What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel. My name is Lloyd So I've been getting a lot of questions about body language from guys And so I thought I'd put this clip out there to show you guys what I think is good body language I'm gonna break down the important points of what I'm doing in this video So it's a very short video clip of me talking to two models at a bar in Los Angeles. So I'm just gonna roll the clip right now Okay, cool. So hopefully you've seen some of the things the nuances of what I'm doing I'm gonna break them down for you and what actually happened with this was that I was talking to these two girls for a while And then I went and I sat down next to my buddy and he said he talked to them for a little bit, too And I asked him kind of how his experience was and he said that he felt like the girls were kind of cold and a little standoffish Which surprised me because they were not like that to me at all. You know, they were very friendly They're very flirty. They were super nice. Yeah, I like them both But the difference is that we had two different experiences between us And I think a lot of it has to do with body language, you know, they say about 80 percent of communication is nonverbal And look, I don't know how they come up with that number But it's way more than what you're saying the way that you're standing your movements your posture your gestures All of that stuff your body language matters a lot more than what you're saying So in this video, I'm going to break down exactly what I think the most important parts are From that video before I get into that really quick if you are somebody who struggles with this I recommend that you check out my live training schedule Which should be in the link in the description below basically I'll look at what you're doing and I'll tell you what you're doing wrong and how you can improve it and You know, we'll go out together and do that whole thing. So If you're just in that check that out Okay First thing that I do that I think is really good that I think you guys all should be doing is eye contact Eye contact is super important And I used to not be able to look people in the eye very well But I practiced at it and now my eye contact is, you know, great I look at people when I'm speaking to them I give them the respect that they deserve And if you look at somebody when you're talking to them You show them that you're interested in what they have to say and if you're interested in what they have to say Chances are they're going to be more interested in what you have to say So in order to be interesting you have to be interested One of the guys who I think is super good at doing this is bill Clinton So if you're looking for a guy with like tremendous eye contact, I would take a look at bill Clinton A lot of guys or a lot of girls who spoke with bill Clinton They said that when they spoke to him he made them feel like the only girl in the world You want to give that feeling when you're talking to somebody you want to give that feeling where you're totally focused You're present to the moment you're focused on them all this other stuff going around doesn't matter But they're the most important thing you make people feel important and they're going to really really like you Now a lot of guys have trouble with this because when they talk to a very pretty girl or a girl that they really like They're shy. They can't do it. They can't look them in the eye very well So they start to look down. They start to kind of like fidget and get nervous So what I would invite you guys to do is to practice, okay? There's going to be a little bit of discomfort when you're looking at somebody who you don't know very well or looking at anybody Is very troublesome for a lot of people So push through that initial discomfort and that way you can start having a connection with people You can do this while you're walking down the street and you make eye contact with somebody and The typical response is for us to kind of look away really quick or you know pretend like we're looking at our phone Hold it for just a second longer than what you're comfortable with and over time you're going to be able to build up that skill So when you're talking to a girl that is really attractive, you're going to make great eye contact Okay, cool. Step number two or tip number two that I think is a good thing to pick from this video Is that i'm leaning back a little bit when i'm talking to these girls, okay? So a lot of guys I find that when they go into the bars, especially if they've had too much to drink Um, they are Hovering over the girl like they're leaning over, you know, like they're kind of like in their face and the girl's kind of like Okay, don't do that you guys, especially if you just started talking to them. Okay, you're bigger than her. You're going to freak her out Um, what I do is I kind of like lean back slightly Um, and if you notice i'm kind of like leaning on this too and kind of very relaxed stance And so when people see me talking to these girls It kind of looks like they're talking to me and i'm the one who's chilling out relaxing So it's not only good for you to do it to the person that you're talking to because it helps them relax And it helps them take the time to say, hey, you know, I kind of like this person or Or they don't feel pressured or feeling comfortable Um, but it also looks good for people that are watching you talk, which is you know, something that goes on a lot Especially if you're in la, you know, like, uh girls will be kind of looking around and if they see you like Like kind of uh Overbearing on this person like you're leaning into them.  He's clearly like freaking these girls out and he has no social skills Um, but the guy who's leaned back and has people kind of talking to him that makes you look a lot better It makes it makes it look like they're flirting with me Not the other way around which if you know anything about getting girls is a really good thing to maintain So yeah, that's what I would recommend that you guys do Lean back at first and then once they start to get comfortable with you Once they start to square up and they're cool with you being in their space Then you can come closer and um, you know, take things to a new level. Okay Cool. So, uh, the third thing that I would say is make sure to use gestures I use a lot of gestures when I'm talking, you know, you can see in these videos. I use a lot of gestures, too Um, I think it emphasizes your points if it gets people more engaged and you look bigger Like I take up a lot more space when I'm talking to people Take up more space. It makes you look more authoritative It makes you look more assertive.  Nice to meet you cool And you're not moving around a lot like That's not a very exciting conversation I mean you could be telling me the craziest story of all time, but it's still going to feel boring You know people feed off your energy and a lot of that comes from your body movement. So I would invite you to use gestures and use big gestures. Okay.  Um, but the space that you have be commanding in it Don't get shoved over those types of things are very important and this brings me to my fourth point Which is make sure your feet are planted. Okay, if you're in a space, don't be fidgeting around. Okay It's okay for you to move your upper body and use gestures But as soon as you start fidgeting like with your feet that shows people that you're nervous That shows people that you're either trying to leave or you're uncomfortable with something If you notice when I'm standing there like I'm not moving my feet for I'm moving my arms But I'm not moving my feet very much and I look very relaxed with my gestures The way that you have the way that you communicate that to somebody is by not moving your feet I would put them shoulder length apart Don't move them around too much. Okay. Um, a lot of times the person who's fidgeting less in the conversation Has more power. So people who see that again, you look more authoritative more assertive And women are a lot more into that than the guy who fidgets and is insecure Okay, uh, the final tip uh that I'm going to be giving you guys is to smile more I don't know if you could tell but uh, I smile a lot when I'm talking to a girl that I like Or I smile a lot when I'm talking to people that I like in general, you know That is something that you guys a lot of you need to work on especially if you have a face like mine I have a really angry face and if I don't smile people think I'm mad at them or they think that I'm being super serious And they feel like they can't joke with me or they feel maybe a little intimidated Um by me So if you're a person who has that problem smile a lot and if you're you don't have that problem Still keep smiling because a lot of what's happening is people If you smile a lot more people are going to smile back at you They're going to like talking to you more You know if you think in your life, which kind of person do you like talking to you more the guy who's serious The guy who never smiles Who's frowning all the time or the guy that's happy is like looks like he's happy to speak with you Probably the guy who looks happy. Okay. Don't be the guy who's frowning all the time Okay, cool. So those are the main things that I would say are the most important from that video If you guys think of any tips, let me know But one thing that I would say that I could work on a little bit was my head was Was a little bit was coming in a little bit this way, you know, your posture is very important So, you know, try and keep your head up and stay stand up a little straight When you're doing it, especially if you're hunched over looking at your phone all the time Like you're gonna have poor posture. Okay. I think having good posture can You know the way that you move can can raise your level Like if let's say if you were if people said you were like a six out of ten You could easily be a seven at its end with like good posture and good movement You know, so these things are very very important guys. Okay, cool Well, that's all I have to say about this you guys Hopefully you learned a thing or two if you're interested in my weekly one-on-one coaching program shoot me an email Actually, don't shoot me an email. Uh fill out the coaching form down below There's going to be a link to it in my description So fill that out if you seem like a good candidate. We'll email you back And we'll get to get that thing started. So Thanks a lot you guys If you made you didn't consider subscribing and come up with videos like this every single week Um, yeah, if you have any questions, put them in the comment section below. Good luck out there you guys


Tremendous things are happening where people are being bold and they're stepping out of the boat and they're utilizing any source or any medium that we can to preach the gospel. That means social media platforms. Come on. One of the things is TikTok. And one thing is our evangelist Ivan has had a breakthrough. He has taken over TikTok. Let me just put it that way. And I just cannot get over this testimony because he was just going on live to do a healing for people. So this 12-year-old, just to be distracted, got distracted with this. She was scrolling through her TikTok and saw that they were praying for people that have sicknesses or pain in their body. And since she was seven years old, she had this excruciating pain on one of her knees that anytime she had any type of movement, it just brought pain to her. And she is now 12, so she had it for quite a few years. But as she was scrolling, she not only received prayer, but also salvation. So it's just incredible. She actually has a little video that she sent for evangelist Ivan and for our church. So let's go ahead and hear what she has to say. I just got prayed for and the pain in my knee is gone. And while I was being prayed for, for the pain in my knee to go away, I felt a tingling all through my body. And yeah, and I also accepted Jesus into my heart. And during that, I felt warm, like my whole room became warm. And it was hard to breathe, but now I know that Jesus loves me in my heart and I still feel like different. Like I don't know how to explain it. It's like really, really like still like really, really warm. And I just want to say thank you. Come on. You know, I just want us to look at this is that all that Jesus Christ is looking for is availability to say, I'm available Lord. Here I am. Send me. And that means literally just sharing Facebook, what's happening here, sharing testimonies is that we can do that just with a quick, you know, share and people are watching. People are seeing this and that is a seed that God can use to implant something inside of them and saying, if God can do it for them, he can do it for me. Amen.


Hi, it's Bridget. Welcome to Sunday Morning Coffee with Bridget today. Do I have coffee? Oh, I do. I have a little bit left. Hmm. It's snowing. Yeah, like one to four inches or something. It's kind of pretty. Yeah, it makes things brighter, I guess. So that's good. I decided to record this because I was feeling some stuff and I thought, hey, energetically, there's definitely some things moving. So let's have a conversation. Why don't we? So this came up in the channeling session that I did on above life channel when I was talking with Carrie Fisher and it's about this concept of with holding. So there's a lot around the delicate balance between honoring yourself. And what's true for you and then being vulnerable and sharing that authentically with another person. And the delicate balance is this awareness of how different people are and how even people who are in loving relationship can be really confused about the way in which or what is shared. When someone trusts you to really be vulnerable and share, it's not coming from a place of they need you to help fix them. It's coming from a place of, hey, I'm feeling a lot. I trust you to know me and maybe I need some comfort or maybe I need to just get this out of my body because it's been in here for a long time and I just need you to be with me while I'm saying this expressiveness or doing this. And I think understanding that so often we are we've been trained and taught and very well trained and taught to it's like embedded within us to withhold so that we can very much be in control and management of how other people see us and perceive us in relationships and this is dangerous. It's dangerous, but we are rewarded for it, because you behave a certain way when you're at church you behave a certain way when you're at your workplace you behave a certain way at a fancy restaurant. Right to the place of where you dress and how you dress and how you act and what you say and what you don't say. It's more about withholding, like what you don't say versus what you do say, or what you don't wear.  You withhold things that are part of you and your expression of yourself in order to be able to what to be received to be accepted to pretend to belong. And maybe that's a drastic statement pretend to belong maybe it's just, there are kinds of sets of behaviors and kind of a standardized kind of code of conduct that you're not going to drop the f bomb at a church, necessarily, for example, you know when you're having the cookies after and you're having something like that's not a normal kind of typical thing and there are, there is a level or degree of decency human manners or manualisms behaviors that are just kind of a general kind of kindness politeness kind of thing but when that gets taken to the extreme. We get into scenarios where we have to make conscious choices about what to share and what not to share. When we're in relationship. And we are vulnerable, which we are, if you love someone, you're always vulnerable in that place because what if you share that one thing that just one thing that makes them leave you makes them. There's so much and then all of your personal fears from all your past life experiences and this lifetime and other lifetimes come flooding in and are like see I told you that she would leave or see I told you he wouldn't love you because you're just too much or not enough. There's so much internal dialogue that happens that I think puts us into a scenario where we have to make those choices whether we're going to withhold or not. And withholding isn't necessarily the savings plan. It's just maybe prolonging the inevitable because if that person was going to leave because they got scared. They were just waiting for a reason. You didn't even have to give them one. It's basically an excuse not a reason like, like you didn't cause it. It was going to happen eventually anyway because of their own trauma is it's not it's not on you but yet you carry this blame the shame this guilt this awareness that oh they don't love me because I'm not lovable and that's not the truth. So withholding is a very conscious thing that we do, I think, or if at bare minimum for people who are responding from trauma and in relationships and trauma dynamic. There are just a whole layer of complexities here about withholding that it's a safety thing. And it's a survival thing and it's an essential thing and it's a defense mechanism and it's kept them alive up to this point maybe quite literally. And so to judge that wouldn't really be fair. Yet at the same time the person who is in relationship with you it's, it's, it's essential for you to have some kind of expectations that they will communicate and connect to you. It's a place of wounding or pain because you're not in the place of wounding or pain with them you didn't cause that and you're not in relationship with them to heal them to make them magically better to give them a part of themselves they're missing and if that's really the relationship you're in. Then what's happening is there is a withholding entering into the relationship by the person who is the wounded person they are looking to find love to fall into love to get. They're going to be like a Dijak of infactuation or these kind of feel good bubbly vibes of, of, oh, she's so great or oh he's so awesome or he does everything for me and he's so great he doesn't ask for anything in return. Well not yet because it's new right. Eventually, that person that is looking to seek to be filled up is going to feel disappointed board and they're going to they're going to leave or they're going to add on other things that continue to give them those bubbly fuzzy feelings externally and artificially or temporarily. And that's, again, this isn't a place of judgment. It's just a very kind of obvious thing that you can look at relationships and see that dynamic you can see it. So then the goal for you and I I think is in healthy relationship, number one you have to want to be in a healthy relationship, even if somebody like strikes your fancy or you think they're awesome. I mean, there's friendships and romantic partnerships on talking both, because there's imbalance in both relationships if somebody's always reaching out to you when they need to vent or they need to pick me up or to feel good. That is a huge red flag. It doesn't mean that they're a narcissist, and they're keeping you on while they're working their new supply. It doesn't mean that see all these words that are going around like, it doesn't necessarily don't jump to that. It means that they're not in a place where they can be in healthy relationship because they're always bringing their stuff to you. Instead of coming into the relationship, wanting to be in an interactive sharing expressive receiving scenario with you they just need to pick me up and I feel good and that's what you are you're kind of like a drug for them. You are like medicine for them.  They can go be with their family they can go, you know, do whatever it is that they need to do and they're running on the fuel that you gave them the caffeine you're their caffeine, you see, that's not healthy. Because what's happening is that person isn't in love with you, they are in love with the way that you make them feel. So they want the feeling, not the person. So they it doesn't really matter what kind of person or who is going to come into their lives that will give them that. It's not personal. It's not about you. So if you felt like you've been in relationship where people have withheld, or it seems very kind of deceptive or like half truths and all that. Maybe it's just simply to be able to look at the situation in a way where there's some acknowledgement by you that this person is not looking to be with you. This person is not really wanting loving needing you and your qualities they are needing just the love. Because you're an empathic person before because you're kind because you're such a giver, you naturally would be the person who gives second and third and fourth and 12th chances to people because of this whole open openness or desire to really see people and have them feel loved and all that. So it's not to say that the people who are coming to you so that you can make them feel good or bad people. It's not that that's not what's happening here. This is an awareness of with holding. So the question here is, who are you with. And what are you holding. So there might be there might just be a perspective here for you, the one who is the holder. A disconnect. So within your heart in your space, you want to share vulnerably you want to be open and trusting exchange. And yet when you get to that place and you need to share you need to say something you can't because the other person's like constantly. Oh I need this and everything's bad and this is bad happening now and all this and then they have moments maybe where they're like really kind. But then all of a sudden it switches into something else about them it's all about them because they don't know how to be there for you and to hold that space of vulnerability for you they don't know how to do that. They just they just literally don't know they don't have those skills perhaps but it's not for you the holder to teach them you are not a teacher you are not the healer you are not the fixer.   You're kids with your lover with your friends there's different different ways that people interact with us because we are holding something like a course that of values and identity that relates to the fact of how much we are the go to we are the support structure for people. So when we enter into relationship with the person who needs to feel good.  Have you heard that I have needs that need to be met. And so therefore then all their actions are justified, or they are telling you hey I can't be in relationship with you. And what you need to do is believe them and back away and disconnect, because you are holding this. And it's hard to do that because you're holding these expectations of yourself as the empath as the one who wants to be loved. You want to share love you want to give love you want to receive it. You want all of it, but this other person doesn't. They just don't want that because they don't know what to do with you, except for to take from you, your life source your vitality again, these are not bad people. These are people that are healing these are people that are are dealing with addictions are dealing with narcissistic relationships are dealing with really hard things trauma. Okay. And that is for a therapist to work through with those people with those people when they're in those scenarios and for you as the empath who wants to be in the giving receiving loving relationship or your communicative or your vulnerable. Sometimes you're vulnerable sometimes they're vulnerable there's really a balance. And you as the empath who want to be in that loving relationship need to also be considering going to a therapist or a life coach that talks to you then about what it is that you need so you can set some boundaries.  Like I said, these can be very nice people very kind people very attractive people and appealing to you, but it's not, you have to recognize what's healthy for you. And if you are working through your own awareness about your own behavior on needs and what you're holding why you need somebody to to come to you as this expert or why you need somebody to come to you to show them how to do something or or to feel better about themselves. There's a piece in you that needs that validation. You need that feel good. You need that understanding that when somebody's dependent on you it means they love you. And that's not true dependency and love is not the same thing. It's not a healthy form of love. You can read theories about attachment theory about relationships and communication and relationships codependent no more by melody baby is a great book. It focuses on some of the addiction pieces, but it also talks about general healthy relationships and attachment theories, which gives you just a great context for relationships and what's healthy and you'll recognize that a lot of your relationships are codependent and codependency by the way doesn't mean. I rely on you too much. It's not necessarily it's not that it's not what you think it is and codependency is not healthy interdependency is where there's a balance a given exchange, and being the person that needs somebody to be dependent on you you need to be that's an issue you have to work through in healing and counseling and therapy there's probably some trauma in your early childhood relationships that put you into a place where you had to be the fixer you had to adjust and adapt to other people's needs, and you were ready and waiting for the inconsistency to breeze into your life with maybe one of your parents and then having to pick up the pieces and make everybody feel good. And that is the scenario you're playing out and the unhealthy about imbalance in this relationship where somebody else is just needing, needing to feel good, and you are mistaking it as they need you, they love you, needing you is not the same as loving you. It's not. It's just not. It's not. So the big question is is in the withholding. What are you holding. Just pull that out.  What is this self awareness is the key to the holding part withholding isn't isn't supposed to be a punishment is supposed to be this understanding of being with relationship with people and holding your relationship with somebody else. So that you don't give it to somebody else or aren't using somebody else to fill your voids. Some people will misidentify this as I have needs therefore here's a reasons for my behavior, there's no justification. There's no justifying, there's no you're right I'm wrong there's only alignment. There's only the alignment. It's only the alignment. What is healthy. It's consistent.  Are you showing up and are you the chameleon adapting because you're holding all these things because you know how to just be ready to support anybody at any given time I'm just ready. I'm ready to help you at any given time and sacrificing yourself and your own identity in your relationship with somebody else to do that and that's what's happening. If you're the fixer if you're the go to if you're so sensitive you're the empath you feel drained, you need to take a look at yourself and what are you with in relationship will show you what you're holding. What are you holding. What are you holding. What is it. And when you can see yourself when you allow yourself the permission to be vulnerable within yourself not with somebody else they will not validate you. Unless they have earned the right like Brene Brown says earn the right to hear your story. To earn the right to be in that sacred space with you that you can trust them to listen to you and actually care about you and where you're coming from not the fight they just had with their co worker, not the bad scenario at home that they're having to go deal with or the relative that's living off their money or whatever it is the deadbeat dad whatever it is. Can you trust that person to be present can you trust that person to be present with you and if you can't.  As you grow evolve become aware and then communicate and improve your relationships if you can't hold space for you. Nobody will respect the energy of you and your authenticity and your vulnerability. Nobody can respect if you can't respect that within yourself if you don't create that at home first. There's another person who needs you was getting their needs met by you.  I'm both sides for both of you with holding for you with. And what are you holding. I really feel into what's yours and what's not. Sometimes you make things yours so that you can excuse why the person is acting the way they are or why they say what they say or why they need other outlets or other people to fill their voids in addition to you or, or addiction or overbusiness or overworking or whatever they're they're distracting with. Be aware. Pay attention. Pay attention. You're not an elixir for someone if someone says oh you're an elixir to me or you're in medicine from here.  Oh I feel so good. And with you is amazing. You're awesome. You are awesome as a person like they're talking about what you do for them not who you are as a person. If they don't talk about who you are as a person and just what you do for them or what you don't do for them. Huge red flag. Huge red flag. You're falling into a pattern and a habit. It's time to come inside. Look at what you're holding to take accountability for that. And then to find people who also take accountability for their actions their behaviors their choices and who create support for themselves for healing for growth for evolution without the excuses. I think at our core while just doing our best and during this holiday season, the relationship component is going to be just in your face. Remember that you are first and foremost there for yourself. Write in your journal be vulnerable with yourself be honest with yourself get supportive a counselor a therapy group, maybe an online group. Maybe a church group whatever is going to work for you just do that. So you have support that you need within yourself.  Because it is really what's keeping you from the right relationships, the right alignment, and from your being authentically you. I thank you so much for being here and Sunday morning coffee podcast episode kind of an intense one but things needed to be said I think. I know that a lot of the groups that I'm involved in there's a lot going on, and a lot of people are being really having their asses handed to them. And I think it's time for us to really recognize our power in our place is our roles in those relationships how are we feeding and being part of the problem. The source of somebody's feel good we are being we're giving them the cigarette, you know, like somebody else might have given them the cigarette but we're the lighter, you know what I mean, it's like, oh that's not healthy like think about it that way, right. Like that deep stuff but it's a good time of year to do that as we're nearing into leaning into December and into the, the winter months. It's a great opportunity of going within and resting and really taking care of yourself and line the shadow just be in your presence, not to hurt you or define you but just for you from the past cycles in the pain. You don't need to be mistreated. That's not love. Love is inside you. It's who you are, and lately, and it's what you are. Thank you.


Hey what's up you guys, welcome back to my channel and today we're gonna continue our setter binge and we're gonna start learning how to back set. Like so much, everything on my channel is about volleyball. I'm on my channel, so you should subscribe, right? And share this with somebody who loves volleyball maybe? Yeah, that sounds like a good idea. So first, if you did not watch my first video, which was teaching you the keys and how to basically set, watch that here. I suggest you watch that because we're gonna really build off of the information that we learned from that video to learn the information for this video. So go watch that, go watch that. And then come back here. So like I said before, back setting is one of my favorite things to do because it's just so dang cool.  You just get emotional, okay? Because back setting is just gorgeous. So today we're gonna learn how to basically back set. We're gonna learn our form, which is build off of the first video, and then we're gonna learn how to execute that back set. Okay, build off the last keys. We have keys one, two, three, and four. Let's briefly talk about those keys again for a forward set. So, key one, I'm gonna put my ball down. Key one was the arm and the pants that were ball shape. We're gonna go here, diamond, open. Key one, key two was the little wrist action, not over-correcting when you flick out, little wrist action. Not the flick of the wrist, what some people do, none of that. Just here, key three was getting my arms and elbows engaged. Key four was getting my legs also engaged, okay? Remember, those keys were for somebody who's actively setting.  So using those keys, we're gonna translate that into back setting, okay? So let's do those keys again. I'm gonna put all the keys together, okay? Now when you're back setting, the ball can come from a lot of angles. It can come from a lot of angles and you're primarily back setting for the opposite and the opposite position is considered right side. That's who you're primarily setting to. Or you can be setting to the middle who is running a slide, but we don't know what that is yet. So we'll get into that later. So let's say you're setting the opposite, right? So here we're gonna start with the key and we're gonna first work on our motion of the back step. Okay? We're gonna put that as another key. So instead of opening up here, I'm opening up here. Did you see that? Opening up here. Let's see that with a real world ball example. See that? My torso is back. Same keys, but my torso is back. And we're gonna call that key five. Key five is you're gonna extend your torso back. So I see a lot of the times when I see a lot of beginners attempt the back set, they just assume that it's gonna be the same position. They move their arms, they move their legs, but they don't move their torso. They come here and they go. They go and they do the slip. Or they come here and it goes. That's really hard for an opposite to come and hit. Watch me improvement my torso. Okay? I'm not saying you have to break your back or anything, but slowly get to torso so you can get more to your intended target. So the best way to practice this, because I know a lot of you guys are practicing this on your own, is get a ball. Start here, setting straight up in the air.   So this is a drill. It's gonna help you learn how to back set better. And you can do this with a partner.   That way you can better your form by looking from a different angle because you can't see behind you. Well, as a normal set, your body position really does matter. It matters because you cannot see behind you. Here I can see and I can go, okay, well, she's coming in this way, or she's coming in hot. I'm gonna set it this way. Here, when they call the ball, you're gonna assume that they're there. So you really need to be in a relatively good position or angle towards an act to get them a good set. Sometimes in my vlogs, you'll see me back set from way over here and it still gets there. Sometimes you'll see me back set from off camera and it still gets there. Sometimes I'll be back row and back set and it gets there. But the common denominator in all of those is that I am still angled towards that side of the net. So even if I'm here and I'm right now I'm standing on the 10 foot line and the back set or the opposite area is over here. And that was a nice set. This is me all the way back around and I'm gonna back set on outside and I'm gonna make it over here. What was the common theme in that? Towards that side of the court, I implemented all of my keys and I utilized that and I didn't even have to see. I just made sure that my body position was relative to the angle of that side of the court. Now it's really important that you start practicing this skill soon. And one of the things, like I said before, is to just keep your arms up at your second key. Keep your arms up, high and try to propel it back using your torso. Body position is very important with the back set. Arm position is very important with the back set and trust in yourself. It takes time to understand the relative depth perception that it takes to back set. So you need to start practicing this as soon as possible. So what I would do is, I would go out in my driveway, in my yard, my backyard, I would grab my volleyball. If you don't have one, I have a link below on how to buy a volleyball. Get your volleyball, work on your form. The form is so important. Work on your form. Then when you get, you're able to get to a court, work on your position and then work on trusting yourself and getting and delivering that ball to the opposite. I hope that you liked this video. Please like, comment, subscribe and I will see you guys next time.


So many working parent entrepreneurs are feeling conflicted, exhausted, they don't have to. There are tools and techniques that can allow them and you to take charge and feel like you're in the driver's seat again. The number one thing that working mothers and fathers are dealing with right now is how to create more boundaries and they're in parenting mode and when they're in professional mode. And when you're also taking care of kids, particularly young kids at the same time, that creates a lot of strain and a lot of push-pull. So the first thing that I help working parents do is figure out where they want to draw those boundaries and lines. Having that clear view of where I'm headed professionally and as a parent will help anchor and orient you in the day to day. So one exercise I ask a lot of working parent entrepreneurs to do with me is a calendar audit. That means taking out your last week's calendar and your last week's to-do list and circling everything that you could have maybe delegated or gotten some help on, even if that help is from your eight-year-old son.  First, that there are things that you could get off your calendar and your to-do list. And second, that there are themes, that there are ways that you tend to use time. You're not gonna suddenly find yourself with 25% back of your time. But you might get 3% back of your time. You might get 5% back of your time. And that's enough to be meaningful. What I hear so often is I don't have any time for myself. People don't feel like they have adequate time or regular time to do things that make them them. And I think the concept of self-care has gotten a little bit cliche and we think of self-care as just doing sort of basic stuff to keep yourself together as a person. This goes beyond that. It speaks to what is actually going to allow you to show up as an enthusiastic, lively, capable, excited person on the job and also with your child.  The most important thing that you can remember is that it's not just about the work and about the kids. It's also about you.  So whatever it is, whatever activity or habit or set of practices or bits of time that you can use to build up, to keep your own battery charged, it's going to allow you to be the working parent entrepreneur that you wanna be.


Live from Boston, it's theCUBE, covering IBM Chief Data Officer Summit. Brought to you by IBM. Welcome back everyone to theCUBE's live coverage of the IBM CDO Summit here in Boston, Massachusetts. I'm your host, Rebecca Knight, along with my co-host, Paul Gillan. We're joined by Dr. Prakati Suthwar Santikari, known as Dr. Santi. He is the Vice President and Global Chief Data Officer at e-research technology. Thank you so much for coming back on theCUBE. Yeah, thank you for inviting me. So, Dr. Santi, tell our viewers a little bit about e-research technology. You're based in Marlboro. Yeah, so we are in Boston, but ERT has been around since 1977, and we are a data and technology company that minimizes the risks and uncertainties within clinical trial space. And our customers are pharmaceutical companies, biotechnology companies, medical device companies, and they really trust us in terms of running their clinical trials on our platform. So, we have been around over 40 years, so we have seen a thing or two in this space. It's a very complex domain, and very highly regulated, as you know, because it's dealing with patients' lives. So, we take huge pride in what we do. We know how involved clinical trials can be long, very expensive. How are the new tools of big data impacting that cost? Well, that has been an age-old problem within the clinical trials. Usually, a drug takes about eight to 12 years, and costs about $2 billion from start to commercialization. So, it's a very lengthy, manual, and arduous process. So, there are lots going on in this clinical trial domain that tries to shorten the timeline, and employing of big data technologies, modern data platform to expedite data processing, data collection from mobile devices and health technologies and all this. Artificial intelligence is playing a big role in terms of disrupting some of these domains, particularly if you see the protocol development down to patient selection, down to study design, then study monitoring. So, you need to do all those things, and each takes a long, long, long time. So, AI, with the big data technologies, is they're really making a difference. In what ways? For example, patient selection is one of the huge pinpoints in any clinical trial, because without patients, there are no clinical trials. Particularly, when you try to launch a drug, you'll have to identify the patients, select the patients, and not only select the patients, you have to make sure those patients stay with the clinical trials throughout the duration of the trial. So, patient engagement is also a big deal. So, with these big data technologies, like now you can see all these mobile health devices that the patients are wearing, using which you can monitor them. You can send them a reminder, take your drug, or you can send a text saying that there will be a clinical visit at that site, come at seven o'clock, don't come at nine o'clock. So, these kind of encouragement and constant feedback loop is really helping patients stay engaged, and that is critical. Then, matching patients with a given clinical trials is a very manual and arduous process. So, that's where algorithms is helping. So, they're just cranking up real-world evidence data, for example, claims data, prescription data, and other type of genomic data, and they're matching patients and the clinical trial needs. Instead of just fishing around in a big pond and find out, okay, I need three patients, so go and fish around the world to get those three patients. That's why current process is very manual, and these AI techniques and BI technologies are really disrupting this industry. So, are the pharmaceutical companies finding that clinical trials are better today? Because patients are more engaged, and they are getting, as you said, this constant reminder, take your drug, stay with us. Do you think that they are, in fact, giving them better insights into the efficacy of the drug? Yes, because so that you will see their compliance rate is increasing. So, because remember, when they have to fill out all these diaries, like morning diaries, evening diaries, when they are taking which medicine, when they are not taking, it used to be all manual, paper-driven. So, they would forget, and particularly think about a terminally ill patient. Each day is so critical for them. So, they don't have patients, nor do they have time to really maintain a manual diary. Nor do their caregivers have the time, right? So, this kind of automation is really helping. And that is also encouraging them as well, that, yeah, somebody is really caring about it. We are not just a number. Patient is not a number. Somebody is really relating to them. So, patient engagement, we have a product that specifically focuses around patient engagement. So, we do all these phase one through phase four trials, one, two, three, four, and then post-marketing, obviously. But through the entire process, we also do patient engagement, so that we help our customers, like pharmaceutical companies and biotechnology companies, so that they can run their trials with confidence. How about analyzing the data that you collect from the trials? Are you using new techniques to gain insights more quickly? Yes, we are. We just recently launched a modern data platform, Data Lake, where we are consolidating all the data, anonymizing it, and then really applying AI techniques on top of it. And also, it is giving us real-time information for study monitoring, like which site is not compliant, which patients are not compliant. So, the data quality is a big deal in clinical trials, because if the quality is good, then FDA approval, you know, there's a chance that FDA may approve. But if the data quality is bad, forget about it. So that's why I think the quality of the data and monitoring of that trial real-time to minimize any risks before they become risks. So you have to be preemptive. So that's why these predictive algorithms are really helping, so that you can monitor the site, you can monitor individual patients through M-Health devices and all this, and really pinpoint that, hey, your clinical trials are not going to, you know, end on time, nor on budget, because see the actual situation here, so do something instead of waiting 10 years to find that out. So huge cost-saving and efficiency gain. I want to ask about data in healthcare in general, because one of the big tensions that we've talked about today is sort of what the data is saying versus what people's gut is saying. And then, you know, in industry, it's the business person's gut, but in healthcare, it's the doctor, the caregiver's gut. So how have you seen data, or how has data perceived, and is that changing in terms of what the data shows that the physician about the patient's condition and what the patient needs right then and there versus what the doctor's gut is telling him that the patient needs? Yeah, and that's what that augmentation and complementary nature, right? So AI and doctors, they're like complimenting each other. So predictive algorithm is not replacing doctors, you know, the expertise. So you still need that. What AI and predictive algorithm is playing a big role is in expediting that process. So instead of sifting through manual, you know, the documents or sifting through this much amount of document, they would only need to do this much of document. So that way, it's minimizing that time horizon. It's all about efficiency again. So AI is not going to be replacing doctors anytime soon. We still need doctors because remember, a site is run by a primary investigator and primary investigator owns that site. That's the doctor. That's not a machine. That's not an AI algorithm. So his or her approval is the final approval. But it's all about efficiency, cost-cutting and bringing the drugs to the market faster. If you can cut down these 12 years by half, think about that. Not only are you saving lots of money, you are also helping patients because those drugs are going to get to the market six years earlier. So you are saving lots of patients in that regard as well. One thing that technologies like Watson can do is sort through, read millions of documents, lab reports and medical journals and derive insights from them. Is that helping in the process of perhaps avoiding some clinical trials or anticipating outputs earlier? Yes, because if you see Watson run a clinical study with Cleveland Clinic recently or Mayo Clinic, I think, or maybe both, where they reduced the patient recruitment time by 80%. 80% because they sweep through all those documents, EMR results, claims data, all this data they combine.  It's not going to recommend who those 10 patients are, but it will just tell you that the average location is that, so that you just focus on getting those 10 patients quickly instead of wasting nine months to research on the 10 patients. And that's a huge, huge deal. And how can you trust that that is right? You know, I think that's another question that we have here, it's a big challenge. It is a challenge, it is a challenge. Because AI is all about maths and algorithms, right? So when you, so it's like an input black box, output. So that output may be more accurate than what you perceive it to be. But that black box is what is tripping me up here. So what is happening is sometimes, oftentimes if it is a deep learning techniques or that kind of lower level AI techniques, it's very hard to interpret that results. So people are, people will keep coming back to you and say, how did you arrive at that results? And that's where most of the, there are techniques, like machine learning techniques that are easily interpretable. So you can convince FDA folks or other folks that here is how you got to it. But there are deep learning techniques that Watson uses, for example. People will come and, you know, how did you arrive at that? And it's very hard because those neural networks are multi-layered and all about maths. But as I said, output may be way more accurate, but it's very hard to decipher. Right, exactly. So that's a challenge. So that's a trust issue in that regard. Right, right. Well, Dr. Santi, thank you so much for coming on theCUBE. It was great talking to you. Okay, thank you very much. Thanks for inviting me. I'm Rebecca Knight for Paul Gillan. We will have more from the IBM CDO Summit in just a little bit.


William Shatner is best known as the original Captain Kirk from Star Trek, but he voyaged to the edge of space for real thanks to Amazon founder Jeff Bezos and his company Blue Origin. The experience, which made Shatner the oldest person in space, also brought him to tears, and upon returning he described experiencing the blackness of death and the fragility of life. We'll explore more on this episode of Lifespan News. Blue Origin's live broadcasted the launch, captured Shatner's conversation with Jeff Bezos moments after safely returning to Earth. Here's a bit of what that sounded like.  I don't know. What's that death? Is that what death is? Womp! And it's gone. Chase. It was so moving to me. This experience is something unbelievable. It's like a beat and a beat, and suddenly you're through the blue, and you're into black, and you're into, you know, it's large, mysterious, and galaxies and things, but what you see is black, and what you see down there is light, and that's the difference. And not to have this, you have done something. I mean, whatever those other guys are doing, what isn't, they don't, I don't know about that. What you have given me is the most profound experience I do now. I'm so filled with emotion about what just happened. I just, it's extraordinary. I hope I never recover from this. I hope that I can maintain what I feel now. I don't want to lose it. This profound experience that Shatner is describing is called the Overview Effect. It's a cognitive shift in awareness that has been reported by astronauts and cosmonauts from Yuri Gagarin on. And while the number of people who have been able to experience this effect first hand is small but growing, being able to see the Earth from space has already impacted all of us. This is the famous Earthrise photo, taken on Christmas Eve 1968 during the Apollo 8 mission, and deemed one of the most important photographs ever taken. While the view was certainly impactful for the astronauts on board, it also had a huge influence back on Earth. The rise of the environmental movements and the creation of Earth Day has been attributed, at least in part, to the effect of this photo and others like it, which showed this new perspective on Earth for the first time in history. And while in the 1960s, humans turned their view down to Earth for the first time and gained a new appreciation for the fragility of our planet and the need to take care of it, Shatner seemed more impacted by looking in the other direction, out into space, which he described as cold, ominous ugliness that threatens death. In one direction, he was reminded of the beauty of life and the need to protect it. And in the other, he saw death, and the experience brought him to tears. We've seen the positive impacts that space travel can have on humanity, even for those who haven't yet made the trip for themselves. This new perspective and awareness launched a movement to protect our planet decades ago, and if Shatner's experience is any indication, it could very well launch a movement to protect life and fend off death in the years ahead. It's worth noting that Jeff Bezos, who has made this trip himself, is heavily invested in a new company, Altos Labs, intending to do just that. You can learn more about his efforts in life extension in our episode linked below. So, what does the future hold? Well, it's a bit early to tell, but it appears as though humanity's drive to explore space, and our desire to overcome death, could become more and more interconnected, and could feed off of and support one another. Some may argue that investing in space is foolish, especially while there are pressing issues here on Earth. There are also arguments that say that life extension is selfish, and pulls resources away from other problems. I fully disagree with both of these points of view, and I think they demonstrate a short-sightedness that fails to account for the positive impacts that both space exploration and life extension science can have on humans alive today, as well as on those yet to come. If you also support efforts to overcome human limitations, or just want to stay updated, please subscribe to Lifespan News and spread the word about our content. The more we grow, the more we can advocate for beneficial science and technology. We appreciate your support, and we'll see you next time on Lifespan News.