ne it by themselves. And as you just said, do deserve peace. Why are they not getting peace? We can't talk about that because that is the exception and it's not the rule. That's what I was saying, but the rule is that Black women, when they are married, are usually the higher earners. They are the ones that have the weight of that relationship on their shoulders.  Yes. Okay, so tell me some other rules. Let's talk about them. Because rules set a precedent. Like your expectation is that you will out-earn the man that you get with. Correct? Because that's the rule. Is that rule consistent? When you're with a white man or is it different? I'm saying that when I say rule, I mean that's what tends to happen, the overwhelming majority of the time. The woman is the one that is the main earner. Well, if she was a better woman, she'd attract a better man, right? Well, the thing is that a lot of Black women, they want to be with Black men and they are willing to overlook the income. They don't have high salary requirements for Black men. Everybody, I don't know why y'all say that. Black women do not have these high standards for Black men at all. So why is she complaining about that? Why is she complaining? If she's overlooking it, why is she complaining?  But that's not my point. That's not my point. My point is this. If you're willing- You're asking me why is she complaining? I'm telling you, Black women have done this. Black women have done this. They're not looking to have Black men that earn all of this money. They want to be with the Black men and so they're willing to make concessions. They have made concessions. And I'm saying that they don't necessarily have to. I mean, let's take it out of relationship, right? I was having a conversation the other day with somebody. They were complaining about their job, right? I was like, okay, you have two options.   Maybe you go back to school.  But as long as you stay here, you deserve everything you get. So my first question is, why aren't women willing to compete for the type of man that they're not going to complain about? You couldn't give me an answer. Then I asked you, why are they- What was your answer? I'm sorry. My answer was, I don't think they should be competing for a unicorn. Okay, so they get what they get. But why should black women all fight over a handful of successful black men? Why should we all do that? That's life. Either you're willing to compete. No, it's not. No, it's not. Okay, so you believe people are deserving of the best regardless of who they are. No, no. I think that you need to go where their options are more plentiful. Why would I go somewhere where I don't have any options? But don't you still have to compete even if you go to a certain place? Yes, I'm not saying don't compete. You still have to compete for the man that you won.  It's a desert wasteland, okay? It's like fighting for scraps. So you'd rather women as a collective do that. Why should we all do that for a person that don't even think they have to do anything or be better? Those men are not good.  They're not good men for relationships because they know that all the ball is totally in their court and there's so few men that are like them. So they don't even make good marriage partners.  Maybe he knows you're divested. Maybe that's why. You don't know that. I don't know that. Maybe that's why. But so I guess what's tough is it seems like we have, because let's stop talking about women for a second with men, right? Because I get men who complain, I get men who are saying certain things about women, whether they're valid or not. Bottom line, you have to improve yourself. As you improve yourself, your environments improve the caliber and kind of people that you associate with improve as well. And that's all we're saying to black women. So is it like, so number one, you're right. There's not enough men who are doing good and doing their man job. Cool. With that being said, either you can compete for the, there's not enough Google jobs. There's not enough Facebook jobs. You have the choice either if you really want a Google job, you improve your resume, your cultural disposition to get that job, or you go with the more plentiful option at TJ Maxx. You have, you have a choice. So why are you encouraging women to work at TJ Maxx instead of Google? Because you're trying to make it seem like it's a downgrade, but it's not. It is. It's not. Why, how is it downgrade? The reason is, I'll tell you very clearly, the reason it's a downgrade is the same reason for me, a white woman is a downgrade. There is a, I think of love very practically. And for me, love is primarily about being seen. Right.  She can never fully understand me and the things that inform who I am and what I am as a black man. So it is a downgrade just from that point. A good black woman compared to a good black white woman, not even the same. I take a good black woman every single day of the week and most of the people on my channel would as well. They are also unicorns. So when I'm telling men to do these things to improve themselves is improve yourself so your resume can get you a job at Google. So you don't have to work at TJ Maxx. That white woman, that average white woman is TJ Maxx. Same thing with that average white man. He's TJ Maxx. White people are TJ Maxx. White people are downgrade in general. That's a different conversation. Yes, but that's a different conversation.   I don't think you should go where the options are more plentiful. I think you should improve your resume. I do not think that it is realistic at all because it doesn't matter if every black woman improved their resume. There will still not be enough. There is still a shortage. That's what men are saying too. What about the shortage? What about the shortage? But that's what men are saying too.  There's a shortage. It doesn't matter. Watch your tribe. Wait. And I agree. I agree. I agree. I agree.  There is a shortage. Let me finish. Let me finish. There is a shortage of feminine submissive, no agreeable black women. So if I'm supposed to empathize with your no, why are you unwilling to empathize with mine? Because I'm saying the same exact thing you're saying. We're just using different metrics. Because that is how the proper relationship dynamic, the masculine feminine energy work together. That's how it all works. But break it down for me. I want to understand. When I am with the man that is the man, that he is supposed to empathize with me. I felt like that's what you were saying. Go ahead. Keep going. The way it is not on me. You cannot put the weight of everything on her. And she's responsible for all the bills of the house. And she's responsible for carrying everything and providing everything. And you are supposed, it takes masculine energy. It takes alpha energy to be the head of household. It takes masculine energy to do that. And so, okay.  Correct? It, when I hear these men talk about how other races and women work real hard and they don't complain, it's like y'all don't want to get it. Y'all just go into it. Nah, listen. I'm not the person to have that conversation with because I'm never going to say that. Like you, but you are saying it differently now. But this is what the majority of black men are saying. No, no. Okay, okay. So for the, for the sake, for the sake of the conversation you're having with me, Alan, I'm saying, if a black man does his job, he is deserving for the most of the most feminine, submissive, agreeable black women. Yes.  That's all I wanted you to say. Now, with that being said, for the thousands of men who are doing their job and still not getting that, what's going on? I do not. I just don't do not believe that to be true. No, no. Okay, okay. Okay. If you don't believe it to be true for the sake of argument, just go with me. What might be some other reasons why they're still not getting it? I've heard these reasons because I've heard men all say, well, you know, no, no, no, I don't want you to tell me what you've heard. I'm, as a woman, you have some insight that I don't have, right? I have a, I have a penis. I'm a dude. If I'm doing my job and you're still not kicking back that submission that you're claiming is a consequence of me doing my job, why is that? Why? If she is not being the feminine, and that's the thing. I don't know in what way she's not being feminine. I don't know in what way she's not. You're moving the goalpost. You're moving the goalpost. No, I'm not. I'm, no, I'm telling you that I don't know and I don't, I don't understand like what is what she's.  What would you consider not feminine? I mean, if she's still arguing and fussing and being. Perfect. Let's stay there. So she's, she's still, I'm doing my job. She's still arguing and fussing and being. Nothing makes her happy. Exactly. Then she would be the problem or there's something off with between you and her. Maybe your chemistry is not right. Maybe you weren't meant to be together. I don't know.  Yes, definitely. Some black women could, could be the problem. But what I'm also saying is that there is. Why is there a but there? Why couldn't you just leave that? Simply not enough. Black men have never collectively put black women in a position where we, where you can lead, where you can lead, where you have no black men collectively have never where black women are always the ones that have to lead. We're always the ones that have to do it. Similarly, we've never done that. So I don't similarly, I could say. Similarly, I could say black women have never had the disposition of femininity, even when black men did lead. No, I'm not saying that. Because you never let because you never let though. Black men never led. No, ever. No. So Marcus Garvey means nothing to you. Elijah Muhammad means nothing to you. Martin Luther King, Mary, Frederick Douglass. No, no, no. I'm not talking about those men in particular.  So you're saying to me there's never been a collective of black men who led in spite of circumstances created to exterminate them. You're saying that. I'm saying that there is never. I'm saying that black men. Take your time. Left their position. And left the community for the women to handle and for the women to carry.  Respect. We're still making this out to speak. Respectfully, you started by saying that we shouldn't necessarily consider history as much. But as we've had this conversation, it doesn't seem like you understand it. The history because you're making historical claims without any historical backing. I'm not because I've already said that I don't really think black women should concern themselves too much with the wise and with historical. But you just but you just gave me a why and an inaccurate historical context. You said black men have never that is a why and that's historical. Yes, but because because in this in this part of the conversation, black men today are not leading. And there has never been a time.  And you're not willing to consider the wise to explain every reason why we are. Because I'm sorry. What? Yeah, because you're saying you're saying black men have never led. You're saying black men have never dot, dot, dot. And I've given you examples of those things being untrue, but you still want to stick to it. Like why are you married to this narrative? Harvey, because because this is like, y'all, there. Yes, there have been black men that did things. But you didn't say that at first. Because you started with the idea of black men don't do anything. I said there's never been a time collectively. So the Garveyites, the Garveyites mean nothing.  How has that how has that how did any of those help black men's relationship with black women?  I could I could send you examples, but you have to be willing to like actually read and understand the truth. But it seems like you are committed to this narrative. And my question to you is like, what is the benefit to you to believe that black men have never been men? What do you what do you gain by thinking that? You asked very loaded questions. Absolutely. You asked me very, very loaded questions. Yeah, because I think I think this is deep because it would be one thing if you were saying how black men aren't doing their job, that would be one thing. I think we could deal with that.  And it's like that's not true. And you have nothing to back it up.  No. Again, I'm elaborating on what where your disposition is taking the conversation. So for me, the question I have is like, why are you committed to this narrative that black men are incapable or uninterested or whatever? Like, how does that serve you? Because OK, so like, for example, one of the things that I hear a lot, a lot of black men talking about is how back in the fifties women were just so much more cooperative back then women were just so much easier. The the fifties housewife was the perfect time. Women were less modern. They were more willing to take care of their men.  And they want they want to go back to that. They want they want to go back to the time when women just waited on men hand and foot. You know, that was easier. And my question has always been, when did black men ever make black women collectively suburban housewives in the first place? For you to want to go back to this time period, idolize this time period that black women was not a part of in any way? When did black men ever collectively put black women in a house? And all we had to do was have dinner ready by the time you got home from work. That's a real feminine position to be in. OK, no, absolutely. Absolutely. I agree with you. And I think, you know, you could very easily find out that answer. But my question to you is, is there any time in our history that you can point to and say kind of like men point to the fifties that black men were men? Is there any time you could point to not really not as a collective, not without mentioning, you know, names here or there, but not not as a collective. OK, why is that? Why is that? Because the time because the time don't exist. So OK, so just to reiterate, you don't think there's ever been a time where black men have been men? I don't think as a collective.   So what's your evidence for that? Because that's a bold claim. It's the it's the world that we live in. No, I need evidence because we're talking about history right now. So what's your evidence that there has never been a time where black men have been in leadership? The fact that black men are not are not leaders now and still blame women for the for the position of the community and what the community is in. So the fact you're saying the fact that black men are not leaders now is your evidence that black men have never been leaders? Black men call the black community a gynaocracy and it's feminism. Now? But it hasn't always been this way. Well according to the information that they use and according to their sources, the black community has always been a female lead. Men need to get out the house. Men, no men allowed and all this stuff. This is what black men really have been saying. Yeah, that was in the 50s when they said this switch happened. But you're saying that there's never been a time. I mean, how far back do we have to go? Listen, you can go as far back as you want. Give me an example. You can go as far back as you want. Give me an example of a time black men were the ideal black man that you wish we were. If that time existed, I wasn't alive to see it and I don't know when. But you weren't alive to see any of the times that you're talking about. But even if you were able to point to that time, why should black women today look to that time all along the go? Because you just you just made you just made the very dangerous statement that there's never been a time where dot dot dot. But even if you were able to. So okay, what can you admit that that's not true? Or at least you don't know enough to say that. I don't. I think that that's not true. Okay, so why did you say it?  I think that that is true. But you don't know enough to say that. That that's the truth. Because that is the okay. So okay, so substantiate that claim. That's all I want you for the sake of conversation. Substantiate the claim.  So you're saying black men made a concerted decision to abandon. I don't know if a decision was concerted. I know. Okay, but but you said they abandoned their post. Yes. Okay, perfect. Before that, you said they never had a post. So which one is it?  You said we weren't leaders. Then you said we abandoned.  Because we got to stand beside and behind what we say. Listen, apparently, apparently when black men and black women was was married and they were in the south, I guess that was the time when they were technically together.  And the more they came into urban environments and things like that and think times got hard. Black men decided to, you know, black men took themselves out the home. Okay, so I'm giving you an opportunity to recant your first statement when you said black men were never leaders. Black men were never leaders. But you just said they abandoned the home. Yes, but doesn't mean they were leading in the home. Okay, so what did they abandon? They abandon their kids. They abandon their wives. Okay, what is their role in their kids and wives lives? Um, to be a husband and father. What is husband and father? What is that role? I don't know. It's what it's what men are supposed to do if you're going to get married and have kids. It's what men are supposed to do. It's a leadership role, correct? But doesn't mean you're a leader in that role. Again, Kevin Tang was married. He wasn't a leader in his in his marriage. Is husband and father a leadership role? No, not not intrinsically. No. Okay, so what what are you complaining that black men did? Because if you were saying black men abandoned their leadership responsibility, we can go there. But what do you if we weren't leaders? We were never leaders. Then what is your gripe with us? What are we doing wrong? Black men complain that the black community is woman led. You complain that it's a gynaocracy. You complain that feminism has taken over, but you don't but you don't lead anyway. And according according to you, we've never led. I mean, I don't know why you're so caught up on if you never or ever led or was there a point in time in history where you at one time did what does that matter in 2022? Because history is cyclical and words mean things. And if you use very dangerous rhetoric and let's say, for instance, you have a son, you have a daughter and you're teaching them histories that black men never led. That sets a very dangerous paradigm. And I think that's where it comes from when people say the divest community sounds like white supremacist because you say a bunch of lies to paint a narrative that isn't substantiated by any fact. It's not it's not a lie. And even if again, even. Okay, so prove it. If you could point to this one time, let's say we both this and we said right now on Google, okay, we got online and we found this one time in history where black men was the best they've ever been. What does that mean for black women today in 2022 when when when black families are still led by single parent homes when black men are still highly incarcerated when the unemployment rate of black men is still as high as it is. What what does that one time in history do for us today? How does that help us today? Well, it's it's more than one time. Obviously, for people who know history, it's more than one time. I've given you a bunch of examples, but what it does is it changes the paradigm because one of the things that we often do as a community is we we we talk about ourselves as being incapable of doing better without recognizing the fact that we were kidnapped without recognizing the fact that we were put in situations to perpetuate our own dysfunction for the benefit of the white society that we now run to to be our saviors. You can't be identified with the Adoles. So but I say all that to say it's not even about Adoles, right? I'm I'm a pan-Africanist. I think is what you would call it. But it's just it boils down to we need to start telling the truth because the things you're saying aren't true. They're not true at all. But you're not but you're not and I said that to say because you you say you say we as as if you have some history as African-American men and really none. Well, so what's interesting about that is I get to enjoy some of the privileges that African-American men fought and died for. So I pay homage to that. Secondly, I still have some of the same challenges as a black man in America that African-Americans have. So I also pay homage to that. So there is not an us versus them and people who do that are idiots. There is a we. And when I talk about my African-American brothers, I talk about them with reverence. So it is a we. So stop telling our history incorrectly is my point. Then let me ask you a question. Go ahead. Why do African immigrants come here and do well? How come you know Nigerian immigrants are like the wealthiest immigrant group in this country? Why do they come here? We're not the wealthiest, but I get your point. Um, two reasons. Colonialism had some similarities to slavery. It had some stark differences. One of the differences that I think was beneficial to us. It didn't necessarily target the family. It didn't it didn't target dismantling the family like slavery did here. And slavery was very intentional to do that here because it knew that slaves and poor white people outnumbered.  So it was very intentional of like perpetuating this function here. So we we tend to do better because we have that family structure that is a lot of times divorced of y'all and we have that cultural backing. But it's but but again, again, and this is the dangerous part. It's not that we're better. It is not that we're better. So a black man who who got himself out of Chicago, who got himself out of, you know, any hood around the country, we have to pay homage to that. And that's who I'm talking about. So when that black man still has issues with his black women, even though he's on his job, that's unacceptable. And why is it hard for you to acknowledge that? Because I will I will completely reject that claim. A thousand percent until black men can in more and higher numbers be in a position to complain about that. I just do not. I cannot, you know, like if I were, for example, like using myself as an example to say that every time a black woman does this thing, you know, we never get the results that we want. But I can only and I can say, you know, oh, the women that I know said the same thing. And the women that they know said the same thing, you know. But I mean, those are all still anecdotal experiences. And I've heard black men say these difficulties that they deal with.  It's always something that sounds like I think I think I think it's very dangerous if we become dismissive of one another's experiences. So similarly, I could say black women in mass are not deserving of good men because they're not feminine. I don't say that. I say that these are the things black women need to do in mass. And for the ones who are doing the right things, if they are getting bad experiences, that's unacceptable. Black men like you shouldn't like you could treat the 90 other ones like that, but don't treat her like that. Like she's on her job. She's doing the right thing. Similarly, at the very least, what you could say is if a black man is doing his job, he's deserving of a good black woman, but you're unwilling to say that. And that's so that's okay. I think I think we we had a very robust conversation. We've been out here for three hours and 20 minutes. Do you have any parting thoughts, any final words that you want to leave us with? I mean, I don't think that black men don't deserve, you know, I think that men deserve what they work for. You know, you deserve you earned like that's that's what you get. What you put out is what is what you get. Absolutely. And the same the same goes for women. And I wanted to say to your point about, you know, if you're if you're with these with you with these black men that are not high earners and they're not the kind of man that you should be with and all of that many black men are that's the dating pool for most black women. That's what we have to choose from. Okay. So it's not a matter of why didn't you just make yourself better for a higher and find him where and find him where like where look like where where should I be looking for this high value man? I don't know. I just it's just ridiculous to expect black women to continue to search for unicorns.  You it is imperative that black women do this. It's imperative. Okay. That's how you that's how you open up more options to different kind of things that you may like.  This is not our we're not going to make this problem our problem. And the only other thought I wanted to leave you with was that a black man really was the it really wasn't crystalline kerosene you know pink pill it was a black man by the name of Ralph Richard Banks who first introduced this idea of divest when he wrote the book is marriage for white people and I remember hearing about it but I didn't read it for a long time you know and he basically introduced this idea that black women do not have to exist only in the universe of black men and black men struggles and problems and the things that happen to black men black women should should be prioritizing themselves for a change. Okay so this book is a big part of my channel. So first of all I want to thank you for coming on this was a good conversation. I know you thought it would be a shouting match and yourselves but you know hopefully they watch too that's not my ministry but all I want to say to the audience is you can't outrun yourself. Black men are the standard black women are the standard there is no other person there's no other community that will treat and love you like a good and healthy black person. I want my children to look like me and more importantly this is why our children need to understand history so they can put things in the proper context we can't know where we're going if we don't know where we're coming from. So study your history understand the context that you were born into and that you live in and I will continue to do the work to get black men and black women back together even if we disagree for three hours. So again I appreciate you thank you so much and yeah we'll we'll probably do this again. Take care. Thanks for having me. Absolutely. Take care. Bye. Bye. All right y'all that was interesting. I will drop the link in the chat and I'll open it up to my members first if y'all want to come up if you want to. I know y'all have been going back and forth in the comments but if y'all have anything to say or if you want to speak your piece this is your opportunity. Appreciate it Sean and boom that's the link. Appreciate it Catherine. That's what it's about. We have to know how to talk to each other even when we disagree. When y'all come in at once somebody anybody critical race theory we just need to teach history the right way. Kirby All right. What's going on brother? That was an interesting talking with that one girl honestly. Yeah like I'm just surprised by just like just by the fact that it seems like she wants to deny what's going on. Yeah I honestly feel like it is just pure fact what you're just saying but it's like she just doesn't want to admit the errors that she sees in in some black women's choices in the black community. Honestly I feel like I'm an average dude I just got married. Congrats man congrats. Yeah in November 21st. Congrats brother. I'm just a security guard but you know I make like I make like a little bit right well okay since it's kind of depends on how much hours I work. I work like 64 hours a week that's a lot over time but you know I make right under 50,000 which is kind of like the average right now for most black men and you know I'm still trying to grow. I'm still in school I have like 30 credits left to I get my bachelor's because ultimately I want to be a teacher a math teacher and you know I just I have a woman you know I'm Haitian and she's Haitian and you know we grew up humbly and she makes more money than me she works in like she works in a company called Striker it's like a company that deals with medical equipment and stuff like that for surgeries and she's the person who does the 3D modeling for like bone structures you know so like the robots can make an accurate you know precise cut and stuff like that she makes more money than me and and still she does not emasculate me for it you know like she makes like maybe about $10,000 more than me but that's if she choose to work like a lot of money like a lot of overtime and stuff like that she can make that much more but my thing is this the issue with the black community I believe starts with people nowadays not being humble enough to accept that not everybody got this you know six-figure career you know that's that's something I feel like a lot of people in our generation literally have to realize because it's all Instagram that they're seeing all this you know black luxury you know and I feel like you're going for that type of standards that's really going to be tough you know because I look at like basketball right would you rather make a three-point shot or would you rather get an easy layup right you know if everybody wants to make the three-point shot is it's the popular thing it's it's it's it's flashier or more popular or whatever and it's like but it's harder to make versus just getting your easy two points instead and I feel like if you're going if black women want to go for this high value male they have to understand that it's going to be harder to find and you're going to you have to compete you have to compete you know and I think that was the the the sticking point because she agrees that men should compete but she doesn't agree that women should compete and that's what I was trying to get her to like admit but she kept dancing around it but like for me like I make 50 000 my girl makes about like 60 000 so it's like we put our income together and we're above like middle class I believe right right and it's beautiful and I'm just thinking like if if women just think about like just starting off with your man at a reasonable point and then grow you know I feel like it'll it'll be more better for the black community but as long as our egos are in the way of what we want then it's not going to be a success no that's it that's a tremendous point man I appreciate you coming up I got to get to the next person but definitely come back next time bro I'm gonna do do these every Friday so we'll chop it up later all right brother take care what's up boss man how you doing sir I'm good man how are you uh pretty good uh so I was a lot that was a lot that was a lot word up I could I was uh I was really um I was really happy to see you know saying like you you was really inspiring how you talked and the questions you asked uh you know um I do listen to your content I'm a new subscriber but preset it preset it was it was so um I've been watching but I just tonight I subscribed because I don't want to well neither here nor there so I just listened to the conversation like I was trying to you know comment on some things it was really hurtful um like I think it's even uh bringing up emotion in me right now and it's and that's probably for my shortcomings and you know we know that mental health is uh important and you know just just to be coming the best version of yourself and whatever it is that you see that you want to accomplish you know I'm saying you can go after it so you know I understood everything that she was saying I agreed with uh mainly none of it but I understood I don't I don't uh it was hard to watch that she was not understanding you yeah yeah it's not like you were saying anything that was hard to understand and you were specifically speaking to her so it was it almost took me like that you're not even listening yeah yeah and that's a lot of our experiences and that's what I was trying to get to understand it doesn't even matter if you are doing everything that they claim we're not doing you still don't even get an ear you still don't even get that empathy that sympathy that level of understanding and it's unfortunate um I think that there are a lot of women who do and I think you know the more we focus our attention on that you know what you focus on grows we can incentivize that behavior and that's what I want to see because like I said all I want to see is black men and black women together when you just listening to some of the things you were saying and I and I noticed in the comments like uh the talking points in that but that that wasn't part of the conversation so I was not bringing up any of the common talk talking points that are heard around the man is fear or whatever which I'm not a part of right Kevin Samu's content isn't for me but I take what I can from it to become what I want to be right eat the meat spit out the bones yeah I'm a welder right I work I just got off of work right I've been at I've been at work since this morning at one job uh from six o'clock to three thirty and then I go to my other job uh where I'm a welder as well from three well four o'clock to eight o'clock like you know I'm you know I don't I don't know where I rank at as far as earnings yes I'm above average but so therefore I mean just even in that part of the if I was the because that's what I was doing incorporate myself into that part of the conversation and she was talking to me specifically saying that I was nothing right I go what I'm make I'm not like and that's and I can't because there's I have so many other pitfalls that I'm overcoming though right at 42 but earning wise I'm way above right right what are you talking about and that's all that's all black men are asking and we're just asking let let let us be acknowledged for the things that we're doing right as opposed to the narrative that that's constant and consistent about how it doesn't matter what you do you will never be good enough and we all grew up hearing that and it's unacceptable it's unacceptable that was unacceptable that was unacceptable yeah but we're gonna keep doing the work we're gonna keep these conversations going I don't know if we'll talk to her again but I might have some women up here that you know are gonna reaffirm us and make us feel good because I know sometimes it seems like we're starving for that type of affirmation especially for my women but I want to appreciate you man come up anytime and yeah we'll talk soon I appreciate you thank you so much absolutely take care you too all right I don't want to butcher your name so help me out Tedros what's up man what's up brother how you doing I'm all right um that's good it was a good uh discussion you had I appreciate your poise thank you thank you and everything thank you um now what I didn't like is she was getting away with quite a lot of factual distortions and lies absolutely um I'm gonna be brief so I just want to say first of all the unemployment rate is like a one percent difference between black men and women so she needs to cut the bullshit out talking about some damn oh uh of the men that are working it's it's roughly the same so yeah let's bullshit okay and let's cut the BS out like black women they're all boss chicks and they all are you know it's not true right exactly so it's like this is bullshit you know I'm saying it's propaganda it's propaganda it's just an excuse for bad behavior okay and lastly I mean this is not I understand this is not the message you want to promote on your channel you're about bridging gaps right Africans and black Americans black men black women I appreciate that but at the same time black women hate when we bring this shit up but god damn it excuse my language okay we know damn well okay so she's talking about how a lot of these women are the breadwinners a lot of the breadwinners because they choose man voice like we have to be honest you have to tell the truth I'm sorry they hate us saying that but it's true this this is I always use this example okay you find me the version of the white version Nicki Minaj find me the white version of Sierra that that picks the white version of future and zoo petty that's a good point you're not seeing that okay it's a good point it's a deficient aspect of modern black American culture and more specifically black American woman culture so I just want to say that I appreciate your stream and absolutely appreciate you brother so appreciate you bro thank you man appreciate it take care of yourself are you too all right all right all right so we got some more people um mods if you could re-add the link to the chat if anybody else wants to come up but I'm gonna just walk work my way through um the people I have up here uh eddie what's up brother man how are you I'm good brother can't complain yeah what were your thoughts man break break break it down what what what what did we just witness man first and foremost I want to commend you on your patience man because it takes a lot of patience oh yeah you had a conversation and you kind of go through that I'm actually working through that with some people who so you know we need to you need to learn and it's important we had a conversation so first I want to commend you on that and your patience and then at the what we saw what is I exactly what you're talking about it's like exhibit a on display you know day to day in the relationships and you know every time we deal with black women not all the time because there are good black women out there they're probably doing what most good black men are doing and probably going after work and probably going home yeah so you have to kind of dig and you know kind of find you have to go look for them so otherwise you get what you get like you gotta say but um I definitely want to tell them man go away you're appreciated not where you're tolerating say that again that's the fact go where you're appreciated and celebrated and not where you're taller absolutely and once I learned that I actually start having a lot better outcomes you're always you're always gonna want to strive to do better your income could be better through your circumstances could be better you're always going to be improving until the day you die but do not let people mitigate or marginalize what it is you're doing and compare yourself all the time to other people what's for you what's for you absolutely and I mean that that's something I had to learn too because I mean like a lot of us we started off doing things to please people to to be good enough for mom to be good enough for that girl we had a crush on but when I started realizing that I'm the only one I need to impress man it changed it changed when I when I wanted to be cool for me my version of cool then the the women and everything it was a consequence so that's that's a powerful message brother thank you all right man yeah you too man take care of yourself absolutely well I just subscribe to appreciate you brother thank you all right man peace all right Philly kid yeah what's going on sir how you doing brother I'm good I'm good man let me tell you the ironic thing man the chick you just had on I mean that's what I'm saying I didn't I didn't know her but we from the same she's from Philly I thought so yeah wow that's crazy yeah we grew up in the same hood man and I could understand like her mentality because I probably grew up wasn't the greatest break that down um just poverty drugs you know single single mother's rampant you know I mean abuse um just all kind of stuff man so like I can understand why she feels the way she do about black men because like sitting on hood you didn't see a lot of black men there and the ones that were there they want shit I mean excuse me I mean they weren't they weren't the greatest yeah so that goes back to your point of when you're young that shapes your perception as an adult you know I mean and I think that she doesn't recognize that you tell me like she doesn't she doesn't recognize okay well when I was young seeing all this shaped my perception so it's just built up childhood trauma and like her her baseline expectation of black men is what she saw as a kid right man that's heavy that's it makes a lot of sense it makes a lot of sense and that's why I encourage therapy I encourage conversation because a lot of us and black men too a lot of our expectations are based on how our mom was or the girls from the block you know I mean so it's important that we we grow and we see the world differently so that's that's real man I mean I mean we went to some of the same schools you know I mean we went to the same middle school I don't know if we went to the same high school or not you know I mean and like I said I I get her you know yeah it's just it's just unfortunate that that environment made her into who she is you know I mean I mean I came from the same I mean literally came from the same hood right I draw trucks and I made six figures right you see what I'm saying Matt I just I just signed up to start my own trucker vision I just got my congrats brother congrats congrats you're doing a damn thing I mean black men we're doing it man and this only other point I want to make yeah she said that the black men that are working if the unemployment rate is seven percent right for black men that mean 93 percent of black men are working so you're so fixated on the minority you know I mean you can't see the majority and I think I think that's I think that's one of the main problems with the domestic community that's so fixated on the minority you know I mean they translate that to the majority of black men and it's just not the case yeah one of the what are the quotes I saw it said trauma keeps you at the age you were when you experienced it so a lot of them you know if they experience trauma at five years old seven years old they're still rationalizing the world as children so that's why like I people talk about you patient and all that I feel bad it's really sympathy let me be honest it's really sympathy and like a curiosity because when you really start dialoguing with women especially the ones that you you feel like you know ain't shitting this this and that when you really get to the nitty gritty of it like I do and I have to man man it's heavy it's heavy things but I appreciate you brother like I said come up anytime hey I've been subscribed man you're proud of that maybe like 2k man so hey that's what's up brother we gonna keep pushing this thing appreciate you man take care of yourself yes sir all right it's not what's going on bro not much man how you doing I'm good I had to push you to the front of the line you know you've been you've been a day one you've been a day one what's going on brother talk to me I'm gonna bring that up talk to me talk to me all right so real quick same thing as the other individuals I want to say that your professionalism your demeanor your whole appearance in regards to everything that you did up there top notch that's the biggest aspect thank you thank you when she was talking about how there aren't men like you more or less and she said that you're the unicorn my mind said immediately went okay so this is how you're gonna display yourself to an actual unicorn I ain't gonna lie I forgot the lady's name but you're kind of failing at telling a man like you or a unicorn that you know on the other side there are still some potential prospects but let me blitz to the important aspects I'm military right I don't need to make six figures although I have additional streams of revenue and income right most men don't decide to go the extra mile to make six figures to do 60 hours a week at a minimum unless they already have the wife and the kids that they need to provide for so I understand a woman who does have to what's the word pursue or seek out a guy who has the most money but for the rest of the guys who are still either a finding themselves or who have a long-term plan to get rich when they're in their 30s and 40s we're not trying to hear all that judgment stuff from women early another thing to say is this women also have their additional streams of income that they don't always broadcast so when you hear a lot of women who say that's not sure that men out earn women that's the reason why you'd be amazed how many women do real real estate or do stocks and trades and things like that or the ones who do the low I think I put it in a chat but you'd be amazed how many women have their like you know social media profile pics of them with their assets yeah yeah without without being negative about it that's the female advantage that they won't broadcast or advertise but it's out there for men we've got to do the straight and narrow we have to say or risk our lives or risk our lives it's either straight and narrow or risk your life yeah exactly like we have that long-term plan me and my step dad had this discussion he said that if you're going to be the head of the household you should consider a woman's opinion and the reason why the reverse may not always work is because as a man yes you're right I will absolutely die for my decision if I told her babe I'm flying all of us out to Miami or to Europe or to Saudi Arabia for a better job best believe I will work my butt off until my profits my pockets equal what I promised her we did it for a better job we did it for a better salary and everything will work out accordingly it's not like that for women and you can clearly tell when they say things like I need a man who has all this money so that way you know I almost said something I shouldn't I'm a flip and just say this when they do find the right man yeah they all of a sudden stay back at the house they do what they need to do with the kid they worry less about the finances because they know a man has it I'll I'll I'll just give them that they do but uh that white and black thing I don't understand why that's a popular discussion that women have I always want them to remember that as a black woman if you do go to a white guy more or less it ain't as sweet as you think like keep in mind you probably are just one phone call away from getting removed like in regards to certain we'll just say situations where police has to come he ain't looking at the white man is saying uh this is your house or uh are you bothering there's one he won't look at the black woman be like um excuse me miss are you uh are you lost maybe like do you yeah do you need hell getting back home like are you drunk and you found your way over here like right you and that dynamic they have that power more or less yeah I'm not going to say that every white person is abusive in regards to but more or less they do have that power to make sure a black woman knows that uh you are one step away from going back to where I found you there was a the show how to get away with murder Annalise Keen favorite character from that show right she was with a white man and that dynamic it it was interesting but I thank you for your time absolutely thank you brother I appreciate being here because oh my god I never thought this was gonna happen but man I'm gonna keep them going man so uh I'm thinking every Friday so whenever you pop up man I'm gonna throw you up on the screen yes sir yes sir all right man I'll see you next time yes sir what else on here absolutely take care of yourself man you too bye all right mr. Sean Jackson what's going on brother how we're doing how we're doing man I see you got a young king young lion with you that's for sure man that's for sure he was like what's she talking about I just first of all I want to say congratulations thank you thank you I've been following you since maybe not the day one or anything like that but like when your page was much smaller and day two day two but um I love the way you know everyone's already said it but your patience your demeanor your sincerity you don't get easily distracted and that you see that in your interviews and now we see it in real time so it's not you know you talk to talk and walk to walk I just want to say that when she was saying that you were a unicorn I'm sitting there listening to what you said you you know generally do for a living and whatnot and I was like wait we we're in the same field right wait you just say same tax bracket and the thing is you know only 24 percent of black america is poor like just straight up poor that means the other 76 percent are not and most of the poverty comes from the women and children not the men men at the end of the day and that's you know not a shot at that's just how it is men this is a work more dangerous jobs we're willing to move far away from the family to get that bread we work in more lucrative fields that are less people centered we we we that's why men make more than what they make it has nothing to do with us just having you know mail equipment um she seemed very dedicated to just delusion honestly like she she I figured she was a hood I knew I figured I just something told me she had been seeing some stuff right or wrong she had seen some stuff and she couldn't get over it and she you you had her cornered um your questions are so poignant and direct you had a cornered a few times and um she just that's why she would laugh because she's like if she admits that you have a point and she's no dummy I could tell it's cognitive dissonance she gotta tell her that herself that yeah it's yeah you can see the real time it's crazy like actually watching it happen but yeah you're right yeah man and I hope you do more of these I think that your conversations your more long form interviews and stuff and plus this it's it's exactly what I'm looking for I'm an FBA I was really feeling the FBA you know diaspora absolutely man absolutely I'm from bed I'm living I'm from Brooklyn yeah Beyonce and we uh I'm not from here originally but I moved here a while ago but we you know we were talking about ed the education and stuff my I passed I used to date women I have a master's I'm a software engineer I make good money and um I used to date women you know black women beautiful black women who were of the same economic socioeconomic caliber I ran into every single problem he's told me about now it wasn't that does not mean that all black women are like that but it's there I just had eaten years and a lot of my friends ran into the same thing I ended up meeting a working class girl from the neighborhood she worked a very modest supervisor at a grocery store we we're getting married in August we have a kid right now congratulations brother I don't regret a thing absolutely you know she gets it so that's these I just hope these women there's probably some women watching this or will watch this listen to this man listen to the men in the chat we're not making this up we're not just trying to dig at black we just need y'all on code so we can that's right yeah so we can we can get back to do what we were doing which was elevate the community but the men you know are just told to take responsibility but we don't get that authority of leadership we used to get that we won't take responsibility absolutely and one of the things I'm excited about when I look in the comments when I look at the chat even I'm not seeing like necessarily like single men who aren't doing anything I'm seeing men of caliber I'm seeing husbands I'm seeing fathers who are looking back and saying yo like this is bigger than than than just men complaining this is literally the branding of our community of our women of our of our of our men even and we need to get a hold of it so I hope people can really take that away and understand that these aren't dummies these are these are men who really don't even have to say anything for real when she was the chat was going crazy I was posting numbers in there people posted so when she was just talking about how so many of us are unemployed which is kind of what tipped me off that she might have had an upbringing absolutely back to the matter is even right now after COVID and everything black men are still 93% of us work 94% of black women work so I don't know what she's talking about and like I said it's obvious men make more money than women in general it's not a black male so all we're all we're asking all we are really really asking at the end of the day is hey can you come back to the table can we put the family above ourselves can we put the community above ourselves like we used to miss like you know that's black men you know there's Kevin Samuels have everyone's got different styles on this type of stuff MTR shout out to all those guys doing what they're doing getting conversation rolling but in reality that's all we're asking can you come back to the table can we get back together have these beautiful black children so we can fight this world and fight all our enemies and and and go do what we try to do in Greenwood and Tulsa back then but they burned it down that's what it's about that's what it's about man hey but I appreciate you man I appreciate the support come up anytime and uh take care of yourself take care of him too all right y'all take care all right all right man uh those were fantastic points that that's what this is all about I mean I I'm not a fan of conversation for the sake of conversation I I think conversation can be transformative and if if nothing else if if I can impart on our men and our women like the disposition necessary to have these hard tough conversations I'm gonna feel like a success so um yeah I'm loving what y'all are saying man uh let's see Rob Rob T his is loading Rob you there all right we're gonna bring you back uh let's see Rand what's going on brother how you doing man I'm good man how are you I'm good so kind of caught on that was that was a lot yeah that was a lot man yeah why I'm surprised yeah usually I get a little surprised I kind of wrote down some things just keep myself on track yeah definitely um cost versus value I think a lot of black women know how much things cost but from what I'm hearing they don't understand the value and what it is to be a good man that makes that kind of money and so um one thing that I know I experienced I uh after the market crash on like 2008 2009 I kind of decided to get my shit together so I learned how to get that free rock studios bus passes did everything I could studio apartments bus passes did everything I could to get myself to get free and during that process it took about six years um and I went back to college I got my degree I'm doing research children's hospital it's awesome but during that process when I would try to talk with black women it was like the minute they found out oh you ride the bus oh you know you got a studio what's that it was like this humanity I was no longer a human you're an item it wasn't even so much like yo I'm trying to holler I'm trying to date these are just conversations and passing and when I had these conversations with women of other races the it went completely different it was oh my dad told me right when I got on college like get in a studio and ride the bus and keep your debt low so you can pay off and so and like that already kind of caused a rift it wasn't necessarily looking for any like you know any romance or anything like that from black women at that time I understood my position but I couldn't even have a conversation I wasn't worth a conversation and that was kind of reinforced a little bit with the attitude that you were kind of getting in your show um and one of the things too that kind of bugs me with our culture is we have that while and out culture where people just kind of rip on you and they just make fun of you and make fun of you and I think you know I always kind of think about this but you know if you want to be be a electrician you kind of do 400 hours of apprentice work or if you want to do what I did where you're going to cut your costs pay off your debt put yourself back through college you got to live a little bit meager it really it's really interesting that it's like the ones who you would think be like yo you got a goal you're working hard like you may not be together but you know like it's cool like I support what you're doing would be black women and it's not and so I think that um that just kind of got reinforced in this interview and it was kind of tough um to listen to to be honest with you um I think we all have traumas and I had two step mothers two black women they were not very nice but I had to go through therapy to understand that that was them this is I cannot throw out the bath with the bath water and just say the baby with the bath water and just blatantly attack absolutely and so um I I also too and I'll keep this brief but I also think too like when she said you were a unicorn I just don't there's so many of us yeah intelligence that are calling that um you know are not concerned with the next pop culture whatever going on you know what I mean like I just it seems like a lot of black women are out of touch with who black men have become absolutely um I think that a lot of our parents a lot of us who may be in our 30s 40s now our parents were very like you're not you're not going to be on the court you're not going to have your pants hanging off your eyes you're going to get your education you're going to work and I think that's paid off I've had a lot of great conversations with black men just in passing where we're not the caricature that we're painted as yeah and so that's just I don't know it's just so tough I think that's what's like it's not surprising but it's tough to hear or painted as something that we we aren't because yeah our options are limited absolutely and and that that's that's something that stood out to me during one of my interviews she she said that um uh and it's on the channel I think it's the video I want to be a hoe and she said that I don't want a man who's doing better than me and essentially what she was saying is that you know it makes me have to step my game up so it's easier to be with uh a pookie and a ray ray because they don't expect much from me right the the their their demeanor isn't one that's demanding of me I can just be myself you know women often say I just want to be right I want to be celebrated at whatever weight at whatever disposition I just want to be celebrated so I think that's that's part of uh that's part of what it is but all we can do is improve ourselves and continue to become the men that we want to be for ourselves and eventually you'll find the woman that that's going to help you cultivate that vision for yourself and for your life and for your legacy that you're that you're building so I appreciate you brother like I said come back anytime I'll be on here every Friday thank you for the support um yeah most death man I appreciate you too man all right so uh Edmond you're going to be the last person because uh I'm not trying to compete with TLA I gotta I gotta go so I'm gonna work through one two three four five again appreciate you guys all the support for the new channel members for the uh super chats for the cash apps thank you guys all so much I'm gonna try Rob T one more time because he's been here for a while okay it's not working Rob I might have to kick you out of the stream uh and we will get you next week uh pesty observer oh what's what's going on brother what's happening what's up brother I never thought this you got nine nine nine pull up man what's up talk to me man I've been a fan for a long time man I think you like the real that real like the real medium we need with all these like with all these freaking podcasts blowing up and stuff I really think you the medium we need like I don't understand and stuff just want to bring up a few points I know like shit this been going on four hours now no I'm surprised I last this long when when TLA and them like do four or five hours like how do they do that but it just man I don't even be watching them I'm telling you man yeah I wanted to bring up uh first like I had a conversation similar to another I'm black woman like a close friend of mine I knew since high school and it was just like and it was basically just like um she was just basically just you know this and black men like I mean she she's with a black man but like still she just talks so much about like you know talks so much hard about us and it's just like damn and I'm like and then she was just trying to go on like why ain't y'all in this why aren't y'all in these fields and stuff like you know pun to blame on us and I was like you kind of really not being empathetic to like you know you're not being empathetic to like what we actually go through as the facts you know like exactly I'm just like and then she just and I'm and then she just said well like get therapy and I'm like well therapy don't mean it's gonna work you know some people just like you know go to therapy for years it's like it's a long process like healing is a long process and therapy's just you know helping you figure out what's wrong with you it's not necessarily like you know like what's gonna get you there you figure that stuff on your own and like we already you know we already it's already hard enough so I'm just saying like damn like absolutely that girl is she was putting me through it now I was in them comments I was going to broken them super chats and you know that that's that's been the biggest message that I've had like with each of the girls that I've interviewed because I haven't even dropped all the parts for each of the girls like so it's multiple parts coming out because I'm trying to stretch stuff out but there there's such a lack of empathy for black men and it comes it comes from white supremacy because we had to be mules essentially you can't empathize with a mule or a workhorse and unfortunately what happened is our women adopted that too and it's like oh you should be able to blah blah blah and do for me and do for me and and but I still want you to cry now it's like we're being forced to be even pseudo-emotional regardless of considering the reasons we're not so like keep having the conversations man keep having it from a place of curiosity but if you're trying to like change minds you're going to run yourself crazy oh my god just be a gatherer of data man I know because I know like we need that patience for to open up the love absolutely absolutely I see why you're patient if you're not patient with them like no matter what they say I know I know it hurt I know it sucked but you just got to open up with them because they like I know it's a long list of hurt like I know I've been hurt and like I know they've been hurt and I'm just willing to listen that's why like absolutely no we need more brothers like you man we need more brothers like you man appreciate brother all right man yeah take care of yourself bro I will you too man all right all right all right all right all right all right we got three more we got three more TJ talk to me brother you there I think TJ might have taken a bathroom break we we're gonna we're gonna come back to you tea goods what's going on boss hey what's going on bro man I'm chilling brother how are you I'm doing well doing well good good um happy to be on here first first things first is I want to say that uh your work is uh very much appreciated um that we needed you know especially coming from a young brother I don't know what you are but nevertheless um it is uh appreciated um thank you thank you I jumped in the middle of the stream in the young day I saw a divest and I was like what are they talking about and then I started to follow along I was like oh no yeah and her her talking points and I was just like man I don't I don't know if she came in prepared you know and and every time as as uh my brother's before me mentioned every time you had her pinned to a corner she just continued to move the goalposts and everything like that and I I know that's just a that's a female reaction to things right and so um it is bothersome because the conversation honestly doesn't get anywhere right you don't get to a resolution with that um I'm I'll say this is I'm 35 I'm married to a to a black woman she's a she's a superwoman you know what I mean um she's a nurse practitioner so she does well I do well as I do well for myself as um in the same right and I love the fact that your your um content is so uh family and black love oriented absolutely and some of the conversations that I've seen you had with some of those ladies I've sent them to my wife oh my god and the crazy part is I'm not outside meaning you know I'm not in the streets anymore but nevertheless I have a I have a son you know what I mean and then I have a daughter so I'm on both sides of it because I want my daughter to be I'll say this men marry the kind of uh men marry the kind of woman that they want their daughters to be yeah I got a daughter too yeah I understand I understand so that's me and women and even with the pop culture you get the Cardi B's and the mega nostalgia and whatever they go through they think that that's what we like or no that's a that's a toy for a moment it's not what we try to invest in it's not what we want to protect and I hear this whole protection this whole notion of uh protect black women I honestly feel and listen I'm I'll say this is that I'll go to the Will and Jada thing go ahead go ahead go ahead they keep saying oh oh men need to protect black women I would say yes we do need to protect black women sometimes we need to protect them from themselves interactions that thought processes and the fact that um as you mentioned so many times eloquently I would say is that you you you always put a point on the fact that they're looking for grace they expect grace and if I give it then it's a problem and I say hey listen we need it as well I'll say that my family um we're in a good position right and I haven't always been like that but it also took patience on my wife's side to kind of work through that whether when we're dating or whatever the case may be and I just say hey let's let's build together let's work together you know and the statistics will show that you know Kevin Samuels I'm a big fan of his and he shows or not him himself but the recent the research shows that hey women leave because they may be unhappy or whatever the case for trivial reasons yeah for trivial reasons and I know in the Middle East they have to uh it's very difficult for a woman to leave a marriage and um a man or from what I've been told they say uh a man has to only say uh I divorce you I divorce you I divorce you and they can officially get to get to get a divorce and a woman has to go through the ropes because they understand that women and their emotions hold on hold on one second um Judas uh I'm gonna have to kick you out man uh Edmund is the last one I'm gonna have you back next stream I promise I promise when I see your name pop up I'm gonna pull you up appreciate you brother but now you know what I'm gonna get off because I know it's still people waiting but I know you've been working brother I've never seen a fourth for our stream maybe this is my first one too and listen I'll be back you say every Friday I'm I'm gonna do it every Friday you have my word I'm gonna get my little brother on it I want him to get married as well so he's a good guy so you know listen appreciate you brother thank you so much I appreciate it take care of yourself yes sir yes all right all right we're gonna try tj one more time we're gonna try you one more time yeah can you know yeah sir what's going on brother no I had an issue I had to switch the audio I'm on pc so it's all good man it's all good we're not gonna talk no shit I'm gonna say uh salute you you know for me in the golden frame um I think a lot of points that she was making it was just like a lot of talking points that she probably didn't have any actual logic behind right and you constantly ask for statistics she couldn't provide any and I thought that was that's actually very dangerous but you're saying statistics based on your feelings and I can't substantiate that yeah there's no empirical data for that right oh I think that's very dangerous to you know give that information to other people and then accept it as if it's the truth right I appreciate you you know you know I know you who's trying your hardest to kind of keep her on track yeah yeah that's why you know in the comments people you know Sam you need a moderator for these type of you know back and forth because someone derails the conversation you kind of lose the point of where you're trying to take this and what solutions you want to provide to the community because ultimately you want to provide solutions so that we can fix this and move forward and then progress to be something more positive hold on one second um well my I'm gonna have to have you back next time sir um Edmund is the last one I appreciate you coming up but uh next week we'll do this on Friday so hop on uh Friday next week and I have you on appreciate you I go ahead and finish your point I'm sorry I was just saying um I'm glad that you were able to keep things on track and I love gotcha moments and anytime you hear a woman laugh that's when you know you got a cornered and she didn't have anything to say so I appreciate you know acknowledging that too so that was you know that's all I have to say I appreciate you thank you I appreciate me and I think you know I appreciate you all for really understanding the work that I'm trying to do because ultimately it's not even about us agreeing it's about us learning how to have conversations in the right way so for me to start off with the person as far right as this or far left as this could go I think is a new is a good jump off point but I'm really excited I'm really excited when I when I have some women over here to kick some more game to us about you know the the female psychology and and how they think and why they do things the way they do so y'all stay tuned man this only gonna get better and better I promise yes indeed so that's all I have to say thank you appreciate it I think you had about like six thousand so I've been around since then so consider it man we we're only going up from here man thank you so much DJ all right man all right last but not least Mr. Edmund how you doing brother please can you hear me man yes sir I hear you good first of foremost thanks for having me on your platform absolutely thank you I just I was just scrolling and I saw the uh the title yeah appreciate it I always try to make something that I would click on so I was like I would click on that so I made it yeah because I mean it's gonna be it's gonna be hot and heavy for the next yeah at least another week people oh yeah still uh discoveries coming out it's still stuff coming out so but no let me say man thanks for having me on your platform appreciate it thank you thank you seeing like you got a massive following to do four hours of anything it's hard to do so yeah brother so I didn't see I guess you had a young lady she was uh dealing with some feminism from what I could hear this is this is past feminism this is a whole movement where they're telling black women to expand their options but essentially get you a white man that's the movement wow how about get you a human being that respects and loves you regardless of what he is um I always say man in the integrated society quote unquote it's gonna be hard to control and confine people's options when you put people around it's like proximity it's like people are going to kill and abuse and exploit those who are in the closest proximity that's true 80 in relationships people are mostly going to date those who are in the closest proximity it don't matter if you pink green brown or purple you know if we we were on each other long enough we're gonna we're gonna beef we're gonna love we're gonna do all of that we're gonna do all of that but no I um really I saw the uh the Will Smith thing man and I just wanted to talk about it so man I think you addressed it um how it's related to black how it's related excuse me the white supremacy the way I um the way I interpret it or the way I explain it it's like it's a devaluation of black man because number one um they're saying that they allow they asked Will to go I don't really believe that because watch this brother if Chris Rock had swung back they would have cut the feed they would have hit the stage it would have been a huge huge debacle and then they would have forced the issue like bro you gotta go you gotta get out of here but the fact that he was able to slap this man didn't make those poisons venomous statements and then stay and accept his award that shows that this is just a standard standard issue it's just another black man getting snagged they're violent this is what we expect this is what me this is nothing different at the heart even a Will Smith like even he's violent yeah and check this out Will my angle Will is this would you have done an LGBTQ member like that I mean if it was a trans man would you have went up there and smacked it if it was somebody from the Jewish community right if it was an affluent Jewish person anybody we we know on the street you never would have stepped to 50 cent like that or hell even D.L. Hughley I don't believe he would have stepped to Steve Harvey somebody that would have brought up yeah you might want to sit down right right right right but my point is um he did that man and it was kind of it was awful because forget who was watching it would have been if it was three of us in the room and he had done that it would have been the same effect that's your brother at 53 years old you can't immediate your emotions we can't handle our emotions no better than the immediately go to violence I mean that's a comedian doing his job don't sit up front at a comedy show if you don't expect to get joked especially with a wife like he got like you you set yourself up for that I mean they too open bro in my opinion y'all y'all y'all know about the Smiths if they told us with the uh with the red table talk you know Sam listen Samuel Jackson had a drug problem you've heard him mention it you know at certain points but him and his wife never discussed that in detail right right you know when you open the floodgates you can't close them the criticism that's part of being a celebrity and in a society that we live in whether you're an athlete whether you're a tainer if you're in a higher tax bracket people almost expect you to just eat abuse you know I told LeBron shut up and dribble that's why supremacy like you're paid you don't have a conscience anymore you don't have an opinion yes you don't have an opinion you don't have an opinion there will be no more Ali's there will be no more Jim Browns that that can never happen so um it was just kind of bad to see that my brother absolutely yeah I was disappointed personally because for me I always jump to the kids like what precedent is this set yes when you're in school now if your teacher say something you don't like a little boy say something you don't like you you walk up and smack them because I honor that's it you know in there that's man it's unacceptable and I think I think the more brothers stand up and say listen this is unacceptable instead of this gray area we all live in this is unacceptable this is acceptable we I told my son I always tell my son um you gotta you gotta be able to leave with logic right absolutely you leave with logic I got a show called leave with logic by the way okay okay it's on youtube um it's uh it's uh it's on apple pod cats okay it's on anchor it's on shout out to you man yeah put put uh your link in the in the chat if you can um I'll help spread the word man it's lead with logic lead with logic uh yeah man and I discuss all these things I discuss you know things that um are relevant and um kind of the undergird that people aren't talking about because listen also I feel this way on the flip side Will Smith should be reprimanded I said this in the chat but we shouldn't throw him away though because at the end of it I agree with that he had a meltdown and he had some serious unresolved psychological trauma that need that's what you know when you don't handle that stuff it'll haunt you and I think that we just got to observe um a huge explosion that most people would experience on a shrink's couch or at a psychologist uh uh office yeah yeah man hey I want to say I appreciate you brother thank you so much if I see your name pop up any other Friday I'm gonna pull you to the front of the line hey I'm gonna support you black man appreciate it appreciate it thank you thank you thank you yes sir absolutely take care yourself brother yes sir all right all right I want to thank each and every one of you guys um all the love all the support is really necessary for me to maintain this patience at this point I feel indebted to um each of you guys and I'm gonna keep putting out good content um with the mission of ultimately reconciling the black man and the black woman so um new video dropping Tuesday um another one Thursday obviously um we might start the black men talk series on Wednesday it will be on Wednesdays maybe it'll be this Wednesday or next Wednesday but I'll obviously you know you'll see that when I post it um next Friday meet me right back here uh we might start at seven o'clock because six o'clock was close I just got off work and I was trying to you know get everything set up but um I appreciate y'all be safe take care of yourself eat good take care of your mental health stay away from crazy women and I will see y'all next week peace