I'm Joshua Cooper and welcome to Cooper Union. What's happening with human rights around our world on Think Tech Live broadcasting from our downtown studio in Honolulu, Hawaii, and Moana, Nuiakea. Today we're looking at freedom of peaceful assembly and association of West Papua actualizing UDHR Article 20 in the Asia Pacific. Today we're fortunate enough to be joined by an amazing activist who is very much dedicated to the important issue of freedom of assembly and association. Rudy, thank you so much for joining us. Thank you, Joseph, for the time. Can you share with me why is this issue of peaceful assembly and association so important in international human rights law, especially where you live? Yeah, thank you very much for the time. And currently in West Papua the freedom of assembly is being, I think, that is often denied by these states. It is important to fulfill and protect because from that bottom we can understand what the people need. I mean, if you let the people assemble it and if you let the people express what they want, then you can solve the problem. I think that is the basic right of human rights where the citizens can participate in the in the policymaking and in the development progress of a state. So we cannot deny that right. So I think it's very important, as mostly with West Indigenous people, so we need more interaction. No, you really covered it so well. It's a freedom of assembly and it's paramount that if we don't have freedom of assembly, then the people can't come together, can't have conversations, can't discuss, but also can't coordinate in a way campaigns to then actualize these 30 articles of the universal declaration of human rights. And I thought the point you made that was so crucial is also how every human right is interconnected, that there's freedom of thought, conscience, and religion, which of course you could share with us a bit about unique aspects as Indigenous peoples that West Papuans are. That's important, but then freedom of speech to be able to share those ideas together, but then of course most importantly that element of self-determination and to actually assemble together and coordinate. Can you share with me what first inspired you to care about this issue so much and some of the first campaigns you've been involved with around freedom of assembly?  So that is what inspired me to promote what the people need. So that is why as we know maybe there are a lot of human rights audiences in West Papua and when the time we are trying to express it, it gets bent by the state, it gets oppressed by the force. So I think it's just something that we need to take more voice. So up according to the stories of my parents, up according to their past experience, that is the things that inspired me the most. And for my first enforcement to promote human rights violation is when I you know, conducting a rally to make a campaign in social media about human rights violations that is going on in West Papua for the example, like the case of Mukile or that they may remember Mukile forced in East Papuan that has happened several years ago. So that is my first where I will assemble the people to protest. And finally the perpetrators are brought to court for life sentence. And yeah, I think it's very important in Kursil to assembly and to express our opinion. Thank you. And you're really bringing up something that's so vital. It's something that most people almost think is part of everyone's life to be able to assemble. Can you maybe share also a little bit more though about West Papua culture, about the history and how we got to where we are today. But more importantly also what people in West Papua are doing on a daily basis to actualize Article 20. Yes, so for the for the history of West Papua itself, we are for the first in 18th we are colonized by the Dats by the Dats and then it's and then it's give to Indonesia through a free choice for 1969 where mostly West Papuan people think that it was that it was full of violence, full of fraud. So that is why it was for one people are still fighting for their right to self determination. And we're in West Papua, we are still living a culture of in a in a culture of indigenous people like we use the land we we are described the land as a mother with the source of our life. And that is totally opposite with what the government will commit today. They just destroyed the forest and didn't have much conversation or relation with indigenous people with West Papuan people. So it is sometimes it is sometimes fair to be sometimes so far from what West Papua indigenous people people need. And that is the things that become the problems today in West Papua. And mostly West Papua you you would purpose like me, we are trying to build such a movement like we are promoting a peaceful demonstration and peaceful peaceful approach to the to the conflict to be solved by the government by addressing the the core the core thing is human rights where we are all have the the rights to be free or and the rights to be the rights to to determine what we would be in the in the in the future. So there are a lot of things we we have done. Like we make a we make a lot of organizations such as Papuan speak on the on the Instagram and some there are so many different society of indigenous Papua that created by the young Papuan. So yeah I think we are we have started to uh yeah yes that's it. Thank you so much. When we look at that you're talking about self-determination but then you're also raising the important point of free prior and informed consent. It seems that there's many actions by the government that don't obtain the free prior from consent and also inhibit the right of self-determination. Can you share some of those aspects where the government has made decisions that then have a adverse impact on the people at West Papua? Yeah so let me just sample. Okay for for the example it's it's like the new provinces in West Papua. So now there are six new provinces in West Papua and it is without adequate participation and not enough participation from the indigenous people. That is why there are a lot of mass protesting all over the West Papua and maybe we can go over the internet we can see that that the West Papuan people oppose that that that kind of politeness because they see they see that as a threat to the indigenous people's life because there will be a lot of transigration there there where it will be a lot of development that is that is you know separating people from lands, separating people from their culture and for another example it's like spatial autonomy and spatial autonomy since 2001 has been updated in 2020 2021 years ago it is without proper participation from the indigenous people there are a lot of people protesting and the government responded by sending more crops to the region so that is the you know that is the real example of how the West Papuan people strikes of self-determination to choose how they supposed to live and how they choose their lives in the future is so controlled by the government. So we read the point because the universal declaration of human rights provides the power of ideas to initiate change in the world and the UDHR outlines opportunities for a new direction rooted in inherent dignity and able rights for dynamic sustainable development in social democracy and article 20 focus on the porn right to freedom of peaceful assembly and association to impact the public policy and practice of one's government for good and when we look at it though it seems like there's a couple factors there's rising militarism there's also corporatism of corporations coming in without allowing peaceful assembly and then also even that aspect of religion you of course shared that aspect of unique relationship with mother earth can you maybe expand on those three examples of how the lack of being able to come together and being able to practice article 20 are impacted by those three aspects of corporatism militarism and then of course that aspect of not respecting indigenous religion as well and spirituality. I think how it currently gives each other it is can be seen by by the the creation of numbers of populations of indigenous people when when these three aspects came into force with prior consent it affects the the populations I mean when the when the props came and when the when the props came and make people fear they cannot assembly and because the the absent of the rights of the assembly the people cannot express what they feel what they think and what they want and then lead to any other rights that is being filed so I think these three aspects need to you know need to go together need to apply together as one body we cannot have been back to the little people that's what I get from your questions maybe if it is no it's a great a great explanation of the solidarity and also the necessity of sustainability that we have to of course focus on mother earth first but then also you know to make sure that when people do the most basic aspect of standing up for what they believe in and assembling that then the military or incorporations do not come in and they've directly impact people for just you know exercising the most basic right can you share with us some NGOs that are champions to create a culture of human rights in West Papua you are sharing some aspects on Instagram and some other ways that people utilizing social media but in West Papua maybe what are some of the most powerful positive examples of exercising article 20 and then more probably international NGOs that you feel are standing up in solidarity with West Papua for the for the NGO I think for the for the NGO I think they move in very diverse sectors they just come from the independent sectors and then human rights sectors and indigenous people so it is like there is a live uh was a carbon dollar like yet and others is like apple it based in UK and human rights monitor based in Germany so and there are a lot of Indonesian national NGO that is moving in the sector of development and I think it's somehow helped it helped the voiceless people to rise their their voice up and there are as well post thing in social media campaign like what I've mentioned earlier like the pop on specs and pop on stick on the Instagram and like to be in Swarapapua either in cities are local local news that that is run by in several your pop on news where they are trying to give a deep dive dive first narrative from the instant media so I think maybe we can take that out it's like to be calm and Swarapua calm it is run by maybe uh free to remember it's a well-known journalist that maybe we can allow for empowering how you use the media to the people so I think that's many maybe there are a lot of a lot of examples but I think there I think that is what I can no explain here those are great examples and it's good to see the depth and how people around the world understand that their voice that they have when they have living in a democracy must be united to stand up with people who aren't able to exercise those basic fundamental freedoms so the examples you're sharing about Germany about all over the world plus also your response about Indonesia is important because then that shows that even in the belly of the beast of the colonizer that people there know what's happening is wrong that reminds me very much of really some of the most recent events we shared in dilly in Timor-Leste where we were able to be there on the 24th anniversary of the referendum can you share what it was like to be in dilly and how inspiring it is to meet with the people of Timor-Leste in their sense of solidarity with the people of West Papua and how you felt in that program in the evening programs as well as the larger one yeah I just feel so emotional you know like I just cannot I just cannot express what I feel I just I just take quiet and I think how beautiful these when people know not all the legal violence they've been they've been in dangerous like they don't have to be afraid of their land being taken they couldn't been taken so I think when they show me the solidarity it's an unrighteous spirit for for me to share to my family who's back in West Papua and I think that even at that time was very memorable and fantastic and it just somehow become blessed for me to memorable and fantastic and it just somehow become blessed for me to to keep on to keep on have a voice officially for the better world and you know for so our human rights can be protected promoted and fulfilled by by the that the barriers state so I think what they what they have what they have shown in daily pursue amazing when people when we can see even though even though they have no like they have no like enough welfare that resources but they live in a in a society where the human yeah Timor-Leste and yeah that's that's it I think what I think about it rather just no I agree it's it's it's so special to be there on that holiday when in the face of extreme violence the people of Timor-Leste they voted overwhelmingly for independence for being able to take control of their future after centuries of colonization from various forms and even as you brought up losing 200,000 people out of 800,000 in just 24 years that's quite an experience so it wasn't easy but more importantly as you said knowing that they were also under Indonesia that they were able to become free how does that inspire you to then assemble and then take action to realize what's possible yeah I think and take action to realize what's possible yeah I think the one thing that they have told me is solidarity and I think that it's the court of power when when we have solidarity we can protest peacefully we can use the peaceful way to promote peace I mean but that is through solidarity for all over the world as a human being we came together with with the same problems it is human repilations and they are denied of human repression and I think when we have solidarity it would be a weapon to to finally to erase all the worldwide abuses in the world so I think that is what inspired me and I finally understand how solidarity is the key so we have to build solidarity with Hawaii and with people in Indonesia or themselves we're trying to build solidarity at the moment solidarity it's true solidarity and it's not a theory right it's a transformative totally can see it directly applied and you can see it in the eyes of of the people of Timor-Leste that really one of us cannot have pure freedom and still everyone has freedom and when you see the way that they take action to set up a western Sahara and an embassy look at issues anywhere in the world that if anyone's human rights are denied anywhere on earth then all of our rights can never fully be realized so I think that's what's so powerful and article 20 says it's really essential to engage the people to participate in governance and promote human rights for all and you can see that the universal declaration of human rights calls for a coalition of conscience centered around trust and transformation while honoring values voice and vision and on the 75th anniversary it's important to reflect on the role of human rights in our daily lives and world affairs and you can actually experience it and feel that in Timor-Leste maybe at a more visceral and beautiful level than most people feel because it it's still only 24 years and it was rising out of the ashes of some of the most brutal situations anyone's faced in the history of humanity yeah and give it how they how they are in the end finally and celebrate democracy and what they're enjoying beautiful beautiful moments that is fantastic it is can you maybe share for people who don't know some of the major heroes of the human rights movement in West Papua historically and currently who have had such a huge impact to really bring to life article 20 yeah impact to really bring to life article 20 yeah for the first is what I what I want let let you know guys it's Phinit Karma Phinit Karma Phinit Karma he was he was a peaceful leader in West Papua where in 1998 he was you know make a demonstration in in Biak and and it's apocalyptic peaceful demonstration there is no weapons it is just just voice and microphone and all the posters they hold and there is no weapons but and then suddenly the the military came and you know just like shooting and disturbingly and it is what we know that in today's as a Biak massacre so it's like Biak massacre and so so historical historical moment historical day when the people are killed just because protesting just because you know assembly peacefully to protest what they so yeah in West Papua we know how Phinit Karma is in there is a war as well promoting peaceful peaceful movement peaceful assembly to to freedom and and for the protection of human rights that's the major human rights defenders in West Papua any others that you you would like to mention that people could learn more about exercising that article 20 yeah what I mentioned before is like Victor Yemo Victor Yemo is now in jail like even though the court already Victor Yemo is now in jail even though the court already already said that he must set free but the police didn't get him out of the jail to remove Jeffrey Wenda or yeah there are a lot of people but the leaders they are the leaders that that is us you know make make people assembly peacefully to demonstrate what they were Jeffrey Wenda actually want to want to join this this interview but uh you know what he has some business and he'll he'll enjoy he'll have been through infighting the next time just sounds good can you share with us just taking a moment and reflecting on the time and team more or less they but also the idea of what's possible in West Papua can you share your vision for the future of the right of article 20 in West Papua yeah for uh you know it's kind of difficult to to have a court vision especially when we know today the government posts are the same approach when it's just like will it throat in any other today the government posts are the same approach when it's just like will it throat in any other but uh i believe in i mean i still believe in that the thing when we get what we can fight and we keep you know peacefully declare what we were what we need or our better future and i think there will be still uh there will be still future for movement right especially when the year when the year will take motion yeah so there if if there are more more and people come to express uh like that if i can i give some your vision that maybe i i mean i cannot give a vision that it's impossible how i'm just trying to say why this written the reality didn't show we fully understand and we your vision is very clear because it points out what is so important in that why these freedoms these rights that are expressed in the universal declaration of human rights over 75 years ago are so valuable in the daily lives and why people value them so much so it's it's truly there and what you describe though is also reminds me of what president Joseph almost worked to said where he said no empire lasts forever so that then in a way nurtures that seed of hope that you were describing that one day soon this can change and more importantly that people can then live and practice these basic human rights and the u d h r article 20 is one way people exercise their engagement for equality and guarantee good governance in every nation and global democracy for our collective planet and the people desire dignity and to be part of this global family for freedom we can hear that in your voice how you yearn for these basic rights and how we have really a sense of solidarity but also a duty to one another to make sure that human rights are recognized in West Papua and around the world thank you so much for joining us today and really appreciate you not only all of your energy at the university of new southwest diplomacy training program but also your commitment to social change and a better future for West Papua and everyone on earth i mean thank you very much you soon as well for the time into it got this


So, here is a today I would like to discuss, you have seen you, so it is a not given anything you for which is obvious with us ok. I want to give a what we know the interest, I say if I am what how we can not bring ourselves for the future. So, these strategies I am covering ok the design thinking process how we can be able design thinking process for future practical product experience ok. So, here we have the Navishay Lab which is a technical of EFS to banking and financial and product sector. So, if anyone is apart from business anyone is here. So, that is the design has this really improve our position and even the apart apart first time it is not like you are also design part of design it is not like you have a problem ok. So, yesterday I had to one of my one of here is like to give the presentation related to how the companies can improve that you know and how they can make the development of product side. So, how does that seem like not pointless apart from pointless that seem like to what is how passionate you are to create the design and how passionate product product development ok. How promising ok when you are getting and present process. So, do we think like this is going to these are the things is required for the product development. The other way like I have ready for the future ready for the product which is coming. So, as I said you have started to develop the design is enough for the future. So, I do not think so that sometime you know scaling ok everyday like technology improving ok and upgrading new product coming new character system ok. And more products is coming is that technology in day by day and bring your product also. I do not think so like this will be required to really take the every time going for the certification to be a standard. So, what is the certification like going for training with good enough to really feature I do not think so. So, we see that the time lines 1982 started this is a current brand 2016 is a day by day very drastically changing by year to year. I can say like you have one thing we are seeing with new characters and new technology coming into place ok. So, how we can be future ready can really start up by you know design thinking. So, I feel that sometimes like so maybe like I am not sure of that how they get for the future technologies you may not be like this. So, the products are like gadgets or technology if you really apply for the design thinking process it may be relevant for the future which are goals ok. Many like blocks and you can see like any journals and I think in the future process you will see that the very new technology plans is coming and the new goals is coming which is complaining you ok. Sometimes it is a you just getting a situation for us ok. Is it really like that for me it may not be like this. So, let us start thinking for design thinking how we can be future actually is one of my one of my friends. So, move on for the design thinking there is a one of my guys sees what he always says that is simplified and humanizing. So, I have I have I really remember that the same thing in the statement is a simplified and humanizing but it is really just for us we will start idea in the idea in this process. in this process so it will be very good for us. So what is like context and content? As I said we need to enable ourselves for the future, we need to ready for future house which is coming in the U.S. So we have good researchers and the desirers we have good researchers the same way we do have the desirers especially in this area of the front end area we are always good analysis. Okay and we have good design.com direct agents and the design that is being done. And at the same time it is not that we will not only get the technology because the combination of technology and design is making us a better chance. You see like today products products what are inside it is a example its not only designed by And by saying to a technology person, I have to say before, how can you think that the design element is equal to technology? So the trend, the trend in the industry is that you realize the business and they are really incompetent in the design process. Technology was not like this. Technology prevents products, so now it's a design process into place. So which is really giving equal role for the new products. So one of my friends was working in Apple. He always says that it's not all about the design, it's not all about the design. It's for everyone, but the role or anything, we need to start thinking in the design thinking process, which can be really important. The business like, when you are in the business or in the business, or like the gadgets, which is coming from the... This is a very short time, right? It's coming to our mind. It's always like, nowadays in the market, especially like in the US market, which are people are using for the gadgets. Especially like the conducting edge and tracking edge to avoid this. You see this big calendar? Anybody using the big calendar? It's a very simple application, actually. The big calendar is very convenient. It feels like something is conducting the whole process. So many applications are coming. Still big calendars. We need to purchase to buy dollars or something. But still we have... It's just the impressions and the way it works. It's connecting with us. I also like the calendar.  So I don't know if this is a good product. It really creates an experience which is related to our calendar kind of activity. Sometimes it's really connected with me. It really identifies me. Maybe I can go for a daughter. Something that really interests all of me. Sometimes it reminds me of my mother. It's really always like... It's been a long time. So it really takes the orders. And by the same time, it's really... Indicating we are not buying. It's a time for the backup. Or it's time for the stand-up for the comments. So it's really connecting with us. So it's like the product development is very... You can see that these guys are the bunch of designers. And they develop this product. They will do that. Okay, so there's thousands of calendar products available. But still they made this as a simple design. And it's really... Which is really a type of colors. Just see that it's a total big calendar. You can see that it's very interesting. Nice and product. So these are like back to me. The earlier back to me and I... See that it's one of the cleaner cleaning items in my place. Okay, but you see they cater for everything. Okay, especially in the US. So we do use like regular carpets. And the designers gave the design. Which is like to... If you compare it to a product which is like 10 times extra. Or 10 times double the charge of the regular vacuum cleaners. But still people will need to buy for the designers. Because it's a design and it will enhance the product. The product is really... What are the issues in that area? Which is really... Now solving all the issues. And can you see this? This one I do. This one is... So they are really avoiding the... Blades or the regular carpets. Traditional carpets. But that's not a simple product. In the UK market, the site is another... About building products. Which is portable and usable... Bystand. So... The use of this product in the... Bystand is a bit more... Sometimes they... In private... The same... The public transportation. This is one of the... Even the impressive product. Which is... Watch. And it really... There's no reason for that. But even after this... It will give the... 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There is a plan there. Who will create one of the... One of the... True... Sunlight. Sunlight. And it is seen in the Philippines. Philippines, I think. I think it's a... Like a product. Which went for the... Necessity is created from the product. And very good interesting article is in the... Whatever. There is a go to that. And telling you... How we can expand it for this... Normal. But integrated. To the best... Best products. As you see this product... Has ever... This is a drug product. Cider water is what we need. Isn't that cool? The whole people... You know... Place them out. Okay. It's a very nice product. But it could be the product... Which is going to be... Catastrophic. Place it. It's going to be a good product. Vegetables and water. Cooling water. It should be like... Like... Again. So, how we can be... Closes. So we need to be... Go for a design thing process. Which is really important. As a user we need to... Emphasize. It's not really like... As a user-centric process. 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Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Jonathan Asley of JonathanAsley.com and I'm so excited to be doing this live stream for you today. Our topic, the three signs he's genuinely falling head over heels in love with you. Really quickly, if you're brand new to my YouTube channel, please hit the subscribe button, hit the bell so you could be notified of new videos. And if any time during this video, the content resonates with you, please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms.  It's direct, a little tough love and a lot of heart. And occasionally I use expletives to enhance the sentence. So if an F-bomb or two isn't your cup of tea, I suggest logging off right now. Lastly, these are my thoughts, my perceptions, my opinions, by no means do I suggest this is the truth. You've got to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a bit of a contrarian, so my advice goes contrary to public opinion and traditional expectations.  So my tonality is based on those who are genuinely seeking a partnership-type relationship. All right, so let's jump into the topic of how to tell if a guy is genuinely falling in love with you. So when I think of the word love, actually, I oftentimes think it's the most misunderstood or misused word in the English language. I'm gonna repeat that. I oftentimes think it's the most misunderstood or misused word in the English language. In fact, well, I possibly think that is it. And I recently did a Facebook post on this. I actually did it this morning and I want to share with you a couple of the comments. A lot of people were talking about love from the way the Greeks use the word love, have they different layers of love? There's a gap and a number of different ways of viewing love. And as the comments were progressing and people were looking at it from the romanticized way, I actually put the following comment to actually share where I was going with this. So I wanna read to you, I wanna read to everyone what I wrote. I said, an unhealthy attachment to another human being is where I was going with this post. Often humans think they're experiencing love with someone and yet they are in a sad, unhealthy, uncaring or toxic relationship, calling it love. Personally, I call that martyrdom and worse, it's a lack of self-love which is usually the reason why they stay. I'm gonna repeat that. It's a lack of self-love that people stay in those types of unhealthy relationship. In a romantic relationship, love is a two-way street. And if one person is a giver and the other person is a taker, that's not love in my book. There, I said it, that's my two cents. So I oftentimes witness women in particular express how much they love their partner they love their partner in a unhealthy relationship and they express how often they give to the relationship to an unhealthy, unsatisfying or even worse, a toxic relationship calling it love. So I think it's really important to understand what the misconception around love is usually centered around attachment. I'm gonna repeat that, attachment. And what I mean to say is if you're not familiar with the book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, I highly recommend checking this out. By the way, all the books I recommend are listed in Jonathan recommends books because this helps you get an understanding of what's known as love attachment style. And we can oftentimes choose partners, unhealthy partners for us believing that it's love when it's actually just an attachment to another human being. And to piggyback on that book, I wanna bring to your attention the book Getting the Love You Want by Harvelle Henricks and Helen Hunt because this talks about the Amago, which is actually, we oftentimes choose people in our relationships that are very similar to one or both of our parents and we're seeking to heal the wound with our parents, usually some sort of dysfunctional wound or childhood wound or trauma with our parents. So we choose partners that oftentimes, and if we're not conscious and aware of this, we'll repeat the patterns over and over and over again. You know, I was listening to a podcast earlier this week and it said, the average human has summer between 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts in any given day. I thought, wow, that's a lot of thoughts, but that sounds about right. Or at least I could see that to be true. Some of you probably won't believe that, but and again, I'm basing it on this podcast. And of those 80% of the thoughts we have are negative and of those 80% that are negative, 95% of them are repetitive thoughts. So imagine if you have a repeating negative thought going over and over and over in your head, it could be about the relationship you're in, it could be about yourself, it could be about your family, it could be about the traffic, whatever it is. Are you really in a genuine state of loving? If that's how much negativity, if the wolf we feed is negativity, then how can we actually be in a loving state? And I believe the antidote to that is gratitude, is to really practice an attitude of gratitude over and over and over and over and over and over again. And yet most human beings don't invest in their personal development, self-help and spiritual work. When I wrote my book, What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? A Journey of Personal Development, Self-Help and Spiritual Work, it's to at least be a starting point to begin on finding that space within oneself that we can be grateful. So we have the capacity to love another human being, because if we don't have at least a little bit capacity to love ourselves and if our thoughts are 80% negative, then imagine how loving can you actually be in a relationship and this is true for all human beings. I'm saying men, women and all the different variations of what that includes. So I was listening to another podcast today and it said that 96% of relationships, there's a one person is codependent in the relationship. I'll repeat that 96% of relationships, one person is codependent. And I thought to myself, wow, you know, now I always thought codependency was the attachment to a person who has an addiction. In fact, if you're not familiar with the book, Codependent No More by Melody Beatty, this was like this book came out 20 or 30 years ago and talked about codependency in a way that was never discussed before. And this is still today considered one of the premier books. So I highly recommend and the subtitle is how to stop controlling others and start caring for yourself, how to stop controlling others and caring for yourself. Now, some people probably would reject the idea that they are codependent. So the person, the therapist on the podcast shared some examples and I invite you all to lean into this because you're not gonna be able to recognize someone is genuinely falling in love with you nor is the person capable of genuinely falling in love with you if you're not in a healthy state of individual love for oneself. So let me give you some examples that she shared of codependency. Feeling responsible or solving the problems of the other person. Feeling responsible or solving the problems of the other person. Feeling used or unappreciated for all that you do. Feeling used and unappreciated for all that you do. Here's one, offering advice to others without their consent. Offering advice to others without their consent. Expecting others to do what you say for them to do. In other words, expecting others to do what you say. Taking things personally and personalizing problems. Feeling like a victim. Trying to please others in order to obtain their love or acceptance. And the number one component of codependency is a fear of rejection. And as a dating relationship coach for women, I can habitually say to you, most women operate from a fear in relationship of being rejected.  Anyway, chapter one, speak your truth, do it with kindness. And chapter nine is if it's sincere and from the heart, you can't say the wrong thing to the right person. So I'm here to suggest empowerment for all of you women who are watching this. And I just ordered a brand new book. I haven't began reading it, but I'm very excited to share it. I'm not sharing it from a place of knowledge. I'm sharing it from a place of curiosity. But what I love, the title is a little off-putting. It's called Why Men Love Bitches, but I love the subtitle. From doormat to dream girl, a woman's guide to holding her own in a relationship. A woman's guide to holding her own. Ladies, you habitually give your power away to men in relationship, meaning that the relationship is dependent on his terms. And I'm here to say, you are in charge of your relationship destiny. And if you're not operating from an empowered place, then most likely you might be operating from a codependent place. And it doesn't matter what the guy does.  It's gonna be difficult to appreciate love from another person. And I'm here to draw attention. Many of you misunderstand or misuse the word love when you're actually experiencing unhealthy attachment or just any attachment to another human being, or you might be experiencing the mago. So without, if you don't understand this, you might be, by the way, the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again, expecting different results. And it's time to shift that narrative for yourself, or at least that's my invitation. All right. So let's talk about the three signs he's genuinely falling head over heels in love with you. Now I wanna be candid with you.  I just, I put an and in between each one of the three. So we're gonna do blank and blank. But the first one, this is listen. If you're in a relationship with a really good guy, a genuinely good guy, this is how he'll be showing up in relationship. If he's really a genuinely good, kind-hearted, empathetic man who wants to be in relationship, who wants to be in commitment, this is how he'll show up. So number one, he make, oh, by the way, just showing you my notes. He makes you a priority and he makes plans with you. Those are two, actually, because one is making you a priority. And then the second is he makes plans with you. When a man is continually doing that, that's a good sign he genuinely cares about you, that he wants a relationship with you. And let me be clear. This is happens after the short-faced honeymoon. And the short-faced honeymoon is basically, these days, most relationships, it's about three dates before sex happens.  Because this is how you test men. And if he genuinely cares about you, he will want to read this with you. I'm getting email after email after email from women telling me, oh my gosh, this is working, Jonathan. I've introduced this book before we've had sex and the guy is actually reading it with me. And the men that don't probably aren't very serious about being in a relationship, at least with you anyway. So he makes you a priority and he makes plans with you. Even the plan to read the book together is a great sign that he's making you a priority and he makes plans with you.  A man who continually does this for the first six months, he's genuinely falling in love with you or he's head over heels in love with you. Number two, he's protective of you and he shows he respects you. He's protective of you and he shows he respects you.  He'll walk on the outside of the street, he'll put his arm out if he sees that there's traffic. He will do small gestures to demonstrate that he's protective of you. If somebody is looking you sideways, he might feel the need to confront the other person, whatever it is. And he shows he respects you by being on time for dates, his actions will consistently match his words. His action, that's a level of respect when your actions consistently match your words. Because when your actions don't match your words, it's disrespect. Ladies, I don't know how many times I listen and witness women who are in relationships with men whose actions don't consistently match his words. And yet you still want this person, that's a person treating you with disrespect. And look, I'm your big brother. If I could be there on a first date for you, I'd have the shotgun out, I'd point at the guy's face and say, what's your intentions with my sister?  What that means is there's a consequence if your actions don't consistently match your words and you don't treat my little sister with respect. And ladies, I can't be there for you to do that. You have to do that for yourself. This is why coming back to the book, Why Men Love Bitches, I mentioned earlier, is an empowerment. Ladies, it is time for you to take back your power. Would you write down in the comments or in the chat box, I retain my power. I retain my power. I do not give my power away to men. Can you please say that to me? I want to hear you say that. I want you to step into your empowerment because there's a lot of dating advice out there that is literally suggesting to women that your job is to merely be submissive to men. And I'm here to say, true, genuine men who want a serious partnership do not want submissive women. Now, I will tell you that men and women like cooperative people. That's a very natural thing to wanna be with someone who's cooperative and generally agreeable versus nagging, controlling, or worse, compromises their own boundaries habitually. We meant, and people don't like those types of people. What we really appreciate in human beings most when we're in a healthy space is we appreciate someone else who's in a healthy, empowered space. So I retain my power, okay. And number three, he wants to take care of you and he wants full commitment. I'm gonna repeat that, he wants to take care of you. Now, I wanna share something with you. I was in a relationship with a woman, my most significant relationship after my divorce, and I was going through a tough financial time in my life. I was starting this business. I had lost all my money in the market crash of 2008. In all transparency, I had to move in with my mom and dad in a retirement community. And quite frankly, I was addicted to drugs and alcohol. I was in no position to take care of anyone else because I could barely take care of myself. I was a train wreck. And I was in a relationship with a woman who accepted me. Now, she didn't need me financially or anything like that. She was very self-sufficient and she saw my potential. So that's what she was most attracted to but even I couldn't take care of myself. And there are a lot of men after divorce that can't take care of themselves. And it makes it very difficult to actually fully commit to a relationship. If A, you can't take care of yourself because on some level when you're in partnership with someone it says, I can take care of you. That was the whole idea of wedding vows. The wedding vows said for both of you is in sickness and health, I will take care of you through thick and thin, I will take care of you. When a man actually, and by the way folks, I probably haven't felt, I finally can take care of myself. It's taken me a decade to get there after that happened. Again, that was the market crash of 2008. So it took me a good 10 years to get to a place where I could really take care of myself although I moved out of my mom and dad's place years ago. But I now feel like I can take care of someone.  So I've been going through a lot of trauma too. And it's only just in the recent last few months, the last maybe six months, have I really stepped into the idea that I can actually take care of someone. And now I know deep in my heart that I can actually fall head over heels in love with someone because I made that commitment before I ever met the woman. I didn't meme the other day on the community page, but a man can't really fall in love until he makes the decision that he wants to fully commit and that he wants to fall in love with someone. Let me repeat that he wants to fully commit and he wants to fall in love. And until that happens, it's very difficult to actually fall head over heels in love with someone because you need to have that beforehand. The sad part is most humans operate like this. I'll believe it when I see it. I'll believe it when I see it. I'll believe it when I see it instead of operating when I believe, I will see it. When I believe I can fully take care of someone, when I believe I can fully commit. In other words, when I want to take care of someone, when I want to commit, that is when a special person will enter into, at least my hope is for my own life. So, so I hope you got some value out of this. These three signs, he's genuine. They're really actually six. I'm just gonna repeat them really quickly. He makes you a priority and he makes plans with you. Number three and four, he's protective and he shows he respects you. And number five and six, okay? These are really all part of one, two and three. He wants to take care of you and he wants to fully commit.  And sadly, most humans are just strictly winging it, both men and women alike. And this is why we have such a dysfunctional dating, mating or relating realm out there. And as I said earlier, if 96% of relationship there's one co-dependent person, it's gonna be very difficult to lean into a relationship. When I believe it, I will see it. All right, I think you got the gist of where I was going on this part of the broadcast. Now let's move to the Q and A. All right, those who know my format know my Q and A is simple, write the word question. By the way, if you're listening to the audio version of this, you won't be able to see this but there's a chat box for here. Those are on live. Please write the word question, post the question there after or purchase a super sticker super chat. There's a dollar sign in the chat box. All the monies from the super sticker super chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son Connor Asley who passed away. All the monies in the scholarship fund get donated to causes like the Hoffman process or Insight seminars. We've already donated over $2,000 to those organizations and I'd love to be able to give some more. So all of your help. And again, this is for only those live not listening to the recording. So again, purchase a super sticker super chat. All right, let's look for questions. All right. Oh, Jay just wrote, you're one of the only coaches who don't shame women for being strong, empowered and intentional in the dating process. If you want an equal then you should be the person you want to attract.  I am all about individual empowerment. This is why I'm reading this book, Why Men Love Bitches. I'm dying to know. I'm really curious to hear what she has to say. I was reading the reviews and I'm very curious to hear what she has to say. So yes, I am. Thank you for saying that, Jade. I really appreciate it. All right, Suzanne writes, question. How will you be spending your Friday evening? I'm just curious. Well, I'm actually going to a party. It's called a stranger's party where 25 people have to bring one guest to introduce like it's a, I think it's called a stranger's party, but the idea is to intermingle with others to get to know new people you wouldn't otherwise know in your life. And who knows, I might get lucky and meet the love of my life at this event. So Suzanne, that's what I'm doing tonight. So thank you for asking. All right, let's see. If you have a question, post the word question or purchase a super stat or a super chick sticker. Lori says, amen. Trista says, I really enjoyed the book. She's talking about why men love bitches. Suzanne says, how cute what you're doing, Jonathan. Thank you so much. All right, let's see what questions we have. I saw one earlier. Bum, bum, bum, bum, bum, bum. Oh, a lot of people are saying they don't want, I retain my power, way to go. You have a question, post the word question or purchase a super sticker, super chat. I don't see any questions here. So let's go, we're gonna have a short live stream if we don't have any questions. Folks, I need something to talk about. Bring up some, bring up the tough subjects. I'm trying to think what we can do. You know what, I do wanna talk. Oh, I see a question from back up. Okay, good. Question.  Okay, great question. So I love you for some people is the deepest form of verbalizing a commitment because it has an implied expectation of some longevity. I'll repeat that has an implied expectation of longevity. So while a man might be falling in love with you and he's demonstrating it through his actions, when a person says, I love you, it's almost akin to a commitment of something in the future. And it sounds like he's not ready for that. So my couple of questions for you would be, how long have you been dating?  Have you talked about what a committed relationship looks like for either one of you? Have you had those conversations? And if you haven't had those conversations, I believe it's gonna be more difficult to lean into love outside of the limerence and lust most humans feel. I'm gonna repeat that outside of limerence or lust most humans feel. So I would start having deeper conversations. Again, purchase the book eight.  And when I say should, you must be.  Listen, again, I told you right from the beginning of my podcast, I'm here to talk about partnership. I'm not talking about casual relationships, situationships, friends with benefits. You're more than welcome to do any of those ladies.  I am not here to judge that. I'm here to say if you want partnership, then be more intentional about it. So, and by the way, if you've only been dating three weeks, I don't think he's gonna say, you didn't say that, but I mean, he's not, you know, for some men it could take any worse from three months to a year before they say I love you because it hasn't implied expectation of some long-term seriousness. So that's probably the reason why. Thank you so much for that question, Beck. I appreciate it. Carrie says she typed a question earlier. You're gonna have to write it again, Carrie. I'm not a mind reader here. I can't find everything. Sorry. Okay. Joy writes, question, how do I get my boyfriend to believe I will never leave him after we marry? So if he has trust issues, here's how you're gonna get him to heal that. You spend the $5,000 and you go to the Hoffman process to heal childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas that is causing that without that healing, he's going to be habitually afraid and have trust issues. Folks, you gotta do the work. You gotta do the work and you have to be with people willing to do the work because magic fairy dust doesn't change anything. Magic fairy dust doesn't change unhealed wounds and traumas. What heals unhealed wounds, it's gonna take herculean work.  So that's my suggestion. Go to the Hoffman process. By the way, people will spend more money on shoes and luggage and clothing, but very little on their personal development. In fact, the average person spends more time brushing their teeth than actually doing inner work to heal the child and wounds and traumas and adult traumas that makes us human beings rather dysfunctional in relationship and have terrible emotional maturity and relationship skills. And I'm only yelling to get my point across. So Joy, I'm sorry. He's gonna have to do major work to heal that one. That is that you can't just simply say, I promise I'll be faithful to you. That's not gonna work. It just ain't gonna work. Ain't, ain't, ain't, ain't gonna work. Go do the Hoffman process. Change your life. Go to therapy. Go to counseling. This, he needs to do that, not you. Will you do it together maybe? All right, thank you so much for your question. I appreciate it. Jade writes, is there a fine line between being empowered without vomiting, nagging, being controlling? What is the definition of a bitch?  Babe in total control of herself. Nagging is not total control of yourself. Controlling is not being control of yourself. Vomiting is not being in control of yourself. Self-discipline is being in control of yourself. Read the book, the four agreements, the four agreements. This is a must read book. Is there a fine line? No, there is no fine line. Being empowered, you come from a curious, part-centered space. And when you're coming from a place of love when you're in empowerment and when you're coming in all those other places, you're coming from egoic fear. That's it. There's no fine line. It's very clear the lines, okay? Very clear. All right, thank you for that question, Jade. All right, let's see. Bump, bump, bump. Becky writes, how do you deal with the new man's unhealed ex who has stepped over her boundaries? How do you deal with the new man's unhealed ex? You deal with him with love. He's got an ex that crosses boundaries. Is it, are you gonna judge him for someone else's behavior? What you might encourage is boundaries for him. That's, you don't deal with it, you encourage boundaries. But if he is incapable of that, then listen, folks. Today's podcast, or broadcast, I'm gonna repeat myself. Folks, everybody needs therapy. Everybody needs healing.  My emotional maturity relationship skills chart. This is not a fact, it's opinion. 20% of the population has clinical issues. And while I say over here, 20% is healthy and I'm being ridiculously generous, most human beings are dysfunctional.  We are a dysfunctional batch of people. Human beings are ridiculously dysfunctional and the only way to heal is to do the work. Magic fairy dust doesn't heal. Work heals. How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, practice, practice. And that's the only way it's gonna shift this narrative. So, you make the recommendation of healthy boundaries and if he's incapable to do that, then you have to ask yourself, do you wanna be in relationship with his ex-spouse? And by the way, this is the challenge for those of us in divorce. Those of us that have gone through divorce. We don't, it's like, we don't get the, we're not just buying the cow.  Whether we'd like it or not. We're buying all of the dysfunctionality. So, I prefer people to have healthy relationships with their ex. I used to cross boundaries with my ex all the time right in the beginning of our divorce because I still felt on some level married to her. That changed after a while. It took me at least five years before I learned to stop crossing boundaries. And she repeated it over and over again because I was dysfunctional. I was strung out on cocaine. I was miserable. I'd lost my job. I was a train wreck. People who are train wrecks oftentimes don't know how to set healthy boundaries for themselves or with others. And I'm only yelling because at the end of the day, folks, I watched a commercial the other day. I mentioned this in my last live stream, but I was watching a commercial where three women are sitting at a table. They're talking about this one woman's date. And she goes, oh my God, he checked off all the boxes. He's tall. He's handsome. He has a great job, blah, blah, blah. And they go, why are you dis, oh, and she ignored his text message. And the woman says he doesn't do therapy. That's a deal breaker for her. These days, this is a must. Human beings, we need it. I'm sorry. You may not like what I'm saying, but whether it's therapy, whether it's personal development, whether it's self-help work, whether it's spiritual work, if you wanna ever have a chance of the juicy, delicious relationship, it's gonna require both people having done herculean work to get there. And the reality is is most of you, most everyone watching this are gonna have dysfunctional relationships. Partially because a significant percent of the population has codependency issues like I shared in the beginning of this broadcast. So anyway, I hope I answered your question. I was a little bit cursed with you, curt with you, and I hope you will forgive me. So thank you. Penny says, question, how can someone my age get into the dating with a potential quality partner material? Penny, I don't know how old you are. So are you 25 years old or are you 75? I don't know, but how do you get? You have to be, listen folks, let's be understanding of something.  You have to be seen by them. Folks, I work from home. I'm very blessed. I live it with a gorgeous ocean view. I work from home, but I'm not out in front of people except for what I'm gonna do tonight, okay? I mean, maybe if there's a female burglar that comes through my door and says I wanna steal your TV, and by the way, you're cute, you have to be seen by single eligible people. These days, 75, or roughly 50% of all new relationships is happening through an online connection.   You know, look at this first picture. I can barely recognize her. You might go, oh, she's cute and darling, but I can't recognize what she looks like. Let me go to this one. She's wearing sunglasses in her first picture. That's a no-no. Another one, sunglasses in her first picture. That's a no-no. Look at this one. She's not even looking in the camera. This is the first photograph. Folks, if you wanna be seen by me or anyone else, you gotta put a quality profile together. Look at my profile. First picture, quality photograph. Next picture. A quality, you can't see it, quality photograph. My kid's dog, okay? A body shot. A fun shot. And lastly, the books I read. Folks, if you wanna be seen, you have to put a great representation of yourself to be seen. Otherwise, if you can't be seen, how can you be asked out on a date? You have to be seen by someone.  Jonathan, where do I go to meet guys?  And we become more set in our ways. So if you wanna have a date and you gotta maybe ask ladies, you might start having to ask men out on dates and understand that you might be rejected for it. There's no two ways around this. You have to be seen and you have to be desirable. What about that?  Takes time to get to know someone. Keep in mind, we are meeting total strangers these days. So you gotta make effort.  They're not gonna get my swipe. All right, I'm done ranting about that. Thank you, Penny, for that question. All right, Homeboat Boogie says, question, who is the one if you're, wait, who is the one if you are in love with two? I have no idea what you're saying. Lori says, question, do you have any advice for widows looking to meet new special someone to share their life with? Lori, just what I just said, you have to be, it doesn't matter whether you're a widow or not, you have to be seen by single eligible people. Right now, online dating is the number one place even though it's the most dysfunctional place. Otherwise you're just, by the way, the other thing is folks, start asking your friends to set you up, start being more intentional. Because sitting at home praying, I mean, this is a good thing, you can certainly God, universe, spirit, allow me the opportunity to connect with someone special in my life, someone special that can join together and hold hands with me on this journey of love.  So God, universe, spirit, Gus, please invite that in my life and do some inspired action to make that happen for you. Can I get an amen? All right, Deborah writes, question, why do some people just never seem to meet up whether intentionally or accidentally go, that go the distance, especially 50 and up, why do some people just never fear, fear, fear, fear, fear, fear, fear, fear, people are afraid, it's natural to be afraid. It takes surrendering to love to actually be able to experience love. It takes a beginner's mind to experience love. And for those who have had trauma after trauma after trauma after trauma, both in their childhood, abandonment, abuse, maybe a nasty divorce, maybe a nasty partner, maybe someone at work, maybe a friend did something that affected you, maybe trust issues, all the different emotional baggage human beings are carrying, we are riddled with flaws.  They're delusional to their own dysfunctionality, most humans, not all, most humans are delusional to their own dysfunctionalities. And worse, they're hypocrites about it. And then some even go worse and they're victims over it all. I'm a victim to it all. I mean, we are suckling on the nipple of victim consciousness here in the United States. It's not gonna get any better. It's gonna get worse. But you don't have to worry about everyone else. All you have to do is care about yourself, to heal oneself, to operate from a place of love. What would love do? How would love respond? Forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness. The Hawaiian forgiveness prayer. I love you, I'm sorry. Please forgive me, thank you. I love you, I'm sorry. Please forgive me, thank you. I love you, I'm sorry. Please forgive me, thank you. Like giving yourself a shot of love, forgiveness. Forgiving love. I'm an invitation for all of you. Is to operate from a place of what would love do and how would love respond? Thank you for that question. Carrie, I finally found it, or you finally reposted it. Question, how do you find that you are, wait, how do you find that you are dating someone who resembles one or both of your parents? How do you find them? Are you asking, I wanna heal my wounds, so I wanna date the person that's gonna create the most anxiety in my life so I can heal my wounds? Is that, or how do you recognize them so before you date them? I'm gonna assume the latter. How do I recognize that? Here's the thing.   By the way, does anyone know what movie that's from? It's a Academy Award winning movie back in the 70s.  In other words, I am going to start living an empowered life. I'm gonna do the Hoffman process like Jonathan recommends. I'm gonna read the book, Why Men Love Bitches. I'm gonna read the book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, by the way, all listed below. I'm gonna read the book, Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters. I'm gonna learn as much as I can about myself. I'm gonna even read the book, How to Be an Adult in a Relationship. I'm gonna read all these books and I'm gonna start doing the inner work so I can become an amazing human being because it doesn't matter whether or not I fall in love with someone else. What matters most is I fall in love with myself. Or do my best to love on myself.  And guess what? Life is a game. You can look at it as fun or you can look at it as, and then you're gonna be times when you say, God, okay, I get the lesson. You don't need to send it to me. But if you have to say that, God, universe, spirit is gonna keep sending you the lesson until you start looking for that love within yourself and then you won't need to attract one or both of your parents to heal because you've already healed within yourself. Can I get an amen? Kerry, thank you so much for your question. I hope that helps. Penny, you shared your age. How does one my age, 73, find a quality partner, widowed 18 years? By the way, go to widow's groups.  You gotta find ways. I mean, I can't tell you what to do. You have to figure that out for yourself.  When you learn how to fish for yourself, you feed yourself for a lifetime. You're gonna have to figure this out on yourself. But widower groups, Home Depot, golf courses, that's where all the men are. Start playing golf, start going to Home Depot. Ms. Kit Kat says, if he says love you instead of I love you, does that mean he doesn't really and just saying it? That's a good question. I think so. I think men who don't say I love you, it's because they don't, as I said earlier, they don't wanna give the perception that they will go the distance with you. So that's the shortcut way. Again, dysfunctional human beings will do dysfunctional things.  All right, let's see what else we have. Nicole says, what are your top three tips for tips in finding your soulmate? What are your three top tips in finding your soulmate? Well, for me, she's gotta be into me. In other words, she has an affinity. I can feel that she's into me. Number two, she's got her act together. She's got her act together. She has her life together. She's not in drama. She's not in chaos. She has her act together. And third, she has a passion for personal development, self-open spiritual work because for me, that's where I wanna dance in that realm. So for me, that's my top three. You come up with your three non-negotiables. And then God, universe, spirit, I invite you to attract in that person who is totally into me and I'm into her. And I wanna attract in that person who has got their act together.  God, universe, spirit, allow that into my life. Hmm, thank you. Sue says, even putting in the work or even with putting the work in, my fear is my very deep seated, rooted childhood trauma will always affect my intimate relationships with the opposite sex. I've been doing the work. Yep, you're doing the work. You gotta heal, okay? At the end of the day, you gotta heal. And sometimes healing is just letting go of it all and just trusting. That's it. Sometimes it's just letting go of it all and trusting that God, universe, spirit. Because you don't need to relive your traumas over and over again. And if you do, what's the definition of insanity? What's the definition of in suffering? Sometimes you just gotta let it go. All right, GS says, question, if he's my best friend, how do we step into more?  That's a great way to go from best friends to a relationship, have sex with each other. Question, do you think a person can have too much knowledge about relationships and too much life experience to be bendable with another immature person, especially 50s and older? You know, I vacillate over this question for myself. I am my own worst enemy. Part of my problem is I can't stop putting on my coach's hat. It is really a challenge for me. I think, let's put it to you this way. I could have had three relationships since my last significant relationship ended. All of these relationships ended if I settled. I could have settled on several relationships just to have a relationship. I think when you have knowledge, you actually come at it from ability to be in a healthy relationship. So all you have to do is trust. Trust that the universe will invite the most amazing person in your life. First, that amazing person is within yourself. And I trust that universe has done that for me. God, universe, spirit. And I trust that the universe will bring that in for my life. And if you need some help with that, check out the link to a free discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you. That's my answer for you, Deborah. All right, folks, you know what? It's Friday night. I want you to go out. I'll have a great time tonight. I hope you found value in the three signs he's genuinely falling head over heels in love with you. I just want to remind her what those are. Oh, thank you, Heather, for the $10 Super Sticker. But I want to remind you what they are. He makes you a priority and he makes plans with you. He's protective of you and he shows he respects you.  I believe it and then I'll see it. When I believe it, I will see it. Anyway, really quickly. Oh my gosh, we have so much here. Did you find value in this broadcast today? Please let me know. Say, yes, I found value. Heather says letting go of it all and just trusting. 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Hi friends, welcome back to my channel and a very special welcome if you're new here. My name is Jen. I'm a certified weight loss and nutrition coach and it is Monday, so it's meal prep day. I have three really good recipes for you. Two out of the three of them require no cooking. So really great for hot summer days and the other one is packed and I mean packed with protein.  Subscribe if you're not, turn your bell on so you never miss a meal prep every Monday or I do upload five videos every single week. Check out the description box down below. I will link my recipe website at the top for you. That is where you will find all of my recipes including today's three as well as nutrition coaching where I offer personalized to you macros and calories. Highly recommend, this is how I've lost and maintained 140 pound weight loss as well as one-on-one coaching if you have questions, accountability or want to talk with me directly. Links and discounts to my other favorite things as well as my Facebook group are also down in that description box. So let's head into the kitchen for meal prep. Breakfast this week, I'm making an almond butter strawberry banana overnight oats with chia seeds. I've been craving oatmeal but it's 110 here so I want cold oatmeal and I love overnight oats. So easy, so convenient. You can take them with you on the go. Just a really good breakfast option. So let me show you what you'll need. First you're going to need milk of your choice. The recipe actually calls for almond milk. I always sub almond milk with Fairlife because Fairlife has protein and we are all about the protein. So I'm using Fairlife, rolled oats, non-fat plain Greek yogurt. You can also use vanilla Greek yogurt, chia seeds, whatever jars or bowls you want to use for your overnight oats. I'm actually making three days worth. You'll need a large, really ripe banana, some strawberries and then almond butter of your choice. No surprise to anybody, I'm using American dream nut butter and I'm going to use the blueberry cheesecake almond butter. I think this is going to pair perfectly with the bananas and the strawberries. I love American dream nut butter because it has eight grams of protein, only seven carbs, 12 grams of fat and less points in calories than regular peanut butter or almond butter and it's amazing, absolutely incredible. So we're going to do blueberry cheesecake. I will go ahead and link American dream nut butter down below for you with 10% off. So to make our overnight oats, it's really easy. We're going to put everything in a bowl and then we'll divide that out amongst our three jars. That way we have an even amount in each jar. So the first thing that we're going to do is add one full cup of rolled oats. I diced up about 15 strawberries, that banana, one half of a cup of yogurt, one and a quarter cup of milk, one tablespoon of chia seeds and then mix that together. You want to make sure everything is fully mixed. You are going to add your one tablespoon per jar of nut butter to the top of your overnight oats right before eating. So we're not actually going to mix the nut butter in with the overnight oat mixture. We'll just pop it right on top. You can also top your overnight oats with extra strawberries, extra banana. If you like a little bit of a crunch, add a little bit more chia seeds to the top. But once we get this mixed together, we're going to divide it evenly amongst our three jars. So I have my overnight oats ready to go. This little wood lid is from Timu. It was in my most recent Timu haul. And then these plastic lids, I buy these off Amazon. These are amazing. I will link them down below for you. But this is going to be a breakfast for the week. I'll probably pair it with some type of protein, maybe eggs, bacon. We'll just have to see. But let me go ahead and put points, calories, macros here on the screen for you. So for my lunch this week, I'm actually making, well it was a chicken teriyaki burger, but I'm going to do a turkey teriyaki burger with sesame slaw. So a little bit of Asian vibes. You can have this on a bun, not have it on a bun, whatever your preference is. I'll probably pair this with some fruit. So let me show you what's in the recipe. So for the burgers, you're going to need a pound of ground chicken or a pound of ground turkey, whatever your preference is. Teriyaki sauce, breadcrumbs, garlic powder and salt. And then for the slaw, you'll need coleslaw obviously, rice wine vinegar, sesame oil, sugar. You'll also need a little bit of salt. And then the recipe called for green onions. I did not buy green onions. Don't ask me why. So I'm going to omit those, but those can be added to the slaw as well. So for the burgers, I added the one pound of ground turkey or chicken to a bowl, half of a cup of panko breadcrumbs, quarter cup of teriyaki sauce. You can use any teriyaki. I just looked on the back and found one that had a little bit less calories and sugar, garlic powder and some salt. And then as always, I go in with my hands. It's the easiest way to mix and form the burger patties. I do have a quarter sheet pan here that I sprayed with some nonstick cooking spray. I have my oven preheating to 400 degrees and I'm just going to throw my burgers in the oven. It's easy at this point. We don't have our grill warmed up or anything. I don't really want to pan fry them. It's just a little bit more messy. So I'm just going to pop them in the oven. The recipe makes four burgers total. So they're quarter pound burgers, which is going to be a huge, huge bang of protein. And this is such a low point recipe. You guys are going to be shocked at how low point this is. So let me go ahead and get this mixed together and form my four patties. So I'm going to go ahead and pop these in the oven until they're cooked through and let's put together the slaw. Now for the slaw, we're going to add two cups of the cold slaw to a bowl. This is actually a storage bowl. That's going to be perfect. That way I can just mix it in here and store it in here for the week. To that, we're adding one tablespoon of rice wine vinegar and one tablespoon of sesame oil. One teaspoon of sugar. I'm just using regular granulated sugar. And then we're going to add a little salt. And then of course you would add your green onions. If I had green onions, I definitely would have added those. That was definitely something I would have chosen to add per the recipe if I would have remembered to buy them. We are just going to stir this up, get that slaw coated in the rice wine vinegar, the oil, salt and sugar. And then I'm going to just pop a lid on this. And like I said, I'll store it in this bowl. And each day I'll just top my burger with one fourth of the slaw. My burgers are out of the oven. These smell really, really good. I'm super excited for these nice big burgers. Packed with protein. Again, I'm going to top it with some slaw. You can do a bun, you can skip a bun. You could pair this with your favorite chip, cracker fruit, whatever you would like. But I'm really excited to have these all week. First week, treat this week. We're doing all things summer and I am making a no bake berry lush dessert. So this is basically vanilla wafers, whipped cream berries. It's going to be amazing. So let me show you what you'll need. First you're going to need vanilla wafers. You can use full size. You can use reduced fat. I've got the minis. That's all they had at Walmart. Actually, we're the minis in the regular full size. And I like the mini. So once I make the recipe, I'll be able to snack on the rest of these. You'll need whipped cream of your choice. I'm going to use true whip just because it has better ingredients. One third best fat cream cheese, light butter. Berries of your choice. I'm going to do strawberries and blueberries. Vanilla extract. And then I have Lakonto powdered. That is my powdered sugar alternative that I really like. I will go ahead and link Lakonto down below with 15% off for you. And let's make some dessert. So the first thing we're going to do for our dessert is I added my vanilla wafers to a bag. Make sure that you leave about an inch of it open for air. And then we're going to crush them. You can use a rolling pin, really anything that you want. Listen, we're using the vanilla extract bottle. It's plastic, so it's safe. And we're going to just crush up the cookies. And then we're going to add the crushed cookies to a bowl. Five tablespoons of light butter melted. We're going to add that directly to the cookies. Stir that up and that's going to be the crust of our dessert. Let me go ahead and grab out my baking dish and we will add in the crust. We're going to add the cookie mixture to the bottom and then just spread it out. So I added my whole block of cream cheese, one cup of powdered sugar, some vanilla to a bowl with your mixer. Go ahead and mix that together until creamy. Make sure your cream cheese is softened as well. And then we're adding in our entire container of whipped cream. I did have mine sitting out so that it is no longer frozen and then mix that in. So now we're going to take half of the whipped cream cream cheese mixture and add it on top of the crust. And then spread that out nice and even. And then you're going to add half of your berries. Top it with the other remaining half of the whipped cream cream cheese mixture and then spread that out. And then top it with the other half of your cut up fruit. Now I'm going to top it with some of the birthday cake whipped cream just right on top. And then I'm going to just top it with one of the little mini vanilla wafers just on top of each of my little dollops of whipped cream. And that is the berry lush dessert. You're just going to pop it in the refrigerator for about an hour, let everything set up, get nice and cold. This is giving me fourth of July vibes, but also summer. It's no bake. You don't have to warm up an oven. It makes it really, really simple and would be a great cookout or barbecue dessert. We have my boot camp instructor's birthday here in a couple of weeks. I think I may bring this. If it's as good as I think it's going to be, it would be the perfect dessert for a barbecue or party or just for your family. So let me go ahead and pop this in the fridge. I'll put points, calories, macros here on the screen for you. Thank you for joining me for this week's meal prep. I hope you are as excited about these three recipes as I am. I love that two out of three require no cooking. We're not mad about that at all and lots of protein in the lunch recipe. Don't forget, I will link my recipe website at the top of the description box as well as nutrition coaching, links and discounts to my favorite things and come join our Facebook group. We'd love to have you. Thank you so much for watching. Happy Monday and I'll see you in Wednesdays of what I eat in a day. Bye.


You know this is a massive event you know what's for us. I think it's probably best one before the season and then before the cup starts as well And then I think we expected from ourselves more and then lots of things to do you know in the in the preseason And then I hope we're gonna get there We're gonna get to know each other better and then that's that's how what the pre-seasons are for and You know today, maybe it wasn't our best game But you know it was some good stuff and then we can go from that I didn't really do what I what I expect from myself as well But I think I get there slowly. I'm just like literally not even two weeks in Australia But I get used to it. I already know you know get to know some guys. So You know on the position I play I think I need to cooperate with with you know wingers and then strikers and I think It's not too bad at the minute, but don't we we can't forget that is a is another friendly game Which is which we I'm gonna play you know a lot before the season starts and before actually the cup as well You know we need to just think about the positives about the positives from the game And then least good or good opponent, which you know is championship I just remind myself how how tough the championship is you know because there's just like old man all the time But that's what that's what the games are like, you know probably in the league is going to be very similar, but I look forward you know to the game to the league games to the to the cup games


From there to state, we'll move on next to Ogun state, where members of the Mobile Phone Dealers and Technicians Association have staged a peaceful protest in the Belgrade State Capitol over an attempt to appeal, to enforce, rather, a court judgment to dislodge them from their various shops in the Ibarra area of the state. The protesters took to the area with different placets, with various inscriptions, during the demonstration which caused a gridlock and disruption of commercial activities. As monitored in the state Capitol, there was heavy deployment of police personnel at a computer village located at the Ibarra area of the state Capitol, allegedly enforcing a court judgment secured about three years ago. This is the letter they came from. And we are here to appeal to His Excellency, Prince Abiodu, to come to our rescue, to save our soul. As you can see, our people here, we're more than 4,000. We are the ones that are feeding our family. We are struggling to survive. If about 4,000 youth can lose their work within a second, what do you expect to happen here in Ogun state? We are begging, we are begging Prince Abiodu, our amebu governor, to come to our rescue, to deliver us from loyable people in Ogun state. We are appealing to every citizen of Ogun state.