So I'm going to speak on designing the browser. I don't know how many of you understand what I'm going to speak on. For that, what designing on the browser means, in simple words, is making a mock-up in marketing. That's the simple definition. Does anyone have any problem in understanding this? I would appreciate if you could hold this one. OK, markup is primarily in HTML, if I have to make it in HTML. You want to design a mock-up in HTML. That's what in plain language it means. And designing the browser is something that is not new, but over the period of time, somehow Photoshop, Illustrator, Firework, and all these graphic editors, they came in between the process and the exact thing. Whenever I use Photoshop for all my presentation, it's going to simply mean any graphic solution. OK, don't run after Adobe for that, all right? That's what I'm doing. So if you're in the wrong room, this is the right room. I'm solving music, photography, coffee, food, more food, more food. Goes by the name of Mirals. We are located in Delhi, and how smugly we are as small as this room. I'm not sure if it's set up to be like this, but unfortunately, it looks like this. So. It's pretty cool because he's in that side. I think so. He has a smile about it. Anyways, so we can say it's a combination of people who put it. Definitely, it's not a simple design. There is art, there is technology, there is process, there is engineering, a mixture of lots of things. That is what the design is. And I can say that it's. So when the background program is working, and these two general users, it looks like that's not creative enough. He's just coding something I don't understand anything. But when you see a website, you think, oh, this is program, and this is creative, this is new, this is good. So most of the projects start off. So there's an idea, worst way of doing it. Because most projects that we have come across, many projects that we have come across, many clients we have come across, many people we have come to a different set of needs, have totally forgotten this. They already come up with a solution or idea. They say, okay, I want to create this thing, but where is the purpose part, and that is completely lost. It's just gone. But I feel in this process, what should have happened is, instead of flowing like this, purpose and design combined should actually create that. And the designs would actually come much further before you actually start thinking of the idea of the solution. And this can further a design, and development should actually form the product. Instead of going in a step by step thing, where you first think of the idea, and deal with the next person, do the coding, give it to the users. It should happen differently. And you have these four stakeholders you can see in this entire process. Keeping it simple there is a stakeholder who can be a product owner investing in that idea. There's a designer involved. There's a developer involved. And throughout this thing, I've only been front-end developer. And developer, of course, his hands are tied. The designer gives. This is what you have to do. The user cannot react to that. He has only experienced whatever the final product is. And in this process, what happens is, the stakeholder actually communicates to the designer. The designer gives his output to the developer. The developer finally, the output goes to the user. And what is given is the stakeholder gives a brief to the designer. The designer works up a solution and many a times produces a photoshop mockup for a static raster image mockup. Gives it to the developer. This is usually pixel-perfect mockup. The developer on the other hand, now I'm interested in coding. Now you have a working website which goes to the user. This thing has a problem. And I want to play a video on this. So what Akash experienced for most is when there's a different designer and there they throw it over to the world. They think the entry starts implementing that. They realize there are a few problems in that. They have few changes in the design proposed. But they can't in itself. So if a designer and a developer is working in silos or if they are not interacting with each other, that's a problem. So what is the problem? Lessons. Basically they can align things. To align things. To align things. To align things. Is the role in the grid to just act? In the grid I think the problem is that what do you do? In what form? What should be the outcome of the design? Design is the problem. I somewhat agree with that. So what the problem is that the grid is not a class of hands. An image that a model of the image that is produced by a designer is better explained by works. Not how it looks or feels because a visual design in images is just a visual. That is just how it will look and it cannot tell how it works. Then the work of a designer is much more than that. If see that the rendering in a Photoshop is very different, it includes different things like in a pixel-perfect manner. Unless it will have a consistent bit of a cross. That is a problem. Similarly, responsive design is more that a lot of hard work that you have to do on Photoshop to do it. Similarly, we will look similar across for any client. So the model is trying to show that this is how my website is going to look. But the website's look will change depending on which browser it is opening in. And that is something that a client or the person who is trying to understand the model will never experience how it changes. That can be the same in every Photoshop. And if you go there, it doesn't matter, it still works. It's still giving a different experience for that person, but the experience is still complete. If you go i7, it is very much like a i6. So, any client, you cannot show how the model is going to change. You cannot have any more boxes working. How will the errors follow? Is it going to change? This cannot be demonstrated on a flat dimension. It's very marvellous. A lot of photodynamic software is these days, but we will change this. There are some complexities. Now, when you take a report, there are lots of complexities that are, that contain. And that is something that perhaps your designer never saw before, because perhaps, because he's not good at it. So if you have a varying text, which is something that you cannot do in CSS today, and you try to put it there, then it's on the same way. There's a hit of the semantics as well. So, these things are automatic. You don't see that. And say 30 characters, or 40 characters. How does the browser behave in that case? You cannot demonstrate that inside a strategy machine. Browser supports better features. The more recent features, for example, if your browser supports CSS 3, you can put a browser on it. If the browser does not have CSS 3, it's okay. Box. But it works. It still works, right? And similarly, if there's no JavaScript in that, there should again not be a browser at all. So if you assume that it's a wrong assumption to make that there will always be JavaScript in the client's computer. So, at times, we actually change the entire static image buffer that you make and only show the final image. It will not show what will occur since there was no JavaScript in that. The solution to this is perhaps to come simple because that is what has to be judged. For that is what you would want to see and understand how the website feeds. How comes in designing the browser? Because if you design the browser, then the mock-up that you create is a functional website in itself. It may not be feature-complete, but in the next few operations, you'll keep adding the details inside it. The flow that we follow about this, we first look at the UI flows. What we try to use is, there's a very simple technique shown by 27 Signals, which is a shorthand to show UI flows. You just Google it and you'll find it. And what he says is simply know what is in the user scene, what are the options he has, and say you go to the second page. That is a simple diagram flow. Then you decide what content goes in your website, as to where the layout is going to be and then we jump into the content. The content will not have any styling because even without CSS, the content should be perfectly displayed using the default browser styles. And once we jump into the code, we let the design go incrementally and vibrate it. So we make one iteration, say we are working in a 1B vibration. We'll make one iteration of the design, show it to the user, and you see it, you evaluate it, and then you say, okay, this is the direction that I like. You tell us, and then we, and then we scratch, but an improvement already shared in a certain set of limitations that we have. But apart from those benefits being overcome, there are other things. Firstly, it's the real deal. It's the real system that the users are going to interact with. And in order to view your website in the browser suit, design it, the browser does have several constraints, and it can automatically answer the constraints of your strategy. The moment you start designing things are used, it's just the font I use. There are certain platforms to be used, others will not work for different purposes. So you automatically understand to use the right things. You should, you would also be able to answer, should the mouse button look like this, which is something that you cannot define in your Photoshop mouse. Uh, yes. It can demonstrate that, and the moment you, and you can do quick migrations. And this is what JCB decided, let's say you make changes, because if you want to make changes in Photoshop, then you have to go back to code, and make changes there. You have to do one of these, go back to code. Now that is a slow process, and it's not meant to do that. Happen with that. Another thing that we can now do is collaboration. If it's in a code base, and if the design is in a code base, then you, you want to go on a page, someone else is trying to put a bottom line on the page. That can now be done, if you have actually done it. It is usable right from the start. The moment you make one iteration of your design, you can actually put it out to the users that will then start using it. So if you have a, let's say a simple, if you have a software that is, is large in size, you first want the users to sign up. Then you can send it to the sign up, put it out to the user, the user starts signing up. Then you can do the other part of the design, and put it out to the users again. Now you can sign up, now you can log in as well. So that is something that is excellent, because if you put the sign up, you get the user feed. You also have enough time to improve on that, while the product is being done. So that's good. So all over states, how does one enter the name, what are the JavaScript calls that have been made, some changes in the layout that might be happening. Everything can be done. Two is because of certain things, and one of the things that I just found out, that is something that is assumed for that, and every time a client comes to us, many times, many times they say, okay, I have developers with me, so give me a static mock-up, I'll give it to my developers and we'll work that in the code. But we reply back that I have to design a system in CSS, and they be surprised because they've been starting off. Now, this is a problem, they also had to design the manufacturing process, how it will work, how does the machines hold this very complex, very complex type of machine that has to hold this part and manufacture it all throughout the processing life and then produce it. So by the end of the day, they started designing the body and not just a bit of website, the code in the CSS is the industry process to get it onto the web. Something that Zedman said, we are the designers, I hope, or many staff or in this way, they are designers who might not be able to write actual code, but probably this reply by Zedman, he is, I would say, he can mark out the excellent telephone, but you are designing it. But you do need to know how much possible to mark out the CSS. If you don't know the possibilities, what is possible with CSS and HTML and JavaScript, and you go on designing, then there's a problem. So you may choose to go on designing, but you should know how the markout works. Now, in the worst case, if you come out of code with your own blood and willing to learn how to code, I think the solution is this, but this is definitely the worst case solution. What you need to do is you will clear up the error. Keep the error about this idea because you want to design the experience as well and not just the visuals. And that is something that was very affected by the first session by Rahul and Akash over here, where they explained where the designer and developer were going to find out where the process was. Now, if you can go out, then you actually don't need to clear up that is all. The thing is, another problem is designers love Photoshop. The contrast is not there but there's a variety of things. Okay, designers love Photoshop. Okay, say you can code but you still love Photoshop. I love Photoshop and design other things. There are limitless possibilities and this is creativity of very powerful tool. It's possible to do things with it or design things with it. Now, I don't have to talk about this much. I told you the importance of the code to be able to do things. Now, about but you see, browsers are probably right on the right side. I don't know where it can be any more powerful than that. That is, as much power that you can have on the line. You can do rounded corners. Today with CSS3 you can do rounded corners. You can do radians. You can do shadows. Everything that you have slowly, Photoshop and other graphic designers is going becoming less and less relevant for these kind of processes. Basically, creating creative models. Now, it just tells you these are the things that I can do and these are the things I cannot do. And if you're trying to do that, something that I cannot do you are going to take that somewhere else. That is, probably you would try to make a image slice and put it there, which is not the best way to do the make internet. So, it's a constraint that is following you which has to be enthrased and speed. Okay, and take this button so, I go and it starts slow, but the pace picks up like anything. Today, you have a blue thing you want to convert it into a red thing. Try doing it in Photoshop. You have to put it right in front of your site. Try putting it into red. All of them. But if you have it built in, browsers, at that point of time, two lines of code that you can change in CSS and that thing will send. So, then it becomes fast. And this is how probably the graph leaves if you are designing the process. Like this at a later point of time, and in Photoshop, it will work. But actually, it starts slow. That's what it does. That's also put up there. Go ahead. Since it's touristy, the cost will change as well. You cannot build a house today and tomorrow you say, okay, I'll go and see what I should have done.  It's not that quick. It's not that cheap. It's not that easy to do. But that's why that's how it's going to be. And change is much easier than this. It's not complicated. But there are a few reference over here. Three links. These links are also I put these links over here. The difference that's right there. How we work with something that I already stated and we define the flow and then we get the coordinate with the jump to the core and we do everything. That's exactly how we continue doing it. Paper mockup is something that we are not expected to be clicked on. It's not on the screen and we create other slides to say that process. But even if I'm going to release the presentation model see how good it is. And Photoshop has a significant role. Now I don't deny that Photoshop is completely dead. It's you don't use Photoshop that you have designed. That's because you still have to design your products. And all these things Photoshop has been made and it's a popular tool. It has good things. It can do good things. But its power does not incline to the web. For the web for designing models for the web. Now if you have any questions you can ask me but what I think is the design of the browser makes sense is something that it's not a silverware. You have to understand aesthetics you have to understand accessibility you have to understand every design of the browser. Without that you wouldn't be designing good websites by statement and that's all you have to understand. So I try to design models because I don't have Photoshop and I'm going to work with the design of the browser is a simple task of choosing the background of my header and the external these two things it took in all this work because it was going to look like this. So I go to a site which gives me different color themes and I think about them. I try that it doesn't work now because I can click on that element and this is good and then click on the text okay that can show feedback it's not there it's just okay. So I think visual changes in photography is I suppose not as the responses we shown on one of the browsers I change the image I click on the text which one of the things you can perhaps you can use color switch the color see the color but you have to actually see it whichever color shape you like you copy the text value and paste it there and that is something that is once approached but for the even better than that is the image web inspector in the browser it will show you what will happen and there are tools that are coming up I don't I don't use it myself but after the session this talk to me there are I don't know how to use that but you can these are things in CSS these are special keyword values right the text as soon as you go there you can change the shape of the text something different yes you cannot do that but surely I see that there will be something which will be easy to do again photos I am not denying the power of Photoshop at all as a matter of time Spino divorce still been for doing this but I find designing on the browser will be so efficient and it gets better with time and the speed accelerates as I said initially you might be worrying about these color tones and that color tone at the later part of time the browser will be changed to change the port the browser immediately changes the color slowly and slowly and you will be able to pick now picking the right press me it remains hard it can always be on on top of that as you choose the right color it is not you are not sure that is the exact color that you will see on every modicum you will see it on some other modicum it will look different so if you have to go as you have different advantage if you are doing if you have a comment supposedly or a comment you might be going to monitor some things but this is not a base that is there but over a period of time you that is too small limitation might be so maybe just make sense that your graph your time the graph process that initial part it makes sense that we improve that just to get now just look at iterative processes that I am saying in our can you start making it? I don't know I wouldn't do that but maybe it is like it is in my head I want to get it as a picture or something that I can see okay to get that then we focus on it like what is the what is the if it works for you it is good like changing this method changing the process is more to do with what works for you if you see an advantage and this will slowly say that I don't need to do that but as I said it is so bad Photoshop are at times better than I just use the right face and whether it is looking good or not now if Photoshop is not giving me the right thing which I can see on the browser which is how the browser will show me bits of fail so that is what is the closing process you think yeah that is what can you do like you can make it public now also that is how good this process works the first thing that I pointed out in my presentation is you have separated relatively different roles these are actually a role that should come closer to each other with each passing day for front end code designers need to be able to code and developers need to understand because what happens in your case is if the company is lost if the model is made given to the developer when he goes on to make the working code there are lots of problems that he runs into at that point of time he is the person who is making design decisions which he should not be the designer should be responsible because the designer never intended to do it at that right you guys have a difference I don't think it will say what you are doing is the app itself so are you trying to accomplish the working or are you trying to play simple jazz with HDM and cases we go from such so what I mean is let's say you are trying to play jazz with I what I am doing is what we start with is playing jazz with HDM and code which is separate from the design the the buttons are working but that the output of this is actual HDM then the problem is after you integrated using to prove out the same is I can use to do the template is something done from scratch template done from scratch now if you choose to not do it that is a very difficult thing we can take the same my question wouldn't you actually start at your own screen it would be easier to show you can do You have to have that data inside your database module to actually throw the different outputs. You cannot hard forward. That is the reason I want to use the template because I can do it differently. Okay, time has begun this morning.


I've been promoting 14 years and I've been in a number of different communities and I've never seen one as cool as Ruby. The language is really cool, of course, but the community is really special and it's kind of hard to put your finger on what is so special about it. There's a passion, there's a willingness to share and to support one another and those are pretty unique things, great online community. I think a lot of our communities are kind of catching up with some of that, but one of the things that's really interesting is our conferences. I mean, wow, we totally just knock out of the park with our conferences. This is actually a conference that I run in Boulder. Thank you. But the thing is, first of all, Ruby Conference is amazing and considering how it was back in 2001 when it started means it's a community driven, it's totally about you, it's about us. I mean, people would actually pay money, their own money to go to this conference to learn and share and collaborate with other people, whereas other conferences back then were very much about corporate agendas or marketing or selling products or what not. It certainly weren't quite as driven about the people who are in the seats as the Ruby Conference has happened. And it's amazing, I think, of all the regional Ruby conferences that are out there now. I mean, there's one nearly every month, during conference season, you know, from spring to fall, there's almost one every weekend. And right now there's a string of them down in South America, so it's amazing. I don't know if you realize how many of these conferences are out there, but they're everywhere. And of course, here we are in Kansas City and it's sold out. That's awesome. But I think we can do better. And although I'm not going to focus on the conference circuit or our online community, I think it's all great. I want to focus on local because I think that is where we can really amp it up here and it's also something that you guys all can do something about. So of course, we need to go on a community safari for this. This, by the way, is the Banjo Billy bus. So at Rocky Mountain Ruby on our B, we use this bus to take people from the conference hotel to the Avery Tap Room and have some awesome craft beer. Then yes, indeed, that's what we got in. So safari away. So there's three points that I want you to, there's two focus points that I want you to think about ways you can improve your local community. So the first one is we need more programmers. There are not enough people out there programming Ruby. There's too much demand. And I don't think one that schools are going to be able to keep up to the companies can train. I think that really this should belong in the role of the community to help find people that want to program and give them the path to get into that. Number two, leveling up, getting better. There are a lot of ways you can do this on your own online. But as a community, I want to see more structured ways that people who are new, who want to learn Ruby or who already exist in the community are doing Ruby a way for them to get better. And finally, if my thing will work, there we go. I don't know, field batteries. Community raising. This is the idea of going out and fostering communities or groups in places that are underserved. This is the idea that I was hypothetical. I don't really know, but let's say that you, there's nothing in Topeka, Kansas, but yet you might go and help start something in Topeka, Kansas to make that better, perhaps. So let me talk a little bit about my story. So this is Long's Peak. This is a view from long months about my back door. I moved actually to Colorado in 2005 from the Kansas City area. I was living in Lawrence. And when I moved out there, I didn't know anybody at all. Actually, my job was remote, so I didn't actually have office mates that I could go and learn the way of the land from. But I was a brave source. I didn't matter. I went out and networked aggressively. I also was discovering Ruby at this point. And I was really disappointed by that. There was no one talking about Ruby back then in the area. So I went and started to pull to Ruby to talk about Ruby because I wanted to meet other Rubyists and talk about that. And that's been about six years now since I've done that. And it's going great. But when I did this, I actually didn't know what I was doing. I just knew what I wanted to talk about Ruby. But I didn't know how to run events. I didn't know how to grow a user group or any of that sort of thing. I just started asking questions and just did it. And so a lot of what I'm going to share with you today is to help you do this sort of thing or other things like that without making mistakes and give you a leg up on the process. I also progressed into doing conferences. And I don't know how this actually happened. I think Mike Moore and Pat Eiler dragged me into Mountain West back in 2007. And that just sort of took off. I think probably a little crazy. So although I've done these things, I don't necessarily recommend you go Marty crazy route in terms of event organizing. But of course, now I have my own conference in Boulder. And I'm called Rocky Mountain Ruby. And it's a lot of fun. So we're going to talk about what you can do. Because you don't have to be Marty, you can actually be anybody who wants to help out and is willing to put in the effort, you can do this. Now this is a picture of Prakash Murphy. And Prakash, his only program about a year and a half, he came to the Boulder area and he saw myself out in Chad Fowler. And he said, I want to get better. I want to learn Ruby and I want to get involved. And so we gave him some advice. He really went to a he taught himself how to program, he got an internship and now he's consulting. And what's really cool is within about six months, he decided he wanted to help out build the local community by doing code retreats and bug mashers. He took it upon himself. He didn't ask me for permission. He didn't say, Marty, can you make this happen for us? He just went and did it. And he's loving it. And so if Prakash can do it, then any of you can do it for certain. So we're going to focus on local because I think that's where you can make the most difference. It's also the easiest thing for you to do. You don't have to go big do larger bits like this one. They're very daunting to pull off. You can do something very simple and something that is local, because that's where you can find the people you can bring them out, you can help them get better. And and it's going to be feasible for you to do this. So the thing I want to encourage you to do is be intentional. Don't be accidental about what you want. Think about what your goal is. Where are you going to try and accomplish? Don't try to take on too much. Take on just what you want to try to do. And think about my three points that I mentioned earlier, whether you want to bring new programmers in or maybe have an event that makes people better or maybe perhaps gross community in another location. Think about what you want to do. Who's aware of what this phrase means? This is an acronym, actually, this is MOTS. MOTS course, the creator of Ruby. And this stands for MOTS is nice. And so we are nice. Kind of funny, isn't it? Well, I think someone made from Japan coined that perhaps. I don't know. I'm not sure. Do we know who actually coined this? I'm not sure. I've known it for a few years. But this is really cool. And I think this is a great example of what I would call intentional community. Although, Matt's did not intend this probably when he first started. He went course created Ruby, he wanted a programming language that he would love to program and it would bring happiness back to programming. And so that drives a lot of what he does when he develops Ruby and build the language up. But it also, I think directs how he interacts with community. Very nice guy. And also, I think, with Dave Thomas and the people who got involved with Ruby as it came to the English speaking world, I think it drove sort of what they wanted to do and how open and how willing they were to share and how they wanted to help other people by spreading Ruby and doing Ruby comp. I think this all has set a template has driven sort of this pattern of how we as Rubyists are how we treat other people that is carried forward to today. I think it's pretty sure I guarantee that that this is why Ruby community is so awesome than what it could have been if somebody else was driving Ruby instead of Matt. And of course, I have a name for this. It's called the community template. And this is sort of an intangible, maybe energetic thing. It surrounds us, it penetrates us, it binds us together. And it's, you can think of it as like your intentions, what you intend to do it, you know, people feel it, they feel the vibe.  So as you're thinking about what you want to do, your intentions will manifest in a certain way. You might attract certain people to your event, it might not attract certain people to your event. So I think it's very important that you're aware, you're kind of what what your intentions are, as you plan out your event. So of course, the first step you do is you plan out your plot, you figure out what exactly it is that you're going to try to do, consider what's going on already in your community, but give it some thought and go ahead and intentionally go about that process. Another point I want to make about this planning process is planning for your zone. Just like how you wouldn't necessarily take an orange tree from Florida, and try and plant it in Kansas City and have an orange grow, it's not going to work, right? Because orange trees don't grow here because it's the wrong zone. The same thing goes for community events. You know, if there's an event that's really successful in San Francisco, or say New York, or even Boulder, it might not fly so well here or in Des Moines, or maybe Wichita, Kansas or something like that.  How what's the level of expertise in terms of programming? What sort of business community support for Ruby or for technology is there? And you have to consider those things before you set your ambitions for a certain type of event. I think any event can be successful in any community. It just you have to be realistic about what you're going to be able to pull out, at least initially. So there's three event styles that I'd like to you to consider as you're putting together your event. The first one we're going to talk about is lecture. And that is essentially what is happening right now. It is where you have one person presenting information to a large group of people. It is pretty good at say, inspiring and giving out lots of information coming a lot of ground is not so good for conversations.  The next component is social. And social, I think is really important. I think actually, the Ruby community has a social thing down pretty well. But I think that social is every community should have a regular social component that's happening. This is where you get you get together and you're hanging out, perhaps their beverages and there's food involved, but it's unstructured. It's allows people to have conversations. And this is where people will ask tough questions or will have those type conversations. And they will also form a bond with each other, they'll get to know each other, and they'll be a better level of trust and a sense of community that comes when you have these sorts of events happening on a regular basis. And finally, interactive. Interactive. This is your hackfest or code retreats, any sort of hands on workshops, things where people are working together with other people, doing actual things on their laptops or whatnot. And I think interactive sessions are probably underrepresented in local communities. I think it is definitely the one that is the best for honing skills and mentoring. And that is very important if you want to improve your the skills of the people involved in your community. Now this talk, I gave us a RubyConf and it was a lot longer there. So I distilled it down. And so one of the things I've done is I've taken probably a dozen slides out of this talk. And I put it on a blog post called a bit organizing 101. There's a bit like to it. These slides, they are available. I'll post a link probably through Twitter, maybe we'll retweet it through Ruby Midwest account. So you can get to this after the fact. But I've gone through a ton of things very low level, nuts and bolts types of things about how to organize and run events. Things like how do you find space? How do you find sponsors? How do you do budgets? How do you reach out and find people and tell them about your event? All kinds of things like this. And I encourage you also after you read this, if you're going to do an event type of thing, then after you read, if there's any questions or I didn't put something in there that you really want to know about, please leave a comment on the site and I'd be happy to either expand the post or do a follow up post. I will say one thing though or a couple of things about doing event organizing. And that is you should ease into it. Don't try to take on too much for your first event. And of course, I recommend you always start small and let it grow organically.  Do something simple, use Twitter, use word of mouth through your friends and the people you work with. Try to keep your event free and low cost. I mean the minute that you have a lot of expenses and you have to write checks to venues and to caterers and what sort of that, that really ups the ante and makes it a little more nerve wracking for your event. But you can do free events. They're great and I recommend you start with that. Of course, look for a sponsored space. You know, have audio video provided by people that either have the space or by other tech companies. And delays are expenses that you can't. You can always add this stuff on later on, especially if your events are taking off.  So let's talk about the specifics points that I mentioned. I'm going to give you some concrete examples and some things you can think about to accomplish some of these things. So throwing programmers. The first thing I would say is consider how inviting your event is to newbies. If you are new to programming or to Ruby or you didn't know anybody in this group, if you were to show up to your event, how would you feel?   This is a real concern that a lot of our events, just by the nature of how they are and how they've adapted over time, they probably aren't that people aren't going to stick with it. And there are a couple of suggestions that you can do here. One, you can have, say, a section of your event, depending on what it is, be totally newbie friendly. Make it very clear that this portion of the event, no experience required, you don't have to have. The topic is covered, it's very introductory or whatnot. That's one of the way of doing it. The other one is actually have an event, a frequent event in your community that is totally geared towards movies like A Meet Ruby Night or a Intro to Programming Night. That would be another way that you can kind of push people who are new to your community to go into this and kind of get them introduced so that then they can come to your regular events and feel more comfortable with that. The other piece is diversity. This is Sarah Allen from RailsBridge and Sarah Allen and Sarah May do this RailsBridge workshop that specifically encourages women to get into Ruby Programming. And I think that diversifying your population is really important. I think that it's not easy and I'm not going to give you a lot of tips here tonight about how we could possibly do that mainly because it would take too long. And I'm actually not the most expert person on diversity. There's a lot of other speakers that have done talks that are on the video that are available that you can watch on this topic. But I'll say two things. First of all, you need to be hypersensitive about how your event is perceived by people of a different gender or maybe nationality or something like that.  These cues, perhaps it's the language that's used in the meeting, perhaps it's how maybe some of the events that are happening. It's something you just have to be hypersensitive to to make sure that you aren't setting up any barrier that people are not comfortable with. The other thing you can do is explicitly invite them out saying we would like you to come to our event. And by doing so, they'll say, well, I really thought that I'd be welcome there but now that I have been invited, perhaps I'll come out. So these are two things that you can consider for diversity, but I do think it's an important thing, especially in terms of growing your population of programmers in your group. So reach beyond. And you don't have to be Reed Richards to do this. You can be just a normal world, a normal person not even during like that. And the thing the thing I want to say about this is we all have our tech circles. You know, our Twitter followers, people that normally frequent our events and that we normally talk to. There are more people out there than that, unless you're some amazing network, you know, awesome guy or whatever in the community. There's probably a lot of people doing Ruby or programming that would be really interested in your type of events that are out there that you're not reaching. They're not hearing, they don't know about your event, that you know, they're not getting the updates. And it's not going to be easy, but you can reach them. And so I think with this point is that you have to be creative and try some different avenues to go out and find them and let them know about your event. And again, like with diversity, you want to invite them out and make them welcome by having a specific event or part of your event. It's for them. Finally, the next generation. And that's with children. There's actually two kind of cool movements going on right now out there that is specifically for kids. And I know specifically about kids Ruby, that's Ron Evans and some of his friends bring that together. And it's really pretty cool. It's a lightweight curriculum. There's about programming geared towards children. It's fun. I think right now they have maybe a lot of days worth of material, but they're constantly expanding it. And this is something that you can go to the website and you can take this and you can run kids Ruby day or whatever in your local community. And this can be a lot of fun. This is a picture that Ron sent me from one of their events that they did. And I think it's a great way of introducing programming to the next generation showing this is actually pretty cool stuff. You know, this is not rocket science. You know, you can do this stuff and you can actually have a lot of fun on the way. So never too early to get them introduced to that. So here's a few other ideas that you might consider for expanding your growing your programmers. I've mentioned the new Ruby stuff, new programmer outreach. Cherry training workshops kind of like what happened yesterday is another great thing. It's structured. It's it's free. Maybe perhaps it's a duration only required. It gives back to the communities. There's a lot of good press about that. You might even be able to get a newspaper to do an article about your community training workshop, perhaps meeting mashups. This is something that we did in Boulder where we had the Boulder Android user group and the Boulder Ruby user group met in the same space the same day. We actually had two different rooms who weren't like fighting for the stage or anything like that. But but we did have a common space where mingling. That was really pretty interesting. You know, kind of picked under a guy's but you know, whatever it is. It's all fair. Volunteering at schools. There's a lot of public schools out there, middle schools and high schools that are happy to have professionals or dads, moms would not come in and talk about programming to their students. So another way of reaching out. So leveling up, giving people better. Of course, wherever I think about this topic, I think about Kathy Sierra and unfortunately she's not active speaking, blogging or on social media anymore. But her blog is still up. It's creating passionate users. There's the there's the link to it on the bottom there. And she has a ton of material. I don't really go into a lot of today, but she goes really deeply into how do you make people better? How do you make them rock when they're using your product or service or what? Yeah, I think that it would be worth your time if you want to go about this leveling people up, making them better to visit her site for about an hour or so. There's a lot of good material there. Toastmasters, Dr. Nick. Dr. Nick mentioned Toastmasters in the last year, year and a half. And I think this is really fascinating. This is an educational organization that's all about enhancing communication skills and leadership skills by doing things. And they have this real structured sort of program curriculum, if you will, of how you come in and things you need to do and getting to the next level. And I think it's a this is a model that certainly could work for programming, no doubt. And something you could possibly consider for your organization for an event you might want to do. And I thought of another parallel with this and that's Scouting. Scouting is another organization that's been around actually a hundred years, about the same time this Toastmasters was started. And it's very much hands-on skills improvement, you know, starting with very simple things to work here on what can pre-event skills. And it's something I think we could borrow. And it's actually my son here, he's in the front there working on a cooperative skill with another boy. I'm walking with these big boards on his feet. But so this is something actually we're starting. There's a repo down there which is called the Ruby Handbook, which is modeled off after the Boy Scout and Cup Scout handbooks. And there are basically activities or eventually will be activities. Right now, if you go to the repo, there's just a Ruby. That's all I was right now. I just started a few weeks ago and haven't got as far as I'd like, but there's a number of us in Boulder that are going to be working on this. And the idea is that it'll be small, different sort of activities. You can do like setting up your environment, you know, basic get work flow, you know, Ruby basics and stuff like that, that there'll be manageable chunks, they're self-guided, you can work on them on your own, and you can work, it'll be a great thing you could do some evening, you know, with the group of people you could work through an activity or two. And that's kind of the idea with it is it's just a lightweight guide that people could use to kind of cover the basis of basic programming. So hopefully that'll develop and become useful in the next few months. But there's the link to that. Coder Treats. I actually don't have to talk too much about this because Angel did a wonderful job mentioning Coder Treats. Coder Treats are awesome. We actually have the largest Coder Treat in Boulder in February. And of 60 people, I don't recommend a Coder Treat for 60 people. Too many. It was too big. It was overwhelming. Jad of Aller and Corey Haynes both facilitated this and it was, it was awesome but it was a little intense. So that you can imagine a closing circle. It was, we barely get everyone in their space in this big circle. It's very in. But, but Coder Treats are great. They're a great way of leveling their skills and they're a lot of fun. And it's awesome that of course December 3rd is Coder Treat Global Day. And I guess West has got the information on the local Coder Treat here in Kansas City. I know we have four of them in Colorado that we're doing. And definitely check it out. Highly, highly recommended. Yes, Angel. And there's still time to make it. That's right. And the Coder Treat model is so that you can go and do it. I would highly recommend you probably go to one first. So you kind of know what you do and how to go about facilitating Coder Treat. But the idea is that Corey wants you to do this. He wants you to do your own Coder Treats in your own community and you don't need Corey to show up. I mean I think he still likes to go to some of them but he can't keep up with all of them now. So Coder Treats. Some other ideas. Proper programming challenges. We have one of these in one of our Hackfest in Boulder where they have a little programming challenge. Kind of like what happened last night. But you can do something like that. Kind of like a Ruby quiz sort of thing. And I think because there are a lot of fun in terms of giving some sort of structure for people to kind of work on. And then bug mashes. Bug mashes are another great thing. You're likely to get back to the community. It's structured. It's a great way of pairing with someone and getting better. So community raising. I will mention only a few things for this and I'll let you read the slides. I'll mention a little bit on the last one. This is of course the idea that you're going into a place where there's not a lot of support for Ruby events yet and you're kind of helping one go. The last one is an interesting one that I like to encourage and this has happened with the Coder Treats is where you might set up an event in a community that you're not part of. And you'll go and of course you'll hopefully find someone there so you can kind of get word out. But the idea is that you'll have some cool like a Coder Treat or like a Ruby day or something like that that you can do like a one time thing and then hopefully after that's done there'll be you know a handful of people or more from that little community that might say hey let's keep this going let's do something with that. So that's an idea but so let's let's regardless of all these ideas I want you to be creative you know don't just do the boring old user group thing I mean I think the user groups are great I don't I think they're vital to have going in your community but I want you to be more creative now I want you to think about those three points I mentioned earlier and how can you make your community better by doing something interesting take some risk have some benefit and yeah have fun. So one thing about main organizing is it can be a lot of work and if you're not carefully can burn yourself out and that's no good so make sure you're having fun make sure that it doesn't become a chore and get help you know how people help you so you don't have to do it by yourself because that's the quick way to burn up so remember to have fun and I want to say it's also very very rewarding when I started doing this six years ago I had no idea the amount of growth that I would go through and I get a lot of feedback from people who approached me and say Marty I really appreciate that mentoring you gave me or you know that one event you ran I learned so much you gave me confidence to do these other things it's awesome so it's incredibly rewarding to do this sort of stuff so if you go on this path you will be rewarded so I highly recommend it so get involved make a goal be intentional about it smart start small and have fun with it and make your community better thank you what are bug mashes bug mashes are fairly informal gather where people get together and they work on bugs usually rails bugs in pairs for half a day or something you know for a number of hours so just take a project you know this is a project exactly yeah exactly and I know with rails bug mashes they've had a number of them out over the last year or so and you can you can reach out to Tindall out to Aaron Patterson and he'll they'll be happy to get you set up with with the ideas behind that how do you how do you do it yes so you're talking about how do you do it how do you do it how do you do it like lectures social and interactive yes you also talked about how difficult it is to get newcomers to feel comfortable yes so of those three types of events which ones do you think are the most appealing I mean the interactive is probably the best for getting them better but then you can have the environment how can you who's traveling and get them started okay so the question is of the three types of events out there the event styles which one would be most attractive to newcomers and I would say all of them first of all lecture people especially who are new like the thought of coming and listening to someone who knows what they're talking about giving them information getting them started social is very important too because then they feel more comfortable after they've kind of broken the ice and spoken with people okay now I've been more comfortable kind of letting my guard down and getting involved and of course interactive as you mentioned is the best for holding their skills and there's actually no reason why you can't combine all three in one event but you know how when you structurally that what you decide what you're going to do like you have someone in front or you have everyone on tables together in pairs you know or you have mailing next to some food and beverages that's where you decide which type you're going to do for this part of the meeting yeah yeah I did not I did not mention Kota copy Kota copies are cool and we have one that meets every in this informal thing usually at the same place same time and there's not a lot of structure that's great for people collaborating talking about what they're working on maybe asking questions so yeah I didn't really talk about putting coffee at all easy is why it's very easy yes it's a great way of meeting other people so certainly that's that falls into that social thing I think it's very great for you to have some really low-frequency events like that that just happen on an ongoing basis for people to come out to so Kota copies are a wonderful thing that's usually in new in new communities where I see people kind of starting out the Kota copies usually the first thing they do or maybe a hack fest where some business says okay you know this night for the hack fest it just understand that you're not going to get a ton of people to come out to it but but there will be people to come out there make sure you always have someone at least being there it really sucks if you say it's a code of coffee and no one from the group is there and people show up and say what is this socks man I'm the ones here so you make sure there's someone's always there I think I agree it's definitely great it's definitely great well unless you're a morning person triathlet and then it's not hard at all do you have your since 7 am? no I don't no I don't I agree something ends up is a bad idea because only the nutty people in the morning get up and exercise and train and all that I don't know we do that but if there's someone like that then they might do it but the other people are like and you're nuts I'm not coming to that all right they were done thank you


It's crazy when you think about all the different kinds of foods we eat. We just swallow and hope it all works out for the best. Well, it turns out there are better ways to think about keeping our bodies humming healthfully along. Welcome to Nutrition Facts, I'm your host, Dr. Michael Greger. Today we explore the health benefits of Moringa. And no, it's not an exotic dance. In the west it's mainly available as a powder made from the Moringa plant. Here's our first story. Moringa is a plant commonly known as the Miracle Tree. Do its purported healing powers across a spectrum of diseases? If Miracle isn't hyperbolic enough for you, on the internet it's also known as God's Gift to Man. Is Moringa a miracle or just a mirage? The enthusiasm for the health benefits of Moringa is in dire contrast with the scarcity of strong experimental and clinical evidence supporting the claims. Fortunately, the chasm is slowly being filled. There's been a surge in scientific publications on Moringa, and in the last 10 years the number of articles is closer to a thousand. But what got my attention was the presence of glucosinolates, compounds that boost our liver's detoxifying enzymes. I thought they were only found in cruciferous vegetables like cabbage, broccoli, kale, collards, and cauliflower, but no. It turns out they're also found in the Moringa family, with potency comparable to broccoli. That's exciting, but why not just eat broccoli rather than mail ordering some exotic Moringa powder? Is there anything special about Moringa? It's been described as the most nutritious tree yet discovered. How much is that saying, though?  Supposedly, Moringa contains higher amounts of nutrients than most conventional sources. 10 times the vitamin A of carrots, 12 times the vitamin C of oranges, 17 times more calcium, the milk, 15 times more potassium, the bananas, 25 times more iron than spinach, and 9 times more protein than yogurt. First of all, even if all of this were true, this is for 100 grams of dry Moringa leaf. It's like 14 tablespoons, almost a whole cup of leaf powder. Researchers have had trouble getting people to even eat 20 grams, and so anything more would likely result in an excessively unpleasant taste due to the bitterness of the leaves. And secondly, the nutritional claims in these papers are quote-unquote adapted from fugly, which evidently is just some lay publication. If you go to the USDA nutrient database, though, and enter a more doable dose, like the amount you might get in a smoothie, about one tablespoon, for instance, a serving of Moringa powder has as much vitamin A as a quarter of one baby carrot, and as much vitamin C as one one hundredth of an orange. So an orange has as much vitamin C as 100 tablespoons of Moringa. A serving of Moringa powder only has a calcium of half a cup of milk, the potassium of not 15 bananas, but a quarter of one banana, the iron of a quarter cup of spinach, and the protein of a third of a container of yogurt. So yeah, it may be nutritious, but not off the charts, and certainly not what's commonly touted. So again, why not eat broccoli? It's got the AC, calcium, potassium, iron, and protein of broccoli. Moringa does seem to have anti-cancer activity in a petri dish against cell lines of breast cancer, lung cancer, skin cancer, and fibrosarcoma, while tending to leave normal cells relatively alone. But there hasn't been any clinical studies. Well, what's the point in finding out that Moringa enhances the sexual performance of stressed rats? What are you supposed to do with that? Studies like this one though started to make things a little interesting. Researchers were testing effects of a tablespoon Moringa leaf powder once a day for three months on antioxidant status, and saw a drop in oxidative stresses one might expect from eating any healthy plant food. But they also saw a drop in fasting blood sugars from prediabetic levels over 100 to more normal levels. Now, that's interesting. Should we start recommending a daily tablespoon of Moringa powder to diabetics? Was it just a fluke? Moringa and blood sugar control a review of the current evidence. Next. Clearly, in spite of the widely held belief in the health benefits of Moringa, the interest of the international biomedical community, the medicinal potential of this plant has been rather tepid, spectacularly hesitant, in fact, in exploring its nutritional medicinal potential. Other superfoods such as garlic and green tea have enjoyed better reception, but they also have more scientific support. There are thousands of human studies on garlic, and more than 10,000 on green tea, but only a few hundred on Moringa. The most promising appears to be on the effects of Moringa on blood sugar control. If you have people eat about five cookies, add about two teaspoons of Moringa leaf powder into the cookie batter, and even with the same amount of sugar and carbs the blood sugar surge is dampened. Just having people drink one or two cups of Moringa leaf tea before a sugar challenge suppress the elevation in blood sugar in all cases compared to those who drank plain water instead. No wonder Moringa is used in traditional medicine practice for diabetes, but you don't really know if it can help until you put it to the test. Diabetics were given about three-quarters of a teaspoon of Moringa leaf powder every day for 12 weeks, and got significant improvements in measures of inflammation, as well as long-term blood sugar control. But the reason they call it a quasi-experimental study is because there was no control group. The researchers just took measurements before and after, and we know that just being in a dietary study can lead some people to consciously or unconsciously eat more healthily, so we don't know what effect the Moringa itself had. Even in Moringa studies with a control group, it's not clear if the subjects were randomly allocated. Finally, a randomized placebo-controlled study using a tablespoon of Moringa a day failed to show any benefit on blood sugar control in type 2 diabetics. So we're left with a few studies showing potential, but most failing to show benefit. Why not just give Moringa a try to see for yourself? That's a legitimate course of action in the face of conflicting data. When we're talking about safe, simple, side-effect-free solutions, but is Moringa safe? Probably not during pregnancy, as about 80% of women folk in some areas of the world use it to abort pregnancies, and its effectiveness for that purpose has been confirmed, at least in rats, though breastfeeding women may get about a half cup boost in milk production based on six randomized, placebo-controlled, blinded clinical trials. Just because Moringa has long been used in folk medicine traditions in no way proves that the plant is safe to consume, lots of horribly toxic stuff like mercury and lead, for instance, have been used in traditional medical systems the world over. But hey, at least no major harmful effects of Moringa have been reported by the scientific community, or, more accurately, no adverse effects were reported in any of the human studies that have been conducted to date. In other words, no harmful effects have been reported until now. Stevens-Johnson syndrome, following Moringa leaf consumption. Stevens-Johnson syndrome is probably the most dreaded drug side effect, a rare but potentially fatal condition characterized by epidermal detachment. In other words, it can make your skin fall off. 14 hours after consuming Moringa, a guy broke out. The same thing had happened three months earlier, the last time he had eaten Moringa, causing him to suffer extensive lesions with blister formation over his face, mouth, chest, abdomen, and genitalia. This case report suggests that consumption of Moringa leaf is better avoided by individuals who are at risk of developing Stevens-Johnson. Although it can happen to anyone, HIV is a risk factor. 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In the previous modules, we have seen that the same speech activity if men do, it is shop talk. If women do, it is gossip. Whereas their features are the same, both are private talk. Both are done in absence of the other person. But with reference to gender, the same speech activity is taken differently, whereas both sexes do it. Let's see, gossip is bad when done by women. A kind of threat to men and other women. Because women also talk about other women in their absence. They can talk about their beauty relations and studies, anything. However, gossip by women is not always bad. It's not a matter of a stereotypical thing with women. All gossip is not bad by the women.  But during that, they talk with each other, that is private talk. But this private talk, if you call every private talk by women a gossip, this is not bad. During this talk, they discuss their home affairs and other things about their children, their careers, their marriages, etc. In light of these points which we have brought forward in this module, we think that we conclude that gender order assigns different meaning and different role to gossip by men and gossip by women. And this is purely a matter of ideology and convention. Otherwise, in reality, this is not the case. Our own culture has several examples, evidences to justify this claim.


Before we get into this video, I just want to let you guys know that Ginny's has been acting like a crab cat for the past like half hour. How? Yeah, how not? I've literally been sitting on my phone and I've never done anything like that. You've never done anything like that? No, never in my life. Oh yeah? Yeah, that was a little taste of what she was doing. What's going on, Infinite Fam? Welcome back to another video. If you guys are new to the channel, make sure you guys hit that subscribe button. Turn on your post notification bell. Leave a positive comment down below for a chance to get a whap. For a chance to get a shout out in the next video. That is right guys. So before we actually get into this video, I do have to say Bloober is behind this. I'm sure you guys are wondering how is he doing? He's doing just fine. He's been resting very sleepy the past like day and a half as you would assume he'd be. But again, everything is all good and great with him. But now on to today's video. Today, we are going to be reacting to our subscribers cheating stories of disclaimer. We are keeping this 100% anonymous. You guys were kind enough to share your stories with us and your not so fun experiences. So we won't respect your privacy. But some of you are still mad till this day. Based on just how you guys like typed it to us, we can tell you guys are still like very upset about it as you guys should be. But what we're going to be doing is I'm going to read off one. Janice is going to read off another and we're going to go back and forth until we have no more. So who wants to start it off first? You can start first. Oh, that's fine. That's fine. Gentlemen. See, what a gentleman.  Chivalry is in. What? Gentle woman. You just call me a woman? Actually, yeah. Ladies first. Three, two. I'm frozen. I'm hurt. Yo, that's staying in the video. That's staying in the video. That is the proof that I was looking for the show that you was being a cry head. Where did that come from? Let's make it into the video, guys. That's what it is. That's example number one.  All right, guys. So here we go. My first one is my ex pretended to be on a business trip, but was that a hotel close to us with his manager? Now, girl, it's a girl, right? It's a girl. Yes, it is a girl.  That was a what would you call that? That's like some work work scandal. Yeah, a lot of a lot of cheating stories happen in the workplace where that see that goes back to like the video. We did like a couple of days, not even a couple of days ago. A couple of weeks ago, we were like all that work wife exactly. Yeah. He was probably calling her. Oh, yeah. That's my work wife or whatever.  An example, guys. Prime example. Girl, I hope you moved on from that because obviously he ain't. Yeah, seriously. This is a long story, but this girl went through her ex's phone because he was acting sketchy. They were together for two years and they were living together. And she found out that he was living a whole Hannah Montana lifestyle.  Not only that, but he was entertaining so many other different women and had another snap chat that he would talk to them on and he would send nudes, a whole bunch of pictures, etc. And once she found out, he tried to act like being a victim pretty much. And she still was like, I had screenshots and evidence. She said that he's still doing it to this day and she's the only one who got her heart broken. So wait, she's still with him? No, she said that they're no longer together and that he goes and tells all of his friends actually that she was the one who cheated. Wow!  That's crazy. And he had a baby with someone else. Hey, yo. That's insane. You had me surprised. I have so many more like these.  Literally, I'm glad you know. Yeah, that's what I'm talking about, right? That's... Right? Right. Wrong. Say it. Say it, I'm the exception. Say it. I'm the exception. You just always got to find a loophole with everything, I swear. Nah, but for real though, that's crazy. He was really living a second life. That one honestly left me speechless. I don't got really much to say about that. I actually have someone that are like crazier than that. Really? Yeah. Let's hear your next one. I feel like you got the crazy ones, right? Well, I feel like all of mine are short compared to yours. This one says, I called my ex cheating on me in our room and I was three months pregnant at the time. Damn, bro. I feel like a lot of these cheating stories have to do with like the guy cheating while the girl's pregnant. Most likely how like they're all gonna be. Most of the times it's like the men cheat, but I'm not gonna lie, there are women out there that be cheating. We're not gonna act like that's not a thing. But most of the time I will say you will find the man cheating first. But dang, bro, you're gonna cheat on your girl when she's already three months pregnant. And three months pregnant, that's fresh into the pregnancy. So what the hell?  Not even to mention like the type of stress and what that's gonna do to her emotionally. That also affects the baby. That's really tough.   Yeah, that's really bad. But like I said, I feel like mine are short. What's yours next one? All right, my next one is crazy. I feel like this is the one that like I remembered the most from what I read. So the thing says my girlfriend had to get together with her friends. We all got drunk, but I was in my room and I texted her to come because I wanted to know she wanted Taco Bell. Two minutes later, her best friend comes in and my girl left to chill with her friends in the living room. Her best friend stayed behind and she gave me a hug and she felt my thing. One thing led to another and we did the nasty and it was one of the best nights of my life and I still don't regret it. So she cheated and doesn't regret it. No, he cheated with his girlfriend's best friend and his girlfriend still doesn't know about it because she was in the living room and she had already left the room and she was drunk with her friends chilling. Homeboy, I hope your girl don't watch our videos. Oh my God. But my thing is like, I don't know. If I were in her position, I'd be like, where my best friend at? My man is missing, my best friend is missing. Even if I'm drunk, I'd be like, You say that until you're drunk and then when you're drunk, it's like you're like in a whole nother world. You don't even pay attention to details like that. But that's just crazy. I really hope that the girl don't watch these videos. I hope she do. I hope she find out. Gee, you don't know how that might escalate. Someone's going to end up in a hospital or something like that. That's just... Bro, I wouldn't even have said that to us. That's a really detailed story and if your girl watched this video, she's going to find out. She's going to remember that day. It was from a fake account. It was from like a finsta. He's playing it safe. He's playing it safe. I'll tell you, he's smart. Kind of. It's crazy. A lot of these confessions are from finstas, like fake accounts or spam accounts or whatever. I see what y'all doing. Y'all ain't low. They slick. That's how they still... They still haven't gotten caught yet. I know. That's crazy, man. That's so bad. You foul, bro. Y'all, you foul. Come on, bro. You're trifling. Nah, bro. You got to confess to that. Don't be out here doing that. That's wrong. Well, he said that he has no regrets to this day. Clearly you don't have no regrets.  I mean... Don't worry. Car was gonna get you.  Come on, bro. All right, guys. So my next one is he went to go do Door Dash, but I passed by his house and he was in this chick's car making out. I have no words for that one. I want to know how you had suspicions and you drove by his house to begin with. Was he acting funny? Was he just off? Like, what would you say? I'm just... I'm questioning the same thing. I'm like, I literally feel like girls have that sense. Like, they know when something's wrong. They know when something's up. They get it.  He's cheating. It's just a gut feeling. Is it though?  It couldn't be. All right. Well, either way, I feel like mine are really short and kind of like boring to be honest. Janice has like the really detailed one. So we're going to finish off with her doing all these because honestly, yours is like a crazy. Oh, I can't wait to hear these. So one of the ones says, my boyfriend was cheating on me while I was pregnant and I had two kids with him. He got caught because my daughter snitched on him.  So she said that the daughter, like he took the daughter to meet this other girl, not expecting her to snitch because she was a toddler. She went and told mommy everything.  Why would you even do that? You set yourself up for failure. Not going to lie. I did that when I was younger. But you set yourself. He did it to himself. That's how I feel.  Bro, like she's not going to remember that. Like let's say if even if she didn't know what was going on at the time, like five years, she's older. Here we go. She's thinking about like, Oh, I remember that one time daddy brought me to go meet this girl and then you say that in front of the mom and the mom going to be like, what girl? And then she explains the story right there. Bro, the truth is going to come out either today or five years later. It's going to happen eventually. But bro, you set yourself up. It's crazy. That's bad. That happens to me. But damn, bro, you did it to yourself. Yeah, that was crazy. You set yourself up for failure. That was it right there. That was bad. Yeah, so he and she said that this persisted for four years. Next story. Crazy, right?  See, this is another guy. Are you dumb? Guys, guys. Why are you setting yourself up for failure? And I'm not condoning cheating. But if you're going to cheat, bro, at least be smart about it. Why are you going to do it?  Right. Why? Why would you? Why? It's kind of she peeks out the window. She wanted to see the moon. She saw another full moon. You know what I mean? Like, bro, you set yourself up for failure. Why would you do that? I think that's really dumb. I just feel like, yeah, you just you set yourself up. Like if you wanted to break up, you should just broke up her. Like, honestly, she was how did you think she wasn't going to catch you? And then how did that situation even happen?  Let's have fun in my car. Bro, let's just like I hope he had tense at least at least be somewhat smart about it. I doubt it.  Yeah, I know, right? All right. Next one is I was doing my boyfriend's exam for him online and I accidentally clicked on a notification that popped up from Instagram and turn turns out someone was sending him nudes. Now, I'm going to be the first to say that you did not click on that notification by accident. You were being nosy and for good reason, you found exactly what you were looking for. So kudos to you, girl. But damn well, that wasn't no dang accident. But I'm sorry to hear that. Yeah, I'm sorry to hear that too. Honestly, yeah, it wasn't an accident. Why would you send nudes through social media too? I feel like if your account got hacked or something like that, like, bro, it's over for you at that point. I don't know. I just feel like guys think that that's like a way to not get called No, but it was the girl sending nudes to him. Right. But like, why? Why? Like, I would just if I'm sending nudes, I would text the nudes. I'm not going to send it on social media because again, if something gets hacked or whatever, it's over. I don't know.  But think about it. Then they have their they have your social media already. So they could just take that picture and just post it on your story or something right now. It's over. Not smart at all. So the last one I have actually, no, I have one more. I was with a guy for three years come to find out. He was cheating on me with my mom. I walked in on them and that's how I ended up finding out, bro. That's a whole other level of like, I was, I'm sorry, but I would have to fight. It was the boyfriend doing the girl's mom. Yeah, I think so. Yo, that's really bad, bro. That's just a line that you don't cross. I don't know who's worse. The boyfriend or their mom, right? I think it's a mom, bro. I'm thinking about that. Hold on. I feel like some moms like they want they're like jealous of their daughters or something like that. And they have that like, oh my God, like she's young and youthful and she took my youth away and like I need to go and you know, I don't think that's it. I think she's just a cougar. I think that's really she wanted some young me. No, because it's like if you know what I'm talking about, like I've seen it so many times, like people get jealous of their daughters. They really do. I see that, but I don't see that daughter's happiness. I don't see that scenario is that she was jealous of her daughter. I think the mom right there is just a cougar. She liked the way the man looked and bada bing, bada boom. Like, so this is actually my last one. And it's when I was in high school. I asked my ex to homecoming and I asked him with a sign and a cake and everything and it was a corny sophomore thing and he ended up saying, yes, the whole night he was acting super weird and on his phone. Then all of a sudden he takes off to the bathroom and he was gone for 30 minutes. I got worried. So I went to go look for him and I called him and he didn't answer. I kept looking for him and come to find out. I saw him getting thingy, toppy top by another girl and I ended up grabbing the girl by her hair. Wait, was this in the bathroom? No, it doesn't say where it was. If it was in the bathroom, unsanitary room. We'll go ahead. And she said she ended up grabbing the girl by her hair and basically beating her up and realized that it was one of her teammates. And then she found out that they were talking for almost three months and meeting up and everything. And she saw Hickey's on her neck and when she asked, she would say it was her sneaky link and it was my boyfriend the whole time. The girl was in line. It was her sneaky link.  That's what I like to hear. I would have. But like I said, if it was in the bathroom, that's unsanitary, bro. Come on, do it in a car at least. I would have stuck that girl's whole head in the toilet. See, another thing is to, if you're going to do that, bro, don't be gone for a half hour. That's way too noticeable. That's what I'm saying. Like, all these people whose feet are dumb. Like, if you're going to have a sneaky link, bro, like go for like 10 minutes and be like, oh yeah, I was like freshening up in the bathroom or whatever. That's why I took 10 minutes. Don't take no 30. Yo, that's way too obvious. Obviously she's going to go looking for you. Honestly, the whole point I feel is just like, these stories are all telling you not to cheat. Don't cheat. Like, what is the excitement? What do you get out of it? I feel like cheating is just like common sense. Like, you know how to get caught and how to not get caught. Like, you should know what to do, what not to do. And a lot of these guys, they, I feel like they don't know what to do. I feel like these people would just like want to hurt people. Bro, I feel like more of the story is that if you're looking for pleasure somewhere else, just end it with your current person. Like, don't go ahead and cheat. That's just going to, you're going to damage like people's emotions and stuff like that. And not to mention, it's not a good look for your new girl or your new sneaking. She's going to be known as like the HOE. You know what I mean? That's not, that's not cool. But I mean, that's pretty much it. Like I said, mine were pretty boring. Janice had like the really spicy ones. If you guys want to part two about this, let us know down below. Smash that thumbs up button. It is now time for today's post notification shout out. Today's post notification shout out goes out too. Diamond Gilliam, thank you so much for your love and support. Isaiah and I love you.  And with all of that being said, don't cheat on your significant other. I was just about to say that. And we will catch you in the next video. Don't cheat, especially not in a bathroom.