This is a Halloween mask This is a knife with fake blood and my sister is terrified of Michael Myers Kid behind the camera an angry grandpa who recently died not long ago may have been exposed for Abuse and this involves PTSD and some other serious topics. So let's talk about it What is up everybody, this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem But focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health So what I like to do is take things from the YouTube community or pop culture in general and try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional Well-being so if you're into that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell And before I get started like another well not another but a quick announcement for any of you who missed my video yesterday Like come join our Facebook group like it is amazing so far I think there's almost a hundred people in there and just like the support the support in there people are oh my god I just love it. I love it so much come in there hang out with me and the other rewired soldiers And like it's just a great place to talk about the problem but focus on the solution when it comes to your mental health I will always be linking it down in the description. So come on in and join us. Anyways, so yeah Let's talk about King kid behind the camera angry grandpa as well as the sister Jen. All right, so This was brought to my attention by my buddy from the channel Q star He just did a video about this and he made a video after seeing I think the channel name is primink or primink I don't know how he pronounces it as well as roasted studios and This was brought to my attention and I wanted to make a video about this So before I kind of talk about the subjects Something I try I've been trying to teach all of you is check your motives. Check your motives. Check your motives Check your motives. So I know I'm gonna get a ton of people who like, you know leave comments No, you're just doing this for views or subscribers or attention and da da da da I'm like that's cool. What I try to teach all of you is be true to yourself All right always check with your own motives because people are gonna think you do things for all sorts of wacky reasons But you have to check in with yourself the only person that you need to worry about is like you right my goal At the end of every day is to go to sleep with a clean conscience So when I was talking with some people yesterday, I talked with my girlfriend I talked with Q star a little bit. I talked with some other people. I'm like Should I make a video on this should I make a video on this? What are my motives behind this and I'm making a video because I checked in with my motives I did something else. I recommend that you all do which is if you have an idea that may or may not be good ask other people and My motives are pure. I want to raise awareness and this is what I do with Most of my videos, right? I take things that are going on in the community and try to teach you about your mental health so the topic that some people are focusing on is The the potential child abuse and I'll say this just real quick opinion on this because I really want to focus on the PTSD aspect because I've had some of you asked me about PTSD lately and this is a good time to talk about it So anyways, as far as the child abuse so for those of you who don't know like I'm gonna link some videos down below from Q star Priming and Rosa Studios and you can be the judge for yourself But I'll say this these are older videos that they don't do anymore But I think something that's been brought up that we should ask ourselves about is like does this still happen? And they just don't record it, right? There's definitely some issues like there are some newer videos where you can see there's still some issues And I thought I was thinking about doing like the whole neuroscience behind like kids brain development And how this does affect them and all of that So I will say this like I'm not gonna accuse anybody like that's a very serious allegation But I will say this and I think this is what people like you start on priming and you know Rosa Studios are trying to say like I think it should at least be investigated. I think that's safe to say You know, I think with the videos they've put out in the past. I think it's Reasonable for that to be investigated Kid behind the camera was also friends with daddy of five and those of you who follow YouTube news You know what happened to daddy of five? So like that's kind of like You know what I mean? So so yeah, like I know Q star and some others are trying to get the attention of people like Philip DeFranco and stuff like that But yeah, like I care about the well-being of all people And I just think you know something like that should at least be looked into you know what I mean But I do want to talk about something that is very serious and it's PTSD abuse and like How do I treat people who have PTSD? So this video is for people who struggle with PTSD as well as if you know somebody who has PTSD I'm gonna link a video that I did I'm gonna link it down below as well as in the info card I did a video with my buddy Kaleila from the channel post traumatic victory if any of you struggle PTSD Go check out Kaleila's channel, but like she gave me some tips on like how to help somebody with PTSD So I'm gonna link that video, but anyways, so Kid behind the camera like something I saw in roasted studios video like He and angry grandpa before he passed away like they they were like I don't want to say torturing Like they were treating this this poor woman who has PTSD like awfully awfully like scaring her and playing pranks on it and stuff like listen listen listen to me very carefully I Am a jokester, right? I love messing around. I love having fun. I mess with my son I mess with my girlfriend.  You know what I mean There's a line between and I think that's like something that comes up with like Jake Paul and Logan Paul and all that It's like there's a line between like messing around and pranks if you will and then like like abuse, you know and Put like purposely triggering somebody who struggles with post traumatic stress disorder is Absolutely not cool. It is not cool in any way shape or form. So Jen who is the sister like she she made a post about I saw this in roasted studios video I'm trying to figure out like where it was posted but like she talks about where her PTSD came from right and it sounds it Sounds like it was a an abusive relationship. Um, that's what it sounds like, but here's something that I want to talk to you all about so Something that really like put up a red flag and Q-star did a very good job mentioning this like over and over and over again I think primate did too, but like This family they normalize this stuff.  It's so freezing because I was always like this skinny little thing and I never had any meat on my bones So what I would do is I would take my blanket And go and turn up the heat like a full blast and then one day my dad finally get tired of it And I was laying on the air vent and All of a sudden all I hear was What the what the what the To be good and then like like daddy just like kicks the out of me I'm sorry. They're cussing me.   That's absolutely disgusting alcohol is not an excuse for that right and It's it's fascinating to just the way we work because I think you start brought it up like she Apologizes for cussing in that part But she's telling a story about how she her fond one of her fondest memories was him Like beating her right and and I know depending on where you're from and what your background is like You know like whether you spank your kids or whatever like I got spanked as a kid I don't think that messed me up too bad But like the way she talked about it like this sounded like a drunken Abuse situation, you know what I mean and and one thing that she does is she kind of brushes it off She's like, oh, but he was drunk, you know, I had a problem with alcohol and like that's not cool You guys like I'm just trying to tell you like that's that's not cool at all Like don't make excuses for other people.  This is not okay. No matter what, all right Like we make so many excuses like I know when I was in abusive relationships I would make excuses for the other person and that's not cool. And like I used to be you know Verbally or emotionally abusive when I was in my terrible terrible terrible days. I like that wasn't okay of me Like yeah, I had a rough childhood. Yeah, I had this and yeah I was a drug addict and alcoholic but like that didn't give me the right to say those things to any any woman I was dating I was verbally and emotionally abusive to friends and all of that, you know Like this is one of the reasons I work on my mental health so much because that is not okay It is not okay to trick people like this in any way shape or form All right, like as some of you like see me in the comments and stuff I guess sassy. I like snap back and clap back at people. I have no problem doing that but like It is not what I used to be right like I don't I don't try to degrade anybody You know, I might just argue my point or you know, whatever it is but like we we have to really look at these things like don't normalize these types of things in your life and One thing that I will bring up about PTSD and being the child a child who was abused as a kid Being a child who has is abused as a kid whether verbally Emotionally physically you are more likely to find a partner later on in life who does those things Children of addicts and alcoholics are like 20 times more likely to date an addict or an alcoholic Like watch my video that I'll link up in the info card as well about why you date who you date Like a lot of us don't realize why we're dating these types of people. Why do we keep getting in these situations? Like I've had some people like accuse me of victim blaming and stuff like no absolutely not like I'm just trying to give you a reason But not an excuse right like once I realized why I was dating the same types of people over and over and over again It was my job to step out of that cycle to ensure that it didn't happen again So the last thing I kind of want to talk about is like Again get out of that situation. So there's so many parallels between Just everything like addiction and mental health as a whole and that's why I keep trying to bring addiction and mental health together So like for example drug addicts and alcoholists when they get sober they always ask me like well What if my with the people I'm living with they still drink or they still use or whatever like you need a supportive Environment you need a supportive environment like when you get cleaner sober you don't need everybody to get clean and sober But it is pretty important to have people who you're living with like respect that about you So like when it comes to Jenner PTSD like I would recommend if you're in that situation You need to get out of that situation like it is not okay for people to neglect You know this trauma that you've been through and you know Do these things that trigger your PTSD? That is not okay You that you need to remove yourself from the situation But the problem the problem that we see with a lot of people they stay in these toxic environments for so so So long that it becomes normal it becomes normal like this is why we got to bring these things up like I'm telling you There's something called an informal Intervention and one of the things one of the things that's part of an informal intervention or even motivational interviewing It's just bringing up the idea right like and you would be amazed how often this work Like I'm telling you I can make a whole video about this like just saying to somebody Have you thought about leaving that house like you would be amazed because when we're in the middle of that storm We don't even think that's an option right like there are drug addicts alcohol It's when you say have you thought about going to treatment and like that's something that they literally never thought about like it seems Silly, but I swear to you like I have been blown away through my years of working in mental health and addiction and all of this Like how many times I just Present an idea to somebody and it's something that they never even thought about all right So again like please share this video if you know somebody who's in this type of situation Like share this share this just so other people know like this kind of stuff is not cool It's not okay.  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Yeah, football remains center stage on the Sportsmax zone. Spreading their knowledge across multiple teams is by no means a new phenomenon for Jamaican coaches, but our next guest has found himself in two of the most high-pressured coaching jobs in the country, having most notably coached the Excelsior High Girls team to astounding levels of success, plus the Breaker Girls at the under-15, under-17 under-20 levels. His talents have been acquired by two of Jamaica's most high-profile teams. He is currently the interim coach of the senior Breaker Girls. In difficult circumstances, the team lost 2-1 in women's gold cup qualifying in Panama before earning a 2-all draw at home against Guatemala. He's also the head coach of Jamaica Premier League club, Arnett Gardens. By now, you've probably gleaned that we are speaking of Cynthia Gilbert who joins us in studio. It's been a few weeks in coming coach Gilbert. It's a pleasure to have you on the show. First of all, how are you doing? I'm doing good. Thanks, you know, and thanks for having me. I feel good to be here. Yes, it's a lovely space, isn't it? How would you describe the last month of your coaching career? Busy, extremely busy. Any aspect of it has come as a surprise to you? Yes and no. Surprising that I was elevated to head coach, but based on the circumstances, at the time it didn't, and the length it took to replace Lauren. By that time, you need to find the head coach. I probably would have been the one making some of the decisions because, you know, at that point in time, a new coach coming in, probably just for observation at the time. The first game, the Panama game, was the 25th of November. When did you get the call that you were going to be leading that team? A few days before. 22nd? The 22nd is when you got the call. The same day the release went out. Wow. How did that strike you? It was not necessarily shocking. I think the call should have come a little bit earlier. But based on how things were happening, it was leaning towards that, so I had mentally pretty much prepared myself. How did you mobilize? I mean, were you given a group of players to say you can choose from this? Did you have to come in and start the process of reaching out to players? That was the toughest part of the job. I had to find players at such short notice, speaking to players, coaches, college coaches, asking them to release, because in the States it's their playoffs season now, and all the teams are in playoffs. So I'm trying to find a way for coaches to release their players, missing one or two games, and then, of course, find a unit that could represent Jamaica well, players in different positions, goalkeeping. It was crazy. You know, I've heard it said, I don't remember where, but I've heard it said that you are probably the only man who could have done that job in such a short space of time because of your knowledge of Jamaica's women's football, having worked with many of the players from the youth levels and your coach in the high school system as well. Yeah, that's true. I mean, I don't think anybody could have done it. To be honest, and I mean, keeping in touch with players, tracking their progress and everything, and that was also important. And it's important that you keep the pool of your players, you know, where they're playing, what they're doing and all of that. So with that knowledge, it had the challenges, but I was able to come up with a formidable unit to compete for Jamaica. Yeah, yeah, kudos to you. Just one more quick one. At the post-match press conference, following the Guatemala game, you were asked about whether you would take this job full time. And you said, well, there are some things I would have to think about before determining whether I would want this job. I want to know what some of those things, because I'm thinking we're talking about Jamaica's women's football, top three in the ConquerCaf region over the last, what, six, seven years, given that the reggae girls have gone to two World Cup tournaments based on what we saw against Panama and Guatemala and women's gold cup. The depth of Jamaica's women's football is greater than most people realize. So what would you need to think about if you were offered this job full time? The reality is there are lots of things that happen behind the scene in terms of staffing, players, you don't want to go down the same roads, all of those things. So all of those things would have to be resolved and ensure that we continue with most or probably all of the staff that were there before we have the history and the camaraderie, everything. I mean, they're all into women's football and know the game inside out, they follow the game, follow other teams right across the world like what all of us do. Yeah, you were in charge for two matches so far. I think it's a very little body of work to, of course, judge you by. But based on what you saw, coach, the group of players that you had at your disposal, how would you rate one, their performances and two, the crop of ladies? First, their performances for me was good. To be honest, a lot of them would have either just finished playing or still, and it came as a surprise and most of them traveling from far. So to perform so well was, I think they performed credibly, especially against Panama. I mean, we had a one hour session and that was chaotic on the day because they had a strike in Panama. So a lot of things were uncertain. We were waiting for training with delay, delay, delay, delay. So and to get in our session with 14 players and then have a game the next day, I think it was tremendous. I have a quick one, coach. I want you to take us into the dressing room on the night that you lost that Panama game because I thought it was an excellent performance and things could have so easily gone differently. I want you to take us into the dressing room because I want to get an understanding of how the players reacted to that defeat on a night when they probably felt they deserved to get something out of that game. Yeah, it was tough. In particular, one player, we had to console her even the following day. I know you don't want to call the name, but she scored the own goal and she had a kick and a miss in the 84th minute for Panama to win the game. So, I mean, that was difficult. But the good thing, the players rallied around there and encouraged her and ensured that we're all in this thing together and come back again. Yeah. And coach, I know you mentioned that you would have things to consider if you were to take up that head coach role on a permanent basis. But one of the things I have an issue with and I've always expressed it on the show is the fact that we chop and chain so much, like something goes wrong, coaches start to bring in a new coach and new tactics, new leadership, new style. How do you feel about that? The fact that the ladies, I think has been at a disadvantage because when they get used to you now, let's just say you're not renewed, you're not the appointed permanent coach, they have to learn somebody else and learn a new system. Yes, it is. But that's a sad reality of a coach, you know.  Don't take a big suitcase because you might leave tomorrow. And how has it been managing the suitcase at the Reggae Girls Camp and the one down at Annett? I mean, it's okay so far. And I have to give credit to Annett Gardens for giving me the time off. And we had preliminary discussions when I was before I took the job, in terms of my absence with the windows coming up, which would have been October and November. So they knew about it from the from the outset. And they didn't want to to go down the route again. We are one of their national coaches is always a national duty and not spending a lot of time there. So those discussions were on the forefront before I took up the job. Yeah, Xavier, we're going to talk more about Annett Gardens and your responsibilities there in a moment. But the conflict between the World Cup Reggae Girls and the Jamaica Football Federation is yet unresolved. And the next window is about a month from now, roughly just weeks just under a month. We are unsure at the moment, if they World Cup Girls, who announced their unavailability for the World Cup Gold Cup qualifiers, what that story will be. What is your feeling about them becoming available again, if they do, against the fact that you had a group of girls who filled in at the last moment and show the kind of courage that kept Jamaica still in with a chance of making the the Gold Cup qualification, you know, in a situation where they were just called upon at the last minute. Yeah, it's tough, but I always believe that best players that are available should represent Jamaica. And I did make mention of this when I met with them. Nothing is guaranteed, but it's one thing once you get the opportunity, you make the best use of it. And if it means that you will be called back based on your performance, then so be it. And for sure, even if all the other girls are ladies are available for the next window, some of them will perform here will be called back. Yeah, I was about to ask you that because for you to go back to some of those girls know and tell them that they won't be in the setup. If it is that they the front line players become available again, that that would be a tough job, wouldn't it? And it's part of building to trust with the coach. And further down, you're gonna have there are a lot of young players in the previous in the just concluded game squad that you I think will be part of the future of the girls. I really want to keep them around and expose them at this level for the World Cup qualification next year. Arnett Gardens, Xavier are five time champions of the Premier League and are among the most popular clubs in domestic football. Not an easy team to coach as well, because we've seen the transition of so many coaches go to Arnett and leave because Arnett fans are a bit unforgiving. How difficult is it a job to tackle this Arnett Gardens assignment, given the pressure that is on our coach to coach the jungleists? I mean, I think I've I've managed to to handle myself well so far. Even get going there. Persons are asking what are you doing? You know, well, I mean, that's me. I love challenges and being the professional I am. I take my principles, my philosophy. And once the players understand, you'll get the support from them. And that's important. And I must commend the management for for the support they have landed me so far. And the players have responded well. I have been responding well so far. And we just want to keep it going.  Well, your thoughts on the four and it went over and what lines it was? Yes. How satisfying was that? It was a good performance. I decent performance. I don't think we are hitting the right notes as yet. Because there's still some some things that I think we need to fix. But one of the things I impress upon on the team is to tactically, we have to be smarter in terms of our approach. We still want to play that attractive football. But in the same way, you don't want to leave yourself vulnerable at the back where teams are going to be considered. You're going to consider a lot of goals. All right. Arnett were last champions in 2017. And since that time we have seen Arnett go through a rebuilding process, the 2019-2020 season that was aborted because of COVID, they weren't in the playoff position at the time. And then 2021, when we had the condensed COVID season, Arnett did very badly. Probably their worst season ever. But since then, 2022 and 2022-23, they have rebounded last season. They were actually regular season champions, playing normal, attractive Arnett Gardens football that the fans like with a lot of goals. Your philosophy for the Arnett Gardens team, will it mesh with the philosophy that the fans have grown accustomed to? I heard you mentioned just now about being smarter, which suggests to me that you don't want to concede too many goals. But the Arnett philosophy is scoring goals, whether you concede goals or not. You score three, I'll score four or five. Can you talk quickly about your philosophy with this Arnett Gardens team against the tools that you have? Because sometimes a coach has to manufacture its philosophy around the tools that he has to work with. Yeah, that's what I'm there. I lose a lot of players last season, quality players too. And the season before you lost to Ronaldo during the season. And injuries are affecting us now. We have a few players out on injuries and might affect us further down the season. But it's important that because when I met with the club first, you know, outline what were their philosophies and then I mean, I would not take the job if I don't think I can fit in and work based on the club's philosophy. Because that's important. You don't want the club have one vision and you have a different vision. You know, so it's important that everything coincide and I think things will fall into place. Yeah, on the point of coaching philosophy and I know we're talking about Arnett Gardens, but I also want to put to you a question regarding the reggae girls because a lot of fans leaving the national stadium for that Guatemala game said that the reggae girls showed or those reggae girls showed more attacking intent than the World Cup squad and it is something that I know some fans were even calling for that the team needed to show more attacking intent. Is that the type of football we can expect under Xavier Gilbert? I mean, wherever I go, that's my type of football. I mean, I support one of the best teams in the world, Arsenal. Oh, dear. You lost us there. You mean one of the best teams in England. I think it's my kid. And the player attracted football and that's my style too, but while playing attractive football and getting goals, you still have to maintain integrity and defense to make sure that you get good results in games. When you look back, especially the Guatemala game, where there were a lot of chances for the Guatemalans, yes, a lot of chances for the reggae girls, but a lot of chances for Guatemala as well. Have you already started to pinpoint how you are going to make that area better, even as you keep that attractive attacking style? Yes. I've started looking at how we can nullify their strengths going forward. We spoke about it, we knew about it even before the game in terms of their counter counter attacking plays, but with these ladies, I mean, two games travel, it wasn't easy on their legs. The squad was really short and in terms of depth, and we just have to give them credit. We didn't have a lot of time to prepare to do a lot of things, so in these and those circumstances, we did well. It's important that we plan properly now, heading into the next window. We knew about Panama because the reggae girls have faced Panama in several big matches over the last four or five years, but many may not have realized the quality of Guatemala. Did their quality surprise you in any way, and what did you make of it? No, I didn't. I watched them, you know, because every team that you play have to do your research, and in particular, some of their best players who play in Europe, one who played in Italy, she gave us a lot of problems on Sunday. So we knew some of the things, unfortunately we didn't manage to close down some of their threats coming forward, but there's still area of improvement that we have to do and we know we have to do. We're going to try to see if we can get some better personnel. Hopefully, the college season should be done by then. So even if issues aren't resolved with the World Cup players, which I hope things are, that we would have some other college players to call upon. Yeah, we're out of time, but one quick one before we go. Reggae girls job or Arnett Gardens job, which one feels tougher at the moment? Arnett Gardens. Wow! Wow! I didn't see that one coming. I'm not too expecting that answer. I didn't, I definitely did not. Even though I just outlined how difficult it is to coach, aren't it? Yeah. I just told coach, right, that I feel it more when Arnett Gardens lose than when Manchester United is on the losing end. What did we see? And I didn't believe him. And I neither did I. That's fine, I don't know if you believe coach either, so it doesn't really matter. So do you believe him? Do you believe him? Not really. I know. Let's end this segment on that note. We'll take a break. We'll be back. Thank you so much for joining us. You're most welcome.