ther child so the you know reasons why kids weren't at school and the guard they had to note these things down which i thought was very interesting gives you a very uh to some extent some of that still happens now as well in term you know if you're from a farming background right okay um we just have to i know you've got things to get to us as do we but there's so much in here um so in terms of garden numbers um now compared to when the garden were formed where are we at because obviously it's a completely different country yeah well initially it was about four and a half thousand it's now up as my recent regular 2023 is 4157 and that will have to grow because the population of Ireland is growing so it's certainly a major change in role and the numbers and certainly a lot a lot of challenges in that you know and you mentioned earlier on GSOC which was set up in 2007 to investigate complaints and then you have the policing authority that was set up in 2016 through you know the strategy of the garden and planning going forward uh there's there's that as well and here we are in 2023 with the investigators being investigated themselves um the garden are different to know they're no different to any other institution and be lawyers be a teacher there are always can always will be people that overstep the mark and do wrong and very finally uh dr kelly before i let you go often when we talk about uh history we talk about how the public would would gather together in numbers and and that be a threat to government even in a violent way we'd never want to see a return to that i don't think most won't but the government was actually fearful uh that the people could be unhappy and could fight them back overthrow them change and whatever it might be is there a point in history where we lost that where we became complacent you know complacent complicit whereby we just stopped really even caring about some of the most big things uh in life like we've been chipped away when you think about it too a big flock of sheep not all people because i don't want to judge everyone in don't get me wrong but at what point along the history we were only talking a hundred years ago we're don't know about granddad's grandfathers and stuff at what point along the way did we lose the bottle that we just become servants or subservient well i think first of all and we it's not me to do with the garden is such they're just doing a job completely unrelated to sorry this is unrelated this is a completely separate christian based on a lot of conversations we had on various different elements of history over the years well i would say for one and i'm just maybe talking from my own personal experience we're so busy trying to live and pay bills get on with life children so on so forth that we don't have time at times to put energy into changing things and we're being forced to accept a lot of things in life because we don't have the energy or the time to try to fight these things but look it's coming to a point where people have to decide you know what it is they want and what's a priority for them and maybe we've realized that politics if politicians thought for a minute that votes would that votes would change things they wouldn't give us a vote i don't believe changing one party for another party for another party the system itself is the problem and we are all part of the system just think of this for one minute 80 people own more money than half the population of the world imagine that half of the population were to rise out tomorrow morning those 80 wouldn't be able to control it if we were to divide all the money of the world equally everybody be a millionaire but we've become complacent we've become silent we've given away our desire to fight for a better world a better country and i don't know where we got complacent along that way and maybe what we need maybe what we need is someone maybe one person you know shameless he needs a lovely poem and one of our presidents may robinson use it when she became president history says don't hope on this side of the grave but then once in a lifetime that tidal wave of justice can rise and hope and history rhyme maybe once in life maybe within our lifetime someone will come along and lead people and say we deserve a better world a better country a better government a better system and people buy into that and maybe that would be the beginning of the change but until such time unfortunately that we get a leader like that we're going to be where we are because we're too busy trying to live life and we need to have someone that we can trust that's on us that's clear and so maybe i don't know where we become complacent or how we became complacent i do trust people i genuinely do believe and here in dunny gall we voted no to a lot of referendum we don't put up with it here in dunny gall and we fight we've always had that fight and spread and maybe at a national level housing health everything else i don't know how we're going to solve it we all know there's a problem but we mustn't lose hope we mustn't lose hope we can't change it it's our country and we can fight for a better country for our children at all times yeah till we get to a point where we're actually living in non-existing because sometimes it feels like it's an existence and you get a level of contentment to exist but are you truly living are you truly happy i don't know uh dr joe kelly sorry for throwing that one at you at the end i really appreciate it but i wanted to get your view on it have a lovely day take care of yourself okay we've now break to catch up on so we'll be back with you in about four and a half minutes and they're shortly thereafter answering your relationship questions the night till noon show is brought to you by letter kenny credit union with monster loans available up to 60 000 euro for all occasions visit letter kennycu.ie following on from their triumphant version of translations ireland's 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on to the nine tall noon show psychotherapist author and coach keely uh taverna good morning to you keely how are you keeping all is well how are you saying everything's going okay uh but we've got tons of questions in today i don't know if it's the time of the year or what's going on so we might crack on if that's all right keely um a caller says hi greg i feel like i can't talk to my partner about anything whether it's my job our relationship he just talks non-stop about himself what can i do to make him listen you can highlight what you notice is one really good way if you notice that the conversation always tends to be one way or continues to be about that individual highlighting this issue can be particularly important but also we can also interject as well and try to flip the conversation so it becomes two way and then just pay attention if it tends to always come back to that individual because that's quite important to pay attention to because on a bigger scale it may mean that when you try to articulate your needs or you want somebody that person to be attentive to what is going on for you that can become problematic uh like you can get into that quite quickly can't you whereby it's like you know uh going from being supportive how are you i'm good how are you i'm good too i feel terrible will you feel terrible i feel terrible what happens there uh what's happening there at that point well well sometimes it like i said it means that the conversation will always be about that individual when you end up becoming quite thirsty for attention for some focus upon you and no matter how much times you bring up something about yourself or want to talk about yourself for whatever reason sometimes that person may not be interested and we have to be careful with this because sometimes we can set ourselves up for challenges yeah i recently moved in with my partner and all he ever talks about is how much housework he does the problem is is it's not it's in front of other people and this person says it's like he's belittling me in front of our friends and maybe he thinks he's involved in a bit of banter or something i don't know uh but it's putting this person out what's your advice to them well that word banter can sometimes actually hold a lot of issues that somebody is holding within so what i would suggest is it can be helpful to have that conversation away from people just say again i've noticed you tend to you know is there anything do you feel frustrated about the housework that you do have the conversation in a way from being with people but when you sense it the person might be open so that it doesn't become a conflict it just becomes an aspect for a discussion yeah i guess and you can obviously you can share that you find uncomfortable and this seems to happen quite frequently and you know if they are do have frustrations resentment is there something that we need to talk about is there things that you would rather that i do to to to be adult and mature about about it another caller says we've reached a place in our relationship now where we're very boring we never go out anymore it's just sitting at home watching tv and having takeaways now the problem is is one of them might think this is just the best life ever but anyway the person contacting us says how can i get him back to a place where we have date nights that we dress up and we we go out date nights out of the house well i think sometimes we need to be what we desire so if that's something that you desire maybe that's something that you could create that you would create that opportunity and in doing so then begin to have a conversation about that aspect of the relationship that actually it would be nice if we do schedule um days away weekends away even to do something different yes and whilst that person may well be comfortable um it's important to share that you you're becoming a little bit uncomfortable with the kind of mon deity of the sameness i think that's a really important aspect for us to take responsibility for um and encourage somebody the other person to also initiate so it might be this time this month i initiate then it's your turn so them to think outside of the box kitty i mean obviously it's quite understandable a lot of these conversations come back to conversation and we've touched on this before but there's new listeners and viewers all the time so let's go back on this again you know we share our lives with people that know us better than anyone else they know our ins and outs they see us in all our glory uh or whatever it might be but often you people sit down then beside them and something stews in them you know it's it can be a little trivial thing like this my girlfriend is a ring and a really annoying pet peeve how do i approach the subject without offending her and maybe you can answer that question as part of the broader question yet this person that is so close to us that we we feel we'll spend the rest of our lives with it seems we struggle from the questions that we get in here to to to touch on sometimes really quite basic things that are an annoyance or that might improve their what what is the problem with talking because you get couples down don't you as you as you talk it through with them uh and then of course the floodgates open in terms of everyone has an opinion then if you know what i mean in that sort of controlled environment but why does it why do we does it take us so so long to get things out into the open well i think sometimes what we're trying to do is we're trying to have um what we call it we call it when we're trying to have we smooth things over we don't want to make a mountain out of a molehill the challenge is this can often lead to resentment and bitterness and in the end can start to create a rift in the relationship and this is why there's much value in catching the small things and beginning to articulate but often not when sometimes it's not when it's happening because that can push the situation to become high conflict but actually in other situations bring bring up your irritation and sometimes you know there's relationship cards that you can also get to to initiate conversations about you know what are the things that you appreciate what don't you appreciate to begin that communication is is incredibly vital because a lack of communication is one of the most important factors that actually are problematic in relationships and then they're not just relationships like sexual relationships or partner relationships often it's about having a opening a line of conversation with a teenager for example or a sibling or or a parent isn't it i mean obviously i frame a lot of these questions as they come in because it could be one person going out with another but all the rules apply across all relationships i presume absolutely you got choose your battles as well yeah you know sometimes you have to choose your battles and you have to work with whether it's something you can also compromise some of us you know some things you have to look we have to learn to accept as a part of the individual because trying to change someone into something that they are not is not healthy it's not wise but where are you happy to compromise so you don't end up feeling like you sell yourself short because often the little things if we don't deal with those they manifest and we end up having big rouse about i don't know they're not leaving the toilet seat up but actually it's symbolic of something deeper and as a therapist i'm always trying to get to not it's not the situation is what principle lies underneath so it's easier for us to talk about the way on the seat and vent a little bit than it is to really talk about what might be triggering something trivial enough being annoying i'm not saying it's trifle but yeah okay i get you all right uh colis says my partner has history of cheating and even though they have never cheated on me i'm still struggling with trust issues how can i move past this to build a healthier relationship with my partner okay so the challenge is like you know the history that they have a history of cheating however you don't think that's the situation for yourself in your own relationship but this may be about your own insecurities and that is actually work for us to do independently what is it about trust in some what is it do you trust yourself is always the question i'm curious about do you lack trust in yourself so if we lack trust in ourselves we're often looking for our validation outside of ourselves trust issues can sometimes stem back to our attachment issues if we had parents who we couldn't trust would meet our basic needs it means that we then as an adult go into out into the world having lack of trust in ourselves which often can manifest itself into our intimate relationships i think that's definitely inner work to focus upon yeah but then there's external factors this person might have friends that are saying to them oh leford never changes their spots so whatever you know they could feel they're being chipped away from the outside as well um well absolutely but if they're you know we all have history if there isn't any evidence to suggest that somebody is lying to you or cheating on you and if you believe that and there's nothing about their behavior that you find suspicious you know the phone behavior is always interesting holding on to phones keeping phones hiding phones sometimes there's two phones it is not then that is actually your own stuff yeah okay they're not living in the they're not actually living in the past they're living in the partners past which is perhaps not very healthy at all yeah which can link to retro retro something jealousy the book i'm reading at the moment retrojective i i'm doing the word of just i know exactly what you're saying though you're getting jealous about a situation you're not really a part of as such yeah absolutely end up living in that space okay two more if you have time if that's okay my partner i come from different cultural backgrounds and our families just simply don't get along how do you navigate this issue to make things work i think it's very challenging when you look at uh let's just take megan and harry those cultural differences are particularly um profound and it's most definitely um a challenge you've also got class challenges cultures customs um that can also create um conflict can you have it all then are some problems too big to overcome sometimes it can be i think we have to be very it's one of the it's one of the reasons why in some cultures um that the the talk of you know having arranged marriages is about making sure people match in terms of class education and status and there is many benefits to that i think arranged marriage according to those those demographics and there's no two ways about it um that love does not conquer all and depending on what challenges do arise sometimes there's a benefit because sometimes when the two of you together it can be actually easier when it's the two of you but when you bring the family dynamics into the equation problems can arise i'll be i'll be interested in to to to know that kind of um the mix the different mix it's interesting you say because it's kind of like and i think what you've said there is is is really quite factual but these kind of conversations are quite difficult to have nowadays um because for fear of you know uh for fear of a backlash or being cancelled or something but we have to be able to talk about realities too don't we keely uh because this is people's lives and and and you know absolutely things have been established for reasons sometimes and not the necessary the terribly negative people reasons that you know people might try to attribute to them either exactly exactly it's one of the reasons why i believe it's really important to have culturally competent therapists so if you do go to a therapist that they're culturally competent so they understand how important those factors the cultural race class elements feature into the relationship because often if they're missed it can it can mean that there's a lack of depth in terms of getting getting the support and hey someone might say pack your bags move someone else move somewhere else and live your lives together but the bottom line is after a while those family connections start tugging and then other types of problems start and that's why it's so bloody complex well to be honest if you've married into a family say an asian family which come from a collective community it's very family based there is no i it's a we culture and if for example you've married a western or would tends to be i culture those are massive challenges yeah that can impact on the relationship and something that must be a paid attention to all right attention to keely one more if you don't mind can you ask keely what a non custodial parent should do if the other parent is uh alienating their children against them i.e bad mouthing them vilification lying breaching access agreements etc what would she say to her ex and child is there any way to stop this form of they call it child abuse i'm not questioning them but but other people might feel that words a bit a motive and the coercive control but not named in legislation in this country keely hence it's not recognized then by the likes of our child services mental health services so i think this person wants you to speak to the person who is bad mouthing them vilifying them and lying them lying to them and denying them access to their children so rather than them seeking advice i think they're sort of saying well what would you say to the person who they believe responsible for this type of action well for example if you're dealing with somebody he might have mentioned the word coercive control brings up the word narcissism which is an area i specialize in i think you have to be particularly mindful and i think having legal frameworks in place is incredibly important i'm also a massive advocate of the family visit app so that there is you know documented evidence that can also be of importance should there be a legal case but i think there's individual because people those people with those types of personalities do not take too well to being to being challenged and it can it can exacerbate the situation my encouragement would be to seek legal advice and get a legal framework in place so that there's crystal clarity about how the arrangements will take place and in regards to the child again i'm a massive advocate of of getting therapy for the child family therapy which can be complex when dealing with her the reality is it's it's a tricky situation and i think parents need to realize what what potentially if not inevitably their actions are going to mean not only for the child into the moment in the moment but how they function in society in relationships as adults but if you've got if you're dealing with a very difficult personality type yeah you're not going to get that rationale you're just not gonna and it's kind of feel like banging your head against the brick wall one of the benefits of putting a legal framework in place is that is solid and that is something that i really do encourage all right keely taverna thank you so much a psychotherapist author and coach how do people get more details on the work that you do because you do some of this work remotely and i think for a lot of people listening to this actually to be able to have access to services outside of the immediate area because you know we're a small country let alone a region there of it so keely how do people find out more about you and your work you can find me at keyforchange.com all right lovely stuff thanks so much as always apologies for some slight breakdowns in the line there but listen we got there in the end got most of it out okay back with more shortly watch 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the stardust fire which claimed 48 lives in dublin 42 years ago got underway this week and has been hearing emotional testimony which it will for the next number of weeks and of course given the the nature of of the of the inquest it's it's going to be right throughout it's antwinette thank you for joining us how are you feeling antwinette it must be just a massive range and mix of emotions for you it is and good morning to you Greg and thanks for having me on your radio show um it's a massive massive um week was it like you know the inquest being opened um it's like a week gone off my shoulders anyway that it's finally happened after 42 years a huge campaign like this is from day dot one 1981 right right now to this day we've campaigned for truth and justice and we wanted the answers and finally they're underway now and you know people like yourself able to attend this inquest but as you say it's been been campaigned for for so long and you can't help but think and and you particularly think of those that were campaigning for this but haven't lived to see it actually happening I mean it's heartbreaking when you think about it it is like um my my father John Keegan um he was they was called as the campaigner and from 1981 up to the day that he passed away which was December and 1986 and then my mother followed suit then she she began the campaigner and she saw half our life like looking for justice for our two beautiful daughters Mary and Martina and 46 other victims there's been a long row for her but like that she has said right that she'd never give up and to our dying that that she would continue and she passed away on the 14th of July 2020 and all she could ask her was when is the inquest starting yeah so she just was so determined right to get the truth out there for our loved ones right that died in the status and she wanted answers of why and how they died and just the the the life that your your mom led dealing with the loss of her two beautiful daughters as you say Mary and Martina having to try and and move forward caring for remaining siblings and people as well having to be strong in that regard and then having to find time to campaign so hard for something as simple it should be as simple as the truth to dedicate so much of her life her adult life particularly to that yeah what an what an amazing woman what a what a burden to at the same time she was and I had to say for such a small beautiful woman she was a trojan absolute trojan the strength that she portrayed right was absolutely fantastic I'd never I have to say I would never ever walk in my mother's shoes right because the strength and power that she had and she was a force against like the government that she would never give up and it's true my mother now that this is the input this inquest has opened because she fought so hard for her and I I honor I honor all my parents right for what they're doing right and it's it's been very very tough for all of us and like my brothers and sisters and even like the grandchildren because we've gone into a fourth generation now like I have a grandson and like he's only 12 and he knows all about it and my sister has a granddaughter and whole granddaughter knows all about it too like that's just how you own like that like they've grown up with it how um I mean obviously you're on the record to say that you hope that this inquest finds the truth being uh unlawful killing what what would that what would I don't want to jump the gun here but what would that mean because obviously it doesn't bring anyone back obviously it doesn't fix all the hurt uh but maybe it makes moving forward easier is that how you view it Antoinette if we were to arrive at that verdict yeah well like like we've lived in a very very dark place right from 1981 we had the inquest in 1982 and that inquest was basically a medical verdict we've never had a verdict and like you know to have a verdict a proper verdict on each victim that died right in the stairs right would be absolutely amazing right and where the day is common that we're looking and we're praying right that we've got the same as for Hillsborough got and bloody sunday got that's what we're hoping for because like the truth and the house come out and then the evidence from the witnesses and the experts is that this is the fourth time that it's ever being pulled out there in an inquest and it's a huge inquest right the biggest inquest in the history of the state so like it's going to take approximately six months right but we have enough time like with this time we want to get a gun right and we want the truth on public records yeah what happened to our loved ones yeah for sure and and the first part of this and this has been taken from other inquest is we are hearing about the 48 people that that passed away and we have family members or other appointees talking about their loved one is this is this difficult is it liberating is it important to get who they were on to the record what how does that this that part of this inquest playing to your emotions Antoinette I think it's absolutely fantastic because for 42 years they've been just what you call it a name and a number right and now we're putting the real life to them of like what their profile was who they were and what they had ambitions for what they succeeded in school and the hobbies that they had in the holidays we're actually putting a real human side to them that they are not just a face that they were real people and I think it's fantastic like where my sister Lorraine is doing my chain is next Thursday and my youngest brother he was on his tray at the time he's doing my other sister Mary and Penn Pottery next Thursday and then my my friend my very dear friend Eugene Kelly he passed away three months after my mother died and I honestly believe he died with broken heart because he was broken hearted when my mother passed away he was she was like a mother to him and he loved her and I'm going to do his brother Robert Kelly's although like I never really knew Robert's but I did through Eugene like he was like um Eugene and tell me all different stories about him over the years and I I think like you know even when I'm reading that Robert's I'm going to get upset because he was a young lad right I had ambitions and had his whole life ahead of him and he was taken to young just like all the victims were Antoinette we wish you all the the strength that you need to get through this next six months I'm sure you're going to attend as much as you can but it's uh it's it's going to be very difficult so we wish you as I say all the strength and I'm sure you have a wonderful family to support you and and and yes there are also supporting each other which is clear from your last comments and I truly hope that the the the proper verdict is found through this process and it gives some peace to all of those affected the hundreds and thousands of people directly affected by this going forward Antoinette and maybe we might speak again but for now thank you so much for chatting to us thank you very much all right take care Antoinette Keegan a Stardust campaigner um sister of um sister of Mary Martina who perished on that tragic night and as you're pre-deceased by her dad who was a one of the original campaigners and her powerful mother as well who took up the mantle um um was there all along of course but up until her uh passing as well and to all the other people who won't get to see uh who won't get to see uh the the outcome of this and as I say hopefully it is is the right outcome 42 years uh they've been waiting for this the 9 till noon show with letter Kenny credit union now offering mortgages from 40 000 to 600 000 euro with no hidden fees or transaction charges letter Kenny credit union 9102127 mockery demand farm transfer scheme for more in your farmer's journal is paul mooney young farmers call and t-shirt to incentivize farm succession plans 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conversation with Dr Joe an RIC inspector who was asked to form the garden his grandson lives in Dunlowe we're just not going to mention the name because I'm not sure you know if they would be happy with that but thank you very much for the text it is incredibly recent history too isn't it right Ronan Gallagher is a spokesperson for the Wee Greenway initiative good morning to you Ronan thank you very much for joining us hello Greg now you're highlighting a section of the Derry Bonkranagh in a shown greenway what's going on here or this is the this is the bridge end to Bonkranagh section isn't yes it is so I've I've been in touch with the council for a little bit of background this is a project that I championed from approximately 2013 2014 and I managed to persuade Donegal and Derry councils to look for funding to build the initial greenway and the council officials at the time you know through 2015 16 and 17 you know did a sterling job to secure EU funding for this and then I was subsequently employed on the project but since my employment has ended with Donegal County council it seems to have gone very very quiet with regard to the Donegal or the Derry Bonkranagh section of the initial greenway and and although the route corridor for that section was published over two and a half years ago so I've asked the council where are we with the plan to submit this route for to onboard Planola for planning but that has been thrown into disarray really if you begin from the outside because only this month the council have announced the preferred route corridor in Bridgend for the end 13 which is a four lane highway to bypass the village and the route will basically obliterate the route which was selected for the greenway so it has just the greenway has been brushed aside in favour of this four-lane road effectively that was actually going to be my next question because I was curious if that most recent announcement is so that means then can the greenway form part of this new project running alongside it for an example do we know if that's even in the offing well well it's an interesting question and if you look at the documentation on the on the on the project's website they have cross-sectional drawings showing you what the four lanes will look like but there is no there's no capacity there for cycling wow here we go again all right another major investment without any provision for walking or cycling yes and you know you may or may not know but every local authority signed up to the climate action charter in 2019 and it is now illegally binding under the climate act of 2021 and the subsequent climate action plan of 2023 we must reach net zero by 2050 and every local authority must be 50% energy efficient by 2030 and must have a 30% reduction in carbon emissions by that date as well so how does a four-lane highway in going around bridge and meet that type of those targets I don't see it in the first instance and what we also have here and we do have a lack of leadership as well and that this is from our elected representatives and they seem to be unwilling to defend measures that are in the public interest i want to come back to this with you at another time when we've got more time because i think this is quite significant but ronan do we know how much money has been spent up until now trying to develop this bridge end boncran a section of the route because this sounds like money that's been flushed down the toilet if the preferred route for the n-13 runs along over the top of it and there's no provision for it in the plans and and that's that's a big question from my understanding and having worked on the project I would be confident in saying that over one million euro has been spent developing the and publishing the preferred route corridor for the dairy the boncran section of the initial greenway and that was a that includes staff that were employed including myself uh engineers the cooperation between gary and donnie gall the consultants the sub-consultants the the website work every aspect you know producing constraints reports producing multiple reports with regard to you know why this route has been chosen and all this was published over the last number of years but we are in an in we are in an information vacuum here because you quote a statement from the council on the 4th of april which suggests that uh they have issues around this have been resolved in a clear path forward has been identified but we're not privy to that so as i say it's a bit of an information vacuum here yes and i've i've i've gone back to the council and just asked uh the uh the council can they elaborate on this what does this entail so i'm still waiting for a response okay i think the people have been shown and the people of donnie gall in a in a wider context need to know what what is the path forward what is the clear as using the council's words the clear path forward what is it for the boncran at the dairy section get a car and use the four lanes i hope that's not it but anyway i'm being facetious there ronan we're going to make our inquiries with the council to answer some of the questions that you've also posed as well and maybe we could talk again uh to to see uh what level of satisfaction you have with their clarifications in that regard and and and we'll leave it at that and then chat again when we have more info what do you think that's great great all right take care ronan no no saw pleasure ronan gala her there of the we greenway initiative as i will make uh some inquiries of our own have a lovely day thanks to neve who worked on the program assisting caroline or who researched and produced the show have a good chat yet nine that nine


57 In which the Pickwick Club is finally dissolved, and everything concluded to the satisfaction of everybody. For a whole week after the happy arrival of Mr. Winkle from Birmingham, Mr. Pickwick and Sam Weller were from home all day long, only returning just in time for dinner and then wearing an air of mystery and importance quite foreign to their natures. It was evident that very grave and eventful proceedings were on foot, but various surmises were afloat respecting their precise character. Some, among whom was Mr. Tubman, were disposed to think that Mr. Pickwick contemplated a matrimonial alliance, but this idea the ladies most strenuously repudiated. Others rather inclined to the belief that he had projected some distant tour and was at present occupied in effecting the preliminary arrangements, but this again was stoutly denied by Sam himself who had unequivocally stated, when cross-examined by Mary, that no new journeys were to be undertaken. At length, when the brains of the whole party had been wracked for six long days by unavailing speculation, it was unanimously resolved that Mr. Pickwick should be called upon to explain his conduct and to state distinctly why he had thus absented himself from the society of his admiring friends. With this view Mr. Whartle invited the full circle to dinner at the Adelphi, and the decanters having been thrice sent round open to the business.  Are you? said Mr. Pickwick. It is singular enough that I had intended to volunteer a full explanation this very day, so if you will give me another glass of wine I will satisfy your curiosity. The decanters passed from hand to hand with unwanted bristness, and Mr. Pickwick, looking round on the faces of his friends, with a cheerful smile, proceeded. All the changes that have taken place among us, said Mr. Pickwick, I mean the marriage that has taken place, and the marriage that will take place, with the changes they involve, rendered it necessary for me to think soberly and at once upon my future plans. I determined on retiring to some quiet, pretty neighborhood in the vicinity of London. I saw a house which exactly suited my fancy, I have taken it and furnished it. It is fully prepared for my reception, and I intend entering upon it at once, trusting that I may yet live to spend many quiet years in peaceful retirement, cheered through life by the society of my friends, and followed in death by their affectionate remembrance. Here Mr. Pickwick paused, and a loam murmur ran round the table. The house I have taken, said Mr. Pickwick, is it dullage. It has a large garden, and is situated in one of the most pleasant spots near London. It has been fitted up with every attention to substantial comfort, perhaps to a little elegance besides. But of that you shall judge for yourselves. Sam accompanies me there. I have engaged on Perker's representation a housekeeper, a very old one, and such other servants as she thinks I shall require. I propose to consecrate this little retreat by having a ceremony in which I take a great interest performed there. I wish, if my friend Wardle entertains no objection, that his daughter should be married from my new house on the day I take possession of it. The happiness of young people, said Mr. Pickwick, a little moved, has ever been the chief pleasure of my life. It will warm my heart to witness the happiness of those friends who are dearest to me beneath my own roof. Mr. Pickwick paused again, Emily and Arabella sobbed audibly. I have communicated both personally and by letter with the club, resumed Mr. Pickwick, acquainting them with my intention. During our long absence it has suffered much from internal dissensions, and the withdrawal of my name, coupled with this and other circumstances, has occasioned its dissolution. The Pickwick Club exists no longer. I shall never regret, said Mr. Pickwick, in a low voice. I shall never regret having devoted the greater part of two years to mixing with different varieties and shades of human character, frivolous as my pursuit of novelty may have appeared to many. Probably the whole of my previous life having been devoted to business and the pursuit of wealth, numerous scenes of which I had no previous conception have dawned upon me, I hope to the enlargement of my mind and the improvement of my understanding. If I have done but little good, I trust I have done less harm, and that none of my adventures will be other than a source of amusing and pleasant recollection to me in the decline of life. God bless you all.  There were few preparatory arrangements to be made for the marriage of Mr. Snodgrass. As he had neither father nor mother, and had been in his minority award of Mr. Pickwick's, that gentleman was perfectly well acquainted with his possessions and prospects. His account of both was quite satisfactory to Whartle, as almost any other account would have been for the good old gentleman was overflowing with hilarity and kindness, and a handsome portion having been bestowed upon Emily, the marriage was fixed to take place on the fourth day from that time, the suddenness of which preparations reduced three dress-makers and a tailor to the extreme verge of insanity. Getting post-horses to the carriage, old Whartle started off next day to bring his mother back to town, communicating his intelligence to the old lady with characteristic impetuosity she instantly fainted away. But being promptly revived, ordered the brocaded silk gown to be packed up forthwith, and proceeded to relate some circumstances of a similar nature, attending the marriage of the eldest daughter of Lady Ptolemglauer, deceased, which occupied three hours in the recital and were not half finished at last. Mrs. Trundle had to be informed of all the mighty preparations that were making in London, and being in a delicate state of health was informed thereof through Mr. Trundle lest the news should be too much for her. But it was not too much for her, in as much as she at once wrote off to Muggleton to order a new cap and a black satin gown, and moreover avowed her determination of being present at the ceremony. Hereupon Mr. Trundle called in the doctor, and the doctor said Mrs. Trundle ought to know best how she felt herself, to which Mrs. Trundle replied that she felt herself quite equal to it, and that she had made up her mind to go, upon which the doctor, who was a wise and discreet doctor, and knew what was good for himself, as well as for other people, said that perhaps if Mrs. Trundle stopped at home, she might hurt herself more by fretting than by going. So perhaps she had better go. And she did go. The doctor, with great attention, sending in half a dozen of medicine to be drunk upon the road. In addition to these points of distraction, Wardle was entrusted with two small letters to two small young ladies who were to act as bridesmaids, upon the receipt of which the two young ladies were driven to despair by having no things ready for so important an occasion, and no time to make them in. A circumstance which appeared to afford the two worthy papas of the two small young ladies rather a feeling of satisfaction than otherwise. However, old frocks were trimmed and new bonnets made, and the young ladies looked as well as could possibly have been expected of them. And as they cried at the subsequent ceremony in the proper places, and trembled at the right times, they acquitted themselves to the admiration of all beholders. How the two poor relations ever reached London, whether they walked or got behind coaches or procured lifts and wagons or carried each other by churns is uncertain, but there they were, before Wardle, and the very first people that knocked at the door of Mr. Pickwick's house on the bridal morning were the two poor relations all smiles and shirt collar. They were welcomed heartily, though, for riches or poverty had no influence on Mr. Pickwick. The new servants were all alacrity and readiness. Sam was in a most unrivaled state of high spirits and excitement. Mary was glowing with beauty and smart ribbons. The bridegroom, who had been staying at the house for two or three days previous, sallied forth gallantly to Dulloch Church to meet the bride, attended by Mr. Pickwick, Ben Allen, Bob Sawyer, and Mr. Tubman, with Sam Weller outside, having at his buttonhole a white favour, the gift of his lady love, and clad in a new and gorgeous suit of livery invented for the occasion. They were met by the Wardles and the Winkles, and the bride and bridesmaids, and the trundles, and the ceremony having been performed, the coaches rattled back to Mr. Pickwick's to breakfast, where little Mr. Perker already awaited them. Here all the light clouds of the more solemn part of the proceedings passed away. Every face shone forth joyously, and nothing was to be heard, but congratulations and commendations. Everything was so beautiful. The lawn in front, the garden behind, the miniature conservatory, the dining room, the drawing room, the bedrooms, the smoking room, and above all the study, with its pictures and easy chairs and odd cabinets and queer tables and books out of number, with a large, cheerful window opening upon a pleasant lawn and commanding a pretty landscape, dotted here and there with little houses almost hidden by the trees. And then the curtains and the carpets and the chairs and the sofas. Everything was so beautiful, so compact, so neat, and in such exquisite taste, said everybody, that there really was no deciding what to admire most. And in the midst of all this stood Mr. Pickwick. His countenance lighted up with smiles, which the heart of no man, woman, or child could resist. Himself the happiest of the group, shaking hands over and over again with the same people, and when his own hands were not so employed, rubbing them with pleasure, turning round in a different direction at every fresh expression of gratification or curiosity, and inspiring everybody with his looks of gladness and delight. Breakfast is announced. Mr. Pickwick leads the old lady, who has been very eloquent on the subject of Lady Tollamglauer, to the top of a long table. Wardle takes the bottom. The friends arrange themselves on either side. One takes his station behind his master's chair. The laughter and talking cease. Mr. Pickwick, having said grace, pauses for an instant and looks round him. As he does so, the tears roll down his cheeks in the fullness of his joy. Let us leave our old friend in one of those moments of unmixed happiness, of which, if we seek them, there are ever some to cheer our transitory existence here. There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast. Some men, like bats or owls, have better eyes for the darkness than for the light. We, who have no such optical powers, are better pleased to take our last parting look at the visionary companions of many solitary hours when the brief sunshine of the world is blazing full upon them. It is the fate of most men who mingle with the world and attain even the prime of life to make many real friends and lose them in the course of nature. It is the fate of all authors or chroniclers to create imaginary friends and lose them in the course of art. Nor is this the full extent of their misfortunes, for they are required to furnish an account of them besides. In compliance with this custom, unquestionably a bad one, we subjoin a few biographical words in relation to the party at Mr. Pickwick's assembled. Mr. and Mrs. Winkle, being fully received into favor by the old gentleman, were shortly afterwards installed in a newly built house, not half a mile from Mr. Pickwick's. Mr. Winkle being engaged in the city as agent or town correspondent of his father, exchanged his old costume for the ordinary dress of Englishman, and presented all the external appearance of a civilized Christian ever afterwards. Mr. and Mrs. Snodgrass settled at Dingley-Dell, where they purchased and cultivated a small farm more for occupation than profit. Mr. Snodgrass, being occasionally abstracted in melancholy, is to this day reputed a great poet among his friends and acquaintance, although we do not find that he has ever written anything to encourage the belief. There are many celebrated characters, literary, philosophical, and otherwise, who hold a high reputation on a similar tenure. Mr. Tubman, when his friends married and Mr. Pickwick settled, took lodgings at Richmond, where he has ever since resided. He walks constantly on the terrace during the summer months, with a youthful and jaunty air which has rendered him the admiration of the numerous elderly ladies of single condition who reside in the vicinity, his never proposed again. Mr. Bob Sawyer, having previously passed through the Gazette, passed over to Bengal, accompanied by Mr. Benjamin Allen, both gentlemen having received surgical appointments from the East India Company. They each had the yellow fever fourteen times and then resolved to try a little abstinence, since which period they have been doing well. Mrs. Bardell let lodgings to many conversable single gentlemen with great profit, but never brought any more actions for breach of promise of marriage. Her attorneys, Messrs. Dodson and Fogg, continue in business from which they realize a large income and in which they are universally considered among the sharpest of the sharp. Sam Weller kept his word and remained unmarried for two years. The old housekeeper dying at the end of that time, Mr. Pickwick promoted Mary to the situation, on condition of her marrying Mr. Weller at once, which she did without a murmur. From the circumstance of two sturdy little boys having been repeatedly seen at the gate of the back garden, there is reason to suppose that Sam has some family. The elder Mr. Weller drove a coach for twelve months, but being afflicted with the gout was compelled to retire. The contents of the pocketbook had been so well invested for him, however, by Mr. Pickwick, that he had a handsome independence to retire on, upon which he still lives at an excellent public house near Shooters Hill, where he is quite reverenced as an oracle, boasting very much of his intimacy with Mr. Pickwick, and retaining a most unconquerable aversion to widows. Mr. Pickwick himself continued to reside in his new house, employing his leisure hours in arranging the memoranda which he afterwards presented to the secretary of the once famous club, or in hearing Sam Weller read aloud with such remarks as suggested themselves to his mind, which never failed to afford Mr. Pickwick great amusement. He was much troubled at first by the numerous applications made to him by Mr. Snodgrass, Mr. Winkle, and Mr. Trundle, to act as Godfather to their offspring, but he has become used to it now and officiates as a matter of course. He never had occasion to regret his bounty to Mr. Jingle, for both that person and Job Trotter became, in time, worthy members of society, although they have always steadily objected to return to the scenes of their old haunts and temptations. Mr. Pickwick is somewhat infirm now, but he retains all his former juvenility of spirit, and may still be frequently seen contemplating the pictures in the Dulloch Gallery, or enjoying a walk about the pleasant neighborhood on a fine day. He is known by all the poor people about, who never failed to take their hats off as he passes with great respect. The children idolize him, and so indeed does the whole neighborhood. Every year he repairs to a large family merrymaking at Mr. Wortles. On this, as on all other occasions, he is invariably attended by the faithful Sam, between whom in his master there exists a steady and reciprocal attachment which nothing but death will terminate. End of Chapter 57 End of the Pickwick Papers by Charles Dickens


They're best known for providing built-by views of sporting events, but today one of the good year airships is also getting scientists the perspective they need to study an important climate-related problem. Abort the Brent Columbia off the coast of Long Beach, California. Dr. Denise Higan from NASA's Jet Promotion Laboratory works with a sophisticated instrument called an infrared radiometer. The device measures ocean surface temperatures. Presently weather satellites equipped with similar sensors are used to measure heat radiated by the sea, but satellites don't detect these temperature signals until they have traveled through the Earth's atmosphere. Dr. Higan believes that water vapor in the air close to the ocean surface distorts these satellite readings. A better understanding of this problem will improve the prediction of climate change and global weather. The radiometer being used in the study, shown here at the NASA lab, being prepared for a blimp flight, is essentially a three-foot-tall infrared telescope. The device can detect a temperature change as small as two-thousandths of a degree. Dr. Higan explained. If you took a block of ice and threw it into your standard backyard-sized swimming pool and distributed the ice uniformly, it would cause a change in temperature of two-thousandths of a degree, and that's the precision of our instrument. A blimp is the ideal way to fly the radiometer because it moves slowly, can fly close to the surface, and is relatively vibration-free. During a measurement flight, a gold-plated mirror suspended outside the airship reflects the temperature signals into the instrument. The readings are taken at a range of altitudes, from two-hundred to three-thousand feet. While Dr. Higan works aboard the airship, other members of her team take ocean temperature readings from a boat below. A highly instrumented boy is departing an area where the blimp will ascend. These measurements are later compared with those gathered by the airborne radiometer. The final step is relating this information to that being transmitted back to Earth by the weather satellites. This is done at the Scripps Institution of Oceanography in Ohio, California. Although she's just in the early stages of her investigation, Dr. Higan's expectations are high. If we can improve our understanding of the mechanism that controls the behavior of water vapor and how it absorbs radiation at the surface, then I think we will have made our finest contribution. NASA's infrared radiometer studies, striving for greater accuracy in the way we look at our climate.


The pace of global vaccination is so glacial that I will probably be the first person to be inoculated post-mortem. And that would make me the first corpse immune to COVID-19. Now don't raise your hopes too high. Remember, necrophilia is still illegal in most jurisdictions. Welcome to the Saint-Vaknin Narcissism Horror Show. And today, a papuri, a smogas board, a collection of vignettes about psychopathy, new discoveries, about borderline, new insights, about narcissism, old faces.  My name is Saint-Vaknin. I'm the author of Malignan Self-Love, Narcissism Revisited, and a host of other books and e-books and DVDs and recordings, and you name it, about cluster B personality disorders. I also happen to be accidentally a professor of psychology in several universities around the globe. And so let's delve right in. And the first issue is the apparent switching or shifting between personalities in people with cluster B personality disorders. And honestly, not only with cluster B, I would say with personality disorders in general. People with personality disorders who are high-functioning are very disconcerting. They compartmentalize their promiscuous, antisocial, addictive, sadistic and defined behaviors. During the day, these people are competent professionals, diligent students, pillars of the community, responsible citizens and fathers or mothers, loving husbands or wives, and thriving entrepreneurs. Come evening, though. Come evening, as the sun sets, exactly like in vampire lore, the mask drops. The drink and the drugs are out, replete with dissolute reckless sex with virtual strangers, gambling, or any number of self-trashing and dysfunctional, even self-destructive behaviors. Reckless driving, for example. What baffles scholars, what confuses us, is that all these self-states are part of the personality. This is not faking. There is no faking involved. The switching is abrupt, but it's also seamless. Dissociation is often involved, but never to the point of rupturing continuous autobiographical memory and core identity, at least not in high-functioning individuals. Clickly, in desperation, called it the mask of sanity. He raised his hands, having worked in a mental institution for decades. He said, I don't understand these people. It's like they look sane, but it's a mask of sanity. Behind it, there's something that is deeply depraved and insane. It challenges everything we thought we knew about psychology and personality. Consider, for example, the borderline. Person, a man or woman, usually woman, diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, BPD. Recklessness and fantasy are both clinical features of borderline personality disorder. As a form of self-mutilation and self-trashing, borderline women often place themselves in harm's way with relative strangers. And so they end up ineluctably being defenseless and sexually assaulted. Having been raped, these women then use fantasy to fend off, to defend against the trauma and to resolve the cognitive dissonance. So these women are likely to say, I initiated the sex, I wanted the sex, I found him attractive, or I thought we could have a relationship after that. This is a way to square the circle, to live, to coexist with the realization of having been raped, having placed yourself in a situation which inevitably leads to rape. And the thing is that they keep doing this. They keep coming back for more. To prove the point, these women may even meet and have sex with the attacker again. And they definitely keep creating and gendering engineering situations where the same is going to happen. So most borderline women are victims of multiple sexual assaults and rapes. All of them eerily familiar, eerily familiar settings, eerily familiar proceeding behaviors. It's creating this repetition compulsion. Fantasy characterizes the borderline's intimate relationship as well. So the borderline doesn't only fantasize in order to resolve some dissonance or to somehow ameliorate anxiety, but she fantasizes as a way of life. Watch my previous video about the fantasy life of the borderline.  I would add to this her grandiosity. As reality intrudes on the fantasy, which the borderline finds intolerable and anxiety-inducing, borderline hates reality with a vengeance. So when reality breaches the fantasy, when it challenges and undermines the fantasy, the borderline can't tolerate it. It's unbearable to her. And so she begins to devalue the partner. She begins to act out egregiously. The resulting deterioration in the quality of the bond justifies and legitimizes bouts of cheating on the partner and reckless self-trashing on the way to a new man with a new fantasy. Generally, these kind of behaviors are known as reactants. The reactants in personality disorders often masquerades as boundaries. The psychopaths' defiance and consumatiousness, hatred of authority, for example, they can be easily mistaken that way. They can be easily misconceived and misperceived as boundaries. But true personal boundaries are endogenous. They come from inside. The true personal boundaries are proactive. In other words, true personal boundaries are not triggered by the environment. They are immutable certainties. They are given. They emanate from a healthy and stable sense of self-worth. True personal boundaries are forms of internalized self-defense. Fake boundaries are reactive to events and reactive to people. They are hair-triggered by events and people and circumstances. Fake boundaries are inconstant. Their content shifts all the time. They do not reflect any inner reality, any processes, anything stable. They are forms of externalized aggression. And this leads me to recent discoveries about psychopathy. You see, we have this stereotype of psychopaths as fearless people. People who experience no fear. People who are able to be ruthless and callous and cruel and aggressive. Defiant and reckless and so on. They don't foresee the consequences of their actions. And if they do, they don't care. They are fearless. Recent studies are teaching us something completely different. It seems that psychopathy is an anxiety disorder. I had written about it many years ago. Suggesting that psychopathy is actually anxiety disorder. And this is why borderlines, when they are exposed to abandonment anxiety, become psychopaths, secondary psychopaths. Psychopathy is a reaction to anxiety. In the case of the borderline, psychopathy is a reaction to abandonment anxiety, separation anxiety. But in the case of other people, psychopathy is a reaction to generalized anxiety or specific anxiety. There are many articles about this. One article, for example, which I chose honestly pretty randomly, is Psychopaths show enhanced amygdala activation during fear conditioning. It was authored by Douglas Schultz, Nicholas Baldurstone, Arielle Baskin-Somers, Christine Larson and friend Helmsetter. These names should be outlawed. Okay, and here is the abstract. Primary psychopaths exhibited a pattern of activity in the dorsal and ventral ACC, consistent with enhanced fear expression. That's primary psychopaths. It's not actually that they have no fear. They have too much fear. They have anxiety. While secondary psychopaths exhibited a pattern of activity in these regions, consistent with fear inhibition. We got it completely backwards. Primary psychopaths cope with fear via anxiety. Secondary psychopaths inhibit the fear. These results say the authors contradict the low fear model of psychopathy and suggest that the low fear observed for psychopaths in previous studies may be specific actually to secondary psychopaths. Okay, so we're beginning to see the confluence and the convergence between borderline psychopathy as anxiety reactions. In the case of the borderline, of course, the anxiety reaction is post-traumatic, very similar to the narcissist. But psychopaths cope with anxiety, unlike narcissists and unlike borderlines because psychopaths are constitutionally different. First of all, there is ground to believe that psychopaths have abnormalities of the brain and that there is an element of a genetic, hereditary component in psychopathy. So I want to find something to read to you that I had written long ago. Let me see if I can find it.  But long ago I had suggested that psychopaths are actually, psychopathy is actually a form of anxiety. I had written this in the year 2000. The anxious psychopaths. Psychopaths are said to be fearless and selfless, nonchalant. Their pain tolerance is very high. Still contrary to popular perceptions and psychiatric orthodoxy, some psychopaths are actually anxious and fearful. Their psychopathy is a defense against an underlying and oppervasive anxiety, either hereditary or brought on by early childhood abuse. Psychopaths nurture and cultivate an image of themselves as free-spirited, daring, nonconformist geniuses who are grievously misunderstood and mistreated by lily-pushion society and its mindless cohorts. This grandiose and romantic self-narrative legitimizes three classes of antisocial behaviors. Defiance, passive aggression, and reactance. I'm not going into it right now. So I've written this 20 years ago, 21 years ago, and only now the first studies are appearing that support this contention. I would like to read to you two comments made on YouTube by intelligent viewers. These rare species, extinct species. Two of them appeared mysteriously out of the woodwork and posted comments. And I was so dumbstruck and awestruck that I decided to read these comments, share them with you. Jenna Basil, B-A-S-S, sorry, I-L, read, wrote, My heart anguishes for you, Sam. I never wanted to believe that hardwiring was true. I'm beginning to understand. It is an abyss. The flat line was for too long. They are technically alive, she discusses narcissists. Narcissists are technically alive, but in a coma unaware of their state, sleepwalking through all their nightmares. Your attempts to break through and to help ultimately gets filtered and distorted through their confused subconscious and an integrated aura. If they could only wake, they would realize there is so much beautiful, meaningful life to be had. You mourn as deeply as that abyss for what could have been while they wither away, clinging to the tubes and wires of a mechanical life support machine that only affords them the very crude, tethered and degenerate form of survival that they have grown desperately dependent on. Beautifully written. If they could only wake up, they would be free of it. And truly live. I'd like to hope that, at the very least, some of our kind words and gestures do filter through and are received as genuine love and support, giving them a lull of peace from their perpetual haunts. It is quite something. A treasure of gold gleaming into the abyss. Stay golden, Sam. Another well-written comment by Pokerace4477. Don't try to dial at home. She or he writes, It is possible they intend to self-trash, not only to punish themselves for not gaining supply, but also to punish others, loved ones, the world or the world for not giving them the kind of supply they think they deserve. Don't you think there is an element of revenge? Martyrdom? Blaming? Escape from taking responsibility? Or getting narcissistically injured, shamed? Rebellion? A power play to have control over their failure? An experiment to see how low they can get and still thrive by extreme denial and ignoring of needs of theirs and of others? Loss of motivation and hopes from oneself to finally be free and independent of all the expectations and hopes that set up for themselves, which they can't live up to. Rupam Rupam. Yes, even intelligent viewers have unintelligent names. Rupam Rupam had written this. I do data and evidence-driven psychophysiological analysis of emotional health. This video is a gem, Sam. My observations are absolutely in line with that of what you stated in this video. I myself fall in the narcissistic spectrum side with continuous reality check as the means of keeping the trait below clinical level, subclinical. One, borderline and narcissism prevalence is higher in female and male, respectively. Both are compensatory mechanisms to deal with childhood trauma. Number two, trauma type, abusive father, beating mother, child, drug, alcohol abuse, aggression. Girl, borderline with victim, shared fantasy. Guy, narcissism with savior, guru father. So these are reactions to the trauma type, abusive father, beating mother. Another trauma type, golden child with silver spoon, parents loving but giving more materialistic love than time and heart. Girl reacts with borderline with two type fantasy, from obscurity. Guy reacts as with grandiosity, god, omnipotent, messiah, the world depends on him. Next trauma type, trauma type, triangulation. Parents give time and love, but the love is conditional. You come first in class, we will love you more. So the child works hard to get that love. They are compared with other children. Girl reaction, borderline with grandiosity and switch between a strict mother and a helpless daughter. At times, she will become motherly.  Guy reaction, passive aggressive, covert narcissists, unsecured, high on energy, high on anxiety. Virtue signaling, afraid to take accountability, no core, only stories and beliefs, very opinionated, experiences, no positive emotions, loves conflict, doubts people around, snooping is characteristic, feels low about self if he could not meet parents' expectations, feels high if he indeed met, had met parents' expectations. His shared fantasy is all about switching between strict father and helpless child.  Girl reaction, borderline with promiscuity but is violent from core, sees father as weak and so attracts rank narcissists as they appear strong and alpha. In her shared fantasy, this kind of woman is the Cleopatra of Julius Caesar. Guy reaction to this type of trauma, overt narcissists with no emotions, mostly hypersexual and BDSN types shared fantasy. They're strong men who own females. All the above are trauma bonding, very, very addictive relationships that hang on a thin thread of attention, adulation, admiration, availability and anxiety. All are unhealthy relationships where it is hard to get away and even if one partner does, the damage to the mind is never repaired because a child's mental development stops at the age of 12. Most of the characters and behaviors are not changeable. One can just manage the damage, no repair. Shared fantasy is just an easy but unhealthy way to get away from harsh reality. Behavioral psychology may well be thought of as a compensatory psychology of the child's psychology. That would take the diagnosis to root cause of trauma. Thereafter, rapid retraumatization or other such methods can be used for therapeutics. If not, at least power thread meaning framework, PTMF, can be used to explain the mind to a subject, in which case the subject can build better tools to deal with. I love this video, Sam. Keep enlightening us with your knowledge. Your wish is my command. Rupam, Rupam. Okay. Onward to the next subject. Christian pioneers said the Jew. And so the next subject is the narcissistic, anti-narcissistic masochists. You cannot wrap your hands, your heads around this. It confounded you. It confused you. It discombobulated you. It provoked personality disorders in many of you. Some of you emigrated.   We call it trauma. Let me help. I was not the one to invent the anti-narcissist, narcissist, masochistic suggested diagnosis or category. I mentioned some names, bolus, green. I mentioned them in the video. But I would like to read to you, except from a series of psychoanalysis dictionaries. Let's start with the first except about the narcissistic, masochistic character. So I'm reading from the dictionary. Described by Arnold Cooper, the late Arnold Cooper died last year. Described by Arnold Cooper in 1988. The narcissistic, masochistic type is characterized by, number one, pursuit of rejection or disappointment by others. Number two, drawing of secret pleasure from the predictability of rejection which is invariably greater than the predictability of love. Number three, obtaining secondary pleasure from exhibiting one's hurts and from self-pity. Number four, excessive harshness of super ego in a critic. Number five, a constant sense of envy. Number six, an unshakable conviction of being wronged. Number seven, a hypersensitive self-esteem alternating between grandiosity and humiliation. Now, this is pretty close to the covert narcissists. With a few important differences, the passive aggression, for example, is more extreme. The tendency to self-mutilate, self-harm, self-trash, self-defeat and self-destroy, much more pronounced in the masochistic narcissists than in the covert narcissists. I'm continuing from the dictionary. In some cases, the narcissistic features are more overt. In some others, the masochistic features are more overt. However, both features are sooner or later found in one and the same individual. The unconscious aim of such character organization is not a fantasied reunion with a loving and caring mother.  And there is something called the narcissistic masochistic position quoting from another, quoting from the dictionary. Noting the inherent contradiction in the proposition that the masochist feels pleasure in pain, for if it is pleasurable, where's the pain? Daniel Lagash, L-A-G-A-C-H-E in 1968 suggested that one needs to view the masochistic pleasure differently. Lagash said that the passive dependent submissive child must experience some satisfactions at being submitted to the beneficent omnipotence of the other. So, the passive dependent submissive child must experience some satisfactions at being submitted to the beneficent omnipotence of the other. And so, replaced pleasure in pain by a state of well-being by submission. Lagash's stance emphasizes that the essential component of masochism might not be suffering per se, but the position taken by the masochist in the masochistic relationship, the position of submission. Since this assures the masochist a sense of safety and well-being, it is appropriately called the narcissistic masochistic position. It's a selfish position. One last word about narcissistic neurosis. People ask me about neurosis and so on. Neurosis or originally psychoneurosis and then divided into two, action neurosis and so on. So, neurosis in general was a code word, a buzzword for psychological disorders which had no organic or bodily or somatic origin, whose etiology did not lead to an organ or abnormality functioning or biochemical, but was up in the air, was diseases of the mind, if you wish. Now we have something called neuroticism. Neuroticism is one of the five factors of personality together with agreeableness, reversion, etc. Neuroticism is not neurosis. People with neuroticism are more prone to psychotic disorders, for example. They have extremely high levels of anxiety. They react to stress and threats very badly. So neuroticism is a personality dimension or feature which is not the same as neurosis. Neurosis is simply another name for a group of disorders. And we don't use it anymore. Since 1980, we don't use neurosis anymore. It's an obsolete term. Today, what used to be neurosis, the family of neurosis, today is divided in three. Depressive illnesses, anxiety disorders and personality disorders. Put them together, you get the ancient neurosis. I'm reading from the dictionary. Term from the earliest days of psychoanalysis when neurosis were divided into actual neurosis and psycho neurosis. The former actual neurosis were caused by disturbances in contemporary sexual life. And the latter, psycho neurosis, by childhood conflicts and trauma. Psycho neurosis was divided into transference neurosis, Jung coined this term in 1907, where libido was displaceable and the possibility of developing transference existed. And narcissistic neurosis, where libido turned back to the ego and a clinically meaningful transference did not develop. Owing to its intensely self-centered nature, this condition was not amenable to psychoanalysis. In today's terms, the category of narcissistic neurosis would encompass severe narcissistic personalities, psychotic character and psychosis. Additionally, today we know that narcissists actually do not have an ego, functioning ego or a constellated self. So the libido is turned inwards, but it's turned inwards on the internal objects and introjects, not on any ego or anything. But this was the early days of psychoanalysis. Freud himself had changed his position multiple times until he died. So that's all for today, the Popuri of today. I hope you had fun and see you next time. 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