Hi, and welcome to text, email, and netiquette. Preview, what is the rule of text messaging in business communication? How can I write effective emails for both internal and external communication? And how can I demonstrate the appropriate use of netiquette? Tip for effective texting number one. Use common abbreviations only when appropriate. Don't succumb to the temptation to use abbreviations in context where it's inappropriate. Second, know and adapt to your recipient. Remember, as in all communication adaptation, knowing your audience is extremely important so that you can craft your message appropriately. Tip for effective texting number three. Anticipate unintentional misinterpretation. Due to the brevity of text messages, misinterpretation is bound to happen. Number four, don't text and drive. The research and evidence is clear. Texting and driving is extremely dangerous. Most people text and drive because they believe that they can multitask. Brain research has definitively proven multitasking is a myth. When we do many things at once, we're doing them all very poorly. And we're not really multitasking. We're just switching our focus from one thing to the other. Email, email needs to convey professionalism and respect. Never write or send anything that you wouldn't want read in public or in front of your boss. Tip for effective email number one. Proper salutation should demonstrate respect and avoid mix ups in case a message is accidentally sent to the wrong recipient. Number two, subject lines should be clear, brief and specific. This helps the recipient understand the essence of the message. Number three, close with the signature. Make sure you identify yourself by creating a signature block that automatically contains your name and business contact information. Number four, avoid abbreviations. Just like with text messaging, abbreviations can create chaos. Remember, an email is not a text message and the audience may not appreciate your wit. Number five, be brief and omit unnecessary words. Number six, use a good format. Include line breaks between sentences or divide your message in a brief paragraph for ease of reading. A good email should get to the point and conclude in three small paragraphs or less. Tip for effective email number seven. Just like in most writing endeavors, be sure to reread, revise and review. Be sure to catch and correct spelling grammar mistakes before you press send. Remember, it will usually take more time and effort to undo the problems caused by a hasty, poorly written email than to get it right the first time. Number eight, reply promptly. Watch out for an emotional response. Never reply in anger. Be sure to make a habit out of replying to all emails within 24 hours, even if only to say that you will provide the requested information later. Number nine, use reply all sparingly. Do not send your reply to everyone unless your message absolutely needs to be read by the entire group. Tip for effective email number 10. Avoid using all caps. Capital letters are used on the internet to communicate emphatic emotion, are yelling and are considered rude. Number 11, test links. If you include a link, test it to make sure it is complete. Number 12, email ahead of time if you are going to attach large files to prevent exceeding the recipient's mailbox limit or triggering the spam filter. And finally, our tip for effective email number 13. Give feedback or follow up. If you don't get a response within 24 hours, be sure to send another email or call. Spam filters may have intercepted your message, so your recipient may never have received it. This is especially important for time-urgent messages. What are Virginia Shays 10 rules for etiquette? Remember the human on the other side. Adhere to the same standards that you would follow in real life. Know where you are in cyberspace. Context is important. Respect other people's time and bandwidth. Make yourself look good. Share expert knowledge. Keep flame words under control. In other words, don't forget that when you post something, it could be there forever. Respect other people's privacy. Don't abuse your power. Be forgiven. Notice that these 10 rules take into account the golden rule of treating others as you would like to be treated. So to review, a text message is useful for informal, brief, and time-sensitive communication. The content and formatting of an email should reflect professionalism and follow the rules of etiquette. Social customs that exist in live human interaction also influence how we interact in the online environment.


This one we referred to as copper puddles. Love copper. I haven't seen this one in a while. It came about when I had a thought in a question. Specifically with Jason, the main guy when it comes to operating our CNC machines, you know, I think copper would actually bond to stainless steel. So I was like, hey Jason, what would happen if we took just some copper wire, right out of something like electrical wire, and we melted it using your TIG welder to a piece of stainless steel tube, and then put it in the lathe and turned it off so it would be a nice cylindrical shape. And we'd have these puddles of copper melted right into the stainless steel tube. And he says to me, yeah, I can do that. And this is the first one that he made. We then made a couple more, which we sold to a few people. We also messed around with mixing a few other materials in. I think there might even be a little bit of silver in here as well, because we've got some pieces of just silver casting beads melted them right in. So after that, the process of making this, we ended up making another piece we called copper puddles. So this is effectively what they looked like before we turned off the excess to make it more like the puddles. Tried to get the bits of copper a bit more kind of gnarly and give it a little bit more texture. And so if we look really carefully, what you'll be able to see is that there's copper, and you can tell by the patina, but there's also here again some bits that aren't quite copper colored, which then evolved into one of my favorite pieces. And this one has a whole lot of copper and a whole lot of really interesting patinas, some reds and some browns. And this little bit right here, for example, is fine silver. So if I get the light just right, you can totally see that it's a completely different hue than the copper bits, which were completely molten and melted with the TIG welder, so they actually alloyed right in with the stainless steel. All in all, kind of a gnarly piece, got a whole lot of texture when you roll it between your fingers, but also kind of soft because molten metal and the surface tension in the metal allowed for everything to get kind of a nice rounded, radius feel to it. Really like that design, that texture. And who knows, maybe we'll make a few more of these at some point in the future.


All right first question is from Kylie Schransey. You have mentioned that the more muscle you have the faster your Metabolism can be can you please explain this a little bit further? Yes. Yes.  No go for it and the reason why I want to start because this one I've got into it with people online many times over the way I explain this because and this is a another one of those examples Where I talk about how it annoys me when fitness professionals and Academia do this where we we get into arguing over semantics on who's more right about the science Because I one of the best ways to explain this to the average clients They understand and get the concept is to kind of break down like how many calories more this muscle burn per day versus Fat and that I used to you and there's all kinds and where the debate comes from is there's all kinds of research and study to show How drastically different that is for person to person which that's where it can get really muddy and confusing when trying to explain to The average person but the way I would explain it to somebody is this for every extra pound of muscle That you have on your body So for every pound of muscle we build on your body your body burns an additional 30 to 50 calories a day now that where that's where the argument is oh, that's too high Oh, that's not high enough like oh, that's not the studies show that it's way less than that Here's the deal that the idea is to get the point across so people understand not get hung up on the exact percentage of the exact calorie Mount the idea is for you to understand as a as a client that if I can get you to add Five pounds of muscle on your body Then I potentially have got your metabolism Burning an additional two to three hundred extra calories every single day without doing any extra activity It's because muscle is an expensive tissue It requires more calories to sustain to stay on your body more than fat does you add fat It doesn't take a lot of calories to keep fat on your body It does take more calories to keep muscle. So as we build more muscle, it's more expensive It needs more calories to stay that's how it speeds up the metabolism and the number is what's debatable But I did to me I used to just give that 40 to 60 calories extra per pound to put it in a perspective for a client that Hey, listen, we can keep your scale the same And I could actually add five pounds of muscle to your body and lose Body fat and you would stay the same on the scale because you've added five pounds of muscle Your body is now burning an additional X calories per day Right. So it gets even more interesting than that because there's the obvious you have more active tissue That active tissue requires more calories just to maintain fat is you know fat is still an active tissue But it's far less active Then muscle sort requires less calories to maintain one of the most expensive tissues on the body's the brain Utilizes quite a bit of calories for the amount size it is in your organs as well But muscle is it is a relatively expensive tissue So that's the simple way of explaining it and it's if look bottom line is more muscle means you'll burn more calories That's the bottom line, but there's more to it It also goes this far that there's a bit of metabolic flexibility within the amount of lean mass that you have on your body So what I mean by that is you could have a hundred and fifty pounds of lean mass on your body and your body could run off of 2,000 calories or 2800 calories with the same amount of lean body mass now How does that happen? Well, there's the body can make itself without necessarily changing the amount of lean tissue What not the it can change the efficiency of how you utilize calories now One of the way one of the ways to speed up the metabolism is to reduce that efficiency and one of the best ways to Do that is to send a signal to the body that says I have ample calories coming in and I need to get stronger So increasing your calories by the way just bumping your calories a little bit will actually speed up your metabolism a little bit Regardless, I don't care who you are you eat a little bit more your body burns a little bit more now How much more it burns depends on the individual depends on the other signals that you're sending your body But ample calories sends a signal that says we don't need to be as efficient Then the other signal is am I sending a signal to my body that says I need to get stronger and build muscle Even if I kept my lean body mass the same if I start lifting weights and tell my body I need to get stronger and I need more muscle just that signal alone reduces Efficiency or the the thriftiness that your body has with calories and we've seen this with the people that we've trained I've had clients I've worked with who have only gained a couple pounds of muscle But the calories that they burn more doesn't make any sense. You gain two pounds of muscle.  That's it. It's not burning 400 more calories per pound So there's there's there's other things that happen there that we don't quite understand But I've observed it time and time again I know other coaches coaches that work with competitive at you know physique competitors bodybuilders and bikini competitors like Lane Norton He talks about this all the time. We don't exactly know what's going on But we've observed it and you make your metabolism faster by both building muscle and by sending the signals to your body It say we don't need to be thrifty you do those two things and you do them consistently and you do it the right way and Appropriately and you'll see a pretty steep ramp up of the calories.  Well, yeah, it's the two major factors factor one To have more to have more muscle on your body requires more energy to keep it there So it needs more calories than fat does so that's factor one And then factor two if you're telling the body by lifting weights to build more muscle It needs more calories to build the muscle. It doesn't build it out of thin air Yeah, so it needs calories there also So it's not just having more muscle speeds of the metallurgy. It's also the act of trying to build muscle is also requiring more calories The combination of those two factors is what results in what I've observed in my time roughly somewhere between 30 to 50 calories per pound of lean body mass or pound of muscle that you add to your body give or take because there is a Variance per person, but it's a really good number to give come people a kind of an idea of like wow if I really Make an effort to build muscle and I could just put on five or six pounds of muscle and focus that way I potentially could speed my metabolism that much that's a significant difference It is and look, you know a while ago one of the first actually the first time we interviewed What I consider to be one of the smartest professional bodybuilders in the world Ben Pekolsky, you know up until that point up until we met him I thought that one of the the genetic deciding factors one of the factors that determined whether or not Somebody could become a pro bodybuilder besides the fact that they could build lots of muscle and they respond well to exercise and that they You know that their body responded to all the drugs One of the factors that I thought was they probably had incredible Digestion to be able to consume all the calories that it that their body needed to build so much muscle I mean some of these guys are coming in shredded 270 pounds that's what I thought so when I interviewed Ben and I told him this he said it's the opposite He said pro bodybuilders are able to eat less and build tons of muscle They actually can walk around with tons and tons of muscle their body and not have this huge Metabolism spikes one of the reasons why they can carry so much muscle imagine if you were you know 250 pounds you have to consume 10 or 12,000 calories every day It's gonna kill you and yet some of these guys are walking around 5,000 calories 4,000 calories Able to maintain it so there's a bit of a genetic component You know that's influenced there as well But if you want to speed up your metabolism build muscle and then send the signals that tell your body You don't need to be thrifty with calories. That's going to speed up your metabolism How much it speeds up that can be determined on your genetics and some of your past, but that's how you speed it up That's the most effective way I've seen


God is good and he's got good plans for you today. He's got good plans for you every day. Sometimes we don't see it. Sometimes we go through that dark time. We're gonna talk a little bit about those things today, but let me tell you, God is always good. Thank you for joining us for Hope Today. I'm Tom, I'm here with Amanda and Sydney. Tell us about that, Sydney. You know, coming up on Hope Today, overcoming mind battles, you don't wanna miss our conversation with Kathy DeGraw, who has insight and keys she wants to share with you about emotional restoration and spiritual deliverance so you can root out mental triggers and experience peace. You know, Amanda, I think God is really pinpointing and highlighting things with the mind because we gotta get our mind right in this season and understand the root of things so that we can live out and be all we're called to be. And I know this weekend was a really big moment for your family. You had some fun this weekend celebrating. We did, so our son Andrew, he turned 23, but for those of you who have been on the journey with the Brockers and many of the prayer partners praying for us, he was our son who had gone wayward and all I can say is the glory of God. When I look at his life and, you know, Sydney and Tommy, he serves in many of the ministry outlets through the Dream Center and just watching him care for other people and share his story. He works at Recovery Centers of America and he's able to share his story there and we got to go to an open house there and they referred to him as their young pastor. I was like, so it's just, but this is a miracle of God. So we celebrated his life, his birthday with him and we love him so much and look forward to all God has. You posted on Facebook a picture of him with this Bible and I'm like, good looking young man there preaching the word of God. And five years ago, it was a different story. God's taken him on this journey and taken him through. You know, I love that because, you know, we all go through different difficult times and you know, I just want to offer to you if you're going through that difficult time today.  Our prayer partners are always there. They're always standing by. They have this, we've had this ministry since the first show went on in the air in 1979 because we know that we want to connect with you. We want to see God make something happen in your life and prayer is the way to do that. So you can call the number on your screen and get some prayer with the prayer partner today. And just like Tom said, we love, this is the way we love to honor and serve you is having these conversations because we know that God wants to do a work in you and through you so you can be a blessing to others. Well, you know, the mind can be a battlefield and the enemy loves to wage war against it. Kathy DeGraw's a prophetic deliverance minister whose experience is firsthand is on a mission to help others be set free from the bondage of tormenting thoughts so that people like you and me can be all that God has called us to be. She's the author of the new book, Mind Battles, Root Out Mental Triggers to Release Peace. Kathy, we're so glad to have you back with us on Hope Today. Thank you, Sydney. It's an honor and a privilege to be back with you again. Well, it's such a joy to have you with us today.  We all face mind battles. It can be rejection. It can be stress, anxiety, fear. A mind battle is any place that we can't move forward and get the freedom and fullness that Christ has purchased for us. Those struggles, those thoughts that are negative, that are unproductive and unfruitful, and we continually ruminate and think about instead of the victory that we have in Christ Jesus. And Kathy, you have a personal experience with this. Can you just share a little bit of your story and your journey with us? Yes, I had a lot of fear.  And I usually say I was raised to fear. And unfortunately, I think a lot of us can relate to that. But if there was a thunderstorm or tornado, our first reaction was, hurry up, get down in the Michigan cellar.  Always the worst was gonna happen. If you had a headache, it could be a brain tumor. If you had a heart palpitation, you were gonna have a heart attack. And so all these things instilled fear in me. And so even as an adult, I had to get over the fear of thunderstorms and even strong winds. I had to get over the fear of when I had a health or a medical ailment because my mind would always go to the worst instead of towards good in God. And praise God, through the victory in Jesus Christ, the renewing of our mind, capturing every thought, I was able to do that. But it's a continual work in progress for a lot of people's lives. And still my life because I think the thief always is gonna come to steal, kill and destroy. And a lot of us are always gonna hear those words in our soul from our childhood and even our adulthood of the way that we were trained, the behavior patterns that we took on. You know, Kathy, one thing I love that you get really personal in your journey and story.  You've been all over.  But through those moments, those intimate moments with God that he began to impart and give you revelation for how to obtain deliverance when it comes to mind battles. Can you share a little bit with that with us? Well, I think one of the common questions that I always have is, Kathy, I don't know how to get deliverance. I don't know where there's deliverance ministries or how do I do this? And I was in that same situation. And so I just went to the Lord and I laid prostrate on the floor for actually two years and I would just seek the Lord because I wanted him in the process I got deliverance. But in the process, I also got a prophetic anointing to really help people accelerate the process of deliverance. And he showed me how easy it could be. And we talk about that in the book, such as time-lining, finding that root cause that legal right. And so I had to find that even in my own ailments, such as the medical fear. You know, why was that such a torment for me? Well, you know, my son almost died at birth. My husband had a burst appendix and the hospital sent him home. So I had a lot of things that I could say, okay, these are triggers. And so as I was going before the Lord, the Holy Spirit would bring to remembrance what these triggers were. And then he would show me how I could use what I learned to deliver myself to deliver other people. And Sidney, we went from doing eight hour deliverance sessions to be able to deliver people in five minutes to an hour, depending on what they had in their life. And so spending that two years on the floor was worth it now for what I could impart into others. And I liked being at the Lord for two years. Sometimes I wish I could go back to that carpet for two years, but I'm too busy, you know, sharing the gospel and doing everything else now. That's so powerful. I love how he's like expediting, excuse me, the process of just like, okay, there was like eight hours, you know, with like deliverance sessions, but now it is just like a quicker process that he's doing because he's given you the tools and the insight Kathy to help so many. So one thing that you like alluded to and you spoke about is that coming into legal agreement, can you talk about that for a moment? Because a lot of times we don't understand, even as Christians, how we open the door, allow the enemy to come and flood our mind. And then we start having all these thoughts. Can you talk to us about that? What are some of the open doors that we allow for the enemy to come in that is not in agreement with God and His word? Well, first of all, legal agreement was in my case, it started out as a generational curse of fear because I was taught how to fear driving on ice, fear of the storms, fear of health ailments. But over the years, I never pressed through to my breakthrough. I didn't know I could be free of it. And so I took on those characteristics and behaviors and my daughters were afraid of wind and storms because when they would come around, I would arise in fear. And that's coming into agreement with it. And so when we don't root it out, we come into agreement with it. If we have a health ailment, we're afraid of that and we don't cast it down and out. We don't rebuke it, say, by Christ stripes, I'm healed. I'm a walking manifestation of my healing, declaring out those positive things. We come into agreement with that. And so we have to break agreement. And I think that's one of the most powerful things that I can tell people. The Bible says we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities. And some of this warfare in our mind is self-inflicted. It's things that we took on, it's our flesh that we need to get control of, but some of it is demonic attacks. And so in the case where it becomes a demonic attack because we have taken on that characteristic for so long, it can become a demonic stronghold in our life. We need to audibly break agreement and we need to allow the spiritual realm to hear that we're taking authority over our situation and saying, fear go in the name of Jesus. I break agreement with tormenting thoughts. I break agreement with negative thinking. I break agreement with generational depression. I break agreement with generational anxiety. I break agreement. We're coming out of agreement with it and then replacing it with the word of God and what the word of God says. And the word of God says that we have the mind of Christ. The word of God says in 2 Timothy 1-7 that we've not been given a spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind, which actually means self-discipline and self-controlled. And so we have to come out of agreement with the things that are happening and into agreement with the word of God.  I mean, so much so, Sidney, that I'm still looking through the book of Psalms to try and grab more nuggets and more scriptures to memorize so that I can always be putting those out and keeping the positive in the forefront of my mind. Kathy, I'm the same way too, like looking for the word to stand in agreement, to break off the lies of the enemy because there is such a rampant spirit of fear. But one thing I love that you pointed out in your book, excuse me, is that you said that there's another side of fear that we oftentimes we don't look at or we don't consider and you say fear exists to keep us safe and God created fear to protect us, give us energy and help us react and act. So can you talk to us about the healthy side of fear when we have it in the context when we look at through the vein of God?  Think about like when you're driving down the road and you think you're gonna get in an accident and you overcompensate driving so that, you know, that fear that starts to trigger, it actually saves you from the accident. And so fear was really intended to help us.  You know, some of these ways that fear is actually good, it's designed, Sydney, to protect us and keep us safe, okay? But man and the enemy has distorted what God designed. And so I think what we have to do, and I want you to really hear me, is we have to embrace fear. Not in a negative way that, oh, I'm in fear, but we gotta embrace them, we gotta look at it and renew our mind that fear is actually a good thing when used properly in alignment with the way that God intended. And so that comes by, you know, taking each situation and saying, okay, I shouldn't fear this. Now God created fear to be a good thing. How can I take this negative storm that I'm fearing and have it be this good, you know, godly, reverential fear of the Lord is what we're supposed to have, but also towards our situation. And so in that situation, when a storm is predicted, my husband and I get up, we walk around the house, we anoint the house with oil, and we decree and we declare that no trees are gonna fall on the house, that we're not gonna get any water damage. And so we take that fear that was intended to make us scared of something, and we use it for that reactionary, that positive thing that God called it to be in the beginning. Oh, I love that so much, is like changing our mindset over fear and looking at it as proper context with God. And the other thing I want you to dive into, because this was like so mind blowing in such revelation, when you were talking about the mind binding spirits, can you define what they are, how they cripple us, and how do we overcome them? I really believe identifying the mind binding spirits is gonna be the key to many people's breakthrough. So when we have fear, or we can even say for this case, rejection, depression, anxiety, stress, any kind of emotional torment and trauma, this is first of all, torment, okay? It's a lie that we're believing, it's a way that we're reacting. But as Christians and people of God, what do we try and do? We try to arise above those feelings, and we try and pull our thoughts in good in God directions. But let's be honest, it doesn't happen. And we feel like there's this force, so pull into that negativity, into that very thing we're fearing, and we keep trying to draw it back, but we can't, why can't we? It's because a demonic spirit is at work. A demonic spirit is targeting your mind. Think about someone who's in rejection. What are your first thoughts? I'm gonna get rejected again. You're constantly, our mind does loop and ruminate, so it goes in circles into the same negative direction. But as people, we can pull our mind back into good in God thoughts. But when you're feeling like this force, like I am locked down, I am shut up, I cannot get my brain out of this negative way of thinking. You almost feel like spiritually, emotionally paralyzed, because you can't pray, you can't worship, you're trying to read your word, you're trying to renew those thoughts. There is a greater force at work, and it's called a mind-binding spirit. And I believe this is a reason why a lot of people don't have freedom from depression and rejection and fear, as because we've cast out the demon of fear, rejection and depression, but we haven't cast out the mind-binding spirit. And as I've delivered thousands of people internationally, what I've seen is as we've cast out that mind-binding spirit, people are getting their freedom because they no longer have that pole that I call it a lure seducing into that wrong way of thinking. And so if you don't have that, even those simple times that your thoughts do go in an unproductive, unfruitful negative direction, now you don't have a demon, a demonic spirit coming and drawing your mind away. So it's easier for you to capture that thought and put it in a good, godly direction. Kathy, can you just, I really just feel like God just wants you for a moment, just to speak directly to the viewers out there that somebody can totally say, this is me, I'm having these ruminating thoughts, my mind is all over the place. So can you just take a next couple of minutes just to let the Lord, Holy Spirit, use you however you felt led and just to speak to the person out there because this is critical for someone's breakthrough. Amen. First of all, I wanna tell you, no matter where you are, no matter how many times you've tried to get breakthrough, you can have it. Jesus is no respecter of persons. And maybe you feel down, maybe you've been depressed, maybe you feel fearful and you're like, Kathy, I've tried this, I've tried that, I've tried this.  Jesus purchased your freedom and no matter where your mind is, if we look at Mark five, the man of the gathering, he was sitting in his right mind after Jesus cast out the legion and you too can be in your right mind. So right now in the name of Yeshua Messiah, I speak comfort into you. I speak shalom peace into you in Jesus Christ's name.   I command stress and anxiety to leave you in the name of Yeshua. I speak in decree to that mind-binding spirit. I take authority over you right now by the blood of the Lamb and I command you out of our friends right now in the name of Jesus Christ. I come against procrastination in your life, those of you that are feeling stagnant who aren't pressing through to your breakthrough because you feel defeated or victimized. I command that victimization, that defeat feeling to leave you in the name of Jesus Christ. I speak in decree that you will prosper in everything that you set your hand to.  I prophesy right now that this is your transformation day. This is your Kairos moment that God is moving. He is coming in right now and removing all that negativity from you. All those word curses spoken over you and I speak in decree peace to come into you right now. I annihilate every, every demonic principality and power that's coming against you. Anyone that's spoken fear over you in the name of Jesus Christ and I call forth your full freedom in Jesus' name. Ooh, Kathy, I could just, when you were just declaring and decreeing, I just like literally could feel in my body just things, this shift that is happening right now in people's homes that are watching it. That is you and you are saying that is me what Kathy just declared, what she just prayed. Give us a call at our prayer line at<PHONE_NUMBER>. This is D-Day. This is Deliverance Day because we wanna see you set free. And you know, I just think it is so important in this season, Kathy, that we just have an understanding of our identity in Christ and Him and that Yeshua is the one that sets us free. Thank you so much for all that you shared for your ministry and what you poured out. The book is called Mind Battles, Root Out Mental Triggers to Release Peace by Kathy DeGraw. We'll have a link on our website at ctvn.org. Thank you so much, Kathy, for joining us today. Thank you for having me. Whew, you know, we are so, I'm just like still sitting here, talking to Amanda, just trying to take all that in. I think there's certain moments where the Holy Spirit just starts to begin moving and a wooing that we feel right in our spirits, Amanda. I know, I just love how she talked about wanting Him. And I think, you know, that's where she was. That's how her freedom came. And so today we wanna encourage you to want Him like nothing else. Just want Jesus, want His Word, desire Him. And when you sit with Him, you're gonna have that freedom. Like she said, you know, the mind-binding spirits, that's something that we walked our Son, watched Him walk through because He had a lot of wrong mindsets and it led Him down a pathway of destruction. But God, when He started to want God, that is what we watched and this Word became real to Him. And today we see the life that He's living and that this is possible for you.  And God did something. Something happened inside of our Son, inside of His heart, that He began to want Jesus. And the words were no longer words from the Bible that mom and dad were just saying. It became bread of life to Him. And that's what this needs to be for you today. Bread of life, begin to want Him. God can do the impossible, I promise you. He does not fail. Well, I mean, what she says is so true that we might start off just hearing fear, fearful things from our parents, from others around us. We hear these fearful things and then they become settled in there and they become a stronghold of the enemy. And you know, that prayer is, that she just prayed was so powerful, but it's the beginning. I mean, it's the beginning of what God wants to do. And then we're walking in those things and we're placing all those fears that we had with the truth of God. She mentioned that too. I think that's so key. Cause I've talked to so many people with her on the prayer line or praying at church or whatever. There's fear, Sidney. There's things that have locked in that have almost irrational, really irrational in some cases that have gotten that stronghold. That stronghold needs to be broken, but then there needs to be a walking in it as well. You know, this is a topic that means so much to me because I walked in this and I can say that I received deliverance. And there was even something recently that was at Covenant Church of Pittsburgh. I was at this women's conference, the Holy Spirit broke out and it was talking about the spirit of rejection. And sometimes I think a lot of times in our walks as Christians that we don't want to admit that we have things that are inside of us, things that are holding back. And I'm telling you, there was, we had this breakout session and there was this, we were just going in on the spirit of rejection and going back to the root where it happens. Like just different things. We had to go back and like asking Holy Spirit like take us back to where the door was open.  But from that moment, that spirit of rejection, I felt something list off of me. And I know a lot of you that have walked through trauma that maybe it's been sexual abuse, whatever abuse, domestic abuse, that you are dealing with a spirit of rejection, that you are dealing with a spirit of fear. And can I tell you that, yes, it's like getting therapy, but also the spiritual component because it is real, you gotta get to the root.  If we have to be revived, revival first starts within us. If we are carrying things that we don't know, we can leak and bleed on other people without knowing it and it's casualties. So I think in this season, everything that Kathy shared, it is so important that we fight and understand the battle that's going within so that we can go out. So when we're on the streets that we can say, I've walked through this, I can see what it looks like, I can identify that spirit and then we can help other people. Point them to the cross, point them to Jesus and knowing that because Jesus got up and He was resurrected, we have that resurrection power in us and there's nothing that when we are in Christ that can hold us back and take us down. Such a powerful word Sid. And you know, just talking about wanting Him, we're gonna want Him right now as we go to the Word of God. We're gonna go to 2nd Corinthians 10, verses four and five. And it says, for the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. And this is the living Word of God. This is the bread of life. And I love how, you know, Kathy said we can't just realize the bad thought. You've got to take captive of it but then you've got to replace it with the Word of God. And the only way you're gonna be able to do that is by hanging out with Jesus and getting into the Word. And I encourage you from the bottom of myself to seek after the kingdom of God and His righteousness. He will not fail you. I just hear Him keep saying that, Tom. He will not fail you. Well, isn't it interesting in that verse? It says, because I think about spiritual warfare pulling down strongholds. It says casting down arguments, okay? Casting down arguments, casting down things that have been put upon you, those arguments from the devil, those arguments that those wrong thoughts, it doesn't mean actually arguing there. It talks about, it's a wrong thought, a wrong teaching, a wrong fear, a wrong thing that's been put on you. That's the thing that's being cast down. And then what do we do? It says it there as well. Taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. That's the next step. Once that argument's cast out, we don't wanna pick it up again. We don't wanna pick up that thing that has been like a, it's been a chain, but it's also been a comfort in a way. And we pick that thing up again. No, we're gonna continue to take every thought captive and believe that God has freedom for you today. So this is the plan and the purpose of God. You're watching this program today because God wants you to have freedom.  We come to Christ and praise God for all the miraculous things he does. But some things that have been ingrained, they take time to work their way out. God's got that for you today. You know, one thing that comes to those thoughts is like I've heard it said that one time I was in a therapy session, I remember this Christian therapist, she told me, she said, talk back to the thought. When it starts coming in your mind and you hear it addressed and it's like, okay, I hear you and replace it with the truth. Replace it with the word of God. And maybe that's something you need to start doing today because we all have sometimes these mind binding thoughts, these ruminating thoughts that just don't let up and they don't quit. But can I tell you friend, when you start placing it in Jesus' hands, when you're saying like, God, like there's been moments, I've been like, God, take these thoughts away from me.  Maybe it's like going to therapy, having community, having a safe place to go where you can release those things. But in this season, we truly believe that God wants you to have a well-mind, a well-mind because I can tell you that going through my own process, that there is hope on the other side of it, that you can be set free from that tormenting and those thoughts and that Jesus will be with you every step of the way. You know, I just think of the apostle Paul. He was persecuting the church. He meets Jesus and everything changes. And things, that's the power of God. The power of God unto salvation. But as we follow Christ, he continues to grow us. He continues to change things. He continues to heal us. It's not all at once. It's a progression. So walk in that progression today. Seek God. He's got newness of life for you today. On tomorrow's Hope Today, learn how to see the good in everyday life and embrace gratitude as a way of life. Author Michelle Howe encourages us with how to hone a grateful, grace-filled heart no matter what the circumstances. That's tomorrow on Hope Today. Cornerstone Television wishes to thank all our faithful viewers, whose consistent prayers and financial support have made this program possible.


My name is Nat Sims. I'm a cardiac anesthesiologist from Mass General Hospital and Partners Health Care in Boston. I'm really happy to be here today to affirm Partners Health Care's commitment to medication safety, to the Patient Safety Movement Foundation, and to this audience. In 2005, Partners Health Care System in Boston, Massachusetts set a goal of reducing medication errors with the application of technology by 2010. How would we do this? By implementing multiple technology systems that would allow caregivers to order medications through a computerized order entry, with decision support, with electronic medication administration record, with bar coding, and with integrated smart drug infusion pumps at every patient bedside. In 2010, the electronic integration piece of the infusion pump implementation was not completed. The technology was simply not mature. Four years later, in 2014, I stood on this stage with Bill Churchill, the pharmacy director at the Brigham and Women's Hospital, and we proposed a new timeline 2018 for data exchange between pumps and clinical information systems, providing auto-programming, auto documentation, and more to be implemented. And happily, the decision to implement a single integrated drug infusion pump platform across the entire Partners Enterprise was indeed announced in November of 2018 with the involvement of Baxter International. So here we are in 2019, and this commitment is public information. If you search online for the words Brigham, Baxter, and pumps, you'll find an article from one of our hospitals, The Faulkner, with a headline that says, New IV Pumps Promise, Streamlined Education and Training, Integration with Epic, the Clinical Information System, Cost Savings and Improved Patient Safety. The article states that the decision to do this was made after hundreds of hours of demonstrations and pilot implementations, more than 1500 written evaluations by Frontline Workforce, and outstanding work done by the Partners Healthcare Medical Device Plug and Play Lab. Who completed simulations, interoperability, and cybersecurity analyses. As a person myself who has been involved with drug infusion pump design and development and intellectual property since the 1980s, and who worked collaboratively with a small company called Sigma International from Medina, New York to develop what is now Baxter's flagship infusion pump device, the Spectrum. I see this achievement and its implementation not just as a product decision, but rather as a powerful affirmation of Partners Healthcare's continual quest for excellence. Partners is an organization now of 73,000 employees, 13 hospitals, and $17 billion in annual revenue. So as a caregiver and as a patient, I am proud to benefit from our commitment to high-performance medicine, which means to us electronically augmented patient care. According to standardized consensus-developed clinical best practices that are embodied upstream and downstream, as Peter said, hard wired throughout order sets, formularies, drug libraries that reside in pumps, standardized drug mixes, and drug preparation. We salute Baxter having signed, just in January, earlier this month, the patient safety movements open data pledge. And yet there is so much more to be done. We look forward to fully implementing automatic documentation of the constantly changing drug infusion pump settings in dynamic event-driven environments such as the cardiac operating room when a lung transplant or a heart transplant is being conducted. These are big challenges to get that right. And we look forward on the second horizon to implementing systems that can control human physiology, particularly the anesthetic state, to keep patients out of birth suppression when they're sedated in the ICU or anesthetized in a surgical setting in a closed-loop or semi-closed-loop way. So as Winston Churchill, not Bill Churchill, said during World War II during the North African campaign, he said, now this is not the end. It is not even the beginning of the end, but it is perhaps the end of the beginning of our journey. So this quote, obviously, applicable to our goal of zero preventable deaths from medication errors. So we continue to strive putting patients first and providing the best healthcare possible. So thank you all and thank you to my friend Joe Chiani for bringing us together, together with his wonderful team.


Welcome to the annual report for the Education and Skills Committee. The committee's 11 members are made up from parties across the Parliament. The responsibility of the committee is to hold the government to account on a wide range of issues. These issues range from early years in childcare to primary education, secondary education, further and higher education, child protection and of course skills. We place a big focus on people who have got real experiences of what we've been looking at and this makes a big difference to the way that we approach our work and the decisions that are made by the committee. We started this parliamentary year with an inquiry in May in June on teacher workforce planning for Scotland schools. 700 teachers and trainee teachers took our survey to inform our inquiry. As a result of our evidence, the government has commissioned work to improve teacher training in relation to online safety and additional support for learning. In June we also held an inquiry into ensuring the safety of Scotland school buildings and then from September to November we took evidence on the children and young people information sharing Scotland bill. In December we considered the Scottish Government's draft budget. We made a number of recommendations such as on funding for additional support needs. This continues our earlier work on additional support needs that led to the government commissioning research on the experiences of mainstream school children with ASN and also their parents. We also undertook a visit to Glasgow in January to learn about what work is being done to widen access to higher education in Scotland. We heard from students and staff who are working to widen access to their institutions. We also used our trip to Glasgow to look at the Scottish Government's proposal for education reform. Visited the Kepwch campus to meet with pupils and teachers. We also held a formal committee meeting and discussion groups with parents, pupils and teachers. We met with over 100 people on what was a great day. We continued our work in the Scottish Government's proposed education reforms by visiting Peterhead on the 29th of January. We met pupils at Peterhead Academy and we met informally with head teachers from across the North East. We also visited the Scottish Maritime Academy to learn more about how colleges and their EU 27 students will be affected by Brexit. In February and March we launched our Ask the Minister evidence sessions giving members of the public a chance to suggest questions for Scottish Government Ministers. We heard from Scottish Government Ministers on issues including widening access to universities, early learning and childcare and apprenticeships. We also heard from the Independent Care Review including care experienced young people who have shaped the reviews so far. In late March a group of us continued our work in the proposed education reforms by making a visit to Sweden and Finland. The Children and Young People's Commissioner Scotland produced a new strategic plan in March and the committee was pleased to be represented at the launch event with the young advisors who helped create the plan. In April and May we launched a new enquiry about children experiencing poverty and their attainment at school. Again we have met lots of people that both inside and outside of school help support young people who are experiencing poverty.  Your input has been invaluable. If you wish to further engage with the committee or you wish to be an unmailing list then please just contact us. Thank you once again for your help.


It is very much a possibility that one can transform his form, if he wishes to. And even today, it is a phenomena that's been witnessed by many people, particularly Hanuman Bhak devotees, the occult scientists have many aspects to it. One Veda is dedicated towards this. I'm trying to rise to hear about Hanuman. About what? Hanuman? Hanuman. They were like, used to make Jain forms whenever he wanted, used to fly, used to have a very small, like, used to concise his body to smaller size, or just any kitchenery or small, like, small things or something like that. Thank you. About a certain person becoming smaller big or flying or doing something else, is that a possibility? Very much a possibility. Very much a reality. It was very much prevalent in this country, in this culture, but it was looked down upon. But it was looked up elsewhere, particularly in the native American cultures. There is a whole tradition of shamanism where it is… even today, there's any amount of talk about how a native American shaman becomes an eagle, becomes a fly, becomes a wolf, transforms himself into some other form and gets there and all this. So these are not just stories. It is very much a possibility that one can transform his form if he wishes to. There is a panel in the Dhyanalinga where somebody transformed himself into a form that was relevant to someone else. Have you noticed it? You did not? So, about people taking on the forms that they wish according to the convenience, is not a new thing or it's not an unheard of thing almost in every part of the world it is there. Particularly it is being publicized in a big way about the North American and South American shamans these days, about shamans becoming eagle and becoming wolf is these two forms are very common for them. That was not unheard of here, but it was looked down upon in this culture. There it is being looked up to because this is not spirituality, this is a cult. Here our occult scientists, I call them scientists because they are that kind, they don't bother to convert themselves into a bird or an animal because the risk, there is a beautiful story about what's the name of this sage who swallows the… you know whom I'm talking about? Ashwini Kumaras and they went to him to learn this Shukla Chariya. Yeah, he took the form of a horse is it? Ashwini Kumaras took the form of horse and he swallowed what? Shukla Chariya I think. So there's a whole big story which is maybe a kind of a branch out from Mahabharata, it's more from Krishna Aothara kind of thing. So there are any number of historical events like that and but that was considered crude way of doing things because when you take on the form of something else, this body has to be preserved and it can always be misused. So there have been incidents where somebody left his body here in some safety and let's say became an eagle and flew for some time but when the eagle came back, the body is gone. Now what do the… what does the eagle do?   Being a eagle is not a big thing. Though he flies high, he's only looking down all the time, he's better to sit here and look up rather than go up and look down really. So here the occult scientists evolved other kinds of methods. That is, they themselves do not take on other forms. They pick other forms and make the forms work in a certain way. They will take a certain animal. Usually one thing that is heavily used is a chicken or you think that's a waste, huh? So they will release the… they… you know the chicken has to be young and vibrant chicken, uncooked. So release the chicken's life and use that life form to do certain things for you. Rather than you taking on the chicken's body, you make that chicken do things controlled by remote controlled chicken, all right?  Because you becoming a chicken, there is a risk.  So they evolved better, more sophisticated methods to deal with the same things. Is that possible? Hanuman becoming small, big, very much possible. And even today it is a phenomena that's been witnessed by many people, particularly Hanuman Bhak, the devotees. Change of form is a very common thing among the devotees of Hanuman even today because that is the trend he set. Hanuman is a superman, a little bit of tail and facial features. The rest is superman. He is a super-superman. His strength is his devotion. The devotion in his heart is so strong. Because of that, he stood out shining because of his sheer devotion.  That's the story of Hanuman. It works even if you happen to be a donkey. So, yes, the occult sciences have many aspects to it. One Veda is dedicated towards this. Atarvana Veda is all about this.


Circulating capital includes intermediate goods and operating expenses, i.e., short-lived items that are used in production and used up in the process of creating other goods or services. This is roughly equal to intermediate consumption. Thiner distinction include rama materials, intermediate goods, inventories, ancillary operating expenses and working capital. It is contrasted with fixed capital. The term was used in more specialized ways by classical economists such as Adam Smith, David Ricardo and Karl Marx. Where the distinction is used, circulating capital is a component of total capital, also including fixed capital used in a single cycle of production. In contrast to fixed capital, it is used up in every cycle rama materials, basic and intermediate materials, combustible, energy. In accounting, the circulating capital comes under the heading of current assets. Building on the work of Cane and Torgo, Adam Smith 1776 made the first explicit distinction between fixed and circulating capital.1 in his usage. Circulating capital includes wages and labor maintenance, money, and inputs from land, mines, and fisheries associated with production.2. According to Karl Marx's second volume of DOS Capital, and of Chapter 7 the turnover of capital influences the processes of production and self-expansion. The two new forms of capital, circulating and fixed, accrue to capital from the process of circulation and affect the form of its turnover. In the following chapters Marx defines fixed capital and circulating capital. In Chapter 9 he claims, we have here not alone quantitative but also qualitative difference. Conventionally, physical capital assets held by a business for more than one year are regarded in annual accounting statements as fixed to the rest as circulating. In modern economies such as the United States, roughly half of the intermediate inputs bought or used by businesses are in fact services, and not goods.


All right, welcome back. You are still hanging out with us right here on the hashtag part of TV show and as well There's a question of the day right there. Let me just read it to you just in case you have no idea We are asking you how do you handle feelings of guilt and shame and literally that is leading to the conversation We're having right here a journey of healing and forgiveness And I'm still hanging out with turbo and lois now before we went on a break We are actually talking about how you know this person was triggered and the be like if I meet you again Nope, don't even continue. You're reminding me of something that I don't want to get there anymore But generally life is all about pain management I Remember think it was there's this new anchor from CNN and it took home or she used to have a show called the Cuomo She I think she's related to a governor called Cuomo, but in the US and During house he sign of what he was living CNN He said she has learned that life is all about pain management But also how do you manage pain so that it leads to a place where you are you have a free heart Because I believe if you carry, you know, they usually say there's a certain pain that keeps on festering in people's lives That keeps on appearing when they're mature and whatnot So how do you handle general life pain that can make you a free person so that you easily let go? You can easily let go whenever something crazy happens. Maybe I can start with you lois I think the only thing you just need to do is set boundaries with yourself. They don't have to Favour any other person just to start from you because the moment you know how far is far You cannot just allow anything that tags along to get into your heart and that one is get so easy for you because any other time People are going to offend you and they don't know what triggers your anger issues. Yeah, right And now you've mentioned the word trigger. Maybe Trevor Most of us actually a trigger but so many things you could be at work and somebody walks in that you don't want to see again And maybe because it's something they did to you last year And maybe you never had that courage or the capacity of this person even time to say a but they what you did last year Disgusted me, but you held on to it and then they pop up again in another Maybe I took a your company kind of queen You know and then another person similar like that pops up and it keeps on making you angry And you know you they're holding on to pain and anger and resentment. Is it possible to totally alleviate that kind of experience? I think can I say like maybe 90% Because the thing the thing about triggers and the way they work is that it's it's also a neurological thing Yeah, your brain a trigger essentially is like a sign of danger that your brain recognizes and then it activates the emergency system So that's why you find when you're triggered Suddenly you are extremely angry emotions are very high It's like your legs are ready to run or you're ready to punch someone see those are now the signs of the emergency system going online Right, so I think it's it's it comes a lot of practice It comes a lot a lot of practice because even like for someone like me till this day I'm still like I'm seven years into therapy my own therapy and I'm still managing triggers Right, but I think that knowledge of the trigger really helps and then understanding that as much as it's a emergency system And it can be activated immediately. You have a choice So like in like I love that example you've given let's say you transfer on and a company and then there's another person Minding you of this one It's understanding that hey, I'm triggered this person has reminded me of this other person who did this and this But this person is different that threat is not here All right, but it's hard to see that difference if you're carrying this filter exactly now You said some that's what I'm really emphasizing the thing of awareness Just become aware that this trigger is here for me I am most likely going to act out towards this current person yet the original offender is somewhere else Or they're not around so become aware of that and then there's something that I talked to clients a lot about called opposite action Oh opposite action. Yeah, so when you feel that anger when you feel that irritation that deep frustration What what they already the intention you have there is to act out someone to hurt them Do you know to act out the anger? What is the opposite action of that be be kind? You know, yeah, and you seen that even in that kindness doing that opposite action Also to change your brain that hey, even if we have this filter that we're carrying we can now choose how to act differently Even when we are triggered right and the more you practice that the easier it becomes at some point now You can identify triggers you might feel your heart racing kiddo go you do breathe in exercise You say, okay, thank you. Thank you. You know, that's that's coming. You say thank you. Yeah, that also Then you say, okay, you know what I was triggered for a moment, but I can move on with my day I've come down. I've done beating exercises opposite action or any other thing. I can move on with my day But it really just comes with practice and you have to keep being aware of the trigger when it comes up Do something about it anytime it happens. Just keep practicing that and I think like from what you've said I've understood it self-awareness that it's a powerful. It's a powerful skill literally just being aware that If it happens like this, oh my goodness, it can take me there But I'm gonna stand my ground and definitely I can make it through Now our stories now self sabotage. I also believe it comes from pain And there's people who still are hard on themselves for things they did, you know Maybe they were forced to do something that personally if they were in their same mind Or if they were to relook again and start working that journey, they wouldn't do it But you know, they did it because of maybe money Maybe they were trying to save a life, but they they're still holding on to that anger Do you feel like it's possible for such a person to ever reach at a place? Well, they'd be happy again It has reminded me of this song by Kambua. She sings and talks about she's free again She's happy again. I think it's a gospel song Is it possible to be happy again to be free again to start again and you know, enjoy life to the fullest and totally let go Yeah, I think it's so easy because Everything about mental wellness starts from you if you have positive with it then we can have it because I'm thinking about it in a perspective where This is one thing I've been doing for the longest time and no one can help me overcome that thing But I have to sit down and decide I need to work it out from my end And the moment I make a decision about it I'm ready to walk out of that situation, but anytime I'm holding back I have the fear of what is going to happen How will people feel about these if I have to open up about something I'm struggling with How will people feel how are they going to take me? I mean do not go anywhere It has to start from you like you just need to be the first priority and you to come first Then other things are going to walk your way In the best way they can because I'm I'm thinking about someone maybe who is struggling with something like masturbation, right? That is someone that we as a result of trauma as well Yeah, yeah, because I have I think I had a client to one week ago And I was so shocked how it came about they were living in a single room with the parents Wow And the with the sisters and the brothers and he was very young. Yes, and he just came to realize What happens and as he grew he wanted to discover weight. I see them do this. I want to do this. Wow Yeah By the time he got to that space It was messy because most of the time that young man was spending time with his dad because the mom was away And he just so everything happened and was like, ah, why not try this and let me tell you before He walk out of that. It was a whole situation Because he came confessed to me and I was like you see in in masturbation. We start from when did he start what triggers you? So that we can overcome what you need to do all those steps and I was like It is not someone else it's you and your dad you can go and face your dad and tell him you came to realize Those things happen from him. It has to start from you And I was like the best thing you can do now that you have the knowledge and you know how far it can Take you as much as you think about it and you want to practice it. You just need to Start somewhere like I want to work it out. I want to leave this I need to meet someone who I can talk to and even open up to because yes, the first solution is talking about it And then you you'll be that thing feeling. I'm I'm in a free world and I'm gonna put someone who can actually help me Right. Yes, and and turbo before we just get to the comments I feel like in this day and age people are bound and let me use the word bondage people are in bondage Of things maybe that have been self-induced and some of them They are still carrying experiences mostly from their parents their childhood, etc And for a person to be free like she said you need to make a conscious decision of I'm intentionally going to start Stopping this behavior because I also believe behavior makes your character And that's how people perceive you out there and it starts maybe from an experience that you saw like from the example You've given and then you start acting out and then it becomes a behavior And then finally makes your character and people out there could be seeing you differently and judging you, but they just don't know the story Right. All right. Do we have the feedback please? We have asked you a question of the day. Let me just get to it How do you handle our feelings of guilt and shame and maybe I also love to hear from you By the way after we read the comments, how can a person handle our feelings of guilt and shame?  Okay. Thank you so much Glenblane as I'm watching a live from Vigga County shout out to Vigga massive as well Huh, and it was Cleopatra Belfast clear. I said my own up on but not to know how you know Believing that tomorrow is another day. Wow. That's a lot of strength.  I said my watching from the net Nakuru County or say on a crew massive. Thank you so much The question of the day is how do you handle feelings of guilt and shame? And then I need to orbit orbit and I say man I know a future do not let me go. I love for nice kids. I'm ziki. Wow music is your therapy, right? I love that. I love that. Oh, but Frank Kiga and I said my watching from Kangemi shout out to Kangemi where where and then Kennedy Joomba as sirigua And I said my good evening. Good evening to you, Kennedy Why are you watching us from a bit from me and then Susie Kesh and I said I tuned in from Tika lois Akusali meh definitely at Akusali meh in just a bit to Keander. Okay, Julius Muregg and I said my Pomo Yes, Anna Moshi Kali. I said my following live from Changara, Tesu, right? Continue to interact with us on the hashtag part of TV show. The question is again How do you handle feelings of guilt and shame?  How can a person handle feelings of guilt and shame? Because I believe they're related anyways If you're feeling shameful definitely you're guilty of something and it could be maybe imposed an experience or maybe an encounter Let me start with myself anytime. I've ever found myself in a space where I feel shame It has nothing to do with any other person Right, it's me and that's the only way can be able to deal with it because at times we think I can the only way can get over it if when people justify it like See if you're a partner who could say because shame is basically something you never expected to do But it has happened, but it has been interpreted differently by someone else. Yeah But how should they dwell in what people say concerning me? Because maybe it comes from a place of self-esteem because I believe our self-esteem also plays a huge role in terms of mental grit You know you feeling brave enough courageous and not like Swimming in that space of like what are they thinking about me now? I believe it takes it takes a lot of mental gravitas to feel confident and brave and like I did that forget it man I'm so here it's life. It takes a lot of mental grit To feel like that and even say that So probably this person has some facets of them that are broken now in terms of self-esteem Do don't you think so turbo? Possibly yeah and for me the way I like to look at like guilt and shame I like to see like guilt as I have done something wrong and shame as I am something wrong For me, that's how I've come to understand them from my own experience And for me whenever shame comes up, I try to check. Okay. Am I actually wrong like as a person am I wrong? Or is it that I'm just a human being who made a mistake? Right, you know, and he or am I just a human being who made the wrong decision? Yeah, it's very important to distinguish between the two because a lot of times you are not a bad person You are a person who did a wrong thing And sometimes you're not even aware it was a wrong thing You just make an honest mistake. Do anything and I don't know and maybe you are blamed for it You see and it permanently damages you now. That's what the shame comes in. You start feel like I am the mistake I am the wrongness in the thing that I did but I think it's so important to distinguish the two so that you know Okay, you know what and this is now where that self-esteem comes in You have to make sure that your self-esteem is not in question Okay, if I make it umbaya make sure your self-esteem is removed from the equation and then look at the action you did And so, you know what I disrespected this person. I had this person sometimes even about yourself. I disrespected myself I had myself can I apologize can I make amends so that your self-esteem remains untouched You know that you are just a human being who's trying but the action you did is the problem Yeah, and actions can be corrected right behavior can be corrected So for me, usually that's what I try to do when it comes to myself. I try not to reach the point of Saying to ever you're a bad person because I also know that that's to me mentally The moment I say that I spiral now. That's when I start self-sabotaging. I'm like, you know what?  Yeah, because I'm bad Okay, I'll show everyone I see I'm not I don't need to reach that point where I'm starting to destroy everything else if I did one wrong thing two wrong things address those ones Make amends apologize Right, maybe we can also not talk about the importance of why should I forgive and how will it lead to healing? But then also like you said, you know sometimes when you experience some of these things that we go through I believe just they're saying Gen Z's have a lot of mental greeters compared to millennials I don't know if that's true though, but you guys will tell me they feel like Gen Z's or cause strong They can stand up for themselves.  You can't challenge it But Millennials for us born 1990 to the maybe let in 1998 Apple This is in your body, but we are still under control like we can zip ends up, but while I'm depressed and period There's nothing you can't do about it Let's take about why it's important for person to forgive and how does it reflect in their personal? Let's say progress in life. Yeah, does it reflect at some point when you start now letting go? Does even your personal appearance change because because I believe holding on to so many things It's sometimes, you know, there's somebody who said it's spiritual like it's baggage That's just seated there.  Mingi. There's a person who said we're gonna miss you Mingi at us. You know, there's a Kwanzaa up Is it possible to for a person to unload this music or Mingi idea and they come back progress in life We can start with your noise. I think it's so easy to forgive Because the moment you forgive It's on your it's for your own benefits doesn't have to be the other person Yeah, because most of the time we fail if someone made a wrong thing to me The only way they can forgive me is me approaching them But you see there people who are unapproachable even after they have done a wrong thing to you What do you do you first delete?   Oh my god. What are you telling us? But you dismiss everything that they're doing? Yeah, but that but this person has a right though. They have a right to feel like that. Yeah, they have but It has to start with me The question is is that person aware that they hurt me they could not be aware about it Maybe you come and I'm here. Yeah, but if you're sure about it And those people cannot even get to a point where you can talk about it first forgive yourself Right anything else can wait because maybe they have their own seasons There are people who take a very long time before they forgive you because they have that bitterness They cannot just imagine how you did it because they have a perfect image of you rather than coming in talk about it Let's because I feel most of the time even in people who break up in friendships just mere friendships. It's because they feel I Cannot apologize first Oh, wow in that perspective of my ego is up there. So I'm going to be Person is going to make you make me a lesser person But for me anytime I hurt you I'm going to be very quick to say sorry And it's not just saying sorry is saying why are you sorry because at times you're like, I'm sorry. What's next? What are you sorry for by the way because you walk through that path very fast? I'm sorry. See Paul a bus Is that an enough reason? Why are you sorry by the moment you say I apologize for these entities It makes you feel that person has had time to think about what they did and they are really sorry about what they did All right, but you know those people also bring it Ah, that's like it took up my EOP a way but also when you look at it people process things differently to you It could be a molehill to him It's a mountain to above and also still on that regard. What should a person forgive and how does it? Reflect in the normal facets of their well-being especially when it comes to even making life progress. I Think just forgive for yourself Even for me, this is a lesson. I've had to learn the hard way Because I was one of those people who come to me because say for very many years of my life Right and teach the point where this person is living their life In fact, they're doing very well. They're very successful, but for me.   That's good. Oh God You start even question. Are you punishing me God? I said why are you punishing me and I was one who was wronged. You go through that process But I think I think that that thing of like forgiveness is for you It starts it starts from here, right? You have to realize that forgiveness is not about letting that person go after they round you But it's about I like that the thing the image you painted of like burdens. It's about you and burdening yourself, right? It's about you deciding. I'm not going to drink this poison expecting them to die Because the burden is really on you and sometimes actually, you know the thing is I think also We have a certain image of forgiveness that forgiveness is about I have to let you go You know, I have to make sure justice is not served but forgiveness is about me Realizing that okay, you know what? I was hurt full stop right. It's okay. That one is a fact But not I was hurt. Is there a way that I can let it go? So that I can look forward You know, just like that thing instead of looking down Can I stop obsessing and constantly thinking about this thing that this person did and look up and see that by the way My life is bigger than this thing that this person did to me It takes time. It's a process and it's a journey. You walk it But remember also the way we can sometimes say the practice of forgiveness, but it's sometimes forgiveness is an everyday thing Yes, I got you namka every day.  I can't keep carrying this. You have to come to work and work under them. Yeah I can't keep carrying this around. So what do I do when I think of how this person at me? I say, okay, you know what they hurt me. There's nothing I can change about that But I can let it go right and you actively choose even in your mind. I'm letting it go. I'm letting it go today I'm consciously choosing no violence. Yes today. No violence. Yeah, if I feel the urge for violence within me I will do something else. Yes, you know because there are so many ways that you can cope with those feelings Even when they come up, but it's really a practice a daily thing You have to do it as much as you need to until you feel like I'm at the point where I've let them go It's actually just such a practice by the way, right? Interesting. Thanks for that noise I understand also sometimes forgiveness does not mean reconnecting with your aggressor or your assailant I think I heard that from Ian Lash's or Pro Info's best friend They usually have this show called Super Soul Sundays. They purely talk about healing forgiveness and baddening and spirituality So do you guys believe sometimes forgiveness does not mean reconnecting with a person staying with them Chilling, but you can forgive and be fine and yeah, that's what's up in your heart. You know, you're free But it is what it is. Yeah, I think that is me now. Oh, that is you. Yeah, this is me What I've just exactly said. Yeah Okay, the fact that we had this agreement with you and I forgive you doesn't mean you get back to where we were Because people tend to to feel after they hurt me and I forgive them they can still get back and The people give the opportunity to get back to you even after they have hurt you remember They have detected on things that hurt you the most Even like instances like someone who kills you, right?  You're like, ah, we are good After we are good what's next now? I know we are good. I forgive you forgive me, but stay there. Yeah, right Does it also a change and maybe how you view people because I believe also forgiveness now that you're healing It gives you a different perspective a panoramic view of how to view people because you start now seeing people for who they are And I believe that's when you finally arrived for the destination called healing You start viewing people for who they are not for what they do or the things that surround them, right? Yeah, actually, that's what happens and you see that's I think the best place to be even in relationships with people is take what the reality Right. I like this example that you keep going around of like when someone hurt you, right? When a person hurts you and you forgive them you have to be aware I like the example that she gives us now they have the tactics to hurt you, right until this person has shown That they are with they have changed their behaviors, right? Reconciliation don't consider it until this person That should be like the the ticket for them to get back into your life. Yeah, until they see the mistake, right? They are changing their behavior. What if you given them your peace of mind and reminding them be like, hey You know what you did this to me. Did you not see it? Did you not see it? You're again talking to me. Are you crazy because we've seen that happen We've seen that happen. The person is totally not aware, but you've forgiven them But here they are again So is it correct for you to give them your peace of mind and be like, I'm warning you if you ever do this again I don't know why you admit Well, I think that one is now an individual choice. All right in some cases It's worth it for you to communicate that to them. All right in some cases.  They know, right? You don't need to and especially if it's under that for me, I always tell people as long as they have an ID They're above 18. Yeah, you do not have to teach them like a child who has to be told me Make time and time again. So you did they know what they did and you have actually you have every right to hold your boundaries All right, actually people people actually don't understand stories not boundaries But also how you communicate your boundaries really matters because you can say you could be now set up Why if you say if you cross me like this the consequences are blah blah blah blah And then maybe the environment to be like then we can't have you here if this is your boundary So I think also maybe making boundaries that are maybe Understandable or just defined that are welcoming to other people that can you know help you, you know Surviving an environment where that's a little bit constrained Don't you think so Lois? I feel at times One of the things that one of the things that can mess you up is your tongue your tongue Yes, okay, I feel as much as you making those boundaries. Let them see the boundaries.  You're fired If you cross this one, it's down for you But you see we are in a state where people block that and I heard you but they went to like I Don't like this. Like you don't have you want to talk about it. They're like just a nice one time. They're like Like the moment you create a mechanism for yourself and to mark boundaries within your space people will know Let me give an example. I've even not Walked into a space and you can feel some kind of cold Cold energy. Yeah, cold energy. I think you've experienced that and the person the person is not even there Or that was when he's even getting in there and you're like They just parking outside You're like, hey, who has arrived now even don't know that person, but you're like It's okay, right And that can be really toxic Extremely toxic, but also I believe it's called healthy boundaries making healthy boundaries to balance the equation In that they also favor other people. It's quite like Villanacema. It's me and it's me and nobody else Right Right to above. Well, okay, sometimes sometimes it's it's more important to consider yourself And other times it's important to consider others. I think it's it's a You just have to you have to really practice being able to see where that balance is Because actually I'll be honest with you. There's sometimes where my boundary cannot include other people All right, sometimes my boundary has to do with my physical safety Me if I consider other people I could die here, you know And sometimes you just have to put that that strong boundary and say okay for me This is what I can allow so what I can't allow, right? The other situations now you see like for the example you're giving of a workplace It's important to consider others, but only to a certain extent You also don't want to overextend your boundaries to the point where now you're people with leasing Anybody anything anybody says you say yes. Yes. No problem. Maybe it's your boss No, even with your boss imagine. Can you build a boundary with your boss and say Hey, Appa, I know your assignment is the end You can imagine you can How your life depends on this job. Come on now Consider the nature of that relationship or the nature of the relationship because yeah, we understand there is a hierarchical relationship There this is your boss. Your job is in their hands. Your livelihood You can plan it there. They're the ones deciding right so if you're uncomfortable with something think about okay How can I tell my boss in a respectful way that for me? I can do this also sometimes, you know, even in boundaries and relationships Sometimes we say not only set the boundary, but give an alternative So like you can tell your boss a me assignment says the ender But I prefer to go for this one so that even with you setting your boundary You're also making it advantageous for the other person you're telling your boss. Hey boss me this one I can do maybe it's like something up to do your faith or your beliefs So if for this one, I'm not comfortable. However, I would be comfortable doing this other thing So you see your boss is here. Okay Nani is if I'm not easy But I can see that they're willing to do something else all right in a case like that It's win-win and you've heard your boundaries and that's it and literally it's understood I we have to go we are literally out of time So definitely in five seconds and five seconds How can people get to interact with you and what would you want people to understand from this conversation? Hard and where can they find you? This is your camera in under 30 seconds Okay, you can find me on instagram facebook tiktok youtube I'm a content creator. So you can find me any of those places And I think what I'd want you to go home with or wherever you are is that self forgiveness for you Work on it slowly and if you need the help of a professional you can reach out to any of us So any other person you see online, but it's something that's doable and it's for you Right What would you want people to take from this conversation? And how can they also get to interact with you the only way you can be in a position to Love yourself more and be aware of things that are happening in your life Is the moment you separate emotions and reality and know that you come fast? Yeah, so you can find me on facebook tiktok Instagram my name is laser drinking right. Do you guys have numbers? Do you guys give you numbers by the way? Do you you can find them on your social media? Yeah, nice. I like I'm seeing that my guests and I say hey But it's all right this I feel like this conversation has just started. 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