Hello, welcome to SSUnitex social decide and this is continuation of SEO Databricks tutorial. So today we are going to discuss about the file system utilities. So before going forward in this video, if you haven't watched the last video of this video series, so I would strongly recommend to watch that video, where we have discussed about the DBFS, which is Databricks file system. So let's get started with today's video. What is the file system utility? So inside the Databricks total, we are having five types of the utilities and one of the utility that is the file system utility. Second is the data utility, notebook utilities and many more. So going forward, we'll see the other utilities. But in this video, we are more focused on the file system utility. So what is the file system utility? So the file system utility allow you to access Databricks file system, which is the DBFS, making it easier to use as your Databricks as a file system. To list down all the available commands, we can run DButils.fs.help. So we'll see in practical, don't worry about the command. So why we are more concerned about learning the file system utility? Because if you want to play with the files and whatever the data is available inside the files, you should be understanding about the file system utility. Because here we are having multiple commands and those commands will be helpful for playing with the data. Here as we can see DButils. So what is the DButils? So DButils is nothing but the Python library and we can directly use this library. So under that DButils, we can use the FS for the file system and help. So help will be going to get all the list and commands under the FS. So total we are having seven different type of commands. First is the CP. So CP means copy. So it will be copy the file or directory from one location to another location inside the DBFS. So that we will see. Let's go inside the Azure Databricks browser and we'll try to see in practical. So here I have already created one of the notebook. So I'm going to directly start with this notebook. And for saving the time I have started this cluster that we have created. And here if we can go and we'll see under the DBFS which is the Databricks file system. Remember in the last video we have uploaded this employee.csv file. Now our first task is copy the file from this location under the file store and we will be creating another folder over here and that folder will be output and we'll be keeping the file on that. So we want to copy the employee.csv file from the file store to the output folder of that. So how we can do that? So for that first we have to use the DButils dot FS. Let me tell you about the available commands. So we can directly execute DButils dot FS dot help. So here it is listing all the commands. So as we can see FSutils if we can scroll down. So under that first we can see the CP. So CP will be copy from one location to another location as we can see inside the input parameter. So first is the from which is the string then to as a string then the recursive and it is having the Boolean as false by default value. Now when we can use this recursive we will be seeing in this video don't worry for now. Let me try to use this command. So for using this command we can go and write DButils dot FS dot CP and after that we have to specify the source path and the destination path. So as I told you we are having this source path we can directly go into the file and copy the path from here like we can copy this API one close go back to here. So this is our source. So from this location we want to copy the file into the output folder instead of the file store. So we can simply call this as output folder. So what it will be doing it will be creating the output folder and after that copying the file from file store to this location. Let me try to execute it. So we will see. So as we can see it is returning true it means your command got executed successfully. Let me go back to here and browse DBFS again. So here we can see the output. We can go inside the output and we will see this employed out CSV file. So we are successfully able to create this file and copying from file store to output folder. Next we want to copy this folder which is the output folder inside the input folder on the DBFS. So under the DBFS root directory we will be having another folder that will be input and under that input whatever is available inside the output we want to copy. So how we can do that let me go back to here. Here our source is the output. So we can simply cut this part and instead of supplying the file we can call this as output. So we want to copy this output folder from this output to an input. So we can call this as simply input. Now let me try to execute it. So it will be returning an error. Why it is returning an error? Because we have not set the value of the recursive as true. So whenever we are playing with the directories then we have to mark this recursive as true. Why it is required because let's assume inside the output folder we have only one file which is the employee.csv file. It may be having more than one files and folders under that. So if we are going to mark this recursive as true so it will go in each file and recursively accessing those and copying from output to input folder. So that's why we are required to mark this recursive as true. Let me try to execute it by pressing shift and enter. So it will be executed for sure as we can see true. So this command executed successfully and we can go back to here go to the dbfs again. Here we see the input and inside the input we are having this file. So whatever the content is available inside the output is successfully copied into the input folder. Now let me try to upload two files under this file store and then we will try to copy from file store to output folder and we will see. Let me try to upload a new file here and that file should be for the sales and click on done. So we should be having two files under this as we can see now we want to copy the files which is available under this from this file store to the output. So let me quickly go here and here instead of output let me call this as file store you want to copy from here to the output folder. Now let me try to press shift and enter. So it should be executed successfully as we can see. Let me go back here and let me go inside the browse dbfs go to the output folder. We should be seeing two files which is the employee and the sales closely we were having the employee file here as well. So that file got replaced while trying to copy. So this is all about the copy which is the CP now let me go inside the next command. Let me access first LS so in the last video we have already seen about the LS but let me recall here as well. So list of the file which is available in particular directory we can access by using the LS command. So let me try to write the dbfs.fs instead of CP this time we can supply LS then we have to specify the slash. So slash it will be going to return all the file which is listing under the root directory. So let me use the display command so it will be going to return as a table format. So here as we can see it is having total six folders but like these two folders are not visible in the UI as we have already seen in the last video. So other than that we can see all these four four folders. So this is the use of the LS for listing all the files. Next is the make directory. So inside the make directory we can understand it will be returning as a Boolean value whether true or false and here it will be going to say it will be creating the directory. We can read out it will create the given directory if it is not exist also creating any necessary parent directories. So what it mean? Let me quickly go here and try to understand. So the requirement is should be having one folder here and that folder something like the temp and under the temp we should be having another folder which will be the input. So the temp folder is not available and we want to create the input folder under that temp. So we can directly create both the folders by using the make directory. So let me go and use the DB utils dot FS dot make directory here we can specify the path. So the path we want to keep as temp outside the folder which will be the parent folder and under that we want to create input folder. So let me try to execute it. So here it is saying like this command is not valid. So let me try to see the exact command which is the MK DI RS. So let me use the correct one and try to execute it. So once we will be executed it is true. So we can go and we can test we should be having one folder with the temp and after that we can see the input folder under that. So it is creating directories and if parent directory is not available it will also create the same. Now let me go in the next one. So next is the move. So it will be going to move the file from one location to another location and the similar kind of recursive method will be happening here as we have seen in the copy file. So let me try to go and explain you that as well. So let me go and try to understand the requirement. So inside the temp we don't have any file. So our requirement is if we can go inside the file store. So inside the file store we are having these two files. So we want to move these two files from this location to temp. So how we can do that? Let me try to copy the path first and go back to here. And let me use the dbutils.fs.move directory then the source. So this is our source and we want to move from destination and destination is we can say instead of file store that will be temp. So it will be moving only a single file. Let me try to execute and we will see. So as you can see it's true. If we can go here we should not be able to see the employee file under the file store that we can select and we can see we don't have. Under the temp we should be seeing that file. Now if we want to let me try to upload the file again here and then we will see. Now we are having two files again. So we want to move all the files which is available under this to the temp folder. So again instead of supplying the file name we can simply supply the folder path. And after that here instead of supplying the file name we can supply the folder path and we need to mark the recursive as true. Let me try to execute and we'll see. So simply we can say we cannot move the file store from file store location to any another location. So let me do one thing. Let me use the input folder and we'll try to move the input folder from this location to temp. Let me try to execute it and as we can see it's true. Let me go back here. We should not see the input here. We should be seeing this input under this temp. So let me browse this and we'll see. So we should not be seeing the input here and we can go into the temp and we'll see the input. So now the next that is the put. So before going to understand about the put we need to read the data from the CSV file. So we can go here and inside the file store we have this employee dot CSV file. Let me try to copy the path and after that let me go back to here. And here we have to write some of the spark code. So you have to learn this and remember this spark code because we are going to use this very often. So for reading the data for any file we have to use the spark dot read dot option. So inside the option if your header as true. So we have to specify header value as true dot. Then we can see this is a CSV file. So we can supply the CSV file and this part. Let me put this in one of the data frame and we want to see the data from this data frame. So this we can check and we can see the data as of now this is one of the CSV file and it is having the data as ID name is and department name. So when we are going to use the put command it will be adding the data into this particular file but it will also replace the existing data. So how we can check that let me quickly go here and try to write DB utils dot FS dot put and we can see what is the syntax. So inside the put it is having the file. So you have to supply your path then whatever the content that you want to add and here we can see the overwrite value by default it is false but you can also make this as true. So let me go back to here and here you have to supply your file path. So let me copy this and we can paste this and after that it is asking about the content. So our content will be something like 6 comma name as a webho is could be 25 and department may be manager and after that the third option that is the true or false you can set but I am going to leave as it is and try to execute it. So as remember the file is already exist so that is why you have to use the last parameter which is the overwrite as true otherwise you cannot execute this command. So it will be creating the file at the time this value could be false. If file is already there then you have to add this as true. Now let me try to read the value from this file again. So whatever the value is available on that file we can see. So as we can see it got executed successfully but somehow we can see the data is having like 6 webho 25 manager only this data is there. So we cannot see the data which were present earlier. So we can see only this data. Now let me go into the last one which is the RM. So RM means remove directory. So if you want to remove any particular directory then we can remove that by using the RM command. So let me try to remove one of the M folder which is available this. So let me use the DBUtils.fs.rm for the remove. Here we can use the temp. Let me try to execute it. So it should be going to remove all the values. But here as we can see it is we have set as recursive as false. So we have to set as true. Why again as we can see inside this folder we have the multiple files. So it will be going to remove all the files. So that's why we have to mark this as true. Now we can see output as in true. So it means command executed successfully and here we can see we don't have that particular temp folder. So this is all about that we have seen for the file system utility. Here we have left one of the command which is the head. So what this head will be doing? So it will be returning a first max byte of the given file and string encoded. So what does it mean? Let me try to use and we'll see in practical don't worry for now. So let me try to use the DBUtils.fs.head then we have to supply the path. So remember like in here we can copy that particular path and we can paste back here. What is the next parameter it is having? So as we can see it is having file as the first parameter. Then is the max byte size and this is the optional we can skip that. So let me try to execute and we'll see in practical what it is returning. So as we can see it is returning all the values. But if we want to see only particular values if we can go here. So this will be returning this much character so that we can see 65563. But in this file we have only these many characters. So that's why it is returning only this character. But we want to see only six from this output then we can simply call this as one and we can execute so we'll see only six. If you want to see first three characters so we can supply as three and we can see like first three characters so it is included comma as well. So this is the use of the head command. So this is all about the available commands inside the file system. If you have still any doubt in any one of this command then you can comment your question in the comment box. I will try to clarify there as well. Thank you so much for watching this video. If you like this video please subscribe our channel to get many more videos. See you in the next video.


So one of the things that I've noticed a lot in our community is that there are a lot of women who are accidentally kind of pushing men away or repelling men or they do things where they're not even really aware that they're kind of showing red flags and signs that might give a guy pause to make him feel like maybe they're not the right woman for him. And so today I wanted to talk about 15 different things. I know there's a lot of them that repel good men and my name is Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. I have a friend of mine here with me today to actually talk about all this stuff. He is actually single. I know what you're thinking right now. You're thinking, man, you've got this amazingly handsome gentleman here with you on the broadcast. How can I pay attention when I'm looking at this amazingly beautiful man, Patrick? But really one of the reasons I brought him on here is because he's a really good guy and there's a lot of things about him that's really, really awesome. Besides his history, which he's a retired Marine Corps officer, he worked at the Pentagon and he can kind of talk more about these experiences if he wants to during this. And he's just an over all around really good guy. He's Catholic, he's a really good man. And so I wanted to bring him on here to discuss with you some of the things that his thoughts are about different subjects and who he is and what's going on. But so what are these 15 things that repel good men? And so the first one that I wanted to speak to, oh, by the way, say hello, Patrick, if you could. Hi, yeah, thanks, Matt. I just want to say I really appreciate you having me on your show here. This is a real honor and it's great to be friends with you and it's great to have an opportunity to meet some of the women that you help. Awesome, thank you. And absolutely, you are welcome to be here and thank you for being a part of this because it's cool to have different people's perspectives on and bring some other people that I know we share a lot of values and there's some values that we don't share. And so I thought that it would be really good to bring your perspective on some of these things. So number one, the first one that we're going to be talking about and is value misalignment. And so did you want to talk a little bit about this one, Patrick's actually the one who brought this one up. Yeah, absolutely, I can do that. So value misalignment I think is kind of, it's a broad thing. First, let me just tell you, I come from kind of rural Pennsylvania so and I live in Washington DC right now. And as you can imagine, the values that I had growing up are a little bit different than probably the more common values that you'll find in a more cosmopolitan city in America. So for me personally, I found that this was a really important thing when I moved here to Washington DC. And what I'll say is that values to me are important because if you're looking at potentially having a relationship with someone, you want to look at the long-term effects, you want to look at whether or not it'll last well over a long period of time. And what I'll say too is that this isn't to downplay in any way the natural attraction that you have for a member of the opposite sex. If you're really attracted to a guy or guys really attracted to a girl, like women that I've been attracted to, that isn't to say that that stuff isn't important. It's very important. It's just that for me, I have to have both of them together because if you have one and not the other, then it generally isn't gonna work. And the reason why is because you know, you need to be excited about each other, but at the same time, you need to have shared values so that you're able to really, you're headed in the same direction. Does that kind of give a broad overview? Yeah, absolutely. And if we wanted to get a little bit more specific, values are things that a lot of times they're deal breakers, right? Like religion or children, whether you want children or whether somebody is in alignment with you in regards to health, right? Are they doing things that are in alignment with health? For some people, that's a deal breaker. And so, you know, where are the two of you growing in life? That's a really huge one that I've found because if a man looks at a woman and he doesn't feel like the two of you can grow together and that you're going kind of in a same direction so that at least, you know, relatively same direction, you know, can I even see this person in my long-term future or not? And so one of the things Patrick talked about was pursuing, finding a woman who's at the very least pursuing spiritual growth or spirituality. And Patrick's Catholic, although he was mentioning that it's not even necessarily that she needs to be Catholic. Is that right? That's right, yeah. So to kind of follow up on what you said there, Matt, something that's really important to me is that the woman that I would be in a relationship with would wanna develop her relationship with God or whatever she calls that, right? She may not necessarily call it God but just kind of a higher power or a belief in that. And that's something that she wants to develop her relationship with, right? Her relationship with me is important but I'm looking to her to also want a relationship with God and wanna develop that. And that can be in a number of different ways, right? Meditation, prayer, doing just works a charity. And so how everybody does that may be a little bit different but at least putting a value on that to me is very important. And somebody who doesn't value that at all, that would be hard for me to be in a relationship with someone like that. Yeah, absolutely. For sure. So number two is negativity. And so one of the things that I get sometimes is women that are just really kind of stuck in being negative. And one of the things that you have to think about is that negative people attract negative people and it kind of repels everyone else. And don't get me wrong, right? We all have our problems. And but most guys, they don't want to start pulling on your problems as well, right? And start like constantly hearing about problems all the time and I've heard this before and I've seen this for sure. And it's one of those things like, so Patrick, how does it make you feel when you're around a woman who's negative all the time? Okay. If I'm around, so let me just say that I could be on a date with a woman and she could say to me something negative, right? Like maybe she had a really bad day or maybe just something didn't go her way. And I actually can be okay with that. Like if she just mentioned something that maybe is negative when I'm just getting to know her, I'm okay with that because that's something that maybe is just something that happened recently. I think what it is for me is when it's constant, right? It's like that's all they talk about is negativity. Then you have to say, okay, hey, here I've been with this person for less than an hour and whenever asked them something about themselves they just want to talk about something negative. That's a good indication to you that that probably isn't gonna be somebody that you're compatible with. And so you're right. Definitely at least if you're having a bad experience being able to see some light in that or something positive in that maybe that you learned. So even if you're feeling bad, you feel like saying something negative, I would encourage you to just try to look at it from the perspective of, hey, maybe I learned something from this and I can share that with someone that I'm on a date with. That's some great advice there, Patrick. And one thing I just wanted to throw in there as well is when you're negative, there's this thing called anchoring.  And so every time you see each other, you're gonna feel negative and ultimately it's going to destroy any kind of relationship that you have with each other just because of that. Totally. And so number three, moving on here. Number three is overly critical, putting him down. So most guys they want to feel like they're doing a really good job when they go out on a date. Like they're doing well. And so one of the things that I've kind of seen out there before and there's kind of a cultural element to this as well, but there's this thing called like guy chick humor, right?  And I've seen that women do that sometimes when they go out on dates where they'll just like make fun of each other all the time. And like for most guys, I don't think most guys want to experience that all the time.  Definitely, yeah. Good point you brought up, Matt.  So kind of male on male humor was almost constantly making fun of each other. I would say as a rule, as a general rule, like when I go on a date and if a woman will bust on me, I'm okay with that. Like I kind of think it's fun and funny and I'll kind of maybe ban her back a little bit with her and see where she's at, you know? But I would think that if you're going to do that, you should be willing to accept that kind of humor too. Like don't be ball busting. And then at the same time, you know, feel like you're really offended if somebody tries to tease you back because it's just, it just creates a dynamic where it's a little bit difficult to communicate. I would agree with you too, Matt, that, you know, if I'm out with a girl, if I'm getting to know her really well, even if I've gone on several dates, if the ball busting is constant, it can be fun, but it can be a little bit shallow too. It's like you're just, it's constant humor or constant sarcasm. And at some point, you're going to have to have a real conversation with them.  But when it's constant, it's kind of overdone. Yeah, yeah. For sure. All right, let's move to number four. Number four is expectations and mind reading, which is we were talking about this a little bit earlier and it's kind of a more kind of wide base of things, but thinking he should know what you want to do or how you work or what you think he should be doing, right? Every woman has different, I hear this all the time where women will say things like, men know what they should be doing, they're not doing it though, or, you know, whatever, right? And it's kind of one of those things, we all have unique personalities, our own likes and dislikes, our own expectations and stuff about how, you know, we want to experience the relationship or a dating experience. What do you have to say about this, Patrick? Okay, so this is actually one of my favorites because I can tell you that without a doubt, I do prefer to date women that tell me how they feel right away. And by that I'm saying that if something comes up on their mind, they're gonna tell me immediately, including if it bothers them. And while to some guys, and even to me sometimes, it can be a little bit irritating and that's okay. I find that much better because the lines of communication are open and she's getting it off her chest right away. She's telling me right away because the opposite of that is kind of bottling it up.  And then it kind of builds over time.  And then it comes out at some point and it's something that takes a lot more time to recover from. Instead of just bringing it up right away where we can address it immediately. And if I said something maybe where I came across offensive or something, I can apologize right away or the same for her. But I just feel like communication is so important. And when it breaks down too, the willingness to repair it, right? It's like if there was a misunderstanding, just the willingness to say, you know what, I'm gonna give her the benefit of the doubt or I'm gonna give him the benefit of the doubt and say, I can see it that way. And be willing to say, hey, let's really repair this, let's fix it and move on. Not to dwell on anything that really either wasn't intended or is easy to fix, if that makes sense. Yeah, yeah, open communication. I mean, it's one of those things where I hear this a lot in our community where women are like, okay, she's like trying to figure out what a guy means or she's trying to like figure out these clues or they'll be like, okay, what's he trying to tell me? And it's like, how about you talk to him?  And it's one of those things, we can play private detective or whatever, private eye and look for clues and try to discover what's going on and make up all these stories about it and all this kind of stuff where we can just like talk to each other like human beings and figure out what's going on. And I found that that's far more valuable to relationships, to me, to everybody. Definitely. You know, something I can add to that real quick was I think generally, culturally, there's a little bit more of a stigma attached to a woman being upfront about something than a man being upfront about it, right? Because women, it's as if they can't just come right out and say something. And I would say that, especially if you're already in a relationship, it's good to do that. And even if you're not, even if you're just meeting someone, if you like a guy, ask him out. Don't feel like he has to ask you out. Or make yourself, make it clear to him that you're interested in some way, even if you aren't directly asking him out. If you're not comfortable with doing that, just make it clear to him that you're interested and that'll definitely, if he isn't too much of a don, he'll be able to figure out whether or not you're interested in, yeah. I've been playing as Nazar, I didn't, when I was younger, I didn't get a clue. So that's my experience. No, I trust me, I totally know. And I talk about this a lot, right? It's the attainability thing, right? A lot of women sometimes they're so kind of caught up in leaning back and not showing too much interest and all this stuff that what ends up happening is that the guy doesn't even realize she's interested in them. Exactly. And so he's like, oh, I thought you weren't interested and that's why I didn't ask her out on another date because I had no idea she wanted to go on another day. And some women, and we were gonna talk about this a little bit more in a minute here. So I'm just gonna keep moving forward. All right, so number five is never happy, right? Nothing I can do will ever make you happy. And I mean, there's a whole lot of reasons why this is kind of a bad thing. And one of the big ones is that is that guys wanna make women happy, right? If a woman is easy to make happy, he will feel better about himself, right? Because a lot of guys, and I think it's kind of on a subconscious level, is we're trying to bring them through a good experience. And we wanna show them that we're a good man and that we can, we'll make sure that they're safe and protected and that they're feeling good and that they're having a great experience with them, right, and you're taking care of that. And so if it's really difficult, like you're never, ever happy, it's like for a lot of guys, they'll feel like they're drained, like there's nothing they can ever do. Like it's never gonna work because it's just too exhausting to be around you. Yep, yep, I would say that's something that's really important, Matt, is the idea that when I think about being in a relationship with a woman, it's like, I'm gonna take care of her. I'm totally going to, whatever experience we're going through, it's like sometimes I really wanna plan it out, so it just goes really, really well. So she has a wonderful experience, but we're having a great experience together. And when I've been in relationships too before where you try to do that and it was just very difficult for her to be happy. And to a certain degree, some of that is beyond your control as a man, right? Because it's like happiness, at the end of the day, happiness really is a decision. And just being happy with what you have, I think is really critical. Even if it doesn't always go the way you planned it to go, but always being able to see the positive in that. And I think sometimes that definitely can drive a good guy away if he's trying to put a lot of effort into something to really make it well for her, for both of them. And she just doesn't really see the value in it. But I'm sure that it's the same way with women too. Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. And that's one of those things. Like we're talking about what turns men off, but a lot of these things turn women off as well. And we're talking to women so that doesn't always get brought up, but I do wanna bring that up. So we're on number six. And number six is she needs to be right, right? Huge turnoff, fighting to prove that she's right all the time, getting stuck on something just to show that she's right. And really more than anything, this is kind of a maturity thing. And I think not necessarily the older you get, but the more mature you get, the more you realize that you're probably wrong a lot. I used to think I was right all the time. And then reality started hitting me. And it was like, oh yeah, I guess I'm not right. And it can be hard to let go of that, right? It can be really difficult, which is why it's such a maturity type of thing. Absolutely, yeah. You know, something that I remember when I learned it several years ago, but I didn't really take it to heart until a little while after that was seeing value in conversation kind of for its own sake, right? Like I go into a conversation or into a discussion or even a spirited debate with someone looking to learn something. And I really want to challenge, like I really value someone who is open to learning and is open to challenging their beliefs because I'm open to challenging mine. And I want to hear what someone has to say, even if it's something that I may kind of right off the bat feel like I disagree with, I'm still going to listen to them, especially if I'm friends with them or I care about them. I'm going to want to hear them out because they believe very strongly about something I want to hear them. But I always remember the principle. What was it was it's not, it's what's right, it's not who's right. And I kind of always stuck with me because then I said, you know what, that's a really good principle to live by because then when I sit down and have a discussion with someone, it's more fulfilling. You know, it's like, okay, I can be wrong. You know, I can be wrong a lot. You know, I'd probably be wrong most of the time. And still you gain so much value when you open yourself up to the possibility of being wrong that when you're with someone who can't be that way, it's just difficult to have a conversation. You can still gain value from a conversation with them, but it's just more difficult. Yeah, for sure. For sure, but it's, yeah, when, yeah, I mean, I could talk about that all day long. So we'll just move on to the next one. All right, so trying to lock him down way too early. This is number seven, trying to lock him down too early. So I've seen this one in so many different forms, rear it's ugly head. And, you know, one of them is like talking online, but you want to be exclusive already, right? Like you're just talking, you guys are just talking online and the woman's like, you know, well, I don't talk to more than one person at a time.   Was that the whole thing? She's like, yeah, now he ghosted me. And you're like, okay. So, you know what I mean? It's like, is that even ghosting really? Or like two weeks in and you're asking him what you are to each other or trying to put a label on him too soon. That can just, it can just come off as really desperate, really clingy, really, like you don't see your own value and like you're so desperate to get some guy in the spot of my boyfriend that you're like just grabbing him and putting him there. He broke up with me on Instagram. I was expecting it on Facebook. Right, right, exactly. Yeah, you know, Matt, I think it's a good point to bring up because I'm trying to think here, you know, like if I met someone that I really like and even if a couple of weeks into it, they may mention some things about potentially a relationship, that wouldn't drive me away. Like just them bringing it up wouldn't drive me away. But what I would say is that if they're, like you're saying, if they just met you online and your online communication is the only thing you've had or if you've met and gone on a couple of dates and they're immediately, I guess, maybe trying to become a little bit controlling, that could be an indication of a problem. And it's just, it's not necessarily that it would drive me away right away, but it's kind of an indication of, is this person, are they happy being alone by themselves already? And that's something too that I think I look for is, is this person happy with their life already? And if they're not, like, do they need to be in a relationship in order to be happy? Because if they have to be in a relationship, that probably isn't good for either of you. Right, yeah. No, and one of the things I wanted to point out that Patrick just said here was he was talking about, like, bringing up this conversation of what she's looking for. And notice how he said, notice that he said that he wouldn't be totally turned off if you were talking about the fact that you were looking for a relationship. And why is that, right? Why is that? It's because Patrick himself is looking for a relationship.  I'm looking for a relationship. Like, it's normal conversation to have.  That is concerning. That's a real concern to have because it shows that he's not actually looking for that. And so that, you know, it's, and you can convince a guy of this if you really want to, but I'd suggest staying away from that strategy. Yep. So, all right, so let's go on to the next one. Number eight is judging him without knowing him. So people make meaning out of everything, right? And I hear this all the time, women kind of looking at different things and being like, there's a conversation in our community the other day where this woman posted these text messages from this guy and it was literally like, hey, what's up? Haven't talked to you in a while, like we should meet up for a drink.  And I'm like, how did you get that out of those three lines of text that he sent? You know, it's just, it can be a huge turnoff, right? Especially if you're kind of turning this guy into all of your ex-boyfriends that you hate and, you know, throwing that onto him and making all this meaning out of it and stuff. And there's a beautiful thing that one of the women in our community said today. And it was something about how you shouldn't, you shouldn't have a conversation living in the past, but instead to have a conversation coming from the moment. And what she was talking about was how a lot of people will drag their past into their conversation and then just judge people with it. And it can just be a massive turnoff. Definitely. Yeah, absolutely. You know, one example I can think of was I've had a date with a gal and it was, it went really well.   And she said, hey, can I, can I get your number? And I said, yeah, let me just, let me just message it to you. Right. And because we were, I was kind of in a rush and I did end up messaging it to her, but it wasn't, you know, the messages that I got later from her were, you know, kind of like freaking out. It was a red flag.  And, you know, I just didn't want her into my life because this is all that past experience that she'd had and she was dragging that forward. And so I had to, you know, kind of talk about that a little bit, but that's something that's just, yeah, it can be, you know, definitely live in the present and give each person essentially, you know, the fair shake that they deserve, give each person that credit upfront, you know? Yep. Yep. Absolutely. That situation that you just mentioned, I've heard so many different women mention something exactly like that, right?  So, all right, so number nine, number nine is you're pretty, but you're not interesting. I know, first off, I want to say none of the women in our community are like this, right?  And so, one thing I wanted to mention on how to be interesting here real quick, because a lot of times people, they don't, I mean, it's not always necessarily a deal breaker that you're like some amazing person that's got all these, you know, great stories to tell or whatever, because there's two ways to be interesting. The first one is to have interesting things to say. And the second one is to be interested in him, right? Interested in another person, becoming curious. And it's amazing how much somebody, when you're interested in them, will think that you're interesting just because you're so curious about them and talking about what's going on with them and present to them and actually building a real connection with them. Absolutely, in fact, I mean, who does everybody enjoy talking about the most? Themselves. Themselves, right? And so it's like, I mean, if you go on a date and you meet a guy that you really like and you ask him to talk to you to tell you about himself, that alone is going to increase his attraction for you. You know, the other thing too is that, I think sometimes both men and women think they have to be this like amazing conversationalist.  And it's like quite the opposite. It's everyone, everyone. I haven't met a single person that I have not found interesting in some way. You know, but some people just need to be willing to kind of come out of their shell, right? And in my experience, it seems that the majority of time when someone isn't interesting, it's because they just don't feel comfortable either talking about themselves, talking about an experience they had, or they're afraid that they're kind of gonna be put down for that. And I think that's something that you should definitely let go of.  You know, tell them a really zany experience you had, some adventure you went on when you were traveling.    That's a really high bar for them to reach their Patrick.   That actually would be a pretty good story. We should teach that one.   And you can open up about that stuff. And it's not always necessary that the person understands everything that you're even talking about. Necessarily, I've noticed that a lot of times I'll talk to people and they have no idea what I'm talking about, but they're having a great time in the conversation, right? Yeah. And so. All right, maybe we should move on to the next one here. All right. All right, so number 10 is you're unattainable, right? Not approachable, you reject a man and then saying that he's not man enough to continue pursuing you. I've heard this a lot, right? Or, you know, he doesn't feel like he can actually win you over or get into a relationship with you. This is what we were talking about before with the one where you like actually tell a guy that you're actually interested in him or you give him some clues or you let him know in some way. And I saw some women post in the comments, they're like, oh yeah, if I tell him he's interested then he just disappears and I never see him again. And it could be that you're doing something different than what we're talking about here. A lot of times I'll say like show a guy that you're interested in a woman's like, all right, then they write him like this five page love letter professing how they wanna be together for the rest of their lives and all that kind of stuff. And it's like, that's not what I was talking about. Oh man, yeah, and the same goes for guys too. I mean, it's like, I really think it's important that both men and women make themselves approachable and attainable because if you're not then a lot of people, a lot of great people, even if you don't end up being in a relationship with them, even if you just end up becoming friends with them or they're a connection of some other kind that brings value to your life. I mean, how incredible is that? It's like, I often think to myself if I can make myself more approachable that's gonna only increase the value in my life because I'm gonna meet more people and potentially meet more people that are not only are gonna bring value to my life but I'm gonna be able to impact them positively too because that's something that I'm really passionate about too and that is not just in my business but also in just in life in general is really taking care of those that depend on me. And it really does bring a lot of value to me and I know it does other people too. So for women in particular, if you can make yourself more approachable and even if that means making eye contact, smiling just really simple stuff to make it appear to the guy that you're interested in. Hey, it's an invitation for you to approach me. You can do a lot without you necessarily having to put a lot of risk out there if you will.  There's gonna be some women that are like, I don't want most guys to approach me and all that kind of stuff. And that's fine, and there's definitely a lot of different situations out there depending on who you are and what your situation is and what your experience is and what kind of the town you live in. I mean, there's real kind of restrictions and different things for every single person. And so it's one of those things where whenever you're listening to some of the stuff that we talk about, you have to think about it in your situation as well. So it's not necessarily blanket, you should be approaching dudes, right? Or chasing dudes or whatever, right?  And at the same time, you can also give him indications that you're interested in him so that he'll keep doing it if he's a good guy and he likes you. The only guys that will continue to pursue you when you try to stop them and you reject them and all that kind of stuff are guys that are really aggressive. And then if you're complaining that all you do is attract players, then it's one of those things where it's like, maybe you should stop being so hard on good guys who will stop because they don't want to pursue a woman who's not interested in them and it's not a game to them and they're not trying to, you know, prove how much they can make a woman interested in them, right? They're looking for somebody who's interested in them as well and maybe she's not quite as interested but that can grow and build over time. And so guys a lot of times will, they'll just, you know if a good man sees a woman and she's like, hey, I'm not interested, he's like, okay, and he moves on, right? And so you have to know that because a lot of women out there kind of think men are like these confidence machines and they just go after what they want and if they didn't really want her badly, you know that's like, you know, that's not necessarily the case. And so it's just important to think about that kind of stuff, so. Totally. All right, so let's move on to number 11. Number 11 is immaturity, right? And so Patrick actually came up with this one. And so we were kind of talking about a woman that just kind of takes and the different levels of like somebody in a relationship and usually there's kind of like this level at the bottom where somebody is just like a taker and they just, they get into relationships just to take and take and take and take instead of growing and building something and giving and taking responsibility for themselves and the relationship. What did you want to say about that, Patrick? This I think is something that escapes a lot of people and that is that, and not necessarily for a bad reason. My impression is that a lot of people go to a relationship thinking, you know I really want to be in a relationship and I want to go to this so that I can get security, you know, that connection, you know with someone that I'm really attracted to. They're thinking a lot about what is it that they're going to get from the relationship. And I by no means am trying to say that you are not going to get from a relationship. You're going to get wonderful stuff from it and I encourage and I think it's awesome. However, one of the things that's important to me when I'm evaluating whether or not I'm going to be with someone long term is are they primarily coming to the relationship to get something or are they primarily coming to build something? Because if you're coming in with the attitude of I'm coming here to get something primarily as soon as there's any kind of dissonance and problem it's going to be a lot easier for them to say, you know, this isn't working, I'm just going to leave. And the challenge with that is that if you really want to invest your time in someone and build something, if you go in with the thought process of hey, I want to give to this and you know, I want to enhance this person's life because that's kind of the attitude I have when I enter a relationship. I say, you know what, I want to improve this woman's life. How do I do that? How do I make her a better, help her make herself a better person? Cause obviously she has to want better herself, you know? But how do I give to this? How do I, you know, cause that's the thing too. I feel like maybe to a certain degree the term love, right? It's thrown around a lot and love is a feeling. You know, it's that butterfly feeling that you have. Again, I'm not trying to say that the feelings of passion aren't incredible and great. They're awesome. But I really think of real love as commitment, right? It's a decision day in and day out that I am going to continue to love this person this day and then I'm gonna do it tomorrow and then I'm gonna do it the next day. You're doing it on a continuing basis and you're doing it to the point that you build something that becomes incredible. You know, and it's something though that's built over a long period of time and it takes patience and sometimes it's not easy. But your commitment to that is really what makes it work. Absolutely. Absolutely. Beautifully said there, Patrick. That was like poetry, like poetry. All right, so let's move on. Number 12. So lacking confidence, huge turn off constantly. The way that I'm kind of defining this one is constantly fishing for compliments or reassurance that you're okay or that you're what he wants, right? Like, am I really who you wanna be with? Are you gonna leave me? That kind of thing. It's just, it can get exhausting for a guy to experience that and listen to that and have to hear that over and over and over again. It's like, yes, yes, I hear who I want, yes, I love you. Yeah, I don't know what I'll be with you. Yeah, all right, and it just, it's painful. It's just a painful thing to experience for a guy. Right. Did you have anything you wanna say to that, Patrick? I liked the microphone in the face, that was cool. Trying to keep it interesting, I don't know.  I think the problem comes in where they're so lacking in self-confidence that they're just incapable of really functioning on their own without you being there and encouraging them, right?  Which isn't necessarily what all the women in here are looking for, but I'm just bringing up kind of from my perspective, right? Like, if I'm gonna have a family with somebody, then sometimes I'm like, am I trusting this woman with my children when I'm not there, you know? And so it's a lot about trust, too. And confidence is, it's more than just saying I can do it, right? It's or needing reassurance, but it's actually following through on what you say you're gonna do. It's about trust, you know? Yeah, so. No, absolutely, absolutely great, great points, great points there. All right, let's move on to number 13 here. So 13 is emasculation.  I could probably do a whole video on emasculation if I really wanted to. But it's just one of those things, like there's kind of this thing in America right now where it's kind of become cool to cut, like make fun of men and like dog on men. And I keep hearing it, like I keep going to these conferences and personal development seminars in the States. And I keep hearing people like making fun of men and I'm just like, oh, it's just so cringy every time I hear it. And most guys, they don't wanna experience that, you know, unless a guy is really low self-esteem and he's like, yo, I am kind of a pathetic human being. You know, unless he feels that way, he doesn't wanna hear you making fun of them all the time. Yeah, you know, like we said earlier, the banter is fun, right? But I mean, that's good humor and that's done in good taste. But if you meet someone, I mean, no woman would want this either, right? I mean, if a guy was really critical of a woman, like why would she wanna hang out with them? You know, and the same goes for a guy, like if she's just being negative constantly or telling him stuff and just constantly dissatisfied then it's just a drag, you know?   And you should always, I think it's always important to be honest, but you know, honesty can be couched in a insured way so that you're not necessarily tearing the person down even though you're telling them how you feel. Right, absolutely, absolutely. For sure, for sure. And the emasculation thing kind of encompasses more than just kind of tearing them down and stuff. It's, but it is, and you know, everybody wants to be appreciated. Everybody wants to be loved. Everybody wants to feel good about themselves and, you know, just belittling people or making fun of them, especially men in terms of things that make them feel like men, which a lot of people kind of do because they know that it hurts and it's kind of become this okay thing. I'm not gonna harp on that anymore. Let's move on. So number 14 is arguing about everything. And so every conversation turns into an argument and you're just constantly arguing back and forth about everything all the time. I don't know, have you ever experienced this before, Badger? You know, it's interesting. I have experienced it a little bit, but as a general rule, most of the relationships I've been in have not had a lot of like really big fights, big arguments.  It's, you know, it kind of gets the passion going for them a little bit. And I, so there are guys that really like women who are a little bit that way. I can say for me personally, I tend not to, right? So I get along a little bit better with women who are a little bit more even keel. And again, everybody has their moments and everybody, you know, goes through motion. So I'm not saying that I've never had an argument, but I have been in relationships before where there was a lot of argumentation, a lot of challenging. And while that can be a little bit fun, for me, it kind of gets old really quick. And so I would say that's something that I'm not attracted to. But again, that's me. I'm not necessarily speaking for all guys. Right.  I don't think it's very healthy either. If you're looking for a healthy relationship and being a healthy relationship. I met a girl one time several years ago where that's what it was, is we were just arguing all the time. And she was, at one point I was like, I'm done, I don't want to talk anymore. And she was like, are you serious? And she's like, are you saying you don't want to date me? And I'm like, why would I want to date you? All we do is argue all the, every single time we talk. All the time for hours. Like, why would I want that? Like, well, who wants that? I don't know. That was, we were trying to explain to her why you were right, right, man? That's exactly what it was. That's exactly what it was. All right. And then so the, let's move on to the last one and then ask some questions, get a couple of questions in here. So number 15 is social media stalking. And this is liking every post that a guy has or posts that he has from a year ago or whatever. One that I've seen a lot in our community is the Facebook or whatever messenger will say that he's online. And so you message him asking why he's not talking to you or if he's talking to another woman right now or something like that. And every time I see that, I just like, I like a little piece of me dies inside because it's just, it's so cringy. And it's like, oh, don't ever do that again. And one of the things Patrick is actually one of those guys that's not on the internet very much. He's like, his like social media is like non-existent, right? Yeah. Except for the point that one of the things we didn't mention at the beginning was that Patrick is actually, wait, maybe we did mention it a little bit. Yeah, we mentioned it a little bit in the middle where Patrick actually, he teaches people about finances and investing and making money and stuff. And he has a book called The Money Mission. And if you're actually interested in picking it up, go check it out on Amazon. And so it's, he uses social media for those things, but he's not like a big social media person. And we keep having these discussions in our community where women are like, oh, well, he hasn't shown that we're in a relationship on Facebook or he hasn't posted in his profile a picture of us being together. And I'm just curious, like if a woman said something to you about that, like how would you feel or what are you thinking right now, hearing that there's some women out there that are really concerned about that? Yeah, first let me say thanks for the pitch, Matt, for my book, I appreciate that. But the thing I would say is actually I had, I was in a relationship with a gal who I had that issue with actually because so let me just first say like, Matt, like you said, like aside from the work that I've done with my business, I'm like literally never on social media.  And because nobody ever finds me and you know, I'd even log on after six months, you know, and people were like, why didn't you like my post? You know, and do you not like me anymore? You know, and so I realized there are a lot of people that place a lot of importance on social media. And I realized that I tend not to. And so I was actually in a relationship where the gal friended me on Facebook and I didn't even know because I'm never on there. You know, and I was like, hey, I was figured we're in a relationship. And she came back later and said, you know, she hadn't told me, but she was upset that I hadn't accepted her friend invite. And you know, that took some talking through and we got to the bottom of it. But I think that's something that's really important. It's knowing kind of who it is that you're getting into a relationship with and knowing what's important to them. And know too that I realized a lot of people love social media. You know, so just make sure you maybe know the person that you're dating and what they feel about it. Because if they're not on there, if they're not responding to you, it may not necessarily mean that they're not interested or they don't like you or anything of the sort. They could like you a lot. It's just they don't, you know? They aren't on those platforms. Right, right. Yeah, absolutely. For sure. Okay, cool. So that's the 15. If you guys missed the 15, I'm gonna go over real quick again. The first one is value misalignment. Number two is negativity. Three is overly critical, putting him down. Number four is expectations in mind reading. Number five is you're never happy. Six is she needs to be right. Seven is trying to lock him down way too early. Eight is judging him without knowing him.  Number 10 is you're unattainable. 11 is immaturity. 12 is lack of confidence. 13 is emasculation. 14 is arguing about everything. And 15 is social media stalking.


The Appalachian Advantage plan is the simpler, better way to get the phone you actually want instead of paying hundreds of dollars up front.  It's called the Appalachian Advantage and is available at Appalachian Wireless. The Hatfield and McCoy Historic Site Spring Cleanup will begin Friday, May 13th and last until Saturday, May 14th. Over the course of the two days, eight sites will be cleaned in order to preserve the history of the land. Tomorrow being Friday the 13th, we will be starting our annual cleanup of the historic sites pertaining to the Hatfield and McCoy feud. We've done this annually for probably the last eight to ten years. Tony Tackett, director of tourism and our commissioners and all, we wanted to do this for our community and for preserving history. That is our heritage and we want to protect that. If you'd like to join us, you're more than welcome. It is work and the main thing is I want you always to try to preserve our heritage, to maybe put a smile on a kid's face someday when they ask them where you're from that they might say I'm from the land of the Hatfield and McCoy's from eastern Kentucky. The cleanup will begin at 1pm on Friday the 13th at the Perry Klein Cemetery. From there, participants will move to Dill Cemetery. There will also be a number of historic sites to clean the following Saturday. We started the cleanup on the historic sites, I'm going to say it's between eight and ten years ago and actually how did it get started? It was actually Tony Tackett, the director of tourism's idea and we both agreed and we've reached out for help for the community, this and that. But again, it's something that we want to do. We're proud of those sites, we hope our community is proud of those sites. We have visitors from all over the world that visit these sites every year and we try to keep those sites maintained for best appearance. Bob hopes to instill a sense of pride in the people of this area by keeping these historic sites preserved and cleaned. As far as the cleanup goes, we'll be using tools naturally, power chain saws, weeders, all that type of equipment. And every once in a while we get tired, but there will not be any food near no classic. For more information on how you can get involved with the Hatfield-McCoy Historic Site Spring Cleanup, contact Pike County Tourism CVB at<PHONE_NUMBER>. For Mountain Top News, I'm Kelsea Dean.


Hey, everybody. Bob Trossett here, post game with head coach Dominic Dawes. Coach, it wasn't what you're looking for this weekend. What did you tell the guys after tonight? Well, I mean, I thought we played a lot better tonight. And that's kind of what we talked about. We've talked all year. The score doesn't matter. It's going out and trying to get better every night. And I thought we were better tonight than we were last night. I don't think tonight was a 5-1 game. 5-on-5, it was a 1-1 game. Three power play goals, lose a special teams battle. That's how it goes. Really, it kind of just lost, like you were saying, lost control in the third period. You talk about their efforts in the first two periods, especially Caffery and the goal for you. I mean, Jake, again, he's been our backbone all year. But the other guys up front, I mean, I thought we worked a lot harder tonight. We tried to create a lot more opportunities tonight. And they got a couple lucky bounces early. And it's nature of the beast, I guess. Mindset going into this coming weekend up at Buffalo? Oh, again, it's just hard work of practice. Try to get better every day and move forward. That's kind of what we're trying to do. Happy Thanksgiving to you and squad. Best of luck up north. You too, thank you. Bob Tross with head coach Dominic Doss. See you guys next week.


One of my most requested video topics whenever I post a room makeover or a Transformation or just any form of design where there's a before and after element is how it kind of came to be I get so many comments being like Wow, I love how you painted that window trim black, but that's just too daring for me I'm too scared or wow I love how you added that bed But I would have never done that color because I'm just kind of out of my comfort zone and today I thought I would sit down and share with you guys my top tips for anyone that wants to do a room makeover It does not have to be hard you guys There are truly so many tips that I have learned myself over the years And I know when I first started kind of making over my spaces because as many of you guys know I am not a trained interior designer I am not someone who went to school for this. I never really had practice I actually worked at West Elm for about a year and I feel like that's where I got a lot of my kind of background I guess in interior decorating. I'm also extremely excited because today's video was made possible by Adobe Photoshop Express They are sponsoring today's video, which is honestly a dream because I've been using Photoshop since high school I use Photoshop every single day in my business So the first thing I want to touch on because this is kind of like the basis of why this room is going to be made over is Basically, why are you making over the space? Is there something that you saw that you liked? Was there an inspiration video that you saw? Maybe you watched one of my videos or maybe you watched one of McKinnon's videos or maybe you watched an Alexandra Gator video Or whatever it is What was your primary source of inspiration for this room design? Did you see a new dresser that you loved? Did you see a new bed you thought would look nice in your space? Did you want to change up the paint color? This is truly kind of your starting off point because you want to determine what things you want to change And what things you want to add to your space for example in my past bedroom I had like a peachy pink wall and I loved this. I thought it was so fun I got inspired by this primary inspiration photo as you guys probably saw in that video if you did watch it And this is what really sparked my creativity and design kind of direction for this space and so I went off this photo And I was able to create a room that I really loved but then about a year later The color green really started trending and interior design and I really wanted to add that green pop to my room I wanted to also feel a little bit more masculine because the peachy pink was kind of on the feminine side I loved it during the time I had it But I wanted to give it a little bit of a refresh and make it a bit more dark and moody And that's exactly what I did I actually opted for a green color for the wall and then from that green color I was able to basically redesign the rest of my space coordinating back to that green color And that was my primary source of inspiration being able to jot down a couple of notes as to what prompted you to kind of Want to do a room makeover is a great starting off point because those are key things that you need to change in your space From there we're going to move into step number two, which should help you out a little bit more Mapping out the features of a room will make your room design flow so much easier you guys I just want to make it as simple as I can for you So mapping out your room features is 100 percent something that everybody should do I actually do this for every single room design you guys see on my channel Even if I don't feature it within the video because a lot of times I don't just because it's more of a behind the scene Sort of a situation what I mean by mapping out your room design is actually going in And drawing out a layout of your room all of the walls all four of them all seven of them However, many you have in your space you're going to want to draw those out You're also going to want to make sure to draw any doorways or any windows And these can be indicated with little like boxes or little swinging open door sections This does not have to be anything crazy you guys But this is such a great visual indication of where you have space for furniture in your room and where you have space for decor And basically the overall size and you could bring this with you when you are shopping Whatever it might be this room layout truly should be the first start to your makeover Because it's just going to give you kind of a kicking off point and a roadmap for your design A room's features also give you a humongous humongous guideline as to where furniture should go For example, if there is a fireplace in your living room traditionally your furniture is supposed to be oriented towards the fireplace Now in my living room, I didn't do that because I broke the rules a little bit But that kind of gives you an idea But most times when you are starting out in room design or you want to transform a space Going with the room's features and using those as your kicking off point is a great way to decipher where pieces should be oriented I might get a lot of questions about room layouts or where I should put my sofa or where my tv should go Or where my bed should be oriented and just use your room's features to kind of guide you in a direction that just seems right Moving on to tip number three, this is all about creating a visual mood board for you to base your design off of I do this for absolutely every single room that you guys have ever seen me design on my channel Again, if I do not share it in the video, it has been done on the back end. I personally love creating mood boards I am a visual learner myself So being able to visualize what a color palette can look like or what decor elements I want to feature or what like accent color I want to add into the space and where I can add it elsewhere So I'm going to share with you guys how to easily use the adobe photoshop express app Which can be found on your phone I will link it below for you guys if you want to download it And this right here is what the app should look like once it is downloaded You're going to want to also gather all of your inspo photos So whether they be photos of completed rooms from Pinterest or pieces from online that you have found like lamps Rugs whatever it is gather your inspo photos and once you click into the app There are three main sections at the top you have edit collage and mix the two that I mainly use are collage and mix But if you do tap the edit feature, you can actually edit photos really nicely They have so many different features you can fine-tune edit. They have filters that are absolutely incredible But personally for the mood boards. I love using the collage and mix feature So if you tap the collage feature you can just select a whole bunch of images And it will actually kind of predetermine a collage for you and you could switch up the layout And you could switch the photo orientation and kind of mix it up a little bit This is totally for a simple quick mood board, but I personally love using the mix feature to customize my mood board So I start off with one photo. I go to the bottom I'm going to click aspect ratio Then I'm going to click print and I'm going to select the a5 option This will just make a large canvas for us to work on our mood board for You're also going to want to go ahead and change the background to white So tap background and click the white icon And then you're going to go on the right side to the layers and drag and drop that background Underneath your bed or whatever photo you have there and you can adjust any photo on top and add multiple layers as you'd like So I'm starting off with a couple of inspo pictures here Then I'm going in with a particular night stand, but as you could see the background is white I'm going to go to the bottom click cut out Let that load for a couple of seconds and once it has loaded select auto on the screen And it will actually cut out the entire white background and allow you to have a nice kind of cut out sticker shape That you can place wherever you want on your mood board And so from here what you're going to want to do is just add all of the images that you personally like I loved this rug here. So I added that to my mood board After five images make sure to save it and then re-import it so you can add more images So I saved it re-imported it. I'm adding this photo of a pillow here I cut it out as well using the cut out feature And if you have a photo with a very busy background, you can also manually cut out items as well Which I love so I just used my finger to trace around this item You can clean it up with the eraser tool if need be but I cut this one out manually And I was able to place it in my mood board once I finished it my mood board looked like this Which is a great starting off point to any makeover I love how simple and easy this is but I also thought I would share with you guys How you could take a photo of a blank space in your room Use the mix feature on the photoshop express app and I can literally drop in a nightstand that I might want to use My space so I found this one online Dropped it in cut it out placed it in my space and I'm actually able to get a visual Of what this nightstand might look like of course It's not going to be a hundred percent spot on but I added this lamp and nightstand And I kind of have an idea of what the space might look like and that's just a couple of ways I like to edit my photos and create mood boards on the go with the photoshop express app You could download it using the link in the description box below So if you're going to go ahead and paint your space whether it be all of the walls one of the walls Whatever it might be I suggest going out and getting the colors that you personally like getting a couple shades of each In swatch form which you can most likely do at a Lowe's or a home depot Whatever it might be coming back home and actually swatching these on large pieces of paper That way you can use them around your room Tape them up on the wall after they have dried and let them sit and resonate with you for about 48 hours or so I think that this really gives you the time that you need to see it throughout the day And as the color shifts with the lighting because that is a humongous factor Maybe at nighttime it's more warm tone in the morning time it might be more cool tone So select the color that you like the most over a couple of days And that's your new color for your space Like for example when I painted my little office nook that dark blue color during the daylight I quite liked it, but at nighttime it was so so so dark and just dreary in there I knew I needed to change it and that's exactly what I did the next day. I ended up painting it a lighter color So now we are going to talk about budget which a lot of you guys are like Why didn't you talk about this first drew and I have a reasoning behind this? I think that seeing a budget or seeing how much you spend on a space really stumps creativity because a lot of times For a lot of us um budget is not huge You know, we have a small budget to work on different projects or different spaces throughout our homes And a lot of times you can be like wow all I can afford is one accent chair But I personally think that you should map out and brainstorm your dream space and work towards that or Tailor that to what you have budget wise so that makes sense So let's just say for example in your bedroom you have a bed and a dresser and you really like them You don't mind them at all and you have $2,000 to spend on your room makeover Which can be a lot for some people or it could be a little for some people and you realize to yourself You know, I need to spend money on a rug. I cannot make my own rug. So I'm going to go ahead and spend money on a rug I really like my dresser, but there's another dresser. I love, you know that maybe lienne ford came out with that cretin barrel And I love this dresser so much. It has these really cool knobs on it Well that dresser is $2,500 it's out of budget I can't purchase that but I can achieve a similar look if I purchase similar knobs So I'm going to allocate a hundred dollars in my budget towards dressing up my current dresser DIYing it a little bit and making it look similar to that lienne ford dresser without having to spend $2,500 on it and this is what I always always do I love being able to utilize my diy brain or like my creative brain I guess you could say and work towards larger goals with a smaller budget Tip number six is all about not rushing the process This is something that is fun a room makeover is really really fun and you do not need to rush it That is something I had to tell myself for a long time And it's something that really honestly made my rooms not end up how I wanted them to look I would rush the process just so I can upload a video on my channel or I was able to finish a project Whatever it might be let it things sit if you don't like a dresser that you bought it is totally fine to return it You guys do not ever think that you cannot do that either just go ahead and let it sit with you You know add a couple of decor pieces to it and always consider that decor elements change everything So there's been so many times I've done a makeover where I put a dresser here And a chair over there and I don't like the way that they look together But when I added a throw pillow to the chair And I added a piece of wall art that tied in colors from the chair and a couple of bases that also coordinated back to it It meshed very very well So you have to also keep in mind that decor elements can tie everything together and they're the finishing pieces to any room design Trusting your instinct is a humongous part about design and honestly interior design in specific is all about trial and error It is all about adding and taking away Let's just say for example, you know an interior designer that you love on instagram just posted a photo and they have a living room space There's a dark navy wall on it You think it is so beautiful and you want to put that dark navy wall in your living room as well But something that you might not realize is that their living room could have 87 windows in it Whereas yours has one and yours is already a little bit dark So something that you should opt for in your own space is more light and airy colors as opposed to a dark color um And a lot of people will just draw that inspiration right from that picture that they like and plop it there And then they're not going to end up liking it because they don't have the same exact kind of bones and structure That this uh inspiration photo started off as and a lot of times you guys as well You have to realize that photos are really really enhanced. You can actually enhance or change any color in a photo I've changed colors and pictures before to make them look a little bit better But most times you guys can see the real true tones here on my youtube videos because I actually cannot really change the colors On videos at all But in photos a lot of times inspiration pictures are altered a little bit and they do not look exactly like that in person And next time you're doing a space just really really trust your instinct if you are thinking to yourself You know this color might be too dark. I just applied a little bit of it I'm not a fan of it Sit with it for a little bit and change it if you need to never feel like something has to be stuck in Placed as is everything can always be changed and it's all again about trial and error And that's how the design process works and you're just going to build your own design brain off that Let's go ahead and talk about lighting now because lighting is a huge Mungus feature in any space. Um having a poorly lit space can honestly make a really well designed area Look bad if it's poorly lit. So I personally think kind of determining how much natural light do you get in my bedroom? For example, I get a ton of natural light and this is something that I kept in mind when I was renting apartments I knew that I needed a lot of natural light because I film youtube videos all the time And I do makeovers and I filmed diy projects So that's something that I kept into consideration when renting an apartment But a way that you can combat this is add lighting to a space So let's say in your bedroom you have one window and right around 3 p.m It starts getting really dark and kind of dreary in there Go ahead and make sure that you have a nice light source in there Whether it be a floor lamp a couple of table lamps A new chandelier a new pendant light and also make sure that the bulbs in there are also kind of like that daylight color Because all around I think a warm white or a daylight bulb just really enhances any space Always consider lighting as a very very key aspect to any room makeover And making sure that you're supplying enough light so that the room looks great throughout every moment of the day And last but not least you're gonna want to put everything together and start the process I cannot tell you guys this enough just start it start it Whether it be small whether it be large going in with painting a wall That's a larger commitment But then also going in and just painting a swatch and putting it up you are starting the process you guys There are so many people on my channel, um, which I love I love talking to you guys so much But there are so many people that will comment and be like, you know, I bought the paint But I just don't want to put it up. I don't know how to do it. I don't know where to start Just start the process. I swear to you once you start the process you are gonna feel so much more inspired I'm once you see that color on the wall and you like it too. You're like, wow I'm gonna start the next thing I wanted to do. I want to make the bed next I want to get a new rug that coordinates back to my new wall color I want to go out to home goods and buy a couple of decor pieces that correlate back to my wall color And I'm gonna bring my swatch with me So I know that they're gonna look nice just start the process and I swear to you You're gonna get going and you're gonna love it that finishes off today's video I hope that you enjoyed this one and I hope that it gives you just a little bit of a confidence boost to tackle your next room makeover I really want everyone to feel empowered and being able to do what they want with their spaces Whether it be rented or your home, um, you can really do a lot And if you guys have any tips of your own, please leave them in the comment section below We can really learn from each other. Honestly, there are so many times I have learned so much in the comment section of my videos like you guys are truly so talented and so smart So please leave any other design elements in the comment section below and we can have a little discussion down there Do not forget to also download the adobe photoshop express app I want to thank them so much for partnering with me on today's video They are truly your all-in-one photo editing solution and on top of that they really inspire creativity So I highly suggest downloading that app. It truly is amazing and I use it all the time So I think you guys need it as well


Good day. I'm Mrs. John Adams or Abigail Adams to my friends and I would like to introduce some of my friends that we have here today. I have Mr. Thomas Jefferson. As always you you do me honor and I thank you for that. Mr. Edward Hector Bombardier Edward Hector. A pleasure to be with you. And Mrs. Oni Judge. Glad to be here. So I guess we could start with everybody saying a little bit of something about themselves. It's a pleasure to have you all here today. Mrs. Judge you go first. Ladies first. Thank you. My name is Mrs. Oni Judge. I'm happy to report that I'm now married woman. I will not give complete details of my whereabouts as we have unfortunately had to uproot twice now but I am originally from Virginia which is close to my heart but now I call the north my home and I am very grateful for my time spent in Philadelphia, New York, New Jersey. I am very fortunate to have had those experiences. I wasn't always a free woman but I am proud to call myself a woman of freedom now. And apparently you're also a mother. Yes. Yes I am. Right now we have just our daughter but I'm hoping that we have the path of freedom more hopefully in several more months. But we have that in common as well. My oldest is my daughter Naby. Good luck with your babies my dear. My dear Hector would you like to introduce yourself? My name is Edward Hector. Many of my friends know me as Ned. I'm one of many blacks who fought in the American Revolution. I served with Procter's third Pennsylvania artillery as a bombardier and as an artillery teamster. As a bombardier I manned one of the three revisions of the canon. As a teamster I transported ammunition and helped to haul the cannons from battle to battle. I saw action in the battle of Brandywine and at the battle of Germantown as well. I am remembered for heroic act involving saving my horses my wagons my cannons and some fallen muskets. We were given the orders when our hill was overran by the redcoats to abandon our horses our wagons and retreat down towards Chester. Instead of doing that I said they shall not have my team. I will save my team and myself. After the war I would live to the age of 90 years old. I would try three times to get my pension from the Pennsylvania Congress only to be denied. They would finally grant me a gratuity instead of 40 dollars. I am so well regarded in my home community of Contra Hawkins that I wouldn't be surprised if they would end up naming a street after me. That's wonderful bombardier Hector. I do believe they should name a street after you in Contra Hawkins. They should name a street Tector Street for you and I personally would love to take a carriage ride down that street. Mr. Jefferson would you like to do a brief introduction of yourself? My name is Thomas Jefferson. I was born in 1743 into a family and into a colony and into a culture that did not question to any practical degree the notion that as one's grandparents and great grandparents were and as one's parents were so was one. That our worth as humans was determined more than any one thing on those who had come before us. I was born in a colony, colony of Virginia that was part of the British Empire. And by being part of the British Empire that meant that I grew up being very proud that I had a king. Being very proud of the fact that my king was my king because of whose parents were. That's what gave him value. It wasn't until later in my life I began to challenge some of those ideas. I did. I began to question them mostly from reading and from various mentors and teachers that came across along the way at William and Mary and later in my study of law and even later in my life. By the end of my life I had helped in a movement on this continent that inspired movements on other continents to challenge those things that when I was a child I'd bear a question. We made progress in changing some of those. We questioned the validity of the divine right of kings, the right of a king to rule at all because of whose parents were. And we also laid the groundwork for questioning the right of anyone to be considered to be considered free or slave, criminal or otherwise because of what their parents did. I'm proud of what I was able to do and help and change some of those things that were assumed when I was young. I acknowledged that I wasn't able to do everything but by the time I came near the end of my time I felt that imperfect, though any human effort might be, perhaps I could allow two or three things to stand as testimonials that I had lived. And what is a testimonial after all? It's not something that takes away all of your mistakes or pretends as though you're something greater than human.  Here are their merits. Please consider them when you consider this person's worth. If I were to be remembered, then, for three things that would stand as testimonials that I would live with all this in mind, I would say I want to be remembered as the author of the Declaration of American Independence, of the Statute of Virginia for Religious Freedom and father of the University of Virginia. Well, thank you, Mr. Jefferson. I don't think I gave myself a brief introduction. Again, I am Mrs. John Adams and in response to your recollections and the things that you considered important in your life, Mr. Jefferson, I would say, personally, I don't expect that I should be remembered for anything other than being the wife of John Adams, whom you knew very well. Mr. Adams and you served on a very important committee, the committee to draft the Declaration of Independence. You also served together and separately in government for many years, but I should like to this day discuss the Declaration of Independence. Now, it was on March 31st that I wrote my husband a letter in anticipation of that very same independence. I asked my husband, though, that as long as there was to be a new code of laws, which I supposed it would indeed be necessary for us all to make, that I desired you would remember the ladies, be more kind and generous to us than your ancestors have been, and to not put unlimited power into the hands of the husbands. Now, unfortunately, in our Declaration of Independence, certainly, and I know Mrs. Judge, you too can attest to this, that the ladies were not remembered. Indeed, I, one could easily say that well, three-fifths of our population were not necessarily included in the Declaration of Independence, but the Declaration of Independence was not law. It was not our constitution. It was a guideline. It was the hope. It was a hope for the future that, as you have said on many times, Mr. Jefferson, all men are created equal. And it was your hope that in future generations, all men would be treated as they are created, which, as you often say, is equal. So, as we have a very diverse panel here today, I should like to ask us all, what is our hope for independence in the United States? What is our hope for the future of this generation? What are we raising our children? Mrs. Judge, Mr. Hector, Mr. Jefferson, we are all parents. Um, what are we raising them to achieve for the future of this nation? As a new mother, the one thing that I can hope for, I don't know if I will see it in my lifetime, but I do hope that it will happen for later generations for women such as myself, Liza, and I hope that independence will come to everyone. I am raising my children to be strong and independent and to be educated. Education was not given to me. It was not thought to be necessary for who I was and for what I was doing. But I found that when you strip education away from an entire population of people, you render them powerless. But when I finally took those steps to leave the household, one of the first things that I did when I came to New Hampshire was I learned how to read and how to write. That to me is true independence, knowing what you are seeing and understanding it. And I know that my daughter is headstrong already, and I can only hope that she will be strong for the future generations as well. Education is important, and it should be stressed that everyone must learn the past, they must learn from their ancestors, and they must learn from their community, and they must come together to make sure that the young ones are reared up and educated. They must understand where we have come from so that we do not go back into that dark past. Mrs. Judge, I hear your charming little Eliza there in the background. By the way, my sister is an Elizabeth, so it's a name that's very near and dear to our family. I would like to know, how are you able to educate your daughter? What is the state of education in the state of New Hampshire? I rely on a lot of the free community. They helped me in Philadelphia, and they've helped me in New Hampshire. It was difficult to trust again, especially after the Fugitive Slave Act. It really made me very nervous to consider that a white person would be willing to help me. I had to remind myself that there are those who wish to see me do better in my life, who wish for me to understand and to grow in their community. As shocking as it is, Mr. Whipple in New Hampshire has been very, very, very good to me and my family. The free community here has been very helpful, but I'm mostly the one that is teaching them their numbers and their letters, which is helping me to get better with my numbers and my letters, which I did not think possible. But I find comfort in doing that with them. I love the repetition of it, and I do enjoy reading. I really do, and I love to read to them at night, and I read to them stories, and I read to them from the Bible. It comforts me, comforts them, and I hope they pass that on. But it's the community here, the free community that has blessed me with this opportunity, with having someone show me the letters and understand the numbers and how they work, and how I can apply that to my everyday life. Mr. Hector, Bombardier Hector, would you like to give us your thoughts and your hopes for independence? Even more so than my personal desire to be remembered. I want those lack myself to be remembered. Three to five thousand people of color served the American cause. Seven to ten thousand served the British. Believe it or not, General Washington would have one of the most integrated armies all the way up until, well, until much, much, much later. General Washington also would command at least three majority black regiments. One from Massachusetts, one from Rhode Island, and a group that would come in with the French from Haiti. And they would play an important part in the struggle for our independence. In the battle up in New York, we would be losing every last battle until finally we would have our backs up against the river at Brooklyn Heights. We would be trapped. The next day the British are going to close in. They're going to annihilate this army. They're going to capture this trade of Washington. That's going to be the end of our fight for independence. But under the cover of night and fog, under the very nose of the British warships that were anchored in at Harbor that night, men would roll their boats up. They would load these men onto their boats and they would take them across the river. Some making that trip as many as 11 times at night. What people don't realize is that many of those men who are rolling those boats are black sailors from Marblehead, Massachusetts. That night, these men save our revolution and allow us to continue our fight for independence. Not only that, there's going to be another battle that's going to come down the pike, the battle of Yorktown. Oh, did you know that we have spies in the British camp? They're black spies in the British camp. They will get information that the British are going to Yorktown. Washington and Lafayette will make plans. They would surround the British at Yorktown. But in trying to execute the battle, trying to take Yorktown, they would get thrown back a couple of times. Finally, they would start digging trenches towards Yorktown. Washington would call on one of his best regiments, the Rhode Island Regiment. They would go in with their bayonets fixed, their guns unloaded, and they would take their objective of one of those defensive positions in 10 minutes. The French would take out the other ones. We would bring up our heavy cans. We would commit with the bombardment of the city until finally, finally, the British would give up. This is where we would win the war. By the end of the war, 10 to 25 percent of Washington's army would be people of color. Now, people may not realize that the good general doesn't really win that many battles. Maybe, let's pretend he fights 10 battles out of 10 battles. Maybe the only wins two or three. Now, you take away about a quarter of his army. What do you think the chances of winning this war are now? Not too good? So, we people of color played an important part, an essential part to us being the independent nation that we will become later on. What I hope to see is that we are no longer divided by so many differences and we can see what makes us similar to one another, family, children as such as they are.  But you make your own new family and family is what's important. The community and the bonds that you create. I hope my story is known and it gives inspiration to women that we can do great things. Even if we can't read and we can't write, we can accomplish great things and don't feel limited by your lack of education or your lack of funds. Just remember your past, what you hope to see and for your future and that'll drive you towards pushing. We have set what I think of as a primitive example, not for future generations to follow, but for future generations to improve upon. All men are created equal means that the earth belongs to the living, not to the dead. With that in mind, I hope that the words in this document, our Declaration of Independence, serve to continually remind each succeeding generation that they are our future peers and as our peers it is not for them to place us on pedestals, but rather to take their rightful place beside us in the never-ending fight against tyranny. They will achieve this by encouraging the progress of science in all its branches and not by raising a hue and cry against the sacred name of philosophy, nor by owing the human mind by stories of raw head and bloody bones to a distrust of its own vision and to oppose implicitly on that of others, to go backward instead of forwards to look for improvement, to believe that government, religion, morality, and every other science were in the highest perfection in ages of the darkest ignorance and that nothing can ever be devised more perfect than what was established by their forefathers. If by contemplation of the words in the Declaration of Independence, future generations can know that they are in full possession of the sacred fire of liberty and that they can and must spread the light from that flame to enlighten the world more than was possible for the generation that first kindled that flame, that will mean that America has improved, not become perfect, but more perfect, and I believe that it's all we can hope for. I want to thank you all for joining me today in this discussion. I do hope that we give the rising generation some things to think about, as for myself and for my closing hopes for this nation. My hopes for myself are long gone. I am a woman of a certain age. My children are all birthed and they are busy being educated. They are busy forming their own lives, having their own children. That is indeed what our movement of independence was for, so that we would not consign future generations to feeling a servitude, that we could not believe our country in a worse position than we ourselves have been born to. It is my hope that I am raising my children, that they should carry on the goals of liberty for all, that they should carry on the idea that all men are created equal and that eventually we will come to a more perfect union, the one that is promised in our eventual constitution. I want to thank you all for joining me today and I wish you all well in our future endeavors as a nation.