Praise the Lord everybody. Glad to be in the Lord's house tonight So am I let's stand and have a word of prayer together as we are going to prayer There are of course a number of needs that are listed there in front of you And I want to encourage you please to use that as a prayer guide the rest of the week you would I believe that you would really Be shocked to know how much that people are depending upon you Interceding in their behalf. That's not just something to be said. It is something that is If you believe in prayer and that God answers prayer then I need you to just ramp that up and you know, you could take this Prayer list over the next few days and even as you're just praying you got it somewhere near you You can call these names out in prayer because so many of them are needing a touch from the Lord. I want you to just Continue to hold up each one of them. Every one of them is significant I had two people that had procedures today Brother George Atchison he had Trying to deal with some back issues as he's had for a long long time and Re-injured some things that's going on in his back They were hoping that that was going to take as of just a few moments ago The pain has come back. He said with a vengeance. So I want you to be praying for him also a great report today Brother Zep went in for a For a heart calf and in just a few moments the doctor was out to say that all as well There's no blockages or anything like that. So he's doing good at home recovering tonight watching online I know that when we pray God hears us Well, where's my church tonight when we pray God hears us not if we pray and the only thing you have to do is pray in Faith believing in what Jesus can do Not what you can do not what I can do not what is similar to God can do But what Jesus can do so my question is is Jesus Christ the same yesterday today and forever? If he is then let's just take all of these needs and your needs and Place them right at the feet of Jesus and believe for healing and miracles and signs and wonders. Amen Come on. Let's agree in prayer tonight father We thank you for the privilege we have of prayer together tonight Lord We collectively come before you not only here, but those that are watching online in agreement You said where we come together in agreement about your word there a miracle can take place there Lord the healing can transpire. We believe you for that tonight. So send your word to wherever the needs are God some that have gotten diagnosis of different diseases and issues that they're dealing with I pray that you would send the word Lord to heal their bodies and Lord in their minds and in their spirit give them faith and peace that comes from you Confidence in the God that they serve tonight We believe your right Lord Jesus to touch those that are here that are needing your healing touch in their body Lord whatever the need may be you are the specialist in every category and we give you praise for that tonight Bless us together, and we give you the glory and the honor right now in Jesus mighty name Everybody believes it say a good. Amen Don't find somebody that's not half as happy as you are and let them know how glad you are to see them in the House of the Lord while I talk to all of you that are watching online Glad to have you join us from around the world Wherever you may be joining us from I want to encourage you to share out this broadcast on your social media Connections that you're watching us on right now just hit that share button and Post it up so others can be able to join in a few moments You can give into the kingdom through your tithe your offering if this is your regular home church Then you do that right there where you are you can do it on the app on the website Whatever your desire may be and we thank you for being a part of tonight's Bible class get your Bible and let's get ready to go in the Word of God in just a moment. Praise God Amen look at your neighbor and tell them I'm blessed and so are you When you walk in the blessing of the Lord There's not a day that goes you're not gonna have a bad day You're not gonna have a blue Monday. I'm glad for two people that are with me here tonight I just need you to collect your collective minds and bring them on in here now I'm gonna try that on one more time When you walk with the Lord, you don't have bad Mondays Or Tuesdays or Wednesdays You may go through bad things but with God He's always good and he's always with you Did you get that word from this past weekend?  You've got an opportunity to sow your seed into the kingdom of God I can assure you that the blessings of the Lord upon your life are more than what you could ever imagine I say that Because uh as I had an opportunity reading an idea yesterday to share just a little bit of time With pastor hosé and before they left and abraham and his wife I was watching them. We took them out to lunch and I was watching them as they were Ordering their food and getting their food and and eating it and I thought you know With within the next 12 hours, they will be back down in the amazon jungle Where he showed me pictures of the boat that carries as you heard close to 500 people on board and uh you spend five days traveling in a hammock with one bathroom and The pig you're going to eat for dinner is being slaughtered off of the back of the boat Come on somebody The chicken that you're going to eat is not rolling past Popeyes in its second window Uh, I'm just telling you that you are blessed beyond what you could ever imagine Amen, I think I just got somebody in the room just now So I just want to let you know that as you sow seed into the kingdom You can rest assure that day by day every day There is this church and this ministry which is you is reaching out far and wide even right now while people are watching online To folks that are needing the word of god needing the touch of the lord and uh, that's why we're here. Amen That's why we give so Obey the lord and you're giving tonight those of you that are watching online do the same and may god bless your life Father thank you now that we have the privilege to be able to sow the seed That you have actually given to us to sow It's not ours. We didn't create it the lord You gave it to us and you entrusted us and I pray right now that you would use the seed that we sow And multiply it and let our hearts be glad in doing so and we give you glory for it in jesus name Everybody said a good. Amen. Praise god. God bless you for being here tonight And uh for your opportunity to be able to give while they are receiving this offering I'll mention to you a couple of things for those of you that may be in the category of Pace young adults pace young adults. I'm so proud of what god is doing with pace young adults already. It's it's got its Ramp up that's taking place and one of their things that they're doing if you're in that category in age group You can join with pace young adults. They're going to go down to the hockey game And that's happening this coming saturday at seven So all the information is available for you or you can go online and register and then you can join with others that are down there Uh for this coming saturday and then this coming weekend as you are Preparing yourself. I want you to make sure that you've got your prayer request your most urgent request In on the altar By this coming weekend You can send it in on email whatever it may be you can do that Into the office In that way and we'll lay that on the altar believing god for miracle signs and wonders This coming weekend as we call it every year miracle sunday The lord can do it whenever he wants to But i want to encourage you to believe with me for miracle signs and wonders There is nothing that is too hard for god Amen, are you hearing me? All right out there tonight There's nothing that's too hard for god nothing too hard for god There's plenty that is hard for you and me In fact, he even makes it very clear in scripture. He says with man It is impossible But with god all things are possible All we have to do is believe god and take him at his word Don't expect it to always be at the moment that you requested It could be it could be a week from then I've seen people that we pray for that didn't get it for a month or more. I don't know Whatever glorifies the lord. I'm good with that. How about you? Here's what I want you to do.  I'm just saying to you I need you to come in this building this coming weekend with the anticipation That god is going to meet with us in a powerful way And how many of you know it may not even be about you it may be about somebody sitting next to you How exciting could you get if someone sitting next to you receive the miracle that they were looking for? I promise you if you'll come with that Anticipation god will meet us at that point of faith come with faith come believing We're going to pray over all the business owners and the businesses in the house this coming weekend And my very good and close friend pastor sam luke is going to be here And he's going to be preaching the word of god. There's nobody better In my opinion to come and preach the word of god. He's a walking bible and He's been around R. W. Shambach and tl lorry long enough those of you that don't know who they are forget about it I can just tell you that in the in the day of that particular tent revival movement They were there in the in the middle of that and i'm just telling you that he's seen it and he believes it And he's coming to bring faith with him and I want you to come expecting don't forget that and then starting point Will happen on february the fifth uh for the very first class don't forget that please I just want to say one more thing about this past weekend's latino fest if you don't think your church is doing something There's constantly something that's taking place We got events that you would want to look at on the calendar That's coming up in the next few weeks that you'll want to be a part of as well But this past weekend Without exaggeration was certainly even better than the first one and the altars were filled with people that are We're hungry for god some hearing the gospel for the very first time And when I say that we had individuals in this building that had never darkened the door of a church before in their life Grown adults so don't think that everybody's heard it just because they're grown That's the reason why we're constantly reaching out and made another wonderful connection with the pastor over in uh, Pensacola who is Going to be partnering with us as well So we're excited about what god is doing and I hope that you are as well I could care less who they are what their background is what their social status is or any of that my Job and this church's mandate is to reap another soul into the kingdom of god And I just want you to have that attitude and that mindset throughout throughout all this Coming year this year and let's believe god for that tonight. So the best way we could do that is to work on ourselves Because the greatest friend you'll have will be yourself And the greatest enemy you'll have will be yourself So let's go to john 15 and talk about what we need to do with us Because nobody in this building needs to Not constantly be walking with god and improving and increasing in your life and in your walk with the lord and the way that takes place Is certainly through the bearing of fruit. So we're going to talk a little bit more about that I hope you've enjoyed this lesson series on lessons from the vine A father, we thank you now for your word and we pray that you'd open it to our understanding Lord, I pray your anointing would rest upon our ears to hear and lord our voices to speak And our hearts to conceive tonight what you have in store for us in jesus mighty name And everybody said a good amen Rita and I had to Travel we traveled over last night to her cousin's church and mobile at grace point church of god and preached over there um I I think I was part of the cleanup lineup bishop tim hill there on sunday and then pastor kill patrick on monday and then we walked in there and Messed the place up and so he's cleaning it up tonight But we were delighted to see what god did around the altar is a powerful time And we give god praise for every opportunity to preach the word of god. So Um I appreciate your prayers and here tonight. I'm going to try to work out whatever these cobwebs are in my throat. We'll get there. Amen So in john 15 verse number one, I want to read a little bit more here this evening for your understanding Uh, this is very likely the last of this particular series, but uh, here's what the bible says in verse one I am the true vine And my father is the husbandman Every branch in me that beareth not fruit. He takeeth away And every branch that beareth fruit. He purgeth it that it may bring forth how much fruit More fruit now you're clean through the word which I have spoken under you Abide in me and I and you as the branch Cannot bear fruit of itself except in abide in the vine no more can ye accept you abide in me I am the vine and you're the branches He that abideth in me and I and him the same bringeth forth much fruit For without me you can do nothing underline that That's a very powerful statement and it is contextually Important for for this text if a man verse six abide not in me He is cast forth as a branch and is withered And men gather them and cast them into the fire and they are burned look at that process Verse seven if you abide in me and my words abide in you This has everything to do with your prayer life. You shall ask what you will And it shall be done unto you And verse eight is so critically important herein is my father glorified That you bear how much fruit Come on say it out loud much fruit so shall ye be my disciples I want you to continue with me here for just a little bit more of this reading I may not be able to get to this but this is a Wonderful passage of scripture for you to get ahold of as the father verse nine as the father had to love me So have I loved you continue in my love that's telling you Again contextually what what it takes to abide in the vine Continue in my love the love of god and faith as we taught you last week is what Causes us to abide in the vine verse 10 if you keep my commandments You shall abide in my love So there is the There is the the promise and the prerequisite for you Keep my commandments abide in my love even as I have kept my father's commandments and abide in his love These things have I spoken unto you that my joy might remain in you And that your joy Might be full I hope you underline that look at verse 16. You have not chosen me, but I've chosen you so there I just want to make sure you all are still reading with me right here That's almost like a t-shirt going on right there God said you have not chosen me But I have chose you And not only that but I have ordained you I have set you apart. I have ordered you specifically think about it That you should go and bring forth fruit And that your fruit should remain that whatsoever you shall ask of the father in my name He may give it you I would encourage you to read the rest of this chapter And in and around it because It is so powerful and so important for us to get ahold of tonight. I want to focus on a couple of things abiding and pruning Out of this passage of scripture, and there'll be no way I can exhaust it all But I do believe that there are some principles that I'm going to give to you tonight That's going to be able to help you As the Lord is working on every one of us If you don't feel and sense and recognize that the Lord is working on you It becomes necessary for you to engage God Because what you need to understand is there is the vine and there is the branch And the branch is abiding in the vine and the vine is abiding in the branch And it's important for you to realize that there is a there is a relationship that is going on here So the vine Cannot bring Bear the fruit that the branch is supposed to bear but the branch Can't even do it without the vine Therefore you need one another Therefore we must stay connected to God. Otherwise we will not be able to bear any fruit So there's a process that's found in here and it is not a happy one But tonight I hope that you will embrace it Because the only way you get from fruit to more fruit to much fruit is to actually have to go through a process Of what the bible is calling pruning pruning is a christian's life it is not Listen, it is not an indication of wrongdoing or punishment for you I want you to get that out of your head. Oh, he's gonna cut me man. I'm just waiting on the cutting And that's some of you gritting your teeth right now. Oh, you know, I've been so good. I don't know when it's coming, but it's coming It shows and I want you to get this in your mindset for this So it's not about in this in this passage of scripture. He's not talking about your wrongdoing As much as he's talking to you about what he wants to do in and through your life to bear much fruit to increase in every way It shows you uh, this passage of scripture does That god knows how to bring out the best in us the very best I you have and I have too you have witnessed people that had such incredible potential But perhaps they weren't doing like they should in order to cause that to come to pass So you jumped in their life. They may have been your children They may have been somebody else's kid. They may be somebody some co-worker that you were you were working with Whatever that it may be the fact is you saw the potential in them. They could not see it in themselves But you saw it And you started trying to do things to help them Because you knew they could be better than what they are right now I just want you to know this in the mind of god hear what i'm telling you There's not one person here or those of you that are watching right now that god does not see greater potential An increase in your life right now just like you are He's not gonna listen god is not going to leave you where you are Now you should thank god for that because let me just give you a little example. He saved you from your sins But he did not leave you in your sin So expect the change from that point forward and embrace the change of what god wants to do inside of your life And that is not just spiritual things The only reason why you are To any degree successful in your life and whatever you want to classify that We all know that life does not consist in the abundance of things But it is nice to have a roof over your head It's nice to not have to walk From the jungles of peru to get to church tonight you drove you you you know you you made your way here You ubered you did whatever you needed to do What's what's the point ladies and gentlemen you need to see that every Good and perfect gift comes down from the father of light in whom there's no shadow of turning You need to recognize that god is setting you up in every way To cause an increase to come into your life And even if the lord takes something away You can rest assured because of the goodness of god and his faithfulness That whatever he took away what he's bringing is going to be better than what he ever Caused to be a sacrifice All fruit bearing christians. I'm just talking to the fruit bearing christian I'm not talking to do the fruity christians Just the fruit bearing christians ultimately Will be subject to the father's pruning now. I want to stop right there and say i'm glad the father is holding the knife And not you and you should thank god that I don't all right The father is holding the knife But too many people christians fruit bearing christians do not know how to respond To the father's pruning We resist it We argue against it We we we we get bitter about it whatever that it may be but you're looking at the passage of scripture that is telling you clearly There's going to be some cutbacks in your walk, but it's going to mean your increase Let me say it like this. There must be a release In order for an increase You've got to release some things in order to increase some things That means that you may have to release this job for the better job You may have to release this person for somebody that's going to be increasing your life on the other side Are you hearing what i'm saying you got to release the finances in order for god to bless you with more Because he's not going to trust us unless he can train us And if we resist that training if we resist the pruning Then we're literally resisting our ability to have joy that causes us to be full and to be able to increase in every way How many of you recognize that god has given you a abilities and gifts inside of your life? Now listen, you are not that gift Okay, i'm a pastor, but that is not my identity So you're not your gift, but he has blessed you with that gift And when you understand and know what your gift is and who you are and what your gifts are Then you're able to operate in an arena and be happy About what god's doing, but rest assured just because the property boundaries may be like this because of the giftings that i have That does not mean that i don't that the apartment building cannot go up You may not go this way, but you sure can do this And you can rest assure with every high rise there is a deeper dig that goes on into your life The higher the building the deeper the dig Let me run that one more time Because you never see a building come out of the ground in a high rise building For the longest because there's a fence around the whole deal And it's all blocked off and what are they doing they're digging digging digging digging You know why because they got to dig down until they find something solid To be able to to set the pillars or whatever that it may be And then they'll turn it into a parking garage.  I recall going uh to um To the to the hospital there in israel, um The rom bomb hospital is what it was called the rom bomb hospital And they took us in there and you see all the normal hospital. It's the hospital that literally they bring palestinians and Hezbollah and hamas and everybody else right into that hospital and do surgery on them and then send them back to bomb them another day I mean literally that's exactly what's taking place and the and the research that's going on in this hospital is absolutely incredible But the thing that was most intriguing the reason why they took us there Is because here's the hospital on the street level but below it Was a entire multi-leveled parking garage Well that doesn't seems very shocking to you you go well that seems normal But in less than 30 minutes Should they have a missile attack? They can empty that entire parking garage and it turns into a multi-storey trauma hospital Underground in a bunker built exclusively for that We're i'm looking at these cars that are parked in there and you don't even see the the underground portion of the hospital I took a picture of it. I wish I had it here But here's these cars that are parked in all these spaces just like you'd see at any parking garage And then we walked up to this one place and he said and this is what happens When a missile attack takes place and we have to Turn this into a larger Bed hospital and he pushes the button and up this door goes where cars would normally park And there is an entire sanitized surgery suite 2,000 bed hospital underground In addition to what's up at above. I'm just going to tell you what god's doing way down in your soul You finished that statement so So the thing is we need to learn how to respond to this And I want to reiterate in john 15 specifically here though. He talks about Casting away and we'll see that in just a few moments and and those branches that are withered and so forth All of that is for the good of the vine and the branch It is not for wrongdoing. It's not because the branch has been disobedient.  I bore the fruit. Yes Because he sees the potential of not just fruit in your life, but more fruit Why I got to go to school your kids say And you jerk them out of the bed and throw the covers and the alarms gone off and all that kind of stuff going on Because in their in their world they see this But you see The talents the gifts the potential the things that you want to see them done and our heavenly father looks at every one of us I've been pasturing for a long time and I praise god for that But I have not topped out and god forbid that I ever get to that place if I ever do I need to exit the pulpit Did you hear what I said the moment I cease to be teachable the moment I cease to learn The moment that I I am not broadening what I need to do Because you can never go higher. I'm just throwing some stuff. I'll give you something to write here in a minute You can never go higher than your leader You let me say it like this. You can never go higher than your source Now your source is god But a leader can put a lid on something And I don't care if you're leading a family leading a company leading a church whatever that it leading yourself And that is what the enemy wants to do it's talking your head until you start believing that I'm not worthy I'm not able. I can't do this, but I'm just going to tell you my dad He never finished high school But in his 70s He went back and got his GED Because back in his day he had to work on the farm read his dad the same way He had to leave school to work on the farm at eight years old But he went back and completed all of that and went right on to college and became an electrical engineer I'm just telling you do not put a lid on yourself. God is not going to put a lid on you I said god's not going to put a lid on you But he will prune you to bring forth much fruit because herein is my father glorified So with all that in mind You need to know that the purpose in the pruning Help me out back there again The purpose in the pruning there we go. Oh go back The purpose in the pruning Is that fruitful branches? Can expect to be pruned And pruning is not fun Come on y'all Pruning is not fun What is he saying here in isaia 5 and 1 Look at this Now will I sing to my well-beloved a song of my beloved touching his vineyard? My well-beloved hath a vineyard in a very fruitful kill Well, what do you expect? You can know beyond the shadow of any doubt that there is going to be fruit in god's vineyard Some people just got in the vineyard this past weekend. Some just got in the vineyard. They're a brand new branch They don't have a whole lot going on. It takes time to develop It takes time to disciple But for those of you that have been around for a while there should be much fruit And the lord is saying that if you're not going to bear the fruit that I need you to bear I'm gonna have to put you through some cutbacks. I'm gonna have to prune some things So that you don't get satisfied with just being a branch with some leaves Because I declare to you you are a a fruit tree and there will be fruit Because it belongs to god So as isaia is letting us know that there will be fruit and what is that whole deal and the purpose that is in the pruning Well, first of all, it is not only fruit, but it is more fruit More fruit Pastry is god ever satisfied I don't know that you can he's satisfied with his son and the sacrifice I don't know if satisfied is the right word. I think it's more like Excited about the potentials that he's put on inside of you. Let me say it like this When you buy the gift For the person that you love and they don't know what you got them, but you're more excited about giving it to them Are you hearing what I'm saying? You know the day is coming You've been hiding it. You've been, you know, getting it all ready You've been getting it paid off Right Okay, whatever that it may be Because and and that That could be the definition of it is more blessed to give Than it is then to receive am I right about it So he's saying here. I want you to know that there is an increase now It is not explicit necessarily in here. God doesn't say hey branch. Guess what? I'm going to increase you He just says you start with fruit and there's going to be more fruit and ultimately we're going to much fruit So expect a pruning to take you to much fruit God is going to prune us until he gets much fruit out of our life Now that seems all fine and good and all well and spiritual, but I want you to understand Why do we take our heads off when we come into church? And try to Regulate all right. This is my work over here and then this is my christian life over here When you if you own your own business Do you not want it to increase? That's not a trick question. It's okay for you to answer I'm okay. So let me say it like this.  I'm picking up a few the rest of you are perfectly fine to go and live in poverty. That's exactly what I'm hearing from you Does anybody want an increase in your life?  I you know, I'm on retired. I'm good. I don't worry about me. Yeah Yeah, let's see how I'll come back to you when the economy drops out your 401k has gotten sucked into the wind One of the things about and I'm not a financial expert, but I know enough about this one of the things As far as just wealth is concerned whether it be houses or finances Whatever it may be is the fact that you must have multiple income streams If you rely on one you can rest assure that it's probably going to let you down at some point All right, so what was the point God is increasing God is increasing There there were four rivers in the Garden of Eden Did you know that? You didn't know that there were four feeding that thing multiple increase God is a multiplier Look at the book of acts He starts out with 120 And within 24 hours after the outpouring of the Holy Spirit, there's 3 000 people in the first church Within a few hours from that it goes to 6 000 By the time you get to acts chapter number nine and revival is breaking out all over the place You're looking at tens of thousands of people that have just walked into the church. God is a multiplier He starts out adding. Here's what you need to know. I'm about to preach Here's what you need to know God when you go to school You have to learn how to add before you can multiply am I right about it? You have to learn how to add Now God is saying I have a unique way to get you to multiplication I'm going to add and I'm going to subtract But ultimately I'm going to get you to multiplication God is saying to you you can expect there being times when things are added And times when things are taken away, but the ultimate end of that is going to be an increase Are you hearing what I'm saying? Now let me put this into your regular school of thinking because we think oh That he's just talking about the spiritual things in my life. No. God is talking about the totality of your life I wish above all things that Thelma is prospering being good health even as thy soul prospers What is he saying to us? He's saying I want your inner man to be the one that's really growing and the rest of the stuff Well Let's just take it to matthew 633 seek first the kingdom of god and his righteousness and then all these things will be added to you You'll have need of nothing This is the reason why we have a problem with this pruning deal. I'm sorry. I'm Well, I'm not sorry because I'm I'm just rolling here So we're going to go with the cloud He said to you that he would give you the desires of your heart. Did he not? How many of you gotten those desires Some of you have and some of you are giving me a courtesy hand wave Because it's not all there But I want you to hear what i'm about to tell you He said he would give you the desires of your heart But not your desires because god's not santa claus What is he going to do? You ready for this? Are y'all with me right here? Don't miss this When you get saved he changes your desire And the things that you did not desire before he now makes them desirable of your life So now it's not about my will and when we read this passage of scripture And he says to us it'll give us the desires of our heart He's not talking about giving you your wants and feeding you like some kind of sugar daddy He's saying i'm going to change your heart and change your desire And suddenly the things that you were hungry for before you're not hungry for that But you're going to have such a desire to read the bible to pray to win the loss and all that That it's going to be the thing that motivates you for much fruit The desires of your heart So when he says to you because because this is the way we read it all of our lives That he'll when we pray if his word is by to me and my word is by to you You ask what you will and it shall be done to you and my father and we go okay I'm holding you to it. Wait a minute. You ask what you will But that will is his will The desire is his desire Come on somebody. I think I just helped somebody right there. Maybe So what is this process?  Let me try that on one more time god giveth and god And what did job conclude? Blessed be the name of the lord If you can get to the point where you say lord, I know you're pruning some things in my life I don't understand it, but this pruning is an opportunity for me For growth. I may not see it with my eyes right now You might be digging underneath the earth so that I can grow way tall But I'm just telling you when all those tractors and scaffolding get out of there What an edifice it's going to be to the glory of god and my life Why the pruning then?  Let me tell you here's the order of the day for you from now until Jesus comes And this is going to be the church's greatest challenge because today as as As we see there there is opportunities. Glor is there not I mean, there's always something going on that you can get involved in But it may not bring fruit That makes your heart joyful and glory to god So from now to the coming of the lord, you're going to have to choose what is beneficial For the sake of the vine What am I connected to? That may be taking my strength and taking my life away from making him the priority because now it's not my desire Not my will but Vine be done Are y'all with me here now get this because here is the process of pruning He says this he said first of all you're going to be purged purged that term purged there is connected to the blood like a transfusion purged Hebrews 9 and 22 tells us what that looks like We're going to be purged And then he says Here in john 15 and 2 we're going to be cleansed. So there is the purging of the blood my salvation He saves me by the blood there is no forgiveness of sin that comes except by the blood of jesus No remittance no pay for my sin except the blood be applied. So he he first purges me From my old ways purges purges By the blood and then he cleanses me This is an ongoing situation This is an ongoing process He doesn't just hit you with the blood and then okay fine and dandy if that was true you and i would be dead right now All right, we had blood it flowed in and then it flowed out and we're dead Because there's life in the blood according to the book of Leviticus. Are you with me right there? So what did god do he stopped the out? Put the blood in us Now by this miraculous Miracle of god's grace Thumped our heart and made an electrical charge take place every moment sent from our brain That pumps that heart and pushes blood throughout the entirety of your system What was the whole deal with covet? People were suffering because their vital organs were not getting Oxygenated blood to the vital organs. So when that started taking place That their systems were shutting down come on somebody. I think i'm preaching right now So what does the lord do he puts his blood the blood of his only begotten son?  What's in that blood? Well, it's actually the dna I went to the doctor the other day. They took some vials of blood And they've tested it and they were running all this stuff down and saying well This is a potential here and this may be an issue here and all that kind of stuff So we're gonna work on this work on that.  What is he doing john 17? It's on your paper john 17. He says this he said There is that you're being cleansed by the word of god coming Washing you with the water of his word All right First the blood then the water That's the reason why we don't baptize sinners The water can't save you the blood saves you The water is the sanctification that says today the old man is dead and i'm getting up and coming out a new man And i'm and look here and i'm doing why do we do it publicly in a few weeks? We're gonna have water baptism. Why do we do it publicly because you are saying to all the witnesses There's a change in my life that's definitely happened and i am declaring that today Are you with me? So he says here we are cleansed by The blood now how is this pruning applied? Well, it's applied in our lives in four different ways first of all It first happens like this the pruning happens to remove growth That is dead and dying or dry You can't have a healthy tree when you've got dead dying dry limbs that are hanging on that and guess what happened Oh, oh my god. I love when god gives me illustrations like this. So last night woke me up Just the wind at 60 whatever miles an hour it was and i went out in my yard and driving to work here And there's trash and dead limbs that were in the tree that i didn't even recognize were there But god allowed a storm to come through to blow all that mess out of the tree and watch them trees now You're not gonna see it tomorrow And you won't see it next week And sometimes depending on how severe the storm is it may take quite a while Like you roll through, you know, I was taking some of uh, uh, I was taking them to the airport Yesterday pastor hosé and them and and they were looking up and he said I was telling abraham That these are houses that were affected by the hurricane when it came in here. I said, yeah, you see those trees up there They've been blistered by the wind and by the salt and all that's going on up there And some of them are gonna die some of them are not gonna survive But if you wait around long enough if you drive from here to tallahassee right now You're gonna see trees that went through that storm that hurricane michael That's been two years ago tough storm the heart of the storm the longer of recovery takes place But rest assured they're gonna have new limbs new growth. In fact, they're gonna have new growth coming out in places That they didn't have growth before Because that's the process So so now I start understanding when paul tells me I glory in my afflictions That christ can be worked inside of me You mean god allowed that pruning storm to come through Well, that's what it took to get you back on course because he saw you drifting And he's got too much invested in you for you to sit there and occupy the ground with no fruit So he's gonna allow some wind to blow into your life. Come on somebody Gotta do some pruning I love how some of you're looking at me right now. I ain't happy about this at all. Well hang in there. It gets better Why don't why the pruning because to make sure sunlight can get in there? I told you a couple weeks ago.  I mean he looked like Edward's scissor hands. I mean he was going at it And and next thing you know, he's he shook the he shook the vine And anything that was just hanging in there had to come out. He's pulling limbs out I mean there was there was no branches left But the potential of the branches Was still grafted in the vine Why did he do that so sunshine can get in there sunlight can get in there you can't grow without sunlight Do you know what they said during covet get outside and get some vitamin d So what we do with our mask on We're looking for the sun Why because and look at us in florida right here. We got some sun going on during all that time I went outside walked around outside hit me son do it There's a lot that takes place Sunlight you got to have light You got to have light. Isn't that something Isn't that something that that einstein figured out with his theory of relativity that part of that means the demand of light It takes the demand of light and anything for it to exist We'll go to john one. He said jesus said I am The light that has come I'm the portion of the equation that I gave to einstein to figure out how things work Number three to increase the size and the quality of the fruit Why does he print it so he can increase the size? See we like those big old grapefruit when they come out there.   I want when I bite on that thing. I want all my Clothes to get wet with juice.  I don't know what happened to it No, no stop all that nonsense. Just grab something and throw it into bag.  Look at you. Look at it. Look at you. I don't like that one I don't like you know why because you want the big juicy fruit there You want the stuff that looks like it's going to be so delicious? Time this is over with you can preach this Number four the insh it ensures that new fruit will be developed now that is a cause and effect Because if we're not pruned While we may have fruit on the tree the potential is still inside of the vine and in the branch as he's giving the supply there If we don't have a per a pruning Then then we'll never see any new growth Now you're not going to like what i'm about to tell you but i'm going to tell you anyway And i'm just thinking it was confirmed last night as we sat in the green room after the service talking a little bit with them the pastor over there because As a shepherd pastor you never want anybody to leave your church If you're a genuine shepherd pastor now, I can't say it the way Brother clinton didn't used to say it But it went something like Every church needs a purge Now he said it in a much more graphic way And some of you are picking up on it and some of you are still in the fog Okay, what's the point? It's hard to go through a pruning. Let me put it in your life. It's hard to go through Friends at one time were there and now they're not Because god said they're taking you in the opposite direction. They served a purpose while they were there Come on, they were scaffolding, but that scaffolding has got to go down the building is far beyond Do you know how strange it would be for you to walk in this building this building been built since 1981? And you walk in here and they're scaffolding still around and tile missing and all that kind of stuff And you go what in the world is going on in here? Are y'all still building on the oh no, we've been done with this building since 1981 Then why is the scaffolding still here? Can you imagine going in your house and you know and there's scaffolding that's all in there Like it was when it was getting built and you go man. What's what's the deal here? So I want to get somebody needs to get this scaffolding out of here and eventually you go Well, I guess I had to get it out myself Because i'm living in the house and everything's good. Why is the scaffolding still here? Take the scaffolding down The scaffolding has got to get yeah, but I love the scaffolding it helped me to get up to the top We're done with that Come on somebody We're done with that There may be a time in the future when you remodel and you bring the scaffolding back, but right now It's in front of your television And you know you got to have your television I'm trying to help you understand It's not far away from the desires that you have in your life For instance watch this right here men Would you rather watch the ball game on a 20 inch tv? Or an 85 inch tv? Where are my men in here? Now the Come on give is a matter of fact pastor My dream is As a matter of fact pastor my dream Is This in my living room I want to be radiated from the In that funny what you want is that And god said I see that keep dreaming come on somebody New fruit you want new fruit You got to move over. Why are we doing this latino fest? Because we want new fruit Why do we give altar calls because we want new fruit the sounds of a dying church Is that we've always done it this way? Let me just tell y'all something You're liable to come in here next week and all the chairs be completely changed Oh, believe me with the way people sit in the back I have there have been many times when my dream is to go to the sound booth and preach You have no idea.  I'm gonna go stand in the sound booth Because if this church does not have new growth eventually I'll tell you where it's gonna go in just a moment Can you write some more things down write this down? The fruit is coming through you Not to you Because it is not outside where the fruit Starts and develops it's on the inside Psalm 119 11 so on your paper thy word if I hid my heart that I might not sin against thee That's that cleansing word. That's that purging pruning word James chapter 1 verse 23 says for if any be a Hearer of the word and not a doer. He is like an a man beholden in his natural face in a glass in a mirror For he beholdeth himself and goeth his way in straight way forgetteth what manner of man he was who in this world Would walk out the door right having seen something Come on somebody no you'll take time That's the reason why they call it vanity y'all quiet Here's another good thing you need to get a hold of here tonight Abiding let's transfer a little bit abiding in the vine is the key To abundant life Now all those trees that were outside last night in that storm in your yard around this church Only those trees that were that the limbs and the branches were abiding in the trunk Remain it didn't stop the storm from coming The tree didn't really know that the storm was coming But it came But the limbs the branches that were securely abiding in the trunk the vine When the wind blew it didn't make any difference if it was 15 miles an hour or 80 miles an hour Come on somebody Let's go to the parable two houses Two people build one builds on the sand. Can you build a house on the sand? Come on now think about what I just said. Can you build a house on the sand? Oh, no, yes. Yes, you can build a house on the sand. Otherwise they wouldn't be doing it today at Pensacola beach You can build a house on the sand. It's very obvious in the parable one guy built his house on the sand The other one built his house on what? See now y'all are scared to answer aren't you one built his house on the sand the other one built his house on the rock Am I right that thus far? We biblically right all right. You're not going to throw me out Build his house on the sand This guy built his house on the rock watch this storm came The storm came the storm didn't just come to the guy who built his house on the sand The same storm came to both houses One house stood because why? It's on the rock Could the guy who built in the on the sand have remained Steadfast in the storm he could have He could have if He would have dug past the sand And found the rock Oh my god Help me jesus You didn't hear what I said he dug down in the sand you got to get past all the surface stuff Everybody wants a quick build everybody wants quick fruit But if you'll take the time to find the rock then you can build the house and it will weather the storm How do you know that because there's a there's a house that is in mexico beach right now Who before the storm the guy it cost him it was a sacrifice because he built it with the storm in mind come on preacher I said he built his house with the storm in mind in other words He didn't say like a lot of people out there. I'm gonna do this as cheap as I can This is all I've got blah blah blah and then I'm gonna build this thing and hope there'll be no storm I'm telling you now there will be a storm There's gonna be a storm You can expect that to happen That guy I think I think if my memory serves correctly Put like 15 million dollars into this house that was right on the beach in mexico beach If you've ever been to mexico beach you understand there is like beach road No, where else they go and when all those houses and all those condominiums and all those buildings went flat He found that thing way down. He had pilings That he had built that house upon that found rock somewhere and when all of it didn't make any difference How much sand was pulled out from underneath that house? Because he said I'm not building on the sand I'm gonna build on I'm gonna build on something solid down there Come on somebody now that takes time and it takes sacrifice. How many of you know 15 million dollars is a sacrifice? And for all of you that don't have that that's the reason why you live in pace and you don't live down there on pincicola beach Right And and furthermore. Oh, I feel like pretty sure right here Furthermore, I'm not going to live in somebody's condominium who did not build on the rock and expect that there won't be nothing that will hurt me down there So abiding in the vine is the key to abundant life Why because Jesus is the vine When the vine is grafted in the graft actually shoots the fibers Of that branch and into the roots and down into the stem and the stem grows up into the graft Until the both of them are one watch this This is this is horticulture 101 even if the vine dies The graft would become would would still be Connected to the vine Because abiding is an act of my will with my whole heart I will not be moved I will abide in the vine.   I'm almost done here abiding is a mutual relationship The disciple abides with the master and the master the vine abides with the disciple But it is a choice Now look what jesus said in john 15 i chose you You didn't choose me So the choice was his to start with and guess what look at your neighbor right now and help me preach and tell him The lord wanted you Come on somebody tell him the lord wanted you He chose you out of all the people The lord chose you the danger of not abiding with your whole heart means that you'll just have little fruit And I want you to remember this throughout this entire lesson Remember that the devil is not in the text So this pruning is of the lord And abiding is not based on my feelings. It's based on relationship I have a relationship with jesus christ And if you're going to have a good relationship you got to stay in communication with each other How long has it been since you prayed pastor i prayed just the other day because The popo was right behind me And I didn't have my seatbelt on and they followed me all the way down the road I you know that pastor I shot like a rocket down avalanche boulevard next thing. I know here you come I said jesus take the wheel Jesus take the wheel What did he say he said if you love me Keep my commandments You should listen to the message this past weekend about obeying and obedience because i'm going to just tell you The only way you can abide in the vine is to obey what the vine is doing I want you to produce good fruit I don't feel like it Okay Only problem is you're the one who's going to suffer the vine's going to keep right on going And and furthermore watch this all the rest of the branches that saw you not me I'm gonna try that on one more time. Whoops not me.  Why because they withered now. Why does a branch wither? Because it's not got the sap going to it anymore Now it's not the lord's fault I've got some limbs since the storm prior that are now on the ground They broke I showed you that picture of that little blueberry bush the other day it broke But it was had just enough hanging on it that it was still so far up in the tree I couldn't get to it. So I had to wait But guess what?  They broke fellowship. Come on somebody They broke fellowship and now they're falling on the ground and now I'm just gonna tell you There's not a branch that falls on the ground that doesn't die It no longer has life. Well, come on You go down to the u w f Uh campus and tell the horticulturist I got some knowledge for you the branch cannot do it by itself. It must have the vine That seems like a real complicated thing and but i'm just telling you it's very simple If the branch doesn't abide in the vine It's gonna die.  I've got to hurry dead wood is worse than fruitlessness You know why because dead wood can have disease and decay in it and start affecting other stuff If it is painful to bleed It is worse to wither It is better to be pruned Than to grow and grow than to cut up and be burned I better submit myself to the process The burden is on the disciple to abide Or place your faith in the vine I'm holding on for dear life. How about you? Just let me rest in the lord Let me abide in him and now the branch What happens with that branch the branch receives nourishment from the vine. That's the reason why you need to abide Where you gonna get your nourishment from don't worry about me pastor I I hadn't been there to church in 18 months, but i'm i'm holding on No, you're not No, you're not First of all if you miss that much work, you're fired. Come on.  It's your existence I don't have to come to church I get to come to church because I need more sap today from the holy ghost than I ever needed before Well, I don't have to somebody told me one time.  I'm sorry. I was there the branch glorifies god by bearing much fruit Why do I abide in the vine?  Can I make up my own songs? I will drive down the road and sing songs to myself and make up my own words Are you hearing what I'm saying? I don't have I don't have to be able to get in the calisthenics of a religious Orthodoxy, I will bless the lord at all time. He pray shall continually be in my mouth So that's not the issue the issue is he's working on the vine So that the vine doesn't try to produce grapes when it's supposed to be producing oranges The branch that stays connected is the disciple of christ This is what the book said. Did you hear what I just said?  What told her I loved her 15 years ago that ought to be enough Mm-hmm How about how about since you can't cook she cooked for you 15 years ago that ought to be enough I washed your clothes 15 years ago that ought to be enough You need a good pruning at that point You mess around I'll come with my own loppers The branch that stays connected is the disciple of christ I don't have to wear a t-shirt or a gold chain with a cross on it at that moment My character Come on somebody My heart for others And the list goes on and on is what displays whether or not i'm a true disciple of christ My attendance at church and checking that off as a religious box. That's not going to impress anybody But what will impress them is that suddenly you sense A need to take a bag of groceries to somebody's house in the name of the lord Don't don't write your name on the bag from Look at y'all. I'm gonna bake a cake, but I'm gonna put a great big sticker on there from Now they're obligated to you for life Instead of you see all you've done then Is you brought glory to the branch and not to the vine I'm gonna try that on again if you do it in the name of the lord Then you'll give glory to the vine because you wouldn't have the bag of groceries were it not god supplying it I'm leaving that one on the ground just for an example So don't be discouraged. Let me say this to you in closing. Don't be discouraged about the amount of fruit Because some have 30 some have 60 and some have a hundred That's right. I don't I don't I'm not getting what they're getting there boy. They're really blessed. I'm not blessed. Listen He says to us in in matthew 25 15 according to his several ability You better be thankful that he's giving it to you according to His several ability in other words to your ability What he's given to you All you're looking at somebody's got what looks to be gigantic fruit on their vine That just means they took a pruning worse than you did Come on somebody Their cut back has lasted longer been more intense I just wanted you to write this down. I'm almost done matthew 25 the parable of the talents. Look what he tells us here He gives to to one A particular amount he goes and he gives one talent to to this one guy And I want to focus on that very quickly and we're got He gives this one talent to this one guy And and then he says Then the owner says I'm coming back and I want my I want You to increase what I've given to you So he comes back the one who had five he gets 10 Two he gets more and he goes to the guy with one and this is what he says right here He says what you got Then he which had received the one talent came and said lord Watch this. I knew That thou art a hard man. I wish I could preach that one for a little while Reaping where thou has not sown and gathering where thou has not strung I knew you were a hard man So I did nothing I knew you were a hard man. I I knew you were a hard man Listen, that's the difference between being a slave and a servant A slave's mentality says I knew you were a hard man. So I was so afraid of you. I didn't do anything Are you kidding me? a servant says I knew what you were expecting and I did what you told me to do Now see people get mad In this parable I just I read between the lines right here people get I can see people getting mad when he tells the one who's got the one And and he and oh man. I wish I had some time right here He said I was afraid look at verse 25. I was afraid and went and hit thy talent in the earth and lo here it is Well, thank you very much I gave you all this ability all this time And you bring back the same thing that I gave you You hadn't went a soul in for the kingdom and all the time I gave how long did I give you?   Would you say pastor would you just please go on?   I was afraid I'll preach that another time he goes on to tell us very clearly what happens In fact, he throws him into outer darkness where there's weeping and gnashing of tea You're not going to bring something in fruit to the lord There's a day coming.  I'm giving you an opportunity when I was Putting this message together. I heard the voice of the lord say god is giving me and you an opportunity I'm going to prune you That's an opportunity I'm going to let that preacher preach to you and call you a sloth It's an opportunity The last one This one this one really gets me and this is where I see us here Luke 13 is the story the parable of Of the husbandman and the vine dresser and he comes to the fig tree and he says Listen I've come here and this fig tree has no fruit on it And the and the vine dresser says to the husbandman, please Don't don't Leave it to me. I'm gonna I'm gonna fertilize around it. I'm gonna cultivate it. I'm gonna water it I'm gonna do all that I need to do. He said that's fine And boy, I heard this in my ear He said that's fine, but I'm coming back in a year and if that church If that person If that believer has not brought me fruit I'm gonna cut it down because it is cumbering the ground in my vineyard Are you hearing what I'm saying? It's taking up space that I need for new growth It's taking up space That's a hard thing So when we went to israel We were not able to be here for Henry's birth So we pulled up on the Kibbutz in the northern part of israel up on the lebanon border and we're standing there and Our guide says come on out here and he says look way over there. That's lebanon And you could see nothing but poppy fields opium That's their cash crop But where the fence line and the border fence is on this side in israel Where we could see both going in both directions right on the northern portion of there There's mango trees and grape vines and all this other stuff fruitful stuff going on And they were in the process of pruning and replanting Vines that had died and all that kind of stuff And so we're standing there and the and the guy comes up and he goes Hey look, here's a little Mango, I think it was a mango tree That they didn't plan a little scrub oak is about that big And we had just gotten the text That henry had been born So the guide takes it over and he goes hey Would anybody like to plant this in the ground? We didn't have a shovel we didn't have nothing Read and I said let's do it and we'll call it henry's tree in israel And we dug with our hands down there and planted that tree in that vineyard And as far as I was thinking about it today as far as I know It's growing and producing Because it is in a vineyard where it's being taken care of and it's going to grow up and it's going to have good fruit Can I just tell you ladies and gentlemen?  I am not going to despise the pruning of the lord Because he sees in me more than what I see in myself And if he's going to plant somebody new beside me, let me help them to grow too. Let's fertilize one another Let's encourage one another let's strengthen one another because at the end of the day It's all his fruit anyway. Amen Come on lift your hands right where you are father.  Amen Let them know how much you love and appreciate them and we'll see you sunday Miracle sunday this weekend. Do not miss it Please thank you Manny was my three amigos here tonight


My name is Sam Vaknin. I'm the author of Malignan self-love, Narcissism Revisited. Can two narcissists establish a long-term stable relationship? The answer is a qualified yes. There are many types of narcissists, somatic, cerebral, classic, compensatory, inverted, and so on. Two narcissists of the same type cannot maintain a stable, long-term, full-fledged and functional relationship. Two narcissists of different types or opposing types can, and often do, maintain long-term stable and rather happy relationships. Let's go back a bit. There are two main types of narcissists. One is a somatic narcissist and the other one is a cerebral narcissist. The somatic type of narcissist relies on his body and sexuality to generate attention, adulation, and admiration. Known collectively as narcissistic supply. The cerebral narcissist leverages his intellect, his intelligence, and his professional achievements to obtain the same. Narcissists are either predominantly cerebral or overwhelmingly somatic. In other words, they either generate the narcissistic supply by using their bodies or by flaunting their minds. It is a mistake though to assume type constancy. In other words, all narcissists are at the same time cerebral and somatic. In each narcissist, one of the types is dominant, so the narcissist is either largely cerebral or largely somatic. But the other recessive type, the type that is manifested less frequently, is still there. It is lurking, it is waiting to erupt. The narcissist swings between his dominant type and his recessive type, and his recessive type manifests mainly after a major narcissistic injury or life crisis. Thus, if both member of the couple are cerebral narcissists, for instance, both of them are scholars, the resulting competition prevents them from serving as ample sources of narcissistic supply to each other. They compete, and in competing, they injure each other narcissistically, and they provoke in each other rage, which retards insip intimacy, which prevents their relationship from cementing and surviving. Finally, the mutual admiration society crumbles, and the bond is severed. Consumed by the pursuit of their own narcissistic gratification, the members of such a couple have no time or energy or will left to cater to the narcissistic needs of their partner. Moreover, the partner is perceived as a dangerous and vicious contender for scarce resources, sources of narcissistic supply. This may be less true if the two narcissists work in totally unrelated academic or intellectual fields, but even then, generally speaking, the competitive streak in narcissists, the need to secure sources of narcissistic supply in the same milieu, the same environment, the same pathological narcissistic space, virtually guarantees a series of clashes which inevitably and invariably result in separation. But if the narcissists involved are of different types, if one of them is, for instance, cerebral and the other one is somatic, a long-term relationship based on the mutual provision of narcissistic supply can definitely happen and hold. Example, if one of the narcissists is somatic, uses his or her body as a source of narcissistic gratification, and the other member of the couple is cerebral, uses his intellect or his professional achievements as such a source, there is nothing to destabilize such a collaboration. It is even potentially emotionally rewarding. The somatic narcissist, member of the couple, admires the cerebral for his intellectual achievements. The cerebral narcissist admires the bodily beauty of the somatic narcissist. They both compliment and gratify each other in a virtuous cycle. The relationship between such two narcissists resembles a one that exists between an artist and his art or a collector and his collection. This can and does change, of course, as the narcissists involved grow older, flabbier and less agile intellectually, in other words, when they lose their assets.  These may subject the relationship to fracturing strains, but only more stable and enduring relationship can and often does develop between dissimilar narcissists.  They still have their memories to fall back on. They serve each serves as the memory pool of the other. Each remains in the relationship, each one of them remains a relationship in order to remind the other of moments of glory and past narcissistic supply. It's the perfect match, made in narcissistic heaven.


Am I ashamed of myself, harm scars? No, that's the really simple answer. No, I'm not. I got asked this recently and I have to say I love it when people ask me challenging questions. If I don't want to answer, I will just say no. But actually when people ask tricky questions like this, it makes me really kind of stretch and challenge myself both professionally and personally. So am I ashamed of myself, harm scars? No. And I'm quite proud to be able to say no, that's kind of a new-ish place that I've maybe got to in life. But I think that when it comes to scars, whether they are physical or emotional, whether they are self-inflicted or inflicted by others, there's always going to be two ways of viewing them. Either these scars tell the story of a difficult, horrible time and they're something to be ashamed of or to find difficult and negative in some way or you can flip it and you can actually look at the same scars from a different lens through a different lens and you can view these scars as a story of a time when you survived. So each of my scars tells a story of a time when I managed, when I stayed alive, when I got through the next day, the next minute sometimes and that was not always easy. There were plenty of times when I didn't want to be here anymore and actually for me the self-harm was the best way that I could manage in that moment with the distress that I was feeling at that time. So I'm not ashamed of my scars because they each tell of a time when somehow, imperfectly, unhealthily, I managed to get through and I'm proud that my scars are healed and fading and they are, at the moment, they feel very much a part of my history rather than part of my present and that doesn't mean that there will never be new ones but right now I'm in a pretty good place and I am proud of that. But I'm not ashamed of those scars or how they came about because to be ashamed of them would be to have shame about such a deep and fundamental part of me and who I am and how I managed a really difficult time or difficult times and I don't think that would be healthy or helpful. So no, I'm not ashamed of them and I don't think anyone should be ashamed of the different ways in which they cope and manage and yes, of course, ideally we want to work towards being able to cope and manage in ways that are not damaging to ourselves or to others, in ways that do not hurt us either physically or emotionally but we can only ever do the best that we can do at the time. So we can be working towards healthier, better ways of coping but we can't always get there immediately. So no, long answer. That short answer, no. No, I'm not ashamed of my scars. Yes, you may ask me questions about them, about self-harm, about anything you want to. If I don't want to answer, I'll say no. So yeah, there you go, self-harm scars. I get asked a lot about self-harm and scars and whether we should hide them and that kind of thing as well. So if this is a topic you want to hear more about either from my personal experience or with my professional hat on, I'd be more than happy and willing to go there and I think it's really important to say at this point I'm not looking to advocate self-harm as a coping mechanism but I do recognize it as a strategy for managing that some people use at times when they are unable to use other methods and we need to respect that and try to understand it whilst trying to support people to move towards healthier ways of managing and anyone who's watching this who currently does self-harm or they're supporting someone who does, please know that it is possible to move on. I have each day I manage not to do it and that doesn't mean it's easy and it doesn't mean that the thought or the urge goes away but it does mean that you learn to manage in different ways and healthier ways and find different ways of coping. It is possible for it to stop it can feel like it wouldn't be when you're in the middle of that cycle it could feel like nothing else could provide the same, no one else could meet the need in the same way as self-harm but it is possible either to resolve the underlying issues or to change the way in which you cope with those issues or ideally a combination of the two. So there we go thought for the day self-harm scoffers not ashamed no shame here I will not hide them I will happily answer questions about them.