Live from San Diego, California, it's theCUBE. Covering KubeCon and CloudNativeCon. Brought to you by Red Hat, the CloudNative Computing Foundation and its ecosystem partners. Welcome back to theCUBE. I'm Stu Miniman, my co-host is John Troyer and you're watching theCUBE here at KubeCon, CloudNativeCon 2019 in beautiful and sunny San Diego today. Happy to welcome to the program a first-time guest, Tom Wilkie, who's vice president of product at Grafana Labs. Thank you very much. Thank you so much for joining us. Thank you. All right, so Grafana, it's on your t-shirt. We've been hearing customers talking about it and the like, but why don't you introduce the company to our audience and where you fit in this broad landscape here at the CNTF show. Thank you, yeah, so Grafana is probably the most popular open source project for dashboarding and visualization. Started off focused on time series data, on metrics, but really recently it's branched out into log analysis and tracing and all of the kind of aspects of your observability stack. All right, so really big, you know, broad topic there. We know many of the companies in the space. There's been many acquisitions, you know, recently in this. Where do you fit in the ecosystem? I saw like databases, like a big focus when I look at the company website. Bring us inside a little bit of the products we're offering the customers. Most vendors in this space will sell you a monitoring product that includes the time series database, normally includes visualization and some agent as well. Grafana Labs and Grafana open source projects very focused on the visualization aspects. So we are data source agnostic and we have backends for more than 60 different data sources. So if you want to bring together data from, let's say, Datadog and combine it with some open source monitoring from Prometheus, you can do that with Grafana. You can have the dashboards and the individual panels in that dashboard combine data from multiple different data sources. And we're pretty much the only game in town for that. You can think of it like Tableau allows you to plug into a whole bunch of different databases for your BI with that, but for monitoring and for metrics. Well, so Tom, maybe let's, before we get into the products and more of the service and the conference here, let's talk, well, on the front page of your website you use the O11Y word. So we've said words like monitoring here. We use words like management. We use words like ops. Observability is a hot topic in the space and for people in the space, they had some nuances. And so can you just maybe let the viewers and us know a little bit about how the space is looking at this and how you all feel about observability and what everybody here who's running some cloud native apps needs to actually function in production. Yeah, so I think you can't talk about observability without either being pro or for the three pillars, right? So people talk about metrics, logs and traces. I think what people miss here is that it's more about the experience for the developer. Grafana and what we're trying to achieve is all about giving engineers and developers the tools they need to understand what their applications and their infrastructure are doing. So we're not actually particularly picky about which pillars you use and which products you use to implement those pillars. But what we want to do is provide you with an experience that allows you to bring it all into a single user interface and allows you to seamlessly move between the different sources of data and hopefully combine them in your analysis and in your root cause of any particular incident. And that for me is what observability means. It's about helping you understand the behavior of your application. In particular, I mean I'm a software engineer by trade. I'm still on call. I still get paged at 3 a.m. occasionally. And having the right tools at 3 a.m. to allow me to as quickly as possible figure out what happened and then dive into a fix, that's what we're about at Grafana Labs. All right, so Tom, one of the things we always need to understand and show here, there's the project and there's the company. Yep. Help us just kind of understand the difference the products, the mission of the company and how that fits with the project. So the Grafana project predates the company and it was started by Tawkel. He, you know, he saw a spot for like needing a much better kind of graphical editing of dashboards and making the kind of metrics way more accessible to your average human. Grafana Labs started really to focus on the IT and monitoring observability use cases of Grafana. But the project itself is much broader than that. We see a lot of use cases in industrial, in IoT, even in BI as well. But Grafana Labs as a company, we're focused on the monitoring side of things. We're focused on the observability. So we also offer, we, like most companies, we have an enterprise version of Grafana. It has a few data sources for commercial vendors. So if you want to get your data dog or your Splunk into Grafana, then there's a commercial option for that. But we also offer a hosted observability platform called Grafana Cloud. And this is where we take the best open source projects, the best tools that we think you need as an engineer to understand your applications and we host them for you. We operate them for you. We scale them, we upgrade them, we fix bugs. We, so Grafana Cloud's predominantly a hosted Prometheus, a hosted Graphite, and a hosted Loki, our log aggregation system. All combined and brought together with the Grafana front-end. So yeah, like two products, a bunch of open source projects. Grafana Labs employs four of the Prometheus maintainers. I mean, I'm one of the Prometheus maintainers. We employ Graphite maintainers, obviously a lot of Grafana maintainers, but also Loki, I'm trying to think like, there's just so many open source projects we get involved with that really it's about synthesizing an observability platform out of those. And that's what we offer as a product. So you've recently had an announcement that Loki is now GA, can you talk just a little bit about Loki and aggregation and logs and what Loki does? Yeah, I'd love to, yeah. A year ago in Seattle actually, we announced the Loki project. It was super early, I mean, I just basically been finishing the code on the plane over. And we announced it and no one, I think could have predicted the response we had. Everyone was so keen and so hungry for alternative to traditional log aggregation systems. So it's been a year and we've learned a hell of a lot. We've had so much feedback from the community. We've built a whole team internally around Loki. We now offer a hosted version of it and we've been running it in production now for over a year, doing some really great scale on it. And we think it's ready for other people to do the same. One of the things we hear, especially at shows like this is I really, developers and the grassroots adopters come to us and say, we really love Loki. We really love what you're doing with it. But my boss won't let me use it until it goes V1. And so really yesterday we announced it's gone V1. We think it's stable. We're not going to change any of the APIs on you. We would love you to use it and put it into production. All right, we'd like to hear a little bit more about the business side of things. So I believe there's some news around funding. How many people you have, how many, can you parse for us how many customers of the projects versus how many customers of the company's products? Well, we don't call them customers of the projects. They're users. Yes, yes, of course. But I'm from a company where we have hundreds of customers. I don't believe we make our revenue figures public. So I'm probably not going to dive into them. But I know the CEO stands up at our yearly conference and discloses what our revenue of the last year was. So I'll refer you to that. The funding announcement, that was about a month ago. We raised a great round from Lightspeed, 24 million, I believe. And we're going to use that to really invest in the community, really invest in our projects and build a bit more of a commercial function. The company is now about 110 people, I think. It's growing so quickly. I joined 18 months ago and we were 30 people. And so we've almost quadrupled in size in the last year and a half. So keeping up is quite a challenge. The two products I've already touched on, a few hundred customers. And I think we're really happy with the growth. We've never had any institutional funding before this. The company's about five years old. So we've been growing based on organic revenue and barely profitable, but reinvesting that into the company. And it's growing really well. Also one of the, I mean, it's not that unique, I guess, but we're remote first. We have more than 50% of our employees work from home. I work from my basement in London. We have a few tiny offices, one in Stockholm and one in New York, but we're really keen to hire the best people wherever they are. And we invest a lot in travel. We invest a lot in the right tools and getting the whole company together to really make that work. It's a really fun place to work. Well, Tom, we're still in the business here and I don't know how much time you've spent at the booth this year, but can you compare? I mean, we've been talking about the growth of this community and the growth of this conference. Can you compare, say, this year to last year, the people coming up, their maturity, the maturity of their production, et cetera. Are they ready to buy? Are they still wondering what this Kubernetes-y thing is? Where is everybody this year and how does that, how has it changed? Yeah, and that's a good question. We're definitely seeing people with a lot more sophisticated questions. The conversations we're having at the booth are a lot longer than they've been in previous years. The, you know, in particular, people now know what Loki is. We only announced it a year ago and a lot of people asking us very detailed questions about what scale they can run it at. Otherwise, yeah, I think there is starting to be a bit more commercial intent at the conference. So a few more buying decisions being made here. It's still predominantly a community-oriented conference and I think the, I don't want that to go away. Like that's one of the things that makes it attractive to me and I bring my whole team here and that's one of the things that makes it attractive to them. But there is a little bit more sales activity going on, for sure. Any updates to the tracing and monitoring observability story of the projects here at CNCF this year, since you're part of the Prometheus project? Yeah, so we actually, we had the Prometheus conference in Munich two weeks ago and after each Prometheus conference, the maintainers like to get together and kind of plan out the next six months of the project. So we started to talk about adding support for things like exemplars into Prometheus. This is where for each histogram bucket, you can associate an example trace that goes, that contributed towards that histogram, that latency. And then you can build nice user interfaces around that so you can very quickly move from a latency graph to example traces that cause that. So that's one of the things we're looking to do in Prometheus. Of course, Jager graduated just a week ago, I think. We're big users of Jager internally at Grafana Labs. And actually on our booth right now, we're showing a demo of how we're integrating visualization of distributed tracing into Grafana. So you can, using the same approach we do with metrics where we support multiple backends, we're going to support Jager, we're going to support Zipkin, we're going to support as many open source tracing projects as we can with the Grafana UI experience and being able to seamlessly kind of switch between different data sources, metrics, all the way to logs, all the way to traces, within one UI and without ever having to copy and paste your query and make mistakes and kind of translate it in your head. All right, Tom, give us a little bit, look forward. A lot of activities, things going, graduating and pulling things together. So what should your users be looking for kind of over the next six to 12 months? That's a great question, yeah. I think we do a yearly release cycle for Grafana. So the next one we're aiming towards is Grafana 7. Like for me, Grafana 7 is going to be all about tracing. So I really want to see the demo we're doing. I want to see that turned into like production ready code, support for multiple different data sources, support for things like exemplars, which we're not showing yet. I want to see all of that done in Grafana in the next year. We've also massively been fleshing out the logging story. With Loki, we've been adding support for extracting metrics from the logs. And I really think that's kind of where we're going to drive Loki forward in the future. And that really helps with systems that aren't really exposing metrics like legacy systems where the only kind of output you get from them is the logs. Beyond that, yeah, I mean, the worlds are kind of oyster, I think. I'm really keen to see the development of open telemetry and we're just starting to get involved to that project ourselves. I'm really interested to kind of talk to people about what they need out of a tracing system. We see people asking for a hosted tracing systems, but IMO is very much like pick the best open source ones. I don't think that's emerged yet. I don't think people know which is the best one yet. So we're going to get involved in all of them, see which ones are community kind of coalesces around and maybe start offering a hosted version of that. Yeah, final thing is, what advice do you have for users? Obviously, you like the open source thing, but they're hearing about observability everywhere. There are the whole APM market is moving this direction. There's acquisitions as we talked about earlier. There's so many moving pieces and a lot of different viewpoints out there. So just from a user, how will things, what makes their lives easier and what advice would you give them? Yeah, no, definitely. I think a lot of vendors will tell you like to pick a vendor who's going to help you with this journey. I would say like pick a vendor you trust who can help you make those decisions. Like find someone impartial who's going to not make, not try and persuade you to buy their product. So we would, I would encourage you to try things out to dog food and to really like invest in experimentation. Like there's a lot going on in the observability world and in the cloud native world and you've got to try it and see what fits. Like we embrace this composability of the observability ecosystem. So like try and find which choices work best for you. Like whenever I talk to them.  I think, I mean, I would, it depends on your level of kind of maturity, right? And sophistication. I think if this is really important to you, you should go down that approach. You should try them all. If this is not one of your core competencies, then maybe going with a vendor that helps you is a better approach. But I come from the open source world and I like to see the whole ecosystem and all the different players and all the different new and exciting ways to solve these problems. So I'm always going to encourage people to have a play and try things out. All right. Tom, final word, Loki.  Are you the God of Mischief? Well, so the official line is that Loki is the North mythology equivalent of Prometheus in Greek mythology. And Loki, our logging project, is Prometheus inspired logging. So we've tried to take the operational model from Prometheus, the query language from Prometheus and the kind of cost efficiency from Prometheus and apply it to logs. But I will admit to being a big fan of the Marvel movies. All right. Tom Wolke, thank you so much for sharing the update time for Fana Labs. Definitely look forward to hearing updates from you and the future. Thank you. All right. For John Troyer, I'm Stu Miniman. Back with more coverage here from San Diego. Thank you for watching, thank you for watching theCUBE.


The problem with the way the government behaved, suppressing even true speech, even just regular scientific debate, it undermined the public trust in these institutions, like the CDC, like the U.S. Surgeon General's Office. And as a result, the government lost the ability to effectively counter misinformation like that with more speech. And I think that's my—I mean, I think that's the right thing. If the government is telling their—the honest truth is best they know how, and they build up trust with the public as a result of it, there's not going to be a big problem with misinformation. People will say wrong things all the time, but that's not—that's not the problem. The problem is the inability to counter it with trustworthy sources. Free speech allows that the kind of suppression of speech we had basically undermines the capacity to deal with it. Kate, any comment from you on the question? I just want to point out that you just said that the government should build an institution that can measure these types of things, and that is literally like kind of one of the things that the CDC is in charge of doing. And so the fact that this is something that kind of—the fact that this was something that was happening and that the government was putting in support, and also that one of the recommendations in the giant record that you make mention of in the Missouri v. Biden case was that a lot of these requests were essentially that Twitter didn't answer them by—or Twitter or Facebook or whatever didn't answer them by taking down speech.  They would allow something like the chips and vaccines type of thing to go up, and then they would put a label on it that said something effectively like, this has been disputed by so-and-so, and we're not sure if this is accurate information. And that was also called censorship.   Can't both be— Kate, they banned vaccine-injured groups from talking to each other at the request of the government. Who? Who is that? They, being the Biden administration, forced the Facebook to do that. Forced Facebook to do what? It's absolutely in the records of the Missouri v. Biden case. Not only that. I'd say like the way that they—in the hand-handed way, they forced the social media companies to tag false information and disinformation actually, I think, spread further distrust, right? So they put—go see what the CDC is saying on absolutely true things. So essentially saying, look, what this regular Joe is saying online is wrong, even if it was—it's just a link to a peer-reviewed paper. And they put it on these like vaccines are microchipped. I think it was an absolute—the way that the government regulated speech online, censored speech online, absolutely fueled the distrust of a significant fraction of the public about the vaccines. It was an absolute disaster for public health communication. But you just said that counter speech was the way to solve the problem of allowing First Amendment protected speech that was wrong to stay up. I didn't say that this was counter speech. I'm saying that what they did was censoring. I'm saying that if they wanted to build— What was censoring? The labels that you say are counter speech are now also censorship. No, what was—no, I didn't say that. You said that. What I said was that the Biden administration's demand to put the labels on was censorship. It was defamation of people's—even when they were saying correct things, whether true or false, those labels went up.  That's not counter speech. Counter speech is that you have a CDC that says we've done a scientific study. Here's the thing. And they buy advertising on the platform. They have public PSAs. They have other mechanisms other than intruding on how the social media companies present and regulate the speech that they have. What they did was absolutely censorship. They prevented vaccine-injured people from talking to each other. They forced Facebook to take down speech of vaccine-injured people. What do you think was going to happen to them? They're not going to start trusting the government on this. I was wondering, just Kato, you want to—yeah. All right, well, next question.


On the Ogun State's government has received the first batch of diary cows in commencement of diary training through a public-private partnership. It is at the ongoing diary training institute construction in Odeda Farm Institute. According to the Commissioner for Agriculture at Dior Laudidino, it's towards the socio-economic development of the state. It will enhance local diary production in the state and southwest at large. Today we have the cow arriving and they are doing well. This is also going to be a pilot for the whole of southwest that this is possible and it's going to impact on job creation, food security and nutrition security in Ogun State. The French experts are here, coincidentally, they are also making their inputs into this. A week ago, not a month ago, we were in France as fascinated by the governor of Ogun State for the livestock summit. What we saw in France is also happening here and a lot more farmers are keen into it. So it's a promise kept for Ogun State government, promise kept for the administration of Prince Doctor that we will build a farm, that we are going to partner with private sector and we are going to have a practicing investment in Ogun State. As Laurent was saying, we are here because we believe in Nigeria, we believe that this project is the first one to bring first food to the people and then work also to first farmers and all the people of this state and we are pretty much involved to arrange a long-term partnership and to bring expertise to this project for a bigger success for today and the future.


In this training video, we're going to cover summary tasks in Microsoft Project. So we want, in this example, advertising to be a summary task to cover plan advertising, design job packs, and organize advertising. So we're going to highlight all three tasks, and I tend to highlight tasks from the task number area. So four, five, and six. On the task tab, in the schedule section of the ribbon, you can then choose the option indent task. This will then produce a summary task. And there's a summary advertising, which is a summary of three days because the longest duration right now, they're not linked yet. At this point in time, the longest duration now is three days. Now I might want to produce another summary task for the interview phase. So we want the interview phase to include four tasks. Now let's say we accidentally only included three tasks, and we indent. Now say no, that's not correct. We needed a fourth one to be included. To get rid of the summary task, you highlight the tasks inside the summary task, and then out-dent from the schedule section of the task tab. Now I'm going to highlight the four that I want, and then produce the indent. And here we go. Now what you'll notice is the duration at present is showing the longest durations of the tasks within the summary task. The people might say, well, that's not always going to be the case. Well, it won't, because when you link the tasks together, these summaries now will give you different durations. So really, if I link them and they go one after another, these tasks. So if I look at, for example, advertising, if the tasks go one after each other, so you're going to plan advertising, then you design job packs, then you organize advertising. Well, that's been accumulated total of seven days. So when you link them together, advertising will show seven. Interview phase won't show 10 days when they're linked. It'll show 10 per first interview, six per second. So 16 days and one more for select applicant. So we're going to see this change now by linking all the tasks together. So to do this, I'm going to highlight the whole of the table area in project. And I'm just going to click on the chain to link everything together. And now we can see that advertising has now changed to seven days, three plus three plus one. And the interview phase is now updated to 17 days, which gives it the 10 plus the six plus the one. Now you can display the summary tasks. You can also, on the format tab, hide the summary tasks. If you ever wanted to hide them, you can hide them and then you'll see gaps in your project. So you don't see often, often see this, but you could. And that's the summary tasks back on. So this completes the training video on adding summary tasks to a project so correct in a summary task if you miss out tasks and you need to reset the summary task. If you enjoyed this video, make sure you like and subscribe to our channel. Hope to see you for the next tutorial and thanks for watching.


Hi guys, what is up? Welcome to my channel fair warning if you are one of those declutter fans where you just feel so satisfied Watching those declutter people throw out half of their makeup No, I'm not doing that today. I spent too much money on my collection to do that Especially you know with me being newer ish in the last couple of years to make up the majority of my makeup It's not old yet. So I still want it something that I also didn't mention is that I'm constantly going through my makeup drawers. Anyway, like my makeup drawers don't sit still I play with makeup. I swatch makeup all the time hence swatch and sip like I'm always up in my makeup drawers So if there's something I don't want like I kind of get rid of stuff one by one all the time So that's also another reason why it seems like I'm a weak human being like I am weak. Don't get me wrong I have courtish tendencies absolutely But it's not as bad as you think. Okay. Let's just I'm not going through my palette drawers because I always mill through that But we're going through my makeup drawers basically And I'm just picking out all of the old stuff or things that I really just don't want in my collection You guys have been requesting a declutter like so many times and um, this video is going to disappoint you But you can't say I didn't do it Anyway, so if you just want to hang out with me Look at makeup look at my messy makeup drawers and look at me picking two items out per drawer that I don't want Then just keep watching All right, so the first category we are going to tackle here are primers. I keep them up both in here So let's see. So I have a big bag show cream and a baby one I'm going to put the baby one in my kit. I have a baby wonder glow I have another big one in the other drawer So that's going to go in my kit and then I have two becca backlight priming filters This one is empty. So I'm just going to throw this guy away And then I'll keep this one just in case I ever need it for a video of course keeping this I think mostly everything in here. Yeah Is worth Keeping like I said guys not a big declutter in here should kind of be the same Sitch because primers aren't something that I got into until recently. So this one This is a shallow tillery magic cream. This is all dried out. So I'm going to empty this And I'm going to keep the jar for my makeup kit, but obviously that's being decluttered. It's all dried out I have a sample of I don't even know what So that's gone. This guy is so close to being done you guys and then I can get rid of it I'm not overflowing with primers in my opinion. All of these are relatively new I am going to get rid of this blurring primer from cover FX It just does nothing for me except sit in this drawer. So that's going Huh, I have a sunscreen in here. I need to move that somewhere else. We have another becca primer What is this? This is the first light priming filter another one Okay going away as well I put all of these samples in my makeup kit to see if I like them on a client keeping this I'm so close to finishing this milk hydro grip primer. Obviously being this So I have a couple of little smashbox photo finish primers. Honestly the regular original this guy I've had for a while. So I'm going to declutter this. This is really old and I never used it This guy I'm keeping that's relatively new. This is $60. So I'm keeping that This is a really good primer and then I actually have not used this This is the touchey clap blur primer from ysl I'm definitely keeping this super lux and I can't believe I've never even tried it So I need to put all of these small ones close together so that I Use the baby ones because it's easy to forget about the baby ones. So I'm going to put these back Um from primers. I've managed to declutter all of the samples basically in one full size Here we have all of my drugstore foundations I definitely have not gone through this in a really long time This I'm getting rid of this is the neutrogena protect and tint tinted moisturizer. I've only used this once So I'm going to give that away and I didn't like it the one time that I used it. This is great. This is great Most of the stuff is Pretty good I have this bourgeois healthy mix foundation I got it last summer when I was in spain and it's just not that good So i'm gonna give this guy away So the rest of this is all good and fresh and ready to stay in my collection So immediately what i'm going to get rid of is this gnar's tinted moisturizer This is a really great tinted moisturizer. It has great coverage But this I got like four years ago. So that needs to get out of here. That's trash I'm considering repurchasing that because it's really really good I really really hated this foundation. This is the georgio armani Cushion foundation. It just is dry and gross. So I am going to declutter this from my collection But I am keeping it like in my room in the case that I do a full face of makeup that I hate Because I want to put this foundation on anybody else anyways, and it would go in the trash Either way, so I'm going to keep it in gross products that I hate, but I'm keeping just in case I'll keep that. I don't really like that. I think everything else should be solid. Those are products that I remember to get rid of I'm thinking about this one. This is the eight cosmetics confidence in a foundation There was balls in this one, but I like to the coverage on this I'll use it one more time and if it's just not worth it I'm getting rid of that. This one's kind of just a random drawer of mostly bases and overflow So I have like a couple face oils immediately. I'm getting rid of the nyx eyeshadow base I used it in my most recent pastel tutorial and it's just not good. So that's being thrown away Keeping that, keeping that. I never know when I'm gonna need that and then I'm getting rid of this old Too faced shadow insurance. This has seen better days. I love Too Faced shadow insurance I've just had this for forever. So I'm gonna trash this and everything else is pretty new and fresh and worth keeping Like I already have like this baby ready to go in replacement of that. I've never tried this I need to try that. Okay. So everything in here is good to go. I also have my eyebrow drawer So I have these touch and soul pretty filter brow expert pencils I don't really like these. I think the colors are really weird and unwearable. So I'm going to get rid of these I have a lot of sigma brow items that I need to use. They were sent to me. I need to use those I'm trying to, is there anything in here that I just Don't want and will never use. Okay. So I'm also getting rid of the milk makeup kush fiber gel This is pretty much empty. I used it every day for work. I really like it But it's seen better days and it's old so goodbye the color pop brow boss gel has also seen way better days It's almost empty. I've used it to almost nothingness. So this one is going to and these are both unopened I bought these when I like pomades and now I don't like them anymore So they sit back there I need to get back into pomades because every time I use them I'm like, dang my brows are banging But I keep a lot of brow products in here and I have some of different colors that I need to throw my makeup kit So I just went through my powder drawers. They're really big So I didn't pull them out and plus most of the powders I'm keeping but these are the ones that I'm decluttering This is the two-faced prime and poreless. This is really old I don't even think they sell it anymore and it leaves a horrible white cast on my face and then this guy I have a fresh one already and this is just gross And then the gnar's powder foundation. I mean seriously seriously I'm just it's wasted space. It really is dreading my concealer drawer because there's just so much that I know I'm going to keep and it's been a while since I've been through here The ones at the bottom are the ones that are going to be hard But immediately I'm going to get rid of this bourgeois radiance reveal concealer. This is really dry like so dry I'm considering decluttering of this catrice one drop weightless concealer because I've never even used it, but Maybe I'll do a full face the products I've never used. Okay, this wet and wild photo focus concealer I don't know how many years old it is, but it looks like it's seen better times So let's get rid of that. This physicians formula instant ready full coverage concealer. Oh, I've never used that. Hold on What am I doing? I'm getting rid of this LA girl pro conceal. This was an okay concealer I would consider repurchasing this just because it's so affordable But mine is like old because it has this horrible brush tip that I don't want to deal with so we're gonna get rid of this one Nothing else is expired in here. Just making me realize that I need to use some certain products more Okay, so what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna mix this up and put the bottom concealers at the top So I start grabbing for them That didn't work. Okay. Let's move on So when I was going through like my cream highlight and blush sugars Everything was worth keeping because I'd only just gotten into cream blush But I've been into cream contours for a while and I've been holding on to this Dior Dior blush light and contour stick. Oh my gosh It was so good and I never used it because I loved it so much I never wanted to run out which then I just ended up never using it And it breaks up my foundation now that the formulas changed but this was the best for such a long time But it's so old. It has to be like five years old. See I'm debating about these two This okay, I'm gonna keep these these might see their way out the door soon They need no, they still feel really nice and creamy. Hmm. Okay The only one that I'm really contemplating is this one. I haven't used it in a really long time But it's not old It just was a little bit harder to blend. It looks like poop. Okay. Bye Okie dokie So this is the only blush drawer where I was like, okay, I need to go through that and immediately I want to get rid of This pacifica highlight duo that I or blush duo that I got in an ipsy I just never use it. The colors are beautiful though. This sleek blush trio I have an abh one which is basically identical to this so that's gonna go We really like this stuff Okay, that's it That's it for this drawer. Here's a highlight drawer worth contemplating. It's all high end stuff So I don't want to get rid of it, but I know I did see one that I want to get rid of. Where is it? Oh right here.  This is not good. Anything else? I think everything in here pretty much Checks out. Oh albatross from nars. I've kept this for nostalgia purposes. This is my first ever highlight It's gotta go. It's old. She old So we're good. So my eyeliner is a mascara I actually rotate through pretty regularly. So I'm not as worried about these I recently just went through and Throw away some old mascaras because I'm fearful of old mascaras The only one that I'm gonna throw away is this color pop brownie mascara. It's brown and it's not a good formula I just liked it because it was brown, but I've had it for too long So that's gonna go this one's on the edge of being decluttered and I like this one though I really like the brush on this one. It's basically empty We'll throw this one away and that way I can open up a new one anyways. Yeah, okay Cool this drawer is good. We threw out a couple. I don't know why but this is also some eyeliners Let's see here. I'm gonna get rid of this wet and wild h2o proof I buy this every couple years because it's major nostalgia for me and it doesn't actually know what this is Good. Don't listen to me elf one. It's a dollar, but it started to get icky. So that's being trash Pat McGrath this kind of all is this dried up. No, what? Okay. I have this hank and henry liner You know, that's dry by This is gone that pop on D one is gone. Um, this is old is all get up this has to go And this I bought recently, but it kind of Wasn't good. I'll give it another chance, but I didn't like it when I got it I have this Crayola beauty mascara never used it and I just opened it. So that was really smart of me Um, okay. I think we're good. Everything here is good to go So that's eyeliners one more eyeliner drawer that I forgot about is this one of relatively old products But mostly it not for me kind of weed through and see what we have This is good And the snicks wonder pencils old is all get out and you're putting it inside your eyes This has never been used. I don't even know what this is This is like has to be like 10 years old. This is from a super old limited edition Too face palette This is old. Okay Think everything. I don't even beauty for real Bye What about this? Do I need this it's a white pencil. I'll keep this Everything else in here checks out now. Let's move on to a dreaded drawer of mine My liquid lipsticks you guys.  I have all of my colitos, which I'm keeping because Colitos Is the life I keep these crazy colors because I'll use them as a liquid liner sometimes So that's kind of my rationale Fenty of course. Oh my gosh. This was it for me in college keeping that Keep oh my gosh. Why am I like this? Why am I like this? This is Chanel. It's so old though, but it's Chanel keep keep Honestly, I need to go through and declutter these Kylie's because they are like old And all dried up. They still smell good though I'm gonna keep them for display because I have a whole display of these but more Kylie. I love her colors Getting rid of this never use that color. This is pretty. Okay Here's a siate glitter flip that took all my money Okay, so it's time for me to say goodbye to my Kat Von D liquid lipsticks I bought these in college and they give me really good memories But I think I need to uh declutter these because these are like five years old But my favorite shades in case you're wondering nose for a two lolita This color is ugly And bow and arrow honestly might have to repurchase these colors because I Loved these here's another drawer. These are lip glosses I'm gonna get rid of these two face melted chocolate lip glosses. Just never use those I'm not gonna get rid of a lot because I actually did kind of go through this already when I was cleaning out my makeup Most of these are saying guys. Yeah, this is probably nasty. This is a stila like Glitter topper that looks dried out that needs to go um, nobody liked these so let's Get rid of that. We'll never use this color. It's a lip bling from tarf, but that's kind of ugly How does this smell? It smells bad. It's gotta go. No, it still smells like delicious I'm gonna get rid of this smashbox metal lip. I know I have all these weird purple colors But I'm keeping them to one day wear with my crazy purple colors because I do use them for tutorials I got rid of some a lot more than I thought I would because I'm so attached to lip glosses By the way, these aren't all of my makeup drawers. These are just ones that contain things I plan on getting rid of Like here are some higher end lipsticks. I want to see if Some of these still smell good. Yeah spirit from mac Smelling a little old. So that's gonna go and that means I have to smell most of them. Dang it My goodness viva glam mili Cyrus Do you know how old that is? It smells really fresh though. Ah keeping it um Whirl this one has to be old. Yeah Unfortunately, Whirl has to go. It's old. What about mare also? Like these are heck old keep keep keep keep keep keep keep keep Okay, I really don't care about urban decay lipsticks No, I never use it and this ew. There's like Okay, I see that there's like stuff on it. Okay. No more urban decay lipsticks in my collection This one. I don't know. So these are all new. These are like because they're gnar's like notice I haven't really pulled out that many luxury stuff because it was so expensive These are relatively new Um, I mean this was for my senior year of college, which was two years ago. These are fine Yeah I'm gonna keep these because I never know when I'm gonna need these colors. They aren't hurting anybody. They're small Now these guys on the other hand, this is where we're gonna get um roofless These are so old. I used to love the nyx matte soft creams as you can see I bought their holiday stuff I just have collected them. I'm gonna keep this Maybelline lipstick and spice for me You don't know how it got on this drawer, but the rest of this has got to go I really do like these But it's just they they're wasting a drawer. This one smells good. Okay. I'm gonna pull out a couple colors Like I like los angeles All of these big ones though, they are super old so I can't keep them But the little ones like these these ones are more fresh. So okay, all of these I'm just gonna That was really smart really really smart of me I did a quick go around at my setting sprays So I'm getting rid of the milani make it last because uh, there's nothing in there And then I have this skin and co Radiant dew spritz that I think I've used once and I just Don't want it. Okay dear friends. So this is my failure of a declutter Really just kind of looking at my makeup drawers and pulling out the old makeup really. Um, yeah You guys have been asking for a declutter. So hi, I deliver don't say I didn't do it, but I told y'all I can't declutter. Okay. Oh wait. Okay. Let me show you my face, but I just wanted to show you The gold that we have to show you listen like I did declutter some stuff and most of it's old So don't ask me to give it to you Okay Okay, one. Sorry. I got out of the shower.  I do receive pr But not really Like I barely get any seriously Most of this is stuff that I've paid for that I've worked for which is why I'm stingy about Decluttering unless it's literally disgusting. I always am coming up with new video ideas So I never know when I'm gonna need it and no nobody needs as much makeup as I do But it makes me happy. I throw it out when it gets old. I love makeup Even though, you know, there are some makeup pieces that even though I don't necessarily wear them I still love on them because it makes me happy to surround myself with makeup But yeah, okay, give me all the hit comments you want. That's fine But I do feel more cleansed though because a lot of this stuff that was in the drawers is stuff that I've been Eyeing to throw away, but I haven't yet So I just kind of wanted to film doing it so you could get a closer look at my drawers We could hang out a little bit look at makeup. That's what I like to do I like to look at makeup even if I don't use it.  So thank you guys so much for watching. I hope you guys got something out of this video I don't know, but I will see you guys in the next one. Bye guys. Have a good one You


Why you must avoid the narcissist. You must avoid the narcissist because they're damaged They're not good for anything long-term. They can be good for short-term relationships The beginning of a relationship with a narcissist is really what people complain about But when it comes to long-term relationships and having a family That's when the problems begin to arise You should always avoid anything long-term with a narcissist Because they have psychological problems They have problems that you can't solve but these problems will become your problems If you enter a long-term relationship with them These problems will affect you because narcissists are out of control They will make it your problem They will cause drama and chaos just to get your attention Because they were raised by a single mother Or they didn't have a strong father figure They were never disciplined So now they think they can do whatever they want They don't understand emotional boundaries They didn't have a man there when they were growing up Which is clear from their disorderly and disruptive behavior Where they are not amenable to discipline or control That's why they're so disobedient and unmanageable That's why they're so rebellious and attention-seeking Because they never had a strong father figure to lead them From day one people have enabled this behavior And even when the narcissist got older There was no incentive for them to change Because society glorifies narcissism It's seen as a desirable trait So there's no way that you can come along and give them the discipline that they never had It's too late They're just going to walk all over you You can't teach an old dog new tricks They can only teach themselves But they don't see anything wrong with their behavior It's worked for them all their lives It's gotten them what they wanted So why would they change now? Which is why your only option is to avoid the narcissist Because they're unpredictable You never know what they're going to do next And they will make you dedicate all of your energy towards them Rather than your goals and dreams Which is why you must avoid them at all costs Because when you're building a career to maintain your family You need to focus You need to be dedicated to your career So that you can build the income to support your family So that your children can have a good future But to do this You need a partner that is supportive You need someone who is on the same page Someone who will give all of their attention to the children And helping you to achieve your goals and dreams Which would be for the benefit of the family that you're building But narcissists are not reliable You cannot depend on them to be there for you When things get tough they're not good to be by your side You must avoid the narcissist Because they will always demand for your attention to be focused on them And their problems They will demand that you fix their situation But by doing that They are taking your focus away from your goals and dreams They are taking your focus away from your long term goals and objectives That they should be supporting Because narcissists need constant attention The spotlight always has to be on them Everything has to revolve around their problems Which will then result in you not being able to achieve your long term goals and objectives You will not be able to support your children and give them a good future Because the narcissist will drain your resources Which is not what you want You want someone that is going to help you Rather than someone who is just going to be a leech on your energy and resources If you're just seeing a narcissist in a casual relationship It might not be a problem Because then they can't really affect your life But when you're dealing with them long term Eventually they will begin to suck your energy They will pull you down While making you feel guilty as though you're not doing enough You become their caretaker Your entire life begins to revolve around them You try to save them But they just weigh you down Which is why if they demand too much of you You must avoid them You must leave them behind Because they're going to bring you down You will never achieve what you want in life You will never achieve what you want in life Because they will make sure that they are the centre of your attention They will make sure that everything revolves around them And your life will just pass you by Whatever you are striving for Will just become a forgotten dream A distant memory Because the narcissist will always drive you away from the things that you want So when you realise what you're dealing with You must discard the narcissist Or 10 or 20 years down the line You will live to regret not having discarded them Thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My paypal link is in the video description Coaching English You can email me at coachingartsurvivor.uk Thank you for watching And I'll talk to you soon


Educational inequality was an issue well before COVID but the pandemic has further widened the learning gap. We must use this moment to truly catalyze change. We must identify what is working, the new ways and innovations that are delivering results for students and what can we learn from and scale. Education is a building block for a strong, well-functioning society. It is required for long-term economic growth and it provides the tools needed to solve social, political and economic problems and crises.


Why don't we try my original idea of what made it? Let's wander back to the trailer. Are we through? Yes. We're through. All fertilizers are getting in the tooth. Swell. Any other good news? They'd use it and then we'd have it. They'd think you were lying that we tried to say nothing happened.  You'll break a tooth on the base of the mountain and down. That's a big mouth. Okay. To be on the other side of the fence when you come back? Yeah. He's going to be on the...  Yeah, we'll be out there by the... Right up in here. The mechanized forces will be, I'm sure, on the gravel road inside. Yes. And there'll be caution also on the up through hidden secret... You call it what you call it. It's not the guys that named it. I never... Is it hidden or secret? Secret metal is on the map, yeah. They'll have to abandon the road part of the way up. Yeah, it's washed all over. They did it the other day because we got stuck up there. Right. They had any place to hang their jacket. No, he's the one we had down in front. You know, it's always bother.  I just wonder where that gateway is. What do we have to do with this map? Pennsylvania has this way over here. The black top. Yeah. Right here. And we'll do the same as go down that... But this is us over here, isn't it? No, that's the vortex. Oh, that's the vortex. Oh, I see. Yeah. That's the point. Right. So what we're going to do is come right out around here and... That's that low way. Yeah, by the well. And then come up and over to here. And then we'll go up that. We go down here. Turn left on that one. That is Snake Lake Road. Then we just stay on Snake Lake Road. All the way up and over the ridge and come around this... Fall Mountain. Fall Mountain and down Pennsylvania. You're right. No. They heard of these thousand ponies in there. And then the cavalry was ordered... Surrounded... They put them in three bunches to surround them and slaughter, kill them. Yes, I've heard that. Yes, sir. And this tells of how many men just... They killed them. But how many men just put down their guns and they didn't know it. The cavalry didn't want... Their thought was that those fast ponies, that they didn't have the ponies, they couldn't get away from them. So they killed them. Yeah. Yeah. Morning, ma'am. Morning, ma'am. How are you? All right. You timed that out just right. Anybody see us on television? Oh. This is our own. I'll see if you can take a dip.  Oh, I know that. You've eaten several times. It's not a vicious one. He just, you know... Well, he almost got me one time. I thought he was vicious. The whack of the nose. The bite will really hurt. Yes, I will soon.  Even if he just gets a little bit... Duke is up at the other end of the firebreak. Huh? Duke? He is? Yes. Just in one, two, just... Part of the handle on the three of these. This could change the taste on the plate. Can we change the change you made for that? We'll wash it off now. We'll stick with the carrot and wash it off the end. They're right there.  Testing one, too. So it's okay.  Trust has to be rewarded. A few inches. Now we're coming in. Stick it right there. I'm glad to see you all know how it was not treated. My shirt was getting wet, and I was worried about how it was getting wet. Yes? Yes, that stuff? Yeah, okay. A few more minutes there. The barn was built for goats. And it was really to get rid of the poised nook. And they did it. It's coming back now, because it's been a great many years now, but this side was just almost virtually clean of the poised nook. But every afternoon, because of the mountain lions, he had to put them in the barn. And by golly, they got so smart, all he did was put some Malfalpha in it, and he only had to herd them a couple of times. And along about five o'clock every afternoon, down they'd come in and he'd close the doors on them.


Throughout the execution of Maltese Dragon, we had different supporting units to include 3rd Landing Support Battalion, MCI PAC, and various other augments, feed information through different systems that exercised Combat Logistics Regiments 3 ability to command and control their subordinate units by throwing different injects throughout the execution of the exercise. Injects are different scenarios that present a problem set that the staff has to work through and solve. Eiser is the Information Management Officer. What that is is the person who receives all the information, both from current operations and future operations. All of that information needs to flow somewhere, so it comes to me, and I help to synthesize it to present to the commanding officer so he can make informed decisions. The commander is going to be fed a lot of different types of information ranging from installations to the tactical level, and he is going to have to make informed decisions. So having one point for all that information to flow into and system set in place in order to filter through that information is going to be critical in force design 2030 in order to make sure the commander is able to make those informed decisions. Maltese Dragon began with a problem set that the staff had to thoroughly break down using the Marine Corps planning process and build up a solution and different courses of actions in order to solve that problem set. The exercise allowed the staff to work through the Marine Corps planning process to develop different courses of actions that they could execute later into Maltese Dragon. The reason this is so important is when we have to go and execute real-world missions, we're going to have to make sure we have a thorough understanding of the problem and building these reps and sets on how to break down a problem and provide legitimate solutions is going to be critical in a fast-paced environment. Maltese Dragon flow was a constant throughout the execution of Maltese Dragon and I served as the touch point for all that information. What needed to be worked through is what was relevant to the commander and making sure all the staff had the opportunity to provide relevant input and making sure it was synthesized in a way that allowed the commander to make informed decisions and have a thorough understanding of both the problem and solutions that the staff could provide to him. So the goal of Maltese Dragon was to evaluate CLR-3's staff as a LSTX or logistic staff training exercise hosted by the Marine Corps Logistics Operations Group here on 29 Palms. Additionally, we were answering service-level questions in regards to the future logistics combat element design under Force Design 2030 in order to enable the Marine Corps Warfighting Lab to take those points back and advise executive-level decisions on the force structure of the future. So in the context of the McCree or the logistic staff training exercise, I played a role as a logistics officer within the larger team, specifically the future operations of planning cell. We were being evaluated on an ability to problem frame, develop tasks, task those and communicate those tasks to subordinate units as well as communicate that plan to the watch floor, the current operations section in order to execute that plan. So one of the unique aspects of Maltese Dragon was we were testing a future operating concept, one for which most of us haven't had experience directly dealing with. So in order to solve problems related to the problem framing and to that problem, you have to rely on your experience. If you've never experienced any reading you may have done, the Marine Corps has reorganized in the past. This is not the first time we've changed our structure, which all builds your intuition. Additionally, your analytical skills, your problem-solving skills, based on your experience and your intuition, look at what you know, your known-nones, your unknowns, and even consider the things you might not know and develop a best course of that action in order to advise the commander on the risk that he's taking with that problem. So within the logistics field, the biggest problem we run into is the issue of scarcity and competing requirements, whether that's subordinate units needing things or the mission directing supplies and logistics going in two different places. So as a higher headquarters in the instance of Maltese Dragon, the bifurcated nature of the mission between installations, facilities, and tactical logistics creates scarcity, as well as prioritizing the needs of those installations and facilities, as well as the tactical units throughout the 3MF AOR. Leading up to LSTX and Maltese Dragon, the CLR 3 WarCourse team has had the abilities to come together in a COC or a Combat Operations Center exercise prior to, but what we saw over the last two weeks is the team coming together in order to plan and execute a pretty complex problem set, which leaves us going forward much more capable to deploy in 06 level headquarters in order to C2 and provide logistics throughout the first island chain. So as a future operations officer, I oversaw all of our future planning, and what that really entailed with this exercise was as we received orders from our higher headquarters, we worked through the problem framing and the planning for what we needed to carry out with our subordinate units and how those orders were going to be carried out and provided to current operations and the watch floor in order to ensure that we executed effectively. So we simulated a plans floor for future operations. That was the floor that I oversaw, and then we had a current operations section, which was also the watch floor executing the current present operations. And then as we received what we called Injects from exercise control, we had to work through those Injects and determine how we were going to respond to those and ensure that we were still carrying out our mission while responding to these Injects that could have been an enemy attack, problems within the civilian population that we were working with, things like that. This exercise brought about a better understanding of what force design 2030 could look like as far as how we are established within the first island chain and really our missions and responsibilities that we would be taking on and how they would differ from what we currently do. So as a future operations officer, I worked with my team in developing our future plans to carry out Hire's mission and the orders that they gave us. And in working with our subordinate battalions, we would develop the mission, the plans and the tasking, and the concept of operations of how we would carry out those orders that we would get throughout this exercise. In working through these new problems that are presented to us, we really have to work as a team and rely on combined experience and knowledge within Marine Corps logistics and the Marine Corps planning process in order to be able to effectively work through and determine a response to how we would conduct logistics in 2030 against a near peer adversary. This exercise took a lot of critical thinking by our team and we really had to pool our knowledge and experience in order to conduct effective problem framing to really determine what the problem is that we were trying to solve and come up with a solution. It's not the solution, it's just a solution that can be used for future study research for how we will posture ourselves for force design 2030. And we really had a great team working through this. I think we had the right people with the right experience and the right drive to want to work towards solving this problem. Maltese Dragon is a war game that's being run by the Marine Corps Warfighting Lab sponsored by the Logistics Combat Element Integration Division out of CDD that is looking specifically at the tasks and capabilities capacities of the Marine Logistics Support Group Okinawa. The war game itself is being bolted on top of the LSTX exercise that CLR-3 is executing to prepare ourselves to be the most capable logistics combat element in the world. So LSTX is a Logistics Staff Training Exercise. Marine Corps Logistics Operation Groups McLoag runs these several times a year and it's an exercise that develops combat logistics regiment and or combat logistics battalion staffs. So it's a staff training exercise usually based on a scenario that prepares those units to execute the MWX. But in this case they've taken this LSTX and they've combined it in a unique fashion with the first Maltese Dragon exercise. So under force design 2030 we have been focusing on the logistics element this year. They've looked at how they combined third of Marine Logistics Group and Marine Corps installation specific to get after the commandant's vision is laid out. This exercise is going to look at how that organization is going to work together. So we have the ability to look at MLSG Okinawa and then decide do we get the force structure right. Is the initial concept that they've put together does it actually have the capabilities and capacities that are required for us to fight in the future. Our war game is going to play out and lead us to a better understanding of what is effective in the organization as decided now and what needs to be added or taken away from that organization in the future. To make sure we have the right organization the right authorities and responsibilities to be able to effectively provide logistic support to the forces in the first island chain. Much like between the end of the First World War and the Second World War there was a lot of innovation that happened in warfare. We're looking at the same type of period now. The Marine Corps after World War One before World War Two wrote several different concepts right. We worked on the amphibious landings with the tentative manual for landing operations. We did island defense battalions and developed those concepts and we developed a small wars manual. Not knowing for certain which we would need in the next battle and we end up obviously using the landing manual and developing that into all the the doctrine that we have now for how we do amphibious operations. We're in a similar period of transition. As we go from our legacy force to the future force design we have lots of concepts that will have to be fleshed out to allow us to to execute our war fighting capabilities in the future. The experimentation that we do is to help us identify additional additional areas that we need more focus that we need more study or analysis. Maybe it's someplace we need more capability or a new capability that doesn't exist today. It could be a new organization that we need. It could be additional training that we need to take on to execute that mission in the future but all these experimentations are just making us stronger and better war fighters as a Marine Corps. So as we execute LSTX and Maltese Dragon war game we're in analyzing the force structure or the concept of the MLSG in the future. It's important that we go through this war game to identify as many gaps and seams as we can now to ensure that we get the force structure right before we start moving units around and implementing. Because we're inside the weapons engagement zone of the enemy and we're we're inside the or we're on the first island chain the ability for us to to look at this through a war game before we make the changes is important to reduce the risk to the Commandant's vision. The Commandant has laid out clearly what he what he wants us to do. He's got a concept that we're working towards and each one of these exercises in war games is an iteration where we become smarter about what the capabilities and capacities required are what our Marines of the future will have to be able to do and it allows us to better prepare before we make the physical changes on Okinawa.


Abandonment is a strong word. No one wants to be abandoned, but a pervasive fear of abandonment is something that can be picked up on and addressed by a licensed therapist. Here are a few ways you can spot a fear of abandonment in yourself. How does a fear of abandonment form? Examining the childhood of people with a fear of abandonment, one thing stands out. Loss. This loss could come in many forms. The loss of a close friend, a close family member, or divorce can all lead to a fear of abandonment. A study on the effect of divorce was published in the Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology and another separate study on the effect of the loss of a parent was published in the Journal of Youth and Adolescence. A common finding between both of these studies was the effect each event had on attachment and that both events were in origin for depressive symptoms. Other factors can contribute as well, such as constant ridiculing or a lack of physical affection. Children require a lot of love and care, but sometimes parents don't consider the long term effects of how they speak and act around their children. But a child can't look at you and say, hey, I have a fear of abandonment, so how else do we know a fear of abandonment is forming? Look at your attachment style. These can change over time, but can be present from your childhood into adulthood. This is a good indicator of a fear of abandonment, no matter what stage of life you're currently in. Abandonment issues and a fear of abandonment are a form of anxiety. People with a fear of abandonment typically show signs of an anxious or an avoidant attachment style. According to psychologist Dr. Francis Stevens, people with different attachment styles cope with emotions in different ways. People with an anxious attachment style have trouble controlling their response to emotions. People with an avoidant attachment style have trouble recognizing emotion. If you have an anxious attachment style, you might hate being alone, you might have a poor sense of self-worth, and you might constantly be aware of potential threats to your relationships. It may feel inevitable that your partner or close friends will leave you. In your relationships, you might constantly require validation or reassurance. Seeking reassurance is a normal thing from time to time, but a constant need for reassurance points towards a deeper insecurity that could potentially come from a fear of abandonment. Physical touch. If you feel like something is wrong in your relationship just because your partner hasn't reached for your hand, hugged you or kissed you in the last five minutes, you might have an anxious attachment style. Remember what we said earlier? A lack of physical affection can contribute to a fear of abandonment forming in your childhood. See how the way our childhood unfolds affects our lives? A study on affection deprivation by psychologist Corey Floyd found that being deprived of affection negatively affects us in many ways. Namely, general health, happiness, social support, and most importantly with regards to a fear of abandonment, relationship satisfaction and attachment security. We will always try to fill the voids we find in ourselves. We want words of reassurance and physical affection because it's a vital part of our upbringing that we never had, so we look for these things and the people we're closest with now. So, have you asked yourself if something has happened in your childhood that might have caused you to be afraid of abandonment? Is something happening now that makes you think that this fear is influencing your closest relationships? How will a fear of abandonment affect your future? A fear of abandonment doesn't have to define your relationships with friends and family for the rest of your life. All it means is that some people might think of you as clingy or needy and it can make relationships frustrating for you as well. It may feel like there's always something missing. You aren't getting enough affection or attention. Your friends don't care about you.  These thoughts build resentment. A fear of abandonment can cause you to grow distant and avoid building close relationships. According to communication experts, Craig Fowler and Megan Dillo, people with attachment styles that indicate a fear of abandonment often cause conflicts that result in their fears becoming a reality. It can be lonely. But there is hope. A fear of abandonment is something that can be identified by a licensed therapist. They can offer you tools that will aid your journey through your fears and lead you to a place where your relationships can feel more complete. Aside from professional help, your partner should be someone who is understanding and present. Try to talk to them about your fears and the things they can do to feel present. And if you are the partner or friend of someone who has a fear of abandonment, you could use your words in reassuring your partner. According to a 2009 study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, couples with insecure attachment styles tend to have worse communication. So if you or your partner has a fear of abandonment, communication should be a major focus with the goal of making one another feel secure. You're only human. You can get distracted or busy and can't give your partner attention 24-7. So whenever you have a chance, just tell them you love them or send them a text saying you're thinking about them. It can't hurt to do this regardless of whether or not they have a fear of abandonment. Just bear in mind that a person with a fear of abandonment may just require a little more attention. Try to become familiar with the anxious and avoidant attachment styles to better understand what they might be thinking and feeling in order to avoid conflict. So do you or a loved one struggle with a fear of abandonment? Share some tips that have helped you in the comments below. Remember to leave a comment if you found this video helpful or interesting and subscribe to Psych2Go for more content like this. Thanks for watching!


In the year of our Lord, 1868, a discovery was made in southwestern France that is now regarded as one of the most substantial finds of human activity and dates to 30,000 years ago. The discovery of the things in a cave in France show that humans were in a state of survival in the distant past and this transforms the understanding process of human activity not only in the European region but also across the planet. The excavation of this site in France yielded objects such as flints, animal bones and even human skulls. Geologist Louis Laudet took charge of this discovery and he unearthed the partial skeletons of four adults and an infant at the Cro Magnum Rock Shelter as well as perforated shells and animal teeth fashioned into necklaces, flint tools, a worked reindeer antler and an object crafted from ivory. The human remains were eagerly compared with fossils of an archaic species known to us today as the Neanderthal man, found 12 years earlier in Germany. However, the 30,000 year old skeletons of what became known as the Cro Magnum men were different to Neanderthals, being more slender and having the same rounded skull with a high vertical forehead as us modern human beings. Cro Magnums lived at the same time as Neanderthals in Europe during the last Ice Age but they had a more advanced culture in that they were identified as a prehistoric subspecies or race of humans that emerged in Europe and went extinct when our kind arrived on the scene, a great instinct of survival unfolded. We survived, others did not. In the 150 years since their discovery of these remains an understanding is beginning to form. The survivors it seems came from a society that collapsed, forcing people to caves and underground cavities but these weren't a primitive people. This was a people capable of extraordinary creativity who made stunning artworks depicting their natural world. Such works include a piece of mammoth tusk engraved with two beautifully observed reindeer crossing a river, carved at least 13,000 years ago and discovered near Tullis in the 1860s and the extraordinary Lion Man Orenstein style cave made 40,000 years ago and discovered in the Lohn Valley in Germany in 1939. These works took great skill, patience and time. The Lion Man, a 30-syteminer sculpture with a man's body and a lion's head is carved from tough mammoth ivory which researchers calculated would have taken about 400 hours. These are the workings of a people sitting something out, waiting, remembering, creating the things they could remember and passing that on generationally. Perhaps the most famous example of Cro-Magnum creativity is the astonishing Lascaux Cave complex whose richly decorated walls were discovered by teenagers in 1940. The imagination and ambition of the artist who created these colorful paintings 20,000 years ago which includes scenes of animals and even constellation maps is remarkable. For instance, painted on the wall of the shaft of the Dead Man Cave is a bull, a bird man and a bird on a stick. Their outlines with the eyes of the bull representing bright stars of the Northern Hemisphere's Summer Triangle. When they were painted, this region of sky would have never set below the horizon and would have been especially prominent at the start of spring. Near to the entrance of the Lascaux Cave complex is a magnificent painting of a bull with a map of the Pleiades star cluster hanging over its shoulder. Remarkably within the bull painting, there are spots that might represent other stars found in that region that today forms part of the constellation Taurus, the bull. The people who made these detailed cosmic maps were making sense of their world through measurements of natural phenomena and conveying this through beautiful lasting ornamentation. To put this in context, nothing beyond a few shaped flints have been discovered in the archaeology of earlier stone age humans. There appeared to be something different about the way Crow Magnans thought and behaved, far more like the way we think and behave today, actually. And this has led to the theory that modern human culture, including the use of symbolism and the development of complex language, began to emerge 40,000 years ago in creative explosion in Europe after something dramatic had happened beforehand. Over the past century, the term Crow Magnan has been replaced by the name Behaviourally Modern Humans, and this is to distinguish them from the more ancient, but also anatomically modern humans that paleontologists discovered. Human origins experts, in other words, began to think that we were actually the direct descendants of the Ice Age artist and that they didn't go extinct, they just developed into us over many generations, and this does attest to the gap in the historical record that confounds our understanding. We didn't begin, we adapted and re-emerged more than once, and we are probably destined to do the same again. Fossil evidence reveals that anatomically modern humans emerged in Africa at least 200,000 years ago, but recent finds have pushed that date back to perhaps 300,000 years, 400,000 years, all the time we keep pushing time back, and this is down to the trauma in the mind of the cataclysmic soul. It's a survival reflex to not remember traumatic events that saw us forced to survive, and we also know from fossil and genetic evidence that people outside Africa are descendants of a human population that migrated from the continent roughly 80,000 years ago. These African ancestors took advantage of a rare wet spell, relying on a network of aquifer fed springs and ventured into the Middle East. From there they moved slowly eastwards at a rate of an estimated one mile per year. At some point from around 40,000 years ago in Europe, we see evidence of these behaviorally modern humans in a sudden flourishing of culture artifacts in the archeological record. So what caused anatomically modern people to turn into behaviorally modern people? Was it a genetic switch that created a different type of cognitively superior person? These questions matter because the notion of a great leap forward in our species, cognition occurring in Europe has contributed to a long-standing belief in there being some sort of European expectationalism, but what do you guys think about this anyway? Thanks below and as always, thank you for watching.