're damaged, they're broken they're harmed, they're hurt they're in pain and yet they continue to love the abuser they sometimes continue to idealize the abuser that's an example of compartmentalization okay compartmentalization is a defense mechanism in which thoughts and feelings that seem to conflict or to be incompatible are isolated from each other in separate and apparently impermeable psychic compartments in the mind in classical psychoanalytic tradition compartmentalization emerges in response to fragmentation of the ego ideally should be able to tolerate ambiguity and ambivalence so when we witness extreme compartmentalization we can be pretty sure this underlying mental illness or severe mental health problem that's why narcissists and psychopaths compartmentalize all the time that's why they are capable of leading two lives, six lives, nine lives and it's very reminiscent of multiple personality but it's not because they are fully aware of what's happening isolation, I'm reading you definitions from the American Psychological Association dictionary isolation in psychoanalytic theory a defense mechanism that relies on keeping unwelcome thoughts and feelings from forming associative links with other thoughts and feelings with the result that the unwelcome thoughts and feelings are rarely activated so isolation is when you have a thought when you have a feeling that it's very uncomfortable very dissonant you don't want to have this feeling you don't want to have this thought so what you do you isolate them and you do not link them to any other thought or feeling and so they remain deactivated this is isolation and compartmentalization as you can see they are close cousins I'm going to mention something regarding psychoanalysis I'm going to come back to it a bit later isolation is a defense mechanism the subject isolates a thought a cognition, an emotion an event and prevents it from becoming a part of the continuum of significant experience so it's like in isolation we slice off uncomfortable facts uncomfortable thoughts uncomfortable emotions we do not integrate them into our experience of course this creates discontinuities and that's why compartmentalization and isolation are the defense mechanisms that put together yield dissociation lead to dissociation Freud wrote in 1926 when something unpleasant has happened to the subject or when he has done something which has a significance for his neurosis the subject interpolates an interval during which nothing further must happen during which he must perceive nothing and do nothing the experience is not forgotten but instead it is deprived of its effect its dissociative connections their associative connections are suppressed or interrupted so that it remains as though isolated and is not reproduced in the ordinary process of thought isolation very frequently occurs in obsession especially in obsessional neurosis I have video dedicated to it and it's very reminiscent of repression hysteria it's connected to splitting connected to dissociation but make no mistake about it compartmentalization and isolation are much more foundational dissociation and splitting are defense mechanisms that are derivative that are secondary for example the baby is unable to accept the fact to be frustrating that mother could be a bad object baby wants to eat wants to suckle baby wants attention baby is wet baby is hungry and yet mother is not paying attention to baby or does not immediately gratify baby doesn't cater to baby's needs immediately so that infuriates baby the frustration and so but he cannot accept that mother is a source or could be a source of frustration in other words that she is bad so what baby does he compartmentalizes the experience of hunger and the isolates it he puts it aside in order to preserve the all good mother only later when this becomes impossible because there have been too many instances of frustration or because of frustration they become very deep only then baby is unable to continue to isolate and compartmentalize and instead what baby does he splits he uses compartmentalization and isolation combines them and then he doesn't split he doesn't isolate the event he doesn't isolate the feelings he has he doesn't isolate his many cognitions he doesn't isolate the experiences he isolates himself from mother and mother from himself he becomes all bad mother becomes all good so for the first time he is unable to integrate mother and so there's splitting of course leads later on to separation, individuation and so on and so forth you can see the crucial importance of compartmentalization and isolation as defense mechanisms once the baby has split the unitary entity that mother used to be baby begins to realize mother's externality the fact that mother is separate that he is not mother is not him in other words the baby then begins to understand that there's an external world out there which leads baby to separate individuate and to object relations but initially the baby just compartmentalizes and isolates puts aside everything that bothers him up to a point okay similarly I mentioned that compartmentalization and isolation are at the core of dissociation when you act in an isolated moment in a way that logically defies your own moral code or when you're engaged in a duty or a chore that is extremely unpleasant but I mean like disregulated or when you have an urge and desire that you reject that are either socially unacceptable cannot be sublimated or somehow contradict yourself image or self-perception or when you want something very much but there's no way you could get it in all these cases you would tend to compartmentalize you would tend to put these things aside somehow isolate them put them in a room and lock the door and throw the key box them in and this is but if the situation the unpleasant situation the egodistonic situation the dissonant situation the uncomfortable situation the threatening situation if they continue if they become more intense then at some point the only solution would be to dissociate them to cut them off to forget about them and then to repress the information so dissociation and repression another solution of course is to pretend that you're not there depersonalization that this is not really happening derealization these are all dissociative defenses and dissociation is founded on compartmentalization and isolation taken to extreme taken to extreme the irony is that splitting and dissociation and projection same with projection and all these mechanisms especially infantile primitive defense mechanism they're all founded on compartmentalization and isolation there are extensions or exaggerations or magnifications or amplifications of compartmentalization and isolation on the one hand and on the other hand they negate compartmentalization and isolation they take over they replace the substitute for compartmentalization and isolation so there's a lot of conflict involved in the transition from compartmentalization and isolation to dissociation to splitting to projection there's a lot of conflict involved in this because when you compartmentalize or isolate you don't lose your memory you don't and because you have continuous memory you have a sense of self-hood a sense of personhood a sense of core uninterrupted continuous core identity not disjointed but joined together in short you have a sense of yourself of becoming of being when you compartmentalize and isolate at no point do you feel estranged from yourself alien not you but when you begin to split when you transition from compartmentalization and isolation to splitting to dissociation to projection this creates inner conflict dissonance very often cognitive dissonance and to avoid cognitive dissonance the mental comfort and anxiety caused by having conflicting values conflicting cognitions conflicting emotions to avoid cognitive dissonance again you need to resort to compartmentalization and isolation so it's a very ironic or if you wish a form of ironic rebound it's a very ironic circle you start with compartmentalization and isolation when you're overwhelmed overwhelmed too much discomfort too much fear too much straight frustration too much when you're overwhelmed you transition from compartmentalization and isolation you discard them you transition to more extreme forms of dissociation splitting and projection but this creates dissonance because you know that what you're doing is not ok not true not fair not fact based not evidence based deep inside you know this so then to resort to dissonance you resort yet again to compartmentalization and isolation so it's a cycle it's a cycle whenever you're confronted with abuse with trauma with fear with threat etc etc you start off compartmentalizing the information that is uncomfortable or challenging could be your cognitions, your emotions your experience, events in your environment other people as well you start off by compartmentalizing by isolating the effects by not allowing disinformation to acquire an emotional power to be empowered emotionally so this is isolation compartmentalization and then when this fails you transition to primitive defenses and then they create cognitive dissonance and you go back to compartmentalization isolation and the cycle starts all over again this would explain the vicissitudes the changes in apparent personality of the psychopath and the narcissist because at some stages in some phases some periods they're engaged in splitting and projection and projective identification and dissociation and all other defenses and then owing to internal dissonance they resort to compartmentalization and isolation and they appear to be a lot a lot more normal they appear to be not themselves until the frustration accumulates again or the fear or the hatred of the envy negative affectivity, anger, rage accumulates threatens to dysregulate them and then they engage again in defenses, in classical defenses so narcissists and psychopaths fluctuate between compartmentalization isolation and primitive defenses psychoanalysis in psychoanalysis they consider that isolation separates thoughts from feelings whereas compartmentalization separates cognitions from each other if they're not compatible so compartmentalization is a cognitive distortion and isolation is an affective defense divorcing feelings and emotions from thoughts, from events from experiences so as not to get dysregulated and overwhelmed it is interesting that compartmentalization is a cognitive distortion because those of you who have been abused by listening to my videos know or recall I hope that grandiosity is a cognitive distortion indeed grandiosity is actually a form of compartmentalization because it compartmentalizes reality it rejects reality it incarcerates reality it prisons reality in a box or in a cell and throws the key grandiosity denies reality but does not repress it so grandiosity is a cognitive mechanism a way to choose between reality and fantasy cognitively something known as paracosm the choice is cognitive and it involves compartmentalization in the sense that the two bodies of information the body of information related to reality as it really is and the body of information relating to reality as the narcissist wants it to be fantasy so these two bodies are not allowed to get in touch with each other there is a firewall, there is a partition and this is compartmentalization and we call this process grandiosity so this compartmentalization is cognitive distortion now compartmentalization and to some extent isolation but mainly compartmentalization they are linked to another defense known as intellectualization or rationalization some of you may be acquainted with it's justifying using pseudo-rational arguments to justify one's conduct, one's choices, one's decision even when they actually cannot be justified and of course this requires compartmentalization again a rejection of reality a rejection of accepted morality a rejection of societal expectations a rejection of sexual scripts, a rejection isolation, compartmentalization of out there and in here this distinction between internal and external internally what I did was justified by the fantasy that I exist in and this is rationalization it involves a cognitive distortion sometimes grandiosity as a cognitive distortion and everything that other people have to say the common sense the accepted mores, the laws that all these is rejected so it's connected to rationalization there's a rare phenomenon known as neurotic typing some neurotics in the classical in the classical theory of neurosis some neurotic divide everything classify everything into mutually exclusive airtight categories this is known as neurotic typing it's a defense it's a defense against discrepancies, against conflicts against dissonance against disagreement between cognitions, between emotions the neurotic is very fragile very brittle very broken and so the defense is by breaking everything into cells and boxes and classifications and so on this is known as neurotic typing now just to be clear neurosis is no longer an accepted or valid clinical diagnosis nowadays regrettably and so everything I'm telling you right now has to do with schools of thought in psychology that are no longer considered valid and that are highly disputed and debatable Otto Kemberg by the way suggested that the main role of the therapist is to undo compartmentalization he called it bridging intervention so you have to open these cells you have to open these rooms you have to destroy these walls and you have to connect contradictory compartmentalized components of the patient's mind you have to somehow bring together these contradictory emotions these conflicting cognitions bring them together fearlessly and allow the patient to integrate them to create a cohesive coherent unitary mind of course this implies that compartmentalization and isolation create vulnerabilities indeed the narcissist and psychopath psychopath the the quintessence and epitome and ratification of compartmentalization and isolation they use these mechanisms like hundreds of times a day unknowingly of course but this renders them very vulnerable the narcissist is actually extremely fragile pathological narcissism is a compensatory mechanism compensatory strategy for survival the psychopath on the other hand pretends that all other people are instruments and that goal or rotation would protect him from the onerous risks and dangers of the environment and of course it's an illusion the psychopath is self-deluding and so does the narcissist these are very damaged people and compartmentalization the principal positive could be negative is never integrated within the psychopath and the narcissist they need to constantly compartmentalize constantly for example the narcissist is constantly exposed to challenges to his grandiosity reality challenges the narcissist's grandiosity and of course reality pushes back against the psychopath in his relentless ruthless and callous pursuit of goals forces him to become more and more self-destructive and reckless so this inability to integrate emotions and cognitions to create something that feels like like me a self a unitary core an identity this failure is detrimental deleterious is very dangerous these vulnerabilities may be hidden but they undermine any possibility of self-esteem that's why narcissists require constant feedback from the environment known as narcissistic supply in order to regulate the sense of self-worth because how can you construct your self-worth if you don't have a self you need a self self-esteem, self-worth self-confidence there's a self there you know and if you don't have a self because everything is broken to shards and small pieces and everything is kaleidoscopic and everything is separated from everything in compartments and everything is isolated you don't have a self you cannot have self-esteem you cannot have self-organization personality becomes chaotic and totally disorganized and whenever you're treated as a narcissist or a psychopath with a negative self-aspect of some kind this causes a total collapse total disintegration the brittleness and fragility are enormous because there's no integration because there's no core because there's no nucleus and this is true also in traumatized people people with post-traumatic stress disorder CPTSD, complex trauma they also tend to compartmentalize positive from negative self-aspects because people with CPTSD or PTSD they can't they're not strong enough to cope with self-criticism with aspects of themselves which are less than perfect negative thoughts, negative emotions they're not strong enough to do this they instantly compartmentalize and isolate this put them aside ignore them aware of them somehow dimly but they don't allow the negative aspects or the negative dimensions to be active so in PTSD and CPTSD we have a clinical picture which is very reminiscent of narcissism and psychopathy actually makes it very difficult the differential diagnosis is very blurred very fuzzy when you're traumatized and if you're healthy a healthy person who's been traumatized and even if you're not healthy for example borderline personality disorder you're likely to respond with auto-plastic defenses you're likely to blame yourself you're likely to ask yourself what have I done wrong how am I guilty, what could I have done differently and so on these auto-plastic defenses they trigger in you the bed-object they trigger in you the voices that keep telling you how unworthy you are how unlovable you are how bad, how stupid, how ugly and so on in the wake of trauma these voices can be overwhelming push you even to suicide so a major defense against these the bed-object post-traumatically is compartmentalization and isolation if you ignore the negative aspects of yourself if you ignore your mistakes if you ignore your proclivities if you ignore your negative self-aspects you can nurture your positive self-concept you can keep it safe through the use of compartmentalization this is especially by the way especially true in sexual trauma I promise to give you a review of early psychoanalytic literature and so isolation in psychoanalytic literature is a defense mechanism which is characteristic as I said of obsessional neurosis the links of a thought, idea impression of feeling with other thoughts or behaviors are broken they're broken by means of pauses or rituals or magical formulas or other obsessive-compulsive devices or by means of mild dissociation Freud wrote in the neuropsychosis of defense he conceived of defense in hysteria as well as in phobias and obsessions as a form of isolation he said defense against the incompatible idea is affected by separating this idea from its effect the idea itself remains unconsciousness even though it is now weakened and isolated because it has no emotional correlate no emotional power there was a famous case of Freud known as the rat man in this case Freud wrote about isolation he didn't name it isolation at that stage but he wrote about it he wrote in this case that in contradistinction to hysteria where there is amnesia and the amnesia is truth of successful repression he said in obsessional neurosis and I'm quoting the infantile preconditions of the neurosis may be overtaken by amnesia though this is often an incomplete one the trauma instead of being forgotten is deprived of its affective cateches deprived of emotions so that what remains in consciousness is nothing but it's ideational content which is perfectly colorless and is judged to be unimportant what he says actually is that when a traumatic event or memory or experience when a cognition or emotion that you reject a thought that you find reprehensible when you conflict or confront with your own values and self-perception and self-image any of these things happen you could very often compartmentalize it how do you do that you don't invest in it emotionally it becomes a bit of information like the sun is shining or today is the 24th of December it becomes a bit of information and without emotions because it has it's not associated with emotions this is the isolation isolation from emotions because it's not associated with emotions it has no dynamic power it cannot operate inside it cannot create for example an upreaction in therapy Freud linked isolation as a defense mechanism to other defense mechanisms including by the way another defense mechanism which I would discuss in the future called undoing ok Freud proposed that when an unpleasantness has occurred or some act of significance to the neurosis has been performed the person I'm quoting interpolates an interval during which nothing further must happen during which he must perceive nothing and do nothing this is reminiscent of the freeze reaction but pay attention compartmentalization and isolation are not repression isolation accomplishes defense without amnesia repression involves amnesia repression is dissociative isolation is not as Freud wrote the experience is not forgotten is not forgotten but instead deprived of its effect of the emotions and its associative connections are suppressed or interrupted so that it remains as though isolated and is not reproduced in the ordinary process of thought kind of mini or repression light without the cost of amnesia isolating said Freud is involved in the normal exercise of for example concentration fending off what is unimportant or irrelevant to a specific concern so Freud believed that compartmentalization and isolation are daily occurrences daily defenses his daughter Anna Freud in 1946 suggested that severing links between associations also isolates ideas from effects from emotions of defense used in obsessional neurosis gives rise to the what she called effective blanching of much of experience that means recalling the experience maybe even in details but without any emotional reaction and she said there is an inordinate emphasis on behavior that has magical significance in severe cases she is actually referring to obsession compulsion rituals fend off catastrophizing fend off anticipated horrible scenarios of catastrophe in 1959 two years before I was born and I don't believe it's a coincidence Isla proposed that isolation has two forms one in which both the separated ideas remain in consciousness the other form is where an idea remains in consciousness only as long as it's not associated with an emotion only as long as it's effective charge is not in consciousness and so there's been a lot of work done on isolation and compartmentalization whether it's whether it's it applies to ideas to actions to events emotions and so on and so forth Ferdichel in 1945 cited instances of the usage of isolation to refer to the separation of the sensual and tender components of sexuality from the more animalistic aspects and to the splitting of good and bad selves and good and bad objects which is how I use it in my work in my work on self-states isolation and compartmentalization are the first lines of defense against getting in touch with a bad object the bad object contains a reservoir of childhood early childhood shame which is life-threatening the narcissist spends his entire existence to his last breath trying to not get in touch to avoid contact with this reservoir of shame in the bad object and one of the more common mechanisms that the narcissist uses in order to not experience this shame and not dysregulate its compartmentalization and isolation and what happens with modification is that all the defenses are disabled there's a process known as compensation all the defenses are disabled including compartmentalization and isolation and the narcissist then gets in touch unwillingly and involuntarily gets in touch with a shame infused shame immersed bad object inside him which drives him to dysregulate like a borderline and entertain suicidal ideas I'll summarize by describing the seven types of isolation in the literature the first original was Ziegler Freud as usual in 1926 he used the term isolation as a defense which after a painful event has taken place interpolates an interval during which nothing must happen you remember the meaning is also Freud he used the expression or used the word isolation for the capacity to keep irrelevant details away from the mind while concentrating on a task I mentioned this as well Otto Fenichel in 1939 and later in 1945 used the term isolation for the tendency of the part of some patients to carry on the whole analysis in a peculiar non conjunction with the rest of their lives it's as if the analysis, the therapy has nothing to do with life it's a fantasy it's a paracosa so some patients when they come or some clients when they come to therapy they compartmentalize and isolate the therapy Fenichel also used the term to describe the occasional del linkage disconnect between affectionate and sensual currents of love seen in early polyphyxated neurotics nevermind the fifth meaning of isolation and compartmentalization is the tendency to keep libidinal and aggressive feelings apart you remember that libido is the force of life it includes eros which is the force of sex aggression later admitted and accepted and acknowledged aggression has to do with death it's a death force it's fanatic it's destrudo against libido or mortido against libido so Fenichel suggested that we use isolation and compartmentalization to keep the force of life separate from the force of death so for example to keep sex separate from aggression this is a very useful thing to do and anafroid in 1946 introduced the term isolation of affect emphasizing that severing the links between an ID and its effective accompaniment also constitutes a form of isolation I'll discuss it a bit more later and finally Kurt Eisler 1959 I mentioned used the term for this purpose but also for the egos keeping two related and conscious ideas apart since putting them together would cause anxiety and suffering now most of these seven usagens today are no longer perceived as valid or accurate today we use the term isolation compartmentalization even in psychoanalytic literature in the sense that anafroid suggested isolation of affect it's a particular subtype of the mechanism called isolation this unconsciously operative maneuver it consists of the ego separating and disturbing or painful event or ID from the feelings that accompany painful events and ideas as a result the individual is left only with an intellectual awareness of the event with no apparent threatening emotions emotions that threaten stability inner stability so aggressive thoughts for example stabbing someone with a knife which I'm sure by now most of you would like to do to me or erotic impulses the wish to have sex with someone which I'm sure most of you don't have with me these might appear in consciousness as meaningless feeling less thoughts so it neutralizes the emotional charge of certain cognitions which could be socially unacceptable or even criminal or dangerous anxiety and guilt consequent upon such desires are held in abeyance isolation of effect is frequently seen in obsessional personalities finally I would like to mention a very very obscure concept from psychoanalysis known as doublet or doublet in typical American mispronunciation doublet is a designation for the doubling of an object by means of which for the unconscious a second object requires the meaning of the first object so two objects with the same meaning instead of one two objects are there and they're both imbued with identical meaning so in personal relations for example in dreams and creative writing this leads to a distortion of the perception of reality and then there's a need to isolate there's a need to isolate one of the two and so doublet is intimately connected with isolation experiences and characteristics are distributed between two objects when their appearance in one person would reveal if the two were in one person if you became aware the two objects represent actually the same thing have the same meaning this would reveal your wishes and your repetition compulsions which you would find very uncomfortable very dissonant anxiety producing so by imbuing two objects with the same meaning you can actually lie to yourself you can deceive yourself into believing that there is no forbidden wish here and there's no repetition compulsions and the other case is when the contrariness of your urges and wishes when they are really really out of the pail beyond the pail totally unacceptable then you can't unify these urges and strivings and wishes in a single object and you split them and when you split them between two objects they become acceptable suddenly so this also involves a form of isolation and compartmentalization but I will discuss doublette separately in a separate video because narcissists and psychopaths do it a lot they displace they attribute the same meaning to two objects and this way they don't feel that they are doing anything wrong they don't feel that they are repeating their actions as if there is no process of learning no lessons from one's experience they split the dividing of the meaning of the misattribution of the same meaning to two objects create the illusion that it's a new situation so there is no repetition and also creates the illusion that the wish or the urge or the drive are socially acceptable they are not to be suppressed or repressed by the ego they are okay and they this is a mechanism that narcissists and psychopaths do it's very disorienting because they behave with two people or two workplaces or two friends in a way in an identical way when they are actually not identical this creates a lot of confusion I will discuss it separately in a separate video wake up those of you who fell asleep which is I'm sure the vast majority of the audience okay it's time to say Merry Christmas and ho ho ho and everything else and see you after Christmas because I as you can see am also celebrating it's a Jewish holiday for those of you who haven't known because Jesus was a Jew through and through here's something to contemplate Merry Christmas