Well, hello and welcome to understand men now. I'm Jonathan as a job as a comment I'm so excited to be doing this live stream for you today our topic How to touch a guy five ways men like to be touched how to touch a guy five ways men like to be touched Really quickly if you're brand new to my YouTube channel Please hit the subscribe button hit the bell so you can be notified of new videos And if anytime during this video the content resonates with you Please do me a favor and hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms really quickly my coaching is what I call Heart-centered radical honesty. It's direct a little tough love and a lot of heart Occasionally I use expletives to enhance the sentence and if f-bombs aren't your thing then I highly recommend logging off right now Lastly, I just want to say this. This is merely my perspective although. I'm a dating a relationship coach I do not consider myself a expert by any stretch of the mean So I'm just simply offering perspective if it resonates with you great, and if it doesn't that's okay, too I'm here to hopefully expand your horizons a little bit more than the average person does in these mediums All right, let's talk. Let's just jump into those five ways men like to be touched So if you're not familiar with the book the five love languages the five love languages Here's a copy of the book it's written by Gary Chapman and he talks about the five primary love languages How we're able to give and receive love? with another human being and It's a fascinating book and if you've never read it I highly recommend it if you've never taken the quiz I highly recommend doing it You can type in five love languages on your laptop right now and or your smartphone or your tablet or your desktop and Take a quiz if you don't know what your love language is, but the five primary love languages are words of affirmation Although for us Leo's it's words of adoration Or at least I can say that for myself number two is quality time Number three is physical touch number four is acts of service and number five is Gips my brain there for a second So I would highly recommend each one of you finding out what your love language is now. What's interesting is I suspect Most people in their top three Include physical touch. I'm gonna repeat that. I believe that most people either it's number two or number three Is their top love languages physical touch? In fact for many people physical touch is their top-level language Now I'm gonna open up the book in a moment and share some things that are in the book However, I want to say this There are plenty of people and I mean a significant number of people where physical touch is very Uncomfortable for them. I'm repeat that physical touch is very uncomfortable for them And chances are it's probably stems from a childhood wound or trauma a Childhood wound or trauma that makes it very difficult for them to actually get physical with another human being And I don't mean just physical in the sense of sexual I mean simply hugging another person for some people is very uncomfortable And yet the vast majority of people do truly appreciate physical touch certainly especially in the area of Faciality right especially in the area of physical intimacy with another human being physical touches rather an important thing And if you follow my channel, you know since men are often driven by lust or limerence in the early stages of dating Mostly that lust is I want to have sex with you kind of feeling in the early stages of dating It's not uncommon that physical touches is probably one of the top three love languages for most men Now what I'm going to share with you those five things that men like but I want to I want to open up the book for a second Because what's interesting if you haven't read the book I highly recommend it But there's obviously there's a appropriate appropriate touch and inappropriate touch and we're not going to lean into that today And then there's implicit or explicit touch, which we're not going to lean into that. There's sensitive forms of touch We're not going to get into that. There's certainly physical touch versus sexuality But I really highly recommend reading this book so you can get a better understanding of learning how to maybe even touch in a better way I'm gonna repeat that learning how to touch in a better way And again as I said before a lot of people are not touchy feely people. They feel very uncomfortable with physical touch So this isn't singular to men. This isn't singular to women. This is human beings However, as I said a moment ago and what we're going to lean into today Is most people who seek romantic relationships are actually doing so because they want to connect with another human being You want to physically touch another human being and especially coming off of this pandemic where many people have been Isolated for so long Many people are just craving touch with another person So i'm going to share today What I think are five of many different type of touches men like Okay, I thought this would be a fun video for us to explore today before we get into our usual q&a So I hope you enjoy what i'm about to share. So I have my trusty notes there You can see my notes. You can see my notes for those who are watching on instagram and number one Is touching his arm touching his arm touching his arm Now I want to share with you a couple stories here that illustrates this A couple years back. I met a woman through facebook And we were facebook friends. We hadn't been facebook friends for that long And we end up communicating a number of times and when we decided to meet for a drink and it was very Platonic, it wasn't necessarily a date per se I will say though though I will say though that when we immediately met each other there was strong mutual attraction There was strong mutual attraction. So when we sat down the bar We were really kind of hitting it off because again It was platonic to some degree And yet it was a quasi date if you will And I remember as we were talking and I guess she was sitting next to me at the bar And I remembered noticing her just lightly touching my arm while we were talking And I suspect it was even unconscious for her that she was doing it and while she was doing it It it didn't feel sexual in any sense. It didn't feel inappropriate But I remembered at that moment. I go, you know what? physical touch Is probably my number two love language and why I say that I always thought quality time was my number two Love language after words and again as I said before I'm a leo and we leo's love words Words of adoration as I said But um Not but and I I just remembered that physical touch was very intoxicating to me And while that relationship didn't go anywhere, um for a number of different reasons and there's no need to get into that I I've witnessed this on a couple different occasions even with friends of mine. Let me repeat that I've witnessed a couple different times with even friends of mine in relationship, and I'll never forget one of my friends Who's in a relationship with a woman? I guess it was there I guess they'd been dating for a few months and we were just sitting at dinner or we were sitting at a bar We were talking There was the three of us and I just noticed she was lightly touching his arm And I later asked her I go Do you do you realize you were touching his arm? She was completely unaware she was doing it and I asked him later how he felt about and he said oh my god I loved it. So I guess this is a common practice for her and he certainly loved it. So that's number one touching a man's arm Okay, number two is um Is running your hair through running your fingers through a guy's hair Okay, now obviously for many of us in midlife a lot of guys don't have hair That's certainly the guys that do and even the bald guys that we like our head to be touched I mean it feels rather sexy It reels feels rather playful when someone is running their fingers through your hair if you've ever done this before to a guy And again, let me just preface this what i'm about to share This isn't first date second date kind of stuff This is where you feel comfortable being somewhat intimate with another human being I repeat that you feel comfortable being intimate because physical touch Is a very intimate thing and I don't mean intimate in the sexual sense. I mean intimate in that personal sense So running your hand fingers through a guy's hair, whether it's the back of his head Whether it's the front I mean most likely wouldn't be the front of his head It would most likely be the back is something a lot of guys love and appreciate So that's certainly a physical touch that many men really do love Okay, number three And and this is something I witnessed uh with a female friend of mine She was in relationship with a guy and I remember we were out uh, we were out drinking one night Not that i'm a heavy drinker. I guess we were just out socializing. I should say And while she was with them she just playfully slapped him on his arm She playfully slapped him on his arm for something he said And I just remembered the two of them giggling and laughing over the whole thing but this playful action Of just physical like hitting someone and if you think about this in grade school It was very common for boys or girls to hit one another So this really leans into something in our childhood with those playful things that happen in our childhood And certainly hitting a guy on his arm in a playful manner in a flirtatious manner is something that we like Provided that you're both on the same page. I mean, certainly I'm not suggesting going off and smacking some guy for no good reason whatsoever But as a way to just say hey, we're playful for one another. We're we're flirting with one another It's like it's like looking at life and not taking it so seriously Oh my god And on just a complete side note.  We need more levity We need more comedy We need more play and a nice way to have fun with your guy is simply Slap him on the arm in a playful way when you guys are disagreeing about something or being Being or at least or maybe you're not even disagreeing. You're just you know having fun over something you just simply smack him Now number four is something I talk about at the end of every one of my videos And it's really important to talk about this today And I want to lean into the hug hugging someone You know Most of the time people give very passive hugs to one another and one thing I've learned through my spiritual community And my my circle of friends the importance of a genuine long Six seven eight nine ten second hug, you know even longer Holding someone. I don't mean cuddling with them. I'm not talking about in bed or anything like that I'm talking about when you greet one another to actually hold one another in a very long Hug with one another a very long hug with one another. In fact, let's I'm just going to do it right now one two three four five six seven eight nine See, I mean there's a power in hugging One another and I'm here to say that I'd love to see people hugging each other more In relationship. In fact, I see so few couples at least in my circle of friends I see it frequently, but I'm going to say to you I wonder how many couples are genuinely Hugging one another from a compassionate loving place And this is what I want to encourage everyone to incorporate this physical touch in their repertoire Of a hug because there is nothing more loving than giving another human being a hug Is this sinking in is this resonating? I hope it is. Please hit that like button All right, and lastly And this is a personal favorite of mine Whether I not all men like this But most men do is when a woman grabs a guy on the butt when a woman grabs the guy on a on their butt That is a very sexy thing to do. It's a physical touch thing I mean we could even incorporate that slap on the butt But something in a playful fun way To say a matter of fact even when kissing, you know when you grab someone's butt when you're kissing them these are very Very playful fun ways to really connect with your partner and that's what physical touch is all about Let's face it the primary reason to even one of the primary reasons to be in romantic relationship with someone else Is the capacity to be able to physically touch one another on a regular basis Because it's no fun sitting at home. You know for lack of a better word touching yourself touching yourself um, and I'm here to say That physical touch is an important aspect in relationship So if you haven't again coming back to the book the five love languages If you haven't read the five love languages, I highly recommend reading this and especially the topic on physical touch because Again, it's a very important aspect of relationship And my hope is these five little playful ways I've talked about physical touch today Might shift a little bit in your current relationship or what you're about to do in a future relationship All right. I hope you found value in this now since this is a live stream. We're going to jump on to the q&a so Just a reminder if you're on live You can write in the in the live chat You can write the word question and then post your question there after so I can see the word question and post your question Thereafter also if you'd like to purchase a super sticker super chat This is only on the live stream on youtube super stickers and super chats all the monies that you Pay into the super stickers super chats go to a scholarship fund that's in the name of my son Connor The scholarship fund is to help defray the cost of personal development. By the way my son Connor There's a picture of him right there. There's a picture of him right there That's my son who passed away a few years ago So in his honor in salty's honor if you do purchase a super sticker super chat It goes in his name for a scholarship fund for those who need a little bit of support when it comes to personal development All right, so if you have any questions post the word question and then write your question out This is time for our q&a. This is the best part of this So I hope you're finding value in the content so far. So let's see what we have here today bum bum bum Catherine says I'm a huge quality hugger love love love hugging wimpy hugs are just blah. Yes, I agree wimpy hugs are just blah If you have a question post the word question. Okay, here we go from Nicole question On a first date. Is it appropriate to touch or hug your date on a first date? Is it appropriate to touch or hug your first date? I believe From the perspective of first and foremost feeling comfortable and feeling safe So I wouldn't do anything unless I felt comfortable and safe Now here's the challenge with a lot of first dates is most the time we're meeting total strangers We're meeting total strangers So it's going to be very difficult to feel safe With to touch or hug someone that you don't know really well Now as I shared in the previous story That woman who was that facebook friend of mine. We had actually communicated with one another quite a bit We had a number of mutual friends So when we physically saw each other one of the first things we did was give each other a hug Now that's oftentimes a common thing even for people who are meeting total strangers to give them a hug when you first meet them So But I wouldn't recommend this if you don't feel safe if you don't feel comfortable You know sadly The dating process is rather dysfunctional because we are no longer meeting people who we know Let me repeat that we're no longer. Well, let me reframe that we're rarely meeting people We know or have some sort of familiarity or at least a degree of separation with others we know So when we feel safer with somebody because there's some level of familiarity We can feel safer to physically touch them So coming back to the first date if you feel comfortable by all means, you know And you might need to now quite frankly I will tell you ever since the me too movement I have been more selective in my circle of friends when I'm with a group of women Oftentimes ask permission is okay if I give you a hug Or it's okay if I give you a you know kiss on the cheek or something like that Especially when I've done a personal development workshop where there's a lot of Of intimacy that's or excuse me vulnerability Involved where there's been some deep transparency authenticity vulnerability happening I've learned now to ask permission. So I think from the male perspective. It's better to ask for permission Um and from the female perspective you can do the same. Hey, can I give you a hug? Hey, can I give you a hug? Hey, can I give you a hug? I think that's a sexy thing to ask of a guy and most likely most men are going to say yes And I'd be shocked if one doesn't but if he does there's a good chance that physical touch might not be his love language And he might have some trauma related to touch That might be something worth exploring later on down the road. So, um, Nicole, thank you for that question question. That's great All right, let's see what other questions we have here. Let's go swimming. Let's go swimming. Let's go swimming Bump bump bump. If you have a question post the word question Um makes it easier for me to find All right, here we go Cole says really enjoyed today's live chat. Sorry to hear about the loss of Connor I'm sure he's smiling at you feeling very proud of his dad. You sound like an amazing dad. Oh, thank you so much Cole. I really appreciate that. Yes folks All right, I'll probably get emotional now um Thank I just want to say thank you. I'm gonna hold back right now. Thank you so much. I appreciate that All right, let's take another question Vanessa question says I don't like being touched. I start to panic my partner loves being touched How can I feel not so vulnerable and open up a little more? I wasn't hugged a lot by my parents That's a great question. So Vanessa. That's not my area of expertise now I would highly look into emotional release work I would certainly consider doing the Hoffman process the Hoffman process This is a deep dive into your childhood wounds and traumas Uh specifically in relationship to your parents and you might want to start by doing some Emotional release work and some forgiveness work when it comes to your parents. That's certainly one way I might consider uh googling workshops where with maybe with just women That um involve physical touch. I know some of my circle of friends here in los angeles. There's the red tent event Just a name of uh one. Um, I'm sure there's others. I I can't think of it right now But I'll try to come back to you on that later Um, I would highly recommend doing some forgiveness work and looking at maybe doing a deep dive into healing childhood wounds and traumas That have caused this um Emotional release work or semonic therapy look up semonic therapy as well. This is all based on Physically excising all of that negative energy that retains in our body Folks, do you realize we we can retain so much negative energy that we can actually be causing a A sabotaging event In our dating life because of so much residual negative energy It bleeds into almost every area we operate and sadly in this particular case She's even expressed because of this childhood wound It's made it difficult for her to really connect on a physical level with this man She's seeing so those would be some of my recommendations at this point um To move forward. Um, did that help? I I so hope that did. Um, Vanessa and definitely I would check out reading the book as well as the recommended um Work that I'd suggested for you. So thank you so much. Great question all right Kerry ask question. Why do you think It's amusing or normal just out Wait, why do you think well now? Why do women think it's amusing or normal just out of Right flirt with other people's boyfriend just started two months ago from strangers Okay, so if I understand why do some women think it's amusing or normal to flirt with someone else's boyfriend Now I guess the question is is it genuine flirting or is it a perception or is it a projection on your part? Let me repeat that is it genuine flirting is your friend Really trying to steal your boyfriend. Okay, let's get down to what's really happening Is your friend really trying to steal your boyfriend? Or are they just being playful? Or are you being triggered by this action of a friend? Okay, now I don't know the answer to that because you're gonna have to look at that for yourself However to the fact that someone might think it's amusing I mean, certainly there's sociopathic women who are are absolute. By the way, if you have a friend Who's that is mean? And uncaring for you and would try to steal your boyfriend.  Swear a little you'll feel better. So Yeah, I would I would I would have a chat with her Um, because it's not amusing to actually try to steal someone's boyfriend Let's face it You know people are insecure and sometimes flirting with by the way, I my best friend I kind of flirt with his girlfriend the other day I was complimenting her and I was telling her how what a great girlfriend she is to my my friend Is that flirting or is that just being a kind loving human being to another? I mean depends on how you look at it. So again, I invite you to look inward Is it a projection on your part or were they actually trying to steal your friend?  Carrie. Thank you so much All right, we are rocking and rolling Let's keep swimming. Let's keep swimming. Let's keep swimming Jenny says the Hoffman process has daily meditations on instagram. Yes The Hoffman process has daily meditations on instagram highly recommend checking that out. Thank you for pointing that out Jenny, I really appreciate it. Jenny also says I like physical touch with men. I like yes I like physical touch with women. I like I actually do like hugging my my male friends as well, but mostly I would prefer physical touch from a partner Um where we can run the gamut of physical touch. So thank you so much. Jenny. I appreciate that Um All right, Suzanne says Question I like being touched too. Is there something wrong with me? Suzanne, of course not just as we talked about physical touch one of the top five Love Lang one of the five love languages physical touch is a very Uh important part of a romantic relationship to touch your partner By the way, I did a video a while back We talked about the four a's that are required for a healthy happy juicy delicious relationship and that is attention affection appreciation and acceptance affection attention affection Touching one another is so important to actually spend time Exploring each other You know, here's the thing most people date very passively and they date without any intentionality I recommend so many different books when I shoot my videos to encourage everyone to look beyond the surface Of just having a good time and men are the proprietor protectors and men are hunters and women are nurturers And that's all you have to do is just sit back in your feminine energy And everything will magically work out because if you sit in your feminine a guy is just going to naturally Climb to the tallest tower the highest room in the tallest tower and he will claim you because he's chivalrous folks Most humans are fucked up We are riddled with insecurities We are by the way dating triggers the number one emotional health issue Most folks are faced with this. I'm not good enough. I'm not lovable and I'm not likable. This is what we're faced with So we have to at least my invitation for everyone is to stop creating ridiculous Expectations from another human being and just show up the way you want to be treated I'm gonna repeat that show up the way you want to be treated I shared this in the last livestream But I I heard some terrible dating advice from someone that that was telling women If a guy Took you out to dinner and treated on a date, but he didn't pay for the valet. Don't accept a second date Don't accept a second date and I'm thinking to myself Wow This is how bad it is that that's going to be the reason why by the way he treated for drinks He treated for dinner or whatever it was and then he didn't pay the valet my my My argument is why didn't she offer to treat his? Why aren't we showing up the way we want to be treated?  It's why I wrote the book What the heck is self-love anyway? By the way, there's a link below to get a copy of my book. I wrote this book Not based on masculine and feminine energy and it's not a dating book. It's about being empowered within yourself And said sadly the vast majority of human beings are emotionally immature or stunted at best It's because the ego is doing all the work And it comes the ego is coming out in a very expectation based way So going back to that woman's advice. It's I expect you to pay my valet that way. I know you're worthy Folks that is not a demonstration of worthiness That's just a demonstration of someone's ego saying I need you to do something for me Where is it? Can I do something for you? By the way, I recognize that men are just as well as jackasses in the dating process as well as women are Same, okay?  And I said what percentage of people do you believe are actually emotionally mature enough to be in relationship? And I think over two-thirds 66% thought that it's less than 20% of the population is actually mature enough to be in a healthy happy relationship Think about that And that's men and women alike So this is what we're dealing with this is why I recommend reading books like eight dates by doctors john and julie gotten And so you can learn the mechanics to a healthy happy relationship This is why I recommend reading the book non violent communication by marshall rosenberg So you can learn how to communicate in a healthier happy way because most people are communicating in a very violent way By the way, this book book should have been titled compassionate communication But the vast majority of people are communicating with one another in a very lack of compassionate way Because there's so many fucking expectations in the dating process. I'm sorry I've gone on in a rant, but this is what happens sometimes. I scream at the top of my lungs Because it's like touching you're trying i'm trying to tell children not to touch fire stop touching fire Start approaching the process from a place of love and compassion for yourself first And then love and compassion for others and expectations is the mother of disaster and desperation is her twin sister All right, I went off on a total tangent there susanne. Thank you so much for sharing your question. I really appreciate it All right, let's keep swimming. Let's keep swimming. Here we go. Gina Question hi jonathan when it comes to pda. Do you like do you consider kissing a little bit rude to others? Okay, first and foremost folks. I love i'm a pda guy. I love You know not too well to the extent i'm not bashful when it comes to making out with my partner now Do I think it should be groveling one another or groping one another and like get a room? No, I'm not a big proponent of that I remember um, I was at the hollywood bowl with a my friend just last weekend And I was just watching him and his girlfriend just hugging and kissing each other while we were listening to music And and I just thought how adorable that is and I watched other people doing the same I love it when I see women running their fingers through guys hair I love it when I see men holding their partner's hand the way he did with her I mean, that's just my own personal preference. Everybody has their own personal preference Not everybody feels comfortable with pda and that's okay, too Intimacy is sometimes only reserved for those private moments for some people And yet I believe well again, this is just my own preference. So I shouldn't say it's a belief. It's just a preference I love pda. Um, if you like pda, uh, hit a thumbs up button or post a comment saying I love pda And if you don't post a comment why you don't love pda, I'd like to read it All right, let's just keep going here All right Let's keep swimming. Let's keep swimming All right bump bump bump Something's happening with my live stream. It looks like There is a spammer. So sorry about that Okay question Face uh friends with benefits doesn't show touch Okay, a friend with benefit doesn't show touch me when we're in public But I can't keep his hands off of me when we're at home Should I ask him why or leave it alone because we're not in a committed relationship? Okay, so it's a friends with benefits My instincts tell me that this is a strictly physical relationship with another human being And that's all it is. So um in that particular case, he probably doesn't want to Even show physical attention. Basically my my instincts tell me Um, he may basically doesn't want other people to know he's in a relationship with someone I certainly would be open to asking him what that is for him I'm a big by the way coming back to my book chapter one Speak your truth do it with kindness And remember if it's sincere and from the heart you can't say the wrong thing to the right person So in this particular case, um, yeah, I would definitely talk to him about it and see how he feels about it I mean, it's just simply a conversation is all so yeah, have a chat with him and see how he feels about it All right All right, let's keep Um, I've got to scroll through a lot here because we have a spammer Um All right, let's keep swimming. Let's keep swimming Okay, if you have a question post the word question so I can see it. They'll write the question there after Grace says I give myself hugs tickle myself stroke my own hair It feels good to self-care and love yourself this way I caress my skin fantasize that the man I want is with me and always giving me a big Orgasm. Yes grace. Yay. Yay. Yay. I love love love that By the way folks, you might notice I do this with my hair a lot Um, I I can't tell you why I do it and by the way now my hair is all messed up But it's something I like to do. Maybe it's my way of physically touching myself. Um But yeah, um, I do it and I think it's great that grace you do that for yourself as well So thumbs up and a way to go. All right. Let's just keep going here Um All right question from angie My question my Okay question why My ex keeps contact me while he's dating while he's on a dating site busy dating new people Why does my ex contact me while he's on it? Well, because listen Men a couple reasons why men tend to be territorial So the minute we've been in relationship with someone we we we tend to actually Kind of treat them like their own our own property. I don't mean this from a conscious perspective But certainly from a subconscious perspective that might be true for a lot of men now with that said Um, it's you know, he's acting very childlike In this particular case most likely if you're either if you're are you are you friends with one another? Or is the relationship over and he's just reaching out on occasion because If if you're friends with one another it's understandable to reach out But if you're not friends with one another and communicating, he's just treating you know He's being quite unfair to you in my particular opinion So I'd have a chat with him try to get a sense of what's going on for him And if it's crossing a boundary for you then establish your boundary that this is not okay for you And lastly you can always block him on the phone if it's you can block him if it's not acceptable to you But the why because subconsciously a lot of men treat women like property From a subconscious perspective. So we feel like we have the right to go back whenever we want I'm not saying it's right, but that's what happens for a lot of men All right, let's keep going here All right, all right Question oops, sorry Where did that one go? Tessa writes question. How do I get my boyfriend to get off his phone and touch me? Uh grab his phone throw it in the pool and uh, tell him to touch you now. I'm just kidding. Um, make a request By the way, one of the things I like about the work of okay It isn't in this book But john and julie doctors john and julie gotman who wrote the book eight dates Talk about making requests or bids. So I would simply make a request Hey, you know would simply say hey tim, you know what? I know you have a lot of important things to do on your phone And I want you to know i'm here and I want us to have some quality time together Which would include touching one another and just be very forthright I mean, you know, you don't you can make it as simple as what I just said But you make a request now he might not agree to your request and that's okay because for him that might not be okay Your boundary is saying what's okay and what's not okay for you and then you have to ultimately decide Is this the person I want to be in relationship with do they spend more time on their phone? Um, especially when you're together or do they spend more time investing in you? So you make a request a bid for love and then you see how he responds. Did that help? I hope it did So thank you so much for that one tessa. I really appreciate it All right, let's keep swimming. All right we jen Question may you please tell us a little of what a little bit? A little what are the love coaches or youtube channels that completely opposite? Then your theory or what you would or what are good ones you recommend us to learn from You know, I don't want to necessarily publicly criticize. I i'm gonna say this I do follow well first off There's a hundred thousand dating coaches right now. If not a million out there I mean everybody has got an opinion about relationships and dating folks I started off as a dating relationship coach simply to give women advice on how to improve their online dating profiles From the male perspective what I didn't realize is after over 20,000 hours of coaching that I've accumulated in the last 15 years as well as over 3,000 hours of personal development workshops training self-help Videos books that I've read. I've amassed a lot of knowledge in the area particularly about human behavior mostly when it comes to childhood wounds and traumas including love attachment and amago If you're not familiar with the books love attachment Or excuse me attached and the amago I Or excuse me getting the love you want and attached amago as we choose people like our parents and attached is We're either anxious mostly either anxious or avoidant attachment styles I highly recommend reading these two books reading these two books Reading these two books reading these two books to learn about this The reason why I don't there's one book in particular I can't stand the book the rules the rules and the reason why I don't like this book It's a very manipulative short term methodology using ego and reverse psychology and manipulation To get someone to like you. I'm not a big proponent of that for example I was listening to some coach say you should wait four hours before you ever text a guy really Look it. I'm a I'm a communicator if someone waited four hours to communicate with me. I'm off to three other women I'm just joking. I'm not really but if someone's playing that game Let me tell you something folks.  Anyway, and again, these are just my opinions. So So anyways we gin going back to your original question. I don't want to publicly share other than the book the rules But there's a couple people I do like I like Matthew hussy. I like matt boggs Just to name a few people. I like susan winter. I love susan winter She is phenomenal. So if you haven't checked out her youtube channel susan winter She's very much comes from it from a psychology perspective Again, I like p. I like coaches that look at it here first off So most dating advice is centered on three primary principles We're going to get into something deep here three primary principles here And that is our instinct which is hunter provider protector And nurturer our biology, which is our home owns testosterone and estrogen and our social as Socialization basically how we were socialized as boys and girls. Okay, that's where most dating advice comes from those three areas My dating advice comes from the next eight areas eight areas which includes the imprinting that happened in our childhood Our childhood wounds and traumas Okay, which includes going back to Getting the love you want and attached. Okay number two the age of a person 20 year olds are a lot different than 50 year olds You can't apply 20 year old advice to a 50 year old and you can't because look at 50 year olds Most likely have been through alimony child support visitation rights family court erectile dysfunction Estrogen deficiency menopause just to name a few things that happen at midlife So age is a big difference then life experience again a 20 25 year olds a lot different than a 50 year old that's gone through divorce and and marriage and that sort of thing They might have gone through a divorce a job loss kids baggage all these sorts of things And then your culture and religion how someone was raised plays a big part in this equation as well And our socioeconomic if we're rich if we're poor that plays a part in the dating process and our physical health our fitness Our attractiveness plays in the dating process our emotional intelligence our ability to communicate with one another In a healthy way and lastly people who are introspective that do personal development work So when you take all of this into the equation you can't boil it down to well They're providers men are hardwired to be provider protectors. And so that's all you need to know That's bullshit By the way, nearly one third of men in their 20s don't want to be a provider protector And nearly one third of men in their 50s after going through divorce The last thing they want to be as a provider protector to another human being Doesn't mean that they're not capable of it, but they're gun shy So we can't use dating red to apply certain principles as a generalization to dating advice's crock You have to look at the big picture and that's what I think differentiates me from a lot of other coaches So again highly recommend checking out susan winter I love matthew hussey for the younger demographic and I also like meant matte vlogs for the younger demographic I like me for the midlife demographic, which is after baby making years and before retirement I hope you find value in my content. So please let me know Okay We are rocking and rolling All right, let's keep swimming Matbogs is good Yes, I agree author of attached the book the author of attached is dr. Amir Levine and rachel heller Amir ravine amir levine and rachel heller Okay Let's keep swimming Sally says is this a question? What do you think? What do men think if you friend them on facebook and message them? How do you get their attention to get to know them more? Oh, this is a great question because I get a lot of facebook requests um I would certainly say hey, you send a message saying hey Uh, you you know, we have a mutual friend you came on my radar However, you initiate the contact and say you look like someone interesting that I'd like to get to know better And I just want to I'm sending you my friend request and hopefully we can interact with one another on our post to get to Know one another that's a way to start if he's not interested in you He probably won't I mean from a romantic perspective He probably won't accept the friend request or even if he does accept the friend request doesn't mean he's going to engage romantically But that's certainly a start Just say hey, I I came across you through a mutual friend You seem like someone interesting and I wanted to be friends so I can follow your post and interact with you Is that okay? Is that okay? Is that okay? remember folks Speak your truth do it with kindness if it's sincere and from the heart you can't say the wrong thing to the right person all right I'm 26, but you're valuable my demographic too. By the way someone on instagram just said clarity just says I'm 26, but you're valuable for my demographic too. Thank you so much. I appreciate that All right, we're gonna take a couple more questions Let's keep swimming. Let's keep I just keep doing that Nemo thing Sadie says Jonathan What puts men off can a woman can a woman appear to keen can a woman appear to keen? I don't think I understand the question all that well, but can a woman be too keen You know, here's the thing folks Not everybody is everybody's cup of tea. I've gone on dates with women I was very attracted to and I wasn't their cup of tea I've gone out with women who are very attracted to me and I wasn't their cup of tea That's just part of the process. You know, there's no one-size-fits-all The reality is is energetic connection and connecting with someone on an energetic level Sometimes it's just strict strictly a roll of the dice. So my invitation for everybody is just put yourself out there And just do your best to show up in a loving compassionate way folks. I always recommend the book The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer the untethered soul by Michael Singer Why I recommend this book is it's a book about really Learning that it doesn't matter what other people think by the way, I'm going to talk about another book But it doesn't matter what other people think of you. What matters most is what you think of you That's why I always recommend the book Before agreements the four agreements. This is a book that should be on your nightstand You should know these four agreements backward forward upside down I highly recommend that so To answer your question Sometimes people, you know beat last you know, it's funny. Let me say one more thing I had a one woman said Jonathan, who's a friend of mine? She reached out to me on the dating site. She was asking for my advice She's a friend proxies. I'm sorry.  That's what matters most in this process. Look it Look it a lot of dating advice is manipulative. Okay. I don't give dating advice. I give it human behavior advice There's a big difference Okay, human behavior is really more about loving on yourself. That's the most important thing in this conversation I'm not a dating a relationship coach I'm a coach to encourage you to love yourself so much That it doesn't matter whether or not you have a relationship a romantic relationship with someone else Because I want you to have that romantic relationship with yourself Your self-worth your self-esteem your self-reliance Your self-confidence your sovereignty That's what I want to encourage everyone to do and if you need some love and support out that Check out a link to a free discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you Check out the links below to my podcast to my book all these places All right Let's keep looking. By the way, if you now we're going to spend the last few minutes if you have a personal question of me If you have a personal question of me Post the question say personal question post personal question and then write a personal question if you have a me I'm going to spend the last 10 minutes A lot of times I get a lot of personal questions. So this is your chance to ask those personal questions of me Um, and we'll go from there all right Here's a personal question. Nicole. Where can we find your podcast? Well, Nicole in the okay? My podcast is called the what would love do podcast. It's on apple. It's on spotify It's on google and it's on my website under podcast you can go to my website or you can click the little link in the description when this pot when this Livestream finishes and it's the what would love do podcast. So it's on my website all right Janet says you're becoming a great friend to me. Thank you so much janet I appreciate that and again if you have a personal question for me Go ahead and post the word personal question and write the question out so I can follow it All right Let's keep swimming. Let's keep swimming bump bump bump bump bump We're going to take this question. That was a few minutes ago question. I'm dating a guy I'm sexually active with but he won't say we are exclusive but he treats me as such He checks off the good qualities in your video. Should I stay or should I go folks?    I'm not your woman. Okay Listen, I know that's a little bit crass, but it's time to stand in your power Ladies be in your you don't have to be in feminine power. You have to be in your individual empowerment Set a boundary This isn't okay for me and it doesn't matter because the right guy will come around the corner when you dump the wrong guy Much quicker. At least that's my invitation for you. All right Let's keep going um Paula says I love that you encourage self-love and compassion something. I try to be yes Goddess says right we older people going through midlife changes divorce lost loved ones and many baby or Jobs and such. Yes, exactly um Clarity says I will totally have my next partner read these books with me and he and if he's not for me And he's not for me if he doesn't exactly clarity way to go Didi says how young are you? Didi As of this year, I am perpetually 49 for the rest of my life. I am perpetually 49 for the rest of my life I'm actually though A little bit older, but I don't like to say it publicly Would you relocate for love? Would you relocate would you relocate for love? interesting, so I my son lives here. My family lives here. Um I would have a really looking folks after losing conor though. It's hard enough To want to like have every second of every moment with my son callin I'd have a real hard time relocating if he wasn't around At least this point in my life However, if I met that perfect partner where we were a true partnership a real partnership Folks, I grew up watching a tv show called heart to heart heart to heart Jonathan and jennifer heart. So my fantasy is the woman i'm with is jennifer and i'm jonathan Because we have big heart together And jenny you're a jennifer um I'm here to say that I would love to have that kind of relationship and I would travel anywhere for that The challenge is the reality is is I live where I live I don't want to I'm not going to jump on a plane for a total stranger just on the roll of the dice So I the reality is it's going to have to happen here for it to work And by the way, I live at the beach. I live in one of the best places in the country So why would I want to move? I mean and not that I would want someone to move unless they didn't feel comfortable But ultimately I do believe But by the way, you folks know I talk about the relationship iceberg the relationship iceberg and the only reason why it's an iceberg is The top is attraction the top is attraction and at the top it says chemistry The low chemistry is shared values blendable lifestyle and emotional maturity And as you feel more comfortable with Shared values blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity the water line drops So what you're left with is a mountain a mountain of a relationship Look at blendable lifestyles is an important part of a healthy happy relationship And if we can't blend our lives together Um, I'd want to know that sooner rather than later and that's just how I feel about that question Thank you so much for asking. I really appreciate it Really quickly. I want to thank the super sticker from tie, baby. Thank you so much in the super chat From Beatrice. She says oops that super chat just disappeared Beatrice. I'm sorry about oh, here we go It says has anyone at some point in your life tried to sabotage a relationship through gossip or malicious tactics Thankfully No, maybe in my teens or my night my 20s maybe but thankfully no I choose emotional. I do my best to choose emotionally grown-up people Beatrice. Thank you for that question and the five dollars By the way before we wrap up if I provided value for you today, please purchase a super sticker super chat I'm trying to build up that scholarship fund Even if it's a couple dollars. I really appreciate it from the bottom of my heart your generosity And again, this defrains the cost of personal development for those that are struggling paying for the cost of personal development all right Ann says explain what blendable lifestyles are to you. Okay, great question So let me give you examples of non-blendable lifestyles You live in new york. He lives in la. He works 24 7 you work 24 7 It's gonna be hard to blend your lives if you have fully functioning lives where you live, okay Then ultimately another thing about blendable lives is can your lives really blend together some for example A lot of people in midlife want to date empty nesters So if someone's raising children their lifestyle may not be Compatible with the other person's lifestyle. I know a lot of women who don't want to date men who are raising young children That's an example of an incompatibility with lifestyle It could be lifestyle with health and fitness I know some women who are total jocks and they need to be with a jock type And i'm a guy that likes to ride my bike on the beach and keep it casual So that might be of not fit or lifestyles might not be blendable I like to do spiritual journeys doing plant-based medicine ayahuasca psilocybin just to name a few if a person isn't into those things And this is something really important to me to want to do with a partner Our lifestyles might not be blendable. So i'm just giving you a few examples of where lifestyles might not be blendable And I hope that helped All right I want to thank julia for the super sticker. Thank you so much. I want to thank susan for the super sticker of $20 Thank you so much. That's very kind all right This is going to be our last question of the day Question what is your answer to the question you posted about the percentage of men who are emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship? So I posted a question in my community. It wasn't about men Barbara it was about human beings Folks, I truly believe that the vast majority of human beings are emotionally stunted emotionally stunted at best Okay, so I believe this is one of our biggest challenges in relationship is people who are not Emotionally mature enough or stunted to be in relationship because they have weak communication skills This is true of men and women alike. I think that's the real challenge with dating and relationships today All centers around emotional maturity. This is why i'm such a big proponent of reading the books I continually recommend over and over and over again So my invitation for you is do the work yourself and Become a magnet for attracting someone else who's done the work as well And that puts your chances a greater chance of success because the vast majority of people are emotionally stunted at best All right, I think I think this would be a good place to wrap up right here I hope you found value in this live stream today I want to thank dorthy for the super sticker. Thank you so much Um Clarity says my dream to hear you talk more about your experience with ayahuasca Uh, maybe someday I'll do that. I I just did a psilocybin journey and I had a great visitation from my son connor So, uh, it was a very fun journey. Uh tessa. Thank you so much for the super sticker. I really appreciate it We gin. Thank you so much. Uh hugs big bro. Thank you so much Folks, this would be a great place to wrap up today. I want to thank everyone that was on the instagram live and certainly on YouTube live as well. Thank you for the super sticker super chats. I love you all from the bottom of my heart Um Well, I shouldn't say I love you all but I do my best to be loving of everybody and for those of you who are On live. I just want to thank you so much. All right. This would be a great place to wrap up today If you found value in this please share it with your friends. I'm going to share those Five ways men like to be touched really quickly Touch him on his arm run your fingers through his hair Playfully slap him on his arm Hug him deeply and grab his butt Again, I hope you found value share this video with your friends And we're going to wrap up today as I always do first off giving myself a big gigantic jonathan bear hug of self love I'm going to reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm going to ask you to turn to someone a pet a teddy bear pillow and give it or them a hug of love Because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it. We could all use more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch. Bye. Bye now. Bye. Bye


Right guys, hope you're all doing absolutely fantastically out there wherever you're tuning in from whatever time it may be for me If you're wondering, it's the 7th of September 248 in the PM Down here in New Zealand. So today we crack on with the list of the top 30 NBA players of all time apparently This video is titled Watching Julius Irving until I'm impressed prior to going to YouTube typing and Julie serving and watching the first one on the list I'll just read your wee blurb here. Dr. J was everyone's Michael Jordan before Michael Jordan Okay, I've actually never seen this guy play But come to think of it Dr. J Julius Irving that does ring a bell that rings a bell and And the ballot rings is NBA Street on PlayStation 2 or 3 I'm not not completely sure but I did play a bit of NBA Street.  I think it was 3 on 3 3 on 3 back and forth NBA Street either way That's enough talking from me Dr. J was everyone's Michael Jordan before Michael Jordan The NBA merged with the ABA in 76. I've got absolutely no idea what that's about because of the doctor There were a bunch of other great players too like George Gervin and he continued to take another league by storm after winning two chips with the Nets in the ABA Okay Okay, so there were two conferences two Organizations, he was the star of one because there were so many good players that were not in the NBA yet. I Don't know why they weren't. I don't know what happened. It was in 1976 14 years before I was born either way He helped the Sixers make the finals during his first season in the modern NBA But lost to Bill Walton's Blazers in six games Dr. J floated through the air as his lanky limbs cut to the rim. Actually that that does ring a bell I think I think the major that the the main dunk. Sorry that Julius. I think he he could almost Jump from the three-point line. He just went up with one hand like this Just one big hand like literally, I don't know 20 20 feet in the air came down and absolutely slammed it on Motherfuckers heads and he probably did that in real life Floated through the air as his lanky limbs cut to the rim and his hair blew in the wind I can only imagine how that shit looked back in those days. It was probably like watching an alien Sometimes I watch his reverse layup during the fourth quarter of game four of the 1980 Finals against the Lakers and try and figure out How the hell he was able to stay in the air that long His reverse layup Hmm. He looks as if he's at least seven foot And he's not all style and flair either Irving's career numbers are just as impressive as his plays He averaged 24.2 points per game 8.5 rebounds per game 4.2 assists per game 2 steals per game and 1.7 blocks per game also made 11 NBA All-Star teams won three MVP awards across the NBA and ABA and Made the 75th anniversary team. Dr. J is the godfather of the modern NBA And with all that in mind guys the Michael Jordan before Michael Jordan existed Let's have a look Now how on earth are there so many different Julius's that actually rank above Julius Irving I that I'm flabbergasted at that either way Top video as you know Julius Irving highlights Until I'm impressed Otherwise known as dr. J was one of the legends in the game of bass look at the hair both in the ABA and NBA When it looks like a fucking with a ball like that it looks like a Harlem Globe Trotters game I must admit what do we got here was one of the most fascinating high-flying figures whose dunks were as flashy as they Were polarizing in honor of this hall of fame. Oh, and he posterized someone. Oh Have a look at that. Yeah, that's this. Yeah, that's the clear. That's the that's the action. That's the motion That's what I remember from NBA Street. That's Julius Irving and I'm impressed. Thanks for watching and I'll see you in the next one


In this video, I'm going to be talking about how you can get a bachelor's degree in special education in as little as one year. And this is going to be done by using what's known as competency-based education. Now, this is a really exciting new type of education. And there are several schools out there that do this. The particular one that I'm going to be talking about in this video is WGU or Western Governors University. However, there are several other really good options that also do competency-based education. And I'll talk about them later in this video, and I'll show you how you can decide which one is right for you. And this is a completely legit top 10% regionally accredited industry-respected degree. And if you don't believe me, just look at all the testimonials and reviews that you see on YouTube, Google, and Reddit. And up until now, I only revealed this process in my private coaching and consultation sessions. Wow. But I did a few videos on this. People really loved it and they wanted me to make more videos. So that's what I'm doing today. So if you appreciate me revealing this ridiculous amount of value all for free, go ahead, gently tap that like button, and let's jump into it. All right. So this is a four-step process. And you're going to want to make sure you do this step by step, right? Don't skip any of the steps because I've seen people skip steps and I've seen it cost them thousands of dollars. So make sure you follow this very carefully and do everything exactly as I say. So the first step on this list is you are going to go ahead and transfer in all of your existing credits. Now, this step might seem simple enough, but I have seen people mess up on this. So for instance, WGU and many other competency-based universities or accelerated universities are very gracious about the units that they accept. Now, the typical stuff that colleges may or may not accept, depending on the university, is going to be AP and IB exams that you took during high school, things like CLEP exams, the college-level examination program tests, and then also, of course, other college courses that you've taken. Typically you can transfer those in depending on the university. But at WGU, they actually accept quite a bit more than this. So for instance, there are some examples where they will accept work experience, military experience, certificates and certifications, even classes that you might have taken on Udemy. These are all things that, in some cases, you can transfer into WGU as well as other competency-based universities. So this is something that you don't want to skip. You want to spend your time on this step.  So here's an example of a person who is able to transfer in five classes. Now, once you've transferred these in, you've gotten that list back, go ahead, move on to step two, which is the most important step, and that is you are going to go ahead and test out of a bunch of the remaining credits using third-party companies. Now, you might be thinking, why am I using third-party companies if WGU is already so fast? Well, simply put, it's faster, easier, and cheaper to use third-party companies. And my three favorites are going to be study.com, Sophia.org, and straighterline.com in that order. And by the way, this process can be a little bit confusing, especially depending on the school you're going to and whether they, you know, make it easy with that degree program or not. But I created a spreadsheet. Basically, it's a cheat sheet that makes this entire process just stupidly easy. You can just literally do it step by step and follow along. I'll put that down in the description as well as the pinned comment below. So for this particular degree, there are 41 total classes you have to take to get your bachelor's degree. Now, if you have a lot of time and you want to do this really fast, you can very comfortably test out of one class per day, especially with the entry-level classes. I've even seen students test out of multiple classes per day. But if you're super busy, you've got a family, you've got a full-time job, you can't do that, you can still do it relatively easy about once per week. And again, this is with some of the entry and mid-level classes that you can do this.  And you can actually bring that entire number from 41 classes all the way down to about 28 classes before you even enroll. And study.com is great because you don't have to attend lectures, do group projects, any of that boring stuff. You also don't have to buy any textbooks where you have to buy the clicker or all the other random stuff that the professors make you buy. You don't have to deal with any of that on study.com. The UI is really good. You're probably going to learn a lot using study.com, and it's just a pretty frictionless process overall. So yeah, definitely check out study.com. It is a phenomenal resource. Use that to test out of as many classes as you can, then transfer all those classes in, and then you're going to move on to step number three. This is an important step that a lot of people skip, and that is you are going to pre-study the remaining classes, right? So you are not enrolling in WGU yet. This is a mistake a lot of people make because sometimes the enrollment counselors will sort of pressure you a little bit to enroll because if you think about it, you know, they're going to make more money if you're in WGU for a longer period of time. But the way that WGU as well as a lot of competency-based universities work is they will make you pay per term. Now with the different degrees, it's going to cost somewhere between $3,500 to $4,000 per term, and each term is six months. So your goal here is to graduate in as few terms as possible, and it's very realistic to graduate in two terms or less. And I have seen many different situations where people don't do the pre-study step and they end up taking an extra term, like they'll spend a week or a month in an extra term, but the problem is you have to pay for the whole thing, right? So your goal here is to try to finish it in two terms. And if you're able to do that, you don't have to spend like an extra week or a month. You can do two terms instead of three terms or three terms instead of four terms if you're really busy. So definitely don't skip this step. This is a very important step. I do understand if you're super busy and you just kind of want to get it over with and you're sort of like timing it correctly, you can make a plan where you just study for certain classes, like some of the more difficult classes, and then make it work within those two to three terms. So with that being said, there are two phenomenal resources that are really the only resources you need because they're going to point you to everything else that you need to study. And those two resources are one, the WGU subreddits and two, the WGU Facebook groups. So there's like a main WGU subreddit and then there are sub subreddits, I guess you could say, that have the specific degrees. And then same thing for the Facebook groups. And basically on both of these references, they are going to be sharing tips, tricks, strategies to study for classes, as well as pass tests as quickly and efficiently as possible. And so these are people who either just pass the tests or they are currently taking the tests. And so they're really in the trenches, they know what's working right now. So they might tell you, Hey, watch this YouTube channel, look at this blog, watch this Khan Academy course, something along those lines, typically they are going to recommend either free or very cheap, very affordable resources. But if you're a textbook type of person, of course, you can like order an online textbook, or you can just order a physical textbook if you like that too. But once you feel comfortable, and you think you can pass it in a certain amount of time, you have a really good plan, and you're confident about that plan, go ahead and roll in WGU and move on to step number four, which is you are going to knock the classes out as fast as you possibly can. Now this step is relatively straightforward. You know, you are going to talk to your enrollment counselor and roll and then you're just going to try to get through this classes as fast as you can. Again, using those two resources that I told you, the WGU subreddits as well as the Facebook group and make sure you talk to your mentor and your instructors about some of the harder classes like disciplinary literacy, preclinical experiences and special education, etc. Now overall, let's go over the four steps again really quickly. And then I'm actually going to take you into the cheat sheet and give you a step by step example, just break it down so that you basically have zero questions after this. And that is going to be step one, transfer in all your existing credit, step two, knock out as many classes as you can using third party companies. Step three, you're going to pre-study the remaining classes. And then step four, knock out the rest of the classes while you're enrolled in WGU as fast as possible. Now let's go ahead and jump into that cheat sheet and go through an example of what this would probably look like for you. Now again guys, this cheat sheet is going to be linked in the pinned comment as well as the description below. And we'll quickly just go over some housekeeping stuff and like how to use this. First of all, this copy you probably are not able to edit it or you shouldn't be able to edit it. But you can edit and put your information in if you go file, then make a copy. Now there is one downside of doing this and that is if I have any updates in the future, like if study.com comes out with another class or straighter line or Sophia, or maybe there's some kind of certificate you can transfer in, you will not see it on the copy that you make. So maybe keep your eye on this particular spreadsheet. And then you know, you can do the copy and do your own thing with the copy because I will likely be updating this in the future. If any new classes come out or I have gotten some requests to do the Sophia classes as well because some people really like Sophia. But with that being said, let's go ahead and go through this really quickly on the far left. These are the class numbers that you would be taking at WGU. This next column here, this is going to be the names of the classes, then the units for each class. And then this is probably the most important column. And that is going to be the classes that you can transfer in using study.com. So just to make this very clear, if you look at this row here, English composition one, that's a class at WGU, if you were to take English 104, which is class number 57 at study.com, that will transfer into WGU for English composition one. So just to make that very clear, I did have some questions on some of my other videos about that. And something that's very awesome is you can actually save 30% on your first three months with study.com using the code Shane Hommis during checkout study.com was nice enough to give me a code and that will save you a ton of money. And it'll also be helping the channel out as well. So definitely take advantage of that. Now let's go ahead and go through this process step by step. So the first step of course is you're going to transfer in classes. So in this particular case, let's just say I'm of course I'm just making this up. You took a biology class in high school. So you were able to transfer this one in biology 101. And then you also took one semester of college and you took like a communications and art another biology and astronomy and a math class and you were able to transfer all of those in as well. So right off the bat, it looks like you knocked out about six classes, then you would move on to the second step, which is you would test out of these classes using third party companies. So you would knock the rest of them out using study.com. And as you can see, you're able to test out of about 30% of the classes or so, just using study.com as well as the transfers and you haven't even enrolled in WGU yet. And this probably won't take you very long. So if you're in a situation where you don't have any classes to transfer in, that's totally fine. It won't take you very long to take these study.com classes. Like I said, especially for the entry level ones, you can knock these out extremely quickly. And by the way, generally speaking, these green classes, the ones that are color coded as green are typically going to be relatively easy. The yellow classes are moderate difficulty and the red classes are going to be the harder ones. But it really depends on the degree you're taking. And in some cases, they're, you know, relatively easy overall in general. But this is what it would look like after you got the list back from your counselor. So you don't even really need to wait for that or anything. This is probably what it's going to look like right here. So in this particular case, what you'd want to do is you'd want to go ahead and pre study these remaining classes. Now again, you want to use the WGU subreddits and the Facebook groups to do the pre studying. And if you're super busy, or you kind of have a plan where you're, you know, you think you can get it done within like maybe three terms or something like that, maybe just choose to study some of the red ones instead, some of the harder ones. But I really just recommend getting hold of the curriculum and pre studying them to the point where you're feeling really confident. So once you feel good about your plan, you're feeling really confident, go ahead and roll in WGU and knock out the rest of the classes as fast as you can. And again, your goal is going to be finishing it in two terms or less. So after you finished it in two terms, you're going to go ahead and move on to step number five, which is go ahead, brag to everybody you know, post it on your Facebook, tell everybody you know your friends and your family, et cetera, that you were able to finish a legitimate bachelor's degree in one year. And if you're really nice, share this video with them so everybody else can do the same as well because this is basically like a cheat code. Alternative education is coming up. People are getting very sick of traditional colleges and these sorts of things are becoming more and more available as time goes on. Now one thing I will say very quickly is WGU is a great school and it's a great option for a lot of people, but it is not for everyone. And this is actually one of the main reasons why I didn't reveal it except to my consulting clients for a long time. And that is because I wanted to make sure I understand the person's situation before I recommend anything to them. So make sure you do your research on this, right? Take what everybody says on the internet with a grain of salt, even though there's a ton of positive reviews about WGU on subreddits and YouTube, et cetera, that doesn't necessarily mean it's the right choice for you. So for instance, there are people out there that just simply cannot study if it's remote class. Some people absolutely hate remote learning. So in that particular case, maybe WGU is not the right choice for you. There's also people out there that really value having a strong network. And in the case of WGU, it can be somewhat difficult to network. I mean, it's kind of obvious you're going to be online. You're not going to be in person. So it's just a lot harder to form those relationships. And the third thing is there are some cases where people might want a degree that WGU doesn't have to offer or in some cases, you know, maybe WGU just isn't their cup of tea. In that particular case, there are other competency based or accelerated universities that you can look into. And I break all of this down in this video right here. So I highly, highly recommend you check that video out.


Wireless sensor networks, WSNs, are a type of network composed of small, low-cost sensors that can collect data in remote locations. They have been used for a variety of purposes such as environmental monitoring, healthcare, military operations, and industrial automation. WSNs offer many advantages over traditional networks, including lower cost, smaller size, and greater flexibility. However, they also come with some drawbacks, such as limited battery life and reliability issues due to the presence of wireless communication. Despite these challenges, WSNs continue to be used in a wide range of applications, such as environmental monitoring, healthcare, military operations, and industrial automation. This article was authored by Dionysus Candries, Christos Nakas, Demetrius Vambas, and others.


Metaphors are powerful. We used to see the universe, our societies, companies, and even our bodies as machines. The machine metaphor affected everything from how we build economies to how we treat a disease. It affects how leaders see their organizations, a hierarchical system for turning inputs into outputs, an assembly line where the plan, the strategy, the idea is handed down, and the conveyor belt churns out the desired result. While that may have been a fine machine for making cars, in a world where disruption can appear with no warning, it doesn't sound like a metaphor for success. But what if we changed the metaphor? What if we moved from a rigid, mechanistic view to a more fluid, dynamic metaphor? We could see an organization not as a machine, but as an integrated system, a complex web that may seem chaotic from the outside, but contains within it the means to respond and adapt to change. The system is not walled off, but it is connected, adapting and responding to every system around it. A system that can repair itself when disrupted, a system that gets stronger, that evolves. Research has shown us that the best teams are those that are adaptive, while still being focused on a common, greater goal. Teams that contain chaos to discover something amazing. Just like every cell in our body contains the same set of genetic instructions, so must a successful strategy permeate the entire organization. Strategic design and delivery are the intertwined parts of those instructions, not disconnected steps. Metaphors matter. Organizations aren't machines, they are collections of people. Leaders should move beyond seeing their job as simply setting gears into motion. Instead, they should focus on balancing the health of the overall system, on adapting to changes along the way, and on connecting strategy design and delivery.


This study is a continuation of a previous one by the authors, where they examined mechanical data of alkaline treated natural fibers reinforced plaster using response surface methodology, RSM, statistics in Part 1, and now analyze the same data using artificial neural network, ANN, statistics in Part 2. The study reports ANN statistics data analysis on the mechanical properties of plaster and natural fibers, and compares the findings of both methods. Flexural properties of sodium hydroxide solution, NAOH, treated natural fibers in plaster mortars were investigated, and experimental data effects were established using analysis of variants, ANOVA, method. Fiber length optimization and NAOH percentage treatment of fibers were also performed utilizing desirability function DF to obtain maximum flexural properties. The ANN and RSM models have correlated highly to the experimental data, but the ANN model proves more accurate. This article was authored by Mesa-Luda Ahmed Bailadi and Mastifa Bushak. We are article.tv, links in the description below.


Welcome to All Hands Update, these are your headlines from around the fleet. The Navy announced the annual recertification of Special Duty Assignment Payment, or SDAP, for the fiscal year 2012. SDAP is an incentive pay ranging from $75 to $450 a month and is allotted to qualified sailors. For more information regarding SDAP, visit the Navy Personnel Command website at npc.navy.mil. Ernest Borgnein, an Oscar-winning actor and Navy veteran, died Sunday at 95. Borgnein joined the U.S. Navy in 1935 and served on a destroyer during World War II. After serving, he went on to portray a commander of a World War II PT boat in the show, McHale's Navy. You can read more about these stories at navy.mil. For All Hands Update, I'm Petty Officer Amara Timberlake.


Okay, we're back here inside the Cube. This is EMC World's exclusive coverage from SiliconANGLE and Wikibon. I'm John Furrier, the founder. This is the Cube, our flagship program. We go out to events, extract the ceiling from the noise. I'm joining my co-host for this segment is Jeff Kelly from Wikibon. Wikibon analysts and big data, and this topic in this segment is going to be around big data, but also storage. There's a lot of stuff going on around images, et cetera. And we're Ken Malero, senior director at Pixia Corporation. Welcome to the Cube. Thank you, thank you. We are here in the ground floor in Las Vegas to hear the noise all around us. There's people yelling all over the place and the blogger lounge behind us. But you guys do something very, very interesting. You guys, talk about your application first. Introduce your application and we'll dig into some of the questions. Sure, thanks. So, appreciate speaking about it, but Pixia Corp is a software company. We specialize in data access for large data. So unstructured data, mainly raster data. So, heavy pixels, satellite imagery, also motion imagery, and also video data. So, obviously, we heard from the folks here at EMC, Joe Tucci, David Goulden, Pat Gelsinger today. Internet of Things is hot and Paul Moritz highlighted in his keynote today. GE invested $100 million in the Pivotal company. So, obviously, Internet of Things is going to throw up more data. Surveillance cameras, satellite images, these are stuff that's been around. That's kind of legacy, but now you're going to have a lot more data. So, talk about the dynamics of what that does for infrastructure and applications. And what are some of the state-of-the-art bleeding-edge things that you guys are seeing? Well, we work a lot with the government, defense and intel industry, so they have a lot of unique sensors. A lot of those unique sensors are starting to be used domestically. We've heard a lot about that stuff in the news, but what we provide is a lot of the data access and as those data sets grow in size, the problem for them is that they're really becoming just unwieldy. So, you have terabytes and petabytes worth of this imagery data that you need fast access to small random block reads to, and you need solutions for providing data. So, are you storing the data or are you just providing software to access data, or both? A little bit of both. So, we provide the software that sits on top of, specifically EMC Isilon, and it allows you to basically access the data as a logical container. So, you have a lot of that data that's all containerized into a single layer that's homogeneous, and you can access that very quickly. So, can you talk a little bit about to the extent that you can? Some of the types of applications that folks are building on top of this data, is it mostly just to access the images to view them, or are there also some deeper analytics taking place? Yeah, there's a lot of analytics. On the government side, there's all types of algorithms that they're running on the data. Very simple things from building tracks, from moving objects, building information of what's changed in the environment. It's not only defense and dental, but there's also a lot of natural resources types of applications for it. So, changing of the environment from a city as urban, cities start to grow. So, we're talking about analysis of the images themselves, not necessarily the metadata that's associated with those images, but actually the images themselves. So, we're actually providing up the raster data, specifically the heavy pixels. Talk a little bit about what the challenge involved there. I mean, it could be a goldmine for not just for the Intel community and government, but I could certainly see commercial applications as well. So, what are some of the challenges, though, that you had to overcome to make this data available for analysis? Right, right. So, the large volumes of this data, be it if it's satellite imagery or if it's video data, is the size. I mean, you're talking about terabytes or petabytes of imagery that you're really looking at a very small area of interest in. So, to be able to pull that out, that small area of interest out of such a large dataset is a huge problem. And so, that's really where we focus on. The other thing is all of these algorithms and all of these applications are, need a standard way, an open standards way of accessing that data. So, we provide web services, restful APIs on top of that dataset so that people can access that with whatever tool they're using. What are some of the storage challenges that you guys see? Because, you know, you're on the bleeding edge and this is going to be a use case that's going to be pretty defined for other people. I mean, image is not so much, but big data, well, big heavy could be images, files, whatever. Unstructured data. Unstructured data, loosely structured data, not the rigid, well, you got to ask a lot of questions you don't know yet. So, we like to break things down to known queries and unknown queries. For that time, you need to ask an unknown query. You don't want to have to reset tables and do all kinds of loading the data. So, what are some of the storage challenges that you face and how did you overcome them? So, one of the things that we partner with Icelon on is the scale out capability of their NAS. So, as this dataset grows in size and as the number of users grow and the number of requests, right, queries start to grow, we need to be able to access that data very, very quickly. And so, when you're talking about terabytes to petabytes, the ability to scale and maintain that consistent performance is an issue that we've tried to address. Where are you guys taking the solution, your application and solution, and what are the storage needs here that are around the corner for you guys? Video. I mean, so much more video. I mean, you see not only commercial applications like YouTube and Facebook and others, but on the government side as well, we have unique sensors again that are collecting more and more video. The video's a huge problem. And the video's a huge problem. You indexing that? Yeah, yeah, we do. We're indexing that and we're providing quick access to that to all types of analytical algorithms. The Icelon reps must love you guys. Do more video. They do, they do. Back up the truck. Yeah, exactly. Sign the P.O.'s, man. The video's a hard problem, I mean, how do you tackle that video? I mean, honestly, we're doing, we're live streaming right now to hundreds and hundreds of people. How do you handle that ingestion and how do you do all the indexing? Well, we have a unique container. It's a logical container, like I said. You know, I equate it to kind of a zip file without compression. So we're kind of like this database within a file. So we're able to take all those streams, concatenate them together, piece together all the metadata, and provide kind of a single view to the dataset within that logical container. So you're big data and big storage. Big data means big storage. Exactly, exactly. So lots of times, we'll say we're big data and we're not necessarily in the sense of analytics, but we're in the sense of very large files, right?  Exactly. You're talking about a query, say Google Maps, right? And a query, and you're doing a query of a little area and you're talking about 100 kilobyte view that you're getting back, but you're pulling it from a three or four or five petabyte set of data. Yeah, and it's got to happen like that. And it's got to be a millisecond response, yeah. Wow, that's huge. So I'm curious, so you mentioned analytics. We talked a little bit about some of the analytic capabilities on top. What's your, can you help us understand how kind of what you do, the storing and making images available to the enterprise and to government clients. Where does that fit alongside something, things like what Pivotal's doing with Hadoop and bringing in some of more of the text-based analytics. And I imagine there's got to be some correlation between the images and the text. Definitely. How do the two fit together? So that's a great point. So Pivotal is one of those relationships we're starting to grow. We're trying to provide our customer solutions to bring in together the metadata that's being collected, so which is text, in the Pivotal system and marry that up with the data that we're deriving or that we're storing in PIXIA containers. So that when you build an algorithm, a data scientist goes out there and builds an algorithm, it can take in those various types of data sets. Not only the metadata for the imagery, but the metadata, the text metadata that may be collected for other things that Pivotal's bringing to the table. So we're really trying to provide that kind of integrated solution to some of our customers with Pivotal, yeah. Ken, my final question, do we're getting tight on time here? We've got the end of the day here on day two. Thanks for coming on theCUBE, by the way. We really, really appreciate it. Great application. Go to PIXIA Corp. Is there a website? Yeah, PIXIA.com. PIXIA.com. That's right. Share with the folks out there what you've learned. I mean, you're touching a lot of different things. They're kind of spread a little horizontally. It's not so much vertical per se, but you've got big data problems, you've got software, you've got all kinds of coding, you've also got storage. Share with the folks out there what you've learned and advice that you give to your peers out there about if they had to face the same road that you went down. Great question. Well, really open standards. For us, open standards...  Yeah, exactly. Be ready for the storage bill. Exactly. No, open standards is a big deal to us. Being able to have access to all of that data from a variety of algorithms, GUIs, tools, visualization, platforms. But the data comes in so many different ways in so many different formats. We want to normalize all of that, but we want open standards. So really, restful web services that are open standards, when you build an as-a-service web service, build it with open standards. Okay, well, we really appreciate it, Kent. Thanks for coming inside the CUBE, pick, see a corporation, check them out. Doing some really interesting things with big data and images.  And it's a real world problem and this is part of the new era. This is the CUBE. We'll be right back with our next guest after this short break.


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What's up everybody, Jason here for JaspysCaseBrace.com. We just sold out 2016-17 Panini Spectra, basketball, two box break, two random teams, number two, sorry, one random team, number two each right there So again, 30 total spots that we're gonna get the random team in the NBA This is a early bird break guys, so if you bought one of the first 18 spots on this break You're gonna get entered a winter-free spot. So again, here's a dice roller, here's the customer names So Robert down to Andrew making the top 18, there's the rest of the customer names there So roll Four and a one five times. Good luck. So this will be for the early bird, the customer names and the teams Five times. If we're busy Ryan, I stay after 10 o'clock. If we're not busy, then I'll just leave at 10 So if you guys have the power four and one five times One two three four and five five times four and a one Anastasia, there you go. Congratulations. Five times you are the early bird winner Free spot right there five times now here one two three four and five Jeff down to Taylor five times one two three four Clippers down to the Hawks. Remember this is 1617 guys. So Jamal Murray, Ben Simmons, Brandon Ingram Pretty strong names in this draft class as well All right, so Jeff you have the Clippers, Andrew with the Bulls as well as the T-Wolves I think a Carthony Talons is 1617 or is he 1516? Simon with the Celtics, Taylor with the Bucks, Andrew with the Cavs, Robert with the Hornets, Andrew with the Spurs, Jazz, Pistons, Anastasia 76ers, Gary Goldberg with the Nuggets, Andrew with the Thunder, Jeff, you have the Pelicans, Robert Polson with the Nets, Andrew with the Pacers, Raptors and Lakers Remember there's potential chances at Kobe Bryant's in here too, I believe Ribb with the Knicks, Robert with the Grizzlies, Gabe with the Suns, Andrew with the Wars, Brett with the Mavericks, Andrew with the Magic, Robert with the Kings, Anastasia your Free Spots Wizards, Jeff with the Blazers, Gabe with the Rockets, Andrew Webb with the Heat, and Taylor with the Hawks Alrighty, so if anybody wants to trade, I'll give you guys a quick trade window I don't know what's going on bro, getting better man, getting better Alright guys, I don't think anybody wants to trade right? Yeah man Mom's been home for the last two weeks, getting better each day Just a process but yeah man, so I think Joe X these somewhere, what do you X man? There you go, put two X's on, I'm letting you know if in the same case 16-17 Spectra, there you go, let's do it guys, let's do it Thank you man, you too brother, it's your day off today right? You go Sunday, Mondays? So one thing I didn't like about Spectra back in the day is this, these cards sometimes just can have like ding corners and stuff just because of the way they are put in this box and the way they could potentially come out, that was just the one downside I think usually there's a base at the bottom, so we got Jeff Teague, nice man Did it snow up there with you? I know they closed the grapevine Westbrook, and Spectra definitely has one of the better looking base cards That's Thunder right there, Traybon Green, 39 out of 60 We have Emanuel Moudier for the nuggets, oh what is this? Wade Baldwin the fourth, Spectacular Swatches, that is a gold seven out of ten for the Memphis Grizzlies, Grizzlies winner Robert, D. Little Catalyst to affect the top lover, Spectacular Swatches Jalio Okafor, we have a Global Icons JJ Berea for the Dallas Mavericks, we have a Cave Elder locked in for the Cavs, Cavaliers number to 99, oh yeah I forgot this next one it actually was 1617 Rookie as well, a little RPA Pelicans edition of Buddy Heald, Pelicans, it's going to Andrew, or sorry no, Pelicans Jeff, sorry, 22 out of 99, yeah Pelicans Jeff click, all righty there you go, one box down, one more box to go, Mike Hanley, oh definitely running a rally on a Mac in the base but we're done like four left oh that's his foot, Reggie Jackson but dude his foot looks like this card is messed up but it's his foot, Pistons edition, Randy Foy for the Nets out of 60, we have Eric Bloodsill, Spectacular Swatches for Phoenix out of 149, we have Jalio Okafor out of 99, Tyler Ellis nice patch right there, next arrow 24 to 25 for the Suns and we have a Malik Beasley for the Denver Nuggets, little Jersey Auto Rookie out of 300, we have Global Icons, Jonas Voluntunis, Toronto Raptors that's going to Andrew, two more to go guys, we have a Kay Felder for the Cavs to 300 Cleveland Cavaliers that it's going to Andrew and last one here guys is a Rising Stars Patch Auto for the Warriors, Patrick McCall, seven out of 25 Golden State Warriors going to Andrew so nothing crazy crazy out of these two boxes, I believe we have two more so that should be our last break which should be number three, I'll double check before I go put it up again, there you go guys with two box random teams right there, we got some base cards as well, so appreciate it guys, Jaspyscasebreaks.com


Welcome to Construction of the Cell Membrane. In this video, you'll learn the makeup and the basics of cell membrane function by examining the molecular structure of the cell membrane. It's a critical step to learning about the fundamental unit of life, the cell. The membrane's main job is to protect the cell from its surroundings. It separates the cell's interior from the outside environment and helps it keep its shape. The membrane is selectively permeable, which means it allows certain organic molecules to pass into and out of the interior. The cell membrane is mainly composed of lipids and proteins. Its framework consists of a double layer of phospholipids. Lipids make up 50% of most membranes, although depending on the location, they may make up up to 80%. The remainder is made from proteins. Lipids make the membrane flexible, and the proteins help transfer molecules across the membrane. There are two major types of proteins, tightly coiled, rod-shaped fibrous proteins, which help give the cell support and shape. And the more compact, globular-shaped, integral proteins and peripheral proteins, these help cells communicate and transport molecules. Examples include glycoprotein, porprotein, and channel protein. Because the cell membrane is mostly lipid, it only allows lipid-soluble substances like oxygen, carbon dioxide, and steroids to pass through water-soluble substances such as glucose, amino acids, ions, and water need the help of the various proteins in order to move across the membrane. Two layers of phospholipid molecules self-assemble so that their water-soluble, or hydrophilic, heads form the surface and interior of the membrane, and the water-insoluble, or hydrophobic, tails face each other. The fibrous proteins may span the entire membrane and serve as receptors for the cell. They communicate with the external environment using hormones and neurotransmitters. One type of globular protein forms pores to allow lipid-insoluble water molecules to pass through. Other integral proteins serve as channels and selectively support ions, including nutrients such as sugars or amino acids. Channel proteins are usually quite specific, so each one specializes in transporting a single substance or group of similar chemical substances. Globular proteins are peripheral, meaning they're associated with the surface of the cell. These include enzymes or glycoproteins. These proteins have carbohydrate associations that identify the cell. Cholesterol molecules are embedded in animal cell membranes, but not in plant cell membranes. They're found dispersed through the cell membrane and help strengthen the membrane wall. In addition, they, along with phospholipids, help make the membrane impermeable to water-soluble substances. Cell membranes are integral to cell health. With their combination of lipids, proteins, and cholesterol, they are able to complete a complex variety of tasks essential to life. Cell membranes keep the outside out and the inside in. You've completed construction of the cell membrane.