In our previous video, we introduced the idea of the dot product, but we did it purely algebraically. In this video, I want to give a geometric interpretation of what this dot product is doing. It's an easy algebraic calculation, but why bother doing it? Well, the first thing I want to mention here is that if you take the dot product of a vector with itself, this will give back its magnitude squared. Or you could also say that the magnitude of a vector v is equal to the square root of v dot v. So the dot product can recreate the magnitude of the vector, which the magnitude would be the length of the arrow. That is a geometric interpretation. Why is that? Well, it's actually a very simple formula to go with here.  Remember the dot product, you times the horizontal by the horizontal, so you get a times a. And then you add to that the product of the vertical times the vertical, so v times b. So you end up with a squared plus b squared, like so. But remember that the horizontal vertical components of a vector satisfies the Pythagorean relationship if you throw in, of course, the magnitude there, right? This is gonna equal the magnitude squared, again, by the Pythagorean relationship. And that's just finishes the argument right there. So the dot product of a vector with itself recaptures the magnitude, at least the magnitude squared. But taking square root simplifies that. Let me give you a little bit more sophisticated one. This one's even better. Suppose we have two different vectors and we take the dot product of u with v. Then this will equal the magnitude of u times the magnitude of v times cosine of theta. And so I want to mention that the previous result we just saw is a special case of this one right here. Because if u and u are the same vector here, then you'll get the magnitude twice, so the magnitude of u squared. And then you get cosine of zero degrees, because if it's the same vector, then the angle between them is nothing, right? And theta, I should mention, is the angle between the two vectors when they're in standard position there. Cosine of zero is one, so you just get back the original thing. So this is a generalization of that. And so the dot product captures the angle between the two vectors. People often do the following. If you solve for theta, you'll end up with arc cosine of u dot v over the magnitude of u times the magnitude of v, which these magnitudes could be expressed using dot products. So the dot product captures the angle between the two vectors. Now this right here, a product of two things times cosine of theta, this kind of looks a lot like a piece of the pi, not the Pythagorean equation, excuse me, it kind of looks like a piece of the law of cosines, which of course the Pythagorean equation is a special case of the law of cosines. In fact, in linear algebra, this formula right here is often referred to as the law of cosines because basically it's the linear algebraic equivalent of the law of cosines we've studied in this trigonometry course. And let me show you how that is. So note that the three vectors u v and u minus v form a triangle. Okay, so let's say we have our vectors. I'll draw a diagram to give some sense to it. So we have u right here and we have v right here. Then the difference vector, well, let's do u, let's do u minus v. So it always points to the direction here that comes first. So u minus v would look something like this. So these vectors form a natural triangle and the angle between v and u is an angle associated to this triangle right here. So if we give these vectors components, right, so let's say u is equal to a comma b and let's say v is equal to just the next letters in the alphabet there, c and d, right. So then we could set up the law of cosines with regard to this triangle right here.  So you'll notice this is what we're looking for right here, okay? So let's solve for this thing here. We're going to move this to the other side of the equation. We're going to subtract the u minus v squared. We've done this many times.   And we're going to divide both sides by 2. So this gives us the magnitude of u times the magnitude of v times cosine of theta. And this is going to equal 1 half.  So we get all these formulas right here. So now what we're going to do is apply the component forms we have right here, all right? So u squared, the magnitude of u squared, that's going to equal, we're going to end up with this a squared plus b squared. Remember these things, the magnitude squared, this is just equal to u dot u, which is a squared plus b squared. This one over here will just equal v dot v, which that would equal a c squared plus d squared like so. The next one takes a little bit more effort to do, but it is just going to equal, it should just equal u v dot u v for which we should be able to foil these things out, right? This is going to equal, what's the horizontal component of u minus v? The horizontal component of u minus v would be a minus c.  You're going to get b minus d squared. And so there's some foiling that could be going on there. We'll do that in just a second. So we're going to get minus a minus c squared plus b minus d squared like so. Just chasing the formulas around, pushing them through a little bit. And so what do we get here?  I took the liberty of distributing the negative sign in there as well. Then for the next one, we'll end up with a minus b squared plus 2 b d, and then we're going to get a minus d squared like so. And so you'll notice there's some cancellation going on here. The a squared are gone. The b squareds are gone. Same thing with the c. Same thing with the d squared. And so everything that's left behind is equal to one half. We have what survived this massacre. We have a 2 a c. We have a 2 b d for which you get 2 a c plus 2 b d, which everything is divisible by 2. So you can cancel out. You end up with a c plus b d like so, which of course, this is the dot product of a b with c d. Wait, that's just the dot product of u and v like so. And so it's a lot of work going on there. But the important thing about recognizing that these things are the same thing is that this dot product, which is pretty easy to compute, is the same thing as u v cosine of theta. And we never have to do all of this work again in the middle because we now know they're the same thing. And so this is why this is called the law of cosines and linear algebras because the equation is essentially just the law of cosines plus a little bit of simplification. So let me then show you how you can use this. Let's compute the angle theta between two vectors u and v. So I have the vector u given a 6i minus j, and I have the vector v, which equals i plus 4j. So like I saw, like we saw before, theta is going to equal arc cosine of what was that again?  So we have to find these magnitudes. So how do you do the dot product again? You multiply together the horizontal components, you get 6 times 1, which is 6, and then you get multiplied together the vertical components. Negative 1 times 4 is a negative 4, like so. We have to compute the magnitudes of these things, but the magnitude is just going to be the sum of the squares of the components. So you get 36 plus 1 for u, and then you're going to get the square root of 1 plus 16 for v. Try to simplify these things. You're going to get arc cosine of. In the top, you're going to get 6 minus 4, which is 2. In the denominator, you're going to get the square root of 37, and you're also going to get the square root of 17. Neither of those are perfect squares. So this gives you the exact form. Theta equals arc cosine of 2 over root 37 and root 17. Now put this into calculator, and if it's a degree mode, you would get 85.43 degrees if we round to the nearest 100th of a degree. And so that gives you the angle between the two vectors. Very simple formula, and we just have to do arc cosine at the end. Let's look at another example here. Let's take u to be 2, 3, and let's take v to be negative 3, 2. Let's compute the angle between them. Well, again, theta is going to equal arc cosine of u dot v over the length of u times the length of v, like so. So computing the dot product, you're going to get 2 times negative 3, which is negative 6, plus 3 times 2, which is 6 right there. And then I'm just going to pause there for a second because I can compute the lengths of u and v here, but I'm noticing the numerator there is going to be 0. And if your numerator is 0, then your denominator don't really matter too much anymore. That whole fraction is going to be 0. So you get arc cosine of 0, which if arc cosine is equal to 0, basically we're trying to say cosine theta is equal to 0. What does that mean? When is cosine equal to 0? That happens when theta is equal to 90 degrees, like so. So this would actually suggest that the vectors are perpendicular to each other. And this example kind of motivates our next theorem slash definition. Again, this is a very important geometric interpretation of the dot product, probably the most important one. If we have 2 vectors u and v, then their dot product equals 0 if and only if the vectors are perpendicular to each other. Because if the dot product equals 0, that would suggest that cosine of theta equals 0, like we saw, and that would imply that theta equals 90 degrees. So the dot product equals 0 exactly when the 2 vectors are perpendicular to each other. That is the angle between them is 90 degrees. As such, when 2 vectors, when their dot product is 0, we say they're perpendicular. Or in linear algebra, the term we typically use is orthogonal. You can take those as synonyms in this context. Perpendicular really is a geometric term. Orthogonal is an algebraic term. But again, because of this theorem, perpendicular and orthogonal mean the same thing. Orthogonal, the dot product is 0. Perpendicular means the angle between them is 90 degrees. Orthogonal vectors are perpendicular vectors. So how do we check to see if 2 vectors are orthogonal with each other? Let's take u and v, for example. Just compute their dot product, right? u dot v. This is going to equal 8 times 3, which is 24. And then you're going to subtract from it. 6 times 4, which is 24. That's equal to 0. So this tells us that u is perpendicular v. These 2 vectors are perpendicular to each other. That's super nice. What about u and w, right? So u is still 8 and 6. And then w is 4 and 3. If you take u dot w, you end up with 8 times 4, which is 32. And then you get 6 times 3, which is 18. Which admittedly, it's like that. There's no way that's going to be 0. But sure enough, it adds up to be 50. It's not 0, which means that u is not perpendicular to w. Like so. What about v and w? Could we do something like that? Well, again, it's the same thing. To check whether 2 vectors are perpendicular to each other, just do their dot products, right? 4 and 3 gives you 12. Minus 4 and 3, which is 12, again, just gives you 0. So, okay, v is, in fact, perpendicular to w, right? Because the dot product was equal to 0. So we can check to see if you have a right angle just using dot products. I want you to compare that to what we did earlier in the semester when we had a right triangle. We didn't know if it was a right triangle yet, so we tried to prove it using various techniques. In the end, it really just boils down to, if you wanted to know if you had a right triangle, you just had to compute dot products with vectors. And so the dot product is very efficient, very simple calculation that has huge geometric consequences. In particular, the dot product gives you the angle between two vectors, and thus you can very easily detect when vectors are perpendicular or not.


You just need to get your first and last name say and spell it Heather mouse h e a t h e r M-o-s-s in your position here. I'm the job counselor at Grinken high school And I also work out of Miss Roy Ulcerine, which is a special education class And kind of work kind of like it's an aid while I'm in here, so So tell me about the first time you met Dakota. Oh The first time I met Dakota Dakota loves to tease and aggravate and He just come in and he was a very happy-go-lucky person He loved the kids in this class and whenever he would come in I Remember he just cut up with them. I mean would literally get them in the floor and get them rolling around and laughing Kind of disrupt classes at times, but it made the kids I mean they loved him He was a great leader and actually a really great role model for him, which The stories I'd heard about him I was very surprised at that because I thought oh my goodness miss right look what have you done to let him in here But he turned up be a great role model Not just for the autistic child, but for all the children in this classroom I think he'd give him a sense of confidence that they didn't have before because They weren't with the other children the regular students as much so when he was in here with them I think it gives them that confidence that you know they could do and be whatever they wanted to be Dakota became a Marine when he graduated from school here Did you talk to him about it at all before he made that decision? Oh? Yeah, I thought he was crazy. I'm like what are you doing? You know because I'm That is a major responsibility. I mean you were there to Fight and protect our country not that I doubted him in any bit because I know that Whenever he would put his mind to something he was going to do the best it could be and you know He would be the best at it, but I don't guess part of me really didn't want him to go because I was scared for him and that was four or five years or five years ago He's accomplished so much since then you know, what do you think of Dakota now? I am just a man. He's been very proud How would you describe Dakota and his personality? No, sorry. Do you need a second? Do you tissue I have tissues okay? I was just thinking the reason this upsets me Right after all this that happened My mother was very sick in the hospital You're gonna come by the school and I wasn't at work because I was at the hospital and He called me and told me that I could do this if he could get through what he's been through that I could do this but It was just a few months later. I did a blues in my mother. He didn't smear your mascara. You still look great And I had forgotten about that conversation to you ask me that and I remember Him coming by and telling them why I was that and so he called And how did that make you feel? I was so proud of him, and you know He's done so much with his life and We tried to encourage him the best we could but you know, I Think they have to have that in their heart that you know to Truly become the person that he has become He's just grown so much, and I think he's had to grow up a lot faster than most of us have I know I'm just What kind of example and this will be the last question Unless I think of another one But what kind of example do you think he set for other students here at the school or legacy? I think you said a great example. I mean he's shown that even the Student that may not be the top student that excels the student that may not be the perfect student here still can You know lead a life that it's gonna make their family and their schools and their country proud of him and you know just strong leadership skills and willingness to just Go the extra mile. I think he said a great example You know a lot of the students that don't even know him to just know that he was here You know they are very proud You know an honor to just be at the same school that he went to to know that you know how you back you can do it You know maybe I came to anything else you want to say about Dakota. I'm just very proud of him anybody else any other questions was sort of a was sort of a Reaction because they're among the teaching staff and you answered with her But sort of reaction was sort of buzz or chatter, you know, is there in the school about amongst the teachers I'll have to say amongst the faculty and staff at our school They are all just overwhelmed that you know this student that was so rambunctious and You know who loved to cut up not necessarily the trouble he got into was bad But Dakota liked attention, you know, and he liked to do what you know made others live They are just amazed and I think so surprised, you know, this is Dakota. This is our Dakota, you know, and he's This is where he's at now and you know, they're all so proud of him.


Julia and welcome back to my channel and for today's video I'm going to be filming eating my Goodreads reviews part two. Part one last month or earlier this month I don't remember but you guys seem to like it and I thought it was fun to film and some of you guys requested another one so here I am bringing that to you guys so if you don't know what I did last time is basically I just I've read a lot of books and I've written a lot of reviews on Goodreads that are like not essay or like English like English class worthy but like just to get my general thoughts down so I wanted to read over some of these and just kind of laugh about them and then see what I thought about certain books and if I still feel the same way and things like that. I don't know like I was gonna pre-plan which ones I choose but I think it's more fun if I just scroll and just kind of find it. This is my Goodreads I can barely see what these are but we'll do this one. Oh it's Coraline. I love Coraline. Oh I kind of read by the looks of it. Oh okay okay not bad. So I gave this a 3.5 out of 5 stars. I've read this in 2015. It has a 4.03 average so let's get into the review. So basically I put a quotes which is I don't want whenever I want. Nobody does not really. What kind of fun would it be if I just got everything I ever wanted just like that and didn't mean anything? What then? Then in bold I put captivating story amazing writing surprisingly kind of creepy. Surprisingly because it is middle grade but a lot of people say it's really creepy and I'm like it's middle grade but it was actually like had a creepy tone to it so that was good. So I said Coraline's story was about her and her journey. She goes through the door in the drawing room of their house and gets transported to another place that this other place looks exactly like her home but her parents have button eyes and things are strange. It's about her and her other parents and her trying to get back to her actual parents. Coraline is actually a very inspiring girl and very brave considering how young she is. I really admired her character for that. So that's the thing. I've read books like especially middle grade it's shown more but like where there's kids that are portrayed as like really strong just kids and it's really nice to see that you know because some kids are annoying and kind of there but it's nice to see that there's some really brave kids out there. I don't mean that to any offense but like I like seeing these powerful kids in books because it's good when middle grade readers read these and they see like they get inspired by someone around their age group. That's what's really nice and yeah I would actually not even give Coraline a 3.5 out of 5. I would boost it more up to a 4 just because I after I thought about it more I've liked it more and I've seen the film and like I love the book so like it's probably around a 4 rather than a 3.5 but along with that I said I don't think I would get her butt and eye parents out of my head. I mean I kind of did and then I saw the movie and I was like the other mother is kind of creepy. I'm giving it is a 3.5 honestly because I don't know what to rate this okay so like I didn't know what to do. I mean it was enjoyable and interesting but not my favorite thing. I definitely like this better unfortunately than unfortunately the milk but it's not a 4.5 or a 5 for me but fits into the 3.4 star range. That's right good Julia and then I did another quote which is because she said when you're scared but you still do it anyway that's brave and then it says spoilers events in order so then you have to click the remove spoilers which I'm I mean show spoilers so I'm not gonna do that but I have all the spoilers listed I guess. Oh my god I have a lot like I can't show you but it's all this yikes okay so that was my review for Coraline. This is my 2016 shelf. This book is how hard it can love be. This is the second book in the spinster club trilogy which I really like this I remember really liking it. So yeah it was published in on February 1st of 2016 and it has a 4.21 Goodreads average. In my review I ended up giving it a 3.75 out of 5 stars which I still agree with probably more to a 4 than a 3.75 but it was still really solid. But this was lovely. It took me a bit to get into this and get used to Amber as a narrative compared to Evie because Evie was the main character of the first book and I guess I had some trouble getting used to this new character considering I liked Evie so much.  Oh that I probably meant that part was really real and raw to me. Amber was interesting and I liked following her as a character. I love Hollywood Friday her characters are great her books discuss feminism feel very real. Not to mention I read this one the day and stayed up late to finish it because I couldn't put it down. I liked the romance I thought it was really cute. Amber's mother bothered me a lot and I felt the end could have been wrapped up. I felt the end wrapped up in a pretty little bow which I disliked a bit because like yeah I remember it was like a little like it was all wrapped up like super gray and I'm like okay like okay like I don't know sometimes I don't like when endings have these perfect endings to them that I'm like how did that happen? And the last thing I said is I do prefer the first book in the series and I did prefer Evie's story over Amber's but I still quite enjoyed this book it was funny and interesting and it picked fun at stereotypes and gender roles. So yeah I did like that one. I still kind of agree with that. Maybe we're on a 3.75 or a 4. I still agree with that. Oh my god. Okay so I got the Telltale Hard by Agar Allen Poe. This has an oh my god. This is an average of 4.22 and it was it doesn't say when it was published but I know it's not recent but yes. So basically my rating I kind of glanced at it and I just saw a bunch of caps. Okay so I read this on October 2nd of 2016. I said this is so clever and cunning. It's so dark creepy but so ironic. The male character tells us he's not mad and guides us through the events of a murder he committed. So good and perfect for this type of year and I gave it four stars. Why didn't I give it five? I love that book so much. Like sometimes I'm very picky so now I'm like it would be a five. Like it's worthy of a five I've read it so many times but for some reason I gave it a four. I don't know. Let me know down below so maybe of some of your good reviews and how they were or maybe if you've had any changing opinions on books let me know down below or maybe if you are a really harsh reader like I am. Well it's not like I can't even say I was a harsh reader because like I still kind of am but I know when a book deserves five stars. When before I was like nothing deserves five stars. So now I'm more willing to give five star ratings but before I was really really picky and nitpicked and stuff but since that since I read the Telltale Heart I've read it several times now and I love it so much. So yes so thank you guys so much for watching. I hope you guys are enjoying the vlog in this video. Let me know your thoughts in the comments down below and I'll see you guys tomorrow with a new video. Bye!


Okay, I will talk about how according bootcamp helped me in my tech career. So I will start with this agenda. I will talk about myself, then I will talk about the tech ladies bootcamp that I attended, how I got involved with the bootcamp, about the bootcamp project. This was a three month project that we worked on, then my learnings and my takeaways from the bootcamp and then maybe some question answers if your people are interested in. Okay, so I am a software engineer with around seven years of industry experience in India. So technically, I'm not a junior dev anymore, but I call myself a junior dev because I took a break in my career for three years after I moved to Singapore in 2014. And after that, I did not want to continue in the same technology that I was working in. So I was looking out for new technologies to work on and because there was so many of them, it was very confusing and difficult for me to decide which one to choose. But this bootcamp gave me an opportunity to learn new technologies and that is why I'm calling myself a junior dev right now. Okay, so my interests are, as you know, programming. I like to solve problems, be it jigsaw puzzles, be it puzzles with kids, be it real life problems, whatever. Then I like spending time with kids. I have two kids, by the way, my eight year old and a three year old. I like traveling. So I'm always after my husband to take me out somewhere. Then I like socializing and networking. I like meeting people, talking to them on various topics. Then as you know now, from whatever I've shared with you until now is like I worked. I took a gap, spent time with my family, and now I'm back to work. So that's all about me. Now, tech ladies. It is a community for women in Asia to connect, learn and advance as programmers. And the bootcamp is one of the many things that tech ladies do. Okay, the bootcamp was a 12 week intensive program that ran from August to October 2017. I was able to participate in that because I wasn't working at that time. Looking for a job, waiting for my work pass, whatever. So, but it was a blessing in disguise. Okay, how I got involved in tech ladies and this bootcamp. So as I told you, I like socializing, networking. I was browsing through my Facebook account and I came across this ad about the bootcamp. I was just about to scroll up. Something had me back. I saw it, thought about attending the info session. But then being a family person, a lot of things keep on coming and I was about to miss, not attend that, but finally somehow made it. So I was curious to know what this tech ladies is. What is the concept of a bootcamp? So I attended the session in which I was told about what they do, what kind of projects they work on, how it works on. So I was actually very impressed to know that there will be people who would actually mentor us and coach us, taking out time from their work schedule. Then after the bootcamp, info session, we had three pre bootcamp workshops in which we were introduced to the technology that we would be using for the project in the bootcamp. So I attended those sessions and got the understanding of the technology. And then we were given a programming assignment. That was a task. Okay, so within a few days or three weeks of self-learning, we were supposed to submit a task, which was to be evaluated. And I had no hopes, I would clear that. But I was surprised when I got the confirmation email and I got to know I was one of the, I was selected out of 86 people who had applied for the bootcamp. And then that's how the bootcamp journey began. So the bootcamp was from August to 2017, that's a 12 week program. And I would like to thank Michael, my coach. So he was the one mentor who would I was, I will always look forward to for any problems I have, okay. What this bootcamp was or what the project that I worked on was about. So we were supposed to develop a website for Mountbaton Vocational School. The reason why I was interested in this project was because it was a real life project, it would be used in real life. And it would actually benefit them. So this is a vocational institute in Singapore whose record keeping was all manual. They have been running this institute for the past 30, 35 years. And still everything was manual, record keeping. So that's a workflow we learned in the bootcamp. That the first phase is the requirement gathering. Then how do we design? How do we create the database? Create the tables, and just capture where we would store all the information. And how we will do the development? As you can see, we start from story selection. Then we go on to the test driven development, push to get up, continuous integration happens, all that was new to me. This is the requirement gathering phase, me with my team. We visited the school to understand how they are currently working. What they want from us. So how do we store all that information? So once we had all the requirements, we had to divide them into small chunks, which one to work on first, was all done using the Pivotal Tracker tool. Test driven development was a new concept to me. Because from my past experience in IT, I thought that can never happen. Then we also learned about the continuous integration and code climate. And I realized that a lot of things had changed over those three years when I was in a break. So that was another reason why everything was looking new to me. What my learnings are, and all these learnings that I have are still helping me in my current job. So the first thing I learned was about agile practices. So while on the break and I wanted to get back to work, every profile I would come across, job description would say, agile, agile, agile, it would bang on my face, agile. And I was like, how come I am so old school? I don't know about agile. But then this boot camp, yes. It helped me to understand what agile practices are, how you divide your work into smaller chunks and you choose which one to work on first. How you get a continuous feedback on whatever you are developing. And daily stand-ups. In our case, weekly stand-ups. But yes, it was a good way to understand about agile. And I am still using it in my current job. So this has helped me to transition well into the new world for me. Then I also learned about web technologies because the project was based on Ruby on Rails. Although I am not using web technologies in my current program, current job, but knowing about them is always a plus. It helps you understand the functionality of things around you in a more detailed manner. Then as I mentioned, I learned about the continuous integration and continuous development and source versioning system. Git, as we all know, I am still using it. And for continuous integration, I am using a different tool, Jenkins at my workplace. But again, very informative, very easy to learn, I would say. It is the basics that I am learning right now. Test-driven development. I wouldn't say I am using it directly in my work. But again, having an understanding of test-driven development helps me at a daily basis because I am also doing test automation. So it gives me a clarity of how do I need to write the test or automate the test keeping all the requirements in thinking about all the requirements. And another thing I learned in the boot camp is the programming techniques. So when we started with the boot camp, we used to sit in a group, discuss about things, learn about what is more programming. And later on, in the fifth to eighth week of the boot camp, we did pair programming where I would eat Michael's head all the time to help me solve the problems that I am facing. But it was a very good experience because it gave me more clarity on what my weak points are, how to approach to a problem, and how to find a solution. It also taught me that it's always good to Google things and you'll find answers. One more thing I learned is retrospective. It's more about taking regular feedbacks to understand how you're performing or how you're doing in the project. What are the positives, what are the negatives, what you feel good about, what you feel bad about, and how to change in the next iteration or the cycle? So I think my coaches were good enough to follow all the best practices in coding, which I'm not sure if we are following in actual work life or not. So that's all about me, my learnings, my takeaways from the boot camp. And I would encourage everyone to participate in such things, apart from your job. Keep on learning something new because learning always helps. So that's all about my doc. Thank you.


complete the process of recovery if you do not make your recovery a priority in your life, so you can maintain the commitment to the process. So today on episode 26 of Recovery Monday, we're going to talk about prioritizing your recovery and what it means. So let's get cooking. Chat overlay is going up on the screen, so let me know where you're from, how you're doing, let me know everything's working, caught you what's up, how everything's okay in your part of the world in stressful times. Good to see you. Just make sure that we can hear me. I'm guessing that we can hear me because my headphones were working before I came on. Today we are going to chapter five, which is there's really six chapters in the anxious truth, but five is really the last chapter because chapter six is just a wrap up. So just a reminder, every Monday we do a lesson out of this book, The Anxious Truth. That's why we call it Recovery Monday. We're just going lesson by lesson and we are now in the home stretch. We've been doing it for 26 weeks already. Today we're talking about, we're going to chapter five, which is about executing your recovery plan and we're going to talk about the need to prioritize and commit today. So if you do not have a copy of this book and you want to go back and watch all the Recovery Monday episodes on YouTube or whatever and read along, you can get it on my website at TheAnxiousTruth.com. And if you are reading it, you dig it, maybe write me a review on Amazon because it certainly helps. So today we're going to talk about that. We're going to talk about the need to prioritize your recovery and what that really means and the need to commit to it. So let's see, how's everybody going? Pony Girl caught a live stream. Don't know if Pony Girl is, but okay. What up, Jason? GBG is here, Carol is here. Hey, Carol, Sam is here. All the usual suspects. I am heard, says Bethany. Thanks, B. All right, let's get into it here. So it's going to be pretty short because I really only have, I have like two really important things to say today. And that's what this chapter of the book is really all about. And that is that prioritizing your recovery is really, it is important. So one, for a couple of reasons, there's two main reasons that I want to cover. One of them is that we are doing these things that we don't really want to do, right? So we're doing scary things. We're challenging ourselves. We're intentionally making ourselves uncomfortable so that we can build this new relationship with anxiety and put it back into a normal, healthy place in our lives. Okay. So when you have to do really like hard things, it's easy to kind of skip out on doing hard things, especially when we get busy. And I'm going to say air quotes, busy. And I was guilty of this too. Like I'm really busy. I just have so much to do, like when am I going to find time to do my ERP homework or do my exposures or whatever it is. So it's important to understand that if you don't prioritize your recovery as something that's important, no, no, no, I make time to do this. This is a thing that I do because it's important in my life. Then it becomes really easy to take easier things like your job or maybe schoolwork or taking care of your kids. I'm not saying those things are easy. They're not, but easier than doing exposure and being intentionally uncomfortable and afraid. It's really easy to kind of push the exposure and the recovery work down the ladder, right? Or if you're dealing with that all day anxiety, the gap, the health anxiety, whatever it is, becomes a whole lot easier to tune into YouTube all day, listen to podcasts all day, have the TV on all day. It's easier to do easy things. So if we do not commit to this process and prioritize recovery, it can be really easy to just sort of accidentally, I'll do that later and then you don't do it. Then it becomes, I'll do it tomorrow and then it's, I miss tomorrow. I'm really busy. I have so much going on. Okay. So that's the first reason why it's really important to sort of prioritize your recovery because you're worth it. And number two, here is the other part. I'll go through comments in a bit. Here's the second most important thing. This is the one that I really want to stress today. Prioritizing your recovery and committing to this process, which means making time to do the work. And in future episodes, the next couple of weeks, we're going to talk about that, setting your schedule, like getting your family and friends on board with the fact that you have to do all this work. One of the things that I hear people say to me all the time is, well, I can't be selfish.  Now for many people, this is a completely foreign place to be. It will feel, for a lot of you, wrong or irresponsible or selfish, or that's what self-centered people do, are narcissists put themselves on the top of the list. But it's really, really important for you to start to tear down that belief and understand that if you think you want to be a selfless person and you want to be there, and these are, you know, socialized roles and things that we have stuck in our heads, if I am a mom, my kids always come first. I'm a terrible parent, a good, a bad mom, bad dad, if I put myself above my kids. So you will lament the fact that you are not an effective parent because of your anxiety, but then we'll also say that you can't prioritize your recovery because that would also make you an ineffective parent. See the unfairness of that trap? So if you want to be a selfless person, because you think that's better, then for whatever, and we could argue that some other time, but if you want to be a selfless person, it's really hard to be selfless if you are stuck in where you are with your anxiety problem. So if you are struggling because you're not able to fully engage with your family, you're missing events, you're missing out on your kids, you're not fully present with them, I've heard all of these things, right? These are common things we heard all the time. And to get better, you have to put yourself temporarily on the top of the list and commit to doing the work and make it a priority. People will say, well, I can't do that either because I'm a mom, I'm a dad, I have a business, I have this, I'm a husband, I'm a partner, like I can't prioritize myself. Well, it's going to be really hard. You're not giving yourself a really chance at succeeding.  Excuse me. So in the end, wouldn't it be sort of a selfless act to put yourself in a position where you can get better and be that better version of yourself that you long to be? So this is really tough. And I see this is probably the number one message that I cannot stress enough today, that the idea that if I prioritize myself and make myself a priority and my mental health a priority and my recovery a priority so I can commit to this process and actually work on myself, the idea that that makes me selfish or it makes me a bad parent or a bad employee or a bad friend or a bad partner or whatever the bad spouse is not right. It's just not right. That's not true. Everybody has to take care of themselves. And it would be really hard for you to wear the mantle of I take care of everybody else if you can't even take care of yourself. So that is just in a way being really unkind to yourself and being very unrealistic and unfair to yourself. I would bet that the people in your life that care for you, where you play a role with them and a family system and social systems and work systems and clubs and organizations in your church, whatever it is, I'm guessing that they would be more than happy to see you miss a couple of church meetings or miss a couple of school pickups or whatever it is that you have to do to prioritize making yourself better. The people in your life that care about you would likely want you to take the time to get better and feel better and be happier and be more satisfied with yourself. And in turn, they're not asking for benefits, but they will also reap benefits. It's so important.  If I do that, because I put myself on the top of the list, like that's so selfish. But in the end, I was a way better father for having done that way, way, way better than to keep saying, well, I can't do that because I have to be dad. Like, well, first of all, what did I really have to do? You have to be careful about also using that I have to be mom, I have to be dad, I have to be husband, wife, partner, I have to be whatever that can also easily become what seems to be a socially and morally and ethically acceptable excuse for not doing the scary things that we don't want to do. So these are not so much mechanical issues today that we're talking about procedural issues.  This is it. I'm going to do this part of commitment is you have to put it at the top of the list.  So you have to look at yourself the way you would look at them. If your partner came to you and said, well, I really have this problem, I have to solve it, but I can't because I told you that I would take you to the movies on Friday, you'd be like, don't be silly, like take care of yourself. I want you to take care of yourself. You would tell the people you love that they should take care of themselves and you would be fine if they put themselves on the top of the list for a while. In fact, many of you may even have these conversations in your family and in your social circles. Like, dude, you never take care of yourself. You never put yourself first. How many times have you told that to somebody that you love? Well, you're going to have to tell it to yourself a little bit too, right? So it's not a really super long or technical message today. It really is a message about beliefs, and it is really going to be difficult to commit to the process, which commitment is a thing that's also in this chapter. Commitment has to do with discipline. There's a lot of stuff that goes into that, but it's hard to commit if you insist that you cannot be a priority ever. Now maybe you have been taught to not be a priority. You've been in family systems or social systems that punished you for putting yourself first. Well, in this situation, you're going to have to start to work through those at least acknowledge like, oh, this belief comes from this, but I can work through that and maybe you need some help working through those things. But these are some of the things that I hear very commonly in our community where people will insist that they cannot put themselves as a priority and their recovery progress does suffer. It's not impossible. It just gets frustrating. And sometimes there's no reason for it to be frustrating. I don't want you guys to be frustrated or disheartened or judge yourself harshly if you're not even giving yourself a running start to begin with, right? So let's check it out in the comments. Let's see what you guys have to say. Like I said, not a long lecture today. It's kind of, you know, it's really about that. So let's see what you guys have to say about that. Hey, from Bethlehem. Julie's here. What up? Oh, Bonnie Clark is Pony Girl. Hey, Bonnie. Nicole is here. Katja's here trying to focus. Oh, the Oscar news. Oh, goodness. The Oscar news overlapped all the way. I want to, I just want to talk about the Oscar thing a little bit because I did post about that. And I really struggled with posting about that. Maybe at the end we'll talk about that a little bit. So let's see here. I'll put this up. You know what? Okay, we'll take this. So this is one of those things, struggling with health anxiety as awaiting cardiac tests. How do you cope with this uncertainty? All of life is uncertain. So one of the things that I've taken to say lately very flippantly is, you know, three and a half billion years ago, life sprang forth on planet earth and every day has been uncertain since then. So there is no certainty in life. And in this situation, trying to find a way to take away the uncertainty or magically make uncertainty feel okay or comfortable or confident is not a fair ask of yourself. It is okay to be uncertain and a little worried about that when, you know, you're waiting for test results to come back. Anybody would worry about that. Anybody would be concerned about that. There's no reason to try to fight the worry or think that you can somehow engineer away. It's okay to be a little bit worried about that, to be a little preoccupied with that. Everybody would understand that. You know, if a friend saw you sort of zoning out off in the distance and knew that you were waiting for some health results to come in, that person would probably know like, yeah, you got some stuff on your mind today. That's okay. It's okay. You have to allow the uncertainty and understand that it will make you uncomfortable, but it would make anybody uncomfortable. The secret sauce is, I don't have to be afraid of being uncomfortable. So that's the stock answer all the time. Am I uncomfortable because I have a reason to be? Sure. Am I more uncomfortable because I'm uncomfortable with the fact that I'm uncomfortable? That I don't have to do. And that's what we always are working on here. So just allow it without struggling. And I hope everything turns out okay. I really do. I hope you get the results that you want. We all do. GBG has to say this, I prioritize my recovery by behaving as if I'm recovered. That is a really good point. So you are prioritizing your recovery when you do that.  Even when you are feeling anything but recovered and you decide I'm going to act like a recovered person, you are literally taking on the challenges of recovery. You're doing the work of recovery. So and I love that because in a way, you can, you can almost have it both ways.  Okay. So I am going to fulfill my role as dad by driving the kids to their, you know, whatever, to the soccer games, even though I don't want to. So you can manufacture exposures and things like that to do instead of doing your dad or employee or husband or wife or partner business, or you can actually do that work.  And that's my recovery work. So that's good. I like that because you can kind of combine it. That's good. You had to kind of have it both ways, which is really cool. Good comment. Thank you very much. Let's see here. Okay. Marine says, I'm saying your name right, by the way, I have to admit, look over the comment. There's always one. I have to look admit that I many times use the going, the going on exposure stays on a prior to have other things more important to do right now. And I felt like a burden with my anxiety, my exposures. Okay. So that is, it's really along the lines of the whole like, how do I deal with the guilt of the way I am and I'm ruining my family's life and I'm not a good mom and I'm missing everything and my husband is fed up with me. I mean, these are things we hear all the time. These are heartbreaking things, right? The best way to address that and that I feel like a burden with my exposures would be to do your exposures so that you don't have to be that burden anymore. I'm not saying you are a burden. You feel like you are and I can respect that you feel that way. I mean, it's really harsh judgment on yourself. But the best way to deal with that is to actually prioritize doing the work so that you don't have to feel like that anymore.  You have no place to turn paint.  I can't move. So that's just not fair to yourself. We hear the term self-compassion all the time and one of the most compassionate things you can do for yourself is to break out of that and put yourself at the top of that list. Then it might feel really uncomfortable to do that for now, but look at the benefits down the road. So it's just not fair to yourself to do that. You paint yourself into a corner. That's not cool. It's not cool for yourself. We don't want you to do that. So this one was really helpful. It helped me to understand what was holding me back and why I had to set back. Thank you, Katya. Chapter five is loaded with sort of the practicality of, you know, this is really the things you got to do. Like I said, we're going to talk in the future about getting your family involved and arranging your schedule to accommodate your recovery and all that stuff. So we're going to talk about all that. I kind of feel like chapter five is maybe the most important chapter, but I hesitate to say that. They're all like that. So let's see here. Okay. So there you go. Carol. And by the way, Carol, you are working hard and a big fist bump for me. You're doing great work. I know how hard you're working on your stuff, but yeah, it would be a great help to your husband. I like the way you said that it would be a help to my husband if I could be less dependent upon him. That is an objective statement of fact. We could probably all agree like, yeah, it would probably would be helpful to your husband. And you did not call yourself a burden here. You're not judging yourself. You're not talking badly of yourself.  But it doesn't mean I'm a bad person. So be careful about that. Like Carol, like the way you said that, that was, that was great. It was just an objective statement of fact. And like, I can work on that. So good job. And yes, when you notice that, then it really says whether I can prioritize myself. So then in the end, it's a benefit to both me and my husband. Right. So good deal. Good morning, Donna, Oregon. So let's see here. I assume they mean it to block out, okay, I'm going to pop this up here. I forgot to make me a priority. Okay, I assume that may mean I need to, oh, you didn't make yourself a priority. I assume that may mean that I need to block out those who are creating toxicity so I can't recover fully correct. Sam, I don't know if you're actually asking me this question or responding to a comment. I can't tell, but I'm going to address it anyway. You know, sometimes the answer to this is yes and no. Like sometimes there are people in our lives that literally do not want us to get better for a variety of reasons. Sometimes those reasons are a little bit nefarious and hurtful intentionally. Sometimes they're a little bit hurtful or limiting not intentionally. I know people in situations where one person's recovery becomes a threat to the other, either because the person, one person needs to be in control, that's not really great. Or the other person begins to feel value less if they are not the caretaker. So some of that stuff can happen as for its toxicity that's keeping me from being recovered. I'm not really sure about that. I think that's really a personal thing and it depends on the people you're talking about. I clearly don't know your relationships and you're going to have to be the judge one by one of that. But I don't necessarily say that it's a rule of recovery that you must cut certain people out of your life. You can control what you do. And I think it's always about, well, I can control what I do. But if this person is impacting the way I can do what I do, then maybe I have to modify my relationship with that person. But I'm not a huge fan of that blanket statement about toxicity and toxic people that's a little bit overused. We all should stand up for ourselves. We all deserve respect. We all deserve to be safe in our relationships. Nobody deserves to be, you know, abused or manipulated or anything like that. But I'm a little bit on that whole toxicity thing. Sometimes it's a blanket statement that doesn't need to be there. No, no, no, no, no, let's pop those. I'm sorry. I can't see Facebook user. I don't know who you are. That's just the way Streamer does it. That tells me you're in my Facebook group. If you avoid the news or negative information, is this avoidance unproductive? That's also situational, right? So what I would say is, for instance, what's going on in the world now sucks in a big way, right? We all agree. And this is bad news every day. What's going on in the Ukraine right now is not a good thing. And just the rest of the world, there's just bad stuff happening. You do not have to immerse yourself in bad news about the world every day, all day long. That's not exposure. But you also have to be honest with you and say, well, when I watch the news, it triggers this particular response in me. It triggers this avoidance. It triggers this compulsion. It triggers this safety behavior. So I will watch the news for five minutes so that I can work on relating to this news, upsetting them, maybe in a different way for five minutes, maybe for 10 minutes. Maybe I'm just going to watch a half hour of the news and then that's it. You know better than anybody else. So I would tell you that if you feel like, well, I can't watch the news because it sends my anxiety through the roof, you got to reframe that and say, when I watch the news, I get upset, which anybody would. Then I add upset on top of that because I'm afraid of being upset. There's a difference between I'm upset because I saw some really terrible images on the news, understandable. I'm upset because I'm upset, not so much. And that's what you have to work on. But you do not have to immerse yourself all the time in bad news. That's not exposure. Time it. Make it measurable. I'm going to watch the news for five minutes and I'm going to work on moving through the feelings that I experience as a result without declaring them disastrous and without accommodating the idea that I must be upset because I am upset. Right? I did an episode in the podcast a couple of weeks ago about crying. One of those common things, like in a normal state, you would say, I cry because I am upset. Nobody would question that. The flip side is what we're always working on. I am upset because I cry. I am upset because I watched the news. Sure, we all are. I am upset because I'm upset. That's what you got to work on. Okay. Representing from Twitch. All right. We got two Twitch people. Woo, more happy. Thanks, Twitch. Okay, so let's see it. Is it acceptable to take breaks from exposure if needed when you feel overwhelmed? You know, this is, yes, of course, everybody's allowed to take breaks. I'll take it off the screen because it's a huge comment. Everybody's allowed to take breaks. We're all allowed to rest. Like human beings get tired. We get worn down. This work can wear you down mentally, emotionally, physically. And we are all allowed to rest. The only thing that I always say about rest is you have to be really honest. When I, when you say, when I would say, well, I just feel overwhelmed. I need a break. Well, what does overwhelmed me? What does overwhelmed mean? If it means I'm physically exhausted, I'm mentally exhausted. I, you know, I just need to rest. I need to sleep. I need some downtime. Totally okay. Take that. There's, that's not an error. It's not a problem. It doesn't break your recovery, but we always have to be super honest. And what do I mean by I'm tired? If I'm tired is just, well, I've been out for four days in a row and I really am afraid to drive today. So I'm just going to take a mental health day. You have to be just really honest with yourself. And if you can be honest with yourself and you know that the answer is like, all right, I'm avoiding here. What I used to do sometimes is I would say, okay, I'll take a smaller drive today. And I would at least do something or I'm going to go out and take a little walk around the block today. Walking around the block wasn't so much of a problem, but I would do something and then rest. So you never know. Some days you've got to crash on the sofa. It's okay. No crime there. We just always have to be honest with us. So, you know, and Bethany just says, where do people get the idea that they can't rest? I'm going to take ownership of some of that because when I wrote my first book, An Anxiety Story, in that book, I clearly said that I took no days off and I regret writing that. It's true. I did take no days off, but I think I mistakenly held that up as an ideal of some kind just because I did it that way does not mean that everybody should do it that way. In fact, I would probably say that most people shouldn't do it that way. When I say no days off, I would completely rewrite that. I can't change what I wrote, but I would rewrite that to say no days off based on being afraid. No days off on being afraid. So I just described some of those days. I would scale things back and when I was tired because I was tired. I was physically tired from that work. I would scale it back and do something small that day so that I just never spent an entire day in complete retreat. That was my no days off. I didn't, you know, I know I wrote as if I was a machine, but I would have to take responsibility for putting that out there. No days off in recovery. And I still will say that sometimes. No days off based purely on fear. We do not retreat from our fear and call it rest. But when we need to rest, we rest. That's what humans do. It's okay. Hopefully that helps. I'll own that. I regret writing those words. I'll always regret writing those words. Let's see here. Oscar news verdict.  I can't argue with that. It's solid. Okay. Let's see here. I'm going to scroll down a little bit until you make it. I have one week of being away from doing exposure every day. Okay. I'm sorry. I'm just going to scroll over a quick to see which ones we're going to talk about. I'll put this one up. I've had a week of being away from home and doing exposures every day. Good job. But strangely being back in my room brings up more anxieties if it's a habit or because I've had most of my panic attacks here. Good day. Like that ingrained condition response that like, well, this is where I panic is powerful. So like, hey, look, I did all my stuff, but back home, this is where I panicked. It's okay. Unfortunately, this is just another one of the situations where it's like, okay, if you feel anxious when you get back home, you're going to have to work on moving through the anxiety even at home. It's okay. It doesn't mean that something is wrong or you're not recovering or anything like that. It's okay. It's not fun, but don't try to analyze that or assign any special meaning to the fact that like, oh, I don't know, I was out and now I'm anxious at home. Okay. Well, no matter where I, we are trying to learn that we are okay across all contexts, all situations, all places, all groups of people were always okay. So now you'll have to learn that you're okay even at home. Something's making noise, but I can't tell what. So hopefully that helps. And everybody, by the way, you guys are huge. Like the admins in my slack, it never fails. If I'm going to do a live video, that is when you guys are going to start to protract the discussion in slack. And then it's like, I'm getting hammered with slack notifications right now. But I love you guys anyway. So it's okay. Let's see. I always felt like medical care and some of the scary sensations give me more strength to endure the dirty. I'm not going to get in the middle of this clearly as a conversation here between other people. Let's see. How do I stop having? Okay, I'll throw this on here. This really isn't the topic, but okay, JJ, what up? How do I stop having recurring thought? You don't. You don't. You do not turn off your notifications, man. I forget me. I forget. I should. But it's invariable.  Okay, so how do I stop having recurring recurring thought? You don't stop having. It's so important to understand that your goal is to never, never, never try to stop your thoughts because you can't. We do not get to choose what we think ever. Yeah, we can choose certain thoughts that we're going to have. I can choose to think about a thing, but you don't get to choose what pops in your head randomly. So you don't do that. Should I ignore it or expose myself to it? Yes, sort of both of those things. I can't say specifically in your circumstance, but you are learning that it's okay to have that thought. More important, it's okay to experience the discomfort that that thought brings up for me. I can move through that discomfort and know that I am still okay. So when you learn that the discomfort does not mean doom, it doesn't mean that the thought is true or untrue, whatever the disaster scenario is. Like I can be uncomfortable. I had thought that I don't like and control that makes me uncomfortable. I can move through this. So it's not so much ignoring. Be careful about ignoring. You couldn't ignore that thought and that discomfort if I paid you. You can't ignore it. You're going to feel it, but I can move through it even though I experience it. So that's a short answer, but hopefully that helps. When I was constantly seeking out news, it was definitely attempting control. Oh, this is good. This is good. We have a comment in from Twitch. When I was constantly seeking out news, it was an attempt to control. The more I knew, the more I thought I had some control, it was obsessive. That is a huge amount of insight right there. Like I applaud that, knowing that that's what you're doing. So some people can do that. Some people are, for sure, they want to avoid all the news because it will trigger them and make their anxiety go through the roof. And some people on the flip side, so it's really good backing. Glad you brought that up is that. Like if I just know everything about it, then somehow it's better. So when I was doing a lot of my recovery work, we had the big financial collapse, like the mortgage crisis of 2008 and the economy just literally was collapsing around us. And I watched every minute of coverage that I could get my hands on for like two weeks until I realized like this is doing nothing for me. So I get that. I was kind of that person. But also in the past in my battles with anxiety, I would avoid the news. So it's interesting how that shifted during my recovery work. I wanted to know everything and understand everything.  No, I'm not going to learn all that in two weeks. So good, good comments. I appreciate that. I'm going to put up a, putting up a, hey, Paula from Twitch, putting up a Twitch comment, just have two Twitch comments. But the toxic label is awful and is created because of a pop culture self-help book. You know, I think we can all agree that some people do have a toxic nature. I understand. But toxic has become one of those words that everything is toxic. So I know it's unpopular when I say stuff like that, but I'm not completely invalidating the fact that some people are certainly damaging their personalities, their behavior could be damaging and hurtful. Just we way overuse all of these things, all of them. Oh, this is good. Kat, thank you for saying this. Love yourself first is super cliche and everything, but it's true. Like it's true. I cannot even believe that I'm saying the words love yourself first in a live video. Like what has even happened to me, but that's true. It is true. Like be nice to yourself. You deserve it. Let's pop in here. Hey, Don, what up? Let's see. The recovery mindset can be down. I'll put this up. Bethany is a good comment. Thanks, B. I know the recovery mindset can be a daily thing. It affected how I might approach my daily life. Okay. This comment right here with Bethany said, listen to that. Yes, that's true. You can be in a recovery frame of mind every day and aware of like, am I making good choices or am I retreating or avoiding unnecessarily? That's okay. Like you can't get obsessed with that, but I love this. This is really good. It is very different. Be committed to your recovery does not mean that you drive yourself into the ground. That's really important. Really important. I couldn't take a tail from stinky thinking says, let's put this up. Okay. This is Donna illustrating the fact that you don't get to control your thoughts. So Don has done tremendous work and come so far in her recovery. Don, you've done this. You've done tremendous work and I'm super happy that you're where you are now, but this is important. I could not take a day off from my thoughts. So by default, then you wind up in that recovery mode almost every day in some way, shape or form, because you're always practicing. That can happen to some people. Let's see here. When I say I'm tired and really fight to get myself into this. Okay, let's see here. Julie, what's up? I get worried when I say I'm tired and really fight to give myself permission to rest. Okay. This is just my normal life, not recovery. Some people do find themselves in that position. I mean, look, there's a concept that's really funny. It has to do with not wanting to go to bed.  I refuse to go to bed. I literally will tell you that there have been long periods of my life and even sometimes now where it was almost like a defiance. I will not end this day. There's more that I can do or I just want to sit and watch mindless YouTube videos for me. And I'm not giving that up because this is my time. So some people do get stuck in that for sure. And some people, somehow for whatever reason, Julie, you might be one of them. You have adopted that belief that saying that you are tired or taking a rest somehow decreases your value or puts you in a vulnerable or wrong position. Maybe you will be criticized as being lazy. Maybe you have been criticized as being lazy. That's something that I would say to definitely work on. All human beings need to rest, even me. I like to pretend I'm a machine, but I got a rest too sometimes. It's not a crime to rest. We're allowed to rest. So let's see your turn of identification. Okay, this is fair. I think again, I would agree with this recovery work has to be done down. This has to do with today's chapter and commitment. It does have to be done daily, but it depends on the extremism, right? So it might look different from day to day. It might look different from day to day. Some days you're going to tackle really big challenges, do that again and again and again for a week or two straight if you can do it. And then some days you're just going to drop back and say, I'm going to do a small exposure today just so I don't retreat. And then I'm going to take the rest of the day on the sofa. That's okay. So I would agree. It does get done every day just that those rest days might look a little different. Let's see. Word. I love the comment word. Okay. Oh, Donna, this is a good comment. Not because you're watching these videos. I mean, you can stop watching them or watch them anytime, but this is so good. Can't figure out why except that I can now. That is a huge comment. That's the comment of the day right now. Would have given it to Bethany, but now I'm going to have to give it to Donna. Thanks, Donna, because this illustration right here. Now I keep watching these videos. I guess presumably we have police violence. Not going to comment on police violence. The bad thing, of course, we all agree with that. But it's not about that. It's about the fact that Donna can watch what are really disturbing videos that might bring up some really strong opinions and sort of get your dander up and get you really upset. And I know you're a good person. You want to change the world. So I do get that. But now you can. Like the fact that Donna got to the point where she would avoid all the triggers and now will intentionally watch those videos, maybe because of an interest in that topic and maybe trying to improve things or help fix things in her community, whatever it is.  Like it is a big deal. I did a video not too long ago and I believe it's on my Instagram about fear of death and being crippled by the idea of death during the midst of the worst of my anxiety. And now like actually enjoying conversations about existence and the nature of death and afterlife if there is one in faith. And now those are great discussions to have. So whatever your huge fear is right now, it can actually one day we will come where that is not that's not your huge fear anymore. Like recovery encompasses so much just when you are in an anxious state and under the gun all the time, things that are like super triggers now over time, it can be less and less triggering. I swear and Donna right there is living proof. We're all winners here. All right, now we're getting out of control. And let's see here. I ended up laughing about elevators. All right. I will tell some of there were two questions about depression now next year next year. Yeah, next year. I believe next week, the podcast episode that comes out. I don't know this week or next week. I can't tell is about depression. I specifically talk about how I deal with depression. Somebody asked in the comments, how do you make sure you don't get depressed? You don't like trying to take evasive action because you are afraid that you might be depressed is not a good strategy. Like do your work, keep working your recovery, engage in life, remain active, like all of those things apply because they're just what everybody should do. But there is no special thing that you should do to say, well, I'm not depressed right now. I don't have depression, but I'm worried and afraid that I will become depressed. So I want some sort of special strategy to prove that wrong, that I won't become depressed. That's not good. You don't want to go down that road. Basically, you want to say I'm just going to be as healthy as I can. And I'm going to treat myself as best I can. I'm going to keep working on what I have to work on. And whatever happens tomorrow happens tomorrow. And I will deal with that then that is really important, really important. I was blown away when I discovered just how large the fear that I might become depressed is in this community. Like I'm not depressed now. I actually feel great now, but yet I'm afraid that I might get depression. And so I will act based on that fear. Don't go down that road. That's really difficult. It will kick off things that you don't want. And should I allow depressed feelings? Marge says, I'll throw it up real quick. I'm going to say one quick thing before I end it. Should I allow depressed feelings? What choice do you have? What choice do you have? I'm not going to allow those feelings. You don't get to choose your feelings. So while I'm having feelings of sadness or low mood or depression, I'm feeling a little low. I'm feeling down. I'm feeling sad. I'm feeling discouraged today. You're allowed to have all of those feelings. So that question by itself that says, well, I don't know if I should allow them. Well, tell me what not allowing means. I think what you have to do is allow all the feelings that you have, you're allowed to have all feelings. Humans are designed to experience all feelings, including low mood or sadness or regret or feeling hopeless. Sometimes we all have those feelings. It's important to understand that if you are in the habit of immediately trying to evaluate them to determine if in fact that is depression, that's an issue. You don't have to do that. Depression is the thing that gets diagnosed by a qualified clinician. And it lasts a little while. Being sad is not depression. Being low mood is not depression. And being sad does not mean you are going to be depressed. So you have to get off the idea that I have to monitor myself for depression. I just wanted to throw that out there. So before we end, and again, I think it's either this week or next week. I don't remember. I'm going to talk about, I'm going to talk about depression, my personal experience of depression, including how it lives in my life now from time to time. So I just want to say one thing. Let's talk about the Oscars for just a second, and then we're going to wrap it up. I posted this morning about it, and I really did not want to have anything to say about that. And I want to clarify what I said. First of all, there's so much wrong in the entire thing that I don't even know where to start with that. And no way shape or form is what I posted in any way defending or apologizing for Chris Rock. What he said was ridiculous. And while I might believe that comedy should probably be unlimited in theory because of what we think about the arts and who we say we are from a society, doesn't mean that a comic has to be unlimited. I think Chris Rock, for a variety of reasons, should have known better and did not have to tell that joke. But the point that I made today was, while I do understand, and I'm going to be totally honest with you guys and authentic, if I can, I hate the word authentic, but I'm going to be, every strand of my alpha male DNA wants to root for the fact that Will Smith got up and slugged Chris Rock. That tells me that I am wrong. That tells me that I am wrong. Why do I know that that is wrong? Because we don't necessarily have to be slaves to our emotions. In that moment, I understand he was very emotional. He was angry. I understand. I can think of 15 other ways that he could have approached that and probably done a better job of still standing up for his wife and supporting her. That being said, what I'm more concerned about is the rooting for the fact that he got up and threw a punch at somebody. Because in this very community, we have men who feel that they are less than and weak or feminine or not masculine enough or not testosterone enough or not alpha enough. If they express concerns about their own mental health, men will suffer in silence because they are afraid to be vulnerable and talk about these things and show weakness.  It is literally the message that says, that is, excuse me, that is masculinity. That message says, that is what a man does. And that is not what a man does. That is not what a man does. One possible option of what a man can do. But again, I could think of 15 other ways that he could have done a better job with that. Easy for me to say, I might have made the same mistake that Will Smith did, but I'm sure he feels bad about it. But my message this morning was not apologizing for Chris Rocker defending him. I just don't like that we will glorify an image that intentionally sends the message that men are not supposed to be anything but that. Like dudes, you are way more than what you got between your legs. You are way more than testosterone. Like we can be smarter than that and still, still fulfill healthy male roles. I do not like that that sort of behavior stifles the ability of men to ask for help, be vulnerable when they need to be. It's super important. I didn't want to weigh in at all, but that bothered me when I saw the response to that and the chest bumping and just the ridiculous nonsense. That's how you handle it. That's what you do. You know what?  But I'm going to try and use my head and do that in a more productive way that doesn't become damaging for everybody and isn't just self-serving to my own ego. So there you go. I will get off my soapbox now. But that's why I said what I said. So just to show you guys now. And dudes, if you're struggling, it's okay to speak about that and ask for help. It really is. I promise it is. So there you go. 42 minutes is about where we end it. I'm sorry. I can't take all the comments and I will get off my soapbox now. But again, we'll be back again next week. I don't know how many more of these we have next week. We're going to talk about I was trying to give you a heads up. So chapter five, I don't know how many lessons it has. But okay, lesson next week, same time, say that channel two o'clock Eastern, you're on YouTube and on Facebook and on Twitch Twitter, if anybody's watching on Twitter, we're going to talk about arranging your life accordingly. We the logistics of being able to fit your recovery into your life. So we'll be back here again at the same time. This video will stay on YouTube on Facebook and the Facebook group. I think it stays on Twitch and I don't know what it does there. I don't know if you're watching over there. Thank you very much. But that's it. I appreciate you guys coming by again, teaching lessons out of this book. I'll see you again next week until we're done, which I think we have another four or five weeks, six, seven weeks tops. Go and I'll see you guys next week. Thanks for everything.


The Mutual Broadcasting System in cooperation with Family Theater Incorporated presents Christmas in July starring Shirley Temple and John Agar. James Craig is your host. More things are wrought by prayer. This world reams off. Ever watch the assembly line in an automobile factory and see a car being put together? You might call it the miracle of human ingenuity. Numbers of men stand along the line each with a part to add to the growing perfection of the product. It's teamwork that turns out the perfect product. Yes, and it's teamwork that makes for success and happiness in a home. All members of the family working together with one another and with God. That's the teamwork of family prayer. And when there's daily remembrance of God in a home, when there's daily family prayer, God is a member of the family. They understand one another. They love each other. And they can do wonderful things together. You'll never know how much help and unity, strength and happiness God can bring into your home until God is a member of your family. Until your family makes family prayer a daily practice. James Craig will speak again following tonight's Family Theater story, Christmas in July, starring Shirley Temple and John Agar. At last the day had arrived. I could hardly believe it as I sat motionless in the large audience that overflowed Johnson Memorial Hall. There before me on the stage, the graduation exercises were actually beginning. I saw Glenn in the first row of graduates. He sat up straight, tense, alert, his arms folded. I know he felt very proud. He watched Dr. Rhodes walk across the stage towards the rostrum. The doctor adjusted his glasses and began to speak. I heard the words echoing around me, but somehow they seemed distant and far away. To you men as the last group of accelerated students to be graduated from Ranora University, I say this. Into a world of uncertainty, doubt and fear, go with courage. Yours has been the privilege and opportunity to approach the future. Go with courage. Somehow the words made me smile in a reminiscent sort of way. I remembered the first day we had arrived at Ranora, Glenn and I. Looking back it seemed hard to believe that it was almost three years ago. We had just been married and I felt that being the wife of a college GI was going to be the most wonderful and exciting experience in the world. I remember that first afternoon at Ranora. We walked up the gravel path near the medical school hand in hand. I guess we must have looked very much in line. There it is, Sheila. Well, what do you think now? Glenn, it's going to be like... well, like we were kids again. Say, you sound like an old woman. Why, you're only...  You know I'm your wife, but... Yes, honey, I'm never going to forget it for a moment. While Hippocrates and Harvey and all the medical experts in the world will be no distraction to me with you around. Jim Dugan. Private, sir, 3-3-3-5-6-3-4-2, reporting for duty, sir. Dugan. So you're here, too, and still talking GI? Just a neckl of the past, unlike the beautiful lady, sir. My wife, Sheila, this is Jim Dugan, honey. We used to call him a mad sack. And no more sirs, Dugan. It's a pleasure, sir. A double pleasure, sir. How you do, Mr. Dugan. The name is Jim.  I'd love it. You haven't changed a bit. Still up your old practical jokes? Why, Lieutenant, I was the most misunderstood guy in the army. Anyway, no more jokes. You see, now I'm a married man. Congratulations. Thank you. And why? And I'm trying to settle down. It's difficult. Impossible. Impossible for you, Dugan. For anyone. Well, wait till I show you the greatest piece of mass confusion that was ever brought together in one place at one time. It's our little trailer town, but are known as Confusionburg. Right this way, sir. Madam? Dugan? Yes, sir. No more, sir. Yes, sir. Yes, Jim Dugan kept all of us happy in those first days of confusion. And it was a lot of fun getting settled down in our trailer. Ours was number 134, the third on the right side of the street that the fellows had named Baby Avenue. There was a lot of fun about that. I remember the morning, oh, I guess it must have been a couple of months after our arrival. Glenn was nailing up a sign outside our house. Well, honey, that should do it. Sheila and Glenn Gregory. Wonderful. Now the mailman won't have any excuse for not bringing the mail to our front door. A great idea, except there isn't any mailman. Well, we should have one. That's a suggestion I'm going to give to Dr. Rhodes. Then I'll apply for the job. You're worried about money again, Glenn, huh? No, it's going to be all right. It's just that I'd like to have a little in reserve for the big event. I have a surprise for you, Glenn.  What is it now? Starting tomorrow, I go to work down at the bookstore for a few hours a day. Uh-uh, no, you don't.  No, it can't be. Why, what will happen when future historians are penning the biography of Dr. Eldridge Gregory? You know they'll say that I rose to success on... No, they'll say Dr. Glenn Eldridge Gregory must have had a wonderful wife. Huh, we sound like we've started the self-appreciation society. But, uh, no go with the job, honey. Well, suppose we talk about it later. Uh, hey, look at the time. I'll be late for class. Hey, where are my books? They're right there under the sink where you left them last night, dear. I'll have to hurry. See you later, honey. Hiya, fellas. Dugan, keep away from my wife, you wolf. Well, now there's appreciation for you. Here I am, protecting the motherhood of America. And what does he say? Hello, Jim. Can I borrow a cup of sugar, Sheila? Helen forgot it at the store yesterday, so she spent the last half hour trying to explain the advantages of drinking my coffee black. Now, how do you like that for a wife? You always seem to have a problem, Jim. Don't you realize, uh, Shirley, what it means to drink your coffee without cream when you're used to it? Wait a minute. I'll get the sugar. Just a minute. I'll be right with you, honey. I gotta have some coffee if I'm going to be able to stay awake and think. Here you are, Jim. Everything else okay? Just fine, Sheila. Thanks. Uh, that is, uh, of course, well, everything except this study business. It's still kind of tough trying to get down to books again. Oh, you'll get it all right? Yeah, sure. Anyway, it's a simple formula here. Get it or get out. Well, I'll see you later, Shirley. Glenn and I are going to fix up a community shower this afternoon. So long for now, Jim. Yes, those were wonderful days. Helen and I became close friends. Did our shopping together and helped one another fixing up our little trailer homes. Glenn and Jim became buddies, and most of their enterprises. It was more than just living next door to someone. We were like one happy family. Yes, I remember that afternoon when Glenn and Jim decided to build the shower. They had picked the spot, built a little shack, arranged for the water pipes, and were all set to go to work. Of course, Helen and I thought they were geniuses. They acted as though they knew everything there was to know about plumbing. Helen and I watched and wondered. Hey, Jim, hold it a minute, will ya? What's the trouble? Where does this pipe go? Well, it's simple. Just stick it into the next one. Yeah, I know, but how do I get it through the wall? Didn't I bore the holes for those pipes to go through? Well, now let me see. Say, you're the guy who's supposed to know all about plumbing. Well, we're doing all right, aren't we? Yeah, except you bored the holes on the wrong side of the shack. Well, what do you know? We put the walls on the wrong side of the shack. Great. What an engineer you're turning out to be. Now we take the shack down and put the walls on the other side, or move the shack around, foundations and all. Or we wrap the pipes around the shack until we meet the holes. Well, there you have it, you see. We have a variety of choices. Let's make a fast decision. The girls will begin to think we don't know what we're doing. How's it going? Wonderful, wonderful. We just figured out a special arrangement so the pipes will be wrapped around the outside of the shack. Give added support and strength to the walls. Don't you think the pipes will freeze? I mean, stuck out in the cold like that. Hellen, honey. Too many suggestions only confuse our problems. I was wondering why you didn't put holes for the pipes on this side.  What did we decide, Glenn? Well, I don't think it's a bad idea to bore some new holes on this side. Yes. Viewing it from all sides, that would be my considered decision. As I sat in the auditorium and watched the graduation exercises that afternoon, it seemed strange then that in these early days I hadn't realized the problems we were going through. Yes, and Glenn's difficulties in getting adjusted. It was doubly difficult for him making a home and getting into the swing of study. But Glenn always seemed so able to take things in stride. And then suddenly, things began to happen so fast, I guess I really didn't have time to think. Sheila! Oh, Sheila, honey. How are you? Wonderful, Glenn. Wonderful. Hellen was with me all the time. You see, there's an advantage in having been an Army nurse. Only he didn't have problems of this kind in the Army. Well, someday I'll be Dr. Glenn Gregory. And they won't keep me running around in circles in a waiting room. Oh, yes, they will, if I have anything to say about it. If Jim were here, he'd have an answer for that. You know a wife's confidence in her husband, Sheila. Well, Dr. to be Gregory, you can go to work, taking care of the baby. But don't try any new theories. I want our baby to have a good old-fashioned upbringing. He's got to have the best than any baby ever. He should, with about a hundred mothers to take care of him. That first year at Renora was a pleasant one. Yes, there were hardships, but there was also the wonderful kindness and help that everyone was so quick to give. It kind of balanced things up. But there were times, even with everyone's help, things didn't work out right. I remember that night Jim came to see us. For days, everything had been going along so pleasantly. That evening Glenn was doing double duty, studying and taking care of the baby while I caught up with the dishes. The vermaform appendix, like the thymus in man, perhaps useful in its embryological development, atrophies. This is... He's asleep. You know, honey, someday he's going to grow up to be a great student like his dad. Just read him a medical book and he'll fall sound asleep. Anyway, you'll have a story worth telling the next generation. Probably it'll start. I went to college when I was five days old. And I was rocked into cradle made out of orange crates. I spent my first few years in a trailer. My father read me medical books from the age of one. But I sometimes found it difficult to know what he was talking about. Well, you can never tell. You may be a child prodigy. And at the age of three, suddenly start to remember all he's forgotten from these evening lectures. Here, I'll help you with the dishes, honey. Now the juniors are asleep. No, Glenn, you get to your studying. You know, sometimes I wonder how you're doing with your man job and all the things you do around here. You can never get time for all your study. Hi, folks. Mind if I come in? Hey, take it easy, Jim. Don't let it slam. He's asleep. Okay, okay. Say, kids, Helen and I have decided to take a vacation. A what? Well, you see, it's a question of making up my mind to walk out before I flunk out or... Well, that's the story. So we decided that maybe I wasn't cut out for books anyway. I got a good job coming up now, so I thought I'd grab it before it was too late. You mean you're leaving just like that? Where's Helen? She went into town. She'll be back soon. I thought I'd just come over and tell you the news while she's away. You're not going to quit on everything as easy as that, Jim. No, I'm not quitting. You see, for me, it's been a doubtful deal. I'd like to give Helen a decent home and, well, a youngster coming along a right place to live. I don't need a college degree to do that. So I... Yeah, I see what you mean. Tell you what I'll do. I think I'll holler when Helen was back from town.  We're having some of the gang in. Yeah, we'll drop over for a minute later, Jim. I watched Glenn on the stage of the auditorium now. He had the same strong, determined look, a look of decision that I saw the night when Jim and Helen left. I knew he'd felt bad about Jim's leaving, but it wasn't until several weeks later that I realized how much it had affected him. I didn't dream things had come to such a climax until one afternoon. Well, we'd been up the night before with little Glenn cutting his first tooth. Glenn looked sort of haggard and tired when he came in from his late afternoon class that day. Yes, finally, about an hour ago, and I've been moving around like a mouse ever since. Well, all I can say is that he's got the best of it. Stay awake howling all night and sleep all day. A great system if you can do it. You look tired, Glenn.  There's a philosophy exam coming up tomorrow. I gotta sweat it out for a few hours tonight. Haven't done anything on it, on the stuff yet. Oh, relax for a half hour before you start studying. You've been going at it too hard lately. I'll fix up a snack. Thanks, honey.  I don't see why they gotta stick that into a course. Well, maybe a good doctor has to be part philosopher. Yeah. But what do I care if Aristotle and Aquinas can't prove that spiritual beings exist? What? Oh, forget it. You're tired, Glenn. Yeah, and I'm disgusted. I'm fed up. There's no plan or order. No purpose in the way this world is run. Well, there's the last piece of that apple pie. You know, Margie came over today for a while. She was saying they're having an apartment store sale down at the- Oh, so you don't approve of what I'm saying? I don't understand it. I only wish I could do something, say something to help you, but I can't. Well, that's it. There's no purpose in this whole business. It doesn't add up to anything. Make any sense. There's no end to it. We're just a lot of helpless people tossed around by chance, and there's nothing- Glenn. Well, there's nothing we can do about it. Glenn, I don't know anything about philosophy and psychology, and I don't know all the things you do, but I know there's a- well, a good and kind and merciful providence watching over us. Well, maybe it makes you happy to feel that way. Glenn, what you've been thinking can't be right, because all it does is make you miserable. It isn't the hardship or sufferings that make you miserable. It's, well, it's the way you think. It changes you, your belief in faith in yourself, in everybody, in everything. Well, that can't be right. If everybody thought that way, it would ruin whatever's worthwhile. Why, everything would come to a dead stand still. That can't be right. You know, you should go into that philosophy course and- Don't tease me, Glenn. I really mean it. I know you do. And see, even little Glenn agrees with you. The next few days were the toughest we spent together. For the first time there was tension between us, I watched almost every word I said, because I felt that if only we could get over these few days, Glenn would come to understand. But I was wrong. And then it happened, August 12, 1947. It was a Tuesday. Glenn had gone down to see the registrar and get his marks for the mid-semester course. When he returned, he came in quietly, went over and sprawled out on the bed, looking up at the ceiling in a vacant sort of way. I went on fixing supper hoping Glenn would speak first. I made an apple pie, Glenn. That's good. It's sort of hard to get anything right on this little range. Yeah. Did you get your marks, Glenn? Yeah. How were they? Okay, I guess. Sheila, I'm going to get out of here. Both of us are going to get out of here. You didn't flunk, Glenn. No, but I got conditioned. And that's enough warning for me. I can't take it anymore, and I'm not going to have you taking it either. We can't go on this way. I'm not complaining, Glenn. That's just the trouble. You don't say it out loud, but it's there in a lot of things, you say. You can't cook on this stove. There's no place for a plate, then. I've never meant it that way, anything I said, Glenn. Well, I've had enough of it. What do you think it's been for me to see you living like a drudge in the kid? Well, it's just not worth a medical degree. Glenn, I love you. That's why I'm ready to make any sacrifice for you. For our future. It's not as though I- I got a chance of a selling job with a pharmaceutical outfit. It's not like I've wasted the time studying. It'll be a- Glenn, if you don't become a doctor, all your life you'll regret what you're deciding now. Maybe. But we can't go on this way. I can't really study, and at the same time worry about coming home and- Glenn, suppose we talk about it later. Everything's practically ready for supper. No. I've decided. To quit? Yes. Well? There's nothing I can say, Glenn. All right. Then it's all decided. No, Glenn. There's another way. What? I'll go back to New York and live with my aunt. I'll take little Glenn with me. What good will that do? I can't support- It'll give you a chance to study. It won't work. It's worth trying for one semester anyway, Glenn. Then if it doesn't work out, we can all- Sheila, there's no use in fooling ourselves. Won't you try it for my sake? Because I ask you. Well, let's talk it over later. It seems strange as I sat in the auditorium and listened to Dr. Rhodes announcing the names of the graduates. My mind seemed to go back to little incidents I'd almost forgotten until that moment. Like the way the baby reached out his hand when Glenn said goodbye to us at the train. The memory of it came back now with a feeling of dull pain. The memory of those months away from Glenn. The innumerable letters I wrote and then the quickening pace of events when I had arranged to spend the Christmas holidays with him. He had to do research, work on the campus and couldn't get away. So, so I'd go to him. Meeting him again, it seemed like it had been years since we'd seen one another. And I didn't mind just sitting quietly beside him while he worked. He was cramming for some finals, so on Christmas day after we came home from church, Glenn settled down at his books. You happy, honey? Now, don't start letting yourself get distracted. I've given the medical experts enough competition. You know, I never realized what that guy meant when he said something about you can't live with him and you can't live without him. That's why it's so easy being a woman. We only take one side of a question. You can't live without him. Someday, honey, it's gonna be... Well, believe me, all the sacrifices will be worthwhile and... You mean now you're trying to convince me? No, it was just a simple remark. Oh. Someday soon we'll all be together again and have our own home and a... Someday, in the not too distant future, everyone will be calling you Dr. Glenn Eldridge Gregory. Eldridge Gregory! I've been so wrapped up in my thoughts that I really miss seeing Glenn get his diploma. I suddenly realized he was walking across the platform. There was a smile on his lips as he walked down from the stage. I could hardly wait for the exercises to finish until I could get to him. Over here, darling. Boy, will she be surprised when she sees both of you. Well, I wouldn't miss it for the... Here, let me hold the diploma, Glenn. You'll need both arms for the attack that's coming. Don't call it a diploma, Helen. It's a sheepskin, dear. I just can't say anything. Jim Dugan. Helen, you're here, too. Why, we wouldn't miss it for... Congratulations, Sheila. Yes, you're the one who deserves the congratulations, Sheila. Why, I haven't done anything, Dr. Gregory. You've had me kicking myself for the last six months. The last six months? How? Since last Christmas. Do you remember? No, I don't remember anything in particular, except that... Except that you sat beside me half-frozen while I spent the day studying. Yes, but only because... And I was promising myself that I'd make up for the way you had to spend that Christmas day. I'd get you a mink coat, and we'd have our own Christmas day later on. Glenn, you've more than made up for everything. For everything. Honey, both of us have a lot to be thankful for. And today's going to be our Christmas day. But I haven't got the mink coat yet. Oh, I don't need a mink coat, Glenn.  This is James Craig again. You know, listening to tonight's play reminded me of the adage, love makes all things possible. Well, maybe that covers a lot of ground, but there's the center of truth in it, because love is the art of giving. And love of God is the art of giving generously and unselfishly. You know, every home needs a lot of love if there's to be happiness. And a lot of generous and unselfish giving on the part of each member of the family to every one else in the family. That's why every home needs God if there is to be true and lasting happiness. And when a family has the daily remembrance of God by the practice of daily family prayer, a new spirit of love and understanding and peace comes into a home. God is love. Love is the foundation of a home. That's why the family that is close to God by daily family prayer will never break up by quarreling and misunderstanding. Yes, the family that prays together stays together. Before saying good night, I'd like to thank Shirley Temple and John Agar for their performance this evening. Our thanks also to Mark Carney for writing tonight's play and to Max Tear for his music. This production of the family theater incorporated was directed by David Young. Others who appeared in tonight's play were Joe Graham, Bill McAndrew, and Paul McVeigh. Next week, our family theater stars will be Jean Lockhart and Edmund O'Brien in Mr. Birthday. Your hostess will be Anne Blythe. This is James Craig saying good night and God bless you. This series of the family theater broadcasts is made possible by the thousands of you who felt the need for this kind of program and by the mutual broadcasting system which has responded to this need. Be with us next week at the same time when our family theater stars will be Jean Lockhart and Edmund O'Brien with Anne Blythe as hostess. Merrill Ross speaking. This is the Mutual Broadcasting System.