Hey everyone of the live video Why do narcissists act this way? Why are they all so angry? Why are they all so miserable? When you see this behavior, it's easy to identify with it. It's easy to think that maybe there's something wrong with you And that's exactly what they want you to think They want you to think that there's something wrong with you But you are not the reason why they act this way They acted this way before they met you And They're going to continue to act this way After you as well But this doesn't always have to be about relationships It could just be a stranger that you've met Someone you've talked to for the first time and you notice they seem so angry They seem so miserable and maybe you just wonder why Maybe you look at yourself and you think maybe it's something I said But no They were already that way They act this way Because they're dissatisfied They're not happy with their lives They're dissatisfied With their situation With their jobs maybe with Financial issues Life in general They don't really have anything they enjoy doing They don't really have a purpose in life And also they're very dissatisfied With their sex lives They don't have healthy orgasms And that's why they're always so miserable That's why they always seem so frustrated They're like a loose cannon They're always on edge They're always looking like they're about to explode It's a poor sex life They're not having healthy orgasms And for those of you Who are in relationships with these narcissists Don't think that that has anything to do with you You can give them all the sex they want Several times a day If they are hypersexual But it will never be enough Because they just can't be satisfied anyway It's not you They're dissatisfied with everything In their lives Nothing's ever good enough They can't enjoy normal things Like we do If they could Maybe they wouldn't act this way I mean I think about it for myself If I was so dissatisfied with everything Maybe I'd be Really miserable myself Maybe I wouldn't be so friendly towards people So you look at them And it should really be no surprise Why they act this way Someone who's happy And satisfied with their life They're happy with their job They're satisfied With what they have The money they make They're happy with their sex lives They're having healthy orgasms And I'm not saying that these things need to be In excess For someone to be satisfied Of course not But Can they Enjoy these things Can they partake And get the same fulfilment as we can And what you'll find With these people who act in this way Is that no They can't They're very good at displaying the illusion though It's like everything they display Is what they wish they were And they know that's what you want But they also know that they cannot deliver it to you They can only pretend They can only play the game And once you catch onto it Then they're just pointing the finger at you Trying to make you think that you're the problem When they knew that they were the issue all along But that's really where they act this way They're not happy They're very dissatisfied That's right Sukhada says no intimacy They can't experience real intimacy They can't experience love and connection Although that is what they'll try to display to you And everyone else to maintain their image and reputation But they actually cannot experience those things And I know if I couldn't experience love or connection I'd probably be pretty mad too I mean what is life without that? I mean I know I say They're dissatisfied with their lives Jobs, money Sex But these are just superficial things When it comes down to it These people are lacking the love The connection Because that's what really matters in life You can spend your entire life chasing money Success Sexual relationships All of these things But it never makes you happy Just look at how many celebrities there are in this world The ultimate success Unlimited amounts of money Unlimited sexual partners Do any of these people look happy? Many of them End up on drugs They end up with addictions They end up suicidal What these people need to do Like what would save them Is if they could go within That's where you have to start first Before you try to develop any love or connection With anyone It needs to start with yourself And this is where we get to the most tragic part Of this Because They're not capable of doing that At some point they felt defenseless They felt like they were under attack As though they needed to protect themselves But rather than Actually protecting themselves They abandoned themselves And they created a false self This person who's supposed to be So attractive and desirable So powerful This person who's in control So now they've lost touch with that They can't connect with themselves anymore And that's why they cannot connect to you Because before you connect to anyone You need to be connected to yourself Something they can't do So naturally They are going to be miserable They are going to act out in strange ways And this is why so many people say You can't cure narcissism Because they cannot connect to themselves When that's what they need Connection They need to feel Connected to something But they can't That's one thing they'll never get to experience Is that real connection And it's sad When you think about it because Many of these people They abandoned Who they really are In an attempt to protect themselves They felt vulnerable But then you also have to think We've all been victims ourselves here And When you're a victim In a situation You make a choice And they chose To become the abusers They made a conscious choice to do that And by doing that They lost the ability to connect to themselves They lost the ability to connect to you Or anyone else And to experience Love and true intimacy And that is why No amount of money or success Or power Or sexual partners Will ever fix these people And that is why They act in this way So yeah, let me know your thoughts on this Why do you think Narcissists act in this way I'm interested in hearing your opinions as well Angela says I'm afraid I still would not have much pity on them After the lifelong damage they did to me To all of us Yes, they chose to be an abuser A conscious choice That's right There most definitely was a conscious choice Just as we made our choice To have empathy for people To have compassion And to not dedicate our lives To trying to take revenge Or hold grudges Which is what these people do TNT Storm says if it works for the narc Then why would they change That's very true I did a video on that Why do narcissists choose evil over doing good In their minds there's no incentive for them to do good Doing good doesn't get them anything They believe that the only way they can win And get ahead Is by doing evil If that was not true They would just do good Leah says best revenge is no revenge Walk away and take your power back Definitely You don't want to play their game It's not going to be good for your mental health To engage in those behaviours That's the conscious choice that they made Is to become more like their abusers To protect themselves And in the end that just Destroyed their mental health And made them who they are today Never let go of who you are TNT Storm says the narcissist Abuses themselves They can't express anything they truly feel That's right They flew away Love and connection By their own choice So that they could become The abusers Thinking that would make them feel powerful But that's the thing When you're so obsessed with power You can't connect to people anymore Rachel Creative says Being good wins in the end Yes I'm a firm believer in that I believe that whatever you put out Comes back to you And I do believe that these narcissists They always get their karma at the end They're very good at hiding it But even if you just look at them As they are right now They're always angry They're always plotting something They've dedicated their lives to these schemes Something that a happy person Would never do That's all for this video I'd like to thank you all for joining Please give it a thumbs up if you enjoyed it Leave your thoughts in the comments Subscribe if you haven't subscribed yet


Any advice for anyone that is interested in getting into the game? You know, some of the smaller tournaments, this is competitive, it's very friendly, but it's pretty competitive, but some of the smaller tournaments out there around the country, that's a good way to do it. I mean, people love to see new players come out, because they may have a chance of beating them, you know, but no, really, there are a lot of good people playing diplomacy, and a lot of people really love the game and would really go out of their way to get other people to play, and it's a unique situation. I mean, anyone can play a game like Monopoly that you can buy on any store shelf and, you know, slug your way through rolling dice and stuff.  Just play the game, don't take it personal, because if you take it personal, it'll just tear you apart. Yeah. I'm Andrew and this is my brother, Ryan. Good day. Where are you guys from? Vancouver. The White North. So you guys go to tournaments together? Huh?  Tournaments? We've been to a couple. Together. Yeah. Dragonflight? Right. Did you play Dragonflight? My brother's a hoser. And we played at the WAC a couple years ago. Washington Athletic Club. What? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm in. I'm in. Anyway, so yeah, we're gonna play Diplomacy. Did you guys start playing together? No. I played by myself for years. Jesus. And you're out of it. Get in here. No, I played before I met him. Possibly his brother's a hoser. I would play for Sicily 70. So what is that? Like over 25 years ago. Because I've ranked Diplomacy on a web site called Board Game Geek. And I've given it a 10, which is the highest rating you can get. And yet it's not my favorite game, not by a long shot. I like a few other games more. There are even some games I like more that I give a lower rating to. I just enjoy playing them more. Diplomacy is an extremely elegant game. And I consider it to be the game. Well, the game, I believe that's true. It's a beautiful game.  But even out-guessing your opponent takes... It's like poker is just as luck. But I don't know what they call poker a skill game. And a lot of that is through out-guessing your opponent. If reading people is part of the skill, doing that well will make you... Unfortunately, it brings out the sociopath in most people. And that's kind of an unfortunate side effect. But if you can just, you know, keep that where it belongs, then it shouldn't have any adverse effects. Which is in the bedroom naturally. Yeah, sociopathic. You're thinking psychopathic when it comes to that. Well, better that kept me going. I think it's also dangerous, though. You got me thinking. That's always a dangerous, very dangerous. Yeah, I actually went down a bit of a rant the other day. I play a postal game out of Colorado. Have you ever played that before? I know. Can I get you into that? What? Once a month. You only play one turn a month. So a game drags on for a year or more. Often quite like a year and a half or two years. And I went down a bit of a rant in one of their newsletter issues about how a lot of people are turned off by the game because they come in, they play a game, and there's a lot of painful things happening.  All those things. Really, you know, in a general society, that's what the world is a cool place. Not societies of, you know, types of qualities that we like to see come out of people. You can put them in good use. So diplomacy here is life. Well, you're being naive. Perhaps. People lie. People cheat. People steal. So what made you rank Diplomacy as a 10? What are your favorite games, if you rank? My favorite game is Air Assault on Crete, a historical simulation of the airborne assault the Germans did on the island of Crete in 1942 and World War II. And that's just, I just have a lot of fun playing the game. Is it an Avalon Hill game? That's correct. Yeah. It only rates a nine, but it's my favorite game of all time. It's not a perfect game. You know, some of the things in the game can be better. Perhaps a little lopsided in victory conditions. But Diplomacy rates a 10 because it is almost perfect. It's really amazing how every side has a really good chance. And it's really got nothing to do with your position on the board. It's all up to you as a person how you do in the game. Is that really true? Isn't it possible you can get stuck in situations where you're going to be against a group of people who are predisposed to not allow you to do well in the game? That is perfectly possible. Why would they be predisposed? I don't know why. That comes from outside the game itself. Well that's the problem. That's not playing the game. If you're bringing outside stuff into the game... Baggage. Emotional baggage. Absolutely. You're tainting it. But we're human beings, so it happens naturally. I guess so. So it's kind of an incorp. Yeah, maybe. You can see it out there. But it's a humanity that makes it.