Okay, Shavavim. Okay, 12. This is my last video, so I'm going to tie loose ends pertaining to the previous 620 videos. I'm going to start with the most burning question, the question that weighs on your mind as your relationships disintegrate, your children are involved in enmeshed and immersed in custody battles, you are impoverished, there is a pandemic, Donald Trump is no longer president, all this is swirling around the world, but none of this seems to bother you. There's only one question, one question that torments you in nightmares and in waking hours. Is glass really liquid? As I had said in my previous video, I have received umpteen emails and comments, most of them from people who find it extremely challenging to spell, but were sufficiently knowledgeable about solid state physics to inform me that I'm wrong and glass is not liquid. Well, if you want to get technical with me, glass has two phases, a super cooled liquid and then through the glass transition temperature, it becomes what we call an amorphous solid. An amorphous solid is actually a liquid. I'm sorry to inform you. I advise you to go online and type if you are capable of typing the keywords, glass liquid scientific, sorry, big word, American, that I'm sure you know how to spell, glass liquid scientific American. Okay, did we dispense with this earth shattering pivotal question? I really, really hope so, because to remind you, these videos are not about liquid glass or not even about solid glass. These videos, ladies and gentlemen, babies in bebets, these videos, kiddos, are about narcissism. So let's get straight to the point. I want to read to you the narcissist universal transaction rules. These rules pertain to all the narcissist relationships, romantic relationships, parental, parenting relationships, in business, in the workplace, in politics, you name it. Wherever there's a narcissist, he adheres or she adheres to these four very simple rules. Once you have this key, once you have this key, you can decode, decrypt and decipher the narcissist in your life if you're that unlucky. Rule number one. So these are the narcissists universal transaction rules. Rule number one, as long as you regularly provide me with at least two out of three s's, sex, sadistic or narcissistic, supply, services, money, power. So sex, supply, services. Services could mean money, could mean power, access, contacts, you name it, services. As long as you provide me with two out of these three, for example, sex and services, supply and services, supply and sex as long as, you know, two out of three. I am your unboundary, slavish, dormant and you can walk all over me and otherwise misbehave as you please. Rule number two, give me only one out of the three s's, give me none of the three s's and I will sadistically abuse you. I will test you to the breaking point. I will punish you for failing to gratify me and my needs. Rule number three, threaten to abandon me or attempt to abandon me and I will either hover you or failing that I will stalk you on condition that you did not modify me. Rule number four, try to bargain with me, try to change me, fix me, try to set rules and boundaries, try to insist on long term commitment on my part or some kind of investment and I'm gone. I'm gone long before you can finish the sentence. I'm gone as soon as I can find someone to take your place, which you may find harrowing to discover is more easy than you think. You're all interchangeable, replaceable, dispensable. Bear that in mind. Okay. Here's a comment on Instagram by Gummy Sprinkles. Sorry about that. The comment is, dear Sam, the message in this video made me want to reread Lolita. After you read the letter the woman had sent in her narcissist husband being at heart, a little girl. It provoked me to think that perhaps Lolita, the little girl that the narrator drew into a relationship within the novel, might be his inner child, his inner little girl. Or at least she was able to reach his inner child in a trauma in a way that made it irresistible for him to become involved with her. It seemed that her irresistibility to him was attributable to a healing quality that she had on him. He had a very wounded psyche. The little girl for her part had been deprived of a father after he died while she was a young child. It seems that both the narrator and the little girl Lolita might have been projecting onto each other, onto one another, sorry, during their sexual relationship.  It seems that Nabokov could have been exploring many different potential scenarios. There was homoeroticism woven into the story from start to finish. Finally, it seems he may have also been exploring in a trauma that, though the narrator describes attributable to his first love, a young girl, might have actually been his mother. In any case, I just wanted to share my thoughts with you. Do you like the novel Lolita? I hope you read it. I hope you read it. If not, I apologize. Thanks so much for your provocative videos. Nabokov. The book is, or the novel is, Lolita. The one and only. An amazing, amazing, amazing novel. Let me enlarge the font a bit, because I'm so advanced in age that I can hardly see the computer. Alright, much better, much better babes and pepettes, guys and gayets. Now I can continue to talk about you with full impunity and with a much larger font. Okay, let's talk a bit about rejection. I told you this movie is about loose ends. So it's a kind of a smuggler's board. It's a buffet or whatever you want to call it. So right now, another issue is rejection in the way women, the way people actually men and women react to rejection. Women end to a lesser degree men who are cruelly rejected by their loved ones and intimate partners, sometimes go through two phases. Phase number one, acting out. Phase number two, sublimation. Phase two, amazingly, follows phase one. The first phase involves reckless and self-destructive self-trashing, punishing oneself for one's failure to hold on to one's relationship or marriage. For example, women rejected by men they love often consort with low life scum. The temporary boost to their self-esteem and the gratification of both sexual and emotional needs typically come replete with a very high price tag. Rape is common and so are sexually transmitted diseases. Promiscuity and dissolution are followed by almost schizoid withdrawal. So first, the rejected party becomes promiscuous, dissolute, reckless, loses control over herself and her conduct.  Religion, children, career, activism, food, hobbies, I don't know what.   In this second phase, celibacy is coupled with growing addictive and self-soothing behaviors. Many remain stuck in this limbo, in this second phase, for life, unable and unwilling to risk a repeat of the harrowing cycle in a new liaison. Okay, I want to alert you to a new episode in the BBC Podcast, Witness History Podcast. The BBC has a Witness History Podcast, Google, and they just released a new episode. And it's about, believe it or not, the good enough mother, something I've been discussing in my last few videos. I'll propose this before we proceed. Many of you have written to me, why don't you make videos about narcissistic parents, narcissistic, co-parenting with the narcissists? Why don't you search a channel? There are, hold your breath, 82 videos, including 12 videos in the past six months, which deal with parenting, dead mothers, the role of the father, co-parenting. I think I have a co-parenting video with Richard Grana. I mean, there's a wealth of information about narcissistic parenting and co-parenting. 82 videos, do you need, do you really need an 83rd one? Guys, go to the upper part of their page on your screen. Look if you're capable of reading and find the word, the word about. Next to the word about, there's a magnifying glass, this long, obscure, forgotten object. Click on this magnifying glass and low and behold, a search box will open. Type the word you're looking for, example, parenting, mother, father, co-parenting. Type it, just type it, you do it with a finger if you don't know how to do it. Type the word in this open search dialogue box and YouTube will help you to find these 82 aforementioned videos. And you will not be asking me questions that waste my time unnecessarily. Good, I'm glad we agree. Back to the BBC Witness History podcast, the latest episode, The Good Enough Mother. Here's what they say, psychoanalyst and pediatrician, actually reverse order. He was a pediatrician, much, much later he became a psychoanalyst. Donald Winnicott helped shape childcare in Britain and throughout the world, mind you, through a series of BBC radio broadcasts in the 1940s and 1950s, but you didn't know that. He suggested mothers did best when they followed their instincts, got to know their babies and ignored prescribed rules, the same message as the famous Benjamin Spock, Dr. Spock. Winnicott became most famous for developing the idea of what he called the good enough mother. He also introduced the term transitional object to describe the favorite teddy bear that babies cling to. He suggested that the teddy bear represented an important phase of development, helping babies develop a sense of self, separate from their mothers. The teddy bear also represents other people, so it helps to develop object relations. Claire Bowes has been speaking to retired psychoanalyst Jennifer Jones, who knew David Winnicott personally. Absolute must listen to this podcast episode. Okay, I want to read a poem. No, no, don't get alarmed, don't leave, come back, come back, it's not my poem. It's not a poem I wrote. For a minute there I thought I'd lost all of you.   Torturing is fun, you should try it once. The poem is The Valuable Time of Maturity by Mario de Andrade, a Brazilian of course. And it is courtesy, I mean, Lydia, my wife drew my attention to it. So here's the poem, The Valuable Time of Maturity. I counted my years and discovered that I have less time to live going forward than I have lived until now. I have more past than future. I feel like the boy who received a bowl of candies. The first ones he ate, ungracious. But when he realized that there were only a few left, he began to taste them deeply. I do not have time to deal with mediocrity. I do not want to be in meetings where forade inflamed egos. I'm bothered by the envious, who seek to discredit the most able to usurp their places, coveting the seats, talent, achievements and luck. I do not have time for endless conversations, useless to discuss about the lives of others who are not part of mine. I do not have time to manage sensitivities of people who, despite their chronological age, are immature. I cannot stand the result that generates from those struggling for power. People do not discuss content, only the labels. My time has become scarce to discuss labels. I want the essence. My soul is in a hurry. Not many candies are left in the bowl. I want to live close to human people, very human, who laugh of their own stumbles. And away from those turned smug and overconfident with their triumphs. Away from those filled with self-importance, who does not run away from their responsibilities. People who defend human dignity and who only want to walk on the side of truth and honesty. The essential is what makes life worthwhile. I want to surround myself with people who know how to touch the hearts of people. People to whom the hard knocks of life taught them to grow with softness in their soul. Yes, I am in a hurry to live with intensity that only maturity can bring. I intend not to waste any part of the goodies I have left. I am sure there will be more exquisite, the more of which so far I have eaten. My goal is to arrive to the end satisfied and in peace with my loved ones and with my conscience. I hope that your goal is the same because either way you will get there too. Mario de Andrade, wonderful. Okay, let's talk a bit about gold diggers. And I want to give you a perspective of someone who looks at the narcissist from a gold digger's point of view. She is not a gold digger, but she had put herself in the shoes of a gold digger. How would a gold digger look at a narcissist, at a potential sugar daddy? A gold digger to remind you is a partner, male or female, more commonly female, but could be a male, a gigolo for example. So a partner who aims to extort money and monetary benefits from a vulnerable old man, intimate partner and so on. Leveraging inadequacies and flaws in the other person. So a gold digger is a really harsh label. And this is how this woman tried to put herself in a gold digger's shoes and look at the narcissist, in this case, me. Dr. Vaknin, if I was looking for a sugar daddy, you would be the top of my list. Why? Because if you regard your only option to be partaking in a doomed relationship, regardless of whomever it's with, all I'd have to do is bide my time and wait for an opening. It wouldn't matter if it was me who was with you, or any other woman, since according to you, it will play out the same way regardless. So I would be interchangeable, but this interchangeability would give me the upper hand. Being interchangeable should be a source of insecurity, but it wouldn't be with you. You would be more motivated to sustain the relationship than I would, because there aren't any better options for you according to you. As long as I don't so-called abandon you, this relationship would persist. What would that mean for me? I would get two walls into your life. I would get to set all the turns. I'd use you for a place to stay, and as a meal ticket, and then I would go on living some kind of parallel life with you, with other men. You would get to feel bad about yourself all the time if you're prone to doing so. And maybe I could even play the victim if you resent me for the way I behave. And if you need me to tell you who you are, you might even believe me. Even though I'd be having my cake and eating it too, while you sit there hoping things would work out this time. So please, consider whether this belief is what's best for you, or what's best for whoever is exploiting you. And so, there are many, many studies of gold diggers, and I refer you especially to psychology today. Psychology today is a prominent journal of psychology. It's not precisely academic, it's more popular, but it's really, really good level. And I refer, for example, to an article published in August 2019, why many young women may prefer older men. The assumption that every young woman who is attracted to an older man is attracted to him because of his money, or position, or status.  That assumption seems to pertain to a tiny sliver, minority. The vast majority of women who are attracted to older men are really, really attracted. They are attracted, and they're attracted because in most cases, because they are highly insecure, highly codependent, and possibly all of them have daddy issues, they have issues with father figures.  They cherish and value what older men have to offer, and that's not an advertisement. That's a fact of psychological research. Numerous psychological studies have demonstrated conclusively that there is a group, not a big one, but there is a group of young and even very young women who find older men severely attracted, irresistibly attracted. Is this healthy? Honestly, I doubt it. I think it's a pathology. But there is, this pathology exists, it's undeniable. There is, of course, a group of gold diggers. Like every vocation and every avocation, there are psychopaths who infiltrate the field and leverage the attributes of the field in their favor, their goal or it. So gold diggers leverage romantic relationships and emotions in their favor to obtain gold. They dig for gold, but this is not the general rule. Absolutely not. Psychology does not support the belief that this is the majority of the cases. I would even go further. Gold digging is a form of faking. And first of all, there's the open question. People are attracted to each other because of how they look, but looks fade. People are attracted to each other because of intelligence, but you could develop dementia. Everything passes. Everything is transitory. And the fact that someone had made money is a prime indicator of his character, his ability to persevere, his commitment, his investment, his intelligence, his wits, his cunning. Money is a proxy. Money is like a psychological test. When you're attracted to someone with money, there's nothing wrong with it.  Nothing wrong with that. I see no distinction between no difference between being attracted to someone because of his money, being attracted to someone because of his mind, being attracted to someone because of his academic authority, or being attracted to someone because he looks good, anybody builds. I see no rigorous philosophical or ethical distinction between these points of attraction. But there's still this perception, possibly this perception, that there is faking involved. The gold digger fakes it. And I'm mentioning gold digging in this video because gold diggers tend to team up with narcissists, especially somatic narcissists, and tend to abuse and exploit narcissists, not psychopaths, by the way. Psychopaths see through them. Psychopaths are themselves gold diggers. They're gold oriented. So gold diggers avoid shun psychopaths, but they target definitely gullible narcissists. And narcissists are very easy to manipulate, give them supply, sex, services, we mentioned this. And they're yours. They're yours. They're dormants. You can do anything you want. And there's a lot of faking. But here's what I think. Faking, faking is a form of virtual signaling. Faking requires sustained efforts, commitment and investment in the relationship, however full it may be. Moreover, faking is predictable behavior. It conforms to social norms of conduct and mores. It is communal. It is prosocial. We fake, we tell white lies, for example. We pretend because it greases the wheels of society and commerce. If we were totally honest with each other all the time, we would be at each other's throats within the hour. If you're aware of what's happening, you can even enjoy the ardent courtship. The attention, the saccour, the time together with the faker, you get to decide on when and where to grant the thespian desperado his most fervent wishes. The flip side is true as well.  That's who I am. Take it or leave it.  They are sadists. Or they are at the minimum, rabid misanthropes, haters of humanity. There are bad news in any case.   You are beneath faking even. I mean, give me a break. To fake for your sake? No way. Refusing to partake in the social game of hide and seek is a form of grandiose fortiness and a resounding slack in the collective or individual face and in your face as well.  Money, no money.  Even your money.  You're not worthy of faking.  As an interlude I would like to read to you a fragment from Robert Audrey's book African Genesis. We were born of risen apes, not fallen angels. And the apes were armed killers besides. And so what shall we wonder it? Murderers and massacres and missiles and irreconcilable regiments? Or should we wonder at our treaties, whatever they may be worth? Our symphonies, however seldom they may be played. Our peaceful acres, however frequently they may be converted into battlefields. Our dreams, however rarely they may be accomplished. The miracle of man is not how far he has sunk but how magnificently he has risen. So it is rational to prefer to be with someone who feigns empathy and caring, fakes attentiveness and interest in you, pretends to have no ulterior motives, goals or an agenda. Even when you know for fact that the other party is attempting to manipulate you in order to secure sex for the night, gain access to your money, pick your brain or leverage your skills or power. It is irrational to turn them down just because they are acting the part. Loneliness is a pernicious toxin with a high price tag, far greater than any alternatives. Anyhow, that's my unusual take on the issue. I received a thought-provoking comment, or was it an email? I think it's an email. Hi Sam, some indescribable emoji. Love your work. If a narcissist makes his mate his mother, then could it be said that he creates siblings instead of children with her? What an amazing thought. If the narcissist's romantic partner is his mother, then the children he makes with his romantic partner are not his children. They are his siblings. Jamie continues. Does he create playmates as a cruel older brother, giving him the freedom to feel no responsibility in raising them? Instead, they drive to compete with him, so he's like the older brother, and he's creating playmates. And these are his siblings, so he has no responsibility to raise them. On the contrary, he competes with them. Sibling rivalry. Jamie continues. If so, would the way he embarrasses and degrades his children be experienced as mere sibling rivalry within the narcissist instead of abusive acts of a parent? Way to go. Fascinating thoughts. I want to talk a little about ego. Every self-styled expert online. And listen, let's get it, let's get it correct once and for all. No real expert is online. Real experts on narcissism. I don't know, the likes of Twinge, of Campbell, of Lachkar, of Akhtar, and there are many other names. The real experts? They're not online. They're not on YouTube. The ones on YouTube are not experts. They claim to be experts. They use the title Doctor. Sometimes very misleadingly. Sometimes they even fake it. But they are not experts. Whichever way you look at it. There are no experts online.  So all of them, and in this I found no exception. All of them use the word ego completely wrongly. They confuse ego with selfishness or something like that.  It's part of the tripartite model of Sigmund Freud. Nature arranges itself in ecosystems. Humans have an ego system. Like ecosystem? Ego system. At least according to Freud. The word ego is egregiously misused by almost all so called coaches and self-styled experts online. Let's talk a bit about the ego. The ego is of course an abstraction. It's not a real thing.  It's not hardware. It's a way to describe things. It's a model. It's a concept. So the ego is a group of functions. It's another name for a group of functions. The ego remembers, evaluates, plans, responds to the world and acts in the world and on the world. It is a locus of the executive functions, the personality. The ego integrates the inner world with the outer world with reality. With the ego, it also integrates the id with the superego. Now the id is kind of the seat of all the primordial drives, hungers, like sex. And the superego is your conscience. These are the voices, the introjects of meaningful others who tell you what's wrong and what's right. It's through the process of socialization. Your conscience, essentially. We are inner critic. So the ego has another role to mediate between the id. The id is a savage.  He's a savage. The superego is the one who chastises you and criticizes you and humiliates you if he's sadistic. He tells you he did wrong. He was wrong of you to have done this. The ego tries to survive somehow in the middle. Also he mediates between all the internal structures, internal objects, introjects and so on, and reality. Ego is a very busy body. And narcissists don't have an ego. That's why they are absolutely compulsive about obtaining narcissistic supply. They use narcissistic supply to construct an ego on the fly all the time. Their ego is kaleidoscopic because it is composed of numerous voices from the outside. So the ego acts under what Freud called the reality principle rather than the pleasure principle. And this means that the ego is in charge of delaying gratification. It postpones pleasurable acts until they can be carried out both safely and successfully. It contributes to self-efficaciousness. It is an integral part of one's agency. The ego, therefore, is in a very ungrateful position. Unfulfilled desires, urges, drives, they produce unease. They produce anxiety, frustration, right meaning. But reckless fulfillment of desires, urges and drives is diametrically opposed to self-reservation. You do whatever you want. You'll end up in jail. You'll end up dead. You have to put limits to your behavior. You can't be impulsive. You can't be defined. You can't have reactance. This is for psychopaths, the psychopaths, and badly. The ego has to mediate these tensions. In an effort to thwart anxiety, to reduce it, to ameliorate it, the ego invents psychological defense mechanisms. On the one hand, the ego channels fundamental drives like sex. It has to speak the language of these drives. It must have a primitive, infantile component. On the other hand, the ego is in charge of negotiating with the outside world with reality to maintain reality testing. It is in charge of security, a realistic and optimal bargain for the client. You. Your ego is your chief negotiator, or shall I say hostage negotiator. He is negotiating with reality to kind of optimize your outcomes, your favorable outcomes. And he is also doing this on behalf of the id. The id is implacable, will not be turned down. The id insists on having sex, on eating, on breathing. The id is an animal, savage. No rules, no boundaries, no nothing. No society, no socialization, no mores, no norms. No rules, no laws, no values, nothing. It's the ego who has to kind of keep this savage at bay by throwing him a piece of meat from time to time. Some of these pieces of meat are you. These intellectual and perceptual functions supervised by the exceptionally strict court of the superego. So people with a strong ego can objectively comprehend both the world and themselves. And that's why narcissists actually do not have an ego. They have total, they totally fail reality testing. They have extremely severe cognitive deficits and they have no access to the vast majority of their emotions. They are exactly the opposite of someone with a strong ego. In other words, people with a strong ego are possessed of insight. Insight into themselves, insight into their place in the world and insight into what they can do and accomplish and achieve in the world without endangering themselves. They're able to contemplate longer time spans. They're able to plan, to focus, to schedule. These are all ego functions. They choose decisively among alternatives and they follow their resolve. These kind of people are aware of the existence of their drives but they control these drives. They channel them in socially acceptable ways. This is called sublimation. These people resist pressures, social or otherwise. They choose their course and they pursue it. But this course is always self-beneficial. It's always, always realistic. Always in full awareness of one's limitations, one's strengths. And narcissists doesn't have any of this. The weaker the ego is, the more infantile and impulsive the owner, the more distorted his or her perception of self and reality. A weak ego is incapable of productive work. Sounds familiar? Yeah, narcissists. But what's happening to us? All of us. Aren't we all becoming more and more narcissistic? As I've been saying for well over two decades now. I want to read to you a transcript from a recent PPS report. Paul Solman reports on Putnam's new book, The Upswing. This book was co-authored with Shailene Romney Garrett, The Upswing. So it's a transcript of an interview. Shailene says, I will never forget the moment when we were, when we were sitting at the dinner table with Bob, Bob Putnam and Rosemary, his wife. And Bob starts telling me about these obscure data sets that he has been in tinkering with on Google. These data sets are called Engram data. Robert Putnam says, the Engram program can tell you how often a given word has appeared in any book published in any year. Paul Solman says, So Putnam typed in the words I and we. Putnam went to Google's Engram, which is essentially a frequency engine, frequency generator. And he typed I and he typed we. Robert Putnam says, it was exactly the same curve as all these other curves we've been studying, Solman. The data punchline is that in the late 19th century, it was I, I, I. It then became more we, we, we until the 1960s. And then in all the literature that's assembled, it becomes more and more I, I, I again. So until the end of the 90th century, we've had a rise in gender pronoun density of the words I, my, myself, mine. It was a very narcissistic grandiose age. Then we were humbled by the Spanish flu, a global pandemic which dwarfs COVID-19.  We were humbled, discovered how deficient we are as a species. And starting in the 1960s, up until the 1960s, these first six decades, we started to be much more pro-social and communal and the language changed. We were using we, we, we much more than I, I, I. And then in the 1960s, with the sexual revolution, with the youth revolution, we started to be again I, I, I oriented. We, our narcissism is growing. Twentyn Campbell discovered a long time ago that narcissism has never been higher. It's, I mean, the 90th century is child's play compared to today. Social media is helping, but social media is a manifestation of the underlying tsunami of narcissism. It didn't create it. Okay, pardon. Says, yes, it didn't hope it would happen overnight, of course. It's a gradual trend. Shailene, you see a real shift, not just away from using the first person pronoun to the we pronoun, but in asking Americans to rethink what this nation is really about in terms of our core values. She's talking about the first six decades of the 20th century. And we saw a shift away from the social Darwinism, that sort of dog-eat-dog mindset of the time, into what historians call the social gospel, which was a movement that tried to get us to think more about what we owe each other, what responsibilities do we have to each other in a society, rather than simply the idea that a society is one giant competition. And she's, of course, referring to the New Deal during the Depression, to the Great Society, LBJ, Johnson, et cetera, et cetera. Salman says, that's where we are today. Society is a giant competition. Putnam, we're even more polarized now. I'm talking about the data, even more polarized now than during the Civil War. Salman, the purpose of Putnam and Romney's book to depolarize, spur a new upswing to bring us back together. Shailene, sometimes we look at the political polarization today and say, oh well, that was nice that they did that back then, but we can never do that today, because nobody can agree on anything. Well, the lesson of this book is, we have been in that exact same place before. And this group of determined reformers managed to pull us up out of it by immigrant activism, by worker activism, by mock rakers.  Okay, so we live in a narcissistic age and people are faking it. They're focusing on themselves and they're faking it. We're coming full circle back to the issue of gold diggers. You see, the demonization of narcissists, which I am the father of, I started it in 1995. I was the first to write about narcissism online and for nine years I've been the only one. Only one, there was no one else. You must understand this, it was the only voice. And of course I defined the agenda and I'm the one who demonized narcissists. First, probably an act of self-hatred. But the demonization of narcissists led to the point that you feel comfortable to behave with narcissists the way you would never behave with anyone else. You feel comfortable to tell narcissists everything they want to hear. In other words, to lie to them. You feel comfortable to egg on and foster and engender their fantasies and their grandiosity to manipulate them. You feel comfortable to take advantage of their gallability. You have no qualms, no problems whatsoever to abuse narcissists. You say to yourself, they deserve a taste of their own medicine.  You say to yourself, he doesn't mind, he doesn't care. I can do anything I want. He's a narcissist in any case. He has no human rights because he's not human. This degrades you, not a narcissist. This kind of behavior reduces and impacts your humanity. You're becoming less human. The more you treat others, including narcissists, inhumanly, the more inhuman you become, the more narcissistic.  Don't you understand that? You're playing into their hands. You're playing their game. When you cheat on them, when you betray them, when you hurt them, when you argue with them, when you manipulate them, when you lie to them, you're playing into their hands. They're winning. One topic I've seriously neglected in my videos, Mayor Kulpa, is emotional reasoning. There is a video I've made lately where I explained that the distinction between emotions and cognitions is a very old one and no longer accepted in psychology, the way in which they think that emotions are a subspecies of cognition. Emotional reasoning is a very interesting concept. It's a cognitive deficit in effect. It's a disrupted cognitive process. It's a fallacy, a logical fallacy. Proctor Vok, it's to say, if I'm feeling this way, it proves that something is true. My emotions tell me everything I need to know about reality. If I'm feeling jealous, it means my partner is cheating. Never mind if he's a quadriplegic and doesn't move from his bed, he's still cheating. Why? Because I'm feeling jealous. When emotions become judgment, when emotions become the bedrock of opinions, when emotions substitute for reality testing, when all the empirical evidence is contrary and yet you trust your emotions rather than the empirical evidence. That's not the same like trusting your gut reaction. It's not the same like trusting your intuition because gut reaction and intuition are not emotional. They are cognitive. They are fast, ultra-fast reasoning processes. I'm talking now about emotions, envy, hatred, jealousy, love, positive emotions as well. Oh, I feel good with him. He must be a good person. I feel jealous. He must be cheating on me. I feel angry. He mistreated me. He abused me. Why? He didn't do anything. Yeah, but I feel bad. He caused me. He made me feel bad. So it's when you go from emotions to reality rather than from reality to emotions. This is emotional reasoning. It creates kind of emotional truth. And of course emotional truth very often is in direct conflict with real truth, with reality. And it's also in conflict with your perceptions, what is called perceptional truth. And so it's dissonant. It's dissonant. Emotional reasoning leads to dissonance because you have to reconcile conflicting bits of information. You have your emotions, which is a bit of information. You have information from reality. You have perceptions. You have to put them all together. Within narrative that is self consistent, has internal consistency. The parts fit each other. And has external consistency. The narrative must fit reality and be able to predict it like a scientific theory. So this dissonance creates feelings of anxiety, fear, apprehension, even panic, stressful situations. And anxiety disorders often founded on emotional reasoning. So emotional reasoning is very, very common in people with personality disorders, especially cluster B, because they are incapable. They don't have access to reality. Their access to reality is not direct. It's indirect. It's mediated. The narcissist's access to reality is via other people. The borderline's access to reality is via her emotions. She is the queen of emotional reasoning, consequently. She is also a drama queen. So emotional reasoning substitutes for an inability to extract or extricate information, proper, vetted, reasoned information, data actually. In partial, unemotional data, big data, like computers do. When you can't do this, you rely on your emotions because you have nothing left, nothing better. Okay, some people ask me, why some narcissists are successful and accomplished? Some are not. Why do some narcissists rise to the top, become pillars of the community? They are, you know, while others, they have identical personality cast, maybe even identical history, and they fail miserably in every single thing they attempt, in every dimension of their thought and lives, in every relationship. Why some narcissists make it and some narcissists break it? Well, any combination of two or three things distinguish the high-functioning productive narcissists from his loser brother. Number one, the successful narcissist is unusually gifted and doubt-skilled or talented to the point that his unique contributions are indispensable or irreplaceable. Think Einstein, think Mozart, think Beethoven. His character flaws are attributed to his genius, quirky genius, mad genius. You know? He's not a bad person, he's just genius. Number two, the successful narcissist tolerates people, tolerates them. He hates their guts, he holds them in contempt, he's the world's number one misanthroid, but he hides it, he fakes. He fakes. The successful narcissist fakes, feigns, pretends, play acts. The loser, the failure, the defeated, the collapsed narcissist doesn't deign to do this, is above this, is above it all. His grandiosity is so, so toxic, all pervasive, ubiquitous that he doesn't even allow him to make the minimal efforts needed to participate in social interactions. So, the successful high-functioning productive narcissist tolerates people, interacts with people. Even if these people are only passive acolytes, fans, admirers, he somehow succeeds to collaborate with other people, to lead other people, and even to inspire loyalty. He fakes normalcy and empathy, and he hides his cynical and misanthropic contempt of other people, or his strictly self-interested agenda. Important difference. Number three, the successful narcissist is persistent, goal-oriented, focused, one-track minded, committed, invested, and hard worker. He is as self-destructive as any narcissistic slacker, but first he builds, and then he demolishes. First he builds. The failure narcissists, the collapse narcissists, never succeed even to build anything. He just daydreams. He's in a park or something. He remains stuck in the shared fantasy. There's no bridge, no drawbridge, between the castle of his fantasy, the Disney world castle. Remember the Disney 1960s, the Disney castle, and reality. Miguel de Unamono was an author, I think he died in the 30s, and he said, we can choose happiness and turn away from suffering, or we can choose suffering and love. Only suffering allows us to love other suffering human beings. Walter Benjamin said, the only way to know a person is to love them hopelessly. These two maxims are wasted on the collapse narcissists. The collapse narcissists refuses to suffer. He thinks he has a right to go through life without suffering, investment, commitment, nuisance, demands, chores, and responsibilities. Successful narcissists, productive narcissists, agrees to suffer, agrees to sacrifice, accepts as a quid pro quo that there's a price to cost, there's a price and cost to reward ratio. He realizes it's a give and take, and so he chooses suffering and love, love from the universe, love by intimate partners, the form of making money, or being successful, or becoming well-known. These are all forms of love. The world loves you back when you invest, when you commit, when you're present. The world loves you back when you stand aloof, when you're detached, when you're haughty, with a nose in the sky.   Ask me. Herbert Rosenfeld was a psychologist, and he played the leading part in the work of followers in Melanie Klein. He was actually the first to describe the destructive aspects of narcissism. As far as Rosenfeld was concerned, he wrote, destructive narcissism is directed against the libidinal ties or bonds of the self to the object. Rosenfeld placed the emphasis on relationships. He said, destructive narcissism is not a self-contained phenomena. It's not like the narcissist self-combusts or self-immolates or disappears in a puff of smoke. No. He said, let me read to you again. Destructive narcissism is directed against the libidinal ties or bonds of the self to other people, to the object. The concept that Rosenfeld came up with is narcissistic, omnipotent, object relations. Rosenfeld didn't think that narcissism was mostly an internal process. He thought it was a failure in relationships. It's state of mind dominated by internal objects rather than external objects. It's when the ego, according to Rosenfeld, merges with, for example, what I call the shared fantasy and Sigmund Freud used to call the ego ideal.  Kernberg, Otto Kernberg, borrowed these concepts from Rosenfeld. It was Kernberg who first came with the notion of a grandiose self. Kernberg took us away, all of us, because we're all his children, intellectual children, but he took us all of us away from Rosenfeld's relational emphasis. And he took us away into the mind of the narcissists. It's a lot more solipsistic, a lot more cartesian, the cart. Like, let's study the mind. As though the mind is in a vat or in an aquarium, isolated from the environment, we kind of studied scientifically just by observing. It's nonsense. The narcissist is embedded.  Sometimes I go years without seeing a human face. And yet I am impacted, of course. And it would be useless to try to describe the narcissist's mind without the narcissist's abysmal failure in relating to other people. In general, Kernberg's misstep is a part of a larger grandiose phenomenon. Psychologists pre-assume a universal human nature. It's a part of an attempt to scientific psychology, to make it the equivalent of physics. Like, there is a universal human nature, exactly like there's a theory of everything in physics. And if we discover this universal human nature, we can measure it, we can test it. It's like an object, you know?  Unmitigated nonsense, on philosophical grounds. I mean, I can go now into a harangue, tirade of, or a diatribe of two hours, well-substantiated diatribe. Philosophically, it's impossible. This assumption that there's a universal human nature is a philosophical logical fallacy. It's wrong. Now, there is affinity between humans and computers. I mentioned it in my interview with Guy. They're both universal Turing machines. Turing's universal machines. And so what we did, we took computers and we used them as metaphors. So we don't need to study humans. We study computers deeply enough. We will gain insights about humans. Again, it's a fallacy. It's a fallacy on so many levels, I don't know where to start. It's anti-scientific. We never do this in science. We never study one entity with the assumption that this way we can totally decipher the higher functions of another entity. If you learn everything, there is to learn about computers, including artificial intelligence. Including artificial intelligence that behaves unpredictably has emergent phenomena. Epiphenone. If you do this, then you learn everything there is to learn about computers and artificial intelligence. And extremely little about the higher functions of humans. And so we need to regain humility. We need to regain humility. We need to begin to understand that psychology is a more rigorous form of literature that cannot provide us with insights which are deeper or better than literature. We imbue psychology with meaning and with direction. This is a classic mistake in science. It's called teleology. Because we cannot contemplate a meaningless world. I've discussed this in my nothingness videos. We form our own meaning. We invent all kinds of things. Or we become the meaning. That's narcissism. And in the process we sacrifice everything and everyone around us. The pursuit of meaning and the addiction to hope and the aversion to risk are the three greatest curses of the previous century in this one. They lead us to extinction. These three witches. Macbeth witches. They lead us to extinction as a species. Mene and I wish you good night and good luck. Wherever you are or maybe.


The Southern and Middle Belt Leaders Forum says Nigeria should Nigeria sends the risk of dying if it is not restructured quickly. The national leader of the forum, Edwin Clark, while giving his opening remarks at the expanded meeting in Abuja on Sunday, urged President Mohammed Buhari to address Nigerians on the state of the nation. He argues that Mr President is not a monarch, he is a politician, therefore he should come out and meet some eminent leaders across the country.


hello everyone this is Ahmeddan of Ahmeddan.com today i'll have another episode of tour and walk video and i'm in the west part of the town so i'll be walking from close to Humberview loop to close to islington avenue along lecture boulevard so i'm looking at to walk somewhere between 45 minutes or so and i'm not sure how far or where this is going to take me but along the way you see lots of stores nice views and lecture village lots of tall condos so this street runs parallel to the lake and if you take a look on your left for example right now then you can see the lake a little bit here and it's a very nice view on the left side especially if you look if you have the lake view and leave one of the tall condos so the format of today's video is going to be i'm going to be talking once in a while i'll talk about various things so today is very windy the temperature is about zero to minus three four degree but possibly the wind noise is going to interrupt so i'm not sure how much you can hear me or my voice is going to be very clear but i'm hoping it's going to be clear i'm using additional audio so i don't use my cameras on audio system so i have a separate audio system and then i attach audio later on so this place is mimico and there is a huge condo community so you can see lots of tall condos surrounding this place so the street i'm walking on is lecture full word west and here another beams of the lake so in summer this area there are lots of activities there's due to the wind it feels much colder than the actual temperature so that's a minus three but it feels like minus 10 15 and it's a cloudy day it rained a little bit before i saw some flurries but not any snow today you can see they're still building more condos and some of the condos have unique designs all the way up to the long branch on lecture avenue so today is a monday and it's a holiday due to the boxing day which was on which fell in the weekend so there's a street car coming which is 501 and constructions everywhere you can see some condos on the other side of the street i'll just show you up here so the name of this street is shore bridge street so about 15-20 years ago this place there's nothing no condos and there used to be lots of motels here but all of them are gone and then you know the a new community started to build there is a park coming up and the street we are getting is marine red rye the name of the park is humberby park east so i'll show you a little bit around here a little long red light but time is up i was referring to and you can see that humberby shores so if you look at this object this is actually a red light camera so whenever you know you're reading the red light it takes pictures and sends you tickets to your home and everything automated so you're just going to see a traffic violation ticket in the mail and you have to just pay you don't get you don't lose any points for these types of tickets it looks like there's a small shopping complex right here past the humber river so just you know stop for a few seconds and i'll show you the river so here's the humber river if i'm not mistaken and you can see a nice white bridge which is a very beautiful bridge to walk on and in the summer actually lots of people come here just to walk along the lake and enjoy the nice views it looks like there's another kind of shopping puzzle right here and there's a bike trail or walking trail throughout this area which goes long way i believe they go to miss saga or even farther so looks like the wind a little bit died down so i have a feeling you can hear me better now than before another glimpse of the area we just passed so this is the west side of the park humberby park west and you can see that there are farmers market just a glimpse of this side wind started again it got very windy so this is the this is what's in front of me these are actually a bit older so i have seen them already before let's say 15 20 years ago but the condos we passed those are comparatively newer but the walk the area we are walking through still we're going to see lots of stores coffee shops small businesses in front of us and still the area is not fully developed yet so i believe there will be a lot more condos in the future in the area ahead of us so this is another condo complex so it's a little bit quiet area you are only let's say 20 minutes from downtown Toronto but it still feels like a different world more peaceful life here and there are lots of houses along the street some of them are very old some of them are new so this area is called Etobico so it's right before miss saga so miss saga is still a part of greater Toronto but it's not part of Toronto city but right now we are in Etobico which is still part of Toronto another condo complex so once i start walking it doesn't feel when time passes by and this is my third walking video i already have released two other walking videos and on this channel i have more than 700 videos as of this recording and i don't have any single topic of video so you'll find a variety of videos on this channel and there are no affiliated links to sell anything or to make money off you but if you'd like to support me then there is a link which is the support me link and you can visit that link in the description box below so we are seeing some apartments here and some of them are very old so as you can see they just look like much older and once in a while you see the five one sticker passing by we have another big apartment complex here and actually the people on the side they had the leg view it's off stores on the other side so for the past couple of weeks i don't remember seeing the sun out it's always cloudy either raining or snowing a little bit but it's not heavy snow yet and we had a little bit of snow on christmas eve which you'll be able to see in my the christmas day walk video our shops coffee shops subway on the other side brought my gloves today but i'm not wearing them it's much easier to hold a camera if i don't have gloves and still my fingers and are freezing so you have a charge here travel videos as well and there are lots of business classified reviews videos so if you're interested you can check them out so looks like this small coffee shop and we have a grocery store and the name of the street is superior avenue so if you can see whenever a streetcar stops to get off passengers the cars have to stop you can see that all the cars are stopped because people are getting in and getting out and if you do the do the violation or if you you know still keep going then you're gonna get a ticket so looks like there is something here lots of artwork and graffiti so not sure what is this whether it's a playground or something else i don't like the name of this store broke billionaires so the lake is right on our left side it's just steps from here summer hill road rather a small road you can see the lake so you can see that there are numbers next to the rental website so what it is that you can go to the website and input the number and you'll be able to do a virtual tour of the apartment you're going to rent so that way you can see how it looks even before renting the apartment very convenient and practical inside avenue small road so you'll see dedicated lens for bikes environment friendly so looks like right now not many stores but lots of houses and apartments but once we pass a certain point we'll see lots of stores again on both sides something very so the whole walking video is just one recording the moment i turned on the camera and then when i'm going to turn off the camera it's non stop recording no wrist no turning off the camera so you're just you know looking at full walk after that period which is the video more apartments by the lake and all these apartments have somehow the lake or water view or leisure touch to their names the month street miles road on the other side small streets some of these houses they have actually their own access to the lake so they have a small backyard or dock by the water it's like having a private beach so this one looks like polish something i'm not sure what is this actually the consulate general of poland so i'm surprised that they're not in the city they chose to make the consulate in this area by the lake it's nice though so these houses look like they were comparatively newer if you look on the right those houses are very old so the road side since is going to change soon we're going to see lots of stores and businesses on both sides of the street and i think i can walk up to lecture bolover sorry lecture avenue so far i have walked about 40 minutes or so so by the time i hit lecture it should be about 50 minute to an hour which should be good enough for this episode of what video so rawl york is coming up it's a big street going north south this is rawl york road there's some nice view there a few snow flurries here and there might snow later on but so far it's still okay so if you have a good glimpse of the lake right here although it's a lake but when you look at it it looks like an ocean you cannot see the other side what's going on lake again sand beach road and there's a small parking there a nice view it looks like these past houses now businesses start on both sides starting with McDonald's on the first street i'm seeing people again restaurants are close to go in you can just take out lots of stores are closed due to the covid and from here it's going to be third fourth fifth street but i'm not sure how far it goes like that looks like there's a hotel which i really noticed before it could be it's a new hotel on the other side you have lots of stores the big guy's a little coffee shop nice name fifth street there's the nice vespa bike so looks like we have the specific park specific store the red color is very catchy with the white contrast sixth street we are close to islington station which i thought i was going to make it and looks like i made it there's some artwork here so islington street is coming up and i'm going to go for another possibly five minutes which is seventh street on the other side on another streetcar lots of stores some of them are unique possibly family around businesses i might do it i might do another video in the future from here to you know going all the way possibly miss saga because this road goes a long way i'm not sure where does it end i'm going to turn right at the next light and you can see some houses here and actually long before this basis was empty it was just a playing field there's nothing here to get this walk light i kind of crossed in the middle so here's a view of the lecture here and we are we entered a local residential area so you can see lots of townhouses and apartments and condos in front so we walked close to one hour non-stop although my goal was to walk up to islington but i passed it and this is where i'm going to end the video but let me just show you around a little bit here thank you for watching this video i'll see you shortly


Are you ready for warm weather and a little sunshine? The Appalachian Wireless team has decided to have the ultimate spring break event. The spring break event is going on now through the end of April and all smartphones are on sale with Appalachian Advantage. We are you. We are Appalachian Wireless. U-Pike Professor of English Dr. James Riley will be retiring after 35 years on the job. I described the college when I first came. We had no elevators. Every student that went to class climbed the 99. It was not a symbol at that time. It was a literal path you took to get to your classes. The changes since then with the two professional schools and the three grad schools has been remarkable. We have at least four, possibly five times more students than we had when I first came. The faculty has at the very least doubled in size, so if you count then the buildings we've added for Kaiko and Kaikon, the changes have been fairly remarkable. After receiving his Ph.D. from Ohio University in 1987, Riley accepted the position as professor at the then known Pikeville College. During his time, Riley was the head of a literary magazine and a golf coach. During the announcement of his retirement, Riley says he hopes to continue his path in writing. Well, I've been writing a lot of poetry lately. I've published a book of poems a couple of years ago. I have a novel that has been accepted for publication and should be coming out soon. So I'm looking forward to that. There's still some polishing to do on the final draft to get it ready for publication and I'll be working on that. I have a good collection of stories. I wouldn't mind writing a few more stories to add to that collection and get it published. So I have a lot of things in the pipeline I think that I'm working on. I'm looking forward to making some progress with. From you Pike's humble beginnings as a teaching college, a change Riley adds is the quality of students stating that many seek advancement beyond a graduate degree. I've learned a lot from my students over the years. The better students always bring something to the table. Primarily I think I'm often surprised at how capable they are of going beyond my expectations. I begin a class, I expect you know writers, these students to be beginning writers. And I've always been amazed at how advanced they are at storytelling. This area is conducive to storytellers and I think that has had an effect on the quality of the writers that show up in my classes. Among Riley's achievements at U-Pike is serving as the undergraduate faculty chair and establishing long lasting relationships with students. I have no idea what retirement means. I know I won't be teaching every day, I know I won't be preparing classes anymore and I won't be going up on the hill every day. Beyond that I'm not really sure. I work during the summers, I write during the summers. I anticipate retirement being one long summer where I can focus on work exclusively. And I'm excited about that, I'm looking forward to it. For Mountain Top News, I'm Joel Porjol.


What's going on everyone? Welcome to a brand new movie review. Today I'm discussing a Starzborn. Starzborn is about a seasoned musician Jackson Main portrayed by Bradley Cooper who discovers and falls in love with the struggling artist Ali also played by Lady Gaga. She's just about given up on her career and dreamed to be this big singer but until Jack brings her into the spotlight but even as Ali's career takes off the personal side of the relationship is breaking down as Jack fights an ongoing battle with his own internal demons. This is a film that I was really looking forward to ever since the first trailer. The first trailer just sent that unnerving shivering goosebumps down my spine and got me just hyped. It got me just dying to see this movie and I'll go as far to say believe the hype. This movie is not just an amazing film, not just a spectacle, not just fantastic. This is a definition of what masterclass filmmaking is and I'll go as far to say this film is a masterpiece. When they announced this film and Bradley Cooper said he was going to be directing it I was a little bit iffy. I was like the fourth adaption, the force remake whatever you want to call it of a film that we've seen multiple times before. Story told many times but after seeing what Bradley Cooper's turned in on this movie I understand why. He brought a different element to this film and something that's unique to itself. It tells the same story but also tells it in a different type of way. In a modern type of way as well this is just fantastic. To be honest I don't even know where to start with this movie so I guess I'll start with the performances. The performances in here are great. You got Andrew Dice Clay playing Allie's father who is just superb. He turns in a great performance. Dave Chappelle shows up for a little bit. He's fantastic. Sam Allie is going to get nominated for Best Supporting Actor. He was brilliant. There's one scene in here in particular earlier on the film where you're like yep that's the moment they're going to show in the Oscars and Bradley Cooper might I say turns in probably the best performance of his career. This guy turned into Jackson Maine. I did not recognize Bradley Cooper. I just saw Jackson himself but my god you've heard it here. I'm not the first person to say it. I'm not going to be the last. Lady Gaga will win Best Actress this year at the Oscars. I have no doubt in my mind. I will be utterly shocked if she doesn't. Her performance in here again somebody might say oh well the role was written for her. It doesn't. She does something so beautiful and so magnificent with this role. Yes she's a singer and of course she's amazing at singing in here. I mean my god but it's her performance, her subtleties that she puts in here and it takes a fantastic director to get that out of her and might I say a fantastic actress to play that on the screen. An emotional with her. You believe in her character and you end up falling in love just as much as she does with Jackson Maine. You fall in love with her character as well and the relationship. You fall in love with the story that the movie is telling and again Bradley Cooper's foray into the directing it's something I got is what is this guy going to do next. It is superb. This is one of the best directed films I've seen in a very long time and he does a lot of subtle nuances to the movie. One of my favorite things that he does is of course Jackson Maine is an alcoholic in this film and one of the things that he does is when Jackson is drunk or Jackson is uncontrollable the film the way that the camera shifts it gets very kind of grungy and unfocused but also gets it in a way that's not distracting at the least but makes you feel drunk with Jackson and very on the edge of your seat unnerved on what is Jackson going to do what is he going to be as he's being this alcoholic guy and it's really cool how Bradley Cooper decided to direct and shoot the film in that light. You can really tell this especially where it seems with him and Allie where they're sitting there talking maybe it goes to him being all drunk the camera will get all unfocused but when it goes back to Allie it's perfectly still and that is something that is very unique to say and I have to imagine that Bradley Cooper did this intentionally. Multiple shots throughout the movie where it's doing this on purpose. That is what a master class director can do. He shoots a film great he gets fantastic performances and that's why I'm going far to say I think Bradley Cooper my god man you are here to direct and we also talk about the music in here because that is one of the core cruxes of the movie if the music does not work in the whole film work at all but it works wholeheartedly. I cannot wait to listen to all these songs on repeat. Lady Gaga's voice is phenomenal we already know that but Bradley Cooper's voice as a singer you can tell this guy poured his heart and soul and not just directing but as in this performance as he's bringing these songs out he's bringing them to life where you're getting into your seat it just feels like a concert. This film felt like a spiritual journey with these characters where you're with them the whole entire ride through and it's one of those films where in a sense it does feel like a concert. It feels like an experience when you watch this film with other people in a big theater and might I say please see this film the biggest theater that you can because those concert scenes those musician scenes are ones that you want to see on the biggest screen possible. Definitely listen to this music on the biggest speakers out loud. You want to say one of my favorite things about the movie is the cinematography. There's a couple scenes in here where my jaw just dropped and I was like yep that's one damn perfect moment in here. Absolutely loved A Star Is Born. This is easily my favorite film of the year. It stole my heart. It took it by storm and it turns out to be one of the best films I've seen very very long time. I loved it. I loved every part of it. I found myself getting emotionally enrapped within the whole story with great performances with a brilliant magnificent direction from Bradley Cooper and just a film that really a film that fits the title the most. A Star Is Born has many stars rising up in this film. Bradley Cooper we already know is a great actor. This guy is a rising star in the directing category and Lady Gog on my God we know she's a fantastic singer but look out for her name when it comes next Oscar season because she will be winning that best actress. She is a new star. This film is a star.  I knew myself getting a little bit emotional here talking about this movie. I cannot wait to see this film again. Tell me guys what are your guys thoughts on A Star Is Born? Are you guys excited to see it? Have you been looking forward to it? Have you already seen it? Let's talk about it down below in the comments guys. Of course thank you guys so much for watching. If you're new here hit up sandwich on films also down below because if you guys want to see advanced movie screens there's some early screens going out for first man and some other films going out soon so make sure to check out our website. Also hit up some movie news and also some movie reviews while you're there. Of course guys until next time stay classy and have a great rest of your day.


The Cavalcade of America presented by Dupont, maker of better things for better living through chemistry. Sing a New World. Our play is a radio fantasy about Walt Whitman, written for the Cavalcade of America by Robert Talman. Starring in the role of Walt Whitman is John McIntyre of the Cavalcade Players. Our orchestra and original musical score are under the direction of Don Vouris. Dupont, maker of better things for better living through chemistry, presents John McIntyre as Walt Whitman on the Cavalcade of America. The varied carols I hear. Those are the mechanics. Each one singing his as it should be, blithe and strong. The boatman singing what belongs to him in his boat. The deckhands singing on the steamboat deck. The woodcutter's song, the plow boys on his way in the morning or at noon into mission or at sundown. The delicious singing of the mother, or of the young wife at work, or of the girls sewing and washing. Each singing what belongs to him or to her, and to no one else. Walt Whitman? I'm Walt Whitman. Well, what are you doing here? I'm drinking beer, which you will join me. Thank you. I've been here for hours listening to them talk. Who? The people. They're excited as I am excited, and I'm one with them in the presence of great knowledge. The future is about to rise out of a holocaust. What, here in America? Very hard of America, friend. Chicago has been destroyed by fire. All right, take Chicago. Make it your symbol. When the end of an era comes, the past is dead, and we best forget it. And the future? You can have it. Where is the simple believing spirit of the American pioneer? Well, his dream has become a nightmare, a vulgar struggle for the booty of the new world.  I think I could turn and live with animals. I stand and look at them long and long. Not one is respectable or unhappy over the whole earth. We have much to learn from it.  You call me a poet. I call myself one of the citizens, and they know what I mean. Whatever interests the rest, interests me. This democracy in the present time is my subject matter. Yes, but what we were talking about, what I mean is to come back to the future. That's an idea, to come back to the future. To come back to the people, or the future is people. I sing people. I sing a new world somewhere and in some time. For what is the count of the scores in years? See the many-cylindered steam-printing crests. See the electric telegraph stretching across the continent. See the strong, quick locomotive as it departs, panting, blowing the steam whistle. See plowmen plowing farms. See miners digging mines. See the numberless factories. Oh, a word to clear one's path ahead endlessly. Oh, to haste firm holding, to haste, haste on with me. For ever so many generations hence, just as any one of you is one of a living crowd, I too walked in the streets of Manhattan Island, bathed in the waters around it. I too felt certain abrupt questioning stirring within me. In the day among crowds of people, sometimes they came upon me. What does it get you? Mashed between two lunch baskets and somebody squalling brat? Better than home, Jimmy. And there's us anyway. Yeah, I'm sorry, Sue. I don't want to spoil your day, Growson. Oh, it's all right, Jimmy. Just one thing, though. Please don't call that sweet baby a brat. We might be bringing our own baby along with us sometimes. We wouldn't want anybody to call our baby a brat, would we? On our cash, we wouldn't need to worry. We can't even get married. Things won't be the way they are forever. No. When you get old, you don't mind so much. Look at that old guy over there. The one with a white beard and a crop of hay on his head. He looks happy enough. Yeah. Well, he looks like he knew something, don't he? Some secret. Maybe he's one of their mind readers up on the boardwalk. Say, how are you going to like me when I get that old? Oh, I love you to get old like that, Jimmy. He's like a patriarch or something. Yeah, you sound like Kitty Foil.  Passes out leaflets and subway stations announced in the end of the world. Oh, you're just suspicious of everyone. Okay, let's get him over here. You'll see. Hey, Whiskers. Can you please? Yes, young man. What do you want? Come over here a second. We want to settle up that. Thank you. I was hoping I'd meet some young people today. You mustn't mind, Jimmy. He doesn't mean to be rude. You mean calling me Whiskers? Why not? I like nicknames. I see you wondering about me. Well, I've been coming to Coney Island for a long time. It used to be just a dazzling white sandbar without a dwelling or a human being in sight. Nobody came here but me, ever. Gee, it must have been beautiful then. It's more beautiful now. People make a place, whatever it is, about them that might as well not exist. You're in love. Am I right? So what? So that's very nice. I congratulate you both. On what? On our forthcoming not getting married because of no dough? It's a truth. We might as well face it. And even if we did, what then? Two stuffy rooms and a railroad flat, maybe? Maybe we'd raise kids like them there.  What's your daddy? That sounds nice, don't it? My daddy cleans the streets. My daddy washes windows. My daddy's a junk man, so what? Your son can say plenty besides that. He can say my daddy is part owner of the Metropolitan Museum. And he has a big chain of schools and colleges where everybody can learn everything there is to know for nothing. My daddy is the ruler of the richest country in the world. He owns more factories and railroads and farms and department stores and symphony orchestras and art collections than anybody. Gosh, you're awfully smart for no... I mean, you're smart. For such a queer looking old guy. Sure, I've had long time to get things straight. Yeah. You've got something there, maybe? Your country is what you want to make it. You're it. I don't strike up the ban for America. I have what I have. Here, Walt Whitman. I hear the workmen singing and the farmers wife singing. I hear in the distance the sounds of children and of animals early in the day. What do you see, Walt Whitman? I see the cities of the earth that make myself but random a part of them. I descend upon all those cities and rise from them again. I see the constructiveness of my race. Hey, Bill, it's our turn. Okay, let's have it. It's over, have a smoke. Get one, come and get it. This makes three, you owe me. Hey, Joe! Why are you cleaning up that girded? Am I seeing things? We are both seeing things. You see an old gent with a long white beard? Listen, we've got to do something. Don't dare. He might get scared and fall. Hey, you good. What's the matter? Need some help? Joe, take the jumper down and tell Murphy there's an old nut up here. They get killed. I'm on my way. Here, pup. Hang on with both hands now. All right, come on. Easy does it. That was quite a climb. Yeah, we don't generally do it that way. There's a heist, you know? Yes, I... I found that out. They wouldn't let me take it. Say, say that's a curious machine over there? What do you call that? That's a riveter. Hey, listen, I feel responsible for you. Sit tight now and I'll bring it over. Can I have a large hot pot? The Pop Dog! If it's a hot pot, you'll sing those whiskers of yours? I'm sorry. You see, I've never seen a skyscraper in construction. It's mighty high, isn't it? Yeah! Hey, listen, I'd feel better if you'd kind of hang on to me. There's a pretty stiff breeze up here. It comes in this kind of... Don't worry, I won't fall. What's the idea of climbing up here anyways? Well, I'm a kind of observer. A prophet, you might say. It's my business to find out about people in all walks of life. You mean like a feature writer for the Sunday papers? Like that, yes. I was a newspaper man one time. I covered Lincoln's inauguration. Ah, say, don't kid me. That was 80 years ago. You'd be at least a hundred. I am old, very old. Yes. Old. Well, that's not gonna be for me. When I start slipping right through the old skull here, a small neat hole. No fuss, no muss. I can see you've never been old. Say, that's a good one. You're not so slow, Pop. But did you ever have your insides shaken up by a ribbon and machine eight hours a day?  Take it. That's what I mean. It's big work. It's not for everybody. Yeah, it's not for me either. Not for long. Here, I get the itch to move on. You're independent. I like that. Yes, sir. I don't fit into that tight little scheme. Don't play along. Why should I? You think you should, don't you? Maybe. There must be some reason why so many of them fall for it. Maybe I'm getting left out of the picture. How do I know? No, son, you're not getting left out of any picture. You and I, along with presidents and criminals and bathing beauties, we're all in it. The American compact. All together, individually. Whoever you are from the present hour, my words itch at your ears till you understand them. I don't say these things for a dollar or to fill up the time while I wait for a boat. It's you talking just as much as myself. Whoever you are, come and travel with me. So journeying a while in the east, I turn inland for the states tend inland and toward the western sea. Five gallons, kid, and make it snappy. Make it easy, mister. I saw you coming. Quite a kid to be doing work like this. Well, I'm doing it. Any objection? No. No. Just thought it's funny they don't have a guy for out here. You run the hash house inside, too? That'll be a dollar and six cents. Yeah, just got it. You're pretty touchy, aren't you? You've got your gas, mister. You're waiting for anything else. My father lives here, too. He just got a bad cold. And this is not a hash house. Okay, sister. Boy, when did you come in here? I thought I got something in my eye. Would it be, mister? One hamburger, well done. Come far today? From farther than the nearest star. From eternity into nowhere. That's here all right. You're not kidding. See, you talk well.  I was once. I write a little, too. Or I did once. You and I were in the same boat, I guess. Out of eternity into nowhere. That was me when I woke up to reality. You talk as if that were a very long time ago. It was two years ago. But it seems like a hundred. You see before you the product of the system of free education, venerable sir. Mustard or onion? Onion, if you please. Yes. Out west here we have the finest schools in the world.  And land in a hamburger stand. It has a good view. That makes it worse. You get to look enough into those mountains and daydreaming. And the car hooting for gas wakes you up. That says prettiest statement of the American paradoxes I ever heard. You take the lugs that come in here. They get to talking. Lives, big dream, little fish. But it's fun drawing them out. Americans tell their secrets at the drop of a hat. I can see your education has not been entirely wasted.  But why do you say that? I'll tell you why. Because you're not just in a hamburger stand and you never will be. You're in the center of the universe. The world moves past you on this highway. A new wonderful world too. Listen. Listen to what it's saying. It's saying I'll be honest with you. I don't offer the old smooth prizes. I offer rough new prizes. These are the days that must happen to you. It's time to explain myself. Let us stand up. I am an act may of things accomplished. I'm an enclosure of things to be. I don't call one greater and one smaller. That which fills its period and place is equal to any. What is commonest, nearest, cheapest, easiest, is me. Not you to see who cuts the rod next. Okay, that's it. Aw, they yanked that pot last week. Nah, number 22, bugle woogie. That's half, okay. What'll it be, future? A sip of beer, please. Have one on me. I salute your gray beer. I salute your young dancers. You call that dancing? That's jitterbug. It's not unlike some of the square dancers we used to do when I was younger. Oh, this is ringing around the rosy. Wait till it gets warmed up. If it wasn't for the dough, I'd bust that jazz mill into a thousand pieces. But why? You don't know these kids. They drive you crazy. They don't even talk English anymore. Jive, jam, camp, killer. What kind of talk is that? I call it very creative. Listen to that noise. You call that music? You call that anything? All music is what awakes from you when you're reminded by the instruments.  Here. Have another one on me. Go on. I like to hear you talk. There's something that comes to one now and perpetually. It's hinted by the nearest, commonest, radius. It's ever provoked by then. That something is the unseen soul of man. You're way ahead of me, Pop. Sounds like devil talk to me. Do I contradict myself? Well, then I contradict myself. I'm Lord. I contain multitudes. Oh, my body and soul, this land, the buried and ample land, the south and the north and the light, Ohio shores and flashing Missouri, and ever the far-spreading prairies covered with grass and corn, and ever the far-spreading prairie. Good evening, mister. Good evening. You were looking for someone? No. Whatever I find, that's what I'm looking for. You from the revival meeting in town? No, I'm a poet, an easterner. My name's Walt Whitman. Whitman. I remember my father talking about a poet named Whitman. But he'd be dead a long time. You wouldn't be the same one. Well, you're a long way from home, aren't you? I'm at home just about anywhere. What's that?  Oh, I can hear you better. What were you saying? Wasn't important. I was thinking when I came across this prairie before, it was so silent. They didn't have electric cream separators or telephones or tractors or any of the sounds I've heard out here today. It was like this. Like it is right now. Only silence could encompass it. Silence. Listen, that's the prairie chicken. She moans like that when she settles down to roost. I hear it every evening the same. I used to hate it, it was so mournful. Now it keeps me company. Yes. You're really remarkable, you know? No, you'll find thousands like me out here. There's a breeze coming up. There'll be rain come morning. I can smell it. Tell you, Mr. I got that first, that dead silence out here. And I began to hear things. There's one of the things. That's the 820 coming in Spillville. Tell me, you say you weren't born here? No, I was born in Ohio. My husband hankered for more land. You know, sometimes I think of the hills at home and feel sad still. But in the morning there's the quail and metal arcs and the hired man rattling up the lane in his old fliver. Oh, there's enough. After all, it's my home. Oh, here it is getting dark and I'm still talking. You'll need a flashlight to light you back the highway. I'll get you one. Leave it in the mailbox at the turning, Mr. Whip. It's funny. I'm beside you for a moment only, whoever you are. I depart as air. I bequeath myself to the dirt to grow from the grass I love. If you want me again, look for me under your boot soles. You hardly know who I am or what I mean. But I shall be good health to you, nevertheless.  Failing to fetch me at first, keep encouraged. Missing me one place, search another. I stop somewhere waiting for you. America, thanks John McIntyre and the Cavalcade players for their performance of this radiophatasy on the spirit of Walt Whitman in America. I sing a new world. And now DuPont brings you news of chemistry at work in our world. There used to be magicians who guaranteed to find oil for you for a small fee, of course, using a divining rod. Oil pools deep underground are actually located today by means of scientific divining rods called geophones. Holes are drilled and charges are exploded in them. 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Any ring I step into is mine. End of the line. Then this fight is now personal. It is exhausting being so perfect.


One of the really interesting price action movements that we've seen this year is the S&P 500. As is often the case, the market is overly bullish about 2024. Analysts are now forecasting about 11.6% earnings growth for the S&P 500, and the average analyst is predicting a price target of the index to be around 5029. This all suggests that the index will gain about 10% and make new all-time highs in the next 12 months. Others, however, see a more challenging macro backdrop is anticipated for equity markets in 2024 and believe that the S&P 500 could experience its worst crash since 2008. As far as the S&P 500, obviously ending near all-time highs or going to all-time highs depending on which particular way you want to look at it, you know, it's hard to argue with that, right? I mean, how could we say that anybody would be bearish going into 2024? But we also know that a lot of this rally has been in the anticipation, if you look at something like Goldman Sachs, who says five times the Fed will actually cut interest rates. So a lot of this is on the anticipation, A, that inflation is over, and B, that the Fed will be more dovish. So that's where the charts can be extremely helpful. And I really, really like this 4,600 level as my major pivotal level. So basically, I would say very simply, if we stay above 4,600, you have to have kind of a bullish bias. I've seen predictions for 5,050, 100. Surely that's the case. But if we get back under that 4,600 level, then I would start to think that we're going to be in for a more serious correction. And it could be for any of the reasons that I have just spelled out in terms of the dangers that still lurk out there, even in our, you only live once environment. This is a screen of the S&P 500 earnings estimates for next year. And at the current valuation of about 4770 or so, you have an S&P 500 trading at, call it 19.7 times earnings, which is a very high number for earnings estimates overall. When it comes to a P multiple, especially looking forward. And so given the advance in the equity market, and given the fact that we're probably not going to get as many rate cuts next year, I think it's highly unlikely that we're going to see much further appreciable gains in the market. And if you sort of take a more conservative approach to earnings and estimates, I mean, even at 17 times $242 in earnings next year, which is a more manageable earnings estimate, you're talking about an S&P 500 that's closer to 4100 or so, then it's current value of 4770. And if the Fed doesn't cut rates as aggressively, I think ultimately that means that yields have probably fallen too far on the back of the curve, and they're probably going to start to rise. And ultimately, I think that means that the yield curve is going to have to re-steep in. If we were to get a yield curve re-steepening, that certainly could lead to dollar strength. It certainly seems like if we do get a soft landing, or even potentially a no landing, that the U.S. economy is going to be probably, again, the strongest in the world, and that likely means that the dollar can strengthen and outperform other currencies.


Probably basic in the sense basic knowledge, but learning exercises different variations of doing exercises Probably learn with what equipment you're using. You know, I mean what sort of equipment you're using I don't know if some gyms have got different equipment and things like that. So either what type of equipment you're using. So learn your learn correct form Huge problem biggest probably mistake most correct form. Okay, again, you might need some help there a Mirror is always a good handy if you want to look in the mirror and that and check your form But make sure you don't minimize momentum and maximize tension Learn to handle muscular pain about stress Does anybody sort of know what I mean by that learn to handle the muscle pain. I'm gonna thought about stress Is anybody heard of the fight or flight syndrome? I don't like Dumb up or you're scared or you're someone shut, you know That's the same process your body's going through when you're actually exercising the street exercise Just a stress-related physiology part in your on your body Okay, basically what your body just feels it's under attack and it doesn't know quite what to do So a lot of people in certain circumstances under that fight or flight will run Other people will stay there and Hold the ground. You know me in a sense. This is what you're doing the same sort of thing You know me, you know after a while that I can't handle this I can keep going.  Don't fear it Just sort of let it happen let the process happen But you'll feel once you start getting into a little bit and it's a bit of a adrenaline rush to actually You know, I don't think one sort of Endorphins and that type of thing that happened but that that sort of takes place a little bit adrenaline starts firing up So control answers I mean controlling the rep to stress the response and Concentrate at the event threshold. What I mean by concentrate at the event threshold Basically when that last couple reps come about Focus concentrate don't let it drop away from there. Okay, that's where the results will come Now I was just gonna sort of go through some advanced overload training techniques I'll learn to do the exercise I've done the one set in that and I want to sort of, you know, take it to another level We hurt use the terms advanced overload training techniques Force negatives. Does anybody ever heard term for force negative? I'm just sort of getting there a little bit. Okay Okay, so when basically Someone might put a little bit extra resistance on the bar and that new lower it and against a bit of resistance Okay Force negatives a little bit of and some of these overload techniques a little bit Limiting a little bit because you need either someone to do them with you know, I mean you need a partner Sometimes a little bit hard to do them by yourself, but just generally speaking Sister positives your partner remember I said you might get that last couple reps and you go, oh shit They might just give you a little bit of assistance at that point to raise the weight Okay, so these are some break downs Again come to momentary muscalfile I do these ones on machines if I'm gonna do them because you can change the weight really quickly You got to reduce the weight and then just do them again You know me a little similar to maybe what some people call drop sets or something So it is a little different, but it's a variation of that one But if you're doing it with plates and stuff, you got to sort of get them off and things like that But still don't and I find them quite good for that pull down some really good one seeded rows The pre and post exhaust or that does anybody know pre exhaust and post exhaust method It's a little similar Not quite the same. I'll give you an example. I'll just see if anyone's ever used them Pre and post exhaust so for example I'm gonna want to target the lat safe example. I do a single joint exercise Like a lat straight arm pull down. I pull it down So that sort of but my arms are resting and then I do a lat pull down itself So that's sort of pre-exhaust in the lats by doing a single one then using this more all the other muscles to do do a little bit further and Basically the post exhaustion is the opposite So you'll do the pull down and then do the straight arm So a few of those methods that are quite good and again once you start Playing around with some of these methods and stuff and that you know I mean you really get into sort of trial and error a bit in you You know, you get sort of bit hyped up after a while and see which one you can do multiple sets ten eight six and there was so the ten eight six method The big difference there that most people do When you're doing that ten eight six is You might do you try trying for ten reps But then you actually increase the weight and you should only get eight Then you'll increase the weight again by about ten percent for example And then you might just get down to six So you're actually decreasing the reps but increasing the weight where most people do the opposite way around Decrease the weight and increase the rest. You really want a good hard workout when you get into it. That's a good one Just sort of getting along with it One and a half. Sorry. Yeah, sorry. Okay. I'll go back there when you're doing so for example I'm doing the curls. I do a full full range Come to halfway and down or something It's a little little similar to the 21s. No, I mean like the matrix system method It's you do them at the last couple reps when you're really tired. You know me really must your father's happening Yeah, just just do your set foot like your eight or ten reps first and If you're doing right then just that last two you'll do one and a half then all the one half Yeah, they're good one especially on some bicep curls and a few other exercises I Hit isn't quite a from drew is hit dangerous. No, not really. It's not dangerous if you do it correctly It's probably one of key things any exercise programs dangerous if you don't do it correctly anyway, so Force is the product of mass and acceleration It's trying to fail your dangerous no because really at that point you can't do any more damage to your decreased strength You've actually as long as you're not Using momentum You've decreased you've reduced all the force factors So you still can do it. You've just decreased your strength down. Why don't you keep everything consistent? Focus on your muscles not the numbers remember I said so even though we might be aiming for a number of reps Like I'm going for 10 my art focuses on the muscles. Okay, so my still my focus is on the muscles That after all it'll come It will come. I mean the reps that'll come after a while Is it only for beginners? No, ensure a break in period for trainees Now quite often in most gyms and this week. I'll be very careful trainers and stuff They'll take you in enough while you're there first training session and you can't walk. No, I intend to do it Probably requires a break in period. Does anybody know what I mean by a break in period? Well, look, it doesn't quite have to be that long But it usually two or three weeks of just easy stuff if you know what I mean So you won't quite go that must be a failure. There were some variations of doing it But generally speaking and different body types Will require if you're a bit more sort of thinner, you know, you might need a longer period You might need a period where you're actually for the thinner guy We actually start putting weight on so you might keep it low intensity a bit To actually start putting some size on then you might move to the next stage in the real high Intensity if you're a little bit of more overweight or something, etc You might do higher reps do a bit more reps. You know me and keep it low So instead of doing 10 you might do 20 so a little bit of variation just on the on your side So must anyone goes in the floggy to death guys, especially young guys. Don't do it You're some really bad instance of people being really Saw Rabdo my liars, and I think Drew's got a good Article on his website about that one That's really when you really got some you know end up in hospital people end up morphine and all that sort of stuff now I Thought we've been young guys and stuff. Is anybody heard of the term muscle dysmorphia you have have yeah Sometimes they have a widget. Sorry Sorry, I was gonna I just think Been in the industry and as I said like you know teaching people This is one of the worst Issues and what I think we deal with You get caught up in the obsession I suppose if you want to put it that way Training or exercise does not have to be an obsession Okay, you can get good results remember the confidence in your program Okay, you get caught up into this and this is a A Mental disorder and it's a recognized one So I really sort of preaching this part to you guys because I'm sort of now looking at young fellas and thinking It's so easy to get caught in the trap You go to the gyms and stuff and you see all the people prancing around and all this sort of thing and Check the girls out but Other than that you see a lot of things. They you know the bad things and my talking about experience You're not happening to me, but I'm talking about experience. I've seen it happen to young guys I had one young guy in my class a couple years ago told him not to do it They said he's gonna get on the steroids, you know, I'm gonna say don't do it anyway in six months 11 kilos of weight he put on but it was all fat. I Know Mark said about measurements. I did skin fold measurements in that. We've done them all He just blowed it up. Thank God. He got off the drugs and stuff with steroids. He looks quite good But don't don't go down that path and don't get caught up into this muscle dysmorphia And as I said, I've had many young guys Fitness centers, okay talking about dating in that. What's the other good thing about going to the gym? What else can you do? Talk to her Social side of things there with the girls on that. All right, so You know Look the gyms are good at this because said, you know something or something like that, but You know us guys high intensity. We just focus on our training. We don't focus on anything else You know I mean sort of we just all one way of straight-minded But if you want to sort of other encouragement to go to gym, you might sort of think a little bit about the social aspect of it and That there's added aspect of that as well Boyd exercise angst does anybody know what I mean by that avoid exercise things No, no, no Yeah, the negative I've got to go to gym and try and look if I don't go and train the gym today and tomorrow night But I'm going to tomorrow look I've got to go and do um, you know, I get it all the time So I mean I mean they're young guys. I've just got to go and do me back. I've just okay That's exercise angst that's mental thing not physical physiology. So If you're gonna do it, just be able to get careful.