Hello, we are live. Hey guys, this is Zach. We are live in the food training. Everyone say they're not happy near everybody. Right now is Jeremy Foyce. Let me see, who else is here? Let me also double check. Yes, I'm live. Yes, I am. Okay, so I believe everything was done. Awesome. Okay, great. Hey guys, this is Dr. Anthony. Welcome. Welcome. Happy New Year. Let me also turn on my virtual background for people who join us. Please introduce yourself, what's your name, where you're from and what's your New Year's resolution, and to my funny part is Jeremy Foyce, because my internet caught up, I can't conversation, so you should be able to see me live on both YouTube and make that similar comment high in the chat. Yeah, comment high in the chat, you see me live and also introduce yourself. Hi, what's your name, what's your New Year's resolution, I've learned about you guys. Awesome. So, let's do this. Let's get started. Hey guys, this is Dr. Anthony. I've helped hundreds of them who can't drop off their bank companies and we need to start up and continue to get promoted as a product leader, and today we're doing our New Year's weekly YouTube live free coaching and actually have been doing this free coaching for over one year. Very excited. We started in January 2022, so which means we have over 50 different live free coaching out there, so very excited to see all of you guys join me for the whole year. Awesome. So, putting in the chat for what's your name and hello, his name is oh my god, I don't hear when I saw your name, oh my god, someone putting oh my god, but today, hi, hello, hello, yeah, I'm on the chat, what's your name, where you from, and what's your New Year's resolution, this is Dr. Anthony and the same way to connect with all of you guys. Awesome. So, how's everybody doing during the new year, and do you get chance to study, focus on your next career move, or you are very disturbed regarding the new things coming up for chat GBT. Well, today we'll talk about chat GBT, and actually, yesterday I published a new video talking about can chat GBT replace product management job, people management, and programming jobs. Okay, so my observation is, part of the job can be replaced, and by some striking thinking job cannot be replaced. So, I'm going to learn the details, my prediction, both my latest YouTube video and a little more. And today we'll talk about the pagealism, it's crazy, of chat GBT, and just like who lost going on in the space, and actually I was one who was exploring how to use chat GBT to get the best outcome of your work, and I discovered that actually you're able to actually cheat in lots of homework and design, it's crazy. That's why today we're going live, trying to walk through this process together, and actually see how to prevent the plagiarism by chat GBT, and it's crazy. Okay, so now let me, let me log into my chat GBT account, and also share my screen so that we can look into this together, and actually investigate. Then we'll see a, let me make sure we are all right. So, oh, by the way, before we get started, people talk about New Year's Resubition, and very funny. Actually, I'm very looking forward to see all of you guys, my New Year's Resubition is worth my balance, is different. I do want to share what you guys are from, and if you feel the same way, let me know, or different aspects of your New Year's Resubition, as you go, as well as my latest New Year's Resubition is actually worth my balance, it's crazy, because after baby it seems like it's getting crazy. What I found out the biggest change is that your priorities shift those significantly. In the past, I saw, I'm a creative woman, I am still a creative woman, but I never had imagined in the past how much I love my baby, how much I love my mom, and how much I just want to have, we need big families. It's crazy, amazing I started as a while, me and my husband have a kid, and I would say, oh, I want like huge families, I really enjoy it, but even hanging out with cousins doesn't have to be on kids, like growing together with others is amazing, have someone you love and love someone else, never felt this way until I become a mom, felt the same way on the chat, I love to hear from you guys, this is very, very different and amazing experience, I never expect as much out of like the changes you had with my kid. Okay, so now let's do this, let's do this, the crazy part is, I believe there are some like, chat you can say oversubscribe right now, somehow not able to put in the questions, but anyway, so let me do it, and the first of all, share my screen, please, so that I can get you to your own copy, change the next thing I screen, I'm on the chat, yes and no, and you'll see my screen, which should be able to see my full screen, oh, and I will feel chat on the screen, this is my chat, so I think it's, I can only do one, it's really, it's just review, oh, it's got everything ready, awesome, okay, cool, now the students, today we talk about chat GPD and the application, how much it's impacting our lives and how it's going to give different kind of use cases, can make your life easier, and actually the dangerous part is actually enabling pressurism is back, I'm going to give you some example, how much it's going to give you the correct answers, but it can give you correct answers, okay, so we'll talk about the chat GPD and pressurism today, we won't get started, I always love to share our favorite students' inspiring stories, I really want to get you guys inspired to be friends, we do like over a year, we have 50 people in a live free coaching on YouTube and make them, I really want to see you guys actually continue to grow, that's why I want to tell you that lots of you guys had limited belief, different kind of mind blocks, you felt like you cannot achieve was because it's in your brain and lots of people around you didn't make it happen and then you tell yourself you couldn't make it happen, that is the major reasons you're not able to achieve your goal, okay, so I'm here really helping you to inspire and grow further, okay, so now I want to tell you a story of my sweet Jill, it's amazing, so Jill's story is that she's a trader, she's a trader on Wall Street and lately she became a partner manager at Falcon X, which is a crypto trading company, the senior partner manager, and she's also getting paid higher than the bank company, she's also the students actually in the past, oh I work on Wall Street, I'm a trader, I make lots of money, now I become a partner manager, going to start from the beginning, even her friends ask questions saying hey, can you actually make as much money as before, also say questions and give her doubt, but the final outcome is she actually makes more, 50% more than her crypto, like than her being a trader on Wall Street, by being a senior partner manager at Falcon X, and the first two weeks she joined a new company, people start to ask her to make decisions in terms of oh do you think we should buy this company, sell this company, what you're paying in, it's mind blowing regarding how much she was able to grow her trade, and why don't you guys really do the phone so that you can follow the same message on it, number one is that find some other role models who actually did exactly what you want to do, so huh, how Joe was a trader on Wall Street, became a partner manager, let me learn from her, seriously, do not look around and see other people who have enacted the energy around choosing though you cannot do it, and then you'll never do it, and just become like someone who's mediocre doing the job you hate, okay, find someone who could be your role model, huh, what would Joe do in the situation when she was rejected, just ask those questions, find anybody, number one, number two is that you really need to do self-evaluation, also what exactly you want, for example Joe to like understand exactly what she's saying, just being a trader in the Wall Street space for six years, it's very very boring, she want to do something different, she did lots of personality tests to understand what she wants, and also like make a commitment to herself, say I know this recession coming up, she was like well do I want to be a trader when market is going down, what should I say, well they're given less money with their trader, so therefore she made a very very striking decision saying that I'm going to try to figure out how can I break into kind of management, because this is going to serve me in the long run, and finally she's decided to follow all the strategies, we have lots of free training on YouTube, you guys can just watch lots of free training if you go okay, to get y'all come if you're interested in our PM access program, you go to our website pmdocnancy.com to learn more, but either way I really want to contribute towards your boundary, life is too short not to work hard, okay, so ignore other people's negative comments, you can do it as well, okay, so now I also want to give everyone a quick reminder, anybody who is preparing for your upcoming interview can go to this questions database, documents that comes last week depend to download the top 50 primary questions database at fan companies and then the job offers in three days, so there and download the approval region and this interview question, so you should do the same question for different upcoming interviews, those are all the live questions we do to the class about all of you guys, so please the same outcome, okay, so you guys can also join my free coaching on YouTube live, and through the video you can join me and we stream to YouTube live, okay, anybody want to receive free coaching from me and email my team at info.com, anybody want to join me right now at this moment, you can directly email me at info.com, let me put it in the chat so you guys have it, then you can directly do more interview or live coaching with me in the chat so you guys should get it, okay, so let me continue here and we're going to be coaching people who support any of our nonprofits, 101 donation matches, so in the past we've donated over 20,000 dollars to our nonprofits, so we'll see we also did donation matches to fight against human sex trafficking, I want all of you guys to help out and also share the videos and if you ever have most nice common issues, I'm going to be seeing free coaching from you guys, so now anybody who's interested in pre-managed exercises program is a coaching program program, you can go to this website, definitely see the class, masterclass, you learn how to land and teach your children how to manage a job during the hybrid phase, even if you don't have the confidence to take the grade or PN experience, yeah go to this website, definitely come and learn more and finally I want to take a screenshot right now and scan the bar code to join your peer group to find more people in the WeChat group and also LinkedIn group, take a screenshot right now and join with me if you're very able to find your model. Okay so now let's just continue to do the same questions we have. We have some please submit questions, I know she learned the basics holding, okay we'll get back to questions quickly, let's do this, let's talk about chat GBT action, very very excited about this, it's crazy, okay so now let's do this, let me share my screen, let me show you guys my chat GBT action, it doesn't, it doesn't let me take a picture, let me show you guys what I have, oh we're subscribed, okay it's crazy, it doesn't let me to put more questions, so see it's coming back, so I have been asking it lots of questions, so what's, this actually the interview question, what's the differences between relational and non-relational data bay and how to, how to decide which one to use, so you didn't want me to ask questions, but anyway what I want to show you guys is, I'm going to ask lots of questions in the past, you can see my old questions, so today we'll talk about specifically how to use chat GBT to read to your advantage, and of course we try to reduce plagiarism, but I discovered that actually it is actually really good and we view the right answers, now it's like the screen is frozen, I'm not able to show you the live examples, but anyway I already asked some questions in the past which I want to show you, here's the number one regarding plagiarism, so right now actually chat GBT is able to write an essay or respond to it in a very very conversational way, and the writing style is actually really good, for example, I asked some questions, the best response I received from it is the following, saying hey how do I tell my stakeholder the project launch today, okay, then was able to actually tell me the success I need to follow, and then I asked another question to say hey exactly, just write the email and tell them what can I do, and then giving a very good email which I let me let me read out loud very quickly, amazing, maybe you're going to that kind of launch original schedule for ABCD date, having to play every project for any inconvenience, and this may cause and appreciate your understanding, the reason for the delay is something, and we have determined that this is necessary in order to ensure the problem needs our high quality standard and deliver the best possible user experience, cannot, the problem on the highlight side, you see, I didn't tell him like delay, once he said oh we need to make sure we have a high quality standard deliver the best possible user experience, it's so smart to make it wow, you can use really good excuses to say oh it's delayed, but it's ready for the purpose of good things, it's so smart, and kind of working on a revised timeline for product launch will give you updates as soon as they are available, so now it also keeps a contingent plan in the world, so the delay will reduce, it was actually able to provide the right information with revised timeline, all right, and as I was updating you remember it's available, and thank you for the patience and support, and we are committing to you again, so smart, we're committed to giving you a high quality product, I appreciate your continued partnership, now which means, it's saying hey, your partnership, so that you're going to help us, give you a high quality product, it's like, it's amazing to communicate with other people, okay, it was like oh my god this is really good, I'm here, deliverable significant impact on the plan, please let me know, I might be able to provide solutions or tell you to help minimize impact, this is like the way to go, anyone can just use this copy to modify a little bit and send it to your table, this is like the place to go, okay, this is amazing, and what I also want to show you is that I try to ask him, hey, help me to write a college essay, okay, so for example, one of the essays they had was what interests you, what excites you, what interests excites you as a type, after I understand that, what interests excites you, how they shape you and who you are now, who you might become in the future, so this is a typical college essay, now if you ask him to write your essay, it's very interesting, you know what I said, as as an artificial intelligence, personal interests of being the same as you must do, I would design this with wide range of paths and hopefully information based on my training data, however, the moment advantage, advancement of artificial intelligence has the potential to shape any asset of society and the way we live and work, as a large model, I'm part of this process, continue to be ongoing research and development of AI technology in the future, if possible, AI will continue to develop and become increasingly integrating with the various aspects of life, how it will shape the world and the rest of AI society's open questions and what depends on the choices, decisions made by humans and the way in which AI technology is developed and used, so the shape of the choices made by the humans and the way AI technology is developed and used, so basically, if you have, so anybody say, if you were asked this essay question, if you have, for example, dumped your essay or your past like journals or diaries to AI, it's probably just AI to read your diary or journal in the past and then pick out the most exciting experience you had in the past and write something about it and then you can watch it by on public, it's going to make outcomes so significant, it's crazy, but right now it's like, it's not involved in any, any answers about to give you a live example of how we are going to give them more information and get better outcomes in terms of answers actually shaping what you found in AI and AI as part of the event. Another, another interesting question I asked many questions, no. So, let me do this, answer the question in the chat. Hello, team, hi, how are you? Hello, okay, so come on on the chat, do you want to review my conversation with chat GBT in the past because I'm not able to ask you the questions, you have to do the questions, you're going to ask me any questions I haven't reviewed in the past what it looks like and how they react to my questions and then we go back to like free coaching regarding current management, come on the chat, are you interested in reading more answers from chat GBT and actually I have like library of questions. I have already saved in the past. Oh, let me show you something very interesting, this one part actually is pretty good, basically it's the same content I'm trying to put on my interview and he said it very well because lots of you guys asked this question, right, so it is about no experience, how to become a manager is our experience, I asked, I asked this question, very interesting, how can become a manager with no experience, right, lots of you guys asked this question, see what the AI said, why is it possible that a manager with no experience may be trying to break into the field without relevant skills like this, many employees look for a manager who has experience in the industry and started sending for the women who manage themselves, you come here with no experience, you need to start in a related role such as project manager business endless, work your way to a permanent position, this can give opportunity to gain skills and experience, demonstrate ability to become potential employers and you can also try to gain relevant experience in the internship, have a job or go into your work, this can help you develop skills, knowledge you need to become successful for a manager and give you something to highlight in the recipe, additionally you can pursue education training for training for management, many universities offer courses for management which can provide you with knowledge and expertise you need to succeed in the field, in some ways it's possible to become a manager, maybe challenging to influence your success, consider taking a related role, gaining reading experience, pursuing education training, basically it hit everything I teach inside of PM and third is crazy and also have a huge like this summary, the only thing that I personally believe is this, can you start a related role such as that I signed a degree such as project manager business analyst, work on your role as a product manager and I don't I don't think this is the right role you need to start with, I personally believe that product analyst role is closer to product management or associate product manager is also closer to product manager or even product engineer is also closer to product management, I think the I don't it's probably taking some random information, I disagree with this part we need to work on other people jobs, I believe you're all helpful but the title of the game is not the things I like but in general as a part gain experience, like run and drop and in PM and third would teach you how to gain experience, the beauty of your performance, it's the same thing we teach here, it's taking courses, PM and third bio as well as I asked them what's the best part of the course and in general it's crazy, so in general it's very hard to say what's the best, now here are the courses, we can search online and get like different ones and others, it's pretty good in general like general information, but in general you need to provide more information to train that's why in the company you have long conversations to train in so that you learn about your preferences and continue to give you more tailored answer and advice when I say that information you train them a lot so that's why I can give you a lot of time but it's very interesting regarding the outcome, now let's do this, let's answer the fundamental question to you guys ahead of time, do this question first, Mary asked a question, will it be possible PM should at least learn the basics of coding in science, marketing research to go empathy for their teammates and partners, it is a question, so here is my comment I think, all right so my comment to this one is I don't think you need to learn how to code, what I believe is you need to understand design, you understand how things work, okay you need to act in the process, okay so once you code this for the meaning to my business and you should take them one-on-one like technical courses and there are lots of free youtube videos and I also have free training, let me show you my free training, you can take those like one-on-one data science course, one-on-one coding on my youtube channel, I have some recommended courses which are really loud, yeah watch my latest video regarding my math, this don't replace a job or not and what part of job will be replaced by chat to the group, actually the email writing part like conversation of part is definitely getting replaced by chat to video scraping, now let me show you the different kind of jobs not jobs the courses you guys should see, okay this this question the this video has okay those are the suggested courses I recommend all of the guys to take right here, for example the eight technical courses you guys can download cloud architecture those are three courses, the many different like technical courses I can take to gain better architecture but you're only one of the different types, second question is very great are companies still hiring for p.m. rows and nobody has as much I'm still hiring for p.m. rows I'm looking for internships, very good question, okay so let's talk about the 2022 or 2023, 2023 market update the companies are still hiring for p.m. but here's the trend we'll have to see okay so for fan companies the only fan company that potentially will continue hiring is Microsoft, Amazon already announced the layoffs and insider information and some team in Amazon already started to like slowly lay off people not just like the retail workers the different part of the Amazon within the office, okay so insider news within Amazon only AWS and also web services and the and the theme tag of AWS which is more about monetization is still safe from everything else it's like it's getting impacted okay now Microsoft and in spring I think in October November we got the most like Microsoft offers they're hiring and yes some companies they're hiring they're looking they're looking for internship and actually in October November we received lots of Microsoft internships so these companies still hiring and even Microsoft last year they still gave the like full-time job openings in January as well so we should move into those opportunities even before the graduate now let's talk about what are the companies the only company right now except the fan companies in Silicon Valley like TikTas they're still hiring okay I know that of course TikTas yesterday announced they are the Chinese team they they are like 10% of Chinese team in China so in the US we don't know yet but right now they still hiring in the US as this one now next part is that except those companies I will see FinTech they're hiring so far as we're speaking FinTech actually gave lots of offers in the past like like two or three months and let's let's talk about the offers so those are the offers to really see actually you can see this right so we have lots of Microsoft Microsoft offers actually have like someone getting muscle cars um this is I'm interviewing with TikTas so shocky is also the what kind of company it is is basically it's a retail only retail company major and so my point is that there are still opportunities but so far the trend I have seen is in FinTech the definitely is hiring and then the medium-sized companies whatever still growing or still they need people to maintain that business is to go they're still growing so big companies like FinTech company there are a few opportunities out there for sure okay um oh by the way Google is still interviewing people in December they are still hiring but very limited very very limited ones now for internship here is something I want you to do with that for internship some companies actually my prediction is that there will be more internship opportunity in spring uh right now compared to fall okay because companies who want to really grow their team they didn't know what to expect in fall 2020 uh 2022 now in the spring 2023 if they know their financial trajectory in 2023 they should start hiring internship so right now it's best time to look into internship opportunity you will see a lot of new job opportunities coming up right now okay for sure for internship okay so what courses are there are employing at 5 p.m so they don't assemble into those little courses okay so AJ two questions so there are some interesting courses which I don't want to tell you the names you can DM okay you can DM me on Instagram I'm going to tell you the name of those courses um who are definitely not good out there uh we have actually many students can't find those courses it is crazy how that they are not teaching you how to become okay the two people can kind of come to the people from courses on the first one is crazy first one basically asking you hey what's up like let's just use like numbers yeah we say hey why don't apply for south 1,000 jobs per month until you can then job offer and the strategy that won't work when there's a recession there's no 1,000 jobs out there maybe one tenths of original what we had before okay and we just have to apply for southern jobs and the student doesn't hand any like the chair run companies at all and some of the students who some of their students actually joined the company they were laid off because they never teach you exactly what the real life part of become a better front manager the focus is applying for southern jobs use them for practice if there's no southern jobs will you apply anyway okay the second course and out there and that institute and actually offer a certification maybe some of you guys know it it's very entry level lots of people try to learn something but it's extremely entry level for your last experience as a front manager so therefore I ask you guys to watch out for those two places feel free to DM me I'm gonna tell you the name of those companies and you can go like this like you like avoid having so how do you really come in for a program so inside PM except for you can go to this website documents you can come slash masterclass to um at the first step learn about our program and over there you're able to learn about cops and strategies how to land and keep your job during hybrid freeze and even if you don't have confidence actually wait what the answer is okay go to this website documents this one's a family leader so go to our website documents we have different program helping people become a leader after the manager okay so go to documents leave the comment and get all the information you need awesome so what I'm going to do is any live questions so let me let me do that


This week on the anxious truth. We're going to talk about clarifying what you want when you ask for more information about a particular topic. So let's go Hello, everybody. Welcome back to the anxious truth. This is episode number 271 of the podcast We are recording in August of 2023 in case you are listening or watching in the future Welcome. I am Drew lince a lot a creator and host of the anxious truth This is the podcast that covers all things anxiety anxiety disorders and anxiety recovery So if you are new here and you just stumbled upon this YouTube channel or this podcast and you're struggling with things like recurring panic attacks Or health anxiety or OCD. This is the place for you. I hope you find what we're doing here Helpful or useful in some way. Of course, if you are a returning listener, welcome back as always. I'm glad that you're here Thank you for your continued support today We're going to talk about that thing which is really common in this community where you have read books about a topic Seen social media posts about a topic listen to four podcast episodes about a topic seen 16 videos about a topic and then when I say does anybody have Questions for me. You say can you talk more about? Now that's really common. You're not doing something wrong You're not committing a crime if you ask me or people who sound like me to talk more about the topic that bothers you the most But today we're going to talk about trying to gain a little clarity as to what exactly you're looking for when you want more Information about a thing you've already gotten quite a bit of information about So before we get into that just a quick reminder as always you guys are probably tired of this pitch at this point But I want to remind you that the anxious truth is more than just this video or this podcast episode on my website at the anxious Truth comm there was a ton of other resources ton of other content a lot of things designed to help you out There are books that I've written about anxiety and recovery. There are workshops and courses There are 270 previous free podcast episodes There are links over to the disordered podcast that I do with Josh Fletcher There are links to all of my other social media platforms all the goodies are there on my website at the anxious truth comm so if You're new here, and you this is the first contact you've had head on over there and check it out Evaluate yourself of all the resources. I think they're helpful people tell me that they are so check it out so what happens if you have a particular Particular aspect of your anxiety that's bothering you more than any other Maybe you have a particular symptom that you think is scariest Maybe you have a particular thought that you cannot seem to shake that disturbs you the most Maybe you have a particular challenge that you cannot seem to overcome because it seems to be the most difficult and scariest thing for you And when somebody like me goes out on a social media platform and says hey I'm gonna answer questions today who wants to ask me questions, and you reply with can you talk more about? Dot dot dot whatever your issue happens to be What exactly are you looking for now? That's not accusatory. I'm not trying to tell you like what don't don't say that to me That's totally fine to ask that question or that's totally fine to make that request But at some point in the recovery process It could be really helpful if we step back from those requests, and we try to gain a little clarity in Terms of what we're really looking for This is especially true now if you're brand new to this and you literally just stumbled upon this podcast And you've never heard anything like this before then by all means you ask those questions because you have not heard any of this before but if you have heard it before and I'm gonna use the example of sleep Anxiety around sleeping or not sleeping. Oh my goodness. I don't sleep enough So I'm gonna damage myself or I'm gonna be anxious tomorrow because I'm gonna be tired and I can't handle it Anybody who has anxiety around the topic of sleep, which is many many people in this community as an example We'll go and listen to the three four podcast episodes that I did in the last year about sleep including having a sleep physician on and talking to people who Overcome sleep anxiety and going over all of those things. They've maybe heard all of those things But often people will say Please talk more about sleep or please talk more about insomnia And in that situation you'd have to look at all of that information. That's already put out there and say, okay Well, I've heard all of the psycho educational information I'm not going to damage myself if I don't sleep enough I can still recover if I don't sleep enough being tired doesn't mean being in danger Yes, it's really scary to allow yourself to be tired and allow yourself to not sleep. I get it It that's hard to confront that again using sleep as an example We can apply this to almost any particular issue in this community But when you've heard all that and you say can you talk more about sleep anxiety or can you talk more about insomnia? You have to ask yourself. Well, what am I hoping to hear from Drew or whoever if it's not me Maybe it's somebody else. I've listened to these four sleep anxiety podcast episodes on the anxious truth And I follow you I follow say Daniel Erickson on social media who specializes in sleep and sleep anxiety And I've gotten all this information, but I want more I need more information and in that situation We have to really say well, what would that what would that information tell me? There's a couple of things Historically that people are looking for when they make that request again. I'm not picking on you If you make that request, you're not bothering me. It doesn't insult me It doesn't annoy me. You can't annoy me. You can't bother me. You can't insult me. You can't hurt my feelings It's totally okay. So I understand that you're just looking for some relief But there's a couple of main categories or main themes in that relief seeking one is Okay, I've heard now 25 times that being tired in the morning because I I only got three hours of sleep isn't dangerous It's uncomfortable But the idea that this is going to damage me is not correct And I've heard that a bunch of times But my anxious brain is still convinced that Something is missing. There must be more information than that because it feels dangerous It feels like it's going to make me go a little closer to losing my sanity or have a psychotic break or develop a disease So again using this as an example. I've heard that a bunch of times. I have been given Expert information designed to educate me and assure me that my fear is not valid. It's twisted. It's magnified It's distorted. It's not correct. It's real. It's just not correct I'm but I want to hear it again So sometimes can you talk more about is a request to hear it again? That's where we get into that reassurance cycle. I know I've heard you say it before But can you say it again? Can you can you tell me again because it still feels like this is really wrong or this is really dangerous That's one reason why people will ask. Can you talk more about dot dot dot? another reason people will say can you talk more about is Not reassurance seeking in a compulsive way But there sometimes is a belief that like okay I've heard all the stuff and I I'm pretty sure that I know what I'm supposed to do now but I can't seem to bring myself to do it because it's really hard and it's really scary and It feels dangerous to take some action here and allow myself to not sleep or do a driving exposure or whatever It happens to be and I'm hoping that if you talk more about it It'll click and I will feel different Maybe less afraid or less threatened or more confident if you give me more words I'll feel more confident and I'll feel different so that now I'll be more likely to to act different to do the thing and That's a tough place to be because if you're hoping that you're gonna hear some other words That click in a way that make you feel different So that you'll feel more capable of acting different going toward the fear Surrendering tolerating floating all of those things doing the exposures You can wind up frustrating Frustrated and you can wind up in an endless never-ending search for more words more instructions more metaphors more explanations Hoping that it will somehow change your internal state so that you'll feel less afraid or more Capable or more competent to go and do this scary stuff and while it's okay to want encouragement I'm a huge fan of that like I'm happy to encourage you. I'm happy to try to inspire you I'm happy to try to empower you to take those leaps of faith to do those scary things those difficult things We people like me run out of words. We run out of ways to describe it That would somehow make you feel differently about doing hard things So if you're in a situation where you want to keep asking for more information Because you're hoping that I'll say something or whoever will say something that somehow makes you feel less afraid So that you can start to act and move toward recovery. You can wind up really frustrated Ask for encouragement Right ask for cheerleading like man. I've heard all of this stuff.  I'm not sure I can do it Can somebody please remind me that I'm okay, and I can do it That's probably a more productive thing to ask for can somebody please remind me that I can do this Like can somebody who's done it before me remind me that they were also scared and that they got through it So that I can use that as some bit of inspiration to get me going That's a little bit more productive than can you just talk more about The third thing that people tend to want is more instruction and I talked about this quite a bit Can you talk more about often means? Well, I get it. I understand the concept I understand that I have to take an action that I'm really afraid to take Understandably everyone's afraid to take the actions. It's okay. If you're afraid, that's not wrong and It seems so inconceivable to me to do this thing that I think I shouldn't do that Surely you can give me more detailed step-by-step minute-by-minute instructions on How to do this really scary thing that my brain insists I should absolutely not do and Unfortunately while that's a common thing that people ask for and again, I cannot blame you for that It's not a problem. None of this is an accusation or none of this is me like venting Oh, you're bothering me with those questions never never never never but Understand that if you are hoping that if I just keep talking about your scary issue I will somehow give you steps on how to do hard things You can also wind up frustrated and the issue here is not with me. I mean, I'm gonna keep podcasting I keep writing books.  I'm not just saying me You want to hear more about that topic even though you've already heard quite a bit about it The danger is for you not for us So it's not a problem for me But I'm trying to help you avoid a problem for you where you start to draw the conclusion. I'm never gonna get this I can't do it I'm not gonna get better and when your brain throws those thoughts at you What if I never recover if you get stuck in a cycle where you're constantly always asking for more Instructions or more clarification or more reassurance That what if I never get better thought can be really powerful and can catch on a little more Because you're stuck you're spinning your wheels trying to learn more and read more and check out more and watch more videos Can you do another podcast on I know I already listened to those three podcasts on a metaphobia, but can you talk more about it? That can lead you into a place where you are really being critical of yourself really judging yourself as incapable and More you're being more pessimistic about your recovery than you necessarily have to be Everybody has those down moments That's okay, but I'm trying to help you stay out of a trap where you are stuck in a cycle of always asking Wanting more reading more learning more listening to more Sometimes it comes out as not can you talk more about but when you get in a bind you immediately run for Whatever episode of the anxious truth or disordered or whatever your anxiety toolkit that you think is gonna help you and you run To it right away. That's another form of this in a way. I Just don't want you to get stuck in a place where that's not really helping you So you're not really necessarily moving forward and then you start to judge yourself as incapable of moving forward and that's not fair That's kind of heartbreaking to see people get to that So when you ask me, can you talk more about dot dot dot? That is not a problem for me But I if you have been at this for any extended amount of time and you find yourself continually asking me for More conversation about a topic you have been absolutely immersed neck deep in for months Ask yourself why and you might not just ask me to talk more about it Another common strategy there is well, I've heard Drew talk about it on four podcast episodes He did two live streams on it He posted about it a bunch of it on Instagram and now I'm also gonna go follow that person because they sometimes talk about it and that person and that person and I'll listen to That podcast too and I'll watch those videos and I'll follow that person on tiktok because they will talk about it also So even if Drew doesn't give me more words about it these 16 other people might and even though I read these three books already I'm gonna go and buy these four more books to read more about it. That is such a What's where I'm not gonna call it dangerous But there are pitfalls there in a big way and we've talked about this topic in different forms before but today I want to put it specifically in the context of the request. Can you talk more about? Again, just to clarify before I sort of wrap this up because that's about all I can say about this It's I'm just trying to trying to show you some red flags So you can steer clear of some some pitfalls that you don't have to entrap so you don't have to step in But when you are making those requests Why am I what am I asking for? Am I asking for? Instructions that are never gonna come because if you ask me how to ride a bike I can give you some basic instructions, but at some point you got to ride the bike, right? If you ask me how to build a house, I can give you basic instructions on building house sooner or later You have to actually hammer those nails. So am I looking for more instructions that are probably never gonna come? Am I looking for more assurance even though? I've gotten Daily assurance for the last three weeks about this am I asking for words that will magically change how I feel about this scary challenging thing or am I looking for a way to Move myself beyond this stuck point without Changing the way I feel so that I can move past this stuck point. But first I think I need to change the way I feel so ask yourself what am I looking for and Can I really get that if Drew does another podcast episode on sleep anxiety or he does another podcast episode on breathing or he Does another podcast episode or a video or something on on globus sensation difficulty swallowing What am I what am I want? How does that help me and am I likely to get that? That's a big one Because that realization that like I've been looking for these magic words now for six months and I still haven't found them Yet every day I fire up my social media and I go to my 60 anxiety accounts that I follow and Podcasters and youtubers and tiktokers and I still haven't found the magic words. Am I gonna find them today? That's a really good question to ask yourself to so when you want to ask for more I but how long have I been asking for more and am I likely to get it if I hadn't haven't got it to this point? Could it be that all of these 50 people Are withholding something from me or there's a somehow a twist in my anxious state or in my anxiety or my fear That's so unique that all of these 50 people that I follow are missing it So I got to keep asking them about it You got to play the odds at some point right the odds that you're gonna find what you're looking for Start to diminish over time the more you look so something to think about but again if you are new to this and you have never thought of approaching your anxiety problems this way the way I talk about and you cannot even imagine that how could this be true that I have to stop trying to cope and Manage it and and stop my symptoms and treat it like a body problem I really have to face my fear if you are new to this you ask all the questions Do not stop asking the questions you need to ask the questions and we need to give you the answers It's that is the first step for everybody if you are working with a therapist trained in treating anxiety disorders You would start with psycho educational content. So if you're new to this Please ask the questions. I am not telling you to stop asking your questions. You need to learn the principles When you start to know that like yeah, I keep hearing me saying things again and again and again Drew says it Josh says it Kim says it Joanna says it like all of these people all say it I've heard it now a hundred times What I'm what else am I looking for and am I setting myself up to be stuck in a place that I don't need to be stuck in Where I'm judging myself really negatively for no good reason and not being fair to myself So that's my 18 minutes or 19 minutes on can you talk more about dot dot dot? Sometimes on this podcast there might be practical tips Sometimes it's just things to think about and I think today is just one of those things to think about So if you have asked in the recent past couple of days if you've asked me to talk about something else again Or any other anxiety count that you follow mental health account if you asked again to hear the same words What am I asking for and am I likely to get it? Do I really need it or do I already have it in? The end we all hit that point where we have to put down the book and the podcast and the video and do stuff That is a hard hard place to be I didn't want to be there Nobody wants to be there Be nice to yourself if you're struggling in that moment because everyone struggles in that moment, but sooner or later We have to move from the reading learning talking to the doing moment That's a hard turn to make on this path But you can do it even if you have to do it a little bit at a time. That's totally okay, right? So That's that's it. That is that is the end of my ramble on like asking for yet more information on the topic You've already really heard a lot about already so consider that think about it for a little while again You're not doing anything wrong. I'm not annoyed. You're not bothering me. You're not insulting me It's not like I can't believe that person asked me again. I get why you're asking it It's totally okay. Just I hate to see you get stuck So that's it. That is episode 271 of the anxious truth in the books Hopefully something that you could take out of this today and use in some way in your recovery That's my goal every week and I will end by doing the same thing that I always do I'll ask a couple of favors if you're watching on YouTube subscribe to the channel like the video leave a comment because they do answer all the Comments on YouTube I circle back a couple times a week to do that Definitely helps the channel out helps me out if you're listening to the podcast on Spotify or Apple podcast There's someplace that lets you rate and review the podcast leave a five-star rating Take a second maybe write a review if you really dig it because it helps more people find the podcast and then more people get help And that's why I do this to begin with if you want more information Which is ironic to say given the topic of this podcast more resources head on over to the anxious truth calm and check it all out You should be listening also did disordered which is the podcast that I do with Josh Fletcher that's at disordered FM and Remember no matter how you might be struggling today and you feel like you are in a dark place and you are Incapable of moving toward recovery Even the smallest change that moves you away from fear and toward what you want and what matters to you in life counts They all add up. They all count Even the littlest things matter So do the best you can today to just take a tiny step in the right direction I promise it will make a difference and it's better than spending another day hiding so hang in there I know you could do it. I will be back next week with another topic I know what it is because we're recording out of sequence, but I will definitely see you next week Thanks for coming and hanging out today. Hope you've been helpful. I will see you later. We're out


We're here at ITU Telecom World 2014 in Doha in the state of Qatar and I'm very pleased to be joined by John Davis who is Vice President and General Manager of the World Ahead Programme for the Intel Corporation. John, great to see you again. It's great to be back at Telecom World Max. Now I'd like to start by talking about the central theme here at ITU Telecom World 2014 is future in focus. What key developments in technology, policy or business do you see as key to the near future? I think the way to look at this is on the internet there's 3 billion people that have access and use it regularly and benefit from it. That means in the world there's 4 billion that don't. So if you look at technology it needs to be easier for the 4 billion to use so they'll want to adopt it. It needs to bring the benefits. It needs to be affordable and just very simple, easy devices. That's technology. Policy needs to be there to enable the people, many of which can't afford to have access to it somehow, whether it's shared, whether it's from universal service, whether it's from subsidies or some kind of help and the focus has to be to do that. And what role do partnerships have very much in this disruptive age? Well, partnerships is everything in our industry. A big theme at this conference is internet of things. So an example, Intel builds technology for the things, the chips that go in those. We build technology for the networks, we build it for the client devices, the PCs, the tablets, we build it for the data centers and all the pieces that enable it. If you want to put that in a building say and manage the energy, you might work with Cisco on their energy management program or you may work with Telecom to move the data or a big systems integrator that makes it all work together or multiple ones that make it work across multiple buildings in a city. So it's a very integrated partnership and no one company alone can do this. And what are Intel's priorities in the near future? Well Intel is an enabling company. We build the building blocks of the internet and we want to reach them to everyone on the planet. So we look at building blocks like the internet of things to drive that. Client devices are very important to us. So refreshing the PCs, is it a PC, is it a tablet? There are two in ones, thinner, lighter, great user interface, touch, gesture, voice to enable these. We work in the data centers. The client device, the service that's sitting in the data centers. How do you manage them? How do they be lower power? How do you analyze the data? How do you use it for making decisions in your business or in your lives? And so all of those pieces as enabling building blocks and the interoperability of them is really where we spend our time and effort. And what's the main value for Intel of events such as ITU Telecom World 2014? Well, at Telecom World, you'll find many ministers come here. Vice ministers, permanent secretaries, decision makers for their countries. And so we get a chance to meet with them, talk with them about their plans, share best practices, good practices from other countries. And very often there will be decisions made here that in their countries maybe need a workshop on this area, we want to look at this education, this healthcare program, many different areas of technology. And those decisions can get made here and follow up can be done in the country. Fantastic. Now, what's your main message to participants and delegates here at ITU Telecom World? Well, people come in as leaders. These are ministers. These are leaders of industries, captains of industries. And adjust to lead. And we're trying to reach more people. We're trying to bring more value. And this isn't always easy. Leadership is difficult. And really it's about leading, making a difference. The theme of the future of this event. And go out there and do that and be bold in doing it. And finally, a question that I've been asking everyone who's been coming into the studio. What single technological development do you think will have the biggest impact in the next five to ten years? Well, I think it will be the second phase of mobile data. There's three billion people in the world as consumers. They love it. As businesses it benefits their business. But there's four billion that don't. And when you think about how they can use technology. Even when they're unbanked, I can use a mobile for my first payments and banking. That changes their lives. I can use a laptop for being educated even from a distance. That changes their education and their future. I can use this for managing my health care. That changes the quality of their life. I can use it as a farmer for knowing what fertilizers to use, testing my soils, reaching my customers. I can make more money. And so I think it's the mobile data and the impact it's going to have on the people's lives that don't have it. And there will be a bigger impact on those lives than the people that do have it. It will change. It will be the greatest equalizer in the next few years. John Davis, thank you very much for being with us today. Great. Thank you so much.


Hello, I'm BMCS Jiman Poe and I'm here in support of Civil Military Coordination Center for Pacific Partnership 2012 and one of my most memorable moments is just the impact of the children that came and they came out to support us in the way they received us and treated us throughout this deployment and this mission. It was something that really made you warm inside and made you feel like you were doing the right thing at the right time for the right people. I think missions like Pacific Partnership are very important to the U.S. and to the countries that we assist because humanitarian assistance and disaster response is a worldwide responsibility and building those capabilities for people that may not have something or they may show us something that can improve our responsibilities or well our capabilities and that's why I think these missions are important.