Biggest match. I don't know, every game for me, I think it's the biggest match for me. These games for all two Grand Finals and two best atmospheres of Rolipaidi were two final days of the season where we had to win to win the league. Biggest match was probably this season, maybe, against City of C, Derby at home. Kata Sarai in Istanbul. I remember the club and the fans, the stadium was amazing. Yeah, the Grand Finals, definitely. Beijing, Olympic Games, qualifications for the other rooms. And obviously, any finals football players are the new cast of Jets and the one who is. You know, you have a cup or Champions League qualification matches played against the likes of the Napoli, Lazio, Villarreal, so, Benfica. Obviously, the three Grand Finals were big matches, but also at the Olympics against Argentina. Probably against Celtic, the Rangers, the Grand Finals, the wonders, the high of the national team. Probably the Grand Finals was like the biggest game. The World Cup 2010 against Serbia, you know, for obvious reasons, even the World Cup. One of our biggest games would probably be when I was at Huddersfield playing against Leeds. Spain, recently in the tournament, I was playing one of the biggest. Yeah, of all the Grand Finals would be right up there and playing rugby games against the likes of Messi and Serbia, where I don't think I'm going to do a good match. The Europa League, a play against Manchester City, Everton, Benfica. I played Champions League with Alborg as well, against Celtic and Men United. I tore my hand in the Men United games, so I didn't get to play against them at all. So that was a bit disappointing, but thanks for bringing that up, right?


And just me and my eyes with a little puffy. Five o'clock in the morning. I'm here. I'm gonna go get some coffee. Mikey loves coffee. Mikey, ain't much of a morning, dude. We got things to do, communities to build, and people to meet, to allow them to train. So, we're gonna grab a coffee. That's all I got. So I'm gonna spot my brains out. Maybe when I get the coffee in me, I got something to tell you. Pack up the backpack. I probably won't train today, but someone asked in the last vlog about anxiety, and how I talk about it, and maybe some things I do to deal with it. Not sponsored. This is what I take for creatine, because it's candy. I'm a child. From California's capital city. And I heart radio station. News 93.1, KFBK is available everywhere with the I Heart Radio app. But now, number one for podcasting. I'm sure everything is handled correctly, and if you read the- Was he in bright? Mittens, knit caps, scarves, and blankets? It's not just a care package we're sending to those- You may or may not know me, your boy Mike. He's not a professional, but we're talking about some habits that I do to kind of manage some of my anxieties or negative thoughts or excessive worrying or things I may have learned in therapy. Lot of therapy over the years. I had a lot of good chats this weekend with people visiting the gym. And I don't think about it, because it's just a part of my life. It's the same as when I tell you guys, man, I really like Chipotle, or I listen to this kind of hip hop music, or Jordan 3's are one of the comfy shoes I wear, or keep your back in this position relative to your hips when we're trying to deadlift. Me going to therapy is just like a part of what I've done and a little bit of part of my story. So it's not like that big of a deal to me. I do realize that the world doesn't speak about it, especially American males.  And, you know, so I kind of grew up in a world where it's not that uncommon. But to know that it relates with you all is cool, for sure. Because I do know, even on a friendship level, same people that grew up in a nurturing home or a nurturing school, they don't deal with anxiety. It's not everybody deals with it. Not that everyone deals with, you know, some darkness or depression. Everybody has bad days. For those of you out there that, you know, struggle, you know it's a lot worse than a bad day or a grumpy mood, you know. And so me sharing the stories is just me sharing me.  That's how we started. Me sharing my journey, and then me sharing my experiences. But, you know, the most basic one for me is just routine. And that's what I've been needing and that's what we've all been needing.  We're not going to the office or we can't go on the trips we want or we can't, you know, wake up and go to bed at the same time. I mean, that's the start, sleep. For me, I know if I don't sleep well, my anxiety's through the roof. My heart feels every ounce of the day like I'm going a billion miles per hour. Something small may happen, but if my sleep isn't on point, my heart literally will be in a sprint for hours over the smallest thing, over one of the dumbbells chips or something so negligible. And obviously I can say that now because I'm not in the middle of like a mini anxiety attack. So it's easy for me to step back and say, oh, that's crazy, it's just a dumbbell. But in the moment, you know, you can't tell yourself to relax, you can't tell yourself to this or that. Your mind spirals a little bit into what's the worst thing that's going to happen and how much it costs you and what if the member needs the 45, what if, you know, what are we going to do? So for me, it's sleep. Waking up at the same time isn't been something I've done my entire life. So I'm not a morning person. Here we are at five o'clock in the morning. We're going to bed, going to bed's huge. And some of the boys make fun of me, but I literally tried to get in bed around nine, nine, 30 every single night. I spent an hour, hour or two just watching TV and numb in my brain. And then from there, you know, I tried to fall asleep at 10, 11 West Coast time. I'm trying to start a stream over here. Sorry. I'm thinking about live streaming in the morning, just Q and A since I'm going to be stuck here and we're all going to be chilling. All right. Yeah, so sleep's number one and then general routine's number two.  Haven't been able to do that because we've been working. I like to work out at least three times a week. I like to be around the same time. I like to eat around the same time. I like to, you know, do my laundry on the same days at the same time.  And obviously I suggest to everyone whether you get obsessive anxiety, if you feel kind of okay, I suggest everyone go to therapy if you can afford it. It's so simple, man. My left arm's bleeding.  I need to express my feelings.  But you go every six months. Why not go to therapy every four weeks, once a week? Check in with yourself. Sometimes it's really hard in this world because we're constantly putting on, I don't want to say a persona, but we're putting on our best face and we're putting on our work facing. I do agree with it, a lot of times you're meant to be professional.  And it's not me being fake, that's just me doing what I think is best for the people around me, you know?  And even just that fact, if you learn nothing, even though I almost guarantee if you find a good counselor or therapist you'll learn something about life and yourself. Even if you learn nothing, very least that, being able to break this open the door, that's never open, it's never open. Even in our own head, I mean, that's part of what anxiety is, it's kind of like, and whatever you guys believe in is what you believe in, but you take your spirit or who you are, whatever you want to call that, versus like your brain, which is like a computer that's taken inputs for 32 years of me on this planet and then has outcomes for each of those.  I'm not really like doing that in a way, you know? That just is like a reaction. And so emotionally and even thought process wise we're programmed to do a lot of things.  Well, who knows why or who or what was said or even if it even happened, but our brains, you know, wiring kind of just automatically does that for us. So if we go to some therapies, one, we can learn tools to deal with stuff like that and deal with our emotions and our reactions, but two, you can allow yourself to not just filter and program, but kind of unfilter and let, you know, I hate this term because all these hippies are talking like true self or true brain or true thoughts or true words kind of rip out. So I think I might go live on Twitch, bro, that's 6 a.m. grind, 6.05. I assume we'll be pretty slow in the mornings until we get, you know, we're right by the capital. And so when work's going normal, people go to work at seven or eight and maybe they need to work out at six. Right now a lot of folks are working at home. So I promise I'd be here though. I promise the gym would be open. So here we are. So I might go live on Twitch, say what's up to the homies. We'll catch and see what the day brings us. Happy opening day. I opened a gym. Sorry man, too busy getting up. I'm starting to think I haven't been birthday of the vlog. You're talking with your girlfriend. I was just talking about my girlfriend. Sorry folks. What's your name, dude? The name's Dan, 28 years old today. Don't really have a lot going for myself, but handsome friends they might keep me going. What's up, buddy? Good birthday, kid. It's Dano's birthday, so we got him a little breakfast. Let's see what he's doing in the back office. This is so good. What'd you get? Oh, the sconeys? Scone little. With the cream though. You gotta put the cream in. You want me to put the cream in? Yeah. I'll show you the cream, buddy. I love whipped cream for some reason.  I think it's like frosting though. I don't think it's like cream cream. No, yeah. I think it's like frosting. You look real nice here. See single ladies? Out of Storm Cloud 415. That's good. Where are the DMs open then, or private, or? The DMs are open, you know. Open for business. I'm taking open DMs. What are the open hours in the DMs? Open hours typically, let me see here, 24 hours a day. Oh, okay. It's not a 12 a.m. sad boy. No. Hours. No, it's also not like a 2 a.m. type of thing. It's 24 hours. Mm-hmm. The meaning you are available at 2 a.m.? I'm available. Not only. I'm available at 2 a.m.? Show them what we got, dude. Whip it out. So we got. People love mukbangs and things. We got, Mikey decided to get some, what are these, like donut hole scones? I think they're scones, dude. I don't know. What he also got was a Snickers mocha. That's not for me, but it sounds delicious. I'm lactose intolerant so I couldn't have the regular milk, so let's see how this tastes with almond milk. That's very California of you. Yeah. What does Snickers actually taste like? Wow. What does Snickers actually taste like? You got it. I don't want it, dude. I'll try one of these. These are okay. They're not too great.  Scones are supposed to be a little bready. They're not a donut. They're too dry. That's what a scone is. Yeah. That's why we got this white stuff. And then I also got a Denver omelet and Mikey got, what did you get, Mikey? Chicken bakey omelet. Fox and Goose is good. Oh, this might be butter. Yeah, I think it might be butter, too. Fox and Goose is good. I like it. Got a little toast. Local spot. Support local business fam. What's in here? What is this? Oh, fruit. I got fruit.  That's a terrible idea. Oh, this looks fricking great. This is a terrible idea. This thing's now dripping with oil. Why would you put? Fruit. My fruit in a coffee mug. In an oily-ass omelet. Yeah. That's not smart. Come on, Fox and Goose. Come on, yeah. Come on, Goosers. Hopefully no one's coming in. I've been here since like five-ish. Five-thirty, five-thirty, five-thirty. Now we're probably new-nish. Daniel's birthday. I got work to do. Damn, they didn't send utensils either. No, utensils. I think we got forks. How do they do that, dude? Door-dash was already a thing. And then it's obviously been the biggest thing of COVID, right?  Very true. I don't know, bro. I know we have them. I just don't know where they are. What the hell, dude? I don't know.  An omelet? Yeah, I know. It's just gonna be hard. That's a very upsetting.  That's very upsetting. I feel like they were, I just saw plates over here somewhere. Yeah, we have plates right here. Plates are right here. Of course, that'd be something. I know. We have a box. Anyways, Dan's gonna squat 800 for you guys again. And he's on the mission. Is this what's gonna contribute? Hey, we're doing all right. To maybe lose. What do I gotta do? Lose a couple pounds. That's where we're starting. Lose a couple pounds, get strong at the end. Game on.


What's going on everyone? Sam here with Layton Sports Guards. I've been 22, 23, community flux, and 23, 24 prism draft basketball hobby, two box makes number four. Random team style. There's a look again at your random results. As always, you can find those on the website under the results tab, as well as the link in chat. I'll answer that for you, Scott, because I can. Good luck. For what? God, that's dope. Christian G with another personal, Chris M with a couple of gilded and 30 cents. Why do you have a boat that big? Because I can. Because I can. I don't blame you, man. To business right off?  That's the reasoning right there, man. That is the reasoning right there. All right. Good luck, everybody. Carl trades tattoos for boat rides. Silver, Joel, and Bede. Oh no, we didn't miss an auto. Moat Bomba. Going to Lakers. Nice one there. Congrats, LA. Silver, Joel, and Bede. Prism, Jaylen Brown. Red to 299. KJ Williams, Jordan Hawkins. Silver, very true. We got a manga. Victor Wembinyama. Mass in the Spurs. Let's go, dude. Boy, he's right, man. There he is. There he is, the Wemby manga. Hell yeah, man. Let's go. Go, dolphins. Congrats, brother. John Morantz. Bilal Kulabali to 75. Going to the Wizards. Nice one there as well. Congrats, Wiz. Very nice, very nice. Silver, Chet Holmgren. Derrick Whitehead. Orange, Pulsar to 49. Jason Tatum. And Taylor Hendricks. That is awesome, dude. Congrats, William, with the Spurs, buddy. Colby Jones. Matt Bradley to 49. Jazzyon Gortman to 125. The Jazzyon Gortman is a Milwaukee buck. Scott, if I don't mind you asking, I know you mentioned you own some business. Like, what kind of businesses do you own? If you don't mind answering, if you don't have to. But just curious. As somebody who has a business degree, I'm always curious on that stuff. Jerry Walker, Silver. Prism Benedict, Matherin. Zion to 99. And Chiantay George. Tristan Vukovic to 99. Purple Ice. Tristan Vuk. He is a Washington wizard. Washington Wizards. Silver, Desmond Bain. Mojave King. Timmy Allen to 199. And James Najee. Dropped out of high school. No GED. School is in way.  Heard that. Feel that for sure. Heard that. All right, flocks now as well. Silver to Ryan Rollins, Rookie. And Katie to 49 for the Cavs. And Jabari Smith. Did you say something to them? Not yet. PJ Washington to 75. Gold, Bryce McGowens for the Hornets. Three of ten. There you go, Charlotte. Going to Andrew F. Congrats, Andrew. Nice to 49. Shade on Sharp. Red Auto going to Portland. George M. Congrats, George. Nice one there, buddy. Silver, Cam Johnson. And Steph Curry. The Robinson, Silver Dilo. And Kyrie. Silver, Bruce Brown. And Fluid, Jeremy Sohan. Andrew Nemhard, Red. In flocks, Patrick Baldwin, Jr. So Markel Foltz on the Sun rides. Really? Imagine that's what he needed and they take him out or he doesn't score again. Silver, Mobley. And Caleb Houston. Dallin Terry. Silver, Steven Adams. And incoming, Jaden Ivy. All right, guys, going to do a quick random for the non-college cards. We'll go to one spot. All right, guys, going to roll the dice. Whatever team is on top after five times, we'll get all of the non-autographed college cards. One, two, three, four, and five. Going to the T-wolves. Going to the Minnesota Timberwolves. Again, we've got just the Wemby. That is awesome, dude. Congrats on that. That'll do it for the break, everybody. Thanks again for the fill. Up next is Gilded and Tier One.


Hello, everyone. I'd like to start by thanking Prime Minister Kucinskis for welcoming me to Latvia. It's a pleasure to be here, and I'm looking forward to meeting with President Villoniz later today. Thank you also for welcoming my team, Minister Freeland, Minister Sajin, and General Jonathan Vance, Chief of Defense Staff. This day represents an important moment, whether it's the first bilateral visit of a Canadian Prime Minister in Latvia. We take this opportunity to increase our collaboration while the Latvian people celebrate this year the 100th anniversary of their country. Since then, our two countries are united by a special link. Canada has been the first country in the G7 to recognize the independence of Lithuania in 1991 and is one of the first to ratify the accession of Lithuania at the same time. Today, Prime Minister Kucinskis and I spoke about our cooperation on joint priorities, in particular our shared commitment to creating a more peaceful and more stable world. These are uncertain times, and I assured the Prime Minister that Canada will continue to step up, just as we always have. We remain unwavering in our support for security in the Baltic region. That's why Canada is leading the NATO Enhanced Forward Presence Battle Group in Latvia. We've contributed 450 Canadian Armed Forces troops. I'm especially looking forward to spending time with them later today and seeing firsthand the important work that they're doing. I know all of our Canadians in uniform are proud to be serving in Latvia alongside our NATO allies. The Prime Minister and I discussed Canada's continued support for this mission. And I'm happy to announce today that Canada is extending our contribution as NATO's Enhanced Forward Presence Framework Nation here in Latvia. I want to be clear. We are absolutely committed to the protection of our allies and to global peace and security. Canadians always have and always will stand up for a better and more just world. That's why Canada will continue to be a late leader within NATO. Our mission's current mandate ends in 2019. And this announcement today extends our commitment for four more years on top of that. We're increasing the land task force and adding greater flexibility for Canada's contribution to NATO maritime forces. The mission will also have a CF-18 fighter presence, including bilateral training and air policing. As NATO members, we must stay responsive to changing threats around the world. This mission renewal will look at how to employ cyber capabilities in line with the new defence policy that Minister Sajjan released last year. Canada's new defence policy, created through the most open and comprehensive defence policy review ever, ensures that we will remain a dependable NATO ally. This policy will see annual funding for defence increased by more than 70 percent in 10 years. Most importantly, the investments we're making in our military are highly strategic and focused on equipping our forces with the tools and resources they need. We're buying 88 advanced fighter jets. We're fully funding the Royal Canadian Navy's full complement of Canadian surface combatant ships. We're also recapitalizing much of the Canadian Army's land combat capabilities. The role, which assumes Canada as the leader of the tactical group in Lithuania, demonstrates its commitment to the NATO alliance, as well as to Bosnia, Kosovo, Afghanistan and Libya. Canadians are proud to be at the forefront of the efforts made to defend the shared democratic values and the international order based on the rules. Prime Minister Kuczynski and I also talked today about our commitment to protecting democracy, rule of law, and freedom of speech. We can't ignore the reality that in many places these values are threatened. Our extended commitment to the NATO mission in Latvia sends the clear message that Canada will always do its part. Prime Minister Kuczynski and I also talked about trade. Canada and Lithuania are solid partners on the economic plan. Indeed, the global economic and commercial agreement and strategic partnership between the European Union and Canada confirms our common goals. Progressive trade creates new opportunities for people and companies in our two countries. It is a strategy that will ensure the creation of jobs and strengthen our economies for the good of the NATO and Canadians. I am proud that AirBaltic has chosen to buy 80 planes to bomb a Canadian company. It is an important investment and an example of the solid commercial relationship that we have maintained. And it's not just shared values and trade that bind Canadians and Latvians together, but people too. It's individuals who build and defend our countries just like the soldiers honored at the Freedom Memorial I visited earlier today. It's the hard work and dreams of our fellow citizens that help us thrive. The 28,000 strong Latvian-Canadian community enriches Canada's national fabric. They're celebrating with pride during Latvia's 100th birthday this year. And I'm confident that the next 100 years will continue the close relationship between our two countries. It's a relationship built on friendship, cooperation, and shared economic prosperity.


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Good morning. Good morning. Good morning, my friends. And welcome back to another teacher vlog. Today is Tuesday, September 8th, and I'm still working online. So I have this week and then next week left online and then the kids come back after fall break. Sorry for the interruption, but I wanted to pop into the middle of this vlog and just thank GlassesUSA for sponsoring this video. So you guys know that I love glasses. If I'm gonna have terrible eyesight, I at least want my glasses to be cute and to match all of my different outfits. So I am a glasses connoisseur and I have so many pairs, but you guys, I partnered with GlassesUSA again to bring you four new pairs of glasses and a discount for 65, 65% off of your first pair on GlassesUSA. So I'm gonna share with you guys the four new frames that I got this time. So if you're not familiar with GlassesUSA, they are an online glasses shop where you put in your prescription, you pick the frames you want, you can customize the lenses that you'd like. You can do blue light blocking, you can do UV protection, anti-scratch, mirrored, all of those cool things you can do with lenses. You can also do near vision, progressive, and bifocal. So all of your glasses needs the same things you would do if you went to your optometrist's office, the same kind of stuff, you just order them online and they're a lot cheaper. You can also do blue light blocking if you have non-prescription and you want to just order a pair of blue light blocking glasses for regular everyday use. You can also do that as well. They also have this really cool online try-on feature, which I did use this time because normally I order large frames. This time, most of my glasses are medium frames. I wanted to just see if there was a difference in how they looked on my face.   So like I said, I'm going to be linking all of the new frames from today down in the description box below as well as a link to send you to get 65% off of your first pair of glasses, USA Glasses. So let's get started. These are from my last haul. These are like a crowd favorite. You guys love these. I don't know how many times I've been asked about those ones, but you guys, I got all new frames this time. So the first pair that I got are these really cute rose gold metal frames. And I've never owned a pair of cat eyes before, but these are kind of like a cat eye shape. You can kind of see them there. They are a rose gold. And I wasn't sure how these were going to look on my face because they're mediums, but I actually like them. They're not too, too big. They're not in your face. And I really, really like these, you guys. I wasn't sure, but I do. And I believe these are called Ato, Ato-to, Ato-to. Yes, Ato-to. So these are the rose gold Ato-to frames. Hello, Jack. Welcome to the party. And all of the frames that I got today are blue light blocking. I wanted to get all blue light blocking since I am in front of a screen so much. Okay, so the next pair that I got are these tortoise shell square frames. Love these. So they are straight on the top, pretty straight. And then they just come down like a Ray-Ban kind of shape. And then the sides are very thin metal and then a tortoise shell earpiece. So I really like these ones, too. They're very sturdy. They're very strong. They feel very like they're not flimsy at all. So this next pair you guys actually saw me wearing in the ending of my last vlog because I've tried to film this like three times and I just hate it every time I filmed it. Oh, I'm redoing it here. These are these really cool. I call these my Johnny Depp glasses because they remind me of the ones he wears all the time. So they're like the super round kind of like vintage looking. And these glasses are really funny because they came with these goofy sunglasses piece that you can put on top. I probably will never wear these, but I just thought it was hilarious that they even came with them. Like if I need to go out for recess duty and I can just clip these on and I'm ready to go. I've been wearing these at night because they're really very sturdy, very tight. And because they're plastic, I can lay down on my pillow and they're not going to like break on me. So anyway, those are the third pair that I got and these are called Muse and they will be linked down below as well. And then the last pair that I got is probably my favorite. I have been wanting a pair of prescription aviators forever and I finally got them. They are black and they are prescription so I can wear these in the car. I can take these. I think I'm going to keep these at school and save them for recess or duty because I know that I will be going outside for recess with my students. And then if I have any morning duties or afternoon duties, it's nice to have a pair of sunglasses. I am starting now and so I'm trying to decrease the amount of squinting that happens so that I cannot have as many wrinkles. So anyway, these are super nice. They're not blue light blocking obviously, but they are prescription sunglasses. So I really, really like these and they do feel and fit just like a regular aviator would.  They're not super small. So I think bigger frames look better on my face. I have a big head. So like I mentioned before, all of these frames are going to be linked down in the description box below and there is also going to be a link there for you to get 65% off of your first pair of glasses, USA glasses. So let's get back right into the vlog. So a couple of things just I already knew it was here but like TV is here. You guys finally here. It does not look like they have put any electricity in my wall though so that you know, not going to work. This TV is huge 75 inches. I hope it fits right there. Anyway, so the fact that it's here means that they are probably going to be drilling in here in which case. No, if I should go home and work or if I should just work for her. I don't know. I still have my three Google Meets today. So I will still be working from school but next week we were given instructions to teach expectations for when they return to school. So next week is going to be a catch-up week for any students who have not completed work. We're going to give them next week to complete any assignment that they have not done that they would like to turn in for credit and we're going to be teaching expectations. So a lot of my instructional videos are going to be of me modeling expectations in the classroom. I'm hoping that my teammates will come to school so that we can film some together because I think that would be really fun for the kids to see all three of us interacting with one another and I'm hoping that they do that. So that's what this week is going to be about. So I need to start prepping for I'm going to try to get graded today prep for next week tomorrow and then start prepping for the week's returning so August 5th on Thursday and Friday this week. So we'll see how I do. Also today's pajama day. So I'm wearing very cozy clothing and I don't want to wear my slippers to school. So I'm just wearing my crocs because I feel like they look like slippers. Okay, anyway, I'm going to get my butt in gear. I need to drink. I'm going to drink this energy drink this morning instead of coffee because I really like these. These are the Alani new energy. Hey you guys and happy Wednesday. I'm still here in the classroom. So most Wednesdays I do not work from school but since we're getting closer to coming back to school in person. I've decided to just keep working at school as if the kids were here and helps me get into the routine. I also had a red meeting which if you're new to education red is review of existing data. So this is a child who is receiving special education services and we're just reviewing everything and just making sure that we're solid and good to go for him.  But it's the reality because during the school year when kids are here we do have to meet early so that we can get it out of the way before kids come to campus. But anyways, it's Wednesday and my TV is still not mounted. I'm just kind of like to the point where I just I'm sure it will be hung before students return and I'm hoping that that is a thing. So I received a thing in the mail today. I ordered this on Jane.com that's one of these goofy like face shields which I think is really cool. But I was just talking to my dean of students and I don't think that I can just wear this. I think I have to wear a mask as well. But I'm not that paranoid. So I don't know if I'll even get to use this because I was hoping I could wear this instead of the mask. I don't know. I'm going to have to ask my actual principal about that one. But okay, so Wednesday today I'm half-prepped for next week already. So I think I'm going to spend my morning grading and entering scores which takes forever. But I set myself up for success last week and only gave them assignments that are pre graded so that all I have to do is record the score and then if they did less than par then I get to resend it to them and they get to try again. So that assignment is a studies weekly test that comes at the end of every week and it's at a nine points. It's graded for me so I don't have to do anything with that and then the other assignment is just a quick Google slide one pager and it is for participation. So all they had to do was answer the questions. So I will go through and look at all of those and mark them. My husband actually offered to help me grade which is super nice of him. So we'll see I might have to hide the kids names and figure out how to do that but he might grade those for me. So I'm going to be entering in grades. I do have another meeting today at 9 30. It is my last new to the district training. So it is all on the tap rubric which is our evaluation rubric and so I have that training at 9 30 and then I will begin more prep for next week next week is very different. I think I told you guys we have parent teacher conferences. So my schedule is a little bit weird Monday and Tuesday is the same Wednesday and Thursday. I have three Google meets within an hour. So I have period one is 8 o'clock. Period two is 8 20. Period three is 8 40 and then we have conferences from 10 to 4. We're only supposed to be meeting with target kids. So we have 21 available time slots and we are only going to pull in students that we feel need a conference and we're not including students who are not returning to campus. So anybody who's returning to school and they're going online we will not be conferencing with those parents because they're going to be moving to a different institution anyway. So then Friday is back to normal. They're thinking about giving us the day off from Google meets because that that Friday is our last day before fall break and the last deck technical work day that we have to prepare for one kid's return on the 8th. So next week is going to be very heavy on preparing for the first week of school. I'm going to do a video that talks about what my plans are for the first week of school and I will share that with you guys another time. I'll probably film that next week. And then I think I'm going to take a two week break from YouTube apples and tiaras because we are going on a couple of vacations and I really want to focus on just being present. So I hear people in the hallway. Okay guys. So it's been a few hours. It is now 1110. I don't have another meeting until 2 o'clock. So I'm just working on stuff in my classroom for a little bit. I did film a video lesson for next week and now I need to brainstorm two more things that I want the kids to do next week on Thursday Friday that are more like classroom procedures things like that rather than like PBIS stuff. So that's what I'm going to work on next. But right now I'm taking a mental break and I'm just kind of prepping my classroom. So I did remove a couple of the desks that were here blocking the door. I moved four of them know five of them out into the hallway because we do have a lot of stuff that stacked out there already. So I figured if I just added five more desks it wouldn't matter. And then I took the remaining three which I'm probably going to swap that one out because it'll drive me crazy for a shorter one. But I decided to keep three regular desks up front to make myself like a countertop space. And then that way if for some reason I get another kid I do have another desk. I have three of them like I said I'll probably swap this one out for like the shorter one but at least now I have like a counter space up front and I can just kind of like put things there or my team teachers can put things there in the morning so like materials that they like are trying to prep and they want to just bring things in and store them. They can put them here. I also hung up all of my thinking maps and I put them over here. I was going to leave this space free for the math and ELE teacher but I figure since everything is pretty much going to be virtual they can share anchor charts and whatever else on their Google Classrooms and then kids can have access to them via Google Classroom. So I figured that would be fine. I'm going to make this wall into a student work wall and so I'm going to have my homeroom kids work up there. So if one of my team teachers wants to showcase you know an ELA project or a math project they can give it to me and I will hang it up here. So I'm going to actually take these posters down and then I'm thinking I might make a label for the top that says while work or something simple basic. This table is going to be the teaching station. So when my team teachers wheel themselves in here they will have a table up front to work on where they can put the document camera. They can do whatever I'm thinking I'll probably place it right here in front of this portion of the whiteboard so that all of the kids can see the television which is where everything is going to be put up. So either that or like kind of sticking out this way so that they can kind of like hide behind it I guess so that they're out of the way of this kid because this kid will have if I'm standing here this kid will get blocked from the TV. So I think I'll probably be able to scoop a couple of rows back some more and have more space up front so that will be nice and then I also have a stack of things that I want to take home this bucket full of stuff like random things I think I'm going to take them home and then I moved these black tables back here to be like a small group space so this will be where I pull kids one on one if I need to do that. I have some black stools that I will place around this so that if I have to pull a couple kids back at a time I printed dojo invitations for all three of my classes because I do intend on using class dojo as much as possible. So I printed those so they're ready to be sent home when the kids return to school. I'm going to start plopping anything and everything that's paper that needs to go home. I'm going to plop it here and start putting all of my things for next week on this or the week after fall break on this table. What else I need to put my curriculum away. I might actually start making piles so that I can give a book to every kid. These are going to be if the kids do anything in this they're going to take a photo of it and upload it to Google Classroom so that I don't have to have any paper tracking issues but like basically they would just hold it up to their screen take a photo of it and then put it on their Google Classroom assignment. I'll probably make a virtual module thing and then anything I want them to turn into me. They'll just upload it there and I can just go search for it. I'll do that and then this is where I'm planning to put my Chrome cart. This might change though because I know that we're not going to have a Chrome cart for every teacher but there are enough Chromebooks for every student. So I might have to put my Chrome cart right here by the door if I'm the one that keeps it so that the kids from next door can come and grab a Chromebook from my room. So I might just put it right here by the door that way it's kind of in the back and it won't be a huge issue. So I might put something else over here. I wanted to place a desk outside in the hallway right here and I wanted that to be like a no mask spot so if kids are struggling or they're feeling like they need a mask break they can step out into the hallway prop the door open and take their mask off. So I'm going to talk to my principal and my team teacher my math teacher who teaches next door because they'll share that desk. If that would be okay to put a mask break spot in the hallway. So I'm going to ask admin if I can do that. I have sent out a sign up genius to my parents asking for donations for science supplies because every kid has to have their own project or hands-on material rather than it being in a group. It is going to be a lot more expensive. So I have come up with like three weeks of STEM activities and hands-on experiments and I've sent out a sign up genius for parents to sign up for bringing some stuff in and I do have quite a bit of parents who have signed up for that. So I'm very pleased and I'm very grateful. So, yeah, that's awesome paper plates, plastic cups, gum, sugar cubes, Jell-O just basic stuff that I would have to go out and buy myself. I know that our science lab thing over in our school has some stuff but I know they probably won't have things like gum or Jell-O. So I did push that out to my parents and so far so good they all plan on bringing it on Monday, October 5th when they come to school and then every few weeks I'll just post a new one and just say okay for the next round of hands-on activities we're going to need this. It's a lot easier for one family to go buy three boxes of Jell-O. I know it's not expensive but for one family to buy three boxes of Jell-O and another family to buy two things of paper plates then for me to go out and buy everything especially since I need like 60 projects instead of like 20 because normally they work together or in partners and so I just need a lot more supplies.  So it is now Thursday. I'm getting ready to finish up my last meeting of the day and then I will be moving over into office hours. I have got pretty much nothing done today but that's fine. We did get some information about returning to school and I plan on doing a full video just walking you guys through our school's plan and what we're doing and how we're going to handle coming back to school in person in October. I did learn that my class size is 18. My homeroom class size is 18 and then the other two classes are 20 and 16 so they're even numbers which is great. I have set up for 20 and then I have three extra desks so if we get any more kids I can add more and we also learned that the kids are going to be rotating instead of teachers. So that means I'm going to keep my stools because the kids will only be in here for like 75 minutes maybe 80 to 90 it all depends on transitions and the schedule. We don't have that yet but once we do I will start planning. I have begun planning for the first week of school and I will talk all about that in my next vlog but I am going to take two weeks off so you guys will not hear from me. I will film the video but I'm probably not going to post it until like the very end of September. So I'll probably film it next week and then I won't post it until the end of September. I'm going to take a couple of weeks off and just enjoy my fall break not worry about social media. My husband and I are going to be filming for our family channel so if you guys want to keep in touch with me you guys can head over there and follow us and we're going to be doing some vlogs about our vacations that we're taking for fall break and the preparations for those but I wanted to just jump on here you guys and just end the vlog. I'm so so grateful that you guys are here. I so appreciate all of your love and support and just know that you guys aren't alone when you're sitting here in your classrooms by yourself struggling through everything. Just know that everybody is and it's okay to feel stressed and anxiety and overwhelmed because everybody's feeling it. The end is hopefully near and we'll see how things go but anyway don't forget you guys. I know that I mentioned that glasses USA in this vlog so all of those links to my glasses USA glasses will be linked down in the description below as well as a 65% off link for you too. Thank you guys so much for watching and I will see you in the next one. Bye guys.


But today we're in chapter 6 and what we're going to be looking at here in song of Solomon is subject building a love that lasts and we've been going through the song of Solomon and so we've arrived at chapter 6 allow me to read verse 1 to you and Give some introductory remarks and we'll get into our study song song of Solomon chapter 6 verse 1 These are words spoken of Spoken by those who are referred to as the daughters of Jerusalem and We read in song of Solomon chapter 6 verse 1. Where has your beloved gone? O'Farist among women Where has your beloved turned aside that we may seek him? with you as We've been going through song of Solomon as you know those of you who've been journeying through this book with me We began by really looking at it from the aspect of Even from a dating Perspective not that that was its context because as we know there was really no system of dating during the time of the song The writing of the song of Solomon There were contractual marriages that used to take place at that time into the life of Jesus Christ so they didn't really have what we today would call dating But I wanted to look at it from certain aspects to help us with those relationships that we have in the 21st century And so we've looked at aspects of dating. We saw the engagement. We saw the wedding We saw the honeymoon and we were looking last time we were together at their first Conflict and that's what we've been seeing here in the song of Solomon Last time we were together. We saw that Solomon and his new bride have had a conflict They've had a disagreement and the disagreement really related to Solomon's desire for physical intimacy He had come to her apparently early in the morning or at a time when the dew is upon him So it's more than likely early in the morning and yet He said to her open your door so that I might Enter in and and it was obviously a request that he might come in and be with her in a physical way And and she basically had said to him no I have a headache. You're not coming in And so there was a conflict that took place between the shulamite and her beloved Solomon and and as that had taken place He was rejected, but he left a token that he was there He left some some liquid myrrh on the handle of the door so that when she had second thoughts and opened the door She felt that myrrh on the door latch and was able to smell the aroma of his cologne If you will and it caused her to think about what had just taken place you see he had approached her But she had rejected him He wanted physical intimacy and she wasn't in the mood and and in Relationships you have at least three basic things that that are sources of pleasure as well as conflict. You have the Area that relates to physical intimacy. You have the the area that relates to communication and I'm having one of those moments where I forgot the third, but I'll remember later on Finances you'll have trouble with your finances so finances communication and sexual intimacy are normally three of the things that at every married couple Has to work through in this particular case what we have is as a conflict as it related to intimacy He had wanted to approach her. She had refused him. He was rejected and he had left He walked away, but after he walked away the bride felt remorse and that's why she had gone to the door to let him in Only finding the the token that he had left behind that liquid myrrh that liquid myrrh was there to remind her of him And that touched her heart So she began searching for him and she was unable to find him And she felt terrible she felt terrible about what had happened and that normally again is what happens when somebody has a conflict with somebody else they have that initial time of the problem and Then when they have a cooling off period Often their their conscience strikes them and they begin to feel bad about what has happened and that's what's taken place with her She now again has that perspective a loving perspective for her husband, but now that she has it. What is she supposed to do? She senses that she really was the one in the wrong So what she wants to do is reconcile and she reaches out and and that's why the daughters of Jerusalem are saying where has your beloved turn Decide that we may seek him with you She desires to find him so that they can patch up this difference this change of heart Has been the result of her considering just how important he is to her and she speaks concerning that she she saw him as the Chief among 10,000 she refers to him as being altogether lovely. He is her her beloved and and her friend There's no one like him and so he's much too precious for her to lose That's the kind of thinking by the way that that keeps you from becoming hardened in your heart if you If you were to stop and ask yourself, what is it that you would be losing if you were to release this relationship you might very well change your mind You might lose your Your marriage you might lose your home Certainly going to lose your shared dreams and your family You'll lose your extended family you lose your kids and you have to ask yourself Why? What am I willing to trade? For what I have right right now Am I willing to lose everything that I have? For something else something different something that may at first appear to have promise of pleasing but Ultimately is going to be found to be empty and lacking Solomon wrote Concerning this kind of thing in the book of Proverbs in chapter 5 verses 8 through 12 He was writing in context concerning what would be referred to as an immoral woman there And he was actually writing a warning concerning our need to avoid Sexual involvement with with an immoral woman He gives us advice in Proverbs 5 8 through 12.  He said far from her Don't remove yourself Simply a short distance from her where you can still be enticed and drawn back He says get away completely It's a similar thought that you find in the New Testament book of 1st Corinthians 618 where Paul says flee sexual immorality Flee it don't have anything to do with it. Don't remain close to it. Don't yield to it Well, somebody argues and says well, why not what's wrong with a little extra on the side?  Never hurt anyone. What's a big deal? Well, Solomon would argue Solomon says in verses 9 and 10 of Proverbs 5 he says lest you give your honor to others and your years to the cruel one What is he saying?   You have some children You're on the job site you walk into the office there and From a male perspective you walk into the office and there's this young woman there and There's something about her that's attractive You find yourself wanting to go in more often even when it's not necessary you want to go in Even if it means just catching a glimpse of her or her looking at you and smiling and that's how it begins innocently enough You say, how are you today? How's it going? What you do this weekend you begin to visit? Before you know it you're getting a little closer to her desk. You're finding reasons to go into that room more often than you need to You begin to look at her you begin to compliment her you begin to see things about her Maybe you're attracted to her there her humor. Maybe there's a smile.   Oh, I didn't do much. You stayed at home. Oh really? I was bored, too He starts inferring that you were bored start saying that you're not happy He looks at you and he says oh It was Thanksgiving. What did you do in Thanksgiving? Oh, you know, I just ate so much Are you kidding me? He says you look like you've lost some weight Yeah Even though you have this big old turkey leg there in half a pie, but you feel good to hear that Did you get your hair done? That perfume that you're wearing It's nice. What's it called? And he just compliments you that new dress. Oh, no, it's some old thing I threw on for work today I have to be honest with you man. It looks brand new to me And just reeling you in and you're just yeah, somebody pays attention Somebody likes me somebody listens Somebody cares somebody shares He's real open real nice You find yourself wanting to spend some time with him Well, you've got some kids at home You've got a husband who's working hard or you've got a wife at home and you've got your babies that look up to you But you know what? You're only young once What's wrong with a little action on the side anyway doesn't hurt anybody does it? Get more and more involved.  Maybe you have a job that allows you to leave for a weekend and before you You really realize what you're doing to the degree that you are you begin to lie and start saying I've got things to do I'm gonna be gone overnight. We've got a company thing that I have to be involved in or whatever you find ways to do that Slowly but surely you've moved into that forbidden relationship and you end up losing everything But you have children your children begin to grow up. Don't they children don't stop growing.  It's big day for them. You're not really part of that. Are you? middle school high school They begin to date They begin relationships begin to have affairs of the heart with young women young men whatever One day they meet somebody they really like and that person and Your child decides that they're gonna get married the wedded day comes, but you're really not invited You're not really even needed if you're the father. You've got a little girl the time comes on her wedding day when those doors open up in the back of the church and that music is playing and The bride has walked down the aisle stops there in the front There's a man standing up there in the platform. He looks down and he says Who gives this woman to be married to this man and you the father on the back of the church? well the man who raised her is there in the front with her arm wrapped through his and and that man who did Did not have a biologic relationship That man looks at you the path the pastor rather looks up there at the pastor and says Her mother and I do He lifts her veil. He kisses her goodbye Hands her to the new groom and and there's a father in the back You don't think of it. I promise. I know you don't think of it when you're 25 years old when you're 30 years old And that little girl's three. You don't think of it There's no doubt that you're not thinking of it. You're too busy right now enjoying yourself with what you're getting But I promise you you will reap what you are sowing and The day will come when you're in the back of invited at all and that little girl is being handed to somebody else and That somebody else is her husband But she's being handed by somebody who raised her and you are left mourning at the end I guarantee you I've seen it. I've seen it They grow up They graduate they get married But you're not involved and often you're not even wanted You don't have a good relationship with your kids You never have a good relationship with your grandkids And some other man is called Grandpa, but not you And what do you do at the end? Well, he says in verse 12 He said you say how I have hated instruction my heart despised rip proof In other words, you end up your life with wasted Unfulfilled dreams and nothing but I wish I would haves if only I would have Will be your last words Only I would have he says Don't harden your heart. Don't go after the other woman You'll end up in misery at the end with nine regret How do we avoid that kind of trap well What was it about them that first attracted you can that be recaptured? Building a love that lasts Well, I love that last is always built on something far stronger than simple sexual attraction Many wouldn't believe this but it's it's it's it's built on things like shared values and deep friendship That's what keeps you going and those are the things that are cultivated and nurtured and those are the things that should not be neglected What drew you together in the first place?  We're having a meal Your husband is seated next to her. We're at the table and we're sharing a meal family and My daughter Anna leans towards me and she says daddy want to ask you something and I said what? She's I say is that brute hurting you You can move home.  Daddy I want to ask you a question so I teased her and She she says no dad. I'm serious. I want to ask you a question. I want to ask you What kept you and mom together? What has made your marriage what your marriage is? What is it? That's the first time my daughter who's 28 years old has ever asked a question like that 28 years And she's never said what has made your marriage a solid marriage. She's never asked that and I looked at her I said in a word Jesus Not just the name Jesus by the way I mean there are people today in the United States who say I'm Christian wife because Jesus is Lord They just say his name. No, it's it's not like that at all. No, it's Jesus Jesus Christ his teachings his power his Spirit what he wants for us. He brought us together. I said it's our shared faith and the Lord Jesus Christ That is what has kept us together is what brought us together. It's kept us together. It will keep us together That's what it is.  I have ministry I perform We talked together about the Lord we share together the things of the Lord now There are things that have kept us together in terms of mutual likes and and a variety of things that are just essentially Part of what it means to have a relationship with somebody else But but what has kept us together? I can tell you in a word. It's the Lord Jesus Christ. It's faith in him It's serving him it's loving him because he's given to us an ability to love one another And that's what you have seen your entire life what you have seen in your lifetime It's just a man and a woman a mom and a dad who are in love with the Lord and the Lord has brought us into love with One another and that's how it works.   It's all good and thank God for the blessings that he gives to us. Amen But does that keep us together? No, never has never will What keeps us together what makes our life what it is is the Lord and you have to keep things There that's where a lot of people. I'm sorry to say are failing For them Jesus is just part of the baggage is part of what I do. He's not the core You know God said love the Lord thy God with all of your heart Not some of it and not occasionally not seasonally not once in a while not on Sunday. He said love him all of your heart all of it and Guess what as you love the Lord with everything you're able to love others with the tremendous amount of love and devotion that's how it works and So this woman here the Shulamite had rejected her husband He had come to the door. He wanted to have entrance so he could be with her. She said no, I've got a headache He leaves He leaves the fragrance there his cologne if you will on the door latch She opens the door her hand touches the latch where the ointment was and she smells and she thinks of him She says oh man, I've done wrong. I need to do something. I have to go find him and She goes to pursue him And she wants to have relationship with them How can you have a love that lasts well focus your attention on the things that created your love for one another Now in her case, she's made a decision. She's going to seek she's going to find and she's going to recover what she's rejected And so in verse 2 it says my beloved has gone to his garden To the beds of spices to feed his flock in the gardens and to gather lilies Now she knows exactly where he's going to be. This is because Solomon was a man of character Now he wasn't hiding somewhere pouting because she had rejected him and some husbands do let's face it The wife doesn't want anything to do with her right now. She doesn't want to be intimate and before you know He's sitting in the other room good. Oh, you never loved me. He wasn't doing that He wasn't hiding out somewhere punishing her where was he while he was cultivating his garden Now when it says that by the way, it says my beloved has gone to his garden to the bed of spices That says something to us about him first. He's a king and as a king. He's taking care of his kingdom He's maintaining it and second. He's a shepherd. He's taking care of his flock and third He's a servant because he's gathering fair lilies and fair lilies would be a symbol of caring for the welfare of other people And so there's something that causes this woman to trust safely in him and it's his stability It's his character and the loving care that that he has that make her trust in him And and she knows where he's going to be and that's why she in verse 3 can say I am my beloveds and my beloved is mine He feeds his flock among the lilies There's no doubt in her heart in spite of having a conflict. She's sure of his love for her They have a relationship that's going to last and she's fully confident in it He's committed to her he loves her and that's why she can fully trust she knew They can have a disagreement, but that's not going to end their whole relationship You know, there's some people who are afraid of conflicts. They think they're going to lose the person They care about if they disagree But this Shulamite has a great security Knowing that her husband is doing what he should do and he's where he's supposed to be In modern terms, she didn't have to go check his Facebook page She didn't have to begin reading secretly his emails or his text messages There are a lot of people who do that and you know it You got your phone you put it down You walk out of the room before you know it someone's picking it up looking at all the text messages Who's who's this? What number is that? That is not the way to do things if you've got some great concern that this person isn't true to you Do two things one look at your own heart and see why am I thinking this and to tell them your concern? Instead of hiding it and getting mad Listen, if I leave my my cell phone and Marie comes and picks it up She'd never look at my messages because I've got it blocked. She can't know. I'm just There's no way got a secret code. Oh, she would never do that She doesn't have to She didn't have to I Have never given her reason to have to Even feel that she has to There's nobody else just her It's like Adam and Eve when she says to him. Do you love me and he says who else? I mean there was only the two of them, right? Nobody else I can love but Marie doesn't have to Husband your wife shouldn't ever feel that she has to And and wife you should never violate that space You're breaking trust If you don't trust them You got bigger issues than who's texting him and they have to be dealt with they have to be dealt with This woman this fulamite knew exactly where her husband's going to be He's gonna be doing what he's supposed to be doing and she knew exactly where to find him And she went looking for him and knew exactly where he was She was prepared by the way as she was walking over there to make up with him Because she knew one thing she knew that they belong together no matter what and she was willing to make the effort to be at peace with him Psalm 34 verse 14 says depart from evil and do good seek peace and pursue it You see the key for reconciliation is to maintain a mutual deep desire to be at peace with one another and Sometimes a compromise to keep the peace is necessary. You don't always have to have things done your way Sometimes one of us has to abandon our rights just so that we can have peace. It's called turning the other cheek and Sometimes we have to simply put the relationship in front of our personal desire The fact is us is Better than me. I want to be us not me When I got married to Marie it became an us When you speak of the Rosales is you're speaking about us because we belong together the two became one flesh That doesn't mean that she doesn't have her own ideas and likes and that I don't retain my own personality We we just have the two becoming the one we work together. Well For me, it's always been a matter of that that that's one of the things that have kept us together I don't want it to be a me thing. I don't take my own vacations. I don't have my own bank account. I Don't do those kinds of things are there are people who do oh, you know, we have our own vacations We have our own accounts. We have our own sets of friends. We have our nights out. He goes out then I go out there We don't do that never have never will Because it's us It's us We got married because we like each other we got married because we love each other We got married because we want to be together not so that I could go out with the boys on a Tuesday And she goes out with the girls on a Thursday, or we're gonna go to Vegas for a weekend We don't do that kind of thing never have never will why because us is better than me Because the us is better than me when it comes to choices. I choose us I've chosen us and that's how it works. Is that mentality? Is she free to do what she wants? Absolutely. Does she want to do those things? No, why because she wants to be with me. I Am free to do whatever I want.   I am my beloveds and he is mine We're committed to one another Now sometimes people have conflicts. There's sources of conflict. You have them when you're dating There are things that have to be worked out There are things you have to ask you have to find out who's who's gonna lead the home? And how do you define what leadership is?  Who's going to be in charge of paying the bills? Do you have anybody who's going to be on in charge? Are you going to ever have a budget? Are both of you going to work or are you going to want to make it on one income? Are you going to have children and how many would you like to have? A better question is why? Why ruin a good thing? But when Marie and I were dating we knew we were gonna have kids She comes from a family of six. I come from a family of four. I knew we'd have more than two didn't want three I knew we'd have at least four and No more than four She would have been fine with more except when she had Anna When she was in between birth pains. She was yelling at me. This is the last one Serious she was this is the last one.  One of the the married people the wife is infertile or the husband is is Incapable of impregnating her. What are you gonna do? Have you talked about that? Those are things that you talk about those are sources of conflict How how involved are your parents going to be in your marriage? And with your kids If both of you work who's gonna raise the kids if you're not there for them Do you have such a thing as a division of labor? Do you have this mentality of domestic labor? domestic chores as a man Do you think oh, you know the wife is supposed to clean the house and vacuum and she's supposed to make the meals and and me I'm supposed to lay there and snap my fingers. I mean You know when I when I was with you growing up might my mom and dad had a good system might my dad never taught it to me verbally until I Was much older, but but I saw it in action and it was this mama has the inside of the house and dad had the outside That's how it worked That doesn't mean my dad didn't pick up a vacuum and didn't mean that he didn't wash dishes because he did Didn't mean that my dad couldn't cook but because my dad sometimes would make meals He didn't look at at that as a woman's work He saw it as work and and he would do work and and all of that But mama owned the inside of the house if she wants to put some flowers here She puts up some flowers. She wants to change this she changes that it didn't matter I learned that when I got married Marie would go on retreat and I'd be bored I mean she'd be gone Friday Saturday coming back Sunday. I had nothing to do the children were small So I would do things around the house the inside of the house I can still remember wallpaper in the entire front room and She came home to a wallpapered front room that she didn't like and Marie would walk in and just look at it like I Say beautiful, huh? I Like those unicorns She didn't like it You know and and she finally got to the point where she would tell me I don't want to go on retreats anymore I say why not baby because I don't know what you're gonna do to the house when I come home I'm decorating my inner Martha So I had to realize you don't want me to touch the house and I'm fine with that. I'm fine with that and so outside's mine insides her. What do you want? That doesn't mean I don't wash dishes. I will that doesn't mean that I don't vacuum my dude Doesn't mean that I don't paint rooms. I will I do whatever she wants and You just make we just make up our mind That's what's gonna happen. You need to have that kind of system working and I'm sure you do What happens when one person wants to leave the church and the other one doesn't Who makes that decision? What is fair when it comes to fighting When you have an argument, do you do you bring up the past? Do you use bad language? Do you yell? Do you blame? And how do you know when the fight is over? How do you know when it's really over? You see in this case here They had a conflict and the bride went looking for her husband because she felt she was in the wrong and And what motivated her was she remembered her love for him and she felt bad She wanted reconciliation which led to them making up Now to resolve conflict Be careful how you go about dealing with problems When you argue Be careful not to just speak your mind in anger Hurting that other person There are people whose words are like as sharp as a sword. They use them to pierce Be careful. You don't use your words like that Proverbs 29 20 says do you see a man hasty in his words? There's more hope for a fool than for him Be careful not to pick a fight in public Not only is that wrong But man is it uncomfortable to see Treat that other person as you would be treated make sure you don't confront your spouse in front of the children Because that tension ruins Ruins the home and it makes them not want to even be around and Make sure that if you're having a conflict that you don't raise your voice Because that's not talking. That's bullying And if you're having an argument and it happens that there are people who are around don't try and get them to agree with You because you end up teaming up against your spouse Make sure that you don't demean your spouse Putting them down privately or in front of other people make sure that you don't say bad things about them in front of your parents Front of your family or your friends or even strangers and make sure that you don't blame said Making it seem as if they're the ones who have the problem One of the ways that you can learn to resolve differences is to listen and while you're listening Don't make faces There are people who are listening, but they're going that's not listening. That's irritating They do so don't make faces listen listen with your heart Listened to not just the words but to the meaning behind them You see some people listen with this attitude just the minute you close your mouth I'm gonna show you where you're so wrong in all of this. They're not even listening They're not listening at all. You need to listen patiently You need to listen with humility because they're saying something that's important If it's something they've said before instead of saying to them, oh, you've said this before when you're gonna get over it Maybe it's a continuing problem that you have to deal with Maybe they're right if they keep saying the same thing How many times and how many different ways that they have to say it? Here we are defining ourselves. Well, that's your opinion. That's what you think, you know Or that old that's just how I was raised That's a way that was the way my family was that's the way we were You got to get used to it because that's who you married know You know, I was raised by a mom and dad who loved the family But my mom and dad were sinners and my mom and dad is sinners raised sinners So I don't want to use a sinful way of raising people as an example of how I'm gonna do it What I have to do is I have to look at scripture to see what Christians actually do and how they respond and how they deal with these problems And and I learned and I'm learning to as as Marie and I have a conflict when we do Whenever she thinks I'm wrong, but she's really wrong and I have to wait for her to figure that one out. I pray When she's talking And I'm not praying.  I'm listening Lord There's something that she's telling me I need to hear because I want to have a good marriage and Even if I don't agree with her at least help me hear her and Help me show respect to her when she's speaking because because for a living what I do is I speak That's what I do and I've been doing it 38 years So I'm very capable of taking what you're saying and turning it on you very easily It's not hard to do Because I listened for the weakness and I find it and then I got you that's how it works We all are that way The Lord told me a long time ago. This isn't a debate. This is a marriage This is a relationship and you may not agree with what's being said But something being said is important to her and you better listen to what she's saying or else It's going to affect you and your whole family.  So what happens? Well verse 4 That's your introduction. We better get into the text I'm just kidding.  There are 60 queens and 80 concubines and virgins without number my dove my perfect one Is the only one The only one of her mother the favorite of the one who bore her The daughter saw her and called her blessed the queens and the concubines They praised her Who is she who looks forth as the morning fair as the moon clear as the sun awesome As an army with banners instead of him saying well About time he came crawling back to me He comes on all Rico Swabby He tells her you are just so beautiful You're as beautiful as the day we got married Terza The word means sweetness pleasantness delight and Terza was a city to the north. That's where she's from Jerusalem is where they live and So he's saying to her you are beautiful You have conquered my heart And verses 8 through 10 when he says there are 60 queens and 80 concubines virgins without number Instead of being punitive Solomon goes on to tell her that she's the only one that he loves He's basically saying you know, there are so many women that are available to me But there's only one who's won my heart and it's you It's you You are unmatched There's no one like you You have no equal Even before she's asking for forgiveness. He's telling her that all is forgiven And that's an attitude of the heart that he has he's standing ready to forgive and he acts it out He's refusing to hold a grudge Because if he refuses to hold a grudge, he's not going to get bitter That's the heart of unconditional love And so as he's telling her listen, honey I love you so much and all is forgiven the shulamite verse 11 says I went down to the Garden of Nuts to see the verger of the valley to see whether the vine had budded and the pomegranates had bloomed before I Was even aware my soul had made me as a chariots of my noble people return return oh shulamite return Return that we may look upon you What would you see in the shulamite as it were the dance of the double count I Went down To this garden. I was looking to see if our relationship was still fruitful and just discovered he still loves me This is a picture of new buds blossoming after winter in other words She's seen something new and alive blossom from what seemed to be dead and lifeless That's what happens when you reconcile life returns in verse 12 when she says as the chariots of my noble people Writing in chariot was an honor that was bestowed on trusted and loved people. It revealed an open honor It displayed that she was fully reconciled to her husband And when it finally says in verse 13 return return oh shulamite return return that we may look upon you What would you see in the shulamite as it were the dance of the double camp? They're simply saying you have been fully reconciled Love is evident Come home And as you do so the two camps that were in discord will once again dance in harmony a dance of Reconciliation your dance resumes Every Married couple in this room has a dance You may be saying I'm not a dancer And my mama could dance My mama danced and she won dance contest my mom could dance When I grew up You know in our home we'd have friends over on a Friday or a Saturday on occasion. They'd play music my mom Was quite a dance it my dad two left feet Daddy couldn't dance He had just kind of do this and mom would just dance around it daddy couldn't dance But they could sure dance together You dance you dance this morning when you got up You went into the bathroom to get ready If you have a double sink you may be in one wife and the other You're starting to do whatever it is you're washing or shaving and she's over here But for some reason she needs to always put something right on the section that's usually yours So she reaches over there to get it But as you're doing what you're doing you step back right she reaches in she gets it You don't say anything she finishes doing what she's doing, but you forgot you left something over there on her side So you walk over there and she slides out of the way and you pick it up and you come on back and you were already dancing You just didn't realize it You walked out the door when you walk out the door the way Marie and I are when we walk out the door I always step aside the doors open she goes out. I don't even think about it. She'll stop She always stops for a moment. I've been doing this for 37 years, but she stops Then she'll walk through the door and then I walk behind her. I open the door. She that's our dance We dance like that all the time She walks in one way. I walk in another and we're interweaving our life. It's a dance You all dance you have your own steps and they're perfect for you. They work. It's your dance When you have a fight you have a dance of reconciliation reconciliation That at one point where you had stopped and maybe you're going separately it comes back and The harmony is restored And that's what she's simply saying She's saying there were warring camps That were going in the opposite direction, but they've been brought back in for the dance and every time you have a fight and you will You have that argument You always come back to the dance of reconciliation Because I choose us Over me. I want her Not my rights. I want us and I am willing to work in those steps to make sure that our dance continues She was too and so was Solomon


A little over two years ago, my best friend was dying of his drug addiction and alcoholism. And in this video, I'm going to teach you how I helped him get clean over two years ago. So stay tuned. What's up, everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul, where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And yes, today I'm going to tell you about my best friend in the world and how he got sober, how I helped him get sober. I wrote a book called Caught in the Crossfire, a how-to guide for anyone affected by a loved one's addiction. It's available on Amazon. You can check the link below. But in this video, I'm going to share our story about how I helped my best friend get clean. So five years ago, on June 23, 2012, I got clean. I was heavy into prescription, painkillers, alcohol, cocaine, and pretty much whatever else I can get my hands on, and I was about to die. So my mom helped me get clean. You can check my other video about my story. And when I was about two weeks sober, I was in California, and my best friend calls me from Las Vegas. He just got his first DUI, and he called me, and he's like, Chris, Chris, Chris, help me. I need to get sober. How do you do it? How do I do this? And to be honest, I was like, hey, man, I don't know. I don't even know how I'm staying sober right now. I had two weeks clean, and it was very hard for me to help him. And I talked to his parents and stuff. They didn't know what to do and all that kind of stuff, but it's difficult. And just real quick side note, this is one of the reasons why I tell newly recovering addicts, find somebody with more clean time to help you in these situations. Because if I would have tried helping them at that point, it would have just been the blind leading the blind. After staying clean for about a year and three months in California, I decided I was going to move back to Las Vegas, be a father to my son, get a job, get back in the real life and do this thing sober. And I had destroyed so many relationships with everybody in my life that the only couch I had to crash on was my buddies. And he was still in his addiction. And I had to do it. And whether or not this was a good decision, I couldn't tell you. For me, it was fine, but we often don't recommend that somebody else does this. I will say this right now. The point I was at in my recovery, rather than it tempt me, it actually kind of made me remember why I don't want to ever do that again. Just his whole apartment was constantly filled with beer cans and liquor bottles. And he was coming home drunk and all sorts of stuff. And I'm just like, yeah, I don't really want that. And I stayed with him for about a month or so before I finally got a job and moved out. And here was the hardest thing. And this is difficult for anybody, especially if you're in recovery. Like, we need to talk about how to help your friend who has a drug addiction without enabling them.  And sometimes that enabling goes for so long that the person actually dies because nobody was there to get this person help. And a question I get all the time from my clients is, like, I can't just stop hanging out with my best friend. They're my best friend. I've known them since I was a kid.  Like, after I moved out of my friend's apartment, like, I had to distance myself from him. And he knew why. You know, he was upset. I was upset, you know, and I wanted to go be with him. But, like, I had to put my own recovery first because the only time me and him ever really hung out, we were going to the bar. We live in Las Vegas and he is a bartender. So whenever we would go, even if we went to go get food, it was at a bar. So if I would have kept hanging around him, chances are I would have relapsed. And this carried on for the next couple years. I had to keep my distance away from my best friend. He would call me or he would text me, extremely drunk. And I could tell things were getting worse for him. And one of the things that we're not supposed to do is talk to somebody while they're intoxicated or while they're high. And I teach this to people, but it's something that I did with my best friend when he was drunk or high and he would call me like, I would sit on the phone with him for 30 or 45 minutes. And the reason we don't do this is because 99.9% of the time, the next day, he had no idea that we even talked. So I was getting emotionally drained by trying to help him while he was intoxicated and none of that was retained in his brain. So two years ago, back in 2015, things were getting worse. They were getting progressively worse. And I was afraid that my best friend was going to die. He was calling me more often. Bad things were happening. He had a newly born daughter. He has a fiance who is now his wife. And things were getting bad. He was calling me. He was basically talking like he was suicidal. He didn't want to live anymore. He didn't know how to do this. And all I could do was say, hey man, if you want help, let me know. And he was very reluctant to this. He was very, very reluctant to this help. And finally, he got a point, a point that a lot of us have to get to where he was backed into a corner. Things were getting progressively worse with his fiance and his family and all these things. So knowing that my best friend had a severe addiction, I knew he needed inpatient treatment. I knew this. See, my friend and I, we actually started drinking and using together. We were the kids in high school who never drank or used. So look at that. That's us right there. See how I used to look? Anyways, we started drinking and using together and we both kind of progressed together and it was hard. It was difficult. I had to trick him. I knew he needed residential inpatient treatment. But he was afraid to commit to that. He didn't want to commit to that. And before I even started working for the rehab that I work for now, I knew about the company because I had done some work for him in the past. And I said, look, dude, look, I know you don't want to go away for 30 days because his insurance would have only covered him in California. I said, how about you at least do outpatient treatment? Just do that. And he agreed to do that. He came with me. We met with the lady who was doing intake and we sat and talked. And he agreed to do it. Now, I 100% knew that he was going to fail. He was going to fail. I knew this was going to happen. And he did. The whole time he was in outpatient, which was for about a week, he was getting high and drunk the whole time. The first time they asked him for a drug test, boom, he took off. And I knew he was going to fail. But I also knew that I had to just have him dip a toe. I knew that he would have to fail at that to really understand that he needed to go a step further and go to inpatient treatment. So after he relapsed and left the outpatient facility, things got worse again. And he couldn't stop drinking and using. He was calling me more, his depression and suicidal thoughts. And here is some of the best advice I can give you for anybody watching this who has a friend who is struggling with addiction. I sat there and I thought about it because he always said, no matter when he called me, no matter how drunk he was, he said, just don't tell my parents. And his parents were like family to me. And he's my best friend, so I'm not going to tell his parents. But I sat there when I thought about it and I said, you know what? If this dude dies or if this dude kills himself, am I going to be able to live with the guilt that I never told his parents how bad he was actually getting? And when I sat and thought about that, I'm like, nope.   When my mom was a drunk for 20 years, his mom and his whole family was there for me. I went over there for Thanksgiving. And Christmas, all the holidays, like they took me in as one of their own. But I called his mom and she was extremely sad and upset. I got my mom on the phone because she helped me get sober and we talked. And then I started talking to my friend's fiancee and they were asking me, they were going to plan an intervention, but this is what they did. So they were going to have an intervention for my friend and like, next thing I knew, he was ready to go to treatment. So before I explained to you how he went to treatment, let me say this, like, I have people come to my treatment center all the time, like they lied to me, they lied to me on the phone when I was coming to treatment, like, a lot of times you have to get lied to. My mom lied to me. She said I was only going to go to sober living for 30 days. And then she said, oh no, I was lying to you. You're staying there for at least 90. And same thing happened to my friend. My friend's fiancee got together with his boss who was also in recovery and they made my friend believe that he was going to lose his job if he didn't go to treatment. And that never actually happened. But it helped him go to treatment.  But anyways, my best friend calls me on, I believe it was a Saturday night when I had my son and he calls me up and he says, Chris, I'm ready to go to treatment. Can you drive me out to California tomorrow morning? And without even hesitating, I said yes. And I just want you to think about that for a second. As far as I pushed him away during his addiction, the second he asked for help, I was right there to do it for him. And it's important to realize that because a lot of us addicts, we sit in our addiction and we think that the whole world is against us. But the second we're ready to get help, people will do whatever it takes to help us.  I got to bring Dylan back tonight and I got to take my friend to treatment tomorrow morning. And without hesitating, she said yes because she knew how it changed my life too. So that very next morning at about four o'clock in the morning, my friend showed up in my house. We hopped in the car. We drove down to Murrieta, California. It was a somewhat awkward car drive. My friend's on his way to rehab and we're just making small talk. But yeah, we dropped him off there. And we dropped him off there. I just felt this sigh of relief. Whenever somebody goes to treatment, it is a huge sigh of relief for everybody involved because we know for a fact that now they're safe. Now they're in the hands of people who can help them if something happens. So I felt this sigh of relief. And as I drove back to Las Vegas, I was just smiling and singing. It was the best day of my life. And my friend managed to do 30 days and I can make another video about it. I'll make one with him maybe sometime. But I'm so proud of him. I'm so proud of everything he's done. Whenever any of us get sober, like all of us are just waiting. We're just waiting for that person to fail. And when he was leaving treatment, I was more nervous for him than ever. Like, is he going to do what they told him to do?  Does he realize that he can't pick up a drink or a drug? Is he going to quit his job? Because as I mentioned, he is a bartender. And I often call him a unicorn. You might've realized I use a lot of unicorn references. But like, most people cannot be a bartender and stay sober after they leave treatment. But my friend, he is still a bartender.  His parents have their son back. He has two sisters and a brother. They have their brother back. Best of all, his daughter has her father back. He is now married. That is no longer his fiance. They're married now. And I have my best friend back. Like, I decided to make this video because I went over there today and one of our friends from Florida and we all used to be roommates and party together and stuff. Like, we all got together today and I'm like, you know what? Like, this is amazing. Like, me and my best friend, we should both be dead right now. And we're not. We're both living in recovery. I'm like, I have my friend back. Like, we can talk. We go to the gym together. We do all sorts of stuff. And it's amazing. So what I'm getting at is, if you are somebody who is in recovery or even somebody thinking about getting sober, the best way that you can help your friend get sober is by simply staying sober yourself. I often think about how I could have never helped my friend if I was still getting loaded. Like, was he gonna turn to me and say, hey, can you take me to rehab? And I'm sitting there like snorting pills or drinking the whole way to California? No, absolutely not. Like, part of my motivation to stay clean was if my friend ever wants help, I need to be there for him. And that helped me stay clean. So always remember that. Like, some days you have to stay sober so you can help the next person. And that's exactly what I did. And it took three years of my sobriety until he decided to get clean and take that step. But if you have a friend or family member or anybody in your life who is a drug addict or an alcoholic and you don't know how to help them, please check out the link below. My book on Amazon is only $3, okay? It's a short book. In that book, I talk about not only different ways that you can have an intervention or ways that you're supposed to talk to an addict or alcoholic that can help them realize that they need to go get help. But I also talk a lot in this book about how you, how you can make sure that your mental and emotional health are okay while your friend or family member is in their addiction. So please check out my book, called on the Crossfire. It's right down in the link below. And if you have any questions, let me know, leave them down in the comments. Like, I'm always here to help. My email is on the about page. I'll put it in the description too. And like, get ahold of me. Also, check the info cards. Whenever I'm posting these info cards, check them. Because if your friend or family member does not have health insurance, I have a video up there about how they can still get treatment. And if they do have insurance or they want to pay for treatment, like, get ahold of me. I work for a national drug addiction and alcoholism recovery company. Like, we have facilities all over the country. Like, the two ways that I stay sober. The reason why I have this YouTube channel is because the two ways that I stay sober and live my amazing life that I live today is that I help people get sober and I help people stay sober. So I'm here to help you in any way that I can. 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