Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you're wondering why a man might choose one woman over another? Well, I think this is a great conversation to have and quite frankly I actually got the idea of this title or this content from several of my Contemporaries who posted the exact same title and I thought let me give it a shot And I peruse some of their videos and I want to comment on those as well Additionally, I do want to share with you.  And I think there's this narrative out there that there's this expectation that all men are James Bond You know or confidence and virile and all this stuff and they just want that feminine type of woman Who just sits there and does his bidding if you will and I know they're not selling it that way because of course They're going to sell you on your own confidence and whatnot But to some degree that's the expectation and the reality is is men these days, especially midlife men They've got flaws.  That's not the case. You know, men are rather complex They're dealing with childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas that makes it very difficult for them to actually lean into a healthy happy relationship So today I want to talk about some things that I Believe are some of the reasons why one man would choose a one woman the over the other And I think it's important to recognize that because of these devices By the way, I want to apologize. The lighting uh here is keeps going back and forth So I'm going to turn off a light real quick. Don't leave the camera yet. Don't leave yet I'm just too embarrassed and I as you can tell I don't do any editing here I like to do stream of consciousness, but I do use a Orange light to try to balance things out and that doesn't seem to be working. Okay So I do believe because of the internet Men in particular and women, excuse me have access to people they never never Never would have been in contact in their life. So this barrage of people has caused this problem Of thinking that there is just so many options. We call it the paradox of choice And because of this paradox of choice Men are oftentimes might meet somebody that they think is a good fit for them But they go, you know, there might be somebody better. There might be somebody better So one of the issues is that men and women are both dealing with this paradox of choice And because of that, I think it's desensitized people or overly sensitized people To not really understanding the real value of a relationship Back these days. I've said it before I'll say it again Today's dating is just more of a strung out long version of friends with benefits with some monogamy and exclusivity built in But it most folks aren't building the deep roots of trust and the deep roots of commitment Very early on to establish a long-term relationship. That's what I teach in my private coaching By the way, if you need some support, there's a link right here To schedule a discovery call with me to see if working with the coach is right for you and there's links below as well So coming back to this There's just all these choices out there that's making it more challenging Now I will tell you that some men choose a woman over another woman because that other woman is left less effort And what that means is there are some lifestyle differences And we see this frequently and I've talked to women. By the way, what I'm sharing is true for men and women alike I've talked to women who said that they don't want to get involved with men Who are raising small children. Well, that might be the same case for men as well Some women are less effort In that and that's more of a compatibility issue. We'll talk about the moment But more importantly, they're less effort in trying to arrange a date Okay, in other words, some women are very high maintenance It's very difficult to arrange a date with a woman And so we're going to choose the path of least resistance because there are so many available options out there That are vying for our time By the way, my coffee says I make the world go around. What do you do? A little bit narcissistic, I would believe Let me pull out my trusty notes because I want to share with you some of the other thoughts I have now Here's one particular reason why one man would choose one woman over another and that is sexual compatibility That's right sexual compatibility these days Obtaining sex is rather easy. I'm sorry to say it that way but obtaining sex is rather easy And what happens is that you know, there's a benefit to this is that not when I say benefit to this It doesn't feel like a benefit to women But one of the benefits is for men is that they get to try on different women on for size Now some men do this right in the early stages In other words, you just communicate with them and they send a dick pic or something like that Those are the men that are looking for women who are the low-hanging fruit Okay, those are the women that are easy to obtain sexually But the reality is is women you've complained about this as well. Some men you've been with aren't your sexual Match and that does happen frequently You know, some men are not good lovers. Some women are not good lovers Just because a woman might have sex with a man doesn't make them compatible in the bedroom So sexual compatibility sexual desires is one reason why one man might choose one woman over another Now number three or the third one I wanted to share at least from my notes Is there's an emotional connection with one woman over another but more importantly, it's an energetic connection Now this is the trickiest one of all, you know in my particular case I had actually been I had connected with several women before I met Marie And I can say that there's there was two primary reasons why I think I chose her over the others and while I felt a connection or felt some connection with one woman You know This is the intangible this energetic connection. It's something you can't even quantify It's hard to say do this to create energetic connection But the reality is is some people you're just more aligned with with than others And when you feel when a man feels that energetic connection, I really do believe it goes beyond Physicality because it's not a physical connection It's more they relate to this person on an emotional level and quite frankly as I think of of Marie I think for some reason when we met and connected I felt an affinity for her more not just because of her beauty, but more importantly She just seemed like a good friend Now one of the advantages we had is we'd spoken for a year prior to meeting So we had built up this friendship over the course of a year and by the way, we didn't do incessant communication Keep in mind folks. I was in a long distance Briefly in a long distance relationship. In other words, she moved out here But we developed a bit of a friendship So that energetic connection was there quickly when we met versus meeting someone for the first time maybe after a few phone calls Sometimes that energetic connection isn't there because that friendship hasn't been built number four And I talked about less effort, but I really want to dive into compatibility There's a greater compatibility with some women over the other So for as I said earlier about women choosing men who don't have children as an example It's true for men as well, especially in midlife That might be a compatibility issue. There might be a financial compatibility within two people There might be sexual compatibility, you know more so with one woman versus another So these are some of the challenges and this is why I get in my private coaching Ladies, I know you all think you know what you want. I say this all the time women go to me I know what I want. I know what I want. I know what I want But then they go through my proprietary coaching program and then they realize oh my god I didn't realize the more important things on the list This is what I did to attract Mary in my life We we did what was known as radical honesty pre qualifying each other We laid our cards on the table early on to determine. Are we really compatible with one another? So for example She lived in Chicago. I lived in Los Angeles. I said I wasn't interested in entertaining a relationship with you Okay, and I know many of you are doing the long distance communicating quite frankly these days Long distance is anything more than a one hour drive. Actually in some cases a 30 minute drive. Okay in our case That was 1800 miles. I wasn't interested in entertaining This relationship and by the way she reached out to me because of the distance Well, then she gave me a good argument of why we should consider, you know communicating more And if she didn't do it in this masculine energy way She was just sharing with her that she was actually looking for a life mate She liked what my profile had to say she felt the synergy but more importantly She grew up in Los Angeles She has two children that live in Los Angeles one of her dear friends lives literally a block away from where we both live now Her best friend lives here So there was some reasons why Los Angeles was on her list of places to Consider moving to if she found the right person By the way, I was competing with florida as well So she has to deal with earthquakes over there. We'd have to deal with she would have had to deal with hurricanes But compatibility is a critical factor to You know the higher compatibility and with some people again when we're doing this when people are doing this circular dating this cushioning this duty dating It makes it difficult because you you know, if you don't really know what you want Then you're not quickly eliminating the wrong person And so be mindful of this and men are doing this as well Now number five, he's got to be in a good place in his life. I know Prior to when you know prior to meeting Marie, you know, folks, you know, I went through the loss of a child I went through a lot of emotional Up evil in my life, but at the same time You know being in a good place Oftentimes when someone's not in a good place in life in other words the ground underneath the man is not solid He could self sabotage a relationship because he wants men want companionship. They want connection They want sex And yet if they're not in a good place in their life, they will actually Meet someone that they like But then sabotage the relationship and believing that another woman could solve the problems He's not solving within himself by the way, many of you know, I wrote a book called What the heck is self-love anyway a journey of personal development self-help and spiritual work By the way, there's a link below to get a copy of all the books. I recommend You know Most men go through and women do this as well their own version of the hero's journey And if you're not familiar with Joseph Campbell's work, write this down Hero's journey Joseph Campbell If you're watching this on the premiere put someone put this in the chat box or put this in the comment the hero's journey This is what my friend Alison Armstrong calls the tunnel And that's this period of time where we're going through a transition in our lives And many men are going through a divorce or they're going through a professional transition in their life And when they're in this space, they'll oftentimes sabotage really good relationships for another woman I'm actually doing the reverse here instead of picking a good woman They'll pick at the easy woman because they're going to they're not in a good place in their life So really be mindful of men who are going through a contentious divorce men who have Issues in their professional life. Maybe they have significant health issues that makes them fearful to actually lean into A deeper connection with someone because they're not in a good place and these men will self sabotage In this case usually choosing women that are less complicated. In other words, very easy. I talk about low hanging fruit number six timing You know as I said earlier I was connecting with several women at the time that I met Marie But it was really this was a timing situation between the two of us and again timing much like Energetic connection is an intangible. You can't You can't really quantify This particular case where two people just meet at the right time You could literally some of you could be dating a great, you know, really good man But then you meet this other person where you have a lot more compatibility. You have a lot more energetic connection And all of a sudden This is because of timing and this is the hardest thing to predict Most of us would prefer to just date one person at a time I would believe I know it might seem like men prefer this duty dating or cushioning In other words cushioning is like padding you're dating multiple people to pad for loss I'm not a big fan of that to be protective of oneself because you're fearful of rejection or you're fearful of it going wrong But again at the end of the day timing plays a critical part in this dynamic Of mating today, and I think we need to be aware of that and there's really honestly There's not much you can do about timing for a man. Although I will say this remember I talked about Self sabotage okay men who are known as the growers or builders and if you're familiar with my chart about the Um Three types of men who are actively dating out there. There are the users There are the spenders and then there's the grower builders users are are basically love bombers They're the players. They're they're the women who are entitled. They're the women who are gold diggers those They're using Someone else for their own benefit. In other words, they're very myopic. They're very self-centric. They only care about their own needs Now the grower and builder these are men who are truly want to Co-create a relationship with someone. They really want to build a life with someone and this probably only represents about 20 percent of the men who are actively In the dating marketplace for those of us in midlife and I always say midlife is after baby making years and before retirement By the way, I recognize men can make babies even in their 50s and 60s or even 70s I'm talking about since my audience is women baby making years for them. Okay And if a man coming back to what I was saying before on timing if he's not a good In a good place in his life that the ground underneath them doesn't feel solid Coming back to the previous one. He'll sabotage relationships until he's in a good place. So timing plays an important role And oftentimes men go through this tunnel. We talked about the hero's journey as I said earlier I wanted to elaborate on that the hero's journey is usually where we have a humbling event Emotionally a humbling event emotionally that causes us to wake up to deeper Introspective work deeper healing within ourselves Maybe healing our childhood wounds and traumas healing our adult traumas and the biggest adult trauma For most men and women alike is divorce or a significant breakup. That could be an emotional trauma Certainly in my case losing a child was an emotional trauma Sadly yesterday. I heard really bad news where a dear friend of mine just lost his son And so oh the birds just crossed by And so when we're not in a good place That's where timing plays a role in it as well and last and most importantly This is what makes a man choose one woman over another is the woman he's chosen Has a greater level of self-love coming back to my book.  Self-love isn't just you know, oh, I love myself and self-love isn't manicures and pedicures and Facials and massages. That's by the way self-care self-love is Self-respect self-reliance Self-confidence self-esteem self-worth. That's all wrapped up into self-love. In other words would attract me most to Marie She had this air of confidence. In other words, I could tell she doesn't give her power away To anyone. She never gave her power away to me See what I don't like about feminine energy coaching is some of it is almost predicated on giving your power away to men because men are the leaders of the relationship and you just Need to follow their lead. Well, you can be following the lead of a real jackass So be careful about giving your power away and giving your power also means you're dependent upon the other person To fulfill your emotional needs I always say, you know, a lot of people in the united states here are suckling on the nipple of I need you To love me so I can feel good about myself that that need for constant validation So a woman who is in a state of self-love doesn't need That validation doesn't need that love. They may desire it and that's okay to desire it But to actually come from a dependent place Isn't really loving on oneself and a lot of men Consents that woman who doesn't value herself because she needs someone else to validate them And that gets tiresome for first and some men actually thrive on that But those aren't the men who are really going to go the distance Oh, by the way, I just recognize I forgot to mention one thing going back to users spenders and growers Really quickly users are the kind of people that are takers 20 percent the growers have want to build a life Those spenders I really didn't dive into that spenders or men or women Who want companionship connection and sex But they're not really solid on their desire for commitment If you're not really solid on your desire or you're not capable of commitment They may come across as saying I want a relationship. I want a relationship. I want a relationship But they're not really in the capacity to lean into that relationship because Because They're just not in a good place And those are typically those spenders they want to spend time with you And they want some they want that companionship connection and sex, but they're not in a good place Okay, I just forgot to elaborate on that earlier. All right. We just covered why a man might choose one woman over another I hope you found value in this if you did, please hit that like button. Please share this video Please subscribe to my channel. Check out all the links below to a free discovery call with me Check out my group called midlife love mastery. 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Your questions? Take a video please. Yes, sure. Awesome. Alright. So Kenji, this is your first time? Yes, first time. This is your first time in India. So how do you think the conference is going so far? Yes, people are energetic. I like talking. I like talking.  So from the conference perspective, obviously you have attended several conferences. Yes. You have spoken in many conferences. How do you think this conference is going to be held in 2013 versus the other conferences? Well, I actually run this type of conference in Japan too. But yes, this conference has more open space. People talk and very good food. I love Indian food. So very good food and open spaces. Meeting people. So nice. So what has been your key highlight of the conference? Craig Lamanskino was very good about how contract or planning doesn't work between development and business side. And the other was Linda Rising's talk. This was a reception talk that she talked about phallus change. That we need in this organization or everybody's organization so that you can act agile in that organization. So change. So her key message was to have courage, to have friends, eat together and go to that change. So that's what I liked most. So if at all you think there is some change that we need to, one change that we need to bring about in this conference for next year? Next year. What would that be? I'll keep the food. Next year. More free talks. I mean, there are some lightning talks. It should be improved. So that everybody bring everybody together. Open spaces and things. Is this thing stored and broadcasted? I would like to say one thing about my talk. I'm from Japan so I wanted to talk about some very Japanese thing so that Indian people can understand. Or I'm not sure they understand but the feedback was very nice. So I would like to, I would like Indian people to talk about it. And I would like Indian people to come to Japan sometime. That would be our privilege. So it would be an honor to come there. Yes. Thank you very much. Alright, thanks Indi. Thank you. Hi there Roshanath. Hi. So we're at the conference. We're attending the Jeff Patton's workshop. Yep. So how has it been? It's been fantastic. You know, a lot of insight into how to be a good product owner, how to build better products. So it's been pretty enlightening I would say. A lot of things we didn't know prior. So I think Jeff had a lot of insight into a lot of aspects. So what's the key highlight? It's all about design thinking, lean product concepts, how to, you know, story mapping, journey maps, quite a lot of insights into all these tools. Right. Pretty useful. Okay. So would you recommend this to your colleagues, to other people? Absolutely. Absolutely. So what I thought is probably if I go back to my work, I should recommend this to a lot of people. Okay. Who really, you know, into build products and gather requirements and all those things. Those guys need what in this, absolutely. Right. Overall, what do you think about the conference? It's really good. I looked at the topics. Probably I didn't know about this. I wish I would have been here two days prior. Right. Okay. So definitely it's a lot of value out here. Okay. Yeah definitely. Thanks very much.


Okay. Good morning, everyone. Welcome to VC 213, the course on end times. Thank you for joining the class today. Those of you in the classroom, those of you online. Thank you. Let's take a moment to pray together and we'll get started. Could somebody please pray? Hello, Father. Thank you for this wonderful time, Father. Thank you for you are with us. Thank you for everything you're doing. Jesus, I pray for the section we are praying. Jesus, we need concentration. Please help us. And help the pastor to teach us the mysterious of your scripture. The mysterious of your coming back. Jesus, we are waiting for that. You want to see more? Thank you for everything. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen. Amen. I couldn't hear the audio. So that means this is not serving its purpose. Oh, I should have changed the settings, you know, speaker. Yeah. Anyway, let's leave it. All right. So these speakers are working. We should try one minute. Let me just try putting this on. And then change the settings. Yeah. Sorry. Yeah, yeah, I changed that too. Yeah. Okay. Let's get started. Let's go to chapter four where we stopped last week. And let me just go ahead and share the notes. All right. So we went through the timeline and we started talking about the rapture of the church. We went through the scriptures, talked about the rapture of the church, what will happen. We talked about the trumpet of God. And we talked about, or we just mentioned what believers will do in heaven during those seven years. So let's take a few minutes on this. I'm sorry. There's a very loud airplane flying. Just turn it off. Okay. So let's just talk about what believers would be doing in heaven during these seven years. So this is on page 56. Page 56. All right. So right after the rapture, we are going to meet the Lord in the air and we're going to be taken up to be with him in heaven for seven years. And during the seven years, there will be seven years of tribulation here on earth. So what's going to happen in heaven during the seven years? What do the scriptures tell us? So here are some things we can see. The Bible tells us Colossians 3.4 that we will be with him in glory.  We will see him as he is. We will be like him living in glorified bodies. Our bodies are going to be like his. We explained that last week. And we will know God as we are known. What does that sentence mean? Again, to comprehend that, I still am not sure. But it just seems to indicate that there's going to be a recognition of God and a knowledge of God much beyond what we have right now. It doesn't mean we will know as God knows. So like we said, that's omniscience. So it's not like you're going to know as God knows. But we're going to know him in a greater measure, in a greater sense than what we know right now. We will be welcomed into our mansions.  I'll come and receive you to myself. We're going to be in mansions in heaven. There is going to be the judgment of the believers. So let's look at this. Let's turn please to 1 Corinthians chapter 3. What did the apostle Paul write about the believers' judgment? So this is where the believers are going to be judged. So when we are in heaven, there will be a judgment. And this is not a judgment for salvation, but this is a judgment for our works, for our service, for our ministry. So 1 Corinthians 3, 13 to 15, please. Somebody can read that for us. Let's read from verse 11, please. 1 Corinthians chapter 3, 11 to 15. Got an answer. 1 Corinthians chapter 3, verse 11 to 15. But no other foundation can anyone lay than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. Now, if anyone builds on his foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw, each one's work will become clear. For the day will declare it, because it will be revealed by fire. And the fire will test each one's work of what sort it is. If anyone's work, which he has built on it and yours, he will receive a reward. If anyone's work is burned, he will suffer loss. But he himself will be saved, dead, so as through fire. So notice Paul is telling us that we believers, our works are going to be tested. So we have a foundation. It is Jesus Christ. And our works will be tested. Each one's work will be tested. Fire will test each one's work of what sort it is. God is going to test it. Now, it doesn't mean like, you know, imagine some fire in the middle and all our works are going through it. It's not that. He's just telling us that God is going to assess our works and give us a reward for those works, right? And let's also read. Let's also read 2 Corinthians 5, so that we'll put it together. We'll come back to this passage. But I just want us to see about the judgment here, the believer's judgment. 2 Corinthians chapter 5 versus 9 and 10. 2 Corinthians 5, 9 and 10. Somebody could read it. Therefore, we make it our aim, whether present or absent, to be well pleasing to him. For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ that each one may receive things done in the body according to what he has done, whether good or bad. So Paul is writing to believers and he's saying, we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ. So see the difference in the language. This is talking about judgment seat of Christ. Revelation chapter 20 talks about great white throne judgment. So don't confuse the two, right? They are different. Revelation is great white throne judgment. Here is judgment seat of Christ. This judgment seat of Christ is where all the believers are standing before Jesus. The great white throne judgment in Revelation 20 is every human person is standing. The sea gives up the dead, everyone good or bad, everybody is standing before God. So this judgment we refer to as the believer's judgment or in some places you will read as the Bema seat judgment. Bema seat judgment. Why? Because the Greek here, in verse 10, we must appear before the judgment seat of Christ. That judgment seat in the Greek is Bema. It's a Greek word where Paul is borrowing from the judgment they used to have in those days, which was in the public city square. This was a public, you know, when people had some disputes, they would go in the city square in the middle of the city where they had like a judge sitting, a Bema seat and he would sit and judge the disputes. So he's using that language here. So sometimes people say, oh, Bema seat or whatever. It's nothing, it's just a Greek word that's used in 2 Corinthians 5, 10, referring to the judgment of the believers. And how is this going to be? So now we go back to 1 Corinthians 3. We all have the same foundation, which is Jesus Christ and the work, how we built will be tested. He's saying, if you build with gold, silver and precious stones, it will remain. If you build with wood, hay and straw, it will be burnt. So what is wood, hay and straw? What is gold, silver and precious stones? We can just say that this is a type. It's representing something. Wood, hay and stubble represents the flesh, things of the flesh. Gold, silver, precious stones are presenting what is divine, what is from God. Okay. So for example, can you think of a verse where wood, hay, stubble is representing things of the world which God, which will burn up? Yes. Yes, correct, correct. Matthew 3.11, right? So John the Baptist is introducing the ministry of Jesus. He says, He will baptize you with the Holy Spirit and fire. And what will that fire do? He continues, right? He will burn up the chaff, chaff, right? Who's a winnowing fan is in his hand. That means like, you know, the farmer, how they separate the wheat from the covering of the grain, no, the chaff. They separate the wheat and the chaff, then all the chaff collects and they burn it up, the husk, you know, that thing, which you don't want. So he says, his winnowing fan is in his hand. He'll separate the wheat from the chaff and he will burn the chaff with unquenchable fire. So the Holy Spirit is working, separating what is good and bad and what is bad he'll burn. So we can say that, see, that's an example, another place where what is not of God is referred to by this image of wheat, of a chaff, right? So wood, hey, hey, is what same as chaff.  So that represents the things of the flesh. So we do a lot of things. We do a lot of works, all kinds of works we do. But God is going to see what works we did, which were inspired by him, the Holy Spirit, and what works came from the flesh. And the works of the flesh are going to be burned up. And so only the real works, the works that came from God, for that each man will receive a reward. He will receive a reward, verse 14. But if anyone's work is burned, he will suffer loss. That means if it's burned, okay, no reward for that. He's got to say that was all flesh, no reward for it. But you will be saved. Verse 15, he will be saved. This is not about whether or not he's going to be saved. This is about what reward he's going to get. You understand, right? So that's the difference here between the Bema Seed judgment and the Great White Throne judgment. So this is how believers are going to be judged. So in the light of that, what we must do is make sure that the works we do are works that are born of God, are born of the Spirit, right? Because we can do a lot of things which are good, but they may not be what God wants. Or they may be good in the sense that, yeah, I'm doing some ministry work, something I'm doing. But it may be producing the fruit of the flesh. So what do you mean? I may be doing something, but it's causing division. I'm doing something, but the fruit is, it is dividing. It is or I'm doing something, but it is causing hate or it's causing hurt. I may be doing something good or so-called good. But what is the fruit, right? I may be doing something good, but is the fruit moving people towards the Lord, towards God, towards His Word? Or is it moving away? Is it drawing them to me, example? I'm preaching. Suppose I'm preaching. After my preaching, people say, oh, I like pastor so much. That is not the purpose of preaching, right? The purpose of preaching is, people should say, I love God. I love His Word. I love, I want to worship. I want to follow Jesus, right? So that is the fruit. And if the fruit, I may be preaching great. But what is the fruit? Are people being pointed to Jesus? Are people being drawn to His Word? Are people being drawn to Him as opposed to being drawn to me? Or if after I preach, they say, wow, He preached so nicely. What's the point? That is not the fruit we want to bear, right? What is the fruit we want to bear? Lives must be changed. People must be drawn closer to the Lord. So that's the fruit we should look for. Otherwise, it's going to be wood, hay, and stuff. It may look all nice. It may look nice. But God is not looking at that. He said, is it from me? Is it from the Lord? And what is the fruit you bear? So we have to be careful in the work we do. Many times you also see in Christian ministry, people do things out of competition. Paul wrote about it in Philippians 1. He said, some preach Christ out of jealousy. They're jealous of Paul and they're preaching. Some preach Christ out of contention. They want to compete. They're preaching Jesus. But what is motivating them? I want to be better than Paul. Paul wrote about it in Philippians 1. Paul says, it's okay. See, he can't do anything about it. He says, I'm just happy that Christ is being preached. I'm happy Christ is being preached. But God will look at it differently. Because Paul writes 1 Corinthians 4. If you look at, yeah, we're there right now. 1 Corinthians 4. And verse 5, he says, God will reveal the counsel of the hearts. Then each one's praise will come from God. 1 Corinthians 4, 5. So how is God going to judge? He's going to judge according to the motive of the heart. And then your praise will come from God. What was the motive of your heart and what you did, what you did? What was the motive? Sometimes I'm talking about us Christian preachers also. We preach because we want to be famous. We preach because we want to be well known. We preach because we want to have a bigger platform. See, these other people don't see the outside. They only look at the sermon. They only listen to the thing. But only God knows our hearts. And so our works will be tested. God will judge us according to the motive of our hearts. And each one's reward will be given. So we have to be careful on that. So that's just the judgment of the believers. Look at our hearts and heal it. So why can't that's happening now? They are preachers who want them to be in a big position and they're doing it for theirself. And why God is not judging them? And on the other side, they are being blessed like nothing and the ministry is being blessed. And there are many ministries that we couldn't even know that they're doing things like very opposite to God. But they are being blessed. They're having the biggest congregations. So why they are not being judged? I mean, when we look at history, like when we look backwards, what we can say is God is very patient. God is very patient. He gives people us a lot of time to repent. Lot of time. But at some point, he will, that judgment will come. Because Peter wrote, judgment will begin in the house of God. It will begin where judgment begins in the house of God. But God gives us, gives a lot of grace, like a lot of time to repent. So if you look back, we see so many of these ministries, they become very big. It's all this, like you're saying, they become big, they have big congregations, lots of money, there's that. But actually, sometimes these different preachers don't think everybody is bad. That's not what we are saying. I'm just saying there are some examples. Sometimes they may be doing something wrong and it's not visible. People don't know. People are only seeing the big ministry. They're only seeing the preaching. They're only seeing everything outside. But behind something, what we have seen is sometimes after 20 years, 25 years, suddenly the whole thing is brought to light. So we may ask, why did God wait 20 years, 25 years, sometimes 30 years before this thing? Why? The only thing we can think of is God was giving them time to repent. God was giving them grace to correct themselves. So Bible says, 1 Corinthians 10, 11, if we judge ourselves, we will not be judged. That means, see, we all do something wrong. If you do something wrong, you judge yourself. God, I was wrong. I'm sorry. I correct myself. If we judge ourselves, we will not be judged. But God is giving so much time. They're not correcting themselves then finally. But the problem with that is so many people are affected. Because by that time, the ministry is so big. You know, you can have hundreds, literally thousands and thousands of people who have put so much of trust in that ministry. And then when something is there, so many people are hurt. But it's not God's fault. It's that God was being gracious and giving time to repent. But in the end, judgment must begin in the house of God. And we see, when you look back, you see this thing happening over and over again. All right. Yeah. We were talking about this. Works of flesh. Things that we do out, not birth from birth, from spirit, but by our own. And sometimes my question is, is it the motives of what we are doing matters? Or even if we are doing it, if it's not from God, but I want to do and I did it and it was only building the church, equipping people. Will it be burned? Because it is from my own, I did it, but it's not God want me to do it. But the thing that I did out of my own, glorified God. And I don't have any wrong intentions in it. I'm doing something good. I'm doing something that is building people. I'm doing something that is serving God. But I did. It wasn't what God wanted. As far as I can say, I'm thinking of Matthew chapter seven. Okay. And also I'm looking at the example of Jesus. Jesus, many times he said, I can of my own self do nothing. So John 519. I can John chapter 519. I can of my own self do nothing as I see. I judge. And what is his father do? Most of us, most of us say the son can do nothing of himself. What he sees the father do, whatever he does also does the son. So the way Jesus live, he only chose to do what he saw the father do. That was how he lived. Now in Matthew 7, Jesus is rebuking those people and one of the reasons he says is you did not do the will of my father. So the emphasis there is you must do the will of the father. Verse 21, Matthew 7, 21, Not everyone who says to me, Lord, Lord shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of my father in have will of my father. The emphasis is do the will of my father. What my father will. So these people are saying, Lord, Lord, in your name we prophesied, in your name we did this. That means they did the good things. They did supernatural things. They used the name of Jesus to heal, deliver, prophesy, do all that. But first issue, will of my father. Now is it the father's will to heal the sick, to cast out demons, to raise, of course it is. Generally, yes. But still he is saying to these people, you must, you didn't do the will of my father. That means, so we are trying to imagine, you know, how is this possible? How is this possible? It is the will of the father to do these things in the name of Jesus. But yet how can he say to these people, we are saying, Lord, in your name we have prophesied, in your name we have healed, in your name we have done all this. How can he say to them, you didn't do the will of my father. So, and then of course the other thing is, I never knew you, verse 23. So, two issues, right? You didn't do the will of my father, I never knew you. And he is saying, because of that, whatever they were doing in the name of the Lord, they were actually practicing lawlessness. They were practicing sin. That is verse 23. So, for us in our mind it is so difficult. How can these people be said? How can you say to these people, who in your name, were doing all these supernatural works, and Lord, you are finding this problem, they didn't do the will of the father, they didn't know you, or you didn't know them, and they were actually practicing sin. So, that's why we have to be very careful. So, meaning people can do good things, using the name of Jesus. But that may not be what God wants them to do, and it may not be, the motivation would not have been to glorify Jesus, the practicing sin. The motivation may be to self, money, this, that, all those things. So, it's it. It's the motivation that's not there. It's the spiritual energy. And the other thing, or the pastor can do that, they'll do that. It's God's will to be in. And on the other side, and God was telling us, the motives are not correct, but we have to be able to do it for the ministry of God. If you can do that also. I think so. See, not correct. So, example, see, I know God wants to heal every person. Just as God wants to save every person. No question. Like example, I don't have to ask God, God, do you want that person to be saved or not? Because Jesus died for that person. I have to take the gospel. It is his decision, but my response is take the gospel to every creature.  No question. Because Jesus bore all our sickness and diseases. He is the, some, some says he heals me of all my diseases. So I know God wants to heal, but if I'm preaching the gospel or I am ministering to the sick or whatever good thing, but my motivation is not really to glorify Jesus, but to glorify myself, I am sinning. I'll give you chapter and verse. John 7 was 18. John 7. I know we're going off in a different direction, but you see this. John 7 was 18. We're talking about the believers judgment and all. John 7 was 18. Somebody could read it. John 7 was 18. John chapter 7 was 18. He who speaks on his own does so to gain honor for himself, but he who works for the honor of the one who sent him is a man of truth. There is nothing false about him. Don't, sir. Seeking his own glory. You know, speaking for himself, he's seeking his own glory. I don't want to be... But if he is seeking the glory of the one who sent him, then he is able to do it. Then there is no state in it. Or he can flip it like this. If he is seeking his own glory, then he is a false witness. And there is sin in it. That's what this verse is saying. If somebody's been sent and he's seeking the glory of the one who sent him, he's a true witness, there is no sin. But somebody else sent him, but he's seeking his own glory. Then he's a false witness and there is sin. So that is the issue. Okay. All right. So what we'll be doing in heaven, back to page 56. We'll be engaging in worship. We see that in the book of Revelation. We're standing before the throne. We are worshiping as kings and priests. Another thing that will happen during the seven years is tribulation martyrs. That is people who are being believers, being killed on the earth. We see their souls or their spirit and soul coming up into heaven before the throne of God. And you see that in Revelation 6 and 7. They're coming before the throne of God. They are worshiping God. So we'll be joining with them in worship. And the other thing we see is there's going to be this marriage of the Lamb, the marriage supper of the Lamb. Revelation 19. So that is the last thing that takes place in heaven at the end of the tribulation. It is mapping to the end of the... On earth, we're coming to the end of the tribulation. In heaven, at that moment, Revelation 19, there is a marriage supper of the Lamb. That means the bride, which is all of God's people, they refer to as a bride. The bride has made herself ready. They are all seated. And there's this great celebration together. I mean, I don't know how... The Bible just says there is a great marriage supper of the Lamb. Some sort of a celebration, right? What is going to happen in details and all of you don't know. But that is the last thing. Right after that, Jesus returns. The second coming. Okay. Now as part of our rewards, and this is just a side note, the New Testament talks about different kinds of crowns. The crown is signifying a reward. In those days especially, they should not give medals or trophies. They will give crowns. Sometimes it's as simple as a breath, like two branches they put on the head.   So the Bible has that picture and then different kinds of crowns we see. There's a crown of righteousness. There is an imperishable crown, a crown of rejoicing, a crown of life, a crown of glory and so on. So different kinds of crowns. Now, you know, understand that, okay, it doesn't mean like, you know, you'll have three, four crowns on your head trying to balance it. You're walking around here. You've got crown of life. You've got crown of glory. I don't think we have to worry about that. You know, but it's just saying that these are part of the rewards. There's a way that God is going to bestow a reward or an honor on His people who served Him well. You know, so that's for us to know that. Okay. All right. Let me pause you and see if there are any questions. Now what we're going to do is we are going to talk about why we say there's a pre-tribulation rapture of the church. Why are we going to say that? Well, let me just see if there are any questions on the chat, online students. Many questions. Okay. Please repeat the verse about God's will. Yeah. Matthew chapter seven, we were looking at that. Matthew seven, I think it was 21 to 23. Matthew seven, 21 to 23. Any questions from online students? Okay. Any questions from here? All right. So now let's move on to talk about why do we say there's a pre-tribulation rapture of the church. Now, you know, this has been an area where believers keep fighting with each other. There are so many topics people fight. This is one of those big topics. Because some say before the tribulation, some will say middle of the tribulation. Some will say end of the tribulation. So that discussion has been going on for a long time. It's been going on.  They will say something else. Oh, no, no, no, you're wrong. The rapture will happen only after the tribulation. Whatever. It's okay. My response is, okay, I'll explain to what you have to say. I'll see if there's anything valid. But according to what I have studied and according to what I'm seeing, this is what I believe. And I can explain it to you. You explain to me. I'll explain to you. And each one is left to decide what you feel like. I mean, we're not, we don't have to fight over this. We don't have to, you know, become enemies over this. It's okay. You have a different view. I have a different view. But sometimes people get very, you know, people get very harsh and they write books and they become very mean when they're fighting on these things. So we shouldn't get into those kinds of things. Leave it. You know, if people ask us, we can explain. This is why we say there is a pre-tribulation rapture of the church. Okay. So we'll give some reasons. The first one is, and all of these are important. So it's not like one is more important than the other, but all these things add up to showing us that, you know, there is a pre-tribulation rapture of the church. So let's go to 2 Thessalonians 2 verses 1 to 10. And let's read. So Paul is writing and remember that first and second, sorry, first and second Thessalonians were among, among Paul's earliest episodes that he wrote. Okay. The first set of episodes, earliest episodes that he wrote. First and second Thessalonians. In first Thessalonians, he has described the rapture. First Thessalonians chapter 4. He has already described the rapture. What will happen? The Lord will descend. He will bring with those who have died or fallen asleep. He will bring with him. Then we who are alive and remain will be caught up together and meet the Lord in the air. First Thessalonians chapter 4, 13 to 18. He has described that. So we will meet the Lord in the air. Described. First Thessalonians chapter 5. He has mentioned, brethren, this will come suddenly like a thief in the night. So always live ready. Live as children of light. Be always ready. And God will save us from the day of wrath. He has mentioned it. First Thessalonians chapter 5. But remember, when he's writing his letter, he's writing like a continuous thing. He's not writing in chapter and verse. Only now we are referencing chapter and verse. But he has written it. So he has given that in the first letter. Now he's writing another one. Because there is still confusion among the believers saying, hey, it has already happened. Rapture has already happened. And we all missed it. Do you imagine? Believers, they're very scared now. Somebody said, Paul wrote rapture will happen. It has already happened. We all missed it. We are left here. Confusion. So he's addressing that. He's clarifying when that is going to happen. So let us read. Second Thessalonians chapter 2 verses 1 to 10. Please somebody could read it. Second Thessalonians 2, 1 to 10. Concerning the coming of the Lord Jesus Christ and being gathered to him. We ask you brothers, not to become easily unsettled or alarmed by someone. Some prophecy report or letters supposed to have coming from us. Concerning about gathering together to him. So what's he having to do? So he's saying concerning the rapture. So this is very clear. Concerning the rapture was one. How about gathering together to him? Because that is in reference to Thessalonians 4, 13, 13. Concerning and gathering together to him. Don't be troubled. Somebody has come and given you a prophecy, given you a letter that they said being over the Lord. Don't be troubled by that. So somebody has to cause confusion. They have brought in some ideas. Or they have said that there is something wrong. It's because it will be a ceasefire. So how does it work? Let no one deceive you by any means. For that day will not come unless the falling away comes first. And the man of sin is revealed and the son of prediction. Who opposes and exalts himself above all that is called God or what is worshiped. So that he sits as God in the temple of the God showing himself that he is God. And that no one deceives you. Because that day, what day? Our gathering together to him. It won't come unless certain things happen. What? First there will be a great falling away. Falling away means a lot of people leaving the faith. Today, actually I don't know about you but I kind of keep in touch of what's happening in the western church. And we can say that what we are seeing in the western church, when I say western church, North America, Europe, we are seeing a great falling away. And this is not just somebody guessing. They have data. The last 30 years, more people have left the church and they don't call themselves non-religious. They don't even call themselves Christian. What is your religion? No religion. Non-religious. And people have been leaving the church. They said this trend has been going on the last 30 years. So these are the countries which we think are Christian-ness. But it is like great falling out. Huge number. And they have the number also. Somebody has estimated, I forgot what I read, but some so many million people have left the church in the last 30 years. These are people who either them or their parents were going to church. A lot of factors have come in to contributing to this but we are seeing a great falling away. Literally. Especially among the Christian nations or nations that were once supposedly Christian. So great falling away. And he says, and the man of sin is revealed, the son of perdition. So who is he talking about? He's referring back to what Daniel spoke. Okay. So we will study next year, chapter and verse, chapter by chapter, verse by verse, the book of Daniel. And in Daniel, chapter seven, chapter eight, chapter nine, very detailed. He talks, Daniel, God was God reveals to Daniel in detail about this man of sin, referring to the Antichrist. So that's what Paul is referring to. He said, this man of sin will be revealed, the son of perdition. And he is going to sit in the temple of God. Now Daniel already prophesied what he's going to do. Okay. Daniel already told us, gave us all details. He said, he will establish a covenant of peace seven years. And in the middle of the seven years, he will break the covenant of peace. So Daniel has already given all the details. And Paul is referring to that. He's saying, this man of sin has to become ready because he's going to sit in the temple of God. That means the gathering, the day of the Lord for us gathering together is going to be right at that moment. There's going to be great falling away. This man of sin is ready. The last seven years will start. Yeah. But let's read on. Let's read on. So he's a man of sin. And the other thing I can begin to point out is, they're all because he said, he said, verse 5, verse 4, in the temple of God, there has to be also one temple. And also I should come to this. So all these things he's talking about, let's read verse 5. Do you not remember that when I was still with you, I told you these things? And now you know what is restraining, that he may be revealed in his own time. For the mystery of lawlessness is already at work. Now only he who now restrains will do, so until he is taken out of the way.  Then the coming of the lawless one is according to the working of Satan, with all powers, signs and lying wonders. And with all unrighteous deceptions among those who perish, because they did not receive the love of the truth, that they might be saved. So I already told you about all these things, so don't get confused. Now verse 6. And now, okay, here's the thing. There is something restraining. There is something holding back this lawless one from being revealed. And verse 7, the lawlessness is already at work. Verse 7, only he who now restrains will do so until he is taken out of the way and then the lawless one will be revealed. So that is the piece of text that people have thought about. Who is that he that Paul is referring to? Because very clearly he is saying, somebody is holding, preventing the man of sin from being revealed. He has to be taken out of the way. Then this man of sin will be, then the seven years starts. So the question is, who is he who is now preventing the lawless one, this man of sin, the son of perdition, the Antichrist, the little horn. Who is he who is preventing this person from being revealed? That is a big question. So this is where we have to discuss. So we have two options. I mean generally speaking, if you read what people write generally, some will say he refers to the Holy Spirit. But I want to present that and I'll give you a reason that he represents the church. I'll tell you why. Now immediately we say, no, it cannot be the church because church is the bride of Christ. She, she, she. But church is the body of Christ. That is he. That is masculine. Correct. So church is bride, she. Body, he. Right? So we have to be open to that. We are so used to thinking church as the bride, which is correct. That is one of the pictures. Doesn't mean church is a lady. It's only a picture representing Christ's relationship with the church. We have so many other pictures of the church. The church is like a family. Church is like an army. The church is like a house of prayer and worship, all that. These are only pictures of the church. One of the pictures is the body of Christ. Body of Christ. It's he, masculine. Okay. So pondered over that, over coffee. We'll go for a break and come back. Thank you.


Coming to you from our GIS Studios, I am Anicia Antoine and this is your Midday News Brief. A new visa application centre for Canada has opened in St Lucia. The centre is open to provide visa services and a biometric collection for persons who require a visa or work or student permit for Canada. It means travellers no longer have to go to Barbados or Trinidad to have the process done. The centre does not change the process for Canadian citizens who need to apply for passports or other travel documents. The centre is located at the Leverage Business Group office at the bottom of the Mojiro hill. The Digital Currency Pilot Project within the Eastern Caribbean Currency Union, ECCU, is inching closer to becoming a reality. The DXCD Carry Project, as it is called, was launched in March of 2019 and seeks to reduce cash usage within the ECCU by 50%, promote greater financial sector stability and expedite growth and development of member countries. Eight months into the pilot project, Governor of the Eastern Caribbean Central Bank, Timothy Antoine, says the project is gaining interest even outside of the region. The ultimate goal, he says, is to include as many people as possible in the financial system. The project will be executed in two phases, development and testing for about 12 months, followed by rollout and implementation in four pilot countries for six months. The project is entering its user interface and testing phase. The Digital Currency will be used through the DXCD Carry app. Pilot countries include St Lucia, Grenada, St Kitts and Nivus, and Antigua. In St Lucia, partner institutions include Bank of St Lucia Ltd, CIBC First Caribbean International Bank, Monripo Credit Union Ltd and Sajiko Finance Inc. Project implementation is anticipated for March April 2020. In commemoration of International Democracy Day, the Electoral Department is hosting an exhibition to showcase the work of the organisation throughout the 40 years of independence. The exhibition highlights the stages of modernisation, including the process of registration, the voting process, as well as election results from 1979 to 2016. To mark the occasion, Alemphia Lionel, Assistant Chief Elections Officer, noted that amnesty is being granted to persons who have lost their national identification cards. Lionel noted that one of the objectives of the exhibition was to sensitise the public on the difference between the NIC number and the registration number. The Electoral Department has also launched a mobile app to simplify processes for the electorates, including information on the change of name and address processes. The Electoral Department has also launched a mobile app to simplify processes for the electorates, including information on the change of name and address processes. The exhibition commenced on the 2nd of October and will end on the 15th of October 2019. This has been your midday news brief. Thank you for watching.