Ladies and gentlemen, let me see here. I was tired up the day Mentor In real life, so I didn't get a chance to shoot a video and I meant to do a live, I mean a Q&A on Instagram and Didn't get to so I wanted to Do a Q&A or kind of like a chat and Q&A here on YouTube I Just I like YouTube a little better than on Instagram, I don't know Instagram feel a little different to me Sometimes a little weird to me So I want to come on here number start Thinking more about and going into and kind of studying a little more on Just different Spirit so to speak and when I say that, you know, you hear about a Jezebel spirit and You hear about these different Types of people and personalities and my wife was just telling me about a podcast She's listening to and how this man came in and You know love bomb the woman and everything was amazing and her parents liked them because he had all the right answers But then turned out that it was leading more towards Something that one gonna be good for and she had to call off the wedding and it got me to thinking just how So often we can get deceived by our eyes and not really being tapped in and in tune in our heart and Really knowing who we are and what we want and we can get deceived get See somebody who like they say everything that look good to you ain't good for you and a lot of time We don't realize that so I'm gonna start kind of Touching on that a little more and really processing that because of what I realized is a Most often a Curse is wrapped as a gift It's a lot of times that the people who look like You know a blessing could be the worst thing to happen to you because you drop your guards And so we have to be mindful of that And really have Your antennas up to make sure that you really paying attention to someone's character and not just what they're saying and what they're showing because I realized For those of us who have all the words to say all the the mouthpiece a lot of times we the worst ones until we renew Because the more eloquent you are with your words The sneakier you could be the more deceptive you could be and Before God renewed me. That's how I was A nightmare packaged as a dream And so I want y'all to be mindful of that and be thinking about that and start paying attention To the inner workings of people's spirit even friends and family. Here we go. Now you remember how I told y'all How the devil got into them on swine on the mountain Every time I get in here Leave the door open too long a net always finding way or something I'm kind of fly or something in my office We live in the middle of the woods. So I'll be having to deal with this hill sometime So I want you to think about that. Now if you have a question for me. I see Tully or Tully Forgive me if I'm saying that wrong I implemented No marriage When we started dating Now I do after giving life with Christ and he wants to too But I feel like it's only because I said something how to know You can't really know You know, it's no it's no foolproof way to know what it is but He doesn't really have a reason to lie to you, you know, he's not scared of you And so you see how many women getting a feelings hurt every day a Man not scared of you. He may not want to hurt your feelings, but He'll still hurt your feelings if that's if that's not what he wants. So understand that like he ain't really If he say you want to get married then he probably do want to get married But you can't assume that he just saying that because you said something Because you know a man quick to Quick to hurt your feelings even when you don't want to Why don't men who have played the game not inform his daughter of grown boy tactic to save her the hurt Does the bro cold run that deep? well, the reason why a lot of men who played the game don't expose the game is because To expose the game You got to expose yourself. I did a video the other day And it was supposed to be like 20 minutes and I end up talking an hour and 10 minutes and I never posted it I deleted the video because I gave too much game and I was like Ain't there yet like all the game that I give It's still another five ten percent but So we we pass similar Now but we own we own baby food Sometimes a little lean meat, you know, sometimes I get y'all some some turkey but it's some Real by game It's some real by the It's some of the Nigerian meat Now, you know how the Nigerians a lot of they meet be cooked real tough It's some of that right there kind of game, but I had the I Didn't post the video I only ten minutes. I delete us in all too much game too much Everybody can handle everything because just with the little with what I do tell women be in the comments, Oregon. I Don't agree. I Did not agree. That is not what men Want that is not how men feel That what women be in the comments telling me I'm like, okay, so okay, so we oh so so where was you a man? I was just curious. There's a want know it. Did you have your little surgery or something? I was just curious how you knew more about me and then me Okay, and so I'm like, you know what I'm wasting my breath because You know used to me even telling everything because ain't nobody gonna believe it. I on the other day I was talking about how If a man asks you what you bring to the table, that is the most disrespectful question One of the most disrespectful question and that is a condescending degrading question that he is putting you on the proving seat To make you look up to him improve yourself to him and and when I tell you it was women in the comment I don't see nothing wrong with the question. I Don't see nothing wrong with the question. I'm all right with the question because I don't have nothing to hide It's like ma'am. We're not asking you I'm not asking you what Kind of tough questions. Can you handle what I'm telling you is that if he asked you that he's looking down on you Now, what did you miss in that? We already know you can answer the question But what I'm telling you is he looking down on you So not are you okay with being looked down on and I just And so and the women I seen with that in the comments. I clicked on a picture. I clicked on a page.  I got a scar on my face on my x That bit when men ask me about this. I don't know if I should tell them what happened to me or lie about it I've told some guys and they would laugh and ask what did I do? That do kind of catch you off guard a little bit Um, if you tell somebody that but I think you should tell the truth, you know the truth better than a lie And um, it don't have nothing to do with you It don't make you look bad. It don't make you look away. So You know, it's it's it's like a soldier on it. Like, whoa, okay You'd have been through something not a downside about it is See what we what we feel to realize that we are all a window.  So it's better just tell the truth But the the downside about telling business Is that it could show some people what you're willing to put up with what you're willing to deal with And then they'll take you to that level because it'll be like, oh, you don't been through this You already know what it's feel like. Let me do that too How to heal after being told by the ex-husband. He never loved me um Now that's one of the questions right there that y'all remember for everybody on the sound of my voice Even though this it's only a handful of people out of you know, my following um The question when y'all say how to heal how to get over how to start over It's all the same It's all the same Whether you was with somebody for 50 years five years 10 years It's all the same and so that's uh Out of I have said that a million times, but he really the question really what it is What you're doing is you telling your story It's like you really don't need the answer because you know the answer The answer is time distance watching the videos reading the books Doing whatever the work the courses the counseling the therapy the coaching Everybody know how to heal But a lot of time we don't want to heal Because the pain becomes comforting.  So even though it's hurting me I'ma keep going back and that's how it is a lot of time with our pain is The pain almost becomes comforting And we really don't want our problems solved because When the problem is solved then it's It's no longer something that we can hold on to something that we can you know Have a part of us And so that's that's the thing what we have to realize, you know Sometimes it just all of that is the same putting one foot in front of the other you putting one foot in front of the other My first time talking to a guy. He is rushing me into a relationship and don't want to wait till marriage First time talking to a guy and I don't really like him, but he is nice Should I just tell him that this won't work? Absolutely. Tell him that it won't work.  It'd be in and out um Let me see George Parker. God bless her now God bless. I don't know if you meant Um Okay, entron say mine is great. Okay smooth. Okay. Okay Okay, that's a life lesson Um high tone. I wanted to know what it means when a guy says you are different But after they say that they pretty much stopped talking to me. No, um Not really a question that could Be answered, you know, it really doesn't mean anything it just you know To every man who says that would It could mean something different, you know, it's not a that's not a one-size-fits-all. That's not something that You know every man Gonna mean something what y'all have to realize is sometimes men will tell you something And Which is really in manglish is you're not the one or i'm taken or i'm emotionally unavailable And the word that would be used could be oh, you're mean or you're intimidating or You're too good for me Or you deserve better Or you're different like what you said like Don't don't get caught up reading into everything that a man say because sometimes we just talking, you know It just we just talking to hear ourself talk Dana hug god bless you now All right, tony how and when to tell a man you're abstinent until marriage. Thank you Now i got some long videos on that Where i'm explaining to you and You know the thing about my job is i have to answer the same questions over and over and over And i think about this now think about this if you if you at work If you at work and somebody say uh, yeah could you tell me how to Attach the report to um to the email And you're like, okay. Well, this is what you have to do. I know they change the system around But here you see the little paper clip right there you click that and then somebody else come Oh, yes, could you tell me I need to put a report attach a report to the email Could you tell me how to do that and then 10 people come do that now, you know in real life you like what eat a rural But that's my job and so For one, I want to apologize to those of you who have heard me answer the same question one million times because sometimes Some of y'all say to me tony you didn't answer that a million times So again Um for that question, I appreciate you because every day sometimes somebody come and new But I want you to understand Uh You don't have to You don't have to she's a different tone and been dating a while. It hasn't come up So before making it serious should I tell? Uh, both christian No, same question same question When do you tell the question is you don't the answer is you don't tell You don't have to tell a man that you're abstinent Until marriage because truthfully you don't know Like you don't have a pad locked down there And so when you tell a man that for one he could just give up Because that's that's that's a part of the package. That's a part of the goal part of the reason he pursuing you For one, if we just be honest, he not pursuing you for just for your mind So and then two It doesn't give him enough time to fall in love with you So the thing about it is is men typically fall in love between two years and five years And I that leads to the question What tony how you expect the man to get engaged to us before he falls in love men don't marry for love Men marry for conviction out of conviction not out of love So a man gets married before he has fallen in love on average He gets married because he knows that is the thing to do that That's what he's supposed to do and that's what is expected of him by god The bible says it is better to marry than to burn meaning You need to get married if you cannot abstain So some people some men literally get married just to get out of sin And it has nothing to do With being in love with the woman and it's more so because he he fears Anytime the word get the going the devil get in one of these little gnats or something. Oh, it could have been a piece of lint Y'all forgive him. I just be I just you know, high strong It could be the concussions I had playing college football.  Yeah, you are Okay, we're gonna see about that and he goes into game mode. He goes into challenge mode Now the third man, which would be the most rare Is he's abstinent until marriage too But men typically don't do anything Without bragging about it So if if men if we doing something we gonna we gonna let the woman know On the first date we abstinent until marriage because that's get us some clout Like as far as a man, we eat one vegetable Yeah, i'm right i'm vegan So, you know what i'm saying because really like It's just what it's just what you do as a vegan is like vegetables and it's like I just had some broccoli. So it's like, you know You know, i'm vegan, you know technically and it's it's not for everybody tomorrow morning. He eat bacon And but last night because he only had him some broccoli He vegan and so that's what you have to realize About so if if if the man abstinent you're gonna know he abstinent before you have to tell him If he don't tell you then He's not abstinent and you telling him you don't know what you're gonna get And you can't promise tomorrow you're gonna be abstinent So what you have to do keep your business between you and god And if he tries you like you say it hasn't come up So be that it's not coming up He could be falling in love and then if he try you Then he could say then you could say i'm not ready for that After he tried you four or five times and you said no, i'm not ready for that He gets the picture He get the picture if he don't get the picture after that then it's like you might need to go about your business anyway because he too thick-headed Tm are god bless you how to deal with a spouse who has mental issues But does not want to get help we have two young boys together When he is different, oh, he's very cold and distant Even sometimes with my son what you probably need to do what you're gonna have to do is you're gonna have to get a You're gonna have to get therapy um Because mental health is not something that a life coach addresses because life coach Our wisdom come from life experience Whereas with mental health professionals like counselors and therapists Not only their life experience, but they've studied several books and gotten degrees which have human study So that they understand The mental health things based on thousands of human study And so even though you're not the one with the mental health issues A therapist can help you understand The issues he's dealing with and then give you a plan of action Because I will be in the wrong to say something not fully understanding What you're dealing with You know and so and I I try to always decrease my liability Because in a relationship and dealing with humans, it's always life and death. So you got to You know go to the resources although you hear and you may trust my message You know, I'm not equipped to deal with to address mental health issues. That's on another Level Nicole moody god bless you. Hi, Tony. I have a different type of heartbreak. My grandmother passed away in 2019 My mom in 2020. I feel like my safety net is gone only two women. I trust it. How can I build trust in other people?  That's also not my area either What I would recommend is grief counseling Because grief counselors have studied The stages of grief and they understand the different emotions that you go through because they Study books that have studied thousands and thousands of humans and how we grieve I have not Done that and I have not gone through that. So again, I speak from life experience So if it's something that I have not gone through Or seen up close and personal then I really you know, I really can't Just throw something out of there out of out of ego or arrogance, you know, trying to be a know it all that's not my situation reality check god God bless you Hi, Tony first. Thanks for all you do now. I know a man is a man but Are there any different or additional techniques we need to know when vetting a non black man?  A lot of women said only black men do that but Ain't never dated a white man. Ain't never really sat down with no white man Because I heard I heard a white man who was a good guy In the grand scheme of things say say the very thing You basically he was like sure I make the money. I got the money. I call the shots Just in the white guy voice like I have the money. I call the shots over here It's like what you're gonna do about it. I make this money. What are you gonna do to go somewhere? Okay. Bye I'm good. I got the money And this gentleman on his second marriage and in the first marriage I'm thinking the man is is a great amazing guy the first marriage You know his wife used to sell them out in front of people you push me down the street And and Tony he pushed me down the street He I mean he pushed me like I was a refrigerator. He pushed me so hard. I was like really Is that what happened Becky her name wasn't Becky. I just used the name But I was like, oh, okay. So you're aggressive. So you put hands on women Hmm, I thought y'all white man was What y'all call it creme de creme creme de la creme But you but you just like the rest of so listen, I try to tell y'all Men don't change for race. It just it just may operate a little differently May have to get to know you a little better before they show you they true colors Uh, rossi god bless you now Angel, why would a man refuse a paternity test if he says he is not the father? Wouldn't he take it to prove he wasn't? Well, because he know he probably is And if he doesn't slept with you then he know It's a good possibility. He is And so he jazzed If if he take the test that removes all doubt But just saying that it keeps some doubt in the air With the hope you might not try to put him on transport Now y'all see how I could dress the uh Action of a man just because I'm a man. I understand the mindset of a man Now there are exceptions to the rule. So you got to take everything with a grain of salt Can't take everything as as as law because it could be different But that's where your wisdom knowledge understanding and discretion comes in knowing your situation So if you know, you only gave me this much information and I answered the question of this much information But you know, it's this much information. Then you know, you can't take the answer a hundred percent Because I didn't have all the information I broke up with my boyfriend because of communication preferences Like text versus call was that a mistake? No, that wasn't a mistake. That wasn't a mistake because that's a big thing Communication this my quote now somebody gonna steal it and let me tell y'all When I told y'all you teach people how to treat you by what you stop What you allow And what you reinforce or by what you allow what you stop I can't remember the order of it because when I tweet my quotes when I used to tweet my quotes I tweet them in the moment I literally would write it in 30 seconds And the next time I write it it would be a little different because it just came off the top of the dome Dr. Phil producers stole my quote So now people telling me oh a lady wrote in the comment Dr. Phil coined that No, Dr. Phil didn't Because I worked five years in the group home to come up with that quote And the word it like that Dr. Phil ain't come up with that better get that straight now So listen, I got a quote that says communication To a relationship is like oxygen to life Without it it dies Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life Without it it dies So you have to understand that if you don't have good communication in your relationship Your relationship is dead So you might as well leave if y'all can't talk to each other In some kind of way even if he can't fully articulate the way you can he need to at least be able Bump them gums and morse code To get his message to you Britain god bless you been with god 10 years. No kids work through past issues No cheating stop ha or god, but he's unwilling to wait on him. He's happy To get married Or he'll leave but we Aren't ready for that well since I tell you what Now you kind of lost me in that message right there Because you say he unwilling to wait till marriage for uh, but he's happy to get married So if he happy to get married then y'all go get married tomorrow But here's the thing is You done been with the guy 10 years Now unless y'all start dating at 13 Then y'all supposed to already be married So if you didn't been with somebody 10 years come on now Come on. I think that about to ran this course now That button ran this course sister.  Hello tg. How do I know the program? The program to sell online with Shopify, etc best program slash value With small initial investment and current info Thought about combing reviews on you to me severe cognitive issue with little time and capacity um I wouldn't use Shopify if you want to sell stuff online uh, I would use teespring And because when you go through teespring they got literally almost every product you could think of And all you got to do is go to like fiverr Or r.com and get your designs made So go to my tony gaskin store.com and you'll see what I mean When you order a shirt from tony gaskin store.com Teespring prints the shirt And ships it to you. So I don't have to touch anything. I just got to send people there And you could get pillows pillows pillows for those of y'all pillows. You could get pillows. You could get, um, leggings you can get Bucket hats t-shirts hoodies Canvases you could sell digital products All right, don't teespring. They they they don't upgrade it. They don't rebrand it Teespring shirts used to be so terrible. I say this is bad brand alignment for youtube How y'all got us aligned with teespring in these shirts is garbage But now they don't upgrade their material. I order some samples and things good quality good material So go to go to teespring and uh, you might be in the blessed business tribe That's information I give in the blessed business tribe now over time This the blessed tribe you got the blessed tribe and you got the blessed business tribe That's the blessed business tribe is all videos on business. I try to do at least one a week Rose gold god bless you. How do you apologize?  He blocked me and won't respond to my apology yet Stop apologizing. You didn't already apologize.  You didn't apologize. That's all you could do You keep chasing chasing chasing apologize.  You didn't say for sleeping with his best friend You didn't say for cheating on him period. You said for a little misunderstanding.  All you need is I'm sorry about what happened.  God bless you. God bless you. Should it be A big deal that a guy talks to you On the phone at my age I understand guys really don't like talking on the phone. So I really don't press the issue um It should be a big deal Because that's communication So if y'all not going to be in person, then you have to be on the phone So that is you have to have communication Communication to a relationship is like oxygen to life So you have to communicate and i'ma tell you a man don't mind being on the phone with a woman he won't With a woman he won't try He'll have all kind of radiation to that head If a woman he won't a man to be on the phone if he'll prove them Uh, yeah, how you doing? Mm-hmm Who me am I tired? Oh, no I mean, it's big, but I'm built different. I'm built different over here. What you thought this was We thought you were talking to the man in the podcast It's sitting in the dark with the things spinning on the desk No, something new you got a real man over here Yeah, I know my phone big, but they're just a what it is. I'm built different if he want you He'll sit on that phone all day long when he don't want you any excuse to do When he don't want you any excuse to do and that's what you have to realize and understand He'll give you in it. Oh See me see the way I'm ill see with me. I'm from the street And see because I'm from the street. See I see you used you used the turk boy See I'm from the street. See we had trap. We had trap phone. We had trap phone We had all it right here. We had burners. See we don't talk on the phone So when you dealing with a real street man like me we don't talk on the phone Now that's his excuse I let him want to call him that he want to deal with He's wearing that phone out You hit me so listen to him So understand that and this is one thing this go across the board A man who wants you you gonna know it? How do you feel about partner having About celebrity crushes. Is this a red flag partner likes turk video on female celebrity rappers Um Y'all really get intricate with these questions I know the good boys say the small thoughts spoil the vine, but Y'all really get intricate on these questions Uh, yeah, Tony. I want to ask you My partner liked to cut the crust off his bread when he made peanut butter and jelly. What does that say about him? But um, but since that that's actually a good question because social media is very real But let me help you understand What you got is you're a nasty man. You got your nasty man. And so this is the thing All of us will look at that twerk video and and see that twerk video and Look at that and then for those of us who born again. We repent. We're gonna repent. Lord, forgive me Me i'ma go to the three dots in the top corner of the post and click on the three dots And then it pop up with some options and you could click see fewer posts like this Y'all try that if you don't believe me. That's how you know, I really do this I live what I preach to the best of my ability. So I click on them Now I didn't got my eye full But I thought give me that eye full Lord forgive me Lord forgive me I'll go right on now and see this So I'm expressing this to you so that you know and understand that every man is tempted every man Struggles and deal with lust and a lot of time Holier than dull women come. Oh a real man not gonna do that a real man are not gonna do that If he got eyes Ray Charles could not see and he could tell what they look like from that wrist. You remember the movie Ray He grabbed that wrist You want to come to the room? Can you come to the room? He went to trying to open an eye Just to see if the Lord hadn't gave him his sight back.    What if he don't call you every day but still text is that good communication? Or should we be on the phone every day in dating stage? God bless you. You should be on the phone every day in the dating stage You should be on You should be on the phone every day in the dating stage And i'ma say this again i'ma say this again some of y'all Some of y'all computer froze Okay, some of y'all phone froze listen listen If a man like you He's going to get on your nerves If a man like you You finna be like Will you start calling me?  He want to FaceTime you Let me grab a question A nurse 52 look 40 52 Look 40 and see you with a good eye All right, so let's let's come with your confident. Nah, so let's say I look what don't tell me no different I ain't arguing with you. I'm not arguing with you He is low income. I helped him so many times My dad died. I missed Three months work.   He's gonna be there for the money men built to hunt Men built to go grind Men built to go get it if he don't work he don't eat let him starve Oh, I'm doing bad. Okay. Mike Donald's is hiring Mike Donald hiring and if they want hire you get you a cup and stand on the side of the road With a cup and a sign that say you will work And I'm and if I'm going to a construction site, I'm finna pull by them I'm going to the orange grow the pluck oranges. I'm pulling by they'll a hop on hop in the bike of the truck We going out here to the field. Come on. You say you want to work. Come on.  Hey tg how to build a website.   You don't even have to have a web designer You literally, you know, I don't have training in that and I built a lot of my web sites My sister on the group home that I put her into Through my uh one of my partners who have group homes show her how to open the group home I built my sister group home website I got clients who authors and speakers. I built a web site Because they just didn't want to do it give father all Okay, I don't turn down nothing Somebody don't hear hating while deleting people No, the moderators the moderators they delete everything. That's not a question Because when in the in the q&a is only supposed to be questions for the first Hour and 15 minutes just questions so when you All the extra commentary they they delete that so that I could just identify the questions a lot easier And uh, so yeah that and and I see I keep seeing share h not share h That's one of my moderators because I kept seeing her name All the time so her and the other moderators the people who I just kept seeing they name all the time But share She'll swang on you so Sometimes I used to see sharing the comments cussing somebody out Like we like me and hug grew up together I have I don't think I've ever met share in real life, but when I tell you she will cuss somebody out for me And I don't say everything I say is not right So I say a lot of bad, you know ignorant stuff because I'm talking just from my heart I don't have a script. So every human if you talk in an hour or two hours You're gonna say something that you wish you could take back And share still them been here the moderator. They done been here with me through all other mishaps I done had but one thing about share As much as I talk about the lord share will cuss you out I'll be on here preaching about the lord now, but share will cuss you out Give me share don't cuss nobody out now don't cuss nobody out share we working on we working on share and at cussing But what would I tell you? She used to go in she didn't got better. So I realized the videos I'm doing is actually helping share Because she didn't got better because when I tell you she used to She'll filet you quit so she just deleting stuff. That's not a question So y'all understand that and I miss somebody thing here Want to make youtube videos sharing red flags and dating experience to help women? How do I balance this if I'm still single if you say don't let men know your past? Well, that's something totally different, you know, if you want to be a public figure If you want to be a voice then a man it's okay for a man to know your past Because for one You know the game too.  God bless you That's what I miss right now. Okay. I've got the nurse Ashley bless you. I have an issue with men saying I'm intimidating, but I can't ever get an answer as to why any insight would help Well, I'll tell you sis. That's a hard question Because again, that's it's really It's just man speak. It don't really mean anything. You know, it don't really mean anything Like men really are not technically intimidated by a woman Because you really only intimidated by somebody that could whoop you And so if he don't feel like you could put hands on him, he's not technically intimidated by you So what it really means is that You have a no-nonsense type of vibe Because he's some women when they meet a man, they're so flirtatious.  So they're so are frisky and so Fresh That the man is not intimidated and then we're using that word, but he don't really mean it What what the definition mean? He just saying that your vibe is like business. It's like, hey, how are you? Okay, great. All right. Everything going good. Okay. Yeah Yeah, but you don't you don't give no vibe that invites him in to lean in for a kiss on the first date You kind of got a stoic demeanor That is about business. I want to talk to you we could have a good conversation But i'm not finna be putting my hand on your thigh. I'm not finna be laying my head on your shoulder I'm not finna be kiki kin And and slappy on the chest and that's what some women do.  You got a little guard up the way I just can't grope on you On the first day So that's actually a combat a compliment when a man tell you a little intimidated intimidated Rashida god bless you Thank you brother for giving the resources I've invested in betterment and been using mail champ. I appreciate you Rashida from clear.  God bless her. Hi, Tony. I've gotten her Man at work to the point that I started wearing a fake engagement ring. It helped some But is that enough to stay or continue to apply to jobs? I'm drained Sis don't get weary and well doing and now if the harassment is you know, like traumatizing then You got to find the courage to go to HR And if you don't want to go in there personally just send them anonymous tip like with the me too movement it has created More of a safety space for women It also is going to be some people who you know, going to tell them a lie if they get mad, but For the most part A woman ain't got no reason to lie on a man. So they're going to take it seriously when you write in high I just want to let you know John doe Has, you know groped me and I would like to remain anonymous, but I would please like someone to look into this or You know, what have you now? Sometimes they may say we need proof because they don't know if he You know slept with your sister and you mad and trying to get them fired But you just have to kind of have a Put up your boundaries in a way The engagement ring if that's what helped you that's what helped you you got to do what you got to do But at the same time you also could be throwing your husband off So so you typically got to go through nine toes before you meet Prince Charming. So, you know, understand that it's like You win some you lose some but um Ashlyn god bless you now My husband has done it all and I stood by him now we have Not lived together for one year. I filed to lawyers File myself Police haven't served him. He won't sign them. Then he calls daily. Why Why won't he divorce? I really don't understand I get that question a lot.  He don't want to lose or he got assets He doesn't want to split that's the only thing the other reason the other logical reason is he just really doesn't want you to be free He wants you to stay stuck because as long as you married on paper He knows you can't marry someone else But he knows that he doesn't have a conviction To not sleep with another woman He don't care about sleeping with another woman because he doesn't care about adultery Obviously because he did everything while he was living with you so But what he knows about a woman is Most women not going to be able to pick themselves up and leave until they have closure Women are so big on closure that if that marriage still open meaning you haven't gotten divorced You pretty much going to stay stuck. You're going to be planted there So what you got to do is look into them laws that allows you to Circumvent him not signing the paper Um, so you could go on about your business regardless of whether he want to sign them or not Elaine p. God bless you I'm attracted to a guy who lives in Ohio and i'm in north carolina Would it be desperate of me to add him on facebook? Uh, well, i'm kind of curious how you attracted to him if he's not already on your facebook Like where he where you seen this attraction that you know as you seen on instagram like and um I mean a facebook ad It's not the end of the world. It's not the end of the world. It's not It's not the worst thing you could do if you ask somebody on facebook. It does Men we read in the stuff So yes, he may read into it say, oh, okay. She's feeling me. She's trying to get connected He may read into it, but if you don't message him then it's like, okay Maybe she's just friendly. Maybe she thought she knew me and if he interested in you then he'll go ahead and initiate the conversation So I would say if you're gonna add him on facebook, that's the most you should do But don't add him and then DM him that you got your eye on Tasha the mentor god bless your blessing seven-year history and just did Three-year bid with him now when you say bid now For me that means prison time. So I'm i'm i'm thanking you talking about a relationship Bid but correct me if i'm wrong if you really went to prison for him now Free now and wants to work on himself Okay, seven-year history just did three-year bid with him. He went to do three years up the road Free now and wants to work on himself and be friends I'm hurt but healing Should I wait more or move on? He's very ungrateful and selfish both 38 Well sister, I mean you answered your question, you know inside of every problem are seeds to the solution so You can't be dealing with the jailbird Why the cage bird singing?  I know you said don't give me any money thoughts um Do we got a mama? You know, do we got a mama? Do we got do we got a home boy? He got a grandma or auntie Like if y'all not together Then he blocking your blessings Because he'll come live with you if he don't live with you That means that's not your man. That's your child father. He lost his job. Guess what? It's another job hiring It's so many people who Then quit their job and started them a business in in in the pan D So it's jobs out here desperate for work.   He got apartment.  It's foundations that do that.  He living in your place You know how I know that because I've seen it happen a million times. So listen The one thing we got to do for men And this why I go the way I go how hard I go because I'm hard on myself like this When I'm flat broke when I'm on my face Thing in the dirt I had to do what I had to do I went through seasons the way I had to get rid of I had to sell everything I got I had to let cars get repossessed. I had to get rid of I had to do what I had to do And if I had to go back to square one I'm gonna go back to square one and I'ma get it But I'm not finna ask my wife Hey, can you take care of me? I'm not going to my mama or my daddy Can you take care of me? Can I borrow something? No, I'm finna get it I'm finna get it however.  I had to work at a group home for $8.50 an hour But that $8.50 an hour will push me to write my first book To pitch myself to colleges to be a speaker To pitch myself to opera every day to pitch myself to tire banks every day Seeing in every day until I got on opera. I got on tire. I got on 700 club While I got on them globally televised shows when I was making $9.50 an hour I got bumped up from 8.50 to 9.50 after I got my training I was making $9.50 an hour when I went on opera to tell my story So this is what I understand about being a man If you take and you put a mattress under a man when he about to hit rock bottom He'll never learn. He'll never grow You got to let that coccyx hit that hit that rock He's gonna have a herniated disc and a pent sciatic nerve But it's gonna teach him how to walk He gonna learn how to strengthen his backbone and he gonna get out here and figure out how to get it But if if y'all keep saving men The way of the world this world ain't gonna never change Men got to learn how to get up and go hunt and that what the bible was talking to men When it was talking when they say study the ant Because the ant don't sleep It say if you spoil your arms too much folding other arms and slumbering will lead to poverty It say if you don't work you don't eat So listen, that's what the government for To save somebody the government got food stamps got wick got unemployment checks That's what they got all that for but as a woman you can't say no man That's why we got so many mama's boys because mama and grandma always bailing him out of jail He keep going doing the same thing and they're gonna bail them out They're gonna pay the bills bombing they're gonna pay his lawyer And then he come right back out and he hitting licks again Because he knows mama or his grandma or his girl gonna get him out of trouble You got to let his face hit that asphalt Let that nose get skimped up let that lip get bus Let that whole face Get row across that asphalt And he gonna get up and learn how to be a better man He gonna learn how to walk straight without falling and tripping over his shoe strain every day So listen y'all stop being this man pillar And let him hit rock bottom so he could learn from his choices Because a lot of men talk about they got fired from their job and it really could they attitude Ain't nobody firing nobody right now Everybody looking for work because everybody was scamming off the unemployment checks everybody in the mall every week in Louis Vuitton To the unemployment checks. I ain't never seen the designer stoles wrap around the corner In a pandy, but we in the pandy and designer Stoles had more business than they ever had because everybody scamming sba ppp and the unemployment But then may like they can't get it. No So listen, it's plenty jobs out here And this is a state of the union address to where we have to let men learn how to be men And as a man what it mean to be a man it means you accept 100 Responsibility for your life and you stop leaning and depending on people You depend on god and let god work it out Montries god bless how we have been married since we were 22 now 31 He isn't mature gives me the silent treatment in divorce process. Will he mature or should I go? Well, you're in divorce process. This way you're gonna learn If it's a chance for him to mature This way he's gonna mature at if he don't mature In this here process If he's still being nasty In this process, then, you know, he's not gonna mature For you and I see what you got to understand when you get with a man 22 or whatever you said He could have been so young. He didn't know what he wanted and he was just going through the motions So he went through the motions and then he got witch and then he got older He got wise and he realized y'all not a fit and so he sabotaged the relationship So that's what you got to realize. Hi Tony. Thank you for your video today on being ready for the test How do you forgive yourself for past mistakes and relationships when you didn't keep your standards and gave into the pressure Um, you just forgive yourself Just forgive yourself You know, it's not it's not a ritual that you could do you don't need no sage and you don't need light No candles you just say listen. I I didn't know any better.   Responsibility Don't take him Don't don't be giving him money Let him go work if he got to go work at Wendy's Let him go out there and work at Wendy's Let him let him let him work And and you be real with him if you put a roof over his head He could stay with you But make sure he got a job and make sure he living and doing the right thing Ain't no smoking in my house Ain't no drinking in my house.   They're gonna have three hots in a cot What do you think about This whole Men being the prize movement. God wanted me to meet him halfway for a date One and a half hour drive Um, well You know Being a prize that's that's uh subjective, you know, it's subject it's subjective and it's it's all relative The thing is is You know, me and him halfway It really depends on how you see that You know, if he what I think would be really Him thinking he the prize If he tells you to come to him Come the whole way to him Now what some men trying to do Is they're trying to See What woman is real? And what woman is a gold digger? You know, they're trying to because here's what here's what people don't understand about the mind Is everything we hear it briefly affects our mind And so when we hear Like if I hear a rap song and it's a I got your girlfriend and you don't even know it If I hear that I'm looking at my wife She could be talking to Drake right now in the DM.  So sometimes it's like as a woman you got to ask yourself.  He don't know your actual actual city your actual address So it's so you got to sometimes look at it and see where the protection in it could be And and kind of think of it like that now if he just all out trying you like a baser Then that's when you know a baser baser. That's like it's like a drug addict for those y'all who Not familiar with the term That's old school term Montree god bless you. We have three kids. He thinks that when we divorce He will still be able to stay in the home. He isn't consistent with providing Well, listen, he might be able to stay in the home unless you go unless you're going to get a judgment That he got to move out from the judge Or unless you're gonna move out, you know, if he's not gonna leave so You know, that might be a conversation you need to have with him, but um That mind boggling to me how a man could not want you or not want to do right to keep you and keep you happy But they didn't want to live up under you like That's just go to show you, you know, that's just go to show you how we as men how we could be The way we just want three hearts in a cot. We just want somewhere to lay our head And he'll go outside and do his thing. It's like, you know, like they'd like the dog go out and stray Into the neighborhood Touch him a little something, but he know where to come lay his head at And that's how some guys are, you know, I really don't understand the mindset But I try to wrap my head around it, but I can't really understand the mindset but I'm hearing that often Brittany god bless your relationship long term calls me out of my name when mad He's dependable and always has my back not in love anymore, but still love him worth saving No, not no anywhere save As a woman you got to be in love Because a woman is created for love A woman soul per soul purpose when god created a woman It wasn't to build a fortune 500 company or become a ceo That's what the world for swimming into when you look at even just the natural biology of a woman It's not conducive to having a job because you believe five to seven days of A month and then you get pregnant and you carry a whole human for nine months Just your biology is not even conducive to having to go hustle and grind Because of what your body naturally goes through And so even with menopause Like think about this like women go through things Transitions in life with hormones that is not conducive to A workplace, but the world has said Hey women Go go work and get out here and get it because you can't depend on no man Because men are not dependable men gonna You know a lot of men using and abusing and cheating and mistreating So a lot of women have said listen in the days of old We could depend on our man to protect and provide but today It's a lot of men that squandering over a woman So women getting that getting on they grind and they putting their mind to it But I have had six figure and seven figure women come to me and say tony. I'm tired Literally women have said to me tony. I'm tired. I'm not built to hustle and grind Yes, I make a quarter million a year, but I'm tired I want a man that I could be with that I could build with That I could have kids and I could sit down for two or three years and be a mom Like I had countless women tell me that and it just they just speaking like to my like my wife You know, I I work and I pay the bills And it's a and it was times to where she would go through and she'll be like man I know I should have been a doctor, you know, I feel like I should have been a doctor I should have not let go my dreams and I'm like baby. Let's do it Let's go like a Take your MCAT again apply to mad school Any way you get in if you get in a Dominican Republic we there I work from a laptop I work from a cell phone. We could live in the Dominican Republic If that's the only mad school you get into and then when I tell her that And she weighs being a mom and being able to go to The school at 8 a.m. 10 a.m. Watch her watch her play With going and working 40 to 60 hours a week. She choose being a mom When she could do any kind of business in the world right now That we can invest in any business. She want to start in the world She chooses to be full-time a mom and I ask her all the time say baby Why you don't start to like no online boutique? Why you don't start no skincare? Why you don't start no clothing line? Why you don't do this do that? Because you know, you got your little support group on instagram And you like this you like that and she said and she always says she said because business isn't going anywhere But my kids going somewhere And If I go hustle and grind when I don't have to she says different if I had to go hustle and grind If I had to go build a business, but if I have the choice because You earn enough doing what you do to pay the bills What's the sense in me going to work because you got to be gone sometimes you hear you there you doing this If I'm hustling and grinding just as hard as you are because I got to build a business Then I'm losing my I'm losing time with the kids So if both of us hustling and grinding who the kids got Who the who do the kids have full time? And that's what she said to me. I said, you know what? Hey That's your call. That's your call. She said but when they go to college I probably will just have all this time out the day. I won't know what to do with myself then That's when I pursue my business ventures and because she had Children young 12-year-olds my wife will be 47 47 that's from prime ripe age to be going in entrepreneurship Entrepreneurship Hey, y'all got forgiven on some of these questions. I'll be riding now So y'all got to forgive me y'all y'all popping up these questions now on Oh, so what I was saying you got to go If man call you out your name And you're not in love with him My whole point of that whole spiel was a woman is Made for love a woman is wired for love a woman is created for love So if the woman is not in love The relationship is dead See man, we not created and wired for love. We have to learn how to love For women love is next to it's like in eight Because a woman gives birth So the ability to love instantaneously is biological in a woman for a man. We have to Literally tell our minds drop your guard Open your heart And allow love in And and women have to do the same too after they done been hurt But before a woman has been hurt. She all for the law. She all with it and Men may be that way as little boys, but then the world Conditions a man on top of his natural programming and wiring Uh, I'm gonna call it.  Oh, yeah, this a man Like not come on. I don't we have me calling your daddy old now. Come on.  I know she has my best interest I decided to entertain new woman. I've been honest to both 22 year old man feels wrong Yeah, you're wrong. Yeah, you're wrong. You're definitely wrong now and You live by your dad by you you make your choices and see the one thing you don't want to do is Take a woman who perfectly fine who perfectly good for you And get greedy and go dealing with entertaining the new woman When the woman you wit has your best interest Now from what you're going to learn from these q&a's is that women are very forgiving And so if you realize you made a mistake by talking to this new woman Who is not better or then the woman you already had who got your best interest Then you could try to write that wrong and try to correct that and try to rebuild trust And if but if she if she ain't having it if she going to put you in a prison of your past mistake Then just go and let the relationship go if she's not going to let you out that prison of that stupid choice But you might be able to Rewire it and I can't say that because you talked to a new woman that the woman you wit is not the one because that's not I know how men are and how we just could get greedy and Cheat on a good woman That we have feelings for that we respect It is as crazy as that sound it just Is me and we got to figure that out mentally and understand where that blockage is Gut the honor god. That's a high toning. Thank you for your videos. My cheating baby daddy owns a business with the lady He's silent treatment for one month run how to tell him to break up Uh, yeah, I tell him to break up says he not already broke up with you Y'all already done for one. He cheated on you To he owned a business with the lady. He cheated on you wit He didn't gave you the silent treatment for one month. That's your closure. That's your closure That's your answer. That's everything. This is already that's already gone. That's it Don't don't need don't even sit down waste no more of your time pondering on that now Go on about your business I'm working on my character, but I get easily triggered by family feel like a hypocrite When you get triggered think before you speak and then do the opposite of what you normally will do And that's how you develop new brain patterns emotional intelligence What do you think about moving cities to have a better chance of meeting men most men in my city are married or too young If you live in a little old, you know Hokey-poke city Then it makes sense to move Especially if that other city you move to gonna have other opportunity for you better jobs more job options More living options like my hometown where I'm from The level of soccer that my sons play on they don't have that in my hometown So I technically if I want my son to have a a decent shot at their goal of playing pro soccer Or getting the full scholarship to a d1 school or some type of athletic scholarship Even if it's partial to a d1 school Then I got to live in a city that has the highest level of youth soccer Um, that's available. So I had to move or not move back home for that opportunity And so sometimes, you know, I wouldn't just move solely for meeting a man Because there are men in your city. It's just you just might need to get on a billboard You might need to get out more you might need to run for for mayor So every man that's in the city that single come out the woodworks like they know you if you really want You a man just take over your city You know with your life coaching business put your put your face on the bus stop bench They ain't gonna charge them but a hundred dollars a month in a little city So you see what I mean like See this is what I try to remind women is roof did not meet her Roof didn't meet be at boas sitting in the house Roof was in the field Had roof not been out grinding In the field with her work Out the active She would have never met boas But because she were out there Boas saw You know he'll swing it in the wind And say hey, who is that? And he had to inquire within so see sometimes just in your city if you're going to work and coming home You ain't even meeting there a man that's in the city But if you in the rotary club The lions club or whatever kind of the small business association You start a company You get your little office space downtown You've got the you know The bus stop bench for six months for six hundred dollars now Airman that's in that city that's worth some not even seeing you Your husband may come to you just for you being in the field working I missed another one of the little chacks Key on a god bless you I'm trying to see Okay, I think I called up I'm trying to answer the the the questions in the actual chat But then people keep you know when y'all send me here colorful ones with the blessing it kind of I try to catch it for it disappear. So y'all in the chat This is a free q&a now y'all understand that you don't have to pay to ask a question But you know how some people live they're gonna skip the line at the club if they can Uh The dude, I'm gonna call you the dude Man, oh, he got me trying to call him daddy. Yo We weren't in a relationship Wanted to get my basics together true more success in business gave a big head new woman won't settle Intrigued me. Thank you Well, if you weren't in a relationship and now that's the one loophole that y'all that that y'all young ins Believing Is y'all be with the woman talking to the woman the woman feel like y'all in a relationship But because you never said will you be my girlfriend? You technically were single So and if that's the case then yeah, you you you are dating you dating around And the fact that you was honest I respect that and the fact that you on here paying to ask a question as a young man I respect that because this I think this is the first time I've ever seen something like that I'm the first time I've ever seen a young man or a man period Send a financial gift to me to ask a question so that's To me speaks to your character and just you 22 so you kind of Don't know what you won't really don't know what a wife looked like but see this is a thing If you don't know what a wife looked like if you don't know what you want Then you have to continue to make that clear to a woman at the gate You know, let her know like listen. I'm I'm just kind of dating around. I don't really know What a wife looks like or what I'm looking for I feel like maybe I know her when I see her so I don't want you to get your hopes up.  They got a black widow spirit. They know how to play the game A lot of times it's the good women who may be shy and socially awkward And may not really know her way around a man or how to really talk to a man Because she's so innocent and pure But a woman who done been out there and them been touch Quite a few times or to have been around a lot of times them women they know Exactly what to say. They got a silver tongue And what come off their lips is like in the book of Proverbs read the book of Proverbs young man Read the book of Proverbs when I read the book of Proverbs That thing say that that woman sits and waits To snatch her up a man and take him in that house and Do all everything under the sun with him and rob him Like uh Like the rapper lady out of new york say she used to do her men when she was unscripted Say she used to get them in and put something in that drink and Give them a little Slippery slot And take all that cash out of their pocket and get out of dodge That same action that that woman say she used to do in new york Is what the bible talk about in the book of Proverbs That they want me sit out there waiting to sift her one So see you got to realize that now here go here go, uh Miss t 72 Oh, that's me. Tony. I'm sorry.  He's 35. I'm 34 Six months longest. He's ever waited. He broke up because a lack of uh But tried taking it back hours later. He contacts me daily and wants to see me without speaking to a coach advice Well to be honest with you don't need a coach He already know what he's doing See what he's trying to do Is he trying to push you to the edge?  Yes God said every man fall short of the glory of god and he who was out seeing cast the first stone And it's like I'll be honest with you. I've been really just wanting you and I'm just and so that's what he's trying to do This a test But the fact that when he broke up with you for lack of aunt And and you didn't call him chase him begging him No, let's talk about this He tried to take it back hours later and now he contact you daily because um He 35 so you ain't talking about the 22 yo But that's what the 22 yo say he intrigued by because he say his new woman Won't settle and that intrigues him Six months this the longest this man has ever waited that intrigues him. So he like so he he want to try to act tough And act like he gonna leave But really he too intrigued because We want what's rare As men we want what's rare see me I can't chase women because i'm married And i'm in love with my wife, but i'm gonna give you an example I got into it with a dealership because they ran my credit too many times And I went back in there and I switched the car out because I was buying a car for a family member And I already had a pre-approved from my bank and they ran my credit when they weren't supposed to And then the car they gave me something wrong with it They were supposed to just swap the van out because it was only like two weeks They could you could swap the van in 30 days if something was Defective with your car instead of just swapping the van they treated the car like a trade in And then they ran my credit again To get a whole new loan from a different bank without my permission Oh, yeah, you didn't mess with the wrong one.  So it's an angel cat, but it's called a double cat And when I got it, I didn't know much about them cars. I just know it was 717 horsepower And so i'm out here hitting that gas, but then I realized oh it's levels to this I got the narrow body.   Because see i'm married So I can't be doing that with women, but with my cars I want exclusive Because that's how men are so that's why I try to tell women that when you become rare When you become a one percent woman you're going to attract the one percent man When you stuck in the 99 percent because you listen into the city girls And you listen to mega stallion and uh cardy b You finna attract men who gonna cheat on you just like a lot of their boyfriends be doing Because you in the 99 percent But when you get to the place to where you got the strength and wisdom to do what other women Don't have the boldness or the strength to do You eventually gonna attract a man that is a one percent man because he's willing to do what other men are not willing to do You see what I mean? So my wife is a one percent Woman and that made me become a one percent man So as a man I don't curse I don't get drunk I don't smoke I don't masturbate I don't watch pornography It's gonna be very hard for me to meet a man Who don't do any of that It's men that's like that But guess what because every single man that I know curses That already put me in a different class But my wife don't curse Every woman I know now by curse But my wife don't curse And we don't curse because we want to be sacred and cursing is profanity And we Christian and we want to be good examples for our kids So we don't want to do nothing that our kids can't do So if my second grader can't go in the classroom and say help you to the teacher Then I don't want to curse Because if I do it that condones him to do it You see what I mean? If you want different you got to be different You got to do different See a lot of people want to be average But they want something that's rare You can't get something that's rare if you average And so that's what we have to realize in this hill life You're gonna have to sacrifice if you really want something On that next level So understand that don't know Hey y'all start sending them paid questions Because when y'all send them paid questions I'm riding out on my answer But when y'all send them paid questions They put pressure on me that I need to go ahead and hush So I could get the next one Because I don't want y'all to be sending these paid questions And then you know you wasting your money Because I miss your question Because you sending it for an answer And not just to say God bless you Miss P. God bless you first name, last name God bless you all and put no question in there Mama T. Thank you Do you think God bless you mama T Do you think age matters Do you think age matters Okay mama T. Welcome mama T I see this is the first day here God bless you We glad to have you God bless you now mama T Is it a wall for women of God I want my girls to grow up before I date But I will be 40 plus Is this wise Don't mind being solo But want to set healthy example I'm sorry mama T. This is a different kind of question I'm thinking you about to ask me You 24, can you date a 50 year old man God bless you this is a different kind of question I respect you on wanting to wait until Your girls grow up before you date Now see listen to me It's one thing to date And it's one thing to bring men around your kid So see You can have your auntie Your mama Your best friend come over to your house on a Friday night And watch your girls And you go on a date with a man that you met When you was out and about by yourself And you could talk to that man For a year To thoroughly vet him And get to see who he is And that he's a man of valor Of character And now you really know him And you feel good with him And then when he asked you to marry him Now you got to hold another year To two years before you marry him So you got three years to build with a man Without him being in your daughter's life Because all y'all could talk an hour a day When your daughters go to sleep And then y'all could go on a date Once every week On a Friday, Saturday or Sunday Whatever day you could get a babysitter Not somebody off care dot com A friend and family member that you know, love and trust Particularly a woman who likes men So that way you know your girls are Because a lot goes on in the household as we know And so this is a woman that you know, love and trust Inside not talk to bottom You can't fathom for anything in your life That she'll ever do something Even though you know love and trust her You still got the nanny cams in there Now see this is a way that you could date Without introducing a man to your daughters And having him in your life And if he rushing you about marriage That's when you know it's a red flag That's when you might have you a pedo Because he know you got daughters He find out you got daughters He could know about your daughters He could see a picture of your daughters But he don't have to meet them And know them and be in their life If you want to date before you 40 plus Now waiting until 40 plus to date It does change the dating pool Because you typically You either gonna get a man who is over 40 And never been married Which could be somewhat of a red flag In most cases there are exceptions to the rule Where it's not a red flag Because he been grinding And he's like a high level executive Or a surgeon or something That took a lot of time to get where he's at Or you gonna meet men who have Kids already like you But they could have younger kids And your girls grown And now you got a man he 40 5 but he got a 5 year old So now you got to be step mama For the next 13 years At least And so you gonna have that Or you gonna have men who They didn't been divorced They didn't been divorced and all of that So the dating pool does change Over 40 Which I will 46 and up Zoom class is Monday night You can sign up on TonyGassesAcademy.com For the 46 and up now So understand that though Nicole Watley You might have to look at it from your computer If you don't see the change If you in the bless tribe and you want to join The bless business tribe You might have to do it from a different browser Or like from a computer If it ain't showing you on the phone And if you on a computer you may have to change your browser Or go to the phone Can you explain why you say Men who are mommas boys will never change If they grew up without a dad And a mother who enabled And spoiled them Starfish God bless you none I mean The Bible say Train him up in the way that he should go And when he is old He will not depart from it So what that's telling you is how a man Is raised he's not going to depart From how he was raised The values he got Even if he goes away from it He's going to come back to it good or bad So if a man is a mommas boy He's going to forever be a mommas boy And the only thing And the only thing that may change Is if his momma passes away But sometimes that still don't change a man Because he still hold on to the memories Of his momma he compared every woman To his momma But now he comparing this woman to an inflated Idea Of his momma He making his momma more He making his momma better than she actually was And he didn't know his momma romantically But he comparing Women that he's getting to know romantically To his momma who He had a totally different Type of relationship with because he's a son And not her husband And so that's why it's hard For a mommas boy To change Because of the comparison Ashley and Barry God bless you Quick question I have a YouTube channel And I'd like your input to see if my messages Are coming across appropriately Where do I go to set that up if possible The best The only way you can do that right now is if you're in the growth group On the growth group Mastermind you'll see it on my TonyGassesAcademy.com So on there It still takes me some time in there because we have You know, over a hundred Members But in there We got a Slack group chat And you could Message me directly And I try to get in there and then we have Monthly Zoom calls So it's called a growth group And they even started them a Bible study Off on the side They connected and building on their own We need some men in there We need some men in there Cause it's like Listen That thing get a little tough on me We need some men in there Court and God bless you Why would a man be in and out of the relationship And again that's on TonyGassesAcademy.com Why would a man be in and out Cause I'm not doing one on one session right now So the only way you really can reach me One on one right now is through the growth group Why would a man be In and out of the relationship For seven years But no with anyone else During the separation We're both 24 God bless you Courtney Who told you that's what he told you Do you believe that Have you slept with you Have you slept with you If you didn't slept with you You didn't slept somewhere else So Don't go to believe in that now Don't go to Don't hold your breath on that Right there now sister Yeah seven years in and out What you think he doing when he out When he in and out When he out he in something else Cause if he ain't in nothing else Ain't no reason to be out You see what I mean If he ain't in nothing else He ain't gonna be out of the relationship He gonna be there Y'all got that You hear what I'm saying you If a man know how to ride a bicycle If you take his bike He gonna buy another bicycle You see what I'm saying Well he gonna steal somebody else's bicycle But he still gonna know how to ride If he know how to ride a bicycle He not finna settle for walking He done slept with you And you not sleeping with him Unless he walk with the Lord Jesus Christ He sleeping with somebody else And if he walk with the Lord Jesus Christ Then he not gonna be running in and out your life Cause he know that I ain't of God To be playing with your emotions Guy at work seems interested I let him approach me To introduce himself and he did Both 27 and 28 He hasn't shot his shot As yet but always polite How to show him interested Is he in a relationship He probably taking He probably in a relationship and just Your beauty Style whatever Oral got the best of him And he had a weak moment And he needed to just make your acquaintance To kind of Curve his His lust, his desire And You kind of like a little work thrill Little work wife But if a man like you And he single and he available He gonna hop right on that Hey y'all I got to go in 13 minutes now I got to go in 13 minutes I can't try not to be on here all night Come on now Some people be doing lives 4 and 5 hours I'm like How y'all do that 4 and 5 hours God bless you I'm like getting my eye now Some fluid in my eye 45 with adult Daughters and attract younger men While out with them They say mom you look our age It's fine I say these young men Won't Asked and cut to me Attended 36 to 45 Love life chat Stay in this range Um Up with a man You want to be No more ideally You don't want to deal with a man No more than 3 years younger than you And then No more than 5 years older than you That's the ideal Because Women mature faster than men So a woman's maturity level Typically is equivalent To a man 5 years older than her But A man's maturity level Is typically Not on the level of Women his age Let alone a woman that's older than him So the older you get Then the man The less mature He's going to be The less compatible y'all are going to be Unless you immature too But if you mature Which if you on here growing like this That let me know you mature You skip my question Miss Paris it was One of the ones a colorful one Because if it Wasn't one of the colorful ones Then I skipped a whole lot of the ones in the chat Because they just coming so fast But I've seen That I skip your question So had you pasted your question right There I would have seen it Um You listen I don't appreciate nothing he does for me Because of my nonchalant attitude I give off I don't mean to be like this What's a different way I can show appreciation Well I mean Here's the thing, you gotta ask yourself When he does something for you Do you say wow thank you I really appreciate that That was so nice You didn't have to do that That was so nice That's what you need to say That's what you need to say If he want you to say more than that Then he doing too much He asking for too much He want you to be Simone Biles Doing cartwheels and bike flips Because he did a little something You doing what you supposed to be doing Like what you want A cookie You want a trophy For doing something nice for a woman Thank you Tony You are a blessing always Y'all I got about nine more minutes now Time for me to go So many questions Love your content I matured through your talks And finally just growing up God bless you What is the best way to deal Slash break generational curses You know that's a hard work That's a lot that got to be done And to be honest with you You can do it But you have to be so mindful about it What your momma did What your daddy did What your family did And you identify those things You can even write it down and study it And try to get to the root of it So that when you see it in you Now you know what the opposite action is So let me tell you My family broke My family struggled They worked all these years And they spent every dime they made And instead of just taking just a dime Of every dollar and putting it Into an account And letting it sit there And letting it grow So that when they retire They have a dime of every dollar So if they worked 10 years And made $30,000 That's $300,000 You worked 20 years 30 years That's $900,000 Had they just took a dime They would have had An account When they retire They didn't have that So what I had to do is learn from that So every single week That I get paid I send something to an account To where it's invested in stocks Spread out evenly Through a robo investor Not a financial advisor Because they're going to end up stealing your money Or charging you too much But I use betterment.com I use betterment.com And every week I send Money to that And I choose my stock split Where I have 90% stock 10% bonds Or I may change the 80% stocks 20% bonds And I choose their Core investment strategy that they recommend Based on all of their Years of study And I see the money growing And I put the money in them And they don't stay where it's at, it grows So that's what I did To break a generational curse You have to look at what your family did And make sure you're doing the opposite So now if I hit hard times Or if I own an emergency I got me a little safe Pot of money that I could go to And I could tap into If I need to I have an invention I can't afford to get up and running Should I get an investor This will be a big deal Okay Ms. Perry, thank you for posting that question I didn't even know that was you, but I've seen the thing I think what you first need to do Before you can afford it You probably need To talk with a coach Talk with a business coach You also have to realize that There's almost no original ideas Today And so Google, Google, Google, Google, Google And see if what you create exists I have clients come to me With an invention and then we get on Google And it already exists out there It don't mean you can't still create it Because it ain't just one Person selling hamburgers You got Mike Donalds You got Burger King, you got Wendy's You got Chequers, Rattles, Hardies Everybody selling hamburgers So you still can invent What you want to invent It don't mean that nobody else is going to copy the invention And then also you have to think about How can you make the smallest Version of it To despise not small beginnings And then build from there They only got 20% more battery left So that's a good thing I'll be leaving C.C. Alexander And I will scroll it up through here And realize I missed that one question And I apologize about that Look at him Look at that working So that's like a little light A little light bulb or something Y'all gotta forgive And right in the middle of the woods So anytime Open the door to get some mail Some slip right on in here Sometimes it's a lizard Right in your butt in here Y'all gotta forgive And then the devil Get on into the thing to distract me If I meet a guy organically How can I find out If he's also dating others And or if he's online dating Are men rarely ever 100% single Men are rarely 100% single Meaning only dating one woman At a time Especially in the beginning stages But here's the thing You never should care about who else a man is dating Because when you care about Who else a man is dating What I mean is I'm not saying condone Him dating someone else If you're dating him like If you get exclusive with him If you get in a relationship with him If he's still a free agent You are still a free agent So if you get caught up worrying about Who he's talking to Then what that does to you is You lose your aura Because now you're operating from insecurity And you're operating from worry And you're operating from fear But if you just confident In who you are And you able to just stretch your stuff And you like listening If he bumping into anybody else Get it Cause I'm on it I'm up up up up So she got to be stepping In the name of love For her to be better than me So you just have to have your confidence And you can't even ask him about another woman Because if he is talking to another woman His attention span His consistency Those things gonna lack and you gonna know Hey I got three more minutes Hey Tony Four S God bless you now Hey Tony is it wise To be back with your ex For the sake of the kids Ex seems to have done the work Well he's seen to have done the work But you know your ex Is he the type to really do work Or is he the type to fake like he do work You know your ex And you had kids from him So you know your ex So listen to your intuition If you truly believe he done your work Then It's okay to be back with him If you want him You can't be with him for the kids Because if you with him for the kids And you not happy and you miserable Now you become 50% of who you are And so now Instead of y'all being 100 100 Y'all 150 And the kids looking at you like Man why my mama walking around Like a zombie Why my mama looking like who shot John And forgot to kill him Why my mama looking broke busting and disgusted Toe up from the floor And then he looking and he And then your kids is like wow Virginia Now listen Instead of y'all asking me can you get my question Just post your question again See I see where you said can you get my question Had you posted your question right there I would have seen your question So now you see this 1 million questions In here now Virginia Just post your question again Right here while it's going slow So now I could see it Now see listen to me This one I'm trying to tell y'all When you not called to this right here And you serving this You serving people and you reading questions Most people who do live they talk at you They just talking They not paying attention to no chat This D question is this big I really need a magnifying glass And then this 1,000 questions Coming in here and I'm one person So y'all got to understand that Now y'all can be sitting over there Are you miss my question Now see listen this one I'm trying to tell y'all When you not called to this Doing this right here make you snap That's why you be seeing E-podcasters going off And cussing women out And calling them all kind of name Because they not called to this When God call you to this He gonna give you a level of patience So that you could do the work But see when the devil send you To be a distraction to the people You not gonna have the patience to deal With humans and you gonna be cussing people out Calling them out they name Calling them all kind of everything You see what I'm saying I'm a Hispanic woman from Cali And I've been listening for over a year Thank you for all you do God So it's a mouth and she trying to let me know Tony you ain't just got black women So you need to Tony stop coming on here just having The message strictly for the black women Because you got the Hispanics out here listening To you too God bless you sister I know you out there now God bless you Now listen because I did Some messages for black women And I talked directly to the black women It's like I done lost all the white women That used to be on the channel All the little white women That I used to see regular I don't see them no more Now I just see the black women And then we got us a Hispanic God bless you now I want y'all to know I ain't racist I ain't prejudice It's just sometimes certain things Got to be the certain people You know and I don't know nothing About nobody else race because I just know the race I am I grew up in Fitting my God blessing Sancho Lewis new member God bless you So fitness mom I think this is the same lady who she like If she see you your question Get overlooked she spent her heart on money To ask your question for you God bless you sister Baby daddy and I still Living together asked like we're Together sleeping in the same bed Still talking to other women behind my back Leave for good and did he Never love me Hey mom you could left that Question in the chat Yeah y'all need to Stop sleeping together and y'all At least need to stop sleeping together And yes you need to leave For good because see if he's Talking to other women he dealing with other women Then what's gonna happen He gonna pick up something Out there and he gonna bring it home And one of them nights while you Weakened your spirit and he Roll over there and go to rubbing on you And let him go ahead and do a Little something Then you finna be caring Something he done picked up out them streets So you got to be careful with that Now let me find Cause it was It was a sister who She said I miss her question and then She posted again But see it's too many coming In here so I gotta scroll forever Looking for that question Hard to see Now what a sister That I miss the question Clara Delpner God bless her now Keep on keeping on God bless her now God bless her now That sister that she Duhed deep and sent her blessing God bless her now you don't have to do that now True love never dies Dated in our 20s And still have strong love in our mid 50s second chances Sis I don't think that's true love Cause true love ain't gonna let you Walk around this earth for 30 years And not be up under you True love ain't gonna let you Get away And true love definitely Ain't gonna let you get away For 30 years See what happened is Y'all broke up He went out there like the prodigal son Did his thing So his wild hopes Never grew, never changed And then Then bumped into you Still the same man he was at 20 That's why he's single See as a woman A man proposed to you So you could be single Because you have not met the right one But for men it's a plethora Of women that could be the right one It's a hope because a woman is Created for love it's honestly not that Hard for a man to find a good woman Because women are created for love And in condition by society To be the backbone of a household A CEO of a household To be a good wife even society And even mothers try to teach Their daughters how to be a good wife And so it's Different for a woman and a man So when a man them been out here Roaming around, roaming around He come back at 50 After he didn't let you walk free for 30 years You can't call that true love sister So don't just You know because he bored And you know and you Available Don't just think that's true love now Now you can get a little test now Keep it less closed And have your timeline 3 months, 6 months, test it out See how it goes Every 3 months extend it another month But you keep watching it By the 12 month mark Between the 12 and 18 month mark This real or not Fitness mom, God bless you now Here is a question you were looking for Okay, Virginia spite I thought that who it was But then I saw it was deleted So I can't get to see it IG Crush and I Chatted 2 months And then my last question I got my phone down I ain't got my no charge in here IG Crush and I Chatted for 2 months Deep Convo all the time Opens up says he's Interested but wants to heal Can't stop thinking of him Move on Yeah sister gone by your Business gone by your business That's a tough one right there And I know that hurt But see this is the thing which I'll have to understand By me is Me and love to put up shots in the gym Me and love to go to the range And let some go Me and love to Do burnouts and doughnuts So what I'm saying to you is that Sometimes a man is just talking to you For practice Sometimes he's just talking to you For distraction So the thing that women have to Do different is you got to Stop fantasizing about the Man in between y'all's Conversations What women do is Women talk to a man for an hour But then think about him For the next 23 hours Until she talked to him again For another hour So giving him Rent free space in your head For any period of time Every hour of the day Other than when you sleeping and then a lot of time You go to sleep and dream about him So now he has credit For 24 hours a day He actually only gave you 30 minutes To an hour So that fantasy Ain't no more questions, this is my last question That fantasy Now Makes you fall for him But he only give you the time When he talking directly to you See when a man not talking To a woman, we not thinking about her We on Our video game We fixing our old school car We working on our land We grinding on our job We doing other things Women again Romanticize Fantasize And give a man all of this brain space When he's not even there And that's why a lot of women fall in love With Men who call them Every other day Because on the day that the man not calling The woman still thinking about him the whole day So what women have to do is Stop getting Stop getting your hopes up And let the man Prove his love Beyond the shadow of a doubt So the more consistent he is And the more time he give you He Knocking down on the walls He getting past them barriers He don't know that you have Barriers up He don't know that you not really So you literally have to tell yourself This don't mean nothing This don't mean nothin Ya this don't mean nothin Ya this don't mean nothin This don't mean nothin This don't mean nothin Ya this don't mean nothing Thats how you got to do That's how you got to do To condition your mind Do not get your hopes up But when he go the distance Its a marathon with not a sprint He's still consistent, nine months in, 12 months in. He's still consistent. He's still taking you on a day every week. He calling you every day. He trying to see you as much as possible. And y'all at the 12 month mark and he's still treating you with respect. He not cursing you out. He not talking down to you. He not controlling. He not insecure.  But see what happened to by you telling yourself that what you're doing is you reverting your nature so that you don't be so open to him so that it makes him even work harder because he see that you not just spread ego willy-nilly. And so when you can understand that, then he start to, he working more. But see what happened is men, us being hunters, us being go-getters, us being like that, when a woman is too easy, we lose interest. When a woman is too open, we'll lose interest because it's like, okay, game over. Like the gift already unwrapped. We want the gift to where you got to go get a pack of Sizzles, you got to get the boss thing. You got to get, you got to really pull. It got duct tape on there. Like we really want to have a gift. We really got to unwrap. But when it come too easy, we like, okay, we done. You see what I'm saying? And y'all understand this. The reason why I express from the male perspective is to bridge the gap so that we can have better dialogue and communication because most daddies don't talk. Most brothers don't talk because we so-called up living the game and playing the game. We don't get time to break the game down to our sister because we playing it. We don't get the time to break the game down to our daughter because we playing it. And I don't think I answered that question early when somebody asked me if a man played the game why he don't tell his daughter about the game so she don't got to go through it.  Because if daddy get a game to his daughter, his daughter going to be like, oh, so that's what you did to mama? You know what?  I think this toy got cooties on it. You did, the men do that. Oh, that's what you do. And daddy don't want to lose his daughter affection and admiration and love because that's the purest form of love. See with the baby mama, with the wife, with the girlfriend, he arguing with her. They tug a war, they love and war. It's bittersweet love, but with that daughter it's a pure admiration from his daughter. So if he go to giving his daughter the whole game, he fears that she gonna look at him sideways and wonder, hmm, so now you didn't tip your cape off Superman and you got kryptonite. Now, what he don't realize is that she still will give him the benefit of the doubt the same way her mama gave him the benefit of the doubt all the time he was cheating on her. He still don't realize his daughter going, it's women come to me. My dad was married 40 years to my mom and never once cheated. Oh, oh, that's what you think? Oh, oh, hmm, okay. Congratulations, congratulations, sister. I'm glad your dad was just that amazing, that he's that guy. Okay, congratulations, all right. And I really be like, okay, was you with your daddy 24 hours a day? Before you were born, was you with your daddy? Like, you ain't see your daddy 24 hours a day, you don't know what your daddy did. Your daddy could, I used to work in the group home and there was a man who was married and he'd be in the group home hunting his coworker on the top of the washing machine with the washing machine running. So she getting a little vibration from that washing machine and she getting that vibration and penetration and he married. So now his daughter think her daddy ain't never cheated. He cheated at work. He cheated at work. You don't know what your daddy did. You don't know what your daddy did. But see, a lot of men don't tell their daughter the game because they fear their daughter gonna look at them funny. Not realizing the daughter just gonna appreciate it and the daughter gonna be like, every man do this, but my daddy. Every man capable of doing this, but my daddy. They don't even realize that that's how the daughter gonna look at it. So father's not talking to their daughters because the daddy so caught up playing the game on the baby mama or on the wife or on the side chip. And so that's the reason why we gotta have more men who stop playing games and start being real and start being authentic and start being examples and stop trying to take advantage of women, lie to women, cheat on women, suppress women and start building with a woman so that as you building with a woman, your kids could see what building look like. A lot of men talking about, we need to organize and mobilize but then cheating on a woman. So it's like how you need to organize, mobilize, centralize, globalize and you cheating on your woman. You see what I'm saying? The best example you could do for your kids is show them how you come together and you work and you build. Hey, this is Tony Gaston. God bless y'all, appreciate y'all to the moderators. Thank you so much for your support on here. I really appreciate you. God bless you. Cause they work for free and they're not in my organization like in my company with no 401K and health insurance. They come on here and just serve and help me navigate this whole thing. And I really appreciate you. And the only people who could comment on his members of the blessed tribe. And I do that because I'm not emotionally intelligent to the point where I could deal with haters in my comments, cause the Lord's still working on me. So I talk on love and relationships but the Lord's still working on me in other areas. So if a hater come out of the mouth the wrong way with me, I might have, I might be in a grab, they name, find their address and have somebody visit them. So that's why I keep this with just people who I know are here to grow and to learn and I don't have to deal with trolls because I'm the type of person I lose sometimes. So I lose my freedom over a troll. And so the Lord working with me on that right there. So I want to share that in transparency. That's why I keep this here chat closed. And a man tried me one time. I got slapped in the mouth and then he realized, oh, he wasn't just racking for the camera. No, man, I don't play about that. I don't play about that disrespect now. I'm doing the Lord's work, okay? So I appreciate y'all for being in the blessed tribe and for those of you in the blessed business tribe and for those of you in the growth group, especially too, cause that's an outside group, you know, where we connect and we got our call coming up. So y'all stay tuned. I'm posted in the group chat on Slack.  The growth group is on tonigaslinacademy.com. Tracy Ann Jackson, God bless you. Say she love the growth group. God bless you. It's a mastermind group. It's on tonigaslinacademy.com now. So God bless y'all. We'll talk soon. I'm gonna hit and bother my wife.


What is going on guys, it's your boy DPJ here today with another Destiny video and in today's Destiny video we get a first look at the Lord of Wolves exotic secondary shotgun that comes with the House of Wolves on May 19th. Now there's been a lot of speculation so around in this weapon people thinking it's a shrapnel launcher that we get to use when the House of Wolves comes but when compared to a shrapnel launcher it does look indeed extremely similar. Now it is a fallen weapon a lot like the shrapnel launcher and it's obtained from the Prison of Alders. What level it's obtained from as of yet is unknown or whether it drops in all levels it's unknown also. Now from the latest Bungie trailer for the House of Wolves which I will link in the video description for you guys did miss it we get a few seconds of this thing being used in what seems to be PVP on another Guardian and is extremely interesting it really is. Now on screen now I'll show you guys this footage and you can see it being fired and yes like the shrapnel launcher it seems to fire in a burst. Now when you first look at this footage and you look closely at this weapon and the size of this ammo clip well me anyway I thought it was going to be more of a auto rifle or a pulse rifle or something like that and a lot like the pulse rifle this thing does shoot in bursts but it is definitely a shotgun it's clip size is massive like I said being 30 bullets but this thing shoots five bullets at a time like a burst weapon a lot like a pulse rifle instead of that usual shotgun cluster of bullets so it does act differently than your standard shotgun in this game. So this thing shooting five bullets at a time gives it six shots per clip reserve has 40 so if this is its full tank we would expect 14 full five burst shots from the Lord of Wolves when it's fully equipped with bullets it can hold guessing but judging by the sneak peek of this weapon though and seeing the reptile on screen it seems as though bullets will spread also instead of shooting more center like your normal weapon so it does act more like a shotgun than anything else so that's what we will expect so what do we know about this weapon the Lord of Wolves is a secondary exotic shotgun that comes with the house of wolves and is unlockable via the prison of elders as of the level yet you get this is unknown it shoots like a burst rifle shooting five bullets at a time instead of a standard cluster of shots like a shotgun but you can do compared to a standard shotgun in the game the ammo efficiency will probably equal out I mean this shoots five bullets as a burst a standard shotgun will shoot them as a cluster equally roughly to about the same amount so all in all the Lord of Wolves is definitely a shotgun I do look forward to using and seeing in game but guys what do you think about this let me know down below in that comment section hope you guys enjoyed the video if you could leave a like I would appreciate the support and peace out until next time peace