Well, hello and welcome to Jonathan from the heart. I'm Jonathan as I have Jonathan as a comment I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today our topic the proof. He feels emotional intimacy. There's a heart intimacy With you are really quickly if you're brand new to my YouTube channel Please hit the subscribe button hit the bell so you can be notified of new videos And if anytime during this video the content resonates with you Please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms really quickly These are my weekend videos. I shoot out on my balcony very similar to the videos I shoot my private group called midlife love mastery This is a group where you can have direct access to me on a regular basis and based on the questions you post in the group I shoot personalized videos just for you. So check out the link below to midlife love mastery All right, let's talk about the proof that he feels emotional intimacy with you I hope that demonstrates emotional intimacy by the way if it's a little bit windy today out on my balcony So if the audio isn't perfect my apologies So lately I've been giving a lot of thought to emotional intimacy today because what I've noticed In particular is a distressing lack of emotional safety in the dating mating and relating process And it seems like so few people are actually achieving emotional intimacy in their relationship and I think partly it's because The dating process is rather dysfunctional people are giving out mixed signal. By the way, I've got notes here But they're giving out mixed signals. It's dysfunctional. It's very selfish. There's a weak relationship skills for so many people there's weak relationship skills and I think it's partly because the dating process is These days the dating process seems like it's more about filling a void within a person whether to fill the void of loneliness or to fill the void of Physical connection with another human being and there's really a distressing lack of Intentionality which makes it very difficult To determine if someone is capable of emotional intimacy. So now my phone is ringing. So please forgive me So I want to lean into this conversation because the reality is is And I've been thinking about this a lot and I'm I'm not suggesting this as a way to scare people per se or to be negative per se but it's rather obvious to me that the process of dating today is Certainly it's it's a lot different in the past and quite frankly in the past. We we glorify the past there's a lot of Rome, you know romantic Expectations that it was just so wonderful, you know 60 70 a hundred years ago, you know, the pride and prejudice where the Emotionally unavailable man stands up and he claims his woman and so there's a lot of fantasy involved And certainly it was a different time 50 60 a hundred years ago was a whole different environment than where we're at today And I think it's really important to disconnect from that. I don't want to say traditional Expectations, although I think I'm going to weave in some traditional into this conversation but certainly this expectation around that the idea of Chivalry and and men are so, you know, men are going to be so a certain way and women must be a certain way No, because that doesn't exist. We live in a really dysfunctional world right now There is a lot of incredible dysfunctionality that's happening at least here in the United States and quite frankly across the world and I'm talking about Emotional dysfunctionality because what happens is and I think this is important to address really quickly for a moment is That there's this misconception as a person gets older.  The older a person becomes they're more likely to be responsible in their life That's certainly true Emotional maturity, that's a whole nother ball game I'm here to really impart on everyone this understanding is that we as we age We actually become more emotionally dysfunctional if we haven't had really good tools or a foundation underneath us and Think about this today. I want you to think about young children Young girls for example using these devices particularly I'm particularly going to talk about young girls for a moment But there is this distressing Morph of humanity happening because of our devices and this is going I mean this is going to create a Whipple effect in the future of emotional dysfunctionality. I mean it's going to require for this generation I think the social media and technology is going is is literally bastardizing Emotional maturity and it's happening for those of us in midlife as well and certainly those in their 20s and 30s And so and it's making look at because of this for example swipe dating You know, it's the reward the reward that if you swipe right you get a reward and you swipe left You know, it's a negative thing and and there's this this Hamster wheel happening in the dating realm and yes, there are people falling in love I want to say that it is happening. So I don't want to sound like an alarmist and at the same time I'm hopefully I'm being a realist, you know, the other day someone asked me on one of my live streams What's the percent? What's the statistical percentage of actually falling in love today? You know, I didn't say what I'm about to say right now, but it reminds me of a line in the movie sleepless in Seattle where I believe it was Rita Wilson and Tom Hanks and their friend were talking and the friend says something like It's easier to be killed by a terrorist than find love if you're over 40 Well, that was a statistic, right? That's probably, you know, one in a million, right? And I'm saying that laughingly, but that's not really a laughable matter Actually, today we actually have a better chance because of these devices because quite frankly it used to because here's the thing I think it's important to understand Proximity plays a huge role in relationship success The closer to people live near each other the closer to people share the same values the closer to people have Mutual friends and hobbies and things like that the greater chance for success The farther apart you go in this area the more dysfunctionality So then you might be thinking well, why do people even connect anyway? It's because most people are living in a fantasy. I'm gonna pull up my relationship iceberg chart the fantasy that Chemist, okay This this has attraction right and that chemistry equals relationship success and what so few humans Recognizes that compatibility is about shared values blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity And so as this and as you've experienced these the water line of attraction begins to drop So when there's so much emphasis on Chemistry It's putting way too much pressure for emotional responsibility in a relationship. I'm repeat That's putting way too much pressure of emotional responsibility in the relationship because not enough emotional intimacy has been built and I'm going to talk about what it's going to take for that emotional intimacy and by the way I highly recommend reading the book emotional intimacy by Robert masters I highly recommend reading this book to get a better understanding of emotional Intimacy and let me add to that a new book. I'm this is a thick-ass book I just got this but it's called the language of emotions. I think human beings don't understand All of the complexity within their emotions They just take it for granted like a Disney movie Then it's just gonna be all I have to do is sit in my feminine energy and the man will play me And by the way, I I beg on that narrative Because it doesn't contemplate You know this whole idea masculine and feminine energy and when a woman is in her masculine energy She's controlling and you know in a certain, you know and Agenda oriented. Well, by the way, that's basically saying that men when they're a masculine energy are Controlling and I don't think any of you ladies want to be with a controlling person and when feminine energy is within a man It's all neediness Well, then that's saying that feminine energy and a woman is neediness and that's not healthy either I'm a big proponent of loving on oneself in such a way By the way, my book what the heck is self-love anyway, there's a link below to get a copy of my book by the way It's a journey of personal development self-help and spiritual work So you can shore up your emotional maturity so you can actually lean into You can lean into a relationship in a much more healthier way So the topic of this is what's the proof a man? What's the proof a man feels emotional intimacy with you that he's actually your proof What's that going to feel like and I'm going to lean into that for a second And I made some notes. I talked about that um So Oh, by the way really quickly my t-shirt said people should seriously stop expecting normal from me We all know that's never gonna happen for those of you. I'm a contrarian I'm a contrarian. My advice goes contrary to public opinion My whole channel is kind of different than most of my contemporaries because I feel like I'm being a realist not an alarmist but a realist and And that's why I want to have real conversations. How can we stop this narrative of Fighting between the genders and finding our way to blend with each other How can we do that? And that's the conversation I have in my head Frequently to help people to help humans Experience a better relationship in their life their relationship with themselves and their relationship with others By the way, my copy mug says god jonathan got jonathan. This was a gift from a client of mine. Thank you so much for that I really appreciate it So what's it going to take? What's the proof you need? What's the proof that a man feels emotional intimacy with you? We're going to talk about that right now And that simple word is trust trust trust Now here's the thing a lot of people can feel and I'll talk about how to build trust in a relationship but a lot of people confuse trust with centered around you know Centered around fidelity, you know, do I trust this person is going to be sleeping with someone else? Do I trust this person is not dating someone else and that's a fair element within trust I want to lean into the deeper meaning of trust and the deeper meaning of trust is Does this person care about my feelings as much as I care about my own feelings? Does this person care about my feelings as much? In other words, are they going to have my best interest at hand? I want you to really lean into that Really lean into that look back at your past relationships where it was emotionally dysfunctional There was mixed signals. There was emotional constipation from the other person Did you really feel emotionally safe? Did you feel like this person genuinely cared about my feelings and put My feelings not above their own but certainly an equal part of their own Because when a woman when a person a human being man or woman alike is feeling that level of trust That's emotional intimacy. That's emotional safety And sadly humans don't know how to get there because the dating process hyperfocuses on chemistry and hyperfocuses on sex And it's and hyperfocuses on romance And not enough of what I'm about to share next Before I share this and this is really critically important. So stick around if you're ready to log off right now It is a dysfunctional world out there. Don't be naïve to it and most everybody myself included are part of this Dysfunctionality. It's very rare to find genuinely Emotionally healthy people that have good relationship skills. That's what I'm talking about good relationship skills And if you're not familiar with my chart Emotional maturity relationship skills. And by the way, this is not a fact. This is opinion I believe 20 of the population has clinical issues And while it says here 20 of the population is emotionally has good relationship skills I'm being ridiculously generous most are dysfunctional I'm not saying this as as a way to I'm here to suggest to recognize That we are dealing with a lot of dysfunctionality now There's there's degrees of dysfunctionality as you can see in that chart, right? And by the way, most people can be in a relationship, but it takes a conscious effort And so what I'm going to recommend next is how do you build trust because that's the most important piece I think one of the fundamentals to build trust to think about this for a moment in the past 50 100 years ago it used to be if you wanted to get laid they had to get married There was a commitment a real commitment Dating today, there's virtually no commitment to one another people are just going shoe shopping shoe shopping trying on different shoes Trying this on. Oh, does it feel good? Oh feels good. But you know what? I don't like these shoes anymore Let me try on another pair of shoes. Let me, you know, whatever for women It could be shoes for men. It could be golf clubs for all I care Probably not golf clubs I think it's time to take a little bit of the past And twist it for the future. So listen, I may be naive what I'm about to share today This is just a hypothesis.  You have to decide the truth for yourself.  You like me. Okay, you say that to each other You actually say it to each other Don't expect the man to leave because here's the thing. We could be just simply chasing sex And and by the way, you know, there it could be there there could be there's a lot of duping going on between men and women They're duping each other.   You like me Would you be open to committing to getting to know one another? Let's take the dating language out of the equation and let's just spend time getting to know one another a Mutual effort thing. It's not merely men leading and it's not women leading. It's a mutual effort Of just simply spending a little bit of time with each other Maybe three or four meetings together four or five meetings together just to see if we like really like being with each other It's kind of an extended sniff test these days the sniff test is You sniff each other and you have sex right away I'm saying prolong that and spend a little more time just simply from a casual perspective get to know one another Now i'm not suggesting you can't kiss and be affectionate with each other. I'm here to say Take out the the need to to rush everything and slow the process down But you think i'm in a long distance relationship Yeah, it's going to be really hard to do this the further two people live apart the harder it is Proximity plays an important role in this equation to see each other on a monday night after work and grab a you know Go grab some ice cream ice cream You know go grab a drink or go for a walk on a saturday morning or go for a walk on a sunday morning together Just to spend time with each other just to see if you like each other And really learn good communication skills and by the way, i'm going to recommend a few books right now How to build trust in a relationship by claire robin couples communication guide by olivia listian, okay, and certainly i want you to read this book I hear you the surprisingly simple skill behind behind Extraordinary relationships. Why am i recommending this and i'm suggesting that you both do this And folks you guys know my rhetoric before you have sex together You should be reading the book eight dates to determine if you're genuinely compatible with one another because here's the bottom line If you want proof of emotional maturity then it requires building real trust with one another and this way of dating today is not building trust It's only progressing progressing the dysfunctionality and as i said before Not today. I've said in previous videos The number one emotional health issue for most humans is i'm not good enough I'm not lovable and i'm not likable and dating can trigger that because of repetitive You know swipes and repetitive dates that go nowhere So let's shift the narrative. Are you with me? Are you willing to try something different? And i'm recommending both of you men and women to slow the process down if you genuinely like each other This is hard. This might be naive. I'm maybe blown smoke, but i'm that's what i'm recommending today Because if you want proof of emotional intimacy, then you better feel like this person cares about my feeling such that They have my back They have my back. All right, that's my thoughts for today I'd like to hear your thoughts. Please post a comment below if you like my t-shirt my mug I do my best to read them all As always if you find value, please share this with your friends. Please like this video Check out the links to a discovery call or my group called midlife love mastery And i'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do first off giving myself a big gigantic job the bear hug of self love I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone a friend a pet a teddy bear a pillow Here's a teddy bear and give it or a them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love And let's face it. We could all use more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch. Bye. Bye. 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SNES drunk Welcome back welcome back welcome back And yeah, we're on our way to Pandora to Take on the one of the most creepiest areas atmospheres music In any Super Nintendo game, but first we're plowing through these mush booms As I pointed out in the past with this game like in the review and in the multiplayer videos This is a great multiplayer game It would be it would be nice to be able to play this game with another person I Want to get my girlfriend playing on these one of these days, but she's pretty busy with stuff She's she's never shown that much of an interest in this game She's a big horror movie or a horror game person. She's been playing this game. She's got a ps4 and She's playing this game called Outlast Looks like every horror game ever, but yeah, she's big into Resident Evil Silent Hill and all that kind of stuff She does like Super Ghouls and Ghosts like that's like her jam Super Nintendo She's the one responsible for getting me into that game to the point where I just I Just I managed to beat that game, which I never ever could have imagined like four or five years ago I I hated that game back in the day because it was too effing hard and there was a lag and there was It like made no sick game just made no sense to me So, but yeah, I love that. It's one of my favorites now, but yeah, I can't really get her into Secret of Mana. She's she'd rather play Whatever she's interested in right now I got her blood-borne for her birthday. So she'll probably be into that next but yeah No, yeah, this is a really fun multiplayer game and it's it is compatible with the Four player any four player accessory that you can find. There's there's a bunch on the Super Nintendo. There's the the whatchamacallit The use of the Super Bomberman accessory. There's the Forget the name of it It's like the tribal tap or something like that What a real talkative over here, huh? Come on grandma speak up cat got your tongue Or I guess a gargoyle got your tongue. What are those statues? Are those steers?   I think I forgot to trigger something. What did I do? What the hell's going on here? Whatever the next part of the story is is not Happening yet Let's take a quick gander back Pantera oh, I'm supposed to that's Fanna. Okay. I'm supposed to talk to her Hey, what's your problem?  Stop bothering. Okay. Anyway, I was distracted there.  Let's let's get some experience. I forgot to mention I did do some magic grinding before this I've gotten a Freeze I think I forget if I got it all the way to level two or if it's still at level one I think it's at level two, but I did at least get it to level one. I honestly can't remember But you want to do that for this next boss fight. Otherwise, you're gonna have a bad time Also, you want a fairy Walnut to replenish your magic That would be a good time because then that would give you a chance to beat the boss, which is Is a pretty it's pretty hard if you go into it unprepared. It's pretty hard But we're going into it prepared. So we're gonna be okay Let's try out earth slide just since we're talking about magic here. Let's Use it on this thing and yeah, you don't want to waste magic on those guys, but See I already oh That's what I meant. Yeah, it's I forgot to mention the last time I don't even remember if I mentioned the earlier episode is that I leveled up on the magic for the The gnome boss the last time now we're going into a completely different boss It's a really strange idea for a boss Now that you get the gnome magic you do want to level that up and I did do that off-screen here That's what got me calmed down a little bit kind of zoned out while I was doing that so Anyway, what was I talking about? Oh, yeah I was talking about playing this game with more than one person and then that was gonna send me off into a tangent Talking about here. Yeah, mine as well. Do I have any magic left? Yeah, I do She has all status stuff Do this Nope still won't work.   This is a fun game to play Multiplayer, but I'm not the type of person that has a whole lot of friends as pathetic as that might come across sounding I'm like one of those people that has like three close friends. I don't have a lot of acquaintances I don't really go out a whole lot and all of my all the friends that I do have all have very very very different interests because I have like Very different interests and that Leads to a lot of like compartmentalization Like you guys watching right now all all 12 of you You guys care about obviously video games and like retro gaming I could ramble on about The PGA tour I'm a big golf fan and a lot of you guys are gonna roll your eyes and laugh at that But like golf is boring. It's like well, it's one of those things. I grew up watching I grew up playing golf with my dad and my brother. I'm interested in it And I do like watching it.  I like a lot watching a lot of the pros and It's something I could talk about for days. I could talk about the courses. I could talk about past winners of certain events I'm also a big Vikings Minnesota Vikings fan, so I'm a big football fan again. That's that's another one of those things That goes all the way back to To you know childhood and like one of my best friends from back home, you know me and him know each other like over half our lives We don't talk about that shit because I know he doesn't care. Why would he care? I don't expect him to care So I find other people to talk about that stuff And that's just how it is so it's hard to find you know you find different people interested in different things and it's It's hard to find somebody That's interested in like several of the things where you share like several interests Like not only do I like golf and I like football. I love baseball, too I'm really enjoying watching the twins this year. I love metal music. I grew up with old Metallica Slayer Carcass Wow, that is a shitload of damage. I need to Metal music I like a lot of I like stuff like boards of Canada and Bjork and Kate Bush and Gorillas What am I listening to lately with new new faith no more? I'm still listening to is that there's a band from Norway called Arcturus It has the singer from the move or gear and Borknagar disease. No, he used to sing in Borknagar Ortex Yeah, I think he's just the move or gear now I mean he might have left that band, but he's an Arcturus now, and I don't like to do mobile gear They're a little too theatrical Fucking chintzy for me cheesy, but Arcturus is a good time Yeah, there's like bands like that and I like so so it's like I have interests all across the board and So it's tough to find people that are like Into like the same stuff as me or it's so it's it's it's hard It's it's it's almost like I need to find people that are into just one of those things so and There's not a lot of people that give a shit about retro games down here in Albuquerque That's for damn sure. Hey Clyde level up good good boy. Oh, that's a good dog. Clay, but I'll keep rambling next time Thanks for watching. Have a great rest of your day


Hey guys, Mary here with the 21 Convention with James. He did his talk a little bit ago and wanted to get more footage We already talked to you once and we want to get more of it And you were talking about date planning. Now, is that really important or does that seem kind of fake? I don't know whether you should plan your date. How important is that? That's a great question Most women I would expect want a guy who sweeps them off their feet That's what's in all the romance novels and what most girls dream about If you're nervous and you're not that confident The way to do that is to pay a lot of attention to the experience you give a girl when you meet her for the first time When you're going to date with a girl, it's like a job interview It's like a job interview for in many girls cases is this guy the one if she's going to date with him Now if it's just seamless enjoyable romantic fun with lots of times to get to know each other and find out What each other's interests are then it's a very good chance It's going to work from the man's perspective of means it ends up in bed and from the woman's perspective Often means it ends up in bed and it's a really beautiful experience. So any time you have, you know, even 10 seconds of Silence and uncomfortableness the girls like oh, she's just looking for a reason to um Say no Like men really look for a reason to say yes and women look for a reason to say no Most women there's a Few guys that they just won't sleep with there's um a lot of guys they might and there's only a few guys that go Yeah, I want to sleep with him and you know, that's like Mick Jagger Robbie Williams and a few other you know Brad Pitt type people Not the regular guy So what you want to do is you want to convert as many maybes to yeses as you can and the best way to do That is to plan out your date Okay, and it's the best way to do that when you're planning on your date with some honesty on it Okay, yeah, um, I think my speech was entitled the ten reasons men fail with women. I Rushed the last few but I didn't fit in honesty and to be honest.   It'll be you know in the long one I'm the best thing you ever do and then you try and integrate that honesty philosophy in your brand Which is social coaching and you have mostly female coaches I understand and just you as a male coach So how does that work?  Our philosophy is we don't we're not really game or pick up I mean last time I won that stand was like six years ago And it's because I'd have to pay 250 euros to get the room again I didn't want to do that because I was leaving in the morning. Anyway, I'm just not into one night stands Most the girls I've slept with have been above average intelligence most them high intelligence Must have been sweet with good values. That's not I'm not about I'm not a pick-up artist I don't need to sleep with a thousand women. I've slept plenty, but I don't need a thousand I just want to help guys You know depending on good looking now they might meet You know meet date and have sex with and get to know have sex with three four five six ten times You know 20 girls Preferably 40 or 50 and then once you've got that sample size Sorry, that's not very nice way to put it once you've got that experience You pick the best one and you you you're almost guaranteed of having a wonderful wonderful girlfriend And the thing about that is she knows you're a man.  So yeah, please really That's one of the big takeaways and there's so many wealthy successful Even you know just decent income guys who just ends up marrying the hottest girl they could get and you know It just ruined both their lives and as I said Much more than half the time. It's not the girls fault. It's because the guy wasn't a man to begin with So then what's the typical client that you would get is it different than normal people? Is it if you find that they're people with a real passion to learn? I Tend to most our clients are absolutely wonderful. I mean we have one difficult one a year We have a lot of guys who are nervous and Friday night is a struggle They tend to be good people they tend to be quite a bit above average intelligence We have a lot of business owners. We get on a lot of white collar professionals And we also tend to get guys who are a bit more, you know, I want to travel I want to see plays by Shakespeare. I want to read great novels. I'm not just sort of sitting home From the TV and just wait patiently to die. They don't really are market We have people who are willing to improve themselves and really work hard after bootcamp, which is where you know the guys who go from Virgin to dating models having threesomes in 15 months and one of them's done that a few of them A lot of them are having threesomes now as we've got three bisexual trainers It's quite easy to learn how to get other bisexual girls if you're trained by them Yeah, so my approach to dating is You've got to develop your social skills Hopefully to quite a high level and a couple of clients I coached, you know, five years ago now You know in some cases millionaires and other cases, you know being promoted out of sight social skills social intelligence being able to Being able to see what's going on in a situation and knowing how to respond So crucial. I don't think you're really ever going to catch up with most women, but say Say you've got ten times more social intelligence than the average guy, but you've only got you've only got three times more than me That should all the things equal make you much more attracted to me than the average guy So social skills social intelligence and just really understanding women pick away beautiful women thing and particularly about dating and seduction So that's a three cause of our philosophy social skills social intelligence understanding women In this thing I last question you have a lot of what girls like which is conversation skills Did you always have this or did it was it something you had to learn and do teach that to other people that's I often say that my course we could sell 70% of it as a business skills for a business skills course because if you go to a Business conference or a networking function if you're one of the one guy out of 20 or 30 who meets most the people in the room has a little bit of small talk with them finds out whether they're interesting to you No, okay. I was lovely to meet you might see you at the drinks talks to someone else And you do that ten times you might find a person who's going to quadruple your income And that's been the experience of many our client of our clients with the social skills have been taught and again at the risk of sounding conceited You don't get that by learning lines and you know trying to manipulate women It's it's all about it's initially all about social skills and which includes touch and eye contact and try to be seductive Fantastic so you've just spoken at the 21 convention you'd like it you told me you'd love it and Where can they find you if they love you and want to be coached by you if you go to socialcoach.com and Lovely Rebecca and I we just spent a good part of last month Shooting a series of coaching videos which gives you an idea what we do at the boot camp We've we've given a 12 part training program. It teaches you from Opening conversation What to do on a date how to touch that sort of thing everything up to what you do just before you take a girl by the hand and Take her to your bedroom and we've done it with four or five of her female trainers and Yeah, there's just one professional model in there. There's a there's a girl who's a very highly paid IT consultant Who just works with me because she doesn't get that much money that she's loved doing it she's so passionate about it and But also we got a couple of girls who graduated psychology So you get to see guys approaching them and and just I was coaching them on what to do So I think that's one of the best pieces of free giveaway that I'm aware of Fantastic well, I go to your website I like it and I'm sure you guys will like it and this is Mary from the 21 convention see you next time 21 convention I know you haven't spoken here before how are you finding the group of guys and you know The architect Anthony dream Johnson Um, I absolutely love it. Um, James Marshall who's spoken here a number of times Has said really good things about it and I've looked at sort of the branding and online. I think it's great But actually coming here. Um, I'm just so glad Anthony is in the world. I think he's done more for this Dating pickup seduction industry And you know almost anyone else he's made it something you'll be proud of he's brought in Fitness training business entrepreneurship. I'm nutrition It's something a man can come and be proud of and see the 21 convention show up on his website It's not pick up strippers and stuff. Um, yeah, I can't speak highly enough of him.  Um, yeah Donate money to his website That guy deserves to be really really rich because Every guy I've talked to here has just been so so happy he came. Um, so yeah, um Yeah, vote Anthony for president. Um, he's doing wonderful wonderful things for the world and he's got More calm than any 24 year old I've met so go Anthony I love why he started this whole convention in the first place He Loved these speakers and he wanted a way to get them all together. He wanted a way to get everybody together So he could enjoy him He did it very selfishly and and it turned out to be this fantastic thing because he wanted everybody together So that he could see him He could gain so much knowledge and experience and then it just went out to everybody It just shows what happens when you do something You know, I want to build a car because I want it to run really really well And then you build the most fabulous car in the world and that's what he's done here And it's all come out of just this fantastic sense of self and that's I think what you get here Just this fantastic sense of self So bye guys