Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm John Farnasi of johnfarnasi.com and I'm so excited to be doing this short or this live stream for you today. Our topic, if he really likes you, he's gonna do these five things if he really, really likes you. Okay, really quickly, if you're brand new to my YouTube channel, please hit the subscribe button, hit the bell so you can be notified of new videos. And if at any time during this video, the content resonates with you, please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms.  It's direct, a little tough love and a lot of heart. And occasionally I use expletives to enhance a sentence. So if an F-bomb or two isn't your cup of tea, I suggest logging off right now. Lastly, these are my thoughts, my perceptions, my opinions, by no means do I suggest this is the truth. You have to decide the truth for yourself. I'm a bit of a contrarian, so oftentimes my advice goes against the grain and you have to decide if it works for you. All right, let's talk about those five things guys do when they really, really like you. Now, really quickly, I've noticed a lot of videos for my contemporaries and myself included, oftentimes focuses on love. And it got me thinking that there's a big difference between love and like. I'm gonna repeat that. There's a big difference between love and like. And I actually think like is almost better than love. Now, let me explain why. So for those who know me know that I lost my 19 year old son Connor a few years ago, there's a picture of him and I right there. And during his funeral, I gave the eulogy. And during the eulogy, I expressed something that was very near and dear to me about both my boys. And what was interesting as a parent, it's natural to feel love for our children. In fact, for most parents, it's natural to feel unconditional love for our children. And basically unconditional love means that they can do whatever they want and you're still gonna love them. And in particular with children, I mean, short of them doing some heinous kind of crime, even their worst behavior is something that we accept because we tend to not always unconditionally love our children. And while we certainly don't appreciate bad behavior and we certainly don't really appreciate any really volatile behavior, it's just natural to unconditionally love our children. In fact, I'll be candid with you. One of the challenges I had as a parent was this unconditional love because no matter what, I would love them. And that made me oftentimes very fearful and very scared that God forbid something happened to them. God forbid something happened to them and sure enough, it did. Now, why am I setting this up? Because the fact of the matter is is I didn't love Connor or Colin, my oldest. I mean, not only do I love them, I actually like them. In fact, in particular, I liked Connor for who he was. I liked his personality. I liked so many things about him and certainly I feel the same way about my oldest son, Colin. There's a picture of him right there. Now, why am I sharing this with you? It's not about being a parent. I believe like is a much deeper feeling in a different sense. And what I'm here to lane into today is that I think like is bred from respect and adoration. Let me repeat that. I believe like is bred from respect and adoration. Think about those two words, respect and adoration. The words I love you is thrown about so cavalierly in relationships. In fact, isn't it sad that people could be in violent, physically abusive relationships, not emotionally abusive, but physically abusive relationships saying the words I love you, which is so contrary to what love is all about. So I believe like is a much deeper feeling of adoration and respect. Because think about it, even role models in your life, you may rarely do we ever say we love a role model, but we oftentimes because we respect and admire them, we like our role models or those actors that we care about. And we might say cavalierly we love them. And I think deep down it's really a feeling of like. And that's what I wanna lean into today. Now, before we get into it, I wanna set the stage on something though first. And one of the challenges with dating today is that we are meeting total strangers. We're meeting total strangers, which makes it, which means it takes time to get to know another human being. It takes time to get to know another human being. And currently the method we use to get to know someone is the dating process, is the dating process. The problem with the dating process, it comes to the table with such grand expectations. The grand expectations include that men are supposed to initiate the first date, men are supposed to pay for the dating process, those, that's the traditional expectation and men are the leaders of the relationship. And what we've learned, and if you follow my channel, we've learned men are terrible leaders of the relationship because most men after midlife are winging it, winging it, winging it. And as you often hear me say, I'm your big brother and if I could be there for you on a first date, I'd have the shotgun out, point it at the guy's face and say, what's your intentions? The problem is because men biologically are driven by sex and we use lust and limerence as a way to captivate and capture a person, it oftentimes doesn't mean that we might actually like this person when we're driven by that biological need to satisfy our sexual urges. And this is why one of the big proponents I talk about, I say that it takes about 100 hours of face-to-face time to truly get to know another human being, it takes time to get to know another human being and the challenge is the way our current system is, it's wrapped up in dating. Now, I wanna change the narrative for a second, I wanna give you an example of my oldest son, Colin, when he was in college, he was in a class with a woman or a young woman, I should say, he was in a class with a woman, young woman, that he spent time getting to know, they were also in debate class together, they spent months together and then he finally said, I'd like to ask you on a date. Well, the thing was is he had this tremendous amount of familiarity about her and when he asked her on a date, it was because he already liked her, he already liked her, he wasn't in love with her, he liked her. And so can you see why the challenge in right now is set up was the problem is dating in and of itself. We should shift the narrative from dating and saying, hey, let's spend time getting to know each other without expectations. But wait a minute, Jonathan, men are supposed to lead the process and I'm just supposed to sit back in my feminine. Folks, I'm here to say it's time to change the narrative of the dating process, at least in my purview. And this is one of the reasons why I highly recommend reading the book if the Buddha dated, if the Buddha dated because it takes out the gender expectations that are causing a lot of frustration in the dating process today or in the getting to know you process. And so if we could actually begin to date from a premise of let's take time to get to know each other without expectations, then you take turns planning dates with one another. You take turns spending time with one another like you would a dear friend. And then you have the potential for a much stronger richer relationship that creates a stronger bond. All right, that's just my two cents. Take it for what it's worth. I know many of you are gonna disagree with me, although I believe that if we could go back to like how my son met someone, it'd be great that if we could meet in an organic setting where we knew each other and even better if we knew each other's families, we knew each other's friends, it would make this process so much more satisfying and the challenges when we're meeting total strangers we're having to sift through all the stuff to figure out if they're even really the right person for us. By the way, if you need some support with that, check out the link to a free discovery call with me to see if working with the coach is right for you because here's the thing. My area of expertise is to teach you how to ask better questions in the early stage of dating so you can avoid the wrong guys by being radically honest right from the get go and I teach it based on your personality. So check out the link below. So I wanna invite everyone to operate from this premise going forward from the premise of what would love do and how would love respond? Let me repeat that. What would love do and how would love respond? What I mean is loving for yourself, loving yourself and loving others. I'm gonna repeat that, loving yourself and loving others. All right, that's my two cents. Now let's get into those five things guys do when they really like you. So I'm gonna put on my trusty glasses, here's my notes, bum, bum, bum.   It comes from that place of adoration. Think of how many people you have friends in your life that you really don't like them but you call them friends but you don't really like them.  But we call them friends. Most of my friends I actually like. In fact, I can't think of, if they're not someone I like as a person, I don't really wanna be friends with them and that doesn't mean I can't be cordial and polite and whatnot but I don't consider them a close friend.  If you're not an active participant in someone's life, are they really a friend or become a social acquaintance? But that's a whole nother conversation. All right, number two, he asks you lots of questions about your life. He's curious about who you are, a great sign that a guy likes you is he asks you questions about your life. He's curious. And I always give this narrative and I'm gonna share this with you but I've given this narrative before. I'm gonna switch it from a different perspective really quickly but I remember I was dating a woman who was an internet marketing coach. And I was really fascinated and I would say, well, how did you get started in that business? Was number one, what inspires you to keep you going? Number two, and what brings you the most satisfaction from that business? I was really curious. And so I was doing something called drilling down. I was asking a question, asking another question and asking another question. When a guy is actually curious about your, and it's not about your last relationship per se, although that's a good question to ask as well or about your children. I'm talking about drilling down to the things that you're most passionate about. That's a great sign that he likes you when he's curious and this goes well beyond having sex with them.  How was your day? How was your day? Or do you ask your children, how was your day? Most people answer the question, how was your day? They either say fine or good, fine or good because that's such a benign question. It really doesn't go anywhere. It's, I mean, you're really set up to answer it in a very, you know, benign way. So what if you asked your child, who was the person sitting next to you today in class, in your English class and what did you guys talk about? A way more specific question. That specific question actually gives them an opportunity to open up and have conversations with you. And sadly, most people today are dating this way. Text message, how's your day going? Are you having a good day? Did you have a good day? I hope you had a good day. Wow, I hope you had a good day. You know what, I had a really good day. Like this is the surface level of conversation.  Now, an emotionally immature man, emotionally stunted man or woman, they have surface conversations. They all, let me do it this way. Surface conversations, okay? I'm here to say let's go deeper in our conversations by being curious, being inquisitive. And a great way to know if a man likes you is he's curious about you. Okay, number three. He actually says the following. He either says, I respect or admire blank accomplishment. I respect or admire blank accomplishment. Let's go back to that internet marketing person I was talking about. This was someone I dated years ago. I said, wow, I really respect and admire your tenacity, your fortitude, your ambition with what you do for a living. And it's just amazing what you've accomplished. When someone can acknowledge your accomplishments with actually using the word respect or admire, that's a great sign he likes you. The challenge is as most humans these days are having such surface conversations that they're not going into deeper intimacy with one another. And this is why a lot of relationships fail. And this is why lately I've been talking about this book called Oral Sex, Oral Sex, talking and you're listening your way to passionate intimacy. And to follow up with that book, I highly recommend ordering Barbara DeAngelis's book, How to Make Love All the Time. These folks, it's time to shift the narrative from a surface way of getting to know another human being in a much deeper way to get to know another human being. And listen, I know you don't like being the ones to be the leader of the relationship. Here's the benefit of taking charge of your destiny is that most men aren't buying these books. 90% of these books are purchased by women. So you're educating yourself way more than men. That's one of the reasons why if you know my narrative, what I'm about to say next, if the penis goes inside the vagina, you should be purchasing the book Eight Dates by Drs. John and Julie Gottman and purchase two copies of this book and you both read it if you're going to explore a relationship together. There's that book. And I highly recommend getting it. Also, if you haven't gotten my book, What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway, check out the link below. I always plug my book because this is a great book. It's a book of personal developments. It's an invitation to do personal development, self-help and spiritual work, to shift from feeling like you're not good enough, not lovable and not likable to finding a way to inner peace. And that's my invitation for everyone because whether or not you attract a partner in your life or not, what matters most is that sense of inner peace. And that's what I want everybody to lean into today. So, next, oh, this is one I like.  When he's not trying to get you in bed, when he's not trying to get you in bed, he just looks in your eyes. He just looks in your eyes and says, you're beautiful, you're beautiful. I know there were times in my most significant relationship, we would just be sitting each, we'd be sitting across from each other at the coffee table or the breakfast table, I should say.  And sometimes I would just stop and look at her. I'd just stop and look at her. And I would just simply say, God, you're so beautiful. I mean, that's beyond love. That's really saying I like you. I mean, I'm looking in your eyes, you mean something to me, you matter to me. And when guys do that for no reason, this wasn't me trying to get her into bed. When guys say things like that, not as an initiation for sex, just to express their appreciation and gratitude for you, that's a great sign, he likes you. And if you're not familiar with the four As, the four As, that's attention, affection, appreciation and acceptance. And when someone uses appreciation by saying, wow, I really appreciate being with you. Wow, I think you're so beautiful. Wow, and just looking in your eyes, that's being attentive, that's being present.  And number five, number five. After sleeping together, he wants to spend more time with you. Let me repeat that. After sleeping together, he's actually initiating more time to be with you. That's a great sign, he likes you. And not just to get you in bed, to go do things, to do activities together, to do hobbies together, to have mutual interests together, to introduce you to family and friends.  That's a great sign that he really likes you. And so we're leaning in today to like, because actually I think what's missing today in a lot of relationships is that genuine feeling of like how I felt about my son. I miss him not just because I love him. I miss him because I like this person so much and I like my oldest son as well. And that's why I can't get enough of wanting to spend time with either one of them. It's not because of love, it's because I genuinely like them. And by the way, I know a lot of parents who might love their children, but they don't like their children. And when you can like someone in a space of unconditional love, that's a great sign that that relationship has some juice to it. All right, those are just my quick thoughts on that. I hope you found value in this so far. It's time for our live stream Q&A. So if you're on live right now, there's a chat box right on the corner here. Those listening to the recording, you won't be able to see the chats, but we're gonna, this is a place to ask questions of me, so write the word question, then post the question there after, so it's easier for me to find. In addition, you can purchase a Super Sticker or a Super Chat. All the funds from a Super Sticker Super Chat goes to a scholarship fund that created in the name of Connor Asley. There's him right there. Also, he's in the back of my book. Where's that picture of him? Anyways, I'll find that later. Super Sticker Super Chats go to a scholarship fund to defray the cost of personal development for those that are seeking personal development and also to gift to the personal development charities that I appreciate most. So again, purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat as your way to saying, hey, thank you, Jonathan, or to ask a question. All right, first question I see on my screen, question Jonathan, you are so damn cute. Thank you so much. I appreciate that kitty cat. Let's see. Let's go swim in. Okay, if you have a question, post the word question, write the question thereafter so it's easy for me to find. All right, we got a couple in right now from Jesse. Question, I was asking a guy who I met online first conversation about his dating history and he started to feel uncomfortable and said he preferred our deep conversation. Didn't ask me questions, thoughts. Okay, a lot of people feel uncomfortable about speaking about their past relationships. A lot of people feel uncomfortable. Now, chances are there's a variety of different reasons why they feel uncomfortable. Maybe they have something to hide. Maybe it was an unhealthy relationship and they don't wanna share about it. Maybe they don't want you to glean that they might have some problems in their life and they're trying to show up as the ambassador of their best selves. That's something Chris Rock says in his comedy show, the ambassador of their best selves. I think people who avoid talking about their past relationships, there's two things. I think people who avoid talking about their past relationships or they talk negatively about their past relationships in my book is a no-no. Do not date these people and let me explain why. Anyone who talks negative about their past relationship, what are they gonna do when they end the relationship with you? They're gonna talk negatively about you. Human beings who do not take ownership in their part to an ending of a relationship oftentimes aren't emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship. In addition, if someone is avoiding talking about their past relationships, they oftentimes don't have that level of trust within themselves to actually be in a healthy happy relationship with someone else. When you have operated from a place of self-love, in my book, what the heck is self-love anyway, you can talk about your past freely, openly. Now, if there's something that's confidential about your past, it doesn't mean you have to reveal everything about your past relationships. However, and it's something that might have to be divulged during time, I think it's important to get a sense of someone's past relationship because let's go back to my son Colin here. My oldest, he's only had one relationship in his life. When you get to mid-life, you might have had one or two marriages. You might have had a couple of boyfriend and girlfriends before you got married. You might have had a couple of relationships after you got married. And a lot of that gives you clues as to their stability. Their stability. I can tell you folks, as a man, it's one of the first questions I ask of women and depending on how they answer, it can be a yes or it can be a no. And I will tell you, most women operate from the premise of throwing their past relationship under the bus. And that is a clear sign to me that this person hasn't really matured within themselves to actually look at their own part in the ending of their relationship. And if you're not familiar with my relationship iceberg, I talk about this frequently, the relationship iceberg, the tip of the iceberg is chemistry. That's attraction below the waterline, the bigger part of the iceberg, shared values, blendable lifestyles and emotional maturity. And that's where compatibility lies. Here's the problem folks, men and women alike are stunted emotionally. They're stunted emotionally. They have weak emotional skills at best. And in fact, most men and women and ladies, you're guilty of this too. Have poor communication skills. Just because you can vomit your feelings doesn't mean you're good at communication. This is why I continually recommend the book, Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. This was designed to help humans be better communicators in their romantic relationships. So coming back to your question, those are my rough thoughts about someone who either avoids talking about their past. And certainly I wanted to add to that, if they talk negative about their past, that's a really clear sign that they have not healed from their past or it's not a clear sign. It can be a clear sign that they haven't healed from their past and I would be very cautious dating someone who throws their ex under the bus.  Take ownership in that and maybe you might revisit some of your past relationships going, you know what? I had a part in this too. And ownership is a sign of emotional maturity. I'm gonna repeat that. Taking ownership in your part is a huge sign of emotional maturity. All right, great question there, Jesse. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. Our next question from Ocean. Ocean, question. Can like for a partner transfer over to like for partners children or other family members? In other words, do people become infatuated with partners family? What can go wrong? That's an interesting question. I haven't heard that one before. So let me think about that for a second. By the way, I just got this in the mail, be happy. This is from one of you out there in the YouTube universe. I got two letters in the mail today and this gift in the mail today. Thank you all so much for your kindness, your generosity. I can't begin to tell you how much I appreciate it. So, and by the way, you can go to my website, my business addresses on my website. That's how they were able to find it. So here's the thing, oftentimes I have met women who I've met their children and I've disliked their children. I thought they were either spoiled. I thought they were lacked ambition. I criticized their judgments. I certainly had the experience of the opposite happen and there's been situations where I met someone that I've met their children or family members and I really liked them. That's all a good thing. When you can like people for who they are, that's actually a great sign. And by the way, think of how many relationships are destroyed because you can't stand a family member or that family member can't stand you for some reason. We are riddled with dysfunctionality out in the realm of human interpersonal relationships. It's sometimes it's a wonder actually any people do actually fall in love because we are riddled with such judgment and myopic and egoic behavior within human beings. This is why I continually recommend people doing the work. In fact, if you're not familiar with the book, the Hoffman process, the Hoffman process, this is a great place to heal childhood wounds and traumas that cause negative patterns and limiting beliefs in one's life. And I gotta tell you, I just got a card in the mail from one of you who went to the Hoffman process, the actual physical Hoffman process based on my recommendation. And she went on to thank me with so much gratitude about this change in her life. Folks, the reason why my YouTube channel is different from all the other dating and relating rhetoric out there is because I'm here to discuss human behavior from the understanding that our childhood wounds and traumas cause most of our negative patterns and limiting beliefs in our lives that causes erratic behavior in the dating, mating and relating realm. And this is why I'm such a big proponent of individuals doing the work like what I recommend in my book. And at the back of my book, I outline all the great places that I went to so I could be in a place where I'd like to think, I can't say this with certainty, but I'd like to think I'm more emotionally grown up than the vast majority of people out there, at least the men out there in the dating, mating and relating realm. So this is my invitation for you and I would recommend doing all this work, but coming back to your original question, now I can't even remember the question, because one of the things I do is ramble is can it be wrong or can it go wrong when you like someone's family members? Here's the only thing is when you dislike someone, lots of things can go wrong. When you like them, it's a frustration when the relationship ends. That's the only thing that pops into my mind right now. Thank you so much for that question, I really appreciate it. All right. Oh, I wanna thank 101138 for the Super Sticker, $10 Super Sticker, thank you so much. I really appreciate that. That's gonna show the screen to everybody. Thank you so much. By the way, you can purchase the Super Sticker Super Chat, there's a dollar sign right at the chat box, that's where you can order it. All right, let's keep swimming. Bear with me, everyone. Oh, we got lots of questions, woof. Give me a second to scroll through these. All right. Magna says, question, isn't this the best chat ever? Thank you so much, I appreciate it. Heather writes, question. My boyfriend says I love you too, instead of I love you when he says it, wait. My boyfriend says I love you too, instead of I love you when he says it first. Does it mean the same thing as I love you? If so, why does he have to add the two? Oh, now if I'm understanding this correctly, you're saying I love you and then he repeats it, I love you too. Listen, folks, we've been literally indoctrinated with this, think about your children or think about when you were a child, when your mom and dad or you say this to your children, I love you and they go, I love you too, mom, I love you too, dad. It's very natural to follow up with that. Most likely though, when some, but your children rarely out of the blue say I love you. I gotta tell you, when I get a text from Colin that says I love you, breaks, I mean, that's just my heart melts. And so, and my point is, children oftentimes don't initiate even 10 full or even remotely close to the 10 times we initiate with our children. Here's the thing. I think in romantic relationship, if you're not building, if you're not co-creating a relationship together, you're just merely companionship, connection and sex, then oftentimes people feel nervous saying the words I love you because to a man, I love you can mean a commitment to the future that they may not necessarily be ready for yet.  This is why I sometimes prefer the word like better than love. So I'm here to say that when he says I love you too, sometimes it's just conditioning.  That's a possibility. I would have conversation with him about that. I would also invite you to start exploring, co-creating a relationship together by reading the book, eight dates by doctors. Folks, I gotta stop here for a second. I'm gonna hold this book up. Most of you are effing clueless when it comes to the mechanics to a healthy happy relationship. I'm gonna repeat that. Most of you women, most of my audience's women are clueless. If you haven't read this book to understand the mechanics to a relationship, you're basically winging it, winging it, winging it and you're basically expecting men to be the leaders of the relationship and let me tell you something. You're giving the job to the wrong person. Men are terrible leaders at the relationship because they're even more clueless. Now part of the difference is with midlife versus men in their 20s and 30s. When a man is in their 20s and 30s and they've decided they want a wife, they're actively focused on finding the mother of their children. After age 45, when guys stop having children unless by accident, they don't know what they want. And folks, you don't know what you want either. In fact, I just got a letter in the mail saying, Jonathan, let me illustrate this point. I was working with a woman a couple of years ago who called me up, or wanted a coaching session. She's telling me about the relationship and she says, Jonathan, I want more commitment from my guy. I'm like, great, what does that look like for you? But Jonathan, I just want more commitment from the guy. I'm like, great, what does that look like for you? But Jonathan, I just want more commitment from the guy. I'm like, great, what does that look like for you? But Jonathan, and she thought screaming was describing. The screaming, her screaming was coming out of anger that she thinks I didn't understand her. What she didn't understand is I was asking her to describe what it looks like. And this is why I continually share what it looks like for me to give you some context to creating your own. For me, it's like my committed relationship looks like ideally would look like this. We spend three or four days a night a week together doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork building schools, both in our personal and our professional life, intimacy, both physical and emotional intimacy that leads to either moving in together or getting married. That's what it looks like. But Jonathan, I just want more commitment.  Ladies, I say this with love, but some of you are batshit crazy, okay? And you wonder why it's so problematic.  And I'm grateful you're listening to me. And if I turned you off, then you're not ready for this message. And if I turned you on, and I don't mean by my looks, by my words, what I mean, then I invite you to do the work. That's interesting. I had a contemporary critique one of my videos and in that, I talk about a lot of books and the comment section on his channel was, all this guy is doing is telling us to read books. Who has time to read books?  You want a healthy, happy relationship and you're not willing to invest maybe one year of your life reading one, reading 15 minutes a day. In 15 minutes a day, you could literally finish all of the books I recommend in 15 minutes a day or 20 minutes a day.  You'll get manicures. You'll buy expensive outfits. You'll get Botox, you'll get plastic surgery.  I'm being judgmental here a little bit, but you're not willing to do inner work so you can actually be a good partner. Folks, if you're not willing to do the work unlike this woman who went to the Hoffman process I shared with about before, those are the people that are gonna end up in the juicy, delicious relationships and everyone else is gonna have most likely mediocre relationships or worse dysfunctional relationships. Let me tell you something. Esther Perrell said, the quality of our life is predicated on the quality of our relationships. And let me tell you something. Life is all about relationships. First, the relationship with yourself and the relationship with others. And I gotta tell you, most human beings are stunted emotionally. Most human beings are stunted emotionally. When you become emotionally mature, you get tired of people really quickly.  You have a lot less friends and at the same time, you have much richer friendships when you're with people who can actually be intimate with one another.  And that's my invitation for everyone. So I went off on a tangent here. I forgot the original question. My boyfriend doesn't say I love you so that's my response to that one. All right, thank you so much for that question, Heather, I appreciate it. Well, quickly, I've got an ant on my computer. I made the mistake of leaving something out and I got now ants. All right, let's look at our next question. By the way, if this is resonating with you, everybody, please give me that thumbs up, like and share this with friends right now. Please tell others about my channel if this is resonating with you. Okay, Lisette says, question. Can a relationship be sustained long-term if you feel like a person?  This is a great question. And this is the rub. I gotta tell you, here's the thing, you could have a great relationship with someone you don't have chemistry with. Now, what I mean by great relationship, I love, there's a picture of my mom and dad. So they were married 66 years before my mother passed away a few years ago.  I don't wanna know if they did. But I'm here to say is, people can have a companionship-based relationship. That is certainly possible. In fact, how many people are married these days I know personally couples have been married for 25 years. They haven't had sex 15 of the last 25 years.    And that includes having sexual chemistry and physical chemistry and emotional chemistry and intellectual chemistry and creative chemistry. By the way, these are all things I talk about in my private coaching, check out the link below. This is where I talk about the deeper levels of chemistry in relationship. And oftentimes women, I've witnessed women who have gone out with men that they weren't attracted to but fell in love with them over time. So women are a little bit different than men. We men need physical attraction, that chemistry to get the equipment up, to get the equipment up. Otherwise the equipment, it looks like this. But that's kind of what men tend to need. Women tend to fall more in love between the ears. So here's the thing, if you're not feeling it, listen.  If you, and by the way, a lot of people at midlife, God there's shitty lovers. Men and women alike are shitty lovers. I gotta tell you I've dated, listen, not that I'm not proud of the fact that I've probably have been intimate with a lot of different women.  Now, you can learn how to become a better lover by going to a tantric class or go to a commasutra workshop. Those are certainly places where you can learn or even hire a sex consultant. But I gotta tell you, there's a lot of bad lovers out there. Men, just as many as women. So anyways, I don't know, I'm just going off in a tangent. I guess, Mike, here's the thing, you've gotta do what's right for you. You've gotta do what's right for you. That's my invitation for you. Thank you so much for that question, Lizette, I really appreciate it. I wanna thank Sherry really quickly for this. Hold on a second, everyone. Sherry just gave a $50 super sticker. Thank you so much to the Colin Connor Asley Scholarship Fund. I'm really grateful for that. Thank you so much. And she says, using your son's honor, thank you. We're gonna defray the cost of personal development for folks.        And I gotta tell you something, I may not have a life partner right now, but I am rich in so many different areas of my life that I know she's coming around the corner very soon. I mean, she might knock on the door any moment now.  All right, let's jump in and answer a few more questions before we wrap up.  Way to go, Jennifer. All right. PR says, hi, Jonathan, I wanna discuss this sensitive matter with you. I love your videos, but I'm in a dilemma. Please help. How can I reach out to you? Schedule a free discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you. You can hire me at any time by filling out that questionnaire and then we can schedule a coaching session. All right. It's in the description, the discovery call. All right, let's see what we got here. Bump, bump, bump.  Oh, Jenny, sweetheart, big hugs to you. Thank you for the super sticker. You're the best, big, gigantic hugs to you. Thank you so much. Brandy says, in relationship, I don't know how you reconcile unconditional love and setting boundaries, which is by definition a condition, any assistance on this dichotomy. Okay, unconditional love is not unconditional relationships, okay? Listen, with children, we can understand unconditional love, even with dogs.  Okay, they broke a boundary.   But the thing is with pets and children, we experience unconditional love. In a relationship, a relationship is riddled with conditions. So, for example, I said I want a relationship where we spend three or four days and nights a week together doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interests, spending time with family and friends. If I met a woman who says I can give you one day a week every three months, then we're not on the same page in relationship. My boundary, my standard is that, and what my boundary is saying, this is what I'm going to keep to. So boundaries are very important in relationship. Loving someone, now, loving someone unconditionally, by the way, I don't even know if even the happiest couple on the planet love their partners unconditionally. I think it's a rare percentage of the population that actually has unconditional love, mostly because it's the small percentage of the population is emotionally mature enough to actually love unconditionally outside of their children. And quite frankly, think about your children. How many times when they were growing up, have you yelled at your child? Have you scolded your child? Maybe even hit your child. That's not what unconditional love has done. How many times have you talked down to a child? So the reality is, is I think very few human beings are even capable of unconditional love. I do believe relationships come with conditions and we do our best to love at the capacity we can love.  It was very common for that generation to do that.   Yet my parents, I know loved me, they just did the best they could. I'm here to say as most people are doing the best they can.  This is why it takes doing the work. This is why I continually recommend the Hoffman process. But ultimately, relationship is all about standards and boundaries and love is simply love. Thank you so much for that question, Randy. I really appreciate it. Okay, I only have a few minutes left of me before my back goes out again. So let's see, Missy writes, question. How do you explain an abusive relationship in a non-negative way? All I can say is it was abusive, but I'm not a victim and I have healed and forgiven this person to do I need to explain more? Okay. So that's a really good question. Now, a lot of times we, you know, by the way, Missy, I just would have an interest, just a curiosity, I throw this out there. If I called your ex-husband and asked him what he thought of you, what would he say? I'm just curious, you know, like, what if we put ourselves in the other person's shoes? What would they say about you? And if they rattled off all their negativity, I'm just saying, and if there's any validity to it, take ownership of it. I'm just saying that as an example. Now, with that said, here's what I could say in my past relationship. I don't wanna get into the particulars of my marriage. I'd just say that, you know, in my marriage, we had major differences with one another. Some of them were my responsibility, some were her responsibility. And when, because of it, we just weren't able to go the distance. I'm not prepared to share the particular details until I'm more, you know, I feel greater trust with you. I'm certainly open to sharing those details. But at this moment, let me just say this. I take ownership in my part of the ending relationship, and whether she takes ownership or not, I can't lean into it. All I can say is we both weren't right for each other, and that's why the relationship ended. It's a very grown-up way of saying it without any specifics. And the point is, when you say it in a grown-up way, you don't have to give the specifics. The problem is most humans do it in a negative way. And I'm gonna give you an example. I once dated a woman, and I've shared this before. We were on our first, I think it was our second date, I said, well, what happened in your marriage?  I go, okay, I go, when was your last relationship? And she goes, it ended six months ago. I go, what happened with him? Oh, he was a narcissist. Really? Okay, what about the guy before him? He was a narcissist. Well, what about the guy before him? He was a narcissist. So I'm thinking to myself, well, I'm not a narcissist. I'll be her hero. We dated for six weeks, and this woman bored the heck out of me. She was really, she was just boring to me. I mean, that's all I can say. She was boring to me, okay? Mostly because she was petrified and scared to communicate. And she just bored me for me. So I ended the relationship. You know what happened on Facebook the next day? I dated another narcissist. Fucking, if the clue wasn't there for me ahead of time, she was telegraphing this. Every person she dated was a narcissist. She would think I'd know better and go, oh, I should be picking up on this. But I looked at it from, I'm not one. Here's the thing. A lot of people telegraph their problems in their past relationships and it gives you clues on how to navigate being in relationship with them. And I should have been prepared for this one, and I didn't, lesson learned. So when a person doesn't take ownership in their part of the ending of the relationship, that's a good sign. Be careful. That's my invitation for you. Missy, thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. All right, let's go swim in. Kelly says, inner healing and gratitude, the editations have helped me on a lot of my journey. Way to go, I'm with you right there. Jennifer says, our parents did the best job they could with the best job they could with use, we all should forgive them. Yes, in fact, most people are doing the best they can. In fact, one of the things my friend, here, do I have her book? If you're not familiar with the book, the Queens Code, the Queens Code, I haven't talked about this book in a while. My friend, Alison Armstrong, one of the things she says that I love is when you're feeling frustration with a guy, ask yourself, what was his good reason for doing what he did? I'm gonna repeat that. What was his good reason for doing what he did? It's almost like saying, what would love do or how would love respond? So when you can ask yourself, what was his good reason, in other words, put yourself in his shoes, you might find out that it was more genuine than being disingenuous. I'm gonna repeat that. It's more, meaning genuine is authentic to himself. It doesn't necessarily mean accepting bad behavior, but ask yourself, sometimes human beings do mean things not intentionally and maybe there's a reason for it and maybe most likely, let me tell you something folks, the vast majority of men and women were incredibly traumatized as children. I'm gonna repeat that, the vast, on some level and sometimes the most benign thing could be traumatizing. Let me give an example. There's my mom again. My mom, my family and I went skiing one year. I think I was three or four years old.  Now, what I learned later was only 20 feet from me, but to my child, as a child, I could only see 10 feet around me basically and I thought my mom abandoned me and I kept screaming, mom, mom, mom, mom, mom. By the way, she didn't hear me. She was right there, she could see me. She was talking to someone, but she couldn't hear me because I was, mom, where are you, mom, where are you, and I remember this vividly. I thought I was abandoned and in that moment, that actually set up my anxious attachment style of feeling needy in relationship because I felt abandoned in that moment.  So I'm here to say our parents did the best they could and oftentimes even benign things we children perceive differently because as a child, I didn't know any better. As a child, I didn't understand. I understand now, but back then I didn't understand because a child's mind can't process at an adult level and that's the challenge that we're all faced today is we're all riddled with shit in our lives and we just don't know about it. Be happy. Thank you to that YouTuber that sent this to me. All right, time for one more question because I'm heading off to the jacuzzi in a little bit. Actually, let me just text someone. I'm going down to the jacuzzi to hang out with people in my complex. Okay, so our last question of the day. All right, well it looks like we don't, let's see, let's go swim in, let's go swim in. Let's go swim in. Jenny says, here we go again.  Way to go Jenny. Thank you so much. Are you an RN? I could use a doctor right now. All right, you know what folks? I think this would be a good place to wrap up.  All right, Dawn says therapy is definitely helping me, great to hear. Kit Kat says, is there a space for me in the jacuzzi? Absolutely, join us. It's a gorgeous sunny evening out here in Southern California. Bear with me one second. This was the sunset the other night from my place. There's the sunset from my place. I should post that picture, gorgeous evening.  All right folks, you know what? This will be a great place to wrap up today. If you found value when I shared, please tell your friends, hit that like button, send this video to friends. If you need some support, check out the links to a free discovery called, check out my group called Midlife Love Mastery. Check out my book, What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway. Purchase a super stick or super chat to donate to the Conor Asley Scholarship Fund. And we're gonna wrap up this video as we always do. First off, giving myself a big gigantic shot than Bear or Hug of Self Love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone. A tech, turn to someone. A pet, a teddy bear or pillow and give it or them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use a lot more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch. Bye now. And I wanna thank Sherry and Lisette and Jenny and Dawn and Jennifer and Kit Kat and Sherry and Kelly. Thank you all, Dawn, thank you all so much. Have a fab evening.


What's up navigation traders welcome to holiday edition the weekly video update today's Friday December 27th Obviously, hey, we had a shortened week of trading with December 24th being a half day and then Christmas on the 25th Being closed all together. So fewer alerts by the way Let's see next week on New Year's Day So the markets open New Year's Eve the markets closed on New Year's Day So I'll post in the community just to confirm that early next week But that is the situation. So before we jump into the alerts Let's take a look at the community and see who got caught being hot this week Help me in congratulating Andrew K Andrew's been in the community for just a few weeks But jumped into the fire with both feet answering a lot of questions Adding suggestions just overall providing value to the community, which is what it's all about So thank you Andrew. Congrats. You got caught being hot Let's go to the alerts starting on the 23rd, which is Monday started out with an opening adjusting trade in Gold so basically what we did here is we we opened one and then we closed our Feb position and so essentially it's kind of you you can almost think of it as rolling We don't technically roll iron condors because there are four-legged spreads But we closed that one open another one to extend that duration keep that keep that position going in GC now if we look at GLD, which is the corresponding ETF What you'll see here is that you know at the time we put this on implied volatility actually wasn't as high as it is now But it was kind of like it was the next highest thing on the board You know, we've had high IV in bonds and that gas and that's about it With earnings kind of going by the wayside and not picking up again until the middle of January We don't have a lot of options So we wanted to continue to stay small stay active still continue to sell premium because you Because even if implied volatility is low, there is still a positive expectation An expectation of positive returns We just want to keep our position size smaller because we don't want to get caught in a situation where implied volatility Really goes through the roof and then we you know, we put the position on with low IV So still want to stay active. So we went ahead and re-entered in in gold. So if you take a look at that position Price has gone up a little bit since then so we're just right of center and just playing the waiting game for some more Theta Decay in GC Next trade so we open that one close that one next trade was a rolling adjusting trade in SMH So I talked about this on a video earlier this week And then also there was some posting in the community So if you didn't see that you can go back and check those posts out But basically what happened is overnight this night we got assigned on 200 short shares of stock from our short calls and So what we did is we just bought that back along with bought back the the remaining short puts We're at a point. We're at 25 days to expiration So we were going to be rolling this trade this week anyway And so we just went ahead and close that out and then repositioned our short strangle in the next cycle with in February With 60 days to expiration that hasn't moved much since we did that roll So if we take a look its price is pretty well dead centered here So just playing the waiting game on SMH Next trade opening trade in Shopify. So shop about Shopify has been kind of on fire To the upside if you take a look at the charts here, you know, just a just a really steep move to the upside Shopify If you've ever bought anything online and it wasn't on Amazon There's a really high chance that it probably was through a Shopify platform That's what a lot of these e-commerce companies Companies that sell physical products online. They use Shopify as their platform and obviously with the record holiday sales that we've already seen You know the price of Shopify has just exploded And so which and the other thing that's interesting is you'll see here is even with the price going higher Look what happened to implied volatility implied volatility has continued to expand as well And earnings isn't till way out here around the middle of February so Seeing some explosive move to the upside and an expansion of implied volatility, which is creating an opportunity to Put on some ducks in this case. We did a reverse iron duck in Shopify Price is hanging out right here just inside the duck head. This one expires January 10th So we'll probably wait till closer to that to take that off unless it just continues to explode Hire all the way up into that 430 mark. So if go back to the chart, we've got all the way up to here You know before we before we need to do anything on on that But you know, hopefully just kind of consolidates or potentially pulls back a little bit and just kind of hangs out here And then ends up in the duck head, but we'll see what happens Next trade opening trade in Roku. So Roku's kind of been all over the board as well we did a Regular iron duck in Roku and take a look at chart. I mean, it's just been up and down and up and down up and down and so This is kind of the same thing where price is hanging out right here just inside the duck head Just just the reverse. So this is a regular iron duck where the Shopify was a reverse iron duck So same expiration. We've got till the not next Friday, but the following Friday To to hold on to that. So we'll see what happens in Roku Next trade opening adjusting trade in Natty gas We put this one on today with implied volatility staying nice and high We went ahead and added to our Nat gas position Our previous position is has about 30 some days this one We put on with 60 days to kind of spread out those Durations and so let's take a look at our Natty gas position So here's the one that we had on before This is our inverted strangle that we've been that we've been trading for for a few months and then This one and this one has how many days 32 and then the one we just put on with 60 days to expiration Pretty well centered here. Now. Look at this now. Look at the slope of the profit line That just really speaks, you know, it's really steep over here on the upside and it's really It's a lot flatter If price were to go down and that's just due to the skew and the options on the calls versus the puts Because the price is pretty well centered here and I don't mind that slope here Just because we also have this one which we could use some more upside. So it kind of balances each other is at balances each other out Between the two different positions we have in that gas Next trade opening trade in Ford slash CL so we added a new iron duck with 19 days to expiration in CL. So let's check that out I did get one question in the community Because on this trade we collected. What do we collect here? 61 cents so but remember oil is Whereas in equities we would multiply that times a hundred so that'd be 61 dollars per contract But in oil you multiply that times a thousand. So your credit is actually $610 in in real money. Okay, so you know part of the class said on equity options We typically don't want to collect less than a dollar But that's only on equity options when it comes to future options they're a different animal and you can still collect enough credit to make the trade worthwhile even if you're collecting under a buck and in fact on a on a on a position like oil since the spreads are 0.5 wide as you know half a point wide on our on our call side We're typically never gonna collect dollar. We're gonna collect we're gonna try to collect over 50 cents to create that No risk to the upside So let's take a look at oil and here's what it looks like here at over an 85 percent Probability of profit and prices hanging out right here pretty close to where we put it on in the duck beak Next trade opening trade in Amazon, so we put on a a new reverse iron duck in Amazon Amazon announced that they did I think it was quadruple the amount of Sales On a specific end a specific period then they did the same time last year, which is just nuts So had a big explosion yesterday in price to the upside. We didn't have a position on we just put this one on today and with that explosion it create a little bit of a Juice in those call spreads so we did a reverse iron duck And so you can see prices moved down since we put this on so prices hanging out right here Got a lot of a lot more room to the upside to get into that duck head And we did this with just seven days to expiration so these expire next Friday next Friday's the last trading day so You'll see what happens. Hopefully we can get a little duck head action in Amazon Next trade opening adjusting trade in our friend ZW wheat So we added an iron condor in wheat with 56 days to expiration And we have a another one in the previous cycle, so let's take a look at our wheat position So this is the one that we put on and with 56 days You can see prices hanging out right here, and then the other one that we have on is this one here And you can see prices hanging out near the upper end of the range Wheat had a decent move higher today or the last couple days actually getting us close to that break even point And so what we'll do if we take off just the Just the call side and we take a look at just the untested side You still you see we just got a tiny bit of profit left in those a little bit a little bit of premium left in those So price stays here. It goes a little bit higher in the next week. We're gonna close out that untested side We're gonna close out that put vertical side, and then we'll just keep that remaining Call vertical side on but we're in decent shape I want to give it a little bit a little bit more time over the weekend Of course if price draws back down into center, we'll just keep it and continue to manage as we teach Lastly closing trade in rut so we had a weekly double calendar on in rut Today was the last trading day, so we needed to exit ended a book and a little bit of a profit Rut actually pulled back a little bit for us, which was great I talked about in yesterday's video.  Alright, so those are all the alerts. Let's take a look at some of our other positions starting with yes We've got this long put vertical that we've been holding for the shelf short delta exposure Price is hanging out right inside the range there Mentioned gold. I mentioned that a gas Bonds we've got two pieces on in bonds one Is this 161 straddle? So it was a strangle.  We've got 28 days to expiration. So even towards the end of next week, we may look to roll that out to march But we'll see what happens and then The other piece that we have on here is another strangle You can see price is hanging out right here. And so just waiting for some more theta to decay on that piece I mentioned wheat apple continues to be strong. It's outside of our range on our Long put vertical that we're holding for short delta Just looking for some downside to benefit that Mention amazon De john deere same kind of story. We've got a short call vertical here price is just outside of our range So looking for some downside in deer DIA we've got two sets of short call verticals One is just at the breakeven just outside our range the one in january which has 21 days And then our feb piece similar situation same position just a different duration. So hanging out right here near our breakeven Fedex, okay. So this one by the time you are watching this, we will have sent out an alert I tried to get filled on this for 99 cents. Remember our call spread is a dollar wide. So that's our beak Um, and so we wanted to get out for under a dollar. So we had an order in at 99 cents didn't get filled So we're just going to let this expire. It's so far out here Toss if you're trading on toss toss does not charge any exercise or assignment fees So you can just let that expire Keep that beak profit and and not pay any commission. So we didn't want to pay up on this pay a commission plus pay over a dollar So in this case, we're just letting it expire and keeping that beak profit Google we've got an iron duck in google And price is hanging out up here in the beak. I put this price slice right here These expire next friday. So we've uh, we've still got about a 33 chance that price could come back down in here to the duckhead area So we will keep that on for now IWM we've got this, uh, again a long put vertical here for that short delta exposure Just inside of our range here speaking of short delta We're about three to one on our short delta versus our theta ratio. So in line with our our range that we like to keep QQQ very similar to dia. We've got one spread in jan That's just outside of our range and then we've got one spread in feb That's just outside of our range So like I was saying if we could just get a little bit of a pullback in this a little bit of relief in this death march higher That would be much much warranted much welcome. I should say I mentioned rocu I mentioned Shopify mentioned smh spx Uh, so we've got an iron duck in spx. I'd like to add another one or two Ducks in spx, but I mean price just hasn't moved. I don't want to load up anymore at this at this price level Again, I'd like to see some downside movement before we add another duck, but This one is january 10th. So not next friday, but the friday after this one expires. So we've got about 14 days SPY we've got this short call vertical here prices right inside our range right here Looking for some more downside to benefit that Tesla okay, so tesla was gonna actually had an order to try to take this one off today You know, we like to get to a point if it's if it's under 10% chance of getting down into our duckhead area. We'll we'll look to take this off This is close enough. This is about 12 percent. I put an order in never got filled. So again, I'm just gonna wait You know this we do have a full week So I may pay up a couple pennies early next week if it's still hanging out up here or if it you know, of course if it goes higher We'll just look to get out of that because then you got a just a very little chance of getting back to where we really want it to Might as well just book those profits and redeploy And then lastly xlk. This one's run higher. We will this is the one that we accidentally rolled to the weekly expiration So we've only got seven days But we'll so we'll look to roll this next week and we'll roll that out to the feb cycle which at this point has 56 days And so that's our plan in xlk So those are all the alerts. Those are all the positions everybody have a great weekend Look forward to a new 2020 Everybody have a good one. Talk to you soon


I am Ukrainian, my wife is Russian. In fact, a few years ago, Tri-Cities did an article, they put house divided. And yeah, so we are not divided though. But the nations we come from are right now, there's a huge tension that is there. The verse I'm going to read is 1st Timothy chapter 2, it says, I urge you first of all to pray for all people. Ask God to help them intercede on their behalf and give thanks for them. And we were just doing that, we were just thanking God. Pray this way for kings and all who are in authority so that we may live peaceful and quiet lives marked by godliness and dignity. This is good and please is God our Savior who wants everyone to be saved and to understand and to understand the truth. We're going to be praying for that conflict today that is happening. I'm going to invite Roman, he's a friend of our house, he ministered here a few times. He's a professor, associate professor of economics at Case Western Reserve University in Cleveland, Ohio. He moved to Kiev, Ukraine's capital, two months ago. And Sheremeta was born in Ukraine in 1982 and lived there until 2004. And he moved to the United States to get his PhD from Purdo University in Indiana. And he's been voted as, has a lot of awards in economics world.  He's also a spirit-filled believer. About a few years ago, he's already started to get offers to launch, they're launching a first university in the Ukraine that's English University. And so, he is now the founder and the president of that university in Kiev. Hi Vlad, how are you guys? We're doing better than we deserve, better than we deserve. Amen. How are you? Well, I'm doing great. Thank you so much. I'm calling from Kiev and you know, I'm really grateful that you have made this bridge possible. Roman, tell us a little bit more. I mean, we're seeing this everywhere on the news right now. It's just like, it's the hot topic right now. Even though, as I've read a lot of articles, where they quoted you that this conflict has been happening for at least last eight years, the Ukraine's been living in this tension. What is underground? Can you give us just a little bit of explanation of what is actually happening there from the Ukrainian perspective of somebody who lives there? Yeah, so, so you'll understand the context. One stands on the brink or a crossroad of two very different worldviews. One is authoritarian with not much freedom and not too much regard for individual liberties and people are more subject than the citizens. And another one is more democratic where people are citizens, they are free to choose. And so the tension between Russia and Ukraine really represents this fight between these two worldviews. And this fight has been going on for quite some time. So we can go back all the way eight years ago when Russia annexed Crimea, again, and they also attacked and have been supplying arms and troops to Donbass and Luhansk region on the east of Ukraine. And now what is happening? Now Russia has amassed over 150,000 troops surrounding Ukraine and they're staging a precedent to attack Ukraine. So for example, in the past two days, there have been shells, bombshelling and shots all across southern part of Ukraine. And Russian media is portraying as if Ukraine is shooting at them. And so basically it's as if Ukraine is attacking Russia and they're waiting for the precedent to attack now Ukraine. They have started to evacuate some people from the east into Russia. Basically, it's pretty serious. And Ukraine really needs the help of the West because also you have to understand that because of what's going on right now, we have a really difficult situation where Ukraine and Hryvna is devaluing, the markets are crashing. There's been a lot of outflow of investments out of Ukraine. So and it's a pretty desperate moment right now for Ukrainians. And we're praying for Ukraine. We're praying. And I was mentioning before this that my wife is actually from Russia. And so I just had her on the stage and that we symbolically prayed both of us so that because we're believing for we know that and I've read in one of your articles in the news media, you mentioned that if this will accelerate into war, it will not help Russia either. It will really destroy Russia as well. And it's and if it doesn't turn into war, but the tension remains, it's going to keep on crippling because Putin doesn't have to go into war to cripple Ukraine. That's right. That's exactly right, Vlad. And a very important point that there is a difference between Russia and Russian people or Kremlin and Russian people. It's a very big difference. They have wonderful Russian friends that are supporting Ukraine standing along in this fight, and it's just the regime. And you know better than anybody else, your church, that our fight is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, the underlying spiritual powers that are bringing this oppression. And this is something that people have to understand. It's not just a physical fight. It is also a spiritual fight. Thank you. Thank you. Praise God for everything. I just wanted to say if you can be intentional also church hunger generation in your prayers, we need courage. Instead of fear and despair, recently I made a post on social media showing how Ukrainian people in Kharkiv on the snow, on their knees praying, asking God to interfere and to help Ukraine. So if you can continue to pray for that sort of courage to be, you know, expressed in the midst of fear and despair, also I ask you to pray for unity within Ukraine and also unity around the world in support of Ukraine. I also want for you to ask to pray for principalities and demonic powers, because again, as I said, that's where our fight is. And of course, pray for peace. So if you in the evening or throughout the week or throughout the next month, please be intentional about your prayer. May God bless you. Thank you so much for this bridge that let us build. God bless you, and I want my wife to just begin to pray that prayer for those of you online, drop the Ukrainian and Russian flag because we're praying for both of those nations right now in Jesus's name. Just pray for those two nations. Lord, we pray for innocent people that are affected by this conflict. God, we ask for your intervention. Let you feel like a miracle. Would you come for those that are struggling? God, we covered with the blood of Jesus, both of the presidents. And we ask you that you will steer the hearts of the president. God, towards peace and not war. Lord, we just cover them with your presence and with the fire of the Holy Spirit. Lord, we ask for the Ukraine and the Ukrainian people. God, that you will raise them up from ashes. God, that you will begin to help them. God, your supernatural hand of help will be upon that country in a mighty name of Jesus. We pray for it. Come on, let's just take one more minute. Let's just begin to intercede right now. Let's just begin to intercede right now for peace to come to that area. In the name of Jesus, Lord, we pray right now for the peace to begin to come. Father, we pray for the nation of Ukraine. Lord, we pray, God, that you will begin to, even as revivals have been happening there, God. Even as there is freedom, Lord God, for the preaching of the good news. We ask you, God, for the peace to begin to come into that area. We ask you that you will begin to defend that nation, God. We ask you that you will begin to, Lord God, come to that nation, Lord. We ask you, Father, as you said, to pray for Jerusalem, Lord. Today we pray for Ukraine. Today, Father, we pray, God, for the people that are in there. We pray, God, for the churches that are in there. We pray, Lord, God, for the pastors, God. We pray for the missionaries, Lord, that are in there, God. We pray for the citizens of this nation, Lord. Let there be peace in that nation. Let there be shalom in that nation, God. We ask you, Father, that you will begin to release your angels, God, to prevent the bloodshed, to prevent the sharing of the innocent blood, the sharing of the blood for the sake of the political schemes that are happening, Lord, God. Lord, let me the precipilities not succeed in that region, Lord. May the regional demons that are seeking to spill more blood, God, let them not succeed, Lord. In Jesus mighty name, Father. We speak, Lord, God, that you will, right now, push back to darkness. We speak, right now, Lord, God, that you will begin to push back every agenda, every agenda to bankrupt the nations, to bring extreme poverty, to bring violence, to bring, Lord, God, hate between these two countries, God. In the name of Jesus, we ask for your mercy. We ask for your wisdom. We ask, Lord, God, for the direction of the Ukrainian president, God. We ask, Lord, God, for that you will turn the heart of the Russian president, Lord, God, toward your agenda, God, not toward his agenda, as you did with Nebuchadnezzar, as you did with the pharaohs of old, as you did, Lord, God, with different kings, even with dictators, God, where you will shift their hearts in your direction, God. Your word says that you hold the king's heart in your hand, and you can turn it the way you wanted to turn it, God. You are sovereign, Lord.  You are over the heavens, God, and we plead for your mercy. We plead for your grace. We plead to extend your mercy, God. We pray, God, for other nations right now. We pray for the nations where American troops are at. We pray for the nations where there is, it's illegal to be a Christian. We pray for the nations where Christians are in hiding right now. We pray for the nations where there's violence and blood, just runs down the street, the blood of innocent people, Lord, that you will begin to bring your revival there, God. In Jesus' mighty name, we plead for your grace. We plead for your mercy. In the name of Jesus, in Jesus' name, amen, amen, amen. Church, I believe that God hears our prayer, and I ask you that as you come every day to pray here, that you remember right now these things that are happening, and it's not only in Ukraine and Russia, but there's other places where stuff is happening that you will remember these things in prayer.