Jeff, can you just start with the free throw and, you know, what you wanted to see? And we haven't missed that three-bound. Yeah, we put Deira on the game, put another big in the game to put some more pressure on the rim. Got to bounce our way a little bit. Royce came up with it. And the interesting thing is to see. Katie was a little bit behind him. I don't know if he could have turned and pass it to him. But the effort our guys gave tonight was should be commended. When you look at coming off of Charlotte, another game where you're down double digits with under three minutes, what did you like about that position? What was working for you guys? The poise, you know, they went zone on us a little bit, made us kind of recalibrated a little bit. And we did. And we settled down. We got some good looks. We executed at the end of the game, put ourselves again in a position to win. And where you guys, I think you're up 78, 74, you're dry. Yeah. That was that just, I guess, adjusting to what they were doing defensively? Yeah, definitely so. Give them credit for going zone. That kind of slowed us down a little bit. Then we figured it out. And then we got good looks. You know, the looks that we did get from the guys who shot the basketball, we'll take it. What is it about Luger that makes him so difficult to guard? Just high IQ. You know, he sees the game. He plays at his pace. He's able to pass the basketball as well as shoot it. And to be able to manipulate the game the way he does, pretty impressive. Yeah, great to see him out on the floor. Put him out there with a group that could play fast, hopefully some shooters around him. At that stretch, we didn't make a lot of shots. But overall, I thought seeing him back on the floor, played with speed, played with pace, was just good. What's the word on you two? Yeah, sprained ankle. And we'll further take a look at him. But he was smiling afterwards. So he did. Did he get ammo on it or anything he did? No, he has not. Coach, how would you sum up the road trip? Oh, sum it up. I think at the end of the day, our guys, what I told them in the locker room is we didn't win the game, which was, you know, the ultimate goal of the game, but we played the right way. And it's really that simple. I think we played with space. We played with a lot of pace through this road trip. We shared the basketball. We grew to understand each other, what we want the ball, how we play together. So that part of it was the trust factor. Then overall, I think our group came together. Do you have any expectation that you two, A, would you two get an MRI when you get back? I'm not sure, Brian. I did not ask the medical team before I came over. We huddled pretty quickly, but he seemed to be OK in the huddle. And I know T.J. was going to get assessed or what have you at some point in November. Do you have any further idea on him? I don't. He's still been doing his kind of progression. And so we'll see when we get back to Brooklyn if that, no setback, so that part's been good. For some of the guys that have been kind of working their way back, and there's a number of them that have had these offseason surgeries, we've seen Edmond kind of get closer back to his former self. How encouraging is what you've seen from Joe? Yeah, really, really encouraging. Because Joe went from building up his minutes, didn't play it back to back to playing more minutes, and then building up to playing the back to back. So that progression has been great for him.  And then I guess on the flip side, is when you're dealing with both Seth and Ben, is this just going to be a process and it may take both of those guys a while to work? I think in the team huddle before, every time I'm like, OK, this time we're adding Seth back in the mix, we got Joe in back to backs, now we're adding Ben in another game, so the rotation's going to change. Just be part of the team, and we'll continue to get healthy.


Let me ask you a question. Do you in your day ever get to the point where you feel, I'm finished. I'm finished now. I'm completed. Everything's done. Do you have that thought? Do you have that feeling? When I talk to people I find that that's actually quite a rare feeling. We don't get to a point definitively where we can sit and say, I'm finished. Everything's done. And if that's an issue for you, there is a huge value in getting this insight that it's so important for you on a daily basis to get to the point where you feel completely finished. Where you put everything aside and you just sit with, there's nothing left for me to do now. If we don't get to that point, it's like the nervous system never gets the off signal, constantly on. There's something remaining to be done that's not finished. It's not complete. So the nervous system can't actually switch off and relax. I'm going to give it a little bit of a tip here in terms of why do we struggle to get to that feeling so often? Why do we never feel finished? In my experience, the big reason for that is that we make these big, big plans for ourselves and we're constantly asking, what's the most I can do? How can I get the most out of this day? We have a whole host of emotional needs. In my model that I use, we have five basic emotional needs that unless we meet and meet well, we won't feel complete. We'll feel conflicted within ourselves. And in the process of meeting these emotional needs for ourselves, one of the big mistakes we make is we say to ourselves, okay, I have these emotional needs. What is the most I can give when meeting these needs? So I'll feel more fulfilled. And in my view, that's the wrong approach to take with these emotional needs. Yes, we do have these emotional needs, they're not going anywhere. We do have a responsibility to meet these needs. But if our approach is, I'm going to, what's the most I can give? We sort of set ourselves up for failure in that we become, maybe in parenting, you've heard the concept of the good enough parent. The parent who feels that they're never good enough needs to switch the attitude of I'm good enough. Likewise, when we're self-parenting, which is to meet our own emotional needs, we need to switch from this, what's the most I can give to? Here's the right question. What is the least I can give to these emotional needs while still meeting them? We become a good enough self-parent rather than constantly berating ourselves for not having done enough. Balancing your emotional needs is not an easy task. Life is full of complications, distractions, we almost invariably do not have as much time as we think we do to meet these emotional needs. So the approach I advocate is, what's the least I can do to meet each of them, and that's just to even to just validate them sometimes or to give a small amount of time and energy to each of these emotional needs, rather than the whole thing of hours at a time on each emotional need and then never actually completing or meeting all of your emotional needs. And then some of the emotional needs feel neglected and resentful and they resist any effort you have to meet the other emotional needs and there's this internal conflict that comes about. So the approach is to meet these needs with just a small amount of time and energy. Make all the needs validated so that there's less conflict now. Each need has been validated and we get to a point where we feel, okay, have I given these emotional needs everything? No, but all of my emotional needs have been validated, they've all been given something and now they all become more cooperative rather than competitive with each other. So really all I'm saying here is drop the big plans rather than saying I should do this, I should do this, I should do that, I should do so much for these emotional needs. What if we just had an easy achievable goal to meet these emotional needs consistently with little time, little effort and see how that approach works. See then that the emotional needs will start to feel validated and become more cooperative with one another, we have less internal conflict and we get to the point where we feel, well look, I've made some progress or I have met this emotional need to at least some degree and then maybe after you've met the emotional needs to that standard, that easily achievable standard, you now enter this period of a bonus territory where anything else I do now for each of these emotional needs is just considered an extra rather than something that I have to do, this unachievable unrealistic goal that I have for myself. So the takeaway from this video is tell yourself or ask yourself what is the least I can do to meet each of my emotional needs, to validate them so that I will get out of conflict and have a sense that, huh, okay, I didn't do really an awful lot today but I did something and now I'm finished. If I do nothing else for today, that's okay, I did something. Rather than really, really working hard all day long and just because you haven't got that last little thing ticked off the list even though you've been super busy, super energetic meeting your needs, still feeling that sense of awful that didn't get everything completed. That's not healthy for us. So this is a self parenting video to become, forget being a great perfect self parent, be the good enough self parent and there's a lot more compassion in that, there's a lot more encouragement for yourself and there's a lot more celebration for the things you do rather than emphasis on the things that you didn't get to do. So bear that in mind guys, the question again is what is the least I can do to meet these emotional needs and I think that will be much, much more helpful. Any feedback, leave a comment below and as always thanks so much for being with me and I'll see you next time. Bye for now.


Inner beauty, if you have the right kind of eyes, everything is absolutely beautiful. Relative thing is a social factor, again it's a training, it depends on what kind of data has gone into your mind. But if you're in a certain state of joy and you look at anything, everything is beautiful. When you're unhappy, only certain things are beautiful, certain things are ugly. When you're very happy, you look at anything, everything looks absolutely beautiful. See, there are many ways to look at this. One simple way is, right now you may be identified with many things, starting from your physical body to your mind to your education to your religion to your society to various things that you hold in your life.   Identified with many many things, but fundamentally you're just a certain amount of life energy. So this life energy which I… which you call as myself at this moment, this life energy sometimes has been very joyful, has it been? Has it been? Please say yes, otherwise it's tragedy. Sometimes it's been utterly miserable. Sometimes very peaceful, sometimes turmoil, sometimes agony, sometimes ecstasy. This has happened to this, isn't it? So this life energy which you call as myself is capable of all these things. So if this life energy is capable of all these things, if you were given a choice, what kind of expression your life energy should find right now in this moment, what would you choose, agony or ecstasy? Definitely ecstasy. So if there was a conscious choice about how to keep your life energies right now, definitely you would have kept yourself absolutely joyful and ecstatic.  Other things which you do not want are happening within you. What you do not want is happening in the world. You cannot stop it hundred percent. Only to some extent we manage these things.  In the world there are a million things. See if we want to create a situation the way we want it, we need the cooperation of hundred people around us. All of them will never cooperate hundred percent. They will all play the game that way, isn't it? In any given situation, even if you are just two people in the family, you cannot have the situation one hundred percent the way you want it. Yes or no? This is the reality with the outside. But with the inside you are the only reality. Only in the world happens your way. At least this one person must happen your way, isn't it? But right now even this person is not happening your way, that's why you are asking what is the way to joy.  We need to do something about it, isn't it? If all these four are happening the way you want them, you would definitely be joyful every moment of your life, isn't it? Irrespective of what's happening around you. So we need to explore the technology. Because it's a subjective technology, because the ingredient is you, it's about you. Unless we create a certain atmosphere of commitment and focus to look beyond certain things that you are identified with right now, it will not be possible to explore this.


So, when we talk about the stages of human development and learning, then the stage, second stage that is called the childhood stage. And childhood stage, when we talk about this stage, then we talk about the phases of this stage. And first of all, we would like to just discuss about the physical characteristics in this stage. So, physical characteristics in this stage are very prominent because now children are just shifting from the toddler hood and the infancy stage to childhood stage. So, this shift is new for the children and they have to just cope with the new changes that they are encountering with in the physical phase, in the emotional phase, in the social phase. So, in this stage, some theorists have divided this into two parts, in which they say early childhood and in the second part they say late childhood. For early childhood, the age period is between 3 to 11 years old or someone has said 6 years old or someone has said 6 years old. And this whole childhood phase is 3 to 11 years old. So, the physical growth in 2 to 3 inches is increasing every year with a very fast increase and in the same way, the increase in their weight. So, apparently, the physical changes are their height and weight. And in the same way, their mental growth is also increasing. Now, when they have cognitive skills in their mental growth, when they are improved, then their perception is to perceive and understand things and interact with them, then to intelligently resolve conflicts with them. All these things are coming into childhood. Now, the innocent period of their infancy is coming into a slightly mature stage in their childhood. And the two parts I have divided here, some theorists say that the first period of 6 to 11 years of age is considered late childhood. So, the story of the child at this time is that it increases and along with the weight and all the bonds and all the physical changes are happening. At this time, the child needs a lot of nutrition because the height and good health of the child depends on the good nutrition.  And after that, the first phase of their childhood begins to look a little mature and the babyish look of them starts to change. After that, the second stage of their late childhood, which we are saying that we divide the stage of this childhood into two parts. So, the stage of late childhood is 6 to 11 years or 6 to 12 years or 6 to 10 years. Different psychologists have divided this stage. In this, we also call it pre-adolescence because after this childhood, the next stage is of adolescence. So, because in 10 years, the children have better nutrition and due to their parents' genes, they grow quickly. Their height grows very well. If their parents had a good height, then their height also grows in the same way. Then, the children are more sharp. Their cognition is also working very fast. So, physically, they grow up with their early childhood and the factors behind them are better nutrition and their parental genes. After that, their home environment accelerates their physical growth by getting all these things. Now, where there is complete nutrition, where the parental genes were short-heighted by their parents. Similarly, if the child is born with health issues, then the physical growth of the child will be different. So, the purpose of saying that this stage is very important because the growth is growing very fast. And it is a little slow compared to infancy. But still, all the physical requirements of this childhood are starting. And the important thing in this is that the physical growth of the child varies. I have told you two factors. One is their parental genes, the other is their better nutrition. Apart from this, due to individual differences, two brothers, two sisters, one sister, everyone's height and everyone's health will be different. The third factor that I wanted to tell you was that if at the time of birth, the child had a complication of his health, then his physical growth will still be problematic. Still, his physical growth will be different from his siblings and his parents. He will grow with weak health and it is not necessary that his weight and height will be as big as his height and height. The same way, the same as his parents' husband or his friends or his siblings. So these changes in physical growth are normal. And it depends on which environment the child is concerned with.