So I'm Corey Chivers, I'm a PhD student down the road at McGill. I study there, I study computational ecology and if you know what that means come and tell me at beers afterwards because I'm dying to know but I'm not gonna talk about that today I'm gonna talk about what I like to do kind of in my more spare time evenings and weekends which is competitive data science and with using our arm Python so I tried to make a pretty grand title of my alternatives were from the depths of the ocean to the expanse of the cosmos competitive data science something like that and the original title said competitive data mining I think so it's not really data mining and I was going to change it to machine learning it's not really machine learning specifically either or statistics so I use that wonderful catch-all title that we all love now data science so what's competitive data science so it's this there's a company called Kaggle in the Valley and they they're making data science a sport according to their their website and they've been around for a couple years and they've been getting tons of press that's in the New York Times I could have pulled up a you know a ton of tons of articles about them they're really huge but what do they do so what they do is they host challenges data challenges online and anybody can take their best shot at them they post up the data they post a well-defined performance metric of what your solution is to a given problem and everybody just takes their stab at it whoever gets the best score wins and it turns out doing these things is kind of like crack like it's really really addictive and so I sunk a lot of hours into doing these these contests so I'll just get started with a bit of the toolkit that one would use if they're going to try to get into this competitive data science world so not surprisingly given the title I use R a lot in my academic work as an ecologist ecologists are huge on R but also Python is is increasingly becoming used for for numerical analysis and I mean some would argue for a long time but people are in ecology are starting to recognize that as well but that's of course a simplified view of the toolkit obviously it's much it's much more it's much bigger than that you've got all kinds of awesome Python modules and actually what stats models I think was in there but it must have got erased it was in there before and you know so you're going to use all kinds of tools not just are in Python Octave there is the open source version of MATLAB C C plus plus if you really need to do some computationally intensive simulations but not so much in the competitive data science world where you're given a very well-structured problem with very clean data but in kind of the more data science more broadly of course your toolkits can also include things for wrangling and munging that data like said grep and awk which are favorite go-tos and then of course you can't talk about data science without putting up the friendly elephant and mention Hadoop none of the data that you'll encounter on on Kaggle is of the scale that you would need to use Hadoop but I put it there anyways for completeness so let's just launch right into what that one of the challenges so Cornell University in collaboration with some other some other scientists have dispatched this big network of buoys in the high-traffic areas high ocean traffic areas that are roots of ships I'm struggling with that so and the idea is that they're trying to limit the amount of collisions between whales and these ships and so they want to be able to identify when is a whale kind of in the vicinity of one of these buoys and the buoys have these underwater microphones so the problem is one of signal processing of that audio information and then it's a classification problem it's the question is is there a whale or is there not a whale so I thought I would just show kind of some of the highlights of this kind of analysis or this like how you run through this kind of thing so we're going to find the whales because these in your oceans so some of the some of them important modules are this sidekits audio lab this is going to allow us to to read in these audio files so they're little two second clips of audio from these underwater microphones and then they mostly just sound like there's mostly nothing but actually the whale kind of goes it's very subtle but it's in there and you can hear it in some of them but there's they provide you with something like 30,000 of these two second audio files so we don't want to just listen to them we want to actually come up with an algorithm to classify them so that's going to help us read those in and then of course you know you can't go to bed feeling good about yourself until you've done some fast Fourier transforms so we bring in FFT pack from sci-fi and then this module is just so we can get ourselves some motivation to get started oh no I'm not online I had a cute little picture of a whale there he was telling us to take a breath so just imagine it oh oh that's right there we go I thought that everything was still in the kernel there we go brilliant thank you okay so yeah that's very good advice you know before you start any one of these you know data problems take a deep breath and then we're just going to load in the the labels so so it's a supervised learning problem meaning that you have some examples that are labeled that there either is a whale or there's not a whale and then you're meant to create an algorithm that can learn from those training cases and create a prediction when they when it experiences a novel case so we're going to just read in the the labels that I guess was read in here because it's 30,000 long and then we'll just have a look at what this data looks like so I mentioned it's it's it's audio information but audio information is really difficult to do data analysis on on its own so we need to kind of massage that into some other form and we're gonna that's what we're gonna use the Fourier transform is is gonna give us a spectrogram of the of these audio files so we'll just read in ten of them just to just to have a look this is called spectrogram so this is just in time on the x-axis and and on the y-axis is it's a power spectrum across frequencies so this is going up in frequency on this axis and you just have a heat kind of map of the power at those different frequencies so it turns an audio piece of a piece of audio data into now what is essentially an image and then we can do we can use all the techniques we have for image recognition to to answer this problem so I've also just plotted here whether whether there was a whale or not so we just have a look and say oh that that's that's one that just sounds like what I how I described a little garbled nonsense there's some more garbled nonsense underwater noises it's like you know you supposed to listen to it as you're going to sleep it's really soothing not present not present okay I wonder if any of those these are present I think one of them is not present or garbage there's one okay so can anyone see the whale call in there yeah okay awesome right obviously it just stands it sticks right out of you right so so let's actually let's instead of just looking at them one at a time what I did is I just compiled all the positives so we could start to get a visual idea of what does a whale call look like so hopefully that'll work yeah so there's all all the whale call so now can you see the the whale call so these are just positive cases these are ones that have a blue whale in them I don't know if you can see it but it's this it's this little hook here so that's the so it's so it's going up up in frequency over this little kind of this is two seconds total so that's over about you know a little under a second so that's there that's that's what they look like so that's cool so that gets us somewhere okay so it so actually that was pretty useful for me when I was actually doing this this challenge to realize that it's all concentrated in this region I actually trimmed everything else out of these spectrograms and only focused on that this one region because all this other stuff is noise it's not really going to give us any information it's like if we were looking for a face you just you know you try to eliminate everything it's not where the face is likely to be and then let's just go ahead and fit fit a model to it so scikit-learn has all kinds of the standard classifier algorithms here we're going to just import support vector machines maybe you've heard of some of these support vector machines like artificial neural networks these kinds of things they're they're they're ways to learn from from labeled data so let's just import that and then here this is just I've taken the training data that I that I cleaned up a little bit I just put it all together into one flat data file and and we're going to read that in and hopefully hopefully I don't have to rerun retrain this because it kind of is slow but so you can just it's really straightforward to train one of these classifiers you just you just kind of define it you give it your input so this is the the the whale call pictures pictures of the whale calls this is the labels whether it's there or not ones zeros and it's going to just go ahead and and and fit a support vector machine on that and hopefully I'm going to try not running that again and see if that'll work and then we're going to just validate that so I ran that just on a subsample of the data just the first five thousand just just to make it sort of doable and then we're just going to validate and see okay so we we just took five thousand of those labeled data and we're going to now see how well we can predict some other one thousand some completely unique now knew that the model hasn't seen set cases and we're going to go ahead and predict those as probabilities and then the the performance metric that was used in this contest is one that's fairly common for binary classification models it's the area under the receiver operator curve and it basically just gives you an idea of your relative rates of false positives and false negatives and you want it to be one you want it to be as close to one as possible an ROC or an ROC of point five is you're doing no better than random so let's see how we do somewhere between point five and and one okay so I would have had to train that unfortunately let's let's run that for now and maybe we'll come back to it okay but the punch line there is so that the Cornell University's state of the art at the time that they posted this challenge was an AUC of point seven four or five or so that's how well they were able to classify these audio files and within a couple of days of this challenge going up well I was about to show that I was able to get by fitting on even a subset sample the data in the seven five region so at the state of the art level using this very simple case but within a couple of days there were other people who had models that were you know AUC's of point nine nine like they were just it was ridiculous like all these you know point dexters at Cornell couldn't couldn't come close to all these other point dexters who participated in the Kaggle competition okay so that was cool so wouldn't be cool if we could have seen that but alas so that was a neat one and I had fun kind of playing with it and and you have second learn has all the tools I tried also an artificial neural network and some other built-in kind of classifier models but there are also contests up there that don't really conform to this like really sort of standard case of of of classification or like k nearest neighbors or something like that and that was this contest so that was the the object of this contest was to map the dark matter in the universe it was very you know not very ambitious so I thought I would give it a try and it turned out so it's the winner would have got twenty thousand dollars so participating in these contests is kind of like crack but I mean if you had a one you could actually buy it like a lot of actual crack if you so desired but so so so dark matter is kind of cool so dark matter is dark so we can't see it but what we can see is its effect that it has on on the very fabric of space time itself which is just awesome and so it turns out that that while you don't see the dark matter you you can see it has effects on what you see behind the dark matter so it actually there's a phenomenon called gravitational lensing and that's going to distort background galaxies that we look at through our telescopes so so what you get from the from this contest was let's go up here so you get a bunch of a bunch of skies and they've just coded them as so they've just coded them as galaxy locations and then they've abstracted all of the you know idiosyncrasies of different galaxies it just in terms of into just their ellipticities so that's just their their confirmation in the sky what you know kind of how they're oriented and how elongated they are in the sky and and you get you get all that that data and then you get some some cases where the the location of the dark matter is known by other means so that's cool it's kind of hard to see anything in that but so we can have a look so here I use are to to take that data and actually plot it with the with the dark matter in there so this is one of the training skies cool and there are two dark matter halos here and so in the absence of any kind of foregrounding dark matter you would expect the configuration of these galaxies to be at random it would just be oriented random everywhere but what happens is the the the lensing effect of the of the foreground dark matter skews slightly skews what we see what we see as the ellipticity of the galaxies that in the background so it's actually really hard to see in this in this case those are pretty edge cases so you can sort of start to see it here so it's having this kind of this kind of effect where it's just sort of skewing from the random the otherwise random configuration of background galaxies and that's the information on which you're meant to then not knowing where this is try to try to build an algorithm that which will guess where they are so there's another one that's also not that strong that you can kind of see this the effect of this one so this is a really cool problem because it does not conform at all to like you can't just throw it into like you know a support vector machine or something like that and just you know Ladi Dawn you go so you actually have to build a model of how you think that the system is working of the process so a little bit of Wikipediaing and I discovered that that this these lenses follow one of the proposed distributions is this Ernesto profile and it's just this functional form which actually causes induces this skew on the galaxies surrounding the dark matter so I built up the model to simulate how that would affect the galaxies as the the mass of that foregrounding dark matter increases so you can start to see on the left right now you're getting this full full skew full skew and now you now you've got this full lensing effect surrounding this very very massive dark dark matter halo and so then the idea is okay so I have this model which simulates it so then the the solution to locating the dark matter is to simply fit this functional form to the skies in the test set and so what I did it was that and this is just kind of a heat map of of the the locations of better fit of this this ellipticity component so this is just as this increases that's the tangential ellipticity component so if you imagine a line going out there in a tangent these are all aligned along the tangent so this is kind of a map of that for one of the training skies and there's where my algorithm picks where the halo is and there's where it actually is there's another one so it does pretty pretty kick-ass I was really excited when I did this but that turns out that's for the one halo sky situation and in skies like I showed you in the examples they often have more than one halo and those lenses interact in complex ways and it becomes very difficult so so I'm showing you like the really good results but when when you have more than one halo it's hard to fit these simultaneously but try I did and in the end I was a little bit late but actually I'm kind of proud of this I ended up in the top 10 from my last entry that came in a little bit so I didn't bring home the 20 grand but but it was cool and it was super fun to do and so I just want to end with a quote from Tukey so the best thing about being a statistician so like I said I'm a computational ecologist and what am I doing in the cosmos well the point is you can apply you know your quantitative reasoning to a lot of different fields so it's great to be a statistician because you can play in everyone's backyard but of course nobody says statistician anymore right we're all data sciences so that's you know the updated quote from Tukey and then just finally I'd like to just rep this Montreal our users groups that I co-run with this guy a ten he's a colleague of mine I'm a gill and we have a meet-up group that's similar to to to the kind of it's kind of similar to the project nights of Montreal Python but we look at our so if you're interested in checking that stuff out come on out and see us


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Thank you, Mr. Speaker. Good morning, colleagues. Mr. Speaker, if you will permit me just prior to speaking on the motion before us to first congratulate all musicians on the celebration of St. Cecilia's Day. I also want to take the opportunity, as we speak in regards to the musician, to also congratulate Mr. Speaker, a group from my community, Schoesel Musical Symphony Orchestra, program that was launched on Sunday, primarily made up of very young people who will be learning to play various instruments, Mr. Speaker. And I'm happy that the Ministry of Education has supported that program going forward to make it a sort of an after-school program to encompass all children from the community, Mr. Speaker. I also want Mr. Speaker to take the opportunity to thank and to congratulate all the volunteers who are coming forward to provide the expertise in terms of teaching the young children, Mr. Speaker. It is, you know, extremely heartening in the environment that we live to recognize people who give up their time, their resources to come forward and to help our young people and our community. And as I'm speaking on volunteerism, Mr. Speaker, I also want to take the time out to thank the members of the Lamaze Congregation of Seven Day who also came out from a voluntary perspective, Mr. Speaker, to clean up their community which they found, Mr. Speaker, was very unsightly and not, you know, conducive for, you know, traversing. In addition, Mr. Speaker, we have had a program going on for the past couple of Sundays where young people from the community were engaged, particularly from a group called DeRoll, which is a shortened form to recognize three communities, DeBrell, Roblo and Lamaze, where they've been coming out, Mr. Speaker, to try to patch up the, you know, the very rough roads that they have to travel to go home, Mr. Speaker. Mr. Speaker, I also want to express my sympathy to the young lady who lost her life this morning. It is always difficult to hear of the passing of anyone, particularly by violent means.  You know, I want to sympathize with her family, the medical fraternity, a young daughter, Mr. Speaker. And I want Mr. Speaker to ensure the Prime Minister, as I've told him before, that he has my full support as it relates, Mr. Speaker, to doing whatever is necessary to ensure that we stop that scourge, Mr. Speaker. I would like to encourage Mr. Speaker that we, you know, create an atmosphere where people believe that there are consequences, because I believe one of the reasons why a lot of people do what they do is because they believe the absence of consequences, particularly when, you know, there seem to be a slap on the wrist. I know that's outside of our, our sphere, Mr. Speaker, a lot of that has to do with the, you know, the system that you operate in, Mr. Speaker. But we all need to be on the same page to ensure that we discourage such behavior. Mr. Speaker, on the motion before us, I was actually very delighted to hear the Honorable Prime Minister speak to the devastating effects of COVID-19, Mr. Speaker, on our country, on the world, Mr. Speaker, and to recognize that even a year and some months later, we are still, you know, you know, looking at providing assistance for people who have been affected by COVID-19. And that is why, Mr. Speaker, I, you know, I was always a bit discouraged when we were in government and there was a continuous bashing by this government of the borrowing, Mr. Speaker, because I have continuously said it is a necessity of government to borrow Mr. Speaker. And we would have known that during COVID, everything stopped running. No revenue was coming in, Mr. Speaker, but government had to continue to operate, which included, you know, paying a season of Syriza addressing the pain of our bonds, Mr. Speaker, because had we not done these things because Senatorsha would have had a credibility problem. You know, we could have been downgraded. So many effects, Mr. Speaker, that could have spiraled out of control had we not borrowed Mr. Speaker. And a lot of the money that we borrowed, Mr. Speaker, went into budgetary support, which, Mr. Speaker, was well-known by everybody. But sometimes, you know, Mr. Speaker, the politics come into play and we, you know, we create certain things which are, which we should not create, Mr. Speaker. So, borrowing is a necessary evil by governments, Mr. Speaker. And I agree that as opposition, as members of the public, government must be kept on their toes as it relates to what we borrow for. But I can say, Mr. Speaker, that what we borrowed for under the COVID times was really untrue. It was to ensure that Senatorsha did not go into the sort of deep hole, you know, that, you know, COVID could have created, Mr. Speaker. So I'm happy, Mr. Speaker, particularly that $14 million has been borrowed this morning, particularly get towards the vulnerable. And I will make a case this morning to the Minister of Equity to not to forget various groups in our communities. And I speak to the Club 60 in particular in my community, a group which takes care of senior citizens who cannot, you know, cook food and other social activities that they engage in, Mr. Speaker, who had a lot of their resources, you know, stopped for one reason or the other. While we were in office, you know, we did provide some assistance. And I'm hoping that, you know, that sort of intervention from the Ministry of Equity would continue to recognize such entities who provide, you know, significant work in the communities. So I look forward to that sort of, you know, community sharing of the resources, Mr. Speaker. But Mr. Speaker, the Prime Minister made one statement I just want to bring to his attention. He said that we on this side were contacted to add names to the list. Mr. Prime Minister, I have not been contacted. I don't know if it's something that will come, but I have not been contacted with regards to adding names to, to know I have never been contacted to add names to a vulnerable list. So if that may have been an oversight, I would think because, you know, when it comes to the vulnerable, the sick, the shot in the senior citizens who cannot fear for themselves, we should never make that a partisan issue, Mr. Speaker. And therefore, I look forward to, you know, that correction we made. I thank you, Mr.


Everyone, today we're making cabbage steaks. Now, if you've never had a cabbage steak before or maybe you're not that crazy about cabbage in general, stick around and watch this video because I think I'm gonna transform your opinion of that. What we're gonna do is roast our cabbage in the oven and what that's gonna do is it's going to caramelize the exterior of it, get it a little bit crunchy and the inside stays nice and tender. We're also gonna be seasoning this up with some olive oil, some fresh garlic.   I'm Rockin' Robin and I'm gonna show you how to do it right after our chef joke. Here's our first chef joke. A cabbage, a tap and a tomato were in a race. The cabbage was ahead, the tap was running and the tomato tried to catch up. We're gonna start off by preheating our oven to 400 degrees Fahrenheit, so I've got that going over there.  And then I'm gonna cut this in half and we wanna leave the core intact, okay? It's actually a little brown, so I'm gonna cut off a bit of it just so that we get rid of that. Then I'm gonna place one half of the head up on its side and I'm gonna cut slices that are about an inch, three quarters to one inch thick. And then we'll place our slices, our cabbage steaks, on a parchment paper covered baking sheet here and you wanna space them out. I'm only gonna put three on here, I'm gonna do two trays but you wanna space them out enough so they're not touching and that way they can roast really well. Now it's time to make our mixture. Now you wanna use olive oil for this and we're gonna measure in for a whole head of cabbage, we're gonna measure in, we'll start with a quarter of a cup of olive oil here. And to that we're gonna add some of our minced garlic that I minced up. I did several cloves here to really give it a nice garlicky flavor and as it roasts in the oven, it's gonna mellow out the flavor. And then I'm gonna be adding some of this coconut aminos. I really like this, it's sort of a soy substitute and it gives the cabbage, which doesn't have a lot of flavor, it gives it a little bit of extra something. So I'm always looking for the flavor here. Now I'm just gonna pour some of this in, probably about maybe a couple of tablespoons. Give that a stir. I just do it until my mixture gets nice and dark. All right, we'll give that a stir and then we're gonna just spread this over all of the cabbage. I'm gonna use a brush and I'm gonna make sure that I get, you see this, all the garlic, I wanna make sure I get a little bit of that garlic on each piece because that's nothing but flavor. Now is when you want a salt and pepper each piece. So I'm just gonna sprinkle a little bit of salt over all. I didn't mix it in with the sauce because I was afraid the salt and the pepper would drop to the bottom and then it wouldn't get any salt in there like I'd like. Now we'll flip these over and we'll coat the second side the same as the first. Now I have some bacon here that I'm gonna chop up into little crumbles and you can add this or not, this is totally optional. The basic part of this recipe is the olive oil and the salt and pepper. You could just do that and be done with it but I like to enhance flavors a lot. So that's why I'm going with the garlic and the bacon and some walnuts for a nice crunch. If you need a tutorial on how to cook bacon in a pan, I have the perfect video for you. I'll leave a link in the description. Then I'm just gonna sprinkle this over the top of each piece, each steak. All right, we're gonna place these in the oven at 400 degrees for 30 minutes and then we'll see where we're at. Since I have two pans, we'll be putting the second pan underneath the first in the oven. All right, our cabbage steaks are in the oven for 30 minutes. That means we have time for Chef Joke Number Two. Why didn't the cabbage win the race? Because he wasn't ahead of lettuce. Today I'm adding some toasted walnuts to our dish. So what you wanna do is just pour some walnuts into a dry saucepan over medium to medium low heat. Wash them close and just toss them for a few minutes until they turn a golden brown. Then we'll chop them up and I'll put these on top of our cabbage steaks when they come out of the oven, along with some herbs. So I like to finish it off with some fresh herbs. I've got parsley here and I'm removing most of the stems. I just want the leaves basically. And then I'm gonna add some of my favorite herb, basil. This adds so much flavor, it's great. So I'll roll up those leaves, those basil leaves and chop it up. And then we'll just sprinkle the herbs over the top of all the steaks. These are so delicious. I'm telling you, crunchy on the outside, nice and soft and tender and creamy on the inside. You are gonna love cabbage after you make this. I'm telling you, the bacon is awesome. The garlic is so mellow and just throughout the whole thing. The outside is a little crispy. I love those crispy edges. The inside is nice and tender. It's moist. It is just something you've gotta try. Now I have another recipe for you that I think would go great with this. It's my turkey thighs in cooked in the Instant Pot. I'll leave a link for you over here and you can check that out. That's a pretty quick recipe. This is relatively quick. You can put this together. You're gonna think it's dynamite. Thanks so much for watching everybody. Don't forget to subscribe to my channel, leave me a comment. And if you enjoyed the video today, go ahead and smash the like button for me. All right everybody, we'll see you next time.


before time and space. The world and the universe we live in are in time and space. And there is outer space where spaceships travel to the moon. You experience time and the changing with the changing of day and night and different seasons.  But God made time. He doesn't grow or change. Allah is always and forever. Now the Imam explained and then the children asked how, but how close is God to us? He is beyond the earth and heavens and there are many of these. His knowledge and presence are everywhere at the same time. He is a throne like a king, but not any kind of a throne you could think of. He is above the throne and the heavens. But guess what? He's above the throne and the heavens, but he is still near to you than your own carotid artery. Not your jugular vein, which is here. The carotid artery is right here.  Now you can feel your heart beating because what's happening is from your heart, oxygen is being pumped up to your brain, right? And that's what you're feeling right there. If the heart wasn't bringing oxygen to your brain, you know you wouldn't live. So Allah is closer to you than that point you're feeling. You all got to have your fingers on your neck right here, pressing hard. Allah is closer to you than that, right? But this nearness God speaks of is not like any kind of nearness you all know. It's beyond what we can know. It's completely different. For example, we're sitting near each other.  You see how near your eyelid is to your eye, right? You can understand nearness, but Allah's nearness is completely different and beyond anything we can know with our minds that think, right? And then a little Abdullah said, so there are different limits to what we can understand with our brains. Indeed said the Imam to know God, one has to open one's heart to special knowledge that seems to go beyond our understanding. Now you see this now once upon a time in China, right? A man came to a great sage and he said to this sage, which is a wise man, a sage, he said, Oh wise man, I want you to show me God. And the wise man said, how can I light a candle to show you the sun? In other words, our minds are like little candles, right? Can a little candle show the light of the sun? No, because our minds, our reasoning is very small and it can't do that. So you have to remember that your reasons, your reasoning can't understand everything, right? Only, only our special spiritual hearts, the ones you all are polishing, only these can be open to real knowledge. What we can come to know about God and his qualities is through his names, who all have heard the 99 names, right? Like the merciful, the perfect, the all powerful, and the name Al-Malik, the king, but he rules all the worlds, even the ones we've seen. Yeah, the worlds, even where the angels are and the Quran mentions, right? The face and hand of God, but these aren't like ours. They're just examples to help us understand. He created everything and he knows everything. But you know what, children? He is lovingly given you who he loves so much, exactly what each of you need to be near him. And it's different for each one of you. That's why you should never envy what somebody else has. I wish I had this. I wish I lived where they did. I wish I had their kind of car. You never want to do that because Allah has given each one of you exactly what you need in order the kinds of trials and blessings that you need to draw close to him. So little Yusuf exclaimed, oh, now I see what's going on. We don't have to worry ever because God has put everything in perfect order for us. As long as we try to do what God asks us to do and do the right thing toward others every day in our lives, then we will be doing what God wants us to do. We'll be fine if we keep trying to be good. He is always with us, caring for us. No need to worry. We can trust the law. Zaynab remembered, what you are explaining to us, dear Imam, reminds us of your own life story we children will never forget how one day when you were teaching, Allah s.w.t took your voice right out of the middle of your lesson and no words were coming out. Now what is this? You see children, this was because Allah wanted Imam al-Ghazali to go on the long trip and to discover being near to him through being humble, right? And so he took away his voice. You could say, oh, that was a terrible thing that happened to him. Well, remember when we did the story of the boy and the horse, when we did the book of knowledge, maybe good, maybe bad. So then Omar added, but if that scary trial Imam al-Ghazali had not happened to you, you wouldn't have gone on your long journey, which ended with your writing, your wonderful books just for us. That story reminds us that we don't have to be afraid or worry that God is always near and protects us in many special and different ways. And usually kids without us even noticing every minute he's protecting us and giving us what we need. And you know what? We don't even notice it. We're just so busy, you know? Thank you children said Imam al-Ghazali. You were right. We need to be at ease because God is managing everything. Even if it doesn't seem that way, he's giving us the best possible care and love at every single second.  The Imam said, oh, but he does. He is even aware of a tiny atom, a seed blowing in the wind or a speck of floating dust moving in the air. He knows all secrets and even my dear children, your innermost thoughts and what your hearts are feeling. He is always here with you. Nothing can happen that he has not already decided whatever Allah wishes to happen in this world and in the world of the angels will happen exactly as he chooses. Now, now we hear about often that God hears and sees and speaks. So Omar said, can God see us now and hear everything we are saying? Yes Omar, he does this without having eyes or ears. Remember, he can see a black ant crawling on a black rock in the darkest part of night without eyes and it doesn't matter how far away a sound is. He can hear it, even if it's on the other side of the world, children. God isn't like us in any way. Glory be to God. And when he speaks, he does so without a tongue or lips. He has sent books to us through messengers, prophets like Moses and Jesus and the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him, peace and blessings be upon all of them. Moses could hear a speech without there being a letter or spoken sound. Maha said, but we can use our tongues to recite and say the verses of the Quran, can't we? And we can even memorize God's words in our hearts too. Isn't that amazing? Imagine children that we can say God's words. This must be the highest and most important thing people can do. The Imam went on. Well said Maha, God doesn't need to do anything but he's able to create everything and so he did. We wouldn't be here unless he had brought us all into being. God also made the heavens, the earths, the angels, the animals. You know what he did, children? He said be and it was. Well, all of you say with me. Everyone say it. Be and it is. All right. And everything came into being. Otherwise it wouldn't exist. So God is very wise and just. If I say you are wise, I mean you usually understand things very deeply. If you're a wise person, a wise grandfather, it means you usually know the best thing to do in every situation if you're wise. When we say a law is just, we mean he is always fair, right? But sometimes we might not be able to understand his fairness. This is because his justice is not like ours. We may think something that has happened to someone isn't fair. Maybe someone in our family is very ill. Maybe people died in an earthquake but a law knows everything about each of our lives and which blessings and which trials are most needed to bring about the highest invest in our hearts. So if something that hasn't happened, if something that has happened doesn't seem fair to you kids, you just need to trust God's wisdom over all things. Just trust. Yes. If I'm ever sad that I'm learning something and I want to do something else, I just think that I'm the chosen one that Allah chose me to learn about me in this blessing so then I get happy. You are so wonderful.  I just love getting to know you. This is such a pleasure. So Bilal said, of course, if Allah made each thing and each one of us in a perfect way, everybody, and then we don't think what happens is fair, that's not very smart of us. Is it? No, said Hadija. Our minds and brains are very tiny. Remember like the candle, right? How could we know what Allah has planned to do with each of our lives and to help each of our golden hearts? But look at our beautiful world. Whatever he makes has a special beauty. Look at the elephant. Look at the goose swimming. Look at that beautiful lion and those sheep, right? Everything has a special purpose. And if we can't understand why things happen, we can certainly trust our Lord and maker, right? What an amazing universe he is designed. Oh, the children all said so true.  Look how he forgives all the people who somehow forgot him and forget him and end up doing wrong. And the Imam Ghazali said, and also children who went on, Allah gives special wondrous rewards that we don't even deserve for simply doing what he has asked of us. He has asked us to pray and fast. And of course, he has asked us to polish the dust off our shining hearts, right?  Isn't that true children?  Yes, they cried out. We have been polishing our hearts. After reading your book of knowledge, we decided to draw hearts and then place colored dots on them, which represent the different kind of dust we each need to polish away. Qassem explained, yesterday I was able to rub off some of my arguing and complaining dots. And yesterday I erased my dot for not sharing. I feel much better. We don't want these dots which come from our low selfish, not real selves to hurt our real shining selves, our golden hearts. And then Abdullah said, but Imam, how do we know what God wants us to do? When we know and understand so little, how do we know, how do we know this? Ah, explained Imam al-Dazali. That's exactly why Allah sent prophets like Abraham, Noah and Moses to us who brought his ideas and words to us.  These wonderful prophets and messengers have told all the people from the beginning of time what is true. These prophets have brought us special messages from God. Our Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him brought us the Quran. Maha replied, yesterday you explained what it means when we say, La ilaha illallah. There is no God but God. And you talked about who God is. Right. Thank you Maha. But did you know that your faith is not complete without saying and understanding the second half of the shahada? This is the statement, a statement of what we believe to be true, the shahada. Muhammadur Rasulullah. You see it right here in calligraphy children. Muhammad is the messenger of God. And the children said we say these words a lot but we don't actually know their deeper real meaning. Oh, there are many, many levels of meaning hidden in these words. Here are some of the inter-special beautiful things which you are really saying when you say Muhammad is the messenger of Allah. All right. Here's some of the things. He came not just to us but to the peoples in all the world as well as to the jinn who live in another very different dimension. Each time a law sends another message or revelation to the people of the world. He confirms or states once again all that is true. As hundreds of years go by people may forget some of his message and become a bit confused. So over time he kindly repeats to humankind his perfect teaching and this comes to people all over the world in their own languages and in ways they can best understand. Allah doesn't leave anyone out. The Quran says we have sent to people at all times religion in their language. Qasem added oh Imam this is even true in our own daily lives something is explained to us and it's clear and then after a while we need it repeated. Allah's final and most recent message is now kept safely as the Quran. So you can see why we love the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him. He was completely pure like a child and even though he couldn't read or write the words of Allah came through the archangel Gabriel to him. You see here we're seeing an image of the wings of Gabriel and that is the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him. He's in the little cave of here little cave in the Mount of Herah outside of Mecca and so the angel began the Quran and brought it to his he received the Quran on his heart that's children why your hearts are so important. So Gabriel came to him and then the Prophet memorized the passages just as they were revealed directly to his heart and these words were recorded written down as the Quran and have continued to be memorized since that time. The Arabic language itself has many levels of inner meaning each root may have like kataba and he wrote each of those three letters and those roots have meaning upon meaning and as you grow older you will learn all of these deep meanings. So the second half of the shahada in it we are reminded that when we say Muhammadur Rasulullah that we believe what our Prophet has transmitted to us about this life we are in now and the next life that comes after we die. Now here's some scales but Allah is so very merciful that the scales which he made to weigh our good and bad doings for deeds are very kind to scales on the one side where the page is listing our good deeds are placed Allah has already added a lot of extra good deeds.  He has already removed a lot of silly bad deeds from that pan right. The Imam continued to explain children Alis and carefully we're now talking about what happens when you die. So after we die we've just been buried two special beings named Munkar and Nakir they will ask each one of you these questions. Who is your Lord? What is your religion and who is your prophet? Miriam exclaimed well we already know what that those answers don't we? Allah is our Lord, Islam is our religion and our prophet is named Muhammad. The children said is that all which the Imam nodded. Yes that's all you will be asked. Imam al-Ghazali added and what happens in this life if you do something very bad or wrong? Ahmad spoke up in order to make sure we don't keep on doing bad things our parents or teacher may punish us. This gives us a little time to think about how bad our behavior was and to change our ways. So children who are all listening in and the ones who may say this later as a recording this is your homework assignment. I want you all to get make a little scales you get two little cardboard boxes you see like this and hang them on a hanger and then one box it's called the naughty the naughty doings that you don't want to do and then the good deeds and then you can collect little stones little little pale light colored stones you can put in the good deed one and then you can find sort of darker pebbles or something like that maybe M&Ms and you can put those in the other one right and then you will see you will discover that your good deeds actually are weighing more than your bad you're going to feel good about this so I want every one of you to do this it's just like coloring the dots on your hearts right what you've been drawing and doing this and doing your dots on your heart these are just reminding you to find more and more ways to polish your hearts and make them shiny right the dirty stones that we pile on our toy scales will be like the dots for being angry or lazy or selfish right but good manners are like good deeds if you have good manners if you're polite if you say hello and salamu alaykum and stand up but then adult comes into the room you know that that having good manners what that really means is putting the other person first ahead of you it's so easy to do you know helping mother is putting her before playing putting her first so what you do when you have good manners is you're putting the other person first letting someone play with your toys is also good manners and so after you answer the questions of munkar and nakir all right they've asked you and they've asked you those questions guess what happens next everyone there's a thin bridge the hero is like a hair or a thin blade and you're gonna have to cross it and see just falling to the hell well they're just but only the worst people fall I wouldn't worry about it right you're trying you're trying to reach your home the next world that's waiting for you so don't worry you know only the people who don't believe in a law and who do really terrible really horrible deeds right so don't worry about it all right I don't want any of you worried the important thing is you have a wonderful marvelous time polishing your hearts now you've got to cross the bridge you're across the bridge and then you'll come to an immense watering basin it's called called al-hawd al-marud and this is the pool of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and you come to this great pool this little girl is lying there thinking about it right and this is the place where those who believe in God and his messengers get to have a drink of this very special water that's whiter than milk and sweeter than honey and once you drink from this you will never be thirsty again you'll always be completely satisfied and guess what's around this pool right it's so large this pool everybody and I want you to remember this this is what you're learning it would take an entire month at least 30 days to cross this to cross this pool but around it are little tiny drinking cups and these little jugs that are all the way around the edge right there are as many stars as there are in the heavens and then you get to drink from one of these little jugs and you know where this water comes from from one of the rivers from the garden of paradise called al-kawthar which means abundance it will never end I'm sure you all have heard the the surat al-kawthar in the atanakal kawthar I bet some of you already have memorized that one so children at a time right at a time when when um your account is finally taken you know you're his sab the addition is taken and all your good and bad doings are added up those who who have gone who have already become near to Allah will go directly to the garden of paradise Muslims will be asked what they did how their prayers were talk about their fasting their kindness and the way they treated others we must always feel when we also have to feel by the way in our hearts sure about the excellence of our prophet's companions the prophet's companions abu bakr othman umar and ali radi allah on him so aghazali tells you now remember he we've been talking about your golden heart in this particular story in the book of book in the book of belief book of talhi ghazali tells us that that uh learn that the ideas that we are learning the good ideas that you're learning are like little seeds planted right here you see right here in your heart I want everyone put your hands everyone put your hands right on top of your hearts right now and I want everyone just to imagine inside there's a beautiful golden seed gleaming inside of you can you all feel it it's in there all right because you all are children you're very close to the fitra you know so you have golden seed in there and when god made each one of you he placed this inside of you and he also play made it possible for you all to understand what is possible and impossible and is and give you an inclination a leaning toward loving faith that's why you can't stand lying or cheating right it really hurts when you see people being unfair and not telling the truth why is this this is because your hearts know what is true it might be very hard to understand what the truth is but god has already put the knowledge inside of you and so you recognize what is true can't you all tell the difference between what is true and right and then what is false and wrong throughout your whole life knowledge is like a seed in your heart and you must strive to help it grow into a magnificent tree of knowledge now to help to help these golden seeds of true ideas grow inside of your hearts what can you do seeds need to be watered right and they need sunshine and they need to be cared for so the little boy Omar said oh i see what you're seeing about the meaning of watering the seeds in our hearts what we are learning what you and our parents and teachers are teaching us is like watering these shining special seeds the idea is you are being taught children everything you're learning from your teachers and going to school and your parents and from Imam al-Ghazali's books all of these are watering your special seeds these these ideas you know will help you become stronger and as you grow as the seeds grow yes go ahead please i'd love your comment i just wanted i just wanted to tell you um uh that i home school oh that's wonderful i'm so glad you home school that's really good yeah kindergarten oh that's wonderful aren't you aren't you lucky aren't you really you're so blessed really you're fortunate that your parents can make that possible for you you know in fourth grade oh my goodness oh that's wonderful you're that was zahra right yeah my brother home schools too oh thank you zahra for telling us this that's really wonderful so i'm sure all the wonderful things you're learning these are like watering the golden seeds the ideas that are in your heart are becoming stronger and growing because you they're getting all kinds of support and sunshine from all the teaching you're getting at home that's really wonderful so um um think of it this way the first things you are learning are like planting seeds in your heart so how can you water them so they get very very strong okay some of the ways you can water them is do your prayers at regular times you can study the Quran and hadith you can sit with beautiful elders with your grandparents and lovely people in your community who are at peace with themselves and with the loss upon a watt to Allah and you can try and be peaceful like them look at them and see if you couldn't start to imitate them remember in the last book we were told in the book of um hajj that when you're circumambulating the Kaaba you you're you're following along with the angels who are in the next world the the alamo malakut you're circumambulating with them imitating them and and then gazali said we become like who we imitate so if you see beautiful people who are kind and very noble imitate them right so all of these kinds of things are going to help to water your seeds until they grow and become stronger and stronger and turn into a goodly tree the Quran speaks Quran verse surah 14 a goodly tree whose roots are firm and branches are in heaven this is what your knowledge is like like a beautiful tree so look if if the tree look at here's this little boy right he's got a little plant growing he said uh these good ideas growing in this boy's heart are becoming a great tree you could color this it's in your workbook by the way that you have this comes with your uh with book two it's the workbook you can add fruit all the good that comes from your good ideas right so if the tree began growing from a seed right which god which god gave us a seed of true ideas and if we listen care and with love to what our teachers and parents say now everyone listen to what your teachers and parents are telling you right if you listen to them in that way the tree will be watered when you listen to your parents and your family and to your imam it will it will water your little plant and it will grow from what it learns and one day look look how big your tree will become big big big and beautiful from your beautiful ideas and if you live your life with these beautiful ideas that you're learning you'll be able to do really good things you know coming from a strong tree see look here's here's the little boy and you can see that little plant is going to become a great tree and look at him as a grown-up person see what a beautiful noble person he'd become because he kept nourishing the ideas the good ideas and trying to do them everything he was taught so we people can be strong like strong beautiful trees and when we do good things these not only help other people right doing things for other you know good doing good but it helps polish our own hearts at the same time so you see the fruits that come from good learning and good doing are not just helping us to have good lives but they're also helping us get ready for the next beautiful world where we will all be going together right and then what the children said but how do we even begin to help our little trees grow we are only children when we are little here's some things you can do children when we are little we can memorize verses from the Quran and things our beloved prophet peace and blessings be upon him said some of the hadith while we are small it's easy to memorize it's hard for someone my age but you all it's easy to learn things by heart this is the perfect time for you to learn these beautiful passages and plant them in your heart ready to grow you may not understand all the words yet or what they mean but later you will but what you need to do is get these beautiful Quranic passages memorized in your heart remember these are the words the sainah Gabriel the angel Gabriel said you'll be you'll be reciting those very words in your heart angelic right the little boy Balal said I have been I have been given a life and this is my own garden to take care of my teachers and my parents are giving me seeds to plant in the middle of my garden and also they're giving me advice about how to keep my garden weeded and watered Imam al Ghazali speaks about weeding you've seen weeds outside the weeds get around your plants and flowers and they kill them off they strangle them right and then the boy Ahmed said the weeds smother little plants and try to kill them so children we must watch carefully out for thoughtless doings which are like bad deeds be on alert watch all the time if you start doing something silly and ridiculous and naughty realize it's like a weed it's a weed trying to strangle your beautiful little good growing plants and Imam al Ghazali said your life children is a gift that God gives to you now children suppose you gave your very best friend a nice gift and that friend threw it on the floor and just crushed it and stepped on it how would you feel if that happened children wouldn't that be terrible if you gave your friend something and they just threw it on the ground and stepped on it so so imagine a law has given you this beautiful life and all these possibilities right so you don't want you don't want to waste your lives that these your lives have been given to you by God so you don't want to waste them these are your lives and you don't want to throw them away you want to use them for what they have been intended a law wants you all to return to him pure and happy as you are right now and to enjoy beautiful beautiful lives we're just at the end here so just ending right now so I want want to wind up so Imam al Ghazali reminds you everybody he says children don't waste your time by getting into a lot of arguments about religion sometimes parents and people and scholars they argue over they go on and on arguing about different points right they discuss endlessly and they argue right and sometimes they get full of pride and then they start disliking other people for different ideas Imam al Ghazali says and he wrote these books not for children by the way he wrote these for people our age and scholars he was telling them not to do it but you're finding out now about these ideas so you won't do them either what you won't all right so he says focus on what you are learning and on doing good right and on being kind and thoughtful don't be angry or upset be happy be the happy people full of shining light that you already are and he said sometimes it might happen you know it might happen that someone has misunderstood something in religion right and your parents very kindly very sweetly and calmly will tell them what is correct you know yeah not not in a mean way you know and in that way they are able to help a person who might be full of doubt always use gentle words right don't feel proud right when you're if you really want to be helpful be gentle and not proud the Quran our holy book is filled with good reasons that can help people understand all right let's here's an example there have been some people who who have not believed that we will have a next life after we die all right children I'm sure you will run into many kids who say I don't believe that there's a next life I don't believe there's a next world after we die this is all there is there people who actually think like that but you know what the Quran says it's explained it explains that that God who created everyone in the first place right can bring them back he can bring them back to life again that means if a lot created people in this world and he brought us into this world then certainly he can bring you into the next world too I mean that would be easy that's pretty clear said Yusuf it makes sense that if God made us and brought us into this world right why wouldn't it be easy for him then to bring us into the next world the one which comes after the Garden of Paradise and added maha excitedly we learn from your book of knowledge that we have a false lower self or ego the nafs alamara it only thinks about itself and not others this is where the black dots come from right this lower part of us is selfish and greedy and wants to show off to others how good we are this low false it's not who we really are this low false self also forgets who we really are our real beautiful selves the real selves that are completely happy that low self which pretends to be who we really are has to be right and win out all the time it's very embarrassing seeing people like that who always have to win out and are you know not nice children you have to stay aware of your three selves right right to stay as of your three selves so whatever happens in your life you will be able to turn that into something that will help you in many ways and make you peaceful and happy just watch your three selves the lower self that's not you the nafs alamara the selfish means separated egoic self and then your nafs alawama says oh no that's the wrong thing to do and the nafs alamut to my inna is your real self just when you see yourself getting upset or being silly just look and say oh that's not that's the lower the lower self so akhmat explained oh my goodness and we know it's not easy to do this to be our real true selves it's very hard look at the story of imam al ghazali we saw how hard it was for you imam al ghazali you noticed when you were a very famous teacher that you were proud and enjoyed being famous and smart and then Allah kindly took away your voice so you couldn't teach anymore and he let you become a humble janitor you see in the picture here children there he is sweeping a humble janitor Allah honored him by taking him from being rich and famous and powerful he was honored by bringing him to this beautiful state where he was humble instead of full of himself right so once you you get so children once you get empty of all of your stuck up ideas you can become pure and full of light and then you will you'll be able to understand about the deep and very important meanings of every detail of our religion at the end all the little children in the story they said oh imam al ghazali bless you and thank god that you have been able to go through every tiny detail of our religion and explain the beautiful meanings for us the real and true inner meanings that so many people no longer know or understand praise Allah you have made us love our prayers and want to understand all that god has asked of us you are giving us step by step away full of meaning to love god and our faith and that ends the book of belief and isn't that beautiful the children are thanking imam al ghazali and we're thanking him too right now it's no different we're not children pretending we see him we are who we are and we can thank him because he is always present in his teachings and all the wonderful things he is helping us with so I just wanted to say you know I imagine I finished this in exactly an hour like I was supposed to but I would love any of you to have any comments or questions or anything at all it's been a pleasure to teach you these um six evenings I want to tell you though to have gone through six hour classes with you and given you what took eight years to do I it's really been too condensed and I feel very bad but now you've had an overview of the ideas and you can slowly read the books do the workbook pages do the activities have fun and really learn everything that you've been presented with for your very own hearts so I give you many many flams any any questions um why does a host keep wanting me to unmute why does what why does the host host keep I don't know now I can't even hear you oh because I was on mute why does the host keep wanting me to unmute I don't know is this the last session yes this is it we're saying goodbye but I'll come out and visit you again in the in California can I come out to the muslim community center again and see you all and we can sit around and do some art projects play some games should we do that yeah when there's no coronavirus yeah that's right that would be when the coronavirus is gone yeah yeah and Aisha I want you to keep helping uh uh brother Munir because I have a question yes yes yes yes scene yes what are weeds that you talked about they were bad deeds right well yeah everybody does some bad deeds don't we even if we're proud we're proud or mean or we don't share those are the kinds of things we're talking about thank you you're welcome yesine anymore something you can all do if you go on the children's interactive gizali children's dot org website if you go to things to do you'll find a section where children have sent in videos I wish you all would make videos of doing the wrong thing and then doing it right but one little boy out of lego's made a little lego car going along wait I can get rid of I can stop sharing here oh yeah oh here I am yeah so he made a little toy car and it's going along like this he's going and it hits a lego tree and he's dead and then you made out of lego's a little gray a little grave and then he has the two beings coming to question him who is your lord what is your religion it was really funny I hope you all will go online sometime and on the website and there's a what it starts with a beautiful heart walking along and it's got a brush and then jealousy jumps out and it brushes off jealousy and then you can go and read the books like the the flip book that I hope you read of the mamal gizali's life there are other books and there are many things you can do and I would love it if you all became part of the community and made little videos like some of the hilarious videos you all will see and you can send in one little girl from Pakistan she's from sial cut pakistan and she has pets white peacocks and she had a beautiful silver dress and she had her dolls go to a doll luncheon she brought them in a doll car and then when they left they talked badly about the hostess they said oh her food was horrible she didn't look very pretty and then they thought what did we do we were backbiting so they turned around and they went all the way back and they went to her and they said we are sorry forgive us we we apologize for saying something wrong behind your back but some of them are really some of them are really funny there's the one of the two girls that are are playing around and they they're doing cartwheels and one of them falls in and breaks the mother's vase and they said oh mother is going to be so angry so upset and then mother is coming and mother walks in and said who broke my vase and they said oh little Ahmed there the little baby boy on the on the couch he went no no and then the girls thought what did we do so they go into the mother and they say mother we lied we're sorry we broke it we will try to fix it but we want to tell you we we apologize and the mother loved them very much for being honest and asking forgiveness but you could make films like this and you go and see what kids have said and you're just gonna laugh you're gonna really laugh so I hope you all will do that like little plays with my friends yes you can take an iphone and make little videos go and look at a lot of them and you'll get ideas what you can do they're really funny I hope you do that yeah and I hope you get a chance to go through all the different workbooks and fill in the blanks and and have your mother go through the activities and maybe for each chapter come up with some really fun activities you can do you know one of the great activities is I think we talked about this last time is that um good thoughts and bad thoughts remember we talked about the good thoughts that that the angels have in your mind and if you have bad thoughts it's like barking dogs scaring me scaring the angels away that if you have a good thought you're supposed to act on it right away don't wait there's what's we see like the lower things coming and say maybe you have the good thought I'll go and help mommy now and then the thoughts say oh go and watch tv instead if you can catch if you have a good thought quickly do it because the bad thoughts from the lower self are trying to ruin everything for you so really watch look at your good thoughts in the second you have one like go and do it well I've loved being with you but this isn't the end this is just the beginning um let's just check in you know maybe next year we'll get together you all are older and you can tell me what you've learned from your work and I all everybody please write to me please send videos be in touch anytime anybody else any mom or dad maybe I could try making videos I would love it if you did you promise me you'll do that that would be so beautiful inshallah I I have some Minecraft characters I could do could you do that oh that would be wonderful that's wonderful it's Jabriel your name is Jabriel isn't it yeah I love that name isn't that a beautiful name it's beautiful the name of an archangel I mean isn't that wonderful what's on your t-shirt what's on your shirt uh a monster truck oh what a monster truck I thought you said that yeah look at that a monster truck oh my goodness thank goodness well let's see uh uh Zahra would you like to say something I think my video will be funny because I'm kind of a funny person anyway oh I can't wait I can't wait that'll be great and what about Hayan are you there maybe not well should we call it a night she'll she'll she'll I go off and finally go to sleep it's been wonderful being with you all and you're just a real family to me so I'm sending you love and so many salams thank you for teaching thank you thank you so much thank you so much thank you and I love you all thank you for taking the time out of your day to do this for us oh thank you what a nice thing to say thank you thanks I come well I like him so bye bye


7 things a narcissist will never tell you. If they told you the truth from the beginning, you never would have got involved with them. You would have walked away, which is why there is certain information they withhold from you. There are certain things they don't tell you about themselves. One, they lack empathy. They cannot share your feelings or experience. They cannot put themselves in your shoes. They don't care about what you're going through. They have no consideration for you, which is how it's so easy for them to exploit you because they're selfish, so they don't see anything wrong with them willfully causing pain to you because they just see it as though you're weak. They see your kindness as a weakness. They think they're more important than you are. They think they're better than everyone because they exaggerate their own abilities and accomplishments. They're very arrogant. They look down on people because they think they're special and important, which results in them displaying a strong sense of entitlement where they expect you to provide them with privileges and special treatment but they will never do the same for you. They need supply. They can't live without it. They will do anything to get it. They need constant attention and validation. They need people to praise and compliment them. They need to be in the spotlight and that is why they can never be loyal because their attention hoars and one person could never be enough for them. Four, they cannot be vulnerable or intimate, cannot establish a deep connection with you. They cannot hold a meaningful conversation because they don't see you as a separate person with their own feelings and needs. They see you as an object that exists to serve them. They see you as something that they can use.  Five, they cannot be blamed for anything. They can't deal with accountability. They can't deal with the consequences of their actions so they will blame you or someone else because nothing can ever be their fault. They can never be to blame which is why you will never get an apology. You will never get a genuine attempt to make things right because they will never accept their wrongdoing. It will always be someone else's fault. Six, it's all a scam. Everything they do is just a trick. A game. It's not designed to benefit you in any way. It's meant to serve them and help them to advance to a higher position and it's often done at your expense. They're only involved with people if they have something they want.  They see you as an object that exists to serve them so they only care about what you can do for them or give to them. Seven, they're insecure, arrogant and grandiose but that's only to compensate for their low self-esteem. Deep down they feel like they're not enough and that is why they have to manipulate and exploit other people and it's also why they hate being questioned and confronted on their behavior. Thank you for watching. If you found this video helpful please give it a thumbs up. Share your thoughts in the comment section. Hit the subscribe button to receive the notifications. If you would like to support the channel you can donate at paypal.me slash NARC Survivor. You can book up one of one of me on my website. It's NARC Survivor.co.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.