Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Jonathan Asley of johnthanasley.com and I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today. Our topic, the seven things, wait a minute, should we do it, the seven things that make up a man's love commitment style, the seven things that make up the love commitment style. Okay, really quickly, if you're new to my YouTube channel, please hit the subscribe button, hit the bell so you can be notified of new content. I shoot about three or four videos a week. So all right, those seven things that make up a man's love commitment style. Now you probably are wondering, what is love commitment style? Okay, you've heard of love attachment style and if you haven't heard of love attachment style, we're gonna be talking about that in a few minutes but I'm gonna shift the narrative and bring up something brand new. I call it the love commitment style. What that means is how a man's personality comes into effect to his decision making process of choosing commitment. And I'm talking about personality here today, not necessarily how he makes the commitment but what makes up his personality to get to a level of commitment, okay? So this is gonna take a little while so please do me a favor, hit pause right now, grab a pen and paper because you're gonna wanna take notes or what you can do is in the comments section start writing notes because this is really good juicy stuff and I know some of you will probably all write this down and post in the comments below. Okay, so number one starts with our instinct. What makes up our personality starts with our instinct and what I mean is it's our basic caveman survival, fight and flight, provider, protector, hunter and then there's women who are gatherers and berry pickers because this is for both men and women alike. We start with our instinct, right? What that, how we were instinctually raised that goes back tens and tens of thousands if not millions of years. So that's number one. Number two is our biology. Obviously men and women are different. One of the primary differences in biology is men happen to have more testosterone than women and women biologically give birth to a child and when they give birth, when they're breastfeeding they actually release a hormone called oxytocin that helps the child bond with the mother. So biologically speaking, we are different. Men have penises, women have vaginas, okay? By the way, my audience is mostly heterosexual people so I'm speaking to that demographic here. So recognizing that biology and instincts plays a part, not a huge part. Now this is where a lot of dating coaching advice centers around instinct and biology but today we're gonna go deeper. In fact, we're gonna crack the nut, if you will, to the deeper question of love commitment style because this is where a lot of dating advice gets tripped up because it's mostly focused on instinct and biology but now we're gonna go deeper. And the third thing is socialization. Socialization, how we were socialized as children as both boys and as girls and there is definitely a difference. So I almost want, I said a moment ago that most dating coaches focus on these two things. They really focus on these three things because it includes socialization because boys are often taught, very young, to stuff it in, to be a man, keep it in. Don't share your feelings. And where girls have been more prone to be able to express their feelings at a very young age. So this creates some of the differences already between men and women is the way we are socialized and that includes all the expectations around dating, mating and relating is based on socialization. So again, I wanna apologize, I said two but I really meant these three things is where most dating advice is wrapped up.  What happened in his, and this is men and women alike. So what happened in a child's life, those formative years that begin to create who they are as a person. And if you're not familiar with the book Attached, I highly recommend getting the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller because this book is really gonna help you understand love attachment and I'm sure you've heard of secure, anxious, avoidant and then there's avoidant dismissive and avoidant fearful. Okay, so there's all love attachment is how we bond with another human being starting early on in our childhood. And to further this, it's important to understand something called the Amago. And if you're not familiar with the book of by Harvelle Hendricks, I talk about it frequently getting the love you want by Harvelle Hendricks and Helen Hunt, okay. This is when you see a person choosing the same type of people over and over again, it's because of the imprinting that happened in our childhood. And these are typically unresolved childhood wounds and traumas, unresolved childhood wounds and traumas. And many of you who've been watching my videos have heard me talk about the Hoffman process. And this is a deep dive to heal those childhood wounds and traumas which center around our parenting, which brings us back to the Amago, which brings us back to love attachment stuff.  And women are bad gathers and berry pickers as my friend Alison Armstrong talks about. And then we go into the biology, our chemical differences. And then we go into the socialization but now imprinting is where we begin to, we start to be more alike. In other words, our imprinting. And now each person's imprinting is unique and different to them, just like our thumb, thumb print. Okay, that's mine. But what happens is this is all happened in our young age and this starts to begin to make up our personality. And what happens in our imprinting directly affects how we operate as human beings, our negative patterns and limiting beliefs. So can you see how this plays in a huge role? And if you find yourself dating the same type of guy over and over again, chances are you're following a pattern. If you have negative beliefs about yourself and what not, it's probably because some imprinting happened in your childhood. Now we're gonna go deeper and we're gonna talk about life experiences because life experiences play a huge role in this. Most of us at midlife, those who follow my work are midlife, which is after baby making years and before retirement, we followed this blueprint of go to college, get a job, meet a girl or guy, get married, buy a house, start a family. That was our blueprint and now our blueprint is in chaos because we don't, many people don't have any directionality in what they want in relationship. They don't have any purpose. They don't have any intention because they don't know what the framework looks like and if they've had negative experiences, these life experiences which oftentimes resulted in many traumas can directly affect someone's personality and it's a person's personality that makes up their love commitment style, how they commit to a relationship. Are you tracking me so far? I know I'm throwing out a lot of content here, okay? And we're gonna go even a little bit deeper, deeper, okay? But it's important to recognize this because I know many of you women are operating from that fantasy. It should look like the movie The Notebooker. It should look like the movie Serendipity. Those happen to be two movies that I happen to like along with Princess Bride. If anyone likes the movies I recommended, please post a comment below. Let me know you're tracking this. Let me know which one of your romantic comedy movies was the one that made set up your blueprint of what you think relationships should look like. But let's face it, it's a clusterfuck out there. It's a mess out there. And so when we, I shared with you the first five of understanding what makes up a personality, person's personality, but a person's personality is how they choose their love commitment style. I'll shoot another video on what is their love commitment style but I want you to understand the things that make up a person's love commitment style. Because the love, well, let me just break it down. Love commitment is whether or not they choose a casual relationship or a fully committed relationship. Most people, I would say the vast majority of people are operating from what's called stable ambiguity. Esther Perel talks about this in her book. She wrote the book called Mating and Captivity, but you can Google stable ambiguity. And that's basically people who want connection, companionship and sex without the deeper fully commitment, the deeper commitment to building the roots of trust to build commitment. And if you wanna learn how to build the roots of trust then you should be buying the book Eight Dates by Dr. John Gottman, Eight Dates by Dr. John Gottman. This will teach you how to build those roots of trust. Because that's sorely missing because someone who has a love commitment style that wants to go the distance, in other words, they wanna move in with someone or get married, that's in their consciousness, they've been doing some of this work preparing themselves for it. And if they haven't, well, they might mean that they have to heal some childhood wounds, they might have to heal traumas, they might have to do some work. And that brings us to the sixth piece and that's the person who is introspective. Introspective, in other words, they look inward. They look inward. And oftentimes, and this is the seventh piece, this is directly related to their intellect because their intellect says, I wanna explore something deeper. So there's introspective work looking inside and intellect says, I want to explore a deeper relationship with someone else, not from that base caveman. Most dating advice is pandering to the caveman or woman, that instinct, the biology, the socialization without any consideration.  Because what's most more important is for you to get clarity on yourself.  There's a link to buy the book right below in the description, selflovethebook.com. Many of you are operating without the basic element of self-love, the men included. Hence why introspective work means you're going to consider personal development, self-help, and spiritual work as a daily practice to preparing yourself for an amazing relationship. Because when you're prepared for an amazing relationship, you can dive deep into love commitment style. You can dive into a love commitment style that says, yes, I wanna get, I wanna put this, I'm gonna take this finger and put it here, the marriage finger, okay? For those of you who wanna get married, not everyone who wanna get married. By the way, the reason why I wear the ring on this finger is I read a book called Ring Shwey and said if you wanna attract a marriage in your life, put this on the opposite ring finger because you're keeping the space open so you can eventually go like this. Hey, I don't know if it's gonna work, but I have it on there for that reason, so just to give you a heads up. By the way, for those that see my bracelets, this one is for my son, Connor, who had passed away. That was a gift from someone, so anyone who's, a few of you have asked about my bracelets, that's why I wear that. By the way, in that picture with my son and my son Colin, we're both showing off the bracelets. All right, I think you're tracking where I'm going. If you're not, and you have a question, please post it below. I read all the questions. I try to respond as many as I can. In fact, if you're interested in doing a deep or dive to get clarity on who you are and what you want relationship, check out the link to schedule a free discovery call to see if working with a coach is right for you. All right, we've covered a lot today. I hope you found value in this. I'd love to hear your perspective on this, so please post a comment. What else do I want to say? Look it, there's nothing easy about this process of dating, mating, relating. It is a clusterfuck out there. However, when you step into your sovereignty, when you step into your power, when you step into your self-love, this becomes a much easier process. And most of the time, we just need a little bit of tweaking to get there. And I'm hoping that this conversation has tweaked you a little bit, has shifted your perspective, in maybe moving in a direction that's going to attract great love in your life. And that's my invitation for everyone and my hope for everyone as well. All right, I'm going to wrap up this video as I always do.  I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love. If it's okay, I'm going to ask you to turn to someone and give them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love and we can all use more love in our lives. Thanks so much and wishing you a fabulous day. Thanks, bye-bye now.


Now moving forward ladies and gentlemen, it's a time for an TV fireside chat session and for this Very interesting rapid-fire round. I would like to invite on stage miss Nazia Associate editor exchange for media.com along with mr. Sujit so the current senior director brand marketing Mintra and Miss Tanu Ja Pradhan head special projects and consumer insights reliance geo to please come in Join us on stage Hi Rapid fire. I have five questions. We have ten minutes and Let's not it's coffee with current And whoever wins makes no difference because there's no hamper so Take your time and respond So the first question is this is all about content, right? So the first question is the three most important pillars of impactful storytelling start with Tanu Ja Okay, so for me it is you know brand purpose, which has to be there It is about the social impact what your brands is doing for you know Let's say for everybody in the country and of course empathy, you know, it's for me Three things inside phone entertaining and Relevant for the times key trends that are impacting the GEC space I Think Gc is getting more younger today if you look at a decade back the content was more older In terms of age, it's getting younger and it's getting a much You know this is a deserved source of modernity also. So these are two things which you see on Gc For me, maybe, you know for Gc youth is not watching TV. So that's a cup, you know, that's a trend where you know You know now digitalization is there so everybody is talking about digital content Then it is, you know attention span has limited a lot and it's impatient. That's so you know There's a regional content which is emerging. So these three things as per us Other trends that you know So the next question is Tanu Ja's key aspects that can differentiate your story from your competition So, you know, if I talk about geo, I don't know who's the competition honestly because you know There are startups also which are emerging. So we really don't know, you know, how do we prepare with the current competition? I think the core is to stay consistent and you know work on the you know The brand values which you are you are famous for or which you're consumer need So that is a very generic answer, but that's true. I Think what would differentiate every brand story from the other is how honest the brand is to itself, right? so if you are making an honest story about yourself people will definitely relate to it and The honesty comes because you will tell a story which you can live you will not make up a story I don't know when a brand makes up a story never works well a brand need to live a story that it really can You know put it out to the consumer at the end of the day. So honesty I think is what would make a brand a brand story, which is your favorite and which is not your own brand I will not talk about old stories One of the recent things which Lacoste has a branded was really amazing when they changed the logo from the Crock to a bunch of animals which are actually getting its extinct and making only that many t-shirts To say that only so many of that particular animal is there. That's a story from a brand It's a brand which says that I believe and the brand believes in Sustainability and the brand was ready to actually change its logo. That's how big can it be otherwise Yeah, so for me, it's a Volkswagen one, you know a story where you know instead of Extending into cars. They actually open hotels on the highway to ensure there's a safety for drivers You know they can just take a rest and move on so that is that actually tells you it is not about staying in your own Category it is about extending beyond and being impactful a Constraint that comes in the way of content I Don't know whether it's a constraint. There is so much of content out there so quality and Figuring out what is a right level of you know Dose of brand and not having brand because content cannot always have an overload of the brand It has to be a certain balance to it. That probably is one good challenge You know now as we said that it's a digitization word It's a mobile format. So creating those formats are expensive So it is a mainly the trade-off between you know the creation of content and the data money or the monetization of it So that trade-off may be I think I've asked five questions, but I still have one more question I'll start with the new job a long-term content strategy or a campaign by campaign approach so a long-term strategy always but It can you know, we went to you know some basic agents even you know Which is like let's say we know with be ahead of the curve, but long-term strategy always We agree. I think it's long-term. Yes, but you'll have to figure out What is it's relevance of this current point in time so that it can help at that point in time for the brand also But definitely long-term no questions. Thank you very much. You can I think collect your hampers from events team If they have any, thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thanks


In order to survive, the human organism needs to take in oxygen, water, and food. We can survive only about three minutes without air, three days without water, and three weeks without food. Because food is so important to our survival, it's been studied extensively. And since 1827, when a British physician by the name of William Prout first proposed that humans need three macronutrients to survive, physicians, scientists, and increasingly the general public have been trying to figure out exactly how much of each of these nutrients will optimize our health. But to some extent, the focus on nutrients rather than food has confused many people. And we tend to get lost in this conversation about nutrients good and bad. And it's understandable because scientists need to reduce things to a single variable to study them. And the variable in food would appear to be the nutrient. But we also have lots of studies that show that simply removing or boosting nutrients or turning them into supplements doesn't seem to work. That food is much more complicated. It's a system. A basic understanding of the nutrients can give us a helpful background for our discussions about food. So we'll review the nutrients and how the body uses them. But most of this course will focus on discussions about food and health because ultimately people eat food, not nutrients. Dietary carbohydrates are combinations of sugar units that come in both simple and complex forms. Simple carbohydrates include the monosaccharides or single sugar units like glucose and fructose, as well as the disaccharides or two sugar units like sucrose or table sugar. Complex carbohydrates or polysaccharides include the dietary starches that our body can break down and digest, and also the indigestible polysaccharides that make up dietary fiber. During the process of digestion, carbohydrates are broken down and converted to glucose, which can then be metabolized by the body to produce usable energy in the form of ATP. If energy demands are low, glucose can be stored, and most of the time it's stored as adipose tissue. Dietary proteins are also broken down into their component parts, amino acids, during the process of digestion. And these amino acids can be used to build and repair lean tissues in the body and perform many other important functions. But amino acids can also be broken down and used for energy, and if they're consumed in excess, they can contribute to fat stores in the body as well. Dietary fats can also be broken down into smaller components and used for energy, or they can be stored as adipose tissue depending on our energy needs. Fats are the most energy-dense storage form, providing 9 calories of energy for every gram, and alcohol provides 7 calories per gram. In contrast, carbohydrates and proteins provide only 4 calories per gram. This is one of the reasons we've evolved to store excess nutrients as adipose tissue, and this brings us to the underlying physiologic cause of overweight and obesity. Many calories that aren't converted into usable energy in the form of ATP are stored in the body for later use. Most of the time, they're stored as adipose tissue. So disturbing the energy balance to favor energy expenditure over energy storage needs to be one of the priorities for people who are trying to lose excess weight. This can be achieved by consuming fewer calories, burning more calories through exercise, or a combination of both. But in addition, when long-term health is the end goal, the quality of our food matters just as much as the number of calories we consume. Within each category of macronutrient, we need to choose foods that will support our health rather than working against it.


Oh my god, okay, I've got my camera up on one of my cameras. Actually, I don't like this camera. I genuinely hate using this camera. Hello to you guys, welcome back to my channel. It's your new here, hi, hello, my name is Lydia, and I thought today that I would jump on here and tell you a little story. Just a typical story time. It's not okay to call someone a drug user. Drug abuse is a very serious thing. It's a real mental health condition and it affects thousands, if not millions of people within this world. To go around calling someone who uses prescription medication as prescribed, a drug user is insulting to those people who are actually struggling with drug addiction. So, as you know, I posted a video yesterday talking about cyber stalking and the leg-up legalities of it and the fact that I'm pressing charges against someone with it. Having an entire Twitter account dedicated to bringing down someone else's social media following. I think that constitutes stalking and harassment. This video is about me being a drug addict. You know, I'm using it for clickbait. It's the best idea. So, I'm going to take my medication. As described, because you know, I don't have a really hard-core drug use. So, I've got some Lerazepan. I take two of them at night because I think I can sleep with the power I know that I have. Yeah, I wish. I have tablets. There are certain types of tablets that I like and some I don't.  I hate exploring them. Lerazepan have two of the one milligram tablets because, you know, like I said, one at night, a 0.5 milligram tablet of Lerazepan. OK, all right. Now, it's totally OK to run around and calling people drugies.  You know, it would totally fine. I'm totally not illegal because it's not hateful. It's not hurtful. Of course, that's Stephanie's attitude. I'm not actually going to do that because that is horrible. I myself have dealt with drug addiction in the past. I used to use cocaine. I'm very up for it. I'm very honest about this. We all know this. I'm not going to hide my past from you guys. Calling someone a drug user is offensive. Calling someone a drugie or that they're addicted to drugs. Just because you disagree with the fact that they are prescribed their medication, that's you pushing your personal view on someone else. And to try and dictate and comment and say that it's wrong that I have these medications, that's so fucked up. I don't think you realize how screwed up that actually is. It'd be like me telling you not to take your epilepsy medications. I rely on the medications I take to get through a day because my mental health suffers if I don't. You take your epilepsy medication to prevent you having seizures. The difference is, mine's a mental health, yours is for a physical condition, well, a neurological condition actually, but because he's neurological, so I'd point that out, it's not physical. There's a huge difference. It's the same.  I take them as they are written on the box. I have never deviated from that apart from when I try to kill myself.  But I think this video needs to be made. I've been debating it for so long now. I'm so sick of her thinking she has the right to comment on my medication, which she doesn't. The one that I take Wednesday as a period is between me and my doctor. Yes, I talk about the benefits of it on my channel. I don't have negative side effects with them. That's what my point is. They respond very well to me and they help me manage my mood. They help me when I have flashbacks, which, you know what, for someone like you who say is that, oh yeah, I have BPD. I thought you'd be more understanding of that. As someone with mental health issues yourself, maybe everyone else that has mental health issues, you, Stephanie, do not have the right to tell other people how they should or should not take their medications or how they should act or what they should say or what they should do. You should not turn around and say to someone who uses medications that you don't like the fact that they use because you can't get it. You get given clonazopam because it's an epilepsy drug. You've said yourself in previous live streams that you had a drug problem. Why are you comparing me and you? Because if you've been through that, you know I'm nothing like that. So with that, I am going to end this video here. I hope you enjoyed it. If you do want me to do more little comedy rant things, it's not really comedy. It's kind of my life and it's very unfortunate. We're all here to have fun and I generally like to have fun. Other things, she's like, well, it's so stressful. Why does she do it every day? I do YouTube every day because I enjoy it. It's a hobby. I don't do it for money. I don't do it for fame. I do it because I enjoy it.   Do the logic. If she needs to take medication, take it as it is prescribed by a doctor. I don't care what Google says. It's not a doctor. So yeah, bye guys.


فشرف بل اشتغالي بالعلم ولا تبغي به ما عشت يا دا دا دا لا وياله من شراف عظيم الحمد لله رب العالمين له الحمد الحسن والثلاغ الجميل وأشد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له يقول الحق وهو يهدي سبيل وأشد أن سيدنا ونبينا محمد صلى الله عليه وعلى آله وأصحابه والتابعين لهم بإحزانين إلى يوم الدين أما بعد إن شاء الله التعالى التوبي that I was told to speak a lot and the topic that I was told to speak about is the relationship of the Qur'an and the relationship of the sunnah to the Qur'an that I was told to speak about is the relationship of the sunnah to the Qur'an and when I was given that topic I was very excited and I think it's a very important topic so the title which I have chosen to give it is the danger so I'm going to speak about it in two points of view the first one is the dangers that it holds when a person comments on the Qur'an whilst they are ignorant of the sunnah you don't know the sunnah of the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم and you comment on the Qur'an the dangers that it has and Imam Ibn Abdul-Barra رحمه الله he has a great book called جامع باير العلم وهاضلي and this is a book where students of knowledge read what they take from this book is the importance of knowledge and the virtues of knowledge so it's a book for students of knowledge a person who wants to embark on the path of knowledge the kind of book he would read and one of the etiquettes that a student of knowledge is told to come with he will state it in that book in this book he said something very powerful he says أهل البداعي أجمعه أرض رحمه عليه السنة وتأبروا كتابة على باير مبيلة السنة فضلوا وهاضلوا ولعوذ بالله من الهدران ولسأله التوفيق والرسمة برحمتي وقدروا إيه عن اللمين صلى الله عليه وسلم التحليف عن ذلك في باير ما أتنى منها he said that the people who have gone against the path of the Messenger the deviated people the misguided people the innovators what he did was he said أرض رحمه عليه السنة all of them they went against the Sunnah in what وتأولوا القرآن and they commented on the Qur'an they commented on the Qur'an in a way which the Sunnah didn't mention in other words they gave meaning to the Qur'an which if you try to look for a Sunnah to prove you will find it فضلوا وهاضلوا so they became misguided and they misguided other people and then he goes on to say we seek refuge from Allah من الخدلان that Allah humiliates us and that Allah destroys us وَنَسْأَدُهُ وَنْهِ اَسْقَ اللَّهِ سُنْسِرِينَ أَتَّوْفِلْقَ وَالْأَرْسْمَةَ that Allah gives us the ability of coming with good and that Allah makes us free from errors and mistakes with His mercy وَقَدْهُ وِيَهِ he said that he was also narrated and so Ibn Abdul Barali does his he brings his chain of narration from himself from his teacher to his teacher to his teacher so his teacher was Abdullah Ibrahim Muhammad up to the companion of the messenger his name is رقبة إبنوعة مر الجهني so he is trying to collect his understanding Abdul Barali is trying to say this is what the elevators do now he wants to bring a hadith for it but remember at that time no one would narrate a hadith unless he bought it from himself to the prophet so he brings a chain from himself directly to the messenger and this is what the messenger said he said مَلْكِتَابُ وَالْلَبَنْ that the messenger said that destruction of my people is in two things pay attention to this my people my Ummah are destroyed because of two things what is it الكتاب وَالْلَبَنْ the Kitab and a level milk so the companions they said يا رسول الله مَلْكِتَابُ وَالْلَبَنْ what is the Kitab and what is the level what is the Kitab that you are talking about and what is this milk that you are talking about the messenger عليه الصلاة والسلام he responded by saying يتعلمون القرآن they learned the Qur'an ويتأولونه على غير ما أنزل الله وعز وجل they learned the Qur'an بمعالى من ناحية الله in terms of its value they learned يقيمون حروفا ويتأولونه and they comment on the Qur'an على غير ما أنزل الله وعز وجل but when they come to commenting on it their commenting of the Qur'an is away from the sunnah of the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم ويحبون اللبن and they love milk فيدعون الجماعة so they leave of the congregation they don't come to the masjid وَالجُمع they don't come to صلاة المعين and when the people come together so what do they do وَيَبْدُون بمعالى وَيَبْدُون وَيَبْدُون means they go to the bed with lifestyle that's why Arabs used to find look, fresh look so they would go out of the city and they would go to those places so now we learn two things that our people have destroyed the Qur'an when it is explained and it is commented on other than that which a messenger meant and exactly والله that is the manifestation that we just saw taking place in London with the mommies and things that were happening where people were taking in the Qur'an and you asked them what's this that you're using ها يوم كتاب الله that's from the Qur'an but where was the comment coming from from himself from whom when he said this is the path of every single person who has become misguided the reason why they misguided if you follow it up you will find that it is what يتأولون القرآن and they comment on the Qur'an بجهنين عن السنة while they are ignorant of the Sunnah now there is another statement عمر ربي الله عليك when he wrote the book جهن عبانة عمو وفضلي he brings another statement of who عمر ربي الله عليك you know what is right عمر ربي الله عليك what he said انما أخافوا عليكم رجلاني I fear two types of people for you two types of people is who I fear for you عمر ربي الله عليك the first one is رجلون يتأولون القرآن a person who comments on the Qur'an عليك تلويني he comments on the Qur'an in the way that he comments on the Qur'an يجيز القرآن meaning that if you look that in the قطم التفسير you bring تفسير جرين الطبري تفسير البيحات تفسير البغري تفسير الملوكثية other than that if you open any بوسف تفسير you will never find out what he said in it so that's the first type of people I fear for you the second one is ورجلون أيمان يتلافس المنكة علي أخيه the second one is I pass it who is competing with his brother in leadership in other words elections and stuff like that competing with somebody in leadership that's what it is those are the two paths among the two things that God Almighty He said I fear for you have we seen all of them? we've seen them that's the reality in front of us today and it's not fair that everybody points at somebody else it's really good to look at ourselves as well when we take an ayah from the Qur'an when we ask ourselves when we take an ayah when we ask ourselves if they used to say I think I passed it when I read it from them he said I sometimes may hear a fa'idah but I act too I don't write it until I find with this fa'idah two testimonies two witnesses of the Qur'an somebody says something very beneficial I want to write it down I wish to write it down but I'm not going to write it down unless there comes with two witnesses what are the two witnesses of the Qur'an the next fa'idah now the next comment is the next statement comes from ابن عبد البر sorry ابن عبد الهاني ابن عبد البر used to be referred to as Imam أهل المغرب at his time there were two imams that divided the world into two one was known as Imam أهل المغرب who was ابن عبد البر and also the opposite who was who was who does anyone know أهل المغرب رحمه الله both of them were at that time they both held the sides of the world there's also another Imam who's name I'm going to read on you his name is ابن عبد الهاني ابن عبد الهاني he is a contempera of ابن كثير ابن كثير is best friend he was a student of an imam شيخ وليسلام ابن عبد الهاني and he's the man who died at the age of 38 بالله عاليكم he wrote a book called أصالي مملكة على السبك ابن عبد الهاني died at the age of what 38 only ابن حجاج الميزي is the author of the كتاب تهريم كبان في اسمه في اسمه I met him I was a man ابن حجاج الميزي he said when ابن عبد الهاني used to enter on to me used to come to my house sometimes and visit me he said I never had anything from him except a benefit from him you guys know ابن حجاج الميزي is ابن حجاج الميزي somebody who read to him sometimes he would bring about حديث and he would read it on ابن حجاج الميزي ابن حجاج الميزي is saying to ابن عبد الهاني young boy that whenever he would come to me and I would sit with him I would benefit from him the reason why I'm mentioning you this is because when I read this statement you know the weight of who said it so a lot of the times when we say at this Imam said it people don't know the value and the weight of the person who said it ابن عبد الهاني he said ابن حجاج الميزي it is not permissible to initiate a common tree on a vessel you're not allowed to make it up listen ابن حجاج الميزي or حديث الهاني لم يكن على حديث this common tree was not at the time of the salaf ولا عرفوه and the salaf didn't even know about it ولا بيانوه للأمة and the salaf didn't clarify it in this particular way that you're clarifying it to the people فهن عادة عضمانو because if you come to a vessel and you read it for people this is what this verse means then this means أنهم جهلوا الحق that the صحابة and the messenger were all ignorant about this Haq that you've become guided to يتضمنوا أنهم جهلوا الحق في هذا وضللوا عنه وهتدى إلي هذا المعطر and you have become guided to it رسول الله was جهل about it أبو بكروا was جهل about it رسمان عالي all of them until you came and you got the understanding of the ayah like this so it's very dangerous the time is very restricted إن شاء الله تعالى my beloved brothers and sisters the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم came and he commented on the Qur'an الله tells us in the Qur'an وَهَنْزَلْتَ إِلَيْكَا بِدِكْرَا لِتُبَيِّنَ لِنَّا الْنَاسِ إِمَا نُزِّلِ إِلَيْكَا محمد بِسَتْعَى on the Qur'an on you and what was upon the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم was what to clarify the Qur'an as the poet said فَسُنَّ تُنَّبِي وَإِنَّمَا قَرِيْقُهَا الْرِيْوَ فَفْتَقَرَا الْرَاوِيُ وِإِلَا الْدِرَاهِ the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم his job was to do two things the first one was to teach the companions the weddings and he teach them how to read the Qur'an as much as he taught them the wedding he taught them the meaning you can't separate the two he told them how to read it and there's many evidence that he used to teach them to read it صلى الله عليه وسلم if you look at the campaign they say the prophet taught us استخارة the way he used to teach us that Qur'an why was the Qur'an the example here is because that's how much the prophet used to teach of the Qur'an الله says وَإِنَّهَا الْتَنْزِرُ رَبِلْعَا الْأَمِينَ نَزَلَ بِهِ الْقُوْهِ الْأَمِينَ عَلَا قَلْمِ كَلِتَقُونَ مِنَ الْمُدِرِينَ مِنِسَلِنْ عَرَبِينَ the Qur'an was always placed in the heart so the messenger made sure and when the prophet would teach the meaning by opening the Qur'an and saying this is what this ayah means and this is what this ayah means and this is what this ayah means no no when the prophetuh a Populist explained the Qur'an explained it through two ways but there's a statement I want to read before I give you examples of the two statements and if I wish I could وقاله يقول كل ما حق ما بيه الرسول كل أولي that the messenger gained but he passed فوما مما فهمه من القوان. it is what he understood from the Quran every judgment that the Prophet passed it is something he understood from the what وعي عندما يجد أفكاره بأن الله سيسه لأفكاره وإنتبه محمد فرحه أتبه إلا ما يوحى إليه that which has been sent from God the prophet said follow and accept the Quran صحيح؟ so the Prophet may explain the companions there are two ways he did it the first one is that he sometimes explained a verse explained a family and this is what this verse means what did the Prophet say فهي في محاولة العمال. فهي still in the pulpit and when they say to the people صلور كمراهي تموري. The man came to the messenger, the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم. المسجد الموسيقو صلاته. The one who went back in his prayer. And the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم said he came to the messenger and he said السلام عليكم to the messenger. And the messenger said to him عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم ارجع.  Go back and pray for very long you haven't prayed. And so the man kept going back. Until he came to the messenger and he said يا رسول الله I cannot perfect it. This is what I can do. Then the messenger told him how to pray. That prayer that the prophet told him how to pray is the تفسير of the قول تعالى وقليل الصلاة. Establish the prayer. Are you with me brother? So the تفسير of the قول is found in the sunnah from the angle of the prophet speech علي صلى الله عليه وسلم and it is also found in what is action. But it is like a woman came to عائشة. And she said يا عائشة يوم المؤمنينة to the mother of the believers. And he said I want I want to not have children. I want to be a person who never has children and I want to leave children. And I don't want to get married. And عائشة علي الله تعالى عالى has said to this woman in response to her. لقد كان لكم في رسول الله اسوة حسنة. In the messenger is a good example. He is a role model for you follow him علي صلى الله عليه وسلم. And she said after that قد تزوج رسول الله the messenger got married and he married وَوُولِدَ لَهُمْ And a child was given birth one. So don't get married. Do what the prophet did. So where did she get this آية لقد كان لكم في رسول الله اسوة الحسنة. She used it for another action which the eye wasn't specifically talking about. But because the eye is very generic and comprehensive she brought it back to this verse. And you with me brought this. So if you're going to comment on the Qur'an and you're going to explain the Qur'an if you don't know the Sunnah يا أخي كريم don't become the one who misguides himself and don't misguide others. إن الله لا ينتزع الإنمان تزاعد ينتزعه من سرور الرجال. ولكن ينتزع علمة بقبضل العلماء. حتى إلى لبنوك العلماء. اتخذ الناس وقوس الجهالة. فسؤلوا فأفتوا بغير علم عبد الله عبد العالم العاصف الصحيحي. الله لا يأخذ علم like that. يأخذ علم by taking those who have knowledge of it. الله يأخذ those people of knowledge. What are they what are the people who know how to knowledge? يا أخوة الكرامي those who know the Qur'an and they know and they know the Sunnah. And the mission that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم will conclude with this. The mission that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم came. The messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم the mission that he came to do was to educate the people with the Qur'an. So what did you learn that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم تجد من this mission to convince them to spread to Shaikh and that he continues to teach the people the services of Allah and also to actually listen to the olems of these prophets and دخل from them to teach them how to teach the people these depись today.ذهب from today these say it today. Today ربنا وما بعث فيهم رسولا منهم يتلوا عليهم آياته ويعلمه من كتابه والحكمة ويوزاكهم إنك أنت العزيز وحكيب سبحان الله و بلده أخبرك المسجد أن يكون with two things أتذكية ونعين لتحديد الناس وإنجاك الناس أسك اللعب سبحان الله و إتعالى لتساعدنا على ما هو right and was correct any mistake and any shortcoming that came from a while I was doing this talk is from me الشيطان أن الله and his messenger are free from it I ask Allah who would injure everyone of you for listening to your humble baby brother سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك أشهد أن لا إله إلا الله أستغفرك واتوب إليك


Hello, I welcome you all once again to my channel explore education. I am Dr. Rashmi Singh assistant professor department of education Is this hanna girls to be college University of Allahabad and today I am going to discuss with you all a very important topic of sociology and educational sociology that is social stratification Samajic story Karan and the lecture will be in bilingual mode and must be useful for your general awareness as well as for your examination purposes So let's start first of all social stratification Society and educational sociology have a very important topic. The question is asked to you by the objective subjective And apart from that, we are social beings, so we should know this. So it is a very easy topic, but the first time It is difficult for those who are studying, so you know what it is Samajic story Karan It is understood from the name that there is a strata in the society, okay We have to know what is the basis of it. The study of social stratification involves many issues That is, the social story Karan has a lot of issues Theoretical as well as the ones related to the social structure of the society and Distribution of social justice power and privileges The arrangement of society in hierarchies What is the basis of these hierarchies and the positions of these hierarchies They command, they order who has unequal amounts of property Power, prestige and honor That is, the wealth, the power, the prestige, your respect The unequal amount of it, that is, we do not have any stuff in the world We do not have any money, any power, any respect This is the distribution of property, power, prestige and honor in the unequal amount The set of hierarchies is the same as the samadhi Sorokin describing the deep roots of stratification in human society are used Unstratified society with real equality of its members is a myth Which has never been realized in the history of mankind Sorokin has become a great social scientist He said that your stratification, its roots are very deep It is a very deep path, it is not that today's society is like this Unstratified society, that is, a society where there is no such society And all the members are exactly equal in each other This is a myth and this can never happen And in the history of mankind, that is, in human history, this has never happened That is, there has always been such a society Okay, this means that there is no one above, no one below It is a hierarchy, you cannot set it up according to yourself The society will be the same wherever it is And we know that the evolution of society has never become smooth They are saying that how did this happen, how did the society become like this That when the development of the society was happening So how was it happening, peacefully, from the brotherhood? No, it was being fought somewhere, it was being divided somewhere It was being divided somewhere So when the society was being developed, it was never smooth I mean, it was never completely smooth It has always been divided, there have been debates There have been fights, there have been arguments So what happened in this? It involves both resistance and conflict So the evolution of society has always been against it, it has been against it It did not work smoothly Then such a process also at times may involve racial differences Cultural dissimilarities and other differences Ultimately resulting in the formation of the structure of inequalities Based on rank, privileges, and power of the group consult I mean, the opposition that is going on We have seen many times that what involves racial differences Race, our race is different, yours is different Race does not mean that you are not running Racial differences, caste which is within you Which is cultural dissimilarities Our culture believes in this, it does not believe in you It believes in Sanskrit And other differences, that is, other differences Ultimately resulting, it ultimately formed a society Which was in inequalities, it was in a bad time Based on whose rank, who is below, who is above, who is below Who has more power, who has less power, who has more power, who has less power In this way, the social stratification has been generated in the creme of the society Kingsley Davis is also a sociologist How do they define that social stratification is an unconsciously evolved device That is, someone has done it unconsciously It has happened Evolved device by which societies ensure that the most positions are Consentiously filled by the most qualified persons See, the society is being developed, the society is being developed So, what does the society want? That the main position, the leader, the most important person That is the most powerful, only then will he be able to see the whole society He will be able to give guidance, he will be able to handle it So, the society always wants that the most positions, the good positions The high positions are given to the right person Now, any right person can have a definition of race-wise, culture-wise Body, resource, voice, voice, whatever it is, but it should be good So, what happened is that the most positions were given to qualified persons So, they themselves have become a different class The ruling class and the ones they are ruling, they have become subordinate It is therefore also assumed that every society must possess a certain amount of institutionalised social stratification That is, you can also assume that every society has made a certain amount of institutionalised social stratification Why? Because we ourselves are good people Now, you can understand the definition of good, what is going on inside If they are given a higher position, then the lower one, who did not get that position He became his own self, who got that position, he became a higher one So, this is a kind of social stratification, social stratification That is, the society as an institution has made it this way And the rest is unconsciously And what is social stratification? It is a process through which groups and social categories in societies are ranked as higher or lower than one another in terms of their relative position on the scales of prestige, privilege, wealth and power Social stratification has been defined by Anthony Giddens The systems of stratification identified all over the world are slavery, caste, states and class So, this is the same thing that is common in every society Slavery, caste, class You know that the old societies used to have a caste, there was a master, a slave And he had no authority, and he was very ashamed So, the master was class, caste, class So, to read it, we have caste, state and class What is state? Is it called a real state? So, this is like a wake, or a government or a country or a country So you can say that these are the main dimensions of the stratification, and the concept of social mobility often implies that social mobility, that is the ability to move between social groups, is limited. This means that social mobility implies that there should be no conflict between these different social groups. This means that there should be no conflict between the caste. This cannot be the case that the caste on the top of the school will go away. This means that the caste on the top of the school will go away. So this is the calculation. And another definition is that Max Weber has said that this stratification is the division of a society into distinct communities which have varying assignments of status, honour and prestige. This means that this stratification is the division of a society into distinct communities which have varying assignments of honour and prestige. Now let's talk about the elements of social mobility. So there are two main elements of this stratification. Status and role. There is a different status in the society, and according to the status that we perform, we have a role. For example, what is the role? Dynamic aspect of status. For example, what is the role? Dynamic aspect of status. This means that we have a status. We have a priest. We have a priest. We have a priest. This is our status. So according to that, what is our role? That we will perform puja, that our acharan should be good, that we will take the right decision. So the dynamic aspect of status is role. So social status will be the total of all the statuses he occupies. That means that there is a priest, a husband, a father. So in this way, our social status is combined with our status. In other words, it is an individual's overall position about total society. Status is associated with rights and duties. And our status is associated with our rights and duties. But what is the role? It is described as when an individual expresses himself through the rights and duties assigned to his status. That means that according to his status, what is shown and what is his duties, when he expresses himself, when he performs, that is his role. And the combination of status and role becomes models for organizing the attitude and behavior of the individual toward other individuals. That means that according to our status, what we are doing as a role is the work of the model of the other individuals. Dimensions. So first of all, we will talk about three dimensions. Cast, state and social class. In which the caste is peculiar to the Indian society. That is, India goes in this way in the society. There are different places, but not in this way like India. And there are fewer places. But there is no universal caste system in every place. And social class is universal. You can go to any society, you will get social work. And the state that system existed in Europe, we will just read it like this to know. Now let's see. What is the meaning of caste as a form of social stratification? Caste is primarily confined to Indian society. The main purpose is to take it from the society. Understanding caste as a form of social stratification is highly complex. And it is also very subtle to understand it. Because caste, caste system also goes up. And there are many types of things. As there are variations in its description. Because we get different types of things in its context. Like somewhere we get a word, somewhere we get caste. And caste acts as a system of stratification because of three things. Three things that make caste a reason for social study. What is the hierarchical ordering of the society? For example, if a Brahmin caste goes up, he will get it in a higher place in the society. But it can be that he has less wealth than Shudra. But in hierarchy, caste works here. Your power and prestige and your wealth won't work here. Then the second point is differential evaluation of individuals and groups. A lot of the social and individual groups have done that in a different way. And differential reward. According to caste, hierarchy is different. According to caste, evaluations are different. And everyone's reward is different. So, there are three implications of the system. So, we can get three interpretations of it. What is it? Highlighted by Bearer Nen. Bearer Nen implied to us that a caste system occurs where a society is made up of birth-escribed status. Look, this is the most important thing. From birth, we have got caste. We haven't done any extra efforts for it. We haven't acquired it from the society. From birth, it will be established that your society is made up of birth-escribed status. And hierarchically ordered and culturally distinct. Your hierarchy is your order set. You are distinguished from your birth and your sanskritic group. It is the hierarchy. It is the hierarchy. It is stepwise. It is a form of birth that entails and specifies differentiation, rewards, and association. According to you, what is the difference between the two? Who will get the reward? With whom is our relationship? So it is the birth-escribed membership. That is, from birth, we are like any caste. And this is not our individual attribute. This is not our personal rule. This is not our personal property. This is the most important thing in a caste. From birth, you will know when these things have happened in the society. But they are still there. And before that, it was too much. I would like to stop here and tell you that you should pay attention that it is written in all religions that all people are equal. Now, according to the constitution, all religions govern the country. It is written everywhere that all are equal before society, before constitution, before state. Despite this, the society is an educated woman. And this state is to be taken from Europe. In the encyclopedia, state refers to those groups that have legal existence or groups that are organized in some way and have some sort of political representation. It should be a legal form. You should have some kind of political representation. State also represents classes. It is said that the state represents the class. A social stratum to which we are attached, specific rights and duties sustained by the force of legal sanction. This is the kind of society in which you have some special rights, some specialities and it is legal. It is legal form. So, since it is of Europe, you just need to know that the three states could be thought of as reprinting a hierarchy. TB Bottommore has mentioned three important characteristics of the feudal states of medieval Europe during this fall. He said, legal basis of state. The legal basis of state should be based on the law of law. States representing the division of labour should be in this. Who will do what? And states as political people. The state, the state, the state is a kind of political evidence. Okay. So, this is the way of the society. The one who has more states will be the upper class. The one who has less will be the lower class. Right? As a form of social stratification. Karl Marx has talked to us about the fact that economic, that is, the basis of wealth, that is, the basis of wealth, that is, the basis of wealth, the basis of wealth, that of est جنوين المس tender. Whom has more money it is the higher class has just less. It will be lower. Generally the social class is economic based, that is, it is protested on wealth. So, he said that social class in Marx's terms is not defining the member's function in consumption but by my relation it deals with the mode of production. Okay? A person who has more production has got more money and your ruling class has I mean So, Max Weber argued that having property and lack of property are very significant in explaining class and social stratification as these two are the basic basis and character of all class situations. He is saying that you have money and not money. This is the most prominent thing that makes Samanji a work. Associativity property unambiguously is economic interest, that is, it is a matter of property. These two factors are important in the emergence of class stratification in society. This is not a birth ascribed. If you go anywhere and have more money, you will go a little higher than the Samanji group. Why? Because you have money. And now mainly this is what you are doing.  No one knows what cast you are from. Karunapati, Arapati are his corona fans. So, these two factors are important in the emergence of class stratification in society. To sum up the class system as a form of social stratification is both a social and historical phenomena having its traces and history and space. So, we can say that a word is the basis of Samanjik Stari Karan. So, this is a Samanjik and this is a historical incident. And we get it in the history of Samanji. So, what does Samanjik Stari Karan mean? Despite the fact that all the religions have said that everything is the same. Despite this, all the religions are in the same form. Sometimes, we make the same way by knowingly. Because we want the most qualified person to sit at the highest positions. Still, Samanjik Stari Karan is why? Because the society is divided in hierarchy based on the class, based on the caste, based on gender, based on wealth, based on power, based on prestige, based on all these distinctions. So, the caste, state, and class, you can write slavery, you can write gender, but these three were important to explain to you. So, caste, which is a birth-escribed status, we got it from birth, we got it from high-ranking caste, we will stay there, it will stay with us in any form. Now, it is decreasing gradually, but we still have to accept it. Then, your state, which is the speciality of Medieval Europe, caste is the speciality of India, and class is all over the world. It is social, universal, there are classes everywhere. There is a ruling class, there is a servant class, there is an upper class, there is a middle class, there is a class, and the basis of division is mainly economic, with property and without property. So, that is all about social stratification, and I have completed an important topic with you all, that is social stratification. So, thank you and don't forget to like and subscribe to my channel. It is called education. I have done it from my side.


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Hello, good morning, everyone. Happy Monday to you. I just learned that I'm probably having a better Monday than the people over on Facebook today. So I might be the last person to know this on the planet, but Facebook is down. So it's 1044 AM Pacific on Monday, October 4th. Facebook is down, Instagram is also down, and WhatsApp, I use WhatsApp to connect with my clubhouse teams. So this is being only broadcast on YouTube and LinkedIn Live today, which, hey, that's great. I'm hopeful that people can find me over on LinkedIn because that's where I like to hang my hat predominantly anyway. So I am coming off a fantastic weekend, a weekend that was a rescheduled weekend. So I had the great blessing to spend the weekend in a Soyuz species, which is about two hours south of Kelowna here with my three close girlfriends. These are my bubble friends. We have been, and our respective spouses have been in a bubble since the beginning of COVID. So we were planning on doing a girls weekend in August, and then the wildfires hit the region. And so we actually postponed the trip to this past weekend. And I have to be honest, when I first, when we decided that we were going to postpone because of the fires, it created some anxiety in me because we were bumping it to October 1st, which means a lot in my world. It's the start of Q4, right? For me, and for a goal setter that Q4 is a big deal. So it's the start of Q4, and it's the fall and our hospitality industry tends to be super busy in the fall, but we rescheduled and we went. So what I did to kind of prepare is, I did a lot of my kind of goal setting and my mindset setting around Q4 last week because I didn't want to take my computer and my work materials to a Soyuz with my girlfriends. And I didn't, well, at least I didn't take my computer. I did take my journal, my goals journal, of course, and a few other work books to read, nonfiction books, but left a majority of the stuff at home so that I could focus on the relationships with my friends. And it's something that has really come out of COVID for me is where I define my own self-worth. And I think prior to COVID, a lot of my worth, if not all of my worth, was put into the business bucket where my success as a site selection professional and any other business venture that I was involved in, that's where I put my worth. And so COVID was that wake-up call. And in a lot of ways, a welcome wake-up call to say, you know what, Leanne, your self-worth is not defined by one thing.  Because guess what? When that bucket drains, when that bucket disappears, it can wreak havoc on one's mental health and the way that we perceive our worth in the world. And we talked about that a little bit this weekend. Didn't talk about my situation personally, but these three friends of mine are all hockey mums. So all of our boys play hockey. They're not even on the same team anymore. At one point, they all played on some teams together, but they all play on four different teams now. And so we talked about hockey and we talked about, you know, our friendship because it was hockey that brought us together as women, but certainly it's been everything that we have in common outside of that, that keeps us together. And it keeps us going on these trips to a Soyuz once a year and these bubble people, I see them at least once a week, if not once every other week, because we play pickleball and we have outdoor barbecues and do a lot of outdoor things together, these eight individuals. But we were talking about hockey and in particular about some of the hockey parent peers that we see that we hope that they're not putting all of their worth in the hockey basket. And we hope that their sons and daughters aren't putting their worth in a hockey basket as well. We, I think the four of us are quite fortunate. Our sons are very multi-passionate. So there's other buckets and baskets for them as well. They love hockey, but they also love other things. My son loves a many, many thing. So if hockey was ever to disappear for him or for any of these other boys, there's still lots to do and there's still lots of ways that they can express themselves as young men in the same way that we as parents can express ourselves outside of being just a hockey mom or a hockey dad. And one of my friends kind of said it as we kind of wrapped up the conversation. She said, you know, we are not defined by one thing. And I've lived that truth for the past year very well. Some days better than others. I think anyone who is struggling with or anyone who is facing a mindset shift, it's not an overnight switch. But it was reassuring and another reminder that I am not defined by my business alone. So taking the first weekend of Q4 off with my friends does not mean my business is destined to fail. It does not mean my business is now three days behind because I spent the weekend with my friends. I'm coming into this week with a great energy. As I hope you are to get ready for Q4 and to get ready for all the great things that are happening this month. But our businesses, our conferences, our brands are not defined by just that one thing. So keep that in mind as you go through this week, which is gonna be an incredible week because it is the first week of Q4. So welcome to Q4 peeps. If you did not catch my live from last week, I encourage you to go find it because here's what we talked about is extending ourselves the grace that we need to get through Q4 and the goals that we set, especially as we analyze the goals that maybe didn't go our way through Q1 to Q3. So I encourage you to check out that live as we talk about resetting our Q4 goals, staying on track to achieve some objectives and some projects, but extending ourselves that grace as we wrap up the year and get ready for a fresh year in January. There's three things happening this week. I'm sorry, I apologize. There's one thing happening this week, one thing happening later this month that I wanna bring your attention to. So the webinar of the week is actually a LinkedIn live that I'm doing on Thursday with my good friend, Ryan Young. He's with the Ottawa Marriott. And so what Ryan and I are going to do, first time doing this live, so it's gonna be a hoot, is we're actually going to review his LinkedIn profile live on a LinkedIn live. And here's why we're doing this. Ryan is gearing up to head to the Canadian Meetings and Events Expo later this month. I'm also going to be there. But a big part of going back to these in-person shows is making sure that our professional presence is up to date and ready for new people that we're going to connect with. So that's why Ryan and I are going through this exercise. As he's heading to see me, October 19th and 20th, in Toronto, he'll be at the Ottawa Tourism booth and he's ready to meet meeting and event planners. Maybe you, if you're heading to Toronto and the Canadian Meetings and Events Expo, Ryan wants to meet with you. And he's gonna get his LinkedIn profile all spit and polished up ready for you to view on Thursday with me. So that's the first one. This Thursday, October 7th, is we're doing the LinkedIn live profile review with Ryan Young. That's happening at 11 a.m. Pacific, 2 p.m. Eastern. Jeez, I hope I got that time right. And then you can meet Ryan and I at the Canadian Meetings and Events Expo in Toronto October 19th and 20th at the Metro Toronto Convention Center. Super, super excited to be going to this event. This will be my first event, my first return after COVID, first event. I've forgotten how to pack. I have forgotten everything. So I'm really excited to get ready to head to this show. So those are the two things I'd like for you to look for. The third resource I wanted to hand you today is one of my favorite apps. It's called Book Buddy. And this is the app that I use to organize and track all of the books I read. Everything from my cookbooks to my fiction, which isn't a lot, to all of my nonfiction, which is my business books, my craft books, my, what else have I got? I've got marketing books. I've got all of these titles that I read or even partially read. I log into Book Buddy so that I know that I've read them. I catalog if I own the book or if I read it from the library, I also catalog my favorites. So if there's ever a reread that I want to do in a particular season of life, I'll go to my favorites and find those rereads. And I do do that. And I do flip through my books more than after the original read. So if you don't have Book Buddy, it's a great, great app. If you have other book organization apps, I'd love to hear what you're using. I love Book Buddy, but I'm always open to new ideas. So drop those in the comments if you use a different app to keep your books organized. And sorry, I just needed a sip of tea because I am quite dry today. I went for a bike ride yesterday and played pickleball yesterday. So I probably didn't have enough water yesterday. So just as a reminder, or what I want to wrap up this live is, spending time with friends was one thing, but the lessons we learn being with our friends is what I took out of this weekend. I'm grateful for my friends. They remind me every single day that my worth is not tied to one thing. And I hope if you are in a similar situation where you are putting your worth into one bucket, I hope you hear this message today because take it from me, your worth is not in one bucket.  Thank you so much for watching today's live. Like I said, catch Ryan and I on Thursday at 11 a.m. Pacific, 2 p.m. Eastern for that LinkedIn live review. And I hope to see you at See Me later this month. Drop in the comments if you have any questions or if you'd like to get in touch about See Me, would love to see you there. Have a great, great week, everyone. We'll see you around here next week. Bye for now.


Alrighty, welcome to one of my most action-packed construction updates in a really long time. There is a lot to unpack here, but enjoy some footage while you're at it. The park always looks like a mini-city when they have such few weeks left to get the park ready. But nonetheless, work is continuing on Moosehorn Falls, so Hartwell is over there getting some electrical work done, and while I was observing, I noticed my buster was having work done to its double down, so it looks like some re-tracking is going on on mine buster on its double down, so that's really exciting, you're going to see some footage of them actually working on it really up close, and then you're going to see some footage of them throwing some of the track pieces over in the behemoth storage lot, I guess no, the behemoth basement is a better way to describe it, not a storage lot, but nonetheless, really exciting because this is the worst part on mine buster, so for them to finally be working on this part, I'm really excited, honestly, this is a really underrated ride in my opinion, I truthfully enjoyed it a lot this season, and I know that comes from a place of being pretty bored of Wonderland's ride collection right now, so finding some joy in how rough and incredibly fast, it feels like incredibly fast because it's a wood coaster, this ride is, I just enjoyed a lot truthfully, but I'm super excited, can't wait to ride it in 2024 and see how this re-tracking has helped it, because to be honest, this is like the worst section of the ride, so if they can fix that, then this ride's honestly pretty like, it might move up on my list, we'll have to see in 2024, now what you're going to start seeing is a lot of work going on in the park, so now that the park is closed, they're able to work on a lot of things, things are going to start moving really fast, there's a lot of projects that Wonderland has, and if you are a viewer of the podcast, you know that I've been calling a lot of this to be coming over the next five years, so this is really action packed, the park is working on their front gate, and there's signs that this is actually going to be a lot larger of a front gate Renault, which I'll discuss in today's video, so right now, as you see, some dumpsters have arrived, a dumpster has arrived outside front gate and inside front gate, they're also started removing the signs, so you can see here, they're taking down the signs from the curb area, so that's another good sign that they're going to start removing all this, and they are in a rush to get all the Winterfest decorations in the front gate area out of there, so I've noticed that they're not taking any front gate, or sorry, any Winterfest decorations down elsewhere, all the ones in the front gate area are being rushed out of there, and they're moving really fast, so today was their first day back after Winterfest, and it's just the two big trees are going, the sleigh on top of front gate is going, there's signs that the front gate Canada's Wonderland logo might be coming down as well, if that comes down, that confirms to me everything I need to know, so I'm waiting on that, keeping a very close eye on that, so you see here the crane is lifting the sleigh down, and there's a dumpster there, the fence surrounding the merch store expansion has come down as well, and you can see the cement and concrete there, so really excited to see what this front gate Renault is going to entail, I know a lot, in the last video I discussed a layout, I'm hoping to get some more information out of Canada's Wonderland directly for me to present in a video, so I should be able to have a discussion with someone very shortly, and I'll see what information I can get for you guys, if the park will be willing to confirm any more, I know that the park did confirm with me directly that there is a front gate upgrade, is the word that they used, occurring for the 2024 season, and that they had no further details to share at that moment, but yeah, I know what you guys are all here for though, the mountain coaster construction, more specifically the volcano blast coaster, or ruins coaster, we'll have to see, but nonetheless, work is continuing in that area, so today on site, Wonderland had an HVAC company, we saw signs of them ripping out the HVAC unit, in fact you can actually still see it there on the grass, and I think that's going to be something that continues, with an electrical room possibly being located in the mountain, it's going to need a cooling system, it's going to need a HVAC for the room, so that's probably why they're there, but Hartwell, this HVAC company and surveyors, I saw them over by the Vortex Lift Hill, are all still in the park, so definitely a lot of work occurring, again this is really early for a coaster, so I'm really excited to see what it ends up being, and yeah, so there's going to be a lot of construction updates moving forward, but I highly suggest joining our Patreon, so our Patreons had this access to this information this morning, or this afternoon, and I definitely do the monthly newsletters, and leak some things before I can leak on here, so become a Patreon if you want to support the channel, thanks for watching today's update, comment down below what you're most excited for, front gate or the 2025 ghost, have a good one guys, bye.


وقال الله تعالى في كتابه العزيز بداعوذ بالله من الشيطانة ووجين بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم وينتع الله رسوله وقولاك مع الذي يعمل الله عليه من النبيين وصدقين والشهداء والصالحين وحسنه أولئك رفقا وقال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم ما كان منكم مستندن فالنستندن ما قدمات وكما قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم وكالصالحين وخيرين وخيرين one of the natural features of every human being and the root letters of uns uns which means to seek compassion to seek a sense of love to seek relevance where a human being is seeking this throughout his life from every juncture of his life as a child as he grows older when he becomes a young adult when he becomes an adult and so on and so forth and in this journey or on this journey this ends this human being is seeking to be relevant by following those who he thinks or who she thinks to be able to allow them to be successful in their fields my dear friends the first question that we ask ourselves is who are we supposed to be following and what are the conditions that they must fulfill and they must have within themselves to be worthy of us seeing for worthy of us seeing them to be those that we can follow those that we can emulate those that we can bring into our lives in our children's lives in our family's lives one is to follow someone because they're an athlete so you also want to be an athlete we can accept that another is to follow someone because they are Allah has given them a mastery in a certain field of maybe a specific niche of work if it's management, if it's marketing, if it's IT we will also accept that the other is to implement someone's lifestyle into our life it's based upon a niche but because we actually wish to earn and to abide and to approve those characteristics in our own lives so it's not a niche that we're following we're following that lifestyle we're following that mentality, we're following that perspective we're following that pedagogy and methodology of living but your friends the condition that the Prophet ﷺ gave us that if we wish to follow someone as all human beings need to do speaks about following people and living our lives like other people who have already come before us that these are people referring to the Prophet ﷺ and the companions that lived their life in which Allah has guided them so as human beings we always seek to follow people he then says follow these people because they've already made it and the Prophet ﷺ he creates a template that if we wish to follow someone they must fit this criteria not in the niche of our life not in us being physicians or us being engineers or us being students in a certain skill set but in us being human beings and us being family members and us being husbands and wives and children and parents and us hoping to implement a lifestyle into our life but your friends if we think about it before coming to the Prophet ﷺ there was no community that was drowning in the ditches of depression and failure and crisis and chaos more so than the community that was present before the coming of our حبيب ﷺ the norm of that community was equivalent if not worse than the norm that we see today that every vice that could have been thought of was not only present was popular in their community but also in their elders a lack of chastity a lack of loyalty bearing their own daughters alive and when the Romans and the Persians would be told why don't you march upon the people of the Hijaz as you have conquered the rest of the world why ignore these people they would respond by saying these are people not worth ruling they're just not worth it they'll exhaust our resources and give us nothing in return we'd rather just ignore them but in the span of 40 to 50 years the same people that the world saw not worthy of being ruled became the rulers of the world what changed it wasn't their literacy levels it wasn't their socio-economical abilities in their backgrounds changing it wasn't their lineage is changing what changed is that they were given a system and a concept to follow which brought the best out of them which allowed them to be not only civil but conducive to the growth of the people around them they allowed themselves to be used to benefit people and this is what some says if you want to follow someone the person must have this condition if we wish to follow someone's lifestyle an online personality that becomes famous for this or that speaks about this topic speaks about relationships if you want to follow someone not just listen but listening is also interesting the moment you give your ear to someone you've given your heart and brain to them because now they start planting seeds in your mind even the people that we listen to we have to be wary of it this is what some says become a scholar if you can't become a scholar become a student of knowledge and if you're unable to become a student of knowledge become someone who loves the people of knowledge and he says if you cannot become someone who loves the people of knowledge be a person who listens to the people of knowledge meaning just listening is a part of the merit of this individual just listening creates a sense of benefit for this person this is why when the Quran is being said so even the people that we're listening to the people that we tune into the people that we choose to bring into our homes and our living rooms be it male or female that person is speaking from a lens that they have created because every system in this world every institution in this world the moment they initiate their institutions they redefine the definitions of words because those definitions benefit their missions those definitions benefit their systems those definitions benefit their visions those definitions benefit their visions similar to that was a coming of our حبيب in Islam that the Prophet redefined the definitions of words what it meant to be a person what it meant to be even honorable and humiliated what it meant to be victorious or what it meant to be in loss that victory is not for a person who is departed in this world victory is for a person who is departed by the angels the moment they leave this world that the world may see people to be in a loss but that's not a loss for them because Allah is saying وَلَاَتَقُولُ لِمَنْ يُقْطَدُ فِي سَرْبِي لَلَهِ أَمْوَاتَ that's a victory for them not for us but for them it's a victory حديبي was a victory for the Prophet he redefined the meaning of poverty when he would ask people what does poverty mean they would say that person has no money poverty is a person or is a person who impoverishes a person who comes on the day of judgment expecting that there is a lot of reward that is held for them but slowly but surely because they back bit they lie, they slander all of their good deeds go to someone else similarly he redefined he redefined the meaning of masculinity he redefined the meaning of what relationships should look like prior to coming prior to the coming of our حبي what the relationships were like and after his teachings is a night and day difference it's a night and day difference because they followed the construct that he set in the lifestyle that he set where he was able to become the قدوة the world model for all of those companions it wasn't some online person who simply has a number of views that speaks about how you should treat your husband or wife but rather we turn towards those who have already left this world because they left with إيمان we look at how Allah we look at how their endings work we look at how they live their lives and for that purpose we have the Prophet we have Sahabahs we have our Salaf the person may say but not as relevant and the answer to that would be being irrelevant is is a form of subjectivity of yours that's your subjectivity that they're not relevant because there's no way in the world that the Prophet Sunnah is not relevant today there's no way in the world that the Prophet Sahabah's lives are not relevant today if they were not to be relevant they would not be they would not have been preserved that the way they are it's the lens that we wear the lens of the world that have been given to us so the people that dictate how we treat the loved ones around us cannot be people who don't love us those people have to be individuals who also love us we would never take advice from someone in a day-to-day situation that doesn't know us that doesn't love us so how is it so that we allow people who are simply personalities in different places of this world to dictate how we treat people in the Qaim رحم الله he says if you want to take advice from someone they must possess at least 3 qualities 3 qualities the first one is that they have to be a nausah meaning that they have a sense of love for you they actually have genuine love for this person number 2 meaning that they don't have an incentive there's no angle for them that if you do this or do that their system benefits or the construct that they stand for it's inflated there's no benefit number 2 this person is متجرغ they have experience in that field and number 3 that the person could be very well experienced the person may even love us but the fact of the matter is that if this person doesn't have the God consciousness of Allah SWT they will give us or they will advise us with solutions that will earn the displeasure of Allah SWT so who do we follow we follow a system which saved our societies 1440 years ago which was the coming of the Prophet SAW what she taught us what it meant to be a man from both scopes and what masculinity meant from both scopes and I'll share a few narrations they will hopefully draw an image for us to understand what it meant to be this individual or this personality and all these beautiful narrations where the Prophet SAW taught us how to live like humans and by extension how to live like males and females and the whole idea of always thinking that our religion is irrelevant and that our concepts are strange because of the times that we live in it's also it's also a push from from شيطان himself because when people start saying things like your systems are strange and what you abide by as a female is strange or what you find to be relevant as a husband or wife is strange and we agree with him that's saying that what our Prophet gave us is strange or what our religion gave us was strange and the simple answer that I would ask for all of us to remember is we can only agree upon the definition of what strange is if we're able to agree upon what the meaning of normal is if we live in a time where faster than the involvement of our industries technology everything around us that is evolving and changing faster than that there is an involvement a continuous morphing of concepts and things are normal that which was normal 5 years ago is not normal today and that which is normal today will not be normal in a few years how quickly the world is evolving or depreciating but the fact of the matter doesn't change that if they say that our system is strange we ask them about whose definition of what normal is we can only agree upon the fact that we're strange if we agree to your definition of what normal is in the reality of our time that every single person is a stranger to someone else the definition of what normal is every person is a stranger to this person's concept to this person's Islam to this person's theology or methodology that's the reality of our life so if we rather be stranger to their systems and be normal in the systems of Allah SWT and the Prophet SAW so he gave us a system that will be relevant till the end of time because Allah had told us follow that system whosoever follows that system not a system that is only for prayer not a religion that came down to simply teach us how to fast or how to give zakat our religion was 20% of our religion is following the masjid 80% of it is found within the homes and our businesses and we choose to abide by the 20% hardly and the 80% becomes something that we say is a culture that it's a part of our culture to respond to our spouses like this it's a part of our culture it's a part of our culture not to make sure that we eat before our father eats that is not a culture thing that is a purely that's a concept that purely comes from our religion that teaches us etiquettes there is no culture that is worth standing for if that culture removes the construct of etiquettes if someone tells us that we're not supposed to be kind to our parents or to our spouses or to whoever our loved ones are because that just looks weird in our culture we say that's not a culture that we want to live by because etiquettes are something which is innate within human beings only our systems of our societies have stripped us of these normal etiquettes but nonetheless the Prophet ﷺ taught us the most relevant concepts for the masjid for our homes, for our families for males and females a man who ran the kingdom in the domain of this Islamic empire the level of love that he had for the people that were close to him we oftentimes find ourselves to be people who are kind to those who are strangers to us because there's a benefit for us when was the last time we were able to cultivate a relationship in which we were not the beneficiary the other person was the beneficiary when was the last time even in today's time even our handshakes are calculated I will meet this person because there's a benefit for me where as the Prophet ﷺ taught us that the greatest level of character is when people interact with others to benefit them they're always looking to see how can I benefit this person not how can I take benefit from them in today's time in our relationships we're always trying to be equal where we're always trying to be equal we always want to make sure that the benefit that we're receiving is justified the benefit that we're giving is justified by the benefits that we're receiving and every person husband and wife specifically because of the topic and the theme that we have we're always trying to figure out I'm doing too much now but that person is doing too less she's doing too much but here friends Allah gave us this concept called إحسان the definition of إحسان in English is excellence or you could say the pursuit of perfection to make something as nearly perfect or excellent as you possibly can the definition of إحسان in our tradition for the beautiful hadith where he asked the Prophet what does إحسان mean many of you may have heard the hadith of the Prophet ﷺ and it's a worship of Allah if you cannot see him then he can see you but here friends إحسان is the the epitome of a person's worship that's the highest they can get they can't get higher than إحسان this definition of إحسان however is confined to areas of worship this definition of إحسان has no presence in how we treat and deal with each other this definition of إحسان is how we pray how we recite Qur'an how we fast how we give charity that do all of these deeds with this mentality so the question is what is إحسان when it comes to our our responsible relationships our families our children what is إحسان in that in this Imam Ghazali Imam Ghazali says إحسان for relationships تسأل that a person that is a محسن in a relationship will always give more than that which they were asked for they will always be giving more they will always be doing more they will always be doing more than what they're expected to do that's a محسن they're not taking off boxes they're trying to grow a relationship so they're always doing more يسوه بلسلام إحسان is in different in the surah yusuf in seven different areas الله سبحانه وتعالى identifies him to be a محسن and the reason for that is because he's always doing more than what people ask him to do they ask him about can you tell us what this dream means that these seven cows that were fat were eaten by seven skinny cows he could have simply given them the dream interpretation that's a محسن that a person who always does more than what they're expected to do and a person who always takes less they take less than what they deserve they deserve this much but they're okay with this not in the form of oppression not in the form of our rights being taken from us but in the sense of just showing love to one another no relationship will continue if everyone only does what they're supposed to do no institution will grow if the people of that institution only come nine to five clock in and clock out meaning they only do what they're responsible to do that's what the expectation is institutions, corporations businesses and families they grow because each person is fighting to do more than the other person that's what a محسن is there's no such thing as مكافة لا تكونوا إماعة if a person says don't be a person who's always trying to be equal who's always trying to just make sure that they're in the same scale as a person across the board from them rather he says be a person أساءوا إليك أحسنة أحسنة إليهم that when someone does wrong to you you go back and do good to them these narrations that come about doing good to people are primarily found in the chapters of Hadi that discuss the matters of the family the matters of the home not matters outside the home so bring it back to how the Prophet dealt with these things this is the mentality the mentality was to be a محسن the mentality was to always do more the mentality was to always be the hand that benefits not the hand that receives أليا العليا خير من يدر سفلة the hand that is above is always going to be better than the hand that is below we live in a capitalistic society and to such an extent that we always want to be a consumer we always want to be a beneficiary so he sets the tone mentality is be a محسن to always want to benefit people always try to benefit people is the best of our ability and then I'll give a few stories when the Prophet shows this level of softness and in some stories where he shows the level of sternness as the mad in his relationships and one narration that comes is in his home and I shall be the Lord and the Prophet get into a real argument the Prophet got into arguments the Prophet disagreed with his wives and his wives disagreed with him these were moments that took place in the best households and it takes place in all of the households that we see in our families it's a part of the relationship it's not about if we are good it's about what we do afterwards as the Prophet teaches us it's interesting a sign of a person who has strong faith and a level of emotional intelligence and maturity is that their responses are not dictated by their emotions their responses are not dictated by their emotions their responses are dictated by their ethics and principles that regardless of what has happened to me today I come back home from work after a long day and I've been I've been real when I've lost this and that