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Okay Let's get into it copyright disclaimer under section 107 of the copyright act 1976 Allowance is made for fair use for purposes such as criticism comment news reporting teaching scholarship and research Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing Non-profit educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use No copyright infringement intended all rights belong to their respective owners Before we get started. I see seven people left and guess what happened Emma Payne lives in Chesterfield with fiance Lee Hamlin and their 10 children Mitchell's 10 children is insane So you went into labor 10 times and push 10 babies out 16 mason 14 Jordan 13 one 12 one year a mate Dylan 6 Le5 3 18 months and 4 month old Charlie Boy got in there quick. He got it. He got a 18 year old 18 month and a 12 month. He was He was nothing. What do you say you? Settle down boy Working mother Sam Zendall Ellis lives near Studley with her husband Darren and their two children Moira 3 and McCoy 2 Sam also has a 13 year old daughter Ella who stays with them once a month The two wives have agreed to sw- wait what? Moira 3 and McCoy 2 Sam also has a 13 year old daughter Ella who stays with them once a month Once a month was mad enough For how long? Wives have agreed to swap lifestyles and homes for two weeks to see what they can learn about each other's lives Imagine swapping wives and walking into a household with 10 kids when you got to What? What happens when a career mom has to stay at home to look after 10 children yesterday?  The baby smirk, what are you doing? What is he doing it? I just realized we watch in the preview and what happened It's all chill. Let's move along Everybody had a wash and brush this team. Yeah, are you sure Emma Payne and Lee Hanlin are full-time parents to 10 children Being a mom means everything to me. You get so much love From these kids just looking at them and getting a smile and I love you It's so rewarding I'd say my mom's on dad. For example, if I Mean it is rewarding, but not ten kids worth of rewards Maybe two three full tops, but like ten you did that ten times You got to be in shambles down there. It's great. All right within in this house. We're left to Emma She'd have a life of how would you a Lot of people judge big families.  Goodbye from 18 to 20 loads of bread a week 8 to 10 pounds milk a day people are staring at us as if we're feeding 10,000 a day Did she say 8 to 10 pounds of milk per day? We got us taking stuck back man. We need to we need to regroup hold on. No, you don't need to regroup With 12 people go ahead tie them tools now for living under one roof Emma and Lee run their house with structure and discipline Someone start taking these in the family have set mealtimes Right who's been told off at school today then and Everyone mucks in with the chores the soup look nasty always needs help and I wash the pots and wash the Emma had her foot. I will say salute. They got ten kids No issues as WDNA first child when she was 16 Ten kids later and at the age of 34. She's hoping to pursue a career I'm finding it difficult because I've got ten children for employers to take me on Now if I lied and said I've got to they probably accept me lie But mom of two Sam's end all Ellis has no such problems she works full-time running her own sweet shop I think I'm far better as a working mother than I would be as a stay at home other I Would be unhappy tie her to give him a vasectomy who somebody get it done You know I'm saying she's 36 though. Let's be real about it. Let's that's science says That it's almost the end of the road so, I mean You know I'm saying Nevertheless they should have a discussion as a family and see who should potentially Get it done. I am not an earth mother Crafting and drawing and coloring and getting the class seen out and doing what you need at 36 At 36 it ain't the end of the road talk to me About about 38 after after 30. It's a high-risk pregnancy. We do know this stuff, right? When you have a kid after 30, it's a high-risk pregnancy When you in your prime having kids is the best time and when I say in your prime go look it up The best time to have a kid is in between the ages and Don't quote me. This is science talking or whatever somebody talking not me 18 and 25 pump them out They bound to be healthy 100% I Sam and husband Darren of parents to three-year-old moya and two-year-old McCoy Sam also has another daughter 13 year old See now y'all saying 38 38 is high-risk. That's cap. Hey Siri What ages a high-risk pregnancy? Okay No, my I was 35 35 But nevertheless my initial point was still right so y'all argue with me to solidify what I say. She's 36 That's over 35 Come on now talk to me Who has lived with her father since she was three? That's enough. I don't really often come here anymore at first. It was hard Because Ella lives with her dad I have to mentally detach myself from her I regret completely leaving her with her dad. I would love her to live here with me She doesn't want to in Sam's end all Alice's house although weekends of family, of course not That's a daughter that a mom left at the end of the day. You leave your daughter as a mom. You do Me time so I'm doing three different meals tonight As a working mum who runs her own sweet shop time is precious and Juggling work and the kids can be an added strain All right, stop you two Both Moira and McCoy can be devil children. It's a constant battleground in this house To grow Sam's business Darren has put his carpentry work on hold to look after the kids and help out in the shop That's my responsibility. I don't really have a designated role as such. I just do me bit But that's not quite how Sam sees it Despite putting in a full day's work when Sam comes home, there's more work Generally most roles in the house are mine With regards to Darren He is like a fourth child because I do have to accommodate him like I do the children Bro kicking it Stand on that talk to me and you should be ashamed of yourself as well, sir Yeah, don't think you're out of the woods, buddy You get tongue by I gave up my job, bro. You Willingly you ran home to do this. Don't you feel demasculated and masculated? What are you doing? So look to that woman for going out being a breadwinner coming home and taking care of her family You sir deserve a divorce Nagging him to do things getting him to do things asking him to do things over and over again That's not just me that ringing him a cup. That's men in general No, whoa, whoa, whoa, don't group us with you Don't do that Don't do that Don't do that. Man, that is not real life. He is living. You are living. No, you have provided You have provided a What's the word i'm looking for? What's the word man? You have provided a Simulation that your husband is loving on the daily basis I'm telling you when it comes to men They're gonna take as much as they can from you if you allow it Put your foot down Forcing your man to be a man is crazy. You know, all right It's the day of the swap and the two wives are preparing to leave home But when you've got 10 kids saying goodbye can take some time See you later I just hope the new wife looks after my kids Still or they meet their new husbands emma and sam have a chance to explore their new homes Well, it smells lovely not for me to decorate Three it's 10 kids. No Two kids i'd say right i'm really hoping this is for the jumble sale because it says not to three months on it So otherwise it means i'm getting a newborn a chilling out Relaxing ma'am. You don't even know you don't know you don't even understand what you just walked into Where dad plays i'd say there are three beds. So there are one two three young boys in here I found receipts for lots of sweets To the owner shop We've obviously got a few girls as well now. I haven't found the baby So we're on to at least six children so far. I've just seen bunk beds in another room One two three four five six seven eight nine there are 10 Children in this house Oh my god, and there's two the more I think about it though 10 kids as long as everybody is like if I got a full-time nanny like an au pair Maybe two of them with 10 kids like Well, i'm saying because I could there's no way you could put 10 kid responsibility on your wife I just don't feel like that is an appropriate thing to do that is insane 10 kids with an au pair make sure everybody is get the attention they deserve I'm gonna rock out Two kids not that bad by the same woman too. That's that's very salutable I know dudes that got like 12 kids by 12 different women. That's tough The babies don't take care of no, I've got the patience for 10 children. I've hardly got the patience for two Each wife has left a written manual as a guide to the running of their home Right in terms of running our house. We run a tight ship. How could we not? Lee and I share most of the chores and the children are very good at doing their bit too Lee seems quite involved in the housework Um so far so he does seem like he's a great help And he doesn't seem like he has to be asked to do things like my husband I feel like I do everything in the house and damage is really little So she's having to run a business a house. I don't know how she puts up with The most important thing in my life is my children and my partner Nothing comes before them.  It isn't enough for me I also have a daughter l of 13 from a previous relationship But wait a minute. She lives with her dad. I will we know that though She just basically said it being a mother isn't enough for me Which is an insane statement to make out loud But I understand it though Like, you know what I'm saying? You have ambitions But your ambition has got to come second to your kids once you have them And in your first relationship, no offense.   How can you say that? That's so terrible Definitely on par with the shop put me I also have a daughter l of 13 from a previous relationship But she lives with her dad. I would say that the kids are definitely on par with the shop in terms of my priorities Oh my life. How can you say that? Oh my god, this is a this is a terrible mother I'm trying to see I defended you now. I got more information that you wrote down You wrote that down. See y'all to make me pull out the pointer flag UK No disrespect, but like that's that's tough That's so terrible. No wonder thoughts not we are Talk to her Hello Okay, you're Ellie Fallon and Shannon that should be quite good. I'm Sam Hey, Callum This is gonna be impossible This is charlotte you to ball Hello. Hello. Hi. Yeah. Hi. I'm Darren. Hi. Yeah Hello. Hey, darling. Hello. Come here McCoy Hello, darling. I'm Emma. I've got 10 children 10. Yes So can you imagine what your mum is thinking right now? Oh, I'm shocked and I'm not even there 10 children. Oh, that's a lot No sooner than they Like okay, let's let's take some bets Not bets because I don't know betting is let's let's do some predictions here. Who do you think is going to fall in line easier? This husband This husband right here or his wife who's gonna Accomplish or fall in line and be like, okay, this is smooth. Like I could do this. This is easy Who's gonna have an easier time doing that? I'm I'm border. I'm I'm gonna go with him I'm gonna go with him Can you imagine what your mum is thinking right now? I'm shocked and I'm not even there 10 children. Oh, that's a lot No sooner than they've met Darren is off to his weekly football match Right, daddy's got to go football Emma's left to cook dinner for the kids Unlike in her own home the children choose what they want to eat What would you like on your pasta? Oh, do you like cheese? Yeah. Yeah. Will you eat it? Yeah, good girl. So I'm putting pasta and butter on the plate Yeah, so I love self to the cheese Right I am so not a waitress and I feel like one right now So how you doing at your house? You got 10 kids Oh, they started After a busy day at work the last thing I want is Awkwardness I think Sam would benefit From just making one meal putting a foot down. She really needs to say like this is how it's going to be from now on You don't need scrambled eggs. You'd like scrambled eggs. Why don't you try the pasta a bit more? She's so busy. Darren's got his football When does Sam get that break? All right, this is it then. You're going to be very brave eating my foods, but I'll do my best. All right, wish me luck Sam is facing her first night cooking for 12 but at the Hamlins, it's a team effort I like to Sort of be it gotta be a team effort spontaneous sometimes and Do things like Surprises allergies and buying the things and just It's nice to just be a reminder. She's appreciating my husband doesn't ever do anything like that It's a real problem in our house because I do so much in our house And I don't remember him ever really doing anything. She might cheat. She might cheat in this episode Has that ever happened? spontaneous like that It was just really nice to have somebody to help me do the dinner. It was wonderful Lee is completely different to Darren's the husband Lee is um It seems to be a very thoughtful person. It seems to be a constant thing how to make other people happy With regards to the morning I'm concerned that it's going to be really chaotic because we're on a tight deadline and there's a lot of children to get ready there I'm kind of both excited and scared about what tomorrow is going to bring I'm not even gonna lie when you have this much kids. You've got a plan severely ahead All outfits got to be laid out on the couch. You know what I'm saying? Like the minimal at least all outfits got to be laid out. Uh, you know what I'm saying like The older kids y'all got to take care No, no, no, I would even do the older kids too because I don't want them to like feel like I'm not giving them enough attention So I do everybody. You know what I'm saying? I do everybody. I know the older kids are older But when they make that decision to do it themselves cool But like having 12 kids you got to make everybody feel like we're giving you attention and Doing that for them Will give me a moment with them. You know what I'm saying? You got to have your priorities and on the order when you got 12 kids you got to be on point Working mum of two sam's and the ls is now living traditional mum Emma Hamlin's life looking after 10 kids All right to take that in You're amazing I'm keeping you If it was my life, I would be going to the shop sort of five six days a week Whereas here every day is just about children and housework Gotta be at 12 kids Getting 10 kids up and seven ready for school is no easy task But the hamlin's work is a team Okay, we've got to do your hair This house doesn't seem to have as much as a routine as I was first led to believe It is organized chaos And I think that it would probably be served better if the children had their assigned role I don't know some that well yet It's 12 of them I get where she's going with it. But when you when you hit over seven No, man, when you hit over four kids five kids It got it guys gonna kind of be organized chaos I feel I could I could talk to him could have a laugh. Do you know what I mean? So I know he popping out kids. Look at him. He got the look look at his outfit He got the baby shower outfit on right now Why he washing dishes just in case? You know what I'm saying? Let's get tough out of here You never know any Darren could go down on his list of friends Could you do a little bit more here for me? Where's Alfie? Just to check he's all right So I'd just like to know he's with somebody in a room Shall I then did you find Alfie? He's in there. Okay, cool Alfie seems to wander around and I find him in lots of different places on his own a lot I just went into the room and he had a dice in his mouth He's just at an age where he's just prone to so much danger Normally Emma Hamlin's morning involves cooking breakfast for a brood of 10 But as a working mum it's rush rush rush to get off to the sweet shop You show lot Oi, don't do swerving Oh When kids curse it's such a joyous occasion But not mine like I don't like it. Like when other people's kids curse, I'd be like, dang Yo kid cursing That's funny Come here, please. Don't swerve babe. Come here.  We'll go and eat your breakfast in place I was really disgusted that McCoy just swerved and Darren did nothing Mitchell swerved me once and I chased him around the house and he used to borrow soap I've got 10 children that are controllable Huh Borrowed soap is extreme like all I have to do is tell my daughter don't say that and she literally cries for like five minutes Just from the word don't say that Because she internalizes that she's done something that she's not supposed to do and she's genuine genuine I don't know how she feel about it, but she cried about it and And in this house, it seems like they are getting uncontrollable. They're gonna end up having kids that it got as bones After a busy morning routine stay at home mum Emma now faces a seven-hour shift in the shop Oh, they smell lovely Yeah 88 It's okay. I've got to tell Darren what sort of life this is for Sam. She's getting up Doing the breakfast getting the kids ready for the day out at Jasper's coming to the shop and Darren's doing what not a lot by all accounts There's two pence change. Thank you so much. Nice to meet you I so get a manual now. I'd love to sit down and say read this word for word and appreciate this woman After spending the day at home with 10 kids Sam has a few issues to raise with Lee The reason what I need to talk to you is I am getting concerned about Alfie Because I feel that probably because Emma's not here that he's um getting into potentially dangerous situations I really don't mean this is a criticism I came in and Alfie was on his own and he had that in his mouth Okay You weren't in the room, but you weren't off. You weren't on You're criticizing me saying I'm not there with Alfie, but you don't know what we're doing So what time I'm not criticizing that you weren't there Yeah, you're criticizing me on camera on my children So rather than getting defensive Well, I'm not saying for a minute that you're out in another room sat with your feet on and I know this is hard to take But please understand I've got to go through this with you because But the thing is if I were busy doing something Emma would always know where Alfie and Charlie is Always I can't be doing other things in the house and you're not shifting the responsibility of that one to me I'm not shifting. No, I've bought it to your attention.   You don't want to talk to you son I think well, why don't you go and have a cup of tea and calm down then? I'm not good calm down. This is my house. Don't dare tell me what you're doing I'm not asking you to come out. I'm not trying to patronize you. You should have done it with your children Nah, he definitely don't she doing it look like I I sightly see it. Why don't you calm down and get yourself a cup of tea First and foremost, that's I'm a grown man. I don't want to do that I want to I want to talk about what I'm talking about right now See this See See It's a lot out. I'm not gonna say nothing. Just she's entitled to speak her mind, of course, but there's a lot of energy death here.  So I'm really sorry. All right. You're right. If things have gone wrong, why don't you dealt with emerald? So she's clearly obviously not emerald, is she? But then again, she never could be emerald anyway In no way shape our form. This is 10 kids though After some time out Lee's calm down I'm not gonna put any blame on you whatsoever I was wrong, right in leaving you We all we with all the kids and to do the things with the kids, right? And I'm wrong and I apologize And I you've been with my kids Any any dad would be proud to have you as a wife. Thank you I'm sorry He made it up The shop might be closed but according to Sam's manual Emma's day is not over as she heads home to cook dinner for Darren and the kids Hello, oh, yeah Right quick question. Okay, um rice. How do you do rice because I ball it up every time basically Can I ask you something? Yeah in the manual? Yes The bible yes, it says that you never ever cook. It says that you do not a lot All right. Okay. Maybe I do a lot more than she realizes I'm not saying that you're lying to me.   That's that's so it's it's hard to it's a hard pill to swallow Yeah, no, that's just human nature. Nobody ever wants to hear like Criticism so I felt when dude was getting criticized by his wife But you know Another issue in the manual that Emma's came to explore is why Ella's lived with her father since she was three It must have been so hard if you want to make that decision Well, I think she might feel guilty for doing that In some way. Yeah, but she doesn't She doesn't like let it affect her very much Do you think she's got this active life to stop thinking about emotional stuff? Um It's a possibility. She just has a Look at it. She's always had an energetic life. It's always Busy busy and go really I was talking to Ella earlier on and she is straight away Said that she's got a really good bond with her dad. She loves him to bits because he's always been there and I felt a bit sad because she should still have that bond with Sam It's the weekend and Emma Hamlin's back at work I don't feel bad for the mom That's the same situation. I mean don't feel bad I'm not one bit Because at the end of the day the moms be choosing that So I could care less It's weird being Sam because in my home I interact with the kids a lot more In Sam's world the priority is the shop Um Then the children where's really it needs to be the kids class. There you have nothing very much. See you. Bye As Emma arrives home to spend a night in Darren has planned a night out for them both Right tonight Can't go out because some bible says Saturday evening Darren might go to the pub or go to see his friend's band It's extremely rare that I get to go out with my friends. All right Okay, okay. No, I'm just quite quite hurt by that actually quite actually true hurt there That's nothing that's really pissed me off to be honest Don was totally disgusted about what Sam's writing the manual for a Saturday evening Um by all accounts.  Why do you think she's done it though? I have no idea at all If that I feel she's gonna be interesting Like aftermath situation when they come together Because I borderline want to say I believe it but the way he acted I don't know in the way. She is.  Right with the manual in dispute Emma decides to show it to Darren I meant ending on all sides by Darren and the kids But Darren never offers to take control of things and let me relax He makes me feel uncomfortable leaving him in charge Like to know why she feels uncomfortable leave what she thinks I can't I can't look after the kids or Well, I would like to know what that's all about me too because you couldn't look after your 13 year So, who are you to tell me? What are you talking about? And you still don't prioritize your two kids first the new ones.  They're my kids at the end of the day.   I think I want to be on bro's side because of her past his wife's past because like I I'm not feeling it Uh You can't tell me I don't know that type of person That's a no don't want to hold no accountability wants to go blame Project my blame I play playing game but project Like I ain't going for that man. I know I believe he'd be doing him But I also believe like it ain't to this extent You yeah And I feel that not everything in there's true The warm embrace is crazy, ain't it? Well feeling, um, it's I would In my eyes is a really nice bloke He's found out that his wife is now seeing him in a totally different light It sounds like she's got no respect for you He just does not like him at all and what's she doing with him? She's not happy Just thinking if I'm some shit why have we wasted all this time kids are not the reason to stay together as much as As much as I love my kids We can't keep making each other's lives a misery for it. My my gut feeling is Is enough enough Let's not let's not waste any more of each other's time And watch when they get together. She goes no, I didn't mean it like that. I'm what I'm what I was saying what Sona I mean most of Sam's evenings are usually a mix of working chores, but tonight it's family games at the hamlet Simon says Simon says touch your ears stroke your belly Lou your turn Simon says we're gonna be tools Which one? On the one that's on the floor I've been much more patient with these children than I am with my own And I've been having much more fun with these children than I do with my own Oh my god this lady gets worse and worse about it That's making me reflect on some of the things that I'm lacking as you should you lack a lot You lack a lot In in my own family life, I think Sam's nice and she's like She's done good to get to know us and I know it would be scary to Find out that you're walking after 10 kids and She's been good Yeah After last night Darren's been reflecting on his relationship with Sam I shaved it off because Sam's always said it makes me look too young So I've kept it really for that reason because I've been unsure But you know at the moment I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do Talk about it. Take it. Take your masculinity back In my hair There's a huge doubt in my mind at the moment.  I thought they were going out in the garden What you doing Dylan?  Come in please because there's nobody out here with you. I thought No, Shannon's gone to the shop. Oh one of my Bernie. What's going on? Oh Fallon says you're trying to hit her with something You're not doing that. Well, I'm gonna be watching out the window now. Okay, bro. Got a kid. What is those? Ain't that a sharp object? Like head shears, what is all right? No, should I do the fetch first or the chops? I'm stressed I'm getting along getting really upset It's goddamn kitchen. I feel like I'm you know from the moment I come in here. I haven't really left I don't know whether Lee's back yet. So I need to check This has been a miserable day for me. It's been probably my lowest point I think your lowest point was saying that you like these kids more than you like yours You ain't say that verbatim, but you you definitely alluded to it Um, I am very tense about this rule change Not for the children. I think it's going to be great for the children I just don't believe that Lee is going to be receptive to it. And I think it's um It's uh, affecting everything in me today It's rule change day and both wives are preparing to bring new regimes into their homes You want to sit with daddy? Right Darren, I feel strongly that you are lovely people But need guidance to become a lovely family It's time for you to see what Sam feels her life is like So from now on you will run the shop and I will stay home with the children Okay Okay, you do all do a really good job of helping out in this house. But it's very sort of hit and miss And for the next few days, you've got your own jobs So if they don't get done The only person here you've got to blame is yourself And I have actually written down a chore list which we'll look at after Ella, I feel that your mum should make more of an effort spend more one-to-one time with you So each week we now have Ella time where you get to be with your mum alone. How do you feel about that? I'm hoping that the new rules that we put in place Will contribute to helping and be able to work if she wants to so as an experiment I've got a part-time job Parenting is the hardest job on the face of the earth. I don't know of a harder job So I've arranged for me and you to just go out doesn't have to be for very long But I want you to do it to see if you enjoy it and to remind you why you work so well together Is that one all right? I'm good because I'm really looking forward to that one. In my house everyone puts Yeah, you might get some because she ain't she don't love her husband at all See out here going on a date real life date their weight In your house. I see chaos. So there's no structure So from now on tv is off And you will have to use your imagination on how else to occupy your children They'll get used to doing something else then. Okay. Okay. It's my stop winding him up Um, I think it'll work for for the time like yeah, no problem It take about three days man. They take about three days. I know these things About three four days if your kid been watching tv all they like take about three four days Of no tv They might ask here and there after that fourth day. I'm talking about toddlers now I don't know nothing else about nothing else, but about four on that fourth day. They gonna be like, all right I'm gonna leave it alone We're done here. Let's get the perc. Let me can I get some bubbles? Can I get some crayon that you got to be actively doing stuff with them though As Darren is now doing Sam's role both at home and at work He gets on with the chores leaving Emma to be a hands-on mom Right then she will do it Because I gave them a pen and a piece of paper and they were drawing around my hand They got so into it I've had all this one-to-one tonight and it's probably the most I've had in weeks I'm so proud of myself for Bringing this into this family because I really think we needed it Although the Hamelin kids do chores Sam's now assigned them specific tasks. So they know what they're supposed to be doing So tidying up Callum and Dylan They're gonna need a bit of supervision with that in a bit of direction You know, but that is their job. And if you don't see them doing it, you've got to let us know obviously Ellie and Fallon haven't really got anything but you can always I think it's a good idea to try and get them to do a few bits I'll pick this up put that in the bin I'm very surprised that the rule changes the hardest job I feel there's been a lot of thought going into it A lot of positive thought You ought to put on one of Jordan's chores or I'll get in your bath Gently Let's love each other It's a brave set of rules I've put in Don't let them boys be boys, man. They're boys. Go ahead punch your brother But this is a house with 10 children So I've got to be a hugely organised tomorrow as it's the first day and they're going to be looking to me So I've got to sleep well and make sure I've got all my wits about me for tomorrow We're running late this morning. It's half past seven already Sam's still in bed fast asleep Mason and Jordan are getting kids uniform sorted for me This rule change is not going to work for very long if I'm doing everything, is it? We're all late today, aren't we? It's lucky if it becomes a common occurrence then I shall open my mouth and say something As Darren is now working at the shop Emma can be a stay-at-home mum and she's involving the kids in the housework You're good at helping McCoy. Well done Why because you can't why is it a surprise? I hope I'm bringing structure to the house. The kids have come down loads Just with me being in charge for one day. It's so cool I said was that a roach? Was that a roach on the wall? I hope I'm bringing structure to the house. The kids have Come down loads. Just with me being in charge for one day. It's so cool Can I open now? You're such a good girl At the hamlin Sam is now up Under her rules everyone has specific chores to do but Lee suddenly decides he needs to go out Wait, it's half past nine now Yeah, but how far is Sheffield? About half an hour away How long is it gonna take to get ready? I'm trying to get in my head because I can't do a schedule if you're gonna go back in dinnertime I'll get back as quick as I can Thank you darling that's my fault But I need help we're from you tonight so while I'm Sam I need a job up this morning with your seniors in the way in bed, you know what I mean? You couldn't wake me up. I've got to get stuff done I've got to get the excuse I've got to get stuff done No, I've got to get stuff done So first day at the new rules and your attitudes that I'm doing what I want to do regardless No, I'm not doing what I've got to do. I'm doing what needs to be done I'm doing what needs to be done for my family Why is it every time we have a conversation or a disagreement you have to start bellowing?  If you were gonna use that as a martyr stick Did she come on babe? She's taking this wise swat a little bit too far ain't she?   Coming Gonna help Day one of the rule change is insane Goidaboy Or are you gonna go and play in the garden for a bit? Oh, you wanna help daddy? Okay, Dad The children are going to get more attention And to more involved And the family's not here, there, and there They're all as one now I hope Santa brings us lots of presents, says Tommy Cool And I can, so where's the cat? Reading the children's stories is not something Well, now to be fair, his wife, what they were doing in his home was not It was not orderly, it wasn't, nothing was So of course when you try to go implement it somewhere else It don't work really at your crib He just was being shh, you know, about it, you know I think I've done a great deal of it I enjoyed myself Where's the dog? And it was nice for them Where's the bunny rabbit? And where's the parrot? As Darren is looking after Moira and McCoy Emma has time to spend with Ella You're a big sister At home, and at this home as well Yeah, we're just over there So how many girls have you got?  Like, in a household who, there's a, can only be one leader And are we not saying, is anybody disagreeing with me? Like, if the man is up to par then he should be leading Even if the, even if the woman is the breadwinner Doesn't matter It doesn't matter At the end of the day, I, like I, let me lead Let me, let me, you know what I'm saying? That's a, that's a us decision Just because you get to make them up the bread, you pulling all in, all the scratch I'm still the man of this house You understand?   But beside every man is a great woman So get in my ear and help me lead Give me direction Give me, you know what I'm saying? Let's talk together and build a plan But like, just straight leading is crazy The one one day week alone with my mom thing Because that's good While Sam spends the night in a hotel Hey, this is peak That is funny Lee has time to calm down and think things through Lee, be fair I have decided to carry on my wife's swap I have decided Sam can come back tomorrow But if she thinks there's gonna be a lot of begging and apologies It ain't gonna happen I'm coming in, I'll take your bag for you Okay Lee's spirit is disturbed Do you wanna come float at kitchen? Because I'm just gonna wear some of the breakfast stuff while I'm chatting If that's all right with you She came back, everybody at school But everything done Point proven I do owe you an apology for insulting you Bro, didn't you just say it wasn't gonna be no apologizing? Well, thank you for apologizing But I just want you to understand I just don't want to get into any more long-winded conversations with you Because I am afraid of what's gonna happen And you know, that's the honest truth If you do decide on the next couple of days There's things that you don't want to get off your chest I owe you that to shut me off and listen Okay Right, I owe you that Sam Thank you I'm dying to He got anger issues though See the kids Right, well can we just Obviously I'm gonna approach it all with great trepidation I just want to get through one day Without, you know, some sort of rock or something kicking off Go sit down Day one was crazy, Lee Day one of seven you kicked all of it like that At the table and eat So sit at the table now, please You don't walk away when there's food In studly, Emma Hamlin's can That's what I've been trying to tell my daughter Like, sit down, please Continuing with her no-nonsense approach to the kids' new routines I hear you McCoy, you are eating some So all kids do that, huh?  Yeah Well, try some then And then you can go out Good boy The rest This is how you gotta hit them, though This is how you, when y'all had kids, watch this When they get two, no, when they get like three Even two, you can start at two When they start understanding This is how you hit them When you want them to do something Thank them for it So let's say if you want them to go sit down and eat Thank you for going to go sit down and eat Like a big girl, I appreciate it They're gonna walk right over there And sit down and start eating I get out, watch If you got kids, try it Thank them beforehand I just started doing that with my daughter Like a week, two weeks ago I'm 10 and 0 Undefeated with that method That's it It's lovely and thick As part of the new Oh, that's snot down, isn't it? Rules, working mum Sam has a part-time job At a local news agent Hiya That's it 80 pence, please She had to go to work 20 pence change Thank you Thank you very much Bye-bye Cheers I'm a natural It's wonderful to be out of that house It's wonderful to feel like an adult again And a woman, you know, an individual And not just a mother Back home from work Sam discovers that Lee hasn't done His share of the chores The plan was that When we left at 11 o'clock Lee would be going to the shop To get some shoes for two of the children And get the salad for dinner I came in here at 3 o'clock I asked him who was picking up the children He wasn't sure And he said that he hadn't got the shoes And he hadn't got the salad The word's useful as a chocolate teapot That would be from breakfast this morning Then I'd take it I haven't been here So I don't really understand what's happened today Well Let's be frank This is what you do at your house anyway You go to work You come home and still continue to do stuff Like so Obviously I didn't expect to come in and find the breakfast stuff there From this morning When you come in from dinnertime I wouldn't have thought that would be the norm If you've been at home all day You told me not to do washing up No I said that I want the kids to look after things in the evening When they're at home The rest of the time it's up to me and you Right But the washing up's not my job My job is the washing and the drying I think we've got confused then Because I thought I'd made it clear That's their jobs when they're at home But obviously if they've been to school all day And you've been at home all day And Emma's been at home I wouldn't expect them to clear up from this morning So was I not clear about that then? But we've got the baby shower shirt on again If y'all confused like in America This is the The Burberry is Baby shower uniform You've got to wear this to your baby shower in America I'm not wearing this you know I'm not wearing me in spoke to like a child I'm not wearing it son That's funny because I'm having to You know you might take it as me speaking to you like a child I'm just terrified of any way I say anything to you In any way, shape or form So I'm starting with You're here another day Oh here we go So here we go again Straight away Straight away You haven't done you know I've spoken to you really nicely about those rules So just think to me It doesn't matter how anybody approaches you Lee If you don't like what you're hearing You're going to find an excuse not to handle it And the latest one is I'm speaking to you like a child Yeah I really don't know how much I can take of this You how much you can take of it Yeah because you've been on receiving end of lots of abuse Haven't you It's stopping right It's stopping it's stopping it's stopping I'm going to broadcast it's stopping Kerry Give us a kiss Thank you Come and give me a cuddle I've got to go Well that's two days it was so dumb It's him it was his fault though You're consecutive consistently not trying to do stuff like Cuddle before I go I'll see you later He plays victim a lot He's used to what he's used to I'm sure later when he's calmed down He'll say all the right things in all the right places But it's just paying lip service Because if he was truly sorry He'd be learning from me with some mistakes And we wouldn't be here again Within ten minutes of being in the same room as each other He's a selfish selfish little man In Chesterfield Sam Zendall Ellis has spent a second night at a hotel Going into a house of ten children I had to either sink or swim And I actually thought based on my opinion of myself As a mother that I would sink very quickly I haven't sunk but that has mainly been down to those children And I'm really gutted that I haven't got to say goodbye That we didn't get to have our family night You know, woke up this morning wanting to see them So yeah I think I've really discovered a new side to me As well as throwing Sam out I took somebody else's kids for you to wake up And know that you could be a great mother Lee's also insisting that the other side of the swap finishes Hi, it's me Are you alright? What's up?  Yeah, I know what she's like I so know what she's like I'm coming, it's alright I'll not do the table meeting Just come home, that's fine, not a problem No, no, no, we've got to do the table meeting Come on That's the appropriate amount of negativity that we strive to listen to Come up here a minute please Lee's calling then to the swap Right Because it feels like Sam's a lunatic Right True True And for the past three days He's been trying to put an end to it and things Okay, sorry Hand on me? Talk to me I feel so s*** Because things were going so well here But Sam's, it seems it could be that I'm wrong But it seems like Sam's totally fucked it up at my house Express your feelings, tell her how you feel I'm gutted that I'm going out early But my priorities are Lee, Pamela and friends So if they need me, that's where I'm going to be Have a safe journey, see you later He is a big baby Can we please do the round table? Let's stop for a second, let's see if we're going to get that You do not get a round table You do not get a round table You've been good She got to work on herself a little bit I feel like she did during that first week When she was feeling her, the other mom's role He's a new man Who decided it was going to be over then?  In some of the things and what you think about me And it's just been really hard It's something we need to talk about I don't think it's anything I haven't said to you The man is sitting here in her face Expressing his feelings And the comeback was It's not something I didn't say to your face Come on bro I was an absolutely lazy pig You don't know nothing But there's nothing in that manual I haven't said to you Oh my, it continues After what I've been through the last week I don't really think that that's fair To bring that up to me at the moment Why do it, because I think it needs to be said Well I don't think it needs to be said at the moment Right, well that's your opinion Stay in the ground Again, no, no, this is it I think if you genuinely caught what you written In that manual Is what you think about me Then I don't see why we're together anymore Because I'm just a waste of space I've just lived with the man I've told you that it's been abusive all week And what you're now concerned about Is how you feel It's a month off That's a wife And family life is back to normal at the Hamlins I think since We don't care about this Even bangers imagine, okay Alright, I guess that's good But like The swap, I've realized what I've got I see My life as being how I want it to be He literally chose the perfect woman for him Like literally got her at the age that they were young And you know what I'm saying And has I'm not gonna say it, but has I'll say like this brainwasher Not even, because it ain't a brainwash Yes They have sculpted each other Into the human beings that they want to be For each other We never went into the swap Because we got problems You know, we didn't have any problems We were apple adjusters But I think all it's done is Made things stronger for us But there are changes for Emma As a stay at home mom I'm now doing a midwifery course Full time Because I've got lots of experience In that field Obviously One thing I've realized is that me and Emma Need to spend time That's good Just me and Emma At least he got that We need to be Lee and Emma As well as Mum and Dad The swap has also had an impact At the Zendall Ellises Despite whatever flaws we have In our relationship We want to make it work And we want This is how you know right now I'm gonna tell you Bro got his mustache And his gold teeth back She's back in control To be the best sort of Okay, he's still naked face Okay Team that we can be really Do you agree with that? Yeah No Yeah, no, no, I would I would, yeah You don't want to be here But we still got things We got to work on, but yeah Ready, steady They're probably not together anymore Having enjoyed being a mum of ten Sam's outlook on parenting has changed If I push you too hard My attitude in respect of Ella And the impatience that I had With Moira McCoy Since I've been back From the swap has been Considerably different I kind of made a decision While I was away That I would make a lot more effort With Ella when I got back My relationship's improved quite a lot With my mum Cause I would talk a lot more About things Like, but before We might have been Like a bit more quieter And stuff One of the things I did get From living with Lee It did make me reflect On the nice qualities in Darren Particularly how much effort He puts into our relationship And his role as a father The fact that Sam's Now appreciates me a bit more Is a good thing I suppose About time, to be honest Go on You have to go really fast See, her opinion of you at the beginning Which I still think you don't like her If you say so Tell a little like how to subscribe to her


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QuickBooks Desktop 2023 Budgeted Balance Sheet Export to Excel Part Number 2. Let's do it within 2-its QuickBooks Desktop 2023. Support Accounting Instruction by clicking the link below giving you a free month membership to all of the content on our website broken out by category further broken out by course. Each course then organized in a logical reasonable fashion making it much more easy to find what you need than can be done on a YouTube page. We also include added resources such as Excel practice problems, PDF files and more like QuickBooks backup files when applicable. So once again click the link below for a free month membership to our website and all the content on it. Here we are in QuickBooks Desktop get great guitars practice file we started up in a prior presentation going through the setup process we do every time maximize the home page to the great area in the view drop down. We've got the hide icon bar open windows list checked off open windows open on the left reports drop down company and financial profit and loss the income statement change in the range from 010123 to 022823. Customize the report so we can fonts and numbers change to 14 okay yes and okay reports drop down again company and financial again but this time the balance sheet customize the balance sheet. We're going to change the range Moe 1 0123 to 022823 and then go to the fonts change them up to as has been our custom 14 oh yeah okay that's the setup process we've been doing every time we're working on our budgeting information remembering that from the accounting side of things the budget isn't something that we just do automatically kind of by ourselves because what we do is build the financial statements based on past information and we're going to need added kind of assistance to make the budget. Into the future from the management decisions and all that kind of stuff although accountants will typically be integral in the process because we're the ones that know how to actually format financial statements and so on and so forth. So last time the major budget in prior presentations is the P and L measuring performance now we're focusing in on the balance sheet which is going to try to estimate where we will stand at some future date in time. So it's a less common kind of budget there's a couple different ways we can get to there but we exported we're going to start from the same process as we did with the income statement we exported from. QuickBooks a trial balance that we constructed a budget from that doesn't have all the subtotals in it and then we're going to format it in the balance sheet helping out with our income state information and making some assumptions. And then we will import it back into QuickBooks here as we did with the income statement so that we can run reports such as. The budget reports budget overview budget versus actual which is what QuickBooks is good at doing. So last time we left off on the balance sheet here I'm going to make my screen smaller in the settings I'm going to bring it back to 100%. And then I'm zoomed in here a bit we've we've got our trial balance just for the balance sheet we are imagining this is the beginning balance. And our goal then is to see where we're going to stand as of the end of each month. So remember that the income statement we did last time if I go to the income statement that's the performance statement. This is this is how you know how far we went in terms of net income in terms of revenue. And then over here the balance sheet this is where we're going to stand after we have gone that far. So one way you can think about this and say OK well if this is the balance sheet where I stood. And then the income statement net income is you would think going to roll into basically equity. However the rest of the balance sheet gets a little bit kind of messy because what about what's going to happen to cash. And accounts receivable and inventory and so on you know as we go forward. So there's a bunch of different ways we can think about the budgeting process going forward. We have courses on finance courses and courses on managerial accounting that gets into this in a little bit more detail. But we'll just do like a basic strategy just so we can get something here we won't spend a whole lot of time on them on those concepts. But I want to get to a budget that we can then import into QuickBooks so you could show how that works. So one thing we can one way we can visualize this is to say hey look the assets that we have are here in order to generate revenue. That's why we have assets. So we can try to give a comparison of revenue generation our goal from a business standpoint to you know the stuff that we have and the financing that we have in order to generate it. So I'm what I'm going to do is I'm going to add a couple rows here. So I'm going to I'm going to insert a couple cells above this. I'm going to select like these four cells. I'm going to right click on them and insert and shift these cells down. And then I'm going to call this revenue. So this is going to be my income statement revenue. I'm not going to use net income. I'm going to use the revenue that kind of objective and I'm going to get that from the income statement over here. Now this revenue is actually two months of revenue. The base with the way we did this and all these are going to be one month. So I'm just looking at the top three which comes out to the 69 to 11. And then I'm going to divide it by two. I will do that with a formula in the balance sheet by saying this equals the sum back to the income statement of these three closing up the brackets divided by two. I'll double click and show you this formula so you can see it more clearly. Hold on a sec. I didn't put the divide there divided by two. So there it is. There's the formula. And so that's the 34606 which is just these three numbers the 69 to 11 divided by two. I'm going to do the same thing for the income lines as well. So January is going to be equals the sum of I'm going to go back to the income statement. These three I don't have to divide them by two because that's one month at a time. I'm going to copy that all the way to December and the relative reference should be applied. So I'm just going to auto fill that all the way out through the end through December. So there we have that. I think I haven't added column. I'm going to delete column. Well let's keep that column there. I'll keep that there. And then what I'm going to do is say let's compare each line item on the balance sheet to its goal that the reason we have these items that's revenue generation. So we'll do a ratio in order to do that. So this checking account for example 95 to 59 divided by the 34606 one month of revenue the ratio is percent. I'm going to make that a percent to 75 percent for that one month of revenue. I'm going to do that same kind of ratio all the way down and then try to use that ratio to then project where our balance sheet accounts will be in the future based on it. So if I double click on this when I copy it down I don't want cell B2 to move down. I do want cell B4 to move down. So I'm going to put myself my cursor in B2 select F4 putting a dollar sign before the B and the two dollar signs having nothing to do with currency just telling Excel don't copy this cell down or don't move it when I copy it down. So I'm going to say enter put my cursor on this again. Let's just double click on the fail handle button and then it copies it down. If I double click it looks like it's doing what we want. We're taking each of these numbers divided by the revenue. If I sum this up at the bottom it should add up to zero because we're we're taking a percent of the revenue number every time. So there we go. Okay. So now I'm going to make column D a little bit smaller and I'm just going to use that ratio to then calculate over here. So in terms of what my income now this one has the same income in January because we kept it the same. So we'll end up with the same numbers just so we could see what that looks like. So all I'm going to do is I'm going to take this number my revenue projected in January. I'm going to select F4 on the keyboard because when I copy it down I don't want that to move down and then I'm going to multiply that times this percent which will give me that same 95 to 59 enter. There it is. I'm going to double click on that fill handle pulling it down and we should get the same. It doesn't pull down because I got to drag it down because it's not right next to the other one but I'll drag it down. Okay. If you're going to make me drag it down and then I'll sum it up and we should be in balance again because we just we've got we just generated the same numbers because we based it on the same revenue. Now it would be different if we do it for February. So I'm going to say February equals this number which I'm going to say F4 on times this number. So now I have an increase in the revenue for February. So we have an increased amount here relative to the prior revenue account. Right. And then I'm going to double click on the fill handle and copy that down and then we'll copy this over. And so we're still at zero at this point in time because we use that same ratio for every account which might not you know that might not apply to every account we might have to in practice we might have to go through there and look at each account a little bit in more detail. But I mean the idea would be well if we had more revenue you would think that the accounts receivable would go up a little bit as well right because some of the sales would be sales would be made on account. We probably would have more inventory basically on hand holding on to more inventory in relation to increase in the sales prepaid insurance insurance is one of those items where you think maybe that would be the same it probably wouldn't go up just with revenue there probably be a step at some point where we need to pay for more liability insurance the furniture and fixture again you would think that it would go up as revenue goes up although it might go up more in like a step pattern because the reason you buy furniture and fixture is in order to generate revenue machinery the payables again you would think that the liabilities to finance the assets and whatnot would go up in relation to an increase in revenue because our business would be going up we'd probably have more payables same with a credit card interest the interest might not change in relation but again it would probably change if we needed to finance some more so these two might not go up like in the same ratio the payroll liabilities would probably have a similar kind of relationship because you would think that maybe the payroll would increase but again it might be in more of a stepped motion as well as revenue increases so in any case so let's actually adjust a couple of them just to make things a little bit more complicated so I'm going to say prepaid insurance I'm going to imagine that doesn't change right that's going to stay the same furniture and equipment I financed it we don't need any more furniture and equipment let's say that stays stays the same the depreciation let's say that stays the same and then the machinery that stays the same and accumulated depreciation stays the same accounts payable we'll we'll let that ride and then the loans let's let's imagine the interest stays the same that one might actually go down over time we're going to say that the loan will keep that the same because we're not going to finance it anymore and then then we also got the owner investment so let's keep that the same I should probably well we'll keep that there and then the draws we'll keep that the same and then the owner's equity I'm also going to keep this one the same on the loan so that looks good now the main thing I just want to point out there is that then of course we're not in balance because now I've adjusted everything so I'm going to assume the plug is going to I'm just going to put the plug into equity and you kind of have to do this in QuickBooks as well because if you if you make a balance sheet in QuickBooks there's nothing forcing you for the budget to be in balance right so you'll end up with a budget that's out of balance unless you unless you account for it whereas when you do the data input in QuickBooks for the normal budget it forces you to be in balance so I'm going to make this the plug I'm going to make it the plug by saying negative sum negative sum of everything above it not the revenue but on the balance sheet and that so that's going to be our plug so that's the general idea so then I can copy that same kind of these same assumptions to the right right so this one I'm going to say that if I copy that to the right then I want this cell to move to the right but I do not want this cell to move to the right so I'm going to actually adjust my my absolute references and I could have done this a little bit faster by adjusting the mixed references before I went in and kind of adjusted everything down here but now when I copy it to the right I'm going to do it this way I'm going to say f4 f4 f4 I don't want f2 to be absolute I want that one to move to the right now I want the c4 to be the one that's going to be absolute and again I can use mixed reference instead of absolute references which would be more efficient way to do this but I'm just going to do it line by line here so I'm going to copy this one across so there it is and then I'm going to do the same thing here so this one I'm going to say let's say f4 f4 f4 and c2 I'm going to say f4 and I'm going to copy that to the right boom and then this one we had the same thing so I'll say f4 f4 f4 and then this is going to be f4 and then I'll copy that let's do this one is different so I'll copy this one across like this and then this one is just equaling the prior cell so I'm going to keep that the same I can copy that across to December and then these two are just zero so no nothing to do there this one is the same these this is the same as the prior cell all the way down to here so I'm going to say these three or four I'm going to copy them across and they should just be the same all the way across is what I've put in those and then the accounts payable if I double click on it it's going up so I'm going to do the same thing f4 f4 f4 and then f4 here this one I'm going to say f4 f4 f4 here and then copy those two across auto fill them and then this one is the same this one's the same same so these three I'm going to copy them across because they're all the same and then this one I had going up so I'm going to do the f4 thing f4 f4 f4 and f4 this one I have to do that too so I'm going to say f4 f4 f4 and f4 this one I had changed so I say f4 f4 f4 and f4 this one I'm going to do the same f4 f4 f4 and f4 and so those four I'm going to select and copy them across and then we've got the chase which is the same so I'm just going to this one's the same this one it's a zero balance so nothing so so I'll just copy this one across which is the same all the way across I'll skip the zero this one's the same all the way across and then this is our plug number this one's the same all the way across and then this one's our plug number and our sum to double check so those are good I'll copy them all the way across and there's our general our general data thus far so I know we did that you know quickly I think there's you know we could have done that a little bit more efficiently using mixed references but this isn't an excel course our our goal is just to get an idea you know how the balance sheet how that can be a you know how you might approach that now we're going to use this information to then populate it back into quickbooks which is really what we do on kind of our bookkeeping side of things at this point again if you want to get into more detail on budgeting in general we've got finance courses and managerial accounting courses that kind of dive into that stuff in more detail it'll it'll be more complicated and less complicated if you have inventory for example and if you make inventory if you have a job cost system a process cost system and so on and so forth but this is where we stand for now let's put let's make a little bit more fancy let's put some borders around these I'll put some borders around this one and go boom and then I'll put some borders around all of this maybe so borders around that stuff boom and so that looks good so that's where we stand as of this point in time I'll make it a little smaller so you can see everything maybe you know basically at one time here and so that's where we stand okay so next time we're going to enter at least a couple months into the system and and we want to enter at least January and February and possibly like March because that will allow us to run the reports that will be the budget versus actual information into the system so that's what we will do next time


All right. Good morning, everyone. Welcome to the session. Our lessons begin this time with a word of prayer. We start with the teaching. Father, we thank you so much for this beautiful time of God you've given us. We thank you for your word. We thank you for ministering to us, Lord, and we pray that you will continue to speak to us and Lord may your Holy Spirit lead and guide us about. We thank you for this entire course and all that you've been learning in this course with God. I pray that you will apply and use it in our lives with God. We thank you and Jesus may be praying amen. All right. I hope my audio is all right. Maybe a little bit echoing. It's all right. Okay. All right. So today we will come to a close on this entire course. But what I wanted to do is I just wanted to wrap up with a few thoughts that I'd like to just everything that we've talked about. But it's just a few additional thoughts that I just thought I would share this. Then if we have any questions, we can ask those questions and then we can close for this semester. All right. So I just want to talk about, you know, lessons on discipleship and there are about 10 lessons that we can just pick up from discipleship. I just thought I'd briefly share them and three demands when it comes to discipleship and this is just for us to, you know, learn more or to understand more. Okay. So just 10 very important lessons. I'm sure, you know, if you read through the scriptures, we have a lot of lessons that we can learn. A lot of lessons when it comes to discipleship. So these are just 10 that we just put down and we just want to look at these 10 and then, of course, there's many more that we can learn. So I just wasted here on the chat. First one is prayer. So when it comes to discipleship, it is always important to, you know, we talked about all these points, right? All 10 of them we have talked about. But I just want to bring this close to a close. Just making sure that we understand the whole aspect of discipleship. Okay. Number one is prayer. Let me talk about prayer, right? We talked about how everything that we do in ministry must be undergirded in prayer. The Lord Jesus He had His times of prayer. He went alone to be with himself in the mountains to be with the Lord and He spent time in prayer, right? Now, when it comes to discipleship, prayer is of the essence. We have to learn to develop our prayer life. We must never come to a place where you say, okay, I pray this much. So then pray this much. Okay, my ministry will be this good. It's not about that. Prayer is a relationship that we build with God and God ministers to us. And that same thing that we receive from God, we release it, bringing in discipleship, right? So as disciples, never come to a place where you say, okay, I will stick to what I'm doing, maybe one hour or two hours. Always look to develop in your prayer life. It's never too less or it's never too much. You can never say, okay, five hours of prayer is enough. You can never say that. That's the most beautiful part, right? Especially when we are fellowshiping with God. It can just go on for time and on and on and on. Number two is love. All rights to the Corinthians. We've talked about this again. You know, if you have all kinds of gifts and skills and you have all kinds of prophecies and word of knowledge and all of these things, but if you do not have love, it's of no use. So as we pray, we receive the love of God and then we begin to walk in love. So when I look at a person and I feel that God is calling me to be a mentor to this person, it's not a task, right? It's not another tick in our resume, so to speak. It is an aspect of learning to love that person. They say, God, just as how you love him, help me to love this person. I may not agree with everything that he is saying, everything that he is doing, but help me to walk in love. Remember that was a love that was love covers a multitude of servants. So the person who is coming to you to be discipled or in your cell group or maybe even one-on-one, learn to love them. It's not easy. It's not something that can come naturally at times, but we put in that effort of loving them. Again, number three, this building relationships. We talked about this, right? As a leader, we must be people oriented. We must learn how to build relationships. And when it comes to discipleship, when it comes to mentoring either one-on-one or many people, learn to build relationships. And these relationships can vary from being formal to very informal. Look at the Lord Jesus. I'm sure you had very informal relationships with his disciples, right? And when we build relationships, we are able to speak into their lives. We talked about this, right? Even the mentee or the person who is being mentored will be able to openly share their thoughts and their feelings and what they are going through. So building relationships is the key. The Lord Jesus set the example for us. He built relationships and then he spoke into their lives and they were able to do what God told, what the Lord Jesus told them to do. He never had to force them. Nowhere in the scriptures, nowhere in Jesus's earthly ministry did he force his disciples to do something. He never forced them. Remember when Jesus was talking to the Pharisees and the Sadducees and this, when he said, I am the bread of life.  Many of them were so offended, they walked away. Jesus did not say, no, no, please come back. I'll tell you better things. He looked at the disciples and he said, if you want to leave also the door is open, you can leave. But they didn't. The disciples said, where can we go? You have the words of life with you. So when you build relationships you don't have to, you know, at one point you know that as a leader you're able to speak into their life and they are able to, you know, you're able to lead them towards the things of God. Number four is to lead by example. Remember we talked about this? People will remember may not remember all the sermons and all the teachings that I've made that they will remember your life. The example that you'll live. And so lead by example. You know, I'm sure you've heard of this thing, right? Preach it, I mean, sorry, do it, then preach it. Don't just be, just hear those of the word but be doers of the word. If I, as a leader, want to see people grow in the things of God and I say, hey, everyone, you know, if I'm ministering or mentoring somebody and say, hey, read the word, pray. And I'm saying this and if I myself don't do it, what's happening? I'm not leading by example. If I tell people, hey, walk in humility, walk in love, but I myself am not walking in humility and love. I'm not leading by example. Now, this is not just a, you know, a pretense leading by example. Oh, just because people are watching me, I will walk in this kind of way. But when nobody is watching, this is what I will do. Just being the opposite. That's not what Jesus is talking about. Jesus calls that hypocrisy. He says to the Pharisees, what does he say? He says, don't be like them because they stand in the street corners and pray so that people can see them and, you know, praise them for their pretending to be holy. Now, when we lead by example, we don't put on a pretend. But we lead in a way that, you know, a character is seen and a character is when nobody is watching us. What do we do? Right? To lead by an example, I love the Apostle Paul. He says, all of me, this says I follow Christ. And again, every, I think many, many preachers and pastors around the world, there are maybe millions of them around the world. Nobody can say it yet. The Apostle Paul could say, follow me as I follow the example of Jesus. So very important as leaders when it comes to discipleship is to lead by example. Right? So let's go to the fifth point, right? Fifth point. Being spirit led and spirit empowered when it comes to discipleship. One of the verses that always comes to my mind when we talk about spirit led and spirit empowered is Zechariah chapter 4 and verse 6. Can one of us please read that? Zechariah 4-6 and I'll give you the context for what's happening here. Zechariah is in the Old Testament. Zechariah chapter 4 and verse 6. Let's go ahead. Anyone can please read. Zechariah chapter 4 verse 6. So he answered and said to me, this is the word of the Lord to serve other, not by might, not by power, but by my spirit says the Lord of hosts. Yes. Even in the book of Galatians it says that those who are led by the spirit of God, they are the sons of God. Right? So in Zechariah 4-6, it's a very powerful story. If you read that portion and how God with his mighty hands was able to use King Zerubbabel to build the temple in a time where there was constant attack from the enemies from every side. And Zerubbabel was a good king. He honored the Lord. But he was in a place where he says, okay, what's the point of building this temple that we build it, the enemy is going to come.  They're going to come and destroy it. There's no point of building this. And so Zerubbabel never took it seriously. He said, okay, I'm not going to even think about building this temple. But God speaks through the prophet Zechariah and says, Zerubbabel it is not by might, it is not by your power, but it's by the spirit of the Lord, by the spirit of the Lord, by the anointing power of the Holy Spirit, by the power of God, the Holy Spirit right? I will build this temple. All you need to do Zerubbabel is follow the instructions that Zechariah my prophet is going to give you. And sure enough he was able to build the temple. It was a time of unrest in Jerusalem. It was a time of complete unrest, chaos all over the place. But when we are led by the spirit of God, God does the work through us. When it comes to discipleship number one, you know, you talk about these two aspects, be spirit led. Right now on Sunday sermons we're talking about being led by the spirit. And so there are many ways that we can pray and ask the Holy Spirit to lead us. He can give us a picture. He can give us a word. He can give us, he can stir our spirit of knowing within, of full knowledge within. You know, he can press into us for certain things to minister to the person. Let me tell you this one thing. It's very important that we must remember this. When it comes to discipleship, we can speak a hundred words and it can touch the person. But remember just one word of the scriptures, of the word of God led by the Holy Spirit can really penetrate into a person's heart and change their lives forever. That is the difference of being spirit led. Now I'm not saying that we don't use our mental abilities, our natural abilities, think and to minister and to help a person. But it's also very important to be spirit led. How can I apply it? Spend time and take on, very spirit. I'm going to start to sell a group today evening or I'm going to minister to this person, maybe a person who's lost a loved one in their family. What do I say to them? Or maybe a person who is going through suicidal tendencies, maybe somebody who's going through extreme financial difficulties. It's been going on for many years. We can come up with a hundred solutions but remember we are not the people who are making the solution. God is the one who does the solutions. He has the answers to everything and so when we are spirit led we are able to minister into the person's life. Just one word can touch them. One picture or an image that you see can touch that person's life. Because that is not from your own but it's by the spirit. So heavily depend on the Holy Spirit when it comes to discipleship. No matter how many years you and I have been ministering, no matter how much of capabilities or skills we have in that area heavily depend on the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit, I can't do this on my own but you speak to me. Remember this one time I was speaking to a young man many years ago and he was going through one of the most painful seasons of his life and as I was talking to him he was just sharing it but he was sharing all the troubles and difficulties going through but he had a smile on his face and I kept thinking of this verse you know when the enemy comes in like a flood the spirit of the Lord will raise a standard against it. As he was talking to me I just kept thinking of that verse and I said Holy Spirit this is from you. I'm going to share it with him but let it be so meaningful to him. Let it touch his life. Let it minister to him powerfully that this pain that he is going through will be wiped away. You will give him the strength. He lost his mother, he lost his job. He was just going through everything at the same time. It was a terrible, terrible, painful time but I remember I just put my hand on him many years ago and I said there's this portion in the Bible. I didn't say thus says the Lord Isaiah 55 and all of that just said there's this portion of scripture in the Bible it says when the enemy comes in like a flood the spirit of the Lord will raise a standard against it. It just began to briefly, very briefly explain see what the spirit of the Lord does sometimes floods coming you know when you look at a sea the floods just can come in at any time the storms of life it can just rise up at any time but the spirit of the Lord raises a standard and the Hebrew when you talk about standard is to raise up like a solid wall in front of you. And so I just explain that to him. The spirit of the Lord will raise up a wall but the enemy cannot penetrate that wall and I remember it just it just brought so much of relief to that person now I could have told him hey meet me next week meet me tomorrow after two days and I'll talk to you I'll counsel you and all of that. That is good. Maybe he needs it but at that moment being spirit live being spirit empowered speak into that person's life and so as leaders as disciples that God is calling us remember to be spirit live. How can I be spirit live for all times. We've got the scriptures we've got the Bible we've got we can always go back to God and pray and ask the Holy Spirit and as from our side we can also learn to step out into the by using the gifts of the Holy Spirit step out and don't just say okay this is how I'm going to do it don't just depend on your our natural abilities but depend on the Holy Spirit as well okay we are at the sixth point one two three four five yes sixth point equipping others to equip ourselves now this is something that at ABC that we always want to do we want to equip people many of you are from different parts of India different parts of the nation and all that you've been learning in these three years at Bible college is an equipping what maybe you already knew most of it if you have learned a lot of new things you've learned to spend time in God's word you've learned you've grown if you look back from the first year first semester when you joined up to now the last semester you have definitely grown in the things of God right and you've been equipped for every good work right so the equipping happens not just so that we can say that hey I finished my degree or I finished my course that's just in the natural but you are equipped you and I are equipped to equip others what we learn we share it with others and we want to see others do as much as what we do or even more than that and we want to see that chain a ripple effect as a leader our mindset must be not to look at people he's just learning so he's still small he's still immature when you look at a person look at him what you see in the future remember we talked about the relationship between Paul and Timothy I'm sure when Paul saw Timothy he didn't see a 13 year old boy who was with a good testimony probably the apostle Paul saw Timothy as a leader equipped in the things of God leading a church he saw him as to what God saw him remember we talked about that everyone saw Peter as a fisherman Jesus saw Peter as a leader of the church so when we are equipping ourselves we are going to learn to give it up learn to equip others now you may feel hey I'm just in the workplace how do I equip others you can in small ways you can probably start a small group you can start a Bible study you can you know in some ways now when things going online or zoom and all of that you know just probably do once a week Bible study take a topical studies take word studies character studies so much that we can you can do and it may be you know you start you want to start a Bible study session and you may have you know two people joining don't be discouraged remember you are equipped to equip others those two people are as much as important if there are 2,000 people so remember that you are equipping others you are discipling them it's a process when it comes to discipleship because you know in a time and age that we're living in everyone's seen numbers people are fascinated by numbers 10,000 people 20,000 people in the church now all of that is it's good we want to see that Jesus Jesus himself said I will build my church the Lord added to the church so it's good that a church grows many people come to Christ but it's not about having a huge church and not being able to equip others you can have 100 people in your church and have all 100 of them equipped in the word of God and those 100 can go out and minister to another 100 people each so always look at the bigger picture whether it's two you never know you're teaching somebody the word of God and two people have joined online and in those two one of them could be the next Billy Graham or the other person could be the next Reinhard Bonke we don't know is we are being faithful to minister to the to what God has given us we are equipped to equip others look at the great Apostle Paul he learned all of this he had these great revelations he had this extremely high understanding of this Old Testament and when he saw Jesus he was able to relate probably and he asked that every offering, levitical offering he could relate it to Christ and he just could bring that whole puzzle together and he had such a strong understanding of the Old and the New Cover he didn't keep it to himself he went on he says you are my glory you the people you are my crown you are my joy and his heart was to see people raised up and turned to Christ and that should be our heart as well whatever I've learned whatever I know had me not to be selfish I know none of us are selfish it's not like we don't want to share it but it's not a small I don't despise those small beginnings even if it's one person even if it's a child that you're ministering to it's okay it could be your 10 year old child that you're ministering to down on them because that child can grow up to be a next great Apostle or Prophet of God used greatly for the Kingdom of God what happens you're equipped to equip others and then the next point okay group discipleship when it comes to discipling in a group not one on one but group discipleship it's very important to we talked a little bit about this right too be very sensitive culturally sensitive understand you know people are coming from different backgrounds different levels of understanding people are different levels and they walk with God so you are very sensitive to each of their level of understanding and also be available for them when it comes to group discipleship right so when it comes to mentorship we look also at three demands when it comes to discipleship but mentoring calls for action sacrifice to be able to bring in your expertise also when it comes to mentoring meaning for example mentoring doesn't always have to be in terms of the scripture right now for example you know as a group leader you may have a young man who's just completed this college and he may say hey I don't know what to do what course to take up or what should I do whatever which work I should go to or I want to start a small business I don't know how to go about doing it now you may be just a teacher for example right but you know somebody who is in small business so you can connect them and they are able to mentor each other so as a leader be you know self freely make sure that it shouldn't be selfish ambition you know this person should be mentored by me so that whoever he meets or she meets they will say my mentor is this person you know now if I don't know anything about business and a person a young man says I want to be mentored and I want to know how to start a business if I hold on to it and say okay first let me learn about business and then I will teach you about business you're just going to give him head knowledge but if there is a person who has already gone through who has maybe 15 years of experience in business gone through the ups and downs seen failures seen challenges seen victories they know how the system works when you connect them it is so much more fruitful to the other person so one of the responsibilities as a disciple as a mentor is to connect people to be you know it comes under building relationships as well is to connect the right person to the right mentor to the right mentee as well right then teaching from God's word we talked about this right the ability to teach God's word the ability to minister on the power of the Holy Spirit the ability to counsel from God's word you know the ability to you know preach and teach in a way that people can understand through varied audiences right and these are abilities that we develop over time and finally in discipleship it's about living life together the book of Acts remember what happens after the Pentecost chapter 5 and going forward is people sold their properties I always wonder what people sold their properties came and put it at the feet of the disciples and said use it for ministry and they did not stop breaking of bread in homes in gladness and joy in persecution I believe in the book of Acts especially in Jerusalem there's this whole thing of Jews and Gentiles was broken off it was broken off especially in Jerusalem we could see it after a while talking about after you know the Gentiles were open to the ministry of the work of the Holy Spirit and God was just the Jews were fine they said okay everything's open anyone can receive the gift that God has for us this whole thing of Jews and Gentiles were broken off but then and the other when Paul the apostle goes he travels to many places he did see that division was still there so this all of these divisions are caused by the enemy but remember discipleship is about living life together I'm not saying that we must sell all our possessions and give it to church no what it means is to live life together be there for each other Paul says mourn with those who are mourning rejoice or be joyful with those who are joyful we will change you to the Greek we agree meaning live together and be there for each other support and strengthen each other remember that you are a body of Christ and Paul writes up so beautifully and he writes in Corinthians he writes it in Galatians again he says you're a body and all of you you're one body and Christ so as part of the body you have to live together work together to make the body function well so in discipleship work together live together spend time together and this is only going to help us to fulfill the commission no matter where we are no matter how small whatever small work we may be doing remember you're fulfilling the commission that God has given so these are few points these are all what we shared in our notes I just wanted to just summarize all of it but I also wanted to talk about three demands when it comes to discipleship first one is discipleship it demands commitment let me just put it here when you talk about discipleship it cannot be done just overnight it's not a one event when it comes to a cell group if you are recycling people you've got to call them there will be times where people are happy, people are sad people are going through seasons you've got to be with them there's time, there's resources that God has given you and you have to be committed to it it's not easy but as leaders God gives us that grace God gives us that ability to be committed when we look at scriptures especially in the New Testament the early church they were committed to the things of God many of us may say hey they didn't have much work that we have right we have an eight hour shift remember this we don't have persecutions they had intense persecution they could have just sat at home and just thought about doing their work but they were committed to the cause of the gospel they didn't fudge meaning they didn't say okay let's do something else nobody likes this gospel of Jesus Christ they were committed to the cause thankfully we are in a place where nobody is asking us to leave Christianity and maybe put to death thank God we don't have that kind of persecution but when it comes to discipleship it could be commitment and small things maybe just a 15 minute prayer with a person you're ministering to maybe just a phone call during the week there could be many other reasons but it calls for commitment okay the second point the discipleship demands sacrifice and we talked about this in Matthew chapter 16 Jesus said if any man would come after me let him deny himself take up his cross and follow him or whosoever would save his life shall lose it and whosoever shall lose his life will lose his life for my sake shall find it let me bring up your life here we're talking about sacrifice when it comes to discipleship we must be willing to sacrifice that sacrifice could be sometimes no as I said it's not always the sacrifice of life but it's sacrifice of time, money, resources sleep there are a few things that we may have to sacrifice but it's part of what discipleship carries it's wonderful when people say hey he's discipling me or he's mentoring me but it also calls for sacrifice and especially when you look at ministry or only discipleship many other things that we do in ministry calls for sacrifice and this is the third demand discipleship demands humility the Lord Jesus did something very powerful just before his sending his disciples out to preach he offered them some wisdom and he said a disciple is not above the teacher Matthew 10, Matthew 10 24 a disciple is not above his teacher nor a servant above his Lord but he also warned them and he said that they will be like sheep sent among wolves they will be delivered to councils they'll be scourged in the synagogues, they'll be brought in front of kings and governors and they'll be put to trial, they'll be persecuted Jesus put, he laid out everything for the disciples very contrary you know how many of us would take it up and say oh okay here's what is going to happen number one people are going to ridicule you and mock you two they're going to catch you, they're going to put you in a prison, three they're going to be like wolves, they're going to just eat you out in the sense they just attack you on every side how many of us would take up this you know say no but if on the flip side you know you're going to get to preach, you're going to get to travel get to see places, people are going to respect you you're going to see many miracles and healings and all of these things, most probably we'd love to see all of that and we will say yes as well but Jesus before setting out his disciples he humbled them and he said listen I know that probably he did this because he knew that Jesus knew that he was famous he knew that okay the twelve also knew that Jesus was famous if he was not famous thousands of people would never follow why would thousands of people follow five thousand people at one time another place five thousand excluding children, women and children probably eight thousand people own, why would so many people follow Jesus and I'm sure the disciples knew that you know Jesus is famous and they are in the team and you know James and John are saying give me the left spot and the right spot and there's all of these things that is happening but I'm sure they will, they had probably a little bit of head weight but Jesus says listen I'm sending you as wolves, they're going to catch you, it's not as rosy as it looks, they're going to beat you, they're going to persecute you, they're going to say all kinds of evil against you but I want you to learn to walk in humility yet when you walk in humility I will give you the power, the anointing of the Holy Spirit will destroy the works of the devil and when you see that don't ever think it's your own ability, walk in humility and know that it's God that is working for you. So even in discipleship right, we walk in humility, knowing that hey it's not about us, it's just that God is using us as a tool. I love the book of Jeremiah right, shall the portal, shall the clay say to the portal why have you made me this way the clay has no words to say and he's only trying to speak to to Israel and say you walk in humility how can you tell me why are the Babylonians coming, why are the Assyrians why are we in bondage, you know you're the clay, I'm the portal, I will make you the way I want you to be you humble yourself, just talking to the people of Israel, humble yourself, change your ways I am the portal, you are the clay, I will I will do what I promise to do for you discipleship demands commitment, demands sacrifice demands humility, there's many more but I just put all of it encompass all of it alright so we've come to a close of this course thank you so much, I really enjoyed teaching and learning throughout this entire course, do you have any questions, any thoughts that you would like to share, feel free to do so now do you have any questions, any thoughts, alright good so this is your last semester, yes go ahead I will work for you don't think I missed any of your class in my attendance, I could call it 7 to 10 and I don't think I missed any of your class, I don't know how it would be, how it would be to happen and I don't know how it would be to do something with us we are in our country here in Nigeria we are the EU of Network our network breaks and combat but I don't think that would affect the class, I look up this I'm not feeling well I just try to attend the class, do it today after 10 minutes please try to read something I didn't miss any of your class Markre, I couldn't really hear you too well because of the voice can break me up but if it's something to do with attendance, what you can do is just send an email to the administrator you can get more details on that, I did understand that you were saying that the network is low sometimes you get cut off but in terms of attendance you can just send an email, any query you have regarding classes courses, any query you have, you can just send an email to the administrator or you can just email and she will be able to give you details regarding anything you have in terms of the classes Divya, you said regarding assignment, can we give more time are you talking about the midterm assessment Divya? yes, that's it it's alright what I will do is, I will make the change if there is a due date, I will make the change I can just probably give you a couple of days extra that will be great very simple open book exam just to review ourselves thank you so much I think for the midterm exam, I didn't put a due date in you can just post it, but I will double check if there is a due date, I can extend it Saturday is the due date, I will change alright, anything else so it's interesting, it's very nice to know that each one of you are graduating, so thank you for staying the course, it's wonderful and I'm sure the Lord is going to use each one of you greatly for His kingdom and thank you so much for being here and studying together, I will see you soon probably at the graduation, so have a great time, continue to learn continue to grow, continue to be a blessing thank you so much, God bless you all have a great time ahead, God bless


The governments of St. Lucia continues climate resilience efforts through a donation of water tanks to assist farmers during this COVID-19 era. Pillar 6 of the St. Lucia Economic Recovery and Resilience Plan focuses on disaster risk mitigation and climate change. Policy Intervention No. 32 under this pillar calls for the provision of 800 water tanks to vulnerable communities and essential public services to ensure water security in the event of a natural disaster. In 2020, over 382 water tanks were presented to local churches, NGOs and service organisations. Anissia Antoine reports on this latest donation to the farming community. St. Lucia's agricultural sector continues to play a dominant role in its socioeconomic development and is a major factor in determining the food and nutrition security of the country. The sector continues to face threats of climate change whilst simultaneously encountering new threats sparked by the COVID-19 pandemic. The government of St. Lucia through the Economic Recovery and Resilience Plan has donated 190 water tanks to St. Lucia farmers. Chief Economist of the Ministry of Economic Development, Housing, Urban Renewal, Transport and Civil Aviation, Tommy Descartes, notes that the initiative complements an additional 382 tanks which were delivered to various public institutions, including NEMO, police stations and faith-based organisations as part of the social stabilisation plan launched last year. In the onset of COVID, the Department of Economic Development and the Ministry of Finance embarked on the development of an Economic Recovery and Resilience Plan. This plan was essentially to help the economy, help livelihoods, persons that are vulnerable. In crafting the plan, we saw it fit that we needed to include the Ministry of Agriculture because while we face the pandemic, we also face a climate crisis. It impacts farmers in many ways. We know the increasing intensity of natural hazards and the frequency, but also in terms of the drought conditions and so on. So we are very happy today that we are launching this initiative. Descartes explains that all tanks were procured from a local supplier in an effort to stimulate the manufacturing sector. Venetia Anno, a benefitting farmer, expressed gratitude on behalf of all recipients for the donation. I would like to sincerely thank them for providing me with this water tank as well as everyone else. It will be of great use, especially for the upcoming tri-season with proper storage of water, being able to manage the crops and also my poultry farm. The project was funded by the World Bank through resources reallocated from the Disaster Vulnerability Reduction Project. From the communications unit of the Ministry of Agriculture, I am Anicia Antoine reporting.


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