Hey survivors and frivers, in this video I am going to be discussing what makes narcissists so difficult to deal with, please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate, my paypal link is in the video description. If you are interested in one-on-one coaching, you can email me at narksfivercoaching at gmail.com. We have a private reddit community where survivors and frivers can share their experiences and knowledge on narcissists abuse. If you are interested in being a part of this community, you can sign up for our Patreon page, the link is in the video description. If you would like to purchase Narks5 merchandise, you can get your own Narks5 t-shirt or mug from our store. The link to our Teespring page is in the video description. What makes narcissists so difficult to deal with? When you are around narcissists, you will notice that they have a really obsessive need to dictate and control your thoughts, feelings, actions and behaviors. They don't need much input from you, because it's not really about you, it's about them and how they see you, their minds are made up. They believe that they already know everything they need to know to make their conclusion, so anything that you say to them will not be taken into consideration. They have a sense of dominance and superiority over you, but this is really just to compensate for how worthless and insignificant they feel deep down. If they discovered that maybe they were wrong about you, they would not accept that they made a mistake and then apologize or try to make things right. That's not going to happen. A narcissist cannot accept defeat. Remember it's a game to them. They cannot accept responsibility or accountability for their actions, so rather than accepting that they got it wrong or they made a mistake, they will work overtime to change your way of thinking, feeling, acting and behaving until you do become the very person they always said you were. Then they will point the finger at you and claim that you were that person all along, ignoring the fact that due to their obsessive need to dominate and control, they have then moulded you into the very person that they always wanted you to be, to suit them or to make them feel more comfortable. It's a crazy, illogical way of dealing with this situation. I know. But if you have dealt with a narcissist, I'm sure you will have experienced this. So rather than accepting that they were wrong about you or they made a mistake, they will push and provoke you until you do become the very person they always said you were. They have to do this, it's the only way that they can feel satisfied, it's too painful for them to accept that they made a fault or mistake because then that would open the floodgates to all of the other faults and mistakes they've made which they always denied. So just be aware that they would rather make their false accusations of reality rather than to accept that they made a fault or mistake. This is why narcissists are so difficult to deal with and so dangerous to be around. They always have an obsessive need to control your thoughts and feelings. They want to know what you are thinking about. They want to know if you are thinking about them or if you're not thinking about them so they can do some ridiculous attention-seeker behaviour to force you to think about them. Everything is forced with narcissists. On one hand they see you as an object, but on the other hand they understand that you are a human being. It's a constant fight to try and control this living, breathing human being who on one hand they see as an object. And then you're like moving around freely on your own and they don't like it. That's what creates their obsessive need to control you because you could go off and do something which then interacts with their thoughts and feelings because however you feel reflects on how they feel. When you are happy they are sad and when you are sad they are happy. It's an endless game for them like cat and mouse where they are constantly trying to keep you within the lines of this world which they have created for you. They believe that they own you. You are their property. Your body, mind and soul belongs to them. It's just somehow you got control of it, but that was a mistake. You are not supposed to possess this body, mind or soul. In their minds you are meant to serve them. You are supposed to think, feel, act and behave in the way that they would like and they don't have to reciprocate any of this back to you. Narciss don't think that way. They are self-absorbed and lack empathy. They have a sense of entitlement and arrogance. You exist to serve them. In their minds they feel entitled to take control of your body, mind and soul. It does frustrate them that you are in control of it. They see it as a constant fight where they are trying to pull the reins in the direction that they would like, but then you keep pulling back. They see it as a constant push, pull like the reins of a horse. Reins in a horse are used to guide the horse in a certain direction. That's exactly what Narciss are doing with you, by using emotional abuse or manipulation tactics. The abuse or manipulation is basically the reins which they are then using to pull you in a certain direction. They understand that you are in control of your body, mind and soul. But their sense of entitlement and arrogance makes them feel that they should be in control of that, so they will deal with you constantly fighting them and trying to pull the reins out of their hands so you can move in the direction that you prefer. They will deal with it and continue trying to control and maneuver you in the way that they would like. They are constantly pulling you away from your true self. You cannot be yourself around Narciss. You have to think, feel, act and behave in a way that suits them or makes them feel comfortable. You cannot have your own separate thoughts, feelings, actions or behaviours around these people. They have an obsessive need to dominate and control you. When you are feeling happy, it reflects on how miserable they feel. They get envious and jealous and then it makes them want to destroy your happiness. So they will do something to sabotage whatever it is that is making you happy. From that point on, they will then try to regulate this source of happiness. It could be anything, a hobby or interest, a friend or relationship partner, if the Narciss isn't your partner. Whatever it is that provides you with happiness will have to be regulated in some way. They couldn't do it or they couldn't get the same fulfilment from it. So you shouldn't either, Narciss cannot even allow you to be at an equal level of misery as then. You have to feel worse than they do. If you feel worse than they do, it gives them an illusion of happiness. As once they have regulated your sources of happiness, they will then look happy compared to you. So you cannot freely think or feel how you want to think or feel. You cannot act or behave how you would like to act or behave. This then prevents you from having your own beliefs, values and principles. All of this has to be dominated by the Narciss for them to control you. You have to adopt their way of how they want you to think, feel or act or behave. Their beliefs, values and principles which they are trying to assign to you, they don't want you to have a mind of your own. You cannot have your own likes or preferences which don't match up with what they want for you. Your own hobbies or interests. You cannot have your own friends other than the Narciss Fly Monkeys. You cannot have a relationship partner. As if the Narciss is your parent, they will sabotage this. You cannot be yourself around these people.   This is why many people after these relationships feel like they don't even know who they are anymore. Because their natural thought process, their original way of thinking, acting and behaving has been adjusted to accommodate the needs of the Narciss.  You stopped honoring your way of thinking, feeling, acting and behaving. Your original beliefs, values and principles. Your original likes, preferences, hobbies and interests. And I'm not saying this is your fault. Due to the Narciss obsessive need for dominance and control, it was either that or you faced their Narciss's Grage. Fear the mental, emotional or physical abuse. You were trained over a long period of time to give up your true nature. The basic or inherent features, character or qualities of who you are and while the Narciss may be responsible for this change, they are not going to accept responsibility as far as they are concerned. It's your body, mind and soul. They tried the best they could to pull the reins in the direction that they preferred. But you kept pulling the other way. Of course they are not going to accept that you are pulling away from something that went against your true nature. Over and over again you were told that you are not good enough or you can't do anything right. You were given negative affirmations daily for months or years. It's a form of brainwashing or mind control. Your mind was altered or controlled using psychological techniques. Your thoughts, feelings, actions and behaviors were dictated to you. Your beliefs, values and principles were dictated to you. Your likes, preferences, hobbies and interests were dictated to you. The first step to changing all of this and remembering who you really are is to accept that none of this is really you. When your mind has been altered or controlled using psychological techniques every day for months or even years, there is no way that any of that belongs to you. It was fair to you by the narcissist as a way of dominating and controlling you to suit their needs or to make them feel more comfortable. Any beliefs or interests that were unique to you would be criticized. The narcissist would indicate the faults of your beliefs or interests in a disapproving way. Everything about you had to be filtered through them, through the lens that they saw you. And even then you were not given a choice, not even a limited choice. They will give you suggestions, but due to their obsessive need to dominate and control these suggestions will be forced onto you to the point where you don't know any other way to think, feel or act or behave. You don't know any other beliefs, values or principles other than what was drilled into your head day after day for months or even years by the narcissist. So they plant this way of being into your subconscious mind and then blame you for the very thing that they've created. The narcissist doesn't want you to make your own choices.  In their minds they are thinking, why do you need to decide who you want to be? I know who you want to be. Just ask me and I'll tell you the answer. Why do you need to think about what you want? I've got all the ideas of what you want and who you want to be. Just follow me and I'll give you the answers. This could come across as though they are trying to help or assist you in some way, but it's actually based on their obsessive need to dominate and control.   They know that you have more capabilities than they do. They are envious of your qualities, talents and traits. They wish that they could possess them but since they can't they will try to destroy them instead.  How do you deal with the effects from engaging with these types of people? First you need to stop interacting, stop engaging with them. You are asking yourself, who am I? Begin to reflect on yourself and get in touch with your own thoughts and feelings. This will then lead to actions and behaviours that are true to you. Your own likes, preferences, hobbies and interests. Friends and relationship partners that resonate with what you are really about. You may not resonate with narcissists but that's a good thing. If you will resonate with people who abuse, manipulate, stalk and harass that would not be good so be happy and proud that you do not resonate with them. There is a very powerful quote by Alexander Graham Bell. One door closes another opens but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which is open for us. So let that door close and let this new door open for you.  People like the survivors and privers in our community, the narcissists may have been difficult to deal with and you may have seen that as though something was wrong or not right. I like to see it as a sign from the universe or God. When something is so difficult and it's just completely draining your energy, draining the life out of you, they show us everything we don't want or don't like so that we can realise what we do want or what we do like. It's difficult with them but for us it's easy. It's easy for us to understand and resonate with each other because we are people of like kind, we are on the same frequency, we are real, honest and genuine and I am so thankful to have all of you here with me. I love you all and I wish you the best for your healing. Thank you for watching, please like the video, share your thoughts in the comments, share the video with anyone who you believe may help. 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Good lord, I Think it does colors too. Oh, that's cool. I don't know. I kind of like it. Merry early Holidays everyone whether it's Christmas or whatever you celebrate now is typically the time of year you start getting presents This is my fifth annual Nintendo switch holiday buying guide Or you will need when it comes to buying games this year for yourself or your loved ones because I know buying games Can be tricky so my aim in these videos is no matter who you are or who you're buying for when you walk into a Store after watching this video. You will know exactly what to buy and what to stay away from I've gone to a bunch of stores near Me I've looked online and I've piled a massive list of all the games You're gonna run across while shopping this holiday season and here's how I break it all down to make it as least Confusing as possible starting with the 50 to 60 dollar games Then we have the 30 to 40 dollar games Then you have your 10 to 20 dollar games and we'll talk about all of that as we go through the list now from those three Categories I break them down into three more categories the must buy games the maybe games These games are still really great games, but it's more situational and then finally the avoids it goes without saying But if I put it in this category, it's probably because the game looks good But it's bad and don't buy it and I know it's a lot of information before we even get started But there's one more thing previous years. I've just thrown whatever at the list I've tried to cover every game that I think you might run across But it's just becoming a little unreasonable the switch has been out for half a decade and there's just so many crappy games I mean I was looking online. I don't know what to say about 30 in one game collection Fantasy friends what's a slide stars at some point? You just have to use your best guess and your own judgment because the switch has been out so long at this point I can focus on the main games and still have hundreds of games in this video I'm gonna focus on the games that really matter and the ones that you're probably going to be wanting to buy and look at And then I'll just throw in some avoids for ones that I just don't want you to fall for even now five years Into the switches lifespan. Okay. That's everything now. 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You did a great job, buddy I do want to quickly mention Nintendo's digital and online service You have to pay a subscription to go online and play some of these games Thankfully that subscription is only like three dollars a month or twenty dollars for an entire year and with that service You're able to download at no extra charge an NES and Super Nintendo app that has a plethora of games in both And that's it That's all you have to worry about But if you want to get a little bit more confusing Nintendo just introduced an expansion pack to that service Which jumps the price up quite a lot to fifty dollars a year But with that you can download an n64 and Sega Genesis app Well, you have all of these games that you can play and the 64 games are actually really good now that expansion pack You don't gotta worry about but it's there if you want it and I want to suggest gift cards They're really not a bad idea when it comes to buying a gamer a gift card for their console because there are a ton of games on the Digital e-shop you can find on your switch that you can't get in stores So yeah, if you're confused a gift card is always a great idea with that said, let's finally start this stupid list I'm gonna go through all the must buys in every category starting with the 50 to 60 dollar games So every year I recommend Mario Odyssey Breath of the Wild Super Smash Pokemon Sword and Shield Animal Crossing and now you can include the DLC since last year Luigi's Mansion 3 Mario Kart 8 Splatoon 2 Fire Emblem 3 houses and this year Mario Kart Home Circuit Has had a massive price drop down at $60 you get a little toy RC car that you drive around in real life But it works with the game and augmented reality to me. That's a perfect Christmas present So yeah, all of those are as worth it as they will ever be Nintendo's first party games meaning the games Nintendo makes themselves never come down in price So they always retain their value as quiet as this year did seem for new game releases The switch saw a ton. Metroid Dread is a recent release Probably the best 2d side-scrolling Metroid game you'll ever play a new Mario Party released recently It's a remake of a ton of older Mario Party boards and mini games with a whole new coat of paint It's completely playable online with four players or of course the couch co-op if you want to play with your family and do Not confuse it with Super Mario Party that game sucked And it's actually I'm gonna skip ahead for this one in my avoid Section of the 50 to 60 dollar games do not get them confused one is much better than the other new Pokemon Snap Release this year you go through the game taking pictures of Pokemon and trying to get the best cutest and nicest picture possible It's as sweet and innocent as it sounds Monster Hunter Rise was another really big release. I'm getting really warm Do you guys mind if I take this off? I'm in Texas, so I'm pretending like it's winter still like 80 outside Monster Hunter Rise was another big release early this year It's definitely aimed at an older audience not because it's mature or anything like that It's just a little bit more in-depth that said it's a ton of fun I mean you have swords and bows and you go and you take down massive monsters with your friends sounds cool Right and don't get it confused with Monster Hunter generations Which was the last Monster Hunter game released on switch which was a remake of a 3ds game and it's not nearly as good It's still very good. Just don't get it confused because Rise is better But if you do want to get a Monster Hunter game that is for young ins Monster Hunter stories, too Well, this is essentially a Pokemon game is the best way to explain it but set in the Monster Hunter universe I really liked the game and it has a cute story finally for new big games this year Super Mario World 3d plus Bowser's Fury. This is your big Mario release for the year It is a port from a game that was released on the Wii U several years ago But it does have a whole edition of an extra game never before released called Bowser's Fury That's a ton of fun. Okay, so that's all the 50 to 60 Those are the heavy hitters the best of the best the cream of the crop on the switch And that's a ton of games So already you probably are done with your Christmas shopping if you grab one or two of these If whoever you're buying for or yourself don't have it already But that said maybe you want to buy a $60 game and then maybe one $30 game in a couple of $10 games And that way you get like four games because here's the must buy games in the 30 to $40 category Immortals phoenix rising this game is so much fun. It's made by Ubisoft. So you know that it's decent It's a very much a breath of the wild clone game, but it's still really fun starlink I will always recommend this game. You can find it for $30 normally now And it comes packed in with a bunch of toys that work with the game kind of like skylanders But it's very often on sale for 10 15 dollars So I didn't even know where to put this on the list, but I would say for 30 or under It's a steal zeno blade chronicles definitive edition is a complete remaster of the zeno blade game from many years ago on We and it's a fantastic game. It's a very long 40 hour RPG So it'll keep anyone entertained for a long time I will always recommend stardew valley for whatever price you can buy it for digitally It's 15 dollars, but if you want to go into a store and buy it It's still worth it. It's a very cute farming sim game that you'll fall in love with Then Hades is the complete opposite of that game. It is intense fast-paced action One of my favorite games on the console and you'll never get bored of playing it Goose game is the perfect game for anyone of all ages You just play as a little cute goose stealing rakes and hats and just being a nuisance Super monkey ball is a great game and a safe bet There's a double pack you can get both overcooked games in and that is a staple for the console If you're buying a switch for the first time and you want a game to play with your family That's it and then a fun one journey to the savage planet has a physical now. It's only 30 dollars It's a first-person action sci-fi game where you explore a planet and you can play that two players as well Then the cheapy cheaps the 10 to 20 dollar games This was actually tough for me this year because right now there's a massive sale going on because of black friday But I don't know how long this sale will last But that said a lot of these games you can get pre-owned for around 20 dollars And I never know where to put a game when it's full price is let's say 40 But it's pre-owned is like 10 and like where do I scale that for example right now? All these games are 20 dollars today But not normally collection of mana any of the lego games are always fun crash bandicoot 4 a new crash game That came out this year is already 20 dollars on sale the assassins creed games bravely default 2 Which is a first party jrpg that came to switch this year burn out paradise kingdom hearts melody of memory Any of the fun of fantasy games any of the resident evil games Man-eater is a fun game where your players are shark and you eat people Sukuna rice and ruin metro redux one of the few really great first-person shooter games on switch Bloodstained any of the saints row games if you're looking to play a game like gda on the switch The world ends with you tale as a vespere. I mean I could keep going that said the ones that will be 20 dollars Because they've been that way for a while Mario and rabbits is always a hard recommend It's a fantastic turn-based strategy game and a sequel is on the way It's perfect for kids adults anyone dark side is genesis is a little hidden gem of a game It took the dark side is franchise but made it top down kind of like diablo and it's a bunch of fun risk of rain too I love this game. It's a roguelite game. You can play with up to four friends I believe it was made by like two kids straight out of university and they crushed it everspace Is a fun space roguelite portal nights is a great game kind of like minecraft if your kid loves minecraft They might like portal nights and yeah, that's it. That's all the must buys anything I just mentioned if you find it around that price It's a no-brainer and you really can't go wrong, you know to some extent There are some people that don't like Mario games. I can't really help you there because they're weird So now we go all the way back up to the top with the 50 to 60s But we go through the maybes this time and the maybes are always the largest section in the video All of these games are great and they wouldn't be in maybe if I didn't think they weren't worth the price But there's normally always a caveat and I'll give you an example of each one as we go Let's start with the brand new games that came out this year We have pokemon diamond and pearl remakes that just released if your kid is a huge pokemon fan These are a no-brainer's if they already have let's go pikachu Evie sword and shield and they're dying for that next hit a pokemon then go for diamond and pearl The only reason I'm saying maybe is because I would still say sword and shield are the go-to pokemon games If you're buying a switch for the first time right now get sword and shield not diamond and pearl sword and shield is the new Exciting experience wario get it together. This is a game that nintendo themselves released this year It's $50 and I really struggle to see it worth that price tag I think if I was a parent and I spent $50 and my kids crushed it in like two or three hours I'd be a little annoyed. I've always got to recommend a pikmin game But this is a port from the wii u so don't buy this for someone if they already had it on wii u shimigami tensi five just released It's a really great and quality jrpg And if you have a jrpg fan in the house, this might be a no-brainer as well But if it's for a just a casual gamer this game is brutally hard if someone asked for this game Yeah, get it. That's what they want and it's a fantastic game But I just wouldn't give it to someone before a lot of these other games if that makes sense mario golf super rush There's also mario tennis aces.  So No more heroes three. I can't I don't Hmm if someone asked for this game or they're a huge fan of the series again buy it for them I wouldn't take a risk on this one though. It's also relatively short for its price zelda skyward sword hd I'm always careful when it comes to recommending zelda because at this point we have skyward sword hd Which is a remaster of a wii game and also we have lynx awakening Which is a remaster remake of an old gameboy game. Both of these are really fun games You can never go wrong with zelda But if someone has asked for zelda, they're most likely asking for breath of the wild which is the brand new Exciting one that was made for switch and you want to make sure they have that one before you start buying these two Persona 5 strikers if you know what the koi tecmo massive brawler games are like the hyrule warrior games These are essentially massive to feed a hundred to a thousand enemies at once But they take different franchises and they skin them a certain way and this time it was skinned as persona 5 The reason why this is maybe despite it being a really great game worth the price Is that this is technically a sequel Story wise to persona 5 so it's filled with spoilers and kind of very specifically for persona fans Dying light released on switch recently. It's a zombie game and an incredible port actually dragon ball z kakarot This is a massive jrpg sat in the dragon ball z world and that got ported to switch I wouldn't say buy it over breath of the wild which is why it's in maybe nino kuni 2 and if you love yeez a Yeez 9 is fantastic. Okay, so that's all the new games So let's go through the rest that have been out for a while But are always worth buying the pokemon let's go games I would buy let's go over the new diamond and pearl remakes, but that's just me hyrule warriors age of calamity It's like persona 5 strikers. It's a massive brawl defeat a thousand enemies, but in the zelda universe It's a prequel story wise to breath of the wild So if you have a breath of the wild fan in the house, this one could be perfect for them Even though it's a completely different kind of game Just don't get it confused with the other hyrule warriors Which was released on the wii u and then ported to switch and it had nothing to do with breath of the wild Any kind of story it was just made for fun and then nintendo thought it was really cool I guess and decided to make an official one pokemon mystery dungeon rescue team great for kids But i'll always recommend sword and shield first paper mario and super mario maker 2 These are both great, but there's mario odyssey you gotta make sure you're getting that first And if you're looking for other mario games all of them are always going to be a banger Astral chain you love or you have someone that loves the bayonetta games the devil may cry games Get the mastral chain if you've never heard of those games and they haven't either this might be a bigger risk Ring fit is usually 80 dollars, but the price has come down to about 55 right now It comes with a little exercise ring that works with the game and it does actually kick your butt If you're looking for a workout, this one's pretty legit. Okay. I'm really sweaty I just realized the heater is on i filmed with like three studio lights and the heater was on It's no wonder i'm starting to look like i just went swimming dragon quest builders too I think that is always going to be worth it.  I also think dragon quest 11 s should be up there You know, I'm moving it. I'm putting that up there as well. I'm changing my mind as I go It's my list. What do you want dragon quest 11 s is a massive jrpg It's one of the best ones Just put it back up there octopath traveler marvel ultimate alliance 3 yoshi's crafted world Both of those games are a maybe because yoshi's crafted world is really short And then marvel ultimate alliance just it's just not the best But if you have someone that loves superheroes, it's pretty good. Donkey Kong country is always fun But it's a we you port a game that came out years ago So is bayonetta But I think they're always worth picking up and playing again And then I always like to point out that even though diablo 3 skyrim Witcher 3 doom and doom eternal are all fantastic massive experiences on the switch that a lot of people Want and if you have someone asking for skyrim, then it's always a safe bet But I like to point out that these games always stick around 60 dollars even though on other consoles. They're 10 15 20 dollars most of the time. They're very expensive on switch, but you get to play them on the go So that's the trade off continuing this very long section of the video. We have our 30 to 40 dollar games Meetopia is a new one. This game was on the 3ds and now it's come to switch It's a great game for a younger audience, but it doesn't have a ton of content there If you're looking for something more in depth cruising blast. This is a nintendo racing game It's kind of just dumb fun that works really well on the console tony hawk 1 and 2 came to switch Subnautica double pack you explore the ocean and you build and you craft things You get two games for the price of one all the darksiders games are on switch now Including darksiders 3 which is a new one. They're kind of zelda inspired a little but a bit more hack and slashy Monster harvest is one that I put on the list because you'll probably find it on shelves right now It's like stardew, but I would recommend buying stardew first But monster harvest is a good follower world war z is a great port on the console I loved this game on xbox and they did a great job Well, it ends with you neo if you can find it around this price I'd say it's a good deal game builder garage is only $30 don't buy this unless someone has but well I don't know so it's a game where you make your own games So I would say if a kid's been talking about getting into game development This is a fantastic place to start if you like the telltale games road 96 is very much inspired by those nick o stars brawl I've seen that as low as 20 It's hard to say when a game is worth it or not when the price fluctuates faster than it can release But if you can find this one for 20, I say it's fun. The crisis remastered games are all pretty new on switch We don't have many first person shooters on the console So you got to grab up what you can and moving out is a really fun game to play co-op think overcooked But with moving furniture cadence of Hyrule clubhouse games 51 Minecraft and minecraft dungeons Only reason why I say maybe is I feel like people who want minecraft have minecraft But if they don't that one's hours of fun the bio shock and borderlands collections If you're a fan of these games they play really well on the console And then if you can find games like blue fire my friend Pedro those indie games around that price point are fun And then wonderful 101. I would say get Pikmin 3 before wonderful 101 They're very similar games and Pikmin 3 is better thought out and then for the 10 to 20 games again You can't really go wrong sushi strikers is a first party nintendo game John Wick hex is a pretty difficult strategy game kill a queen black and has been heroes or a couple of cheap Stocking stuffer games and then vampire is a fully fleshed out RPG where you play as a vampire And it's a really great game no one talks about and I've seen it as low as 15 dollars now We can head into the avoids. I've kept this pretty minimal again I think for the most part we know what to avoid at this point If you're looking at the box and you don't know what it is, but it looks kind of like cheapy. It's probably bad There's more bad games than good and I will say that as much as people like to make fun of game stop If you go in and you see something you can ask the person working there Do you think this is a good game and they will immediately know if it's shovelware or not even without having played it And if you don't know what shovelware is it's just a game that some company has shoveled onto the console Hoping someone like you would come along and buy it. It's terrible It took them 10 minutes to make it and you don't want it the 50 to 60 dollar games You'll find that out aren't worth it. The first one is new gda trilogy. I know I haven't talked about this on my channel But the gda remakes that just came out. They're not great They're remakes of the old gda games, but they made them in very clearly a hurry to get them on the stores for Christmas And they're filled with issues and bugs. It's not worth spending 60 dollars on them As I said earlier avoid super mario party I And putting labor kits in the avoid this year labor kits have gone from me recommending them to me saying maybe And now they're actually even in don't buy them The reason why I've said don't buy is now there's too many variables to start with the labor kits Don't work with switch lights and now with the new OLEDs that just came out They don't work with those either the labor kits only work with the normal switch It's too confusing to explain. It's just not worth it. Kirby star allies if this was 20 dollars I would say buy it all day every day, but when it comes to recommending a game for Christmas I can't recommend a 60 dollar game that the kid can finish by Christmas dinner and then be looking for a new game That's not worth its value at all arms and one to switch. They're just very expensive They came out five years ago and neither of that great There's too many good games to be buying those for that price This was the first year I was going to leave WW2 k18 off the list because at some point I'm just beating a dead horse with a game that came out half a decade ago But for some reason this game seems to have shot up in price. I don't know what's happening there But just stay away from it for 30 to 40 dollars. Do not buy Bell and wonderful. I haven't even said those words on my channel yet This game released this year and um, it's instantly become just a laughing stock a meme I don't know what word you want to use because it was hyped up to be something really fun Kind of like mario odyssey when you go into a store I can easily see this fooling someone into buying it because it looks like it could be fun. It's not it's really really bad Just ignore it sonic colors ultimate isn't worth 30 to 40. It's worth more like 10 to 20 It's not bad if you can find it for that price. It's kind of buggy and not a great remake cooking mama is not good I know it looks good other games in the series were good This new one for switch is not the outer worlds I would say still isn't worth it looks horrible and it's buggy fortnight. I always put into these lists So fortnight is a free game that you can just download for free on the u-shop You don't have to buy it The reason why they put it in stores is to trick you into buying it because you think it's what you're supposed to buy But then the case is empty and there's just a code for you to download like some dances You know these things you can doubt that doesn't matter. Don't worry about it But I use that as an example because there's actually a ton of games You can find at game stop now that don't have the game in the case And there's a little bar at the top of the case that usually says game not included watch out for that on that note Don't buy rocket league. It's a really fun game and you can still buy it in stores for 40 bucks You used to have to pay for it, but they just made it free now little town hero Maybe for $15 if you can get it on sale games like buckle gone and damon x marketer I would say aren't worth this price and no one's really asking for them and buckle gone's actually really bad And then arc is still 40 dollars I hate to keep going on about that game But it's another one of those games that I feel like kids ask for a lot kim said when she was working at game stop Kids came in all the time asking for arc. It's just really bad on switch and then for the 10 to 20 dollars Do not buy these even for a nickel wwe battlegrounds No wrestling games on switch ended up being very good troll and I golf with friends I put that on the list because it's one of those I don't think there's a game in the case. You just have to download it But also with mario golf out now, maybe someone would go in You got that golf game and walk out with golf with friends And I still say stay away from carnival games when I make these videos carnival games looks like one of those games That's weirdly official and maybe it came with the switch. I don't know who made it, but it's bad And that's everything. I hope it helps you buy some games this year I would say if you take anything away from these videos because I know it's a lot I would really really only worry about focusing on the games in the 50 to 60 must buy I would say you'd want to get at least one of those and if that's all you need one game Then you're good And then if you want to dip into the 30 to 40 in the 10 You can look at the must buys for that and that's all you really have to worry about The only reason I do the maybes is if they already have everything those maybes can be a fun gamble If this list did help you out It takes a lot of work So hit the like button leave a comment down below with what you might be buying yourself or someone for christmas And share the video because you can share it with someone that's buying you games and you can make sure they buy the right thing That's what you can do time stamp it to the game you want wink wink. I time stamped it for you This is the only video you watch for me this year. Merry christmas. Happy holidays. Whatever. Hope you have a good one I'm gonna take this sweater off. Bye


Hi everyone, this is Sonali. Thank you all for coming out some time for attending today's webinar on the episode 22 of the Business X Learning series, Invest, Scale, Value and Exit. To all the attendees out there, please type in any questions you might have in the Q&A section and we'll try to answer as many as possible at the end of the session. I would now like to welcome our speaker, Mr. Gaurav Mara, Chairman and Founder of the Franchise India Group. A very warm welcome to you sir. Thank you Sonali and thank you for hosting another edition with Business X. This is the edition we started to talk about four things, how to invest, how to value, how to scale and how to exit your business. These are the four aspects which keep coming at different stages in your life journey. Today I'm going to talk about a very basic topic. We started having these feedbacks coming from a lot of young investors, people who are now looking to really go out and make a pitch and this is a good timing. Why? Because why this whole COVID, I think should be passed by next two to three months, at least with the vaccine out and I think there would be a little bit of comfort for people to really start becoming forthcoming in terms of going out and reaching out to people. So this would be also a good time for a lot of startups to now really actively seek investments and I think India would be in a good situation to attract a lot of capital, a lot of Indian startups would get capital and don't limit yourself by mindset that you are only going to be doing to investors around you, you can reach to any investor anywhere in the world but you need to have a very strong compelling business idea and you will do that. So I'm going to be next 20-25 minutes going to talk about how do you really make a pitch?  What are the rules for that representation? What are you messaging? What do you want to do? Because fundamentally is that people don't invest on anything they have, which means that if they have a thousand pitch coming to them, they might end up investing into 50 of them, maybe less than that. So that's how the ratio would work. So how do you really is one person who is out of that thousand which get recognized? And please try to understand that whenever people have made this pitch, you get a very small window, very, very small window for people to buy into you first, buy into your business plan and buy into that this would make money for you. Actually, if you really start every investor sits with the first fundamental that is going to make money for me, that's the fundamental but before even he goes to that fundamental and say this is why I want to invest, only the reason the investor would look at investing is because he wants to make money on this. But he needs to first buy into these two things independently, which is you and the business partner. And I feel that people a lot of time focus on business model, what they want to present in their product, how they want to go into the market and they don't present on too much focus on themselves. And I feel that that has more meaning to me because in order they would first have to buy into you and then into business and then really go on and say, oh, it makes sense that it can make money. So you need to be very, very particular. So I will give you about 13 different points which are very important when you're thinking what pitch. It's a very important aspect even if you're not pitching because in French in the ecosystem and business exit system, we also get a lot of people who are now looking to invest into existing businesses. They are going and making deals with franchise businesses. They are going, making deals with license businesses and so forth. So wherever you're going, even representing yourself and really want to do that. And I can tell you my first business which I really got was a four star hotel and I was very young and they all had a big nightclub and which they wanted to really give it to somebody. And they put a lot of investments and I think in my 24 or 24 and this club, they would have invested at that time maybe a million dollars even way back in Chandigarh and it was a four star hotel which had this club and I saw an advertisement and saw this advertisement says we want to have an operator with somebody who can come and take that club and run that club and I wanted to obviously every young 24 year old wants to run a nightclub and I had no experience. I had nobody with me. I had no clue what I'm going to do and I went to meet this owner of this hotel and he was a little bit rough guy and he obviously is the owner of this hotel and he gave me exactly 10 minutes and this 10 minutes was very important for me to really go and represent and say why I would be the best operator for this club and how can I turn around and make sure that everybody who's who of this city really comes here and do this and that. And I actually practiced it and I practiced it so well the next day when he gave me a chance and I know a lot of other big restaurant operators were eyeing on this and because it had everything, it had licenses, it had liquor license, it has beautiful set up, it has thermal parking, everything was right for this place to really be very very successful. So a lot of seasoned guy went with a little bit of arrogance and because they had they were also very strong, they were very popular and I went with the plan I had for that place. I never wanted to really talk about what I did because I had nothing to show because I had nothing which was available and I went and what I am going to do this. And I think the owner really saw the purpose, he saw the clear purpose that this guy is not about really what he's done in the past and he's not married, he has all that what he has is this and he's putting every bit into this and he will put his best to make sure that he's running. Other people have plan B, plan C, he has only plan A and he wants to make this work. So sometimes another big starting point is that if you go to somebody and represent that you need to show that this is your only plan and this is what you are putting your best and everything on it. When people see that your commitment and see that where you're coming from, they value that. That's where it really starts. So let's get started on the 13 points which are very important. First is pitch are normally very short and it should be like that because it's a pitch and that's what it's called. So you don't have to really ask for more time, you need to really understand that this is about 10 minutes which you would get with the investor, absolutely peaceful hearing and after that he's not even attentive to what you've done today and a lot of people want to drag it, they want to request for more time, they want more elaboration but truth is you have the 10 minutes and 10 minutes is good enough. Rather I would say if you start a pitch and say I have this next 10 minutes which I'm going to present and you actually finish it in 9 minutes and you watch full and you pray in yourself and you practice yourself and do that. Another thing which you need to do is if a lot of times you say this is what I'm going to present last that means it's last, you don't drag it. So I feel that a lot of people get offended by you not respecting their time or not really trying to do that or dragging this or putting a too much of focus on emphasis on few things which doesn't make sense maybe making a lot of sense for you and you really want to do this piece. I would suggest strongly that don't even bother and don't make your assumptions. Sometimes we try to put overdose of this because we feel that somebody is not giving you that kind of attention you felt. Stay there, stay calm with your own piece and do whatever best can be done and put your best in that 10 minutes and try to early wrap up. The second is turn your pitch into a story. I feel that people love stories they don't like somebody becoming and telling very dry. If your slides don't bind as a story with each other and they flow and you start with giving a larger reason why you're there what is the purpose of this what you want to create and what is the problem it is going to solve and then how you want to solve the problem and finally how this would create a value and bring it. So this all should be queued up why you thought about this why it came to you not to anybody else what was the reason and why you strongly believe in this. Second how you are planned to solve the problem which means that what is your go-to-market capabilities and how you want to really do that and what it can shift and who would be a potential tomorrow buyer which would come through. Eventually investor only wants to see this he doesn't want to see the first two right but it should flow it should look like that I am passing through a very very structured road and I can see the end of the tunnel very clearly you can see them there. I know a lot of people take them through but they don't take actually finally show them where it is headed to and there's a little bit of a confusion it's not very clear and especially the biggest point I have realized is that a lot of times it's a flow is right but you don't show go-to-market and go-to-market is missing and that doesn't come into the story. So you need to be a great storyteller how you want to really tell your story and be in that thing. Third point is be very very laser focused don't go all over don't spend time on things which makes no sense to anybody things which you would have done or things which you would have thought and things of that nature which is not currently part of the business anymore anything which is not relevant is out of the discussion. You have to be extremely focused and stay tight on the discussion itself. Explain what is your product and service which you are offering and how this product or service would be really one what is the proprietary level of that product or service how strong you are on the developer side of that product or service which you are trying to do that and what strongly the proposition this product would create in the market or the problem it would solve that's very very clearly should come out and how definite you are in that product and I can remember that sometimes we have seen some phenomenal funding like look at the case of housing and housing is a great example of a lot of good investors backing that company because the product was strong execution was extremely poor very very poor execution and the company went into drain and there was a lot of erosion of capital which happened but the product was so compelling that was very very compelling so a lot of people really chase good products they really chase good product in the service that's something has to come in and also you need to really be very sure about what is the uniqueness of the product and how you want to really do that people do a lot of competitors when they think through and whenever you present and why you would be so unique versus anybody in the world and these days there is a very little window left you know and and left even if you have something which is now having parallely been done in other some part of the market it's not far that it'll reach here so innovation is not giving you too much a window now so you really have to think through that how you would show your that your brand and your product is extremely compelling now again the next point is the sixth point is that how you would go and what is your target audience is what exactly is your target audience who is is your audience who's your customers how you would be able to demonstrate if you have a some kind of a sample size on that then it is even better but you need to really be sharp enough in terms of your target audience I don't like people giving a very wider piece it confuses because can you try to address and make everybody happy that doesn't work anymore I will say keep it as niche as possible keep it as sharp as possible so that you are able to do that now seventh point is where I would really put my max enforcements and I was I did in 2017 a 20-60 roadshow for startups and I was part of I used to go every city and I used to involve locally a angel fund sort of like Calcutta we do a Calcutta angels and somebody and then we did a gala in IIT Delhi a big big function where we got Akshay Kumar and other people to come down and and we we gave what the first award of a startup was getting a good reward but I had an opportunity to really go out and do about I think 750 different pitch and I can tell you I was always very impressed by the people who had a great product I still remember you know somebody came in an organic side of the building and things of that nature so every time I would get very strong product and a very poor go-to-market capability they would have no idea how this product can go to the market and that's exactly is frustrating to me because people spend a lot of time in understanding the product and design and other things and and doing the prototype but they have no clue how they would bring distribution to it and today I think if you're not having strong go-to-market capability you will not be able to get the results. Now eighth point is essentially about your revenue model you know how your revenue model would be done and this also is sometimes explained in a very vague structure it's not very clear and how you're going to be taking the company what kind of revenues we can expect where the revenue is going to come from why we feel that this channel versus that channel will perform better and all that pieces is very very important. The revenue is now particularly these days because startups especially when they getting early stage investments investors are nervous because they know that if they're not having a right firm timelines on revenues started flowing in they might be in a danger so you need to really be sure that you are able to not only define it but you are absolutely firm on your revenue model. Now we'll start on the some of the other aspects which are also equally important because as I said in the initial starting that it's actually a combination of three things which FH should do one is buying into EU, second your business model and third is how can you demonstrate me that this is going to make money. These are only three things which you would need to carry and you need to be very sharp if you've given 10 minutes three minutes three minutes and three minutes that's the game of a pitch so now if it is all about you then I would presume that how you really represent yourself how excited and how passionate you are because you cannot fake passion and this is something which really comes out and most of the times it's not said it's not presented but they would sense it how excited you are or how enthusiastic you are about your opportunity or the business you want to get in. If that comes in very very clearly then I think the investors are normally very impressed and to compliment that you need to look good you need to dress well you need to represent well and so on for every smallest thing really works and a lot of people actually counter me that this doesn't work I mean but I tell you it works because your personality is your window and anything we do in life there would be something people would freely judge out of your personality and this can be not dependent on that but our biggest example today and sometimes it's criticized also in the social media is our great Prime Minister if you look at him you know I always have seen him he's one of the best dressed man he carries himself well it's not for fronting and what he can do he can at his position he can do entire thing but he's representing a nation he needs to be very well dressed man he has to be the most presentable in that thing and there should be no shame on doing it he's doing a duty it's his duty to be really rightfully present he is not representing he's representing one of the powerful economies of the world uh India is going to be and he's headed towards the third largest powerful economy he's not going to represent poverty that's how a lot of people don't understand that so so he's doing the right thing so you need to really represent what you're representing you don't have to be somebody who shies away from doing it so if it means to buy a new suit or a jeans jacket or something of that nature you need to do that and you need to really do that and this sometimes we really see in the in now in the culture where sometimes people kids are young young people really come and they they sound like they're just out of college and they're they're working on something and I think it worries me because I sometimes feel that if he's not looking after himself well how he would look after the company and this was actually one of the companies which Anila money long time back said he was used to Anila money was really heavy and very very heavy guy and he went to one of the lead investors globally and and lightly the investor said to Anila money and said look you're not keeping yourself well and you're not fit enough and I hope that you were keeping the company fit and that's where here the marathon really started and and that's where his thinking started that if I don't keep myself fit and represented well then how what I want to keep the company right and this used to be a very important evaluation process in yum restaurants and yum restaurants on kfc pizza had Taco Bell and things that in US they used to really visit by by any excuse they would visit the potential franchisee and they would go to his home and see how he's keeping his home because it was very important for them to really see that if somebody is not even keeping his home right how would he keep our restaurants right and and this used to be a certain thing earlier they used to do that now they don't do it because it's it's getting into a people's personal life and things of that nature is not so appreciated and that's why they really started sharing that we used to do it not for the purpose of just barging into somebody's home but essentially finding out how you are inclined towards hygiene safe cleanliness and upkeep of your environments and so it's it's one of the important areas needs to be done 11th is practice it just don't overcommit to yourself and estimate yourself practice your pitch you don't need to really go out and practice and then then go out and represent plus point is how anticipate all the questions beforehand you you cannot be somebody who doesn't answer especially the tough questions right because you always know what tough question can hit you and you always know that people can question you or pull you down on on the numbers or projections or or things of that nature or any kind of platforms you're really doing it you're not studied them back right so if I come to you and say look I'm going to be how you're going to distribute I say I will use the platforms like Amazon to really take my market to the end I think but I don't know how Amazon works and why Amazon will do it and what margin they need to shell out and things of that nature if I don't know that in depth then you can be caught you can be caught on areas which you're taking a lot of claims because most of the times you're making projections and claims and say well this happens and then this would happen and this would happen so if they are not connecting the dots and they are not connecting as we go along then it can be a serious problem and finally show them the exit this is the fundamental this is where the end point is this is cherry on the entire cake you can build the cake but you need to really see the cherry there is a cherry and that cherry is show the exit clearly tell them that this is where and this timeline this exit would happen and what is the exit meaning to you is is it going to be another investor who would come and acquire the company is an acquisition which would be done or we're going to do another round where the lear investors can find the entire thing or any other answer which you clearly is logically available for the kind of investment you're getting in and and his appetite also study the investors you're going in understand what they have seen in past their success stories their failures in investments they've done so their success stories would tell you a lot of things in their the way they would have attempted why they would have attempted and if they have really made that if I was an investor and then I've really done well in something you already know me very well I think investors are more predictable than entrepreneurs who are pitching actually it's it's other way around you are very very clearly you can predict what this guy is all about you know how he reacts these days like in courts you go the the judges are very predictable because and all the lawyers seeing a lawyer is to know if this goes to this bench this is the kind of reaction he can have because they have seen the trends in past they have really seen the the trends in past with them and that's where they would really change the strategy they know what to highlight what needs to be and having what he would normally like to hear so do your homework do your homework on a lot of things on your investors which you're going to pitch but my message now is that start pitching you know this is a time where you the markets are opening up and if you have a good startup idea and if you have a good model this is a time now to start this why we took this as a point because we feel in the last six seven eight months the overall you know excitement with entrepreneurs to go out and hit new investors has gone down and because they don't estimate that this is the time where a lot of investment would find I think I can tell you this is all opening up and it could become even more aggressive in the next two quarters so if you have a good brilliant idea and a business model start looking out for for reaching out to investors and start making your pitch to these investors. BusinessX also continuously does a lot of these business sessions where you can be part of it and you can also use and do that and if you have any other need from BusinessX in terms of valuation or help on on you know resells of a business that also BusinessX would do so over to you Sonali if you have any questions for me I will be more than happy to take a couple of minutes more questions and then we can close this session. Sure so thank you so much for another great session Gaurav sir we have quite a few questions lined up with us so I'll just take up the first one the first question is if I meet an investor in a networking event or manage to connect with them over a call is it right to seize the opportunity to pitch my startup idea to them or a very formal setting like pitch rooms organized by various firms are the right way to go to approach an investor? Good question so it depends purely depends on the investor's mindset at this moment and I would say the whole word elevator pitch came from elevator why because you take an opportunity to present in elevator also and so fundamental is that you should never have a problem in terms of when you want to really present you can present anytime but don't go into it offence people if you don't take their permission you know so that's something which I'm a strong believer while we all hear this product and I think that people have done elevator pitches and and got this and that piece but this would be one percent of the chances but 99 happened in the board rooms where you were formally presenting so a lot of people actually talk about all the things that happened in life and they become more popular but actually 99 are structured pitches and that's what I would have seen right so I would say always take time sometimes people are looking on that subject and they're always looking at it and when you throw your elevator pitch and say this is what I do and I know about you don't go like strangers you know I was in one of the big event actually my wife was speaking in and she took me along is the biggest investment even happens called a web summit and and I was not speaking and I was just visiting with her and and I saw a lot of young people coming and just giving me cards and giving me this piece and then I just was collecting and I would tell that why are they just wasting on me because I'm not even here before as investor capacity so but that's something which people do you don't know me and you're just trying to do this piece that doesn't work I feel that you need to do a little bit of intelligence and these days it's much easier you know you know who to go who invest in where why they would invest what are the past investment then when pitch and very short take his approval and and I see a lot of people in comes to our forums when they would get a good idea they would just I will see them sitting in the corner with understanding with this idea and want to do that and if they interested they would call you again right the next question we have is how do social impact startups get funded that is startups which are not specifically highly profitable but exist for a good cause and reason is fundraising a good idea for such startups yes there's a lot of social startups which are there because they are earmarked investments for that and and if there is a cause good there is a big startup available if you really ask me globally the biggest money is spent for good causes you know and and even in 2021 you will see what where the money would be vegetative for the most successful economies of the world it would be you know climate it would be recycling it will be you know energy saving so not these these are monies which are which are long term for human kindness which its fundamental is money follows it but you need to be very careful where you want to really go and pitch that idea but and investors also have a larger cause and they are very clearly mandated to do that some investors have a different cause and different have different cause right the next question is do investors believe unbelievably high financial projections or do they like startups to be realistic realistic absolutely and it's not that they believe or not believe or in that you need to live with what you present and mistake people do is money raising is a very small part of the cycle if you present unrealistic it's foolishness people do they present unrealistic and they still get money and that money is actually benchmark of what you presented and they lose most of the shareholdings and I've seen investors original founders reducing to 2% 3% 5% of their shareholdings because they were unrealistic they put the future projections and investors are sharp they would put and hold you for future projections you don't reach that they would change the equation of disproportionately their equity holding and disproportionately equity holding would mean that they would take a larger shareholding now in your business and this can really take your company away and a lot of these founders suddenly surprised and then they are not part of the company why because of the projections wrong projections sometimes investors are sharp their sharks rather so they they actually see between guys they know you're claiming hair but your hair this is also good but because you're claiming hair I go with this and if you don't reach there I'll change my shareholding proportionate and and that's something which you have to be realistic you need to be realistic you need to really see what you're offering and why if it doesn't happen there what are the circumstances you can get into absolutely the next question we have is how should we differentiate our offering from competitors in case our product or service is in itself unique if your product or service is unique then how you compare with competitors yeah so so fundamentally the answer is that so your competitor is like for example if I was smaller and pitching what would be my competitor my competitor was auto companies who were selling cars and people using buying cars and using or my competitor was regular taxi service both were actually my competition because I was in a mobility space I was helping people to go from one destination to another destination that's what my space so sometimes there are direct competition sometimes there are indirect competition right and and what they want to address is on one side they want people to not buy cars and use public community and much more I think and second side they want to be in discourage and so actually if you really ask me Ola made a pitch more for that my competition is people not buying cars anymore they should use me I'm more economical and much more safer and much more in comfort and somebody would drive me out and I would have maybe save more money so that was the big pitch and that's why the business became very very big otherwise they would have been another taxi company or any other mobility company which was other companies were there so because they chose a bigger competition and showed that this is better where you want to really make a big dent so you need to really see if your product is unique and the difference of what how people consume whatever they're consuming are going to shift to you and if you're able to demonstrate that shift then it is an interesting pitch right another question we have is is private investment network more useful than IITs or NITs investing in startups both are useful depending on where it needs to be done so if the question is that you need to also bring in the credibility of the investor investing in the plant I think yes absolutely people follow who has invested sometimes your business especially in the early days has no not so much a foundation and your bouquet of investors would really demonstrate I also know that some of the investors because they've done a good PR they are abusing this situation so they go and take equities for just sitting there and take very low investment cycle and then the entrepreneur would go and shout everywhere and say oh one of the co-founders of this company is my investor and because of him you will be able to attract other investors this is okay because there's some time work like a gate openers but a good genuine investor should not really do it just by your you have that your profile you should really go for and help these entrepreneurs to really require and help them to mentor to them he's bringing mentorship I can still understand but just bringing your marquee investor on board it doesn't really to me it's making a lot of sense because a lot of bad investments have happened in the last two three years particularly with the companies we are invested by these marquee investors right another question we have is how big should a team be to pitch to an investor for the initial funding round according to you sorry I just missed your point how big should the team be to pitch to an investor for the initial funding round team should be co-team I think if you can just be co-team and the co-founder and I think you need to take your own heavy lifting and founders are the main important you cannot hide behind the team you need to be in the front and you need to take responsibility and their critical areas like technology or other things you need to have some co-founders along with you who are also committed and being a part of the system for a very long period and I'll just probably take up the last question for the session it's a rather long one so the question is I have come across a couple of investors for my pitch they both have shared very different pitch formats and asked us to remake the presentation in the given formats now the format they have given states only one slide for multiple subjects like marketing strategy and capital justification we were ready with a separate presentation for that and now I'm not able to compile all of that in just one slide also they all have a common question for which we are not able to come up with the answer they are looking for the question is why should we not dislodge your position from the firm yeah sure so I think this is happens all the time where somebody would ask for what they would like to hear and what somebody else would like to hear and and this is a difficult proposition but there is also another thing what you want to tell so so while you try to accommodate what they want to hear but you need to really go out and tell your story and it has to be complete and I know a lot of times you get deviated because somebody wants to hear you something and and you stick to that part and don't tell the whole whole picture it's like somebody wants to really see one side of the painting and doesn't want to see the full painting it actually is to me wrong because he might presume that he moves the balance side of it and and wants to see only this part which is sometimes can offend somebody and say I told you only I want to see this but not this but truth is you want to be smart enough to really show the full painting so if you're not getting an opportunity to show that I can tell you without him making I think you will not get there so you need to really do that while time is fine if the argument is that he doesn't have time that he wants you to do all that one slide one slide when a person tells you is not that he cannot want to see second slide or third slide he has a limited window he wants to give you five minutes so you need to be smart enough that you want to use that five minutes creatively to show the full picture and picture is you business model and how he makes money three things if you're not giving these three things very clearly you who are you and why you are so important to this business at this moment at least and how do you get out of that and your position would be redundant as going over this is how you build enterprise that's a pretty point but at this stage you are critical and your business model and how you he's going to make money absolutely so lastly sir we have a few questions from people who are asking us about the process of business x helping such startups in creating their pitch decks or in helping them reach out to investors so anything you would like to add on to that business x is a platform designed for early stage businesses uh ideation stage businesses young entrepreneurs uh who are now looking to reach out to potential investors from helping them to create pitch decks or to create their IMS information memorandums to create their valuation uh to negotiate with the investors all that pieces are done by a business x it's a largest platform for early stage businesses business x is also a platform which encourages every three helps you to resell your businesses say you have a successful business and you want to now resell that business that also business x does uh so it's a it's a platform and if you have any particular queries or anything which you need to do I'll also put my email id and you all can reach me and obviously Sonali because she is the lead for business x and she will be also helping you to do that if I am at gm at coromaria.com thank you so much Gaurav sir for another wonderful session and and very patiently answering all our questions like always it was absolutely wonderful having you here anything you would like to say in the end only thing which I would say is that we have uh passed through the most difficult time in in our generation I think at least uh I would say uh in last about 47 48 years since I am I've not seen a situation like this uh this is past uh but uh good times are around the corner and if you really uh having a good idea in a business model this is your time to really hit out don't wait because you will miss out the opportunity what it present to you so this would be the next two quarters would be very very important and uh uh you need to not miss that opportunity so align yourself compose yourself and go out and there's a lot of investors out there who are looking to invest on your good idea absolutely thank you so much once again and thank you to all our attendees we really hope we were able to add some value to your life through this session and we'll see you next time we have this session every uh saturday at three o'clock so please tune in next saturday at three and uh thank you so much for once again


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