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I'm back on legal So do you got to get a better mock draft illegal illegal gave you gave you zero out of 32 Well, that might be the reason Ruby wave Russell Westbrook Lakers Didn't answer in time, you know silver Basley for the thunder. We'll do a hit recap and we'll get some of the nicer color in there as well guys Especially basketball, yeah Donnie basketball, we're starting with a gold Oh Chris whoever Somebody we are just talking about Chris or it was a victor Just talking about him a minute ago. Congrats Kings on the gold C-web with a fab five Very nice that's actually pretty funny and cool. That's a good hit that's solid Hey, go Brian are People that I'd say anything mojo or lower for sure Mojo or lower in this for sure silver prismatic Kyrie Irving for the Nets Timeout legend. Hey Kings again a silver Keegan Murray now. Wow Kings. These are looking up for you The first quarter of the box Oh, yeah, I guess reggae's Which is which is restaurants restaurant kitchen slang for regular Ruby wave PJ Tucker Nets Hyper Lou Williams Hawks Lemon pepper Lou as they call them. What's that? You know how like they When you run out of something they say like 87 that or 86 86. Yeah, they should do 66. Why oh, what a 60 Blue ice Sotomayor 125 Suns that why yeah Silver Kevin Harder for the Kings Jayden Ivy Red mpj for the nugs number to 299 Jason the jet Terry sensational SIGs Mavericks pulse our J Crowder Suns Trevor Kiehl's and Tyrese Martin rookies. This is not the most exciting hockey game so far Are you accept upset that the that the Habs are beating the Bruins right now? There's more hockey and ESPN orange wave Brandon Ingram there you go pelicans Number 21 out of 60 Stars are gonna put it on silver Tyler here over the heat. 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He would just come troll me and That makes me feel better what I Was gonna say maybe don't any word of that wrong because Donnie is easy to talk to Like when you like like I have to get to know you for yeah, yeah, that's I think that's a little different though Like you're you're definitely easy to talk to Purple ice PJ Tucker sixers numbered to 149 hyper Jadon McDaniels T wolves Jaden Hardy Dale and Terry Legals there Orange wave Doreen Finney Smith for the Mavericks. That was number to 60 27 out of 60 Silver Bertans maves Oh champ Marjampo champ Ruby wave rookie Tyrese and there you go Rockets that's solid hyper Montrez hail 76ers That's true. We did get along to my junior rookie Rockets until we went to trade night and he tried to tell everybody that I was famous You know like meeting someone that's in chat would I would be different because you know kind of talking to them for They're our friends died silver Alec Berks for the pistons Jade and Ivy Maybe illegal teach me how to play the slot machine This year you hit max bet and just hit spin I tried everything I lost it all I had to hit I had to hitchhike home from Atlantic City Silver fireworks Anthony Davis Lakers Hyper rookie Jabari Walker Blazers Silver Kenneth Lofton rookie there you go Grizzlies. Oh Our friend actually He was gonna treat us like Hello gentlemen, you know all that all that Mumbo jumbo blue Ruby Hatchimore at a 199 for the Wizards hyper Jane and McDonald's T-wolves Formal you gonna be wearing a top at the Monaco. No, he'll be wearing an Eagles jersey Or a Phillies jersey Yeah, silver fearless the mellow ball for the Hornets And shake silver Kellen Johnson for the Spurs Usman a dang You know when I was a kid my dad made it this whole big thing about firm handshakes and stuff like that in eye contact and That gets you like oh You know that gets you you need to get the mile I get to like an inch You know, I mean Ruby wave lorry marketing for the jazz Pull star Jalen Brunson nicks straight on sharp My first job interview when I was like 18 or 19 or whatever like my first real one I had I had like jobs that like just showed up to and stuff We're gonna my uncle but like my actual like the first time I actually went to do like a job interview I was like 18 or 19 got blue ice pad pebb to 125 at the Lakers I think I shook that the guy's hand like too hard silver Kyle Lowry heat. I was like all right firm handshake I think I I'm pretty sure looking back. I shook his hand like too hard too hard That's how it goes Red Jeff green at 299 nuggets with a Christian wood Mavericks signatures and a pulsar Tobias Harris sixers Jalen Doran Yeah, that's like me when I go to work. Sometimes we're a blue late insurance or a black late insurers Sometimes it were the diversity ones. Sometimes it were the Breast cancer awareness one Ruby wave Jalen Smith Pacers got silver drew you banks for the Blazers Oh shag Bajie for the jazz. I want to get like holiday ones I mean, just just like just like probably like the holidays like I want to do like all of them. No, I do like Conica, I'll do all of them around that time of year. I've got a buddy back home Sorry doing a shirt like business and like you making like holiday ones and stuff really Not I mean like because of my own stuff, but that's kind of like can we get a weekend of Donny's shirt? He's got to get the image, right? That is true blue rookie.  There you go heat. That's solid number two of 199 and magic Kavan Harris sensational signatures. Oh, hey, um Hi for Austin Reeves Lakers. I'm not sure any locals to Florida. I'm not sure if you saw this But the Lakeland magic are moving to Kissimmee So the G League magic moving to Kissimmee So I have to go to some of those games Osceola magic got Ruby wave Kauai Leonard Clippers Got a silver D'Angelo Russell Timberwolves Ravea keels It's Invicta.  I'm all caught up before you ask red Brandon Clark And yes, it's like the best scene I've ever seen in any show to 299 Brandon Clark Grizzlies Kaminga warriors bad baby Sensational Sigs there you go hyper D Wade heat Jaden Hardy Dylan Terry silver prismatic Kyrie Irving for the Nets Silver David Robbins and Spurs Marjano Bochamp Vaughn come on Come on Vaughn That's that's my that's my generation's Grand Hill. You understand Ruby wave shake Yildus Alexander Thunder Got hyper Aaron Wiggins Thunder Shabaris with a junior Rockets rookie. That's I wash it in No disrespect to Jonathan Isaac as a player or person ever. I just want him out of Orlando I it's time to move on purple DeAndre Hunter Hawks number to 99 Got a silver Jonathan. There he is. We're speaking cards into existence now silver Isaac Jaden Ivy. I'm just getting mocked Orange wave Lou Will Hawks to 60 Silver Chris Middleton Bucks No, squeezy bad baby What an eye what an iconic line Keegan Murray Kings. I didn't want to spoil it, but I seen was so good It's hopping around the the office Ruby wave rookie Jalen Williams for the Thunder Hyper buddy healed Pacers. It's not really giving anything away. It's not anything like Now like I brand them. I don't want to give like that. I thought it's kind of spoilery But when he's hitting the button and it's like no, no, yes, that's pretty good. I don't want to yeah I don't want to hold the whole yeah the ending here silver Frank Jackson pistons. I will say This season been awesome Tari eason And there's for sure gonna be more than just this season like it's gonna keep going which is good I don't know how many seasons they play on it, but I'm they're talking about a man. Let him let him I don't want that but let him keep going the series is the where it should be though Because there's like spin-off episodes and like old side quest things a hyper-monogenobly spurs. It's where it belongs And then I just think they're gonna try you too much with it. That's what I'm afraid of Rolling on this let's make a movie Don't make a star movie just keep it on series silver fireworks, Anthony and Edward Steawolves You can do so you can do so much more storytelling unlike the course of like a series for Star Wars, right? Silver Zion pelicans We're tapped out on those. You know what I mean? We've had just doing one more season than that's over That's good. I will I will catch up one day, Donnie red Conniton bucks number to 299 You literally have to watch like eight episodes of season two pulsar Steven Ash Suns you can skip most of it They're not long episodes. They're They're what like not even half hour. They're like 25 minutes. Yeah, I Would I just don't want that illegal like nothing like Isaac is great when he's on the floor But he's only been healing play like what like 15 games from on this year And that was the first time he's played in like three or something He can be a difference maker if he can just somehow stay healthy But there's a lot of guys like that and just pro sports is like, oh When is that gonna happen, you know There's a Garrison Matthews Rockets red power to 75 silver aladipo heat Did you guys see that? The commanders are gonna sell soon To the magic Johnson group it looks like I Would have to imagine. I don't know what's going on here. I'm just gonna flip it like this purple ice then you have deal wizards number to one 49 with the doka as a buke jazz sensational signatures Pulsar rookie Trevor Kiehl's nicks Lendell Agbaji Ruby wave of Cole Anthony for the magic Silver Jordan Clarkson jazz Kendall Brown Jalen Doran hyper Lydell rookie for the pelicans Benedict Matherin Benedict Arnold Matherin like down better you like the other one better Like eggs that come about Mather like Benedict Arnold Matherin Silver prismatic probably be a wizard It's historical as well silver stuttermire for the Sun's Bochamp rookie for the Bucks J. No hardy base as well. I saw I was thinking about I was like dude How happy like this is probably the best day as a commander's fan in so long Like since the since like the 2012 or 2011 drafts Ruby wave Aaron Wiggins for the Thunder Got hyper Kemble Walker nicks Dale and Terry Vince Williams Jr. All right, come on now. We need a big card silver widescreen. Damien Lillwood blazers Silver rookie Keegan Murray Kings again Good stuff for the Kings good stuff Blue for them Lakers is magic Johnson to 199 Next is a hyper Doug McDermott for the Spurs and they probably will won't they illegal I mean I would get my hopes up to though Maybe not for like the neck the next season, but you know purple deundre eight ninety nine for the Sun's nice color match Silver John Wall Clippers Trevor Kiehl's Tyrese Martin Ruby wave rookie shade on sharp blazers What a great card Congrats blazers Portland Alexandros Congrats Ruby wave shade on sharp got a hyper rookie Vince Williams Jr. for the Grizzlies Jay Nivey, why would they do that Steve? Silver Derrick White Celtics? To bars with junior Rockets rookie cherry Jones enjoying a Danish from afar Red Marvin Bagley going to the pistons number two two ninety nine and look at that rookie sensational signatures magic Palo Ben caro Andrew M. Here he is hyper Franz in the same pack tie tie. Thank you. Thank you There we go, that's how we do it Jake was like laughing Jake laughs at everything though, that's true if I can't make Jake laugh. I'm doing something way wrong You can't make Jake laugh. You truly not fun at all. I Love that song to see that's my song Ruby wave. Anthony Simons blazers. I like to think that's Palo Ben caro's ringtone Pulsar Steve Nash Suns Lofton base Kessler orange Carmelo Lakers Numbered to 49 35 at a 49 It's so cool that Carmelo and guys like CP3 and Harden are alive and eminent. It's so cool silver uber a Hornets Some more eminence tomorrow guys tomorrow night. You also got What's up, it's like cut auto Yeah, cut off that all of us. Did you know I'm saying I pulled the Charles Dickens yesterday. I heard that Can I have some more red Brandon Ingram pelicans to 299 The damn should coming up. 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Let's see something big here blue prism shack Lakers to 199 big shack Hyper hero heat By g orange wave rookie Tyrese Martin Hawks low numbered here six of sixty Silver after that eight and for the Sun's X Christy Andrew Nemard Ruby wave rookie Malachi brand of spurs Yeah, this is prismed is definitely nicer Ricky hyper Kenneth Hawthand jr. Grizzlies It's a step up silver a shoe up for the heat Marjambod champ Jane and Hardy on the box six No, I did not Charles, but I heard about it Derek Carson and Justin Herbert cards a I'm sure whoever got that love that Seven to go on contenders soon everybody So contenders half case good shot get you guys a link right now Look at it teams like Broncos Texans Colt Saints Giants Titans in Washington again. That's half case number 30 number 29 is sold out That's actually kind of funny Joshua Ruby wave Nurkich Blazers Got pulse our rookie debate Clippers Kenneth Lofton jr. Orange wave Chris Paul Sun's good color match on this one 20 of 60 Silver hardaway for the Mavericks Which more are you talking about Randy? Mo Bamba or Mo Wagner? Ruby wave Pat Ewing clip for the Knicks Hyper rookie Johnny Davis wizards deal and Terry Guys got playbook football release day tomorrow as well as dynasty baseball silver George's nang sixers hard on Bochamp Jane Hardy blue prism Jalen Brunson Knicks number 2 199 with an iota sumu bowls second-year signatures Hyper rookie Jalen Williams thunder Christian Brown base Silver Terence man Clippers. Yeah, and they made T Mac a raptor to Randy.  Playbook is always a good time Hyper Norman Powell Clippers Jalen Doran base Benedict Matherin we have all her slider boxes, right? I hope so Donny. I hope so. Maybe we'll do a lot silver Cole Anthony magic Oshay Agbaji Kendall Brown So you guys got Sam on the main channel in the morning and Matt on the baseball channel tomorrow Ripping both of your release day products Six to go on contenders And after contenders we have those 22 23 and 21 22 prison basketball mixers nice blue Luca Mavericks color match 51 of 99 with the pulsar Evan for me a Knicks Nemar Liddell purple Montrez Harold 76ers and 99 Silver after that swiper for the Kings deer and Fox Jang and Minot Brad rookie Wendell more junior Timberwolves Numbered 68 of 299. We've got Trevor Kiehl's rookie signatures for the Knicks Hyper Kyrie Nets shade on sharp Chat Holgren. Oh, yeah, I try to forget about clearly down rest football Ruby wave Lou Williams for the Hawks Silver Evan Mowley Cavaliers Houston, okay, come on second half of the case. We've hit some big cards so far when it's a One hit better color one more gold. Maybe a black may black and gold name some mojo Yes with a lot last night though, yeah, we did they're not easy to pull If it made it seem like it it felt like it was pretty easy, but yeah, you're right in half way anyone going to the anyone local going to the Layton gaming shop for the grand opening tomorrow or like over the weekends that place is gonna be busy Bad Quentin Grimes for the Knicks number 228 of 299 Got a hyper rookie Caleb Houston magic Jalen Doran rookie. At least it's a rookie TV Red power bowls Alex Caruso the Caruso here to 75 color matches. Well, like I said, Montez Monty Morris was just a Montez Ford Oh Shag Bajie Kendall Brown Ruby wave Tyrese maxi 76ers Got a hyper miles Turner for the Pacers Bari Smith tie tie. Thank you. Thank you true orange bulls Kobe white now numbered 60 Or 49 sorry six at 49 Silver Wiggins Warriors IV base Pistons. I believe so Paul. They're gonna get to that point that's eventually red Powell for the Clippers 299 jazz auto Kelly Ullinick sensational signatures Pulsar Clarkson jazz Everybody in chat that we'd run out of spots. I run out of money. So Seems like that won't happen Ruby wave Anthony Davis Lakers silver Josh Hart Blazers Chad Holmgren hyper miles Turner Pacers Shade on sharp. I mean if there's a gaming almanac, it'll be done there Without a doubt Silver prismatic Lillard for the Blazers Silver Charles Barkley 76ers Benedict Matherin Caleb Houston. Come on now We're a little bit of a lull here with some what's big cards. We need a big card Ruby wave rookie Blake Wesley Spurs with a pulsar Agbaji jazz. That's nice Kristi Andrew Nemarty Jill Liddell needs some more color in this break We need a goal now we're on it to heat Gotta lay low silver Kevin Love calves Well, hopefully we got some almanacs coming up soon before you guys We'll be working on them more now purple ice buddy healed Pacers Number to 149 with a Scotty Barnes Raptors second-year Silver Auto Nice hit Raptors hyper Levine bulls Jaden Hardy one giveaway per thumbs up. Oh Boy silver luck of the lottery chat homegrown for the thunder Silver Ben Wallace pistons Yeah, okay illegal. Okay, Tony. What's it? What's the next giveaway broken top loaders? Yet is Paul it will for sure be that it is like not just a car shop It's a really cool place to hang out like it's built for that The layout is phenomenal rich killed it with that hyper Bruce Brown nuggets Like if I live closer, I would for sure go more often if I didn't live half an hour away from the gaming shop I wouldn't I would be there probably a couple days a week Yes Maybe it's good because I would spend a lot of money on cards Caleb is a good salesperson Silver widescreen. You know something Bucks Kels very convincing silver Jonas Valentino's pelicans Nice and Daniels No, it does not Paul. Unfortunately. It is not much smaller blue prison PJ Tucker Sixers Numbered 100 of 199 Fred Brown Sonic's auto go into the thunder Yes, it does have model painting area hyper drew holiday bucks There's board games there to like just regular board games Cortes bought the Bob Ross Opley Oceac Bajie Yeah, dude, they had one copy of Bob Ross Monopoly Cortes bought it silver prismatic debook sons Silver rookie Patrick Baldwin Junior Warriors I'll play Bob Ross Opley Ruby wave James Harden Sixers Which is kind of hyper Jaden Hardy. There you go Mavs. That's a nice card Hyper Hardy explainer junior Which is a kind of a an oxymoron Bob Ross monopoly because he's so calm and like all that a monopoly gets very competitive and intense So it's very it's like polar opposites Rudy go bear This guy is always an interesting fella 20 of 25 Rudy go bears he wolves Silver Lamello Hornets Coloco Brown T Mac Ruby waves even Ash Suns Hyper debook Suns Palo Ben caro a painting on stream Silver Kevin Durant for the Nets You know how people do like wine and paint nights We should do like like model paint night at the at the gaming shop everybody was like a model and paints it We can't cool kind of Lofton jr. Maybe the best painted model gets like a Free box something $50 short credits only that happy little accent. Do not do not pass go to my $200 Hornets blue prison the 199 Full star Dory and Finney Smith Mavericks Sparrow Walker Isaiah Mobley.  That's such a good idea Red power Mike Conley jazz is 75 So got silver miles Turner Pacers speaking of what Paul just said so there's a channel on YouTube I like to watch they do like a lot of gaming stuff But they do like what a series called let's roll and some just all play in like a board game Hmm red Barkley to 299 like high entertainer actor, but I think that can be shown. You should do that calves brad darty silver signatures Pulsar Ricky Dale and Terry bulls Arjan Bochan don't know it can be live because we might have to bleep out some words Yeah, it would be like a replay we can like speed up certain parts and stuff to like a fast forward effect We'll be wave of deal was No, yeah, you just do the bleep you got to have that there for effect of silver KAT teams have to have a filter on Sean Actually, he doesn't he's in curse a whole lot Be honest, I think I curse Yeah, that's true. Yeah, yeah, he's he's very professional here for the most part Not like like not like all very professional guy, but like he won't he doesn't say things like that, right? which I Should try Victor But like at the same time I would want to like make content out of it at the same time So purple ice Montrez herald to 149 for the Sixers not a lot of people have that same mentality Pulsar Ricky Patrick Baldwin Jr. Warriors, right? I Love board games so I can shag Baji So some people I can be really annoying because I could like be kind of obnoxious Cuz I'm trying to like cause a reaction, but no one's watching so it's like The purple Jalen Smith Pacers to 99 silver Jamon Green Warriors Victor No, I haven't played that but the YouTube channel that I was talking about played that and they like Kind of like cosplay not cosplay, but like roleplayed like the characters they got it's so it was so funny Why has been red warriors to 99? I would love to do that with people Redemption here hyper RJ Hampton. Yeah, the model the model painting thing is that there's a lot of that at that The gaming shop. There's a lot. It was like a whole third of the store That's like Warhammer and like certain certain similar games to that Chet Holmgren Redemption Isaiah Mowgli rookie signatures Cavaliers again. I guess warhamers bigger than I thought it was Yeah, we're pretty big. There's a lot people spend a lot on it, too But my every dynasty tomorrow to start the evening Ruby wave DFS for the Mavericks Silver Marcus smart Celtics Maca smart Caleb Houston shade on sharp show you how tiny Ricky cards are already worth a lot so hyper Patrick Ewing for the Knicks Benedict Arnold Matherin No, I never heard of that game Victor It's a pretty fun game Or it looks like it'd be a fun game. I don't play a ton of like I don't I don't have time to hang out like it sucks Dude, I don't have a lot of people Silver prismatic Kevin Durant Nets like I'll be lucky if I see friends like every like once every couple months or so Ricky silver bow champ for the Bucks. So pretty much like Jalen Doran Pretty much everyone gets to be like a person that gets to bring like Goods into like this village and then one person plays the sheriff Where if you're not honest Jalen Smith blue to 199 for the Pacers You're not honest with what you like kind of like Johnny Juzang rookie signatures jazz. Tell him what You have in like your little bag or whatever you have pretty much like If he searches it and finds like contraband like bow and arrow or like a something like that like you got to pay them or yes To pay you vice versa. It's just get as much money as you can It's pretty fun silver luck of the lottery Chet Holmgren for the thunder hard to explain Silver rookie Janna Hardy Mavericks nice Hardy again for the Mavericks Palo Ben caro base Ruby wave Duarte Pacers Got a hyper on a nobby Raptors Kenneth Lothan jr. Walker Kessler, I Would love to do like board game type stuff We'll have to we'll have to do some content when the prison monopoly comes out and have us like play it I think that'd be fun prison monopoly the prison basketball monopoly Yeah, Hasbro and Peony partnered Orange wave like specific parallels and stuff you get like a pack per like box you open but like yeah Orange wave Carmelo to 60 for the Lakers Silver step curry warriors Christy Andrew Neymar Victor have you ever played the one night werewolf game? That was like really fun. 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I think they've only orders for tomorrow come in so far Yeah, so six to go on contenders everybody Six to go half case 30 Broncos Texan's Colts Giants Titans in Washington nice All right y'all last quarter of the case here Ruby wave Daniel tights Pacers Silver pokus have ski thunder Yeah, it makes sense juice people are just trying to buy and flip See what they can get for him hyper Deandre Hunter Hawks Jovic Silver firework Steph Curry Warriors Silver Brandon Clark Grizzlies Wesley McGowan's Silver fearless Trey young Atlanta silver rookie Jalen Williams thunder nice card Kenneth Lofton Ruby wave Kyrie Irving for the Nets hyper Miles Turner Pacers Got jang Josh Minot not even like complicated board games like playing some of those You've played cool, I'm assuming Who is a phone one because this is fast-paced you can kind of just stop whenever like you don't get like tied Do you know what I mean? Yeah, it's good for like a little bigger groups We have like six or eight people or whatever blue ice Roby for the spurs to 125 Friends, I haven't played now for a long time silver Jalen sucks magic Shade on sharpening games like that like wires dice is fun got chat home grid with a game similar to that See like I've never had a lot of like people that I've known the like So like I'd totally be down to do it I just never had that I some friends are all on that console like they play like munchkins and things like that But I just never see him purple ice Bobby Portis number to 149 for the bucks Hornets David Wesley sensational signatures Pulsar Jalen Brunson nicks Hungry hungry hippos That is a great game. I just get so mad at that game when I was a kid I probably get even more mad now to be honest silver Brook Lopez for the bucks Christian gloco Christian Brown Yeah, Paul that'll be a fun one That'll be a fun day red prism Darius Basley for the thunder number to a 299 with a Dwayne Wade Heat silver sensational signatures nice card There we go Miami hyper GP to for the Blazers the mitten got Walker Kessler Palo Ben caro blue prism for the Paisers Aaron Nessmith number to 199 Hyper I just turned upside down Obi-Wan jenoblee is a griffin Peter's nephew orange Dwight Powell Mavericks number to 49 silver Lucanard Clippers Mowbly Dyson Daniels Ruby wave rookie a jay griffin Hawks nice Pulsar Benedict Mather and rookie Pacers There we go very good pack there Come on prism be good to us last two boxes be good to us In enterprise Pulsar Richardson spurs Christie Nemar Liddell Me my buddy and his wife always used to do like Mario parties like all the time Silver wide screen Jason Tatum Celtics. Yeah, I'm our party's a fun game silver Dominic Wilkins Hawks game like mini games I like those we got to the point where like we would be so good at the game. We had that we played like 50 turns Like we would just spend four hours Malcolm Brogdon red with a Celtics number to a 299 it gets like that though hyper Caruso bulls Jaden Hardy Dylan Terry we took a whole day one time and played Mario Party We played one map from four five and eight or something and like we did like a Vince Williams Jr. Red Prism a 299 rookie and Isaiah Livers Pistons base auto whole Sargo bear Like we carried over stars to like whatever stars you got from the first game you had starting the second game Oh, yeah, it was a full thing. It was over fireworks Kyrie Nets Silver rookie Yovitch heat Chat home grin who's money dang, and that'd be fun Tyler. They already made those for the for the switch Like the all the N64 Mario parties Ruby wave Josh Hart for the Blazers hyper Cameron Johnson sons Shade on sharp orange wave Cam Reddish for the Knicks 20 of 60 color match Knicks silver Jalen Suggs magic Benedict Matherin Caleb Houston N64 controller such a terrible controller They're not great. They're awful man, rookie blue, but they're like iconic. You know, I mean Vince Williams junior rookie blue prism It's a 199 the games are so good that everyone like looks at the controller. Oh, yeah, it's kind of cool But it stinks but Grizzlies Josh Christopher Rockets on the signatures Hyper rookie Jaden Hardy Maverick's doing really well Jalen Doran Tyler probably has a callus palm from having to rotate the stick really quick It's all Scabbed and scratched up and stuff Exactly, right. Yeah, it's a worse controller when I'm like, yeah, like holding that game controller. 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And there's so much to learn from this and I have no problem covering this, but I want you guys to realize like we need to reflect on ourselves. And there's so much that we can find insight to by watching this whole thing play out. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired. Where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health. Sometimes what I do is take different topics going on in the YouTube community to try to see what we can personally learn from them to improve our own mental and emotional wellbeing. So if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And I'm going to keep driving this home like just quick, just real quick thing.  I know 90% of you watching this video have anxiety. He and I spoke about coping with anxiety during this tough time. His name is Dr. Judson Brewer. His TED Talk has over nine million views and I had the honor of interviewing him on my channel. So please, for the love of God, after this video, go check that video out, all right? Like I discuss the YouTube stuff to see what we can learn, but when I bring an actual professional, like just do me a favor. Go check it out. I guarantee it'll help you. All right, end rant. So anyways, let's discuss. I checked my Instagram DMs and I like, I haven't gotten this many messages like in a row in a while. And people are letting me know that Trisha Paytas just released not one, but two videos. All right, so I'm gonna break it down into a few sections, okay? And again, like there's so much that we can learn from this. So the first thing I wanna just touch on, real quick, regardless of what you think of Trisha Paytas, regardless of what your opinion is of her, like the over the top nasty comments are not cool. They're not necessary. I hope nobody from my audience ever leaves those type of comments. For example, here's an example of an email that I got yesterday. I'm not gonna read it out loud because I hope my video stays monetized, but just take a look at this email, all right? So just so you know, like it's not cool. And I think maybe some YouTubers are able to just empathize with one another when it comes to those types of comments. But yeah, like Trisha Paytas discussing like the passing of her uncle in that. And as many of you saw in the disclaimer in the beginning, like I am not a licensed professional. All I have is assumptions and theories based on my own personal experience. But if I was talking with somebody, if this was a friend, if Trisha Paytas was a friend of mine, with all this stuff going on with the associate did and Anthony Padilla, I would ask, I'd be like, do you think this has anything to do with the grief that you're experiencing right now? See, a lot of times we try to escape these difficult emotions that we're going through, like human suffering is just inevitable. And this idea that we're ever gonna reach this place where we have this perfect life, it's just unobtainable. We're going to experience loss. We're going to experience tragedy, but the worst thing that we could do is try to run away from it. So I'm wondering if this is a distraction for Trisha Paytas rather than processing this type of grief. You know what I mean? But again, I don't know, but if this is something that you're struggling with, like just pay attention. A lot of people have very self-destructive behaviors after experiencing a loss in their lives. Sometimes it is the loss of a friend or family member, but sometimes it's a relationship or the loss of a job. Like a lot of us will just go into this effort mode and completely self-sabotage, all right? So the main thing, the main thing, I'm gonna talk about something really interesting called attribution bias in a little bit, but the main thing I wanna talk about in this video, in this video, is Trisha Paytas multiple times in this video discusses how she's been told by multiple mental health professionals that she shows traits of borderline personality disorder. She has talked to different therapists and psychologists. They have talked about her fear of abandonment. And if you remember when we discussed the symptoms of borderline personality disorder, it is this very intense fear of abandonment, all right? Oftentimes it is an imagined fear, right? And it can turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy, okay? But you combine fear of abandonment, this intense fear of abandonment with poor emotional regulation, you get what they call BPD rage. I discussed this in a video a few days ago. Anyways, she discusses how therapists have, you know, discussed her borderline traits and have suggested things like dialectical behavioral therapy. But something Trisha mentions in that video is when she starts going through therapy and doing the work, it brings up a lot of terrible emotions and memories and everything like that and then pfft, then she's done. And this is something that I can relate to a lot, okay? So in 12 step programs, I'm seven and a half years clean, 12 step programs saved my life, I had no money, no insurance, these were free and I went to them and there's something known in 12 step communities that some of you might have heard of before. We call them the one, two, three steppers, okay? Like the first three of the 12 steps in alcoholics anonymous, narcotics anonymous, they're pretty like smooth sailing, right? It may have a problem, you know, believe in this higher power that can restore you to sanity, turn your will in your life over, you're like, okay, I got this, I'm getting this momentum. But a lot of people duck and run once they get to the fourth step, all right? The fourth step involves so much introspection, it involves looking at your past and worst of all, it's looking at the people who have harmed you throughout your life, like from childhood until the place you're currently at.  But one, two, three steppers, they were except one, two, three, boom. And here's the thing that we need to understand, like again, we gotta learn from Trisha Paytas' experience. One of my favorite quotes comes from this amazing meditation teacher named Shenzhen Yang and he says this, pain times resistance equals suffering, okay? Let me repeat that for the people in the back. Pain times resistance equals suffering, okay? Pain is an inevitable part of life, right? But when we resist, especially the things that will help us, that is what turns into suffering, right? I don't like seeing anybody suffering or emotionally struggling. Like Trisha Paytas was crying at about 75 to 80% of both of those videos, but at the same time, we have to realize that that suffering will start to subside when we stop resisting getting help, okay? Something that Dr. Judson Brewer and I discuss in our video about anxiety. The only way out is through. So when you go to therapy, when you start working on yourself or maybe it's a 12 step program, whatever it is, you have to do the hard work. You have to do the hard stuff. And I can tell you from personal experience, I get it.    Like as an addict and alcoholic, you know what I would rather to do? I would rather snort a bunch of drugs, drink a lot of booze and just not have to deal with it. But it spirals into this thing where it destroys my whole life. And it feels like we see that with Trisha Paytas avoiding the work and then causing a slew of her own problems and we need to recognize that. When we're not working on ourselves, we start to cause our own problems. Now, even with seven and a half years clean, I have a therapist, I meditate, I journal and everything like that. I can get into a messed up head space. And when it's times like that, like I don't go to nearly as many 12 step meetings as I used to when I first got sober. Now they're kind of like maintenance meetings. But when I am messed up in my head because none of us just fully recover from the things that we struggle from mentally, I get my butt into a meeting.  And I started going back to meetings and something that I recommend to all of you if you have a friend who is struggling or whatever it is, do what my beautiful girlfriend Tristan does. Like I would get back from a meeting and there's this different thing about me, right? I'm in a better mood, I have more clarity, all these things. And she's like, yeah, you seem like you're in a better mood. That is what we call positive reinforcement, okay? So if you know somebody, like if they're starting therapy or whatever it is, like give them props. Like don't be like the mom or the dad, like yay, you did it. Like don't do that, that is very condescending, you know? But say, hey, like seems like you're doing better, right? And then it kind of clicks for that person like, oh, well, maybe I should keep doing that thing. People are recognizing my improvements because I'll let you know this, a lot of us, we don't notice the improvement within ourselves. So that is very, so it's very important to support the people in our lives when they are taking active steps to get better. I've mentioned this before, but it was very clear. It was very clear when Trisha Paytas was doing hardcore therapy, she was doing better, okay? Like not perfect, but she wasn't doing the type of damage that she's doing now. Something else that I'm a huge advocate of, again, Trisha Paytas mentioned how so many mental health professionals have mentioned she has borderline traits. Me personally, with my mental health and when I talk to others and they talk about therapy and get to ask me for my advice or when I was working at the rehab, I'm a huge fan of working on symptoms rather than a diagnosis, all right? As you know, mental illness can be different for everybody, right? My anxiety might be different than yours. My depression might be worse or different than yours, so I feel like it's more important to work on symptoms. So when Trisha Paytas is talking about her rage and having these blackouts and everything like that, that is something within borderline personality, the diagnoses where it talks about emotional regulation. Work on that, and that is one of the main parts of dialectical behavioral therapy, right? Another symptom of BPD is the fear of abandonment. Work on that. Find the traits or the symptoms that are the most prominent with you and work on those. Talk to your therapist, talk to your psychologist. Here's what I'm noticing in my life about my personal experience. What can I do to work on these things, right? Because if we can get some of those symptoms under control, life starts to get better. As a drug addict, once I got the drugs and alcohol, once I got that symptom of my problem under control, all the rest of the stuff I had to work on got a little bit easier. So the last thing I wanna talk about, video's going a little bit longer than I expected, is something wonderful called the attribution bias. Whether you have mental health issues or not, this is a part of human nature, and I hope everybody understands it. So in Trisha Paytas' video, she discusses all these things that from the outside seem hypocritical, but we all do it, we all do it. So she talks about how dissociated DID is only making videos about Trisha Paytas for the views, right? She's only doing it for the views. And Trisha Paytas claims that she never does the same thing. Yet she has one video where she used Anthony Padilla's name in the title, and in the same video where she was calling out dissociated DID, on that, she had dissociated DID's name in the title. So why do we have these binders on? Why do we not see that we are doing the same thing that we're accusing the other people of? This is called attribution bias, okay? It is not pleasant for our brain. It is too much of a cognitive load to look at ourselves and realize our own faults. So what happens is our brain starts to self-justify. The attribution bias is similar to, or it's in conjunction with, cognitive dissonance. Our brain has these two fighting things, right? So it's like, okay, I'm doing the same thing as this person, right? But I'm gonna call them out. So how does my brain calm down and explain that? Oh, okay, because I am a morally good person and this person is morally bad. So the only way to justify what I'm doing is to say that you have poor intentions for what you're doing, right? Best example I can give you, if you believe that you are not a victim of the attribution bias, is the next time you're driving, okay? The next time you're driving, be very mindful, be very courteous to yourself, but notice all the dumb things you do. Notice how many times you check your phone if you're like me. My beautiful girlfriend Tristan, her biggest pet peeve is how I forget to turn my turn signal off, right? I do, there's just these little dumb things that we all do while we're driving, right? Right, like maybe sometimes you're not paying attention, you're spaced out, you start switching lanes, forgot to turn, whatever it is, whatever it is. But notice, when somebody else does something, right?  Even though you're on your phone five minutes ago, that person cuts you off, oh my God, somebody's speeding, ah, right? But when you're checking your phone, it's important. When you cut somebody else off, you had a good reason for it. When you're speeding, you gotta get somewhere, sorry everybody else, but the thing I'm doing is much more important than yours. This is the wonderful world of the attribution bias. And the first step towards dealing with any bias, we all have so many biases and that's why I hate when people say, I'm objective about this, no you're not player, no you ain't. So the way we work on it is recognizing that it's there, then we pause and we say, oh, maybe I should cut that person some slack. So I think a great example of that is seeing how Trisha Payness is literally doing the same things that she's accusing other people of doing. But I'll finish up with this, three things. Get therapy and do the hard stuff, okay? The only way out is through pain times resistance equals suffering, okay?  Next thing, attribution bias, pay attention. Third thing, go watch the video I did with Dr. Judson Brewer and work on your anxiety. There are a ton of amazing tips. It is about a 30, 35 minute interview. Just do your thing, all of us are socially distancing right now, do your dishes, clean the house, vacuum, play with your cat and just put your headphones in. Listen to it, it's a magical experience. All right, but anyways, that's all I got for this video. If you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up. If you're new, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And a huge, huge thank you to everybody who supports the channel over on Patreon, as well as the people who buy my mental health books or the rewired Soul Merge. And look how nice I am. I linked the Judson Brewer interview right there. All right, thanks again for watching. See you next time.


Thank you. I'm real excited to be here and to be presenting on this topic We always joke about how many dear friends caramel has but you know we have this idyllic scenario in our head of Belonging to a tribe where we have this balance of competition and teamwork and shared resources that allows us to thrive and to become better But then we also have this modern narrative and you know, I've heard this from mentoring physicians I've heard it from complete strangers and uber drivers about how people Don't seem we don't seem to be able to have a real conversation anymore or how Social media and technology seems to invade our social relationships in our social world so I want to really investigate this topic a little bit further specifically in the context of Depression and so we'll discuss depression today a little bit about the who and what of our social environments and how these affect depression and then the effects of technology which is really a big a big one in this area and then some ways We can re-engage with our tribe. So overall the worldwide prevalence of Depression is 4.4 percent That seems small until you realize that's over 300 million people and in the US this is leading to almost 45,000 suicides per year and You can see that that trend is increasing over time Now we don't have a very good Kind of way of assessing depression and ancestral populations or of assessing that change over time A lot of studies use different methods and come to different conclusions. So, you know, there's not a lot We can see with that But what we do know is that we need to change this trend and that we is very necessary Because I believe that this is something we need to do as a society and as a tribe So one thing that we do see correlated with depression rates are some of these modern influences that you're all very well aware of And some of the ones that are more relevant to this to this presentation are that loneliness and social isolation Component and that's been mentioned at talks earlier today as well Now when we look at depressive symptom patterns We see something really interesting emerge and when we have depression in the context of a loss We see a difference in the pattern of symptoms depending on whether it's a social loss or a non-social loss So a social loss being the loss of a loved one the loss of social status things like that Whereas the non-social loss is something like the inability to achieve an important life goal So that's that's very interesting to see that difference there now Contemporary hunter gatherer studies can give us a little bit of insight onto the social structure of those ancestral groups and what we see within those groups is a lot of cooperation We have this sharing of resources this gathering of food the sharing of food and then aloe parenting Which is the parenting of a child who doesn't share the same genetic material as you We also have these very fluid social networks so we can have a family unit going and residing with the husband's kin or the wife's kin or with a large number of unrelated individuals and Even though there's a preference for living with kin It appears that they ended up or they end up living with mostly unrelated people which was very interesting and now that Sex equality that we see in the ability to go and live with the husband's family or the wife's family was thought to come about because of the higher cost of Raising a human offspring that required a better investment from both parents and then Because of those fluid social networks and because we can go to you know the husband's family or the wife's family We can use the grandparents as a resource and by moving between different you know localities and Using those other people we have a little bit of a buffer against unpredictable environments and then we have this very important sharing of information and The really interesting you know there's some really cool examples in the literature on this information sharing within social networks and what we see is that in a Large social network where you have the opportunity to observe an innovation many many times So you have a lot of social interaction that innovation can be refined and maintained over time But when you have this core ancestral group and you have these other groups splitting off They actually forget how to Do certain things they forget how to make fire or they forget certain hunting or fishing techniques Which you know it seems seems bizarre, but there's just not enough Interaction to maintain the observation of those innovations Now this cooperation and pro-social behavior is thought to be partly because of that co-residence with unrelated people But also because of the association of one female with many unrelated males So for example father daughter Husband wife brother brother sister sister-in-law brother-in-law and cousins husband You know these these people aren't these males aren't necessarily related to each other But they're already related to the same female So that's thought to decrease some aggression and promote cooperation that extends beyond a local unit to other communities So what are some other kind of unique human traits that we don't see in other? species and You know we have this ability to work together with a shared intention that's really important We have this orientation towards teaching and learning and then we have this really interesting thing where we'll punish norm violators And that's that's seen even when those norm violators aren't directly affecting us personally So that's pretty interesting and it's a way of kind of protecting that social structure Now when we look at our modern social structure, we can see that technology has really given us a lot of options Technology is what allows us to all travel here, you know fly or drive or use things like uber and To be here and to use this technology to share information like this so, you know, it's really given us a greater access to resources and allowed us to expand on those fluid networks, but You know that same technology Also lets us work at home order food right to our door and essentially not leave the house So while we can use the technology to you know enhance our social interactions We can also use it to in a sense hide, you know if we don't want to go out. We really don't have to So let's take a moment to consider your social networks and by this I don't mean the number of Facebook friends you have but I mean the number of people that you have discussed personally important topics with in the last six months and This is the same question that they asked in a survey over 30 years ago and then again more recently in 2004 So I realize that's still you know a little a little old by now because it's you know 14 years since then but the results were interesting enough that I still wanted to share them Now the people that you're thinking about Are really important to you for social support and for information sharing and they can be both family and non-family And what you discuss with your important people will be different than what the person sitting next to you will be You know discussing with their important people So there's a lot of variety in that discussion Some other things you might think about within that network are how big is your network? How often do you talk to these people? How long have you known these people? How diverse are these people and then how interconnected are these people are your friends friends with each other? And that's actually a really important factor So some of these variables haven't changed a lot over time But what did change was the number of people that these respondents had to discuss important topics with So when they said how many people can you discuss these personally important topics with them the most common answer in 1985 was three people and in 2004 the most common answer was zero So that's a little sad, but it's also important to remember that you know If you're if you see any kind of patient or client in the health care field Remember that when they talk to you and they're discussing all these really personal or important things You might be the only person that they have to talk to about that you might be their main contact And so that's an important kind of connection to have to help build those support networks And that's something I've seen in the clinic too where you know You have these patients coming in and they will have these Visits very frequently and really what they want is just that social interaction. That's the main interaction that they have in their life Now it's important to make a distinction between loneliness and isolation So loneliness, you know, you can actually feel lonely while sitting in this room right now Surrounded by people Whereas you know if you're on a deserted island you can also feel lonely But you can also be socially isolated in this room you can be lonely But you're not socially isolated because there's a lot of people here seeing around you Then we have these positive and negative interactions the positive interactions generally Outweigh the negative interactions in terms of number and number of sources But those negative interactions have a really significant effect on our physical and psychological health And then when it comes to emotional support our perceived emotional support is actually more important than The actual emotional support we get so that's really interesting And then we have this concept of contagion and usually I would be talking about that in the context of bacteria But today there's something much more interesting and that's this idea that Depression or loneliness can be contagious. And so this was a very interesting study done in college roommates You may be able to appreciate a little bit more if you're staying in the dorms while you're here But essentially what they did was they took students and they ran randomly assigned them into Roommate pairs and they assessed their levels of cognitive vulnerability at the beginning of the study and then three months later And when students were paired with a roommate that had a higher cognitive vulnerability They caught that cognitive thinking style and had greater risk for depressive symptoms Now we can also see that loneliness is contagious and the interesting thing with this is that it's contagious Up to three degrees of influence. So your friend your friend's friend your friend's friend's friend That's how far it can spread on the bright side happiness is also contagious and Happiness spreads through networks better than unhappiness. So that's a little bit on the bright side there now This need for social belonging is so important that it's placed right after safety needs on Maslow's hierarchy And so when we have our needs for belonging met We have higher life satisfaction and lower levels of depression. We all need to feel like we belong We all need a place in society. We all need to be loved. It's a basic human need So let's look at at some of the who and what of our social environment And there's a lot of different things that go into this we won't get through all of them But just some things for you to think about So we'll start at the beginning so you were when you were born or perhaps when your older siblings were born your parents transitioned into a new social role and At this time your mom would have been at an increased risk for depression and why is this well? There's a lot, you know, we can talk about you know regarding hormonal fluctuations and all that but we can't ignore the effect of Society and social roles. So some of the important questions here are did your mother feel supported during pregnancy? Did your parents get along? how did giving birth to you affect your mother's career and the problem with this increase in Woman in careers is there's this work family conflict that happens where You know, we're kind of judgmental of mothers as a society And now we have that judgment Amplified by things like social media where everything is up, you know for public comment on You know what they're doing and and how they're they're looking after their kids and then we also have judgment around daycare use and mother's feeling very guilty about having kids in daycare or Not being able to spend the time with them that they would like and then we have that compromise of work life and family life And then you know when women get home, there's still an unequal division of labor that happens So they're still responsible for outside the house and inside the house work now in Terms of you know social support social reciprocity is a protective factor here for postpartum depression So having that social support in place is really important Now as you get a little bit older, it's amazing to see how quickly social status becomes important So they've studied this in kindergartners and they see that kindergartners with lower social Status have increased risk for aggression and depressive symptoms Now if the child kind of self-corrects and adds in some pro-social behaviors We see that in grade one their social preference improves and they have decreased depressive symptoms and decreased aggression Now if you participated in any guide or scout groups when you're a little you're probably still reaping the mental health benefits of that so there's been some interesting research on this and They found that even by age 50 Participation in these groups as a child decreased risk for depression and anxiety by 18 percent And the effects were so great, you know controlling for all other variables that it essentially erased the effect of socio-economic Status on risk for depression and anxiety, which is really quite significant Now when we hit adolescents It's a little bit of a rough time because we have an intersection of physical emotional and social changes and so we see that youth at this time have a lot of increased risks and One of them is that you know if an adolescent commits suicide their friends are at an increased risk for also committing suicide now on the other hand having those Really good school connections is protective against suicidal ideation and suicide attempts in that population so we live in a very competitive world and You know we compete for schools. We compete with grades We compete to get jobs careers attention and that competition has kind of expanded and into new territories So now it's the fairytale Pinterest boards. It's the wild Instagram adventures. It's the number of Facebook friends It's a number of likes, you know it never really ends and although You know large social networks can be beneficial in some ways if we have this increase in competition and we and we get Beyond the motivating aspect of that competition and we end up with you know hostility that hostility is going to give us an increased risk for Aggression and depression, which is going to give us decreased support But then on the other hand social stress is also going to lead to things like aggression Which also in turn decreases support? so it's a little bit of a vicious cycle and One of the social stresses that could come into play here, especially, you know in childhood is bullying and Some protective factors for victimized youth against you know developing those depressive symptoms or suicidal ideation Are a really good, you know, facilitative parenting school connection and community connection and that community connection is important even if it's a disadvantaged community in either economically or socially Now in young adults, we have particular risks with sexual minorities because they face a level of harassment and discrimination At you know across a wide range of settings. So school family friends all different environments and The rate of suicidal ideation in that population is 45 percent Which is really quite high and then with youth in general or young adults in general There's particular risks when starting college and that's because you know, you're moving away from home You're adapting to new social roles You have new academic pressure and social pressure and then you have poor sleep to compound all of that I don't know kind of what you guys thought when you were a little You know what you want to do when you grew up if you wanted to do, you know Whatever your mom did or whatever your dad did or maybe you really didn't want to do any of those things I always said I would never do public speaking That didn't really turn out I guess but it's interesting because they've studied this social and occupational Reproduction between generations and they've seen that you know, it does that social and occupational status does Reproduce itself through generations and they've found that that's independent of mental health status So that was really interesting and then as we get older our neighborhoods become more and more important and our relative income Within our neighborhood has an effect on our risk for depressive symptoms But even more important than that was the number of neighbors that we could go and we could visit and that had the greatest impact on The lowering of depressive symptoms in the context of neighborhood Now our family extends beyond just our Spoused children, you know siblings or parents and we've seen an increase in multi-generational living in America in recent years And there's several reasons for this it's more common for you know young adults to end up in this situation if they don't have a college degree and finances are a little bit a part of this but it's you know, it's it's interesting because This is similar to what we've seen in some of those ancestral populations where we have adult siblings living together or adult family units living with grandparents and this has a lot of benefits even if those Triggering events such as you know financial situation are kind of negative being in that living arrangement does have some Protective effect on depressive symptoms by social inclusion and the proximity of those other people So that's that's really interesting and what I really like about this is that Loneliness is a huge problem in elderly populations and with this trend We've seen a decrease in the number of older Americans living alone. So that's that's really cool with that And now we get on to the question of technology So there's been some that argue that technology isn't disintegrating our social worlds It's just evolving our social worlds and so we really have to look at both sides of this You know, how is it helpful? Where is it detrimental and how can we use it best? So first, you know, let's consider how much time, you know, youth are actually spending on technology And that number is really high. So that's I mean, that's incredible really But it's there's also a lot of difficulties in studying this topic because Screen time can mean a lot of different things. Is it entertainment? Is it work? Is it school? Is it communication? So some might be more social aspects. Some might be more problematic And so it's really tricky to look through some of these studies, but what is some of this screen time doing? And we can see a lot of physical effects here One of the important things to point out here is this place time and with this place time we have You spending time on technology or maybe even us spending time on technology that could be spent on other things So relationships careers homework, you know time spent outside play movement those things are all really really important and then there's some very real concerns about privacy and Confidentiality who are these kids contacting through technology? What are they accessing and there's been studies showing that kids can actually have trauma like symptoms Based on fear reactions from some of the things that they're viewing and that's quite a concern We can also have a lot of dissatisfaction from negative social comparison And then we can have technology being used to deal with our emotions and instead of or kind of hide from our emotions Rather than learning effective coping strategies There's also this concern of inadequate connection, which is Essentially, you know when you text someone and you don't get an immediate reply. So you soon that they hate you And that's definitely something that's been mentioned in the literature as well And then cyberbullying which is another big concern and it's interesting because both perpetrators and victims of Cyberbullying are likely to experience or to bully both on and offline So there's been drastic changes in technology over time. There's been changes in who is accessing this technology There's been changes in how the technology is used and we don't really know the long-term effects on this. So One interesting Connection here is that with parents and kids using FaceTime or Skype can be a positive source of Connection and there's actually a doctor. I know who uses this, you know FaceTime to Maintain a connection with her kids while she's at work and it's really fun to watch them interact that way So there's some potential positives here. We don't know all the long-term effects Now in older groups, there's an effect of screen time But it also depends on what type of screen time it is So some particularly problematic ones that have been mentioned are multiplayer online gaming video gaming and Computer use as far as depressive and anxiety symptoms Now in longitudinal studies, we can see screen time predicting depression We can also see depression predicting screen time. So, you know, it can potentially go either way here now Screen time isn't inherently bad and there is kind of a curve here So at one hour and I personally don't know anybody who only uses technology one hour a day But at one hour, there's a benefit. There's a decrease in depressive risk Now when you hit over five hours, there's an eight percent increased risk in depressive symptoms So just something really interesting to keep in mind. So there are some positive effects and these are some ways in which technology might be helpful But in order to use this to our advantage, we also need to be aware of the potential pitfalls And one of the ways in which this can be detrimental is with media multitasking This is really common in adolescence, you know, using multiple platforms at the same time multiple devices and Interestingly, this is related to or correlated to an increased number of friends that parents don't approve of or think are bad influences So we see that and then we also see that low social support in students leads to Increased or I need to correct that is correlated with not leads to it's correlated with increased Internet addiction and depressive symptoms and there's been a couple studies on that There's also this thing called Facebook addiction disorder, which isn't an official DSM disorder at least not yet But it's a very interesting one to consider. It's associated with increased depressive symptoms and it seems to be more problematic in males particularly and Then I had to throw in something more positive on here So again, we have with this three degrees of influence. We see that Twitter when you have your Twitter use is affected by your Friends your friends friends and your friends friends friends and that affects kind of the happiness. So there's this This three degrees of influence with happiness that we see spreading through this network again And remember that that happiness spreads faster than unhappiness Now there are some definite advantages to face-to-face communication over other forms of media and Those include better social success and better sleep no surprise there so there's also with face-to-face verses Other forms of communication. There's this very interesting phenomena where you have if you have more face-to-face Connections that also overlap with your social media connections that has a decrease in your depressive risk Now when you have a large proportion of those social media contacts that aren't related to or you that you don't have a face-to-face Connection with that so is associated with an increased depressive risk So, you know following strangers or when you friend someone and maybe they don't friend you back So things like that There are some definite advantages that have been proposed for social media especially in youth faced with anxiety and depressive disorders because it removes a lot of barriers it removes Barriers based on how you look it removes barriers based on You know social skills like wit or extraversion It gives you a chance to think about how you want to respond and how you want to portray yourself before you actually You know respond to that text or post something So there's a lot of potential benefits there But we also have to consider that this is a population and a time where they can be especially vulnerable to the negative effects of social media so exclusion or victimization And when we look at social media use in these young young people and depressive risk We see that part of that risk is mediated by this fear of missing out So they're wondering what is everyone else doing and so instead of forming real relationships They're busy worrying about what everyone else is doing that they're not part of and Then a few other things that are associated with more Detrimental effects as far as social media use so you know following strangers like we've talked about and negative social comparison So these are just some ways in which you know, we need to be cautious in how we're using this social media There was an interesting study specifically on the pattern of use so they they categorized Participants into these five categories and they found that these two wired and connected were the problematic ones and What these meant were people spent a lot of time on social media. They checked it really often They used multiple platforms and they were so emotionally invested in this So, you know if that was their whole emotional connection and you know, they you know They post something and someone doesn't comment right away or you know things like that These were the ones or the categories that were associated with increased depressive and anxiety symptoms So like Diana Rogers says it's not the cow It's the how and I feel like a similar sentiment can apply to technology, you know technology isn't bad it's it's about how we use it and You know, there's a lot of positive ways we can use it So there's actually something called tribe our X which is an online Social support program that essentially allows physicians to write a prescription to their patients for a support group And for people who don't have a lot of in-person real-life support There are online social support groups and those are associated with decreases in depressive symptoms Then again better social media use like we said So are you using your your devices and your social media to the inclusion of people that matter to you? Are you using them to the exclusion of people who matter to you?  Or are you using your phone to scroll through Facebook at the dinner table, you know surrounded by your family and friends? You know, there's a big difference there, and then we talked a bit about multi-generational living another really cool Innovation here is it's a parent of university students with seniors And by doing that there's benefits for both the university students in terms of reduced living costs and for the seniors in terms of You know classes held by the students or social interaction or other forms of assistance And then good health so Poor health is a huge barrier to going out and Maintaining your social life and being involved in social activities This is a big problem in the older population But it's something I've also seen in younger patients with say chronic pain and that's promotes or Provides a barrier to their social life And then again community involvement volunteering and then there's something called interpersonal therapy which deals with the social context of Depression and then conferences like this. So you don't have to wait. We're all here you know, this is a great time to meet up with old friends and make new friends and When we have that, you know, we come here and Some people we already know but we all have similar goals And so we get here and we feel like we belong we were part of a tribe when we're here So that's really cool and overall I want to encourage each of us to consider, you know How we spend our time. How can we engage better in our communities to create positive change? And then not only that but how can we better appreciate the connections that we already have so thank you very much You can find me in Scottsdale at the integrative health clinic in the fall Or at my website beyond 20 questions Excellent talk to me and one thing that you brought up that I thought really needs to be stressed some more is a big evolutionary mismatch in The hunter-gatherer societies and modern societies, especially in our industrial world And one of those is pro-social behavior and furiously egalitarian Where if somebody a lot of people Report that if somebody's being a little bit boastful about something self-ability. They get taken down by the other people Like there's mechanisms in place that promote pro-social behavior among related the unrelated individuals that prevent differences in strata and in modern societies what we see at the workplace and starts an education system in schools is as opposed to fiercely egalitarian and pro-social we see competitive competitive the norm from you know winning awards How you're competing as your peers for good grades and getting crazed or not? And all the way to our political system. Oh, the Democrats won It's lost like Think it's a huge mismatch in terms of what we're designed to optimal system and what I think is important about that is that then that Competition that runs throughout our world our modern world really corrodes corrosive towards These collaborative Relationships community relationships you should be able to go to work and feel like all these are my people But a lot of that people don't work in a little lonely This is a serious issue that needs to be addressed Yeah, and then you know bullying isn't just with kids It's you know There's workplace bullying as well and and one of the big problems with you know social media is Relationship asymmetry, you know you you follow someone they don't follow you back you friend someone they don't friend you back things like that That's that's also You know creating that unequal kind of relationship where it's very Unidirectional unidirectional, you know, you're you're providing something or you're you're following someone or you know You care about what someone does and they don't reciprocate And just an in equals one I live in a co-housing community and I So my in my experience Like my neighbors were all like really happy a lot. We have each other and I'll just give a really quick example When somebody well just basically when somebody needs something there's a lot of people around so like last week Someone was ill had to be in bed for a few days and they were able to get a whole bunch of people bringing dinners in and it just We have we see these kinds of things through churches or different organizations, but actually living with people in this manner It's really different the depth of the relationship Is more family like but I like but anyway, I was wondering if you Know any research on does this matter in quality of life? I've mostly looked just at the kind of multi-generational households and it is really interesting because you do have that That resource there where you know grandparents can look after the kids while the parents are at work or you know they can help split household costs or You know, I Saw one example where the grandparents would actually like make the meal for the adult You know family when they came back from work and they're all tired and everything And then also the kids can look after the older adults, especially if they have any kind of health concern And so there's actually even you know housing that you can get where you have two houses in one And so you can share that house with another part of your family and still have a little bit of your own space Which is really cool And I'll thank you for the motion of primal play Smart from devices or any any device technology device is can we follow interesting in the real world? And as much as we try Healthier behaviors Most of us will use our devices purely for to become our self-absorbed or say Comparison or compare and despair Do you feel that there will never be a time where we can make better utilization a technology? Rather than something that will just detract us from Or the thing that we're trying to achieve Yeah, I mean it's it's a it's a good question. It's It's very difficult because you have you know, it's so kind of addicting that oh someone liked my photo Oh someone liked my post, you know on and on and on and it's like every time you get a little alert It's like oh someone likes me. Oh someone likes me again. Oh someone likes me more.  It can be fairly benign or it can be beneficial So I you know, I really struggled with I really didn't want social media I really didn't want social media and then the first social media account I opened was to It was a private account so that I could keep In touch with some younger relative friends of mine And you know, and then I got talked into one for you know more for my career And so there are certain uses of it, but I think just kind of evaluating The time that you spend on it and how valuable that time is to you, you know What else could you be doing with that time and and how does that compare to the time you just spent?  I think before We have a better sense of You know, exactly how it's affecting us Thanks Tiffany. Um, I was wondering if you have recommendations for those of us who have clients or patients who we recognize are relying on us for They're probably How we can best kind of address that you're not something And I have encountered with a view of our individual clients and we're working to try to help them reestablish a more robust social network and more support, but we you know, sometimes that's kind of resistant And you feel like How do I address this for my client? Yeah Well, you know, it's interesting because I have seen with Uh patients that they come in and they're lonely, but you know, they work at home That's what they do And so for those patients doing something like you know, can you work at a coffee shop? Or is there another setting that you can move yourself to or can you take breaks or You know, can you make a habit of you know going to the park or going outside for a walk in your community or you know Uh volunteering volunteering is a really good way to get some social interaction You're out there. You're doing something for your community And by doing that you feel really good about yourself and you get that social interaction And then there's also uh things like, you know, like I mentioned tribe rx, which is specifically for pain patients But it's a very interesting model. It's a very interesting idea. So that's something um, you could look at and maybe that will be developed for You know other groups. Um, I know that there's a few there's a few pilot studies on something That was kind of similar. It was a very interactive social online group But I haven't seen any of those pilot trials turn into an actual program But yeah, I mean send me an email or talk to me after and I can give you the papers on those too because they're pretty interesting Thank you Thanks guys