Welcome to Psychic Medium, Tony Green. I am said Psychic Medium, Tony Green. So I did two clearings on TikTok today and one of them is vows of poverty. Yes. So you might want to go over there and listen to that after the show and it's not only any vows of poverty that you have taken in this life, any other life, but through your lineage and ancestral vows of poverty. Yes. Okay. So welcome to the show, everybody. We are going to get started. If you would like to be part of the show, if you'd like to call in and ask a question or connect with a loved one on the other side, the number is<PHONE_NUMBER>,<PHONE_NUMBER>. Or you can join in on YouTube and ask questions there. Yes. Okay. Here we go. Oh, by the way, I will never ever reach out to anyone and ask them, you know, tell them they need a reading or to any of that stuff. I just, I don't do that. If somebody does that, you're probably being scammed. So don't participate in the scamming, report them, and then block them. Okay. So now we can get started. The first thing I'm going to do is I'm going to start with names. If I say a name and it is either your name or a loved one's name, it's for you. The first name I'm hearing is Cindy or Cindy Lou, like Cindy Lou who? The second name I'm hearing is Leah. Leah polled. And then Jeffrey Margaret. And then I'm hearing the name James. I don't know who thinks this funny is, but Geronimo. And then, and maybe that is somebody's really, really their name or what you call them. It could be Lisa. And then Marie. And Michael. Giuseppe. Two more names, guys. I already said that name. Who else is here? Linda and Liza. Okay, now I'm going to do songs. And the songs could be a question that you have. They could be answering a question that you have. It could be a song that you love they loved or just it makes you think of them. Okay, the first song is I can't stand the rain on my window. I think that's how the song goes. And then the next song is this song is so hard for me to sing and I've done it before. And I just I can't even with a straight face. It's down with the sickness. Okay, there's a heavy metal fan here today because then the next song is let the body sit the floor, let the body sit the floor, let the body sit the floor. Okay, so those two songs are out of the way. Can we move on? We can. We definitely can. Anything by Ariel and or foreigner. Those two groups. So if you knew somebody who was a huge fan of Ariel and or foreigner, that is for you. And then what's the next song or and then I hear Lawrence walk again.  And then it's either Jerry Lewis or Jerry Lee Lewis would make you remind you or make you think of this person. And then somebody Okay, so this is new. Somebody was a smoker. And then they're singing the song. I'm a smoker. I'm a something. I'm a midnight toker. What is that song? I can hear the words but I can't sing them. Okay, we're just gonna let that go. And then and somebody on the other side is saying take the dog out, take the dog out. So now they're just giving me straight up sentences for you guys or statements for you guys. And then somebody else is saying somebody else is saying somebody's like yelling from a couch. They're yelling Can you make me a sandwich? Can you make me a sandwich? So if these messages were something that your loved one did and or said or songs that you listen to, they listen to, then I hear the song. You're the one I want to give all my love to that song is coming through. So okay, so here's what I'm gonna say. If the names, the songs, or and or the the statements are for you there for you. Okay, and it would be difficult to not know that there for you with some of these make me a sandwich.  So if like your mom or somebody did a big breakfast every Sunday, that's that's for you. And then I'm hearing that song. Tell her I love her. Tell her I miss my baby. Won't you tell her and that's it. We're done with songs. Okay, if you do have a question, one specific question that you would like to ask, you can call in<PHONE_NUMBER>. And I will be happy to answer that question. If you would like to connect with a loved one on the other side, same number 845-277-911. I'll be happy to help you connect with a loved one on the other side. If you are on YouTube watching me, thank you. And you want to ask a question, go ahead and put it into the chat. I will get to it as soon as I can. If you are on, if you have called in, if you call in or you have called in, please hit the one to let me know that you have a question. Otherwise, the hand doesn't go up in the call. And I don't know, you have a question. So I'm going to go back and forth between questions on the call log and questions in the YouTube chat. So if you have a question, just put it in. So Elijah, put in your question. Nancy, hey, how are you? I want to say hi to sharebear, Nancy, Elijah, Heather, Maris.   And I'm going to do a clearing that our cells all heal, all of our cells heal. And I'm going to do a clearing that for stress, like if we're under any stress at all that all the stress clears, heals, releases, and all for all of these clearings, all that caused it and kept it, we're going to heal, clear, release that. So if you're listening, watching, this is going to help you also. Okay, I'm going to start with a call. And then I'm going to come back to the chat. So please, everybody be patient. I will get to you as soon as I can. Remember to put your hand up or press that one. So I know you have a question 860. What's your name and where are you calling from? Hey, Lisa, how can I help you? hoping that you could connect with either of my parents. The message for me. Okay, what's what is their name? First name only first name on Bob and Joanne. Bob and Joanne. Oh my gosh, you're not going to even believe this. But you probably will. I have an Uncle Bob and an Aunt Joanne, and they were married. And what they're both on the other side now. So that is crazy. Okay, so I'm going to take that out of my head. What are the coincidences that two different Bob and Joanne, you know, as whatever, okay, let me get on with the show. Oh, my goodness. Okay. Okay, so we are going to. So I see a man who at one point had a little bit of a tummy. Okay, so and I I believe that they're here. And do you I'm going to ask you Lisa Marie, do you have a specific question that you would like to start with for them? My life situation about my son, not being in it, that might be helpful. They could tell me when that would happen. Okay, so anything else they want to say? Yeah, absolutely. So the first thing that I hear about your son is it's complicated. And it's I'm going to use the word very sad. That's not the word they used. They use the word like devastating, but that sounds too dramatic to me. So I'm going to just, they think it's very sad. Can I please ask your son's age? Okay, you do not sound like you have a 39 year old son. And that is just a fact. That is a fact. You don't even sound like you are 34. Oh my goodness. Oh my gosh. Yeah, that's correct. That's pure craziness. Okay, that's a you have a beautiful young boys. Okay. So I'm going to. Here we go. So your son, your son situation is very complicated. He's making choices he should not be making, which you are aware of. He has made some decisions that have put him in a place that have not panned out well for him. Okay. Yes. And he is going to continue to make these choices until I'm sorry, you said he was 34. Correct. 39. Thank you. Okay, so then the reason I asked that is because I heard the age 36, which tells me that at the age of 36, something happened, and I hear the word escalated, it escalated for him. Now given the fact that things continue to go the way they they are. At 41 42, and I feel like it's more 42, he's going to have to make a choice for, you know, I'm trying to be really the way I say this, I'm just trying to make it not to the way I would say it is not put all your business. Okay, at at 40, if he doesn't, the way I'm hearing it and how this might be meant might be two different things. But if he doesn't make some changes, by 41, he'll be forced to. Okay. But if he still doesn't choose to make changes, then it's going to be very not a good outcome is the way that I'm going to leave that right there. Okay. They want you to know there's nothing you can do. There's there's absolutely. Unfortunately, for you, and for him, and everybody else involved, there's nothing you can do, there's nothing you can say. He is a full grown man who is making decisions that are not in his or anybody else's best interest. And all you can do, it's like if a car is getting into an accident, you can't stop the car.  It's gonna crash. Even if you scream, and that's kind of what they're showing is nothing can stop this except for him. And he's not willing to do that now. So at um, if by, and I need to say this in a in a very specific way, if by the age of 41, he doesn't make lifestyle changes, he doesn't change some things within his life. By 42, it's, it's not a very good outcome. Now they've said that exactly the same way twice. What I am going to tell you is the power of prayer can be passive powerful. So you can use that but it's almost better. And I I know you don't feel this way. It's almost better that he's not talking with you right now, because you would be one of his casualties. Okay, you can't help him. You can't stop him. You would just end up being almost like I hate to say it this way, but a victim of his. Okay. And you don't want that you I know. Yeah. And they know I know Tony really there. They're actually keeping him away from you. Sometimes they separate us from people not because of anything we've done, but because of what they will do if they're in our presence. And your presence can't. First of all, it would tear you apart. But second, it would, you would then become devastated and we just can't have that. That's what they're saying. We cannot have that these own lessons he needs to learn. You've already learned and that's it. That's just it. They love you. You can love him from a distance. Don't take on anything that you know, I say this to a lot of people and I'm going to say it to you, but I mean it to anyone going through any situation right now. And there's no truer statement. Do not take responsibility for other people's bad choices or bad behaviors. And you are not responsible for the choices that people make in their life, good, bad or indifferent. You don't take credit if they go make a million dollars. So don't take responsibility if they do this or make a bad choice. Okay. So they want you to know to just gracefully and graciously allow God to handle this, and then to move forward in the best way that you can. And you know, sometimes we just have to at the end of the night when we're going to sleep, we just have to say God, I'm just giving this to you because I know, or creator, whatever people say, I'm giving this to you because I know I don't have the ability or the power to change this. So I'm giving it to you. So you can. And that's all you can do at this point. Okay. Yeah, I can't I can't say that if he if he makes it to 42. And like I said, there's there's some something if he doesn't make some lifestyle changes by 41. It's not going to be good at 42. I don't remember how I exactly said that. I'm not allowed to say that, especially not on air. But what I will tell you if it goes that long, if it does, it doesn't look good. But but you already know, but you already know that, right? But you already know that. Yeah. And all you can do is, you know, just give it up and do do do the best you can to do the best you can. Okay, love. You too love and I'm so I'm so so sorry for what you're going through. And I know everybody will be praying for you. Well, and, and, and so will I and so will I okay love. Oh, thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you. And God bless you love. I'm gonna come. I'm going to come to the YouTube chat. I'm going to read a question. Hopefully I'll be able to see it and understand it. You can laugh at me, guys. It's okay. Please can you tell me if there's any love loved one that I want to that wants to connect with me? Elijah, can you please? There are the way I like to connect with loved ones. Please just give me their first name and their relationship to you, Elijah. And what do I need to do? Yep, just Elijah just give me their first name and loved one and Elijah left one more message. So it might even have the first name. Is there a loved one that wants to tell me how to connect with them or a message?  Okay. Okay, Elijah, this is a very serious energy and it actually like pulls my back very straight to sit up very tall and very straight. So I'm good. I'm only good. I connect with one person. I will I'll connect with both of them, Alan and Sheena, your aunt, Sheena, Sheena and Alan. Okay, so the first one is Alan. And I'm very, I'm very straight and Elijah, please confirm the energy is a little bit more serious with your uncle, like a very serious, strong energy that's coming in. And I feel like your uncle was a very hard worker, but a very serious person. And the message that I'm getting Elijah is it's time for you to get very serious about your life. Whatever you're doing, you have to get more serious about your life. You have to the way that it's being said, and the way that I'm going to say, I'm going to say it exactly how it's being said. And then I'm going to kind of try to explain it.  And they didn't not use the word poop. But get yourself together, get yourself in that space, collect, collect, collect it. You have to get very serious. And I'm pointing my left hand, I'm right handed. You have to get very serious about your life now, because you have this window of opportunity coming in where you can make leaps and bounds. So for example, if you wanted to start a business, if you wanted to do move up in a career or schooling or wherever, whatever you're doing, now is the time but you have to take out all the distractions. So Elijah, what I'm going to say is if you have a lot of people that are, and at some points in our life, we have people that are pulling on us, can you help me here? Can you help me there? Can you give me this? Can you do this? You have to take a break. And you have to just focus on you right now, Elijah, so that you can move ahead and you can create a stronger life for you. One of the messages I'm hearing is, you can't keep giving out, like, like, can I get, can I get, can I get, can I get? And then you're left with nothing until people start to give back or until you, until you bring more in.  That's not your problem, Elijah, you have to start stacking your money, right? You have to start saving and stacking because you have a goal. There's something that you want to accomplish, and you're not going to be able to accomplish it if you keep giving to everybody. And so what you need to do, Elijah, is to keep it, build your own pockets, build your own piles, and then build your business, whatever that business, whatever. And I say business, but it could just be like something you're doing out of your home, okay? So and thank you. He said, Elijah says, wow, you're so right. Thank you so much. And thank you for the confirmation. I really appreciate it, especially since you're on YouTube and people can't hear your responses. It's really I'm grateful that you put that there and help me to keep getting the message.   And you just have to say, this is my favorite statement. Oh my goodness, I wish I could but I can't I don't have it and you don't have it because you need to you need to pile you need to let I'm hearing this on and let the money pile up. You need to do that because whatever it is that you want to start that that home business that business I don't care what that business is, you have this window of opportunity right now that that if you don't start saving now that window is going to close and you want it to open further. Okay. And listen to me, Elijah. Listen, because right now I'm the boss of you know your uncle and your auntie are okay. Listen, do not anybody your plan, the business or what you're doing with your money or your goals, because that does not fit their agenda.  They're going to play it down in your mind and in your heart so that you're not so strong to do it because they want your pockets. They want what they want what's in your pockets. So now it's your responsibility to yourself to create a better life for you. And then once you get this going, you if you choose, you can help people out. But you get yourself so solid you get your business so solid. You get there and you get so solid that nobody can say anything about it. But Elijah again, again, Elijah, don't say I can't because I'm saving money for this because the first thing they're going to do is go yeah, that's not going to work because of what they want because they have a want and you're not filling it.  But whatever that's not that's not your problem. You keep your money silent. You keep it on on silent. You keep your dream on silent. You keep your business plan on silent. And you work behind the scenes. And when it's done and you're up and running, then you keep building it. And you don't give away right away.  Don't let them take supplies for free from yours. You're whatever it is, you build it. And this is a statement I have. And I live by this I live so strong on this. My friends and family don't come and get free work. They pay double to support me because they love me and they want to see me succeed. They don't come and try to get free. So if I had a restaurant, my friends and family would come in, they would buy their food, and they would tip so big, and they would pay double. Because they want to help me build, not take me down and take from me. And anybody who is not doing that, they are not on your team. And you you don't want people who are not on your team. Okay. So you have this window, Elijah, climb the F through it.  Don't you stop? Don't you tell nobody?  Don't you dare? I don't care what kind of business anybody owns.  What kind of business you own.  There's a girl that opened a business next to mine in my office. And her grand opening was all her friends and family and they showed up with money and they pinned it all over her body and put it in a jar for her first six months of business. If they don't do that. I'm not saying they don't care about you. Maybe they don't have that, but they don't get it for free. They don't take from you. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Elijah, live on that. Everybody listening. Live on that. Live on it. Sleep on that. Say that to yourself as you go to bed at night. And when you're new, you don't have to give your work away because you're new or you're just starting. Uh-uh. Uh-uh. Mm-mm. Mm-mm. You you honor the work. You honor your product. Okay. Okay. Elijah, I hope that was helpful. Wow. That was kind of like a little bit of a rant. Hey, Michael. Hi, Michelle. I'm going to get to the questions. I'm going back and forth between the call log and the questions online. I have to remember I skipped quite a far ahead for to catch the Elijah. So now I have to go back a little bit. But I'm going to take a call next of 330. And if you would like to call in<PHONE_NUMBER>, you can ask a question, connect with a loved one. I'd be happy to do that for you. Okay. 330. What's your name and where are you calling from? Excellent, Michelle. So I had a half ago where a lot of my deceased loved ones were there. Some I was close to, some I was not. But it was unsettling yet comforting in the same way. But the one person that stuck up to me the most was my aunt Rose. And I was wondering if she had a message for me. Okay. So first about first of all about the dream. When you said it was unsettling, I heard that song. Don't hear the reaper. I'm sorry if that's inappropriate, but it's money as punch. I'm just saying it's funny. And if you don't know that song, it's okay. And if you do know that song, you probably don't recognize it the way I'm saying it. But okay, your aunt Rose, you want to know if your aunt Rose has a message for you, right? This a specific thing she was trying to say. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. The first thing she says is we're all here. You have the dream about them. And they were coming through in your dream state because you probably would not see them all in your awake state. And she's saying we are all here. She was the spokesperson of the moment, saying we are all here. We are all always with you. Does that make sense, love? Yeah. Okay. That's all she wanted to say. And that, oh, sorry, not cutting out yet. Somebody just like yelled in this voice. And that we love her. And that they love you. And that they are always with you. And that they love you. And they want you to know that in your in your moments where things might seem tumultuous or like it's a little bit more difficult or lonely, you're never alone. Nobody's ever alone. And they're always with you and they're helping you through and to ask them for signs. Ask them. Say show me like if you have a specific question about something you're struggling through, say give me a sign of how to handle this. Okay. And they will. And they absolutely will. Okay. Beautiful. And they want you to know that they'll they'll show you within 24 hours. You just have to kind of pay attention. Okay, love? Okay, Michelle, thank you so much for calling. Maybe it didn't happen to mention anything about my health though. No. And you know, I have to be really, really careful. I'm going to say this for you and everybody else. YouTube, which is how I record my TV shows and send them out to all the like WSCS, all the TV stations and streaming stations and podcast stations. YouTube has decided that if we say anything against what they believe is medically correct, that they'll give us a warning and if we get three warnings they'll take our show down. So I'm kind of online while I'm recording, not talking about medical things because of that. So what I can say to you, I can't, because of that, I'm sorry I can't answer that part of your question. Because if we mentioned, and I've had a couple of friends that have YouTube shows, Peter G, one of his callers said something and they gave him his first strike and took that specific show down and won't let it air. So I'm trying to be really careful and to play by YouTube's rules. So, but you can ask about love. You can ask about almost anything else I guess. So, okay love. Alright, thank you. You are so welcome. You have an amazing rest of the day and I just, I do want to say for everybody listening, I am a very alternative natural girl and that does not fit with the YouTube standards at all. Not a bit. So I will be punished right away if I say anything. They will spank my little booty and not in a good way. Okay, I am going to go to the next, the next question on YouTube and it's from Nancy and remember if you want to call in and ask a question, the number is<PHONE_NUMBER> or you can post your question in the YouTube chat. Nancy wants to know, hi Tony, do you see me moving out of state in the near future? Near future, no. It depends on what, Nancy, what do you consider the near future? I feel like it's going to take you a little bit longer to get out of state than you are originally, originally thinking. Okay, so if you think I don't know what your time frame is but I'm hearing no on near future, further out future 100% absolutely yes. I think if you're trying to do it within like a whatever time frame that there's, it's going to be, I just hear the word like prohibitive, prohibit, prohibitid is the word, the word of the day, prohibited. Okay, I hope that helps Nancy. I, and thank you so much for your question. My next person, I'm going to move my chat up a little bit to try and I'm going to try to get to everybody so please be patient with me today. The show is an hour long, for one hour I set and I will take answer as many questions or connect to as many loved ones as I can. Let's go to 111, where, what's your name and where are you calling from? Let's go to 561, what's your name and where are you calling from? Yes? Hello? Hello. Yes, can you hear me? Okay, what's your name, where are you calling? I'm Stacy, calling from Florida. Hello, can you hear me? My name is Stacy, I'm calling from Florida. Hey Stacy. There's a couple of guys that, yeah there's a couple of guys that I'm interested in. I wonder which one is interested in me. Can I give an initial or you can just do their first names and I will tell you which one you have the best potential with. Okay, Eric and the other one is Ronnie and yeah. Okay, Eric is a definite no. Even if he's interested in you, you just need to stay away from that mess, is what I'm hearing. He's not, he's not put together too well even if he, even if he shows up like he's put together well, he's not put together well. There's something really not kosher or good about him. I don't know if it's mental illness, I'm not diagnosing anybody. It's just something with him that's, yeah, just stay away from Eric. The next name was Ronnie. Is that accurate? Yeah, he's a blonde. Yeah, he's blonde hair. Okay, he's okay. Here's what I'm going to tell you and this is for what it's worth, for what it's worth. If you wait three months, someone's going to come in and you're going to know they're interested in you because they're going to try to pursue you. If you know in, yeah, I'm just going to leave that at that. In three months, which will put us at what we're in October, November, December, January, the new year, someone's going to come in and they're going to be very interested in you and it's going to be a much better fit and don't chase boys let a man attain you. Let me repeat that Stacy. Yeah. Don't chase. Yeah, Eric is younger than Ronnie. Yeah. I'm not even talking about an age thing. Don't chase boys. Let a man pursue you. Meaning, you know, when we start trying to get a man or, you know, pursue the man or let them know we like them. Listen, when a man likes a woman or he's interested, he will let you know. He will pursue you. He will ask. Men are not shy. Okay, they are not shy. They will let you know they want you. Now, in three months, somebody's coming in and this person will be very interested in you and will pursue you. So, please wait for that time.  Let them go and in three months when this man comes in and is pursuing you, that's the right person. Okay? And I do feel like he might have an initial that's a D. So, just pay attention to that also, okay? He may have what? He may have what? An initial that is a D. Now, if somebody comes in and they're pursuing you and they don't have a name that starts with a D, don't worry about it. But if they do, that's a sign it's the right person. Okay, La? Oh, okay. Yeah, I think, yeah, the guy has to pursue the woman. You're right. Yeah. In order for it to work. It's that's the only way. Guy, you know, yeah, mainly because I don't think, you know, it's awkward because I met them through work. That's why, you know what I mean?  Do not get involved with work situations because at the end of the day, you have to continue to work there. At the end of the day, if things if you whatever with these people and it doesn't work out, you that's your bread and butter. That's how you pay your bills. So don't don't do that. And remember, if a guy genuinely is looking for something genuine long term with you, you're going to know because he's going to let you know. You'll have no question in your mind about that. Okay. And that's that's what I have for you love. I hope that that is helpful. I'm going to go to the next question. Maris wants to know, do you see me driving for the same truck company or changing companies? I do lots of mountain driving, which means lots of snow soon. I'm hearing Maris, mayors or mayors. I'm sorry if I'm pronouncing that wrong. It's completely up to you if you they're not going to get rid of you. But if you do want something new and you look, you'll find something fairly quickly like in about a month's time.  Okay. I hope that's helpful for you. I'm going to go to the next caller who is nine five four nine five four. What's your name and where are you calling from? Hi Tony, it's Mary and I'm calling from Florida. Mary, how can I help you today? Well, I'm wondering if you see... Oh, not any time. Not, not in the near future love. It's going to, you know, it depends again on what you feel in the near future is. I feel like in a month and a half there's going to be a change in the home situation. And I don't know if you're going to like the change, but it's, there will be a change in a month and a half. That's what I'm hearing right now. Is this regarding a mood going to affect? Okay, this is what I'm going to, you're being vague and I want you to just ask me one specific question. I will give you that answer. I usually don't let people ask more than one question, but let's get to it. Ask me very specifically what you want to know here. Okay love? Okay, if I'm going to remain in my present, might still be here with the same person or on my own? Okay, when you said am I going to remain in my present home, I heard no. I feel like now you have free will, you have choice, you can make a decision that you can try to make this work. Okay, I don't, I don't, what I'm hearing right now as of this moment, as of this moment, and again you have free will and choice when you ask am I going to remain in my home? No, you're going to be the one, you may be the one that decides to leave, just to make things better or easier. Okay love? It would be a difficult transition. Okay, now I am going to say this. If you really, if you want to stay, okay, let's say you just, you want to stay and you don't want to go, you have to be so strong in that and you have to make sure that the other person knows that and you have to be prepared to bring in whomever else you're going to bring in, but you're going to have to take all of those steps. What's going on right now is a waiting game like where you two are kind of trying to wait out the other person and nobody's really talking about what's going to happen or how it's going to happen. So what they're saying is have that conversation even if you need to write it out and hand it to them and let them write it out and hand it back. This is what write out, this is what works for me, what works for you, and they get to write back what works for you. So okay, can we come up with a compromise if you're not having healthy communication? Just put pen to paper or email however you need to do it and do it that way, but just both of you just sitting and waiting to see who's going to make the first move isn't going to work and then you'll end up making the first move because you'll be a little bit like tired of waiting it out, okay? Okay, thank you Tony. You're so welcome. I'm so sorry about the situation that you're in. I'm so sorry that that's where you are right now. I'm really sorry, but make sure that wherever you go next you really plan it out. Take your time and plan it out, okay? I've been doing a lot of thinking about it. There's not too many options. No, and that's why they're saying really, you know, try to have the conversation. Can I ask your age, love? Okay, and you live in Florida, correct? Okay. Where the rents have escalated outrageously. Yes, I am aware. You may have to move a little further away and get on a waiting list, but I do believe in Florida there are a lot of rent controlled senior type places, okay? So you might... I'm aware of the... Yeah, I've been researching. Well, you know, this is one of those things that they call the lesser of two evils. If you can tolerate where you are and you can come to a civil living agreement, great, but that's where it is. That's pretty much where it is, okay love? I appreciate it. Oh my goodness, you're so welcome and I wish you the best, sweetie. I really do. Okay, I am going to go to Jira, Jira, Jira, O'Brien. I'm just going to say the last name, O'Brien, because I can pronounce that. I need a clearing from my allergies, don't we all? Okay, I'll do my best. I never even thought of that, so thank you so much. All allergies, all that causes, all that keeps it, it has been cleared. I get a no. Let's clear it. All of our symptoms have been healed, cleared, and released. I get a no. Let's clear that. That's really hitting me in my sternum. Let me know how that feels for you. Okay, I am going to go to 631. What's your name and where are you calling from? Long Island. Okay, and your first name? Suzanne. Suzanne, how can I help you today? I just moved to Florida about seven weeks ago. I talked to you when I was in New York. I'm talking to a couple of women on the phone. Do you see any relationships? And I'm looking for my own apartment. I have faith. My parents don't think you need to look for one, where it was they live, and what do you see with all that? So I'm kind of faith with both things. Okay, so I'm just going to do that. And I allow one question, and that's like a full reading about everything going on in your life. I will answer the first question, and I'm not sure that I'm even sure where you live, because when I said where do you live, you said Long Island, and then you said you moved to Florida. So I'm going to go with Florida.  Now, if you do want the answers to the rest of your questions, which are very valid, good questions, you can schedule a private session, t-o-n-i-g dot i-n-f-o. I'll be happy to help you with the rest of it. Okay, as far as relationships, I feel like it's going to be... You're going to meet somebody in a month and a half, and then you're going to meet somebody else in six months. The person in six months is going to be a much better fit. The person in a month and a half, they're kind of like in and out.  So don't... The person you meet in approximately a month and a half, don't get too invested in that person. The sooner you let that go, the better it's going to be for you. But in about six months, you're going to meet somebody, and there is much more potential with that situation. I'm not confident yet to say that that's your ever-after person, but I am confident to say that the month and a half person shouldn't even get a second cup of coffee. That's all. That's all I'm going to say that. But you won't know it, because the person in a month and a half, in the beginning, they come off. Oh, God, they're just so sleazy. Oh, God. This person in a month and a half just has the most puke energy. I am sorry, but they are sleazy, but you won't know it right away. You won't know. They're going to be... You're going to think they're a really good guy.  He's very cunning. He's almost like one of those guys who tries to find women to take care of him with... At first, he comes out and he makes it seem like, oh no, no, no, no, let me get this. No, no, no, no, I wouldn't think of having you pay for this. And then on the... Like before you know it, he's lost his wallet or... Or you could put the gas in my car, right? You could pay for this, this time, right? No, no, no, no, no, no, no. You put gas in your car, my friend. I just feel like he's very sneaky. He's just so sleazy and sneaky. So I just know that, but he's a very good-looking man. So if that's a fair trade-off for you, not to me, not to me. I don't care how cute you are. I do not want a snake. Because you know what snakes do.  Yes, no snakes. No, no. Okay, let's go to the next question online. Michelle, hi Tony. What do you see for my current relationship future? Michelle, are you with somebody right now? I hear no. Is Michelle with somebody right now? I get a no on that, Michelle. I'm going to scroll all the way down to see if you are with anybody right now. Hey Nancy. Hi Christine. Oh, she is with somebody. Are you guys on and off? Answer that for me. Hi Christine. Hi Ethoreal. Okay, so Michelle, this is what I'm going to say.  There's something about this energy that I... What's his first name? Because I'm not even picking. I'm not feeling this person in your energy.  Jesse. Okay, what's the future of this? Maybe that's the answer. I hate to say this and I don't know, Michelle, why I'm picking up what I'm picking up. But I do not feel and sometimes this can happen and I apologize for it. Either I don't, I'm not picking up his energy. I don't know why. Some people have their energy very, very protected but I'm not picking up his energy. And so when I tap into you and I'm asking, you know, tell me about this. It's kind of very vague, very, very vague. But I will give it one more try now that I have his name and see, you know what, Michelle? I'm going to say this. I'm not going to answer this on what I am. This is what I'm getting and if I'm wrong, I hope I'm wrong. This is what I'm going to say. I hope I'm wrong. Maybe the no because you're asking for my current relationship future. If I ask, do the two of you have a long future? I hear yes. If I ask, is it a healthy, good future?  I don't know how to describe that. They're not giving me strong. I feel, if I had to describe this, they're not giving me strong connection energy. So you two may be together and I could be wrong. I could be picking up on somebody else's energy and I apologize if I am. So don't take this answer too seriously, Michelle. I feel like the two of you will probably, you may stay together for a while, but whatever is going on with your connection, whether it's strong or not, wherever it is, whatever is right now, I feel like that's where it's going to stay. Thank you all for joining me. Please thank you to everybody who has liked and subscribed. Until next time, remember, it's your job to create the miracles in your life.


want to shave her 1,000 hair and also have monkey monkey we just got done dropping off the package for Nancy Nancy Jones one the clock Saturday so we got it shipped out and I've got all kinds of stuff on it do not drop do not stack fragile handle with care the side up and all that right and they asked was it worked like a hundred bucks and I said well yeah it's most definitely worth a hundred but I said it's got more sentimental value than anything so I told a story so Nancy you are now my cousin so I told them I told them they need to be real careful with this because it's a family heirloom and that came from our grandmother who recently passed away and Nancy is my disabled cousin in Washington Seattle Washington who didn't get anything from our grandmother so I wanted her to have that clock because it meant a lot to her so she puts it in the notes that they need to be careful because it's very it's an heirloom and it's got a lot of sentimental value and it's really packed up and taped up good so it better arrive in good condition yeah well we can't guarantee that because it goes on a belt by a machine and it goes 50 miles an hour yeah but the machine they put it on this thing people do and then machine picks it up and puts it on the belt and I said well the person that puts it on the machine can't they read because she said the machine can't read that fragile handle with care I said well I said can't the person putting it on the machine read that oh well yeah I guess so do not stack do not drop so you know I mean it's all over plus the box actually has that on it too don't get wet don't stack fragile so yeah we just want to share that we just pretty good story huh well yes you believe this is like oh I'm so sorry I'm so sorry to hear Nancy's my cousin now so anyway it says estimated Friday but in red letters when we signed off on it said not guaranteed so but it's coming up yeah so anyway this we just want to share that with you funny story I got some stories I can tell you about when I sold when I was selling stuff with my with our friend Steve yeah well he I got some stuff off of him and one of the things I got I think it was an Earnhardt knife and this guy was looking at it and he was like yeah that's that's pretty cool for somebody that collects memorabilia and I had like 10 bucks on it you know and I said yeah I said but there's a little story that goes with that because you knew the guy you know he didn't buy knives or anything you know we was just talking shop and he was like oh yeah I said yeah I said that belonged to down Earnhardt's cousin who in turn gave it to me and he was like oh wow no way I said from what I understand that was in his own personal collection he said oh man I got to buy that and he bought it and I just kept going on Steve was like man I'm making a sale here I got more stories though she's heard me tell a couple whoppers to get something so yeah but the family heirlooms the greatest one that's that's one of my better ones there so hopefully they'll take care of it and hopefully get it on Friday in good condition so enjoy your clock thanks for watching guys like she says she's out she barely met the man legend I'm gone for now we won't give it to my sister so yeah in the car but we just dropped that off and to let you know about what time it is Nancy I was just messaging you when you message back so it's 139 our time but by the way we set the clock to your time yep so you don't have to do it yep don't remember remember to look in the back yes look in the back and the door the glass doors tape closed you can take a tape tape off I just did that for extra precaution so anyway we'll see you guys soon bye bye guys


Welcome to the non-profit show. We are thrilled to have you back here either viewing or listening. We reserve every Friday our fryer as our Ask and Answer episode. Thanks to Fundraising Academy, Cause Selling Education with the National University. Each and every Friday, this amazing company has decided to underwrite and provide a support for this ongoing conversation. Thank you so much to Tony Bell, joining us from Fundraising Academy. Tony is the Senior Director of Relationship Center with the Fundraising Academy, again, at the National University. Again, just so very honored. I shared earlier in our green room chatter, Tony. This is episode 601, and we would not be where we are without the support of you and Fundraising Academy, and of course, all of our sponsors. So thank you, thank you, thank you. Again, a verbal shout out. Those of you watching, you can of course see their logo, and I do encourage you to check them out. 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So go ahead and queue us up or tune in to the Non-Profit Show wherever you might listen to video, audio, whatever your entertainment pleasure is, there's a lot going on. So Tony, so glad to have you back. And again, you know, just look forward to spending frayay with fundraising academy. So how have you been? Tell us a little bit about yourself and what's going on with the university there. Yeah, thank you so much. So the fundraising academy, like many organizations over the last couple of years has really been investing heavily in our digital transformation. So we just recently launched a new online portal. So you can go to fundraisingacademy.org and find that. I don't wanna get into a commercial, but that's kind of what's been going on and just this exciting investment and digital application of our curriculum and doing everything that we can to make sure that this curriculum and information is accessible to folks wherever they are. So that's really what's been exciting about a lot of the work happening at the fundraising academy. And we will continue, you know, as we enter kind of our new fiscal year with a strong commitment and investment in more digital and asynchronous learning opportunities for emerging fundraisers. I love the evolution. And just as you have experienced it, Tony, we have experienced it with our questions. You know, in the very beginning, Julie and I thought, well, seriously, how many questions can we go through? Aren't they going to just be the same ones over and over? But the evolution of the questions, the evolution of what's top of mind for people truly has changed. And we have witnessed that over this journey. So our very first question comes into us from it looks like a collective group, the board of directors. The board. The board in Minneapolis. So can you tell us what the average length of employment tenure is for a director development? AFP, Association of Fundraising Professionals, has been reporting less than two years. We're having a hard time believing this and need to work on succession planning. What have you heard, Tony? So it's a great question. And before we answer it, I wanted to comment, Jared, on what you were saying about the questions that come in and the range of questions. And I think one of the reasons why you're experiencing that is because you've created such a safe place for these questions to be presented. So I think that that means a lot for folks as they consider contributing to this conversation. Is that it really is a safe place and the ask and answer Fridays are typically filled with lots of diversity and diverse voices and perspectives. So I just wanted to give that shout out and that realization that I think part of the success there really is how you've created this safe place for people to submit questions and initiate these conversations. Well, that's fantastic. So again, thank you for that, Tony. I would say, yes, that's probably the truth. And you know how many unknown we receive. So many people, if they don't wanna put their name or they don't wanna put their community, we do get those as well. So all safe here, absolutely. All safe. So with that particular, so one, I'll focus on the latter part of the question just around the topic of succession planning and that, yes, even if the average tenure was 10 years for a fundraiser in an organization, succession planning is a best practice. You know, we want, let's be real in this conversation too, there aren't often a lot of promotional opportunities for emerging professionals within a particular organization. And so some of the revolving door that we see isn't necessarily tied to lack of satisfaction, lack of productivity or reaching goals, but really the opportunity to excel, you know, in your career and in your profession. And we want that to happen for folks, right? We're good leaders, we're good mentors, we want folks in our organization to continue to grow. And that often means outgrowing their role within the current organization and having to move on. So just from kind of that lens alone, we should always be thinking about succession planning, aside from the one that we really wish, and that is that, you know, they hit the lottery and then make a sizable gift to the organization and then it's a huge win-win for everybody. But I would say what I have seen and heard in conversation is that, yes, two years, two and a half years, if a development professional hasn't already left, they're kind of having that conversation with themselves around, is it time to look? Are there other opportunities out there? So I have heard and seen that. I don't know that through my conversations though, Jared, and maybe you know a little more about this. I don't know that I've seen a common thread among the reasons. Right. I would say, I've not either. I love, love that you mentioned that career trajectory because I see it all too often, Toni, where there's nowhere for these professionals to go within the organization and succession planning is so very important at all levels, you know, executive, honestly, every position, including your board, right? So the succession conversation should be at your dinner table all the time. It really should be a conversation. And I have seen over my own career, Toni, you know, the last 20 years, so many of my peers, they will start at a large organization in let's say a coordinator position. They go to a very small organization as maybe a director, right? And then when they move again, they might go to another, you know, different size, maybe more of a medium size organization and they are a major gift officer. So I really think when it comes to this question and I love, again, that you really mentioned, you know, that the reasons could vary. So it's not that they're necessarily unhappy at your organization, it could be their own professional desire and growth. And so I've not seen a study like that, that would be a fantastic one because I know that this, you know, that this two years or less is kind of scary because you think I just invested all of this time in the person, they've really gotten to know our constituency base, they're doing great work. Now we have to start over again. Yeah, and we all know, you know, the level of investment, right? And having to seek new talent on board them. And then as we continue the conversation around the importance of relationships in successful fundraising, then, you know, there's also that disruption in relationships with your donors that you have to navigate. And that takes, you know, resources and a lot of times emotional resources to, you know, to navigate that. So very true, great response. And I hope that we were able to, you know, help with a little bit there. Ruth in Baltimore, since in this question, we have board policies for our board members to execute annually. We have been doing this in our January meeting. It has been suggested that we take this action in December so that we begin the new year with everyone in compliance. Good idea or not? What would you sell to Ruth? So I have to digest this one just a little bit. Thank you, Ruth, for this question. I leaned in, there are some specifics here that I think we're missing in order for me to give a really comfortable answer. So I'll make a couple of assumptions. So, Jared, the first thing I thought about again is the bylaws. What do the bylaws say? Or do the bylaws say that you're voting on these and, you know, these are being activated at the January. I'm gonna make an assumption that January meeting is the annual meeting, right, was that? I would make that same assumption with this question. Yeah, so I'm assuming the January meeting is the annual meeting. So there's probably some language in the bylaws that are kind of, you know, guiding the activities that take place at the annual meeting. I think a way to get, because it looks like, and I love that, you know, the proactiveness, right? It's like, how can we get ahead of the curve on this as opposed to kind of waiting until we're there? So there are probably ways that, I don't know, collaborate on those documents, you know. What was it again? I'm sorry, do you mind pulling it back up? Yeah, no, absolutely. So the policies maintaining and compliant for the board members. Yeah, so if there's policy review, compliance reviews, there's, you know, so much technology and free technology that organizations can lean into, right? So that they can work on these collectively as a group, these documents come to consensus on them prior to January. And then I, you know, again, based on the bylaws, perhaps these can become consent agenda items in the January agenda so that folks have collaborated on them, you kind of have a consensus through the collaboration on these documents. You present them, you know, before the board meeting as kind of part of the board meeting packet. And then at the board meeting, they are part of your consensus agenda so that it doesn't take up a lot of the time in your annual meeting. Yeah. I hope that, I said a lot. I hope that that made some sense. It makes sense to me. And it also reminds me of the governance committee. If you have a governance committee, this is certainly something that the members of that committee should have a, you know, finger on the pulse throughout the year, not just at the end or beginning of the year. And it also reminds me to what you were saying, Tony, is that this should also be part of your onboarding process. And so these really should not be new documents to your board. I think it's a great practice, Ruth, each and every year to review these and of course get those signatures annually. But if there's anything that you might want to revisit, as Tony said, when in doubt, refer to the bylaws. That should always be your response, right? If someone says, well, what do we need to do with this? My response is, what do the bylaws say, right? And I kind of sound like a parrot, just repeating that often, but it's, what do the bylaws say? Well, let's refer to the bylaws, right? Like always going to that.  It's like, well, what do the bylaws say? I think we could probably program, I don't know, not program, but teach a bird to say that. Well, Jared, I'm gonna derail us a hundred percent here. And just the irony that you mentioned parrots, I am here in South Florida and was attending a Zoom meeting just before connecting with you to collaborate in this great conversation. And about 20 parrots flew over because they often do in South Florida. And about 20 parrots flew over and because I'm that person, of course, right in the middle of my comments, I was like, oh, parrots, and I watched them fly across. And I shared with them how, what a wonderful experience that is to witness that. And I said, well, thank goodness that didn't happen during the nonprofit show because I would have interrupted and go, look, parrots. So I did it anyway. But look, here it is. It's come back with that whole squirrel analogy, but imagine if those parrots did say, what did the bylaws say, right? What did the bylaws say? Yeah, it's all in unison. And I do think, Ruth, that that is a great thing to remember. And now every time you see a parrot, you will think that, what did the bylaws say? Because staying in compliance, I love the, you know, that is top of mind for you. I also love, as Tony mentioned, being proactive, you know, should we do this in December? So we're ready in January. Might also want to take a look at this on your fiscal calendar. If that's different than, you know, the standard kind of annual calendar that the world revolves around are at least our nation. Yeah. Yeah. And like you said, kudos to Ruth. I mean, this is good board governance. This is, you know, looking at the organization through the right kind of lens, right? The right leadership lens. So thank you, Ruth. It was a great question and keep up the great work. Yes, absolutely. Mary in Raleigh, North Carolina, this is about a photography consent. So we currently have a no photography policy for all volunteers on our campus. However, we have a lot of volunteers and their companies who want to have their photos taken for posting to social media. These people want to share their volunteer service and promote us as well. So how might they address this, Tony? Have you seen this in your community or for your questions? Yeah, yeah, I have. And again, this is just another great example of just, you know, the variety of questions that come in for asking an answer. And I think it's a super one because you really, you know, we all want to, when I say we, meaning nonprofit organizations, of course want to maximize brand awareness, exposure, and social media is an excellent way of doing that. There are a couple of organizations that I know that have similar parameters around, you know, photos because they don't have a photo release, you know, for the folks that they're providing services to, right? If it's a walk-in facility, you don't know who's going to walk in, right? So they really don't, they want to maintain that level of confidentiality for the individuals that they're serving. So they have like step and repeat areas or little like social vignettes that they've created. So there's a nonprofit here in South Florida where they painted angel wings on the side of the building. And with the hashtag with the name of the organization and, you know, and some, and I can't recall what the phrase is, people stand between those angel wings and get their photos taken constantly and then post it and post the hashtag. So there are another organization I know just has their step and repeat from their gallows that they do. So that like sits in the lobby. And so, you know, there's that opportunity.  And, you know, and then the organization's logo and so you can do a selfie there. So there are lots of creative ways to, you know, create these social pick opportunities without having to jeopardize the confidentiality of who you're serving. I love that response. And I've seen that more and more myself and it's great to see, you know, and I think creating that space that's safe for the client, safe for the volunteers, for the overall community. And I love maybe even if it's outdoors then you have the ability for other people, you know, to use that. So what a great idea with the angel wings and then don't forget that hashtag, right? Like use that opportunity, of course as a way to connect and promote. So Mary, I think these are some fantastic opportunities not quite sure knowing your mission but maybe that there was an idea in there that you can use for your volunteers on campus to, you know, meet the expectation that your companies and individuals are looking for. So great response there. I love it. Great, thanks. Yeah, absolutely. I've also seen, but I've also seen butterfly wings. So I've seen angel wings and butterfly wings. I think those are the only two that I've seen. Yeah, no, I think that's fantastic. There's some great opportunities. Well, we have this one coming in from Lincoln, Nebraska, Louise and May. How do you feel about our marketing and communications team sending press releases about major donor gifts and grant wins? We are having mixed opinions on this topic internally. I love this question. I think it's a really good question as well. And I do not think there was a one size fits all answer to the question. So let's start with major gifts. That's a conversation you need to have with the individual giving the major gift around their comfort level with that type of public awareness of the gift. Some folks just don't want that level of exposure. So I would start there. And if they do, then I would include them throughout the entire process. They need to review the press release. Clearly, there's going to be a quote from them in the press release. So just keeping them involved, making sure they understand the outlets that the release will be sent, how is the release being distributed? So I really think you have to keep them very much informed. But the first question is, how may we or may we not share information about your gift? So important to have these conversations. As you said, I remember going through an AFP mentor mentee program and again, Association of Fundraising Professionals. And we essentially had this same conversation. And it was more of this ethical dilemma. And what had occurred is the donor had made a very large gift, very sizable, transformational. The organization did not talk to the donor, Tony, and instead had a sculpture created and erected. And they completely unveiled the sculpture without sharing with the donor. And you can imagine, as your face expresses, it went sideways very quickly. And so not only did the organization not speak with the donor about their wishes and how they wish to be recognized or not recognized, but they took this investment, not necessarily their investment, but clearly investment from the organization to create this custom sculpture that the donor was basically like, I'm sorry, but you have to remove that. Wow. So there are tons of these horror stories, whether it's a press release or not. A positive story that I can share is I just helped to secure a quarter of a million for an organization. And this is a very large funder. And they have very strict ways on recognizing. And it includes a press release, but they actually assist you with writing and distributing the press release. And so I do fully believe, Tony, in absolutely what you said, it's having the conversation with the donor. How would you like to be recognized? What are your comfort levels? If it's a press release and that's kind of your standard, Louise and Ray, maybe you share that to say, this is our standard recognition. I wanna ensure that you're comfortable with this. Is there anything that you would like us not to do? And is there anything in addition that we could do to help recognize your investment? And with the other group, the grants, I mean, there's typically more opportunity to publicize grant wins. But still, you would wanna check with the funder and make sure that they're comfortable. And again, you would want, in a press release, you would wanna quote from the funder, if possible, right? So still making sure that they're comfortable and including them in the process and giving them an opportunity to have a say in that messaging. I think it's important. But the other thing is, yes, whenever possible, celebrate your wins. So all of those other things aside, I would say to Louise and Ray, yes, celebrate your wins whenever you have an opportunity to do so. Absolutely, absolutely. And include that with your staff. Make sure your staff knows about these wins as well. So yeah, such great information. And if you're asking this question, Louise and Ray, it tells me that you're doing fantastic work and you're bringing in some fantastic support. So congratulations. Yeah, absolutely. Let's celebrate that win, right? And Tony, I did notice your mug. So I wonder if we can kinda do a virtual cheers with one another. Cheers. Right? There we go. Yeah, for today, a fryer. Again, thanks to Ask and Answer, supported from the Fundraising Academy with the National University. Tony Bell serves as their Senior Director, which is their Relationship Center there at the Fundraising Academy. If you have not checked this company out, please do. It's fundraising-academy.org. For those of you listening and those of you watching, I hope that you can take a look on the screen. Even if you might have been a little distracted with some emails during today's conversation. But if you are distracted with emails, I hope that you're sending in questions. Cause again, each and every Friday, our fryer is reserved for us to answer your questions that come in. We've done this now for a little over two years. And as we shared earlier, the conversations and the questions, they keep evolving. So thank you to all of you that have sent in your questions and stay in contact with us. Tony, you're always fantastic to nerd out with, right? It's what we love to do. It's kind of like our love language of conversation. But I also wanna give a shout out to Bloomerang American Nonprofit Academy back again with the Fundraising Academy with the National University, non-profit nerd, your part-time controller, staffing boutique and the non-profit thought leader. I had mentioned earlier, please don't check out these companies until about 28 minutes. And now's right about that time to do so. So please do take a look at these companies online. Many of them also have a very strong LinkedIn presence. So check them out as well. Tony, you've got a strong LinkedIn presence. So I always love seeing you there. Thanks. Thanks. Absolutely. And the sponsors also, I mean, what we're seeing too, their support of course for the non-profit show, their support for the sector, but clearly their investment in professional development for fundraisers and for the sector. So I would love to see more organizations and companies step up and sponsor and underwrite professional development and professional learning opportunities for professionals in the non-profit sector because that money just isn't always there in their budgets because they're investing it in their mission. It's so important. And that really addresses one of our questions about how long does someone stay in their development role? And perhaps that more, the more investment you can make into their professional development, the longer that person might be interested in staying. But great content for today and great comment to end on Tony. I hope you have a fantastic weekend. And for all of you that are watching and viewing, we like to remind you each and every day. And again, this is episode 601. We promise to stop counting them every episode, but it's really a huge milestone. So really excited for that. So please do stay well so you can all continue to do well. Have a great weekend and we'll see you back here on Monday. Thanks, my friend. Take care. Bye-bye.