Welcome to Dare to Dream. This is Debbie Daschinger, and this is your number one transformation conversation. We, for some reason, continue to be trending in St. Lucia. Like, it's been going on for months, and I just want to say thank you to St. Lucia for receiving this message and to all the people who tune in weekly to hear this show. Dare to Dream has been nominated for two People's Choice podcast awards for a Webby Award, and we were just featured in WELP Magazine. Dare to Dream was listed as one of the best 20 podcasts you must listen to in 2021. So thanks for being here. This show is sponsored by Dr. Dane Here and Access Consciousness. They do beautiful and exquisite energy work out into the world. You want to catch them if you want to be a facilitator or go to one of their classes, Dr. DaneHereHER.com and AccessConsciousness.com. I'm Debbie Daschinger. I teach entrepreneurs and coaches and speakers and business owners the time effective action steps to write a highly engaging book, turn each author's book into a guaranteed international bestseller, and I show you how to book yourself podcast and radio guest interview spots so you can do what you do with visibility and ease out into the world. I have a free set of videos, a sheet with tips so that you can start being interviewed and get your message out to the world. Go to debbiedaschinger.com slash gift. It's D-E-B-B-I, D is in David, A-C-H-I-N-G-E-R.com slash gift. This episode today is on emotional healing and spiritual guidance to live your best life. My guest today is Leah Guy, a new thought leader and expert in emotional healing and personal development. She's authored three books, The Latest Being, this one, which I just read, Overcoming Toxic Emotions, a practical guide to building better relationships with yourself and others. Leah uses her personal triumphs over sexual abuse, addiction, anxiety, and eating disorders along with more than two decades of experience and private practice, working with clients and organizations to help people transform their lives. She's a sought after inspirational speaker and course instructor on daily own and insight timer and teaches people how to access their full potential by addressing and clearing repressed trauma and emotional memory. A national media personality, Leah has appeared on hundreds of top outlets as an expert on meditation, the mind-body connection, energy medicine and emotional and spiritual healing. If you would like to learn more about Leah Guy, go to her website, leahguy.com and also iTunes, check out the Modern Sage podcast. And with that, I bring Leah to the show. Leah Guy, it's so great to have you here. Thanks for joining us. Thank you so much. That bio really makes me sound good. Bios are great, aren't they? They are, they remind you of the journey you've done for so long. I love, whenever I get a new book, I always look at someone's bio, you know, you can just tell so much and it's the snapshot of all the great things, right? But we leave out all the other parts of our humanity from those bios. So thank you for reading that and sharing that with your listeners. Absolutely. One of the things actually that caught me in your bio and this is where I want to start is how you are an expert in recognizing and clearing repressed trauma and emotional memory. So pretty fascinating expertise. Are you the kind of person who could go to a social engagement or enter a room and actually identify people who maybe would pass to others as normal and say that person has trauma? Would you be able to detect that, Mother People? Often, yes. And I try not to do that so much, you know, but I think when I first started my private practice, I started in physical body work, although I had trained in mind body, energy work and meditation and channeling and all of that before I even was trained in the body work. But when I was doing the body work, what came to me was when I was in the presence of a person and in particular when I had my hands on or near them, I would receive information.  So I kind of early on learned that I must put up my own healthy boundaries so that I don't, I'm not doing that all the time, you know, but it is something that I think I'm quite good at sometimes with clients. And also I feel like it's a gift, a spiritual gift, but not one that's special to me. I think many of us can have gifts like this or similar. So yeah, it's interesting to read energy and to read how the body is responding to our energy patterns and everything from our facial expressions to our movements to our, you know, just auric field, it's all there. Yeah, indeed. And I like that you bring into the mix sensitives and impacts because people can really relate to that. Most of us can go into a room and identify a lot of things. Yeah. Yeah, and so besides perceiving, let's talk about this amazing book, overcoming toxic emotions. So one, in one of the chapters you write, most toxic emotions are developed from false beliefs attached to a core wound that have manifested in depth that's actually so powerful, should be read twice. How do these unhealthy emotions, Leah, become solidified in our system? What's happening? Yeah, so oftentimes it starts when we're very young in our developmental years and it can sound very much like psychology or just how we start to perceive reality. But when we have difficult emotions or difficult experiences when we're young, we create a belief system that may or may not be true. Certainly at the time it's true for us because that's the only reality that we know. But we're taking information from other people or from our own perceptions, which a five-year-old's perceptions are very limited at that time, our own emotional state of being and our beliefs that we're creating from those emotional states, meaning I don't feel good, I don't feel safe, something's wrong here, I'm not good enough, they like my sister better, whatever the belief is. And all of that starts to form a belief system, what I call in the book an emotional imprint, like a matrix around us, within us and through us that turns into our operating system, how we just kind of subconsciously function from day to day. And because we're not taught when we're young how to process these emotions or even what they are, often we experience small traumas all throughout our childhood, that feeling of being overwhelmed, alone, unsure of what we feel, unsupported in what we feel, and we don't know what to do with it. So it really creates this environment within our psyche and within our energy bodies and our physical bodies that can be very difficult to move through and change. And then we hold onto those fears or those false beliefs or those insecurities. And then all of a sudden, not only are we operating from them, but we hold so firmly to those beliefs about who we are that we're unable to move into our dreams, to accomplish things that we wanted to, to have relationships that we'd like to have. We're just kind of repeating those imprints. So it's really important to understand. Yeah, you named in your list of descriptives for this kind of imprint and where it harkens from you talked about feeling safe. And I just wanna go there. I literally had a conversation with somebody about this, about feeling safe or unsafe. And it was very fascinating because it was a man and he said, I don't even understand that. I don't recognize that. I've never not felt safe in my life. So I was wondering if you could weigh in on that. Is that a feminine quality that often, not always, but often women will have a tendency more to feel unsafe for certain reasons in the world or how would you, if you had this man in front of you, how would you explain what happens when one feels unsafe? What is the unearthing, the childhood, the wound that creates that? And then how is it manifested out here? Well, I think it's very individualistic. So it's a big question. And perhaps that gentleman has an experience what he would classify as feeling unsafe, but probably if we spent more time with him, he probably has other core wounds such as the ego wound or shame wound or guilt or some other wound that is manifesting in different ways in his life. But I think it can be equal for women or men, that feeling of not being safe. And really it can start from, not feeling like we belong to the family unit, having upheaval and unrest in the household, addictive parents, parents who fight all the time, a parent who travels all the time, a split family. You know, so many different elements can come to play and especially in different cultures, you know, how different families live and the expectations and so forth. So there's so many different elements that can be at play, but the general feeling is just kind of an inherent unease of stability, you know, of it's not necessarily safety that someone's going to harm me. It's just feeling grounded and stable in one's own body and space. And so, you know, that for me is where we, most all of us need to start because we can feel safe, you know, in our homes and our apartments, we can feel safe driving and flying. You know, we can have that kind of very survivalistic kind of safe feeling, but emotionally safe, that's another conversation. And that feeling emotionally unsafe, it stops so many people from having healthy relationships, being vulnerable, tapping into their creativity, you know, trusting yourself a million things in our lives come from that place of safety. Yeah, okay, thank you. That's, it's such an interesting subject. I know. It really is. And I just wonder how many people are resonating with this or never would have identified before hearing this. You also go into self-talk, critical, hateful, self-sabotaging internal dialogue. Can you share if you have Leah a story of a client who maybe lived in lack and lack also of worth, but somehow transformed their situation into a healthy relationship with their selves? Sure, the one that just came to mind popped in my head was a woman client I was working with who wanted to get pregnant. And she and her husband had been trying to get pregnant for years, and she wanted nothing more than to be a mother. Well, she was harboring and holding on to such deep fears of worth, of her being a good parent, of her feeling safe in her own body, of being able to go through the birthing process. She was holding on to guilt of wanting to stay connected to her career and her autonomous life and what she'd built up. She had so many different emotional constrictions that were going on. Now, we could talk about those on a surface level and cognitively know, okay, well, maybe I'm scary. Everybody's nervous to be a first-time parent or we all have worth issues, what have you. But when we really look deeper into the energy body and into the emotional body, into this imprint, this false belief that's been there for so long. Now, her started because her father abandoned the family, her mother struggled, her mother put a lot of pressure on everyone in the family to help out, accuse the father of abandoning everyone. There was just these seeds of fear and over expectations that were implanted there. So after several sessions, several months of working with her and helping to safely become vulnerable to a different feeling experience and to clear some of those old beliefs, she was able to literally open herself, open her second and third chakra, relax in that area, unclench that constricted energy and within weeks she was pregnant. And for her, it was a miracle and it sounds like a miracle, but it's not a miracle. It's how we work and so often you take that story and then apply it to how our brain functions and how often we get locked down and constricted with anxiety and worry and overwhelm, it's the same thing, right? And so everybody's trying all these tools and all these things to just fix the mind, but I keep saying, we have to go the emotional body. We have to go the emotional body. We have to get in touch with our feelings because the mind and the emotional body are in constant communication. So I can work all day long and meditate myself to death and go to all the therapists and just be very heady and flighty. A lot of times people get more ungrounded through that process or we can utilize those tools, but also start asking those really deep, important questions of where do I not feel enough? Where do I lack trust in myself? Where am I terrified of opening my life to another creature and being vulnerable and being seen and being loved, right? Those are the questions. Somebody who's listening, who's fascinated by this and is like, I'd like some of that, please. How can they identify the root causes of their biggest problems? Is there a way, a method that people can self describe what's happening? Well, so in my first book, The Fearless Path, each chapter kind of goes by energy center and that wasn't necessarily on purpose, it just kind of built out that way. And I have lists of symptoms, both physical symptoms and emotional symptoms. Of course, that's not the end all be all, it's not a diagnostic tool, but it certainly is a good place to start and go, oh, I'm familiar with this, this, this, this, this, and kind of go through and do a checklist for yourself. And you probably with just a little amount of reading will start to lock on to the area that needs some attention. Yeah, this book as well, Overcoming Toxic also has several identifying lists that one can go through. I just used the highlighter as I went through to start seeing where I sat. And you also have this three step method, if you will, that helps to quiet negative thoughts, helps to eliminate bad behaviors. Can you take us through what those three steps are? Sure, it sounds very simple. It's acknowledge, accept, and take an action. And I have steps and acronyms and I know people love that stuff, but it's overdone in my opinion. However, I think to make it really simple, we need simple tools to remind us when we're in the throes of discomfort or panic, you know, what can I do right now? So the first thing is to acknowledge what you're feeling in this moment, not the expectation of what you think you're gonna feel, not the repetitive pattern that you used to feel, but what is actually showing up right now? And that's a very big step because so much of the time, we're just on autopilot and we've decided how we're gonna feel before we even, you know, get into the conversation or onto the highway or whatever. So we acknowledge that. And then the acceptance piece is the critical, is the critical element. And the acceptance isn't just saying, okay, I can accept that I don't, that I'm anxious right now or I can accept that I have this self-sabotaging pattern. The acceptance that is, you know, a full commitment to acceptance is being, holding it with such love and tenderness that we can carry it with us, you know, carry it with us, not try to get rid of it, accept it in the way of, this is mine and it's uncomfortable and I may not love this but I fully with my heart accept and I have compassion for myself of what's going on right now. And then the action piece, I know, right?   Sometimes the action is doing something forward moving that will, you know, step us into a different vibrational pattern. So those are the steps. Yeah, I don't know why that, it really, the second one of all felt so powerful to me because sometimes these things can manifest rather ugly, right? Yes, they are ugly. We were replicating something our parents did that we abhorred in them and oh my God, it's showing. And there's something that we're doing because we're in a loop, right? And that loop, this paradigm feels real. Yeah. It will matter that it isn't or anybody could step in and say, please, you know, are you telling yourself stories or this isn't so, it is real to the person who's wounded. And I speak from experience, right? I know this intimately. And to get out of that is tremendous. I can feel the power when you say, you know, this compassion and this kindness that you're even in this situation or this emotional imprint at the time. Yeah. It's probably the nicest thing. And so once you do these three A's, you acknowledge, you accept, and then you take action. What is the next way that you start to manage something? So it doesn't, you know, it doesn't become like the insane people are taking over the asylum, that you're not just on this trajectory, but that somehow you can rein it in and start to really make progress. Well, hopefully with those steps, you feel some kind of shift, which, you know, we're aiming for a little relief, right? We're aiming for a different feeling sensation. I hope we talk about vibration and frequency in our conversation today. But I'm gonna give you the perfect example. This just happened to me today, okay? This happened this morning. I was driving to the gynecologist. And I know at the gynecologist, nothing terrible happens normally, right? It's unpleasant, but it's no big deal. But I'm driving there and I start getting so anxious. I haven't had that kind of anxiety in years, years. Well, guess what? Because of COVID and everything else, I haven't been to the doctor in years. Now I have a trauma response from going to the doctor when I was five years old, had a hernia, you know, the whole thing. So I, you know, we think when we're not triggered and we're not in the moment, we're done with that. But guess what? That memory, that imprint, that situation can come back at any time. So I'm driving. I'm anxious. I recognize that I'm anxious. I call my boyfriend. I'm like, wow, I'm more anxious right now that I've been in a long time. And I start rattling off all the reasons why. I keep going. I go to the doctor, go into the room. And I decided to do something to apply the steps, you know, to do something that maybe I wouldn't have done five years ago. I sat with it. I had compassion for myself. I almost wanted to cry. It was just that kind of like feeling. And then I said to the nurse, she said, how are you? And I said, I'm really anxious. And I almost cried again. And I told her why I was anxious. And I laughed out of myself. And that was my kind of step of action. And the doctor came in. And it turned into a beautiful doctor's visit. And it helped me shift that imprint and that fear and trauma response. Maybe it's not all gone now, but it's certainly helping me shift out of that more and more each time. So that's a way when we can acknowledge what's going on and accept it to the point of compassion and some self love, and then do something, talk about it, share it, journal about it, do whatever you need to do, take care of yourself in the moment, right? Then we find the relief. And now we're on a different trajectory than we are if we just hold it, sit in the car and hold it and have a panic attack, right? So that's kind of an example of how it can relieve and process through is maybe more the accurate response. I like so much, too, that I know that wasn't your goal. Your goal is to be vulnerable, take care of yourself, share with the receptionist what was going on. But what a great result that it actually transformed the appointment. Doctor ends up being more compassionate than maybe would have been otherwise. And you have a good visit and a healing as well. Exactly, yeah. And I think that's ultimately what we're all looking for is just to relieve the pressure of that pain, that pain point, whether it's self-sabotage, the inner critic, that ugly voice, the addiction, the eating, the argument in our relationship. It's all a manifestation of these old programs that we have just trying to defend so that we don't hurt again. So you mentioned you hope that we're going to talk about vibration. Yes. That's all you've got to say to me. I am your genie. You say it, it is done. Let's do that. I'm fascinated. Let's talk about vibration and frequency. Great.  And essentially, attached to those emotional imprints when we're younger in our developmental years, we have a feeling sensation that goes with that imprint. Now, on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being terrible, 10 being, I think I'm an angel, life cannot be better, I ask people in the book to summarize or sum up how you might feel, or how you would feel if you remember back to when you were age four, five, six, seven, eight, what have you, and to get as honest as possible. Most people are in the range of two to five. That's most people. And that's even if you didn't have a trauma or a difficult childhood. And so let's say we're vibrating at around a four. Now, that frequency, which I'm calling a four for simplistic reasons, but that frequency has a certain tone to it and quality to it that emits from us. And if you talk about law of attraction, if you're interested in law of attraction, everyone's working to manifest and attract greater things in life. Well, what we attract is what vibrates at the same frequency. Now, what's tricky about this is a lot of people like seekers, spiritual seekers, people on the transformational journey or what have you, they do a lot of work to try to raise their vibe, but they haven't done the work to heal or raise their emotional imprint, that baseline vibration that we function from. So I can maybe show up to my work or my yoga class and feel like an eight. But in my personal life and the way I'm functioning, I'm gonna revert right back to a four. And that's what I'm gonna attract experiences that help me feel like a four. In fact, I call it addiction to emotion because even though we want to get out of that four, we don't know how, we don't know how to sustain it. We only know how to grab for things, try to feel better in the moment, right? We go on diets and we go to yoga retreats and we meditate and we read all the memes that help us feel better. But how do we really sustain a higher feeling than the four? And that's why the rest of the book talks about self-love, boundaries, creating trust in yourself, measures to build your self-confidence and truly know who we are, to operate from like, reparent our inner child. All of that is part of learning how to elevate and sustain a higher vibration. We go from a four to a 4.1, frustrating. I know, we don't go to a 10. We can go to a 10, but we're gonna snap right back to a four. And then eventually we move on up and then suddenly we feel like a five or a six. And then we have desires to eat. To take those even more. And then we are manifesting, attracting people in situations that feel a higher quality or a better feeling for us. And we're making more money and we believe in ourselves and we ask for the more money. So it's all relative based on the vibration, the frequency that we feel inside of us. Is this difficult to do for most people? Yes. I would think if one has an imprint and that's what you know, right? This is all of what you know and you're trying to break out of that to a reality you're not yet familiar with, you may dream of and desire, but that seems quite a leap. It is, it is. And it's one of those things like a diet, if you sustain it and it no longer becomes a diet, it's a lifestyle, now it's much more doable. We have the tools, we implement them, we integrate things into our life and we stay the course. And it is, it's a process. That's why I think we call it a journey. It's not a trip. It's like, it's this, it's this journey, because here we go.  Here's the trigger again. Here's the anxiety again. Here's the trauma again. And how can I position myself to respond differently to that and trust myself and repair it myself and create boundaries and all. So for a lot of people, especially that are just starting on their self-help, self-healing journey, you know, it's really important to maybe create boundaries, like with your family, for example, doesn't mean you don't love them, it doesn't mean you don't see them, but it means that you make sure you have enough of your own time and space and room to explore and discover and take care of yourself, learn to trust yourself, learn to create your own life so that you're not constantly getting those feedback loops, you know, that we've had prior to our adulthood. Sometimes that's very helpful for a person, but, you know, it is, it is challenging. And I think that's why, you know, people give up or we just get on the kind of the spiritual bypassing loop where we're just talking about it all the time, but we're not really doing anything about it. Yeah, well, you yourself healed yourself. You know, it's in your bio, but it's also you read about it in the book and pretty detailed emotional, physical addictions. What was your journey, obviously ongoing, but what was the catapult for you and what sustained you through your journey to get to where you are now? Well, you know, it's hard because the chronology of it is over 40 years, right? I'm 49 now. So, but I think when I was raped, that was my bottom. I had gone through already the anxiety, the eating disorders, the family dysfunction, my aunt was murdered, you know, so many things that happened. And then by the time I was 21, that's when I was raped and I literally could not function. I just, I was a mess. I was drinking myself awake and asleep. I was, you know, taking all the antidepressants. I was doing the therapy. I was, I was just a mess. And luckily, fortunately, a friend of mine knew that I was a mess and recommended the school, the School of Enlightenment and Healing. They're no longer in operation, but they were in California. And I went for my own help, you know, but it was really a school to learn in order to help others. But I went to understand a different approach because I had always felt very connected to energy and angels and God and prayer and, you know, meditation and so forth. I'd always felt very connected that, very interested in health and wellness and holistic living. And so I went to the school and I learned so much. And not only did I learn, it was a place talking about safety. It was a place where I could allow other people to be near me and even somewhat touch me without me feeling terrorized or violated. And so that energy approach was really helpful for me. And then I just continued learning from there.  And it is the amount of money and time I've spent on breathwork and, you know, all the different courses and classes and healers and teachers and therapists, right? Am I wrong? You're so right. I'm in it right now. Yeah. Oh God, it's outrageous. I mean, literally three quarters of my any income I've made goes to that stuff. But you know what? I've just, I have surrendered to it because it keeps me on engaged and balanced, you know? But I tried it all. I did it all. And some of it wasn't that helpful, but it all educated me. And with that education and understanding, it gave me more confidence in what was actually happening. I didn't feel out of control anymore, you know? I didn't feel like the anxiety or the addictions were outside of me. I learned how that they were inside of me. Then I learned how to sit with them and observe them and be in pain and all of that, you know? It comes from, and I don't wanna tell if someone they have to do all the different therapies, but it can be a lot of work. Yes, not for the faint of heart, is it? But I don't know. I just also wonder sometimes, I've always been one of those people, you know?  Because anything's better than pain. Yeah. You know, what's the alternative? There's no way. If I'm in pain, if something's not working and if I'm the same common denominator in every party and clearly it's originating for me, I feel like how could I not take this on? And I also have a really strong belief that if it is coming up, meaning if there's this enormous painful experience, it's there to be healed. It is an opportunity. And I live my life that way and I know it's not common, but I agree. I'm in it right now. I just hired someone, I was like, you charge what? And then I was mitigating my own circumstances and saying, you know, I've been seeing this other healer. I think I'll end it with them and I'll just carry on here. And it's only because there is something very prevalent, unexpected that popped and I can't just pretend it's not there and go on because I will replicate it again in this life or in another life. And I'm not, I'm done, right? God gave it to me, these broad shoulders because God, God has things I can handle it, okay. So, you know, I was with the other healer and then the original healer who had been on a trip and came back and we had this enormous session, like huge, really so important the timing that I was able to release so much and finally, finally get on a road. We really pop something big. And then I'm thinking in my head, what are you gonna do? You're gonna have to really see both right now. It's just everything warrants this and that's it, yeah. Well, good for you. I applaud your effort. That's awesome and I know it's a lot. So it is no easy burden to move through for sure, but it's so worth it, isn't it worth it? That's it, that's the million dollar ticket right there because it is, I know from having done this with other things in my life that the other side is glorious. There is a freedom and a wholeness and a capacity and like you said earlier, all the things you start bringing in the love relationship, the finances, the whole paradigm of life shifts. So yes, absolutely worth it. And one of the things you talk about, Leah, is about grounding, right? And you said basically there are ways to ground ourselves no matter what is going on in the world. So I would like to talk about what you feel the various ways. I know there's earthing and things, but what are the ways we can ground ourselves and do you have any ways that people can use anywhere, anytime? Sure, well, I think again, everyone's a little different. I think though the concept can work for everyone. And quite frankly, a piece that a lot of people forget is just getting very grounded physically, meaning nutritionally, meaning within our body system, because even when your blood sugar is off, for example, we know what that feels like. You get hangry and you wanna slap someone, right?  So that alone can be enough for a person who is struggling to really sway them on the pendulum of more pain, right? So as simple as getting your body stabilized with the healthy fats and nutrition and supplements that we need is a great thing. Just like enough sleep. That's where I've been struggling going through my period menopause is getting those seven or eight hours, allowing enough time for your body to rest and go down and wake up in a more natural rhythm where we're not forcing it and we're not keeping ourselves up and addicted to the blue light like I'm sure I am. So that's a way. But of course, being outside, being with nature, but for me, all of that, the forest being to me, it's connection. So you can make that connection with dirt in a household plant. You can make that connection with animals. You can make that connection with a tree. You can make that connection with other living beings. And when you purposefully intentionally take the steps to be connected, even when I'm teaching workshops, we always practice a very simple thing, which is putting your hand on someone.  But when you intentionally touch someone and you're feeling through your hand with the intention to connect, it's a whole different feeling, right? And it feels a little uncomfortable for some people because that intention brings it to the next level of vulnerability. It's kind of like saying, here I am. And not only do I see you, but I feel you. But that's a great way to be connected. So I love to, I have a dog and a cat. I think animals are great ways to get grounded. Sometimes for people who can't go to a forest or can't lay on the dirt, just taking your shoes off, walking on rocks or the sand or even concrete or grass or whatever you can do. I even, in the springtime, I recommend, put a fresh baby green leaf in the bottom of your shoe. Literally walk with the leaf under your foot and feel its texture and just imagine carrying that with you and you are carrying it with you. So that's another nice way. But I think the connection piece is vital for most people, especially, oh my God, through COVID and everything. Yeah, we're just so disconnected. Yeah, absolutely. You can't even see if someone's smiling at you because they're covered under a mask. And I don't know if you've noticed that people with the masks and with the six feet distance literally don't even make eye contact anymore. It's been incredibly isolating on every level. So people who are experiencing that right now, the uncertainty, the anxiety, the COVID-related fears. And I'll give you another example. I want to have you weigh in on all of this, what people can do, what you recommend. I myself have been the recipient of some anti-vaccine videos. And I don't have to go into where I stand, although I don't have any objection to talk about how I feel strongly, I'm not gonna do it. But still, when I saw these videos, they were horrifying and they really disturbed me. They freaked me out. I also read an article that said it's pretty much going to get to the point where the government is gonna go door to door and enforce that every citizen get this vaccination. I don't think anybody should be making decisions for my or anybody else's body and certainly not by force. So I also find that disturbing. So that's just my piece of the pie there. But for other people, there's financial uncertainty. Can I ever go visit my family or parents or leave the country or it goes on and on? Is this ever gonna end? What can people do to get through this time of anxiety, stress and fear? Yeah, it's a great question and so important. And that's, so let's talk about meditation. And I wanna break out the word meditation because people who don't meditate are scared of it and even people who do meditate, we have this idea about it. But the idea of just closing your eyes and learning and this is why it's a practice and learning how to just find that place within us that feels somewhat safe, somewhat peaceful, somewhat quiet, somewhat anchored. That's our place. That's your place. And no one else has access to that place. And so when we can go there in the midst of the turmoil or on the middle of the train or when there's chaos all around you, that to me is the advantage of practicing meditation. There's all kinds of different meditations. There's all kinds of reasons why people do it. But for me, when I'm overwhelmed, when I'm scared, when I'm freaking out, when whatever. And even when I'm leading and teaching meditation, when I close my eyes, I go right to that place which for me feels down in my stomach around my solar plexus. And I go there and now I feel at home. And if I'm freaking out of my life, a lot of times I just want to go to my bed and we want to get in that fetal position, right? And if we can go and close our eyes and go to that place and learn how to soothe ourselves from that place because that is the only place that you have that is all yours. And so this is the practice to do, I think, you know. They can take anything. Yeah. Once you meditate, Leah, and you do find that core place and that is just all you and all your own, what do you do from there? What does your meditation consist of? I like to just swim in that. Like I could just drift off into the, you know, into sleep or what have you. I love to be in that place. But once I'm there, then if I'm having really difficult feelings or experiences, then that's when we learn how to observe what we're feeling rather than just be bombarded with the feeling itself. So this is where we start to move into, you know, understanding our own consciousness and who we really are versus the body self because when we can observe our thoughts and observe our feelings, now we're somewhat separate from them and they're not attacking us. And in that same way of acceptance I was talking about in the method, we can just witness them and really ask it questions. Thank it for showing us information, you know, learning how to just sit with it without responding or responding and just be with it and just feel it, you know. And the less that we resist inside of ourself then, you know, that saying that less it persists, right? But it is true.   What is, where does that take us besides the familiar roads of pain and the inner child's acting out and, you know, we're having a tantrum, right? It's sometimes it feels unstoppable but it's actually achieving nothing. And then if I can get myself out of that state and quickly go within myself, where do I feel this? How does this feel inside myself? Who am I? Is this true? Is this fear or belief actually true or is it something that's triggering? And really just start having those internal conversations then I feel more in control. So if I, you know, if I were in a bomb shelter in the middle of a war, I would use this practice to somehow try to stay sane is to just learn how, you know, go to that sacred and special place within. That's beautiful. Yeah, that sounds like your meditation class is a good one to take. Yeah. Well, I hope so. People seem to like them, but, you know, I don't have, aside from that goal, I'm not trying to just teach people how to breathe or, you know, teach people to be enlightened. It's about, you know, finding a way to be okay with ourselves. Yeah, finding that stillness. Yeah. One of the things you go over in the book is about people having the caliber of romantic partner that they prefer having a healthy tribe of friends. And so if people are not currently having that, how can they attract a higher caliber of people in their lives? By working on the frequency and healing the emotional imprint that's often filled with limited beliefs about self. That's really the only way, you know, it never comes outside of us. Of course, you know, when we're on our journey and path, we start meeting different kinds of people that feel more positive, more light, more encouraging and all that, those to me are signs that we're on the right path, right? But we don't expect those people to change us. We don't expect those people to validate us. We don't expect those people to make us happy or whole beings. We just notice them as information of, okay, this person, you know, has the capacity to encourage me and to not be jealous and to not feel intimidated. I don't feel jealous, intimidated or what have you with them. So that's nice and good information that's headed towards a higher frequency, right? So that's how, and I know it's a frustrating answer because people want to snap their finger and go, I deserve better. Yeah, you mentioned jealousy. So I just wanted to riff on that for a second. Yeah. What is jealousy to you? What is that all about? Where does that come from? Insecurity. It's insecurity of self. If I didn't have the feeling of not enough or the insecurity, then why would I ever judge someone else's whatever, you know? It's the feeling like I'm not capable. I'm not enough. I'm missing out. I'm not wanted. When the truth is probably I'm not applying myself in the same ways because I don't feel confident enough in myself or trust myself enough or feel worthy enough to do the things that that person has done, you know, to put themselves in that position. So that's just what it is. It's a tough one though, too, because it's just like that gnarly reminder of there's still ugliness in here, right? Yeah. Well, you were a talk show host for two and a half years at RCN and I know you spoke to celebrities, you spoke to influencers. Was there anybody who was a favorite or was there a celebrity story during that time that you can share? Oh, goodness. Oh, I had so many different people on. I mean, I did so many different things.  I remember him, he had a guitar and a cowboy hat and the cowboy boots. Was he in New York or something? He's in the city, yeah. Times Square?  And like what we're talking about right now, he didn't filter the opportunity through I can't or I'm not this or that or whatever enough. And it's just a really, you know, bizarre but a clear example of what you can do when you just say yes and do it, right? He's made millions of dollars doing that. You know, this is gonna sound terrible but I had one of the actresses from Judy from the Waltons on. You remember the show, The Waltons? Yes. Yeah. She was on and she was such a delight and such just a pure, you know, light and humble, genuine person. We danced and she sings and dances and she was just this really great, great guest. But I've interviewed Deepak Chopra and Sean Korn in the yoga world and, you know, she was a treat and so many people. I really loved the musicians because I'm a musician at heart, you know? So I really loved bringing that element of life on. You know, it was just... I was Flava Flaves. Oh my God. That's what you... You're so outrageous. Yeah. I wore a clock and everything. Oh, that's a picture. You gotta put up somewhere. That's good. I know. It was fun. It was a fun show. Mistakingly, you know, it was interesting talking about at that time, I felt that that show wasn't important enough. Like I wasn't doing what I should be doing in the healing world. When I, in fact, I had gone to do the show because I was kind of burnt out from the healing world, right? But then after a while, it started to feel superficial, but after looking back now, I see more and more how, you know, no matter what we're doing, we can have such a positive influence on people, you know? And bring important qualities of other people's stories to light that inspires people. And so anyway, it was a great time for sure. And I may resurface it. Who knows? Fun. What, if I may ask you something personal, what is the lesson that has taken you longest to learn? Oh, that's a good question. Well, it's a lesson. Let's see. I think the lesson, honestly, is to invest, to put 100% into myself is a worthy investment. So it still comes down to self-worth, right? Now, someone could look at what I've done and say, oh my gosh, you've done so much. But for me, I've always felt like I'm holding back. And, you know, for example, I would invest $15,000 in some other kind of something, in my house or something like that. But then when it came to investing $15,000 in marketing for my work, then I hesitate and I go through all these mental loops. So that's still, you know, I still struggle with that, partly because, you know, on my spiritual path as well, like with my one-on-one clients, I've never advertised. I truly trust and believe that those who need me will find me and, you know, and it does work out. And I try to be the same way with money. And so I think there's a little bit of me feeling like, well, to invest and to make this big push in myself, like I'm trying to force, I don't have a head trip about that a little bit. So I think that would be my biggest challenge. That's interesting. I've actually noticed that with people in other realms that people will allocate money for one thing. And there's usually some other place in their life where it's like, what are you kidding? I once went shopping with a friend to Bloomingdale's and she liked this Zadik designer, loved them. And she picked up this shirt and she was showing me, God, I would love this shirt. And she kept going on and on. I said, so buy it. Yeah, yeah. She said, did you see the price tag? I couldn't possibly. And I'm looking at her like, I knew what she invested in these year-long masterminds to study with people. And it was a pretty penny. And then when it came to clothing herself in something she was in love with and a designer she adored, she couldn't even fathom that. And I thought, that's such a disconnect. That's so interesting. And I know I have areas for me too. Or it's like, this is okay. I wouldn't think twice. And then there are other places where it can show up a little miserly. Right. Yeah, it is really interesting. And that's what I mean. It's all information. We don't want to judge it and be hard on ourselves and think we're not where we're supposed to be spiritually or emotionally or whatever. It's just information. And it shows up in the most bizarre ways sometimes. I know people like that too. It's like, they'll spend, spend, spend. And then it's, their car or their clothes or whatever, they just can't bring themselves. And maybe they don't care so much. And that's fine too, if they don't care about those things. But it's interesting. We all have these little quirks. That reveal themselves. Well, this is Dare to Dream, Leah. What are you next, Dare to Dream? What are your future dreams and goals? Well, I want to write a screenplay. And so I'm hoping to start that this fall and be focused on that in the next year. Being, having it somewhat finished and ready to produce. So that's my next thing. Can I ask Ish, what's the subject matter? Yeah, it's, let's say it's a coming of age story for a 50 year old, an inspirational movie about how we can follow through with our dreams. So it's very fitting for your show. When I get it finished, I'll let you know. Awesome, bravo. Thanks, yeah. I don't know how to write a screenplay, so it's gonna be a head turner. Yeah, well, there's people out there who do that, for sure.  A few days here and there, yeah. I try to make myself do that, but not so much. Yeah, self-care is good too, but I'm impressed with the dreams. So what would you like to tell listeners and viewers here at the end? What kind of wisdom or advice can you impart to us? Well, I think just to reiterate what we hear so often though that you are enough and that there is no shame in seeking the support of any sort that we need for where we're having difficulties in our life. And especially the year and a half, two that we've all been through, reaching out online in groups, therapists, healers, friends, old family members, however you need to is critical. So one of my mantras or quotes is sharing is caring and revealing is healing. And I think the more that we can be open and vulnerable with each other and share what's going on, the better we are. We have more support. And also we help other people in that way. Sharing is caring, revealing is healing. And you can find her at leaguy.com. Any other place you'd like to send people? No, the modern stage podcast, as you mentioned, on iTunes and all the other platforms is great. And I have a Patreon channel, but all that's on my website. Well, thank you so much for coming on the show. I've really enjoyed this conversation. Thank you. It was a pleasure and nice to talk with you today. Thank you. Beautiful. I end today's show with this quote, your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. Please subscribe to the Dare to Dream podcast, let your friends and family know if you heard something here today that they should tune in too to this number one weekly transformation conversation. My guest next week is Charmaine Hammond. She's the executive producer of the philanthropic film called Back Home Again. The film's director will also be here and the film shows the world how a community can possibly come together and rebuild. And the movie features the largest ensemble of award-winning Canadian actors in any film to date. So you'll wanna hear our Charmaine Hammond is very articulate. Please subscribe to this YouTube channel. If you're listening on podcasts and you'd like to see us, we are at youtube.com slash debbie dashinger. And again, my gift to you, if you'd like to learn how to be interviewed and you'd like to get the sheet and the videos so you can get started, go to debbie dashinger.com slash gift. Remember, don't just dare to dream, dare to turn all your dreams into your reality. Thanks for joining us.


I have got this incredible lineup of Amazon gifts that I think you're gonna flip for. Most of them are under $50 and I am so excited to bring them to you because I found some really really fun things. So let's get into it. Hi friends! I'm not gonna take a lot of time so you know I have a numbering system and what we do is we put up on the screen a number and all you have to do is remember that you liked the number that corresponds with the product that I'm talking about at that moment. Then you go down into the description box and you look for number three that has the product next to it. Let's say it was my sweater. Number three is gonna have that product next to it and it's going to have a link to it. Oh and don't forget that I do have an Amazon storefront where you can go over and you can see all of these products. They will be listed in the Amazon store along with a ton of other gift giving ideas that I have over there as well. So we're gonna get into the video right now. I want to tell you I have on a pair of earrings that I think would be a great gift for anybody.  They have rhinestones on them. This is the silver one and as you move your head they kind of just catch the light and we have a little movement to them. They go with everything and I absolutely love them. And then also that would make a great present is this necklace that I have on. This is a double layer necklace that is kind of a choker style a little bit. I think the bottom chain with the little butterfly on it would be about an 18. This one would be a 16 inch so it's really pretty. The one on the top is a very dainty little beaded chain and I thought the both of those would make really great gifts. And then the sweater that I do have on would make a great gift for anybody because it is it's so soft it almost feels like cashmere. Obviously it's not because it's very inexpensive but it's super duper soft and I just feel like it's one of those pieces that is just beautiful that you could wrap up and everybody would love it. It comes in a bunch of different colors. It's got this really fun sleeve detail on it. I just I really really like it. Also I'm modeling for you this robe and this robe is so unique and so great for me because it's not the satin robe that you normally see these prints in. This robe is a very knit very stretchy robe. It is so comfortable and I loved the color of it although it does come in intended for colors and a bunch of prints and I liked that it had the straps that were inside that tied but I also absolutely love the fact that the robe tie itself is attached to the robe.  I really like this robe. It's very comfortable. Also before we go too very far into the gifts themselves, gift yourself this cardigan. This cardigan is so nice. It's heavier, it has pockets, it just drapes and you don't have to zip it up but it is really warm. I've been wearing this around the house during the daytime when I've been a little bit colder and I absolutely love it. I love the way it lays. I love that it's very long almost a duster light and they have tons of colors and I wear a large and this was very true to size. It's soft and I just love it. One more thing that might be for you before we go on are these boots. This is a suede very low-heeled boot. I look and look for boots that I can wear all day long like when I'm out shopping or when I'm out doing things running errands whatever. I need a shoe that's gonna be very comfortable and that I'm gonna be able to wear. This is a lower heel. However, inside of here it's very cushy and I loved that about it. You get into it with a strap on the one side and then it has the lace-up detail. Sorry about the phone. It has the lace-up detail right here on it and I also like that since it was snowing the other day I wore these and I love that it has a really nice grip on it. Lots of these can just be you know slick and flat and I have a tendency to slip around so I'm glad that these have some tread on it and they're ones that I was really liking. I did size these up a half size and then now we'll get into some of the gifts and this I thought would be a beautiful gift to give just about anybody. This is a pashmina scarf which means it's a lot bigger than a normal scarf and the print on it is just so pretty. I love wearing red this time of year and the other side of it is red but the print itself goes with red so well. It also would go with your browns, your greens, your grays, anything like that.  Also for the gal in your life are these really so so comfortable slippers that I got. These are the most comfortable warm slippers I have had in a long time. I'm somebody that really likes this mule type where you just slide in your foot and you don't have to you know worry about putting on the back of it and the other thing is this has a great tread on it too. So when I need to run outside to the mailbox or whatever and all I want to do is slip on my slippers I do that has such a nice foam padding inside of here. The memory foam is really thick inside of here and the chenille on here with the faux fur it's so super soft and you knew I was gonna get a purple. I love these. I think they're so great. I really think that they'd make a great gift and really even if you want to get a pair for you and a pair for somebody else they're they're just that good and I love these and we can't forget about the grandkids or kids whichever you have. This is such a cute pair of frozen slippers. They have Anna and Elsa on them right here on the little toe right there but inside one is Anna and one is Elsa and I thought it was so cute and I can't wait to give them to my granddaughter. They're very cushy. This whole entire thing is memory foam. They do have some for boys too. Frozen and there's another one that my granddaughter absolutely loves so when I saw these I was all over. I was like oh yeah she's got to have those and I think she's really gonna have fun with them. Speaking of the grandkids or kids if you have a bunch of kids on your list I got this.  No I'm kidding. I want them to have fun as a family actually. There are like 30 some pieces in here of different things that she can play with. There is so much in here and I can't wait for her to get this. This is just one of those really fun toys. Yes it's gonna drive mom and dad crazy but they can put it up in the closet and then play with her when they grab it down and there is so much inside of here. I'll flash a picture up here on the screen so you can see. There's so much inside of here and they seem really sturdy and really like quality things so I was really glad to pick all of that up for her. I think she's gonna have so much fun with it. A couple of beauty gifts that I ran across that I thought were really great deals. This is from EOS and these are those lip balms that are round and you just unscrew them and use them as lip balms and there's three of them in here and I love these things. They're so nourishing and they're great balm and what a great thing just to throw in a gift if you need some filler somewhere kind of thing. Also this is another great gift. This is from Deborah Lipman and we all know she is famous for her fingernail polishes and they are such great quality and they are free of any of the nasty ingredients that you're not supposed to be using. The formaldehydes and all of those nasty things but I didn't know that she also had lip glosses and so this set comes together and this one is the pink one and I just thought this would make a really great gift too. You know if you have somebody at the office that you need to give a gift to or you know somebody that you don't want to give an extravagant gift to, this is a really nice way to do that too. And then this little gift set here a more and more cashierelle is the name of it and this is a perfume. I don't know if any of you have worn this before but this comes with two lotions and then the perfume right here. First of all I think this bottle is so neat. It is just a unique shaped bottle and this would be so fun just to have out on your dresser and just to display and I like the fragrance of it too. Now let me spray it and I'll tell you what I think it is. It's not a super heavy perfume smell.  It's kind of got a little bit of a fruity florally fragrance to it so I didn't know I would like this. I ordered this set blindly because I wanted to bring it to you guys and show it to you guys but I really like this fragrance and I found that you know like most fragrances it lasts about I would say about four to five hours if you put it in your hair or put it on your clothes it's gonna last even longer. You wouldn't even really have to have a bow or anything like that on it. It just comes like this and all you'd have to do is just gift it and I think that's great. This piece right here I have shown on my channel before but I think that this would make a great gift. Now it does look just like a purse and it's about the size of a medium purse and it's pretty lightweight but it has a fun chain handle on it with the gold accents and it's not just a purse. It is a makeup case that you can take and you can use when you're on vacation or whatever so you can hang this over the door when you're on vacation and then you have all of these compartments in here. I thought that this was so much fun especially to be able to give it as a gift. How fun is that? They think they're just getting oh thanks for the purse I don't really like it that much you know it's not really my style but then you open it up and you're like it's not a purse. It's such a cute makeup bag so I thought that was really fun and something that you could give to somebody it does come a few different colors as well. One of the things that I have fallen in love with is this cozy blanket. Okay first of all it's oversized. It looks like kind of a faux fur look to it. It's kind of a grayish color and they do have a bunch of different colors but why I like this blanket is it's double lined so it has you know the two pieces there so it's heavier and I don't know if any of you have ever heard about weighted blankets or not but weighted blankets can really help you sleep better. I lay down with this for a nap and I am out and not only that when I'm freezing this thing is perfect for me. Of course I fight with the dogs for this blanket but this is such a nice blanket. I've washed mine a ton of times and it's just so pretty even still it fluffs right back up and all the dog hair comes out of it. This is one of those blankets that everybody in the family is gonna fight over. They're gonna want it because it's such a nice heavy well it's not heavy it's just a really warm bodily blanket and it feels so good because it's got a little bit more weight to it. Okay this is a fun gift as well. This one is bath bombs which I think are so much fun if you're somebody that likes to luxuriate in a bath and have your bath salts or whatever this might be really fun just for yourself but it will be a really fun gift for somebody else. Okay let me get all this fluff off of here. These are so much fun because they're in the shape of sweet treats and I was like this is so cute. So these are all in the shape of cupcakes and then this square one is in the shape of like a pedofour and then you have these ones over here that are in the shape of donuts. So I just thought that this was a really fun cute gift not too much money again if you have somebody that you don't want to spend a lot of money on but you definitely want to get them something this would make a great gift and you don't have to wrap it because it does come in its own box and yeah I just thought that this was all kinds of fun as well. I also came across these earphones or these earbuds. They're not like you know the super expensive Bose ones or the Beats ones or the Apple AirPods ones but they do have right here as you get them out of the packaging. It has a lifetime warranty.  This is that its own charging station and then they just come out and they go right in your ear and they're comfortable. I have a big problem with something in my ear and most of it is because of the problem I have right here with my trigeminal neuralgia. It's a little bit hard for me but these were pretty comfortable because this is super bendy which I like about it a lot. When you put it back in it will tell you right there how much charge it has in it. My husband is really hard on this kind of stuff and I won't buy him. They're super expensive ones but I'll be happy to do this and especially since he's a trucker and he needs to have hands-free and they are you know they get caught with their phone it's automatic firing for them. This is something that I'm excited for him to be able to get. I can get him like five pairs for the cost of the really expensive ones and not worry that he's going to really you know be hard on them. So really like this as well. A little gadget thing that I just wanted to throw in here because it's not necessarily gift maybe gift it to yourself or gift it to somebody in your household is this thing right here. This comes in a package of two and these are cleaners for your screen. So it comes in its own holder right here. So any screen that you have like here is my phone right here and hopefully maybe we'll be able to demonstrate this. We'll see. So it comes with the cleaner inside of it. It's down in there and you just spray it across like that and then this is a felt microfiber felt and then you can just go across your screen and clean your screen up just a lickety split. I love this for my computer. I love it for my television. You can use it on those big LED TVs and I I love it. I use it on my husband's phone once a day. I use it on my phone almost all day long because I have you know makeup whatever and my phone gets filthy. This is just a really fun side handy thing that you can have. I get asked every single time I'm on camera. I get asked about these glasses. They come in a four pack. They have little bling right here and they are my readers. I get asked about those flameless candles right there. I will make sure I link those for you. Those would make it an absolutely fantastic gift and I also get asked about my floor arrangement which I actually put together myself and I get asked about my lighted tree. I think this lighted tree would make great gift for somebody as well. So I'll make sure that I list all three of those things too. We're almost to the end I promise but I did want to touch on you know if you want to take your hostess some gifts. So you're going over to somebody's house to have dinner with them or they're hosting a nice dinner whatever and you want to take them something but you don't know what to give them. First of all I thought this little thing right here was so darn cute. This is just a little lighted votive candle holder and these have the battery powered votive so nobody's gonna get burned if they have kids or whatever. But how fun is that? I actually can't wait to put this on my side table downstairs. It's so cute. So it comes with the rocks. The little rocks are loose and the candles it comes with. There are batteries in there if you want to just change out the battery and not have to replace this whole entire thing. I think it's great. It also comes like this in this box so you can wrap it if you need to. A couple more gifts for somebody that you might just not know what to get for them. This right here I found on Amazon and this is a diffuser and I thought that this was so pretty and elegant and different because of a couple things. First of all it's bigger than any diffusers that I've had before so you're gonna have a while before this runs out. This is called culture and nature and I got the mango mandarin and what I really like about it besides the besides the reed diffusers that you have right here it has these little cloth little flowers that look like roses and it comes with three of them so I think that it elevates this so much more. It just looks sleek. It's gonna look so pretty just sitting on a counter. Let me just put it right there so you can see what it's gonna look like. It's just so pretty and by the way it does come in its own box as well as well. This is such a fun product. I had no idea that these even existed and when I saw this I was like oh yeah this is a great gift and I'm gonna have one. This is a glass teapot. I didn't even know that they had such a thing that you could put on your stove. You can actually put this on your stove and it's heat resistant and this glass teapot is so pretty. You can use this several different ways. If you want to take out the insert out of the middle of it you can put your teabags down in there put the lid on it steep it for three to five minutes and then use it that way. If you have loose tea you can put that down in here and then you can just put the lid on it and you can steep it like that. Now it also comes with these really cool flour balls. Now they're not flour they're tea but you can either put it down in the bottom of there or you can put it in the middle part that I showed that comes out and you can steep it that way. I love this. I think this is the greatest thing. I love tea in the evenings. I have been drinking tea for years the English way with milk in it and a little bit of sugar and it's my treat right before bed. I love love love tea.  Now I'm gonna have all kinds of fun feeling like I'm really special and I was shocked that you could put this on to your stove. I'm just jazzed about this. I think it's so cute. I absolutely love it. I think it's one of those gifts that anybody would love. The very last thing I want to talk to you about is something that I really wanted myself. If you've ever heard of a Moscow mule it's a drink that they make in bars and whatever but these are the mugs that you can use not just for cocktails. You can use these for hot drinks. You can use these for cold drinks whatever your heart desires. It comes in a package of four. These are so beautiful. It's a hammered copper look to them and then it's got a lighter brass look right here on the handle. So pretty.  I just think it's so pretty. It also comes with the jigger which measures out your alcohol if you're gonna do that so you can do either side and it comes with the straws. It comes with four straws that go in there and it comes with a straw cleaner too. I think this is such a great gift. I was so excited because like I said I've been wanting a set of these for a really long time. So that's all of them for today. I would like some input from you guys on something. I would really love to show you my kitchen because I have so many products from Amazon in my kitchen. Would you guys like to see a little spotlight of that in my next Amazon gift giving video? I have some of the coolest things that I have found that just have really dressed up my kitchen but also they're very functional and I love them so much. So would you guys like to see that? I will do again still the beauty, the tech, the fashion. I will still do that in my next video as well but would you also like to see some of my kitchen things and see all of the things that I've gotten from Amazon that I love? Let me know if you want to see that as well. Thank you everyone for being here with me today. If you haven't subscribed please subscribe. Hit the little bell icon and everybody please give us a thumbs up. If you have anything that you need to tell me about that you have seen in the past that you love as gifts, let's do that. I have so many gift giving ideas ahead for the next month or so that you will be seeing and I have several different things for men as well which they're kind of hard to buy for I know. So stay tuned. We're gonna have all kinds of fun and we're gonna get into it. Thank you so much for being with me. As we go out of here we're gonna see another video right here, another Amazon video so you can see what I've done in the past as well. Love you to pieces. Talk to you very soon. Goodbye my friends.


Hey everyone, this is Mike Kramer of Mock capital checking in today is Tuesday September 5th, and it's around 7 o'clock New York time US markets are closed So tomorrow we're going to be getting more another round of economic data This is going to be for the SMP global PMI data. It's going to be just the final reading For the numbers we already got which were the preliminary numbers back around August 23rd for the final numbers We're looking for nothing to change 51 versus the prior 51 for services composite 50.4 versus 50.4 ISM services index obviously a more important reading Given that we haven't seen this number yet Again for this month, we're looking for 52.5 down from 52.7 There's no estimates for prices paid employment or new orders, but these are all very important numbers Last month prices paid came in at 56.8. If we just look at really quickly at this number You can see that we've been mostly trending lower with a little bit of an uptick So obviously if we get another number that ticks higher It wouldn't certainly be all that surprising given that, you know, we're expected to see inflation in August tick higher You can see that the services data basically just follows the CPI data So I think it's a move higher in the services ISM Prices paid index. I don't think would be all that surprising considering expectations are for CPI to rise on a year-over-year basis for the month of August But again, this is something to keep an eye on When we sort of look at where the equity markets are at this point the S&P 500 really didn't really do much of anything today and Most of the selling came within the last 20 minutes or so We were just really stuck around the 4500 level and if I just show you from a gamma perspective You know the big gamma was all concentrated at this 44 95 40 500 and when we go into tomorrow, it's not expected to be too much different We're looking, you know, the big gamma levels for tomorrow look like they're gonna be again around 4500 and then even going into Thursday so Again, you can see by Thursday you start getting a little bit more gamma here down at some lower levels And you have some more put gamma getting built and so this could act as a drag once we get past tomorrow But certainly I would watch tomorrow to see this 4500 level to see if the market can gyrate back towards that level throughout the day I think that might be a little bit challenging given that we had such a weak close Again, one of those scenarios where you know, we had a pretty much a back-and-forth session with a bunch of With really no decisive Moving we gapped lower to start the day. We immediately tried to fill the gap We sold off we came back and then we had this big big drop into the close Which ended up resulting in a 40 basis point decline. I mean for the bears I think it's fairly easy tomorrow, you know If they really want to take control all you have to do is just gap the index lower right from the start And you can really start getting momentum perhaps moving to the downside It's also important to note that the zero gamma level is around 4490 And so when you once you break below 4490 in the S&P's cash index, you know gamma is going to shift back to a negative regime That's going to increase volatility Market makers are likely to go along with the sellers and this could you know again Potentially accelerate a move lower with support at 4460 and then all the way back down to somewhere around this 4420 region Because again, we moved up so quickly that once the selling really starts if we were to break this 4490 level Which again granted we closed at 4498 may not be too hard if they can just gap the index lower That's that could easily start a move down Especially if you were to get a prices paid index that really came in much hotter than what last month was and potentially Signaling that that the August CPI print could be even hotter than what the current expectations are on the flip side From the bullish standpoint Again, the big gamma levels around 4500 and we can see that 4515 acted as a pretty firm Resistance level for the last couple of days And so I think the upside is much more limited in this case I think if they're you're bullish you want to see the index quickly overtake this 4506 level and then try to surpass this 4515 I think of failure 4515 probably keeps the index trapped around 4500 If you can surpass the 4515 region then obviously you start having room to move up towards 4535 or so But again given the composition of the the gamma levels given the composition of the technicals I Think it's going to be harder for the bulls to really get something going tomorrow given Again, unless we get some sort of meaningful gap above this high to start with The other thing that's worth pointing out It's when we look at the longer-term chart. Here's our bump-and-run pattern and you can see that we came down Broke the trend line came back up to it and now we closed below it again So this this is also something you're going to watch want to watch plus It's worth noting that the 10-day exponential moving average and the 50-day moving average are right around the same spot at This 4470 level so this is another area if we begin to sell off tomorrow that could offer support as well So again, this is just So this is just another region that could offer support if we were to begin to sell off Tomorrow on the open when we look at the NDX Again very similar situation. Here's your here's your 50-day moving average and your 10-day exponential moving average Right there around 15 to 40 The the NDX had a very similar trading day to that of the SMP 500 But was actually much stronger than that of the SMP 500 Again, you can see that we basically gapped lower We were able to fill the gap and then we had this sell off into the close And so again for the NDX it looks a little bit easier if you're bullish just because you don't have as much to overcome So clearly if you can take out these highs pretty early There's really not much to stop you from taking out this 15,600 region and then potentially working to fill this gap again at 15,750 But again a lot of this is going to be dependent upon you know where they open this market tomorrow because if they take this out early That sets up potentially higher prices. Meanwhile, if we go the way the SMP appears to be set up more if we gap this down and You start moving lower, you know your support level then comes at 15 435 or so and then You know again it starts getting a little bit more dicey because you get to 15 370 15,350 and then again, there's a straight line here where there's really no support in the way so From that standpoint as well The NDX might have an easier task if momentum starts to build to the upside But again, it's really going to depend on how this market can open tomorrow Which means you're going to be seeing a lot of influence in terms of how the foreign markets are trading When we look at the Dow, it's a very similar situation to what we've been in now for some time Here's your 10 day. Here's your 50 day. We actually closed below the 10 day today the close was 34,641 the 10 day exponential was 34,685 the 50 day was 34,746 So we close below the 50 day and the 10 day exponential moving average and that's pretty bearish in that in a sense and Really tomorrow again if we were to get a gap lower and gap below this 34,600 area Again, this was this has really been the big sticking point for the Dow It just can't seem to really meaningfully escape from it You can see it tried to at one point, but then we came right back through it now We can clearly see that there's a trend line here and you have to think that if we break this 34,600 region we then become at risk of breaking this 34,240 region Which would break the trend line and and probably signal much further declines to come from there Again the Dow just continues to not really look well It seems to look like the weakest out of the out of the three averages Just like the S&P had a big sell-off in the final 15 or 20 minutes So if you're bullish on the Dow, I think it's fairly easy again It's the same concept. We were just talking about here's actually a trend line. So you'd want to Probably what we'd want to see tomorrow is a gap above this trend line and that could set up a potential move higher but at the same time the weakness in the Dow just continues and You really have to watch for a break below 34,600 Particularly if you get a gap below that level, I think that would be a particularly bad omen for the market Overall and again, it's gonna depend a lot in terms of where the European markets are trading because the European markets for the most part have been fairly weak as well The German DAX again moved higher to start today and then it came down Again, the DAX has to take out this 15,800 region But again when we look at the when we look at the DAX You can see that it is also closing and trading below the 50-day and the 10-day exponential moving averages So again, not really the most bullish setup here when we look at the DAX it also looks like it's consolidating at this point in some sort of Descending triangle perhaps or maybe it's even part of a a broader larger diamond pattern But regardless of what it is you can see there just clearly this big move higher Then this big move down to the lower end and a big move up and so we have some sort of consolidation forming here and Really Where the DAX goes longer term is going to really depend I think on where the Asian markets mostly go and Again, if we look at the DAX For tomorrow, you're going to want to take out this level pretty quickly that sets up a bigger Rally, but again a move lower. I think as soon as you undercut this low of 15,700 You're looking at this giant gap down here at 15,635 that needs to be filled And again given that we have this what looks like a descending triangle at a minimum Forming that would be more of a bearish pattern and suggest we at least retest these lows down here at 15,493 when we look at the The footsie 100 again, this is another index really not doing much of anything Has really stalled out after a really big move over the last couple of months here We had this really big rally from October into February and since then we've just been making a series of lower highs It's tough to say that we're really making lower lows. We're certainly not making meaningfully lower lows And so this again looks to me like we're just trending slowly down For the footsie really to get any sort of momentum going again You need to clear this the 7,520 level which would set up a retest a 7650 level Likewise again, we're still facing the same scenario a break of 7,250 sets up a down a move down below 7,000 somewhere to around 6,890 so I think at this point the the footsie looks like it's incomplete in whatever it is it's trying to do Interestingly, I'm just noticing this is almost a trend line that goes across all these tops and across all these bottoms And so again, it just seems like we're consolidating at this point to Lower levels on the footsie. So again week start to Europe may spill over into a week start here in the US If you can get over some key resistance levels in Europe Maybe that results in a move higher in the US early on But overall these indexes look like they're pretty much stuck in the mud with maybe the Nasdaq looking the best positioned out of all them at this point and Probably the Dow looking the worst positioned out of all of them. So anyway, that's all I have for you Have a great rest of your day, and I'll see you soon. Bye


Hi and welcome to the session. Let us discuss the following question. The question says, find the mean deviation about the median for the data in exercises seven and eight. This is the data given to us. Now before solving this question, we should note the steps which are involved in the calculation of mean deviation about median of a discrete frequency distribution. In the first step, we arrange the observation that is xi's in ascending order. After this, we calculate the cumulative frequency and then we calculate n equals to summation i goes from 1 to n if i. If n is odd, then the median is that xi observation whose cumulative frequency is equal to or just greater than n plus 1 by 2th observation. If n is even, then first we take xi observations whose cumulative frequency is equal to or greater than n by 2th observation and n by 2 plus 1th observation. Then median is sum of both xi's divided by 2. Now let median is equal to capital N. In the second step, we will find deviation of each xi from n that is x1 minus m x2 minus m so on xn minus n. In the third step, we find the absolute value of each deviation that is drop the minus sign if it is there that is mod x1 minus m mod x2 minus m so on mod xn minus m. And in the last step, find the mean of the absolute values of the deviation. This mean is the mean deviation about median that is mean deviation about median is equal to 1 by n into summation i goes from 1 to n, f i into mod xi minus m where n is equal to summation i goes from 1 to n f i and m is equal to median of the given data. So keeping all these steps in mind, let's now begin with the solution. We will first make a table from the given data. First, we will arrange the xi's in ascending order. Now here the xi's are already in ascending order. So we have 5, 7, 9, 10, 12 and 15 in this column. And now in this column, we will write its corresponding frequency. So we have 8, 6, 2, 2, 2, 6. Now we will calculate cumulative frequency of f i. In the first row, we will write a. In the second row, we will write 8 plus 6 that is 40. In the third row, we will write 8 plus 6 plus 2 that is 16. In the fourth row, we will write 16 plus 2 that is 80. In the fifth row, we will write 18 plus 2 that is 20. And in the sixth row, we will write 20 plus 6 that is 26. Find n, n is equal to summation i goes from 1 to 6 f i and this is equal to 8 plus 6 plus 2 plus 2 plus 2 plus 6 and this is equal to 26. Now 26 is even and we know that if n is even, then first we take xi's observation whose cumulative frequency is equal to or just greater than n by 2 at observation and n by 2 plus 1 at observation. And then we find the media equal to sum of both xi's by 2. Now n is equal to 26 so n by 2 is equal to 26 by 2 and this is equal to 30 and n by 2 plus 1 is equal to 40. So we have to take those xi's whose cumulative frequency is greater than or equal to 13 and 14. Now look at the table, only 7 is the observation whose cumulative frequency is just greater than 13. So we will take xi's as 7 and 7. Now we will find media, median is equal to 7 plus 7 by 2 and this is equal to 7. The median of the given data is 7. Now we will find xi minus n. Now n is equal to 7 value of xi in the first row is 5. So we have 5 minus 7 and 5 minus 7 is minus 2. Then we have 7 minus 7, 7 minus 7 is 0, 9 minus 7 is 2, n minus 7 is 3, 12 minus 7 is 5, 15 minus 7 is 8. Now we will find mod of xi minus m. Absolute value of minus 2 is 0, absolute value of 0, 2, 3, 5 and 8 is 0, 2, 3, 5, 8. Now we will find fi into mod xi minus m. In the first row, value of fi is 8 and value of mod xi minus m is 2. So we have 8 into 2 and 8 into 2 is 16. Then we have 6 into 0, 2 into 2 is 4, 2 into 3 is 6, 2 into 5 is 10, 6 into 8 is 48. Adding all this, we get a4. So summation i goes from 1 to 6 fi into mod xi minus m is equal to 84. Now we will calculate mean deviation about median. Now mean deviation about median is equal to 1 by n into summation i goes from 1 to 6 fi into mod xi minus m. n is equal to 26 and summation i goes from 1 to 6 fi mod xi minus m is 84. So we have 1 by 26 into 84 and this is equal to 3.23. Hence our required answer is 3.23. So this completes the session. Bye and take care.


Absolutely. All right. And we are live. Thank you. Welcome to the July 8 meeting, SMI community meeting. We have a couple of folks here. Please add yourself to the meeting notes so that we know who has been around. And yeah, thanks for subscribing, Bridget. And let's jump into the agenda. First item is blog posts. Is that you, Bridget? Did you want to? It is, yes. I finally wrote the minimal amount of documentation necessary so that people can submit their blog posts. I know the fine folks at Solo and a few other folks are interested in writing, and I think maybe Tom and a few others are interested in writing a blog post for the SMI website. So the information you need is right there. And if you want to submit them, we will hopefully get them reviewed and get them out and just build a momentum of people's exciting work that they're doing using SMI on their projects. Cool. Any questions? Does anyone on the call have a question? Everything clear? Cool. Next up, coordinate the SDK release. I added his name because we were discussing it on the Slack, but he isn't able to be on the call today. But what I wanted to do is make sure anyone who wanted to review and perhaps add to that particular GitHub issue. Basically, Stefan sees that as the one blocker. And I think probably Thomas, Michelle, and a few others have opinions about this. I see Michelle is on the call if Michelle wants to tell us what she thinks. Hey, yeah. So I'm going to review this pull request today so we can get a release out. This pull request, though, adds traffic target V1, Alpha 2. I don't know that it bumps us to get the latest changes on V1, Alpha 3. I need to double check on that. So once we've reviewed, we can go ahead and cut that release. I think we need two people to review. So if somebody else is interested. So you think we're not yet through? We're still, like, we need to unblock that, right? Yeah, that's a big, yeah, that's a big blocker. We need people to review. Oh, it looks like we need one approving review to merge the pull request. First of all, we should also change that to two. But if it's just one, then I can do it. Do we have anyone on the call who would fit the bill? I can ask Thomas offline. He might be good to review that. Okay, she could do that. That would be awesome. Hey, Michelle, I might just create an issue for the 0.4 release and tag that PR as a dependency. So would that be worth it? Okay, I'll do that, and I'll fix the approvers too. Yeah. So did we also cut a release of the spec at 0.4? Do we need to do that? I think we did. Hang on. I will check. Okay. Not that they need to be coordinated, but it'd be really nice to, like, make sure that the spec, that there is a release of this solid release of the spec that's clearly defined. And then the SDK can, like, make sure that we're at that matching version, we support that particular version. We can point to it. So let's do two things today. One, I'll definitely go ahead and work with you, Lockheed, to make sure that the spec version is where we're at, and we have the right release tagged for that. And then I'll also review Stefan's PR so we can make sure we cut a release and point to the right version of the spec. Okay. I will add that all to the issue. Looks like it's 0.4.0-wd. Yeah. So let's cut, let's tag a release of the spec first, and then we'll cut the release of the SDK. Okay. Cool. Any other question or comment regarding that? Thanks a lot for helping out there, much appreciated. Cool. Doesn't seem to be the case. Then more like an FYI, unless someone feels like want to discuss something, you might have seen the news a couple of hours ago that Istio found a home. There is a new foundation called open usage comments, I believe. And it looks like Istio is part of that together with two other projects. I have not yet fully understood the implications, what it means in terms of relation. I'm unsure if that is a Linux foundation. It is not. It is not. Okay. Thanks for that. Hi, this is Josh here. So yeah, it's not Linux foundation. It's an independent foundation run by Google staff and some researchers at this point. And apparently all it does is trademark licensing. So it is probably not a substantial change to how Istio the project is run. And does anyone think that in terms of the cooperation or integration or whatever of Istio in SMI, that anything on a technical level, operation level changes? The only thing that I can think of is we currently had not put the Istio logo on anything. And if logo governance is different now, we should maybe look into that because if the open source nature of this foundation means that the logo can be used in this usage, then perhaps it's fine. But I am not a lawyer. Amy is a lawyer. Maybe Amy can look into it. I don't know. No, fully no. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Yeah, I heard you create an Istio and assign it to Amy, right? That's what I heard. I think you're going to have to wait for them to get their stuff together because they totally have, I mean like the point of their organization is trademark licensing. But that said, they don't actually have a procedure for trademark licensing set up yet. So you're probably going to have to actually wait for them to publish something that says submit your request here. Seat Chat. Yeah, it says we just need to look at the, there are no immediate changes to the Istio usage guidelines and the open usage comments will respect existing Istio trademark licenses and permissions to use the Istio name. So which we don't have. I mean we don't, I don't think we have. So maybe it changes nothing. That's really the only thing I could think of. I will put this that you put it from the fact in the notes, Lockie. I'm just being as thorough as I can. I don't think there's anything else that affects us. Is there anything else anyone else sees that might affect this project? Yeah, I think it's positive for the project. Cool. And by the way, positive for SMI, I mean, I'm sorry. Yeah, yeah. It's a hopeful, it's a hopeful. I interpreted it that way. All right. Next on the agenda is welcome, John, to the SMI community, Michel. Take it away. Hey, John is on my team. So John, if you want to introduce yourself, feel free. John is working on metrics related things. And it's hopefully going to make the SMI metrics part of the spec a little bit better and a little bit more up to date. So feel free to intro yourself, John. All right. Hi, everyone. My name is John Hewn. I just joined Microsoft a little over a month ago working on SMI. So excited to get going. Welcome, John. Welcome. Welcome on board. Great to have you. All right. I think that was it. That was at least what I see on the agenda. So the door is, or the floor, not the door. The floor is open. Any other business, any other items, anything you want to raise? It seems to be a case going once, going twice. Looks like a short meeting today, Bridget. All right. Thanks a lot, everyone, and meeting two weeks time again. Cheers. Thank you. Thanks, folks. Bye now.


We're here in Minidosa, Winnipeg.  Wish I was doing that. Here's my trailer. It's empty. Oh, never mind that other one. I want to be that guy over there. You see him in the background? Big fifth wheel and a boat. Another camper over there. Another camper over there. Nice. Oh, there he goes. There he goes. Nice. I want to be that guy. I want to be any of those guys right now. Oh, even better. Even though the other guy had a nicer boat, but that guy's got a nicer camper. So I guess it balances out. Fun time to have by all summertime, right? OK, so the only thing we have on our trailer back here is this. And that's not going anywhere. Let's get going. We have no plans yet, other than to go that way. It's a good thing that guy stopped to tighten his chains. He pulled in here. I was like, no, I was sitting here. I was talking to Brett, one of our renters, just picked up our trailer and was talking about that. And then I look at this guy, he pulls in beside me. All of his chains are so loose, they're like laying on the deck. All his freight was just sitting on his trailer for the most part, with chains hooked up onto it. That's just me. Soon, bud, too soon. And they're rushed back into this land. We're here between Portage La Prairie and Winnipeg and an eastbound. I still don't have any new assignment. I have made myself available to work, available as possible, with these loads falling through. Parked all the way over on the side anyways, because I brought my pickup in here so that I could unload the truck into my pickup outside of the rain. That was nice, so. That's its spot. I keep it there even when the trailer's not here. So unfortunately, I don't have any more work this week. That was the one load we had. Freight is slow this week, apparently. There's better last week, but last week I couldn't go, because we were waiting on parts and stuff, and getting stuff done at home. When I came to check on the truck, a few of the wires were all messed up in the back around by the drives there. I think I told you this already, and I could fix them all up myself quite easily. But yeah, not too much work this week, so we are going to be busy, busy, busy, busy the rest of this month, as long as we can find freight to pull. I'll probably only be stopped at home for resets and just going as hard as I can to make up for this, but we're going to enjoy this time at home now, as we won't have much home time throughout the rest of the month, but that's okay. That was okay. So our second renter has picked up the camper. We still haven't named the camper yet. It's still just Rockwood 2304DS, but the second renter has picked it up today. All went well. They're on their way to their campsite. They're probably almost there already. He's going to set up. They'll be back next week. I'll be on my next trip by then. Monday, I'm filming this online. Oh, what is today? It's Thursday. So all the way on Monday, I have to pick up a load in Canara. Going to Brainerd and then I have a reload out of Shakopee, Minnesota coming back home. So it's a nice little rounder to get me going. And then hopefully next week the load gods will have something more for me. What it is, right? This is how it is. So we're going to make good use of this time at home and get some stuff done. At least we're going to say we're going to get stuff done and then we might not get stuff done, but we're going to start off this time by saying we're going to get a lot done and then we'll just see what happens and we'll accept the results of whatever they are. Tomorrow, I pick up a new cooler that I bought. It's actually not a cooler. It's a fridge, but it looks like a cooler. Can't wait to show you it. It's a, what's the brand again? I'll show you in tomorrow's video. We'll do a little show and tell. I'm not doing an ad for them or anything, but I think it's pretty cool. You truckers out there probably going to like it. Instead of just like a cooler, like this is a powered cooler that needs a cleaning, but it just has fins in there, right? So it just keeps everything sort of, sort of cool. The cooler I bought now is an actual compressor fridge in the shape of a cooler. And it's going to fit right underneath my sleeper in the bunk. So I'm excited about that because I can change it to either the whole thing being a fridge, the whole thing being an actual freezer or I can have it divided, have a freezer and a fridge. And it's just like having an actual fridge in the truck, but in the shape of a cooler, right? Again, sticking underneath the sleeper and it doesn't take up extra room. I can keep those drawers there. There is a cricket in here that's driving me crazy. Where are you?   I'm brave. All right. I mean, I'm a man of my word. You're lucky I told my wife I'd be home 10 minutes ago already. I'm a generous man. I spared his life. We'll call him Jiminy, Jiminy Cricket. If he knows what's best for him, he's going to move out of my shop. Bye for moral mourning. It's getting evicted. So yeah, the cooler is a little bit longer than this but it's also just a little bit lower. This one didn't quite fit underneath my bunk. I always had to have it on the floor. It was in the way. So the next one should fit in. I measured it and everything. Looking forward to actually being able to take along food and like freezer goods that I can actually freeze in the truck. Is that even sandwich meat does not keep in there. So that's no good. Jiminy, don't push your luck over there. I've also got a new GoPro to replace the GoPro that I lost last week. That's going to be, I can pick that up tomorrow. That's GoPro Hero 8 again. Now what else is waiting there for me? The SD card for it. And oh, no matter, we'll have a little show and tell them tomorrow. Let's go home now though. Let's go home. There's no work trimming him. At least going to enjoy this time. And be ready for when duty calls. Because once duty calls and we get busy, we get busy. Sometimes you have a little lull like this. You have a little slow period. I don't want that fool you. It's coming. It's going to get very busy right away. Let's enjoy this time at home. That went quick, didn't it? That went quick. Do you miss me? I missed you lots. So much. One day you'll be big enough. I can take you to the shop with me. You can help me wash the truck. Oh, that sounds like fun, doesn't it? Oh, what was that? Is that your new noise? You want to show them your new noise? Your motorboat? No, he's tired. We're about to put him to bed. Everybody's tired. And Chevy.