Hi, I'm live for the first time ever on this channel. I think I think so. Yeah, I'm live So thank you guys for tuning in I'm gonna give you all a few more minutes to kind of tune in but I'm gonna start off by talking about Poverty relationships, okay poverty Relationships we have all been in them.  Okay, so um a Lot of people can do this by getting a part-time job a Side job a second job and just saving and saving and saving and saving until they can afford to leave on their own And do better for themselves because a lot of men will say well if you don't stay with me through this bad time in my life You never loved me in the first place You're not a ride or die chick or whatever whatever, but If you love yourself more you'll get up and leave and telling him to call you when he got his stuff together Okay, that's what common sense will tell anyone to do You know, you don't stay on a sinking ship Okay, you don't stay in a burning building you get out and you save yourself And if they're dumb enough to stay in that then let them perish, you know what I'm saying, so Okay, I'm gonna try to read some of these comments Hi everyone So if y'all have a question about being in a poverty Relationship you can you can put them there now and I'll look and I'll try to answer some of them But I'm gonna keep talking until I see a few questions. Okay, so Yes, I've been in a poverty relationship before and I left when it got when it got to the worst point.  Okay, someone said can we talk about dating rich men instead? Yeah, we're gonna get to that. Believe me. Okay So Let's see thing they're going too fast hold on so we shouldn't date him if he doesn't have money at the time No, okay, he can't afford to date What's your advice on dating at the age of 22 I don't want a relationship until I see Until I see everyone booed up. Okay. I met my husband at When I was 22, okay, I dated him for about five years and then we got married so The younger you are the the higher chance that you have to get married Especially if you're going for an older man or a rich man. Okay, you wait too late No, okay, you got to give them they like I'm young. Okay So Yeah I'm trying to find some Good questions should you date if you're not working and you are a Girl Yes, because you're the one that they try that they're trying to impress. Okay They're supposed to pay for the day anyway So the only expense that you need to have is, you know, either Getting to and from the date if they don't pick you up or you know, getting yourself ready Yeah, you can date without a job, you know, men are supposed to court women So they're the ones that are supposed to spend and pay and impress you Okay, if you're dating a man who you have to impress you're dating the wrong man. Okay Yeah, saying no to struggle love is you know a goal for many people Okay, help. I'm 28 and tired of dating poor people poor men. Okay. Yeah Well, then stop dating poor men go to places where only men with money can get in go to places Where only men and money with money can afford stop hanging out where broke men hang out Okay, broke man. Can I get into certain places certain areas? Because it costs money. So you're gonna have to start Looking elsewhere. Okay Going to a place where they charge $20 admission going to a place where the drinks cost $10 going to a place where you know You have to valet park Going to a place where there's memberships involved. You can't just go anywhere because you'll meet just anybody Okay You can join a very nice gym in a very nice neighborhood or a nice area.  You can't go in there looking ratchet. Okay Hospitals Restaurants around hospitals like around lunchtime There'll be lots of doctors and physicians out eating lunch at the bar. You got to go to the Where the money is? Okay, you can't you can't stay in your neighborhood and go to your local dive bar That's not where the money is. Okay Yeah Let's see Yeah, my assistant my girlfriend just joined a yacht club. Yeah, my This lady that used to work for a long time ago. That's how she met her husband She joined a yacht club. She didn't even have a yacht Just joined the yacht club say I want to learn Okay, and so she met a guy with the yacht and he taught her about sailing and all that kind of stuff You know, or she was like, I'm looking to buy one, you know, she lied. She was looking for a husband. Okay How much money do you think a man should earn to be able to support a family? Well, it depends on where you live because if you live in New York or California, it's expensive But if you live in like where I live Or like in smaller areas, it's less so for me where I live I live in Texas. I live in Houston for me. You got to make at least Six figures, I'm just gonna say six figures for for a family of at least four Okay to live comfortable and to be happy and not be miserable just working to survive Okay, I say six figures because that's comfortable and and you can kind of enjoy life at that point If you're gonna be barely making it and struggling, you know, that causes relationship issues so nothing under six figures for a family, okay, unless You can live without Certain luxuries. Okay, unless you can live without cable unless you can live with you know in a So-so neighborhood unless you can live without driving a nice car, you know unless you can live without Purchasing the products that you like or shopping when you like, okay But it can be done on a high five figure salary But for me, I need six figures in it. Okay How much is too old to find a good rich guy, how much is too old um, I Say don't go over 20 years because then that's too old and he's like your daddy. Okay What if he's a social worker my mom and dad worry about his income Um, if you're a social worker that should be a like a climbing career job My friend was a social worker and now she owns her own business. Okay, tell him the social work All he needs to do but save money on the side and start his own business or private Counseling or nonprofit organization or something but he needs to be striving higher. You know what I'm saying Um, if he doesn't have a something he's working towards and he's just satisfied and a low-paying job That's the kind of life. Y'all are gonna have okay How do you not come off as a gold digger or should you not care? The only people who are offended by gold diggers are people that don't have gold to dig. Okay, most men with money Only deal with women who? Expect the best Demand the best Know what the best is appreciate the best You know cuz he can't bring some ratchet up to meet his colleagues, and you know, she's wearing Some you know dollar store flip-flops and uh And you know Some leggings You know, he can't he can't bring you up to that, you know You gotta you gotta present yourself as able to fit into that world You have to demand the best if he drinks champagne You need to be drinking champagne too if he's you know wearing a thousand dollar suit your dress need to cost at least that much or Close to it. Okay.  Yes, I've met plenty of them. I've dated plenty of them The the thing is is that They are Very far few and in between I'm just gonna I'm just gonna tell it to you like that You have to be You know Out of their reach like you can't be interested in them They have to come chase you.     I wouldn't even have to do it I'm like, okay. Yeah, well, what are your standards?  It was about my standards. You know if you meet in the standard You get in the date. Okay. I don't discriminate.  So, you know, why not? Have I heard of single moms by choice?  Okay men rich men do not like competition They will they will tell them you dated someone with more money and That's that they love that they like, oh, I got such and such as ex-girlfriend who was dated, you know They made way more money than me. You got to research. Okay?  Oh, well, why are you on it? You must be stupid to be on the stream Okay, anyways, I'm just reading some trolling comments What if he asked you to move into a to a different state is supporting you with allowance but not engaged yet Not engaged wants you to move I I'm not moving for anybody. I'm sorry Unless I am engaged or me and married I'm not moving for anybody why because my standards are too high if you want me to move across the country with you I'm gonna need a ring. Okay. I'm gonna need a ring Ring and the allowance Let's see How to make them commit You can't really make a man commit. You just have to let them be afraid that you're going to leave and find someone better Okay, and tell them look I'm I'm such and such years old and you know There's plenty of men who would you know love to date me and I feel like we're wasting a lot of time because I don't feel like you're getting you're gonna commit anytime soon and I really want to you know have a family and so I feel like this is a dead end for me So, you know, I'm just gonna open my options now and you know, if you're ready to make a commitment You know, we need to start talking about that or else. I'm just gonna start making plans to move on Yeah, that's how you do that. Okay What do I think about polyamorous relationships I Was just thinking about that the other day. I think that is the future Actually, I think people are gonna start having boyfriends girlfriends wives and husbands You know, it's not just gonna be gay straight. It's gonna be everything, you know And I feel like because like in our in our day when we were young, okay It was the big the big thing was like interracial and gay marriage. Okay now. What's next? You got to keep pushing it, right? So the next thing is gonna be multiple partner marriages And then the next thing is gonna be, you know, I Don't know. I'm waiting on aliens to come, you know Um So we can have some interdimension interdimensional being families. Okay, so I feel like it is the future but Because people are becoming so programed to accept certain things it's not gonna be a big deal anymore and I feel like You know, if the money is right if People accept it if you accept it if you could explain that to your kids they go for it, but I Think that society usually sticks to the norm For the most part, but I do feel like it will evolve into something in the future But I would never do it unless I could have two husbands Talk about men cheating and why do they cheat if they love their women men cheat because of lust Not love. Okay, man will cheat because They're horny men will cheat because So they see something better or different than they see at home man will cheat because they can Man will cheat because the sky is blue. Okay. I Don't know. I mean I can love someone and cheat on them too And I could still love them after that love is has nothing to do with cheating Okay, so I feel like a lot of people get that confused You know, it's just like you love your mom and dad, but you'll sit there and lie to him in the face about something you didn't do Okay, that doesn't mean you don't love him. It just means you know You chose to do that and but you still love him. It has nothing to do with each other They I was looking online they say 83 percent of married men cheat. So, you know, I Didn't see the women but I didn't see I didn't look up the woman But I'm pretty sure some women are cheating too. I have a friend. It's always saying there. There's married women in his inbox so Marriage doesn't stop cheating. It just it kind of like gives you a comfort zone And if you if you want to cross and go cheat somewhere, and you know and do whatever you need to do Marriage doesn't stop that. Okay Okay, do you think all men cheat I Think a very very high percentage of them do I think if they were give okay I think if they were give if all men were given the opportunity to cheat and Get away with it. I Think 99% of them would okay.  So as long as you look good and You know It's what they like. Yeah, I'm sure Mm-hmm. Okay What makes a guy a man not a boy? Well, a man is a responsible person who can provide and protect for a family Who has goals who's striving? And Someone who people can look up to brag about, you know someone who You can be proud of, you know not someone who's begging or Asking for things all the time making excuses for why, you know, they're not where they want to be in life You know running out on responsibilities not being good father or husband. Blah blah blah. That's a boy. Okay, that's someone who wasn't ready Okay. Oh my gosh Sorry, y'all had my alarm went off on my phone for something. I don't know why Am I supposed to be doing something? Oh well So let me read these comments So I'm saying even if they love their women, they still cheat just because they can and Yes, okay. Okay Men are different than women.  It's about getting what they want at the moment. It's about gratification. It's about The climax it's not about oh, I see myself with this woman for the rest of my life It's gonna be marriage and babies and love and oh, that's the nurturing side of You know, which is women men are like hunters, you know, they want to spread their seed They they they're like more like You know wanting to have sex and be physical they want to touch they want to be intimate and then You know, they can do that with just about anyone, you know So it's not it doesn't make it about love because if you think about it ask the average man How many women they slept slept with and then ask them how many of those women that they loved Okay, so yeah, it's not about love with men. That's why to catch a man You have to put it on How do you ask for allowance without sounding greedy what words should you use I need some money, okay? I Need some money That's how you ask you don't ask you say you tell them I need some money. I'm sorry. You don't ask you till How do you get him to marry you Have other options Have other options and let him know that you have other options and Let him know that it's either it's either him or somebody better than him.  That's chaos and no man wants to come home to chaos.  Oh It's okay, don't worry about it, you know No big deal. Oh Yeah, I'm cool. Don't worry about it. You know what? I Know that it sometimes this happens and you know things get out of hand and you know be just because you know, I Wasn't comfortable with it. It doesn't mean anything. It's just something that bothers me. That's my problem You know play it off and then when you get married then you then you can do whatever you need to do I'm trying to read. Okay What's the name of?  No Fiancé's husbands may be They have private settings on phone so you can hide stuff. Okay, even if you let them go through your phone There's places where there's hidden stuff and you have to have a code to get in there But I feel like Most people are pretty good at hiding stuff anyway, so if you went through their phone You probably wouldn't find nothing unless they're stupid and have a low IQ Don't know how to delete stuff. I don't know Do you stay with a bipolar man? No?  No No, because what if they go off their medication and I saw this thing on TV where this guy was bipolar and He killed his two kids and the wife came home. She she went to go get her hair done and He seemed perfectly normal, but when his mental illness kicked in when she came home Her two kids were dead and he was just sitting there saying I didn't mean to do it And he called 911 on himself so bipolar is a no-no. Goodbye Let me see Okay, so this video was mostly about poverty dating so I Don't respect anyone who stays in a poverty environment due to love Okay, because that means you love that person more than you love yourself and You can't love someone unless you love yourself. So it's not even real love. It's infatuation. Okay, or or being desperate I feel like Any woman who has to make excuses for her man? He's not a man.  That's why you stay in there with them You know, and they're always paranoid. You're gonna leave because they know this ain't right Okay, how does a woman break the cycle of poverty when her parents are still in poverty and see nothing wrong with it?  Okay, you know the truth. You know your standards are high For a reason because you don't want to be poor and you just tell her look my standards are high because I don't want to be poor Okay, there's nothing wrong with not wanting to be poor You know, if that's where you feel like You know, it's a because you have to think about it a long time ago poverty was taught as a good thing To keep people at a certain economic level. So you can't You can't fall into that trap. We already know now. It's not a good thing All right, bros on fleek Thank you. I Drill me in good today. Didn't I? What if he says I'm gonna have to understand him saying no to him buying me certain things as I get older? Well, then tell him you'll get someone else to buy them Okay, sick. Oh, no worry. I'll still get what I want. Maybe not from you How do you get your rich ex back?  Okay That's how you get someone back You act like you moved on to something bigger and better. Okay, what do I think about police officers? Okay, I live next door to a sheriff and on the other side. I live next door to a DEA and So far so good. They haven't you know They're just like normal people.  So like I can't speak from personal experience except for the one time I did have a problem because I cussed one out But, you know Let me tell you that story because that's interesting. Okay, so I this cop undercover cop black guy, right? I'm okay. I'm at this really nice bar at this really nice restaurant and I'm drinking and I have about three drinks and he comes up to me. He says, you know, what's your name? How are you? He's trying to like talk to me and I'm like, oh, I'm good. I'm fine So he tries to get my phone number and I turn him down Because I you know, I'm dating the guy that I'm that I married to now, but I was dating him, but he wasn't there So he gets mad. He says, okay.  He's like, no, you have to leave now and I'm like what So because I did not, you know Give him a phone number or was showing him any interest He wanted to say I couldn't drive home and I'm like, I'm gonna drive home. I had three drinks.     So what I said is well, you know what? The reason I don't date cops is because y'all don't make a lot of money I said my man makes way more money than you And that's the real reason that I wouldn't give you the time of day or my money or my or my number And he just got upset. He was like Trying to figure out something and I was like, oh, don't worry about it. He's black I said I said I do like date black man, but I do date black man who made money I didn't date no cop by so Two weeks later I see him again, right?  So that's that's my experience, you know And I had to be honest with him because I was so upset I'm trying to read some of these things How much money do you think a man should make to support his wife? I just answered this a little while ago if you're if you don't have any kids I'd say a high five figures if you got kids you got you need six figures Especially if you want them to have any kind of future in life and enjoy it okay um Okay, so I guess I'll just get back to talking about something um You know, I have a lot of trolls on this channel and most of them are men because they're upset at um The way that I think and the standards that I have but It hasn't gotten me but it hasn't gotten me, you know in a bad place It works. So I don't know why they're mad. Um, I feel like A lot of men are stuck in transition like they're stuck and they don't know how to get ahead Or you know instead of watching these videos, you should be watching how to get rich videos how to invest videos, you know How to grow your money videos how to you know Start a business video. I don't know why y'all up it over here.  So I don't even know why you're here unless you just want to look at me. Okay? I'll appreciate that but um Y'all need to be on some other videos on how to get paid not here Like someone okay and a lot of guys will get upset Like the trolls and brag about how much they make and they'll they'll put it in the comments I'm like, I'll make more money than that on my youtube channel sitting here talk trash. Okay So no, that's not a lot of money to me next Um And I'm just brutally honest because sometimes people need to hear the truth it might hurt But when you get knocked down you get back up and you and you keep going and you do better, you know Um, I cussed this man out on youtube a couple years ago. He he came back and said thank you for putting me in my place and telling me You know what I was doing was was backwards and now I have a good job. I'm glad to get married Uh to this girl that I was trying to date but she wouldn't date me because I didn't have nothing and now That I'm responsible and you know making money. Have a good job with benefits We're about to get married and she's gonna have a baby and you know after we get a house and so he got on track It was it basically what it took was somebody telling him And all the comments agreeing with it That he was in the wrong because some men they don't have fathers They don't know how to be husbands. They don't know how to be boyfriends.   Oh, you know Blah blah blah they've been told the wrong thing and that's why they can't really get ahead in life Because when you don't respect women You know You just gotta have you have bad luck when you don't respect but look at all the countries on on the planet who mistreat women Okay They always at war They all you know, it looks it looked bad. You nobody want to go there You know, look at that. Okay when you mistreat women Everything collapses around it. So y'all gotta y'all gotta do better. Okay Respect women. That's how you got here Okay men sponsoring for plastic surgery now. I love that making themselves useful Let me tell you a story about that. Okay, my sister had a man pay for her.  It's like puffy And she had um this guy she wouldn't even date him for real. She was just like He's sleeping with him, I guess. Um She had him Pay for her eye surgery I have other family members that have done the same thing with other people, but you know I don't need plastic surgery girl. I'm good the way I am He just got paid for makeup my husband Okay, I'm gonna put my contact information if y'all want a consultation I'll put that in the description bar after the live feed is gone It's all it's over so y'all can check there because I have people asking me in the comments how you get in contact with me I'm gonna put my email address Or I'll just say it now and you can write it down L P D U A 11 At yahu.com Yeah, I'm still in yahoo Okay, I'm trying to read some questions that are like, you know Interesting, okay Okay, well, I'll just put it in the description box and you can or you can find me on facebook Same name You know what I'll put my Website For my readings and then you can go through the contact section that will get me for sure Um Yes, that's how it is and it's it's all lowercase though Someone asked me how I feel about the state of the black family. Um Most black families like most other families are dysfunctional And black families are worse because most of them are stuck in poverty Um, and they don't know how to get out of it. So I feel like Most families that have to struggle And you know do all those type of things black or white have issues. Okay I just I just feel like money can solve a lot of those problems and in education So I feel like if people were more educated and had higher standards There would be less problems That's how I see it. Okay. If the mess the poorer you get the messier things get Okay Anyway, let me see what else y'all are saying I'm trying to read the back comments to see if there's anything that I missed Um How long do you wait to ask a man to pay for a major cosmetic surgery? I don't know. I don't know. I never had any plastic surgery. So you had to ask my sister She didn't wait too long. No, she waited about a month But see when you when you have okay, let me tell you how to do this like I already told y'all If you claim to have dated men with more money These men with money are going to try to compete by spending money So your ex-boyfriend even if they're fake A real has to be richer than your current target Okay, um, for example, you could say oh, I used to date such and such or some type of basketball player or You know something believable, you know a ceo to some company make it up You know and he bought me this and that and he paid for this and that and you know if you're already used to such treatment and You're dating someone who has some money They're gonna they're gonna be more willing To compete with that because they know If you leave them you're just gonna go on to some other guy that has money too And you're you're just gonna think he he was broke in fronting Okay, so you got to lie Yes lie Even if all your exes was broke say you used to date some rapper. I don't know just I Used to date, you know, this isn't that person, you know photoshop a picture. I don't care, but just make it up It will up your auntie. It will up your value. I promise you Back in my day, we didn't have photoshop. So like I really did date some guys with more money than my husband. He knew it.  Yeah I did. Okay. So they're less likely to say no to you because they know you can do better I says Arab men don't get serious with women outside their race. That's true. I had a lot of Ladies who dated Arab men for many years and thought that they were going to marry them But they don't usually don't marry outside their culture or religion.  Okay Okay, um Someone said same with indian family. Yeah, let me tell you about my indian ex-boyfriend because I used to date an indian guy Y'all gonna laugh. Okay, so I used to date this indian guy and y'all gonna laugh why I dated him Okay, please don't laugh I dated him because he looked like michael jackson He looked like did he look like michael jackson from the thriller era. Okay He was a trinidadian indian. Okay But like I wasn't trying to get serious with him. Anyway, I just want I just want the thrill get it the thriller.  I just had fun without learned about other cultures or things, you know But I I feel like a lot of indian guys were into me Oh, because that was another one that that I dated and he had like an an english accent after that and he was really cute We dated for a while, but I know he was saving himself for his wife.  Oh my god.  I I remember that one guy, you know, we you know And you're not you're not gonna get bored with your husband and be like I need to go find another man because I didn't have a lot of Of different guys when I when I was single and I was just waiting on this one person Now I'm curious to see what else is out there That's why a lot of women are cheap because they didn't experience enough before they got married And that's why a lot of men cheap too because they didn't have enough experiences Before they got married and knowing some cultures you're supposed to wait till you get married and That's it. But do you know how curious people are?  They're gonna be curious and they're gonna go figure it out You know, if you already know what it is, then Then you don't need to worry because you already know what it is. It's like, yeah, that was good. I was You know Okay, let me read what's in the comments Okay Please talk about ambitious women.  Yes Why because men are threatened And a lot of us will say that they're not But secretly they are. Okay. If you make more money than a man If you have more goals than a man, if you're more focused than a man, they're gonna start feeling like your child So Like my mom says and no no no offense against blonde people. She said you got to put on your blonde wig Okay My mom says you got to put on your blonde wig whenever we go shopping or whatever and she needs help or She was like, let me put on my blonde wig and ask for some help And she just means figuratively if you don't really have a blonde wig, okay Talk about long distance relationships. I don't like them. I would never recommend one unless You don't have anything else going and that's just the best thing you can do and that's the best you can do you know Or have them as a side relationship Because the does never works out it never works out because A man is a man they they have needs a woman a woman has emotional needs and Yeah, those can be easily fulfilled through the internet and the phone But a man has physical needs and so does a woman but you know, men are more likely to act on there So I don't feel like they work Unless you have some type of arrangement or agreement If you can't live in the same city as me, you don't live me. Okay. Bye You can't move across the country for me then we we're not meant to be that's what I'm saying How do you tell a man he has to have a successful career to be with you? Um Just tell him, you know, okay He'll be like, well, what are you looking for in a man? And that's when you don't I'm looking for A man who goal driven has a career has a career not Wants a career but has a career Okay, you just tell him like Uh, well, he'll be like, well, what are you looking for? Oh, I'm looking for a really nice start off with the obvious A really nice guy, you know, a healthy attractive man You know, not married career oriented, you know has a career you know is Very adamant about reaching his goals in life and if they don't have that they're going to exit the building And onto the next, you know, so you just mention it. That's that's a requirement, you know Some guys will mention straight up.   Okay How do you not care what men think about mistakes you've made? Forgive yourself If you think you made a mad mistake and You don't forgive yourself then you're gonna value what other people think So if you've already forgiven yourself, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks because you already forgiven yourself, you know Um, if you've done something that a man can't forgive then go find another man who don't know about it. Okay Or make him forget by reminding him of something he did Let me see Guys with careers don't mind women who are on their way and still going to school or working Their way up. Okay How do we get men to approach us?   What do I do? Most women most women are most mothers don't like some of their Children's boyfriends because they they are they can already see what they're about because they're older and wiser And they've already dated someone just like them. Okay. They already know What he plans to do what kind of person he is if he's a loser, they already know that so listen to mama She knows okay, but sometimes we got to live and learn and find out for ourselves So that we can know and not repeat the same mistake or date the same person type of person again because that my mom hated my ex-boyfriend and I was in love with him but When I woke up when my eyes opened when that love You know Vail listed I understand why she didn't like him and I was I was dumb enough to waste You know a year with him. So mom see things you can't so Just just say well, let me figure it out for myself. I know he's not the perfect person But let me see that so that the next person I date I won't Choose the same type, you know, that's how you do that So just let her realize you got to figure it out. You got to date bad losers too to know what a winner is Okay, not saying your boyfriend's a loser, but You know, whatever she's seeing at him that she doesn't like you're gonna see it sooner or later anyways Okay, going back to these comments Someone asked me that earlier. Do I think all men cheat? I think most men cheat That's my answer What do you think about dating multiple men not sleeping with them until one marries you? I think you're gonna in America if you live in America You're gonna have to sleep with somebody before you get married because they want a test drive Okay, and and what if you get stuck with a man that you're not You know compatible with um I say if you're gonna date multiple men Um To make sure they're worth it like if you lose one, you know, the other one got you Uh or vice versa. I don't think you know because men date multiple women all the time Like, you know, I feel like it's up to you as a person and how you feel about what you're doing um I always like to have plan B that men who will wait on you And worship the ground you work walk on while you're dating this guy and you that one don't work out plan B is right there to pick up the slack and I feel like plan B is better than multiple dating because that can get messy and in a disaster Let's see What if you get stuck with a broke? Oh Must take a test drive. Okay. Sorry to be close.  I make two on daylight I'm at losers on there. I hear stars online dating. Okay. I think people who do online dating Are cheap and can't afford to go out and date for real Okay, or meet someone in person because you know a profile picture with filters on it taken like this With lighting look totally different than this Okay So if you got to be on uh online dating profile There's something wrong with your personality where you can't meet people in And um public and date online at the same time You know, I understand is you know If you have a dating profile online and you meet people Look look them up or go to dating profiles that have Standards like that people have to pay for and you go to one that a man has to actually pull out his credit card And pay to be on this dating website.  They screen these men to see how much money they make per year before they can even get on there You got to go to the ones that are serious. You can't just go to the little ones anybody can get into you have to Date online exclusively. Okay like uh If when I used to date online back in the old days when it first came out, okay, because I'm old like I would make sure that that person I'll make sure I saw everything take a picture of your car. Take a picture of your house. Take a picture of this Take a picture of that. Okay. Let me see.  So Who can help you and do things for you and give you a good lifestyle And can afford to marry and can afford to start a family can afford to go on vacations and can afford to feed you, you know Go to the a lot of the websites are free for women and they make men pay.  So I feel like As long as everything else is in, you know, what you want it to be And you also can cheat. It's not it's not like big deal because okay, for example, if y'all see my video Let your man cheat It's using reverse psychology. If you don't want your man to cheat tell him Let's have an open relationship You know, if you already think he's cheating If you think he's cheating offer to have an open relationship. It's like, you know what I notice that, you know, I feel like you're wanting to Open the relationship up and you know date outside the relationship So, you know, I'm not mad at you or anything, you know, I understand because I've had those feelings too So since you've been dating outside the relationship I think we should discuss, you know If this is something we want to do You know, do we want to have an open relationship?  He's gonna. Oh my god Is she gonna cheat on me?  Then he's gonna start trying to be The person he should have been, you know what I'm saying? Because now He thinks that you found somebody that's possibly either could replace him Have sex with you and then, you know You know get up all In his territory, so he's gonna start acting right.  He's gonna be like Because men are very territorial So if he thinks somebody Is sleeping with you because he's sleeping with somebody with permission It's not first of all, he's not even gonna get excited anymore because it's not sneaking around And you gave him permission to do it. It's not even exciting anymore. It's like, okay, she said I could do this Okay, now it's no more fun. Now. She knows what I'm doing. What is she doing? You know who she's sleeping with is he does he look better than me? If does he make more money than me?   Okay If a man cheat does that mean he does not love and respect you know, like I said Earlier if y'all just tune it in if a man cheats it doesn't mean he doesn't love you It means he just wanted to have sex Okay, sex and love are two different things Okay Let's see. Let me go back If you find out your man is talking to some other woman, do you get up in the other woman's face about it? No You don't get in the other woman's face. It's your man who decided to cheat.  You have no idea this man was married or taken or whatever And if you did and you still decided to do it He's he's the one that pursued you.  So, you know, there's somebody dating a man in a relationship I don't really think anything of it. I don't judge people. I feel like you're gonna do what you're gonna do anyway and um I've dated me in relationships when I was single and You know didn't last very long Or I made them break up or something something happened, but you know A lot of that's how most people start dating, you know While other people are dating other people and then they break up. So it's not and it's not a big deal But I don't I don't feel like it's um Something that you should do on purpose, you know, it should just be under circumstance Like oh, I didn't know or they lied to me and we fell in love. It's too late. You know, blah blah um Talk about manifesting.  Don't show everything Don't be in everybody's face.   Okay. Well, if I was to date a rich man This is how it dressed. This is how it looked. This is how it taught.  It's already on its way Okay, because you're already preparing for it Feeling how you're gonna feel when you get it So now the universe has to match that vibration by actually giving it to you and that's how you manifest You know, that's why confidence is key Faking it till you make it is key Because if you don't know what you want, you can't manifest it It's not going to be attracted to you if you don't even know what you want But first you got to know what you want Make plans of what you're going to do when you get it and then sit back and wait on it That's just basically it. It's very simple people complicate things By doubts and fears so Yeah, I know what you want have the confidence Will it when sit back and wait on it? It's coming, you know, and sometimes it comes faster Sometimes it comes slower but If you if you know what you want, it's on its way. If you don't know what you want. It's not on its way Okay, so figure that out first how to release fear just Don't stop caring what people think and stop caring about um, you know What you might lose think about what you could gain Okay, I'm trying to read some of these Dang, okay, um Okay, someone says the first thing a man does when he moves up the economic ladder is drop the woman that he was with When he had nothing That's true You very seldom see rich men with the first women they were with, you know, their original Wives spouses girlfriends they drop them. It's like I'm I'm done. I can afford what I really want. Okay um Because most men believe it or not They settle for what they can get And the more money they got You know, they want to upgrade their woman, you know They want to upgrade. They want to look like the next person with money walking with their, you know, 10 You know, they they want to look like they fit into the the world that they You know that they're economically in they want to look like they're fitting They can't fit in dragging around somebody that don't fit in, you know, that doesn't look the part So, yeah, that's why a lot of men will drop their day ones Even though they lied and said that they wouldn't You know Things change and they do Let's see What do you think about friends with benefits? I think they're good if you um Don't catch feelings for them and it is what it is Because a lot of times these women's be get these women be getting too attached I'm like, oh, we started off at friend with benefits and I think I love him now But he's dating other women and I don't want to know how to get him and blah blah When you signed up for that you signed up for no strings. So stop catching feelings. Okay If you're gonna have a friend with friend with benefits Then keep it like that. Okay. I'm gonna go fall in love with somebody else Let's see Yeah, someone said I only do friends with real benefits like money, right insurance Um Do you recommend keeping a dead beat dad from seeing his daughter if you have a rich man who wants to be the only father? Hmm. Um, I think morally that would be wrong But I can see why you would want to do it But I think morally and legally it could be wrong Uh, and then the child might resent you later on in life for keeping you from keeping them from their real dad So and if that man with money is so controlling, uh, you might want to Get some of that control because you know as a woman Um, if you let men control you, I don't care how much money they got it's not worth it.  I will rub it all in up in his face. I mean like You know, I that's what I would do though, but I'm petty like that.  This is just for satisfaction. This is just for satisfaction Nothing more no attachment.  You're just some sex Okay, that's that so Basically a friend with benefit has to be someone you would never consider marrying You know get some if your friends with benefit is not broke with bad credit. Then you are probably gonna fall in love. Okay Oh, I know we have trolls here. That's okay. They make life more exciting If you don't have haters or trolls you have not arrived Okay, um, let's see How do you feel about older women dating younger men? Oh I don't I could never do it. I mean when I get old I wouldn't date I would never date younger men and when I get old you know I don't know. I'm probably gonna be single or widowed because my husband is older and I'm still look good but I don't think I could ever date a younger man I would feel like I would feel silly, you know Unless they were ugly, you know, they ugly then, you know, and you look good, but you're old and they ugly and young it could work but I feel like it people would look at you and Judge you a lot If you look ridiculously older than the the boy I Just I I don't know. I don't I don't feel any certain way about it, but I wouldn't do it You know, I need an old man. I'll get an old man with silver hair before I go date something younger. Okay Anyways Yeah And besides if you're dating a younger man, you know, I probably have to take care of them He dating the old one for a reason. Okay What did you get this top from this is a dress darling, um, this is from fashion nova and I forgot what it's called, but it's from fashion nova online um I like their website. They have very nice clothes for curvy bodies And a good price so fashion nova The quality is good. It's not like that cheap fabric. It's thick. You can't see through it. You know, it's good quality Yeah And that's why you can get a lot of your uh nice clothing for cheap like if you're dating Um, they have the latest trends. The price is good They have classy stuff and trashy stuff What colors are best when trying to attract amen And while out and about uh something Okay, men love red And they love anything that's sleek and sexy. Okay Um, I don't really really wear red.  I would do that like browns and blacks and blues They're not so eye catching. So uh, and then if you're sitting there in a very feminine color, they will more likely treat you like a lady What kind of shoes am I wearing? Oh, hold on. I'm not wearing them, but I'll show you what I plan on putting on these little faux suede, um lace up like heel shoes And this is this color is like a a taupe or a dark brown I don't know. It's like a gray and brown mixed together. That's what I'm wearing. That's my outfit I was actually going to go shopping today But I decided to go live with y'all.  I'm gonna hold on. I zoomed in by accident Okay, there I go. Do you suggest women reading books about men before dating? Um, I think like reading a book would help And you would know the games that they're trying to play on you But they might know that too like you might sound too rehearsed, you know, so be careful with that Okay, I'm trying to read some bad comments. Okay Are fashion novus clothing size accurate? Yes, they are. I feel like they are. Um, but make sure if you get something fitted Uh, it's gonna be fitted. It's not gonna be baggy. It's gonna be fitted. So, um It's I think it's true to size. Um, if you're gonna if you're going to get the curvy They have a curvy section a curvy plus section and then the regular section Uh, if it would be more like a junior plus size not like the regular.  It's a little bit smaller than regular. So Uh, say like an extra large What fit more like a large? Just saying just like go one size if you have if you have to Um See Do I think it's harder for darker women to find a rich man? No No, I don't people keep asking me this my I'm keep telling you about my friend Who was dark and she met Man with more money than my husband And she got married she she drove a BMW.  Let's just say it.  Okay So it's all about what you believe if you believe that then it's gonna be true for you If you don't believe that it's not true for you. Okay, if you want a certain type of man that don't want you then That's not very smart. You know You can't force people to want you The what, you know, if they don't love you for who you are then move on to someone who does You know what I'm saying? My mom is dark skin Is she been married five times?  So it's not about that, you know It's about how you feel about yourself and what you're willing to accept and not accept Sorry, I have to plug in my phone So I don't like people feel sorry for themselves because they feel like color is an issue We'll go find someone who loves the color.  No, I'm gonna find someone won't exactly what they see in front of them. Okay It says darker women have it hard. Well, you know, I feel like my mom had it really hard But she went with people who liked her dark skin.   So In the end she won. Okay. She won She got nicer everything than me. Okay. She won. So her life is easier than mine now. Okay. I'm just gonna say it Um Yeah So in anyways, I don't think color is a problem. I think preference is a problem Like if they don't prefer you move on to someone who does If you feel like you're being mistreated go around people that treat you right. Okay. That's common sense Okay, let me read Okay, uh white men care more about body shapes than skin tones, right It depends on them. I don't know if they're old. They'll take anything Okay, if they're young they probably want you to be like a model. Okay So the older you get the more you're gonna eat. Okay, just put it out there Hi everyone who's saying hi Um Let's see. How do you deal with a guy who used you got what he wanted and left you You deal with it as a life lesson and you say never again.  So guess what? Some of them will use you some of them won't use you But you'll be able to spot the ones that want to use you Because you dated the user. So you'll see the red flags pop up. You'll see, okay That's what that last one did. Okay.   I wouldn't be mad at it. I'd be like, okay, I was used. I was dumb. Okay.  I would be more mad at myself for not seeing the red flags and then I would take the lesson You know, and then I would tell other people if I saw You know them dating a man who was a user. I was like, he's using you I see the red flags. I would help other people with the information and the knowledge that I gained like I'm doing now And help them because you know, you can turn that around you can turn that into helping people You can turn that into being able to see it in other people and you've gained more than you lost You know, okay, let's see I'm gonna see are y'all just having a conversation here. Huh? It says most women over 25 are bitter Um, well, that's because they've seen all the red flags and they see the red flags popping up all over you Okay, so if most women are bitter towards you It's because they see the red flags popping up everywhere on you. Ding ding ding red flag red flag So the more red flags that pop up the more bitter they get with you. Okay, they start off nice. Hi. How are you? Okay, you give them some kind of, um, you know Red flag Bitter strike number one Okay, another red flag pops up bitter strike number two.  You don't get your man to take you shopping. You get his credit card number. Okay Or you start off online. Okay. This this is how I do it Okay, when he's laying in bed you get your ipad or your phone you start looking at stuff online And then he'll think you're texting somebody, right? Because you'll be smiling What are you doing? What are you texting? Then show them the the stuff that you're looking at, you know, the dress or the purse whatever.  It's like give me your credit card. I'm gonna so I can buy it Don't you want me to have nice things? You know, you're in bed. Y'all are playful. Y'all naked You can get anything out of a man when you're naked So do that and then like make him agree to take you shopping or something at that time Get him while he's a bit Get his credit card number while he's in bed and you're on your phone. Just type it in and then save it for later Be like, yeah You know, I and then find him some stuff that he wants to And say, you know, you would look good in this, you know, oh my god, we should go shopping today I know there's a really cute store and they have the same type of clothes But it's less expensive than that. He's getting excited because he he knows he can spend less money And he's getting something too. So you get them all excited About the stuff online that's overpriced and then you say, well, I know where they sell the same type of stuff for cheap And you know, we can go shopping together and get get a cute outfit and go out, you know Make him get excited about it.   Okay Let him pick you something out and then he'll be trying to go shopping every week. I promise you. Okay Okay I see there are some trolls in here. Y'all just ignore the trolls like, you know They're just they're just here because they don't have any what else to be if y'all know what I mean I don't draw they broke They're single. So they're here.  You supposed to be at work You supposed to be at school at work trying to earn some money, but you you own my video live Because you at home broke With no life. Okay At work making your money me too. I'm at work. That's my job. I heard you too. Okay Well, this is one of my many jobs I have many jobs people think I just sit around the house all day I have many jobs. I have many jobs. I do from home. Okay. I have online store I do readings consultations videos All this, you know I do I do I don't have to leave my house though. I can do it from my pj's Or I can do it and you know nice clothes It just depends on how I feel that day. So Okay, um Let's see a sure you don't have to prove anything to anyone. Oh, thank you. Yes, I know Answer what question I'll see.  How did a person mean? Okay, let's see Um My ex keeps coming and going he is rich and we we I can't see this. We were in love, but he thinks he can't afford me and then leaves again scared. Okay The best way to make a man come back permanently is to start dating a better man.  It's like look If you Really want to be with me, you know Let's let's thrive to get you in a better position so that we can be happy, you know What are your goals, you know Don't you think you need to be maybe you can look for a job that pays more, you know For the same thing that you're doing because some people don't leave their companies out of loyalty Because they've been there so many years, but If you leave your company and go to another company and they're paying you like You know way more money for doing the same thing and you don't do it.  You know what I'm saying? If you want to move up in life, you got to keep learning keep growing and keep striving You can't stay stuck and say this is good enough But you want nicer things or women you can't afford you got to keep going.  I think setting goals Is a way To stay positive because you have something to look forward to, you know Okay, let's see Okay, my question is where to meet men and how do you gain experience in dating if you don't have much dating Keep dating date going a bunch of dates, you know Even if you're not you don't have to marry the people you date You can just go and see what it is and how people react to you What they seem to like about you what they seem to don't like about you, you know, the kind of questions they ask You know ask them questions Just date for fun for a while. Don't even date to to have a relationship Just date for free food like most guys think women do Okay, go have fun. So just um make sure You don't um Give them more than they're giving you like for example Don't pay on dates. Okay That's not dating um If they want sex in return For a date then cut it short. We're like, uh, no or tell me on you.  I leave them alone. Oh, yeah, I did a whole video on that I think that's how this whole trolling business that started that was the video that released the trolls Don't go on coffee dates. Oh my gosh But I go to Starbucks every morning every other morning If somebody asked me on date there, it would be like just driving through to drive through at mcdonald's to me Okay, it's not a big deal. Um Also people say well, it's just a place to get to know the other person then But you can do that over drinks at a bar. Okay, that's more of a date than a coffee shop, you know Um, you can do that over lunch You know You can do that over Something but coffee is like when people say you want to get coffee.  Let's go out. I want to impress you. Okay, you there's no impressing with coffee. Okay So that's strike number one. That's not even a real date because the man can't even impress you. Okay So first of all, you're not impressed Coffee does not impress anybody second of all You know, even if you order the most expensive thing on the menu You know It's in a paper or plastic cup.  You can't do that at Starbucks, you know with It just can't so you probably hold out for a better date where you can wear your nice nice outfit lashes and whatever you need to put on so you can feel you know Like you want to feel because some people I see people in Starbucks and shorts um flip flops, you know, uh, you know Stuff like that and I'm not going on a date where you can somewhere where you can wear shorts and flip flops and Not even wash your face No, that will take me somewhere better Okay, if I see them again, I'll block Okay, I bet Someone told me to block somebody if I see them again, I'll block them Um, okay, I blocked them Okay, hopefully they're gone. You can't see them no more. Okay Do you have a plan B? Ah Yeah, it's called insurance policy, baby Plan B is insurance policy um Because I'm I don't plan on leaving my husband This depth to us part. Okay. That's my plan being insurance Um, I plan on being a widow I don't think I'll ever remarry Um Don't want to remarry don't need to I'll have money Okay, so So plus, you know, when you have kids you don't want to rush to remarry after their dad, you know passes away You know and plus if I marry someone they don't have to have way more money than me And that's that's gonna be hard to find so when the insurance policy kicks in that's gonna be hard to find So I might as well stay single.  Okay Okay Yes Anyways, let's see what else y'all are saying Don't be late to work now Somebody said there's gonna be late to work Somebody somebody's mad because I'm telling the truth.  Okay, at least I'm honest with mine At least I know who I am and what I want a lot of people y'all don't know that You know People keep telling me to write a book write a book You know what I'm gonna get that software That you just talk and it types whatever you're saying And that's I'm gonna write my book because I don't I don't like typing And editing and all that kind of stuff. I I hate it Um, so I'll leave the software and then maybe I can do it What if he does not take you out on a proper date? Um Perhaps Okay, I had to block someone so if he doesn't take you out on a proper date. I think He's not trying to impress you and if a man is not trying to impress you I mean, he don't value you Okay You're not the one and you're not special and you're not Worth impressing so cancel it or don't go back out with them.   Um I'm looking for the software where you speak and it types And then edits itself How can I get up my boyfriend of four years to propose? He wants to wait until he can afford a nice ring and he wants to wait until I'm out of school Y'all they're building a house behind me I think that's smart because Obviously, he knows that if he doesn't have his stuff together And he's not responsible enough to save up for a ring And you know, you're out of school and school is paid for and done with That the marriage is gonna the engagement or the marriage will have problems. So respect that You know, I feel like At least he just didn't say no and you know, I don't want to marry you. It's like He he's trying to do right, you know, let him do right. You're in school. Okay it's like That's why a lot of women date older men because they can already afford the ring They don't have to wait and work and save and scrunch, you know To buy something small You know But if you're in love with someone that's your own age and y'all are both in school or whatever whatever Then you have to respect that you have to wait You have to wait or you gotta You gotta sell something or you gotta wait, you know And or Go into debt, you know, don't go into debt over no ring. Okay If your man can't afford to buy your ring straight up Then let him save for it Should should she start dating another man to speed things up? No, because he's trying to do right like I feel like if he tells you He wants to buy you a nice ring And wait till you're out of school You know, I think that's Having their priorities in order, you know Because some men will sit up and say, oh, I want you to have my baby Not even being in school not even asking about a ring not even talking about a ring.  Did she die? Or she was missing. I don't know You know what a lot of these people that troll have like multiple accounts.  You gotta make them fear losing you To someone better not just someone random but someone better Okay Men hate to think of the fact that you're doing better when you leave them or that they can lose you to someone better That's why you always have to remind them, you know Like I'll give you all a good example So I don't like cleaning, right? I hate cleaning the house.   I hate cleaning I don't want to do it. He says but but you you don't even work. You stay at home. It's like I do work I do I work online and it's like well I say and plus if I would have married, you know, such and such and such we would have had a mate and I wouldn't I never I never pictured myself cleaning up As a wife, you know, like being married unless it's like dishes or something like you have to do But I'm not scrubbing and mopping and sweeping and all that kind of stuff, you know I might sweep a little bit, but I'm not doing all that hard manual labor. I'm not scrubbing toilets and stuff like that because I feel like I deserve a mate I said I must have been royalty in a previous life because I can't do it. I'm sorry, you know when when I When I used to date all the guys I used to date they had cleaning services, you know So now guess what we have cleaning service Um, you just have to you just have to let them know like that's not That's not okay. You know, I don't I'm not going to yield That's something that's something I will not compromise on, you know um That's just something that you're gonna have to Tell him look, you know This is what I want if you can't do it.  Oh look, there's your dream car Oh, he tells me. Oh, you know, you can have that one day, right? You can have that if you want it, you know, I'll I'll give you this. I'll give you the down payment and da-da-da, you know I can have what I want, but I'm but I have to be smart. It's like no, no, no Because that down payment can pay for us to start a business or that down payment can pay for a franchise that we can buy or that down payment can be like, you know part of the college tuition for Layla Sasha, I think I don't need that, you know Let's invest. Let's let's let's build our money so that You know, if I want that in two three years, I can just go buy cash. Okay A lot of people go into debt by Buying stuff Instead of investing and building Wealth first they will buy the stuff that people can just pay cash for wealthy And then they'll put themselves in debt over it what you got to do like my next door neighbors, okay One of them the dea his wife She used to work at a post office and now she doesn't so They're getting ready to buy a franchise a Chick-fil-A franchise And so she has to go work at Chick-fil-A to get the experience in order to be able to own the franchise.  That's how real wealthy people think They don't think flash they don't think, you know, oh, I'm gonna get this nice car But I'm gonna be in debt and have to struggle to pay for it and my kids aren't gonna be able to go to school When she when she finishes what she's doing and she owns that Chick-fil-A.  So you gotta think smart like poverty people poverty minds do not Do not think like this.  I want to flash You can't you can't do that like right now The car that I drive is a jeep. Okay I could have had the car want it because I pay like I pay triple my car note So I can pay my car off quick Okay, because that's gonna be Layla's car when she turns 16 And then then I'm gonna go get my dream car because I'll by then I'll have More than a couple of businesses started. That's that's my plan. Okay, you got to be smart If you're gonna date a man with money and have the means And money to to play around with make money off of it. Don't just spend it on purses and shoes. Okay Y'all see I shop at Fashion Nova.   She could have had like four franchises You know Anyways Buy a business even if it's an online business Okay I'm trying to look back in the comments Who's who's trolling uh, write their name out and I'll just Look for them as they pass by I see one. I'm a I got this one. Hold on block Look Gosh, there's so many unemployed people that are online trolling. God Y'all need to be watching how to get rich videos How to get a job videos. Y'all need to be on this channel.   Um I would not want to be a man like I don't want I would not want to be a man Even if I died and came back I would still want to be a woman. I don't Think that life is easier for me. I think life is easier for women. I feel like That's why a lot of men turn into women because there's lots of perks, okay If I was a man I would be a she-mail Okay, but I'm a woman.  But if I were a man I will still look like this because women have it much easier They can get what they want because men are driven by looks and sex And most of the time women can kind of manipulate and get what they want. So I understand why some men Would want to be a woman They feel or some some that's one of the reasons and some of the reasons is like, you know, they they maybe were born Feeling like a female. I don't know. Uh, but Even if I was a man, I would be a proud she-mail, but I'm not I'm a woman. You know, I got ovaries. I had kids, you know, so Sorry Plus men are more flawless than women. Like if I was a man, I'd have this Pronounced, you know I don't know I'd have bigger teeth, you know bigger hands Um, but I'm pretty tall for a woman. I'm 5'10. So You know, okay, let's see If I was a she-mail, I'd still be winning. That's right I would still be winning Can you show your booty Unfortunately, I am a married woman and I respect You know my husband and if my butt Would get me more views, you know And I was single I might be one of them instagram um People taking pictures of my butt But I think this is my greatest asset right here. Okay Besides When I was young butt pics would did not exist. Okay when I was young It was all about boobs and teeth.  I think the butt pic is like very unclassy. I'm just sorry. I'm sorry I'm not judging. I'm just saying I wouldn't do it. Okay. I wouldn't do it at um, I feel like It's kind of like saying this is the best part of me. Look Oh, and here's my face just in case you wonder what I look like So no not not showing you my booty Okay, if I'm saying I see trolls so I try to block them when I do see them Like like calling me a she-mail. It's not really really offensive because They look good. True. If you go if you think I'm a she-mail. Thank you. I mean, I did something right. My makeup is on fleek You know Because they don't play around. Okay um So to me, that's a compliment. You think I'm a man. That's a compliment. That means I'm I did a good job today on my makeup Okay, anyways Well, I've been on here probably for an hour and a half I think that's a little long. So I'm about to wrap it up. So if y'all have any last questions um Go ahead and put them in the comments Thanks Would you want to come back as a black woman? Of course Because I don't age as fast, you know, um darker skin ages slower. That's scientific. Um Let's see. I know like I know women who are in their 60s who still look like 30 So of course, you know, I think melanated skin Ages a lot slower. Like, you know, um, like I don't have to have Botox. I don't need You know plastic surgery.   But yeah, I would I would want to come back The same Somebody said I'm skinny They're skinny not me. Uh, well, yeah, my daughter is skinny. She's so skinny She's gonna be like Super model because I know she's gonna be tall anyways Thank you I'll see y'all Okay, let me read this one last question and then I'm out two questions. How do you do? How do you feel about manipulative men or women who try to bring down your self-esteem?   Believe me. Okay. If I walk outside right now Somebody was gonna want this. Okay. Just tell them straight up when they try to put you down. Tell them straight up. No I know who I am. I know what I can do You don't let people Talk down to you.  Okay, let's see um Let's see. I'm trying to read the last question I saw How do you deal with guilt of having many partners?  Maybe you should just have a talk with them.   Some people say well, they'll They'll talk about it with themselves in their mind and rationalize it and they'll say well Well, we're not married. So technically I'm not cheating because we're not married. I'm just exploring my options and You know, what if he doesn't marry me?  No So you just have to rationalize it away Make up an excuse why you're doing it And just don't feel guilty about it. If you feel guilty, that means you feel like you shouldn't be doing it So then stop if you don't feel guilty then keep on doing what you're doing, you know Okay, if you've had many sexual partners in the past, should you be honest about the number or not? No, you just lie. Just keep lying. Okay Or you say I can't remember who it's like are you just telling the amount of boyfriends you had that's good enough Okay, I've had like five boyfriends and I don't sleep outside of relationships. That's what you're telling But but they they're gonna know you're lying. They just want to hear something. Okay, so just tell them a lot that that sounds good and unbelievable Um that's what I did like It's like only slept with my boyfriends and who I was in a relationship with you know If I slept with anyone else, I really don't remember because it was not really significant I really don't sleep around like that, right?   Never tell the truth about stuff like that First of all, that's none of their business And if you want to tell them at least make up something that sounds believable and good at the same time So many people feel like you got to be open and honest and that does not get you where you want to go in life Okay, ask anybody who's anywhere. They didn't get there through honesty And if you and if they did they're lying It's called, uh, what do they call it in writing embellishment Creative license Okay, so I guess I'm gonna go now since you know, um I will see y'all on the next one. I'll probably try to go lie. I'll try to go live Um every week or every other week and I'll put out a notice like I did this time maybe a day before, you know Um, maybe I'll go live every Friday On this channel because I know a lot of people have been asking me to go live. So I did Um So I'll see y'all on the next one. Y'all have a good Friday. Have a good weekend. Be safe Don't um, don't get pregnant by losers. Don't date any broke men and Make sure you're subscribed if you're new And I'll see y'all later Bye


Throughout history many herbs have been priced for their supposed healing abilities, but one has really captured the memory, the obsession, and really I think the psyche of a lot of people from the part of the world that it primarily comes from, and that herb is ginseng. So in this video not only are we doing a live little ginseng tasting, so I prepared the renchen through our traditional decoction, water extraction, and we're not only going to taste it, we're going to talk about a little bit of the history as well as some of the uses of ginseng. Hey guys, I'm Dr. Alex Hine, Doctor of Acupuncture and Chinese Medicine. So before we jump into this video, two very important links right below. The first is if you'd like to become a patient of mine locally in Los Angeles or virtually via telemedicine, you can contact my private practice through the link right below this video, and the second is for a free download which is four daily rituals that could potentially help you add years to your life with Chinese medicine. So first I want to jump into just the tasting of ginseng before we talk about it. So I want to describe what this is first and foremost because in ancient China, you know I specialize in internal medicine with Chinese formulas, and the traditional way that most formulas were taken is what's called a decoction. So in Chinese it's tang, so it's like soup, decoction. The way this is prepared is that typically, depending on the region in China, you typically will soak the herbs first, sometimes even overnight, the night before, especially for hard roots like ginseng, which you can't even cut it up because it's so tough, and then you'll boil them often for 30 or 45 minutes, simmer them, exchange the water as in save the water, re-boil them again, and then you have two combined decoctions in one, and typically that's what you would drink three times per day. So I've prepared this maybe about 10 to 15 grams of ren chen ginseng, and if you can see the color, it has a very chicken broth looking color. The smell is a little bit of a chicken broth, sort of almost almost a salty or earthy kind of taste, and if you guys want to see what it looks like, that yellow color. So we're going to taste it and we're going to describe how these ancient physicians and alchemists and herbalists and mystics, even many often, how they described the medicinal uses of these plants because this is very important and very distinct to Chinese medicine. So let's try this first. So the first thing you notice about ren chen is that it tastes bitter. So there's a slight bitterness to it and almost a tad bit of a salty kind of flavor, but certainly the bitterness is what comes through, and that wasn't even a high dose that I boiled. In Chinese medicine, traditional classical herbalism, the functions of the plants were typically three things based on what's called the qi and the wei, and really we could say maybe a signature function or a series of symptoms it's known to treat. So the qi, really, I mean people call it the energy, but the qi is really the temperature. Temperature meaning is it warming or is it cooling? For example, ginger is warming, and herbs like huangqin, huangnian, coptis, goodleria, they're cooling. So these are describing the functions, the effects that they have on the body. When we talk about the qi, we talk about warming and cooling, and then we talk about the flavor. The flavor meaning salty, sweet, bitter, sour, spicy, right? And those are describing some of their functions as well. So in ancient times, the functions of herbs, because you guys have to remember, how do you know what an herb does in the absence of modern bio chemistry? Modern chemistry is very recent, a few hundred years in its most recent form. But these ancient alchemists were ancient chemists, right? Alchemist has chemist in the name. But how can you know what a plant does until you put it in your body? There's really no way, ultimately. So you can imagine some of the trials that must have been happening for thousands or hundreds of thousands of years with humans. I mean we have documented herbal texts for several thousand years, and by then Chinese were already using formulas. So formula science, we never use single herbs in Chinese medicine. It's always 2, 3, 5, 20 herbs in a formula. So you imagine how many thousands of years before even a book in the year 200 AD was written, must this culture have been using these? One of the ways you know the ancient function of an herb is by the flavor and the nature. So for example, if you take an herb that is considered, let's say, sour, right?   A warhead or a lemon or a lime that's sour.  This kind of astringent, it generates a lot of fluids and mucus in your mouth. So we say sour gathers. Let's say you're someone who's flemmy like me. You have a lot of mucus in your throat. You tend to have GI problems, allergies. You tend to have the mucosa tend to be too wet, too damp. Chinese medicine calls this dampness. The thing is sour astringes, meaning it gathers and stabilizes fluids.  And you need more acrid or more bitter. So acrid would be like using ginger to stimulate appetite. Even though it's hot out, you use that acrid to generate some appetite. So flavor nature and then typically the signature functions. But when it comes to ginseng, there are two very specific formulas I want to talk about. So let's talk about formulas that actually use ginseng. Because in ancient times, ginseng was typically used almost like an IV fluids. For example, one famous formula, which is called Li Zhongwan, regulate the middle pill, was used for basically diarrhea. Some people say it was a formula specifically for cholera. But when people are having what back then was called sudden turmoil, vomiting and diarrhea typically at the same time. So this can be like cholera, for example. So renxin was used to stabilize those fluids in a whole formula, not just one herb. Now in later Dianesees, for example, the formula came out called Duxentang. And Duxentang is ginseng alone, the caution. And this is a large dose, I think the traditional dosage was 60 grams taken at once. And that was basically for when someone's dying. Acute blood loss, for example, use that to stabilize the body and prevent the person from dying. This is kind of like my mentor described it as grandma's on her deathbed. You need her to get to your son's graduation in a week before she dies. You give her Duxentang to give her that last oomph to stay alive. So it became famous for that usage. But in ancient times, what was used was aconite. And a formula was called Cernitang. Cernitang means frozen extremities formula, or counterflow formula. And usually this herb used was called aconite, fuzzi. Fuzzi was the main herb used to stabilize what we call the yang or devastated yang or yang deficiency or yang collapse some later people called it. But ginseng developed a reputation that was very similar in later Dianesees. In terms of modern research, there are a lot of documented benefits to ginseng. One of them is that ginseng will even help fatigue, not just general fatigue, but fatigue related to cancer. So one particular study found that even a low dose of 400 milligrams a day believed cancer related fatigue in the majority of the people in the study. Now ginseng also helps regulate the HPA axis related to anxiety, depression, insomnia, and stress. So for example, one study found that ginseng will actually up regulate neurotrophic factors, helping actual cell growth in the nervous system. And on top of that, it also helps with cardiovascular disease. So it's actually an antithrombotic. So people who are predisposed towards cardiovascular issues, stroke, heart attack, ginseng can actually be very helpful for as well. Mostly day to day, there's a famous formula that you see in modern TCM school called the six gentlemen decoction, and it uses ginseng primarily for digestive problems that we call spleen sheet efficiency, loading, fatigue, loose stools, food sensitivities, that kind of thing. So that is probably today what it is most famous for. But it has a very long history. And you'll see these ginseng roots that are framed in these glass boxes that have long the long tendrils of not only the main root, but also the side roots. And the prices for this can be astronomical. But it's a very famous herb through history that is not only backed up from the ancient physician's historical record, the alchemical record, and modern clinical research as well. So that's my two cents on ginseng today, guys. Before you go, check out these two related videos, and I'll see you soon.


Infinite power level chase confirmed, reverse Rex Arman, new exotics, possible raid exotics, reskinned, lost prophecy weapons and much more. That's what I have for you today. How's it going guys, my name's DPJ and I'd like to thank you for stopping by and checking out my video. If you do enjoy leaving a like really helps out and if you are new around here and enjoy daily Destiny 2 videos, be sure to subscribe. Okay so firstly I want to clear something up. In a video yesterday I talked about what at the time I thought was the new Garden of Salvation raid armor. And I know I ain't the only one who fought this either, but it turns out the armor in which you can see on screen now which was showcased under Bungie website under the learn more tab about Shadowkeep, this might not actually be raid armor whatsoever. We saw many new things in regards to what's coming with their Shadowkeep DLC via Bungie.net yesterday and its update. This armor was a part of that. And at that moment in time my first glimpse at it are initially for raid armor. But after a little more research I think what this actually is, is this season of the undying ever-versed Rex themed armor. And I actually warrant that too because in reality I don't want to be ruined by spoilers when it comes to the Garden of Salvation raid, I want to experience it upon its release and see what loot it offers and be surprised by said loot. Now this armor or the armor that looked just like this which was showcased on a computer screen within a ride arc some time ago, although it looked slightly different. I think what we are seeing here are early concept images of said armor. Or they could be a part of the universal ornaments we know are common because although it's hard to actually make out a leafy kind of theme the effects these armors have do mind me as some of the vex we see within the season of the undying trailer. Okay so about a week ago I uploaded a video stating I believe we will be able to grind on unlimited power levels after we reached a certain gear, maybe a gear power cap level.  Because it was the first to do this also, nobody else thought it was true. While people it actually turned out to be indeed true. There will be an unlimited power cap to chase as confirmed by Bungie via games coming yesterday. Bungie were asked the new power cap is somewhere close to a thousand right. Bungie replied with the new power cap doesn't actually exist technically it's infinite if you can actually get there. The click they state this is linked within the video description if you do want to check it out. Now the way this works is as follows. At the moment in game now we earn xp upon earning xp we are gifted ever vs engrams. When shadow keep lands for the same well not for the same amount of xp but for xp we are rewarded power levels. Yes xp earning xp indeed reward you additional power levels and this is all to do with the seasonal artifact. Another thing I haven't taken time to actually talk properly about is the new void rocket launcher which is a lot like the void galahorn well that's how many people in the community are actually describing this weapon. Well with its concept and seeing it shoot and the rocket then explode into smaller seeking projectiles it does indeed act like the wolfpap rounds on the galahorn. The weapon looks super cool indeed and something like this just seems to be that of an exotic it seems super unique in both design and the way it acts. Now we know Bungie and their subliminal messages and easter eggs and they love to drop these inter trailers. The fact we see this rocket launcher being shot at what many believe is Omnigul due to that all soul familiar scream. I actually believe this rocket launcher is somehow tied to Omnigul maybe via a questline as we do know exotic questlines are coming with shadow keep. Is this one of them? Now Omnigul indeed one was a strike boss who when defeated had a chance of dropping one of my favourite pool shroifers of all time the grasp of malak. Now even though I'd love to see a 2.0 version return I highly doubt that will happen in fact I don't think it's even been confirmed if Omnigul will return or if she does return will she be a strike boss who knows we will see.  Now me not thinking Bungie could possibly make a typo on such a post I came to the conclusion that with shadow keep anyone who pre-orders it gets this variant of the two-tailed fox much like what we saw of the rise of iron pre-order back in the day I believe people back then got the iron gallerhorn that's what I thought was going on here but actually guys it was just a typo on Bungie's behalf because going back to the website today it's now called a two-tailed fox. Okay so moving on to what I believe is a new warlock exotic. Okay so this image here we see nine different windows all showcasing various loot so armors weapons whatever all which I have theories about which we'll get to soon but firstly notice we see a hunter titan and warlock they all seem to be wearing that moon specific armor I believe we craft via eris morn with the nightmare essence we get for taking part in the moon's new nightmare modes but yeah this gear does indeed look cool and here is a better pick for you guys to check it out another thing you may notice here is the hunter is wearing the assassin's cowl exotic army we also see the titan and he's wearing the phoenix cradle exotic leg pieces and guys we also see a warlock and I believe the chess piece that warlock is wearing right there is a new exotic because it isn't for sure the moon armor that we've seen already and judging by those capsules of arc which are super unique and look absolutely amazing this will somehow affect the arc subclass but you make sense we are seeing one exotic for each class right here hunter helmet titan leg pieces and warlock chess piece so what else is hidden behind these images well people we see that the armor I said was associated with the moon also the weapons too they all have the moon in the background also devoid exotic rocket launcher I believe is somehow tied to omnigul who is a part of the moon also has the moon image in the background which makes sense gone off my theory but look at the other three weapons firstly these two these weapons are most definitely based on previous weapon models in the destiny franchise the main one there you'll remember as the no time to explain or the strangest rifle but within destiny to the main two that come to my mind are the mercury prophecy weapons the pulse and the scarce I believe the background image behind these two are what I believe is the new raid this image unscrewing now we see is definitely a part of the new raid and this image was released as part of a bungee press key the image in my opinion is a part of their gardener salvation as we see six guardians running across this plane of green scenery very reminiscent to the black garden as we know the new raid takes part here and the background to these weapons we see here people is the same area so could these be new raid weapons we're seeing right here I believe they might be interestingly they also have that leafy effect to them which we saw on the armor within the viaduct could that be raid armor and the same leafy effect we see on those vex within the season of the undying trailer interestingly the hand cannon we see here which we've seen a little footage on also shares the same background image too could this hand cannon be the new raid exotic reward I won't say it's for certain I'm led by my discovery to think this way we also have this treasure for two which many people also believe could be a raid weapon because of its vex qualities but in saying that people the whole theme of this season of the undying is vex with the vex invasion so this could just be themed around the season which in my opinion is I highly doubt a trace rifle will be the main raid exotic to chase I mean who wants a trace rifle as a raid exotic would all much prefer a sniper rifle hand cannon like this hand cannon I believe is very specific and this is what bungee say about it here's a hand cannon that victor's working on it fires special ammo and it's a little bit like a one-handed sniper like it's actually our only hand cannon with a scope on it right now it kind of lights you on fire if firing it too much we'll see some people like it some people are kind of and but we'll hammer it all out on that note guys that's all I have for you today if you did enjoy the video leaving a like really helps out if you are new around here and want to see more of this kind of video be sure to subscribe and if you never want to miss a video I upload you can turn notifications on by hitting that bell button but guys thanks as always for stopping by hopefully you enjoyed the video and hopefully I will see you on that next one


The Federal High Court in Abuja has fixed July 2nd for the adoption of all processes filed by parties in a suit by former Abiyasid governor, Oji Uzo Kalu, seeking to stop his retrial. The court had in February granted Kalu leave to challenge the legality of the retrial. They resumed hearing on Wednesday. Council to the former governor, Professor Awakalu, told the court that the respondent had served on him the counterfeit of it. The former governor had also applied for an order prohibiting the EFCC from retrying, harassing and intimidating him with respect to the said charge or any other charge based on same facts as he need not suffer double jeopardy. Justice Nyang Eko joined the matter until July 2nd for adoption.