And we are live Anthony dream Johnson president dream president Johnson CEO and founder 21 studios the 21 convention and several other organizations Today with me have a special interview one-on-one with the one and only dr. Taylor burrows She's the second woman ever. I've interviewed live on the air for Janice Fimengo recently Dr. Burrows welcome to the show. Welcome to the channel. Thank you. Thanks for having me. I'm excited. I have no idea What we're gonna talk about today We're gonna talk about a lot of things up to about an hour What the live chat to you guys can tune in live or those of you watching live you can chat ask questions and We'll get into it. So dr. Taylor burrows is a semi-retired marriage family therapist he's a PhD and marriage and family Counseling you spend 14 years doing that and I think you're licensing issues and just kind of government bureaucracy a couple years ago She got out of that and actually an independent lifestyle and dating coach She is well aware of the man of fear and involved a bit through Twitter and things like that some of our speakers Like AJ Cortez Pat Steadman guys like that So we're gonna talk her today about masculinity femininity men women make women great again Pretty much any fun topic that comes to mind that I have a list up here So first things first What are your thoughts on the man of fear you've been I've heard about you for years now on Twitter and stuff You've obviously seen a lot of events we do a lot of speeches What's kind of your general impression as a woman as a former marriage and filmy therapist? Well, I just want to clarify something real quick. There were no licensing issues I just really was having my own personal inner conflict with the issues of the profession and With what I wanted to do as a therapist and so instead of trying to change the system I decided not to bother with that headache and to just let my licenses expire and work Independently as a consultant and when I talked to my my colleagues, they're like, oh my god It's so scary to even think about doing that because you put in so much time and money and effort Into getting them that to think of letting them go is is hard to believe So I kind of like when I I see people's faces when they say you're retired. I don't understand That's exactly what I meant and I probably should have put some more effort. That's okay articulation into that because I get it I'm not a fan of government licensing at all. I get that we have it through many industries Not just yours obviously well beyond that and I get the bureaucracy and the headache that that can bring so that's exactly what I meant And I've no doubt it's a pain in the ass I know we were the speakers like Ken Curry and Sean Smith that have to deal these organizations and I don't like that I know these men personally they're very intelligent very sharp. They have to deal these bozos and clown worlds that oversee the stuff So totally what I meant and do not mean to Not to worry, but so back to your question about the man of sphere I kind of stumbled into it I think Kyle trouble was the first person that I was exposed to actually and Then from him he referenced Rolo Tomasi and so then you know as an academic I wanted to do my research so I dug into his Website and his articles and essays and everything and then that kind of quickly spawned You know offshoots to pretty much all the the big wigs in the in the man of sphere But I was really searching for some answers myself because of a lot of that You can call it cognitive dissonance if you want to like just sort of being a person that who is supposed to be an expert in Relationships, but having been through divorce myself. I was really wondering. What did I get wrong? Why did everything that I learned and what I teach to people it didn't work for me? And I was wanting to self-examine and see how I could get to the end goal of being in a happy and healthy Relationship and a lot of what I heard there were at first some things that sort of took me back And I was shocked that it was being said But something made me intrigued and curious about wanting to understand it and once I got to Rolo's Content it made sense to me. There were definitely things that I sort of didn't agree with completely But for the most part it rang true and it and it sort of was like the missing piece of the puzzle for me Got it. Yeah, and how was it just finding a community of men so large on the internet they were talking about this stuff I mean, you weren't just like the average woman You were a therapist a family and marriage therapist must have been pretty bizarre finding this huge group of dudes It's ranting about this stuff on the internet all day. Yeah, I didn't get into the reddit stuff Which I'm glad that I kind of avoided that. I've only been doing like reddit Chats for professional reasons like to kind of get My content out there and maybe get people marketing to people so that they can sink me for for hire But I avoided a lot of that really dense stuff But wasn't until people Rolo in particular kind of targeted me that I got attacked On line and I'm like, where is this coming from?  It's like Pat Pat's an amazing guy Well, thank you. I haven't met Pat yet, but I'm looking forward to meeting him. It'll be great I think we do share a lot of the same perspective. We have our differences, but I think for the most part there is a big crossover But you know going back to my experience of sort of being targeted that way. I don't I don't like that word, but It felt like I was being bullied for no reason like I really didn't know why And it was strange coming from him in particular Like I was a little bit honored at first because I'm like, wow this like major guy Who I'm admiring his work is like spending a lot of time talking about me But it you know, I was kind of new to the whole online thing and it was kind of hard, you know, my my my own sort of confidence and Anxieties would get triggered by it because they could be pretty harsh and mean And it did kind of seem like a mean girls, but it was like men um So I kind of blocked a lot of people just for my own sanity because it was hard to take Uh, and I led a lot of lot of that go and just sort of focused on my own business because I you know It was kind of hard It's still hard to be on your own and make it work with your own business online it's a new thing for someone I kind of Trailblazed in that sense like coming from a formal private practice or You know a practice setting and then trying to translate that to online Consultations. Yep. It's pretty tricky Which is very different right as I understand it coaching is different from therapy. Absolutely. Um, I'm actually Or I was the deputy chairperson of the Cayman Islands mental health commission for five years and before that I was on the task force to help write the mental health laws and my passion was regulation So there are a lot of ways that I've kind of Come full circle and seen things one way and then realized its faults and then tried to Correct what I you know understood before and make the best of situations So now I understand why things are really tricky from that point of view But from like an entrepreneurial standpoint and capitalistic standpoint This seems to be like the best way For one the client or the customer to get the best value and service And for the person who has the expertise and the talent or the skills to offer what they have to offer that's unique Yeah, that's awesome.  It takes a lot of courage You know someone called me anti fragile yesterday and I think that's that's probably quite true quite accurate But I am blessed. I have my support system now is pretty much You know my boyfriend and I'm really grateful for having him in my life and how dare you have a positive healthy relationship I know But it does feel like you know a blessing because there were there were a few years of being single and on my own Where there were pretty hard And so I definitely never take it for granted and I appreciate it each day. I wake up Well, let's take a step back.  I wasn't aware of that That's right And that's kind of what I was referencing coming full circle because when you listen to that ted talk I sound very sjw And at the time I would never have considered myself because I didn't really know the jargon I didn't really sort of identify as feminist or sjw or what 2016 or something like that It was 2014 actually So it was the year the the month that I finished my dissertation and got my doctorate And so there was a lot going on for me But it was a big Event for me because I disclosed publicly in the ted talk that I was a survivor of abuse And I didn't really, you know belabor the point, but I did reference it And so it was a big a big moment for me From that standpoint and being a specialist in sexual abuse recovery, you know, it was It's difficult. It's it's something that, you know, you don't always want to Advertise but at the same time it plays a big role in the work that you do with trauma survivors as well And if you're not healthy you can do a lot of re-triggering and to yourself or to them So, you know, it's it it's been it's been a long road, but Coming full circle from that I realized that it wasn't the patriarchy's fault and it wasn't misogyny But at the time that was pretty much what my dissertation Was framed that sort of perspective It was framed in that perspective because of my profession And my academic institution and the faculty committee I wrote 10 topics. I went through 10 years of writing six years. I think total writing and Each time it got rejected. It was because I wanted to do something more sort of I don't know like unique or idiosyncratic and then and they kept trying to push me back into what they wanted me to say And so like a framework with dogma. It sounds like you're having operate in Right. I mean, there's a lot of red tape and a lot of brown nosing that you have to do when you're going through that and so I understand the the the validity of being rigorous in your academic and research You know steps, but when it comes to that type of profession where I realized they were really enforcing one perspective and if you thought outside of the box if you were more conservative or more traditional or more Directive in your value system Then you were written off or you were chastised and you were sort of you know redirected back towards what what they want you to instill in your clients and they would sort of package it as You know what you are meant to do as a health care professional But I just didn't like the way I felt my clients would not my clients in particular, but people in general You know had to sort of get dependent on the system and get pathologized so much And a lot of the relationships they weren't working because you know You kind of had to placate the woman a lot and as soon as I started speaking my mind Um, that's when the tension started, you know Yeah, I can imagine I hear um I talked to ken curry a lot and sometimes shawn smith and dr. Glover and they're all therapists Different degrees like you were a family marriage and they're kind in Glover's case And they're all rebels in their field I mean the fact that they want to thank for themselves and you know practice how they well they believe is true It gets you I'm sure a lot of flock Yeah, I mean my clients that I aligned with I have such amazing outcomes with them and and they get it But I just don't fit with everybody But the thing is I don't want to fit with everybody I want to target those people who align with me and who I can help the best that I can help I don't want to be some sort of cookie cutter therapist that just sort of says You know the same sort of self-help guru things that you can buy on a bookshelf My my goal is not to to work with a million people My goal is to work with that handful of people that I can help along the way of transformation When you want to help them heal too, especially if it's from abuse, yeah Yeah, I've been through um, I mean, I'm a deuce experience with max wife. I don't know if you've seen that But that was the whole thing in itself. Um, I'm also a survivor. I'd say I've like pretty extended severe domestic violence I wouldn't just like a huge amount of that I only talked about that a little bit on the internet A lot of that's not resolved yet completely or it's like very it's a fucking huge part of my life. True. Pardon my french They know doubt that it's very serious and I think a lot of people that haven't been through it don't understand that It's hard to understand if you haven't been through it and seen a firsthand like how severe it is and what the What the consequences are both physically and then psychologically to Yeah, it's when you only know it by a textbook or Even if you're a helper and you're helping that that person through it It's it's still hard to connect completely to what it's like to be in that position as a victim But at the same time, I don't think you can't help if you're not if you haven't experienced the same thing But it's just hard to to really get like the visceral Impact if you haven't been through it yourself. That's right visceral in your face and real Let's just shift gears a little bit You've seen recently you had a young video on a similar subject So you got some traffic out of that which is pretty funny But what are your thoughts on make women great again? This is a whole media explosion You saw go down in january and a little bit of february I mean this went very viral We reached almost with this idea and this convention coming up that you'll be at on a press pass We reached nearly a hundred million people Which uh was you know, awesome Like I I hoped it would do well when we announced it and that of course was way beyond what I was thinking at the time I thought I might get picked up by some feminists and some blogs and get angry And before I knew it I was like on the news and all over the place even my neighbor yesterday was talking about it Yeah, so what are your thoughts on it just from a conceptual standpoint and well observed We need to get yeah, I mean there's definitely a lot of pushback Like like the word is vitriol right like when they come at you like that But I try to avoid that as much as possible But so I can I can only understand like times A hundred or whatever that you've been getting and I admire your tenacity to stick to it But yeah, I mean to me. I'm looking forward to to this sort of Rural experience Whatever it is like I really I don't really have like expectations because you never know what can happen I mean look at like the coronavirus right now and that's sort of changing a lot of things and We we can't predict how it's going to unfold But I think the intention of it is honorable obviously since I'm like participating and I'm excited to to see people Come together who are like minded and it's it's it's really just about The the face time with people, you know, I don't know who who all is going to be in attendance But I know the speakers and I know that the significant other others of the male speakers Are people that I know and I'm familiar with and I'm friendly with online So I'd love to be able to be in person with them and have a collective voice or a collective energy really You know, I don't want to sound cliche because at some point we kind of sound like the sjw's talking about us advocating for our position But it's really just you know, try not not to be afraid to I mean I know and such a bad time to be sick. So just take care of yourself But um, I was actually reading jack jack murphy's democrat to deplorable book And a lot of what he was talking about Sort of his relevance, right and and that kind of effect actually, uh interviewing him tomorrow. Oh Yeah, awesome. He's awesome. I like him a lot. I'm excited to meet him and his girlfriend as well So So I think that experience is probably similar. I mean, obviously not in the presidential Campaign aspect, but being able to come together and congregate in a way that We feel like we're free to do so like it. We don't we shouldn't have to Um, be afraid of our our livelihoods or the reactions of people. I mean, we're not doing anything wrong We just have an opinion or have different values Uh, and it only impacts, you know us and and well to put some some meat to this I mean, we're not just getting vitriol. I've been getting like death threats threats of violence All kinds of disgusting comments to voicemails Like I got a lot of this last year when I had my spat with rollo and he's like really hardcore Is really hardcore fan base not the wider guys who just like the book but the guys who are like dedicated That was my first experience really getting some serious hate and then make women great again. It was like a hundred times that But it's not just the hate. It's like pretty serious stuff. They're trying to find the venue and trying to cancel us They're petitioning the mayor of Orlando trying to cancel us I'm not surprised See, it's it's just nuts that they can't even I'm gonna do an email about it a newsletter to the 22 convention fans There's like a whole little email list. I think you're on it. Okay And uh, I'm gonna talk about that that they have it's just amazing how little respect they have for freedom of speech freedom of assembly Like we just want to get together and talk it's a conference. It's not like a rally. It's not like a protest You just want to talk to be honest. I made this term up I think I'm not sure like some people do stealing ideas, but I just used it spontaneously about value driven Therapy right like we need to have an avenue to create variation In perspectives and if you don't give people an option to sort of choose what's best for them Then you're really you're really enforcing that dogma that that you know indoctrinating people into one mentality And it just seems so distorted But I I don't know I think that you know when we're there and we're we're we're able to talk in that sort of Well organized setting because I've heard really great things about the way that you organize your events I'm pretty good. I'm pretty good. I I know you are But um, you know the countless amount of conferences that I have attended in my professional career Eventually, you just tune out because it's just the same repackaged stuff And half of it is just you know things that you have to do it like hoops you have to jump through in order to continue your licensing or Just networking and feeling like you're you're active in your profession But when we don't talk about the values of how to be a happy and healthy individual and how to live fully and how to Facilitate a relationship, you know, whether it's a family relationship or an intimate relationship or friendship It doesn't matter like if we don't talk about the values behind that We're missing a huge huge part of the human experience just to intellectualize it. It makes no sense That's what I didn't like about therapy as a formal profession And so the rebels are the ones that are infusing those value Driven perspectives into the work that that they're doing Yeah, you bring up a good point about 21 convention It is really well run like i'm not surprised that you heard that but more than that there's like a magic to it And it's hard to explain or market that on the internet, but it's really powerful and it's real at the events I don't think a big part of it is the freedom that you're talking about these speakers have to engage in things like talking about their values Not just intellectual content, but like why do they believe that? Why is it important to them? And what the magic is is I don't really dictate Anything they say there's a few limits like you can't endorse communism feminism racism Like really extreme shit that they can mention Outside of that the speakers are free to talk about whatever they want Now sometimes they'll ask me about cursing and stuff and I kind of laugh because I curse typically the most me and hunter 100 room But outside of that I I'm firmly not only do I not dictate what the speakers say I'm like fiercely opposed to that any kinds of censorship or cold censorship or silencing what they want to talk about I'm like no speak your mind I use common sense to stay on youtube, but beyond that right speak speak your not just your mind speak your heart Like what do you actually believe? That is so important And I think we need to have opportunities to do that other than just real private You know intimate settings where you can feel okay I can let my guard down and say what I really think right like being able to have some kind of not public But you know you're not sort of you know on a soap box and announcing it in the street But you know you're having a private event, but it's it's public and and you feel like you're a normal person You're not being marginalized But you you you mentioned the sort of magic to the event and it reminds me of tedx So if you've ever been involved or if someone's ever been involved in tedx There's like a huge momentum Massive energy about it and it you can't really explain it unless you attend and when you attend sometimes It's like a small group of people like for mine. There are only a hundred attendees allowed But at the same time it's globally livestreamed right so You know there's they have to actually apply to be a part of it and being there and a part of these these talks Can be really transformative, but and this is how it's different Is that it's highly regulated like they are very strict About how you talk what you talk about That's so stupid and I hate that Yeah, right.  So this is the thing is like like the things that you know, you can have good things about it Which is the energy and sure it helps a lot of people But then there's this other side to it and so to be able to have both is so important to be able to have Common sense common decency, but no real restrictions on the expression of values and thoughts And to have it presented in a way that it's not just grassroots. It's a proper well organized Event that helps to elevate its significance for the people involved I'll I'll say this compared to what you experienced that I agree with you 100% I'll say this compared to your experience with tedx. I'm a dictator for freedom That makes any sense because I really hate that kind of groupthink dogma I think that's why some of the feminists got so angry. They really fixated for example on the sales page I wrote, uh, I wrote a lot of the copy on it. Me and my one of my guys And I called feminism. I called it toxic toxic feminist dogma I think those are the actual words toxic feminist dogma and just putting those together It's not that complicated toxic feminist dogma, but it's rare that you see that on the internet Especially like on a website that's like this big thing and speakers involved And because I think it just hit the nail on the head hit it really hit the truth And it made them so angry because it was true not because it was false So it's just fun to see them poke it poke the bear. Yeah, I mean all power to you I really I try not to trigger them and I block them as much as I can But when I speak to my mind, I still get a lot of pushback and and funny, you know, coming from a small country, you know the Cayman Islands is 65,000 people. Um, born in risk I I was raised until I was 12 and then I went to the states for School and then I went back after I was an adult for the last 10 years. So I just moved Again to the states. So my father's Jamaican or was Jamaican saw a picture of him today on and there He's really he would have been really old 106 right 106 today. So wow. Yeah, he was born in 1914 but Caribbean background I actually just sent off my ancestry dot com DNA so I'm excited to see all the the intricacies of my my background But all I know is my father was Jamaican with British influence And so I'm very Caribbean even though I spent so much time in the states Which is why I sound the way that I do but being from Cayman and practicing in Cayman and and and you know Having a life there People are highly involved in your life. And so with facebook and stuff when I make my posts Some of these women who are very Sort of verbal about their feminist perspectives. They really push back on me and they they shame me, you know They they're like, how dare you you're a professional You're making women be like go back to the 1950s and all the hard work of feminism is is reversed And and I don't know it's there's something about Um, and you're a coach and a former therapist You're not like I mean I can get why they hate me organizing a lot of you together But you're just you do what you're doing is basically a simplified former therapy or just coaching or counseling Yeah, I mean it's it's I might be Very clear to the people I work with that these are the values and they seek me out because they agree with them So I'm not trying to convert people or force people to think a certain way But I'm allowed to state my opinions like their fact. It doesn't mean that I'm uh, you know being prejudicial or being Misogynistic, right? Like they love to throw that out at you But it's it's this weird thing like is if you're you're taking What away what they've sort of sacrificed themselves for over the past 20 30 years Well, there's an irony there's an irony to it too because these people don't scream at you and scream at me They're going to tell you they're going to scream two seconds later about choice choice choice choice All you're doing is presenting different choices and options to people and ideas And the reality is they they hate that They do and I think part of it and this is I don't know if this is a big part or not But part of it is they don't understand entrepreneurial Businesses they don't understand how marketing works and they don't understand that branding aspect that you can't speak all Tentatively and and wishy-washy and get any type of of success in your business like you have to stand for something and Aside from spiritual twitter, I guess they're the exception But um, you know for someone in in in our position. I think it's important to to just Be a okay standing by your opinion and presenting it in that way But they're responsible for taking offense and we can't control that Yeah, let's get into some more some more nitty gritty details here sure You know your channel some of your ideas and stuff So I'll say you talk about grieving and that came to mind Well, there's a couple reasons that came to mind something. I've been looking at lately and studying a different self-help books Study psychology books things like that But grieving came to me or struck me as a term and a concept that is kind of taboo in the man's sphere And there's a few of these Love romance even beauty to an extent a jay grotesque would be an exception to that But generally these ideas or these concepts like love romance grieving They're taboo.  I don't know if i'm a cheat curse, but Talk to me about grieving like why should young men or even older men? Why should they care about this idea and why is it important? Um, especially to say heal from A toxic relationship or something like that well Just to be blunt unfortunately mental health effects or mental illness Effects men tremendously. It's not a female issue, right? Like if we look at the the rates of suicide Men commit suicide or I should really say kill themselves more frequently than women do And we have to not just understand why but we have to be able to to give them an opportunity to Prevent it and that means they have to talk about their, you know experiences if they're struggling and I don't think he will he will mind if I mention it But you see how goldman went through an experience tragic experience this week with his his brother and you know He's a good friend of mine and we saw him recently and I spoke to him We we actually I and this might be a little bit strange to hear but my mother is she's quite esoteric And so I believe in in a lot of stuff and and I'm like denis. We need to call goldman Let's check on him. Maybe he wants to meet up with us and that that happens Well, he was in arizona where you're at now, right? Yeah, yeah So anyway, I'm glad that we reached out to him that day and he was like, oh my god You're not gonna believe what happened. Da da da. And so I'll just summarize because he's posted about it Like I won't say the whole thing but just his his brother killed himself last week And so he's been going through grieving and goldman is a very Strong masculine man who's been through a ton of experiences who understands the human Um, you know dynamic and he even was Unfamiliar with this process of grief and he needed to process it and reach out and ask questions And it's not easy to know what to do when you experience it. It's like should I be angry? Should I be sad? Should I talk about my feelings? Should I rage? Should I go sleep with women? What do I do? Yeah, so we need to we need to make it visible We need to help men who are struggling understand what they can do. That's healthy Yeah Yeah, well goma what there was pretty serious And to see that seem I've seen talk about it to the public and it's good to see that The one thing I actually should take a step back on those that the grieving process is usually applied for the red pill stuff Just you know Just taken down this red pill that concept in that idea But it's nothing like what you're talking about which for example in goldman's case is a loss of a family member Yeah But yeah, I'm glad Glad you could share that Yeah, well, I mean, I think it's important because I'm I'm not a mental health professional Officially anymore, but it doesn't take away my phd and my expertise in the matter And so, you know, that's part of why I mean some people might call me like a men's rights Advocate or something like that It's it's both. I'm both for healthy women and healthy men And I don't like to see anyone in trouble and struggling without the help that they need And when it comes to in your situation, let's just get more specific to the Being married to someone or being with someone who had BPW or someone who's very toxic and unhealthy The grief that comes from Having to deal with that situation is it's it's horrific And so I know that firsthand being a therapist in couples counseling with people who were in that situation And it was never never an easy Case to deal with and Whether you end up getting divorced or The best you can sort of salvaging what you can with custody with finances or whatever It's still a process to heal from that and then just in general like Having the red pill experience where you look back at your life and you have to kind of grieve The loss of of all that investment Emotionally in the blue pill and and everything that's happened like all of that is all very It's like the shifting paradigms, right? And so we can relate to each other probably more than we're different I mean some of the hate that I've gotten has been well, you know You were an ex-feminist and you were an sjw and you were divorced and like yeah, but I've Brought it all together. I've taken the red pill. I understand now more about The mistakes that I made and how to correct them and how to share that with people so that they don't make the same mistakes So I I wouldn't I wouldn't villainize anyone for trying to speak About their experience to help people and I I'm surprised when people do that with me or with you or with whomever Yeah, even Janice Fumengo gets a lot of that we're talking about Professor Fumengo before this The one that you know the woman I interviewed recently in the red man group. She's a feminist for a long time I think in her 20s even into her 30s. So a very long time and she eventually became a professor of literature upon candidate and stuff Excuse me But for her to now be she's one of the most prominent female anti-feminist in the world Especially as a professor and she still I think it's like, you know some hate from this Especially from the feminists who see her as a traitor and whatnot or even people in the monastery are skeptical of a woman Advocating so vehemently on behalf of men So yeah, it's pretty it's pretty interesting But I think you I think it's carry is actually a lot of credibility like you're saying You've been on the other side. You've seen a lot of that stuff firsthand You get why and so with Janice said she said the same thing You get why they think this way because you've been there. You've been through that same kind of thought process. Yeah In terms of breathing I think with my own experience of my ex-wife and that whole debacle of a bpd chick who turned out to be prostitute and all this other crazy stuff. I went through in the speech Uh, it was a lot more That was the first time I ever had to grieve from a you know intimate romantic relationship failing at such a colossal speed and severity And it took a long time to heal from that I'd say this point um, it's been a little bit over four years. Uh, as of the other day I have a four-year single anniversary And that was kind of interesting Yes, congratulations. Thank you. Yeah Um, but it took you know initially I was in a rush to get over it That was kind of the emotional or instinctive urge And looking back on it was ridiculous. I mean that was a four and a half year relationship Which isn't too long, but pretty significant amount of time And it took time to heal from that and get over it and You know banging chicks did not fix that overnight because in the mana sphere, there's a little pickup artist saying Uh, go bang 10 other women after a relationship fails And I had that a long time ago and that does not cure all the pain and the kind of trauma from that That's gonna linger. I mean you spend years with somebody male or female From whatever perspective you're coming at for that, you know dynamic It takes time I don't know that the specifics of your divorce and how long your marriage was but Yeah, it's stuff serious and to heal from it properly and not just be have some bravado about it.  And I would ask you, uh, you know, what was it that helped you heal from it? A big issue just be time and patience Um, yeah, I kind of knew that even at the beginning that time is something that's a commonly You know, it's a common idea common phrase and it was actually some weight to it Time maybe doesn't heal all but it's a big factor in healing So just the amount of time that's gone by In addition to that, I'd say the patients did not rush into another relationship I've had several opportunities to do that with girls that actually cared about and had an emotional investment and And for better or for worse, I refrain from doing that. I think it was ultimately for better I wasn't at a point where I was ready to get into another relationship that was exclusive like that Just wasn't ready for it.  I need to understand what's in front of me I did become more introspective and understand that like why did I get into that relationship? What kind of weak points or you know kinks in the chain from a very severely traumatized childhood Led me to this happening And didn't happen before I didn't have any toxic relationships before her to speak of I was just in college when I had to pick up girls at bars and stuff having a good time And then I landed up with this crazy hooker After a couple years of just going out picking up girls at bars and stuff So it was it's just taken time. I think to really Step back and appreciate all that and even not just time and patience, but also study Exactly.  Okay. He focuses a lot on CPTSD complex post-traumatic stress disorder Which I think the medusa experience contributed to but I had pre-existing before that And I would also say too as a final note that then the experience of being with her and then splitting up and leaving her That was really the awakening point ultimately to realizing I had pretty severe trauma that was still lingering Then she was really just like an expression to that more so than a contributor to it All she was a contributed to as well for the relationship Yeah, I mean you're you're hitting a lot of very complex points in a very articulate way that I don't know All the audience is going to understand the complexities up, right? But they can buy a ticket and I'll learn about it That's true But when you talk about trauma, um You can feel or think that you're healed from trauma because it's sort of repressed or suppressed And you can go about your business But you make mistakes and it's because of this suppressed trauma The reaction to trauma that you make those mistakes And the only way that you can heal From from that is to do that self-examination and to take the time and exploration to do that to take responsibility For your choices to and it's so hard to to and I get in trouble so much for for saying that like I'm not saying It's the victim's fault Trust me. I'm not but if you don't take responsibility for the mistakes that you've made along the way Then you will never be able to To sort of wrap the trauma up into a resolution for you to go forward in a healed perspective So I mean that's what you need to do and you and you described it so well Yeah, that's um a resolution that that's a really good way to put it Um makes 100 likes makes a lot of sense and I think I'm starting I'm getting to that point at four years now Uh, people think I'm like this playboy, which there is some truth to like I like women a lot And if I'm not in a committed relationship, well, what am I gonna do? I'm gonna go out and uh, have a good time to Put it simply But I think actually relationships are a really great thing. I look forward to doing it I really want to have a family It's actually one of the main reasons probably the main reason that actually married her in the first place In addition to being loved so I thought and all these things And you know even at 31 Especially as a guy I'm at peak fertility Uh, I'm not my eggs are not dying So I'm not in a rush and I'm really taking my time to be patient And it's funny because the longer I'm single and the women find that out the girls find that out They get really the longer that period of time is which is four years now They get like curious like why are you so single? Why are you so single? Well, it's really like it's it's captivating to them because now they they want to pry they want to learn Which is good that works in my favor At this point, I'd say I'll probably be in a relationship Um, I had this conversation with the girl the other day that wants to date me Who's a pretty good candidate for it like a lot younger than me. She's like 22 23 Uh, we've been seeing each other on and off for a while, but I'm like look I'm still like a year one to three years out from even, you know, seriously considering your relationship What what is that one to three years contained that you need to have happen? Two things in a simple level. It's this time. I want some more time to kind of be on my own I'm starting to enjoy that more and really really be okay with that at like a deeper and deeper level In addition, that's want to be older I want to be closer to 35 and I want to take that time in between then and now to continue working on myself Super super hardcore from lifting weights and working out to just building a business and being an entrepreneur I've done that for a long time not 13 years, but I still I think I'm still even I think I'm still beginning to hit my stride and make women great again as an example of that I've been successful a long time reaching millions of people a year, but not 100 million in a month So I'm still I'm still very young. I think at 31. I'm not as old as I think or feel sometimes No, that's very young And and plus, you know, you're being very selfless and letting her know that because you could very easily sort of You know have a great area like this. This will be a fun relationship for now But at 22 if she's a good candidate, then you're saying I don't want to keep you from finding your Forever guy your real relationship. So, you know carry on. Let's let's just move on and and and say what it is Yeah, no, that's 100 true and she recognized that and I just have enough woman in my life and the I'm confident of myself to go find a woman too and I want to that I'm just not worried about it So I really enjoyed the sex and being with her and stuff like look, I just want to be alone And if you're not okay with that, you know, it's fine What'll probably end up happening. She'll boomerang back Honestly, she'll boomerang background in my life. I'll see her again in six months when she misses me or something And that's fine. Well, you never know Yeah, you could be ready then you could be like, you know, I've I've hit all the the points that I need to hit And I just I I care about her enough and she's perfect enough that I'm gonna go for it Perfect enough. That's pretty good. Perfect enough. I like that. That's a good concept Yeah, it's hard to get to that point and uh, you know, we we read so many things on Online and reddit and twitter and whatever it is all these blogs about what type of woman you should be looking for What type of man you should be looking for that's something too that I'm still even at 31 I'm really starting to even independent of actually Uh, physically and you know first hand experiencing women.  It's my theory that actually men should really apply a lot of what they see in these feminist magazines All this strong independent mantra that I don't think it's very helpful for women No, I agree But for men, they should actually look at these magazines to kind of reverse engineer it. It's actually pretty good advice if you're a man I have a strong independent Exactly. I know I think I see the rationale there that that might actually work as a good sort of default mode to to get some advice, but Speaking of advice, I have this this new mens on like a telegram chat group And you know people criticize me all the time for being like the female Dating coach or whatever talking to men, but I'm very clear about you know, I'm not a man I'm not going to tell you how to be a man and I'm not going to replace your male role models But if you want to seek my expertise because you know, you feel comfortable with me You feel like we relate a lot of men are like I really ring like what you say rings true to me I'm aligned with your your values and how you talk about these things and I'm just really good at working with men And when we're talking in this chat group, it's really nice to see the relevance from other people's experience Right, it's not just me talking one on one with a man It's them talking to each other and so that's another way to get that that Increased access to masculine influences that they can they can you know have that camaraderie and learn from But it's a very common thing that they have a hard time Keeping to their standards and sort of having a firm line on their boundaries and expectations for women It's almost like Men who are there I I think they're masculine, but they've obviously been influenced by blue pill Thoughts growing up or whatever in society And so they have this guilty conscience about creating this sort of Hard line with a woman or saying no to a woman or having these expectations with their favorite their favorite word Yeah, exactly So it does take some some time To deconstruct that and allow them to assert themselves and feel like they're worth it that that they should be Expecting better for their significant others and it's so easy to And I don't mean this in a contrite way But it's so easy for these women to get their hooks into these men And it always really saddens me when I when I'm hearing stories about These women who who want to run their lives and just control them and belittle them really break them down And then they become attached and they're in love with them You know that it's so hard to get them to a place where they they let it go and they move on It's really unhealthy and dysfunctional I know and it's becoming I'd say more and more common with feminist blue pill type thinking in america and the west and stuff And it sucks and when I go to places like I spent a lot of time last year in poland I went there twice for the convention. That's right. Once it's got it wants to do the convention and you don't see well Generally speaking, you don't see any of that crap you see you see it was interesting You saw a lot of pda a lot of you know public displays of affection That I hadn't even seen probably since high school at this level since like the early 2000s or mid 2000s I was in high school And it was just so awesome to see it. It was so positive and fundamentally I believe that a place like poland that you places in eastern europe these countries They have much better gender relations between men and women It right down not just from family information and marriages and stuff like that But right down to just boyfriends and girlfriends walking around They get they get along and in orlando where I live. You don't see that anymore. It's a weird It's a really weird Yeah, I don't know that I've seen and much of that being in the states and in phoenix But you know people somebody was asking me not too long ago about the relationships in asia because denison I went to like vietnam thailand Bali so like indonesia And you know, they're Yeah, there are a lot of expats obviously in those areas digital nomads and stuff But looking at the local people, you know, a lot of the dating coaches talking about kyle He talks a lot about dating and you know foreign places and looking for for girlfriends or or wives in asia europe and whatever but um It was hard to really to get a good read on what the relationships were like generally I only really spoke to or spent time with the friends that we were meeting up with And a lot of the friends that we have over there from twitter Have asian girlfriends So it's more of like The people that we knew we could kind of observe them But the just general people that were in thailand and vietnam. It was I didn't really see a lot of pda Yeah, yeah, i'm poland I did and I got I made it a point to uh go out to the bars and the clubs at night and stuff like that My name the time zone was all screwed up for me for a while Yes, so I was just I was out until three four in the morning every night I'd work all day, you know Going to the towels and doing whatnot and emails and stuff And I spent a lot of time out meeting a lot of people I wear my hat make them great again make america great again They loved it. Uh, sometimes they were skeptical. They thought it was a feminist thing. They were like, are you feminist? Yeah, they were they they hate feminism like generally they make fun of it the women and men both So they they'd ask me very aggressively like are you feminist? Uh, almost like like they were investigating me. I'm like, no not even not even a little bit I'm like, okay, we like you then I think what I was just thinking one of the questions that reporter asked me in the email that you you linked me with Was what what is feminism to you and I'm like that's gonna be a good one to answer There are a lot of interesting questions. She she posed but I'll have to take some time and and really answer them But I don't know like for us. I think it's become something so volatile and violent But I think if you you ask a lot of people that um, they'll they'll They'll say some some things that are probably outdated, you know, like women's rights and Having a vote and stuff like that. But it's it's gone so far beyond that now. Yep. I agree Yeah, feminism today the the reason she's asking you that it's like it's very shape-shifting Slippery thing that you can't even define because it means this whatever they want it to mean If they're hardcore feminists and if you ask us saying recently to somebody if you ask 10 feminists You know what they think about feminism or what it means to them. You've got 10 different answers Mm-hmm because I think and one of the reasons is it's hiding an agenda It's hiding a lot of toxicity and violence behind it Like I've been getting I've been getting more death threats from feminists than I've ever had in my life Threats of violence Testing they're really trying to find me and like where I live like the convention it's sick stuff And it they all want and then they want to talk to you about tolerance and choice and all this crap And it's all it's all not just nonsense But it's you it's hypocritical nonsense that's opposite of what they really believe They're really prone to violence and screaming at you. It's weird. Yeah I don't know if this sounds a little too macro, but coming from my background and expertise in trauma And it's actually the it would be like the the TEDx talk to that I would do It's actually the opposite of what I said. It's not patriarchy. That's caused all this sexual abuse It is feminism as it's morphed into A traumatic experience that's been internalized in most women And so this this this anger and this Vitriol that we're experiencing from these types of feminists is a traumatic response If you think about someone who's been traumatized being triggered like a flashback or something they get Crazy And so you want to you want to understand that they are like that because of a trauma that they experienced and not blame them Because it's a symptom of the trauma, but at the same time, you know You kind of have to identify it first and they're not willing They're in denial about the trauma that feminism caused inside of them. I agree And so it sounds like you're saying if i'm understanding correctly, they're basically Transferring or weaponizing their trauma into a whole movement that's supposed to be this, you know Glamorous very positive very feminine nice thing And I think the reality is very very different from that. So they're kind of like almost like Filling it with this with their trauma and then they're just like, oh, it's a nice thing But it's super toxic. Yeah, I mean it's it's a little bit like the um How the victim identifies with their perpetrator often, you know, like the Stockholm syndrome kind of thing Where so they've kind of aligned with feminism. They defended to its death, you know But honestly, it's more that feminism is the perpetrator for these women in their lives And I wrote very early on I wrote a A blog post or whatever about my dear Joan letter to feminism and that got some traction, but I probably have to still edit it or revise it, but it was true It was like my sort of grieving letter to myself after breaking up with feminism because this is what yes It took for me this and it's not about that's a big that's a big breakup I'm out for you. Yeah, thank you But it's not about blaming all my choices on feminism It's explaining them and there's a difference when someone isn't willing to take responsibility for their choices And I'm asked all the time Even now that I'm not practicing formally, you know, how could you be a marriage therapist and be divorced? How could you be single and be a marriage therapist? How could you like? It's never enough for people, right? Like you're never good enough to tell people what to do unless you live it yourself And there's obviously truth to that, but I think that you know for the most part Um, there's just a lot of pressure. There's a lot of pressure to achieve a healthy stable lifestyle But no no kind of um map to that's given to us to teach us how to do that anymore Yeah, let's shift gears a little bit. I have more of my little notepad. I was right down as I was going through your content So how talking to me about how women today can do better Young women today that are still Other than just abandoning feminism and saying, right, this is actually a pretty negative movement What can your average 20-something young woman today in america? What can she do better? What is she getting wrong with say her dating life? That might include a lot of swapping on tender or the short-term relationships the last six months at a time Sure about serial monogamy and things like that So what are some of the issues you see young women today dealing with from that perspective? Well, I love that. I'm getting some young women in my practice will not practice but in my business now I have I have a lot of like yes. Yes. I know it's it's it's hard. It's a long time But um, I do my best to be transparent there Uh, I have a lot of like, you know, women my age or older like 35 to 65 whatever that I have worked with but now I'm getting younger women in their late teens early 20s Which is a really good sign and I'm really grateful for that opportunity to help prevent things in their life from going awry And so with those women, I'm trying very hard to to help encourage them It's not that they have to choose either or because you know, I it might seem like I'm saying don't Strive for you know a professional career. I'm not saying that I mean There is validity in having an intelligent woman who is successful But my whole point is do not let that interfere with your personal life Always make sure that your personal life with your, you know, if you're married or if you've got kids Don't let that take the place of your spouse and your family.   What can you win? What how do you need to prove yourself?  I hear a lot lately from women on the internet. They message me Usually sometimes in public, uh, you know people like you and others on twitter I follow about a lot of them in private instagram dms facebook dms things like that And a lot of them that there's actually a lot of women out there, you know surprise They actually really value motherhood and family and marriage and they're they're almost ashamed to say in public For whatever reason in the first place feminism and whatnot But even if they do speak up like on my facebook profile or whatever i'm posting about how stupid feminism is they get yelled at Yeah, I mean these it's just the internet. It's on your phone or your computer But it's like people will scream at them. These are their feminists and stuff and even men these white knights They think these are fake accounts and these are women that actually want to start, you know Because because what you're talking about it sounds to me a lot like just prioritization Which is what i'm advocating like i'm doing my speech at 22 con about motherhood first like america first so motherhood first And if you if a woman doesn't want to do that and prioritize motherhood at 23 years old and film information I'm not, you know, forcing you not to but I think for most of them a lot of them will be happier doing that Just due to biology and fertility and eggs and all these things like very simple stuff You can learn in high school that they're not taught anymore and they're they're told They're told the opposite with an agenda You know choice choice choice choice as long as you make the choice I want you to make And it's like I think that's actually not a good choice and this is a better choice in most circumstances or many circumstances So yeah, it's a better lot to me. It sounds like you just prioritization Yeah that and and I focus on vetting So really teaching women how to vet for a significant other Versus dating because I think dating is so subjective and you can you can learn a lot about a person prior to even meeting them Uh, you know, it used to be that things were arranged or your parents would sort of know somewhere on twitter Actually, I think yesterday or today. I might even pull that up.   They shouldn't just go on tinder and just bang whatever they want left and right No, definitely not. Get off tinder ladies.  I mean pull this up actually I say that a lot.  So what I teach women, which is actually really hard to explain is One you're going to be vetting for a partner and you might be getting to know people So you might be talking to someone on the phone You might have someone in your class that you know, you're friendly with but you're not dating them You're just getting to know them first and then once you identify who you actually like You need to sort of put all your eggs in that basket so to speak and Not pursue like you're pursuing him and he's not pursuing you but when that is pursued You are exclusive with them.  I think about earning exclusivity from men or is that a video you didn't have on your channel? Yeah, that got some attention too. I'm sure it did. These are not topics that young women are talking about How dare you even say that a woman should earn his exclusivity? Exactly. Exactly. This is the right Never never mind whatever you said in the video for however many minutes you went on about it You can't even talk about the subject because that's his trees into the vampire I mean, how dare you how dare a woman do anything to earn a man's affection or his exclusivity Or do anything to please him and make him happy like making the sandwich I was telling you that jenis kemengo jokes with me about that a lot because she knows it's just funny Which actually does it. She's actually married and she makes her husband sandwiches all the time Yeah, that's what they do and that's that's I think it's actually very positive I mean, and I've been posting pictures of of the the meals that I'm making and stuff and and that reporter Actually asked me something about that and like what does it mean to be a tradwife or whatever? And I do not consider myself that at all I I hope that that's not the impression that people have of me I consider myself more Like a middle grounds like I'm a modern woman who achieved the phd in a successful career But I've you know corrected the things that I needed to correct and I'm able to prioritize my relationship and my future family Right, so that's that's the way that you can you can kind of try to not have it all because I would do things differently If I could start over but I'm definitely not a tradwife so Yeah, I think it's important to You know, you don't have to be the one that cooks But I said this to to my to my group in my men's group They were asking about it. Is it a deal breaker if she doesn't cook? And I said it's one thing if she tries to cook She's not that great at it, but she wants to get better Then that's good if she refuses to cook And she wants to just go do things that you know, take her away from the the home or whatever Just to be selfish and self-indulgent.  Sorry that totally we have to boot you out now Actually, there's this guy. He's saying you should be a speaker at our next convention. Oh Well, that would be an honor Yeah, that would be uh, well, I'd get some flak for that We'll see and actually as I told you actually intend to have female speakers at 22 convention in the future after the inaugural one And I think it's gonna be a lot of fun We might do an all-womens one so the ultimate woman's explaining event I think that'll be pretty that would be really awesome to do the man's planning convention century And then follow it up with the woman's planning convention century Um, I love these terms. I love actually taking the feminist these toxic terms that they try to vilify us with And just beat them over the head with it. That's why that's why I did all that with the sales page Yeah, I yeah, I mean I get the marketing and the branding aspect to it But to me, I mean, I would never want to to to invade male space. See that's that's not my intention at all But I also think that like I went to one of my first sort of Manisphere events was um, Mike sternovich's guerrilla mine seminar in new york And that's when I met oldman originally and and alexander and dr. Ralph and mike and uh and ed And we had a great time and I was even sitting there thinking like these guys are great I would love to jump in and have a presentation as well because I mean I'm very trained in present presenting to groups of people with like law firms and accounting firms But they're all men partners and you know, so I know how to hold my own But I'm still feminine and female, but I think that if the opportunity arose I would just do my best and and I could you know try to to make it relevant to whoever was in the audience But I no longer feel Ultimately the need to go out and achieve Whereas I used to before and that's kind of where I've come to my balance as a woman that I feel like I've Proven myself and I didn't really need to do half the things that I did to prove myself But all that really matters to me is having a simple peaceful lifestyle With denis and being happy and healthy It's that simple Sounds like you're you're a victim of internalized patriarchy and misogyny. I'm I'm sorry. You have this condition. We have to cure you with It's horrible. It's what can I say? I want other people to experience it Yeah, it actually reminds me a few minutes ago. You were talking about the same concept Um, basically you said that you didn't want to speak to men From the perspective of being a man because obviously you're not a man And that actually makes a lot of sense to me And I got this I got a lot of flak from these women that hate, you know make them great again 22 convention and stuff And they're like, how dare you talk to women about being a woman? It's like One of the reasons I didn't do 22 conventions sooner because I had the idea in 2015 when I bought the domain and basically thought about doing a woman's convention I held off for five years on it because I didn't have the concept like this to where we could actually speak to women In a way that made sense Because they're not women. I have no idea.  I don't know now. I didn't know yesterday I won't know tomorrow or ever And I'm not the whole convention is not coming from that perspective. It's mansplaining So it's what it's what we think about women what we think about female nature what we're observing in culture Things that we think women get right they can say they get wrong today They've been the past that did better And you know also too like Janice Fimengo. She's focused a lot Observing what we're doing with this conference that it's just men having preferences men husbands and fathers Most of speakers are married and stuff And you know men of course know have an idea of what they want Sometimes women actually see better than that. They see through things But the end of the day it's it's men are just speaking up in public and we have preferences and opinions about this stuff And of course they can't stand that and that's really I think why the mansplaining thing was so triggering to them Because that was actually I think mansplaining as a concept has been used to weaponize or as a weapon To shut down all masculine voices in the west And especially in public public speaking entrepreneurs Politicians anything like that as a man you're not allowed to have an opinion about women I think one of the things that comes up is a healthy relationship with your father Right like I'm a and you might have seen what I posted today about my dad But I'm a girl who adored her father like I was just mesmerized and in an awe of who he was as a man And if he ever wanted to explain something to me, I would sit there and just absorb everything that he had to say And he's you know, high quality mansplaining Exactly. So for women who don't want that in their lives. I just feel like they had A bad relationship with their father or something happened that was probably traumatic and that needs to get resolved I agree. Yeah, I have two sisters that I love very much and they come to me We talk all the time and they ask me for advice even my older sister who's five years older than me She respects me as a man, especially now that we're both in our 30s And it's a very positive thing and to me that's that's basically the heart of mansplaining It's not all this, you know, who how it's so rare that you see a man talk condescendingly to a woman This is ridiculous.  I'm an uncle now Congratulations. Thank you. It's pretty awesome And um, yeah, it's it's a very positive thing against my feminists want to shut it down so hardcore They're very in my opinion. They have a philosophy of the zero.  I don't know how many years ago, but You'd look fondly in those memories and stuff Yes, and you know Just sort of segwaying back to the mansplaining like A woman who respects and admires her partner And he's mansplaining or whatever like the actual term is is just being a man and guiding and leading right Sometimes what a man will say might kind of you know Fall flat, but we still respect them and listen, you know, and so there's a there's a skill to that And that's just really about respect, you know When you respect someone they don't have to be right all the time But you hear them out and you have your chance to say your piece too But you're not going to interrupt each other You're not going to fight and struggle to like win an argument So you just have to be more mature most people are not Yeah, yeah, I would say that they basically defamed masculine voices like that and They've cartoonized them to be this like ridiculous condescending stuff Which is just not the case 95 of the time. Yeah, of course some things You know sometimes, you know if you're in a dick mood or something or you just pop off I mean there's a level of uh polarity between men and women that makes someone that's natural I think on occasion to happen But by far and large it doesn't happen in family relationships or in intimate relationships Unless it's toxic and unhealthy in which case you have a larger problem Yeah, and I talk a lot about um genuine desire and that comes from rollo a reference from his stuff, but I He stole it from david de angelo probably attraction is not a choice True But now I my piece is that I talk about how logic plus desire plus love equals an ideal relationship And that's really because we when we talk about genuine desire, we don't really talk about genuine interest And I thought your hair pergamy just controlled everything you did. Are you sure about that? I know, right? Well, I'm a divorced woman Later in life. So of course, you know, I don't know that whole story. It's it didn't make any sense to me then I understand what what it means, but men have similar tendencies. I know he's tried to debunk that But we all try to upgrade until we look at ourselves and we try to correct Ourselves and be the best person that we can be and recognize that we can only Require of other people what we do ourselves And when we realize that we become responsible and then we earn what we deserve And so until someone is willing to do that, they're going to be unhappy Yeah, this has been a fun conversation. I think we need to wind it down. I realize it's past four o'clock That's true. You too. You have a lot of appointments. Yeah Um, this has been a lot of fun. Uh, we should do it again sometime for sure And I look forward to meeting you this year at 22 convention. It's gonna be a good time Are you bringing your boyfriend, uh, Dennis? He said he's supposed to come so I mean that he's got to prioritize his family He's got two young nieces. So we'll see. Hopefully fingers crossed. Cool. Yeah, he's an uncle.  It is I appreciate your time everybody watching the channel I can go to her we'll put her twitter profile and website. It's already in the video description Check those out follow her on twitter or follow on instagram. We'll put a links Taylor, I appreciate your time. This has been genuinely like a lot of fun and pretty interesting You too Anthony. Thank you very much. Thank you the villain. Dr. Dr. Taylor Brooks Oh gosh I'll see you guys next time in the next live stream tune in tomorrow for the red band group with jack murphy and others And we'll see Taylor again probably in the channel in the future. We'll talk about more mansplaining and things like that Peace out guys. Thank you Taylor. Ciao


Alright, I'm walking out of the cave, or at least I'm on my way out of the cave, I'm not out of the cave yet. Let's get started with what's happening in the cave. So in the cave we've got shadows and we've got the puppets. So the shadows are just the appearances. And this is highly subjective knowledge. Nobody else has my appearances, everybody has their own appearances. So I'm looking over here, I have this thing here. So the appearances include all the sensory information. Not just the colors, I mean the colors are at least there, but not just the colors. So I've got some greens and some browns for this thing here and I'm going to go over and try and get some more appearances, some more shadows. So I've got the touch and it's rough. And actually some little pokey parts to it, so I've got a little bit of sharpness in there. Right? Oh, there's some thorns, that's the pokey part. There's smell. There's sound so I can knock it, well you can't really hear it, but there is some sound, there's some wrestling. There's some wrestling, want to do it. So all of these are appearances of that thing. That's the shadows. The cut out is the thing itself, is the thing itself. Now this is the subjective part of the knowledge. The only thing I know about that particular thing is subjective experience and in a sense that it's there. So I am sure all of those appearances are from that thing as opposed to that thing, that's a different thing right there. So the appearances, the shadows that I have, that's from that cut out. Appearances change. When the light comes out, the appearances on that will change some more. And when it gets dark it will really change. Right now there's still kind of a low level light, the sun still hasn't fully come out yet. So the appearances are different right now than supposed to later, as opposed to later. Even the smell, if there's more humidity in the air versus less humidity, the smell of that will change depending upon the season, if it's blooming, that appearance will change. So the shadows, it's just the appearances and the cut out is the thing itself. And it's still very subjective knowledge. I still don't know the particular object itself. I think for Plato it's fair to say you don't really know the thing, that particular thing itself. The only thing you can know objectively is form. And the reason is, think back to Russell, right? Russell gave us the distinction between appearance and reality. Shadows are caused by that thing, yeah. But it's distinct from the thing itself. It's caused by that thing. The shadows are caused by that thing, but are distinct from the thing itself. And I can't experience the thing itself. I can't get that thing into my head. I can only, only the appearance, only what it causes is in my head, all right. So the next step in the allegory is the form. It's the form of tree. It's what all and only these things have in common. So it's this tree, any other trees that we've seen along the way. And you notice there's a wide variety of trees along the way, a wide variety. Some have leaves, some have needles, some have a singular trunk, some have multi-trunk. Some are tall, some are short, some are young, some are old. There's a whole wide variety of these trees that we can see if we just go outside and take a look at them. And the form is what they all have in common, all trees, all and only trees. I mean, trees are also plants, right? So plants are a different kind of thing, or not different, but not every plant is a tree. Every tree is a plant, but not every plant is a tree. So it's all and only trees that makes up the form tree. And the form is independent of that thing. And through the use of reason, through the use of reason, I know the form objectively.  No, that's subjective knowledge. It's objective knowledge. I have access using my mind, using reason to the form itself. So now we're outside the cave, we're dealing with the solid object, right, the particular things. And I'm sorry, we're outside the cave, we're dealing with the solid objects and the allegory the solid objects represent the form. So I contemplate form, I learn what I can about the form of tree by finding out what trees have in common, not any particular tree. You know, this is kind of worth pointing at, right, worth mentioning at least for a second. The form of tree does not look like any particular tree. That's a tree. That's a particular tree. Not all trees look like that. As I said, there's a wide variety of these trees. Some are short, some are tall, some are multi-trunk, some are single-trunk, some have leaves, some have needles. The form of tree does not look like any particular tree because it's what trees have in common. The form of tree doesn't look like anything, right, looks like are just appearances. Looks like it's just an appearance. There's an appearance, okay. That looks like a tree but not all trees. Not what all trees have in common. So this is kind of the weird thing about form. If you try to imagine form, try to imagine the form of tree, you're not imagining the form of tree. You're imagining probably a particular tree. I'm going to guess an oak. It's probably the first thing that comes to mind. It looks like an oak but not every tree looks like an oak. And there's even differences amongst oaks when you start looking at the particulars. So again, it's worth reading. The form of tree doesn't look like any particular tree. Now if it's not appearances, Plato is saying, then it's objective knowledge, it's knowledge of the form. Not just that, okay. So the next step, right, so we've got the shadows, that's the appearances. The next step is the puppets, right, that's a particular thing, I went up and felt a particular thing, got a good look at it, that's knowledge of the particular thing, but this is still subjective knowledge. The next step is form, hold on, now we're getting to the object of knowledge. It's because it's not appearances anymore. That's what everything has in common. All and only trees have in common. And that's not an appearance, that's comprehension, that's known through reason and it's objective knowledge. I know the form, not just me or what I think about it, not just an appearance, but I know the form. Okay, so we're still with the allegory. We talk about the shadows, the cutouts, and the solid objects outside. Shadows are the appearances, the cutouts represent particular objects, the solid objects outside represent form. But how does that get us to the sun? How does that get us to the good, the true, and the beautiful? I mean, it seems like a pretty big leap, right, from trees to the sun. Well, it is, it is a big leap. So I mean, this is what Plato has in mind. Now remember, you know, forms are the universal of what everything has in common, or what these things have in common. So we're talking about the form of tree, it's what all trees have in common.  These are not the form of tree, these are our particular trees. And there's still a wider variety of trees than what we see here. Okay, so suppose we understand the form of tree, how do we get to the sun? Well, there are more forms beside that, even the form of tree belongs to a form, right, plant. There are more kinds of plants than just trees. There's a wide variety of them. Some have needles, some have leaves, some have stems, some don't, some have trunks, some don't have any of these things at all. Or you know, some don't have stems or leaves at all. Okay, so we have the wider form of plant, which doesn't look like any particular plant. It's what you comprehend, not what you see. Okay, so suppose you have worked your way up from tree to plant, that's great. You're understanding more and more abstraction, more and more meaning, more and more form. Okay, so we have tree to plant, well, plant belongs to a form, right? It's living, it's a living thing. And there are more living things than plants. And we got animals of various kinds, lots of different kinds of animals. We got mammals, we got reptiles, we got fish, we got birds, avids. And you know, it's just the ones that we can see, right? I didn't even talk about the microbial animals, insects, right? These are also animals. So there's a lot that you can do to understand all those forms, even the particular kinds of mammals, dog, cat, horse, particular kinds of reptiles, snake, gecko, salamander, lizard, other kinds of birds, mockingbird, eagle, sparrow, finch, different fish, salmon, trout, tuna. You understand all these forms working from the particular things to their form and working way up in abstraction, from tree to plant to living. Well there are more kinds of things than living things, right? We can start talking about just all of corporeal things, right? We'll be making a bit of a jump here, but yeah, it's a jump. So there's all kinds of corporeal things that are not alive. Rocks, dirt, stars, clouds, mountains, valleys, rivers, oceans. All of these things are not alive, yet they're corporeal. What do all these corporeal things have in common? There's something that they have in common that makes them all and only corporeal things. And then, you know, even corporeal things, we're talking about existing things. This play that's going to say the forms exist. In fact, they're a higher form of existence than the particular things. After all, these particular things come and go, but the form doesn't. And you might have difficulty grasping onto that one, but you know, keep in mind, we've got forms of things that no longer, there's no longer particular cases. So dinosaurs, right over the sledge, in fact, we can see dinosaur tracks. There are no more dinosaurs, but there's still the meaning, the essence of dinosaur. So if we keep working up an abstraction, right, we can have all of the forms. And there's lots of different kinds of forms. We've got mathematics, logic. I mean, just countless forms that consider just within there. And even with mathematics, I mean, if you want to consider all of geometry with the math, that's fine. But there's even more sorts of mathematics beyond geometry. There's just simply the numbers themselves. The relationships between them, working on up from arithmetic to algebra, trigonometry, calculus. There's lots and lots of non-corporeal forms. Non-corporeal means not having a physical existence. And you keep working your way up in abstraction until finally, Plato says, that's when you understand true. Existence, good, beauty. For Plato, these are not four different terms. The good, the true, and the beautiful, and being, right? They're all the same thing. Existence just is truth. Existence just is goodness. Existence just is beauty. And when you understand all of that, you're working your way up in abstraction from the particulars up to the form, to the more abstract, higher up to the forms all the way up. That's how you work your way to the sun. And then that's when you understand everything.


Hey guys, what is up? Welcome to my channel. So for today's video, I have a really exciting and kind of different for my channel video I'm going to be ranking all of the Natasha Genona Palace that I own for my least favorite to my most favorite Now I'm not taking credit for this video idea one of my favorite youtubers Kelsey Brianna J She actually did this video and I just thought it was so cute Such a good idea and me being the avid Natasha Genona fan that I am I wanted to do it too I dm'd Kelsey on Instagram and told her how much I love the video idea and was like hey I think I'm gonna do it like are you cool with that and she was like of course. She's so sweet if you like my videos I think you will love her videos too. She is hilarious She reviews a lot of similar products to me and then so much more she reviews such awesome things So if you haven't already checked her channel out do so I will link the video down below in the description box So after you watch that be sure to subscribe to her because she's so awesome. She's one of my favorites Anyways, blah blah blah blah blah. I'm going to go into my rankings now. This is pretty hard There was a few that I was like you'll see what I have planned. They're all laid out in front of me So my least favorite palette. This is a little mini guy. This is the mini sunset palette I just felt like this did not match up with her normal formula If you want a taste of Natasha Genona, this really isn't her true formula I don't really like it to be honest these are really good for travel So like when I'm going somewhere I do kind of just throw these in my bag They're only $25 so if I lose it or breaks. It's not that big of a deal My second to last favorite is the cranberry palette I will link my review on this guy down below so you can see kind of why I'm putting this second to last It's not that bad in this color right here. It's absolutely stunning I just feel as though the quality didn't match up to my expectations and you'll see the problems I had with these two shadows in particular They just look so different on my eyelid than what they looked like in the pan and I've dug through these shadows I've continued to try and use them, but unfortunately they just didn't work out that great for me. Oh, yeah Unfortunately, this is not one of my favorite palettes from her So you're gonna notice all the mini palettes are kind of in the back for me, but I have the mini star palette I actually one of the only palettes from Natasha Denona that I don't have is the big star palette But I did pick this guy up. Don't get me wrong. This palette is actually gorgeous I really love how tiny it is and I do really like the color schemes the mattes and these are awesome It's just again not the Natasha Denona quality that she has in all of her palettes. It's not that I don't like this It's just ranking wise. This isn't the top for me. Palettes are so expensive And this is only $25 I kind of would hope this would be in the back And then of course I have the mini Lila palette. This one is definitely my favorite of the three I don't find the quality of this to be too bad This color is a little bit disappointing, which is kind of the centerpiece of the palette However, it's not bad But again same reasons for the other too many palettes just not my favorite But they're so pretty good, you know, and I do love to travel with these. All right So next up I actually have the Tropic palette now this palette a lot of people were having issues with I personally love the color scheme of this guy I love all the different colors. I love these top two rows. This lemon cello color is gorgeous However, I did find that some of these bottom shadows. They just didn't they just weren't that good to be honest like this exotic color I really can't get much pigmentation off of it same with tiger lily goose tea I was kind of disappointed by I feel like this was kind of an experimental palette for Natasha Denona where she was trying out a different formula and things like that kind of repackaging her products and Honestly, I like it and I was able to make such gorgeous looks in this palette is extremely inspiring to me But quality wise it just falls short for how much it is So I still like it like I said But if I'm putting them in rankings with all her other palettes This one just isn't close to the top for me next this one actually might surprise you guys And now we're getting to the point where I actually really do like all these palettes But I did have to rank them and it was giving me serious anxiety But this is where this guy fell for me personally. This is the sunset palette and for a lot of people I know this is going to be their favorite. I Personally am not super duper into warm tone eyeshadows. I of course like them But this is honestly a little bit too warm for my personal liking I don't know these just for me aren't colors I grab for every day Which is why I'm putting it where it is but honestly the quality of this is super good It's me not the palette, but if you're into these super hot orange hot warm colors You actually will really enjoy this palette because the quality is great color scheme wise I just don't go for it that often all right next. They have one of her newer palettes This is the safari palette and I feel like this caused a lot of questioning for the brand This is an all matte palette. I reviewed it. I personally like that I actually reviewed it twice on my channel just to give it a second try Now the reason this isn't at the top for me is just because it is an all matte palette So I don't reach for it as often, but I do love these mattes. I love the color scheme here It makes me feel very inspired and really I just want to try so many different looks with this palette So I do quite enjoy a lot. It's just one of those. I'm a shimmer girl So this lacks the shimmers. So that's why it is where it is But I really like the quality of this and I really like the colors in this It's just so many other Natasha Denona palettes. They are very very shimmer base, which is why I think I like them so much But this matte one I like and I'm very inspired by it And I like mixing it with a lot of other palettes and a lot of other like cream shadows glitter shadows on top While using that palette super awesome. All right next we have the lila palettes If you know me, you know, I love my pinks and purples I mean, this is the amazing regular Natasha Denona formula You will not to be disappointed with this palette if you like these colors now It's not my top palette because I feel like with this I do want a little bit more variety in the colors I just feel like these all kind of stay in the same tone and depth I just think adding a little bit more different pops would make this a better palette though I do love this palette the looks I come out with it aren't super creative So for me for personal every day use I like it But when I do want to get super creative with my looks, this isn't the palette that I go for it Just always creates a really pretty smudgy purpley mauve look But sometimes I just want to be a little bit more creative and inspired So honestly this palette doesn't really inspire me, but it's really really gorgeous and I love the quality of it Moving on these were limited edition from the holiday collection last year, but I am going to count them as one Look how gorgeous these are these are amazing 5 pan palettes I wasn't too crazy about her holiday one this year, but the ones from last year are super stunning If somehow or some way you can get your hands on these palettes, I would definitely recommend them I don't know. I just think even though there's just these 10 colors They're so inspiring you can create so many looks and I just was really in love with this holiday release I honestly don't think these sold out that well because they were sold on Sephora for forever And I don't know why because they are gorgeous and I still use them a lot like so inspired by them All right, next I have the 28 purple blue palette now these 28-pan palettes are kind of I feel like what put Natasha on the map as far as her formulation goes because these are the Oh gee absolute amazing formula. These aren't mad expensive, but look at this now This was the first 28 pan I was attracted to because obviously purples I now think that I've had it for a while. It actually is pretty difficult for me to use on an everyday basis I of course do use it a lot. I actually wore this to my college graduation But like I said, you do have these blue tones which aren't something that I wear a ton And of course I say this as I am wearing blue eyeshadow on my lid And I also do kind of find it difficult because I feel like this lacks the crease shades that I usually tend to go for But that being said like it's still gorgeous in it. It's one of my top faves I just love the 28-pan palette if you can save up or get this for 20% off I would totally recommend that you do it because these palettes are so awesome And honestly, they're the best of the best for Natasha next of course I have the other 28-pan palettes and this is the green and browns now I wanted the purple blue one way more But now that I have this I actually like this one a little bit better just because it's a little bit more me I actually I really like all of the green toned eyeshadows as well And this just has like a lot of browns here that make it more wearable and the shimmers in here are too Dye for I just wow this palette is definitely Wow, honestly this palette kind of leaves me speechless. I'm just gonna let the colors do the talking You can take a look at it and you will see what I'm talking about and why I absolutely love this palette and honestly me Showing you on camera how pretty it is Doesn't do this palette justice if you ever get the chance to see this palette in person You will even see even more what I'm talking about because these are literally 30 times more beautiful in person Also, if you have these two that makes it a lot easier for you if you become a collector for the brand because she has a lot of five pamphlets that looks stunning, but actually a lot of them are just a Bunch of these colors put into little five pamphlets. So if you have these two you're basically set for her collection If I'm being honest, okay, so my number one favorite palette from Natasha Denona. It's her newest palette I just did a review on it. I said it's my new favorite palette from her And what's funny is that I almost didn't buy it because I was like I have every single color that that palette has to Offer but no, well, yes a lot of these colors I do have but the formulation and some of these shadows is just so unique and the ones that aren't unique They're the Natasha Denona formula that I love the same That's in the 28 pans and this is just such an easy palette to you So if you're running late, this is a palette that I honestly would go for the shadows are going to blend beautifully and it just I don't know.  It is the gold palette I don't even want to show you because it's way more beautiful when you use it in person Because honestly these colors like you feel like you have them But once you swatch them and you use them and you see how easy they are to use how easy they are to create a look And also how easy it is to create a unique look with this like this is my favorite honestly truly my favorite So if you're gonna get one palette from Natasha Denona, I would recommend this but of course look into her 28 pan palettes as well They are absolutely Phenomenal like had I not purchased this these two would be my favorite But I did purchase this and it did knock my socks off So had to mention this is number one the best palette ever if you're curious about my eye look By the way, I'm not wearing any Natasha Denona palettes. I'm so sorry But I'm working on my tutorials for my opulence collection from Pat McGrath. So I'm thinking of doing Pat McGrath version of this if you guys would be interested. Anyways, anyways, I will see you guys in the next video Remember to subscribe and do the whole shebang and I will see you guys in the next video. Bye