Ranger Bill, warrior of the woodland, struggling against extreme odds, traveling dangerous trails, showing rare courage in the face of disaster, in the air, on horseback or in a screaming squad car, his mind alert, already smile, unswerving, loyal to his mission, and all this in exchange for the satisfaction and pride of a job well done. What's the trouble, Stumpy? I can see that. Won't talk about it? It's crazy, I guess. I passed by Pete Granville's place on the way here, and it kind of got... We haven't stopped in on Pete for a long time. For old fellow, he's spent almost relics from the Civil War. He's become a real full-fledged authority. I know. A number of the younger fellows have been over to his place to see his collection, and listen to him talk about it. They all say it's really something to see. I sometimes think the young ones got more sense than that older folks. What do you mean, Stumpy? Poor old Pete's been trying to interest a lot of folks in the stuff he's collected. He's been writing to folks in museums and places like that for years. And no one is interested, huh? They're all just too busy to be bothered. Most of them never even answer his letters. You have to admire the way Pete Granville is stuck to his Civil War rally collecting. People have been laughing at him for a long time for the way he's had to live, and that run-down place of his. Every cent he gets, he puts into some other thing I'm about from the Civil War. What with all the time and energy he's spent going after that stuff, he ain't even had a steady job for years. Just odds and ends, enough to get by on. Sometimes I wonder whether he really is getting by old timer. Well, I think what I saw today answers your question, Bill. Oh? Yep. There's a sign outside of Pete's place. Looks like he scribbled the thing himself. Well, what does the sign say? It says, uh, junk for sale. Junk? That's right. And what it looks like to me is that old Pete finally gave up on his collecting and is gonna sell a whole mess for junk. I can hardly believe it. Poor fella must be in bad shape to a thing like that. Imagine taking the work of a lifetime selling it for junk. Stumpy, I think you and I ought to pay Pete Granville a visit. Maybe there's more to this than meets the eye. Oh, Bill, Stumpy, it's more than good to see you. Thanks, Pete. Yes, sir. I can tell by the silence that this is more than a social visit. What's on your mind? Well, Pete, we were wondering about your sign out front. Oh, that. I happened to see it this morning and I'm away at the station. Couldn't believe my eyes. You can start believing him, Stumpy. Are you actually going to sell your collection of Civil War relics, Pete? Yep. Lock, stock and bell, I'm through. But, uh, well, what made you decide to do it? Well, look at it, Stumpy. You and me are about the same age, ain't we? If there was anybody but Bill here, I probably wouldn't admit it. But, uh, I reckon we are, Pete. And look at the difference in us. You're happy, active. You got the respect of the whole town. You don't go without meals except in the rarest of times. But me? Here I am, the only friends I got are the kids who come to see my Civil War things and to hear me talk about them. You sure do know the Civil War, Pete. Good that does me. Where can I use what I know? I used to have dreams of making my place into a fine historical museum. I'd have took folks on a tour through the things I've collected and maybe even dress in an old Civil War uniform. Sounds like a good idea. Sure, a fine idea. That's what everybody said. But there wasn't one person who thought it was a fine enough idea to put any money into it. Well, if I was to use my place, it'd need a whole lot of fixing up. You can see what kind of a shock I live in here. Would it take a lot of money, Pete? Well, how much is a lot? You know, I talked to a lot of men who had plenty and just as soon as I brought up the money, my good idea was thought to be just a scheme to get my place fixed up free.  That's right. Well, I guess nobody believes that they could be an old fellow like me who was interested enough in people learning more about history that he's willing to do anything about helping them. Well, I'm surprised that you'd get that kind of reaction from anyone in Naughty Pine, Pete. Everyone knows how you practically starved yourself and sacrificed just about everything for your collection. Well, you know, lots of folks seem to turn into a whole lot different people when there's money in it, Bill. You know that. I suppose I do, Pete. Well, after trying for years to interest almost anybody in my collection, I'm through. This collection of flags and guns and other things has made just one whole long miserable life for me. And it's turned me into just plain junk. And that's what I'm selling it for. Uh, what are you planning to do, Pete? Well, I don't know for certain. If I can collect enough for this stuff, maybe I'll go up to Central City and see if there's a night watchman's job or something to be had.  In Central City? Well, can't stay here, Bill. Everybody points and laughs at me as it is. Well, I ain't going nowhere where everybody's heard of Pete Granville and his foolishness.  Well, what does it matter what I think? I'm through. That's it. And I don't want to hear any more about it. Well, now you see you are. I'm depressed, Bill. I sure do, Old Timer. Which is though old Pete is serious about selling his collection of relics. There ought to be something we could do for him. I know exactly how you feel, Old Timer. But what could we do that he hasn't already tried? I know, uh, wait a- Idea? Why didn't I think of this before? Think of what? Of course, Pete has tried everything. Do you know what folks think of him? He said so himself. They all think he's just an old crackpot. Don't take a thinking, you think he says seriously. Now, maybe if one of us, maybe if an eye would go around to see some of the businessmen in town and talk to them about Pete's collection, they'd think more seriously about it. That's a possibility, Stumpy. How do we do her? Just can't sit back and let Pete throw away all them years of hard work? Well, something tells me that you'll have to work in a hurry. I have a feeling that he won't have any trouble at all talking a junk man into buying his whole collection. And soon. Stumpy, howdy, Mr. Fillmore. You, uh, wanted to see me? That's right. You look so serious. Usually when I see you, you have a new joke about banks. Uh, nothing to them. Well, as a matter of fact, I have come across another one, Mr. Fillmore. I didn't think you'd show up here unprepared. Tell it to me. Well, the picture shows this little man standing at the teller's window pointing a gun at the teller. Oh. And he's saying, uh, transfer all the money to my account. That's pretty good. Hey, I thought I'd try that myself just to see if it worked. Well, it wouldn't. What would you do if you had all the money in this bank in your account anyway? Well, one thing I'd set about to do would be to get Pete Granville, uh, going in a Civil War museum business. You'd want? You're kidding, of course. No, I'm not. Oh, Pete spent a good many years and a lot of energy collecting his relics. I think they ought to be made available for others to see. And you think the bank ought to finance this enterprise? No, I figure you're the logical place to ask. Stumbay, I pass right by his place every day. For the last couple of days, I've seen a sign outside his shack. It reads, Junk for Sale.  Stumbay, you have a big heart. Everyone knows that. Now I'm not surprised that you're making this appeal for your old friend, but sometimes it takes more than compassion to make things happen. I wouldn't have my bank a week if I went around financing everything that appeals to my sentiment. No, I'm sorry, Stumbay. I might just as well put it plainly. The bank is definitely not interested in throwing any money away in the direction of Pete Granville. We must maintain quiet in the library. No, Mr. Jenkins, those girls over there, may I help you with anything? I'd like to talk with you about something, Miss Marion, if you have a few minutes. Certainly. Let's go into my office. That way we won't disturb those who are trying to read. Yeah, won't take much of your time, ma'am. You don't have to whisper in here, Mr. Jenkins. Now, what was it that you wanted to see me about? Well, Miss Marion, to lay it on the line, I'd like to get you and the library interested in a display room of Civil War relics. Well, we already do have a small display along with the books which are coming out in the subject. I know. That's what made me think. You might be interested in seeing what Pete Granville had in his collection and then maybe putting together a real display. Has Mr. Granville tried to talk you into this? No, ma'am. I've seen his collection and I've got this notion all by myself. Well, this notion, as you call it, is not a new one. Mr. Granville himself has written me two or three letters proposing exactly the same thing. And you haven't taken them up on it? Mr. Jenkins, I want to show you Mr. Granville's letters. I saved them to use as illustrations when I teach an occasional class. Illustrations? Ah, here they are. Take a look at these letters, Mr. Jenkins. See? Barely readable. The words are misspelled and such a terrible grammar. Well, all Pete never had a whole lot of schooling. That's exactly the point, Mr. Jenkins. A man of his background in education trying to pass himself off as a, well, as an authority. What? It's almost laughable. But Pete is an authority, at least why he's on the Civil War he is. He's read almost everything he ever written and collected a lot of fine relics. Mr. Jenkins, are you an authority on the Civil War? Oh, no, ma'am. Then how do you know Mr. Granville is? Well, I... It takes an authority to know one, Mr. Jenkins. If the look of Mr. Granville's letters, and for that matter, the shack he lives in, is any indication of his scholarship, I'd say that he's nothing more than an old man who likes to tell stories to children. And that he's told these stories so long that he's begun to believe them himself. And as to the library, having anything to do with a man like that? Well, I hardly need to tell you, Mr. Jenkins, that we're not in the least interested. Come in, Mr. Brooks. It's nice of the Colonel to go out on a limb for me and talk you in coming. You're convinced that this gentleman's collection of Civil War relics has merit? Yes, sir. I've seen it. There's all usual stuff, guns, lanterns, even an old tent. And he's got lots of documents, papers, maps, few diaries. Well, the Central City Museum is always interested in really good relics. That's why I came. We get many offers of nothing more than junk throughout the course of a year. I hope this turns out to be something of value to our collection. Well, you can see for yourself soon. There's old Pete's place up ahead. I don't see it. Right up there. Surely you don't mean that tumbledown shack. Pete has spent all of his time, energy, and money on his relics, Mr. Brooks. Hope you won't let the looks of the place influence what you see inside. I don't know how I could help it, but I came all this distance. Might just as well go through with it. What's this? Junk for sale. Surely this is not referred to this fine collection I've come from Central City to see. I sure wish Pete had these things in fine display cases and the like. I'm afraid his home might make them look more like the much value. All right, you stumpy. Oh, howdy, Pete. Got a visitor for you. Oh, that's so. Who is he? This here is Mr. Brooks from the Central City Museum. You want to see your Civil War collection? He does. Oh, yes. That's what I came for. Well, let's get to it. Pollish these up, huh? That's right. Well, don't make them worth any more in my mind. I didn't polish them for you. I thought at one time I might display them for folks to look at. They'll get plenty of display and over at my junkyard. I got kids running through there all day looking through this stuff. All I can do to keep them from swiping everything in sight. Them boxes here got maps and charts and letters with plans for tax and other points of strategy. All these five boxes? That's right. All right, say they weigh about 20 pounds each. Uh, 100 pounds of waste paper and all this other stuff. Is this all of it right here? That's right. There's some very old pieces there. Real Civil War relics. Uh, junk. But historic. Ever hear of any new junk? Some of the stuff I clean out of people's attics makes this stuff look like last year. Uh, well, yeah, I think it's all worth. You had anybody else bid on this stuff? Bid? Never mind it. I'll give you a $15 for the whole pile. $15? $15 and I'll tow it all away myself. Well, I spend years. Most of accumulate for a long time. But $15 is... Look, mister, I ain't got all the equipment with you about prices. How much do you want for the pile? I never really give it much thought. Okay, okay. $20 and that's it. And at that price I'm running a big risk of losing money on the whole deal. $20? My life's wages. I ain't going no higher than $20. So don't think all them faces you're making will get me. Oh, all right. $20. Good. I'll be back here with a truck tomorrow morning. That's when I'll give you the $20. Now, I got to be running along, got a couple more places to call on. Boy, I never seen a guy so nutty about his own junk before. I help you? You the guy that called about the junk? That's right. Well, let's take a look at it. Right out here. This is the pile of it right here. Well, that's not so much. Maybe when you're used to seeing a lot of old paper and junk around, a pile like this doesn't seem like much. But to us it's just too much to be bothered with. I might be able to do something with this whole thing. A draw still works. And just barely. I'm afraid that filing cabinet has seen better days. Maybe, maybe. Well, I'll give you $5 for the whole pile. $5? You don't like the price? Well, I don't know whether I like it or not. Well, what's with people these days? Everybody thinks that their junk is worthless until I come around. Then suddenly, what they've been calling junk becomes some kind of undiscovered treasure. Well, I don't mean to tell you you're a business. You wouldn't be the only one.  He seemed to think it was a real value. But he was still selling it for junk. That wouldn't be Pete Granville's Civil War relics, would it? Yeah, I think the guy's name was Granville. Anyhow, he called that junk his relics. Well, I figured if a guy's gonna toss out a lot of old stuff and he calls the junk man, he ought to be glad for anything he can get.  You, uh, mind my asking, what, you're paying old Pete for his collection? Well, he made all kinds of sad faces and things. I ended up offering him a lot more than the stuff was worth. I'm giving him twenty dollars. Twenty? Twenty dollars for his life's work? What is this? You guys working together or something? That twenty bucks is a good, fair price. It's even generous. Now, I don't want to hear no more about it.  Yes, we do. Okay. I'll be around tomorrow morning with my truck. I'll pay you the twenty... I mean the five then. I'm getting out of here. Next thing I'll be giving money away or something. I can hardly believe it, Bill. Twenty dollars. It's hardly enough to go to Central City. Oh, old Pete must be feeling about as low as a man can. Let's well get to it. Wait, I thought... What's the matter? Nothing.   It'll take me about a half hour to load the truck. When you come back, I'll give you the twenty bucks. Maybe I will. Sure. Have a nice walk. You'll feel better. That's it. Here's your twenty bucks. I don't know you talked me out of it, but here you are. You got everything? Oh, I get fine. Well, I better be getting along. I got a lot more junk to pick up today before... Hey, what's that car doing?  Well, that looks like stumpy in there. I was all set to leave if you'll get that car out of... Central City. He wants your stuff for the museum. What? That's right, Mr. Granville. I went back to Central City and did some research in this area. I think we could use a great many of the items you've collected. I knew it! I knew it! Well, I just sold them to this fella. Well, maybe he'll sell them back to you. What's your price? I'm selling it today for a hundred dollars. What? A hundred dollars? I figure after hearing what this museum fella said, it's worth at least that. Nope. No sale. Forget it. On your way. But he can't. Well, you thought wrong. I hope you'll find some other way to get rid of this stuff. But, uh, don't you want it for the museum? We did, but, well, I... Well, uh, I'll make you a special offer. Seeing you come all the way from Central City and all that. Uh, fifty dollars for the whole thing. Forty? Oh, look! I gotta make something on the deal. I loaded it! A twenty-five. Sold. I didn't want to pay a hundred dollars if I could help. At that price, you could unload the truck yourselves. There'll be a truck from the museum here later in the day, Mr. Granville, to take your interesting collection back to Central City. However, there is one other matter. What's that? Well, I was very impressed as I was going through various research sources that how many facts you mentioned in passing the other day. And they were all true. You must have a wealth of knowledge about the Civil War and the various artifacts of the time. Pete here is in authority, Mr. Brooks. So I supposed. I mentioned this to the director, and he agreed that it might be a good idea. What is it? Would you be at all interested in employment with the museum? I mean, as a guide through the Civil War displays. A guide? I know it wouldn't be quite like having your own museum, but... Well, it would be even better. Would I be interested? Well, if you've spent your whole life looking for water, and then suddenly somebody showed you the ocean, and asked you if you'd like to jump in. Well, what would you say, Mr. Brooks? All boys and girls, I don't have to tell you that Pete is as happy as he can be over in the Central City Museum. He sacrificed a lot for his happiness, and a lot of people made fun of his belief and the rightness of what he was doing. And all those stories like Pete's don't always work out the way his did. There's one thing that you and I can be sure of. We have it on the authority of God's word, the Bible. And that's this. The fellow or girl who spends his or her whole life following Christ, no matter how much sacrificing or being laughed at it may take, that fellow or girl will one day enter into eternity as a child of God, loved of him, and into a life of never-ending pleasure. That'll be worth it all, don't you agree? Well, see you next week for more adventure with Ranger! Ranger Bill was produced in the radio studios of the Moody Bible Institute in Chicago.


Hi everyone, Sean with jaspyscasebrakes.com here doing 2020 five star two box pick your team number three where we're giving away two spots in tops transcendent random hit break number two hopefully coming up later on tonight or that close. So the way that we're doing this number one and two on the randomizer win a 399 spot in transcendent so we're gonna put that there spots three four five and six win twenty five dollars in break credit four five and six and tonight only on the fillers fifty dollars in break credit to the next three spots so seven eight and nine each get fifty dollars in break there you go so once we do the randomizer at the end of the break we're gonna copy and paste everybody's names in here top two spots transcendent three through six twenty five dollars break credit seven through nine fifty dollars in break credit there you go so first we have to do the break here is the customer list and their respective teams we did not sell the Diamondbacks because they do not have any hits and the Chicago White Sox are in a random number block but everybody else is spot straight up and Chicago White Sox here is the list for the random number block these names here do not apply in the randomizer for the break credit or for the or for the transcendent spots but good luck with the White Sox themselves as far as how to win the transcendent spots if you had two or more teams in this you qualified so how to be entered transcendent hundred dollars and the break credit give away by two or more teams in this break get entered to win no max entries two teams one entry four teams two entries six teams three entries etc we'll do this list at the end first let's do the break so we got four boxes left pick your team or four is in the store last two boxes will be for that break there we gotta figure out which two boxes we're gonna do we'll do left one or two or three right four five or six good six so these boxes on the left will be for pick your team number four which is in the store now and down to five teams left so let's get that done here's our finalists and random number block for the White Sox see the White Sox right up top one thing of biggings first up rookie Robelle Garcia for the Chicago Cubs and Ed Ayren's no numbering on that but Luis Robert rookie Otto Chicago White Sox and the random number block now let's see what it's numbered out of numbered out of ten three out of ten right there that's your best look number three on the randomizer Corey Moultrie Lou Bob rookie Otto on card out of ten congratulations that is a beauty okay there he is congrats dude that's incredible like I said chances had a louis robert rookie autos for 16 bucks congratulations dude that's unreal Pete Alonso for the Metropolitan's Aaron Pettit I mean when you when you say it out loud it's like that's not that's not such a bad idea I guess I can try Yoshi Tsutsugo rookie Otto for the Tampa Bay Rays and David Chan there you go those are our four autos and God what a nice break so let's go back to the randomizer and now let's give away spots for transcendent and some cash break credit so remember if you have two teams on the break once first off spot three Corey if you had two teams in the break you get random entered to win transcendent spots so we're gonna copy this list of customers into a fourth spreadsheet this one's getting a little bit busy and alphabetize it so Aaron Pettit with two spots gets one entry Alfonso Mendoza gets one Andy gets one David Chan gets one Dimitri with two spots or four gets two gets two Joshua Idlitz with eight gets four Mike gets one and Stephen Kendrick so we've got 14 names on the randomizer we're gonna randomize this list copy and paste it into this list here and whatever you're matched up with is what you get so from Stephen Kendrick back up to Aaron Pettit dice roll five and a two seven times good luck seventh and final time congratulations wow Joshua Idlitz seven times seven times Joshua Idlitz with two spots in transcendent some luck right there Dimitri 25 spot 25 bucks break credit and Aaron's 25 bucks break credit Aaron Pettit 25 bucks and break credit Joshua Idlitz also with $25 and break credit plus a $50 break credit spot and Aaron's with 50 and Alfonso Mendoza with 50 and since you got two break credit spots a 25 and a 50 your spots are gonna be combined $75 and break credit will be sent to you in one go and Joshua same thing $75 and break credit will be sent to you in one go Aaron Dimitri Alfonso you guys will get your break credit separately and to everybody else thank you very much for giving it a shot congratulations Joshua you have two spots in the upcoming random hit transcendent hopefully it can go tonight that was 20 25 star two bucks pick your team number three from Jaspys casebricks.com I'm Sean Jaspys casebricks.com thanks for hanging out see you next time


So, I've been teaching in the dating industry since 2005 and one of the things that I've discovered in all these years is that there are some lies that women tell themselves about men and relationships and dating that really are incredibly detrimental to their ability to get into the relationship they want. It prevents them from having happy relationships, it can eat away at their well-being and their happiness and their feelings of self-worth and self-esteem. And so today I'm going to be talking about six different lies that women tell themselves about men and relationships and you're going to want to hear about these and you want to make sure that you're not falling for any of these lies so that you can end up getting into the relationship you want. So my name is Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. If you really like my work, make sure that you end up joining our community. You can go to the foreverwomanformula.com, pick up my program there for free and join our community. It's really great. If you're interested in being loved and seen and cherished by a great man and a great relationship, it's a really great community. I suggest you join. So what are these lies that women are telling themselves about men and relationships? The first lie is I'm going to be the one who changes his mind, right? And so he doesn't want a relationship, he doesn't want marriage, he doesn't want kids and here's my suggestion. When a man tells you his values, believe him. When a man tells you who he is, believe him. When a man tells you what he wants, believe him. It's too often when I meet women who are trying to kind of prod and they're like, it's like they're chiseling away at a rock and they're just like, one of these days I'm going to get through and it's like, even if you do it'll end up, there'll be a whole bunch of resentment, it'll be a painful relationship. If he tells you that he doesn't want these things, believe him. And if it's a deal breaker for you, my suggestion is that you find another guy.  You have to change what kind of guy you're in a relationship with, otherwise you're going to experience a lot of pain.  Stop trying to fix and change men, it never ends well. So the second one is, if I can be the perfect woman for him, then he'll step up and want the relationship that I want. And so he seems like he's perfect except for one thing. He doesn't want the relationship you want. He gives you excuses but no matter how you fix or flip or change yourself into the perfect woman, you're never quite perfect enough. There's always more that you have to prove. And so here's the truth. The truth is that you're not right for each other. And he's only with you until he finds the right woman. And you being with him prevents you from finding the right guy. So you're stuck on him and you're unable to find the right guy because you're stuck on him because he doesn't want the same type of relationship that you want. Maybe he wants a casual relationship, maybe he wants something else. But finally, you give up and break up and then three months later he ends up getting engaged and married to somebody else. Why? Because you are never right to begin with. You're trying to open a door that's closed for you. You're putting a question mark where he put a period. Don't do that. Doesn't end well. Next one is hooking up with him will get me closer to his heart. So a lot of women think that physical intimacy with a guy will get to his heart. And to some extent that's actually true. You can kind of build a deeper connection with a guy by getting to his heart or by sleeping with him. But if you focus just on the physical connection with him, the focus of your relationship will end up being physical. And he might in the moment have all those amazing feelings while you guys are intimate with each other. But eventually you guys won't be intimate with each other and he will go back to normal and he'll be like, I don't even know what I was thinking. Because the way emotions work is that people express things in the moment of how they're feeling right then in the moment. You can't believe that that experience that he's having or that you're having is something that is going to continue to go on in the future. So you have to make sure that you're not just connecting through physical intimacy because that's not the way to a man's heart. The real way to a man's heart is by connecting through his emotions. If you go to a restaurant and you order a bean burrito, don't expect a steak. I'm not sure if that's a good... I wrote that down earlier and it made a lot of sense. Maybe that doesn't make any sense. But you need to connect with his heart through emotions. So your emotions connecting with your emotions and then connecting to him with your emotions, that's one of the best ways to do it. His emotions, I talked about this in some of my other videos and some of my programs where you ask him questions which elicit different types of emotions. That's another great way to do it or let physical intimacy be the cherry on the top, not the main focus of the relationship, not the main focus of the connection, right? You want the connection to be something deeper that's more satisfying and more satisfying more often. That way he's not just trying to connect with you physically because that's where all the emotion sparks up. You want him to be connecting with you in times when it's not physical. That way he doesn't slot you in his mind as this casual friend with benefits type of situation. And the next one is he says we're casual but I really think he sees me as something more. We get women like this all the time just so you know we do not recommend getting into casual friend with benefits situations in our community. We don't recommend sleeping around, we don't recommend any of that kind of stuff because what ends up happening is you get attached and he doesn't and you start falling for him and you start going oh I want something more and he's like eh you know and it's it's rare it does happen don't get me wrong it does happen sometimes but it's rare for a relationship to come from a friend with benefits casual situation. So my suggestion is you don't do that at all so he says I'm not his girlfriend but he sees me as more right he treats you as more you dream of it being as more you wish that it was more but it's not it isn't more he said you're just casual just having fun it's not a real relationship but he acts like it's more. So why would a guy do this right because he is getting his needs met he's getting all your milk while he waits for what he really wants because he doesn't believe that you are actually who he wants and you're not going to convince him of it and so he's getting all of his needs fulfilled or maybe he doesn't even want anything for real and so he's just buying his time and just enjoying what you guys have but he doesn't want to move it any further and so we've had women in our community who have been in casual friend with benefits situationships for 12 to 17 years thinking it was going to one day go somewhere but it didn't and so you can either change your expectations around what you want with him or you can get out of the situation. My suggestion is that you never get into the situation and if you're in it you get out of it immediately but whatever you do don't lie to yourself you'll only end up being resentful towards him possibly men all together and maybe even yourself as a result so don't do that. The next one is we're in a long distance relationship together and so here's the situation that I see very often which is you haven't met him yet you've been dating each other for months or possibly even years yet you have no real plans of meeting together or even if you do have plans for some reason it always falls apart and it can never really end up happening so you're totally emotionally invested in this man but he starts pulling away or he's got other things going on or he's not acting the way that you want him to why because you don't even really know him you don't know that much about him you don't know who he is and you don't know if he he is who he says he is and you don't even know if he's single you've never met him he could just be some guy sitting in a basement somewhere holding a rubber chicken trying to figure out how to get money from you because he's a scammer so my suggestion is that you stay away from these fantasy long distance relationships and instead you meet people that you actually end up meeting in real life and building a real connection with because the magic is in the meta and so my suggestion is that you stay away from these texting messaging relationships with people in faraway lands I know it can be dreamy I know it can be really amazing and feel great but it's not really going anywhere and so my suggestion is that you go and date other people and meet people close to you and never send anybody money because if anybody asks you for money ever just don't give it to him right he doesn't he doesn't really need it he probably doesn't need it even if he does need it he needs to figure it out for himself he's an adult he's a man and so he should be figuring that stuff out for himself and so if you get what we're talking about here say I get it in the chat if you don't get what I'm talking about or you have questions about what I'm talking about or you just have questions in general go ahead and ask them in the chat next one and the last one is if I do this for him I can convince him to love me and so you you have this guy and he's not quite loving you the way that you want him to love you so you are buying him gifts you're doing things for him you're cooking and cleaning up his stuff and planning his events and taking him out and treating him like you would want to be treated or treating him how you hear that all men want to be treated you're just giving him everything you're giving him everything of you and he is completely taking it for granted you are giving him wife privileges when you're when he's only your boyfriend or worse he's just a casual friend with benefits and nothing you ever do will be enough because his door isn't open just like what we talked about before don't put a question mark where someone else puts a period you need to go get my system if you're having this problem right go build abundance for yourself come from a position of power you know build your your your orbit your man orbit i'm calling it the man orbit so if you don't have my system go check it out it's at the foreverwomanformula.com you can go get it for free if you decide you want to stay a part of our community that's really awesome we have a great awesome community and we're going to be building some really awesome new cool things and putting it into the community pretty soon so get excited about all of that so if you have any questions about anything put them in the chat that's what i'm going to go over next i'm just going to go over what we just talked about real quick the six lies that women tell themselves about men in relationships one is i'm going to be the one who changes his mind no you're not two if i can be the perfect woman for him then you'll step up and want the relationship that i want but he won't three hooking up with him will get me closer to his heart but it doesn't four he says we're casual but i really think he sees me as something more but he doesn't five we're in a long distance relationship together but you're not and six if i do this for him i can convince him to love me i know you know some of it kind of sounds kind of silly or whatever but it's these are really serious situations and i've seen women get into you know situations for years and it's just painful it's painful to hear some of this stuff from the women in our community it's painful to see it so just try to stay out of these lies right and if you catch yourself in one of these just try to get yourself out my suggestion is that you get in our community and you ask questions in our community because that's where women will help pull you out of whatever situation you're in because they'll be like hey there's a huge red flag there check it out you need to make sure that you're getting out of it and you're not in it so all right next i am going to see what kind of questions we have lots of happy new years just in case you're wondering we're doing this on New Years Eve so Irene says hey Matthew thanks for all your advice you are absolutely welcome thank you for being here and being a part of our community i really appreciate it we have the best women we have the most attractive women we have the coolest women we have the most awesomest women in our community best women in the world are a part of our community Michelle says Matt hello from Toronto you are looking so handsome tonight well thank you Patricia says what does he want then what if he doesn't say what he wants well you need or doesn't know you need to ask him what he wants and if he doesn't know what he wants then leave him with his not knowing what he wants and say hey when you figure it out great let me know but i'm not going to sit around and wait for years or who knows how long decades possibly or however amount of time you don't want to wait any amount of time for him to figure it out you might look at him and think man this guy is amazing and awesome and whatever but if he's not looking at you and thinking pretty quickly because men's time one thing you need to know Patricia is that a man's timeline is is much different than a woman's timeline in a relationship men's timelines are pretty quick they know pretty quick and they move things pretty quickly once they know and they're usually they might have a little bit of a lag time because they're like well i want to make sure that you know this is the right woman for me but if you know but once once he figures that out after it's been a few months of him kind of dating you and getting to know you and seeing that you don't have any major red flags and that this is really awesome he's figured out in his mind already by and it's they've done studies on this by the six month mark he has figured out in his mind whether he wants what kind of a relationship he wants to have with you and so if it's been more than six months and he's telling you still that he doesn't know he's lying to you and if he's telling you he doesn't know anyway from the from the get-go it's kind of like okay you know we can if i were you that would be like a a red flag you know you can go and you can hang out with them and you can date them and you can talk to them but i wouldn't invest in him i wouldn't do anything where i was you know getting super emotionally connected or attached to him for instance i wouldn't be sleeping with him or anything like that because if he doesn't know what it is that he wants at all then you don't want to be sitting around hoping that he ends up deciding that he wants what it is that you want instead you want to find a guy who already knows what it is that he wants right and who's searching for it and is looking for it and um if if you find that kind of a guy it's a totally different experience because you'll he'll hear different things from him right he'll be like yeah this is what i want this is what we're going to do and you're just like wow awesome that's awesome right and you're used to dating these guys who don't know what they want or you've been in this relationship with this guy who's always confused all the time you know it's like get out of those situations that's that doesn't serve you it doesn't serve you to be in a situation with a guy like that so happy new year happy new year so michelle says is it okay to compromise sex appeal for attraction to intelligence first with this work long term i feel attracted to his intelligence more than physical attraction am i on the wrong path here well possibly so there there is emotional connection right and there's an emotional connection that happens with men and with women right so if you are hanging out with a guy and you like his intelligence and you like all that but you're not really physically attracted to him i mean you can kind of give it a little bit of time but you don't want to give it too much time because at some point you're gonna realize like either yes i'm okay with it and and i can still do it or no it's just i still feel icky just thinking about getting physically intimate with him and there's no way that i can do it and if you're in the first situation it's something that can happen and if you're in the second situation then it's it's just never gonna happen right so he has to do certain things to build his appeal to you and if he's not doing those things and and you're not feeling it even if he is doing those things or not or whatever then it's it's it's just not gonna happen and and it's it's difficult to kind of like you know force it to happen and eventually you're what's what usually happens because i've i've seen women do this all the time because they were like well you know uh you know i've been i'm used to doing this other thing where i'm going out with these super hot guys but they're you know just sleeping around and doing all these things and you know they are attention you know seekers and all that kind of stuff and and so they decide to go the other direction and sometimes they get into relationships that end up working because they they're in a situation and there's enough appeal to them emotionally that it works out and they and they feel good about it but if it's not there for you then you you can't force it you can't kind of make it happen and eventually you're going to feel like it's not enough for you and that it's just kind of gross and then there's going to be like it being physically intimate in a relationship is important right for long terms like it working long term and if it's not there there he's going to be frustrated you're going to be frustrated everybody's going to be frustrated and it's going to be this point where you're like okay i've known this from the beginning but i decided to try to give it a try but it's just not working for me and eventually you're going to end up breaking apart because of it so you have to you have to figure it out for yourself right and so just um you know where is he on that scale of interest for you so Wanda says Matthew you are spot on thanks for your insight and guidance you are welcome Patricia says some guys push to have sex early on yeah most guys do and that's normal and that's healthy right it's healthy that he wants that he sees you and he's physically attracted to you and he wants to hook up with you and that's totally normal right and it's also normal for you not to sleep around and decide hey you know i really like you and i'd love to do that at some point but i need a deeper connection and i'm just not ready for that yet and if he continues to kind of push your boundaries decide whether he's doing that in a spot of disrespect and something where you need to pull away completely or if he's doing that or or what it is right or if it's something that you can deal with and it's okay with you so you you just have to figure out for yourself what what works for you Patricia says i need to hear this at the moment i'm glad Irene says has any woman used your techniques on you yes i have had yes yes women have used my techniques on me before it's it's pretty funny and it's and it's cool too because you know one of the things that that you know i'm not embarrassed about my techniques and what i teach you know all of this stuff not only does it work but it's also really powerful amazing stuff right it's not like in my opinion it's not game playing it's just learning about human psychology and human behavior and human biology and using it in the best possible way and yes absolutely my tech my techniques have been used on me before Patricia says play the long game not short term pleasure exactly so Cassia says Matthew you are helping a lot happy new year i've i'm glad i've trusted you and bought the access to your program thanks a lot you're welcome i'm glad that you enjoy it and it's working for you so Maribeth says what if we were girlfriend boyfriend broke up after four months and been casual ever since can that go back to a relationship he asked me if i want relationship last night don't know how he feels so yeah it can and it's a it's very difficult it's a lot more difficult to do that right like you don't want to get slotted into the casual category and it's easier it's much easier for a guy to take you from kind of this boyfriend girlfriend to this casual than it is for him to take you from this casual to the boyfriend girlfriend and so my suggestion is that you pull back you you use the scarcity principle like i talk about in the forever woman program and you say and you let him know that you and you find out what it is that he wants before you end up getting physically intimate with him again that way you're not just wasting your time and you think that something's going somewhere and he doesn't think it's going somewhere and so you need to have a real conversation with him about it because it you know you don't want to end up being in a casual situation like i hear women sometimes and they're like oh yeah you know i'm good with the casual thing right now and usually they're good with the casual thing because they're scared right they're scared of something right they're scared of being hurt they're scared of the the actual intimacy they're scared of of what will happen if they say that they want something more they're they're they've been hurt in the past and they're scared to get hurt again and so most women in fact most people that i know don't really want the casual thing long term they want something real and my suggestion is that you stay out of casual situations especially with an x one of the things i talk about in my x-back program it's called restart your relationship and one of the things i talk about in there is that you shouldn't when you get back into a situation with your guy you shouldn't just jump in bed with him immediately you should build that emotional connection with him and you should make sure that you're not jumping in bed with him and getting slotted as a casual friend with benefits type of thing because a lot of guys will be happy just jumping back into that because there's less pressure they don't feel you know like they have to do as many things and which is actually really interesting from one standpoint right why do they feel like they have this freedom in the casual situation that they don't have in the relationship and if that's the way that he felt that's something that you also need to know because if he's feeling restricted and he's feeling like his freedom is being taken away in the relationship but in the casual thing it's so much more free and it's so much better and it's you know all these amazing things and and it's great then you need to figure out why in the relationship it felt like pressure to him and see if it has something to do with the expectations that you're placing on the relationship and on him and figuring out whether that's something that you can change and adjust or not because a lot of times what ends up happening is that people end up breaking up with each other because the expectations that they have on one another end up creating a lot of pain in the relationship because the expectations don't match the reality of what the relationship is and so you know you're you're bringing yourself to the relationship but you have these expectations and you're not meeting them and and so you guys are like fighting and there's arguments and there's like you know just um feelings of like you know why why is this happening why isn't this going where i want it to be and so they start people start feeling pressure in it and and it ends up hurting the relationship it ends up hurting the emotional connection that you have together when you are together which will end up destroying the relationship from its from the inside out if that ends up happening just because it creates a lot of negative emotions in the relationship i hope i answered your question maraveth so patricia says well the guy i've been talking to is keeping me at a distance he lives one hour away haven't met him yet after a month of talking and sometimes face time yep you know and just remember there's a lot of guys out there and this is this is true for women as well there's a lot of guys and a lot of women out there who just want to chat buddy online and so you know it's one of those things where sometimes the dream so there's some people and and i learned this kind of in personal development where i i went before i was teaching women i did a lot of passion coaching and i was helping people i was a motivational speaker and i went and spoke at a bunch of different places and and i would coach people on how to find their passions in life and figure out what they wanted to do and one of the things that i found was that a lot of people have a dream of what it is that they want to do but they don't go towards that dream because they're so addicted to having this dream that they don't even know what they would do if they got there right and so they don't make any moves towards doing it and they don't put any effort towards doing it because they they just want to keep that dream that that imagination that they're going after something and so you don't want to end up being that dream that a guy has that that this idealization of who you are and all that kind of stuff and like it can be ruined when two people end up meeting which is why it's important to have dates to meet and all that kind of stuff so you're not just like hanging out doing nothing or or whatever and never meeting each other jen says happy new year matt you look good well thank you i appreciate that poly says you are so on point well i appreciate that poly michelle says a happy new year to you may all your wishes come true in 2020 that is what i'm talking about i want all my wishes to come true too so thank you so much michelle i appreciate that handsom matt always stay true to us women around the world we crave for and welcome your advice you are spot on well thank you so much iran says system is amazing glad you think it's amazing patricia says he said he's afraid of rejection doesn't believe i like him that's why he's not sure about a meet-up well that just shows you that he's incredibly insecure and has a lot of issues that you're going to end up running into when you do meet up and my suggestion is that you don't put a lot of weight on him ever meeting you and if you do for him to have all kinds of insecurities and feeling like he's not good enough and all kinds of stuff like that which is going to end up coming up if it's already coming up and he's already talking about it you can pretty much guarantee that it's going to come up even more so jen says exactly you're talking about my past and hopefully it stays in the past hopefully it stays in the past jen so tina says can all this apply to married people i get that he has left me is this starting dating your man all over again well you do need to start dating your man all over again right because one of the things that i talk about in my restart your relationship program is that men don't want to get into the same relationship that they left right if he left you he left you for a reason and if he wants to get back it's because he misses some things that you guys had together but it's not he's not missing what he left he's missing some of the needs that he was getting fulfilled before he left and so you don't want to get back into the same relationship you need to fix what what was going on that created all the resentment and the desire to for him to leave and and come from a new space where he feels like he's getting into a new fresh start of a relationship that's completely different than the one that he had before but still fulfills all the needs that he was getting fulfilled before things got worse and worse and worse and eventually it got so painful that he ended up leaving so ashley says okay matt i've been single for close to two years this includes intimately no casual well good for you stay out of those casual relationships no guys ever talk to me in real life online has been a failure how do i get a guy when no one wants a date well you know so my question would be why does nobody want a date right like it's not just nobody wants a date right like what's going on like what are you saying like there's a lot of things like if somebody looks at your profile right so most places at least in america uh you know and in a lot of other countries if you're a guy and you put up an online profile basically nobody will ever message you ever right so you could leave it for weeks at a time and you'll go back to it unless you're a really handsome guy you're not going to get messaged at all right if you're most women and you put up a profile and you put up a picture and you put up a generic profile about who you are you will end up getting messages from men and so men will be interested in you and so if you're having failure after failure after failure it's because there's something that is going on that you're missing that's the problem and you need to look at what that is right and figure out why that's happening there's no way for me to tell you based on the information that you gave me because you didn't give me enough information to look at it i can't look at your online profile i can't look at you know what you're doing in real life and how you're dressing and how you present yourself and how you feel about yourself there's a lot of things missing here and so there's no way for me to know i was just watching this doctor phil episode where this woman was talking about how she keeps getting ghosted right and she she's like i've been on i've been ghosted eight times by eight men and you know they all have girlfriends and how do why do i keep meeting all these guys that have girlfriends and then dr phil like put up the messages that she was sending all these guys and it was like she was like you know it was like one conversation then she's like hey are you sure you don't have a girlfriend and he's like no i don't and then like you know a couple messages later are do you have a girlfriend now and and he's like i already answered this question she's like so do you or don't you you know and what they found was that she was doing this with every guy where she was like hey do you have a girlfriend no are you are you sure you don't have a girlfriend why don't you text me back are you seeing somebody else you know and it was like oh okay i see what's going on right so what was actually going on was that she was coming from a place of feeling either feeling like she wasn't good enough which is probably what it was right like these guys don't really like her that much and so they're off dating other people because if she was sure in herself she'd be like hey you know he might be seeing other people he might not doesn't matter because when once he starts getting around me he's going to start realizing that i'm an amazing person that that and you know fall in love with me and think i'm you know the most amazing woman that he's met in his life and and if he doesn't then oh well and he can go off in his life and do whatever he wants and that's fine right and if she's coming from a place of feeling like she's not really worthy not really deserving of the relationship that she wants she's going to start questioning that and being like yeah are you seeing somebody else like why are you seeing you know why haven't you messed with me back right and so she's probably got some pain from her past from you know emotional trauma from her childhood or something where you know maybe she was seeing or dating a guy before and he ended up breaking her heart and he ended up with some other woman or something who knows what ended up happening that kind of stuff happens all over the place these days on both sides the men and women and so she ended up linking that guys are probably off dating and seeing other people and so she created this fantasy in her mind that if he's not immediately responding he must have a girlfriend and he must really be fake and you know he's he's just pretending or he's just chatting with me because he wants multiple girls or whatever right and in reality you know and so she's like hey we're all the good men you know why why don't guys like me you know why you know why is every guy that i'm seeing you know why do they all have girlfriends and it's like none of those things you know the things that she's assuming about what's going on there none of them are true and they're just true for her in her mind because she's creating these situations where she's constantly being super aggressive and then freaking out right and she has really low standards because she doesn't value herself and as soon as a guy gives her any interest she's all over them but then she's constantly asking hey do you have his girlfriend are you seeing somebody else now you know and so she's totally sabotaging her own ability to get into a relationship and so i have no idea what your situation is actually but maybe that will help a little bit there there's something going on there that's off and i have no idea what it is you can only know what it is or somebody that would look at what it is that you're doing or somebody that you're interacting with would know what it was so sonny says it's so not funny it really hurts yeah absolutely Irene says one guy tried to tell me i'd sleep with him it would make him love me more and he wouldn't be so afraid yeah well run away from that dude as quickly as you can because you don't want to you don't want to deal with that that just sounds incredibly manipulative so sherry says my past is so sad well you know a lot of us have sad past right i have a sad past you know we all have sad most people have sad past most people are broken and you know that's that's uh that's just normal it's a part of life right and that's what allows us to become stronger and become bigger and better people is that we go through pain and then we grow as a result of it and if you're not growing as a result of it you need to look at how you can grow as a result of it so that you don't end up getting stuck in it sometimes we get women in our community who are just stuck in their own misery and it doesn't help them right you can either choose to create the life that you want to have or you can choose to be a victim and reactive and just respond to the life that exists for you and if you create the life that you want to have then you are in control and you make decisions obviously you can't control everything but there's a lot of things that you can control you can control how you feel you can control what you say you can control what you do you can control the way that you perceive the world you can control the way that you perceive your past and if you look at your past and you go man my past is really sad then it that's going to create a certain type of experience that you have in your life but if you look back at your past and you go you know my past had a lot of challenges to it but it taught me a lot it taught me how to value myself it taught me how to interact with people it taught me how to communicate it taught me to be a stronger and a better woman then you'll have a completely different experience of your life and so my suggestion is that you switch your perspective on what's going on or what has gone on in your life and you look at it as an opportunity to grow and you look at it from a standpoint of this all of this stuff that has happened to me or that i've experienced in my life has enabled me to become a stronger and a better woman who can go and create more of what i want in my life and you know has has taught me so many lessons so that maybe i can teach other people something or so that maybe i can support other people or maybe so that i can support myself in getting more of what i want so sarah says so what do we do what do you do about what join join my forever woman program the foreverwomanformula.com that's what you should do and follow the system that's in there because it's a great system it works it works on human psychology and human biology and it absolutely works so yes use that go there the foreverwomanformula.com it's great grace says best way to set boundaries about no early casual hookups so hard to do when i'm attracted to someone yeah so it depends on what it is that is happening right so usually most people come to me and they're like okay i want to set a boundary because something happened so you know you can set a boundary so if a guy makes a move on you right where he's wants where it means right there are certain things that mean that he's trying to hook up with you right like a guy books a hotel room and he wants you guys to stay at the hotel room right that means that he wants to hook up with you a guy asks you to come to his house any and every time that a guy asks you to come to his house just assume that he wants to hook up with you a guy wants to go back to your place just assume that he wants to hook up with you right anytime that he wants to get you in a spot where you could hook up just assume that he wants to hook up with you and the way that you interact with him with that right is you set a boundary and the boundary that you set the way that you set a boundary is you first tell him what it is that you want right and hopefully what it is that you want is something to do with him more, or if it's not, then what you need to do is say no. Because there's kind of a hard rejection and a soft rejection. And a hard rejection is like, no, I don't want any, I'm done, I'm not interested, get away from me. Right? And a soft rejection is like, I'm not quite ready for that yet. And so the way that a soft rejection boundary looks is you want to tell him what you want.  And so basically he's asking you for a booty call. And so what you need to say is something like, hey, that sounds like a lot of fun. I'd really love to do that sometime in the future. However, I'm, for the time being, I'd like to get to know you a little bit better so that I could feel more comfortable doing something like that sometime down the road. I need more connection and I need to feel like we're going towards the type of relationship and situation I want. And so how about we meet up sometime this week during the day? So basically you're saying what you want and then you're saying the boundary and then you're asking him if he can either agree to it or for some kind of alternative thing to what it is that he's asking about. So Patricia says we had talks about it, had plans to meet, but didn't because of timing issues on my part. Okay. Jen says, you're awesome. I change my system because of you. Well, I'm glad you changed your system because of me. Polly says, hey, Matthew, what do you think about Facebook friending a guy you think is cute but haven't formally met yet? We also go to the gym together. Well, I mean it's one of those things like do you go to the gym together or do you guys go to the gym and you're both going to the same gym, right? Like it's better to do things in, you can, you can do it. You can send him a Facebook friend request, there's nothing wrong with that. When a guy gets a Facebook friend request from a girl, he knows immediately that she's interested, right? And if he doesn't know that, he assumes that and he thinks in his mind she wants to hook up, right? And she's super interested. That's what a guy thinks when you make that move. And so you can do that. Just remember that he's going to think that you're really interested in him. And so he's going to either like you and want to do something with you or not. My suggestion is if you do that and you Facebook friend him, you just say, hi, you know, I just saw you and my friend friend. What are those things on the side? I don't even know what they are. It's like friends, possible friends or something like that. You know, I saw you in that and I remember that we, I saw you at the gym one time. So I thought I'd friend you and just leave it at that and allow him and then lean back and allow him to make any other moves if he wants to make any moves. And so you can do that. Just don't have any expectations about what happens next. So one of the things that guys, one of the things, if you want to know about like approaching and all that kind of stuff with guys, most women that guys approach, things go nowhere. Right? So the average guy, if he wants to get a girlfriend, he has to go out and approach at least a hundred women in order to get one girlfriend, right? Because somewhere around 80 of the women will completely reject him. And somewhere around 20 of the women will, you know, be open to something. And then, you know, actually going on dates, maybe 10 of them will actually go on a date with him. And then out of those 10 that he goes on a date with, one of them will actually be something where you both get along and everything goes well and you end up in a relationship together, right? So for a guy, he has to approach 100 women in order for this to happen, on average, right? So as a woman, those numbers are dramatically better, right? Your numbers are dramatically better as a woman approaching a guy, right? Like I think there was some, there was some study, I can't remember who did it, but they had guys go out and approach women and, you know, ask them if they wanted to hook up, right? And you know, virtually no women said yes to this. I think out of 100 it was like one or something like that.  And it was like, I think number three, like guy number three that said yes and the others were like, oh, hey, I'd love to, but you know, I'm, you know, busy right now or something like that. And so you have to remember that guys are more likely to be receptive to you than women are to a guy. But at the same time, you have to remember that it could go nowhere. And so I wouldn't get wrapped up in it happening because you send a friend request or whatever. And I wouldn't end up being, if I were you, I wouldn't be the masculine kind of force in this past the point of letting him know you're interested by sending him a friend request and letting him kind of pursue it and go after you if that's something that he's interested in because it'll, it's just a far better situation that way. So Kaysa says, I have a question, beginning is always easy to me. The worst part is after two or three months when I'm a bit involved, okay? Maybe more and he is taking things slowly. What would you advise? Cause that's difficult. My advice is that you lean back. My advice is that you follow my system. My advice is that you use abundance of connection, abundance of options. You use the scarcity principle that you create value for yourself. You use the polarity principle and that you build passion and stuff in the relationship. And then you lean back and allow him to pursue you and invest in you and start doing things. And if he takes it slowly, that's fine because you will have all of, all, everything will be in your court on your side of the court. I think the ball is in your court is the phrase. The ball will be in your court. So use the forever woman system. Go get it at theforeverwomanformula.com and lean back. That's my suggestion. So Amelia says, so if after two years and he only sees me once a week, it won't be more. Yes, I would be very concerned about it being more if it's been two years and he only wants to see you once a week. And I'd start questioning what's actually going on there because if it's been two years and you want to get married and he's not kind of pushing it towards that and you guys are seeing each other once a week, you know, I would be very concerned about that if I were you and I would be questioning how interested he really is in this being something more with you. So Kat says, I would like to hear your opinion about transitional relationship, please. I don't know what that means. What do you mean by a transitional relationship? Han says, you are the best Matthew. Thank you. I appreciate that. You've done it in so many ways. Well, I am happy that you feel that way. So thank you for being here. You are awesome. So Andalyn says, people with a good heart are always unlucky in a relationship. That's not true. That is not true at all. It's not true at all.  Go to the foreverwomanformula.com. If you want to get lucky in love and relationship and in love, go get my system and you will be amazed at how much more luck you end up getting. So in my experience, luck isn't something that just happens. Luck is something that we, is when preparation is when preparation enchants meet each other, right? If you're not putting yourself in the right situations and setting yourself up to be lucky, then you're not going to be nearly as lucky as other people will. And so my suggestion is that you go get my program at the foreverwomanformula.com and you start changing your belief system because believing that people with a good heart or always unlucky in a relationship will end up making you feel like you are always unlucky in a relationship. And so you need to change your beliefs. And I talk about that in the foreverwoman program. So you should go check that out. Didi says, Matt, you look so handsome. Thank you very much, Didi. I appreciate that. Leanne says, if a man is interested in a woman in the first two dates, he will still test us and try to get physically intimate straight away to qualify a woman. Or is that only intention from the beginning? Well yeah, it's still, so a guy is going to try to push things forward. Most guys will try to push things forward as quickly as possible because guys know that his best chance of getting whatever it is that he wants is by pushing things physical as quickly as humanly possible. That's just a fact. Just look at it at our community. If you join our community and you talk to some of the women in there and you look at some of the things that they're talking about, you will see that there's this huge group of women that decided that they wanted to get into casual friend with benefits situations. And what you also notice is that most of them are completely emotionally tied up with this dude, who they want to be boyfriend, girlfriend, they want to get married, they want all these things. Normally they wouldn't even have done it with this guy, but he was just so hot and they were just like, you know what, I don't even care right now, and so they just jumped into this thing. And then they find out that, and then they get attached to him and he never wanted it from the beginning. So they're chasing him and trying to convince this dude to get into a real relationship with him. And so sometimes it does work, right? And if he decides that it's going to work, it'll work usually, right, unless she ends up having more power in the situation and all that kind of stuff, but that's another thing altogether. So yeah, a guy's going to try to push for that. And it can be a test, right? So it's not fair. I'm not going to say it's fair. I'm not going to say it's fair. But if you sleep with a guy straight away, it's far more likely that even if he thought of you as the woman that he wanted something real with, he might end up slotting you in to the casual friend with benefits situation. And so you do not want to sleep with dudes early on. I mean, it's possible that it can work out, but you don't want to bank on it. So Vanessa says, me, I'm not lucky in a relationship. Well, you can change all that around, Vanessa. Whoa, you can change it around. Just go to the foreverwomanformula.com. Watch the video there. Join our community. Polly says, X is an X for a reason. Yeah, that's true. So Laura says, Happy New Year. Love these laugh chats. I'm glad you like them because I like them too. Lan says, totally agree. The key is learning to be clear in our own needs and boundaries and not acting or reacting out of fear. I love it, Lan. I love it. High five to that one. You are awesome. I love what you're talking about right now. We need to find our feminine strength. Find your feminine strength. I am on board with that. I will help you find your feminine strength. I am. You know what? I'm proud of you, Lan. I'm proud of you. What you're talking about right now, it really touches my heart. So thank you for being here. Thank you for being a part of our community. Patricia says, I'm taking notes. Well, I'm glad you're taking notes. Some note taken worthy things going on in this conversation. So Irene says, this is your year, ladies, by Matthew's program and be the beautiful, fun filled person you are meant to be and attract amazing men that, amazing man that wants amazing relationship. Don't sell. That's what I'm talking about, Irene.  You are a friend of mine. So thank you for being here. So Patty says, how many men should you date at once? Well you should have a big orbit if you can, but you should only date up to three men at most. Because if it goes more than three, what ends up happening is you're not really sure what's going on with who and somebody told you a story and you forgot, was it this guy that told you the story? I don't know who told me the story. And the next thing you know, you're saying things that you've already said to a guy that you've already said them to, but you think it's the first time you told them it and it just turns into a mess. You have no idea what's going on or who said what and who said who. So you want to have three is the maximum that you should see unless you're better at juggling guys, which I have doubts about. And so my suggestion is three at most. And if you want to have more people in the orbit, you can have more people in the orbit and you just let the ones who want to step up and create the kind of relationship that you want to have step up and try to create that with you. And then you go, which one am I going to choose? Am I going to choose you? Am I going to choose you? And then you choose the one that you want to choose. And that's the magic. That's the magic of abundance. And if you want to know more about that, you should go to the foreverwomanformula.com and go watch the video and sign up for our program and the community. That is my suggestion. So Jo Ann says, hi Matt. I really like all your videos and I love the advice about relationship. That helps me a lot, especially in long distance relationship. Keep it up. Happy New Year. God bless. Well, thank you. I'm actually going to be coming out with a long distance relationship program here pretty soon. So I hope that you check it out and you end up liking it and it'll be pretty awesome. I'm pretty sure you're going to love it for sure because it's just so awesome and you're going to be like, oh my God, this is everything that I need to know about a long distance relationship. And if you have any other questions about long distance relationships, let me know about them because I want to make this program the best program that you can possibly find anywhere about long distance relationships, which shouldn't be hard because there aren't very many programs out there about long distance relationships and there definitely aren't very many good ones. So wait for that.  But you know, we live in this world of the hook up culture and men keep pulling away and disappearing and guys just want to hook up and they just want something casual and it feels like it's just too much and you're like, ah, what am I supposed to do and it's like really difficult and I can't get guys to approach me and what's going on and all right.   And, you know, it might even make you feel like you just want to give up on men and dating and relationships altogether. And I, you know what? I totally get it. I've been there before. I, you know, if you're having a hard time with men and dating, really it's not your fault. We live in a culture that encourages superficial relationships and discourages anything meaningful. But I believe that there's a better way for men and women to get into relationships and stay in relationships that last. And that's why I put together a proven path that will help you get into the relationship that you've always wanted to have. It's my program. It's called the forever woman. You can get it at the foreverwomanformula.com. Look, I understand what it's like to feel like keeping someone in my life is almost impossible. I know what it's like to try lots of different things and none of them seem like they're working. I actually got into this industry originally as a client back in 2003, 2004, something like that, because I had had so many problems with women and attracting a good woman, you know, my first, my high school sweetheart ended up cheating on me and my brother, I mean, it's just a mess, right? It was just a mess. There is, there's a lot of problems there. And so I got into this industry because I wanted to figure this stuff out. And I ended up working on myself. I became a men's, men's dating coach where I was coaching men how to do this. And then I ended up coming over to the women's side and I really have enjoyed being on this side and helping so many women kind of move from this place of feeling like they were stuck. And it seems like they're, you know, dating is almost hopeless to them and helping them get into a place where they not only feel better about it, but they actually attract a great man into a committed relationship where they're loved and cherished. And many of these women have ended up in marriage. And so I have a three part plan for you to be successful from all the stuff that I've learned over the years. Number one is to believe in your own value. You have to believe in your own value because of something I call the law of belief transference. Whoever believes something the most will transfer that belief to somebody else. So if you, if a guy believes in your value, but you don't, and you don't more than he believes in your value, which almost certainly you will, you will end up pushing him away and you will make him believe that you aren't very valuable because of the law of belief transference because you will be pushing your belief onto him. Second is you need to position yourself in value, which is what I talk about with creating a power position, creating abundance, right? Creating polarity, all that kind of stuff. That's all about creating a position of value. And third is communicating your value in a very high, right?   She's so important to me and so amazing. You're so important, so amazing to me. I never want to let you go. That's what, that's what you want to hear from a man. And so if you want, if you're interested in getting this program, make sure there's a link above or below this video, or you can go to the foreverwomanformula.com. Go watch the video on that page and sign up for my free course, The Forever Woman Program. And if you end up using the program and use the principles in it, you'll end up attracting a man who loves you and cherishes you. You might even end up attracting a few of them. He'll end up wanting to pursue you for a committed lasting relationship. You'll do less work and feel more appreciated and valued by men.  If you keep doing the same thing, you'll keep getting the same result.    How are you so, it's amazing. You just seem so natural and easy for you to attract a great guy and you know, you're so amazing and lucky. Like how did you get that way? And you'll have a secret. The secret is the forever woman formula. And so my suggestion is that you go to the foreverwomanformula.com and check out that program there. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your journey. We have the most amazing, beautiful, attractive, awesome, intelligent, smart women in the world as a part of our community. So thank you so much for being here. Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your journey. And I wish you a happy new year. And if, and I guess I'll see you again soon. So talk to you later. Thanks for being here. And I will see you soon. Bye-bye.


So I found this incredible technology that did analytics and predictive analytics for your store It was you know midnight. I'm at my computer. I'm doing searching.  There's a whole bunch of data, but nothing no information no insight and so I was looking for tools and I found one And I found one that looked really incredible on the first visit of a person on your store just Navigating your store. They could analyze the behavior on your site compare it to the behavior of other people on your site and then Predict the lifetime value of that customer before they bought a single thing and I was like oh My god, I need this so it was really cool because they had a whole sign up, you know no no credit card needed and You would you'd have to give them some integration, right? You'd give them your API for stripe You'd give them your API for Mailchimp. They would look over all the emails you were sending out They would look over all the orders that had come in and then they would and they said you know This could take as we as we mine over all your data This could take a day or two before we get back to you, right? So I said it Did all the connections and about 1 a.m. I went to bed I was like I can't wait to wake up tomorrow morning because now people just gonna browse my site And I can see over their heads in virtual dollar signs how much they're worth to me. This is gonna be awesome so I wake up and I have an email from the CEO of this company And I'm like, oh So I read it and it says Chris Thank you so much for your interest in our technology We've poured over the purchases from your site and Unfortunately There's not enough data for us to make any predictions We work with companies like Target under armor JC pennies and Best Buy to analyze their flow You're doing a thousand dollars a month in revenue we suggest you circle back when you're doing a million That was the most polite way to say piss off that I've ever read Right But I tell you that story to tell you that in reality when we talk about e-commerce and conversions Everybody starts somewhere right everybody starts with a store when I when I was running one of my earlier stores years ago Someone said oh you wrote ebooks. Yes. Yeah, and and how are those selling and I'm like Yeah, you know, they're good. I mean like I guess it all depends like compared to zero $200 a month feels like a lot of money, but it's not like I'm gonna quit my day job, right? Everybody starts somewhere and so today what we're gonna do is talk about kind of that journey of how do you improve your store? Right for conversions so that you actually make more money so that you have more traffic Converting and if you're a store owner, this is great for you But if you're a person who helps store owners right if you design themes for your store or if you code and assemble Stores, hopefully this will be applicable to you as well. Does that make sense? Awesome. All right, so the first thing we have to do is be really really honest And that is to say that e-commerce is really hard right and that there is no magic bullet There is no this do this and you make a million dollars a month, right?  I'm gonna keep doing it. This isn't working so much. I'm gonna turn it off. Does that make sense? Okay, so Let's get into it single biggest factor In terms of conversions the single biggest factor without question so far beyond everything else That is the only thing you should start with and that's the speed and performance of your site the speed and performance of your site If you I work a lot with WooCommerce, which is an online platform if you go to WooCommerce comm slash showcase You will see 562 stores Over all the little clicks next next night you have five hundred and sixty two stores of the five hundred and sixty because 562 of those five hundred sixty two a handful of those sixty of them No longer use WooCommerce, right? So they they have after they put their name up for the showcase eventually they moved on to do something else What have you there's five hundred and two stores in the showcase that still Use WooCommerce. Okay, great So we took all those domain names and we threw them at GT metrics Which is a solution that analyzes the performance of every one of those stores now to do that We had to first go back and look at every store and figure out where their shop page was so that we are comparing apples to apples 460 out of five hundred and two Load up in more than three seconds with an average of about seven or eight seconds Google tells us that when they direct traffic The magic number for them in terms of their ability to think about whether or not you care about your customers, right? It's two point seven seconds 460 of the five hundred and two already outside their age But there's other studies right that will say oh, hey if you're not below two point seven, right?  Is that make sense? All right, so here are some stats, right? Maybe the most important stat on this page is the fact that if you have a two-second delay, right? This was a Akamai right last year and Akamai was looking at this and they By looking at a whole bunch of stores and pull it together They saw that when you had a two-second delay moving from one page to another that it shortened the session length by 51% Now if you're Amazon and that means average person staying on Amazon is about eight minutes in the human day Eight minutes to four minutes not so bad, right? But how many of you run Amazon? All right. Yeah, no, they're not here. They didn't show it to a work camp. I'm a cookie. That's weird So if you're not Amazon you may have already a session length of two minutes Right cutting it in half is one minute. That may mean you go from four pages, right to two page views Man, you got to do a lot of work to convince someone in that short of time Right, so you want to make sure that you're loading quickly. The other thing to note is Bounce rates, right? If you don't know what a bounce rate is It's the notion that someone comes from say a Google search lands on a particular page, right? They were typing T-shirts for people who sweat a lot, right? None of you obviously, but there are other people that do that in Google and so They type people who you know t-shirts of people who sweat a lot and they get routed to a particular store Right and when they get to that store, they're reading that page and I mean that page they go It's way too expensive for a t-shirt and then they just leave if you land on the page and leave from the same page That's a bounce Right and the lowest bounce rates, right were for stores that loaded pages that loaded in 1.2 seconds Right now imagine if your store is running at seven seconds on a page load 1.2 is a really far far cry from that It's a lot of work to get down there So of course what makes this harder is that everybody shops at Amazon and because everybody shops at Amazon, right?  Hey, what can we do to make our store? You know what I saw this on Amazon. I saw this on Amazon I would like a store to work like Amazon and like awesome super cool and you have budget authority over this project Yes, I do great and you have Amazon's budget Wait what? So if you have the authority right so I was hanging out with the chief science officer for Amazon a couple years ago three years ago And he said that on their thank you page Right, that's after you purchase They were running 27 tests 27 AB tests on the thank you page After you have made the purchase I'm like dear god, what are you testing? Like you already done you already took the money like what is it? He goes well, you know that thing when you hit when you hit, you know When you buy and this is thank you and then at the top it says Share this purchase with your friends and there's a social set of buttons. I said yeah He goes well, that's one of seven different versions. Some sometimes it's a command share this with your friends, right? And other times it's a question. Would you like to share this purchase with your friends? Sometimes it's a specific question. Would you like to share this norelco razor purchase with your friends? And he goes we have seven different versions of those and we test those and I'm like, oh my god He goes that's just one of the 25 tests on that page Now the thing you know about testing if you know anything about testing is you need a certain amount of data To create what's called? Statistical significance right the notion that you didn't just get a fluke right like people who barely start AB testing Right they're like I put up the blue logo I put up the tall logo and I put up the wide logo and I had seven visits and four people like this one So we're gonna go with that you're like nothing You just said it makes any sense right stop talking and stop testing and find a professional but It's because you need more people right you need a certain amount of traffic for that Significance to be useful to you and I said thank you. I was asking a super smart question I said the data scientist Yeah, but you got 27 tests how long before you get all the information back


So you have beautiful eyes, but you can't control them. Not a problem. In object mode, click the I, Shift-S, Corsair to active. Okay, first we need to make bones to control the eyes. In edit mode, click the head target, Shift-D to duplicate, move it here and name it eyes. Parent it to the head target, Shift-D again, name it I.L, parent it to the head, right click and snap to Corsair. Right click again, symmetrize, and now the bones are in the right place. From here, if you're doing game design, make sure you weight paint them. Otherwise you can parent them or use whatever constraint you want. But the basic idea is when the bone moves, the eyes should follow. Now we're gonna add drivers so that when you move the bone, it rotates the eyes accordingly. So under X rotation, right click, add driver, set object to armature, bones to eyes, type to Z location, space to local, and update dependencies. Then right click, copy driver, and under Z rotation, right click, paste driver, right click again, edit driver, change Z location to X location, change var to negative var. And the last thing that you need to do now is to copy the drivers from the left eye to the right. You can do that by just right clicking, copy, go to the other one, right click again, paste driver, you're done. Now you can still control where the head is facing by moving this bone, but at any point, if you want the eyes to look somewhere else, all you gotta do is move this one, hope that helps. If you enjoyed this video, please don't forget to like, subscribe, and ring that bell. Hope you have a fantastic day and I'll see you around.


So back to the key theme here, human machine futures. How much of us is already connecting to machines? How much are we outsourcing our brains?  You know what we do today at the bar? We're looking at what kind of apps we have on the mobile phone. It's sad, isn't it? Because technology has taken over to such a point, but it's so important to have this. So what is going to happen here? I think if you're looking at products like Google Now that allows you to have Google anticipate your next move. If you want to try Google Now, you can try it on any phone. It's part of the Google app, but you should give it a try because it reads all your information and it tells you what's happening next for you. So when you're landing in Istanbul, it says, there's a traffic jam. You should call jam and tell them you're half an hour late, do you want me to leave a message? It runs the life for you. It runs your life. And of course, that's what technology companies want. That's what Amazon, eBay, and Yahoo and Google, they want to run this for us. They want us to be the OS. They want us to feed this OS. They want us to outsource the brain. And in many ways, it's convenient. So I'm outsourcing my brain to the Kindle or e-book reader. So now I have 250 books on my Kindle. I can't take them with me on the airplane. It's better for me. But what happens if it doesn't work? I have nothing to read. So there's a dependency that happens here.


Welcome to JSA TV and JSA podcast the newsroom for telecom and data center professionals I'm Laura Noland and a beautiful Honolulu Hawaii at PTC 20 joining me now is Oliver Jones CEO of Chaiora Welcome Oliver. Hi Laura. Lovely to meet you. Great to be here on this beautiful island. It is beautiful It sure is well, we've got a lot to talk about with Chaiora You've been very busy a lot of milestones in the past 12 to 14 months Tell us what's happening at Chaiora and maybe for our viewers also what Chaiora is about Okay. Well, Chaiora is a a data center development company that designs operates and funds Hyperscale data center campuses in mainland China very difficult market to access one of the world's biggest online markets And we're there to help bridge the difficulties of working in that enormous market for international companies domestic hyperscalers who want international standards and very newly Co-location services as well. The big news was the opening of the Tianjin data center And how is that helping now bridge Western businesses over to China? Well, I think one of the first things one has to get used to when working in China is to move on from the old Adage of calling it hyperscale when you're in China, it's China scale, which is slightly bigger than hyperscale And when we first set out to create a campus, which will be 25,000 racks You know to and point something million square feet and 300 megawatts of gross power That's an enormous environment and there's very few global campuses that are anywhere near that scale So for us Tianjin is a great location with it's there to serve Beijing, which is very close And it's we're working very closely with government in order to ensure that we don't just deliver a data center environment We deliver a business environment that means tax incentives that means linkages with local universities And that means having the ability to help our customers be part of the digital if you like revolution that's taking place in China Wonderful. So what's in store next for Chao? I know that you've added some pivotal team members and tell us more about some of that recent news Well, we had some great recent news We were delighted to welcome as a new senior executive our EVP of network and strategy Yali Liu Yali is one of the leading Individuals in the Chinese network market she was formerly with China cash where she led the creation of the first internet exchange in China and She's come on board at just the same time as we've just announced a strategic partnership with Telstra of Australia Telstra is the leading international telecoms firm inside China and for us working with Telstra to deliver both Of the chart international standard connectivity also links with them working with us as our co-location Retail co-location partner on the site So the next six months is going to be really exciting as our two teams work very closely together as we start to fill the first 3000 rack facility. We hope that we'll do two of those in due course with Telstra And really create something that you know international companies can be very comfortable with when they get into China We'll definitely be watching tell us where people can learn more about Chao is a website social media Where would you want him to go? It's a Chai or a comm ch a y o r a dot com We are on social media, but mainly through LinkedIn as much as anything I'm still trying to work out how we can use Instagram for what we're doing There's only so many pictures of servers that you can get excited about you know, but actually so yeah, so it's true Chai or comm and you know, we have here at PTC. We have six of our senior executives here So we're easy to find you know look up data centers in China, and you'll hopefully find us Excellent. Thank you Oliver Thank you so much for joining us and thank you viewers for joining us here on JSA TV and JSA podcast Happy networking