Hey survivors and frivers, a different kind of video to what I would normally post. I do not condone manipulation and I do not agree with the eye for an eye mentality. As Gandhi once said, an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. If you are watching this video, I trust that you are a mature and responsible person. As the information I am about to reveal in this video, will most definitely give you the tools to make the narcissist obsessed with you, but just because you have the tools, it doesn't mean you have to use them. I am sharing this information to empower you. This information could be potentially dangerous in the wrong hands, so please use it wisely to empower yourself rather than using it to torture the narcissist. Remember what you give out, you get back. Some people call this karma, cause and effect, God or the universe. We might have different ideas of what this is called, but I think we can all agree that it does exist, so please use this information wisely. Like the video, share your thoughts in the comments. If you haven't subscribed yet, please click the subscribe button and the bell icon so you can receive the notifications for my future videos. Share the video with anyone who you believe may help. If you would like to make a donation, or if you are interested in one-on-one coaching, the links are in the video description. How to make the narcissist obsessed with you, towards the end of the relationship, especially following the discard phase. The narcissist will become disinterested in you. They believe that they have seen everything that you have to offer, and now they are bored of you. When they know that they've got you, and you are not going anywhere, they will always take you for granted. They only make an effort when they are trying to secure you as a source of supply.   The narcissist will only make an effort when they are trying to secure you as a source of supply. If they know that they have got you, and you're not going anywhere, there is no need to make an effort because they know you will always be there. To make the narcissist obsessed with you, you first need to understand how narcissists think. Did you notice how once the narcissist knew that you were interested in them, and they had secured you as a source of supply? This is when the relationship moved from the love-bombing phase to the devaluation phase. This is when they begin to lose interest in you. This is when they begin to devalue you. If they actually chose to continue the relationship, as it was, rather than devaluing you, I believe that they could have fallen in love with you for real. But of course, that cannot happen. Once they begin to see you in this negative way, once they realize that you are interested in them, you suddenly go from being all good to all bad. Although you may not have changed in any way, as I said, this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. I am going to remind you of the negative qualities or traits which narcissists possess. They are shame-based individuals. They are self-hating. They have low self-worth, low self-esteem, low self- assurance, low self-belief, and low self-respect. They are very insecure and have an inferiority complex. Now connect these negative qualities or traits to how they feel once they realize that you are interested in them or that you love them. Once they become aware that you are interested in them or that you decide to have a future with them, they suddenly become dis- interested and choose to devalue you. Or at least this is how it appears to you. You may think that the narcissist is no longer interested in you, no longer attracted to you. But this is actually an illusion. It has nothing to do with you personally. The narcissist is not attracted to people who are interested in them. As soon as they realize that you have an interest in them or you are attracted to them, that is when they will see the grass being greener on the other side. Not because they are not interested in you or not attracted to you as a person, but because they are not interested or attracted to people who feel that way about them. As soon as you show any form of interest or love in the narcissist, it will be met with hate, anger, and disinterest from them.  Why they being passive-aggressive when I am showing interest or love on them? Your interest or love for them triggers them to reflect on all of their insecurities, flaws, and imperfections. Because narcissists are deeply ashamed of themselves. They hate themselves. They do not believe that they possess any significant value. They do not believe in themselves or respect themselves. They are deeply insecure. So in their minds, if you are interested in them, there must be something seriously wrong with you. Not because they see something negative within you, but because you are interested in them. You are attracted to them. The narcissist believes that they are not meant to be loved. So when you try to show love to the narcissist, it only triggers them to reflect on their own insecurities and negative traits. They reflect on all of their undesirable qualities and think in their minds, how could you love that? They also believe that at some point in the relationship, you are going to come to your senses.  You are not going to accept all of their flaws and insecurities from the moment they first met you. They already knew that there would be an expiration date on your relationship. Because in their minds, there is just no way that anyone could love or accept them. That's why they created the false character. The illusions. That's why they use manipulative tactics like denial, projection, blame shifting, gaslighting and the double bind. Because they know all too well that with all of their insecurities, flaws and negative traits, there is no way that anyone could truly love or accept them. It's not that they are not attracted to you or not interested in you as a person. They are just not interested in anyone who is attracted to them or interested in them. This is why they are always moving from one relationship to the next. Because as soon as a source gets to know them and who they really are, that's when it triggers them to reflect on all of their insecurities, flaws and negative traits. That's when your value goes down and they lose interest in you. Because they simply cannot imagine what you could be interested in about them. At the beginning of the relationship, you didn't really know what they were about. But as you got to know them and still accept it and love them, then that triggered them to reflect on all of their insecurities, flaws and negative traits. And how you cannot possibly be anything great if you are interested in them. They do not like to self reflect or look within themselves and acknowledge all of these insecurities, flaws and negative traits. Their default response is to project them onto you. So now you are seen as being flawed and worthless. When really this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. They also have the mindset that the grass is always greener on the other side. So they move on to the next person with no empathy for you. Your interest or love for them trigger them to reflect on all of their insecurities, flaws and negative traits. And this overrides any empathy they would otherwise have for you.  As a defense mechanism, they had to create a false self, which is the exact opposite of that. Once you get to know the real person behind the mask, they will be constantly comparing themselves to you and compete you with you. All of your positive qualities and traits triggers them to reflect on their insecurities, flaws and negative traits. Remember they see everything in black or white, good or bad. And this reflects on how they see themselves. So for them to be the exact opposite of everything that internal dialogue or inner critic is telling them they are, they have to project all of that onto you. And that's how you can go from being the most perfect, amazing person at the beginning of the relationship to being what they might call the useless, ugly, worthless and insignificant person in their minds, which is really just a projection of their own internal dialogue or inner critic of themselves. They like that you keep trying to explain to them. It's given them narcissistic supply. You are giving them attention. You are making them feel as though they are worth something. And as though they are significant to you. They enjoy the arguments. It gives them an opportunity to abuse and manipulate you.  It's feeding their ego. They do not want to believe you. And even if they did want to believe you, their internal dialogue or inner critic, which abuses them all day every day, is not going to let them, their disorder is fixed in such a perfect way. Where the exact things that they need to hear from you, the exact things that they need to understand, which would override their internal dialogue or inner critic are the exact things that the disorder has been programmed to deny and block out the most. So you could try talking to them. You could try getting them to understand your view. You could tell them you love them and want to make them happy. The narcissist isn't hearing it because the programming of the disorder in their minds does not allow them to hear or understand what you are saying. The exact things that they need to change their lives have been programmed to deny and block the most. Your love for them, your appreciation of them, your kindness and understanding, you can tell them you love them as much as you want. It's not going to make any difference because the programming in their minds is designed to deny and block that out. All they are hearing is what the internal dialogue or inner critic is telling them because they cannot hear or understand the exact things that they need to change, the exact things they so desperately need. They are prone to self-sabotage and destroy one relationship after another. This is why they are always so miserable. This is why they are always so hateful and angry towards you. Now you understand how narcissists think. You understand how the attraction process works for them. You understand that they have an internal dialogue or inner critic which blocks or denies any genuine interest or love for their true selves. Now I am going to explain how you can make the narcissist obsessed with you. First understand that narcissists do not miss or obsess over a person in the same way that a normal person would. Narciss won't really miss or obsess over you as a person. They will miss or obsess over superficial things such as your physical appearance, image, money, material items or sex. They might also miss or obsess over how you made them feel or whatever else you can do for them or give to them. So this is what will preoccupy or fill their minds continually and to a troubling extent. When the narcissist is preparing to discard you or after the discard you need to practice emotional discipline. Pay attention to your feelings but do not let them control you or how you respond to the narcissist. Let the narcissist have the last word. Do not defend yourself or the relationship. If the narcissist criticizes, devalues or degrades you in any way just agree with them. The narcissist may then test you to see if they can get a reaction by telling you that the relationship is over or they have met someone else. Do not react. Do not let your emotions control your response. Speak calmly and say okay thank you for telling me. I understand that the relationship is over or I understand that you have met someone else. You have to say this as though what they have told you is not hurting or affecting you. This will completely confuse the narcissist. At this point they were expecting you to be breaking down so now they are trying to figure out what you are thinking what you are feeling.  The narcissist might try to continue the conversation as an attempt to figure out what's going on in your mind and how you are feeling. They are not doing this because they care. Narcissists are self-absorbed and lack empathy. They are trying to find out because your emotional reaction will give them a narcissistic supply. If you express your sadness or anger towards them they are not going to care. It will only feed them a narcissistic supply and make them feel powerful and in control of you and your emotions. When you refuse to give them the emotional reaction they need to obtain narcissistic supply from you the narcissist experiences a void. They feel empty. They are also confused and wondering why they don't have the power to control you. At this point you now have more power over yourself than the narcissist has over you. They might tell you that you do not care about the relationship or you do not love them. This is just to get you to reveal your thoughts and emotions so that the narcissist can obtain narcissistic supply. Tell the narcissist I understand that the relationship is over and I wish the best for you or if they have told you they have met someone else just tell them. I hope your new relationship goes well. From here you go no contact. Remove their number from your phone. Block their number. Block them from all social media accounts. Avoid talking about them to anyone. The narcissist might talk to your friends or family members to find out why you are not talking to them. You do not want the narcissist to think that you are still thinking about them so do not post anything on social media relating to your relationship with the narcissist. If the narcissist hears that you are talking to someone about them or if they see that you have posted something on social media this will give them narcissistic supply. It will make them feel powerful as though they are still in control of your emotions. If you need to talk to someone about what you have experienced in your relationship there are online support groups and I also offer one-on-one coaching sessions so do not talk about the relationship with anyone you know and do not post anything to do with it on social media. Spend plenty of time out of the home experience new things especially things that you couldn't do while you were with the narcissist. Of course I don't mean anything sexual or having a new relationship as that will just make the narcissist forget about you but have new experiences. I post that on social media. Go to the gym join a fitness class. Some people like to post revealing pictures of their body in some tight yoga pants but you know what will really make the narcissist miss and obsess over you. If you post a modest picture of yourself in some joggers and a vest as though you have nothing to prove yet you still look good. If you go out and start wearing revealing clothing the narcissist is going to feel as though everyone has seen your body so it's not like you're really there's anymore anyway but if you dress modestly the narcissist will feel as though you still belong to them. This is going to make it very difficult for them to forget you and they will continue to miss and obsess over you until they hear that you have met someone else or had sex with someone else once they hear something like that it's over. They will not miss or obsess over you after that. So have new experiences go to the gym join a fitness class do things that you are passionate about try new hobbies and interests and post pictures of all of these experiences nothing will make the narcissist miss or obsess over you more than seeing you out living your life being able to move on and still be happy without them. It makes them feel as though they have no control over you or your emotions. As I said do not wear revealing clothes or change your appearance or personality in any way that's actually exactly what the narcissist wants to see so that they can look down on you and then call you reckless any physical change following the discard will only confirm that they have affected you. If they didn't affect you you wouldn't have made a physical change that's how they're thinking if you start wearing revealing clothes or changing your appearance the narcissist will see it as though you are desperately seeking attention or as though you have low self-worth and low self-esteem so you need to wear revealing clothes or change your appearance to attract attention and admiration from other men if you want to make the narcissist miss and obsess over you dress modestly you don't have to pretend as though you don't know that you look good but don't suddenly start boasting about it and don't place too much importance on your physical appearance this displays low self-worth and low self-esteem as though your physical appearance is all you have to offer you are so much more than that and when you dress modestly it subconsciously communicates this to people go out and have new experiences enjoy your life there is nothing that will make the narcissist miss and obsess over you more than that the narcissist will never reflect on themselves and think that they didn't treat you right or they should have done things differently when they miss you it's all about them it's all about how they have lost their power to control you they miss their narcissistic supply how how you made them feel and everything you gave or did for them they do not miss you or anyone else as a person and they never will narcissists are self-absorbed and lack empathy but following what i have explained here the narcissist will become obsessed with you if you have watched my other videos you will know that i do not recommend going back to the narcissist once they know that they can have you and they have secured you as a source of supply they will only take for granted again they do not care about you or what you want in time they will hoover you telling you that they are living their best lives the truth is they have just been observing what's going on in your life through social media or talking to your friends and they are basically telling you how they are perceiving your life since you have left them narcissists are always miserable just remember how they treated you how someone wants you to feel is how they already feel about themselves and this never changes for them all they can do is talk or create illusions the best thing you can do is to leave them in the past and continue living your life i have a playlist of videos on healing from a narcissist's abuse check them out i believe that they will help you to heal from this thank you for watching i hope this video has resonated with you please like comment share and subscribe if you would like to donate or if you are interested in coaching the links are in the video description i will have more videos soon


I read Tomie a few weeks ago and it was the first piece of horror media that I've ever willingly consumed. Yes, I've had to consume horror against my will because I'm a good friend. Horror has never been my thing. After a life of misery because of jump scares, I figured hey, maybe reading horror was a better alternative. There's nothing that can jump at me or catch me by surprise, right? Until this thing. This video has been sponsored by Shutter. October is the best month of the year. It also happens to be spooky season, scary movie season, and there's no place that has more scary movies than Shutter. Shutter is the home for horror, and it has kicked off its annual 61 days of Halloween, which is a two month celebration of new movies and series. They've got a new season of Creepshow and VHS94, the found footage anthology series. They've got a new documentary series on the origins and pop culture dominance of modern movie monsters called Behind the Monsters. 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To try Shutter free for 30 days, go to Shutter.com and use the promo code SAGE. Again, that's Shutter.com with the promo code SAGE. Tomie is the 1987 work by renowned horror mangaka Junji Ito. It follows titular character Tomie Kawakami through a series of loosely connected stories about the main character, Tomie. She seduces and manipulates whoever she wants to fall in love with her, and forces them to eventually gruesomely take her life. Each story sees her regenerate and repeat this process. I'm not saying the K word just yet because I'm afraid the big dog will catch me, but I will eventually say it. Now after reading it for me, the horror was in assessing Tomie the human and Tomie the monster, and how these two ideas of her are connected and yet become disconnected as the stories change and progress. The most notable thing that the story reiterates is Tomie's beauty. It's always on notice. It's intoxicating. Fair skin, shiny black hair, angular eyes, the girls around her are jealous of it and the men are drawn to it. Tomie's beauty becomes more and more apparent as the stories unfold. Tomie herself seems to become a worse and worse version of herself in the process. But while we never know exactly who the original or true Tomie is, the first chapter's version of Kawakami seems to be the most normal, and by normal I mean the one that has the most human qualities, and the least monstrous ones. There are no dark circles under the eyes of her classmates, not for Mr. Takagi, Yamamoto, or her one friend, just hatred. Tomie begins as this girl, pregnant, who is in a secret relationship with her teacher, Mr. Takagi. When she gets into an argument with Yamamoto, her boyfriend, over the details of her relationship with Mr. Takagi, and who later hits her, causing her to fall to her death, I think that short moment was the last moment of the real Tomie. As the chapters progress and she's continually hacked to pieces, she begins to lose her human qualities, but becomes more and more beautiful. She becomes more and more cruel. In Photograph, the following chapter, Tomie and Tsukiko get into a conflict over the secret photos that Tsukiko is taking of other men on campus. Tomie interjects as part of the Public Morality Committee. Tomie loves the idea of being seen, and being seen as someone beautiful. She always searches for ways to indulge in her vanity, and to recapture her beauty. But Tomie opposes the idea of photos. Because of this story, photos seem to expose the true Tomie. So when the monster appears, it's here where Tomie's signature gaze takes center stage, one that we see so often. But at the end of the fourth chapter in Mansion, when Tsukiko takes dozens of pictures of Tomie as a way of warding off the monster and exposing it, there's only one picture that successfully prints, and she says that in that photo, as we are shown, there is no monster, but instead a sad looking woman standing alone. Which begs the question, is this the original Tomie, the real one? That word monster, disease, these are words that deeply affect Tomie, looking back at photograph. Which leads me to believe that in that story specifically, in the early days of Tomie, she still had a small piece of her humanity left. But it could also represent how much weight she places on her appearance, how destructive it might be for a young girl in society that obsesses over her beauty to be called a monster. But the cruelty of Tomie to me comes when I reflect on that melancholic ending of Mansion. I said I wanted to assess both the human aspect of this story and the monster, and this is the human part of it. In that photo, she's sad and alone. I will say more than once in this video that Tomie has been abandoned by her community, blamed and disregarded. So when she's standing alone in that photo, sad, well yes, of course she is. She's confined to a life of vengeance, unfulfilled vengeance. The fact that she has to relive being hacked and dismembered over and over and over again, Tomie has a memory of each incident that occurs to her. That's why she shows up back at her old school after being killed, and why she takes revenge on Teni Moro's brother in revenge. Tomie is the embodiment of beauty, but that's all she ever is to those who fall in love with her, and to the women that envy her. Down to the senses, her voice, her distinct smell. In the Moromi story, they said she even has a rich and luscious taste, as they mix in her battered remains into a sake. It's quite disturbing the ways that she's dehumanized, but it's also in line with the way she is treated throughout these stories. If we look at some of the excuses made for Tomie's deaths, they are as follows. It's not your fault. Tomie's death was her own fault. She ridiculed us. Something just came over me. I loved her way too much. Directly or indirectly, blame always falls onto Tomie. It's a very real parallel to real world attacks on women. It's victim blaming at its finest, in quite a few of these stories, from everyone. With no family to protect her, no friends to support her, the women, the men, they all blame Tomie. Society has abandoned her. In the first chapter of Tomie, she even says, what kind of monster are you? The reason Tomie died, the reason that she is the way she is, is because of everyone else. They are the real monsters. It's because a boy decided that because he loved Tomie and couldn't have her, he needed to hit her, to kill her, as a way of appeasing his emotions. Tomie is an allegory for real life. Yes, it is Tomie's power that drives them to insanity, but part of the horror in Tomie is that, in so many real world instances where victims are blamed over the impulses of men, there is no ability, no power, no special gaze in where the blame can suddenly be put onto the victim. And yet, things play out just as they do in these stories. Again Tomie is a cruel and terrible person, but she doesn't deserve to be hacked over a ridiculed painting. In stories where she doesn't do anything like orphan girl, it's an impulse that she needs to be hacked to pieces. Again we see that idea that she made me do it. Aside from her enchanting beauty, Tomie doesn't have any qualities that reflect any sense of love. She's not kind or inviting or anything like that. She doesn't offer up her body or her love to her male victims.  As women are quote unquote supposed to be the opposite of all of these things, Tomie isn't. It leads people to fear her and to fear what she may become. And when she can't be controlled or tamed or possessed, she's killed. When they're embarrassed by her, when she mocks them, she's killed. They are attracted to her and so deeply infatuated and taken aback by her beauty, they gain a semblance of control and possessiveness over Tomie, or of what she should be. Again when she doesn't act in line with what they desire, they kill her. They fear what she might become or what she might do to them. Rachel Dumas writes about the monstrous feminine in contemporary Japan and she writes that in her view, Tomie in 1980s Japan becomes symbolic of the rise of Japanese girlhood that actively resists established models of female desirability and desire. This can be applied to both the men and the women of the different chapters, in the sense that each of them attempts to try and subdue or control Tomie, as stated. For the other women and girls, they can be represented like the old lady of orphan girl.  Tomie has the aggression, the beauty, and the power that is envied. Furthermore in stories where Tomie corrupts the female characters, it's through that beauty. From the chapter's hair and Morita Hospital, she takes over those who are too worried about their looks, and hair, one of the main characters even points out that she'd kill for hair as pretty as Tomie's.  Beauty in this story is demonized, because at each chapter Tomie becomes more and more beautiful and less and less human. These are stories that are very much reflective of a society that is obsessed with image. She is a constant reminder of the societal pressures on appearance and its failure to protect women as even to this day these instances of victim blaming and femicide exist at alarming rates all across the globe. I think Painter represents this idea quite well, especially in the way that Ito drew Tomie for this particular story. As his art improved, Tomie's appearance did, and this story specifically she appears older, and that's evident in the fact that she's wearing lipstick, making her lips fuller. Her hair is shinier, she's ditched the school outfits, and her eyes are more striking than before in this story. Tomie's gaze is exactly as the painter calls it, it's bewitching. Mitsuo Mori's paintings are put on display, and Tomie searches for the one who can record her beautiful form. As she says, it's her duty to preserve her beauty and to be admired by generations to come. But when Tomie loudly disapproves of Mori's work, it sends him into a frenzy, trying to emulate even a tenth of Tomie's beauty. When the painter sees a photo of Tomie and the monster, he feels a sense of duty to capture her beauty properly. He then kills to get Tomie back and finally captures Tomie's appearance, monster included, and of course she laughs at it, fearing the monster. And she also provokes Mori's anger, where the tale of Tomie repeats itself, hacking the monster to pieces. A male friend of Margaret Atwood replied to her question of why men might feel threatened by women, and he replied that they are afraid that women will laugh at them. Atwood asked students of hers why women feel threatened by men, and they replied that they are afraid men will kill them. Minus Tomie's fear, this is the story of Painter. In Maria Mie's paper about the legacy of the female vengeance ghost, they made a very interesting point in that almost all of the prototypes for Tomie's future victims are present in the original murder. It's that idea that helps to reinforce this thought that the first chapter is the original Tomie. When all of the students stood idly by as Mr. Takagi attempted to save himself from the embarrassment of having relations with a student, I think that's when Tomie decided to get her revenge. She began embodying and taking great pleasure into being a force for evil. What makes Tomie such a good villain and such a good monster to me is because of her intelligence. Yes, Tomie does lose her humanity over time, but she never loses her ability to manipulate people. She never loses her sense of what it means to be human. While it may be one part of her ability, she showcases so many instances where she's able to reach into the vulnerabilities of those that oppose her.  In gathering, Tomie even has a cult in honor of her image, adding that to her beauty, the one aspect of her that will always remain, the one aspect that seems to even change and adapt while retaining that facade of humanity. It becomes incredibly easy for her to manipulate people. Tomie becomes the embodiment of vengeance and it's evident once more in the fifth chapter, revenge. In revenge, I think it's the time where Tomie finally gives up trying to be human and truly takes advantage of her beauty and ability. Revenge has a frozen Tomie get found by a crew of hikers, Hamaguchi and Tanimura in the dead of winter. Both on the hunt for Tanimura's brother, Tetsuya, who has been missing. When Tomie is found, she is quickly able to use her ability to attract one of the hikers, Hamaguchi, to give her his clothes. When she becomes attracted to Tanimura, who has been unfazed by Tomie, Hamaguchi ends up getting jealous and attacks Tomie. As she is nursed back to health, we find out that Tanimura's brother is the one who left Tomie out to freeze after he killed her. And slowly her ability begins to seep into Tanimura, who stabs her and runs off, only to find his brother's body being devoured by another Tomie. As the title states it, this is revenge, but it's rather cruel as Tanimura isn't responsible for what his brother did, but Tomie still made the careful decision to find Tetsuya's brother and corrupt him. That spirit of vengeance that comes up time and time again was rather strong here, as it gruesomely illustrates the lengths to which Tomie is willing to go and get revenge. As she shows the other brother's devoured corpse, because devouring Tetsuya wasn't enough for her. It's moments like this that stand out when thinking about the disconnect between Tomie the human and the monster. Tetsuya was just a regular team, looking for his lost brother, and he had fair intentions all the way through, and he even nursed Tomie back to health, but Tomie doesn't care. In gathering, it follows Umehara, a man whose girlfriend has recently died and who gets invited to a gathering, essentially a cult, where men go to worship Tomie. Umehara in the very first page shows that he is still very much in love with Naoko, his girlfriend, and he misses her dearly. When Tomie gets the hint about a man who isn't infatuated by her, she's intrigued by it. The panel of her gaze, her power, one that we've seen so many times in the series, being nullified by Umehara's unresponsiveness, who is shown staring at his true love, showed a weakness in Tomie that we don't see often. Aside from Tanimura in revenge and the ugly man in Little Finger, we rarely see Tomie fail to capture her prey. The fact that that intrigues her really emphasizes the idea that this has become a game for Tomie. It asks, what are the lengths that she can go to to tempt these people? Umehara was uninterested until Tomie becomes his dead girlfriend. And it's only then that Umehara protects Tomie and becomes one of the innocent victims of her power. Gathering and revenge were great showings of Tomie the monster. It proved that her evil doesn't discriminate. When she'd heard that his girlfriend had died, she quickly brushes it off, instead reveling in the fact that she is alive and that she has problems. It was so cruel. Over the course of this story, he is repeatedly shown dreaming about his girlfriend. But in the end, Tomie has even corrupted and perverted his memory. He doesn't dream about Naoko anymore. He's with her now. Umehara found the love of his life again in the cruelest way imaginable. This is Tomie's true power. Tomie's ego and self-adoration that was exhibited in the painter and photograph and in similar stories mixed in with her inherent selfishness spawned a sort of Tomie war. Because her demise is the same in each story and with each part of her body being able to spawn a new Tomie, when the series reaches its later stages and all the clones begin to fight each other, it's here that we see what Kawakami has truly become. What Tomie has evolved into, a cancer. When the story reaches its third volume, she truly becomes unhinged. She lives for the endless chaos that she causes. It becomes like a challenge to see the different types of people that she can manipulate into killing her into creating new versions of her.  The different Tomie's begin to battle against one another to see which one can come out on top, which one can be the singular Tomie, until she will inevitably realize that there can't be one. It's a manifestation of her selfishness and her self-image that has only swelled over time. There's only one that can be the prettiest. I think Tomie and Boy is the perfect and probably most disturbing story to show precisely how Tomie is a victim turned true villain, turned monster. One that connects the abuse that she suffered and that she now inflicts on certain individuals, highlighting the innocent ones. In Boy, a kid, Satoru, his age is never mentioned, but he looks like he could be 10 years old at the most to me. Satoru comes across one of Tomie's bodies floating by the beach, who then grabs at his ankle. Tomie attracts the boy by playing with him and later seduces him with kisses. Tomie begins to assume the role of the boy's mother and begins to fill his mind with ideas about the man that he will one day become. Tomie in this story also looks older than before and since the boy was giving Tomie his mother's clothes, she began to truly look like a mother. As Satoru's parents stopped him from visiting Tomie because he began acting out as a result of her power, she took on another man during this time. Satoru then escapes and finds the two and later kills the man involved. Tomie returns to get the kid, but then seduces Satoru's father and the two run off together.  From Diane Lynn Miller's paper on the abused-abuser hypothesis, this theory, also known as the intergenerational transmission of violence, seeks to explain the relationship between childhood sexual abuse and sexual offending in adolescence. It is the idea that one's victimization experiences are casually related to being an abuser. Studies have noted rates of prior sexual abuse in the lives of adolescent female sexual perpetrators, ranging from 38% to 100%, as shown in the data here. While there has been both criticism and support about this theory, and there are much more nuances than just that, it does tell us that abuse can be and sometimes is cyclical. Connecting that to Tomie, to me, boy was the end of her arc. It was a perfect circle. Satoru was her most innocent victim yet, a little boy, and it's tragically fitting in the sense that she began in Satoru's place back when Mr. Takagi was praying on a high school-aged Tomie. Thinking back to Mie's quote that all of her future victims were present in the initial murder, she was too, and she essentially became her own. Tomie evolved into a self-absorbed, corrupted monster. Boy, to me, was her final stamp in becoming evil incarnate. It's this story where I saw another true horror of Tomie, and how connected it is to her inception. This is the duality of Tomie. It's important to note that Tomie is not a sympathetic character by any means, but she is still a product of a society that did not protect her. The girls, her friend that envied her and later blamed her, and the boys and the men that cut her up, the adult teacher that groomed his high school-aged student, they are the reasons for Tomie's rage. These are two facts that coexist in this story. To close, I wanted to mention how stunning the artwork was by Ito. Some of these environments, backgrounds, and characters were truly horrifying and gruesome. The one that I won't forget anytime soon is the one that I showed in the beginning, the monster, the result of the doctor's experiments, which captures the essence of Tomie as a monster quite well. As stated time and time again, it represents Tomie as a cancer, as the many different forms of her emerge becoming this sort of worm. The biggest and most consistent idea in that monster is how they all retain Tomie's intoxicating beauty.  As stated, this was my first real glimpse into the world of horror, and reading Tomie and seeing such well-crafted stories really made me appreciate the genre a lot more. The idea of this perspective of such an intelligent and monstrous individual attacks some of the most vulnerable parts of humanity was so well done by Junji Ito. And I really do look forward to eventually reading some more of his work.


Hey everyone, welcome to figure fantasy. So we're going to do an updated ignite team line up with the arrival of Ultraman, so as you can see here, I have Ultraman here as kind of my centerpiece for the ignite team Although he doesn't have ignite, but again, he deals a lot of damage because of ignited enemy So we'll start off with him. We'll be discussing his Major skills or major contributions to your ignite team and also I'll discuss my build with him Just in case you want to see how I built all of the figures that I'm going to discuss for this video. Okay, so Again for Ultraman Guaranteed crit then Because of ignite, sorry. Yeah. Guaranteed crit because of ignited enemies. So that is his forte a lot of damage for him So I built him with attack speed and this is going to be your skill set Built to make sure to make sure that his basic attack deal a lot of damage So again damage output for this guy is tremendous. That is why I got him plus. I already got his Adornment enhances the ultimate using a compound fist dealing 57% of attack as damage to a target and it's adjacent enemies You don't really need to get this his damage output is is actually good But if you get this his damage output will be great Okay, so again and for his Bad she will need an internal nightmare badge Okay, so moving on to our next Important figure for your ignite team. He is actually as important as Ultraman I think the ignite team revolves around this guy Because of a lot of things it gives heal plus increase attack speed Extra damage to ignited enemies and increase attack power given to allies. So again a lot of buffs for this guy He will really really make your ignite team shine I don't see how you you know being taken out of an ignite team He is one of your mainstays, especially with Ultraman. He guarantees that Ultraman deals crit or or triggers crit guaranteed because of his Him giving ignite to enemies He's he is one of your sure shots in terms of bringing ignite to your enemy So again Zau you and Ultraman will play a key role in your ignite lineup So moving on to another key piece here probably the most one of the most Important key piece. Oh, sorry. I forgot to mention Zau you Parts, I just used a helper exclusive eternal Eden badge. He has previously I built him with all HP Parts, but I opted for support because of this one I'd like to show you this so support is Giving you Increased attack bonus or attack speed boosts is accuracy bonus. So Healing will be boosted by HP With Eryxia in the party, I'm I'm not worried about health That is why he is concentrating more on attack speed Although he has still a two-piece HP set the rest would be a support Bonus set or support set Okay, so again moving back to Eryxia our third most important Figure here Eryxia does the highlights life steal to enemies accuracy Bonus boost critical damage gives critical damage and increases defense So that those both Zau you and Eryxia are very important to your team I kid you not. They are mainstays for sure same with With Zau you she has support Support set then she has a defensive set and she has a eternal glory badge that she could you know She could gains a shield once and also absorbs lethal damage once this is handy, especially if we don't have Zuki Liang in your team.  Although he gives Burn resist resist a burn resist reduction He's not really meant for any type of Enemy he works best if you're attacking bosses Because of the damage reduction to the current enemy that he's facing Especially if you have Ultraman in front of him or in the same row So a catchy Probably your secondary support again. So Again, this team is has a lot of supports. We have three supports already Zau you Eryxia a catchy and the last one guys would be This guy I never thought that he would be one of one of the you know the important Supports or secondary DPS unit to have for for the fire team as you can see here for parts I built him with attack and and This is your skill set Okay, so Zau Yun if you can see his skill so has a shield absorbs tons of damage Tons of damage actually, but he's not really you're your maxed out DPS. He's usually your secondary DPS Also boost attack speed boost attack speed by 40% when he HP drops below 60 So he is really your secondary DPS you you won't get a another DPS right now that can support Ultraman But Zau Yun is definitely one of your best options So that is rounding out your five for the ignite team If you don't want to use Zau Yun well for other defensive purposes You can actually use Sanada Well, Sanada as for the build he has to have life steal set because he's he's less survivable and he has to Have this Increased accuracies for his counter attack. So nothing too special with him I usually bring Sanada if I'm required to bring three front line, you know front line figures So we'll demonstrate that later another option for Zau Yun is none other than Zuki Liang so Zuki Liang if you don't if if you don't really have to worry about the front line You can add him replace Zau Yun or a catchy Mitsuhide This guy I built him with Attack and defense He is good with heal reduction Enhances burning damage or burn damage ultimate. His ultimate by the way Makes crit hit ignite enemies so he can also be a good support for Ultraman also guys Increases critical damage, which is actually Very very much welcome, especially if you have Ultraman absorbs lethal damage once then shield for 10 seconds And also has energy restore. So again, he's also another support. That is why I don't want to put a lot of support with with your ignite team Again, Ultraman, Zau Yun, Eryxia, Aket, Shimatsuide and Zau Yun is your main team But you have the option to slot in Sanada or Zou Keele Yang. So let's take let's check out the Little bit of play here. Let's go to final battle and let's go to Azizel I have here a Stage which I need clearing by the way. So this is with the new and improved Gotta take ignite team. So as you can see here, the only one missing here is Aket Shimatsuide I don't really need him because this isn't a single boss type. I slotted him Zou Keele Yang here and see the difference. So again, you see what I mean. I have three frontline Keeps here By the way, okay I forgot to mention Yun Cha as an option as well If you don't if you want to replace Zau Yun, you could replace Yun Cha I don't have him that is why I don't have it as an option currently in my current team But again, you can have him as an option replacing Zau Yun as another as a defender He can really be good for healing and Again, one of the best defenders that we have especially if you want to build a team towards What they call this towards Galatea. So going back to that final battle Okay, so going back here. Let us see that lineup again and I haven't I haven't finished this yet. So let's try this one out and let's critique how effective is your Ignite team versus this stage So again, I prefer the ignite team because it enhances damage Burn damage and Even though you have little DPS in your team Ignite adds to that burn damage adds to that so again It's useful for you know for mobs useful for bosses But nobody has really built a good Ignite team in the past because there wasn't really enough DPS aside from supports. So now that we have Ultraman This team will really take off. I think Also, if you have Yun Cha by the way, you could replace Sanada with Yun Cha. You don't need additional burn damage here You don't need the counter attack even Yun Cha would be perfect If you replace Sanada in this lineup, so we're at wave three ready So it's it's only now that I've built Galatea and ignite team. I didn't really have them and there were my last priority in terms of Brand if there's a building them, but now I realize that I have to because I need to improve my you know My movement in terms of some of the content So this is as good as it gets only Eriksia here is a bit beefed up because I've been using her even though She's not even though with other brands, but I left out the others Zhaoyun and Zhaoyu recently buffed No, not recently buffed recently geared up for my aim and with the recent acquisition of Ultraman It has been enjoyable Playing this team Zuki Liang, of course has been one of my One of the figures that helped has helped me progress actually other content But I noticed that He has dropped in terms of performance for my team because he's only at five star I need I need I need to put him up to Diamond at least it's one star two star diamond Um Because he keeps he keeps the keeps on dying and falling off early on so that is why I You know, he's he's still useful by the way But as you go through the advanced stages, he keeps on falling off and sometimes You have to opt out but for a pure Galatea team He is one of your he's one of your best supports depending on the setup For this one, you will need him for other teams. You won't need Zuki Liang um, but again He is your you know, you have you have three there in terms of hp support. You have Eryxia you have Zhaoyu and you have Zuki Liang so Again a lot of support for hp This team definitely needs or has been you know This team has been given a lot of help in terms of dps damage with the arrival of ultraman I'm I'm not sure if If right now you could clear some of the stages without ultraman Probably if if you're a whale and if you've levelled up most of you know These uh these figures, uh heavily probably yes, but again if you're a Dolphin or a low spender Ultraman is really a good addition, especially if you can buy more copies from the store right now I have him at three diamond and that is it Okay, so as you can see there, um very successful ignite team Anyway guys, that is it for your Ignite team. Hopefully you could progress further with the final counter strike Uh with other content. So I have progressed already So I was at second floor most of Most of the stages now. I am already at third floor clearing four or five. So great progress for me. So hopefully I could just continue to um Enhance their gear and whatever they have So that I could clear more stages. So probably uh a little more time And I will be clearing some of the stages there. So for Eryxia again Will be your MVP in terms of survivability and uh, that is it guys If you have any comments on the ignite team, please do put them down in the comment section Thank you very much. Stay safe. Take care. This is the warden and I'm out of here