Hi everybody, this is Alan. Hey, my last gear video in Okancagua was well received So I thought I'd do a similar one for Everest You know Everest is a whole lot different animal than any of the other seven summits Especially with respect to gear. The biggest difference is that in addition to the week-long trek into base camp You have a lot of time spent at base camp in down time So it's important to bring stuff to make you feel comfortable But also be prepared for a higher up on the mountain and obviously this time around is totally different Gonna be using the full down suit plus a lot of technical gears in terms things like figure eights for repelling and ascenders for going up So let's go through the four stages of the climb starting with the trek in and then I'm gonna talk a little bit about Life at base camp with respect to gear and then as we go up and down the mountain to get a climatized What type of clothing and gear I'll be using there and finally for the summit push We're gonna talk a little bit more about this good old down suit and what it takes to get to the top of the world So here we go Everest base camp at about seventeen thousand five hundred feet Obviously the reason that you take it so long is let your body get used to the altitude This is an absolute Beautiful part of the climb and if you never go to go climb Everest If you get a chance to go do the trek in the Coomboot Take it it will change your life the culture the people the surroundings are just astounding in terms of the gear required You know, it's not that complicated what I always done. I've been there now What six or seven times on this trek? So I always take a really good pair of High-top hiking boots because the trail can be it can be rough, but some people do it in tennis shoes I always have a nice pair of nylon pants that can drive very quickly But then on my top is really where I regulate for temperature because starting off in early April I can be extremely cold and starting in the mornings, but then it gets really warm in the afternoon So as always in the mountains the key is to layer. So here are my layers I start off with a real simple very lightweight top which is can be which has zippers on it And so that allows me to vent so I can actually you know control my body temperature also I really like to have collars so to keep the Sun off the back of my neck and also if it gets really cold I can zip up and then protect my neck one the other important parts is always to have my buff So this is a nice little lightweight buff I can put it over my mouth and my nose to protect myself from inhaling a lot of the dust along the way because the trail Can be very dusty This is the hoodie. This is made by Patagonia. It's one of my favorite pieces of all time I like this because it's extremely lightweight It's got a really nice long zipper that allows me to vent and also by the name it has a hood So I can pull up the hood over my ball cap and provide the even extra insulation if I need it I pull this thing all the way up and I am really protected in case it does turn cold without having to carry a very heavy jacket Sunglasses are absolutely required like on all these climbs They go on almost the minute I leave home until I come back home And I use basically the same pair of sunglasses throughout the entire trip I also have back up here in case these get damaged or lost Now also, I have a pair of lightweight gloves because I kind of like to travel with up here gloves It helps protect my my hands from sunburn But also it helped provide a little bit of extra insulation in case things get cold I always have some stacks with me Sunscreen is absolutely critically important on all these climbs. I've got my trekking poles, which always are with me I really enjoy those if the wind picks up or gets a little bit chilly The first layer at the fence is a very lightweight wind shirt this thing only weighs a few ounces and Tucks very nicely into my pack. The next thing I always have in case it gets even colder is by nice little Skull cap that goes on and I protect my ears in the top of my head a little bit heavier Pair of gloves again in case it gets even colder and then if it starts to rain or it starts to snow If I have any wet snow, which is a high probability in the late spring in the Coomboo I've got this nice soft shell or hard shell depending upon what you want to look at it But this will absolutely keep me dry it folds into the hood and goes all into the pack in terms of water I like to carry a hydration system With me the entire way trekking in it doesn't get cold enough for the tube to freeze So I think I'm good to go with this so all in all it's a pretty lightweight system Remember we're going from from tea house to tea house So really all we have to carry is just enough to get us to that next tea house It's probably three to five hours a day of walking So if whole idea at this point is that to take care of yourself to stay hydrated Don't get sunburned don't get sick by inhaling some of the dust or Some of the other problems that may come in trekking through the Coomboo health wise Take care of yourself get to the tea house safely at each night get a good night's sleep The yaks are bringing in the sleeping bags and you eat really well in those tea houses That sets you up nicely to arrive at base camp. We're gonna talk about that next Well, welcome there for space camp. Well, at least my version of it here at home You know if I could take anything to keep it more comfortable there One of the things I would bring would be max, but you know what? I don't think he would do too well with all the yaks and everything. So we're gonna go ahead and let him go you know one of the keys of a successful expedition whether it's on Mount Rainier Colorado 14 or Mount Everest is to be comfortable and to take care of yourself especially during the down times and ever space camp you actually spend a lot of time there after the acclimatization rotations You spend a lot of time in your tent a lot of time in the dining tents talking to other people But you know you actually spend a fair amount of time alone So it's pretty important to have your creature conference with you But all starts off with a great sleeping environment. So for me that means having a very nice pad You know, I typically use my heavier sleeping bag.  I may swap this out for my zero-degree bag as this one goes up higher in the mountain and also It gets warmer as we go into from April into May, you know one of the things that I've done for years is to use my my Down jackets to stuff into a little simple pillow case to have a nice comfortable pillow That is one of the keys of having a successful night sleep in my mind You know, I have these nice pair of extra thick wool socks Moreno wool socks that I like to change into in my tent to get out of the boots You know down booties are incredibly important. Also, you know, if you get told at night It's nice to slip these things. I don't have to worry about You know having cold feet at night, you know during the daytime often I'll put on a lightweight top Well, sometimes it's the moreno wall other times Cotton because at base camp you really don't have to worry about wicking and things like that One of my favorite tops to wear is this nice little Soft weave jersey style that I use it to kind of, you know pop around base camp in another thing I really like especially at night are these are these insulated Primaloft down pants. They actually are very lightweight and they're extremely comfortable Especially when the sun goes down you're in the dining tent or those rare days where it's extremely cold at base camp a few other things To make life a little bit more comfortable One is that I carry this this VHF radio so I can listen to the BBC It's one of the best ways of keeping track of what's going on in the world And also it's pretty entertaining. You don't get a lot of music on this That's why I have my iPod and other music devices But it's really good to kind of stay up on what's happening in the world another thing that's really important are pictures from home I've got pictures of family friends Max and Mimi You know the whole gang in here that I can look at My satellite phone is something that's critically important and staying in touch not only for posting dispatches But also for calling Kathy and just staying in touch with what's going on. This is non-negotiable A couple of other things Magazines are very nice one of the magazines I really like to take with me on these climbs is the economist believe it or not Lots very few advertisements but lots of interesting information to read other people will take other things Books paperback books. It's very popular now to bring your iPad or your Kindle to read the electronic books And finally the most important thing is always to have some water with you in your tent 24 by 7 in order to stay hydrated probably need to be drinking somewhere between three to five liters a day Minimum even while you're at base camp in order to stay hydrated Couple other things I may throw into the mix would be a lightweight down jacket again for when it's cold Always wearing my sunscreen even at base camp and even inside the tent because he can go right through the tent Sunglasses again a necessary part. I always have with me the hoodie is a great thing to have on You know you throw it on throw it off as you walk around base camp visiting with other people in other camps that way You don't have to fool around a big old heavy jacket But the key at Everest base camp are the creature comforts taking care of yourself Taking care of yourself health-wise and also up here Okay, it's time to climb In order to climb Everest you have to go up and down the mountain multiple times if not through the Coombu ice fall over on nearby lobe shea peak Which is what we're going to be doing with the ING group for a couple of rotations there to get up to about 20,000 feet in order to get our bodies used to the altitude and build those red blood cells But in all cases what the next step here in climbing is to be in a technical environment So by technical this means now that we've gone over to our 8,000 meter boots These are double insulated boots with inner liners to them 12-point crampons ice axe and then various types of technical gear Including the mechanical ascender which allows you to attach to the fixed rope So if you fall this clips in you don't go down any further and belay devices so that you can do repelling Harnesses and of course very good gloves that stay intact to protect your hands from the cold But also to be still manipulative enough that you can clip in and out with the care of being yours on to the fixed rope a few other things We'll be climbing starting off at night. So headlamp is very important A lot of people now are using helmets which of course I'll be using as well on this climb one thing Never to forget the sunscreen always and always to have water with you staying hydrated is critically important In terms of what we're going to be carrying Another down sleeping bag this time a little bit lighter pads Insulate pad and then a z-pad to provide protection from the cold and the snow underneath all that goes into our pack Really not carrying very much up and down the mountain at this point Again, the Sherpas just do a phenomenal job of taking care of everybody and they are really doing the heavy work for many many Expeditions on Everest some people do all the climbing themselves and all the carry themselves my hats off to them But at 54. I'm gonna take all the help I can get in terms of my clothing I'm now switched over to a softshell pant. So this I've got on marina wool on anywhere underneath this This will protect me against the rain as well I'm sorry the snow as well as the wind if I need an extra layer I will have my Gore-Tex bibs thrown into my pack. I always have that with me in terms of my top Well, you know what the routine is by now. I've got my marina wool With a nice zip to it and a collar as the base layer I've got my hoodie, you know with the hood and again if the wind starts to pick up I've got my hardshell jacket that I'll throw over this and I always have my 800 filled down jacket into my pack In case it really is cold or I end up having to stop some place either For an unforeseen situation where I'm sitting still for a long period of time I need that extra layer in order to stay warm. Of course the hats always on and so are the sunglasses This blade jacket is another thing that's always with me in case I don't need the full 800 filled down It's a little bit too much but I need that extra little bit of warmth. This throws into my pack So a few layers that will always be with me almost from base camp to the summit And the whole idea is that I can I can be Situational because sometimes for example in the western coom. I will definitely not have on this jacket I won't have on the hoodie. I'll be simply in my merino top Could it be a hundred degrees Fahrenheit there even these pants sometimes will be too much But you know, there's a limit to what you can take off again. That's where the sunscreen comes in the play At other parts of the mountain as soon as that sun goes down like a camp to it gets Non-cold so that's where again having the layers and the ability to protect yourself is critically important So the next step at this point after going up and down the mountain for about two to three weeks Is the summit bid and at that point we're going to go through a few more layers and that's what's coming up next Okay We're going to the summit and as you can tell I'm in my full down suit here and other than having my oxygen mask on It's really this is going to be what I'll be wearing. So let me go ahead and take a few things off I've got the ice axe that will be part of me all the way from the top I've got my goggles on and also this ball of clava So wow, I got my helmet on I have my full down suit at this point crampons harness Ascender carabiner locking carabiner to clip into the fixed line with another Carabiner that goes off on a leash to the fixed line. I've got my down mittens and also Another pair of heavy gloves underneath in terms of everything else No, it's really not that much in terms of you look at the layers themselves I've got my hoodie, which is actually a really incredible important point apart to have But it adds a little bit of extra warmth with almost zero weight to it I've got now this polar tech fleece on which is a very heavy fleece And this is really my secret sauce for keeping warm on almost all the mountains And then I've got my standard moreno wool top and bottom on So really that's about it in terms of my boots. I've got all my 8,000 meter boots with my crampons And I'm pretty well good to go if you look at my pack. This is the same pack that I used to go up and down the mountain I'll have a 17 pound Oxygen bottle in there and that oxygen bottle running at three liters per minute will last last be for many many hours I will switch out one more oxygen bottle throughout the entire process So, you know, um, I've also got my sunglasses here because once the sun comes up I'm going to put those on a lot of people get snow blind this up there if they don't take care of their eyes And the goggles if it's really windy that'll be an important part So this is what it's going to be like on summit night and I can tell you right now standing here in colorado inside the house I'm burning up. I don't think I'll be burning up on the mountain There may be sections where I do and that's why it's important to be able to vent and to be able to Have the layers on but most of the time it's going to be pretty well zipped up Oxygen mask on sunglasses on and going up to the top of the world


Look! It's a cloud! But what type of cloud is it? Clouds are given different names depending on their shape and their height or altitude in the atmosphere. Low in the atmosphere, you'll find cumulus clouds. These grow vertically so they can become higher clouds over time.  They're usually flat on the lower side and puffier on the top. Stratus clouds are also found low in the atmosphere. In fact, sometimes they touch the ground and are called fog. They are uniform gray in color and cover most of the sky. Stratocumulus clouds look like a combination of stratus and cumulus clouds. They have puffy cumulus shapes that are elongate and uniform, like stratus clouds. Higher in the atmosphere, you can find alto-cumulus clouds. Like cumulus, these look puffy like cotton, but they're higher in the sky so they appear smaller. Extend your arm out towards the sky. If the little puffs of cloud are about as wide as your thumb, then the clouds are alto-cumulus instead of cumulus. Alto-cumulus clouds can also form ridges in the sky that look like waves or the scales of fish. Alto-stratus clouds are also found at mid-levels. They are usually bluish gray in color and cover most of the sky. They might be thin enough that you can see the sun or moon shine through. At high altitudes, you'll find serocumulus clouds, small rounded puffs, smaller than the puffs of alto-cumulus clouds. Extend your arm towards the sky and compare the size of the puffs to your smallest finger. If the puffs of cloud are about the same size or smaller than their serocumulus. You'll also find serostratus clouds at high altitudes. Like other stratus clouds, these form a thin sheet over the sky. And there are also serous clouds at high levels.  A couple of the cloud types are known to make rain or snow. Cumulus nimbus clouds are responsible for thunderstorms. They form when cumulus or alto-cumulus clouds grow over time. Nimbus stratus clouds are dark gray and cause the type of rainstorms that's calm and gloomy, where soft rain falls without wind or lightning. There are also human-made clouds called contrails. These are clouds that form from water vapor released by airplanes. So head outside and identify the cloud types that you see in the sky.


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Hello everyone, welcome again to another NARC Survivor Live video, another big topic today. Many of you are dealing with these narcissists and it's like they're constantly coming after you. They're constantly on your case and it's like no matter what you do they never leave you alone. They're always over your shoulder, they're always making these demands and holding you to these impossible and unrealistic expectations.   Before I begin please give this video a thumbs up down below. It is very important as it helps the YouTube algorithm and it will get this message out there. So before we get into this today please hit that thumbs up button down below to show your support. But yes this will make the narcissist run off faster than Usain Bolt. And if you don't know I believe Usain Bolt, he was a record holder for the 100 meter and 200 meter sprint. So yes he can run pretty fast. So just imagine the narcissist running off faster than Usain Bolt. Just let that image sit in your mind for a moment. You know what the narcissist wants? They want to be around someone who makes them feel safe, stable, comfortable and secure. Someone who is out there back and call. Someone who meets or tries to meet their every demand, wish and expectation. Because that is how they feel comfortable. When you're always there for them, you're always listening to them and you're neglecting your own feelings, wants, desires and needs to try and please this unpleasable person. When it's like no matter what you do it is never good enough. They're never satisfied with you. But here is the thing and here is what will make them run off faster than Usain Bolt. Yes that big frightening narcissist who seemed to overpower you in every situation. And it's like no matter what you did you could never get them off your back. This is what will make them run away and you don't have to fight them. You don't have to argue with them. You don't have to do any of that. All you have to do to make a narcissist run off faster than Usain Bolt is to see them as they actually are. Because as you probably noticed all of these people that are around them maybe they're other sources of supply that enablers and flying monkeys they don't see the narcissist as they actually are. They see and validate the false image where the narcissist is attractive and desirable. They're all powerful, they're important, they're wealthy, intelligent, beautiful. They're all of these things to the enablers, the flying monkeys, their other supplies. And that is how they manage to keep these other people around them because they're supporting this false image. So that narcissist is quite comfortable around those people but when you begin to lift the wall that they pulled over your eyes and you see right through them instead of continuing to validate the illusion that is when the narcissist will run off faster than Usain Bolt that moment that you begin to see through them and their attempts of devaluing you are no longer effective because you're no longer susceptible to their manipulation. In that moment they just can't be around you.  You know what they're really about and you know that because they've done all of these things to you. They've done all of these horrific things.   They future-faked all of these things that they did. That's who they really are. That is the real person beneath the mask even though they may avoid accountability for their actions because here is the thing. It may look like the narcissist is running away from you. In actuality they are running from themselves and they're running off into the arms of their enablers, their flying monkeys, maybe their new supply, all of these people who don't really know them because if they really knew them they would be acknowledging and holding them accountable for everything that they did to you. So whatever they've got, these connections, these campaigns, these other sources, it's all fake. If it was real, if any of it was real on either side the first thing they would do is hold themselves accountable and they would be expecting other people to hold them accountable for their actions as well if they even desired to have anything real. And that is how you know that it is all fake. Although they may be running off into another situation, it's not real. What was real was what they did to you. All of those hurtful things they did to you. That was real. And yet they ran away from that because they didn't want to deal with it. They didn't want to accept it. They disowned these parts of themselves that they didn't like and assigned them to you. They tried to run away from it and they tried to create this new character in another situation with someone else, but that's not who they really are. Remember all of that time they spent with you? All of those things they did to you? That was real. That was a part, an effect of who they really are. And if they don't own up to it, they don't hold themselves accountable for their actions and they just run off into another situation. It's not real. Their new relationship is not real. Their smear campaign is not real. And even who they are is not real. Because if it was real, what about all of these things that they did to you? They didn't take accountability for any of that. So they've just disowned these parts of themselves. Well us, as victims, as survivors, we take accountability. We hold on to these parts of ourselves because we want to be better, we want to be greater. We want to learn from our mistakes. And you look at these narcissists, this is why they do what they do. Because they have been running from accountability their entire lives that are emotionally underdeveloped. Because they haven't owned up to their actions, choices and decisions throughout their lives. Instead all they've done is point the finger at everyone else. They've shifted the blame onto other people and expected them to deal with it instead. And yet we look at them and we wonder why they're so weak emotionally. Why they're so sensitive.  Anything you say gets under their skin because they've never had to deal with anything authentically in their entire lives. All they've ever done is run from it. Leave it for someone else to deal with it and take accountability for their bad choices, for their faults or mistakes. So what you're dealing with it's like a child. It may look like an adult but underneath that emotionally you're just dealing with someone who runs from adult situations where they should be holding themselves accountable. As you may have noticed that whenever you confront them on anything what do they do?  They become passive aggressive. Maybe they start slamming doors. They give you the silent treatment. They can't have an adult conversation with you. They don't want to try to work on themselves because they already know they understand that they're so far behind in life. They're so far behind the rest of us who were disciplined in our childhood. We didn't grow up with this arrogance and sense of entitlement but it's like we don't have to work towards anything in our relationships, in our lives. We could just come in and manipulate someone, lie to them, future fake and then when things start to get serious and we're supposed to take accountability then they run off and it's because they just can't deal with adult situations or relationships. They just wouldn't even know where to begin and that is how you know wherever they go, whoever they're with, whatever they're doing it's nothing real. It's nothing that an adult like ourselves would be satisfied with because what do we do? We take accountability for where we find ourselves. We try to make things better. We try to make things right. We don't just go off running away from ourselves in every situation where we experience a little bit of trouble. We cause a problem, we make a mistake. That is what narcissists do because as I said it's a child in an adult body. You're not even dealing with a fully developed human being who owns up to their choices and decisions instead of just shifting the blame onto everyone else and expecting them to deal with it. If you look at it, you were their mummy, their daddy cleaning up after everything for them after the mess that they made in their lives which they then piled onto you and they expected you to deal with that because they couldn't own up to their own choices and decisions like an adult. They parentified you and in some ways they also infantilized you because they always had to hold this authority of position over you but they were never meant to be there so they directed the relationship in the wrong direction which ended up being unfairable for both of you. But what do they do? They jump ship every time. They want to be the captain of the ship. But guess what? If you're the captain of the ship and you want to make all of the decisions but captain's meant to go down with that ship that's how it's supposed to go. And I know any of us, if we were in that position if we were the captain's we would have gone down with that ship. We would have gone down with it we would have taken accountability for when we found ourselves and then we would have tried to change things and make things better but Narcissus, they want to be in control they want to be the captain of the ship and then when things start to go down they want to jump off and leave you on there but what they don't realise is they're actually sinking the ship and drowning both of you. You're both getting drowned because it is affecting them too. I mean just think about it, if they actually treated you right from the very beginning things could have worked out far better for them they would have gotten a lot more than what they got if they had allowed you to be in that authority to position where you could lead and direct them things would have turned out far better for them I mean that's why they tried to do it in the first place they wanted to be around a powerful person but then if you look at it without the lies, the manipulation, the future faking once you take all of that away you wouldn't have wanted anything to do with them anyway because you would have realised that there's nothing in it for you and that's why they hold on to this position of power and authority so strongly because otherwise you're going to quickly realise that you're far better off on your own without them and I've seen it myself in my own life when I've dealt with Narcissus if I had just left them alone if I had realised what I was dealing with from the very beginning I would have been far better off but this is why they do what they do this is why they lie to us they manipulate us especially the men who are watching this right now there's one thing these narcissistic women do not want and do not like this is your masculine energy and I don't mean you just got to go around being a jerk to everyone but it has nothing to do with masculinity at all masculinity is about being a leader it's authority but it is also having empathy and compassion they wanted your empathy and compassion they did not want you to hold that authority of position over them they wanted to take control of you so that they could use you for their benefit and they thought they were getting something by doing that but if you look at it all they got was the crumbs they could have got so much more of you I mean just look back and see everything that you built with your life everything that you achieved and accomplished before they came around and imagine how much more you could have done if you continued in that position of authority and control over your own life you could have done so much more and if they just accepted their position as your subordinate they would have had everything laid out farther but that's the thing again it's that they never would have done that to begin with because then they would have realized or rather you would have realized that there's nothing in it for you anyway you wouldn't get any value out of it it wouldn't do anything for you by keeping them around and they already know that and that's why when you do realize your true power your true value from that point on narcissists they're not even going to get a foot in the door with you that's Ross Rosenberg the psychologist and the author of the Human Magnet Syndrome has said your greatest defense against a narcissist is your self love and that will make them run off faster than you saying bolt when you love yourself they do not want to be around anyone who loves and accepts themselves and we can see that by what they do to us as soon as they get a foot in the door what do they do they devalue us they start making us doubt ourselves because your self love is your greatest defense and knowing this you should know that whatever they're moving on to their new supply they're just with someone who does not love or accept themselves that's the only way that they can be together and a person who does not love and accept themselves that's just the type of person that they have to seek out so that they can maintain control because they can't do that with you anymore and you may have loved and accepted yourself in the beginning but then they went to the devaluation because they couldn't exist around you in that state because they do not love or accept themselves that's why they never took accountability for their actions and this is how you know that yes they are disconnected from self ourselves are true selves that's not just all the good things that we do our positive characteristics no it's the bad things we do as well it's our faults and mistakes our flaws and imperfections yes we must own these things too and we must try to improve on them but narcissists run away from that they run away from themselves because they do not love or accept themselves and that's why they can't tolerate your self love and your acceptance of yourself because then that means that they need to love and accept themselves but your self love it triggers them it just resurfaces their insecurities so that's why everything they do it's all about managing your self esteem they're trying to take from you what they don't possess themselves so you want to make a narcissist run off faster than Usain Bolt this is all that you have to do love and accept yourself and if you do that automatically you will no longer be susceptible to their manipulation because when you love and accept yourself you expect other people to love and accept themselves and as I said it's not just about the good things we do or our positive characteristics as with narcissists they're also arrogant and grandiose in their minds they believe that they are perfect that's not really who we are it involves accepting our faults and mistakes our flaws and imperfections our negative characteristics and traits and that's what we always do it's why it's so easy for them to devalue us and then we self loathe because unlike them we are not running from ourselves we accept ourselves even things that may not be good or positive about us we accept that too and that's how they manage to get in and manipulate us and keep us down where they can be in a position of control but when you start to wake up and you start loving yourself again then they can't be around you anymore they can't be around a person who is real and authentic and real and authentic means accepting not only the things you've done right not only the good things about you but also the things that you have done wrong the bad things about yourself as well this is how you know when they run off faster than you see in Bolt like they're doing a hundred meter sprint what they're running off to it's not even real and who they are is not even real and their new supply is not even real as well because the narcissist does not love or accept themselves that's where they ran away from you and they didn't take accountability for their actions and for them to be able to be around their new supply their new supply must not love or accept themselves as well and that also includes everyone in their smear campaign the enablers and flying monkeys none of them love or accept themselves which means that none of them are even real because they don't accept anything that they do anything bad or wrong any negative characteristic any fault or mistake, flaw or imperfection all fake people none of them are real and they're running away from you not because anything's wrong with you or because you're not good enough as they make it out to be they're running from you because you are real and that's where they can't stand they can't stand anything real and what is real, they know that you are real sometimes when they devalue you they put you down they got you to identify with real or imagined things that you did wrong what's more real than that what is more real than someone who takes the blame they take accountability they self-loathe you know what's not real it's having this big wall of yourself where you have to act like you're perfect and you don't do anything wrong and there's nothing bad about you as though you've done anything right and there's nothing that you need to correct there is nothing more fake than that everything they have it is all a lie it's all a facade it is not real what you have is real and that is why people like ourselves people who are actually real you may find you don't really like being around large crowds you don't like being around all of these big events these family gatherings whether it's Christmas or birthdays these fake holidays like Valentine's Day you're not really into all of that because you know it's all garbage it's all fake it's all a show it's all a false image the very things that narcissists gravitate towards just makes us sick because we know it's all a facade all of these things they do all of these things that they engage in it's all fake and it's all intended to manipulate you there's a lot of things in this world today it's all just to make people fake to make people not who they really are to make people less and less like themselves so hold on to your truth hold on to your reality hold on to who you really are because I can tell you that there are a lot of people in this world but very few of them are actually real because as I said what is a real person what is the definition of someone who is real it's someone who accepts their past they accept everything about themselves good and bad their achievements but then also their faults and mistakes narcissists they just want to live a fake life with fake people they don't want to be around anything real when you start being real and you start loving and accepting yourself when you start doing that they will run off faster than you seem bolt but they're not really running from you they're running from the fact that they do not love or accept themselves that's what they're running away from and they're running off to people who will accept the fake version of them because the real version of who they are is not only the positive things but the negative things as well it's about taking accountability but they're running away from that they don't want anything to do with it so they're running from themselves that's what they're running away from nothing succeeds in that because if you want to experience success, happiness, peace these things all come from us loving and accepting ourselves the very things that they are running away from their entire life is just a fantasy it's not even real and in order for you to even communicate with them you have to enter their fantasy world you have to accept that nothing is wrong with them that they're perfect that they can't do anything wrong but by doing that when anyone does that they are not loving or accepting themselves so these are the types of people that the narcissist surrounds themselves with and their alternate reality, their fake worlds people who do not love or accept themselves and people like us, people who desire to take accountability we find these communities and many of us we begin to isolate ourselves we don't spend too much time around other people because we realise that this world is very fake it's just full of people who just they run away from situations in their lives they don't want to own up to things they don't want to take accountability they're just shame based people doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame when what you should do, if you want to be better in life the very thing you should do is confront whatever it is that you are running away from if you want to be better, if you want to experience real happiness real peace whatever you're running away from you need to do a 180 and run right back and you need to take accountability in that situation maybe the other person won't let you maybe it's not possible for whatever reason but you need to exhaust every possible option so at least you can say that you did your best because that is what it means to love and accept yourself and you cannot love anyone else until you do that so this is all that they're doing when you see them run off they're just running away from themselves they're running off to live a fake life with fake people and the longer their situation or relationship is whatever it is that they have the more fake that those people are because a real person they're just not even going to be able to be around them they're not going to be able to deal with that when you love and accept yourself you can only be around people who love and accept themselves as well so this is it this is what you have to do to make the narcissist run off faster than you seem bolt because this is what they're running away from it may look like they're running from you but they're actually running from themselves true authenticity comes from accountability from owning up to the things that we have done wrong and then responding to the best of our ability if you're finding this video helpful remember to give it a thumbs up down below it will help to get this message out there to other victims as well so it's very important to do that but yeah this is how we know that they are living a fake life a fake existence and this is why they can never be happy because they're shame based people doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame many of us may be able to relate to that I know I can in my past what I did some things wrong and I didn't want to own up to it and I used to wonder why am I always so angry why am I always so miserable even when I have good things going on in my life and I started to realise that I'm running away from certain things I'm not really being myself I'm not being authentic I'm not living a true existence because I'm denying certain parts of myself running away from the shame instead of confronting it something that a narcissist is never going to do they're always going to deflect it they're always going to shift the blame they're never going to own up to it and that's why they'll always be miserable in their lives it doesn't matter what they have or how much they have it doesn't matter who they're with they're never going to be satisfied with anything I can promise you that because they would have to confront their shame the very thing that is weighing them down but if they were to do that instantly they would feel compelled to make things right with you they would do everything in their power to correct that but they don't because they don't confront their shame and that's why they're always so miserable it's why they're always so mad it's why they're always so envious of your situation and of you trying to move on it's all because of their shame and they know that unlike them we do have the ability to confront our shame they know that we can deal with it and we can move on and be happy that's why they've got to pile all of this onto us and try to weigh us down with responsibility things that we're not even responsible for things that they did wrong things that they didn't own up to to try to prevent us from moving on and living a life that they can't experience in a sense of happiness and fulfillment that they will never get to experience because they can't own up to their shame it's our shame it belongs to us it's a part of who we are when we deny these things we live a fake life a false existence we're not really being ourselves we can't really develop anything authentic with anyone this is what they do and when you're being real and you expect them to own up to something and they run off faster than you saying bolt they're running away because you're real you're being real you're loving and accepting yourself you're taking accountability for the things that you've done wrong in your life but they don't want to do that they'd rather run off and be fake without even realizing that that is the cause to their demise and it's the reason why they will never be happy with anything they will never be satisfied and that's why so that is my message for tonight let me know what you think down in the live chat below I will read it out and respond to it I have noticed quite a few strange comments in the live chat as I was delivering this message I had to hide it a few people one person saying I look like Eminem and then some other trolls hello rad bro RioAsianGaming says his eyebrows look good should I subscribe I don't know whether to take that seriously or not SaswatiPramatic says are you BTS army a lot of random comparisons here already someone that says I look like Eminem again as you probably noticed I do often get some very strange comments in the live chat when I am delivering these messages I think it's typically just to distract me because it really just goes back to what I said I mean a lot of people are living a fake life they are fake people they don't want to take accountability they don't want to respond to the best of their ability they don't want to accept their faults and mistakes their flaws and imperfections and they just can't stand anything real if it's real they want to keep it down or they want to run away from it but in actuality they are just trying to destroy or run away from their authentic selves if they even have that anymore I'm sure many of them discard about a long time ago but I'm sure as many of you are here that is not what I intend to do I accept both the good and bad parts of myself I accept my positive but also my negative characteristics as well I accept my faults and mistakes I accept my flaws and imperfections and I want to use them to become the greatest version of myself which is something I've been doing for many years now and I will continue to do it those of you who subscribe to that you're very welcome here anyone else you're on the wrong channel if you want to deny the truth, reality you need to go somewhere else Trude VW says Christopher has that glow like all super empaths do we literally glow that's very true and I'm not just reading that out just blow up my own ego it's more because it just reminds me of my own personal experiences with other empaths they really do have a glow and you can just see that glitter in their eyes you can see that they see you they recognise you as a separate person with your own feelings and needs yes, that is the glow that you will see in other empaths Warren Jefferson, you are very welcome I'm glad that you're finding this advice helpful there's always a lot of trolls in the comments but that's just how it is they gravitate to empathic people and why? because we care we feel we feel another person's emotions as if they were our own and believe it or not but there is actually very rare in today's world from my research only 1-2% of the world's population are empaths people who can feel and share another person's feelings and experience yes, that is actually a very rare trait in today's world so many trolls in the live chat today I'm sure you can all see all these weird comments but that's how it goes when you start becoming successful you will attract a lot of haters a lot of people who oppose you especially when you're speaking the truth because most people in this world do not want the truth they do not want reality but people like ourselves we can't help it we desire truth we desire love and that is acceptance not only of the good but also the bad narcissists just want to deny or run away from all of that and just live a false existence 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