Rydyn ni'n gweithio'r sefydliadau a diolch i ddweud y gendahol. Roeddwn yn Dr Caroline Azzella ac rwy'n golygu'r gendahol ar y sefydliadau ar y sefydliadau. Y cwrs yn ymdweud yn cyfrannu ar gyfer sefydliadau a sefydliadau. Rydyn ni'n gweithio'r gendahol yw'r idea yw'r gendahol? Rydyn ni'n gweithio'r gendahol, yn ni? Mae'r ffordd y gallwn, rydyn ni'n gendahol yw'r gendahol? mae hi yn gobeithio i'r bysiau, a wnaeth hynny'n hyn sy'n digwydd, dwi'n ei wneud i'ch beth hefyd yn y Llyfrgellau i'w gwneud y gwn, sydd o'n ddefnyddio gynfa, sydd o'n gynfa assistu. Efallai y gwirdd y gwirdd y bany Treasury, Men, Pen Lleif, mae hynny'n gwneud i'r diogel am y cyfathor Llif. Rhywodol, dywedd yn ystod beth sy'n credu i'r gwirdd ac mae'r noddyddau'n debyg ar gyfer dragio a'r newydd suspension. Felly ddim yn dweud, trainingael, ac mae'r gwahanol yma i bach yn y cyfnodaeth yn gyllideb yn y Maas Gwylfa喔l yn mynd yn fudd. Gwyddo i'n rhan o'r hwnnw, mae'n bydd gen i'r Jason, mae'r gwahanol yn llos-gwylfa mwyaf. Yr holl ddaint, mae'n holl wedi'u peth yng Nghymru yn y pensiala yma yn miwr. Fe wnaeth, dyma o'r pethau, yn ddylgros ystyried yma dyma, gweithio'r bwysig i ddechrau'r llun i'r Llywodraeth nesaf yma, rwy'n fawr i gyd yma yma. Mae'r gweithio i gael yma yma'r cynnig. Mae'n gweithio i gael yma. Rwy'n siaradau'r llun i ddeliannu, mae'n ddegfynion y gallwn, mae'n ddegfynion i chi'n ddegfynion? Degfynion i chi. Mae'n gweithio i chi'n ddegfynion. Mae'n ddegfynion i chi. a mae ydych chi'n ddigon i'r bod ni'n ddigon i gendahol.  What kind of work does that do? When people say, well, it's biology, what sort of work is that doing? I think it's also trying to justify a certain behaviour or talking about, for instance, a certain feminine behaviour or hysteria. It's often also felt back to like, oh yeah, there has to be with hormones or she's an inferior or whatever that is, all these biological explanations for bobl yna'n mynd i'r cyffredinolion. Mae'n siarad o'n amlwg i'r diolch oherwydd... Rydw i'n gweithio sydd hynny yn ffannu desmol i'w cyffredinolion, Oni'n baratau i gŵr a llunio'n gŵr, felly mae'r genaddf wedi'u pefnod yn gweithio yn ychydig. Mae'n gwneud o'r unrhyw fath, felly mae'r unrhyw fath yn ymgyrchol. Mae'n gwneud o'r unrhyw fath, felly mae'n gwneud o'r unrhyw fath, a dwi'n gwneud o'r hyn o'r hyn o'r mynd i'w cyffredin. Roedd ymletwch ar gyfer hyfysgol? Roedd ymletwch? cambio bod wir yn meddwl am gyfraeg y gallai grimad. Mae eu gair hwn ar gyfer hyffordd a gweithio i gyfraeg ar gweithio. Roedd ymletwch ar gyfer hyffordd? Roedd ymletwch ar gyfer hyffordd? Rwy'n arny chi'n gwych chi o hyffordd. Roeddyn ni'n phwng y dynion i ysgrifennu, sydd y ceisio. Fe oil sydd yn cyllid o fewn professiona i waith yma, a phobl yn fath y meddwl am y mewn, ond mae'n yma ein rhan o'r lef geisig iaeth yn ddefnyddio'r lleid. Mae'n arweinydd yn lleol wedi ceisio a'r cyfeirio a oedd y gyllid ar wych yn darllen o'r llunio. gyda ddweud yno i cael y mwyaf uwch yn ei chweinio gyfarfaedd. Mae'r dweud wedi ffนfa swydd i gyffredigol, i holl ymwybr i ddigonol arddangos y grwm hyffordd dyna i gyflwylogu, i hefyd, ac i ddweud o hynny o'r ymwysig. Ac efallai nhw'n ymwysig ymgoe. Gwych dwi'n iawn, dwi'n i'n iawn o'ch ffainnwyr. Efallai wedi nhw'n ardulliant dechrau arno. Yn toilets? Toilets? Public toilets? Clothes shops? Gwell all? Anywhere else? I'm thinking about like... Clals for little children because I have little siblings and girls having really small fit and small genes that are really tight as at a young age like fat people and having boys that have more baggy stuff ok more comfortable and that's restricted mobility already at that age that is nice I was going to say a really similar thing, I was trying to buy me clothes for my little sisters. The functions and performances, it assumes within the design of the clothes. All the girls clothes were pretty dresses and pink. My little sisters like climbing trees and getting dirty and big things would do that. It was really restrictive. It was designed in a really restrictive way that didn't enable action and mobility and stuff. There are also different doctors, different types of doctors for women. There are normal doctors that everybody can go to. I was involved in an interesting conversation on Facebook yesterday in this group on electronic music. The question was why are there mostly men doing electronic music and why are there so few women doing it? Some of the answers were really interesting. One of them actually said that women were innately less techy. That's why guys kind of got into it quicker. Absolutely. You're pulling out the idea of social construction, aren't you? Socialisation and the ways in which those things get put back as natural in age rather than as something that's a social product. What about this binary then? Most people are going to drag it back to the binary and say, well, there is male-female, there are two genders. Anybody got any experience or reading or ideas that would challenge that idea that it's a binary? I've noticed that in my own community of Asian people, that the concern about women being capable in the technical sciences and computer programming and stuff is subverted in a really weird way. It's a tendency in oxyglyde, particularly to pressure the daughters into doing exactly those things.  That's not a thing, but the patriarchal structure is still there. It's almost as though the racial aspect of it just completely transforms what happens. OK, let's think about that. Let's think about the way in which a gender position then, we're already beginning now to get a bit anthropological here, and think about the ways in which what counts as being a woman or being a man might be culturally variable. Can anybody speak to any more examples of that? So being techie here is assumed to be that's a guide thing, right? But that's coming from a very specific cultural location and historical location. The idea of being techie is a guide thing. Here we've got a pushback on that. It's not necessarily a guide thing. So in this case something else gives you your qualification and your status for womanliness. We would want as anthropologists to find out what that is. Other examples? I have a vivid example of my mum who doesn't shave her legs because we are already new from Ghana. For having hair on your body is something that is feminine in Ghana. Which is the opposite in European concerts where women are supposed to shave their body hair. That's a sign of femininity here. You can even have a moustache and that's something that is sexy. That's not really detract from the feminine. Any more examples? I mean, even on the biological discourse if you would say, okay, what makes a woman biologically is that she can bear children. But that's not true for all women either. So even the different differences, biological differences that some women might have.  I guess one article that may start to us was we read something about how sex was constructed. Like it's not just the moral aspect of mother hearing that, oh, here's your baby girl and how you socially construct that afterwards. But also doctors surgically constructed. To erase any kind of irregularities. There's naturally occurring biological intersex. Does anyone want to speak about that? I know some of you guys have read about it. Anyone want to speak to that? The way that we surgically intervene upon biological intersex. There can be a variety of different dentals.   So many times doctors just take the liberty to do certain preparations on newborn babies in order to fit them into the box. So we only tolerate two very clearly demarcated bodies. But in nature, nature has natural variation in culture. We have kind of rigid boxes and we'll make sure that nature fits into culture and then appears to be natural. Yeah, which I find interesting that the natural discourse is still more dominant. Because you can also see that in some countries like Germany, a third gender is allowed or fine sex can be crossed. But it is still based on how you're born. Like the biological qualities that the baby has and not on their personalities. So I think it's still interesting how you can cross that third category at birth, but not later on when you decide how you want to perform that. I think that's a point at which it intersects with sexuality quite a lot. It's like this projecting cultural ideas or values onto nature as well.  There's sort of an idea of natural order occurring prior to any cultural ideas or constructs. And then as we've kind of pointed out already in the room, an awful lot of us sort of suddenly become experts on animal behaviour or biology the minute we start talking about sex gender. But we really actually don't know what we're talking about when we go and look at the biology. On our course we have a little look at some of the biology, both primate studies, animal studies, but also biology of chromosomes and hormones. We find out that the picture is really absolutely not as we would be imagining it. But it's just that placeholder. It's just that really quick. It's natural. We don't argue. There we are. End of discussion. The binary, we're still not undamaged. Let's undo it a bit more. One aspect is, and this is a new very new thing, is the computer's internet. When we talk on forums or whatever, we kind of take on, we can take on a different identity in which who we are, our gender, our social gender is completely relevant. So that already in itself goes to show that there are ways of going beyond the binary. And people are able and want to think themselves out of that. To position themselves as a different online. In many places we have examples of people who live beyond the binary and are not pushed into a binary system. We have different gender regimes in different places, different historical moments, different cultural locations. Can anyone remember any other examples? Zenith and Oman. That's an example that gender doesn't have to be stable. The hijra is somebody who is in a specific space and stays in that space. But there are examples of switching gender. You're something up to the age of 12 and then you become something else and then you may become something else. So another legacy that we are a bit stuck with is the idea that people have a stable... I feel like often in conversations about gender and stuff there's an erasure of gender fluidity or being non-binary or particularly gender fluid. And often as well people will assume that with trans identities that you can be like a femme trans man. Or that there can be fluidity in those respects. I feel like also coming back to dressing, the way you dress. I have encountered that so many times with friends and myself. People who... Women who have always dressed like... Always wearing trousers, shirts, nothing, no dresses, no skirts. But then they wanted to wear these dresses and skirts but they didn't feel comfortable anymore expressing that feminine identity because they were not associated with that by their friends or with them. And also the other way around. If a girl's brought up always wearing really feminine clothes then not feeling so comfortable... Well maybe actually more comfortable the other way around. So I think even just on these small levels of changing your style that always seems quite important for people as well. You brought in a relationship between gendering and desire.  Maybe we can think about that for a moment. That's an interesting idea. Well I think one of the obvious ones is masculine women seem to be sexually deviant and not heterosexual. And the same with feminine men. And how does that fracturing of the gender translate into equal or not sexually heterosexual? There's also a strong intersection with... There's also a racialised discourse around that. So seeing... I just read an article on Hollywood and othering in Hollywood, othering the Middle East and Hollywood and how Middle East men are seen as the rapists but at the same time very feminine and subordinate to the white masculine men. And then how oriental women are very sexualised. They are very sexualised in a lot of movies so there's that intersection as well. Yeah the hype of feminisation. A lot has been written about this again about that connection somehow that we find again and again between genderisation we could say and racialisation. And there's an interesting set of literature on colonial practices and on the production of the feminised Asian and the hypermasculinised brutish Arab or African man and the ways in which that played into colonial projects of domination. But I think we see the effects of that still with us now, don't we? It's not gone, yeah. Yeah the notion of having to rescue Arabic women from oppressive regimes in Afghanistan and seen as passive, as hyperfeminised and needing the feminine obsession with our mating. Oh dear, absolutely. What you place into another modernist thing is that obsession with transparency. To be seen and be clear. I think it's kind of separate. On desire there's sometimes a failure to acknowledge the performative aspects of desire as well.  The idea that sex workers are fracturing their body and selling their body rather than performing a sexual act and that the assumption is well in a lot of anti-sex work narratives that sexual acts are occurring within sex work. It's like always heteronormative. And often gendered as feminine. Although there's so much gender variation within sex work. One of the people I studied this year is this Pakistani Islamist named Maldudi. One of the things that Maldudi says in this weird little book called Social Systems of Islam that he released in 1960 is that there's an active sexual partner and a passive sexual partner and all of Pakistani Muslim social relations need to be centred on this idea of active and passive sex which is a really interesting way to put it. It's not men and women at that point. He says active and passive. And then he says that different women and different men have different features that feed into that. That's the central mechanism for the social system which is important to be aware of. So it's a system and a binary and a set of complementary, making a complementary pair, but not necessarily anchored down to a biosec. That's interesting. Anyone else want to say anything about acts rather than identities maybe? Well I guess queer theories. I picked up on that as a critique of identity politics and saying how identities need to be separated from acts and also identities have this congealing as well without allowing gender journeys or sexual journeys. I think that's super important also when you talk about things like consent that sexual acts can exist in one situation and then they don't necessarily have to... If you perform a certain sexual act that doesn't necessarily have to be applied to your everyday life so that can be very separate and that is transgressed, that can be also very harmful for people. We have an idea that's come around of homonormativity as well in which we would perhaps get rid of that idea that necessarily heterosexuals are the sort of conforming married two kids etc side and that being lesbian or gay or trans is necessarily some kind of radical and challenging position that we also have kind of queer straight sex acts and very normative lesbian gay lives. So everything is kind of much more complicated in this room than it is someone's outside of it. But perhaps I wonder if we can get to something way more complicated that season to get there because we've been talking a lot about human beings and about society and socialisation and the ways in which humans present themselves or live themselves, experience their subjectivities and their identities. Have we perhaps especially in the humanities and the social sciences totally discounted an enormous part of the material world and the way in which that makes us and shapes us and is part of us? Well there's this idea that we're actually cyborgs. We've become cyborgs or we've started to become cyborgs and it's this idea that we should start looking on just the limits of what is human and that's suddenly in the post human and all that. And one of the ways in which this works with kind of genuine sexuality is with social scientists looking at the effect of various technological prosthetic addons that we put onto our bodies. So Viagra is an example of that and that's a masculinity and at the same time reinforces the kind of idea of what health and masculinity should be like about a direction. Or you have all sorts of different prosthetic addons, jugs or anything that in a sense alters our bodies in the way they are gendered. So these natural heterosexuals are not even the natural ones. That is even with practices right? We have a lot of porn that a lot of people have not actual whatever if you can call that actual sex or not but have sex with looking at porn movies and so there's all these technological addons as well to your reality. So people are differently situated in different regimes of race, class, sexuality, technology and that produces different kinds of cyborgs according to the technology and the stuff that's going on around them. Anybody got any other interesting examples? Anybody want to talk about?  Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, no absolutely. And that is something that transcends and crosses across any kind of attempt to make a clear homo-hetro divide, isn't it? Absolutely, we know that. People's practice is far more complex, right? Yeah, and we'll always outstrip public notions of what's respectable, what's kind of normal, what people are expected to do. You know that in practice we know from the pornography, from the sales of equipment and stuff that people's practice is way, way more complex than any simple kind of. If we could take outside this room and something that I don't want to do, I absolutely don't want to privilege the university because I do believe profoundly that practice will always outstrip people's theorising and ideas so I will never privilege the university and play into any kind of idea that, oh, in here we have all these fancy ideas about sex gender because we know we've read all these books and the people out there, what do they know? We're not going to play into that because it's just not true. But if we could take away one thing that we wish we could communicate, what might it be? You might want to take a moment to reflect on that because that's a pretty big question. I'll give you mine. Mine would be, if I could communicate one thing, it would be you, whoever, I'm speaking to you, are way more complicated and so is everybody else than you even perhaps imagine. If you would just allow yourself to go there and find that out, that would be the one thing I'd want to take. The Catholic Church in Italy is really taken issue with gender theory in general and is calling it an ideology of gender that is just aiming to erase completely differences between masculine and feminine. What I would like to communicate is that that's not what it's about. It's not about erasing the differences. It's about showing that the differences don't have to be so categorical and so fixed. I guess I'm going to go with this idea that the sex of whoever it is that you want to be with is not the determinant of your identity and to move beyond this back to biology and to be open with experimenting without the social stigma of naming. I feel like there's so much anxiety for everyone around when it comes to sex but also gender and anything. I think one thing that I would like to... out there is that people don't ridicule the importance of sexual practice but gender performance as well.  And a lot of violent events. I guess a big step for me was thinking about my sexuality and my gender identity in terms of how I related to others and how I was constituted and in turn constituted others by other people. And so I guess I would be looking at sexuality and gender in less of a singular, or like individuals in a different way looking at the ways in which we can constitute and unravel each other. I don't know. Does that flow? Yes. And things moving through around in between us. Like a singular job than that humanist. Let's start from there. For me as well, to move away from the binary and not just create the other, the darkness. Like what you said, it's more complex. We don't just want one, two, and then away. Everybody else into that. I guess I had something similar. I was so afraid of ambiguities. Moving away from categories we've always been socialised with. It is kind of okay because we are all about ambiguities anyway. All bodies are filled with them. So I don't accept that. I mean like, I want to move away from the binary and take the gender theory stuff I've learned from SOAS so I can apply it in box-up. We want to transform gender in these places. We want to... Hang on, maybe not. Maybe we don't. That's not our job. I think that's where some contemporary analyses are really interesting. There's quite a lot of anthropological work which is trying to work right now at both scales. It's working at the absolute macro-scale of global geopolitics and looking at stuff like war on terror, like the production of this veiled Muslim woman who has to be rescued and unveiled. And looking at that in the ways in which it absolutely fractally connects down to the micro-scale of how me and you interact and live our gender and our positionality as race, class, gendered subjects. I think the best work is trying to do that to hold on to all those scales and see those interconnections and the ways in which those flows of violence and power are absolutely implicated with each other. Has anybody read anything like this that they want to throw in and go there? That book or that idea? Well, really good as now if he has poirs. Yeah, terrorist assemblages. She has to be a poir. We can hear that. Even Kanili did a lot of research on counter-insurgencies by looking at how the policy level and then structures like how soldiers interact with the local populations on the ground on these gendered power relations. Leila Apulomot has done on being and also rescuing the Arab Muslim groups. Yeah, this is really exciting work out there. There's an interesting one. I don't know if anyone's written about it yet, but the all-female part of the Kurdish Revolutionary Army. Oh, okay, right. I'm actually fighting. They say they're fighting for themselves first and foremost, and then for the country. That's quite interesting. I just thought that was super interesting because when that came out, that was such a fetish with Amazon. It's a civilization. Our kind of women. We have to watch that one.  I wonder how ISIS feels about getting bombed by female fighter pilots and getting shot at by female members of the Peshmergans. You know what the Emirates is doing?  That's how it's being used. It obfuscates everything that everyone else is doing. Once again, their femininity becomes their identity. Exactly. Everything else.


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Muna jua hiyo, atu jui Anyway, today I want IV and of course AVOs to just walk us through how I as a content creator is able to secure that bag and maintain that bag because let me tell you kuna wa tu wa nei toa kia reu kumise naata, mini kusho kuna wa doa da jui 30th in your nukte doa niya kufo atu juu na hanzianga wampi ama ba doa na fael nil na sayo kuna doi na ingiya this is where we get to find out more on that karebusana IV karebusana AVOs I hope you guys are good nikiwa kilu misya sana by the way, I have seen AVOs na karela is way nihaza kwa mimi niya entertaina na sayo kuna unjo na niluti ya e na ni pair facts, I am sorry if I take you too fast niya me meri, calm down, calm down this is money talking na sayi nga kia reachana na niya kami niya begin juo, na sayi na toa kumita AVO so anyway, I have very briefly you want to understand how do I balance my money however little because let me tell you money is little so how do I balance that money as a content creator in a way that benefits me for the near future for the other future you and you combine and also just maintains my status and the kind of image I am trying to put out here let's just start from there especially for you be the content creator as well how I balance my money interesting question thanks Mary how much do I understand what you mean by how I do so how do I balance my money okay, how can you tell me to like balance the money that comes in where is it supposed to go because we want to have to enjoy zinafako in our priorities and not okay fine so before I answer that question I need to tell people who may not know I am a financial literacy enthusiast I am not a finance expert which is why I was so happy when Azit said I'm going to panel with my very good friend Amosu is a financial coach okay so what I'm going to share today is going to be on my journey even if you've followed my content you see that I say I am learning and taking with me I like to stay authentic and I always thought people do your due diligence so I don't want to say something here and people say I reset I reset yeah so I'm going to start with that first so how I balance to my money the first thing was to actually make it if you don't have the money you can't rebalance it so I'm going to start off by saying how I started off by making my money content creators the one thing I want you guys to understand we have a different type of currency that currency is called trust people who come to your platform do not trust what you're saying if you feel whatever you're selling is contrite you're trying too hard this is unbelievable you're not authentic they will not buy what it is that you're selling neither will your clients so I started I had a three year strategy plan after I quit my job and the first year was to build trust and build a brand so I would encourage everybody figure out who you are authentically do not copy any other people as I said your own essence and build that trust first once I built that trust and brands would come to me and that type of thing the first thing I would do is make sure I do such a solid job at the job at the work I've been given that they keep coming back we are in what you call the passion economy they give economy we are passionate about what we do you only get one chance to make that first impression so the first time someone offers you even if it's 10,000 oh man delight that customer do such a good job that they not only come back but they endorse your brand to the next person and the next person because every time you post something on that platform that serves that serves as your own personal advert to the next customer so build trust make money by being very very good at your job then I moved to negotiations for long term partnerships again when I give economy to balance your money you can't constantly accept give me one picture today and then you get your money then you go away what that happened what that does is it cuts your opportunity for the next job so for example I am in finance if today I took one picture with Absa I and them would see it and CBA would see it UBA would see it and not no end they would assume I'm continuously stuck with Absa what would happen that would not give me more work and what I've done is I've taken money for one picture so it limits my chances of getting money later to balance so I started moving to negotiating for long term partnerships I do not work for less than three months I can't because I won't have money to balance so you come and ask me for one picture I tell you no as I had said learn to say no I say no to a lot of clients and it's painful but at the end of the day I know I need to balance my money so once I get my long term partnerships this is something I learn from my friend Imos I have fixed costs every month I have my event I have my kids guys kids are so expensive I have my kids and I have this lifestyle that I like I like to look good I like to travel nice so I have my I don't have one budget I don't want to cover that later but I have this I have my expenses that I know that I have to cover every month the ones that are fixed as soon as I get money oh and I have my investments oh I always pay myself first as soon as I get money I do what you call prepayment Imos taught me this on a live a year ago 3 years ago I prepay everything my rent is paid months in advance if I can afford to pay fees months in advance I pay if I can afford to pay for travel early so I know to be where I'm travelling next year whether I do I do know where I'm travelling next year and I book in advance so that way when I have a fight month and that's another thing I always know that the brands I work with I know their fiscal years I know when they start I know kota wa I will get zero work but that means between September and December I've worked my butt off and paid my expenses so I'm not crying in January okay so I do that then of course I said paying yourself first I have goals I know where I want to be by 45 retired if I'm still creating content by 45 it will be out of passion but it may not be because I need the job so I have my goals so I invest towards those goals and they're very clear I say I don't say I think maybe I want to be living no I know where I want to live I know the homes I want to own I know the car I want to drive and I know how much they cost and I really doubt and I know every investment I make moves towards that and I know the amount of money my investments make me at the end of the year another lesson I got from Amos we always forget that our investments that interest is a form of income so I know how much I care from each and every one of my investments the ones that are active at the end of the year that is the short story I will give you I will not save your money until now maybe yeah that's what makes sense to me have I made sense yeah well you definitely put things in perspective quick question is the favorite car on the status balance? 100% you look like it I just had to ask anyway it was a really very quickly I'd like you to just delve into what exactly you do because she keeps mentioning you she keeps quoting you you guys had an entire life and I just want to get the full scope of who are you that you do and how you benefited her yeah well good afternoon everybody you guys look upset are you okay? you know the issue of money is very sensitive and I think I have preempted everything I wanted to say my name is Amos Gahu I am a financial coach and looking at all of you I feel like I was born in the wrong time I was talking to a man here who's dressed in colorful shorts and I'm like I wish I could get away with that and for the last 17 years I've been talking to people about money so I'm not young and one of the things that I love about money is that every day you get to spend money every day you get to make a money decision right you come in here you decide that I'm going to pay 3000 to come for this event or we're going to come up and take people sorry take the offer so I like having continuous money conversations so that every day you're making an informed decision so that's how I operate as a coach in my other life is that I coach and play basketball and I'm very good by the way locally they call me Steph Kea very few we get that but however I'm an author as well I've done a book called and around solutions and when we offer financial literacy it can be offered in so many ways you could be a group of people group of chama groups of employees your organization wants someone to talk to you about money then that's what I do for a living and most importantly we want like I say we want to have that continuous money conversation that is why I try to make it as simple living in my story and yeah that's what I do nice to know that very quickly could you tell me for example I am well I am I have a content creator okay I happen to depend on myself I happen to you know have a tiny house somewhere I have a passion for content creation and I want to monetize my content what are some of the things you would advise someone like that who is green in this industry has no idea what to look out for what to consider what any skans go any kind of clue at all but they'd like to have some sort of you know financial literacy to just help drive them towards their goal well at least the narrative of when you go to a hospital before anything is done they take your temperature they take your weight basically they want to know your body normal your body essential that and one of the things that I tell people before you have money conversation can you first of all do an evaluation of where you are now looking at you you guys look lovely the beginning of my coffee but as much as you might match your neighbor's outfit all of us are in different seasons never never please that you are in different seasons some of us here probably we didn't even have past fear to come here I've been there some of us have really worked hard to get that money to get us here isn't it some of us have just landed a very good deal and you're in that a season where by Sibna don't you wanna press her look at your neighbors the myth they are walking habit is different when they have money you have a different habit a few of us are you understand so you have to know that most of us are in different seasons and the moment you are aware that listen I don't have another kid coming in there or probably is my first one I'm so glad because an IV will talk to you but is the first one I started I started looking up to I didn't know who she was until I was told someone shared your continent like who is IV because I was not so keen in social media and the moment I met IV she's very selfless and she's able to teach you some of these things I didn't know that doing a campaign with one bank short term works as an advantage to you so I had to learn so my point is first of all understand the season you are in I in the season of plenty I in the season of luck I in the season of just balancing or in the season of recovery I went together once you understand that now you'll be able to know is it time now to buy that big iPhone or first of all I can survive with this one so that I meet my bills for the next three months are we together understanding that is very very important regardless of your income okay well thank you could I just add on to what Emosa said because you asked for someone who's just starting out how do they begin to monetize their content it's not immediate how I started was I did a lot of free work a lot of free work remember we said you're building your brand fast what you're doing is establishing trust trust with your audience and the brand so don't feel with my 5000 followers someone coming to say can I give you a parent package no don't say no say yes do a good job and also a blind tag other companies that will be interested in that same content because your customer does not know you exist don't be there thinking oh my lifestyle content creator so people know who I am people has no idea who you are tag them don't be mean with your tags that's the first way to start monetizing your content how many of us here have a read card we want to talk about monetizing content but only none of us have read cards why put yourself in the mindset of someone who's ready to make money so that when someone comes in and asks how can I partner with you you'll say I have a read card it can take a week to get a read card we are so many content creators guys by the time someone is asking for a read card it takes a week they'll have found someone else 10 other people so put yourself in that mindset get a read card in order I can talk about how to kill a read card for 10 hours but that will be a separate conversation do not only think of brand opportunities every time you see me posting a link especially when it comes to investment opportunities when you click on that link I make money that's called affiliate marketing but by too mean oh I'm not gonna post a read you'll make maybe 2,000 shillings like that when you get those peer packages tell that person if someone buys your dress because I posted it pay me 20% so don't only think of brands that's another way to monetize your content he said he's an author Kenna said he's an author get other products that you can sell outside of your content your shelf life guys I hate to say it but the shelf life for content creators not really one we only have a short window we bust into flames and then we wither so what's going to keep you buying other merchandise even we know musicians themselves what do they make money from concerts and streaming not selling albums that's dead no the other thing is who here talks has put in their profile in a marketing agency in an influencer marketing agency who's heard of WALC who's heard of AI influence if you want to make money find out who's giving out the jobs fill in the profile just have them in there and they'll send you an email you never know I can talk about this forever monetize the content it's actually a lot of things to do it's actually very inspirational that we every other day I keep learning something new about guys who've been doing content creation for the longest time last time we had Joy Kendi and she had vast knowledge I was just taking in and taking in but I think what most of us here would like to just know especially from you is that journey did you immediately know that I'm going to be a content creator and I'm going to be money wise I'm going to call it that I'm going to be very wise about my money I'm going to be did you have all these ideas with you from the get go or did you pick them up on your way basically what I'm asking is what was your journey to transition into this woman who is very aware very organized plans two years ahead just give us that no I did not know that I'd be here if at some time they still laugh I mean would you come to for more money I laugh doesn't it I can't believe this is why I'm very on that but I'm just like wow because on what 25 which was the block of my step


Welcome to the 21 convention Orlando, Florida 2017. This is Socrates, I'm your guest host for 21 Studios Radio. This is the legend and the man Ross Jeffries. Pleasure to be here and I really appreciate the opportunity to be one of the speakers. Fantastic. I was telling you earlier that I actually have a rich man's prom at this point. I actually not only was able to meet you, you're one of the people I was really looking forward to meet, but I'm limited to about 30 minutes of interview time. Thank you, you're very kind. Thank you. Let's start off with your origin story. Let's talk about that so people, our viewers can kind of understand some of that. Very quickly because there's other things I want to move on to. I came from a background where I had no role models about how to deal with women. God bless my father and his memory beat for a blessing as we say in the Jewish faith. But he had no clue about how to handle women and he was gone most of the time working. He wasn't gambling or carousing. He worked three jobs to put food on the table because my mother didn't work. What I did observe was a terrible marriage where they were constantly attacking each other. He would do his best to embarrass her because she was not sexual with him. He'd say in front of a company, oh, I don't get any. And then as I grew I was in my eyes at least horribly ugly. I'm 6'2", about 210, a little bit of a belly. I was 6'2", 125 pounds in high school and I was so ashamed of my body. I would tape, I would put paper on the mirrors so I wouldn't have to look at myself when I got out of the shower. I would compare my arms size to the arms of the women around me, the men around me and I would think why would a woman want to be with me? Why would she want to be with an inferior product? I'm not even a man. I would look at my arms and say these aren't the arms of a man. This is not even the body of a human being. I had terrible shame. And that was my basic background. All through high school, all through except college, the very end of college. And I went, I lost my virginity at 22. I went five years without even being touched by a woman. I'm not talking about getting laid or not getting kissed. I didn't even... Any human contact. No human contact. You have to imagine what that hell is. And most guys I think can't relate to that. No, no. They cannot. And women cannot relate to it. I tell them this and they say you're kidding. So I was determined. I remember one day visualizing myself in a dark hole, miles and miles beneath the earth in a ladder and climbing out one rung at a time. And I remember thinking one day I will get out of this and when I get out of this, I will go back and take any guy who's in that hole and get him out. I remember thinking that way before I ever found the solution to the problem. And then I stumbled onto NLP, Neurolinguistic Program. And that provided me a way not just to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but to remove the tunnel completely. Just to stop you real quick. This is before the internet. This is before YouTube. This is before any video contact. What was the format? There's a book called How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed. We did it on, literally, we took it to Kinko's copies, 8.5 by 11. I would put it on the kitchen table. My mother would staple the cardboard covers, stuff it into envelopes. I would take them to the post office. I got on a lot of TV talk shows. I knew how to bait. There is a magazine called Radio TV Interview Report. It was the Bible of every TV and radio talk show. And so I wrote an ad. I took my last $450. I wrote a full page ad.  Interview the man who turns wimps and geeks into supercharged macho studs. See, I had that talent. Yeah, you really did. I mean, this is remarkable. This is where I'm saying it's a man. When we talk, and I don't mean this in a derogatory part, the grandfather of the community, everything. This is before the community. This is before all these things. People would send orders to a P.L. box. And when I did, I would send them snail mail. Yeah, I'd rather say snail mail catalogs. They would send me checks. It was crazy. And the thing is, I learned copywriting from my mentor, Gary Halbert. People think, well, Richard Bandler is your teacher and your mentor. He's the father of NLP. But every penny I earned, I earned because Gary taught me how to write copy. Gary was from lived in Florida.   And he took me under his wing. And the ad I wrote to sell my book that launched my career was the amazing production secrets of a skinny, ugly six-foot geek from Culver City, California, that could get you all the hot, sexy women you ever desire, no matter what your looks, financial status, or age. Boom. And that ad over a course of ten years made me hundreds and hundreds of thousands of dollars. So that's my origin. So you come from a background in which you imprinted really negative marriage views, relationship views. You had tremendous self-confidence issues. Traumatic. Based on everything. That sort of trauma. And then zero human contact in an age in which you weren't able to gather information, relate to each other, have any of that. I was very isolated. Unbelievable. And then you did something about it. But you know what? I give credit to my mother. Because my mother said, if there isn't an answer, you be the one to go find the answer. So you had a single source of inspiration. And my mother also said, one day I was sassing her. I was like six years old. And she said, if you don't stop it, you'll grow up to be an iconoclast. I said, what's that? She said that someone who goes around kicking over other people's sacred idols and ideas. I said, cool. That's what I'm going to be, Mom. So thank you, Mom. May your memory be for a blessing. I'm going to get the quote too, because I want to remember that. May your memory be for a blessing. It's the one thing that may your memory be a villain. And I'm going to put that in my backpack. I love quotes. That's a Jewish thing. Fantastic. And this is what I'm talking about. The stories and the sheer admiration for the people who are pathfinders for everything else. And all honesty, I came well behind all that. And so you have this kind of this idea of these people as figures and have the ability to actually physically meet. Yeah, well, I also always had a sense of a destiny. Even when I was a little kid, there was a show called The 20th Century hosted by Mike Wallace. And they would profile great men. I thought, one day I'm going to be a great man. And even when I was really lonely working crappy jobs, I remember thinking, this is not what I meant for. I have a destiny. I meant for something bigger. So say that again, because I think that's terribly important. You actually were able to project in the future. I thought I meant for a destiny. You put something out there. I always put it out there. I always believed I had a destiny. And I was meant to be a great man. I was put here for a reason. I really believed that. And what's kept me passionate after 30 years, you saw my talk, did you not? Did I appear to be having fun and be passionate? You were having fun before you even got on stage. One of the fuse. I know I get all worked up. You were just amped up like a race horse. And so what keeps me, why would I stay passionate after 30 years? Why do I have charisma? I think I do. I'm not blowing my own horn. Why do people look at me like, oh yeah. Because I truly believe I'm walking my path. A man who is walking his path, a man who is walking his destiny, is very, very difficult to stop. And I'm stubborn as a mule.     I just will not quit. And that donkey like stubbornness kept me going. I just, I don't like to quit. Quitting is the worst poison I could swallow. I got a pause right here. Do you hear that? Listen to it again.  He hates to quit. And he had a vision. And that transformed your life. Yeah. And look how many other people have been transformed by it. Yeah. I'm sitting across from you. Ah. Now let's get into the red pill. I know. I was just about to say this is the time to drop. All right. Let's drop that bomb. Yeah. What is your opinion of the red pill? I think there's some good stuff in it. First of all, let me tell you what I like. Warning men about how women can be duplicitous and women can be manipulative. Absolutely. And the games that women can play is vital. I was saying this though back in 1988. I said it back in 1988.  I warned guys. I said many women are seriously dinged in the head. Don't expect that she's going to love you for who you are. Right. I said that back in 1988 for Christ's sake. So please understand, no one out there think of me as a simp or a white knight. I'm the furthest from that you can get. So I like that and I like... I think hypergamy is very true. That's a fact. It's not argument. No, right. But then what red pill gets into, it gets very reductionist. It takes complex human behavior. Humans are very complex creatures and very nuanced. And it reduces it down to evolutionary psychology and to me human behavior depends on the context you're in and the society that you're in. And it's very, very difficult to isolate it down to, oh well, she left you because you were a beta or a cop. There could be a million different reasons. Maybe the sex was lousy. Maybe you were, who knows. So it tends to reduce things down. And also when you come to the dark triad, this idea of narcissism, psychopathy and Machiavellian, as if that is the essence of what women come from, that to me is self-evidently not true. There's no evidence for it. And I'm going to say his name. When Rolo takes what he teaches and he wraps it in the mantle of science, when he refers to it as arising from evolutionary psychology, he's wrapping himself in the mantle of science. And when you do that, then your standard of evidence that you have to meet rises very high. Hold on just one second. So your standard of evidence rises very, very high. I take great pains. You saw me in my talk three times. I said, I'm not teaching science. It's not true with a capital T. It's only my model. So my standard of proof is much lower. So I would argue first of all, I think evolutionary psychology is a soft science at best and maybe a pseudo-science at worst. But let's grant that it is a science. There's nothing in any evolutionary psychology paper or study or textbook that says that women can't always have dark triad traits and that's the essence of who they are. And I come from an anthropological background and having lived with and dated an anthropologist for 10 years, literally in the Smithsonian. And I've gone back, and this is something Rolo and I actually share. We actually read the white papers and go back and I can see any number of studies where they say it. And I would say that on the dark triad is a human condition. Exactly right. It's human condition. But people don't listen to that. That's in MGTAL. MGTAL people say it's women only.  What I also find is that they don't look to the other side. Women have hypergamy. Absolutely. Men have hypergamy. The same general things. And very similar. Where we're the same, they're very similar. Where we differ, they take sex-based criteria. Right. And that was part of my talk. But what I find disturbing is that they're out to de-pedestalize women. But then they de-ify masculinity. I say they demonize one gender in order to de-ify another. Fantastic. That's how I put it. And so when you, and also when you say things like A-Walt, all women are always like that. Now I know the excuse is going to be, well, we didn't say they always do that. We just say they're like that. But in reality, they're saying they always do that. It's reactionary to not all women are like that. Right. And so they do that as well. Right.  And so my talk was literally about our biological imperatives, you know, about getting through that. And in all honesty, this is where you and I differ. And I find it fascinating. Go ahead. Tell me. Tell me. I'm very pro-child. I struggled with that. Right. I mean, up to several years ago where I sat down and said, I don't know if this is for me for any number of social reasons, personal reasons, and everything else. I made a choice. You made a choice at a relatively young age because I know your background. Yeah, I don't want to have kids. I'd make a lousy father. Selfishly. No, actually selflessly, because I know I'd make a lousy father. And how's that affecting your life now? Not at all. And how about your viewpoint going forward? Because I think it's fair to talk about it. I have nephews who are the most wonderful young men I've ever met. They are like my best friends, my sons, my brothers. I would always be holding my own children up to their example, never meeting them. But the reason I never wanted kids is, first of all, I thought I would never be able to have the creativity and the creative energy to do what I wanted to do and also pour it into a kid. And so it was a very sympathetic. But I want to talk about this. I'm not done with Red Pill. I'm not done with it yet. I'm not quite there. So this idea of dark triad, you can't find that in any of the evolutionary psychology literature. I would challenge you to find any study that said women. That's Rolo's extrapolation. It's human nature. But it's his deduction. And so when he extrapolates from that, he's taking the science and he's layering his opinion onto the science, but wrapping his opinion into the science. That's where I have a problem. And to be honest, this is what I think the service he does provide. The anthropologists don't take the step forward. You're not allowed politically to take one step forward. If you read the papers, sometimes it's really interesting. Others it's really dry, but the problem is that there's nobody segueing that to popular literature to make it beneficial. But when you segue to popular literature, you take the risk of twisting the science. Absolutely. That's what I think with all due respect to him. That's what I think he does. I have no problem with the measure. That's what I think he does. And finally, the idea of solipsism. The definition is not strictly correct. Solipsism is a term from philosophy. There's a study of philosophy, one of the branches of philosophy is epistemology. It studies how we can know things. And solipsism from that perspective is a form of radical agnosticism in the sense it says the only thing we can know for certain is our own minds. Not that our own mind is the only thing that exists, it's the only thing we can know for certain. Other things could be a projection of our mind. Metaphysically, it means the theory that the only thing that exists is ourselves. And everything else is our creation, the figment of our imagination. And so I think the definition is not properly used. He's taking the definition and giving it a different meaning.  God does toad. That we remove religion in the morality base that comes from it. And invariably what comes in, we don't have some other morality structure. Nihilism comes up. The self matters more. We live in an age of extreme narcissism all around. I'll put it to you this way. I said to one of the students at dinner, I said this whole society is revolving around the dark star of narcissism. Absolutely. It's not just women. Drink to that. Dive out of drink. Drink to that. Never better said. I'll take credit for that. It's not just women. It's men. It's everybody.  And so I don't think this has got to do with some inherent trait in women or inherent trait. It's what's being programmed into our heads. How can we resist the power of popular American culture? Popular American culture, by the way, is the greatest weapon against radical Islamist fundamentalism that you could have. I would sit down and say it's literally American culture is the epitome of mankind. I mean, we have had centuries of warfare for pop culture. All of it. Oh, you're popping that. Let me tell you what I mean. Yeah. Please clip on it. I visited Israel twice. In Israel, the Palestinians wear Nikes. Israelis wear Nikes. I remember a god-awful video of ISIS executing someone.   But they were wearing, I know that's one of the executions, wearing Adidas. Right. American pop culture is our greatest weapon instead of bombing other radical fundamentalism. No, absolutely. We should break into the radio and beam Britney Spears and drop Adidas. Adidas. I mean, literally carpet bomb it. Yeah, that's what you do. So those are my real problems with red pill. The ultimate red pill to take is the red pill of compassion. And by that I mean to see that we're ultimately in the same boat. That beautiful woman was born wearing the same thing you were. The instant you were born naked. One day something's going to happen. She's going to die. We're subjected to the same gravitational pull, the same atmospheric pressure. And whether someone is frustrating you or giving you what you want, they're humans. They're not demons on the one hand or divas on the other, they're human. And that red pill of compassion is very difficult to swallow because it means you have to look at the other as being a human. And this is not an easy thing to do. It means you have to modulate your anger, particularly when you've been genuinely hurt. You have to modulate that and say I'm hurting and that's a human being. That is something that takes a very mature mind. And the other big red pill that I challenge everyone to take is the red pill of saying I don't know. I don't know the answer. Let's move on just real briefly. Who are some of your heroes and people you look up to? Some of the mentors that you have. Mentors are heroes. Both. If we have time, both. I have some odd ones. Harry Udini the magician when I was a kid because he was such a great self-promoter. He knew how to promote himself. Muhammad Ali when I was a kid, loved to watch him fight. Again, a great promoter.  Both were masters. Self-promoters and masters of their field. Clarence Kelly Johnson who's the head of the Skunk Works. Yes, R71. F117. These guys made the impossible possible. One of my heroes, Voltaire. The famous French comic playwright. Voltaire said something that inspired me when I was 19. 19 and had a huge heart on for this huge titted girl to El Camino junior college library. I was reading something by Voltaire.  I use it on a regular basis. I loved Voltaire. Voltaire was one of my heroes. And finally my father. Where we heard this before. My father. I'll tell you why. My father for all his flaws. He had many. He fought World War II. The greatest evil the world arguably has ever seen. He fought the Nazis. He was a combat medic. He was not allowed to carry a gun. Imagine everyone shooting at you. He had a crawl out under fire.  Many times. Literally. But he did his duty. My father never ran away from his duty. He said something interesting. He said after a while I wasn't fighting for the country or freedom. I was fighting for the guy on either side of me. And the guy he had to get to. Even though I hated war. He forbade me from going into the military. So my father did his duty and he never ran away. He would feed six kids. My cousin who lived with us for five or six years. He broke his back. He worked three jobs. Towards the end of his life when he was very feeble he could barely move. I said dad you lived in a sexless marriage. You broke your back working. Did you ever think of running away? And suddenly the life came back into him. He pulled himself up. I'll never forget this. As much of an upright posture I would never run away from my children. Never run away from my family. If I had the strength I'd do it again. And then he sunk back down into his coma of pain. We're going to have to end there. To sit down and think that that is what you imprinted on. We talked about the trauma. The imprintation.  What a fascinating story. Thank you for the honor. Actually you know what. Let's give it another ten minutes. I still have liquor here. So you take this with the imprintation of your father as the man and you actually as a hero. Talk about your mentorships as your educational system. So Gary Halbert who is my marketing mentor Gary taught me the most important lesson in all the copy. I write all my own copy with the exception of some of the emails that my ops manager I've trained him to write in my voice. Gary taught me one thing.  One more time. People do not have time to try to figure out your pathetic subtlety. Gary taught me that. Richard Bandler the co-creator of NLP took me under his wing and taught me neuro linguistic programming. By far the great teacher of my lifetime who has totally changed my view about what it means to be human.  Shenzhen taught me that pain and suffering are not the same thing and that pleasure and satisfaction are not the same thing. And I've had the direct experience through meditation of the self as a thing disappearing that I am not a thing in there called a self. I've had the direct experience of self and world dissolving as separate entities and I've experienced myself as a flow of activity that arises and vanishes and in that moment of vanishing I've had it very rarely in 10 years of meditating I've maybe had an hour or two of it in that moment of vanishing there's a excuse me a profound peace that goes beyond human understanding can I get a glass of water is that possible or yeah do you understand so Shenzhen has been far and away and he's the most brilliant human being I've ever met and he teaches poetically and mathematically. Tell me more about the instructor because a lot of people may not know him. Shenzhen is a mathematician and a scientist and he teaches Vipassana Vipassana is Buddhist essentially the elements of Vipassana are focus you stay focused it's resolution power you look with great clarity on what's going on and then equanimity you don't fight what's going on so you don't repress the pain but you don't feed it with the storage because anything that's external will actually pass if that's only a philosophy if you have the skill set of meditation then see it offers a beautiful third choice people either run from pain or they tell themselves a story about it and feed it but the direct experience of the sensation of pain without a story and without suppression there's no suffering I was crippled with grief when my mother was dying I remember laying down I couldn't even sit in meditation I did what he taught and I felt all the pain tracked all the sensations here's the sadness, here's the emotional exhaustion and 45 minutes into it it just broke up into a flow and a wave of bliss and satisfaction and for about two days I carried a very subtle very subtle piece beyond understanding I was also very sad so it really had a profound impact it's made me a much more compassionate human being I have a deep schema from my family of having to make people wrong and for a long time in my career I made enemies because I said that was part of my, it was so much gold, a fish in water so much of how I saw the world I needed to go out publicly and make other teachers wrong and for that I offer an apology it's one thing to make another person to take their ideas and rip them apart it's another thing to personally attack them so for that I apologize but also that was my momentum and through meditation I was able to see that and over time these habits have what I call cognitive momentum and emotional inertia and when you meditate they no longer arise so strongly that they distort your perception and drive your behavior but you have to embrace that feeling you have to exist it you have to experience it without fighting it 2 second drink cheers I don't drink alcohol oh no sir now we actually get a clink glasses properly it was just an excuse fantastic so let's move on to that so you have this instructor and mentor how did you start actually doing that in your actual life what was the process there I started to meditate and over time what it did look I realized that I never dropped the spiritual poisons I carried when I was that ugly guy who couldn't get women those poisons were still in me the poisons of resentment envy contempt despair and horrible agitation there should have been like tremendous jealousy and rage as well there was envy not rage envy not jealousy and these were all intense spiritual poisons so to this day after I do my meditation I say a little prayer I don't believe in a higher power but I say please take this envy and transmute it into genuine happiness for the prosperity of others and genuine gratitude for what it is I have myself please take this contempt respect and admiration for others and respect for myself humility humble respect for myself so I do a ritual where I take each one of those elements and I transmute it and over time it's gotten to the point where I am not that person I used to be I've seen that need and I think part of the problem I don't like the word spiritual whenever I hear the word spiritual I reach for my 45 because it's such a sloppy word but I think that aspect needs to be addressed of all these poisons that are in every human being and I think here's the other thing I come from a discipline of being a healer half of what I do with my students is healing work many guys who come to this movement, this community are traumatized absolutely so for me it's not a matter of alpha and beta absolutely for me it's not a matter of alpha and beta it's a matter of traumatized and non traumatized so if you take a traumatized guy and he thinks they're battered or whatever it is or he's seen the example of his father enraged and he thinks oh that's being alpha I never want to be that I'd rather be a victim than act that way he's confused being abusive with being dominant and being a leader I have to untangle those for him and lead him on a path of self healing so if you say to a guy who's deeply traumatized or wounded you should act this way and give him another thing to hate himself over I think that's not being addressed in the community because you carry the ones for it it's not even scars being wounded doesn't make you less of a man it doesn't make you less of a man it's not a reason for shaming a lot of these so called white knights never experienced a real connection they didn't have any intimacy in the home it was a cold home and so they were going to reach for it anywhere they can find it I think in many cases they're coming to the rescue of their mother I don't know if I'll go that far but to ridicule them with a name this is my other problem with both Meg Tao and Red Pill they take complex creatures like humans and they put them into cartoon categories like a thing called a white knight or a thing called an alpha or a thing called a beta they're reductionist in their nature they take complex creatures like humans they reduce them down to cartoon characters not the way to wisdom that is not the way to truth to have the patience with confusion and not knowing the exact answer and to say it's sort of like this takes a lot of discipline but this is exactly the kind of thing that Red Pill and Meg Tao do they reduce people into categories and humans are not that simple they're complex and they're chaotic and you cannot find truth through that method of doing things it just doesn't work that way so to have the patience to say this is someone who has some of these qualities and some of these qualities that takes being able to say I don't know I know I'm guilty of a profession because we try to categorize things and the other thing is it's too convenient to use shorthand and I think we miss the human it's a bad way to understand humans and I think particularly when we talk about dynamics between people it lacks empathy I talk about I design buildings but empathy is for pussies and simps and betas that's what Meg Tao is essentially saying it's for simps I've been labeled captain save a hoe I've been labeled trying to build a better beta no one dares label me that because I'm an OG I'm a godfather mother fuckers there's a 45 in his hand so we're right by the way nice choice of weaponry oh thank you I have a 45 you should never discuss weapons no no no there's no 45 I have a 45 a Smith & Wesson model they gave it to LAPD I figured the LAPD can shoot with it and then I have a long colt a 45 long colt it's a cowboy gun it's a 45 caliber but it's got a long cartridge which is fun to shoot women love to shoot it it's got a big roar and a big flame it's a single action where you have to cock it and if it runs out of ammo you just whack someone with it it's a heavy chunk of metal none of this composite glock shit we're not going there are we at our 30 minutes part I hate to say it let's end it here so we're on a good mark absolutely fantastic thank you very very much and let's stay in touch with our friends I respect you this is signed and offered 21 radio Ross Jeffries here before we go I did you a disservice where can others find you easy rjcoaching.com that's rjcoaching.com and what services and products do you actually provide I have a group coaching program so you get to talk to me that's me not a trainee not a flunky not an apprentice not a novice not a trainee talk to me four times a month for 197 bucks a month that's insane now let's go back where can they find that rjcoaching.com fantastic thank you very much pleasure thank you sock signing off take care thank you very much


fan were going a little bit, but are you surprised at all of that?  I mean, they cheer for me when I was here. I mean, moving here as a opponent, that's fine. Think of the offense as a whole tonight?  You know, kept going the entire time. Huge homer by Rizzo. Gallup had some big hits. Kiner, add-on, kept adding on, which is important. I mean, obviously, it looked like that game was kind of in balance. If one swing could do that. And Rizzo took advantage of a pitch and hit it out.  It was nice to get a W. Did the program yarders have the ability to just pull and come down here? I thought that I had a chance. I haven't had a chance to go back and look at it. I mean, I just pulled it. I mean, the second one, obviously, I didn't feel like I had any chance. The first one, I thought I had a play on it, and I just pulled it. Jameson was talking about how he's impressed you guys win a lot of different ways. Tonight, not very starting pitching with some errors, but still winning by six runs. Does that stand out about this team?  I mean, we played a little sloppy, but we were able to, you know, we, like as we have a deep team bullpen, offense is deep as well. And, you know, obviously, we don't want to continue to play like that, but it was nice to pick each other up right there and, you know, still win that ballgame.