Okay, is it visible now? Okay, I find it. Okay, yeah. So like I said, last class, we have discussed alkali metals. Okay, we have seen few trends, properties of the molecule and all those orders, right? And I have told you to go through the preparation and properties of various compounds of sodium like NaOH, Na2CO3, NaH, CO3, et cetera, from NCRT, right? So I hope you have gone through with that. Okay, next, this one thing which is left in this chapter is diagonal relationship that I have written already. Okay, so you write down the heading first, diagonal relationship. And I think probably we have already discussed this in periodic properties if you remember, right? So what is diagonal relationship you see first of all? See, when I look at the few elements like suppose if I take lithium, right? And then potassium, sorry, sodium, here we have magnesium and all, right? So group one elements we have lithium and sodium. Correct, the elements of group one. Now, when you see the position of beryllium magnesium, so beryllium is here in group two, just a second, beryllium is here, magnesium is here, right? And then we have P block elements that is boron and carbon also, like this. So here you see like few properties if you discuss when you go from left to right, left to right, electronegativity decreases. Sorry, electronegativity increases. Left to right if you go, electronegativity increases. And how would you remember this? Because we know fluorine is present at extreme right of the square table. So I know fluorine is the most electronegative element. Correct, so electronegativity increases. Top to bottom if you go in a group, then electronegativity decreases. Why again? Because in halogen, fluorine, fluorine, bromine, iodine, again fluorine is the most electronegative element going down the group electronegativity decreases. So this is the order follows by the all the groups, elements of all the groups, correct? Now if you compare the electronegativity of magnesium and lithium, those elements which are present diagonally to each other like this or beryllium and carbon also, right? Like this, diagonally to each other, placed diagonally to each other. You see when you are going from left to right, okay? When you are going from left to right and then top to bottom, then only you'll reach to magnesium. So left to right electronegativity increases. So what we can say, the electronegativity of beryllium is more than to that of lithium, okay? And again, we can say the electronegativity of, sorry, the electronegativity of is less than to that of electronegativity of beryllium is again more than to that of magnesium. Okay, what we can say from lithium to beryllium electronegativity increases and then beryllium to magnesium electronegativity decreases, correct? So from this thing, I'm just taking an example of electronegativity to make you understand, okay? If you consider this order of electronegativity, we can say that the electronegativity of, electronegativity of lithium and magnesium is comparable, okay? They have very close value of electronegativity. From this to this electronegativity increases and then decreases. So we can say lithium and magnesium will have almost same electronegativity, right? And this is true for beryllium and carbon also, right? Boron and, how did I do this? After beryllium, we have magnesium. Beryllium, boron, aluminium, carbon we have here and then SI and like that, okay? So the, see boron, the electronic configuration is 1S2, 2S2, 2P1, right? Beryllium is four, so it is 1S2, 2S2. So this is the thing, right? So like you see the elements which are present diagonal to each other have similar properties, we can say, right? So these elements which are placed diagonal to each other are, are assumed to show diagonal relationship, right? So lithium and magnesium, if I give you the value of electronegativity of lithium is it is 1.00 which you don't have to memorize and that of magnesium, it is 1.20. So they have very close value of electronegativity. Similarly, if you compare atomic and ionic radius also, right? Atomic radius is ionic radius. I'll just write down this order, ionic radius. You see atomic radius is 152 picometer and for magnesium, the atomic radius is 160 picometer. And 76 picometer and for mg, it is 72 picometer. So you see both values are very close. So what we can say the elements which exist and diagonally to each other shows similar properties and this we call it as diagonal relationship. The first point I have given you for electronegativity. Second point I have given you for size. Third point also I can give you here which is both have high value of polarizing path. Both have high value of polarizing path. Okay, so these values are not important. What is the radius we have? These values are not important but because of these three properties and various other properties are also same, we can say the elements exist diagonally to each other shows diagonal relationship. Like for example, I can show you the few similar properties of lithium and magnesium, okay? So just first point you write down the diagonal relationship, how they have similar properties. The first point to write down both lithium and magnesium, both lithium and magnesium decomposes slowly, decomposes water slowly to liberate hydrogen, to evolve hydrogen. For example, reaction you see, LI plus H2O gives LIOH plus on reaction with H2O, it forms hydroxide. Similarly, magnesium you see magnesium reacts with H2O, forms MGOH whole twice and H2O. This is again the reaction we have. Both elements also combines with nitrogen and forms nitride, right? So next one to write down both elements, all these points you have to memorize, elements, forms, nitride. Reaction you see, we have lithium plus N2, it gives two LI3N. Similarly, we have magnesium plus nitrogen and we are heating this mixture, it gives MG3. Now one more important for these nitrides, memorize, write down this, both nitrides react with water to evolve ammonia. For example, LI3N plus H2O gives LIOH plus NH3. Similarly, the reaction of magnesium you see, magnesium nitride, MG3N2 plus 6H2O gives 3MGOH whole twice plus 2NH3. Like this we have few more similar properties, like the third one you see, carbonates of both elements, carbonates of both elements decomposes on heating. For example, you see LI2CO3, when you heat this, it gives LI2O plus CO2, MG2CO3. When you heat this, it forms MGO and CO2. These are what, you see, these are mono oxides, okay? These are mono oxides, so one more point we can say that both elements form mono oxides, okay? So these are the few properties, similar properties I should tell you. And the last one, and this one is important, is the nitrates of both metal, both metal decomposes on heating and gives nitrogen dioxide, nitrogen dioxide, and oxygen. So I'll write down the reaction now, LINO3, this, it forms monoxide plus nitrogen dioxide O2. Magnesium nitrate, MGNO3 whole twice. When you heat this, it forms MGO plus NO2 and plus O2. So these are the few similar properties of lithium and magnesium we have, and that's why we call it as that these element shows diagonal relationship, okay? So you see, there are only theories in these chapters, okay? So I am not covering all those points, which is given, but the only thing we are discussing here is the important points, right? So it doesn't mean you don't have to go through all the things which is given in NCRT, at least. You must go through the process of preparation of all the elements. Like for example, I'll write down few names here, okay? That you must go through, okay? Well, if you have any doubt, you can ask me on this, but since there is nothing to understand here, you have to memorize those things. You can go through from NCRT or any other book if you have. That's why I'm not wasting our time over here. For example, you see, I'll just write down quickly and we'll move on to the next chapter. That is, suppose I'll give you the compounds of sodium. Compounds of sodium. You see here, a few compounds, and then name you have to memorize. For example, I'll write down, the first one I'll write down NaNO3. And we also call it as chili salt pitter. Next is NaNO3, ALF6. We call it as cryolite. These names you have to memorize. Next one is NaNO2SO4.10H2O. We call it as globbers salt. Next is NaNO3O8. We call it as soda pelspa, F-E-L-S-P-A-R. And the important one is NaNO2B4O7.10H2O. And we call it as borax. We also call it as tinkel. We also call it as suhaga. All these are names for this compound. But not that much. Not that much, it releases energy, but it is not that much explosive. But we use this, actually, we can mix Q compounds into this, and then it may use an explosive, or the formation of explosives. So it has few properties. And that's why we use this in explosives. These names you have to remember. Now you see for NaO8, the few preparation method you have to go through, NaO8, we have causticization. The preparation method is causticization. We also call it as Gauss' process. These are not important, okay? Another preparation method is Kastner-Kellner cell. Kastner-Kellner cell. These are the preparation method. And whenever you see these properties, in properties you have to go through mainly chemical properties, reactions. Chemical reactions you have to memorize in properties, mainly, okay? Those are the only thing which is important, okay? Similarly for Na2CO3 washing soda also, we have lee-blank process, okay? Solve ammonia soda process, okay? These are the process, lee-blank and ammonia soda process. Solve a process or we also call it as ammonia soda process, which is important, okay? All these things are given in NCRT, which you can go through, okay? So we are not wasting our time over there, okay? So again, we'll start with the second group that is group two, algaline, earth metal. These are the elements of group two, right? So group two. Okay, tell me one thing. How many of you have gone through the previous lecture? How many gone through the previous lecture? We have discussed the previous in periodic. Tell me honestly first, not hydrogen, alkali metals I have taken last class, okay? How many of you have gone through? Dedaash, Shant, Bharat, Nikhil, Liranjan, Ashutosh, Neha, Sris, Sriramya, Ashish, Shreya, Preeti, Andrew, Sridev, Ved, Advaith, Abhyay, Gaurav, Advaith. Tell me, how many of you have gone through the last session of alkali metals? Okay, fine, you must go through with that session because we have discussed all the trends in the periodic table, okay? And here also in this group, we have similar kind of trend, okay? So I am not going to explain you the logic again, okay? In that detail, right? So if you want to understand the logic, you have to go through that session, okay? Okay, so I have already, okay? I have shared the, no, NCRT, fine, but you just go through the session that I have taken last class. So the trends we'll see now, but logic will not go into that depth, okay? Because it is more or less same only, okay? Like you see, first of all, in group two, we have what elements we have? Is big, magnesium, calcium, these are the elements. If you see the atomic number of all these elements, beryllium has four, magnesium has 12, calcium has 20, then we'll add 18, so 38. And again, 18, so 56, and then 32, so 88. So difference you see here, here the difference in atomic number is eight. Difference in atomic number here it is again eight. Again it is 18, 18, and then 32. So these numbers, we call it as magic number for group two, magic number for group two. So if you know that generally we have, we know the atomic number of beryllium, magnesium, calcium, if somewhere however it is not required that much, but somewhere if it is required for a strontium, you can add these 18 to this 20, you'll get the number if you know this magic number. That is the one, no, uses of this. Am I audible properly or my voice is breaking? Tell me, am I audible properly or my voice is breaking? So if you draw the electronic configuration of all these elements, the electronic configuration of beryllium will be, it is 1S2, 2S2, right? 1S2 is the electronic configuration of helium. So we can also write it as helium initiative of 1S2 and then 2S2. For magnesium after helium we have neon, 3S2, right? So one thing you must keep in mind that the general electronic configuration I'll write down first, the general electronic configuration of the elements of group two is nS2, where n belongs to the period of that element. Like for example, you see beryllium belongs to second period, right? So here we have 2S2. Magnesium belongs to third period, 3S2. Calcium belongs to fourth period. So helium, neon, and then we have argon belongs to fourth period, so 4S2. After argon, we have krypton, right? And strontium belongs to fifth period, so 5S2. Similarly, xenon, 6S2, and then redon, 7S2, right? This is the general trend, okay? Now in this one, if you go, if I talk about the atomic radius, right? As we go down the group, as we go down the group, what happens to atomic radius? As we go down the group, so what happens to atomic radius? Tell me, as we go down the group, atomic radius or ionic radius. Atomic radius or ionic radius increases as we go down the group, right? Atomic radius, ionic radius increases as we go down the group. Now, when you talk about ionization energy, so as we go down the group, the ionization energy, what happens? In ionization energy, as we go down the group, what happens to ionization energy? Tell me, ionization energy decreases. Why ionization energy decreases? Because the size increases. Any one of you have doubt, you can ask me, okay? As we go down the group, the ionization energy decreases. We'll come back again to this, okay, we'll discuss first this only. So like I said, ionization energy, we have two ionization energy we'll discuss. That is first ionization energy, first ionization energy, and we write it as IE1. And then we have second ionization energy. And that we write it as IE2. So if I compare for one element, suppose for beryllium, if I compare IE1 and IE2, which one is more, IE1 and IE2? Which one is more for alkaline, earth metal? First ionization energy or second ionization energy? All of you know this, what is ionization energy? If you know this ionization energy, first what is ionization energy? All of you know this, tell me, yes or no? So you see, first of all, I'll come back to this, you know, slide again. If you take the example of beryllium, beryllium electronic configuration has four electron, electronic configuration is one S2 to S2. And when it goes to, when you provide IE1 to this element, it forms B plus, which has three electron, so one S2 to S1, right? Now again, in this, if you provide IE2, right? So it forms B2 plus with two electron, configuration is one S2, right?  Which is quite stable, which is quite stable, right? And here, when you're providing IE2, then we are trying to remove electron from half filled S orbital, half filled S orbital, which is comparatively not that much stable as compared to this two S2. So what we can say, since this form is more stable, hence IE1, we have to provide more energy to remove that electron, right? Hence we can say the first ionization energy of alkaline earth metal is more than to that of two. Understood? Now, if I compare IE1, IE1, alkali metal and IE2, IE1 for alkaline earth metal, which one is more, IE1 for alkali and IE1 for alkaline, which one is more? Tell me, the answer for this will be alkaline, okay? So the correct answer is alkaline, yes. And why is it so, why is it so? Because you see the alkaline earth metal, the general electronic configuration is NS2, right? So fully filled S orbital, but here the general electronic configuration is NS1, half filled. Again, this is more stable. So we can, it is difficult to draw electron with draw electron from this alkaline earth metal, okay? Now, similarly if we compare the IE2 of alkali metal and IE2 of alkaline, which one is more? IE2 for alkali is greater, because when you provide IE2 means what? You have to withdraw two electrons, right? So this configuration becomes NS1 then and this configuration becomes NS0, means we'll have NS2 configuration here, N minus, sorry. We should write down here, N minus 1, S2 configuration. And that is why the energy required to remove an electron from alkali metals, IE2 for alkali will be more. Understood? Tell me, is it clear? Now I'm going back to the last slide. Now you see here, ionization energy as we go down the group decreases. Now when ionization energy decreases as we go down the group, tendency to remove an electron will increase, right? And which is nothing but the electropositive character, electropositive nature, right? What is electropositive nature? It is a tendency to form a positive ion by releasing one electron. Tendency to form a positive ion by releasing one electron. So as ionization energy decreases as we go down the group, tendency to lose electron will be more and hence electropositive nature increases. Now when electropositive nature increases, so we can also say that metallic nature also increases. I have discussed all these things in detail in the last session. So if you have doubt in this, you can refer that, okay? And tendency to lose electron is nothing but a reducing characteristics. So reducing nature also increases. All these three things are associated with ionization energy. Can we move on? Okay, so these are the few trends we have discussed. Now you'll see the chemical properties. Chemical properties. The first thing we'll discuss here is reactivity towards water. Okay, I want you to write down all these things properly in your notebook, okay? Because these are the things which you will revise later on. So don't miss any information given over here. Okay, write down everything. Do you see in this what happens, reactivity towards water? Few elements of this, for example, we have calcium, strontium, barium. This reacts with water and forms hydroxide. Hydroxide of what type? M-O-H, whole-twice type. Hydrogen, gas evolves into this. H2 evolves, right? So if here we have the metal M, metal M, and this M can be anything among these three, right? This M can be anything. We'll get these type of hydroxide. M-O-H, whole-twice type, okay? Now in this reaction, one note you write down, and the note is beryllium and magnesium. Beryllium and magnesium forms, beryllium and magnesium forms layer of oxides. Hence, it does not react with water. Hence, it does not react with water. This is important. Next line you write down, the oxides of beryllium, the oxides of beryllium survives at high temperature. The oxides of beryllium survives at high temperature, survives even at high temperature, right, Tom? The oxides of beryllium survives even at high temperature, and hence, it does not react with hot water also. And hence, it does not react with hot water also. Next line you write down, the oxide of magnesium, the oxides of magnesium can be removed by, the oxides of magnesium can be removed by the use of amalgam. Oxides of magnesium can, just a second, oxides of magnesium can be removed by, by the use of amalgam, amalgam. At high temperature, at high temperature, and hence, it may react with hot water. And hence, it may react with hot water. So basically, magnesium, oxides of magnesium can be removed by the use of amalgam. Amalgam is a alloy of Hg, amalgam is an alloy of mercury Hg. So that can be removed by use of amalgam at high temperature. So magnesium can react with water at high temperature, but beryllium does not react. This is an important point. Next one you write down, reactivity towards acid, reactivity towards acid. Write down, like alkali metals, like alkali metals, these elements also react with acid and evolve hydrogen. Like alkali metals, these elements also react with acid and evolve hydrogen. For example, you see the metal M, if you are taking, M plus H2SO4, it forms MSO4 plus H2. Even if you take HCl, it forms MCL2 plus H2. Again, you see balance reaction is not required here. Just you need to know, the reason I gave you today, it forms a layer of oxide. See, you have the magnesium or beryllium surface like this. So when you put this into water, it forms a layer of oxide on its surface. It forms oxide first. This is the layer of oxide. It forms oxide first. And this layer of oxide does not let the water to further react with the magnesium metal or beryllium metal. That's why hydroxide does not form. So this is the reaction we have. Again, in this also, one note you write down, write down into this beryllium, that is BE, is amphoteric in nature. Amphoteric in nature. Amphoteric in nature. It reacts with both. It reacts with both. Amphoteric means what? It reacts with both acid or base. You see the reaction of beryllium with NaOH. The acid reaction I have already written here, it forms Na2BeO2 plus H2. This we call it as sodium beryllate. B-R-Y-L-L-A-T, sodium beryllate. Okay, this is one point you must remember. Now, the next one I write down, reactivity towards hydrogen. These elements react with hydrogen directly and forms hydride of MH2 type. What kind of hydride is this? What is the nature of these hydrides? What is the nature of these hydrides? Tell me. I need. Okay. So write down this point. These hydrides are hydrides. I need. I need. Okay. So write down this point. These hydrides are hydrides are ionic in nature, ionic in nature, except, except what? BEH2 and MGH2. These hydrides are covalent. Covalent hydride. We have already discussed this in the hydrogen type chapter. Selen is both MH and MH2 type. Both. Except these two, BEH2 and MGH2. S-block elements forms ionic hydrides. Okay. S-block elements forms ionic hydride. Okay. This is the property of these hydrides. Next write down. Next write down. These hydrides are good reducing agent. Good reducing agent. See, let me tell you one thing. Let me ask you this question that hydrides of group 2 is reducing or not. They won't ask you this. But when you see the question, these informations might help you getting the answer of those questions. Okay. That's why these properties are important to remember. Okay. You have to keep these properties in mind. Yes. BEH2 is purely covalent. MGH2 is partially covalent, partially ionic. Okay. But both we consider into covalent hydride. Right. These hydrides are good reducing agent that technically you see this CAH2 calcium hydride is technically known as hydrolith, technically known as hydrolith and used for the large scale preparation of hydrogen. You see these elements I have written the preparation method here directly combines to form this. Okay. In this one last point to write down the note here about beryllium hydride, BEH2. Write down BEH2 does not form, BEH2 does not form by direct combination of beryllium and hydrogen. BEH2 does not form by direct combination of beryllium and hydrogen. It is formed by, it is formed by reacting. It is formed by reacting beryllium chloride reacting beryllium chloride with lithium aluminium hydride with beryllium chloride and lithium aluminium hydride. The reaction you see this reaction here we have BECl2 reacts with LiAlH4. It is lithium aluminium hydride and it produce BEH2 plus AlCl3 plus LiCl. This is the reaction we have BEH2, AlCl3, LiCl. You see again I am telling you this reaction is not balanced. Okay. If you want to balance this reaction you can write down to BECl2 and to here. Again I am telling you this in organic chemistry and in organic chemistry balance reaction is not required. You should know under what condition what reaction gives you what product. This is important to memorise. Right. So must remember beryllium does not form hydride by direct combination of hydrogen. Yes, LiAlH4 is a very good reducing agent. Very strong reducing agent it is. LiAlH4, NABH4. Next should I write down reaction with halogen. Write down alkaline earth metal or write down elements of this group. Elements of this group, this group combines directly with halogen and combines directly with halogen and forms MX2 type and forms halide of MX2 type. Okay. Again in this you see BECl2, if I write down about beryllium chloride, BECl2 is covalent in nature, is covalent in nature, halides of elements are ionic in nature. See I have written here BECl2 actually it should be beryllium halide, BEX2. Means halides of beryllium are covalent in nature. That is what the point I was trying to make. It's not about only chloride, all halides of beryllium are covalent. See in organic chemistry there is no mechanism. Like when you look at the reactions if you go through the portions with time you can understand what product could be formed in this particular reaction. So you will understand this or gain this thing of with experience you can say easily at what product we are going to get. There are few reactions which are a bit confusing. For those reactions you have to memorize. Okay. But with experience when you look at look into the reaction or when you study more about inorganic chemistry then you can predict the product. Okay. Except few reactions because it's a chemistry so we always have exceptions in this. Okay. But no there is no any kind of mechanism. However somehow we can explain but it's not given anywhere. Right. So with basic understanding you can do that. Okay. Can you tell me why beryllium halide are covalent and other are I need? Anyone can explain? Yeah. Right. That is what I was trying to I wanted to listen. Okay. The according to Fezzan's rule like we have explained this for hydride. Same logic is true for halide also. Okay. So if they ask you this question you have to use that term that is polarizing power. Okay. Small size high polarizing power leads to covalent character. Okay. So like in hydride here we can write down again specifically if you want to write down the ECl2 is covalent. MgCl2 is partially covalent, partially ionic and ionic. And all of the halides are completely ionic in nature. Because the large size. Right. So this is the reason. Now here you see the next thing that right down here the properties of this that the solubility of these metal halides decreases down the group. Next point you write down solubility of these metal halides decreases down the group. Okay. So solubility order if you write down it is maximum for BX2. Then we have MgX2, CaX2, SRX2, etc. And why is it so? Because we know as the size increases the solubility energy decreases. Right. So as the size of cation increases I have discussed all these logic in the last session. Okay. As size increases, solvation energy decreases. Size increases means size of cation. Right. Less solvation energy, less will be the solubility. What is solvation energy? Can you tell me guys what is solvation energy? What is the difference between solvation and hydration energy? Solvation energy is the amount of energy released when one mole of any substance okay dissolved in any solvent. Right. Hydration is yeah correct Ashish correct. See like again I let me tell you one thing energy whenever you try to define it is an extensive property. Okay. Try to be specific over here. You know I always emphasize in these small things. Okay. You have to be very specific. When Bharat you said we say the energy released. Okay. So what is the amount of substance you are putting in? That's the main thing that you have to you know you have to mention. Right. The point is one thing you must keep in mind whenever you are defining an extensive property you always have to define the amount of substance. Right. Since energy is an extensive property so you say what when one mole of any substance is all into any solvent then the energy release at a given temperature is known as solvation energy. Right. But that solvent if that solvent is water then in that case the energy we get is nothing but the hydration energy. Right. So you have only the difference of solvent. If solvent is water hydration energy if solvent is other than water then it is solvation energy. That's the only thing. Right. I hope you understand this. Right. So as the size of cation increases solvation energy decreases in some book they have written here hydration energy also here. Right. So that is also you can write hydration energy but that signifies that the solvent we are taking is water that is the only thing. Right. Okay. Now one last point I'll just give you here which you have to again memorize at high temperature at high temperature around you know 1200 Kelvin around 1200 Kelvin the ECL2 that is beryllium chloride exist in dimer form dimer form for example you see if I now draw the structure here now we have a coordinate bond like this and like this beryllium definitely have vacant orbital and chlorine has lone pair of electron so that lone pair electron donates the vacant orbital of beryllium and we get a dimer form of BECL2 at high temperature. See in all these you know the theory that we have discussed so far if you observe one thing the compounds of beryllium which is the first element of group 2 has different behavior altogether. Right. All other elements perhaps in somewhat in a similar manner but the behavior of beryllium is different from the other elements molecules of the elements. Right. So one thing you just keep in mind whether it is alkali metals or alkaline methods earth metal group 1 or group 2 always you keep one thing in mind that the first element of both group will have the different nature. Right. That's why if you have gone through NCRT they have given in any other book all the books they have given this day that abnormal behavior of lithium right abnormal behavior of beryllium have you seen this kind of heading in the book abnormal behavior of lithium abnormal behavior of beryllium. So you must remember one thing the elements which is present at the first condition of any group will have the abnormal properties and why they have abnormal properties because of their small size comparatively high electronegativity and the difference in the number of electrons. Correct. So actually you see any elements the properties of chemical properties you see are some what to this physical property also any elements if you have they have different chemical properties because of different number of electrons present in the inner shell. Okay. If the number of electrons is different in the inner shell their properties towards their chemical properties will be different. Correct. So you see in all these elements when you go from top to bottom in a group obviously the outermost electronic configuration is same but the number of electrons present in the penultimate shell or inner shell is different right because of this difference in electrons they show different chemical properties. Okay. Second point they have the smallest size the first element of any group has the smallest size right they have high electronegativity so with all these reasons because of all these reasons the first elements of any group shows abnormal properties. Correct. So suppose why I have discussed this thing suppose they have given you this question that which of these molecule does not exist in monomer pump right or suppose the question is like this which of these molecule does not exist and the options are BCl2, MgCl2, CaCl2, understand this. You see if the question is which of these molecule does not exist let me write down I'll just finish my point here which of these molecule does not exist whether you know this thing or not suppose the first option we have is BCl2, MgCl2 then CaCl2 and the D option is SRCl2. Now since we have discussed this just now so you can directly say sir the answer will be option A because we know this exists in dimer form correct yes the answer will be option A guys you there am I audible what is the answer the answer will be option A right yeah so answer will be option A and since you know this since we just now we have discussed that BCl2 exist in dimer form correct but suppose one for one minute you just think that you don't have any information regarding this all these elements right then what you will do in this kind of question okay so one thing if you know that the elements the first elements of any group shows abnormal behavior right so there are very high chances that if MgCl2 exist then CaCl2 and SRCl2 both will exist correct but since beryllium has the abnormal behavior so there are high chances that BCl2 won't exist since we know that there is only one option correct right so if you have to choose one out of these four I will definitely go with A since I know that beryllium is the first element of group 2 and it has abnormal behavior did you understand my point yeah like it's better to go with the first option if you are going with some hunch right so better you go with the first element the compounds of first element most of the time you will get the correct answer if you go with the first element right but again if you know this sign otherwise if you want to attempt this question then I will go with A since I know B has the abnormal property that is the point I was trying to make anyways coming back to the next thing here right next you write down oxides and hydroxides we will talk about some compounds of these elements okay so write down the first here again oxides and hydroxides write down except beryllium and radium except beryllium and radium you see I am just giving you this idea okay these kind of thing you can think in the exam okay but it is not like always you will get the correct thing but what I am trying what point I am trying to make is what but in this question if you want to attempt this question you should go with B, C, and 2 right but many a cases I have seen that you will get the right answer right but in few cases since it is chemistry in organic chemistry there are exceptions okay so in few cases you may get the wrong answer also right so it is not a you know it is not a thumb rule okay we are just trying to predict some answer into this question see first of all I if you get this question okay if you get this question I will give you the assignment you will understand okay if you get this question the first thing if you know the answer fine second thing if you do not know the answer and you do not want to attempt this then also it is fine but most of the students are if they do not know the answer then also they want to attempt because the question is what which of these does not exist so it looks very simple right okay we have one of these is the answer with this we have and no there is no calculation only theory okay just look at the question and mark the answer you will get 4 marks okay so these kind of question is very difficult to you know if you do not know it is then also it is very difficult to bypass this kind of question usually students attempt like they will get something and they will attempt this kind of question but if you do not know or if you don't want to attempt fine if you do not know the answer and you want to attempt then you should go with this BCL 2 that is what the point I am trying to make okay anyway so we will not waste our time over here it is not that big thing also anyway write down oxides and hydroxides the point is beryllium and radium accept beryllium and radium all elements forms oxides of oxides of accept these two oxides of M O type oxides of M O type okay so the general reaction if I write down metal reacts with O2 forms M O right on beryllium and radium are highly electropositive in nature they are more stable in peroxide form and they are more stable in peroxide form hence form peroxides of hence forms peroxide of M O2 type M O2 type peroxide their forms right so BAO2 is a peroxide it is not an oxide it is a peroxide write down next these oxides normally we are talking about this oxide okay this you let it be here only write on these oxides are white crystalline solids these oxides are stable and white crystalline solid not that much important point but just you write down except BAO except BAO which is amphoteric in nature except BAO all other oxides all other oxides are basic they combines with water basic in nature superoxide we get in case of alkali metals okay just go through my last lecture last session right basic in nature and then you write down combines with water with H2O and forms hydroxide with H2O gives M OH whole twice and this is an exothermic reaction so energy heat energy releases in this if I ask you the solubility order of these hydroxide what is the answer tell me the solubility order of this BE OH whole twice MG OH whole twice CA OH whole twice SR OH whole twice what is the solubility order I will not use blue further okay what is the order of solubility of these hydroxides increase in atomic number okay solubility increases you see here what happens the correct order is this solubility and why is it so the reason behind this is as we go down the group correct so as we go down the group the size of cation increases right and when the size of cation increases I'll just write down here as we go down the group down the group size of cation increases when the size of cation increases right so bond length also increases and hence the lattice energy decreases lattice energy decreases when lattice energy decreases its thermal stability also decreases and hence the solubility increases all these things you can relate solubility increases will be easily soluble if you have two atoms bonded with a strong bond high lattice energy then it is difficult to break this bond and solubility will be less in that case right but when the lattice energy is low right so it's thermal stability is also low and it will be easily soluble correct Devdash hydration enthalpy if you see we are talking about solubility now right hydration enthalpy of this will be more see for dissolution there are two three things involved we have lattice energy also we have hydration enthalpy also right so the point is which factor is dominating at which point okay that's why in organic chemistry what happens you have to be very clear that what fact you have to apply or what logic you have to apply when if you talk about the hydration enthalpy or solvation energy obviously smaller ion gives you higher hydration enthalpy or solvation energy correct yes yes yes the point here is what you have actually two thing here one is lattice energy and the other one is hydration energy or solvation energy so with respect to lattice energy you will get this order with respect to hydration energy you'll get reverse order right the point is when this kind of contradictory facts are there then mostly in chemistry the things become experimental right and the final result depends on the factor which is dominating on the other one right so here in this case the lattice energy factor is more dominating over the hydration energy factor and that is why in the book if you see they will not mention the two contradicting factor they'll just give the dominating factor and according to that they'll give you the result did you understand this why they give only dominating factor because according to that only we are getting the final result that's why they are discussing only those did you understand this where are where are HSR guys I can see only 3 days where is Shreya yeah right but that's what you cannot say anything into that see in chemistry like I many times have said this yes many times I have said this in chemistry first we have the fact right and we try to explain those facts with the best possible explanation correct so here it's not like physics where we have logic and then we get some final result we have first we have final result and those results we're trying to explain the best possible way no no no is the only way is to memorize this that here that's what I said here you have to think about the lattice energy factor when you talk about that you know hydration energy of halide and all there you have to talk about the hydration of that you know hydration energy factor or solvation energy factor okay so that's what the thing so that is why it is when you are studying this you'll feel like if I understood this you can do this easily but when you get the question then you start thinking about all possibilities that's why I always says that you in organic chemistry the difficult part is that you should keep this in mind that at what point you have to apply what concept that is what the difficult part suppose if I give you this question and if I ask you the order of the solubility order and I tell you assume the lattice energy factor you will easily give me this answer but if I not give you this you will start thinking about hydration energy and some of you will think about lattice energy then you'll have the confusion if you know this factor this that this lattice energy is dominating over here then easily charge and size if you're comparing always will go with charge factor if we have any contradiction between charge and size will go with charge factor okay so next you write down carbonates and bicarbonates carbonates and bicarbonates just right down the elements of group 2 forms carbonate of forms carbonate of MCO3 type which is insoluble in water insoluble in water but in presence of CO2 but in presence of CO2 it dissolves dissolves and forms bicarbonate and form bicarbonate reaction you write down like MCO3 plus CO2 plus H2O it gives M at CO3 always just a second yes sir yes sir well guys we'll take a break now five minutes okay so we'll be back in five minutes I have some you know work to do take a break for five minutes okay fine we'll take a break now we'll start in then ten minutes okay okay we'll start in ten minutes take a break oh guys can we start the class now can we resume it can we resume the class tell me guys you there so you see bicarbonate is formed when in presence of CO2 right you see first of all this carbonates are insoluble in water that's all I've written already you see what is the stability order of these carbonates if I write down BECO3 MGCO3, CACO3, SRCO3 what is the stability order of these carbonates say in this what happens as we go down the group the percentage is any character increases right as we go down the group the percentage any character increases down the group and hence the solubility also increases sorry stability also increases down the group percentage any character increases and hence stability increases okay the reason is same B2 plus is the smallest size right so high polarizing action presence rule high polarizing action and hence more covalent nature more covalent nature now if I ask you the solubility order in this the solubility order will be reverse of this like you see the solubility is maximum for BE2CO3 this is the solubility order reverse of this now why this order we have for solubility that see you see we have actually cation and an ion okay CO32 minus I'll write down here C double bond O minus O minus this is the carbonate ion okay and we have a cation like we have BE2 plus MG2 plus and all right this anion is a large anion the size of this is large large anion right so large anion is stabilized with a stabilized with large cation okay more will be the charge dispersion when both cation and anion are large more will be the charge dispersion and hence more will be the stability so BE2 plus being the smallest cation right that will not stabilize the carbonate ion right since the the reason of this is what large anion CO32 minus a large anion so BE2 plus ion which is the smallest cation we have that will not stabilize the carbonate ion and hence and hence what happens the CO32 minus or BECO3 its strength is less okay right so what happens the reason simply you write down large cation stabilize large anion stabilize large anion and hence BECO3 is least stable and that is why it is easily soluble and solubility will be maximum for BECO3 did you understand this solubility of BECO3 is maximum now the next thing and the last type of compound we have here in this chapter is sulfate the formation of sulfate these elements forms sulfate of MS4 type sulfate of MS4 type by the action of by the action of oxides and these are normal oxides M4 by the action of oxides hydroxides we can take oxides hydroxides and carbonates and carbonates on sulfuric acid sulfuric acid you see the reaction when oxides reacts with sulfuric acid H2SO4 it forms MSO4 plus H2O when hydroxides which is MOH whole twice reacts with H2SO4 it forms again MSO4 plus H2O when carbonates MCO3 reacts with H2SO4 it forms MSO4 plus H2O plus CO2 this is the reaction ok now few trends will see first of all stability stability of BSO4 and then we have MGSO4 CASO4 and last SRSO4 right so the stability increases down the group if you go down the group stability increases right this is the order of stability stability increases down the group ok and why increases stability because large cation because of the size of cation right down size of cation the same reason large cation can stabilize the large NIN SO4 2- and hence the stability will be more ok now when the stability is more its solubility will be less or minimum the solubility increases reverse solubility down the group decreases so bottom to top if you go solubility increases since stability decreases now this solubility is because of the large energy of solvation of solvation of smaller cation smaller cation right the solubility reason is this right now one last thing in this write down on heating on heating sulphate dissociates dissociates into into corresponding oxides for example you see MSO4 when you heat this it forms MO plus SO2 plus O2 this is the reaction now you see again in this trend in this chapter we have discussed ok after this like the theory that you have you can go through in the book what you have to study in NCRT I'll just write down that ok however NCRT all things you have to study line by line everything you have to study and try to make notes of that whether you know scribble in the book itself or you write down the notes that is your choice but you have to do those kind of things ok so that you can revise at the time of exam ok so the thing you have to study from NCRT I'll just tell you now is the abnormal behavior of abnormal behavior of beryllium this you have to study abnormal behavior of beryllium I am not discussing this these are complete theory nothing to understand or you know to explain here you have to go for diagonal relationship also diagonal relationship this is actually you just need to know the examples ok because they ask this question which of these elements pair of elements shows diagonal relationship like that they have asked the question so diagonal relationship reason I have already discussed the same reason we have beryllium shows diagonal relationship with aluminium so that is given in NCRT you can go through ok now you see you have to study next for calcium calcium its compound right if you have any doubt in any of these you can come up to me for this for with your doubt ok but since I am not discussing this because there is nothing to understand here right now few compounds of calcium you have to again study that is quick lime CAO you have to study preparation and properties properties when I say it means important thing is chemical reactions chemical properties ok then we have slag lime CAO H whole twice slag lime is the solid when it is in aqueous form we call it as lime water ok we have to study calcium carbonate CAO 3 hello are you there can you audible now can you get me audio is there are you able to listen to me are you listening me are you listening me guys yeah ok we will do one thing see we had this chapter we have almost what you have to study from NCRT is abnormal behaviour of beryllium diagonal relationship calcium and its compounds like quick lime that is CAO CAO H whole twice calcium carbonate gypsum and plaster of ferris right again I will repeat this CAO that is quick lime CAO H whole twice slag lime calcium carbonate CAO 3 calcium sulphate that is gypsum and plaster of ferris these things are given in NCRT or any other book that you are referring you must go through this chemical reactions and properties and preparation you have to do right next class we will start with boron family correct let me know if you are fine with it just give me a thumbs up


As-salamu alaikum and welcome to the episode, I remember Zahra, a show where we talk about Fatima al-Zahra al-salaam and the effects of a miscarriage to relate it to the miscarriages that are happening nowadays. I would like to welcome our dear guest here, Fahima Muhammad, she is a life coach, so as-salamu alaikum sister Fahima. Alaykum as-salam. We're going to talk a little bit about Fatima al-Zahra al-salaam and what she went through from her miscarriages and slightly will refer it to the miscarriages that happen to women nowadays and how they feel and the effects of it and what they go through. So Fatima al-Zahra al-salaam, eventually after the attack on her door, it took two lives away. The life herself, Fatima, and the life of her murdered al-Muhsin. Al-Muhsin, he's the son of Ali al-Fatima. He was no more than six months at the time of the attack. He had nothing to do with politics, he had nothing to do with business, and he had nothing to do with machinations, which was the reason of the attack on Fatima al-Zahra al-salaam. Al-Muhsin did not even know what was happening and what happened. So and none of the people who had a grasp over Ali and Fatima had an argument against the Muhsin. Even those who questioned and debated the infallibility of Fatima al-Zahra al-salaam and Imam Ali fell silent when the infallibility of an unborn murderer, al-Muhsin, was raised. Many people nowadays and many Muslims are now very sad to say that they debate and say that the Muhsin wasn't present. They neglect his presence and they neglect his martyrdom even though al-Muhsin was there. But the whole reason why they neglect that the Muhsin was there is because Fatima al-Zahra al-salaam attacking her door was an unjustified thing. So the only way to get out of it is to deny the whole thing, to deny it all. So they denied that the Muhsin was there. But the Muhsin, he was just there to show the infallibility, defend the infallibility of Fatima al-Zahra and Imam Ali al-salaam. Just like how in Karbala today you see his nephew Ali ibn al-Hussain, Ali al-Azhar, he was also there in the Battle of Karbala. He was inspired from the Muhsin and the Muhsin al-salaam, from him being just in the womb of Fatima, shows to the whole world the evilness of people, what they did to Fatima. Any lady today, she's in her home and she gets attacked. Okay, you can say what did she do, what happened? But her being pregnant and attacking her and causing her the miscarriage, the world today would stop against that and say, what does it have to do with a baby? Why? He's a baby, he doesn't know what's happening.  But you know she's pregnant and you know she was behind the door. So that shows just by the Muhsin being there, he defended Fatima al-Zahra'a, the infallibility of her and the infallibility of Amir al-Mu'mineen. So back to, slightly to Karbala, Ali al-Azhar did the same thing, inspires him was Muhsin, his uncle. What he did was he also wanted to take a wage in the Battle of Karbala. So he defended whom? Imam al-Hussain, alaihi salam. Imam al-Hussain, alaihi salam, he is one of those unique in his oppressions because he has been present in both of the attacks, the attack of Fatima al-Mu'mineen and the attack of Abdullah al-Rali'ab. So let's go back to the miscarriages, Fatima al-Zahra, alaihi salam, it has been documented that the martyrdom of Fatima and the martyrdom of Abdullah al-Mu'mineen was because of the attack. Some people say no, it's not because of the attack. Fatima died because she cried and weeped that her father passed away. That was part of it. But Fatima al-Zahra, alaihi salam, died because of the miscarriage, the causes that affected her, the pain that she had in her. Even that when Imam Ali put her in the muhtasal, he was washing her before he buries her, he saw the bruises on her body. And then he noticed that there was a rib broken that she didn't even let him be aware of. So there is causes of the death of Fatima al-Zahra, it's not just because she weeped and cried on her father. One was a miscarriage. And that is something very big because nowadays when a woman gives a miscarriage, she goes through a lot physically and emotionally. How about if that what she went through causing her the miscarriage was because of violence, because of her being abused and hit. Now let's refer the miscarriage that has happened to Fatima al-Zahra, alaihi salam to what we see women nowadays when they go through miscarriage, just look at her emotional, her physical body. Let's talk more about the scientific things, her hormones, what they go through and how she feels. Just for the viewers and for us to understand and know what Fatima al-Zahra, alaihi salam went through. Well in today's psychology and with research that's been done, it is quite common to have miscarriages and some of it's known, some of it's not and it's usually in the first trimester. Beyond that it actually can be even more sort of like hurtful and harmful for the actual parent mom that's going through it as the time is a lot more and is a lot more sort of like apprehension that thinking that yes this is going to really happen because they say the first 12 weeks is the most detrimental and you have to be careful and once you pass that then yes you're safe. But it is happening a lot and whether or not it's in the first 12 weeks or after, of course there's psychological effects, of course there is and a lot of people actually don't give that much support even in the medical sort of industry after miscarriages and the effects okay might be physically they can see to them and you know they will be given all the support and medication whatever they need but emotionally and mentally it's very difficult and it's not just for the mom you have to also give credit that you know the father also goes through it too because they don't actually know what to do and what the emotions are and how to deal with it and they actually do have the trauma as well and it could cause stress and anxiety, fear of having children again or something that blame on themselves right you know so things like that is something that you really need to consider and you know people do need to seek support and help for that too because it can affect them later on and it could actually you know your body changes anyway and to go through something because your body is used to the hormones of pregnancy and at the time of the miscarriage or a silver it stops it does so that when it stops it just changes just the way she feels her mood so all that Fatima Tazahra went through absolutely you'd go through that with the you know like you said the scientific and the medical things that is like you know basically inevitable but on top of that you know not even considering the oppression that Fatima Tazahra had to go through but just talking about today's you know sort of situations just knowing that that was an experience it is really it's stressful it's actually something that can give lack of confidence in you carrying a child depending obviously on the situation but there's a lot of research that shows that it happens without most people knowing the reasons why that when it happens when you don't know why you know you say it's from God Allah whatever Allah wanted but when you know that there was someone it was a reason there was a reason it's much more it's much more hurtful because then you do feel more of the death it feels also it's your fault because you know I stood even though Fatima Tazahra Allah wrote the script for her that Fatima this is what's gonna happen and the Rasulullah told her Fatima this is your role this is what's gonna happen and she knows but still at the time she feels like I lost that my Muhsin and I stood behind the door and he was hit he was squeezed because she positioned herself in that way yes of course we're gonna obviously put blame on ourselves and women today that are dealing with miscarriages they're actually quite you know strong about it but they're also the fact that people say that don't mention anything before the 12 weeks so that when they actually go through a miscarriage within that time it's difficult yeah because it's hard to come up to you and tell you how's your baby and it's not there it's not there or even people that are not aware that you're pregnant in the first place and then you're going through the whole experience of pregnancy and going through that without people even realizing that you were pregnant in the first place unless it's obviously your close family and you know and most people say don't say anything in the first 12 weeks even when you go to the hospitals they even say that it's not just in the communities you know but it is something that but the baby Muhsin he wasn't 13 weeks no it was much much more older six months of pregnancy is a lot of course that is a lot of pain I mean when you go through a miscarriage the baby's formed and you're like nine weeks I mean the pain is less yes then you go to a miscarriage or a still birth when the baby is big you have to give birth to a dead murdered baby exactly and then Muhsin alaihi salam he was murdered it wasn't that it caused a miscarriage like that automatically because Allah wanted in her home was stopped it was because she was hit behind the wall and squeezed harder and when Omar kicked the door the door slammed on Fatima's stomach alaihi salam so that slam caused her the biggest miscarriage and the squeeze on top of it so basically Fatima's a lot of salam went through a murder miscarriage yes but at the same time when women they feel the miscarriage they feel like I lost everything in my life yeah they go through depression but when you just go back and remember what Fatima's a lot of salam went through I think Allah subhanahu ta'ala he put those role models for us of course calm us down to be like you know what I don't know went through the pain and she is Fatima who am I Fatima's a lot she was not 16 weeks pregnant not three weeks pregnant much months yes that's why we call her the role model for many reasons because people go through things like I said even in this day and age thinking that it's only me but we don't realize that we actually teaching others around us we can be the role models for our sort of challenges that we face we can you know talk and speak or give support to people that are nearby us because it is happening quite widely unfortunately you know with regards to you know miscarriages or any sort of challenge that we have to face in life so it's the way in which you look at it and how you come you come out of it and to understand it to understand that yes there is a grieving process and we're gonna sort of like disassociate ourselves maybe socially or even our relationships might suffer but if when you have awareness of all of these sort of feelings then you might be able to overcome them a lot quicker and deal with the situation a lot more healthily instead of suppressing it and thinking that I shouldn't be feeling like this or I'm just gonna keep it to myself or I just need to deal the first pregnancy that is the way it's quite difficult because you're most likely looking forward to it you're planning even if it wasn't planned you feel like oh I can't get kids of course something's wrong with me so the emotionally you go through is not just because of the hormones it's also the mental yes it breaks your self-esteem a lot as a woman you know because you you do sort of judge yourself and you question yourself and you question your body and you you question you know what exactly you know can happen and people actually I know personally in with miscarriages it's not just even that's happened once or twice it's happened like three four times so it you know with the one person and it's really really traumatic but the strength that they can come out of it is very very you know it's it's inspiring you know because the thing is life does go on and you can and Allah puts everything on us for us to keep growing and evolving and developing but we need to develop our minds and our knowledge as to what you know we're gonna suffer what we're gonna feel so that we can overcome this that's for normal women exactly have that and have them scared but we always marred her the myself and mourn on him it's because this is a very difficult tragedy the Fatima to Zahra had to go through I mean avoided should have been avoided shouldn't have happened in the first place she is everything the baby is not any other baby he's the son of Ali if he was to be born he would have been an Imam of the Zaman so all the mourning that we do it's just like today if you hear on the news a woman okay being murdered someone comes and murders her child and kicks her in her stomach and she's it's still shocking the world people will be like why what happened what's the reason people would stand up there talk people on media would be it would be the biggest story ever like it would be something that shocks the world so how about if it was Muhsin the son of Ali ibn Abi Talib and Fatima to Zahra and he is not a normal baby to be murdered at the age where he doesn't even know what's happening they came in for what for for money for something to do with politics business caliphate whatever it was what does the Muhsin have to do so when people that are not Muslim come in to find out about Fatima to Zahra and they be like okay what's the story of Fatima what's the story of Ali why did they come to the door what was the attacking about okay caliphate yes business yes money okay what else but then they find out something more but it was pregnant they'll be like oh if you say abusing a woman hitting a woman they'll be like okay he did that but when they hear about the baby yeah they'll be like okay just because he killed her baby then that is something big I'm converting to Islam or Islam has something to do with Fatima to Zahra it has something to do with humanity of course so and also we need to also learn that Fatima to Zahra through all the oppressions that you've just you know reminded us that it didn't stop her from using her voice it didn't stop her from you know sort of claiming what Islam needs to be you know she stood up and women today need to do the same yes we need to show and be heard our voices absolutely we should not really let anything or anyone hold us back from the justice and from the rights that we have and this is what we need to learn and take away from yeah that was a very nice point what you said about having her voice because Fatima to Zahra alaihi salam when she had the miscarriage and when she her rib was broken she didn't close the doors and like that's the end of the world she went out she gave a speech about Fadak which is another topic that was taken away from her then she she used to do chores at home she's to still cook for Imam Ali and Hassan and Hussein and do all the chores for a couple days until she passed away that even Imam Ali did not know that her rib was broken like she didn't show him what she went through it wasn't just a miscarriage that was one and on top of that her rib was broken she didn't show it to the family nowadays us as human we can't do that we have to take it out we have to show it we have to cry weep scream I lost the baby complain God yeah what was good what am I going through take care of me I'm depressed take me out do you know that depression that a woman goes through after a miscarriage it's very hard she she wants to go out but the same time she's tired when she's out she feels like okay I still not I'm not out of this depression she remembers back what's happening even though if she had like four children I've seen women who have like more than one child yes and she has a miscarriage it's like you have kids but just the physical thinking the mental thinking about I lost something is very hard it is and we need to not make ourselves be defined by anything that we go through that is true but look at how we use it and then we compare it to Fatima to Zahra she used the she still gave the meaning and the purpose of what we need to stand for and that was that is why she's a role model exactly of Nisa Al Alameen, she's the leader of the women of all times not just Alamoha not just the people around her in her lifetime she's a role model for us and she's the role model for the generations after us we can always refer to Fatima what happened to Fatima to Zahra alaihi salam and what she went through so that was a very nice point of view which you pointed it out thank you let's now move to the onto the one-to-one segments Salamu alaikum sister, thank you so much for joining me today in the session and you're gonna be talking about miscarriage so firstly could you be able to give us a little insight of the experience that you had when you first heard the news? It was just the most heart-wrenching experience in my life and I just remember when it happened I just sat there and I just stared into space I couldn't believe what I was hearing I was about seven weeks into my first pregnancy when I started to feel a lot of pain and the one day I found that I was bleeding very heavily my husband took me straight to the doctors and the scan revealed that there was a strong heartbeat but there was a tear in the sack and basically the doctor came in and told me that there was a chance that I could miscarry my baby and I just carried on as normal I just told myself oh it's only a chance everything will be fine I've done everything right I've been a good mother but a few weeks past and the pain increased and one day the pain was just so much that I ended up in hospital again and this was when the doctor came in and told me that my baby had passed away I don't even remember what he said after that I don't even remember him talking about the options I just remember like just wanting to pass out I don't think if my husband wasn't there beside me I just I just would have blacked out and not had a clue what was going on it's an incredible stress on anyone to be going through something like that and I just want to learn a little bit more on the feeling that you sort of took with you from this experience I just blame to myself from the moment you know that you're pregnant you just think I've got this little baby that is my responsibility that I have to protect I felt like I'd let my child down I thought of everything that I'd done and I was just examining everything to find what I'd done wrong and even in my mind I felt like my husband blamed me as well even though he didn't and I should have just talked to him but I just shut myself away so could you explain the reasons why you would feel that you actually to blame for this it's just the fact that I was this baby's mother and this baby had not even been born yet this baby was in my stomach and I was providing it with everything that it needed until it was born that was my job to do so automatically I just thought that it was my fault even though it wasn't it was just one of these things that just happens for whatever reason it was nothing to do with me there was nothing I could have done differently that would have changed all of this so what advice would you give somebody who probably recently going through something like this from your learning so far what advice would you give them to sort of maybe not have those feelings and and move forward I definitely just speak talk as much as possible even if it takes you a bit of time to open up but especially you know with your husband because at the end of the day they've lost their baby too they're hurting as well and just confiding in that somebody it just takes the weight off your shoulders and it helps you to see past the bubble of grief that you're just engrossed in so other than communicating with someone close what other tips would you sort of suggest I think you know one of the most powerful things we can do is just reflection and you know when I think of part of the Sahara and a haslam when I think of her losing her baby the way that she did you know that was said more than alaihi salam that was a human being with potential who could have done amazing things the fact that say the father she she didn't say to Allah she didn't say why did you let my baby die why did you let this happen to me you know he could have been this he could have been that she just trusted on lost upon what I know she knew that Allah was the best of planners and despite how awful and how painful the whole thing is you know she just carried on because she knew that she knew it was Qatar and she knew that ultimately Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala would give her something better than what she is lost that is his promise to us in the holy Quran yes I mean everything that you've highlighted is exactly what we need to remind ourselves and it's easy to say but when you go through it it's very difficult to actually take those situations from the past and relate that to our current situation so could you give us something a little bit specific as to what you've done in order to bring you to a place of believing like that and thinking like that and and actually practicing something like that I guess just I've just been persistent with just making my prayers and my doors to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and I've just seen how those prayers have just changed me and I see the way that so often Allah saved me from things we say in Duaqa mail like how many trips have you saved me from I've started to see those things so clearly now and I look at what he is given me I look at how the Ahubayt alayhi ma'salaam have just been there for me and they've just always answered whatever need I've had and I just think to myself you know how can how can things ever be terrible when I have these things in my life when I know that I have them at my back you've highlighted some amazing points and what I can pick up from is the fact that you have given yourself the strength from the strength and the teachings of the and I think that it highlights that we are definitely you know in in a religion that gives us the guidance and that gives us the answers and you can actually overcome adversity and challenge and what you're saying to me is that even though it is something that's so tragic but you can actually build strength from it you can evolve and grow and develop and the fact that you're here sitting sharing your story that is so painful that someone who doesn't have the opportunity or doesn't have that inside already you're actually highlighting to somebody that there is hope and there's a second chance and you can actually move forward is there any other feeling that you can actually give us from the teachings of Fatimah Sazahara that you know can actually take us to a level that particularly in miscarriage and for you personally that could actually if someone was listening right now what would be the one thing that you would actually say to them. The thing with the miscarriage of Sayyid al-Fatima alayhi salam is she lost her baby in the most violent of ways and I myself thank God that I didn't lose my baby in that way because I just don't know how I would have coped.  That is amazing and so is inspirational as to everything that you've said and everything that you've highlighted and I'm sure that everyone that's listening you know has just gained so much sort of like motivation that even from something this tragic that you can actually move forward and you can actually you know have faith and belief and strength to actually carry on so how do you think that for you personally at this very moment in time especially psychologically where are you at at this very moment I'll never forget my baby because and that's okay yeah I'll never forget my baby you know sometimes I still you know I have a family I have children now and I'm very happy sometimes I will think of that baby that I lost and think oh what if what if but I just think to myself you know maybe father Matta Salam is taking care of that baby for me and one day inshallah through her intercession like I'm really united with that child in Jannah inshallah and I think that it brings so much hope to people that are going through the situation to know that you know the life still carries on and the pain it will still be there but it will be something that you can cope with and you can keep the memory it doesn't need to disappear there's nothing wrong in still having that memory of that child but you have it in a healthy way and to actually celebrate the fact that you were given that situation in order to build yourself to continue with your faith and to increase in your iman and I think it's it's so inspirational and it's so so brave of you and I really appreciate the fact that you have come here today to have this session and speak about especially something this tormenting and you know it's very difficult to even talk generally let alone to share this but I know that you have a much higher purpose in you sharing your story so that people are aware of the situation and how they can learn from it and grow from it so I just want to thank you so much personally and from the channel that it's an amazing session and you've given us so much light and hope and I wish you all the best inshallah you take care and hopefully we will speak soon thank you so much thank you so much for having session today so welcome back viewers that was very sad breaking heartbreaking to hear a story like this even though when I look at it I feel like she's not the only person out there but it's that people are shy to talk about it and they feel ashamed to talk about it or they don't want to talk about it I mean when one has a miscarriage she thinks she's the only person but when she hears about other people's stories she just goes like oh wow I'm not the only one yes a lot of women do feel that you know they don't want to speak about it because other people don't understand and they can't relate and they have to speak to somebody about it that actually went through it but it's not about that because in every sort of grieving process or any sort of tragedy there is the same sort of like process that happens with yourself I mean first is the short-term sort of you know effects and then you have the long term effects and obviously with miscarriage the short term is the physical side of it you know trying to deal with that and trying to get your yourself back to feeding normal again or you know getting rid of maybe whatever pain they might be and getting your body back into a healthy sort of state and then the long-term effects obviously is the psychological effect of how does that you know make me feel now about it how does it make me feel about myself and how do I move forward from this and that has impact on your relationships and your the people around you and you sometimes can be a bit you know withdrawal you know from you know trying to like open up a little bit and you sometimes confused even it is not even a set feeling because it is quite strange yeah so people just feel like you know they don't want to talk about it but once you talk about it you're taking it out from your heart out from your mind you're taking feedback from people you go through you hear what people have went through it's not only you I mean I understand what you're saying about talking about it but you have to be careful who you talking about because they are very judgmental and they may not say the things that you need to hear and it's not about having the sympathy most people that come with these issues especially with life coaching is because they want to just be heard and they just want to be understood that is think they want to be heard yes and they they need to be understood so it's not about giving even your view and your point or your advice we don't really do that it's about just drawing out what they feel and having them work it out for themselves as to how they will go through it because even two people going through the same sort of miscarriages will deal with it differently there's different scenarios and different situations and that can actually make it worse because you thinking well why am I not feeling so you know positive or optimistic about certain things in life and she is because that could bring something else so you got to look at it from your situation and the only time you can actually do that is if you should seek like professional advice and help and people think that miscarriages come in and you don't need that sort of help but actually it does actually work so you as a life coach someone comes up to you as I had a miscarriage it's my first baby I was very excited about it it was hard planning it so people have a hard time to plan a baby yes once they get it it's just like oh my god what are the steps you would give to them that would calm them down and make them look at it in a different perspective it's a whole lot of questioning as to where they want to get to the space that they feel right now it's it's a whole session a series of sessions to be honest about figuring out like you know how do they feel first of all right here right now you know having that impact but then trying to create a new meaning for it trying to create and build something that will take them to the next level and also to figure out where they want to go to because a lot of people don't understand where do we go to next and for each one it differs so it's not it's normally about firstly building that rapport that can open up to you and then you know asking them about figuring out who and what they are and what does it mean for them to be in the situation yes you know it's very hard for each one it's very separate and but I think it's really really good to have that because they have the space just for them right and they have that you know that awareness that is only about them and that's what they need it needs to be just about them it's not about so showing sympathy it's about just having empathy like trying to put yourself in their shoes but allowing and giving them the space to do that in their own time and the way in which they want right you know because a lot of influences from our family and friends will be according to what they think should be you know and they might not be comfortable even saying things you know in that space because they think that oh well you know that's just my mom that's my cousin okay you know they're just talking to me yeah well they want it to be where they might want you to make a decision for the rest of the family instead of for you right you know so it's it's the one-on-one is so so it's like it's such a big impact on a person that just when they really are heard solely and it's about them and they given that they feel a lot better and you know we we're a catalyst for whatever transformation they want to make in their lives but at the same time we with them through the journey genuinely authentically without judgment without biasness we don't even have to know the whole situation it's just taking it from here now you know with counselors they want to go back and you know they want to sometimes you know analyze the past and people don't really want that they can be traumatic from that you know you just want to be in the moment and move forward you know and then create to like give your advice isn't help you listen to you it's not so much advice it's more about like you figuring out for yourselves because we all have the answers for ourselves even with children they have the answers you just got to open it out for them because they're more likely to take it their own advice than someone telling them they're more likely to actually say it when they figure it out for themselves so you know that's basically how life works is when you be able to do things that you can actually you know make changes with the opening that someone can help you do you know you gotta you know open up to somebody and then they challenge you with whatever you're thinking and feeling and then that becomes something that you can discover so it's like a journey that you're going through with when you're in a life coaching session it's quite inspiring it's quite you know it's it's it's an amazing experience that only when you sit in the session then you realize what it actually brings to the table mm-hmm so I really like the points that you highlighted and I really think that we should along with the points you highlighted as a life coach and experienced one we should also go back and see what Fatima Tezahra alaihi salam went through the pain she went through the experience she went through it was very harsh especially that her mother wasn't there you know a lot of females they have miscarriage their mothers there but her mother wasn't there her father wasn't there and mama Ali was there as a host supporting husband but as you said that a man he goes through a lot too and she knew his role was to be patient so she didn't want to press on that and tell him Ali this is what happened to me this is what they did because that's just like telling your man go out and take revenge yes so she didn't have her mother she didn't have her father and she had to keep it inside of her and that is one thing that we should think about you know oh I'm blessed I have a life coach I can go to and talk to about I have a mother I have friends I have family of course and always always go back to all those ladies out there who have experienced a miscarriage or are going through one yeah I think definitely just go back to Fatima Tezahra alaihi salam and just see what she went through the pain the depression the loss of a baby so that is something that on a Fatima day we should always go back and remember Fatima Tezahra alaihi salam and what she went through I'm your host Daal Makhzumi and thank you for watching see you next time if you've been affected by the following topics raised in this episode please contact your local GP or Fahima Muhammad on coachfm1athotmail.com