Good morning everyone. Welcome to each one of you who've joined the class today online as well as to those who have Come in as part of the e-learning portal. We hope that you are enjoying classes and you know learning something new every time and also, you know being able to apply it in different ways as You meet people as you minister to people. Well, that's the whole You know deal of this is that not just this is just not an academic Program, but it is something that We learn to minister through so let's just start with a word of prayer and we'll dive right in Heavenly Father, we thank you for this morning. We thank you Lord that you have helped each one of us come in for class and Enjoy what we're learning in whichever quarters, whichever part of the Nation or the world we are in. 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Amen All right, so Last week we had We were looking at a very important part of The entire process of counseling and we were looking at understanding The personality you're understanding having a biblical perspective of what our human needs and an understanding of our Personalities and I'm just going to quickly maybe in five minutes quick Just quickly run through what we did yesterday because I think in the last class someone had asked for Like a recap And I had specifically said, you know if there are certain questions that you'll have you could Answer that in the first maybe 20 minutes and then get on with our class. So I've kind of kept 20 minutes just for this So so just to build a specific context context. We looked at how human beings function we saw that Scripture teaches us that we are made in the image of God that we are image Bearers of God so an image being an image bearer is to mean that we reflect God that we resemble God and We we saw that God has bestowed his own likeness upon us as as his creation as human beings as his creation. So our understanding of Who we are comes from first of all knowing who God is and then understanding how God made us and in that way As counselors we get to know You know, we make we develop a theory of personality Just by understanding who God is his nature his purposes and how he has made us to be So we first look at the nature of God. We saw that God is eternal. He is relational He's personal. He's perfect. He's powerful God is a God who has an intellect and a will and an emotional and that's what makes him relational And the way that he has revealed himself through to us is through the word And through the person of Jesus Christ and through the Holy Spirit So and we did look at further into that we get our image of God from Scripture From our personal prayer life from the word from the Holy Spirit from teaching that we have received even that which has been Modeled to us by our parents So we saw that man is made in God's image and we need to gain an understanding of that in order to to know how to Deal with the problems man comes with so When we do understand man, there were three core concepts that we looked at that Man is a free moral agent and they have the right to make choices But however do not have the right to choose a consequence We looked at how there is eternity that is placed in the heart of every man and that man is an eternal being and after the judgment there exists either eternal eternal life or eternal death and the third Main concept we looked at was that God has given us given us human beings or man the right to choose even our eternal destiny and We he's given us the will to choose that okay, so then we we focused on knowing that When God made us in the image there were certain attributes that he gave unto us the attribute of being perfectly loved being Perfectly secure loved or valued being perfectly secure and being perfectly Significant and having purpose and this was something that was inherently there in Adam and Eve before the fall so after the fall sin changed the The whole thing where we still bore the image of God. We were made with dignity we had the dignity of bearing the image but yet we were depraved because of sin and So we still have the capacity for that security and significance and work But we have no way of satisfying it and as a result there are things we it becomes needs these These three attributes that were in inherently ours become needs and we look all around for satisfying that We also looked at in that context is when we looked at The casual needs the critical needs and the crucial needs We saw that the casual needs were needs that really didn't make much of an impact if it were fulfilled or not the critical needs were those that did cause a sense of despair and Was Impairing would bring us to despair if if there was an impairment in those areas and some of the examples We looked at was if there was a loss of a relationship if there's a loss of a job if there is a Significant physical health all of that becomes critical needs and then we looked at the most crucial needs being the need of self-worth the need of Feeling secure and the need for significance or having purpose And we we did see that the path of maturity at the end of the lesson. We looked at the path of maturity being having our most Crucial needs met and then the critical and the casual needs do come up, you know on Comes as a result just like scripture says You know see key first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added unto you So the so when we do find the source of Having those critical needs met in God the rest of the things those crucial and casual needs become Come as a part and parcel of of having those needs met now while understanding Human being we looked at those five areas of functioning Which is something that we need to focus on even as we are helping to to bringing about in counseling So these five areas of functioning we spoke about is the spiritual being where That that is the place where it has a deep yearning for a close and intimate relationship with God and that's where the part of the crucial needs lie we looked at the rational being where man has the ability to reason and understand and comprehend and And for a counselor to be able to help the Counseling to focus on the rational part of their functioning. We looked at the emotional being We said the emotional being was Is what really decides whether life becomes meaningful or you know difficult and a counselor who needs to pay attention to that? Because you know and just not focus only on the behavioral aspects of human functioning because emotions do play a large part in the way One one would behave the fourth area. We looked at was volitional the ability for a man to make choices to make personal Choices and we understood that when we have the wrong beliefs and when we have wrong goals is when one would make a wrong choice So if we don't understand that a person is a choosing being We fail to help the person take that responsibility to make that that choice and lastly We we looked at us being physical beings where we have a frame in which all of this is Housed and it is a vital component in contributing also to a person's Issue or a problem. So we we looked at these convictions that The main convictions that we have are that people are made in the image of God with these five areas of functioning sin has marred and Distorted that image and what we do in counseling is working with God to restore that image so that their crucial needs are met in God the these these needs of love of security and belonging and significance and and Purpose are met in God Thereby they restore that image as to what they were created and are able to deal with what their concerns or their issues are So this is very quickly in a five-minute nutshell of you know, what we had focused on the last time So I'm just going to open it up just for ten minutes to For you, you know, I'm sure you'll have thought over these things that we had spoken about and studied last time and Just opening it up for questions if there are any Yes, Samuel, please go ahead Thank you So Supposedly while you know thinking of this the for me, I think Something that I don't feel so confident about is You know while trying to counsel now having known that so having these convictions or even this theory that that We are what we are Like because Some some need is not met So so I'm in this mess because there was a need that I was trying to fulfill But I obviously resorted resorted to Incorrect means which has landed me in this mess So so so as a counselor, I think I'm so I have I am probably walking in with this assumption About my counseling like this person is here because You know at the end of it because there's a need that this person is trying to fulfill But it's not being met that need and some so probably I'm thinking The journey that I would take as a counselor would be to identify what that need is And so so that's the part where I don't feel confident about so I'm starting off with an assumption and What if you know What if that assumption is incorrect about this person that I make like you know, what if it's Not a need so so so I think it then comes down to like Would they be people who would be in a mess but not because of Them trying to fulfill any need but for some other reasons Okay, so that's a good question Samil I think and I think I'd like to probably ask you is that Think of any kind of an issue that that you may have personally had and look back and Try and maybe just do a quick analysis of why you Feel the way that you do in a certain situation Like for example, maybe very simple Examples of yeah, maybe in a relationship You are in a relationship with maybe your spouse or or a parent or a child and They don't do what You say Or they don't see sense into what you say What do you think would be the core feeling that? erupts in you in you not in the other person in you Samuel Could you mean one more time? I think yeah, okay So so you're having an issue with with some Significant person in your life.  And you're not having a conversation and this person does not see any sense in what you're saying They're saying you know what you're saying is absolutely wrong. Maybe you're discussing about something and you're saying no What you've said is absolutely wrong. I just don't trust that what you know your understanding is right on this Right. What what does it evoke in you? About yourself not about the relationship of the other person. What does it evoke in you? I think Multiple things like one is I mean in different depending on So so many factors But I do I'm learning to check myself But depending on if I'm tired how hungry I love that Yeah but if I'm if I'm if I'm Like what if I am Like if I have a check and if I'm you know, and I'm more conscious and aware of my physical thing I think these days I'm trying to Trying to see for myself like why am I not being able to To convey what I want to convey like I'm trying to Help us say so I'm trying to say something but I'm not being able to show my perspective my my point of view correctly And and and and I also I'm doing a lot of introspection. Maybe I'm so Maybe I'm not understanding my spouse or Properly, so I don't understand there. Maybe I don't understand where they're coming from So I try to do that But if I'm I'm tired then I just like, okay, let's I mean I think I become more snappy or something Okay, so that's exactly what you know what we learned. It's like peeling an onion So what are you doing is when someone comes to you with an issue? You're actually peeling them like an onion. So you first look at whether there has been any physical Aspects that has caused what they're feeling. Okay. Are you hungry? Are you tired?  Are you sick? Okay, so you get that out of the way. Then comes your next part of it would be your emotional being Are your emotions Playing a big role in the way that you're understanding this and I think has this have you been able to really express What you are going through, you know Sometimes when you're just able to express then you're very settled with and if I'm able to express probably with the person I'm upset with that I'm upset with them once I'm done that, you know I have settled so you you've got that out of the way then comes your rational being Is it my thoughts? That's you know, that that's been wrongly I've been having wrong thoughts. Have I been thinking about this entire situation differently? Am I thinking negatively about the person? Am I thinking negatively about the suggestion that they've made then comes your volitional being about the way that you're making choices? I you know, is there a sense of stubbornness that you come in? So you've filled it up to there and then comes the last part of you know, if you've kind of managed to figure out Okay, that it doesn't seem to be any of these the last part that I come to is the spiritual being which is that place of crucial Needs, but I say, okay. Am I just being do I feel Undervalued do I feel as if my spouse doesn't care about what I have to say or You know, do I feel that I'm not respected? So it it may boil down to this I don't mean to say that all Situations may have the same but when you're looking at major concerns, you know people having struggles over and over again Let's say for those who are into promiscuous relationships those who are into significant addictions Those who may be having a significant anxiety or depression, you know or issues with anger You begin to see that there is a pattern that follows and and unless you as a counselor are able to figure out all these Pathways these five areas of functioning coming down finally to that place of spiritual functioning those crucial needs of it You know, that's that's the pathway and that's what you're looking at. You know, so maybe Someone who's just come to you with the thyroid issue and they're feeling depressed and you give them some medication on thyroid And they're perfectly okay great those needs I mean so that's what I meant to what what we were talking about is that areas of functioning is so important to understand But when we're looking at the personality as a whole We see that needs There are these needs that are universal to all of us And you you ask anybody, you know, what would what what would their strongest need be would be one would be to You know, I want to be loved. I want to be cared for I want to know that I'm I belong to somebody I need to know that I can function as an individual Those are the core things that God himself has put into us. So yes, I agree. Maybe that's not not all cases You may have the need but this is what the pathway needs to be where you're you're actually finding that out Does that make it more clear Samuel? It it does it does. Um, is this the I mean, uh, so I get the areas to explore But uh, but essentially I'm still Looking for the need and I'm trying to figure out what need is being What need is being tried to fulfill in what not not being met. Yeah, not being met in what area and As as you As you help the now You may have an Understand you may think okay. I think this person needs to be loved and that's why so that's your first judgment But it's only as you continue to explore and understand where they are at That you will begin it becomes more clearer for you and through your questioning through your skills of counseling You're also able to help them see. Hey, this is what I really want You know and it may not be very clear initially for either you or for the person But the more that you explore, you know, what makes you get into these relationships? What makes you feel the way that you do that's what really evokes this understanding not just in them, but also in you So it is a journey It is something that you know, it's a process of finding out But the understanding is that if we have been motivated to go pick something or to go after something There is definitely some need in us that we are attempting to fulfill That's the premise of this and the premise of the gospel that you know Where after sin you are looking for something to fulfill A gap that you are you're feeling that vacuum that you're feeling and until and unless you actually have that true relationship with god You're on the run. You're on you're actually Still searching people are searching for truth. What is that true? And that's that's the need something that is not being met is what they're searching for and which can be met In in the gospel which can be met in a relationship with jesus because that's what he gives He endures those attributes back to us when we are in that right relationship Thank you, thank you Yeah, thank you. All right. Yeah christopher. Can I take your question christopher? Ah, yes. Yes, christopher. Uh, so I actually have One observation and I just want to some clarity on that And the other one is a question So the first one In regards to the observation is just while I was going and reading through the to the notes I um I saw that There you know, when we when I was looking at page number 10 The five areas of human functioning. So that's where it is actually initially referred to and um I'm just trying to understand the flow of it. So that you know when I'm Reading through it. Yeah, I'm able to get the most out of the You know out of the content. So there's there are the five functions Five areas of human functioning are there And then um, then it follows by the three kinds of needs And then again, there's another reference to the um those five functions And here I see is that For all of them except for emotional The emotional area doesn't seem to have any biblical references And then again, um This is referred to in the uh This uh in page number 13 Just wanted to understand the flow of it and how how how this would actually I know To get the most out of out of the content. So that's the observation and I just want to get some clarity on that Uh question is three that that I have is actually just coming back to the uh, you know, right right the beginning where you mentioned about Human beings being uh depraved and um Yeah, I mean Me that initially seemed very strong work. Uh, you know, because that sort of you know translates to extremely evil and uh, you know, someone who is Just uh, you know beyond uh goodness so, um My question is actually around um The the you know, I understand that you know with with christ we are able to save ourselves and when we accept him But um, what about those who are the unbelievers? and uh people who are from other other religions um So we still I mean when we do count when we counsel them Do we still sort of going with this approach of you know being totally for them being totally depraved? and then Knowing that that uh, you know christ is not not really uh Means for them to accept Um, at least, you know in the initial counseling session. So just want to understand What is the approach that one one would use? Uh, you know when when counseling uh are not are not believer Okay, so let me just answer your first question So the first the so I think your confusion was there are three Uh references made to this human functioning So what you find on page 10 is an introduction of these areas of functioning the spiritual being the rational being The emotional the volitional and the physical being okay Then comes the second part of it which gives you a reference of what the word of god sees it How these areas of functioning is seen through the light of the word of god and you have specific scriptures that are put there Uh, there are scriptures for emotional being christopher. There's deutronomy 6 5 problems for 23 he bruised for 15 it is there Uh, I don't know how you have missed that in your notes. It is it's there all References of these of the beings are there in that second portion of it The third part of it is looking uh of of how you understand problems that develop in the In the human personality and examining these areas of functioning in the way that you understand them So so it talks about how everyone has spiritual Needs everyone our rational beings everyone our volitional beings. So it gives you an understanding of looking at Being able to find out what goes wrong in these different Five areas that you know in emotional beings. There are sometimes signal emotions That create wrong goals in the rational being there is there is a wrong thoughts that creates Wrong behavior volitional is you make wrong choices That that get into wrong behavior and spiritual is is there are The crucial needs that are not met that leads you into false behavior. So this is how it's just been Been kind of apportioned for better reading and better understanding I I'm sorry if there was a confusion. I will I'll definitely look through it and review it again to make the flow a little bit more understandable Okay, the second part of your question that you said about being depraved Scripture talks about how It says in romans 623 that all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of god That there is no one who is a righteous that means Every one of us not just those who believe in god But those who do not believe in god If you look at another verse in jeremiah 79 it says the heart is deceitful above all things and beyond Cure the human heart Is the most deceitful of all things so and and the only One who can search the heart is law is the lord and and it says in that verse that follows it I the lord search the heart I examine the mind to reward a man according to his way by what his deeds deserve so when We look at man We understand that man is sinful And the only way that because of sin The only thing that we deserve is death The wages of sin is death Right, I think it's roman 623 if i'm not mistaken apologies if that's the wrong reference so The wages of sin is death and only if And everything else that you have outside of that Is only the grace of god and the grace of god is there for all his children Whether you're a believer or whether you're a non-believer. Okay, but for those who believe him There is his promises. There is his spiritual blessings that he gives unto us. Okay, and that's what makes A believer's life journey a lot more fulfilling Now looking at how to be counsel non-believers To understand that Everyone is blinded from the truth of of god and his word and As as believers we are responsible to open God's truth to them And how do we do this in different ways? You know, it's through evangelization It's it's it's it's through the way that um, you know, you may be meeting with friends talking to them about your testimony It may be a part of counseling as a part of self disclosure where the counselor themselves comes about and Talks about what has been important in their lives or it is a sharing of the gospel, right? Or it can also be just which is part of what we're going to be looking at today in today's class Is the relationship that a counselor shares with the counseling just seeing The the sense of acceptance and love and regard that the counselor gives the counseling Definitely has a place for them to question. What is the driving force? Behind the counselors joy of counselors You know presents in all of this So there are multiple things that brings a person to To a place of understanding now even as i'm saying this there are many people who May shun or may not want to get in to the realm of spirituality Now having said that remember that is a choice that they make that is That is a decision that they have taken not to do so and You know god his thought is to be respectful of of that if they've decided that What is it that i'm left with is a place of intercession and prayer for them That they that god would open their eyes that the scales of their eyes would fall off that That the that the spirit would enlighten them into understanding the truth so even as Even as you are helping non-believers you may go through this pathway of Finally coming to a place of knowing that their crucial needs are unmet and i've had Many number of counselors coming to that place of understanding that You know i'm i feel A lack of value. I feel a lack of self-worth. I don't feel significant now. Where am i going to find it? so that That i won't say always but there are times that gives me the opportunities depends on the setting that i'm in now i'm also part of some corporate counsel counseling that really You know does not Because they know i'm a christian counselor they they actually bring that out and i respect that part of it So i do i am careful in the way that i present it but then i do say I do give these options and i say you know one way People have these needs met is when when they have a spiritual understanding of who god really is Is that something that you think you should explore? Is that an area that you think you would like to look at so they may say yes They may say no with permission with with you know tactfully sometimes dealing with it There are parts of the gospel that i open up, but then if there is a total You know unwillingness then i do respect that and i say okay Then then we may need to look at the second part of it as to how you think you can fulfill this and that The ball is thrown back into their court As to what is it that they can do to fulfill those core and crucial needs that may be present within them So as when you look at an unbeliever you definitely have the same frame of understanding As you would when you're dealing with a believer only thing isn't in a believer there is a lot more openness and It's much easier to help them see that you know, you don't have to run after these needs on your own You've got someone who's already fulfilled this for you. It's much much easier Much harder when it comes to comes to an unbeliever who is willing to to pay that to pay the attention to that So yes, it's a journey, but nevertheless, I you know, I believe that it's like a seed that is sown That maybe i've probably put the first or the second seed and somebody would take over In in really showing them the gospel and then they're able to to to come back to it Because I know a couple of counselors where I've put in the seed, you know, I've thrown in the seed and and they've gone saying, you know That that's a very helpful understanding Now it is my journey to find that, you know, even though we've given those Of how it can be found in a spiritual relationship with with god that that has been that has been put But not really been taken But then you put in there as a seed and and believing that you know, god will use somebody else to water that I hope I answered Christopher Ah, yes. Yes. Thank you. I I I saw that I saw the bible references to to the emotional function also I think I got this bit for like just reading the document I saw that emotional area and I didn't see any bible references be underneath that so I Okay, I thought that there was nothing in that here Okay, just one, uh, I guess just one small little question around what you just now mentioned um With with with unbelievers when we throw in uh, not not when but when we include the spiritual you know aspect of Of, you know, how uh, that is that is that is the only uh, solution Uh, of the only pathway to you know to getting Getting out of certain, uh, you know areas of you know You know the the gravity or uh, you know areas where you know, they're not functioning in goodness um What if they were to begin, you know, their Their, uh, you know religious beliefs and uh, when we know that there's only one way And there is only one god and you know, that is that is in Jesus Jesus Christ And they're bringing that uh, and they say that you know, yes, we do it But we know we do it to our our god and we do it through our our, you know the way to uh, you know How we have been brought up or whatever so, um I've personally not had an experience like this but what I would think is the wisest thing to do is um, you know One is invite them to church and say, uh, you know, why would would you like to probably Understand what this part of spirituality that maybe Maybe what a christian believer thinks about would you like to explore that? And then, you know, do your own search about what you believe in Try and find I think what you should do is to help them to find those results on themselves or Put them to sources put them to people who would be able to do that That kind of a distinguishing Thing for them or maybe sending them a video to understand what's the difference between a belief of a christian god and a belief in something else You know, I think that becomes more helpful because I'll tell you in the context that sometimes I work in Maybe that part of it may not be something in the purview that I'm called to do like like for example Maybe in a corporate setting I'm called to do a specific role and I would be careful in how I help the person So I I think I would tactfully Wisely use it to put them on to another source Who could help them to find more or maybe give them a book to read or or something that helps to Get them to understand this in totality But let's say if it's if it's a setting like like Like what we have in a center like ours in a counseling center like ours, which is completely christian Then maybe I would get into some form of a Discussion with them to as much as I would be able to or put them again on to maybe maybe Somebody like pastor or someone who can who can really help them to decipher that So that's what I would do because I I think I would also look at what is it that I am able to bring to the table for them And maybe things that I don't completely understand is something that I may source out And it is perfectly fine to source out something that you You feel you may not be confident in but I I think that's necessary to do one is to get them to research on their own to give them good resources to find this out and to Put them on to someone who could probably have an independent discussion of this Because you're dealing a lot with maybe emotional issues and struggles with that right and sometimes you want to Help the individual to keeping it that and having this seen somewhere else because I've heard a lot of times that You know once you build a bias on a counselor, then you've completely lost them out So I would be very careful and wisely tactfully do that to ensure You know, if I know my counseling well enough, maybe those discussions I may get into if not Um, I I would probably source it out outside Thank you. Okay. All right. Okay. Um, so oh god, okay. We've taken 40 minutes on that all right, so we're going to dwell into our uh, our next topic and our next topic is on the A counseling process and part of the counseling process is the counseling relationship and we're going to be looking at page 15 onwards Um, and we're going to specifically look at certain components that are needed in a counseling Uh relationship Kindly give me a minute. I'll just share my screen So that uh, yeah, I hope you can see my screen Right. Yeah. Okay. So we're going to be looking at um, the counseling process and one part of that counseling process is the counseling relationship Now a counseling relationship refers to counseling or you know in the secular parlance. It's called as a therapeutic relationship. Okay and uh, it this refers to the Close and consistent association that exists between two individuals, which is the counselor as well as the counseling Now the purpose of the relationship is to help the counseling to Bring about a change in his or her life And this relationship is essential because very often Uh, the this could be the first setting in which this person the counseling Shares these intimate thoughts and beliefs and emotions regarding whatever they have come for So, uh, so so it becomes very important that the counselor provides a very safe Open non-judgmental atmosphere where the counseling can be at complete ease so the the uh, uh, a good Cushioning is where you're able to build trust. You're able to build respect And you're encouraged to show certain attitudes Um, and just like how you would do in any other social relationship These are certain things that are important. Now when you look at the counselor The counselor, sorry the counseling comes with maybe certain insight is you know, you're looking for them to be honest You're looking them to be persistent You're looking them to bring about a motivation to change All of this comes when the counseling builds certain attitudes. Okay And we're going to be looking significantly at this. So just a few definitions To understand why a counseling relationship is important um, uh, so so these these are just taken from you know, some Counselors who've who've been in the in the field and who who've really researched about the counseling relationship Now the relationship between a counselor and the counseling is something that should be built by trust and openness In this one-on-one relation relationship Where the counseling is helped to work through these problems and crisis that they may be coming from So that they can find options in their life also and be able to discover what God has put into their lives. Okay A counseling relationship becomes effective when uh, when the counselor's personal qualities and skills Are there to encourage growth in the counseling. So so a lot of A lot of help comes from What the counselors qualities and skills are Okay, so remember these are all in the background of what we learned in the first Lesson where yes, God is the center The Holy Spirit is the one who opens up thoughts and ideas and understanding And you as a counselor Is an important medium in this process So God needs to use you effectively as a counselor to be able to help and reach the other person Okay, so the goal or the task of the counselor is to provide a relationship That allows the other person to discover within themselves The areas of growth and a way of thinking and active. So that's That's what you are called to do to help them to change The way they may be thinking change the way They may be behaving so that growth can occur And how is this done This is done through specifically core attitudes of a therapist or a or a counselor rather than whatever Approach you are using um In counseling, okay, so more than the approach Like There are very many different approaches that one would use, you know in in a counseling setting, especially when you've you've done count secular counseling There are very many theories. I mean people go through different approaches like, you know One is the psychoanalytical approach where they go back into the childhood and figure out things That impact the present that there is the client centered where you're looking at the individual then and there There is the solution focus. So there are many many Orientations, but what is more important is the attitude of the counselor and This attitude the way that the counseling Perceives this attitude makes a huge difference in the counseling also So let's just look at what these components Components are that there are three specific Components that we are going to be looking at and they are bedrock in building the foundation of a counseling relationship So the first is empathy The second is unconditional positive regard And the third is congruence or something that is called this genuineness and we will look into Detail to each each of this just to understand and explain what each of this mean So the first one we're looking into is called Empathy okay now what is so so maybe You know just just for an understanding that we have I'm sure as a you know as kids Or even as As adults we've played this You know you play this game where you give four feats to one another Right like you you know you you're you're you're supposed to choose a partner And you're supposed to write something that they should do in public right or they should do in front of your class or things like that Have any if you played that In some way or the other you know you're you're supposed to write a feat for the other person have any if you played that no Okay, I guess not no all right. Okay So if we were if we were in in real class, I would have actually got you all to play that So maybe yeah, okay truth or dare. Okay. Okay. Something like truth or dare, right? Okay, uh, so I'm sure you'll have played truth or dare So if you were to ask somebody to do something What do you think you would ask them to do and I'd like to hear some responses Let's say maybe in the classroom you want someone to do something. Okay, we're having a fun time Okay, so what would you ask somebody to do or somebody to share or Okay, so samyam said dancing What else would you do?  Okay. All right Now. Okay. So great share a secret. Okay. So What what we are doing now? What is what is empathy? So generally if I were in actual class and let's say Okay, let's say, you know, I've paired up samuel and anita together So samuel has told has asked anita to act like a monkey And anita has asked samuel to share a secret So what I would do to really bring about the concept of empathy is Have samuel do what he's asked anita to do So I would ask samuel to act like a monkey and anita to share a secret Samuel possible to act like a monkey and give us some entertainment Okay, all right. Okay. Now. Why is this important? Is that? um Often when like in this game when I give a feat or I ask someone to do something I don't really care How they're going to do it All that I want to do is put them in an uncomfortable position So that everybody else has a laugh, right? I mean, this is a game But that's the that's the very core of it But to be Perceptive and sensitive that hey if I ask anita to act like a monkey You know, how is that going to be for her? What if I were in her position? Would I like to do that? Maybe not. Maybe I will try something else Right, so this is just to bring about a point about about empathy for us to you know, really understand So what is empathy? Empathy can be Described in very many different ways and some of it is what I've written here. You know, you walk in another shoes You enter into another's frame of reference. This frame of reference is is a class We're going to take the next time. So that's something I will go into a lot more detail or having the ability of Ability to experience life as the other person has or by entering into their own world of thoughts and emotions and understanding so that that's what empathy empathy means now in counseling what What empathy is an expression? Of the regard and respect you as a counselor holds for the counseling Whose experience may be very different from yours as a counselor So the counseling needs to feel held Or understood well As well as feel respected Now to hold a client a counseling in in a in a Relationship in a therapeutic relationship relationship means that the counselor is capable to accept and support The counseling through any issues or problems or concerns that they may bring It's the ability to empathize With another and it is and what this does is it enhances your Attentiveness and you do that by different expressions Okay, whereas sympathy now often, you know, we get mixed up with these two words empathy and sympathy Sympathy on the other hand is not empathy. Sympathy is feeling sorry for someone It is to create sorrow in yourself In response to what the other person may be going through So when you feel sympathy for someone you might also see them with pity While you know pity makes people like a victim makes a victim of the sufferer You say poor thing poor you you're actually making a victim of the sufferer of the person Whereas empathy empowers them and is saying, you know, I have an understanding of what your world is You're not alone. You and I are here in this together So the important elements of empathy is to be able to understand the feelings of of the other Sorry, let me get on to the next side. Yeah, so the empathy becomes as a skill It it it is seen as a skill that that you that you you build up Okay. Now, it's it's the skill of reflecting back to another person. So you recognize And you reflect back you share back the feelings that you see the person is experiencing You're actually looking and saying, okay What what is this person feeling and empathy is to be able to reflect back what the other person may be feeling It also involves listening to to others Understanding them and communicating this understanding back. Okay. It's listening It's understanding and communicating this understanding back So empathy is the capacity to recognize and to some extent share these feelings That that the other person is experienced to the other. So you understand the feeling You reflect the the counsellor's mood and the content And it is done through your tone of voice which conveys that ability to share these feelings. So finally Only when you can really be open or clear or sensitive to the emotions and feelings of the other person Does actual care begin to happen. Okay, and that happens when you empathize Okay, sorry. I'm just a little cognizant of time Okay. Yeah, I think we before we get into this We will probably take a break And so on my clock, it's 1054. Let's resume back at 114 after a cup of coffee. So come back to understand more, right


And so this same thing, this is a three-year-old here. You know, start working on them right now, just like this right here. You know, you just side-passing them kind of a little bit with that right foot so that way you can kind of work on those cuts. And I think the worst thing you can do for anybody, whether it's amateur, non-pro, open, is when you're cutting to get right there. Just let him take that in right there, just like the last horse. Just let him take all that processing in. Sit, wait, be patient. He knows to kind of hold with this foot. Now I'm gonna use my right foot to press on him to start him up towards the cow to drive up to this cow to get pressure. And so that way I know too, like in a show pen, if my horse gets too flat, I know that I can use this foot to come up towards that cow through that turn. So now come straight up right there. There you go. Same thing. Let him hit that, hit that, take all that in. Retain that information. Then we're gonna start again. There we go. Good. And see, even though it's not perfect, I'm letting him figure it out. I'm letting him kind of make those mistakes or whatever it is. Just like right there. I'm gonna drive up with this left foot because I want that pressure. I want him to know we're taking hold of that cow. Just like that right there, there you go. I think, you know, we are riding cutting horses and so I think to win or do good, like I like to see a horse is hitting big stops but I wanna see.


Hey everybody welcome back to the channel today. I thought I would make a quick video on the crunchy roll anime awards 2023 edition Pretty strange overall. I got to say I am a little bit disappointed with the or actually super disappointed with the selections The nominees if you will I'd like to cover this because I think it is important I am a huge fan of animation in general. I love anime and I think it does deserve a A western award recognition show thingamajig. So it's really cool when they do this sort of thing I'm not a fan of the popularity contest that forms out of this Essentially, you have a couple days to vote for your favorite and everybody just mass Votes for a particular series to win and then that happens and it's kind of cheesy and lame in my opinion If you're going to do it right at least get a panel get a Board to supervise this and they make the voting and selection and we just enjoy The process and the actual show and all that stuff But first things first I got to point out the anime of the year segment I'm going to vote on that last but I need to show you guys the six nominees Out of hundreds of shows. I thought Maybe they'll do like Oscar style and just pick ten shows because again, there were a lot of cool series that aired in 2022 The choices are baffling to me. You got attack on titan final season part two cyberpunk edge runners demon slayer the entertainment district arc Licorice recoil ranking of kings the second half of that and all of spy family Now what's interesting here is and I've seen other websites that do polls and anime of the year stuff as well They included demons layer and ranking of kings the later halves of both shows aired at the start of the year however I Don't like to count them because they started The year prior that's just me You could make an argument like it counts because it aired a huge chug or whatever But I want to see an award for show that aired in completion all of it during that year I will not be Voting for anything ranking of kings and demons layer. I think that's a very safe decision to do that And pick something that was part of 2021 also A lot of famous shows are missing. You're not seeing uh, bochi the rock and you're not seeing the bleach anime You're not seeing chainsaw man mob cycle 100 the list goes on and on Instead it's it's kind of a mixed bag. I don't think this is the best of the best in my opinion But that's what they chose. So I guess we'll have to live with it Let's uh go over the categories real quick and and share my thoughts now best voice artist performance English I will not be voting on that because I don't watch Dubbed anime. So I have no idea about these performances. I have no idea about the voice actors. So I will Skip that one. Best voice artist performance Japanese the say use if you will Uh, let's see if I can remember these names and pronounce them correctly. Probably not Atami Tanezaki voiced Anya for spy family Chika Anzai, she voiced Chisato for the chorus recoil. You got uh, Fidu's eye. I butchered that. Sorry voicing Joine for uh, Jojo's bizarre adventure stone ocean Misaki Kuno was Faputa if I remember correctly on maiden abyss season two Uh, Natsuki Hanai, of course, Tanjiro and Yuki Kaji for Eden pretty solid list on that one and honestly, I It it's between spy family Maiden abyss and the court's recoil for me and I'm going to have to go with Chika I think she just did a phenomenal job with that series Even though I don't think it's the best, uh, anime of the year I do think it's one of the best acted shows of the year. Okay, there we go. I am going to vote for Chika as Chisato Best romance now this is pretty interesting He got call of the night Kaguya-sama love his war ultra romantic or season three komi can't communicate The second season love after world domination. I think this was a really underrated anime My dress up darling was fantastic and Shikimori is not just a cutie. I wasn't a fan of that at all I'm going to go with call of the night. That is one of my favorite shows of last year And I started reading the manga for the first time last year as well There we go. Gotta represent one of my favorites best fantasy Got demon slayer. Also, uh, a lot of of the anime of the year Shows are going to be spread throughout the categories, which I always find extremely boring Again, I apologize. I I love demon slayer. I have all the manga volumes. I've seen the show Ranking of kings is one of my favorite shows. I think it's uh, one of wood studio's best productions Or adaptations, I should say sorry But I'm not I'm not gonna touch that at all Instead I'm gonna focus on other stuff like mushiko tensei season one part two You got made in abyss here season two overlord Four season four the case study of vanitas the second part of that series Again that aired also in 2021. I am as for best fantasy For me, it's either made in abyss or mushiko tensei mushiko tensei is fantastic and it has a really cool world building, but I think made in abyss should have been A contender a nominee for anime of the year. It was a masterful season, if you will best drama Got 86 part two again that aired 2021, but okay attack on titan final season part two cyberpunk edge runners dance dance dance or another series that I think should have been On the anime of the year list if you have not seen it and I get it. It's not popular enough. That's why they didn't put it there It's a popularity contest But I like to take these things seriously and I think People should as well because they are fantastic shows overall and they all deserve wonderful recognition Kotaro lives alone. I've not seen that so I can't talk about that one Made in abyss season two This is drama It has to go for uh Dance dance dance or that was a fantastic beautiful series. I highly recommend you guys check it out if you have it Wonderful overall best comedy You got kaguya sama season three Kotaro lives alone. I guess I need to watch this. It's dominated multiple times. What the hell My dress of darling spy family You got uncle from another world if it ever finishes broadcasting And yaboi kong me This is a solid one and actually it's pretty hard My initial thought is to go with kaguya sama lovers war season three I think it's the best of the seasons so far. They they knocked it out of the park with the Writing and acting and all that stuff. My dress of darling was a really nice surprise and genuinely a fun show spy family was phenomenal and Took everybody took the world by storm everybody fell in love with that show Yaboi kong me is amazing Can't recommend that enough uh done by pa works adapting the manga of the same name and uncle from another world I I've genuinely laughed out loud watching that series. I'm going to go with that honestly Yeah, I'm gonna go with that uncle from another world solid super fun show Best action attack on titan final season part two cyberpunk edge runners demon slayer judges Was our adventure stone ocean the chorus recoil spy family for action. I'm gonna go with uh cyberpunk edge runners for sure There you go must protect that all-cost character. I absolutely hate this category.  You got ania boji kage kotaro marine and shoko or komi It has to be ania, of course There we go. Best supporting character You got eye hayasaka from kaguya sama ania forger from spy family You got kage from a ranking of kings rebecca from cyberpunk Your double duty here for a spy family. Okay and tengen uzui I am going to go with Let's let's let's go to your she's a great character And i'm realizing as i'm voting that a lot of people are going to hate this video They're probably going to dislike it. I don't really care. At least you watched it. So thank you for that The best main character you got boji. He is one of the best characters. I'll give you that but not for this voting session Uh chisato nishikigi Nishikigi? Yeah, I said that right. Uh david martinez, Eren Yeager, Lloyd forger, uh, marine kitagawa Best main character Um, I'm I'm going to go with marine because she's great Uh, next up we got best director. I am going to go with Even though it's not my Anime of the year pick. I think the direction on the chorus recoil Is quite phenomenal. It's an action-packed show with great Uh, great characters gunfights drama Overall I've really enjoyed it. I'm I'm going to give it to shin go adachi Here you go best anime song which is different. They usually just do openings and endings We're going to see those in a bit. So this is just A the song not the animation for the opening. A lot of people tend to confuse that online. You'd be surprised You got new genesis uta from one piece film red Shall we dance from what is this shadows? Shadow sounds there we go.  Damn it. Damn it.  So Best film now this one's pretty interesting. I Yeah, I'm not going to be able to vote on this because the only one I've seen Is the deer king, which is phenomenal. I haven't seen bubble. I want to watch inuo Once I get that on blu-ray one piece film red. No I'm not a fan of dragon ball super and I haven't seen jiu-jitsu kaizen zero So unfortunately, I can't vote on this It's unfair to me to just go. Oh deer king because that's the only one I've watched I don't know whatever. I probably only want thinking like that Best music score Spy family yaboi kong mean of course it is a music anime made in abyss Cyberpunk you got attack on titan and demon slayer For the music I actually think Um, it has to be attack on titan Best ending sequence you got attack on titan.  That's super underrated and the obvious winner one of the best songs out of 2022 And that is of course call of the night from that's the actual translation of Call of the night a no-brainer. This was one of the best songs out of last year I cannot recommend it enough and that ending is just amazing. So of course Best opening sequence now. This is a little bit easier. You got cheeky cheeky banban From your boy konming naked hero from ranking of kings an amazing song Too bad. I'm not gonna choose it This fire from cyberpunk fire, right? Mixed nuts spy family the rumbling. That's a good one and uh, thank you sanca. Hmm Yeah, too bad. I mean this is solid list right here, but fortunately like I mentioned I'm not gonna pick on the 2021 entries. I'm going to go with cheeky cheeky banban Everybody should watch your boy konming. That was such a good wholesome show. I loved it Best continuing series you got again Tackle and Titan final season part two demon slayer judges was our adventure stone ocean kavi asama I love his war season three made in abyss season two and one piece. I'm going to go way Made in abyss as best continuing series that season was just gorgeous loved it It was so tragic and well done best new series now. This is a category where you could have highlighted more shows instead of just Adding the course recoil and spy family again. I know their new series, but again 2022 had a lot of shows and We're just seeing the same ones over and over again You got those two you got call of the night cyberpunk edge runners my dress of darling and your boy konming It's not a bad list and I am going to represent my One of my favorites all of the night and it was an amazing series. So if you haven't seen it, I highly recommend it There you go. Go ahead for that best animation I'm surprised to see akb's sailor uniform as creepy and fetishy as that Series is it does have amazing animation from coberworks They're one of my favorite studios and just knocked it out of the park cyberpunk by trigger was amazing ranking of kings demon slayer, of course attack on titan final season part two and spy family I'm going to go personally. I'm going to go with spy family even though technically you have to acknowledge UFO tables Work on demon slayer. I totally get that so before you get mad at me. You're watching right now Just know that yes in my heart that is the winner But I got to make a stand and I don't I'm not going to go back on my word. So I will pick spy family and We're nearly done best character design Again, uh, the same almost the same as before you got demon slayer. You got spy family Jojo's bizarre adventure stone ocean ranking of kings my dress-up darling and cyberpunk edge runners I think this one has to go to cyberpunk It was so inventive with the with that world and the character designs and all that I'm going to go with that Best original anime there we go. So this is stuff that's not based on On a manga or a light novel you got birdie wing golf Golf girl story. I mean, it's fun, but to nominate it for best original Okay, whatever healer girl is an amazing series highly underrated the orbital children is weird because it was It aired in japan as a movie and then got spliced up into a series on netflix So that's odd vampire in the garden. That's a original net animation on netflix I think and you'd a deco was solid as well I'm going to go with the underdog here And I hope more people do because healer girl had some really interesting ideas and breath-taking animation and music if this should have been nominated in Score and all that stuff because the songs and all that they were just beautiful. So I'm going to represent The girls here for healer girl and well, here it is anime of the year We talked about all these six shows and I got to make up my mind I'm not going to go for ranking of kings or demons there even though they had amazing episodes and arcs or whatever Attack on titan final season part two was phenomenal cyberpunk edge runners was a lot of fun Uh, licorice recoil was a lot of fun as well. I'm I'm going to I'm going to go with spy fouled I think it had a well-rounded package great characters Great visuals a fantastic story It was adapted really well from the manga the animations Super clean and nice to look at the characters are great The voice acting is really good in that I think it's the most well-rounded and should be The one of the anime of the years and in this case, it's going to be the anime of the year that I pick Uh, so there we go I'm not going to do this again. I don't care about it that much to uh continue voting until january 25th If you enjoyed this video, thank you so much. I know it was kind of a bit of a downer because I was uh Complaining a lot about this even though it's just a popularity contest, but hey, I I care about this stuff I'm a huge passionate fan for Animation and anime as a whole and I just wanted I thought we were going to get a really solid best of the year list and Like for example, uh original anime where was uh bleach mob cycle 100 the final season chainsaw man Bochi the rock the list goes on and on There were a lot of great shows last year that I think should have been here Nominated as well, but that's their decision who cares end of the day. It's just uh shows So that's going to be it guys. Thank you so much for tuning in I hope you found this video entertaining or at least you laughed at my hijinks here I will be back with another video soon talking about the uh winter season and then some manga goodness and all that stuff So thank you everybody for the support. I truly do appreciate it We've had a bunch of new users watching and I'm super excited about that I hope I didn't steer you away and and now you want to leave Do come back because we got some good content coming up on the channel. Thank you so much That's going to be it for now. Thank you everybody God bless. Stay safe out there. I will catch all of you on our next video


Is it on? Is it on? Test, test, test. Yeah. Okay, everybody. Welcome. This is aboard the WordPress community, a journey of self-discovery with Carol Olinger. Thank you. Hi. I love everybody and welcome to this session. I'm happy to see you around. I'm a bit excited and nervous, but I am so happy to be allowed to share my personal story about how I became a WordPress community junkie and to be in Florida with a lovely weather. So let's start. A few words about me. My name is Carol. I'm 37 years old and I come from a very small country in Europe which is called Luxembourg. But I live in a German Eiffel since more or less four years now. And I wanted to have a look back at my life, how it was four years ago. So I worked as a government agent in Luxembourg for 12 years. And there are a lot of advantages of being a government agent because you have a very high income and there's a lot of security related to that job. The pensions are guaranteed. You have a very good health insurance, which is an important thing, though. But on the other hand, I felt miserable about what I was doing every day. I didn't feel any fulfillment and it wasn't anything meaningful. And I ended up with severe mental health problems. And sort of advantages that you have are a lot about security. And who needs security? Actually people with a lot of fears. So my mental health status wasn't really that good at that moment. I had a lot of depressive episodes. I was frustrated. My day was full of lethargy. And I had the feeling that I was living in a golden cage. And even though I didn't have a master plan what I could do out, I felt that I really had to escape from the situation. And that's what I did, together with my husband, who was a government worker at that time as well. He was fed up with a job like me. And we quit our home country and we sold all our belongings and moved to the German Eiffel. We went on a four-year sabbatical, actually. So for me, I didn't have any professional goals at that moment. And unfortunately, only the decision to leave what didn't make me happy wasn't enough just to be happy, unfortunately. Because I fell into a very deep hole in the first month. And depressive episodes got worse. And I had a lot of fears of the future, because there was no master plan yet. And I struggled with severe overweight. And I got diagnosed with a chronic disease, which is called lipidema, which I was suffering for almost two decades without knowing it. But I have developed several eating disorders already in my early teenage years, because I wasn't aware of that. So as there have been no professional goals at that point, I decided that it was about time to focus on my mental health and on my physical health. And I decided that I was worth that. I married to a WordPress developer. And yeah, he's a software engineer. And he chose WordPress as a platform of his choice. And he had a plan B, so he worked on his own career. And I had no clue what WordPress was at that time. And I had even no interest to change that, because I am not a technical person at all. But that was kind of difficult for a relationship, because I didn't know what my husband was doing all day. And I felt kind of locked out of his life. And until the day that he invited me to join him into a trip to a so-called WordPress conference, which wasn't actually a thing that I would have liked to do at that point. Because the idea of being with, I'm so sorry, 2,000 nerds and me and having no clue what everybody's talking about didn't sound that amazing. And so he dragged me like kicking and screaming to my first WordCamp, which was WordCamp Europe 2016 in Vienna in Europe, which was the biggest WordPress conference so far, if I'm not mistaken. And yeah, what I got there was totally different from what I expected. I had so many fears to get excluded on site, because nobody would be interested in talking to me, because I was not a technical person. I wasn't involved into WordPress at all.  And it wasn't like that. I was the only person who had prejudices in my head. And I got involved immediately. And I met so many inspiring people and I got so many input from my future life. And I felt a welcoming experience like I have never felt in my life before. And I wanted to become a part of that community. I made new friends and it was broadening of horizon. And there have been 2,500 people and nobody made me feel uncomfortable. And when we flew back to Germany, I had already some kind of withdrawal syndrome. And my husband told me that there's a website called WordPress Central, where I could check whether there are other WordCamps around in our area. And he might regret this by now, because I immediately started on planning where we could attend other WordCamps. And I signed us up as volunteers for some WordCamps to come up in a nearer region, in a nearer area. And the first one we attended together in Germany was WordCamp Frankfurt. And we even, so we got included in the German WordPress community, like from the very first minute on. And as you can see, even our dogs got included in the WordPress community. So I found out that it was not only about WordCamp Europe, but that the WordPress community is, seems to be amazing in general. And volunteering was a big thing for me, because I still felt like I needed to have a role, because I wasn't still a developer and I couldn't go to any session because I wouldn't understand a word. It's only for hardcore coders, of course, that wasn't my hat. And then we went to WordCamp Netherlands in 2016. And I went to the opening remarks, because I didn't suppose that to be anything technical. And then I kind of got locked in the room, because the first speaker, there wasn't a break between the first talk and the opening remarks. And I was like, oh my God, oh my God, the first speaker is on stage, and I can't leave the room, and I'm not going to understand a thing. And it wasn't like that. It was Marike van der Racht from Yoast, and she was talking about SEO. And I found out that it was super interesting, and I learned so much, and that I was able to follow, like, 89% of what she was saying. And that inspired me to go to other talks, and there was another amazing talk that day in Utrecht, which was from Sally Mayer, she's from the United Kingdom, and her talk was called How WordPress Saved My Life. And I found out that there are so many things that I wasn't aware of, like remote work, and that WordPress gives you the opportunity to raise your voice. And it doesn't matter who you are or where you are located. And that was a lot of inspiration to me, and I used that later on. And I'm going to show you what I made about this. The next work we attended was with Kim Kalloyn, again in Germany, and the German WordPress community was trying to convince me, like, two or three days to attend the contributor day, because I had so much fun with the community, and I didn't want to go to the contributor day because, again, in my hat, that's the only thing for coders. And so in the end, I went there, and I joined the polyglots table, and at the end of the day, I had localized a complete theme into German, and it was committed the same day, and I joined the discussions of the community table to create a new type of WordCamp, which is called WordCamp Retreat, and which is about to happen in six weeks in Germany, and that was my first step of becoming a WordCamp organizer myself. And then we attended a lot of WordCamps after these three. So there's, for example, WordCamp London, which is still an outstanding example for me when it comes to accessibility and inclusion, and I hope that I can influence future WordCamps in the way I learned it at WordCamp London, and that was also about my purple hat, so since then I'm wearing a purple hat every time I am at WordPress conferences. So as you will see here, my life changed a lot, and I changed as a person, and not only from the outside, as you can see here, but also from the inside, so there's a considerable weight loss, and I started my lipidema therapy, which is not an easy thing to do because you have to wear compression garments which are very tight every day, going to lymphatic, manual drainage, and I went through three very painful surgeries. Lipidema is a very painful chronicle disease.  And yeah, so in the meantime, I have found new personal and professional goals, and my self-esteem grew so much, so the fact that I'm standing here now in front of you and sharing this very personal story in a language that is far away from my mother tongue, it's a huge thing for me, and I am very, very, very happy to be allowed to do that, and I'm very proud that I'm able to do it, and I couldn't have done that four years before. So what did I achieve in the meantime, besides obtaining wordcares? And how did I use the inspiration I got from the WordPress community? I founded a nonprofit organization in my home country, Luxembourg, where lipidema wasn't recognized as a disease at that time, and I didn't want other women from my home country suffering the same way I did and not getting diagnosed for two decades or more anymore, and so I created a WordPress website with almost no skills, and in a very short amount of time, and we had an enormous reach and enormous feedback, and I realized then what I can do with WordPress, and it was so fulfilling and so amazing, and we got, we had several presence in the local TV, in the local newspapers, and we created a lipidema awareness campaign where I made the designer, but I didn't even know that I had any designer skills at that point, and it was such a fulfillment, and I wasn't paid for that, but it gave me so much more than everything I have experienced before in my work, which I didn't like to do actually. Today, the therapies are accorded in Luxembourg for lipidema, and I'm so, so proud of our non-profit organization that we achieved that in Luxembourg. Talking about creativity, so this is one of our dogs, and as they are part of the German WordPress community now, we created some sweet vapeau with the characteristics of a French bulldog, and I also have a crush on the version of him, and I have the stickers here, so if you want to grab some from this little QD, feel free. I got contacted last year, in the beginning of the year, by Tofa de Roja, if I would like to write an essay for HeroPress, and I felt super honored because I knew about this project, and it's so inspiring to read all the WordPress people around the world and how WordPress changed their lives, and I didn't know at that point that I had a story to share, and I wrote this essay, and I got so many heartwarming feedback after that, and in fact, this was the inspiration to give this talk, because it felt wonderful that I was... I could be able to inspire other people because I got so much from the community. I am in the meantime a WordPress organizer myself, so I was involved in the organization of the Last WordPress Colloin, which took place in autumn 2017, as I told you before, I'm a co-organizer for WordCamp Retreat, which is going to happen in Salta in Germany, which is going to be a new type of WordCamp in the form of a retreat where everybody sleeps at the same place, and there's not only going to be sessions, but community-building activities, I'm very looking forward to that, and I'm a co-organizer for WordCamp Europe now myself, which is about to happen in June, and talking about this WordCamp, I just wanted to let you know, if you are attending, I mean, it would be wonderful to meet some of you over there. The call for volunteers is still open, and we need some more volunteers, and I'm on a volunteer's team, so it would be lovely to work with some of you in Balgrade, in Serbia. You can still sign up, and last but not least, I'm a co-organizer for the tiny, but amazing little meetup in the German Eiffel. A big turning point in my life, again, was WordCamp Europe 2017 in Paris, and this because of two reasons, mainly. I got asked if I would like to emcee, so emceeing is like presenting the speakers on stage, giving information to the audience, and when I got asked, Francesca Marano asked me if I would like to do that, and she's speaking here today, it's going to be next session, I think, and I struggle a lot with imposter syndrome, like, oh my gosh, I cannot stand in front of 2,000 people and speaking English, and whoa.  Somebody told me right before going on stage, one of the most important sentences I heard, like, you don't have to be afraid, we are a WordPress community, we want you to succeed, and that helped me so much, because I don't think there's anybody also here in the room that wants to see how I failed here on stage. I hope so. So I was freaking out, but I managed to keep my cool on stage, and I decided that if I'm going to emcee, I wanted to add value to the conference, so I created a very special emcee form, which I was sending to all of the speakers, which allowed me to write appropriate introduction, and I wanted to tell the audience, why has this speaker chosen to talk about this specific topic, and why should you all listen to the speaker? And I got great feedback about that, and today this form, in adapted ways, is mandatory for the emcees for several WordCams around the world. And the other big turning point in WordCamp Europe was that I was meeting the crew from Plask for the second time, I met them already in Berlin, and we had a lot of fun together, and so Plask is a web of hosting and server management platform, and they asked me in Paris if I would like to become their WordPress community manager, and I felt super honored. But again, I was struggling with the post syndrome, like, oh, wow, this would be an amazing job, but it's way too early for me, and I'm not a technical person, I can't do that.  And in fact, he was right. So I give that a try, and since August 2017, I'm the WordPress community manager for Plask, and it's amazing because it allows me now to do what I love, to do, be around the WordPress community, and be in the neighbor, and creating opportunities, helping sponsoring WordCams. I am allowed to contribute a considerable amount of time in the organization of WordCams, and it's a win-win situation. On the other hand, Plask gets a lot of valuable feedback from the community about their needs and about their product because they strive to improve what they do. So yeah, here I am now, and I am allowed to travel the world, and I don't have to worry about the time I'm contributing to the project if I want, because it allows me at the same time to pay my bills, which is amazing. And so these are the WordCams I was visiting in 2017, and which I'm planning to visit this year, and it's even not everything I'm going to visit, and I made a lot of amazing experiences, so it's so inspiring to meet people from all over the world, and there's some funny story I want to share with you. Very first time for me that I flew into the United States was last year for WordCams Seattle, and our booth, and our swag, and everything we have planned, got stuck at the US Customs, so they are not my friends anymore, and a lot of my team, which I have been with in Seattle, they haven't been involved into WordCams before, and I am a control freak, I can tell you, and it scared me out when I heard the news, and my team was also like super, yeah, not comfortable with the situation, but then I realized again, hey, it's a WordPress community, and I managed to explain to my team that everybody's going to be nothing but supportive, and that nobody's going to make fun of us or be angry that we didn't have the swag that we promised to bring, and that's exactly what happened, and in the end, Seattle was one of my personal highlights of the year because we had so much fun, and we were like presenting our invisible booth, which is probably the most awesome booth you have ever seen, if you use your imagination, and we had so much fun, and we got so much Twitter love, and everybody was supportive, and it was just cool. At WordCamp Cologne, which was the first WordCamp I was a co-organizer of, I got surprised on stage, so during the opening remarks, a friend from the WordPress community came on stage, and they had created a special Vapoo with obviously some characteristics of me to honor my contribution to the WordPress, to the general WordPress community as a newcomer, which I am still, and of course I busted into tears, and yeah, you can imagine. It was really cool, it was overwhelming, and I have these stickers with me, so you have to feel free to grab those stickers, and I got the most awesome birthday present two weeks ago from my husband because he did a pixel version of this Love Vapoo, and he bought all the bricks that were needed to create a Lego piece of art of it. So I was talking in the last 20 minutes a lot about fears, so this is an important message I wanted to share with you. Everything you want lies on the other side of fear, and so the only thing you have to do is to overcome these fears and not to be afraid of changes in your life, and this is not an easy thing to do for a control freak, and I bet I'm not the only one. There's a control freak in here, I see you, and who's struggling with imposter syndrome? Even more, so I think you understand what I wanted to say, but I can tell you it works. The relationship with my husband did also change and in a very good way because I am not locked out of the life he is leading every day, and a problem has become a common strength. So we have new friends, we've found new friends in the Rippers community, we're traveling together, we have more common topics of interest, and we're supporting and learning from each other and we're proud of each other, and so if there's one call to action I can do today is bring your partners, friends, and family to WorkCams because amazing things can happen like it did for me. And I'm not the only example, so all these amazing people allow me to share part of their stories here, so we have Kate and Tofa de Roja, and Kate is like me, not a technical person at all, and she got married to a WordPress developer while she wanted to become a farmer, and then she joined Tofa to WordPress conferences for almost two decades, and in the meantime now she is an editor, a writer, a transcriber, uses WordPress, she's a WorkCams speaker and an organizer herself, and they even bring their daughters, Emma and Sophia, occasionally to WorkCams, and also their daughters made friends in the WordPress community, like they did, and they learned so much about the business opportunities that WordPress creates, which is something that is, I don't think that it's a thing you will learn easily at school. We have here Laura and Kevin Cristiano, and Kevin is a WordPress community deputy, and he got involved into WordPress because of his wife Laura, because she had back in 2007 a WordPress website which had over 100,000 visitors, and he wanted to try to help her manage the website, and he found a WordPress community, and Laura didn't join until 2015 because WordPress conference was only for developers, and when she joined, when she attended the first WorkCams, she got caught by the community bug immediately, like me, and today she's a WorkCams speaker and organizer herself, and they also have their dog kind of involved into the WordPress community, so Scully has their badge from a WordPress in Philadelphia. We have Mark Bansacain. I pronounced the name correctly, yes? Great. So Mark, he is occasionally taking his kits to WorkCams, and he wrote an amazing blog post, and I want to cite Mark and share a quote with you. I want to show my kids that the land of community, both professionally and personally, does exist, and that no matter what they pursue as they get older, they should always seek out communities that are supportive and realize that they need to be equally supportive of the people and communities around them. It's an inspiring and beautiful quote. We have here Manuela van Prien from the Netherlands, and her daughter Kristen. So you can see Manuela on the right side as the lead organizer of WordCamp Utrecht, and while her daughter is volunteering and helping her mother to create a great WordCamp. And last but not least, we have again from the Netherlands, Yvette Sonnefeldt, and some of you might know Yvette because her WordPress story started here in Miami, and Yvette can tell you this for better than I can, so I'm reading what Yvette is wanting to share. About four years ago, I was looking for a way to overcome imposter syndrome. I signed up for WordCamp Miami. As soon as I had purchased a ticket, I got in a total panic stone moment. The organizers of WordCamp Miami were then looking for volunteers. I signed up, helped to haul around boxes and reduce attendees. Within an hour, I was working, chatting, and laughing with other volunteers, focusing on the joint goal, making attendees feel welcome, and right at home, it helped me shift away from my anxiety and towards making real connections.  And I met her son, Julian, at WordCamp Nijmegen in the Netherlands last year, and Julian is some kind of an introvert person, and Yvette knew that he could use a boost too. And I asked Julian what he likes about the WordPress community, and he loves it that everybody is just so helpful and supporting, which is not a thing that he experiences at school, where everybody mostly fans for their selves. So, I would like to say thank you, WordPress community, for all the inspiration I got. And I have now new professional and personal goals, and I am making friends every day, and it's still a bonding of Verizon to be a part of this. And I still don't know exactly where my journey is going to end, but I am super happy that I had the courage to leave the life behind me that made me feel I'm happy every day. So, thank you, WordPress community, for having me on board, and for helping me to build a better life. Are there any questions? But I think I'm already... I'm good? Yeah, great. Okay, thank you. You can still come and grab some stickers and speaker cards.


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was one of the things that that tree here also you know that the opportunity did you see I guess that you know with the release of Malcolm and a Dory that there'd be some pretty good opportunity to be a starter here. Of course. Hi. Not concerned about nothing.  I'm going to keep the ball to just leave. And I see the program going in the right direction. Thank you. Teresa. Welcome to town. Norris. How much do you know about Kevin Byard have your paths ever crossed with him and, and you know how much is it how nice is it to have a safety like that in that secondary as you come in to try to help make this unit better. To answer your first question. I never ran by but you know as you watch film you know this guy don't feel that make a lot of play. But I noticed probably two three years ago making play and just to be a part of it especially hopefully we could build be something good or be something great over here and just win a lot of football game. Fuck. Yeah what's going on to Norris. What'd you know about coach Mike rabble before coming to Tennessee and what do you kind of like about the style of defense that they've kind of had under him and now Shane bone is the coordinator. I just knew him as an NFL player before he came over here. Once he got over here, you know, outside team looking in organizations, not to control the football, play great defense. And that's all you need for a winning organization so I just feel like the step that he's taking. He's going to continue to take it just perfect for me. I'm just happy to be here. Gentry. Yeah, you know it's how surprised were you at how things ended in New Orleans and you know how long into the process until you kind of realize you would be headed to Tennessee. At the end of the day. It's real simple to me man business business. I never came in a lead when my feelings on my sleeve. So I understand the business part of it. I'm just happy. I'm just happy to be playing somewhere else, even playing football, because everything is a business. Paul. Hi, generous. Got a reputation as being pretty feisty and you mentioned leadership already. How much do you consider that part of your role and part of why you're here. I'm serious to come in and play football. Leave by example. I'm not a guy that go yell at younger guys. Get on them. I'm just going to try to pick their brain, have them understand certain things and formations and just play football. I play with a chip on my shoulder on my shoulder because I'm from a small city. He's a good boy. I like to win. If you look at my background from high school to college, all I did was win. And every level I like to compete. So that's what I'm here for. David Boechlear. speed, you know, at a position where you can't really afford to slow down, right? Right. Well, like I said, I'm going into year 10. You work on a long distance running out. It helps, you know, just always being available. Just make sure you're healthy and available and just doing the smaller things. You don't have to go in the weight room and lift 300, 400 pounds. Just keep small muscles around your body just, you know, active and you'll be okay. Tron. Yeah, Jack, we're looking at what the Titans like to do as far as a lot of man defense and in their coverage. How well do you feel your coverage skills, your advanced coverage skills will match up with what the Titans do? And how much did that have to do with your selection to come to Nashville? I'm a man to man corner. I'm sure y'all heard about it, know about it. And just playing within the scheme. Never try to do too much. Always do what I got to do, you know what I'm saying? To put my team in the best position to win. I understand the game now, since I've been playing for so long. So I understand how people are going to attack certain things. And I just work on that during the whole season, baby. Jim Wyatt. Hey, Janors.  And maybe Jack Rabbit. When y'all was calling me Janors, I almost got upset, but I didn't. I was just kept saying Jack Rabbit. But just refer to me as Jack Rabbit. If you guys don't mind or Rabbit. I've been going by that since I entered the league. And Jack Rabbit it is, baby. How come? Well, I'm from Pahokee, Florida. Your preference? I'm from Pahokee, Florida, a small town in Pahokee, near West Palm. And we just known to chase rabbits. And I got to college my first year. I went early making a lot of plays, but I didn't know no plays. And after the film, my coach just started calling me Jack Rabbit. And after that, I just ran with it. Teron. Another thing I want to ask you about is just the communication and how important that is for defense. You know, you down there in New Orleans, Malcolm Jenkins was a really good facilitator and communicator. How can you and some of the safeties like Kevin Byrd and those guys be able to get a high level of communication? Because that was something that was an issue for this team last year. I always start in practice. Each and every day you got to communicate. Everybody got to know what's going on. Even if everybody knows what's going on, but the wrong play, we all still on the same page because everybody knows what's going on. Communication is key. You got to keep working it, working it to the season start and build up or no communication.