I don't have an official Wikipedia page, but there's a bunch of these, like, internet celebrity pages. And, um, this is one that my niece texted me. And it's really weird. I haven't, like, gone through it yet. But it says, celebrities. Mike Figueroa at a wiki biography. Age, husband, ethnicity. Uh, dating.  Who is Mike Figueroa? Born under the sign of cancer. Uh, Mike is 31, so they haven't updated it. 31 year old Caucasian American podcast host. Political scientist. I'm not a political scientist. Um, I was doing political science work, but I wasn't a political scientist, unfortunately. But I do appreciate them really bumping up my, uh, my, uh, profile. Uh, activist and commentator. His progressive and somewhat extreme. How are my views extreme? My views are not extreme. I mean, in the context of American politics, sure, maybe, but somewhat extreme views. Come on. Best known for his now globally famous podcast. They make me sound so huge. Like, this is like, uh, they're trying to inflate my ego. I feel like this makes me feel more important than I really am. Uh, the Humanist Report. Mike has managed to stir up controversy. No, I haven't. Unless they've been following the, uh, Twitter sphere lately, although I haven't really done much to participate in that and gained the attention of many politicians and public figures. He began his podcasting career in 2015 and has expanded his influence on the political scene in the United States. I don't actually agree with that. I don't think I've expanded my influence. Um, yeah, if you're extreme, the rest of political YouTube is hardcore, right? I feel like I'm not extreme. Yeah, I held to be saying it's official. Mike is a political scientist. I mean, that was the intended goal. And part of me, like, wonders in an alternate reality. If I never, uh, left the PhD program and started a podcast, what it would be like, like, would I still enjoy doing political science stuff? I wonder.  Right. I love how they used the, uh, Christmas photo. Uh, just a simple reminder that this article is created and owned by biographytribune.com. Article cannot be republished in any other pages or documents. Copyright is protected by the Jesus Christ, dude.  Are they going to like copyright claim me for, for reading an article about myself? That actually worries me a little bit.  Oh, so this is, okay, I was wondering where they got this picture from. This is from the Facebook page for the Humanist Report. Um, okay. Early life and education.  Uh, I wouldn't agree with that. Um, I don't have a lifelong infatuation with politics. I got into it when I was like around 18. Casually. And I'm interested in sociology, but I'm not like infatuated at all with sociology. So I'm wondering where they got this from. Um, hang on one sec. Although he hasn't specified anything about his place of birth. Uh, we know that Mike was born in the United States. Very true. And has a younger sister who is married. Okay, so it does say the sister who is married, but this is the first time that I've seen younger sister. I actually have multiple siblings. I have two sisters, two brothers. They're both older than me though. So this is interesting. But otherwise he has always strived to keep his private life hidden from the public eye. I mean, I haven't like strived to keep it hidden, but I guess that they can make that assumption perhaps. Um, which makes sense given the notoriety he has gained from some of his views and statements.  Like I, I think that look, comparatively speaking, my views are pretty milquetoast, right? Like I don't think that I'm as extreme as they're making me out to be. His parents' identities are unknown, but Mike himself stated that they are the biggest reason he has an activist's mindset. I don't, have I said that? Maybe I did, but now I don't know. Maybe. Yeah, extremist recluse, Mike figurado. That, that is, yeah, that is accurate. This is just your borderline terrorist, right? It feels really weird to read this, but I think that because it's like the 300th episode, this is kind of a cool thing, like to celebrate the show and where it's gone and hear it from like someone else who's not really in our like sphere of things, not in our political social circles. Uh, while we don't know which college Mike went to, it's been confirmed that he obtained a bachelor's and a master's degree in political science. That is true. As of mid-2019, he is on his way to earning a PhD in public policy. His inherent will to be impactful and excellent theoretical knowledge in politics and sociology were the perfect foundations for his career. That's kind of sweet, right? Um, I'm no longer on my way to getting a PhD. I'm pretty sure they would welcome me back, but that ain't happening. Areas of expertise, according to his bio on the human support website. Okay, so this is where they got some of the information. Let me see. Is this, uh, okay. Yeah, so this is still up.  It could be all outdated, but, uh, Mike focuses mainly on international affairs and comparative politics, specializing in U.S. foreign policy as well as social movements and activism in the Middle East and North Africa. So this is true, but in academia. So my masters was a focus of international relations and comparative politics. And I wrote my master's thesis on the Middle East and North Africa and social movements in particular LGBTQ plus movements, but I don't talk about this stuff on the show and that's because unless you follow it very, very closely, uh, and you keep up with it, it's really easy to lose touch with what's happening. So I don't really like, I don't really talk about that. I keep it domestic. I try to stay in my own lane.  True. That's true. I can't confirm or deny actually. I'm gonna, I'm gonna walk that back a little bit. Uh, a favorite subject of his are us elections. Oh God. No, they're not. He devotes a significant amount of airtime on his podcast. That doesn't mean it's my favorite.  In addition to his knowledge of current events figure it has extensive expertise in political philosophy. No, I do not have expertise in political philosophy. I have an interest in political philosophy. I do not have extensive expertise. I appreciate them saying that, but I absolutely do not campaign finance laws and other forms of politically related legislature. Um, politically related legislature literature, maybe is what they meant to say. Um, campaign finance laws, not necessarily, I was going to write my dissertation on campaign finance, but I did not. So maybe that's where they like pluck that from. I wonder. Yeah, just, just claim all of this. Starting the human support and gaming gaining fame. I feel like that's like, okay, if I'm, if I'm like celebrity, as they say, it's like zealots celebrity, which is good because anything more than that would make me want to hide under a rock because I do not want notoriety. Contrary to popular belief. I mean, I'm streaming on Twitch right now. So, you know, it's I'm talking to an audience, but like being like a celebrity sounds horrible.  On June 15th of 2015, Mike decided to put his knowledge and experience to use by launching their first episode of the human support, which we just watched. From the beginning, it became clear that he had no intention of being neutral. See, because I'm an extremist. According to Mike himself, our primary goal is not to appear neutral, but to remain objective true. But we do not aim to strike a false balance between preposterous political positions, but instead strive to maintain ideological consistency across a broad spectrum of political issues. With such an attitude, Mike aroused a lot of viewers including garnering a lot of negative responses from mainly right wing and centrist media. I don't necessarily think this is true. I mean, I'm sure that I have garnered negative responses, but I haven't seen that much.  Well, you know what actually to be fair, what they may be talking to is, I don't know if you remember, but in 2016, one of my clips or something, I'm blanking on it. I was on Meet the Press with Chuck Todd. He had Bernie on for an interview, and I criticized Bernie because he wasn't standing up for Tim Konova or campaigning for Tim Konova because he was trying to appease Hillary Clinton. Turns out in hindsight, Bernie was right and I was wrong because Tim Konova is now a MAGA chud. Yeah. But they wrote about my video in an NBC News article, I think, and then Chuck Todd then read the quote from that article, I want to say. So actually, that might be what they're referencing. So I'm not going to dismiss it. Perhaps that's what they're referring to. But I mean, it's pretty isolated. You know, Senator, one of your supporters, Mike Figurito, host of Progressive called Humanist Report Podcast, and he was really upset at you personally because he actually thought you abandoned Mr. Konova. He thought, where were you? You didn't campaign for him. And he even said, look, that feeling you felt when Elizabeth Warren abandoned you and chose to run away from you during the Massachusetts primary, that's what Tim Konova is feeling right now. What do you say to him or any other Sanders supporters that feel as if you didn't do enough? Well, you know, there are a lot of things happening in this country and things happening in my own state and work that I have got to do. I can't do everything. I'm not sure, though. Let's see. During the 2016 presidential campaign, Mike voiced his support for Bernie Sanders, the then governor of the state of Vermont. No, Bernie Sanders was not the governor of the state of Vermont. That is incorrect. Bernie is the senator from Vermont. He was the mayor of Burlington, Vermont. On the Humanist Report, Mike posted a series of videos in which he elaborated on why Sanders was the ideal candidate for the progressive times we live in. His YouTube channel then attracted many like-minded progressive individuals who shared their support of the left-leaning Democratic candidate. It is widely believed that the coverage from the Humanist Report and similar podcasts largely contributed to Sanders gaining prominence, Jesus, in a short time span. I mean, I would love to take credit for Bernie Sanders' rise, but that's not actually the case. When I started my podcast, he was already kind of like on the rise. But I mean, if they want to give me credit and say I'm a political scientist, I'll take it. The now famous, I love that they're using all these words. They're like really, they're talking me up and I really appreciate that. But unfortunately, it's not warranted. The now famous podcast host got an offer to collaborate with Cenk Uger, the owner and CEO of the Young Turks Media House and YouTube channel. On many occasions, he voiced his support of Uger and the stances he expresses through his media. I wonder what this means. Twitter. This is one of my favorite videos of Cenk Uger. From Cenk Uger of all time, the only thing missing was a mic drop at the end. Dave Rubin said, is one of the biggest and most dangerous frauds in American politics currently. Despite being gay, he fosters a spread of homophobia. So this must have been like something. So Tom Carlson does is not. Okay, this was this was a base video. This was a base video. Um, let's see here. Where am I?  Is it right? Oh, after this partnership became official. Mike rose to perhaps be the most important voice in the net neutrality debate. Jesus, I wouldn't say that, right? I would not say that. If you don't start owning all these claims are going to be bad. They're making it seem as if like this merger between TYT and the human support is like comparable to Disney acquiring Marvel. That's not actually the case. So I joined TYT network in 2017 when Kyle recommended me to jank. He's like, Hey, you should, you should let Mike join. He is having issues with like copyright and he basically agrees with everything and he'd fit right in. So, um, yeah, I'm still a part of TYT network and it doesn't necessarily entail collaboration. Like they're saying, although I have like I was on the young Turks earlier this year and like, what was it like June? And that was the first time actually I was ever on the panel, but for the most part, um, they are my MCN. That's what TYT network provided. I don't know that TYT network exists anymore as it was, but they still do function as my MCN, which is multi channel network. And what that means is and these don't really exist that much anymore. What a multi channel network partner does is they kind of act as an attorney for you to YouTube. So you don't get a YouTube representative contact until you hit, I believe a million subscribers on YouTube. So since I'm too small to have a YouTube representative, I MCN with TYT shakes my head sell out. Yes, yes, indeed. So, um, you, you have to align with a bigger channel and join an MCN if you want protection from like copyright strikes and whatnot. So before like, before I had an MCN and before I had TYT as my MCN, I didn't like, I didn't have any like thing to do. Like I could tweet at YouTube on Twitter, but if I got a copyright strike, there's nothing I could do. But now because I'm part of TYT network, I can like contact Aaron who's part of TYT. Um, and he could elevate this and take this to the YouTube representative. So it's like MCNs are not really that popular anymore. Hence why I think TYT network in general, like I genuinely don't know if it exists. But once you hit one million, the need for an MCN basically goes away. Um, and I know that there was like a falling out between like Kyle and the young Turks and everything recently and I won't get into that. But since he's almost at like one million, he is going to get a YouTube rep. So that it, that does like really help because then you actually, if everything goes wrong, if your account gets like hacked or you get docs or something, like you do have someone from YouTube who will help you, which is really, really important. It's really nice to have, because you know, you're your own boss in this, in this field, you know, so you need to have someone to be able to like complain to. So it's nice to have that. But yeah, I don't know if there's, I don't think they're taking in network partners or anything like that. But yeah, I also, what's really nice is that like, if YouTube makes a policy change, they have the tendency to never ever ever tell anyone about it. It just happens. But if, if you have an MCN, then they, they, they tell their MCNs and MCNs then tell their partners.  Or if there's going to be some demonetization or a subscriber purge. So it's really nice to have that. I think that part of the reason why MCNs are not very popular anymore is because YouTube has basically, they have been more active on Twitter. So if there is an issue, you can tweet at them before it wouldn't really do much. But now they are pretty responsive at helping creators. And also MCNs take a pretty big cut. They take a lot of money from you. TYT doesn't, they take like five to 10%, 15% max of your, of my ad revenue. But normally like MCNs, when I first started, like when I gained like 10,000 subs, MCNs were like trying to get me to join and they wanted like 25 to 30% of my monthly income on YouTube. And YouTube already takes like a portion of ad revenue. As the government plan to legalize the separation of different information online, Figueroaido took a stand and posted a series of videos on the subject. Every segment and podcast episode of this went viral in a matter of days. True, true. I got a lot of views from that.  It was really cool. Although none of the videos that I posted about net neutrality hit the trending page of YouTube because I was checking. I mean, I was getting trending numbers, but they never did. They never did. Every, yeah. Okay. So we read that. Mike's efforts were so influential that Ajit Pai, the chairman of the Federal Communications Commission, played the video of his in which he openly criticized his pie and several Republican commissioners. That was actually really cool. That was based when they did the telecom prom and they played my video. That was awesome. What are Mike's political views? This is what I want to know because it's like they say or suggest that I'm an extremist, but what is it? Oh, I also want to get to this too. Personal life.  Who is his husband? Question. Answer. Mike considers himself politically independent, but has expressed his liking for socialism on several occasions. True. He is also anti establishment and supports several facets of libertarianism. Not true. I do not support libertarianism. Maybe like social libertarianism or like, I don't know. No. Policies Mike advocates are net neutrality, the abolition of public college tuition, federal legalization of marijuana and decriminalization of all drugs, as well as the closure of all military bases on foreign soil with the controversial nature of his views. Okay, those aren't, those are milk toasts. Like you named the most milk toast positions that I have. Like they could have cited, he wants to nationalize every single hospital in the United States. He wants to nationalize the fossil fuel industry. Like you could have really cited some more things if you wanted to like prove that I'm extreme, not that they were trying to like make an argument. But these are not extreme. These are very milk toast policies. I think maybe like US bases being closed. They think that that's more extreme. But I mean, it's not very, that's not extreme. Comparatively speaking, with the controversial nature of his views, Mike was the recipient of both praise and criticism during the 2016 presidential election. On 20 April 2019, he had his first interview with a presidential candidate when Andrew Yang appeared on the humanist board. Actually, the first presidential candidate I had on was Jill Stein back in 2016. I want to say. Recently, he also stated that he's in the process of writing two books. Yeah, that's not, I have not done anything. I did say that though at the time, but I just like stopped writing them and gave up. This was just my master's thesis, which I was going to publish but never did because I was lazy. And then this was a book that I started. This was going to basically lead to my PhD dissertation that I was planning and doing research for that I never started. But yeah, not, I don't know, like I'm too lazy to write a book right now. I have no interest in it. Maybe in the future I will, but like, I don't know what else to say other than I, you know, have already said on the show. Okay, since the beginning of his podcast and career, Mike has always been open about his sexuality immediately stating that he is an activist for gay rights. He never revealed the identity of his partner, but it is known that they have been together for a long time. True, true. They have been together for a long time and in 2017 married in a private ceremony. You know that because I tweeted about it, I think, right? Mike is also fond of animals and regularly features his cat in adopted kitten and his dog a pug on his Instagram. Yeah, well, yes. This is the star of our Twitch streams, ladies and gentlemen and NBs. Mike has big extended family with 16 nephews and he says, that is true. So it's interesting to me. By the way, now I have like 18 or 19. I've lost track. But they were correct about this. I think probably because I said it on Twitter at some point, but the younger sister who's married was incorrect. So it's interesting. He has at least one tattoo, technically true, technically true, which is on display when he's wearing a short sleeve t-shirt during the episodes of the Humanist Report. I wonder like this person probably doesn't know anything.  So he has one tattoo. I don't know. He wears glasses like they're trying to find out like what else is is possibly noteworthy. What is Mike figurado's net worth? I'm curious. According to the latest data from credible sources, Mike's net worth is estimated at well over one million as of 2019. God damn. Oh, oh, Lord Jesus. If that were true, folks, that would be wonderful, but that is not true. And what I will say is that the reason why I think that a lot of these articles are automatically generated is because if they don't necessarily know something about net worth, they'll automatically just fill it in with one to five million. Anyone who has like a semi large platform, it's one to five million. So I saw back in 2019 when Brianna Joy Gray was working for Bernie's campaign, one of the like libs on Twitter was trying to hypocrisy burn her and shared like an article saying this is your net worth one to five million. And like, I like respond that I'm like, they all say one to five million. Like if you have a YouTube channel with like at least 100,000 subscribers, that's like the default. This unfortunately is in core wrecked not even close, not even close accumulated largely through a large number of sponsorships incorrect. Don't do any sponsorships published articles never paid for anything that was published and guest appearances never paid for a guest appearance. He regularly appears on the rational national, the progressive voice and other prominent podcasts on YouTube shows. I have to disclose I have never been paid for an appearance on the rational national or progressive voice. But if they did pay, I'm sure that it would be upwards of hundreds of thousands of dollars in speaking fees. Yeah, yeah. If I man if I had like over a million, I'd be so nice because I would just pay off my student loan debt. That'd be amazing. That'd be amazing. But I think that probably any anyone like if you searched up like David Dole one to five million. In fact, let me let me let me see real quick. It'll just say the same thing for everyone. David Dole five million like David Dole is not worth five million. It's it's always like one to five million or one or five million. Let me see Kyle. So Kyle is estimated net worth of one million. How is David Dole five million, but Kyle is one million and I'm estimated well over one million. It's really interesting, right? Because Kyle in theory should be the most have the highest net worth if he's the largest and gets a lot more views than me and David Dole.  Yeah, so it's funny like when I when I when I when I saw Breanna Joy Gray get that like get that smear attempt. I was like, no, like I don't know if she realized it, but it's like it's all the same thing. Yeah, David is so much richer than Kyle. It's weird to see this because I wonder what they like what did they base this on and I don't think they base it on anything. I think they just say, well, okay, 100,000 subscribers as many views it must be like this much because like the things that they say it's like a large number of sponsorships which I don't do any sponsors. You all know that published articles don't I did like three for huffing and post on their contributor platform that it didn't get paid for and then guest appearances. We all go on each other's shows and none of us pay each other we just like re upload and monetize. So it is really interesting. Although I will say they might have got the perception that I have a large number of sponsorships because back in like circa 2016 2017 of the humanist report when the full episode would launch it the announcer guy would say sponsored. This is the humanist report sponsored by Amazon audible. And the reason why I said that is because I was part of the Amazon affiliate program. And most youtubers have little I mean I don't have it anymore I got kicked from the program years ago, but you can like have an Amazon link and then you could tell people to shop there and then you get a little bit of a cut. But the reason why I said sponsored by Amazon and audible is because I thought that you had to say sponsored. But actually me saying that I was sponsored by Amazon was a violation of their TOS, in my opinion but I thought I was like I was like following it and trying to be clear. But I only made I think I may like in total $100 from Amazon sponsorship so it's interesting. And even saying that is like a violation of TOS not that I would ever get back in the Amazon affiliate program. But yeah that that could be what they're basing it off of is what I'm thinking. Online presence as a distinguished online celebrity Wow. I don't know about that one bud. I don't know about that one. Mike heavily relies on his YouTube channel to reach his audience true in an immediate in an easy and immediate way as a mid 2019 the human support has 230,000 active subs with a total of 60 million unique views. I have no idea how much unique views we have now as a means of financing his research and podcast episodes Mike runs a patron account. I don't need to finance research. My my re my research is. Google. My bank space. I know in a roundabout way right now I'm getting the the Bezos bucks. See they kicked me out of the affiliate program but they're still giving me money through Twitch. Oh and there's one comment from will Gutierrez. I enjoy your podcast very much. This is really sweet. Oh, they I think they thought maybe this was written by me. I enjoy your podcast very much. I am 86 years old. Wow, nowhere near being a techie and forever foiled by occasional glitch glitches on my Google Pixel 4. This person sounds so cute and they're so so wholesome, which I will have to call Verizon to be bailed out of philosophically. We are not identical, but that is acceptable. We are two distinct individuals. I do share viewing your podcast with my wife of 66 years.  Most often at dinner table your insight on mostly all things are right on. Thank you. That's this is a really sweet person. This is a really sweet person. This just like made my day.  That's so wholesome, right? Like so wholesome.   Like, but to see this is really wholesome. Yeah, based boomer, right? Very sweet. Very sweet. Well, folks, I think that that is a we've done everything we could possibly do. Accomplish here. We found out that David Dole is very rich. He's a multimillionaire. Kyle only has one million like the peasant that he is. Even I have more than that. This is funny. Oh, see, this one is different. They have like age and height and stuff like that. Kyle Kalinsky is six foot tall. Oh, this one has quotes. See, this would be interesting to read. I say I'm done.   I love how these are the quotes that they provide. Love it.


I cannot believe that was at the goodwill for $2.49. Hey, Bolo Buddies, thanks for watching. All right, in this video, we are gonna talk about big money Bolo's items to be on the lookout for, items you can buy low and sell for a profit. I'm gonna tell you where they got it, what they paid for it, and what it sold for.  I posted Share Your Best October Bolo in my Bolo Buddies Facebook group and invited everybody to share their best Bolo item. A Bolo item is an item to be on the lookout for. All right, so the first one here bought this for $6 at Goodwill last spring, sold it for $55, didn't know exactly what it was, but took a gamble. How many of you buy things and you're like, I don't know what this is, but I think I can sell it? Guilty. It is a Phoenix RC Pro Simulator, V5 RC Flight Simulator software and remote. It's a Bolo. All right, here we go. This one comes from Bolo Buddies member, Kehoff-77. She is a Bolo Buddies member, which means she has joined Bolo Buddies memberships to be featured in this video. This is her eBay store, and I will also link it down below. In October, we found this pan at the Goodwill for $24.99. More than we usually spend on an item, sold in a couple of days for $110.99. Hexclad, H-E-X-C-L-A-D, is a brand to watch for. It is a 10-inch hybrid frying pan with the lid. Yeah, $24.99 is paying up for me as well, but if you know you can flip it quick for that kind of money, definitely worth it. This one is a Pristine George Kovacs MCM Swivel Half Dome Dimmable Chrome Desk Lamp. Something I would probably pass on because it would be hard to ship. However, this is pretty cool looking. I might have bought this for my husband. My husband likes, you know, different things. Unique and different if they have like a MCM look to him or like those old clocks, he loves those. He said, I found this at the Goodwill for $2.49 and sold it for $349.99. That is incredible. I cannot believe that was at the Goodwill for $2.49. That's amazing. Wow, that's a good looking desk lamp right there. Oh wow, look at this guy. What, what, what, what? I have never seen such a thing. I definitely probably would have picked it up, but look how gross it is. First time posting, we have been selling for about four months now. This was found in my mother-in-law's attic and once belonged to her husband. We listed it and had watchers immediately. Some really low-bought offers, but the comp supported 300. It was in the best of condition on the market besides a new and boxed one. So zero investment, helped mother-in-law clean out attic and also made 300 plus shipping. What is this thing? It is a inhumanoids and humanoids decomposed 1986, Osbro 14-inch vintage large figure. I think it's a toy. What on earth? Have you guys ever seen this before? Definitely be on the lookout.  I'm gonna have to say that I agree. It is weird. All right, Bolo Buddies member, Noni's Treasure House. This is her eBay store and she will be linked down below as well. I got this pokey little puppy trinket box at an estate sale along with several other boxes. This was so cute. The trinket was a little pokey little puppy book. It cost me $3 and sold overnight for $69. I should probably have auctioned it. There were none others listed and last one sold for about what I listed it for. And she did the, what do I always say? If there's no others listed, do an eBay auction first. There is nothing to lose by trying an eBay auction. But that's a fantastic return on your money. And she said, oh well, still a good sale. Yes, most definitely. And she's doing this because she watches my videos and she hears me say it all the time. Do an auction, do an auction, do an auction. It is a porcelain hinged trinket box. Great return on your money.  We all do it. I have done it. All right, here we go. Here we go. I think I have an Avon calendar listed. I probably need to. I can't remember if mine has the mouse or not. I have found probably five or six of these and they are always a bolo. It is an Avon advent countdown to Christmas calendar. The one I have listed, it may or may not have the mouse but I should probably take it down and re-list it because this would be a good time to sell this item and it may be a little stale because my items, I think I had three listed at one time. I got really, really lucky and found two with the Goodwill Benz and one at a church thrift store all within like the same time frame. I was excited. This bolo is on you and thanks to your always amazing, informative and often humorous videos. You think I'm funny here? Oh my goodness, you guys gotta come over to whatnot. We have so much fun.  And of course, I say things wrong and people in the chat get me going and it is a good time. So even if you don't wanna buy from me on whatnot, use that link down below, join whatnot, get your $15 to shop. You can use that with anyone but definitely come hang out in the chat. It is so fun. You get to see me mess up words live. You can make fun of me. It's okay. I don't care. It's a good time. It's a good time. So come over to whatnot and have some fun. All right. So she said, I got this on the second day of an estate sale. I made a huge pile of stuff I was buying and paid 60. So probably about a dollar for this. The Avon Advent Calendar brand new in the package. Couldn't believe it. Listed for 149. A girl messaged me a few questions. She said she had it as a kid. She then sent an offer and I accepted for 125. I could have held out, but part of the reason I love this is getting these items to people that really, it means something to them. I would have held out. I'm an awful person.  It depends on the message that I get. You can tell which people are playing you. You're like, I know that's a reseller and they're just trying to buy my item and resell it. You know those people and you know those people that really just are sending you a meaningful message. And it is hard sometimes to just not sell it to them for a discounted price because of what they have to say. So I get it, I get it. But if it was sealed in the original packaging, oh my goodness, yes, big money. All right, this Bolo was a bit of a surprise. I got this puzzle at a local humane society thrift store for $2. I looked up comps and was shocked. It's Charles Weissacki, Halloween puzzle. I listed for $139.99, lots of watchers even sent offers. Someone sent me one for $25, I didn't even counter. Figured way too far apart with what I wanted. But like you say, wait for the right buyer. Sure enough, two days later, full asking price of $139.99 and all my buyers pay shipping, very exciting find. Yes. And did she say this one was sealed? One thing about puzzles, I like to sell puzzles but I like them to be sealed up because I'm not counting pieces and I am not putting puzzles together. But yes, Halloween theme, definitely look that one up. Bolo Buddies member nooks, crannies and irresistibles found this in the back of a Catholic Charities Thrift Store on a bottom shelf pushed way to the back. I actually had to get on my hands and knees to see what it was. It had a pink tag marked $50 with an X through it. It was huge and heavy and could barely get it into my cart. So I could take it back to the front of the store to see what the actual price was. When I asked the clerk, she said it was on clearance for a dollar. What? I knew shipping would be expensive but it was complete and I thought for a dollar it would be worth the hassle. Put it on auction and sold fast for 74 and buyer happily paid shipping. Vintage 1983 Wooden Dollhouse Kit. Thanks Courtney for keeping me motivated to sell what might otherwise be challenging. I don't know. I'm usually the one that says, oh, nope, that's gonna be too hard to ship. I'm not gonna do that but I probably would have picked this up for a buck also. It looks like it's in the original box. So really, you know, I would probably put some bubble wrap around that, find a box to fit it in or make a box. And I probably would have picked that up also because it is a dollhouse kit and for a dollar that was a great buy. So, and it being in the original box makes things a lot easier. Depending on how it was packaged, you may be able to just put it in a mailer if it was the original manufacturer's packaging and it was sealed in there really good, you may be able to ship it in the box because that's probably how it was originally shipped. Bolo Buddies member, nooks, crannies and irresistibles. Here's another one. It was a good day at the Catholic Charities Thrift Store for me. Thanks to Courtney's videos, I know to keep my eyes peeled for vintage swung vases. Found this one in perfect condition in a reduced bin of all things for a dollar. Can't imagine how it was passed over to make it to be reduced bin. But oh well, works for me. It sold in a few weeks for a best offer of 85. Google Lens helped me figure out who the maker was or who the maker might be. So I listed it as such. It is a swung glass and wow, wow, wow.  Definitely be on the lookout. This one comes from Bolo Buddies member, the Kitchy Kansan. And remember, anybody that I mentioned is a Bolo Buddies member and their links are down below. Check out their stores. They are Bolo Finders. It's a great way to learn. The Kitchy Kansan got this mug in an auction lot and it went to my money pile because I was pretty sure it wouldn't be worth much. I finally dug my way to it and started researching it and found I could list it for 35. A week after listing it, I accepted an offer of 28.70 and it was a nice surprise. It is a vintage glass, bake, Smokey the Bear and Cubs Forest Fire D, Handle Milk Glass Mug. Yeah, some of those milk glass mugs can do well. Plus I had Smokey the Bear on it. Somebody wrote Love Smokey. Here's another one from the Kitchy Kansan. Got these Asian Soup Spoons at a flea market for five because I loved the colors. Oh yeah, those colors are great. About two months after listing, I got full asking price of $50 and this is what they look like. This one also comes from the Kitchy Kansan. I said Kansan again. My friend is like, it's Kansan. It's Kansan. Us here in Kansas, it's Kansan. And I'm like, I'm sorry, I will try to do better and I've messed it up twice. But I think I just remembered, right? The Kitchy Kansan, Kansan, with that like z sound instead of a s sound. Did I get it right? You knew who I'm talking to.  All right, bought an auction lot that had this cute German smoker in it. Gave less than $2 for it and listed it for 55. A month after listing it and several low ball offers later, someone sent me $45 offer and I took it. It is an, talk about not knowing how to say things. Man, I don't even know if I wanna try this. Er-z-g-burge.  This is what it looks like. You can see it's E-R-Z-G-E-B-I-R-G-E. I'm guessing that's German. Beekeeper Wood German Smokerman Incense Burner Smoking Glasser. Let's do one more here. Bought this Longitech Trackman Marble Computer Mouse for $2 at a yard sale. Yeah, these are a Bolo. I actually found one of these at a garage sale and I was so excited. I'm like, it's one of those mouse mice for your computer and it's got that ball and I was all excited. Well, mine was not a big money Bolo. It was good, but it wasn't like this good. So there are certain ones that sell better than others. She said, I knew the Trackball Style Mouse was good and this one was new in the box. None listed with the exact style and packaging, so listed for $199 and sold in a week for $150 and this is one you're looking for. All right, we are gonna stop there. Thank you guys so much for watching. Thank you for being here. Be sure to like, comment, subscribe and share. Come over and see me on what not. It's so fun and those links are down below. Check them out. There's other referral links down there of things that I use for my business like List Perfectly and Worth Point and I also have videos that tell you how to do those things. If you wanna learn how to cross post, if you wanna learn why Worth Point is worth it, it took me a long time to get Worth Point. I was like, I'm not paying that. Are you kidding me? I can find comps other places. That Worth Point has made me money. So check out those Worth Point videos to see how I use it to make more money in my reselling business. All right, you guys, thanks for watching. What was that? Thanks for watching. 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Welcome back to the 21 convention 2019 of Orlando, Florida Our next speaker is a returning alumni speaker to the 21 convention speaking formerly in 2018 and earlier this year Our special patriarch edition.  Thank you, Anthony. Thank you 21 attendees for letting me be here It's not often that a man can Have his mission that he's developed and then to find an organization that has a very similar mission that I can be a Part of and it's a big honor to be part of 21 it's it's It's one of the best parts of my mission right now, and I'm really digging the heck out of it So what is my mission? My mission has been all along to try to save drowning men throw ropes right throw life preservers that kind of thing I align myself with other men that that feel the same way Once you get out of here, you've had some education this week And you've got some motivation and it's up to you to do the same throw some ropes for drowning In your area, but you know what we're going to talk about Your best sex ever right who don't like talking about sex We spend time talking about working out health eating right we spend time talking about Wealth making money that kind of thing but how often Do you talk about sex? Like fantasies and things like that to your buddies. I'm betting not very often, right?  Maybe maybe not so my question is are you having the best sex of your life? And if not why not?  It's it's my reality It's it's my frame and I'm extremely comfortable with it I'm comfortable talking about it because it has done so much for my life This may or may not work for you and that's fine But knowing about it and maybe being a little bit Possibly more sympathetic if you have friends that are talking about this kind of stuff You'll have a little bit more education for yourself So here's a key right Anybody can fuck Okay, anybody can stick it in and come Seriously, that ain't that hard The thing is is that we want sexual experiences that make us feel something make us feel alive Make us feel joy make us feel love make us feel part of something special because it's a special act I was raised in a Christian household where sex was taboo. We didn't talk about sex Apparently my parents had sex at least three times to my knowledge because we got two sisters, right? so We didn't talk about anything and it was dirty and it was nasty and we weren't supposed to it was like Screwed me up Right, my sister's same way I mean, it's just and there's a lot of men in this room that have been raised in that same household and you know what I'm talking about When you combine masculine energies and feminine energies together Sparks sparks of attraction. We heard some talks this morning from Pat talking about the same thing We heard some other talks today that I'm going to incorporate as we go along This is magic when this thing when I'm following firing on all my cylinders And she's firing on all her cylinders and we combine it's like two poles of a magnet and yanks together tight This is the ultimate goal for a man and woman is to be themselves and express that energy Now I live and my wife and I live in a dominant submissive lifestyle And that's kind of part of the whole BDSM world, but it's not all about sex even though my talk is mostly about sex Basically DS 101 I lead she follows I'm in charge She welcomes not having to make decisions. She welcomes Being free to be who she wants to be she can express her femininity and not have to worry about Having to do the masculine stuff too. She doesn't want to do that It's what we talked about you heard Stefan earlier talking about, you know Women are at the point where they're depressed because they can't be who they want to be who they really should be because they've been told not to be so Head of household right that should sound like a pretty mild-mannered idea Your grandparents, maybe your great-grandparents some of you guys that were younger Grandpa led grandma followed right. This is the way it was So we shouldn't even happen to have this talk right now But this is the lifestyle that my girl and I have chosen to follow You know, we get focused on the sex Because it's sexy 50 shades of gray came out Number one selling paperback book of all time the fastest selling I mean people are interested in this stuff and apparently there's a whole hell of a lot of women That are fantasizing about this kind of thing And if you can tap into some of that if some of this resonates with you And you can tap into just a little bit of that You're gonna have an edge in your game the game that you're playing out there So it's kind of like why bother because we were headed for divorce We were not gonna make it 20-something years of marriage and it was going down the shitter We were constantly butting heads because I'm dominant as hell I didn't even realize what a dominant was and I was just it's just who I am And she had trust issues and I dropped the ball a few times over the years And so she was trying to pick up the ball and run with it and trying to do all those things And It doesn't work miserable miserable roommates at that point, right So she brought this idea to me after I guess she was on I saw a Christian women's submissive It was a tv show that had like five episodes before they yanked it off of it It was like one of those little minor tv cable channels and they yanked it But she spark of curiosity hit her and so she got into the Internet as we all do and she started looking it up and realized and she came to me and said I think I'm a submissive I think this might be the way I can be happy and you can be happy And I just agreed instantly I had no idea what I was agreeing to I'm like oh hell yeah something different please right anything because I didn't want to get divorced I love her Right she's still I lust after her even during all the all the rougher times so You'll see people in this lifestyle that go by Assume names because there's still a social stigma here People have watched 50 shades or they just think that I'm beating the hell out of my wife and it's abuse And it's really not so it's nothing of the sort It's nothing it's consensual play and having fun together rocks her world rocks my world We'll talk about that a little bit more in a minute But you you just have to if you're in this lifestyle, you know what I'm talking about And by the way, there's at least four or five Dominant men in this room that live this lifestyle right now. You just don't know it You haven't talked to them about it yet But it's the freedom for both of us to be who we are And I think that's the goal in life we talked about this morning We talked about Authoring your own story right telling your own tale living your own life living in your own frame And the cool thing about this is My girl came to me and said hey, sir, I want to live in your frame Wow, right most most of you are trying to get your girl to live in your frame and she's asking me to have such rock solid Frame That I'm gonna protect her and provide for her I'm gonna meet her needs And in return she's gonna meet mine because I have needs to you have needs to and so when two people are actively working Really hard to meet each other's needs. I mean, it's just amazing. It can be something magical Again, it's an alternate lifestyle Right, but I don't talk to my kids about it.  I know you've gotten pillared to death today Between everybody that's has their pillars. Well, by god, I got my pillars and I like them more so The biggest ones are trust, you know, it's It's hard to trust somebody when they've been screwing up You might have been married for 20 years and you dropped the ball. I don't know about 500 times so far So, you know, this lifestyle requires trust Requires honesty So you've got to be able to hand your wife or your girlfriend or your ltr Well, you got to be able to give her your cell phone and walk away for four hours and not worry about a goddamn thing She finds on that phone and if you can't You're not the man you need to be you shouldn't be in that relationship Or you need to check yourself and figure out what you're doing wrong So that and I'm getting I give my girl my phone if she needs to make a call or something hers isn't nearby Do I grab it back instantly? No, does she go through it and scroll through it?  They need to feel love. They need to Rebel in that it's what rocks their world I'm not saying men don't want to be loved because we do But men want to be respected I want I want the men in this room to respect me. I want my brothers in foe to respect me I want my next door neighbor to respect me, but mostly I want my girl to respect me It's hugely important to me and if I don't feel respect Things don't go well Um, there's a certain level of vulnerability You know the sides might be a little difficult to see from the back But you got to make yourself vulnerable if you're going to get into something like this because you're talking about Fantasies you're communicating desires and you're you're talking about things that work for you and make it work And so you got to open yourself up And that's that's scary sometimes to talk about things that might be a little out there And so you make yourself vulnerable, but the real key to all this thing is communication there at the bottom I have seen a ton of relationships Screw up. I've seen people go get divorced I've seen boyfriend and girlfriend break up I've seen these over the years and at the heart of damn near every one of them It's communication. You're just not talking, right? She's got this attitude. Uh, well if he really loved me He would do this this and this and this How's he supposed to know that you're not a goddamn mind reader. You don't know how this stuff works You know, she's expecting you to read her mind and boy, I tell you what we're we're guilty of that ship, too Right, we don't tell her what we really want We just expect her to figure it out. It's not fair for either person So, you know, one of the things that that we incorporated a number of years ago Is that in the morning we have our coffee We sit down have a little downtime and we talk about how the relationship is doing Right a couple times a week at least especially if i'm home, maybe even more often The idea is we're not talking about a car repair I'm not talking about a busted water pipe at the house. I'm not talking about something at work We're talking about us, right because if you're not talking about how you're doing You're not going to get a pulse on the relationship and then by the time you figure out something's going wrong You've already gone driven right over the cliff Right, so at the end of the day when things aren't working well in my house I go look in the mirror Am I not being dominant enough that I take my foot off the gas? Am I not doing something that she needs So that she can be her best I take full blame when shit goes sideways Okay, and I think that's if you're gonna if she's living in my frame and things go sideways It's my fault at the end of the day.  Tell me it's it's It's a set deal. You can tell me anything you want. I won't hold it against you But let me know what's happening Tell me what you want Jack Murphy our friend turned me on to this book. This is uh, britain by a guy named Justin laymiller He's out of the kenzie institute Which is kind of like a sexual think tank out in the midway midwest is not the place you would think for a sexual think tank But that's where they are But they are a extremely well-known organization that they have been Working with couples and trying to figure things out for the united states in on different types of issues What Justin did is he he went out on the internet recruited through social media 4175 participants in a study The results are pretty cool Out of that 50 50 of those men and women so it broke down right easily But if you're recruiting out of social media, you're going to get a younger demographic probably so the median age was 32 I think the median age in the us is 38 so a little bit younger You're probably a little bit more on the effluent side because you have a device that can connect to the internet Okay, i'm thinking those demographics fit this room pretty damn good. It was 18 on up to 70 something so This this is this is our demographic right here. So you may hear a couple of things today I want you to just ask i'm not asking to tell me. I don't want to know If something really really resonates with you Write it down or just put it in the back of your head because you're going to find His questions 390 369 questions And there were a lot of essay stuff and it basically was all about what are your fantasies america? What do you dream about what do you get off of on right when you're maybe you got the guy Girls got the guy on top and she's thinking about something else. It may be one of these things Let's explore that a little bit. It broke down into uh six big categories And they're they're ranked from the top percentages of fantasies Multi-partner sex which is basically gangbanks male female male female male, you know threesome kind of stuff Power and control it's going to be kind of the btsm world novelty and adventure doing things in different places Maybe being at the beach maybe being in the backyard hoping that the neighbors can see through the fence You know Having sex and in places you you don't want to be swinging sharing polyamory, you know non monogamous couples Basically agreeing to have boyfriends and girlfriends or perhaps both depending on how that works Then the other one was intimacy romance and passion We're going to talk about that in greater detail because People fantasize about intimacy. They fantasize. I got the numbers man I'm not just pulling this out of my back pocket. I've scientific data This book is full of nothing but scientific data And uh percentages and all that i'm not going to bore you with all that although I could But as we go along i'm going to focus on this one because I found it to be Pretty pretty uh pretty sharp 75 of the respondees fantasize about some form of bondage Maybe i'm not so weird after all right. That's what i'm thinking when i'm reading this thing Um over 50 fantasize about discipline in the bedroom dominance and submission uh more women a little bit more on on the submission a little bit more The men were a little over 50 and then there were still not quite 50 but still a lot of folks that Men that uh fantasize about giving pain sadism women that fantasize about receiving pain Rocks her world masochism right a little more on the masochism than the sadism But this kind of a picture here totally just rocks my world I mean this is this is fun stuff rote play tying them up that kind of thing Again, this is trust Because she knows she's incapacitated immobilized. She trusts me that i'm not going to step over the line Because you can't you have to agree on On what you're going to do in this world again. I'm not telling you to live this lifestyle I'm not i'm saying it's an alternate universe. That's a hell of a lot of fun to explore Girl in a st. Andrews cross waiting to have her butt spanked Flogged whipped whatever the case may be Over 75 of the women in this survey fantasized about this I bet you didn't think that Not a chance right i'm telling you 50 shades It's it's it's a it's a as they say it's poorly written book or whatever. I don't care.  It's chick porn but What we found with this was that My wife and I were going through tough times at that point And I'm we're both thinking divorces come we hadn't really quite said it yet but we both do deep down inside it wasn't working and She asked me what are you reading? I said 50 shades of gray She says I can't believe you're reading that trash She doesn't admit to that anymore, but um She says that conversation didn't happen.  I want to know why I'm fixing to be back out in the game again I want to know what this is all about Right, and so it was a good read for that reason alone. I got about halfway through and I got what I needed to get out of it but um A lot of people are rocking off on this 75 So segment Freud talks a lot in his writings over the many many years ago About sexual repression keeping your desires and your fantasies Hidden from the world because you're embarrassed Right or your words someone's going to say something bad about you this that and the other But the bottom line is that leads to depression Again, you're not you're not writing your own story. You're not telling your own tale You're not being true to what you're feeling inside.  She's my greatest possession I own her and she freely admits that I'm your slave basically we play slaves sometimes sometimes that's just play but She admits it to the world. I belong to sir. Tex I'm his and that with that comes huge great responsibilities This is a A difficult lifestyle for a man to lead It is hard This is not The biggest problem I've seen with other couples that get into this Is the husband thinks man i'm getting blowjobs anytime I want life's good. All right, let's do this The sex is going to be great and it is right But he doesn't take care of business on all the other stuff And eventually she gets frustrated because he's not doing what he's supposed to do what they agreed to do to start with And now they're just not doing it anymore And and guess what? It gets very frustrating for all because they got used to it and when it was good It was amazing My wife and I burned our ships We're never turning back if one of us can't do this or doesn't want to do this anymore We'll have a long hard discussion But it wouldn't surprise me if I couldn't if I couldn't do the dom thing. She she might have to move on She's addicted to it. So am I there's a lot of good things here Um, that's the other thing we've been married 30 years, right? I don't want anybody else. I just want her she just wants me at least that's what she says Uh, you never know, right? I heard me doesn't care. Is that the line? I don't know The door swings both ways I expect her to be on her game all the time sure you get sick Sure, something goes wrong. You can't do the things maybe all the little things that you want to do But you I expect her to have the respectful attitude at all times She expects me to do my job either one of us is welcome to walk out the door at any time and we acknowledge that And so be by acknowledging that it helps us be stronger And what we do we both want to be here and that's that's what the secret to this whole thing is Ken talked about shame this morning a little bit way better than I ever will But I know that people carry sexual shame around with them. They might have done something in the past. They regret it They might they were experimenting, you know, I went one time at band camp, right?  Yeah, I'm embarrassed Jesus, what am I going to cover up with, you know But that that's a little bit of that is good He keeps us all from going down to the coffee shop naked in the morning that kind of thing But um, the shame's not get rid of it.  There's great ones out there. Yeah, it's predominantly a female environment That's for damn sure But there's guys like ken and shone smith and those guys that are men friendly I got a friend adam up in minnesota Who's a a guy as well friendly friendly psychotherapist that can help you deal with some of these issues So Almost six decades on the planet. I'm 58 like my good friend ken back there And I have learned a few things couple just one or two Your woman wants to be your total focus When you come home, you've got things to do this that and the other but when you are with her She don't want your phone going off.  Oh, you're so pretty that kind of crap, right?  I was terrible I'm like silent man just going in there and getting business done And um, I learned you got to talk a man because they got you know, they got the other pussy between the ears and That's what rocks their world.  I love the blindfold my girl, right? She can't see anything especially if I'm screwing up and dropping something or can't find something, right? But she doesn't know what's coming next, but she trusts that it's going to be good And you know after pulling ten orgasms out of her in 30 minutes. She's pretty damn happy. She can't walk.  You have this thing called subspace look into that I won't go into the whole thing, but it's all about pleasure pain pleasure pain releasing endorphins And they sail like they're on freaking heroin And they and it's all natural and once they've had it happen to them one time They want it more and more and more and more which is great when your wife wants to get in the bedroom a lot It's a good problem for us, right? They want to be ravished They want your power They want to feel powerless under your weight. You know, you said this thing.  I'm thinking of myself a little girl. She's a year older than I am but looks 15 years younger But she's a tiny little thing and I'm thinking to myself as I was a young man thinking. Oh my god, I don't want to break her I don't want to smush her I'm on top of her. Oh, she's You're thinking too much She's a baby that came out of her crotch, right her hip spread.  You're not going to damage your girl She's tough. Trust me Getting to that of the category of intimacy and Passion you need to turn in my head here This category was was was super interesting because out of all the essay questions these words came up that were Really important over and over and over again passion love desire intimacy Romance and lust This is men and women. This is not just women, right? What is it about this you get this emotional fulfillment?  I'm something greater when I'm here with you, right? And when I'm in a solid relationship Where both of us are kicking ass, I'm part of something bigger than me. It's great My family I mean part of a family that's bigger than just me alone There's this need to belong we all have it and it's bonding that everybody needs I mean this was the sixth most popular fantasy in this survey intimacy who would have thought that right people are People are thirsty for this kind of stuff. They're not getting they're not tender, right?   It's it's there So I get this ask this a lot You know where I start I really I really want to talk to my my girl about this kind of thing I really don't know what to do. I've really been thinking about this a lot You know texts and you know, what do I do? How do I start this stuff?  I want to tie you up You know, that's probably not the time to do it, right? Find the right mood find the right moment glass of wine out to dinner Everybody's starting to feel it eyes dilate cheeks flush lips get fuller or that camouflage. I'm not sure As we talked about earlier But at the end of the day get her in the mood where you're having fun and you're talking about stuff And then you can start talking if you're not talking about sex to your to your wife or your girl on a regular basis You know something's wrong. You need to be talking about this stuff We talk about kino and talking about keeping the game going trust me when you start talking about her fantasies You might hear some things You didn't want to hear Don't be judgmental.  She might have some gang bang fantasy. You're like, oh fuck no That ain't gonna happen but Inside you're like, yeah, that's that's pretty out there But I just I don't think I would be comfortable with that and it's okay to say that right Is the other thing that we've seen over and over again Couples find ds for instance They're in trouble marriage isn't working so great It's very common to reach out to this type lifestyle thinking it's going to fix all the problems and it doesn't Not always And then what invariably seems to happen is they start talking about all this sexy stuff and they're in this This honeymoon type sexual moment They go, okay, we're going to bring another man in the bedroom or we're going to bring another girl in the bedroom And they go off and do these three ways and I don't know anybody it's worked out for No one right again. I don't share my girl with anybody.   You kind of take it slow. I said that already Again, if you want to just talk about ds stuff talk about how your grandparents lived, you know go Show the 50 shades movie talk about that kind of stuff talk about what makes her happy Really what what what in your life sweetheart makes you incredibly happy And write them down have her write them down great exercise What makes you terribly upset in this world? And maybe she hates working You know all those things we've been talking about all morning, right? Maybe, you know, they got sold a lie Right and we all agreed to it. Oh, yeah, that's good. You know why I'll tell you why guys my age We didn't help our fathers certainly didn't help I grew up in the 60s. I was I was born in 61 Grew up in the 60s and 70s for my my formative years And I'm looking on tv.   Yeah Let's do it It didn't work out so well and funny thing we talked about something that read me a group one time That even back when I was in high school late 70s the bad boys were still getting laid Right and everybody else's friend zones. It hasn't changed. It's been that way for 50 years at least But I watched strong men my father I watched his friends who also bought into this free love things, you know Be more mellow the male chauvinist bastards and all this stuff that was going on with this feminism in the 70s And they softened They got beat down and didn't realize what was happening to them. I didn't either until now look back at it I go Jesus Christ, you know somebody gave my dad a little Figuring for his birthday.  I am see that kind of thing This is back in the days of archie bunker, you know, all in the family stuff, right? And that was my dad, you know, just brash and all that kind of stuff But I watched him soften Right There are dangers We just talked about some of these dangers about branching out and playing and doing things that might not be good for your relationship If you're dating that kind of thing, okay If you're going to tell somebody your deepest darkest fantasies and secrets It better be damn be somebody you trust You don't get blackmailed and hold against you You don't want that to come up in a divorce proceeding one day right Child support child custody cases.  He shouldn't have the kids Taking right gotta be a little careful That's why everybody has these assumed names and they do they do they keep things under under covers real well And I'm not saying all women are gonna do that. They're not Okay, if you're rocking their world and and y'all are kind of in agreement of all this stuff But if if your fantasy the first thing you talk about with her is midget clowns on tricycles, you know Giving blowjobs. I mean, you're probably going to freak her out a little bit or you know Now they want to tie you up and hang you from the tree in the backyard and do nasty things to you Might not want to start there, right?  I was talking to a guy last night. He said, you know when I when I go to kiss a girl I I reach up and kind of casually grab her throat a little bit And if she's into it, she leans into it.  Do you ever see that that movie?    I know a young man that put Dom in his dating profile He was not a Dom thought he could be one one day Thought it was a great idea until he had a girl swipe Right or left or whatever it is They got in the bedroom and she was waiting for him to give orders and commands and do what he does and he didn't know what to do That didn't turn out to be a good night for anybody. So she was very disappointed So again these there are some dangers with this. You got to be cautious. You got to be careful You should be talking about this at work, you know, there's social justice warriors every order, you know That type of thing Here's another one.  You cause permanent damage, right? You won't do that Or she has a my girl has a safe word red. Well, she has to do say red. I stop whatever i'm doing immediately Okay, let's stop and I saw it saying we're not going to start back up again from her. That's not what she's saying What she's saying is that hurts something's not right stop and so we stop or she'll say yellow, which is Hey, that's a little too intense back up a little bit back off just a little bit, right?  It seems it feels like maybe not that long But it certainly freaking feels this way.  We're going to play tonight. I want to play tonight And you both agree she can't drink either. She can't be drunk She has to be able to say what's what's on her mind and what's going on You have to be able to check in with her while you're having fun So this leads to a another thing alcohol, which is a great transition, right? Ed sexual dysfunction the great destroyer Right Is it psychological or is it physical?  We've been talking about that for three days now Three days and it goes the same in the bedroom You know, if you're again if if all she wants from whatever maybe her religious upbringing Maybe whatever is missionary man on top. Get it over with quick.  It's amazing fun Um, it's not something you do every night, right? Everybody'd be exhausted if we tried that we can go on for two three hours And if you're doing all these things say you're a one and done guy, right?   They're not that expensive in the grand scheme of things most insurance plans have got Incredible mental health benefits and no one ever uses them, right? The magic molecule testosterone I love testosterone I've been jamming a needle in my leg for well over five six years now. I absolutely freaking love it I feel like a little kid again sometimes increased energy confidence libido If you're lifting weights you're gonna get increased muscle mass So I would encourage everyone in here needs to know what their t level is today Okay, let's say you're 20 22 You run down a little depressed things aren't just working as well for you Maybe it's depression caused by a lack of tea a lot of young men don't have good t levels anymore So I know guys in the 20s that have like a 200 level 225 250 some lower than that Testosterone is great for men who do not want to have kids anymore Okay I know that there are some people that can successfully take testosterone and still have active swimmers That are fighting to make a girl pregnant But a lot of guys basically the swimmers give up and they and they die off basically and you you're no longer going to have kids Potentially i'm not a doctor I'm just saying don't be 22 and find some testosterone get a doctor to talk them into it start taking it If you still want to have kids there's other things you can do There's a drug called hcg I know people that young men that do an injection in their stomach a little tiny tiny little You know tiny needles a little stomach injection twice a week with hcg They take clomid a couple of times a week, which is a fertility drug And it raises their t levels And one guy I was talking to he got off of it because he had insurance plan messed up or something And he was just having trouble, you know getting to his medicine He was off for about a month and a half And he's so damn depressed he couldn't he couldn't figure it out as soon as he got back on he was like damn I can tell I can tell exactly when when everything started kicking in again Your older guys, you know look into it. Good lord almighty. I was listening to sports calling radio the other day in houston Every other commercial was a ed clinic a testosterone clinic I mean they're everywhere right the the key thing is look for the words bio identical Hormone replacement therapy the key word bio identical. Uh, that's going to Give you a better class of that type doctor I highly encourage you to look into it if you're not doing it you need it if you're over 40 I would really look into it I think about it the I may have been on it for about 10 years now come to think of it I was 330 pounds at one point. I was dying in a hospital Dying flesh eating bacteria in my leg. I lost some thigh muscle My girl saved my life twice in two weeks twice It was bleeding out. They didn't know I was bleeding out. She was watching my blood pressure drop Called somebody and they figured out what was going on Um, I got out of there and I was miserable and I'm like but I was happy to be alive But I was miserable with what I saw in the mirror like this this can't go on something's got to give So I started walking Right, and then I was so thankful they were going to amputate my leg and they did and my girl talked them out of it Try one more time to clean it up, you know And I was so thankful after about a week of walking out of sight. I was going to start jogging man I got a leg I can run. Yeah, I used to play football. Let's go do this, you know I ended up blowing out my knee and ended up having to have knees or total knee replacement on the same freaking knee I'm like, you know Good lord god, you just wanted me to give you the leg back. Is that what this is?  I don't squat anymore in the gym. I can't just hurts too much I've tried alexander's helped me with a couple of things to to try to take some of the pressure off of it It's just not fun. It hurts.  This is her collar one of her collars a collar to us It's like a wedding ring to you Okay, she's had my wedding ring for 30 years This was the symbol of our new life together. Again, we burned our ships. There's no going back Now I like the little Celtic knot in the front because I'm an Irish guy She asked me if she could add a dog tag to the back and it's kind of hard to read from the back But it says owned by Sir Tex and she wears it proudly she Dingles as she's you know tingle whatever is ding ding ding as she's walking through the house like the like the puppy dog She loves it absolutely embraces it For her it's a symbol when she looks in the mirror. She feels it on her neck. It's very important to her You might yank her around by it now. You can it's a ring on the back You could tie a leash on to it or something if you wanted to not what we use it for I know DS couples that have they get remarried Um and or not remarried way to say renew the vows, right and they give to give the collar, you know This is an offer. I'm not asking you guys to ever email her But I'm saying my girl has had a website called the circle of the submissive sisterhood And it's free It's a women's community and it's free And we absorb all the cost on that she's got it shut down right now We're doing a bit of a remodel and we're gonna try to open it up in january again But if you've got A woman in your life that is interested in this lifestyle And you don't want to write this down now. That's fine. Just email with texasdom.com. Go send me an email for god's sakes I answer every email that anyone ever sends me you want to talk about this stuff. Let's talk about it Um I don't coach I don't do you know, send me 1200 a week or whatever and I'll talk I don't do a lot of crap I do answer emails and I am a member of fraternity of excellence And that's where I get coaching from my friends and where I give coaching. That's what we do We help each other. It's a group asset a group of kick-ass motherfuckers, you know, we're all marching together Just like the guys in this room. We're all marching together.   She's happy. Do I have one?  Yeah I'm purple pill. Don't you remember? Um, I don't know. I've been called everything. I don't really care either Because I got a happy life. I got a happy woman that loves me Again, she's a year older than me looks 10 years younger, you know, probably more than that So that's from key takeaways here Your fantasies are likely normal Right I mean if you fantasize against things about things that are illegal, that ain't normal Okay, things that are non-consensual. That's not normal. Go get some help Okay before you act out on that But if it's consensual, it's legal. It's safe. It's sane You are in the vast majority. In fact, people that don't have some sort of a little bondage fantasy every now and then At some point in their life are the ones that are not normal apparently according to the statistics making me feel good about me Let me tell you real really good about me The choice of whether you want to act out on a fantasy completely is up to you Fantasies are fantasies. Some fantasies need to stay fantasies, right? You don't need to act out on all that crap but If you can find a channel a healthy outlet and you've got an agreeable partner is explorer, right? I have a buddy I was talking to the other day that had he and his wife have a Sexual checklist of things they want to do together and their goal is to Mark a certain number of them off every week It's fun. They've been married 20 years Right, there's no reason for sex to stop.  That's the goal here We don't want to stop want to keep it going but you got to keep it interesting For both parties you got to keep things spiced up a little bit.   Well, you know either one looks pretty good on you.  No, I like the red one Red one makes your tits look awesome Right. She loves that.    I bet you do too.  That's all I'm saying. She shouldn't judge you either and be smart Be smart about how you play and what you do And the people you interact with and the people you choose to bring into your inner circle When you talk about this stuff here, I go by an alias name and I'm on the freaking youtube and the internet Right eventually somebody will out me. I don't really care that much Securing my job But I don't need my kids and my grandkids More in tune with all the things that we love to do. That's just there still are some private things out there Repeat this. We all want sexual experiences That make us feel Goldman talks about being an artist and feeling things, right? This is it This is your chance to be a bedroom artist, right? You get in there and have some fun But you want to feel that connection You want to you want to feel that lust you want to provide that lust It's there for the taking and no one's doing it man.       You had a baby We're gonna get your body recovered and we're gonna do some things and get this newborn In a comfortable secure and loving environment, but by god, we're still going out on date at least once a week You've got to make that time.  I'm no longer a wife.   You're not giving it to her.  She wants it It's up to you now to make it happen. Thank you Now I'm as I'm not as deaf as Ivan, but I got hearing aids We'll turn them up a little bit if you've got a question or two. I'm happy to answer it I may have to get you to repeat it a couple of times And we don't have any we can talk over her beer as well Hey tax. Oh no, here we go No, I'm really into experimenting sexually especially lately with like Breath control and tantric stuff. I haven't gotten a btsm But I found not only did it make the sex better in the bedroom because that is awesome But I found the benefits like outside of the bedroom Like with my personality and confidence increased I want to hear like personally what you found Like you're how you benefited outside of the bedroom after you started doing this I tell you what's gonna gonna sound really weird. I'm so much better at my job Because I'm happy happy again, right and I'm in sales and Ever since we got into this lifestyle and I have support at home I'm the happiest guy on the planet and it shows when you're happy at work And you're doing it people want to people want to buy from people that they like and people that are upbeat and have positive energy You know, it's just it's peace man. My house is a piece You know, if you're living in a house with a contentious one What's the bible versus better to live on the roof and live in a house with a contentious woman I didn't make that up. It's bible, right? But I had a contentious woman. We were roommates. We're no longer and that's peace. That's comforting. That's Rewarding and it allows me to do things like this and I have to constantly worry about Keeping you know dealing with crazy woman. You know, did I answer it at all? Yeah, okay. Okay. Okay a text from one word to another Uh, how did you create? Safe words Are those something that You let her create for you or is it something y'all create for to each other? We just talked about it and if I'm not mistaken red's really really common Really common called red. I might have even been 50 shades for all I know But a lot of friends and stuff. That's you know, we talked there's there's communities of dominance out there Right dominant men that talk online You know, we talk about everything Ideas and stuff. It's a great place to get feedback But uh, you know red red means stop. Maybe it doesn't mean stop all night. Just means stop right now Something's not working. Let's talk about it. Let's regroup yellow slow down And there's a case that I'll check in with her. How are you doing? You doing okay? I might ever tie it up She's a capacitor. You okay? You okay? green Tells me green keep going Thank you Yeah At tax great speech. Thank you So when you agreed to be a dom and didn't really know what you were agreeing to in what ways did you struggle in the beginning? God bless Yeah, that's a that's a loaded question. Um I had no idea What it was going to take to fulfill the back end Right to be able to Make the decisions and have the finances rocking and and and stuff at the house I mean sometimes, you know, you're you're gone for a week. You come home. It's just broken You know and it's up to you to make that stuff happen so that you still have a house That's peaceful that you have a house that's functioning. Um, I didn't know what A head game it was going to be at first You know, I had this thing right my wife's want me to spank her Oh, that's kind of cool.   I think you shouldn't hit a woman unless you're being well Yeah, I've seen some internet videos where women need to be hit. Okay, that's almost like but um No, at the end of the day, it's playtime. It's fun time It's it's sexually arousing for her and I realized it's playtime and it's not It's not violence and getting my head wrapped around that getting my head wrapped around the Responsibilities in the bedroom Of being in control and and being creative. It's up to you now.  In fact, he was the guy that sent me a I'm going off deep in here But here's the guy that sent me a hunter drew blog article Which helped me find hunter which helped me find family alpha which helped me find the words about red pill Which I'd never heard of before which helped me find the manosphere, which means I'm right here I owe that guy a lot Right, but uh learning learning the ropes and not and and not wanting to fuck it up My marriage was over and I got this lifeline here, right? I got a chance to make this work.  It's exciting at first. Does it ever get older routine? How do you do you feel the need to keep things like fresh? Do you feel like you have to keep Trying out new things all the times there's like some pressure So jay with that you mix things up new toys new new play things But there are some things that she really really really likes Right, you have a girl with 10 orgasms in 30 minutes. She's gonna want some of more of that Right and so we we will dust off our favorite toys and that kind of thing And sometimes there's no time for a scene And sometimes you're just time to quickie bang it out But the cool part about it in the in the DS world and again with great responsibility, you know You know, you have great responsibility here to take care of somebody. She's sick She can't do something I can tell her to bend over But there's other times where I just see her and I'm like it's on go right now close the door whatever And that's that's also the benefit of not having kids in the house, right? So But yeah, you mix it up. You have to mix it up. You got to keep it fresh You guys got to keep it fresh too.    That's all they do We're just vice versa. She gives you a little bit of a blow job Maybe I'll hand job or something every now and then and that's what that's your sex these days type of thing I like what you're talking about I'm grateful because I feel like you're also touching a part of me that I was kind of trying to ignore kind of for a lot of a lot of time of my life If I ever get into this How should I start About my social circle, I guess like should I be really open to them or should I rather Get confident about it before There are Where do you live? I'm in the islands. Oh, I shouldn't ask you that. Excuse me. That's not right. Um, I'm sorry That's that's not right. Um, there are communities of kinky bastards all over the world I'm serious. I mean, they're there now There's a lot of people that aren't gonna be overly attractive to you right, but there's still gonna be a lot There's a lot of educational stuff out there There's a a site called fit life. It's the facebook of kinksters and they have regional stuff. They have Um, You know you in houston There's a whole group of kinksters in fact next weekend They're going to the renaissance fair and they're taking over the camp grounds is going to be bondage camp. They'll be Wow, I'll be there. Nice. Okay. I mean this that's what they do and a lot of us educational And we'll have a tent set up with st. Andrews crosses and spanking benches and all this stuff Now I'm not I'm a fringe member, right? I'm not full-blown at hardcore like some of these guys are they're there all the time But there's other people camping in these camp grounds out there. So we call them vanillas. They have no idea, right? And they'll come walking wandering through camp and they have no idea. So the old joke is we're going to corrupt some of vanillas tonight, right? But It's fun. It's a lot of fun, but in your local community if you get on fit life and do a search for where you live Um, it'll all pop up There's things on there. You don't want to see You've been warned. Okay. Thank you Yeah, so as you kind of mentioned that Consent is a big deal and If there is like any type of like a divorce or something, how do you kind of protect yourself because this can be seen as something very Like negative and abusive to like some people who just aren't like Absolutely used to the lifestyle. I know a couple. This is genius They got on it took the video on their iphone Right of them talking about what they do and the fun that they have, right? They Put it on a thumb drive put in a safety deposit box God forbid she goes to the doctor. She's got bruises on her Right, doctor says you're being abused calls the police.   It's it's the whole me to error.