Oracle continues to pursue a multi-mode converged database strategy. The premise of this all in one approach is to make life easier for practitioners and developers. And the most recent example is the Oracle Database API from MongoDB, which is announced today. Now, Oracle, they're not the first to come out with a MongoDB compatible API, but Oracle hopes to use its autonomous database as a differentiator and further build a moat around OCI, Oracle Cloud Infrastructure. And with us to talk about Oracle's MongoDB compatible API is Gerald Vensel, who's Distinguished Product Manager at Oracle. Gerald was a guest along with Maria Colgan on theCUBE a while back, and we talked about Oracle's Converged Database and the kind of Swiss Army Knife strategy, I called it, of databases. This is dramatically different. It's an approach that we see at the opposite end of the spectrum, for instance, from AWS, who for example goes after the world of developers with a different database for every use case. So kind of picking up from there, Gerald. I wonder if you could talk about how this new MongoDB API adds to your converged model and the whole strategy there. Where's it fit? Yeah, thank you very much, Dave. And by the way, thanks for having me on theCUBE again. Pleasure to be here. So essentially the MongoDB API or the compatibility that we've used with this API is a continuation of the Converged Database story, as you said before, right? Which is essentially bringing the many features of the many single-purpose databases that people often like and use together into one technology so that everybody can benefit from it. So as such, this is just a continuation that we have from so many other APIs or standards that we support. It's a long time we're ready, of course, to SQL because we're a relational database from the get-go but also other standards like GraphQL, Sparkle, et cetera that we have and the MongoDB API is now essentially just the next step forward to give the developers this API that they've gotten to love and use. I wonder if you could talk about from the developer angle. What do they get out of it? Obviously you're appealing to the Mongo developers out there but you've got this Mongo compatible API. You're touting the autonomous database on OCI. Why aren't they just going to use MongoDB Atlas on whatever cloud, Azure or AWS or Google Cloud Platform? That's a very good question. We believe that the majority of developers want to just worry about their application, writing the application and not so much about the database backend that they're using especially in cloud with cloud services. The reason why developers choose these services is so that they don't have to manage them. Now, autonomous database brings many top notch advanced capabilities to database cloud services. We firmly believe that autonomous database is essentially the next generation of cloud services with all the self-driving features built in and MongoDB developers like what developers writing applications against the MongoDB API should not have to hold out on these capabilities either. It's like no developer likes to tune the database, no developer likes to take a downtime when they have to rescale their database to accommodate a bigger workload. This is really where we see the benefit here. So for the developer, ideally nothing will change. You have a MongoDB compatible API so they can keep on using the tools, they can build the applications the way that they do but the benefit from the best cloud database service out there not having to worry about any of these backend things anymore that even MongoDB Atlas has a lot of shortcomings still today as we find. Right, of course, this is always a moving target, right? The technology business, that's why we love it. So everybody's moving fast and investing and shucking and jiving but I want to ask you about, well, by the way, so you're hiding the underlying complexity. That's really the big takeaway there. So that's huge for developers but take, I was talking before about the Amazon's approach, right tool for the right job, you got DocumentDB, you got Microsoft with Cosmos, they compete with Mongo and they've been doing so for some time. How does Oracle's API from Mongo different from those offerings and how are you going to attract their users to, for instance, your JSON offering? Yeah, so first of all, we have to kind of separate slightly DocumentDB and AWS and CosmosDB and I'm sure they have slightly different approaches there. DocumentDB essentially is a document store owned by and built by AWS, nothing different to MongoDB. It's a head-to-head comparison, it's like use my document store versus the other document stores. You don't get any of the benefits of a converged database. If you ever want to do a different data model, run an analytics server, et cetera, you still have to use the many other services that AWS provides you to, you cannot all do it into one database. Now, CosmosDB, it's more interesting because they claim to be a multi-model database and I say claim because what we understand as multi-model database is different to what they understand as multi-model database and also one of the reasons why we start differentiating with converged database. So what we mean is you should be able to, regardless what data format you want to store in the database, leverage all the functionality of the database over that data format with no trade-offs. CosmosDB, when you look at it, it essentially gives you a mode of operation. When you connect as the application or the user, you have to decide at connection time how this database should be treated. Should it be a document store? Should it be a graph store? Should it be a relational store? Once you make that choice, you are locked into that as long as you established that connection, right? So it's like, if you say, I want a document store, all you get is a document store. There's no way for you to cross-analyze with the relational data sitting in the same service. There's no way for you to break these boundaries. If you ever want to add some graph data and graph analytics, you essentially have to disconnect and now treat it as a graph store. So you get multiple data models in it, but really you still get one trick pony the moment you connect to it that you have to choose to. And that is where we see a huge differentiation again with our converge database because we essentially say, look, one database cloud service on Oracle Cloud where it allows you to do anything if you wish to do so. You can start as a document store if you wish to do so. If you want to write some SQL queries on top, you can do so. If you want to add some graph data, you can do so, right? But there's no way for you to have to rewrite your application, use different libraries and frameworks now to connect the central central. Got it, thank you for that. Do you have any data when you talk to customers? I'm interested in the diversity of deployments. For instance, how many customers are using more than one data model? For instance, do JSON users need support for other data types or are they happy to stay kind of in their own little sandbox? Do you have any data on that? Yeah, so what we see from the maturity of our customers, there is no such thing as one data model fits everything, right? And it's like, we're there again, we have to differentiate the developer that builds a certain microservice that makes happy to stay in the JSON world or relational world or the company that's trying to derive value from the data, right? Which is like, the relational model has not gone away since 40 years of existence, it's still kicking strong, it's still really good at what it does. The JSON data model is really good at what it does. The graph model is really good at what it does. But all these models have been built for different purposes, right? Try to do graph analytics on relational or JSON data. It's like, it's really tricky, but that's why you use a graph model to begin with, right? Try to shield yourself from the organization of the data, how it's structured. That's really easy in the relational world, not so much when you get into a document store world. And so what we see for our customers is like, as they accumulate more data, as they have many different applications to run their enterprises, the question always comes back as we have predicted since about six, seven years now, where they say, hey, we have all this different data in different data formats. We wanna bring it all together, analyze it together, get value out of the data together. Right, we have seen a whole trend of big data emerge and disappear to answer that question then quite through the trick. And we are basically now back to where we were in the early 2000s when XML databases have faded away because everybody just allowed you to store XML in the database. Got it. All right, so let's make this real for people. So maybe you could give us some examples. You got this new API from Mongo. You have your multi-model database. How, take a painted picture of how customers are going to benefit in real world use cases. How does it kind of change a customer's world before and after, if you will. Yeah, absolutely. So, you know, the API essentially we have introduced it to a set before you know, make the life of the world at the lives of the developers easier, but also of course to assist our customers with migrations from MongoDB over to Oracle Autonomous Database. One customer that we have, for example, that would have benefited of the API the sample a couple of years ago, two, three years ago. It's one of the largest logistics company on the planet. They track every package that is being sent in JSON documents, right? So every track packages essentially is resembling a JSON document. And they very early on came in with the next question of like, hey, we track all these packages in document and JSON documents. Will be really nice to know actually which packages are stuck, right? Or anywhere where we have to intervene, right? It's like, can we do this, right? Can we analyze just how many packages could stuck didn't get delivered on the end of the day or whatever. And they found this struggle with this question a lot. They found this was really tricky to do back then in that case in MongoDB. So they actually approached Oracle, they came over, they migrated over and they rewrote their applications to accommodate that. And they're happy chasing users in Oracle Database. But if we were having this API already for them, then they wouldn't have had to rewrite the applications or would we often see like worry about the rewriting the application later on, right? Usually in migration use cases, you want to get kind of the migration done, get the data over, be running and then worry about everything else. So this would be one example that they would have greatly benefited to shorten this migration time window. If we had already the MongoDB API back then with compatibility there. Yeah, it's a good use case. I mean, it's one of the most prominent and painful. So anything you can do to help that is key. You know, I remember like the early days of big data, you know, no sequel, of course, was the big thing. There was a lot of confusion. No, people thought was none or not only sequel, which is kind of the more widely accepted interpretation today. But, you know, really it's talking about data that's stored in a non-relational format. So, you know, some people, again, they thought that the sequel was going to fade away and some people probably still believe that. And, you know, we saw the rise of no sequel and document databases. But if I understand it correctly, a premise for your MongoDB API is you really see sequel as a main contributor over MongoDB's document collections for analytics, for example. Can you maybe add some color here? Are you seeing, you know, what are you seeing in terms of resurgence of sequel or the momentum in sequel? Has it ever really waned? What's your take? Yeah, no, it's a very good point, right? So I think there as well, we see to some extent history repeating itself from, you know, this all has been tried beforehand with object databases, XML databases, et cetera. But if we stay with the no sequel databases, I think it speaks at length that every no sequel database that as you're rightfully said, so started with no sequel. And then, well, actually we always meant not only sequel, everybody has introduced a sequel-like engine or interface. The last two actually joined this family is MongoDB now. They have just recently introduced a sequel compatibility for the aggregation pipelines, something where you can put in a sequel statement that essentially will then work with aggregation pipeline. So they all acknowledged that sequel is powerful. For us, this was always clear. Sequel is a declarative language. Some argue it's the only true 4GL language out there, right? You don't have to code how to get the data, but you just ask the question and the rest is done for you.  As you said before, if you look out there, sequel has always been in demand, right? Look at the various developer surveys, the various job skills that are asked for a sequel has never gone away, right? Everybody loves and likes and he wants to use sequel. And so, yeah, we don't think this has ever been, you know, going away. It has maybe just been, you know, put in the shadow by some hypes. But again, we had the same discussion in the 2000s with XML databases with the same discussions in the 90s with object databases. And we have just frankly all forgotten about it.  And I can pretty much ask any question I want because, you know, I gotta say, when Oracle starts talking about another company, I know that company is doing well. So I like, I see Mongo in the marketplace and I love that you guys are calling it out and making some moves there. So here's the thing, you guys have a large install base and that can be an advantage, but it can also be a weight in your shoulder, right? These specialized cloud databases, they don't have that legacy. So they can just kind of move freely about less friction. Now, all the cloud database services, they're going to have more and more automation. I mean, I think that's pretty clear and inevitable. And most, if not all of the database vendors, they're going to provide support for these kind of converged data models. You know, however, they choose to do that. They might do it through the ecosystem, like what Snowflake's trying to do, or, you know, bring it in the house themselves. You know, like a watch maker that brings an in-house movement, if you will, right? But it's like death in taxes. You know, you can't avoid it. It's got to happen. That's what customers want. So with all that being said, how do you see the capabilities that you have today with automation and converge capabilities? How do you see that playing out?  You know, obviously it's an advantage, but is it enough of an advantage over the specialized cloud database vendors where there's, you know, clearly a lot of momentum today?  I mean, we are, with some of these databases, 20 years ahead, right? And I'll give you concrete examples, right? It's like Oracle had transaction support, asset transactions since forever, right? No SQL players all said, oh, we don't need assets transactions, base transactions, it's fine, yada, yada, yada. Longer to be started introducing some transaction support. It comes with some limits, right? Kind of be longer than 60 seconds, kind of touch more than a thousand documents as well, et cetera. They still will have to, you know, do some catching up there. I mean, it took us a while to get there. Let's be honest, right? We have been around for a long time. Same thing now that happened with version five. It's like they started some simple version of multi-version concurrency control that comes along with asset transactions. The interesting part here is like, we've introduced this also in Oracle five, which was somewhere in the 80s before I even started using Oracle database. So there's a lot of catching up to do, right? And then you look at the cloud services as well, there's actually certain, a lot of things that we kind of got and take, we kind of, we Oracle people have taken for granted and we kind of keep forgetting, right? For example, our elastic scale. You want to add one CPU? You add one CPU. Should you take a downtime for that? Absolutely not, right?  Why would you, you cannot take a downtime in a 24-7 backend system that runs the world, right? Take any of our customers. If you look at most of these cloud services or you want to reshape, you want to scale your cloud service, that's fine, right? It's just to be under the covers, which has shut everything down. Give you a VM with more CPUs, boot it up again, downtime right there, right? So it's like, there's a lot of these things where we go like, well, you know, we solved this frankly decades ago, that these cloud vendors will run into. And just to add one more point here, right? So it's like one thing that we see with all these migrations happening is exactly in that field, right? It's like people essentially started building on what it's longer to be out of these no SQL databases or cloud databases. And eventually as these systems grow, as they ask more difficult questions, their use cases expand, they find shortcomings, right? Whether it's the scalability, whether it's the security aspects, the functionalities that we have. And this is essentially what drives them back to Oracle. And this is why we see essentially this popularity and not a pendulum swimming towards our direction again, where people actually happily come over and actively come over to us to get their workloads enterprise-grade, if you like. Well, it's true. I mean, I just reported on this recently, the momentum that you guys have in cloud and positive it's because you got the best mission critical database, you're all about maps. I got to tell you a quick story. I was at a Vertica conference one time, I was on stage with Kurt Monash. I don't know if you know Kurt, but he knows this space really well. He's probably forgotten more about database than I'll ever know. But I was kind of busting his chops. You were talking about acid transactions. I'm like, well, with no SQL, who needs acid transactions? Just to poke him. And he was like, are you out of your mind? And he said, okay, it's everybody is going to head in this direction. It turned out it's true. So I got to give him props for that. And so, okay, my last question. If you had a message for, let's say there's a skeptical developer out there that's using MongoDB and Atlas, what would you say to them? I would say, go try it for yourself. If you don't believe us, we have an always free cloud tier out there. You just go to work.com slash cloud slash free. You sign up for an always free tier, spin up an autonomous database.  See what's actually possible today, right? Don't just follow your trends on Hack and Use Assets, show rumors that a year out there. Go try it for yourself and see what it's capable of. All right, Gerald. Hey, thanks for coming into my firing line today. I really appreciate your time. Thank you for having me again. Good luck with the announcement. You're very welcome. And thank you for watching this CUBE Conversation. This is Dave Vellante. We'll see you next time.


Shaber 1,000 here today.  It's in the shape of a cross. There's like 30 geocaches out here And that's one area. I'm not gonna be able to do them all Somebody from Colorado did it in like two hours and 43 minutes We're just gonna come out get six maybe eight of them and then Our first one's right back in there about 500 feet so I got my Camera on it's rolling. So we're gonna head out there and See if we can start finding them stick around All right, we need to start looking start looking I'm tanged so start looking. Yes. I do you rolling Yeah, it's an ammo can okay guys Let's check this out. They got pens in this one Here's our thing that we're gonna sign in on touch down Sport clips haircuts Okay Yeah There's some older there's some older ones here. I Didn't bring any keys. No, that is so funny. Isn't that funny? There's a couple pens here, there's a seashell in the ring An old old penny. That's not like it's not a wheat penny, but it is old You can't tell what year it is. No little sticker. Yeah, it's one of those Things that just when you turn it and make the hologram. Yeah, that's cute. All right. Yeah, we found the first one Well, you did we did we're together. Okay, so we're gonna fill we're gonna I'm gonna log us in and everything and fill this out And we'll be back with you The next one yeah, these ones do not have any hints with them. So well this one didn't No, this one didn't this one didn't I don't know if the other one is dead or not But it pinged you right you went right through it. So we didn't have a chance. Yeah, ping me right Right over there at that tree. You see my cigarettes and phone line ping me there. I've seen it before you got up on it okay, okay guys, so Monkey's back there. She went to go get the truck The next one's about a quarter of a mile straight in front of me That way I'm just walking slowly Ain't what it used to be man used to be I could hike 15 miles in a day and wouldn't be no problem, but a little bit of age and a Little bit of malfunctions on the old ticker here Kind of slows you down a little bit Got some clips I'll throw in maybe at the end of here. We went Through some mud. She wouldn't go through the big hole, but I'm gonna get her to on the way out Like we got a four-wheel drive use it All right, so I'll be back with you soon as we get up here close. Oh, I should have been panged I Should have been panged we're 16 feet from it about five feet high That's the hint so I'm guessing it's in a tree And I see it right now So now you got to find this one So the hint was about five feet high monkeys found it. She's kicking her camera on right now, and there it is What There you go So you probably open up here Here for a minute, I open that up here. I don't think you're supposed to take the tape off Because we do then Yeah, I guess you want to do it. It's unless that ending there is supposed to open that it's too hard to open Yeah, see Okay, I got stuck I helped it that's why oh, I see you just finished it. I see Well, this is so can wet So we're not gonna be able to sign into this one. No, no, but at least we found it. We did find it I'll still log it though. Yeah. Yeah, we did find it That was cool. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So there's that one Hang it back up or we found it. How was it? Like that Was this stuck there? Yeah. Well, this part was into the tree a little bit Like like that Just hanging like that All right how it stays over with bad storms, but all right, so I'm gonna go ahead and log this in force Okay, then we'll go on to the next one.  Yes. Yeah, I can tell I'm saving you Still can't do this. Yes, you can take that. I'm gonna take your hand, but there you go. Just like that perfect. I'm serious Perfect Yeah, that's fine. I'm serious. You're fine. It'll catch hold Where's your top heavy? Here you go more than pop heavy On to the next one. All right Getting to try out the four-wheel drive Just some little mud puddles Okay, so the next one's four hundred forty-two feet that way and then the one after that it's gonna be Right across the road here probably about the same so Let's start walking Okay, we see something sticking out of this tree up here And this one does have a hint and it said I level So We're thinking this might be it That it That's a spatula Moncioke spatula. I don't think this is it Let me check my thing Now it's saying we're 134 feet still going that way, but I see something on a tree up there. I think that's a Wait, wait, it just pinged me Well, that might be is there anything in it? You couldn't open the other one either I don't think this would be it, but it pinged me right here just now But it says I level and it was sticking right there, but okay.  Just shut it off And she's I see it monkey found it very good Well that kind of helped though having a thing there I thought that could be a red herring sometimes they do that don't put something you think it's it Right So you were right you were close Okay, some band-aids Here's a notepad was everybody's signature on there tons of them Here's another one. Oh a pen. It doesn't I doubt if it'll work We'll try it.  Yeah, there's a pan snapped it and that I don't know if you guys are seeing this or not there you go and Well, there's all kinds of stuff in here. There's a bracelet And some pair card All right, yep Guess that's it. I guess you see that let me take it out Yeah, there's a lot of stuff in here Ring for your finger There's a ring cute a business coupon for one night stay at Sandy Oaks RV resort There you go And this is another card and there's a sticker Yep, it's an owl Little money thing. We really bring keys and put in there. We forgot our keys So I don't have anything on me to put in there. There's another thing. I think that goes with the Yeah, had that it's missing there There's a little heart I said I just shut my damn camera. I did I just hit the record button and the light just quit blinking. You said up I see it Bottle I hope you guys can see that. There we go. Isn't that cute? and There is a letter E One of those magnets that you put on your fridge for your kids and There is a sharpener for that pencil or it comes to worse. We can use the pencil and One more thing in here the knife all Googly eye. Yeah. Googly eye the rest are leaves So I'm gonna shut down now so I can get us logged in and signed in Monkey's putting that back and I'll be back with you. Yeah, that was fun All right, so back there, you know, we're in a forest so back there at our last find Monkey said this would be a perfect place to do your solo camp out and I was like, yeah, I can I Can string my hammock across those two trees. There was two perfect trees there And she said Yeah, yeah, let's be perfect for your solo. I may come along with you on that one And then she dawned on her and she goes, well, I mean then then you can bring me again This is like Yeah, like that movie reference national impunes Vegas vacation. He's like, I just want to be alone Eddie and Eddie goes. Okay. Want me to come with you? There's our truck Straight ahead. Let's see the GPS thing took us clear over there. Yeah And then a hundred feet back this way. So All right Onto the next one. Okay guys, we're on to the next one Like I said, it's right across from we didn't even move the car But we sat down in there and cooled off a little bit You got rid of my hat. Well, I didn't get rid of it's in the car, but I Shed my hat. So We're gonna be going this way Four or five hundred feet It's one tenth of a mile So let's see. There's no hint on this one. Oh, is there no hint on this one. Oh, there's no 488 feet. All right 488 feet. Here we go. Here we go. Like my new hat It's fine.  We're not out here making a fashion statement All right now we're Well, I'm not I'm out here, you know, I'd be doing this anyway, but I'm filming to share with my viewers. So Hopefully you guys enjoy these types of videos Harsh through here, but it's it's fun Not too much trash. Gosh, man, you know, it just No matter where you go. Anyway, it's another rant for another day Hang tight guys I just thought I'd show you this tree. Yeah. Well anywhere in here Looking for another potential Solo dual camp out That's pretty cool. Isn't that awesome? Okay, we got about another 200 feet to go All right, so I just got pings that should be right in this area. It's about four feet up to the small pill bottle So look in the trees It's in one of these trees right in here So there are four feet my four feet might be different my four feet about like this There four feet could be Well, it's four feet a pill bottle, but you need to look down on the ground in case it fell like this Yeah, okay guys, so there it is Hopefully you guys I would say it fell from right about there. So A little tube glasses on here pretty cool. You got the pen. I got the broken one Okay, so there it is nothing in here just the sign-in sheet so I won't sign us in and then I'll be back with you guys In just a minute Okay, guys, I'm just explaining to monkey how this is a soda pop bottle. It's not a pill bottle Okay, see that monkey Okay, what this does, you know, I've worked in a lot of plastics plants Okay, I know how these work.   So there you go Okay guys, so uh, we didn't go to the last two Because I didn't have service in that area and you can pay extra on that app And you get a lot more stuff and it'll give you offline Maps they call it but We went to go to the last two it kept trying to send us on the other Side of the road now as long as I was in the in the truck It was telling me to go the right way to go to my right But as soon as I got out of the truck, he kept wanting to send me back Across the road and I knew that wasn't right. So we just we got four of them.  We can always go back there. It's not that far from the house so About 20 minutes from the house. Maybe So, yeah, it's not that far Um, so we got some mud puddle footage for you all throw in and And uh, that'll be it for this one. So thanks for watching guys.  I thought she got bit And she turned around and she was like running well here. She was trying not to fall So I threw my camera down and went running to her just as she fell And she was okay And she just laid there for a minute So I helped her up and she was gathering her things because they went flying everywhere And I said hind you got to pick up your feet You got to watch where you're going you're walking through the woods because she didn't walk through the woods in years since she was a kid And I said what what was you looking at? She said, well, I was watching your feet It's where the god you can't make that up. That's what she said. I was watching your feet. I'm like, you can't Don't watch my feet so Uh, anyway, so I got a teacher to walk through the woods And her boot she's not used to her boot yet They're heavy because all she ever wears is flip-flops unless she's a warden and she wears those nurses style shoes But so they feel kind of heavy to her. So she would just have to get used to it and Uh, hopefully she don't have a fogging like her wrist is a little sore, but she's fine But man, so anyway, enjoy the clip of the mud holes Pretty fun The last one I kind of tricked her into going going into because we went around it when we first went in and she says Did we go through here and I'm like, yeah, we had to But we didn't we went around it kind on the edge this time. I sent her straight through so All right guys, enjoy them clips. Hopefully you enjoyed the the video here. She comes now. So Adder, get me a twisted iced tea um because normally Twice that's happened to me like first thing in the morning I'll go in and get a tea and twice that's happened to me I grabbed twisted iced tea and I go to take a big swing. I'm like, oh my god. There's alcohol in here So anyway, monk, there you go Thank you I should be drinking it If you was drinking that you probably wouldn't have took the spill. I was just telling them about Oh, you had to tell them didn't you? It didn't have to know All right, tell them bye monk All right guys, we'll see you in the next one. Shea better met the man legend gone for now Monkey sister's out for now. Bye y'all Bye guys. Thanks mark. You're welcome.  So pretty cool. Thanks again for watching guys. Appreciate it Yeah, I did Yeah, I did probably Probably yeah Yeah, I lie all the time Please don't squish them because those are my cigarettes Nothing in them. They were light. Nothing in them


They also believe that you can lose your salvation. So the obvious conclusion that a demon can come into your life cause you to sin and then you lose your salvation. My question to those folks that believe that, does that make sense? Is it true that a demon can cause you to lose your salvation? Well, the obvious answer for us that read the Bible is no. But for them, please answer that question.


Tanzania's Minister of Defence and National Service Alias Kwandikwa has died at the age of 55. Tanzanian President Samia Suluho Hassan confirmed the death on Tuesday on her Twitter account. She said that she would remember Kwandikwa for his competence in leadership and patriotism. Kwandikwa was appointed Minister of Defence and National Service by Tanzania's former President John Magufuli on December 5, 2020. Hello, hope you enjoyed the news. Please do subscribe to our YouTube channel and don't forget to hit the notification button so you get notified about fresh news updates.


Hey Psych2Go fans, and welcome back to another Psych2Go video. In the beginning, obsession and love look a lot alike, but as your relationship grows, obsession may rear its ugly head and tear your relationship apart. So how can you tell whether your partner or someone you're interested in is truly in love or just obsessed with you? Here are seven signs someone is obsessed with you and it's not love.  Whether you call, text or video chat, it's normal for couples to communicate on a regular basis. However, obsessive people want to monitor their partner's 24-7. For example, if a phone call goes to voicemail, an obsessive partner would immediately assume something is wrong. If you don't respond within minutes, they'll get angry or accuse you of breaking their trust. In a loving relationship, your partner should respect your time and trust you when they're not around. On the other hand, when a relationship becomes obsessive, your partner is only after one thing, control. Two, they're emotionally immature. Is your partner emotionally mature? According to a 2013 study by Amadi and others, obsession goes by another name, immature love. Immature love is egocentric, unforgiving and irresponsible. It stems from deep-rooted insecurities, which signify a general lack of trust. Since love and emotional maturity are tightly woven together, many young relationships toe the line between love and obsession. Three, they take without giving. What are the core components of a loving relationship? In a 1983 study, Curtis explains that there are four pieces of a healthy romantic relationship. Two of those pieces are giving and needing. In other words, loving partners should give as much as they take and take as much as they give. When either of these pieces falls out of place, love can quickly turn into an obsession. That's why obsessive partners favor one or the other. Some partners give constantly, controlling you with pity and guilt.  Whether your partner is impossibly giving or incredibly demanding, your partner isn't loving you in a healthy way. Love should be a balance and should impact you and your partner equally. Four, they romanticize the relationship. Does your partner exaggerate your relationship? Many obsessive partners crave a love that doesn't exist. They want the kind of romance that exists in stories and fantasies, so they romanticize their own relationships. An obsessive partner may talk about marriage in the first month or call you their soulmate after the first date. If your partner doesn't see a relationship for what it really is, they may be more obsessive than loving. Five, they control you with guilt. Does your partner use guilt as a weapon? Do they make you feel bad about spending time with friends or family? Some partners take over your life. They're only satisfied when they're the center of your attention, but that isn't love. Love is giving your partner the space to live their own lives, not restricting their choices. If your partner controls you with guilt, you're not dealing with love, you're dealing with obsession. Six, they're obsessed with status. Is your partner obsessed with your reputation or status? Sometimes people fall in love with wealth, authority, or social power. According to a 2006 study by Jordan and others, this condition is called erotomania. Erotomania creates a delusion that someone of higher status is in love with you. This false belief begins an obsessive, usually one-sided relationship, which may last for years, even decades. If your partner only cares about your status, they're not in love with you. And seven, they make false promises. How often does your partner break their promises? Does your partner swear they're going to change, but never do? If so, your partner may not be in love with you. When you love someone, you make promises because you intend to keep them. You're willing to sacrifice your time and effort to improve your partnership. On the other hand, if your partner is obsessive, they don't want to improve anything. They're only making promises to gain more control. Hey guys, it's Yumi here, one of the partners of Psych2go. I really want to take this time and say thank you for your continuous support. It's because of you guys, we have now hit 3.2 million subscribers. I also want to take this time and say Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers and single fathers out there. Take this time and go up to them and remind them that you love them and you appreciate them. If you want to connect with me, I am going to leave my email in the description box below. And until next time, bye guys!