My name is Sam Baknin, I am a professor of psychology and the author of Malignan Self-Love, Narcissism Revisited. The narcissist confuses states of mind, generally, and he definitely confuses romantic jealousy with possessiveness and both of these with modification. The narcissist experiences all these three identically, there's pain, there's rumination and brooding, there are grandiose defenses, there's repression, there's denial, there's projection, there's reframing in all these three reactive states of mind, and so the narcissist cannot tell them apart. Additionally, the narcissist confuses external objects with internal ones, he internalizes external objects such as, for example, intimate partners. So when something happens, when there is a psychodynamic which is aversive, which is hurtful, which is problematic, the narcissist doesn't know to tell whether this is something totally self-contained, utterly inner and internal or whether it's actually coming from the outside, whether it is something done to him by external objects. And this inability to tell inside from outside, this inability to tell apart emotions, states of mind, self-states. This is very common in narcissism, but also in borderline and several other personality disorders such as schizoid personality disorder, schizotypal, paranoid personality disorder and so on. So let us try to introduce some method, rhyme, reason and order into these totally disparate emotional forms of reactivity or even reactance. So possessiveness is driven by fear, possessiveness is driven by terror, it's driven by anxiety and the overriding anxiety is abandonment or separation anxiety. Where there is abandonment and separation anxiety, the narcissist, the borderline, etc., is likely to react with possessiveness. Put it aside, now, modification. Modification is a state of introspection, it's a state of soul searching. It's when the narcissist, the borderline's defenses completely crumble, a process known as decompensation and so denuded of defenses, the narcissist gets in touch directly with the very reality that he had been denying all his life. He has no grandiosity to firewall him, he has no false self to rely upon, he has nothing to protect him and to shield him, he has no sanctuary, he is thrust into harsh, hostile world and he doesn't know how to cope with this, and it forces him to look at himself, to observe himself from another person's point of view, it's the closest the narcissist ever gets to empathy, because he suddenly puts himself in other people's shoes and sees himself as they see him, and the contradiction between what they see and what he had seen up to the modification. This contradiction is intolerable, it's unbearable, it's even, in many cases, life-threatening. So possessiveness is about abandonment, anxiety, separation, the terror of separation, the fear of loss. Modification has to do with the crumbling of defenses, decompensation, and then forced introspection. What about romantic jealousy? Romantic jealousy is pain, simply about pain, and this pain results in aversion towards the frustrating object and then withdrawal. In other words, if someone causes you pain by cheating on you, flirting with others, triangulating, you're likely to develop as a narcissist, the narcissist is likely to develop aversion and then withdraw. Possessiveness is the first topic, possessiveness, as I said, is intimately linked to abandonment and separation anxiety and fear of loss. As long as object constancy is maintained, the narcissist is not romantically jealous nor is he possessive. In other words, as long as the narcissist can take the intimate partner for granted, as long as the narcissist feels that he owns the intimate partner, that she is never likely to abandon him, bail out, divorce, get away, run away, as long as he is assured and ascertained of her constant presence regardless of circumstances and ignoring his abusive behavior, as long as he is sure that never mind what he does to her, she's going to stay within the relationship, she's going to service him, she's going to adulate him and in some cases she's going to give him sex if he's somatic. As long as the object constancy is preserved and assured, the narcissist doesn't care, whether his intimate partner is intimate with another man, he doesn't care whether she had found love and sex outside the bond, outside the marriage, outside the diet, he doesn't care, in other words, if she outsources all the sexual and emotional needs from others. The only prerequisite and the only requirement is that she should not abandon him. She is free to do whatever she wants, with whomever she wants, whenever she wants, for as long as she wants, on condition that abandonment is not on the table, divorce is not on the table. As long as there is no fear of loss, no separation anxiety, no abandonment anxiety, the narcissist does not become possessive. But he does become possessive when he senses imminent abandonment, because the narcissist, remember, has called empathy. He scans continuously in a mental state known as hypervigilance. He's like a human breathing, walking scanner, and he keeps scanning his intimate partner hundreds of times a day, hunting for clues, gathering, incriminating evidence, applying his conspiracism and paranoia to patterns of events, behaviors and misbehaviors, so as to ferret out and to home in on any possible separation, abandonment or intent to bail out. So when he does reach the conclusion that his intimate partner is about to give up, is about to elope, is about to go away, is about to kind of decide that there's no hope. When he spots that his intimate partner had become hopeless, had become indifferent, had become hateful, had become malicious. When he spots these changes, sometimes very subtle changes in behavior, in effect, in mood, in verbal, in verbiage, in the choice of vocabulary and how sentences are syntactically put together. When his antenna, when his seismograph tells him that there is a tremor, the earth is shaking and it's like there's a tumbler on the way, there's an earthquake on the way. When he feels this, he becomes possessive. It is then that he becomes possessive. He may engage in reclaimed sex suddenly. After many years of sexlessness, he would suddenly demand sex, or he may suggest to go on a vacation together, or he may try to hover desperately, or he may suddenly re-engage in love-bombing and grooming. He tries to reclaim, reacquire the object, reacquire the intimate partner. And he does it quite desperately, ferociously, intensely. And throughout this period, he is exceedingly possessive. He limits his intimate partner's freedom. He monitors her, spies on her, supervises her. He vets all her contacts, all her social interactions. He tries to isolate her from other people and from family, from a support network, from her best friends. He tries to render her again his partner in a shared fantasy, which is essentially a slave. So possessiveness is triggered by a perception, correct perception or wrong perception, doesn't matter. By a perception, when the narcissist perceives that abandonment, separation, loss, breakup are imminent. And so this is one type of reactive behavior. During the possessiveness, during the stage of possessiveness, the narcissist becomes very angry at any attempt to lie to him. Whenever the intimate partner tries to deceive him, tries to lie to him, tries to distract him, divert his attention, tries to reframe events and behaviors, tries to come up with explanations and excuses, tries to disown her own misconduct. Whenever all this happens, he regards this as a challenge to his grandiosity. He regards this as an undermining of his self-imputed omniscience, a sign that he is not as feared, he is not as respected, he is not as held in awe as he had imagined himself to be. So any attempt within the possessiveness phase to kind of calm the waters by putting a veneer or a coat of fresh paint over what had happened or what is happening actually aggravates the possessiveness instincts and reflexes. So because the narcissist says to himself, does she think I'm stupid?  Does she not respect me as a genius? Does she not understand that I can see through her? I can see through her. I know everything. I'm all powerful. Is she not afraid of me? So these are multiple narcissistic injuries, narcissistic injuries by a thousand cuts and the narcissist resents this. And so in the possessiveness phase, there is a heightened risk of aggression and violence, including physical violence, definitely verbal aggression or verbal abuse, but also sadistic or simply violent reactions. Possessiveness phase is very, very dangerous because the narcissist's foundations, the pillars of his personality, this organized personality, whatever is holding him together, however precariously and tentatively, the glue, the glue is threatened. The possessiveness is an attempt to reconstitute the crumbling edifice of narcissism. It's one stage before modification. It's to fend off the ideas, to fend off the compensation by re-establishing a grandiose state of things. She is mine. I own her. She will never leave me. I'm too good. I'm unique. She will never find someone like me, etc., etc. So possessiveness is triggered by abandonment, fear of loss, fear of imminent separation and breakup. And during this phase, if you try to pull the wool over the narcissist's eyes, if you lie to the narcissist, if you try to deceive him, if you tell him all kinds of stories and excuses, if you come up with alibis as to your misconduct, if you misbehave ostentatiously, egregiously, this can end very badly. It's a dangerous phase. So this is possessiveness. What about romantic jealousy? The narcissist clearly distinguishes two types of intimate partners. There are the intimate partners with whom he fancies himself in love. The narcissist, like the borderline, mislabels emotions. He re-labels his dependence on narcissistic supply as love. He re-labels the good feeling that adulation gives him, the comfort that his grandiosity affords him. He re-labels this as infatuation. So he's likely to have one or two or three women, in cases of heterosexual male, where he would say, well, I'm in love with this woman. I love her. So he's going to use the word love. But he's going to use the word love to describe a group of women who cater to highly specific needs. And we're going to come to that in a minute. All other intimate partners, he doesn't kid himself. He doesn't lie to himself that he's in love. He's in a shared fantasy with them. But they are mere service providers. We'll come to this second group a bit later. Romantic jealousy. The narcissist is capable of experiencing romantic jealousy. And you should distinguish romantic jealousy from possessiveness. Possessiveness drives the narcissist towards the partner. Possessiveness impels the narcissist to re-acquire the partner, to hoover the partner. So possessiveness is the narcissist's way of re-establishing the relationship, the connection, the bond, the diode.  Romantic jealousy. When the narcissist experiences romantic jealousy, he has the exact opposite reaction. He's romantically jealous only of women whom he fancies to love. When he's infatuated, when he's on the stage of limerence, or when he's lasting after a woman, or when he's dependent on a woman for the provision of certain functions. In all these cases, he would say that he loves the woman. And then, when he had convinced himself that he's in love, he would then feel romantic jealousy. But romantic jealousy, in contra-distinction to possessiveness, pushes him away. Romantic jealousy threatens him with modification. And to avoid modification, he develops aversion towards the intimate partner. So when the intimate partner cheats on the narcissist, when she ostentatiously, conspicuously triangulates with someone, flirts with someone else, seduces someone else, when she misbehaves with others, doesn't have to be full-scale sex, she can misbehave in numerous other ways. When there is a question of faithfulness, loyalty, fidelity, when cheating is in the air, when the possibility of betrayal crystallizes and becomes tangible, at that point, if the narcissist had convinced himself that he loves the woman, then he would experience romantic jealousy. And romantic jealousy is one step removed from modification. The transition to modification is literally instantaneous. So to avoid modification, which in most cases is life-threatening, the narcissist would pull away, disconnect, disengage from the intimate partner who had caused him romantic jealousy with her misconduct or misbehavior. He would pull away, he would develop aversion, sometimes revolt, disgust, revulsion. He would disengage, essentially he would go no contact in effect. So romantic jealousy is the opposite effect of possessiveness. For example, the narcissist's sexual desire and lust will evaporate after romantic jealousy. Romantic jealousy is the narcissist's alarm, it's a narcissist's system of alarm. Romantic jealousy is the way the narcissist's mind informs the narcissist that he's about to be modified and that he should pull away before it's too late, and then the narcissist does. Romantic jealousy, when it's real and it's rare, narcissists are possessive. They are very rarely romantically jealous. Don't confuse the two things. When he rarely, extremely rarely experiences romantic jealousy, you have lost him. You will never see him again, exactly like modification. He will walk away. He will keep away from you because you have the power to disintegrate him. You have the power to destroy him via modification. Now which kind of women can provoke romantic jealousy in analysis? Put differently, which kind of women convince the narcissist that he's in love with them? The narcissist is incapable of love, definitely incapable of mature, reciprocated adult love. So which kind of women push the narcissist to tell himself convincingly that he had fallen in love? These women are usually what used to be called in the 19th century decadent women, or incorrigible women. They're both promiscuous and sophisticated, elegant, worldly, cosmopolitan. And the French used to call these kind of women femme fatale. When the narcissist comes across a femme fatale, you know, drop dead gorgeous, elegant, educated, erudite, funny, super intelligent, but also totally promiscuous, totally immoral and amoral, a bit psychopathic, a lot histrionic and a lot borderline. So this combination, borderline, secondary psychopathy, histrionic, put together, is irresistible to the narcissist. And when this combination resides in a woman who is also highly educated, very intelligent, well-traveled, exposed to the world, strong, etc., etc., the narcissist finds these kind of women, as I said, irresistible, and then he convinces himself that he is infatuated or that he is in love with them. All these elements must coexist. The narcissist does not react well to homely women, even if they're promiscuous. If you're promiscuous and homely, the narcissist is going to regard you as a service provider.   He converts you into his mother.  You're the antithesis, the opposite, the anathema of a maternal figure. So then the narcissist settles into a shared fantasy, which is a bit like Game of Thrones, a Netflix series. He settles into a shared fantasy, which is a Hollywood fantasy, like a movie. And within this shared fantasy, he convinces himself that he is in love with this kind of woman. And only this kind of woman can provoke romantic jealousy in the narcissist when she misbehaves with other men.  The first test is the narcissist socializes with the friends and the family of the femme fatale.  Because the femme fatale is his life, it's the pivot around which his grandiose movie revolves. She is the star in his film production, his co-star.   Well, in this case, the narcissist would be extremely reluctant to provide you with anything above the minimum. He would give you the minimum, he would give you minimum attention, he would give you minimum socializing, he would give you very often minimum financial resources, he would give you minimum support and support if any. So minimum maximum. With the femme fatale, the narcissist gives his everything, his utmost, he gives the maximum. With the homely mother figure, he gives the minimum, test number one, test number two. With the femme fatale, the narcissist does react to triangulation. When the femme fatale triangulates, he reacts with romantic jealousy. When you triangulate, if there's no abandonment in the air, he doesn't care. You can triangulate, you can flirt, you can seduce other men in front of him. You can disappear for an entire night with another man. He doesn't care. As long as he is assured of your presence in his life, of your object constancy, that there is no question of breakup or divorce, you can do anything you want with anyone at any time for as long as you wish. Triangulation doesn't work if you are not the femme fatale type. Only when you are the femme fatale type, the narcissist reacts ferociously, vehemently, uncontrollably, impulsively, and sometimes aggressively to any hint of an intrusion by someone else, he becomes competitive. He becomes romantically jealous and he is in pain. The third test is how do you react to the narcissist? Women in the narcissist's life because of the narcissist's overpowering personality, incessant demands, bullying, intermittent reinforcement, aggression, standardized aggression because of all these elements. Women try to keep the peace. They try to mold themselves to conform to the narcissist's expectations. They try to please the narcissist. So the femme fatale type, she would overemphasize her sluttishness, her whorishness, her uncontrollable compulsive promiscuity. She would play act. She would exaggerate these features because she understands intuitively that this is what binds her, what binds the narcissist to her. You, on the other hand, would try to emphasize the motherly side. You would try to render services. You would try to make life pleasant. You would try to introduce some color. You would try to redesign the home. You will try to create an environment of domesticated bliss, coziness, holding, loving, acceptance. You would try to act the good enough mother. So the way you react to the narcissist tells you how he sees you because he's sending signals, he's signaling his expectations, how he should behave, how he should comport yourself, what choices should you make, should it be ostentatious or discreet, etc.   When the narcissist regards you as a playmate, a driver, a companion, a housekeeper, a personal assistant, or a sex slave, when the narcissist makes demands upon you, which are 100% self-centered and self-focused, egotistical, when the narcissist transactionally pays you for your services, he makes it very clear, I bring the money home, I'm the provider and you should do ABCD. Or even you're the provider, but you should still do ABCD. When he links money, when he connects money or economic issues, when the relationship is a give and take, it's a business deal, art of the deal. In this situation, the narcissist is never romantically jealous.  Then he might become possessive, he might even re-engage in love-bombing and grooming and sex, but he would never be romantically jealous. And the reason is that he expects from you to give him your presence, not to abandon him, services, sex, no, sadistic supply.  And having given him all this, he expects you to leave him alone. He has a schizoid core, he wants his solitude, he wants his solitary pursuits, and he wants the freedom to act in any way he pleases at any time, my way or the highway. So when it's a transactional relationship, the narcissist withdraws from the relationship, subject to minimum conditions.  It's a minimal relationship. With the Fan Fatal, it's an all-consuming, ubiquitous, all-pervasive relationship. It's a maximum relationship. The narcissist is 100,000% involved in the relationship and expects his Fan Fatal intimate partner to do and to be the same, only with him, all the time with him. Any glance, any flirt, any look, any comment, even regarding past lovers, is interpreted immediately as triangulation, triggers romantic jealousy. Should this continue and be repeated, finally, the narcissist develops aversion and withdraws from the relationship. So, relationship with the Fan Fatal is maximum, minimum, all-out, withdrawal. Transactional relationship with the service-providing maternal figure is minimum, minimum, maximum. The narcissist gives his minimum. If he's threatened to leave him, he gives his maximum. And sex reflects these dynamics.  Very few narcissists engage in casual sex. Casual sex is more psychopathic. Narcissists need the shared fantasy because they engage in sex within a grandiose script. They need to believe, they need to convince themselves that they own the partner somehow. So anyhow, narcissists engage in sex within shared fantasies. And within the shared fantasy, the narcissist continues to engage in sex as long as there is a risk of abandonment or a risk of breakup. And because the Fan Fatal is utterly, unmitigatedly, uncompromisingly promiscuous, this trait is looming in the air all the time. So sex in the relationship with Fan Fatal is a permanent feature. It never stops. There's never sexlessness with the Fan Fatal because she constantly, she is constantly available or makes herself available to other men, at least in the narcissist's mind. And she broadcasts this to him. She tells him openly that she's available to other men. So this keeps him on his toes and he keeps offering sex. Actually, the love-bombing and grooming phases of the shared fantasy never end with the Fan Fatal. Not so with a homely domesticated maternal figure, even if she's promiscuous, because she is committed to the relationship. She is embedded in the relationship. She is invested in the relationship. She is much less likely to abandon, much less likely even to stray promiscuity notwithstanding. So at some point, when object constancy is accomplished, when the adulating presence of the intimate partner is guaranteed, when he can take her for granted, the sex stops, the sex seizes, and that relationship devorves, is demoted to services only relationship, totally transactional, business-like relationship. So with the homely type, it starts with a lot of sex in love-bombing and grooming phase and ends with no sex. Once the relationship has coalesced and congealed, and object constancy is guaranteed, no abandonment will ever happen. At that point, sex stops because it's no longer necessary in order to secure the partner's presence. Because the Fan Fatal is never owned, can never be possessed, can never be owned. She's too strong. She's too worldly. She's too promiscuous. She's too beautiful. She's too everything. So the narcissist never feels, can never take her for granted. He never feels that her presence is guaranteed. So that he has to continue to reacquire her time and again. It's a cycle of approach avoidance that never ends. It's like Groundhog Day. The same day repeats itself every day. So the narcissist in this type of relationships continues with sex, unabated, uninterrupted and unimpeded, which may explain why he's actually romantically jealous. You are romantically jealous when what you give is not enough and your partner seeks the same thing from others.  Your sex was not good enough for her. She needed more. She needed better. She needed a variety. That's humiliating. That's insulting. Provokes romantic jealousy. In the relationship with the domesticated, homely partner, there's no sex and so the narcissist doesn't care.  There's no comparison there. There's no narcissistic injury. There's no challenge.  It's normal if he weren't to not give her food. She would go to a restaurant. It's totally understandable and it's not perceived as personal. But with the femme fatale, the narcissist provides sex all the time and if she betrays him and cheats on him, it provokes romantic jealousy. Romantic jealousy is driven in large part by comparing yourself to the other men. There's an element of competition in romantic jealousy. Very strong. I mean, it's documented in studies. Men are focused on the visual side of the cheating and they compare themselves, every parameter, every organ, every bit of performance to the other block. What did he give you that I didn't? I mean, was he better than me? Was he longer than me? Everything. Was he thicker than me? So these questions are more common than you know in romantic jealousy. So romantic jealousy is about competition. And there's no competition within the transactional diet, within the transactional couple because some things are missing. There's no love. There's no intimacy. There's no sex. So it's normal for the intimate partner to look for these things outside the marriage. With the femme fatale, it's different. What about modification? I've dedicated several videos to modification. Before we go to modification, I want to reiterate one thing. The core of narcissism is a schizoid core. At heart, the narcissist is an abused and traumatized child and this child just wants to not be. This child seeks absence, not presence. This child doesn't want to live. This child wants to be unborn, to go back to the womb. The child withdraws from the world and withdraws from objects in the world, other people, because they cause him a lot of pain, a lot of hurt. The child just wants to be left alone, solitary and pursue solitary things that give him pleasure, his hobbies, his collections, whatever. So the transactional relationship is service-oriented and minimal because the main commodity, the main good within this relationship, is solitude. The intimate partner of a narcissist agrees to seek intimacy and sex and love outside the bond, outside the marriage, in order to let, to give the narcissist the time and the space and the loneliness, the solitude that he really needs. This is the compromise. I will let you have all the time in the world to do anything you please as you wish. I'm going to leave you alone. I'm not going to nag. I'm not going to ask for anything, says the intimate partner. But let me outsource my needs. Let me find others who will. And the narcissist is okay. Fine with me. Just be here. Just service me. Just admire me. And everything is fine with me. No problem. But the femme fatale is not the same. The femme fatale, the narcissist doesn't want to be left alone, doesn't want his solitude. The reason is he cannot reach object constancy. To be within the space of solitude, to pursue, to be alone, to be left alone, the narcissist needs to feel safe. He needs to feel that his intimate partner is present. Never mind what she is doing at any given moment, but she's present. He will always be there when he needs her. If he's in trouble.  The femme fatale doesn't give him that. So he's constantly motivated to pursue her. It's an endless chase. The modification is not possessiveness and it's not romantic jealousy. Although the narcissist experiences it as romantic jealousy and as possessiveness, ironically. Modification is soul searching. It's process of introspection. Process of looking when the narcissist looks inside himself through other people's eyes. He adopts other people's gaze, other people's opinions of him, other people's reactions to him. For a minute he vanishes and he becomes other people and he sees himself through their eyes and it's shattering. It's utterly destructive. It creates a need to brood, to soul search, to introspect, to think deeply about for the first time perhaps who he is, his identity. What makes him tick? Why does he misbehave the way he does? Why does he make certain choices and avoids other? Why does he act or doesn't act? For the first time it's self-administered therapy, actually, modification. And it's a very, very dangerous process because the narcissist, when he's modified, he goes through the compensation.  He's a child where he survives only because of his defenses. And when this defenses a gun, he does not cope. He does not survive. He's mortified. Romantic jealousy doesn't lead to introspection, doesn't lead to soul searching, only pain, only aggression, only aversion, only withdrawal. But there's no really any question, self-questioning, self-doubt, self-analysis. It's rare. Possessiveness definitely not, but in modification does. The narcissist is mortified, is never mortified by the femme fatale, because the femme fatale is taken to be essentially an incorrigible, promiscuous, hopeless, broken, damaged woman. The narcissist expects the worst from the femme fatale. Nothing she does surprises him. Nothing she does shocks him. Everything she does makes him angry. Everything she does provokes romantic jealousy, but no surprise, no shock. It's not sudden. It's not abrupt. So, a femme fatale can never mortify the narcissist. The narcissist is mortified only by women in a transactional bond, women whom he considers who he considers inferior to him. And women he did not love. Women he's not infatuated with. Homely, transactional, maternal women. It is the betrayal of the mother that is humiliating, that is unexpected, that is shocking and abrupt and sudden. And the betrayal of this mother figure is a wake-up call. The narcissist says, what the heck? How did I drive her to do this? How bad must I have been for her to have adopted this course of action? What am I doing wrong? This is the first modification. It's the sole occasion where the narcissist is sincerely remorseful and self-critical for a while. Usually, he then reverses to external mortification and he blames his intimate partner. But there's a window, there's a short window, days, weeks, sometimes months. A short window where the narcissist is open, open to acknowledging and accepting his responsibility, his guilt and feels very ashamed, remorseful and regretful. Only a modification. No other condition. And so, a narcissist can be mortified and realized, for example, that he's a schizoid narcissist. He can reach a conclusion that he should stay away from people. That he should pursue narcissistic supply or sadistic supply that is commodified, anonymous. That he should lead a solitary life, that he should avoid sex, love and intimacy with people, that he should be single. Many narcissists reach this conclusion, that they should be single for life. It's an example of the outcome of mortification. Another possible outcome of mortification is for the narcissist to accept that he is abusive, sadistic, not all there, mentally ill, and his own worst enemy. Mortification can lead to these conclusions. Mortification can lead to the conclusion that the narcissist is actually not superior to other people, especially other men, but inferior to them because he is irredeemably disabled, infantile, or not a man at all. Another possible conclusion is that the narcissist is disrespected, hated, feared. People are revolted by him because he disrespects and humiliates and berates himself with his misbehavior, with his bizarre eccentric choices and decisions, with his temper tantrums, with his childish conduct and comport. So, mortification could lead to really, really important therapeutic breakthroughs, self-inflicted, self-generated therapeutic breakthroughs, which Hornai called self-analysis. And if on that occasion, when the narcissist is mortified, he is in touch with a professional, with a mental health practitioner, a good practitioner capitalizes on these breakthroughs, these insights, Freud called them insights, and uses, leverages, the practitioner leverages the insights to transform the narcissist. Actually, it's precisely what cold therapy does. In cold therapy, we mortify the narcissist via retraumatization. The narcissist then begins to realize many things about himself, unsavory things, bad things, non-grandiose things, humiliating things, shameful. He begins to realize this, and he goes through a phase of suicidal ideation, extreme depression, but this phase is a window of opportunity. It is from the depths of the abyss that we can uplift the narcissist back, now equipped with self-knowledge, and self-knowledge is empowering, self-knowledge is transformative. This is the only hope for a narcissist. Mortification is his only hope to get in touch with his humiliated, ashamed, broken, damaged, crying, sad, painful, hurting inner child. His only hope is mortification. So ironically, intimate partners, transactional intimate partners, maternal intimate partners who betray the narcissist and mortify him, they do him a great favor.  So as to wake him up, to wake him up into the reality of himself, and to allow him to gradually come to grips with it, and maybe, maybe once in a million, to change. So sometimes what looks bad is actually good, and what looks good is bad. And this is one of these cases.


Hi, I'm Cecil. Hi, I'm Kolozka. Hi, I'm Fossa. She said no! Why no? Originally a French culinary specialty found mainly in Nyon and the Rhone Valley. It belongs to the Donut or Fritter family. The word Bruny is the French word for the vernacular word Bruny, which means the Donut. Today, the French word Bruny is used for this particular type of Donut we will make today while the French word Vignette means all other types of Donuts or Fritters. In the first edition of Pantagrelle, published in Nyon in 1532, François Ravnet mentions Bruny amongst the Cuisine of Nyon, but the word entered the French dictionary only 300 years later. The origin of Bruny comes from a long time ago. It was already a specialty in ancient Rome at carnival time. In Italian, they are called Ciccia Cere. Traditionally, these Bruny rich in butter and flour were eaten in February during the carnival season. For a very long time, France, being a Catholic nation, could not eat meat, fish, eggs, cheese, and butter during roughly mid-February to Easter. So, Mardi Gras was hugely celebrated as it was the last time you could eat any of these rich ingredients for a while. Therefore, the Bruny are one of the traditional sweet recipes using eggs and butter that were eaten on that day. Some called Bruny de Mio are yellow, flat, and crisp if the recipe will be used today. They are cooked in hot oil and the paste is very fine. Others, Bruny de Santetienne are redder and softer. They are made from a thicker paste. Vapouries usually offer both types at the time of food. Let's get to work now. Start! We have the ingredients. Now we're going to see what you need. So, flour. Yes, I'm ready. You need 3 tablespoons of vanilla sugar. This one is super thin, but whatever. What do you think it is? Sweet. Sweet into the bowl, no on the contrast part. OK, and the baking powder. Yes, at the end of the bowl. Here's your hand. OK, you press with your hands. Try to do something more. You want to have some rest in the fridge for, I think, like 1 hour. So we're going to put the dough for 1 hour in the fridge. Can you see the dough? Yeah. So, open. Do you want the pastiche? What? She still needs maybe a little bit. You want to do it on the mic? No. She said no. Why no? You can do it. I can do it, yes. Do you want an ice cream? Yes, I think of it. So, not too thin, but something like 2 or 3 milliliters. I take it out more. We need some little bit more flour. And flour on the bottom. You should have a fryer at home. You can do it. The water will be nicer. There will be something like this. Like this inside. OK? Ready? Nothing does it right. What is this shape? That is a... This is magic because... So it's very quick. You can do it, or you can add them in the bakery. And depending the area where you live, they are a little bit different.  So they are more fluffy like those. Or some are more flat because they have no baking powder inside. The vanilla? Well, I don't know what you are going to do next. Well, that's all. So, guys, after...


So here are some chipsets for the wireless charging. Hello. So who are you? I'm Alina from Bowie One. I'll come to you in Shenzhen. So we're here with Bowie One Shenzhen company. Yes. What do you do with your company? I'm a marketing manager for its product. And right here we can see you have all these chipsets that go into wireless chargers So you have a small solution here This is a small size. And this is one for smartphones that you can touch at the same time. And this one is what you want. Do you want a higher volt? Yes. And this is what you have to make it. Right. And here's a triple solution. Yes. Three coil. Yes. So... This is... What? This is a very thin one. So this is a thin solution right here? Yes. So you have many many wireless chargers. You also do... You also have a small one like this. Yes. Very compact. Is there any price for these? Yes we have one. And also our chip and our module all use our setup brand because we research it with them. And also we have AFU solution. What is that? What is this for? We have power used for industry and cement home. All right. Yes. Cool. And this is the final product and look like this? Yes. This is the speaker. Also can charge your wireless charging. And you can also have it with us? AFU WC solution for two mobile phones that you can touch at the same time. This is charging? This is receiver. If some mobile phone doesn't have the receiving module so you need to add this one. All right. How big is your company? How many you sell? Every year. Every month. We belong to a group. It's called GEC group. And GEC have a branch called this G-New Innovative. And we are the branch of this company. And our business is only the wireless charging. All right. Only this? Yes. How old is this group? We started in 2014.


Hello impact-engineered attendees. I'm Saagun Saxena, co-founder of Coco Networks. Do you recognize this? It's Charco, one of the main cooking fuels used by households in African cities. Burning it releases deadly emissions and its production drives deforestation and climate change. So why don't households use cleaner fuels like cooking gas? Well, these fuels and these appliances are expensive and the fuel is only available in large purchase volumes rather than the small daily quantities that most households can afford. Five years ago, with backing from the Clean Cooking Alliance and Private Investors, we set out to change this. We focused on bioethanol because this fuel burns cleanly and is already produced at scale across Africa in a way that's truly sustainable. The big question for us was how to get this fuel safely and efficiently to customers as we knew that packing it in single-use plastic bottles would be too expensive to scale. Our solution, life today in Kenya, starts with an affordable cook stove that we've designed to the highest ISO standards and that we manufacture ourselves in India. Each stove comes with a reusable fuel canister that is registered to the customer's prepaid account. In Nairobi, customers obtain fuel by walking to their nearest Coco Point, which is basically a smart self-service fuel ATM that we've designed, which is now in nearly 700 shops throughout the city. Customers dock their canisters, enter a pin and simply choose the amount of fuel they want. The Coco Point has dozens of sensors that our Network Operations Center monitors 24 hours a day. When the fuel level is low, our fuel supply partner, which is the Shell Licensee in Kenya, sends one of their tanker trucks to refill the Coco Point within minutes. This model zeroes out packaging costs and leverages the capabilities of a global energy major. The end result is cheap, clean cooking fuel available everywhere in Nairobi. Just one year after launch, nearly a quarter of a million people in Nairobi are benefiting themselves and the environment by using Coco Cooking Technology every day. And this is just the beginning. We're currently planning clean fuel networks in other cities and designing ATM-based solutions for distributing other basic goods like milk and vegetable oil. Your recognition of Coco means a lot to our engineering teams and will help us attract the partners and the talent we need to achieve our vision. So, on behalf of everyone at Coco, thank you all for your support.


The University of Alabama has announced that standardized test scores are optional for admission in 2021. So what does that mean for prospective students? I'm DJ Jackson, Manager of Undergraduate Scholarships here to explain. Due to the lack of access to standardized tests around the nation during the COVID-19 pandemic, students applying for admission in any semester of 2021 are not required to submit an SAT or ACT score. Although it is not required, it is still encouraged to submit scores if you've already taken an exam. Perspective students will still be required to submit official high school transcripts and meet minimum unit requirements to be considered for admission. For scholarship opportunities, we're excited to offer two scales for consideration this year. The automatic merit scale are scholarships awarded based on your high school grade point average and your standardized test score. The competitive academic scale are scholarships awarded to top scholarship applicants, and the scholarship value is based on the ranking of the top scholarship applications and the student's core GPA. The core GPA includes your grades from math, science, English, social studies, and foreign language courses. Students that submit the requirements for both scales will be reviewed on both scales and will be awarded from the scale that produces the highest scholarship value. We strongly encourage all admitted students to complete the scholarship application, whether they have a standardized test score or not. Thanks and Rural Tide.


I consider myself like average like a four, so honestly, how would you even know if you're the pretty one in your group if you think all of y'all kind of look nice? What do you mean? How would you know if you're the pretty one in your group if all of you guys look nice? Yeah. But you just said, you said you rank yourself where? I consider myself to be a four. Okay. And is that average above average or below average? Average? Okay. Okay, if four. I mean, honestly, you can judge for yourself. Of average is if four is average, and what's above average? Um, like six and sevens? I don't scale a one to three. I live in Tallahassee, Florida, so Florida's weird. Well, no, Tallahassee is still in the United States, so there's no way a four is average. Man, my four, five would be right in the middle, right? Okay. Half of ten is five, right? Yes, sir. So how can four, which is less than five, be average? I don't really, I'll be honest with you. I don't know what I am. Like, I listen to your show a lot and I feel like I fall in line with that. I'm not sure. You fall in line with what? I feel like I fall in line more with the four or five, because clearly I'm not on the, nothing like Beyonce and Rihanna and all that. But your question was, how do you know who's the pretty one in your group when you feel like you all look, or something like that, right? I feel like we're all average, yeah. Okay, well, why would there be a pretty one if you're all average? Hmm.  They're the ones who get you in the VIP.  I'm sorry, I thought you was finished with me. Okay, so because of that, I was like, well, that's me, but how do, you know, you get everybody to be in the VIP, so you get the VIP in free drinks? Yes. Okay. Tallahassee, what school is in Tallahassee, Florida, University of Florida? Um, I wish to go Gators. No, it's Florida State, and it's FAMU. All right. So are you from Tallahassee? No, I'm from Dalton, Alabama. All right. How old are you? I'm 37. Uh, how tall are you? I'm 54. Dress size? I'm a 16. All right. So, um, generally, the women I'm talking about, they can get in the VIP in Los Angeles, in Miami, in New York City. You're saying you get into VIP in Tallahassee. Could you get into VIP in those cities, do you think? I don't know. I'd never left the South. But what do you think?  All right. Um, ma'am, um, do you think, do you think New York City, Miami, or LA are more expensive than Tallahassee? Um, definitely, uh, the LA and, uh, New York. I really can't speak for Miami. Miami is more expensive. I have some friends from down there. Okay. But so, so people likely also make more money there, too. There's more money going through those places. Yes. So that means they're going to be more powerful men there and more beautiful women. So if you are thinking that in Tallahassee you would have the same amount of pool in, in LA or New York City, I'll tell you no. Okay. Because there's far more competition. Um, and there has to be more competition. I mean, I don't, I don't know what kind of clubs you're talking about in Tallahassee either. Uh, but typically the women we're talking about are women who are eights, nines, and tens, and now fours and fives. Yes, sir.  I'm saying honestly, based on what I've heard from you, I just feel like maybe that's where I am. What would you rank yourself though?  And before my, before my broadcast, though, before my broadcast, what would you have thought? Before I ever met you, uh, I thought I was seven, but you said that's not a thing. So that's why I have to say seven. If you wanted seven, that would have made you, what, an eight?  A six or seven? Yes, sir. Actually, you just said a seven, but because I said a six. Yes. You see, that's the reason I don't. Well, yeah, you said that's not the first thing. That's why I don't have sevens because it allows women to overrank themselves. Sevens allow women to overrank themselves and, and not live in reality and, and push themselves higher than they are. Do you have any children? Uh, yes, sir. Okay. So at 37 years old, uh, five foot, what, four? Five four, yes. Five four.  Um, jeez, the last time I weighed myself? Um, like, I'm sorry, it's been a minute. I think the last time I weighed myself, I was like 180. I was, I sort of know I'm going to have to guard. So I don't have to keep that. Not a dress size 16. Never been 180. Not a, not a dress size 16. That's the five foot four. Well, I'm going to say 16s and 12s. So it's, it's like split digits. Okay. I need you to listen. Okay. Yes, sir. Women typically don't weigh themselves because they're not really happy with what they see on the scale.  Say it again?  And a dress size 16 and five foot four, um, would put you, um, an approximation. And this is important because it's one thing to, to think, um, you're, you're one thing or another, but it's also, it's something to, for what the world looks at. When was the last time you actively worked out? Um, today, actually. We all started like the New Year's resolution. What about this? When was the last time you were healthy weight? Say it again, sir. When was the last time you were a healthy weight? Like, uh, 125 pounds. I'm not sure, sir. All right. Okay. Well, um, yeah. In short, how would you know if you're a good looking one of the group? Uh, I think it's reasonable to say that you may be better looking than your friends, but I think you also know that there are women who are much more fit and much more attractive than you. Yes, sir. Those are the women I'm kind of referring to in this broadcast. All right. Okay. Have a good night, man. You too. Thank you. All right, bye-bye. See why I don't allow, you see why I don't allow sevens? Because when you allow sevens, it just allows for more and more and more and more, um, more delusion.


Welcome back. And this screencast is going to be a second example of proof by contraposition. Remember in the first screencast in this series we learned that proof by contraposition is merely proving the contra positive of a conditional statement instead of the original conditional statement. And we would want to do such a thing because maybe the conditional statement that we originally given is somehow hard to work with in terms of a direct proof. So we're going to construct a direct proof of a different statement. And here's the statement we're going to play with this time. So suppose a, b, and n are all positive integers. And we're going to prove that if n equals a times b, then either a is less than or equal to a square root of n, or b is less than or equal to the square root of n. Now a direct proof of this statement would assume n is equal to a times b, and do some math and show that either a is less than radical n, or b is less than or equal to radical n. Now there's no obvious way to go from this simple equality to one of these two inequalities. It's kind of like the even, trying to prove that if n squared is even, then n is even. There's no obvious way to prove that the square root of 2 times k is an integer at all, much less than even integer. So since there's no obvious way to go directly, we're going to go indirectly. So the main challenge here is to form the contra positive of this statement. Let me get rid of the markings I have here and just isolate the hypothesis and conclusion. Here's the hypothesis that n is equal to a, b, I'll call that p. And here's the conclusion, and notice the conclusion is a disjunction, it's an either or. Okay, so there's the q. So the contra positive would say, if not q, then not p. So let's think about what that would look like. I need to form the negation of this thing in here. So I would need to negate the statement a is less than or equal to radical n, or b is less than or equal to radical n. If I could mix some logic and math. Now we know from our logical equivalencies rules that this actually transforms into something. I would negate a less than or equal to radical n. And this would turn into an and negate b less than or less than or equal to radical n as well. Okay, that's what we call de Morgan's laws back when we first learned about logical equivalencies. And just one more step I think we'll be able to write this when I negate this inequality, I get this inequality. So a is greater than n, radical n, and b is greater than radical n. Now I think that gives us enough information to write down the contra positive. Let's do this kind of over in this white space here. So the contra positive of the statement that I am being asked to prove, the contra positive of my conjecture, says that a, b, and n are positive integers that if a is bigger than square root of n, and b is bigger than square root of n, then I have to put the negation of p and that's simply n is not equal to ab. Okay, there is the contra positive. And the step here that was a little bit different than in the previous example was that I had to do a little bit of work with my logical equivalency rules to actually get the, the hypothesis of that contra positive. The hypothesis is a negation of something and I do a little work to get there. So let's prove that statement instead. If I can prove this if then statement, it's equivalent to having proved the conjecture that I'm being asked to prove. And it makes a little more sense this time because a direct proof of this statement would assume that something about a and something about b and it's a little easier to think about going from knowledge of a and b to knowledge of a times b, then it is going backwards. So let's move over to a blank space here and we'll make a no show table. One column for the step, one column for the no, and make it a little longer and one column for the reason. Okay, so we're proving the original conjecture by proving it's contra positive. So we'll start by assuming that a is bigger than square root of n and b is bigger than square root of n. And that is the hypothesis, not the very original hypothesis, but the hypothesis of the contra positive. At the very end of this proof I'm going to conclude that n is not equal to ab. We don't know exactly why that is yet. However, I do see that I want to say something eventually about a times b and I'm given knowledge about a and I'm given information about b, so maybe a good next step would just be to multiply those two things together. So a times b, let's think about what that is. Well a is bigger than radical n and b is bigger than radical n. So the two of them multiplied together will be bigger than radical n times radical n. That's just algebra. That's just multiplying the sides of inequalities together. Now just take a look at what's on the right hand side of that inequality. This is telling me that ab is bigger than this. This side right here is equal to, well you take radical n times itself, that's just n, isn't it? So if you follow, I'm just going to make a third line here. This is not totally necessary, but it's just going to condense what these two lines tell me that ab is bigger than n. Okay? If it's bigger than this thing and this thing is equal to this thing, then ab is bigger than this thing. Now, and again, that's, I don't even know what I would call that reason. I could just call it algebra. It seems like we can dump that in. But really what I did here was just combine all the both lines of this inequality together. Now if ab is bigger than n, it's, one of the things that means is that it's not equal to n. So this is actually a very sparse no-show table. If ab is bigger than n, then it's not equal to n. Okay? We could call that basic arithmetic. If you want to be technical about it, we're using something called the law of trichotomy. Trichotomy. I can spell that. Okay? The law of trichotomy says that given two numbers, I'll just put this up here, say x and y, one of the three has to hold. Either x is equal to y, x is bigger than y, or x is less than y. But only one of those three things can hold. So trichotomy. And since the greater than relationship holds between these two numbers, the equality cannot possibly hold. So the law of trichotomy from arithmetic gets us to our answer here to our final line. And so this is a really, really quick proof if you understand the basic arithmetic behind it. It's only five lines long, and really you could argue it's four lines long, because this line P3 is kind of not really necessary. Okay? So that was done using the contrapositive. What we've done is we've proven the contrapositive of the original conjecture we were asked to prove. And so the original conjecture is true.


Hey, it's Bridget. Welcome to Above Life Channel. The purpose here is to inspire your spirit and to fill you with hope. Today we're going to have a conversation from the afterlife with David Bowie. We're going to talk about the new year, which is 2022 and kind of get a vibe on maybe some things that he can give us a reflection on from the previous year and stepping into the new. Let's see. I've done a couple of these and I'm not sure. They've been unique. So we'll see what David has to share with us. It's been a while since we've talked. Can you come on in close? He's so creative, you guys. I love his vibe. I love his vibe. He's so creative. He is. Okay. All right. So hello, David. Yeah. He says, yes, it's been a while. Yes, it has. He says to me, why didn't you do personal channeling with me? I'm like, maybe we can offer that in the new year because I had a lot of requests for them for the holidays. I'm done with those now. Okay. In the new year, maybe we'll do some David Bowie private channel. Okay. He definitely would have a lot to offer. You would really be a good fit actually for the new year. Yeah, you would be. You would be. And that's why I wanted to have a conversation with you a little bit about what not necessarily prediction, David, about what we can expect and then what is going to happen in the new year. Things that are set. But what parameters are we operating under as we step into a new year? Okay. Let us know that. Okay. What parameters are we operating under right now? Okay. I'm recording this in December of 2021. We are going to be talking about 2022. I'm not sure when I'm actually going to share this video. It might be in January. We'll see. So we might already be in 2022 when you're here. But what are the parameters we're stepping into this year with? What can you give us? He shows me a mandala, a sacred geometry symbol. I've seen that with somebody else too. I can't remember who showed that to me. The flower of life is what I saw. But with you, it looks more like a lotus energy energetically, like a sacred geometry shape, a mandala that's formed into a lotus, which is a beautiful metaphor. Beautiful. It really, for me, it evokes health and wellness, it evokes opening opportunity, personal growth, it evokes taking care of oneself, it evokes opening within, awakening, a lot of different kinds of things. Okay. So beautiful. Thank you for that. Did you receive that? Let's make a note that David is also very astral and star energy aligned. And so because of the end of this year, there's been so much. At the end of 2021, there's been so much galactic energy that's present and people that are normal people are talking about it and starting to be like, huh, not just life on other planets, but the idea of spirit guides, they're star aligned. So I prefer to call them star energies. They're star guides, and it just feels way more palatable for the brain for people, I think. But David is definitely aligned with that. So if you're a Pleiadian, Arcturian, Ceres, whatever lineage or alignment you have either past previous life, past or previous lifetimes or future lifetimes, just know that that's part of the energy here too. So there's some star energy update, but of course, not that, which is probably why the lotus comes in because sacred geometry is the best way to translate that energy into the human context. Okay. And to see it in the human form, because it shows up in sacred geometry shows up in nature and in our bodies and all of that. So he says, ah, very good. He said, just kind of nodded at me like, yes, he's drinking tea by the way. He says, we have to keep our minds sharp. You have to stay sharp. What do you mean by that? So as we step into the new year in 2022, we need to be sharp. What do you mean by that? He says the mind is, it's really important to get the mind caught up. He says, you've mentioned before in previous videos, he says that with others, you've spoken with that there's been a collective tragedy, basically tragedy, collective pain. He says collective pain that is shared by all everyone that's a new human body feels this. He says it's like a, it's not, he doesn't show it as a wound.  And then in the middle, there's like this gore, just like that, like that's what we have. And that's why he says that feels like things are very divisive and separate. And he says, but that was starting to form that division was starting to come forward before this experience, the collective experience of the pandemic. Before that, he says it was already starting to happen. And he says, but the reason for it to happen for a split to happen is so that something can come out of it. It's like a birth, you guys, it's like, you have to open up in order to get the stuff that's inside, right? You have to open the gift, right? And or, okay, literally, okay, I don't want to be too graphic for people, but it really looks like, like it feels like this birthing experience, like the birth canal. Okay, like you're coming through this, this incredible time of personal growth, and it's almost like the savage like coming through the jungle and getting out into the open. And wow, there's land and just openness. And there's like hills and there's just greenery. And it's, you can see the sky. And when you're in the forest and you're going through this kind of savage jungle, you can't see what is above you and what is watching over you and what is hovering over you. And because there's this canopy, which, which it has protected you only need a tissue just a second, you guys. Morning, cold. You can't see, it's like this canopy above you, like the earth and the trees have protected you yet at the same time, it has deprived you of light. So there's been too much of the protection and of the, oh no, I'm afraid of light and kind of a thing. And like, I gotta get away and all this like awareness of just what's right next to you kind of a thing and that the things around you. And now you're coming into this openness where you might feel vulnerable is what you're showing me. You might feel really vulnerable. First, you're excited about it, like, yeah, like openness, opening. Yeah, I can see, I can stretch, I can move. Oh yeah, it's great. And then it's like, um, wait a minute. There's no covering. The sun is pretty bright. And by myself, the trees aren't super close to me. Everything's far away right now. It's wide open. What do I do? What do I do? What do I do? That's the vibe that's given me. Wow, very, with David, it's easy to be clairvoyant. So if you want to work on your third eye, have David help you? And he literally shows me a triangle over the third eye, like a triangle with an eye in the middle. Sweet. So okay, thank you. All right, thank you for that. I mean, this is just itchy, itchy, itchy, itchy. So there's a lot, he's showing me a lot of stuff. Okay, can we, let me just slow down just a little bit because I need to be able to translate and articulate it to people so that they can know. You guys can do this yourself too. So if you're working on your psychic gifts, feel the clairvoyant channel with David right now. Open up your third eye and let yourself kind of process and receive some of the images that he's sharing because he's sharing in pictures right now. So keeping your mind sharp is going to be important. He says the wisdom that is needed from the mind or how the mind can source you is to be able to provide clarity in the imagery, he says. So it works with the third eye, yes, with the psychic sight, but it brings through the channel much more clearly what truly is up, what truly is going on. So you've asked for things to be separated so you can see, he says, not separated because everything, people don't get along and everybody's angry and you're better and you're worse and you have to pick a side kind of the thing he's saying, it's not, it's not that it's not about separateness, it's about openness. It's not about division, it's about openness, creating space so that people can actually know for themselves what's up with themselves, right? And he says it's definitely a time that we're entering in 2022 to better know yourself and there's going to be opportunities for you to express and experience different aspects of yourself and he says, so it's a good time to try different things to get out of your comfort zone to acknowledge that you haven't been all that comfortable anyway. So it's an opportunity to try different foods, maybe take different classes, maybe take and learn a new language, maybe move, maybe go to a place on an experience that you haven't been before, whether it's locally like drive to a different park if you go on walks and walk there or go on vacation at different kinds of places that you wouldn't normally go to, what haven't been for a while, he says, because an opportunity to rekindle the sparks inside you is going to come through newness, come through the new, you know what, you're not the first one that said new. Somebody else that I channeled said new, like I think it was Robin Williams that said for 2022, that there's a new, like new, like that's the word or that's the energy or that's what we can focus on. I think it was Robin Williams or it was Stephen Hawking, one of the two, because that's who I've channeled about this topic. I don't know, again, when I'm sharing this video, I don't know what the timing is if I've already shared those or not, I have no idea, because I don't know how I want to share these. So that's the same. That's interesting. That's interesting. So it's about rekindling that spark inside us based upon the new things that we're experiencing and or he says, you can experience old things or normal things, routines and patterns in a new way in a different way. You can go to the gym, for example, and you can do something different there. You could take a different type of exercise class, you can maybe go to the sauna after, like there's different things you can do for just experiences. It's not that complicated. Or if you always order the same thing at the coffee shop, try something different. Add something different, that kind of a thing. It can be really subtle. And he says that the more experiences that you can have in your body, you're introducing the sensory stimulus that is needed. And it's sensory stimulus in a positive way. He says that you are guiding and making through choice instead of receiving by force. So we're having sensory experiences by choice instead of by force. Can you talk about that sensory experiences by choice instead of by force? Did you hear that? That's a huge thing for empaths. You and I, it's a huge thing. So having sensory experiences by choice and not by force, talk about that a little bit. He says it has been the context to be able to feel and sense energy through the heart. You call this empath, we just say through the heart, energetically, that has caused a pattern of overwhelm that is consistent and creates the vigilance or the hyper vigilance that makes the dramatic experience worse. He doesn't use the word trauma. That's interesting. He's not using the word trauma. He's using the word drama. Very interesting. Very interesting. I find that curious. Okay. Okay. Okay. Just sorry. One of my kids just texted me. I just got a text from her. Oops. One of my kids distracted. Sorry. Okay. Focus. Focus. Focus. Okay. User drama instead of trauma. Talk about that. Everything is amplified. He says in the senses and the sensory center is the heart because that's the foundation for what you know as a human is emotions because emotions can evoke action. Aside from the mind or the brain doing it, the heart can do it through emotion. And that's how it negotiates with the mind to get things done accomplished that could actually help the soul, your spirit, sometimes misguided or not totally informed with all the information. The heart overwhelmed and overworked in its psychicness and its processing of the sensory information can jump the gun or be impulsive. He says impulsive and that causes chaos and drama which creates a reiteration or an affirmation. He says a reconformation. He says we a lot. A confirmation of the negative patterns, the patterns that are survival instinct and protecting you and keeping you safe and acknowledging that people are bad in general and everybody wants something from you and nobody really is out for your greater good. And this almost paranoia kind of vibe in the heart and that's what's creating the overwhelm that's collectively affecting everyone. And he says it's dramatic. It's dramatizing what is just raw and pure. He says emotion is raw and pure and it's designed to support the sensory processing of energy and not designed to guide or direct or be the only leader or the decision maker or to manipulate the brain into doing things. And that is where the conflict is inside between the mind and the heart. It is a constant challenge. And he said, so the new year is presenting an opportunity to clear out the distrust between the mind and the heart to allow a deeper understanding or broader context of what's really happening in the heart. So for the empaths, what's really happening here needs to be coming from a force of compassion and driven by compassion that is so ingrained in yourself, in your geometry, that you won't entertain the concept of negative other people and everybody wants a piece of me and all this. If something feels bad, go inside and find out where it is feeling bad, not the why. It's not about diagnosing, he says. It's not about diagnosing so you can label something and then put it on a shelf. It's about finding out the what, where is this inside me and what can I do to allow this feeling of vigilance, this reaction to be a strategic, supportive, promoting, encouraging energy that is part of a wholeness and not individualized and lashing out, but as a whole broader context of a strategy of how you process feeling and energy and sensory information and not confusing the two because emotions are very much a part of the human experience and the sensory piece is designed to help you understand the emotion so that everything belongs not to create drama or chaos by one rogue emotion or feeling, but to create understanding about what is happening inside here. What is happening? Because there's a message about me that is coming forward that I'm ignoring because I'm so focused on what's happening out here. So I'm paranoid about Susie screwing up something so I take over and take care of it or Janice is having drama and Janice always has a drama and so I have to listen to her event. Where's this coming from and why am I so angry about it? Why am I so annoyed by it? Why didn't I just let her do her thing while I'm doing something else inside? Oh, you don't actually have to listen. We're really good at not listening to ourselves. Why do we practice not listening to other people when they're just venting?  Okay, go ahead, you vent. I'll set a timer. Let me be funny about it. Use humor. Do things to help you get through those experiences. But don't jump into the drama. If you buy into her venting and you get all upset about her venting, what you're doing is taking on her venting as if it's your own and you're buying the energy of the venting and you're swimming in it and it's dramatic and it has nothing to do with you. If it feels like too much, it's because you are too attached externally and not connected internally and he's saying get into your body. Get in your body. If you want to do make an impact for 2022, get sharper in your mind, but be in your body. If your soul is in your body, it's going to support your heart. If your spirit, your intuition, this is David Bowie sharing this, if your spirit and intuition is in your body, if you essence, your essence is in your body, it's going to support your heart and your mind and they're going to work together better because that's a point. The heart and the mind working together in 2022 is a common theme that he's bringing forward. What else we got? Oh, she got Mr. David Bowie. Yeah, strategy. He brings up the word strategy. Interesting, sharp and strategy. Okay, what? Talk to me about strategy. He says, it's not what you think, but there are some goals. It would be worthwhile for you to consider contemplate goals. This will help the mind get on board with what the spirit wants and what the heart is desiring. He says, your heart is where your desire is. He said, as you step into this new year collectively and he's saying, I'm speaking broadly. So for you as an individual, your energy centers may be aligned differently and just acknowledge that he says, just know that. But collectively, it's in your heart. Well, okay, okay, okay. So you're suggesting that we make goals, which is interesting. Haven't done goal studying for a long time. He says, not the old necessarily pattern. You can start there with how you've known how to create goals, like when you're doing a project plan or something like that. He says, and you can use the spiritual concepts of setting intention to manifest and goal setting with the mind to work together to create a hybrid version of goal setting. But he says it would provide a structure. And so here's what we're going to do, you guys. Oh my gosh, I should just do a little class on this. We're going to do four pillars. If you work with me in private session, I use four pillars as a lot of ways to structure things to organize my psychic readings to help to create safe and sacred space for you, a tool that you can use for card readings for yourself, a tool you can use to connect with your four spirit guides, the primary ones that are supporting you. And with a platform of light, a platform of light below, a canopy of light above to help with the energies, okay, to create a safe container. He literally shows me four, like four pillars or four goals or four points of what you can say, four points of purpose and power. Oh my God, I love this. We should do a class on this. If you want me to do something like that, let me know. Put it in the comments below. Of course, you're going to have to pay for that because I'm a really good life coach and extremely good motivational speaker and a very good teacher. Also anyway, four points of power, purpose and power. Yeah. Okay. So how do we do that? We would do that in a way where we would probably do some kind of a connection to self and then create four points of power that are centered in our purpose, not a purpose that we have to identify or articulate, but that we have to feel into and know. So you are the center. So there's really a fifth point. There always is, you know, earth or fire, water, light. Yeah. Of course, there's always a fifth point. It's you, lovey. It's you. All right. That's a Bridget thing. That was me. I just did that and that wasn't David. But he loves, he sparks my creativity. Does it make spark yours? Oh my gosh, I hope you can feel that. Ideas flowing. I can't. Okay. So you are in the center. So your purpose, just feel your purpose. You don't have to articulate it or know it. Exactly. Just feel connected to yourself. The purpose is to be in your body, to be your full self. Yeah. Do that. Click in. Be the center pillar. And there's four pillars of light around you encompassing and unfolding you to create safe and secure space as you step into the new year. And so they're PowerPoints, points of power, not to be confused with actual software points of power. Okay. That is brilliant. Do you like that, you guys? Do you like it? Yeah, you're welcome. You're welcome. That's the kind of stuff people charge a lot of money for. You got it for free. So you have to have some kind of strategy. Maybe we start sharp, have some kind of strategy, a little bit of goal setting in a creative and unique way that fits or suits you. You don't have to do it on paper. You can do it in a collage. You can do it in painting. You can do it in sketching. You can do it in your journal. You can do it with an altar space outside. You can do it anyway you want to do it. There's no rules. There's no rules. We're creative, right? So anything else? He says the foundation of lack is going to be shaken. The concept, the collective consciousness around abundance, money, prosperity, the haves and the have nots kind of vibe that has separated. The reason why it separated so much and there's such a dramatic awareness of it is because we have to be open now to it. We get to be open and we've asked for an awakening and awareness. So we're coming through that spot and now we don't know what to do because everything's revealed, right? That's what he's showing me. But he's saying specifically lack, financial, prosperity and abundance. He says, you have to stay with it because the first six months of 2022 feel very rocky financially. I'm not suggesting there's not a fear-based energy he's bringing forward. He's just being the awareness forward, okay? So rocky financially, which could mean globally or in your community or at your workplace, etc. Don't be afraid. Just be aware. And make smart choices accordingly, right? So like prices, things like, we already are seeing this, you guys. It's not a surprise. This isn't a surprise. This isn't like a major prediction. But he said the first six months of 2022 is going to continue that way, six to eight months, actually six dash eight. He shows me. So six will be June, eight would be what? August first six to eight months of the year. But nothing different. It's not different than what it's been. It's just everybody's aware of it. Don't freak out. He's like, if you choose the drama of the fear, then you're going to go down to the spiral and you're going to lose your, I was just going to square there. You're going to lose your stuff about it. You're going to lose more money because you're going to be worried and you're going to make decisions based on fear financially. And it's not going to help you. Okay? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Empowered decisions based on what feels right in alignment for you, your family, your life, not what you're told from one podcast, not what you learn from one book, not what you hear on one newscast, the collective energy of what you know inside you as what is best for you at this time. That's it. Simple. So the lack energy is coming up to help shift this common theme core theme of not enough and value self worth self worthiness self worth and worthiness self worth and worthiness. Yeah, interesting. I've been working on and that just came up to for me again actually in meditation this morning was going to tell you all my personal stuff guys, just enjoy it came up for me in meditation again this this feeling of not enough and worthiness and I'm like, whoa, deep. I'm like, whoa, I've been working on that pretty good. I feel like I'm pretty good at that.  So the not enoughness and the worthiness and the self not feeling as confident in yourself maybe or having self esteem stuff that's going to be amplified continue to be amplified. It's already been amplified. It's already been very amplified. Let's be clear, honest. It's already been amplified. But he's showing me that it's going to continue to be amplified for six to eight months. He's like, Oh, no, no, Bridget, nine to 11 months. It's going to be like the whole year next. Oh, no, no, no, no, 11 months, nine to 11. Oh my gosh, you guys, sorry, self esteem is going to challenge everyone at different degrees worthiness, self worth value. You're going to experience this with other people you know, maybe with friends or your loved ones at work people being concerned about not getting enough recognition or accolades because they really it's a worthiness issue. Notice that for yourself how much feedback you need. Do you need more feedback or you're feeling a little more needy? That's because it's a self worthiness piece that has to be addressed and it can be addressed most often through compassion and self love, compassion and self love, compassion and self love the heart to amplify the heart, not dramatically, but understanding that this lack thing, this financial lack thing, external economy thing is also affecting you in the heart with your own personal value and self esteem issues and it is digging at your self esteem a little bit. Okay, this is natural. We're going to move through it. It's a healing time, healing. So you're trying to tell me I should be offering more stuff for MPASS and people to help work on their self esteem because maybe that would be a good income source for me. We're just going to start making some money. We're just going to have to get a JLB in the 2022. It's been a lean year. Let's just say that. Not a bad thing, just a fact. See, it affects me too, affects me too. Wow, thanks, David. This has been a channeling session with David Bowie in the afterlife for 2022 as we step into 2022. So I may share this in January. I might share this in December. I'm not sure. So you'll get this as part of, let's talk about the new year. What's up with our channeling topics? Okay. Thanks so much for watching Above Life Channel. I hope I've inspired your spirit and filled you with hope. This is my merch. If you're interested in the merch, check it out below. There's descriptions also below with the things that I utilize for my work and things, tools and things that I recommend to folks. You can also check me out at Above Life, or where am I? Above Life Channel on YouTube. Ferry Grasshopper YouTube. I had to think of where my Nixon is talking so casual with you guys. Ferry Grasshopper on YouTube where I talk about all things intuitive. I talk about my second life. I have a vlog over there. I talk about intuitive top topics. I use card decks to show you how to do that for yourself. I don't use those usually in session, but I use them as a tool to help you and I use them for myself as a tool because they give you clarity and they're easy and I have a ton of them. So I share that with you. We also do intuitive top topics. I do some other channeling there. I might channel in Archangel there or a spiritual guide or deity over there. So check out Ferry Grasshopper on YouTube. If you're not there, you're missing out. If you want to get to know me better also, and my work, Build a Report With Me, check me out on Ferry Grasshopper YouTube. I'm also on Instagram at Brigitte Inspired. And if you want a book session with me, it is easy to book. I have a booking link on my Facebook page, Brigitte Inspired, and it's linked below. So remember, the purpose of this work is to encourage you to live your life. This is your life after all. And David Bowie just gave you great insight about 2022. And you get to live it then. Okay, now you get to live it. Step in and live it. 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When I first saw Damien Wayne, I was repulsed by this idea of Robin. Damien was a brat. He showed no respect for anyone, not Alfred, not Dick or Tim, and certainly not Bruce Wayne. But all of this hides Damien Wayne's true character, and it is one that has grown on me. To find out who Damien Wayne truly is is to look at the duality of the character and the conflicting blood that runs through his veins as son of Bruce Wayne and son of Talia Al Ghul. Damien Wayne, as stated, son of Bruce and Talia, has had several different depictions of the way he was conceived. But what is essential is that for Talia, Damien was an attempt to create the planet's greatest warrior by combining these two powerful lineages. Talia hadn't told Bruce of their child until the first day Damien and Bruce met. But even before then, Damien Wayne was groomed to become the next legendary assassin.  Damien's innocence wasn't just lost, it was ripped away from him. A lot of Damien's youth with Talia not only is spent becoming a warrior, but also as we see in Tomassian Gleason's Batman Robin run, that it's also spent questioning the identity of the young Al Ghul's father. Talia would not let Damien know who his father was until he bested her in battle, and so for years Damien was left in the dark. During this time he had something to prove, he needed to become worthy enough to see his father, strong enough. And the bat is all Damien dreamed of. Being the biological son of Bruce Wayne comes with different expectations. I think it's fair to say for the other Robins that they had to measure up to Bruce, but not in the way that the true son does. The son has to be as smart, as cunning, as dedicated, and he has to be as strong. But strength is earned through hard work. The first impression that many got of Damien aside from his behavioral issues was of his strength. It didn't feel earned. He is shown not only beating Nightwing, one of the universe's elite hand-to-hand combatants, but taking on Deathstroke as well. It seemed like Damien had no real weaknesses, but his fighting ability would help to highlight his true weaknesses, which were internal. Damien becomes interesting when looking past what he can do. When you look at his motivation and his morals and in the way he interacted with this new foreign world, how he adapted to his new life and the rules that that role presented. Damien desperately wants to prove that he is worthy to Bruce, which explains his outbursts. It's what drives him to try and kill Tim and why he bickers with Dick, because he sees them as threats to his position as Bruce's son. He desperately wants to prove to Batman that he is useful and that he is strong, and so he even picks fights with the bad himself. He wants to show his father that not only is he worthy of being his heir, but he wants to be just like him. Damien just couldn't verbalize this. And as he's looked up to his father his entire life and only ever wanted to meet him, it only makes sense. And after seeing Batman in the streets of Gotham, he wants Bruce's restraint as well. The strict moral compass to combat his nature as a natural born killer, and that struggle between wanting to do good but needing to kill is what burdens him. But wanting good isn't something you're born with. It's something you come to desire, and with that enters Damien's own pursuit. He proves that he wants to do good by making a choice against what he has been taught his whole life, when he continues to be Robin. He chooses to be exactly like his father. However, Damien also came with new challenges for Batman, because this is Bruce tackling with the loss of his own parents again and learning for the fourth time how to be a parent. In the same Gleason and Tomasi Batman Robin run, Batman says that he wonders if Damien's instruction by him and everyone else can overcome his nature, alluding to the philosophy and psychology debate of nature versus nurture. Again, Damien is a natural born killer fighting against the teachings of the Bat family. But the issue is that Batman himself isn't the greatest at giving Damien what he needs. Love, care, reassurance and approval. Damien needs to know that Bruce won't give up on him and that he's trying. The young Wayne needs the polar opposite of Talia's toxic and cold-hearted parenting. Again, he spent his whole life disregarding the lives of others, and now Bruce is suddenly asking him to show restraint, to care for others and even to save lives. And in all of these depictions Damien is about 10 years old. He is so young. And I overlooked that about him. I wanted Damien to be just like Dick and Tim. I wanted him to be kind, compliant and compassionate from the get-go without thinking of the years Damien spent being molded into a weapon, killing his own ninjas as if they were expendable, learning to be emotionless and cold and that's even in the way he speaks. Damien speaks so formally, calls everyone by their last name and that reminds us that some aspects of his nature will never change. But Damien has proved that his heart can. To go back it's not easy for Bruce to tell Damien that he's proud of him or that he loves him, because that has never been Bruce's way of showing affection. And I say this to show the way Dick and Alfred feel that role perfectly, especially Dick who donned the cape and cowl to be Damien's partner when Batman had briefly quote-unquote died. Dick was the perfect partner to Damien, because sometimes Damien needed a brother instead of a father and the two quickly became one of my favorite pairings. More than that, warmth, words of encouragement and affection are easy for Dick. He can be a calming presence when Damien gets worked up and that's exactly what Damien needs, even though sometimes he doesn't know how to react to it or how to accept it.  Because yes, he is a kid, but he is also Talia's kid, who has failed to love him in the way that he needs, the same Talia who has shunned him to his face. And in the end after Dick and Alfred's warmth, Bruce also warms up to his son, taking the time to be a true father to Damien. Damien at 10 years old, one of the biggest issues he's had is one of identity. He doesn't quite know who he is or what he is. That is the very blood that runs through his veins and has always been at odds with each other. And while Damien never made the choice to leave the League of Assassins and to join Bruce, Damien did make the choice to stay, to learn from Dick and to learn from Bruce. Alfred tells him that this choice is what has defined him. Over the different runs of Batman and Robin, the question of who Damien Wayne is has always come up. To me, Damien Wayne is defined by his strength to want to follow a path of moral rigidity, a path that requires him to not kill regardless of him being raised to do just that. And in Batman Incorporated, the once selfish Damien sacrificed his life for another person. And more so, Damien is defined by his ability to recognize the wrong that he had done. The son of Batman run by Patrick Gleason was about Damien in his search for redemption. Damien has done terrible, terrible things, and while he might have been a child, it doesn't erase the damage that he'd done. And these deeds were weighing down on Damien's mind at every moment of the day. And so Damien aimed to atone as best he could for every single one. The culture he hurt and even the individuals affected. That Damien to me showed exactly who he is. While he struggles with the darkness inside him, just like Bruce does, he finds a way to overcome it, to be better. Damien has become a good kid with the potential for greatness as the most skilled Robin. Through Damien's choice and through his path, all of these stories show Damien that he is not bound to his blood and that he always has a choice. And with that, these stories also showed a kid that was human, regardless of his upbringing as an assassin. A kid who needs to be loved and encouraged. Damien is a kid who loves animals and creatures, as shown with his many animal companions. Damien is a kid who cares and who is fiercely loyal to those he loves, and he loves really hard. He's shown that to Dick, Bruce, John Kent and the Super Sons, to Maya and the son of Batman, to Alfred and even to his mother. Damien Wayne is just as much Robin as everyone who donned the yellow cape and domino mask. To everyone who was worn that R. Damien Wayne is worthy enough to be Batman's true son.


Hi everyone Sean with Jaspys case breaks calm here doing 2020 Panini origins football random number block pick your team number nine For the Packers Eagles Cowboys Colts Raiders Vikings Ravens Bills and Jags This is the randomizer just for this random number block So it says there are cards that are unnumbered in a set including autograph relics based cards Etc all unnumbered cards in this block of teams will be randomized to one person in one lot at the end of the break Every spot will get a random number of the break 0 through 9 if you get the number 3 You will get all cards with 3 being the first number next to the left of the slash So for example the card is 13 out of 99 3 out of 25 43 out of 49 93 out of 99 so on number 3 We'll get the card all redemption cards go to the zero spot Even if it is a known one of one it will still go to the zero spot all in person one of ones Obviously we'll go to the one spot itself so here's the list of customers from Thomas down to Patrick K and From zero down to nine and we have a little addition in to also just for this random number block We're also going to go away $75 and break credit for getting this done tonight So we'll be doing that randomizer separately at the end dice roll for the randomizer for the random number block first two and a five seven times one two three and Seven final time from Patrick K down to Johnny and now Seven times on the numbers one two Three and seventh the final time from one down to three so Patrick Ketsik with one Ryan Harold with seven Patrick Ketsik with two Patrick Fernando with five Thomas Machi was zero Ryan Harold with nine Rick Serrano with six Derek Mortensen with eight Patrick Cologne with four and Johnny Cannon with three Let's sort it by numbers So Thomas gets any and all redemptions even known one-of-one redemptions while Patrick gets all in person one-of-ones any trades Speak now if not We'll go ahead and print and the break will be coming up after this So trade window closed guys that was the randomizer for The Packers Eagles Cowboys Colts Raiders Vikings Ravens Bills and Jags 2020 community origins football break coming up next jaspyscasebreaks.com. I'm Sean. We'll see you shortly