Introduction of the Life and Adventures of Chanta Clear the Intelligent Rooster. An interesting story and verse for children. This is a LibriVox recording. All LibriVox recordings are in the public domain. For more information or to volunteer, please visit LibriVox.org. The Life and Adventures of Chanta Clear the Intelligent Rooster. An interesting story and verse for children by unknown. Translated by Louise Pollock. Introduction to the Little Ones. Come, children, dear, both great and small. I have something here to please you all. A little book where you may read of many a worthy noble deed. And learn to make of Chanta Clear a pattern for your conduct here. His good example in a child should make you all both brave and mild. I will tell you much that you'll like to hear of his studies and travels far and near and what he has done and heard and seen in all the places he has been. When very small his affectionate mother early taught him and his playmates to love one another. How his talents to use and his time to spend in virtue's ways till life should end. And that no sad regretful sigh should bar his pace when he came to die. Now with his friends will follow him to his grave and then will resolve to be as brave and as good and as generous as he are lives from naughty acts as free. Now read this little book, my dear, and learn to be like Chanta Clear. Introduction to the Adults. To you who understand still better the spirit hid beneath the letter. You who with children have been blessed. To you these lines are now addressed. You know the parent's mission is to weed and prune with watchfulness as sleepless as the eye of time, each little sin, each germ of crime. I know how weighty is the part to train the garden of the heart to plant the little plastic mind which heaven has to your charge consigned with seed that shines on virtue's roll and blooms forever in the soul. In playful mood I have tried to teach and make our roosters conduct, preach, lessons of virtue, goodness, worth, to age your holy task on earth and pleased shall be if in your need I've helped to plant that heavenly seed that bears the palm in earthly strife and yields the fruit of endless life. Then speed you forth, my little book, to house and cot and hidden nook where a child may be found to please and instruct on forward and upward its steps to conduct end of introduction. Chapter 1 Chanticleer's Birthplace Not far from a fine village stood a farmer's house and land on one side bounded by a wood of oaks and maples grand. Close by the barn a brook so clean ran singing on its way while in the barn there might be seen the cattle, sheep, and hay. But first of all the cottage neat will visit and the inmates greet.  The sixth the family comprise and all around looks neat and nice as all of them we now have seen and as you have good children being will go to the ample barnyard now and bid good morning to the cow and view the oxen, sheep, and hens, the squealing pigs shut in their pens, the frisking calves that gaze and stare frightened to see us enter there but we do not mean to harm them at all and now let us give the stable a call. It contains a fine horse with a mule by his side but they only use the horse when they take a ride. Take note of these lambs with snow white fleece, these pretty pigeons and cackling geese. Now let us call the poultry round by scattering corn upon the ground.  See how red they are growing and angry because Robin who also is hungry takes his share of the food scattered round for their brood but as they never were better taught they will not do just as they ought. Each seeks his selfishness to feed regardless of his neighbor's need. Such acts though fitting them a right in you would be a sorry sight. Now come with me close to the pigpen to see the wee chicks of this guinea hen. Those bantams there are pretty too but longer I cannot stay with you but stop we must certainly give a look to the peacock there standing by the brook with his handsome tail spread out so wide basking in the sunshine of his pride. Just turn to greet Rover whose kennel is there and who over all of them feels watchful care. Now somewhat acquainted you have become with the inmates of this pleasant home. Mrs. Bitty among the rest lived here who was to be the mother of Chanticleer. Chapter 2 Mrs. Bitty's adventure with a fox. What sad work he made among the poultry. Winter had gone towards the beginning of spring when sweet little birds began to sing. We had all bid goodbye to ice and snow, the sun shone with a brighter glow and bade with its warmth the leaves to come forth. The grass and sweet flowers it called into birth. The hens began their eggs to lay and cackled merrily all the day. One night it was an oversight the henhouse door was not shut tight. When every one was sound asleep even Rover forgot safe watch to keep and thus you can see at a single glance how it came that Mr. Fox had a fine chance to steal himself into the stable and carry off all he was able.  Mr. Fox had contrived the henroos to put feathers here and there all covered with blood, five dead little chickens laid about the floor which he left when he heard some noise near the door. It was no illusion, oh what a confusion! The women screamed, the farmers swore, the children mourned their loss still more. The man and the servant-girl I need not say how much they got scolded the whole blessed day and all felt mad with the wily thief who had caused them all this trouble and grief. Had he been caught Tiz not hard to guess he would at once have been put to death but what was the use of growing so mad the damage was done and though rather bad Tiz folly to blame and scold these creatures who from God received their different natures but hark what moves there under that straw. Why, Tiz our pet hen if ever I saw you were fortunate indeed with your life to escape hid away so snugly it was done in good shape. Good morning, good morning dear Mrs. Bitty more pleased they felt than if they'd won a city the children ran to get her some food and praised her for being so wise and good. A straw they brought the sweetest and best to build her the very nicest nest and her motherly qualities at once to test they placed twelve fresh eggs under her warm breast to sit on and raise them another brood to train and bring up to be useful and good why else to John was given the task to supply her with food and drink three times a day every care they take of the afflicted mother left soul alone without husband or brother. Chapter 3 Mrs. Bitty's second adventure oh with a skunk she loses all her eggs but one and finally receives assistance to protect her from her enemies and now Mrs. Bitty sat day and night brooding over her eggs so still and quiet she had almost forgot the fright and grief which the fox had caused of that remorseless thief when she saw one night how through a small hole near the door a black looking creature stole she had barely time to jump up and flee when he pounced on her nest it was a skunk you see who was going to treat himself to a feast and finding the hen gone thought he would at least have the eggs no sooner thought than done he quick went to work and carried off one to a place you would like to have learned couldn't have been far for he soon returned another and another to carry away and I think I may safely venture to say that no doubt he would have had them all head topsy not heard the poor hen's call how relieved she felt to see her rushing in and to see the skunk run to save his skin poor Mrs. Biddy even now hardly dared to return to her nest she was so scared you may imagine how sad she felt when but one egg in her nest she beheld yet to forsake this lone one she was too kind and just so she went back once more to sit on her empty nest and quietly sat there till morning light revealed to the household the sorry sight oh what a hue and cry was made again once more to have such a loss to sustain and all were moved to see Mrs. Biddy flap her wings so sadly it was a great pity with tearful eyes she begged them all to spare no pains and fastening the stall and look with care after every hole and crack to secure her against any future attack for in the next strife she might lose her life through many long nights I've watched or my nest and now believe me I need a little rest thus spoke poor Mrs. Biddy and moved all hearts with pity Chapter 4 Chanticleer's birth then all went to work without further delay to secure the henhouse in every way every hole was fastened up with care they wished neither time nor labor to spare to give rest and comfort to the poor creature and keep all her foes at bay for the future now that the good hen's peace was secured she sat undisturbed till her chick matured when the egg broke and it came to light how great was then the hen's delight to see her little chick so pretty and healthy gave her more bliss than to become very wealthy no fault in her darling could she detect the mother's fond eye her child was perfect it was pleasure to see it so lively and fat and yet so weak and delicate in place of a mouth it had a bill which it could open and close at will and quite astonishing it was she thought that a good appetite at once it brought on its little head would have pleased you well to see there was hanging a bit of eggshell it was John again as before who told the new advent to the whole household and all of them ran to the henhouse apace to view with their own eyes the truth of the case and sure enough there was the little fellow his tiny feathers tipped brown and yellow they all saw his bill and his wings by his side his two little feet to walk with a stride a spirit his feet besides his four toes bright eyes to see with but not any nose a tenderly loved biddy the wee little thing covering it gently under her warm wing so that it seemed as if it laid upon and nicely made up bed and like all children love to rest close to its loving mother's breast she'd lost all desire to go out in Rome like all tender mothers she stayed at home to take the best care of her little pet and keep watch that none should hurt him or fret whilst she carefully selected all his food and gave him only what was healthy and good Chapter 5 Mrs. Biddy has a grand party to celebrate the occasion of naming her child as now the chicken was growing older increasing in size it also grew bolder yet its mother kept close by its side its inexperienced footsteps to guide the cunning little doll was so pretty a sight that to see it everyone took much delight and the neighbors fowls often flew over the wall to make mother Biddy a friendly call though over a high fence to climb they had pleased with the chicken was even the cat the turkeys too the geese and the dog the oxen the horse the mule and the hog and Biddy when she saw how everyone took such interest in her little son thought no time nor labor she would spare to bring him up with the greatest care he shall be well educated and learned till the name of being a wise rooster he's earned yes he shall even to college go to learn there all there is to know and now my child must have a name the best way for reaching this aim will be to invite all my friends and at least a few strangers too to give them a feast in celebration of the occasion when two of them shall choose a name I will endeavor as far as I am able to place before them a well-spread table the news quickly spread and it was amusing to see them flock in leaving no time for choosing many robins and swallows flew down from the trees the ducks soon followed suit as also the geese the doves left their pigeon house one and all the turkeys and fowls too answered the call of blackbirds and martins there were some the peacock even thought fit to come while slow there comes with slow and measured step the proud gold pheasant of neighbor geese up mrs. Bitty gave all a pleasant greeting and hoped they would all enjoy their meeting then she gave each at her table a seat and placed before them to drink and to eat just as much as they wanted of the nice fare which she had prepared with great skill and care hard house and seller had yielded their store till on the table there was room for no more all had brought along a good appetite and every one of them seemed satisfied when right in the height of their enjoyment bitty rose and bowed to all present gracefully lifting up one of her feet she thus began her company to greet ladies and gentlemen you are all aware that when to the family is born in air it has always been an honored custom to invite all one's friends to come without regard to their name or station to grace with their presence the joyful occasion of choosing for the child a name and shouldn't I do the very same by my child my only one you know and there was not one who would say no for all agreed with her on the point you think as I do she then rejoined I therefore without further delay will proceed with what I have to say for godfather Mr. Peacock I choose and godmother shall be my friend Mrs. Goose if you are pleased to accept the same please to choose for my dear child a name as soon as Mrs. Bitty had retaken her chair Mr. Peacock arose with a dignified air spreading out his tail with great parade he walked up to mother Goose and said Mrs. Bitty has asked us a name to choose for her dear child and I'll not refuse if you also think best to fulfill her request she consented and both walked up to where the hostess was sitting in her chair and bowing with due reverence he thanked her for her preference and said on a name will agree without much ado will name him Chanticleer if it pleases you it was his father's name and if I remember right that of his grand sire too then hurrah they all cried then they kissed the child and retreated to the place where they had been seated and Chanticleer he was called by all of those who knew him both great and small End of section one section two of the life and adventures of Chanticleer the intelligent rooster an interesting story in verse for children by unknown translated by Louise Pollock this LibriVox recording is in the public domain chapter six Chanticleer's childhood his first disobedience and punishment and now mother Bitty in earnest begun to direct and instruct her dear little son what to choose for his drink where to find his food and early to distinguish the bad from the good how far he might run and where to abide whom to mistrust and in whom to confide she led him through the barn and the yard all over and they went to the meadow all covered with clover but you may depend that she never was found in the garden or upon the cultivated ground as some mischievous hens would do but Mrs. Bitty much better knew she carefully taught his youthful mind to keep from evil of every kind but one day when the hen wasn't near to prevent it young Chanticleer felt himself very much tempted to steal into the garden of a neighbour and eat of the fruit raised with much labour of currency ate the ripest and best but feeling guilty he ate in such haste that he couldn't enjoy his naughty trick a man too came after him with a stick who tried pretty hard to fell him down t'was the deacon in his long dressing gown and no doubt Chanticleer would have been dead had he been hit on his wayward little head when at last he reached home quite trembling with fright his mother saw quickly that all was not right and concluded that to keep him from doing wrong again and to make him obedient she must give him some pain so she took a rod and held him by the wing and gave her naughty child a severe whipping he sobbed and cried loud and long though he felt was just for he'd done wrong children should always be made to mind to keep them from evil of every kind Chapter 7 Chanticleer learns to read come here my child said mother hen one day to Chanticleer when he came in from play it is time now to begin to think of something besides play, food and drink a child who smart desires to be must early learn his A, B, C the vowels A, E, I, O, U and all the other letters too then when you know them well you will learn how to spell therefore I have brought for you this book into which I hope you will often look now come at once and repeat after me slowly and attentive your A, B, C quickly you'll learn them all by heart soon to spell you'll begin if you are smart and I promise that when to read you begin you shall have books with pretty stories within then she pointed to the letters and pronounced them with care and made her little Chanticleer speak them after her it was rather hard work for him but still he went at his letters with determined will and grateful for his mother's pains he tried to make her entirely satisfied yet at first he thought he hated to study and only through love for dear mother Biddy he persevered without being much admonished and by his progress all were much astonished for soon he knew all his letters so well that now he began to learn how to spell and if he'd been diligent before he now applied himself still more great interest and pleasure now he took of his reading book for now he was able to read pretty tales all about elephants lions and whales about bees who make delicious honey about a man who'd do anything for money about good little Charlie and careless stick about the sly fox who played the farmer a trick about the tall giraffe and the striped zebra and about the tiger and every story no sooner read so fast he pronounced it better than the last and I know you'll be glad to have it said that Chanticleer reflected upon all he read and when anything didn't seem quite clear he'd inquire the meaning of his mother dear and thus by reading and close observation he gained more knowledge than others in his station he agreed deal and could tell you at once the names of several kinds of plants of trees and flowers of greens and fruit and knew for what purposes they were good he read about fishes and birds in the air about the snail who drags her house after her about oceans and ships and shells on the shore and about many different objects more what he learned and observes during his walks with his mama and what with reading and observing nature he grew in knowledge as well as in stature and as might be expected from a good loving child he was always quick to mind obliging and mild this filled the mother's heart with pleasure who sought to please him by spending her leisure in taking him frequently out to walk there and have a nice talk when thus engaged in pleasant conversation she took pains to direct his observation to the many blessings all around with which God made this earth abound the stately oak with the tiny acorn the million of insects which are daily born the lashes berries and juicy fruit many herbs which are for sickness good the water in the brook as glass the nourishing grains the velvety grass the bird in the air who so sweetly sings all this they admired and many more things and often they'd see the cow enjoying her feed in the rich meadow and felt sorry that she did not spare the pretty flowers that were there then in summer during the noon day heat they would do the shady woods retreat and at other times she'd take her little one to the garden to see the setting sun as it pinched the sky with the crimson light and Chanticleer thought it was a splendid sight when going home they would stop on their way to admire the flower beds so gay roses and peonies with evening do bright pinks ghillie flowers and ladies delight Chanticleer enjoyed very much all he saw and often would say thank you dear mama for taking me out to walk with me and showing such lovely sights to me chapter nine Chanticleer's complaint to his mother about the evils which he observes all about him his mother's advice quite different sights met Chanticleer's eye when playing in the yard close by here he saw the robin forever stealing cherries there's some roosters were picking the right berries though often they had been driven away they wanted to have their share they would say the crow would pull up the corn which the farmer just now had sewn sweet little birds innocent and gay were killed by the cat their enemy at poor old men often bark the dog to wallow in dirt delighted the hog when the bull came home at the close of the day everyone would run out of the fellow's way to get some chickens the hawk would strive though they had never harmed him in their life to see the turkeys fight made him also feel quite sad when they tried to get away with what another one had he often complained to his mama of the evils which he daily saw my child good mrs. bitty says do you not follow their bad ways bad habits and vice you must ever hate only what good you may see you must imitate a good child had much rather be clean and neat than to soil his clothes or muddy his feet he never must love to give pain without need to any of God's creatures whom he chances to meet a good child does not tease nor fight my son nor ever scratches the face of anyone he does not call bad names nor is on mischief bent but is ever obliging and reverent he does not contradict what is said to him nor pout when not gratified in every whim be kind to all and respect even the poor for these are virtues which will ever endure be slow to judge but ready to be kind and especially always quick to mind chapter 10 Chanticleer learns to write and addresses a letter to his mother today we must learn some new lesson my dear mrs. bitty said one morning to Chanticleer and that you may learn how to write just look I have brought you this pencil and writing book to learn how to write is the next step to take if in learning you wish much progress to make straight marks for the beginning will do next follow letters and numbers to I know every day you will like it better how pleased you will be when you can write a letter now take the pencil and hold it in this way let us make a fair beginning today be careful to make these marks as I do and tomorrow you shall make M N and you Chanticleer did as he was bit and daily at his desk would sit and though at first his marks were not quite straight soon one could see that good progress he made just six months from the time that he first begun on his mother's birthday this beautiful son sat down and wrote a beautiful sheet a composition for his mother to read dear mother whom I love so well I am more happy than I can tell to be able on your birthday to wish you much joy forgive if I have not always been a good boy and I will try to go better every day to prove my love this will be the best way please continue to love my mother dear thy true and affectionate Chanticleer to be sure this might have been written much better but his mother thought it was a beautiful letter her eyes were suffused with tears of joy to think that she had such an affectionate boy she thought he fully rewarded her for all her solicitude and care End of section 2 section 3 of the life and adventures of Chanticleer the intelligent rooster an interesting story and verse for children by unknown translated by Louise Pollock chapter 11 his youth he learns how to draw his fruitless efforts to learn how to sing now that Chanticleer knew how to write and read his mother bought all the utensils he need to learn how to draw first upon the slate and as he soon very good pictures made she gave him paper pencil and even a board the use of which he yet ignored but little teaching was sufficient to make him in drawing proficient then a paint box was given him a perfect treasure and his paintings gave universal pleasure next mrs. Biddy thought what a nice thing it would be to have him learn how to sing but who was she for a teacher to get this difficulty had to be settled yet so she went out and invited all the inmates of the yard to call that she might hear each one's voice and from among them make a choice they all came their best efforts to lend each hoping to satisfy their friend first the turkey began followed by the peacock after him a rooster a goose and a duck then the pig grunted the mule did bray after that the oxen had their say the kitty mewed and purred her best then the dog barked with commendable zest and each thought they were doing remarkably well but which was the worst it would be hard to tell now each had been heard even the dove who could but none of them would mrs. Biddy suit and earnestly upon her object bent out into the fields and forests she went but at first all her effort seemed to fail till at last she found a nightingale who accepted her offer as teacher with pleasure and taught Chanticleer all about sound and measure she tried her best and spared no pain to teach him to sing but all in vain the notes were written on the paper with skill but all he could do was open his bill and squawk out dolefully go go go which was plain was all that he ever could do I thank you for your trouble mrs. Biddy said I fear for your trouble you are hardly paid but it's useless for him any more lessons to take for I'm sure a singer he never will make perhaps he may at some future day learn upon some instrument to play chapter 12 Chanticleer studies arithmetic not long after this mrs. Biddy began to say to her little rooster man we have reached thus far with your education and now we'll take a look at calculation for if in usefulness you desire to abound it is needful that you know how to count come then and sit down beside me and count attentively one two three four five six seven eight nine ten of that number what have you ever seen I have seen ten fingers on the hands of men and of toes on their feet there are also ten that's right now can you tell me how much are one and two that's three he replied you are right again and two from four there to remain you are doing well my child she said now mark that two times four makes eight add two to this how much is it then and Chanticleer said it must be ten how much are two and ten can you tell me I think it must make twelve said he alright again and twelve is a number which is called a dozen you must remember when we count knives forks or table cloths napkins handkerchiefs or hose twelve months there are in every year do not forget this Chanticleer how much is six times two now can you tell it is twelve I think you have answered well add two now to twelve it is easy to be seen yes he replied that makes fourteen by this you can see how very quick he was in learning a arithmetic chapter thirteen Chanticleer saves a little bird from drowning and courageously comes to a chicken's rescue while thus employed in learning daily something new to quite a large and intelligent rooster he grow the spurs at his feet were beginning to show and on his head a respectable comb did grow the feathers of his coat and of his tail also shone brightly with all the colors of the rainbow in seeing him all the neighbors took delight especially when in the bright sunlight to be admired so much it would not have been very astonishing if he had grown vain but he did not to his honor be it said with all that so much homage to him was paid his bearing was modest though he walked erect uniting humility to a proper self respect and once when out walking with his dear mama on approaching the Brooke young Chanticleer saw a little bird which by some chance had fallen in and no doubt would have drowned had it not been seen by our young friend who instantly flew to the poor little bird's timely rescue drew him out of the water and laid him down then carefully wiped his dripping gown very soon the warm Sun had made it quite dry then its mother who had now approached nearby cried out thank you for being so kind and brave now in return your life I'll try to save go away as quick as you can from here for I know that a crafty fox is near that's every kind word or good action spent will surely find its reward in the end on another occasion topsy the cat though apparently no evil thought she had by the fence of the garden with stealing by not aware that upon her was fastened his eye she suddenly give a spring quite bold and upon a chicken fastened hold hoping to regale herself no doubt but she was mistaken she soon found out for Chanticleer at once flew upon her neck and vigorously began her head to pack and loudly called the neighbors to assist in case that topsy should attempt to resist but she was so frightened that very quick she dropped the trembling bleeding chick and not daring to give them time to think she escaped from the spot as quick as wink then they all surrounded him and in many ways expressed to him their approbation and praise but Chanticleer told them that he thought he'd only done what anyone ought not to do any wrong requires strong will but to prevent evil is better still chapter 14 Chanticleer's youth he goes to college and applies himself well to his studies the doctor advises him not to study so hard and to be moderate in all things the lovely summer season had passed away and the storms of winter were having their sway when during one cool and frosty day we heard our own French and declare say now mother I'm strong and old enough to to start on a journey the world to view when snow and ice are melting and spring comes forth I shall leave for a while your maternal hearth as many others have done before me I shall not consent to this step said she my wish which I trust you will not disregard is that next spring you go to old Harvard and learn there all you possibly can when you come home you may pursue your plan accordingly to old Cambridge he went and over his studies all his energy spent I should really have liked to have had you come and see the big books which he studied from he enjoyed it better to study and think then he did walk out or to eat or drink he read and wrote and wrote and read so much that the doctor to him said my young man allow me to scold you some you were fat and stout when you left your home and now your countenance looks one and thin you study too much that is plain to be seen now heed my advice and study less and you will be more sure of success to be sure whilst often 10 out of 11 to their books and studies have to be driven yet to do too much of the very best thing never fails a deal of mischief to bring to sit too many hours or too much thinking to eat immoderately or too much drinking to waste one's time by too much sleep or study too much or too late hours keep too much boasting as well as too much pride or too much desire ones merits to hide too often to borrow or too often to lend all these one must be aware of my young friend for it is best on every occasion to use a proper moderation still you are deserving of much praise my lad that you do not follow the example so bad of those who love horses wine and lager beer better than the books which to study they came here squandering their money and time without measure spending in useless pursuits all their leisure to succeed in the world the very best way is to use moderation faith and energy chapter 15 Chanticleer starts on a journey he is taken sick in New Orleans and writes a letter to his mother the end of the college term had come and Chanticleer now was returning home Mrs. Bitty was pleased to see him and then was willing to have him his journey begin his release was soon packed it was a glorious thing he thought when he started one fine day in spring the various scenes he viewed with delight the sky so serene and the sun so bright and at times when a fine stream or mountain he'd see you could have seen him for joy jump as high as a tree he enjoyed it so much to travel in Rome that he did not once think of returning home but at last his money was much in decrease and in New Orleans he was prostrated by disease just as soon as he grew a little better he wrote to his mother a pitiful letter my very dear mother he wrote what will you say when you learn that I've been sick three weeks to a day I am quite low with a fever and my money is all gone and poor nursing and care do I get here alone very often I think as on my straw I lie here for my desire to travel I am paying pretty dear yet I must confess that though now in a sad plight many lovely scenes I have viewed with delight I have climbed up mountains and sailed on a lake and would have crossed the ocean were it not for your sake and did you know that telegraph wires are now in use which carry with lightning speed messages and news instead of traveling by stages and team the wagons and freight are now carried by steam ships also need no longer the wind to heed for they now go by steam at much greater speed many other improvements have been made also for instance a machine which can plow and hoe and I wish you had one which really can sell but last these nice things are only sold to the ones whose pockets are filled with gold and as you know this isn't the case with me we must learn without them contented to be every where much glitter and fashion I see yet all this does not hide the great misery in which many are living and dying every day and which to alleviate their ought to be away and now I will bid you an affectionate goodbye and trust that to send me some money you'll try that as soon as possible I may get away from here whilst meanwhile I remain your affectionate Chanticleer end of section 3 section 4 of the life and adventures of Chanticleer the intelligent rooster an interesting story and verse for children by unknown translated by Louise Pollock chapter 16 Chanticleer returns home he relates his adventures Mr. Gander is imprudent and is reproved a year had now almost passed away since our hero started on his way and though in traveling he much pleasure found his steps were most joyous when homeward bound and when the old homestead to his view had come he crowed out in gladness there's no place like home he reached there at last and all were glad to see that he had grown from a fair young lad to a sunburnt young man tall and erect possessed by much knowledge and self-respect his mother was delighted above the rest to press him once more to her motherly breast how glad I am she said to see you again now the rest of my days with me you'll remain how brown you are and how you've grown tall now tell us of your adventures all and a good many hours now daily he spends as round him are gathered his neighbors and friends to tell of many lovely places seen where during his travels he had been to the white mountains he had been tempted to go where in mid-summer the hill tops are clad with snow while the valleys with verger were all aglow in new york he had found the most fashion and show the views on the Hudson were very fine this river is oft called the American Rhine he saw west point where boys learn to fight to defend their country and their right the western states he visited to where wheat and corn in plenty grew I had a chance to see the prairies in the states of Wisconsin and Illinois the valley of the Mississippi to is a fine country to travel through the climate suited me so well I would have stayed there a longer spell had it not been for the ones of means that I had to quit those lovely scenes in too much haste to suit my taste but you must know that I soon found out that to enjoy traveling about to go sightseeing and pay hotel fare requires a full purse everywhere the next best thing is to be polite and ever do what you know to be right good manners abroad or at home gain friends wherever you roam thus many an hour was passed away in pleasant converse every day and all the neighbors round about accepted his word without a doubt but once when mentioning a steamboat explosion Mr. Gander conceived the silly notion to contradict him to his face and say I believe to use big words is the way with the fast young men of our day but Chanticleer said my good sir nay allow me to tell you with due respect that anything different we cannot expect from one who always remains at home who beyond his yard never wishes to roam one who hates his school and a book reads never remains a gander forever and ever then they all laughed and called him smart though Gander thought was rather tart chapter 17 Mrs. Biddy's death Chanticleer's marriage he is a dutiful husband and father sometime after this Mrs. Biddy grew ill and died very soon after making her will her loss is felt by many a friend to whom she had never refused to lend to everyone she had been friendly and kind and many a good deed she left behind though now quite a man was Chanticleer the geese would call him little even this year but this did not fit him anymore at all but rather Mr. Cockerel now Lord of the stall he felt rather lonesome now his mother was gone so he thought he no longer would remain alone and improving the very first chance he called upon his owner at once dear sir he said to you I have come to ask for a wife to grace my home to greater bliss I do not aspire be pleased to gratify my humble desire the man replied to the pleasure to me instead of one to give you three Chanticleer thanked him with due respect and felt as pleased as one might expect his home now was as cheerful as when his mother kept house that excellent hen his happiness now seemed without alloy his good hence society gave him much joy he was always attentive and kind to them but whenever some strange dandy in his yard came his family to tease and disturb the peace he never failed in sending him home with repenting heart and bleeding comb as a good husband he ever took pride to keep the wants of his household supplied whilst his faithful wives with equal zest kept laying their eggs in their cozy nest and soon he had the pleasure to be father to quite a large family and often in their midst was he seen with watchful looks and tender mean early he began to instruct them all and taught them to mind the very first call and never neglected his acknowledged right to awaken them all at the first dawn of light when the weather was going to change he knew and always acknowledged it with cockadoodle do good order reigned in his household nor did he ever coax or scold was danger near he would sound the alarm and thus keep them all from attack or harm all helped earn their food and forbidden was theft but the best morsels were always for little ones left thus he well earned the desirable name of a wise rooster wherever he came chapter 18 to adventures with mr. Fox whose schemes are defeated mr. Fox soon heard a report of all this and thought by himself would not be a miss to make upon them a friendly call and gain an entrance to this rooster's stall then wouldn't he have a nice time of it and forthwith he set to work his wit and as soon as he his plans had laid he knocked one night at the door and said a kind mr. Rooster open I pray your door to me for I've lost my way I am a poor orphan child and people call me good and mild I have no friend in the wide wide world and oh I am so hungry and cold but it was not easy our rooster to cheat he felt at once that it was all deceit so he called out to the wily loafer just go and knock at the door of Rover he'll open the door at once to you then loudly he crowed his cockadoodle this quickly Bart Rover who came to see what at this time of night the matter could be but when he got there he saw with grief that he had come too late to catch the thief he made chase after reynard but without avail yet succeeded to bite off a piece of his tail whilst Foxy was squeezing through a hole in the wall with empty panic and narrow escape with all a good warning to him this lesson might seem still he would not renounce his cherished scheme but taking fresh courage he went once more to knock one dark night again at the door open to me quickly cried out the liar the village and your homestead are on fire I much obliged to you my dear replied our cautious chandelier your kind help I'll not refuse nor your readiness abuse but I'll open to you at once he said to the conceited dunce however he thought best not to grant the request but opened a certain door which mr. Fox had not looked for quickly he put his paw in when low the clap of the door made him feel that it was a trap now piteously for mercy he cried and to move Chanticleer's heart he tried but when he saw all hope was passed by a powerful effort he got free at last but not without pulling with all his might and tearing off one paw which served him right chapter 19 a naughty child sad consequences of his willfulness thus cautious and wise was Chanticleer a bright example to far and near and his little children behaved so well there could scarce be found a parallel only one there was among them all though yet quite young and very small who always wanted his own way and would have the last word to say his little tongue he could not bridle when all were busy he would be idle of everything nice he'd have the best share his naughtiness caused his mother much care his father saw this with displeasure and though he ascribed it in a measure to his having been petted when he was ill he began to correct this stubborn will he spoke to him again and again but all his efforts were in vain then his father said I'm sorry for you for selfishness will be punished I know and to be sure not many weeks after this he ate too many currents and gooseberries in consequence of this naughty trick he was taken very sick the doctor to restore him tried but without success he grew worse and died this made them all feel very bad indeed his father felt so sad that really quite then he grew and at last he was taken sick too this gave the family very much pain and they hoped he soon would be well again he carefully followed the doctor's advice took his medicines though they did not taste very nice the news of his illness was soon spread all over the village and many said that he would follow his son to the grave but Providence thought best his life to save the doctor held with others council and shortly after our hero got well and all were pleased once more to behold him resuming his duties as of old thus a naughty child on mischief bent brings trouble and pain to his parent to the world he now was longer spared and as before he always cared that peace and order at home should rain much love and respect he thus did gain his children now were growing tall yet still obeyed his wish or call Jersey blue blossom Shanghai and names these were the four eldest daughter's names while the names of the four oldest boys were Lord Bolton Dick Coughlam and Chanticleer chapter 20 Chanticleer and his family flee from the village at the approach of soldiers who threatened to take their lives they direct their steps to Cambridge one day the neighbors all around were startled by an unusual sound like of approaching troops the hum of trapping men with fife and drum yes surely they were soldiers with muskets on their shoulders everyone in the village was then scared they did not know that war was declared they were going to take the place I suppose and woe to the one who'd try to oppose already they were for fighting and killing but thought with poultry to make a beginning for besides their swords and desire to fight they'd brought with them a good appetite and one zoo off whom they all feared because he had such a long beard with sword in hand looked all around to see where Chanticleer was to be found but like a wise father at the first alarm he taken his brood out of the way of harm to a close ticket in the neighborhood where however was but little food it is of no use the danger to hide which now surrounds us on every side such and declare with a serious brow and I think the best way to do now is for the older children to travel abroad the first few days keep on the back road the little ones must remain in my care and my fortunes they shall freely share in Cambridge I've a valued friend to seek him out I now intend he was a noble generous youth scorning meanness loving truth he will a cordial hand extend and kindly welcome an old friend so when the day expires in night will quietly begin our flight and a section four section five of the life and adventures of Chanticleer the intelligent rooster an interesting story in verse for children by unknown translated by Louise Pollock chapter 21 adventures of their journey they are frightened without cause they reach Cambridge a kind welcome slowly and sadly past the day till evening came with shadows gray then at the rising of the moon the older children one by one came of their father leave to take weeping as if their hearts would break but he bade them dry their tears and let their courage quell their fears he hoped that many things they'd learn to talk of when they should return then kissing them a fond good night he told them to prepare for flight they beta do and Chanticleer awoke the little one so dear and with the heavy heart within the cheerless journey they begin their timid feelings mixed with fear kept them close to Chanticleer a non they heard a wrestling sound twas but the huntsman and his hound beating the bush to find some game then a carriage rumbling came striking on the startled ear awakening every sense of fear the whistling cars they also heard which every pulse of wonder stirred once on their way there seemed to stand a giant with an outstretched hand when the approached was found to be a dry and withered willow tree soon all were glad to greet the day and idle fears they laughed away when the sun did bright ascend it put to every fear an end his rays dispersed all thoughts of sadness and filled each little heart with gladness the lark ascended high in air and warbled there his morning prayer and farmers hurried to the fields to plant the fruit that nature yields whoever hath risen at early morn late in his bed to lie will scorn so sweet the breath of perfumes rare that float about in the morning air the family still kept marching on each hour a greater distance one their food they gathered on the way and did not rest their feet nor play but air the second day had passed one little chick grew lame so fast that chanta clear with clever tact lifted the we one on his back and then proceeded on the way till near the closing of the day when in the distance they described a smoke a church spire and beside they saw upon the distant hill the ancient college standing still said chanta clear with gay delight there's Cambridge where we rest tonight a friendly person in the street guided their worn and weary feet to where he said his friend did well then chanta clear pulled at the bell the door for them was opened wide and gladly each one stepped inside the friend delighted seem to be good chanta clears bright face to see he bade them welcome to his home and all were glad that they had come you see we live quite plainly here said William then to chanta clear though poor the fair by which we live we never forget our thanks to give to the father above who listens in love and bids us be kind to the poor we find at morning stawn we all arise we've learned the morning hours to prize coffee and tea we do not make to quench our thirst pure water take and in some quite secluded nook we often bathe in the sunny brook we come out fresh for cheerful labors in which we're joined by our neighbors when we have finished the work of day and at night our weary limbs we lay on our rude and simple caught down and feathers are all forgot who labors well can sleep with ease without the slightest aid from these and can be sure of quiet rest if only with clear conscience blessed gladly they accepted his invitation hoping to return it on some occasion chapter 22 a dancing bear they suddenly depart for home one day when they were in the street where they had gone a friend to meet they heard a noise of fife and drum and wondered what to town had come and everybody ran to see the wondrous things that there might be a shaggy bear from far away with him they saw a camel grey larger than horses on the road and on his back a monkey strode a comic cap above his nose with gaudy coat and scarlet hose he jumped and grinned turned a summer set looked around for what he could get an organ grinder took the stand and the monkey started cap in hand to ask for gifts with a knowing wink as much as to say you'll give I think and often do his happy lot there fell an apple or a nut then the man gave a stick to the bear which he took with a very knowing air and began to perform with the right goodwill with a martial air the soldiers drill and all cried out oh dear how tame but just then another noise came to bring to a sad and sudden end their pleasure which seemed so innocent it was the enemy as before who'd come to frighten them once more with cannons and horses and dreadful band who they feared would desolate the land for everywhere the fear of war frightens people wherever they are and at all times those have had a bad name who made fighting their object and aim yet sometimes for a noble cause arms must be taken even by those who are friends of quiet and of peace but liberty love more than ease this of course Chanticleer didn't understand so he took his little ones by the hand and hid with them far out of the way you see dear children we then heard him say that even wild beasts can be tamed by men for all creation is mastered by them yet when revengeful passions in men's bosoms dwell they convert this fair earth into a hell worse than the wild bear in the wood man kills his brother in angry mood let's turn our steps towards our old home since the soldiers now this way have come chapter 23 their joyful return Chanticleer's children Mary his advice to them to be industrious and to be united when the journey was made they all felt glad to find that the others returned had to the old homestead where all was quiet which filled them all with great delight it was indeed a pleasing sight to see them all once more unite each their adventures to recount then all went off to sleep quite sound in bright in the morning they began once more to go on the same as they'd done before the oldest daughters got married now the sons to took the marriage vow and in their turn had children soon who quickly learned to walk alone still Chanticleer felt right smart and hail through grandpa now throughout the veil and often he would enjoy to be surrounded by his great family telling them stories of days past and gone and of his travels which he'd made all alone and many lessons useful and kind he imparted to their youthful mind everyone should try he once said to all to fill a place on earth even though it be small no drones should allowed to be members of your great family money will not always ensure what one most needs and what will endure as kindness esteem or intelligence which are worth more than shillings or pence each individual has from heaven for his use different talents given to work with his head one best understands another finds it easier to work with his hands the carpenter builds a house with the plan which the skillful architect has drawn then the plasterer and painter must do their share the upholsterer will next be needed there to make in furnished table and couch and put upon all the finishing touch then many others must also come to add comfort to a pleasant home thus it is with ships and everything else many hands are needed more than wealth if ever you'd succeed in an enterprise you must unite with the skillful and the wise and each must do what he best knows how whether it be to teach a school or milk a cow study economy save time and strength measure beforehand the cables length if you undertake to lay it is always safest first to weigh it rise early and waste no time in slumber and union is strength ever remember another find virtue is honesty with determination and industry then persevere and with patient toil you'll raise a crop from the poorest soil be not content to work for your gain alone but make others interests your own and always think for others to do as you wish that they would do for you and everyone loved to hear and listen to old Chanta clear and those eyes to fail began his hearing to was on the wane yet his advice was as good as ever and was sought by all the good and clever the children would often leave their playmates to bring to grandpa their books or slates to read to him or hear him versus recite or beg for a story in the pleasant twilight yet was great plane to be seen that he was getting old and infirm to be his step was feeble and tremulous his song and all felt that he would leave them air long they praised him the more and couldn't do enough to make him forget his troublesome cough he often was touched by their tender care and then would say a little longer for bear with your old sire while I dwell with you I know that rich blessings are your do may you find your reward is my greatest wish for your love so devoted and unselfish chapter 24 the good deeds of his grandchildren which one deserved to receive the precious diamond one night was in the pleasant autumn he made all his grandchildren to come and said to them in a pleasant mood as they all around him quietly stood I own a precious diamond clear I kept for the one who'd be most dear but to me you are all alike dear therefore the one who from among you here today the best of deeds has done shall have my diamond for his own then arose one pretty little one all day I try to be good he begun I have prayed and studied and wrote and read and minded every word that mama has said but this I know is nothing to boast of to do one's duty is hardly enough a second one then jumped on his feet and said today I ate too much fat meat it made me more sick than I ever had been so I asked mother for some medicine though I hate it for it is bitter as gull but I knew to would relieve me and that was all a third then got up and said my mother made me take care of my little brother and during her absence with him to stay soon after my schoolmates wanted me to play with them in the street and that baby weep till he should have cried himself to sleep but I wouldn't follow their naughty whim but rather remained alone with him and now there was scolded said the fourth one this morning for what I myself had done though there were none the contrary to prove I thought would be shameful to stand aloof the innocent I would not let suffer for me I owned myself guilty that he might be free though I knew I shouldn't have been detected yet was no more then could be expected a nice little chick then got up and said I saw a little child who I was afraid would take cold this cool morning for it sat where the wind blew hard and was thinly clad I took off my coat and put it on her the boys all laughed at me but I didn't care this morning early a sixth one told I found a beautiful piece of gold I searched for the owner who had lost it and gave it to him is no great merit the seventh one spoke with modesty I was punished today severely because for my sister I wished to bear the punishment which was due to her for it was she who spilled the milk on the floor when she stumbled over the sill of the door but I'm sure I don't deserve any praise for she's often kind to me in many ways an older one said my supper last night I gave to a poor little girl who cried with hunger and with cold and fear I ran to my home which was quite near and got my supper and returned to where she was standing then give it to her I was glad to see it tastes so good just think that day she tasted no food it was no great privation to me I hardly know what it is hungry to be you are all good children said Chanticleer kind yet modest you don't wish to appear any better than what you really are vanity is ever with virtue at war then never boast of having done your duty for modesty to a kind heartlands beauty but now you must each your voice give who deserves my diamond to receive but just then a neighbor's chicken came and said you know who I am I'm the same who thinks it is the nicest fun to tease and fight whenever I can I especially like to plague to the naughty whim your good little dick whenever I meet him last night I saw him and flew on his head and knocked him down when he gently said it would be an easy thing for me the same thing unto thee but this would not please the father above who bids us for evil return deeds of love today as I lay fast asleep by a tree a hornet a lighted and would have stung me but your dick observed the danger and flew to the place where I was to my rescue grandpa's heart was filled beyond measure this gives me the greatest pleasure my dear dick he said there are but few who such generous and noble deeds would do you try to keep hidden from us your merit and from your enemy we had to learn it to return good for evil forgive our foe is the noblest action that one can do I therefore without hesitation proclaimed to all my declaration the diamond is yours and though dazzling and clear it shines not so bright as your action my dear and I hope it ever will recall to you that there is nothing that we in secret do but what some time or other it will be known for everyone reaps what he has sewn you all well began and I hope will continue to follow the path which is trodden by few for though hard the conquest of passions and ease it's certain reward is happiness and peace chapter 25 Chanticle's death and funeral the end thus age had crowned him wise and good and round him gathered a very large brood of grandchildren in feathers bright peeping and chirping with delight he taught them all to seek the truth and gather knowledge in their youth to be industrious gentle kind and all their parents counsel mind that they in future years might be good members of society so great is wisdom each one prayed that death from him might long be stayed but on one sultry summer day when lowering clouds hung dark and gray and lightning flashed with frightful glare and thunder peels smote on the air threatening the while in angry strain to deluge all the earth with rain some little chicks from home did stray but where they'd gone no one could say so grandpa with anxious care began to search round everywhere until he found them one and all and brought them to their mother's stall but by running fast and getting wet a bad fever in his blood was set which made him very weak and ill and not withstanding doctors skill and all the care that love can give to us found to soon he could not live and when ten painful days were passed he calmly gently breathed his last the sad news spread both far and near and all the friends of Chanticleer came now to look a last adieu on one whose virtues all of them knew for more until night in crowds they stood lamenting loud that one so good so wise and just so great and brave must now be buried in the grave the funeral came from far and near crowds came to honor Chanticleer and do for him the last sad right do those that pass from mortal sight and was a novel scene to view each morning hen and rooster too were clothed in black from top to toe this you'd have like to see I know the slowly moving lengthened train saying funeral hymns in solemn strain and tears bedimmed each mourner's eye till not a single one was dry how deep must be that scene of woe when roosters tears can freely flow and grave old hens with moistened eye can just like children sob and cry and in the train besides relations were birds of different ranks and stations who came to pay the honor due to Chanticleer the wise and true peacocks their gorgeous plumes displayed and geese and somber gray arrayed and troops of swans and spotless white and files of ravens black as night all came to show how large apart he'd filled in every mourner's heart at length they reached the quiet spot where was the family's burying lot when all commenced to sob a new and make a very great adieu it almost seemed as if they try to see which could the loudest cry the sexton draped in a long black gown then slowly let the coffin down then flapped his wings with solemn air and thus addressed the mourners there my friends he said to his sad I know to a friend you've found it so with grateful hearts then let us cherish his noble deeds they cannot perish to honor him his councils he'd your services he does not need but he can still serve you how I'll tell by the noble life which he lived so well and slowly now they all walked home to the different places when state come and when the family were alone the oldest son made them be done with crying which availed them not I feel as deeply as I ought the heavy loss we've all sustained but fruitless grief must be restrained in our father's death which all deplore a friend has left this changing shore for wisdom renown for virtues esteemed for goodness of heart unequaled it seemed who has left us his life as a legacy rare let us all strive to follow his example so fair so that death when he comes as he comes to all shall find each prepared to answer the call here ends my history children dear of that wonderful rooster chanted clear whether you'll see his like I doubt but should it ever come about that you of a wonderful rooster here he must be a descendant of chanted clear the end end of section 5 end of the life and adventures of chanted clear the intelligent rooster an interesting story in verse for children by unknown translated by louise pollock


Juanita! Welcome back to Life, Lessons, and Film, and today we'll be making sense of life through Juanita. Yeah. Yeah. Interesting. Interesting. I like it. Interesting. So let's back story. Yeah. We watched it because we were trying to watch something that we wouldn't review. I don't remember why it was. Yeah. We just wanted to relax. Yeah, just to relax. We definitely weren't expecting it to be something that we would like as much as we liked. Yeah. Although when we did see the trailer, it was so cute.  Yeah, she's breaking the fourth wall, talking to the camera. Can you believe what my life is like? Yeah, it was funny. And I can relate to a lot of things as well that she did like the daydreaming. I do that all the time. Well, not as much now. No need. Yeah, because I have you. And the killer of daydreams. He's the killer of daydreams. She's daydreaming all the time because she doesn't have the life that she wants. You know, and she doesn't have, she's not married. I don't know where the dad is. Nobody talks about that. She's living in her house. Her old, her adult kids are still living with her. One, the daughter has her own kid. And so she then, she has Juanita babysit, which I believe Juanita, as much as she's a grandmother and loves the kid, the grand kid, is resentful all that. And I remember there's that scene where in the beginning she's like, the daughter's like, I'm going out with friends. I need it. I deserve it. Meanwhile, she doesn't have a job, by the way. Juanita has a job. And her daughter's like, no, I need it. I need to take a break. And you know, and she's like, no. Juanita's like, no, I want to take a break. I've had a tough week before. That's my one day off. And she's like, yeah, but you get the whole house to yourself. But I'm like, yeah, the whole house to yourself, but then you're taking care of a kid. That doesn't quite work. That's kind of a manipulative language, isn't it? One million percent. Yeah. So yeah, Juanita's kind of stuck in this rut where she's taking care of so many people, but no one's really taking care of her. And she finally reaches the breaking point. Yeah. And she says, you know what? My daydreams aren't even doing it for me. People who escape with the daydreams, you know, have kind of erotic nights with Blair Underwood. Yeah. And then even Blair, even her daydreams, he started to ask things over, like ask for money from her.  I got to just get myself out of this situation. Yeah. It takes a bus to Butte. Yeah. And Boote. Boote, yeah. And then, yeah, it makes kind of a new fresh start for herself. It comes across a very small town, goes to a diner, kind of convinces the owner of the diner to maybe freshen up the look and the menu and everything, forms a relationship with them and has some adventures. Yeah. And her life turns out not so bad. Yeah, not so bad. Not so bad. Yeah. I liked it. I liked that. Isn't it even kind of, you could say daydream is even kind of like dissociating in a way. It's kind of where you're kind of taking yourself out of a situation that clearly you need to escape from. Yeah, I guess so. Yeah. I mean, if you're going to take it that deep. Yeah. And yeah, I guess the fact that Claire Underwood starts asking her for money in the daydream. Yeah. I think that she's her escape. Yeah. That's, I feel for her, that's kind of like, okay, breaking point. Yeah. The daydreams don't even work anymore. I need to get out of here. Yeah. I can't even escape through my daydreams. I need to physically remove myself from this situation. Yeah. Yeah. And it's kind of like a film way, a movie way of showing when someone finally has enough and the things that they would use to cope and get by in them themselves aren't doing it anymore. Don't work anymore. And then they really need to make a change, you know? Yeah. I have a cool way to do it, right? Yeah, it is a cool. It's a funny way to do it. Yeah. Because that does happen, right? Yeah. Yeah. You know, at first you get this idea in your mind. You're like, that's it.  I'm going to do something for myself for once. But then, you know, the fear comes in. Exactly. Yeah.  I can see that, you know, so she gives her some money. She's like, don't even worry about just, you know, find something that you're looking for. Yeah. I liked the friend. I thought the friend was so great. I'm like, there are friends out there. There are people. There are people who aren't that good of friends, honestly, because she, I mean, I think the friend has been supportive throughout, you know, always talking to one another because make no mistake. Juanita's terrible situation is because of her too. If you have people in a bad relationship, it's not just the one person, the good, sweet person, that's, I mean, or the bad people that are at fault. It's you too for staying in that bad situation. Takes you to Foxtrot. Exactly. Takes you to Foxtrot. But yeah, so the friend throughout has been trying to get her to kick the kids out and to have Juanita stop enabling the kids because she really does do that. And so the kids have that comfort zone of knowing that mom will fix everything. Mom is always going to like, if I mess up, mom's going to be here. She's going to take care of me. I stay at her place. I don't have to pay rent. I had, she, you know, buys the food, all these things. So that is enabling the fact that she's allowing her adult kids and then now she has to take care of her grandkids. And so yeah, Juanita needs, you know, like, she also needed to kind of get herself straight. So her friend has been supportive, always trying to kind of like, come on, Juanita, can't you see what you're doing right now? These kids are taking advantage of you. These kids are adults. They now have to be independent. You know, but I was, I just thought that was really nice to have a friend like that, you know, like that kind of support system. I thought that was so heartwarming, especially because, you know, it's like a new chapter.  You know, if you're not the best friend, you're like, oh, I want to go and do this. And, but I'm not doing it when he does doing it. I'm not going to give her money. Hopefully she won't be able to go. She completely, she's like, you need to do this for yourself. Here you go. Here's money. Here's my stash that I've been putting away. Which is kind of, I would say, an argument for doing what Juanita did. Everyone should be doing that finding where they need to find that inner peace because it's hard to be a good friend to other people until you have that inner peace. And I think a friend had it to a degree. Oh, maybe she felt like she could also, you know, go for it because I wish I could be doing that. That's so courageous of you. But as long as you have a little bit of that inner peace, then you can actually support your other friends when they want to pursue something. But if you don't, then you're just going to be at peace all the time. But I think that her friend, Juanita's friend is quite, like Juanita's friend is very, you know, she's independent. She seems very self-actualized as far as I'm concerned. She has her own business. You know, she's independent and I'm sure if she does have kids, she's, you know, like they're out of the house and they're doing their own thing. And as she encourages Juanita to do. And so yeah, you're right.  Yeah, I think people like that do tend to be better companions. You know what I mean? Yeah. It's because it's just easier. Yeah. Yeah. Because the things that you do to push forward don't remind them of the things that they aren't doing to push forward, right? Yeah. So not only I think you should pursue what makes you happy and fulfilled and safe and all that kind of stuff for yourself, but so you can be a better person to others around you. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Honestly. Yeah. Honestly. You know, like the whole movie is centered around Juanita being, you know, people are taking advantage of poor Juanita, but I'm like, but Juanita means, it's not just the people, the kids that are taking advantage. Juanita, you know, is at fault here too. For taking it, right? For taking it.  Her mentality is kind of like, I have to keep nurturing my kids until they get a job, until they get an apartment and move out. And so until they do that, until I know that they're going to be okay, I have to keep taking care of them. And in your mind, as that kind of person, you're thinking taking care is going to have them be comfortable enough to pursue these things that you're hoping that they're eventually going to pursue. What I'm realizing is that that kind of outlook actually makes the person who you're trying to make independent less independent because they don't have to be, because you give them everything they need. As much as I wish I did not have to admit it, sometimes I need a kick in the caboose. Everyone needs a kick in the caboose sometimes. Yeah. You know, when she does eventually leave, things work out. The daughter gets a job, you know, something that she didn't need to get it before because mom was paying for food and rent. So yeah, Juanita, you are also problematic here as sweet and cute as you are.  You just want to cuddle her. Yeah. But honestly, very surprised with how much we actually liked the movie. It was funny. It was fun. It was just fun. I like the characters.   And, you know, maybe the owner of the chef who Juanita ends a certain relationship with, maybe he's to try to, I don't know, compensate or whatever, but maybe he feels some kind of self-esteem issues. And he goes easy. Battles with alcoholism. So that's why he wants to compensate by making his restaurant very fancy in French and all these things that places around there wouldn't serve. You know, sometimes you get the idea of like, all successful blah, blah, blah, do this. Yeah, chef. He wants to be taken seriously. He's taken seriously. He's taken seriously. Everything has to be in French. The whole menu has to be in French. Yeah. Because of course he has this vision, right? Like, obviously I think he was thinking, it's the outskirts of wherever they are and people might travel from all the way from New York to this special French restaurant. I think that's probably the idea. But it's like... Sometimes you have to just accept where you are and the situation. I think there's a bit of like, you're kind of a rusty spoon situation where you're at and that's okay. You know? Be a rusty spoon. It means you can build a community and if you like living here, then just accept that most of your clientele will just be the people that live around here.  Yeah, because when he does do that, adjust his menu, people start coming in, you know? Again, it's full all the time. People are quite happy. Yeah. So yeah. Yeah. Adjust your vision, I guess. Yeah. And it's okay. It's okay to do that. Yeah. The thing that was also interesting to me was that she left. And of the view that if you want to deal with something, you have to deal with it instead of run away from it. Yeah. So really she did run away from that situation from her kids and all that stuff. Instead of kind of dealing with it and saying, just get out of my house. She just escaped. Yeah. But I feel like to be fair, sometimes it is really hard to make a change when you're still living in that situation. Space, yeah. Yeah, in that space. And so sometimes as much as running away physically doesn't necessarily make a difference. It's a start because then you can remove yourself from that situation and go somewhere where you can think clearly. Yeah. Analyze the thing that you were trying to get out of and find a way to resolve it. So there is that. Yeah. At the end of the day, I think the movie wasn't really trying to go super deep. So obviously there are lots of things which... Yeah. They kind of maybe don't go into as much as they could or should. But they flavored a nice story about kind of recapturing your zest for life and being true to yourself and what you need. And they just sprinkled it with a lot of good stuff. Yeah. A lot of good situations, details, characters, people. A lot of sweet things. Yeah. But that's what we thought of one, some of the things that we conjured up from it. What do you guys think about that? Or if you've seen it, what are some of the stuff that you got from it? Yeah, I just know. Yeah. But until next time, that's a wrap.


Really yeah, all right Good job, buddy Brad was singing the police and he tried not to find the red light and you have to rerecord the damn video Wasn't as bad as you thought it was gonna be huh All right alternative schedule folks and it's Ryan talking about alternative schedules just imagine this It's a procedure for studying choice. All they don't have to it could be an applied setting where it just happens Or you could do it in the lab and you could say choice So the idea being I have one schedule here one schedule reinforcement I have another schedule reinforcement here, whichever one I complete first and it doesn't matter which one or in what order I earn the reinforcer so they basically go concurrent in the lab in the real world stuffs happen in all the time concurrently For example, I could be recording this video. All right, so that's one schedule of reinforcement There's anyway, we'll come back to what the reinforcers are and probably one of these later videos I don't want you know, keep you in suspense and stuff anyway So we can finish a video or I can go out and finish working with this kiddo their parent had hired me to work with which I don't really do that, but I'll let you think I do So I can finish that or I can finish the video or I can finish this I finish the video whichever one it doesn't really matter There are different schedules of reinforcement, but finish the kiddo. I'll get paid if I finish the video I'll get paid And it really just kind of lets you Understand which one which procedure and which schedule is more reinforcing for the person that's undergoing those schedules


Hi everybody and welcome back to our podcast from the Karma Sutra to 2020 where we look at your questions your concerns even your worries around all things to do with sex and sexuality. So as always we have with us Dr. Anvita Madan Bihal. Anvita is a psychosexual therapist and she brings the psychological perspective to the advice that the Karma Sutra has to give. Welcome Anvita. Thank you Seema and welcome to our podcast this week. And with that today I have the most fascinating question for you. It's a question that I haven't been able to put a label on so you can't say that it's about three terms or it's about watching or it's about fetishes and fantasies. It's just a really really complex question and reading it as I read it to you you'll see what I mean. You realize how complex is our sexuality.  It's so much deeper. It's like we are as human beings with so much more complex. So this is from a young man who says that my wife and I are now in our late 40s and around 12 years back they had problems in their marriage and he says that somehow the two of them agreed to introducing somebody else into their bedroom so they wanted to go for a threesome. Now first it was a soft threesome and then it was full blown physical love making and he says slowly as was expected my wife and this other man became lovers generally with whether I was there or not they became lovers and I gradually eased out of this relationship but he says the strange part is that I'm a full-blooded male but in this threesome I became the submissive partner to both of them which I thought was a really fascinating idea that he becomes submissive to both of them and then he says that more than participating it was watching them that started to excite me and even today the only thing that excites me is the thought of my wife with this other man. It's almost as though I have started to feel like her through him so like he started to feel like the wife because of this other man and he says that he writes a diary for his self arousal every day which I just think is an amazing thing that how deep and self aware this man must be he says I write a diary for myself arousal every day where I act and feel like her and explain in detail my encounters with this other man as though I was the wife and then he finishes once again by reiterating by trying to assure maybe himself or maybe us that he is straight and he's wondering what is the reason for his behavior. I firstly just want to say what a shout out to such a reflective and thoughtful email you know the idea that somebody has thought so deeply about their sexuality in such a mature way so firstly a short shout out to you for such a lovely email. Secondly I want to say that you know when I first read the email my offer was going to be therapy because there's a lot there and I already have lots of ideas but because you had raised such important points that I'm sure many people are concerned about but are unable to articulate them see when I decided we'll take the email and you know divide it and normalize it for people because I'm sure they're struggling with similar things. Thirdly I want to normalize it you know sometimes you're very hesitant to share these things because we think oh we're the only couple and this is an anomaly that we are participating in but actually the sexual diversity is so wide and so diverse that if we went into people's bedroom we would see a lot of different behaviors and practices and they just feel uncomfortable sharing because they think oh people would see us with shame or taboo or stigma so thank you for bringing it up and it is completely normal to have sexual diversity and finally I hear the concern about you know that I am with another man I'm writing about having the how I feel based on the touch of another man the Kinsey report said that most of us are actually bisexual when they did the report you know like decades and decades ago people didn't come up in the heterosexual or the homosexual category they came up in the middle in the bisexual category because at some point in life everybody has had some feeling towards the same sex I'm not saying it might be actually physical but it might be in thought it might be somebody answers a restaurant and you think oh that person is so thought or you know you might have created intimate bond with somebody from the same sex which if it was the opposite sex you might consider it a relationship but because it's the same sex you just say oh they're friends or something like that but the intimacy might be there so don't worry about it your identity is your identity just because you are enjoying some test of you know touch or physicality or something does not make you not straight there is a lot of gray when we think about sexuality so don't worry about it absolutely I think that women actually acknowledge this a lot more easily women understand that they will look at another woman and they are quite happy to say oh my god she's so hot men find this more difficult to do I think there's more judgment around men being attracted by the body of another man yeah I think there's a lot of people I think there's a lot of fun people make a lot of judgment they tease more the harshness with which it comes like it feels like and also we have to remember that the male fantasy of women to women sex is something that they really you know think so that idea is okay but the male to male comes with a lot of harshness and I think that's why sometimes it is way tougher for men to come out or accept their feelings than it is for women and women are also seen to say oh they are just you know two are best friends and they're living together but two men living together is seen differently and with harshness so I think Anvita as I said this question has so many parts to it I want to actually begin with where he says that they bring another partner into their relationship but something in him changes with bringing this other partner and now lots of people have been writing to us about this idea of one partner wanting to bring a third person in one partner wanting to watch etc some of it is all consensual some of it isn't but let me just begin with this particular one he says that he's brought the person in but something inside him now has changed where he no longer wants to be participating in this threesome he wants to become the one who's watching and he wants to become submissive I mean it's a choice that he's making and I find that quite fascinating yeah absolutely and I think if they came to the therapy room what I would start with is that if it's working for both of them and it's consensual for both of them they can just go ahead with it they don't need to worry that it's different however what we need to understand is that when we introduce ideas like that it changes the contract between the partnership the partnership when it started or the marriage when it started the idea would have been that the man and the woman would have sex together now there's another person and is this actually impacting the relationship you know the wife has a new lover she is enjoying it that's great what has changed that she prefers that or you know he did mention jealousy but jealousy is not the only emotion are the other emotions that are there that he is feeling or she is feeling so we would explore that and this idea of submissiveness is very interesting because if I would have you know thought about how to plan the therapy I would have said what is the need that this fantasy is fulfilling you know and there could be a whole lot of range we don't need to think that there would be one or the other there could be control there could be power there could be feelings of vulnerability there could be jealousy they could be you know anger there and this man has done the work and said it's the need to feel submissive now where is this need to feel submissive coming from is it an individual need or is it a relationship need is something happening in the relationship and he feels that need or are other things happening in his life and he feels the need this need to be fulfilled so we would really dig deeper and deeper and deeper and understand this better because I wonder if this is the I guess it's not always the case that the person who wants to watch your their partner having sex with somebody else is not always about feeling submissive a lot of times like you said it's about control there's somebody who'd written in a while ago it's saying that her husband wants to bring other partners into the relationship the difference is that the one he wants to bring multiple partners in so he wants to fantasize and watch her having sex with a lot of people but also she's not she's not happy with it so she said that when it first the idea was brought up it was exciting it was arousing you know to think that okay you know a multiple partner thing it's it's an instant arousal for a brief while and she said having thought about it it's definitely not something that she wants to it makes her feel ill to think that she would actually do it and she's got to that point because when she said okay I don't want to do it he's insisted on the fantasy he hasn't given up and in saying it over and over it's come to the forefront of her head that she feels nauseous I mean she wants to throw up at the thought of it so you know is there some advice that we can give to people like that having seen this relationship can we give some advice to people who are in this situation where it's not consensual but they're being pushed so you know what's really important to look at when we think of this relationship what started as a mutual fantasy you know it was arousing it was exciting for her and every day it has very quickly moved to his fantasy you know she no longer enjoys this practice or this behavior she no longer enjoys this sexual fantasy of having other partners in the bedroom whereas it is his fantasy and in some ways he's imposing it on her so once you get forced into something you won't enjoy it my as in in some ways I haven't met the couple and I don't know what's happening but the advice always will be if you don't like a fantasy say no because you know for the health for the health of the relationship if you feel you will say yes here I can promise you that there'll be other parts of the relationship that will get impacted you will be caustic or angry about something else you might start you know getting there might be fights over what food is going where are we going or something just because there is anger here because you're not being able to say no here you're going to get angry at other points so for the relationship health say no and one thing we want to I just want to address and maybe we'll go deeper into it as we explore it this idea of coercion you know people use all kinds of things to say oh you know experiment you are so naive you don't have any sexual desires I really want to teach you more about sex at least try it once there are all these things but remember you don't you can try things if that's we are nature but otherwise I don't need to go bungee jumping just because I've never tried it like I know bungee jumping is something I won't enjoy so I don't need to go bungee jump just to experiment and let the other person know that I hated it you know so go with your guard go with your instinct yeah absolutely because I know that in this other relationship they had written she had written to say that you know he keeps saying this is all I'm asking of you I'm not asking anything else this is all I'm asking and if you loved me and then he told her that it's because you're sexually repressed you don't know that you'd enjoy it you have no idea you will probably so I think there's a lot of coercion but Amita in a case like that where this thing has gone on it's it's been several months that she's had to put up with this kind of verbal attack almost what is the advice that you would give her to say to stand up for herself she doesn't want to do it what's the what's practical yeah impossible I can really hear you know many times when we work with women there would be you know they come to therapy rooms and we would say that's complete emotional manipulation you know they would they you know they would be told all these things but in such a loving way you know when you say it it seems like oh my god this man is like really bringing sexual revolution into her life you know it comes across like that but in reality they are being pushed into something they don't enjoy or they don't like there are other ways to give space and time for somebody but when we are getting emotionally manipulated or coerced I can promise you that very few women can actually see it they see it as oh this my husband being so loving and caring which husband says you know you know experiments sexually and everything most husbands are conservative look at my husband so amazing that's where we are we cannot see it you need friends you need therapists you need other people who can you know who can support you who can help you who can make you see no actually I don't think he's really being loving here I think he's being manipulative here but you need that outside voice so don't feel like you need to feel embarrassed or shamed by it what we started with diversity in bedrooms don't feel weirded out by it go share and talk because that's the only way to know if it is true love in somebody being concerned or its manipulation I think that's extremely good advice I think that we all come from a background where talking about sexuality and pleasure is taboo and with this taboo with this silence that we impose on things we make it so much more difficult for people who are suffering with it and so much easier for the person who's perpetrating it and so I guess Anvita what you're saying is that if you're in this situation where you're being told don't keep it to yourself a lot of women a lot of men when they're told something like this and it's not consensual they tend to keep it closed within themselves because they feel if we say it to somebody it'll be dishonoring ourselves like you know it's people will judge us and they probably will you know there's a bunch of people out there who would probably point fingers and say or whatever but the point here is don't worry about that minority of people who are likely to be judgmental find yourself somebody to talk to don't keep it you know this whole identity of the good person the good woman who never repeats these things because this is all supposed to be kept hidden talk about it it is essential for your mental health and your physical health and I would actually say that you know sometimes both men and women the reason that they don't say it is not only disordering themselves they feel what will people think about my partner what kind of man is he and they're really protecting their partner you know they're really protecting and saying oh when people will think what kind of woman she is or what kind of man how can I people will question our relationship question people will question how am I with this person so they then feel a very strong sense of the need to protect their partner because they think that you know and I really want to tell people there is more to one person just because it's not working in one area doesn't mean that the person is not nice in 10 others so you can work through those issues in some ways so don't feel that all your friends will disown this partner or something like that people understand that just because there are anger issues doesn't mean there are not other goodnesses in somebody. Absolutely and I think you make a very valid point that it's about people judging your partner and then thinking how can you be with this person so it's the self-judgment. So Amitabh one of the other things that he brings up which I think is really interesting because I don't think a lot of people do that where he says that he's actually keeping a diary for himself so even though he's talking about his submissiveness and his desire to be submissive he's getting worried about it but he's also recording it and I think that both of us will say that people feel submissive or dominant at different times and there's absolutely nothing unusual in that is that. Yeah I think sometimes it really gets complex for men and my heart goes out to them because you know the idea is always that the woman needs to be submissive and now the role reversal of actually enjoying being submissive to another man and to the woman or feeling like taking on her role and you know and automatically we go through the concerns of is this to do with gender is it to do with sexuality my identity and I'm not saying that's not how people start it could be in some cases but in other cases it's about a role you're enjoying a role maybe you don't get to play that role and it is just something that feels good you actually enjoy it and we need to realize that because we are raised very stereotypically boys are allowed something and girls are allowed something we never really get to experiment or be in a certain way and maybe this is the first time you're actually experiencing this role and it feels good like it just feels good. So actually going on from that point about roles so we had one person remember who wrote into us and said that her partner suggested that they bring more people into the relationship and she went with it quite because she wanted to please him and she thought yes well why not let's try because he kept saying you like it but after she started doing it and it was going fine I think he changed the rules a little bit where he decided that watching was something that he enjoyed more and she was not at all happy with this because she felt that that's something that she hadn't signed up for. Yeah I think the email that I remember is that they had gone to swinging clubs together and she actually thought maybe that's something that she's not experimented but once again they were doing something as a couple you know they had decided to go watch or be at swinging clubs as a partnership and then the suggestion was that he would watch now that wasn't part of her you know that's not what she wanted to do we have to remember that we all have our values our beliefs our behaviors or whatever we like about our own sex and sexuality and what if you started with the idea saying that I want to be monogamous in a relationship so that wasn't part of the contract that oh suddenly I'll be having sex with other men and somebody would be watching so that is something that if you're not comfortable with you know if you're not comfortable that you're being coerced or made into doing things that are not your fantasy or your desires then you have every right it doesn't mean you're sexually repressed it doesn't mean that just go with what are your desires they can be communication if your partner likes something and you can have an open mind and you can consider it but considering and forcing yourself into something are two different things and drawing the boundaries I guess is quite important because like you said you you kind of go this far and you say okay I've done this and I like it but this bit I did not sign up for and I think for that it's really important to start being a little bit more open about sex and sexuality generally because how do you know that yes this is what's happening to me and I absolutely do not want this to happen you know you even have to be able to find the words for it and find the strength to stand up to your partner for that and I think that that's really really crucial and it all comes down to the fact that you need your support system and something that you talk about quite often the communication well I was just going to say you know when you were when a thought came to my mind it is so especially in the South Asian context where women are not told to be sexual or to read about sexuality or discuss it with their friends or anything it is so easy for somebody to come and say oh you don't know I know and this is what you should be doing you should really try this right like it's so simple to say that and the other person will say yeah I do I didn't even know how to have sex and you know this is the first time I've had sex so it is really easy but I think a key to any relationship and you know I would really to the person who sent the email is the communication share it talk about it look deeper you know and if you're communicating you will come up the intimacy will grow and you will understand each other's perspective it will not come as a rejection but it will come more as an in understanding or you would come up with something creative you know you would come up with like okay we will go we as a couple will watch someone if you feel aroused by that but it doesn't need to be me and then we can come back and we can you know now that you'll be aroused we've come back and have sex so there can be solutions that you can come up with as and when if if that is not something that you want to engage with that's one solution that I just had on the top of my head but I'm just saying that if you communicate if you discuss if you really try and understanding each other's perspective you would actually see your relationship become stronger and the love making become better and I think I'd like to add to that that when we use the word communication it's not something that's going to work just because you said it and the other person has heard it it doesn't work like that if you are saying no and somebody else really once said they're going to push they're going to course they're going to keep trying and trying and it's not going to be that easy to get to that point so build the strength in your head get an outside support system and you have to stick to that you know like the the final breakdown will only come when the communication breaks down so while you have the ability to communicate keep that open so I guess in finishing what we're saying is that if this is consensual then it is entirely a decision that you get to make if you feel aroused by watching somebody of the same sex in a sexual act don't worry there's nothing wrong with that we are all bisexual to some extent and also an arousing act is arousing at any level number three if it is something that you absolutely do not wish to try please say so stick to that find the strength you cannot find the strength to stick to it to stand up to your partner yourself do confide in somebody else don't think that this is what will people say about me and this is terribly bad it's not something that you should be taking on as your fault to do and finally the fact that if somebody feels like indulging in a role of submissiveness there is absolutely nothing wrong with that absolutely there's something almost beautiful in that role that you take it when you take it on so don't feel nervous or judged or bad about it feel good because you've experimented with something new and found something that you like yeah and you know honestly if you're enjoying it if that is something that is working for you and your partner and it has worked for your relationship don't worry if there are things that are just nudging or troubling or something's not working you can communicate with your partner talk about it or seek therapy and you're just ironing out those little bit of those wrinkles that might have erosive and that's and that's fine every relationship has bumps in it and they can be worked through so as always do like comment subscribe on the video your questions should be sent into info.cma.ana.gmail.com and if you need to get in touch with Anvita about a consultation she is on anvita madan behel.com we will see you next week see you next time