My English name is Julie Osamalgis, I'm here to help share some light on the Indigenous education on the Nokmis perspective. So I'll just share a little bit about myself. I grew up in Chikin, Manitoulin Island and so my first I guess formal education is I went to the day school in Chikin and as you know just probably maybe one year of that before heading to before sending me off to the Indian Residential School St. Joseph's in Spanish. So I was there for seven years and then so 1963 the school closed and I went back to the day school in Chikin or it was called West Bay at the time. So a lot of trauma happened in those schools. Children were harmed and I think some of the or I believe some of the children were very gifted you know with their minds but but many also suffered of trauma that hindered their learning and so I didn't complete grade 8 and I never completed high school and I left the island when I was 15 I started to wander looking for my place in life and so in 1967 I met Frank and so we were married in 68. So looking at you know what education is you know I I really didn't have much to offer but I remember in 1974 maybe even 75 I remember looking out my window and saying I said if I could help my people that's what I'd like to do but I said I don't have anything to offer that's what I said and so so a few years down the road my friend and I we we hung around the band office and so we told them we would help I said if you want us to do shredding or if you want us to do cleanup I said just tell us what we need to do and we'll do it. So you know maybe a year or so later they asked if we wanted to do some training and that we said sure we would do that so we took training and it was called band plan planning and so we took this training so and we did that for us so that took us into work starting to do our work with with with our First Nation and so it was a fun time but still in my heart I knew that just doing office work was not my forte so to speak but I had an opportunity to do more one-on-one sort of one-on-one inco at that time had a big strike and so they wanted to offset their wages through what was called Canada employment at the time or the EI office and so they wanted to compensate their their wages what they were getting on the EI and and through the Canada employment they were going to offset their their costs their employment costs or their living costs so we so we had quite a few inco workers so I took on I was gifted that that position to work with these guys and I had to explain everything about their reporting cards what was going to happen they had to be filled out they had to be submitted on a certain time and and I explained all that to them and I said once they were in I would go drop them off and pick them up so that they would have their money and I this is where I felt you know this is what I wanted to do to be helpful to to work with people and so that project ran for maybe a couple of months and and I just really enjoyed doing that and there were some hitches along the way and I you know I said to some of the guys got mad because their checks didn't come in and I just said you know it's it has to do with the office I said I did everything I was supposed to do and they said oh I'm not going to work and I said well you know that's your choice I said then I said but I will you know get it rectified I'll see what happened and you know they eventually got their checks but you know it's just I really enjoyed that and so so I continued to work with my first nation for the period up to 1984 but I knew in my heart that's not what I wanted to do so in 1983 there was a posting out at the for the Friendship Center that there was a position available so I applied and so just before the Friendship Center's closure for the holidays I got I get a call saying that I got the position if I wanted it and I was really stunned and I was stunned because the people from the band office here had said it was a formality they already have their person hired like why would you apply there you know you're gonna have to travel in the wintertime you're gonna have to buy new like they're putting lots of negative curves on it and then I just said you know what I says I'm gonna do it I said whether or not I get the job I said that's okay so when that they called that's why I was so stunned and and of course I I accepted and so in January of 1984 I started working at the Friendship Center so when I walked through those doors I just felt like a big blanket wrapped around me saying this is where I'm going to retire I was just I know I just felt so good working there so working there I I worked as an employment counselor and I worked in that position for a year so working with people getting them job ready meeting employers see what you know types of jobs they had available for for people and primarily you know Nishnabe people and you know what their qualifications they were looking for you know all those kinds of things so I I really enjoyed working there but the government had closed the the community-based employment counselors down and but at the same time the Indian and Friendship Centers had posted a position out of family court workers so I was laid off for a few days and then I applied and so again like I was like really stunned that I selected for this position and which I applied which I accepted so my time with the Friendship Center really helped me to look at you know our teachings the stories what elders and just looking at you know what our people are missing and what I was missing what I grew up with I grew up with with alcohol violence the different types of abuses the harm that was done to our people you know why some of our people you know left their formal education there were so many barriers of what our people went through and what I went through which I could relate to and so up to probably in 1989 I really started to connect in who I was you know away from from work I you know there was opportunities to go to other communities and to listen to teachings to sitting in circles and we went up to the Sioux to the Sioux-Saint-Marie at the Garden River they had a healer there and we really I really felt so drawn to the teachings these stories and and along the way I you know I I heard people talking about their spirit name you know their clan their colors and I thought like what does this all mean so listening to this healer in the Sioux-Saint-Marie that particular time I felt really drawn I felt this was my moment to to go and sit with him and talk with him and I offered him tobacco and I asked for my spirit name and my clan and he said he would help me and but he was from from Minnesota so he said he would call me so I gave him my phone number and I felt so good when we left there just listening to the stories so about maybe a month later or so I get a phone call and so he's telling me these things and I didn't know who was calling and he says so he says you love your you wear the pants in your family and I said what and then he says you're pretty you're pretty bossy I said who is this and then he says he says you're pretty organized you want things done in a certain way and I said I was just ready to hang up and I said who is this and he starts laughing he says it's Adam he says I have your spirit name in your clan he's your clan is the crane I said if you if you study the crane he says you'll understand why I said that but I reflected back on how I was and I thought you know and he was right on to the tea how I was and I thought oh my goodness and but I felt so grounded that day when he called I thought my spirit name and I walked around with that a woman uncle and I really really looked at it and then and then you know to have my clan was a bonus but I understood why I was the way I am today still so when we look at you know the education of our people in my generation I will speak that I mean the second generation where I will or maybe the third generation where I look at my grandfather his generation be I I will say his first generation then my mother's generation would be the second generation then I would be the third generation and then my children would be the fourth generation and my grandchildren would be the fifth generation. So when we look at those generations, so my generation, the third generation was, you know, predominantly we didn't have the teachings or we didn't understand, you know, we just lived, you know, we did what we had to do, we worked, we provided for our family. But I think that my generation was the awakening of the teachings of the ceremonies. And I think that's where I really started to really feel I belong, where I belonged was with, you know, in our spirituality of our ancestors. And Frank and I, you know, we I would come home and share those teachings or share some of the crafts that I learned at the Friendship Center. I just felt so whole and I felt so awesome would teach him and I would teach the girls, you know, these crafts. And as we journeyed, so when I reflect back on my grandfather's the first generation was they were hard workers, but they were also like lots of, lots of alcohol use, lots of violence. And it carried on to my mother's generation, the second generation. You know, there was residential school during those periods. I went to residential school, but she was very harsh. She was very, very strict, I guess, at that time. But in the period of 1974 with her, we reconciled and we we made peace with each other. And from 1974 moving forward, we had a very beautiful relationship as a mother and daughter, grandmother and great-grandmother. And she taught us lots about, you know, things and just watching her, you know, seeing her in a different perspective from when I was a young girl. But all of that it helped me to shape me who I am today when we look at the teachings and we look at, you know, the seven grandfather teachings. I look at those seven grandfather teachings that it's all in us, in our spirit, in our being. It's how we work with that, how we live it out. You know, it also has the dark side, the opposite sides of the seven grandfather teachings. But you know when we look at the education today, our children are housed in a square building, square rooms, you know, not much of interaction. So when we look at the third generations of my, of my art daughters, our children, there was no, the history was very negative about our people, our ancestors. A lot of the history was done with the European history.  So when we look at the education or of books, of authors, it was all the non-native content throughout the schools. And I think that our Nishinaabe authors were starting to emerge around that time. So I remember when I was working at the Friendship Center, I was with the Alternative School from 1991 to 1997. I think it was in 95 that I made a commitment to get my high school diploma. So I started working on that. And so in the English credit, I had to read this book, and I can't remember what it's called, but I read it over and over that first chapter to find this one answer. I couldn't find it. So I thought, I must be pretty dumb. I can't even find the answer. So I brought all my stuff back to the school, and I said to the teachers at that time, I says, I cannot do this. I says, I quit. I quit this. I said, I read this one chapter over and over and over. I said, I just cannot find it. So I said, I quit. And I handed everything in. So what I believe, it prompted them that they really listened to what I had to say. And they did their research. They found native authors, Nishnabe authors. And so they asked me, they said, Julie, they said, will you do your, will you do your diplomacy? We found some different literature for the students to read. So I said, okay. So the book was called April Rain Tree. And I went through that book and I went through the English credit. And I got my credits and I, you know, and I graduated. So what I think it started from there that, you know, our learning is different. Our learning, we have a different style of learning. And I was so, so pleased or happy that the teachers that we had at that time, they saw what was lacking for our students, you know, and what they needed. And, and they, you know, they searched that out. So I think there are teachers who are very caring, who understand like, that we have a different way of learning or how we can relate to our own Nishnabe authors. So I, you know, I graduated that year. So when we look at, at education, I think education is not only should be in school. Our education is also outside because when you look at our ancestors of long time ago, when they, when they roamed this land, they hunted, you know, and they used the animal, everything in that animal was used. They never wasted anything. We looked at all the trapping styles, you know, we looked at what the women did, the creativity that they did in, you know, when they made the, when they made their garments, all of those things, their creativity. So when, when we look at today, now we move forward to where we are in 2019 is that our children don't even know what it's like to go camping. Our children don't know, like most of them, I'm not saying all of the children, but most of them don't know what it's like to go fishing, what it is like to lay, you know, under the stars to look at the stars. They don't know what it's like to maybe even have moose meat, beaver meat, any of those, you know, the wild game and fish. So I think it's time for our children to go back and experience that, you know, say maybe a week of, of outdoor land-based teachings so that they could experience that. And for all the seasons, because every season has its, has its gift in, in what they provide. So when our children could experience that, and then relate it back to, when they go back to school, to be able to carry on what it's like to maybe tan moose height, to, to skin a moose, to skin a beaver, how to cook fish, how to smoke fish, maybe even grow a garden, watch the garden grow throughout the, you know, the summer, you know, starting at home, do this at home as a home project with the school, to be able to make a report back to the school with pictures or video. We have so much technology today that, you know, there's so much that we could, the children could use to, to show, you know, what they, what they could make or, or do during the summertime. There's so much that, you know, that we could teach children, you know, how to sew, even the boys, you know, they could learn how to sew, they can do beadwork. You know, what does it mean to be in ceremony? What does it mean to be, you know, in pow wow ceremony regalia making?  I think that's what I like to stress lots is that not only certain people are, I don't like the word traditional, but ceremony people or people who, who carry knowledge and ceremonies, you know, a lot of, everyone could be, you know, carry those in their own way. So I think, you know, to go along with the formal education of the school system is, you know, of the, if we could incorporate our way in communities, even in the cities, you know, what the ceremonies are, you know, what it is, you know, to bring in people who, who may, may know how to maybe cook mousse or fish or make scone, all of those different foods and, you know, to taste different foods that we have, you know, it's so much, it would be so much positive learning and so much pride in who they, how they would turn out to be also to, so when we look at in who they are, you know, what their, you know, once they have their nishinabe, nose, when they're clan, they would find their, their spirit so much lighter and, you know, how they would live their life would be much more clear. But everything that we do in life, it's, we do it in that good way.  It's simple, but it's also very, it's also very struggling for people. It's, they might even find it hard in that way, but, but to balance it out in the way, in our lifestyle today, but we can also, you know, live our, the way of our ancestors as well. So, you know, the Indian or the nishinabe education perspective is, it's so, it's so broad. So many different people have gifts, have ceremonies and teachings, stories that I think in, you know, communities across the country, you know, we're so, today, it's really open to, you know, to bring elders in, you know, knowledge keepers. Like, there's so much avenues that our people could learn, rather from, you know, look at elementary, high school to post-secondary. It's very accepted. So a lot of that is indoors. Like I said earlier, you know, if it, they could bring it to the outdoor, I think it will enhance their learning. It would be able for them to experience hands-on, how to make a fire, how to make a teepee, how to make a lean-to, how to snare, how to go fishing, how to, you know, so many little things to identify medicine plants, identify the trees. It's like us, you know, when we have our nishinabe and those when everything in creation has a name. So when we get connected, our spirits get connected to everything in creation and that they even talk to us if we pay attention to them. So there's so much to learn. Learning is ongoing. Frank and I, we always learn from creation, like the wind, you know, the air, the sun, the trees, you know, they, we learn so much from them just by watching.  So all that type of storytelling, you know, for our children to pay attention to, you know, they would learn so much, they would have a better understanding of what they're learning in school, you know, when they have, if they could have that experience. So there's so many things. I can't even, I'm starting to exhaust, I guess, what, what I would like to say, there's so much I would like to share. But I think when we can teach them that, you know, that they're, they have a good spirit that, you know, that they're learning and that, you know, there are the ones who are going to be teachers in, you know, in the next generations to come and that our ceremonies need to continue on. So, you know, if we really teach them these things, that for sure we know that our ceremonies will be carried on, our language will be carried on, you know, all of that. So I think that when I expire, I'm going to expire happy because I know that our stories and teachings and ceremonies and our way of life are going to be carried on. You know, 25 years ago, 30 years ago, you know, I was very fearful that we were going to lose all of this, of who we are as Nishinaabe people. So I think, you know, that with all of that, that, you know, we still have a lot of work to do, you know, as Mishom Saka and Nukmesaka, we have so much work to do. And we have a lot of good young people, you know, the third generation of young people, you know, they have a responsibility to, you know, to pick up the teachings and the ceremonies and, you know, this way of life and then continue to help the next generations to come. So I have a very strong belief that, you know, we will never die as Nishinaabe people. Our spirits will live through our generations, you know, with everything that that makes up in who we are. And I think we make our ancestors really, really happy that that we will continue to be who we are as Nishinaabe people.


And that vaccine is going to give us an opportunity to really kind of bring this pandemic to an end. Produce a community, and this is a virus which affects the community, so we should all do our part. It's not simply about the individual, it's about everybody. And the faster we get a large fraction of people vaccinated, the faster we're going to get back to normal. I see it as a sense of responsibility too. I see it as empathy as well. Empathy in the sense that we're not only in this alone, it's all of us. We've learned in the last year about our commitment and our resilience as a university because we haven't had to stop classes. When people have been told, I have to quarantine, they don't throw a fit, they do that. What I want to say is how proud I am of the Purdue community. Just walking to my car on my way here, everyone had a mask on and you don't see that other places. Our emphasis on protect Purdue, I think that has brought us together as a community. And I see that this will only make us stronger in the future. The students have given me encouragement. It was the work and what the students did that gave me hope that we are going to be okay. This is our ability to adapt. When things change, boiler makers respond. This culture that is instilled in our students and others on campus is really great for the future of Purdue. We've proved that we're great in another way and it's something that we can build on for the future. My resilience is there. I'm stronger than what I thought I was. If we can keep the best of what was before and combine that with the best of what we've learned over the last year, what we're going to have after COVID is going to be better than what we had before. We now understand more than ever how much we depend on each other. How much when we say the Purdue community, it really is a community and we directly affect each other's lives, our successes, and our next steps.


Welcome to Happiness Isn't Brain Surgery with Doc Snipes. This podcast was created to provide you the information and tools Doc Snipes gives her clients so that you too can start living happier. Our website, docsknipes.com, has even more resources, videos and handouts, and even interactive sessions with Doc Snipes to help you apply what you learn. Go to docsknipes.com to learn more. I'd like to welcome everybody to today's presentation of Happiness Isn't Brain Surgery with Doc Snipes. Practical tools to improve your mood and quality of life. Today we're going to be talking about strengths, needs, attitude, preferences, and temperament, which is a whole bunch of stuff, but basically you're going to get a better understanding not only of what makes you tick, but also what makes your significant others tick and how you might be able to improve your relationships by understanding a little bit more about your preferences and the preferences of those who are important to you. We're going to start by exploring the concept of SNAP T, strengths, needs, attitudes, preferences, and temperament. Review the different learning styles and explore how strengths and needs and attitudes impact your success in change and in relationships. So SNAP stands for strengths, needs, attitudes, and preferences. Your strengths are those things that you already have, those things you already do that help you feel better, that help you succeed, that help you feel clearheaded. Anything that helps you move towards those things, states, and people that are important to you. Why are strengths important? Well, because we all have our own unique strengths and our significant others may not have the same strengths. The cool thing is that we can balance each other out where one may be a hammer, the other one may be a wrench. So instead of feeling less secure in yourself because you don't share the same strengths as somebody else, focus on the strengths you have and what you bring to the situation to complement it instead of bringing repetitive tools. I mean, if everybody brought a hammer to a construction site, a whole lot of stuff wouldn't be able to get done. Needs, are those things that you need to feel happy, healthy, secure, and grounded. We all have differing needs. And we've talked about needs, some in terms of preventing vulnerabilities. We all need a certain level of sleep. We all need a healthy diet to a certain extent. Some people need more accommodations and more modifications in their diet, such as gluten-free, grain-free, whatever, than other people. But knowing what your needs are is going to be important. And figuring out how to make accommodations for that. For example, if you're gluten-free, then, and you need to be that way because you've got celiac disease, knowing what accommodations you can make.  So you want to prepare for what your needs are with any accommodations that you might need. Attitudes. We, again, often have different attitudes. Now, oftentimes we align with people who have similar attitudes on a lot of things. But I can tell you some of my best friends have very, very different attitudes about certain things than I do. And I accept that that's their attitude. If no judgment, better or worse, it's just doesn't happen to be my attitude. Now, some things will be more important, and you'll need to or you'll choose to look for alignment on that thing. But really what we're talking about here is knowing what your attitudes are about life, about job security, about family, about all those things that are important to you. And being able to be true to yourself, which, again, may mean accepting that other people have different attitudes and not yours. It doesn't mean you have to align with people that share every single attitude that you have. And preferences. We're going to talk a lot about preferences because this is where people often kind of fall down because they're not aware of how much it really impacts you if you are presented information in a way that's not meaningful. Or if you're working with somebody who has a different temperament, it may seem like your budding heads because you don't understand how that person communicates. They may take in information much differently and may look at the world much differently. So by understanding their temperament, you can approach them from a way that'll create a win-win instead of feeling like it's an argument or something unpleasant. So strengths. Identify those things you are good at. You know, if you are a good cook, wonderful. That may be able to be used in your employment. That may be able to be used in getting friends together. Maybe if you're the good cook of the group, everybody can meet at your house and you provide the meal and then somebody else provides the entertainment or whatever the case may be. But look for things that are your strengths that you can share if you choose to with other people. But the strengths are also the things that you use when you're feeling depressed to help yourself feel better, when you're feeling anxious to help yourself calm down. It's also important to figure out how you learn best and how you've coped in the past. And we're going to talk some about learning styles.  I learn best by reading. I can't stand to sit through a lecture. And by doing when we have a new computer program at work or when I've got to learn a new process at work, having somebody show me how to do it does absolutely nothing for me. I don't retain that at all. And it's not that I'm not trying to attend to it. If I have to be in a situation where somebody is in front of the group showing everybody how to do it and I can't walk through it myself, I have to take copious notes so I can go back and review those sorts of things. It doesn't mean that I'm not paying attention. People who are auditory learners, on the other hand, will prefer to have you tell them how to do things instead of just hand them a manual or go, you know, just start clicking buttons. You'll figure it out. So how you learn best is important because it affects how you not only you get information in your brain, but how you conceptualize it, make sense of it and figure out whether it's worth storing. If it's not something you care about, it's going to go in one ear and out the other. If it's something that you care about, something that's important and you can link it to past memories or past learning learning experiences, you'll be able to access that material a lot easier in the future. Another strength are the things that give you hope. Those are the things that you can rely on. Those are sometimes your values. But what gives you hope that things will get better? The belief that if you do the next right thing, things, good things will come. When we're talking about recovery, you also have strengths in terms of what you know about the condition. You know, a lot of information is out there and a lot of people are very partially educated. They don't know everything there is to know about depression. They don't know everything there is to know about any particular disorder, issue, condition. So knowing about the condition in general, what causes it, what can cause it, including the common things like for depression, a serotonin imbalance has often been blamed. But now we're finding out that it may have more to do with norepinephrine. But there are a lot of other things like hormone imbalances and poor sleep and a dysfunctional HPA axis that can also cause depression. So one of your strengths is knowledge. Know about your condition or your situation. Same thing in relationships. Your strength is knowledge. If you know the person that you're interacting with, if you've paid attention to their preferences and their strengths and what they need, it's going to be a lot easier to create a win-win situation and a harmonious relationship than if you've always tried to impose your strengths, your values and your way of doing things on them. You can also learn about in recovery, recovery methods, what are the different approaches to address depression, for example. And there are many. It's not just medication. It's not just talk therapy. There's acupuncture. There's Tai Chi. There are a lot of different approaches to addressing depression. And that's partly based on what's causing it for you and your belief system. The same thing is true with relationships. When you're in a relationship with somebody, knowing how to make things work, if you're planning on going on a vacation, how can you make something work that's going to be harmonious? How can you make communication work? What kinds of things do you like to do together? You know, you may enjoy going hiking with one of your friends, but going to the library or the coffee shop with another. And they don't share similar interests. So knowing about what will make that relationship health, healthy, happy and, you know, well, for lack of a better word, is also important. And you need to know what does and doesn't work for you because what works for your friend for treating depression or for enhancing relationships may not work for you. That may not be part of how how you tick. So knowing what has worked in the past, when you've had a good relationship, what did you do? How did you nurture it? What did it look like? When you've had depression before and you started to feel better, what did you do? What worked and what didn't? So you have an idea already about the things that you need in relationships and your strengths in relationships, as well as in recovery and life and health and wellness, your needs. And I alluded to those earlier. You have emotional needs. What makes you happy? What makes one person happy? I have friends that love to go out boating and fishing. That's not my thing. I have friends who love going out and playing golf. That's not my thing. You know, I love hiking. I love cooking. There are a lot of things I love. So knowing what makes me happy is important because I need to be able to schedule that activity into my life. It doesn't mean I have to, you know, ditch those friends. It just may mean that, OK, we'll go do something that makes you happy. And then maybe we can do something that makes me happy. You need to know what makes you feel content. We're not not all going to be deliriously happy every day. But what do you need to feel content and empowered to make yourself feel better or help yourself be happy and healthy? And that's what efficacy is, knowing that you can be effective at creating an environment that is productive for you. Your needs also include your learning preferences. Do you learn by seeing, hearing or doing? And you need to understand what your physical needs are. Do you need assistive devices? You know, I need my glasses when I'm reading anything. I found, even when I go to Walmart anymore, in order to read anything that's on a bottle or on a shelf, I need to have my glasses with me. So that's something I need to have to reduce stress and to help me be more effective. If you need frequent breaks, know that ahead of time or at least listen to your body. And when it's time to take a break, take one. And if you need medications, be aware of those sorts of needs. So there are a lot of things that if you pay attention to them and you meet your own needs, you're going to be happier, healthier, more content and probably a lot more fun to be around. Socially, what are your needs? We're going to talk about this a lot when we get down to temperament. But socially, some people need a lot of friends. They need a lot of activity. They're very social people. Other people are very content with having one or two close friends that they talk to once a week or so. Both of them are very healthy. Both of them just have very different needs in terms of socialization. All of us need to understand what a healthy relationship looks like, though. And what does it look like for you? Maybe a little bit different than what it looks like for someone else. But in general, we need to have the knowledge of what does it look like to have healthy boundaries? What does it look like to trust, to love, to care? And your environmental needs. These are kind of basic. But again, if you're not getting them met, it can contribute to a lot of distress and irritability and just generally being unpleasant to be around. If you don't feel safe, if you're anxious, some people like to sit so their back is always to the wall and they can always see the doors. You know, just know that ahead of time. My husband was in law enforcement for almost 20 years. And I know, and my grandfather was too, I've kind of been raised with the fact that those guys will sit with their back to the wall and facing the door. That's how they were trained and it makes them a lot more comfortable. So whenever we're selecting seats at a restaurant, there's not a question. I know where I should sit in order to accommodate their needs. And I don't care if my back's to the door because I know they got my back. Temperature. Now this one can be a little bit tricky because people have a wide variation on what temperature they find comfortable. When I start, when I was working this morning on the computer, I was sitting still. I wasn't doing a lot of moving around. Temperature in the office was about 78 degrees and I was perfectly comfortable. But as soon as I start teaching, I start moving around a lot more and burning more energy. I need to crank that temperature down or I'm just sweating bullets.  It's like 85 degrees and they're putting blankets on themselves and you're just sweating over there. That's what makes them feel comfortable based on the stage of life, their metabolism, all that kind of other stuff. What feels comfortable for them? So how do you accommodate that? Obviously you're going to wear short sleeves and shorts if it's possible. When I was in graduate school, our courses were in the middle, in the basement of the hospital. And for some reason, they could not regulate the temperature down in the basement of the hospital. In the middle of the summer, when it was 95 degrees in Florida, in the basement of the hospital, it was more like 60. We were all going in there with coats and two or three sweatshirts because it was so cold. And you couldn't even focus on what the professor was saying. He was so cold most of the time. In the winter, it was just the opposite. We'd go in there dressed in layers because it was a frigid 40 in Florida and we'd get into the classroom and it would be more like 78 or 80. So we'd start peeling off layers so he could be comfortable. But when you're uncomfortable, it affects what you're paying attention to. It affects a lot of things about your mood and your patience and etc. Think about times when you've been uncomfortable versus times when you've been happy. When I go on car trips, I get wickedly motion sick, especially if I sit in the backseat or if I'm looking at my mobile device. So I know that I can't do that because as soon as I start to get sick, I am a grumpy pants. And nobody likes being around that. So what time of day works for you? We all have ebbs and flows and our circadian rhythms. For me, I'm a morning person. My kids are night owls. They'll stay up till 9.30, 10 at night and then sleep in until 7. I, on the other hand, in bed more like 8 o'clock and up at 3.30 or 4 in the morning. That's how my energy goes. And I've always found, even when I was in college, I had much more energy before 11 a.m. So pay attention to that. If you've got big things that you've got to take care of, if you've got big projects that you need to be able to focus on, when are you more alert? When are you more able to focus? In terms of environmental needs, you also may need to consider transportation and childcare when it comes to getting to meetings with friends. You know, if you're going out to lunch, how are you going to get there? If you don't have a car, what do you need to do to get there? Can you get a ride from somebody? Whatever. And childcare. If you have children at home, that's going to environmentally curb some of the things that you can do because you may have to be home before dark. You may have to be able to pick them up from school. You may have to do a variety of other things. And if your needs conflict with the children's schedule, you're going to have to figure out how to fix that ahead of time. Have somebody else pick them up from school, have them staying after school care. What can you do to accommodate your needs so you can get done what you need to get done not only in terms of work, but in terms of health and happiness. And that took me a long time to wrap my head around. I was fine leaving the kid with a sitter or leaving them at preschool a little bit longer if I had to stay at work. But I wasn't okay leaving them there a little bit longer so I could go to the gym. And the gym is huge for me in terms of de-stressing. That is my hour a day where I can just totally clear my mind. And I am in a much better frame of mind and have much better energy if I get that most days. So recognizing that wellness and feeling happy is not just about meeting your basic, you know, get to work, come home, eat, go to bed, get back up and get to work again. There's more to life than work and sleep. So you need to consider what are your needs in all areas so you can live the life that you envision in terms of one that is happy and healthy and you're excited to get up in the morning. So learning styles, real quick we'll go over that again. How you best take in information. Hearing it, doing it or seeing it. So if you're learning a new computer program, do you do better watching the YouTube videos and then going and trying to work on the computer? I'll watch the YouTube video, I'll pause it after step one. I do this when I learn how to crochet a new stitch as well. I'll watch it on YouTube, get to the first step, I'll do it. Then I'll start the video again and I'll do the next, watch the next step and then I'll do it. Do that a few times until I get the hang of things. And then I always know I can go back and watch that video again. But I'm not one who benefits largely from listening to a 30-minute explanation of how to do a complex process and then go and try to do it. Unless, and this is where the accommodations kick in. If you're like that, if you take notes and cues to yourself as you're going along, you'll remember more and then you'll be able to go back and read step one, do step one, read step two, do step two. Kinesthetic learners learn better by doing and a lot of people are kinesthetic to some extent. Think about when you taught your kids how to tie their shoes. You probably didn't just sit there and tell them about making bunny rabbit ears and all that. You probably showed them and then had them do it and then helped them do it. You probably didn't read them a book about it and expect them to know how to tie their shoes. As you get older, you'll probably find that you gravitate more towards one learning style or another. And that's okay, but know what that means. If you're visual, you will benefit from learning about it. Before church, I will read the scriptures that are covered for that day because I do better if I can look at it and read it or I'll read it while the pastor's talking. But it's important for me to be able to read it in order to get it in my mind and have it stick and be meaningful. You also may process information differently. And this can seem really frustrating when you're dealing with someone. If you're an active processor, you process as you go and you're just like, yeah, that's the next step. That's the next step. Cool. And you're dealing with somebody who's reflective because they take all the information in, they put it together in their mind, and then they have an aha moment where an active learner has aha moments all the way along. And the best example I can give you is when I was in college and even in high school and they'd go through math problems on the board. And the professor would be up there and he's like, okay, you do this first. And then of course, the next step would be this one. And I'm just sitting there going, yeah, of course, sure, whatever. Knowing good and well, I was lost already and it wouldn't make sense until I sat down and I saw it in the book and worked through it kind of at my own pace because he was going a lot faster than my brain could process. I'm a reflective learner. So there's nothing wrong with that, but knowing that will keep you from being frustrated if you know that you just need to try to take in as much information as possible and then have a little bit of downtime, maybe driving home from your meeting or going out to lunch after a meeting at work to think about everything that was said so you can put it together in a way that's meaningful for you and then you can come back and talk about it with the people who were active processors. And you will find that people who were active processors also tend to be extroverts because they think while they talk, just kind of a little hint to look at. And conceptualization, sequential versus global. I'm one of those people when you give me a puzzle, I have to look at the box to see what the big picture is going to be and then I can start making the frame and then I take all the pieces and start putting them in the frame. I'm a global conceptualizer. I need to see how all of these little pieces that I'm getting ready to work with fit into the big picture. Sequential learners, on the other hand, will dump out all the pieces and they'll find some that are similar and they'll put them together and they're like, okay, this is a tree. Not sure where the tree goes. We're going to move that over here for now. Find more similar pieces, put them together. Okay, this is a doghouse. Not sure where that's going to go. Put that over here. Then they get a lot of big clumps and then they start putting the big clumps together. May never have even looked at the outside of the box. My grandmother always told me, if you look at the outside of the box before you do a puzzle, you're cheating. I just can't do it. I have to read the Wiki before I watch a TV series too, but that's a whole different issue. Be aware of your attitudes towards yourself. If you're self-deprecating, if you don't like yourself very much, that's probably going to come out. And try to figure out ways that you can be more towards yourself the way you are to other people. I mean, if you're hateful to everybody else, then that may not work. But most of the time, I find people are very kind to other people. They're very compassionate. They're very forgiving, but then they can be very hateful and harsh with themselves. Know about your attitudes with regard to the condition or target issue if you're in recovery. What are your attitudes about depression, about anxiety, about anger, how it comes along, whether it's useful or not. What would happen if you got rid of it? Some people can get really scared about letting go of anxiety because then they may feel like something may come and hit them from out of the blue. So they get anxious about not being anxious. Know these things. These are things you can work through or address. What are your attitudes about and willingness to learn and try new things? Some people are more comfortable with that than others. And if we're talking about recovery, there are some things that I have heard from other people that kind of keep them stuck. So they need to know what they're going to do instead. And that's where I always come from when I'm doing an assessment. If I'm doing an assessment for substance abuse, for example, and somebody says, I am not going to get up and call myself an addict in every day. Every day. I said, okay, that's fine. What are you going to call yourself? And usually it's their name and that's fine. The term addict represents something to them that they are not willing or believe in embracing. And that may not be something that's necessarily worth pursuing because there are different views of what addiction is. I will not go to those meetings. There's another one that I heard a lot. And my response was always, okay, what are you going to do instead? You need to find things to do with your downtime to create a healthy community of recovery. So if you're not going to go to meetings, 12-step meetings, what are you going to do? Are you going to volunteer? Are you going to go to church? Are you going to? You need to establish some sort of connection with people in recovery or people who are clean, sober, and healthy. Where are you going to do that? So one of the things we can start doing in looking at the reasons we want to change and increasing our motivation for change is looking at the difference between the old way and the new way. And it's important to acknowledge that the way you're doing it right now has some benefits because we only do things that are rewarding. And if you don't figure out a different way to get those same rewards, then you're probably going to set yourself up for relapse. So look at the reasons you want to stay the same. And people look at me kind of cross-eyed when I say that and they're dealing with something like depression. And we really start talking about it and sometimes it'll come up that if they start recovering from their depression and start feeling better, then they're afraid they're going to fall back into the depression and they don't know if they can take feeling this bad again if they start getting a glimmer of hope. So they're afraid of disappointment. They're afraid of relapse. And those are very valid fears. What are your positive attitudes about the old way? And this may not apply for depression, but it's one thing you may want to consider looking at. What are the concerns you have about changing? A lot of times people are concerned about changing because they don't know if they can do it or they've seen other people try and fail and they're afraid they're going to... nothing actually works. So they will fall into the same trap. You also want to look at the new way. What are the reasons you want to do this? If you want to start eating healthier, why? What are your positive attitudes about eating healthier?  What do you hope is going to be different if you start changing? And what things do you not like about the way things are currently? So you want to address all of the benefits to staying the same, you know, make those kind of go away, find different ways to meet them and enhance the benefits for change. Part of making treatment change and even relationships work for you is understanding how you learn, how you interpret things, what your strengths are, why you're motivated to do things and why you're not motivated to do things because that'll help you understand why you interact with some people better than others and why you're willing to do things and more able to stick to goals, certain goals than others. 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in one side and then the waveguide which is what we build and then the other side is just completely just a regular glass. Is it micro LED? Micro LED. On this side, yep. So that's like groundbreaking. Nobody else is doing micro LED? Not yet, no. Commercial, you make this available? Yeah, so we have it, this is what we call the Ultralight. This is our New York products. Not yet available in the market so we're making this as an OEM factor. But on the market we actually have the real dual display OEM glasses so we can go here this way. So this, you also use the micro LED technology and you see that now there are two eyes. So this is a binocular display. All right, it's got bigger batteries. Yep, so this runs. So the difference is this is just a display for your phone. It doesn't have the battery. It needs to use your phone as the power. Yeah, no, it needs to use your phone as a processor. It has a battery in here. Oh, there is battery. There is a battery in there. Yeah, yeah, that's why you see little pins. Charging mat. This one has 2,000 milliamps of power because it actually, this actually runs Android 11. So this is its own Android device. The other one is just a display only. Yep. For type C. Yes, sir. And this one is standalone. Yep. Well, this is Bluetooth. Not even type C. No need to type C. You can do the display wirelessly. Wirelessly. Yep, that's how it works right now. All right. But this is so compact. What's the display resolution in there? So this is a limited resolution. Right now, this is just the OEM factor that we have to show people what we can do. So this is 656 length by 400 height. So it's around an NVDA resolution. All right. That's cool. Music's here. The Mobile World Congress. Yep. This is the future of mobile phones. This is. So what we see right now is with technology like this. So you are going to completely leave your phone in your pocket. We're not going to replace the phone just yet. You have the 4G, 5G connectivity, the chip sets. So that will stay in your pocket and then you will have your display. Now it will be your glasses. So your notifications, your translations, your navigation. You can check out the LinkedIn and online and you can see we actually were going through Barcelona with the glasses, going navigation, doing live translations, all of that. There's so much potential applications. What's he talking about on the wall here? Enabling AR with innovation. Yeah. So that is about the ultralight. So one of the things that we also do is we all are also an OEM. So we partner with other big companies and what we do is we sell the products with micro-projectors or the waveguides and then they can build their own products. So that is the beauty of what we do. So you enable an ecosystem of smart glass brands. Not only music. Not just music.  That is it. So that's why a lot of people have heard of music. We've been around for 27 years and that's one of the reasons. We concentrate on the commercial, industrial market. But we also create stuff like this to be able to sell it to other people. And you work with any brand in any country? We work with any brand in any country. Are you happy to work with them? We're happy. We're a multinational company. So we've got locations in U.S., Germany, in Japan, in the U.S., in Latin America and we have distributors all over. One of the things that you've got to understand is any smart glass is nothing without the ISVs, the software providers. Just like your smartphone. Without all those apps in that ecosystem, they cannot do anything. They're just basic hardware. So YDM and GenVision, they're two of our partners. So they do remote support solutions. They do workflows. So it looks like this. The guys are working actually in big factories and Vipka or maybe they're working on repair. So you can use the camera to work hands-free, have an expert help you. We can give you guys a demo. Or you can do workflows. So what workflows does and has done, it allows any person to be trained on the fly. So instead of having to sit them down and train them in a facility, you can send them with a personal market and say follow those instructions and that will be exactly what you're going to do at work. How to repair a machine, how to do maintenance, how to maybe build something, build a new assembly line. And with the power of William, they help us. And you have some that are kind of like optimized for using with helmets? Yeah, so this is our unique design. We call it the rail system. So this is just a battery. So you see the unique rail system where we have dismounted solutions for over 20 other different systems. So you can integrate it in different hard hats. So regular hard hats, Japanese, Asian hard hats. You can integrate it into headbands, into medical equipment. So this allows you to have a flexibility of being able to have it in different locations. So and also the uniqueness that a lot of other smart glasses cannot, you can change this on the fly for your comfortability. So in the world, most around 74% of the people are right-eyed oriented. That means that you like to use your right eye more. So with this you can actually change it on the fly from left to right and vice versa. The software does everything else. And it's very high quality in there. Yeah, so this runs a micro OLED. So this is an OLED display. OLED or LED? OLED. OLED. OLED. This is OLED. So you've got a DLP projection. So you have micro OLED. DLP's there. You have micro LED. All of the technologies. So you can see right there. Let me try to focus on it for a second. So this is the little display. And that is actually And it's on right now. So it's nice resolution, very clear. This could be useful for maybe surgeons or yep. So even 2020, people who are remote in some disaster zones, but they need to get the expertise from somebody else. They already do that. So in 2020, they were around 450,000 surgical operations done with our smart glasses. So they used them for knee replacement, open heart surgery, for work efforts or in, for example, for the Red Cross, hot air glasses, and they used Ukraine to support remote health care. So they already are using our glasses in all those cases. Because the best surgeons, maybe they're in New York or somewhere, and they want to help people in the other side of the planet, maybe in Haiti or anywhere. So an example that we actually did, we partnered with other partners like Ohana One. And they have some of our glasses over again, like I said over there in the Ukraine. One of the examples is they needed a pediatric surgeon. And one of the best ones is in California. So they contacted him and he was able to help the people on the ground to this startling system to be able to perform an operation, a pediatric operation. So maybe he can see what's happening and then he can show them at the same time what they should do. Two centimeters to the right, one centimeter to the left. Don't do this. Hold it like this. Be careful there, et cetera. And real time with the sound and video. And then the surgeon is also hands free. That's the key. The surgeon can still use his hands and his vision just to keep operating. And then if people have like a Ferrari and they're in Dubai and they need to call Italy, how do I fix it? Maybe they use it also or something like that. Yeah. So they have that's a little bit more of a remote support kind of tool for the industrial side. Yes, they do it, but not for the Ferrari's, but for helicopters, airplane repairs, helicopter repairs, stuff that is more, more technical in the sense of you need a very specialty realm to be able to support it. So what they do is they send the level one technician out and then they keep the high level engineers on the office floor and they guide the low level engineers or technicians how to do them performance. And maybe also it could be useful for training new employees in like a Tesla factory or something. And then they can all wear this for the first two, three months and somebody is helping them become better and better at their work. Yep. That's what they do. That's what Weedium does. Yeah. All right. So it's really cool company, right? Yeah. Yeah. A lot of cool applications, but also bringing this form factor to millions of people, hopefully soon, because I don't see a difference between normal smart, normal glasses. Yeah, they look exactly like that's the whole point. That's why that's why there's no microphones. There's no microphones in here. There's no cameras because we want them to look just like regular glasses. All right. It's just the display. Yep. Just a display. And I see it there when I move it. Is it on, do you think? No, no. Yeah. That's a wave guide reflection. Yeah. Wave guide. I see it sometimes. Yeah, I can turn it. And you actually do their wave guides. We do experts and wave guides. Yeah, that's what we do. Optics. Yep. All right. Thanks a lot. Thank you. So it's been a good show. Yeah, it was a great show. New things happening. It's great to have people travel from the US and come again to Europe. Oh, yeah. Yeah. We've been here. We never left. Soon as this was open, music was here. And as soon as all the AR stuff happens, you'll be ready. We'll be ready. As soon as all the metaverse integration, we're reality, everything people are talking about. Yeah. Once that becomes a reality, you will probably be using our hardware at some level.


I want to address the thread that we're having in MasterHeart right now which is how you know somebody wrote that oh do you guys do you guys do free master classes to launch your programs because that seems to be the end thing these days and the master class is really kind of a thinly veiled sales pitch for the program all of us have well some of us have been to those kinds of things before and you know they the ones that are really salesy are like they spend 25 percent of the master class building up their credibility whether it's how great I am and look at these wonderful client you know success stories that are just one percent of the program of five percent of the people actually achieve these things whatever it's like 25 percent 33 percent of it it's just building up credibility and then 33 percent of it is giving some like juicy tip juicy juicy tip that goes whoa wow that's interesting and then 33 percent of the master class is selling them on this is why you should join our wonderful program whatever so that's a common tactic not just these days back in my day when I was getting started back in the stone ages but no really back from 2009 to 2012 slash 13 so for several years I was doing free webinars slash teleclasses slash tele seminars it was back then it wasn't free master classes the term back then was free webinars tele tele some uh teleclasses tele seminars I was doing them very successfully I was a great salesperson the formula I told you was just about right 33 33 33 and um yeah I was actually so good at doing it that my colleagues asked me to teach them the method my clients asked me as well uh ended up teaching something called the webinar method uh and any watching this you may have known me from those days so I was a free webinar expert back in the day because I was really good at converting people my one of my best months was um 70 thousand dollars in a single month personally out of two webinars I did two webinars that month and I earned 70 thousand dollars the next month was was a very disappointing month I think the next month was like 30 thousand dollars and the following month was a so-so month 40 or 50 thousand dollars so I was really good at doing this and I was earning a lot of money doing it but then as you can imagine yeah my conscience got to me a little bit because I I was basically I was basically like okay if 50 people attended my webinar and only five people bought my $2,000 program or 10 people bought my $2,000 program in that webinar I was like yeah the other 40 people in my mind I was like oh they're tire kickers they're non-ideal clients and write them off and so the danger of the danger of using a single event as a sales call that isn't promoted as a sales call to the audience that's the key these days if I'm going to do something like this I would say hey I'm launching MasterHeart again it's starting out my one-year program I'm going to do a webinar that tells you what MasterHeart is you can ask me any of your questions I'll give you the framework for kind of what underlies MasterHeart so you kind of understand the the overarching journey we're going through it might get something out of it but please come if you're interested in the program in checking it out it's kind of like and by the way before this career of being a business you know you know teacher whatever I was the director of admissions at a business school so I was leading intro evenings to people interested in business school so you can see where I got some of these skills right so like like people came I set up a wonderful evening where a couple of popular professors would speak and and I would you know tout the program and have a couple alumni so you can see where the webinar method came from right as admissions admissions you know presentations for for business school so but we touted it as come and find out about this MBA program it was very transparent so we felt really good about putting our our sales pitch out there and and you know we had hors d'oeuvres and everything like that so now even with a free webinar there's no hors d'oeuvres it's like number one they didn't know it was a sales call right the way I was doing my free webinars back then number one they thought it was a wonderful class that's going to teach you about social media basics and everything like that right so they came and ready to learn social media basics with pen and paper and then only a third of it was giving them like on facebook be sure you do text only post okay well what the hell does that even mean like it's all you're going to tell me you know and so I know I didn't I didn't even give that kind of tip I kind of gave a my teaching was really why they should learn social media my way it was really the why learn it my way was the teaching so-called because that was what got people to buy the program also all right so the free masterclass these days is kind of using that same tactic right it's like oh my god I'm going to learn something wonderful from this expert that's what it's touted you go there there's no hors d'oeuvres and it's actually a very cleverly designed sales pitch now some of you very heart-centered math free masterclass teachers might be might be uh might be doing 90 teaching and only 10 selling and that's very generous of you very kind but then what happens is you're quite disappointed that very few people bought because how can you expect to have a 10% sales call and have lots of people buy or enough people buy of course it's not going to happen so guess who's put disappointed now you're disappointed number one as the one who's teaching the free masterclass and number two probably at least a quarter of the people or maybe even up to half the people there feel a little bit uneasy that you seem a little bit tense throughout the masterclass because you were waiting for the the other shoe to drop or they didn't know there was another shoe but you were waiting for that last 10% like sell them and hoping that they would join and so there was something off about your energy that day they probably a half of the people can sense it even if they can't put their their finger on them something something is not quite the same with george today like he's not the typical kind of kind of generous video that he would give kind of feel you know what i mean so i i feel like it's kind of a lose lose for everybody one you don't really make that many sales with 10% selling or even 20% selling is not enough it really needs to be 33% building up your credibility 33% selling the program and 33% teaching that's really setting the framework for the program so therefore why don't we just call a free intro evening why don't we just call it i'm launching this membership really excited by it and i know and here's the key i know that only those of you who actually already know like and trust me are going to sign up so first if we make that assumption we can relax our shoulders and go oh got it i'm not trying to convince somebody who doesn't know who the hell i am and going like this is like who's amy i don't know who amy is and you better you better do a good job of teaching me something and selling me at the same time that's so much pressure for you amy and so much pressure for them it's like now i have to i'll have to loosen my arms and actually like you in a single hour or 90 minutes i have to loosen my arms and get to like you and decide to invest in a years long program with you in a single hour i don't even know you you want me to do that do you see do you see the this is where people don't think these things through like what's the relationship going what's the what's happening with the relationship here and so i say go ahead do the free webinar just let it be for your true fans and yeah you don't have a big list maybe you have but here's the thing so let me let me let me get to the bottom line and like step by step here use what i call the circles of enrollment method and i'm going to reference another video that i do and you can learn more about that but the circle in short the circles of enrollment understands that for a program that's longer term or higher ticket more investment it's not for strangers strangers need to be warmed up with your free content and you shouldn't try to warm up somebody and sell them in a single hour or 90 minutes yeah the internet big internet gurus who are typically guys right try to do that try to do high converting webinars which was me i taught this stuff back then and i did convert a few strangers but it was just a gross experience for a lot of the people there and no wonder i don't i had to when i when i finally followed my conscience in 2014 and just burned everything down and started over in 2014 i basically i did have some people that i started that that still stayed with me but it's like i had to build a new audience again i had to i had to finally be the george cal that always wanted to be george cal but didn't know that i could be you know and so uh so the bottom line circles enrollment okay so it's like this program is for the people who already kind of know what i'm what i'm what my framework is they've been benefiting from my writings or my videos or my podcast over months if not years and maybe some of them amy you said earlier some of them are already your clients but they just want ongoing support perfect so these are for you those are for you it's for you fans all right and if you're interested come and let me answer your questions about this so in other words you've got to talk up your program like don't be shy about your program you got to talk it up and by the way it might be somebody who just got to know you last thursday and they liked you on first get go and they actually are wanting to consider this because they're they're they like you number one they just met you a few days ago but they like you and they actually want the help that you provide in this program so step one talk up the program don't just talk up a free masterclass that is sly is a sly way to sell on the talk it up aren't you proud of your program i hope you are you've developed it in a way that you believe in it i hope you believe you believe in your program so why not believe in it publicly right why not talk it up and say this is this is going to be a great program for those of you who want this arc of the journey you understand why this journey is important and you you would like my support in this journey my presence as you take this journey my support and so this program is for you talk it up be proud of it number one step one step two for those of you who want to ask ask some questions about it or you just want to hear about the arc of the journey that this program goes through come to this intro call come to this intro webinar and i'd love to answer questions i'll give you that arc of the journey you might even learn something so here you see we flipped it instead of i'm going to teach you something i'm not going to tell you i'm going to sell you i'm going to try to get now you flipped it to say i'm going to sell you on the program for those of you who are interested that's the purpose of this and you might even learn something who knows right so so now it's transparent it's authentic you could be very vigorous about selling the program or not selling but in terms of like talking up because you believe in it and you're answering questions and if by the way step two right step one talk at the program step two create that intro evening or intro session intro class not class intro webinar to answer questions but before they show up you should have prepared some questions that you want to answer in case nobody has any questions because people usually need you to suggest questions before they have questions so don't pretend that well sarah asked you know so you don't have to do that just say okay so i don't see any questions yet but i'm going to answer a question that i think you should be asking which is how long is the program or which is is the program right for me if i am going through this right now or if i'm looking to to do that is it right for me so i'm going to answer this question though you see what i mean so so it's all very transparent it all feels good and um and your audience will feel good because they showed up for this very thing now circles so talk at the program do schedule a you know a free webinar about it and prepare some questions in advance that you want to answer and three use circles of enrollment and when again i'll give you a video for that but in a quick nutshell circles enrollment means that you make special invitations to your inner circle first to say before i let other people say yes to this before i let other people join there are you know there are spots that i've saved to see if you want them let me know by Friday because otherwise i will be letting people know next week so let me know by Friday okay so that's one circle and the next circle so that might be your like current clients hey Amy before i let you know the rest of you know my students know about this um you you get one of the spots if you want it totally up to you right let me know by Friday great okay and then the next circle is your your mid middle circle which could be you know depending on how many circles you have like some of us have like you know current clients is one circle past clients is a bigger circle and then my students of my courses is a bigger circle yet and then my email subscribers is the next circle and then my social media audience right and then facebook adds the cool audience this is my you know what i mean like like you could have all the but each circle gets a special due date for when to respond before you allow the next circle to say yes does that make sense Amy let me know if that helps yeah okay all right so um so yeah please go ahead Joe hi hi it was actually me who posted that in the yeah Joe thank you yeah yes yes um so i think i just didn't when i did it i didn't there was nothing sticky about it for me you know i was the sort of five percent sales but there's nothing sticky about it for me it was kind of i was more just really exploring sharing some of that content in a group format yes so it was so the resonance of it felt really good and clear yes um but it was out of line with then any sales objectives so so what what hearing news left me the question with is okay i get going forward if i have a product and go with it go and do all of that so i get that but there's a curiosity then around what that did do for me was you know i got so many people sign up with very little effort just you know what's wrong with doing a master class every other month but for no reason yes not having to tell just to build that audience right brilliant because it felt good and that's a that's a different conversation now right now we're talking about launching a higher ticket or longer term program and what's the strategy for that but you're talking about just being generous with content and audience nurturing by by having a live group session with you every year and then and that's brilliant i mean i totally i would just call that content and i would just call that audience nurturing yeah that's what i did but it was out of alignment with the the the overarching objective even though and that's because that's actually because i didn't lean into the overarching objective if that makes sense you know it was just a kind of misalignment so you were thinking maybe it could lead to sales maybe not but yeah i was just you know what i was just being creative and just going i'm just gonna do this and just explore and kind of see how i feel in my skin about it while i'm doing it and see what value everyone gets you know and i love it and i was like well i've got this i do have this you know maybe i should be kind of talking about that the time um but you know i'm not attached massively to the outcome of it because i learned quite a lot from it you know good i love that you were open to experimenting with a different way of delivering your wisdom and your experience your presence to people and i think we all should experiment more with that so yeah thank you yeah good okay thank you thank you really useful thanks so kathy um thank you for mentioning that you know you you had just taught a wonderful course to a group of people talking about the work that you do vision portraits etc and it was you know giving and it was it was generous and you kind of forgot to pitch and you kind of were feeling bad about it and um now you can let that go when you are teaching a generous class like i just got off before this very call like i was on a podcast episode i mean someone was interviewing me and of course some people think well podcast episode something being interviewed now that's a good good good way to like think about my pitch and everything no i just showed up i try to be as present with the host as possible i try to have fun in the conversation i try to try to imagine that my my ideal audience listening and i'm trying to add as much value and care as i can and it was a wonderful experience and of course the audience probably is going to say well who's the person i i resonate right kathy as your people will say i resonate with your energy signature who is this kathy the relationship are i have to check her out so that is now we have the separation a healthy separation it's you know between church and state now healthy separation between you know pitching and you know being proud of your upcoming program believing in a publicly talking talking enough because you loved and inviting specific people that you you love to have in part of your program first and then the second and then on the other hand which is most of 80 percent of what we do i think you know 80 ish is just showing up authentically nurturing your audience being friends with them and being as of as much care and and generosity as you can and like that is heart nurturing for you it's for it's for the audience it's a wonderful way to live and of course you also love your programs and you love your services you know you should create programs and services that you really love and then you you know 20 of the time you know one time in the month or twice in the month for some of us you are happy to talk about it so yes i'm not doing okay yeah so there we go but yeah so that's that's what we need to you know kind of plan for but thank you thank you for bringing that up kathy


So before 8 a.m. It's really cold my hair is still wet because I took a shower It's actually kind of frozen and you aren't familiar with living in cold places. That's frost look at this So yeah, it's really cold But I figured I'd take a minute because I have a lot of running around to do and I don't know if I'll even have Time to make another video today Maybe I will I have to go on site, but it's not somewhere I can bring a camera I know a lot of you have asked for cameras on site and I would love to do that But it's kind of a problem with some customers going. I'm actually going to a security company So like I said, I can't I can't bring the camera there, but I will share because my wife did the funny Thing for Christmas the little poem she wrote and so I can't make videos on Christmas Day And I spent it with my kids, but my kids I had other places to go So there's times and they left they had things to do as they get older They don't just sit at home all day apparently which I can relate to I didn't either We used to work Christmas Day anyways I will share this video because I did take my wife's sledding which ended as expected because she's like will you go slow and I'm like Yeah, and you know sledding on a motorcycle I may share more personal hobbies that I have maybe you have some personal hobbies or personal interests in some of The hobbies that I have because you can't just spend all the time doing all this tech stuff Because you'll get burned out and go crazy I have a lot of friends that have a lot of Different hobbies and tech that are completely unrelated. I got one of them that does woodworking So, you know, it's all about coming up with something that helps you keep from getting burned out and having some fun I am going to do a video real soon though because I got to clean up this mess on the table Which is all my gear and I figured hey into the gear Let's talk about all the gear I use to produce YouTube videos and we bought more gear because we're ramping up for 2018 to do some more product reviews and have a little bit more fun and make some more personal videos, too I can throw them all in here. Anyways This is me and my wife sledding for Christmas. That's what we did Christmas Day when After the kids had something else to go do Have fun. Hi everybody Merry Christmas. I was busy cooking and Tom was busy shoveling or snow-blowing and Then he came inside and said hey Want me to pull you on my On my scooter So that's what we're gonna do. I he's looking up the cord now and We'll be going for a ride


Hey, it's Bridget. Welcome to Above Light's channel. The purpose here is to inspire your spirit and to fill you up with hope. This is kind of a chat channel. It's a little bit of an experiment because I am super casual today. I'm going to head out to the farmers market this morning. It's the weekend and I was reading some of my mail, my email and thank you for your lovely comments on the YouTube channel and for some of you reach out to me on email. Just know that I can't respond to everyone, but I do read my email as well as my comments, so thank you. I wanted to look up something. I'm always inspired. I might get emotional, so emotional potential warning, warning, warning for sensitive people. I always am so touched when young people reach out to me. Like kids, you know teenagers reach out to me. It kind of surprises me because I'm a mom. I have four kids myself. My oldest is 18, having off to college. In fact, we just two days ago went to the college registration thing and there's a lot of energy around that. Anxiety, worry, excitement, future, oh my gosh, all sorts of stuff. And it kind of surprises me that young people maybe like or resonate with my work because my daughter doesn't really, she's kind of like, what? Like I'm used to teenagers not listening to me. Let me just say that. I shouldn't say she doesn't resonate with my work. She totally resonates with my work, but I shouldn't say totally. She probably does. I don't know. We don't talk about it all that much. But it surprises me when teenagers actually listen to me. So it's like a shock, you know? But so I got an email from someone who is a young person and I go, you watch the channel. So thank you. I got your email. Thank you. And for those of you who are younger viewers who are watching, hey, I want to tell you a couple of things. From this psychic mom to you. Okay. I recognize that not everybody's situation or home life experiences are rosy. Okay, some are far from it.    Anxiety and stress are two very common health related mental health related circumstances and situations that all people, not just teenagers deal with, but because of the teenage years being so pivotal and transitional and your bodies are growing and your mind is growing and everything. And you're experiencing life through a whole bunch of different layers of energy. It can be so intense and I recognize that.  And be concerned about how you're feeling and if you feel good about yourself and if you're having positive and healthy relationships and how other people are responding to you as a huge worry of parents. Like parents, we, as parents, okay, so teenagers that are listening to me, as parents, most of us mean well. We just don't really know. It's not like we got the parenting job because we were hyper qualified as wonderful parent role models and mentors. No, we're trying to figure it out too. And we, most of the time our intentions, we mean, well, we love you. Maybe we love you too hard. And because of that, you feel like we're telling you too much what to do or how to behave or how to act and really what we're projecting. We're not trying to project our fears on you. We're not trying to project our fears or our expectations that you're going to fail or that the world isn't going to accept you. But it might come across that way, okay? Our intentions are to just protect our babies so that we want you to go into the world with bubble wrap on and feel loved and safe and protected. No matter how you dress, no matter how you look, no matter how you act, how tall you are, how wide you are, how girly you are, how boy you are, how in between you are, we want you to have good, positive, healthy experiences so we want you to be protected. So when we say, hey, you might want to think about this, we're not trying to say conform. We're not saying that. We're not saying don't be who you are when we say, hey, tone this down a little bit. We might be saying, hey, you're entering into an experience where you've not been before like a job interview and if you want to make a good impression, you do have to be aware, in awareness, not conformity, in awareness of the expectations of that work environment. They are not trying to change you.  Very different and we can take it super personal. You can take it super personal. Why?   And as a parent, it is so painful. My God.   So there's a balance, but that's what life is like. There's a balance of people. There's a balance of experiences that you're going to have. And we can't just have one type to keep you protected and safe. You have to have the contrast to learn about that. It's don't take everything personally, but be yourself as a person. You know, we don't have to like force ourselves or be in our, be in other people's faces and be all angry about other people's views and values. And it's easy to do, especially in politics for me too. I get really up in arms like, Oh my God, like, what are you legislating? This is my body. This is my body. Let's have a lesson. My body is your body. For example, okay, you guys. So I understand that, like, get out of my space kind of feeling, right? That happens to adults too, not just teenagers, but there's kind of this, this place I feel like where if I have the opportunity to positively influence your feeling about yourself, I am all about it and utilizing energy and psychic connection to do it is a beautiful way because there's so much power and energy. Energy is not intended to be manipulative or fearful. It's not manipulative and it's not intended to be fear based. Okay. I know that there's some weird dark stuff out there that's contrast to most of the psychic development, intuitive, energetic healing work that's out there. There's some contrast and some dark stuff. What I'm talking about is the energy of who you are at your essence and utilizing that recognizing that it's powerful and beautiful. No matter what has happened to you, no matter where you go, no matter what family you're in, no matter what, what kind of job you have, no matter how good or how bad you do in school, none of that matters in the context of energy. Your energy is pure. It has got so much potential and the tricky part is the translating that. How do you translate that flow of your unique energy, your beautiful, vibrant, brilliant energy into human life, into context, into a way that is applicable and practical? You can. The first thing is being in a healthy awareness of yourself. Have a healthy, healthy opinion, healthy view, healthy perspective of you, not by identifying who you are in the context of society, but identifying what you are at your core, that you are a spirit.  It's positive, it's perfect, perfection, it's unconditional, and it's pure love is all it is inside of you. Even if you don't feel love, even if you don't see love, even if you feel like you're not lovable, it doesn't matter. There is a baseline. Your spirit baseline has so much energy of love, positivity, and to tap into that frequency is the first step, and you can do that in tons of healthy ways. Tons of healthy ways.  I'm not going to tell my teenager to meditate, because number one, I don't think she can sit still long enough to do that. Number two, that sounds like something old people do when they have nothing better to do. To be honest, okay, you guys, for those of us who are watching that actually know and have been through them a few times, understand that meditation is very valuable. But there's lots of different types of it too, right? So what I would suggest is getting in touch with your spirit by having quiet time that's not on a phone or a device or a tablet or anything like that. Just quiet time outside in nature, sitting on the park bench, not listening to your phone. So that means no music, no podcasts, no YouTubes, just quiet for like five minutes. That's the best way for the generation who's so used to being constantly activated with energy is to simply shut down the noise in the cast so you can just feel the natural rhythm of your spirit and energy flowing in your body because it is. It is.  Well, guess what? You have to pull off the drive. You have to pull off the highway to go to the bathroom to eat, to take care of your body needs and to sleep.  And so think of it like that, taking care of your, your wellness as a spirit, tapping into yourself as a soul. If you want to tap into your potential, you've got to like five minutes. Go outside. If you're at the apartment building, fine. If you're on a busy highway, fine, doesn't matter.  Look up at the air at the sky. So you can see just blue sky and fluffy clouds or look over at the park, go to the park if you can, or look at the trees and the boulevard. It doesn't matter if the traffic's going, if people are walking by, it does not matter. You focus on nature, the green of the grass, even if there's only a little, the blue of the sky, the clouds in the sky, the warmth of the sun, sensory connection, the air, even if it doesn't smell good, doesn't matter.  Connect with the element of air. Connect. Look up at the sky. See the blue, the blue vibrational energy, the high vibrational energy of blue. Connect with green. Look at the trees, the grass. That is an energy of healing.  People will leave you alone if you got earbuds in. Yeah, I do that too. I don't listen to anything. I just don't have people talking to me. And you just be in that space for five minutes, even if you have to, set a timer on your phone for five minutes, ding, it goes off, you're done. It's kind of like, it has the same kind of response in your body as meditation has to start out with. Okay, just feel just five minutes of that. Do it at least once a day. I'm talking to the kids, the younger people, you know, the 20 some things are below. Do it like once a day if you can. If you can do it twice a day, do it once like earlier in the day in the morning and then do it once in the evening. You can do it standing at the bus stop. It doesn't matter if you're in the city. It's not matter. You look up and look at the sky. It doesn't matter if it's raining. Oh, if it's raining, even better. Feel, even come on that little shelter where the bus is, put your arm up, feel the, the rain connect with the water element or listen as the cars go by in the puddle splash, that's the water element. Listen to it. You know, if you hear the thunder rumbling, just appreciate the energy of nature. That will help you to tap in for the natural flow and rhythm of your energy, which is where your unlimited potential is.  It's like a beautiful well spring.  It's like that for you. And this is an easy way to begin to tap into that. So try that. Try that. Just start there. Okay. So one of the things that I also wanted to do is I wanted to do, I wanted to specifically talk about something that came up in the email and something that I have learned because I don't know, I didn't know what this was. I like, I'm, I like to think I'm like open minded, but I'm really not all down with all the new terms of things and the lingo about stuff. And so this little piece kind of might seem a little out of place maybe even in this video now that I'm thinking about it, but I'm going to share it because, so I had to look up, you know what, actually, I think I'm going to wait, I'm going to wait, I'm going to ask my husband to edit this out maybe. I'm going to wait, I'm going to chat about this in a different video because it actually has to do with energy and male and female energy and meridians and how, how all that works in the spirit side of things. Gender. And so I think I'm going to do a video specifically about gender. So yeah, yeah, that's what I'll do. I'll do a separate video about gender stuff and chat about that. But so for as a psychic mom, I hope that you found this video helpful, especially for the young people who are watching. And if you are a parent, I hope this also helps you as well. All right. This is Bridget. This is above life channel. Listen to a chat video and I hope you've enjoyed it. It's a little bit different than some of the other channeling videos that I do. Remember though, the purpose here is always, always to inspire your spirit to fill you with hope because this, this is your life. It's your life. So live it. Just live it.