Hi y'all, I'm trying to get this view together because I can't do it like this because it's so large. It says orientation is not rotate, device is not. I don't remember what I meant. I guess I'm just going to have to be up like this today y'all. Technical difficulties. Okay. Hey y'all. I'm just going to have to be like up and down like this today because I like my rotation for some, I don't know. Okay, so we're going to be talking about these ladies. I call them, a lot of people call them man-mies, people that mother grown men and try to help them become the man that they were already supposed to be. They're enabling a lot of guys to be mediocre and to do less and to expect way more for women than should be expected. So I want to talk about that. Hi everyone. So as you know, I do have a Facebook group and there's not a lot of people in it. I'm not letting everybody in just yet. I will let more people in next month. But a lot of people that came into the group were not really for the group. So I had to regulate because they weren't of the same mindset as what the group was set up for and there was a lot of judgment in there, a lot of things like that and I felt like I had to remove them because they were enablers and they were poverty mind enablers of mediocre men and I did not want that vibration or frequency in my group. So I'm sorry if you were one of the people that got kicked out. It wasn't anything personal. It was just, it was the wrong vibration for the group, you know what I mean? We're still cool, we're still friends, whatever, but it just feels like the vibration had to change, you know what I'm saying? So no love lost, it's just you aren't ready for that.  We don't make excuses for men in this group, either you come correct or you go back home. And a lot of these women were not ready for that.  All I need is love and oh we're going to, blah, blah, blah, blah, but those type of women are always in my inbox crying a couple months later because they gave everything to this man who didn't want, you know, really want them and they wasted a lot of time and energy and things like that on a guy who just wanted to use them for sex.  So I feel like those type of women are not ready for the group and maybe you need to keep watching the videos or have more life experiences so that you're, you know, able to understand what a lot of the women in the group are trying to accomplish, okay? So I feel like a lot of the people snuck in the group just to see what was going on and be nosy and going back and posting stuff because, you know, they think it's wrong to have high standards and I feel like those women are always the ones that are single, don't have much to show and don't even really have a man and, you know, if you're gonna learn from somebody, you need to learn from somebody who has what you want, who has the lifestyle you want, the type of man you want, the type of family you want, you know, you don't learn from single people that's broke and struggling with nothing to show but like, you know, a Facebook meme, you know, you can't follow advice from someone who's not living the life that you want, okay? And I feel like that is a really good message because if you were gonna go get advice on how to become successful rich on your own business, are you gonna go and consult a bum under the bridge? Are you gonna go ask the bum? Hey bum, how do you get successful rich? I just want to know because I always hear you talking about money and asking, you know, talking about money, so you must know something, right? No, you don't go ask them.  So I had a lot of mammy's giving advice in my group and, you know, I felt like it was bad advice, it was wrong advice, I deleted the advice, it was advice I wouldn't give to my dog and I'm sorry that, you know, it's just I can't have that mindset in the group because, you know, all is mental if other people start reading that and believing it, it's gonna change their whole entire life, you know?  So, um, you know, I'm very spiritual, I'm very knowledgeable, but I'm very realistic, okay? I'm very realistic and I look and I look to the future. I don't, you know, make decisions about how I feel at the present moment. I make decisions of where I want to be in 10 years, you know, I want to make decisions based on that, okay? I'm not going to marry somebody with potential because there's no guarantee on that potential. I'm going to marry somebody who's already been there, done that, has what I need right now so that I can invest into my future 10 years, you know what I'm saying? I don't need a fix a man, I don't need a project, I can create those on my own. I don't want to fix or help someone build up something. I'm not a day laborer, okay? If you're not already there, I don't need you on my team, you know? That's like going out, if you were, um, you know, a football coach, that's like going out and drafting someone who can't play ball, but they like ball, they plan on playing ball, you know, they're getting pretty good at it.  They're not, they're not still learning the rules, okay? They know the rules, they know the game, they're great at it. People are, you know, bribing them here and there to join their team. That's the kind of person you want.   So you can't do that, okay? Um, and I also feel like, uh, you know, um, a lot of women who make excuses for their men really wish they could be bragging about them, but since they can't, they have to defend them. They go on the defense.  That means everybody else sees what you see or you're afraid they're gonna know the truth about your man that he's not doing what he's supposed to be doing and you're gonna have to make up stuff and make up excuses for him and say this is in that and but this and but that, you know? People should want to be in your position when you talk about your man. People should want to say, oh, does he have a brother? Oh, you got a good one. Not oh, really? Oh, okay. I understand. Like, basically, they just say, okay, I feel sorry for you.   They'd rather just have the in love feeling. But the sad thing about the in love feeling and that, you know, butterflies is that it doesn't last forever because it's not a permanent thing because it's an emotion and emotions are not permanent. The only things that are permanent are peace because that's a state of mind and joy or content, satisfaction, okay? Those are the only things that are permanent. Are you going to be always content with this person? Because if you're happy, happiness doesn't last.  Is this person always going to do right and make you happy? You base the decision to be with this person because of they make you happy. But what if they stop making you happy? Then what do you have to go on, you know? So it's very important to make decisions based on logic and, you know, if you if you can get along with the person, if y'all are good, you love them, you got some chemistry, great. You know, that's also to be considered. But don't only base it on that. Like, oh, we're in love. We have a connection. He's my soulmate. He's broke, but I love him. I'll do whatever. I'll go prostitute myself on the street and bring him money, which a lot of y'all women end up doing. I don't think I don't know.  Okay? Now, I'm just going to tell you that. You might not wear a stitch of makeup.  Okay? We don't even have to do that most of the time. So, I'm just saying, okay, don't think just because you don't wear makeup and flashy clothes that we don't know what y'all are doing because I've heard some stories. Yes, I'm getting messy, like, uh, Joanne's camera. I'm a messy, but we have to talk about this because it's, it has been gone unsaid too long. Okay? It's been gone unsaid.  Like, you gotta look at yourself in the mirror sometimes. Yeah. You know, just because you don't look a certain way don't mean you're not a certain way. Okay? Okay. So, yes, I got my tea. I'm sipping my tea.  You gotta abandon helping him. You gotta say, look, I can't help you anymore. I'm just, you know, I think it's time for you to get it on your own. You know, don't you want to see what you can do by yourself without help from me? Because as soon as you make it from my help, you're gonna run off to the next woman and claim that you did this all by yourself. And most of that was from, you know, the woman that they were with that pushed them up through, paid their car notes, you know, paid all the stuff, paid for this and paid for that. When they finally get that good paying career, good paying job, little girl, you know, eyeballing them and looking at him like he did all that by himself because you know, he ain't gonna say, oh, well, my wife helped me because that doesn't make him feel like a man. So, he's gonna love that feeling of that little young thing over there thinking he's the man and he did this all by himself and he's gonna want to take credit for that. And he can't take credit for that if he's with you. You know, so he's gonna go and throw you to the curb and go over to the little young thing and say, yeah, baby, I'm the man.  You know, and he's gonna feel like a man. But they trick women into helping them climb to the top, contributing money so that they can be a man to someone else in the future. So, don't get caught up in that. If you're paying for anything for your man, paying bills and stuff like that and y'all the same age, you better have a backup plan. You better have a backup plan or you need to always keep him broke so that no one can be fooled. You gotta have the purse strings if you're contributing. You need to be in charge of the money, okay? So, why don't mothers advise their sons to do better, even when presented with proof? I think moms tend to baby and they're natural nurturers. They want to nurture their child. They don't see their grown son as a man. They see them still as a child. They want to nurture that child. They don't see them as a grown man, okay? So, that's a lot of the reason why women allow their sons to get away with a lot of stuff because they still see that little baby, okay? Men, like if they had a father, it would be very different because a father sees a man for a man. You know, look, you're grown. You're getting old now. You need to contribute. You need to do this.  You're too lazy. You need to go get a job.  Don't worry about it. What you want to eat? They're not gonna be like that. They'll be like, uh-uh, you need to get up. Man, don't work. You don't eat. You know, he's gonna be saying all that kind of stuff. So, the son, the guy's gonna be like, okay, well, all right, dad, all right, dad, you know. But the woman is gonna let a lot of stuff slide because that's her baby, okay? That's why nurturers are not supposed to teach men how to be, you know, men. We're not supposed to do that. That's not our job. You know, we're there to nurture them after their father has taught them lessons, okay?  He's a man now. So, he's gonna do what he wants to do. You know, he doesn't like to be told what to do. So, oh, now they're nagging me.  And it's sad because they weren't taught how to be a man, you know. There are YouTube videos on how to become a man, what you need to do, what steps, you know. If you don't have a daddy, go find a play daddy, a mentor, a fake daddy on YouTube that you can just watch their videos, but at least start walking into that direction, you know what I'm saying. I feel like it's a choice. If you want guidance, if you want what the next guy had who had a father, if you want that confidence in that, you know, upbringing background, if you want that discipline, if you want that tough love, you need to go get it. If you weren't giving it, you need to go find it. It's up to you now.  Women can't baby you anymore and then respect you the next second. It don't work like that. Either you the baby or you the man, you know. So if you find yourself in that situation, you need to go and seek guidance from a male figure who wants you to be a man, not want you to be a boy, not not going to pacify you for being mediocre, but someone who wants you to be your best self. Okay? Not your mediocre self, not the self that nobody respects. Okay? But the kind of man that everybody wants. Okay? That's what you need to be. Hehehe. When the dad dies at a young age, it's worse. Yeah? Okay. So, oh, my microphone. I'm sorry. My thumb's on my microphone. My bad. I have to hold my phone because the tilt is off. Okay?  I'm glad I brought those virtues. Yeah.  They want to say, oh, my son do this, my son do that, but they can't. So, I gotta make up stuff and lie. And that's sad when you have to make up stuff and lie to your friends and family about your son who's a loser. Okay? Same thing with a woman.  That's a red flag, you know? You ain't with a man. You with a child. So, if you find yourself doing this, it's time for your exit plan to begin. Okay? Because if they were going to change, they would have already changed by now or they would be changing and doing things that show results. Not just talking about it. It gets on my nerves when women say, well, he said this and he said he was going to do that and he talks about this. I don't hear anything about he did this or he's doing that. I hear talk, talk, talk, okay? I can talk all day and I can tell you something and not get out of my chair and and and I will tell you that I accomplished 10, 10 things today still sitting in this chair, you know? Oh yeah, I went outside and mowed the lawn.  I can say all those things, but that doesn't mean it's true. Okay? So, stop talking about what they talked about. What have they done? You know, what have you done? Where is your evidence? Where is your proof? What is the result? a square plus b squared equals c squared. Not question mark. Okay.  And I encounter these women a lot and someone also asked me to address the pick me's, which is like women who lower their standards on purpose to stand out like online and Facebook or on YouTube in the comments so that, you know, guys will inbox them. Oh, that's a good woman. She doesn't expect anything out of life. She'll do anything. She'll cook for me and clean for me and lift me up higher and make, you know, and ride or die with me. Oh yes, that's the one I want for now because, you know, when I get to where I'm going, I don't need her anymore. But they're the pick me chicks. They're like, I'm so desperate for a man. I'll say whatever you want me to say if you just give me some attention and give me a chance, you know? These are usually the most low self-esteem women who feel like this is the only way they can get attention and not have to put in too much effort as far as how they look, you know, what they expect out of a person or, you know, they might have about 20 kids or 10 kids that they can't get a good date with so they just become a mammy to another grown child. Okay, so you gotta think about that, you know. Men, especially if you see these women who are saying, oh, I'll do this for you. I'll do that. I'm not that kind of woman. Not all women are like that. Speak for yourself, you know. That's the one you probably don't really even want, but that's the one you'll use up until you can get somebody else with the high standards and you already know that's true. You'll use that one up and then go for the one you couldn't get before.  You're gonna go for somebody who has standards and expectations that you can now meet since the mammy helped you get to that next level. Okay, and I'll tell a lot of women this, if you if you're doing that for a man, don't be mad when they leave you for another woman because you are helping them leave you. You're helping them leave you.  Men don't need help, they're men. Okay, they're built stronger, more stamina, more muscle, you know, logical thinking. They're not meant to be nurtured and babyed at, you know, at a grown age. Yeah, it's good, affection is good, laughing, you know, loving is good, but not like that. Okay, they need to feel like a man. So, what if the man fell off, should you help him or give him time to schedule, get back on his feet? If the man fell off, that means he don't have no plan B. Okay, the man falls off and doesn't have a plan B, he fell off probably on purpose and only got with you because he knew you could help him. Notice men that fall off don't get with women who can't support them. Think about it. If he he shouldn't be able to fall off, he shouldn't be able to depend on you. If he fell off, he should get right back on because you're not supposed to even offer to help him. Okay, you're supposed to be like, oh, that's too bad. I hope you get another job quick because you might lose your car.  You should not be an option. Okay, you should not be an option.   Mm-mm. I'm not gonna want that for your child.  But, you know, I would be like, well, it seems like you need to get yourself in order. So, this is probably a good time for us to, you know, take a little break. Basically, no, I'm not gonna help you. Um, what if he's incarcerated? Well, I would not date anyone incarcerated unless they went to prison on my behalf to save me from being incarcerated. Otherwise, I'm like, I'm not dating you. Okay. Unless he took the fall. Okay. I'm trying to read some more questions. Hmm. Okay. This, uh, Mimi says, when her husband fell off, he was back on his feet quick.  I used to get mad about it, but now I understand. Yeah. Um, that's true. Like, a lot of men will become depressed because they can't, you know, provide anymore and they worry that you're going to leave them and upgrade on them. They should be because that's their motivation. Okay. Don't worry about their feelings. They're not supposed to be feeling anything at this time. They're supposed to be looking for a job. Okay. You don't have time to feel. Get up. Okay.  Yeah. A lot of guys will lie. Like, I don't trust 80% of what comes out of a man's mouth unless he has nothing to lose or gain. You know what I'm saying? If he's just giving straight up information to teach, yeah, you can take that, you know, more seriously. But when if he, if there's something that you have that he wants, don't believe nothing he says until he can prove it. Okay. Um, and there, there'll be some guys who aren't afraid to ask women for something. They'll just be waiting and soaking like waiting on the woman to ask if they need something and then they have their list ready. You know, don't ever offer a man. Don't ever say, do you need anything? Don't ever say that. You know, if you, if you're, if you're trying to be compassionate and say, well, do you need me to help you find a job? Do you need me to call around a few friends to help you get employed? Do you need me to, um, you know, help you with your resume? Don't, do you need, not, do you need me to give you some money for lunch? Nope. Don't even, let him starve. A starving man will have ambition. Okay. A hungry man will get up and figure out a way to eat. A full man will take a nap. Okay. Don't feed a broke man. Don't feed an unemployed man. Don't help them because if you help them, you're enabling them to stay there even longer. You just feel sorry for them and, and wish them luck. Okay. Oh, you know, something. Oh, I'm gonna pray for you. Oh, you know, I'm a lot of candle for you.  But, uh, wish you the best. I'll be, I'll be manifesting, I'll be manifesting for you. You know, you can do it.  Not, not a donator. Okay. Yep. That's like back in the old days when people were hungry, they got real good at hunting. You know, they figured out tricks and ways to catch animals. They built traps because their stomach was growling. You know, ideas come quick when you're motivated.  You know, no, get up and get out and figure it out. You know, you can do it in a nice way. Oh yeah, I know you can do it. I know you're gonna get a job today. I have, I have a good feeling. I'm very intuitive. You know, not, no, here's five dollars, baby. You can go get something to eat. Nope. Better hope they got free, free breakfast. I remember like five years ago, I think I did a video on how to, how to eat free, how to eat free for a whole day. This was like years ago because before, like when I was in school and stuff like that and working and I had to pay like bills and stuff, I knew how to survive. You know, I didn't get a lot of help. I knew how to survive by, you know, tricks and things like that. So, you know, before I was dating anybody, I knew how to eat for free. I knew where to get free stuff from and because I did the research, you know.  If I didn't have my hand out to a man, you know, right? Houseway, how? Okay, do you want me to tell you one place where you can get free food? Okay, I'm gonna tell you one place you can get free food. Okay, so if you go to any hotel or like cheap hotel, like embassy suites or something in the morning time, they got that free continental breakfast. If you go to any hotel that's having like some type of business, networking, blah, blah, blah, blah, it's usually free and they always have wine and like snacks and stuff. If you go to an art gallery or an art exhibit, they always got free wine because they want you to get drunk and buy the paintings.  Let me see. If you have an old McDonald's bag or a restaurant, drive-thru restaurant, and it's like rush hour lunch. You can get in line and have your bag and say, y'all forgot to put a fries in there. Y'all forgot to put a extra, you know, blah, blah, there and I'm late for work. I only have 30 minutes. They're not going to sit there and hold up that line and argue with Dave who's going to throw it in the bag. Yeah, Joanne the scammer for real. So people used to do that to me all the time because like when I was 16, I think I had a job and in the drive-thru of McDonald's and a lot of people would do that and I knew they were doing it and I just thought it was funny and I said, oh well, drive to the front and if the person was dumb enough to give it to them, oh well, lucky them. Go when it's super crowded because they're not going to hold up that line or with you arguing.   Okay, Shira, please help me. I've been in a seven month relationship with a 25-year-old. I'm 31. When should he commit? I have two kids. He lives two hours away. I'm making excuses. Oh, God. Okay, I don't know because your name says Kyle Williams. So is this, okay. Okay, so are you Kyle? Are you a male?  Or is this Kylie?  Basically, you're dating a child, okay? Men are 10 years behind women. So he's like 15 years old in his mind. So what 15-year-old do you know that wants to get married? Okay, you got to go find an older man that lives close to you that can buy you things and pay your bill. Okay, it will be easy. Anyone can do it. I promise. Okay, go dump him.  And if you're, you know, if you don't like older guys, get someone at least your own age, you know what I mean? That has something going for themselves, you know, that can help you, that can assist you, that can make your life better instead of worse. If your partner is not making your life better, then you dump them, okay? Besides, how can you be in a relationship with someone that lives two hours away? That don't even make no sense. Like, I'm not driving that much for anybody. I'm sorry. Y'all better move close. Um, my friend, my friend is in a relationship with a 23-year-old guy who just dropped out of college. She already graduated. His dream is to do music and he doesn't have a job. What would you do? Wait, how old is she? 23? Okay, um, at 23, I was like, I was on a mission to be successful. Okay. And anything that was in my way and holding me back, I was kicking to the curb. Okay, if you weren't helping, then you're hurting. So, I think she should, like, give him about a couple of weeks to get his stuff together, you know, pack it and find a place to stay and tell him good luck with his music career. And you're his number one supporter, but you gotta, you know, you gotta move forward. These comments are hilarious. I'm sorry, my hand's probably by the mic again. Okay. Someone says, I'm a snake. Don't listen to me. Um, I feel like you probably want to take advantage of someone, don't you? You don't want to give away all y'all secrets. I feel like if you're not doing anything for a woman, but eating her food and sitting around and, you know, using up her electricity, then you're disposable. Okay?  If I was a man and I didn't have, you know, myself together and I wouldn't even date, I would be too embarrassed to date. I'd be like, I can't date. She's gonna talk about me. I can't even afford the buffet. Oh, no, you know, I will, I will not date. Okay. I might, I might buy you a drink at the bar, but I'm not going to ask for your number.  I don't have money. I am mediocre. I can't impress you. I can't even impress myself or my mama. So why do I need to be dating? You know, I don't deserve to be dating. I can't even get myself together. Why would anybody else want me? You know, that's what I would be thinking if I was a man. You know, I would, I would, I wouldn't even try. I'll be like, let me get myself together first because when I start dating, everybody going to be in line for me because that's how good I am. I'll be, you know, not, dang, I'm going to have to lie and cheat and, you know, pretend I'm this is and that because nobody really wants me the way I am.  That will be my ego as a man. That's the kind of man I want to be. I'm like, yeah, I'm going to have my pick, my choose, you know. Today I want her. Yes. Okay. This is the kind of, it's the kind of woman I like. Yes, that's her. Now, I know she requires a lot. So I can't come, you know, halfway. I need to come all the way. I need, I don't need to have anything for her to say no to, you know, I know I look good. I smell good. I got a good career. I got money. I got cars. The only way she would say no is if she was already married or had somebody better than me. Only two reasons. So my chances of rejection are very slim. That's the kind of man I would be.  I ain't doing all that. That's silly.  Just laugh. Oh my God, look. He thinks he can really talk to me. I have seen women reject men so bad I wish they had Snapchat back then. So I was in the club when I was younger and this like, you know, dusty dude walked up to this girl and she was like really pretty and he was like, say girl, you know, you need to get to know me. It's not all about the money and it's not all about that. I got a heart. I got a heart. You don't know blah, blah, blah. I would die for you.  And everybody's just looking at him like what the heck. And she was like, well, I don't need anybody to kill for me or die for me, but I do need somebody to pay for my bills. Can you do that?  You don't need nobody to be independent. And she was like, I am independent, but if I'm going to get with anybody or any man, he's got to be able to take care of me. So then he, of course, cussed her out as they all do and walked away with his tail tucked between his legs.     Yeah, it's not going to work, sorry, against my computer screen. Is that better, y'all? I know a lot of guys are upset, but we don't care. We don't care. If y'all are on this video at 355 and upset, we already know your story. Your story is you don't have anything else better to do because you haven't created a purpose for yourself yet. I don't know what you're doing. Your mom's probably about to get home from work and yell at you for not throwing out the dinner for tonight. So y'all better go take it out to the freezer and stick it in y'all's sink because y'all know she get mad when y'all forget to do that. When she calls you on the phone she pays for and tell you to take the chicken out the fridge or the freezer and put it in the sink.  So go ahead and go do it right now, okay? And wipe the toilet seat in the guest bathroom because you know she hates that too, you know? They got them lifestyle wipes now. Tell her to buy those at the grocery store next time she go after you know giving her your list of stuff you want her to get for you, okay? You know when she gets home she got to take over the TV so then you got to go, you know, get online and troll some more. So if you have some shows to catch up on that's what you should be doing right now, okay? That's what I'll be doing if I were you. I'll be trying to catch up on all the shows. You might not have missed no shows because you always home, never mind. Okay, grown men if you are on this video and you are mad, I repeat we don't care. We hope that you're mad, you know? You should be mad.  But a lot of men watch these videos to make themselves feel good about not having a woman or not wanting to get into a relationship because they say, ooh, she's, you know, she's very materialistic, ooh, she's, she hates men, she just wants them for their money, ooh. And it makes them feel okay with being mediocre because, oh, it's okay to be mediocre because these women out here aren't about anything anyway so I don't need to do anything to impress them.  You come here to make yourself feel like you're not supposed to be doing better and that it's okay to be where you are. And if that's, if that's how you get your free therapy, that's good with me, I don't care. But the truth will always be the truth, okay? You might not like me because I'm saying these things that might help you to not feel depressed in your current state of mediocrity living with your mama, but it still makes you less than a man no matter how you look at it. You might feel good about being single and not having to be in a relationship with any responsibilities because you don't want someone who expects things from you and that's fine, you know. It's, it's, it's kind of like a pacifier, you know, like here take this instead of really wanting anything for your life.  It's kind of like watching a bunch of plane accidents and, you know, on YouTube and saying, see that's why I don't fly. See all that stuff that happens when really there are more car accidents on the road every day from driving than there are ever plane accidents, you know. So if you're one of those type of people that are here because you're trying to justify your mediocrity by pointing the fingers at women who would have expectations, that's great. I'm glad I can be your free therapist. I have a purpose. Okay, like you have women that do this on men's videos, you know. You have women that do this on men's videos, okay. You'll have a man talking about how these type of women need to do this is the net, blah, blah, blah, blah, and those type of women will be the ones on the video commenting. No, blah, blah, blah, you know, because they want to feel happy in their current state of, you know, wherever they are at that time. They want to feel good about themselves being this ratchet thing, you know. So they will go and find men and troll on their videos and say all kinds of things to make themselves feel better inside. So they can sleep at night and wake up and be ratchet all over again, okay. I will do the same thing, you know. I feel like it's therapy. Anyways, because there's no reason a man would be looking on, you know, looking for this video. He would not search in the search bar on YouTube. Mammies, let me type M-A-M-A. They won't be searching that, you know. They probably go in the live feeds and say, oh, let me see these titles. Which one makes me feel good about myself and they'll pick that one. Who can I troll on to feel good about myself about, yes, this person here. Dang, I live with my mom and I'm really upset about women won't date me. So let me go find a video about women talking bad about mediocre men. Oh, there's one. What's her name? I can't pronounce it. Click. I know that's why y'all here. But at least you're here. Thanks for being here. I will be your therapy today. So, well, some men with men with money who don't even have these problems, you know, they can't even fathom what you're going through and they don't know what it feels like to be broke or poor or for a woman to custom out or talk down to them.  He's a millionaire. He's got money. He takes care of everything. He buys purses. He's a CEO. No woman has ever cussed him out, you know, unless she was probably divorcing him and taking half his money.  He can't experience mediocrity. So he pays for it. Just like you're here trying to experience feeling good about being mediocre because you feel like you're dodging a bullet from women like me.   That might be one of his new fantasies. Y'all know, I'm, I have a lot of time to think about this kind of stuff because, you know, the the psychological makeup of mediocre men is not that hard to figure out. You know, it's obvious.   Yes, um, you know, my kids are out for summer. I'm gonna put this phone back down. Try to hold it in. My kids are out for the summer, so they're probably eavesdropping outside the door. Yep. Hi Sasha. How are you? Sweet baby. All right. What are you doing? What's up? Do you need something? No. You just eavesdropping? What's eavesdropping? Listening in on the conversation. All right. Bye.  Speaking of these people cleaning up, we're cleaning up your mess. Sasha out there eavesdropping. What's eavesdropping? She's standing right by the door.  I'm just telling y'all, y'all, y'all, I mean the trolls, like if you come in here asking for legit advice, cool.  Even if you don't want it or not. If you thought you could troll on this channel, you thought wrong. It's kind of hard to read the comment. I'm gonna put on my spectacles. Here we go. Yeah, I can see clearly.  He'll just think I'm a materialistic person and I'll feel bad for dumping him because of, you know, because he can't do anything better. Well, think about this.     And women like, if you have a son that you're raising alone, give him responsibility and don't let, treat him worse than you would treat a daughter. Treat him like a man would treat him. Treat him like, oh, you have, you know, and that's when, that's a lot of times when the boys will start rebelling against the woman because they don't think that you're supposed to be telling them what to do because they're a man. You know what I'm saying? So this is where you have to tell them, look, I am not a man. You know, I am doing the man's job because your daddy is not here. Okay. I don't like telling men, call my man. I don't like telling men what to do. You know, I want them to already automatically do it.   I don't want you to make excuses. I don't want you to try to get out of doing things because that's not what a man does. You know, if you had a good example of one, I wouldn't be talking to you right now. You know, but obviously you don't let me find you some videos on YouTube to help you understand from a male's perspective what you need to become. And I will sit them down from the computer, find them a good mentor on YouTube to watch, and then asking questions about it later if he needs to discuss it.  If his sister's not doing, you know, I don't have to go through all that.  You can hire him a life coach and say, look, I need a life coach for my son. I need a male role model. I need you to talk to him, you know, every day or every week at 530 at, you know, on Friday. Set up something. Let him know that you understand that you can't teach him how to be a man. Okay. If he thinks that he's going to resent you. He's going to be like, you don't know nothing about me and a man.  You don't know any better. Okay. Blah, blah, blah, blah. You know, he's not going to respect you. So you need to go find somebody for him to respect. Right. And don't bring around your little boy friends who ain't about nothing to try to teach him. Because as soon as they disappear, he's going to realize, look, dang, she can't even keep a man. Why do I want to be a man, you know? So you need to find some stable mentors for your sons. Like every day on the way to school, my kids get a listen, whether they want it or not.   You turned me into a gold digger and a woman with super high standards. You should be proud of yourself, much love.  You know.   So how is that wrong if he's willingly giving her the money? It's like, here you go. You know, it's no different than starting a gold fund me with a nice outfit on, you know?    You don't. At least with the gold digger, she'll let you keep some of your check. I'm live, I'm live.  It's only going to keep you at a lower level for a longer time. You know, sometimes say no. Well, most of the time, most of the time, just say, no, I got it. I'll figure it out. I will figure it out. You know? Oh, baby, you need some gas money. You need to eat lunch at it. Nope. I'm going to figure it out. You know? Oh, baby, do you need anything? You know, I'll figure it out. You know? And let her know that you're not pushing her away.  You know, if you're helping me, you're not going to respect me. You're secretly going to resent me.  You know? So let me figure this out. You know? And that's the time where most people come up with the best ideas when they are put in a position where they have to escape. You know? When you have to get out of a struggle, you'll be stronger, wiser, and have something after you get out of it, you know, as a man. Your best ideas come when you're under pressure. You know? You might have a good idea to start a business or something like that while you're unemployed.  I'm going to go down to the car wash. And you might start washing cars and, and, and, you know, talking to people and, and, and seeing nice cars and guys driving nice cars and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And you say, you know what? Maybe I need to start a car washing business. I mean, these people are getting paid. I'm getting paid minimum wage to sit out here and sweat in the hot sun.  Why can't I be that smart to think of that? Why?    By giving them and enabling them, you are keeping them in their mediocrity. And any woman who does that, she might think she's doing good because women are natural nurturers. But what you're doing is hurting them and you don't even know it.  You can't do that, you know. Okay, right? You don't have no excuse to be broke. Go online, order, spray car wash, mobile car wash solution, and some squeegees. Go get some squeezes at the dollar store, get you some cards made at an office depot or this deprint online. You need to look successful though. You can't look like you're going to steal stuff out of people's cars. So get you a nice pair of sunglasses.  Have a uniform. Don't just be dressed in your street clothes. Have a uniform with your name on it so you look professional, you know? And go and hand out your cards and, you know, in the parking lots or the clubs at night. You know that's where you're going to be anyway.  The people that valet park, they pay $10 extra, they can get a wash. You can come home with about $300, $400, okay?  You don't have to work for nobody. You don't have to ask your mama for money, you know. If I can think of this idea in two seconds, you know, you have no excuse. And if you don't like washing cars, you can do something else, you know. Anything else, it doesn't even matter. Figure it out. That's what free time and pressure of being broke is about. I think, okay, I met this guy a long time ago. I didn't even know who he was back then. But it's the guy from Shark Tank, Damon, and he wrote a book, you know, The Power of Broke. The power of being broke or something like that. It is in your brokenness that you find what's going to make you get to that next level.  So suffering is good for men who are mediocre and have to find something to do. They need to find a purpose in that moment. If they can't suffer enough, if somebody's always helping them, they will never get to that next level. And if someone else suggests it to them, they won't even take it seriously, because it's not a necessity at that time, you know. You got crackheads walking around begging people to do some type of odd job for them, you know. But if they had a girlfriend or a mama that would give them the money, you know, they would be the snootyest crackhead ever. They're like, I ain't doing that. No, I don't want to pump your gas. No, I don't want to mow your lawn, you know. They'll be like, no, what do you think I am? I have a mother and a girlfriend. I don't need your handouts. Okay, they're gonna have a bougie crackhead, y'all. And y'all did it. Y'all did it. There are bougie crackheads because women give them money. Oh, he gonna get better. Oh, he gonna, he gonna stop. He don't do it as much as he used to. Oh my God, like people that people that come to me and tell me these stories, I'm like, I didn't even know they still did crack. I thought that was like from a long time ago. You'd be surprised of the stuff that I hear. You know, I'm like, I don't know, even did that anymore. You know, is that still a thing? But it is. And there are bougie crackheads. They even have some on YouTube. I think one got famous. What's the name? It was a lady. Do y'all remember her? See? Even a crackhead got their own YouTube channel and figured out how to get paid. Okay. If a crackhead can get paid, you have zero excuses.  Okay. That's all I'm gonna say. That's not a problem. So I think the troll left. Okay. I can stop talking about this. Okay. Girl, I read him off. His feelings was hooked. Okay. I'm reading his comment. Okay. Want to leave my cheap man husband. I'm 25 years old. Stay at home mom with no degree with two kids under four. I don't want to lose my kids and be broke. What is a good escape plan? I really need your help. Okay. You're 25 year old. You have two kids and you have a cheap husband. Okay. If he's paying the bills, you need to stay. Okay. Because if you leave, you're just going to struggle even worse. Stay with that man.  Let me see how they can start kindergarten in the fourth at four years old. When they start kindergarten, you go get any type of job, figure out how to work for yourself online or something. You know, sell pictures of your feet to freaks who like feet. Foot fetish people. I don't know. Do something but start saving your money.  Start saving your money. Have a backup plan.  Don't tell them about your money. Start a separate account. You don't need to know nothing. Okay. When you have enough money to leave and live better than you're living now, then that's when you leave. Okay. Plus you can get child support and have extra money for your hair and nails. As men think that's what we do with the child support money. So yes, that's my suggestion. It might take a couple years, but if he's cheap and he's not making a lot of money, if you can save up by working online or doing, you know, starting your own business or whatever, doing great, you know, all ends at odds and stuff like that, then more power to you. But don't leave now. You're just going to put yourself in a worse position. If you don't have any bills to pay and you're living rent free, you better find a hustle on the side and save your money. Okay. I'm trying to read some of these. I got like 10 side hustles.  That's going to be side hustle.com. You pay me $5. I'll give you a good side hustle. See, that's a side hustle right there. I gave you a free one, side hustle.com. Somebody needs to patent that.  Come to me when you have no hope. Come to me when your mama stopped giving you money. Come to me when your girlfriend says no. You lazy. I got your side hustle. Okay.  I've been trying to do PR. Okay. Negative, chaotic, crazy things. Get attention. Not good things, not regular things, but drama.  Like there's, there's, there's Photoshop these days.  You know, a lot of people use Photoshop to put their business name on like the t-shirt of like Obama and people will look at that like, they ain't Obama. Wait, that's fake. You know, and they might click on it and bam, you're in there. Okay. Some people will have that sign of Michelle Obama holding up this sign. It'll have a business name and you need to go shop at such a foot. You know, use your imagination. Okay. Boring does not get clicked on.  People will click on it because that's what they're attracted to like pain. You know, what is this? Mami? Oh, no, she didn't click versus how to be a successful young man. Scroll. Okay. So create, be creative in your advertising. Yeah. Controversy sells. Okay. The master of controversy in the 20th century was probably Michael Jackson. He knew that controversy sold. He put a lot of the stories out himself to the tabloids like back in the 80s to get this attention, you know, to make him seem weird or odd because that's what people were like drawn to, you know. So he knew that and he used it to his advantage and then everybody else started doing it and it became overwhelming, but he's the most famous musician, entertainer that ever walked the earth because of it. You know, good or bad. So figure out how to create a buzz around your thing. You know, if you're getting business card made, don't get the same old boring business card. It has to stick out. People have to want to keep that car. Ooh, this is a nice car.  You have to stand out. Yeah. See what's there. Some are very effeminate and psychologically identified as females. I believe inner infeminacy creates media.    So they have to relate to the female and that's true. You know, that's why I say get a mentor. Okay. Okay. Do most female businesses stay successful or fail? I don't think it matters if you're male or female. I think if you have a target audience and you have something that they want, you're going to succeed, you know, if you can present it in a way to everybody, you know, if you can present something that's in demand, if you can constantly change and improve and not stay stagnant in the way that you advertise, do business, adding new services and products, you will never fail, you know, because, you know, if you're, if you're afraid to step outside of your boundaries, if you're afraid to advertise on, you know, social media, if you're afraid to go out and talk to people that look different than you and advertise yourself, if you're afraid to speak in public and, you know, take on a more professional persona, of course you can fail, but if you're going to do everything it takes to succeed, you will succeed. I've had like 10 businesses, you know, some of them failed, some of them thrived, you know, it doesn't matter. I've got knowledge and lessons and it made my next business even better and more successful, you know, so I feel like the more you fail, the more you learn, the more you learn, the more successful you are the next time. So like right now, how many businesses do I have? I have two businesses right now and they're doing pretty good.  And if I do fail, I got a lot of money saved from them successful businesses and I got a husband who pays all the bills. So all that money is mine. All that money is mine. So a lot of people are like, well, what do you do with that money if your husband pays all the bills? I save it so I can buy me a business in the future, another business to make even more money. I'm going to be making more money than my husband then. But yeah, I'm fortunate enough where I don't have to pay any bills and I can save everything that I make for my kids and their future and if they ever need something or, you know, emergency situation or vacations or whatever, I don't know. I'm just saving to save. I have seen televangelists, you know, those preachers on TV sell a packet of water for $9, talking about some holy blessed water. Okay. I know they make more money than me. So I was watching that last night, that infomercial and I was like, you know what, nobody should be broke in this day and age. New one. Is it sad that I stripped for money? Nope. It's only sad if you think it's sad. Okay. Someone asked, what about if I'm selling chokers? Does your advice still apply like necklaces? Okay. Well, not everybody likes chokers. So you have a product that only appeals to a few people. Men can't wear chokers.   You got to sell something else on the side, like something else. Got to diversify that's what they call it. She really, I've ignored me in all my life and I'm still not married. Can I approach attractive men? I live now and not seem desperate and have them take me seriously. I don't want to waste time this summer. If you're going to approach men, they're going to think you're desperate, you know. The best way is to go online and throw out some bait and hopefully they'll approach you or to smile and give them eye contact and wait for them to approach you in person. Don't ever approach a man. Okay. And that's like, he's going to say, well, you came up to me. I didn't really want you. You're the ones all in my face. You know, don't ever approach a man.  That's just my opinion. Okay. I never had to approach a guy. Like I didn't even approach the celebrities that I met. You know, they came to me. I know that's very conceited, but they did. Okay. I want to start selling jewelry, but I don't know, I don't want to make it suggestion. A drop ship company. Look up Google drop ship company. Basically, you just set your price on their product, promote it on your Facebook, YouTube, Instagram, and you get probably half of what you sell it for. And all you got to do is put it in the order on their website. They will ship it to that person. You don't have to ship nothing. You don't have to make nothing. All you got to do is type and click type and click click and type. That's it. You know, you can make $50 in two minutes. Click it and type in by using a drop ship company. Okay. If you all are looking to start a business online for less than $300 drop ship company drop ship merchandise. Okay.  If you're going to use drop ship, if not, you're going to have to spend a lot of money and material and products to create all this stuff. And then you better best to sell it on Etsy and then pay Facebook to advertise your store or whatever, you know, Amazon and all that. Put your stuff up there too. But you're going to use a lot more energy and time than you would if you just drop ship something that you thought was cute. You know, oh, that's a cute necklace. Look like something I've made. Um, but I understand the artistry. You know, I used to make jewelry too until I realized 10 hours of making a necklace that nobody wants to pay $50 for. It's not really worth it because they sell the stuff in clairs and you know, you might as well just go drop ship it, you know, drop ship company on them and still get paid and have all your free time and you don't have to buy any material.  How do I stop blessings? Stop getting emotionally attached to the opposite sex. See them for what they can contribute to your life only.  Okay.  You have a function with money. You have a purpose for your money. Okay.  They all have a purpose in your life. Okay. So you, you would say, okay, this person is for this purpose. Not this person is going to do everything to make me happy in this world and they're my soulmate and they're the answer to all my prayers come true. No, this person is for this purpose. Okay. Don't emotionally attach to them as your everything because as soon as they take that away, then you have nothing. Okay. So basically, okay, what is a husband for? Okay. What is a husband for? What is his role? He's not to be your everything. He's not to make you happy. That's, that's inside you. You should already be happy. Okay. He's supposed to add to your happiness. He is supposed to be supportive of what you are already doing. Okay.  He's not supposed to be there to listen to your story about work and girlfriends and your mama and your sister in the midst. He don't care about none of that. He's not supposed to, you know, care about all the stuff that you care about because y'all are two different people unless it's y'all's kids. Okay. So don't attach yourself and be so clingy to one person to where they're your everything and you're there. Get out of my face, please. You know, give your men three purposes and only go to him for those three purposes unless he comes to you and stuff like that. That's, that's my advice.  I don't go to him for everything because that is exhausting. Okay. Y'all need to stop trying to these people guys do the same thing to women, you know, back up, you know, let them breathe. How should I deal with shy man like this person? But when I try to talk to him, he always shuts down things. Well, try somebody else. Okay. No look there. There's no, there's no chemistry. He shuts down. He's not interested.  Okay. If he's doing that around you, he's not that interested. Okay.   Okay. Let's see. If you're talking about money, food, sex, they carry up. That's the only thing you know, but the bills paid. Okay. You hungry? Okay. You coming to bed? Okay. That's it. You get paid? Okay. Check, check, check. That's it. I need to talk about some long drawn out drama.  My messy, my messy person. That's who I talk to them about. Okay. Don't talk to your man about everything.   I know every detail. I know the color of, you know, her best friend's sheets. Why do I need to know that? You know? Okay. So how can I enhance my feminine qualities and be approachable to men? They look and seem interested, but don't approach. Smile, mirror their actions and give eye contact. You know what I'm saying? You know, give them eye contact.  But don't approach. If they don't come over, they don't want to. Okay. I was like, oh, well, you miss an L. Some men are messy. That's why I couldn't argue with them. Yeah. Okay. What do you think about men having close female friends? I don't think you have control over that man. I don't think he fears for his life from you. Um, if, if my husband had a close female friend, I would show have a close male friend. I'll tell you that. I think a man's close female friend is his wife or his girlfriend. Anybody else is competition. Okay.  Just get you a male friend. Oh, we just friends. I've known him since junior high school. When a man is that close to a woman and they know each other for all their life, they have had sex before. They might not talk about it. They might not say, oh, it just happened once they might have got drunk. It did it, but still they've done it. And they probably gonna do it again when you or their boyfriend makes them matter vice versa.  Oh, I can't have a friend. I've been knowing her for years and daughter. And then, you know, they make you feel bad about being jealous and stuff like that.  Do you want to be friends with me tomorrow? You know, do you want to be it? You know, do you want to know me tomorrow? Because, you know, when I leave, she's still going to be there. Which, which one is going to go first? It's what I'm asking. Is it her or is it me? Because I have no problem moving on.  But you delete blocks, you know, tell her, look, it's been great. You know, I'll text you on holidays and best of luck. Yup. Unless this lady is old or really ugly, like super ugly, you know, it don't even matter.  I'm just saying, unless she's like super old to where she's like his mom or auntie or grandma. No. Oh, like my husband had a female friend and she was no threat to me first of all, because he she was totally not his type. We thought she was a lesbian for like, maybe she was, I don't know.  And every time a holiday would come around, he would get her to cook us some us. And she was both of our friends. Okay. So unless you are her friend too, and y'all kick it, and you can hang out with her without him, then no, I guess I provide. Okay. Okay. So this lady saying, okay, she dates women. She provides for her lady. She tells dudes to get it together. Women love money and money is power and stability. Okay. Yeah, that's true. And what do the men say? Whatever. You know, the thing that all most men say when women are like materialistic and only focused on, you know, if it's the man successful, can he do anything for me? Can he bring something to the table? They want to ask you, Oh, what do you bring to the table?   That's what you need. Actually, no, we don't. We just need what you got on your paycheck in your wallet. You know, that's what we really want. We do all the other stuff to get that. Okay. If we can skip all that and just get the money, you would be surprised at how many women will pass up on sex. Be like, I'm not getting dirty. I don't want to take another shower today. Give me the money. You know, it's like, just as bypass this part of it. And maybe later, you know, we don't care about the stuff y'all care about.  But they can't go a day without getting paid, you know, so think about it. Whenever like somebody asked me, Oh, what do you bring to the table? What do women bring to the table? I don't even answer that question. That to me, that's that's code for I'm broke. Can you pay help me pay bills? Like that question don't even deserve an answer. Because like I already know if you have to ask that question, you can't you can't afford me. So bye.  But every broke man has. So that should tell you something. Decode the words key broke man phases. What do you bring to the table? I like independent women. To two broke man phrases. When you hear those back up. That means I need you to pay some of these bills. And I'm glad you got a job because you know, I'm thinking about quitting mine, or you don't have to pay a lot more of, you know, for things that you expect. So when I when you hear that just say, Oh, you know, it was really nice to meet you. Unfortunately, I'm getting back with an ex. Oh, yeah, he's in the NFL. Lie girl make it up. And he doesn't ask me to bring anything to the table. We have like a chef and a butler that they bring the stuff to the table, darling. Is it a bad thing for an 18 year old got to be a virgin? 18. I don't think so. Like that's the age where, you know, if you if you're over 25 is time, you know, unless you're waiting for marriage and that's your religion or something like that. I feel like 18 is fine. You know, some a lot of men don't really mature as fast as you know, some people, they like, you know, late bloomers. But I would say at least by 25 do something. Okay. I am the table. Yep. I am the table is a good one. But they probably have already heard that before. You know, so you gotta make up something new and fresh.  I'm not a waitress. So I really don't bring anything to the table, darling. I have a career. I have a degree. Do you wait tables? Is this potluck? You know, we're classy. We're going to catering. They will bring things to the table. I don't do potlucks.  They'll be like, that's funny. Oh, she has a sense of humor. Okay. Well, she, she ain't about that broke man mediocre stuff. So let me just move on. But at least they got a good laugh out of it. And they know better next time than to ask somebody what they bring to the table. Because if you say those words in public and they friends over here, they gonna get clowned, you know, and be like, Oh my God, did she just say she went in a waitress? Oh my God, did she say is this potluck? Oh my God. What else you got for him, girl? What else you got? Come on. Let me hear some more. Ask her some more questions. She's funny. I like her and see when your friends start ease dropping on you when you're out and about, you're trying to come on to this girl and you get kicked to the curb. Your friend who probably has more money than you is laughing at you because he agrees with this woman.  So never ask a woman what she brings to the table out in public, especially because you might just get embarrassed. And women, if you attempt to answer this question, you're one of those pick me chicks. If you attempt to answer this question, you are moving backwards. You do not answer this question. Okay? Ever. Okay, please don't answer that question. Save your, save your pride and do not even answer that question, you know? Answer it with an insult and a joke of all. Is this potluck? Nobody told me. Sorry. I guess I'll just have to order something. You know, don't give into that.  It's an insult to women to ask them what they bring to the table. It's the same thing. Okay. It's the same thing as like you walking into a church and they say, okay, did you bring a tide and offering today? Well, then, you know, you're not going to have it. Okay. Wasn't that in the Old Testament?  Anyways, let's see. Why would I go to a potluck? My fridge is stock kosher and organic. That's right. That's a good comment. Like when they ask what you bring to the table.  What do I bring to the table? Oh, you know, most nights when I cook, it's organic. Um, whatever, whatever kosher, whatever, whatever, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, you know, and it's really good. You know, I love it. What do you cook? Like, what do you like to cook? Just act like you didn't even understand the question. Well, what do you like? They're going to think English is not your first language after that.  Like, oh, what do you bring into the relationship? Oh, well, that's what you should have asked in the first place. Oh my gosh. Well, what do I bring into the relationship?  What would you like me to leave at home? Well, what do you bring besides that? Oh, you don't want that? Oh, okay. Well, I'll just take it off the table. Well, darn.  Do you want to talk about that? What are you reading? You know, take it off the table and I bet they'll never ask you that question again. What do you bring to the table besides, oh, besides, you know, pee? Oh, I don't bring pee to the table. You know, I don't, that's not even on the table.  You know, so I don't know why you asked me what I bring to the table besides this. I'm not even bringing that to the table. So you still want to talk to me because obviously it's not that important to you because you kind of bypassed it right on by and asked me what I'm bringing. So if I'm taking that off the table, then you're probably not going to be interested anymore, right? I'm scared of the stupidity. Wow. So yeah, I think I said that one in my old videos.  What else are you interested in? They're not even going to have anything to say.  What do you bring to the table? Girl, they will be gone. Go pray. Girl, have a list to answer that question. Let's say which one have I not used in a while? Okay, Jesus. Okay. They're going to be like, dang, I shouldn't have asked that question. Then start talking about religion in the Bible, quoting Psalms and stuff to them and they'll be like, oh my God, I shouldn't. I ain't ever asking this question to nobody again. You know, what else do you bring to the table? Oh, have you read the Quran? Have you read the Quran? I bring Muhammad too, baby. Oh, have you read, have you read the Torah? I'm bringing all these books to this table. I got a lot. I got books in my trunk.  What can you contribute to these bills? You're just going to come out and say it after that point. He's going to be so frustrated. Oh, what can I contribute to, you know, bills? I didn't know that we live together yet. You know, you mean am I going to pay for my own drink? Oh no, I'll get that guy down the bar to pay for it if you can't. Don't worry, I'm good.  Don't bring things, don't bring qualities, bring people.  Well, what are you talking about? Why are you bringing all those people? Oh, because, you know, you can ask them and they will, they will provide. They will give you money. You can pray for money. You can pray, you know, ask and you shall receive. Oh, and I'm always going to put them before you because, right, they're more important. So you'll be last. I would, you know, what was, you know, be funny, like if, if I could do like a mock date with someone to, and like film it, it would be hilarious, but I can't do that because I'm married.  I might have to do it like prank call style, like from online. That would be funny though. Do it, do it online and anonymous and record the conversation. Oh my gosh. Oh, what are talking about me? Okay, we were talking about mammies who enable grown men earlier by, you know, helping them when they're broke, letting them live there and their house for free. This is including like parents as well of grown men like past the age of, you know, being able to you know, being able to go out and get a job. But, you know, a man will never succeed or think about how to become better if he doesn't have the opportunity to have lack or be broke.  You know, so you don't enable a man. You instead of giving him money, you give him encouragement to go out and seek what he desires.   Why does he need to work? You know, when I was younger, I would lose my job and have a job in less than two weeks later like, bam, making more money. You know, so if because nobody was giving me anything, okay, nobody was giving me money when I was younger.  So, you know, I would quit or get fired or whatever. Two weeks later, I'd have a job making more money.  That's going to get you motivated to get up and go get it, right? But if my mom was constantly handing me money and saying, okay, baby, you don't have to go to work, I would probably be very unsuccessful, have no work ethic whatsoever, you know, not have ideas on how to make money from nothing, start businesses, how to get jobs easy, you know, things like that. I wouldn't know any of that, you know. I was, I had a $400 card note at the age of 16 and I paid for it and went to school in high school. So, you know, I feel like if I can do that at 16 years old and a grown man can't, there is something seriously wrong. Sorry. I don't, I have no sympathy for any grown man. I don't even give money to grown bums. Like I don't even give money to homeless men because they don't have an excuse, you know, unless they're, you know, crazy and need medication, you know, there's nothing wrong with them. Okay. I don't, I don't, I don't enable anybody. I won't, I will not enable my husband. I will make fun of him if he came home and said, I lost my job. Like, whoop, guess time to start looking for another one.  I got it. Nope.   Okay. Do not attempt to help your man. If you help your man, you're hurting him. Think back in the old days, in the 50s. Okay. This in the 40s and the 50s.  Oh, no, what am I going to do? That woman is not going to say, oh, don't worry about it. I'll pay all the bills because she couldn't. She could not pay all those bills because first of all, women didn't make as much money as men did back then. So men did not depend on them. They knew they had to get up and go get it, you know, or else they kids will be looking at them with hungry eyes and they will be looking at them like, what? You know, you are a man. So don't enable them. If y'all liked the men from a long time ago, remember that those women never helped them. They had to figure it out themselves. If y'all want the old school gentlemen to return, you have to stop enabling the little boys of today. Okay. I had a husband out, out, earned him and dumped him. Yeah, that's another thing. When women start making more money than their man, they don't want them no more. They're like, okay, I can do better now. Like, ooh, you know, you can't do anything for me. You know, get out of my way. You don't know anything. You know, they're gonna start treating them like a flunky. Oh, you can't tell me what to do. I'll make more money than you. Oh, you don't have to say in this house, I'll make more money than you. Or oh, if a smart woman would not ever tell their man how much money they make and still let the man pay the bills and save their stuff, they might make more money, but the husband will never know. Okay, so if y'all have questions, y'all can ask. If y'all want to talk about the topic of the video, I have about a couple minutes left. Asher, have you always been this wise? No. But I did have guidance from a young age. My sister was an ultimate gold digger, so I hung out with her and learned from her. She would only date athletes or millionaires. And like, that's it. So she taught me well.  You know, I was kind of the shy, nerdy girl and da da da in high school. And she taught me that no matter what you look like, no matter what you look like, as long as you know what you want and go, you know, for it and only entertain those type of people, you're going to get it eventually. Okay. Because this one girl, she was like really rude to me in my comments. And I think I blocked her.    But they have a man that earns a lot of money and they can stay home. Okay. I don't know how they did it. But what I'm saying is it's possible to get what you want in this life if that's what you keep going for, you know what I mean? It's possible those women didn't always look like that. And it's possible that, you know, the man married them for other reasons. And it's possible that you know, the man might think they're the most beautiful woman in the world. But they're not looking like these housewives, they're looking like the people at Walmart. Okay, y'all seen that. But in nicer clothes. So don't everything that you can't get a certain type of man because of the way you look.  So for me, I'm like, dang, you know, there is no excuse for a woman to be dating a broke man, paying him to stay mediocre. And you know what you mean? Someone says, you have helped me tame my man. Thank you. Oh, you're welcome. I hope he stays good. Okay. Why does an ex keep coming back after you told him you don't want him? No, I'm not giving anything to him at all. He wants to keep that door open so he can sleep with you at any time. Or he might need a place to live. He exes do that when they feel like you'll still sleep with them.    Don't tell him it's his either. He would disappear quick. Okay. Where should you work to find those type of man millionaires and athletes? Gems. Gems and really nice areas. Let's see. A lot of athletes, they like to go out to eat a lot. So restaurants and really nice high end areas. I would say sports medicine offices if you want to meet athletes. I would say clubs, nightclubs, because that's the way you always be in the club, girl. They're always in the club. That's where I met all the celebrity millionaires, basketball players, football players in the club. Be a bartender at a nice club. Where else could you work? I had a list. A bank. A bank. You'll find, you know, everyone's account what they got in it. Like, oh, he got money. Okay. They have to get away. A bank in a nice area. Like, places like Costco and stuff like that.  Because like, all like the guys that I used to date, they like to buy in bulk so they don't have to keep going to the grocery store and people asking them for autographs.  So Costco, Sam's, whatever. Vets, vet offices, grooming places. My mom had a bunch. My mom had a couple of grooming shops and she had clients that were, you know, NFL players, NBA players, newscasters. And so I met a lot of people at her business as well. Pet sitting, like a lot of, they got to go out of town. Sometimes they don't want to keep putting their dogs in the kennel. Be a pet sitter. Do you have access to their house? Professional chefs, personal chefs. You'd be up in their house cooking and getting paid. You know, when I finished culinary school, they had job listings for professional chefs or personal chefs and the basketball players would come in and look at your picture, look at your specialty and what you can cook and then they would hire you to come cook for them. You know, I used to date this one basketball player and he had a professional chef and I could tell she had a crush on her and she was a young, she was a young girl. She was pretty. When he invited me over, she kind of was like upset having like this dirty look like he probably slept with her. But I know she was doing that so she could meet guys. I wasn't mad at her. But yeah, professional chefs, caterer, anything that gets you close to people with money, okay? Like seriously, expensive clothing stores, tailors, like expensive tailored clothing stores where they have to get their suits made. I used to babysit when I was a teenager for this couple who owned a like an Italian fashion like store in the really, really ritzy part of town and all their clients were the rockets, the Houston rockets. And they would hire sexy women to work there to sell them clothes. So yes, clothing stores are very like department stores are very high end clothing lines work in that section. Okay, the cleaners. If you're going to work at the cleaners, don't look raggedy, like view that woman that works at the cleaners that looks like the owner like people have people asking, are you the owner because you're gonna look so cute?  No shame gold diggers, right? No shame gold diggers. You know what you want? Go get it, right? You want a man with money? Why would you be ashamed of that? Like I'm not ashamed. That's silly. Like that's like being ashamed of wanting more in life. And why would you be ashamed of that? People try to shame women for wanting real men that will actually, you know, provide for them. I'm not ashamed of that. That's what men should be aspiring to. I shouldn't have to be ashamed of wanting a man to be a man. Okay. Okay. So when you're middle aged and worn out by pro athletes, what do you do then? Oh, they didn't wear me out. I left that to the groupies. They winded down new baby and bought me stuff and they wore out the groupies because I had very high standards. I was like, oh, no, I can't do that. Oh, no, no. Oh, no. Okay. Yeah. I did it a few times. It was nice. And because, you know, they working with extra equipment.  What about when you have a baby?  Some women are very lucky. Some aren't, you know, collagen, elastin, melanin helps snap back. Taking your vitamins, whatever. After you have a baby, snap back, you know, water. I don't know.  Okay. And it's not. So I don't know what y'all talking about. That's the thing men say to try to make women feel bad for being just as big a hose as they are.  Say what you want. I still had a good time. You know, by Jule, thanks for showing up. She's saying bye. What is your field? Are you asking me or someone else? I don't know. Thank you so much. Cleaners the Asian got their own luck. There's the cleaners by my house that this Latina girl works at and she be cute. You know, I don't know. She just worked there. How about my conscience? Well, my conscience would be sad if I married a broke man who couldn't provide for my kids. I know my conscience would be really bad because I would, you know, be depriving them of a good life by choosing a loser who couldn't take care of them. So my conscience is there. My conscience is where it should be. It's not on something temporary. Okay. I don't care. My conscience is on the future generations. Not about how you feel. I'm so sorry. My conscience is exactly where it's supposed to be. I did not see your question. So I said, did you see my question? Don't ask me if I see your question. Just ask it again because I probably didn't see it. Let me see. Companies don't take women under 40 seriously anyways. Use your youth to collect and make babies. Start careers after 40. Yep, because I had this really good job like when I was younger for like three months. And it was right after I got married and I didn't have to work, but I didn't have kids and I was bored and, you know, we already had everything. I lived in a very beautiful high rise, had a Mercedes and all this stuff. I was like, I'm bored. You know, I have the culinary arts degree. I want to do something. So I was working for this food lab, you know, and with like food scientists and stuff like that. And I got pregnant and so I had to quit and I haven't worked since. So I already had a job. If I wanted a job, I can get a job in two seconds. I don't need a job. I got like two online businesses. I don't work for people. They work. I don't even have employees, you know? And if I did, you know, I don't want to share my profits. So I keep it. I keep it minimum. But like women who have corners, they still don't want a broke man. So, you know, I could have three jobs and I still wouldn't date a broke man. And I still won't want him to pay all the bills. So it doesn't matter if I have a job or not. I'm not, I'm still not paying bills. Okay. The women that go out with me always treat me really good and buy me so many things. They feel good and I feel good about it. So it's all good. But that's great. If you can get a woman to buy you things and feel good, that's great. You know, I don't feel sorry for those women because they're learning a lesson. And they won't make such mistakes in the future if they want to seriously be considered as a relationship or wife material. Okay. Why should I work if my lady friends buy me whatever I want? You shouldn't work. You should be a mediocre guy who lets women buy whatever they want.   Okay. My sugar daddy wants to take me to the beach, but I can't decide which beach to go to like murder. I'm reading this. I can get a Hawaii or Bermuda girl go to Hawaii, Hawaii.   Um, okay.  That's true. Like if I was the gay guy, I would be trying to mess with somebody who was like, didn't have this stuff together either. I'm like, I need a, you know, I need somebody that can do something. I need to travel. I need to shop. I need to get my hair done. I need, I need a car.  Um, withhold sex, show less interest, be upset about it, never be in the mood, continuously talk about it. Say that your friend has it and she's making fun of you because you don't just lie, basically lie, lie to get what you want. People get mad at me for saying that, but they probably lie way more than me. So I don't care. Um, okay. I actually did a video on that. Okay. If you want something really big and you need this man to buy it and he says, no, well, you tell him, okay, well, you know, that's fine. Um, my friend said that he would buy it. Uh, you know, but my ex-boyfriend said that he would buy it for me like before we broke up and you know, he gave me this gift card, but I have to go get it because I gave it back to him. Just like make up some drama or you can say, Oh, you know what? I'm still really close with my ex-boyfriend's family and, you know, um, I can just get a job working for them and, you know, uh, pay for whatever I need. They can get mad and like, Oh no, you're not going to work for your ex-boyfriend's parents. They're going to be all up there. They're going to be trying to get y'all back together. What do you want? What you need? Play a scenario. Oh, I told this to this other girl and it worked. Oh, and I don't have enough money to pay for this, this and that. I got to go get another job at night working in a cocktail lounge. Um, they already hired me. They said I can start anytime. I got to wear like this short skirt with like fishnet pantyholes and heels. It's going to be very uncomfortable. Oh my God. Uh, and say it's in a really nice part of town, like where only rich people live. It's paid for. Are you going to get it? Okay. And you are never have to step. You don't even have to. None of that has to be true. You just have to sell the story. I don't go out with middle class women. I love wealthy women. That's good.  Um, he was a tennis and tennis instructor. And oh my God. They bought him a Corvette.  Shoot. They were like 65 and he was like 29. But he had a Corvette.   So now he's making what 90,000 a year playing tennis and that lady bought him a Corvette. So, you know, guys do this too. Guys do this too sometimes, but he was very, very attractive, not just like a normal average guy, very attractive, like a Calvin Klein model attractive and tall with extra equipment. Okay. Extra equipment. He had the old, he had everything except the money and then he got the money and I'm pretty sure he left that old lady after a couple years, but he had everything that a woman wants in a man physically. And now he got the money too. Wow. I'm pretty sure he makes more money than that now. That was like 10 years ago.  You're right. Well, for women, it doesn't matter. Like if my husband gain weight, I don't care, you know, because I'm not with him for his body. Okay. If I gain weight, it don't matter. I got two kids and no prenup. So, I will. Okay. I really didn't like, I've never gained so much weight to where it bothered him. Like I still look good to him. He never even noticed if I gained weight or not. I don't have to tell him. Oh, I can't tell. I never do a live chat about, I feel like I'm so old. I don't like, I'm so old. I couldn't give y'all six, but y'all do some crazy stuff now. Like back in the day, like we didn't do half the stuff that y'all are doing now. I don't know if my stuff won't work. You know, I'm seeing y'all be doing some, what do I want to call it, unsanitary, unsanitary, desperate things. That's what I'm calling. Now I'm not putting y'all down. I'm just saying I couldn't give you no tips. You know, my best tip is to withhold it. That's the only tip I got. Withhold it and only give it as a reward after you give what you want. That's my best six tip. Keep it clean, keep it fresh, and give it out sparingly as a reward only. I'm a virgin, so something would be better than nothing. Well, there are so many men who have a fantasy of sleeping with a virgin that they would pay big, huge money by you, put a down payment on a car or a house. So that's what I would do, like get you some wine, drink the whole bottle, that will loosen your inhibitions. Get drunk. And just say be gentle.  You know, I'll get women get attached and blah, blah, blah, blah. Just like lie to them and stuff, but you probably will.  So make sure either you hate them or you would never sleep with them again so you don't get attached or you find somebody that you can stay with. You know what I'm saying? So some people just do it. We're quick to get it out of the way with someone that they will never care about seeing them again. Some people want to be all in love and coupled up and then get mad when the man leaves them and say, oh, you are my first. And I wanted to marry you. They don't work like that.  And that's true.   She don't want me to get married.    My first time was with someone that was older than me. They had extra equipment, too, and we were watching horror movies. My kind of thing, right? Horror movies. And I didn't tell him I was a virgin because I wanted to get it over with, get it out the way, you know. And yeah, so that's how that went. I told him afterwards, then he was like, dang, I wanted, he was upset, but not too upset, kind of intrigued, kind of like honored, but he said, dang, I would have been more gentle if I knew. I was like, well, too late now. I've been doing everything you're saying, but I only get a few hundreds out of it every month. I'm 18. I want more because you're 18. That's why they're giving you such little money. Okay.  They'll start giving you some more money. Why should a guy tell he has a girlfriend but stalk me on social media? I never showed interest in him. Why should a guy tell he has a, a lot of guys say they have girlfriends to make you interested because if no woman wants a man, then why should you want, you know.  Okay. Um, anyways, I've been on here too long. Dang, it's almost 5.30. Okay. Well, I guess I'll, I'll go. My kids probably wondering where I am. Okay. So point of the video. Yes, let's sum it up. Women, if you help men, you're hurting men. If you think they're going to stay with you after they've gotten their themselves established because you helped them, you are very wrong. You, they can't feel like a man with you because you helped them get to that point. So you know the real deal and this other young thing on the side don't know the real deal. So she's going to think it was all him and he's going to like that feeling. He's going to be gone. You probably, um, think that, oh, you're supposed to help and build up and do this and do that. But basically you're handicapting him.  Um, and they start to see you as a crutch. And once they are able to walk without that crutch, what do they do? You and sitting in the back of the closet or in the garage getting spiderwebs and dust on you. And then you get thrown out to Goodwill. Okay. So never become a crutch to a man. Let him figure out how to walk on his own or get to his destination upon his own. Only 19 year olds can serve alcohol in Canada.  Now you have to wear like these tight shirts. I don't know. Just find somewhere where you have to deal with them like on a daily basis and they'll be threatened and they'll give you the money that you need. Yeah. Like a man's clothing store for the rich. My friend used to work at Nordstrom selling, uh, what she was selling, but she met some, a lot of guys there how to get a man to marry you. That's like a whole video. Um, I think I have a video on that depends on how old they are. Some men are not going to marry you until they old or they'll go and get another woman that's younger. If you're trying to marry a man in their 20s, good luck. Try to marry a man in the 30s. Good luck being a massage therapist. Oh my God. Yes. I use that one once. I told my husband, um, like one time, like I wanted to, I wanted to do something like go somewhere really expensive. And I was like, I want to go such and such. And he was like, well, maybe next year I'm just like, Oh, you know what? I can help you pay for it. He was like, what do you mean?  You know, um, he was like, Oh, no, you're not going to be rubbing on no other man. Because at this point, we were already married. He's like, Oh, no, you're not going to be rubbing on other man. Oh, no, you can't do that. Um, well, I'll see if we can go next month. I'm like, Nope. And that's that's another job you can do to meet athletes because they always need massages and they'll call you to their house or go to like the, the company that comes in to do their massages for, you know, the NFL, you can work for them. You can get into journalism, which is probably boring, but like sports journalism, doing interviews, maybe do like a sports YouTube page and talk about athletes and their games here into sports and they'll probably tune in. I don't know. But this bet is like really feminine, girly jobs, you know, clothing store, clubs, bartenders, massage therapy, receptionist office at like, you know, sports clinics and stuff like that. This guy says he's the only man who watches these videos. No, there's some other guys in there. Yeah.  Don't go to the ghetto strip clubs, not the butt naked, but the ones where they have to wear bottoms and they have like champagne and stuff like that.  Okay, don't go to the, the ones with rats running on the floor. You gotta tell people these days they won't put it together.  It's funny.  Well, once you've captured their attention by your mystery, then you can kind of open up a little bit, but not too much. Okay. The whole point is for them to remember being happy and having fun while they were with you so that they will want to call you again. You know, when they think about you, they'll associate you with the feeling of happiness and fun. So, you know, but they don't know everything about you. So they're not bored of you. You know what I'm saying?  Don't give them all the information. Save like conversation for the next 20 times you see them. Because if you tell them your life story in one day, they're not going to want to talk to you anymore after that. It's like there's no mystery left. You're boring.   So keep it tame. Okay, so ladies, the next time your man loses his job or asks you for something, deny him. Deny giving him anything. It might hurt. It might be painful. Not really.  So, oh baby, can I borrow $20 for this week? You know, I don't have any gas. I haven't been working and like, oh no, I'm so sorry.  You know, I have this big thing coming up that I have to pay for, but do not give it to him. Okay? He's going to be mad at you, but he'll thank you later. You could laugh at him while he goes and figure out how to get this $20.  And you, if you can figure out how to get $20 in gas with no job after your mama and your woman said no, you know, that's going to motivate you to get up and go get a job because you're, you don't want to keep asking people to borrow money. Okay? Especially people that don't love you because they're going to be looking for their money. You got my money? You know, so don't give people money. Like, not your boyfriend because you can't respect them after that. You know, don't give them money because you will never respect them the same. You won't see them as a masculine person anymore if you have to give them money. And the long run is going to come back up in an argument and he's going to be like, well, such and such and blah, blah, blah, you know, like, well, that's why you had to borrow $20 from me when you was broke. You know, I helped you.  Like, that's nothing to brag about.  And that's why he talking to you crazy.  So don't do it.  If he doesn't want to marry, he sees you as a lion building. Yeah. And that's a good way to get married.  When he's broke and don't have no job that way. If he tries to leave you, it's going to cost him money.  I'm going to do this, but we need to be married first. If you can use me up in my good money and sit on this couch all day, you can be my husband, my house husband. So if you want me to help you and hold you down, we got to get married. Let's go to the court right now. Okay. Oh, wait, he'll be having a job in two days. He will have a job in two days.  I promise. Anyways, how old are my daughters? Eight and nine. They're almost to that age where are they going to start being interested in little boys when they get to junior high, fifth grade, whatever. They probably already secretly are, but they're not talking about it yet. But I already taught them. I already said, you know what? Remember, always let them approach you back to back babies. Oh, yes, I did. I was, I want to get it all out the way. You know how celebrities get implanted with two eggs so they can have twins and get all their kids out the way. Some of them do not all of them, but some of them do. I just had mine back to back because I'm not a celebrity. I had to do it the regular way to do it the regular way. I can't afford that injection. Yeah, it is good because one is actually a year and six months older than the other one. So she can like teach her and it's less work for me and they keep each other company. So I don't have to be all in their face. Okay. Well, I think I've been on this thing too long.  So I will see y'all on the next one. Let me answer this last question. What if he don't want to marry but what if he don't want to marry? Do I better leave him? Like I said, I don't know how old this person is. If they're, if they're in their 20s, they're not going to marry anybody. Like seriously, you can't pressure a 20 something year old man to get married. Not even a 30 something year old. Like if there were like 38, 39 maybe, but guys don't like to get married young women. Okay. Did I see that episode of Tyra where the moms told their daughters not to talk to a boy unless he gave them a cookie? Yes, I saw that. That was funny. I tell my kids all the time, let's see, I'm fair with my kids. Okay. My kids used to give away their school supplies to like boys that that that were cute that needed pencils. Like, Oh, I didn't bring my pencil today. You got a pencil and then they would come home. Mama, we need to go buy some more pencils because I let my friend borrow or he kept it. I'm like, look, if you're going to give somebody a pencil, they better give you something in return. I think don't give anybody a pencil unless they give you something. My kids coming home with watches, fidget spinners, stickers, they coming home with the goods. I'm teaching them how to bargain. And I told them about my first hustle. I had a I had a side hustle. When I was a junior high school, you know how you can buy those big packs of like gum with like five pieces of gum in it and like big red and juicy fruit, they come in like a 12 pack. Well, I bought those and I would sell each stick of gum for 25 cents. The pack was a $2. I would sell one pack of gum that cost 25 cents. I would sell that for 50 cents. So or a dollar, depending on what flavor it was. But I would make about $20 off of $2 in junior high school. Okay, because that was my first side hustle at 13 years old. I will make $20 a day in junior high school selling gum. Okay. Now, I didn't give no gum free. I'm not the girl that you come to to get gum. I'm the girl you come to to buy gum. Okay, I want your money. So, um, yeah, I was all right. I had a job. I had my own business at the age of 13 selling gum and junior high school was like never got caught either. My brother, oh my God, my brother had a similar idea, but he was done.   He got caught same day. You gotta suspend it. Like, well, you tried, but you know, you gotta be, you gotta have something that people want to buy every day. And it's high in demand, not something that people are going to tell their teacher and because they can't afford it. What was your first business at 12? Was you a drug dealer? Did you mix white Jesus with soda? That's what Jay Z said. I used to sell cigarettes and hustler magazines when I was in the 7th grade. See, y'all can still be doing that. Why can't you sell it now? Online, making beat it rings.  You know, if you keep giving your man money, he's not going to be able to figure out how to become an entrepreneur or how to get a better job because you won't even give him time to be broke enough to think about it. Everyone in the comments and saying, oh, my first hustle, my first job, I sold this and I sold that and I did this to get money. Well, people don't think like that anymore. That was the old school, before we had internet and needy women that would do anything for a man.   That's probably going to be the newest rap song. It's going to be called Let's Go Dutch. It's going to have a good beat and it's going to trick women into paying for their own food. And I don't even know which rapper would be doing that because, you know, it's not going to be Jay-Z or no Rick Walls or something like that. Maybe some Kendrick Lamar might go Dutch, some Jake Ho. Even Brutal Mars ain't going to go Dutch. He's going to pay for you. But it's probably going to be somebody like that. It's going to probably be somebody that, you know, not afraid to go Dutch because women will still like them and go Dutch. Young Thug. Yeah, Young Thug, no, he ain't going to, he's not going to go Dutch. Young Thug has more class than that. Even Trinidad James won't ask you to go Dutch. And he is like the modern version of Jerome. Jerome always pay for Pam. Jerome from Martin, you know, he was like, I got you. He always had a side hustle too. He was never broke. And then Pam started dating him. So, hey, Wally. Yeah, Wally. Future. Let's go Dutch. Tick-tock. Yup. Chris Brown. No, Chris Brown wouldn't ask you to go Dutch. He'll pay for you. He didn't talk about you like a dog. Drake would never go Dutch. Oh, no. Drake would never do that. He would invite your whole crew of friends out and pay for you. Um, what other rapper would go Dutch? Or a singer or whatever. That would be like Mac Miller. Meek Mill. Russ. Floyd Mayweather. Maxwell would go Dutch. Someone asked me where my interview with the millionaire is at. I need to go find one. Let me find one on YouTube. I'm pretty sure they'll do me an interview.  I just want to interview for my YouTube channel. How you gonna want? They might try to pay me anyway. I can't think of no more rappers, y'all. Whatever. So, Chance trying to help. Interview with a sugar daddy. Okay. If y'all have a sugar daddy out there who would love to do an interview with me and you want to help me, contact me. Okay. Put in the comments and I'll give you my contact information if you want to help. If you have one that will make a good interview, let me know. Okay. So, I might get one of my friends to get me a sugar daddy interview where I can record them and they'll be anonymous and I'll ask them what makes them want to buy women stuff. Like, is there something special, you know, that goes through their mind when they just agree to buy these women $1,000 purses and give them thousands of dollars each month? What do you get out of that, you know? And their answers might be very misogynist and, you know, for their own purpose but the women, the woman gets something out of it. Like, really good. So, most women won't care. They're like, oh well, I don't care. It's better than having sex for free or it's better than hanging around guys for free or it's better than dating somebody broke, you know, because a lot of men don't really understand that women like comfort, luxury, and things like that. They don't, they value those things a lot. They value other things as well but they like those things a lot. Like, even in the tarot cards, there is a card that represents the wife, the mother, it's the Empress card. And that card also represents comfort and luxury, okay? Wife, mother, comfort, luxury, the Empress, okay? So, this is an arch type and an arch type is a character that is seen throughout human history, okay? So, she's not going to settle down unless she's comfortable. She's not going to feel relaxed unless she's comfortable in, you know, living in luxury, you know? So, I feel like men know this, which is why the first thing they do when they get money is go out and buy a nice car to impress women and attract women to think that they have some money, you know? I've seen men driving really nice cars living in a one-bedroom apartment. You know, cars cost more than the house, you know? So, men know what women like. Don't act like y'all don't know.  It's not to impress other men. It's not to impress yourself. It's not to impress your mother, but to impress women, okay? Somebody says, do you want to know a secret? I've been a sugar daddy. Okay, uh, joke. Tell me about your sugar daddiness. What have you bought a girl? What's the most expensive thing you have bought a woman? That's the question I'm going to ask. This will be my practice. Yeah, so I'm gonna go and see in my group if I can find a girl to find me a sugar daddy to interview. This will be interesting, but I don't know. Y'all, I might have to ask y'all for some questions to ask him. What do y'all want to know? Y'all are cracking me up. Okay, um, someone says that a millionaire has told her that if a man's only vehicle is a two-seat luxury sports car, then he is a fake baller. That is true. You got to have an SUV, a sports car, a sedan. You got to have a Jeep.  Like, where's my kids gonna sit? That's a funny story. Like, when I first got pregnant with my daughter, my husband had a two-seater Mercedes, I don't know, but I was like, you don't have to get a four-door sedan or something like that, another BMW or another Mercedes or whatever with four doors. And he was like, oh no, I don't want to do that. I like my sports car. I was like, okay.  But at that time I was like, well, you need to have a car too in case mine goes in the shop. You need four doors, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah. What about these babies? You know, I was like, all like that. And so I was upset and I was like, okay, I'm not getting rid of my sports car. Okay, I'll get rid of it for you. And like two weeks later, he had an accident and it was total. Then he went and got a four-door BMW. So I said, well, congratulations. Welcome to Daddyhood. I put a car seat. I had two car seats. I put an extra car seat in the back of his car. He kept putting in a trunk. I was like, what, what you had in the car seat for? I was, I was gonna make sure people know he was a new daddy with a car seat in his trunk.  Get over the non-comfort of being around those wealthy men. Okay. Well, the reason, oh my God, the reason that a lot of people get nervous or uncomfortable around rich people is because they never lived that lifestyle. You got to get comfortable with the lifestyle, you know, because you'll know what they're talking about.  You don't know what it is. You just don't know. I don't know what that is. You know, what is that? You know, oh, that's a type of lettuce. What? I only notice, you know, you got to get familiar.  Knowledge takes away most fears, you know, learn about what you're scared of and all that fear will leave the more you learn, you know. So, read, like get inspirational quotes.  Like, I don't know what that is. What's that? H? What's the H? Oh, that's Hermes, baby. Hermes, if you pronounce it correctly. You know, oh, what's that? You know, get knowledgeable if you're going to be around these people.   You know what I mean? Like, like, let me tell you about this girl that I knew. We went to eat, right? I used to know her from somewhere, some club or bar that I used to go to.  And she was asparagus, you know, I don't know what that is.  You don't want to be afraid of the food on your plate that you, you know, you get at a restaurant dining with, you know, someone with money, you don't want to be afraid of the food on your plate. So get educated on, on fancy food, which I don't think asparagus is fancy, but you know, some people do. So look at the menu online at certain restaurants, you know, figure out what it is, go taste it, you know, don't, don't turn your nose up at food because it's not a baked potato and chicken wings or steak or something common, you know. So I feel like a lot of women don't even realize that they're in need of these type of services.  And I was like, well, they might be offended by your suggestion. So maybe we could, you know, maybe you should call it something else. Anyways, but yeah, I, I see, I understand why some women have problems landing a rich man because you haven't done your research like this is a goal digging is a job. You've got to do research, you got to, you know, you got to, you got to do a lot of research, you got to do a lot of reading, you have to figure out the best approach, you have to learn psychology, you got to learn how to get, it's just, you got to learn how to act.   Okay, so this is what I'm saying. This is a job. Goal digging is not easy. If it was, all the men would be doing it. Okay, how do I make new classy friends? Okay, you don't want to have your own new classy friends, you want to adopt classy friends from like one person, right? You meet one person and then make them introduce you to their friends and then you'll have classy friends, you know.  Those are so cute.  You know, oh really? Oh my god, I love shoes. And then like, start a conversation, you know.  Yeah, sometimes. Oh, you know, I'm new to this side of town and have any friends, you know. If you ever want to, you know, hang out, here's my number. Always compliment the shoes and the purse. That's how you make friends quick. And talk about going shopping together.  Those are awesome. I don't know. Why do black women tolerate absentee fathers, then spend, they paycheck on stuff like beats, headphones and other items? Well, somewhere down the line, someone did not have high standards and they fell in love and they started a relationship based on potential instead of what was already there. And so it's kind of like investing into a Ponzi scheme.  They didn't marry you. Second of all, if you are basing the relationship on the potential of this man and he doesn't live up to that potential, oops, mistake number two, you know, that wasn't his fault. That was your fault for thinking that he would become something that he never was.   So I'm out.  It's your fault for trying to work with his potential.  I feel like love in love, acute face gets in the way of logical thought. Okay. For me, I already knew what I wanted before, you know, before I would be serious with any man. Look, if you don't have this much money in your bank account, a nice car and a nice house, I'm not even getting into bed with you. Okay. There ain't gonna be no way we're gonna have any type of children or chance of having a child. If you don't own a house, own a nice car and have a career, I don't get in bed with potential. Okay. Don't get in bed with potential. Get in bed with money. And that way, if he abandons you, you paid. Okay. I keep trying to tell y'all, don't fall in love with potential. Fall in love with somebody who's already established. Like, I don't like, that's like, that's to me. That's like, you know, the easiest thing to avoid. You already know what you want. Look, I can't, I can't deal with broke man. So I don't know. Sorry. Bye. That's the easiest thing to avoid is broke man. Easiest thing to avoid is broke man.   But if you choose a man with a career, he can, he can leave this job and go get a higher paying job because with each job that he leaves, he gains more experience. So therefore his paycheck gets larger in his career. He is building a career, not hopping from job to job for the same exact pay. You know, so make sure when you lay down in a bed with no quantum career, six figures and you won't be, you won't be upset if he leaves because, you know, child support will probably pay for your apartment and your car note and more depending on his career. So, you know, don't lay in bed with brokenness. Don't lay in bed with brokenness, you know, if you've already had the child by the brokenness, don't have another child by brokenness. Okay. If you can make up for having a child with brokenness, with having a child with so many more money, you can improve your life tremendously. Okay. I have a friend on Facebook. She had, you know, she had a child with someone that didn't have a lot of money, but she still made it, you know, doing what she do. She has a rich man now and problems solved. They didn't make the same mistake more than once because she was, she learned her lesson the first time. You know what I'm saying? You'll, if you take more than three times to learn your lesson, you is a, I don't even, I don't even want to insult mentally challenged people like that. Okay. But something may right. Something is not right if you make the same mistake three times. Okay. Why do men try to fix a relationship when you break up? They know how to fix it and choose not to. Why do men try to fix a relationship when you break up? They know how to fix it. Because when you leave them, that's when they want you the most, when they can't have you. That's, that's how, that's why I say always stay a mystery and always keep men chasing even in their relationship.  Once you go home, they want you. So they know how to fix it, but they don't have to because you keep forgiving them and you keep saying, oh, it's okay. I just want you to do this. You know, if you left them the first time they made the mistake, they would have fixed it. You know, you have to call, you have to bluff sometimes.  You can't go back right away. You got to go out. You got to date other people. You got to be like happier. And then when they try to get you back, which they will, your ultimatum is, okay, well, you need to change this. I need a ring. And we need a nicer apartment. This is what you got to do to get me back. If you want me back, you'll do it. If you don't, it's not wasting my time. This is how you get things done.  They will want you even more. You give them the list of things that need to be done before you can get back together. And bam, you've got what you want and your man will act right. Okay, I'm just saying. Don't try to make it work for the sake of working. If you are not getting anything out of it, you're doing it backwards, you know, fake break up, get him to agree to your standards, make sure he does them before you get back together. And, you know, it's a win-win. All right, y'all, I've been on this thing too long. I need to be getting paid. I didn't waste it three hours. I didn't really waste it. I had to sign with you guys. I did.   No, I'm not, because as soon as you break up with somebody, there's somebody else waiting in line to get with the next woman. Okay, they got a line already, waiting to use on some poor, suspecting woman. So, break up. Two weeks later, you'll have another boyfriend, ladies. Like, when I was young, I would break up and less than two weeks later, I would have a new boyfriend. So, I don't know what y'all talking about, you know. Don't listen to those guys. Do the fake bluff. And if it doesn't work, oh well, move on to something better, you know. I mean, I got some good stuff out of those fake bluffs. This is what I need if you want me back. Okay, anything. What do you want? And if you break up before it's really time to break up, their heart won't be ready to move on. And neither will yours. But if you really want something out of this person, not materially, but like, if you really want like, gauge engagement, marriage, a nicer place, a down payment to a car, break up when it's when it will hurt the most, like when you're not even ready to break up, where it's like too sad, like it's almost a funeral.  Um, don't do it when they don't care no more. Don't do it when one is too late, and you know, the thought of a new girlfriend is exciting. Don't do it then. Do it, you know, right where you start getting comfortable. Like, she could have been the one. Okay. How do I friendzone a guy? That's easy. Um, if you want to friendzone a guy, just keep, just like, act like one of the guys with him, or treat him like a girl, treat him like one of the girls, or act like one of the guys, you know.  Um, I need to get my roots done.  Oh, you know, these shoes are, these shoes hurt so bad. Oh, I have cramps.  And friend, they be like, what are you telling you?    You remind me of my brother, or you remind me of my cousin, you know, someone that you would never sleep with. You feminists ruin all societies. I'm not a feminist. A feminist wouldn't be asking you to pay for everything, all her bills and wanting to stay home and not work. I'm not a feminist. I don't know where y'all got that from. Um, so I don't know. Like, if y'all know what a feminist is, maybe you wouldn't think I was one, because all I'm saying is men need to be men and pay for stuff and provide and protect. I'm not trying to, you know, take y'all's place. I'm asking what happened to y'all? Like, where, where did y'all go? Yeah. Feminist, feminists are against gold digging. Feminists want equal pay to a man, want to open their own door, you know, don't need. Yeah, they don't want to get married. They don't want gender roles in the relationship, okay?  So I don't know what you think I'm a feminist. I'm the opposite of a feminist. Anyway, if I were a feminist, I don't, I don't, I don't even know who I would be. Like, I wouldn't even be the same. I don't even think Oprah's a feminist. I don't even know who I would be if I was a feminist. I would be like, so different. I'm sad about men who still believe in love. I'm sad about women who still believe in love. They learn the hard way. And, and when they learn, that's when that eyebrow raises and they say, okay, so it's not about love anymore. What is it about now? Okay, well, since I can't get what I really want, which is love, I'm going to get the next best thing. Right? How do I get a man to be obsessed? Always leave him hanging. Stop, like, start telling a really interesting story on the phone, like, or it could be like something to turn them on or whatever, and then stop, right? Right before you get to the good part and you be like, oh my God, I have to go to bed. It is so late. We'll talk tomorrow. Or, you know, say, oh, you know what, I just, you know, I think I have about five minutes to see you today, but it's only going to be five minutes. I have to run between, you know, this and that, but I just really want to see you, you know, I have a surprise for you, you know, and you would meet them real quick, you know, be looking really sexy and cute and blah, blah, blah, blah, and then, like, wear some perfume that you know is going to get on their clothes, like, spray it on right before you get in there and, like, give them a quick hug and stuff like that, and, you know, say, whisper something in his ear before you leave and, like, make sure other people are watching and, like, make him feel like the luckiest man in the world and then he's like, okay, I'll see you later. Bye.  Oh, look at these people, they're so envious. Oh, yes, dang, you know, stuff like that.   So the guy I would date, you know, he would know that I like Michael Jackson, that every time Michael Jackson would come on the radio, on the TV, on a commercial or whatever, he would think of me even at 10 years after we broken up, I'm pretty sure he still thinks about me, you know, so attach yourself to something popular that he will associate you with, and that way, every time he passes a billboard, or, you know, hear something on the radio, he automatically thinks of you.  Okay, I'm gonna go try to find, um, someone in my group to hook me up with a sugar daddy for an interview, I'm gonna see y'all later, thanks, thanks for watching y'all, I'm going for real this time, bye!