Okay, so hi everyone. I'm Phil Martin. I'm a postdoc at the University of Cambridge where I work with the conservation evidence team where we try to provide evidence to guide conservation practice. And today I'm really happy to be talking to you about an exciting new project I've been working on, developing a new method of meta-analysis that we call dynamic meta-analysis. And we think this is a particularly useful way of providing evidence for guiding local context-specific decisions using a global evidence base. And so the presentation of meta-analysis usually looks something like this. So in this case, this is a plot showing the effect of different interventions on invasive plant abundance. As you can see, herbicide is the one that has the greatest effect in terms of reducing invasive plant abundance. And from the perspective of a manager, I might look at this and think herbicide is really useful. I'm going to go and spray it on my invasive plant species. But if I chose a herbicide that hadn't been used in any of the studies that have been looked at in this meta-analysis and then apply it somewhere else, maybe it wouldn't have as a strong effect on my invasive plant species as you find in this study. And that would result in poor transferability from this meta-analysis to the context that I'm working in. Equally, I might be a manager and look at this and think, well, it hasn't got any information about the herbicides that we used. And it hasn't got any information about the invasive plant species that we used. So I can't take this general result and apply it to the context that I'm interested in. So I might just dismiss this as not being relevant information. And so what we see is that people want information that is relevant to their context. And this relates to external validity, so the transferability of results from one study to a different context. And this study by Goodsat and Dorman that I've taken the quote from here found that after interviewing forest managers that recommendations on forest conservation were better accepted if they were formulated for a specific context in which the managers were working. And in our experience at conservation evidence, you see this all the time. So when there's a lack of information provided through evidence synthesis, but it's relevant, so when there's a lack of relevant information provided through evidence synthesis, people often ignore it. So what they do instead is they pick a study or two that is relevant to their context and use those instead. Or they use anecdotal information from their friends from their colleagues who work in contexts that are similar. And this is probably true for lots of fields, but we see it all the time in conservation. And so when you think about traditional meta analyses, we think that the process of doing meta analysis looks a bit like this. If you consider all of the black boxes as being things that researchers traditionally do, and the white box at the bottom is something that end users do. So researchers define the question, they search the literature, they extract data, they analyze data, they present findings, and then the interpretation of the findings is done by the users along with the researchers. Dynamic meta analysis, as we can see with it, using metadata sets sees a shift in the roles a little bit. So what we envisage happening through data meta analysis is that people would define the question, so researchers define the question that they want. They search the literature, they extract the data, but then the data is analyzed by the users and it's also interpreted by the users to a certain extent. And so we build a tool and a website called MetadataSet, and the tool has been built in Shiny, and it allows you to do this filtering of data and recalibrating of data so that you can analyze it for your context. Currently we have information on the website about invasive species management and agricultural management, and I'm going to go through an invasive species example to make this a bit more clear. So if I was a manager that wanted to manage this Japanese knotweed species you see here, so this is a widespread invasive plant species all across Europe, causes large economic damage, maybe I'd be interested in spraying it with herbicide. So if I wanted to look at this on our website, I'd go through and click through to the section on Japanese knotweed where you'd be presented with a bit of information. I'd click on the section that says data by intervention, so as we'd give you a list of all the different interventions we found information for in our systematic review. And then you can go and click through to the section that says you're using a herbicide and then you filter by different outcomes. So click that and that gives you a summary of all of the studies that have used the herbicide to control Japanese knotweed and where these studies were located. Then you can click on expand all to show all of the different outcomes that you can look at and I'm particularly interested in looking at abundance of Japanese knotweed. It launches a shiny app, you click start your analysis and this runs an analysis, a bespoke analysis for me showing the average impact of Japanese knotweed for the studies that we pulled out in our systematic review and it shows a 73% reduction in Japanese knotweed summarizes this in a paragraph as well as a bit of information about the studies. You can get a summary forest plot and a funnel plot, but we think the really powerful thing that you can do is filter information to your specific context. So if I was interested in a mazapir which is a particular type of herbicide, I might filter by those covariates down there and then this reduces the result to show that there was an 80% reduction in Japanese knotweed rather than 73% reduction and we have all different covariates that you can filter on and we think this is potentially a powerful way of people making a meta analysis relevant to their context. One other way of doing this is by looking at the study summaries that we have. So we have written short summaries of the methodologies that are used in different studies and you can reweight studies based on their relevance. So this supplies an extra weight in addition to inverse variance weighting. So reweighting these studies can result in a change in your overall effect size. This is all available on GitHub so you can look at the code that's gone into this and I can share this on the SlackGrip. And so what we want to do next is part of the reason that I wanted to talk here is we want to engage with the synthesis community and get them to see what they think about this project, what could we do with it, what extra things could we do that they think would be interesting. We also want to engage with practitioners so we specifically want to do some user testing, see what they would want from a tool is like this because at the moment this is just a work in progress and we realize that it's a bit ugly and it's not very user friendly. And we also want to add more data so you can do more meta-analysis so I'd be really interested in collaborators working with us on this. This is also available as a pre-print that you can find here and I'll share information about this later. Finally I just want to thank Gorm Shackleford who worked, who didn't, the majority of the work on this project both had learned who is my boss at Conservation Evidence and Millie Hood who's also been collaborating with us on this as well as the Conservation Evidence team and by a risk who I'm friendly through and this is friendly through the David and Claudia Harding Foundation. And finally I just want to say thanks to you for watching. I'd be really happy to discuss this so if anyone wants to drop me any messages or emails I'd be happy to discuss this further later. Okay, thanks very much.


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So I see that so let me see Personnel Was ready now y'all got to forgive me I can't hardly breathe a night just eight and the shirt too tight on what happened with this shirt But it I must have put on the wrong shirt and it's sucking me in feel I got a waist train on so y'all got to forgive me That night I might take some deep breath Tony I saw my ex recently. He spoke with me, but was acting very distant Okay, I've been on here two minutes Why is that he also told me he loved me after the breakup, but then took it back why it You know, sometimes y'all ask these questions It's kind of hard to tell you the truth on stuff like this It just really means he chose wrong. He does not feel like you're his wife He does not feel like you're the one and he doesn't want to be with you, but He kind of wants to keep you on the team Keep you there kind of wonder and send mixed signals kind of keep you stuck Just in case what he's trying to get to where he's trying to go doesn't work out. He can come back to you But it just really means you got to cut them off all together and move on with your life That's really what it means The rest of the stuff doesn't mean much now see I Will talk she put the hashtag Q in there. So I've seen that that popped out to them What are what are the best characteristics of a godly man?  So when a man will Does not have much time, but will make time You're gonna see giving the way Christ would take in Taking them loaves of bread and them fish and feed the multitude You're gonna see forgiving the way he would forgive Everyone for their sins. You're gonna see compassion. You're gonna see grace. You're gonna see pure love So understand the characteristics of God So then you will know the characteristics of a godly man. That's the key to it So you could go right to Matthew Martin looking John Read the same story in four different ways from four different vantage points and And you'll see through that and then read Ephesians and read the book of Proverbs and then you'll know the characteristics your man supposed to have Should I automatically turn down a guy who has a soul tie or could there be a chance? Um There are every every man you meet will have a soul tie. So just Understand that so you you if you turn down a guy who has a soul tie You're gonna be turning down every man because every man gonna have a soul tie Unless he's a virgin and he's never been in a real Relationship with a woman because a man can have a soul tie meaning just be emotionally bonded Emotionally tied to a woman even if he never lied down with her So understand that The key is that he's doing the work to Minimize it that he's doing the work to create distance and to heal his heart and to grow. That's the key That's the key La la bless you. Thank you so much for it for your question in the super chat there Tony I left my fiance because he constantly undermined me for his mother Put her wants and desires first Hmm, you did the right thing you did the right thing the good the good book talks about a man Cleveland to his wife for saking his mother and father and Cleveland to his wife So when you meet a man and he doesn't understand that separation He doesn't understand the hierarchy of a relationship and how things go and that he has to have Structure in his relationship and everybody else outside of that has to come second And they have to know their place in regards to his queen his rib his woman then you got to keep it moving because men like that will just kind of have you as like a pawn on their chessboard and Really be playing to their mother's insecurities and her issues and will Use you to get mom in a place to where mom feels like if Mom will actually start to do more for him and give him more and make Concessions and do things that she wouldn't otherwise do because mom doesn't want to be replaced and he knows that So he'll kind of pawn you in order to get more from The woman who can do something for him now at the same time for some men It's legitimate for some men.  So you got to understand that and let's see. I'm looking for A question y'all put that hashtag cue in front of you Question y'all got to forgive him Right, what would be the reason that a guy would date you but not want a relationship with you after Relationship relationship with you and after you stop dealing with each other he gets in a relationship with someone else Am I the reason it's it's You can look at it like you the reason or you could look at it like he's not the one so It will be better to say he's not the one see the thing about it is a man Who's not your husband? You can't make him be your husband. So you got to understand that so it's essentially is a man will light out with any woman but get in a relationship only with a woman that he feels that This might be the one for him or that there's something that he can gain from that situation So just understand that it's not necessarily about you as much as it is y'all just aren't compatible And and you have to understand that and be okay with that How do you feel about divorce according to the word of God to the word of God? God hates the divorce. I feel the same way about it I trust God on it But at the same time you have to know that God is a spirit and you got to know that God knows your heart and God knows your Situation you have to know that it's not God's intention for you to be in a marriage that is completely breaking you down breaking you down and it's Taking you away from God is so you have to use Discernment and don't get so caught up in your interpretation of the written word and Leaning on your education and comprehension. You serve God in spirit and in truth So you have to know what's being said to your spirit about that union because you might have gotten a union That wasn't even authorized by God and what you have to realize is that Everything is forgivable So even if you make a mistake the same way you were asked for forgiveness For this that in the third you were asked for forgiveness for that same situation If your heart says I cannot live like this and you have to part ways You have to understand that God is capable of forgiving And he understands so it's grace Hey, Tony, I've been talking to this guy for four months now. We haven't went on a date Now we haven't went out on a date yet. Does that mean he's not feeling me and then He is 55 years of age. Well, you ain't say how old you are So that kind of Um Leaves a little vital information out y'all been talking for months y'all and went on saying and If y'all in the same city and you've been talking for months and haven't went on the date That's a huge red flag got it going about your business now if y'all Which the fact that you would say we haven't went on the date I would imagine y'all in the same city or y'all close enough to go on the date because you wouldn't expect the date if he was in another State so that's a red flag You got to go on about your business because he's not there for you. He's not there for you married husband married husband Okay, left and now trying to friend request me and now sister-in-law called my phone. How should I handle this? um It's typical it's very typical you got to ask yourself Do you want to go back or do you want to move forward with your life? Is it over or do you want to make it work? Now if you want to make it work that means you need to put in place some stipulations That he has to go through and that he has to You know Come over get done get some things done Like when I got my wife back We had only been married two months and she left for three days Sent me a message and what she was telling me is listen I told you I wouldn't be with a man who was going to be in the streets hustling And I thought that because I married her that I had her and that I could go back To the streets and that she'll be cool And because I'm trying to make money and she was like no, I'm not with it So when she left them three days when I begged and begged and begged her to get her back She gave me some stipulations. This is what you got to do This that in the third and so I was like, okay, let me do that did that got her back So if that's your choice that you want to make it work Then you need to know what it's going to take to make it work If you want to move on then you got to block him Block the sister file your papers gone by your business because you cannot Be one foot in and one foot out don't play with it Why is it so hard for guys to just do right? Oh, well, can it not be that simple? Yeah You don't have you had to ask God about that one you talked to him as what he had in mind What are some what are some advice for a 21 year old dating in college and I work in a law firm But see most of the black guys dating outside their race Should I try to date outside my race? You shouldn't try to date outside your race unless you meet someone outside your race And it happens to be organic and y'all have chemistry But never like what I was trying to say in my other video the other day that I shot is A lot of guys dating outside of their race for the wrong reasons It's not that they bumped into somebody and the love was blind the feelings were mutual And they hit it off with somebody of the opposite race Especially a lot of black men a lot of black men dating out of their race because of What they're dealing with internally and how they view their own and what they think about their own and then Some is it's an experiment and it's stereotypes out there things that have been said about Others that they believe and that may be true and they want to test it out Now when it happens to where it's organic and you meet someone and they're of another race and y'all hit it off Hey, that's cool. That's what they mean when they say love is blind But don't go say i'm going to date this person Because they are of another race or of this race like that because you you're going to set yourself up It needs to be real organic pure from the heart from the right place not out of Frustration not out of desperation into that Carrie god bless you. Thank you for that blessing He left and I still help him and more And I still help him and more You will have to get you some baby powder and slap yourself Everybody can put you a little water in there wet it if you want to But you're going to have to uh smell the Folgers in the morning. Carrie come on out of that If you're posting your question while he's talking, he won't be able to see them wait till He's looking directly at the comment section. Thank you bolec for reminding me Thank you. I appreciate it I divorced my husband We was together 13 years married eight years He's in prison did a lot For work Change in the last two years. We have four together. He wants to come back and do work. Can it work? He's 57. I'm 35 Lord bless you. Lord. Bless him. Bless him. Lord bless him Lord bless him. Okay 35 57 22 year Y'all got four together So that really mean he got five Because you his daughter that what you got to understand now when you dealing with a man that old He with you to re-raise you he trying to raise you Y'all got four. Okay was together 13 married eight Okay, that's what I need you to understand Anytime a man with you longer than three years and don't marry you for him It should have been two years because he old as matthewsla So you have to understand that when he that old he knows better now if he was 25, okay 30, okay 55 That's too old to not know what you want. So he was with you What's that five years before you married you? So that's her red flag Next red flag is you had to leave him The next red flag is he locked down The next red flag is he 22 years old and you you should never be with a man that's more than five Five or seven years old and you really five anything more than that you really taking a huge chance Now it can work out of seeing some work. That's between 10 and 15 now 22 Keep going. You got to keep it going. Now unless he's gonna get out and do the right thing, but That's that's a tough one. Listen to me my ex father of my four I teach them to do the right thing always They see me treat him with respect and sometimes help him, but he doesn't always reciprocate that behavior Should I stop? Yeah, you yeah, you should stop. You don't have to But now Stop helping You should still respect and be cordial and be nice, but stop helping See, you can't help somebody that's not trying to help themselves You can't help somebody that That you know like that and they won't reciprocate because At that point now you just being used and you can't do that So when you are Helping someone and doing for someone what they should be doing for themselves And you're helping them and you're giving to them and your children watching that And they see that he's not doing and giving and reciprocating now You look like boo boo the fool to them.  I feel like he uses our daughter to get closer to me. Um You right, I got a whole video on that. I got a whole video on that. I believe Do I y'all let me know? I think I got a video on co-parenting. You might have to watch that because get kind of deep but To sum it up you got to make it a business transaction when it's over it's over So you make a business transaction you set boundaries and this what it'll look like for me Call my phone you call my phone between the hours of 5 p.m. And 7 p.m Because I get off at 5 I don't work nobody's job. But this is just an example You call me between 5 and 7 p.m. Okay when you when it's your pickup We're gonna meet at the park because I might got My new boo at the house. We're gonna meet at the park doing the drop-off there at the park And they already ready bag in the car And when I'm doing the drop-off Here go A letter just a summary of how they doing in school. So we really ain't got to do all the chit chat Here go a letter here go everything you need to know. Boom. There you go So just like that so understand that and set your boundaries so that It separates you see people putting the name of the video in there. So Y'all y'all go and click the videos and look click my video look all the way through and you'll see What's all in there and look on now if y'all go to my main page and you Click on playlist go to my profile you click on playlist All of y'all members Click on Members only you're gonna see a members only playlist. I posted a video for the members of the blessed tribe today answering the question on co-parenting and absentee and so La Carmen You that question will help you with your question So y'all go Look at that and I posted for the blessed tribe look only 19 people to look at it So that's why a lot of time on try to just do videos specifically for the blessed tribe because Don't nobody see it But so that's why I posted to my main page and then all y'all can see it and I just do these q and a's Tony I asked my ex to change his address and all y'all single ain't nobody in no current relationship Y'all notice how when when people in that relationship They man say listen you not finna be on there Listen to that man putting putting all this in here now Everybody single Everybody's thing.   I really appreciate lord lord bless cc land for that blessing Now I saw somebody question up here early. I was just getting ready to answer event What does it mean in a relationship? When a woman doesn't want to get married we were together seven years Just want to confirm that ending the relationship was the right thing to do you did right? You did right y'all weren't married already So you might well end it Because if you ain't married by three years go on about your business go on about your business Misha met a guy Misha. Thank you Bless you. I see up here with the sticker met a guy a few months ago Spoke for a few days wasn't interested. So blocked him. He called today from a different number. I'm kind of creeped out. Okay Okay, let us say He ain't letting this thing go That guy a few months ago spoke for a few days Wasn't well what you got to do is just tell him hey you know Unfortunately, I'm in I'm in a situation So I'm not going to be able to talk to you and you dating the lord you dating yourself You dating this hip book a woman's influence that y'all need to pre-order So just tell him you in a situation and go on about your business sometime man need to hear that and So he could move on because he could he could be thinking you came into some hardship came to some hard times and he just You know, that's why I happened Okay, risa this that was you. I almost missed your question. I asked my x to change his address. He changed He changed some but I seen his phone bill He added his x on his plan Change his address But I seen his x I seen his phone bill. He added his x on his plan. Why did he change some bills and not the others?  He don't want to be with you So just go on about your business Stop worrying about him. What are you doing? And move on with your life because he's not trying to be with you What do you think about these books like 48 laws of power? These are the only type men I seem to like in a track Not sure. It's real healthy Now the type of men that are in the 48 laws Um, now the 48 laws it's true You could google 48 laws of power for those y'all who ain't read the book. You could read them a lot of them true And once you read them, you see that that's what people do to you on job interviews In networking and meeting new people in this business world a lot of people play like that I don't like the laws because a lot of them trashy a lot of them Disrespectful sneaky and conniving. So I don't deal like that. I deal genuine You know, I write long responses if I got the time I answer right away I don't take nobody else work and claim it as my own I don't move like that. So understand if you get what a man who he needs laws of power That's no different than these other men who doing these different You know tips and strategies the wool woman you're gonna get What you don't want trust me just get you a honest genuine Secure man who is securing who he is and he can operate from that and he don't need all these Different little laws and strategies to try to look like a man or be more than what he is and the wool people Ex cheated and got a girl Pray I am a virgin and we plan to wait until marriage. I blocked him I still wish he would reach out somehow to apologize, but he hasn't will he ever reach out? Um, don't hold your breath. Do not hold your breath. He may never You got to move on with your life. You got to give yourself closure You got to realize that He don't deserve you and this what y'all have to understand you've you've read this before that rejection is protection And so Oh, okay, Reese. I see what you're talking about the bills In your address you ask him to change Them from your address since y'all broke up you ask him to change from your address to wherever he is But he changed some He probably changed them all but some just still coming to you because they ain't updated in the system Or they had already sent the bill before he updated it or he changed the ones He remembered a new how to change and didn't change the other one So you can't really get too caught up in all the details there And then the mail came and then you opened it and looked at it and saw Her on there that could also be a reason he let that one come to you So you could see what you need to see to know Get that little steam and so sometimes being very petty when you try to Muscle a man you try to up a man you try to do all that. He said, okay. I'm finna get you Take that. I know your nose. I know you finna open this mail. He'll get your eye full of this So that's what that's all that is. Don't don't don't don't look too deep into it Um, you need god bless you for that blessing now listen He may very well reach out what you can't worry about and you can't wait on him So understand that the next thing you got to do is you got to give yourself closure You're gonna have to give yourself closure Because what you have to understand that rejection is your protection So what that means is is that The very thing that he did he cheated and Got another girl pregnant what that shows you Is that he is a slap dog He ain't no good He he Like the linen in your pocket So that's what you have to understand and you saving yourself And you waiting until marriage and he step out and do that and not just do that but go all the way to have To reproduce with the other woman that show you he liked this right here This how big he is and so Two inch tall man, you know Not worth your time not worth a lifelong commitment And the thing about it he might not be sorry about it. So you can't wait on apology. You got to realize Lord, thank you. I dodged the bullet you spared me. I didn't know what was good for myself Didn't know what I deserved who I was and was entertaining Somebody that was a distraction that was gonna derail my life my purpose. Thank you for protecting me. Let me move on He text me. I really miss you My name But I really don't think we'll ever see eye to eye. I told you I feel like I feel that everything to you And that hasn't changed What should I do you leave him right there? Just leave him right there, you know, he That's some reverse psychology. That's some, you know trying to What dr. Gary Chapman calls manipulation by guilt, you know, trying to make you feel sorry for him You know, oh, I feel like I feel it everything.  That's the purpose of that message to stop you on your tracks Send you a mixed signal how you stuck how you wondering and you like, what should I do? Keep it moving. You can go on about your business. Just keep it moving And and go on and he's telling you right there what this message means in manglish. It means It means listen don't want to be with you We're not compatible So I can't be exclusive and all in with you But if you'll stay stuck Then like a duck Then we can Be friends with benefits. I'll put you on the roster and you could be My sixth woman coming off the bench That's what that message means So you got to understand that a man need to be all in and all out now see when I finish talking I'm gonna scroll up to the question that's right the last question So because I'm doing all this scroll and I'll be the cut the whole video off on y'all All this is scrolling. I keep about cutting the video off trying to scroll 30 talk daily 37 year old For eight months long distance both divorced with kids last three months only text daily with small talk Last three months only text daily With small talk I asked for more talks and now it Decrease says he's not talking to anyone and wants relationship.  God bless you sis Come on now Come on now y'all y'all don't do me like this now y'all ask y'all ask me lord. Come on now I'm trying to do your work lord Sis Y'all long distance. Okay I'll talk to you about these summer videos about the long distance long distance with a man I need everybody to understand this Long distance with a man is never real It is never real and the reason why i'm gonna say never because if I say It's rarely y'all gonna hold out for that iota a percentage what tony said it is It tony said it is 99 point Nine nine nine nine nine nine nine nine percent of the time not real But That means that point zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero one It's real and that's the man that I got girl. He is that point zero zero zero zero zero one Listen, it's never real if it's long distance. It is never real And i'm gonna say never just so he got to go to the moon and bite to prove that it's real Listen man Do you wrong in front of you?  He looked like what you think jesus looked like He sweat olive oil, which is what we use for the anointing oil Okay, he speak in scripture in king jane version.   Oh, yeah You'll be like, oh, okay. Okay. I'm gonna I'm gonna stay on in here. Listen Y'all got The cut this out When a man want you Tip let me tell y'all this right when a man want you you don't have to ask nobody Um, she needs things to trying to help de andria out. She's been Trying to get her question. Hey god bless you now count that nine that ten dollars. You just bless me with Count that as ties and offerings because you didn't even ask a question Count that as ties and offerings. Let me help y'all understand what I do with my ties and all so if everything can't be given to the church because If I see the pastor find two minute calls Then I become the ministry and I say, okay lord Where you want this blessing to go because I see pastor Keep trying to buy a new car every time I look up. So lord, where you because this blessing ain't getting where it need to go Lord, you know my 10 percent substantial. So lord, where you want this 10 percent to go? So I am a ministry I become the ministry and I bless and I keep track of my 10 percent And I give 10 percent of my gross earnings not my net my gross So that right there that $10 you just gave trying to help de andria add that to your ties Because that is a hundred dollar tithe that you just gave because that's $10 add that to your tithe because you helping your sister and I Now de andria i'm trying to find your message now, but when people pop up there with a little blessing I got to pay attention to it up there now Thanks for answering the question be blessed. Can you please do a video on tops family members in relationships? It ought to be good, but you know what that word that you just said the t word is actually Not allowed On this here network. So when you say when I say that or if I put that in a title So sometimes when y'all look at my video and you say tonic, um, this title Didn't really fully go with that video.   God bless you. Thank you for popping and nothing. Now de andria I'm gonna find you now de andria just post your message again And when y'all see de andria post y'all don't post nothing so I could see it Oh this right here de andria Maybe this is saying de andria now unless there's somebody else now De andria god bless you now. You showed on up and showed on out Okay, you see what you had to do to get on in here because the comments were flying on me Remember god texts all day every day Wants to spend more time with me, but my schedule is busy. He's consistent Willing to wait said he doesn't plan on going anywhere Your advice since he doesn't really call Okay So you busy, but you don't have a whole lot of time to be texting So this what you need to do you need to look at his schedule and you need to Find his schedule And then you need to look at your schedule and then you need to see where y'all can fit where y'all could talk in that schedule If y'all can't talk if you're scheduling his schedule and y'all can't find no time to talk That means y'all unequally yoke That ain't that ain't the work of the lord the lord ain't author of confusion y'all Not meant to be now. This is the other question what you need to ask some other question that you need to ask is Is he gainfully employed? Okay, if he makes If he has a job How much what kind of job is it and how does that compare to your job? So if you make twice or three times what he makes Now him being willing to wait now, you don't know if this is pure and authentic If that's not the case then it could be pure and authentic The other thing what you've got to realize is You have to understand that A man We want what We don't have We what we want what we don't have So what that means is is you have to be able To understand that when you're not that available that a man going to want you more Because now you become a prize and guess what how somebody mentioned the 48 Laws that's actually one of them like to be it's sort of kind of one of them to kind of be Unreachable to kind of be distant to be short with people like Say less say less than what you're supposed to say So that actually makes you more attractive to him than always being available And he always could you know put his thing on you. He always can have all of your time So that's what you got to understand now is what y'all telling me That fitness mom ain't even the one who had the question So y'all really want that question? Y'all want that question answer, huh? Will in the way said he doesn't plan on going anywhere your advice So, yeah, you need to find somebody Y'all need to find a time that y'all could talk And and then in the time that you could talk you need to make sure he willing to call And if he's not willing to call then move on with your life Because understand this just like I told y'all long distance relationships are not real for a man It might be real for the woman any real for the man 99.9.9 or 99.99% of the time So just like long distance ain't real text is not real Text is not real because when a man texting you he could be texting four other women at the same time and the time that it takes for him to Text you back. You just think It's natural time.  You think he typing and then he's responding to the to the other to the other one So that's why text ain't real. Another thing with text is The answers could be inauthentic because they could be coming from someone somebody else. It's home. Hey, she said this I should have responded this But because I used to do that. I used to be the ghost. I used to be the ghost text her For people. Oh, that's oh, that's what she said. All right. Say this back So you got to understand that Adam from Genesis knew that Eve was his wife when he saw her but did Eve know I would love your tape um Red bone y'all really just you know, that's something to where You know y'all just going too deep in the theology Yes, Eve knew and yes, Adam knew because they was the only two humans There was only two humans So Eve knew she wanted there for the goat and Adam knew she wanted there That he wanted there for the cow.  It's also parables So once you start doing that with one you'll be doing that with everything and You've got to realize this comes from a whole another language. Some words didn't even translate over So you that's why that's why I say serve God in spirit and in truth Not in not in reading and comprehension It say serve him in spirit and in truth because God is a spirit I am five years older than my boyfriend I am 26. He is 21 Do you think it will work out? We are both christian. We have been together three weeks He is black american and I am persian um if Are y'all in the same city? That's the next question. I'll ask you. Are y'all in the same city? Now and what you got to understand? What you got to understand?  It's like a persian rub. Okay You know why everybody want them a persian rub or indian rub It's exotic. They don't want a florida rub. They don't want no california rub. They want a Indian rug a persian rug. So that's what you gotta realize. That's the first thing So the next thing is so that's a notch in the belt The next thing is you five years older. That's another notch in the belt A man who that young who 21 He want to be able to touch him something that's five years older So that's another thing. So what this means is it don't mean that it can't work It means you got to take your time It means you got to take your time You got to read the signs And somebody else just gave him another good point 21. He may not be mature enough. That's a third thing A man life don't start till he 25 years old anything he do before 25. It don't even count So at 21 He might not even know what he won't now. I met my wife at 21 but Look at the maturity that I live and operate with so that shows you that I was happened to be cut from a different cloth at that time I was still immature, but I had maturity in me So you got to be able to look at him and see if you sense A level of maturity that sets him apart from his peers Okay, y'all live in the same city. Y'all got a good shot Y'all got a good shot. Hey y'all. Hey y'all hold on Naka the question piling up on hold on because y'all popping in with the blessing. God bless y'all for the blessing. Thank you Tony is it vital to be on social media when I'm in a relationship with a man who has social media? Will he see the opportunity to cheat by DMing or liking other women's picks outside of business Yeah, it'd be good to be on social media now you on social media here You you here on social media. So you might as well you on youtube You might as well have your instagram might as well have your facebook everybody will have social media just to be Connected in the world. You don't have to go on there all the time But you never know Like you wouldn't know me if I wasn't on social media, you know, I transition into what I'm doing from the street life So social media wasn't even really being used by the guys that I was around Anybody use social media because that's how you leave a footprint and get caught up So it was something that I was like like I had a friend from from high school That was like hey man, you need to join this thing called twitter and then after that He's like hey man, you need to um get a facebook page And then after that he was like hey and my wife was like hey you need to get on instagram And so everybody else pushed me on social media So you never know what could for one can happen with social media, but for two You go on and send them that friend request now. He see you on there now.  No question.  I'm not caring heart So when y'all laugh at me That's because you got a good sense of humor. You just your spirit in the right place because sometimes y'all be laughing I'm like, what's y'all laughing at?  Thank you bless you Now y'all got some good job now we in We in a A downtime y'all y'all sending even blessing y'all some good jobs and credit cards Y'all still spending the tax refund Hey, whatever it may be. I see the lord got a blessed tribe here for real Every guy I talked to only lasts for two weeks to a month I am starting to think I have a curse over me Everyone thinks I joke when I say I can't seem to find a good man because I'm a good woman Should I give up on dating I'll be honest with you When you give up on dating might be when you meet your husband Because when when you stop looking as a woman, that's typically when you get found Because again when you look and you actively looking A man might look at you and it looked like your tongue hanging out your mouth Even though your tongue and hanging out your mouth a man could see Desperation frustration A man could see all of that. So when you stop looking and you focusing on your purpose You write your book you start your company you start your blog you build your brand you whatever it is you're doing Typically love gonna find you when you too busy to be looking for it That's when because when you get into that space, that's actually when you look more attractive See y'all got to remember one thing about the story from Ruth and Ruth and boas Is Ruth was in the field working. She went she see it was women sitting on a cone With a ledge cross trying to look cute Boas walked right past them when he came out to his field. He asked the man. Hey, who is that out there? Out there working Out here in the hot sun out here sweating The world what the world going on who it is I ain't seen her and he was like, oh, that's rude. She in town with on Naomi and her husband Dead and so she out here working and boas was like, what? Okay, I like that I'm finna sit her down And he went that's when you get too busy. That's when you look more attracted to a man D'andrea brown just like the other person who says she too busy to text with the man and he keep trying to talk talk talk talking She's like her schedule too busy.  I ain't going nowhere. That's a tractor to a man I love the blessed ride perfect name tony for a perfect group of positivity tony, thank you for allowing your calling by god. Hey D'andrea bless you bless you I really appreciate it. Lord gave me that the blessed ride. I don't know how he Lord dropped in my spirit It must was was ordained. That's why I ain't start no second group yet Because a second tier because I don't know what to call it because the blessed tribe just seemed so right On the Memberships they tell you to have four different levels Like one ninety nine four ninety nine nine ninety nine nineteen ninety nine But see I come from the struggle and I know One ninety nine doesn't cost me Thirty five dollar fee So that's why I made the blessed ride one ninety nine And that's why I tell y'all put it on your credit card because if your credit card ain't gonna ain't got it It's gonna reject it your bank might accept that one ninety nine If you ain't got it in there now you paying 25 on top of it Now you got to be calling on youtube line talking about it was an unauthorized charge So you could get that that fee reverse So that's why I I made it like this y'all so that Anybody in a mama can afford it without having to miss a meal And age thanks how to break things off Should I give him all tomato?  So with that right there you just send him a text. Hey This isn't I feel like we're both wasting our time and I don't want to hold you up and I don't want to block my blessings So I would rather us let this situation go all together. You go your way. I go mine now when you do that Now not ten times he gonna Put his foot on the gas and he coming hard He gonna come hard But you can't you can't pay that any attention because he already had a chance Now he coming now. It's a game now. It's a challenge now.  Hold on now. Y'all plenty question too many questions in here. It's going too fast for me Lord Tracy trace. I see it. I think you were caught in the patient had a soul tie No With a married Had a soul tie with a married college friend married College friend he claimed he divorced Strong connection but stopped talking because of feelings and it wasn't right ghosted him still social media friends was our own Um No, you weren't wrong if he if y'all didn't have anything if y'all weren't together If y'all weren't like an item to where you owe him an explanation or that you should give him Some closure or that you moving on didn't know you weren't wrong But if it's bothering you and you feel like it means something to him or he's still trying to reach out Then yes, you could just say listen. It's not right. It's not gonna work. It's not it's not meant to be I don't want to be in the way in this here, you know Triangle situation. I'm just going to remove myself. So so you could flourish and I could do the same Question rephrasing co-parenting with toxic X and dealing with him Manipulating our young son By risking See this all here too many this uh Else the less you need uh, you need coaching all this. There's too many words. There's too many What I I told you about the certain words on here Even even that what you said double ed that word all that'll get my video Taking down that's they they've been on me. They've been on me because it's too much truth out here You feel me? So what you got to realize with what this right here what I'm sharing They have human review On here So the person reviewing it. I'm stepping on his toes He's sitting at Google. He like, you know what? Demonetize you you know what? I'm removing this you mean This what my girlfriend's been watching. You know what? Hey guys listen, okay? Okay, I'm here in Palo Alto. This guy Tony cast I'm reviewing his videos personally And that's what they're doing. I'm telling y'all that's what they're doing to him because it's too real It's too much truth in him man. See this Stepping on his toes. You hear me?  He said a word Got it Taking off youtube up demonetizing and I saw a guy Who he was frustrated with how many of his Videos was taken down he went and found a list and they got 1500 words That if you say One of those 1500 words Scoop Because I've been seeing it. I'm like man.  You've got to hold your ground and you just got to show it So don't don't suggest too much. Sometimes just do what you know is right. Do what you need to do and Go ahead about your business Get that out of phone 11 a I need to get that out from 11 All right, let me show you not this right here.  Lady lia business Saturday really blessed me now Now I know what my nonprofit is and the name of my book Will book a session with you soon. Hey, God bless you if you if you was able to come up with your nonprofit And come up with the title of your book off that video Then the video did its job and it did more than I expected to do it And I thank you for sitting down and doing the work because that's a blessing God is breaking the spirit of pride of my future husband explain a man's pride A man's pride that's something you almost can't explain a man's pride is something that's so So deep so real it is one of the most Serious things you ever gonna come in contact with That right there will go to a man's pride to go to the end the world of back and be wrong Be wrong is two left shoes And will not come Down off of that stance That's something right there that You got to pray on and that you can't entertain that you can't play with it You you got if you see a man who he that's where he operates from Get gone you said that a guy shouldn't tell you if he's getting to know other Females, but if he is and ends up also getting to know your buddy Should someone be upset? How is this supposed to work? um well I didn't say that He shouldn't tell you what y'all did say he shouldn't tell you meaning that if he's serious about you He is not going to tell you it's not that he shouldn't tell you But if he's serious about you, he's not going to tell you But this what you can assume that he is But when it is confirmed to you that he is you know how they say what you don't know Won't hurt you when it is confirmed That he is talking to someone else. That's when you could say Okay I'm out of here because I don't compete and I know you talking to such and such. I can't do this I'll see you later and then you can move on with your life when it's confirmed That he's talking to other people Now if you don't know for a fact then all you can do is is assume that that he is Y'all gotta turn the light back off the light Got me sweating friend has been With a known guy. Hey, this is my last question. I got to get going now. Been an hour. I ain't realized I've been on your hour Friend has been with a known guy one month Guy loved bomb me, but hasn't been consistent. He says it's because she does things that make him not trust her She already spread. I told her You would say run Well, that's your friend question Now first you need to make your friend join the bless tribe if she go if she trying to get some questions in Now two you'll have to fast forward to the 63 minute mark on this video So she could see it and And get her answer Now this the thing one month And she already been spread eagle And one month Has been with a known guy one month and one month. He hasn't been consistent Listen to this a relationship that turns into marriage is a lifelong commitment So if a man can't be consistent for one month If he can't be consistent for one month You don't have a chance of him being consistent for a lifetime The other thing is is that men when you I told y'all about this stay off your bike now When you are here like this He is judging you whether you think is right or wrong whether you think it's fair or not You're getting judged. So what you got to realize is that when you on your bike Especially inside a one month what that means. This is what you have to understand.  He's not being consistent because He already got the prize and he was just getting down in the blocks You know, it's and I I wrote this. I think I put this in hill In uh one is influence make sure y'all um Pre-order that there now It's it's like this when when you get on your bike real fast what that's like for a man It's like He getting ready to run a race He's stretching. He's doing a little leg shake. He doing the leg shake.  Here's your gold medal Put it on his neck and he like Huh, what what you mean? We ain't even ran the rate What what what you doing? That's what it's like When you get on your bike too soon and you That's what it's like because he had he you give him the prize and he ain't even did nothing So now in his mind, you got to understand averages when you get with him in one month Guess what that means? That means you average 12 men a year Men also on average feel Less than So what that means is he's not giving him Self credit as mac daddy player for the Himalayas. He's saying listen. I'm just another dude You know and and she doing this for me. What about buddy who come up swagger with the raggle You know got all the drip hop if I if I'm there inside of a month then he there on the first night So if she meet that many good men that mean 365 men a year You see I'm saying now it don't sound realistic not to you But a man don't give a woman the benefit of the doubt He gonna take and give you the worst case scenario that he can give you when he just met you So when you slip up When you slip and fall On your back You need to get up and keep moving Get up and go on about your business. Hey keely. God bless you. Bless you God bless Lord poor.  Thank you all so much for the love and support For those of y'all in the bless tribe for the new members who joined tonight For those of you who didn't get to join but you were watching the link in the description If you want to join the bless tribe so you can ask a question And I really appreciate you. You know what? I'm gonna grab Miriam right here because I know how that feel when you're trying to hit your buzzer beater Man, you keep missing it So this did my last question Why would a guy that says he is interested in you Would show you the DM he gets from other women He says is to show me he's an open book Now I learned this right here from my daddy right when I was growing up my daddy was was was talking to me I was talking to him one time because it was a young lady. He said Who she would always tell me When a man would try to talk to her And I went and asked my daddy I say why she always tell me this man try to talk to this man try to talk to her And he say listen here He said I'm gonna tell you like my daddy told me now this three generation He said I'm gonna tell you like my daddy told me He said you tell her stop telling you When the man try to talk to her because when the man that she won't say something to her She ain't gonna say a word to you So that's what that right there is When little ugly in his deal He's gonna show you because what that is is he trying to fake bill trust He trying to fake bill trust because it gets you from this right here To this right here And when you go from this right here to this right here That's what you get So when a man do that he trying to get you to drop them guards because you like oh Wow, he is so transparent.  So he wants you to drop your guard So that when he get reckless you won't be looking for nothing and searching because he already done showed you some stuff So that's what you got to understand about that. That's why we do that The other reason why people do that is because of insecurity Women do what men do it and what that insecurity is doing I always say never let your insecurity speak for you But what that Insecurity is doing is saying hey Other people want me other people want me other people want me. So you need to want me Other people want me. So you need to want me more You need to work for me. You need to chase me You need to you know bow down to me You need to want to be with me because other people want me And that's why they'll show you somebody that's in the DM And i'ma tell you this one thing about women That I don't learn as a man the woman that Shoot her shot in the DM I've never seen her be worth anything It is not it ain't worth a conversation And I always realize this because of the woman that I married And I always check and I always could say okay. Well, my wife ever do this The answer no and I remember asking my wife, you know I asked her questions and and I could tell when she lying because when she lying her chest Her chest beat fast I could tell when she lying but I asked I said, hey, would you ever do that? What's she doing? And she went what no absolutely not And I know she went because I know she didn't do that when I met her I know she wasn't that type of person The shoot no shot to take the initiative trying to chase me trying to court me trying to all this and that She let me do for her and then she reciprocate equally Not greater equally And so the the women that I see in the DM Ain't worth the time of day.  So when the woman chasing him, he like, uh That's not even attracted to a man A man want to be able to chase that woman like the man chasing the sister who ain't got the time that we saw earlier Hey, God bless y'all. I went over 12 minutes tonight We'll talk soon being that we on this here situation I'll probably be find some time to be on here tomorrow And and while we in this situation praying for all y'all be safe be healthy be smart Somebody even calls around me. I'm Running, you know, man had to come by my house today. I almost had him a mask and some gloves So y'all be saving careful what I'm what I plan to do is post a video Each day around noon and then try to do it live at night if I can Lord willing since since y'all sitting still and might not have to get up and go to work Hey, God bless you. We'll talk soon


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How are y'all doing? Girl, let me put on some lipstick or something. What am I doing? Okay. This is Midnight Blue by Milani. In the middle with a purple. I mean a pink. Oh my God.   Let me try to kind of fill in my brows. What y'all been up to? Huh? Hot mess. Why did I do that? All right y'all. Look, I'm gonna be honest with y'all. This is gonna be very candid. One of my not honest. I have not felt like recording anything. I have not felt like recording hair videos, chit chat, vlogging. I have, I really haven't felt like doing anything at all. My previous video was very impromptu because I did have an appointment. I was like, let me just turn on the camera so cause I need to put something out. Of course I have a calendar content of scheduled stuff that I supposed, I'm supposed to film, but I have not felt like it. And I'm not gonna apologize.   I have not felt like it honestly. I haven't. It's a lot going on at home. It's a lot going on in the world. A lot going on in Phoenix, Arizona. People are upset about wearing masks or having bushfires. I mean, it's been so much compound in the past three or four months. I was so funny. I had a one on one with my manager today and I told her, you know, I said, I felt like, I have felt like these past three or four months has been a year. It has been so much has happened and that small amount of time, you know what I mean? That it felt, it felt like a whole year has gone on, has passed. But we're just half of the year. So I'm trying to remain optimistic, y'all. I'm trying to remain positive, but it is so hard when there's so much chaos going around. It's really important doing this time to have a quiet time to sit and reflect. This is me talking out loud. You don't have to listen if you don't want to. But I find that it's very important to take the time to reflect and to think about some things because even though the world is going crazy right now, God's word still stands, okay? And we have to ask believers, if you are a believer, we have to stand on God's word at the end of the day. So enough of that. Let's just jump right into this. What do we know of my hair? First of all, let me tell you something. I have been ordering a lot of stuff. Don't ignore whatever you see back there that's not. Okay, let me show you something. Hold on, y'all. Okay, so, no, look, honestly, seriously. So remember somebody, Walgreens had this buy one, get one free, I think. Something like that, okay? So listen, let me tell you, what had happened was I had ordered some stuff through Walgreens, right? I got it a couple of days ago. I opened it up and it's a styler. I don't want the styler. I want this, the pre shampoo that I reviewed for y'all. It is so hard to find this stuff, y'all. Like, I, it sold out. Wherever I look, eBay, Amazon, Walgreens, it is sold out. So I'm returning that styler I haven't used it. I don't want to use it. I heard it doesn't have that, it has mixed reviews. So I don't need a lot of styling products. I need some of this. I need this crack. So I'm returning that. What am I talking about? I'm just telling you what I purchased, what have came in. So that's packed away. I'm returning that. I took my nails off because it was too bulky. Really too bulky. I have one peaky one still on. She's taking forever to come off. Instead, I am letting my nail bits breathe a little bit and I will reapply my tips with the dip powder and another two weeks or so, okay? So what I got through eBay, $15, which is a deal. I got through eBay, I'm sorry, DND, DC. Look at this color. Okay, I see that. Look at that color. Look at that. You really, really can't see this. Let me see.  Excuse me, excuse my language, y'all. This is called Maple Orchage. Orchage? Maple? Or is it Canadian Maple? Girl, I think it's Canadian Maple. That's what I think this is. I like the bright orange slash red colors. So y'all, with my hair, my hair is thriving. Oh, let me show y'all something else I bought. Look at these earrings. Girl, don't this remind you, you know that you remind me of a girl that I once knew. Is that, I don't know. But this is cute, right? Reminds you of the 80s. I'm not 80s. I'm 90s. Really, really cute. I don't know where I want to wear that too, but I got it. So my hair has been thriving. It feels great. Now I will say this. Let me adjust the lights some y'all. Now, now, now you can see it. Very, very shiny because of the leaving condition I've been using. Now I will say this. As I've been washing it, it has been feeling better. Now, I can't remember what products I used last wash day. I'm trying to stay consistent, okay? But I noticed when I washed out the shampoo and I was going in with the conditioner and when I washed it out, it didn't feel as great as the last wash day. So I don't know what's going on, but I'm there. It's feeling a lot better. Those of you who don't know, I feel like I'm experiencing protein overload. It is feeling a lot better. So what I'm gonna be doing in this video is going through and spraying my hair and applying a little bit of this pre shampoo. I ain't got hardly none of this stuff left. This is a joke. So anyway, y'all, y'all know how we do it. We talk about what's in these YouTube streets. We talk about what I've been watching and we discuss, let me take off this watch. And we discuss what's going on in my personal life. We're gonna talk about personal life first because I have a feeling my child's gonna interrupt me. I locked him out the room. Y'all, JB. Everybody's gaining weight. Kids included. JB has gained about five pounds. And I noticed it in his cheeks because his cheeks are full now. And I'm just messing with him. I weighed him and he's gained about five pounds. But y'all, I started laughing because I looked up his BMI on the CDC calculator to tell my, your child is overweight. I'm like, what, the CDC just called my baby fat. No, ma'am. Are you guys sorry?  Battery's low. And so it's been a couple of hours. I'm back on. I don't remember where I stopped off. I believe. Girl, excuse the background. I believe we were talking about personal life. So, y'all, y'all, not much going on.  So, oh, I'm gonna kind of pre-prove but we'll see what happens. Y'all, I feel like my hair, I'm gonna stop complaining about my hair but I just feel like it's at a standstill. And honest to God, I have felt like it's been this way for like three years or so. So, my child has to holy ghost. All right, y'all. So, yeah, I'm trying to finish up with I'm in the middle of continuing getting my things ready for the next school year for homeschool. I already know what curriculum I'm gonna be using. I will be using online a time for learning spectrum and just a couple of workbooks that I've gotten together. Along with, you know, just going with the flow, I tend to be a very, very organized person when it comes to stuff like this. And I was getting really, really like, okay, what type of applications or what type of spreadsheet can I get to help me to track stuff? Girl, I'm not doing that. Not for the first year, not for my first time homeschooling. I will literally take a three-ring binder and jot down everything we do daily. Now, attendance, I have worksheets and all that less than plans. I have a worksheet or excuse me, a planner, which I'll be writing things down. I do have a library online. Sorry, y'all. I have an app I've been using to track our, what am I trying to say? The books we'll be using. And so, I was able to scan everything in. And we're good. We have like, girl, do I want to homeschool you? No, I do. I have over 50 educational books. And that includes workbooks, resources, you know, stuff like that. So I'm good. I'm good. And I know things will change. And so I'm trying to remain open and flexible. Besides that, girl, let me tell you something.  First of all, no one told me at damn near 40 that when you try to, all 100, now 175 pounds of this body, try to jump. Great timing, right? JB always has the great timing. Why is he so, like I said, 175 pounds of this jump, jump roping. You talk about a full body worker. I can't do that. I will have no ankles, no knees, no calves, no hips. I did it, like for two days and I was done. I said, I'm not doing this. I'm not jump roping. We really can't go out. I was walking outside, but we can't do that too much because the allergies are so bad right now.  Sorry, y'all, I need to get on the treadmill and just, you know, walk for 30 or 40 minutes and I'll be good. So yeah. Besides that, y'all, home life is good. Like I said, a little stressed out. We had some fires going on in the neighborhood, not in the neighborhood, but in our area within 10 miles. And so it is taking it one day at a time, okay? So girl, what am I watching on YouTube? So y'all, from what I understand, what is her name? Latoya Forever is getting a divorce. That's just really sad. And do they have two children? I believe they have two small children. How long have they been married? I believe it's seven or eight years, together nine years. She posted on Instagram. That's just really disheartening. You know, we've had this conversation before. Do we have to do it again? People are getting divorced and their relationships are not on social media. You know, you're not filming every day. You're not vlogging.  So, really, really sad. I feel bad for the children when any of this happens. I really do. I mentioned in why I am kind of mentioning in an upcoming vlog about a family. Y'all, people are going crazy. There are, nah, I shouldn't say that. I don't want to use that type of language. This is a very stressful time for a lot of us, okay? Anyone who already has underlying mental issues, relationship issues, issues with people living in their house, now you're all together. And so there are a lot of incidents, a lot of domestic abuses increasing. I didn't even mention this because I didn't want to go there. My husband told me about a couple of cases out in Texas when we first had to get quarantined at the end of March of children dying at the hands of their parents. People are losing their minds. It is absolutely horrible. So just last week, I heard of a YouTube family that is no longer with us. Now I didn't know of the family, but they had a little over 25, 20,000 followings, which is a big deal in my opinion. A family husband and wife, African American, apparently he shot the wife, killed himself, killed the mother-in-law, and shot like a family friend or something. The husband and wife were separated. The YouTube channel is called The Meyers, The Meyers or Mayors Effect. Very, very sad, because now those children are left without a family, parents, a grandmother, just a sad situation all around. When something like that happens, a murderous suicide, you often wonder what was that person thinking. You never know what's going on behind closed doors, y'all, so that's just really, really sad that those children have to go through that. Sorry, I lost my train of thought again. It's just really, really sad about that. On to some brighter news who I've been looking at on YouTube, y'all. I don't know how this got into my recommendation. Girl, when I was bored doing my hair last week, the recommendation for an African hair god watching Send Dolls videos, y'all, why did I watch that video again? The video where she is detangling the baby's hair, she has since taken that video down. I'm not subscribed to Send Doll anymore only because, and I was a subscriber, I was subscribed to her before I was up to African hair god. And the only reason why I'm not, well, why not, because I don't want to be, but I noticed that there's this almost, I don't disagree or agree with her honestly, but she comes off as condescending in her comments, not very genuine, and maybe that was just something she was going through at that time. And so I don't agree with all of her methods, but I don't have to, you know what I mean? So, but anyway, I was just watching his video again where she was breaking down the hydrogen bonds too. I was like, oh lord, I can't deal with it. So anyway, that's old news, old, old, old news. I've been watching, going back and watching some of these smaller YouTubers, y'all, I like smaller YouTubers, you know what I mean? Seababe, her name is Seababe.  She's an older YouTuber. She's over 40, I think she may be over 45. A very humbling spirit, very sweet, always smiling and just very, just a very sweet woman. But anyway, her name is Seababe.  Yeah, I'm so over it. We did Thomas the train. We, damn, man, we did Thomas the train.  Now we on Legos. He turned the DNA to a dang on Kmart. You know how many times I hear welcome Kmart shoppers? No, he would say attention Kmart shoppers. So, besides JB acting crazy, look at this hair. I'm going in between this green Apple conditioner. What? I'm watching on TV, y'all. Blah, blah, blah. I'm watching the South African. Oh no, I'm done, girl. The South African series, Blood and Water. Now yes, girl, thank you for giving me the heads up that it was quite a bit of sex stuff going on. You know, I feel like, to show it's called Blood and Water. Let me back up, Blood and Water on Netflix. I feel like this, where's my flip flop? I feel like this show is catered towards young adults, teenagers. Cause for a while there, I was like, how old are they supposed to be? Cause they're doing a lot. Yeah, I was a good girl in school. I'm sorry, I didn't do all that retchiness. And I know that's common for young kids, high schoolers and young adults, but I was not like that. I was, yeah, I wasn't really, now I am, but. So, it was good. It's about this young high school girl who feels like she found her, let me back up. She had a sister that was kidnapped or trafficked. And she goes to this house party and she feels like the girl at the party may be her sister. So, during the entire series, she's trying to determine whether or not this girl is truly her sister. So yeah, I had some heavy scenes in it for a while. I almost stopped watching it because I was like, oh, this is too much, this is too much. But I finished it and I was like, yes, I'm ready for season two now. I'm watching this young girl getting dropped off with no mask on. Okay, let me stop it. All right, y'all, so. Finished Fargo, loved it. Y'all, I love black humor. I absolutely love it. Now, what's gonna try to get into season two, and it has to have actor, what is his name? Michael something? The black guy from Jason Lyriks. Jason's ratchet brother, his little brother, the one that shocked the daddy. Yeah, he's placed in season two. So, season two of Fargo is set like in the 70s or something. I may have to watch it because I heard season two was good. Fargo is on, is it on Hulu? I don't remember, y'all. I canceled HBO because I'm not watching it. I'm not watching anything on HBO. Instead, I got Amazon Prime. I may have to cancel that, too. But I feel like, you know what? I feel like, how many streaming apps do we need to watch what we wanna watch? It's really frustrating. So, right now I have Amazon Prime, I canceled Netflix. No, no, no, no. I canceled HBO. I have Netflix, Hulu. Hulu is just $7. And I do watch Hulu. Oh, and then I have Sling. I've also watched a movie on HBO before I canceled it. At Astria, I've always been wanting to watch this movie. It starts Brad Pitt, y'all. Brad Pitt, the last time I found Brad Pitt Fine was in Meet Joe Black. Brad Pitt has not aged 12. Angelina Jolie has done a number on him.  You know what I mean? You'll get deep stress wrinkles. He just hasn't aged 12. He just hasn't. I mean, he's an older gentleman, but he, anyway. So, it's a movie about an astronaut who goes out into space to look for his father in an attempt to save the world. Very similar to Intercellier. But girl, do not watch this movie if you are already depressed. It is not one of those. It's basically about a broken-ass man going out into space looking for what daddy issues. I'm like, this is so, and left me even more depressed when the movie ended. Not gonna give any spoilers, but I prefer Intercellier. Although Intercellier is one of those movies with Matthew McConaughey, that's one of those movies where I could probably watch three or four times ever in my life. It is that emotional. Yeah, I know how I feel about, man. He be getting my nerves. Why am I watching y'all, girl? The most ratchet stuff. I don't know why. I got a recommendation. Okay, so I was watching Fatal Attraction, right? I got back on that. Then I started watching Fatal Vowels. Then I got a little recommendation. I have been getting one for a while for this show called Couples Court. I'm like, I'm not watching this. Girl, I watch one, two, three hours later. Couples Court is the most, you don't wanna talk about these people. You know what's so sad, y'all. I don't know if this stuff is scripted or what, but a lot of these people getting to relationships already broken. Then they started having kids. But y'all, they're coming home on there with their evidence. And I like the husband and wife team with the cutlers. I like them. They're funny. They're very sweet. So started watching that. Then I started watching Paternity Court. I'm like, oh Lord, I can't do this. So I'm gonna stick to Couples Court because it's interesting. It's very interesting what? Even if it is scripted, it's still very interesting. Oh, then I started looking at, I tried to see how I could look at old episodes of Brasila. Y'all, I can't find them. I mean, old like season three, season four on it. There's a YouTuber who used to be on Brasila, y'all. What is her name? Martina. I think her YouTube channel is named like Martina Brasila. She ended up being like, I don't wanna call her a weather girl cause that's inappropriate. Like a, what do you call? She ended up being on the news and stuff like that, y'all. So, yeah. So anyway, and you know what? It's kind of scripted because she said that she kinda had mentioned a couple of years ago, this is Martina, the YouTuber who was on the show. She really was not that mean. She was annoying on the show, but she wasn't mean, not compared to some of the other women. And so she literally said that they asked them certain questions and stuff like that. We know most of these shows are scripted. I worked with someone whose daughter was on Flavor of Love 2 and she said they had everything. We were watching it and she was, when was she, she was a social worker, right? And she would come on the show, excuse me, she would come into the, this was when I was working for her, I suppose. She would come into the office and tell us what's going on. And so she said, it's all scripted, all scripted. And so what they would do is they would ask the girls, okay, ask the seasons are going on.  Well, she said that her ex, her daughter's ex, wasn't down for it. It's very long, it is about, it does not stretch all the way, but see, it needs to be trimmed because you see that, this right here, I can feel it. So this needs to come off, that right there. I will probably trim my hair in August. I will not be flat ironing my hair. My hair feels better. I feel like I'm about 75% there. When I was, like I stated though early, when I was washing my conditioner out, I felt something still wasn't off. So this wash there will more than likely clarify my hair. I probably won't be filming that cause I'm tired y'all, it's a lot. I will however be filming the TGIN versus the Eating Body Works deep conditioner because those are both protein free. Again, sticking with the protein free products for now. And if a product has protein in it, it's okay. I'm just trying to be aware of how much protein I use it. Now this, that's a hairstyle, girl. All right y'all, I'm going to continue to prep my hair and that is it. Thank you so much for watching. Take care y'all, bye.


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