we recently looked at the sun from this book and now today we will look at mercury through Pluto and of course this book was written in 1980 it still thinks Pluto is indeed a planet but it does leave room for perhaps being a double planet so we will see that mercury these with this little drawing there we have some nice illustrations let's see what it says revolution revolution which is one day is actually 88 Earth days I misread that or misunderstood so ticks 59 of our days to equal one day on mercury mercury takes 88 Earth days to go around the sun and some other interesting facts about here is really interesting so mercury this is what the sunrise would look like or a day would look like on mercury the mercury the mercury day day takes 59 Earth days it would take 22 days just to reach mid-morning and there would be a roughly 200 centigrade temperature difference increase I think I'll use a pencil get my ugly hand out of there it's just noon 44 days after the the beginning of the sunrise and mercury's rocky hind as big as the moon twice as iron rich as any other planet mercury's almost as dense as earth and that makes it its gravity makes its gravity about a third of that of earth though its mass is only 118th of what earth's is this is what a asteroid impact would look like on mercury here is how a scar is a cratered face as a meteoroid slams down here's a as a say an autograph I've never heard it call that call that of a meteor dagus crater stretches its rays from a 45 kilometer wide bit when ejected material settled to the surface here don't match the moons for mercury's gravity is twice as strong so debris doesn't fly as far as the impact shoots in bands such this so you guys can see it is still moving outward as the pit reaches its final size right there and down here we have ray mark rays mark where the ribs landed as the crater collapses in time sorry if that's kind of occasion of what oscillations would occur within the of mercury if a crater a meteorite hit surface waves make their way around the crust in compression waves a nice artist's drawing and I like I like that these are all apparently crafted art pieces throughout this book in in the 80s because because the computer graphics and I think there's almost more beauty to it rather there's a lot more details to it computer really can't create I don't think here it says from some spots on mercury we could see the sun rise twice because I guess because as it's going around the sun it's rotating so slowly that it to the sun at some point and so the sun would do what the resin venus look to do from earth just go and then make a loop at venus's upper clouds of poisonous sulfuric acid swirl in a pattern of yellowish mists set of beautiful drawings venus traces a is closer to a perfect circle than any other and yet it moves in odd ways tation is retrograde or backward so the sun rises in the west and sets in the east that spin is so slow that four earth months go by between only one venus sunrise and the neck didn't know that mercury and venus both have very long days are speeding up or venus slowing down in their rotations here three blankets of cloud to keep it warm earth knows no clouds like these their droplets are sulfuric acid their snowflakes still mysterious sunlight filtering through them may add to the intense surface let's see so we have layers here 68 kilometers 55 kilometers 50 kilometers 48 350 kilometers an hour spread the heat fairly making a lot of mistakes sorry guys 300 up 350 kilometers and they spread the heat fairly around the planet fairly and evenly down the surface winds at about four kilometers an hour you'd move slowly to from venus's surface the carbon dioxide atmosphere is 91 times denser than earth that's very very dense pretty close in size you guys can see that we got the short life awaits a soviet venera spacecraft one of eight that soft landed on venus's brutal surface in 1970s and early 80s even the hardest lasted for only just two hours and temperatures high enough to melt lead and pressure 90 times that of earth but four craft took pictures of the star terrain surrounding their landing sites and this panorama looks down at the spacecraft space towards venus's horizon actually a pretty cool landscape it's all red it's got that margin dent but a very dense very energetic atmosphere of venus perhaps earth to down sulfur that sounds pretty terrible increase increase in wind speed with the increase in altitude venus knows only one or day moves in the same direction cloud patterns unseen by visible light leap into view at these colored ultraviolet photos from an orbiting pioneer spacecraft particularly interested in the names of things i like to know what they physically like richard fineman you could call a bird the same bird five different names that still won't really tell you anything about it it's mating habits its migration locations i suppose that was a nice segway that was a not half bad segway falls within the region of tolerance called the ecosphere in this safety zone which extends roughly from the orbit of venus to that of mars the temperature doesn't get too hot or too cold presses down on her troposphere here is the troposphere stratosphere when we see those feathered clouds in the mesosphere the thermosphere where we see the auroras and the exosphere all those three make up the ionosphere i guess it acts as our shield against the solar wind creating a region called the magnetosphere the wind carries deadly electrically charged as it streams outward from the sun some particles are trapped in the van allen radiation belt board of like donuts circle the earth if any of you guys have a tv this just made me realize this that streams youtube you can stream a sort of live space station circling this same view right around here this was a um they believed this is how the plate tectonic says over the last two flash flood what life on earth would uh resemble 150 million years ago saw lush vegetation in many forms of reptiles really cool hurricane gladus low seven astronauts swirls over the gulf of mexico i can't can't really make out any length of mexico it is but got a very weird elevated or elevated above the above the rest of the clouds like that it's like the inner circle is higher up than the rest but i guess in a way that makes that wouldn't surprise me i guess it's counterclockwise in the northern hemisphere and clockwise in the southern hemisphere i suppose that general direction of the trade winds and this looks like it might be able to shed some light on that and it's about 99% the energy needed to heat the land oceans and atmosphere three important factors creating the weather and climate ozone concentrated into 35 kilometers above earth absorbs most of the sun's harmful ultraviolet rays those that get through tan or sunburn us so it's actually those invisible ultraviolet rays that cause us to get sunburned just the andes in south america here deflect air currents and resulting swirls of wind can affect weather hundreds of miles away more sunlight reaches earth near the equator than at the poles all air warmed air warmed at the equator rises and flows towards the poles where it cools rises up cools towards the poles and then descends working its way back the cells losing descends creating three cells of moving air in the northern hemisphere and three cells in the atmosphere the southern hemisphere the cells control air circulation pattern that form the prevailing winds the trade winds in the hadley cells that's these right here work like that polar easterlies in the polar cells deflection in the feral cells causes the prevailing westerlies it's pretty cool solar rays deflected reflected from snow ice and clouds affect the amount of heat that stays atmosphere absorb as well as reflect solar energy carried from erupting volcanoes to the upper atmosphere can cool earth by reflecting some of the incoming solar heat their pollution can cause global changes in our climate fossil fuels like coal and oil release carbon dioxide and other chemical particles they may form a blanket in the atmosphere trapping surface heat infrared rays that normally would radiate back into space this greenhouse effect can raise the overall temperatures of the atmosphere oceans store and transport the gulf stream flows far north keeping the climate of europe moderate can see newfoundland i got some family there talked it in the ocean for maybe you know it was literally ice cold instant freezing the desert winds raise dust and blow it long distances over the subtropics this dust sometimes blocks solar rays causing temperatures to fall temporarily falls or something still going to do an episode on it because i actually got some requests to do some geology and and some early ancient ice age pre 10 000 bc civilizations and i think those two line up they overlap because there might have been a meteor impact north and canada or russia area that generated so much heat melted all the ice caps on the ice in two or three weeks i think i heard from an graham hank was equivalent to about i think i don't i forget the exact number but i remember it was unfathomably a long long time and they were saying the amount of water that actually rushed over north america alone they used drones to spot the gouges of the actual geological evidence they say that it was equivalent to like a thousand or maybe five thousand years or or maybe maybe not that long maybe it's like 200 200 years but still the amount of the amount of water that goes over the Niagara Falls and 200 years is a lot and they say that amount that same amount rushed our face of north america in a period of days maybe weeks do my research for you guys if you're interested and i think a couple of you are so i will absolutely do it but i guess i'll do it a little faster if i if i get any feedback from you guys from this video north america huts and bay canadian shield asia sea of coast now i said i didn't care about names but we live here so and yeah i know some of these places deepest place on earth is 11 kilometers deep below sea level that's very the pacific ocean containing 46 percent of earth's water look at these these ridges fracture zones this is pretty cool called the i guess they're called fracture zones i've actually i don't think i've ever noticed that before it just wasn't a nose rising above the waters so merge volcanoes are known as seamounts it's a it was a very nostalgic little trip right there port of canada has a song that uses the voiceover from one of the scientific videos these 70s-ish that they actually got their name from national film boards in a grid so this is a more on top view of earth this is a obviously bottom view in here is asm arctica or his opposite i guess actually over 90 of earth's total volume of ice is in antarctica many small ridges from the mid oceanic ridge 64 000 kilometers earth's longest feature i guess that's what that is i guess they consider it all one structure in peninsula the red sea gulf i think that's enough of that i'm gonna get to mars Elon musk reporting this the day before the falcon heavy launches so i guess he's actually gonna send his tesla to mars which is i don't i don't care who you are but that is cool that is really really cool sending a tails but i think he was actually doing like a voyager a voyager kind of mission where he sends it space here's a nice little lesson neeptides the forces forces the sun's forces pretty much partied is even the forces out so the sun pulling that way interstellar i thought was um a bit much probably should have less of a peak peaky wave so all right i did not realize they were gonna do our moon but i hope i don't run out of space here we have that's a cool way to look at the uh so it you know what i never actually knew that is that really what it does in orbits wait a minute no it does okay i was thinking that meant that it orbits the poles but of course it doesn't it orbits this way the equator yeah that would that really threw me off there for a second of the moons here maren core has one sixth the gravity of earth this is representative of a i guess this would be a that'd be a solar eclipse gravitational attraction revolve as a double planet look at them as unequal ends of a weightlifter's barbell and because earth's mass is 81 times greater center of gravity of the earth moon barbell lies about 1700 kilometers the earth's surface it's called the bary center the pivotal point the pivot point not earth's geographic center follows the smooth orbital line it's the thick blue line as the barbell spins around its center it's a eccentric center of gravity both earth and moon trace wobbly orbital paths through space 50 minutes later each night rise and set at the same time as it waxes larger towards gibbous which is in the east as it here we go the far side of the moon sometimes the dark first seen in photographs taken by unmanned space vehicles reveals a surface heavily pitted with craters which makes sense there would be more heavily because earth would probably prevent the inside facing earth split rock dwarfs us astronaut harrison schmitt east of mar there serenit serenit serenitus serenitus and this near side schmitt holds a nomen which was taken in 1972 oh it was actually the final Apollo mission mission okay serenitus serenitus i still laugh when i say it i don't know why it's because i'm embarrassed i guess that's where they took that picture we're just drink quality bay there is the iconic all right guys it looks like i am completely out of film and i have been filming for a while so we won't get to mars but i'll either do a stand alone mars episode or we'll just lump it in with the asteroid belt and the gas giants


This episode was prerecorded as part of a live continuing education webinar. On-demand CEUs are still available for this presentation through all CEUs. Register at allceus.com slash counselor toolbox. Okay, we're going to go ahead and get started. I'd like to welcome to everybody today's presentation, Seven Habits for Effective Recovery. And as you can guess, this is based loosely on seven habits of highly effective people and how they apply to recovery from health and addiction issues. So the first of those seven habits would be to be proactive. And one of the things being proactive means is being responsible. Responsible means acting ahead of time in order to prevent problems. Think of your life as sort of like a vehicle. And you want to keep your vehicle in the best working condition that it can be. So you want to do things ahead of time, preventative maintenance, all that kind of stuff. So one of the things we want to have our clients answer is what people, things and activities are important in their life and what is their destination? What is their good orderly direction? If you will, what thoughts, attitudes and self-talk can help them move toward that destination. And we're going to look at things that are we're going to encourage them to identify self-talk that's empowering, accepting and compassionate. We also want to have them ask themselves what actions will help them move toward that destination such as what self-care things can they do? How can they build support? Do they need to maybe go to therapy or maybe they're in a really unhappy job and they need to look for a new job or a new position in that company? So we want to ask them what things can they do preventatively or to address current stressors to keep things from getting worse and ideally help things start getting better and what challenges or adversities can they plan for and mitigate such as illness? We all know we're going to get sick at some point in time. So what can they do to plan for illness?  Maybe make sure they have Nyquil or decongestants in the medicine cabinet. So when they start feeling ill, they can medicate that whatever they need to do. How can they prevent as much as possible financial stresses? They know they're going to have bad days. They're going to get up some days and they're just not going to be on their A game. So what things can they do during those days to cut themselves some slack so they feel a little bit better?  So what could they do on those bad days to get through and be able to go, you know what? I made it. People are going to die. So how are they going to handle that? What can they plan for and mitigate? So, you know, do they need to have a little extra money set aside so they can travel to be with family? And how do they handle holidays? Holidays are big stressors for a lot of reasons, not only financial but also interpersonal reasons. So thinking about those things ahead of time, what can they do to make themselves as strong and healthy and able to handle these challenges as possible? We also want them to look at their recovery. So their life is like their vehicle, but their recovery is like the engine in the vehicle without the engine that vehicle is not going to run without recovery. They're not going to be able to work towards happiness, whether it's recovery from depression or anxiety or whatever it is. So I want them to further kind of narrow down what they're looking at and look at what people thinks and activities are important to their recovery, not just their life and what do they need to do to maintain their happiness, which is what I kind of use as a garbage term for the opposite of their depression or their anxiety or their addiction. How is their recovery important to their overall life goal or destination? Because I mean recovery is not easy and doing the healthy things aren't always the most fun. So it's important for them to remember on a regular basis, why is this important? Why am I doing this again? And in what ways does their recovery impact the people and things that are important to them? So again, looking at all the reasons, the motivations for continuing to do things that are not necessarily as pleasant sometimes as they would like to do. And in terms of their recovery, what challenges or adversities can they plan for and or mitigate? Some days there's going to be bad days. Sometimes they may run into old friends that trigger bad feelings. So how can they plan for that? How can they mitigate that? What is their crisis response plan? Encourage them to focus on what's within their control. And you know, there are only certain things that we can control our thoughts, feelings, reactions, how we care for ourselves and prevent vulnerabilities. But there's a lot of other stuff out there that we can't control like other people's thoughts, reactions and behaviors. If somebody is mean to you, you can't control that. You can only control how you deal with and react to that. You can't control the weather. You can try to look at the bright side. You can't control traffic. So encouraging people to make a list of things that kind of stress them out and identify which parts are within their control and focus on those their zone of influence, so to speak. And the things that are not not in their control, how can they deal with those?  You know, you can't control the weather. You can't control the fact that the storm is coming. But you can board up your windows and or that's what we do in hurricanes to prevent as much damage to your to your house. You can make sure that you're stocked up on groceries to make sure that you're not hungry. If you're going to end up being there for eight days, you can make sure the cars are gassed up. There's a lot of stuff you can do proactively, responsibly in order to reduce stress when that hurricane does come. We want to also look in this situation. How can you minimize the distress? Obviously being prepared as part of it, but other things you can do include, you know, if you're going to be in there, we went through a couple of hurricanes and I had a toddler and an infant and yeah, that can be kind of challenging. So we had plenty of Elmo videos and we had plenty of games and looking at different things that we could do to kind of minimize the the fact the unpleasantness of being without power being without air conditioning in Florida was, you know, really important to helping us get through it. So it wasn't just the basic necessities of food and shelter. We had to look at how can we make lemonade with this and how can you maximize the happy and build your reserves? And these are things you want to do ahead of time if you know a hurricane's coming. If you know you're getting ready to go into hurricane season, you know, stocking up ahead of time so you're not running around at the last minute fighting with people over that last loaf of bread. Encourage people to really continue on a daily basis and maybe even on an hourly basis to focus on what are the things that are in your control. Develop skills to help them regulate their emotions, urges and actions and choose those that help them move toward happiness. So this can be distress, tolerance and problem solving skills. This can be cognitive behavioral interventions. It really depends on your client, but we want to ask them that when you get upset, what do you do that helps you navigate these emotions? And when when you look back over your life, are there certain situations or conditions that have been there when you've tended to overreact to things? So, you know, if they were exhausted or if they were had taken on too much stuff at work and they were burning the candle at both ends, then they might be able to identify things that need to be taken care of proactively. So if something does come their way, they can prevent it. Encourage them to admit and learn from their mistakes. You know, that's proactive. It's looking at it and going before anybody else says it. I know I screwed up, but I'm going to learn from it and I'm going to move on. And that's the challenge is to help people quit beating themselves up over stuff and move on. And I also encourage people to do something called practice the three finger rule. Whenever they're pointing at somebody else, they've got a thumb and an index finger going out this way, but three fingers are pointing back at them. So in any situation they encounter, whether it's good or bad, encourage them to look at what was their part in it. What were their three fingers? They can control their part. They can't necessarily control this other stuff. Act stands for action changes things. So in this guys of being proactive, asking clients each time they come into your office, whether it's for daily group activities or once a week, what can you take? What action can you take right now to start changing things for the better? And you know, have them give you something concrete when I have clients who are going to meetings or going to groups, you know, one of the things I want to know at the end of every group is what is one thing you got out of this that you can use over the next week. So making them take this information that they've just gotten, mull it around for a second and come up with a little gem, a little kernel of usefulness will help them start applying it. Beginning with the end in mind, most failures result from failure to envision or plan. And I say that this within reason because some people like me were kind of rigid. We love to plan and other people are more spontaneous and planning too much can be kind of a drag. So it's important to figure out how much you need to plan, but there is a certain amount of planning that's necessary. I'll give you an example. I go to the gym. A lot of times I will shower at the gym and come to work. Well, if I don't plan ahead of time and think of what we call mission critical items, I may not remember to pack all the essential things that I need to get dressed to come to work. So it's important to stop, you know, even for something as minor as going to the gym, we did the same thing when my children were younger and we had to pack a diaper bag. You know, you had to go through all the mission critical items, make sure you had diapers, extra pacifiers, bottles, whatever. Um, before you left the house, otherwise, almost without fail, you would find out that you got there and you were missing something. Another example that people can often relate to is going to the grocery store without a list and I do this all the time. I'll go to the grocery and I'm like, I'll just, I'll remember what it is and I will get out to my car and I will remember the one thing that I forgot to get because I didn't have it on a list and it wastes a lot of time and energy. Going on vacation without a destination is another kind of more abstract example. You wouldn't take vacation time and go, all right, we got a week off. Uh, where do you want to go? Let's just get in the car. Most people wouldn't. Most people want at least a destination. They don't have to have everything planned out to the minute, but they want a destination or in this example of the bridge starting a project without a plan, you know, they built looks like two really nice pieces of bridge, but they didn't plan it out well enough to have it lined up so that failure to plan resulted in a major catastrophe. So encourage clients to envision in their mind what they can't currently see. So envision what happiness looks like, envision what recovery looks like, envision what not being depressed looks like and some of the questions you can start with the miracle question. If you woke up tomorrow morning and we're happy, what would be different? But also what would be the same? This is pulling on that attitude of gratitude and encouraging people to look at the things that are going okay in their lives right now. Another thing that, um, Covey suggests is writing a personal mission statement, which is going to be revisable. Um, things that were my mission when I was in college, obviously changed a lot once I started having children and now that I own my own business, it's a little bit different what I do, how I do it and why I do it. But ultimately we want to look back at our mission statement just like you would do in a business before you take on a new project, before you start down a new venture. Is this helping me get towards what is really important, what I want out of life and what I believe my purpose is? Um, I find clients tend to have a little bit of difficulty with this because it can be either too abstract or too, they can get too far down in the weeds, but it is something you can do. And if you go to Covey's website, the link is in your additional resources in the class.  Encourage people to play it ahead and set goals and reminding them that goals need to be specific. You know, not I'm going to lose weight. It's going to be, I'm going to lose 20 pounds. Not I am going to be successful.  Measurable. So how will anybody on the street that you meet, how will they be able to look at it and know that? Yes, you've achieved that goal. So, you know, with losing weight, obviously you look at either inches or pounds or kilograms. Um, if you are talking about being successful, it's measurable in terms of how do you define success? Is it by your income bracket? Is it by, um, what position you hold? So, measurable in terms of if you've gone from being a line staff person to middle management, that's obvious progression. Um, achievable. You know, there are some things that you may want to do and they're just not achievable. Losing 60 pounds in two months, not achievable. Um, becoming like at my age, becoming an astronaut. That's not something that's achievable. Becoming a Grammy award-winning singer. Not achievable. So, encourage people to set these goals that, you know, they really actually can achieve. And I'm not saying don't look for the big picture because, you know, five, ten years from now that you can accomplish a whole lot of stuff. But let's look at some time-limited goals that are in the here and now. You know, what can you do this week? And in six months from now, what are you hoping to achieve? And how is it helping you move toward your ultimate goals of what's important and meaningful? Goals need to be realistic. So, you know, again, setting them with a realistic timeframe and something that's achievable. And they need to be rewarding. If you are not doing something that makes you happy in some way, or you can see the benefit of in some way, you're probably not going to continue doing it. So encourage people to look at their goals and make sure they're rewarding. This is why a lot of, um, uh, New Year's resolutions fail because people set goals that they're like, well, I'm going to get in shape. And they don't really know why they want to get in shape except for, you know, they want to be healthier or whatever. But they go to the gym and it kind of hurts and they don't really enjoy it and it's not real rewarding. And by the end of February, they're not doing it anymore. It's kind of fallen off. So we want to help people figure out why these goals are rewarding. Encourage them to envision reaching that destination on a daily basis. You know, in their mind's eye, see themselves getting in shape, see themselves getting that promotion and have them keep track of progress toward that destination. And we can even be talking about something as sort of ambiguous as being happy. So having them look at, you know, how many hours today were you happy or on a scale of one to five? What was your happiness level today on an average? Um, and you want to have more, um, three, fours and fives and increase that. So you want to have obviously more four and five days as you go on. But even just using a Likert scale, it can help people see incremental progressions, which maintains, um, maintains their, their motivation. And, and yes, rewards are really important because, um, if there's not a reason to do it, I mean, as humans, we do things that are of the most benefit. So what you were doing before, how to reward to it. And if what you're trying to do now is not as rewarding, you're probably going to go back to what you were doing before. So we need to help people increase the reward and really, even as silly as it sounds, even for adults, we need to make sure that reward is frequent, like daily and weekly, um, at first because behavior change is hard. Put first things first. Recognize that not doing everything is okay. It's important to look at things and prioritize by practicing what I call mindful discipline. And that's obviously being mindful and checking in and going, is this going to help me move toward my goals? Or is this a distraction? Remind yourself why you do the things you do.  Okay, so we can see how it connects to your future goals. When new opportunities come along, ask yourself does doing this, whatever this is, get you closer to the things that are most important to you. So you don't end up wasting energy going off on a wild goose chase. Organization reduces stress and energy expenditure. So think about it. Do you have time and energy to do it over? If you don't do it right the first time. The best example I can give you is outlining and think back into high school, English and even college. When you were supposed you were given a topic and you're supposed to write an outline and then you were supposed to write your paper. Well, I always skip the outline because I thought that was a waste of time. But generally it ended up ended up taking me more time because I'd write my essay and then I'd have to rework it. So you want to look at you know, sometimes it takes a little longer to do it the right way but it takes a lot less time to do it the right way than have to do it twice. Which is where you know, again, organization comes in and helping you really plan out what's important to do. Remind clients that it's all right to say no or ask for help when when it's necessary to focus on their highest priorities. So you know, maybe they're not feeling well right now. Maybe they've got some other crisis at work going on but their family is super important to them and their kids ballgames are super important to them. So maybe they need to say no to a certain project or set a boundary and say you know what I'm going to take three hours off and go to my kids game and then I'll be back to work. Now that doesn't always work in every organization but it's important to encourage people to really look at the decisions they're making and make sure that they're working towards their highest priorities. Practice time management. This is one that we do in my groups a lot because a lot of people do too much. So I have people list the half dos for an entire week and then we go through and cross off anything that doesn't get them closer to their goals such as you know social media you know paying bills you don't like it it's not fun but it keeps the lights on and for most of us one of our goals is to have a safe and comfortable living environment so paying bills is necessary that gets us closer to our goals. So we do much do we like it yep maybe but you know of the things that we have to do that's probably one that can be crossed off when things start getting when time starts getting really tight prioritize everything that's left if you've crossed off the things that don't get you closer to your goals then look at that list and say what can I delegate you know that's the great thing about having kids so I'm looking at what can I delegate to other family members because I don't have to do everything you know I don't have to do everybody's laundry anymore because they can do their own laundry simplify when possible you know I've got a lot of stuff going on right now and normally I'm really obsessive about having these meals with three colors I've got a bunch of stuff that was basically pre-prepared family dinners and stuff that could be made really quickly is it something that I feel great about serving my family on a regular basis no is it nutritious and is it going to get us by for this two-week period yeah so simplify you don't and then make a plan to balance the tasks with your goals so you have what's left your simplified delegated prioritized list you want to look at it and go okay these are the rest of the half-dos that have to get done or there's going to be a significant negative consequence so from there how do I prioritize you know there are other things in there that I need to pay attention to finish but your kid also has a baseball game you know both of those have to do so how can you balance those tasks and kind of get both well not kind of and get both done in a reasonable fashion and that's where the planning ahead of time and social support can come in handy address procrastination a lot of times putting things in order either because we fear success you know if we succeed then people might expect more from us so we talk about that in group and the same is true for recovery with depression if you start feeling better then what's going to happen if you relapse what's going to happen when you have a bad day so we want to help them look at times when they've been successful and make sure we help them break down their goals into manageable parts and sometimes it's a lack of motivation and you can look at motivational interviewing techniques which are really helpful but really the thing that I want you to remember and we talked about this earlier so we need to make these new behaviors more beneficial than the old ones and we need to address the drawbacks to the new behaviors if you are going to you know start addressing vulnerabilities by getting in shape living healthier and getting more sleep well that's wonderful but that also means that you're going to have to exercise and maybe not be able to go out with your friends until 3 in the morning and you know some other things which you may look at and go helping people see that making a change and increasing motivation isn't just simple they need to really understand why they're doing what they're doing and take all the benefits of the old behaviors and figure out new ways to meet those same needs think win-win there's four vital characteristics self-respect sticking with your true feelings values and commitments respect and compassion for others ideas and feelings so we want to be in a relationship where I know what I need I know what I think and feel and I'm going to set my boundary here and I'm okay with that but I'm also going to respect your ideas and feelings the abundance mentality is believing that there's plenty for everyone just because you succeed doesn't mean I can't succeed you know it's not an either or proposition and the wisdom is the ability to walk the middle path and look for that both and how can we both succeed so three steps in this problem-solving process include helping clients see the issue from the other person's point of view and identify the key issues involved and you know this can be relationship issues this can be work issues a lot of our clients they come to us and they're depressed but it's not necessarily a biological thing there's a lot of psychosocial stuff that is compounding the stress and their feelings of helplessness so we want to help them learn how to more effectively problem-solve once they identify the key issues determining what a successful resolution would look like for everybody involved then identify and effectively communicate those options not just identify it and go off on a tangent but identify and effectively communicate the options to achieve those resolutions which may include compromise a lot of times when you walk that middle path there's going to be an element of compromise and that's okay both people end up being happy you know there's not necessarily one person who's joyfully happy but both people end up having an adequate resolution to the problem remember or encourage clients to remember that their success doesn't mean someone else's failure you know both people can succeed because cooperation is less stressful than competition and it's not it's not it's not you know and he didn't ever fear that they would overthrow him or you know whatever he wanted people to make him look good there was plenty to go around he was secure in his position so he would make sure that everybody around him could help him out they could and we're going to talk about synergy in a minute but he could synergize with those people and he could make it easy whenever you come to a situation look for ways you can cooperate to achieve mutual goals ask yourself how can this resolve to make us both happy you know think about two car salesman and they're you know competing for sales obviously and you know sales are in a somewhat limited supply there's only so many people that come into the market and you know he's kind of on his numbers this month and I'm doing okay and I know I've got this other sale coming in in two weeks so I'm going to give him this sale so he helps bolster one of his fellow workers he knows he's got enough coming in and it becomes more of a cooperative so then you know maybe two months down the road if he's having a bad day then he has a hard time reality he's a hard time you know I like I like I like I like it I like or have a hard time don't I like I like just I like just I like it I like I like I like it I like it it the big scheme of things. For job promotions a lot of times we compete, but if you look at what is best for the overall agency then you can look at it as more of a cooperative sort of thing. Who do you want to get promoted that's in a way that's best for the agency? And you know obviously how is that going to benefit you? You want to create a win-win and in relationships. Instead of competing in relationships for who's more dominant, who's gonna have the right answer? Who's gonna do this? Finding a way that you can both be happy. Think about even something as simple as going out to dinner. You know where do you want to go to eat? That can create chaos sometimes, but there's also the cooperative of well we can go this place and get something and you can go to where you want and get something and we can go have a picnic somewhere. So that's more cooperative. So making win-win is sort of a paradigm shift for a lot of people. The problem-solving paradigms you can think about you have lose-lose and this is characterized by someone who doesn't try and doesn't think anything's really gonna work out for anybody anyway. This is your pessimist.  So they put everybody else first but then they feel bad because they didn't win and they feel like they're getting walked on. Then you have the win-lose which is your typical competition standpoint and your win-win. When we create win-wins like I said we're creating sort of a karma bank. We're creating an energy where people often are willing to adopt that same philosophy and instead of trying to beat you down or always compete with you and beat you out they're willing to cooperate and create a better vision of what your relationship looks like, what your community looks like. Seek first to understand then to be understood or diagnose then prescribe. We wouldn't have a client come into our office and say you know I'm depressed and we say okay no problem let me tell you I want you to do these 15 things and send them on their merry way. No because we don't know what's causing their depression we don't know what their symptoms are. So we want to listen to them and figure out what's going on and then figure out what to do next. The same thing with relationship issues when clients are you know a client is having a fight with a significant other or a disagreement. You know I want to know what that other person's point of view is so then we can really look at the bigger picture diagnose what's going on because my client is in my office obviously they have their perspective but it takes two to tango so I want to know what both perspectives are so then we can look at creating a more useful approach to resolving the conflict. Another thing that I point out to them is they need to listen to themselves shutting out the should voices when something happens a lot of times people will be like well no I shouldn't pay attention to that or I should do this well that's prescribing prescribing to themselves and they need to shut out those should voices and diagnose be mindful listen to themselves and say what is it that I need right now. When they're with others trying to listen actually listen without forming a response while that while the other person is still talking you know listen paraphrase then respond and there are multiple types of listening you know we've talked in counseling classes about levels of active listening but the four that we see generally that we can kind of communicate to the lay population pretending this is the person who's like playing on their iPhone and yeah kind of like my kids do to me sometimes humming along not really following just kind of listening for anything that may pique their interest. Selective listening is hearing what you want to hear you know if you want to hear that this person is angry at you or if you want to hear that you are the best thing since sliced bread then that's what you're going to hear that's what you're going to interpret from conversations. Attentive listening pays attention to all the words and you get that surface level understanding of what's going on but we know that you know only about 10 to 30% of our communication is actually verbal the rest of it is nonverbal so in order to get the whole meaning understand what somebody's communicating we need to pay attention to their nonverbals their tone of voice their inflections and then paraphrase from there so it's important to help people again listen to themselves and be mindful of what they need but also listen to others look at the bigger picture when you're trying to understand stepping back remember that challenging questions worksheet from cognitive processing therapy what are the facts for and against your stance in this situation what are the are you using emotional reasoning who else is involved what are the other factors involved you know take off the blinders of this this is what happened between me and this other person and let's look at the big scope of things you know what else was going on in your life what else was going on in their life and avoid focusing only on certain aspects so again looking at everything that's going on and going okay I can see how in this context in this situation you might have interpreted what I said this way and synergize synergize is just like it sounds like you know you want to take energy and put it together and make something bigger so encouraging people to have social support that shares a common vision or a common goal of you know maybe their nuclear family what a happy family looks like with their friends what enjoyable recreation time looks like you know there's a lot of different common goals but when they look at what's essential to them having a rich and meaningful life they want to have people in their life that share those same goals make sure that they remember to have a sense of self and be willing to hold on to that sense of self and set boundaries and go well this is my opinion or this is what I think encourage them to value differences and new ideas while still staying authentic you know I can value and clients can value each other's opinions but not necessarily adopt them they can say you know you've got a good point there I don't necessarily agree but you've got a good point embrace trust and elicit support in order to synergize you've got to bring other people in which means you've got to trust them and this is really hard for a lot of our clients so we want to start talking about okay when you elicit support what is it that you need to do in order to trust this person and what a healthy boundaries look like you know we don't want to just go from hi we've never met before to here's the key to my house you know how do you build trust how do you embrace trust how do you learn to trust people how do you learn to trust yourself encourage them to accept that the fact that the better way will not necessarily be their way a hundred percent it goes back to that whole compromise thing when you're synergizing people are going to bring other opinions other ideas and there may be a need for some compromise but that may produce a better end product even though it's not a hundred percent what you had envisioned be respectful to everyone and everything keeps that energy flowing if you're nasty if you're critical then people are going to kind of back off and that's not synergy be able to and willing to apologize and forgive because sometimes you know when you've got a strong opinion things can get a little heated but be willing to step up and be proactive and go you know what I was wrong I see your point there practice mindful listening and maintain an open desire to understand controlling negative judgment and staying on that win-win so when things happen you know I'm listening I'm listening with an open mind you know I'm trying not to judge and I'm trying to figure out how we can make everybody's ideas or make this situation resolve in a way that meets everybody's needs to the best possible compromise some things you might be faced with when you're talking with clients if maybe a parent gets a job offer and it would involve that parent being gone from the house you know and traveling 65 percent of the time well then you got to sit down with the family and synergize and go okay in our common family goal what does this look like now for the parent that got that job offer this may be really important to their sense of self in terms of success and promotion so we've got that out there so they all need to talk about the pros and cons of accepting this job offer in reaching the family and individual people's ultimate goals and what is the best win-win that you could get out of this my husband about a year ago took a job and you know it's a really good job he's really good at it and you know it pays him it pays him well but it was going to involve him having to be gone a whole lot he doesn't like driving into Nashville well anyway long story short he ended up compromising with the company and he works remotely which enables him to still do the stuff he had to do for the all CEU's business but he's also able to do his other time job moving is another one of those things if you as a family have to move you know you're going to talk about what kind of neighborhood you want to move into what kind of situation things that you want to have around I know when I moved I wanted to make sure that there was a Walmart in the public's within eight miles of where I lived because I really don't like traveling to shop very much but everybody needs to put out their own opinions and values and what they need in a situation to have it feel like a good move and vacation plans and family management are other places that this will come up and when I talk about family management I mean like you know when to get get junior a car when what to do about schooling what to do about college how to discipline all those things parents have to synergize they've got to be able to come together and put their minds together and come up with a solution that meets their common vision or goal if they're competing if they're always if there's always a power struggle about who's going to be the the good parent or the bad parent it creates a lot of strife and sharpen the saw to prevent vulnerabilities this is one of those that we talk about a lot we talk about it in different terms in different approaches to counseling if you will but happiness you know recovery from depression anxiety addiction whatever you want to call it requires rest and renewal you can't just work on not being miserable you have to work on being happy too so it's important to encourage people to make balance in their life and limit the time limit the time they spend on their problem focus you know spending an hour or two working on your your counseling homework or working on self-improvement or even working on a project each day maybe enough and then you need to switch gears and do something that helps you feel happy helps you feel relaxed one of the analogies i've heard with sharpening the saw is to ask clients you know which takes more time sawing a tree with a completely dull blade you know one that you're just working and working and working and getting nowhere or taking the time to sharpen the blade before sawing the tree you know it takes you know 15 20 minutes to sharpen the blade but if you're trying to to saw the tree with a dull blade it's going to take four or five hours longer than you would have had to spend so encourage people to look at you know again this goes back to planning ahead and doing it right the first time but making sure that you are as sharp as as you can be in order to handle life when it comes your way so make sure you're getting good nutrition sleep relaxation and exercise there's a lot that can be said for a good belly laugh to help people relax and release some of those calming happy hormones make meaningful connections with others and maintain a compassionate awareness of self and you know those meaningful connections that's where you synergize that's where you get your relaxation that's where you have some happy times but you can also rely on people for support but you also need to be in contact with yourself and and aware of what you need in order to ask for what you need in order to get what you need so there has to be that self-awareness as well as other awareness mentally learn new things learn hobbies read practice you know maybe write in a journal do anything you can to kind of stimulate your brain one of the things i'll do if i've spent a lot of time doing creative stuff during the day then when i go home at night i'll tend to do things like play checkers or or um uh scrabble on my iphone it works my brain in a slightly different way and it just uses different neural pathways and it helps me relax and spiritually we want to encourage people to explore their interconnectedness with others and everything and this can get a little bit abstract for people but i really want them to think about you know if you throw a rock into the water what you're going to see is you're going to see the ripples and but underneath the ripples what happens when that rock hits the bottom it also stirs up the sediment and startles the fish so encouraging them to think of themselves as that pebble and every time they do something there are the observable effects but that there's also the undercurrent effects and encourage them to look at how other things affect them in the same way not everything is just superficially observable um and when they do this sometimes it can help them adopt more of that cooperative mindset because it becomes less about competing and more about creating the healthiest pond ecosystem that they possibly can proactivity helps people stay healthy and energized effectively planned for known stresses and prepare for the unknown by reducing the fear of the unknown and preventing last-minute chaos like remember what i said with the the hurricanes fighting for that last loaf of bread you prepare ahead of time you're not going to have to fight that traffic or oh my gosh going in on christmas eve to do your christmas shopping that's just chaos begin with the end and put first things first helps people identify what areas and tasks are most important for them to use their limited energy on you know you're not there's only so many hours in the day and you can't change that there's only so much energy that you have you can't really change that except for by taking care of yourself so with what limited energy and time you have what are you going to do think win win seek to understand and synergize in order to reduce stress associated with competition and misunderstandings so whenever we interact with other people or solve a problem or approach a situation we always want to have this mental approach of okay let me understand what's going on figure out how i can create the best outcome for everyone instead of just having it be about me because what happens you know thinking back to that pond what happens when everything you do is always and only about you how does it affect everything else in your life and sharpening the saw helps people focus on preventing and mitigating vulnerabilities so encouraging people to practice sharpening that saw at least once a week you know some people are only willing to say okay on the weekends or on saturdays i can well that's better than nothing i'd like to see them do 15 minutes a day you know maybe take 15 or 20 minutes out to watch a funny video or something but i'll take what i can get to start out with and then encourage them to keep track of whether doing these things helps them feel happier less depressed and less anxious now the nice thing about the seven habits approach is again it's another one of those things that you can use as sort of a group series if you're working in a residential environment or even if you're in private practice and you want to have a you know an eight week session you can use this and each week go over a different habit that people can use to start addressing their their depression or their anxiety are there any questions okay on that i will say have an awesome weekend everybody and if you have any issues um let's see on sharpening the saw do you actually cut things out or just come back to it with sharpening the saw it's not about cutting things out or coming back it's about making sure that you are as strong and as healthy and as resilient as you can be going into a situation okay have a great weekend everybody if you enjoy this podcast please like and subscribe either in your podcast player or on youtube you can attend and participate in our live webinars with dr snipes by subscribing at allceuse.com slash counselor toolbox this episode has been brought to you in part by allceuse.com providing 24 seven multimedia continuing education and 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If you've been watching my videos for a while, you'll know that I love rum, but I've only ever reacted to it. I've never really been bullish about urging you to buy something. But that changes today. What's commonly referred to as white rum doesn't get much attention outside of cocktail circles. And rightfully so. Frankly, it can be kind of boring. Now there are exceptions. Real McCoy 3-Ear, Plantation 3-Star, and Banks 5 are all excellent mixers, and I'd say above average sippers as well. But after hearing about it for years, I finally caught up with this This is Probotas, a blend of rums from Barbados and Jamaica, and it's the brainchild of Richard Seal, the master decelerate Foursquare and Barbados.  I have a handful of Foursquare's exceptional cast-grams and I love them all. I could wax romantic about them for some time, but that's another video. So what is Probotas and why is it so special? The story is that Mr. Seal and his wife travel a lot, and when they travel, they visit a lot of bartenders. We have that in common, Richard and I. I understand he's in the habit of asking bartenders what they'd like in a rum, and he's often heard the same things. A white rum for mixing this over proof, relatively speaking, and something that blended the flavor profile of a rum from Barbados and one from Jamaica. Sometime after that, he was visiting the Hampton Distillery in Jamaica, and after talking to them, Probotas was born. A couple quick things before I taste this. One, it's called Probotas only in the US, and the rest of the world, it's called Veritas. Second, it's a blend of two rums from Foursquare and one from Hampton, and the exact ratio of the blend is secret. Third, I love everything about this rum. I love the bottle, I love the label design, I love the color, and I really love the neck. It's like they're saying to bartenders, hey, put me in the well. I also like that it's 47% ABV. It isn't over proof in the same sense that Rey and Nephew is, but it's pleasantly stronger than your typical white. Let's give this a nose. Oh, tropical fruit, vanilla, creme brulee. Oh yeah. It goes without saying that this has a lot of tropical fruit notes, but banana and guava stick out to me. It has the familiar dryness of a good Bayesian rum, but also the slightest hint of that characteristic funkiness that you get from a Jamaican. Now, if you don't know what I'm talking about when I say funkiness, there are chemical compounds in Jamaican rums called esters that are like catnip to rum nerds, and the flavors these esters create are present here, but they don't dominate the flavor profile. This with one coconut water ice cube would be fantastic. Of course, the primary reason to get this rum is to put it into cocktails, and the daiquiri is an easy choice. I'm not going to make one on camera because there are 5,000 other videos on how to do this, but for the curious, these are my specs. Be right back. Yeah, that's how that's supposed to look. Again, delicious, obviously. Crisp, refreshing. Let's have to get this rum and try this. Tasting this on its own and in a daiquiri, one thing becomes abundantly clear. This rum f***. Seriously though, if you make cocktails at home, you really should seek this rum out.  If you liked it at like, consider subscribing if you have it already, and if there's something you think I should try, let me know in the comments. Take care, and Probatos excels here.


Hello everyone. Hope you guys are having a wonderful day. My name is Iftega. Thanks for visiting my channel So in this channel we talk about a different type of monetization platform adsense Amazon affiliate and all the other things That we can make money from online. So today. We're going to talk about a website It's been listed on motion invest comm for 200,000 USD and it's on a niche which is on pet Apparials and pet accessories and stuff. So the name of the website is dogs and clocks comm so we're gonna go to the whole Website and we're gonna do a deep analysis of what we are looking at Why this website is making so much money and how you can replicate all those different possibilities Okay, so number one is the domain age the website and the whole business is around one year and ten months dog website making six thousand two hundred and ninety six dollar via Amazon and Mediavine for the last seven months. So it's running two type of monetization platform One is Amazon and another one is Mediavine. So Mediavine those you guys don't know what Mediavine is. It's a It's a advertising platform So let's see overview of the website So it's currently making six thousand dollar profit per month visitors is seventy six thousand Visitors a month domain authority is ten So it's actually working in a very specific and very amazing niche We're gonna go through that their data first and then we're gonna go to the website itself So it's pulling the Google Analytics data and Google Analytics data on January It was bringing around hundred and sixty thousand page views. So we just extremely impressive the February He just started February And hundred and forty two thousand. He's actually organic. So they are doing amazing in terms of SEO Their highest countries as United States, UK, Canada. Wow, this is amazing and that most of the traffic It is actually coming from mobile. So it's highly optimized for mobile users and audience proof of income. So January until September their Amazon income is Quite low, I would say but Mediavine income is extremely high is 1955 and this is because of the Oh And this is because of the US traffic Mediavine at plus all these different advertisers they crave for traffic from the United States, but the Amazon income is pretty pretty good, I would say and Their best month was November, which is because of the Christmas season Amazon income was hundred and ten dollars Mediavine was 8267 dollars October and November was their best month So in a year they made around 45,000 USD, which is extremely impressive as you can see here from December and January so because of the advertisers At the spending budget was extremely high. So they made really good month October November in December So if you guys check out other videos of my channel We kind of have the same thing with AdSense that our October November December month is really good in terms of You know making money and if you look at January They are kind of low, which is two thousand dollars. I would say it's it's quite okay. So let's go through their Amazon FED 8 Data, so they have shipped over 19,000 worth dollar worth of products conversation is 16.6% and the total earning was 653 dollars. So in this case, I would definitely suggest them to kind of go through the Drop shipping model instead of Amazon affiliate because as you can see Had the drop shipping if they do drop shipping around 19,000 USD, you know The revenue that would probably make around let's give it at least 20 to 30 percent if they do the drop shipping So they can change a little bit of you know monetization platform here But Amazon affiliate is also really good with drop shipping. You don't have to worry about You know with Amazon affiliate, you don't have to worry about the returns, you know the payment processing and stuff So those of my audience who actually live in Morocco or India or Pakistan The drop shipping is probably not the best option for you But you know if you guys living in the US drop shipping would be a really best So but make sure that you know, the website is pretty much as you optimized and everything So let's go through the media vine session. Oh, they have amazing results here page views every day page This is around 5000 4000 and Yeah, everything's they have an amazing result in terms of advertising All right, let's go to the website itself can dog Can a dog wear a collar and a harness? So they're more like a Informational based website Hmm. So seven alarming reasons why your dogs That smells like metal. So this is you know more information and more, you know Subjective based of information results in this case, you do need it You need to hire a team who actually has information about this You know who specializes on all of these subjects. So the writing would be really high Let's see what its best position actually in terms of SEO Let's deep dive the SEO a little bit So in this case, we're using a software called spy foo Just gonna put their Website name. Oh, they're ranking for 35,000 keywords and they started going around last year March, yeah, so April they started going really good What keywords they're ranking for? hmm Most valuable keywords that dear head Chiwawa SEO clicks 160 volume 11,000 Why does my dog layer all more like so their website is more like question base So people are asking these questions and they wrote those kind of articles here is chatter chips save for dogs Exactly. So this is a pretty easy So they're probably using some kind of a software to actually understand what kind of you know What kind of keywords and what kind of questions people are asking a spy foo might do the trick But you know, let's dip dry a little bit dear head Ranking is really good. Everything looks really good actually in terms of SEO. So they did an amazing SEO So let's see what are the top pages that are bringing all this traffic. There you go 21 Interesting dear Chiwawa effects with pictures. So we can also check which for which keywords they're ranking. All right amazing So what we learned from this website is that they have an informational based blogging system and they're running Mediavine, which is adsense ads and then they're also monetizing their website with Amazon affiliate So and they have a really good editorial team who understand SEO and how to read proper articles We can also check how many articles they actually wrote If we use this term, so they actually wrote 1,600, you know something around 500 maybe 800 articles, which is for me this website worth $200,000. It's a it's a solid business. It's a solid income domain authority is 10, but $200,000 is a little too much because their whole system it depends on one thing Which is Google's SEO and Google can actually ban you anytime they want. So I would probably give it around a hundred thousand USD Yeah, that way the investors can have some leg space to you know, grow more and recoup their investment Anyways, that's all for today. I'm gonna come up with many other websites and show you all the secrets. They're using they're making Before I go. I just want to say we have released a new Course on Amazon affiliate business So those of you guys don't know what Amazon affiliate is you can actually make money with Amazon affiliate by selling Amazon's Products in your blog or in your website and you can easily easily do this with building a SEO Optimized what press blog so just go to our website if ticker.com and click on Amazon affiliate SEO and end roll in that course It's very cheap on the 250 dollars. So everything is pretty detailed I have discussed lesson one niche market research long tail keyword research So I have included a lot of things that a lot of people guys don't know that we currently working with our clients and with our students and Total is around 10 lessons. All right. Thank you guys so much for listening to me New videos are coming on the whole spectrum of making money online. Hope you guys see the best. Bye


I'll just let you know I'm not a county agent. But I wonder how many people here are German-Russian heritage and if you're not, we'll adopt you, all these Scandinavians. But I do want to thank NDSU Extension Service for this award, especially to Carmen Rathwald, a dear friend from Logan County for the nomination. And NDSU Extension, I have to thank especially to Wayne Hauck and I think he's here in the audience today. And Duane really helped us a great deal some years ago. In 2005 and 2009 and 2011, we offered the Dakota Memories Heritage bus tour. It was an amazing success. And from that bus tour, we developed the Tri-County Tours Alliance. Ammons Logan and McIntosh Counties has really been quite an amazing story. And I have to thank Carmen Rathwald from Logan County and Akesha Jonas Stuckel, who's from Ammons County and their county agents. And best of all, they're both German-Russian. But they have developed, with the partnership with the Germans from Russian Heritage Collection and Prairie Public Broadcasting, we are now in the process of developing a second television documentary, Women Behind the Plough. And the first documentary was Gutes Essen, Good Eating in German Russian Country. And that has been an amazing success. But I also want to tell you that while you're here, you should see the panels that are out in the lobby. We've developed four panels, one for the NDSU Archives, one for the Germans from Russian Heritage Collection, another panel for the Emily Reynolds Historic Costume Collection and the NDSU Archives. And those four panels can be used in all the different extension service in all the counties in North Dakota. And we hope they'll be used for the really premiering at this conference. So I do want to thank the people from Extension because it's not very often that a German-Russian gets to stand up here. And I could have switched my accent to a Strasbourg accent with a little more German-Russian country. But I thank you very much for this award.


What does Islam say about the employer-employee relationship? How has Islam sought to protect the rights of the worker? So on the first level, you see that Islam protects the rights of the worker by encouraging contracts. By encouraging contracts. And at the very least, there should be a verbal contract. You know, brothers and sisters, there are some people they don't value verbal contracts. If it's not in writing, he thinks he can get away with it. As if it has no bearing on the relationship.  Don't underestimate a verbal contract.  It has to be verbal. So at the very least, between an employer and an employee, even if it's someone in the community, there has to be a contract. Verbal and what's better is a written contract. Number two is when you have someone working for you. You have to be humane. You know, there are some people there was one center that wanted me to be a resident of the world and they said in the contract, sheikh, would you have to work minimum of 40 hours a week, seven days a week. Seven days a week. Believe me, I've experienced this with some communities. Seven days a week as if they want to squeeze you. They want to enslave you. Seven days a week for minimum 40 hours, no chance of overtime. It's like, am I applying to work with Faraon or who am I applying to work with you? No chance of rest, no days off. Fatima Tuzzahra, alaihi salam, she had a servant by the name of Fidhah. What does she say to Fidhah? Fatima Tuzzahra, alaihi salam, if I want to use modern terms, she was the employer of Fidhah. What does she say? I work one day and then you work the next day. She gave what? She gave Fidhah, time to rest. She treated her humanely with compassion. Lady Fatima understood that you cannot work people day and night. Even though she is the daughter of Muhammad ibn Abdullah, she still exchanges shifts with her servant. This is the adal, this is justice. Allah in the Holy Quran says, la yukallifu allahu nafsin illa was'aha. You shouldn't burden people with a burden that they cannot bear. There's a hadith from the Holy Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa alayla wa sallam, Muhammad wa alayhi wa sallam. Where he speaks to Muslims in Medina who are employers. So these are Sahaba that had other Muslims working for them. What does the Prophet say? He says that these employees are your brothers. Don't forget that. These are your brothers in faith. And even if they're not Muslims, as Amir al-Mu'mineen says, they're your equals in creation. Rasulullah says, Allah has placed your employees under your care. Meaning what? That Allah has placed their wrist in your hands. This is an amana. If your brother is under you, meaning he's your employee, feed him the same food that you would eat. Meaning what? Treat him as you would want to be treated as an employee. And then the Holy Prophet says, wa la tukallifu humma yaghlibuhu. Do not impose upon them job duties that are beyond their capacity. Fa inkallaftumu humfa a'inuhum. Rasulullah says, if you have an employee and you give them a job to do and you realize that they cannot do it on their own, help them. Assist them. So on one level, Islam protects the worker by ensuring that there's a contract in place. That there is adequate rest given to the worker. Number three, Islam emphasizes the importance of compensating people fairly and in a timely fashion. Rasulullah, sallallahu alaihi wa alaihi, and keep in mind this is 14 centuries ago. Rasulullah says, u'utul ajira ajrahu qabla ayyajifah araqah. Give the worker his compensation before his sweat dries, before the sweat dries. Meaning don't withhold payment from people. Don't make people chase you to be given their haq. Now this is of course metaphorical. There are some jobs where you're not sweating. That doesn't mean that you delay payment. But the Holy Prophet here is talking about taking this matter seriously. That when someone fulfills a job, don't say that insha'Allah I'll see you on eid al-gadeer. I'll pay you. When I do the muahad I'll pay you. And you keep on delaying it, delaying it.  You might very well have to pay that person not in dollars in Hassanah.  Imam al-Ridha al-Salam in addition to paying people on time, the Imam al-Salam was once visiting one of his companions and he saw that his companion had workers, they were working in the field. The Imam al-Salam he says to the man that, did you assign their wages? The man says, they're happy with whatever I give them. We have a lot of people like that. Whatever I give them, they don't have their papers. I just call immigration and they'll accept anything from it. He says to the Imam that whatever I give them they will be happy. Imam al-Ridha al-Salam he says, he says to this man, listen. The Imam says, listen, if you bring anyone, if you employ anyone and you do not assign them a wage and you give them three times what that person would normally receive for that work, they will still think that you short change them. If you don't assign the wage from the beginning. But the Imam says, if you assign the wage from the beginning and you don't give the person extra, you give him exactly what you promised him, he will thank Allah and he will respect you. Which shows you that when you hire people, don't just say, oh inshallah give me whatever. You have to assign the wages to avoid conflict. Now, how about the employer? How should the employer behave with the employee? You know, there was a a Gallup study done two years ago that was looking at how happy people feel in the workplace. How happy do you think people are at work? They found that in the United States 70% of employees feel disengaged. They're not happy at work. They're just itching to go home and leave. They hate their job. 80% of employees around the world are not happy at work. 80%. They feel disengaged, disenchanted. What's the problem? Business experts, they looked into this issue and they conducted many studies to experiment. What makes an employee happy? One of the main factors is what? Autonomy. When people are given autonomy, when they're not micromanaged, that's when they feel happier at work and they actually perform better. They actually perform better. You know, the Holy Prophet was also an employer. You know, we think of him as the messenger of God, the spiritual teacher. But Rasulullah was also what? He was an employer. Do you want to hear the testimony of someone who worked as an employee with the Prophet for the Prophet for 10 years? There was a man by the name of Anis ibn Malik. Anis ibn Malik was a servant of the Prophet. He worked under the Prophet. The Prophet was his employer for 10 years. Anis ibn Malik says he says I worked for the Prophet. I served him for 10 years. The Prophet never in those 10 years used any abusive language. He never spoke condescendingly to me. Rasulullah never told me do this, do that, move this, move that. Meaning what? Rasulullah didn't micromanage. Rasulullah gave Anis ibn Malik autonomy. He gave him some general guidelines but he wasn't breathing over his neck. He gave him autonomy.


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Hey what's up you guys, welcome back to my channel. If you're new here, hi, hello, I'm Lydia and today we're talking about How to recover from a suicide attempt Siren, it stopped. How am I a citizen? So yeah, how to recover from a suicide attempt. Number one, try not to isolate yourself.  Having someone to talk to is necessary. Whether that be a friend, a family member, a carer, a support worker, a crisis team, having someone to talk to is essential. Number two is acceptance.  I've taken the last week and a half off. Number three, reach out for support. It's not an easy thing to go through. Surviving a suicide attempt is you surviving wanting to die and taking actions to end your own. It's you surviving the ultimate, ultimate thing really. The reach out for support. Have someone check in with you. For me, I live in a mental health care home and they do two-hour-each-out smoothing. For me, checking in on me, I've got about every two hours at night and I've also got the crisis to you. Next is do something for yourself, something that you love doing or using the crisis box. I've got the videos online, I'll leave it on the iCard up there. There's just a few things you can do to recover from a suicide attempt. They're what I did. They're the ones what I've been doing the last week and a half, but I'd share it because it could be helpful. Stay safe everybody and I'll see you in my next video. Peace.