Please join me for a moment of centering silence. Our in-gathering hymn is number 22. Good morning and welcome to First Unitarian Society of Madison. This is a place where curious seekers gather to explore spiritual, ethical, and social issues in a safe and accepting environment. Unitarian Universalism supports the freedom of conscience of each individual as together we seek to be a force for good in the world. I'm Maureen Friend. On behalf of the congregation, I'd like to extend a special welcome to visitors.  Newcomers are encouraged to stay for our fellowship hour after the service and to visit the library, which is directly across from the center doors in the auditorium. Bring your drinks and your questions. Members of our staff and our lay ministry will be on hand to welcome you. It's a good time to turn off your electronics. Experience guides are generally available to give a building tour after each service and today we do have John Powell with us to do that. So if you'd like to learn more about the sustainably designed addition to our national landmark meeting house, please meet near the large glass windows on the left side of the auditorium. We welcome children to stay during the service. Please remember it often becomes difficult for those in attendance to hear in this lively acoustic environment. And our child haven, which is right back there in the corner, and the commons, are excellent places to go when you or your child needs to talk or to move around. The service can still be seen and heard from those areas. I'd like to acknowledge those individuals who help the services run smoothly. The sound operator is David Briles. Our lay minister is Tom Boykoff. Greeter was Paula Alt. Our ushers are Ann Ostrom and John McEvna. Our hospitality is provided by Nancy Kosoff and Helena McEvna. And please note the announcements and the red floors insert of your order of service. Those describe upcoming events in the society and provide more information about today's activities. We do have a special announcement today. So Saturday, July 16th, next Saturday, FUS will be hosting Funky Town, which is our family-friendly dance party. So from 6.30 to 8.30, we're going to put on our bookie shoes and jam to groovy hits from the 60s, the 70s, the 80s, and beyond. So be sure and take your disco nap before you get here. We'll have refreshments and a photo booth and much, much more. You're invited to wear a costume, but you don't have to just show up as you are. We'd be happy to see you. The suggested donation is $5 for individuals and $20 for family, which will be collected at the door. So stop by the table that's right in front of us, right behind us at the entrance to the library to learn more. And let us know you're coming. So again, welcome. We hope that today's service will stimulate your mind, touch your heart, and stir your spirit. These are the times that try men's souls. Words uttered nearly 250 years ago by Thomas Payne at the outset of the Revolutionary War. These are the times that try our souls. Those words seem equally pertinent today. These are trying times for our society as we struggle with the realities of racial inequality and resentment, wholesale gun violence, widespread mistrust and disillusionment with the criminal justice system. We grieve again over so much senseless loss of life and the fear, the suspicion and the hate that have engendered it. If we feel sick at heart over the events of last week, that's fully understandable. But may we hope against hope that we have perhaps reached a turning point. The communal recognition, as Mahatma Gandhi once put it, that the ethos of an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind. These are the words of Rebecca Parker. There is an embrace of kindness that encompasses all life, even yours. And while there is injustice, insensitivity or evil, there moves a wholly disturbance, a benevolent rage, a revolutionary love, protesting, urging, insisting that all that is sacred shall not be defiled. Those who bless the world live their life as a gesture of thanks for this beauty, this kindness and this rage. Please rise and body your spirit for the lighting of the chalice. Please join me in repeating the words of affirmation. It is eternity now. We are in the midst of it. It is about us in the sunshine. We are in it as the butterfly in the light laden air. Nothing has to come. It is now. Now is eternity and now is the immortal life. Now on this fine July morning I invite you to turn to your neighbor in exchange with them a warm and friendly greeting. Please be seated. And if there are some children that would like to join me in the front for our message for all ages. So this is a story from a different religious tradition, not a Unitarian story, but it's from the Buddhist religious tradition. And it's about a person called Avalokiteshvara. I can hardly pronounce it myself. Much less spell it. So this is her story. And for short we're going to call her Avalokita. Avalokita was born out of a ray of light that came from the right eye of her father, Amitabha. And Amitabha is also called boundless radiance, and his light created the entire universe, everything that we see. And at her birth, Avalokita immediately uttered this sacred phrase om mani padma hum, which means hail the great wisdom jewel in the heart of the lotus. Got that? Now much later, and having learned a whole lot of things about the nature of reality, the way that the world works, Avalokita looked at all of those creatures that were in pain and were unhappy and were suffering. And she said to herself, I have grown in so much wisdom and I have so many special powers that I've reached the point in my growth and my development where I could leave this universe and just go by myself to a place of tremendous peace and happiness. But I know I can't do this because as I have grown I've also become more kind and more compassionate and I see all the suffering in the world and I want to save all those people who are suffering, all these poor beings because when they suffer it feels like I'm suffering too. And so Avalokita made a vow. She made a promise to her father, Amitabha, I am going to ease the suffering of all the creatures in the universe, she said, and I will not stop until I have succeeded. And if I do not make this happen, if I don't succeed, may my head split open like a coconut. And so Avalokita began her work.   But she used all kinds of miraculous lights and sounds that she had learned and in just three days, six hours and 23 minutes she had emptied out all of the hell realms. Everybody that was suffering down there was freed. And so then she moved on to another world called the world of the Preta or the hungry ghosts. But before Avalokita could make any progress in freeing the people who were in the hungry ghost realm, she saw, look back in the hell realm, was filling up with people again. People were going into hell faster than she could liberate them because they were doing so many wrong things on planet Earth. This is just too much for me, she cried. I don't know if I can do this. So she sat down and she quit trying. And at that point her father, Amitabha, remembered Avalokita's vow and he tapped her on the top of the head and her head split open just like a coconut. And it caused her great pain, as you can imagine. Well, if you like, her father said, I will relieve your headache and then you can just go away into the realm of peace and happiness and not have to worry about all this suffering again. No, Avalokita said, by knocking on my head like this and splitting it open, you've knocked some sense into me. When I look back and I see all the people that are still suffering, my heartache is so much greater than my headache and so I need to keep working. And so Amitabha was so impressed with Avalokita's determination that he had her on the head a few more times. And each time he did so, you know what happened?  And then another amazing thing happened. Avalokita began to sprout additional arms and hands. First she grew four and then six and then eight until finally she had a thousand arms and hands. Each one like this brilliant ray of light and in the center of each hand there was an eye that could see the suffering and respond to it with love and with kindness. And in addition, Avalokita now had the power to send her compassionate energy out into the world and so it entered into human beings like me and like you so that we could help to save other people from their suffering. And so from that time forward, there was still suffering in the universe but now there was also lots of kindness and love and compassion and the possibility that all of us might experience inner peace and happiness. So that's the story of Avalokita and she's one of the most famous, what they call, bodhisattvas in the Buddhist tradition, kind of a god-like being. I hope you enjoyed the story. We're going to sing you out with our next hymn. Please be seated. And at this time I would like to invite Bruce Meredith to share his thoughts in Defense of Boogalberry and say that he composed a while back and shared with me that inspired the subject matter for today's reflections. Bruce. Good morning. I guess we're off to a Sunday morning field trip to Boogalberry. I didn't intend to watch. I was just trying to get to the weather channel. Unfortunately, I couldn't get back past the spectacle. A bevy of journalists aiming their cameras and commentary at a closed door. Mike Huckabee was standing guard. According to the commentators, he wanted to make sure Ted Cruz didn't steal his show. The TV scroll said Kim Davis, the Kentucky clerk who went to jail rather than permit her staff to issue marriage licenses to gay couples would soon emerge from jail.  Remarried after three divorces, Ms. Davis didn't seem the ideal spokesperson for defending the sanctity of marriage. But several years earlier, she had renounced the devil and accepted Jesus Christ as her savior. Having professed her face, Huckabee let us know that Jesus had forgiven her sins and that God didn't hold grudges. Just asked the myriad of politicians who stood before other TV cameras accompanied by their somber wives and proclaimed their faith in God's grace and mercy. Since God had forgiven them, so should we. Maybe they were right. I hadn't studied the Bible as much as they claimed. I went to Catholic schools where the Bible was read by prescription only. Instead, we studied Catholic dogma. Even as a first grader, I was instructed to recite obtuse matters of arcane theology and then was cross-examined by stern-looking dunes, mostly wearing outfits now seen mainly in Star Wars. We did our best, but we just repeated words. Words we didn't understand. But I learned early on that forgiveness was tricky, usually requiring confession, penance, and most often a trip to Boogellberry. When I told my parents about Boogellberry, they laughed and wanted to know why I thought I would end up there. So I explained that after death, people went to heaven, hell, or Boogellberry. My parents were shrewd enough, however, to know that no matter what one did, good or bad, no one spent an eternity in an obscure jam. They quickly determined that I was referring to purgatory. According to the nuns who taught 50 antsy kids trapped in small rows of desks, purgatory was a place where good but sometimes naughty children were seared in flames before entering heaven. With some nuns, the pain was intense, with others more like a really bad sunburn. As my religion education progressed, I learned more about purgatory, even though hell and the sins that got you there got top billing. Purgatory was a place for purification for those who had committed mortal sins, religious felonies, that had been confessed and forgiven, or venial sins, misdemeanors that hadn't. Once purified, you headed to heaven. Except for the flames, purgatory seemed like a reasonable idea, like taking a shower before going to a good restaurant. But then things got really technical. You could get out sooner if individuals prayed or had masses said to you before or after your death. But the surest way was to cash in your accumulated indulgences. A plenary indulgence was a prize to get out of jail free card, allowing the holder to bypass purgatory entirely under certain circumstances. I didn't fully understand the accounting, but I tried the bank easy to get indulgence. Simple phrases like, Jesus, Mary, Joseph will get you 300 days of early release, more than enough to compensate for the venial sins of saying the same words in anger. When I got to Jesuit high school, however, purgatory and indulgences, like my old baseball cards, were mainly confined to the closet. Purgatory was still there, but if you had a good lawyer, especially a Jesuit trained one, you could avoid doing much hard time. Good works, not indulgences were of the size. It wasn't until I got to Georgetown, a Jesuit college, that I learned that some Christians didn't think purgatory existed. In fact, many thought it was a medieval Ponzi scheme. According to those Christians, God only gave pass-fail tests with no makeups. Grace, not good works, was the key to getting into heaven. By the time I left Georgetown, my theology professors, grand inquisitor types, had convinced me that much of what the nuns taught me was either wrong or a muddle. It wasn't until about four years ago that I again gave Googleberry renewed consideration. I had developed a close friendship with a card-carrying Calvinist who loved to talk about religion. For the first time, I discovered the true hatred some Protestants had for purgatory. It was despised more than hell. Who knew? Since I was no longer practicing law, I had lots of time to devote to arcane religious discussions. My friend's main critique of purgatory was biblical. No mention of it by name anywhere in either the Old or New Testament. Worse, the church was belittling the concept of grace. It didn't earn grace, and it certainly wasn't sold. God gave it freely, whether you deserved it or not. Just look at those poor laborers in the vineyard in the New Testament. Those who came to work early got paid exactly the same as those who sauntered in just before closing time. According to him, God could save any well she damn well pleased. As a lawyer, I recognized his arguments. He was a strict constructionist, and his case was solid. My friend had convinced me until I re-read the Catholic Reef in support of purgatory. To my surprise, I discovered the Catholic case wasn't hopeless. Maybe the nuns were right after all. There was language in both the Old and New Testament that could be read as referring to purgatory. As long as you knew where to look and weren't a stickler for detail, the church was merely construing an ambiguous document to find God's true intent. Catholics just needed to find a liberal judge. More important to me, the original purgatory was well intended. The early church theologians wanted to provide a type of order logic and predictability that they saw in God's creation. They mused about limbo to make sure that innocent unbaptized children didn't go to hell, and they mapped out purgatory and ordered to bride both hope and justice to the imperfect. It wasn't their fault that centuries later, a syndicate of slick clerical venture capitalists decided to use purgatory as a centerpiece of an indulgence marketing scheme. Of course, we now know that the universe isn't so orderly after all. Maybe grace and forgiveness were meant to be as unpredictable and chaotic as clusters of swirling atoms. But my friend's concept of grace, almost free and automatic, created its own set of problems. Without the need for penance or purification, grace can become a type of ritualistic, no fuss, no bother, cleanery indulgence. Just as in the free Luther church, individuals could book a free passage to heaven, regardless of their behavior. To me, purgatory can best be defined as a shrewd early attempt at restorative justice, a primitive way to make humans understand more fully that bad behavior had consequences and that forgiveness sometime must be earned. But even those fond of purification must recognize that purgatory has a dubious past as a type of spiritual debtor's prison. If purgatory is going to work as a place of restorative justice, it needs to be reimagined. Perhaps it should be renamed Boogalberry. For starters, no one could take a place named Boogalberry too seriously. So maybe Catholics and Protestants would be less fervent in their competing dogma and find more common ground. The new improved Boogalberry would recognize God's grace, but also acknowledge that human failures have consequences and that God is no one's fool. Purgatory would be a place to return in a community setting and relearn the golden rule and the importance of humility. Perhaps if Boogalberry became accepted dogma, individuals would focus more on their actions and less on their professions of faith. Think more critically about justice and how their actions affect others. Become more compassionate. Who knows? Boogalberry might give Kim Davis and me a chance to meet, to discuss the Bible, divine justice, and the foolishness of preachers or politicians who claim to know exactly how God thinks. Thank you, Linda. Thank you, Bruce. Hosea Baloo was a high-profile universalist minister in the early decades of the 19th century. He was a preacher known for his homespun but instructive stories and he was a penetrating theologian and the author of A Treatise on Atonement published in 1805, a treatise that enjoyed a very wide readership and drew many people into the universalist fold. Baloo's persuasive powers notwithstanding in orthodox circles, the universalists were the subject of continual withering criticism, the most dangerous heresy in America, its detractors maintained, because by denying the reality of hellfire and eternal punishment and holding out the prospect of universal salvation, the universalists and Baloo effectively removed the chief incentive for men and women to avoid sinful behavior and to lead good and upright lives. Spare the rod and spoil the child, so to speak.  They argued further that when people were convinced of God's love and knew that they were the recipients of God's forgiveness and God's compassion, they themselves would be moved to be more loving and compassionate and forgiving. Moreover, Hosea Baloo asserted, sin is inherently unpleasant, so people simply need to be convinced that righteousness brings ample rewards to us in the present life. It's much more pleasant than sin. Hosea Baloo used the following story to emphasize his points. It seems that he was riding through the countryside one Saturday afternoon. He was on his way to a small town where he was scheduled to preach the next day. And after a while, riding along, he's joined by another rider, a hard-shelled Baptist minister, and they're headed in the same direction. So they get to chatting, and in the course of their conversation, Baloo shared his convictions about the afterlife to which the Baptist responded, Brother Baloo, this is the problem I see with your position. You see, if I were a universalist, I could hit you over the head right now and steal your horse and still find myself a place in heaven, to which Baloo is alleged to have responded. My good Baptist brother, if you were a universalist, that thought would never enter your mind. Now all universalists of that time period accepted this doctrine of universal salvation. That's where the word universalist comes from. It's also an idea that the Apostle Paul and the author of John's Gospel found attractive according to biblical scholars. But Hosea Baloo was something of an outlier in his own denomination. You see, Baloo did not believe in post-mortem punishment of any sort. He was known as an ultra-universalist, or a death and glory universalist. You die, you go right to glory. Hell Baloo maintained is a condition that we create and impose on ourselves in this world, not in the next. It is as much the nature of sin, he wrote, to torment the mind as it is the nature of fire to burn the flesh. Sin deprives us of every rational enjoyment so far as it captivates the mind. It is never able to furnish one drop of cordial for the soul. Her tender mercies are cruelty and her breasts of consolation are gall and wormwood. As William Shakespeare put it, hell is empty, all the devils are right here. Hell is merely a useful metaphor for the pangs of a bad conscience, for the suffering that is caused by unslaked desire. Sin produces no peace, no trustworthy pleasure, and no lasting satisfaction. But among universalists, this was not the prevailing outlook. Jacob Wood was one of ultra-universalism's most vociferous detractors.  The latter, he argued, do give encouragement to sin.  The immediate gross absurdities to which the doctrine of immediate universal salvation is liable and the vicious effects which it is calculated to produce render it a doctrine justly deserving of disapprobation and contempt. So Reverend Wood and his allies came to be known as restorationists because they believed that human beings would only be restored to a place of glory after they had endured a period of purification or punishment. Still, with their belief in the unlimited goodness and mercy of God, the restorationists rejected the orthodox notion that the Almighty Himself punished people for their sins. Their position was, in fact, closer to that of the Hindus and the Buddhists for whom karma, the cosmic law of moral cause and effect, controlled every human being's outcome. And thus Charles Hudson, a primary opponent of Baloo's, announced that any pain or any torment experienced by the immortal soul after death would be the immediate fruit of that guilt of which the mind is conscious in consequence of past transgressions. It is reasonable to suppose, he wrote, that those who die impenitent will enter into after death a state of misery consisting of anxiety, guilt, remorse, which will continue until repentance or reformation is affected. Now, for their part, the Unitarians of the 19th century and prior to the Union of our two denominations, the Unitarians exhibited kind of a mixture of opinions on the afterlife. According to the Reverend James Walker of Charlestown, Massachusetts, most Unitarians eschewed that harsh, Calvinist, Puritan doctrine of everlasting punishment. Some held that souls who had committed serious, mortal sins would simply be annihilated. And others entertained the belief that was more or less consistent with that of the Universalist Restorationists. Many early Unitarians expected post-mortem suffering to be consequential and indefinite as to its duration, but it would not be eternal. In point of fact, all of our forebears embraced a concept very similar to purgatory, although they didn't call it that. But the Universalists and the Roman Catholics were hardly the first to speculate about or to describe, sometimes in vivid detail, this place of limited but significant suffering. Through history, people have bought into this idea because they simply could not conceive of an indifferent amoral universe, a world where brute strength and lethal cunning counted for everything. People needed to believe that the universe possessed a moral as well as a physical texture. And so these doctrines of compensation developed. Theories which assured us that no matter how long it took, the requirements of justice would be fulfilled. Now we should not expect that a fair apportionment of punishment and rewards will be made in this single, brief lifetime of ours. If humans possess immortal souls, then eventually all those souls will be held accountable. All souls will receive their just desserts. And so our species, it could be said, possesses this instinct for justice, which demands that a cosmic reckoning will take place at one time or another. As that legend of Avalokita indicates, Purgatory figured very prominently in some schools of Buddhism. If you accumulate enough bad karma, the Lotus Sutra promises, then expect to be reborn in the Avicii hell, this Dante-esque chamber of torture and deprivation, one of the common misconceptions that Westerners often carry about Hindu Buddhist teachings on reincarnation is that it precludes any experience of either heaven or hell. But in fact, many Hindu and Buddhist sects hold that this earthly plane of ours is but one dimension of a multi-layered reality which includes worlds that are both more pleasant and much more unpleasant than this one. But wherever one happens to end up, there is always in Buddhism and Hinduism the prospect of redemption and additional opportunities to improve one's karmic destiny. In India, Heinrich Zimmer writes, heaven and hell are purgatorial stations representing degrees of realization experienced on the way to the ultimate transcendence of all qualitative experience whatsoever. That being said, some Buddhists have substituted a strictly psychological reality for those older metaphysical theories.  And so the root of all hell, Buddhist commentator Martin Lowenthal writes, consists in resisting the flow of the universe and feeling utterly separate from it. And so we come full circle for such a solution in Buddhism aligns almost perfectly with Hosea Baloo's ultra-universalism. Hell and purgatory, those are conditions that we experience in this life and no other. Still, important distinctions between these ideas and those held by traditional Roman Catholics remain. Indulgences, those get-out-of-jail-free maneuvers, those played no role in classic universalism. And God's infinite graciousness received considerable emphasis among both universalists and unitarians. But as Bruce noted in his remarks, the Catholic Church mapped out purgatory in order to provide hope and justice to the imperfect, which is pretty much the same argument as restorationism in 19th century universalism advanced. Today, the vast majority of unitary universalists give very little credence to traditional notions of hell and heaven and purgatory. But if somehow we are possessed of immortal souls, and if there has to be a place where we will eventually pay our dues, may it utilize that place, that humane process of restorative justice that is mentioned, and may it be popularly known as Boogalberry. So now, I would invite you to participate in the giving and the receiving of our offering, and our offering will be used today for the support of the programs of this institution. We gather each week as a community of memory and of hope, and to this time and this place we bring our whole and sometimes our broken selves. We carry with us the joys and sorrows and the recent past, seeking here a place where they might be received and celebrated and shared. And of course, all of us are thinking today and feeling a great deal of sorrow about the loss of life outside of St. Paul and in Baton Rouge and most recently in Dallas and the ongoing protests and the disturbances that are taking place in those and many of our other communities across the country. People have said that they wonder what they can do in situations like that, how they can respond constructively. And in this congregation, of course, we have a Moses ministry team and we have an equity ministry team. And both of these ministry teams are working actively on issues that affect people, particularly in the minority community and our African American community and trying to address the inequities that our society still manifests. And so for any of you who are interested in participating more actively in finding solutions to some of the problems we face, I would suggest to you that you'd be in touch. You'd be with the Moses Equity Ministry teams. Gail Bliss writes that she was at Christ the Solid Rock Church yesterday, Saturday. There was a vigil that was held to bring members of the community and members of law enforcement together to share and to pray together. Gail says that she's going to be going back for their services today at 11 o'clock and anyone who wishes to be in solidarity with our African American community at Christ the Solid Rock is certainly welcome to go over to attend their services that run from 11 to 1, but oftentimes they really don't get things going until about 1130, so you would still have an opportunity today if you would like to do that. Robin Lowney Langton says, please keep my father, Neil Lowney, in your thoughts. He had heart surgery on Thursday and he is now recovering in Minneapolis. And so we keep Robin and her family in our thoughts as well. We were sad to learn that long-time FUS member Mara McDonald passed away last weekend. We're not exactly sure what happened, whether she had a stroke or a heart attack or some other condition, but she died unexpectedly in her home. Mara had two animals that lived with her, a cat, which was very quickly adopted, but then also a dog named Macy, 12 to 13-year-old Rottweiler German Shepherd Mix, who is very sweet and good with adults. This dog has health issues, is in pain and is medicated for it. Also has a tumor that is probably cancerous and Macy is only expected to live for eight months to a year. But right now Macy is in the Humane Society and looking for a home without animals, without small children, where she could live out other remainder of her days. And so if any of you know Mara and have the ability to adopt this dog for a short period of time, give her a good home for a few months, then please please see me after the service. In addition to those just mentioned, we acknowledge any unarticulated joys or sorrows that remain among us and those we hold with equal concern in our hearts. Let us sit silently for just a moment or two in the spirit of empathy and of hope. By virtue of our brief time together today, may our burdens be lightened and our joys expanded. I invite you to rise once more and body or in spirit as we join our voices in our closing hymn. We receive fragments of holiness, glimpses of eternity, brief moments of insight. May we gather these up for the precious gifts that they are and renewed by their grace, move with curiosity and confidence into the unknown. Blessed be, please be seated for the post loop.


There are four steps to making goals that you should consider when you're making goals for yourself. One step would be that they need to be attainable. A good example of attainable goal is that I need to get a B on my next test. That example would be that I need to grow six inches by next week because you don't have control over something like that. A second step would be to have a realistic time frame. When you're setting a goal for yourself, you would want to say something like, I need to write my 10-page paper by next week. Or as a bad example would be, I need to write my 10-page paper by noon today. Step three would be to be specific. A good example of a specific goal would be that I need to get a 3.0 in this class this quarter. Whereas a bad example would be like, I need just to raise my grades. And step four would be that a goal needs to be something that you want for you. A bad example of this would be that, well, I'm gonna try and get in the major that my parents have always wanted for me, but I don't really care for. Or as a good example of a goal that you want would be, I want the major that I've been working for and I'm gonna get into it this quarter. There are three different types of goals. One is the short-range goal, finishing my paper by Sunday night. Two is the mid-range goal. This would be getting at least a 3.0 this quarter. Three would be a long-range goal, which would be something like graduating in four years. Periodically, it's a good idea to examine and reevaluate your goals to make sure that they fit and are what you want. Goals are valuable tools, even if the results are not what they had intended. Goals help you to identify what you want and how to go after it, which is beneficial to yourself. Like more information about city skills or would like to talk to a city skills tutor, please call, visit, or email the Tutoring Center.


Hi and welcome to the session. Let's work out the following question. The question says the resultant of forces vector p and vector q acting at a particle is vector r. If vector q is doubled vector r is doubled. If vector q is reversed vector r is again doubled prove that p is to q is to r is equal to square root of 2 is to square root of 3 is to square root of 2 So, let's start with the solution to this question first of all let the angle between two forces q v theta this r is resultant of p and q therefore r square is equal to p square plus q square plus 2 p q cos theta and this we call equation 1 Now in the question, it's given that if q is doubled then r is also doubled so we will have 2r the whole square is equal to p square plus 2q the whole square plus 2p into 2q into cos theta This implies 4r square is equal to p square plus 4q square plus 4pq cos theta and this we call equation 2 now it's also given that if q is reversed r is again doubled so we will have now 2r the whole square is equal to p square plus q square plus 2p q cos pi minus theta This implies that 4r square is equal to p square plus q square minus 2p q cos theta and this we call equation 3 now adding equation 1 and equation 3 we get 5r square is equal to 2p square plus 2q square and this we call equation 4 Now from equation 1 if we multiply this equation by 2 we have 2r square is equal to 2p square plus 2q square plus 4pq cos theta and this we call equation 5 Now subtracting equation 5 from equation 2 that is equation 2 minus equation 5 will give us 4r square is equal to p square plus 4q square plus 4pq cos theta equation 5 is 2r square is equal to 2p square plus 2q square plus 4pq cos theta now subtracting them we get 2r square is equal to minus p square plus 2q square this is 0 now rewriting equation 4 and equation 6 this is equation 6 we have 2p square plus 2q square minus 5r square equals to 0 and p square minus 2q square Plus 2r square is equal to 0 we call this equation 7 and we call this equation 8 Now solving equation 7 and equation 8 by cross-pulteplication We have p square divided by 4 minus 10 is equal to q square divided by minus 5 minus 4 is equal to r square divided by minus 4 minus 2 this implies p square by minus 6 is equal to q square upon minus 9 is equal to r square upon minus 6 Now multiplying throughout by minus 3 we get p square by 2 is equal to q square by 3 is equal to r square by 2 this implies p by square root 2 is equal to q by square root 3 is equal to r by square root 2 This implies that p is to q is to r is equal to root 2 is to root 3 is to root 2 Now this is what we were supposed to prove in this question I hope that you understood the solution and enjoyed the session. Have a good day


That was great. Easy going home. I think they're coming to work. That was really good. That was really good. C3. Lieutenant Colonel Sengu Park. C4R. The E-Parmie Commanding General. Major General Steve Gillan, Commander, Second Administrative Rock, U.S. Combined Edition. And Major General David A. Lesbros. Incoming, Second Administrative Rock, U.S. To Major General Lesbros. Signifies the passing of his trust. And also the responsibility for the unit and its soldiers. The orders, with AR 600-20, pair around 2-5. The underside assumes command of the Second Infantry Rock, U.S. Combined Edition. Effective, 18 May 2021. Signed, Major General David A. Lesbros. Have stood at the ready of Freedom's Frontier. They've ensured the security and stability on this peninsula in order for the Republic of Korea to rebuild from the devastation of the Korean War to become the thriving democracy and vibrant economy that we live in here today. Major General Steve Gillan. Steve, thanks for your tremendous leadership. You built a foundation of readiness of our National Training Center at Fort Irwin, California. He knows and understands what it takes to train our units and build readiness and I can think of no finer officer to take command of the Warrior Division. It really is an honor to stand here today. Successor to a great lineage of Second Infantry Warrior Division commanders who set an incredible example of combat readiness, combined partnership, thus enabling and sustaining the Alliance. Looking into the future, we must acknowledge and honor those who served and sacrificed before us. I will adopt all of General Gillan's priorities until further notice. We must be ready to fight tonight. I thank the Army's senior leadership and appointed me to this position. My wife and Kelly and I are extremely happy at being assigned to our first tour duty in this beautiful country and look forward to learning about the Korean people, the culture, and building friendships. Standing on this field, standing side by side in this Republic of Korea and the United States Combined Division makes me proud to be a soldier and leader. To the soldiers and civilians of the Warrior Division, thank you for honoring us today with this ceremony. Come out like forward to visiting and serving with you and your families.  Be ready to fight tonight. I'll do the same. Let me close by saying thanks to Stephen Betsy Gillan. Thanks for your help in transitioning me and Kelly into this command. Well done and safe travels. Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for the honor of your presence here today. Let's say good victors. Second to none, kachikapsida. Always know that the Army is here. As they say she does and hopefully get to know you as well. Absolutely. Thanks, sir. How are you doing? It's good to see you again. I know where you are. Sir, how are you? Ready, two, one.


Santa knows where all the best toys are and this December many of the hunter's smartphones are just a penny with service in Appalachian Wireless. Stop by your local Appalachian Wireless to check out all of the great smartphone deals that consistently top the nice lists. Ho ho, this Christmas is truly going to be bigger and better than ever. Better service, bigger savings, that is. Ho ho ho ho ho ho. That's today's Appalachian Wireless. The Bulldogs venture down to Bowling Green in search of their second state title in school history as they matched up with Beachwood. Off to an early start, Hazard put up the first set of points on the board, but after that, Beachwood took over and made it almost impossible for the Bulldog offense to make it downfield until the fourth quarter when the Bulldogs made a late game drive with a touchdown pass to Braxton Whitaker to turn the tables. But with traded touchdowns, the Tigers put up one more making it a total of 21-14 and that's where the score would stay as Hazard fell to Beachwood in the class 1A state championship game. I caught up with Hazard head coach Mark Dixon, Corey Smith and Bailey Blair following the game and they all had one thing in common and that's wanting to come back next year.  But, you know, hopefully we've got some more of this left and we can come back and do it again. But, you know, I can't say enough, our kids aren't losers, okay? Our kids are winners. They played hard, fought all the way to the end, they gave all they had and that's all we ever asked them to do. Well, we're always the underdogs. Nobody expected us to talk to Pott, we were mindful of it. And I wish out of my own, we got our heads up and do the good, that is the thing. I was just saying nothing else happened from this. Just don't happen to me. No, it's all about the fun. We'll be back next year. We were the underdogs, so we just came out here and fought our hardest. We didn't have anything to lose. So, we love you guys.  Reporting in Bowling Green for EKB Sports, I'm Makayla Colley.


the comic weekly man the jolly comic weekly man and i'm here to read the funniest to you happy boys and honey yes boys and girls it's comic weekly time and here i come right into your house to bring a little fun and happiness right out of the pages of pop the comic weekly straight into your living room your friend the comic weekly man the jolly comic weekly man hello hello hello little miss honey how are you today oh i know the oh i'm just fine how are you i'm fine thank you that's fine too thank you you're welcome i know the most wonderful thing what is it what is it hummingbirds are the only well that is very wonderful how did you happen to think about that well i think that's a very wonderful thing especially when hummingbirds do it yes oh i wish there was something that i could do that i was the only one that could do it there is what's that no one can read the funny the way you do well thank you now you please read them i should say i will pop the comic weekly very well i'll read that in just a moment but before i do let's listen to this nice man now here we go with pop the comic weekly and on the first page hop along cassidy magic words for the music very well my lady six guns blazing as he thunders along give us music for hop along hoppy has been on the trail of a crook called the chameleon who always changes his disguise when committing one of his crimes a girl named chiquita has led hoppy to an old aztec temple telling him that he'll find the chameleon there then she runs away hoppy moves cautiously toward it last picture top row high above at the top of the temple a silent watcher rises from the darkness and brings a rifle to bear on the figure below hoppy falls to the ground first picture second row eagerly the sniper descends from the temple ruins to learn the results of his markmanship he sees hoppy lying motionless at the bottom a smile of triumph comes on his face he moves closer to hoppy and bends over him suddenly hoppy springs into action drives one blow to the man's midriff pulls him over and then knocks him out quickly hoppy pricks him last picture second row he finds a strange coin in one of the pockets hoppy exclaims why he's carrying an aztec coin just like the one given me by the Texas rangers i only knew what is for and then hoppy begins a search of the old ruins after searching the ruins for some time first picture bottom row something in the wall catches his eye he exclaims well that's odd a square metal rod protruding from the rock and then he remembers the aztec coin he took from the man he had just knocked out had an open square in the center hoppy tries the square in the coin against the metal rod the coin seems to fit it like a key curiously hoppy turns the coin in a clockwise motion suddenly a section of the wall begins to move slowly it swings inward and hoppy sees before him a secret entrance to the interior of the temple slowly he walks in he finds himself in a giant room and sees several men pointing guns at him and in the center of the room last picture a man who hoppy recognizes he exclaims simon grief and what are you doing here simon grief the man who had been arousing the citizens of buxkin to catch the chameleon says surprise mr kezidy you see i happen to be the chameleon and inside that temple and no one knows the secret entrance if they should come well let's hope they may be here next week now oh now very well over the page we go to page three see i'm right oh you're always right you bright thing you thank you i'm anxious to read that because val and arfa started back home again from their hunting trip and they've had so many accidents if you bet they have they really had tough luck their canoe was swept into swift rapids and has been badly damaged yes and after all the trouble they went through to build it well i wonder if they'll get started home today well let's read and find out right now here we go with prince valiant in the days of king arthur heck it break it gray mulkin and quince music romantic for a fair fair prince after repairing their canoe val and arfa once again on the way home they've rigged up a little sail this time and driven by the wind float along a lake big picture top row there's neither clock nor calendar to worry them with the urgency of time so they traverse river and lake in a leisurely manner alert for danger but ready to enjoy each passing day but almost at this moment the guide who had escaped from the accident in the river arrives at the castle he's taken before king agua val's father and elita val's wife and he tells them the story of the accident and finishes by telling them that val is dead his words there is a cloth that wipes the color from elita's cheek and the king's face becomes a white mask when he is finished elita smiles and bids a servant's seed that he has fed and cared for and then she turns to val's father first picture bottom row and sees a sorrow written on his face and she says have faith sire did not your son survive the siege of andel krag and steal me from two score warrior suitors did you not stand alone before the gates of samarand and bow to conquer it and did and did he not follow me to strange lands across unknown seas and bring me home have faith and then she goes to her room she sees little prince arms sitting quietly as if his heart would break and she comforts him by telling him that nothing could happen to his father then she goes through the day cheering others assuring them that nothing could happen to val but that night in the quietness of her own room although she has given courage to others she has little left for herself and worry for the man she loves drives the courage from her heart and her tears wet the pillow as she weeps with fear that she might never see her val again it was safe and not home but it's too bad he got home before val did because now everyone will believe that val is dead and they'll all be too sad yes that is too bad and there's val and r floating along taking it easy in that canoe oh i feel sad well maybe he will maybe with that sail in his canoe he'll be home sooner than we think now how would you like to read donald duck all right then let's go over the page past perry mason and the lone ranger turn over another page yes sir donald buckle good for a chuckle say the magic words with me squeeze them squeeze them squilly take a check let's have music to get a quack quack donald's girlfriend daisy is visiting him she finds donald stretched out in a chair all worn out hardly able to hold his head up daisy exclaims heavens what's wrong donald replies well you need pep vitamins i'll have some sand out donald replies uh okay okay a short time later daisy sends over a can of pep vitamins donald opens the can takes out a handful of vitamins and drops them down his gullet and then washes them down with a glass of water two hours later he takes another dose two hours later another and another and another next morning fourth picture top row he wakes up opens his eyes leaps out of bed and calls daisy me's a call thanks a million after a hearty breakfast donald is busy vacuuming the rug i should have vacuumed this joint two weeks ago first picture next row he's washing windows nothing i hate worse than dirty windows next he scrubs the kitchen floor then he cleans out the basement then he cleans out the attic short time later daisy comes up the walk she says to herself she opens the door and walks in and stops surprised for there is donald last picture lying in a chair hardly able to hold up his head and he says we're really yes i over did a commitment i'm enforced if he were sensible he'd do a little bit each day then he wouldn't be worn out to smile at daisy of course anybody knows that anybody except donald oh he's so cute i love him so do i well now how would you like to read dick's adventure oh i love it dick's adventures is on the last page of the first section so to me so all right here we go with dick's adventures in dreamland so say the magic word with me or the rickety pack is that is it let's have music for dick and his dad have been talking about the early days of american history and about the indian chief tecumseh dick who was in bed half dozing murmurs in anapolis the midshipmen have a statue of old chief tecumseh who was he well what did he do dad gee i wish i wish i do and back back back he goes and finds himself in his dream in a covered wagon dressed in the clothes of an early settler his dad is driving a team of horses dick is saying gosh dad now i remember tecumseh was a terrific character he ruled over a big indian settlement in indiana on the banks of the wall bash near tipica new river gree it was around 1810 hey jeepers what are we doing in this covered wagon last picture top row his dad showed surprise why we're lighting outward new northwest territory dick may be on the wall bash lots of settlers are heading out from the east they'll be needing a good blacksmith and a gunsmith like you and me dick proceeding a few miles farther dick and his dad are halted by a soldier who tells them first picture second row it is in trouble ahead folks keep your guns handy finally they arrive at a settlement on the edge of the wall bash river there they see a crowd of people and last picture second row on a landing near the water's edge a loud quarrel between two men is taking place it's governor william henry harrison and the engine chief tecumseh and tecumseh is saying last picture oh white father speaks of fair treatment to his red children yet he claims our land more and more and more we are no longer children we are now men we think ourselves capable of defending our country listen to my warning no white man shall cross this river looks like there's going to be trouble that indian looks really angry and governor harrison doesn't look as though he's very afraid and if the white people cross the river then the indians are going to attack them is that what he's saying that's exactly what he means i wonder what will happen i wonder if the white man will cross but we'll find that out next week now look underneath dick's adventure oh rusty rally i'm anxious to read that and i'll read it in just a moment but first use that nice man again with something interesting to say now here we go with pock the comic weekly and on the last page of the first section rusty riley magic words for the music please very well my lady gallop and run till the road is dusty give us music for his horse and rusty rusty and pete have been locked up as prisoners in the old caverns by two crooks who have robbed the milestone farm the crooks have gone back to get their loot where they had hidden it in an old abandoned house meanwhile tex is stopped in at headquarters to ask the detectives if they have any news of rusty and pete while he's there the detective has given a notice about a couple of crooks that are wanted by the fbr tex is curious about it the detective explains to him saying uh no this is just a flyer sent out by the fbi tex the kind you see in post offices about a couple of swindlers known as limie joe and the duke here take a look hmm would it be possible to lend me this notice for uh saying our maybe my short text you may keep it they always send a couple of spares and why oh just a hunch i might meet up with him sometime a little later at the farm tex is carefully looking at the notice he says thoughtfully i ain't exactly what you'd call an artist but uh i think i can do a little retouching on these ear faces meanwhile last picture top row in the caverns rusty and pete have rigged up a light for the battery of the car they turned it on and it lights up the caverns rusty says hey this was a neat idea of yours to take the battery out of your car and hook it up to one of the headlights pete yeah it'll give us plenty of light as long as it lasts it's a new battery so it ought to give us a few hours steady use rusty okay let's get going first picture bottom row the boys are still searching the caverns trying to find a way out but so far they've had no luck pete says hey gosh rusty we've come a heck of a long way looking for another way out i'm beginning to think we should have stayed put till sir percival sent somebody to let us out hey listen pete if those crooks find those troopers where we hit them or we'll never hear from them again and if they don't and they come back here you'll come better won't be to let us go rusty rusty i think we've used up about half the charge in this battery better turn back or we'll be caught in the dark okay pete i hate to give up but i guess you're right the boys turn around to start back and then they see two tunnels rusty exclaims gee will it can speed which one of those tunnels do we come through why we i think gosh rusty i don't know at this moment last picture in mr myles a study tex is handing him a notice that he has gotten from the defective tex is saying hey uh boy see just take a look at that fbi flyer i've been doing a little retouching with a lead pencil don't they look kind of familiar mr myles looks at it and exclaims why george tex is it possible sir percival and his man knobs so smart he knew that limie joe and the duke were those two englishmen who say that them yes you bet he did he drew the mustache on the duke's face and that told him the whole story well i hope they hurry to the detectives and if they can catch the crooks and make them tell where the boys are that's because if he doesn't the boys are apt to get lost in those caverns and it might take a long long time to find them yes we'll find out more about that next week now it's time for dagwin and blondie and here they are section and we'll read that right away here we go with dagwin and blondie ramma food and the fums and zombie conjue music for dagwin and blondie dagwood's enjoying his paper at home when suddenly his daughter rushes in and streaks daddy quick a dog catcher just picked up daisy hag what leaps to his feet and flies out of the house like a man shot out of a cannon he tackles the dog catcher stop stop that's unconstitutional you can't do that to a taxpayer last picture top row the dog catcher sits up and says well she's a taxpayer where's the tag on her collar well she has one of the it must have fallen off around her house and dagwin starts for the house to look for the dog tag the dog catcher puts daisy in the truck first picture stack and row saying i'll wait here till you get back dagwood calls i'll be calm daisy i'll find your dog tag and i'll be right back and into the house he goes searching for daisy's dog tag he looks under the chairs under the table under the sofa cushions and blondie sobs now blondie i'll get her a lawyer come on help me find her license tag and the hunting continues upstairs downstairs side stairs kitchen dining room living room back porch front porch basement first picture third row dagwood dashes out of the house yelling we found a daisy you're a citizen and good standing again and he stops in front of the truck full of dogs but no dog catcher dagwood asks the passing man hey where's the dog catcher oh uh he went in that restaurant there for his lunch dagwood turns to the truck last picture the row opens the door saying but we can't wait for him come on daisy i'll take you right home and he leans into the truck trying to get hold of daisy who was buried under a lot of other dogs suddenly he slips in and the door snaps shut and locks behind him and first picture of out on road dagwood is in the dog truck with all the dogs and he says oh there's a snap walk on the outside we can't get out and the dog catcher who comes out of the restaurant sees dagwood in the truck with all the dogs and the dogs and the man laugh and laugh and laugh short time later the phone rings at the bumpstead house cookie answers it and then she turns to blondie and says it's a city dog pound mama they want you to come right down there and claim your husband blondie goes last picture blondie is down at the dog pound she stops in front of the cage in which there are 42 dogs looking very unhappy and a man who looks very much like a lion he also looks very much like dagwood the dogs go and dagwood goes and blondie turns to the keeper and barks isn't that funny the way and he looks body unhappy in that cage down at the dog I love funny people too but now look at the bottom of the page Roy Rogers oh yes a logging camp and last week he discovered something very important yes Roy discovered that somebody has been changing the brands and logs belonging to Pauline Bunyan isn't that less well you know why that is that's because all of the logging camps send their logs down to the mill by way of the river and the logs are all have to get mixed up in the river you see oh I see and then when the logs go to the mill and they take them out of the river then they can tell whose logs they are by the brand and the logs how did you ever guess that I just figured it out oh but you're smart yes I am well now let's see whether Roy finds out that etch need is the man who's been changing the brand and stealing Pauline's logs here we go with Roy Rogers king of the cowboy a yep I owe now here we go with Roy and trigger a yep I owe things are beginning to move quickly Roy discovers piles and piles of logs all with diamond brand stamped over Pauline's triangle mark Pauline remembers that the diamond symbol was used by a camp that is some distance behind hers some time ago Pauline's niece Wildwood suggests they should try to find old Cosmo that he might know something about the log thieves the last picture top row as they ride up to the foreman shed a man there calls hey Pauline spring pressure started rivers rising Pauline tells Wildwood to tell the foreman to round up a new crew of rivermen for the big drive Roy says hey log handles out of my line miss Bunyan I'm going after old Cosmo first picture bottom row Roy has picked up old Cosmo's trail ah old Cosmo's burrow trail lead south figure maybe the abandoned log and camp Pauline mentioned as a log pirates headquarters meanwhile old Cosmo had caught etch need in the act of changing the brand on Pauline's logs etch had told him he would never live to tell anybody about it and now etch and his men are carrying Cosmo at the top of a hill to throw him over a cliff one of the men says hey what he found out about our log pirate and he wrote his death warrant a etch and etch growls yeah yeah it's tough work to and cause love here like tossing him over it'll look like an accident at that moment last picture Roy at the foot of the cliff approaches suddenly he sees a body fall to the ground before his eyes hey what that's old Cosmo yes and now that old Cosmo is dead there's no one to testify that etch need is the crook well everyone's been changing the log brand we'll find that out next week now let's go over the page oh look flash Gordon yes flash Gordon and a string with ice and snow because the sun isn't shining on it and flash suspected that someone who wants to conquer the earth to shut the sun's rays away from the earth to make it cold and so flash has gone on an expedition to investigate and flash has discovered that the people responsible for this are giants from another planet and flash hid on a jet sled of one of the giants and when the giant returned to his headquarters on the moonrea flash had come along too and now because if they see him he will never escape well let's read now and find out what happens next with flash Gordon regga regga dune dunes ask him a task let's have music for heroic flag inside an Arctic glacier the invaders from Saturn's moonrea are using their secret science to freeze the earth into a gigantic snowball on which only Saturnians can survive nothing stands between them and success but flash Gordon alone in the enemy stronghold moving cautiously down an icy corridor flash leaps for cover and holds his breath as a busy Saturnian nearly runs into it last picture top row at the end of the corridor flash comes upon a vast cavern that houses the Saturnians ionic ray generator he discovers that they're using the earth's magnetic field and the northern lights to blanket our planet with an electronic screen shutting off the sun's heat rays but sudden disaster overtakes flash ones man raid when a saturnian engineer spots the earth man and shouts an alarm hammer brings a swarm of weirdly armed giants rushing into the cabin flash realizes he's hopelessly outnumbered so instead of firing futilely at the attacking horde he empties his neutron beam gun into the ionic ray power plant and last picture where the earth shaking roar the generators explode upwards shattering the glacier into a million fragments and scattering the Saturnian machines over the Arctic ice although partly shielded flash is stunned in hurl skyward not only that if that's the machines that's controlling the sun rays it means that now it has been destroyed or we'll find out all these things next week in the adventures of flash Gordon now that's all the time I have but before I go here's that nice fellow with some more interesting information well honey and all your boys and girls have got to go now all right okay that's a date and a date with all your boys and girls be sure to meet me with our little friend miss honey next week when I read pock the comic weekly or I'm the comic weekly man the jolly comic weekly man I'll be back to read the funnies to you happy boys and honey don't forget boys and girls see you all next week your friend the comic weekly man the jolly comic weekly man


When you run into the narcissist after no contact When you unexpectedly encounter the narcissist in public after having no communication with them for some time Many people wonder how the narcissist perceives them When they see them after no contact They wonder how the narcissist might regard understand or interpret them They wonder if the narcissist can recognize and appreciate their good qualities If the narcissist values and respects them How the narcissist perceives you after no contact will depend on how far long you are in the healing process It will depend on superficial things Such as how you look how you dress the car you drive and the people you are with Narcissists care about things that exist on the surface They are attracted to beauty money power and success So if any of those qualities have improved since you are lost in contact with the narcissist They will hold you to a higher regard They will secretly respect what you have achieved Although they may not respect you as a person It's all about what they can extract from you and even if you are willing to give something to them They don't respect that They just see you as a fool Someone that they are able to manipulate The only thing a narcissist is forced to accept is when you realize what they are When you walk away That is when they have no choice but to regard your feelings wishes or rights But as long as you remain around them They will have no regard for you if they see you in public and you haven't healed or progressed They're going to see you as something undesirable, but if you have managed to change will improve your life They are going to view you in a different light This may even make them re-idealize you It may make them want to come back to you Even if either of you have moved on and you are in relationships Most narcissists do not value loyalty or commitment It just gets in the way of them getting what they want But just because the narcissist may re-idealize you and love bomb you It doesn't mean that they care about you It doesn't mean that they have your best interest in mind They just see you as a tool that they can use to get what they want They only care about their own needs and they will use people to get those needs met Which is why you may notice that when they come back. There's no discussion or understanding of what happened in the past They don't want to talk about what they did to you because they don't care about how it affected you They have no interest in resolving anything They will come back like nothing happened Because they just want to take something from you They're just going to use you to make themselves feel better They're going to use you for supply They still see you as their property Even though some time may have passed since you were last with them They still see it as though you belong to them Regardless of what they did to you Regardless of what caused you to go into contact with them The narcissist has a strong sense of entitlement They feel like they have a right to be involved with you They believe that they are inherently deserving of whatever you have to offer and that is why they will come back to you like nothing happened If you have progressed after going no contact with the narcissist And you were doing so much better without them And then you run into them They will try to make eye contact with you They will try to read into how you feel To see if you're emotionally attached to them To see if they've still got a hold on you To see if they're still able to affect you emotionally Because that's supply for the narcissist To be able to control how someone sees them They need to use people So that they can see themselves however they want to be seen If they want to feel powerful They will triangulate you and try to hurt you While narcissists who are more feminine will try to flirt with you Because they want to feel desirable and attractive It's all about using you to make themselves feel good Often at your expense They will be very interested to see if you are still interested in them That's what will give them supply That's what will make them feel powerful or desirable But many narcissists can be very prideful and arrogant They can have an excessively high opinion of themselves They can have an exaggerated sense of their own worth While they trick themselves into thinking that they're better than you They experience delusions of grandeur Which then causes them to ignore you or treat you with contempt As though you are worthless or beneath their consideration When really, they're just insecure They are uncertain and anxious about themselves A confident person isn't going to look down on anyone How we feel about ourselves affects how we treat other people The narcissists may treat you with contempt But they actually believe that you are superior to them And that's why they try to put you beneath them In an attempt to feel like they are better than you Another reason why the narcissists will ignore you in public Is because they are afraid of rejection They are afraid that you will just ignore or dismiss them They are afraid that you won't want anything to do with them The narcissist isn't going to put themselves in a position where they could be humiliated There is nothing more important to a narcissist than their image and reputation How they looked at other people Everything they do is designed to make them look good So they are not going to put themselves in a situation where they believe that they might be rejected But if they do decide to take their chances It's only because they believe you have something to offer them It's not because they care about you It's not because they value you as a human being They're not coming back to give anything to you They have nothing to give Narcissists are takers They only come around you to take something from you But they have nothing to share with you other than misery and pain Which is why that's what you always experience anytime that you're around them If you have a conversation with them They might just use it to emotionally abuse you To cause you stress and anxiety Because all they have to share with you is their misery and pain You're not going to get anything else because that's all they have to give Anything good they possess is only something that they have taken from you And that's the only reason why they come around you Misery loves company They want to share their misery with you They want to re-traumatise you Narcissists can only pull you down to their level They can only undo all of the hard work you have put into healing yourself They don't have the tools to build anything with you All they can do is destroy everything that you have built for yourself Which is why you need to avoid interacting with them You need to avoid making eye contact The narcissist may try to force themselves onto you And in these situations You need to keep the conversation short They may ask questions But you should only give short responses Tell them you're busy Tell them you have things to do Just walk away You don't have to talk to the narcissist They only come around you to get supply To feed off your emotions whether they are positive or negative They want to get your attention They want to get you to react to them And any reaction you give to them Will only give them satisfaction Which is why you have to remain neutral Don't display your emotions If you give them an emotional reaction It will only feed their ego It will only make them feel like there's something special or important As though there's something significant to you Which is what narcissists want Narcissists are codependent They want to feel like you want them They want to feel like they mean something to you But whether you feel attracted to the narcissist Or you feel angry or upset None of this has anything to do with what is actually happening in the present moment Seeing the narcissist in person Is causing you to relive the initial trauma And you may experience emotional flashbacks But to avoid this try to think logically Rather than entertaining the thoughts and emotions That arise from seeing the narcissist Don't resist those thoughts and emotions What you resist persists it will only get stronger Be aware of how you think and feel in that moment But don't feed into it Simply accept that those thoughts and feelings are there And just observe them It's normal to feel that way after everything you have endured When you allow those thoughts to be there It becomes much easier to let them go And then you can put the focus back on yourself Then you can walk away and return to your life The narcissist doesn't respect you They don't even see you as a real person People are just objects that they use To feel better about themselves They don't care about what you want They don't care about how you feel All they want is power and control over you They want to feel like they're worth something At your expense And that is why you should not waste your time and energy on them Your time is valuable And if you invest it into the narcissist You will not get anything back You will not get a return on your investment Because they're not worth anything Invest it into yourself And its value will be multiplied Because you are worth something You are a good investment Practice self care Practice self love Focus on raising your vibration And you will notice that the narcissist just doesn't vibe with you anymore You will notice that you begin to attract a new group of people who are more on your level People who vibrate with peace, love and joy When all the narcissist ever gave to you was misery and pain Thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos Check out the new Narc Survival website At www.narcsurvivor.co.uk Where you can read my blog posts, book coaching sessions and join a support forum If you would like to donate My paypal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coaching at narcsurvivor.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon