a lot with women that come to me in this industry and in our community is that they will say things like, they'll really be concerned about things that aren't all that important.  And they're like, this is what men want, right? And it's really interesting because a lot of those things that they talk about aren't actually the most important things for a guy. You know, guys make decisions about who they date, who they are in a relationship with, who they want to be with in a long term relationship versus something that's just casual based on emotion, right? They do it because of how they feel. They feel a certain way and it might be with a woman that they, in fact, a lot of times it's with a woman who isn't what they visually thought in their minds, right? Maybe you know of some guys who do this, they're like, oh, I want this type of a woman and then they end up with somebody completely different or women who do that for a matter, a matter of fact where they're like, oh, I'd love to have this kind of guy and then they end up with somebody that's completely opposite of what they said because we are attracted to certain certain things and we feel a certain way and that's what we make most of our decisions on in our lives regardless of what we're making decisions on. And so today I wanted to talk about this, this subject of feeling really good in your body, feeling really great about yourself and who you are because it's that emotion that you bring to a guy that is by far the most important thing and I wanted to bring on this great expert that we have here, Una Duncan. She's a world, an international bestselling author, she's a fitness expert and she really helps people connect with themselves, connect with their emotions and really love themselves and love their bodies and love exercising and so I just wanted to come on and bring her, we actually met at a Tony Robbins event, I just wanted to throw that out there. And we got along great at the event and so I thought it would be fun to have her on the channel and come and talk to you guys about her expertise.  Yeah, we did. We jumped into a freezing cold river together. Yeah, totally. Thank you so much for the intro. Matt, you know what it was reminding me when you said, women will often have an idea of the type that they're attracted to but then sometimes they end up with someone who doesn't necessarily fit that type but it makes them feel that way and the biggest example I was thinking of, if you ask a lot of women, they'll say, oh, I like a really tall man, right? But if you get a man who is not that tall but he really owns his masculinity and he makes you feel in your feminine and feel taken care of or whatever those feelings are that you want, then you're like, I'm fine without the tall, this is the feeling that I wanted. And so that was the kind of example that I can really relate to as a woman that you're talking about.  We are brainwashed to think that men will not be attracted to us. We don't have the boobs or the waist or the bum or the whatever is the latest. And by the way, you guys know that what men are attracted to changes all the time, right? Like when, you know, in my short life, short life, I'm 43, I still remember times when I wanted to look like Linda Hamilton in Terminator, so she had this really buff kind of look. And then I remember in the 90s, what was really popular was enormous boobs, but like a stick, like Winona Ryder. I really wanted to look like Winona Ryder. And then now it's all about the bum. But when I was a teenager, like you couldn't have a bum. That was sort of really bad. It was all about the boobs. So this stuff changes all the time. And ladies, if we were to try and adapt our physical bodies to fit the latest trends of what men are supposedly attracted to, which is mostly BS. It's just fashion trends meant to sell us stuff. But if we were to try to change our bodies to fit this, we would go berserk and we kind of do, right? So that is one of the reasons why it is so important to feel good right now. Right now, because as Matt was saying, it's really the way you make a man feel that he is attracted to. And he's going to feel so good if you feel good. I'm sure Matt, you probably talk about this all the time. Like that's what dudes want, right? They want to be a rounded woman who is happy and who's feeling good and that they can feel like they are helping her feel good, right? Yeah. Well, there's I just want to mention one thing here. My I've a friend that I used to hang out with a lot who was one of those kinds of guys who used to go for women who are like stick thin, right? And that was his type. And everybody knew that was his type. That was the kind of girl that he would go after when he saw somebody in a bar as he would go after the thin, really thin girl, right? Yeah. And it was really interesting because the the woman that he ended up with was not this, you know, super thin kind of woman that he would normally go after when you'd see him going after girls in the bar. And he ended up, you know, getting into this long term relationship and they've been seeing each other for a while. And it was interesting because I pulled him aside one time because I wanted to talk to him about it because this is all I talk about for the most part, right? It's just like personal development stuff and and dating and relationships. I was like, I was like, hey, man, his name is Michael.   But she's not that type that you normally would go for. And I was like, I was like, what's the, you know, like, what's the deal with that? And and what he told me was one of the most fascinating things I've ever heard. And he was like, he's like, yeah, man, I don't know. It's just when I saw her, it's just there's something about her that that just made me want to run over and just like grab her and start kissing her. And he's like, he's like, I know she's not the normal type that I go for. And if I would have told you what kind of a type that I look for, it wasn't her, but, you know, it was there's something about her that just made me feel so attracted to her. And and so I went over and talked to her and, you know, we're in a relationship now and I still feel that way, which he said, normally he doesn't like after a period of time, he kind of loses interest and pulls away and all that kind of stuff and disappears. Right.  And so it was just a completely different experience that he had when he was connecting instead of it just being this kind of superficial kind of body, you know, I'm looking at her and I see this, you know, this this attractiveness from kind of a primal standpoint, it like goes even deeper, right? And it goes into to something that's in his soul, right? Energy, he's really looking for. Yeah. And so I just wanted to throw that in there because I love that story. That's great. That's awesome. So here's one thing that I wanted to say that one of the problems I think that a lot of women have when you when you start to think of, OK, yes, I know confidence is good. So I'm going to I'm going to start to be more confident and start to and, you know, also magazines are always like, love yourself the way you are.  We're constantly pummeled with change your body, fit these beauty ideals.  And just, right? That's kind of the messaging that we get all the time. But one of the problems I think that women have with this idea of loving themselves the way they are is that they get concerned. OK, wait a second.  So here's the thing. It's actually kind of the opposite. We have this idea that we look in the mirror, we play bootcamp sergeant with ourselves and say, OK, this is, you know, you've got to get rid of this and you've got to fix that. Then we will shame ourselves into behaving properly. But it actually completely doesn't work that way. In fact, the more you beat yourself up, the more likely you are to binge to skip your workouts, to feel depressed, which will cause that sort of cycle. And they've done studies on this.  We told you to do it. It's our fault. There's not even any calories in it. Don't worry about it. And then the other group did not get those messages. And then they had them sit and do like math or something like that. And they just happened to have candy on the tables. And guess which group ate twice as much candy? The ones that didn't get the messages of self-compassion, just unconsciously ate twice as much candy, even though they had just had the donut. So this is the thing is that if you are right now beating yourself up, thinking if I beat myself up, then I'll behave properly. I'll make myself feel bad enough in order to motivate myself. It won't work. It really won't work.  Like there is nothing more of a turn off to men. Actually, I mean, Matt, correct me, I'm not an expert in this, but this is my guess. This is my guess that when we put the burden on men to make ourselves feel good about ourselves, that's that's not a job they want. They don't want that job. We have to show up feeling good about ourselves. That's not their job to tell us that we're not fat or blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. OK, right, right. It's just an interject there. It's just it's exhausting is what it feels like, right? It feels like, I mean, like initially, it's not a big deal, right? Because you kind of feel like you're needed, right?  No, you look great and everything's great. And yeah, how are you feeling? Right. But if you have to do that all the time and and she's constantly seeking it and she's contacting you and, you know, constantly baiting you for compliments and and trying to make herself feel better by connecting with you all the time. It just over time, what ends up happening is it gets guys start feeling tired and they start thinking in their mind like, I don't know if I could be with her long term because like this is something that he knows that he's going to have to deal with for the rest of your lives together. And so he he's like, you know, for a lot of guys, it ends up kind of cutting you off from being long term relationship type of material, not because he doesn't want to have you as a long term relationship, but because he doesn't feel like he's really up to the task, you know, because or or if he like he even wants it, right? Yeah, do I want to experience this forever? And even if you want it, like, can I even be successful in helping her feel better because every time I tell her she looks fine, she says, no, I don't. So you're making him feel unsuccessful if you're kind of rejecting that idea. So and also, I just want to say one thing that what ends up happening is that it usually gets worse, right?  And then you're like, you're hanging out. And then over time, what happens is you start becoming more and more comfortable. Yeah. So your stuff starts coming out more and more and more. Totally. And and if it's like crazy, right? And it just keeps getting worse and worse, which is what ends up happening. If you've really if you're really down on yourself and you're really depressed and every time you're around him, you feel good. But that's the only time you feel good is when you're around him, you start getting addicted to being around him and that emotion and whatever he does in order to trigger that emotional state that you have. And so you're constantly seeking it, right? And for him, it's just it's like overload, you know, and totally, totally. And I think that you just touched on the kind of the most important thing is that we think we want, you know, flat abs or like defined arms or whatever.  I don't know, thigh gap is the thing now. We think we want these things, but actually what we want is the feeling we think we're going to have when we have these things. So it's not that because a lot of people, this is what happens. They get the flat or, you know, maybe they get the flat abs, but if they've been constantly training themselves to be discontent with their body, they'll get the flat abs and they'll say, yeah, but, you know, I really got to lose some here or I really got to get whatever. They'll come up with something else because that is the only neural pathway they've ever practiced. And then the other thing is that it actually won't work, like I said. But even if it does work, even if you managed to somehow get yourself down to the flat abs of one hundred and twenty pounds or whatever you think your goal is, if you haven't been practicing the feeling that you actually want, you're going to get there and you're still not going to have that feeling. So what you need to understand is that it is the feeling that you want. And you have to start training for that feeling at exactly the way you are at right now today. And it can be hard like training for anything. It's like a muscle. It is a muscle. This is the muscle that you have to start building. And you've got to start thinking about it as training like any other kind of training, because if you think you're going to get down to one hundred and twenty pounds or whatever, and then suddenly you'll feel, you know, sexy, confident, however you think you're going to feel, but you've never practiced it.  Like you will not be able to access those feelings. You've never trained for it. So you have to start training for that now.  You're going to have to like I had one friend, actually one of my clients, she said, Una, I exercise all the time. I eat really well. How can I get rid of the cellulite on my thighs? OK, so now if you were to hear that, you would say what I asked her is, why do you want to get rid of the cellulite on your thighs?  And what I want to say is actually you want to feel a certain way in short shorts and a bathing suit. So and I knew this girl, I knew she exercised all the time. She ate really well and I could probably give her really like really strict regime. I could tell her about, you know, using fake tan and preparation age. Preparation age actually gets rid of cellulite. Just tip, if you ever do want to do that.  And the project to be way better spent on her practicing wearing short shorts. And every time she has that thought of, oh, my God, are people noticing my cellulite thinking like, damn, right, they're looking at my hot legs. And the problem is that a lot of people when I tell them that, they're like, oh, I'm not ready. Like I can't, it's that's too much for me. That's like ask for me to look in the mirror naked. Even just that is often too much for women. And so then you just want to start like any kind of training. Start with the little baby steps and work up incrementally. So if you're not at a point where you can look at yourself in the mirror and be like, oh, yeah, maybe you could just start by looking in the mirror and thinking, I accept this body. I'm grateful for this body. And then once you've got like a genuine sense of acceptance and gratitude, maybe then you move up to and this lipstick looks kind of nice on me. And then maybe you move up to my legs actually look really good in heels or whatever. So you start to like it's just baby steps. You're building that confidence muscle because really it is that is what you want. It's not the cellulite free legs. It's not the whatever it's the confidence. Yeah. And that's the confidence and that emotion is what is what brings everything else. You know, the more you feel good about yourself and the more you just feel good in general and the happier you are and the more you're celebrating and the more that you experience life feeling in a empowering emotional state, the more that you'll want to start feeling that more and the more that you'll start doing things in order to start feeling that way. And one of the things that helps you feel that way more often is a little thing we call progress, right, where you make progress doing something, right, which can be losing weight or getting the tone, but you want or any of that kind of stuff, right? And the more that you move towards that and you're coming from a space of feeling good, the more you start celebrating it, the more you feel good. And, you know, kind of like what Una was talking about earlier, though, if you're not, if you haven't practiced this, if you haven't done it for a while, it can be a very challenging thing, you know?  And you can just do anything, right? Just just, you know, one of the things that I started doing when I first started doing stuff like this is I would get like strips and I would write out things and I would place it places where I would see it, right? And, you know, some of it was a little bit too bold for me. But at the same time, it started getting my my mind thinking in the right direction and started when I look at it, you know, one of the things that we talk about a lot on this channel is what you focus on you feel and what you feel you receive, right? And so you want to change your focus to the things that you want and the things that you want to feel and the thoughts more importantly than anything. And I talk about this in my programs, right? The thoughts that you want to have and and doing it from a holistic standpoint, right? If you're if you're just working on that external thing, which is what a lot of women get kind of caught up in is they focus on, you know, the the external result, you know, just like what Una was saying, you end up at the result. If you do, you end up at the result and it's not enough. You know, and it's never enough and it never will be enough. And that's why you need to come from that place from the beginning. And if you're not in the beginning, just right now is a great time. Totally. And you know what, Matt? This that reminds me is that what you said about progress is perfect. That is like another one of the secrets to making yourself feel better right now is that so, you know, you want that feeling, right? You think you're going to have any get the abs or whatever. But the best part, this is so interesting. And Matt, maybe you remember Tony saying this, he's like, happiness is the progression is making meaningful progress towards goals. OK, so it's actually it's really funny. A lot of studies show that we're actually happiest when we're moving towards our goals rather than when we've achieved them. So if you want to start feeling happier, more confident about your body now, and this is totally backed up by research, you can even just do one workout, one workout, and already you have a slight shift of feeling a little bit more confident about your body, any progress you make, I think even scheduling your workout, once you've scheduled your workout, you're like, right, I'm on track, I'm making progress. Choosing a salad, you chose one salad and you're like, OK, I'm on track, I'm making progress. Every single one of these choices is a vote for the new identity, the identity that you want and the feeling that you want. And it doesn't have to happen when you've achieved the goal. It doesn't have to happen. You know, for example, a thing I'm carrying a lot now is well, when this pandemic is over, then I will blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, no, no, now, like there's always this chance to make a choice that's a vote for the identity you want. You don't have to wait for Monday. You have to wait for the summer. You can start that feeling right now by making a choice that's even just the tiniest little one degree towards the goal that you want. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, what was there anything else that you wanted to talk about here? Oh, no, I mean, Sam, just to get my notes here. I think no, I think that actually that thing about the progress and you just reminded me that was the other thing that I really wanted to nail home and other than I just want to reiterate the idea that when you start practicing these these loving thoughts towards yourself and your body and complimenting yourself and finding little things to love and to feel confident about, it will feel like a lie. It 100 percent will. And you just keep doing it. It's a fake it till you make it kind of thing. And you do want to back it up until it feels somewhat reasonable, like Matt was saying, like it was a little bit too much for him. But that's starting to train your brain in the right direction and back it up until you can kind of buy it. And then you start adding on. And again, this is the muscle you want to train the feeling feeling of feeling confidence, sexy, whatever is the feeling that you think you're going to have when you've got the smoke and body or whatever. OK, one thing I want to mention real quick is if you're interested in getting a free chapter of Una's book, you can go you can you can go to fitfeelsgood.com forward slash chapter and you can get that. There should be a link below above or below this video, depending on where you're watching this right now. And if there isn't, then just go to fitfeelsgood.com forward slash chapter. And so if you have any questions about anything, go ahead and ask the question. Your questions in the chat. It looks like we've got a lot of comments here.  I love everything that we're totally in alignment with with the things that we we think about and the things that we do, which is probably why we met at a Tony event because, you know, it's it's we're those kinds of people, right? Personal development is great. That's right. Yeah. And if so, if this is like if this is the kind of philosophy you're teaching your people and they want to apply it to a fitness journey, that that's what I talk about in my book. So it's really applying this mindset towards whatever it is that you want to achieve in your fitness and your health and your wellness, which, you know, right now, it's not about a focus to have. Yeah, it's a great focus to have. This is a perfect time to start working on it, working at home, working on it.  There's like I didn't even know there's like some parks out here that have like gyms and stuff out and so I've been checking that out. So let's go to the comments. Let's go to the comments real quick. Cheryl says, love your sage advice so far. There's a warning there from Cheryl. Yeah, thank you. Amy says, good afternoon. So happy to catch you live. Well, I am happy that you are here with us right now. Let's see. Hello, Matthew. Greetings from Tanzania and your number one fan. Well, nice. Thank you. Thank you. Does anybody have any questions about feelings, feeling good? You know, what's going on with you connecting with yourself, feeling confident, being in your emotions, experience life the way that you want to losing weight. Anything like that. Yeah, you're welcome to ask us any kinds of questions. Actually, if you have any questions at all about anything, we'll answer anything right now. And I did one other thing is that sometimes when people get access to this, you know, philosophy of trying to make yourself of, you know, monitoring your thoughts and thinking about the things that you want rather than thinking about the things you don't want, etc. Is that they start to get a little panicky because they might have some negative thought patterns and then they will start to beat themselves up for having the negative thought patterns. So one script that I offer to people is that if you do hear yourself beating yourself up, then your new script is even though I have this negative thought pattern of hating my thighs or whatever, I still deeply and completely love and accept myself exactly as I am, even though I have this pattern. And the fact that I'm starting to hear it means that I'm getting closer to letting it go because when you bring it to your awareness, that's when you can consciously choose it or not. And if you start to hear it, then it's not you're actually separating yourself from it a little bit. So that's one one thing not to freak out. If you hear yourself thinking about thoughts and think, oh, I'm thinking about thoughts, I'm going to binge or whatever. So no, you're hearing it. Now you can stop it and love yourself, even though you have those patterns. And one thing I wanted to kind of throw in there as well. I'm just like, you know, throwing in things over here. But one thing I want to throw in is there you kind of mentioned this thing where it's like, you know, I don't really feel this. This isn't really me, right? I'm not, you know, one of the things that we get from women all the time is they're like, oh, this isn't I'm that's not me, right? Like saying anything other than what I would normally say isn't me. Right. And it's like, is that is that really you? You know, and the metaphor that I have for this is think of it more like trying on a new pair of pants, right? You put on a new pair of pants and it feels kind of awkward and weird because it's not, you know, you just put them on for the first time and they're built from a factory, they're not made for you, right? And but over time, what ends up happening is they you kind of wear them in and they start feeling really comfortable. And next thing you know, they're your favorite pair of jeans. And so that that's kind of the metaphor, right? Like sometimes you might start bringing up new thoughts or bringing up new emotions and you're like, no, you know, because some women kind of pull on these identities of like, I'm a, you know, I'm just a negative person or I'm just angry or I'm just whatever, right? I'm depressed. I'm, you know, whatever.  If you take on a new identity and and start thinking in a new way and pulling in these emotions that you can feel whenever you want to feel. Totally. I think it's all about a growth mindset, right? Which has been, you know, there's so much about growth mindset and how important it is. And it's so funny because I don't know if there's any women here who are moms, but we would never tolerate our children saying these absolutes about themselves. Oh, I'm just bad at math. I'm just, you know, whatever. We'd say, no, you're bad at math now. There's a great personal development trip. You know, when you do fortune cookies and there's that meme where you add in bed, you know, like stranger in bed or whatever. So what we're supposed to do is if you hear yourself beating yourself up about something, then you add yet onto it. So like, I'm not in great shape yet. I'm not good at Zumba, whatever, yet. And so you add the yet on there and then it just reminds your brain that you have a growth mindset and that you can really accomplish anything you want, that these things are not fixed. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. I actually heard a guy, this personal development guy one time say, like, if you if you catch yourself thinking something that's negative, what you do is you change the way that you say it to I haven't yet, right? Or I used to like in the past, I thought, you know, whatever, right? And then it associates it from you and it makes it this thing that you did once instead of taking it on as an identity of who you are. It's an old version of you. All right, let's see what Irene says. Hello from California. When a guy says he don't feel like he's even close to being ready to have that kind of a relationship with anyone, is it considered as a rejection? And, you know, that's a really interesting question, Irene, because what's interesting is you're you're at the point of like you took this guy says this thing, right? And you're like you're in your mind and you're like, how do I what do I make this mean? Right? You're like at this crossroads. You can make it mean I'm being rejected or you can make it mean something completely different. Like, you know, this guy has issues right now and he's not in a space. Right? He told you literally I'm not in a space to date anybody or be in a relationship with anybody and you're you're what you're doing is you're saying, well, he said that should I make it mean be something about me? Right? Should I make it, you know, something that's personal about me? And my suggestion is that you don't do that, you know, regardless of what it actually is, my suggestion is that you don't do that. And instead, you just take it at face value. He said that he's not ready for a relationship. And my suggestion is you just take it as he's not ready for a relationship. So did you want to say anything about that? No, I was actually I was like, that's true. I was like, he told you exactly and I wouldn't exactly what you said. I would not make that about you. All right. Rose says, hello, Matthew and Una from Renando Beach, California. Hello, Teresa says, love your relationship. Advice has helped me a lot being a widow in a new relationship. Well, I am glad that you are here, Teresa. Thank you so much for being here. I appreciate it. So we've got another person saying that they're my biggest fan. Are you saying you're Una's biggest fan? Who's biggest fan are you? And by the way, I think you have competition for the biggest fan. So let's see, what else do we have? Marjorie says, hello, Matthew and Una. How are you both from the from the Philippines? Cool. I'm doing great. How are you doing? I'm great. Thanks for asking. Thanks for asking. Linda says, confidence is sexy. I agree with that. It is super sexy. So Gladys Gladys says, I have a lot of skulls on my legs and always uncomfortable in public. Is there anything I can do about it? Oh, glad as my friend, I don't know what you mean by skulls. I think I don't need it. In my mind, what I'm picturing is like tattoos of skulls or like skulls, like tights or something like that. I'm not sure what you're talking about.  Do you have tattoos of skulls on your legs? Is that what's going on? We're wondering if it autocorrected cellulite or something. I don't know. That that is a common thing. Right. Right. Well, we won't know unless you comments again. Yvette says, I guess if you keep saying negative things about yourself, you could start believing it too. Not great. Yes, exactly. This is something that I call the law of belief transference. Right. If you believe something more confidently than the person that you're with, believe something different, you will transfer that belief over to them, even if they don't want to believe it. Right. And if you believe that you're not worthy and that you're not good enough and that you're ugly and all these different things, right? And you're around him, no matter how strong his belief is, if your belief is stronger, which it will be and he's talking to you over time, he will start to pick up on that and he will start to feel weighed down by it at the very least, if not taking on some of those thought patterns as well. So let's see. Cheryl says, sitting in my boho tree house overlooking the lake, listening to your relationship advice, always loving it. Well, thank you. I appreciate that. Irene says, when I ask what he values in people, he says competence. He needs someone as good or better than him. Does it mean I'm not good enough for him? You know, it's really interesting, Irene, because you are also at a crossroads here, right? You're like, what should I make this mean? Right. And it's interesting.  But, you know, when something happens, notice how you go to the worst case scenario, right? The worst case scenario is I'm not good enough for him. Right. And this could mean anything. It could mean a whole bunch of different things. Right. It could mean he could be talking about friendships. You know, he could be talking about like what we were talking about earlier, where a guy says that he wants one thing but ends up with somebody else because of his emotions. Right. Generally speaking, most guys aren't looking for a woman who is trying to compete with him in a whole bunch of different areas. Right. Like it's just it's not all that attractive to most guys. Right. It might be fun. It might be interesting. It might be a good thing to have in a buddy. But for a lot of guys out there, they aren't really looking for somebody who's who's like better than him at at, you know, things that he's good at. And so that's something I think you you ought to think about. And the other thing I think you ought to think about is not making it mean that you're not good enough for him. But instead finding out, you know, instead changing the way that you think about yourself so that instead of coming up with the idea that, you know, he thinks about me as not good enough, instead coming from a standpoint of, you know, what if I'm incredibly attractive? What if, you know, men are absolutely, you know, feel like I'm irresistible to them? What, you know, and coming from like mindsets like that, it's something I talk a lot about in in my forever woman program where I talk about, you know, changing the way that you think so that when you interact with a guy, what ends up happening is is you have a different way that you make things mean. And, you know, if you if you come up to a guy and you start talking to him and he says something to you and whatever it doesn't matter what he says and you think to yourself, does this mean that I'm not good enough for him? Right. Or if you make it mean something like, oh, he's, you know, creating a challenge for me or, oh, he's he's trying to test me in some way or, oh, he's he's really attracted to me.  Like maybe this is a bad example coming off the top of my head from this. But but changing the way that you think about it and coming from a standpoint of something that makes you feel more confident about yourself rather than coming from a standpoint of making yourself feel worse about yourself. I think you'll you'll do a lot better, not only with men, but in the rest of your entire life. I actually had a question based on those two last questions seem to be my man said this, does that mean he's thinking this about me? Do men communicate in those kind of cryptic ways? Because I know that for a woman, you know, if someone if so, I might say something like, oh, I really like flowers. And obviously I'm telling him to buy me flowers. That's how I communicate as a woman. But if a man says I like flowers, maybe he's just saying that. And he actually it wasn't about me at all. I don't know. I'm asking you. Do men communicate like sometimes, sometimes they do. But it's not it's not as often as women do, right? So a guy might say something in a cryptic way because he doesn't want to hurt a woman's feelings, right? And he doesn't want to get himself in trouble or, you know, a whole bunch of other things, right? He might he might say things in a little bit more of a cryptic way. But, you know, a lot of times it's women overthinking it. Like you can see in some of these comments that we have here, it's it's probably them just taking it and then, you know, going somewhere else with it, which is really difficult not to do. Right. If that's a habit of yours, where you do that every time, right? And so instead of just trying to not do it, in my opinion, it would be better to kind of do it in a different way instead of taking it and, you know, going over here and and being like, oh, it's this negative thing, taking it and going over here and saying it's this thing that that empowers that me, that that makes my life better, that makes me feel better, you know, or, you know, at the very least kind of like brushes off my shoulder and really impact me at all. So yeah, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep. All right. Anonymous Facebook user says, it's always something with me never satisfied. Yeah. So I think she's referring to the idea of like getting to a success point and then not being satisfied with it. Absolutely. And that is always the pattern. So what we have to do is start to really appreciate the journey and the progress because, you know, most of the time when people get to their big moment, it's not, you know, it's usually not quite as awesome as we thought it was going to be. And so you have to start loving the journey and appreciating, you know, it's a win every time you exercise, not when you get the six pack. That's not the win. The win is every time you get yourself up and out the door, you know, it's a win every time you choose the salad instead of the fries. That's when you give yourself the pat on the back and say, yes, I'm a healthy person. Yeah. Absolutely. I love it. I love it. So Cheryl says, people obsessed with their body image is exhausting.  That's what I'm talking about.  All right. I'm going to butcher this name. I'm not the greatest with name. He's Hey, well, there you go. Somebody's somebody's good with names. Hello, Matthew. Sometimes the men am attracted to death or feeling not feeling the same with me. It's crazy. I think you say the men that I am so attracted to, I'm attracted to them to death. They don't feel the same way to me. That's an interesting. That's an interesting situation that you have there. Let's see. Irene says, how come the guy that I'm friends with, for he didn't feel the same with me and yet still agree to be friends with me, also be vulnerable. The reason for that, Irene, is because men have emotional needs, right? I just talked about how men make decisions based on their emotions. Well, men have emotional needs and so they want to be friends with you and they want to get certain things out of being connected with you and being in relation to you, whether it's a romantic relationship or not. Right. And so it's not always just romantic relationship or nothing. Right. There's varying degrees of what men can want and get and experience and they want to have friends and they want to be connected and they want to be vulnerable and they want to feel good. Right. They want to feel good about themselves. They want to feel good about their relationship to you. They want to to experience the things that they need and they feel like they need to experience in their lives. And so he can act absolutely want to connect with you. But if he's afraid, right? If he's got some fears around himself not being good enough, right?  He hasn't achieved enough in his life.   But for some reason, he's just not good enough to be in a relationship. He might just ask you for friends that way. He doesn't have to face those fears that he has and face those challenges and whatever that he has about his own personal emotions. So, yeah, did you want to say anything about that? No, I'm loving listening to you. I'm learning so much here. This is awesome. Yep. So Manon says, true what you focus on, you feel and what you feel you start receiving. That's right. That is right. Pretty feisty says, where do I buy her book? Yeah, everywhere. They sell books. Healthy. Yeah. If you go to my site there at Fit Feels Good. If you want at home workouts or anything like that, you can get them there. But if you go to book at Fit Feels Good, there'll be links directly on Amazon and independent booksellers and stuff like that. And you can get a free chapter there so you can see if it's your thing. Yeah, and it's got great reviews. So just just just just go buy it. Just just go just go buy it. I don't know what you're even thinking. Contemplating it for Helena says, this is a great topic. Thanks, Helena. Thanks for being here. Helena is a friend of mine. Jane says, I agree with you both, especially the comments on progress, process and goals have just lost 23 kilos. Nice job. That's not easy. Congratulations. Yeah, congratulations. That's that is impressive. Yeah. And it is all about progress, yeah. Yeah, progress, it's all about progress, it's all about feelings, it's all about all that stuff, the feels, focus on the feels is what you want to do. Focus on the feels. So Diana says, hi, Matthew, love you a question, please.  I said I felt hurt and he said. And he should apologize. He went quiet and didn't do something. He said he would the next day. It's been six days. What's the right way to behave now? Plus, I feel so sad now. Yeah, I mean, that sounds horrible. And it sucks, you know, and and people have issues, right? People, everybody's got issues. Well, I mean, some people have issues, not perfect people like me and Luna, but yeah, so, yeah, I mean, he got mad. He called you a terrible name.  And so he's gone quiet and disappeared. And so what you need to do and I don't know what your situation is, right? It doesn't say whether you're in a committed relationship or whether you guys are just dating or just seeing each other or whether you're casual or what it is. But my suggestion is that you live your life. And at some point he will decide whether he wants to come back and apologize or not.  And my suggestion is that if he does come back and he, you know, one, make sure that he apologizes. If he doesn't, don't let him back into your life. Two, make sure you set a boundary around it. I go over that in detail in my how to talk to a guy program. But basically what you want to do is say what it is that you want. You know, tell him that you love to be in a great relationship with him. But, you know, he said something to you that was really hurtful and that you respect yourself far too much to be in a relationship with somebody that's going to treat you like that and then ask him if he'll agree that he won't ever say that, say something like that again. And that that's how you set a boundary. And so those two things, right? One is make him apologize to make sure you set a boundary in three. Make him work to get you back. So make sure that he's investing. He's taking on the masculine role in the relationship. He's doing things like going out of his way to come see you and investing in you from an emotional, mental time, possibly financial standpoint, that way that you're setting yourself up for the best possible situation that you can with this guy. But I mean, it's one of those things. Another thing you have to remember is that people live in patterns, right? We all live in patterns. We all have patterns for things that we do. And so if he's done this one time and he's getting all kind of cranky and leaving, this is a window into what life will be like with him. And so, you know, you have to remember that people can change, but most people don't. And so you have to remember these kinds of things and know what's going on and don't hold on to it forever, right? You want to let go and forgive, forgive yourself. And but always remember what's going on and make sure that you're getting in yourself into a good situation. I hope that answered your question, Diana. So Nika says, I have a very unhealthy body image of myself. Could some type of counseling help with this? If so, what kind? You know, you could try cognitive behavioral therapy. That's where you start to notice your thoughts and adjust your behavior. I mean, that's the only sort of therapy type that I can think of. I if you do have a body image, I strongly suggest you get my book, but cognitive behavioral therapy would be the first thing that I would Google in your situation, it really will be about noticing the thoughts and deciding whether you want to continue with that thought or not. And then just start interrupting those patterns and with a lot of compassion for yourself. Yeah, yeah. Absolutely. Good answer there, Una. All right, let's see what Belinda says. You always get what you expect. Not sure if that's true, but it's an interesting, an interesting idea. Let's see. Anonymous Facebook user says, I do this stuff all the time. Well, you do, huh? You just come on here and start your own live stream. Maybe you should be doing this video. Why are we here? Anonymous Facebook user does this all the time. No, that's cool. That's awesome. I'm glad you do this all the time. I hope it I hope it helps and I'm sure I'm sure it does. Yeah. So Bunny Bundy says, I think I am fat, but my boyfriend thinks I am too thin. I have gained over 10 pounds since we have been together. I was following a keto diet for type two diabetes control and weight control. I do not feel sexy in my current state. It's interesting and it's interesting. I would be curious as to whether your boyfriend has responded to your feelings of feeling less sexy. That's what I would be wondering about, because I would think that he would respond to your shift in the way you feel in your body and therefore not encourage you to lose and or it was gain weight, right? Yeah, gain weight. And it's actually quite common for when when women move in with men to start eating man food and gain a bit of weight. We go like the love pounds. I don't know. Do you ever talk about that? No, that's the first time I've heard about love pounds. Yes, yeah, I have no doubt in my mind that is usually a little bit more and getting the dessert to share and and also then you move in together and then you get a lot of more take out and you end up eating man food. You know, and usually love pounds are the best way to like those the best pounds to gain and usually they're great and no one cares or whatever. And then you sort of settle into a bit more of a rhythm and everything's fine.  I would be I would be careful about and I would love to hear Matt's perspective on this about what you do when a man is giving you advice on your body because I would feel like the man's job is more to respond to how you want to feel in your body and to encourage you and support you in behaviors that make you feel amazing in your body. And if he's encouraging you and supporting you in having behaviors that are making you feel worse in your body, whether that's to lose weight or gain weight, then I would say that that turns it over to Matt. Matt in a relationship more of a question because that that that puts off alarm bells for me personally, but you speak to that man. Yeah.  And the first thought that comes to my mind is coming from a space of compassion for the guy. Right. So why would a guy want you to gain weight when you want to lose it? Right. And the first answer that comes to my mind when I think about being a guy that's like talking to a woman and wanting her to gain weight and she wants to lose it is that I would feel more comfortable if she gained weight. Huh. Right. You think that there's a possibility he's saying, baby, you don't need to lose weight. In fact, you can gain weight. It's it's possible. It's possible. I don't know. All I can do is go from the facts that she said. And so she's if she I mean that is very, very possible, you know, in and make sure that you take what he says into context, you know, like what Una said, make sure that if if it's a situation where, you know, he's it's kind of like this offhanded thing where he's trying to encourage you, but he's not, you know, but but it could be right. Because some guys, what ends up happening is they get a woman and then they're like, I want to keep her. Right. And so they're like gain weight because I don't like guys looking at you. And I don't like you walking around and it could be a jealousy thing, right? It could be a jealousy insecurity thing on his part where he's not feeling good enough about himself. And so he's scared that he's going to lose you to some better guy that shows up in your life. And so he wants you to have more weight because he thinks that you'll be less attractive and less guys will look at you. Right. Or another thing is that he maybe is overweight. I don't know what your guy looks like, but let's just assume for a minute that he's overweight and that he's a lot overweight than you are. Right. And he looks at you and he's like, wow, she's like going towards these goals. She's working on herself. She's doing all these things. But I'm not. Right. And so what he ends up feeling from that is being left behind. Right. He feels like you're going off without him. Like you're doing all these things and that you're going to end up leaving him and, you know, he's going to be left behind at some point because you're going to have this new body and this great life and all these great emotions and these great things, but he's not. He's the same old guy that you met and he's not growing. He's not changing. He's not doing any of those things. And so he might be scared that he's going to lose you or that you're going to be different or, you know, all kinds of different things from this. And so that is my kind of initial thought on that. So we'd need to know a little bit more about exactly what he said to know, to know which one is the correct one. So Juliet says, interesting advice. I'm enjoying your program. One quick question. Why why a man would want to ask a woman about her past relationships? You know, there's a whole bunch of different reasons why my man might want to ask a woman about her past relationships. One of them is if he's conscious, right? He might be like, you know, I want to see if there's patterns, right? Because because everybody knows, right? If you don't know, let me tell you right now, people live in patterns. And so if he looks at your past relationships, there's a good chance that your current relationship is going to look like your past one, right? And so he wants to know what happened in those relationships. What are the red flags that I'm missing? You know, all that kind of stuff. That that's generally speaking, why he might want to ask that question and know more about that. So let's see here. Anonymous Facebook user says the little miracles is what matters. Little miracles. All right. Marjorie says, hi, Matthew. What if a guy says to you that he likes my personality? That's really feel me confident. Even I'm not sure with that. What? I'm not sure what you're saying there. I think maybe she's saying that if a guy says that like her personality, is maybe it's a similar kind of question. Is that a brush off? Is that him thing he's not attracted to you physically? Right. I don't know if that's what she's asking, but I'd love to know what you say about that. So. OK, so so. You know, it depends. It depends on the situation, right? It depends on the context. So what we're missing right now is kind of the scenario in which he's asking this question or saying this to you. And so we need to know. We'd have to know more about the actual scenario in order to actually be able to answer that question. So pretty feisty says, where can we buy any published materials? She's written. She's awesome. You can go to Amazon.com and pick up her program there. Oh, we got another one. Thanks, Una, just found and bought your book on Amazon. Can't wait to start reading and applying. That's awesome, dude. And oh, if you don't want to wait for books, they got Kindle in the audio and I got to do my own audio and it was super fine. I should warn you if you can't tell by the title, it's really sweary. So if you don't like very cheeky language and some dirty jokes, then it probably won't be the book for you. So Jennifer says, I am loving this beautiful video. Thank you for sharing it. Nice. You are absolutely welcome. So pretty. Sivia says, I have a boyfriend, but he always see fault in me. That's a that's a good. Right there. All right, well, we need to get going here. But thanks, everybody, for being here with us today. Thank you so much, Una, for being on our channel. If you want to get her her book, you can either go to Amazon or you can get the first chapter right here at fitfeelsgood.com forward slash chapter. You can also go to there should be a link above or below this video, depending on where you're watching it right now in order to go get that chapter. Or you can just say, you know what, I'm just going to get her book because it sounds like it's awesome and I love and she's great. So that would be my suggestion. Just go to Amazon, follow the lead of pretty feisty and go to Amazon and pick up a copy of her book. So thank you, everybody, so much for being here. I am absolutely honored to have you allow me to be a part of your journey to attracting the man and getting into the relationship that you've always wanted to have. So thank you so much. We have some of the smartest, prettiest, most amazing women in the world. As a part of our community, we have women from all over the world. And so thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much, Una. Did you have anything any last words you want to say? Oh, nothing, but thank you so much to you, Matt, and to all of your amazing people for the great questions and the engagement. And I absolutely loved it. So thank you so much for having me. All right, thank you, everybody. And we're going to get going, but I will speak with you again soon. Bye. Bye bye.


At this stage, let me say a few words about where are we as a global community from an institutional perspective? Where are we at the global level in moving towards better preparedness through pandemics? Are we drawing the lessons? So starting point I already mentioned is that despite warnings and past lessons of SARS, H1N1, Ebola, Zika, the world was not prepared to COVID-19 because we're going into these cycles of panic and then neglect. And to repeat myself, I do think we are in the phase of neglect again at this time. Last year at this conference, where do I have to press? Can I have the next slide? I have trouble. Thank you. The next one, press again. Last year at this conference Ambassador Anders Nordstrom, who was part of the independent panel on pandemic preparedness and response, of which I was also privileged to be a member, talked about the six main recommendations that came out of the independent panel work to the international community. One is the need for sustained high-level political attention and leadership. We have lacked strong leadership and coordination in our response to COVID-19. The second is modernizing our surveillance and alert system so that we can respond much faster to infectious outbreaks in the future. The third, as El Storelli discussed, is to build a new platform that will ensure equitable access to all in need to medical countermeasures. The fourth, and thank you Minister Barakat for mentioning that, is that we need new funding. We need new funding for pandemic preparedness and response. Fifth, we need a strong, independent, well-funded, well-functioning world health organization. And sixth, at national level, all governments must start investing in better preparedness now. And following what Antoine Flahaud said earlier, one of the obvious areas of work is improving ventilation and quality of the air. The next slide. So at the global level, there are three ongoing processes out of the four that we had been recommending as an independent panel. The first is that for the first time in history, a special session, high-level meeting on pandemic preparedness and response was held at the UN in September 23 in the margins of the last General Assembly with a political declaration. I must say that this was a high-level meeting, but it was hardly attended by any high-level head of state. And none of the European major heads of states was there. No Chancellor Schultz, no President Macron, no British Prime Minister, no Madame van der Heyen, no one present, which to me is a strong signal of the phase of neglect where we are. Minister Barakat, we met in New York, so you were there. Congratulations to the UAE. The second is that we have now started negotiations in Geneva since February 2022 of a new pandemic treaty. A treaty that would be a binding treaty according to international law, and this is negotiated under the auspices of WHO. You may know that in the constitution of WHO, there is room for negotiation of international treaties. The first one that WHO had negotiated was the International Convention on Tobacco. Third, there is a more technical process of revising what is called the International Health Regulations, but that is a very, very sensitive negotiation because this is where we're discussing about how countries will inform the world about a new pathogens and also whether WHO will have or will not have the ability to move to a country and investigate a new outbreak in case it happens. The fourth, which is not currently in discussions, is that we had proposed that there is a Global Health Threat Council established something like a Security Council on threats so to elevate the issue of leadership. As we were discussing with Madame Barakat, the Secretary General of the UN, Antonio Guterres, came with an alternative suggestion a few months ago, suggesting that the UN creates next to the Security Council a platform on all threats that are, let's say, non-military, food, water, climate, and health, and that will be discussed at the Summit of the Future next year. Next slide. So the big issues, next slide, please, the big issues at stake in these discussions are governance, the topic of this conference, financing, and in terms of financing, we need financing in order to prepare ourselves to the next pandemic. We also need surge financing in case something happens, and then, as Els alluded to, we need to build regional resilience so that in every region of the world there is now an ability to develop, research, manufacture, and distribute global common goods that are personal protective equipment, oxygen, vaccines, therapies that are essential in containing an infectious outbreak where and when it occurs. The next slide. As we speak, the latest draft of the pandemic treaty is on the table in Geneva, and there are four very sensitive issues that are being debated. One is access to pathogens. You may know that in 2007, during H1N1, Indonesia said that it will not communicate the sequence of the virus to the global community because, and I make it simpler here, they said if we give this sequence to the world and then it serves the rich country industry to produce vaccines that will be sold to us at unaffordable prices, then this is unfair. So there is a lot of discussion now in the pandemic treaty negotiations around whether country should always give free sort of access to their new pathogens or whether a country that provides the information should have benefits from that information. And there are major debates around medical countermeasures as Elce Torelli alluded to, including the sensitive issues of intellectual property, of research and development, modalities of technology transfer. There are discussions about financing.  And that's what is difficult to define in the negotiations. And finally, WHO had suggested that it could come up itself with a system of providing equitable access of countermeasures, vaccines, therapeutics to the world, and that is being negotiated. I don't think at this time that it is likely that these negotiations will come to an agreement by the deadline of May 2024. More time will probably be needed, but viruses don't wait, and that's the problem. Let me add an optimistic note here, which is that whatever the challenge is, there is a word that is everywhere, every day in the negotiations, which is equity, and I think the main lessons that everyone has been drawing from the pandemic is unequitable access, and now we need to find a system that would guarantee equity. Next slide. As in every negotiation, now the geopolitics are there. And the difficult negotiations that we're currently witnessing in Geneva show how closely health is now intertwined with geopolitics. And particularly between the tensions between the global north and the global south. Your Holiness Bartholomew, you alluded to that in your speech talking about the fact that they occur so strongly despite the diversity of the south, I think I'm quoting you here, and that is what we're seeing. Vaccine nationalism, the fact that the rich countries overbought all of the vaccines as they became available with no access to poor countries, has really left profound scars that we see in the negotiating scene in Geneva. And then of course, there is much less trust at this time in the multilateral system, and then domestic, international, but also partisan political agendas has somehow forcefully entered into the global health discussions. Because of the attacks on WHO by President Trump and his administration or the misinformation campaigns from the Bolsonaro team. So that unfortunately, the pandemic and health is no longer the one issue that brings countries together in those negotiations. It's in fact contributing to the polarization of our geopolitical world. Next slide. So what is clear now is that global health, as I put it, is a matter of global politics. And that is why, Thierry, we need global health in the WPC, as you allowed it to happen. Because the pandemic at national level has impacted every sector of policymaking and therefore at national level, it is no more just an issue of ministers of health, it's an issue of whole of government. And at global level, it's an issue that is negotiated now at the level of heads of states, ministers of finance, ministers of trade, ministers of development. It's a key issue at the G7, we will hear from Aruca in a minute, at the G20. It is on the agenda of the UN General Assembly and all regional organizations, such as the African Union or the European Union. And it's become particularly an important interface between health and foreign affairs. And I think it is remarkable that in the UAE, we have a minister, an assistant minister of health and research within the Ministry of Foreign Affairs. So the next slide and the last slide, the question is, are we ready for the next pandemic? To me, the answer is no. We're not, but it is our choice if we wanted to be so. It's a choice now to put in place measures that will allow us to identify new outbreaks rapidly and to respond to them in speed where and when they occur and prevent an infectious outbreak from becoming an epidemic or becoming a pandemic and becoming a social and economic catastrophe, such as the one we've seen. And to quote here, Ellen Johnson-Surleaf, President Surleaf, who was the chair of the – with Madame Clark of the Independent Panel, she said, new pandemic threats are inevitable but pandemics are a political choice. A political choice whether we stop an outbreak or whether we let it move to the pandemic stage. Let me say I think the ongoing processes, however difficult they are, offer an unprecedented opportunity now for the world for focus and transformative change. Thank you.


Hi everyone, thank you for joining us today. My name is Christina Riemann-Murphy and I'm the Sally W. Kelll Library for Learning Innovations and a Reference of Instruction Librarian at Penn State Ableton. Hi, I'm Brian McGarry and I'm the Learning Design and Open Education Engagement Librarian at Penn State. And we're looking forward to talking with you about Open Pedagogy Project Management, a roadmap for inclusive, collaborative, and sustainable projects. Please feel free to use the chat for questions if you're joining us live today. And if you're on Twitter, please use the hashtag OEPRoadmap. So one thing you quickly realize when you start learning about Open Pedagogy is that nobody can really give you a definitive definition. Some people see it as a set of teaching practices. Some see it as a learning style. Some see it as more of a set of values and a philosophy. And some people see it as some sort of combination of all of these things.  But they're certainly not the only good ones that are out there. So when we started creating the Open Pedagogy Project roadmap, we decided that if we weren't going to provide some sort of definitive definition of Open Pedagogy, we still needed to provide some sort of framing so that anyone would know where we're coming from and what we're referring to in terms of Open Pedagogy. So we looked for commonalities among the many definitions that we've encountered, which you'll see listed here on this slide. So emphasizing that engagement with students as creators of information rather than just consumers of it. Also highlighting the experiential learning aspect of this work as students are creating. Also, the importance of challenging classroom hierarchies and really inviting students into the teaching process through that co-creation of knowledge. Also an emphasis on moving away from single use assignments and working more with situated, collaborative, and renewable types of assignments. And then very importantly, emphasizing the aspect of student agency so that students have a role in deciding whether or not their work is going to be openly licensed. And then if it is going to be openly licensed, how that work would be shared more broadly. So in addition to these theoretical perspectives that we took away from the scholarly literature on Open Pedagogy, we also used our own personal experiences with it in order to inform our development of the roadmap. So we thought about the lessons that we learned from those experiences and how those might be more widely applicable. When we got involved with Open Pedagogy, there wasn't a resource out there to help us think through all these aspects of this work. So we had to learn some things as we went along through trial and error. So part of our motivation behind creating this resource is really to help others avoid having to learn those lessons on the fly. So I'm going to share a little bit about a project that I worked on and Christina will share about one that she continues to work on so that you have a sense of where we're coming from. And then later as we explain the different modules of the roadmap, you'll see elements of those experiences reflected in the content of the roadmap. So this first project that I was involved with is an open textbook created by students in Dr. Ashwini Ganeshan's Hispanic Linguistics course at Ohio University. And it was really developed out of a need to provide a textbook for the students that was written at a more accessible level, both in terms of the linguistic content that is covered in the book, but also in terms of meeting students where they're at with their level of Spanish language mastery. So it was created over time in a modular fashion, beginning with a study guide assignment, which you see a snippet of on the right side of the slide. And we initially collaborated on revising that study guide assignment. And then over subsequent semesters, additional assignments were used to fill out more pieces of the content of the textbook, so including things like practice exercises and other types of ancillary components. In addition to the students who were creating content in the class itself, some student editors were also hired to help with other aspects of the textbook. So like editing and incorporating some additional content, and even recording an audio version of the book. So there is a link, the URL for the textbook itself, if you want to check that out on the left side of the slide. And then on the right side, there is a link to a chapter from the book Open Pedagogy Approaches if you'd like to read more about this particular project. So in terms of some lessons that we learned from this, first of all, that it's a nonlinear process. Like I said, this was developed in a modular fashion. And so as gaps were identified, new assignments were built into the course to fill out that missing content. In addition to that, an emphasis on grading in a way that kind of alleviates some of the anxiety that students feel about working in this new sort of approach where their work is being shared more widely than they might be used to. And so in this course, assignments were graded on a credit note, credit basis. And students also had opportunities for revision. So they didn't have to obsess as much about, am I going to get a good grade?  And that also helps on the back end of creating this textbook, because you're having to do less work to kind of remediate content if students are improving it as they go along. In addition to that, student agency very important, so giving students the ability to opt in or opt out and being able to do that without it having any kind of impact on their grade in the course. Also, students in this course were allowed to decide what type of license would be applied to their work. And they decided that as a class. And it was after I did a workshop with them about Creative Commons Licensing so that they could really make an informed choice. Also, Dr. Ganeshan chose to include some discussions of some social justice issues in the textbook, so things like the benefits and challenges of being multilingual, the connection between accents and prejudice, and things like that as a way of making it more relevant to students, especially those who weren't going to pursue linguistics as a major or as a career. And then as I mentioned, also hiring some student editors who had more specialized knowledge, had greater mastery of linguistics and with the Spanish language so that they could do some of the heavy lifting in terms of editing and assembling content and filling in some gaps. An art student was also hired to do some illustrations for the book, too. The long-term open pedagogy project that I was embedded in, or I still am embedded in, was piloted this past spring semester in an undergraduate English literature course taught by Dr. Morrison Acacia, Professor of Renaissance Literature at Penn State Ableton. The course was redesigned for a couple of reasons. To take advantage of Korean early modern literature, which is largely in the public domain, to involve students in the development of materials and to include diverse voices and perspectives. And we were really inspired by Robin DeRosa's open anthology of early American literature after Harry Herseveek at Open Confilling in 2019 and a subsequent conversation with her. So for this project, we use OER anthologies or open digital scholarly editions for the course test. And after a very traditional 10-week seminar in the textile class, we switched over to a final editorial project that asked students to remix, annotate, gloss, and contextualize the course reading of their choice by researching and authoring all of these, an introductory header, four footnotes, and to find two images for inclusion, if they consented, in a future open access textbook on transatlantic remodeling literature. On the left of the slide, you'll see a snippet of the assignment that we gave students. On the right side, we'll see one of the students who wrote a footnote for Hester Poulter's poem An Invitation to the Country, along with an image that she researched to go along with the connection that she made in the poem. Like Brian, we had some lessons that we learned from this and these helped really inform the Open Pedagogy Project roadmap, all of our lessons learned. So we learned in terms of challenges, right? We needed to do more signposting throughout the course because students really had a lot of questions about what they were actually going to be doing. Even though we've given them two examples, writing for a public audience and writing the kinds of formats we were asked them to write, like footnotes and introductions, were not actually formats that they were used to writing. They were used to doing traditional final essays that were submitted to the professor and seen by the professor alone. So that created some anxiety and discomfort for students. So one of the things we learned was to add in some additional consultation time, to answer questions, add some additional peer review to get feedback from other students to meet those needs and address some of that discomfort and anxiety. A really great lesson learned though, despite that anxiety was that many students were excited, curious and enthusiastic about the project. Open Pedagogy in my experience has been very rewarding in their presentations and their final reflection essays, which are really great things to do when you're doing an Open Pedagogy Project. Some things became clear about the student impact of Open Pedagogy. As a librarian, it was awesome to see some of these students talk about their sources. One student said, I realized it really mattered what my sources were. People were gonna read this and see this. Others really talked about a personal connection, chose specific texts because it connected with our heritage or made connections in the text based on their experiences. And then finally, writing for an authentic audience really resonated with students. We posed the authentic audience as future students in the class and potentially the public. And so students and their reflections kind of made comments around, well, I wanna write about things that other students are gonna wanna read about. So those are some really positive experiences that came out of it. And so based on Brian and my collective experiences being closely embedded in these Open Pedagogy projects and our experience supporting other OER programs, we developed what we call the Open Pedagogy Project Roadmap. This is a module-based project management resource that lives on a website. And there's a companion workbook there and Brian and I are also happy to do an accompanying workshop at your institution. And this roadmap is designed to guide instructors through planning, finding support for, sharing and sustaining Open Pedagogy projects. It's a very practical resource and it guides instructors through the five, what we call the five S's of Open Pedagogy projects. There's scope, there's support, students, sharing and sustaining. Be remiss if I didn't mention that it's inspired by the Sociotechnical Sustainability Roadmap, which comes out of Allison Langley's team at the University of Pittsburgh, which focuses on digital humanities. So just a few things to note before we go through the roadmap. It's designed to be practical, both a practical reflection space and a documentation space for the affordances and benefits of Open Pedagogy projects. Again, it's instructor facing, but by instructor we're inclusive of anyone that supports, collaborates on or leads an Open Pedagogy project. It's also discipline agnostic, right? So you can use it regardless of what discipline you're working with. We're gonna present it in a ABCD fashion in the sections, based on the sections, but ultimately it's really non-linear. You can complete it in whatever order works for you. And as you go through different sections, you'll likely think of things to go back and add to portions that you've previously completed. The final portion of it asks you to do just that, to go back and note where you have remaining gaps and questions so that you can develop an action plan going forward. It's also adaptable. Just as you need, take what works for you and leave the rest, depending on what you need. So Brian, if you're attending live, is gonna put the link in the chat, but you can access it at OEProadmap.psu.edu. And on the about page is where you'll find the link to the entire workbook. So the roadmap very intentionally begins by having instructors to find their values and goals and then their capacity before scoping the project. Because these are crucial for determining that scope. You need to know why you're in this and what capacity you have before you can figure out more specifically what you wanna do. So basically, we're asking instructors to put aside the what of the project and reflect on the why first. An essential value to think about, because it's not necessarily inherent, is to consider how your project can center diversity, equity, and inclusion. One of the hallmarks of Open Pedagogy is that it prioritizes access. Because it does prioritize access, but it also prioritizes student access to participatory knowledge creation. And when we do that, only invite students to bring the whole of themselves to creating or modifying course content. Course content will inevitably be changed to reflect the diversity and complexity to student identities. So with that in mind, we want you to think about values a little bit more. One of the things we try to highlight in our framing of Open Pedagogy is that we see it not just about a set of practices, but also about those values in that mindset. It can be that opportunity to center diversity, equity, inclusion, and accessibility. And we should definitely consider whose voices are missing and how we can include them. So one resource that we point to in this first section of the roadmap, the scope section, is John Gianni's Five R's for Open Pedagogy. Because it provides a good framework that can be used to examine our values and think about how they can be embedded in Open Pedagogy. I'm not gonna go through them one by one, but I just wanna highlight one theme that Brian's gonna touch back on again too, is the idea of agency. We leave that through different pieces of the roadmap, and it's definitely something that in our experience is certainly a really important part of it. So once you've scoped your values, then we ask you to scope your capacity. And capacity includes how much time you really have, where you might benefit from collaborators, and also thinking about ways to maximize your time by looking for OER that might already be available. The final piece of scoping is about beginning to define the parameters of the project itself. What do you want the students to do, how, where? And as you complete the other elements of the roadmap, you'll continue to flesh out the elements of that project idea. Once you've done all that initial scoping, the next section of the roadmap is all about identifying what support is available and what support you'll still need to find in order to have a successful Open Pedagogy project. And we think of support in three separate, distinct elements. So first, structural and systemic support, which is about what's available to you at an institutional level and within your broader disciplinary communities or in consortia or statewide and regional initiatives. So we definitely recommend looking at strategic plans, any kind of departmental documents or guidelines so you can tie these things of your institution into what you'll be doing. Because that will make it an easier sell in your dossier, in conversations with other colleagues or administrators or in any promotion or tenure material you might be doing. The next type of support is logistical support, which focuses on the humans, the people who can help you, people like librarians, instructional designers, production specialists, accessibility experts, as Brian had experience with potentially other student collaborators, right? Who might be able to have particular expertise. So kind of look for what's available to you and what you still might need. And the next is technological support. So we want you to identify what kinds of technologies are available to you are reasonable for you to use in order to do the project and think about to what degree will students be interacting with these technologies. So then the next section of the roadmap is really about refining your content in your process that you identified back during that scoping phase in order to think more closely about how all of this relates to students. And so open pedagogy is an opportunity to move beyond just that focus on content mastery and also develop some content agnostic knowledge practices and dispositions. So this section asks you to think about making your learning outcomes less focus on just the content and more focus on the process as well as considering how you're going to assess those outcomes. And we recognize that not everybody has full autonomy over their grading methodology, particularly folks who are in more precarious or contingent teaching positions. But even if you can't take a more radical approach to grading like ungrading or other types of methods that rely less on having that kind of summative letter grade, you can still try to incorporate elements for peer review. So meaning students giving feedback to one another on their work. Also opportunities for revision and opportunities for reflection. All three of those things can still help to foster this open environment within your course. Also as I alluded to earlier, we need to be mindful of respecting the agency and labor of everybody who is involved in this work. If we fail to do this, then open pedagogy becomes this sort of transactional relationship with students rather than a genuine collaboration. So in this piece, we consider those ethical concerns and things like how students are going to give consent and the role that they have in choosing the license for their work as well. So then the final section of the roadmap asks you to think about how you can share your work and also what it needs to be sustained over the long term. So in terms of sharing, your audiences and your methods for sharing may differ depending upon what your motives are. So are you trying to make other educators more aware about this awesome resource that you created so that they can use it too? Are you trying to raise your profile within your disciplinary community? Do you need to justify your work to administrators? Are you trying to leverage this work for your promotion and tenure or maybe if you're on the job market leveraging it in your job search? So depending on your answers to any of those questions that's really going to impact how you communicate about your work and the actual venues in which you would want to share it. And then in terms of sustainability, this is about planning for the long term and anticipating what kinds of problems might arise as you go along. And so once you've done all of these different pieces you can then use any remaining gaps from all of the sections of the roadmap to really determine what your next steps are going to be. So ultimately, this should culminate in determining what some actionable next steps will be. When we run this as a workshop we like to ask folks to identify steps that they can take right away after the workshop and then in the coming weeks and months and so forth because often we get excited about these projects or things that we hear about at conferences and then we go back to work and our day to day just kind of gets in the way of all of that. Before you know it, you've lost your momentum. So having those actionable next steps can really help to keep you on task and keep your momentum going. So thank you all for attending today. Those of you who are viewing this live and thank you to everybody who is viewing the recording after the fact. If you have further questions or suggestions for improvements or additions to the roadmap or you just wanna talk open pedagogy we'd love to hear from you. So our emails are on the slide as well as our Twitter handles. You can tweet us and use the hashtag OEP roadmap. So thank you again and take care. Hi everyone.


How'd you like the focus of the group this week, Coach? I thought today was better. And I don't, you know, again, some good, some bad. I think that the focus was good. I just don't know if the execution was great all week. And, you know, that's why you practice. Taylor said he's past due concussion protocol, good to get him kind of back in the mix and hope he picks it up. Yeah, you know, I think that to that point, you know, he had been playing better of how we expect him to play and, I'm sure, how he expects him to play.  When guys are in the protocol, they, you know, follow everything and we follow it and we check in. And when the symptoms are down and they get to the point where they can start to return to play, then they start to return to play. And then when they get clear, they get cleared. So it's great to have him back. How does that process go for you just in contact with budget free and just making sure that he's coming along with the way that he needs to? It's part of injury-wise.  He, you know, I would say came back favorably after the game. So, you know, that's positive. Well, I guess to be more clear, like, do you have daily check-ins with him? Hey, bud, how you doing? I have daily check-ins with every single player to run, you know, I mean, I'm here from five in the morning until whenever we leave. And so the players come in and go into the training room, try not to hang out in the locker room. That's the player's place. I don't, it's none of my business as long as everything's being taken care of in there. In the meetings, in between meetings. So yeah, I talk to all the players and, you know, try to check in on them, whether it's injury-related, personal matter, or has something to do with, you know, football. Jones and Blazing game are out. Jones and Blazing game. Yeah, the one that's on the injury report, yep. Yeah, I guess a couple guys added on yesterday. I'm done talking about injuries. Those guys are out, that's it. But we gotta be able to talk about more than just injuries on a Friday. Seriously. You know you're getting juice from them because of how much this game means. Important to kind of match, and kind of set it home your skills. Yeah, I get, you know, this is pro football. You know, every week there's juice. But, you know, we better be ready to go. Just like it would be if, you know, both teams run a feeder. Both teams, you know what I mean? Again, we know each other very well. These are tough matchups. These are tough games. Decided by a few plays here and there. And hopefully we can make those plays that determine the outcome. And, you know, we'll continue to prepare and then we'll travel up there and, you know, try to handle the keys and the problems that they present. Darius Leonard says that he feels this is a must win game for them. You know, when you hear an opposing player say like, well, what do you think of that type of comment? Again, I've been in this league a long time. They're all must wins. You don't have that many, you know what I mean? It's, we don't play 162 games.  And that's the mindset. And that's why we try to win or lose, fix the things, correct them, get a game plan and move on to the next week. So, you know, this is a great challenge. Excited to go up there. And, you know, he's having a great year. Fantastic player. And, you know, I'm sure he'll be doing everything he can to help his team win. I think when you've recognized the Nico after the first Coles game, he actually, maybe even got a little bit emotional, which maybe speaks to how invested he is. I mean, have you seen that from him since he's been here just without a doubt?   You ought to go down to East Mississippi Junior College and, you know, probably not the lap of luxury.  He went on drafted and then turned himself into a starting player and then free agency and then free agency again. So, we're excited to have him as a person.   Do you feel like they made some pretty good progress in their first week there? Yeah. You know what I mean? They were able to get some work in and show team and have some pads on the other day. That's an important process to getting guys back is one, the football conditioning, practice and stringing some plays together so they can find out where they're at. And then also we can have a good sense of where they're at and then try to make decisions. I think Rochette's been a core special team or since he's been here when he's been available, but he's had to play a lot more safety this year. How's he improved from the start of the season to now as a safety player? Oh, I think that, you know, Dane's made great strides. I think that Dane didn't play his best or would like to play better against Jacksonville.  And obviously we always have liked him as a special teams player and, you know, his development at safety has been good to see this year. And some of those injuries that he's had in the past that you referenced in his availability has probably limited that development. You can't get better at something that you can't do. So hopefully he could continue to improve and continue to help us on special teams. What about a guy like him or anybody? Does that matter when they have to step in to be a starter? Do you try to lessen their role on special teams, even if they're a poor guy there? Or do you just say you got to do more? Well, you got to do more.    You're going to have to go to, you know, there's certain things that we can be able to do.  Hopefully we're in good enough shape for that.  Just how much has he, you know, been in extension kind of maybe of the coaching staff out there on the defense with so much, all the change you guys have had this year. I think that there's, you know, sometimes we ask him not to say things in practice.  You know, I think sometimes guys can rely on that too much. And that has been something that's been great for us that have the communication with him and come over. He makes the adjustment on the sidelines and then nobody's perfect, but you know, to be able to make adjustments on the sidelines and then have, have Kevin go out and be able to, to get guys on the same page is, you know, it's nice. What do you like about Torrey Carter's skill set in the games where he and Kari have both been active? Is there something that maybe they do to compliment each other?  You know, I mean, I think when you play fullback, you have to be willing to, to embrace contact. He's somewhat versatile, you know, whereas his ability on special teams, he's, he's trying to improve in that area. You know, and I think when they both, you know, to question about both being active, you know, just felt like Kari could, could fill a few more roles based on where we at, we're at health-wise at that point in time. Let's say a backup protector or a third runner, backup fullback. That was kind of what, you know, where we went when we made that decision. We don't really mention David Bredniger's name as often as a lineman, I imagine that's his business. How has he, you know, been able to solidify that right back in position for you guys? Oh, you know, Quiz has been out there. He's been durable. He's been available. He battles, he grinds, he competes. It hasn't been perfect.  Shane Bowen was talking this week about maybe feeling a little bit more energy, a little bit more mojo from Bud. You know, maybe after that game where he gets his first sack, wondering if that's something that you've noticed as Bud has been coming around here, a little bit more energy. I'm just, we're all looking for production for Mounted Bud. If they want to be energetic and produce, great. If they want to be quiet and produce, that's great too. But, you know, I think more so, I think it's a health thing. You know, I think it's how you feel.  But I think as guys start to feel better, and this goes for everybody, you just notice as guys start to feel healthier that you hear them a little bit more. You know, for Taylor, you know what I mean? Taylor was, you know, when you're in a concussion protocol and you don't probably feel very well. I know you don't. And then as you move on and you go into the next week, you can kind of just start to listen and you hear his voice a little more and so you start to figure that he's feeling a little better. On the note of that, because it's hard maybe for guys like Darrington Evans, who's still so young in the league and he's kind of overcome so many injuries at this point, but we talked to him yesterday for the first time in a while and he seems to be on the right track mindset-wise.  Not enough. Not enough. What makes John and Taylor such an effective runner for them? Yeah, speed. I think he's got a really good play strength and he's strong lower body. And he's fast, right? He's fast. He's got a good jump cut. But I also think he's got some patience where he doesn't just fly in there. He'll let some things set up and then step on the gas pedal. I think he's catching it better. They use him a lot of different roles. He's a very good player. I think just in the evaluations, he just ran. He was a runner at Wisconsin and now they throw him the football and they do a lot of things with him and that's a multi-talented skill set that he has. How do you evaluate that relative to him? Well, I just listened to Frank. He said he's probably worthy of 20 carries. So I'd start there. I'd probably believe the head coach wants to give the guy 20 carries. Now, they all have things that they do well and nobody knows better than us what Heinz can do. But I think it's gonna start with Taylor and then Heinz is gonna have his plays and he's got a great skill set and they think a lot of him and then obviously Marlon Mack has had success in this league and he's ready to go whenever they call on him.


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30 ways to use the English word run from espressoenglish.net Here's why you need to be careful when studying lists of the most common words in English. Many of these words have multiple meanings and uses, including inside idiomatic expressions. You're going to see that in today's lesson. The basic definition of run is to move quickly using your legs. For example, the athletes are running towards the finish line, or the dog ran after the car. Run is also an informal way to say leave or go. For example, sorry, I can't talk now, I've got to run. He had to run to a meeting, he'll be back later. Run can also mean to manage or direct a business, process or operation. For example, she runs a tutoring business. I'm running a special project this month. When talking about transportation, run means that a vehicle travels over a regular route. For example, the bus runs every 10 minutes. Run can also be used when a machine is working. For example, don't put your hand in there while the machine is running. He left the car's engine running while he went into the store. Run is also used when liquid is flowing out. For example, my nose is running, I need a tissue. Tears ran down her face. There's no running water in the village. Running water refers to the modern system where you can turn on the faucet in the sink and water comes out automatically. Run is also used when someone is a candidate for political office. For example, Melanie is running for state senator. Joe ran for president twice. And also run can be an informal way to say cost. For example, repairs to your air conditioner can run you a couple thousand dollars. Run is also used in phrasal verbs like run into, which means encounter. For example, I wasn't expecting to run into my dentist at the nightclub. Or we didn't finish on time because we ran into a few problems. Run over is used when a car passes over something. For example, I ran over a rabbit while driving home from work. If something runs out, it means the supply of that thing is finished and now no more is available. For example, we ran out of popcorn and I had to go buy some more. The kids have been fighting all day and my patience is about to run out. To run something by someone means to get that person's opinion or get their approval. For example, at work you might say this to a co-worker. I have a couple ideas I'd like to run by you. Now let's look at some idiomatic expressions with run. If someone is on the run, it means they are in a hurry or they are trying to escape from the police. For example, I don't have time for hobbies because I'm always on the run. In this case, it means in a hurry with little time. Three criminals escaped from prison and are currently on the run. This means trying to escape from the police. In the long run means for a long period of time or in the far future. For example, I know it's not fun to do exercise but it's good for you in the long run. To run a red light means to drive illegally through a red traffic light. For example, he got a ticket after running a red light. If something runs in the family, that means it's a common characteristic in a biological family. For example, mental illness seems to run in her family. To give someone a run for their money means to compete very well against someone who is an established expert. For example, Johnson is the reigning gymnastics champion but I think Smith will give him a run for his money this year. To run errands means to do the necessary tasks of daily life outside the house. For example, I ran some errands this afternoon. I went to the bank, post office, and supermarket. If something runs like clockwork, it means it functions perfectly effectively and on time. For example, everything was very well organized and the conference ran like clockwork. To run out of gas or run out of steam means to lose energy or lose momentum. For example, I ran out of steam halfway through the marathon and didn't finish. Run rampant means to spread, grow, or develop out of control. For example, the disease is running rampant through the countryside. The adjective run of the mill means that something is average, typical, and nothing special. For example, we were served a run of the mill red wine that wasn't particularly memorable. To hit a home run means to have an especially successful achievement. For example, his first three companies failed but he hit a home run with the fourth one. This expression comes from baseball. A home run is when a player hits the ball so far that it actually goes out of the field. The expression the run-up refers to the period of time leading up to an important event. For example, the competitors are all training hard in the run-up to the tournament. To run a tight ship means to keep very strict discipline. For example, the director runs a tight ship. She won't accept excuses for sloppy mistakes. Run interference means to block or handle problems on behalf of another person. For example, the author gets a lot of mail so she has a personal assistant to run interference for her. This expression comes from American football where one player might run interference, meaning to block players from the other team so that his teammate with the ball can have a clear path. The expression have the runs means to have diarrhea. For example, after I ate some pork from a street vendor I had the runs for a couple of days. To run someone ragged means to make the person extremely tired by keeping them busy or overworked. For example, the boss has run the whole team ragged by expecting us to work until midnight every day. The expression run counter to is another way to say be in opposition to. For example, his views run counter to those of his co-workers. To have a good run means to have a period of success. For example, the band had a good run in the 1990s with several world tours. And finally, run the gamut means to cover a wide range. For example, her hobbies run the gamut from stamp collecting to water skiing. If you're looking for a fun and effective way to improve your vocabulary without boring word lists, check out my vocabulary builder course. The lessons in the course will help you learn new vocabulary in context with lots of pictures to help you remember the words. Visit expresssoenglish.net and check out the vocabulary builder course.