So today we're going to talk about the seven shocking signs a man isn't serious about you Do you realize that serious relationships are on the decline? That's right. They're on the decline You know marriages on the decline Significant relationships are on the decline. What's on the rise are friends with benefits casual relationships Relationships just to name a few and you want to know something to some degree. I blame men for this I blame now. I know men blame women for this I know the red pill community blames women in the sense that they're entitled. They're selfish They're no longer grateful anymore. And while there's some truth to that. I also blame men for not being Serious about their intentions. You see the reality is is these days You can dip your toe in the dating pool You can basically get some companionship some connection some sex and and then exit whenever you want You know, it's almost like leasing a car But you know even leasing versus buying a car But when you think about it, you know, the idea is you're just gonna use this car While it's in its prime and then you're gonna turn it back in when it's no longer in its prime You see it used to be you'd buy a car and you keep it for 10 20 even 30 years Because it was a significant investment and these days Men don't have to make a significant investment into a relationship Because many men don't want a significant or serious relationship And that not to suggest that women aren't also in this category for the most part, you know I will blame men a lot and I'll blame women a lot or let me say instead of blame I accuse men of their behavior just as equally as much as I can use women for their behavior So let me just say this. I'm an equal opportunity Criticizer See the thing is is men will oftentimes come on strong because they're in the lust phase of a Relationship or even a limerence phase and they'll do certain things to prove themselves. They'll be rather Romantic romantic romantic God, why am I tongue-tied these days? They'll be romantic and yet as soon as they've captured you soon as the hooks in they stop doing the things they did To get you to convince them to be with them Because this dance this dating mating dance in this ritual is so chaotic It's so confused and it's missing this one in Elements See many of you are familiar with my category of grower builders Spenders and users users and that users represent 20% of the population Spenders represents 60% of the population and grower builders represents about 20% of the population See the users are there in it for the short term. They're in it for the short game These are the players. These are the love bombers that sort of thing. These are the entitled women The gold diggers that sort of thing. Those are the user. They're only in it for themselves The spenders they want that companionship. They want that connection.  Okay, so that's what I call spenders The grower and builders those are people that are clear. They want Long-term relationship there. They have a long-term mating strategy And I've coined a new phrase. Let me just read this out loud growers are all in Through thick and thin they want to win I'm gonna repeat that growers are all in through thick and thin they want to win In other words when two people enter into the diet dating dynamic and say look, I'm all in now Let me be clear about all in All in simply means I'm demoting my I'm I'm devoting time to getting to know you With the declaration of something serious. I'm all in in participation. I'm all in In the communication. I'm all in in the presence of forming this relationship See most people don't need to do that because it's casual its Situationships are friends with benefits. There's no real agreements between two people And I'm here to encourage and all in approach. This is why if you're familiar with my work I created my dating vows and by the way, I'm going to read this really quickly But there's a link below to get a copy of my dating vows in the description the dating vows Is in essence a declaration that in this experience I'm fully committed to To exploring this from a serious perspective not from a casual perspective from a serious perspective And it's an agreement two people make with one another They say I agree to explore the process of getting to know you with the intent to declare something serious in the next three to six months Now, let me be clear about this This this still implies what i'm about. Well, let me read the rest of it and then i'll go into it I agree to be monogamous sexually while we're having regular sex together I agree not to actively seek to meet and date others while we're in the active while we're dating process Including taking down my dating profile. I agree to speak up if this isn't working for me versus ghosting Pulling back or disappearing and I agree to invest regular time In the process of getting to know you which looks like something like this We spend three or four days and nights a week together doing shared activities hobbies mutual interests Spending time with family and friends traveling together teamwork building skills both in our personal and our professional life intimacy both physical and emotional intimacy that leads as I said before To declaring something serious in the first three to six months and to declare something more significant after one year Ladies if you are spending if you've gotten to this video and the title Appealed to you because you're in a relationship and you're not sure if he's serious if you've been in a relationship for over a year And there isn't a serious declaration. He's using you Okay, he's using you what I mean by using you.  Is this a relationship and the purpose of the relationship? Then you have a problem He's not serious about you folks. I'm listen.  There's a consequence For not being intentional. You're gonna get buckshot.   This is where working with a coach like myself comes in Do you see this link right here? There's a link below as well My job is to teach you discernment. My job is to teach you how to vet A person for compatibility and more importantly how to vet for emotional maturity. So number one He refuses to define the relationship. He says things like let's take it slow.  He's bedded you Again men in the in the hunt phase But Jonathan men love the hunt and they love the chase What are they chasing? What are they hunting? They're hunting your vagina. They're not hunting I want to be in a relationship, but I'm going to put my bow and arrow out my cupid's bow is all about That's not what they're hunting. They're hunting sex Except the grower and builders, but they operate differently, which we'll talk about You're not a priority in his life and guess what his problems will always take precedence over you His problems whether it's his children whether it's his work whether it's his ex-spouse Whether it's his friends when a man puts everything else and his problems ahead of you He's not serious about you Folks, you know married couples that truly love each other Why is it they can put their partner on equal status to their problems? I mean think about that for a moment Happily married couples can take a problem, but they're on equal footing with their partner But in in casual relationships and situationships the problem is here and you're like way down here down down down down Okay, number three He's barely interested in your life Short phone calls You know avoiding phone calls. Oh, I'm busy. You know, I've got to deal with this problem He's barely interested in your life. It's always about his life, but he's barely interested in your life That's a sign. He's not serious about you. He's not a teammate Remember I talked about grower builders a moment ago Folks, I want you to really contemplate this teammate Is this person my teammate? This is all the whole purpose of being in a relate the whole purpose Of joining two people together so you can be a team with one another you can be well Again users they just want you for they just want to use you Spenders they just want a piece of you grower builders They want to covet you. In fact, I want to read to you something that Stan dr. Stan tackon who wrote the book Wired for love wired for love by the way, there's a link below to get all the books. I recommend He has his 10 commandments 10 commandments for relationship essentials and good someone write this in the chat box 10 dr. Stan tackon 10 commandments For relationships essentials. I'm just going to read the first two Thou shalt protect the safety and security of thy relationship at all costs Think about those words. This is an agreement two people make with each other Thou shalt protect the safety and security of thy relationship at all cost You're not going to do that with a friends with benefits You're not going to do that with a situation ship You're not going to do that in a casual relationship and sadly not a lot of people do this even in a marriage But boy when two people agree to this Man, that's powerful number two Thou shalt base the the thou shalt base thy relationship untrue mutuality Remembering that all decisions and actions must be good for thee and thine partner How many people in casual relationship?  Does he deserve it has he earned it?  And again, you're having physical intimacy with them, but he does his friends don't even know who you are number five his communication is sporadic Remember i said he's barely interested in your life. He communicates with you On a very marginal perspective marginal perspective number six He avoids sharing his feelings about you as a person Okay, now you might be thinking but jonathan he told me how amazing i was in the beginning and he told me How wonderful i was and how it was unlike anyone else and he could see himself marrying me And i've never felt like this with anyone else. Okay That's how you make him feel Okay, in that moment of lost What he's not sharing is his feelings about you as a person Do you see the differential between that how you make him feel versus how he feels about you? You know many of you know i lost a child there's a picture of con oops There's a picture of connor with his brother collin You know when i gave his eulogy I said something to everybody, you know as a parent Most parents love their children But you know what? I like my children. Do you know like is a powerful word? Liking someone you know because love we you love it to children like when you with children it's unconditional But when you like them as a person, I think that's more powerful I know there's some ancient proverb that says when you like something you'll pluck the flower But if you love something, you know, you'll nurture the flower But i'm here to say like is a powerful Powerful expression of respect and care It goes beyond love to some degree And when a man doesn't share his feelings about you as a person That's almost saying I don't like you I'm not saying that's what it's saying. I'm saying it's almost like that Well, I guess I am saying it but you know, do you see where I'm going with this? I think it's critically important to recognize That if he's not sharing his feelings about you as a person versus how you he feel by the way Remember, he'll share how he feels about how you make him feel in the beginning But if he's not continuing it Beyond the the lust phase that's a sign. He's not serious about you and number seven And folks, you know what i'm about to share He refuses to talk about the future He refuses to talk about the future he talks and if he does it's way five years in the future when my children are grown When this happens when my professional life changes when my divorce goes through When I finally decide to to divorce my wife because some of you are actually in relationship with married men i'm here to say If someone is unwilling after 90 days to really talk about Something more significant There's a good chance. He's not serious about you men who okay. Let me just tell you this usually within about 90 days Of of active dating if they've seen you 10 or 20 times And they value you they like you they respect you A man will want to covet you and what I mean to say is he will want he listen men are Territorial, okay, they don't want like if they see a prize if they see you as a prize They don't want any other man to get this prize But you see a user he could care less because he'll be on to the next person the next person the next person the spender You know, he wants to keep you at a distance But he's not going to declare anything serious because he knows he can replace you A person who's a grower builder He wants to go all in exploring the nooks and crannies of getting to know you from a serious perspective Now that doesn't mean after six months Something couldn't change in other words two people can find out with it. I think it takes about a year Within a year You I think you get a good sense of a person and you might find by about the year mark You're not a fit for one another and it A relationship could adjourn It could adjourn and that's okay too See the other thing is You know, there's an old expression rejection is god's protection, but i'm here to say it's more has to do with If a person if one person doesn't feel alignment with you then it's not right for you either if one person doesn't Isn't all in then it's it's actually they're doing you a service when they exit the relationship The problem is when these things go on for two years three years five years Some of you, you know, the bodies are buried from here to the moon for women hoping that the guy will change Let me tell you something If two people gave it their all and in one year it doesn't work out give or take That year mark then it's okay that it takes time to disband. Is this sinking in is this resonating? Please let me know So again, we just shared the seven signs the shocking signs. He's not serious about you I hope you pay attention I hope you pay attention because the opposite of everything I shared are all the great signs He's into you Did you hear that if it's the opposite of what I just shared? It's all the great signs. He's into you and I'm here to encourage more of that type of experience for all of you Is this sinking in is this resonating? Please let me know. I'd like to hear your thoughts post a comment below I do my best to read them all if you found value in this video, please hit that like button Please share this video. 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I really um I really love being of service to you all but most importantly I love to be able to give to good causes so And if you want to join the hot seat, I've just put a link there as well Which means if you want to talk to me live Okay, gene is in the house question Do you think it's possible that the spender will eventually become a grower builder as they age at the end of the day? They're still alone. Okay folks This is my chart. Okay Now this is not a fact. It's merely an opinion. Do you see there says users spenders? Please forgive the light grower builders. Okay. Now. Do you see how the the 60 percent is Spenders and how there's an arrow growing Going towards a you or excuse me going towards a Grower builder here. Okay Well, so I'll keep that up for one more second. Okay You guys see that okay. All right. Do I believe a spender can become a grower builder I think people are either moving towards one or moving to the other. I mean, yes And then there's some stuck in the metal I do believe as a person does personal development self-help spiritual work if you're not familiar with my book What the heck a self-love anyway a journey of personal development self-help and spiritual work I think as a person does more work on themselves the more introspective they can shift from being a spender Spender to a grower and builder now the problem is you hear that And you might be a have a guy that's on the far end of spender But you think he's on the close end of grower builder and you're thinking. Oh if I just stick it out longer folks Your job is to pick grower builders. I know it's tough. It only represents 20 of the population I'm being very generous and by the way It's 20 of women too. You guys are no picnic. Okay You guys are spenders in a different way your wounds and traumas cause you to sabotage good relationships habitually you don't realize how you also sabotage good relationships Or you make choices of being in bad relationships habitually that means you're a spender as well If you are wasting time with a guy you're a spender as well Because you have this fantasy loop going on in your head But I can hope he can change I hope he can change Magic fairy dust will make him change I Crack myself up sometimes, but yes, I do witness this day in day out. It's not a judgment. It's just an observation Hey, let's give some props to married Beth for a dollar 99 cent super sticker Victory you confirmed. I finally have a grower. Yay. We're so happy for you Hey, I want to give a shout out to our facebook group member Folks if you'd like to have direct access to me on a regular basis There's a link below to join my private group called midlife love mastery This is a group where you can have direct access to me on a regular basis through a facebook page in a once a one Once a month webinar and in this case our facebook member says i'm really evaluating my current interest against this list Way to go Oh looks like we have someone in the house Sarah's on the hot seat. Let's talk to Sarah. You kind of seem dark. Oops. Oh, hey Sorry about that I got a question for you. I have been in a relationship for four and a half years with a widower Who was married to his high school sweetheart? um, she died um Six years ago. So we started seeing each other. Wait, wait, wait, wait. Is this the golden bachelor you're talking about? Are you the side chick we don't know about? No, no, no, not at all not at all. It feels like the golden bachelor gary No, no No, gary's heart is open. My guy's heart isn't open. I mean he says he's over it but There I mean four and a half years We do live an hour away from each other But he I've never met his his mom who lives an hour away You know, um It's it's a very he's a great guy. I love it. How often do you see each other? um I normally go over there almost every weekend And if not every week we talk every day and the talks have gotten lesser and lesser Um, I mean like he'll just sit on the phone and not say a word. It's like why call Yeah, I you know And he says I just like listening to you talk. Well, yeah, you know After that it's like ah, so I I'm really waning But I've been divorced for 32 years and I haven't had a successful Relationship any long term kind of a partner and this is the first guy that I've you know have He still has His four children and he has two teenagers that still live at home with him. His youngest is a daughter and She does not like me At all At all so snare, let me ask you. What is your question? My question is how do you know? I want some kind. I want somebody to say He's just not that into you move on And I Everybody who's listening to this right now Because sarah wants someone to tell her He's just not that into her and move on if all of you Actually agree with that statement folks in the chat box right now.  He's been widowed six years. You met him four and a half years ago So you met him right at a very fragile state, okay?   You're willing to accept this because after a 33-year marriage I can't remember exactly how you said how many years I think you said 33 um, you have You have just a live body Who's willing to give you some attention And you're accepting crumbs. So let me be clear You are accepting crumbs Okay, after four and a half years if the two of you have not escalated To something serious then you're accepting crumbs now.  Please let me know Yes, it is because I have made that stand At least twice in the past Once every year basically no you're not no you didn't because if you did you would have exited the relationship Well, we took a by the way, it's actually a situation ship. It's not a relationship Yeah, I I agree with that.  I'm gonna be blunt when you love yourself. You don't accept crumbs Listen, yes No relationship is perfect and we're never gonna get a hundred percent of what we want if but you know what accepting less than 65 percent It's not worth it And you're not even getting 65 percent. You're not even getting 50 percent You're not even getting 30 percent.  You know and of course i'm recuperating And you know what it turned out to be was you know, we know you're doing right now You're arguing for your limitations here. He's he's like, oh, he's not concerned. Remember I said Barely interested in your life You know, you don't come first Like those were the first two the second and third thing I mentioned And you're you're right now. You're even arguing for this limitation Like I don't want it. I don't want to know Yeah, okay. Listen. Okay. That's all I'm gonna give you right now. Okay, sweetheart Can I reach into the camera and give you a big gigantic Jonathan bear hug? Sure, Jonathan.    I'm just passionate because I don't want you to do these things folks. Listen I was a guy like him reason why I became a coach is because I was unconscious I was a train wreck And in that there was a wake of women who liked me but I was incapable of falling in love with them And so I this is my this is my penance It's not my penance. It's actually my joy But this is my way of paying back my own behavior To some degree.  Don't allow yourself to be breadcrumbs all right If you post a question while she was on reposted, okay Laura's in the house Oh and before I forget I want to thank jill for the super sticker and I want to thank Kate for the super for the super sticker. By the way, that was 70 dollars So our goal tonight is 100 dollars. We need 30 dollars more. All right, laura's question How do we avoid men to be open and honest about their intentions when they pretend to have mutual values and expectations, how do we avoid? well Most men who are in it for the short run Are usually gone by the third fourth or fifth date. Okay, usually So, you know, let's face it a lot of people don't get past a first or second date. Okay But if you hold off physical intimacy For at least I call it the 10 date rule and this isn't an absolute But if you wait about and I've also talked about the 100 hours of face to face time to build the first layer of trust Okay So if you take time To gently truly get to know one another at a heart centered level And you practice radical honesty laying your cards on the table and the rules of engagement So let me talk if someone write that in the chat box number one radical honesty number two Laying your cards on the table and number three the rules of engagement and what that goes something like this Radical honesty is vulnerability authenticity and transparency vulnerability authenticity transparency Okay transparency means if it's material to the relationship You're going to share it with the other person. Mary Beth. I'll get to you in a second Okay number two laying your cards on the table This is about talking about your past relationships Because you got to find out if this person is capable of being in a relationship And you do that by asking questions about their past relationships and the rules of engagement Simply is the standards That this relationship Container looks like and then both of you sharing your standards and then applying those standards in the relationship And we can get into that a little bit more but we have Mary Beth in the house So I'm actually one of the yeah, I'm one of your paid members of the facebook group and all of that I just wanted to give a unique perspective because I'm fit on both sides of the fence So, um, I think this is kind of unique because usually either we either have this experience So we haven't had it yet. This is something that I have experienced with exactly what you're talking about With a user a spender for like almost four years And I used your advice trying to deepen the relationship and all of that and You know, I was just kidding myself. It just wasn't going to work dumped him And then now like not even a month later, you know, I actually found Someone who I truly love And he is a grower and a builder and I mean night and day difference like Night and day difference is so wonderful So I can't tell you people enough to take your advice because it truly truly works. So So well, first off, I want to give you a big hug of Congratulations folks. Um, Mary Beth is in my private group called midlife love mastery. I'm putting the link right here Um, you are which includes a once a month webinar and a facebook group. So and let me ask you a question What do you get out of being in the group like what and how is this helped you get the relationship that you want? Well, you get more exposure to people's personal, um issues like their their Circumstances that they're going through and the dating process. Um, it also helps us not to feel so alone Because like when you're on the apps you're getting ghosted left and right It's it's really hard not to feel like you're the only one getting ghosted But when I got ghosted the other day Was that right? I got good. Well, by the way, let me be clear. I'm about to say share something I didn't get a chance to tell the group but I was communicating with this woman and You know, we were having a good banter back and forth and I was just about to take it from the app to a telephone call and this was uh friday of last week I I wrote a really heartfelt vulnerable message to her And I thought oh, she'll get to it in an hour or two because prior to that the communication was rather consistent, you know Three hours go by nothing Half a day goes by nothing the entire day goes by two days go by now at this point. I'm like, okay She's either I mean I didn't go down though.  I I mean I was like I'm like, you know, I went into like, what did I say? Was it the wrong thing? I mean, I'm human like it by the way, you know for those that watch me I'm by the way, you're in the group. You know this because I share all my poibles in the group, right? Yeah Um, you know, I'm just a human being making human errors like anyone else And so I haven't heard from her, you know, I don't expect to But my point is is women can be just as bad as men too. You know, this isn't singular I just happen to be the only men in the group because our group is mostly women And what I do is I give you the like a couple of our members recently did a post. I'm like Look at what his behavior is very typical male behavior.  I'm not prince charming. I'm riddled with flaws. So anyway Mary Beth, I was really happy you jumped on. Thanks for sharing the love. I really appreciate it Oh, yeah, your advice works that it really rocks and I just want people to know like The the paid group is fantastic.  It's just using you He's just using you and then I wasn't listening But I was more receptive to you Because you weren't in the situation and I was also more receptive to the people in the facebook group Because they weren't they didn't know me. Yeah, they didn't have any attachment to it Our friends give us terrible advice. It was different like it. You're I'm more receptive to that And I think a lot of people are because people have bias that know you right? Like oh that they just uh, I don't know.  Oh my god. Some of the members go at it sometimes folks if you want Listen, this is an inexpensive way to have direct access to me. I put the link right there join my vip group Jonathan as I didn't expect you to jump on mary bet. So thanks for the plug. I really appreciate it Yeah, you're welcome. I mean the guy I'm with now. It's just phenomenal. Actually, his name is spell. So I call him phenomenal fill Yes You should check out the ornament Coach that I bought it says, um of all the weird things I found online.  Like it's just stuff that, you know I didn't have before I've never had before and it's just really he really wants to get to know me For me and he's not trying to change me. It's just it's really cool. We're both like that Oh, well, can I give you a big gigantic jotham bear hug? You sure can thank you Because I want you to find someone too. Ah, me too. Me too. Me too Um Really quickly. I want to give thanks to susan for the five dollar super sticker I was so happy mary bet joined us folks. This is not a plug for my group and in and as much as Listen, we all need support and help. There's nothing easy about this and sometimes we look at Many of you judged my choices in my relationship um And and right or wrong and because I don't believe in right or wrong We're all here on a journey Wherever this journey takes us I got so much out of the relationship even though it didn't go the distance Because I went in from a full or a cup a love cup that was mostly full Unlike sarah who was on earlier and like and and how mary beth is right now When our love cup isn't full we'll accept Bad behavior will accept crumbs will accept these seven shocking signs. He's not serious about you and i'm here to be um A light in the dark to shine to say Love yourself because that's how you become a magnetic attractor for what you want All right, let's see what we have in the house day has posted a question How can I support a close family member going through divorce? She's been with him for 20 years has two great kids and he's saying he's not feeling her anymore. He doesn't know why She's heartbroken you know Well, we support with love That's how we support are the people that we care about in our lives. We support with love No, the thing is she's on her journey. He's on his journey. The kids are even on their own journey. Okay what I mean to say is Whatever experiences they're meant to have they can grow from it They can learn from it or they can it can traumatize them and then they'll hopefully someday learn and grow from it She's heartbroken. I get it When we give our how okay, so there's a book by um, here's a book This is by phil stutz. Uh, I don't know barry michael's um On netflix there's an episode called stutz. Okay st utz. Okay And in this in this episode, it's jonahill the actor jonahill Therapist, okay. I bought his book But what I want to emphasize was one of the techniques the tools he talked about is not non attachment But moving towards non attachment what I mean to say is when we become less attached to an outcome of something And we become more focused on our own inner world That's one of the tools that we that help us overcome the challenges Of we face in interpersonal relationships when there's friction So, uh, I would recommend day that you check out give your friend the book the tools okay All right, thanks for sharing. We really appreciate that Leafs in the house and she said jonathan's tough love by the way The reason why we're a little bit earlier tonight is because i'm going out to dinner With a couple who had met earlier this year In fact, it's kind of an interesting story. You got to sit through this one. Okay So i'm having dinner tonight with joy kingsborough a friend of mine that I met at a at a empowered woman's retreat She briefly was my coach for a while and during our time together No, she introduced me to matt con m a t t k a h n can someone put this those two names matt con enjoy kingsboro So funny story matt con is a spiritual teacher. He's got a youtube channel of about 200 000 followers And I love his content. I love his videos. I love his Framework of spirituality. Okay So they met at a convention earlier this year She was speaking at it. He was speaking at they met they fell in love and they got engaged Four months later three or four months later. Now. These are two highly evolved people I say highly evolved in that They've look at they've grown up. They're both emotionally mature people. Maybe emotionally mature people.   I've been following matt con for years now Okay Not realizing that this was the kid who trained me back when I was getting in shape for my 40 year high or my 20 year high school reunion Okay, he was uh, by the way, tiny guy.  So that's why I didn't recognize him Well, he and joy are in town uh, his his family lives near me. So we're getting together for dinner but my point is Why i'm sharing this with you Is I look at these two As unique role models because they've gone in it. They went all in Now some people might argue going all in is a mistake I'm here to argue the opposite. I think going all in And all in simply means i'm gonna Vest fully in this getting to know you to see if this is real and they're getting married, you know, uh Fifth, you know, 13 14 months after they met it still gives them time to exit out of it But you know what all in Says to me I'm devoting a hundred percent to getting to know you i'm devoting a hundred percent to run I through thick or thin. I want us to win Can someone write that down? I'm all in through thick or thin. I want us to win So anyways, that's a quick story Hey sherry, I want to thank you for the ten dollar super sticker god. I'm loving the love tonight. We're only 20 there's uh I'm loving the love tonight. Hold on a second leaves dropped four dollar super sticker in the house And I think sherry did too. So we're only 35 we're 25 dollars away. No 15 dollars away from our goal of a hundred 15 dollars There you go. Oh, by the way, it's joy kingsboro not joist mac con and joy kingsboro. Please forgive my uh poor enunciation Um, mary stewart says that or mary en says that's awesome cupcake says that's crazy Oh tiffani says i'm a huge Mac con fan his work has helped me out of deep things Best book and info out there called everything is here to help you. He's a legend folks This is a kid that I knew That trained me and now i'm getting to break bread with someone I have a great deal of respect with and i'm going to their wedding next year As well, i'm really excited about that. You know what i'm gonna ask them to do is introduce me to the people in their world Maybe there's a woman in their world that they can introduce me to All right cupcake is in the house Question What can we offer men who say they are head over heels and want to give want to be given a chance? But it's clear to us that they they have a lot more work to do before any type of relationship beyond friends well I I think what you can say in these cases is I feel a misalignment between us and as much as I appreciate appreciate the the Infatuation the limerence the care I do feel a misalignment between us and because of that I don't believe I'm ready for a significant relationship. What you shouldn't do is hold this person at bay in the friends Uh category Um the friend zone category I don't think it's fair to them to put them in the friend zone category in other words either Explore a relationship or let them you know let them go out in the sea and find someone else Because people that get put into the friend zone They're praying something changes and while there are exceptions to the rule I just don't think it's fair to them. That's just my perception anyway.   If that's the case You know, I'm not a big proponent of that I mean, yeah, I mean on occasion two people can have phone sex or Um, what not but you know, I don't want that to be a practice Um I because I prefer the real thing I know I know for some of you logistics might be the problem But if you have a logistical problem in your relationship change the list logistical dynamic if it's if you're if you're unable to be physically in each other's presence Then change that narrative And if you can't then really should you be investing because look at his listen I use this hand. Okay. I'm not happy about that.    That's like a knock. You know what that is That's like buying a fake Rolex.  Okay, excuse me That's my perception on that. Does anyone have a differing perception? Please let me know Hey Gina just gave us a four dollar super sticker. Thank you so much Uh Someone Cecilia said that I think it's like birth control. There you go. Um, all right Hey Jill's in the house. Why don't you have some bravery and jump on for a couple minutes Jill? Here's the link to Join the hot seat All right sex intimacy is always better when shared with someone else exactly Uh, Denise says I wonder about one person making a determination that the other person is not mature enough to have a relationship It seems better to say that the other person isn't a match in values lifestyles, etc You know what Denise? You make an absolutely good point I took that question on face value and you really make a good point because that's a judgment on their capacity I do agree with you. It's but the problem is they could share the same values and have compatible lifestyles So, um, I I prefer to say I think we're two different places in our lives Emotionally speaking. This is going back to the question earlier about The person that was trying so hard, but wasn't in a good place. I just say I think we're in two different places in our lives Emotionally speaking. I think that feels more an integrity to me now that might cause the person to question it but um You got to do what's right for you know what at the end of the day you have to do what's right for you Okay All right Let's see. What else we have Faraday says Fair y'all says What to do if a man lies about what he does for a job? He said he works in a sustainable insustainable at an oil wait He said he works in substantial Sustainability at a oil and gas company I found out he left his job in 2020 and found a web design company and has founded a web design company interesting You know, it's funny. I was watching mission on possible three last night and ethan hunt Is a um, it is a basically a spy and he meets a woman and he is engaged to get married and told her that told her that she worked he works at the um At the department of transportation virginia department of transportation and then he had to fess up about it You know, I'm not a big proponent of people being out of integrity that there's probably a reason for it So maybe he's fearful that you would judge that he might be in a brand new startup business And he's going to be rejected for that. That's a possible reason So if you've already found this out talk to him about it and see what his by the way He probably has a good reason. Why not ask him what that reason is that would be my way of approaching it And our facebook group member says I love mission impossible All right, jill. You're in the house Hi Hey, can you hear me? Hey, how are you doing? Good. Good. I was doing it from my phone Oh by the way before anyone gets bent out of shape jill has a youtube channel Called amazing connections or what's it called? Uh, jill collin's connections jill collin's connections Coincidentally you interviewed me today for your channel. You're not we're not here to plug.   You recently had a date this morning with what appears to be a nice guy so I did you gotta I do have been texting back and forth a little bit and so we're trying to figure out when to see each other again right now So the interesting challenge is being in argentina where I am right now. Um, yeah I live here part time is The culture here and it's very much like what you said is the old like people talk about like the woman shouldn't Be too forward. You're supposed to kind of step back and let let the man approach And so i'm getting advice like that and it's sort of like I just want to be myself I just want to say hey, I'm into you I instead of being like, I don't know. I just want to pull back What's so wrong with saying I like you like there's nothing wrong with that.  Well, I mean he said the same thing We both did but the the thing I think a lot of times that happens to people as we get afraid and we think What if all of a sudden they Pull back right and it's like, oh, we're all into each other. We think we're great So what so just go all in and don't worry about it, right? Just be you know what here's the thing is I'm like look Most people dip their toe in the swimming pool and that's about as far as they go I'm like fuck just jump in the deep end make sure you can swim and if you can swim You can always make it out at the other end It's if you can't swim and what that represents can't swim is you get attached too quickly You uh have unhealthy boundaries You you you're dependent upon someone for your survival You're dependent on validation for to reinforce your own lack of self-love if you If you can full if you truly can embody If you can truly embody this self-love And if two people can embody self-love jump in the deep end see what happens and if it doesn't work out By the way, dating today is usually a three-year broken down friends with benefits process cut to the quick It's better to find out sooner rather than later that you're not compatible with one another and so And hopefully you know like most everybody knows my relationship with marie It I mean it lasted accumulatively about 15 months Probably at the year mark. It wasn't working for her anymore.   It's good for both Okay, so um, so I'm excited. I can't wait to hear what happens with this guy Yeah, me too. We're trying to figure it out now and it's like I'm am I being too accommodating? I'm like lisa. Well, I can't do it tomorrow night. Well, but I have friday and I have saturday open and so is it like I don't know. I'm just trying to be myself.  I'm not I know. I'm like It's a holiday season By the way, now you gave them two alternates you said friday and saturday and I'm assuming you do right just be yeah Yeah, good cool. Well, thanks for coming on and giving us some love Thanks for having me. Yep. Say hello to everyone here and um, yeah interviews coming out next friday So you'll get to see it. Okay. Giving you a big gigantic. Jonathan bear hug. Thank you. Thank you, Jonathan Take care. Bye now. Bye Bye Cecilia just wanted to add marie was a very generous to participate in your videos.  Thanks again for being on, you know, I share a lot of my personal life. I put myself out there I'm vulnerable. It's like putting, you know, it's like walking out on the plank and yeah, well, and I could I could sound like a um A victim and say the plank got pulled out from underneath me. Okay, because in a way it does feel that way but in reality You know a relationship can be a great gift in your life. It can be By the way, every relationship can be a great gift If you go in it with a full cup of love here And you go in being vulnerable authentic transparent you you you practice the that 10 commandments is dr Stan tacking calls about even if it doesn't work out. You have to adjourn That's still okay. That's still okay.  Is this sinking in is this resonating? Please let me know All right, folks. 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Hello, everyone. My name's Lawrence. I'm head of research and development at Chainlink Labs. And yeah, today I'm excited to tell you about improving the Oracle infrastructure on Ethereum. For those of you who don't know, Oracle infrastructure connects smart contracts with the rest of the world, with the world outside the blockchain. And so let me start by talking about the most prominent use case of Oracle's data feeds. I'll start by reading a quote. We'll play a little game. You guys can, while I read the quote, guess where the quote is from. I'll give you a few more seconds after I'm done reading the quote, and then I'll reveal the answer. So the quote is, for example, one powerful use case of an Oracle contract would be a hedging contract, where A and B put in $1,000 worth of Bitcoin. And after 30 days, the script sends $1,000 worth of Bitcoin to A and the rest to B. This would require an Oracle to determine the value of one Bitcoin in US dollars. Sounds a little bit like DeFi. The terminology is a bit different from what we would say today. So the solution is it comes from the Ethereum White Paper all the way back in 2014. So already back then, it was clear that Oracle's are required for certain types of applications. And indeed here, we have an example of a price feed or data feed Oracle. And if we think a little bit about the properties that this implies that we need our Oracle to have, there's two things that stand out. So first of all, we need reliability. We need to make sure that when the 30 days are up here, indeed, the Oracle supplies the exchange rate between Bitcoin and dollars so we can fairly settle the hedging contract. And then we also need security and integrity, right? The price that is provided here by the Oracle will be used to settle the contract. And so if the price is incorrect, then we won't be able to settle the contract fairly. So it's essential that we have an Oracle that provides these properties. And I think if we think about the history, since then, billions of dollars have been stolen in Oracle manipulation attacks. So Oracle security is paramount for DeFi. So let's have a look at how one might construct such a data feed Oracle. And I'll start with a strawman construction, and then I'll evolve that construction into what I would say is the state of the art today and is what Chainlink does today. So here in this strawman example, we have a data source that the Oracle observes. In this case, the data source says, hey, $10 is the price. The Oracle will sign that price, and it will then provide it to a contract running on Chain, and then a DAP contract can read the price from our data feed contract. But if we think a little bit about the two properties I had just mentioned, reliability and security, then this system does not achieve them, because we have a single point of failure. If this Oracle goes down or fails to provide the price, then the system on Chain won't work. And similarly, if the single Oracle here is compromised or malicious, then it can feed a false price to the contract on Chain and cause the contract to be settled incorrectly unfairly. So how can we solve this problem? Well, there's a few different approaches that people commonly take, but I think the most common one today is to say, let's decentralize the Oracle. So let's have a bunch of independent Oracles all provide the system together. And so what we've done here is we now have multiple Oracles that each fetch a price from a data source and then send their individual signed observations to a contract running on Chain. And that contract on Chain stores the observations until there's a sufficient number of them, then aggregates them into a single price using a robust aggregation for these data feeds. The typical aggregation one would use for numerical data is to take the median, because that's a robust statistic that doesn't respond to, for example, false outlier values or things like that. And then once we have medianized our value, we can expose it to the TAP contract downstream. And this is nice because we can now handle subsets of Oracles being faulty. So if some of the Oracles here do not send a price, or if some of them send false data, that's OK. If they don't send a price, our data feed contract can just handle that by ignoring a certain number of missing submissions. And if they send a false price, as I had mentioned, we use the median, which is a robust statistic and which ensures that as long as no more than half of the Oracles here are faulty, the aggregate price still lies within the interval of prices reported by correct Oracles. So this works well in terms of giving us the security properties and reliability properties we want. But there's a problem here. If you're familiar with smart contract, notice that we're sending one transaction per Oracle here. We store the submissions in state, and we compute an aggregate on chain, all of which are expensive things to do. And indeed, this is how chain link used to work in the past with a system called Flux Monitor. And indeed, that became prohibitively expensive. And so we moved on to the next generation, which I'll describe now. So I would say that the state of the art then is to say, let's move as much work as possible off chain. The less we need to touch the chain, the more efficient our system is going to be. But we'll want to do this in a way that preserves the security and reliability properties that we desire. And so roughly speaking, what we do here is we again have our Oracles observing prices from their respective data sources. But now we have the Oracles communicate with one another using a peer-to-peer network. And we, for the distributed systems folks out here, have them run a Byzantine fault tolerant protocol. Byzantine fault tolerant means that they can handle arbitrary faults. So any of these Oracles could be malicious or faulty or down or whatever else. And as long as some subset of them is affected by this, depending on exactly how you set up the assumptions, either less than a third or less than half of the Oracles, the overall system will keep functioning correctly. Chainlink's version of this is called the off-chain reporting protocol. And indeed, it's far more efficient than the predecessor I had just showed you. So we realize something like 90% on-chain cost savings. And this is good for security because it means that with the same security budget, we can have a lot more Oracles. So we can tolerate more faulty Oracles in the system. And it's also good for reliability because in this system, at the end of the off-chain protocol, every Oracle ends up with a identical copy of the report, which is signed by a quorum of the Oracles. And the contract will then validate that the report is indeed signed by a quorum of the Oracles. And what this means is that as long as a single Oracle is able to get a transaction on chain, the overall system will keep functioning correctly. And so for example, during times of chain congestion, this is very desirable. Indeed, as I mentioned, this is how the off-chain reporting protocol works. And it's been very successful. So we designed it for powering data feeds on EVM chains. It's been running reliably and securely for, at this point, one and a half years in production. It secures roughly $20 billion of value across all the various chains that chain link is active on. $14 billion just on Ethereum. There's more than 1,000 feeds across all the chains we're active on. And more than 290 of those are on Ethereum. And I think the reliability and security of the system are also shown by the fact that we have major, major DeFi protocols relying on this system, like names such as Aave, Compound, and Synthetics all use this. Cool. So I told you about data feeds. But now I want to tell you that Oracles are about a lot more than just data feeds. They enable, in the general sense, interactions of smart contracts with the outside world. That is to say, things that are outside the blockchain a contract executes on. And so they empower smart contracts to reach their full potential, because now I can do a lot more interesting things with my contract than if I'm just isolated on the blockchain and cannot interact with the outside world. So here are some of the capabilities that are enabled by Oracles. Data feeds I just talked about. Proof of reserve, I can ensure that on-chain assets are sufficiently collateralized by some off-chain reserve of funds by having independent Oracles monitor that reserve of funds and report how large the collateral is. Secure randomness, contract automation, and cross-chain interoperability. I'm going to talk about more later in the talks. I won't go into them now. Fair sequencing, I can use an Oracle network to protect users from toxic MEV extraction by fairly sequencing transactions. I can outsource computation and storage so that I can enable contracts to scale beyond what the EVM provides. As much as we all love the EVM and as much fun as gas golfing is, there are some things that are just a little bit hard to do on the EVM. And then finally, I can also enable Oracles to perform real-world actions. So we actually had a hackathon a couple of months ago inside Chainlink Labs, where we had contracts ordering pizza via the Pizza Hut API to people's houses. So I think that's a pretty neat use case that is enabled here, and that would not be available to contracts natively. And then finally, we can also provide privacy-preserving access to almost any Web 2.0 data. And I'll cover that also towards the end of my talk. So this gives rise to this notion of hybrid smart contracts. And when I say hybrid smart contract, what I mean here is a hybrid system that partly operates on-chain in the form of a smart contract running, say, on Ethereum, and partly off-chain, operated by a network of decentralized Oracles. And so this overall hybrid smart contract is now able to interact with the real world. And so this enables me to do all sorts of interesting things. And let me give you some more specific details on some of these. And I'll start by talking a bit about secure randomness and what that enables contracts to do. As you're probably familiar, there is two on-chain native ways on Ethereum these days to get random values. One of them is the block hash upcode. And that's audit findings. 101 do not rely on the block hash upcode for randomness. Any block producer can easily tamper with that. And now since the merge, there's also a second upcode, prev-randow, which is a little bit better than block hash, but which is still manipulable by block producers. So the output of both of these can be biased. So if your contract needs secure randomness, for example, for running a lottery or for doing a NFT mint where you assign valuable random attributes to your NFTs, these are not good enough. And so on-chain, there's no native capability to get good randomness. And this is where Oracles come in, and Oracles can provide that functionality. So we have a cryptographic construct here that's called a verifiable random function. And that enables an Oracle to provide tamper-proof randomness. And let me explain how that works. So we start here with our DAP contract that if it wants some randomness, can request from another contract on-chain that's part of this VRF service some random words. The contract will emit an event with just telling the Oracles that randomness has been requested. The Oracles will evaluate the verifiable random function, which is based on deterministic public key cryptography. That is to say, the Oracles actually have no ability to change the output. It's deterministic. So based on a given key pair and a given blockchain state, which is used as the input for the VRF, we will always get the same output value, the same randomly distributed output value. And the Oracles will then provide a cryptographic proof that they correctly evaluated the VRF, will send that cryptographic proof to our coordinator contract here, which can cryptographically verify the proof. And if indeed the verification succeeds, then finally the coordinator can send the random output here to the DAP contract, which can then, for example, run its lottery or whatever else. And this is live today in production. If you are writing a contract and you need this functionality, you can use it. And I think there's over 1,400 unique contracts that have used this in the past 30 days. So OK, randomness is cool. Now let me talk to you about yet another use case that is live today and that enables contracts to do more interesting things. And that is contract automation. Once again, I'll return to the quote from the original Ethereum White Paper in 2014. But this time I'll highlight a different part. So here we have, after 30 days, the script sends $1,000 worth of Bitcoin to A and the rest to B. So how does the script do this? How can the script or the smart contract send those funds to A and B? Contracts do not have an ability to initiate their own execution. And of course, I could say, well, I'll just have my users A or B here call the contract after the 30 days are up and then I'll do a payout. And maybe if I just have two users, that's fine. But now let's say I have a lot of users or I want to sweep a bunch of tokens from different contracts into a single pool or whatever other expensive maintenance action my system requires to run, then that will lead to a very poor UX if I put the onus of performing those maintenance actions on the users interacting with my DAP. Because if I'm a user, I now have a non-deterministic gas price. Once in a while when I interact with a DAP, it's going to cost me 100,000 gas. Another time I need to maintain some expensive maintenance on the side and suddenly it's going to cost me 500,000 gas. That's not great. It's also unreliable because I can't really rely on my users calling the contract at a specific point in time. So this is where contract automation comes into play. So once again here, we have a set of oracles or automation nodes that are monitoring the chain. And the upkeep contract here is the DAP contract. And the upkeep contract is just any regular smart contract written in Solidity or Viper or whatever programming language you prefer. And it has a special function called check upkeep. And that function will be evaluated by our oracle network here whenever a new block is mined. But it will be evaluated in a simulated environment using the, say, F call RPC endpoint of an Ethereum node. So we never hit the chain with these evaluations. No transaction lands on chain. And so we can call this on every block without incurring any cost.  And if the contract says no, I don't want to be called. No problem. We just check again in the next block. But if indeed the contract wants to be called, it can indicate so to the oracle network, which will then send a second or will then actually send the first real transaction to the chain that's not simulated with a perform upkeep call for upkeep contract here. And now this contract on chain can take whatever logic it wants to. So for example, in the previous case, at this point, it could have paid out our two users A and B, depending on the outcome of this hedging contract. And again, this functionality is live today. There's over 250 unique upkeep contracts that have been active in the past 30 days. And if that's useful for your smart contracts, then I would encourage you to check that out. OK, so I've been talking a bunch about data feeds and about other oracle capabilities that are live today. But I'm from research, so I'm particularly excited about the future and what future capabilities we're actively working on to bring to market. And I'm going to present two exciting capabilities. And both of them are in an alpha state with partners. So both of them are already working in some form, even though they're not quite ready for mainnet production yet. And the first of these is cross-chain interoperability. So the problem here is that smart contracts cannot natively interact with smart contracts running on other blockchains. But we live in a multi-chain world now, right? There's dozens of chains out there. It's a very heterogeneous environment. Some are L1s, some are L2s, some use the EVM, some don't, and so on and so forth. And so indeed, there's also a lot of demand for bridging between contracts on different chains. So to date, something like $168 billion of value have been bridged. Just in the past 12 months, we've seen over 2 thirds of the total volume ever bridge for something like $115 billion bridged. But also, we have a challenge with security in this cross-chain space. So to date, $2.5 billion have been hacked from cross-chain protocols. And just this year, over 70% of all values stolen in the blockchain ecosystem is from cross-chain hacks. So I think once again, this indicates that security is paramount, but that unfortunately, the current solutions are not yet up to the task. And so we at Chainlink are also working on a solution to this problem, which we call the cross-chain interoperability protocol, CCIP. And so here, we're working on a programmable bridge that enables a smart contract, that contract here, say, on Ethereum to send a message to a contract running on some other chain. And it could be talking to multiple other chains. So here, I have it sending a message from Ethereum to this other chain, B. And the message can carry both data, so some kind of arbitrary binary payload, as well as value, so say tokens. And again, I need oracles for this, because inherently, the other chain B or Ethereum have no way of knowing what happened on their counterpart chain that they want to talk to here. And so oracles can bridge that gap and they can transport information about what happened on one chain to another chain to enable contracts on different chains to interoperate. This is, again, as I mentioned, it's very important that this is done securely, because for some reason here, I were to get false information about what message was created on Ethereum. Then that could, for example, lead to funds being moved on this other chain here when they shouldn't be, and I would have a security breach. If you want to learn more details about this, we just had a talk at SmartCon roughly two weeks ago where we went in more detail about the architecture of CCIP. And it's on YouTube, so I'd encourage you to check that out if it's interesting to you. The second oracle-enabled capability for the future that we're working on is about providing privacy-preserving access to web 2.0 data, to almost any web 2.0 data, to smart contracts. And this is, I think, a super cool capability. At first, it sounds a bit unreal, like, how does this work? How could this be? So let me show you what I mean here. So the fundamental problem is that the vast majority of data is private and is therefore not publicly accessible in the web 2.0 ecosystem. So for example, my online bank account, my Twitter profile, my Facebook profile, my Amazon account, some government website, none of these are accessible by smart contracts on chain, because all of them are behind some kind of authentication wall, right? And I would argue that's a good thing. I don't want my bank account information to be just visible to any contract on chain. But still, it would be kind of cool if there were a way to expose in a privacy-preserving information just the information required to smart contracts on chain, because that would unlock, I think, many interesting use cases, things like decentralized identity, risk scoring, where I can use information about my off-chain behavior to score how risky of a borrower, say, I am, consequently under-collateralized lending, where maybe in order to borrow $100 worth of assets, I don't have to put up $200 worth of collateral on chain or private DeFi instruments where I can have a DeFi instrument where only the parties that are participating in that instrument need to learn what exactly the conditions of it are based on what condition it settled, and so on, to improve privacy on chain trading. And more things that I probably can't even imagine yet. This is a very general technology. And so the technology we're working on here to address this is called DeCO. DeCO was originally researched at Cornell University and IC3, the Initiative for Cryptocurrencies and Contracts. And since then, Chainlink has pushed the project forward, is actively developing it and further researching it to make it efficient and practical. And so I'm briefly going to describe to you how DeCO works and what properties it avoids, first in the abstract and then by going through an example. So we have three off-chain parties here. We have a web server. We have a prover or a user.  And so now what DeCO enables the user to do is to prove to these verifiers and then, by extension, to the smart contract that some data indeed comes from a certain web server. So for example, I can show that indeed, bank.com made some statement. We assume that this web server runs TLS, which is the standard protocol for securing communications on the web today. Whenever you go to some website, you'll probably see a little lock icon in your address bar indicating that the connection is secured with TLS. So I can prove provenance. I can show that the data indeed comes from a certain source. But I can do this in a privacy-preserving way, where I can run a zero-knowledge proof protocol to only reveal the information, the minimal information, that I want to reveal to the verifiers and then, by extension, again, to the contract. And so the web server, obviously, if it's, for example, my bank knows my balance and my password. I, as the user, also know my password and my balance. But the verifiers or oracles, for example, should definitely not learn my password, right? And Deco enables me to do this in this privacy-preserving way. And then finally, and I think this is actually the coolest property of Deco, it's compatibility. So it's compatible with the existing TLS web ecosystem. And that means that there's no need to get, for example, the data holder here, the web server, to change anything about their API or their stack. They don't even need to know that Deco is being used to prove something. And if you, for example, look at how hard it is to get the internet migrated to IPv6, you know that protocol upgrades are very difficult. So it's, I think, a game changer here that this works with the existing web 2.0 ecosystem without requiring modifications on the part of the web server or the user. So let me show you an example. So I'm the prover. I'm the user here. My name's Lawrence. And I want to show to a contract on chain that my bank account balance is greater than $1,000 without revealing anything on top of that. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to connect using TLS, indicated by the green locks here, to the API of my bank using TLS. So I'm going to say, hey, I'm Lawrence. My password is Hunter 2. What's my balance? And now the bank API will respond, hey, Lawrence, your balance is, say, $5,000, which remember I do not want to reveal to the firefighters or to the contract. As part of the way the handshake works here between me and the banking API, I'm also able to, just as part of this TLS exchange, ensure that the verifiers or oracles here get a cryptographic commitment to the data that is being exchanged. That commitment is, as we say in cryptography, binding and hiding, which is to say so you can think about it as an envelope where I put some data inside. If you just have the envelope, you cannot see what's inside, but you also cannot switch the contents without somebody noticing because you kind of tore the envelope. And this is basically a similar thing here. So the verifiers hold a cryptographic commitment about any data that was exchanged within the session. So I, as the user, cannot alter the data after the fact. But the verifiers do not see what's inside the commitment. The commitment is hiding. So they have not learned at this point any private information, any information at all about what was in the TLS session. And so now we get to the final step, which here I'm abbreviating with ZKP magic because I have like two minutes left on this talk. But the way this works is that we now run an interactive zero-knowledge proof protocol between the prover user, so myself, and these oracles. And as part of that ZKP protocol, I can convince the oracles cryptographically that indeed, for example, this statement holds so that my balance is greater than $1,000. But that is the only thing they will learn. They will not learn my credentials and they will not learn my precise balance. The oracles can then cryptographically sign an attestation that they have successfully verified the zero-knowledge proof. And this attestation can be forwarded to our smart contract on-chain here. Again, signed by a chroma of oracles and then we can verify in the contract that indeed those signatures match. And so now I have convinced the contract on-chain that I have at least $1,000 in my contract and I've done that without having revealed any additional information. And you can think about this in a far more general sense because this zero-knowledge proof, I could basically prove almost any statement about the data that was exchanged in almost any TLS session. So this is a very general and very powerful technology, I believe. And I'm excited to see what people are actually gonna build with it because I think due to its generality, I personally have a hard time imagining what's gonna be enabled by it. So yeah, thanks a lot for listening to my talk. There is three things I'd like you to take away. So first of all, security and reliability are paramount for oracles. Second of all, oracles are about a lot more than just data feeds. I think I've shown you a bunch of exciting applications of what oracles can do. Yeah, and third of all, I think we have an opportunity to make contracts more exciting, more interesting to empower them to reach their full potential beyond just doing things within the closed on-chain ecosystem that they would naturally operate in without the data of oracles. So yeah, thanks a lot. And if you have any questions, I think I'm over time, so just come and find me after the talk, and I'd love to chat. You have time, actually. You have time, actually. There's time allotted for your Q&A. So there's room for questions right now. In contract automation, how are the guys' fees paid? Ah, I see, I see, I see. So basically what happens is that the DAP that relies on contract automation, we'll maintain a balance. I don't know whether I can go back to that slide. No, no more. Anyway, so it maintains a subscription balance with an automation registry contract that sits on chain. And then when the DAP is invoked by the oracle network, that automation registry will keep track of how much gas is used as part of that transaction, the perform upkeep transaction, and will, you know, build the user subscription for that. So, and when I say the user here, I mean the upkeep contract. So in that sense, as long as the subscription is funded, we will just automatically, you know, have the contract deduct the price of the upkeep from that. Does that answer your question? Yeah, yes. So you showed us that diagram where the user and the bank API exchange those messages, right? So this is about Deco, right? Yeah, yeah. Too bad we can't show the slide, yeah, okay? So the bank says that the balance is $5,000, and the oracle sees that, but without seeing the balance, right? And then- So the oracle does not see the- The balance. $5,000, right? Yeah. The oracle just has a cryptographic commitment against which we can then perform an interactive $0.00 proof. Yeah, exactly. I'm just wondering how the oracle then can verify that the balance is over $1,000, without like showing that the balance is $5,000, right? Because the exchange was only like containing information about $5,000, and not about like $1,000, right? Right, so my short answer, and forgive me, is just gonna be magic's your knowledge proofs. Basically, that's what DKPs are about, right? I can prove statements about data in sort of very counterintuitive ways without revealing anything beyond the statement. But I think we probably don't have time to go into the details of how that works, unfortunately. But come find me afterwards, and I'm happy to talk more. So I have a question about the OCR, the off-chain oracle reporting protocol. So with the blockchain, it's easy for the different node to reach consensus, right? Because I can check the transaction signature, they can rerun all the bytecode of smart contract. But with the oracle, how does the different node reach a consensus? Because if it's a data feed, then it cannot compute, right? It cannot compute whether a data feed is cried or not. So I believe that the answer to your question is, OCR is a Byzantine fault-tolerant protocol that is actually the same family of protocols that consensus protocols are from, right? It uses similar techniques, it just has a different goal. Its goal is to provide reliable and secure reports about some data observed from off-chain to contracts on-chain. But it's similar techniques, and so you kind of, as part of how that protocol works, I get that property that the oracles communicate with each other over the peer-to-peer network, and that some of them can be faulty and so on. So you broadcast things, you converge-cast things, you use digital signatures, the usual type of things you would do in BFT protocols. Yeah, I mean, let's say if there's Ethereum or if the other blockchain are different nodes, just have to have a similar result from executing the transaction, have a similar result if a two-third of a node have a similar result, then can reach a consensus, right? But I understand you can use that for the consensus layer, but how could you have Byzantine fault-tolerance for the data field, right? Data fate, for them, but one node say the price of Ethereum is 1,000, another node say the price of Ethereum is 2,000. You cannot, how can them reach the consensus? I think what you're asking is how we reliably aggregate the data inside OCR, is that correct? No, for computation tasks, it's very easy to reach consensus between different computers, because as long as your, as long as the result or computation is the same, if two-third of node computer agreed, like the computation result of one transaction is the same, then you have a consensus, you are fine, you are good, but with data fate, like let's say if one-third of a server or node, China node think the price of Ethereum is 1,000. I see, I think now I get the question. Okay, so basically inside the OCR protocol, which I did not have time to explain in detail here, there is a phase where the different oracles converge, cast their individual observations to each other, and at the end of that phase, every oracle will have assigned observation from every other oracle. So if we have a bunch of oracles in here, every oracle will know what all the other oracles think the price should be, and at that point I can then have everybody compute the same kind of deterministic aggregation function, and I will end up with the same outputs and so I can reach agreement between the different oracles. No, that's not true. Thanks, everyone.