Okay, Shoshanim, welcome back to the Sam Vaknin Horror Show. And today we are going to discuss the Humpty Dumpty Narcissist. The Narcissist is broken. We all agree on that. But today I'm going to show you a mechanism, the mechanism that led to the disintegration, the fracturing, the fragmentation of the Narcissist.  Why is it important for you to know? Why should you get acquainted with these intricacies and the inner corks and nuts of the Narcissist machinery? Because you're an integral part of it.  And whether you like it or not, and whether voluntarily or involuntarily, you're in the game, so better know the rules. My name is, and I'm the author of, you see, you completed the sentences in your head. When I said, my name is an inner voice in your head, said Saint Vakni. And when I continued inexorably and said, I am the author of, that same voice whispered in your ear malignant self-love, narcissism revisited, whispered or thundered, depending. Anyhow, this inner voice that had completed the sentences in your head, that's an introject that is my voice inside your head. The more you're exposed to my videos or anyone's videos, anyone's public persona, the more that person becomes an introject, a voice inside your head. We're going to discuss internal objects, external objects, and how everyone often gets confused, most of all the Narcissist. Now the Narcissist draws you into his vortex, into his whirlpool, into this tornado that swirls inside his head. Okay, a few administrative things. I just uploaded a video, it's a compilation of my videos on nothingness. I have made four or five videos about nothingness, the principle of nothingness, which is an antidote to narcissism, in my view at least. These five videos are available on my other video channel, Vaknin Musings, and this compilation is courtesy of the inevitable, inimitable, fawning and yawning Dorcas Williams. I'm going to keep up this compilation for 24 hours, and I'm going to switch it to the playlist, and I remind you again, many videos you're looking for are not available on the general video's page, but you can find them in the various playlists. If you scroll across the page, you will find multiple links to my playlists. I think there are nine of them, maybe ten, I don't remember. Just go to the playlists, the relevant playlists. Playlists are organized alphamatic, they're organized by themes. Select a theme, go to the playlist, you're very likely to find a video you have been missing and pining for. And apropos pining for, have you seen the recent Richard Granon take on hope? He, as he graciously makes clear in the pinned comment under his video, he was inspired by two giants of human intellect, Nietzsche and Vaknin, and by another guy who made some, who made some reference to Buddhism. So in my videos on nothingness, a recurrent and important theme is that hope is a poison. Hope sets you up for failure, for disappointment. Hope generates expectations, most of which are unrealistic, and when they are inevitably frustrated, when they inevitably don't come true, what you have is heartbreak. So hope is bad for you. Hope is the most toxic invention of the human mind, and it's pretty recent by the way. Abandon all hope, ye who are about to enter. So Nietzsche said, a bit before me, we are both nutcases, but he was much more insane than I am, he ended up in an asylum. And before he ended up in an asylum, he wrote a few minor seminal works, and he said that hope is a very bad thing. Rush to Richard Graham's YouTube channel and watch his take on hope. It's poetic, it's profound, and it's amazing, and there he makes a distinction between types of hope. He prefers a typology of hope, and he says that some kinds of hope are actually very positive and constructive and others are not. I beg to disagree, that's not the point. The point is you should be exposed to multiplicity of recent voices. And Graham's is one voice I value. Okay, another thing, I have two Instagram channels. Facebook disabled my access to one of them, so it's archive only. My active channel, Instagram channel, my active Instagram account is narcissism with acne, one word, narcissism with acne. So go there, join. I post daily, sometimes two or three times a day. The most recent studies, updates, advice, tips, musings, hallucinations, illusions. I act out deliciously. I disintegrate in full view. Don't you miss it? I mean, just go there. And I propose disintegrating in full view. I read simultaneously usually something between 10 and 15 books. I'm kidding you know. I read at the same time about 15, on a good day, 15 books. Yesterday I opened a book about Christina, the queen of Sweden. And Christina invited Descartes, René Descartes, René. René Descartes, the famous philosopher, invited him to her court in the 17th century. He died there, by the way, because she exposed him to freezing temperatures. Very wildly and histrionic woman, if you ask me, not one of my favorites. Anyhow, there was a sentence in that book which really threw me off. Gave me a bad mood for like six hours. The sentence was, at 60, Descartes was already an old man. At 60, an old man? I'm 60. I mean, I'll be 60 in April. I'm 60. So immediately I got discombobulated. At 60, Descartes was already an old man. I'm 60. Does it mean that I'm an old man? Or does it mean that I'm René Descartes? I'm not sure. If you have the answer, let me know. Today I'm supposed to receive my letter of reappointment as professor of psychology in Southern Federal University in Wastov-on-Don. And I am on Tetherhooks. I can't wait. I will let you know. I'll keep you posted when the letter is received. But it should be today or tomorrow. I uploaded corrected, do you remember the images that I mentioned? The images with the relationship cycle, the relationship map with narcissists, white, purple and blue. So there were typos in these images. And Hayley Martin graciously fixed the typos. And now I've uploaded the corrected images. Now, one of you sent me a comment. It's not belfry.  Ach kinder. Belfry is German. And as some of you know from my previous videos, I find German by far the most hilarious language imaginable. I'm sure it was concocted by a committee of psychos. And in German it was belfry. And belfry was also how it was pronounced in Middle English. So why do we say belfry? Americans blame it always on the Americans. And in 99% of the cases, you would be right. Americans distorted the pronunciation of belfry and made it belfry. The Americans are indolent and they like everything to be smooth and easy, not to work too hard. So now it's belfry and the British had adopted it, mainly after the Second World War. But the original was belfry. And the German is definitely belfry. And I was mocking the German. The colonies had corrupted the United Kingdom. Okay, next. People ask me the relationship cycle, you know, grooming, love-bombing, shared psychosis, all this. Is this cycle or is this map applicable only to intimate and romantic relationships or to other things? To everything. This is a map of how narcissists interact with everyone. Intimate partners, colleagues, business partners, neighbors. I mean, you name it. This is the structure, the base structure, the foundational template of the narcissist's way of interacting with other human beings. Consider, for example, the famous case of Michael Eisner of Hollywood fame. He was the head of Disney, the company. And so analyze the way he had interacted with his second in command. And especially with Michael Ovidz, who followed Katzenberg. With Michael Ovidz, you can see this relationship map or relationship flow or relationship structure in action. First, Eisner love-bombed him, groomed him. There were like numerous focus, promises, enticements, inducements, seduction, flirtation, business dinners, business lunches, business breakfasts and brunches and trips and junkets and you name it. Eisner was all over Ovidz. He was all over Ovidz because he wanted Ovidz to abandon a creative talent agency he was in and to work with him in Disney. He even promised him to be equals, that they would be equals. Of course, it was analysis his promise. So when Michael Ovidz had moved finally to Disney, he had entered Eisner's shared fantasy. By that time, Disney had become Eisner's extended, inflated, big banked shared fantasy. And Ovidz stepped right into the shared fantasy and Eisner started to test him. He isolated him, humiliated him, he mutilated him, he insulted him. He sent spies to monitor him and to supervise him.  It was all a test. Testing is a critical part of the shared fantasy. Abuse in the shared fantasy is essentially meant to test and to recreate early childhood conflicts. So he was testing Ovidz. And Ovidz in his eyes failed because 99% of people failed the narcissist shared fantasy testing phase. The narcissistic abuse type one, as I call it. And then once Ovidz failed, Ovidz was primed to move to the discard phase. He was primed to be discarded. And Ovidz made the mistake of posing conditions in terms so he entered the bargaining phase. And then Eisner fired him. He gave him a huge severance package and he fired him. You see, the classical grooming, love-bombing, shared fantasy, bargaining, bye-bye, don't ever show your face again. Okay, and that's in business. Eisner and Ovidz were in Disney cooperation. It's business. Okay, next thing before we get to the main topic of today's thing, catastrophizing. People ask me, why do women or borderlines, why do borderlines act out? Why do they decompensate and suddenly disintegrate when they are rejected or when they perceive impending, imminent, humiliation, rejection and abandonment? I mentioned many reasons in my previous videos and I encourage you to search the channel before you ask questions or else exposed to my rudeness. So, one of the things I did not mention in previous videos, and it's a dark mark on my otherwise perfect record, is catastrophizing. The borderline tells herself, once she had been humiliated, abandoned, rejected or once she misinterprets certain behaviors, reframes them as abandonment, humiliation and rejection or when she anticipates abandonment, humiliation and rejection, there's a dialogue, there's a negative automatic thought, there's an introject probably, there's a voice that tells her, no one will ever want you again.  She immediately needs to restore, she needs to prove to herself, otherwise she needs to prove that she is desirable, that she does have power over men, that she can seduce them or make them do what she wants. She needs to regulate her sense of self-worth and restore her self-esteem and self-confidence and she self-medicates usually with men, but not only with men.  Shopaholeism is another example, pathological gambling, reckless driving, drug abuse, substance abuse. I mean, they're all attempts to reassert control and restore a sense of self-esteem because rejection and humiliation is perceived by borderlines as total, as a critique, as they perceive humiliation and rejection as pretending, constant, everlasting humiliation and rejection. They catastrophize and to reverse and counter the catastrophizing, they simply go and self-medicate with another person. So, if the borderline had been rejected by men, she would seek a man to restore. If she had been fired from a job, she would be desperate looking for another job. She would try to self-medicate same with same. Okay, let's get to the topic of today's video and that is the Humpty Dumpty Narcissist. Let's start with some basic concepts. Splitting. First of all, splitting is confused. It's one of the most confused topics in psychology.  Even scholars which I hold in extremely high regard, like Bromberg or Stern, even these scholars often confuse splitting with repression or even worse, splitting with dissociation. These are not the same things. Now, there are two types of splitting, which makes it even worse, makes the confusion even worse and makes conflating splitting with other issues more palatable, however wrong. So, there are two types of splitting. There is ego splitting and there is object splitting.  Let's call it ego for discussion's sake. So, when the ego fractures, fragments and splits, one part remains conscious and the other becomes unconscious. That's the split of part and that was described by Freud in 1940. Klein added to it and said that when the ego splits, one part is whole, entirely good and the other one is entirely bad. Bear this in mind as we continue a bit later. Now, object splitting. Object, remember in psychology, aptly, appropriately, we call people objects. So, primary object is mummy. The primary object is mother or the caregiver, usually mother. That's the primary object. Objects are people. So, object splitting means simply splitting other people. Object splitting involves mechanisms like denial and projection and so on and so forth. It's what is known as a schizoid defense. What does it mean, object splitting? It's when parts of the self, parts of our self, part of the self and some internal objects we have are disowned. We can't accept them. We can't tolerate them. We are ashamed of them. They make us feel guilty. We don't want these parts. So, what we do, we take these parts and we throw them out. We project them, right? But we have to project them on a human being. We can't project them on a chair. If you project them on a chair, you're psychotic. So, normal people, people who do this, object splitting, they use other people. And this is the classic projection. We attribute to other people parts of ourselves actually that we're ashamed of or we feel guilty about or we don't want to acknowledge you to accept. Object splitting, therefore, is a kind of schizoid defense. It's like these parts are not mine. I am self-contained. I am self-sufficient. I don't need anyone. I don't need anyone because they are bad. They are evil.  They are histrionic. They are oversexed. They are disgusting. They are hypocritical. They are men. See where I'm going with this? It's a splitting because others are all bad and so you are all good. But if you're all good, why would you be with people who are all bad? So, it leads to a schizoid posture, a schizoid position. We'll come to it a bit later. I remember that Klein modified Freud and suggested that when the eagle splits, there's a bad part and a good part, and Bjorn and Kernberg continued her work. But the one who really revolutionized her work and forced her to revise it and to modify it was, of course, a British guy. No, not Granon this time. Fairburn. Fairburn, who lived a bit before Granon, suggested that there is a schizoid core in everyone. And this schizoid core is based on splitting. And it usually reflects or is mobilized or is created by childhood frustration. When we are frustrated as children, we withdraw. The first thing we do, we project, you know, and then we withdraw and we develop a schizoid posture. We become self-contained, self-sufficient. He suggested that when the frustration is seriously bad, when, for example, the child is abused, traumatized, neglected, parentified, instrumentalized, objectified, these are bad types of abuse, let alone classic abuse, like physical abuse, sexual abuse. When the child is exposed to these traumatic experiences, the eagle, said Fairburn, splits into three. There's a central eagle, the eye. This central eagle is preoccupied with introspection, self-observation, consciousness. The second part is the libidinal eagle. That's the eagle with the force of life. That's the eagle that later develops a sex drive. But not only sex drive. When the sex drive is sublimated, we have creativity. That's the eagle that goes forth, goes out, is out-facing. And that's the eagle that leads us to create life, to create love, to create art, to create everything. Science, you name it. That's the libidinal eagle. But in really, really impacted children, children who've been traumatized and abused, there is a third part. That third part is the anti-libidinal eagle. That's an internal saboteur. It's an internal enemy. It's not the inner critique. It's an internal enemy. It attacks the libidinal eagle. It's the force of death. And we call it the antonym of libido. We call it testudo or motido in psychoanalysis. Each of these three parts of the eagle is paired with internal objects. Each one of them has its own cult, its own following of internal objects. And these internal objects are like voices. And they encourage this particular eagle to fulfill its functions.  These voices collaborate, these interjects, collaborate with the anti-libidinal eagle.  And these collaborate with the libidinal eagle. And there's a group of voices that are self-referential. These are voices that talk about you. And they say listen, you did this because of that. That was your motivation. Maybe you did this because you were sad. They constantly do this constant Habab, monologue, dialogue inside between the internal objects and the eagle parts. Okay. At an early stage of childhood, the child does not make a distinction between himself and mother. Cannot make a distinction. The brain is not insufficiently developed. Pregnancy continues for almost two years outside the womb, because our brain needs to develop and our head needs to inflate. And had pregnancy been completed in the womb, we would have never been able to exit. The opening is somewhat tight if we're lucky. So, children continue the brain development outside. And because the brain is highly underdeveloped when the child is born, the child is unable to tell that there is a reality that is distinct and different and outside and external to himself. The child is in a state of inflation. He subsumes the environment. He and the environment are one. It's a state of unitary. It's a state of union. It's a state of nirvana, if you wish. It's a state of vanishing and nothingness. It's a state of being one with everything and everyone and of course above all with mother. So he cannot make a distinction. But mother is not always forthcoming. Sometimes she's absent. Sometimes she's sick and tired. Sometimes she doesn't want to feed the baby. He wants to eat, she doesn't want to feed. In other words, mommy from first minute sometimes is frustrating. Sometimes doesn't cater instantaneously to the needs and wishes and demands of the petulant spoiled brat that is the baby. He wants it now and if not, he will cry for six days and nights. But mommy is unrelenting. Sometimes she succumbs and fulfills the needs and gratifies the baby and sometimes not. So gradually the baby begins to realize that there are two mommies. There's a good mommy and a bad mommy. Or as Klein called it, deliciously and pornographically, there's the loved good breast and the bad hated breast. What an image. Anyhow, let me recover. Anyhow, the baby begins to separate mommy into two mommies. But that's of course an intolerable, very threatening, very fine, horror movie stuff thing. How can mommy be two people or two entities? It's really, really terrifying. So what the baby does, the baby says it's actually not two entities. It's one. Mommy is all good. All the good things is mommy. Gratification, mommy. Satisfaction, mommy, warmth, acceptance, food, tasting, texture of the skin, everything. I love mommy. It's all mommy. Mommy is 100 million billion, zillion percent good and only good. What about the frustrating aspects? What about when mommy is not so good? When she's absent, when she refuses to feed me, it must be me. I am bad. I'm unworthy. It's something in me, says the baby. I'm bad. I'm all bad. Mommy is all good. Luckily for everyone, that's a transitional phase. It's transitional phase for all healthy and normal people. They get rid of this splitting. This is splitting. They get rid of this splitting a bit later. So you remember that? Mommy split, baby all bad, mommy all good. Gradually as the baby grows, cerebral, neuronal pathways are formed. The baby begins to realize the existence of other entities. He develops concepts of internal and external. He realizes the limitations of his will. He gets rid of magical thinking. He understands that if he wishes something, it doesn't always come true. That reality is its own rules, not subject to his thinking and wishes and will. So he matures. He matures and he begins to develop a realistic assessment of the universe. He switches from the pleasure principle to the reality principle. At that stage, he merges the bad and good aspects of mommy. And he becomes with a nuanced version, a more subtle and much more realistic version of mommy. And by the way, daddy and other figures, he is capable to see gray, not only black and white, good and bad against me, but he's able to merge these aspects and come up with something that allows him to function better and to feel a lot less frustrated. He reduces his anxiety, his ego-distony, his discomfort, his unhappiness, his rage, his aggression. He reduces all these, negative emotionality by simply accepting that the world is much more complex than it used to be a year ago when I was born. That is normal, healthy development. But narcissists and borderlines get stuck. They are incapable to transition. Now, no one explained convincingly. Why? Why some babies remain stuck? Yeah, okay. There is trauma. There is abuse. Get it. But why do they remain stuck? Why don't they develop a reality testing? Why don't they introduce themselves into reality? Well, here's the issue. When the baby splits mommy into bad and good, good breast, bad breast, good mommy, bad mommy, it's because mommy has good aspects. And it's easy to do. When someone has good sides and bad sides, even today as adults, you can make this distinction.  Me. So you can make this distinction, or you can say, wow, he's seriously repulsive as a man. But his mind, his intellect is amazing. Again, me. But what to do when the person you're faced with has no mitigating circumstances, no attenuating and ameliorating aspects. Nothing good about him, only bad.  This kind of mother stunts the growth of the child, arrests the development of the child. It's a bad mother. And there is nothing good about her. How do you split? How do you split an object that is all bad with not a single aspect of good, doesn't even fit the baby? How do you do that? You don't. Children who become later narcissists and borderlines could not split their mothers, because the mothers were all bad. There was nothing there to split. And yet, the mechanism of splitting was there, you know, raring to go, eager to act. The mechanism was activated, turned on, enabled, and was looking for a target. And there were only two targets, mommy and me. Now, I couldn't split mommy, so I split myself. Splitting has been inverted. Instead of externalized, it became internalized. You can't split an old bad mother, because she's all bad. You can't break her into good and bad. There's no good. So you split yourself. You split yourself into true self and false self. The true self is all bad. It's unworthy. It's helpless. It's hopeless.  It's inefficacious. You know, one the true self. It's weak. It's vulnerable. Now you understand why narcissists hate weak people. It's projection.  I'm not weak, you're weak. I'm strong. I'm a strong man. I overcome even COVID-19. Right. I have orangery. So, the true self is everything the narcissist doesn't want to be.  The false self is God. That's the invention of private religion. Initially, in early Christianity, in Judaism, of course, in Islam, there was the assumption that men is all bad. There was the fall from grace when men was expelled, had been expelled from the Garden of Eden. Men, men's desires and drives were all malevolent, corrupt. It was through God's grace that men redeemed and absorbed himself by obeying God, by adhering to the Son of God, by interaction with God. God was the redeeming principle because men was hopelessly, hopelessly beyond all. So, the child does the same. The child cannot split mommy, so he splits himself. And there's a God-like element, the false self, and a corrupt, hopeless, doomed, expelled from Garden of Eden, true self. And it is the false self who is going to save, it's a savior, Salvatore, like Jesus. The false self is going to save the child, is going to redeem the child, is going to absorb the child, is going to uplift the child into the Kingdom of Heaven. Okay? Now, Corbuth suggested a vertical split. He said that in narcissists especially, they are contradictory self-states. Today we know that the same exists in borderline, and even more so. Borderlines have more demarcated and pronounced self-states, to the point that borderline is very reminiscent of dissociative identity disorder, multiple personality disorder. But okay. Corbuth in 1971 suggested that they are contradictory self-states. And he gave an example of grandiosity and despair. He said these self-states exist simultaneously and healthy narcissistic needs are frustrated by caretakers like mommy and later daddy. When the caretakers of the child do not allow the child to gratify legitimate narcissistic needs, the child is desperate. He represses this despair and to compensate for it, he creates grandiosities. He says, okay, I don't need you mommy, I don't need you daddy. I have my own imaginary friend and he's got like, he's stronger than you or powerful than you. He knows more than you. He's omniscient. He's brilliant. He's perfect. He's beautiful. He's accomplished. So the false self is compensatory. And when children are frustrated and traumatized and abused by caretakers, caregivers, parents, they react this way by creating vertical splits, co-existent contradictory self-states. Okay, you follow me until now? It's not an easy topic. Let's talk about introjects. Introjects are part of the fantasy defense. Introjects are fantastic. They're not real. When you're faced with a parent, with a role model, even with a peer group, which you admire and want to belong to, you internalize these voices. But you know that they're not real. You know that these people are not inside you. So it's a fantasy.  Your mommy is long dead.  Do you really believe her voice is in your head? Do you really believe she's talking to you? If you do, you need medication. You're psychotic. Most people don't. And yet they conduct dialogues with the dead mother in times of stress and anxiety. So it's a fantasy. It's a fantasy. And these fantasies are not just pieces of fiction. The interject of mommy represents a real person with a real history, real mentality, real character and temperament and personality, memories. So it's a very, very super complex fantasy grounded largely in reality. And this fantasy has a life of its own. It has its own motivations, its own intentions. It has a life of its own. It's important to understand. Interjects continue inside the mind to have independent dynamics which are independent of the person. That's the process of snapshotting. When the narcissist meets, comes across someone who can serve as a narcissistic supply, as a source of supply, or when he comes across someone who can become an intimate partner, the narcissist takes a snapshot. He creates an introject. Now this introject has a life of its own. The narcissist continues to drag only with introject, ignoring the real object out there. And the more the introject diverges from the real object, the more pissed off the narcissist is. And that's the main reason for discard. This is what leads to discard when the divergence is too much. When the snapshot no longer resembles even remotely the real-life person, real-life people go through changes. They evolve, they grow, they develop new interests and new friendships. And yet the snapshot is stable. The snapshot is firm, never changes. And it creates a divergence. Okay, all the introjects are like this. But the narcissist does not regard the introject as a fantasy, but as a reality. So remember, everyone is introjects. Everyone interacts with introjects. Everyone talks to introjects. Everyone argues with introjects. Everyone is angry at introjects. For instance, the girlfriend who dumped you in favor of another man. You're very angry at her. You have her introject and you're fighting with her years later in an attempt to obtain closure. I mean, it's normal. But you know that the voice is fantastic, it's not real. The narcissist doesn't. The narcissist confuses introjects with reality. As his introjects interact, develop, I mean, are dynamic, he thinks it's real. He actually thinks that his introjects are much more real than you. His introject of you is much more real to the narcissist than you are. You don't have real existence in his mind because you're not in his mind. What's in his mind has supremacy over reality. It's supreme to reality. This is the real reality, his mind. And so in normal people, the introjects interact with the ego because the ego is the reality principle. The ego tells you, hey listen, call it. That's a fantasy. Or don't do this. If you do this, you'll be punished. It's the ego that keeps giving you reality testing.  I mean, consider this is reality. Take reality into account. It's the function of the ego. And some introjects interact with the ego so much that they become a part of the ego. And they are known as ego nuclei. Here's the problem. Narcissists have no ego. They don't have a functional ego, at least. They don't have an ego. The narcissist outsources ego functions. He has no reality testing. He needs you to tell him what is reality. He has no access to reality because he has no ego. He doesn't have an ego to tell him, don't do this. Do this. This is real. This is fake. This is real. This is fantasy. He doesn't have this voice. So he needs you to tell him. And he's compulsive about it. He needs it every minute. Can you survive in reality without reality testing for one minute? Of course you can't. Now you understand the narcissist's compulsion, coercion, insistence, persistence. He needs you every minute. He outsources ego functions. He has a hive mind. He incorporates other people in order to form clunky, on-the-fly, just-in-time, improvised ego states. One ego after another. And because each ego created this way, depends on another, on a separate group of people. Ego number one will not be the same like ego number seven. Ego number one will depend on three people, one, two, and three. And ego number seven will also depend on three people, 14, 15, and 16. Of course the input from one, two, and three will not be the same like the input from 14, 15, and 16. So the ego seven will not be like ego one. That's why the narcissist is dissociative and dysfunctional and discontinuous. Because his ego states, his successive ego states, sometimes very often actually, have little to do with each other. That's why he's shocked when he's confronted with the consequences of his actions. He doesn't feel he did anything. Definitely he doesn't feel he did anything wrong. That's why he confabulates all the time. He's trying to bridge the gaps between ego one and two, and three, and four, and seven. He's trying to create some continuity. Confabulates, and many people perceive this as gaslighting, which is actually a psychopathic behavior, not a narcissistic one. The narcissist does not exist. It's an emptiness. It's a void. He exists by aggregate, by assemblage. And now the ego idea, what you want to be when you grow up, that's an interject. The superego, including punishing superego, inner critic, sadistic superego, that's an interject. You see the critical role of interjects. And if you have interjects that cannot talk to the ego because you have no ego, you have no core. There's no core. They also cannot communicate with them among themselves. These interjects communicate with each other via the ego. The ego is like a switchboard. If you don't have an ego, they can't talk to each other. So the narcissist experiences. Some inner objects is good and real. These are egocintonic objects. And when he idealizes you, he converts you into an egocintonic interject and also into a real one. Your interjects, your interject becomes the only reality and it's a good one. It's egocintonic when he devalues you or when he has interjects that he is not comfortable with. They are ego alien. They are egodistonic. At any given time, the narcissist has both these groups. Ego-syntonic, good, real objects. And ego alien, egodistonic, disturbing, discomforting and ultimately projected interjects, internal objects. And this creates a process called ego congruent, incongruence. Ego incongruence, despite it's very misleading because there's no ego. But ego incongruence in principle means that some things, some events, some occurrences, some people, some places, some memories will create such extreme discomfort that actually they will divorce the narcissist from himself. They will create a process called estrangement. This is very, very common in borderlines. That's why borderlines act out. That's why they go crazy. That's why they behave in ways which are at once abrupt and unpredictable and shocking. And on the other hand, very self-damaging, self-trashing itself. What they do, borderlines especially, narcissists also, but borderlines especially, they externalize interjects. Because of ego congruence, ego incongruence, I'm sorry, because of ego incongruence, the internal level of angst, anxiety and discomfort is such the inability to tolerate, the intolerance of ego-dystonic objects, alien interjects becomes richer, such a level, such a burden that the borderline of the narcissists just take these internal objects and they throw them out. They don't even project them. They don't attribute them to other people. They just throw them out. And it's like explosion. You know, these are externalizing interjects. And because these objects are alien, discomforting, disturbing, frightening, menacing, destabilizing, dysregulating, black, horrible interjects, when they are externalized, the borderline of the narcissists feel one step removed. They feel that they're outside observing what's happening. They feel like they're on autopilot. During the acting out, when interjects, uncomfortable interjects, bad interjects, hated interjects, rejected interjects are externalized, it's like taking a part of yourself and throwing it out. And of course that minute you cease to exist because you're not you anymore. Part of you is gone. It's like being amputated. You're not you anymore. And you're not you anymore and you're still observing the process of becoming not you. You're observing this process of partial vanishing. It's like your upper part had evaporated, like spontaneous combustion. If you saw photos of spontaneous combustion, only part of the body is burnt. The rest is intact. Same process. This is spontaneous combustion of a part of you that you hate, that you want to reject at any cost, at the cost of acting out. And this creates estrangement. That's the clinical term. But it also creates dissociation. You don't want to remember that. You repress it. You deny it. You forget it. You become depersonalized. It's like you're not there. As I said, you're not a pilot. You're just watching.  Or you become totally derealized. The whole thing feels nightmarish, surrealistic, not real. So dissociation, amnesia, amnesia, depersonalization, derealization, all these phenomena, dissociative phenomena have to do with externalizing alien, egosyntonic, incongruent objects, externalizing them. How do you expel something? Aggression. These externalized objects come with a huge dose of aggression. And it feels like these introjects somehow projectiles like guided missiles. Like they have their own mind. Like they act. They are the ones who are acting and operating. The agency is transferred from the individual to these introjects. They feel autonomous. They feel independent. And the person, the borderline person, or the narcissist, they sit back and say, what on earth is happening to me? What is happening here? And who is me? It looks like you're actually not in control, not in the driver's seat. Something, someone took over you. And that's, I think this is the source of the many metaphors of possession, demon possession and so on. Of course, narcissists use and borderlines use two important mechanisms. Projective identification and introjective identification. In projective identification, the narcissist places himself inside an object. Remember, object is a person. Another person in psychology. The narcissist places himself inside an object. Now, why would he do that? Why would he export his being? Export his essence? Export himself? Why would he teleport? Teleportation. Because it gives him an illusion of control over the object. If there is an object that the borderline or the narcissist is afraid to lose, there is abandonment anxiety. There's object inconstancy. This is intolerable. It enhances anxiety to levels that can no longer be countenance, can no longer be coped with. And in order to cope, the narcissist identifies himself with the object. He says, the object is me. I am the object. Its mechanism also used by co-dependence, merger and fusion. Projective identification is when the person finds himself inside another person and gives the narcissist an illusion of control, a denial of helplessness and impotence. And the narcissist and borderline gain vicarious satisfaction from the activities of the object. So, covert and inverted narcissists use projective identification endlessly, relentlessly, callously, automatically, consciously, compulsively, all the time, all the time. Of course, projective identification has very strong passive-aggressive elements. The second mechanism is introjective, introjective identification. It's identified with an introject. You remember, some introjects are good perceived, as good as real. The narcissist confuses internal and external objects. So, the internal object, your representation in the narcissist's mind is more real than you. And it's good in the idealization phase. In that phase, the narcissist identifies with you, identifies with the object. When I say identify, it's not that he has sympathy for you, or he has empathy for you. He is you. It involves processes such as assimilation, incorporation, don't ask. It's simply confusing his non-existent self and ego with your very much existent self and ego. He identifies with the introject with a fantastic representation of you inside himself. And he imagines you. Imagines you as being inside himself. Being a part of himself. Being an extension of himself, an organ. So, these are the two mechanisms. Either the narcissist teleports himself, exports himself into you and becomes one with you. That's the codependence trend in narcissism. Many narcissists do that. Or, he brings you into himself. He assimilates you, digests you. And identifies with your representation in his mind, with your introjects, and imagines that he is one with the introject. Or the introject is part of him. Here's the crux. The narcissist could not split his mother. She was all bad. She had no good or positive aspects. She was not a good enough mother. Helen Deutsch coined the phrase false self which Donald Winnicott later popularized. And so, maternal splitting is a crucial phase in avoiding the need to develop a false self. Why does a narcissist develop a false self? Because he needs to split something. He can't split mommy, so he splits himself. So there's false self and true self. And that's a temporary measure that keeps him alive. It's a positive adaptation. And then he meets you. He comes across you. And you're perfect. You're his intimate partner. He wants to complete the process of maternal splitting with you. That's why he has to convert you into a mother. He needs to finish the unfinished business, the unresolved conflict of the inability to split his original mother. He needs to split you. We call this repetition compulsion. He needs to split you. Now, he couldn't split his mother. She had no good aspects.  You're all good. That allows him to regress to very early childhood. You remember the baby?  The baby splits mommy. Mommy is all good. The baby is all bad. Marces goes back to that period, believe it or not. I don't know, six months old. One year old. He goes back to that period and he forces you to become his mommy so that he can proceed with the unfinished business of splitting. Render you all good. Render himself all bad. At that stage, you become all good. He becomes all bad. Now, that is not a tolerable state. Even the narcissist can tolerate it. So he begins to test you. Co-idealization the process where he idealizes you and through this process, idealizes himself. Introduction, the process where he internalizes you and incorporates you. These are the ways in which he annexes appropriates your goodness. So when the narcissist meets an intimate partner immediately it triggers the early unfinished, unconcluded maternal splitting.  Splitting has several phases. Phase one, he makes you all good. He makes himself all bad into with his original mother. His original mother was all bad. He could not idealize her but he idealizes you. He makes you all good which makes him all bad. That is intolerable. He moves to phase two. In phase two, he uses your goodness. Your alleged, imputed goodness. Your idealized, non-realistic goodness. Because remember, he's interacting not with you. He's interacting with your idealized introject in his mind. So he then uses your goodness to idealize himself. He says to himself, if I'm with such a good, perfect, brilliant, amazing, beautiful, talented, intelligent, super, incredible woman, it must mean that I'm the same. I'm also amazing, super incredible, talented is that. She would never have been with me. She would have never loved me. She would have never stayed with me. Had I not been equally perfect, equally brilliant, equally handsome, equally everything. So he idealizes you and then the process of idealizing you is uncomfortable because the more he idealizes you, the more he devalues himself. This is completing the classic maternal splitting which he couldn't do when he was young. But it's a temporary state because it's very uncomfortable. So what he does, he co-idealizes. He says she's ideal, that means I'm ideal.  He metaphorically swallows you. He digests you because you know the imprimative people, they eat the liver in the heart of warriors. They had a war and then they're prisoners of war and they eat the heart and the liver of the prisoners of war because this way they believe they can digest or absorb the courage and the bravery of the enemy combatants. Combatants. And the enemy combatants their traits and properties reside in body organs. The nazis is the same with you.  Stage one, you are all good, he is all bad. Stage two, co-idealization. If you are all good means he is all good.  He now becomes all good. So in this process which is an intricate dance, two steps forward, one step back and so on he needs to test you. He needs to make sure that you are all good. This is post-traumatic hypervigilance.  Maybe you're all bad. Maybe you're just pretending to love him. So he needs to test you all the time.  This is narcissistic abuse type one. He abuses you to test you. He pushes you to the limit.  I want you to understand that very often this masquerades is benevolence, is love. So someone who gives 100% of himself to you is setting you up for failure because you cannot give back 100%. Someone who is too good to be true is setting you up for failure. You cannot be that good ever. He sets the bar so high that you will never make it. It's an example of testing. He puts you in situations where you will end up drunk with another man. That's testing. He constantly criticizes you and challenges you. That's testing. He wants to see, are you truly a good object? Because his mommy deceived him. He thought his mommy loved him. He thought his mommy accepted him. He thought her love was unconditional. He was wrong. And consequently, for the rest of his life, decades, he could not complete the testing process and could not grab. Now you are his last chance, his second chance, his last chance. It is through you that he will experience parenting and mothering. Proper, good enough mothering. And to accomplish this he needs to split you and then needs to interject you, to absorb you, to incorporate you. You need to become one. He needs to become one with a good object. But it's very terrifying because becoming one with an object is disappearing. He needs to sacrifice himself. He's used only to sacrifice himself. He sacrificed himself to the false self. So he wants to sacrifice himself to you. But he wants to make sure that you're worthy of the sacrifice. That you're truly good. So he has to test you. When you fail his test he reverses, the whole thing reverses. He splits you again. But now you're all bad. You're all bad.  Means his judgment is poor. Means he's not omniscient. If you're all bad it challenges the grandiosity of his false self. So he needs to discard you. The minute you fail his test and they are very, very surreptitious, stealth, subtle occult tests. You don't even know that you are being tested. You don't understand what are his expectations. What does he want? So very likely you're going to fail. The likelihood of failure is enormous. You fail. He devalues you. He devalues you.  And that is absolutely intolerable. Okay. I hope you got the picture. I want to make um I want to finish by as usual mentioning literature and this time a classic Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. You know we are so brainwashed by messages propagated promulgated via the education system mass media experts authorities that we don't it's extremely rare that we stop to think actually critically think for example we all believe that Dr. Jekyll was the victim of Mr. Hyde. To remind you Dr. Jekyll was a very venerable, well-respected renowned doctor in the story by Stevenson and he invented a potion a concoction a kind of medicine that he would swallow and when he swallowed this medicine he became Mr. Hyde not Dr. Jekyll anymore but Mr. Hyde Mr. Hyde was a psychopath sadistic killer horrible man, rapist, I mean you name it you name it he did it, horrible person Dr. Jekyll lover of humanity medical doctor saviour of bodies and souls swallows the medicine or potion becomes Mr. Hyde, exact opposite a psychopath if ever there was one so everyone says poor Dr. Jekyll he clearly is Mr. Hyde's victim because he had to pay the price of course once the potion wore off he reverted to being Dr. Jekyll and he had to pay the price for the misdeeds and misconduct in criminal activities of Mr. Hyde so everyone says Jekyll is Hyde's victim I'm saying exactly the opposite Mr. Hyde is Dr. Jekyll's victim because the control was with Dr. Jekyll Dr. Jekyll could have decided to not drink the potion Hyde had no control over it it was Dr. Jekyll who always invariably made the decision to manifest actualize he realized the poor Mr. Hyde Mr. Hyde couldn't help it he was a psychopath, there's nothing he could do about it Dr. Jekyll could help it and he made choices and he victimized Hyde Dr. Jekyll says in the book I knew before I left the hospital that I was not straight that despite all that was available there nobody was sharp enough to pick up my secret and I didn't want anyone to learn my secret that sounds pretty psychopathic to me LAMP in 1996 analyzed this argument and the complexity of the argument and he asked a question could it be that the individual perpetrator is not blame-worthy could it be that Mr. Hyde is actually not to be blamed because you know his actions he was Dr. Jekyll's alter ego his actions were not his own they were fully controlled by Dr. Jekyll Dr. Jekyll took a drug that required premeditation planning preparation of the potion took a long time it was a conscious act and he took the drug and he transformed him into Mr. Hyde Mr. Hyde was an addict in a way and he was created by Dr. Jekyll's need to continue his experiment he was an experimental creature Hyde was a villain he committed heinous horrible acts there's no disputing this but who is the moral responsibility Dr. Jekyll recognized knew about Hyde he knew about Mr. Hyde he knew that Mr. Hyde is hiding inside himself he could not refer to Hyde as I because Hyde was an ego alien ego dystonic so he disowned Hyde he rejected Hyde he hated Hyde he was referring to him in 3rd he used to call him Hyde as though it's not himself but it was a part of himself and to have continued the experiment inflicting untold damages over hundreds of people strikes me how to put it gently is extremely psychopathic perhaps after Rome there was not much difference between the unscrupulous relentless, ruthless callous, disempathic Dr. Jekyll and his mirror image Hyde perhaps Hyde was Dr. Jekyll's dark side but definitely a part of him an integral part of him a perfect reflection of him Dr. Jekyll was Mr. Hyde in Hyde that's all as Dr. Jekyll himself states in the book I know I'm he I know I'm he but he is Hyde yeah very convincing there was a guy called Dr. Hans Prince Horn he he wrote interesting works in art history and psychiatry he sort of conflated art history and psychiatry and he wrote a book he studied the art of the mentally ill art created by the mentally ill um Bill Nyeid Geistus Krenken it's called was published in um 1923 he studied the psychology of expression he came up with a fascinating list of six fundamental impulses regarding self-expression he believed that people create art in order to make contact with other people that art is an interface a communication interface between people like the ancient modernies you know the fifth impulse of six um he attributed to psychopaths is the tendency to imitate or copy and he said this undeniable pleasure involved in this achievement McGregor analyzes it in 1989 and it's very interesting that he believes that psychopathy consists of imitation or copying because when we act out what is to imitate to copy is to not be ourselves when you imitate you are not yourself when someone makes an impersonation of me with meaning he is not being himself for that in that moment so imitation, copying is denying yourself that's really the crux of psychopathy is remember what I said earlier externalizing interjects he Menninger wrote in 1963 the aggressive instincts lack discrimination lack judgment lack perspective lack everything but power and a destructive goal Ted Bundy the serial killer you know he was interviewed by Stephen Michaud and Hugh Ainsworth in 1999 or at least they published the interviews in 1999 and they tried to talk to him about the murders but he wouldn't he talked about everything under the sun politics, history, art he was by the way a genius as far as I remember 160 IQ but he wouldn't talk about the murders and so the interviewers were at an impasse they were like a dead end and didn't know what to do and suddenly it occurred to them they said to him, Ted would you would you like to talk about the murders in the third person because use he don't say I killed her say he killed her and Bundy agreed immediately to this arrangement and opened up and discussed the murders in full detail using he third gender pronoun everything he said was clearly about himself but it was presented in the third person depersonalization narcissists anyone everyone who has come across a narcissist or many psychopaths and many borderlines they talk about themselves in the third person they don't say I did it, they say Vaknin did it or Vaknin is the victim of coaches self-styled experts or Trump is hated Trump would say about himself, Trump is hated third person okay I will take this opportunity to answer a question of yours in a single sentence and I'll dedicate a whole video to this contempt contempt is a driving emotion sentiment in narcissism and psychopathy contempt crucial element of grandiosity and there's contempt for weakness perceived inferiority inadequacy emotions, vulnerabilities neediness, clinging attachment and bonding empathy and altruism how many 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 6, 7, 8, 9 9 or 10 types of contempt and I will analyze this in my next video you have my full contempt and I wish you full recovery from this video if you made it to the end YouTube provides me with an amazing statistic half of all viewers sign off after the rant and the jokes they are utterly uninterested in the topic so how can I give you my respect contempt contempt it is stay tuned for the next episode


Welcome to the Pyramid Air YouTube channel friends today. I am joined by one of my co-workers Ron Duker Ron is going to be me for archery for you guys. So Ron's got a wealth of experience shooting crossbows shooting bows. I've recently gotten into vertical archery myself But Ron is far more knowledgeable and is going to be a much better Person to hold your hand through navigating the wonderful world of archery So Ron, thanks for joining me today. Thank you Tyler Let's talk through like how long have you been hunting with with archery equipment hunting officially 20 plus years So started out with vertical archery got into a little bit of traditional archery and then had a couple use cases for crossbows which then turned me on to pretty much the whole Avenue and angle of every type of archery there is never really gotten into target archery. I'm more of hunting but Everybody has their fit, right? Absolutely. Yeah, so, you know for me I definitely approach things more from the target side of stuff I hunt as well But target archery is really captivating for me just as target shooting with air guns is But I think the interesting thing about archery is that I would say the predominant use case for archery equipment is Hunting less than target shooting. Absolutely and a whole another set of Challenges that you face when you don't have an Environment in a situation that goes exactly the way you have it set up and the way that you want it Backyard archery is one thing I did that for about 10 years prior to shifting to hunting And the whole idea was you just start getting that bug after you're hitting our archery targets And you're hitting 3d targets for a while. You're like, ah, man. I really want that the real thing Give me the challenge of shooting a whitetail. That's what really got me into it Yeah, and same thing here guys I picked up a bow and went hunting for the first time about four years ago And and the minute you see that first deer in the woods, you're like, huh part start Hunter mode switches on yes, and that feeling really For me it was an immediate connection and something that I was like I need to do this again Absolutely, and I think a lot of you guys probably feel the exact same way The interesting thing for for us on the airgun side is that you know, we've had aero firing airguns for a number of years One of the things I want to help With you know, we're on here to talk you guys through it's kind of the use cases for different archery equipment And and an airgun firing an arrow Isn't really archery equipment and we can say that I think because well It's not defined as such by really any state from a hunting standpoint, but from a practical Application perspective, you know, can you say that there's really any difference between an aero firing airgun that shoots? you know 450 to 500 feet a second and the latest and greatest 10-pointer Raven that shooting 450 to 500 feet a second I mean listen as far as arrow trajectory. It's basically identical sure a lot of it is very similar It's the platforms and I mean really it's the question of the platform and the feel on how you want to approach it but what I would say is is Shooting a dragon claw is a bit louder Then some of the other implements and I would kind of just my experience this isn't true 100% overall Typically the quietest most stealthiest option as far as the animal being able to hear something is actually going to be your vertical vertical bow You can get really quiet with those to the point where My average harvest is 12 yards and under from a tree stand or from a saddle platform And hopefully we can get some video of that for you So you know that I'm not I'm not joking on that and then the next quest is usually the crossbow and it depends on what you go Typically the heavier and faster crossbows are going to be louder. That's the trade-off to speed Yeah, and then the dragon claw you get some serious speed and you get some serious accuracy With that comes then the loudness absolutely and that's most arrow firing air guns to be fair And you know, but I was always surprised You know shot a handful of crossbows now that we've started carrying a ton of them and and Ron's absolutely right They can crack, you know, some of those 500 foot per second models are certainly not quiet But the whole idea being that the arrow is going to get there, but hopefully it does Keep it under 40 yards and the arrow is going to get there You'll be fine. Yeah, and I think the same logic from a Distance standpoint applies to the arrow firing air guns just as well to crossbow or to a vertical bow Obviously there are use cases where you might shoot a little further with one of these You know depending on what kind of game you're after of course But you know, I think the big thing for for me is that when I get asked about You know, oh, should I go with an arrow firing air gun or crossbow? A lot of it's legality You can't you know, you simply air air gun hunting isn't as popular from from states adopting it As crossbows and certainly not as vertical archery goes There are way more states that will allow you to use that crossbow for white tail Then will allow you to use an arrow firing air gun. So while the performance is similar You know where you're actually able to use them is not and that kind of sucks. Yes, it does But it means that for those of you that live somewhere You know where you can't use this to go hunt big game You've got your option right here In crossbows and that's really great because there's a lot of the same kind of fundamentals of shooting in a crossbow Absolutely as there is in an air gun, which I think is great But I think the big controversial topic in the archery world And I hear it myself at the local bow shop is like the vertical bow hunter versus the crossbow hunter This is something I'd say to all archers and air gunners out there It's all a function of fitting what's best to you in your hunting situation As well as you and what you what you like to do and how much time you have so My my use case scenario was I had a deer charge me a 10-point buck charge me when I was going into the stand in Probably 2014. I think it was it was like october 17th And so I scurried up My uncle has a ladder stand. I don't hunt in ladder stands typically anymore I'm more of a saddle guy But I was climbing up his stand because that was closest and I was getting charged by a deer and he met business And so I got up there and I was looking and I waited and I waited and all of a sudden I'm like, okay sun starts coming up and I can see him standing there But I can't make out his points. I could just see his breath puffing at me That's where the crossbow came in was actually When I started tracking him down because I don't use the use of any cameras or anything like that I more take a look and see what's happening in the different areas Kind of circle in sort of speak Play the wind to stay out if it's not if it's not right, etc, etc And when I ran into it, there were a couple of trees and the reason why this deer was probably about seven or eight years old The reason why he nobody ever got him or even saw him on the trail cameras There's over 30 trail cameras on about an 18 acre plot down there And none of them are mine. They're all my uncles but at the end of the day They never saw him once on any trail camera And I said, well, that should make it easy for me to identify where he's going The problem is where he was going was in an area. The only place I could get his position on him Was an old 1950s aluminum 12 foot ladder stand that I had And I had to put it on a tree that I had no ability to draw back It's like try try shooting when when you're like this Um, and so I tried here and I was up in my stand. It couldn't work I had to sit the whole time. So I said, you know what? Maybe I got to try the crossbow and To be honest at the time I was like because there is there is Bad blood there is bad blood kind of between the crossbow and the vertical archers You'll you'll hear that as you get into it But I said, you know what if I'm going to take a deer like that and a crossbow is going to be the way that I can get him I'm in so I went out and I got the crossbow while I was still hunting with vertical as well When I was hunting does and other properties. I would use my vertical But whenever I had the setup and that's where I really learned like Doesn't matter what you use as long as you're stacking the cards to your favor And so for me I sat there and he came up and I missed him this day But it taught me several lessons. He came straight up at me I'm on a I'm on a ridge and he came straight up at me looking right at me Everything was good to go I was waiting for him to turn come out of this thicket and turn broadside on a on a old hay road And he didn't the wind changed blue and he took off But I'm like, you know what I thought at that moment I said There's another benefit to the crossbow as well Which is all I had to do in order to hit him with this sitting on my lap was this Already cocked already loaded already ready to go So when he started coming in I didn't have to worry about timing when I would when I would draw my bow back I didn't have to worry that he was going to see me. I didn't have to see worry about any side profiles or anything It was just as simple as this And I had him sitting there just waiting waiting waiting and he turned around and walked the other way It ended up it was actually the next season next november that I actually took him with a crossbow I actually took him with an Excalibur crossbow Um out of a tree stand just like that in the same situation and so I say, you know what? I mean at the end of the day the width of him and I'll show you a picture at some point But he was 24 inches. He was 24 inches wide. Yeah, throw it up. He was 24 inches wide Um, I did the research found out. He's the second widest He's not the tallest like other guys are going to come in they're going to have zoom and crocket And they're going to have higher higher points and so forth and so on But he was 24 inches wide and I I did the research and I only found the only other deer that was that wide Was actually the state record for the state of Ohio So he's a pretty serious deer and I was I could not have taken him to be honest. I could not have taken him I'm sure several other hunters in the area have tried over the years and have missed them Just a really smart wise deer that if you didn't have a crossbow in your hand I I don't think I would have been able to get him And so take it for what it's worth So now I actually carry both and depending on my stand situation where I see the deer at I have both in my in the back of my truck and I just decide which one I'm going to use that day depending on my stand location Yeah, and that's a really interesting like nuanced perspective on the whole thing is it's very use case based for you Which I think it's not for most people, uh, you know, I find in talking to a lot of hunters that You know, they would love to go hunt with their vertical bow, but they're not well practiced enough They're not putting the time in or maybe they don't have the time. That's how they feel about it Sure, so they pick up a crossbow and and that's one of those cases where I would rather you do that because your your success potential Goes way up with the crossbow compared to you being unpracticed with a vertical bow Yeah, well and and to be fair because all of the thousands of hours that I put into vertical I'm more accurate with vertical I am I could go out 60 even to 100 yards On a vertical bow and I will be more accurate than any crossbow you put in my hands or any air gun for that matter And I don't know why that is it just is something that connects in my brain better and my muscle memory and the way that I do things Uh, the vertical the vertical archery is is the way to go, but I said thousands of hours To get there and I don't have thousands of hours shooting a crossbow. I'd have to be restricting it all the time You know guys, there's a huge breath of product available when we talk about archery equipment And there's tons of crossbows that you can go right now on the website and see There's also a ton of vertical bows coming to the website soon So, you know, there there's a great use case for both of these tools and especially for those of you that maybe can't Physically use a vertical bow, you know a crossbow is going to get you in the stand and do so very easily And with something you can be very effective with and I think ultimately that's the important piece here And that's why Ron's here guys He's going to be taking you through a lot of these crossbows showing you the different kinds showing you how they perform Probably eventually getting into some vertical stuff as well. Yes, and more importantly, you know, you're going to get to see the hunt At some point. So, you know, once season rolls around, I'm expecting this guy to be up in a tree I'll be up in a tree. We've got some other folks on staff that are going to be up in trees as well Hopefully filming a bunch of stuff for you But this was a really brief introduction to archery equipment that we sell here at pyramid air And I wanted to introduce you guys to ron I think you guys are going to find that he is super informative and really well knowledge on archery equipment And so ron welcome to the youtube channel. Thank you. Tyler. Thanks for coming in and we will see you next time Thanks for watching. Don't forget to like comment subscribe. You'll be seeing more of this guy and me real soon


Are these coloring crayons for artists? Welcome friends into Monet Cafe Studio and I think you will be fascinated as I share with you about these beautiful sticks of color that make a magical combination with soft pastels. In this lesson, I'll demonstrate neocolor to water soluble pastels that literally explode with color when you wet them. They make a perfect underpainting to combine with soft pastels layered on top. It's a really fun way to paint with beautiful results. You can purchase them on multiple sites, but I found they were a pretty good price on Amazon. The 40 set that I have is around $65 on Amazon currently, but they have smaller sets available if you just wanna give them a try and maybe just try the 15 color set. And I'm going to tell you all about why I love these and how to use them in this tutorial. Here's my set with the labels removed, of course, and I often like to break them as well. I like to keep remnant pieces of different soft pastel surfaces and watercolor paper just to be able to quickly grab something and paint. And I knew for this particular surface, I wanted something water-friendly and light color like this white color. This is a sheet of pastel matte. And again, I chose it because it is water-friendly. I'm going to be applying water to these water soluble wax pastels. And I chose white because I want the brilliancy of these wax pastels to really show up. You can get this pastel matte on dickblick.com. I'll have links to all the products in the description of this video. The reference image is actually one that I took myself. I was having a hard time finding where I got this photo and I realized, oh, it's one that I took when I was in Naples, Florida at a beautiful state park. I just loved how gestural and carefree these flowers were. Here are the pastels. I am not using all of these pastels. I just have a selection of some different colors and specifically some nice golden colors and red colors for some of these flowers. And now it's time to apply some of these wax pastels. And I'm going to be doing what's called an underpainting.  I feel you can really get some great color vibrancy. So what I'm doing is I have one that's kind of an orangeish red color. And I'm just blocking in some shapes of the trees. Notice that I'm just going to keep this super gestural and basic shapes. Nothing specific. We're certainly not drawing any flowers at this point.  But I'll tell you more about how to become a patron later. And these are two additional colors that I chose. I mentioned that I like to break them. Sometimes just to be able to do what I'm doing now, turn them on their sides and block in larger areas of color. Now, why would I be using kind of these reddish colors and pinkish colors? It's because I like to put down, there's a kind of a pink color right here. I like to put down complementary colors to what is in the landscape. Complimentary colors are just colors that are opposite on the color wheel. And in a landscape painting, there are a lot of greens and blues. So the opposites are going to be typically reds, magentas as I'm using here, oranges and yellow. And by laying these colors down first, you're going to cause your landscape to just pop with color. And here is a little spritzer bottle. No, it's not body spray or cologne. It's actually some rubbing alcohol in this bottle. You could also use water or you could just use a brush with water. But I like to just spray on a little bit of the alcohol. The alcohol literally just dries faster. Okay, water works about the same, but often I like to use the alcohol. And I think you can instantly see how this color is just exploding. I love that fact about wax pastels. These neocolor two water soluble pastels are the only ones I've ever gotten. I don't know if they even have other brands of wax pastels, but they're so fun. And they're similar to another product I've used often that's called Derwent Intense Blocks. They are also water soluble and they might even be a little more vibrant in color. I'm not sure, but they're both great products to use. And so you can just see, I'm just kind of maneuvering this around. I also love not just how the color explodes when you add water or alcohol. I love how it creates just this dreamy, soft underpainting. And it's just really such a nice way to begin a landscape painting. As you can see, I'm also going ahead and utilizing the fact that I can get some brushstrokes in that kind of emulate my reference photo with some of those tall flowers, stems and grasses that we're growing up. For the sky, I know it's going to have blues in it. I want it to go a little lighter. So I just got like this pink color. And I'm just kind of scribbling in some of this color in the sky area, maybe like kind of where some of the clouds are. Another color that's good to use for the sky is yellow because yellow is opposite of blue on the color wheel. So yellow is a complementary color. You can lay down in the sky, which will really cause the blues that you add later to pop with color. Now I've added a little peachy color to the sky. And once again, I'm just going to spray it a little bit and wet it just to kind of blend it in and get it softer looking. And now I have let it dry and I'm going to add another neocolor to wax pastel. I need to get some of the darker values of these trees in. I could have gone ahead and used soft pastel at this point. But another great feature about these wax pastels is they don't take up any of the tooth of the surface, so to speak. If you're not sure what I'm talking about with that, basically soft pastels are a medium that you really can only get so many layers down and it kind of depends on the surface you're using. This pastel matte will actually take quite a bit of layers of soft pastel, but using these wax pastels really don't affect the, they don't sacrifice one of your layers, so to speak. You still are able to get as many layers of soft pastel because these become liquefied. So by using them, you're literally preserving all of your layering ability of the soft pastels you'll apply later. So I got in some of this pretty bluish teal color. I think it is when I add water, you'll see the color. Oh, here's the teal color I'm using. One is more of a bluish purple and this one's teal. And I got some of the trees in and now I'm just getting in a little kind of path or a hidden dark trail in some of these deeper grasses. And you're gonna see this come to life when I add the water. These are really fun too. Let me add that as an extra bonus feature. I think it just gets me in the mood to paint and I feel like my paintings end up more free and fun when I start in this way. All right, let's spray on some more alcohol and I think you'll be surprised at the color. Sometimes you can't even really tell what exactly the color's gonna look like at first until you add some water or alcohol. That's surprising, huh? I kept thinking it was purple, probably cause I had combined it with the pink in the back and it was giving that illusion of purple. But this color is like a beautiful teal color. And so I'm just using my brush in little gestural, almost sketchy type of strokes, just to give the idea of those trees that are growing far away in the distance. And now I'm gonna use my brush just to move some of this wetness around. Again, to just give an idea of where some of these shapes and gestural grasses are growing and reaching. And I'm not covering up all of the pink underneath. I'm letting some of that peek through.  Well, typically I don't cover it all up. There's almost always a little influence of that underpainting peeking through. And like I said, it's just fun, it gets you in the mood. All right, everything's dry again now and it's time to start with these pastels. And now I'm gonna speed things up on the Monet Cafe channel. But if you're a patron of mine, you will be getting the full real-time content of the pastel application. If you'd like to become a patron of mine, it's easy, patreon.com slash Susan Jenkins. It's only $5 a month. I get to see your work and it's a beautiful community of artists. Also, don't forget, like this video, leave me a comment, I'd love to hear from you. And subscribe, of course. Come on, become part of the Monet Cafe family. And now it's time to apply soft pastels. And even though I'm speeding this up on the YouTube channel, I still think you can get an idea of the process and the technique. So I'm adding some of my darker values to get that distant tree line and some of those deeper areas of the grasses. And now I've chosen a few blues to add to the sky. I'm kind of avoiding the area that will be the cloud. I actually kind of liked the placement of the clouds here. And notice that I use more of a turquoise color down by the horizon line. Colors tend to get warmer in the sky. The closer they get to the horizon line. And turquoise is a warm blue. So now I'm adding a little bit of greens to the trees. We typically work dark to light with soft pastels, getting our darker values in first and then gradually adding some of the lighter values. I wanted to get some more warmth down in those grasses. So I added a little bit of magenta and blended with my finger to soften up things. And now it's time for some of these flowers. Now you may be thinking right now, those flowers are yellow. Why are you choosing an orange and some of that kind of orangy red color there? Well, the flowers, if I went directly for yellow, they're gonna look very flat. By adding darker values and some other colors, you bring a depth and a richness to elements in your painting. You'll see as I develop the flowers. Again, we typically work darker to lighter values. Now I'm adding some of those centers to these black eyed Susan flowers. And I'm trying to put the flowers not necessarily exactly where I see them in the reference image, but in areas where I think they would enhance the composition. Then pull the viewer in to meander and explore this painting. And now, yes, it's finally time to add some of these yellows. This is a beautiful, buttery, yellow color. It's a Terry Ludwig pastel. And this one's a little bit brighter. I think it's a blue earth pastel. And you may be thinking, well, haven't you covered up all of that underpainting with the Neo Color Wax Pastels? And you may think so, but at the end of this tutorial, which is real soon, you'll see me zoom in and you will be able to see the influence of that underpainting peeking through. And it really does make a difference. For example, if I had just painted this on the white surface without the underpainting, it would have felt a little bit more flat and not as lively in color. So there really is a rhyme and a reason to the underpainting strategies. Adding a little more fun to the sky and a few more little stems and grasses. And this painting is done. And here is where I'm gonna zoom in closely so you can see some of that underpainting peeking through. You can see the pinks, that little magenta color, some of those rich blues that I put down in the foreground. And it truly does make a difference. And these wax pastels are so fun. But remember, if you don't have them, you can use other products. You could use watercolor, gouache, acrylic ink, and just use what you have. All right, everyone, I hope you learned something. Please let me know if you did like this video. And again, if you would like the full real-time content for this video lesson and so many more, consider becoming a patron of mine on my Patreon page. It's only $5 a month. You can cancel at any time. All right, everyone, God bless and happy painting.


Hey, this is Brett and this 2017 Chevy Silverado 3500 Crew Cab Long Box Dual Rear Wheel Work Truck is stock number 12776Z. I'm here at Summit Automotive in Fond du Lac, Wisconsin, your new and used heavy-duty truck. Headquarters, this 2017 Chevy Silverado has the 6.6-liter Duramax diesel engine with the L5P engine, puts out 445 horsepower. This truck has been fully-safetyed and inspected by our service shop as a fresh oil and filter change. All the fluids have been checked and topped off. It has six brand new tires and this truck is 100% ready to go. I'm going to go all the way around in this video, inside, underneath, start it up and take a look under the hood. Black clear coat is the color and I take all my videos in 4K so if you have HD capabilities on your computer, tablet, smartphone or television I highly recommend turning them on right now because it is your best way to check out the quality, condition, options and cleanliness of the vehicle before seeing it in person. And if you like the video and how I do things here at Summit Automotive consider clicking the subscribe button to my YouTube channel in the lower right hand part of the screen and then click the bell notifications and you'll get updates every time I do videos of our new and used inventory here at Summit Auto. This one comes with these steel rims with some nice chrome covers on them and it has six brand new general grabber HD tires, these are LT 235 ADR 17s. We put those on in our safety inspection, you can see they are in brand new condition. Frame and underbody is in nice shape. Front fender, I didn't see any major imperfections, actually one little tiny, one little tiny ding right there. That's why we do the videos because these are used trucks, especially on these work trucks. They're not all going to be perfect, but we try and make them as nice as possible. See that front bumper is in excellent condition, didn't see any denser dings on there. It does come with the chrome trimmed grille and it has the true cowl induction hood that is fully functional. I'll show you how that works at the end of the video, didn't see any denser dings on the hood and it does come with the cab lights up there. Passenger side front fender is in fantastic condition as well and the passenger side wheel simulator is in nice shape too, didn't see any major scuffs on there. As we go down this side of this 2017 Chevy Silverado 3500, take note of how clean that body is, how reflective and mirror like that paint is. Doesn't even look like a work truck. I take these HD videos so if you are far away or even if you're close by and you just cannot make the trip down but you're still interested in purchasing the vehicle, you can see the truck here, the truck, and have confidence in the vehicle that you're looking at before you even get here. When you do get here there's absolutely no surprises and you can make a smart and informed buying decision from wherever you're at. If this video helps you make that decision, let your salesman know that you saw the video, that it was helpful and that Brett sent you. If you liked the video and it helps you out, give us a subscribe on our YouTube channel on the upper right hand part of the screen. Back wheel simulators look really good as well and the back tires are brand new too. You can still see the little wear knobs on there, both of those are new. Frame and underbody is in nice shape and it's like that all the way underneath that has all the remaining factory exhaust so it hasn't been altered in any way. Lower rockers all look really good, really the only thing that's not really nice on this truck is the brackets for the step bars, otherwise the step bars are in nice shape and those are raptor step bars. Coming around to the back of the vehicle, rear bumper looks really good. I didn't see too much wrong with that, it has the rear bumper steps, maybe one little, maybe a little, I don't know, I can't tell if it's a dent or not. Anyways, rear bumper, nice shape, full towing package which includes receiver hitch for Pin An 7 pin wiring, the tailgate is in very nice condition as well, does have a locking tailgate, backup camera, and a spray and bed liner, comes with fifth wheel bed rails and an auxiliary fuel tank. Offhand I do not know how big that tank is, probably looks like maybe 40 gallons, not sure, might say in the description below. Anyways, as we come around the driver's side, just as clean as that passenger's side, no major imperfections on the dually tub here, and for full disclosure this wheel simulator is in nice shape too. Cab and doors all look really good, oh there we go, 63 gallon and that's an RDS auxiliary fuel tank, 63 gallons. Down the rest of the side of the truck, doors look really good, does come with the telescopic tow mirrors, built in directional signals, LED side lights, they do telescope out like so, and fold in like that. Inside the work truck package gives you the gray cloth interior, this one has the 40-20-40 split bench seating, no rips or tears on the seats, smells very clean inside this truck, seats are in nice shape, has auto headlamps, factory brake controller, tilt steering wheel, power windows, power locks, and power mirrors, as well as child safety locks for the back doors. Speaking of the back doors and the back seats, they're in excellent shape and it does have latch child safety system, bringing child car seats you may want to put back here, fixed glass rear window, no rips or tears back here, these seats do fold up, for extra storage there is a storage bin back here, you do get the rubber floors, you also get these nice husky weather beater all-weather floor mats, seats go down like that, and the bottoms of the doors all look really good on this truck. We'll hop inside, check out the miles, the radio, start it up, take a look under the hood, see that this one has 66,607 miles, you do get a digital spinometer and a compass display, cruise controls on the steering wheel, steering wheel is in nice condition, I didn't see any excess of wear or anything like that on there, comes with the Allison, heavy duty six speed automatic transmission with the optional tap shift, your four by four shifter is on the floor, and it does come with the Chevy my link system, you get AM FM and Sirius XM radio capabilities, and you do get a projection manager where you can project your cell phone to the screen via Android Auto or Apple CarPlay, and if you have a nav system on your cell phone such as Waze or Google Maps, project it right to the screen, and it's like you have nav right on the screen, so that's a pretty cool system. It's also where your backup camera shows up as soon as we start the truck, I'll show you how that works, you have your climate controls here, this one does have the heated outside mirrors, also has stability control, cargo lamps, that's also how you turn on your LED side lights, factory exhaust break, and down here you get a 12 volt power point, and then a 110 volt 150 watt plug-in, passenger side form mat and seat are an excellent condition, I didn't see any rips or tears on there, and the headliner is in very nice condition as well, up here you do get map lights, on-star and SOS buttons in the review mirror, and like I said we'll start it up, take a look under the hood, starts right up, no check engine lights or anything like that, there is your backup camera, and that is working nicely, alright let's take a look under the hood, there are those LED side lights on those mirrors, they are super bright, and I would like to thank you for checking out the video today, and hopefully from this HD video you will have been able to verify the quality and condition of this truck all the way around, inside and out, under the hood we have the 6.6 liter Duramax diesel engine, engine bay is very clean, runs very smooth, once again this truck has been fully safe to be inspected by our service shop, has a fresh oil and filter change, all the fluids have been checked and topped off, six brand new tires, there's your emission sticker, and so the air comes in right there, into the cobble hood, down to there, into the air intake, so that's how that works, and I did want to show you the VIN sticker real quick before we finish the video here, so there's your tire and loading information sticker, and then your VIN stickers right there, alright and I would highly recommend this truck from a quality and condition standpoint, for the miles and age it's in really nice condition, and to see more pictures of this truck or one or other 450 new and used cars, trucks, SCVs, minivans, wranglers, half tons, three-quarter tons, one tons, you name it we got to go to that website right there, summitauto.com full pictures and descriptions of every single vehicle from two locations all at summitauto.com, and if you'd like to check out more HD videos you can go to youtube.com slash summitauto, remember to like, subscribe, and share on this video and all the videos that you see there, click the bell notifications you'll get updates on the videos we do each and every day here at Summit Auto, in fact in a second you'll see a link to subscribe to our YouTube channel in the upper left, a link to more Chevy 3500 truck videos like this one the upper right, link to this vehicle on our website in the lower left and a link to one of our latest YouTube videos in the lower right, click those check us out and we're super excited to help you with this ultra clean 2017 Chevy Silverado 3500 crew cab long box dually Duramax diesel in black clear coat with six brand new tires and a really nice condition, thanks again for checking out the video remember to like, subscribe, and share on the YouTube channel I really appreciate it, thanks again


The BC Residential Tenancy Branch presents an information video on dispute resolution hearings. Sometimes landlords and tenants experience conflict with each other for a variety of reasons. With a tenancy dispute, there are three ways to resolve it. Since each step gets more time-consuming and straining on the relationship, we recommend you start with the first. The first and easiest step is to talk with each other about what is happening and see if you can identify solutions that would work for both of you. Sometimes the other person just doesn't realize what is going on or doesn't understand it from your perspective. If this doesn't work, the second step is to send them a letter asking them to address whatever issue is causing the dispute. You can do this step on your own or with the help of a friend or a relative. The third step is to file for an application for dispute resolution and or serve a notice to end tenancy with the Residential Tenancy Branch. This may result in a hearing with an arbitrator. This video will help you understand the dispute resolution hearing process. The Residential Tenancy Branch arbitrators are experienced in conducting hearings and will adjust them to suit the needs of the parties and the specific type of claim. So don't worry if the hearing does not go exactly the same way as this video. Sometimes these hearings will move into a settlement discussion. For our video on settlements, please visit www.gov.bc.ca slash landlord tenant slash videos. A hearing has six usual steps. 1. Call into the hearing and provide your name, the name of anyone else that is with you, and identify whether you are there as or on behalf of the landlord or the tenant. 2. The arbitrator will ask the first person, also known as a party, to explain the evidence they have submitted related to the issues at hand. 3. The arbitrator will ask the other party to explain their evidence. 4. If needed, witnesses will explain what they know. 5. Both parties will have the chance to respond to what the other party has said. 6. When the hearing is over or the arbitrator has heard enough evidence, they will conclude the hearing and will provide you with the written decision within 30 days. You may have someone else represent you at the hearing, like an assistant, advocate, or lawyer. I'm sure the person assisting you is aware of all the facts, documents, and events that have occurred. You may also use a translator if you have difficulties with English. It is important to remember that this is a legal process and that the arbitrator's decision is final and binding. Like any other legal decision, it can be appealed for certain reasons. Be courteous and respectful. The arbitrators will not tolerate yelling, foul language, or interruptions. The more prepared you are, the smoother the hearing will go. Thanks for watching our video. For more information, please visit our website at www.gov.bc.ca.