Elaine, what is Disability Rights Main? Disability Rights Main is an organization that's mains, P&A, and what we do, it's a protection and advocacy agency. So for folks that have disabilities or are experiencing barriers in the community, we have lawyers and advocates that can assist people in overcoming those barriers. And you also provide various services for these people as well. Is that correct? We do. We do some technology. We have a couple of technology programs so we can assist people in getting set up with assistive technology. One of the services that you provide is the Main Relay Service. Talk about that for a bit. The Main Relay Service is the service by which people that are deaf, hard of hearing, late deaf and or have difficulty speaking can access the telephone system. So for someone that can't pick up a standard telephone and have a conversation effectively, we have a couple of services that can help them do that. And who can use the service? Anyone who falls into one of those categories that is deaf, hard of hearing, late deaf and or has difficulty speaking. And how does it work? What happens is a person would pick up their telephone or a specific device depending on which Relay Service they're attempting to connect to. And they would dial 7-1-1 and be connected to a captioning or a relay assistant. And what that person will do is act as a go-between for their communication. So if a person is using a TTY, that's something that most people are pretty familiar with, what a deaf person would do, a deaf person who doesn't speak, or a person who also maybe has had a layer inject me, someone who doesn't speak for another reason, could use a TTY to access the service in this way. So what they would use is a TTY and they would call 7-1-1 to connect to that relay assistant. They would type their message and that relay assistant would speak the message to the person on the other end of the line. And when that person speaks their response, the message would then be typed up and would come up on the TTY display. And there are also other types of services as well within the main relay service. Talk about those for a bit. Okay, so there are also captioned phone options. So for folks that have grown up using English and speak on the telephone but can't maybe hear the response, what we have are captioned telephones that are available. And through that, they would speak on the phone and the other person on the other end of the line would hear that and respond to it and whatever that response is would be captioned and come up on a display on their telephone so that they would be able to read essentially a full transcript of the conversation in addition to being able to hear what they still may be able to hear over the phone. It's very similar to captioning on the television if anybody uses TV captions. And then there's also a service for folks that have difficulty speaking. It's called speech-to-speech relay. And what happens there is a person would use their telephone, whatever telephone they have in their home. They would connect to a relay assistant, but this would be for someone who maybe has had a stroke and now their speech pattern is difficult to hear or understand. It may be very easy for family or friends who speak with that person often to understand what they're saying but if they're trying to call and order a pizza or connect with their doctor's office the person on the other end of the line that doesn't interact with them often may have difficulty understanding what they're trying to get across. So they would pick up their phone, call the relay assistant, and for this specific relay service these relay assistants are specially trained in various speech patterns so they would then re-voice whatever the person has said so that it's a smooth communication to the person on the other end of the line. And that person also has the option of turning their voice off so if I'm self-conscious about what I now sound like the person on the other end of the line maybe never hears my voice they only hear the relay assistant. It sounds kind of complicated with all these choices. Do you help people manage and navigate their way to find out what the best equipment for them is? Yes, so we provide outreach services for Hamilton who is the relay provider in the state of Maine and so that can look like training for someone who is trying to use one of these services if someone wants to give us a call and find out what their options are if they have difficulty using the telephone we can definitely walk them through the options and see which one is the best match for them and offer them some training so that they are really comfortable using the service and that they can use it effectively. Do they have to buy the equipment themselves? No, so in terms of the speech-to-speech relay there's no special equipment that needs to be purchased you can just use whatever phone you currently have DRM has a couple of other programs that can help provide the equipment at no cost and Hamilton Relay also has programs that can help provide equipment at no cost to the user. And is there a cost to actually use the service like per minute charge? No, no there's no cost for that it's a federally funded program and the captions or the relay service are provided at no cost again to the end user they would just need to pay their phone bill and some of the equipment does connect to the internet but there are not internet options for folks that don't have internet in their homes so they would pay those two bills as they normally would for whatever phone equipment they're currently using And if people want more information about the service to find out what equipment they need or how to access it where can they go for more information? They can come here to us so we are in we have an office in Portland and an office in Augusta but we also travel the state so for folks that are looking for training in their homes we can offer that they can call us here in Portland the number is<PHONE_NUMBER> or if they're looking for some more information they can get some online the website is MERelay.com


Pozor na vsem. Taj prezentacijo je o proksisekru in miroring. In tako, kaj smo priča, tko smo vsega vsega vsega, ali bo se početno priča vsega. Kaj smo? Renek Anno, je autor proksisekru, je vsega vsega kompani. My zelo vsega vsega vsega vsega. Zato, nekaj vsega, kaj je proksisekru, nekaj vsega je zelo vsega, nekaj nekaj vsega je zelo vsega? Nekaj vsega je zelo vsega? Ok. Ok. So basically in actually what is, is a proxy that is protocol aware, that sits between the application and the backend, the SQL server, it gets requests from the application, it process them, decide what to do with them, and then performs action based on internal, some internal logic that is all programmable. Ok. So there is a bunch of features that I'm not going to go on this presentation, but the most important features that we are going to discuss is about multiplexing. And the reason behind this is to try to solve one specific problem that is quite common in my SQL. In my SQL server when you have a lot of connection, a lot of client connection, performance tends to degrade very badly. The higher the number of connection, like thousand connection or ten thousand for connection, performance drops drastically. Here we have graphs about one specific use case in which replication was lagging, and the only reason why replication was lagging was because there were too many connections to that server. Those connections were absolutely idle, they were not processing any requests. The only thread that was running and doing some work on this server was replication, and replication was just lagging. As soon as they killed all the, all the idle connection replication was able to catch up. And they identified this one, because they had two different server with same specs, one with connection connected to the server, one without, and the one without connection was not lagging. So the only reason why one of the two slave was lagging was because it has tens of thousands of connection. So quick overview of what are the various trading model that this can apply on any sort of software. So you can have either one thread per connection or in some other system you can have even one process per connection, like in Postgres. Or you have some thread pool. Pros in cons of both of them. Well, the pros of one thread per connection is that it is easy to develop, because every thread is just handling one connection. On the other hand, one of the problems is blocking an EO. So that specific thread has to handle all the specific connection and nothing else. On the other hand, if you are using thread pool, it is way more difficult to implement, because you have one single thread that has to manage multiple connection. By the same time, it is way more scalable, because you don't have so many connections. Sorry, you don't have so many threads. So my SQL, by default, it has one thread per connection. And of course, this has some cost. The cost again is not specific to my SQL, but any application that uses this model of having one thread per connection. Basically, in short, you have a lot of software thread, while the number of physical thread that are in the CPU are way less. So you have a lot of context switch, because the CPU every time has a switch from one software thread to another one. The number of registry has to do all the context switching. And you have mutex and contention between all those threads. And at the same time, the CPU cache, most of the time, is absolutely useless, because all the context has been moved in and out from the CPU cache. And for the same reason, you have to access memory. So access to memory is way more expensive than accessing the cache in the CPU. So what about implementation of pull, of thread pull? So normally what you have is one thread that is accepting of the connection, and then these threads normally passing the connection to a set of threads pool that is the one processing the request. In my SQL, this is not the default, but if you are using my SQL Enterprise, you have the thread pool, MariaDB and then Percona implemented their own version of thread pool. The way it works is that all the new connections are being accepted by one listener, and then this listener is passing the connection to a thread pool. And that specific thread pool is the one that is handed the connection until the connection disconnect. And of course, because of the use of the thread pool, performance gets a lot better if you are using this. Great. What about in proxy SQL implementation of thread pool in proxy SQL is slightly different. Instead of having one listener, what we have is that all the threads in proxy SQL they are all listening on the same port. So one of the thread is the one that is going to get the connection, and it will be handling the connection until the client disconnect. So it has some pros that basically there is no context switching between the thread because all the information are always stays located to the specific thread. Of course, it has also some cons because it can be happened that the threads are unbalanced, but this is a quite rare case. OK. So we have proxy SQL that has his own thread pool. Does this solve the problem of my SQL having a lot of connection? In reality, this by itself does not solve the problem. The reason why it doesn't solve the problem is that, of course, having proxy SQL in his own thread pool, it improves the performance of the proxy, but it does not solve the problem that you might have still a lot of connection to the base server. The reason being is that a lot of proxies, if they are layer 4 proxy, but also layer 7 proxy, what they normally do is that for every client connection they create one backend connection. So there is a one-to-one mapping. And, of course, this, of course, doesn't scale because if you have tens of thousands of connection on the proxy SQL, you will have tens of thousands of connection to the database server. So proxy SQL has his own different implementation. What it does is that it has his own connection pool and when a connection is being used after it executes a query, normally this connection goes back immediately to the connection pool, assuming that the connection is safe to be shared. When a connection is safe to be shared, it means that there is no transaction running in the connection, there are no temporary tables, there are no user-defined variables, et cetera, et cetera. So there are a certain number of criteria that define whatever the connection is safe to be shared or not. And if it is safe, just go back to the connection pool so the next client request can be executed in that specific client connection. And, well, so basically what we can have is that we can have thousands of front-end connection that go final into very few back-end connection. So basically this is how proxy SQL performs multiplexing. So again, you can define the number of back-end connection and the number of front-end connection can be extremely, extremely higher. Of course, there are certain criteria that automatically disable multiplexing. They are listed here. For example, if there is an active transaction, the connection cannot be shared until the transaction is completed. Or if, for example, if there is some table lock, so if you have executed a lock table or flash table with read lock and that specific connection, that connection cannot be shared again until unlock table is executed. Same thing happen with get lock. If you execute get lock, that connection cannot be shared anymore. Surprise if there are still a lot of application that use it. Other criteria for disable in being lock is that if you execute set SQL lock, SQL lock being equal to zero. After you execute this, of course, that connection cannot be shared anymore because otherwise this means that other connection will have bind lock disabled. And of course, this is not something that you would desire. And multiplexing is automatically re-enabled when you issue a set SQL lock being equal to one. So as soon as you re-enable it, the multiplexing is automatically re-enabled it. Another reason why multiplexing is disabled is when you execute create temporary table or if you use SQL lock found rows or prepare. Prepare is the text protocol version of the prepare statement. Other reason, there are a lot of session variables that when they are enabled, proxy SQL automatically disable multiplexing. Here I listed some of them, like set unique check or set out increment increment foreign key check, and so on. If the client execute one of those, multiplexing is automatically disabled. Now, by default, it's also disabled multiplexing for every query that has the app that is normally used for user variable or session variable. And no matter if you are setting it or if you are reading it. And this, of course, can be problematic if you are using some RAM or some JDBC driver that is actually... It wants to read all the session variables, so it performs some set statement in which specify this app. So for those specific query, you are also able to create rules that automatically re-enable multiplexing if there are such queries. OK, questions so far? OK. One thing to remember is that multiplexing does not automatically disable routing. Those are two different concepts. So you can have multiplexing to be disabled on a specific connection, but still you can have the client that send traffic into multiple connections. So one connection to the writer, one connection to the reader, or if you have sharding, you can have one connection to one shard and another connection to another with shard, and traffic is being load balanced in criteria. Now, let's show some example of how it actually proxy SQL helped with improving performance using multiplexing. What we follow is some example of performance improvement that we got at Shopify that they are using proxy SQL on all their infrastructure. So those are initial testing they were doing. Those are benchmark. They were running the same traffic directly on my SQL and through proxy SQL. So you can easily see the difference. I don't know if you can see the numbers, but here we are close to 15,000, while here we are barely around 700. So the number of connection was 5% of the original. So they drastically reduced the number of connection. And during the same benchmark they noticed that basically the number of thread running this with my SQL and this with proxy SQL. So thread running with my SQL was spiking up to 100, while when they were using proxy SQL the number of thread running was spiking up to 25. This was the maximum. Thread inside in ODB before they had 80 while with proxy SQL they have some few spike to 15. And more interesting is that the queue the thread in the ODB queue with straight connecting to my SQL was spiking to 100, while with proxy SQL was thread to 0. Next. So those are other graphs of some benchmark. Let's start from down actually. With proxy SQL traffic passing through proxy SQL the number of QPS is the same. Actually with proxy SQL is slightly higher so in proxy SQL they were having more throughput. And the number of the execution query time of the query before was around 25,000 while when the pass to proxy SQL was 6000. So the execution time of the query before proxy SQL. Proxy SQL was not filtering any traffic was not caching anything. It was just ordering the execution of the query before sending them to the server so it was basically reducing the number of connections to the server. Also the response time was drastically reduced here before the response time was averaging at around 1000. I think this would be millisecond. And when the switch to proxy SQL was 0.3 or 0.4. So huge performance improvement. Again those are other graphs. This is actually production traffic so before when they are connected to my SQL and when the switch to proxy SQL. So it passed from around 15,000 connection to probably they had 300 or something like this. Thread running in my SQL again before they were having around 20, 20,000 up to 35 when the switch to proxy SQL the number of thread running was around 8. Less than 10 for sure. And again they got huge performance improvement in the total query execution time that passed from an average of 10,000 up to 20,000 down to less than 4 something like this. So huge performance improvement. Those are these graphs about some spike traffic. So when they had those spike traffic with my SQL the number of thread running spiked to 439. Huge number. And the number of QPS on my SQL was around 35,000 at the spike. When the switch to proxy SQL and they had a similar spike the number of QPS was around 70,000 in this throughput. But proxy SQL limited the number of connections so it spiked thread running spiked to a bit higher than 100. OK. One of the misconceptions that people normally do when configuring proxy SQL is that they configure the number of backend connections to be as high as the number of client connections. If you expect the client to open 1,000 connections they configure that proxy SQL to open up to 1,000 connections to database server. In reality this is something that you should not do if you always try to configure proxy SQL to open way less connections to database server. And what happen if all the client executes some query at the same time and you have 100 client query sort the query in base on the start time and will basically queue them internally and execute them serialized so based on the number of connections that are open. And as I was showing in the previous slide is actually improved performance. And this is even more easy to understand on the next slide. So basically this was a benchmark done 16, so most 3 years ago done by Percona. So this is some read write workload using mySQL 5.7 and Percona server 5.7 with head pool and proxy SQL limiting the number of backend connections to 200. At low number of connections the performance of both mySQL server and Percona server were higher than proxy SQL and that's expected proxy SQL has to analyze all the traffic before executing it. But then as the number of connection increased at around 300 or something like this around 200 the performance with mySQL server dropped drastically the performance with Percona server dropped as well but because they had trade pool enabled didn't drop so much when I said proxy SQL was dropping the number of connections to the server to 200 and performance keeps stable no matter how many connections were on proxy SQL. So of course if here we were adding more connections again the performance in proxy SQL was going to be quite linear while mySQL and Percona were somehow dropping. Question? Yes? To the right master, to the second master we have to duplicate the status ok it doesn't duplicate so it will only execute it to the to the rider, to the master depending according to the query rules you have configured and of course if you are executing a select statement the select statement has to be executed in the same connection proxy SQL does not guarantee this but it really depends how you configure your query rules. This is why normally saying do not send all the select to the reader because this is wrong because your example is a very clear example of when you should not send all the select to the reader. And actually what you said is basically I'm highlighting this here that multiplexing does not disable routing so you can still have different type of routing so like the right statement goes to the master and the select statement goes to the slave and if you are sending the select to the master you should not send the select to the slave because it is wrong you should send the select to the master but this is why what I normally recommend is that you identify which are the select that are safe to be sent to the slave you don't send all the select to the slave yes I mean you need to understand repeat the question so the question is about what happens if you have a query that has succession variables so specify an act and it is a dml statement that goes on the writer and then the select statement you have configured a proxy to send the select statement to the reader if you are sending the select statement that use the same session variables to the reader the reader won't have that session variables because you haven't executed dml there so what I'm suggesting is that you don't send all the select to the reader but you only send to the reader and the select statements that are ok to be sent to the reader so you order in proxy SQL you check which are the query that are safe to be sent to the reader and you only send those instead of everything yes so the question was if here actually this one so the query time in those graphs they were about established connection they were counting also the time to establish the connection those are about established connection so in those graphs you don't even see the benefit of having proxy SQL and his own connection pool because those were already persistent connection any other question thanks


Hi everyone, Sean with jaspyscasebrakes.com here doing a 2019-2020 Penini Mosaic Sello Pack Break random team number 359 where we're giving away teams in clearly Don Russ Breaks 5 and 6, which are coming up after this. So 30 spots, no vet commonship in the pack break itself and then at the end of the break we'll randomize all 30 customers names. And the top 14 names each win a team in 2020-2021 clearly Don Russ basketball 12 box pick a team 5 and 6. The team list is below. So what we'll do is we'll randomize the names, copy and paste that list right next to this here and whatever names match up next to the teams is what they get for those breaks, those respective breaks. First the break itself, here's the list of customers from Sean O'Leary down to Aaron Whittington and the teams from the Hawks down to the Wizards. This is for the Sello Pack Break. There'll be a separate dice roll, separate randomizer at the end of the break to give away the teams. A four to five nine times, ninth and final time from Sean Matic down to PJ McNeely and nine times on the teams, ninth and final time, Magic down to 76ers. So nine times on the teams, nine times on the customers and nine times on the dice. No trade window on this since this is a filler, but we'll get it all big enough for everybody to see. Stop for some of the highlights, potential highlights in this one pack, Sello Pack Break. You've got Tyler Hero, Sean Matic in the heat, R.J. Barrett, Matt McLaughlin in the nicks, John Morant, Grizzly, Sean O'Leary, obviously LeBron and Lakers for Chad Dawg and Pelicans, Zion Williamson, Aaron Whittington. So here's that pack. There's the full list. Good luck. Like we said, separate dice roll, separate randomizer at the end of the break to give away those teams. I love that. I love that French. I just saw that comment. He's from a modern day high school. I'm a modern in Santa Ana, California. Carl Anthony Towns for the Timberwolves and Aaron Whittington. PJ Tucker, champion. Houston Rockets, PJ McNeely. And Steph Curry there for the Warriors. And Sean O'Leary. Aaron Holliday for the Pacers. Sean O'Leary, Paul George for the Clippers. Mike Grzynski and PJ Washington for the Hornets. And Sean Mattet. So that's the one pack break. Now, what we're actually waiting for, to give away those spots. So like I said, we're going to randomize the names, copy and paste the list here. And whatever team you're matched up with is what team you get from spots 15 down to 30. Thank you guys very much for getting in and hopefully I can do better for you on a future filler. Here is the customer list again from Aaron Whittington last spot mojo back up to Sean O'Leary. Dice roll. Two and a four, six times. Good luck everybody. Sixth and final time. Sean O'Leary down to Mike Tower for the 14. Let's copy the full list. So from Sean O'Leary down to Josh Melton. Six times on the randomizer. Six times on the dice. There you go. Let's make this large enough for everybody to see. I haven't seen anything on Rex. Is that what you're saying? I haven't seen him in the chat. Oh, did they lose again? He hasn't popped in tonight. So Sean O'Leary with the Hornets and Picker Team 5. Mike Krasinski with the Hornets and Picker Team 6. Sean O'Leary, Timberwolves, Picker Team 5. PJ McNeely, Timberwolves, Picker Team 6. Chad Dahl with the Kings and Picker Team 6. Matt McLaughlin, Hawks in Picker Team 6. Aaron Whittington, Celtics in 6. Mark Rocky, Cavs in 6. PJ McNeely, Nets in 5. Sean O'Leary, Nets in 6. PJ McNeely, Nuggets in 6. Sean O'Leary, Sons in 6. Aaron Whittington, Raptors in 5. Mike Tower with the Raptors in 6. There you go guys. That's the break. These are the results for the randomizer. Clearly Don Russ, Picker Team 5 and 6. And there you go guys. That was the filler. That was 2019-2020, Penini, Mosaic, Cellopac, Random Team No. 359 from jaspyscasebreaks.com. I'm Sean, jaspyscasebreaks.com. Thanks for hanging out. We'll see you next time.


I chose to get my MSBA in Business Analytics because Fairfield has an outstanding business school and a great reputation. The structure of the program was what fitted right in my schedule, I'm a working professional and I wanted to do an in-class program. The classes are smaller in size, the faculty get time to get to know each student to take an interest in how you're getting on. They want us to be innovative and principal leaders so a lot of the work in the business school is project based. They have changed the structure in the syllabus, getting feedback from even from me and other people all the way around to see how they can better equip people for the industry right out of school. People should pursue their degree in Business Analytics because of the big data boom. Businesses are in need of people with these analytical skills more than ever. Fairfield is only about 70 minutes by train to New York City which is really exciting because everyone knows New York. A lot of the things that we learned in the school, at least I personally can say that I used in my workplace and my superiors have seen a lot of value in that. I do feel that I've developed a lot more skills in analytics and I do feel that's a great benefit for me for the future. The relationship with the faculty, the relationship with the school doesn't end with just the course, they personally invest in you. The faculty is so supportive that there's nowhere else I can think of to pursue my masters.


Okay, we're back real live. It's it's 1 p.m. For the movie show with George Cason and I we're gonna discuss movies that you find on cable There are so many of them. We're awash in really interesting movies now Not all movies are interesting but a lot of them are and it's like, you know, there's something new something terrific every day I feel like my horizon is expanding every day. No, that's wrong because I'm doing it at home Sitting in the same chair not getting out much But the fact is that I am I am exploring the planet and the human experience through these movies And frankly at this point in time the news is repetitive the news is festooned with commercials I've seen a thousand times before so it's earlier and earlier that I will go to Netflix or Amazon every day George welcome to your show Thank you, Jay. Welcome. Welcome. Good seeing you So we're gonna talk about Michael Douglas. We're talking about the Kominsky method Which which had a very interesting season what a year or two ago. We like that, but they're back with another season and a very droll informative Kind of humor that that makes you if you're old it makes you feel a little better Because these guys are having the problems of age in every which way It's a study of aging isn't it? Yeah, part of it part Part of the plot is aging yet, but they talk about all their maladies, which I'll discuss while I don't have at my age I'm older than then then then Michael You know Sandy over there and and your two shows your vegan show with what's her name? kumic and then Yeah, I love you kumic. Yeah kumic and Wendy. Oh We have a third one too. We have a third with Larry Grimm. Oh, I haven't seen that We have three shows that deal with aging you do a lot of public service Jay with your think tech And you know if people would only be a little more Helping themselves rather than going as I was telling Eric before the show started going and popping a pill for every Stupid melody. They wouldn't have these in my old days. I don't have that I mean, I I've gone to my I don't have the prostate problems my Hector just he tells me that amazing 0000 PSA If Michael Douglas isn't telling you about things you have now, he's telling you about things you're going to have so make notes George Well, hopefully Hopefully if I keep this up, I should be okay, you know I'm 73 almost going on 74 in October. So this show is right up your alley It really is and anyone who is either, you know Conscious of growing old or will be conscious can learn a lot and enjoy the humor of it's very troll humor I mean Alan Arkin is really one of my favorite guys in the world. He is so So he looks he makes Larry David look dull Very good very good series very excellent I laughed a lot here, but a lot of seriousness to last you said true And a lot of people dying of leukemia and and other diseases. So it's it's but it's it's it's a comedy of sorts as well So talk about Michael Douglas, you know, I mean he's been in so much. We've seen him We've grown up with him and you know this kind of you know how the the mask comes off So to speak where you realize that even in movies where he was the number one hero There's a certain vulnerability about him a certain self-effacing quality That always made him appealing But it is much more the case in this series because even though he you know It doesn't go out of his way to admit era. He gets involved in all kinds of trouble Yes, I think things happen to him Yeah, and he handles it in a way that characters in his hero movies might have handled it years ago He's fairly consistent that way and I think he's well well cast for the series.  I mean he's definitely you know is Perfect for the role that he's playing given his his persona and his acting ability from previous movies and series So for the benefit of our viewing off audience George, why don't you describe the role he's playing? Who is he and what does he do? How does he spend his time? He's an acting coach in Hollywood in LA right and he's got this class right and He's a failure sort of for not a failed actor, but just had bit parts like I had bit parts you know never really achieved that success and He goes through he's got this Mindy's got a daughter from this ex-wife played by She's very quick and very There is you know quick lines and all that well, it's very well written. It really is I mean, I like to meet the writer, but this daughter Mindy is not what you would call a beautiful woman not at all But a personality good. She's got personality and she's sort of strong woman feisty You know, maybe because coming from a family of divorcee, you know And and and Sandy Kaminsky played by Michael Douglas. He's had a Serious like Harry the eighth. He's had a series of marriages, right and his first wife Kathleen Turner, which I didn't read recognized because she's really doesn't look like she looked when she was younger, you know She's aged, you know and and she plays the first wife and she sort of got an interesting personality too And Mindy and her sort of have a similar personality So the casting was and then the way they the roles the writers are you know, right on on target So it's all the sort of all all meshes together very well, you know, so yeah, so Sandy's But then at the end because it's very close friends with the Alan Ark and role which is Norman Irving Newlander See season three season three you all it opens up with his funeral, you know with Newlanders funeral because I read that he didn't he didn't he didn't he didn't want to do a third season He had other gigs he had to do so they had to kill him off So there's no nothing that came of what he was sick. You didn't see him sick all of a sudden from season He's gone. Yeah, he's gone So that was because of the Circumstances so so Alan Arkins role was his very close friend of Sandy and they sort of have a Crazy relationship. They sort of put each other down on very New York very an odd couple odd couple You know the same thing odd odd Walter Mathau and and and the lemon Very nice, you know Interaction and the two of them how they back back and forth, you know, so Yeah, so Alan Ark and is also phenomenal in his role, you know, just like Mindy, you know, she plays that role very well They all the roles now Phoebe What's your name? Edelstein I got to get these names get them Lisa Edelstein. She plays her role She's a druggy and an alkie, you know, she's got all kind of and a problem child This is new lander's daughter new lander's daughter and then you show his first wife, you know Season in season two. She passes away Yeah, and Alan Ark in it at his age 70s 80s. He still has women and he's still active and sexually active as well, you know Viagra, whatever that shows all his girlfriends, you know and and then all of a sudden season three He's gone and they show his funeral and that really is a you know, a surprise because up to that point You thought the two of them were inextricably interwoven in the series. They had such Magic between them and they fit so well together. The two are perfectly together and Arkon You know for all the vulnerability that Michael Michael Douglas shows Arkon doesn't have that vulnerability. He's a self-contained individual. He's very funny very confident in his own skin And then you find out later that he left in a state of a hundred and fifty million dollars. You remember that part No one expected that And this happens, you know, this happens that somebody dies and you have no idea what that person was worth And then you find out it's a hundred and fifty million Family goes nuts dry humor because the the waiter in that restaurant Musso's grill or whatever He says to Sandy, you know after Alan Arkon's role died. He says, oh, yes Mr. New Lander was very kind and generous and Sandy turns around and says I'll give you generous. No, that's what he's So these two had had some kind of a back-and-forth, you know, I have friends like that, you know You know that the sort of a good dry humor, so Very good good series and I did have to look at season one and two to fill in all the pukas because if you don't I mean you had mentioned season three But you have to really see off to understand what came before, you know the deaths and and the Inter-interrelationships between people. So very good very good movie And as you said a lot of illness, you know prostate problems Hygiene hygiene issues Things that you never expect will be on on primetime television never talking about their issues in the bathroom Yes Yeah, he taught they talk about things that, you know, normally you're not, you know talked about but I mean I've had Training in our I went to Strasburg for a number of classes and then Bob Royals and you know this movie brings into my memory deja vu Beverly Hills flats and I found out that Newlander's house was in the mid-wilshire on Lucerne and then Sandy's house up in the hills Which is in also near Cwenga. I thought I used to live in Beverly Hills Hills and the hills near Mulholland. I didn't know that about you George. Are you sure you're not worth a hundred and fifty million? No, unfortunately not. I wish I was you know, I mean my group my grandfather and grandmother at one time were Filthy rich, but then they lost everything over So, you know what's what's interesting here is this you know, Michael Douglas and and you know, you've grown up with him We all have and Kirk Douglas, of course and and Kirk Douglas lived to over a hundred. Yeah.  She wouldn't come out She had been a great star and everybody wondered what happened to the great star I'm and the funny thing here is that this is kind of an answer to that question. What happened to Michael Douglas He's getting old now. What's he doing? What's he like? What's his life like? Well, of course, this is fictitious But it's not that fictitious And you say to yourself this answers the question. What happened to Michael Douglas? What's his life like now and and that and that is very interesting kind of examination the same thing with with Alan Arkin what happened to him? I haven't seen him in a movie in a while. He must be getting older So this is the story of what what he really is and I would bet that in terms of personality types They really like that. They really behave like that. They have friends like that It's all about Beverly Beverly Hills and 150 million dollars and the other thing is, you know, who actually are these guys They they come from where you and you and I come George. They come from New York And they're both Jewish, right? They're they're, you know, they got this Jewish New York sense of humor, but transplanted To Hollywood to LA and the only, you know, a thing that happened in the meantime Is is they had a successful career and now look at them. So what you see is the larry david, you know Kind of dry humor The curb your enthusiasm kind of humor. They're all in the same ball game And I'm sure they are all like that to me Although it's not likely we're going to meet them. But we do meet them in these shows So I'm it's a valuable experience for everybody. You know I couldn't I was totally agree with you. That's one of the things I was going to say as well That this is a trans these guys are transplanted from the new york metro And there's a lot of new york metro there and you know from taking strasburg courses And and other That's what they teach you is to basically be yourself, you know, take things from your own life When you're acting and bring it into the scene, you know, and basically that's that's what we have here We have two aging I didn't recognize ellen arc and either or cathleen turner. I didn't recognize him at all Because he looks so different from what I remember him as but as to get back. This is definitely as you said, it's a new york These are new yorkers And I grew up. I mean, I'd only have distant jewish ancestry but but in a very Jewish neighborhood, I mean, there were only two talions and us, you know And everybody else was jewish and long island, you know, that's long island So i'm very familiar my closest friend ellen laskin in high school, you know, my closest friend So cathleen turner, I didn't realize that was her, you know He was she was the opening introduction to her is that she's a doctor She's doing some kind of activist medicine in south america somewhere She talks to him on the cell phone Any time all the time what have you she's his wife is very acerbic cutting Nasty Divorced husband and wife type of humor. They never let it leave themselves alone They never let the other guy get away with anything and in the end I I don't know if I saw the the end of their relationship, but What what happens is they are brought together by the daughter And now they have an opportunity to refresh their broken relationship But and this happens it happens in la and everywhere So here you have a divorce couple with a child who presents issues to rally around And they get closer and you almost see them You know restarting their romantic relationship And she is wonderful. She Again like like her daughter. She's not so good-looking these days, but boy, she's sharp And she's got these you know these fantastic remarks she makes and he doesn't he can't handle it Michael Douglas Sandy he can't handle it She's in charge.  She's a you know an altruistic individual And so I just love her influence on the family And and what brings them together of course is that Mindy who is in her what 20s early 30s? Mindy starts having a relationship With this guy who is hysterical And and he is like 60 65 years old old enough to be Her father possibly her grandfather And she's bringing this guy home And he is you know in the Yiddish expression. He's kind of a schmuck He can't get it right. He gets in all kinds of trouble and and Mindy has to pick up after him But you know, whoever thought this stuff up with the family dynamics is a kind of genius writer What what did you think of him? I forget his name Martin riser What was his name and martin was his name is martin. Yeah, and then he's it's Something riser wait a minute Philip riser or whatever. Yeah, Paul riser. He's the actor and they they got they they had he doesn't It showed him to be Bald no hair, but I know he has hair So maybe they they did special effects said to to put the ponytail and you know have no hair But he's phenomenal. He plays that role to a tee. I mean, he's just He's amazing You know Every one of them plays the role to the tee and one of the things that you alluded to The relationship between sandy and his ex his first wife played by cathleen her It's some ways is very similar to his friendship with you know his Alan arkans role where they're sort of putting each other down But they have a lot of good feelings love for each other So, I mean, it's a similar kind of thing But it's like it's all that uh that drive humor and and and sandy is is you know, he sort of accepts Martin, you know, but alan but new lander alan arkans role does not accept this May december marriage and he's sort of really down on on um on You know martin, you know being a school teacher blah blah blah blah blah You know because he's nice.  He's not really a successful actor at least not beginning and and What's remarkable is that she is keeping it together and and somehow these people keep coming back to the class even though sandy is really not much of a teacher And he gives them all the wrong advice And you really wonder if there's any value there but then Some guy that he knows I want to say the character is called leavenson leavenson is a big producer and leavenson is making a movie of earnest hemmingway's The old man at the sea exactly so they pick sandy as the old man The hemmingway character And they make this ridiculous effort at the old man in the sea and guess what what happens you tell the people what happens He wins a golden globes award and then he's Finally reached makes that success that he wanted all his life and and So, you know finally reached that pinnacle that he wanted because his to his friendship with new lander, which was uh, you know his friend new lander had sort of talked about him to leavenson so This it's sort of now as you said what happened I mean to get it to us aside Kathleen turner's role, you know the first wife she passes away at the end of leukemia after Being the the pastor or whatever for the marriage of her daughter and all right But she starts she she pronounced herself the the minister didn't marry them She became the minister and she she married them. So but just A lot of interplay Between the different roles the different characters each one played their role to a tee And as you were saying these two elderly gentlemen initially from new york, you know, they they played their roles very well I mean they're sitting in a Sandy's late model Mercedes convertible right Chatting with you know the allen arc and role and michael douglas Just really I mean coming from new york, you know, this is like Well, they're they're blatantly honest Blatantly honest. I don't know if you remember this movie. It was with art carney and another actor of similar seniority Who lived on the upper west side on broadway? in manhattan and they would sit on a park bench And trade barbs and stories And it's part of an aging thing the same kind of relationship That michael douglas and allen arc and had in this movie And and what strikes me is that when you can portray that relationship, which isn't easy You know, you have to You have to Make it honest And so that that's a very important part of the writing for this series that they're complete They may be barbing each other and criticizing each other and making, you know, ranking remarks against each other But they're honest. It's always honesty. It's humor and it's honesty. Which is very appealing And one of the things I wanted to ask you about also is the strange The strange coming together Of of new lenders of allen arc and his children.  She's a druggy and the other is this this guy who's in his 30s and he's uh into some kind of religion Scientology And the two of them find out that allen arc and uh has money or had money And they are all over michael douglas who has control of the money Not to get the money and it's so visible And the audience sing me anyway and i'm saying You know, doesn't the michael douglas character see that how greedy they are How salivating they are to get any money and they're really telling him all kinds of lies But no, um, that's the thing about the michael douglas character sandy for all of his vulnerability and all of the troubles he has He's able to discern Right from wrong. He's able to be a moral figure He's able to ascertain when somebody is giving him a line Exactly and that and that makes him a hero again He plays that I mean All the different aspects of his personality, you know that i'm sure that's the way he he is in real life as well That that play into the role he's playing and Totally Meshed, you know, every everybody's sort of The roles are played very very well I enjoyed this even though all the sadness the people dying, you know, whatever But there's a lot of comedy here too And then real life, you know illness. I mean I'm you i'm the outlier. I I don't have medical problems major medical problems But people my age a lot of them. I mean there's a row of pills You know, they got all these different pills that they have to take, you know every day And so it's similar. You know prostate issues and leukemia, you know This is going to be appealing to somebody who is old Is it more appealing to somebody who's old and somebody is young?  How did you react to that? I mean personally Was this something you could learn from? Was this something that offended you? Was this something that you really rather not hear about? You know the thing is i'm pretty aware because I I mean i've had illness and my mother died of leukemia My dad had heart disease. My brother well had issues you know, but to me I wasn't offended by this I guess i'm in i'm in a never neverland because I think that coming on 74 i'm I haven't developed. I have a few minor menini issues But you know, so to me it wasn't offended. It wasn't scaring. It didn't scare me But would you would you be more or less interested in this series if you were 25? um I think there's enough in this series In terms of all the young students And the whole thing of hot, you know the hollywood acting thing acting class Which i'm familiar with because I did that To sort of make them into this this factors that are interesting Plus the whole federally hills scenes, you know the the hills sandy's house and and rulander's house and there's enough in there for the young people as well a lot of interesting factors and then you know See how the old farts live, you know Give them a window on how the old farts live and what it's like to get old But i'll tell you my my reaction to you know, the aging issue and the health issues and family issues I say to myself, uh, and maybe this is inaccurate. I say to myself It's okay that I that i'm watching this because Thank god. I don't have those issues um, and I have it like a window on People real people who do have those issues who may never tell me as much as these characters are telling me About their issues because most people won't talk about it But this is a kind of a it's a window into their lives So you learn and thank god you don't have their problems, but you learn about what problems you might have going forward so I think there's um There's a real value there and I think the the writer knew this and michael Douglas knew this and certainly alan arc and knew it So it's a it's it's well worthwhile, you know, that's why I had no trouble watching it because I felt that it was educational I always feel that I have to get some education out of everything I watched and this was one example of that How do you feel about that? Did you learn? Oh, yeah, I mean there was there was educational for me too because uh, you know you show, um Catherine Kathleen Turner's role, you know, she was taking medication. My mom was not actually she was she was seeing dr Canty rye over at L. I. J. You know new height part, but and she was just she had blood transfusions But she so I learned that there's medication now For for leukemia because Kathleen Turner's role was ejecting herself with something for her leukemia. I think that's a hurry I think it's an important point George. So yes, you know, your mother we've all had somebody who died of something like leukemia um And uh, we may not have had the opportunity to really know about it What I mean is we might have been too young or other people were closer to this individual though We were and and you know created a barrier for you know Barrier so that we could not really relate to this and learn about it So that's why this is so interesting to see somebody a character With all the detail Getting sick and dying In a situation where We we might have known more before but we were not permitted to learn it as you know young people So now this this gives us that that opportunity And I think that's one of the great things about this series if they intended to appeal to a broad array of generations they succeeded So, um, okay, what would you give it? five on a scale of five or 10 on a scale of 10 Scale of five. What would you give it? I'm not five. Yeah, it's it's it's got all the different aspects You know that that that that that make it a good series an interesting series, you know, and and you know For me, I've done a lot of reading. I I know where we're going to go when we when we leave this earth So I'm not a fear of of dying but for those who don't who don't Want to face this, you know, it's really very educational as you said, so sure and you got to keep your sense of humor until the very end Yeah, so so and I would also give it a five by the way um, but There are so many other movies. I know I'm watching them all the time And I jump from one good one to another good one and my wife finds them And we are awash in good movies. So do you have any ideas about what you want to cover next, George? You suggested that bad education, you know Uh, and which I did see it because you know, you you peak my interest because it is on in Rosalind on Long Island and similar to my background, you know, and You know in terms of the locations, you know, they discuss Sayas at Farmingdale all these different places on Long Island So I I did you peak my interest But I mean, that's that's a possibility, you know, then there's I don't know what else, you know, I I you know I haven't been watching many movies lately because I've been focused on on going to school in my old age And it's a tough program, you know, so um I used to go to a lot more movies in my youth. So I'm gonna have to Put my thinking cap on and we'll discuss it, you know After the show and you know, if you want me to do Bad education at least I've seen it already and that's an interesting story about Invezlement, you know and and all it's a true story very true story. Well, it It's true, but there's some change. They made some changes for the screenplay, you know, but But uh, it's it's it blocked by I mean they they stole millions. I mean He's the administrator and he was superintendent. It was interesting as it starts a Hugh Jackman And it's not the kind of role that you would expect Hugh Jackman to play Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, George. I I must say I really enjoy these discussions with you. It's great fun To watch the movies and it's great fun to have a moment to compare notes about them And I look forward to our next discussion. Very good today. You you made a lot of good points today, Jay Same for you. Thank you, George. George case and our movie reviewer here on the movie show on think tech Aloha, George


Hey survivors and frivers, welcome to the video. In this video I am going to be talking about how narcissists appeal to your own ideals. Please like the video, share your thoughts in the comments, subscribe if you haven't subscribed yet and click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. Share this video with anyone who you believe may help. If you would like to donate, you can do this through the live chat or by clicking my paper link in the video description. If you are interested in one-on-one coaching, please send me an email. My email address is also in the video description. Narciss appeal to your own ideals. What does this mean? This means that narcissists will make a serious, urgent or heartfelt request to your own preferred standard or principle. Whatever your preferred standard or principle is, the narcissist will make a serious, urgent or heartfelt request to be perceived in this way. They can do this with words, they can tell you what you want to hear, I'm sure at the beginning of the relationship they told you they were loyal, honest or trustworthy and you soon discovered that they were the exact opposite of that. They may have told you at some point that they loved you while treating you in a way that did not demonstrate love. They may have told you that they wanted to marry you and have children with you. But none of that ever actualized. As well as telling you what you want to hear, they can also show you what you want to see. They might adjust their character or personality, the way they dress or display a preference or interest which is specific to you. They will make you believe that this preference or interest is also a quality, trait or talent of theirs. They will make you believe that this is also something that they are interested in. This is what they are about. They will make you believe that they are interested in sharing this quality, trait or talent with you without an agenda or without desiring to take something from you. The truth is, they are not about that at all. They just know that it is your preference or interest and so they will use it to obtain narcissistic supply. This sequence of events is exactly the same as what a predatory child molester would use to lure a child. The child molester might purchase candy knowing that this is a preference or interest of the child. They will make the child believe that they like candy too and it is nothing out of the ordinary for them to possess this. They will make the child believe that they just want to give them the candy as though there is no hidden agenda or ulterior motive. Like with a narcissist, the predatory child molester is obviously not interested in the act of giving or sharing candy with the child. It's the same sequence of events. Just replace the candy with whatever quality, trait or talent they are using to lure you in. Depending on your situation, you could replace these for sexual purposes with whatever else the narcissist is trying to obtain from you. Attention, validation, approval or admiration. A sense of power and control.  This is narcissistic supply. They could boost their self-esteem. So you can see that there really is no difference between the sequence of events between the predatory child molester and the narcissist. Child molesters are narcissists and narcissists are very predatory. I've done a video on this so please check that out. Predatory narcissists are like child molesters. The narcissist will not only mimic you but they will mimic everything that relates to you and everything that appeals to your own ideals. They want to be seen, they want to be heard. You are being seen and heard, so they mimic you and everything that you are interested in. I've had ex-narcists that would change their whole appearance. Their clothes, hair, makeup, character and personality. They would take on the role of a celebrity I liked or if I saw someone on TV I was attracted to. They think they can just change or copy their clothes, hair or makeup and suddenly they are that person. This is something I've experienced most of my life where people will change themselves in an attempt to appeal to my own ideals. They see that I am interested in something or someone which is ideal to my personal preferences or interests. They cannot get the same fulfillment from their own preferences or interests so they try mine and try to use them to appeal to me. They like to copy celebrities that I like, people who are attractive or charismatic. I guess the characteristic I should probably discuss here is one that I have seen most often over the past few weeks. I'm going to try to explain this in a way that everyone can understand and then hopefully learn from. So I like girls that can dance, especially girls that can twerk. Twerking is a type of dancing which has been around since the 1980s.  It involves troughs and other hips and butt shaking often in a low squatting stance. I follow a few girls that can twerk and you see a lot of their music videos. This is nothing new for me. A preference or interest that I have had for some time. But over the past few weeks the narcissistic gangstalks in my environment have somehow become triggered into some form of sensitivity towards this preference or interest which I have. I think the reason for this is because I have been rejecting all of the girls that they have enforced and positioned in an attempt to interest me and then obtain narcissistic supply. This seems to be intense envy and jealousy towards girls I like that can twerk. I think this is because the narcissistic gangstalkers wish that they could possess the skills to twerk so that they could then interest me and obtain narcissistic supply. Of course they do not have the skills to do this. But why I have experienced over the past few weeks is probably a hundred or more gangstalkers in my environment bending over and displaying their butts to me.  A strange behaviour but I think there is a lot that can be learned from this and it does relate to the topic of this video. Narcissists are willing to degrade and humiliate themselves in an attempt to obtain narcissistic supply. They have low self-worth and low self-esteem so they will bail on their true character and personality to take on whatever they believe is your preference or interest to get attention, validation, approval or admiration from you. In the situations I have experienced it wasn't something I could really validate, approve or admire. Naturally it was awkward and uncomfortable. I felt violated, disrespected as though I had just been sexually abused. But narcissists don't see it that way. They are arrogant and have a sense of entitlement. They can abuse and disrespect you and they expect you to like it. They expect you to feel privileged for them to even take the time of their day to abuse and disrespect you. In their minds they see that you are watching a girl twerk and they think oh I have one of those. They don't consider that you can't just bend over and suddenly be a twerker. They also don't consider that they look nothing like the celebrity or dancer. They identify one characteristic or trait and believe that they can take on that role. They don't consider all of the other characteristics or traits which the celebrity or dancer has. Like in my situation they don't consider the skill of twerking. They don't consider the tone or shape of the girl's body and all of the hard work it took for her to achieve that. There are levels or processes to achieving the skill, achieving the body shape. Narcists just identify your preferences or interests and if they can see a single characteristic or trait in themselves they will take on that role. Of course their perception of their characteristics or traits are distorted and their view of themselves is as though they are looking through a broken prism. This is how easy it is for them to mould themselves into whatever they think you want to see. Of course they don't see it from your view or perspective so they don't realise how ridiculous they look. They hate their true selves. They hate their true character or personality and they know that's not going to interest you which is why you will rarely see a narcissist being their true authentic selves around you so they bail on their true character or personality. They try to appeal to your own ideals and they will do anything to be noticed by you anything to relate to whatever it is that you are interested in even if it degrades or humiliates them. They are desperate for attention, validation, approval and admiration. Their perceived purpose in life is to obtain narcissistic supply from you Narcissists will adopt your ideals your likes and interests whatever you like whatever you are interested in suddenly they are interested in that or at least that's what they want you to believe but really they are just playing a role as well as your physical likes and interests this also applies to your beliefs, values and principles they will tell you at the beginning of the relationship that they are honest, loyal and trustworthy or they will imply this or display to you in some way you soon discover that they are the exact opposite of that they were appealing to your own ideals mirroring you it's like holding a mirror in front of you they are reflecting back what you are showing them so that you will then reflect back your attention, validation, approval and admiration of them they will then use this in an attempt to regulate their self-worth and self-esteem but it doesn't sustain them for long because it's not real self-worth or real self-esteem self-worth or self-esteem is not supposed to rely on what people think about you or how they react to you it is not meant to come from external influences self-worth or self-esteem is supposed to come from within which is why it has self at the beginning it only lasts until they get a negative thought in their minds and then they need to reflect back more of what you are showing to them so you will reflect back your attention, validation, approval and admiration of them and then they can use it to regulate their self-worth and self-esteem it's just they never end in cycle which repeats itself again and again as they try to hold on to whatever self-worth or self-esteem they have left do not trust what they are saying to you or what they are showing to you they are not really about that they are just telling you what they think you want to hear or showing you what they think you want to see this is their attempt of obtaining narcissistic supply from you they use it to regulate their self-worth and self-esteem but it can never sustain them because those qualities are supposed to come from within also it's not their true character or personality that we are giving attention, validation, approval or admiration to the best you will get from them is a reflection of your own preferences or interests your own ideals but nothing will ever actualise because it isn't real it's just a fantasy for them an illusion which they will use to get whatever they can out of you in that moment most often it's narcissistic supply thank you for watching I hope this video has resonated with you please like, comment, share and subscribe talk to you soon


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