Hello and welcome to the final day of Wikimedia 2021. My name is Winnie Kabintse from the Wikimedia community in Kenya and I've also been part of the Wikimedia co-organising team. I can't believe it's the last day already. It feels like we just got started. A very warm welcome once again. Thank you for joining us and we hope you've been enjoying all those five days. We would like to hear your thoughts on some of your highlights of Wikimedia. Please do engage with us on the chat in the telegram groups and also on Twitter the hashtag is Wikimedia21 and do share your highlights and also in the same breath we would also like to collect your feedback regarding your experience in Wikimedia so we will have a feedback survey that will go around. Please do fill it in and help us make future Wikimanias actually better. Allow me to introduce the second session or rather the plenary session of Wikimedia today and this is on reflecting on the past, the present, the future of Wikimedia and the media. And now it's my honor to introduce Dr. Tedros Adhanom Gibriassos who is the director of the World Health Organization. Dear colleagues and friends from across the Wikimedia community the internet and social media platforms have been a double-edged sword for the global response to COVID-19. On one hand they give people access to unprecedented amounts of good information on the other they have enabled harmful conspiracy theories and falsehood to spread. No single organization can manage this infodemic alone. We must work across sectors and with new partners. Last year, WHO joined forces with the Wikimedia Foundation to expand access to the latest and most reliable information about COVID-19. This partnership has made WHO resources available under a free license so Wikipedia editors can use them to improve articles about COVID-19. As a result, Wikipedia has become a trusted source of information about COVID-19 for millions of people around the world. I thank the many dedicated volunteers who contribute their time and expertise especially to the COVID-19 articles on Wikipedia in multiple languages. We all have a role to play in ensuring equitable access to accurate public health information regardless of where you live or the language you speak. We look forward to continuing our work with you to create a healthier, safer and fairer future for everyone everywhere. I thank you. Thank you very much, Dr. Tedros. Thank you very much, Dr. Tedros. And next, we have a message from Mr. Sal Khan, an American educator and the founder of the Khan Academy, which is a free online education platform. Hi everyone in the Wikipedia community and at Wikimedia, Sal Khan here from Khan Academy. And first of all, I just want to frankly thank all of you for doing the work that you do. Many folks don't remember in the late 90s. It was obvious that the internet was a way to disseminate information, even disseminate knowledge. And a lot of people were trying to make money off of it. And it felt very utopian and maybe even overly idealistic back in 2001 when Wikipedia was started that really thoughtful, really competent people around the world just purely out of the goodness of their heart would contribute to a project that could be as good and as we later learned better than pretty much anything else out there. And on one level, it was a mind-blowing idea. But on another level, it's hard to imagine the world before Wikipedia. It's hard to imagine what the internet would be without Wikipedia. But it's also important to emphasize just the example that Wikipedia has set. Khan Academy would not be a not-for-profit or I don't think I would have had the belief that it could exist as a not-for-profit if not for all of y'all's work and showing what Wikipedia could do, how it could scale, how it could innovate, how it can preserve knowledge. And over the several decades, which is equivalent to centuries in internet time, has really stood the test of time and has shown that it's unparalleled and its ability to share knowledge and its ability to evolve and make sure that humanity gets good information. And I think now more than ever, people are hungry for good, credible information. I was once introduced at a talk where someone said, you know, the irony is when there's a flood, that's oftentimes that the people might actually experience dehydration. And I think we have a similar thing in the internet today. We have a flood of information with social media and what else. But there's actually very few places where people can go that they're not politically motivated, they're not just in their bubble, and it is actually a source of truth. And I think Wikipedia is the lighthouse example for that. And I view almost Khan Academy as a layer on top of that that can give extra instruction and texture, but obviously the breadth and depth of what Wikipedia can do is really unsurpassed. So I just want to thank all of y'all for showing that humanity is fundamentally good and that it gives me hope in where we're going as a civilization for projects like Wikipedia to exist and to continue to evolve that we won't enter. You know, I give the example of Harry Selden in the Isaac Asimov Foundation series of creating the foundation to preserve the world's knowledge to prevent the future galactic empire from going into a dark ages. Well, if there's anything comparable to that, it's Wikipedia. And maybe Khan Academy plays a little role as well. But it's Wikipedia really is, I think, one of these core institutions of the internet. And frankly, I would say now of the world and it wouldn't be possible without all of y'all's help and tireless effort. Thank you. Thank you, Mr. Khan. Indeed, we have a flood of information and we have to preserve it. And now it's my joy to introduce Boch Bostria, who is a member of the Wikimanias Tearing Committee and also the coordinator of the EC Abhab to talk about what the future holds for Wikimanias 2022. Hello, and welcome to the final day of Wikimanias 2021. I am thrilled to meet you virtually. And on behalf of the organizers, we appreciate that you joined the conference. We sincerely hope that you enjoyed the many informative and entertaining sessions throughout the days. We want to acknowledge the major earthquake that struck Haiti. Our hearts and thoughts are with the people of Haiti and the Wikimedia community user group Haiti. As well, we are concerned about the access to education, women's rights and the state of glam institutions in Afghanistan. And we only hope for a peaceful outcome. I am Boch Bostria, a member of the Wikimanias Tearing Committee and overseas Filipino Wikimedian coordinator of the East, Southeast Asia and the Pacific or Asia. And that person you saw in 2019. Thank you, Stockholm, and see you in Bangkok. Not one day, but how many days? The organizers of Wikimanias 2019 in Stockholm did an amazing job and set the bar high. Empowering more community members in groups to review and select program content was one innovation adopted since. We are ever grateful to the Wikimanias Tearing Committee for trusting Asia and Wikimedia Thailand to host Wikimanias 2020 in Bangkok. We are eager to start planning right after the previous organizers passed the responsibility. It would have been the first time that we, a group of community members with diverse cultural, ethnic, socio-economic identities, would plan the Wikimedia movement's largest event. We come up with a theme, power of diverse collaboration, sharing knowledge brings people together. The last time Wikimedia went to Asia was nearly a decade ago in Hong Kong. It was my first Wikimedia and I experienced the life of our regular Wikimedia immersing with a new and established members of the international community. It was my life-changing moment. I'm honored to be mentored by Australian Craig Franklin, who is no longer with us on project management catered for Wikimanias. Many of what I've learned from him, I apply in my volunteer engagements including Wikimanias. Danny, who will be speaking later, the founder of Wikidata, taught me one-on-one the basics of Wikidata. At first, honestly, I do not do much Wikidata as a whole hardcore Wikimedia editor. But after learning basic Lua years later, I was able to improve articles in English, Tagalog, Sibuano, Waray, Pangasinan, Bicol, and other languages in the Philippines as well as Bahasa, Milayo for integrating Wikidata content to those Wikimedia language projects. We of organizing team face a challenging road. No other organizers had ever imagined. There were valid concerns raised by our community members such as a dengue fever epidemic, torrential rainfall, and the political situation in the whole city. However, the pandemic was the major test in our risk assessment. It was a tough decision not to have Wikimedia in 2020. In January of this year, it was announced that Wikimedia will be shifting to an online environment. As we know, Wikimedia has gone from a youth hostel to museums, university campus, hotel convention centers, and now a new venue, a virtual one. With this, the Wikimedia steering committee selected the volunteers fit for this type of event. Eight persons, thousands of kilometers apart, formed the 2021 Wikimedia core organizing team. This year was tough. The team faced a narrow timetable, learning a new virtual platform, and meeting in various time zones. Yet, the organizing team working in partnership with the Wikimedia Foundation's communications team and the Wikimedia steering committee raised the bar even higher, and we all enjoyed the fruit of this hard labor. We also salute the safety support volunteers and user-farers for the community village for their tireless effort in helping our event participants. As we close Wikimedia later today, we want to hear from the next host. Following the latest steering committee meeting, the following consensus was reached, and I go. Our current thinking is to have virtual Wikimedia in 2022, and we are open to a hybrid approach or in real-life aspects that are justified given the developing global situations. ESEAP would still like to host the next in-person Wikimedia. Hopefully in 2023, once an in-person event in a single venue or city is generally acceptable to many of you. We receive valuable feedback from you, such as further usage of free and open license software, packet conferences in various locations of the world, and continuing using our virtual platform on remote event participation. We have a wider timetable in our hands. We are greatly appreciate your help to sign up to take a volunteer role for Wikimedia 2022 once we publish the details. Please share your thoughts and reflections about Wikimedia 2021. An email will be sent to you after this event with a survey. We appreciate your time in filling it out so that we can make the next year even better. Wikimedia is resilient and will remain an important annual opportunity to bring our community together. Whether person or online, our focus on sharing and learning together will remain strong. We invite you to a panel discussion later at 1500 UTC in Building 5 on the future of Wikimedia. We have Kelsey Steinrow moderating the talk of Wikimedia events and my colleague Phoebe Ayers of the Wikimedia steering committee, Yemen Bosirish of the 2021 Wikimedia core organizing team and Douglas Scott of the Wikimedia Cape Town 2018. Eight years ago, there was a panel on Imagine Wikipedia in 2022. And Wikimedia Deutschland for the time machine. And I do hope we will see you ten years from now again with the same panel. See who was right. Thank you. People had predicted a lot of weird things then on what will happen in 2022 including video conferencing, the foundation's new revenue streams and Wikimedia with a much larger number of registrants. With one year left, let us see if those and other bold predictions match the real 2022. Well, we wish to have a reenacted or sequel of the Wikimedia 2022 with DeRor and Christof this time with real testimonials. And yes, we need to have a Wikimedia theme song. We are motivated to continue Wikimedia 2022 at all means possible so that we can leave a mark for future Wikimedians to watch and look back. Have a wonderful productive last day of Wikimedia 2021 from nighttime here in Southeast Asia. Don't be tricked by the background. It's Zoom. Don't worry. Thank you, everyone. See you later. Thank you very much, Boch, for those great remarks. Indeed, we love that background. I must also say that Boch has also been the gifted hands behind the Wikimedia social media platforms. At this point, we want to reflect on 25 years of Wiki technology. As many of you might know, last year was the 25th anniversary of the first Wiki going online. And now we are going to have a short talk by Ward Cunningham, who is the inventor of Wiki with an introduction by Phoebe Ayers of the Wikimedia Steering Committee and also a reflection by Danny Randichich, who is the founder of Wikidata. In 1995, a programmer in Portland, Oregon who was working on pattern languages for programming created something called the Portland Pattern Repository. It was accompanied by a companion website, the WikiWikiWeb, which was the world's first Wiki. That programmer was Ward Cunningham, and that site started a revolution in how content on the web could be created and changed. The WikiWikiWeb is more than just a website. It became a home for people who were interested in collaboration, and many of the cultural practices and philosophies developed there became embedded in the early practices of Wikipedia. As we think about the future of collaboratively created knowledge from the global to the local, our imagination builds on the foundation developed by Ward. One of Ward's ideas mentioned in this video is the Federated Wiki, which is a conception of a Wiki that would be distributed in a decentralized manner, hosted by many people. Imagining what a Wiki that follows the pattern of a distributed physical community might look like, like a town square or houses with shared courtyards could lead us to new innovations in knowledge creation online. Ward has been a part of the Wikimedia community since the beginning. He was one of the featured speakers at the very first Wikimedia in 2005 in Frankfurt, and we are honored that he is with us at Wikimedia again in 2021. Over to Ward. Well, welcome to Wikimedia. Hello to Bangkok. We wish we were there. I want to thank the organizers for this chance to speak.  I spoke back then at the first Wikimedia of federating Wiki. Not this Wiki, but a place that might have special properties. History is seen. 10 years of Federated Wiki now is a good time. For me, report back here as to how it's going. I'd like to describe it more as a feeling than a technology. It feels a little like the blogosphere because people have their own places, but it's different because the reader is completely different. The reader tries to make it feel like a Wiki and does a pretty good job of it. It's less like a newsroom and more like a retreat.  It's like a cottage at the beach or the mountains. It's a place to make things and keep things you've made. It's like an artist's retreat. It's more than that because the cottages exist in clusters with courtyards that are shared by neighbors. We call these courtyards the lineup. Cottages are narrow. One column width. You can see many at once. We compare the goings on and draw on them as a commons. It's a creative courtyard. It's good to have a couple of cottages that suit your changing moods. Go to the one that you're into in the moment. There are some skills to making this work. If you're not digging the party vibe in one courtyard, then find another or host one you do like. I've been in a few VR meetups that we're looking for the same atmosphere and some skills are required in each. Wikipedia too requires some skills and the community is to be commended for reaching out. Give yourself a hand. I would like to mention some stats to give you an idea about how well this has been working. We've been watching the Wiki Federation for six years now. We've seen 2,500 sites since then. 1,500 at any given sweep. We see about 50,000 unique pages omitting duplicates. We put a code on each one to move around the Federation so we don't count them twice or three times or ten times. Sites edited this week represent about 15,000 pages. I'll focus more a little on just a couple sites that give you a feel for what gets done. Thompson Morrison approached me maybe three years ago and wanted to share the success that they had found in rural Oregon, middle and high schools. A lot of their thinking was focused on motivating creativity and kind of the same way that my original Wiki focused on computer programming and Agile and patterns and all that stuff. He was hoping to use the Federated Wiki Cottages to capture the systemic nature of reimagining that was taking place now on four continents and reduced to a printed book that describes that experiment that's called the Dayton experiment available on Amazon and two more on the way. Closer to home I'd like to mention all the pandemic has been tough on all of us and for some it's been horrendous. For me it turned my bicycle commute into a neighborhood wandering where I would just ride and go down dead ends that I might have passed by when I was in a hurry. Spotting informal trails that crisscross the networks of creeks that have shaped my quarter of Portland, Oregon. I started just posting pictures of places I found but this has grown in complexity month by month. My artistry is in computer programming so with each new geographical question I launch new workflows that collect and organize now 18 months of exploration. I've got 300 pages in one site 600 images organized exactly the way I want to think about them this week. The pandemic has been hard for us gruesome for many but I'm intentionally programming my own memory with pleasant discoveries which is how I will remember these months or years to come. It's a tool for the way I work. So thank you and have a great event. I'll be hanging around and would love to chat. Thank you. Thank you Ward for this overview of how federated wikis are today. Since introduction of wikis by Ward a quarter of a century ago we saw the cycle going from decentralized small sites to a small number of large mostly commercial players the cycle going from open web standards where anyone could participate to the epification of data where you have to have the right mobile phone brand to do what the app owners graciously allow you to do the cycle going from a vast common meadow to walled controlled gardens and hopefully we are going to see that cycle going back again. 20 years of Wikipedia today's our projects are crucial central pieces of the global infrastructure of knowledge but what kind of project of federated wikis envision some more decentralized future where a federation of wikis can live not just one Wikipedia where a federation of knowledge bases can live not just one wiki data where a federation of open media repositories can live not just one comments it is time for us not only to celebrate and cherish and grow Wikipedia the encyclopedia but to learn how to turn Wikipedia into a pattern so that Wikipedia does not remain the last best place on the internet but becomes the pattern for many new good places interacting in a federation allowing everyone to share in the sum of all knowledge thank you again Ward and thank you all for being part of this journey I'm looking forward to the sessions today thank you very much Phoebe Ward and Denny for those great reflections on the 25 years of wiki thank you everyone once again for joining us thank you for making wikimania 2021 come to life this was our first ever virtual wikimania and we are happy so we still have a number of great sessions lined up throughout the day including a closing plenary on preventing misinformation during the COVID-19 pandemic that will take a look at how Wikipedia public health experts and news media can collaborate to share trustworthy knowledge in times of crisis and we also have a lightning talk by Dr. Jess that will look at science and storytelling the unconference and community village will also remain open until 2230 UTC and at the end of the day we have a celebratory toast as curtains close on wikimania 2021 and we will be happy to see you there thank you and enjoy the final day of wikimania 2021


Personal finance practice problem using OneNote. Comparing health insurance policies. Prepare to get financially fit by practicing personal finance. You're not required to, but if you have access to OneNote, would like to follow along where the icon left-hand side practice problems tab, the 9080 comparing health insurance policies tab. Also take a look at the immersive reader tool to practice problems oftentimes in the text area too, with the same name, same number, but with transcripts. Transcripts that can be translated into multiple languages, either listened to or read in them. Information on the left-hand side, we are imagining an employee who works for an employer that offers three different options for the medical insurance plans. We're gonna be running a comparison based on prior medical costs, noting that in practice, this would not be the only kind of thing we would want to rely on in order to make a decision. We might also want to look at the flexibility of the network for example, but this is one thing that we might take into consideration. So we've got A here, Private Insurance Company Plan, monthly premium at $60 for doctor-off-it visits, prescriptions, and major medical charges. He will pay percent, 25% over the deductible. The insurance company paying 75%, the deductible is $800. And then B, we've got the HMO, so remember that one typically has the more limitations on the network, but oftentimes could have smaller fees related to it if you're staying within networks. So you've got that network kind of consideration as well as the cost consideration. So we've got Free of Charge because it's offered by the employer. The company copayment for doctor's office visits and major medical charges is $30 because they're inside the network if you're working with people in the network. Prescription copayments are $20. HMO pays percent after the copayment, no deductible for the HMO. And then C is the POS, kind of a hybrid type of option, point-of-service plan, monthly premium is $40. And if using healthcare provider in network, same copayments as with the HMO, no deductible. If using healthcare provider outside the network, out-of-pocket percent, 20% deductible $800. So we're gonna imagine then that we have prior data in terms of medical costs, visits to the general physician were seven in prior years. The cost each visit is $160. We also have two prescription drugs, one at 80, one at 110. Using that data, we'll try to project into the future to see what the costs will be in the future, noting again that this is only one kind of thing you might want to take into consideration because there's differences in flexibility between these plans in terms of who you can go to for your doctor and network versus out-of-network kind of considerations. Okay, so we'll start off up top here. We've got the annual medical costs for, are gonna be seven physicians. So we had seven visits last year. And we said that the cost for each visit was $160. So that means the cost for the general physicians for the year, we're gonna say 1,120. We also had the prescription drugs, which we said two of them for 80 and 110. That gives us the 190. That gives us total annual medical costs of 1,310. So let's look at that and compare it to the personal annual costs for A here. So we're gonna say the yearly premium, the yearly premium, notice I have a colon. We're gonna indent it. It's good to use and work on tables and Excel as we go through these is gonna be $60. So $60 months in a year are 12. That means we're gonna be paying for the year, the 720 for the premiums out of pocket costs over the deductible. So we've got this deductible of $800. So I'm gonna say we had the total cost, 1,310 minus the deductible of the $800. Notice that you want to be setting this up so that you have your data on the left-hand side and you can change the data and rework your problem here automatically running different scenarios. So the cost over the deductible, 1,310 minus the 800 is 510 and then we've got the percent out of pocket. That's at 25% out of pocket because the insurance company's gonna be paying 75% for the amount over the deductible. That's gonna give us the 128 out of pocket costs over the deductible. So then we're gonna look at the cost up to the deductible, meaning this is how much we're paying for the deductible and that's gonna give us our total down below. So if I pull out the trustee calculator just to recap this, we have the premiums that we're gonna be paying 720 plus we've got the out of pocket costs over the deductible that we're gonna have to pay 128 plus we have the deductible at 800. So that would be the 1648. Now note, of course, if you wanted to adjust everything here and you wanna make your tables work, if this number, your total costs ends up to be below the deductible below 800, you might use a logic function, like an if function in order to say, I don't want this number, for example, to go below zero and you might use say amen function down here to say that this number, if it was below $800 should be the lesser of the $800 or the annual cost, the lesser of, for example, these two items. Okay, so then we've got the HMO, which is usually kind of a straightforward item. The, our employer is gonna say that they're gonna handle the premiums on the HMO. So we don't have to deal with that. We got the visits to the physician at seven, they co-payment now at $30 because we're gonna imagine that we're going to a doctor that's in network. Obviously, if we had a doctor that's out of network and if that's a problem for us, then that's another consideration that we have to take, that whole network kind of situation. But if we're in network, we're gonna say that's gonna be the 210 cost of office visits and then the cost of prescription drugs, we said we had two of them and they're at $20. So we're gonna say that comes out to $40 and so the 210 plus the 40 comes out to 250. So clearly we're lower on the HMO, but we also note that there's a little bit less flexibility with the HMO. We wanna make sure that we have our doctor or is our doctor in the network and how important is that and so on. So then we've got the POS. This is going to be the point of service plan. It's kind of like a hybrid one. We're gonna alter this one a little bit just to make it a little bit more complicated. So for example, we've got the monthly premiums of $40. So we're gonna have to pay the premiums on it. The months are gonna be 12. So it's a little bit less on the premiums. That's gonna be the 480 for the year on premiums, cost over the deductible if any. So we're gonna have the 160 and then the number of visits at seven. So we've got the total costs for visits. Now note, right here it says if using healthcare provider in network, same co-payments as with the HMO, no deductible. We're gonna assume that we're out of network and that we wanna keep our own doctor just to make it a little bit more complex. So if using healthcare provider outside network out of pocket percent after deductible is 20% and the deductible is 800. So we're gonna look there. We're gonna say then the total costs are gonna be 120, the deductible are 800. That's gonna give us the cost over the deductible of 320. And then we're saying that we're gonna be paying 20% of that out of pocket. So 20% of that out of pocket. So 320 times 20% is gonna give us the 64. Now it's a little bit different than the first one up top because we didn't add the prescription drugs in it. And so we're gonna say that on the prescription drugs we're gonna have the same as with the HMO to mix this up a bit. So cost of the deductible is $800 that we're gonna have to pay. And then we've got the prescription drugs out of pocket. So we have two of them. And we're gonna say those are at $20. That's like the HMO. And so we've got then $40 for the prescription drug. So if we add this all up then we've got the total POS medical costs of the 1384. That being the premiums of the 480 plus the 64. 64 out of pocket costs before deductible plus the deductible plus the 40 for the prescription drugs gives us the 1384. So we made that one a little bit more complicated on purpose to kind of show it's kind of hybrid nature. So it comes out as you would kind of expect the 1,648 up top being the highest one. This is the one where you would think you might have the most flexibility possibly outside of the network but the one that costs more typically you've got the HMO which the employer says they'll pay for the premiums of so it's gonna be clearly the cheapest then. And then we've got the item down here but that has the network issue which is kind of a hybrid that's kind of in the middle of the 1384. Now obviously you could run different scenarios and say well what if my costs were higher or what if my costs were lower and this is one tool that you can use a similar kind of worksheet if you had a similar kind of comparison to try to figure out how much cost it would be using basically comparable plans and use that then to consider as well as considering the flexibility of the plans in some way shape or form obviously the more we can put down into numerical preferences the better so we could say well one costs more than the other but then I gotta figure how much is that worthwhile to me in comparison to the flexibility of say an HMO to a more flexible plan more like a PPO type of plan can I use my doctor and the HMO how much do I value that as well so we do do these in Excel so if you wanna work in an Excel you could take a look at that.


So if you really want to get into a great relationship, which obviously is what I'm suggesting that you do, you really need to believe it. You need to believe that you deserve to have what it is that you want. And so I'm going to be talking today about a concept that I call sacred. Right? It's obviously not a new concept. I didn't come up with this concept, but I'm going to be applying it. How can you apply this idea of being sacred to your own life so that you can make sure that you get into a relationship where you have a guy who feels like you are special, unique, different, amazing, exactly what he's looking for in his life and somebody that absolutely doesn't want to let you go. So hi, my name is Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. And so let's talk a little bit about this idea of being sacred. So our society teaches us a lot about how we're really no longer special. We're no longer sacred. There's lots of us. We're everywhere. You have to do all these things in order to be enough. There's commercials out there. I was actually talking to a friend of mine today and we're talking about this idea of having values, right? Having values kind of integrated into the foundation of who you are and how our society doesn't really teach us that for the most part anymore. And what's happening now is a lot of people are getting sucked in to all the commercials, all the marketing, all the media. And we kind of get into this space where we're like trying to, you know, we believe in whatever the commercials are telling us, which a lot of the times is you need to do more. You need to be more. You need to, you know, do all these things and don't get me wrong. I do believe that it's incredibly valuable to become the best version of yourself and to continually grow and develop yourself into the best human being that you absolutely can be. However, it's also important that you realize that you are already sacred, right?  And most men, at least they used to, men used to kind of come from the space back in the day where they looked at women as sacred. They looked at women as kind of this amazing, beautiful, interesting, different, kind of strange, a little bit crazy, maybe a little bit interesting, right? They don't really understand them, but there's somebody that they should almost worship, right? And treat well and appreciate and love and care for. And our society's kind of shifted into this world of the hookup culture where, you know, people are just settling for random hookups with just about anybody. And we don't really appreciate each other as much anymore. We aren't really connecting with each other as much anymore. We don't really value each other as much anymore. And so you need to realize that you are sacred.  And my suggestion is that you own that so that you can make sure that you end up in a really great relationship where a guy actually believes that and thinks that about you as well. There's a concept that I've talked about before on here called the law of belief transference. And this law states that whoever believes something with more certainty than the other person will end up transferring that belief that they have to the other person. And so if you believe that you don't deserve a great relationship, you don't believe that you're really worthy of a great guy and you end up meeting a great guy, no matter how much he really likes you and he thinks that you're great and he appreciates you and he values you, if you're coming from that space of not believing it yourself, you'll end up transferring that belief over to him so that he doesn't believe it as well. And then next thing you know, he's going to be pulling away. He's going to be going cold on you. He's going to be telling you things like he's not really sure. He's confused. He doesn't know what he wants and all kinds of things like that. And that's absolutely what you don't want and what I want to make sure that you avoid. If you're here with us right now in the chat, make sure you say hi and tell us where in the world you're watching this from. It's cool to see women from all over the world watching these live streams. So let's talk about what this means, right? What does being sacred mean? So here are some things that I think that you should make sacred for yourself. One is make your attention sacred. Make access to you sacred. Make emotional intimacy with you sacred. Make access to your body sacred. So don't put photos on social media. Don't send naked photos to men. That's part of making your body sacred.  Next one is make physical intimacy sacred, which is what I was just talking about. Don't sleep around. Don't sleep with a guy without him earning it first. And we'll talk a little bit here in a minute about what that means by him earning it. Make who you are sacred. So how do you do all of this? How do you create this kind of sacred thing? And one of the biggest concepts that you need to think about is this idea of making him work for it. So there's something that I call the investment principle. And the investment principle, what it states is that the more a man invests in you, the more that he invests in you from his time, energy, effort, emotions and anything. A lot of times when I talk about investment, women will start talking about money, right? Which is also a type of investment, but really what you want is emotional investment. You want time investment. You want him to sit around and think about you and contact you and talk to you and open himself up and be vulnerable around you when he starts doing those things, when he starts investing in you, he starts feeling like you're too important to him in order to lose, right? There's something called the sunk cost fallacy out there, which actually comes from investing. And the sunk cost fallacy, what it states is that the more somebody puts into something, the more they value something, right? And so you want him to value you really highly. That's what we're talking about in being sacred, right? Sacred is something that you really value. It's something that you put up here, right? It's something that's really important to you. And there's lots of different things that people have that are sacred. Sometimes people make time sacred. Sometimes people make objects sacred. Sometimes people make people sacred. Sometimes people make areas that they go to and hang out in sacred. And so my suggestion is that you make yourself sacred. And so how do you do that? Well, there's kind of the one aspect which is you're making him work for it, which is what I'm talking about, which is what I was talking about before. Don't just give yourself away to a guy because you feel it for him. We get so many women, so many women who come to us and they're like, oh, I've been seeing this guy and I really felt it for him. But, you know, I didn't want to ruin anything by asking him the wrong questions because I know that guy, this is what I hear all the time. I know that guys are scared of talking about commitments and I know that guys are scared of talking about feelings and, you know, what they're looking for and all of those things. And let me tell you guys, the only guys that are scared of talking about commitment are guys who are scared of how you're going to react when they tell you what they're actually looking for. And so most guys are actually pretty open about what they're looking for and what they want, especially a guy that's actually looking for a commitment and looking for a relationship and looking to get married or have a great, amazing relationship at some point in the future. And so don't get too freaked out about asking him questions like that. Don't be afraid of asking him what he's looking for because those will indicate whether you should actually be with this guy or not. And so what I was talking about before was how, I'm like running off on tangents here, what I was talking about before was how a lot of women come to us and they'll end up hooking up with the guy and they won't ask him those questions and then next thing you know, they'll end up in a situation where they're in a friend with benefit situation because they never asked the guy what he was looking for. They never stopped to make sure that they're getting into a good situation where they're getting exclusivity where he was actually looking for a commitment where he's looking for something down the road and so they end up in the situation where if, and by the way if you don't ever talk to a guy about whether you're exclusive or not you can just assume that you're not until you do. And so for a lot of these women end up in these friend with benefit situations and then they're trying to go from that place where they've already put themselves down lower, right?  And there's actually been studies that have been done on this where the studies have determined that some only when somebody is trying to go from a friend with benefits casual situationship into a committed relationship that only one in seven to one in nine times does it actually make it there.  If you just want a friend with benefit situation don't be surprised when you end up catching feelings for him and then wanting something more but he doesn't want something more with you and that's the worst kind of situation that you can be in. So if you are in that situation there is a possibility for you like I said I actually have a program on it it's called the devotion, the devotion switch the devotion switch and you can get it at commitmentconnection.com forward slash devotion. So anyway let's go back to these things how do you make yourself sacred? You really have to believe that you're valuable enough to have the relationship that you want and like I said because of the belief of the law of belief transference if you don't believe that then he's not going to believe it either and so you have to change the way that you think about yourself change what you say to yourself so a lot of women will think to themselves and feel and have certainty around this idea that they're not really good enough that they're not really worth it that men don't like them that they're never going to find a man who wants to be with them that men don't want commitment that men only want to hook up that they have to give in to the hook up culture because that's what men just want right now and you need to change all of those beliefs if you have some of those beliefs those beliefs are going to stop you from actually getting into the kind of relationship that you want and it's going to end up making you settle for something that's not worthy of who you are and so you want to start believing things like I'm lovable I'm valuable, I'm beautiful, I'm a masterpiece I'm the type of woman that men want to be with men want to chase me, men want a commitment with me men are going to value me and cherish me and love me and not all men are going to do that however you need to make sure that you set yourself up for the best possible situation and if they aren't doing that then you need to communicate that three different things and we're going to be talking about those three things here in just a minute if you get what I'm talking about say I get it in the chat if you don't get what I'm talking about feel like I'm rambling a little bit too much let me know or ask whatever questions that you have and whatever you want to talk about I'll talk about any situation that you're in or if you just want to chat talk about something you talk about over coffee because you just love talking to Matt Coast and I'm here and I'm ready to talk with you and chat I'm mostly joking there alright so actively work to grow and become a better version of yourself this is part of believing that you're sacred and creating a sacred space for yourself you want to believe that you're worthy and that you're deserving and that you're enough and you also want to develop and grow yourself and become a better version of yourself and learn how to better connect with men and get better at something confidence actually comes from competence so the better that you can get at something the more confident you'll be in that space and so one of the ways that you do that with this is learning how to better communicate your value when you learn how to communicate your value you'll be a lot more confident when you actually do communicate your value because you've practiced it you've thought about it you've learned how to do it you'll be a lot more confident in doing it and so there's three different types of ways to communicate your value to a man the first one is through standards and standards are communicating things like one your preferences, things that you like and things that you don't like that's setting a standard another way to set standards is to talk about things that you think are attractive so if you're talking to a guy and you're like yeah I really think it's attractive when guys act like gentlemen and open doors for me and pull out my chair and make me feel protected and loved and cared for or whatever it is that you're looking for a guy to do just communicating what your standard is saying what you think is attractive or if he's doing it for instance let's say he opens a door for you and you say wow that was really attractive I really like that and just communicating that you think that something that he's doing is attractive and that's actually setting a standard and he's going to hear that he's going to hear you say something like that to him and then he's going to want to do it again and again and again and again because he's thinking okay I'm winning with her which is what men want to do they want to make you happy and they want to win with you and if he feels like he can do that with you and you're leading him to doing things that make him win and that make you happy then he's going to want to continue to do those things he's going to feel like he's winning with you he's going to want to go on more dates with you because he thinks he's having a great time he's connecting with you he likes you the second way to communicate your value is to communicate your boundaries and we've talked a lot about boundaries and other videos for a real quick recap of it the way that you communicate boundaries is let's say that he's pushing your boundaries which is something that guys do all the time and they're going to do all the time because that's kind of one of their jobs is to see where the boundaries lie with you and so what he might end up doing is let's say that he let's say that he tries to like do something with you that you aren't really ready for yet for instance instead of just outright rejecting him which is what a lot of women do and they're like no no no I'm not doing that I'm not interested which can a lot of times make a guy think that you're actually rejecting him there's two types of rejections one's a hard rejection the other one's a soft rejection a hard rejection is when you are like no I'm not interested I don't want to do that a soft rejection is like not yet not yet you're interested but not yet it's kind of a thought process of communicating like if you play your cards maybe at some point I'll be interested in that and so you want to lead him on if you're using a boundary what you do is you tell him what it is that you want or tell him the things that you like about him or something like that so it's either telling him what you want or telling things that you like about him so you might say you know I'd love to do that in the future that's telling him what you want if you're telling him things that you like about him you might say I really love hanging out and talking to you and communicating with you and then you say your boundary so you say maybe so let's say you're doing it from the beginning so you say I you know I maybe I'd like to do that that sounds like it would be really fun sometime in the future however I'm not quite ready for that right now I'd rather we get to know each other a little bit better first does that sound alright and so the third part of the boundary is asking a question and making sure that he agrees to it because then if he agrees to it he's caught into doing that right he's like he's set up in a position where he needs to do that and if he doesn't do that then he actually then then you know that he's intentionally breaking your boundaries and you can go on to number three which is the third way of communicating your boundaries which is walking away and so when you walk away it's not necessarily forever right you can walk away from a situation but still be interested if he's willing to put in the energy and the effort in order to win you back but if he's not willing to put in the energy and the effort in order to win you back then you might be from you know in a space where you're like okay I am you know we're not going to do this anymore and so you walk away so let's say that he does something right that you really don't like and so walking away is usually for a situation that you really don't like so let's say that you know he flirts with another girl right you guys are out and he flirts with another girl or he says something or he does something that's a little bit over the line right just a little bit over the line I mean if you know it's like really intentional like he walks away from you and starts flirting with a girl on the other side of the room that might be a problem but if a waitress comes over and he just says you know something cute and flirty or whatever and you're not really comfortable with that you know you could you know end up walking away from that situation or you could set a boundary depending on how bad it is right and if you walk away what you want to do is wait until he communicates with you he contacts you you know and have some kind of procedure for what you want in order for him to re-enter your life which might be an apology it might be him being like hey I'm not going to do that again you know and being really serious with you it might be that you know it's too much and you're not willing to accept anything like that back into your life okay and then another way of making yourself sacred is by positioning yourself in value and I talk a lot about this in the forever woman program you can check it out at the foreverwomanformula.com and so one of the ways that you do this is to get into abundance it's something that I call abundance the abundance principle which basically what it is is it's what abundance is is having options right having options and connections so that you're not coming from a space of being needy and clingy and desperate and so what happens with a lot of the women who come to us initially is that they will be in a space where they're just they're just dating one guy right and the guy's not even that serious about him her but she's like totally already like okay I'm just dating this one guy and some women do this on the first contact right so if you you know just start talking to each other or you just go on one date they're like okay this is the only guy that I'm going to date and if I date anybody else it feels like I'm cheating well my suggestion is that you date multiple people at a time don't sleep with any of them don't sleep with any of them just don't date multiple people at a time so that you're not coming from a space of I need it to work out with this one woman or this one guy or else right if you're coming from the space of it has to work with this one guy then you're going to be a lot more attached and invested in it working with this one guy and if he does something that maybe normally would be against your boundaries or against what you actually want you might walk away but since this is the only guy you're like well I'm going to have to try to manipulate and force and control and try to you know push it to work with him which is a really bad situation to be in instead you want him to be trying to convince you that you are the right woman for him and that you should date him instead of any other guy and the best way to do that is by putting yourself into a world of abundance talk to the women in our community about this lots of women have done this after I've suggested it to them and it's completely changed their lives it's completely changed their dating because all of a sudden it's not this one guy it's which one of these guys is going to step up and start pursuing me and start trying to create the relationship that I want to have with them and so what you do is you shine the light you shine the light on the type of relationship that you want to have and then you let him lead you to the promised land you let him lead you to creating that relationship that you want so that's getting into abundance the second part of positioning yourself in value is making sure that you take advantage of everything that you might and possibly can there's a woman on our last live stream who is talking about how there's more men in the world than there are women and so it's harder for women because there's more men well there are billions of people on this planet let me tell you and there are lots of places that you can go where there are more men than there are women and men tend to try to do things more they're trying to step up their game more in order to be with the women that are around that area and so my suggestion to you is whatever you need to do to put yourself in the best position possible depending on how serious you are about this if that means that you are in a rural town and you in order to have abundance and be around guys that don't all know each other you might have to go to a bigger town in order to start dating there or doing something where you're putting yourself into a place where men tend to value women more so some cities especially the cities where there are more men than there are women places like Denver places like San Diego I'm sure there's a lot of other places just look up the places where there is a lot of competition for women and you can go to those kinds of places if you want to obviously it can take a lot if you work somewhere and you can't up and move or whatever but it's not about this one thing right it's about doing it as much as you can you can't meet a whole bunch of guys because of whatever situation you're in in person you can also do online dating I know a lot of women I had a client not too long ago who is like she's against online dating she's like I'm not going to date online and you know I will never do that it's horrible online dating and there are a lot of challenges with online dating for both men and for women however it can quickly put you into a place of abundance and you can quickly start meeting and getting connected with other guys and start feeling like you're less and less attached to making things happen with one guy with online dating or whatever right and so you just want to figure out what are the best ways to position myself so that I can be so that I can have the highest advantage in my dating life and just put yourself into that situation assuming that you're single and not in a relationship alright so the next one is stop judging yourself and so what you want to do is start learning to fully accept yourself so this is a piece of being sacred and believing that you're sacred is stop judging yourself learn to fully accept yourself especially the dark parts so the parts that you're ashamed of the parts that you're scared of the parts that you think are gross or nasty or the worst parts of yourself you know accept those and there's also another side which is kind of the light side right learning to love the light side of yourself the parts where and you might say to yourself well why wouldn't I love the light parts of myself the best parts of myself the most excellent parts of myself well a lot of people kind of deny those things I've been going to a lot of Tony Robbins events over the last eight months or so and one of the things that I noticed that people do at those events is they will start talking to Tony and they will say things like you Tony you did this you know you are the one that created all these changes for me in my life and to a certain extent yeah he gave them information and he gave them tools and resources to help them do it but they did it right you did it right you have those amazing parts of yourself and the way that you find out which amazing parts of yourself that you're not fully accepting and fully embracing is to look around you and look at people that you really admire and see what qualities they have and see which qualities you they have that you admire and then take those qualities on and say how do I have those qualities as well and am I not really fully embracing those qualities I'm going to be putting a program together about how to really love yourself and find those parts and accept those parts at some point here hopefully in the near future so just watch out for that and so the next part of really believing that you're sacred and thinking that you're sacred is changing the questions that you ask yourself so the way whatever you whatever you ask yourself whatever questions you ask yourself you will start focusing on that thing right and whatever you focus on you start to feel and whatever you feel you end up receiving and so if you change your questions you can change how you experience your life and how much you love your life and how much you enjoy your life and what you experience in your life and so here are some questions that you might want to ask yourself and the main question here is what if and so ask yourself what if I am enough what if I am deserving what if I am blessed what if I am exactly what a great man is looking for what if I am whole what if I am beautiful what if I am worthy what if I am in control what if I have the power what if I am on the right path what if I am desirable what if I am worth more and so make a study of these questions if you want to I'll throw these questions in the description here later and you know ask yourself at least one of those questions every day and just repeat it over and over again and just you know think about it think about what if you are deserving what if you're enough you know what if you're blessed what if you're exactly what a great man is looking for and sometimes when I talk about this idea of being enough women will talk about well I'm not enough for this one guy right and we're talking about switching your mindset here from I'm trying to make everything work with this one guy to I am sacred I am enough and if this guy doesn't see that then he's putting himself out of the competition for who is going to end up winning me in the end and so you want to make sure that you're thinking about it and changing your mindset and not making it about a guy instead making it about the relationship what if you are enough for that relationship that you want to get in and if you're enough then what does that mean what does that mean for you and what could that mean for you what if you're deserving what if you really do have the power what if you really do have more control than you really think that you do what if you're worth more than what you've been settling for up into this point in your life with your relationships with the men that you've been dating with everything that you've been doing what if you're worth more so that's it for this this video if I'm going to do question and answer here so if you have any questions I'm going to answer on here but you know I'm just going to do a real quick recap so we're talking about being sacred making sure that your attention is sacred your access is sacred your time is sacred your emotional intimacy is sacred access to your body is sacred physical intimacy is sacred who you are is sacred and so make him work for it believe that you're valuable enough to have the relationship you want with yourself actively work to grow and become a better version of yourself position yourself in value stop judging yourself and change the way that you talk to yourself what questions you ask yourself on a daily basis and start focusing on the answers to questions of what if what if I'm deserving what if I am blessed what if I have grace running through me what if I have the power what if I am in control what if I am worth more than what I've been settling for right now in my life alright so let's see what kind of questions everybody has here so hi hi hi hi hi hi hi hi hi hi hi hi Texas New York so Amanda says hello Matthew thank you for all your hard and compassionate work well you are absolutely welcome and I'm glad that this has been helping you so I appreciate you being here and I appreciate you being a allowing me to be a part of your journey to getting into the relationship that you want to be in so I'm going to totally butcher this name but the floor of the floor of the floor of the says thanks for all the inspiring words Matthew you're absolutely welcome I'm glad that they inspire you so Katie says why do guys block you from him for no reason one minute he's nice in the next minute in the next you see he blocked you seriously don't get guys well there is actually a reason Katie there's a reason why he blocked you and so you have to accept that there's a reason that he blocked you because you can't always get you know closure with every situation and not every situation really deserves closure every guy deserves closure and if he blocked you that means that there's a reason why he felt like there's something that there's not right there it could be that you know it's something that you communicated with him or something that he saw in your profile that he didn't like or it could be that you know there's something going on with him that he's not really you know ready for what it is that you want or he's not willing to step up to the plate do what it is that you want or he might feel like he's not really in the type of person or in the right space to be in the type of relationship there's a ton of different reasons why men might do this and it all boils down to he's cutting himself off from being the right guy for you and that there's somebody else who's going to treat you better and connect with you better who's not gonna block you who's going to want to communicate with you who's going to wanna be with you who's gonna think that you're a blessing to him in his life who's gonna think that you're sacred who's gonna think that you're wonderful who's going to want to love you and care for you and hold you and tell you that you're amazing and awesome and that he's never gonna wanna let you go and that you know he doesn't wanna lose you and that's the kind of guy that you should be waiting for into a relationship with not a guy who's blocking you. And absolutely it can be frustrating. It can be absolutely frustrating. People are blocking each other and ghosting on each other all the time these days, even if they've been seeing each other for a while. Sometimes people just disappear. Sometimes women will just disappear. Sometimes guys will just disappear. And there could be a whole bunch of different reasons for it. And the most important reason is that he is disqualifying himself from being the right guy for you. So the RA says hot message and topic. Well, I'm glad that you think that this is a hot message and topic. So Solvig says, I need Spaceman. I don't know what Spaceman means, but cool. Go for it. Go for Spaceman. She says, your awesome Matthew greetings from Iceland. Well, greetings. Solvig. Solvig. Yeah, so let's see what else people have. Aleuma Igway says, wonderful. I love this one. I'm glad you love this. Sorry for butching your name. So Natalie says, hi from Australia. Loving your advice. Well, I'm glad you're loving my advice. Thank you so much. So to love thank you says, I'm not too important for David to lose. And so let's go back to what we were just talking about to love thank you and talking about changing it from this man to the relationship, right? And making sure that you're setting yourself up and believing that you're sacred and believing that you can have what it is that you want, believing that men think that you're valuable, believing that men will give you the kind of relationship that you want to get into and making sure that you believe all these things, right? You have to believe all these things and you have to switch it and stop making it about this one guy, which I don't know what your situation was with David to love thank you. Well, that's very interesting name, but yeah, I mean, some guys aren't gonna see your value. Some guys aren't going to cherish you. Some guys aren't gonna think that you're sacred. And if a guy feels that way, that's fine because we have three ways. Remember, we have three ways of communicating your value. One is setting your standards. Number two is setting your boundaries. And number three is walking away. What isn't doing it is it's not convincing him. It's not manipulating him. It's not forcing him. It's not trying to get this guy to do the things that you want him to do. Instead, it's setting standards. It's setting boundaries. And then if those don't work or it's a really bad situation, you walk away. That is value.  All those other things will actually lower your value in a man's eyes.  So, Alia says, right, Matt, the concept of that secret Islam concept for the woman, but the problem is when the man not have the same concept, right, and what was I just talking about, Alia? The man doesn't have the same concept. We're not talking about trying to make this man do what you want him to do, right? You're not trying to do that. And you might be in a situation where you're married or you're in some kind of other kind of, you've been in a relationship for eight years or 12 years or whatever, right? And a guy doesn't see your value. And yeah, maybe you shouldn't have gotten with that guy in the first place or whatever. Well, that's in the past. So how do we communicate our value now? There's three main ways. Number one is setting your standards. Like we talked about, number two is setting your boundaries and number three is walking away when he disrespects your boundaries, your standards, and or does something that's really, really bad and that puts you into a weird situation. And so that's how you communicate. And he might still not recognize your value and he may not still believe that you're valuable and that's okay. Not every, like I said, not every guy is going to believe that you're valuable, but not every guy is for you either. And you shouldn't stay in a situation with a guy who doesn't believe that you're valuable and doesn't think that you're sacred. And so she continues on and says, it only can reach when both woman and man have covered and say some concept of their body secret and all thing needed in relationship is only for their spouse.  We don't, you know, to a certain extent they had that in Christianity in America, but we're kind of in a world now where it's, you know, we're all, it's all kinds of different, right? There's all kinds of different. And if you want to, and actually if you think about that idea, right? Think about this idea of covering, right? Like covering up parts of your body. And I know we kind of live in this world today where, you know, women are kind of like, a lot of women are just showing up and it's like they don't have much on at all, right? Like if you go down the street here, I'm in America, right? I'm in Washington, DC at the moment.  And they've got things hanging out all over the place, right? And you're looking at them and you're seeing it.   And I don't know, you can question that and you can think about that.  I don't know, let's flip the script. Think about it. Think about it. Think about it. All right, Sadie says, he seems to be fearful of voiding. His words don't match his actions in that his actions are committed and loving, but his words are, I don't love you. How do you deal with that? Well, Sadie, let me give you a very important principle that you need to remember in every single one of these situations, like the one that you're in. Here it is.  Here's what you do every single time, right? If his words and actions are different, you want to believe the one that's worse, right? You wanna believe the one that you don't wanna believe. And in this case, the one that's worse is that he doesn't love you. And so you wanna believe that, right? Even if his actions show that he does. And let's talk a little bit about why this is because men and women and everybody have needs. We all have needs, right? We have desires, we wanna feel connected. We want to feel loved. We want to feel like we're with somebody. We want to touch each other. We want all these different things. Well, what he's getting right now with you is what it sounds like, is he's getting those needs met without needing to be vulnerable and open himself up and admit that maybe he has these kinds of feelings for you. And a lot of guys, they'll continue to do that for a very, very long time.  And so you have to remember that in those situations, which is why we talk about doing it initially and having these conversations initially and talking about these things initially and having guys invest initially and making sure that you're getting into good situations initially because if he's in that situation, he may or may not.  You know, I really wanted more with you. However, you know, if you're not willing to do those things, you're not interested in those things, that's fine, you know, let me know if at some point you are interested in those things and if I'm still single, you know, maybe we can talk about it and then walk away from the situation and go find a guy who is going to love you and is gonna cherish you and is gonna commit to you and is going to tell you that he loves you and have you meet his family and treat you like the queen that you deserve to be treated as, treat you like the goddess that you deserve to be treated as, treat you as if you're sacred. And if he decides that he wants to step up after that point, that's great. And if he decides that he doesn't, that's fine too. But you have to make sure that you get out of a bad situation where you're not being treated the way that you want to be treated. All right, Shelby says, hi from Kansas City. I get it, thank you, Matthew. Love all the advice, stay well and looking fantastical. I appreciate all of what you just said there. So you're welcome for the advice. Thank you, I'm definitely staying well and I appreciate that you think I look fantastic. All right, Jennifer says, I love this. This is how I was raised and men do appreciate a woman who has self-respect. You preach it, Jennifer, you preach it. That's what I'm talking about here. That's what I'm talking about. Air high fives all around. I love what you're saying right now. And she says, it's, and it's a rare thing these days. Make him proud to be with you exactly. Thank you, Jennifer, gets it. You get it, Jennifer. Thank you so much for being here. You're awesome. Let's see what else people have to say here. So, coaching comeback says it's a throwaway culture. That's true. It is a throwaway culture. It's the hookup culture. Doop-de-doop-de-doop-de-doop. Let's see. To win says Matt, I totally get this and I've noticed it's true in theory and practice. Awesome. That's what I like to hear. That is what I like to hear. That is what I like to hear. Cynthia says, I get it. We are the prize. That's right. You are the prize that he is trying to win over. That's what you want. That's what you want. Coaching comeback says, strange of actions show love but words show rejection. It's not strange. I mean, it might seem strange in the moment they're loving on you and they're like, no, I don't look. You know what I mean?  I just love hanging out with you. I just want to spend more time with you and have a great time.  I love you. And he's like, well, I don't love you. And I don't want to commitment with you, right? And you're like, whoa, wait a second. What are you doing loving all over me then, right? You have to raise your standard of what you believe that you deserve in those situations, right? Always believe the worst of the two. If it's words or actions, you know, some people say actions speak louder than words. Many times they do. And words also speak out louder than actions a lot of times as well. And so you have to look at whatever the worst one is, right? It's not always actions, believe actions, don't believe words. If you believe actions and you don't believe the words and he's all loving all over you, you can get into a situation. I have, there are women that have been in our community who were in situations like this for years. One was in a situation like this for over a decade where she believed that things were moving towards a real relationship, getting married, having kids, you know, family, all that kind of stuff, right? And the guy had been telling her the whole time, like I don't see this going anywhere more than some kind of fling thing, right? And she didn't believe him. She didn't believe him. She's like, no, he's, I've met his family, I've met his friends, you know, he loves on me. You know, he says I'm just a friend of his when we're out with his friends, but you know, I don't believe that, you know, he treats me so well, right? And she's been doing this for so long that she's in denial about the entire thing. And so you can't get in denial about this, right? You can't make it so that you don't believe what he is saying to you if his actions are worse than if his words are worse than his actions. You have to believe what he's saying because he's communicating with you what's going on with him. And you want to believe the other one, right?  And it's the same thing in both situations, but we've been taught so much and trained so much to believe the actions that a lot of times we'll miss out on what somebody's actually telling us with their words. And so you have to listen to both of them and figure out which one's worse and then believe whatever that one is. So as it says, hi, Matthew, you're simply great. Thank you for all the beautiful advices, God bless. You are absolutely welcome, Edith. Thank you for being here. I appreciate you. So Margaret says, I asked he right from the start what was he looking for in a relationship? And he said right from the start that he as looking for a long-term relationship but our relationship has only been casual, right? And she says, and it's been like this for many years now. Well, let me tell you something, Margaret. Let me tell you something very, very important that you absolutely need to listen to. So they've done research studies on this. I love research. I read research all the time. It's absolutely fascinating to me. And what they found is that somewhere between the six and eight month mark, most men who are dating a woman, like 95% of all men who are dating women around the six to eight month mark and by the year mark, 100%, know what kind of a relationship they want with a woman. And so if he's past that six to eight month mark, he knows what he really thinks about you and what he really wants with you. And so if he's not trying to propose, if he's not moving things forward, if he's not telling you he loves you, if he's not being committed to you, then he already has you slotted in his mind, especially if it's been a couple of years that you're not long-term committed relationship material. If a guy says that he's looking for long-term relationship material, don't assume that he wants that with you. Just assume that that's something that he's looking for and that you might be one of the prospects. But definitely don't let him say that to you for years. You need to walk away from that situation and say what I told you, right? Tell him, look, that's fine. If you want something long-term, I'm looking for this, right? Make sure you're both getting your needs met. One of the problems that a lot of women have is they want to get married, right? They want a ring on their finger. They want the ceremony. They want to feel like two people have become one or whatever metaphor you want to put around marriage. Some people don't value marriage anymore and that's fine too, whatever you believe. And if you want marriage, don't move in with a guy. I call this the ring rule. Do not move in with a guy if you want marriage at some point in the future because what's going to happen is he's going to be getting all of his needs met by you living with him. And you're not going to be getting your needs met because you want something more than just living with a guy.  I want a real relationship. And if you're not willing to give it to me, I'm going to have to move out, right? And so you don't want to move in to begin with if you want a marriage and you know, you have to make sure that if he's going to, if you're going to move in together, that he's going to be fulfilling all of your needs just like you're going to be fulfilling all of his needs. And so make sure that you're getting yourself into the best possible situation. So French sent me a super sticker. I appreciate you, French. I appreciate you and those superstigues. Cathy says, hello, how are you doing? I am absolutely fantastic. Thank you for asking. I'm doing great today. She says, thank you for this video. It's so helpful and truly appreciated. Well, I'm glad that you appreciated. I'm glad that it's helpful to you and thank you so much for being here with me. Yasmin says, awesome advice. Thank you. Marie says, hello, that is interesting. Have good continuations. Okay, good continuations. So, BV says, what if we have too many options and can no longer narrow in one guy? Feels hard to be monogamous when suddenly you date so many people and more than one meets your needs. Well, here's the question you wanna ask yourself, BV. Ask yourself if it was one or the other, which one would it be? That's what you wanna do. You just wanna compare which ones that you wanna pick. Obviously, BV is in the right situation right here. She's in abundance. All these guys are apparently great for her because she's obviously listening to the abundance idea. And so now she's in the situation where she has to pick which can be another challenge. And what you wanna do is just figure out which one is best for you, right? Which one is best for you? And then you have to let go of the rest. I mean, it can be very difficult. You're right, absolutely. Especially if you're dating guys and you think they're awesome, they're all awesome. You're like, what do I do now? You just have to compare and figure out what works best for you, what do you like the most? And allow that person to move forward with you. Marge says, you're absolutely right. Letting him go is the best decision I've done. Yeah, I mean, sometimes you have to. Sometimes you absolutely have to. So, you know, one of the biggest challenges that we have in this day and age is that we live in the culture of the hookup, right? The hookup culture where men and women are getting into superficial, casual situationships instead of real, live connections. And everybody, men and women, are starving for real connections right now. And you need to make sure that you're putting yourself into the best possible situation that you can so that you get into the type of relationship that you absolutely want to have. And there's a three-part formula for doing this. First is you need to believe in your own value. You need to believe it. You need to believe that you're worth it, that you deserve it, and that this is something that a man will give to you. Second, you need to position yourself in value. You need to create abundance. You need to position yourself that men so that men are competing for your time, attention, and your commitment. You need to flip the script, stop making it about trying to convince them, stop making about manipulating them, stop making about trying to get him to do what it is that you want him to do, and instead make it about the relationship that you want and getting in so that they start competing to try to convince you to get married to them, trying to convince you to be with them, trying to compete for your time, and attention, and your love. And that's what you want to be. That's what positioning yourself in value really is about. And the third part is communicating your value. And we talked about the three ways today, which is setting standards, communicating different boundaries that you have, and walking away from the situation. And so if you're interested in learning more about how to do this, if you're in a situation that's really challenging for you, my suggestion is that you pick up a copy of the forever woman formula, you can get it, free access to it. And what you do is you go to the foreverwomanformula.com and you watch the video there, and then you can get free access at the end of the video. Thank you so much for everybody that's been with me today. I absolutely adore all of you. I appreciate you allowing me to be a part of your journey into getting into the relationship that you've always wanted to have. You are the best, absolute best part of our community. We have some of the most beautiful, amazing, just gorgeous, intelligent, just awesome, powerful women in the world as a part of our community. So thank you so much for being here with me today. I gotta get going.  So I gotta get going.  And always remember, you are worth it.


Well, hello everybody and welcome back to my channel. Today we are deep in the throes of vlogmas and I was going to show this on my vlog, but I figured, hey, this would be like a really fun video to show how I actually wrap gifts. I know there's a million of these out on YouTube, but I just thought it would be fun to show. People always comment about my gift wrapping, so why not? This is a gift that I'm actually giving tomorrow, so don't worry. Everybody can watch this. Plus, I'm actually not going to upload this until this upcoming Wednesday. So if you're seeing this on Wednesday, hello. This is actually the day I'm supposed to be putting it up. So my supplies I'm using, I'm just using some craft paper. I've already kind of cut it to size. This edge is really, really jagged, so I'm actually going to trim it down a little bit. So I'm just going to use some tape. I'm going to use some accoutre mâles in a little bit. But yeah, so I figured I would kind of just stand here and show you how I do this. I actually used to work somewhere, like I'm just like sizing up the little edge here, so it doesn't like go over. I actually used to work at a place that did free gift wrapping. And this was how like the method that they used. So what you do is you kind of fold the little lip over, and then you do like a crease on the box. Does that make sense? You like kind of take your nails and do that. And then you tape it to the box. All right, we got it. You with me so far? All right, cool. And then we push it down to make sure that it's like a clean edge right here. You can if you want to score it right now, which I am obviously, but you don't have to. You can do that at the very end. But I just like to push it down to make sure.  And then the edge of my box is right here. So what I will do is I'll actually cut right here, and I'll show you why I'm doing that in a second. And that edge does not need to be perfect because we are going to cover that up. And you're probably thinking, well, why didn't you do it over here? Because that's where it ends. Nope, we're not going to do that. We are going to make a seamless package. So what we do is we just pull really tight all the way around. And then we make another creased edge right here. What I'm going to do is I'm going to crease it again. And then it will line up perfectly. Do you guys see that? It'll line up perfect. So it's a seamless package. Get it? Now what I do is I take the tape, and I'm actually going to put a bow around this one. So I kind of push down like where the edges are because I'm going to obviously do those in a second. And I'll kind of eyeball the center. Whoops, fail. Push that down and then I kind of just pull it to make sure that it's tight all the way around. And then I do that. And then I'll go around and score the other two sides that I haven't. And then if you haven't scored this side at this time, that's what I do. Okay, obviously this side is a whole lot longer than this side. So I'm going to trim this down real quick. And again, the trimming doesn't need to be perfect. I just want to make sure that there's not a ton of overlap. All right, so that is done. And then you take this side that has the tape. Do you guys see that? There we go. There's the reflection. And then I score it down again.  It's kind of just whatever works for you. I'm a fan of taping the box because I feel like you get a crisper edge that way. So that's what I'm doing right here. And then scoring it down. And then scoring it down again. So it looks like that, see? And then I'm going to push it up, but I'm going to actually make sure that this is kind of a straight line over here. All right, so then it's going to look like that. But I'm going to score these so they're going to look a little bit better. So the sides aren't always seamless, obviously, but that's okay. I like to score the edges because it just makes it look really nice and crisp and clean. So that is how my finished edge looks. All right, so let's do the next one. In this box it goes, there's something like stuck right there. It's like really, really bumpy in the box there. And the reason I like tape is because sometimes this will pop up and I don't like that. I want it to kind of settle itself down. So this is kind of like my gift wrapping tutorial. I don't know if I've ever, I think I did this like back in the day when I had a blog, which by the way is linked below. I haven't posted to it in years. If you guys want to check out a very archaic version of favorite daughter Emily, feel free. But yeah, so I think I showed a little bit of gift wrapping on there at one point.  So that is it. My edges are all crisp and clean and look professional. So I'm going to grab my ribbon and then we'll go to town on this thing. Okay, so here is the ribbon I am going to use.  And we are going to use this. I don't know where I got this. This has been like many, many years ago. Obviously I've taken it off the roll and it's a really, really long piece. But this is also another way that I wrap presents as well. So I also like to make not a seamless bottom, but like a divotless bottom with my wrapping. And let me show you how I do that. So like I just take my ribbon and I go like this. And the reason why is because I'm making half of my ribbon loop right now. So this is essentially like the bunny ear and this is the tail. And then so I want to start right here because I need this to make my bow at the end, if that makes sense. All right. And then I start at the top and then I hold my finger down and then I run it underneath. Sorry, I didn't show that very well. I run it underneath. And then I turn it like this and then I run it underneath again. So really all of the knots are on the top. All right. And then when you get up here, then it's all loop-de-loop up there. But then you kind of eyeball it and figure out where, you know, you would need for making your bow. And then I feel like that's enough. All right.  Well, we just go under, over, under. So I go underneath this and loop it through. And then I go over the next one and then I go under the next one. So over, under, over, under. Sorry. The holiday cheer is getting to me. All right. So now it's essentially not a knot, but almost. So what you want to do is just want to take one of your little bunny ears. And then I like to go over. Some people do under, but the reason I like over is because I feel like the bow looks better in the end and you don't see the knot as much. And so I like to make sure that the center of it isn't like twisted or anything, that it's just even and straight. And then I just go straight through to the back and pull it out. But I like to kind of keep my finger right, you know, right here, if that makes sense, because I just don't want it to all come apart. And then that's how I make my bow. All right. And like I feel like this is a little bit like down a little too far. What the nice thing you can do with this is you can actually move these around a little bit to kind of achieve what you're trying to do. Also, if you're trying to cover up any tape, you can do that as well. So that is how I do my bow.   You can do like a fancy cut. I don't know. I'm not really into the fancy cut, like where you kind of take it in half and slice it. I'm not really into it. I just like a basic cut like that. I think that looks nice. So then that is what you get in the end. Again, you can like push this more to the top where I could put the knot like further up. Obviously the sides would just be kind of parallel if that makes sense. But that is how I do my gift wrapping.  I hope you guys enjoyed kind of taking a peek at how I gift wrap. And I got my fun little ribbon here too. If you guys have any questions about gift wrapping, like please leave them below. I'm always like really interested in, you know, what people do for their gift wrapping needs. But again, I worked at a retail location that did lots and lots of gift wrapping. And I was like the gift wrap queen. And I absolutely love just sitting in back and gift wrapping. Like that was totally my jam. Also, if you want to, you can put like little things on here as well. This is a really small package. So I don't have like a really room for like a seal or anything. Like a seal would essentially be like a sticker. I do have these that I've had for quite a while. They're just like, I don't know, little like branch berry things. They're kind of like in this ivory that matches.  So the nice thing about these, and I can't remember where I got these. I think I might have gotten them at like World Market many years ago. As you can essentially just like clip these on, or you can just stick them right in the center here. So it just looks really, really cute. Kind of fun. If you feel like it's lacking a little bit, you can always shove a couple of them in there. Also, this is great to do with like ornaments and things like that. Or just going to the craft store and grabbing like those long vines and branches. And just popping off like the holly berries and things like that. And then putting them as a little extra tie on your gift, which is really, really cute. So that is how I gift wrap everything. I hope you guys enjoyed. It was just kind of a fun little thing to show. And I know right now is like major gift wrapping season. Again, if you have any questions, feel free to post them below. And I will get back to you. Maybe I'll do more gift wrapping in the future, but you know, let me know if you like gift wrapping things. This was just a quick little thing I wanted to share because it is the season, you know? Anyway, well, I am going to let you guys go. Thank you so much for hanging out with me for a little part of your day. Make sure to give this video a thumbs up if you liked it. Also, hit that subscribe button. I am here every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday with new content for you guys. As well as if you are watching this in December of 2016, I am currently doing Vlogmas, so I am attempting to upload every day. However, I am filming every day. So if you don't see a video from me every day, it's okay. I'll have more coming up. All right, so I'm going to go. I hope you guys are having a fantastic day and I will talk to you later. Bye, guys.


the leadership qualities of President Nalini when you joined for him for when he called for you to join you. Yes, yes, very true, very true. Yes, yes, yes. Five years later, is it still the same? No, I don't think it is. I think I believed in him because the way he spoke for the Zambian people, I was convinced that he will be the best leader. I want to be very honest and sincere. He will be the best president Zambia has ever had. Yes, I believe that because I'll tell you, he has gone or under how many presidents, six presidents. So he should have learned skills or rather obstacles from them. Where did they go wrong? Where did they go right? He should have learned quite a lot. But unfortunately, he learned nothing from all these six presidents. Today, I'll tell you if he had to be classified for now is one of the West president Zambia has ever had. I'm sorry to say this, but I'm saying the truth. I'm saying the truth. He has let people of Zambia down because people expected a lot from him. They expected that being an economist, even the price of minimum will even come to $0.90. The price of all the commodities will come down, but it has turned out to be the opposite. Unless I think he pulls up his socks, he does the undoables and he makes Zambians happy. He'll be a good president.


Hello and welcome to the session. In this session we discuss the following question which says find four numbers in AP whose sum is 20 and the sum of whose squares is 200. So let's see how we can find the four numbers with sum as 20 and sum of the squares of these four numbers is given as 200.     Now minus 3D and 3D gets cancelled, minus D and D gets cancelled. So from here we get 4A is equal to 20. This gives us A is equal to 20 upon 4. Now 4, 5 times is 20. Therefore we get A is equal to 5. It's also given that the sum of these squares of these four numbers is 200.  Now we open these brackets using the identities.   Now this 6AD and minus 6AD cancels, 2AD minus 2AD gets cancelled. Then we have 4A square plus 20D square is equal to 200. Now taking 4 common from here, so we get inside the bracket A square plus 5D square and this is equal to 200. So from here we get A square plus 5D square is equal to 200 upon 4. Now 54 times is 200. So we get A square plus 5D square is equal to 50. Now substituting the value of A equal to 5 that we have found out, we get 5 square plus 5D square is equal to 50. That is, we have 25 plus 5D square is equal to 50. From here we get 5D square is equal to 50 minus 25 that is 5D square is equal to 25. So this gives us D square is equal to 25 upon 5 which is equal to 5. Thus we have D is equal to plus minus 5. So now we have got A is equal to 5 and D is equal to plus minus 5 and the given numbers were A minus 3D, A minus D, A plus D and A plus 3D. Now when we have D is equal to 5 then the numbers are given by substituting A equal to 5 and D equal to 5 in these numbers. So this would give us 5 minus 3 into 5 then the second number would be 5 minus 5. The next number would be 5 plus 5 then the next would be 5 plus 3 into 5 that is we have 5 minus 15 that would be minus 10, 5 minus 5, 0, 5 plus 5, 10, 5 plus 15 would be 20. So thus we say when D is equal to 5 the numbers minus 10, 0, 10, 20 are in AP. Now we take the other value of D that is minus 5 so when D is equal to minus 5 the numbers would be given by 5 minus 3 into minus 5 then 5 minus of minus 5, 5 plus of minus 5 then 5 plus 3 into minus 5. That is the numbers will be given by 5 plus 15 that is 20, 5 plus 5, 10, 5 minus 5, 0 and 5 minus 15 would be minus 10. Thus when D is equal to minus 5 the numbers 20, 10, 0, minus 10 are in AP. Thus the required numbers would be 20, 10, 0, minus 10 or minus 10, 0, 10, 20. So this completes the session. Hope you have understood the solutions for this question.