How can we use simple swaps in things that we say to make radical changes to the ways we think, feel and behave? That's what we're exploring in today's episode of Pookie Bonders. Let's dive right in. So today we're thinking about the power of language and the way that we talk about things and how that influences on how we think and feel about things and and consequently how we then behave. Now, this really matters when we're thinking about our role as parents or carers or supporting adults of children and young people, because how we speak about them and to them will consequently impact on how we think about them, feel about them and behave and act towards them. And there are some quite simple changes we can make to our language that can have radical outcomes in terms of changing the experience of the world for that child and indeed the adults around them. So the idea for exploring this was inspired by something that I was kind of workshopping in one of my sessions recently and the people I was working with came up with some absolutely fantastic suggestions. And I hope that this episode will give you a few examples, but more than that will make you stop and step back and think about some of the language and the phrasing that you're using day to day. I'm wondering about being curious about some simple swaps that you might make. So it's partly about perhaps adopting some of the ones I suggest, but much more than that, it's about stepping back and wondering what other changes might you make. If you are working with children and young people, then perhaps take this to a staff meeting brainstorm it for five minutes and see what you can come up with, what commitments can you make in terms of changing your language use. So the first swap that I talk about all the time is inspired by the amazing Bruce Perry and Oprah. So instead of thinking what's wrong with you, we think what's happened to you. This inspired by their beautiful book, What Happened to You, which is a deep exploration into trauma and how as the adults living with and working with children and young people, we can support them to grow and heal through their trauma using our approach. And the book is called What Happened to You because it requires that flip in thinking and the way we speak to and think about a child rather than looking at behavior that might be challenging or distressing to us and to the child and thinking, what on earth is wrong with you? Why would you do that? Instead, we think, what happened to you? What is in your past that has provoked this behavior now? And when we think about it from that point of view, what happened to you rather than feeling angry, dispassionate, punitive, we suddenly enter into that nurturing, calm, caring, desperate to support type mode. When we understand the stories behind a child's behavior, it completely changes how we think about them, how we behave towards them. So instead of seeing that behavior, we look beyond it to the child. So the first swap, instead of what's wrong with you, what happened to you? Thank you, Bruce Perry and Oprah. The next swap is attention seeking to connection seeking. So attention seeking is a phrase that comes up all the time. I hear it in regards to eating disordered behavior. I hear it in regards to self harming behavior. I hear it in regards to any big, loud, noisy type behavior that just attention seeking. My first healthy challenge to that would be, OK, maybe they are requiring some attention. So actually, rather than the swap I first suggested, we might go from attention seeking to attention needing. Perhaps as a child who needs the attention of the adults around them, perhaps there is an unmet need here and they are trying to get that need met. So maybe they are attention needing. Is it so bad to seek the attention of others? We do it all the time and we look to promote positive help seeking skills. If a child has not yet learned how to positively engage with those around them, who might help them, perhaps they've learned that the way to get this attention that they so desperately need is by not eating, is by throwing things, is by self-induced behavior. Perhaps they have learned that this is how they can get the support and the help that they need. The other switch I mentioned for attention seeking is connection seeking. So maybe this is a child who is seeking connection, looking to build bonds and bridges with those caring adults around them.  Cry for help. There's another phrase I absolutely hate to hear. We hear it most in relation to people who have carried out suicidal type behaviors and it's very dismissive. This was once said about me within my ear shots following a suicide attempt. It was just a cry for help. And I lay there in my hospital bed thinking, is this the time for a lecture? No, because I don't have the emotional energy and I'm not feeling my best right now. However, that is so damaging that language. A cry for help is a valid thing. Sometimes we are stood at the bottom of the deepest, darkest pit and we desperately need people around us to hear us. And yes, it would be far, far better if we had healthier ways of crying for help. But a cry for help means that there's a big problem there and we need to hear that cry and we need to respond to it. It is not something that should be dismissed or judged. Anyway, going back to attention seeking versus connection seeking. When someone is attention seeking, might be our old terminology. If we replace it with connection seeking, this is a child who needs to be forming a relationship, really securely attaching to making bridges with me as the adult around them. Then again, we begin to flip our thinking. We stop dismissing behavior as attention seeking. We see it through the lens of connection seeking. And we begin to wonder how else can we begin to build that connection? In a way that feels better for the child and better for us as the adult. What other behaviors and ways in can we teach here? The next swap, which was suggested by those I was working with on that day. They were great, is rather than diagnosed with recognized as. Now, I'd love to hear your thoughts on this one. The idea here was that rather than medicalizing everything and saying someone is diagnosed with a condition and seeing this as a sort of completely separate entity or something that one could only be considered as needing help with if there were a formal piece of paper that said that one had a diagnosis that instead, we might suggest recognized as which felt softer, more inclusive and would enable us to support those who had not yet got the diagnosis. It also starts to speak to some of the ways in which we identify with different labels and conditions that we might have. So, for example, thinking about my own autism, rather than thinking that I was diagnosed with autism, recognized as feels a bit more, I don't know, recognized as feels a bit more accessible to me, feels a little bit more like it's humanizing it, more about me as a person. A diagnosis feels really like a negative thing. We generally don't want to get diagnoses. We think about them as medical problems to overcome. My autism is not like that. This is something that I live with absolutely every day. And you know what? It brings with it great strength. So, recognized as and trying to take a more positive approach to that. I'd be interested on your views with this one diagnosed with versus recognized as and which conditions would we apply that to? Next little swap was obsessed versus passionate. So for many of our neurodivergent children in particular, who have got the gift and the joy of hyper focus and having those interests, which they can take so deeply, so those special interests, as we sometimes think about them, then they will sometimes be seen as people outside of their experience as obsessed and this can sometimes be seen as a negative and there's a long history of children and young people being denied access to their special interest and their areas of hyper focus because this obsession or behavior was seen as unusual and inappropriate. Whereas if we flip that and we see this as a child who is highly passionate about something, passion is a great thing, right? And it's something we try to inspire in our children and young people. If we see them as highly passionate about something, suddenly that really flips the lens through which we're looking at this. And one of the things here when it comes to these things that child might be obsessed about or passionate about is just being respectful of the thing that the child has chosen and recognizing the joy that it might bring to them and the opportunities that it might open up for them as well. So just because the thing that has spoken to a child, the thing that they want to spend their time doing or thinking about, doesn't make sense to us or isn't a thing that's traditionally respected within our environment, doesn't mean it doesn't have merit. So if the thing that the child was obsessed with or passionate about were, say, playing the piano, we'd probably be really encouraging of that. The child who manages to get through all their grades very young or who practices so much that they can play new songs completely by ear. This child is one who would be praised hugely and enjoyed a lot by the adults around them and who would get a lot out of this obsession or passion. On the other hand, the child who has a slightly less mainstream passion or obsession might not get quite the same praise and adulation from those around them. So I often find myself coming back to the little boy who once told me all about hand dryers. This was his thing. He didn't often get much opportunity to talk about it, it seems, because not everybody was very interested in hand dryers. But this little boy knew everything that there was to know about hand dryers. And he was quite young, I think to recall, about eight. And his knowledge about hand dryers and how they worked and the different types and, you know, all kind of physics behind it was actually quite incredible. But because it was not like a mainstream interest or one that's generally celebrated within our society, he had the potential to be viewed quite negatively as a child who had a weird obsession. Whereas if we flip that lens and saw this as a child who was really passionate about something and we looked for the joy that it brought him and perhaps wondered about what doors it opened for him and for us in terms of his engagement with his wider curriculum, for example, then this begins to really change how we view that. As children get older, with these kind of special interests and areas of hyper focus, we should also really be thinking about how those might open doors into the world of work. And again, within the school system, really wanting to focus in on one thing all the time doesn't work really well for our children. When we're trying to cover 12 different subjects and they want to do this tiny part of one, or maybe it's something that's not even on our curriculum at all, that can feel problematic to us as a school, because we're trying to get them through all the hoops that school involves. However, if we're able to think about that special interest, that area of hyper focus and think how it might apply to the world of work for that child, A, if they get there, they are going to be the best employee that could ever be hoped for because a child who's really deeply, genuinely passionate about something who wants to spend all their time learning about and doing things related to that will just be an incredible employee. What more could you hope for? But also that can help to give us direction for that child earlier on. We might be looking at the end goal that we're thinking about with that child, the child who absolutely passionate about animals and wants to go on to become a vet, we might be taking that back and going, OK, that's really a great, great idea. I think about animals because for those of you listening in, Mork is joining me, Mork is my black and white cat. You might only ever listen and you never get to see the joy of her constantly interrupting our conversations here. She's often around. If you're watching the video, you'll be very well aware of Mork and her work here. So animals, so if we were passionate about animals, we might want to become a vet to use that passion or some other related profession within the field of animals and we might think with our child, well, what would we need to do to get there? What's our pathway there? And we might then be thinking about why our maths and our English and so on becomes more relevant because suddenly we can see how they relate to this route through in terms of that eventual work with the animals. So use those passions, see them as passions and think of them as keys to this child's enjoyment, engagement and thriving now. But also their enjoyment, their engagement and their thriving in the future. And perhaps use those passions to help to make that journey successfully too. And then finally, in terms of those language thoughts, we're going to think about today and you'll have loads more to add. And that's kind of the idea that you think about your own and what works for you in your context. But the last one I'm going to think about is won't versus can't. So this is one we think about a lot in terms of children who can't go to school. So there's lots of controversy over the language that we use around children struggling to attend. Now, at the moment, we use largely the phrase emotionally based school avoidance. Some people use the phrase emotionally based school non attendance because avoidance suggests that a child is actively avoiding the thing and that they are in control of that, perhaps. Both of these phrases are considered by some not right. But both of these phrases, in my opinion, are better than the old phrase we used to use, which was school refusal, which puts the blame squarely in the place of the child. This is their fault. They're refusing to engage with school. However, we think about it, actually, these are children who are not going to school or perhaps they are. And they are struggling to engage with school when they are there. And the idea of this tiny change, won't versus can't, is thinking about where the blame lies here and what needs to change.  Whereas when we change the won't for a can't, we begin to see that child a little bit differently. It's not that they don't want to necessarily. It's often that they simply cannot do what we're asking of them. I can't go to school if I don't feel safe there. I can't go to school if my needs are entirely unmet there. There are lots of reasons why it might not be possible for me to go to school. Lots of reasons why I can't. And when we look at it through that lens and we think, OK, well, what's the thing that means that this child can't? Then we start to think about how do we overcome those barriers and obstacles? For many of our children struggling to attend school, saying they won't go to school rather than considering rephrasing it to they can't go to school is like the equivalent of assuming that our school entrance is up a massive flight of stairs and a child with a wheelchair has been put onto our roll. And we're saying they won't attend because they are not getting from the bottom of that huge flight of stairs to the top to enter our school building. And we're saying they won't attend. They don't want to. They're not trying hard enough. Whereas quite evidently, I think this child is in a wheelchair. Here is a very large flight of stairs. It's not that they won't. It's not that they don't want to. It's that they can't. And in that instance, we obviously think, well, how would we improve access for the child in the wheelchair? The steps are the problem, not the child. And that seems really like, duh, obvious. We know what to do. Actually, when we really step into the shoes of our children who can't because of perhaps neuro differences, for example, then it can seem just as, duh, obviously, we need to adapt things for those of us who know them. But because we can't physically see it, these invisible disabilities, we're not so great at knowing quite what to do right away. And we need to get a little bit better at that. So rather than won't, if we think about it from the point of view of can't, then that leads us on to the questions of, OK, and what would turn that can't into a can? What needs to change here in terms of the environment and this child's school experience, that means that they can come to school, for example. So let's lose the won't, replace it with a can't, and be curious about what would change the can't to a can. There are so many other substitutions that you could make. Have a think about it. Please take it to your next staff meeting. If you are working with children and young people and if you're listening in as a parent and carer, then just be thinking about whether there are any of these substitutions that you might be able to make in your day to day with your child and if there might be others that it would be helpful to make as well when we consciously try to make these changes in our day to day language, they are simple. We'll find ourselves slipping a little bit at first, but try to hold yourself to account, try to get it right and just begin to notice the impact that that has on how you think and feel about the child and then consequently how you then behave to and about that child. It can make such a big difference. So a tiny intervention that can have massive ramifications and big ripples as well and explore the power of language with those that you are working with or your fellow parents and carers as well and get really curious about it. And yeah, wonder, wonder, wonder. 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Hi, my name is David Rosales. I'm the pastor of Calvary Chapel of the Chino Valley, California. Jesus said that a house divided against itself cannot stand. That sounds simple enough, doesn't it? With that said, it never ceases to surprise me how easily the house of God can be divided, which it is right now. We're living in an age of immediate information. Knowledge is at our fingertips and is instantly available. All we have to do is ask Google a question and an answer appears. No longer do we have to spend hours, weeks, months, and even years gaining experience, thinking, studying, debating, and working to attain information about a subject. All we need to do is type in a question and instantly we're an expert on any subject we desire. Do you want to be an expert on the coronavirus? Ask or type your question into WebMD and immediately you know what it took medical professionals years to learn. Do you want to be an expert on education or politics, family, even theology? Type your question in. When you find the answer and you agree with it, you publish it and bang, you're an instant expert. It doesn't matter if it's accurate. It doesn't matter if it's true. It doesn't matter if you understand what's being said. The only thing that matters in this entire universe is that you agree with it and it feels true to you. Like the old song says, it can't be wrong when it feels so right. This kind of thinking isn't new. It's very old and it is this quest for knowledge without an attitude of humility that has led itself to the present divisions that we see not only in this nation but also in the church. Something I have noted that has discouraged and even grieved me is the obvious lack of spiritual discernment amongst many who routinely post on social media. I expect non-Christians to write the things they do because after all, as Paul said in Romans chapter 1, professing to be wise, they became fools.  He went on to say that they were haters of God, violent, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, unforgiving, unmerciful. I expect the world to gravitate towards those who are most like them. Our closest friends are the ones we agree with the most and because of this, we're prone to champion people's views that are most similar to our own. What is concerning to me is that professing Christians are gravitating towards those who have no knowledge of God or respect for believers. Perhaps you haven't read your Bible lately and forget that Paul in Ephesians chapter 2 spoke of Gentile non-believers as strangers from the covenants of God, having no hope and without God in the world. He earlier had told them that at one time they walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit who now works in the sons of disobedience. How is it that Christians are not only agreeing with the spirit of this age, but are also evangelizing others to do the same? How is it that Christians are not only defending the viewpoints of anti-Christ pundits and politicians, but are also making excuses for the hypocrisy and in doing so, sowing seeds of discord? I learned a long time ago that what someone does is the best way to know what they believe. This agrees with Proverbs chapter 20, verse 11, which reads, even a child is known by his deeds, whether what he does is pure and right. After 49 years of walking with the Lord, 47 years of teaching his word and 41 years since my ordination, I have come to believe that the problem many Christians have today is that they are not reading their Bibles, and if they do, they're not understanding it. If they go to church at all, they're attending churches that are pastored by those who do not teach the Word of God plain and simple. If they're being taught and they're reading the scriptures themselves, the chances are that they will spiritually mature and gain discernment, something that is lacking today in many Christians. If they're not reading and if they're not being taught, they will walk according to the spirit of this age because it's the natural thing for them to do. To you believers, I strongly and lovingly encourage you, stay in the Word of God. Do your best to remain in fellowship with like-minded believers. If you're able to attend church services, make every effort to do so. If you can't, make an effort to join with other believers online so that you can remain being taught. Finally, determine to do what the scripture teaches because this is how your life changes and because this will inform you concerning what you should be looking for when you choose whom you will allow to influence you. This is David Rosales, pastor of Calvary Chapel of the Chino Valley, California.


The first few episodes of the chosen season four are going to be premiering this week and that's going to stir up a number of folks that love the chosen so dearly and folks that hate it with all their guts and think it is wrong. I've felt conflicted about the chosen for quite some time and in this video I'm going to share with you my pros and cons list about what I appreciate about the chosen and what I think is a little bit damaging and my problem and also at the very end I'm going to share with you the controversy list of some of the controversies that the chosen has been through how they've navigated them and my perspective on them. I don't want this video to feel like an attack from me because it's purely me sharing my perspective and why I'm conflicted about this whole thing and maybe you'll get something from this too.  For some background I'm not coming into this discussion cold I've actually seen the first second and third seasons of the chosen as well as following Dallas Jenkins the director and creator of the chosen. I followed him for a number of years so I'm pretty up on all the conversation around the chosen and the controversies that have surrounded it so just know that I'm not commenting on this having never seen it. I've seen all of it. Okay let's get into the pros and cons list. The first pro is that the stories feel real the stories come alive even from the very beginning all of a sudden you're brought into this place of music and feeling and texture and people that it just feels real and often for me at least when you're reading the bible you're not as equipped in picturing the things that you're reading and that's one of the things that the chosen does really really well. It's not the corny Jesus films that you've seen in the past I know some people still think it's a little bit corny but they do a tremendous job comparatively to the stuff that we were given previously where it didn't really feel real it felt like a bunch of British guys in you know togas and and old clothes that you wear in the Middle East and Jesus is giving the sermon on the mountain a British accent so that that provides a clear disconnect to what actually happened the chosen doesn't do that.  Now I know if you'd ask Dallas Jenkins the creator of the chosen and and one of the the script writers he would say hey look the chosen is not the Bible okay we're not trying to replace the Bible we're not trying to you know get people to watch this and believe that it's the Bible the tricky thing is is that when you are putting words in Jesus' mouth people are listening to those words right even if they know okay yeah this isn't exactly what he said or this isn't the Bible but they're still understanding that okay this is Jesus and this is what he's saying to me that's why I just feel uncomfortable about it now people will defend and say okay well you know Jesus the words that are added aren't really that important it has the meat of scripture then all this other additional stuff that that doesn't really you know it's not life or death and so if Jesus said it or he didn't say it's not that big a deal but Jesus does actually within the chosen get into heavy theological issues one example of that is in season three when little James comes to him and he has a limp and he asked Jesus Jesus why do you not heal me now this encounter never happened in the Bible and yet some will speculate okay maybe maybe something like this happened and Jesus had this conversation perhaps okay but they say okay what did what did Jesus say to this and he gives a very pastoral answer to this he says little James I trust you you're able to show the world a different story a story of somebody suffering and yet glorifying God and worshiping him and honoring him even though they don't receive exactly what they want and I think in general that's a pretty good answer that being said is that you are using Jesus here to be kind of a minister of a very pastoral answer to this question okay I understand that but that's giving yourself a lot of power okay because there was a possibility in there that your script writers um you might have got a little bit wrong or you said something out of turn you're using Jesus as your your your hobby horse basically to to teach these theological lessons that maybe you would say okay well hey this is in the Bible but Jesus didn't address this specifically in this context but we're kind of using him as a vessel to get across what we think is biblical it's a dangerous place to be because you're just you're putting words in Jesus mouth you're using analogies you're using phrases you're using words that Jesus didn't use and maybe you're intermingling stuff that he did say but like I know they believe that they're that that it's worth it it's dangerous it's dangerous that's part of the reason I'm conflicted it's dangerous what they're doing one of the things that struck me so deeply about the chosen was that Jesus feels real Jesus feels real that was always something that was so hard for me to imagine and picture in my Christian walk is recognizing Jesus loves me that he is real and he's tender and he is a good father and like all these things that you want to really just see with your eyes and yet you're not given that privilege and so what the chosen does is it basically gives you somebody you know the actor that plays Jesus to see his tenderness to see his compassion to see him interacting with those around him so gently and truthfully and it touches your soul it really does I think back to season one where he is you know confronting Mary Magdalene that was like a super super powerful moment to me now with that being said is I've heard numerous people and I've kind of struggled with this too in a sense when especially when I'm watching the chosen or binging the chosen is you begin to think of Jesus you begin to picture Jesus as Jonathan Rumi the guy who plays Jesus it's just inevitable I know people that that when they pray they think about they picture Jonathan Rumi they they picture him and you know Jonathan has admitted this himself that you know people come up to him and they'll they'll treat him like Jesus and they'll say Jesus can I have a hug and all this can think this is really scary this is really dangerous that a man all of a sudden kind of holds this power holds this identity this public persona to so many people as Jesus right and and now he not only holds this power in the show but he holds this power outside the show and when you look at his faith background okay Jonathan Rumi is Roman Catholic and I don't have some Catholic folks that watch this channel but just to be frank to be honest Catholic doctrine is not consistent with the Bible okay I do believe that there are Catholic folks that are Christians because the grace of God covers a lot especially a lot of bad theology but but if he is teaching and he's a spokesperson for Roman Catholic theology and he's promoting it and people are looking into okay what is what is Jesus belief and they are listening to him and hanging on his every word that's giving a lot of power to one particular man there's a real truth to the fact that God did not reveal to us what Jesus looked like okay there's something significant there when Jesus talked about blessed are those who don't see and yet still believe that don't you know stick their finger in his hand that don't put his their finger in his side and yet still believe he said that to the apostle Thomas there's something to that and I know they're trying to bridge in a sense that gap to make it easier for people to picture him to to understand him and see his compassion and see his love but is it worth it in comparison to all the folks that are now looking to Jonathan Rumi as being Jesus that that's a tricky that's a tricky thing hear me in the midst of this that all of this is not to blame necessarily on the creators of the chosen or those involved in the chosen a lot of the blame goes to people that are in taking this content and watching these things and taking it too far all of a sudden okay you know you see this thing you know it's fake you know it's you just it's not real this isn't exactly what happened and yet you're taking it as gospel and yet you're taking it in a way that it's not meant to be taken and you're seeing these characters and they are actors and they're honest about that but that's not really Jesus that's not really Peter and yet you were you're seeing them that way and you're behaving that way and you're thinking that way a lot of that is on the viewer as well so hey you know there's there's equal blame to be put here on some of the the negative things about the chosen a pro is that many people are learning the story of Jesus that's awesome that's so exciting and yet a con is that they're now recalling the chosen and moments in the chosen and things Jesus said in the chosen that aren't necessarily even in the Bible as opposed to knowing what the Bible says and recalling stories from the actual Bible I know we all start somewhere for me it was starting in Christian podcasts listening to people talk about Jesus and then it eventually got me to look into the Bible and what does the Bible actually say as opposed to just listening to people to people talk about the Bible so I know there is a place for maybe this is a gateway for people to understand you know these different stories and stuff like that some people take it as an opportunity to go deeper in the word and some people use it as an excuse to read their Bible because I watched the chosen today or something like that you know now for the part of the show where I go into some of the controversies that the chosen has experienced I'm not gonna nearly have enough time to hit on all of them or go in depth in any particular one I can make a video on each one of these and that's not the point of this channel that just should be contained in this video so let's dive in Angel Studio is run by Mormons now when it comes to making content making movies making tv series streaming all that sort of thing it gets very complicated in terms of what different people are in association with it what you know studios are over top who has creative control all that kind of thing and I was nervous about this for quite a long time and it still makes me a little bit nervous where you have one of the big studios that is over top of the chosen and people say hey they don't have creative control over what we're doing okay I understand that but they are Mormons so they say hey you know what they don't have creative control over what we're doing and the theological experts that we're bringing into consults on these things not one of them is a Mormon the truth is if you look at Mormon theology it's not consistent with biblical theology at all they believe that as Jesus is now we can become and that is just totally false we can't become God we can't become a god of our own planet so I don't believe Mormons or Orthodox Christians at all and so you can argue about the input that having that you know overarching studio on the chosen has on them makes me nervous for sure to be honest my hope is that that's the truth that we're not going to see Mormon theology slip through the chosen that would just be awful that would be really bad and I don't think we've seen it up until this point I know there's been some accusations of some different parts I've seen Dallas kind of address those things and I and I'm pretty much at peace with believing that so I don't think it's seeped into the chosen but but I'm still on guard and I'm still a little nervous about it one of the more recent controversies was people seeing a pride flag on like a cinematographer's little bag during a behind-the-scenes thing and to me it comes down to this it's pretty simple they allow non-christians to be on their set and they don't really necessarily like police what is on their their bags or their setups and stuff like that and so this person had a little pride flag it was not cut out in the behind the scenes I think that's the biggest problem because you have to steward that influence that you have you have a massive audience and so by not cutting that out and they I think they admitted that that was a mistake they didn't intentionally put out this pride flag this little clip with this little pride flag in there they didn't intentionally do that because they want to steward their influence they don't want people to say oh you know what Jesus and and you know the LGBTQ community are in total peace and Jesus is for all that it's like no and I don't think they would I know they wouldn't say that that's true so there needs to be a clear distinction between what actors say and and people on set do and say versus the show itself and those who created the show and those who are guiding the show one of the biggest controversies of last season I I believe it was was that Jesus said that I am the law of moses jesus if you do not renounce your words we will have no choice but to follow the law of moses I am the law of moses now uh this is not found in the bible jesus didn't say this is one of the tricky things when you insert words into jesus mouth um and now I think dallas said at some point I saw in an interview that he had mentioned that maybe charles spurgeon might have said this okay so he was trying to use some deep uh you know theologically reformed guy as backup saying hey back off me guys this guy said it too I've not found that quote okay but I'll I'll trust him that maybe charles spurgeon did say that um like I would just disagree with that right and maybe there's there's um you know if you really understand it a particular way then you can make sense of it I have not because you see the law of god is a mirror it is something that convicts us of our sin and shows us our separation from god we can't obey the law perfectly and yet jesus came to fulfill the law he satisfied the law fully that it wouldn't have power over us anymore jesus and the law they're not the same thing in that in that sense and so believing that jesus is the law of moses is like okay maybe you can understand in a particular way meaning that jesus is the law of moses because he fulfills the law that seems like a stretch to me so it's like we're debating about something that jesus said that he didn't even say which I think is kind of silly okay that was a lot thank you for sticking with me in that to end this here I just want to answer the question will I keep watching the chosen and the answer is probably I'll probably watch it I might um one of the things I want to encourage you to is to not go against your conscience so if it's against your conscience to watch the chosen if you really feel like hey this is creating a graven image this is showing god in the flesh and um you know I just can't remedy this with what the the commandment of god says I can totally understand that I felt that way sometimes and I've not watched the chosen I think there's a place of saying that okay hey you know what god can do amazing things with something that's not perfect I think that's that's a piece too but that doesn't mean that we aren't continually striving to be in accordance with god's word I hope you gods believe from this video huge shout out to my patrons on patreon I know you guys have different opinions on this and I appreciate you supporting the ministry regardless of kind of where you line up on this one be sure to subscribe because I'm putting on new content all the time and until next time god bless


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