Hey, Tony Gaston here. Let me know if you could hear me. Can you hear me? Cuz I got my little mic plugged in, but it's telling me that Telling me that you can't hear me. Oh, you know what? I forgot to tell the bless tribe That I was going live same time without getting cut off But I forgot the post on the okay, that's good. You can hear me my Wi-Fi acting up on me. So y'all got to forgive me Why you got too many routers or something but I popped on here to do a Q&A today For those of you in the bless tribe as you as you know I try to do Q&A's for you for being a member of the channel and I greatly appreciate you being a member of the channel In that way, so I try to pop on here when I can but it's been a little you know running around with the family enjoying the summer so Don't always get to hop on here And I was on here yesterday, but it was kind of you know, I think it was middle of the day So if you remember put the hashtag Q in front of your question so I can try to identify it a little easier And that'll help me out talking to a man that has some non-negotiable habits. He's trying to break for me I'm guessing that means smoking that little cloud at the end And that's a tough one to be honest with you like me personally I really wouldn't be able to go up against somebody's addictions Especially something that they trying to do for me It would have to be something that they doing for themselves It would have to be something that they doing because they see the health benefits and making those changes because If somebody changing for you then and it's not really themselves With it like you can be the influence, but a person really has to want to change So, you know, that's the gamble is it's 50 50 gambles. So you got to be careful with that one Let me see during no contact. Do I still check on them if they have a sickly loved one? No, you don't if you're in no contact that mean no contact because any contact is contact So any contact could give a person that high could give a person that feeling that they need to feel like You're still there and you're still accessible. And so no contact. It's a It's a tough thing to do when you really trying to You know, send a message He cuss is not a smoker. I don't cuss or drink. Oh Well cursing that's not a big deal.  It shouldn't be a hard thing to stop cursing That's not that's not an addiction. So yeah, that's very My name Hey Tony, thanks so much for all you do I'm currently working on myself mentally and emotionally Do you have any tips on ways to get myself together before a relationship? Everything we do here basically plays into that. So doing what you're doing, you know, it's nothing magical Just doing the work, you know, read the books Take the courses watch the videos do the coaching sessions the therapy sessions It's it's nothing magical. It's really just Showing up and doing the work and if you do the work then the results are going to speak for themselves Four years together. No talk of marriage and I've been with him literally through sickness and health. I have I feel like he is taking me for granted at this point And you will feel right you you're feeling right in four years That's what I call career dating once you've been with somebody more than three years and y'all still aren't married It's it's typically not a good sign unless there's some, you know Circumstances that prevents marriage, which there are exceptions to the rule but on average A man if he's 25 or older should have married you within three years Um, join the blessed business tribe, but don't have access to videos You may have to log out and log back in like log out of your account Um and log back in so that it refreshes that you actually a member But I don't work in customer service on that end because that's ran by google And so I really honestly don't fully understand it myself I do know it's working because it's people who see the videos and comment on the videos, but Y'all have to you know, click on the the service or the help button on youtube and send a You know email in to them so that they can help you because About that cold Peace for three months Turn late I mean you could talk to him But um, you know, just be careful Careful, it's sure you talking to him and y'all can talk on ig if you could talk on what's up If it's there other ways to talk talking is cool You know, it's a lot of scans. There's a lot going Ex or past a minute. He wasn't ready To change or heal from absent Past trauma. So I moved on why does after one year he jumps through loops for contact Grocery events, etc Well, um What that means is he went into the real world and he saw that it wasn't as sweet as he thought it would You know, he thought that there would be some upgrades out there and realized that it weren't it wasn't any upgrades It was down grace. And so now he's circling back. It's what I call the black book syndrome When a lot of time we try to move forward and it's not going the way we expected So we come back y'all have to forgive him a face glow and I did my three-step routine and why it got me it got me on this hill. Um So it looked like my face shine, but that's uh It's a kind of ointment and moisturize or something Gina god bless you how to confront boyfriend after following and liking models on social media without sounding controlling well It could sound how it's gonna sound, but you can't worry about how it's gonna sound that that's just a conversation that has to be had You can't get caught up in how it sounds.  That's like that's lusting And so now you lusting and I want to ask you to put the shoe on the other foot and ask yourself You know, how would you feel if I was doing the same thing? And then see how that See what he says Unless it's cool for god bless you god bless you. I really appreciate that.  Thank you as all as always for all you do Bless you Maria. I really appreciate that Question divorce with four kids desire to get remarried in the future desire a godly man and to not date The world's way is that going to be hard? Yes, it's gonna be hard Yeah, it's gonna be hard But if you trust god, then you know god could do What's hard, you know, that's that's come down to faith. It's really nothing Worth doing in life. That's not gonna be hard. So I'll be lying to you if I said, oh, yeah Oh, no, that's gonna be easy.  It's it's we live in a world where You know men and women are becoming lovers of themselves And losing theyself and it's just a lot going on Can you also do a video on guys sending mixed signals? I'm pretty sure I have a video on that But it probably might not be titled that So it's kind of a thing to where as you continue to watch the videos and go through them You'll bump into those lessons He he was constantly Calling in the beginning then it cut down when I mentioned He said he's busy has his own company. He's working towards Said if I'm not happy I should cut him out But he does want me So basically what he's saying is listen I've been listening to these podcasts online and to these youtube videos I'm the prize going about your business if you can't if you ain't happy with a little bit of time and attention I'm giving you Then going about your business that's essentially what he's saying to you And so you have to look at it and see if what you're asking for is fair if it's legitimate And if that's the case then you can't compromise that you got to go about your business And so It's coming to a time right now to where a lot of men they just basically saying listen this all I'm gonna give you you know Shut up and deal with it or Find somebody else a lot of men taking that approach and you just got to be able to show him Okay, you know I'm about that life. I'm out of here Blended family hubby wants to take my three-year-old Son for one month to bond alone. He did this with his current three kids because him and ex-wife were separated How else can hubby bond with young step child?  And so y'all welcome to You know, we go to the movie We you know, if you want to go take them to a baseball game the basketball game And y'all shoot to the game watch the game and come on back But I say that because the stuff I see on my end the emails that I'm reading on my end I wouldn't be able to do it Britain god bless your ex has a new girlfriend. They are on vacay together. He's sending me pics of him out Said he's going alone. We haven't talked regularly in months. Why?  That's what's been spread around.  Who is a girl? told him He liked him And he told her he have a girlfriend, but she called him Every day and they both attend the same church what to do I'm assuming it's a Typo in here somewhere um, but I'm assuming it's a typo in there somewhere Lilliana but um You definitely gonna have to Shut that all the way down. That's gonna have to be shut all the way down when you when you're in a relationship Your partner you or your partner cannot have friends of the opposite sex Especially when those people have express feelings or you've expressed feelings Because humans are created to relate to connect like we come together and that's the the goal in the mind Is to connect and so you you plan with fire when you allow You know, you're a partner to have friends of the opposite sex Um, for those of y'all new to the bless try, you know try to keep just questions in the comments You know this, you know, we try to It's so many questions coming in here that if you put comments in there It kind of make it harder for me to see it So just try to keep questions in the comments if you don't have a question then, you know, just watching You know listen support But um, and I try to catch as many as I can so when I miss it Be paying attention and you could post it back in there again copy and paste it Hey, Tony, I just got out of a three-year relationship I'm 21 just graduated with a bachelor's in nursing In therapy hired a life coach. I want to attract love Someday but not ready. No rush, right? God bless a blessing. You're right. I don't know if that was a little question But yeah, you're right. Keep doing what you're doing We have been dating five months consistently calls dates showing up and showing out and giving me his time I asked him are we getting married? He said we may as well. What does that mean? Well, I tell you what latina you show don't hold back I don't know where you would raise that but that's not really a question you supposed to ask a man You know, especially at the five month mark, you know, are we getting married? Like that's kind of something you want to Wait to see how the man kind of moving and if he You know asks you to be his girlfriend first and then you know moving towards that and really You know if five months, you don't even know a person, you know, you really don't know a person to that 12 13 month mark you know, so before that That's all that's all play play like a relationship can start go great and end at a six month mark and We shouldn't even count that on on the relationship resume like it shouldn't even go on the resume You know if it was under a year really because that's just a normal dating process So y'all still really early and that's real early for that question coming from you You know the man is the one who gets on one knee and proposes So that's something that you leave to the man to You know initiate that otherwise, you know, it'll feel like that You coercing him Finals keep shining Rob John. God bless you um You know, I like both of the teams and I don't really I spoke to the rookie class of Guys on the bucks and I spoke to the rookie class of guys on the suns. So in cases like that, I tried not to pick a Pick a side. I just you know made a best man win but um But it would be kind of cool to see cp3 get him a get him a ring make sure I'm missed some of these now How do I handle my kids? grandfather Kids grandfather who hit on me with nasty words and always asking me Comparison questions about Him and his son also tries to keep me on call long Hours say don't tell his son things Well, since you know, and you shouldn't even be entertaining him You know, if that's the case it especially on the phone long hours You know, you shouldn't even be entertaining him. So that's something that you got to shut down, you know, you got to Your kids really don't need a grandfather like that You know sound like the granddaddy nasty and you don't know if he in cahoots with son See if you keeping secrets the son putting them up to it Let's say a try see what she says see what she do see if I could trust her Men do that all the time get together and cahoots to test a woman And so a lot of times where a woman may be keeping a secret for this one man She don't even know the other man sent him this the test her in that way And so you got to be careful with that. You got to cut that all the way cut that all the way off You know it when it comes to stuff like that it really ain't no Decent way to handle it. It just you got to do what got to be done and let him take it how you're gonna take it Concerned about My sister has been using dating apps, but no luck. I try to help God bless you said You know, we try I really you know I answer your question, but if your sister's not here, you know spending the time and Seeking the knowledge it don't do her no good or us no good, you know talking on that so If you got a question on you, I love to help I asked child's father where he's taking son when he picks him up And check in on son. He says if I keep asking questions, he won't pick up son again Son has speech delay. So always worried about Who he has around him Well, the thing is that's your child.   And so If the man can't get with that then You know, y'all can discuss it in court or what have you but You should always have the right to check up on your son and vice versa Now if When your son with you and he checking in and you're not answering and you don't feel the need to update him on Who you have his son around then that's gonna Exacerbate the situation and make him feel like that So, you know, you got to understand that I know some of y'all watching the video kind of delayed You may be watching it like i'm i'm here and somebody asking a question And the video was ahead on the live So y'all have to understand that Together five years broke up with him One year ago He got someone pregnant and keeps trying to get back with me I haven't moved on because no one in my city is up to par. How do I stop thinking about him and us? Um It's just the way the mind works. You're gonna have to get busy. You're gonna have to join some groups join some organization Uh, read some books write some books, you know start a new company You know get busy on what you have to do focusing on you create a day schedule So that you don't have idle time in your day That if you're not watching something for relaxation or doing something to relax Then you need to be doing something productive And make sure you have that in there Um Huron, I don't know if you listening, but I answered your question. Not sure if you just If you delayed on the video, but I keep saying the same question Copy and paste it in now. I found out he slept around on me. He got tested Only In uti right now. Why won't he admit he is 52? I bless you on that one, sister Now, I know I missed some questions in here now I'm single guy DM me asking if I'm looking for a serious relationship Told him I ain't actively actively looking he stops DM me was my delivery bad He claims he's single He got tested DM me was my delivery bad He claims he's single well You know, it's kind of He gave you what you told him You know, so you shouldn't really be worried about why he stopped in DM him when you told him Stop DMing you You know because he wrote you asking are you looking for a serious relationship? Like are you Writing about are you on here? Are you interested in relation when you said no, I'm not looking Then he like, okay. I'm looking so I'm gonna go on about my business So essentially he just gave you what you said so you have to get clarity on What do you want?  Do you want a man to come and approach you with intention and purposeful dating in mind? And if not, then you can't worry about it if he stopped writing you and if you do then you have to say Yes, I am I am Looking to date serious when that happens or however you are worded Tony, I just want to say thank you so much. You've been a huge part of my growth journey I've gotten out of my situation ship. I just published my book in my purpose and focusing on my three B's God bless you whenever somebody say the three B's. I know you've been here. I know you've been here listening So whenever in that whenever somebody say that Okay, so hello, Tony. What does it mean when you conversate with a man and he dominates the convo and you have to interrupt him to speak He talks more about how he is what he likes. He is a nice guy You know, I'll tell you this just let him talk just let him talk don't don't interrupt, you know Just let him talk and the more he talks the better that is because the more you get to hear about him The more you get to learn about him and and if he's not a good person then the quicker He's gonna push you away the quicker you're gonna find out If he is worth your time So when you got somebody talking, that's the best thing that can happen You really don't want to interrupt that you don't want to shut that down You know, you need something if you need to talk Then get your life coach. So that way you get to talk as long as you want to talk But when you meet somebody The person who talks the least Is the person who have the most power? Unfortunately because the more person gonna talk the more you're gonna know The more of his hand he's gonna show And so that's honestly what you want to happen and with men the more a man expresses himself The more he falls in love unless he just got a mental issue And that's what and that'll be shown You'll you'll realize that rather quickly Is it controlling to require your child's father to go to therapy? For a minimum amount of time before seeing child based on previous anger issues and And well as emotional Thank you so much No, that's not controlling. You know, that's a protective measure. That's something that you should do but It's just kind of like You got to look at who he is and and who he's trying to be And before anything just having supervised visitation y'all being at the park And him with the child at the park or at the bounce house at the jump center at the zoo wherever And you being there and him being there and you getting to see that interaction you get to see that time spent because for one he could say he did 12 sessions of of Therapy and he can do like a lot of men do me a lot of men go on my mentor dot life And book a session with me and never do the session But I guarantee you when they book the session and they get that confirmation email They forward that email to the lady to say hey I signed up for a session And then after that day to that session that older session went great and the man never talked to me And so, you know, you could put that requirement in but it really is not You know foolproof.  He's still gonna do and be who he is Until he really want to change So you'll be better off being around him and feeling his spirit and feeling how he act and how he is And if you're doing that then That's going to be the best thing to do because sometimes it's like You send somebody to therapy.  He's not changing and nobody gonna be able to help But if he in that space then it'll be different What does it mean if a man sends you a nasty pic video and y'all never mess with each other? That he nasty That mean that he nasty That's all it is and and he don't respect you And he don't respect you because he don't respect himself And so that's type of man that you run from divorce one year 50 50 custody x has brought multiple women around our children. Is he interviewing for the position? I would imagine so I would imagine so It's been good It's been It's been going good dating about four months. He's Consistently making efforts for me. He always planned stuff. I planned a date and took him out Should I have done that if he's supposed to court me? No, that's cool. That's cool. You know just to show him that hey you into him too and so You want to have a ratio with that to where if he does he's planning and he's courting you A man needs to know that he's appreciated as well The key is that you just don't take the full lead And just start courting him all the time and now you planning every day because you want to show how much you want Planned a date and how much you like him, but it's reciprocation is always great Make sure y'all put the hashtag q in front of your question And if you ask a question and you see i'm missing other questions then You know, don't don't ask a second question Until you see out and caught these other questions because what's happening is sometimes you could post your question and You could post it at the right time what i'm done talking And I see your question But if you didn't already ask a question or two or three questions and somebody else post at a different time You know i've missed there, so i'm try i'll try to be as fast as possible But you know y'all gotta Understand just one person trying to scroll with his his finger Hello, tony when a man wants to do business before getting married. Should I be concerned about anything? When you say want to do business if you mean do business with you Like do business with you like you his client or y'all go in business together Then yes, you should be concerned about that If you mean do business like he want to build his business and he want to work on himself while y'all are dating Committed exclusive and intentional then no you shouldn't be worried about that Peace and blessings. How should I date for marriage while remaining celibate until marriage? remaining abstinent until marriage is dating for marriage because when you're dating Dating is to build on a firm foundation Of communication, you know friendship you it's a it's romantic, but you're dating With the intent to marry and so by having Your your legs closed then you're dating Intentionally for marriage. So you still could go on dates, you know, you just have to set boundaries to where you say Hey, our date is out in the public like we're going to the park. We're having a picnic We're going to the movie going to a restaurant going bowling going skating not in the backseat of the car at the lake not In his apartment your apartment But y'all are dating actively and you're doing things that's going to get them You know Juices flowing and y'all building y'all conversating, but you set boundaries to where Can't nothing be whipped out on you and you end up on your back My husband is 50. I'm in my late 30s. He yells and curses when he's mad Cause me names what to do um You know, you probably need coaching for that on marriage situations I try not to speak on marriage situation because marriage is a covenant You know, it's easy to say you should leave a relationship when you're dating because dating is not a covenant before god marriage is a covenant before god So you you have to be a little more Diligent when it comes to marriage and that's something that that you'll need coaching for so you really can lay it out and talk about it Now it sound like, you know, you young enough to be his daughter So in essence, it's kind of like he he yelling at you like Cinderella and so you got to take note of that and Really evaluate the situation and evaluate Why you got into the relationship If he was that same person and you ignored it or if he showed you a representative and now he's showing you his true colors How do I encourage my husband to be more attentive to me? Well, you can leave by example and be attentive to him And when he sees that you're attentive to him It's almost like he's he can learn how to love and he can learn how to Be attentive by seeing what attentive looks like And if that doesn't work like let's say you do that for a week two weeks And it doesn't work Then there's something that in a time of peace you got to sit and you got to have that conversation You got to sit and have that conversation and say hey, I want to talk to you about You know, just our needs and how we can build as a couple And I want to know what you need from me and I want to share what I need from you And so you kind you call that town hall meeting so that y'all can have that discussion and recognize effort Because not everybody going to be perfect at showing love And not everybody going to show love the way we want to show love and a lot of times in our mind We're like, I wish my partner would do this at this very moment But they don't know to do that because they've never seen it exemplify And it's never been done for them and it may not be their love language So they don't even expect to do it know how to do it or want to do it. So In marriage, that's where communication to the relationship Is like oxygen to life I'm 21. No kids my co-worker. He's 34 with two kids He is now trying to make me feel bad for not giving him the time of day. I keep telling him different stages different ages You just stop explaining it now Go ahead stop explaining it.  Oh, this oh, this was just something I was looking into it's like That was just talking to it's like if somebody keep bothering you or keep talking to you or whatever It's just like the HR want to hear from you.  And so what you have to realize is you can't look like dinner You know And you can't be if you keep keep can And keep trying to softly explain it a man gonna overstep that you know He's gonna look past that with a man. You got to be direct. You got to be direct You got to be real. You got to be blunt. You got to be straight up You got to take the kitty gloves off and you got to let them really feel you for him to Know that you serious What is your take on women who are dating one man but talking to multiple men? Is this a bad thing?  But if you differentiate dating from talking Then that's two different levels and that mean dating is something exclusive or something Committed or something like he think you the only one or he's the only one And so you just got to be very careful with you know, how you define that 22 been dating a great guy 26 for three months lately A lot of men that have it together been trying to court me What to do if you start to wonder what it would Be like to be with a man that has money um Well, you got to really I understand money first And you got to understand that money don't mean anything You know, I was speaking to a team And I was mentioning money and I was talking about earnings and one of the players he asked me he said, are you happy? And I and in that moment I realized that It's not my money that make me happy Like money don't make you happy like I literally know somebody that is getting ready To fly to Italy On a private jet And that round trip private jet flight alone on the type of plane that he fly on going to cost like a half a million dollars And the rest of the trip may cost another hundred grand So for a one week vacation he finna spend What the cost of two three houses and We still talk about happiness like it's still in pursuit Of happiness so you have to understand that a man with money It really does not mean anything like money is could be expensive misery So if you got a guy that does not have money and he's only 26 years old, but he treats you like a queen Then you're going to win all day with him Then being with a man who already established and already got money and made his money without you So now you are option. He don't need you You know, he came to you with money. So you have nothing to do with his success But a 26 year old man who has great character That man at 26. I was making 20 thousand dollars a year Now but I but my wife was with me When she could have been with me and with money She could have been with older men even if it was just five years older than me who make in 75 k 50 k But she was with me for my character and how I was treating her So at 26 years old, I was making 20 thousand dollars a year Now at 37 it's some months that I pay my wife 20 thousand dollars a month So She helped me bill. She was there with me. She was in the process So I feel like everything I got it belongs to her like it's nothing I will keep from her And it's nobody I'll leave her for it's nothing I wouldn't do for her Nothing in the world I wouldn't do for her because she built with me from the ground up And that right there is priceless and that's what a lot of women today Don't understand that and a lot of a lot of women want to go get a man who already established already got his own Instead of being willing to build with a man from the ground up A man with character because if he got character, he's gonna make money So because I have character My wife, she would always tell me the money's gonna come So I already know the money's gonna come the money's gonna come.  She's like, I could see you She's like the money's gonna come So that's what you got to understand just like these men With money Got money Your 26 year old Can get money can get to some money So the key Especially when you young It's character It's that man character. It's how he treats you how he talked to you how he see the world Who he look up to who his mentors are even if they virtual mentors and he never met them So that's what you got to understand. That's a big topic too. So I'm gonna do a whole video on that Well, I talk about it all the time, but Women don't be one I'm not finna be with no broke man You try me So I just supposed to be with a broke man I'm just I'm done with it now. I'm like, all right, go ahead. Do what you want to do I'm talking to a guy that used to text me every day to check on me When he's busy now, he doesn't send me text messages like he used to He gives me the busy excuse. Should I tell him how I feel?   So you got to stop needing him.  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It's like cheating one time Is too much But this man cheated with three plus women Come on now You got to get to some baby powder Slap five from yourself. You got to do better than that. So come on now too grown for that It's too it too many men out in the world Copy and paste. Uh, look I'm seeing some of the stuff over and over I've been single 21 years. I am 46 years old Where do I start? You start by getting the knowledge.  It's a new day. It's a new world It's new games being played. So doing what you're doing right now You hearing these questions you learning about the state of relationships today You watching the videos you doing the courses you reading the books That's going to be the best thing for you He never grew up in church. So he doesn't know much about jesus and christianity He is trying to get more information. Is it worth moving forward? Has kept his word flew down to me treats me good Well, sis, you got to look at what do you mean to the kingdom? You see what I mean? So You've been on the blessed trial for a while and I know your name and The senior and I know that you're young. I think in your 20s And so you have to look at your trajectory and your purpose and what you mean to the kingdom because Like Is voices out here For the kingdom that's reaching millions That's reaching hundreds of thousands. That's reaching tens of thousands So if you are going to be one of those voices Is no stops that the devil won't pull out to send somebody to you to derail you From your purpose from your calling from your ministry from your belief system So you have to always realize is that when you pray for destiny The adversary is going to send you a distraction that looks like destiny And what god does is going to be decent and in order And he's going to give gifts and add no sorrow So although you're going to have to do some work Your foundation should be the same And so if you choose to go into a relationship where the foundation is not the same Then you're inviting problems Because as you know from knowing god And being a christian that that's still a daily struggle. That's still a daily battle. Like you've never perfect and you Continuously growing. So if he don't even know god Don't know nothing about god. God ain't been up under no rock. So he didn't have All these years to be exposed to god in the word of god. So A lot of times a man of fake because To a atheist That's a notch in a belt to get a christian to sin against her god Because when you sin against your god it make that man for a man it make that man your god So a lot of men will get a a high out of that and it'll be a ego stroke For him to get you off your block And get you in that bed with him and then they'll go out to the barbershop and bragging saying hey Some of the best. Oh before new christian women But hey, you know no christian women be talking about god Boy, look here. Will you get one of them?  Is a stay-at-home mom a woman who is the mama of one of our clients, you know If you if you cut hair A man want to sleep with the mama of some of the little boys that he cut and they have if he'll if he'll you football coach He want to touch them some of the Mamas some of the single mamas on this football or basketball team So it's like men when we're grown boys. We have different little fetishes different little Notches that we want to get in the belt.  I don't want to let down a single person I could cheat with one woman Who will never tell her whole life? But my ministry or my message is lost to that one woman So her soul Will burn Because of the place that she in in her life and mine gonna burn with her And that's all it take and so I realized that is I don't try to look like oh, well, let me not sleep with 10 women Because that's when you get exposed. Let me just do five. Let me just do one.  He trying to hit on me He ain't he trying to hit on me. He want to be with me. Look what he's telling you.   I mean I don't answer your question And uh, what I told you is you write no rush keep doing what you're doing Keep doing what you're doing focus on focus on you focus on building you working on you Don't worry about no relationship, especially if you a woman A man need to be worried about a relationship When he working on himself because it's the man who find a wife. It's the man who Need to create his lineage be fruitful replenish the earth the man who need to find a wife So that's the man place to be out there looking and all of that As a woman You will be found your husband gonna find you So, you know, make sure that you locked in you focus on your three B's you're doing what you're supposed to be doing Vanessa, Vanessa, I miss her super chat uh, if it came to me Oh, there you go Vanessa, I see you right here How to handle being dumped by a guy I reached out By a text to say hi and he rudely gave me one word answer. Can you Give second chance after being dumped um, Vanessa Well, I'll tell you this You got to move on with your life.  I haven't said anything because I don't want to gossip But I get bad vibes from a girl who everyone loves slash friends with she was cool at first but switched up Well, you just got to cut off. You ain't got to gossip. Don't talk bad about it because if you taking a bone by her then somebody gonna take a bone by two and That's on your name. Now you the gossiper. So if she got everybody full What you got do is just pat yourself on the back that you actually have the spiritual discernment to see her true colors And pray for the people who came so really that's a blessing That's a compliment from god to be able to see her true colors So and she'd know you could see her and that's why she switched it up. So don't worry about that Go on about your business everything and work being addressed Got married then divorced. What's up, man? Huh?  All right. Like yes, uh, speak my language Why give me something to eat y'all got to forgive me. She's picking up some food My land uh-oh my phone about the Phone ain't got much battery left Got married then divorced after five years. He had an affair got back together Total 19 years just found out he was talking to another woman. He said was nothing. What's your view? Um, my view is that he's comfortable with you.  He want more of you He won't what's outside of you. He won't other stuff around you and so That's when when that's happening.  God bless you. God bless you. Hey y'all I told him so I wasn't gonna be on here longer than an hour because um I'm doing a q&a on um Instagram so make sure you know You own my instagram for the written questions and answers And I was doing that and my phone about to die So I need to be able to plug my phone in so Well, my wife want to get my food see it's sunday and where the way our Marriage is the way our life is is my wife For one, she's very independent. And so she got stuff that she does now My work although it's my purpose It also pays me to serve in my purpose when i'm working for god And so I'll be doing work helping people. But that's also of my job And so she sees that and she understand that and so she's like listen you do your work And let me do my work. Let me do what I do. And so when she's doing her thing She just she want me out of the way Doing my thing And so she she take care of how she doing this and that And this what i'm doing, you know what i'm called to do So that's when that's how I'm able so I know sometimes y'all might look and wonder what Tony, how you doing a Q&A on instagram? Answer questions on that pause that then come do a Q&A on youtube Talk here for an hour Then go do more Q&A on instagram When i'm when i'm when you see me stringing it together like that that mean my wife doing her thing And she she got me out the way. She cooked. She fold in laundry. She clean and mopping doing this and that And some women my young help You need to be helping her. She don't want my help. She don't want me in her way She's in this she she got away. She liked to do stuff And she won't do it her way So I let her do that and then when she didn't need me to do something She'll say hey, can you do this right here? And i'm like, okay, y'all got you And baby, can you do this right here for me? So Tony, I don't have a family or anyone I provide for myself and I really don't like it even though I'm good at it I'm sad that people say that I have to do it for myself while they have a much better support system in life And god bless you since you know God bless you keep your head up. You know what I mean? keep your head up because If if it was given for you to do Although you don't like it a lot of us don't like the lot that we have in life To be honest with you, I would much rather go out here and sell some medical devices Than to sit on here answering y'all questions I'll be honest with you because I don't even like dealing with people.  I know it's not the easiest thing in the world I know that not everybody is going to be able to give sound feedback And so that lets me know this must be your call and this must be your gifting but the burden is heavy So when the boy asks me Are you happy? I say I'm purposeful. I told him I'm purposeful. I'm intentional It ain't about happiness Jesus asks, can the cup be passed from him? Do you think apostle Paul was happy? Do you think Moses was happy? Do you think David was happy? Happiness is what you define it. I'm obedient to my calling. So for me, that's happiness You see what I mean and no more questions now. No more questions. I'm done answering questions Done answering questions just talking to y'all right now because I'm about to get over here My phone about to die So I say that to say You got to embrace your struggle. You got to embrace your grind.  God gave me your exact gift I just talked to him. He said hey, I'm taking the gift from Tony.  You see what I mean? So you got to embrace what you call to do because if you're able to do it, then that means you call to it And that's one thing we got to realize and understand And there was something else that I kept seeing a theme I kept seeing in the Q&A And I cannot remember if it was friend with benefits Or if it was age difference I kept seeing questions about age difference So I don't know what's going on right here. What's in the water with with y'all ladies that's younger and want an older man I'm gonna tell you that's a gamble It's a gamble. You're probably gonna lose your shirt when you get a man as old as your daddy He's gonna try to raise you so you got to understand that And on the other side that I kept seeing with the friends with benefits, which I'll have to understand There is no there are no benefits To being friends with benefits.  So you better understand Everything you doing in this day and age Like the bible say we weaker and wiser Smartphones making us dumb It relaxed one of us. We addicted to our phones We got our kids addicted to the phones addicted to the ipads So what's happening is we getting weaker and wiser meaning We we could put a man on the moon But We don't know basic everyday stuff We don't know how to love ourselves. We don't know how to respect ourselves. We're putting up with cheating We're putting up with lying. We're selling them for friends with benefits But you could you could go and do a whole excel spreadsheet In 10 minutes You could write a whole report You could you could graduate get a bachelor's get a master's get a doctorate But we don't know how to set boundaries in our interpersonal relationships.  It's a whole lot that I have done and that I've given To you know friends and family that I say, you know what? That's not my place and if I start to see certain people start to expect it and and they Feel like I'm obligated to serve to give to them Then that's when I realized I got to set stand.  I'm gonna be honest with you It's sad to me the questions that I get go on instagram Search my name tonic askers find my instagram And click on my story and read the questions Read the questions And I'll be doing that as much as I can and then I it drained me and so I'll take I'll take a break the last Not I only took like a week break here recently But before that I hadn't done it for like a year Because it is draining when I be reading stuff that y'all putting up with and that y'all go through I'm like my goodness My goodness I pick up my problems in a heartbeat when I look at other people problems And that's one thing I say is that we should never complain about our life Because when you look at somebody else problems, it's a it's a quote that say if if all of us put our problems in a pile We'll all pick up our own problem Because we got what it takes to deal with our problems inside of every problem. There are seeds to the solution So you got to know and understand that And once you understand that and you get to that place to where you start to set boundaries in your life And you make sure That you're not being used and abused and taken advantage of and that the people who come into your life that they bring something If they're going to take something that they bring something if they're going to take something And when you set that in place, that's when the circle gets smaller That's when you realize who really there for you That's when you realize who just willing and want to receive and take from you But when you need them, they're not willing to sacrifice for you. They're not willing to go out. They wait for you They're not willing to cancel nothing for you But they want you to be there and they ever back and called and so that's what you got to realize and That's how we lose in the day And you have also in in closing what i'm gonna let you know and understand is that you know How I say we weaker and wiser We we wicked and wiser too And so what you have to understand is that it's getting very it's getting very ruthless out here It's getting real vicious out here from men and women, whichever side you on whichever side you dating on You got to be very mindful.  That's not your husband. He don't owe you no money He's not supposed to be paying your bills Like you supposed to have your own job taking care of yourself like when he your husband That's a husband duty what he could do but not no girlfriend And you're not supposed to be taking care of no man as a woman And one on the flip side of that what I've been seeing a lot of is women auditioning for men And you literally auditioning for a man and you got this man I hear this man got you cooking got you cleaning Got you doing all of this sucking and ducking Like you auditioning for the role of a wife when it's like listen, he'll play boy Is this one do this woman got a good heart This woman talked to you with respect. Is she a trustworthy person? It's her life in order If if you see that on her and you attracted to her, that's a wife The woman ain't got to be cooking and cleaning and sexing you and all of that. I don't know audition But what happened is we have grown boys who was bullied We got men today with podcast and with and with youtube channels and these men was bullied These men these men was talked about these men was pumped These men was degraded and disrespected And now they coming for their revenge And so now they these men get them a microphone in their face These men get them get them a voice And now it's revenge of the lambs And they coming out here and they finna make these women pay.  Oh, I am the prize I am high value And you need to work for me Oh, yeah, let me ask you this. Is that your hair? Is that your eyelashes?  That's the approach that these men taking today They putting women on this probationary period like Like his stuff don't stink And that's what i'm seeing and i'm seeing so many women it's women coming to me. How can I show him on my wife? Listen, what what is a wife? A wife is a trustworthy honest Person that could be a role model for the kids That's going to be selfless and caring and loving How good you could fold clothes don't mean you a wife How good you could cook and clean don't mean you're a wife.    He's going outside your head.  I'm the prize Revenge of the lambs revenge of the nerds.  I want a good man. No, I want I don't want no grown boy No, I want a good man my phone about down And then I show you a good man well well Well, I know I said I want a good man, but but I really was hoping that he made, you know 75 85 thousand Yeah That's all that. I mean am I asking too much? You can let me know so before asking for too much now. Let me know now I thought you wanted a good man This is a good man got character. He's about he he making money and finna make more money But he know how to he was raised how to treat a woman how to talk to a woman But now you calling himself Now you calling him like now.   And he been to use your sleep with you get impregnated gone by the business but could dress Got swag now Gonna look gonna look good on the date now gonna look good why y'all Pump faking for the audience as a couple, but you're gonna get low You gonna get cheated on you gonna get dog die And but here go the good man And he can't overlook so it's not that it's Not good man It's just that women looking at men with money Who a lot of these men have money but don't have character And so you want a man in real life with money who's not a celebrity But you want him to have celebrity money or status in the community wanting to be a lawyer or a doctor or You know on the board the pastor You know the chairman wanting to be something in the community or want to have money And overlook the man who he's gonna get up and go to work every day Hand might be dirty might have dirt on this nail Might not know how to dress. He's still wearing them parachute pants with the bell bottom You know, he's gonna tuck that shirt in had it built on He he dressed a little different But he'll get overlooked When he actually is the one that's solid and you want the men out here That when these short shorts that gonna stop at the middle of their thigh you can see the vein coming from they growing to their knee cap And they can't they can't put a wallet in them pants They can't put a a dollar in them pants Them pants so tight He got all this It's a shirt button all the way down. You can see his heart beating in his chest He got a little diamond necklace on he got all his tattoos on he smoked like a chimney He drank like a fish.  Yeah, even okay.  I See y'all And then give him all her money way Because she because she realized money came by happiness. She realized How Trillions of dollars and came by happiness What bill gates wife did? See y'all what Michael Jordan wife did see y'all Because they realized and that's why I keep trying to tell y'all like listen a good man He's gonna be on the grind He might not have money coming out his ears. He might not be able to do all this and that he might not be able to fly you to Tahiti right now But he's gonna be ambitious.  He's gonna go to work. He's gonna talk to you, right?  He might have him a wide-set nose They might call him no-stradamus But do we treat you right? Is he loving you right? Is he a good man? Listen, he don't have the money for all them facials and manicures and pedicures and fake hairlines Like the man you see online, but it's a good man And so that's what you got to understand is that today we need to really understand what what is a good man? What is a good woman? And that's really where we fell in that Man saying they want a good woman and they really looking for a big booty With a pretty smile who could twerk to a certain song And look like somebody he follow online and then the The equal vice versa For the woman and that's what i'm seeing as i'm sitting out here reading emails and processing and seeing what's going on and collecting the data I'm like man. We've been just letter straight by what we're seeing on reality tv on instagram on youtube on the movies on the shows We've been letter straight And we're not really connected and clicking on what really matters So hey, it's on the gas can my phone about to die on me And um So I had here at the chat so y'all You know forgive me So I could just talk through there so I ain't see nothing And um, I had stopped taking questions. So if you came in late, you know, forgive me If you came in late and posted a question and I missed it but god bless you and My phone dead, but i'ma try to When things going a little slower Um this week if depending on these here mba finals and what time they going on I'll be doing live q and a's at different times Because i mean my wife, you know, we're going to be taking us a little break on sunday So but hopefully I have some videos still going up while me and my wife on our little break You know a little getaway a little vacation to end out the summer before school start and life get back going God bless you. We'll talk soon


What is going on guys, welcome back to the channel and I appreciate you being here. Today I am back with another Destiny 2 video and today we are going to talk about the news from the past few days also including what could be E3 leaked information on the name of the next major expansion for Destiny 2. But before we get into it guys, if you'd like to support the channel hitting that like button truly helps me out and I do appreciate that support. Okay so firstly let's check out the main points in my opinion behind yesterday's Bungie Weekly update. So firstly they talk about power level progress. Now there have been a few unhappy people with the way the system works now and how it's so hard to get past that certain point here is what Bungie had to say, powerful progress. Feedback never stops from the moment one man landed we've had our eyes on the chatter surrounding all aspects of Destiny 2. One trending topic is how players reach appropriate power levels for end game content. CNA investment designer Daniel or I can't even pronounce that has some details on what to expect moving forward Daniel. Warmind is out we're super excited this is in your hands now as we're able to get a bunch of excellent input on what we did well and what we still need to work on. One of those areas I'd like to talk about B is progression. I spoke a little about this before their Warmind launch but I think one thing I could be more clear about was the Warmind progression system is an improvement over Curse of Osiris but still not where we ultimately want it to end up. It's a step down a road to make the game more in line with where we want it but we need to make these iterations one step at a time so we can incorporate feedback and ensure we're heading in the right direction. Heroic strikes are a great example of something we definitely want to keep iterating on. In the May 29th update you'll see a small change to help make these better. Escalation protocol key fragments will become a 100% drop chance from each heroic strike. The goal here is to make getting these fragments more accessible while also preserving the need to go play non open world content to get the fragments. Heroic strikes will be able to drop better rewards. Every 3 to 5 heroic strikes will drop a legend that can carry you up to 360 power before muzz. This should better align the rewards of the heroic strikes with the difficulty of the activity and helps all our players have a more reliable source of upgrades. We won't have any time to make changes to what's common on May 29th but please let us know how you feel about these rates. It is good information to inform future updates. We're tracking some additional issues that don't have immediate solutions but that's what I want to bring up as things we're thinking and talking about. I don't currently have any potential solutions to talk about but I want to make sure we're communicating the kinds of things we're looking at and considering. In the spirit, here are some of the tarp progression related issues we're thinking about right now. How to smooth out the transition into the end game grind once the campaign is over. Currently there's a brick wall players seem to be running into at 345 where progression goes from fast to super friction. This is one of those areas we definitely don't believe is perfect so we're looking at how to smooth this transaction out. Once milestones are complete, there are rewards to chase. Exhaustic masterworks and seasonal ranks help this problem a little bit giving some amount of manpower chase to work on once milestones are done but these definitely aren't enough. As highlighted in the roadmap, weapon randomisation and records should also give players more to do once their milestones are done. That doesn't mean we believe this is a fully solved problem and we're talking about other ways to help mitigate this. End game progression needs more tiers. Right now everything gives similar size upgrades throughout the screen tiers in the progression system for players to climb too so they can tackle new activities and in turn climb a new tier with new activities. This is something I definitely wouldn't expect a solution for prior to September but it is on our radar. The quality of rewards don't always match the difficulty of the activity. We're seeing a lot of this feedback around red layer rewards in particular so talking about how to better align with the quality of reward and the difficulty of the activity is something we're going to be thinking about more going forward. So for those of you struggling to reach a 365, Hurok strikes will drop certain items which will assist you there but they admit the power level is far from perfect and it is way way off but I'm glad they are addressing or trying to address it. They then go on to speak about PvP and going for glory. Now for me I'd love to try and grind for the red rix's claymore but solo queueing in competitive is just absolutely pointless. Here is what they say about this and the general issues many are having. Regression isn't just achieving new levels of power, we also look at how players are rising through ranks of valet and glory. We've gotten some questions on how is and why is the ranking system. PvP design league Derek Carroll has some answers caught in doubt right here. Now that we've added a serious ranking system through the competitive playlist we're seeing many more guardians attempt to climb the ladder to become legend on their way to the top. Some players have raised questions that we can address here. Question. Why would I match against a player with a higher glory rank than me? Answer. For a variety of reasons. We don't match directly on your glory number, instead using our per playlist skill value. It's quite likely that your opponent is a good match against you but they've been grinding glory more consistently so they've moved up the ranks faster. Take this as a sign that you'll likely reach that rank with continued play. Question. Why can't I match against preform fireteams when I'm searching as a solo player? Answer. After a bit of server side tuning and investigation we re-enabled the crucible fireteam matchmaking feature yesterday. This does not directly reduce the chance of a match against pre-made fireteams but does tweak the skill values of those fireteams to make it more likely that they find evenly matched opponents. Question. Why won't you make a solo queue only playlist? Answer. We don't want to do that because it would split their population in an unhealthy way making it less likely for everyone to find good matches furthermore. That would probably mean splitting their glory rank into solo glory and team glory numbers and would much rather there be one single number to represent your prowess in a crucible. Question.  Answer. There's no joining progress in competitive so this can't happen for glory however we are working on a fix for valour in the other playlist so you won't lose your valour streak that way. Now for me personally the reasoning behind why they won't add a solo queue for glory is utter BS. I mean total BS and I will say people it's majorly unfair on solo players trying to get that red rickus claymore or even just trying to play glory anyway. It's worse now than I can ever remember it being because of the changes and things to chase within that glory rank and in my opinion the address by Brungie is a BS wonder. Moving on people and Iron Banner is back next week. It begins Tuesday May 22nd and ends Tuesday May 29th. The game is controlled the ways in which players can earn rewards has also been updated for season 3. Salending will feature a similar reputation system to Vanguard where players can climb the ranks by turning in Iron Banner tokens. Each reputation rank will lend progress to unlocking desired rewards. It comes with all new weapons and ornaments looking good while the armors do anyway. Okay so I'm going to move on and onto a supposed leak. Now I've seen this on Facebook and I've seen that I'm ready but take it with a pinch of salt and it is what's going down Destiny 2 wise at E3. Such rumour that within E3 to share we will see a real trailer for the full expansion. There will be also a presentation featuring the Brungie community managers and Nolan North and we will also get a gameplay trailer too. The expansion is rumoured to be called Destiny 2 Ghosts of Nagasaki. Now people take this with a pinch of salt, I mean it could indeed be legit information but until confirmed by a legit source don't believe anything you see here. To me it seems fake, it sounds fake and it most probably is fake but I've said this in the past and it seems to be true so you just never know people. But guys that's all the news from the past day or so. I do indeed look forward to Iron Banner next week and earning some of them sweet new ornaments. On that note guys I am out so let me know what you think about the D2 leak, let me know what you think about Bungie's response to the glory and progression within D2 since warm mind. Thanks as always for stopping by, if you enjoyed the video leave a like truly helps me out and hopefully people I will see you on that next one.


Good afternoon. I'm Dr. Gregory Gatis and welcome to another session of Global Connections. Tonight I'm hosting this discussion with a distinguished professor from Y Pacific University, Pierre Asselin, who is a graduate, a doctor of the University of Y as MI. His was in history, mine is in political science. In fact, this particular session in Global Connections is a continuation of a sort of something that I and Dr. King did in which Christine Hansen did, in which we're looking at Dr. King, I call the collapse of industrial civilization, threats to our society. And we identified many. Dr. King especially talked about overpopulation, resource depletion, peak oil, globalization of the up. Weather changes that are coming about from climate change and many other things. I brought up the electromagnetic pulse that hits us every 140 years from the sun and were due for one, which would fry the electronic grid and if it were to happen, according to Ted Koppel who wrote a book called Lights Out, if they did fry the grid, which is by the way considered the greatest accomplishment in human history, the North American grid encompassing Canada and the United States, 90% of us would die within a year, simply because we need that to move food and et cetera, things like that. Nothing is going to work, no electricity, no elevators. Those living in high rises had better camp out there at the park with the homeless because there's no going up and down 40 stairs with your water every day and trying to flush your toilet. At any rate, two weeks ago, Christine and I looked at infectious diseases in an age of globalization because we're in a very dangerous situation where diseases are in danger of getting out of control, such as mirrors and SARS and the superbugs that are now resistant to the penicillin, et cetera, et cetera. We looked at how close we're coming to maybe running into an epidemic or a pandemic, sort of like what happened after World War I when the flu devastated, I mean more people died in that flu than died in World War I, it was really quite devastating. But now we're into today looking at something called immigration in the age of globalization. Suddenly people are transferring across borders in a way that we didn't really anticipate earlier. When we said globalization, we meant that goods would cross borders. We meant that ideas would cross borders. We meant that money could cross borders and that would make us all richer and more self-sufficient. It didn't encompass people, but now people are going carrying those diseases, which is bad enough, but now we're worrying about are they carrying ideas that could bring about collapses of civilization. And so Dr. Esselen is an expert in everything historical, so he might have some ideas here about to what extent we can continue to allow people to migrate because they want to. There is among the liberals among us this idea that anybody can go anywhere. Others who are on the conservative side say no, a nation is an organic entity that has a set of values and you can go into that country providing you endorse those values and be a part of it. So let me ask now Pierre, how serious a threat do you think people crossing the borders, our southern border or other borders, is a threat to America if they don't assimilate into our society? I don't think it's a threat at all. I think that the fear we have of outsiders is certainly understandable, but in terms of it actually constituting a threat relative to other threats that we face, including some of the things you've mentioned like environmental degradation, we're creating here an issue that really shouldn't be. Again, looking at history, right? So now there's this fear that Muslims will do this, this and that. Go back a hundred years or so, mid-19th century, we have more or less the same fears about the American Republic being compromised, but this time it involves Catholics. As I'm assuming you know, there was this Arabid fear of Catholicism in the United States during the mid-19th century. We have this so-called know-nothing party, the Native American party, that effectively calls for a ban on Catholic immigration. We burn churches down to the ground.  So, you know, looking back, well, it maybe was an overreaction. And I can't help but think that in 50 and 100 years from now, we're going to probably feel the same way about how some people in this country feel about the threat coming from Muslims. And speaking of Catholics, I want to point this out because it's so interesting.  So, you know, we had a sense of right then. So, you know, we create these fears. We're not comfortable with what we're not familiar with. And eventually in time, we realize that, oh, maybe we exaggerated the threat. And I think that looking back, eventually we'll feel the same way about this so-called threat caused by outsiders or Muslims specifically these days. Well, I'd like to push back a little bit here. I think that if you, everything you said is true, by the way, about the no-nothings and Catholics and so forth and Asian Exclusion Act and so on. So, we've always been a little worried about these people coming in and always successfully integrated because we've always had a policy of assimilation and there's a public school and we took people from around the world and we put them through the meat grinder of the public school and they came out Americans no matter what they went in. They're not like their parents that came here, the parents might have babushkas, but they don't wear babushkas anymore and so on and so forth. So, that has worked very well. Unfortunately now, there's a new disease out there called multiculturalism, which is replacing Americanism here. And the tenets of this are such that you can go to another country and you take your culture with you and you just practice it there. You're not assimilating anymore. You're going to live in your little ghettos and this is happening all over Europe. It's happening in America where people are doing not as much in America. We still assimilate to some extent. But a lot to a great extent, especially across the southern border, there are people flooding in where they don't want to give up their language, for example. And always you had to give up your language, in other words, to be part of America. So, I would think that we have to look at this as a little bit different. It's wrong, I think, to call Islam, which is the primary threat, a religion like Buddhism, Hinduism, Christianity and so forth. We're committing fallacy of the logical types that Bertrand Russell talked about. When he wrote Wikipedia Mathematica in 1908, he developed his theory of logical types in the introduction. And in this theory, he said that you must never treat something of a different order on the same level. You shouldn't say, oh, I like apples, oranges, grapes and fruit because you committed an error because fruit is another higher logical type than these others. I think we're doing the same thing with Islam. Islam is not a religion, per se. It's partly a religion. But if you really take the Quran seriously, it's really an ideology. It's something of a higher level. It's a total worldview. And if you let people in who have this devotion to this higher worldview and not to their religion, now Catholics still admire the Pope, but they're not going to follow the Pope rather than follow Trump, I don't think. But a real serious Muslim has a commitment to Islam, not to America. They don't believe in nations, they believe in Islam, and that should conquer the world. That's part of their credo, written in the Quran. Now, here's the problem. Most of us have Muslim friends, I suppose you do, I do, but they're bad Muslims, meaning they don't be the Quran. They don't say, oh, I'm not supposed to be friends with the Jews and the Christians. I think that's the question. So what's a good Muslim? What's a bad Muslim? What's a good Catholic? What's a bad Catholic? So, French-Canadian, I was born Catholic. I go to church once a year at Christmas. I wouldn't call myself a bad Catholic, although in the eyes of radicals, I certainly would be so. So I think we have a tendency here sometimes to focus on the extremists and see these individuals as a reflection of something larger. And I think that's definitely the problem with Islam. Most Muslims, I know here that I've encountered in my travels to the Islamic world, kind of feel about their religion in a number of ways the way I kind of feel about Catholicism. It's part of your identity because you're born into it. And you take it seriously to the extent that current circumstances warrant. So I don't know. I see your point. And certainly there are individuals who kind of fit the description that you've provided. But I think applying that to Muslims generally and to Islam specifically, I'm not sure I would agree with you on that. Okay. Well, you're taking a modern attitude here. And it is true that Islam has... That's sensible, but I'll go with modern. Islam has been quiescent for the last... Oh, since they were defeated in 1689, I guess at the gates of Vienna when the king of Poland saw them off. Was it Suleiman the Magnificent? Yeah, Suleiman the Magnificent. Yeah, it was sent in Vienna. Sent him back to Turkey there. That was their second jihad, the first jihad going up through North Africa. And meeting Charles Martel at tour where he turned them back there. Okay, so they went into decline and they've been quiet for 300 years. And so we're used to thinking of Muslims as just being nice, humble people, going to the mosque and praying and being nice people. And to the extent that they were then, no one would have any objection because we would tolerate that. That's what America would stand for, that kind of freedom. Only if it would compete with Americanism, if it would compete with our freedoms of democracy and so forth, I have a loyalty above that to Allah and the thing you know my duty here is to take the world into Muslims.  And then he couldn't get out, but he finally got out because his sister got sick and she has to have be escorted if one goes anywhere. So he took her to England and then when she was fixed up, she went back on her own and he went to Canada in fact for years now. But he told me that when he was there, he doesn't really follow Ramadan and things like that. And so you're not supposed to eat or drink during the day, right? And so he was there and he was making some coffee which you're not supposed to do. And then the coffee exploded and then the woman next door heard that and she calls up the revolutionary guard. We have a kind of revolutionary planning bombs or something. So they came in and looked around and it better happened.  They didn't even chew them out for that even though he was violating it and they just sort of laughed at it and passed him by. So he's the kind of good guy that we would want to have. And there were other good Muslims. Zudi Jarrah? I think the guy who is the head of the Islamic reform movement, he wants to take Islam and reform it so that Muslims read the Quran and all these passages are there. There are nice passages at the beginning. Towards the end they get more and more militant but he wants them not to see their duty to go about and kill people if they don't accept Islam. And part of the Quran says never make friends with Christians and Jews unless you want to pretend for a while but it can't be sincere. Well, that kind of thing, we wouldn't want it to have happened. So that's the fear that the people who take it really seriously read the Quran literally and say, oh, we've got to go out and do Shir Haid. So here's the thing. As it turns out, most Muslims can't read the Quran. I mean, technically, there's been the hour. So growing up in Quebec, my father couldn't read the Bible because it was only in Latin, right? So you trust the Padre. And that's the problem with organized religion and in this case, Catholicism in Quebec 30 years ago and Islam today is that the developed Muslim technically cannot read the Quran in languages other than Arabic. So unless you know Arabic, you can't read the Quran. And Arabs are actually a minority within the Islamic world. So people who are literate and Arab can actually read the Quran. Everyone else can't unless they study Arabic, which happens to be one of the most difficult languages to learn. So that's a very problematic element and I think it makes some people susceptible to the interpretations of hardline elements, right? To the interpretations of Imams and scholars and basically like Muslim Padres. So there's that element. So the idea that reading the Quran will create these views is problematic because again, the majority of Muslims will never be able to read the Quran. That's why people memorize verses from the Quran, right? The one thing I do want to point out, Greg, is you know when you talk about Muslims, right? In my experience, Muslims never assert that they have their primary identity. You know, I think just like, you know, I mean, as I was saying, I'm Catholic but I don't want people to think of me as Catholic. I want them to... I'm Quebecois above all and you know, I like ice hockey and then, you know, my religion is, and to me, most Muslims, perhaps if we talk about religion, we'll identify as Muslims, but beyond that, people who happen to be Muslim will more often than not identify as Algerian, identify as Libyan. And then beyond that, they'll identify as a member from that clan, from that family in Southern Libya, you know? I know that in recent trips in Algeria, trying to have these discussions about what it means to be Algerian was fascinating because you take for granted that okay, we are Muslims so that doesn't even come into the conversation about identity. It's all about are you Arab? Are you what they call Israel or Berber? And then if you're Quebelle, what part of Algeria? So all of these things condition identity and I think it's overly simplistic of us. Thanks for watching Think Tech Hawaii and look forward to seeing you at Education Matters on Tuesday with me, Carol Manly. Hi, I'm Tim Apachella. I'm the host of Moving Hawaii Forward, a show dedicated to transportation issues and traffic issues here on Oahu. Join us every other Tuesday at 12 noon to discuss how we try to solve our traffic headaches not to include just the rail but transit and carpooling and everything in between. So join us every other Tuesday Moving Hawaii Forward. Thank you. Aloha Kako. I'm Marcia Joyner and I'm inviting you to navigate the journey. We are discussing the end of life options and we would really love to have you Wednesday morning at 11 am right here. We're back here with Pierre Asalan our distinguished professor of history at Hawaii Pacific University and he's giving us a good tutoring here on Islam and why we need not fear it as we let people in. Of course, just yesterday we had this guy who from England I forget his name who killed a policeman, ran some people down I guess the car is the latest weapon given up for the sword for the car and so our Muslims migrating to a society, a free society, a danger or not and you're pointing out I think correctly that they do have a lot of identity with nations even though they're not supposed to if you read the Quran you're supposed to only be loyal to Islam you're not even supposed to have nations and so Bernard Lewis said that true Islamists think that it's nations there's a world of Islam and nations within it whereas most people think that they're nations in which they practice religions like Christianity and Judaism and so forth so the jihadists who are motivated by what they learn at the mosques and so forth coming under the radical preachers that are sent out from Saudi Arabia because Saudi Arabia has this most extreme version of that to get radicalized by them or on the internet from the Anwar al-Sadat presentations that he made calling on them to have jihad so there's going to be a continual supply of these people the what is it, Sadiq Khan who's now the mayor of England London this is a liberal attempt well for nice to make a Muslim a mayor but they don't say oh how nice they are let's be a British they say Allah is the hand of God he made Sadiq Khan the mayor to pave our way to taking over so they see that as their avenue to taking over the societies and those Muslims who meet in the park and scream and say go home we're taking over the society and so forth there is that element there we really don't want that element there do we if you have a loyalty to something else that's hostile to your country you shouldn't be in that country if you want to be in that country you should acclimate I have here something that I always teach my classes from Aristotle's politics here and he talks about the reasons where we have revolution and he gives 17 causes the primary one being economic inequality but one of the reasons he says another cause of revolution is differences of races who do not at once acquire a common spirit for a state is not the growth of a day any more than it grows out of a multitude brought together by accident hence the reception of strangers in colonies either at the time of their foundation or afterwards has generally produced revolution for example the Achaeans who joined the Trozenians in the foundation of Cyprus becoming later the more numerous expelled Cybrites hence the curse found Cyprus at 30 the Cyborites quarreled with the fellow colonists thinking that the land belonged to them they wanted too much of it and were driven out at Byzantium the new colonists were detected in a conspiracy and were expelled by force of arms the people of Antisa who had received the Achaean exiles fought with them and drove them out and the Zancleans after having received the Samians were driven out by them out of their own city the citizens of Paloiana at Zuinine after the introduction of a fresh body of colonists had a revolution the Syracuseans after the expulsion of their tyrants having admitted strangers and mercenaries to the rights of citizens quarreled and came to blows in other words he is a scientist he is the first scientist really like Plato who is just a philosopher and he looked in the world and saw what he saw and he said hey this is worrisome don't let people in unless they have a common spirit and so I'm not against Muslims coming here as long as they get assimilated into our ideas it's a valid point but again if you look at the U.S. right as much as people these days are calling for foreigners to come in and kind of assimilate let's not forget that segregation was officially sanctioned in this country until the mid 1960's we had laws in place so you know as much as we like to talk about in our country when you come in the history is not consistent with this self perception so just as we've made mistake and we're trying to rectify them certainly coming from the outside seeking to assimilate it does take time it's always it's always a little challenging to a new environment and kind of get the lay of the land and so first generation always struggles but eventually I'm confident I'm confident that the people from Latin America from the Islamic world who come to the U.S. next week within difficult as the adjustment might be within a generation or two will be as American looking as you are technically first generation French Canadian I'm not there quite yet there's something you said earlier Greg I think it's very interesting when you quoted Lewis you talk about true Islam that's the problem I think people assume that there's a true interpretation of religion the problem is everybody thinks their own interpretation is the true one we need to recognize that organized religion is just that organized religion after 9-11 President Bush came out saying this wasn't real Islam this wasn't true Islam that's also incorrect it's just a religion you can make it whatever you want it to be it's like Christians saying well Buddhism is the world's most peaceful religion absolutely not again you find conflict fueled by Buddhism there's no religions don't exist in absolute form it's all relative it's all how we choose to interpret them and I think that's the root of the problem is that religions allow for all kinds of interpretations ridiculously open and liberal and peaceful ones and at the other extreme ridiculously rigid and violent and mean ones but the problem is it's not like God will appear and tell us actually the real one is French Canadian Catholicism so we have to recognize the relativity of what we believe in and allow for the possibility that we're wrong which unfortunately the true believer does not allow himself or herself to do let me just interrupt here for a second though you just made another violation of the theory of logical types to wrestle you said I'm sure that the coming across the southern border those Catholics and Muslims are all going to become Americans and so forth again I think that's true for anybody the only religion in the world the only one as part of its creed if you read it that calls for constant warfare until it's conquered the world is Islam it's separate that's why if you look around the world at all the fights that are going on whether it's in India or Afghanistan or wherever it is Central African Republic it's always Islam that's there as the source of it because some jihadists now it's a minority I agree but even if it's 1% let's say it's 1% of 1 million that's 13 million that means 13 million jihadists are running around the world with that interpretation and they're going to be a problem now this Sadik Khan is ridiculous I heard him this morning on television he said well this terrorism is just there you just sort of have to expect that in urban society no you don't have to expect that I said that last year but it was tweeted by Trump's son but yeah that's something he said last year but you know this whole idea right I mean look at Christianity I mean Christianity has something akin to jihad or Christianity has the idea of just war of just struggle and depending on the time and the circumstances religious authorities will use that to their benefit exactly blame the Catholics not Jesus you see Jesus didn't say just war go out and kill the enemy but the way we construe the Old Testament we construe the New Testament we basically but you know what I mean right Christians Muslims Jews Buddhists have within their scriptures justifications to to go to war to do horrible things and have actually used their scriptures to those to those very ends well the Jews only to get the Holy Land that was there you can go out and kill kill everybody in Jericho to get to the Holy Land that's that was the path that they made with God Christians nowhere in scripture does Jesus ever give anything but turn the other cheek right he's a very peaceful guy actually well assuming that see as I understand it I don't remember much from Catholic school but as I understand it being Christian implies both the Old and the New Testament and I remember as a kid reading the Old Testament and being terrified because it's such a violent book and but even the the other cheek I mean I mean technically if we really kind of live closely by the terms of the New Testament I think we'd all be communists but the people who consider themselves most Christian are bore that that kind of thinking that's a Gallitarian thinking you scored a lot of points here we're running out of time