Right here Let me see here see if I can get this thing going See save a highlight phone Might be a couple minutes early Want to get this set up. I didn't have it preset. So I want to see if I can get on here and get things organized Appreciate y'all. Thank y'all for being members of the bless tribe I'm blessing to get on here with you now. I'm gonna try to do more live Q&A's this month Last month was real Crazy for everybody for the whole world staying still going crazy where I'm at my state setting records, you know right now with his 19 but Trying to press through and so I'm gonna try to do a few more Q&A's this month See if we can get a man and I can answer more y'all questions. I Appreciate y'all for being part of the bless tribe now earlier today. I shot a video called entangle One of my homeboys hit me yesterday told me to do a video on it And I kept seeing that on from messages and stuff on Instagram So I did the video if you have noticed with the video today is no ads on there I didn't want the word to get interrupted So there's no ads on there.  We all got to check our spirit now Because it's always something that that we battling with every single person Now remember if you have a question put on hashtag Q in front of your question And I'll see it here in the chat Lord willing If I miss you forgive me blame it on my head not my heart Or my eyes not my heart Hey, Tony my ex fiancee of Since the breakup He told me He lost himself and that he is trying to find himself. What should I do? Stay out of way. Stay out of the way as more elder stay out of the way. Don't um You know don't get in the way of a man who trying to fix his cell That could be that could be dangerous Hey, Tony, please help. He came to my state and said in X when he was a teen asked to take him out. She took him and his kids. I told him to Have a safe ride home All right, God bless you That one was by now That probably was something else on there that got cut off now. I'm gonna see if my Chat over here sometimes scrolling and get a little stuck to the new members. God bless you how to Keep a captain a little typo and now Went on a trip with a guy as a friend No sleeping together was was given or should have been expected He treated for everything the whole trip and left with an attitude and blocked me. What is the problem? Oh? now You say nothing was given or should have been expected.  Oh No, no sound like my wife in here answering questions Sarah Sound like a question from my wife. Now see that's how me and my wife are. I'm real serious and she liked to joke a lot and Her jokes have no end.  I'll be about to be in all kind of prisons, but I Just had to learn and she had to learn me You know it in the turning the arguments and then turn in the silent treatments for an hour or two Because he played too much, but it just got to come to a healthy balance. You got to know When to stop you got to know a y'all got to forgive me. I'll be sweating y'all got to give me a little old school rag Now cuz I just got out of shower and it's a real hot on my body. So I'm still condescending. Okay, it's a new word Real word, but I'm gonna use it right down. So y'all got to forgive me if I have a love Heat on them Valerie God bless you. Hello, Mr. Gaskins much respect trying to see how you're not a preacher though Be bringing that fire. Thank the Lord for you. Hey Valerie. God bless you now. God bless you. No, ain't no preachers now Ain't no preacher. You tell you why ain't no preaching because I can't be going doing the same thing every Sunday. I'm like Lord, I'm need milk a couple more days off. I can't be doing them three services every Sunday I don't like monotony like that. So I had to serve the Lord in different ways. Okay, make a video today Mike I could skip tomorrow passes. They got to show up. They got to show up I said Lord, I got to serve you a little different the sweetest Tony What makes a man lose his hope in his marriage to the point? He is willing to lose his wife and kids to start over with another woman Well, see what you have to realize about that is that the marriage was over in the first couple years But a lot of times we don't know it We don't realize it and a lot of times women especially Can't read a man's cues and you think it's just normal relationship You think you just doing what normal couples do and you're going through the motions But really all of his signs the underlying signs that you miss is Him saying the relationship is over because see when a man truly in love and he truly love you Unless you dog him out you cheat on him, you know disrespect him treat him like crap He never stopped loving you I'm never gonna wake up and say I want to start my life over leave my wife and kids and start my life over with another woman only time a man do that is it was over years ago and You you missed the red flags you missed the signs That's what it was We spoke about it and he said that he wanted to be with me However, and his actions said something different so since then we haven't spoken not really sure how I feel about it now Well, you want to sit down with yourself? Sit down with yourself and find out how you feel about it Sound like you all right though sound like you are writing need to keep keep moving with your life Kaley G. God bless your relationship For over a year and he held a girl over my head and was very jealous He said he's changed and God has changed his life and he wants to marry me. I love him Not sure what to think Well It's gonna be a it's a gamble Kaley G. So what you got to do Is you're gonna have to ask yourself if you give him another chance and he turns out to be a liar?  See that's how you got the way it if it's gonna break you beyond repair. Don't give him another chance Sure a God bless you now God that I'm glad a lot point out in your life Hello Tony, thank you for your blessings. My question is how do you hold a man accountable without leaving the relationship? You got to understand his style. You got to understand his language. What my wife does is She'll be quiet. She'll be quiet. It might be a hour But she won't reinforce it like going on like everything fine. She'll change her energy She'll change her energy and she'll be quiet. She'll be a little distant You know, I could tell she's introspective right then I could tell that she's in her head and I know exactly what I did I know exactly what I did or exactly what I said and Just by her silence and I do the same thing instead of yelling still the arguing still leaving You know and some stuff ain't worth leaving overnight and see there's a thing if leaving is an option for you Then that must be cheating or some form of abuse So you got to know if that's what you talking about then you need to leave you need to leave now If you talking about leaving toilet seat up You talking about he raised his voice when y'all having a you know heated conversation Now that right there don't need leave you you could check them Hey, don't talk to me like that. Hey, why are you doing that?    We cleared the air for closure But we'll continue to grow our separate ways He expressed remorse and that life has humbled him since how can someone be remorseful and claim to miss you? But never called to apologize Well For everybody that's not a thing for everybody that's not common sense. It's not the natural Order of things although it may seem like it is some people are raised so cold They don't know how to be warm some people have never heard an apology Some people just heard yelling and screaming and cursing some people been talked to like, you know a second-rate citizen or You know a red-haired step child, you know Cinderella Some people been abandoned mistreated all that and so for everybody. That's not, you know common sense and You've seen him apologize to a friend or a family member Then you know that he can do it then that just lets you know that he doesn't mean what he's saying So although it may seem like common sense some people just don't do certain things You know, it just depends on how what they've gone through in life and how they was brought up The sweetest God bless you Tony. Thank you. Wow men really know whether the marriage is over in the first few years For the younger women in here. What are the red flags?   It's so heavy stuff was upstairs outside and stuff was so heavy. I told him why sit down don't do nothing I want to see her. I got a bad bite. I'm lifting stuff Throwing my bike out three four times. I'm sitting here sweating. I'm not a child But I did that impressed my wife. I did that say sit down. Let me do this I mean lifting hundreds and I left thousands worth of pounds of stuff putting on that. You see what I mean Every every week I'm looking to order something for nothing deal Looking to do something see when a man really want you and he into you He's not gonna be perfect. He's gonna have mood swings.  That's when you know, he's pulling away.   I Don't want to believe it was me. What could I have done anything done anything different? Um, I mean you could have did a lot different, but you doing different don't mean you would have got a different result Because if a man's not for you a man's not for you. You could slid down a pole. You could have cooked three Meals a day Bobby filet, you know, she'll boy Rd. She'll girl Rd You could have walked around in lingerie 18 out of the 24 hours a day Many still with the same thing the man gonna be the man for you, you know My wife she ain't got to cook.  That's all there was So when a man do that, you just got to let him go on by this business and you move on by to life Crystal Marcia God bless you How can you tell the difference from a man that have insecurities from a man that just have flaws that need to be worked on? Well Insecurities will be internal. You know flaws Will show up in a different way. So a flaw may be smoking weed But an insecurity may be he three inches under the poverty line and what I mean by that the average man of five nine He five six. You said I mean that could be that could produce an insecurity You know, he in his 30s that he lost his hair that could produce an insecurity You know, he don't understand braces and it and his teeth not where he want him to be You know when he smile or he bite into a sandwich It's fellow word and he's not comfortable with that but he has not been able to change that could produce insecurity so what you have to realize is that That's different Insecurities they're having a flaw a flaw will typically be a personality issue It'll be a morals and values issue and so it's a thin line, but it's a difference and now Both can still have produced a similar fruit Insecurity can make him toxic flaws can make him toxic, but you got to look at the root of what it is and so understand that hi Tony You've been blessing my life. I have started coaching and gotten my 15 year old brother on your videos Do you do videos on toxic friends or do you mostly focus on relationship? I mostly focus on relationships You know, I really don't have you know, too many friends or you know, that's why I really I really don't have toxic friends You know the people I deal with you know, I just don't deal with toxicity period I'd be on here blocking y'all every day. I'd be on here. Why are you? If I miss read something block Block so a lot of time I don't deal with toxic family. I don't deal with toxic friend I don't deal with toxicity period on the tossing idea with is a little bit of juice I drank my little bit of juice You know having a little bit of soda and I didn't that's the only toxicity in my body little swine Other than that so that's why I really don't talk on everything But I have been getting a lot of questions about toxic family You know and stuff so I plan to do videos on those topics, but it'll be like one out of a hundred You know, I'm Nishi K. God bless. I have a lot of guys telling me that I'm too independent I might be smelling like outside still look like I saw something flying in I have a lot of guys telling me that I'm too independent. However, I feel like it's foolishness. What does that mean from a man's? perspective um Well, it may mean that you wearing your success or you wearing your job or you wearing your abilities on your sleeve Like I always tell the story of a client one time. She told me she went to the store She bought a CD and she bought a vacuum cleaner. She gave a man the CD to carry and she picked up the vacuum cleaner That's what too independent mean that you won't let a man use his strengths like me and my wife We get rid of all this stuff a lot of this stuff heavy. I'm stronger than she is physically So if she would have been out there picking up that big old flower pot to put it up on that truck And I'm standing right there. That's too independent That's what a man mean like you won't let him use his strengths and do the things that God and call him to do in your life and If that's not the case if you're not doing that, then it's just conversation.  Hi Tony. You have been a blessing to my life. I have started coaching I started Coaching and have gotten my 15 year old brother on your video. Okay. I just read this video my bad. I Mean the question. I just I so read that Y'all see these questions people ask me a lot of times hey Tony How you do this dealing with all people problems it go in one ear and out the other it go in this ear I process it in my brain it come out my mouth and that's it if it ain't a question I can answer it's in this end out that ear Because I read your question read the whole question before I realized I just read your question That's how I'm just going right off top of the dawn with the Holy Spirit on here. All right Kidded God bless you on and off for five years. We live in the same building. I stopped being intimate with him to do about With him to do about three months ago and haven't talked since found out he was cheating Why? He hasn't broke up with me. Why are you still paying my phone bill?   You need to break up with him You can't wait on him to break up with you.  God bless you. I read a woman's influence during the work for myself. I was so lost The finding process is underway and I'm finally feeling peace for the first time In my 34 years of life. Thank you. Hey, God bless you God bless you Hi Tony, I appreciate your message and lesson continue to be blessed your entanglement video was powerful. Thanks again.  Good evening Tony. What does it mean when a man jokingly throw shade on where he thinks a woman is from? I haven't really told him about my past, but he thinks I'm from the suburb I got what you were saying though. Yeah, he might think you're superb too.  Let me throw him off his track this man be Trying to say too many lives. Hey pressure Parker. My question was skill Nah, I see when you put them questions in that little blue That's on YouTube that little blue is like ebt card, you know YouTube they'll take that question. Do it'll disappear on me. You see that you see the yellow up there You see the orange up there that right there In YouTube they see that like American Express With that up so sometimes that disappear. It ain't got me. I can't see it I only know where it went at you said to me So sometimes when I get through there, then I could scroll through it But I don't know why you to discriminate on certain questions and throw them out of there You know discriminate on people question, but um, I Really don't know where you're questioning that but I try to find it though. I try to find it I don't just want to say thank you for your blessing The world of blessing the world your knowledge brown-eyed God bless you God bless you now Marcia bless you So you are the best I'm 55 and you have helped me so much in this two weeks of being a member Can you give me a quick talk on confidence? Marcia God bless you now. I need the confidence to kill this Nat in here 55 years old now I did a video I was kind of relaxed on that video for dating 50 and up and I want you to realize that in that space. It's it's an interesting space to be in a Lot of my clients is over 50 lot of my clients over 50 and To be honest with you, that's your golden years. You can't look at it like life is old We can't look at it like it's hard. That's your golden years. It's the time to live your dream It's the time to write your book. It's the time to start your online company. I got a client. I think she's 52 and She She she's selling stuff online. She's making jeans. She's making face masks And she's selling, you know online.    I'm good where I'm at. So you got to ask yourself, you know Really where your heart is at and so if you make a choice to support It shouldn't be about supporting him If it's about a wife being a wife and a mother Then that call in your eyes could be a great calling But if it's just supporting a man, especially if it's a boyfriend because you say supporting understanding being understanding for a man You ain't say for my husband So see you should never be understanding for no man. You should compromise nothing for a man Now if you talk about your husband, who gonna love you the way Christ love you the way Christ love the church Present you blemish and spot free who gonna sacrifice and make sure you got everything you want to need and Make sure that when it's time when you feel it's time to pursue your dream He gonna get behind you and support you too Now that's your husband now if you giving up stuff for a man. Oh, no, you're doing the wrong thing You're doing the wrong thing To see them God bless you. Hey big bro T.    All right Don't be lying on me Got to say Tony you missed us and it's and it's it's really cuz your question disappeared because the type of question you chose All right, I get that together now And you got to understand that if I miss you just keep posting your question in there cuz see you see how I seen Tony you skipped us Had you kept the faith and just post your question, I would have saw your question right there instead of Tony You skipped us. You see what I'm saying God bless you. That's a life lesson Keep the faith Pressure Park I find your question right here boyfriend of three years live together. He cheated lot about it Let me suffer for months. I told him something is wrong. How do I know if it's worth staying? It's not worth staying cuz it's been three years and it's still your boyfriend and you can cheat it And you can cheat it on and lied to now listen to your question precious listen to your question You see you see what I'm saying. Let's tell you question. Let's tell you question boyfriend Three years You don't take a man three years and know if you his wife. He know in the first year He know about month 12 of you his wife He cheated Cheated that mean into the covenant into the relationship.  That's what that is lie.  I Told him something is wrong How do I know if it's worth staying see in every question? It seeds to the solution Every question got seeds to the solution so With stuff like that you would you just got to read that question back to yourself?  Thank you Tony for provide providing us with the truth about men and relationships Your lesson have been invaluable.   Hey, God bless you now God bless you Put your track shoes on all right now God bless a man can usually lust after a woman and not love her while a woman typically loves a man and then lust Why then would a man leave his marriage after lusting for a woman when he is supposedly in love with his wife? Well, you got to realize this What's understood don't need to be explained and What's done will show you really what's being said so if a man Leave his wife after lusting for another woman then that's clear evidence that he is not in love with his wife So he cannot supposedly be in love with his wife if he leave him for another one So again, that's a situation where the relationship was dead year one year two Ashley F. God bless you. I can't put in the words how thankful I am for you and Miss Gaskins Your words both spoken and written along with God have literally changed me in the way I choose to live my life continued blessings to you and your family. Hey God bless I'm sure hey, thank you for sharing that with me Miss Angel bless you. Hey Tony What are your thoughts on me trying to help open the other woman's eyes and brain to the games and mental health Props the father of her child has she's bitter towards me lost and broken Well pray for you know if you believe in God pray for pray for every day pray for every day Put on your prayer. Let's see prayer change thing because what prayers really pray prayers Energy in the air, you know, you speaking things into existence.  God hears you his movements being happening his movements happen when you pray And so a lot of time before your mouth could say anything to a person Let your prayer talk to God and when you pray that person you praying for they feeling in their heart If if y'all pay attention to this You'll think about somebody I know I know a Hall of Famer NBA Hall of Famer and I was riding home the other day and I was thinking about I was thinking about calling him and getting a lesson getting a lesson from him Uh on dealing with family, you know when you come up and you make it and and you got a little bit of change More than your family has Dealing with that. I was thinking about him 5 10 15 minute later that night. He text me say hey, give me a call You see what I mean? So When you start praying for somebody you think about that person Things start to shift prayer change things. So do that first do that first and she might Pray that her heart is softening She might come to you and say hey, I want to apologize for the way I've been talking to you Try to see it do it every day for 30 days pray for Able God bless your high Tony. Do you think I should entertain the thought of being in a relationship with a man who Is still friends with someone he cheated on his last girlfriend with absolutely not Absolutely not keep on moving keep on moving The man I am with is a oh hold on right quick. Let me let me um scroll through here and catch my My little messages that be in here cuz I'll be missing those that be in the chat Y'all got to forgive me for that for the chat get to Get too far Lola, so can you please make a vid on why men try to trap women? That might be honestly all my videos Esmeralda All right now see Esmeralda see you talking about I miss your question See what it is. You be trying to get a whole coaching session in here with them 10 questions nine with them 10 Questions you be asking Esmeralda. You need to sign up for a session nine Tony you miss my question. Yeah, you asked 19. Um, Esmeralda Boyfriend and I broke up this Esmeralda question now Boyfriend and I broke up. He posted on ig missing you quotes and distance grows the heart He just ended relationship with his ex of five years with three year old Four months ago.   He got too much baggage. He got too much going on and start reading his Messages because he might be talking to both of y'all because he know both of y'all gonna think he's talking to y'all All right, I think I caught those questions that I missed Elmeralda and miss parka That said I missed a question So see y'all got to realize it don't be intentional Shania I see do men fall out of love or were they never in love The only way a man fall out of love is if you kick them out out of love See nobody don't fall out of love you get kicked out of love Because when you in love love is forever love is is constant love is never changing love love People say I fell out of love.  They weren't doing you right If you love them love get stronger Love stands Fights and get stronger love don't end love don't leave When it's real love Lovely rose god bless you telling you mentioned there are signs that a marriage is ending in the first few years Are these signs also present during the courting and dating phase? Or does a man only give out signs once in the marriage to be honest with you lovely rose in most cases It's in the dating phase too In most cases a man shows you who he is when you're dating him He shows you who you who he is But see what happens is a woman's heart is so nurturing and so forgiving and so caring and so Understanding that you overlook it, but in most cases it shows during dating too Sue's god bless you men have multiple options at the start Should we expect daily calls before he chooses? And when will he usually pick one from his multiple options? It typically you should expect daily calls if he take you serious Now see it's a difference between LeBron James and LeBron James is different between LeBron James and Rajon Rondo, you see what I mean? So if he got his roster And you Rajon Rondo see some of y'all And you don't even know who Rajon Rondo is if you don't watch basketball But you know who LeBron James is you see what I mean? It's a difference So if you can call every other day, you need to just fall out the race yourself just block his number Because you coming off the bench Use the bench player If he see you with the potential to be his wife, he calling you every day And then a man typically take about 30 days To ask you can we be exclusive? If you are the one If a man don't ask you will you be my girlfriend? Can we be exclusive around that 30? The 60 day mark Going about your business Miss angel god bless you and thank you for doing what you do I met you years ago super cool laid back and helped for a true blessing And thank you for your time and reply. Hey miss angel thank you now. Thank you for saying that. Thank you for letting folks know that That when I meet you in person That i'm just how i am on hill Now ain't nobody anyways, but i've seen people who ain't got the brand You know ain't built what i done built and be turning their nose up at people. I ain't got time to take pictures You need to be asking them for a picture Who is you you ain't got time to take no picture Thank you kevin heart I'll be seeing people man turning their nose up at people won't talk to people I said hey, so thank you for putting that in here now. I ain't know if people be noticing Actually, god bless you. I'm a 26 year old rehab therapist I have enough money to move out of parents home, but I love saving money. Should I just move out Does this hinder me dating it does not hinder you dating a man see a man is supposed to Take his woman from home to court you Ask you to be his date you And get engaged to you Marry you and then take you from your parents house To live with him so it don't hinder you dating unless your parents won't let you talk to a man And what you doing saving money that's smart See the other young lady who asked the question she in a toxic household You love being at home. You love saving money. Ain't no wrong with that It's different because see the man supposed to be the head the protector the provider So he need to be trying to get his wings and come on up out of his house So he could prove to himself and to the woman that he could provide It's different when you the woman because He got to get on one knee for you. He coming to be You see what I mean your husband he coming to be your protector your provider So although you can do for yourself You living with your parents That that that don't send the same Signs implications of as a man living with his parents Because he need to be getting that independence in his blood And now you as a woman being independent mean you need to be going to school or you need to be working Not just living off your parents like a spoiled brat, you know And so it sound like you doing your thing and saving money Kimmel Renee Goddard bless you guy is interested We we exchanged numbers I welcome him to call. He suggested I call him I don't think I should make the first contact. But why would he not? Also, Mrs. Wright was a great read. Thank you for the game. God for the gems.  Well, no Ain't no difference now Ain't no difference you getting one word answers So ain't no difference The the only thing you get right now is his butt the kiss So ain't no different now. So so now what does your intuition tell you about one word answers? So you can't still hold on to your intuition when y'all was talking What did your intuition tell you? I wanted you hit a nap in the membrane if it'll take it on out I tried to take it live. I think I'm missing throw my arm out of play Um, so so what is your intuition telling you telling you about e1 word answers not about when y'all was talking heavy crystal god bless you when do you think What do you think becomes of a man in his late 40s who still doesn't have a career home relationship together This dude is an old school player type a lot of talk About plans, but little action Well crystal, um Not I want you to read that question about three times crystal Once you read that question about three times This is going to be a powerful moment in your life Because the answer going to jump off going to jump out that question for you And I want you to sit with it. I want you to sit with it. And what I want to tell you is you're right You're exactly right. You're a hundred percent right And now from this day forward You would never read a man the same It'll all be clear to you. You won't have to question. You won't have to wonder because now your intuition has been confirmed You're absolutely right Let's talk about bless you. Tony. How do I know if the things I'm running for If if the things I'm running for Petty things like if he says I'll call you back and doesn't I block and delete too harsh Yep, you you being a little you doing a little too much. You could check him on it and see if he does it again Instead of just some something like that Just block and delete Shanice God bless you. Hey, Tony and bless try no questions. Just send them bless.  I missed somebody else um Find all the question that popped up there.  He know what it was doing Erica god bless you. Tony. I slipped up and lost my virginity at 21 to a man I was dating before we stopped talking. He asked me to do a nasty movie. Is that a soul time? Uh, yeah, it's a soul time. It's a soul time now But you know, the more you learn about it the more you understand it the weaker it gets The better you are the better off you'll be So you might need you a little bit of coaching just to learn me and learn relationships learn yourself Luana. Okay. I find your question I'm a newlywed and my husband won't move in with me without moving His mother in two I said no now he won't speak to me is my marriage doomed You a newlywed Let his mama let his mama move in let his mama move in that that that that's a lot of people life That's a lot of people life a lot of people live With their parents my mother-in-law living here about two years I had I had to get into places put in on place Get up get up place to stay You know my my mama lived with my sister, you know for some time that that's just normal You know it happened a lot of families, but you can't let that cost you love to be honest with you having this mama There might be a safe haven because he might be on his best behavior He might treat you better do right do better by you for the first few years Why is she there for first couple years while she there y'all could be And he got a different place in his heart because his mama there But if I miss that thing there, I know there ain't nothing but a devil trying to destrike me Oh, no, I had my doles open moving today. So I let some in here They may God bless you now love fiance slash baby daddy after cheating And having outside child other women in love with him and knew he had a family will that Relationship be true happiness Well, the first thing is is you weren't about the wrong thing You weren't about the wrong thing. All right, you checking for his happiness And you got to focus on your happiness. Will it will you heal? Will your relationship be happy?  No, sir. You have been the same from the start. It was a show That was unexpectedly cancelled and you felt terrible invited a few folks to sit down share drink soda And great convo and guidance very humble took pics and all wow god bless you now. I remember that I think that was Chicago I think that was Chicago if I'm staying I can't remember though Joy god bless you've been in relationship for eight years with a cheating man thought he thought He would change After marriage but still cheated again says he's sorry and gave himself to christ says he's changed But don't believe him and don't feel love from him anymore. Should I try again? Well, you need to probably send him to me for about four sessions Send him to me for about four sessions If he'll put it money with my bills and sign up to get some help read books do coaching Watch online seminars with you if he'll do the work Then y'all y'all probably can work if he won't do the work gone by the business gone by the business Evet god bless you went out of town with x got in an argument the night That night because found out he had a girlfriend Next morning stated he loved me. I never would have gone if I knew he had a girlfriend Why do this? He got a soul tie with you He got a soul tie with you and that soul tie went strangling He went strangling him. He had to get around you to get that fix because see what you got to realize by the relationship Is that relationship?  So what you got to do close the door You got to close the door and move on with your life Keep the faith god bless you toni Someone recently told me a man falls in love with his mind not his heart So if you want a man to love you nurture his mind His mind body to get to his heart. Do you agree? um To be honest with you a man really don't fall in love period And if and if he falls in love then it's with his heart See a man might love you with his mind But he can only be in love with his heart. And so what I mean by that is Is that most men never fall in love Most men never drop their guard most men It's probably 30 percent of men. So most marriages is going to be love But not in love and love it can work it can last the lifetime And just be love But most men never get comfortable enough in their own skin to be vulnerable enough to fall in love And so you got to understand that right there and a little cute catchphrases Don't don't don't put too much stock in it because some things only make sense to the author Some poems only make sense to the writer So understand that right there that what that person said might mean a whole bunch of nothing But you just got to understand the heart of man Keep the faith omg tony I had to send in this one To Just say your humor brings light keep going tony. Hey god bless Keep the faith. Now.  God bless you.  I'm dating a guy found out. He has a child with an associate That I speak to like once a year. They haven't been together in seven years. Should I stop seeing him? Well, that's a personal choice That's a personal choice because if you only talk to a one One time out the year You it depend on her It depends on her now and what you know about her if she cool and chill and she easy going Then you might be all right Now if she got that city girl spirit or that remnant spirit You might have some problems so You got to look at her. All right, you might need to go talk to her because depend on how she wired You could be riding on full flat tires every month Every month you were you were replacing your tires every month.  So Me personally if I know somebody if I know a guy and he used to deal With a woman and I'm thinking about talking to that woman even though I know he might hate I'm I'm gonna hear what he got to say just because if I know him personally because you really You want to tread lightly with that because people be riding with loose lug nuts on their tire and Ride into the median and don't even know why and it's because they they sleep with somebody that somebody they know Got relations with so get to the bottom of it first now Crystal will God bless you. Thank you so much for your wisdom and insight a million bless to a god bless you now I feel bad. I'm trying to keep up with y'all question, but I feel like I'm missing some of them now So y'all forgive him Andria god bless you now Just want to say thanks for your knowledge and incorporating humor these topics are serious Sometimes the truth hurts. However, I never leave the chat feeling hurt But I do leave feeling in lack enlighten keep it up. Hey god bless you now Let me see real quick. Let's see if I if I miss something here Yeah Got that one Keep the fade God bless you now. I saw you right there. Rodney show All right, I think I Seen them so now make sure you put hashtag q in front of your question so I could see you there The man I am with is able to learn a lot from the space I provide him And takes my advice and utilizes it and thanks me for it, but I can't seem to know if he's serious about me If you don't know if he's serious about you. He's not serious about you See when a man is serious about you that it'll be undeniable when a man loves you, it'll be undeniable if you have to ask If a man loves you or if you have to wonder if a man loves you and if he's serious about you then The answer is no Somebody asked me a question. Did you fall in love with your wife? Yes, I did But about two years into marriage I was married with my wife about two years maybe a little longer before I fell in love And that's how I know because I'm a good man See you you could you could if you ever met me if you know me if you ever been around me Just a woman's intuition. Just you watching me on enough videos. You could read my spirit So I know that as a good man with a heart for love who was seeking my wife from the age of 16 I I was looking for my wife from the age of 16 I know if it took me two years into marriage to fall in love I know that the average man the average everyday man and just me knowing me I know most men never fall in love. They never drop their guard They they will be in marriage because that's what society and what the bible what religion says you have to do But they never drop their guard all the way to fall in love And it takes a woman Operating in a certain space in a space of self love. It takes a woman operating from self love and self respect and accountability with selflessness to help aid a man In creating the space for him to fall in love If a woman is easy if a woman is a pushover if a woman, you know, don't have a backbone She don't have self love. She don't represent the love that She wants him to exemplify It just reinforces his lack of willingness To be vulnerable enough to fall in love Wendy god bless you Left jewelry at ex's home. I requested that he mailed them to me About three weeks ago. He agreed. I have not received them. Should I just forget them? Now it depends on what kind of jury it is now if it's a little jury that you know from clairs You know a little something like that right there gone by your business Now if it's into the thousands isn't across a thousand I have to go over there with the sheriff. I have to go over there with the sheriff Oh, yeah Yeah, the mask on and everything hand sanitizer. He opened it and get you a little couple pumps and hold on Give me a couple pumps here. He'll uh Have something. Oh, yes Uh Mr. Officer, can you let him know why we're here? Ah, yes, sir. We're here to uh get her thing. She left over here Oh, oh All right, just come on in. Why you why you had to do all that? Why you had to call the show you could just told me to send it Well, um, excuse me. I asked you to send it three weeks ago never received it. So that's why we're here. Thank you Thank you.  So if it's over a thousand idea, I got to go get it. I got to go get it Even the flowers god bless your tony. Can you expand on me and falling in lord? I shouldn't mention that I shouldn't mention that I shouldn't mention that lord, uh That's the eighth wonder of the world. That's a whole video. But here's the thing Here's the thing I actually shouldn't mention that because it asks a little bit too much truth And I don't like a lot of y'all but I try not to tell y'all everything because I know The way women mind work y'all can't process everything y'all can't understand everything about a man And and it's something that go on in our world. That's commonplace and that's normal But a lot of time women are oblivious to it because you don't want to know that truth So so what happens is Most women get cheated on Most women get cursed out Most women get mistreated most women feel like a stranger in their own home Most women feel distant from their husband Most women feel all of these feelings But never think to equate that To the fact that her husband has not fallen in love And instead we just call it marriage. We just call it a relationship but When a man falls in love It feels like heaven on earth for a woman. I get to see it in my wife. I get to see her glow I get to see how she is overwhelmed by my love. I get to see how she is floored By my love by the way that I treat her the stuff I do for her the way I serve her I get to see that it's mind boggling. I get to see her mama face her homegirls face other moms at school face Everybody face who know her and see her life I get to see everybody face She didn't hit the floor Because they get to see her get treated and catered to In a way that they have not seen on average Very often and so I get to see that and a lot of times most women know that That it take a certain Chemistry a certain relationship for this man to drop his guard Most women know it but just never put two and two together Does that only happen if that man was raised a certain way or is it a woman's influence? Totally It's a it's a combination of the two his upbringing Ways heavier than a woman's influence his upbringing definitely weighs heavier So that's why it's important for you to check his resume before you marry him All right y'all y'all a y'all got to forgive me now Hey, y'all got to forgive me feeling a little overwhelmed here now y'all got too many questions in here on me now Y'all got too many questions on here on me now y'all a hold on now Sheila God bless you finally registered to be a mentor. Thank you for the opportunity and look forward to being part of the program Hey, God bless you now My mentor dot life you could book a coach if you need a little help you need a coach or you could become a coach If you certified if you're a certified coach, you could join and be a coach All right now marcia now now one thing I love about You know a like I'll say about y'all ladies that's old 55 y'all got y'all life and order up with them financing now Because y'all be sending me some blast scene Y'all be sending me some blast scene. Thank you marcia marcia say question number two Send a $20 blessing blessing now marcia Question number two on 55 and dating. Can you do another video been out of the dating scene for a long time? I'm no fool, but I notice I don't give a man a chance.  They like the argon And being that I'm 36 they like the argon and they think that a man got to be 55 to understand men at 55 Well, man got to be 60 so a lot of them like the argon So I had a lot of the comments that women just want to argue And I said that in the video I said it's gonna be a lot of y'all to do not like what I'm about to tell you But it is the absolute truth because I do this every day But you ain't gonna want to hear it. I said that in the video and sure enough The lady did not fail Even the flower was okay. I got to let me see Coach Beverly just wanted to send my support and appreciation I recently started my own podcast by focusing on my god giving purpose. Thank you. Coach Beverly. God bless you Bless you and I believe bless you Boyfriend six months Felt he was no longer interested Confronted he denied said he would make more effort. I ghosted he fell through He fell through with plans, but always made time for friends. Should I tell him why? He already know why but if you want to tell him why to give yourself closure then that's fine, Vanessa God bless you Lily bless you Just dumped my boyfriend after four years. Now he just told me I'm the one Should I be doing the 14 day rule or just move on? This has clearly passed the three-year rule um You probably need that 14 day rule less for him and more for you, but Uh, you wasting your time You you probably wasting your time So in your 14 days of silence and no communication He ought to be sending enough message and leaving them enough voicemails To kind of really sell you on this thing. You know him. You know him. You know if he lying So then 14 days of benefit you before you walk all the way away I Do not know I do not know I don't I don't I do not know you probably need to talk to a family attorney on what you could do with that right there I do not have a clue I do not know I do not know I do not know I do not know I do not know I do not know I do not know I do not have a clue if it's a way you could get around it Through the law to get that name change if you got soul custody you can get around it Then I'm gonna get that name change But at the same time if he's not mistreating his child if he loves his child I wouldn't worry about his jerk Jezebel spirit wife I'll tell her kiss my behind You know just like that now i'm saved sanctified and holy ghost feel But and they ain't meaning literally Mona For her to kiss something, but I'll tell her kiss my behind I got a child with him And that's my child.     I put it right back on them I put that mess right back on them. No, you know, that's why I be on here with the block button Somebody will try to come give me that mess ignorant block block before you Get the blink of eye block I'll be on here every day And for god bless, I have a friend that is trying to become a member But I will post the question for her in the meantime. She wants to know How does she forgive someone she's still with Well, she may need a 72 hour rule 72 hours of space She may need 14 days No more than 14 now when your relationship can't take more than 14 day break, but Forgiveness is a choice And all forgiveness really means forgiveness does not mean you forget Forgiveness means that you let them know you forgive them And then you don't remind them of the offense So she may war with it in her spirit She may battle with it. She may feel it, but that's what a life coach is for That's what you're for as her friend so she can handle it And deal with it without keep bringing it up and throwing it in the relationship and starting all over And if you cannot get to the point where you can forgive and stop reminding the person of their offense That means that the relationship has ran its course and you need to move on with your life A king god bless you. Thank you for the work you do love all your books and advice God bless you now Now I feel like I missed questions in here Ms. J Bless you. How do you know if it's meant to be when dating? The way you know it's meant to be is you won't have to ask anybody You won't have to ask your mama Your daddy your sister your brother your uncle your auntie your cousin Your heart it will be confirmed in your heart See one thing you got to know understand about love is love is or it isn't Love black and white ain't no gray area with love. It is or it isn't love Is such a strong force that it is undeniable if you have to question it.  You say date close to your same age, but men my age want Women in their 20s. I'm 39. My last guy was 50 and he was acting like I was too old Oh What do you mean? What do you mean something else? Oh lord, what did man? He's 50 You 39 He's The man say you too. Oh Man, listen, listen, I'm feeling retired man. I'm feeling retired. I'm gonna tell you I'm feeling handy in my resignation tonight. Let me get my resignation quite listen All right y'all this I got something got to give I'm finna get your resignation ready for y'all. I'm finna sell my youtube I'm finna sell this youtube. You want to buy this youtube? It's gonna cost you a couple hundred thousand, but I just I'm coming to my wet sand. I'm coming with my wet sand with these men I'm trying to tell y'all. I don't hold man I'm confused. I'm confused I'm confused I'm confused He man got me blowed I'll tell you like this right here when you're in a situation like that.  It's just the pool of men that you're meeting It's just too small. So you got to increase your exposure get out more be seen more make more moves But these men the men that you meet like that It's just that they They are They lost, you know, they lost the insecure and they're looking for pretty young thing to get that get their engine revved up again What's up king this divante I wanted to know should a woman be talking to her family about everything in her relationship Um, no, she should not No, she should not man should not either We all should have an ally Have an ally what I mean by allies somebody who They're gonna look at the big picture And they're gonna give you honest feedback And if they hear something that's negative About your partner, but they know you love them and they know that it can be worked through They're not gonna change their energy toward your partner That's an ally And so we all should have an ally could be your mama could be your daddy could be your brother your sister's best friend Whoever we should have an ally, but you got to keep your business in house. We do need to learn to keep our business in house Coach chris god bless. I know you said no to long distance relationships But what are your thoughts on dating if the man is in the military friend is a military wife trying to do a setup Um, same thing military long distance So it's the same thing he gonna cheat just like any other man Unless he a man of god Unless he a man of god, he all the way locked in with lord And when you talk to him you ought to hear chills sometimes you ought to get chills on your arm You could talk to him now. You give him three months. You give him three months six months.  He on the base touching everything he could touch bases with you hear me So it is worth the same and sometimes the military men because you and that confined space you and that mundane routine Sometimes they'd be the worst Sometimes they cheat worst and a man who just long distance, but in the free world doing what do you want to do in a regular job You let I got a lot of clients in the service and when I tell you it'd be a lot going on in the basis now It'd be a lot going on in that service now Hey Trust when I tell you Abby's milk. God bless you. Thanks, Tony. So how to handle when someone loses interest Why is this so hard? I know I can do better than him, but I keep thinking about it Well, it's okay to think about it. Just get the lesson from it when you think about it Just make sure you get the lesson from it, you know, learn from from the behavior Pretty Taurus. God bless you is meeting a man on social media safe Or do you see it the same as you do dating apps? I'm cautious. It's not the same as dating apps See social media is social networking See a dating app is specifically for the reason of meeting someone to date So it has a much different Desperate connotation than being on social media So being on social media is social networking You connected with friends, family, college people, high school people And you happen to stumble upon somebody that you could connect with that's totally different So meeting online is different than online dating Being on instagram Has a total different message than being on match.com. You see what I mean? So understand that there Now what comes of it can still be the same can still be very similar. So you still got to have some Systems in place like okay 10 phone calls Make sure we FaceTime You know within the first month Make sure I talk to the person 10 to 20 hours before meeting in person If I meet in person make sure I don't get picked up make sure I'm not being followed home Make sure I'm meeting a public place Downtown around you know, I like that still put some things in place Even though you met on social media And not a dating site David God bless your knife a man breaks up with you after dating briefly Six weeks is it worthy to keep communication lines open and stay friends hang out if you believe he is the one No, it's not It's not It's not see the thing about it is it don't matter what you believe It also matter what he believes see love has to be confirmed Love has to be confirmed if you love somebody, but they don't love you back. That's not love Love is mutual And so that's what you got to understand about that there Hey y'all to the moderators y'all could relax if y'all work in the chat y'all could take a break God bless your high Tony. I have another question. Sure. Ray. God bless you What are some things you can do?   It need to be out to dinner Out the bowling out the game room out the a lot of this stuff can't do right now But it need to be created y'all can walk around the park y'all can walk in the park. All right You have your mask on walking in the park. Okay, go out there to the lawn with the people having the lawn Six feet social distance looking at the screen up there watching the movie See get out the house do stuff like that right there be creative Don't let a man come in your house. Don't you go in his house when you date them Until that's your man all the way keep faith God bless you you mentioned men don't fall in love And less in general do men not falling in love have more to do with the woman they're with Since some men will treat one woman with love and another without regard It does have something to do with the woman they're with But it's more so They're upbringing But One man one type of woman that a man can't fall in love with is a woman who does not love and respect herself And that's what a lot of women get wrong. See a lot of women think if they'll hold me down If they'll floor mat meaning they'll let the man cheat over and over and over again and stay They'll let the man curse them out. Let the man yell at them. Let the man do this Let me just stay and tough it out. You know Bad marriage for life a lot of women think that's winning A man could never drop his guard and be vulnerable enough to fall Completely in love to be faithful and be a one woman man to a woman who don't know her love and who don't have real expectations for herself So while she thinks she cool while she think that she she'll ride or die We ride together. We die together bad marriage for life while she thinks she's doing something He's giving her full points not cool points. And so he'll never evolve as a real man He'll never become a real man. He'll never grow because He ain't got nothing to love because she's the void of love And so that's the mistake that a lot of women make thinking that if I let him run over me If I let him get away with this cheating if I just stick it out just tough it out just tough it out He gonna love me. No He gonna give you gravel For a reward. He gonna give you mud for a pie And that's what you got to realize coach rock. God bless you. Now bless you Brother Tony and the blessed tribe bless you now. All right now dev in here getting hug getting hug coaching session in here for $39.99 All right, dev will say okay my mentor dot life $300 an hour. Okay. I've been to $39.99 Tony question number three All right, dev I see now. That's how you got to be now You got to be smart by that Devon say, how can you tell if a guy is fake breaking up with you to test your reaction? Do guys do this? Say after a simple argument. Yes guys do it all the time. It's a former of you Okay, and guys do that to put you on eggshells the how you scare the how you afraid to To live to breathe the do what you do. He he wants you to be working for his love A man let a man a man do that one time And if you know you was in the wrong now You own up to that you can admit you can apologize you could get right now If you know, you weren't in the wrong with a little petty argument like what you say and he keep telling me Oh, I'm done. I'm breaking up. I'm leaving On that second time he do that say all right. Hey listen Hold on playboy for your league. Hold on playboy for your league You sure you're gone?  He's spitting on your grave. He ain't Studying you at all And I believe God bless you if he grew up in a two-parent home raised by good christian parents Currently stays with parents but owns home. How did he turn out like a dog? Does his parents know? Well, see a lot of men raised by the world even though you got parents Well, a lot of parents doing their own thing they focusing they working so a lot of men raised by the world And when you come from a christian home, that's how I was I turned out to be a dog But it really was because of the target that that the adversary had on my back And so I turned out to be a dog You know and I was going and I was learning and that's something that see with a man If he was raised right he eventually gets back to what he knows, but every man Typically ventures out when I say every I'm talking about 90 to 99 percent of men Going venture out make mistakes do the wrong things on purpose He doing the wrong thing like an undercover agent to learn what it's like. That's how men do men test the waters Men test the water. Oh, you see I can get hiv having under test that. All right. Let me try this real quick. All right. Let me see. Okay up Still Oh, don't got it. Oh, you know what? Let me try this one more time Oh Still ain't got hiv. Oh what you know what? I'm gonna go one more time. All right That's how men do see with women. You say listen That water is hot Be careful when oh really? Okay. All right men like Let me see how fast I can touch it Hey Look, they say it's hot right, but if you touch it real fast, you don't feel it That's how men are men gonna test the system. They're gonna try they want to see So you got to understand that Teal God bless. Hey y'all. I got about six more minutes But I'm draining night by John. I'm warming up with you question night Teal God blessing a metal man who doesn't have his own place And asked if he can have something male to my house and you said that men come with things Said that men come with things. It's no perfect man, but when is enough enough? I'm tired. I told him no FYI um So why you can't have a male the way he's living that want something male to your house? Well, you could come over there and and and stay Stay the night and just keep staying the night like You did the right thing by telling him no like no, you don't try to get over here I'm trying to find a reason to get over here. I'm trying to make this your address So you could put me on your application like you live here Trying to get your credit fix change your license to my address She said that's what some men are do now. Can I have something male to your house?  So you got to be careful now this to your intuition. You did the right thing Whoa, whoa, whoa. All right now y'all all right now y'all hitting with the equation that All right now. Hold on now. Hold on now Lord, all right marcia marcia in here again Don't don't laugh at me telling this to money well spent. I'm going to get out more Once 19 is under control. I'm also going to sign up for your coaching session next month. This $20 is for your wife Hey, god bless. Now marcia. Don't be sending that in. Don't mind for my wife now Okay, don't be sending that in. Tell him what to do with my money now Because see when you do that because I'm a man interrogate. I got to give that $20 I got to give that $20 because the lord watching don't be doing like that when we're breasting our marcia baby All right, I might test my integrity tonight, but now I'll be giving that one y'all say this for her. I get to I get to but marcia don't don't do that now. All right. Okay and wife ain't in here working. Okay All right, let me go right Let me divert my blessings, but I appreciate that when y'all do that some of y'all send me a blessing to my cash out Somebody sent my blessing to my cash out And then somebody sent a blessing to my cash out and some of this for your wife But I appreciate it all the same because my wife let me have this time with y'all As the god bless your tony. I recently ended my six-year relationship with my ex fiance When we broke up we both agreed to heal and grow. He never deals with his own issues He just just misses everything. Well, he realized he pushed me away due to his ways Yes, he will realize it, but he does not care And the reason why he does not cares because he's not capable of Caring about you and him in that way So yes, he'll realize it, but it will not be to your benefit And it may not be to his benefit. It just will be a realization that is nothing is done with it. So You so like I told somebody earlier, you can't worry about what he will realize You got to identify what you will realize So what you need to realize is that you don't love yourself enough yet What you need to realize is that you wasted five years of your life because at the one year mark You knew whether it was on and good or not So what you have to focus on is what will you realize? What lessons will you get from those six years that you gave him and if you could do that It's time well spent. Debbie. God bless you now. Bless you. Many thanks Tony. God bless you on your lovely family. Debbie came here to bless me now All right. Sherry Valentine. God bless you now Sherry over there. Bless you now. I'm sorry that I have been infected with the Jezebel spirit I can't thinking about I can't stop thinking about With my ex even though we never met Long distance relationship for the past 90 days Can you please pray for all of us that are dealing with this spirit? Sherry God bless you now. I was just trying to look in here.   You just miss being love And that's just your mind doing what it's doing because they equate that that touch that love making with love You ain't got Jezebel spirit though So I Lord gave me a unique gift to read people.  Listen to them Read the holy Bible. Read the holy Bible in the book of Proverbs. Listen You got no Jezebel spirit that Jezebel spirit That Jezebel spirit ain't nothing to be played with. You ain't got Jezebel spirit. Just because you think about you a little bit See this this what it is. Sherry, you think about you a little bit of this hill That does swing between the legs.   He's been asking for a final chance But last night he accidentally sent the text meant for someone else now I blocked him and he calls He just want to keep you stuck. So keep him blocking keep going about your business He just want to keep you stuck. He don't want none with you. Go on about your business Go on about your business. Don't look back. Now. Do not look back. Go on about your business The official crystal frank and god bless you now fear endating I haven't dated in a long time and when I feel a guy getting close I get fearful and second guess and overanalyzing Why he may even be interested trying to get past this inexplicable fear Now I see a fear like that come from a lack of knowledge of love and relationships and men Now see, let me see if I could see Okay, now see you them glasses you got on and see how you got that that ombre Hell I don't know if that's a weave or a wig or if that's what the Lord gave you But it looked good on there. It looked good on there and see how you got a red lip on See red lip represent confidence them glass you got on represent style So you and that how with two colors represent confidence and style So really you presenting yourself you the you the whole package you present yourself like that A man really fear you he intimidated by you Because what you bring into the table you bring in confidence to the table See when you put that red lip on you put them styles of glass on you put the two tall hand On hand your head that right down He looking at you like whoa now hold on I got to do right I got to do right So really what you fear is just not having enough of the knowledge in your mind So you in the right place keep getting the knowledge keep learning keep growing and knowledge is power Because it produces confidence Yasmin god bless you now I think I might have missed a question or two because they had to lead them up there But y'all hey, I'm a look and then I'm finna be gone now. I got to go now. I got to go Yasmin god bless you toner from the male perspective What is the best way a married couple can bring the spice back into their relationship? How can a wife seduce her husband? Yasmin that's a loaded question and they probably need an hour session for that now When you talk about marriage you need coaching all right marriage really hard to address here now And and also depend on that man's heart his heart posture Where his heart is that because see if he into the nasty movies if he into the nasty movies It ain't nothing you could do to seduce him because you're never going to be that picture Of perfection that they're presenting on the nasty movie Because see he going to look at you and he going to see flaws if he in the nasty movie So it depends on where his heart is positioned And my wife ain't got to do number look at me for 2.0 seconds and I'm seduce Does seduce me when she look at me look at me two second like there I am Girl come in what you want And you can have everything and so But that's because of where my heart is it where my heart is if he focused elsewhere Ain't nothing you're going to be able to do so you got to get to understand where his heart is at Then when you understand where his heart is at that's when That's when now you understand how to get to him now. And so understand that there now y'all forgive me now if I miss Miss a question. I'm gonna scroll through here real quick and see if somebody Got deleted Make sure I put a video up today called in tango make sure you watch that Um Erica upgrade now I answer one of your question Erica Tony you missed the five dollar question. Okay Let me see if I can find that I don't know why You too, you know a blessing is a blessing you too. Y'all got to start deleting people question like that Hold on I I see this right. Okay. Boo Baker. I miss you. I miss your after no contact my ex Showed up to my home asking for a conversation. He attempted to move furniture Didn't happen. He's still asking to get back together thoughts Now when you say move furniture now It's a couple meanings now. It's a literal meaning and it's wanting to get physical now Now if you mean wanting to get physical And for one After no contact he showed up to your house. Okay He showed up to y'all Yes, um, this is boo Baker And I'm at 123 Louisiana street Right, I understand that we trying to abolish the police But I'm gonna need one for you before y'all get out of office I'm gonna need one to come by here because my ex is out here at the door All right. Thank you. And then I go right to the door the police on the way If you know like I know you better leave And I go right to the door don't not see that's the first violation showing up without being invited Now and when you say move furniture that kind of go with like trying to get physical. All right, then have so what I'll let him know show up again show up again I'm calling the police And you know how these police is out here.  So do not come over here again I'm gonna tell you like that and see a lot of times women y'all play with men and men you got to realize men Men go to war You know what I mean? Men It's killer So if you plan with a man he could sniff that you plan When he know you serious He ain't gonna play with you Hey, this is my last question. I'm trying to get through these questions No more question now. Y'all try to put no more questions up there now. All right. No more question now y'all hold the question Chantel arena and I need to try to find that five dollar question. They said I missed I express my feelings Love to my off and on again X. He responded rudely and said I told you I love you Why did he respond like that? Should I just move on? Now now now this is the thing now Now Why you call it rudely? I told you I love you that ain't rude Need to say I told y'all love you I'll let you know I love you So I feel the same way you feel That's what he's saying. He lying because y'all on again off again, but you know, you could be reading into it by saying it was rude But so what you got to realize um It's time to move on Kai hi Tony. What do you think about sending an x a closure letter email? I heard it helps with healing Um, I don't know if sending it to your ex writing the closure letter Carol and god bless you you could write it and you could burn it you could write it You could tattoo a kite put it in the air tattoo a balloon put it in the air Now, yes, we trying to say the economy. I mean the universe is climate control So you don't let two mini balloons go but one it Lord probably send a daughter get it out of there But you want to do something to wear because if you send him the letter then it may open up A can of worms it may open up pandora's box.  Question y'all let me see if I can catch this he'll find this question And if I can't find then I got to go and get on go on no more questions I don't don't y'all put no more questions in there now Let me see if I can find this question real quick If you missed the video entangled today put it on there I ain't got no ads on it. So you can watch it straight through now. I thought now after this 24 hours now I might have to turn my ads back on All right After 24 hours, I might have to turn my ads on so now if you want uninterrupted viewing Because right today the lord Didn't move my spirit to put ads on there because lord say let this message go Unfiltered unadulterated uninterrupted Now if I wake up tomorrow and the lord moved my spirit differently And say all right son the work is done You can turn them ads back on because you got a family to feed I'm putting ads back on there tomorrow. So make sure you see the video tonight if you missed it. It's called entangled Okay, eric. I miss your question. I see all right Last question. I was dating this guy. He said he called someone over for friends with benefits Is it because he didn't want to sleep with me? Why would he say that?     I'm like, hey I just hit monetization youtube put them where they want to put them people say, oh, you can go in there and change it I ain't got time for it. I ain't got time. I'm not trying to block no blessing god god for me What I look like if lord got a blessing for me I'm going another lord remove this remove take this ad I take Ad I could win when when a lot of the people watching don't care nothing about me and my family anyway So I'm not going to go blocking my blessings removing stuff If the lord let youtube put it in there. So no y'all got the wrong one now If they if they if the lord can get a blessing to me, hey So but today I want to get that message out there So they got no advertising.  We certainly appreciate you.  She said bless some of our lives Because Naomi she'd been here long enough to know Everybody don't appreciate you Everybody don't appreciate you miss and yes, chicago. I had a red eye again. Thanks so much. I remember now I so remember. Hey god bless y'all not enclosing the night.  You might be operating from a place of insecurity You might be operating from a place of desperation You might be operating from a place of addiction or from lust And so you got to address those spirits and what you have to realize is that the things you feed yourself To forget your pain or to numb your pain or to forget about your loneliness Or to forget about your past and things you feed yourself. That's what's hindering your growth But see when you address those spirits and you confront yourself Is going to be a painful process and that's why you see people make excuses for their mistakes Make excuses for their pain and they victimize themselves because to confront themselves is way too painful Because that means you may have to stay away from fornication That means you may have to stay away from A certain substance a certain person that means you may have to cut off and block a certain person or certain people And to have that distance that separation remember separation comes before elevation And so but when you separate it could be lonely when you separate you become isolated And sometimes isolation can feel like annihilation and in that moment That's where people get afraid and that's why we run back to what's comfortable getting on our back Sanging on the microphone giving toxic situations getting in Relationships friendships and toxic bonds creating soul ties Out of or nasty movies trying to find comfort trying to find an escape But no you got to face it you got to confront it and you got to go through that little Moment of pain you got to go through that little process where you're being Prune you're being consecrated because on the other side That's where the growth is on the other side of it. See in the midst of it now in the climb you getting growth On the other side, that's what your blessing. That's what your breakthrough is.  You're gonna feel real lonely You're gonna feel beneath the surface, but that's your roots being set in but when you get that growth You're gonna sprout and then you're gonna be above the surface and you're gonna blossom and that's where the harvest is Above ground, but it's on the other side of all the dirt You got to go through the depth that you have to get to That's where the growth because you are addressing your roots Addressing the root cause of why you doing what you're doing Why you saying what you're saying why you believe what you believe that's what's gonna set you free But see a lot of us don't want to do the work We just want to use somebody else as a bandaid as a cover-up But you got to do the work and when you do the work listen to me Everything in life begins to change I can't tell you everything.   We'll talk soon I try to go lie tomorrow night, but I ain't sure God bless and everybody that bless everybody in the bless tribe Thank y'all. I really appreciate you to my moderators. Thank you for helping me keep the chat clear Bless y'all to the moderators who keeping the chat clear help things run smooth. I appreciate y'all God bless you. We'll talk soon