Why 254? Imagine. OK, we handsome about that. I have got some great performance lined up for you. Niuru Band is Naul, NIuru Band is performing and I think that there is again a guest called Shaul who will be performing also. So welcome to this great show. It's New Ruban, all right? So, kwa, takashichagunke, jupo jikiya, si diyo? Minapenareki, si diyo? It's our fun. Wrong, so please say again. New Ruban. So, what's your name? My name is Shiazi. You're the lead singer, I guess, of course. Definitely, definitely. Okay, how long have you been, New Ru, has been around? Like, anniversary to June. So, yeah, our one year anniversary. So, bado, one year is not yet. Our next month or one month, okay? One year. One year. So, say your name again. New Ru. No, no, your name. Shiazi, Shiazi, Shiazi. I don't know, it went to a different name. I don't know which one, but it went to a different name. Okay, and then the gentleman? Buni. Buni, all right? And you've been with this band since the beginning? Okay, and the gentleman? Edu. The guitarist, Edu. Mani, you have great voices, you people. See these? You guys are great. Thank you so much for making time to come to my show. You're going to be performing a few more songs, right? We got you. You got us. Great, all right, so ladies and gentlemen, you have had the New Ru band. I hope I got that right this time around. And I want to start right away into the conversation today to introduce a topic that we have today. And today we are speaking about that your family history affects your present story. And what does it mean?  Your work relationships, your romantic relationships, maybe why you keep dating the wrong people. Your family history might be affecting the way you relate with people today. And that's the conversation that we're going to be having today. And to help us with that conversation is Dr. Karochakua, who is a psychotherapist and a parenting coach. And she's going to be our guest today. So stick with us. And again, remember what I've mentioned to you. Go to our Facebook page, Y254 channel and be part of this conversation by commenting there, asking questions and stating your opinions. And I'll be reading them out in the second segment of my interview with Dr. Karochakua today. And so right now I'm going to give this time to now. I hope I get the name right, Shaul. Shaul. All right? So I'm going to give you the chance to Shaul who is going to perform a spoken word. Is it? Shaul, just move, come. So Shaul is going to, is a poet. A spoken word? What's your name, though? Shaul. So Shaul, yes. That's not just your stage name. It's also your... I keep your name for Paul. Ah, Paul, okay. Ah, I got you. All right. So go for it. I've prepared a piece, but I don't know what it is. It's called Upendo. Bensi. Bensi wa 30. Kwa jina upendo to lipenda na sana. Ali nipenda wakati sikuwa na kakitu, lakini kwa lalote, suali yenda li kwa jibu. Ali nipenda wakati sikuwa na haki. Ile raikstuni li kwa naionim, konu na badu li nishi kilia. Ali nipenda wakati li li kwa bubu, lakini misterizili li kwa evident, kama lineskofo hei dem sudi. Ali nipenda wakati. I was a nobody. Ile nyu bani lisha, Iko ana ta Iko ana ta bed, Iko ana ta tan, Ile giza tu yanda li fagye kanga. Ile kwa na lalam chana, usikuwa na shina li kichana. Ile jo ali sema na takapustro it forward from the head. So siwezi sema li niki zisha. Upendo wa suidmina, Ikondotu li kashikisha. Upendo aga itemela, sige mwa kea gimboza mwa prindzi. Nige mwa kea wimboa, taifando wa shinde. Kusimanga wakisha, namza wasin wakati, usikuwa na mahalina waza kati. Nyumbayangu siya newa pungi ateta kuja kutafutakiti. Ali stik na mimi. Kani pizia marafiki, agafanya tushi, kaneza hidi na familia. Unge li kusia, niki kwenbia pwanza, unge ni kanyanga, niki kanyagi and let it pass. Endo. Was my only love until, until li li popatakazi pesa maali hella. Ika ni introduce kwa ukuasi, Ika ni introduce kwa kiburi, pride, ni kanzaku realize, kunda na kongana macha, ni kanzaku jona. I became selfish. When I see them, I saw myself. When they speak sense to me, it was rapid. I viewed everyone as trash, and I think domanopendo kani damba. But was I hurt? No. I lived in self-denial. But action spoke volumes. I became a criminal. But I was rich enough to buy my way out of any situation. The pay that I gave to that poor man who worked for me was oppression. Nili kuana hardy fair akunifikisha to the land of unfairness. But when I landed there, I found no family, no friends, like there is everything that money could have by. But, but it couldn't. Like, there is a vacuum in my heart. Upendo jo, na ujaze pengo, ni ni achana na kiburi, umpango akando. I thought, niki wana pesa sita muhitaji, but I was wrong. So please come back, my love. My life is too dark. Come and light my candle. Wait. Do you? Here she comes. Gloy like a thousand lamps in one. Upendo mejawa na upendo, na mekupali we get back together. Na this time sit a mess. Pray diki kam ni taiveza. Nangalau, this time, makini tembeleha takosa hiti.  In fact, my heart is now a throne on which Upendo will sit on. First, I can become a part of that. Have yote, ni buri, ni wo shahulia. Amazing.  Shahul, amazing. Wow, okay. I hope it's not real. Even if it's real, it's even better. You're reciting for a friend, right? Yeah, for a friend. I see you. You'll be coming back? I might. You might.  Awesome. Give a hand to Shahul. Thank you. Awesome. Ladies and gentlemen, now we've come to that part where we start our interview today.  There is a post there about the show today. And I want you to tell me, do you feel that possibly where you came from has been affecting the way you are happy today? How you are relating to people?  One of the biggest causes of loneliness is could be that you have never felt loved and a sense of belonging maybe to your dad or to your mom or to your even brothers and sisters.  So be part of this conversation by going to a Facebook page and commenting on that. And now I want to start right away with our guest today, Dr. Chakua. I have to keep taking that name to make sure that I'm getting it right. You can say Dr. Karo. Dr. Karo. Ah, that's perfect. Welcome to the show. Thank you very much. Thank you for making time to be here. It's my pleasure. It's a pleasure, right? It's my pleasure first of all. Now, please tell us a little bit about yourself for the sake of the audience and viewers from home. Okay. I am a psychotherapist. Who is that? What that is is a... You sounded to us what animal is that? It's not an animal. I'm a practicing psychologist and what I do when I work with my clients, I really help them explore why they are stuck, where they are stuck. And most of the time my direction always goes to issues they could have encountered in their past for them to be where they are to help them unstuck. I'm also a parenting coach and how I got into parenting was because again most of the clients that came into my space had parenting related issues and I thought that maybe the best thing is to equip the parents so that they can create better environments for their children so that their children don't end up in therapy. So that's what I'm really, really passionate about. I also teach psychology at public university. Where is that? More university. More university. Are you a lecturer there? Yes, I'm a lecturer. Perfect. Now this today's conversation is a rather interesting conversation and we are trying to paint a picture and that's what I want you to help us understand where we are saying that one should not ignore their family history because that could have a significant impact in the way they relate with other people. So maybe a young man could be going from one relationship into another romantic relationship not knowing why he attracts the wrong people or a lady attracts the wrong man into her life and kumbe the reason is so could you paint that picture for us so that we can understand better what this is all about? Yeah, first there's a I know that this conversation someone is likely to mistake it and say okay now we are blaming the past. So the issue is not really blaming the past but acknowledging that where you are at could have aspects of your past. Perfect. So what happens is that as a child you are very how we are wired as human beings how God created us is that we are pleasure seeking human beings. We are pleasure seeking people.  So because of that if we experience situations that bring that go against that that probably are painful that are uncomfortable then that becomes that is not normal and therefore it leaves gaps as we grow. Okay. So basically if I get you Alice so if I grew up with a father who was unafectionate that's the gap you're mentioning is that now that causes a gap. Yes. So naturally I want my needs met immediately. Naturally I want to receive love naturally I want to be able to trust the environment and so if the caregivers in our space when we were young were not able to provide that then we grow up seeking ways. It's like you hear this phrase people say unfinished business. You know unfinished business sometimes sounds like a cliche and maybe people say that one has unfinished business and we laugh it off but the reality is that there is unfinished business and if you have unfinished business you will always seek to finish that business and that is now for looking for ways of fixing that unmet gap in effective ways in our relationships in our behaviors in how we are interacting with people in how we are responding to situations. Yes. Okay. Now so I'm going to use a very rough example just to create this one of the things that have been happening recently in the media are young men who have been killing let's say people they love because they they will not love them back and I'm trying to say okay there could be a myriad of reasons why they did that but do you think it can also be traced to a broken family could it be traced that they came from a situation where they learned violence is the only way to go. That could be a possibility that could be a possibility could be because that's all they have seen as a way of resolving issues it could be because well they could even be having a mental illness Yes. That's also a factor but for them to get to the point that they did they just didn't wake up that morning like Tuesday morning to go and do what it is that they did it's something that has piled up over time it could be experiences that they went through and they felt that violence is the only way to solve this because that is what it's familiar to them and the tragedy of it is that on a normal day they do not want to do that but they find themselves in those repeated cycles because they do not have the skills they never got the skills when they were young to be able to cope with the stressful situations to be able to cope with that situations that they were comfortable to cope with rejection and they probably sought relationships for the sake of feeling that gap because they are feeling rejected and so because they were broken they are likely to attract broken people as well The blind leading the blind Yes exactly so that's probably what is likely to happen and so when you're broken and this other person is broken definitely like you're saying the blind leading the blind you're really not going to get anywhere True. Now let's trace back let's pick a hypothetical situation where a lady has grown up with a father who is not emotionally present or maybe violent What are the possible future behaviors of such a lady? So as a young child what she will believe is that she's not good enough okay so she goes she gets into the world knowing that she's not good enough and that's what children do they turn the unfortunate situations on themselves and take the blame so my father rejected me or my father was violent or whatever to me because I am the cause and so they grow up believing and all this is unconscious it's not written anywhere so they grow up believing that they are not good enough they are not worthy of love and because of that then they go out of their way to try to prove how worthy they are and therefore if mostly if it's a relationship with a dad that wasn't right then they're going to tend towards father figures or men they will want to seek approval and love from men to fill that gap like I said it's unfinished business all this is unconscious so to finish this business because I didn't get that love then I'm going to get a love projected somebody else yes the love of a man and it will be I will do anything and unconsciously you get attracted to the same kind of person that your father was because that unfinished business I have to go back to my father and finish this business of completing this love correct so a girl might be attracted to a gentleman who in the beginning of the relationship it looks his position is like this guy is protecting and so she feels comfortable but over time what she thought was protection becomes possession and control and violence because as you are saying she is trying to do some unfinished business and usually those signs are there right from the start you know these things people say he just changed suddenly no it's just that when you are getting into that relationship you know the they feel good hormones are really high they overtake the realities that you see they blind you yeah they blind you yeah go ahead very good now let's now paint a picture of now a gentleman a gentleman I want us to explore maybe a parent by parent so we have now a gentleman or a young boy growing up with a father who is emotionally absent or violent what becomes of this young man what are possible projectile of the life projectile of this young man so is this violent what's the maybe violent towards the father I mean towards the mother and towards the children or simply emotionally absent or yeah the likely trajectory and you know this is case by case I always say people end up different because you know their personalities are different absolutely and other circumstances come into place and choice yeah and choice as well but the likely trajectory is that they will soak in that this is the this is the only way they know life is okay and they will even as they are growing they might be like no I don't like that I think I'm going to be different and they might even set themselves to try and be different but they will still end up because that is the family when it's like a sponge when a sponge soks you know it soks and soks so as children we soak in so the boy will soak in the violence the boy will soak in that kind of environment and then the only time it will come out is when they are squeezed so and when they are squeezed is when under pressure okay so when that pressure comes out when you squeeze you'll get out the same exact thing that you soaked in you cannot get apple juice when you soaked in orange juice or mango juice or let's even say bad water just because you're soaking you're soaking spoiled water you cannot give out juice yeah you can't give out juice it might have that color but really it's still it's still dirty water so that is the likely trajectory that whatever you soak in is what you get out especially under pressure under pressure now let's look now on the other side so we have a lady who is growing up with an absentee mother right or with a mother who is let's even if violent or she does not understand she doesn't feel understood by the mother do we have are there similar projectiles or trajectory yeah it's similar male female you know we are all at the end of the day we are human and our psychological makeup is pretty similar of course when push comes to show the specific ways we respond to things but even for the lady it's going to be the same thing you still soak it in and you still get out what it is what you soaked in under a lot of pressure and most of the time like I say children believe certain things about themselves when life does not go well and those things they believe about themselves they set out in life to either prove those things wrong or to try and live according to those for example if you say I am not good enough you will because you are feeling you are not good enough so one to go against that you want to be the good girl people please are or the good boy a domat just so that you can prove to the world the belief that you are not good enough approval is more important to you than being authentic that being authentic but then you can go to the other side and say hey you think guys think I am not good enough I will show you and then now you become aggressive so both extremes still come back to I am not good enough that's why the bully and the domat could have the same belief about them family or same experiences beliefs about themselves but how they interpreted it and consciously becomes now our audience here are students right so how could the family history affect the academics precisely academics it really depends on the level of what their parents believed about education the kind of pressure the parents put them through just to get the marks and the grades will affect how they view academics how their parents viewed success is success being good at sports or is success having a good report at the end of the day so wherever they are at this point as university student they are still carrying a lot of beliefs about what their parents thought success to be failure to be whether they pushed too much to be a certain way well there are just an easy going way to look at education so it really again depends on what views they sucked in so what if someone was constantly criticized how does that translate into how can that affect the academic performance so you're constantly criticized so you believe you're not good enough okay and therefore you will struggle in school or you will prove that you're not good enough and that's why I say this thing can go either way so if you're criticized so much and at the back of your mind you're like when I get out of here I will prove that I am good and therefore you want to get your identity from performance being performance which unfortunately in our era it's really just about academic performance so if you criticize you can either believe that to be true or you can decide to go against it so it can still go either way someone could be failing exams because suddenly they have this voice in them that they have taken from their father or mother or someone in the family who constantly told them that they are not good enough so anytime they see an exam paper despite all the preparation they end up failing simply because the disease voice telling them suddenly they are not good enough that's what I'm hearing you say and it's because the environment surrounding exams and education was just an anxious environment so they connect exam to anxiety so it doesn't matter like you're saying it doesn't matter how well they have prepared exam is equal to anxiety and maybe it was because during that time the parents were also anxious and I don't know if you know when kids are doing class 8 or kids are doing from 4 the level of anxiety the parents have is way more than what the kids have and he's naturally just so keen that anxiety before we take a break we're going to take a short break now but I have seen especially girls stick into very abusive relationship because the fear of being lonely having grown up from families or unloved it motivates them to stick into very abusive relationships simply because the idea of being alone is more scary than the fact that they are being in an emotional and physical abusive relationship and then that's very unfortunate because also society pushes us to want to hook up and to be with someone like that's the thing that if I'm not with someone and so I'd rather stick in that relationship as abusive as it is because they don't feel good enough they feel like whatever abuse they are experiencing is their fault and that's another very unconscious thing that we have like it's my fault maybe if I had just not said what I said this person would not have done this and it's very easy for women and for girls to believe that because they're also feeling unworthy it's the girls or the woman's job to keep this relationship together and so if it's not working it's your woman's fault so we're going to take a short break right now ladies and gentlemen I hope you're enjoying this conversation dear viewer and I want you, I remember what I mentioned to you please go to our Facebook page and if you have a question to our psychologist our psychotherapist here will be giving my audience a time to ask a question about after this performance from Nuru and so please go to our Facebook page at Y254 channel and post your comments there and we are going to be reading them out remember we are discussing the fact that where you come from your family, the relationships you have with your family your parents can be affecting the way you live your life today so be part of this conversation but for now I'm going to give it back to Nuru let's go Panga safari kuru din yumbani hukuniliko halingu mu mawazo kichwani mateso jamani masu ali mo yoni uhaligani kipenzi changu uli enyumbani nina pokuwa za moyo how to li nina pokuwa za moyo how to li ayaba sikari buni tena kwenye that's gone welcome back to the part that was Nuru band performing a beautiful that's your original you people even the first one it was an original wow so ladies and gentlemen if you are getting married this is the band if you are graduating this is the band this is the band to call if you are doing if something good is happening like you being alive celebrating that you are alive this is the band if you have your first anniversary of your existence as a band next month this is the band to call to perform your first anniversary so very good that was Nuru and I'm going to give remember what I mentioned to you ladies and gentlemen go to a Facebook page or your opinions your suggestions I'd like to read them but for now I'll ask you to pass the mic to the audience so we can we can have a few questions so can I see by the hand the four who have the questions the four alright so let's start from back there from the gentleman as we come so name where you starting brief question let's go the decision is going to come from the father and you go and ask like the peers like advice and obviously they are going to give you the wrong advice how you supposed to go about that because they are the only people who understand you perfect thank you was your name again? Mustafa thank you so much pass the mic to the gentleman right in front there go for it my name is Falma from the great UN okay I have a question yes please how can someone sustain 30 negativity where he feels like he is being negated or discriminated from the family how can one cure it very easily so your question is you feel rejected and you are trying to wonder how do you deal with that first I'll answer those questions you can pass the mic to the lady here thank you so much maybe you handle those two questions and then you go back to the two ladies Mustafa was talking about how how he can coming from a family where the father makes most of the decisions and so what do you do because if you go to the mother dad is going to make the decision either way yes it's a bit hypothetical I wish I was clearer about a specific issue but in a general sense what I do when I work with my clients is really help them figure out first of all do they believe about themselves and sometimes what you believe about yourself becomes you project it because your history has been he will not listen anyway so you've given up we call it learned helplessness you become helpless and you don't you give up so I would say what have you believed about yourself and would you start focusing on the fact that you still do have qualities and strengths within yourself that you can actually make decisions some of those decisions you can make without necessarily having to get the final word from your father then also there are things in life that you know what do you have control over in this in your situation at that point what do you have control over what decisions can you make and be okay with them and then the rest you you do that prayer we always say God grant me the serenity to accept what is within to accept what I the things that I cannot change the courage to change the things that I can change and the wisdom to know the difference so I wish there was a little bit more specificity but I think let's put a specific example so let's say this is a student and going to the third year and the father said I'm not going to pay your school fees and the mother cannot do anything about it I think we can being the students I'm trying to imagine that that could be a very an example to go with okay so here I am I want to go to my third year university and my father said when you come and there is nothing you can do he is always going to make the final decision I'm imagining that hypothetical situation I think for me when it comes to finances and fees if that's the source it's coming from that's the source it's coming from so what else can you what do you have within yourself that can help you think of ways of generating income because that's for me a clear case of I have no control I can't go and put a gun in his face and say give me the money but again back to what have you believed about yourself am I helpless this is the end of the road for me what else can I do to be able to get money what are the ways the options are not necessarily limited what other ways can I use to get income so this door has been closed let me see if I can pass through the window even if it's going to take a bit longer than I had expected I keep looking for spaces that I can and that comes when you start believing that you are actually capable and you're not the same person you're not into that space of learned helplessness where now I can't do anything so what other options are there relatives could relatives be involved what else can you do can I involve my pastor can I involve the extended family so then we have the second question how do I deal with constant negativity rejection and Falme was very specific how can I make these feelings go away quickly and so the reality is that those negative feelings will not go away quickly just acknowledging that that feelings are there because of a reason therefore why first of all do I have those feelings and not necessarily how can I just go away in the first quickly we have been socialized to not express our emotions and especially men but either way you are chapuwa then you are told do not even open your mouth or maybe you go through a situation and you're feeling sad and someone asks why are you sad so we have been socialized to have feelings to acknowledge them and to express them and therefore for me the first thing I would say Falme is whatever feelings those are negative feelings they are valid they come from a place and we have to acknowledge that those feelings are there if you don't you will suppress them and somehow they will chomoka in another way you know accept them acknowledge that they are there and ask yourself where are they coming from they are always having to come from somewhere and that's one of the areas that we need to start training ourselves even our students as human beings to just be able to sit back and ask ourselves what is going on with me right now why am I feeling the way I am feeling right now what exactly happened and where is it coming from in this moment why am I so if you are able to acknowledge that and feel that by the way it takes away it relieves a lot of the negative feelings because you are able to pinpoint it and say this is the reason where it is coming from and if you practice that over and over again you start becoming more present and more self aware to the fact that right now what I am feeling is a lot of sadness and the reason I am feeling a lot of sadness is because I was expecting my dad to pay fees and he has not paid fees and I feel like my future is gone just giving an explanation to that giving a name to your feeling already relieves and once that is relieved what happens is that even the brain gets the message that things are not so bad we can handle this and actually you start thinking differently when you allow yourself to acknowledge the bad feelings you remind me of this bad advice that I hear sometimes people saying telling someone going through a bad time you should not feel that way you should not feel that way emotions you cannot tell a person to feel about a situation and maybe what I could add there to Mufalame is forgiveness forgiveness and don't allow anyone to tell you forgive and forget that's a very bad advice so forgiving forgiving is about letting go of the anger and the resentment and what hurts you forgetting is wrong you should not forget because forgetting is your forgotten lesson continue into a very abusive relationship because they forgive and then they forget the lesson that they learned from that whatever they were forgiving so forgive but do not forget so I think some of us have been told that advice is a terrible advice is a really terrible advice that can make you trap yourself in a very terrible environment we are going to read some comments before I give it back there so we have Riko Atiga Eric saying yes it can really affect if you do not accept the situation you have gone through and find a way to walk out of it, thank you so much Eric then we've got Steve Mwaneke watching and following the conversation from Nax Vegas that's Nakuru pipeline Asante Sanna Mwaneke great voices at Newre Band or something Kyu Hey Josford, Josford is a great fan of this show Matmusioka, I'm watching the show from Konza I agree that my past can affect my future Newre Band you are elite Mkotob, can I join the band I think there's some reason Josford loving the show say hello to Kirinyaga University comrades then we've got Sandy Boy Kenya following and then watching from Kirinyaga, thank you so much please keep those comments coming on our facebook page and if you have a question please ask to our guest today so I'm going to ask now the other two ladies please ask the questions go ahead thank you for your time I'm Magdanduta from Nibbs College Magda from Nibbs College so my question is how does one deal with when you feel like maybe your parents are absent when you are growing up like our parents are the people that we are looking up to but now you feel like they are absent they are coming out from work they are home at night maybe you slept at maybe you feel like they are not there when you are growing up when you feel you need that appreciation but they are not there so how do you deal with that as an adult now thank you so much Magda and then finally I am a caregiver from Nibbs College we have a way to excuse the abuser you ask someone why is taking to this relationship despite this person doing this and that which is obviously wrong and they will always have an excuse they will tell you maybe this person is under pressure so could you also ask if you have a problem with the mic most victims of abusive relationships always have a way to excuse the abuser you ask someone why is taking to this relationship despite this person doing this and that which is obviously wrong and they will always have an excuse they will tell you maybe this person is under pressure so could you also blame this on past relationships perfect so two question Magda is wondering how do you deal now as an adult with the fact that you had parents who never motivated you were there for you and questions from Hilda also now you have friends a friend who is taking an abusive relationship the woman is beating now we had recently that Mugabe was a victim actually for a long time the wife was beating Mugabe a lot really? it was on the news that I used to get beaten to a point where the military wanted to hide him in the barracks anyway that aside let's start this question so from Magda how do you deal with feelings of rejection that you have carried from the past and what do you do with them now it's good that you are I think the idea is how do I deal with how do I try to reestablish a relationship and the parents who are absent while I was growing up is that to reestablish a relationship my parents were absent they never motivated me they were not there for me when they came home I am already asleep by the time I wake up they are already gone to work so how do I establish that emotional connection that was never there because now you feel emotionally distant and disconnected from them I think first of all again acknowledging that whatever happened and your parents did what they did for reasons and we are not excusing what they did but we are also not blaming them and saying they are bad people because we find ourselves doing whatever with most of the time it's unconscious so really acknowledging and being able to ask yourself how is it affecting me now how do I deal with that relationship I think that reaching out to them would be one way and reaching out to them is to go and sit down and be very clear about what it is that they did without going in there to blame them or throw stones at them but this is coming with the desire that my intention here is to heal this relationship and not to come and blame you and throw stones I feel that at this point I want to have a relationship with you so acknowledging that are wrong and I put it in quotes are wrong was done is a huge part of the healing and then the next step I think you talked about forgiveness part of the forgiveness is being able to speak out what it is that was done to you it may not necessarily be to be the person who did it but just being able to speak out and acknowledge but if you desire to have a relationship with your parents it would be good to go back and speak out what wrong was done to you and be able to say I'm here not to make you feel bad but because I want now to reestablish a relationship and the reason you want to do that Magda is because if that gap is not closed that's what you will transfer once you have a family that's what you will transfer to your children and it's going to be a cycle so some of these steps we do like forgiveness they are not necessarily because we are great people and we are amazing people and it's easy to forgive it's because we want to be able to entire ourselves from the things that happen and so we want to have a level of freedom so that we don't recycle that to the people who are who will be under our care so that we don't recycle that and journaling could be a good way I guess journaling is a great way of just sitting and saying talking about what happened to you and just writing it out talking with a friend if you're feeling like it's really affecting you a lot talking with a professional yeah talking to a professional therapist perfect and Hilda was asking if the she has a friend maybe who is stuck in an abusive relationship and when she tells him or hey look this person is abusing you this victim excuses the abuser and I think again we don't want to say it's completely because of their past but their past could contribute to where they are because someone who stays in an abusive relationship is someone who has a very low or a very unhealthy self esteem they really feel like they deserve being in that place and you know these cuts across social economic it doesn't matter how intelligent or how well put together you are or whether you have it all together or not as long as someone has sense that they are not good enough and they deserve to be battered and abused they are going to stay in that relationship so the best way to help them is not to keep getting them hey get out of this what's wrong with you because you're battering them even more it's more being there supporting them and letting them know and I understand that you are stuck it's understandable that you're stuck means when you're stuck you don't have a way out but there's a way out helping people understand why they are in situations you're a psychologist as well it's really one of the greatest gifts you can ever give someone is to help them understand why they are in that situation so helping them understand that it's because they are feeling terrible about themselves because they have a low self esteem why they are staying there and not necessarily say what is wrong with you just pick your things and walk away that is almost impossible it's inconceivable for them so really just helping them understand where they are at is because of how they feel about themselves would be the best gift that you can ever give them and letting them know I'll support you of course if it is dangerous if it's life threatening then we are not going to tip to around it that is when you really just help them to get out and then once they are out that's when you help them understand themselves once they are out can someone intervene if the person you're trying to save and cannot get themselves out is actually getting physically abused can you ask a third party before this person gets you're talking about homicide this day is it okay to sometimes we are a bit low to go into a matter of relationships but now you have someone is being physically abused is it advisable to find a third party to go and rescue this person physically inform their parent say your daughter is getting killed somewhere I think at that point there's no decorum, there's no tiptoeing there's no diplomacy when someone's life is in danger I think that's when you just step in and be like hey you need to get out there and also empowering them and helping them understand that if it happens they actually have a voice they can go, they can fill out a p3 form they can say it to someone because sometimes people stay in those relationships quiet for a very long time so just giving them that one state that you can actually go and fill out a p3 form I think it's a p3 you can fill it out because that now gives a voice it gives them a voice and also sends a message to the abuser that it's no longer between the two of us you can continue this is not our secret anymore I think one of the things that she has mentioned this person has a low self esteem one thing that you can do is to help them to communicate value to them to communicate that they are wati and that they are better than this so that they start developing a sense of value in themselves and they are able to make a judgment by the way I don't deserve this so it's very very important but bottom line I think one of the things that I've realized is at the end of the day people have to make choices and sometimes unless they are willing to make a choice there's nothing much really you can do at the end of the day yes it boils down to you acknowledging and just accepting that really there is an issue here that needs to be dealt Doctor Karo it's been a pleasure please club for Doctor Karo thank you so much for making time to be on the show it has been such a pleasure our time unfortunately has run out but I'm sure you would not mind coming back again to continue this conversation I would love to thank you thank you so much for making time gentlemen and ladies that has been Doctor Karo lecturer at Moe University a psychotherapist a family parenting coach and it has been amazing having her here and I'm sure you have learnt a thing or two together my viewers right here and remember this show is going to be repeated tomorrow from 11.15 so you can watch it again and learn the lessons once again so I thank you for enjoying this now I'm going to read a few more comments before we close it up yes where are these comments where are these comments oh there we have Jacqueline Pendo saying yes it does 100% from experience okay thank you so much Jacqueline I think Atiga Atiga Eric we had read that yes it can really affect if you don't accept the situation you have gone through and find a way to work okay big up to these people who have been watching and have liked our show Gidwa Jujja Gidwa Jujja farm and then we have Alex Mugendi John then Elisaphan Kanaari Jogorna and then we have Sandboy Kenya and Kahugi Dennis Musundi Godz scroll down thank you so much for those who have been watching from home and being part of this conversation I make some noise for the University of Nairobi 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In late 2018, ESO's gravity instrument observed flares of infrared radiation coming from the accretion disk around SAGA star. These flares came from clumps of gas swirling around at about 30% of the speed of light on a circular orbit just outside the event horizon. They indicate that SAGA star is spinning with a full rotation every 11 and a half minutes. This makes the 4 million solar mass SAGA star a supermassive curve black hole. This new information also enabled calculating the distance from SAGA star's center to its event horizon at around 10 million kilometers, or 15 times the radius of our sun. And the distance to the photon sphere at around 17 million kilometers. To illustrate how a black hole might look, we'll build SAGA star. Here we are viewing it from the equatorial plane and the object is rotating in on the left and out on the right. Its center is dark, out to the event horizon. This thin ring around the black hole just outside the event horizon represents the cross section of SAGA star's ergosphere with a shell of orbiting light. What we'd see is the light that leaks out in our direction. The observed flares indicate that SAGA star has the remnants of an accretion disk that is no longer feeding the black hole on a regular basis. The massive amount of light rays emitted from the disk's top face travel up and over the black hole, and light rays emitted from the disk's bottom face travel down and under the black hole. This combination gives us the full image of how the black hole would actually look.


Okay, James P. Madonna here. Progressive discussions, Megalife 21. Approaching the Royal Hibachi Grill in Bafay, it is Friday afternoon. I have not been here in two weeks because last week I was at the Tropicana in Atlantic City and I am back again. Okay, here we go. I am here and I am entering as of now. Okay, Commodore Jeff Sanbello and Exorcist Bishop Brian. I am here at the Royal Hibachi Grill in Bafay. Royal Hibachi Bafay, Route 46 West, Saddle Book, New Jersey. I just got here and I see Exorcist Bishop Brian, some succulent duck. Duck has finally come back as the Chow May Fun News. The brown rice with chicken. Let's see. Let's see. Oh, I think something. Oh, look, it's back. Crab soup. Crab soup is back, which I am very happy about. Let me get a plate right away before somebody takes all the succulent duck, which they will do. Hey, look what's open here. The party room. A beautiful imported lamps from Turkey. The beautiful Turkish lamps here at the Royal Hibachi Bafay. Look at that. Beautiful. Beautiful. All right. Look at that. Finally, succulent duck is back, baby. Succulent duck is back. So I will, I will definitely get, I will definitely start off with a surf and turf. There he is. The king of all Mongolian barbecue is at it again. Look at that. Look at that. Beautiful. What a work of art. The vapors of life. Look at that. Ties the pest. There it is. I'll be back. See what kind of fish we got here. Oh, the fish has wiped out. What's going on here? Codfish is gone. Oh my God. Look at that.  These guys better. How am I going to get surf and turf? I got no, I got no surf. I just got turf. What am I going to do? What am I going to do? I'm going to have to have turf and turf.  Look at this. What am I going to do? I got to find something. I got to find something here. No, I don't want that. I don't want the shrimp creole because then the sauce will co-mingle with my duck. I got to think of something. I don't know what to do. Well, Jeff Sambello, I guess I can't have no, well, I could have flounder wrapped around shrimp. That is fish. Just, just not, it's just not cod. But I will, I will get the succulent cod. I will get the succulent cod when it comes out.  Look at that. No cod. They attacked it like vultures. Somebody wants a wave of Mongolian breakfast. I wonder why they break the yolk. I mean, if they broke my yolk, I will definitely not be yolking around. Ha, ha, ha. I'd be very upset. Let's see what's going on here in the dessert section. Let me check out, let me check out not too much seafood. It's got mostly peppers and onions. Not happy, not happy about that. Oh, sorry. All right, let's see what we got going in the dessert. Sometimes they put flounder out. Sometimes they put flounder out.  I've never seen anything like that. What is it? I don't know. It's a mystery cake. A fluorescent radiation filled orange cake. I'm sorry, I'm only joking. No radiation. Oh, look at that succulent papaya. Look at that papaya over here. Oh yeah, here's the ice cream. The ice cream. Ice cream. See, look at that. All right, you know what? I'm getting a little disgust-apated that I couldn't get cod because it was wiped out, but I... Oh boy, I will catch it next time. I'll have to settle for flounder. I got to get my steak conife just in, Bill. Steak conife.  First I have to get a color-coordinated bowl. Oh, what do I got here? Lemons, lemons and limes. They both look good in yellow. Although they probably will stand out a lot better in beige. All right, let's see what's going on here. Hey, look what's back. Lemons. Round two. James P. Madonna was correct. Look at the codfish's snack, baby. It's like succulent filet of codfish. Look at that. Look at that beautiful cod, filet, thick. Fast it's going because it was a full tray when it came in. Fedor Jeff Sandro. The specialty of New England. Scrod cod, filet with a light, with a very thin, light, tempura-like batter. Excellent. Some steak going in. Atlantic City last week. Trapacanda. I was at the Trapacanda. Yeah, I went to the discoteca and everything. I was just telling one of my favorite waitresses, Dominican girl. Okay, now as a turf, I'm assuming this is some kind of steak. But, according to the bounce, it's a little well done for me. So I'm going to, I am not going to choose it. One more scrod cod. Is that enough? Carmina or Jeff Sandbell and Exorcist Bishop Brian? Is that enough cod? What do you think? Should I take it all? Should I take the entire tray? Nah, I'll be nice. I'll be nice. Okay, now I have to find a, I got the surf. Now I got to find a turf. Yeah, you know what? Brown rice. Brown rice with chicken. Yeah, it's a turf. Or should I get maybe General Tazos chicken? Sesame chicken, General Tazos. Some lo mein. I wonder if there's such a thing as high main, Jeff Sandbella. Is there a high main? I think lo mein has to be boiled a few inches from the floor. That's what they call lo mein. I'm not going to forget that crab soup. Make sure you stir the bottom people. Anytime you put soup in a bowl, please. Because the good stuff always settles. And don't forget, when football season starts, don't forget to come and get your takeout container of probably the best buffalo hot chicken wings that can ever be procured from Royal Abachi Buffet and Saddlebrook. Don't forget, stock up for the game at home with you and your buddies. They have a takeout container.  And I think it's going to have to be... You know what? Brown rice, chow mein fun. Alright, maybe chow mein fun. Get some chow mein fun, alright? The Angel Hair Noodle of China. And I think Thailand also. See, now what I'm going to do here, I'll show you what I'm going to do. I'm going to put some broth of the sea, fruit de damar, over my chow mein fun of the sea. I will be back. No, actually, let me grab it now.  Northern black mussels, which in my opinion tastes better than any other kind. They seem to have them combined with the New Zealand green lip mussels. I should do it. Beautiful sight, work of art. Fruit de damar, broth of the sea, chef's sambal, and exorcist Bishop Brian. Okay, now I shall return with my cornucopia from King Neptune. Ice cream, look at that. Oh, they're making a mess of it already. Cornucopia from King Neptune. Very thick, scrod cod fillet with Angel Hair Rice Noodle Chow mein fun, covered by the broth of the sea and some black mussels. Okay, here I have some beautiful, picturesque tuna and salmon and one calamari body sashimi, and I have this rather large tuna roll surrounded by nori seaweed and there's a little piece of cheese in there. Maybe it's feta cheese, who knows. And some really nice crab soup, excellent crab soup. I put the wasabi in here, which I have is sriracha hot sauce and soy sauce, and I'm going to gently stir it up, and that will be my dipping sauce for the sashimi. Gently break up the wasabi, and continue to stir slowly because you don't want to make a mess. Unless you're a slob, then you'll make a mess. Commodore Jeff Sanville and Exorcist Bishop Brian from the Travel Channel hit show, The Ghost Adventures, and then it's ready to be dipped into. Okay, this is the tail end of my buffet visit here for the beginning of March. It happens to be, I believe, March this... Wait a minute, it's Friday. It's either March the 1st or March the 2nd. I think it's March the 2nd. Anyway, it's not important. Here we have the treleche that was massacred. Look at what they did to the treleches. They destroyed it. Look at it. Look at it. I think this is crème brûlée. Crème de la crème. Let me get out of here. It's going fast, too. Here you've got grilled zucchini. Squish squashes. Commodore Jeff Sanville and here's some lovely eggplant. Some roasted eggplant concoction. I call it squish squash. Let's see what condition the ice cream is in. Not too bad. The kids didn't mess it up too bad. Probably going to have a strawberry. It sure looks very, very good. Between chocolate chip mint and strawberries. All right, let me have some of this crème brûlée. I'm going to have to clean one of them up for photography value. I got to do what I got to do. This has been Omega Live 21 production.


In this video, we provide the solution to question number 19 for the practice final exam for math 1210 We're asked to evaluate the indefinite integral of e to the sine of x times cosine of x dx This is a classic question of where we would want to use u substitution because notice if you take u to be sine of x Sine, of course, is the exponent of this exponents right here. That's a good choice for you du is going to be cosine of x dx Therefore our integral that is the integral of e sine of x times cosine of x dx by this u substitution It simplifies just to be e to the u du for which the anti derivative of e to the u would be e to the u plus a constant That is e to the u is its own anti derivative because e to the u is its own derivative Plugging back in that u is sine of x we get that the most general anti derivative would be e to the sine of x Plus a constant like so and it is important You remember the plus c because when you calculate indefinite integrals We're looking for the most general anti derivative and if you forget the plus c you'd have to lose a point So don't do that remember to have a plus c when you do indefinite integrals


Have you heard about Betty? Betty. Betty spaghetti, Betty spaghetti. Betty spaghetti. Have you heard about Betty, Betty, Betty, Betty? Betty, Betty, Betty, Betty, Betty? The spaghetti. You've just got some Betty,やalta.  What've you got in your throat there, pal? And he falls on the Instagram and Twitter for our juicy content Let's go to Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, and follow us when we get to squad bang! BANG! Falls on all the pairs on the YouTube channel Links in the description Bye bye Bye bye Today we're reckoned to some stand up Because... funny Uh, this is from a comedian who I don't believe we've, uh, seen yet Uh, Abish Matthew Yep, don't know him Uh, he has a YouTube channel He's a famous comedian in India His YouTube channel is Son of Abish This is channel Uh, he actually is a famous comedian, which we haven't, um, Reactivated, he's an interview with Vir Das and Irfan Khan Hey! That's an interesting combination It's a 30-minute long clip, we haven't got to it yet But, um, it's supposed to be a great conversation I would love to, that would be so interesting Uh, but anyways, uh, so he's famous that way as well So if there's more from his actual channel This is some of his stand up But this is, uh, what women think about during sex? Cart launch, all women, all women Okay, just all of them Well, comedy is pretty general Well, this is good to know, because I'm not a woman Are you? Sometimes Ah, well then you might be more in tune to what he's going to be talking about What do you think about during sex? I'm not talking about that here I think about ponies I could, I could have just said your mom Cool Alright, here we go What women think about during sex? What do you think the answer is? I think it depends on the partner I think it's going to be the definite answer Like, uh, um, Tripathi's wife What? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, gotcha Neers upon Look at the women that own you That's right, they are gorgeous There's none Unlike the gentlemen Men are supposed to be mad Women are evolutionally We're better than men We're better Just being very equally All gender is in sex Women are amazing So are men Not that amazing Men are horrible Then men are worst Some shit happened between us anyway You'll find me in a comedy show Okay, so this is what happens You guys were married for so long I think you'll understand this She has a power that you don't have She has many powers Yeah Specifically one power that you don't have Is called the Resonance Multitasque Women can multitask You don't know what multitasking means Men are dragging their car with the hot music And that's it One look outside of a hot girl You're cashing with somebody They can multitask Anywhere at any time They could be in the office Hello sir, how are you? Nice to meet you You look very nice Good try Women, check it out Wait for a second Multitasque Too much on Satisfying her While the women are focusing too much on Satisfying her You guys seem like, get it over You know how much you appreciate When a woman walks out for 5 seconds The last more than women Is not because we care about women's feelings It's because women talk It's that you can always hop on to the next one So you want to make sure your credit score is high If you really want to be asking Women too focused too dedicated Women will do too many things While they're making love to you In my case after marriage because I'm Catholic This is what happens When a woman is with you Making love to you Seriously, the rest of it I didn't know there was only 4 minutes That's unfortunate He's funny though Obviously I'm sure If your woman is doing that during sex I'm hoping it's not his exact story That would be unfortunate Very unfortunate Very funny He's very He has good rhythm To his comedy And obviously he's got some physical comedy In there with it He's very funny, I liked it I laughed some Clearly they were laughing some And New Yorkers don't laugh unless it's funny Oh yeah, he's in New York Never been I honestly have no idea I don't know anything about the stand-up world In New York No, never went, I've been here I've been to the comedy places here But I've never been to any comedy places in New York It's got a huge comedy world For sure, but I don't know a thing about it Other than like The big names play Radio City Music Hall That I know, but the comedy clubs in New York I don't know anything about Now the theater world, that I know of Yeah, in New York Do they have a theater in New York? But that was very funny He's very funny I wish it was more I could have gone on for another five minutes I really felt like he just got us started on the routine Maybe it was because of It was sex, so he kept it short It was a double joke There was a double joke right there It was a double joke Yeah But I hope that's not the story Yeah And if it's the story of any of you You probably need counseling Yeah In Kamasutra, I've never read it But I heard it had some good moves There's a lot wrong if that's what's going on But, very funny I'd like to see more from him So let us know any other videos of his That we can react to And watch down below


Hola, mi nombre es Cynthia Bañuelos y le quiero dar gracias a mis papás y a Highline College. Hello, my name is Austin Clemens and I'm graduating for a business associate's degree here in Highline Community College and I want to thank the Lord our God and my parents for all the support they have given me to make my best achievement here in college. Thank them so much. I won't ever forget. Thank you very much. Hi, my name is Christine and I'm in the paralegal program. I just want to thank my two children, Zander and Zane, who have supported me and loved me through this whole process and I wouldn't have completed without their support. To my mom and dad, I love you guys and all my family who's been there for me throughout the years. I finally did it! Hi, my name is Don. I just want to thank my friends and my family, especially my cousin Michelle who's been my rock through all these two years. My daughter, my grandkids and most of all, I thank God for giving me the strength to keep going. Yay! Hi, I'm Grayla. I would like to thank everyone who supported me through my journey and for all my friends and family for showing up today. Thank you so much. Hello. I'd like to thank my family, my wife Cynthia, my son Matthew, Elisar and my daughter Rika Gomez for giving me the support to finish this course. I'm really very very happy that I've done this and I'd like to say this in my language. Thank you so much for being my wife and my son. I'm very happy. Thank you so much. First of all, I'll be thankful to God for this great opportunity. I'm so thankful to my parents, to my brother Francis for all the help and support and finally I met all friends and family so much love. Thank you. Hi, thank you so much for coming. I'm Kayla and I want to thank my family especially my husband and my two children that have put up with the time management that I had to make and also I would like to thank Rod Stevenson for making it financially possible for me to get here and also A.M. Bolfa in the trio services. They made it possible for me to be here as well by coaching me through the whole process. Thank you. Hey, my name is Shonda Johnson and I'd like to thank God first and foremost for putting me here at the school. I love my professors. I had a wonderful time with my friends meeting new people and I'd like to say thank you for everybody that has supported me throughout my years of study at Highland College who has given me courage to press on, perseverance, motivation and skill work. I'd like to thank my professors who I just adore and I thank them for putting me at this platform in my life giving me ready for my next four years of study at other universities and I'm just so happy to be here today. I'm excited and I'm thankful. So thank you so much for being my family and friends. I thank you for being here for me and I'll see you guys again. Bye. Hi everybody. First of all, I would like to thank God that gave me opportunity and also would like to thank my family, friends and teacher who supports and encouraged me to achieve this goal. Thank you so much and God bless you all. Hi, my name is Joyce. I'd like to thank everyone that's supporting me, especially my mom and my dad. Thank you for your support. I love you all. Hi, my name is Julie and I'd like to thank everyone that's in my life, especially my mom and my dad for doing anything and everything just to support me. I love you guys. Hi, my name is Eurydia and this is Annie Smith. And I want to give thanks to my family and my friends and my teacher to help me throughout. Sorry, my sorry, I'm just going to give out to my mom and my dad for other support. Okay, Eurydia, you know I'm the choir now, okay. But I want to give thanks to my children, to my husband, to my church. I thank you, my church for all your prayers. It's been a long time, these two years been a long time, but I thank God and I thank you for your support, your love, and I just thank my teachers. It's been fun. It's been a journey. This is my second journey. Okay, I'm starting over, but thank God and thank you everyone for your support and your love. And I'm a Running Start student graduating this year with my AA and an emphasis in French and my high school diploma. And I can't be here today, but I just wanted to say hi to my mom and my stepdad and my stepsister who will be walking without me and I just want to say thank you for all the support you've given me and everything you've done for me and I appreciate you so much and I never would have gotten this far without you guys. And I love you. Hi, my name is Rochelle. I'll be graduating with the General AA to transfer. I was also the ASHC Vice President of the student body. I would like to thank the professional staff and all the student staff at the Center for Leadership and Service and Multicultural Affairs. Big special thanks to my advisors, Jonathan Brown, Nuri Kim, Ayesha Valencia, Marta Reeves, and my student government team, Pausman, Abdulaziz. We're all graduating together this year. I also want to say a big special thank you to my counselor, Adam John-Apricio for all the wonderful guidance that he's given me for the past two years. This has been an amazing ride at Highline and I am a proud graduate. Thank you. I really want to thank my mom and dad. They made a lot of sacrifices for me to come over here and study in America. We gave up so much when we came over here. Our family, our friends, and the relationships we have established since when I was born to the age of eight. I miss a lot of my family, but I'm really glad I'm making something of myself over here. I can't thank my teachers, the supervisors that I've worked with here enough. I especially like to thank my co-workers at the Center for Leadership and Service. I've been such a supportive team. They're almost like a family to me. So, yeah, it's been a wonderful trip and I hope to continue this experience in the future. Thank you very much. Hi, I'm Jenae and I want to thank my parents because they helped me through college, getting me through the tough times and the hard times. And yeah, that's about it. Hi, my name is Namita. I'm graduating from my medical assistant program. Thank you for my family, my relatives, and my little two kids. Thank you. I'd really like to thank Highline for giving me an opportunity to change my life. I was a displaced worker and ended up coming in Highline and got a whole new perspective on what I wanted to do and change my life. Hopefully the next time you guys will see me will be when I'll be opening up my restaurant. Goldie's coming to a club near you. Thank you. My name is Marisa Tilfer and I just wanted to thank my husband Jeremy and my mom Rosa, who's provided me with so much support towards this degree. Thank you. Hi, my name is Missy and I'm graduating from Highline College. I first want to thank and give God all the glory for this great success and I thank my family and my husband for all their love and support and for believing in me. Thank you. Hi, my name is Alina Valenciano. I am a Reading Start student and I would like to thank my friends and family for supporting me along this journey. I'm excited to attend UW next fall. Hello, my name is Jeneth and I'm from Taiwan. I'd like to thank my family from Taiwan and the ISP office for giving me the opportunity to be the IISC. Thank you guys for making this possible. I love you guys. Hi, my name is Wen Yan. I'm from Taiwan as well. Thank you for people who ever helped me at Highline and then thank you for the Honors Program for helping us graduate as the Honors Scholar and I got to open my club at Highline College. Thank you, Highline. We love you! Hi, my name is Michael. I'm from Macau. Thanks for Highline College giving me this opportunity to study in America and thanks to the ISP office, my boss Amy, to make me an International Leadership Student Council that made me really great in this American experience. Thank you. I just want to say thank you to my husband and my kids for supporting me through this time. I made it! Hi, my name is Drang and I'm from Vietnam. I want to say thanks to all my family, my friends who supported me to study in the US and especially I want to say thank you to my sister who is coming to my graduation. And lastly, I want to say thank you to my mom and my dad who supported me to study in the US and giving me a great opportunity to study and become a successful person. Thank you. I want to thank you for my mom, my parents actually because they supported me a lot and I want to thank for everyone that I have met in Highline because even if you hate me or you love me you guys teach me something in my life. It's really important. Thank you. Hello, my name is Zephyr Swalia. I'm graduating with an Associate of Science in Computer Science and as an Honors graduate. I'd like to thank my parents for helping me get here and also my sister. Thank you. I'd just like to thank all my friends and family for supporting me these last two years in getting my Applied Science in Medical Assisting and thank you guys. I made it. I did it. Hi, my name is Sherri.  I'd like to thank my mentor, Ms. Liz Ward. I'd like to thank my mom. I'd like to thank my heavenly creator. It's all good. We're graduating. We're out here. Thanks again. Go Highline. Hola a todos los amigos de aquí de Highline Head Start. Perdón, de la escuela de Highline. Les estoy dando mis agradecimientos a mi madre, a mi padre, aunque ellos no están aquí en el área de Cearo, pero están en México. Yo les quiero decir a mi madre que le doy gracias por esta bendición que él me ha dado, el señor me ha dado la verdad de poder lograr mi carrera, terminar mi degree y también les quiero agradecer a todos mis maestros del área de aquí de Highline College por todos esos encouragement that they were giving me, all my professors. I really appreciate it, every advice that they were having with me, all the patience that they were having with me. I feel so excited for this moment and I appreciate my children's too. I know that I was missing them every time that I was coming to school but I want to tell them that I love every of them. Quiero decirles a mis hijos que los amo mucho y que les doy gracias por su paciencia, por su amor y su cariño y por haber esperado pacientemente en mí. Gracias a todos. Thanks to everyone. My name is Raquel and I just wanted to say thank you to all my family and my friends for supporting me these past couple years. I couldn't have done it without you guys. And to my children I just want to say I love you guys and I did this for you. My name is Brooke and I'm graduated from a Highline Nursing School. I'd like to thank my friends and family for helping me through lots and lots of sleepless nights. But most of all I'd like to thank God for bringing me to the end. See you later, maybe. Aloha family and friends. I'm graduating from Highline Nursing Program. I just want to thank the friends and family for supporting me today. Thank you. Le quiero dar las gracias a toda mi familia y sin ustedes no lo hubiera podido lograr graduarme. Muchas gracias. Pamela Hendrick, registered nurse. I want to thank my husband for all that he's done and all the support he's given me over the last several years. I couldn't have done it without you. I love you. Hi, I just want to thank my mom and dad for letting me have the opportunity to come to college. I wasn't going to come. I just want to thank them for pushing me and striving me to do my best every day in school and in and out of school. And I just want to thank my family, my friends, my family for helping me get through college. And yeah, thank you. Hello everybody. I just want to take a couple seconds out to say thank you for everyone who has helped me get to this point at this graduation in 2016. Hi, everyone. I want to thank God first because he gave me the opportunity to graduate. I want to thank all the people, my family, my friends, all the closest friends that I have who used to support me every day. I want to thank all of them. Thank you guys. Thank you guys so much. Thank you. Hi, my name is Spouseman. I am so happy to be here to be graduating with my associates in business. I want to say a big thank you to my family, especially my aunt for investing in me, investing in my dreams, my future. I am aware of all the things that you had to go through to just see me get here to this point. So I am really appreciative of that. I also want to give a big shout out to everybody that highlighted. It has been a tremendous journey. I appreciate every person that have supported me. I want to thank the directors, Kevin Stanley, Jackie Clinton, the honest team, the honest program and my supervisor is Jonathan Brown, representing students of Highline, being the student by the president. It has been amazing and I am definitely going to miss all of you here. I am so excited and I hope you are too. I wish all of you the very best and I will see you soon. Hey, my name is Lionel. I have been here on Highline since June 2013 and now I am getting my degree. I am majoring in civil engineering and then I thank for my mom for everything she has done for me. Hey guys, I just want to say congratulations to everybody. I want to say thank you to my parents and my family just for supporting me through this journey at Highline College. I am finally graduating with my precious degree and I am very happy and excited. Hi everybody, my name is Natalie. My name is Serena. And we are both graduating with an associate in business. Thanks for your love and support. We did it. Hi, this is Guru Chetan Singh. I am a first generation student and I am graduating with a computer science program and I am an honor scholar and I am so proud being here and I congratulate all of you and I want to thank my mom, dad and all of my friends. Thank you. Have a great day. Hi, my name is Abdul Aziz Bah. I am a student at Highline. I am on this student government as the AACC speaker of the caucus. I want to say thank you to everybody at Highline who has in one way or the other contributed to my success at Highline. It's been an honor and a great... It's been an honor and a great time being at Highline and I want to say thank you and to the rest of the students graduating I want to say congratulations. The wall is there for you and you've got a great education at Highline and go out there and use it and help the wall to be a great wall. Thank you to my parents and thank you to everyone who has helped me. Bye. Hi dad. Hello fellow graduates. I'm so excited for all of us in our futures. I want to thank Highline College for providing me with such a great learning experience. I want to thank student programs and student services especially Tony Castro. She does so much great work for all the students and I'm so proud of all my CLS and MCA family. You guys rock. Thank you for an amazing job and I'll take all the lessons you taught me with me through the rest of my life. Love you guys. I'll see Obrigoge and I just want to say thank you to all my Obrigoge clan but mainly my mom even though she's not here I want to tell her thank you because she really helped me get through this. Thank you. Hi everybody. I want to thank God the Father for giving me the opportunity to come to school in the favor to be able to get my community health and wellness degree. I want to thank my husband for being very supportive and understanding and patient with me for the last couple of years and I also want to thank Highline and the president of Highline for making this the number one diversified school in Washington state and thank all my friends and fellows and classmates and hope that they prosper as well in the future and thank you again Father God. See you guys later. Hey guys fellow graduates really want to give a special shout out to the beef fed office and the department. Everyone and all the effort that they've put into that department is awesome. Everyone in the west the west office for beef fed and work source also fantastic. Cannot forget Gene Monroe. Thank you Robin Richens. Thank you and everyone in the computer lab showing up. You've made my job a lot easier and to anyone that I've made forgotten a special shout out to Jan Schwartz visiting teacher from Namibia and his son Raji. Thank you. I just want to say thank you to my family for always supporting me believing in me and making me feel like I can accomplish anything. I love you guys very much. I did it. Hi I'm Cody Scott. I'm a graduate of the class of 2016. I'm getting my AA and my AAS in visual communications. I just wanted to say thank you mom and dad. I owe everything to you. You guys believed in me all my life and I wouldn't be here without you. Thank you. Hi my name is Brianna Jennings and I am graduating today from Highline.  It has been a tough one. I sacrificed a lot of socializing for a greater cause and I want to thank my children my sons for being there and hanging in there with mommy knowing that I couldn't play a lot of times or spend a lot of time but it was for a good purpose and then I also want to thank my wonderful husband for your support and your loyalty and helping me through this whole phase of mine I just want to say to all of you, I love you and thank you so much. Hi my name is Ben-Linjit Singh. To start off I'd like to thank the entire faculty here at Highline. Needless to say, without them I wouldn't have made it this far. The sport and eagerness in which they help students go above and beyond is at the very least remarkable. Equally I recognize that learning is not confined to this campus. It's more than that. It is just as important to receive that very support at home which I was fortunate to receive.  Without them I would not have been given the opportunity to pursue running start, to pursue the honors program and to volunteer. Having them by my side allowed me to truly give back to the community in a selfless way while maintaining high academic standing. Though there were many long days and sleepless nights it was all well worth it. With the help of professors and colleagues today I thank each and everyone for allowing me to graduate as an honors scholar. I'm confident that I will continue to make everyone proud as I continue my endeavors beyond Highline. Thank you. Hi, I just want to thank my parents, my teachers and everybody that pushed me to keep going and keep my education on track. Thank you. Well I would just like to say thank you to Stephanie and Denise from Airport University for all their help and everything that they did to get me to graduate. And I'd also like to say thank you to Mike and Ethan for all the support and love that you've given me. Hi, my name is Tanaia Lanning and I am a 43 year old who's graduating with a degree in business.  I hope to see you girls do this for a long time before you're 43. And I have to give a lot of thanks to my employer, the Port of Seattle for helping me make this happen and to my boyfriend, Drew Covey. Thank you very much. I love you all. Hi, everyone. My name is Karen, I'm Brazilian from Rio de Janeiro, now studying international business and then here I would like to go for a long time, studying different cultures and rights of people. See you soon. Kisses and stay safe. Hi, my name is Negatut Antari and this is my name. Hi, my name is Seiji. Well, we want to say thank you to our parents. My parents in Indonesia. Hi. Hi. And I also want to say thank you to Chris, Roxanne and Sorry. You guys are awesome. Thank you. Hi, mom. Hi, dad. Thank you for supporting me. I'm so, I'm very, very appreciate for you. Thank you. Thank you. Hi, mom. Hi, dad. Hi, everybody that came to support me. 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Welcome! Yay! Okay. Oh, some videos might not play. Thanks, that's very reassuring. Okay, so some of you might have seen The Daily Dweeps already. It was supposed to actually play it, but it looks like it won't play the thing. So... Physically... The spacebar, okay. But before this, there should actually be the video. So, mwah. Okay, so go to YouTube, search for The Daily Dweeps and you will find it. It's hilarious, it's great. It should have burned a minute out of my time, but no, let's just go straight into it. This is the original sketch. So I was working a lot, I'm an animator. I was working a lot and at some point I just kind of wanted to do an animation exercise from scratch where it wasn't like a character with fingers and hair and whatnot, just something that was super, super simple. And just try to figure out, can I just... I don't know, do a sketch of a character that is super simple shapes and it doesn't matter if it looks super appealing and if it's conforming to all the character design rules or whatnot. Just a sketch, just a quick sketch and then I'm not going to overthink it. I'm just going to model it, not do the perfect topology at all and then I'm just going to rig it with the fewest amount of bones. So it's going to be real time all the way through. I did it. I just did this super quick sketch of like, okay, I'm just going to go with the guy in the middle. And then... Yeah, yeah, okay. I don't know why, but I made like a little logo and I thought, it's going to be this kind of cute little thing. And then I animated the guy. It's so cute!   So the idea was that I would try to take a character that looks weird, like it doesn't, it is super simple but then see if I can get the character to shine just through the animation. So that's kind of, that was my standard. Also, I had no plan for an ending. This was never a short film. It was just an animation exercise. And one of the things that I wanted to kind of put out there as a little challenge is and waves of emotion can I make this guy go through. So, you know, happy, hungry, sad, devastated, angry, all that stuff. Space. And I put it to the side. I put it like, shelled this thing and I didn't do anything with it for years. You know, I moved to Amsterdam. I did Cosmos Laundromat a lot of different things. And every now and then I might like do a sketch that felt like, oh, this is kind of maybe in that universe. But I never really took it anywhere. I would maybe find a weekend or two every now and then. Maybe I kind of dived back into it. I added like a little chicken thing instead of the volleyball. And then I animated a little bit with it. But it was all like half blocking, half not. Never with an ending in mind. I think that's kind of where it stagnated. I just kind of stopped working on it. It's a little bottle cap coming in and then he kicks the chicken away super happy with himself. There's no more food. There's only devastation and despair and angst and human emotions or personal people emotions. So that's kind of where I was at with this thing. At some point Andy saw it. There's a lot of people at the studio that saw this thing. This is really cute. I know it's just a weird animation exercise that you did. You never had any intention to do maybe anything bigger. But what if we just made this be one of the open movies? And it's going to be the shortest one. It's going to be the cutest one. We just have to come up with a good ending. And I was like, yeah. That sounds awesome. Especially we were doing 18, 3, 2, 7. And it was like a year of my life and it was a challenge.  Like we're still being very prolific. We're making stuff. We're making content for the blender crowd and doing an open movie and all that. But it's not as challenging per se. It's more of a fun little thing. There were some challenges though. Just as an example, these were really old files that I had been working with years ago. And we were trying to figure out the scale of everything. And when we put everything in the right scale, I would have these weird-ass glitches and then I would have to redo some of the stuff. So it wasn't like I just took what we had and then we can just move on from there. There were artifacts that I had to work with. And Andy updated the local. So that looks beautiful. If you remember the crafty one I did. Yeah, it's gorgeous, gorgeous. And yes, the scale, you can see it there. It's kind of figuring out what would be the scale, like how big would the booster be in the girl and all that. This is behind my desk. Right there behind me. So I could always go there and visually get a representation of the different sizes. I got my nephew Eric as a little reference for the girl. So just feeding the dog. It just happened to have a plus toy dog. It was kind of cute. And then we have something interesting happening where there were some particle issues. Yeah, hey, hello. Thank you. I just did the rendering for this and it was really really smooth. We decided for some reason to render this in 4K and then during the end of the production it became sort of 8K stereoscopic for no reason. So and we had no issues at all with that. I'm just kidding, it was a bit hicky, but there was one particular issue that I wanted to share with you which that's the one thing that I learned and I have to keep that in my head and it's also good as a little reminder. So the particle system. We had a lot of projects before this, so Cosmos Laundromat. We did a huge colorful tornado. Lots of stuff going on. We had coming under slumigos where we had a train with particles, smoke and that kind of stuff. We had snow, like lots of snow effects on glass half. We had all these motion graphics particles. So we thought for this it's like it's just some breadcrumbs. So it's about the breadcrumbs that the dog spits out and then they land on the rooster and he's all covered with it and we thought what this kind of a simple thing like what could possibly go wrong? So I hope that this video plays. Ah, yeah. Okay, so this was my first well, not the first simulation, but really a simulation that worked in the 3D viewport. So I was able to stick some particles on the rooster, make sure that they kind of maybe we can just go back and play it again. So yeah, they land on the ground, they have some kind of bounciness to them and then the dog just kind of licks the thing and they fly off really simple. Worked beautifully. I was able to cache everything and so it's all baked into the blend file and then when we sent it to the farm something weird happened where there's some issues where the particles just kind of glitched into place and move around and stuff, but that's not really the problem, I mean that's a problem, but those things can be fixed. But for some reason the particles were like floating in the air and I couldn't really figure it out because in the 3D viewport they were there on the ground and in the render they were like in the air. Why? So for about solid two weeks I was trying to figure out what is happening here? Is the caching not working? Is something with the emitter not going right? Or what? So the thing with this movie is that we try to that was my reaction. So the thing with this movie is that we try to render everything with motion blur because now Cycles has this beautiful 3D motion blur and it's sort of thanks to the agent products it's sort of faster to render. So we thought let's just render this with motion blur, we tried some artistic motion blur where it kind of trails off like we did for the agent which is really friendly for animators because they don't want to have this thing where it predicts the future even though it's actually physically accurate but who cares? I'll explain later. So we had motion blur enabled for this whole scene. That's just one thing. So the thing that was happening kind of so this is the 3D viewport and when I thanks to Sergey we have this beautiful feature now that has is called subframe that shows the frames of the particles of the whole animation so apparently the particles were not staying on the floor they were kind of oscillating between frames up and down in this whole animation so they're kind of hitting the floor and they kind of go like in and out and in and out and I knew that something was going to happen with particles and motion blur so that's why I kind of disabled the motion blur just for the particles you can do that it's just a little check box because there's always for some reasons some glitches where particles pop in and out but they didn't have any motion blur but they were still kind of in the wrong place and it turns out when we did this whole motion blur thing where there's this beautiful trail from the current frame the frame that the animator sees into the past so to speak it looks beautiful for the animation but what we found out what suddenly came to we came to the realization that we use this function called like we use the shutter curve and we use this little thing that's called end on frame so it kind of sampled the animation at the end of the frame so the particle was in the up position so that's why all the particles were kind of floating above the floor because it was sampling the up position of that oscillating particles which is a bug in itself but I still know this is we came to this understanding so what we had to do is switch back to the old method that we also used on the agent which is center on frame and then kind of just cap the curve which also kind of results in this trail motion blur but yeah that's that was my learning curve so to speak so that is bad and that is good have this thing I have two mics so the particle thing was great except for all the challenges and then Andy went on vacation left me alone with it and the problem is I don't know anything about particles so I just started frame by framing every single particle by hand myself so the entire chicken is covered, the rooster is covered but I individually put all those things there and they were way more than there this is me halfway through the thing and then all the particles that fall down that's just me also putting little particles into the rig and hand animating that falling down there are exactly 21 particles that will fall down seven red, seven yellow and seven green and then when the dog kind of runs over them there's all this interaction that happens it wasn't until I saw it rendered that I realized this is going to be great for all the people that zoom in on the 8K because I had made them so small that like you can barely see it just if you see regular HD version or whatnot but it was fine it was fine and you know we pushed through and it was supposed to be a happy project not sad project happy happy happy sound recording of course so it's me barking like a dog and doing all that stuff we had a voice actress that did Devin Compton she did The Girl and then I did all the weird creatures, the animals and Sander Hauptmann he was our sound designer and then the premiere was coming up and yeah we're super super excited this guy was super excited it was going to be Wednesday October 18th and everybody got excited we tried to ramp up the PR machine and even like the kind of international PR machine just to get the Italian crowd going and then there were a couple of technical difficulties so that's me late at night on the Wednesday still technically Wednesday crying you know we had technical issues so the following morning was the release and it was great and we had great receptions we made like little 3D prints of the guys you can see it here the rooster is not fully assembled but I have printed out all the different parts so that's cool and all those things will be available on the clouds you know we can print it out yourself on the cloud we started doing tutorials like a tutorial on how I did the logo how I animated the logo and we have all the different rigs available I just put the girl right now she's by the way she does not have proper facial rigging because it wasn't really needed and you know when you're running out of time and you have a deadline it will be fine it will be fine t-shirt, kind of a crew t-shirt maybe coming up it's going to be fun and then you got some nice people taking the 3D printable versions and printing them and it's so so sweet it's Francesco here by the way did he run away okay okay no I was wondering because right at the end I was just hoping we could maybe play the movie it's on YouTube can you access it here and just play it yeah okay that would be awesome because this is the technically the final slide so let's just check out the thing yeah no no yes please technician please well I'll just entertain everybody while we're doing it okay so that's been your part that's right good question Andy did we not use any particles in this entire thing spewing out the food I think that's the only time when we actually use the particles any other instance like she has the food she's pouring the food into the little bowl that's hand animate that's just me and then you know he's grabbing the thing that's just hand animate it so yeah it's so worth it I mean you can really get a sense of it not being particles right oh yeah the daily dweeps so wow so this is great this is how everybody should do it go on YouTube the daily dweeps search it it's gonna be the first thing that pops up and by the way we did do this in stereoscopic so there is a version coming out that is like full 8k stereoscopic we were gonna release like the entire thing with that originally but the problem is we didn't realize this until like this is some of the technical issues that we had on the day of the release right late there in the evening if you release it that way then anyone on a mobile or whatever they're gonna have this weird split screen thing so by default by default you won't have like the normal version and then go into settings and make it stereoscopic so that's why we just we figured okay it's gonna be two separate uploads there's gonna be like the normal one which is gonna be sweet and nice but then there's gonna be the stereoscopic version so let's take a look maybe dim the lights maybe have a good day


What is happening guys? Thanks for tuning back into the channel today. We're gonna jump right back in to some work on the Duramax It's gonna be something really nice and easy and something I get a whole lot of questions on Instagram in-person at truck shows for is Gonna be doing some upgrades to the mirrors One of the things I've been looking forward to for a long time I'm gonna show you what I decided to go with and why I decided to before we get into that the dealership that I Work out we got some really bad-ass trucks then Got us a little red Express in a 47 Dodge Some really awesome trucks. I'll get some shots for those and see what you guys think about it. Stay tuned If you guys are interested in either of those vehicles the 1978 little red Express or the 1947 Dodge pickup truck you can always get a hold of the guys here at Paul Sherry Chrysler in Pickwell, Ohio Sherry Chrysler comm is where you can get a hold of them if that's something you guys are interested in But back to what we were doing. Let's go check out some mirrors So what everybody tends to go with they want to go with the newer body style like the LML LMM mirrors, which are a really cool mirror So I ended up going with this company E CCPP not really sure what that stands for But they're towing mirrors because they are a better price point And there's something that I think a lot of my viewers are going to go to Instead of some of the bigger names like the boosts or some of the other bigger custom light brands When you get into the boost mirrors or the other custom mirrors, you're looking at spending right around 350 and up dollars for these mirrors I've looked at a couple of those sets in person on people's vehicles And then I got a look at these and I really couldn't tell much of a difference between the two So that's why I ended up going with these mirrors. This is how they come A pair of them in a box price range on this one is going to be right between 150 and 170 dollars depending on where you get it I believe it is available on the Amazon when I make the video. I will put a link to that down in the description Just like the other ones. These are also plug-and-play directly into the factory connectors So you won't have any issues there plus it has another connection here and this is for plugging in the for the Light that's on the side there. There are two different ways that you can kind of hook that one up You know, it's just kind of due to preference on whatever people think it comes with this nice long harness to be able to plug That in for each of the mirrors So also really easy plug-and-play, but guys can't either decide whether to plug them into the Reverse lights. So when the reverse lights come on they back up, you know, it's a big LED light on the air Or if you want to plug them into the door lights, so when you open the doors, it's a convenience light There are also a couple different configuration. You guys can get these in the different body styles there are a couple of little differences when you're talking about earlier lly mirrors and then LBZ to the LMM style and One of the other configurations is for the turn signal lights or the front It does have just like on my LBZ the turn signal built into the actual mirror on the back side But on the front as well it's gonna have lights there and They have a couple different ones that you can pick from the smoked or the clear lenses Because I switched my headlights over to the smoked lenses. I went with the smoked lenses for that as well So the big thing that I'm gonna do is I'm gonna get them paint matched. Hell. Yeah, we are I think the coolest thing that is gonna look for this one I've been thinking about it a little bit is gonna be to do the paint matched in the top section and the Lower section down here leave the middle section be black because I don't think that having this Here on the a pillar is gonna look very well either if I paint that match match that to the vehicle I think that'll just be a little bit too much. We can always go over here to The truck and have a look So there is the mirrors right there So essentially with the new mirror set up the upper part and the lower part are going to be the Raptor liner paint match to it where this is gonna still keep the same contrast here on the a pillar side of it So I'm gonna get these over to the paint booth and then we'll get into wiring So kind of fast forward to the next day here We've got everything painted back from the shop and now we're gonna be taking our door panel off I know a lot of the people showing you how to do this But I'm gonna give you a real quick little detail of what to do. What you're gonna need is a 7 millimeter socket a I think this is a T20.  So that's what we're gonna need.  There's a 7 millimeter in there as you can see hidden up in here There's a 7 millimeter and then underneath right there is another 7 millimeter and then right here It's just another pry tab. You just pry that out. It's a little Christmas tree and then the door panel It's not gonna pull out. It's going to lift up.  There are three 10 millimeter bolts Forgot you'll need a 10-millimeter socket for that to be able to pull the old mirror out So I've already kind of swapped this one around so it's all kinds of swapped around and then So we've got the one plug that goes down our door panel and plugs into the back of our switch and Then our other One is going to be our lighting for our reverse LEDs I'm gonna show you how we wire those in so up front. We tapped into the Trailer backup wire or the trailer backup fuse. I should say we've put an add of fuse in Again always use heat shrink butt connectors if you're you know gonna use any butt connectors out here use ones with heat shrink Put a little notch in the PDC here for it to run through and then we're gonna run our one power line Inside through the firewall down there So see yep So we're gonna run it on inside So we've got our power a lot wire run inside and Then also ran it across to the right side because we're gonna need power over there as well The kit comes with the wiring harness that plugs right into The factory or the mirror that you have here to run that down in the door panel You're gonna have to get a a close hanger of sorts You know yeah, just a close hanger like that To help unhook these run the wire through the door jamb and then down into here So the power wire we're gonna be hooking up to the red wire that we ran through the firewall and then the ground We're gonna put an eyelet on and just put it to the Groundstrap right there Then it's gonna be the same exact thing on the other side and it's gonna look awesome We'll give her a try There we go guys We got them in reverse. These are our LED lights. It's kind of bright outside. So can't really show you and To match the truck we've got the bed liner paint job on them To that thing turned out so awesome big shout out over to my guy over at first choice paint and body here in Piqua Ohio These things look awesome I'm gonna go off of another video and I'll I'll level these out eventually But we got a car show to get to today and it's my anniversary So this is about the only leftover bit of the video that I've got to do but these things are really really cool Texture turned out great Matches the texture and everything here on the truck I Go back over to this side The backup lights hooked up and then the turn signals on these Yeah, I know it's flashing fast, but that's because I've got the LED turn signals in the front right now So I got to put a resistor in it at the turn signal there as well as the turn signal in the front I went with these smoked lenses in the front just to match my smoked headlights and fog lights and everything All in all, I think this really sets the truck off Tell me what you guys think in the comments Tell me if you guys like these Like I said, these were not the higher end ones the boost auto parts ones These are EECCP whatever I'll put the link for them down in the description See how well they turned out compared to the other ones Well, that's all I got for you today guys Hopefully you guys enjoyed this little install of the new style tow mirrors as always Like comment share subscribe. Thanks for tuning in you guys stay awesome