to the red man group patriarchs edition, episode 14 with, I'm going to dive right into this. We're not going to go around the panel and talk about what we've been up to. We're not going to talk about getting tickets to 21 convention coming up this October. You should be there link below. We're not going to talk about all of those things. We're going to dive right into how we can protect ourselves and how we can protect our families. As patriarchs, we are the shield and the spear. We must defend our clan and we must be able to go out and attack. And a lot of men are finding themselves in a position where their number is called and they don't know what to do. They've never had someone actually tell them, hey, when violence comes your way, this is what you do. Because we're living in an age where you have to go out of your way to be uncomfortable. You know, we have climate-controlled houses, climate-controlled cars, climate-controlled offices. Everything is nice and neat and packaged clean.  You need to be able to answer. So I brought this panel together because they embody exactly what's needed.   We're not going to go out and play green beret, contractor, you know, we're not Blackwater, we're dads, you know, but we can still train ourselves and prepare ourselves to take care of our family if and when our number is called. So with that, let's get right to it. Rich, welcome to the panel. Let's let these men know where you're coming from, who you are, you know, you lost the beard so they have no idea. So what's up, Rich, welcome. I have no beard, so now I'm undercover. It's like the opposite. So, hey guys, Rich Graham, Veteran Navy SEAL and a tactical advisor for some SWAT teams and do a lot of corporate active shooter response training. Excellent. And Swift, while many on the Twitter sphere understand who you are, you know, for those tuning in or those new to the show, who is Mr. Swift? Swift, Veteran Law Enforcement 18 years, part of that nine years paramedic. In the meantime, SWAT team commander, riot team commander, also private military contractor for a three-letter group, a couple years, other than that, consulting, active shooter scenarios for corporate houses of worship churches and also some other government agencies around here who are, want to be as deep and as gray as man as possible around the Denver metro area. Other than that, a dad also, firearms instructor. I teach couples. I also started last year, I didn't mention it in Orlando or to you guys, but I also started a kid's zone active shooter home invasion course. I already got 50, 53 so far graduates of that. And mind you, those are 13 down to seven. Very cool. You're welcome. That's awesome. So it should be clear at this point, why those two are on the panel. Now, why did they bring on Jeff? Jeff, many know you.   So props on that. But as soon as we had a discussion recently inside the fraternity, it kind of started with me shooting my firearm but not carrying concealed. And that led to the idea of this episode, which is being able to defend yourself, defend your family or educate.  All right. Well, like you said, I'm a dad. I've got nine kids. Thank God there's only one girl out of the nine. You know, as a husband, a dad and a man in general, I believe that there's only three things that you should be doing for your family on a constant basis. It's providing and presiding and lastly protecting. And so it's my obligation. It's my duty to protect my family with everything I can. And this past month has been a bit of a nightmare because once your kids get grown and they move out and they start getting jobs and apartments and go into college, you can't protect them anymore because you're not with them. And a month ago, there was a mass shooting in El Paso. My 19 year old lives right next door to that Walmart. And then this past Saturday, the shooting in Odessa, Texas right outside of my oldest son's college. So in the past month, I've had two sons present within the general area of the line of fire in active shooter situations.  We often have a degree of separation from violence.  That doesn't happen to my family. You know, that wouldn't happen to me until it does.  How can you make sure that if and when it does happen to you, you're prepared?  Oh, that thing you see in the news? Yeah, my son is there.  You're like, look, I might have just seen your kid running by or running away.  You know, as a father, that's, you're not there, you can't grab them and shield them. So now you look back on, did I teach them? You know, did I, did I arm them at least with the knowledge to, hey, do what you need to do to get away from that scenario? Or, you know, if it comes to blows, be able to protect yourself. Now with that, I'm going to drop an image on the screen and I want people to see because they often think it's not going to happen to me. You know, that's the famous words. I'm good. It's not going to be watched. You know, my family's safe, everything's good. If you look at this map, these are all of the mass shootings, school shootings only. These are school shootings in the United States. If you look at the big red circles, that's the higher death toll. Fun fact, this is as of April 20th. So this is not up to date. There are more red dots, big red circles like that on this map if you were to be current. This is no joke. This is no what-up scenario. This is happening. This is the age we live in. Now with that said, I'll toss this one to Swift. Why do you think this is occurring at a greater frequency? Short answer. Sure. Okay. Mental health issues. And the long answer? The long answer is it's a very compounded issue, mental health issues, also with the degeneracy of our society and culture, the lack of God being in our lives, the lack of men teaching what real masculinity, God-given masculinity in their families is, the true absence of family. Then you also have the overreaching stint of government. And I'm not saying that government's bad, but I'm also saying when you put one in, someone's got to come out. Well, when the family comes out, government's going to step in. So you're going to get all kinds of stuff. And then on top of that, you're going to have just the true hatred.  No, it's good, man. People need to hear the conversation. They need to think about these next layer of things.  Let's go down like why this is happening, then what to do, and then what you can prepare for. The devalue of human life itself.  I mean, which also, which, I mean, I have a good friend, Jeremy Fox, him and I get into the conversation quite a bit. When you devalue human life, not just this killing, not just this, I mean, it's true, simple as killing.  When you devalue human life, that also goes hand in hand with pornography. When you devalue people, then you are allowed to do more things, evil things to other people. That's my long answer. Of course, I can go all night long on that stuff. Well, I only have an hour and a half. I know, I know, I know. So yeah, theologically and as human and as dad too, valuing human life also does not have to be a faith or religion thing.  Yeah, and you know, Swift, just hearing your answer on that, you know, obviously this is something that affects everyone in America and hell, all over the world right now with school shootings and me having so many kids in school, it's something that I've looked into and I've reached out to various people with opinions on the matter and your bullet points that you brought up are really interesting. You had mentioned the lack of men teaching their boys what true and real masculinity is and your other bullet point was an overreach of government. You know, those two, while they may sound different, there is another scenario that I've brought to mind where they are both symptoms of the disease. If you think about how if you get a bunch of men together and we settle our disputes like men, whether it's a couple of knocks behind the car or whatever it is, it's settled. But right now we have this an embargo on violence that's been put on us by the government. So you have all these people who haven't been listened to, they've been ignored and they have no outlet, no one to challenge for disrespecting them. And so it builds up and it builds up and it builds up and because they haven't been taught by a man how to deal with those things and how to channel that aggression and masculinity, they snap and they burst.  So you're basically locked in impotence because of course the overreach of the government itself, not I want chaos or anarchy, but you cannot aggressively defend yourself without fear of reprisal by the government. And even worse so if you didn't have a father or a positive male role model to teach you how to deal with that aggression and channel it into something positive, all that just builds resentment and it builds up and it builds up and it builds up.  And so I think a lot of your bullet points really do compound and kind of intertwine with each other. They do, it's very, it gets very lengthy pretty quick with the professionals, the psychotherapists, those people.   When you're dealing with, you know, the business types or, and then we shot one-on-one, you know, you gave me a lot of lessons to take home, which is awesome, I've been using them. Do you have people asking you, look, why do you think this is happening? Why do you think schools are being shot? Why do you think businesses are being shot up?   And I agree, I think the problem of the heart really and to not repeat things that are already stated because I agree with those. I think there's also a breakdown in people's development of communication, right? So communicating through tech and all this stuff online, we never, I think the generations that are young right now never actually got to develop like the right communication skills and how to handle adversity and things like that. And I know just from one simple example, when I was training some security teams and stuff like that and all they wanted to do was essentially shoot.  All we ever teach you how to do is shoot and we don't teach you any handing. All you have is, sir, could you please do whatever it is I'm asking. And if you don't do that result, the only thing they have to go to is maximum violence by drawing their firearm. They have no middle ground, right? And I feel like a lot of these children because they've never developed the proper communication skills, they have no middle ground on how to handle situations in person, right? So they go from level zero to 10 throwing temper tantrums when they're children and those temper tantrums as adults show up in them throwing a temper tantrum and shooting everybody. You know what I mean? And I think that's one of the aspects of this in addition to the other thing we're already stated. Yeah, they've got no de-escalation skills. Yeah. Now it's funny you're talking about the starting in childhood and the temper tantrums.  That's not gonna be what I'm about to say but electronics and I think this new thing I've kind of come across and I've been kind of chewing on mentally is electronic courage. You have men online who will say things to you that they would never say to your face but behind that username, they'll say this, they'll say that. And part of me wonders if you're brought up on that if you're raised in an environment where you can say whatever you want without any retaliation or consequences does it start to get inside the head and start to develop this mindset of I am a man who can say this to somebody. I can walk up to a well-trained Navy SEAL or well-trained SWAT law enforcement officer and just say whatever I want and nothing can happen.  It's just like untouchable. We're in a different age. These kids are exposed to technology at like five. My kids are not. A lot of parents, they do have strict regulation on screen time and whatnot, but some kids are plugged in a screen and they've got that username and they'll just say and do whatever they want. And I'm wondering if that plays into this. Well, Hunter, you know, it kind of goes into what I was saying. You know, I think Robert E. Howard had said something along the line. If you guys don't know who that is, he authored the Conan the Barbarian series. One of his famous quotes was that savages are more polite by nature because they actually run the risk of having their head split open and acts. Yep. Like I was just telling Swift before, we live in a society where any violence or disputes to be settled between individuals is completely off, you know, it's completely off the table. You can't do any of that.   And so I think, what do you call them? The keyboard warriors. They're really tough behind the screen because they live in a world where retributive violence is not a factor.  Says where?  I don't pull those strings. I know you don't. I'm only kidding. So I'm tracking the chat while you guys are talking and I'm gonna throw one up there. Anthony says, do you think these symptoms are deliberately happening from taking the fathers out of the home? Yeah, I do.  My dad died before I even started school.       And what I said on Twitter was, well, isn't that another way of saying they came from single mother homes? And like the internet lost their minds, but I think that does speak to, you know, the older man passing on to the younger man. And this kind of goes to what Ritt said about, instead of going to Max Violence, you know, you kind of learn to communicate and work your way up to things, is it's never taught how to channel. You know, and I think if there's a takeaway from this is teaching your kids how to channel their frustrations and their anger, it's okay to be mad.  But what they're doing is learning how do you go all the way up to pain without going beyond pain? Like that's how you learn, like how hard does a punch hurt to where you're fooling around punch to where you're hurting somebody punch. You know, and some people don't teach that.  They never learned to pull back because they never played, they never wrestled, they never had that outlet. I think Jeremy Fox and Adam Lane Smith had both mentioned something about that during a child's formative years between the ages of zero and four, rough play with a father is so imperative to their development on how to deal with conflict resolution. Cause it happens at such a stage where it's, it's almost a subliminal lesson that they get taught is kind of coded into how they think just because of, just because of that play. And I think like, just like those dogs wrestling around on the floor, you know, a kid wrestling around on the floor with his dad, he learns what's too far and what's not.  He sees how dad talks and, you know, how dad talks him down from that point. Yeah. And there's value in losing. Yes. You don't, you don't learn when you win, typically. You know what I mean? You learn the hard lessons when you lose. So one of the things that we're doing but the sports and all this stuff by making sports easier and not letting, you know, it's okay if you lose, right? And not having the, you know, if we have that, like everyone's a winner mentality, then we lose this opportunity where we allow our children and young men to learn things the hard way, right? Because you tell people things and they're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm going to do it my way, but they have to go to, you know, crash and fall and then reflect on that and go, man, what happened here and how do I, how do I go from this? So even for the horse play, right?  Like, I got a lot of fist fights, you know what I mean? But we didn't shoot each other, you know what I mean?  We all want to win, but at the same time, if you, the loss is not an actual loss if you can gain knowledge from it and perspective and guidance and then move forward and then win later on based on those, you know, evaluations. So I think there's a lot of people missing that in this that everyone's winner culture. So I want to spend a few more minutes on the kind of the cause of how we got there, what's making this happen. I know a lot of the guys in the chat and a lot of people that are tuning in are going to want to talk about what they can do, how they can train, steps they can take, things of that nature, because that's the fun part, that's the sizzle, right? But you need the steak first. You need to understand why these things are happening and how as a parent, you can prevent the next one from happening. Or, you know, if you're a single mother listening to this and we're talking about these outlets, you need to get your kid into somewhere where he can lose, where he can be confrontational.   You know, actually, so literally, as I'm saying this, one of the moms in the chat just said, how does a single mom that coaches to be a good role model for their sons? And I think that is an excellent question to pitch here.  How can these mothers, a mother can't be a father, so she's gotta find someone to fill that masculine role model? Where can they go or how do they vet a good coach? Oh, it's hard, but it's also so easy.  Was it her dad's? He's still alive, you know? Does she have any brothers? You know, does she have any cousins that are close by? Other than that, honestly, you know, used to be the Boy Scouts, but now I'm leery there to even say that one anymore. You know, find the extracurricular activities that the kid has or your sons have already an interest in as well. Trust me, there's men around. They don't advertise, but they watch, they look. Hunters education courses in the state, Colorado is a pretty good one. They also will pair kids up with male mentors for the shooting, for the tracking, for that type of thing. And on top of that, they will get the mentoring for life.   You know, it's gonna fucking, your brother's gonna be the first one to sign the cast.  But you know, this is where you fight at home is where you fight together or against each other. And then outside of the home, you guys are the team against the world if that comes to that. Yeah, that's exactly what we do here. I've got living in the house, sharing a room of 16 year old and a 17 year old. And if they start going at it, my wife wants to go in there and break them. No, no, as long as the bleeding's not arterial, they're good. They'll clean up and fix whatever they break, you know. No, I... Static hierarchy. You know, they're gonna have a pecking order of a who's in charge. And so they figure that out through violence and rough play and seeing who's gonna be the top dog. Right. I'll give you a biased answer. If you're in Rhode Island, just come to my baseball team, you'll find the best coaches. But outside of that. Yeah, but I heard he's really short. Find someone you motherfucking... All right. If you, to me, the way I look at it and the success I've seen young men that I've dealt with and I've dealt with single moms as well and they love our team because we hold their boys to a standard. Find a coach that holds a standard. You will not talk when I'm talking.  If we're running this drill, you run this drill. You don't walk in the field. Let them have their rules, but also let them be boys. You know what? If they're wrestling on the side, that's fine. As long as it's not important time to pay attention. Let them throw down.  Not with bats, but with gloves. But I mean, you're not a part of this drill. I don't need you. As soon as I say, hey, come here, they snap out of it. You want a coach that can do that with them because that teaches them to restrain and also release. Now to move forward a little bit, I asked the chat, you know, if they have any questions for you guys to ask away. And one of those, and I'm assuming that you both do this in your line of work, Rich and Swift, is you look at what's going on and what caused those things to happen. Maybe you do research on the kid or the man who shot the place up and like, all right, where did it come from? What drove into this? Maybe you look at what were the weak points of the school, the weak points, you know, of the building, et cetera. So, Rich, one of the questions that was asked is, do you believe there's a correlation between corporal punishment and increased drug use and shootings? You know, do you think that these boys releasing this, if there's a father who is abusive at home or a mother mentally, physically, do you think that's also a contributor to these kids that are releasing all that?  Yeah, I think there's probably a definite correlation there, but just as you were speaking about the statistics of most of these boys coming from fatherless homes, there's also another statistic out there that shows almost every single one of these active shooter attacks, these people are on some kind of antidepressant drugs. So, when you mix the lack of socialization with a fatherless home, right, and the current status of how we raise men to not be men and then you add in the opioid addictions and antidepressants, it's just, you have a melting pot for destruction. You take the spiritual aspect out of it or you take the heart out of the situation and like you were talking about desensitizing people to where, you know, there's no value in life anymore.  Swift, thoughts on corporal punishment and correlation with these mass shooters and max violence? It depends on where the corporal punishment is delivered from. So is it from a mom? Or is it from a grandpa, uncle, stepdad type of thing?  But again, it would be, are they embarrassed by that, that father figure or lack of their of to want to blow up on society or people who might trigger them from that pain?  It's the lack of enforcement of the rules consistently and those other factors make it so that when you try to put rules in place, now all of a sudden it's a big deal. And we see this a lot. It's very simple when you, when we're doing the canine training, right?  I've been in the fat suit. Yeah, yeah. But when you're doing the canine training, everything is pattern driven. You can't let the dog do it all, whatever it wants, five times in a row and then ask the dog to be disciplined and then be surprised when the dog's not disciplined and want to do a hard correction or something like that, a dog. And it's like, dude, you've, the pattern and the expectation that you've set forth is that this dog can do whatever it wants. And then if you think that when you go, hey, now I need you to be serious, that the dog's gonna be serious and take you serious, the dog's like, dude, why is this any different than the other five times when you let me do whatever I want? So because you set no boundaries, right? And no expectation, then you shouldn't be surprised when the dog then becomes disobedient. So if we set no boundaries and we set no expectations and don't hold people accountable consistently, right?  It's not like, it's one of those things where you need to have the consistency first, before you can ask for that expectation. That was perfect. I think that goes for child brewering like 101. Yeah, sometimes enforce a rule. Yeah, I would definitely agree with that.   How many of them have been mass shooters? But you look at this new generation. Very few. Yeah, very few. You look at this new generation where when you've got the factor of coming from single mother homes or fatherless homes because there's no positive male influence because all the majority of the shooters have been male, I think minus one in San Bernardino, but that was a terror attack. You combine that with an inconsistent level of discipline because look, you're in the canine thing. I've got a big, huge monster dog outside right now and he's happier when he is confined to a set of rules. Yep. If he's not disciplined or doing with what I tell him, then he just gets destructive because he's got no boundaries, no walls, no set of paths that he's allowed to take without any type of curiosity as to what might happen. He knows what's gonna happen if he sits when I sit, when I tell him. He knows what's gonna happen if I tell him to stop or lay down or he knows the exact path that's gonna take.  Yep. And it's really no different with a kid or a man or anybody.  Exactly. There's no consistency. Fusion in the dog and it's very similar patterns to children. You know what I mean? So by not setting those boundaries, we set the children or we set the dog up for failure because we are lack of boundaries. I think there's even a biblical proverb about that.  Right? Yes. Spare the rod. Yeah, something like that. I'm not good at quoting stuff, but like there's something in there like that, right? He doesn't even hear a TV song. Yeah, or Proverbs or you got me, right? It is Proverbs. The fact of the matter is by not setting those boundaries and expectations we're essentially setting them up for failure because you know we're gonna have to come back and correct it or you know that we're gonna have to come back and we're gonna be pissed off about it, right? But they don't know any better and they're gonna take advantage of any situation because it's a dog or it's a child and they're opportunists and they're gonna push their boundaries and see what they can do and get away with that's part of their growing process, right? And curiosity. So by not setting those boundaries we're essentially setting them up to then have to come in and hammer them. And if we don't come in and hammer them then we open up the flood gate for them to really just go off the deep end and do whatever they want to either way by lack of boundaries and expectations we're setting them up for failure.  So as you guys are talking something kind of just popped in my head do you remember when, or not remember but do you know that nobody could run a five minute mile? It was not humanly possible. Doctors said it couldn't be done wasn't done forever and then one person did it and then the next year five did it. I think that this is a part of that. I think this follows that same thing.  And then Columbine happened and I think that opened up the floodgates and now like, oh, that is an option.   You know, I think that's a part of this. You know, and what kind of also brought this I'll throw it on the screen. Bernie May says, is it depression or antidepressants? And it's kind of like three things. You know, you've got the depression like you're feeling down because maybe you're teased. Maybe every day you're the kid who's poor from a single mom, your dad rolled out. Maybe he left a bad mark on the town. So everybody teases you because of where you come from.  So you have nothing there.    You feel that much pain that you just want to inflict it on the world.   They're getting shot.  Like what demonic self, like something had to have been broken there.  No, no, no, you had it right. We as a society failed these people to put them in an environment or create an environment that compelled them or at least fostered this type of downfall. But that's what I'm saying. We have no systems in place in school for kids who don't have dads. There is no like male guidance counselor of some sort that can check and be like, hey, little Timmy, you know, we're gonna make sure that you're in some sports or if not, you can talk to me. You should hit the fan.   There's something there for that kid. We don't have that.  You're not ADHD, you're not depressed.  Whatever your situation is.  Hey, little Timmy, here's how you stand up for yourself.  Let's go put you in some sports.  I'm not a baseball team because that's my sphere of control. That's how I'm trying to do this. Through the family outfit, through this red man group patriarchs, that's how I'm trying to do this.  Yep. You know, and while the entire time, you know, I was out of contact with my son because he was forced to shelter in place on lockdown without his phone near him. So he couldn't let me and his mom know that he was okay. And then I got the news that the shooter was shot and killed. Yeah, my first reaction is good.  But at the same time, I kept wondering what the hell drove him to do it.          All right, I'm gonna go to rant. So we're gonna shift gears a little bit and this is where we get to the sizzle. Real quick, real quick, real quick. I remembered, so the church I attend has implemented something is what you're talking about already called, it's called fathers in the field. And it's not just here in Colorado, it's pretty much nationwide. And again, it's they take kids, boys, girls, and they pair them with male mentors to go hiking, fishing, hunting, camping. They're vetted, they're background checked, they're screened by the church that they are associated with.   No, no, they're vetted, they're vetted fathers, vetted single adults, you know, maybe they've chose to be, you know, the sale of it, but they're still willing to be a mentor for these kids. So again, as fathers in the field for single moms, they want that as well on top of sports as well. Again, I'm big into sports, you know, get your kid in the little, the kiddie crop, that's just awesome.  We all can't be right. I know, so when you're gonna step up, be right. Nobody. No, no, no, that's good. That's a good resource. And I would like to find a list. You know, maybe I'll throw it on the family of a blog or maybe next red man group. We can toss something out there. But I'd like to get that list of options, not just for single moms, but for, you know, other men who are looking to connect with men, looking to do good, you know, so we'll collectively get that and we'll toss it out somewhere. So stay tuned for that. Now I'm gonna try to screen share and show a video and it's gonna lead us into becoming situationally aware as a man, how to train your family to become situationally aware to keep themselves safe outside of your sphere of control and then some training that families can do. And the two of you literally do this. Like this is, you train people and you help people like help themselves. So I'm really looking forward to, and the men, you know, tuned in are looking forward to this aspect of it, but I had to delay them 46 minutes. So I'm about to release you guys and like, look, this is what you need to do. But before that, let's look at this video because it went a little viral and a lot of people probably know what it's gonna be already, but here we go, hopefully it plays. All right, and play. Here we go. All right, here we go. So this is that lady just slashed that kid.  She comes back to duty and the dad, with the daughter near the lady, she slashes her. The dad right now recognizes she's bleeding.  Goes together, backs up.  So watching that right here, that's how the family is based out. And I- Watch the parents, watch the parents. As they watch it, as the viewers watch it, watch the parents. Where are they looking? That's what I'm gonna bring back right now. Kind of let you guys do your analysis of it and hopefully it loads up.  No, no, no. That's different. That's gonna bring us back down the original path of why this is happening. All right, there we go. That's what I wanted you guys to see. So Swift, do you wanna take the first crack at it? Sure, the parents are in their bubble. Which is, it's good, but it's also bad. I mean, they're in public. They might, I'm not even sure where it happened, but the parents are in the bubble because the kids are in physical contact with the kids. So when you do that, I don't have to look at my kids because I'm touching them. So there's one degree of connection. But the parents are only looking in their personal bubble, if you wanna do that analogy. Your three foot zone that you only let, your intimate zone or whoever, whatever training you're talking about. But the parents are only looking in their bubble. They're only looking about the people behind them.  The parents aren't paying attention of what's going on around them. And I'll stop there. Go ahead, Rich. Hold on, I'll play it a little bit further so you can see kind of the advancement of the screen. So at this point, the wife is looking at the husband, the husband, cause the daughter stopped for some reason. Nobody sees the son, who I'm assuming the kid in blue. We're gonna call the girl in yellow, boy in blue. So nobody sees it and she just slashes his face and starts walking and the lady starts coming back. So Rich, go ahead and take over from here. So there's two things I see in this. The first thing is in a politically correct environment, we've lost the backbone to say, hey, please step back. You're making me feel uncomfortable.  You know what I mean? Even with you having your, taking your dog for a walk, you have people who just walk up and randomly pet it and a lot of people have lost the backbone to be like, excuse me, don't pet my dog. You know what I mean? And it's like, why are you walking up and talking to my kids? Why are you walking up and coming out? We don't have the audio. So I don't know what she said as she walked up to the kid. It's like, if you wanna say something to my kids, you ask me, I'm the parent. Why are you talking to my kids? You know what I mean? The second thing I see with this because we don't have the audio is the parent's initial reaction is shock. And one of the first things that we teach in our active shooter training, first is understanding the threat, which we kind of spoke about in the beginning of this. But the second thing is accepting reality is real, right? Because your first reaction is gonna be going into shock.  You know what I mean? When law enforcement officers or military guys get called to respond to a threat, they're responding to a threat. So when they show up, they're already mentally and emotionally prepared for the worst case scenario. When we're in our comfort zone, enjoying our lives and things like that, and something happens that's out of context for that particular environment, the first thing that we need to do is snap out of shock, right? So what we can do as individuals is first understand that shock is a real reaction and is actually something that we will fall into. So we can recognize that we are falling into shock and we need to snap out of it quickly and make the appropriate reaction based on the situation.  Do you think that that's, so I'm gonna replay it, but watch the father. Do you think he's in shock while this is happening? Because look at him, he's just standing there. He's just standing and watching.  He grabs, yeah, he doesn't know what to do. He grabs his kid and pulls the kid back. And here he's trying to make a decision. Do I chase this lady? Do I stay with my kids? Did that really happen?  She's attacked my kids. But you can see him sitting there, processing the information, trying to make a decision on what to do because I would imagine he's in disbelief of what he just witnessed. So I'm gonna play the whole video one more time and then we'll just get off it. But this is the whole thing in real time. Slash his boy, walks back. The dad's still, his daughter's right now, this one. He's standing there. Then now he grabs her, moves her. And now I think then he notices the blood and that's when he kind of chases her and whatnot. All right, we're gonna get off that. Jesus. So, but I mean, I think you're completely right. I think that's something that you can never prepare for anything, but you can prepare and I do believe this for reaction time. I play the what-if scenario in my head a lot. What if this happens? I'll do that. If this happens, I'll do that. And that way in my head, I've taken the action a thousand times. My son last summer almost died and a real long story quick. We were fishing, we were on these rocks.  I told my kid not to step on it. The fool stepped on it. I turned to my daughter, I fixed her fishing line and turned back and my son's gone. He's 20 feet at the bottom of these rocks and all I see is a, it felt like an hour, but it was a second of him looking up at me and then the waves swallowed him and my kid for a second disappeared. And I was like, whoa.  But I think what if I was not in enough shape to get down those rocks without breaking my own neck? What if I mentally didn't have, what if I fell into shock? I was like, I don't know what to do. My wife behind me was like, she's not gonna get them.  But what if I freaked out? My kid gets sucked up to sea and like literally dies.  We have all these crazy stories in our head for movies but sometimes it's as simple as walking down the street. Are you ready then? So let's dive into how can family men be more situationally aware without becoming the tweakers. Like I said earlier that are wearing the gas cans, the G-Shock, the 5-Eleven, you know they're packing and they're fucking, they are always, oh, my back's not to the door. My back is to the door. I'm sweating now. I'm freaking out. We're not trying to get to that level of insanity, but we are trying to get to the level where you can react faster and when you do react, it's sensible. So how can men train that without going to war? Swift, I'll toss this one to you. All right, so again, I call it videotaping. You know, you're playing the videos, what if, what if, what if, what if. Basically you're trying to take and shorten your UDA response, your UDA loop. Hopefully everyone's familiar with that because that's another whole long deal by itself. But you're trying to shorten your UDA loop so you can still observe, orient and then react to whatever's gonna go on. Because you have to decide.  And honestly, can you unlock your cell phone after a workout or right in the middle of a workout? Stop doing a workout.  You know, that's the fastest one as well. Not all, not only to dial 911, but maybe capture a quick picture or video for evidence for later for prosecution. But playing those what if games in your head, you found it and that's the short one. But playing those situations in your head, pick like everyday things, like what happened in your life? Do you remember what happened when you were a kid? When I was a kid, I was around cattle and not just regular cattle, but stock, rodeo stock.  The biggest reason why I stopped riding bulls when I was a kid, I got really close to getting something very precious to me stepped on. So I'm done.  And again, they're just animals. So they have no real hate, they just don't wanna be there, that's it. But again, in your everyday life, what if, what if, what if, and how do I do if this happens? How, what do I do if this happens? As long as you play those, but again, don't get to the point where it's paranoid, aware, they're not paranoid, because you get to there, you're worthless, because you're gonna prowess by analysis as well. No, no, no, good. I was gonna say, Rich, before you go, I wanna throw something out there. You know, when people watch that video, I went through the comments and they all said, oh, she'd have been dead before. She even, you know, touched the sun.  Like when's the last time you trained with your firearm? Oh, it's been a few months. Okay, when's the last time you sprinted? Oh, when's the last time you lifted a weight? I don't know. Okay, but you think you're gonna be Rambo? My wife, she has mace. She, we had like sprints and push-ups and all these things, and I'm like, now grab it, now get it out of your purse. Now you're breathing hard, I'm trying to simulate the adrenaline.  You know, your hands will be trembling if you don't go through and like train for that response.  And it's like slow motion, but you're actually going very fast.  And I don't know why people have this cognitive dissonance, but they think they're gonna rise to the occasion. They think they'll be the hero.  He's on the bottom of a freaking cliff.   And that's why we're having this show.   So Rich, what is your advice for men looking to become more situationally aware and capable? Well, as far as the, as far as the capable aspect of it, I mean, you kind of touched on, it's kind of the whole concept of our company Full Spectrum Warrior is that we have a lot of people who come, like you're saying who want to do the high speed shooting stuff. And they're like, yeah, man, I want to shoot like an ABCL and all this stuff. And it's like, dude, there's a reason why there's such a big physical fitness aspect to being in the military and stuff like that is because first and foremost, you are the weapon, right?  Your body is the vehicle. And you're only gonna be able to be as so good as the capability of that vehicle. You know what I mean? And it goes into combatives and then to shooting. And one of the things that's really neglected in the firearms community in my personal opinion is the combatives. So we switch from military mindset where you might be engaging bad guys from really far distances, right?  And no one, no one cares, you know, how that happens, right? Because the goal is, is, is, you know, defeating the enemy in our personal lives as civilians, that's not the case. Someone's not shooting you necessarily from 300 yards away, right? And then leaving, if someone's going to attack you in the civilian world outside of these active shooter attacks, but even those are still close proximity, but if someone's gonna rob you or rape you or do a home evasion or any of these types of things, the proximity is very, very short. And a lot of people will say, the first thing I would do is shoot them.   So how do you de-conflict that situation? Your first reaction is probably gonna, if things do go down, you'll probably have to be in a fist fight or a grappling match until you can create space and identify whether they have a weapon or not and is your life truly in danger before you can draw a firearm. So we hear people a lot of times say that, yeah, I would have just shot them. And it's like, okay, well, you would have just gone to jail too. So that's not necessarily the right response and it's kind of a shortcut or a cop out, in my opinion. It's a little bit more complex than that. And we have to be complex in how we respond to it because it's not just black or white. Now, when it comes to advice on those looking, we always say, keep your head in a swivel. We say, kind of observe and see what's going on around you. Again, we do the what if game. All right, that car's over there. That's kind of weird. It's not normally there. Pay attention to it.  For the everyday man who's just going through day to day, like that, we see people walking on the road. What are, not some tips, but like some things that men can start doing, that they may not be paying attention to. Yep, I have a tip for that video. So, and not trying to armchair quarterback, but we looked at that, we go, what could we have done differently, right? The one thing I see right off the bat, we do this drill, it's called stacking. And we train the children to stack the adult between the threat and the parent, right? Now, as I'm walking down the street with the children, instead of having the kids on the outside and the parents in the middle, the two parents could be on the outside and the children could be walking in the middle so that the parents have a barrier between anyone who's on the side, who's just hanging out on the sidewalk, everyone they're passing by, even vehicles or dogs or anything like that, in that area that they're passing through, the children are between the parents, right? And basically the parents are a blocking force for the children. Now, that's something you don't have to be paranoid about. It's just when I'm walking, I put the child to the inside. If I'm passing people on the sidewalk, I put my child on the side where they are on the outside and I am in between me and the people we're passing. And we can train the children and make a game out of it so they can do the stacking drill, right? But also when something bad happens, now the children, just like training the children for a fire drill or earthquake drill, right? If there's something happens, like once the guy did slash the child, that child should run and stack the parent and now the parent can focus on the bad guy and doesn't have to look to the child and move the child into position and try to be multitasking, multifocused, the child can move into position and you can put greater attention to what is the threat, right? Or the environment, does that make sense? No, it makes perfect sense.  So what I'm hoping to do is have the guys that are watching this to break it down. And this is why I wanted Jeff and I on here because we think like this because we hang around men that do shit like what you guys do and have passed on or like, all right, I'm gonna apply this and make sure it works. In the Navy, I was an engineer.  And I just, all right, cool, here's how I apply it. And it's funny, one of the things you say, when I walk, I put myself between my wife and the road but I watch all the people walking near us because that's always been like, all right, you're on the inside, my love, you know, you're over here, I'm over here. If a car is coming, boom, you're out of the way, I got you, because I'm watching the car. But like a chameleon, every time a person's coming by, it's like the other eyes watching that guy. Like, all right, cool, like that person, and when they walk past, maybe I'll glance over if they give me the wrong vibe, whatever. But it's, you explained all that and it may seem like this complex thing but it's quite simple.  It's less of a children, get between your mother and I or I will beat you with a bat and trying to keep you safe, be afraid of the world, none of them know. Hey guys, where are you supposed to stand? All right, come on over here. You know, hey guys, let's, all right, first one of the middle wins. You know, just the little things, kind of like the fire drills. You know, you make it, you make it fun but also educational. And that's the best way to teach a child is to have them enjoying the learning process. They even realize they're learning, that they're playing with mom and dad until they're older and they're like, ah, I got it. Yeah, that's kind of how it works. The other thing, sorry, sorry Jeff. Now I was gonna say, I do the exact same thing like with my wife and one or two of my kids are out with us, I always walk behind them because if we were attacked from the rear, I'm gonna get it first. And they have to get past me to get to them. But if they're in front of me a few paces, I can see everybody around them. And I can see who would try to engage them from either side or the front.  Now I was just gonna say, you also, there's another reason, right? So I'm gonna, Swift, before you go, I'm just gonna throw this on the screen but it's gonna block you and Rich. No, you can go, I just wanna bring this up. So Don says, you know, people should set a weekly reminder on their phone. I put on your phone on the calendar somewhere to practice situational awareness. The talk is great, but people fall into comfort and complacency and will forget. I think that's a solid point.  Hey, make sure you know I'm training not just how to lift and how to shoot but like to do push-ups and then shoot, to do a few sprints, burpees and then shoot, not just going to the range and making sure that your spread is within six inches. Swift, go ahead. The biggest thing that people forget about that I really reiterate and I have to retrain, especially new team members, is read body language. Read your environment and when, because you told me one time, you look, I say something and it's like it's common knowledge but then I forget to elaborate on it, especially in podcasts as well. It's when you say, hey, are you looking around or are you observing? It's hard to truly articulate in a quick little podcast tonight but what are they looking for? What are you looking for people who have that intent I'm gonna say evil but they're looking that it's raising your little red flag. Why is this person looking at kids or why is this person looking at that girl? Why is this person looking at that car that is not what I would judge as normal? And again, if you can articulate it just like that, we'll back you up in court as well. Why is that guy looking at that car like that? And later he stole it. Why is that guy looking at that girl at the bar like that? And all of a sudden he tried to get her later. So you need to, on top of learning your tools, knife, gun, combattas, open hand, empty hand type thing, you had better learn how to read people. My wife and I do it all the time. We call it our people watching thing.  They're great games, they're great date games, but they also help build those skills of how to read people in society, outside of home and public events, scenario situations. Because once that, and then when you can do that and you do those games, it shortens your OODA loop. So in case something bad happens, you're already reacting, you're done. Whether it be a quick, the mom or the dad get the knife in the back of the arm on a block. So the kid doesn't get cut. Or a couple of, we've seen them, those great dad videos where their dad saves the kid at the last minute before the kid eats the bricks or falls off the swing or gets hit by the shopping cart. Those are people who are watching their environment, not have their head up their butt on the phone, but they knew what was gonna happen because it was different than normal, they reacted. They saved somebody. That is what should be the paramount thing on top of learning your skills and developing them and become a very well in them. That's an incredibly important, I'm really glad you brought that up, man. So first off, micro expressions, that's a real thing. That is just like the twitch of an eye or maybe eyes wide open where they should be a little bit closed. Nobody walks around like this on the street unless something's up.  But dad reflexes, that's not a thing. It's just men who've had kids are now more aware because they're playing in their head. All right, my kid's on that wall. If he steps here, he's gonna fall there. I'll be able to catch him. If he steps here, he's gonna fall there. I'll be able to catch him. So when that happens, you've already done it 100.  So when it's time to call on it, you go. You know where to step, you know where to put your hand, you know everything you're gonna do because you've already done it. So dad reflexes can be trained by all men.  What are you gonna do if she rolls and falls? You should have yourself in a position to catch her. What are you gonna do if somebody runs and bumps her because you see these people running down the road? What do you do? And this kind of goes, we had a question that said by Jimmy G, how important is respect when it comes to a father keeping his family secure? And I'm gonna touch on this one before I toss it to the men. It's huge because there's a huge difference between one second and three. If I say to my wife, get down or if I tell my kids, come here, that happens.  If they don't respect you or they don't think that you have the right answer or you're not a good leader and you say, come here, why?  Your family needs to know how quick to respond and to swift. How do you instill that? How did you, and this, we had another question which is how do you provide proof of a sense of security to your family without situational confrontation where you would protect them? So basically, how do you let your family know to listen to you and follow you if you've never done anything? You know, nothing's ever happened for you to prove or to test your metal.  We're talking to just the average Joe, you know, nine to five coming home, wife, kids. All right, so the first thing, so I have a blue in the family, okay? So I have two step daughters and they fall in between my other three. So I have five kids total. The easiest way to make sure that respect is still built is when I joke with them, it's nothing too serious or the joke isn't too far fetched.  So just four weeks ago now, we had a pretty bad storm.  But it started to turn and my Southern boy thing goes, this might be a tornado. So I immediately woke all my kids up one time and said, get downstairs with mom. No one argued, no one said anything else.  No questions asked, no arguments, no nothing. After the storm was done, all of them were like, use the dad voice.  The dad voice is a thing. It's real.   That's legit.  Why scream and go to bed? No one listens, I go, hey, bed now it's done. So dad voice is real. And it's happened before too. So my kids are kind of not trained to it but they recognize it and they do it. You know, we were downtown one time and somebody was, they peaked my radar up pretty hard. You know, using my fish and mirror on my truck and I'm like, you know what, get in the floor real quick. Boom, seatbelts off in the floor. You know, because they know if something bad happens, you know, happy glock comes out and gets to play. So best place for them is underneath happy glock. So it happens. But again, the best way to help instill that respect is constantly reminding them, hey, I'm dad, you know, I'm stepdad, you know, I care about you. I want the best for you. If I say, do something, then do it.  You know, easy. And that's re-enerated into my kids and my family. Quite often, but they also know that I love them and it's not all so serious all the time. There's time to play and then they know when it's time to listen and shut up and do exactly what dad said, do it right now. I think there's also a time and place, you know, where you can prove that to them.  And you're like, well, you were in his way. And like, you're afraid to confront the guy so you bash your wife. That shows her that you are conflict of verse like a motherfucker.   Was that from that story I told you about when me and my wife first started dating? No, but I do wanna hear that at some point. But before that, Jeff, go ahead.  Let's see, kind of in parallel to what you were talking about Swift. I like to get my kids involved in that as well based on their age. You may have seen, I put some pictures up where I took them up on a six mile hike through the mountains. We hung out at some waterfalls, but I had a rule right before we started on the trail. I told my 16 year old, I said, look, something happens to me, I'll get myself out of it. You'd go ahead and take your younger brothers back to the car.  And then my 13 year old right below him, I said, if something happens to him, I'll get him.  You know, that's it.  And so I try to do that before we get into any kind of situation where something could happen, because where we were, a lot of it is marked, but a lot of it's unmarked too. And I think there's a shitload of bear sightings as well as I think nine deaths just this year alone from those falls.  But I think being able to put them in miniature situations like that is another good way to build that kind of a reliant on you to have the best advice attitude. Hey, we're going to be going to the beach. I want everybody to follow me and do what I say if something happens, give them a job.  I just wrote that down to talk about in a second, but we'll get to that, Rich. We've got a question that I wanted to toss your way. So from the chat it says, how do you react when someone larger in frame or a professional MMA fighter is testing you?  Well, there's one thing, I mean, you just gotta be careful if you try to escalate a situation, right? Then it may escalate to the point where you can't then deescalate it. So you can be confident without being cocky. You know what I mean? Like you can respectfully stand your ground.  You know what I mean? And try to like throw something out there to test you to try to get your response. You could try to ignore them or whatever, but if you're in a position where you can't, what you can always do is ask the instigator a question back. When you ask them like same thing when you're working with cluster B personalities, when you throw a question back at them, it breaks them out of that emotional state of mind and it slows things down because now they're obligated to answer, right?  You can be confident in your body language without being challenging in your body language. You know what I mean?  You know what I mean? Is that really a big deal? Like, how could that possibly such a big deal that it would get you that upset? Is the t-shirt really the issue that's bothering you?  That, you know what I mean? But you see people say something about your hat or your shirt or whatever, but that's not the issue. You know what I mean? No one wants to get in a fight over a t-shirt, but people will make comments about your clothing. You get what I'm saying? Yeah. So that's just one way, because the other thing is, we're not in high school anymore. You know what I mean? And we have to be very cautious on, without being a coward, we have to be cautious on taking that, entertaining that person who's trying to instigate the fight and as much as we might wanna take that fight, we have to think, well, what's, if I lose this fight, what position does that put my children or my wife or whatever in, you know what I mean?   I had listened into one of your talks and I think one of your responses to that as well was, don't become a victim in the first place.  You know, make yourself, carry yourself well enough to if you're at the bar or wherever, you're also giving off the vibe of like, look, that's, there's gotta be somebody weaker than that. I can, you know, if they're going to tool on somebody, it's not gonna be the one guy that they're like, all right, that guy's got my respect already because he's sitting straight, he's dressed well. You know, he looks like he is physically capable.  But yeah, Rich, to your response about, you know, ask them a question.  So ask him, you know, are you all right?   Anything bothering you? And that throws them for the loop, you know, they probably just have something wrong and they're just wanting to vent and take it out on someone. Don't say who hurt you. You know what I mean? But they're in the assault, right? They're instigating, so they're pushing forward. And when you ask them a question, it's like throwing a jab back that you ever watch fighters throw jabs but they don't make contact, right? They're just doing it to hold space. It's a, it's a, it's an empty jab that holds position and keeps that person just enough respect so they don't move forward into your space, right? So essentially what that does is it slows down the attack and what we want, again, is time to process information, time to see, well, who's his friends and read the whole situation. Cause again, we're like, whoa, this caught me off guard out of context. I wasn't expecting to get in a fight tonight, right? So when I throw that question, they'll like, the majority of the time, when you ask them a question, they feel obligated to answer it. And that buys you time. And it breaks them out of their aggression cycle and it puts them into a cycle of having to problem solve and come up with an answer, which takes them out of that mental state of mind, momentarily. Another question from the chat from Darius. Do any of you guys have any experience in neighborhood watch local gun club or that kind of thing? Yes. Yeah. So the answer is yes, Darius. Yes or no questions. So I, we don't have a neighborhood watch, but I mean, obviously when I drive around, I'm checking out the neighborhood, making sure everything's good. I'm a part of a local gun club.     Go and shoot the targets a lot. Like a, a wicked lot. That'll work.  Anthony, man, I'm going to get fired. I'm not going to be on the red bank group. You know, Jeff's going to be the new host of Patriarchs. I got a better beard anyway.  It's all right.  I've got to shave it off. All right. We're coming towards the end of this episode. So one thing I wanted to kind of toss your way. Now we'll start with Swift because Rich just went last. If you had, let's say, training advice for get physically and mentally preparing oneself for, you know, defending their family in a crisis situation, you know, what were your top three pieces of advice be?  They need to act or their family needs to act. What are the three things they can do mentally and three things they can do physically to prepare for that? Mentally is besides the what if scenarios. Actually, I think that's a good one. You know, don't not besides that. A lot of people don't do that. So that's a great one. Right. So yeah, basically what if, but also you don't control everything. If something bad happens, it's not your fault. You did the best you could to prevent it.   You know, cause you could still do your job 100% and still lose. That was from a Colonel Buddy of mine that I know.  So mentally, just know it's not your fault but you will still try to fight. Keep it up. Physically, you know, be able to tie your own shoes and bend over, you know, if it your guts in the way to something about it. You know, can you do 20 body squats? Can you do 20 push-ups? I would say be, don't be AJ perfect but do the best and be the best that you are and can be. Don't give up. Third one, be proficient with what tools you can afford.   You know, be proficient with a knife and be proficient with your gun.  Other than that, and you know, have a cell phone and know how to get a hold of 911. Now, what's the number for 911? Just for the audience. Well, if you got a Cisco phone, it's nine, 911. If you have a real number, it's 912. All right. So Jeff, before Rich gives his three mental and physical, I'm gonna toss this question to you because we aren't the seals on the slot or anything. So we're just average dudes answering average questions.  I would say it depends on the relationship that you have with that family.       And so it does take away a little bit of the credibility, at least subconsciously in your family's eyes.  That's a great answer.  Now he's defensive, now he's upset.  So if nobody's laughing, stop. Yeah. All right, Rich, three pieces of advice for the men who are tuned in or are going to be watching this, mentally and physically to prepare themselves and their family for the shit hitting the proverbial fan. Yeah, definitely. So real quick, before I do that, just to add on to what you're saying, I would also ask, why would someone who's supposed to be my friend feel inclined to try to de-edify me in front of my wife or kids, right? What is, is that something a true friend would do? If I'm ever around someone who's my friend and their kids are around, I would edify them, not de-edify them. If you wanna joke and have fun, there's jokes that you can do that you can have fun and banter without the joke being a personal attack against the father or the husband, right?  Because now you put me in a situation where I have to retaliate, right, to defend myself, to keep my honor in front of them, right? And that's just a really bad situation. It's not a good dynamic for your friendship or for your marriage or your being a parent, which goes back to before when you're talking about, how do I have them take me seriously when I've never been in a fight in front of them in one of these situations?  You don't throw a grenade at the outside of the tank, throw the grenade on the inside of the tank. So just something to consider. But going into what are the things from mentality to physically for preparing ourselves to protect our family, I would say, going right into this, parlaying from that, is the first thing I would say is, earn your own respect, right?  So putting in that, putting in the discipline, taking, you know, not taking yourself too seriously, but taking yourself seriously enough that you prescribe to a discipline, routine, right? That gets results and people look up to it and they see that you are consistent. You do what you say and you say what you do, you know what I mean? Like you follow up on what you start as far as physically goes. A good physical physique is important.   You know what I mean? And I understand that, but guys do that, right? That's one of the first things to do. So being physically fit is important, right? But going into if we are from my personal, like from my training standpoint, as far as fitness goes, I go, what makes me the most capable? My body's going to form up whatever way it's going to be. I'm training to be more athletic, have more endurance, be more capable for fighting, right? And all of my training routines are geared toward, I want to be able to fight. And how my body develops and whether you think it looks good or not is a byproduct of my training. I don't go, my focus is just looking good, right? But I can't run, I can't swim. I have shitty range of motion and all this kind of stuff. But I look really good with my shirt off, you know what I mean? So being capable, taking priority over just the physical looks of it, you know what I mean? And then going into actually following through and taking the time to go do some self-defense training, go to the shooting range. And that could be a great time for you to bond with your family. It could be a great time for you to do something fun with your spouse or your girlfriend or whatever. And if you go get an instructor or something like that, that could be a great opportunity to where you don't have to essentially be the parent role, you're still a parent, but you can be working side by side with your kids and use that as a joint learning experience and build that relationship with them and that bond and that trust and let someone else lead out on something that maybe you're not totally the expert on or super proficient in and humble yourself in front of your family and be like, hey dude, I'm not the expert on this, we all need to learn this, let's go get with an expert, right? And let's go learn together. And by doing that, you can actually gain more trust and respect because they see that you're humble enough to work side by side with them. And then again, coming back into building that respect so that when you say something, they take it seriously. Very well said. And I think the combination of the two of you guys is that's the recipe, that's the playbook. It was just given to you, rewatch the video, record that, write it down. That's your playbook for being successful and having as positive an outcome as you can have or preparing yourself as best you can for worst case scenario. And to kind of wrap this one up before I go into links to that thing, let's look at what we covered today. It's not a matter of if your number is gonna be called, it's when something at some point is going to happen to you.  You've gotta survive. So we look at this and a lot of it comes down to preparation. And let's bring it all the way to the minute. If your kid falls at the playground and scrapes their knee, do you have something to take care of that in your vehicle? Too many men will say no.  You're not even trying.  Nevermind saving the day, like a high risk situation. Be prepared. A lot of people with this storm Dorian, let's say you did smash a cat five. Let's say you did, rich, hey, rich wouldn't be on the panel because he's in Florida. But let's say it's slain Florida. Or are you ready? Do you have water, food, supplies, lights? I mean, first aid, filtration systems.  You went from hero to zero because you didn't prepare. Don't wait for it to happen to react. Be proactive, not reactive. Be prepared ahead of time. Have yourself planned out for something as simple as the playground.  What are you going to do? You've got to be ready. You've got to be ready for worst case scenario. And that doesn't mean you're always thinking worst case scenario, but you're ready. It's not going to be the zombies. Everybody loves to say, oh, when the zombie apocalypse hits, I got a thousand rounds of ammo. That's awesome.   They're going to be, they're going to storm you and they're just going to take you over and you just gave them all your ammo. So it's not the ammo, it's you. You're scrounging around for food.  You have no idea how to apply a tourniquet.  You're too busy thinking huge, you know, thing and it's actually the small everyday opportunity that you have to do things right. So prepare yourself by planning in advance.   Trust me, I've been there. I've got all the ice packs.  Guess what?  But guess what? I can sit there and be like, I don't know. The lead didn't arm me with anything to take care of you guys. Oh, it's your fault. You're a man. Take care of these people. Buy two first aid kits. One to keep and one to play with to figure out how to use it all. It's even better advice. Yeah. I was totally on a soapbox and I forgot I was supposed to wrap this thing up. So gentlemen, I'll be speaking. Rich will be speaking this October from the 24th to the 27th in Orlando. We'll be having the 21 convention. The link is below. Go in, enjoy it. It's a great time. You can ask the questions one on one. You can do all these things. Also, if you look below, you'll see the sponsors of the show. You got tactical soap. You've got Tate's War Room and you've got the fraternity of excellence. If you're looking to join a group where men are coming together to train these things and to do stuff like that, that's what we do in FOE. Jeff's a member. He can vouch for it. That is what we're talking about. I think we've got eight meetups this month. You know, these men coming together. And if you use the code RMG10, you'll get 10% off your membership price. Make sure you've subscribed. Make sure you hit the like button. And more importantly, than anything having to do with supporting us, support yourself. Don't just listen to a YouTube channel, but apply the information. Apply it to your life. It's awesome you tuned in. I appreciate that.  That's really cool. I love the engagement. But at the end of the day, did you use the information that we gave you? Because if you didn't, you wasted our time. We know this. We live this. This is what we do. We're looking to get better at all times. But this is how we operate. Be like that. Be another father we can count on.  I'll take care of yours. You know, but apply it.  Rich, Swift, Jeff, thank you for coming on. For everyone who tuned in, thank you for clicking, enjoying spread the knowledge.


Hello everybody welcome to Monday day 21 November 21st of our 30-day challenge. That's right It's day 21 of our 30 day challenge You are almost to the finish line and I am so so proud of you guys So let's go ahead and look and see what's on the docket today again, even though we spoke about it yesterday Let's go ahead and review today's assignment So for Monday November 21st You of course made your bed up and then you had your last meal between 5 and 7 p.m No snacking after 7 p.m And for today's exercise you got to pick the exercise that you wanted to do and I said you can pick up to any Exercise we've done so far which is bar yoga kickboxing and dance is there one that you really like How about the one that is really hard for you But maybe you want to try to get anyway, so let me know down in the comment section Which exercise you picked did you pick the one that's kind of your go-to that you always enjoy or did you challenge yourself today and actually Pick the one that's maybe a little bit harder for you Are you learning to find the value in the resistance in the friction in the hard stuff?  What exercise do you pick and why? What about this particular exercise exercise video really resonates with you? What are you learning about yourself in this particular video list five things you like about yourself five things You're grateful for today. How are you processing all the heavy work from the week before because last week was Heavy work is new stuff coming up for you. If so, what is it? Are you finding it easier to lean into the uncomfortable feelings? How does pain emotional or physical bring us to a place of honesty and healing? How is pain necessary for us to grow? Describing your own words the concept of descending in order to ascend so I want to hear from you guys like again Why what have you learned from these videos? What what have you learned from the easy stuff and the hard stuff and what have you it has your opinion on pain? Are your perspective rather on pain change? That's that's probably one of the biggest lessons of shadow work and rewiring the programming of the brain is that When something is not feeling good in the body, it's not a bad thing In fact, it's it's a good thing because something is surfacing for us to work on Again, I tell the story of my teacher Dave agree where in conference He said once that he had asked Guruji in a conference, you know Guruji is is this pain in the practice necessary and Guruji said yes because pain is real Pain brings us discomfort and pain brings us to a place of honesty It brings us to a place of understanding of our own self It brings us to a place of understanding our own ego. And so I want to hear from you Is this a revelation? Are you viewing yourself differently now when you stumble upon something? That's a little bit of a resistance for you. All right.  It's using November 20 second Let's just go ahead and pick that right here the 20 second So make your bed up your last meals should be between 5 and 7 p.m. No snacking after 7 p.m. All right again once again, you're picking your own exercise tomorrow as well and doing the all meditation again Okay, so for tomorrow's journal once again, you got to pick your own workout Did you pick the same one as the day before or did you try something different? Why and picking your own workout? Are you going for the exercises that are too easy for you or are you picking the ones that are too challenging in both cases? Why if you picked one that is too easy for you Do you often avoid challenges in life if you pick that one the one that was too hard?   Are you sure it's your body talking and not your ego? For the remainder of the challenge. What are some new goals you want to set for yourself? List five things you like about yourself and three new things you want to improve now. I will say we had our first Yoga intensive last night with an awesome group and we talked a lot about the subtle and gross body So that's kind of what I'm talking about here What is your body telling you? Are you sure it's your body talking and not your ego? So the more we get into shadow work the more we start to exercise the more we start to work with the body And work with the pains in the body. We are able to better distinguish Distinguish between the ego the thought sense of self and the actual information from the body And that again goes into subtle understanding of the subtle energies of body So I want to know if this is something that you were able that you're not having a revelation about okay? Take a moment today to observe nature and the normal Northern hemisphere we're in the season of autumn or fall as we say in the states How beautiful is this time of year nature knows faith? Nature knows faith better than humans no faith and the autumn months the trees have no problem of releasing their leaves to death They accept because they know in the spring life will return again to their branches What can you learn from this are there times in your life where you have held too tightly? clinging more to fear than faith What are some things that you can let go of all right? So that's super important What are some things that you can actually let go of where is fear taking over faith?   This is extremely hard It's extremely hard. Why because pain is real, right? It sucks It's hard and so I am so so so so proud of you We are gonna be prepping for the drawings for the prizes very soon Because that is coming very soon Again, I know we're coming up for Thanksgiving this week in the United States So for all the Americans if you notice in the challenge if you read ahead There are some changes being made to the Thanksgiving schedule in order to make way and make space for the holiday Again for our other friends in other countries. We invite you to celebrate with us Go and find some friends have them come over to your house for a meal or go out to eat with them And just be in fellowship in celebration with people and your life on Thursday If you want to if you're from another country and you want to maintain the same challenge scheduled That's fine, too And you can just observe and learn because coming up in December most of the world is heading into Christmas And so that's a big holiday And so you can start to learn from the smaller holiday which is Thanksgiving Although Thanksgiving is really big in the United States by observing how to handle that Resistance that friction that you might feel with certain family members as from doc says if you think you're enlightened go spend a week with your family So anyway guys, let me know how you're doing it down in the comment section below again I am so freaking proud of you guys y'all are rock stars. I am starting to prepare for the 60-day challenge So hopefully in the next couple weeks I'll have that set up so we can start sending those challenges out starting in January and The new yoga course will be up soon on our website. It should be processed up today Starting on January 8th. Okay, you guys talk to you soon. Bye


Ysgolyn gyda potel newidurraeth yma yn mynd i'r pengenau cedor i'r cyfrifio hunain Morention gyda'r Llyfr angen, mae'n meddwl fy effeithio. Mae'r cyfrifio bryd yn meddwl yn bwysig. Mae'r cyfrifio bwysig yn meddwl yn meddwl yn meddwl i'r Unigoedd Llau. Mae'r cyfrifio bwysig yn meddwl yn meddwl i'r unig? Mae'n meddwl yn meddwl i'r unig. Mae'r cyfrifio bwysig yn meddwl i'r Unigoedd yn meddwl i'r Unigoedd yma. yn ymgyrch ar gwrth yr Unigol Llywodraeth i'r newyddedd yn ysgol. 14,000. Fygoedd a gweithredu llyfr wedi'i gweithio'n gyda'r adegau. Rwy'n credu i'r cyffredinol a gwirionedd o hynny'n 1,000 o'r cyffredinol. Mae'r cyffredinol wedi'u cyffredinol ar gyfer Ffranc. Mae'n rhaid i'r ddaf, mae'n rhaid i'r cyffredinol yn eich cyfrifol. Mae'n rhaid i'r cyffredinol o rhaid i gyfrifol, Mae'n ddarparu bod yn fyddion gwybod. Mae'n ddarparu bod yn ei ddweud. Felly mae'n ddarparu bod yn fyddion gwybod. yr hyn mae'n ddweud, fyddion gwybod sianol a'r ddweud i'w hôtell. Rydyn ni'n ddweud yr unrhyw pocwys wrth gael yr unrhyw fyddion gwahanol. Fel ydych chi'n ddweud, mae'n ddweud o'r ddweud o'r migran yn rhan i gondigau oherwydd cymaint gwirioneddau. Felly, mae'n ddweud hynny'n fyddion. Priti Pall Pettel a Boris Johnson sefydlu ddim yn gweithio ddim yn ei ddwydenoedd. Fyddwn i'n gweithio ddweud, yn llyfr, ond rhai ddyn nhw'n ddweud. Felly mae'n gweithio hyn, mae eich ddweud. Nowr, mae'r gweithio i'r gweithio'n gweithio. Mae'n gweithio'r gweithio i'r jet ski. Patel is going to spend £200 million of your money on armoured jet skis and new boats for border force officers. The idea will be that the border force, or border fast to be more accurate, will use the jet skis to surround the dingies on which migrants arrive, rotate them and guide them back towards French waters. mae'r idea o'r gweld yn ymddangos. Yn ymddangos, mae'r bwysigbodd yma yn gyfodol a'r £54 miliwn yn gyfodol i'r Ffranc o'r holl ymddangos a'r cyfweld. Yn ymddangos, mae'n gweithio 192 miliwn i'r Ffranc i'r cyfweld i'r ffrindiau. Byddai'n gweithio'r holl ymddangos. Mae'r wast o'r wast. First of all, it is the border force that has been bringing migrants to Britain. They have had it in their power all along to send these boats back, but choose instead to bring them here. The border force is a joke. And secondly, what part of this does Pretty Patel not understand? The reason these migrants are coming here is because they are invited to come here by her own government. Boris Johnson is on record. He called for an amnesty for illegal migrants. That's an invitation to the world. That's what it amounts to. When people take up this invite and make their way to Britain, they get free housing and health care. That's an invitation as well. Few, if any of these illegal immigrants are deported, even if they commit appalling crimes, that's also an invitation. That invitation has to be revoked. Instead of jet skis, why don't we try this? Deport anyone who comes here illegally. I don't even care where to, just as long as they're not here. Stop giving money to France for doing nothing. The French have no interest in stopping these migrants. Why would they? It means they don't have to deal with them. They must be laughing at our stupidity at this point. End any amnesty for illegal immigration and make sure that's made clear. Stop housing these people in expensive hotels. They should be held in prisons until they're sent to wherever they want to go as long as it isn't here. Stop pandering to the left wing media. These do-gooder journalists don't live alongside migrants. They wouldn't dream of it. They just campaign for others to live alongside these migrants. That is all that needs to happen. It's actually quite simple. But you know that the Conservative government is never going to do this because it's the Conservative government that has got us into this mess in the first place. Why would you trust them to get us out? Is this stupidity or does the Tory government want this invasion to continue? And what do you think? I think it doesn't matter that much, whether it's stupidity or intent. They are negligent in their duty to protect this country and its borders. One way or the other, the Tories are a disaster and will continue to be a disaster. It's getting very late in the day now for Britain. We only have a short time left to reclaim this nation for its people. Now what will it take? What is your limit? When will you make change? And when will you stand up and say, I've had enough of this now? You have so much power, you just need to use it.  Do it, you can do it. Don't let lack of confidence determine this. You can learn the things you don't know, you can become a strong defender of your country. You have the power to save Britain. Use it. Thank you for watching. If you would like to stay updated with all of our latest videos, please like the video below and subscribe to our channel. 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in West Africa Ghana, my parents were expats, and they worked for a organization at the time that was funded by one of a government agency. And I'm going to tell you, I came to the United States in 1976 at four, and my mother and I were talking about this the other night that I was an L student coming to America. And the first country that I ever visited, even though I was American citizen, was America. My parents were originally from Philadelphia, which I'm proud to say. And I had my formative years in West Philadelphia, and I went back overseas to finish my education in high school, for high school. And I came back to Pennsylvania, I went to undergrad and grad school in the state of Pennsylvania. I am, I have the opportunity to get married here in the city of Alexandria, actually at Alpha Street Baptist Church, which is one of our historic churches here in the city of Alexandria, and my son was actually born at Inovia Hospital right around the corner. So my roots tie to the city of Alexandria runs deep. I'm a military spouse and have had the opportunity because of my husband to work in six different school districts across the world, including Hawaii, Korea, and Japan. When we returned from Asia to, back to the United States, we moved here into Cameron Station where Samuel, the school is nestled. And the first time I heard about Samuel W. Tucker was from my son when he was in third grade. So I had no idea who he was, and my son came in and educated me about this wonderful man who opened up so many doors for students, I mean for students. So that's how I first learned of Samuel Tucker. Both my son and daughter were students here, and when he graduated from fifth, when he promoted from fifth grade, he received the Samuel W. Tucker book, and they made sure that every student was able to receive this book upon their promotion from fifth grade. I was an assistant principal here for five years prior to that. So I was pretty much ingrained in the community. I lived here for about five or six years, and then I became the assistant principal here at Samuel Tucker. And during that time, I became very, very familiar to the story of Samuel Tucker. It started last year, last couple of years, especially after the pandemic. And when we came back together as a staff, we wanted to remember and recall why are we here? And because when you go on through the pandemic, you think and you look at what's important. And for me, that's what I looked at is what was important and understanding Samuel W. Tucker and his contributions to the city of Alexandria. And when we reopened, we decided as administrative team that we were going to always honor Samuel W. Tucker. We don't start anything the new year without talking about who Samuel W. Tucker is and his legacy's legacy and whose shoulders that we stand upon. Because these are the strong shoulders that we stand on to help us get through the day to day. When we go through our character education and our social emotional time, in the morning, we always ingrain the characteristics of Samuel W. Tucker and who he was. We work hard to get smart, which was one of his sayings. And when you go onto our website, you will see that we give honor to him first because he was the one that established that safe harbor, making sure each student, as Ms. David said, that each student that walked through the doors of any school or any educational facility here in the city of Alexandria that they had a safe harbor and that they had the ability to become who they want to become. And that is what he did, opening those doors for us all. Back in 2014, we had an awesome teacher that did create a reenactment of Samuel Tucker sitting and that reenactment that has been recorded lives on here. So our students can learn more about him and as well as his legacy will never be forgotten. Also, last year, unfortunately, because our 20th year anniversary, we were in the pandemic, we couldn't really celebrate. So last year, when we were able to all come back to school, last school year, we celebrated the 20th anniversary of Samuel Tucker, Samuel W. Tucker, the school opening. And what we did, we had special activities for our students and then we also had special presentations as well as bulletin boards and celebrations to celebrate who he was. So we will not forget where we originated from and the impact of our predecessor of Kathy David of establishing this brand new school and the reason and the legacy of who Samuel W. Tucker was. I'm humbled to be the first woman of color, first person of color to be at the helm principle of Samuel Tucker Elementary. I am his wildest dream, just to think about it. We hear that, that we are our ancestors wildest dream. I am his wildest dream. Would he have ever thought that a school would be named after him, one? To be as diverse with 35 languages spoken from children from all over the world. And then for me to be the principal, I am his legacy. And that is something that Miss David started with the name, with the opening of Samuel Tucker, not forgetting his legacy. And we have to pay respect and homage to those who came before us, those who fought that fight for us. It is amazing and it's profound. And we take so much for granted. And just sitting here with you, I feel even more invigorated, recharged because it's the end of the year. You know, you were about to close another year, but it gives me pride and purpose, understanding that we're opening doors to Afghan girls who've never had the opportunity to learn or go to school in their home country. And now they can hear freely and giving them that support. That's what he, that's what this man did. And this is what he wanted, civil rights for all. When we first moved here to Alexandria from Okinawa, Japan, I really didn't know anyone in the area. I had no idea where, you know, what this area was brand new to the area after eight years. You know, where the first place I went, where the first place I took my children after probably a week being here was to the library. And when you go into the library, Beatley Library, which is right across history from us, you're gonna see the hub of the community. At night, you're gonna see English classes taking place. You're gonna see individuals who do not have access to the internet sitting and accessing the internet, and you'll see students from my high school working. And you'll see our students in the library reading and the children's nook reading. What does a library give? I remember when I was young in West Philadelphia, as soon as I got off from school, running down to the main library. And what did that give me? It gave me a great escape. And reading and having access to books is a great escape and it gives you the opportunity to explore lands that are places that you would never have the opportunity to explore. So, libraries are very, very important. And with Mr. Tucker having the foresight to understand the importance of a library and what a library can do for a child and what he fought for for us, us all. Once again, I'm an all to be able to sit here and be the principal of Samuel W. Tucker Elementary.