So today we're gonna explore why a man might choose you over another woman and really we're gonna dive into what sets you apart From other women now in full transparency. I saw this video on Matt Vogg's YouTube channel. I watched his video. I loved everything He had to share so I'm gonna be sharing much of exactly what he shared But my own version of it and it's because I believe when something is true It's universal. So this is what I think is truth and it's universal So I'm I'm thinking back in my own life to those few women that felt different from other women I met just felt something felt different Something unique something special something safe all of these types of emotions and feelings were stirred up inside of me And what's fascinating to me? I said this ever before I became a dating and relationship coach. I Said to one woman in particular. I remember this about 15 years ago While we were together and I'm gonna be candid with you while we were intimately together I said to the words I said to her this feels like home. This feels like home. I Don't want know what caused me to use that phrase Physiology it just there was something about it and the eye what does home mean to everyone? I want to explore that for a second, but what I also thought was Fascinating was once I became a dating coach I heard a woman tell me a man said the same thing to her and then over the years I've heard this from other clients of mine that men have told them that you feel like home So I created a little acronym around the word home of what I thought it might mean then maybe this might resonate for you But the H stands for happy You're happy to be with this person. You feel a sense of joy.  I might have said they felt like home But that shifted later and we'll dive into that in a moment as well But the O stands for optimistic the M stands for She's memorable There's something about her that is memorable. In other words, there's something about her that you just will never forget And I'm sure maybe you felt this for yourself. I know I've been in the presence of women Who I felt a sense of just they're memorable You know, there's something unique about them and the last the E stands for Enthusiastic and what I mean is I said earlier, you know happy I mentioned the word excited but I'm also the E stands for excitement enthusiasm a sense of delight to be with this person and that's Part of what home feels like it feels safe It feels it feels like I want you to think about it You're home like if you walked into another person's home You might feel, you know, you might feel, you know a bit of uniqueness to it But it doesn't feel the same as when you walk into your home It's like when you stay the night at a hotel. Yeah, it's a bed It's a warm place to say but you've been on vacation You've had a good time. You've seen the world you've been to Rome. You've been to Greece You've been to the seashell islands you've been to the Maldives You've been to Bora Bora, wherever it is, but there's something about coming home and what sets you apart From other women is what I'm about to share with you that feeling for a man that it feels like home Okay. Now as we dive into this again, I want to Reiterate that what I'm sharing with you comes from Matt Boggs I didn't come up with this but as I said in the beginning of this broadcast when something is true It's a universal truth. So I want to give him credit for this acronym Because what he shared really I think Makes it really helps understand What it is that men and women want to experience in a relationship and while this title says this sets you apart from every other woman You know to some degree this sets up you up sets up a man apart from every other man In other words if men were watching my channel So he came up with the acronym of peace And when you think about home you think about safety you think about comfort And you think about it's peaceful There's just something when you're at home Hopefully you're experiencing this not everybody might experience this when they're at home But they're feeling a sense of peace So the acronym he came up with and again, I have to give him full credit for this I cannot take credit for it, but I'm just going to give you my interpretation of this The p stands for positive Possibilities positive possibilities Okay, now if you remember my video from a couple days ago, I talked about Beginners mindset beginners mindset see sadly in the dating realm today We are operating for those of us in midlife. Okay, so let's be clear Midlife is quite a bit different than those women in their 20s and 30s You know women many women in their 20s or 30s are like a blank sheet of paper their life is being formed But for those of us in midlife For those of us in midlife We kind of have our lives grooved like the Grand Canyon to some degree And so one of the things that comes with this grooving of our lives Grooving of our lives groovy lives grooving of our lives Is that we might have had some Unhappy experiences particularly when it comes to love many of us are by the way 75% of singles over 45 years old are divorced And when you're divorced you come with an unraveling of the tapestry of an old life And what happens oftentimes is many people are stuck in negative possibilities Why I mentioned beginner's mind is the idea is to approach every new person without the residue Of somebody in your past without the residue of somebody in your past and and look at every like i'll be candid with you Look at I know many of you are on the dating sites. I'm on the dating sites I'm on dating apps and when I see a notification come in Um, you know statistically speaking they're not going to be the one just statistically speaking But I always open up the email or I open up the app with a sense of positive possibilities because today might be the one I want you to think of like, um I was going to say einstein, but I want to say it's edison who invented the light bulb It's funny how the e name is stuck in my brain einstein, but it's edison who created the light bulb Okay, and within that There you know the story is it took him two thousand tries or ten thousand tries to make a light bulb And someone asked him You know, how does it feel to fail so many times? He said I didn't fail two thousand times I just learned two thousand ways not to make a light bulb in other words Every single time he tried a new approach He went at it with beginner's mind with positive Possibilities and that's one of the things that will set you apart from everyone else Okay, the peace process the e stands for embrace the present moment Embrace the present moment. Okay. Now my interpretation of this is learning not to get ahead of yourself And I think sadly, you know, there's an old I remember a woman. I was speaking to one time I was coaching she talked about back in the In the 60s 70s and 80s when women were dating and they liked a man They would they would well if the guy's name was jonathan asley will use me as the or matt boggs You know if her name was cathleen she'd go cathleen asley cathleen boggs, you know in other words Trying out the person's last name. I think we get ahead of ourselves too quickly Now I want to share with you something that I witnessed from a friend of mine and this might Resonate with you. It might not she met a man online She happened to be traveling abroad at the time She was going to be out of the country for three months and she met a man online and they began Talking and they began talking via zoom And over the course of about a month no less than a month they accumulated a hundred hours a hundred hours of Face time of zoom time with video chats with one another Okay, and within that hundred hours They decided he would fly out to meet her And he flies out gets an airplane. She's got a spare bedroom. He's gonna stay in the spare bedroom although Wink wink did that really happen? and within 48 hours She didn't like the guy anymore within 48 hours I mean all this Anticipation was built up all of this Intensity was built up. They both jumped the gun. They got ahead of themselves Embracing the present moment basically is being in your lane in the moment. It's not about getting ahead of yourself That's my interpretation of embracing the present moment each time you're with somebody. It's a new experience And it's important to be present in this experience so again Just like beginner's mind if you're stuck in the past if you're if you're jaded you're bitter from the past And you carry that with you. You're sometimes for some of you It's impossible to be present in the moment because you're so stuck in the past And I think when you clean up that energy you have a greater chance for achieving success You know, it's difficult. By the way, have any of you practiced being present? I did an exercise once Where I stared out a window and this was taught to me so I can't take credit for it And I just noticed what was outside I noticed a bird I noticed a plane I noticed the wind As the the trees were rustling. I noticed the the leaves were rustling And just being present to what I've noticed See So often We're so worried about what to say next. We're so worried about pleasing somebody. We're so worried about Making a good impression or worse We're so oftentimes judging a person. Is he the right height? Does he have the right cologne on, you know, does his breath smell nice, you know I mean like the list goes on and on there's all these judgments Instead of being present to the moment Embrace the present moment. That's the e the a stands for accept yourself Well folks, I wrote a book about self-acceptance. It's called what the heck is self-love anyway a journey of personal development self love and spiritual self-help and spiritual work folks One of the most critically important factors in a man Looking at you different than other women is do you accept yourself or are you self critical? or Are you judgmental of even other people? Not even realizing that it's a reflection of yourself Ah self acceptance boy. This is a hard one to do Oftentimes we have to peel layers upon layers upon layers of hurt pain That we've experienced in our past and it's so difficult to lean into What it feels like to just love yourself Do you know most of you know I did the Hoffman process? And I always recommend reading the book the Hoffman process This is a deep dive into hailing childhood wounds and adult traumas By the way, all the books I recommend are listed in the show notes and in the first comment during the fifth day of the Hoffman process we did a It was uh, basically it was a birthday exercise. It was a play date exercise and it was literally a full day of play like little kid kind of play You just got to play in the playground. You got a little stuffed animal. Where's my stuffed animal? Oh, it's in my bedroom I got a little a little lion stuffed animal. So apropos for the leo and me At the end of the experience I went outside and it was a beautiful night with all the stars out because we were in the mountains And I knew what it felt like to be wrapped in a blanket of self-love Wrapped in a blanket of self-love. I want you to picture because that's what self-acceptance is and this will set you apart From every other woman when you can embody That acceptance of yourself that self-love self-worth self-esteem self-confidence self-reliance See self-love is about your individual sovereignty and yet sadly so many of you women give your power away to men But jonathan, this is the way it's been taught to me men are the leaders of the relationship and I must submit To men because this is what other coaches are telling me Wrong You are never supposed to submit to another person.  Okay get into your calm It's okay to yell jonathan folks I am here to scream at the top of my lungs on this one because I cannot stand the rhetoric of you You must submit to a man that the man is the leader of the relationship and I want you to think of two attorneys Two doctors two accountants that are going to start a firm together a partnership together and they have a 5050 stake in the business See that's the way romantic relationship be you don't need a leader in the relationship You need two sovereign beings and say let's co-create something together Let's co-create something together Now I know many of you prefer the one-up one-down type of dynamic and I'm spitting right now But I invite you for those that are my audience Don't you ever ever ever settle for being beneath a man?    It's about comfort. It's about trust And so if your actions don't consistently match your words you act flaky Well, guess what we won't trust you. You won't feel like home.   Okay done cursing there And the e of peace Stands for engage the fun again. This is map bogs. This is mine But I love the idea.  I mean that's the whole point And so what sets a woman apart is when she can embrace All of these that are listed Now why isn't that many of you haven't embraced this? Because many of you like many of like most of us We've been hurt. We've been wounded.  Okay Go watch his video. You can go to his channel. Just take this title pop it into your search bar and you go watch his But this is my interpretation of what it takes to set yourself apart from everyone else And so he'll choose you Versus another woman. Is this sinking in is this resonating with you? Please let me know if it is Post a comment below. I'd like to hear your thoughts. 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I would really love some love here tonight So hit that little dollar sign if you're watching the replay hit that super. Thanks as well All right, let's see what kind of questions we came up with here All right, jane spitfire and again give us some love. Oh, and if you want to get on the hot seat I just put the link for the hot seat there as well Jane To set myself apart from other ladies is how look be play how look be playful Do not bring up problems first time do not be grumpy and be proud of what I am good at Okay, that is that a question? I don't know if that's a question, but let's unpack that for a moment All right, I told you guys this story before about this date.    Yeah, you know if you're good at something It's important to express that you know the totality of a person Is in their nooks and crannies And what you're good at is part of your life. It's part of the makeup.  I could tell you enough about my life in a three hour date That wouldn't leave a gazillion hours of mystery. Okay Now I think it might be it might be hard to process everything. That's certainly true But that's why it's called dating you get to you look at dating is a is a process of repetition This is brand new for me. What I'm about to say dating is a process of repetition Getting to know someone over and over and over and over and over and over and over again To see if you feel safe if you feel at home if you feel at peace with this human being So, yeah, sure tell what you're good at I like that Rachel says I don't mind the cursing or spitting. I had very baby boys used to spitting burping and drooling Now is this related to men Rachel? Is it men that burp? I mean you said boys and I recognize you you could have had girls and had the same thing But I take on bridge with that. No, I'm just kidding. Okay um Hey, one of our facebook member groups Hey folks, if you'd like to have direct access to me on a regular basis check out the link to my group below called midlife love mastery This is where you get advanced videos of what's coming up On my youtube channel. I also interact with members and it's only 1997 a month check out the link below Okay, one of our facebook grandmenders says What can you say that is fun and sexy? um What is fun?  Okay intimacy cards by best self Okay I think it's fun for someone brand new Pull out. I'm gonna pull out a random card How would you describe? Let's not do that one. That's a money one. Let's find something a little more fun um How was your childhood upbringing shaped by your sex? Wait? Oh, here's one. How was your childhood or upbringing shaped your sexuality? Oh, that's an interesting one. How? Has your childhood or upbringing shaped your sexuality? um You know these cards offer some interesting conversations, you know folks. I'm a little bit unique compared to most people I'm gonna read you guys something. Um that illustrates this Hold on a second. Bear with me one second.  I like people with depth who speak with emotion from a twisted mind. I don't want to know what's up you know today Dating is like that seinfeld episode where kramer saying how's your day? Did you have a good day? I hope you had a good day. I really really hope that you had a really good day. Was your day good? Did you have a good day like?  I don't want to know what's up Everybody's text messages What's up?  It's not a fact. It's merely an opinion have clinical issues And while I state that 20 of the population is healthy with the emotional maturity and relationship skills By the way, I'm being rather generous dysfunctional We humans are really fucked up That's what makes life actually if you want to look at the absurdity at dating today.  It's her fault. It's her fault.  I mean and she's paying penance for it right now Because she got sucked into the fantasy The fantasy of a relationship and not the reality But it's kind of it's humorous and she's beating herself up and I feel bad for that. She's beating herself up. I get it But it's kind of funny I know that doesn't sound funny and we talked about it and we laughed about it too Because if you can't laugh at the absurd things we do as humans To me, that's fun. That's sexy. Anyway, I got off on the tangent, but I hope I answered your question. All right, let's keep going uh, Brenda Christa thought um The c was for consistency in map bogs. Did I make a mistake? I thought he said certainty which means consistency But if I made a mistake then I gent I truly apologize um So let's keep going here Bump bump bump bump. Gamer christian christ Christina excuse me gamer christina When a man shows you a lack of interest example taking all day to respond back and asking me out to dinner With two hour notice. How do I tell him? You're offended How do I tell him i'm offended? Do I even have the right to be okay? When a man shows a lack of interest example taking all day to respond back and asking me out for dinner well If you were offended Okay, so let's do this If did you have a plan in advance? Okay? Well, it sounds like you didn't show much interest. He waited till last minute Okay, now. I don't understand why you were offended like why does that offend you? I would certainly be hey I'm grateful someone asked me out now. They They they didn't operate within the realm of what I need And that is I need advance notice For to get ready to prep and so they if you felt offended Maybe you felt like he's taking advantage of you or taking you for granted. I could see that Okay, and what you could simply say is something like this Thank you so much for offering to take me out to dinner at such late notice. I'll be candid with you I don't have enough time to prepare Maybe when maybe if we can arrange this with more advance notice, I'd be up for it. You say maybe But I know I mean I I understand you probably feel like the offense is that he's taking you for granted But I think that's more of what the emotion is, you know that he's taking you for granted I you know, again, I guess you can look at as being offended And and the way I would respond is the way I recommended. Okay gamer. I hope that helps Bump bump bump bump bump Gamer Jane says that's a good question. Okay, Carol's in the house By the way, does anyone want to join the hot seat? Come on have some bravery I'm really spunky tonight. It might get kind of fun Care or coral When you say the man will choose you over another woman, I mean that is like a competition I thought both had an equal say in choosing one another You know what fair point, okay now The title of this what sets you apart so in the active dating process To the extent it's not a competition, but the reality is is because of these devices We're we're we're competing for each other's time to some degree You know, I mean we have to and I'm not saying you're competing over another woman But we're we're wanting to spend time with someone So what sets you apart and what makes him choose you over a different person Is going to be how you show up because if you show up with resting bitch face You ain't going to get a second date. He'll choose a different woman So how you show up in your sovereignty your self-worth your self-esteem self-confidence is what sets you apart So he'll choose you over another woman But also and if I didn't clearly state this in the beginning, which I absolutely believe I did I said this goes both ways.  I fully agree. Hey, uh, wow Look at that 49 99 Purchase several of your books for four of my students We got to give you a lot of love feminine one Okay, now our goal is a hundred dollars tonight a hundred dollars a hundred dollars is our goal tonight.  I do resting smile face and it makes me feel great Okay, you know what folks something I do when I'm swiping on dating apps, okay I first on put on a smile and I open it with a sense of enthusiasm beginner's mind positive possibilities Embracing the present moment. You know what I do every time I swipe left swiping left means you're not interested or you might hit the x button I always say I wish you the best. I wish you the best. I wish you love. I hope you find what you're looking for see positive possibilities positive possibilities Positive possibilities All right feminine one big hugs to you Irene says jonathan, I remember when you had your friend on that had cancer lovely woman I hope she's healing not an easy journey. Yes that I just by the way folks. I just sent her a thousand dollars for the go fund me And it all came from contributions from our Scholarship fund so even though I applied it I felt like this person was in financial need So thank you for asking. Her name is patty. She wrote the book. Oh, where's her book?   Do you guys know that they give you something called propa propa thal? Knocks you out, but they also give you a medicine That makes you have a memory lapse too. It starts with a v Does anyone know what that medicine is it starts with a v makes you have memory laps What turns out I'm in the recovery room and I'm kind of waking up and it feels like a dream And I make this I go. Wow.  It starts with a v. It makes you lose your memory All right, uh, I by the way stacey you're gonna be on in a minute. I just want to give props to coral for the three dollars um Lauren will get to your question next so You're brave Hey Hello Have you been on before? I have But I'm gamer christina who just asked your question I want to clarify being offended Okay, yes I am offended because this man says he's interested in me We are in the middle of a conversation through text messaging And then you go blank For 12 hours. Okay. I understand if you're busy but This is the beginning of dating if you're interested in someone. Why would you leave them for 12 hours just? gone blank Okay, I have isn't that a I am weeding out the people who are Inter not interested and he is showing a lot that is a red flag lack of interest that He he just has no interest. He's telling me he does but Okay, so are we commenting on the fact that I was I was Okay, so I was not criticizing but I was addressing the word offended Or which I can understand now that I have a little more clarity on what you were talking about in your question So give us some context.  Um Just a week Okay, so first. Oh, so you were communicating for a week. Okay. Yes, and then um, and was he consistent Throughout the previous conversations are very consistent and then um Just wait. Let me ask some questions. So then um, did you guys ever speak on the phone? Um, no he Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa Ladies now stacey. I'm talking to everybody Please Stop this incessant text form of connection It's going to lead to moves like this. Okay, so let me keep going. I had to interrupt you to say ladies No long version text messaging. Okay a few text exchanges should lead to a telephone call or two That should eventually lead to a date So he went on for a week and then tell us exactly what happened in this exchange Um, well, you remember you've seen me before I am homeless Oh Yes, so it is um freezing weather out Uh, he made a comment saying he wanted to go camping, but it's freezing weather outside Okay I messaged him back said you pussy y'all you need is a blanket and you'll be just fine because Okay That's how you And then he went blank for 12 hours right after that. So okay, so let's okay. Let's play with this for a second So maybe he took a fence To your characterization of him He came back 12 hours later saying he had a dinner with family and he just forgot to reply Okay, um, so exactly what you said you pussy. There's always a blanket and then he went blank Okay, okay, and um, all right, so What I don't like about text communication. Okay text dialogue. Okay, so let's this is really critically important. So I'm glad you're here It's difficult to have a dialogue via text sometimes the message it like what you're saying and what they're responding to can be different You know like you're out of sequence. Okay, that's one thing that happens The other thing is that's happening is sometimes we take a you know We can take a very long time to respond because we want to process something Now it's quite possible in that moment. He took a fence. Okay, and he's like, ah, you know what?  I've got a run. We'll catch up another time I am in that I I think it's very fair to Have a to be offended by that lack of courtesy on with him. Okay So why not tell us what happened when he did reach out 12 hours later? What did you do? Um, what did I do? I um Did not respond Okay, and when did that happen? He didn't he didn't ask me any questions or anything He just explained it. He said it 12 hours later. So that was Um on saturday morning. He okay. Yeah, and there's been no communication sense. Is that right? And then today he messaged me Wanting to take me out to dinner with two hours notice, but he knows that I I've told him I work at night. So if you're any interested you would know she works nights Okay Okay, so so where do you stand? I wanted to I want to tell him I'm offended But I feel this is only a week. Do I even have the right to be offended like Okay, so now your question is do I have a right to be offended? So I'm gonna the non-violent communication Communication would look like this and quite frankly. This is very difficult folks We human beings we're not designed to what may I pause you? I am at work.  So thank you so much. All right. All right. Thank you All right. Bye now. So I'm gonna continue on here folks. We human beings were not designed To communicate with our thumbs. It's just not a genuine form of communication because our brains weren't designed to communicate this way Okay, we were designed to communicate Verbally, that's the I mean there was no writing for hundreds of thousands of years. Okay So, you know, this is a relatively new technology. Okay. I want you to think about this Did you guys ever watch the 10 commandments? Did you see people texting each other? Emailing each other writing each other Communication literally only up until a few hundred years ago has entirely been verbal Well, maybe a you you put a little note in a pigeon and you sent it off That was the that was the original wireless text message was writing a note on a pigeon So so she's what I would respond back Stacy is saying look, you know going back to our communication the other day I want to be candid with you We were having a dialogue with one another and you disappeared on me And I felt I felt very disrespectful that you just completely abandon our conversation and And in that moment, I felt very disrespectful.  I hope that helped. Thank you so much for your question.  And it goes with propethol. All right, let's keep going Let's see Bump bump bump Rachel says stacey. You're a brave woman You know, it's interesting You know, I I wonder how okay by the way stacey has been on before I give her a lot of props By the way, didn't she have a great energy? She's got a great smile. She's a pretty woman Um, she's choosing to live in her car right now to save money I wonder from a dating perspective how many men will actually accept that I say that as a curiosity I don't know I doubt that I would I'll be candid with you. I I I might have a cursory judgment around that I'd need more of the backstory. Uh, again, I don't remember the backstory, but I will say this. Um That um You know, it it would be a tough one and I give her a lot of bravery for putting herself out there. Okay Um, and by the way, Gina, isn't that the anesthesia that killed michael jackson? First off, I was with an anesthesiologist yet I might have been that was performed in a very for michael jackson Sadly, it was an addiction on his part. It wasn't like a part of a colonoscopy like I was going through Um, let's keep going but anyway. All right. Here's a question sujin han Jonathan would women having three dogs be a turnoff for men? You know, there's an interesting conversation centered around this So I was speaking to a woman. Oh god. It's been a little while now I can't remember how long ago, but she was dating a man who had I believe two dogs And they lived about an hour apart from one another And it after the first date he kept saying I need you to come to me because of my dogs And what she realized was that, you know, his dogs were actually You know A problem in this relationship because I mean she loves dogs But he wouldn't come visit her because of the dogs and so I believe those who have pets actually could be more Responsibility than children. I mean actually pets are almost like babies.  It's almost like they have babies because they require You know, they don't need the same type of attention as babies, but pretty close to it So it can be problematic unless two people live near each other. Um So I'm just aware that that's happened with this one woman I spoke to and I just didn't you know, I suspect it goes in reverse as well Um, I'm just I love dogs by the way But I can see how a dog could be almost as problematic as in this, you know A person in their 50s or 60s as having babies Just a thought especially if you can't bring the dog Because she didn't live in an environment where he could bring the dog to her You know, so she always had to accommodate herself for him Okay um All right, let's keep going here By the way, thanks for all the love so far. We need 40 more dollars to get to our goal of 100 dollars tonight Okay, do you have any questions? Okay, fox in the garden Can straight men and women be friends if they are commit they are in committed relationships to each other What's your opinion? First off the answer is yes, but and I don't like using but I preferred the word and okay Men and women can be friends I have a very dear friend. Her name is tammy. She we've known each other for 18 years. We met on match.com Um, it was one of those first dates where we hit it off, but there was no love connection So over the years we just developed a friendship. We would call each other talk about our dating experiences little by little We we spent we hung out together did stuff. Um, and little by little We were each other's therapist and we developed she's probably my My closest if not my best friend. She's my certainly my best female friend in my life uh, we have 18 years of history of of really being each other's therapist In some ways but being each other's dear friend. She was so there for me when my son passed away I was there for her through many breakups in her life and we developed a good friend So the answer is yes Now we didn't have a romantic connection. So let me go. Let me take this To my second most significant relationship after my divorce When we broke up for the third and final time I said to her we need to take a break from our friendship Because if we talked about emotional things with one another it would bring me back in so I needed to set a boundary because If you talk at an emotional level with a former lover it can absolutely be problematic So I think taking a break now in her case that that particular relationship She um actually met someone rather quickly after we split up Um they began a relationship. They've been together for six years now. Uh, I know David I've spent time in their home. Uh, we're we're sharing. I are still good friends with each other She's more like a big sister to me because we have a circle of friends But I needed to stop that emotional connection So now let me fast forward with Marie You know Marie and I are friendly to each other, but we don't communicate at this moment in time as friends Why?  We are friendly to each other. We said Merry Christmas to each other happy new year You know, um, there was something regarding her daughter. She needed some help with but we are not We are friendly to each other, but we're not friends at this moment I think when both of us are in significant relationships with someone If we want to continue some level of friendship, that is okay. Now. I'm just giving you a couple different scenarios I'm going to last but not least talk about my ex-wife We went through a contentious divorce and we were not friends for a long period of time And it wasn't until about six seven years after our divorce that we began mending our relationship And certainly at the time Connor passed away It actually brought us closer together and every once in a while we get on the phone We talk to each other because we have this shared experience. We talk about our other son Colin You know and to some degree we even went out to dinner the other night with another mutual friend because they lost their child And while she wasn't my date it felt like a date, but we were with this other couple I was grateful that we have this shared experience that we could be friendly to each other So, you know, I I believe if two people are in committed relationships and there is absolute Transparency with the people you're in relationship with. Yeah, I think you can be and if a person has a problem with the friends in my life Then they're not my partner if they have a problem with the friends of my life Then I don't if someone has inherent trust issues Then they're going to be problematic in other ways for me personally, but you have to answer that for yourself Fox in the garden. Thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it All right, let's keep going who else anyone else want to be on the hot seat stacey was brave Let's see if anyone else wants to be brave bump bump bump bump. Let's go swim and let's find some questions Okay Here's a question guide liken to All right, rachel that looks like a bunch of gibberish. I can't figure out what you wrote there um Bump bump bump bump bump bump bump bump Oh cupcake says I agree. It was rude.   Exactly. That was a brave woman. We got to give her a lot of props All right Let's see if you have a question write the word question and post the question they're after One of my facebook members says pets can be worse than children I spoke to a guy who slept with three iris setters. No room in his yeah You know, that's another thing I've seen with you know wet men and women they they're dogs like their dogs are even more They're such an emotional support person in their life that there's almost no room for someone else I'm not saying always, but I've seen this Happen a lot the pet is such an emotional Support person in their life.  Oh fox in the garden says great answer. You are very welcome Christa says I find jonathan's willingness to open up in previous relationships that didn't work out are out more vulnerable than the got a lot of guys who brag How lucky they would be to be with a woman to be with to lucky women would wait Find more valuable than a lot of guys who brag on how lucky women would be to be with them You know what folks? I'd be lying if I didn't say I'm incredibly sad it didn't work out with marie and I I really had high hopes And while now reflecting back I can see Why we were not right for each other in in the fullest sense. Okay I think she has some I think she'd openly admit She has some healing to do on her part and she has different Aspirations than me and I have I have my own healing in my own part and I have different aspirations than her I'm I'm grateful that I'm grateful. I went all in I really am and I'm grateful she look at she went all in the best she could She's really a fantastic human being. I have great deal of respect for marie And in the experience of being together roughly 14 15 months I got to experience I have the closest thing I've ever had to a healthy relationship and I'm okay that it wasn't meant to go the distance Look at if it's not right for one person. It's not right for both people And the sooner two people can figure that out the better Like would have been better if we figured it out a month sooner. Yeah or two months sooner. Yeah, or three months sooner Yeah, but in our particular case we lived the relationship Went exactly the amount of time it was meant to there was almost no we had no problems It was just a misalignment And why I share this with you and I wish I could even be a little bit more granular about what happened But out of respect for her and out of respect for me. I can't I recognize that What I've experienced Is what so many of you women experience being in a relationship with someone who ends it Being in the relationship.  I've been on the dating apps for three months I've not gone on one date I get I get dozens of emails. I get I mean I I'm blessed.  Maybe I should read it to you. Okay number two. I put together quality photographs There's no misrepresentation. I put together quality photographs ladies Nine out of ten women who write me.   I'm gonna own that But I'm I'm not going out on a date just for the sake of dating I know a lot of dating coaches will teach you it's a numbers game.  I've already put the electromagnet out there My beloved will find me.  Does anyone say yes, Jonathan? I agree with you. Can someone write that because I want to know if this agrees with you Oh Sharon says read your profile. Okay, since you asked Bump up. This is my match profile Okay, rachel says I agree with you facebook. Okay, so let's go to profiles view view Okay, I'm going to read you my essay. By the way my photograph crystal clear quality By the way, that's you can't see it on it, but it's crystal clear. Okay All my pictures are crystal clear. This is what my profile says Okay For the past five years after losing my son I've been on a deep exploration to find out who I really am beyond fear and ego A journey of self-love who seeks a marriage-minded woman or at least living together Who wants to explore the depths of love? This isn't about growing old with someone. I want to grow in life and in love with a remarkable woman Now I won't shut up about things like because it says I won't shut up about dot dot dot I'm fascinated with human behavior personal development and the meaning of life spirituality Especially in the area of self-love and self-worth We're a fit if you have a curious mind and i'm attracted to an inquisitive woman interested in expanding mutual consciousness Let's say that personal development and spirituality are my jam. Is it yours too? The depth of a soul is so vast that we need lifetimes to get to know our true love My heart yearns for a woman capable without the distractions of doing of going deeper to explore The truest meaning of what it is to love Wait, I lost my plant a lot I desire and seek someone who can go down Down rabbit hole conversations wanting to know how I feel and what I think As I do the same for her the person the person with A The person with a curious mind versing wanting to know what's up Most humans talk to each other instead of with each other which they believe is communication in my world real communication is intimacy speaking from the heart importantly hearing from the hearts The way I describe myself is tall with dark hair with a teddy bear heart Maybe I'd say i'm a good guy with an edge and yet i'm human with insecurities or dare I say flaws The thing that freaks me out most is condiments I can't stand to be near ketchup and mustard and yet what I can do is hold your heart like a precious jewel as your lover and heart protector Professionally i'm a writer speaker coach who chooses to be more of service than chasing money or power because I want to be spread self-love to all who are suffering At the same time the universe has seen fit to award award me with abundance And i'm financially self-sufficient seeking a partner who is the same Ideally I'd like to meet a conscious empowered woman who is a combination of feminine and masculine in the sense that she is Both a giver and receiver She has a big heart that yearns to be expressed with healthy emotional maturity and good relationship skills and can truly open her heart to love She is either an empty nester or no children with the time to explore and play in the depths of love Ideally she'll be self-employed and free to spend time regularly here in redondo beach She is a natural giver without being a doormat. She's financially independent has a generous sharing nature Who would be interested in plant-based medicine journeys to explore deeper consciousness and spirituality? The question I'd like to ask each other is who am I? Who are you? Let's explore the journey side by side Thank you kindly for taking the time to read this ps. I'm a graduate of the hopman process Insights seminars one two and three. I'm a big fan of abraham hicks Joe dispends a course in miracles if you have a strong desire to join my mission to spread love and awaken human consciousness Please feel free to write me all I ask is that you read this profile carefully and ask yourself Are we a fit?  I want to intimidate the wrong person. I don't want to attract I don't want to attract the wrong person. I want to attract the woman who reads that and says this is me See if you want to be a bright shiny star to set yourself apart then it starts by the energy you put out particularly In the dating realm now beach lover says do they read this? You know what? I get a lot. I by the way I get dozens of messages every day from all the different platforms Some of them read them. Some of them don't maybe they're just looking at the pictures. I don't know Do you guys remember that six hour conversation? I had right before new years I'm gonna tell you she read it. She recognized me. Oh by the way I went to Abraham Hicks seminar this past weekend and I got recognized by three women. It was kind of cool but my point is When something resonates with your heart and it's truly what I'm looking for is a woman Not not a woman who passively is like Your dating profile is energy If you want to stand out like a bright shiny star, then you're gonna have to make You're I'm gonna encourage you all to approach the process with a lot more self-love And put a great representation of yourself. The thing is we are there are a million stars in the sky How to make yourself stand out? I did my job. I'm inviting the woman to do the same and if she doesn't then she isn't gonna catch my attention And I'm just giving you I'm inviting you to do the same thing Wait a minute this one. I I just got to address this net net detective says I definitely need to put not interested in with friends with benefits on my profile wrong That is the worst thing to do by the way Any guy who's that? He's gonna write you you are literally inviting in the wrong guy. You were inviting in the wrong person Did you hear anything negative in my profile?  It's surrounded by water and you say don't hit it in the water Don't hit it in the water. Don't hit the ball in the water What you're going to do is hit the ball in the water. That is the wrong thing to do net detective Rachel says have you given any thought to sun and moon signs in relationship to your destiny and personality and potential? I'm into that stuff, but I you know what? Every woman I've ever been in relationship according to the charts. We were perfect for each other so And they were they were perfect for what I needed Universe god universe the universe knows exactly who to send my way rachel. I don't need to guess I don't need to look it up I already know the universe will take care of the the hard work is the universe is going to take care of the Hard work. I'm just going to trust to stay in my lane Put the energy out there to be seen to be a bright shiny star out there So my beloved can find me because we are swimming in so many people out there. It's like being in a football stadium Going is it this person? Is it this person? Is it this person? Is it this person? Is it this person? Isn't this person? No become the magnet so they come up to you. That's my invitation for everyone Do you agree with me if you do say jonathan amen? Okay Rachel says wait, what did rachel say jonathan? I have a lot of leo's in my family love them dearly, but do I dare say I'm a scorpio and my ex was a leo By the way, scorpion.  Are they a lot of fun? Oh, by the way, all my relationships with gemini's don't seem to work out So I get it Bump bump bump bump bump By the way, all right Maybe it's it's funny because you know the person who's going to be my beloved my true love It'll probably be a gemini, you know like the universe saying okay. We're just we we're going to send you this one We're going to but we're going to send you the right. I don't know I don't care what year they were born and what day of the week they were born. What I want is alignment um My ex-wife was a cancer. I said I would never date a cancer in the first woman I really appreciated after my divorce. She was a cancer. So who knows Hey, folks, did you get value? Okay, this sets you apart from everyone else. I just want to remind you This was a video that I watched of mattebogs I shared the peace process with you all. I cannot take credit for it I just gave you my interpretation of it because I felt like it was truth And truth is universal nobody owns truth. Okay, they don't own truth. It's just truth Okay, and I appreciate that he did a great job putting it out there I did my own version of it Watch his video go to his website or go to his youtube channel type in this sets you apart from every other woman Watch it and see if there's any uh crossover and let me know what you think. All right Oh, wait tia. I got to read this Yeah, what did you guys think of my dating profile? What'd you think? Wow, jonathan. I just thought after you read your profile I thought about joining the coast to coast dating site a great place to meet people We're in the deep meaning of life, etc Okay, cool. Well, thank you for sharing that Beach lover says jonathan, you need someone who shares your passion for helping people joins you in your mission I know that's what Catherine woodward thomas who wrote the book. Where is it? Um, where's calling in the one? Fuck, where's the book? Oh, here it is Oh By the way, my dear friend wrote the book calling in the one Okay, and we and we interviewed her on the channel twice. Okay.  So I agree with that. Thank you so much beach lover um Let's see what else All right, folks. Look it's been an hour plus. Thank you so much for allowing me to be in your lives tonight I had a loads of fun. I hope you found value in this conversation Look at if you did if you have something to share post a comment below Also, check out all the links to Schedule a discovery call with me to join my group called midlife love mastery to find me on instagram Check out my dating vows. It's all listed below and it'll be in the first comment And also if you found value in this video, please hit that like button Please share this video. Please subscribe to my channel and hit that notification bell So you can be notified of new videos as well. We're gonna wrap up this videos I always do first off give myself a big gigantic jonathan bear hug himself love I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone a pet a teddy bear a pillow and give it or them a hug of love Because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it. We could all use more love in our lives I want to thank corny cob and sherry and jazz and leafs in the house and lauren tie julie beach lover hope Uh christa Marianne rachel laura live learn grow Lindsay christa cupcake robin Uh gg tia Uh christin magic entertainers in the house another scorpio Coral carol coral, right? It's cor is that coral, right?  I hope you found value in this Have a wonderful fabulous night. Be well. Thanks


TFNN, The Tiger, Financial News Network. Update. Good morning, everyone. Basel Chapman here on Wednesday, the 9th of February. We're looking at a market sharply higher. That was up 260 points to 35,720s. This is now the XC because the stochastic has gone to 81%. We call this a buy mode, and I changed the plus sign at the bottom here to an up arrow, and it applies that there should be at least four higher peaks. Now, because LegC, with a high today, so far, of 35,768, is still way under the 36,952 level, I am going to maintain. That's what I always do after a big takeoff from the bottom. I always show the art formation, and I say there are two patterns that are vying for one another, vying with a V. Why? Because that V-shaped bottom, that could be the V-shaped that takes you all the way back to the top, and the art says any failure here turns into that H formation. I'm suspecting we're going to be in a trading band. Maybe the 36,000, 35,900 to 36,100 could be a containment area for a short while. We're going to be seeing very soon. We'll see where we close because the Fed comes speak to date. Anything can happen. Let's go to the S&P. The Dow is up 0.75%. The S&P is up over 1%. 1.04%. Up $47.45, $68. Hasn't taken out both the Chapman Wave inside track repellent zone, or the left side, higher $45.95.41 to get to that LegC. That's the reason why I maintain the art formation, but yes, there is a V-shape as well. Any move by Thursday off, going to Friday's close, if the weekly chart is about 4606, that is really excellent action. That's what we're looking for. I don't want to see a pullback back into the 4530s. We're looking at the QQQ123. There we go. Nice big gap to the 200-period exponential moving average of 4.24. At 363.32, I said needs to get over 363.80 into the 364s to say, now I'm going to tackle the 370.10 high over a few days ago. IWM. Let's see. Yes, this is LegB. We've got gold. Gold is just up a little bit. It's up 1.3. Crude oil is holding near the highs. It hasn't broken down yet, but it has got a PT. We're watching this for a slide, and the TLT hasn't yet had a big move to the upside, but it is up 47 cents. A lot to discuss in the tight admissions hour.


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Wow, what's up everybody once again, it's brand man Sean and today we got to talk about this battle that chance the rapper Has been fighting if you know anything about trans the rapper You know that he's been groundbreaking in terms of being an independent rapper and waving that flag strong And a lot of people have supported him earlier on but as of lately a lot of people are starting to call his Independence into question and that's pretty significant for a brand like chances who's really been built off of being independent So in reality chances really fighting this battle from two frontiers one Actually being independent from a business standpoint and two being independent from the standpoint of public opinion And the crazy part about that is as we all know in today's age people don't necessarily care if he's truly independent If enough people start attacking his independence that image will already be tainted because based on the things that he's done I'm saying that he's independent is saying that he's been doing these groundbreaking things playing on all matting while these Sign rappers are barely doing what he's doing and they're playing on rookie And then two big names that have now said chance is not independent includes Joe buddin and DJ academics of everyday struggle Both of them have said that on the show. Well, you know, I used to defend chance on the independence thing my perspective has changed it has changed, but it's changed with more information and more information from Sources that would know what you really makes it seem like hmm. What have you learned? So either way it goes what I personally haven't liked about this conversation so far is nobody has really defined what being independent means So we're going to find that right here at least try to and then talk about what chance can do to make this whole situation Better possibly from a PR marketing branding standpoint So when you traditionally look at what people consider to be an independent artist It's basically been an artist that doesn't have a record or music label behind them so one of the two things that labels really provide marketing and money and Marketing people don't need as much from labels these days or marketing or those media placements But a lot of these media placements the high-level connections that labels have is very very beneficial Not gonna front on that but when it comes to the money and we know the money is a huge deal You hear about these artists getting front it a million dollars five million dollars Well, actually you don't really hear about it anymore But that reason that that money is necessary a lot of occasions to be front it is It takes money to actually be an artist and start to get things going so you can invest and get that money back As a matter of fact the manager I talked to was like hey these talk shows these late night shows He was like, yo It costs at least 20 grand to really have a set up with your band and all that kind of stuff to be on these shows They those shows do not pay you you pay for everything and this guy does know because his artist has been on Several of those shows so the question is he always chance the rappers touring money that strong and maybe it is now But was it then when he started to make certain moves one of the biggest accusations that I'm starting to see more recently That might stick as opposed to that kind of weaker Apple music deal trying to say that he's not independent from that People are starting to really look at Patrick Corker and his father and say yo man He was pretty successful. He put some money behind you guys you guys are not independent And that's a two-fold tricky situation, which is perfect because this is the opportunity to define exactly what independent is Obviously the purest form of independence just flipping your own money stack and break again and again and again Getting more money out of the situation as you build your own empire Let's consider a situation like if Patrick's dad did provide money for him and say they have large Financial support from the very beginning now in business in general not just the music industry if someone is an investor in your company You're basically not independent even if you have a lot of control of things You still have this financial duty fiduciary duty is what they call it now where they get that money from and how you return it to Them that's a whole another situation But if you have an investor and they're supposed to get gains from it traditionally, you are not independent But let's say Patrick's dad was like a yo man I see you working with this chance kid and chances dad seems pretty cool his dad works with Obama So I know chance has good support behind him from that end But his dad still works for the government government don't make money like that, but I got money So here I'm alone you this money That should be enough for y'all to get started and all I need you to do is pay me this money back And that scenario chance is still independent because that's no difference than somebody saying hey I got this business. I got my business plan and everything looks like it could go Well, I just need some money from you bank so I could do these things and then I'll give you the money back To tell you guys the truth I know a lot of independent artists out there these days that do not have any kind of label or are starting their own label But they have some either investors or they have some people that have loaned them some money Maybe they come from a you know, well-law family or something like that But that's just where we live in today because it costs less money to become a successful artist didn't used to Y'all are gonna see a lot more of that so now we call on the question What's the new definition of independent before we said that was basically meaning hey You were signed to a record label. You're independent of a record label But are we talking about independent for real for real from a business structure because that's a whole different question and trust me You're gonna see a lot of these newer artists who have financial investors But I'll let you guys decide on that for yourselves The last thing is really just talking about chance for more of a PR standpoint in the public Actually considering him to be independent regardless of the actual business that's going on and what I personally feel like with chance Doing so many things that are groundbreaking and pioneering He has an opportunity to really just come out and say it plain and clear as opposed to doing kind of the interviews That they might be asked questions by interviewers who are kind of playing nice All he needs to do is really come out clearly and say something to the tune of hey What we're doing is groundbreaking and pioneering in so many ways There's so many new frontiers that haven't been covered yet A lot of people might say that they aren't independent because they're doing this and they aren't independent because they're doing that But the reality is since nobody's done what we're doing There's will be a lot of ambiguity and questions that arise as we do more and continue to grow But just know that we have control of our brand once they come out acknowledged Hey, some of this stuff will look sketchy there might be gray areas and loopholes like hey We have people backing us but we aren't signed to a record label then they'll be alright because the reality is I don't think fans care as much as they think they do especially at this point of his career Chance is already too successful for the common man to be looking at him as an underdog So if he comes out and make a statement like that clearly He just has to make that statement once and then continue to do whatever he wants to do as he's already been doing But if they continue to avoid this whole conversation instead of addressing it head-on and just keep on making it seem like Anybody who says they're not independent is crazy or haters They're just gonna back themselves into a corner in the long run as more and more people and energy comes Adam saying that a bra y'all are not independent state your piece one time make it clear so the fans know Where your intention where your heart is and keep moving because again fans do not care as much about that Independent thing as a lot of people probably think but what they do care more of is the idea of chance having transparency between him and his fan base and if at any point he starts to look like he's been holding something back from That's when things are gonna get a little tricky But that's it for now. 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