Let me see, y'all, let me see. Trying to figure out these settings on here. Let me see. Oh, you know what, I ain't actually set that up. Now, I'm on the phone tonight. Y'all got to forgive me for the sound on the phone. But this is a blessed tribe Q&A. So if you're not in the blessed tribe, need to join the blessed tribe. When you join the blessed tribe, it'll have that little sign by your name. So I'll be looking for the questions from the blessed tribe. And tonight is Thursday night. So as I told y'all, when I don't have to coach at night, I'll try to go live for the blessed tribe and do a Q&A. We're getting ready to crank up on Patreon. So I'm doing a member series over there on Patreon where I'm interviewing the Patreon members, telling their story, highlighting them, what they're doing. And so you'll see the link that I posted for my Patreon on the community page. And we're just gonna build over there just a different type of community, different type of site. And they got a chat on Patreon too where everybody could be in the same chat. I posted in there today. So you can download the app and just kind of have a group chat going on Patreon. So that'll be pretty cool. It looked like they finally done put some of the money that they making into the app. Instead of just paying themselves, Patreon then finally started spending some money on that raggedy app they have. But I looked at the app today was way better. So I'm gonna start trying to put a little more effort over there and we'll have a Patreon exclusive podcast which basically mean just videos I'll be posting over there, nothing major. Y'all give me one second, let me do a, had to set my phone on do not disturb. So stuff don't be coming in there. Now, if you're in the bless tribe, you'll have a little sign by your name. If you have a question, if you're not in the bless tribe, then you could join. But this is a bless tribe Q and A, but I couldn't set it. YouTube, and this is the thing where you got to learn about business is YouTube out there in Palo Alto and they still don't, they still make mistakes. So that's just why you can't feel bad about your small business. That's making a few hundred dollars or a few thousand or even tens of thousands when billion dollar companies still do stuff that don't make no sense. So YouTube used to have a setting where you could set the chat to members only. Now they got it to where you could enable the chat but you can't just set it members only. So I don't know who told them to change that but if you watching this film and this chatting you work for YouTube, tell your boss to make the live on the mobile phone back where you could make it members only. So what's the point of y'all having members if you can't have that? And so you got to understand that. And solid ties, you're blocked and you need somebody mad. We talking about them locks. Hey, listen, they're telling my opinion. They're telling my opinion. And that's just the point of it is and there ain't no way in the Bible say nothing about no locks because if it said somebody locks then Jesus would have had locks. Ain't no way in the Bible said nothing about no locks. So if you want locks then you need to know your reason for it and if you know your reason for it then what somebody else feel about it shouldn't matter to you. 39 year old single mom of 12 year old boy father not involved how to raise him without male figure. Put them in sports, put them in sports and he gonna have male figures and sports don't have to be football it don't have to be basketball. You could put them in tennis, you could put them in golf, you could put them in swimming. One of the best things you could do for boys especially is boys to be in something. It could be gaming, it could be computers, it could be programming but boys need to be active. Boys need to be active, boys need to be doing something. Let's celebrate their first super on the live stream. Lashana, God bless you. God bless you. If I could do it over, my sons would play tennis or golf. If I could do it over. They'll play tennis or golf. I wish I could switch my youngest son now. The tennis or golf. Flat football, Blanca that's good for exercise but it really ain't going no well because there ain't no college scholarships for it and there ain't no to be made with it. So when you gonna be giving your time and your energy find them something cause the child gonna love pretty much anything you put the child in. They gonna love pretty much anything so y'all gotta think about my sons play soccer but if I could do it over I wouldn't put them in soccer just because soccer in America is kind of wack in the sense of it's too much politics. It ain't really based on just skill. It's based on your height, your daddy donating money. The scholarships is terrible. They only give 10 scholarships for a team of 30 players. So you gotta get a point, third of a scholarship. So I wouldn't do soccer if I could do it over. That's good. Yeah, that golf, I'd be in that golf cause you could just put yourself in tournaments and all that. So Shell, this is a blessed tribe Q and A so you got to join the blessed tribe. If you're in the blessed tribe and you put your question I'm gonna be looking for it. Yeah, soccer you got to give them money. No, beyond case, it worked for New York now. It worked for New York. Might need to check with that card. That card might be blocking it. They might not like Google. Gotta check with that card. Jamaya, this is a blessed tribe Q and A. Right under the video, you'll see where it say join. And love yourself. You might've got on at the point when I had went out this set. I don't know what that hand is. Hey, Namibia. Yep, button right beside the subscribe button that say join. Now, if you're in the blessed tribe put the hashtag Q when you put your question and hopefully I'll see it. I'm on the phone today. I was gonna be on the computer but the wifi was going slow. So it could have been I had to use so much data driving out here because I had it on ESPN out streaming and being there streaming live it probably ate up a lot of data. So it started to slow down. So I couldn't really do it. We have another celebrity divorce that happened. NBA player Damian Lillard. But I know Damian personally and I've been knowing him since his rookie year when I spoke to his rookie class. So when you know people personally you can't really speak on it. The same or as much. Welcome to the new members. God bless you. Welcome, welcome. Deja. And Sashel. Sasheli. God bless you. Now post your question again. Sashel, I might be saying your name wrong. Forgive me. Joanna, God bless you. How often would you recommend posting if you start a new YouTube? Do what you can do. As much as you can post as consistent as you can post. I'm 52 single woman that's never been married or in a relationship. Will this be considered a red flag? Yes, it'll be considered a red flag. But if a man get to know you then he'll understand your situation. We got now you in the rage range where online dating is an exception to the rule. We're doing an online dating class this Sunday. So make sure you get in that. Tony, our boys at 11 typically moody around this age because my son has been so moody lately and nonchalant. Yeah, they moody. They get moody, but also around 11 is when they start to handle them. Especially if he in public school, but even in private school around 11 is when Angela get to going. And so that'll alter things too. So just make sure he doesn't have a phone in the bathroom, a phone in the room and just kind of be monitoring and go ahead and get them busy and make sure he don't have a TV in his room. If he do, you need to have a remote because a lot of times being moody too could be a sign of just not sleeping right. Not eating right, not drinking enough water or getting picked on in school. Which sometimes they don't talk about that. Hey Tony, how long should a man wait before making you his official girlfriend? What is the max amount of time? Today between three months and six months is when a man will make you his official woman. If you've been dating a man going on dates and talking to a man daily for more than six months and it's still not official, it's time to move on with your life. I'm 48, abstinent for eight years. The men that are interested in me have no desire to wait until marriage. Is there any hope? Yes, there is hope, but you telling them too soon that you're abstinent. So you bringing up that conversation too soon.  And then after you cross like the six month mark of dating, that's when you could tell him you're abstaining. Because now you've given him time to get to know you, to see your value, to see your worth and possibly even have fallen for you. Single mom, dating a man for one year. I love him, but doesn't respect boundaries. When I try to break up with him, he cries, shows up to work and begs for me back. Why does he do this? I'm gonna tell you what now, when somebody don't respect boundaries, what you have to do with this man is you have to tell him you have to say, listen, all right, we're not a fit and I need to move on with my life. And if you show up to my job again, I'm gonna call the police.   The longer you keep winding, the stronger that pop out gonna be. So you got to understand you built intention when you playing with him like that. See, sometimes when a man don't respect your boundary, you got to let him respect them boys in blue because as men, you got to remember, I tried to remind y'all all the time when you dealing with men, you dealing with somebody that's built for war. You dealing with somebody that's built to die. You dealing with somebody that's built to kill. So you can't play with a man. You can't play with a man. When a man won't respect your voice, you got to bring in reinforcements immediately because the longer you string him out, the closer you are to losing your life. And that's why every day you turn on the news, it's another woman that lost her life at the hands of a man because she thought she could handle a man the way she handle a woman. You cannot handle a man the way you handle a woman.  And once he realized that, he'll get his act together. Okay, thanks for the answer. He started his own law and service. So he's pretty busy now. My goodness, 11. Did you say you're selling 11? Got a law and service. Hey, I have a question that's completely on topic, but I need advice. When you have a medical bill and don't pay it, does it ruin your credit? Yeah, you got some wrong person. I'm glad y'all trust me, but I don't do everything. Now, my goodness, my goodness. Hey, God bless you now. I'm glad you trust me now. No, no, no, no, no, no medical bills and credit. Nah, I'm a son of God. Bless you, I'm a 21 year old.  I'm 21 year old dating a 44 year old. He say he wants to be friends with benefits, but I want more. He ghosted me, how can I get him back and be his girlfriend? Let him go. Let him go. But I'm, now to help you, let him go.   And then not as hard as you can, but as half as hard as you can, I want you to come right, right cross hill on yourself, right cross hill. And that right there, it'll snap you out of it. That should snap you out of it. But you got to listen to what you just said. A man don't want you. He want to use you for your body. And you want to know how you could go get this man back. So I'ma tell you the next thing what you want to do is you want to get you some therapy. You also want to get you some life coaching and you want to put those together. Because that right there, you can't play with that right there, sister. You can't play with that. You can't play with that. What are your thoughts on celebrity relationship bringing so much attention to a football team? Do you think it's a genuine relationship? No, I don't think it's a genuine relationship just because they know what they're doing. And Taylor Swift know who she is and she know how big she is and she know how much noise that's gonna make with her going to that football game. He know how much noise that's gonna make when he going to that football game. But another sign of this is how I tell y'all how sometimes when people who date outside of their race, a lot of times people who date outside of their race don't have a true identity, not all the time, but a lot of times people who date outside of their race, one of them in the couple don't have a true identity. They're not rooted in their identity. So I seen somebody, they was talking about how Travis Kelsey then changed his look, how he looked at more street. He had a full beard, he had the two ear rings and he used to wear like urban designer clothes when he was with the black woman. And now that he with the white woman, that looked like Taylor Swift, now he got to look, I think what they said, he looked like a police that turned his body cam off. Now he got that little mustache. So how you go from looking like Eminem, lost, broke cousin to looking like a police who turned his body cam off?  But the thing about it is, is that's what happened a lot of the time, that's why I was teaching y'all about that, is when you date outside your race, you still got to make sure you know who you are.  And I got some homeboys that they not side a race, but it ain't like they trying to be another race. They still true to their culture, their origin, their family, but they date outside their race. But sometimes you'll see people date outside their race and they whole situation change. Can you speak more on what women can wear that will make them stand out and not be half naked? To be honest with you, a man is not really paying too much attention to what a woman got on. And long as you not outside with a bonnet, you can have on any kind of outfit. Long as you ain't got on like your grandma outfit, your older auntie outfit, your mom outfit, but you can have on any kind of outfit and just make sure you not showing so much. So you know now on Black women, on a lot of Black women, that the bottom of that booty meat, the bottom of that booty meat it get a little darker right there. I guess maybe from rubbing up against the thigh. That right there part should never be showing. That bottom of that booty should never be showing. I've been seeing a lot of Caucasian women and sometimes Hispanic women. And I see Black women too, with that bottom of that booty cheek showing that should never be showing on a woman. That the booty is for the beach and for the bedroom. And that last little bit of cheek should never be showing when you out at a grocery store or a gas station. When you got that little bit of booty hanging out, you telling a man that you easy because the booty is meant to show in a bathing suit and in the bedroom. When your booty, the bottom of your booty cheek is showing in the grocery store, in the gas station, in the gym, you telling a man that your private parts are not private, that your private parts are public. And so what you telling him is that if you will show anybody your private parts, that's telling him you'll sleep with anybody. And see, that's what you have to think about, of, about perception. Perception is reality. Even if that's not true, that's what, that's the message you're sending. So you got to understand that. So you can have on form-fitting, you can have on leggings. And what you wanna do when you dress it, if you wanna offset.  You never wanna have on leggings which is form-fitting and then have on a sports bra. Now you got on little and tight with little and tight. When you wear little and tight, then you need to wear something big and oversized. You got to mix it. You can't just be one or the other. If you got on something baggy, you shouldn't have on baggy and baggy. So if you gonna have on baggy jeans, then you ought to have on a more form-fitting t-shirt. So that way you have that balance. And now what it says is, it shows that juxtaposition. It shows that comfortability. It shows that self-esteem. And because when it's one or the other, when it's all baggy, it say, you trying to hide. You trying to hide, you don't wanna be bothered. And you taking. When it's all tight and revealing, it's saying you desperate for attention. So you have to mix it. Almost like mixing highs and lows. Like if you got on $250-pound jeans, it's okay to have on a $12 t-shirt from Target. So you got to understand that. Now, see, that's the science right there that I can't really give out on here.  Hey, it's on number 23 with a one-year-old.  I do desire to be married. It just depends on how you look, sister. That's all it depend on. With a man, all it depend on is how you look.  But if you look good, G-O-O-D-T, you can have four kids and he finna be right over there doing a stepdaddy dance. You hear me? Listen to what I'm telling you. Men are visual creatures. Man don't care. None about them kids because when y'all get in that bedroom, it's you and him. If the egg's still dropping, he could put another child in him.  Cause see, men want to have more kids as long as he can afford them because that's like having more scratch off tickets. Now I'm gonna tell y'all the truth. Now y'all might not want to hear that now. The more kids a man got, if he can afford them, that's more scratch off tickets. Think about it like this right here. Dion Sanders. He got Shador Sanders. He got Shiloh Sanders. He don't need their money. But one day he gonna sit down. When he sit down, let's say his financial advisor do him like the man did Usain Bolt and $12 million disappear. If he didn't raise three, four, five kids and they all touch his six, seven, eight figures, you don't think they gonna take care of their daddy? So that's why men don't care about having a lot of kids. That's why you see a lot of men, they having a woman have two, three, four kids because what men be thinking about, and that's why the men who be active in their child life be so active because deep down secretly, the man, we be hoping that child go pro. Calism, we trying to kick that, we trying to kick that foot up. You hear me? I'm gonna tell you the truth. I'm gonna tell you the truth. I'm gonna kick that foot up. So you got to understand that. Got to understand that now. I lost my place on him. Dropping Jim, don't be answering questions. Anybody ask you no question. I'm here to ask a question now. I'm trying to get back up. Okay. What places should you go to meet quality men? You honest to meet men anywhere? Uh-oh, somebody got hurt amylams out here. Uh-oh, somebody got hurt, Lord. Don't let it be my child. The name of Jesus. Y'all give me one second. That old amylam, y'all forgive him. I know it's ambulance. I know it's ambulance, but that's when I'm growing up, we call it amylams. Y'all forgive him. I pray everything all right. The soccer practice, amylam that came up here. What places should you go to meet quality men? You could meet a man anywhere. Meet a man at the gas station, at the grocery store, Starbucks, Barnes & Noble, church. You really shouldn't go anywhere to meet a man.   Need to be looking at your surroundings. A lot of times women are single. A single woman should never be walking, looking at her phone. Ever.  So many women are single and they say they wanna meet a man, but they head, they own the phone when they in public. So if the statistic that 70% of men are introverts, if that is true, any barrier that you have between you and that man, minimizes the chances of him approaching you.   A normal everyday guy, the scene got to be set right.   When confronting a guy during the dating phase about an issue that repeatedly happened, why would the guy go ghost afterwards? Issue was his word and consistency with communication.   He testing you and training you so that when he pop back up, he wants to see if you still going to talk to him, if you still going to deal with him. And if you do, after he then ghosted you, which he may be dealing with another woman too unless he in the hospital or something happen, but if you do deal with him, what that's telling him is that you sell wolf tickets, that you all talk and that you are not to be respected. Hey, Tony, is it really a hope for God fearing powerful, high salary, natural body and beauty women to find love in this era? I'm really concerned and accepted my single them.  Beauty is in the eye to be holder. So the man who thank you, beautiful, he have not seen you yet. He have not seen you yet. And so you have to, so when you got everything else, but a man is not attracted to you, that's when you got to work on that side up. And you got to say, okay, what do I need to do with my hair? How do I need to be dressing? Got to get those things together.  So when you have that type of outlook that already sounds like skeptical, what was me? That's showing up in your conversation. Dating this guy who was crazy about me, but he's very emotional about it. And it can be annoying. Is this going to die down a bit with time? I want to try something new. Last guy was emotionally unavailable. You got to talk to him. You got to talk to him. And you got to open up, you got to explain that to him.  And those emotions, it's turning me off. So I really need you to get to the root of that. And if that's something that needs therapy, that's how a woman have to talk to a man and vice versa. See, a lot of times we want to say something, but we be in our head because we don't want to offend the person. We don't want to offend the person. We don't know how they're going to respond. So we just be in our head. And that's never really healthy. So you got to talk to him and you got to articulate because he may not know what he's doing is a turnoff because his last woman might've wanted him to be emotional like that. And he thinking that's what every woman want. Hi Tony, what are your thoughts about couples who partner have a baby outside of their relationship but decide to stay or not are there exceptions to the rule? I don't think a woman should ever stay with a man who have a baby on them, nor should a man stay with a woman who have another man baby on him. That's just way too far across the line. Dwayne Wade and Gabrielle Union did it. But at that time when they did that, Gabrielle really was at that time when she did that with Dwayne Wade, she was just in Tubi movies at that time. And just the reruns of the chill lead movie. But she was doing Tubi movies. And so when he did that, I say, okay, she ain't going no well because he had a bag on him right at that time. When he had that baby on Gabrielle, he probably was making I think just 16 to 20 million on the court alone, not including endorsements. So with her doing them Tubi movies at the time, I'll say, yeah, she ain't going no well because actors already don't make a lot of money. Actresses already don't make a lot of money. You ain't Viola Davis. You ain't Halle Berry.  That money ain't hitting on nothing. You really ain't eating like that. And that's also why she put a business out about going 50-50 so that people will put that pressure on him. So he'll come on, help pay you a little more than bills.  A lot of times the woman making exception to the rule. The other time is when the woman is so insecure and low self-esteem, she just don't want that other woman that the man had the baby with to get her man. And she know if she take herself out of the picture, he's gonna be with her by default. So that's what you have to realize, trying to see these little questions. All right Tony, what are your thoughts about couples? We just got that one. I'm going in order on the question so y'all don't have to post them multiple times. The hard truth God bless you.   Y'all got to forgive me. I'm gonna plug up, got to plug up. Might not be on here too much longer. Lying, eating that old batter up. I'm gonna make sure my other thing, y'all hold on one second. Oh man, I'm doing bad. All right, forgive me. I had to close my other app site. I'm doing bad, boy, I'm on here. I had all them other apps running. Is it a red flag for a 28 year old to entertain a 22 year old and not wanting to commit? He said my age was the reason, but will still hang out with me and be romantic. Karris, Kareese, you playing yourself.  Y'all listen to that question again. Don't play yourself like that now. Y'all got to do better. Y'all got to do better. Come on now. Y'all got to do better. Y'all got to do better. Come on now. I'm gonna have to shame y'all in a change. Y'all got to do better. See, that's kind of like, hey Tony, is it a red flag to drink bleach?  Come on now, come on now.  Come on now. Come on now. If you have serious problems with someone, just get rid of them and keep moving. I thought that was a question. Now y'all, this is a blessed tribe Q&A now. So y'all see where they join right up under the thing. Y'all forgive them smacking it gone. Can you talk about boundaries between a man and his mom? What should they be? Is it normal for him to be at her house every single day? No, that's not normal for him to be at her house every day. Not normal in the least. Now it may be another, if me personally as a man, if I'm going to my mama house every day, I'm me personally, the type of man that I am. If I'm going to my mama house every day, she either is dying or I got another phone over there and I'm sending messages to my other woman while I'm at my mama house or sending messages from my phone and deleting them. But it'll make no sense for a man to be at his mama house every day if she's not terminally ill. April, welcome to the blessed tribe. Now I put your question back in there, April. Glam Ross, thank you very much for helping me moderate. Good evening, what would be your advice on a 10 year age difference in dating? 10 years is the max, but only if you're a woman, 10 years up, 10 years older is the max. And the advice would be to make sure that he don't try to re-raise you. The problem with a woman getting an older man is an older man will try to raise you again as if your parents have not raised you. So you got to be ready for that. Y'all got to forgive him sometimes. People put something in him. What are your thoughts on people giving unsolicited relationship advice about your relationship? Take it easy, please. Well, if they know you personally and that's your family member, then you could listen to them 50% of the way. If it's somebody that know you, if it's somebody online don't know you, then that's different. But it don't hurt to hear a little bit of what they're talking about. Erika, God bless you now. Hey, Tony, my mom was cheated on while she was at work on deployment. Her husband brought another woman into the house. How do I get over not wanting to build with a man because of seeing that as a kid? Well, you got to make sure you don't give on deployment with a man at the house. That's one thing. And if you going on deployment, then your man need to be out there and deployed with you at the house with you.  So you getting the knowledge and you learning things that your mama didn't know. So you'll be able to see the red flags that she didn't see. Why do older men look so broke and bad after 50? Just a long life of smoking or drinking or porn or being up late and all of that. Just a long life of that. Dating a single dad, he spends a lot of time with me and my kids, but he doesn't spend time with his kids. Red flag. Yes, it is a red flag that is a red flag because that means either he did something, him and the baby mama was so tumultuous that they don't get along or he didn't just gave up on her and his kids for whatever reason, but a man should never give up on his children based on a woman and who she is and what she is. So it is a red flag. It is a red flag. Deondre Brown, because what it means is, what it typically means is that the man is only showing you his representative and not who he truly is because a man who is not spending time with his own kids should not be spending time with another man kids. And the only reason he should not be spending time with his own kids is if he can show you the multiple messages and attempts to see his children and she is ignoring him or she's telling him no, unless he give her X amount of dollars. He should be able to show that proof to you and he should want to show that to you. If not, that is a red flag. High Tony, can you explain? Broke, busted and disgusted. Busted and disgusted, disgusted. If you got the ice, if you got the ice. Glen Rock says she will block every disrespectful statement. God bless you, thank you. Me and this guy have a crush on each other. He told me, let him know about the next event I will be at so we can meet up. But why hasn't he asked for my number or talked to me in my DM beforehand? He is most likely in a relationship. Most likely in a relationship. Satina, let me see if I miss your question now. Welcome to the new members, Cherelle, Iyoki, God bless you. Thank you, really appreciate that, Del. Blanca Rosa, thank you, appreciate that, Del. Satina, I don't see your question. Okay, there you go. With dating the man, we were getting close and said we love each other. We were starting to share deeper things with each other and the conversation slowed down, he ghosted me. Yeah, it's no telling why, but when you get ghosted, you got to go, you just got to go. Because typically a man gonna ghost you for another woman. That's typically, that's typically what he gonna do. I've been doing it all year when I am out. I am not on my phone, God bless him. Might as well host a dating brunch.  Men do not be doing that kind of stuff. How to help my son through heartbreak? He's 17 and was honest about having a girlfriend, although he knew I was against it. She put hands on him, he stayed, but she recently ended it. You just got to talk to him from the heart.  A woman who would put hands on a man 17 years old, she got a devil in her.  You got to talk to him. Hello Tony, what is your take on a woman dating a man four years younger than her? The man seems very mature and consistent. Well, you got to see that maturity and consistency for about 12 months. Then you'll know if it's real or if it's just a representative. But I do not recommend a woman a data man more than three years younger than her. Really a woman shouldn't be dating a man younger than her period, unless that man is a real exception to the rule. What are your thoughts on the relationship that ended with Braxton and the white lawyer guy? Don't know, don't know who they are. Don't know who they are. She had let him go so I just a joke to him. 44 year old thinks I'm a joke. Yep, can you talk about men who get too comfortable in a relationship and complacent with less romance? What should a woman do? Well, you got to talk to him and ask him, you know, how's he doing? What is going on? You know, ask him how is he feeling? Why he tell him you recognize there's been less romance and see what that is. Because he could have ED. He could be watching pornography. So you got to understand that. Sharrell just blocked me somebody in here, like alien. That's why you got to have a members only chat YouTube cause you got them old dangling in the booty man coming on here, sitting on their cucumber and wanna come on here and be in the comments that with no reference, he could have been answering one of y'all questions. I don't know, but if you answered somebody question, you have to state that to me. Cause if I was in person, which I'll slap your teeth down your throat. But being that I'm not in person with you, all I can do is hit the block button and help you get that. I'm gonna help you get that. Y'all boys need to, don't be coming on here sitting on your cucumber and be in the chat now. This is a blessed triad Q and A. So I'm looking for the little sign by your name. I'm trying to listen to the live, but my mom is currently having a breakdown because I asked her to get therapy. God bless the system. God bless.  God, that, that, that. You got to say it a certain kind of way now. Sponsor your mama for a coaching session with me. Let's see here now. Looking for the look. For those of y'all not in the blessed tribe, you'll see the sign where it say join. These are blessed triad Q and A, the not public Q and A. It just on the mobile, they won't let me put members on it. So if he's in a relationship, should I just not tell him about the event and just not DM him back? I assume they broke up since he wants to see me in person, but might be nervous to ask for my number. If he is nervous to ask for your number, then he is not ready to be your boyfriend. In order for a man to lead, provide and protect, he at least got to have the confidence to shoot his shot in a real and recognizable way. If a man can't be direct and straight up with what he wants out of this situation, then he is still insecure and scared and life going to bend him over. A man got to be able to speak his mind. So as a woman, you could never make concessions for a man that is not man enough to open his mouth and say what's on his mind.  And it's because you made concessions for him in the dating, reading his mind and saying what you think he wanna say. Why would a man send a woman flowers anonymously and never follow up with her to tell her that he sent it? It just mind games. He's just playing mind games. Child's father continues to ask to get back together, but I don't know if it's sincere. Should I make it work? Sister, you know him better than me. You know him better than me. You know him better than me. And that's your child's father, so you should at least give it a chance. Why would a man cheek twice didn't want to give all access to social media account and phone? Either he read it a change or he didn't got him another phone and some other social media. But me personally, if you catch a man cheating twice, that's a possibility that he done cheated 20 other times that you don't know about. So if you catch somebody cheating twice, I got to go. I got to go. SB, welcome to the blessed trial. All the new members, welcome to the blessed trial. Now we're gonna be doing EQ and A's a little more often. My ex sends me videos on Instagram almost daily. Since August and he called me last night asking if I would be getting his dog something for his birthday. What does this mean?  And you have shown him that you still standing still. So by showing him that you still standing still, that give him the freedom to keep gallivanting and doing what he wanna do with the women, with the freedom that he has.  So he know he could pop back in and out your life any time he ready. And then when he get bored and what he looking for is not out there, then he gonna come back with a real concerted effort.  Khadija God bless you. I'm thinking about going back to my ex. We broke up because I wasn't mature enough for him. He check all my boxes, except looks and finances. Can this work? Now what other boxes is there? Looks and finances. He, except looks and finances.  I'm trying to think what boxes the man chicken.  Of course he gonna be kind and sweet. And nice and patient. And he looks challenged and ain't got no money. He nice, he nice. Nice he need to be. Is there a too soon timeframe for a man to start professing love and marriage plans? Inside of six months, it's a little play-a-ish. It's a little play-a-ish. Enigma properties. Okay, enigma. God bless you. I was thinking that was enema. I'm about to say enema properties. Now I don't know if that was the name to go with it. Enigma. Sigmund, God bless you now. Welcome to the blessed tribe. Flow God bless you now. Blazing Star, blessed tribe, Q and A. I joined the tribe and put the question on him now. Child father never responds when I'm cordial and trying to co-parent. But as soon as I take a cheap shot about his age, teeth bridges slash denture, he will respond. Why is he? Now you roll with that now. Now, what did you say you going? What did you say something about that bad age and the teeth bridge and the dentures? Hey, that's a sense of the spot for my boy. That's a sense of the spot for him at all. What's that, man? What you say, everybody? He out here looking like Cameron. What you said? Hey, that's a sense of the spot. I would have had enough. I would have had enough. You know what I mean? May 85k a year, that's a lot of money if that's the person who we're talking about. It's three baby mommas and telling white lies a reason to just leave. He's very consistent and has good character. Since he can't have a good character and have three baby mommas and still be lying, all that can't go together. You can have, now I know men with three baby mommas that then got it together, but it's still lying? Thoughts on me and Pan child support and not seeing their kids regularly. At least he's doing one of them. At least he's doing one of them. Talking about that man. Dancers, boy, I tell you what. I met a guy while I was on a trip. We had a good time hanging out. He told me that as well. He said he would call, but never called once. I got back from, once I got back home from my trip. He likes my Instagram posts and stories. He is in a relationship. He is fully taken. He is fully taken. Somebody say he toothless and ruthless, but listen. Well, we feel to be using that now. They're toothless and ruthless. Well, we feel to be using that. I'm out of senior royalties. Cause when I see somebody toothless and ruthless, I'm so gonna be talking about it. Okay, let's try. Okay, I'll see. My child's father has hurt me in the past. But it was me unless they are weird. Well, sister. Well, sister, you might have to see. I have to see. Tony, why is it so hard these days to find a real Christian man that sincerely loves the Lord? Whoo, that's the question of the ages. I'm trying to figure out the same thing. Trying to figure out the same thing. Oh, y'all seen when the sound was like I was closing all my things. I kind of got to the bottom of the questions. Yeah, I'ma tell you now, with the way it is today, with these men, it's a lot of spiritual warfare. It's a lot of spiritual warfare. And to be honest with you, it's hard for a man today because when you look around, the way it is today is everywhere a man look, men are not that good with temptation. So everywhere a man look, he's being shown booty, beer, weed and gambling opportunities. So because of that, there's so many men being pulled away from the Lord. Hey, Tony, what advice can you give me as a new entrepreneur? I have a hair company I started two years ago. I'm a little frustrated because things aren't moving fast and I would like them as I would like them to. Well, you got the market, you got the market it. So you could pay influencers for shout outs. My clients with hair companies, what they did is they sold it in a neighborhood. They sold it at local salons. They sold it locally. And when they made that money, they paid online influencers like people with an Instagram following to promote the product. And that's how you get it off the ground. Why do a lot of men say they're spiritual but doesn't believe in Jesus? A lot of men don't believe in Jesus because they can't wrap their mind, their finite mind around the infinite. And some people want to know it all and have no faith. So therefore, because they can't wrap their finite mind around the infinite, they choose not to believe.  But that's why X is a good guy, experienced infidelity in the past. After 10 months said he doesn't want, he doesn't want kids and family anymore. I left six months later, he wants to salvage the relationship because he decided out of fear. Listen, I ain't further back and forth. I ain't further back and forth. Especially when kids involved, I ain't further back and forth. Like listen, playboy, you gonna have to know what you want. You don't know what you want. I got to go. I wouldn't be further back and forth.  I feel stuck in my brainstorming. You often speak on your several legs of business. I don't know. I think it's just my gift.  But it just come to me. It just come to me. And I try to think logically. I try to think in order. So it's like, okay, if I write, if I could write, that mean I could publish a book. But if I could write, that mean if I could publish a book, that also mean I could teach somebody else how to publish their book. If I could write a book, that also mean I could write somebody else's book. If I could write a book, that mean I could teach a class on writing a book, not just one person. If I could publish a book, I could teach a class on publishing a book, not just teaching one person.  God bless you. I pray here, expansion of territory important. In this blessing you're like, hey, God bless you now. I thought men don't want to be Christian because they don't want the accountability. That is another reason why. That is another reason why. Hey Tony, I've been a nurse. I've been a nurse charge supervisor for a few months now and having a hard time getting my team to really listen and respect me. I try to speak up, but it doesn't seem, but it seems like I'm just too nice, tips. Got to write them up.   Just like that right there. When they go to getting them right up, they're gonna get their act together. Broke off an engagement a year ago because I felt I was sacrificing more. I think about this person daily. I'm ready to move on. Can you speak on healing from a broken heart? Well, everybody in a relationship think they've sacrificed more and so that's where your problem went right there. And the fact that you think about them daily it sound like you prematurely left because you were focusing more on what you was doing and not really thinking about what he was doing. And you also didn't understand where he was doing it from. So what he was giving you could have been more than he ever gave, could have been more than he really should have been given. So you might need to sit down and really think about that if you did the right thing. Is that a reason to wait for marriage after having children together? No, that's not a reason. Y'all need to go and get married and y'all need to tackle that debt together, but in no sense of waiting on marriage and living in sin, fornicate, and after y'all have already had kids. That ain't no reason. That's like, debt is debt. That ain't the end of the world. You just pay it down as you get it. Just wanting to say I asked a question about the ex on the hill, your heart live and your response gave me the strength to cut off the next day. Thank you for always keeping it real and raw.  Yup, Paola, to get the star you got to click perps or join, right by the subscribe button. This is a blessed tribe Q&A.  I'm standing apostle Pauline of God.  LaDonna asked you a question again. How do you build a business when you are struggling to pay bills? Working takes all your time and energy.  It's always a portion of your business. So consulting, you don't need money to consult. So sometimes when you want to sell a product, if you know how to get the product and sell the product, you could be teaching other people how to get the product and sell it before you even got it and selling it. Heart, reneer, God bless you. Welcome to the blessed tribe. Tamiko got to join the blessed tribe to send a question in. Hey, Mr. Gatsun, did God ever tell you to move in a certain creative direction and then bless you as you went along? Yes, all the time. I feel like all my ideas are divinely inspired. I feel like all of them are. And when I say not all of them, but the ones that especially get blessed. And so when I get an idea, I think about the root of it. And when I get to the root of it, I say, okay, why am I doing this? And if it's for a pure reason, then I know God behind it. When can Lady Gatsun join us again? Don't know Lucy. She really has no desire to be in the public eye. She have no desire. I don't know. I don't know why, but I love it about it though, cause I kind of would be looking at my wife crazy if this my calling. And she just all of a sudden want to be in the public eye all the time. I'd be kind of like, oh, what's going on? Whether you want to be famous or you want to help. But my wife, she like, man, I got two kids to worry about, I ain't worried about growing people in their problems. That's kind of just the energy she own. And so I talked to her today about doing a podcast for Patreon. She say she'll think about it. So we might think about it, but the thing about it too with me and my wife is the reason why we don't do too much in the public eye is because we are, we husband and wife, but we like brother and sister. Like we really like brother and sister. It's sad, some people say we look alike, but we like brother and sister in the sense of how we talk. Like we real, we best friends. So if you hear best friends talk, you'll be like, man, is y'all friends? Do y'all like each other? So we know that, we understand that that a lot of people is so used to fake love, people so used to fake showcase. You know, this is a raw roll. Blah, what you talking about? Raw roll. So we see all these fake reels and these fake TikToks that we never get to see couples be just real.  And you might be kind of going at each other with your truth. Well, if you invite an outsider into that, the outsider not gonna understand and then they're gonna put they two cents in there and then that's gonna drive a wedge between y'all because now you looking at it differently too. So you have to protect your relationship when you know your dynamic is so real and authentic and give y'all another example so y'all could kind of understand it is like when you chastising your child.  Your child understand what you're doing. But if DCF standing over there, they finna be like, whoa, hold on now, hold on now. Whoa, whoa, whoa, calm down now. Why are you yelling like that? What's going on now? And so that's how it is when you really know somebody. It's like other people who don't know them, they'll have, you know, they'll have something to say. And if you notice a lot of, a lot of relationships that go on reality TV end in divorce, that's because they put their relationship out there on Front Street. LaDon, I see you right here, catching the RN, God bless you now. Child's father hurt me in the past but says he's willing to change his ways and get back together, but has other baby mommos and vices. Okay, that's the one you say the sound went out. He could be willing to change. He could be willing to change, but if you know him better than me, so you got to really know him and who he is and his track record.  Meaning if he down on his luck and he needs somewhere to stay, he need a car to borrow, then you know it's not real. If he got somewhere to stay, he got a car, he got a job that he going to every day. He working on itself, now you can kind of take him a little serious. Last question, how would you describe your spiritual condition, thoughts and words, for example, when you begin to build momentum toward the life you have made for you and your family, your spiritual condition, thoughts and words, for example. You know the Bible say from the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. So your spiritual condition is determined by, your input.  So that way when you build a momentum, you building the momentum with humility. And I made that mistake when I was building at one time, I wasn't walking with the Lord closely as I should have. So the success went to my head and my thoughts and my words weren't of God because I was thinking the success was because of my hard work and not because of the blessing of God. Somebody say, see, why it sound like me and her talking about the same child, father, LOL, y'all might be, y'all might be, y'all might be talking about the same child, father. God bless y'all. Y'all put it first name in here. We don't know the last name. There's a, we don't know. Y'all put it first name. Y'all might be talking about the same man. That's absolutely true. True chain come from relationship with Jesus and reading and following his word. I'm trying to tell you. I'm trying to tell you. Y'all have some R.N. in here. Boy, y'all, y'all remember that video when I said, these men out here looking for a woman with some R.N. money? And boy, the CNAs was so mad. Unsubscribe-ing. You putting down the CNA.  I just said, R.N. money. I'm a CNA and I make good money. I'm like, yeah, you work in 100 hours a week. I'm like, don't get mad with me. It's like, all right, all right. Jekyll, I said, these men don't want that CNA money. They want R.N. money. It's like, how you get mad with me? Cause you ain't no R.N. I'm like, stay on your ground. Keep working, keep pressing.  But if you, if you're not happy to be no CNA, now hit dog holler. Like my grandma say, hit dog holler. Friend money. What should I think about? A man who read and loved the book, Seven Happens, A High Little Fact of People, by Stephen R. Coving. Ain't nothing to think about, sis. Everybody love that book. The devil love that book. Devil like, man, that book good. Everybody love that book, sis. Danielle, God bless you.  I so get to see some names, boy. Boy, I get to see some names. Yeah, the L.P.L. with Matt. I'll say, wow. I'll say, well, y'all with Matt, R.N. and N.P. right here. I'll just try and tell y'all that, that these men is not looking for a CNA at L.P.L. They, they want an R.N. Like, excuse me? And I'm like, why is you mad that a man don't want you for your money? You ought to be happy he'll want you for your money. I'm think, I wasn't saying it's a good thing that the R.N. got me and chasing them for their money. That's a bad thing. Thought I found my person, he did most things right and corrected when he was wrong. Asked me to be his girlfriend after three months, talked about marriage, told him about an issue I have and he rejected me. Well, you found out. Now what did you find out? You find, you found out that my video that I did that say five things you should not tell a man early on, you found out I was not lying. Cause what I try to tell y'all is that most men do not fall in love with a woman before two years. So before you drop some real heavy on a man, for one, you need to ask yourself, is this his business and what can, does this affect him? If it's a STD that he is going to catch, then that affects him. If it's your past trauma that he cannot catch, that he cannot fix, that he can't do nothing with, then you need to take that to God. So that's what you got to realize. It really discouraged me from trying to date. It's been over a year and I've just been alone and isolating, finding hard to believe I'll find a good man that will accept me for something I didn't ask for. It's a good man that accept you says, you have to be a little more strategic with when you tell him, how you tell him, and if you should tell him. I got my nose pierced and I cracked up when you said we look like we got a booger in our nose. Now one of my clients texted me to say, Tony, do my nose ring look terrible? I said, I've never seen your nose ring and I'd have been in person around her a few times, didn't see her nose ring. So I say, no, it don't look bad. But yes, some of y'all, that nose ring, that thing be hanging down in that, be going from the top to the bottom. Be looking like all kind of boogers and snot. I'm gonna tell y'all now, y'all got to start doing all that extra now. All that extra ain't necessary. Y'all, actually, I know, I know how the men be cause I know how I be. If I was out there saying, oh boy, I be, if I was out there saying, I'd be looking for me a RN, a PA, a NP, travel nurse, travel RN, and I'd be like, oh yeah, you think you could take care of the date tonight? Well, I'll be out there terrible. Oh yeah, you think you could buy me a pal, out for one? Well, I have all kinds of hands. I'll have a bit different business idea every week for you. Oh yeah, got this amazing idea. So three months is too soon, even though he was asking for a relationship. It depends on what it is, Kiera. It depends on what it is. And I'm gonna be honest with you. I'm gonna be honest with you. I feel like it's a lot of stuff my wife wouldn't tell me. I feel like it's a lot of stuff my wife wouldn't tell me. And I'll be honest with you, I don't blame her. Cause humans don't know how to handle all your business. Human don't know how to handle all your business.  Some men like that. Tony, how do I deal with a man that be so hooked to sports and fantasy football, steady ignoring you? Well, you just got to know the timing. You got to know the timing. You got to know the timing. So if it's on Sunday, then okay. Sometimes on Monday, Tuesday, and then also what you got to do. And my wife, she get on to me about that now. Sometimes I'm texting, clients texting me or emails coming in and my wife just be talking. And she be talking about the sky's blue and the grass is green. And so in my mind I'd be like, man, this email is way more important than this blue sky and the green grass right now. But then she'll say to me every now and then she'll be like, I'll say, what you saying, baby? And then she'll be like, never mind. Never mind. You never listen. And she'll take that little dig at me. And when she take that dig at me, I'll be like, nah, stop now. Now you know you lying. And then after that, I'll stop what I'm doing. I'll look in the mouth like I'm watching ESPN. And I noticed that when I look my wife in the face, it almost make a choke. Like it almost make a heart skipper beat because she so used to me like looking at something while she talking and me trying to listen to both and do that that I had to become very intentional.  And so you got to talk to him. You got to talk to him. Yuck, you're your name in the night. Is it normal to not have any issues in your relationship? I feel we're at a good place now. I'm used to overthinking. It's not normal, but it's healthy. And so don't be afraid of healthy. Sometimes we so accustomed to toxic that we don't know how to handle healthy. Don't be afraid of healthy. RN and tons of RNs are broke from taking care of men. I can't do that one. Yeah, you're right. You're right. You're right. Probably all the time in New York. Yeah, New York starting salary because the rent is 900 dollars. The living a shoebox. That's why New York teachers making so much money. That rent.  Do you think a woman's beauty determines how a man pursues her? For example, Lori Harvey is considered beautiful and she seems to have no problem getting men. Yeah, that's why she ain't got no problem getting men. Cause she say it is beautiful. That's why she ain't got no problem. That men are visual creatures. But Lori Harvey is different. But even women who look like Lori Harvey who are not rich and famous don't have a problem getting men because men are programmed by society on what beauty constructs society has. So men approach women more frequently who fall inside of society's beauty constructs. Unfortunately, thoughts on a man who after being married for years feels like being with just one woman for life is unrealistic. He's listening to the wrong people and that's why he feeling like that. But, and it is unrealistic. It is unrealistic for a man. But the thing about it is that's the purpose of sacrifice. That's what commitment is. Like drinking your body weight in ounces of water every day is unrealistic. Working out 30 minutes a day is unrealistic. Sleeping eight hours a night is unrealistic. Working 60 years to retire and can't enjoy your pension and your retirement cause your joints don't work is unrealistic. Life is unrealistic. But that's what sacrifice is.  You see what I'm saying? So he just, but I'm gonna tell you when somebody go to talking like that what you have to do is say, okay, I agree. Being with one, you gotta tell them sleeping with one man for the rest of my life is really unrealistic.  You wanna sleep with another man? Oh, so you mean my thing is not good enough for you? What, my thing is not big enough for you? Oh, so you wanna be with another man? The best response when somebody trying to gas light you is okay. When you say okay, boy, that right there? That do it all. That do it all too difficult to date. Yeah, my wife love New York. I'ma just start, when I get the money I'ma just start every month for like one or two nights in my wife to New York. She love New York. I don't know what it is about to just the buzz of the city, ripping, running, her sister live up there too. I'ma start. So if you get your nice Airbnb up there in New York y'all let me know. My boyfriend and I have been exclusive for four months now and we've been knowing each other going on 13 months now and not one time have he said anything about I love you and I'm okay with it. I'm just saying, God bless you, God bless you and I respect that. I'ma tell you. I'ma tell you is when you're taking, it's better for a man. It's better for a man to not say I love you than for a man to say I love you too soon. My ex always FaceTime or send selfies asking how he look, fishing for compliments. Is that insecurity?    You standing still. Why do you think red pill content so popular amongst black men now? Because humans are selfish. So if it's a red pill for men then pink pill for women would be the equivalent. Humans are selfish. So when humans start hearing that you should be catered to and that you should be appreciated more and that you are the prize and a other person is not as valuable as you and you should have a double standard. It sound good to the human ears. It's just like red pill in the work environment. If you, when you start being told, oh, you should be able to work from home. You should have five weeks paid vacation. You shouldn't have to work a thousand hours to get medical benefits.  Yeah, you're right. Yeah, you're right. I ought to be able to work from home. I should have to go in this multi-million dollar building that they paying for. I ought to be able to work from home. Yeah, you're right. Yeah, I ought to have five weeks paid vacation instead of two weeks. Yeah, you're right. I shouldn't have to come in until 10 a.m. instead of being at 8 a.m. So when you start hearing something that stroke your ego, that's like music to sore ears, humans, we selfish by nature. We're not gonna be like, oh no, that's unfair to my employer to have to pay rent or mortgage on this big building. And I get to work from home in my pajamas. That's unfair to my employer.  That's unfair to my employer that had to give me five weeks. So that's why Red Pill is so popular because these men is talking to other men. And they saying stuff that do not make sense in the grand scheme of a relationship, but it sound good to another man, to another man, but them two men not together. The men not together. The men ain't got to sleep together. The men ain't got to live together. So when one man telling another man what he ought to be and what he ought to be getting from a woman, that sound good to that other man because the other man ain't got to do it. You see what I'm saying? So that's what you got to realize. My question is why aren't those same men running that Red Pill cart past the Bible because there's nothing biblical about it? Because there's nothing biblical about those men.  He running it past his dangling because that is his Bible. So when a man run it by the Bible, he don't want to hear what the Bible got to say in Ephesians 5 about how we ought to love our wives cause that's a labor of love. Cause they tell us to love our wife the way Christ, Lord of the church. And we seen the pain Christ went through and we see the pain Christ had got to put up with us. So if you're telling us to love a woman the way Christ, Lord of the church, that's a mighty call. That's a high call there. Hey y'all, God bless y'all. Got to go. My son about to get on that hill in this old car. Y'all forgive me if I just turned my phone down. Y'all might have seen y'all kind of thot. I don't sit here and you're sweating. Don't roll it up on me. Hey, but God bless y'all. We'll be in touch for the aspiring authors. Remember the publishing boot camp is up next Saturday. For those of y'all who are online dating or getting ready to online date, we got class this Sunday. Go to TonyGashasAcademy.com. You'll see the masterclass. That's this Sunday. Give me y'all the rules of online dating. If you cannot afford it, then watch the online dating videos from the past on YouTube. But we're gonna be talking about it, updated information and we're gonna be doing a Q&A, doing a little bit of Q&A. So make sure y'all get on on there. And Sunday, thank class at four. And so now we finna see if y'all seven day adventures is broke or if y'all really be observing the Sabbath. Cause every time I do a class on Saturday, here go the seven day adventures right now. I won't be able to make it to class because I'm observing the Sabbath. Okay, well, what you doing on Sunday? Cause for those of us who go to church on Sunday, we work on Sunday, especially when we work on the Lord work and we watch football on Sunday. The football player that's Christian got to work on Sunday. And the football player that's seven day adventures in college got to work on Saturday. So people can get so caught up in stuff when Jesus clearly in the Bible was working on the Sabbath every Sabbath. And every time they tried to get him in trouble, he said, man, what you talking about? It's the Lord's day. Like that's the law. This, this, this is the new day. Now Jesus told them all the time like, man, listen, I got to work every day. I'm doing the Lord's work. So for those of y'all, when you come into learning and grow on the Sabbath, that's like going to church. You're not, I'm not saying come into the office and lift boxes. And so that's what we doing. We healing on the Sabbath. And that's what, that's what Jesus, they called it working. Even though he was healing, he want, they'll tell him, he ain't allowed to do God work on the Sabbath. He's like, what you talking about? This is the Lord's day that he made. I'm doing his work. So sometimes we be so heavenly minded that we know earthly good. Because that Sabbath that you talking about, you can't do the Lord's work and you can't grow. That might be the last day you heal. That might be your last day on earth. You got to see what Jesus did. Look at Jesus example. And that's what you go by. Not about what your pastor talking about. What did Jesus do? Jesus say, he did the work. And so y'all got to understand that. Cause every time y'all be writing me about that, I'm like, listen, that ain't biblical. That ain't biblical. The Lord rested. Cause he built the whole world. He did nothing but got on that raggedy job. But yeah, if you see what Jesus did, come on, I'll be blowing me boy. I'd be like, what we so, I'm like, what would we be so safe when it benefit us? But we can't heal nobody. We can't walk on the water. We still be broke busted and exhausted and be trying to hold on to a little piece of word when Jesus then showed the whole opposite. Come on on. Come on on. Thank you, LaTosha. Investing in yourself is not work. I'll be like, what is y'all talking about? We, we is growing. We learning this thing. We're not out lifting boxes and mowing lawns. Come on. You think the Lord saying, don't grow. Don't learn. Come on. Technically, if that's the case, I wouldn't be doing the Sunday sermon on Sunday because that's pulling from my spirit. But don't nobody be saying that. Come on, I got to get it together now. Hey, I'm gonna do the Q and A. Monday, Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays when I don't have a coaching call or a business call. I'll do the Q and A's on those nights while I'm waiting on my son at practice. So God bless y'all. My son still ain't out yet. He almost out of practice. God bless y'all and make sure you go over to TonyGastonAcademy.com. That's what you'll see. That's what you'll see what we got coming up this, this Sunday and then next Saturday, I believe it is. And then every Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. My son practice four days a week when I'ma try to go live, unless I'm out of town on the road, which if that's the case, you'll see me post that in the video early. So God bless y'all. And also on the Patreon, thank y'all for being over there. We're gonna start cranking up over there. I posted my link, my calendar link in the Patreon for those of y'all who wanna be interviewed by me for the other Patreon members, get to know your story, share your testimony, share your product, your service. That's what we doing over there on the Patreon side of things. God bless y'all and we'll talk soon.


Hi everyone. In this short lesson, we're gonna talk about that how to find a square root of number in Python programming language. To do that, first we need to import mat module. So we'll type import mat, then for example let's calculate square root of number 82 and let's print that result to the screen. So we'll say print and inside double quotes we'll put text square root of 82 is here we can't put calculation inside of string and instead of calculation we'll put placeholder for float point number by typing percent and f. Now we'll close quote and after this quote we'll type percent to add our square root to string. Here we will call function from mat module that is called sqrt and we'll put inside that function as arguments number 82 and we'll close all parentheses. When we press enter we can see result of our square function so we have here result of calculation of finding square root of number 82. That's all in this video. Thanks for watching.


So, we are going to start. This is like our talk of the day. Joseph is going to introduce himself first and then his tool called Rasperezi. So, a large applause, a warm applause to him. Thank you very much. All right. So, today I'm going to talk about how to actually be like a gigantic global call group of Chris Raiow. So, my name is Joseph Hedrup and this is work that I've done together with Giorgio Sculsius and Moris Bellar. So, they're also sitting here in the audience. You can identify them by the shirt that I'm wearing. So, I'm also wondering what does actually Rasperezi stand for? It comes from the word precision in German, which is in English precision. And I'm myself not German, but Moris is German, so he helped me give this project a wonderful name. So, to talk a little bit about myself, when I'm not here actually at Fostem, I'm a PhD student at TU Delft, which is a technical university in the Netherlands. It's actually in a small Q-town. And what I actually did to a day-to-day basis is that I work on dependency management problems. So, one of the projects of course is Rasperezi. But I'm also into understanding practices and the way we can actually do dependency management more pleasant than better for developers. And before I was a PhD student, I actually worked on pull request prioritization and that was a lead developer start-up. So, before we dive into actually the idea of building a gigantic call graph, I was thinking we can actually revisit what dependency checkers or dependency manager, sorry, how dependency checker works. Just a question, how many of you do you use a dependency checker in general? Any hands? Okay, so there are quite a few. But I'll just give a bit introduction on how it actually works. So, over here I have a cargo.tomel file with some dependency specified. And over here you can see that some of them actually have a version range to it by the tilde or carat symbol. And when we, let's say like want to do some type of security checking or find out whether a dependency is vulnerable or has some license conflict, we first resolve the version. And after that we actually build the dependency tree. And this is basically like the top level dependencies, but actually we do have more dependencies that actually depend on those packages that are specified in the cargo.tomel file. And as you can see I didn't of course go further, but this is generally how our dependency tree look like. And in let's say like academia, we usually build dependency networks to actually understand how package repositories work like and maybe also understand problems like the left pad incident. So over here I have three packages. So one is package A, B, and C. And what we do is that we join them based on the same package version name. And this way for instance you can ask like, for those who depend on left package, how many of them would be affected if that one will be removed? And yeah, as I said, we bring those basically merged together into a single network. And then we have call graphs. And here I have a sample code, probably Rust Busudo, not exactly Rust code maybe. That actually looks into what is, sorry, that actually takes, it receives notifications, but we don't actually do nothing with it. So how do we build a call graph in this code? Well, the first thing that we do is we identify all the function calls and also the function definitions. So we have like the main function and also like is ready. And from this we look at who calls each other.  And in Rust we can actually do this using, for instance, like the LLVM IR code, which was mentioned in the previous talk. So you can, for instance, use the LLVM OPTI tool to actually generate the call graph. But then our days like this, so one problem is that when you analyze programs, you only get partial of it. And our days actually go beyond a single program, actually into the dependencies and get the full picture of actually how all functions are called. So here, of course, we have example with the connection and our own app, but we can also look at what functions do they also call the connection function. So we see a freeze like it calls something like request and the other one is like network link, for instance. And yeah, and then the second part that we do these days that not only do we only capture the functions of it, but we also annotate it with two versions. And by doing so, we can merge two concepts together, which is the dependency network and the call graphs. And together we get something called a call-based dependency network. So you might be wondering why should we do all of this in the beginning? Well, as library maintainers or even if you own something like Grace.io, you might be interested to know sort of things what's happening in the community. And so, for instance, like this is, of course, this doesn't really exist, this is just a vision, so you might, let's say, like install Prezi, and then you want to publish a new version. But then when you run it, you get a failed. And yeah, so the idea, why you got a failure, you remove the deprecated function, but then when we look at it, why did it get failed? Well, it's because you wanted to publish something that would affect 15% of Grace.io. And a good idea here could be that instead of making this as a problem for those who depend on your library, it can be put on, let's say, like on hold, and maybe some further analysis can be made on this. And then as an example, so like there may be the limit that threshold is 2% that you're allowed to break in Grace.io. And after this, you can also like analyze adoption. So here I had like two versions. So you can see, for instance, when you release your new version that from today and looking back one week, you can see that there are 5% less that they're using your version of 0.5.0 and there are 12% more that they're using 0.18. And there are also many more applications like, for instance, like health aspects, maybe also licensing, security, and also maybe we can learn cold patterns in general that can be for education purposes or other aspects. So the other question is like, okay, this maybe looks really cool, but how do we actually turn Grace.io into a gigantic call graph? It might sound simple on paper, but actually it's much more difficult than that. So the first thing, how do you actually first compile 22,000 packages? Because in the cargo.automobile file, you don't really know what compiler version is compatible, but also which architecture, for instance, because some packages are for Windows, some are for OS X, some are for embedded devices, so it's not all at trivial. And then also the other part is what is actually the entry point, what represents a package. Should it be the library component? Should it also be the binary, et cetera? So it's not that simple. And the other aspect is the version resolution. As you can see with the version range, they are time dependent. If you solve a package today and you do it one week later, it might be completely different. This is also a problem that affects how the complete graph looks like in the end.  But there are two important aspects. One is related to precision. So with precision is that you want to be sure that the call graph that you derive from the server is exact and complete. And the other one is to do with assignments, because there are aspects, for instance, like a dynamic dispatch, which is not easy to handle. And to sort of give an approximation of how it is, you can, for instance, like add unlikely calls. For instance, like you might have multiple implantations of a call. You basically create edges to all of them when you know through exactly which one it will do at runtime. So, spider's aspect, I still went ahead and did this. And to give an overview of the approach. So the first thing that I do is to retrieve and build the packages. So that means like downloaded packages. And then I did also some like cleaning in the Kroger's Homo files because in some of the versions you actually specify path dependencies, which does not exist when you use it. Then I validate them and build it. In the second step, I generate the call graph. And as I mentioned earlier, I actually did this with using the Elevent call graph generator. I know from discussions on the Rust forms that there are different ways to do it, but this was the way that I started initially. So the first thing is that you get the call graph. You get like this very mystic function called identifier, but it's not really really mystic, but that's Rust mangle function identifiers. Then you de-mangle it. In this case, I actually used the Rust field tool to do it. And then in the third step, I build unique identifiers, which I show like in the earlier call graph with the versioning. And then similar to dependency network, I merge them together. And then finally, once you have annotated and given all function identifiers their unique name, you can merge them together, and then you have your call-based dependency network. So the first step is... Oh, sorry. I'm going to talk two main challenges here. So one is, of course, with the compiling. And then the other one is with the function identifiers. There are, of course, many other challenges, but I won't have time to do that. So I did this back in 16th February 2018. So it's almost one year ago since I did that. And when I first tried to attempt building it, I got quite a few errors, which is, of course, expected and didn't make me so happy. So one of them was, for instance, like couldn't load, like the source dependency. Another one was, for instance, like could not run nightly features. And then there was also cases where there's a custom build command that I could not execute. I was able to mitigate some of them. So for instance, like the first case that I show over here is... I did basically by using a rewrite command in cargo that basically gets the published version of the cargo.toml file and not the one that you actually download from the API. Because sometimes they have path dependencies, so you don't... I mean, they shouldn't really be there, but yeah, so that was an issue. And then with nightly features, what I did is that I run a couple of nightly compilers to get it working, but then the problem is that you don't always know what exactly is the right nightly version to run for a crate. And then the last we've got some build scripts. So one way we mitigate it is by installing a lot of system packages. I learned recently there's actually one Docker file that actually does have all those system dependencies. I haven't tried that myself, but there is a solution to it. And I think one important thing here, which I would like to see in cargo, is that you can actually validate that the package can compile, but also that there are features that check which version of the compiler you use, what environment, etc., being taken into account. Yeah, so when I was skip out there, some other errors related to it, which is, for instance, like when I was trying to build that many of the packages actually use a trait but incorrectly. So there's a lot of these type of errors, so I find quite a few of them. And what is like the final compilation statistics. So after removing invalid manifests that exist over there, I had in total 12,000 packages, and then that went down to 72,000 releases in total of those packages. And then out of those, I managed to build 49,804 core graphs, which is in total 11,000 packages or crates. It took me 69 hours to do it. Of course, I didn't do it on MacBook. I actually used a cluster at the university for it. And in total I could build at that point of time 70% of crates.io. So we chose that there are some actually really good guarantees with cargo and crates to actually build packages. All right, then the other part is with the Rust symbols. So I wanted to annotate version numbers to it. But then the problem here is that I cannot use simple regex to do it, unfortunately. So I had to actually build a parser on top of it. So luckily, sorry, you can see for instance like it has this semver as core, and here's basically like the semver version rege implementing the traits partial ordering. And to solve this, I used, let's say, like a build on top of sin, which actually parses Rust code and added this specific Rust CLLVM symbols to do it. And by doing this, I was able to annotate version numbers. And for you know, for me to append the version numbers, I basically, let's say, look at the cargo log file of the package after building it, extracting this information, and then upending it to it. So I add first like the ecosystem that I use in the library version, the module, and the function name. And this is the way I create a unique function identifier. So I'm not going to do a live demo, but I'm going to show a little bit what you can do with it. And I did actually two applications with it. One is, of course, the popular security. And I also did one with deprecation. I think many of you probably have seen this, of course, not with Rust code, but probably with JavaScript and I think also probably RubyJumps code. So I tried this using the RustSec database. So at that point of time, they had six advisories. And from those advisories, I could extract certain functions that were affected by some form of vulnerability. And I did this using both a regular dependency checker, that means I looked just at the package information, which I showed before with the dependency checker. And then I used with my RustBretzy to see the number of packages. And here we can clearly see the advantage of having doing it on the call graph level because we get more precision and avoid false positives. And as you can see, the numbers are much less, which means that I, as a developer, don't have to actually really go through too many packages when I have to see whether there are false positives. And to see if this result is actually accurate at some point, this is just a lot of false positives. So I looked only at the direct dependencies and analyzed that. And I found that using RustBretzy, it's actually three times more accurate than using the regular dependency-based approach. Something that I didn't mention here in the slide is that there are some problems with respect to the completeness of RustBretzy because I do not get, for instance, dynamically disparate functions. Also, there are some problems with conditional compilation, et cetera. But in principle, by doing it on the call graph level, we can actually have higher precision when we do such type of analysis. And also a really cool thing is that I was, of course, posting this on the Rust forums. I'm not sure if you have seen it, but, yeah, so Tony from the RustSec community, he added this feature with affected functions. So that's a very nice thing for me. Later on, that I can actually easily just import data from the Rust security database, get the function to fire an inquiry on the RustBretzy graph. So the other case I looked at was deprecations. I did a very small study. So I looked at, for instance, like the questionnaires, like how many will be affected by a removal of a deprecated function? So this was the main reason why I wanted to do this. And so I looked at functions, like using my dataset of all packages. I looked at how many of them actually had a deprecated function by using this annotation. And I didn't find too many of them. I found from 11 releases with six packages. So with these ones, so basically once they were actually used by other people, there are, of course, many more. And I found that in total, those were actually using those 11 functions were 311, let's say, packages. And those are not only top-level packages, but also transitive packages. And if I would try to remove those functions, 52 of them would actually be affected. Of course, whether they're actually removed or not, that's a different discussion, but this is some form of analysis that you can do with RustBretzy. And yeah, so I really want this to be a community effort. So the way I envision with RustBretzy is that I would like to do analysis and do data-driven decisions. For instance, the Crater project, which runs like a regression on, yeah, Crater.io using the compiler. But also, for instance, like the ecosystem workgroup, where they actually try to find crates that have, for instance, like not been maintained for a long time, or some other problems in which they actually need some attention, and also their security workgroup, as I showed in one slide. And yeah, this is a bit like, maybe what I really would like to, sorry, this is really what I want to go forward with. And there are, of course, many open problems. So this is actually a prototype. And as a researcher, it's, of course, I'm a researcher doing development, but I really hope to make this something that actually can benefit the community as, yeah, the wider community. And yeah, so as you've probably seen on T-shirt and also many posters, one way to actually help me to do RustBretzy better is to actually take my survey. So unfortunately, time is long, but I would really appreciate if you could fill out some problems that you experienced with dependency management or other things, or other point of suggestions, yeah, with dependency management in general. So thank you very much. I'm ready for questions. So your question is about what is the number of false positives in general with using RustBretzy, but also like with control full graphs, why I don't include that. So with respect to control full graphs, because I wanted to build this one ecosystem, the first level of granularity that I wanted to look is at the call graph level. The other days that, for instance, I can slice part of the call graph, I mean, let's say like those affected paths throughout the ecosystem, and do more fine-graded analysis by actually extracting the control full graph for that part of function. So going one step level down. With respect to false positives, so because I'm using the LLVM call graph generator, it is precise, but it is not sound. So it is missing dynamic function invocations. It cannot handle, for instance, like generic functions. So this is a big problem in using this. And of course I'm trying to look for better call graph alternatives. So I would really like some help here and actually how to do it better, but also do something that is more, let's say like complete. For instance, like in Java, you have Sotovala, which covers a lot of features. It would also be very nice if there is something similar for Rust as well. Any more questions? Yeah, I guess that's it.


The first mentor that had ever really introduced me to acupuncture was the person that was treating me and he said something really interesting to me as I was going about the process of trying to fix my lifelong GI problems that I'd seen many specialists and doctors for. He said that all illnesses are a gift and an opportunity and it took me a long time to realize what he was actually trying to say because at the moment I was just pretty pissed off that he would say that but in this video I want to share what I think is a very wise insight that that mentor of mine gave me and I think I see a lot in other people who are trying to heal themselves. What's up guys? Alex Hein, author of the book Master of the Day and I've included a free PDF. It's the first link in the description and it's on five daily rituals that can possibly help you add 10 years to your life with traditional Chinese medicine. Check it out the first link in the description. So the first thing I want you to think about here is that symptoms and sickness are canaries in the coal mine. So if you're not familiar this expression comes from the coal miners who'd bring a canary. Basically the canary would behave differently or die if carbon monoxide was being secreted into the atmosphere in the local locally inside the coal mine. So the canary dying would indicate that the air was unsafe to breathe and so the coal miners could leave quickly but in the same way sickness and illness they're all indicators of something being out of balance right? Every single symptom, depression, pain, bloating, insomnia, they're all messages your body's trying to give you and it's served the role evolutionarily of preventing yourself from doing further damage that could be something you cannot fix later. So the first thing we always have to view illness and symptoms is always their messages. They're messages about what's not working right now but they obviously are only messages if you listen to them. If you don't then they're just annoyances. So the second thing that's really important here is that in the same way because symptoms are messages about what's wrong they're also the Hansel and Gretel breadcrumb paper trail candy trail to get back to wellness. So there's a popular concept called solutogenesis which is basically that your symptoms are a way of finding your way back to health right? Anxiety indicates a certain specific imbalance bloating indicates a certain specific imbalance depression indicates a certain specific imbalance physical pain and so on and so forth. So illness has to be viewed as the opportunity to recognize the signs and the symptoms that are trying to say hey pay attention this is what's going on right now and these are the ways you can get back to what's going what would be a state of balance or a state of feeling well again. So the first thing is that symptoms and illness always has to be viewed as it's a canary in the coal mine it's a signal hey pay attention pay attention pay attention and then the second thing is it shows the exact breadcrumb paper trail to get back to feeling like yourself again and finally sickness and illness are a gift because they're showing you exactly what you need to get back to wellness again. So no matter how bad the illness or the sickness or the symptoms your affirmation internally always has to be this sickness this illness these symptoms are a gift and they're showing me what to do to get well again because if you view it any other way this is so annoying I hate this this is stupid I'm dying like why is this happening to me this oh it's just like my mom said would happen it's my genetics anything else disempowers you and it prevents you from recognizing the signal that something has gotten wrong right self medicating by drinking a bunch of alcohol when you've had chronic insomnia means okay maybe this can help you for a night or for a few nights but then you're missing the message the message of what else is going on in life that's preventing that from happening the same with anxiety or depression or SIBO whatever the symptom the affirmation always has to be in the intention this is a gift this is a message illness is a gift it's a gift and a message what is it trying to say what is it trying to say what is it trying to say because then you're putting yourself in the mind state of I this is something that's happening for me it's delivering the message I have to open the letter and read it and figure out what it wants me to do and because then you'll do it and you can return to a state of healing rather than being caught in this mire of just why is this happening I hate this I feel like crap every day what do I do this sucks like this my genetics it's the weather it's whatever those things are not going to help you heal because those are not empowering beliefs those are things that you put your locus of control externally outside of you so I hope this helps a little bit if you yourself are recovering from something I found that in my own quote recovery viewing illnesses as a gift and as a message like my mentor told me was one of the most important things I've ever come to realize because then you're going to take the steps naturally to heal and you're going to recognize it as an opportunity in his words and not as a curse or the bane of your existence so I hope that helps you guys of course you can check out the first link in the description which is for a free download on five daily rituals that can potentially help you add 10 years to your life with traditional Chinese medicine you can also check out my last related videos in the topic right there and right there