Slip saddle on her Here's a pad Pad shouldn't be that big of a deal Hardly ever is Let her know her everything's good here Thanks, golden. Well, she's not afraid of it.  That's great. The saddle may be a different kind of story You know, I'm not a real big believer in Slipping a saddle on them, you know, I want to go ahead and just Put it on like I normally would that to me was outstanding because I know some viewers probably can't see What we can feel but this little feeling Really could have blown up because she's got a lot of feel You bet sensitive But the power of the mind and how you kept her mind on you the whole time took her mind off Yes, sir, you know, it completely It completely changes their thought process, you know, this is one that Like you say, she's real touchy. She's real feely. You know, she feels that sack really good. She feels this flag but If those ears are on me, we're not worried about Everything else that's going on in the world right now, you know, and that's what you know You've heard that saying keep them under your thumb You know and To me that that's that's what it means to me. You know, that's what it means to me is keep them Right here right here where they're thinking Not yielding the hindquarters and you know that stuff because if you watch this man move around She she moves around today the same way that she's going to move around When she's working a cow, you know, she she's got that stop. She's got that draw She's gonna have a little front end move to her. You know, it's gonna look pretty good So I sure don't want to take that away from her today You know to tell her To tell her hey, I need you to move your hips around or or all that stuff Don't don't give your own that had to be broke.


Hello from Tucson! It took a couple days off to, I don't know, edit, relax, but we're gonna get some information. This is Lauren and Lauren bought all of her Christmas presents for, how much are they worth? About $175. And what did you pay? $14. Okay so what's the trick? So on Black Friday all the toys were 50% off and throughout the year when I shop at Walgreens I just saved my balance rewards points and cash a minute Christmas. So it was like $70 in rewards so I ended up paying $14 for all this. That's awesome. And are you posting about this stuff on your Facebook page? Yes. Okay and what is it? facebook.com backslash murder me lovely. Murder me lovely. I'll put the link in the description. I think Lauren should start a YouTube channel or a blog or something about how she gets all these goodies for next to nothing. Maybe. Well all good things come to an end and I need to say goodbye to a very special person who it's hard to say you aren't married to Dan anymore but Dan the adventure bus his wife I don't want to say widow is a very lovely person and has included me into the family like one of her own. So I just want to say thank you. We love you and we want you back anytime. I always get a little worked up when I think about.  I know you guys have been asking me to come east so you guys are in Florida through Louisiana and the south I'm coming your way I think. I just met up with Chris from Chris and G Travels. Yes we did so we did an interview on mine and I kind of feel bad I apologize I'm not gonna spend the same amount of time on your rig as you did on mine.  Thank you. So we're selling this guy if you want an RV we're selling this one. All right what is it? It's a 2008 Monaco Monarch. Okay. So we built this essentially to be off the grid so we have solar lots of water preservation gear in there but we bought a 40 foot school bus we're gonna be burnt that into a boondocking rig so 200 300 gallons of fresh water is the goal thousand watt solar 300 a thousand watt amp-hour battery six the ultimate goal so and and how much do you want to sell this thing for in case anybody is in the market perhaps even my uncle Larry we're just talking the other day. Hey if somebody comes with 40 to 45 wow bought it for 55 holy crap and have about 10,000 into it so wow that's um man that is no joke I had no idea these things are so expensive that's crazy but it is very nice though. Yeah well once you start looking at these school buses like how well this is built compared to how that's built those are built just to get them through the assembly line they get them out in the in the market. We're trying to sell them on your RV not the school buses. They know how much better that is so that's funny but they essentially just get them out in the market and then they fix them afterwards yeah so you have the factory fix whenever you buy these things brand new we didn't buy it brand new but I have friends who have bought brand new RVs and they sit in the shop for two or three months afterwards getting everything fixed crazy they just get them out and let's briefly touch on your channel if anyone hasn't already seen you what kind of stuff are you doing on your channel so we the last five years we've been doing the trip from Tucson Arizona up to Alaska so we just work up there during the summer then we do the vlogs do social media marketing do that whole online work just trying to be digital nomads as much as possible but more recently we're switching over to converting a school bus right actually tonight I'll be editing the trip from Florida where I bought the bus up to Colorado where roof rays and then down to here then we're going to do the whole build on you can you can you raise the roof real quick raise the roof 22 inches I thought it was going to be this simple not simple but I had no idea how much work was going to go in yeah they really do they really do it was it's such a great mod so yeah and by the way I need to get out of here before Chris goes over to the Wells Fargo because he was offering me gas money for a collab and I said absolutely not that's not how it works I've had many awesome people help me out for free okay no no this is what I'm trying to convince him of when you know when we travel we meet people that do need that gas money and right now I have so much karma that I need to pay back people that help me on the road and you too no you already did you did a video of me we I gotta go guys let's hit the road let's get out of here we won't even see the inside of this guy's right cuz he's trying to give me money and I don't want it although I do need it but you know I'll do a patreon like you guys are asking me for so totally shit yeah let's do it let's do a quick little run through the inside and it's very messy right now because we just got back from a camping trip so I got back from picking up the bus or getting the bus back to AZ the day before yesterday I had enough time to get the bus ready to start working on it again then we put all our stuff in here to go on our anniversary camping trip so it's a little messy but this is the the class a class a and it looks like you guys do have a dog we do have a dog you can probably see it on my not so much sure the couch everywhere so this is a full body size is the one thing I'm gonna miss from from this rig to the bus so from here all the way back to that bed this whole thing just slides out things huge it is so you got to BLM land you got the public land we have 60 gallons of fresh water we have all these containers here for our drinking water so we're able to go out to BLM land for a week week and a half at most because we hike we run trails every day like we're sweating so I hate going to bed sweaty yeah oh that's why I put on a few pounds I was going because I didn't want to go to bed sweaty yeah yeah so it was it's one of those things where we can set this up be out in the middle of nowhere and then just be able to camp for free so this last 2017 we stayed at three now for RV parks because for our anniversary trip we went to this boondocking spot that was down by Mexico there's a sign that said illegal immigration and smuggling in the area so well she didn't feel too comfortable doing that I thought we'd be fine whatever man we didn't stay there but yeah you could pass out water or right you know right exactly or you could have been held up or maybe even bought directly from the source or maybe somebody would have just stole the RV from us boom there you go as long as I get my my hard drive there you go very nice hanging with you hey it was a pleasure no we're not going there we're not going to the bank guys I got to go to see Chris on the road and meet G but yeah you're right next next time we meet man hopefully the bus will be at least halfway livable you know what I can do instead of giving you cash we will cook some some good food I will take you up on that I need a good steak steak dinner hey deal sounds good I escaped without Chris trying to give me money so that was a very nice offer by the way but it's hard for me sometimes to accept money from people and also we're doing a collab so I feel like this is a mutually beneficial arrangement here otherwise I'd be owing so many people so much so much money I'll just pay it forward so if you are an up-and-coming youtuber or whatever and I'm passing through hit me up and be happy to hang out so I feel like that would be paying it forward Texas picnic area not even a rest area although it was kind of considered a rest area blue sign the freeway if you can't tell I'm absolutely exhausted I've been driving since I don't know 3 30 4 p.m. and it's now like midnight so it's been a pretty solid day on the road only stopped for a very mediocre water burger I don't know why you Texas people are in love with those things in and out all the way baby anyways thanks for watching I will see you guys on the road tomorrow if I wake up


Hey guys welcome back to our channel. My name is Andrea and I'm Howard and we are with food inventory adventures in food And we are here today with an unboxing from Universal Yums Full disclosure. We did receive this box at the end of December But as you know, I had a baby around that time We'll actually mid December and so we just did not get a chance to unbox this and we debated about doing it But I say we do it. Yeah, because there are so many good things in here So we wanted to share it with you guys. So if you're not familiar Universal Yums is a monthly subscription box and Each month it comes with about I don't know 10 to 12 snacks It's $25 a month and in the box you get this little guide which gives you information on the different countries I think I forgot to mention Universal Yums It's a subscription box with snacks from different countries around the world So each month you get a guide with information on that country With information on all the different snack items in there It also has recipes and fun facts about that country. So with the December box Traditionally, they send you snacks from all the different countries. So it's not just one country. It's from all over the place So we'll go ahead and jump in and get started. Okay. So the first thing that we're gonna try are these raspberry potato chips and It says that they are a Let's see inspired by a Spanish New Year tradition And I've never had a raspberry potato chip before How do they smell? You like raspberry? No, but it's a regular chip and it's not pink or anything or red. Cheers. I taste a little sweetness Do you? Yeah, they hint a raspberry in there. I'll taste a hint of raspberry Not necessarily Sweet. Well, I guess I taste it now. It's like on the back end. It's a hint. Mm-hmm. It's really crunchy and crispy It's actually pretty good. So it's not like sugary sweet, but it just has a hint of raspberry. Yeah, it's pretty good Yummy yummy. Okay, so the next thing we're gonna try is Cannot pronounce that at all, but it is a chocolate coated biscuit with cream filling and These are from Uruguay So, oh, it looks like this I'm gonna cut it. So I thought it was hard like a like a chocolate covered Oreo. Is it? Or is it soft? It doesn't look like it has a Cookie in the middle.  Put this again. Okay. Cheers. Cheers. Not bad Not bad. That's our child crying in the background in case you're hearing something I don't like it. I like it has an almond flavor and I don't like almond flavored stuff But it does not have the consistency of an Oreo. It has a lighter consistency The cream I don't care for either. It's not a cookie with No Yeah Hey, next up Okay, so the next thing on our list is this Bundler, I'm probably saying that wrong nest tortilla alpine nut cake and It is a cake filled with walnuts and honey crumbly high-energy pastry caramelized walnuts Not what I expected me either now Howard usually likes stuff like this. I'm not usually a big fan of it So he's gonna cut it open for us I'm not really a big fan of apples like I can eat a raw apple, but like apple pie. It's really not my thing So let's see here piece. Yeah, I mean little piece. I got the big piece. Okay, so what is it? The outside part tastes like to you like the texture. What what is that texture? I can't put my finger on it That pays me. Oh, I really liked it What is it? What is the outside? I Don't know. I can't describe it, but it's like a pastry. It is like a pastry The consistency Would it be like a vanilla wafer? No, is it if they're like, um, they're any almond or anything in here walnuts I know, but like, you know, like the almond flavor. I don't I don't know. I don't see it I like that and it tastes like that to me But I can't describe it But it's like a it's not a cake. It's not like a wafer Yeah, I can't really explain it either. It's like a it's a I don't know. I can't explain it I really can't you know those. Yeah, you know like those loft house cookies like if you like the loft house cookies that are the soft cookies with the Like the icing on them. They sell them in the grocery stores to me That's kind of the texture of the outside of this kind of a little bit harder, but it's kind of that texture I can't describe it. All right. Okay. So what's next is these Tara? Tarelli cone semi-day Fennel Chio Terrible y'all. So these are wheat snacks with fennel seeds and that is not I won't like this. I'm not a big fennel seed person But these are from trying to figure out which country these are from Do not see it on here. Reminds me of a pretzel. Oh, it does kind of like a pretzel I don't like the smell. I know. I don't care for the smell at all. I probably won't care for the taste either Cheers hard.  I don't think this is it looks like a pretzel, but it does not taste like the pret a pretzel I have the fennel and it has a really strong fennel taste. Don't like those. Okay. I say no to that one So next we have a milk chocolate bar with roasted almond. We probably won't try this It looks pretty good.  I think you had it. I think it upside down. Did you know? Okay, so I love chocolate and I love almonds, but we're not gonna try that on camera. So the next thing up is It's ube and I'm probably saying that wrong it's ube shortbread cookie, which is a Filipino shortbread cookie and ube If I'm saying that correctly is a purple yam. So this is interesting like taro or something Maybe Purple it's very thick. Oh, it's good to me. It does not look good to me at all Very dense is it You know, those are two words. I don't like to hear with pastries It's like a shortbread cookie. Get a piece. You can have a smaller piece.  It doesn't have that. I'm scared.  Oh, it's very dry Flowery tastes like dirt dirt. That's what it is.  Aren't you sad? No. Oh I don't mind the taste just that I need some liquid or something to wash this down It's very very honestly the texture to me tastes like dirt. It's very very powdery It does not taste like a shortbread cookie. I'm gonna be a peanut butter. No No That's the thumb sound for me Okay, so next we have some potato chips Again, I cannot pronounce it but it is roasted chicken flavored potato chips And these are from France So that's pretty exciting Yeah, well the roasted chicken Smell like chicken like no. It does not just smells like a chip just like the other one cheers Hmm interesting That would be a no for me. He ate my other half That's a no I don't mind it. Did they take it does taste like chicken? You know what it tastes like It's seasoned it tastes seasoned but Trader Joe's right around Thanksgiving. They have this I think it's chicken and stuffing potato chip. So if you like those and you were probably like that it does have a I Can't explain it. I don't care for it though, but it doesn't taste like chicken. Just taste savory Okay, so the next thing in the box Is baklava? It's a mixed baklava. Usually they give you we've had this I think we've had this in another box. Yeah country. It's from mm-hmm. It is from Do not see it on here But we there's normally like five or six little how many you're in there four So there's four pieces of baklava. I want to turn it on the back so they can see the picture Back right oh that front has a picture and then the back has Has that on there so there's four in there, but we're not gonna open up that box I'm enjoying it. You do you like those and I don't really care for baklava. So the next thing is These wafers with apple streusel cream filling This sounds like it is right up here alley. Yes, it does. It's pretty big. These are from Austria One shot. Yeah, go ahead. So it says let me see here. It's broken though. Yeah The outside so It says these things became an overnight sensation and they're really popular around Christmas time It is a cinnamony cinnamony cream filled wafer Was something you'll crave for the future And this was inspired by baklava pretty big It's like like this perforated here, too. Oh, yeah Like a sandwich it looks like one of those Like just a regular sugar wafer that she find in the grocery store the kind that are like pink and brown and vanilla That's what it looks like to me and I've never liked those things So all right, you can have a small piece Have a bigger piece Good to me. It smells very very sweet and apple like apple pie filling. Oh, that'd be good. Cheers Good super sweet. Oh I like sweet it's very very sweet And it has an artificial apple flavor flavor to me. Yeah I agree with you. I taste the Artificial apple type. Yeah, I don't like that Okay, so the next thing up are Let's see cannot pronounce them again, but they are a wheat pretzel stick with garlic filling Now, I don't know if this is going to be like a Soft wet garlic filling or these are going to be dry garlic filling picture. It's like a garlic in there Um, let's see. These are from Croatia And these are popular around christmas too. It says they're called christmas wheat um It says Oh, okay. Not what I expect neither I smell the garlic. Do you you can't really see the filling you can't see that filling on the inside, but there's a little bit in there Cheers garlic strong garlic Oh, yeah, not super savory like burning garlic burning. What does that mean? It's so strong it burns It's not good it does it it just tastes like like there's no salt To me, it's just garlic like there's nothing savory strong. I need some sweet. It's extremely strong That would be a thumbs down for me. Okay. So the next thing we have are white cinnamon cookie Belgian chocolate, which is a white chocolate with cinnamon cookie pieces Now we're just going to open that up. Mm-hmm And it says during the holiday season um, it's you know These are pretty common. These are from belgium and these are popular there Let's see here The most common toys in belgium are belgium chocolates in cinnamon cookies called speculose And so this is a white cinnamon chocolate with those speculose. I'm probably saying that wrong cookie Inside so the bar was already broken apart. Yeah, it's broken. It's broken. It's a pretty big bar. It's thin. Yeah, it's super thin Cheers. Good piece. It's good It's not bad very cinnamon-y Super cinnamon-y if you don't like cinnamon, you probably wouldn't like this I don't get super cinnamon-y. I taste cinnamon But I like cinnamon Yeah, and I like cinnamon too, but these are very cinnamon-y to me But they're still good and you taste the creaminess of the white chocolate. You've got the crunch of the cookie Whoops, it's actually pretty good. I don't mind that at all Okay, so next up we have um these treats from japan Um, and they are a pretzel cookie with the caramel almond filling. So let's try those out How's it gonna open the box? It said in on the description of this product it says that mid december Um, in japan they kind of pick a little siesta There's the one of the packages inside the box one of several Um, and they're sweet and salty and these are tradition during mid january Oh, no, they're super thin. Two cookies in each or whatever they are in each one. Yeah, I'll take one And they're through them They're super duper. Look how thin they are. They're kind of like an Oreo thin Cookie, I mean they're that thin Cheers I'm gonna taste the outside by itself Tastes the filling Caramel This is caramel almond filling. I like it So the cookie I thought it was gonna be sweet and salty, but I taste mostly sweet I tasted this little cookie part by itself and it just tastes like a thin Not really sweet cookie and then the filling. Yeah, the filling. What do you think? I like it What does it taste like to you? Well, again, it has the almond stuff in there, which I like Tastes almond and cinnamon and see I don't really care for almond flavoring and I don't taste almond I just taste like caramel So I guess if you like almond or you don't like almond, you'll probably like this cookies if you like a Crunchy Cookie. Oh, I'm pretty good. Yes, I agree. Okay. So next up we have Oh, this is up your alley. You can't pronounce the name of it But it is a gingerbread with black currant icing The package has several individual little gingerbreads in there, you know that? And See, I don't like stuff like this, but Howard does it has a sweet black currant berry icing And this is from the heart shape and there's six of them in the package And these are a Polish snack So these are right up your alley I expected kind of filling. I guess it's all gingerbread Yeah, so there's no filling on the inside, which I thought there would be two I guess the thing's inside there the uh, what's the other thing? Black current yeah And it's dry. So it's not like a wet moist cookie. Yeah took too much Very dry very dry taste the the black current or whatever it is immediately Probably on the outside Okay, so I've never had current before I don't know if I've even well, I guess this is current right here There's current in the picture that one icing so I get it right. So you put it on your in your mouth. I get the current I don't like that taste to me and for lack of a better word. It tastes kind of musty tasting I don't care for this at all at all I would need some liquid to go with this Milk or something very dry is very very dry. So it's not like a wet moist No, very dry pastry, whatever it is. Okay. So next up we have What's next? I think we open them off Yeah, I don't have a next. Yeah, I came to the end of the book. So that's it. But let me show you guys so There's a recipe in here and that looks really good Chinese New Year dumplings and then there's recipes for Punch and you know just recipes from different countries I mentioned to you that this booklet has a description of the products and then also Fun facts as well. So that's it that that was the entire box. What was your favorite thing? Oh I remember liking This apple thing here apple almond thing. I like the this chocolate thing here. It was good What's your favorite thing? I'm guessing this almond thing Okay, that's where it's called. Okay. So I would have to say that my favorite item Or these raspberry chips. I didn't think I would like them. What was your least favorite? Oh, no, uh No competition here this uh fennel Yeah, these things I'd have to agree with you. I would say these are my absolute least favorite things. So Yeah, but that's it. 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Chemist group developed between Tannadale and Julio Jones and say they've been out here working a little more. Yeah, it's been nice to get out there together and watch those guys put in the work and do some things physically. I think it's been a step in the right direction and certainly a work in progress. But those guys are pros as we've discussed before. You know, I'm seeing exactly what I anticipated as those guys working together to get on the same page. You guys didn't really have much of the first team offense at all in the preseason. Do you expect at all that maybe a series or two where there might be a little rust to get knocked off there? The way we prepare and the expectations we have around here, the standard we have around here, I expect our guys to go out and play to that standard. We don't make room for a lead up or a ramp up or knocking the rust off. We expect our guys to go out and play hard, play physical and play a great effort and finish. You ever think back, your first game as coordinator was in the same stadium, wasn't it? It was, yeah. And you won. Have you ever thought about, you know, much about that experience and now getting to do this now in the same place? I have in the past. You know, this week it hasn't really come up. You know, I've been focused on Arizona. I'm certainly very blessed and have had a really fun career. Had some really cool experiences. There are times to remember those and then there are times to be focused on the task of hand. And this week I've been focused on the task of hand. One like, I mean it's exciting for everybody. What's it like for an OC starting a new season? You worked all off season. Do you sleep much the night before? How does that kind of go leading up to the game? Yeah, I think if you've put in the work and the preparation, there's a lot of peace and comfort that comes with that as the week goes on. And so I'm excited. You know, it's going to be a great opportunity for our guys to go out and play. This is about the players. It's not about the OC or about my experiences. It's about them going out and being able to cut it loose and play fast. JJ and then Zaven coming in to that defense. How much of an impact do you think those two guys will make? What's the preparation process with individuals coming into a defense you watched last year? Yeah, two extremely talented players. Obviously, we have great familiarity with JJ and all his accomplishments throughout his career and being in this division.  But we're going to let our rules do the work for us and let the chips fall where they may. Do you feel like you want to dictate to the defense what they do versus how much? Well, if they're showing us this, then we have to do something to counter that. Yeah, I think there's a balance between your identity and stubbornness. You know, and I think we have an identity and we'll have ways that we want to do things and schemes we want to run. And then we're going to have to adapt and adjust to things that maybe we haven't seen on tape or unscotted looks. So there's a balance there for sure. You know, I think that our guys work really hard to be fully prepared. And like I said, let our rules take us where we need to go. With this Russian attack, it seems like patience is big. Like Derrick could have negative one, one, then 70. How do you kind of like handle that, keep hammering away, keep loading that wagon with the back right there? You know, again, I think as part of our identity, you know, we're not in the business of letting other people dictate what we do or don't do. So sometimes it takes a little bit longer in the process. We believe in physicality and effort and finish around here. And that includes, you know, our posture as we go about the game plan. I feel like you've gotten a good picture of Josh Reynolds and what he can bring to the offense. I know he's kind of been in and out of training camp with the injuries. Yeah, I think Josh fits in a similar boat as Julio.  We've seen on tape his ability to handle multiple roles in different positions.  So looking forward to see what Josh can contribute this year. I guess the most about the chest during him is the ability to kind of come in here and carve out a role for himself. Yeah, he's a guy that just consistently produced in his one-on-one matchups, you know, and throughout the course of camp, you guys were out there.   And that's a big trait when you're back there deciding who to throw the ball to, the guys you can depend on tend to get targeted. Your third down running back situation kind of a mystery to everybody until you unveil it. And is that going to be a game-to-game situation or a situational thing? Yeah, I think it could be task-by-task. You know, Simon, you know, it's required of that player, but we have a number of guys that have worked extremely hard in our protection schemes and learned our third down package. You know, we feel like, you know, we have some options there and versatility there. But, you know, certainly I think that can change by game plan and what we're going to ask that guy to do. Do you have a clear guy at right tackle yet? Do you need that to emerge? We'll let that unfold as it unfolds. And any announcements that come from people above me, you know, can come from people above me. But we just, we're proud of that group for how hard they've worked in the competition, what that has brought out of those players. We're fortunate to have a number of guys there that want that job and that are working hard for that job. Pretty veteran group overall in offense.  Yeah, I think there's some of that same-as translation, right? So even if we haven't had a chance to necessarily run a bunch of reps at a certain route or a certain run scheme, they can relate to something that they've done in the past, right? And that certainly helps the transition or, you know, helps us to kind of navigate some of those early bumps. What do you like about what you seem to appreciate? From the offense, you know, I think, again, that competitive spirit, I think guys wanting to play our brand of football, I think guys buying into the way we ask them to do things. Those have been the encouraging pieces to me throughout the course of August and, you know, now into September. You know, that's a foundation that was laid even before I got here.  Has the offensive coordinator position changed much in your opinion since the last time you did it? Are there different things that you're concerned with now maybe as before?  There's always kind of different dynamics within staffs or, you know, different ways that meeting schedules and things like that may shift how you do your job. You know, ultimately my purpose remains the same in this role. Are you different at all? I hope so. You know, I hope I've learned from my experiences. I think the first discussion I ever had as we gathered, you know, was that I try to learn from every single day, every single experience I have. And I hope I'm a better version of myself today, not just as a coach, as a man, as all sorts of different titles than I was back in 2017.


Alright. Hello everybody. I'm so glad you were patient enough to wait it out for your Zoom link and I'm glad you're all here. Let me turn on the backup recording. Okay. Recording in progress. Alright, so let me pull up my slides. We'll get going. So tonight is our monthly book chat. We're not broken. Changing the autism narrative by Eric Garcia. So I, oh, I like I literally forgot to introduce myself like it's a anyway for the for the recording purposes. I'm Mel Hauser I use she they pronouns I'm still executive director here at all brains belong. And this is brain club our educational space to educate about neurodiversity and topics related to inclusive community. This of course is for education purposes only this is not medical or mental health advice. All forms of participation are okay you can have your video on or off and even if it's on we certainly don't expect anything of you. So do what needs doing and communicate however you are most comfortable. I am finding it more difficult to communicate with mouth words as you might be able to hear. So anyway, we'll all just do our best to do what needs doing. Anyway, so I'm in addition to affirming all aspects of identity. We want to make sure that this is a safe space for all people, and if for whatever reason you feel uncomfortable for any reason. Lizzie can you can you wave hello. This is Lizzie our education programs coordinator direct messaging is enabled. Lizzie will see a direct message before I will if I'm in sure screen mode so feel free to send a private message to Lizzie if you're uncomfortable for any reason so that we can take action. Okay, last bit of access to close captioning is enabled you just have to toggle it on if you'd like to use it so depending on your version of zoom. You can click either live transcript closed captioning if you don't see that more and choose show subtitles, and if you don't see that. I mean if you change your mind. You can choose hide subtitles. And that's the chat box, the speech bubble. Okay, so we are completing our month of theme but certainly not completing our reimagining of community by any means. This book written by Eric Garcia, who is an autistic journalist, who is the senior Washington correspondent for the independence is a political journalist previously has held additional high profile positions for the Washington Post and other publications. And what this book is about is Mr Garcia discusses examples of systems that were not designed with autistic people in mind sound familiar healthcare education employment. And we in just a minute will watch a brief video interview with Eric Garcia talking about rewriting the narrative of autism. And then after that clip will watch Mr Garcia discussing. He's going to talk about some of the examples in the book he goes into many more examples than he does in the video clip that that will play. But but he writes quite a bit about what we talk a lot about during brain club, which is intersectional privilege and intersectional marginalization, and gives examples and interviews with with people who are autistic and have various gender class employment status social isolation. And with that. I'm going to stop share. And David you can take it away. And in fact you now that I've introduced both video clips David you can play them back to back and and cut down on cut down on the steps of cognitive switching for all for you and me. There we go. What I would say to parents who feel that autism needs to be fixed is we do not tell children in real chairs that they need to walk. We do not tell deaf children that they need to learn how to hear they need a culture. We don't tell blind children that they need to see. But for some reason when it comes to developmental disabilities we assume that we need to change or alter that. In order for them to deserve an education in order for them to deserve being treated as a human being. And I think what we need to say is that autistic people are fully formed human beings as is they are not partially human and that being autistic is part of them. It's not something that afflicts them. It defines how they see and live and interact with the world. This is the last day on my way to the office. I'm in New York City right now, and I had to think about how do I get to the office how do I deal with all the stimuli going on with the sound of the car horns, and cars wasn't buying people walking past me. It's an integral part in my day. I think about it constantly with how I move and interact with the world. So in the same way I am asking able-bodied people and able-minded people to keep autistic people in mind and be understanding and accepting. Because that takes oddly enough a lot less work than trying to change autistic people. The most important thing to recognize is that plenty of autistic people of color go on diagnosed or get misdiagnosed. Plenty of black autistic children are misdiagnosed as having a behavioral disorder. And if you're misdiagnosed as having a behavioral disorder, then schools are going to treat you differently. And they're not going to give you the same kind of services that maybe a white presenting child might have. In the same respect, a lot of the diagnostic criteria is still delivered with white male autistic children in mind. So as a result, a lot of children from English as a second language homes are avoided. On top of that, plenty of girls are overlooked or people who are assigned female at birth, they're often overlooked. And I think that often prevents them from getting the right services that they need. And on top of that, I think because for a long time, we tend to think of autistic traits as something that boys have. When it comes to girls, if they're quiet or they're not a socially interactive, we tend to think, oh, they're just a mirror or they're just, you know, a quiet girl.  And in the same respect, I think when it comes to the LGBTQ plus community and I say this is assisted or heterosexual male, I think a lot of times their needs aren't taken seriously or a lot of times they are dismissed simply because they're autistic. Or their identity is dismissed because how could they know what they want if they're autistic. But I think once again, their needs to be taken seriously or what their desires and what their plans are should be taken seriously and should be taken at face value. On top of that, I think the other thing to remember is that misdiagnosis and a lack of diagnosis has a cost. Plenty of girls who get diagnosed later have difficulties with eating disorders or have trouble with interpersonal violence later on. And that's not to blame the girls to say that if you don't understand how you move through the world and how you're disabled, that can lead to people really bad people taking advantage. And on top of that, with many people of color who get misdiagnosed or undiagnosed, that can lead to really terrible interactions with law enforcement. It can lead to incarceration. We need some quotes as we usually do in our book chats. We don't know what autism in and of itself looks like. We only know how autism informed by trauma presents itself. What I'd add to that is that DSM criteria for autism are autistic stress behaviors. And yet, on top of that, it is also true that autistic people of color are misdiagnosed or inappropriately labeled as quote, misdiagnosed and behavior problems, everything that Eric Garcia said is true. And there's just so many different layers of what the medical model of autism offers and how harmful it is to so many people. And this, autistic people's value and work should not be tied to whether they are employable. No matter if an autistic person holds a high paying job or receives government assistance, autistic people should be viewed with the same dignity that all people serve. This is the last, the last quote and then we'll, we'll discuss. If there's going to be a policy that has seismic impacts on their lives, meaning autistic people's lives, they deserve to have a say in it, no matter how a person communicates. This comes from the chapter on non-speaking communicators. Furthermore, while many parent advocates, clinicians and other quote experts may have good intentions, centering their voices continues to give them power that should lie with the autistic community. To achieve any true sense of freedom, autistic people need to take this power back. And here's Eric Garcia's website and Twitter account. And then I would love to know how all of this is landing on folks. Hi, this is Sierra. I think the, I think the point about that we, we don't necessarily know. We might not frequently see what autism looks like without a basis of trauma is a really important point because I think I, I fairly, fairly often hear that like, oh, well we can't diagnose autism because this person has so much trauma or we can't separate out what's trauma and what's autism. And I think that exactly it's a myth. And I think that that's that's that's such a common thing that is kind of thought about in it's certainly in the medical community but I think elsewhere too. And I think that just knowing that those because of the way our world functions and because of the expectations put on people, those are necessarily intertwined. And that you can't, you can't necessarily separate them and we shouldn't necessarily have to always. Thank you, Sierra. I could not agree more. It's interesting when I am better regulated. My time processing is different, like in full transparency, I, I think I might be like experiencing time more accurately right now like I generally would never sit in silence this long. I was totally noticing that I was like, this is so nice. Everyone can really have a chance to chime in. There's no space for someone like me that like, like silence. I was going to say that the parenting thing you know the first part of the clip that you shut that you shared. It resonates a lot with me as a parent. The idea of, you know, just the idea that you know it needs to be fixed and that you know it, we would never say that to somebody who had the other things that you know he listed. And yet that's such a prevalent mindset when you look at, you know, we're going to teach them how to be social and, you know, do all of these different kinds of trainings and classes to make them fit. And so that just really resonated with me as a parent. I think Sarah and I think that so much of that is driven by the medical system. So I can say as a parent that when my child received the diagnosis it was like here. So now you get on the train and you do the thing. I'm like, Oh no, we're not, we're not going to do that thing. And of course you're going to do the thing. Everyone does the thing. No, we're not going to do the thing. So but that's that that is hard. I think it's also hard. I mean it was interesting. He had so many points, but I think it's also hard as the adult who, for instance, I was late diagnosed just just like a year and a half ago. I'm putting all the pieces together, but I'm still trying to catch up and put all the pieces together for my child and catch up to where she is like she's starting to go through transition out of high school. And now there are all these things. And I'm like, and then I, you know, so it's the catch up I feel like even though in our community of the neuro diverse and that's one thing I just wanted to mention.  I'm like, no, I'm diverse. I'm just it's I'm I'm one a different flavor. I'm not wrong. And I feel like that that labeling really really bothers me and that's what everybody uses. That was like a side note. But yeah, so, so I remember as a kid, my sensory issues before any trauma happened, and then then, you know, growing and then learning that you have something going on after the fact. So it's it's just, I don't know, I feel like we're trying to learn my own stuff, my kids stuff, and teach the world that stuff. And it's great that it's like changing but it's a lot. That resonates with me so much and like intellectually I might know a bunch of stuff and you know I I only learned that I was autistic two years ago, and I don't feel like in the thick of the challenges of parenthood. I'm able to necessarily apply most of what I've learned about myself in real time to support my child, because of all of the competing stimuli and the conflicting access needs and like all of. This is added in the chat, my daughter works at a very inclusive firm and marketing, she was told by the owner today that she needs to dress better. There's no dress code, and can't go in tomorrow and she finds some clothes that aren't leggings and t shirt. She wears these clothes because of her sensory processing she needs to be comfortable. It's hard. It's hard. Nature lovers added, I like Garcia's quote of parent give on Stasan. I would not change my son for the world. So I will change the world for my son. I also agree with Garcia that the medical model is wrong and the social model is correct, biggest obstacle to disability is a world around disabled people that does not accommodate them right and forks. Forks and obstructs. Yes.  Cynthia saying, I thought leggings and t shirt was a work uniform. Certainly my work uniform. So, so it's, it's, it's the idea of being that it would be, you know, and I, and I think, you know, communication is everything right so, you know, I think how this plays out like it's a pretty pretty close example. So my child generally is not wearing clothes. And I have a, you know, the language that I have used to describe why I feel like she should wear clothes when she goes outside. It's not because there's anything wrong with not wearing clothes.  You know, all of these competing things but the idea is to accompany a narrative with, like, this is not because the what you're doing is wrong. It's just that we have all these other issues to balance. And that takes a lot of fun. And that's that. There's a lot of competing priorities that interfere with the perspective taking and like bridging that divide. And which one is right I feel like is the quandary for. I think neither. I think neither one is right. It's, it's the idea that it's kind of like, all right, let me give a better example. On my parents visit. I grew up in a house where there was judgment and commentary on styles of communication that are commonly used in my house by multiple members of my household. So, I made a comment to Luna of just to let you know. You might see this reaction. I just want you to be aware of it. I think it's fine for you to communicate with me this way. And I just want you to know that, you know, there might be a reaction so that you're not surprised. Not because you need to change the way you're communicating but just so that the world makes sense. And that when you have the kind of nervous system that derives safety from predictable systems and like, you know, I'm just just imagining if, if, if, if I am experiencing a particular workplace or school or whatever environment as of being like flexible and inclusive and understanding and whatever. If feedback is given that doesn't fit with that. I think it hurts and is more distressing than if it is feedback that's like consistent with, you know, we do things of this way. It's just hard. It's just, it's anyway, when it comes out of left field for many brains not all brains we all have different brains of course for many brains that is even more destabilizing like I thought I had a sense for how it worked here. And then something happened that did not fit that system. What does that mean about the way my sense for the world, the world must not be a predictable and safe place.  I don't understand how someone could be treating me this way. Cynthia adds just you know trying to help a teenager kid just understand social systems and all of the inevitable unpredictability of that right the predictable system is that it is unpredictable. And as a piece Garcia briefly mentioned about how LGBTQIA to s plus autistics are often told they aren't able to know their own gender or sexuality resonated. As a team my parents were told I was too disabled to know my own sexuality that I was just copying what was popular in the media.  I got some biology education at home and abstinence only education at school. And as an adult, I've spoken on panels and worked with professionals on dismantling this myth that autistic individuals are too disabled to know their own gender or sexuality. Sierra shared with me a study was a qualitative study of Sierra was it was it was it all trans autistic participants in the study, who and like those those quotes that were so intense. Let me see if I can find the, let me see if I can find the study but it was a study of trans autistic and gender non conforming young adults I think, and then, and they kind of interviewed them about what the experience was like being at the intersection and most of, most of the responses were about that about people saying oh well you can't know yourself enough or this is just a, this just a obsession this is just a hyper fixation this isn't actually. You can't actually be gender diverse or whatever. I don't have the study and I'll put it in the chat if I can find it. Thanks. And when zooming out like how in like just help profoundly invalidating to not trust someone's expertise in their own self goes on every day. Thank you for sharing this chat. Well, and it's also so ironic. I mean, that there's this part.  And then when I like, so the part of what they want to correct is that part of me that is like, I can't not, I can't not be true to myself and say the truth as I see it. I can't conform more socially that way but when I say that when I say that this is my gender then they think I'm just conforming.  Recording stopped. That would be us. Recording in progress. I don't know what I just clicked. Yes, exactly. Exactly Sarah. And you know, even, even amongst autistic people, the you know there's there's not not not everyone is incapable of lying.  So it's, it's, it's but but but you're absolutely right of just the, the irony and the nonsensicalness of, of any of that. I think I know when we've done tabling at pride events and that type of stuff I feel like we often get asked oh why is there, why is there this overlap between the two why are there so many LGBTQ people in the neurodiverse community and I mean we don't know why but I think that in some ways if you're already an outsider and if you're already other than it's a little bit easier to sometimes easier to accept other marginalized entities because you're already on the outside you're already being really already facing discrimination and in some ways that can make it easier to just kind of buck the buck the social norms if you're already kind of being forced into that place now that it's easy at all but I mean, and in Sierra I think like zooming way out I should just, you know, but I should just also name for, for anyone who for whom that's a that's that's new, especially anybody watching on recording that there is a relationship between neurodiversity and diversity of gender and sexuality. And, and so, yes, while the, while the, the mechanism of that relationship is can be it can be so many different things it is probably not just one thing. Thank you. Yes. Very good point. I think I was thinking about how people like to think of certain things as as the normal bit. If you look at it from a biological evolutionary thing. Biology is totally different for every single individual, you know. Yeah, neurodiversity is like biodiversity it's the infinite number of ways in which brains do things. And so circling back to Cynthia's point now I'd love to hear what others think about this. I think that when you know there's like all the like, having word finding difficulties but I see a lot of, you know, comments on social media amongst people who use the term neurodivergent. They are careful to distinguish the like semantics of well groups can be diverse, and people can be divergent and then gets into like the grammar thing and you're like, Well, how about just learning what words that people use to describe their own words and like, honor that. And it doesn't need to you know and so I think that if, if people use the word neurodiverse to describe themselves. I don't care as much about the grammar or the whatever or the whatever about that it's like whatever word that someone would use to describe themselves. Same thing with if people use, you know, I use identity first language because autism is part of my identity and there are many autistic people who for whom that's not true. And so they use first and first language and you know, I was I was on a panel recently and you know I was asked to comment on the, the controversy, the controversy of person first versus identity first. It's like, ask the people what they want to use and everybody uses the word that speaks to their own selves. And so it's, you know, it's, it's such a, it's like part of neuro inclusive space and you know I don't, I don't, I don't think we get it right. A lot of the time I think it's like commitment to continuous continuous reflecting and you know, zooming out and revisiting and looking at things and perspective taking and all of it is the idea that you figure out how to negotiate conflicting access needs and there are, you know, people whose cognitive access needs are around certain things that their view of the world that derives, you know, the good that they derive safety from like, well, this is the world, this is the way the world works. You're like, well, it doesn't work that way for me. The way the way the world works for me is this way. But that means, and then it's destabilizing so it's like how do you just acknowledge that that's that that is going to happen it's inevitable it's inevitable that because we all different brains. We're going to have these conflicting cognitive pictures of the world. The other day. One of our board members shared a story about how their, their eight year old was in the car with them and their partner, and the eight year old wanted needed music on rhythmic music because that is a trick for the vestibular system to get nervous and the vestibular nerve share a cranial nerve and a lot of times car sickness can be helped by rhythmic organizing music. So, the eight year old needed the the rhythmic music because of car sickness which is a trick a trick we taught them and the other parent driving needed complete quiet in order to like think and like be safe while driving and so the eight year old names, we have conflicting access needs. I was really proud hearing that story. I think there one is correct. We have to figure out how we're going to balance that if, if society had that framework. I think we would have a very different society, just to be fully transparent. In addition, oh, thanks Cynthia. Thanks for coming. You know the, the how do you balance the creating space for people to join conversation to queue safety to know that there's no right to participate all of that had, you know, balancing with like internally. So the, the narrative of and I remember on when, when, when Sarah was a panelist, I don't remember what the topic was but Sarah was a panelist, and they said, you know, I am always like doubting that I'm sorry Sarah I'm not doubting you but but you said something like, you know, I'm, I find myself doubting whether people are going to want to listen to what I'm saying on this panel, maybe I don't have anything interesting to be saying about like, and so many people are with me with so many people, and certainly did with me. And so in the, in a space where there is quiet, and there is, you know, the appraisal that, well people are disinterested they're not engaged and it's, I have to do something I have to do something. Even though there's often nothing to do. It's like, so that's me having to do on learning of like how it's ever been modeled for me in four decades of facilitating a group, actually because depending on the group. There's also like, I don't know it's often don't actually get a lot of opportunities to practice, because if, again, because we all different brains when you have a lot of brains in a space that are, you know, rapidly ID eating and you know, you have an idea connected to mouth and it comes out very quickly like that if that's happening more than not. There's not. There's not practice. So, I'm really grateful. To have this, because when one of the things that I personally really struggle with is how to create this when it's not provided to me. And so I might try something like, you know, hey, I'd really like to hear from someone I haven't heard from, but I actually don't even really mean that. Because I don't actually need to hear from anyone. And this is exactly what Kat just says. I spent the last 30 minutes processing the first video like it's so okay to be processing in parallel with community like that's so cool. And I don't have any other scripts other than I need an excuse to not call on people who are clearly like available for participation, but yet create silence for the people who need it for processing. So, um, parallel processing. Yes, Sierra. Um, I think that maybe my new script is just going to be a queue for parallel processing times. Let's have some parallel processing. Now Amy has a hand raised. Oh, thank you I did not see that Amy. I'm really appreciating the sort of parallel processing. I feel like I've had some things to add to the conversation as it's gone, particularly the difference between diverse and divergent. And there's something about diverse that feels more inclusive of like, oh, we get to all be different and divergent means like, oh, we've beard away from what we're, and that we've somehow. It's our fault and then like it kind of swirled me back to this idea of like, this need to change behavior that we do we even know autism is that we haven't really seen what what that was and that's based on like normative behavior. And how how so often maybe we've met or we've changed the way because we don't want to be disruptive but it's really the feet are actual sensitivity, or like I'll speak my like my actual sensitivity to the environment. And that is is sometimes corrective because I don't necessarily want to be the one, like I don't necessarily want the attention on me if I'm not behaving what would be deemed as appropriate or not appropriate and, and I just think it's so interesting how I feel like with children, there's like this reigning in or they have to behave a certain way, but it's actually probably the environment that's dysregulated. And that it's not necessarily even like sometimes it's our own dysregulation but I'm realizing more about exploring about what it needs to be a part of the ABB community and exploring my dysregulation within like how do I participate in dysregulated states and it's really sometimes the environment is dysregulated because if there is, if there is particularly like in family environments multi people, you know, many people who are neuro diverse and maybe don't even know it how there's like this movement back play of feeling into the environment, and that one can trigger somebody else's dysregulation. And it's more of like when we can have this space to come into, you know, you've been recently teaching me this of like, kind of queuing other people's dysregulation, and then coming back to how that impact your own sense of being in the environment, and maybe even just stop talking to come back in, and just like allow that, that ebb and flow, because I've been like, throughout this whole evening, really dysregulated when I think I'm going to speak and then I'm like, oh, I'm not going to and then it like calms back down and so it's like, I've been watching my own, but the pace to me tonight in this evening has been one that I've been able to like hear whatever what actually hear what people are saying, I've been able to like, watch my own like movement of dysregulation and regulation, and, and just like your honest email around like what what's been a challenge for you or like the or just like naming the thing. And then I feel like that then allows other people. So for me tonight it just feels like there's, if it's like, there's some times where we get to be in the ebb and flow of of our own experience and then just be able to be present with other people and their experience so I just wanted to say I really appreciated that. Thank you. That's awesome. And I think that, and, you know, from a, even a conflicting access needs standpoint there's something about like even the like, because, because, because clearly it's the slowing down that allows so much. There's other like processes of the cortex to happen. And yet like there's, I almost often like have a, is it almost or is it often notice both is is like a PDA response to the, the directive to slow down, coming from outside of me. And that, that, that often it only happens when my own brain slows down, because it's not like firing on all cylinders right now. So, and that's everything's a trade off, there are some real benefits to that. So, as Christa says that was beautiful and you know I could not agree more. Yes. So I, I am grateful to all of you for being being part of our community being part of our parallel processing tonight. And I look forward to kicking off a new month of Brain Club with you. So next week, I'm sorry, next week is August. So, hey, oh yeah it is it's August 1 that's what that's what happens I was to say I'm like to whisk her up. Is it Mr. more July. Anyway, next month's theme is interdependence and next week, the initial brain club will be about unlearning the myths of independence. So I look forward to seeing you then Rachel I could not agree more how is next week August already. Yes, yes, yes. All right. Thanks everybody. Have a good week. Bye.