When the narcissist knows they can't mess with you anymore Yes, that is what we are going to be talking about in This video today, and it is quite a big video It's a very important topic and it is something that I'm sure Many of you would like to know I've just been traveling around today Driving around Taiwan Not here for much longer as I mentioned in a previous video Just chilling in here and we are Going to get very deep Into this topic because I know The narcissist was messing with you for a while They were playing around with the you They were doing all of these things to you all of these things that are immoral and wicked Things that any normal person Would not approve of or accept They were doing despicable Disgusting low-down things to you And I know that That is why I decided To create this video to validate your experience To let you know what happens When they realize That they can't mess with you anymore They can't do all of these things to you. They can't play around with you They can't do that anymore So now What happens? When they realize this It's actually very different To what might normally happen in other situations Because for them to get to this point You have caught on You've realized you've figured it out What they've been doing to you You've realized and accepted that yes It is wrong It is despicable It is not right It is immoral and it's low-down It's just bad As you've realized that now But you didn't realize that before though, did you?  I mean Normal people we don't tend to walk around Just constantly Scanning the environment For predators Normal people we don't normally do things like that, do we? No we don't So of course You were caught off guard You didn't realize what was happening What this person was doing to you You weren't aware of it at the time But if you had known I am sure That you would have been running in the opposite direction You would have done anything In your power To get away from them But you didn't do that And you didn't do that because you didn't know As I said you were naive Maybe a bit foolish Maybe you overlooked some red flags Of course we all do sometimes But we give people too many chances Of course yes I understand that That's perfectly understandable And while all this was going on And you weren't aware You didn't realize Exactly what you were dealing with The narcissist was having a field day with you They really went to town on you They were doing all of these things to you Manipulating And exploiting you Lying to you Future faking And yeah there were times when Things didn't seem Completely right You notice some things that were strange Peculiar Unusual And they noticed When you started to catch on And then they gaslighted you If you've just come in please give this video A thumbs up down below I'm seeing 77 live viewers And only 18 thumbs ups It's very important it does help the YouTube algorithm To get this very important message out there To help other survivors of narcissistic abuse But back into the message In the beginning yes you weren't unaware Certain things happened to you Certain things didn't seem right And then maybe you confronted them on it You questioned them And then they gaslighted you They got you to doubt your own memory Perception and sanity They made you feel like Your feelings, your opinions Your beliefs are wrong How you're seeing things it's incorrect You're not seeing things right You have poor judgement That's why you need them there So they can tell you what is right Because of course as they said to you They were just trying to help you They're just trying to lead you into the right direction But you you're always confused You never know what you're doing You're crazy So you need their help That's how they made you feel isn't it Every time that you started to catch on Every time that you started to question them And you wanted to know What is really going on with this person What are they really doing Because things are not adding up They're saying this But then it looks like they're going And they're doing something else But then you go to them and then they tell You know I'm not doing that I'm doing something else I'm doing this for you But it never adds up with their story With the things that they are saying to you It never makes any sense It's like a very complicated puzzle And there's pieces missing So you can't complete it You can't get it to make any sense And they like it that way Because then it prevents you From being onto them From realising what is actually going on And that's exactly how they like it It's exactly how they want it They want you to be dazed and confused To where you're thinking Maybe I'm wrong Maybe I just need to give them another chance Maybe if I just wait around a few more days A few more weeks One day they'll understand One day they'll change Things will get better And that is exactly what they want you to do They want you to just wait around Expecting things to get better Expecting things to change But things are never going to change And you should know that Because they never even accepted What they were doing wrong And what were they doing wrong Well, they were lying to you They were manipulating you Maybe they were cheating on you Stealing from you They were gaslighting you The future faking They were doing all of these things to you And they were loving every second of it It brought them pleasure To see you going through it To where they had your head spinning Around in circles You're just looking around You don't know what's going on But at the end of it you're so confused You don't even know what day it is What month it is It's like by the end of it You can't even remember your own name And that is exactly how they wanted That is exactly how they expect things to be But that is not how things are supposed to be Is it? When you're working a relationship with someone There should be a mutual understanding Yes, they should know what's going on with you But then you should know what's going on with them You should know what's going on in their minds What they're thinking about They're going to be trying to do to you Or with you How they are expecting things to pan out What are their motives Their reasons for doing certain things You should have this type of information When you are with someone You should know what is going on But you didn't know any of that when you were with them As I said, you were unaware Maybe a little bit naive, foolish You didn't fully understand their motives Their behaviors Their intentions But if you didn't know before I'm sure you'll know now You know that they were messing with you They were playing with you With your mind Playing these head games I don't know if any of you have seen that movie It's quite an old one Very powerful, impactful Influential It's called Gaslight It's about this woman and her husband And he's playing with the lights in the house He's flicking them around And the woman, she goes to her husband Asks him about the lights Have you been playing around with these lights? He says no And he says no Because he's trying to mess with her mind And that is what gaslighting is Trying to get a person to doubt Their own memory, perception and sanity And that's just a simple little thing Playing around with the lights I mean, he was doing other things as well But that alone, I mean Looking at it from the outside and observer's point of view That might not seem like such a big deal It might even sound kind of funny Just some guy playing with the lights It might seem like a joke, a prank But just that little thing is enough To make someone feel like they're losing their mind Because just imagine that Just imagine yourself in that position In a relationship with someone You should be able to trust them They're playing around with the lights And you're going to them And they're telling you They don't know what you're talking about Just imagine how sick Someone must be in the mind to do that No normal person is going to do something like that I know I would never do that to anyone Because I know that it's wrong It's not right to mess with a person's mind That is called gaslighting And that's what the narcissist was doing to you The entire time The entire time they were messing with your mind Making you believe that it's this When really it's that All the while they know exactly what is going on They know exactly what they're doing to you And they understand the effects That it's having on you as well They know that it's hurting you It's causing you distress But guess what? They don't care And they don't care because they lack effective empathy Which means that they have an inability To put themselves in another person's shoes So you may be feeling a lot of pain, distress But they're not feeling your pain And in fact what they're feeling is gratification It's bringing them pleasure and enjoyment To see you dazed and confused Not knowing what is going on Not fully understanding their motives, their intentions What they're really about And when they can keep you on edge like that They're loving it They're messing with you They're having their way with you And it's just mind-blowing It's really crazy Because no normal person is going to be thinking like that In a relationship And it was very difficult for me to understand as well Earlier on in my research I just couldn't understand it Why would you want to keep someone unaware Of your motives, your intentions I mean for me That was always the best part of the relationship When the person that I was with knew exactly How I'm thinking How I'm perceiving them And what I'm planning to do with them That was always the most gratifying part Of the relationship for me But of course, narcissists They don't think that way The most pleasurable part for them Is when you don't know what's going on Because they already know that there's nothing desirable About what they're doing They know that once you're fully aware It's just going to push you away It's going to make you want nothing to do with them Japanese alkaline-ine water Very good to balance the body's pH If you just tuned in please do give this video A thumbs up down below It helps the YouTube algorithm Against this message out there Very important Thank you But yeah, at some point you realise You've seen enough It doesn't matter what they're saying to you What they're telling you They're saying they didn't mean to do this Or they're saying they meant something else Or this just happened It was just a coincidence I wasn't aware of it You know the things they normally like to say To avoid accountability for their actions But at some point it's like It doesn't matter what they say anymore All you're seeing now is What they're showing you They can't get in your head anymore And make you see things that aren't even there And at that point They know they can't mess with you anymore They know that you're on to them You've figured out their game You know what they're really about And you're not going to tolerate that anymore You understand their motives, their intentions You understand that yes, they are deliberately Trying to harm you Trying to keep you back Trying to sabotage your progress and success Because they're very envious and jealous They can't stand it And once you come to this conclusion And you realise what they've been doing to you All the while All the while you were loyal and devoted to them You add their every beck and call Whatever they wanted from you, you were there You were the first one in line to help them But despite all of that When you figure it out And they realise that they can't mess with you anymore When they realise that They know that they have no other choice But to ghost you To cut you off and get rid of you Because they know that your presence Is no longer going to serve them anymore Once you figure them out Once you know what they're about And yet they will portray it as though They got tired of you You did all of these things wrong That is what every narcissist does At the end of a relationship Every time they always blame the victim It doesn't matter what you did for them How much you did for them None of that matters You could have given them everything you had You could have given the world to them But at the end of it They will find one thing you did wrong They will exaggerate it They can turn molehills into mountains Or they'll just make something up Spread rumours, gossip Starts media campaigns But why are they doing that? Because there is a pattern of behaviour That we do notice From victims of abuse You know when selling is a real victim And they've been abused They're not looking to attack Another person's reputation They're not looking to spread rumours or gossip They're not looking to go around and tell everyone And start these crazy smear campaigns Are they?  When as I said, a true victim They just want to be left alone I mean if you've been abused for months or years You haven't even got the energy To think about all of these ways to punish or get revenge Gossip about another person Start a smear campaign against them You haven't got any time or energy to do that If you've been abused for months or even years You're going to want to spend that Whatever little time or energy you have left On yourself to heal and move on I mean once you've been around an abuser for long enough It just makes you feel sick to your stomach If you should ever have to re-initiate contact with them It makes you feel sick inside It disgusts you So many of us the last thing we want Is to continue any form of contact with them We're going to avoid doing that at all costs We're just going to want to get away from them But Narcissus It's like when they know they can't mess with you anymore Many of them will still hold on to you for dear life They just won't let you go Of course there is the player type of Narcissus as well Those types They will typically just ghost you and move on But I understand as well I guess that could be painful too Maybe you thought you had a relationship with them They would just use you for sex Maybe a place to stay, money, whatever it was Maybe they weren't really abusive so much They weren't really putting you down, gaslighting you But these other types of Narcissus When you are the grade A source of supply When they realise that they can't mess with you anymore What all they really realise is They can't mess with you anymore directly But they will mess with you through other people Organisations Whatever it may be A divorce through the children Child support Alimony Through smear campaigns They will use all of these other means And yes they are kind of in denial when they are doing that The denial they use as a Defence mechanism for their false character But deep down they do know the truth Yes they are fully aware of that They know exactly what they are and what they are doing What they've been doing to you And what they are continuing to do as well They know exactly who they are And they understand the effects that they are having on you But they don't care All they care about is What they are getting out of it And although yes they may have gained a lot from you in the past While they were with you When they realise they can't mess with you anymore They still just want more Because they are very greedy and selfish It's never enough They're never satisfied No matter what they do to you They just always need more They always need more from you And you may look at it like Okay so I've given you my entire life I sacrificed everything I had for you My love, my energy Everything that made me who I am My hopes and ambitions My goals and dreams Everything that I wished I could be That we could be together At some point in the future As you led me to believe And then you think So I've given up all of this I sacrifice it all And I don't get anything in return For that Or do I at the very least Get to be left in peace Can I at least just lay In the rubble In the midst of the Aftermath of the destruction That you created in my life Can I at least do that And many of you may be aware That no you can't just do that So you may just lay there In the rubble You may just play dead But a criminal always returns To the scene of the crime And when they come back They may see what looks to be Your corpse laying on the ground And they will poke at you with a stick To see if there's any life left in you And if there is They're gonna take what they can And then they're gonna be off again Which is why at times yes They will hoove against you Many of you You hold Some form of Limits Boundaries or restrictions For these narcissists These exist only in your mind It's like you're telling yourself Yes, they may have done this But they won't do that They would never do that And then some time goes by And that is exactly the very thing that they do And then it catches you off guard It leaves you in a state of shock Held these imaginary limits In your mind And I know exactly what that is like The narcissists before They did so many things to me And I thought Okay, yes, they've done all of these things But they wouldn't do that They wouldn't stoop that low Even they're not that crazy And then before you know it, that's exactly what they do They go and do the very thing that you thought they would never do And then that becomes your new normal It wasn't normal before But now it's normal to you now And it's something you just tolerate and accept Sometimes you've just got to look back At the amount of time that you have spent with them Remember what was normal At the beginning of the relationship And then how it gradually changed Throughout the devaluation Going on to the discard Notice how what was normal back then Gradually over time They begin to normalise More toxic, harmful and abusive behaviours Until it gets to a point Where you're just going through it You're an autopilot And they're doing the most disgusting things to you And by the end of it you're just sitting there taking it And you know what they're doing? This is what they're doing They're reading into you They're scanning to see What is the most hurtful thing I can say to this person What is the most hurtful thing that I can do? What's really going to break them More than anything else in this world And yet we wonder How could they stoop so low Because that is what is going on in their mind Yes, they're literally thinking What is the most hurtful thing I can say to this person What is the most hurtful thing that I can do? That's really going to get under their skin That's really going to irritate them It's really going to wind them up It's really going to break them Destroy them Crush their heart and soul Until they're on the floor Begging Screaming and crying for mercy And that is the nature of a narcissist Yes, that is exactly what they do Whatever they think will hurt you the most They will go out and do that Because they really don't care They have no empathy They can say whatever they want They can do whatever they want It's not going to affect them They're not going to care They're not going to feel what you feel They're going to know what you're feeling Because although they may lack effective empathy They do have high amounts of cognitive empathy Which means that they can read into your emotions So they know exactly what you're feeling The only difference is that unlike us I mean if you just imagine for a moment Maybe you see someone in an accident I don't know Maybe someone gets hit by a car You see someone get run down on the road Not only are you going to know What that person is feeling But if you do have effective empathy You're going to feel it As though it's happening to you You're going to have a response to it You're going to flinch You might even cover your eyes Or your ears Or look the other way Because you just can't bear to see another person in pain Especially when there's nothing that you can do about it But a narcissist You know what they're going to do They see someone about to get run down by a car They're going to be staring with their eyes wide open And they're going to be loving every second of it And you might even see that narcissistic smirk Because they're enjoying it They're getting off in it I mean some of us we may be looking But we're just trying to figure out how can we help this person But that's not how the narcissist is thinking They're enjoying it Because their brain processes very differently to ours For them, they're not feeling our pain They can read into our emotions very well Because they are predators So they know exactly what we're feeling Far more than what a normal person can read into But they're not feeling our pain And in fact, when they read into it And they know that you're upset, you're hurt Whatever negative emotion it may be They're finding pleasure in that It's making them feel better about themselves It's elevating them at your expense As crazy as that sounds That's exactly what is going on in their heads So of course, even after everything they've done to you Even when you finally catch on, you figure them out They can't mess with you anymore At least not directly They're just finding another way around it They'll get other people involved They'll target you Because they're not feeling your pain They're not in paths, they're predators And they are getting off in it They're enjoying it The effects of what they're doing to you They're seeing it, they're fully aware of it They understand it They don't care Because they're feeding from that They're getting something positive out of it Many of you don't seem to understand this But when you understand it, everything starts to make sense Now you know why they do what they do Because for me I mean, let's just look at this again From a relatively normal person's perspective As an empath I mean, of course In the past People have done things to me And I had an opportunity to get revenge To hurt them In return to what they did to me And yes, of course I'm human I've done things I'm not proud of I've hurt people But you know It only took maybe a few minutes After hurting them To where I felt so much guilt I felt so bad for my actions To where I just wanted to run to them And put my arms around them And hold them so tight Because I felt so bad This is something that I've experienced Many times throughout my life Where I've hurt someone In return to what they did to me And I couldn't let it go on Of course there were times I was with someone They said some hurtful things to me We went to sleep together Maybe at first I kind of gave them the silent treatment I went to punish them But I couldn't let it go on until the morning I had to make it right Or else I couldn't sleep So that's a normal person's perspective For a narcissist they can let it go on until the end of time Makes no difference to them Because they're not feeling your pain They're not feeling your struggle For me I just can't let anyone go through that I just can't sleep If I know that someone is in pain I have to go and try my best to relieve their suffering But as we know Narcissists aren't going to do that And in fact they will be watching you Stalking you on social media And they will be rubbing their hands With a little narcissistic smirk on their face Just hoping, anticipating They're going to see something Maybe some post that you put up Narcissistic abuse Maybe a picture with a sad face Maybe you're talking about something You're going through Maybe you've got bills to pay You're worried about how you're going to pay your rent How you're going to feed your kids You know these daily struggles That we go through in life While the narcissist When they log on and they see that They're going to be loving it They're going to be getting pleasure out of that This is just the way that they are And for a long time It was very difficult for me to understand it I thought there's just no way I thought everyone is just like me I thought we all have the same brain We all feel bad for other people But that's not how they feel for you I know they say it sometimes with their words But just look at their actions How many times Until you start to realise who they are And this is why I have to get on here every day and do this I have to put this message out there Because this is what people are going through All around the world I know it's not just me This is what I've always been about This is why I started this channel to begin with To be this person that I never had in my life No one was ever there for me No one was there when I needed them I can tell you that what brings me More pleasure than anything else in life Is to know that I am there for you And that's how it should be That's what people are supposed to be like We're meant to be there for each other And honestly that is the most beautiful thing to me in the world It really is To see when people are there for each other Unfortunately I know a lot of you may not like to hear this But I'm going to say it because You do deserve to know the truth And the truth is that the narcissist is never going to be there for you like that I do have to be quite, quite though because There are other people here And they may be trying to get some sleep But yes The narcissist They're never going to be there for you They're never going to come in And be that person that you've been waiting for Only because that was who they led you to believe that they were But they're never going to be there for you The entire time They lied to you They were manipulating you They never really cared about you They only cared about themselves You were manipulated, you were used You were lied to You were gaslit And at some point you have to cut your losses and realise But yes, that's all that there is to it You were exploited There is nothing in it for you There is no light at the end of the tunnel There is no silver lining To the cloud Not from them anyway Unless you go and you create that for yourself Because that's what you have to do I mean I had to do that in my own life I waited around for such a long time Thinking that one day All of these dreams that were fed to me One day maybe it's going to be a reality But just wait around another year Another few years Something will happen eventually You can keep doing that until your life passes you by But it's not going to make a difference It's not going to change them They're missing that effect of empathy So they're never going to be there for you They're never going to feel your pain And at some point you do just have to accept But yes, you were tricked You were duped You were deceived They led you to believe that they were this And they were not that at all They were never what they led you to believe If they were then you would have seen something by now I'm sure So yes, at some point we do just have to accept it We have to accept that yes We were victims of a narcissistic abuse But we don't have to be that for life That's why I chose to give this channel The name that I gave it Narc survivor I didn't call it Narc victim Because unlike these narcissists I don't want to label myself as a victim Even though quite honestly if I really look at it I've probably been victimised 100 times more than 99% of people in this world And even that would be an instatement Real strength To go through all of that And still come out of it And not call myself a victim Instead I call myself a survivor Because that's where I am I survived I survived it all All of the abuse All of the lies All of them is treatment And misfortune And you know I am proud to say That I survived all of that I'm not going to let it weigh me down I'm not going to carry their shame Instead I look back and I see Everything that I have overcome And then again that only made me stronger It made me more powerful And again that's how I'm able to get on here every day And empower you So they realise they can't mess with you anymore And then they try to mess with you Through other people Their enablers Their flying monkeys Whoever it is that they're dealing with Maybe even their new supply That may triangulate you Or if you're dealing with a player type of narcissist They're just going to ghost you You might never hear from them again And if that is the type of narcissist You're dealing with Count yourself lucky But at the same time I empathise with that as well You may have wanted a relationship A marriage, children You didn't get that Of course that's not right It's not fair I understand that You went to commitment You didn't get it Either way it's not right What they do It's not right at all We deserve better And we've got to give that to ourselves We've got to practice self love Self care And remind ourselves just how great we are That's why they chose us They could have chosen anyone But they chose us, why? Because they believed that we were greater Than other people So it gives them more of a high When they finally break us down They love turning a powerful Confident person Into an emotional wreck The more higher up you are The further away you have to fall Until you finally hit the ground So that should just remind you Just how great you are And why they picked you But it's getting late here I'm getting sleepy I'm sure you can tell My eyes are starting to close I've stayed on here quite long But I had to get this very important message Out there And those of you who haven't hit The thumbs up button yet Please do Help see you with your algorithm Get this message out there Other people need to hear this Other people need to be aware They need to know what is going on What the narcissist Was doing to them And what they do And they realise that they can only Get a mess with you But yeah I think it's time for me to have a shower now Get ready To sleep It's been a long day I think this is actually the latest I've done A live video I had a lot to say But yes, thank you all for watching I do appreciate you all Let me know your thoughts In the comment section I am reading your comments every day Hit that subscribe button down below as well And click the bell icon Very important Click that bell icon as well Only then will you receive notifications For my future videos If you don't hit the subscribe button And click that bell icon You might not receive the notifications So please remember to do that And if you'd like to book a one-on-one coaching session with me Preferably when I am a bit more awake You can do that on my website It's NarcSurvivor.co.uk And if you'd like to see some more of me You can go to my Instagram And follow me on there It's NarcSurvivor YouTube and Instagram I've got plenty of pictures and videos And recent travels on there So do check it out As always, I would just like to thank you all for joining me Hit that thumbs up button below If you enjoyed the video And to show your support Again, thank you all And I will talk to you in another video very soon


Hello and welcome to the International Daily Roundup by People's Dispatch, where we bring you major news developments from around the world, our headlines. Thousands of Amazon workers lead strike for fair working conditions in Italy, UN reports 15 deaths in massive fire at Rohingya refugee camp in Bangladesh, Houthi's demand that Saudi Arabia lift blockades before discussing Yemen peace proposal, and in our video section we take a look at armed rebel groups and the pretext of foreign military intervention in the Democratic Republic of Congo. In our first story, thousands of Amazon workers led a historic countrywide strike in Italy on March 22. The 24-hour strike was organized by three trade unions, the FIL, TCGIL, the FIT, CISL, and U.D. Transporting. Workers throughout the supply chain went on strike after the company refused to set another date to continue negotiations. Mobilizations were reported across the country, including in Tuscany, Florence, Emilia-Romania and Piza. Local media reported that over 9,500 warehouse workers and 15,000 drivers participated in the strike. Workers have highlighted the precarious conditions of work, of out of the 40,000 workers more than 10,000 are hired through employment agencies. Their administered contracts have a high turnover rate and usually last just three months. In other cases, workers are forced to leave after nine months. Drivers are working beyond contractually established working hours and often delivering anywhere between 180 to 220 packages per day. The CGIL union has also reported that workers are held responsible in case of uncertainties due to traffic accidents and other setbacks. They have demanded renewed negotiations with Amazon and presented a series of demands. These include meal vouchers, adequate travel allowance, health and safety training, and reducing the working hours of drivers. They have also asked for verification of the workload and worksheets in the supply chain and the correct professional classification of staff. Their demands also include the provision of a COVID allowance for operations undertaken during the pandemic. Monday strike action follows multiple such mobilization efforts by Amazon workers in the U.S., Spain and Germany. In our next story, the UN has estimated that at least 15 people were killed in a widespread fire in a Rohingya refugee camp in Bangladesh. The UN refugee agency has also reported that at least 400 people are currently missing. The Bangladesh police have confirmed seven deaths so far. The fires spread across the Balukhali Rohingya camp in Cox Bazaar on March 22. The World Food Programme has reported that camps 8E, AW, 9 and 10 were affected. The fire started around 4 p.m. and went on for about six hours. Refugees International has estimated that at least 50,000 people have been displaced as thousands of shanties were destroyed. As reported by the Dark Attribute, a senior officer from the Cox Bazaar fire service has stated that thousands have also been injured. Two WFP nutrition centers and one food distribution center were also burned down. The largest health clinic set up by the International Organization for Migration has also been destroyed. Approximately 1 million Rohingya refugees reside in camps in Cox Bazaar. An estimated 124,000 refugees reside in the four camps affected by the fire. Authorities are yet to confirm the official cause of the fire and a seven member investigative committee has been set up. In the meantime, the World Food Programme has reported that refugees are now seeking shelter in nearby camps and UN transit sites. Emergency food, sanitation and medical provisions have also been deployed at the site. We now go to Yemen where the Houthis are demanding that the Saudi Arabia lift its air and sea blockades if it's serious about a ceasefire in the region. Chief negotiator Mohammed Abdul Salam made the statement in a response to a Saudi peace proposal on March 22. The proposal includes a UN-monitored nationwide ceasefire. It also calls for the opening of the Houthi-controlled Sana'a Port and Hodehda Port in limited locations. Both ports have been only operational for humanitarian purposes because of the Saudi air and sea blockades. The proposal also calls for revenue sharing between the Houthis and the Saudi-backed government of the Rabban Surhadi. An estimated 100,000 to 230,000 people have died as a result of the war in Yemen and the accompanying Saudi-imposed blockades. The country is experiencing acute shortages of medical supplies and millions are at risk of starvation. Air raids by the Saudi-Electric Coalition have caused widespread destruction of the medical and civilian infrastructure. Iranian press TV reported on March 21st that several patients had also led a march outside the Sana'a airport demanding that it be opened. Saudi air blockades have prevented patients from traveling abroad for treatment. The Houthis have stated that the opening of Sana'a airport is a humanitarian right which must be separated from a political or military bargain. They have stated that the Saudis must lift the air and sea blockades before any peace talks take place. For our final story, we go to the Democratic Republic of Congo where a rebel group has been designated as a, as a, by the US as a foreign terrorist organization. The Allied Democratic Forces group has been blacklisted over its alleged links with ISIS. This is despite numerous reports by UN group of experts denying any such link between the two organizations. Here is Kambali Musawali to examine the context of the rebel groups present in the Congo. Now to specifically speak about the ADF, the Allied Democratic Forces, those are Ugandan rebels who have been in the U.R.C. since the late 90s. They have some political claim. They believe that the rule of Uganda is not what the Ugandan people believe, believe or fought for. They are somehow connected to a religious group. They say that they are Muslim fighters and so on. And then, since the late 90s, even with the invasions of the Ugandan Ugandan in the U.R.C., they have never been stopped. There is another rebel group, similarly to that, to the FDLR rebel group. They are connected to the Hutu extremists who participate in the Rwanda genocide. The reason why I'm mentioning that Rwanda and Uganda invaded and still did not stop there is whenever you are in occupying force in another country, because they, Rwanda and Uganda occupy the U.R.C., and you have the military power, especially when you are backed by the United States, and you still do not address the issue of this militia group. We know in the U.R.C. that this is just a pretext to have military presence in the U.R.C. that's continuous. The ADF for us is our weapons of mass destruction. Never been found. We do not know what they do. Yet, it's always a pretext for military presence. The United Nations Security Council mandated a group of experts since the early 2000 to provide reports on the situation in the Congo. They provide two yearly reports in June and in December. And the UN group of experts have documented the so-called ADF crimes. In their documentation, they have say things such as the ADF rebel groups in some areas speak Kinyawanda. Kinyawanda is a language spoken mainly in Rwanda. So these Muslim terrorists somehow speak a language that comes from Rwanda where Islam is a minority. And it's been documented. You have these ADF rebels who do that. But beyond what's even in this UN group of experts report, even the people that we speak with on the ground for disclosure, my family is from there. I've actually lost family members in their area. Whenever we speak to our contacts in these villages, they clearly tell us the attacks are known when they come because the CNMSS say we are coming. It's usually close to Kongoli's army bases and UN forces who are in the DRC. When the killings take place, there is no military action from these armies. And after the killing, that's when you start seeing officials coming to try to find out what has unfolded. So people in the area are so angry at the UN. There was even a period a few years ago where the people of Benny and Butembo took stones and were throwing it at the UN peacekeeping forces. Because they were saying, why are you here with the largest peacekeeping missions that used to protect the population where your mandate is to protect the population? So the people in the area are very clear that these forces were killing them constantly are not necessarily the ADF. But it's a right time of rebel groups who for whatever political reasons are not being stopped for over decades are decimating the population. Benny and Butembo is clear that the attacks, to me at least and the people on the ground, is that the attacks are happening because of the land, the resources on the land. It's a huge arable land. It has oil from, there's been some studies that have shown that the oil Congo has over 2 billion barrels of oil in one of its lake. The lake is called Lake Albert at the border of Uganda. There is at least an estimated 2.5 billion barrels of oil. And this all extends from the border all the way to these towns. And then going all the way through the park, the Wurunga Park, which is a UNESCO protected site. And there's this question around, should we explode oil or not? And the people have resisted. We must protect the environment rather than exploding oil. But during a period, at least half a decade in that area, massacre has taken place with no accountability. That's all your time for today. We'll be back tomorrow with more news from around the world. Until then, keep watching People's Dispatch.


Vanessa, where are you? Oh my god, Tom! What is your crossbow doing on the kitchen table? A crossbow doesn't clean itself, you know? What is he doing?  No, I'm poking a hole. Two left lessons in film. Hi. Today we're gonna be making sense of life through the five-year engagement. It basically follows Tom and Violet figuring out when the right time would be to get married. Which ends up meaning that they are engaged for five years because they just can't figure out. Yeah, through moving, through even breaking up, through relative style, careers changing. But they do at the end. Yeah. And it was good. So the initial thing that stands in the way of them getting married is Violet gets a job. She's been trying to find a job with a university where they live, which is San Francisco, but she hasn't been lucky. She gets a job at the University of Michigan. Tom is very supportive and so they end up moving there. They're supposed to only be there for two years. And he's like, no, that's okay. Two years is not a long time. And he's gonna quit his job here as a chef at a pretty impressive restaurant. The plan is to move back after those two years. But then when she's there, it ends up getting extended for three more years. Tom... He's struggling to find a chef job that he's satisfied with. He falls into a spiral of anger, self-pity, depression. Depression, yeah. And he's hanging out with this guy who's also kind of a faculty husband. They start hunting together. The guy teaches him how to knit and he becomes an amateur beekeeper. Tom has become something of an amateur beekeeper. It's just at the right stage of fermentation. Oh, there you go. Drink as much as you like.  But all of these things aren't satisfying. He's very visibly depressed. All of that does take a toll on the relationship and Violet ends up cheating. He also gets drunk and then himself cheats. And then they end up just calling it quits. I guess the main thing with Tom, right, is that his main struggle, I guess, is that he wanted to support his fiancee into moving to Michigan. But it wasn't a good fit for him. And he's away from everything he knows and is familiar with and likes. But he doesn't anyway because he wants to be there for Violet. He is definitely a good example of why it's important not to be a martyr. He's very supportive. Violet says, my mom quit her job for my dad and she never forgave him ever. She became a real martyr and she's not a happy person and I just don't want you becoming my mother. He makes a joke that he'd rather be the resentor than the resentee.  I don't think there should be room for resentment in a relationship. Yeah, that was a mistake there. Not taking the decision seriously enough to be like, ah, you know, if one of us is going to be resentful, I'll take that on. So you're convincing yourself this is what you do out of love. I'm doing this for my partner. Well, I'm sacrificing myself. I'm a good supporter.  And I think that's true, but I don't think it's right to support someone when, you know, you're sacrificing your own needs. It even takes on kind of like a very different personality and identity to try and make this new fit work. Work, yeah. And it's depressing it. And he doesn't say what he wants. He's not honest about what he wants. And he's angry at her. I became the resentor. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, she called it and she expressed her concern and he was like, no, no, no, no, I'm good. But then you still get angry, even though you did make the choice and it was on the table for discussion, she was putting it on the table. I mean, I guess I also liked Tom just for the fact of if I'm comparing these two people, I think he has a better idea of making sacrifices in a relationship. You know, when you are in a relationship, there are lots of sacrifices that people have to make. Things like moving for a job, you know, for someone else's job, but it doesn't mean just sitting there and just, yeah, okay, I'm gonna quit my job without knowing what the repercussions of these things are. So I think he does care about his fiance. He's really doing his best. I don't think we always get it right, but he is trying his best to be compromising. And I think that there's a lot to be said for that. I agree. Yeah. And then you've got Violet where at the beginning, before she gets the job, she's very open and direct about, let's talk about this. Like, we don't have to do this. I don't have to go ahead with this if you feel like it's not right. And then maybe it's that kind of thing where he feels, whether she was pressuring him subtly or not, he feels like, no, no, no, I wouldn't, I don't want to say, I wouldn't be that guy that says, no, don't follow your dreams. But then then by doing that, they really don't see it through. Think about it properly. And then when she's there, she's enjoying her new job, which is great. But then she does start to really kind of neglect Tom. I got a lot of quality time with your friends. They really like rat tattooing. Did I ignore you at the party? Come here. I love you. I love you too. Sorry. Maybe because he's seemingly less exciting because he's getting more depressed. Yeah.  Then even when she sees that he's clearly in a bad spot, she isn't like, let's just leave. Let's just go back. This isn't working. You know, we tried it.  I really was because, you know, things are going great for her. But then how are you able to, if you love someone, I just don't understand how you're able, you would be able to look at your life and just enjoy your life. And meanwhile, your partner is depressed. Even if your partner's depression isn't rooted in the choices that you made, or like in your career, or the sacrifices that he made for you, even if it wasn't rooted in that, I just don't understand how you can literally be living with someone and be so happy every day while your partner isn't. How are you comfortable with that? Yeah. I think if I cared about someone, I would be concerned about it. Yeah. And if my choices are affecting someone I love, you better believe I'm going to sit down and reflect on what is worth it, really, to me. That's her growth, I guess, as a character, is that at the end, her career at that university also falls apart because the relationship fell apart and they affect each other. So then she had nothing after she didn't have the relationship. She didn't have her working at the university. So that's where she went. They went back and then she actually proposed to him and had it all set up this time with the on-the-go wedding. All right, all right. I'm going to drop the sheet in three, two, one, drop it. I don't know me, dummy. Just wait till the wedding. Right. Yes. Oh, yeah. Okay, of course. I think if you have been in any kind of caring relationship, you really get to understand that someone who loves you will a lot of the times act in your best interests over their own. I would then have to have the conversation about, you know what, I really appreciate you being sensitive here, but are you sure you're doing this for me or are you doing it for yourself? Yeah, that. Are they doing it for themselves or they are doing it for you but at the expense of the relationship, which might have been what was going on there too, right? It's like he was willing to give everything she wanted but not realizing that that would then damage the relationship and then she didn't seem to notice that either. She really is in denial. Like he chooses to stay in denial of the fact of how her choice has affected the husband. Like when they're at dinner with their friends and his center sister, he's, you know, thoroughly just out of it. They're drinking out of bear claw. For furry mugs. Mugs, furry mugs. The friends are clearly worried about him and the friend even says, like, are you okay? Yeah. Because you seem in a bad place and then the sister is aware. Everybody's aware.  Isn't that great?  And I think that's something that's really tough to do. The bottom line is that I also really just didn't, what? This is more serious that I'm, I'm sure people weren't expecting. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Is it hot in here? Anyways. So how's Michigan? You know, it's a, it's a bit of an adjustment, but all in all, it's fine. Wow. Sorry.  I don't hate it. Bit of Irish stoicism never hurt anyone. Well, I think it hurt a lot of Irish people. I like Alex. Him and Susie's relationship is same. Yeah, it works. That's the thing, right?  Susie gets pregnant and then they get married.  And what's going on? You're making, what are you doing? And then they end up being very stable and good for each other, the entire movie. Yeah. And great parents, really supportive of each other. They love each other. They're goofy. They understand each other. They're open with each other. So I really liked this relationship and it, it is what I would have hoped for. Tommen. Tommen Violet, doesn't it? The thing about Alex that I like, you know, he's very crass, truly. He is. Guys, I need hands on my carrot wiener. Alex, put the carrot wiener away.  Get back to the floor, Graw. He's goofy in that way that sometimes people don't take seriously and think you're dumb. Yeah. You know what I mean? Yeah. Cause I even have that at one point where when Violet finds out that Susie is pregnant, she's like, but I'm so wrong. What, of all people? Exactly. And I'm like, Amoron as the movie, you know, progresses, you're like, this is the most mature guy. Yeah.  He's able to be like, no, you're in a bad place. He's also able to say like, you got to be honest with your partner.  And he's like, you're not being honest with your wife. You're not being honest with yourself. You're not being honest with me. You're not being honest with anyone. Yeah. Bro, you got to be honest with her, man. I am honest. Uh, be honest with me. You're not being honest with her.  Trust me, dude. You need to be honest with this woman. She's going to be your wife. And you have to do that. If you're going to be married, that is the, you know, foundation for a good relationship. That is the Moron. Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. A lot of times I think people mistake someone who might just do things a little different. They have a different kind of sense of humor, different way of looking at things, but it actually has a lot of knowledge and wisdom. Yeah. I think we've all talked about this, like comedians that we like, where people who think in black and white terms have this very static way of looking at people.   And I'm like, but do you even know how hard it is to make people really laugh? And if you can manage to make people really laugh, I think that that is a mark of intelligence for me personally. Who's the guy? Let me take some guesses. Okay. Just don't even think about it. One, two, three.  Who did you say? That reminded me of that. And how he was treated there because, you know, calling him a Moron just because he jokes around and he's funny. It doesn't mean that he's actually, he has so much integrity. He's a good friend. Yeah. And he has, you know, a really strong moral compass. Mm-hmm. Violet. Breathe, breathe. A perfect freedom in every way. Breathe so much. I love you. And I'm a dog. I love you too. I like Susie too. Yes. Yeah. Susie is the perfect example. I love people like this. Supportive sister. Yeah. She's a supportive sister and friend, you know, friend to her sister. I like her because she's very adaptable. You know, pliable. I like people like that really because life is always changing. And Violet strikes me as those people who are just very, this is my goal, this is the trajectory I want and no matter what, my partner gets depressed. I don't care, it's fine. But I'm still on my path. That's the goal that I want. My relationship is falling apart or calling off the wedding. I'm having affairs. My partner is having an affair now. No, it's fine because I'm still on the same, on the road. That's my goal, right? Yeah. Susie, right? She's like, well, you know, I wanted to have a job. I think it's like, kinesthesiologist or something. Yeah. In the medical field or something like that, yeah. And she's like, in this case, you know, I have two kids which are great, but it can also be a lot. I need a break. She had certain goals and then she's willing to go with the flow of life. And she's also very supportive. She was like genuinely like, couldn't speak, you know, at their engagement party, you know? She's supportive. It's rare. It's really rare to see people that are like, overtaken with. Yeah. Emotion and care for people in their lives. Yeah. I think both Alex and Susie were that way. Yeah. She's a healthy compromise you know what I mean? I think when you're compromising, there is, it's very important if you're, if you're in a relationship, I think compromising is very, very important. But when you're compromising, I think it's important to reflect on why am I doing this and what are the outcomes? Will I be happy with the outcomes?  She's very much, yeah, it is worth it, this thing. I'm sacrificing my initial goal. Yeah. You know, for. Anyway, Alex and Susie are great. Yeah, but in the end they're the couple's friend that you would want. Themes? Themes? I would say, Would you say, be, wait, I'm out of the. Theme one. Yeah. Do we have to have the answers before settling down? Yeah. No, I don't think so. I mean, you know, I think the main reason why they closed home the wedding is because they feel like they have to have everything figured out first. Whereas again, Alex and Susie, we're just like, okay, because we're getting married because, you know, you're pregnant and they figured out as they go. Yeah. And also what does that mean figuring it out? Maybe it's some people to also just do stick to a very strict idea of how you level up, which level comes next.  Other people are like, get married first, then we'll, I guess, figure out where we're gonna live. Yeah. I mean, for me, personally, I think what Violet seems to be focusing on is material things, which I don't think if you figure out material things and you're not figuring out the immaterial things, like the value systems that you guys will uphold in your relationship or as a foundation to your relationship. I don't think that things like career where you're living matter at all because if you have made the decision about these are the values on which we are going to base our relationship. Things like, how do we measure compromise? You know, what is compromising too much or too little, what is just right? How do we resolve issues when we are disagreeing about certain things? What do you need for me to show that I love you or to show that you're cared for? Relationship tools. Relationship, yeah. I think those are the most important things because when you figure those out then everything else becomes easier. The theme of do things for yourself when it makes sense for you. We will be doing the wedding in the Bay Area in San Francisco. You could get married here in the village church. Get married in England where you're from in London, come on. I don't know about that as a bully mouse. Violet, America is such a long way away and grandparents do have a tendency to die. As much as it was confusing why it took so long, people were also pushing them too much. You had the parents especially that were like, you know, you should get married before all your relatives pass away, which is not the reason to get married, that's maybe the worst reason to get married. Get married when it makes sense for you and that does not include pure pressure or outside external people just wanting to have a celebration for themselves or get drunk or just so they can say they went to a wedding that summer or yeah. Three grandparents are gone. Your grandparents long gone. You know who goes next, don't you? We go next. Dad, please. Don't do this, guys. He's not kidding. Not kidding. What is this? Yeah. So we have to get married because people are dying? Yeah. And not because we want to or we're ready for it. That's not right. Talk about the resenty, resent or thing.  You want to talk about it? Yes.   I think it sucks here.  I hate it.  Okay, okay, okay. More on the story, Don't Move to Michigan. Yeah. Dickie, dickie, dickie. No, no, no shade on Michigan. I don't even think Michigan is that bad. I'm not even sure why. Why did they choose Michigan? Is it what you guys are? I mean, I guess if you're from San Francisco, that's, I guess, different in terms of other places in the States. Temperature-wise, it's different, culture-wise, I guess. Yeah, I don't know. It just didn't make any sense to me, but you know what? Potato-potata. Yeah. Next theme. Possible theme. But next possible theme. Individuality and sacrifices in a relationship. We have kind of touched on this. It is important to be an individual in a relationship, but once you get into a relationship, I think there need to be some sacrifices. And sacrifices mean that you make compromises that encroach upon your needs as an individual. And if you're getting into a relationship, I think that's something you really want to settle into.  Selfish, I guess. But I guess this individual is in the sense of not thinking of the collective of our relationship. But yeah, that's some stuff that we had to say about five-year engagement. What did you guys think? Let us know your thoughts in the comments down below. Share your thoughts on our thoughts. Burning questions. Would you rather go to a chip truck or a taco truck? What do you do when you see your friends depressed and drinking weed out of a furry goblin? Or Michigan versus San Francisco. Yeah. And why? Yeah, and why. Let us know. Have a sabra. And that's it. Yeah. Yeah. Till next time, thank you for watching and drink. Peace.


Last week we we touched on some some big news in New York about stuff that we've been breaking out of the Midwest about stuff that's going on out in New York related to the Bonanno crime family. Both Jimmy and I have been really on top of that and you know it's it's a minute by minute second by second scenario so we'll keep you know the more we learn over the next weeks and months we'll keep you in the loop but right now as in the you know as in the last 48 hours there's been some plea agreements that has that have come up in federal court out of Manhattan connected to the Genovese crime family which is the as we've talked about before the Ivy League the Cadillac part you know the the upper echelon of organized crime in America you know it's always been the Genovese crime family they do things on kind of a more elite level they're the most usually the most lucrative the most secretive the most stable yes you agree and right now they're headed by the guy that's considered the boss of bosses in New York the most powerful Mafia Don in in New York right now allegedly Barney Balomo and some of Barney's guys are going to prison the two couple regimes that were the marquee defendants in the April 22 indictment racketeering indictment against a handful of Genovese mob figures Ralph the undertaker Balamo and Nick Nicky slash Khaleesi were the headline defendants but there were other guys behind them this looks like it was a kind of a global plea where everybody agrees to plead guilty and they're looking at 20 years but you know most likely they'll probably end up doing I'm guessing seven or eight but that's still some some significant time for guys that are in their fifties and sixties Balamos 51 they call him the undertaker because he has for years his own and ran a funeral home in the Bronx and he is very close to Barney Barney meant toward him they were arrested together in a in a 2006 racketeering indictment so you know Ralph Balamo is is 51 and a lot of people in New York within the Genovese orbit including from what I hear Barney look at at Balamo as a guy that is probably a future you know administrator in that in that crime family well in that world in your fifties is young right he's been made I think since his thirties if not before that yeah so let's if we can just talk about this for a moment so that the official charges were racketeering conspiracy but if we go into the the details here it's basically loan sharking distortion and right operating illegal gambling businesses so that they meet sports betting and so let's just talk about something here for a moment I'm I'm not trying to to be team LCN here we're not team Uncle Sam I think I want audiences to understand we're team OG podcast so because sometimes we say things that people say oh you're you're siding with the government or you're siding with these criminals I don't think we're siding with anyone but but our podcast but in this case I you know are we really going to spend resources and taxpayers dollars dollars busting guys for running loan sharking and and sports betting operations it seems to me like there are there should be other priorities federal law enforcement should be working on not not that these are great guys or anything in this family but and my sense is if they're doing this it's because they want to use this as leverage to flip guys they want to flip balsamo so they can get below mo it's not gonna happen right I think a guy like Ralph balsamo who's done I believe two federal prison sentences in the last decade plus so this guy isn't a stranger to the feds he kept his mouth shut no six when he was busted he kept his mouth shut again when he got busted in 16 so you know good luck with that if you're the FBI in New York you know Nikki slash I don't know as much about I know that he is the capo regime that runs the South Florida rackets for the Genovese he's based out of Boca Raton even though he's born and bred in the Bronx and still has members of his crew that that that live in the Bronx and handle his his New York affairs but he's based out of out of Boca so it seems to me like they could be using their research well it better endeavors I think we address this at some point in the last couple years there was a big Colombo crime family bust a couple years ago oh yeah and the three leading defendants were 87 83 78 one of them literally was dementia stricken and then died shortly thereafter and and like you're saying wasn't they weren't being charged with murders or violence they were being charged with basic run-of-the-mill racketeering running sports books juice loans and so forth and it's like how many tens of millions of dollars went into this investigation just to put away guys in their 80s that are going to die soon anyway and aren't killing people yeah and so it seems to me like the the main concern of law enforcement should be public safety and if and if these guys aren't a threat to public safety then I'm not sure what the urgency is now with racketeering like if we're talking about labor racketeering or some kind of like infiltration of a legitimate business where there's extortion then I'm I'm I'm you know I don't think that that's good for that to be happening so if there's a federal investigation in those areas to me that's that's a little different but just for juice loans sports betting running fucking card games and dice games I'm not sure that this is the best use of our taxpayer dollars and editorial well and I think this there's a means there's a method to the madness if you're the government because prosecutors FBI agents want heads on their wall yes that's how they get promotions right so even though Andy Majruso when he was indicted a year or two ago and was 87 and didn't know what day it was and literally you know they have tape recordings from that investigation with the coppers and the soldiers being like we can't bring anything to our boss because our boss doesn't know what state he's living in well you know doesn't know what happened yesterday can't recognize his wife and as I said before he died pretty shortly after that indictment but the prosecutor that made the case and the FBI unit that made that case they took down an LCN Don you know an old school New York mafia boss even though he didn't really end up doing a serious prison time for it and even if he would have lived he wouldn't have that just that's that's a gold star yeah there's still cash shade to that when you're running it up the flag and even in this situation with Nikki slash Nikki slash and Ralph Bassamo not to mention two other alleged soldiers Mike Messina from Connecticut and Johnny Campanella who I'm told is one of younger guy 47 years old allegedly a May guy I hear he's one of Nikki slash's guys in the Bronx you know the guys that made this case you did you took down two coppers right yeah so that the superiors are going to be impressed with that and when they need funding from Washington DC they have to show these numbers yeah and New York City is really the only FBI office that's consistently making LCN cases right Philadelphia that's the only place where there is though right well and in Philadelphia we talked about doesn't exist in Philly or Boston or Detroit I think we talked about this with it with you know in Philadelphia from what I'm hearing in in the FBI office and in their communications with the Justice Department in Washington DC that the people in Washington are actually saying what you're saying basically saying stop bringing these little dinky bullshit RICO's that are only gonna put these guys away for five six seven years it's interesting it's a waste of money time and resources if you're gonna bring a case you better bring murders so someone like Joey Merlino right now I I don't believe he'll face another racketeering case I I believe what I was told that that FBI office in Philadelphia has been told you cannot bring another case like they've brought in a number over the last decade plus that that you aren't charging violence yeah that this is just and that you're gonna hamster on a hamster on a drug trafficking or murder charges what why even bother and then just like what you said about New York this most recent Philly bus that came down in 2020 they thought that they could take a guy like Dom Grande who is Joey Merlino's and Joey Merlino's right hand Stevie Mazzone's protege the guy that is being tapped to be the future of this crime family he's a young guy he's younger than us I think he's 43 and has never done prison time before and his dad was a cooperator that's right I can guarantee you the only point of that bust in addition to being able to say they got Stevie Mazzone they got an underboss like I get a gold star on the resume but they thought they could get Grande who they think is involved in a murder even though they never charged it and they thought that they could jam him and that Grande would give them Merlino and Mazzone because he was looking at seven or eight years in prison and Dom Grande in my opinion is or he just reported a couple weeks ago but like I think he like he ran to the prison gates this is something that's good for his career yeah it gives you some street cred and he's not going to have a tough it's not going to be a tough right I mean it'll be tough that he has to be away from his wife and his newborn kid and I mean that's nobody wants that but it ain't gonna be regular time it's gonna be easy time he'll be out in six or seven years eight years and and he'll come out he might come out as the as the new acting boss he went in a capo yeah so I think and I mean there are finite resources that the federal government has I know it doesn't seem like it they can just keep on borrowing money from China but but you know in some ways there's a finite you know amount of resources so to me I would focus on the more the most violent predatory criminals you know and I don't want it to seem like oh you're just giving the Italians a free pass there's something very sexy for the US government still just like the public romanticizes the mafia I think the government does too and they almost like fetishized over it I think especially on the East Coast yeah here they know right the Midwest guys I don't know about Chicago part of that Detroit they don't the feds here don't care about the Italians okay but isn't part of that regional I mean yeah what's happened in the last 20 plus years with the war on terrorism and the the city of Detroit being the biggest no there's a population of Middle Easterners and in the country yeah when it comes to Chicago we're in a fentanyl crisis and the hub for the cartels is in Chicago so and both Chicago and Detroit in terms of violent crime on the 11 o'clock news every night it's it's in black neighborhoods and affiliated with streak a lot of a lot of bloodshed so that's where the federal resources are and and so I get it like scale like right the Italians aren't aren't is you know the scale is much smaller in Detroit than it used to be and so that point well taken so they're going to divert resources toward counterterrorism narcotics whatever but but that's how it should be as it should be I would say because those are the most urgent might be in terms of public safety public health those are the most urgent issues and keeping it in the East Coast but just for a second jumping away from New York City it used to be for years and years and years whatever city you're in you had three separate law enforcement agencies tracking OC you had the FBI you had whatever police department that that city had and then you had the state police well it doesn't look like cities and states are really making OC case anymore it's just up to the feds but there's an exception to that right now in Rhode Island in Providence you have the Rhode Island state police that have been public going to the media and and also through the court filing system where they're letting everybody know that they have a full court press right now on good-looking Maddie Googler Maddie's crew and all this information is being disseminated through Rhode Island state police files where a good-looking Maddie Googler mentee you know the OG's OG out in Providence 75 years old dates back to old man Patriarca has been a copo since the 80s at one point he was the underboss of the Patriarch is now I've heard that he's he stepped down in the last couple years because of health reasons but his one of his protege's a guy named Dino Gilmetti you know just took a drug case where he has pled not guilty in his is fighting it and is the subject as well as Maddie and then a very prominent business person or a very prominent business family in Rhode Island that are the cannabis the legal cannabis kings of Providence they own the the the most lucratively licensed retail marijuana business is owned by this McGraw family and the wife McGraw is a subject of this Rhode Island state police cocaine investigation that involves Dino Gilmetti and Maddie well most lucrative in that region or national most no sorry most lucrative in Rhode Island okay that he has the biggest or her husband who I just want to be clear was has not been implicated in any criminal activity other than the fact that there are phone calls going in tax going back and forth between the husband and Dino Gilmetti I know he's confusing here because we got Dino Gilmetti and then you have Maddie googly a Maddie but Dino easy for you to say right no it's confused it's confused Dino for you sports fans out there Dino's wife slash baby mama is the widow of Aaron Hernandez Shayana Jenkins Aaron Hernandez the Aaron Hernandez the former NFL player that was a doctor was a murderer that died in prison of a suicide well his baby mama Shayana Jenkins is now with Dino Gilmetti no shit yes and Dino is under indictment right now on a pill case and he is the focus of a another drug investigation into cocaine trafficking and Maddie googly a Maddie the former under boss current Capo in Providence and Elizabeth McGraw are also focuses of that Rhode Island state police investigation can we get shameless self-promotion we had Steve O'Donnell who was an undercover police investigator for Rhode Island state police we have an episode New England Mafia undercover I think that's just an audio episode right now we don't have that oh that was oh no he called it right yeah I'm sorry thank you so you can see that on YouTube um we we got to get him back on and then there's another guy that I've been talking to who was a Steve O'Donnell was a was a state police I've been talking to a former FBI OC in Providence oh right Brendan Doherty and I'm hoping that yeah we'll bring him on as well but I just wanted to throw that out there to be like this is the it's it's an outlier of a situation that you have a state police organization going after OC yeah for sure you don't hear that that that often um especially for for the Italians um maybe to bring up first full circle talk about a Gambino case right now that's that's gonna bring up yeah Danny Fama I think that's how you pronounce his name uh long time New York mob figure uh you know facing another case and uh Gangland News a couple weeks ago reported that uh the recent court filings in that case alleged that Danny Fama has gotten a button uh from the Gambino's has been made he was uh someone that you know came on the scene in the 1980s and was a member of uh Sammy the Bull and John Gotti's uh kind of JV faction I guess you could say you know guys that they were grooming to become mob soldiers and um according to the government Danny Fama was the getaway driver in the last mob hit that John Gotti ordered uh he's been acquitted of those charges so a jury found him not guilty but uh was implicated as the getaway driver in the Eddie the Chink Garofalo murder which was uh ordered by John Gotti a couple months before he was indicted what was that about why did he I think it was a was Gruffalo made guy Gruffalo was a made guy that's what I thought yeah and um I'm not positive about all the circumstances I think he got caught stealing um he there was another uh member of the Gambino's that was also called Eddie Gruffalo who went by uncle Eddie I believe they were cousins um they called uh Eddie the Chink they gave him that nickname because he had slanty eyes it seems to be a uh it's very on pc but yeah that's where the that's where the um the name comes from I had a uh quick digression I had an uncle named Chicky and I always wonder where the nickname Chicky came from and I asked my grandma they're like well he had eyes like an asian and it was it was uh on it wasn't proper to say Chinky so we just started calling him Chicky but there are a number actually of of uh mob members that have had that name um nickname and and do we know why it took so long for him to get his button well yes so the what uh has been alleged over the years in court filings uh was that he didn't want it yeah that's significant I think yeah and that was like a part of why some of his past legal issues he didn't serve as much time as he might have because the government was almost like giving him like a credit for not wanting to become a I mean oh well and I I would assume that's why he didn't I don't know I don't really know much about this person in this case but I'm assuming he didn't want the headache that comes with once you're a made guy uh eventually the feds are going to put you on their bulletin picture you on their bulletin board um so but that's interesting how things have changed because you know for so long if you're part of that underworld to be made is the right that's the ultimate um goal so he's about there's guys who buy their buttons right let alone turn it down so um famas are about to turn 60 or close to he's pushing up on 60 I think he's like 58 the the Garofalo murder took place in Brooklyn in August in 1990 it looks like Gotti and and Gravano thought the Garofalo was going to cooperate um and he he was um tried and jury found him not guilty uh you know he was implicated by Sammy the bull so Sammy the bull when he flipped gave information on all the murders that he was involved are they going to bring him back for this no no the the that case is already he was acquitted like eight years he was acquitted in 2014 they can't this is an this is another case that it isn't related to any violence I see but Gravano was prepared to testify against fama back then I'm not sure if he did but uh you know fama was a guy that uh you know he spent 17 years behind bars he's realized that he can keep or the mob knows that he can keep his mouth shut he's always been known as someone that was capable reliable uh an earner um so it's it's it's it's interesting to learn according to the government he changed his opinion on whether or not he should get a button and at some point probably in the last five years has been inducted into the Gambino crime family by italian dom safulu maybe before frankie boy uh callie died who knows or maybe it was lorenzo menino who's the reputed uh boss now took over for frankie boy well some interesting updates on the east coast and we'll we'll keep on talking about these things um can i throw one more thing yeah yeah sure uh i know we're all over the all over the place in this episode but uh we talked about barney and i want to be kind of open with what we were talking about last week and so let's end with it uh with what's going on the bananos this factional dispute between the boss of the bananas mickey knows mancuso and the camarano brothers uh joe c camarano was mickey knows his former acting boss uh unsuccessfully tried to oust mancuso from his post when a mancuso was in prison mancuso came out of prison put joe camarano and a number of people close to jim joe camarano on the shelf and this past summer told camarano that he couldn't go to his five and lost funeral uh melee broke out at the funeral and according to what we're hearing mancuso has hit teams out searching for joe camarano's brother dino um one thing that i've reported recently was is that this is something that is upsetting other crime families and it's not just mancuso's top advisors in the bananos specifically viddy vinny tv battle of many who i heard is his most trusted advisor and someone that he he leans on and was named quote-unquote conciliary for life uh that battle of mentee is one of the people that is counseling him to just to knock it off that uh bruno indelicado uh recently released soldier capo goes back all the way to the 70s same type of advice but it's not just coming from the bananos i've heard that specifically barney bolomo is sending word that this is disturbing him and and he worries what the collateral damage is going to be from mickey mancuso's you know crusade for vengeance like and i don't think it's we always talk about this i mean i know i don't think it's a moral or ethical thing even though i do believe that there's a lot of people they like everybody likes the camarano so that works in their favor sure but so it's part of it if this wasn't something that had the potential to get other mob bosses ensnared in their mind when bodies start dropping you know full court press is going to be on for all the mob families uh i don't know if they would care but because they view this as something that can blow back on them they care a great deal yeah if if they're busting guys for juice loans and gambling can you imagine if body start dropping so i think i agree with you that's my understanding is that it's a public relations and barney had and barney although he is you know been a suspect in in gangling homicides in his career um including his his best friend uh but you know 60 barney 66 right now and i heard that when barney came out of prison in in the 2000s he put an edict on the street and no more hits yeah keep it low key yeah so uh you know barney is revered you know he is someone that uh every mobster in new york looks up to has respect for uh he is a ghost we've talked about it before you know there's like maybe two or three photos of two or three recent photos of this guy that have made it online one of them from like a google image search with him walking out of a pizza place with his son but yeah just is incredibly insulated and um isn't happy about what's going on with the banana so i reported that i also reported that lorenzo manino is another person that has been the gambino boss who's been reaching out and that both manino and uh bolomo know the camarino family personally bolomo knew from what i heard new joe c's dad really well joe joe saunders and i've heard manino actually knows joe c really well yeah they're they're my understanding is they're well liked and uh for a long time yeah you know um and the grimaldi family too yes well well respected and they're part of that interconnected interconnected so well we'll keep on updating people uh just want to remind everyone please follow us on social media if you don't please spread the word uh please follow us on youtube and um 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When we deal with primitive types like int, double, char, and Boolean, the data is stored directly in the memory address for the variable. When we do this assignment, j is assigned k, the current value of k is copied into j's memory area. But when we create objects, the variables hold references to the memory area that contains the data. Now, what happens when we do this assignment that says r2 is assigned r1? The contents of r1 are not copied into r2. Instead, r2 is set to refer to the same object as r1. The area of memory previously referenced by r2 is no longer accessible. A process called the garbage collector will reclaim that area of memory to make it available for other objects to be allocated. Because r1 and r2 now reference the same memory area, this code, setting r2.width to 7 and then printing r1.width, will produce an output of 7.0. And here's the code to prove it. The takeaway from this video, primitives store their value directly in memory, objects store references to the memory where the data is held.


Is it true, those words spoken by Napoleon on St. Helena, that history is the only true philosophy and the only true psychology? If so, then it would be imprudent for a philosopher to write it off as but the dreary secession of dates and names. All that our race has become is due to its occurrence. It would not be outside the realm of reason to say that each individual event, each person, however insignificant, has played some role in molding the humanity which walks the earth today.  There are many reasons for the philosopher to study history. These are just five. Reason one. Because the best preparation for understanding the problems of the present is to study and learn the past, for it is there where you will discover what the nature of humankind truly is. It was the great English politician and political philosopher Lord Bollingbrook, to who even the great Voltaire was indebted, that said history is philosophy teaching by examples, and how right he was, for it is history that explains to us how humanity, through the actions of thousands of years, has behaved and how it is likely to continue behaving if faced with similar circumstances. Would it not be convenient to know beforehand what the likely reaction would be to any given social experiment, to know if the outcome intended was the outcome received? Well, as it happens, most of our modern social theories have been proposed in one garb or another. We need not start from scratch and fool ourselves into believing that what was less than successful yesterday will transform with our magic touch and theories today. This is not to say that improvements cannot be made upon past failures, but that in order to achieve progress, we must first know the underlying causes of such failures. We have all heard this lesson, usually in the form of that ever-present quote from the late George Santiana, which usually ends up in some comment section. It reads, those who don't know history are destined to repeat it. Reason 2. To gain immunity from the disillusionments of our own time. There is, in truth, no complete immunity from the anxiety of impending or perceived catastrophe, for it has been developed for good reason. But perhaps with enough understanding, we can learn to bear it with an increased level of equanimity and repose. I understand that when one witnesses humanity, despite a thousand reforms, remain essentially what it has always been, their heads may wander into the pessimistic abyss which often consumes our young. But through the study and analysis of history, I believe the philosopher may come to accept the limitations placed upon a species by biology and take strength by witnessing those gilded men and great women, stand triumphant at their life's end, pleased that they could aid their neighbor and make their society just one person better. After all, I would say that it is better to fight and lose than to never have fought at all. Reason 3. To learn that we have but a partial perspective of any given subject or event. This lesson, I believe, is particularly important in the age of information of which we are a part. We are choked with news, if one could call it even that. Full campaigning would be more akin to most news we consume. We must remember the lesson first taught to us some 2,500 years ago by the weeping philosopher of Ephesus, Heraclitus, that life is strife, meaning competition. And what better tactic is there to increase your chances of victory in a competition than to deceive your opponent? I state this example to emphasize the proclivity of some to embellish what is written for the purpose of painting a particular picture to achieve a desired result, and the partial perspective it delivers to those who consume it. This has been done since the days of antiquity and has more often divided than united. We must take reported events for what they in all likelihood are, partial viewpoints of the total situation. Reason 4. To build gratitude by understanding the hardship and sacrifice endured by those who came before us. There is in every generation an untold level of hardship suffered by its people, though by and large we today enjoy a level of comfort unimaginable to most peoples born prior to 1850. While we may have plenty of chaos to contend with, it is in my opinion preferable to the mass superstition, disease and ignorance which plagued our species in bygone eras. The critic will inform us that many still suffer with such calamities to which I acknowledge its truth, but it would be amiss to say that conditions for the vast majority of humanity have not improved considerably, both mentally and materially. Do these progressions make us happier? Who can say? Though I do believe gratitude for what has been painstakingly developed throughout a thousand generations can. We likely feel envy and maybe even anger when we see those who have what we do not, but envy is easy when all we do is look above and ahead of ourselves. However, take the time to look beneath and behind you, for it is there where you will find gratitude. I find it helpful to remember that we have reached the heights that we enjoy today because we are standing on the shoulders of those who came before us. In 2005, to discover those individuals that, through their thoughts and their actions, inspire us to be a little greater than we were before. In The Greatest Minds and Ideas of All Time, a work by Durant published posthumously in 2002, he posed this question, why should we stand reverent before waterfalls and mountaintops, or a summer moon on a quiet sea, and not before the highest miracle of all, a man who is both great and good? What we are searching for is not that person without flaw, for your search will never end, but one who brings light to the problems of their day and our own, an individual who, though flawed, holds out their hand for the benefit of the next generation. We may find those who garner our intellectual respect, but of even more importance is to find those who may help to shape our character. Let Seneca speak. Happy is he who can so revere a man as to calm and regulate himself by calling him to mind, for we must indeed have someone according to whom we may regulate our characters. You can never straighten that which is crooked, unless you use a ruler. Our species history is vast enough for an entire lifetime of study to be directed toward a single country in a single century, and whether you choose to light your candle at every torch or to huddle around a singular flame is ultimately up to you. What's important is that you take the time to bring the past into the present, because I firmly believe that it will be of great aid to your understanding of events which seem otherwise, novel and confusing in our own day. If you have in mind other reasons that the philosopher should take to studying history, put them in the comments below. And as always, thank you for talking philosophy with me. Until next time.