Okay, this first one is what is the rapture? Is it in the Bible? It's interesting because most these questions were on wisdom, but that one was I thought well Should I stick it at the back or stick it at the front? So I thought well wisdom says stick it at the front So there it is The Greek word raptura comes from a passage in 1st Thessalonians for where Paul says but I would not have you ignorant brother and concerning them There are sleep that you sorrow not even as others who have no hope for if we believe that Jesus died and rose again Even so them also who sleep in Jesus will God bring with him But this we say unto you by the word of the Lord that the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout with the voice of The archangel and the trump of God and the dead in Christ will rise first Then we who are alive and remain will be caught up together with him and the Lord To meet the Lord in the air and so shall we ever be with the Lord and then he says which is the best part Wherefore come for each other right with these words? And so the Greek word raptura is just the word that means to be caught up together with the Lord in the air when he comes and so That's the where the word rapture comes from and is in in the Bible It's in 1st Thessalonians 4 verse if you want to know the verse on that where it says caught up is the Greek word in Verse 17 so raptura All right, can you offer some encouragement? to single divorce moms whether their children are young in the home or grown and out of the house I Think what you're asking is that you're you're the single divorce moms whether your children are in the home Okay, or out of the house I'm not sure what what it is that you're wanting I this is one of those questions would be nice to have more specifics But I think the thing I would counsel is to do the next thing. I've always Loved Elizabeth Elliott's quote if you don't know what to do, which actually is from Amy Carmichael then do the next thing Get involved in serving others so that you don't nurse your wounds As a divorce or a single get involved in the body life of the church Remember those days that are difficult what the Bible says weeping may endure for a night But joy comes in the morning and I think that's with any Situation I know that during COVID-19. I was even though we're still in it But there was about a week that I just was overcome with sorrow and I'm not a depressed person But I was just like well, thank the Lord for the morning joy comes in the morning And you know just keep doing the next thing and so that it was very helpful should they desire or Pursue to remarry or give themselves over to remain and serve as single That's the question on should divorced women single women I guess that's what you're asking should they desire or pursue to remarry or give themselves over to remain and serve as single Well, the Bible in 1st Timothy Chapter 5 Paul says that he wishes the young widows Mary bear children rule the house give no occasion for the adversary to speak for reproachfully And then he says if those young wind widows and he defines them in the previous verses 60 60 and younger is a wit is a young widow So if you're 60 and over you don't have to get remarry But if you're 60 and younger in fact my husband used to get after Debbie all the time you need to get married You need to get to Mary well now she's almost seven and she goes I don't have to get married anymore I'm an old widow so Young widows they marry they'd be children give an occasion for the adversary to speak reproachfully And then he goes on to say for the reason why? Because some have already turned aside to Satan and they go around from house to house speaking things They ought not to speak so they were getting idle because they weren't married and so It would be according to the Bible wise if you could find a godly husband to get married But again, you know, I would certainly be very careful Mary in the Lord only and make sure that You know, biblical divorces are biblical remarriage is biblical. There's a lot of Jay Adams has a good book called marriage divorce and remarriage that kind of spells out all the ifs and wheres and what's about that Could you could you please speak a little about how we can walk in wisdom in the world and the church in regard to the social justice Movement which has infiltrated both spaces I'm not an expert on this So I'm probably not the person to ask but I would say that I am very concerned about the social justice movement in the sense that it has redefined the gospel which I think is very serious according to Galatians 6 if anyone preaches another gospel let him be accursed And again Paul says I say into you again if anybody preaches another gospel let him be accursed So the gospel of Jesus Christ is very clear the gospel is Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures he was buried he rose again according to the scriptures and Does the gospel change the heart our nature to where we want to? Have justice of course it does do we want to minister to the poor? Of course it does the gospel changes our heart but the gospel My concern is that we're changing the nature of the gospel If you know anything and this this kind of goes into it But anything about what truth not truth matters with black matter matters live stands for if you know their premise If you know what they believe that is not anything a Christian can endorse with a clear and good conscience in This issue of being entitled, you know, I'm entitled to this and that and the other well He thought that too, you know, I'm entitled give me that fruit and look what happened So ladies know that none of us are entitled to anything right or entitled to the Pravity and hell but God in his mercy saved us So another thing I am very concerned about the movement is how it is destroying churches There's that envy strife confusion and I would say that is not of the Lord. That is not of the Lord So I've been actually I went to the truth matters conference last year and they give out those bracelets You know those rubber bracelets and it's aqua and it's really black bold letters truth matters So I've been wearing it out because with people go what are you black lives matter? I don't know. It says truth matters. What was that me? Oh, well, it's truth that matters, right? So let's talk about truth and so it's a good gospel, you know opening and Debbie's been wearing her ball cap Debbie, can you hear me? You got it bring it in here. My husband designed these ball caps if you want to order one You can I shouldn't be saying that but here she comes so last Sunday he wore his up in the pulpit just for a brief moment, but So this is a good gospel tool make America great fear God Tell them what happened Debbie she wore that the other day tell them what happened she was thinking about wearing on the plane today, but We could get a mass that says that you know make America great fear God so Yeah, just do it. Yeah, so Anyway, so that's cute. But anyway, that's been a good gospel thing Okay, what do you believe biblical and appropriate leadership headship and submission looks like in a courtship? How would you distinguish those roles in courtship versus in a marriage? Well in courtship from what I understand about courtship the the daughter is still under the father's Authority until she gets married and then after she's married. She's under the authority of her husband We didn't hold to any of those things. I mean, we were very careful with our children My daughter dated a guy whose parents believed in courtship. So that's how they went through their process and so We respected that and went along with that. That's what they wanted to do But our daughter was still under our authority until she got married to him and our son He didn't date anyone to became a senior at seminary. So But we had her come to Oklahoma for two weeks without our son so we could get to know her and Then her parents had him fly out to Seattle where they lived at the time for three months Found him a job found him someone in the church to work for and so they could watch his work ethic and everything Before they would give their blessing for the marriage. So I we weren't we weren't Disinterested or disactive in our children's dating and court shipping. So very much hands-on In fact, my husband had a sit-down come to Jesus meeting with my daughter's Now husband said either marry my daughter or you know quit quit date quit this five-year stuff You know move on with it. So He talks about that often how the poor guy didn't even eat his dinner So anyway But under the authority of the father until she marries and I am again if I'm not answering the question Ask me more later Book suggestion for someone whose husband's committed adultery and is repentant Putting your past in its place by Steve Byers, I would recommend that trusting God by Jerry Bridges I would recommend that Maximum impact by Wayne Mack. It's a great book on 1st Corinthians 13 Loaded with questions and then faith and feelings how to cultivate godly emotions by Brian Borgman There's a one section in there where a woman comes to her husband and and it's a true story and she said I just want you know, I've committed adultery and I need to ask your forgiveness And her husband turned around said I forgive you. He said I've sinned against God More in one day than you have against me with this act of adultery. Well, that's a That's a pretty mature man, isn't it? So it's a book now. I'm using a lot in discipleship and counseling It's probably on my top list of one of my favorites Faith and feelings how to cultivate godly emotions. It starts out with God and how he is emotional He's compassionate. He's angry, but his emotions are controlled and therefore ours should be controlled And so it's a very very good help for discipling and counseling Susan I became saved and I feel my heart is split open as an unbeliever I did not love too many people. I outright hated most people But was able to hide such hate now. I'm a Christian my heart feels so much love Sometimes it hurts so much when I see my brother's hurt. My heart is so heavy. Will this eventually lessen over time? I hope not. I wish that give me some of what you got, you know, I would definitely say I don't know you But you have the gift of mercy definitely you have the gift of mercy And you're probably an encourager, you know Barnabas the son of consolation a comforter So weep with those who weep now you don't want to get to the point where you enable come Coming with the gift of mercy can come enabling if you're not careful And so with all the spiritual gifts we have propensities to Things that maybe are not godly so that would definitely want to be under control, but Unless this prevents you from performing your Responsibilities at home and wherever else I would say that it's a blessing from God that you really can enter in and empathize with those who are hurting What are the marks of a mature Christian woman likewise, what are the Some signs of immaturity well, we went through those in James Those were very clear the marks of a mature Christian woman or one who's called by God one who's not Titus to also gives them an older woman must likewise have behavior that becomes holiness in other words She said apart She must not be given over to wine to slander gossip any of those things and her behavior is to be good And she's a be a teacher of good things that would be a sign of a mature woman Also that she loves her husband. She loves her children. She's pure She's a keeper at home good and obedient to her own husband. That would be a sign of a mature woman Proverbs 31 that woman who Respects her husband. She is a hard worker gets up early goes to bed late, you know, she's industrious She is not afraid of the future. There's so many great things about that proverb 31 woman I think that would be a sign of maturity and then as I said our session in James Susan in light of Titus to how do you practically get started if you are the mature older woman Do you ask a young woman to come over for coffee and talk about spiritual things? For you is it a weekly event that you meet up with young women? How long does the discipleship usually last? I do both ways I Have often approached women and asked them if they would like to be Discipled and I've also had women come to me and ask me if I would disciple them So I've done it both ways sometimes I pursue I see a woman She's got great potential and nobody's pouring into her In fact, we have all these new people in our church that have just been Regenerated and I was telling my husband in the day. I said there's a couple young couples They need to be discipled they're new Christians and so sometimes we pursue sometimes they pursue us And you know just begin to talk and share and see what her needs are and and that helps me know what direction to go with her a Weekly event Most of the women I personally disciple. It's every other week some are every week Some are once a month Depending on their schedule my schedule and how long does it last? Well I'm still working with some women I've worked with for 20 years. So I don't know I I rarely I don't think I've ever kicked anybody out of the nest It just naturally has happened and some of them just leave after certain things You know, they cuss me out or hang up on the phone and that's the end of that discipling relationship But move away or they end up in you know somewhere else and just things happen So I just trust the Lord in that but if you've never been discipled or discipled anyone you should do it It's a great joy and it's definitely a growing means of grace that God has provided for us What is some scripture words of wisdom you can give me for dealing with loss a miscarriage and family loss a Miscarriage safe in the arms of God by John MacArthur is very good and losing a child I Would immerse yourself in the Psalms I know I've just got done with Psalms in my daily reading and now in Proverbs and I tell you the Psalms have been such a Blessing during this crazy time in our world and they've been such a comfort So definitely I would immerse yourself in the Psalms. I'd memorized Psalm 42 and 43 I would read trusting God by Jerry Bridges Excellent book on trusting God when life is difficult So that would be there's also another book written by Al Martin Does anybody know the name of it? It's on when you lose a loved one Anybody know the name of it grieving and solace or something like that? Anyway, it's very good. I can't think of the name of it by Al Martin How much is too much praise regarding your children, how do I raise a humble girl? I might Overpraise my only child I Think you know it's too much praise when they start becoming arrogant sassy proud But I also would be very careful when I said earlier that you need to praise your children I don't think you should go around just you know always I think you need to give glory to God when you praise your children You know, honey, what you just did was so great.  You don't want to give the child glory Give God the glory for creating that desire in your child to do the right thing So I would always point them back to God because you know Paul says God forbid that I should glory in my flesh We do however have the passage that says that we're not to praise our own lips But let another man praise you and so there's nothing wrong with you know thanking your child for doing the right thing or you know God has really gifted you to You know understand English or you're you sure are good with arithmetic God has really in you know, blessed you in this and learning how to add and subtract and so I would definitely Bring it back to the Lord I have no okay. This is a This is a question. I didn't want to really Present here, but it had to do with the intimate relationship with the husband and my answer to this question would be Intended for pleasure by dr. Wheat who is a Christian Doctor, so it was just a question about in the bedroom, so I didn't want to ask it and Mixed I mean in not a mixed audience, but of this audience of this different ages, so Intended for pleasure by dr. Wheat a great book on And it's from a Christian perspective that will help you in the question that you ask here Matthew, okay, I struggle with knowing when to Either stop or not start or change strategies when witnessing for Christ. Do you have any wisdom to impart? Yes, I think we talked a little bit about this be wise as a serpent harmless of a dove Don't give holy things to dog neither cast your pearls before swine unless you want to be lacerated So if they start to become angry, I would withdraw for a while You know if you look at Jesus and his family there were times he was very Into them and then were times he pulled away in fact when they said your mother and your brother outside They're wanting to talk to you and what do you say? These are my brothers these are my sisters, you know, this is my mother's and so he had times of intensity with them And he had times where he pulled away from them So you need to pray ask God for wisdom as I mentioned about my sister, you know I've she's been bad. She's been moved to Oklahoma now for I think about five years And I've had often on times where we've had really good conversations about the gospel and right now is one of those times And then there's other times. She don't want to hear it And so I don't I don't force that I don't give holy things to dogs, but those times that she's Sensitive to it. I I definitely Hone in on that and share with her What are some good reliable news podcaster radio stations, and I don't know I really don't You know, I was thinking about this question depraved men can only speak, you know depraved things, right? I really In fact, my husband is he loves news and I finally, you know through this whole thing I was like I can watch one hour. That's about it one hour.   So I'm like, what do you believe anymore? so I limit I Read the news every day. I know what's going on in the world But I don't I don't spend a lot of time watching the news I think it's just it's just disheartening and Makes me discouraged and I don't want I don't think that's from the Lord. So But my husband does like news and so we I know enough to be able to intelligently talk to him He'll go did you hear that that I thought yes, I already heard I already heard I came across on my newsfeed and sometimes I find out before him honey. Did you hear what he goes? Really? I took fact I call him. I said did you hear about The Supreme Court they voted that half of Oklahoma now Well, did you guys I bet you didn't know this since I've been here the Supreme Court half of Oklahoma is now belongs to Indian Territory reservation so it means where I live is no longer under the state of Oklahoma We now belong so my husband I said what does this mean for us? He said well, we're probably gonna lose our property I mean, we're gonna you know, everything because it really belongs to the Indians. So anyway, I might move to Florida. So No for real because when we saw that was coming up before the Supreme Court, this is the big Supreme Court I said, what are we gonna do? He said Doug said we'll have to move because we'll no longer be under the jurisdiction of the government of Oklahoma will be under Indian jurisdiction. So I don't know what this means for us just happened while I was here so I Don't I really don't know if anybody does know a reliable news Podcasts or radio station. I really do not My husband is very learned in this I really trust what he says and listens to he's very discerning But just remember the wisdom of this world is foolish. So I want to know what's going on But even in knowing what's going on. How do we know that's what's really going on? You know, I met yesterday with a gal for lunch. She's not here, but She's in the medical field and she said we were talking about the amount of COVID cases And she said well, let me tell you what it is a lot of it is you get tested You're positive and you get tested two weeks later in your positive So you count as another case and she so there's no way you can really know and so how do we know what? We're hearing is really true or not, you know, so it's I'm thankful to know the God of all truth. Aren't you? This is true. So I've just found myself spending more time in the word more time reading good good books spending more time outside Being more with God's people during this time because that's where I'm really encouraged. It's not not listening to News but if anyone does know a good news or good podcast just yell it out because I really don't anybody Anybody know one? Joy FM and I don't know if he and they still does Al molar the briefing. Is that still good? Yeah Okay, so I know he I I did I just don't have time for all that but I know at some point he did try to Yeah, that's what my husband watches but Anyway foxy foxy they are okay Take that out for the YouTube. No. Yeah, so my the lady that does my YouTube channel She said one of your recent subscribers is YouTube content and I said, what does that mean? She says that means they're watching you and if you say anything that they don't like they're gonna take you down I said, well, so be it whatever. I don't care What would you recommend someone to do if they have a desire to become a counselor? Memorize the word. I will honestly say when I became certified with National's wealth used to be nank now It's ACBC. It really wasn't difficult to go through the training because of my diligence in Learning the word of God and so I would say I mean you can go through then a Certification National Association of Certified Biblical Counselors. It is excellent training. You can go to their conferences They're having one this October Lord willing. I don't know. We haven't heard if it's gonna be canceled at MacArthur's Church So I would go through the training if you want But I would say the best word to be a good the best way to be a biblical counselor is to know the word of God and it's really Better than any counseling materials or books even though those are helpful. I like I'm very helpful Hope I'm very encouraged when I go and there's like Christian medical doctors that are speaking and tell us about The different drugs that are out there now and the dangers of them and you know things like that things I can't get from scripture But so those types of things are very very helpful and I I do go to all the conferences usually speak at them but And I would say that ACBC is really good training and we now have a really good director Dale Johnson He is in fact last yes last year of the year before I mean life is going so fast anymore But the first time he took over I I mean he took such a strong stand on some issues And I went up to him right after I said yes, you know so in sufficiency and authority of scripture Okay, what is the proper way for a single woman to be? Submissive I was told by past elders that a single woman that I need to be submissive to the elders of the church Well, we all should be submissive to the elders in the sense of what Hebrews 13 7 says Obey them that have the rule over you why because they watch for your soul and they're gonna give account on that day and Paul says let him do that with joy and not with grief. That's unprofitable for you So we are to submit to the elders now the submission only comes in thus says the Lord my husband has often said Don't come and ask me about investing don't come and ask me about you know, which house to buy or whatever His authority is only based on what God's word says So but I mean people do ask him his advice on other things and we try to give counsel in those areas But outside of the scriptures, that's where an elder or pastor's Authority really stops I mean you can always go ask him Hey, I'm thinking about buying a car and you know What do you think on this? But you know, the Bible doesn't really say, you know, which car you should buy so But we are all to be submissive to those that are under our we're under their authority In fact with the master ministries is under the authority of the elders of our church And so that way it keeps us from being a paratroop organization. We're under the umbrella of them And so that's for my safeguard Um, what is the name of the song you closed with in session three? It's called a Christian home Oh, give us homes and did you get the woman's name? I gave it to you Barbara Hart Barbara Hart written in 1965 Please give information on your upcoming online conference It's called open hearts in a closed world. I'm just one of five plenary speakers I will actually be doing mine on Tuesday morning and you can get on my website It's on the front page, right Debbie Yeah, with with the master org and it's right there on the front page and you can click that on and it'll take you to the link for the online conference my teenager seems to Take any form of critics. Okay. Let me repeat my teenager seems to take any form of correction as criticism How can I tell if I'm being too harsh or nagging? Should I be using their response as an indication? the best way to Find out if you're being too harsh or nagging is maybe have someone evaluate you Ask your husband if you're married ask somebody else in the home I remember when my husband when my my daughter, I think she was around five or six He said Susan he said this home is like military.  Can I help you with the birthday cake? And I said no go sit down and I'm like, oh my goodness and I wasn't I wasn't a believer then and I'm not Excuseing it, but it was when he said that to me. You're running this house like the military I I was totally oblivious to that I didn't know what he was talking about and then I saw that video and I was like, oh my goodness That's horrible, and I wished I could go back and say of course honey. You can help me I mean what in the world? So I think somebody else evaluating you might ask him am I too harsh Have you noticed that about me and ask your husband? Maybe ask a friend? And I wouldn't necessarily use their response as an indication because you know kids like to manipulate so Make sure that you know you ask somebody else What is your YouTube channel? Susan heck with the master is the YouTube channel And I am sorry I do not know what the second part of this question is I think good resources for someone Courting, I don't know what it says. So yeah, if I sorry can't read your handwriting, but that's okay I can't read my own handwriting. I keep a planner and sometimes I look I go what am I supposed to do today? I can't read what I'm supposed to do so But you can email me in response to the responsibility of the parents to the children How would you apply this to teachers? I'm not sure what you're asking, but I would definitely as a teacher You can't demand the kids, but I would expect a I would expect Obedience and that you're the authority figure. However in our world You know, everybody makes an a everybody's good everybody, you know, the public school system is in a mess So I don't know how you would apply this to teachers. No wonder people are getting out of the teaching field But certainly it's very I mean, I remember it's a little girl growing up. I was in public school I was I would have been terrified to disobey my teacher and But not now they'll just tell them what to do and take a gun and shoot them. I don't know It's just crazy. But if that's what you're asking I don't know if you're asking me something different Then email me or text me or call me or whatever me How do you discipline children four and six without spanking them if you cannot spank them Well, I'm not sure why you can't spank them my daughter had four adopt has four adopted children from Africa and They were living in Kentucky when they got they already had one from Uganda and then they adopted three from Rwanda and they adopted them while they were in Kentucky And of course they had to be overseen by the Department of Human Services or whatever you call that So they came for wait weekly visits and I asked Cindy How are you handling this because they did discipline their children? Even though it says you're not supposed to and she said the social worker came in and she said What are you doing for to correction? She said we spank we spank our kids and I said you ever get in trouble She said no I never did she said mom We're not gonna lie and we're gonna parent our kids God's way So that's one way you could do it you could do it, you know You you need to be obedient to the Lord over your obedient to governing authorities So I if it was me and this is me I would discipline my children I would obey God over governing authorities and We are to obey God over man. So You know if I'll tell you what I did in the nursery one time Debbie will be horrified, but I've already told this but Because I couldn't you know you can't spank in the church nursery But I was working in the nursery and one little boy I mean he was out of control So I just went over to him and I took his arm and put my fingers in and I said I am Josiah's grandmother And I spank really hard and he was like I didn't tell him I was gonna spank him and boy he was good the rest of the So but now we have a call system we call the parents and they come and get them But I don't know I definitely I mean if you're really I would do it God's way But if that's you know intimidating to you I would definitely have some form of taking away privileges I would not do time out But I would I would make some some form of discipline that would hurt and I don't mean physical but Hurt them in some way take away privileges take away toys take away Screen time whatever it is that I always tell women what your child loves most take it away Take it away, and and take it away for a long time until they straighten up Is it okay for women to pray in church service if your pastor asked you to during a Sunday school class? Is it okay for women to answer and comment during the class?  So both of those are talking about the public assembly So if you want to look at it biblically no Do we do it in our church? No, I've never known for my husband to call on a woman to pray except for We have Wednesday night prayer meeting where men and women come and we all pray, but it's just a prayer meeting I personally just me. This is outside Bible I personally would feel very awkward praying in the public assembly with men present, but that's just me But biblically 1st Corinthians 11 study at 1st Timothy 2 I don't know. So, you know, I don't know of any churches Very many churches that do that but I yeah and as far as a Sunday school class Is it okay for women to answer and comment during the class if the teacher opens it up for questions and answers? Yes, I think it's just fine But she shouldn't be challenging the Sunday school teacher after he asks answers the question I wouldn't get into a debate with him. I remember a couple years ago I challenged a Sunday school teacher and I asked a question that I challenged. I was very convicted I was like, oh, I shouldn't have done that and so I I can't remember point back and asked for forgiveness, but I know I felt I told Doug I said I shouldn't have done that that was very that shouldn't have done that especially in a public setting like that So but I do think yes, you know and again I'm not the authorities in this church or wherever you go to church So if you're elders and your authorities believe something different you need to yield to them, okay? Being a fairly new Christian, I have a desire to do missions. How will I know when and where the Lord will use me? How will I know if this is the plan the Lord has for me? Pray about it ask if you're married ask your Say you're not me ask your husband ask your father if you're not married what he thinks know what your spiritual gifts are Pray and ask the Lord for guidance. I think about Paul often in the scriptures He said the door was open the door was closed So I would pray and ask God to open shut doors according to his will for your life But if that's a desire you have of your heart I imagine the Lord is leading you in that direction to go into the mission field But I wouldn't know I don't know God's will for your life certainly pray. I'd fast and pray About it. Also get others to pray with you Please give examples of meekness strength under control. I'm not sure a lot of Christian women understand this I think I explained it pretty good in one of the last sessions. It's not Weakness not weakness or it's not weakness. It's not passivity. It's not Mickey Mouse It's strength under control So your husband comes home says honey, we're moving to New York City New York City.   Why do you want to move there? I mean, is there some reason you want to move there and then talk about it? and You know when you're confronting your husband and we talked about that and I it's a I give some examples in the little booklet speaking the truth in love how to confront your husband how to confront people and Ladies you want to do it with meekness, which is strength under control. You don't compromise scripture Not even with your husband But you have it you do it with all authority and with all respect and I think I've told you this in past times that When I first got saved I didn't do it very well I'd go into my husband's office and I'd be like this, you know And then it didn't go well with him when I approached him in that manner, but I finally learned, you know, how to respectfully Disagree and have strength under control. So one day I went in need to talk to him about something that was troubling me And when I left his office, he said Susan Thank you for the rebuke and thank you for how you did it. So I finally learned it But I took listen it took a lot of mistakes and I didn't do it right for a long time, but I You know your husband wants a strong woman. He really does I think my husband appreciates that I'm I'm bold and I'm willing to do the right thing But that should be under control with all respect and submission Top three things How can we encourage our unconverted adult children first thing I thought of was live it Live it be an example to your unconverted adult children that you really live out Christianity Secondly, I would speak the truth in love to them Speak the truth in love to them and then thirdly, I would let them know you love them often I love you. I would let them know you pray for them often I think that would be an encouragement, but live it live your Christian life How do we handle things rightly when we are when your husband speaks to you unlovingly and Harsh, and I think you're saying when your husband that says he's converted Speaks to you unlovingly and in a harsh tone If it just happens once I Would probably overlook it if it continues It's a habit of his to speak to you unloving or in a harsh tone I would again go to him in meekness strength under control and say to him something like this Honey, I've been noticing lately that your tone of voice with me has been unloving and that you're Speaking in harsh tones and you know the scriptures are clear about our speech. It's to be encouraging it's to be edifying it's to be kind and I'm very concerned that you've gotten in the in a sinful habit of speaking to me like that and then just see how it goes If he continues to get like that or this makes him more angry and he continues to be unloving and becomes more and more harsh After a reasonable amount of time. I would probably ask a pastor or elder to Come to your home and then I would confront him in front of that pastor or that elder say I've been trying to talk to my husband now for months about his harsh tone of voice He's very unloving. It's getting worse and I need help and So hopefully there's you know, hopefully wouldn't have to go further than that, but I would lovingly do that Now I will say there was a time in my life That I would pray about something for six weeks before I would go and talk to my husband about it because a lot of times In those six weeks it works itself out so but now we just don't have that many issues, you know, because I finally got redeemed and So, you know, I've learned how to walk with my husband in harmony. So but I used to have a policy I'm not gonna code and talk to him about this for six weeks. I'm gonna pray about it for six weeks And usually I find the Lord just worked it out. He just you know, it's amazing what you do What God does when you get on your knees and pray Ask God to change your husband, you know and to help him with that, but that's how I would talk to him My husband is too harsh with my children often provoking them to anger and resentment It's heartbreaking watching them become more and more angry and seeing their joy diminish How does a godly woman cement your husband in the situation when she always feels the need to protect her children? I give the same counsel. I just gave to the person before But I also would let him know what's happening to the children honey I don't know if you're aware of this, but the children are angry. They're discouraged. I don't know if you've noticed They're not happy anymore. And this really I don't know if this has this husband's a Christian on this person doesn't say If if he's a Christian, I would definitely confront him Several times. I would bring it to a matter before the elders I would Matthew as Matthew 18 says if he doesn't repent you bring one or two more If they don't listen to them then you tell it to the church And so this is I mean anger is a sin worthy of hell fire Paul's very clear about that in Galatians and 1st Corinthians The word deeds of the flesh are these and then he lists them and one of those is outbursts of wrath or anger And he says I've told you before and I tell you again if you practice this practice these things You won't inherit the kingdom of God. And so I would lovingly share those scriptures with your husband The Galatians 5 passage 1st Corinthians 6. This is what scripture says honey. I'm very concerned about your anger your resentment There could be other things going on with that. There's a lot of reasons for anger I won't get into those right now, but there could be underlying reasons why that's going on I'm a single woman who's currently dating my boyfriend, and I have boundaries in place such as not being alone together What advice do you give for dating dates in public places restaurants, etc? We didn't allow our children to go out alone together I think that's very wise if they were in our home or the other person's home We always asked that they would go in you know dinner or something, but not in a closed door space So I would just say you know, I know a lot of people now, which I really think is great They make a covenant not to even hold hands not to do anything Until they get married, so you just don't want to put yourself into any Temptation where you would be tempted above that you're able right and so I would definitely set up parameters So I think it's very wise what you're already doing and talk to your Boyfriend about that before you even get too far along in the dating process So I know both of my children they Didn't kiss their spouse is still a wedding day, so that was the first time for both of them so You know, I think that's a good I wish I could say I have I did that, but I did it so Conference theme walking with wisdom keeping this in my What are your women?  What are your hands godly suggestions for dating? Okay, I just gave some of those okay, and I already answered that question and that is the end look we got five minutes left All right. Well, thank you. You're gonna come up and All right, thank you girls so much