It's been a long, long day. I got a lot to say. It feels like I'm carrying a two-ton weight. I'm going to see a friend. Hello. I'm Monsignor Patrick Winslow. And I am Father Matthew Cowth. And we are speaking from The Rooftop, a podcast brought to you by Tan Books, in which we invite you to join our conversation out here in the open air. Where we look out upon the world around us from the rooftop of the church and share with you what we see. Well, hello there. Greetings. How are you? I'm doing well. Don't fall over that rooftop. I'm on the edge. You're on the edge. I'm always on the edge. Looking out. I'm always holding you back. I know.  Oh, I hate, I can't stand being on the edge of the heights. I, you know, I used to not be concerned about them at all. But as you know, I had that experience in Italy when I was stupidly free climbing and fell off that mountain. And that was a many story fall that was saved miraculously. And ever since then I, my legs quiver a little bit when I get to the edge. Yeah. Well, I was born with that quiver. Okay. You know, well, my dad has it very honestly. Well, it's more rational than not, right? I mean, there's a reason that that quiver kicks in. It's saying you should not be doing this. Well, it's a little irrational when I'm watching on television. I see an allege and I feel the quiver. All right, I'm not going to fall through the television, but it's not real. But it's amazing. I mean, do you remember when we would go skiing out West in Utah and the place we went to in Alta at the time didn't have any bars going across the chairlifts? Yeah, I know. It's, I am sorry. I realize all the skiers, everyone who's ski their whole life and all the, oh, you don't need bars. It's safer without them. No, it is not safer. 50 feet in the air. Remember what you would do? Make us put our poles across my waist and lock them in. And I would like put my arms around the back. I'm sorry.  Some places were more than 50 feet high off the ground. You're the reason the kids have to wear helmets on bikes these days. Perhaps. Yeah. Perhaps. But that is dangerous, isn't it? Being too risk adverse, not helping us. No, life's dangerous. No, no. Sitting in an open chair, 50, 60 feet in the air with nothing between you and the ground is not normal. And the destruction that leads to you sitting in a rocking chair at the age of 50. Come on. That's normal. Oh, gosh, I feel nervous already just thinking and recalling. I want to say we have since learned that they put bars across those things. They even alter folded. What do you mean folded? They got wise. If I were their insurance company, I would have pulled the policy. That's why you're not insurance. Yeah. No, no. Listen, I can be risky. You know, I was at a parish. I wanted, you put a little bit of regular in the decaf. No, no, no, no. Like, for example, I remember now that I'm on this side of the diocese, I understand why I was rejected, but I wanted to have go kart races over at St. Thomas for our World Feast. And I'm thinking, we need to get go karts in here. We had to go to tricycles. Did we even put helmets on? I don't even know if we put helmets on. Of course we did not. No, we didn't put helmets on. We were in tricycles. They were like adult size tricycles. Yeah. And then we had a little course that we did. But I wanted to get the golf, the actual like karts, like let's have races with karts. And then of course our, our properties officer and rightly said, yeah, that's a liability issue. Like what? What? We can't even do race cars, like go karts. You know, so that I got a little riskiness in me. Well, I mean, that's a good, good topic, right? I mean, when one is authentically living life, there are certain things that are worth risking for. And I think that the, the, the payout versus the, the risk is a difficult thing to sort of adjudicate in ones, in ones own mind, which is why they typically say that, you know, you can't really develop any prudence until you're of a certain age, etc. When you're young, everything looks possible and beautiful. And then you get older and the older you get, then you think everything's too risky. Well, there is a certain biological thing that occurs in the brain, right? But beyond that, I mean, so that says our friend Father Gober, I mean, he was born old, born old risk adverse, much more risk adverse than me. Yeah. Yeah. That's true. But I mean, nothing really happens. You think about look at these old pictures. Did he say that he wasn't going to lend you money because it was too risky? So yeah, that was it. I threw him under the bus here. But Father Gober and I have been in the same class since kindergarten, been friends since then. And somewhere in high school, I needed money to go out and see a friend of mine. And I was flying out of California or something. And I was short like 60 bucks or something like that. And I said, hey, can you spot me 60 bucks? And back then 60 bucks was a lot. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And he said, no. And I knew he had tons of money because he never spent any money. Of course. And he worked.  And I said, are you kidding me? We've been friends of our lives.  Yeah. Yes. You're not a good investment. I always paid my debts. I always paid my debts, but I was always broke because I was always doing something. Oh, yeah. Now he sold you down the river. Yeah. Yeah, that's true risky. Anyway, so you were saying that I already doubt your thought. Well, no, no, just thinking about risk analysis, right? We do this a lot. We're trying to avoid all risks. And yet most of the things that we laud amongst men of the past were things that we wouldn't even consider doing. I'm not talking just about, you know, Shackleton going across Antarctica, which is one of the most amazing stories in history. Unbelievable. But anything. Yeah. I mean, you think about what people were capable of doing in the old days for the purposes of exploring where you and I are living right now. Right. What kind of adventurous spirit. And the fact that this was worthy of throwing your life at, those things are difficult, I think to sort of adjudicate it. And I find that as we get older, we're so surprised we lived this long. Now we have an expectancy to live long. Right. And then that we get used to being around. We get used to being around. And we started to be self-preserving. The old days. Yeah. We didn't think about it. It was just assumed. Yeah. Now if someone dies at seven, you're like, oh, that's a shame. Right. What are you talking about? Like 70 is pretty no offense to anyone 70.  And I think that everyone celebrates 50 traditionally, because they realize we won't be around another 50. Right. And if you get back, if you get back from the doctors, if you have a diagnosis, we're not going to be as surprised as we once were. Exactly. Exactly. Although I think 70 is the new 60. Oh yeah, all that. It's gone down 10 years to be sure. It's amazing. Because I remember even when I was first ordained, you know, in the mid, people dying in the mid 70s was kind of expected. But fast forward 20-some-odd years later, it's not the same. I think 80s is the expectation. Yeah. I think the 80s is the new 70. Yeah. But that sense in us that I've got to be a bit more careful now because I actually shouldn't have survived the things that I did. You know, some of the things that I did that were somewhat foolish, not just foolhardy, but not calculated the best. Some of my favorite memories, actually. Yeah. And it depends on what it's worth risking for. I mean, it's just for one's self, one's adventure, one's high that one gets. It's a different thing. And the kind of risks that you and I would have to take in a normal world where things aren't sort of taken care of for us. Well, I mean, well, let's just, I mean... You liked those Alaskan shows, for example, that you did. Yeah, exactly. Some of the greatest risks we take are interpersonal. You know, where we become vulnerable to people. It's not life and death in the same sense. But, you know, when we become vulnerable to another rhythm, it isn't a huge risk. Yeah. And I think that people are probably more familiar with that terrain of risk taking, or for that matter, being risk adverse. And I think it causes people being risk adverse or self protective in the interpersonal realm. It probably prevents a lot of growth. It prevents a lot of relationships developing. I mean, you can't, whether it's a marriage, whether it's a friendship, or whether it's a relationship in a family, vulnerability is an essential part of it. And you can't mitigate it. You can't, you can't control the vulnerability. Either you're vulnerable or you're not. Sure. You can't say, I'm vulnerable, but I'm putting this wall up and this protective measure up. Well, then suddenly you're not vulnerable, right? That you're invulnerable. And you lose something in that relationship. And we all know what it's like to feel crossed or manhandled, so to speak, in that vulnerable space. Yeah. Where we've been doggie jostled because, like, a little something bruises a little more, a lot more easily. Yeah. Like I would say to couples in marriage preparation and talk about this, this measure of vulnerability, you know, if I said to you pointing to the groom, will you just pass me the salt, kind of like in a bad attitude? Fine, here, take the soup of salt, right? You would just kick it back to me and you move on. It would be no big deal.  I mean, this is totally different. The same little jab is going to have a very different effect because of the vulnerability that the relationship or the space that you have, the interpersonal space you have with one another creates. And that's a tough terrain. I mean, I didn't mean to shift it from being risk-averse or risky with your own life, the same sort of thing because it really is just to make it full scale here. When our Lord speaks about the loss of one's life, it is the prerequisite to actually getting into heaven. Then unless you lose your life, you're not going to find it. And what does that mean? I mean, we can abuse that statement and so far as we're talking about relationships and so far as one allows themselves to be trampled upon interiorly in such a way that it's sort of abusive, what have you. And we meet people like this that have whatever the psychological terms would be relative to someone that thinks so low of themselves that they want to be a doormat, to be abused, to be the person that is that everyone else's beck and call. They surrender to it. But that's a different thing than giving your life. That is not giving. In that way, you give up. You resign, we wave the white flag and your territory is conquered. And that can't be obviously what our Lord is speaking about. No, clearly it isn't. He's clearly talking about the actual gift of it. But when he walks away of the cross, according to tradition, he falls three times. What does he do? Well, if I'm carrying a wooden instrument of execution on my back and I'm collapsing under its weight, knowing that when I arrive at the location, I'm going to be nailed to it, I would just collapse and stay and let them finish me now. Right. I mean, it's going to be horrible either way. It'd be a little quicker if I drop. Why do you get back up?   There's a huge difference. He says, right? I lay it down freely. He's laying down his life. So he was in pursuit. And then we could also say clearly that in most of our, as you mentioned, with the salt example in most of our relationships, there isn't that sort of commitment to the person that we meet at the grocery store, that there is with the person that we actually part of our family and our persons we've chosen to be friends with, et cetera. And that's the realm in which we're sort of literally in a daily basis kind of laying down our lives and being willing to be hurt by another for the purposes of actually loving. But there's all sorts of, as you like to say about onions, all sorts of layers to that. How deep is what in you are sort of circle? Although, occasionally a driver hits me to the core on the way I was driving in. I'm like, you are so rude. You did not let me in for no apparent reason other than no, you're not getting in. I'm not letting you in. I always just went from zero to 60 on the inside. I was thinking about that recently, because you meet so many people in the course of a day, you're never going to see again. Yeah. And so part of my attempts, and I don't succeed, the part of my attempts is to try to keep reminding myself that's the only time I'm going to encounter that person probably in this life. And what was the encounter? I'm a priest, et cetera. And so I was on a road here in Charlotte, and the traffic in Charlotte has just gotten horrendous. And these cars were queuing up to pick up kids from Montessori school. And I was at Black Hawk and Park Road Shopping Center and over St. Ann's. So I was taking the back road there, not realizing that all these cars queued up in a snake on both sides of the road. So the only place you could actually drive on that road was down the center. And someone was poking out into the center. So I was committed. I couldn't turn around at that point unless I backed up all the way. Long story short, I asked him if he could just pull up a little forward so I could get by him. And he said, no. And I said, just right there. He said, I'm not going to block that driveway. I'm like, well, you can go right back where you were. I just didn't get past you. And then I'm not waiting for someone. I'm not picking up anyone at the school. I'm just driving through. And he just looked back down at his phone. So I got out of the car. I think I scared him thinking I was going to be aggressive. I just thought he didn't understand what I was asking. And so I went up to the car and I said, could you just move up here just a little bit so I can get by? And he just says, well, I guess it's just all about you, isn't it? What are you talking about? And I thought to myself, it was no difference to him, right? It was no difference, right? I didn't make any difference to him at all. But he was trying to make a point. And I just stood there for a moment, completely dumbfounded, thinking these are our normal relations. And I can react in a number of different ways here. But I was so struck by the fact that the abrasiveness that we have our normal relations now, because we don't have many, that those small moments, and maybe I'm getting off topic here, but those small moments when we're talking to the clerk at the grocery store or we're making connection with someone, people don't have those anymore. Well, it's a violation of a social contract, right? The reason why we have niceties, the reason why we have manners, the reason why we have certain formalities is to lubricate society. It's intended to sort of a social, general social contract. We all kind of know the rules, and when someone violates it, it goes past the exterior and kind of hits to the heart. And you realize that was a serious upfront. Now, objectively, it's not serious in the sense of what we're taking a little bit longer to wait for the car to move. But it was serious in the social arena, in the social rule, or to mention because it was kind of a violation of our norms. It's a violation of how we interact. Like, you know, if I'm sitting there and somebody wants to get by, I usually don't even have to wait to be asked. Are we trying? Look, exactly, it's kind of what you do. Yeah, and that's, you know, not sort of a Lockean. Right. So it's not so much an issue of vulnerability. The fact that we're in a, we live with persons. Right. And for this thing to actually work, we do actually have to treat other persons the way we would treat someone with whom we are vulnerable. Right. This is kind of what we do in society. Yeah.  But it lubricates society. It's, it serves a very important function and purpose. It enables all of us to be on the same page. And we do feel when someone is outside of those norms, a certain personal front and a corporate front. Right. Right. Like who does that? The reason why we're asking that who does that is because we're bringing in the rest of society. And you know, we're saying as a measure. Testified of this. Yes. Be a witness to this. As a measure, we don't do this as a people. And you're violating that norm and we feel aggrieved. But it goes to show you the wisdom of the simple statement of our Lord, right? Doing unto others as you would have them do. Yeah. It's a very simple rule. Isn't it? But how would I expect and desire to be treated in this situation? Don't really live up to it with me. Well, because our Lord has instructed me. A private revelation. A private revelation that you need. A special type of treatment.  Oh, oh, believe me. So this is your dad's problem. My dad has a special rod. It's incessant. It's called a microphone. It's incessant teasing. Yes. He taught us all. All right. So let's go back to the vulnerability lane. Because I think I do feel and think that people spend a lot of energy on their relationships.  You know, what's occupying? We are, we live where we love. Right. That's it. You know, exactly. We are bound up in our relationships. And the more vulnerable we are in our relationships, the easier we're hurt or wounded or offended. And the easier it is for our faults to emerge. So for example, it's one thing to be vulnerable at a level if somebody, especially if somebody is doing something that's a little bit off or inconsiderate. But it's another to have a vulnerability that isn't just a vulnerability because I'm in a deeper, closer relationship with a person, but it's because it's rooted on an insecurity. It's, it's rooted on a, it's rooted. This vulnerability is, it's like more like a bruise. Yeah. It's, it's rooted in a wound. So it's not just because this is a deep interpersonal relationship and a little slight move causes just a bit more of a feeling, a jibe. But if I have a wound in that area, a bruise, it's exacerbated at a hundred-fold. And so somebody with a fault, let's use me as an example. Sorry if I just hit the microphone. That's pretty glaring. Yes, shush. So if I just, I don't know if I just get the rope. I use my hands when I talk. It was dramatic for you to say that, right? When you said, take me for example. Take me for example. I, yeah, and I pulled my hands up. It's not singular by the way, plural, but keep going. Or whatever. So if somebody does something, you know, with whom I'm in a close friendship or somebody in my family and it hits, we might say a nerve, but it's not a nerve because the nerves are supposed to be there. It's more like a bruise. It's a wound. And it's, oftentimes people talk about triggers. Sometimes, you know, you know, we say, you know, it's just, it just hit me in a certain way. Right.  Now the person on the receiving end of it or any observers are going to think, what just happened? They just lost their mind. They just popped, you know, or something like that. And what really happened is the person themselves, like in this case me, would look to blame some, you know, to say you were the cause. Yeah. But if I'm truly honest, I am 90% of the cause. You're 10%. You hit it, but it's because it's a wound that it hurts that bad. Because it's so bruised. If it wasn't bruised, it wouldn't have hurt that bad. Right. Yeah, sure. And you have to own that. You know, otherwise relationships get so entangled. It's like patting someone on the back when they've got a massive sunburn. They didn't know. They didn't know. And you scream. And you scream at them. Did they do it? Yes. But your reaction is proportionate to the pain. Right, right, to the pain.  Right. Because, all right. So maybe the person shouldn't have slapped you a little hard in the back, but it was good natured. It wasn't meant to be, you know, whatever. But if you then turn around and start punching the person that did that. Right. That's not right. And this is, you know, just talking about really solid friendships. You have talked about before about you get to a point with your friends like, I'm in for life. This is just it, you know. Let's just skip the fighting and start talking. Because we're going to be in it for life. We're not going to break this thing up. No. And it's even more so with the case of the kind of friendship that is, that is marital, right? When you've got a vow. Yeah.  And you're extremely so. And you're constantly hitting someone, whether you like it or not, where they're bruised. And unfortunately we also know where the person is bruised. Where we can just tap, tap. Yeah. And it's going to cause them a lot of pain. And then they tap, tap, back. And you're like, what? What? Yeah. All I said was. Oh, of course. Yeah. And then tap, tap, back. And then you're in a spiral, right? Yeah. And it's so important to recognize these things. Yeah. I think that a lot of marriages run into big challenges because it's not just the relationship that needs work and effort. But you are an instrument of purification for each other. Which means you have to change. You have to be on the path of growing and becoming better. You have to fight your demons. We tell couples this, right? And I live in a different world in the seminary where I came out of a world talking to couples about marriage, perhaps saying that this means that the person to whom you're marrying, right? I don't want to say it's the cross per se, but it kind of is, right? You're marrying the instrument that's going to bring you purification.  I'm done with the cross.  That's going to expose those things and it's going to be the purifying agent, you actually doing your job. Exactly, or in living your vocation. And I like to tell couples at their weddings in particular during the homily is to say that they will not only bring out the best in each other, but the worst, and that it's meant to be. It needs to happen. And it's a sign of a marriage not failing but working. But the marriage fails in the sense that the relationship starts to disintegrate when the individuals don't start owning up to the problems that they're bringing. You have to and it's vulnerable, it's hard, it's humiliating, it's painful, but I know of no other way and let me just be the first to say, it's not just people who are married. This is the way of the cross. All of us have internal defects that need to surface to be able to be addressed, healed, wounded, bound, the wounds bound and ultimately glorified in the manner of our Lord's. We've always commented on the fact that in iconography the saints are always shown with the instruments of their torture. And I just was looking at an image of St. Lucie recently. We know she's got her eyeballs on her plate now and whether it's the cross or the sword or the pinchers or whatever the thing might be. That which caused them the most amount of pain became the thing that we exalt in heaven, at least for the martyrs. The same thing is true for all of us in some degree. And I think it's hard for us to accept that that the thing that is the place where the most broken can, God can make all things new and desires to, that will be the very thing should you pursue it. That is the thing that you're going to hold in some sense in heaven and say, he did this. Look what he made out of this. This is almost like it's a trophy as opposed to the thing that you want to keep in the back of the closet or hide or be ashamed of or whatever else the brokenness that you've got. What's on you now on? Yeah, it's going to manifest his glory. And manifest his glory. It's a good place to pause. That's a good place to pause for now. Yes, sir. That's good. I think we were just talking about risky endeavors. You never know where we're going to go. Well, we never know where we're going to go. That's true. All right, so what's your before you go? You know, I just every time I see people they're talking about, hey, Father, I was listening to that from the rooftop or whatever. I get asked a lot. I'm not sure about you. If you do, you guys really just start talking like, yes, yes, we do. That's what we do. I've actually had people say, why didn't you flesh this? I'm like, well, we didn't put together a syllabus. Exactly. You know, that's not what we were doing. It really we are as billed. I could tell you that much. Yeah, that being said, if anyone does have a topic, they want us to just muse on happy to do so. Or if we skated over something that you glossed over something. That you want us to kind of circle back to we're happy to. I think we try to stop each other if we're assuming some things that maybe we shouldn't. I think I do that more with you. This is true. I live in more of an academic world right now. You do. I live in a very practical world. But that said, it's easy enough to kind of gloss over, especially with our own common lexicon, the things that we talk about. I can just simply say one word and a whole slew of concepts come your way. And then you piggyback on that. Right. So sometimes it's hard to listen to other people's conversations because there's insider languages, context and background. But we have to do, I think we're doing our best to kind of fill it in. Yeah. Well, fill it in. Before we go, father. Yes. Well, it is October, which means we need to be thinking about the winter. You're thinking about candy. No, I always think about candy. So I don't need to wait for October. That said, I've noticed it's become really particular about candy. You have? I really have. Wow. I've become world weary. So I'm... Because you were, you were important. Anything goes. Important any storm. I was important any storm, yeah. I take a teaspoon of sugar and if I needed to. Now that's gross. I wouldn't do that. I would melt it down in water and make rock candy. But that said, I have never done that. At least since I was a kid. I was taught in school, they taught us in science class how to make rock candy. Anyway, I did that as a kid. I haven't done that since. I'm not that bad. Okay. But I was thinking about winter coming around the corner. And there is the ski season that is emerging. And I think we got to start putting some plants together and be able to come back after a little ski trip and tell people about our experience. Oh, I'd be happy to. I love skiing. It's one of those sports you can still do as you get older. The problem is that I haven't aged in my mind. And so last year I was able to ski quite a bit, actually for about a week and a half with some family and stuff. And I did some really precarious... What about six-week recovery? No, I never got hurt, thankfully. But I should have. Yeah. And I don't know how to slow that down. Yeah, you're going to have to attenuate. Because here's what happens. Let me tell you, because I do have three or four years on you. You get just three, I think. Is it just whatever? I've got just a tiny bit of a preview for you. And I think you've experienced it too. It's like when you're hitting the moguls, it takes at least at the level that I can ski them. It takes a fair amount of muscle in my legs. Now, I go over a few of them and I'm pushing the muscle. And then in an instant, they stop responding. In an instant. They run out of gas. And then the next thing you know, you're coming over the top of a mogul and it becomes a launch pad. It becomes a jump. And you start, you go, and you fly up in the air. Do you do that sound effect again? Fly up in the air. So it's one of those, you have no recourse. When your legs don't respond because there is nothing left in them, it's a bit scary. It's really hard to believe that we ever get to the point where there's nothing left in our legs after the extensive amounts of workouts that we do all year long. Considering how these very muscular legs exist. So they're only a reuse to hold down an ottoman. That's right. So obviously we're talking only about seven hours of constant skiing, only after seven hours do I ever get there. No, but to true this, it could be like five minutes. No, I mean, the enjoyment to power a ratio, to energy ratio on moguls is at the point now where, yeah, I don't enjoy them as much. And it's a bit scary in the sense that we are so accustomed to speed. And we're not trying to speed past people. But as you increase in your ski or your ski or life, you become very comfortable with speed. And you just kind of move it along. But if you stopped and considered how fast you're going, and you've got trees to the left, trees to the right, people over here, people over there, bumps here, you think this is kind of treacherous. It is. It's kind of treacherous. To sum up earlier, it's a risk worth taking. It is a risk worth taking. Wow, beautifully done. All right, your last thing then. Well, I just remember speaking of other winter sports, I remember last year, the year before, we took the seminary in skating. Yeah. And that was horrible. I hated it. Here's why it was especially horrible. It was like post-COVID. Well, it wasn't post-COVID, it was sort of the end of COVID. So they didn't have anything to sharpen the skates. So we were not on sharp skates. Exactly. So to be on skates, I've never done that before. Basically skates that have never been sharp. They have no edge. Yeah. It was absolutely miserable. But I would like to go back, because we used to play hockey on the ponds when I was a kid, I would like to this winter engage in a little bit of that again with some proper skates and get back on the skates. That would be a lot of fun. Yeah, I would enjoy that. Yeah, that was fun. I'd like to do that again. There might even be like a... I know there are, there are rinks around here, because I know that at least one of our priest friends, he would do pick-a-pop hockey games. His hockey games, yep. You know, here, there. And so there's got to be your rink around. All right, get ready for your winter Olympics. Here we come. Oh, you know me. I love watching the winter sports. You too. All right. God bless you all. Have a wonderful week. Ciao, ciao, everyone. Bye-bye. Thanks for listening to this episode of From the Rooftop. For updates about new episodes, special guests, and exclusive deals for From the Rooftop listeners, sign up at rooftoppodcast.com. 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So please draw this plot. On x axis you have pressure for here you have p to v divided by n. In physics number of moles is taken as mu. Mu is number of moles. In chemistry we take it as small n. But small n in physics means something else. What kind of graph I should take? Straight line. What? It would be like this. This distance should be what? This should be r. This is what ideally should be observed. But what is observed is this. This is at a temperature T1. This is at a temperature of T2 where T1 is more than T2. It is not a straight forward position. Okay? Are you getting it? It does not give you a straight line. But if you increase the temperature, if you increase the temperature this bulge will straighten out. You have higher temperature, you are closer to the attic as less. If you increase the pressure and you of T by mu T will shoot up. Are you getting it? This is the off temperature and lower pressure P v by mu T is almost a constant. At higher temperature and lower pressure P v by mu T is almost a constant. Okay? Now people started to analyze why is that such kind of behavior is observed. Okay? But they came up with various hypothesis. Okay? So one of the scientists said that if you increase lot of pressure the molecules of the atom will come close to each other and they will start attracting or repelling each other. Okay? Then you cannot ignore the interatomic attraction or repulsion. Fine? That is the reason why at higher pressure it is not behaving like an algeas. Are you getting it? And similarly when you at a much lower temperature, atoms are not vibrating very fast. Their velocity is very less. Because of that, even if it is very less or negligible can affect the motion of the atom. It behaves similar to an ideal gas. Fine? Understood the reasoning? So from assumption starts to coming in that people were trying to put a framework of what is the assumption for an ideal gas. So we will start the chapter with all the assumptions that we should make before analyzing any gas. Okay? So do you already know the assumptions? Assumptions for an ideal gas is what? What? Okay, please write down the first are elastic. Not just atoms or any wall or something. What do you think the reason for this could be? If it is not an elastic collision then what will happen? It will go to a, go to surrounding and what is surrounding? According to, it should go to some atom. The energy has to go to some atom only. Go from ground state to the first accepted state. If the loss energy is not sufficient to go from ground to excited state, it reject that loss energy. Are you getting? So the collision does not generate so much energy so that the ground state electron goes to the first accepted state. That is why it rejects the loss energy and hence all the atomic collisions are treated as elastic and it is a very accurate assumption. Okay? It is not a false assumption. Fine? But of course if atom is coming with huge amount of velocity then there is a chance that the collision are not elastic. The energy loss may be sufficient to make sure the electron transition happens from ground state to the first accepted state. Okay? But for all practical purpose whenever we analyze a gas we do not deal with such high atomic speeds. All the collisions are elastic. A fairly good assumption. What is the next assumption? What do you think? The intermolecular or interatomic forces. We write down no interatomic or molecular forces. What does it mean? If there is no interatomic or molecular force, can there be potential energy of an atom? How do we define potential energy? The work done by some force and I am saying force in ideal gas. So all the energies are kinetic energy. The entire is kinetic energy. This is what this assumption means. We write down in bracket the entire energy, the ideal gas will be kinetic energy. There is no potential energy. What do you think is the third assumption? This is very important. They move in, their motion is random. Okay? We write down motion of items of gas is random. Now when I say item even if it is hydrogen molecule I mean to say that also. Okay? Now what does it mean? Random means what? Does random means unpredictable? They move in a? Okay? But when they collide we will be able to move in a same state line. A molecule, an atom comes from here, hits this atom and then goes in that direction. Okay? So randomly means what? Okay? What else can I say? Any direction or there is no preferred direction in which it will move? There is no preferred direction. Forget it. Now mathematically what does it mean? What can you say about the velocity? Mathematically how will I say that? Anyone? Okay? Here is what mathematically it means. If I take a snapshot of the atom's motion and then if I take the velocity of all the atoms the velocity will be what? If 2 meter per second this way and the atom should be, again the velocity of the atoms will be 0. No, it is as good as me saying that all atoms are, it doesn't take away the squares and then take the square. That is root mean square. So basically I am taking the mean of the squares. What I am saying is take square of this, 4, square of that, again 4, take the average which is 4 and then take the square root. It comes out to be 2. So count it will come out to be 0. Okay? So the average velocity if I say that this is the average in x direction velocity plus average in y direction velocity square plus average in z direction velocity square. I can write like this p y square and p z square. What can I say? They are equal or not? They are equal because it is random. There is no preferred direction. So v x square average will be equal to v y square will be equal to v z square. This is the outcome of this assumption. Okay? Any doubt? Now tell me other assumptions. Say there are any other assumptions on the left side. The volume of the atoms and the intensity of the molecules. Exactly. So right term, the volume of the atoms or molecules in the molecule is negligible. Okay? So volume of the atoms and molecules is negligible. Compared to what? Compared to the atoms, all the atoms or molecules is negligible compared to the amount of volume the entire gas is. Okay? What else? What are these? No, that is obvious. I mean that is true for any gas. I will talk about specific to ideal gas. What are the assumptions specific to ideal gas? Please write down ideal gas will occupy, it will occupy our level. Which if I put two moles of the gas, I need to say that property is same as property of gas like the gas one of the gas. So it get uniformly, yes you mean that. Right? By having these assumptions. Okay? And there are some questions that are and they test your common sense. There is no formula make you think. Okay? So let's take some questions which test your understanding of the atomic model itself. Okay? Please write down. All right. So density is 0.6 kg per micro cube. The density of the cells is that of atomic fashion. But volume of the molecules divided by volume of the water vector is one mole of gas. Suppose there is one mole of gas, you need to find out volume of, how much volume that one mole of gas a question. No. These molecules individually add it up. So what these molecules are, what are the questions? We can. This is not right. You, come here. Yes, it's going. It's still going. Yes, it's still a bit. Little bit count is how much? Eight or nine percent. Eight or nine percent? Eight or nine percent. My hemoglobin is eight or nine percent. Oh, it has to be around twelve, right? No, the plainly count is what is the. I'm not sure. Okay, so you feel rightly at the test base. And who else? You. When? As you can see, you can assume mass to be whatever. The ratio doesn't depend. Can't be more than one. Okay, no one. Six into 10 square. Correct. Six into 10 square minus four. Assume one kg of water. Assume one kg of water. All right. One kg of water or volume of one kg of water molecules. Fine. So how much it is? One kg of water. One volume, one divided by. Now same one kg now become water vapor. So what do you mean by the volume? This is the volume of one kg of water. This is the volume occupied by the vapor of one kg. Fine. So this will be six into 10 raise to power minus four. Okay, no physics common sense is used here. Now tell me volume of one molecule of water. I'm not sure. Understood, right? So the next one. Find the volume of one molecule of water. Next two molecules have what volume? No. Should I do it? Three into 10 is power. The answer is three into 10 is minus 29. How many you got it? Only two. Should I do it now? Three. If you want the volume find the radius. Okay, this one here. One kg is the volume. One kg has that. This many moles can into stationery transport 23. These many molecules have this much volume. So one molecule will have that derivative. The answer will be three into 10 raise to power minus 29 meter 3. They are asking it out. Is it here?


Well, hello and welcome to Jonathan from the heart. I'm Jonathan as they have Jonathan as they comment I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today our topic the three Subconscious reasons why men pull away pull away Really quickly if the content here resonates with you this video is similar to the three videos I shoot per week in my private group called midlife love mastery. There's a link below to check it out This is a group a private group for less than $20 a month where you can have direct access to me on a regular basis And those three videos I shoot are based on the questions asked in the group Have a Facebook page in a once a month webinar where you can talk to me on the phone directly So check out the link below called midlife love mastery. Okay, those three Subconscious reasons why men pull away All right, so most men and women who are in midlife Want at least one basic thing and they want that that are actively out there in the dating room Let me just say this so those are actively out in the dating room are seeking companionship Connection and sex companionship connection and sex in other words, they want Someone to do something with they want someone to connect with and they want someone to have sex with and That's kind of the base primal need of why people are out there in the dating realm So this differentiates from those in their folks in their 20s and 30s because men and women who are in their 20s and 30s Typically are driven from a biological perspective to get married and well not necessarily a biological Perspective to get married but to start a family. Okay, so the drive for most men Particularly in their 20s and 30s. They're seeking a wife. So they're very intentional with the dating process But here's what happens at midlife You most likely go through a divorce because 75% of the people and this is anecdotal of those who are out in the dating realm are divorced Are seeking that companionship connection and sex because they don't have a Destination if you will they don't have it necessarily a Drive for partnership Especially and the more traumatic their marriage was the less likely they want partnership in the future Now that's not to say codependent personalities immediately want partnership right away Or they want that companionship connection and sex so right away that they fill that void very quickly But they're not intentional always in the partnership realm So they may get married very quickly those codependent personalities, but doesn't mean they're ready for partnership Alright, so you tracked me so far. So you're probably wondering what are those three subconscious reasons? Okay number one Here I got to put on my glasses because I wrote this down.  This is on a subconscious level and When a man feels from a subconscious level that you are Love him more than he can love you back then his natural reaction is to run away Okay, that's what pulling away is pulling away is running away because they're scared They're scared for a variety of different reasons. So one reason is he's unable to receive your love number two Now to put my glasses back on you gave more to the relationship and he felt inadequate He's very similar to number one, but you gave more to the relationship You were you were more demonstrative in your relationship. You were more effusive in the relationship Who I use some big words you may have to Google them You gave more to the relationship and he felt inadequate By the way, my cup says optimize life optimize life and my t-shirt is black Sabbath I actually saw them in concert myself, but when I saw this Tony Stark was wearing it in an Iron Man movie or an excuse me in an Avengers movie. I had to get it If you like my shirt, please post a comment. Let me know Optimized life is a friend of mine. Who's a hypnotherapist and she helps you Heal what ails you. I don't know. I'll stop to say it. Okay, so he felt inadequate again This is a subconscious reason why a man pull might pull away. Okay? These are all subconscious. In other words, he's not these these reasons why men pull away and I'll share the third one in a moment Is because he's not in a space of loving himself loving himself You know, we always think of maturity as people who are responsible in our life But I'm here to encourage emotional maturity emotional groundedness Emotional grown-up and the one of the path the path to emotional maturity is self-love It's one of the reasons why I wrote my book what the heck is self-love anyway See the title of Jonathan Asley right there. Check out the link below If you'd like to get a copy of my book, I also have my Jonathan recommends books And this is holds true for women as well when we're not loving on ourselves We choose partners typically that aren't adequate for ourselves So when a person isn't loving on themself, they can feel inadequate in the relationship So when you give more to the relationship, they have to pull away because they don't feel adequate and then that third reason Oh You understand him beyond his mask you understand him beyond his mask and he felt exposed There is many of you women are very empathetic very caring in relationship and you can see beyond you can see someone's potential You see beyond the mass that they put on I was in a relationship where a woman said I see you with rose-colored Glasses what she meant is I saw all the potential in you But you don't see it in yourself and she was so right this was right after my divorce and I know that I went through this Chaotic period of going through the tunnel I talk about the tunnel in other videos that tunnel is that midlife crisis space And I felt so exposed that I had to pull away because I didn't feel like I could live up to the potential of this relationship So how do you avoid this trap because this is a trap? How do you avoid this and I'm gonna encourage you to do the following okay now if you're If you're already in a seasoned relationship, you can still do this But this is for those who are before you become intimate with a man before you become intimate with man before the penis gets To go inside the vagina Haven't cursed yet fuck This is my new way of cursing But the penis hasn't gone into the vagina yet You have to read this book called eight dates by dr. John Gottman and Julie Gottman eight dates and Basically if you want to have sex with you you both read this book together These are eight dates to determine if you're if you're compatible with one another Now here's the thing about men If he's already feeling inadequate inside if he doesn't feel like he can give to the relationship He's gonna run away and the good news he ran away before you got intimate before you bonded with them And that's what I'd like to encourage you to do and if you don't feel comfortable with the book eight dates Then start with the book the five love languages the five love languages I've had so many women before they became intimate with a man had the man do the five love languages Test online you can go online to do the test okay And to decide if you guys speak each other's love language This is a good start, but I want to encourage you eight dates And if you're already in a seasoned relationship and you're wondering if this is the right relationship for you then Introduce the book because here's what's gonna happen Only a man who genuinely doesn't care about you is Going to reject it only a man who's controlling and unable to receive love is going to reject it only a man who feels Inadequate in himself and doesn't love himself is going to reject it and also Controlling and narcissistic people will reject it as well Okay, so you want that to happen because ultimately what's the point of spending time with someone if you're not going to go the distance? Sadly, most people are in casual relationships, and I'm here to encourage a different way of doing it I know you can follow everyone else's advice and just have a good time. It's all about having a good time You know what we should just have a good time and not really vet one another. Well, that's a crock of shit in my book Vetting is an important aspect of this relationship process of this dating process And if you need to support on that that's my specialty check out the link to a free discovery call with me because my Specialty is helping teach you how to vet for emotionally available men So you can avoid this trap very quickly if you want personalized advice check out the link below to schedule the free discovery call with me, but Not but and I'm trying to work on not saying but in my vocabulary and for that vocabulary early and and When you learn how to do this you will approach the dating process in a whole different way and the benefit of this is That you're going to attract someone more aligned to who you are and what you want So if you need support check out that link below listen, I've recommend a lot of great books Sadly most people are just seeking those basic needs of companionship connection and sex and their capacity to go any further Is limited this is why you want to introduce this work as soon as possible Because a man who's able to step up to the process of commitment a man who can step up And he genuinely wants to step up with you is going to meet you where you're at and isn't that really what you want anyway All right, I'd like to hear your thoughts on this. Please post a comment below Please post a question. I read all of them or I do my best to read all of them And I even try to respond to most of them If you find value again check out the links below and I'm going to wrap up this video as I always do first off giving myself a big Gigantic Jonathan bear hug of self-love. I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm going to ask you to turn to someone and give them a hug of love because Hugs are a great source of love and we can all use more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch. Bye. Bye now


There's never a sickness that Jesus cannot heal never a trouble that he can't rescue from There's nothing that's impossible to our God. Amen Say amen Like we heard the message an encouraging message is that Whatever you facing today, whatever struggles and challenges see there can be sickness It could be a setback. It can be some kind of difficulty that you face in your life By the blood of Jesus that problem can pass you over tonight Today if you agree with me say amen This is a prayer with anointing water We receive this anointing water for prophet to be Joshua to pray for people here in the United States This simply just prayer this simply just water regular water H2O nothing special about it But the same time it's special because there is anointing has been done in Jesus name the anointing the rest on it This is just a medium Jesus used many mediums Just spit on the ground made month and and put it on the eyes of a blind person. He saw there was a Rod of Moses that split the sea and did many miracles. This was just This was just a medium that God used as well as the cloth from Elijah That did miracles and split the Jordan God can choose to use any medium and at this day in age through prophet to be Joshua God is using This simple water. I want you to look up on to the cross because The prayer we're gonna do is gonna be done in Jesus name the healing and the break the and that Whatever you need is gonna be done in Jesus name is by the blood of Jesus that you will receive in your life Amen, so we're gonna open this prayer line with this simple prayer repeat after me say Lord Jesus Say again Lord Jesus Open my heart To your word Say Lord Jesus open my heart to your faith Say Lord Jesus Open my heart to your spirit Say Lord I'm ready to receive in Jesus name Amen So Lord let your mercy and your favor speak for him right now in a mighty name of Jesus Christ Let me pray for the child Let your mercy and your favor speak for her right now in a mighty name of Jesus Christ Lord We ask anything that's not of God this child's body in this man's life I command it out right now in mighty name of Jesus Every sickness I commanded out right now in a mighty name of Jesus We declare the healing virtue of God to flow in a mighty name of Jesus Christ Fire of the Holy Ghost Consume from the top of her head to the bottom of feet in a mighty name of Jesus Christ Five lonely ghosts in a mighty name of Jesus anything That's not of God I command it out of her life out of her body out of his life in a mighty Name of Jesus Christ in a mighty name of Jesus Christ Lord let your mercy in your favor speak for him right now in a mighty name of Jesus Christ in a mighty Name of Jesus Christ anything that's not of God. 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I'm going to alternate here between looks that are outdoor and ones that are just for inside. First look I'm starting off with an ice blue button up paired with some light wash jeans. And then I'm going to layer in a tan crew neck sweater, which is by Everlane. I'm going with these hiking boots here. They're by Danner, really classic with red laces for the coat. I'm doing just a classic pea coat. And then I'm throwing on these braided leather gloves by Hiltz Willard. I've been really into 1970s Robert Redburn style recently. And this look is 100% influenced by his style in three days of the condor. From the pea coat to the layered sweater all the way down to the hiking boots. But I think his were a little darker and didn't have red laces, but whatever. So this is just a super easy look to throw together. All basics. They're comfortable and great for winter. This next look is my favorite Canadian tuxedo Polo Ralph Lauren Western shirt and double RL jeans. I'm going to pair this with my black watch plaid Belgian shoes, which I love wearing around the house. And then throwing on this tan zip up cashmere cardigan by Gobi cashmere. I find even if I'm just sitting around and working at home, I do like to put just a little effort into what I'm wearing. I feel like it just puts me in a different mindset than if I was just sitting around and like sweatpants and hoodie, nothing wrong with that, by the way. But even just something this simple and of course a little elevated via the cashmere motivates me to get things done. I'm starting off again with some feta jeans and a great super comfortable and warm cream colored cable knit sweater. And I'm going to pair this with some white leather sneakers to keep it kind of casual and sporty. Over that I'm going to layer on a barber quilted vest and then some shearling gloves and finishing it off with a tan wool knit cap by Drake's. I really like how sporty this look is and there's some great contrasts with both the blues and the browns. The sweater is actually by Sunspell and it's so thick and warm. I find it's a great sweater to pair with just a quilted vest like this. The gloves I absolutely love. It's another pair by Hiltz Willard. Not only are they warm, but I think they add a really nice bit of understated color and contrast with the rest of this very simple look. Here I've got black jeans and a burgundy striped cashmere turtleneck by Gobi. And since this is an at-home look, I'm going to slip on my black suede Belgian shoes. Such great shoes for wearing around the house. And then to add in a layer because it is a little chilly down in the studio, I'm throwing on this wool overshirt or shacket which I've had forever and is actually by H&M made with cloth by Abraham Moon. I love wearing jackets and sport coats, but at home it might feel like a little much. So a shacket like this is a great alternative. I like how the stripe of the sweater pulls in the color of the shacket. It's not an exact match, but that's almost better and fun fact. As I record this voiceover, this is the outfit I am wearing today as well.  Then I'm going to use a scarf here. It's by Barber and their classic plaid. Throwing on my Barber jacket, this is the Ashby model if you're wondering. Then the same Drake's hat you've already seen and the Shearling Hilt's Willard gloves.  Here I've got light wash jeans and a brown brush cotton shirt, which I'm going to pair again with the Black Watch plaid Belgian shoes. Want to add another layer for some warmth here, so I'm throwing on a thin Merino wool quarter zip sweater, which is by Sunspell. Pretty simple and no nonsense look here. Again, I feel like actually taking the time to do even just simple layering like this and putting on an actual button up shirt can do a lot for staying positive and being productive and I mean it doesn't take a lot. This is just so simple, but it's something I found that really works for me. Going with black jeans once again, this time with a Buffalo plaid shirt by Uniclo. And also again, the black suede Belgian shoes for my extra layer here. I'm throwing on this great chunky shawl collar cardigan, which is by Tommy Hilfiger, another piece I've had for quite a long time. I will do my best to find something similar to link to in the description.  So go ahead and click right over there for some more great winter inspiration.