That's not bad one dude Biggin yo what's poppin people welcome back to another episode of kicking their bass TV Thank you guys so much for the love and support before we even hop into this video We're gonna be running a giveaway for y'all We're giving it back a lot this year and we got to start off this video with a giveaway We got a couple packs of soft plastics right here that we're gonna be giving away a little worms And I'm also gonna be giving away a kick in their bass TV hat right here, but I'm actually gonna autograph it So we're gonna do this live on camera right here If you guys want to enter this giveaway all you have to do is be subscribed to your boys channel Hit that notification bell also with the like button on this video And if you could you know drop some comments down below on Some of the content that you guys want to see in the upcoming episodes. 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Also, you want to check out any of the kick in the bass TV combos spinning combos bait casters Those are only available on kick in their bass calm So I'll leave the link down below if you want to support your boy. I greatly appreciate it Let's go ahead and hop into this as we just got to our first spot We're starting off with this little Texas rig Got a little curly tail worm on here. We're gonna see if we can get a couple fish in the boat real quick I have a spot in mind that I really want to go to But I was like why not stop at this spot. I think we can get a few fish in the boat right off the rip And then go over there. It has been pretty cold this last week. I don't know how these fish are gonna act and Yeah, we're gonna figure out What's going on today and hopefully put a lot of fish in the boat. That's the game plan I really want to give us a big ones too. I feel like this time of year Is when I end up catching a lot of the bigger ogeechi bass So we might have some good luck today as far as size goes We're just gonna have to cover some water put our heads down And see what we can do Hey, this is Calvin and this is slap man Yeah, we just got to our second spot that that first spot was kind of a miss, but it was worth trying I just hope the fish is not ultra tough. I think we're gonna catch them pretty good in here I haven't hit this spot on this tide in a very very long time like probably eight months So I'm just gonna be kind of hunting around But I think we can catch a few here and I think we have a better opportunity of hooking a big one The last time we came here one of the last ogeechi videos I did lose a couple fish that were really good. So we might be able to catch us a few Tanks real quick. I saw I'm hoping I want to see a big and they should be here, man Should technically be right there on this point. I mean this water is pretty low right now There should be at least one fish sitting right there. I Can't believe something didn't slap my hand right there. I really thought That was it Holy cow that was a bite bro like that thing Vibrated all the way down to my toes. This is what we need to do guys My guts telling me should I rig it up on a spinning combo? So this bait and I'm about to tie up is some juice out here. I caught a lot of big ones on it last year And it has to be this massive. No, I'm kidding not this All right I'm gonna cut this off though. You know what I'm about to tie on cutting.  It's a great bait Yeah, I think they're gonna eat it. Yeah, I think that's the money I need so in the reason I'm saying I Think they'll eat it is because I've only had one bite today, right? The bite that I had and I can't really judge the whole day off of one fish But I can't put a little bit together I will say with the fluke I can skip it way under these trees I can get it in the right spot not only that but with that one bite that I had He wasn't wanting to hold on to it I'd rather put something in front of his face that I can twitch and give some sporadic movement and kind of trigger Him trigger him to eat that rather than dragging a worm to where he can kind of be picky So I think the move is to put on this fluke we can skip under these lay downs real good right now it's a being low tide and I think it's gonna entice some of those bass especially the finicky ones to kind of fire off on the bait and commit So that's the game plan We're gonna put on this weightless fluke and we're gonna start casting this around a good bit Last year, you know, I came in here with a weightless fluke and caught multiple four-pounders So maybe that's the way that we're gonna get some big ones a bite right now Let's give it a shot Oh, I just have one right there, buddy that literally that quick you grab you grab me Luke is a killer bait on these rivers and I haven't thrown it in a minute for some reason It is definitely a fish killer out here These fishes might be towards the mouth where I had the bite. I got a couple ditches. I think we could go hit right outside of this It's time of year then ditches get really good too, especially on this low tide. They kind of stack up in that deep Deepness of it.  How it lays out it's like a little flat right here gets a little deeper on the edge has cover Maybe I just need to work it slower All right guys, so we just learned something which is awesome. I'm not mad that we didn't catch any fish yet These fish aren't in the creeks right now the water's too low. It's lower than I thought Those fish are gonna be in the main river. So we're gonna go head out. There's a few ditches. I have in mind We're gonna go hit those ditches and I think we're gonna pull up and we'll get them right away That's not that one dude. He choked that fluke bro. That's exactly what I want to see right now That's a fat guy.  It's not a bass Thought this was a pass. Did you really think this was a bass? I was thinking it was a monkey. I mean, I thought it was a dog, but you reassured me These fish are so funny out here, man.   That's a good sign. So guys we went up river You know, we're trying some different spots It just wasn't happening and I knew that these fish were gonna be on the main river once we hit that first spot So I was like, you know what? Let's go hit some main river stuff. So we went to our, you know, our original stuff and how long we've been here Cody Two cast yeah, I end up hooking one. So that's a good sign. I think we're about to get on them So stay tuned. It's gonna be good hit the like button. I appreciate y'all. Let's do it I ended up breaking off that Texas rig, you know, I've been thrown around that fluke And I just I don't know I couldn't get anything to really pull the trigger on it I caught that one fish at that one Cypress tree But that spot right there, I usually get a bite and most of the time I miss the fish But the spot that I'm sitting on right now I'm not gonna say it's hit or miss. It usually always has one Cody, right? Yeah, usually always one here So I can't say it's hit or miss. It's hit or miss depending on how many fish I catch Like sometimes I'll pull up catch one or two or three Sometimes I'll pull up and catch ten, but I haven't had a bite So I think we need to switch to this Texas rig And really try that out real quick. So we're gonna tie one up Are you about to let me tie a hook Cody without a weight? Is that what I just witnessed? Hey, what kind of friend are you? I'm here for the blooper You just gonna watch me do all that. I Do that a lot more like I've done that a lot. I've done it a few times.  Yeah, and you you tie it on you like at that point You might as well put a weightless sink or a weightless flu gun Let's talk about today let's talk about what's going on Let's talk about what we could do better and how we can get on these fish because I'm gonna tell you We haven't been out here too long when we come out on there and get you we're usually out here between an hour and three hours you know but It has not been happening and I just got to owe up to it. I'm not catching the fish right now I don't know why but we're about to figure out why so we have a great little talking point That we're gonna harp on for a minute And maybe you guys can get some value out of this Maybe we're gonna learn about it today because maybe we're gonna do this and then it's gonna turn our day around And we're gonna start catching some good fish So let's kind of recap on what we did We went up river. We hit a creek The water was lower than I thought okay We didn't have any bites in that creek except for one Well that told me these fish are out in the main river Then we started hitting some main river stuff first spot We pulled up to second cast we caught a fish caught him on a fluke. He had to react to that I wasn't working it slow. I was really moving it Okay, so that makes sense We hit a couple more main river spots Nothing, which is crazy to me We did have a big cold front blow in in the last few days and these fish are shaking up The water trim temps have dropped a lot since the last time I've been out here And I just think these fish are not active. They're really not feeling it. So in my head When I have a super tough day You would think that you want to throw a worm you would think you want to throw something slow to where you Can present it right in front of their face But that's just not the thing today So I'm thinking in my head What can we do to trigger a fish to bite because at the end of the day this river does not change much between spring Summer fall and winter it doesn't change much these fish are at these locations that we're going to we know this river very well I know where the fish sit when I come out here. I know exactly where we're about to catch the fish So they're seeing our bait, but they're not wanting to eat So what we're about to do is I'm going I'm going to tie on a spinner bait. What is a spinner bait? It's a reaction bait You got a couple big blades on it one is going to put off a Little bit of sparkle with that Sun being out today in two is going to put off a lot of vibration It's going to put off a lot of thump not only that but that baits going to be moving the whole time So the reason we're going to tie on a spinner bait right now is because we want to go past that fish's face and Irritate him we want to fire him off to bite our bait if we present a worm or if we present a fluke in front of this Face they might just look at it, but they don't want to commit or maybe they'll just nibble at it If I put a spinner bait or a crankbait or something that is a little more aggressive and fast-paced in front of their face It can create that reaction bite even if the fish is slow bass our predators So bass react to things. That's why you can twitch something really fast and then have a fish eat it It's because they can't take it. They if they see something going crazy. They have to eat it That's just how that is a bass the basses first instinct is to trigger off on something So we're going to put on a reaction bait. We're going to throw this spinner bait around Laydowns we're going to throw it around current breaks. We're going to throw it on the main river And we're going to see if we can fire up some of these fish We might even go fish some of the spots that we hit before to try to prove this concept There's not many days that we come out on the water to where we're just not catching fish and today has to be one of Those days Cody you've been working with me for a year now How many days have we gone out and just haven't had much luck like today? I think one one time and like that's impressive, bro. Like I have to give us props to that because You know this is a part of fishing you're going to go out and it's going to be tough sometimes But today it is ultra tough and we're going to put our heads down in this last hour or so and Really focus on what we can do better and try to learn something today And I hope you guys learned something too and if you've already learned something this far in the video Hit the like button. It really helps your boy out. I greatly appreciate it Well, let's go ahead and hop into this grab our spinner bait box see what we want to put on I'm going to talk about the color why I want to put that color on and we're going to hop into it And maybe we can turn our day around just like that. So let's do it All right, here we go. We got our spinner bait box right here So when it comes to picking out spinner baits, we got a bunch of different options in here Actually, I have different buzz baits With this water out here being in a river it's slightly murky, but it has that clear Tent to it as well. It's more brackish water. I guess that's the best way You know that brackish water looks what what's the name? What's the word? I'm looking for tannic water It's got that brownish tint to it with that being said I kind of want to use something That's a little brighter. I want to put chartreuse in this bait. So we got a few spinner baits in here I'm going to actually pull this one out This is by striking if you guys want to check out any of the striking baits I have a discount code down below in my link as well You guys can go in the description box and click on that But this is a half ounce spinner bait by striking. This is white and chartreuse It's got a gold blade and then a silver blade.  So that white and chartreuse action I've had a lot of luck on that on the rivers out here. I think that's a great overall spinner bait color Has to be one of my favorites. So that's that's what we're going with today pretty little bait and Yeah, we're about to get the work guys. We're gonna cast this around a lot We're gonna hit a lot of spots really quick.  I don't like how this current is pushing me up in this Biggin. Oh, I'm not big enough. Okay. Okay. That the way that that sucker loaded up on it. Cody What is this five cast in brother? You switch it up we live and we learn and we're showing it to y'all today, so we all learning in this video look at that Look at that man. Isn't that rewarding? Yep. That's that's what you got to do guys We're just talking about it when I threw that cast up there one thing that I like Paid attention to is I threw it up there and I let that bait fall just a little bit So when that bait was falling this blades were fluttering and then I had a good like steady retrieve and that's when he hit it All right, y'all we're sitting down and I Wouldn't say I'm mad at myself, but man, it was a tough day I only caught two fish like this doesn't happen often like when me and Cody come out the film We're filming the film of video whether we catch them or not. We're filming a video And we've just had a great year like 2021 was an awesome year for fishing We only had like one day to where we like it was like this and you know, that's just the reality of fishing You're gonna go out sometimes and you're not gonna catch him. You're gonna go out and have a struggle I know we weren't out here long if we were out here all day, it would be a different story I believe when we tied on that spinner bait that that was exactly what this fish wanted We caught a fish right off the rip with it, but I think the problem was You think we tied it on a little too late I think we tied it on a little too late and I think that we missed the tide the water already came up What Cody like four foot? Yeah fast boom like that like when the water goes out. It's more gradual when the water comes up it's like that man and It just caught us off guard But guys I wanted to post this video to show you guys the reality of fishing This happens to everybody and don't feel bad if you go out and have a rough day because it happens to every fisherman out There and I hope you guys got some tips out of this video, you know I learned a lot today Even though we didn't really get to put that spinner bait to work that we figured something out with that and it was Just too late with how the water level was changing but I hope you guys enjoyed this one if you did please hit the like button if you could hit that subscribe button if You haven't already share this video with a friend get somebody new in the fishing I love you guys so much and I'll catch y'all in the next


Bismillahirrahmanirrahim, Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alameen. As-salatu wa s-salamu ala sharaf al-anbiya wa al-mursaleen. Sayyidina Muhammad wa al-Alihi wa sahabati ajma'in. Allahumma alimna ma yinfa'unah wa fa'nabimma al-lamtina wa zidna al-man. So we start with the family and friends class on ground rules. It's about practicing relevant skills. We'll talk about different skills that we'll practice in this class. The idea is to put them into practice in the session so that they're easy to use outside of the session. It gets boring if it's just about learning it intellectually. But if you can really see, especially today's session, if you can really conjure up situations on how to apply the information in your life, then it is a little bit easier to engage. This is based off of CRAF, it's evidence-based family training manual to help family members navigate addiction. All right, so this week's topic is chapter six about limits. And what's interesting is that it talks about the previous chapters as you understand addiction and as you practice self-care and damage-controlled tools, such as awareness, coping, tolerating skills, taking care of yourself, being able to take care of yourself and strengthening yourself and also having a better understanding of how people actually change and addiction, you'll start to become surprised at your resilience. If you apply these skills, you'll start to feel, in a lot of ways, you'll start to feel the results. So you might learn how to tolerate more, live with more, and you may feel your limits are more flexible and expanding, but in the second paragraph of this chapter, it talks about, sure, in theory, you can handle anything, but in the real world, everyone has their limits. So coping doesn't mean pretending everything's okay. It doesn't mean lying to yourself or anyone else about what's okay and how much you can take. Sometimes you can't take something and sometimes you shouldn't put up with one more disappointment or one more issue. So what this goes on to talk about now is your limits and it goes over four bullet points. Number one is knowing your limits because we all have unique limits based on our childhood experiences and we get to know our limits based on our own past experiences with our loved ones. The second one is reading the signs that lead up to our limits. Because if we can understand the signs that lead up to our limits, then we can make a course change and then setting your limits and then living with your limits. So knowing your limits.  Whatever word rings true to you. Everybody has different words that will resonate with them. Me personally, I like life rules. Whatever you call them, they demarcate your emotional and physical wellbeing. The one thing to know about limits is limits can be flexible. So one day you can take more than you thought you could. Maybe you're having a good day. Maybe you're able to apply the skills that you're learning. So one day you may feel like you can take more than you think you can. While the other day it might be the opposite. Maybe you're not able to take as much as you could. So there's a lot of variables and what we can take on any given day. The idea is it's like running a marathon. It's important to recognize that it takes strength to realize that you have reached your limits. So any bodybuilder, any martial artist, anybody with physical strength, they know their limits and that allows them to continue to grow strong or continue to reach their goals or continue to reach success. Think about a marathon runner. Every part of the marathon has its own parts. So the end of the marathon, you'll get a burst and at that time you'll need to leverage that burst to make it to the finish line faster. But if you use that same burst in the middle or the beginning, you'll burn out and not even make it to the finish line. Addiction recovery is a lot like a marathon where you have to pace yourself. So the runner is constantly being aware of his limits and constantly regulating himself or herself in order to go faster or go slower and be successful. This is about being successful and what we're setting out to do, it's not about being selfish. It's not about, these are my limits. This is what I need to do for me. This is about winning the race together. Everybody getting to the finish line together. And when we are able to know our limits and avoid sort of losing it, then we are more effective with our loved ones anyway. We're more successful. It's a really simple chapter. It's deep. There's a lot here I would absolutely read it to get a good understanding of it, but it goes into knowing your limits. The next section is reading the signs. The next section is setting your limits. Next section is living your limits. So the first part we're going into is knowing your limits. To know your limits, consider interactions with your loved ones in the past. Like interactions where you feel you've lost it, when your emotions have just spiraled into abnormal distress, you lost your temper, maybe it's uncontrolled crying, rage. That's the example of losing or crossing your limits. Maybe you've said something that you'd regret. You said something that's not in line with your values or your image of yourself or the type of person that you want to be. Our loved ones with addiction push us to our extremes.  It stayed in your head, you're ruminating about it. These are all clues that you are over your limit. It gives a really good exercise. It talks about asking yourself some questions to help see if you've reached your limit. So question number one, do you find yourself doing or saying things in the moment that you regret later? Does this ring true to you? If it does, then what's gonna be talked about in the coming sections should be helpful. Here's some more questions. Are you acting in ways that do not match your internal image of yourself or the image of the person you would like to be? Another question, do you notice an overwhelming amount of tension, overwhelming resentment or frustration building up within you when dealing with your loved one with addiction? Do you feel just mentally or physically not okay, just not okay? The section goes on to talk about if you've answered any of these questions, yes. You may be living beyond your limits. You may be telling yourself you can handle more than you reasonably can. And then it says, I'm gonna say it verbatim, dealing with another person's substance problems can stretch you until you've completely lost sight of what a reasonable limit is anymore. Step by step, we become like, who are we even more anymore? Are loved with addiction, but then ourselves as well. And this is a very normal experience that happens. Okay, now the bottom line, this is not a solid ground being beyond your limits. This is not a solid ground for the helping work. So again, first part of the book that we went over is understanding addiction. The second part which we're finishing out, this is the last chapter by the way, of the second section, which is self-care and damage control. Then the third section, the largest section is how do we help our loved ones? So the bottom line is if we're living beyond our limits, we're not on a solid ground for doing all the helping work that is to come in the rest of the chapters. When we're living beyond our limits, it's like this miserable place. It's a desperate place. It's a place that's an ineffective state for helping. Knowing our limits gives us this foresight to avoid a loss of control or a feeling of loss of control. So if you expect to have limitless patience, if that's your strategy, I'm just gonna have limitless patience. You'll be more vulnerable to run out of it because that's just not possible for a human being. So knowing your limits, it's not gonna change the situation, but it makes the situations more predictable and it makes it so you can plan ahead and avoid situations. What situations? Situations you know will push you over the edge.  The goal is to honestly assess your limits rather than feel bad when you run into them. You wanna get ahead of it. In the beginning of this path of working with our loved ones with addiction, we often think if they just stopped behaving this way, your limits wouldn't get crossed, end of story, right? If they just stopped behaving this way, my limits wouldn't get crossed and that's true. We're not excusing the bad behavior. We're not implying that your reactions to the bad behavior are the problem, but you can help your loved one get sober and also be honest with yourself that this may be a longer process than you initially thought. You can do those things simultaneously. You can help your loved one stop the substances and while that's getting worked out, the goal is to honestly assess your limits rather than feeling bad when you run into them. Okay, now we're the second section of this chapter. Now, when you become aware of your limits or what it means to overstep your limits, now it's about reading the signs that lead up to the limits. Now it's about reading the signs that lead up to the limits because if we can get the signs, then we can avoid crossing those limits and breaking our rules. So there's a variety of factors that actually make up our limits. This is a pretty interesting discussion because we all have our limits that are different. Everybody has a different set of limits and that's because of many factors. So one of them is let's say our moods or our life situations that fluctuates from day to day. So if I come back from a hard day of work, my limits are gonna be very different than if I just came back from a vacation and some of this is outside of our control. So some of our limits to some extent are outside of our control. So all of us have different life situations, different schedules, so our limits are gonna be different and those limits are gonna fluctuate day to day and within the day in a different way. Also childhood experiences may influence our limits and that's something important to keep in mind that childhood experiences, the way we've been carved out are gonna influence what our limits are. And again, childhood experiences are outside of our control. So the first paragraph of this subsection reading the signs says your own, the first sentence, your own experience is the best teacher. Limits tend to follow certain patterns. If you can examine how you respond to events, if you can get to a safe space and then think honestly about how you respond to certain events and your interactions with your loved one, that's the best way to understand your limits. Now think about it theoretically, but think about what has happened in my past experience with my loved one and what are the signs, my own personal signs that I'm crossing your limit? So I'm gonna just go into the book on page 122. These are some questions you can ask yourself to help you recognize your own signs. Number one, are there types or topics of discussions you've had with your loved one that always go badly? Maybe a certain topic or discussion is the sign that you should maneuver out of that before you hit your limit. Number two, in what situations have you felt pushed over the edge? If you can actually think up some scenarios in the past, take some time to visually conjure up that memory in your memory bank and go through it play by play, then you can start mapping out what are the signs before the limit? What is the limit? And then how do I act once I cross the limit? And by the way, the loved one with addiction, there's this idea that once we overcome the loved one with addiction, we've succeeded. If you can look at the journey from the end, all of these skills that you learn to survive addiction, they're all skills that you can take with you to be happier and successful in your life once you overcome this issue. So knowing your limits and mastering yourself, this isn't something simply for addiction. And then once addiction's over, you can hang it up. These are incredible tools that test us to see who we are and master ourselves and take that to all of our goals. And this is where addiction is a gift and a great teacher. So the third question that help us recognize our warning signs, has your loved one spoken or acted in ways that you find intolerable? Are there certain things that they say?  Here's a good one that we can all relate to. Do you extend yourself in ways that you later regret, such as lending money, giving time, or doing chores? These are signs that if we do it once and then twice and then three times, overextending ourselves, like if this is our limit and our breaking point, overextending ourselves, this would be a sign of overextending then this is another sign, this is another sign and this is crossing the limit. So maybe lending money or giving time once is giving our loved ones a benefit of the doubt, twice is just making sure we're not missing anything three or four times. This might start leading towards us overstepping our limits and going over the edge. That's not to say that we can never lend our loved ones money again, never give them time again. What I'm saying is what we wanna do is avoid going over our limits. Say you can take a break, take some space, recuperate, collect yourself, re-energize, recharge and then you can always try that again but you don't wanna try that when you're on the edge. I'm gonna try that when you're back in formation in the middle. And then it talks about four signs or four types of signs. One is emotions, the second is physical sensations. The third is thoughts and the fourth is actions. So these are four classes of signs that you can look into to start seeing if you're getting close to your limit. So one thing to know about emotional signs like fear, anger, hurt or despair is that emotions are like a wave, a surge. They will slowly build up and progress in an arc and then they'll also leave us. So this too shall pass. So when we can see them swelling up in us and then also see the trajectory of that emotion, then we can know that maybe we need to take a break, pause, remove ourselves from the situation, practice some acceptance or do something in order to make sure that that trend doesn't end up getting out of control. Second one is physical sensations. So sometimes it's hard to be in touch with our emotions that does take some skill. Physical sensations are really helpful like neck aches, back aches, stomach aches, anxiety, shaking, nervousness, eye twitching. Sometimes physical sensations are a sign that we're getting towards our limit and then thoughts. So thoughts are great signs. So some thoughts are, I can't take this anymore. Why does this always happen to me? My loved one takes me for granted. So there can be some thoughts where we start to really feel like we're getting to a point where the situation's close to becoming a catastrophe. Some of it might be the way we're thinking about it, but some of it might simply be related to the situation. So when those thoughts come up, it can be helpful to use them as a warning sign and also actions. These subsections are, there's a lot of good stuff in there. So I hesitate to breeze past them, but I also want to, for the sake of time, keep it moving. And I would encourage you to read more of that. It's really well written. The next section is setting your limits. All right. So now this is like, I know I have limits. I've come to that point. I'm not invincible. I'm not going to present an unhelpable, helpable version of myself to myself. I'm going to be honest with my limits. And then number two is I'm going to look at the warning signs that allow me to course correct before I hit my limit. Now it's about setting your limits because ignoring the signs that lead up to your limits may lead you to break your breaking point and then hitting that breaking point can lead you to do things you regret or set progress that you've made, set that back. So in the moment that you break, your reaction feels justified because you're overwhelmed and not thinking straight.  You can pump your breaks before you break. And then it talks about knowing the difference between breaking, like pumping the breaks and breaking, like breaking our values, breaking ourselves. So I'm going to go ahead and go straight to the book on this one on page 124. It gives three scenarios. First scenario, a breaking point. This is the third night in a row that my loved ones come home late, disappointed the family, and I'm going to get them when they come home. I'm going to give it to them when they come home. So this would be an example of a breaking point. The alternative of that, like a break, like a pumping the breaks point is, okay, I've been in my head all day. I've been angry all day. When they come back, I'm going to lose it. I need some time to cool off. I'm going to take the kids or take a friend or whatever to a movie or to go out or to visit a friend, go to the Muschid. So we can just get some space. We can have fun or we can find some peace. So you get the difference between the two reactions. The two reactions can both lead to very different things. One can lead to temporary relief, but long-term problems. And the other one can lead to us feeling better and continuing to make progress against our goals and with progress on our strategies. The next breaking point example is, I'm tired and cranky, but I can't let them get away with going to bed early again. I'm going to insist that they clean the kitchen and do their chores, even though I know they're intoxicated. And I know that it's going to end up in a fight. So that's like a break, broken break point, a breaking point. Now the opposite example, the alternative example, the pumping your breaks point is I'm so tired. I'm so cranky. If I have to interact with this person, it's not going to end well.  I'm just going to order takeout. So I don't have to worry about a messy kitchen. And I'll talk to them about cleaning up tomorrow when they're sober and I'm rested and they can hear me. So again, both options are options. You can choose both of those options. You don't have to avoid your loved one. It's not your responsibility that they want and use substances. And you don't have to tiptoe around them. But at the same time, you can look at the goals and see which one leads to something that is more constructive. And then the final example is he spends so much money. This is a breaking point. He spends so much money on drugs. I can't stop worrying about the finances, their future, their school, their work. And I'm having a stomach ache all the time because of my anxiety and pain. And then the pumping of breaks point is if I got a separate bank account or if I stopped bailing them out of their financial issues, I could at least protect my income from going towards their habit and not overextending myself and leading to a breaking point. So those are really good examples. There's a lot of examples, but these really illustrate the point very well. The next section. The next section is living your limits. So determining a limit and living your limit are not the same thing. You might be relieved by your decision not to pick them up at the train when they've been using drugs. They can walk or find a ride home. You may celebrate that, but following through can bring on a new challenge of anxiety and guilt. So living with the limits that you set requires having conviction in their validity, plus tolerating your loved ones reactions when you stand by them. There might be some guilt, some anxiety, but you want to measure that against what you're trying to achieve. And you wanna measure that against the long run. So the long run in terms of what makes most sense for them stopping drugs and alcohol, what's the next right thing to do to gain long-term success and the short run in what's gonna help me not go over my limit, overextend myself and make it through. So you're allowed to have limits. There's a value and benefit to know what your limits are. Living in your limits is what is best for your loved one with addiction. We're not doing them favors by overextending ourselves. We're not doing them favors by having limitless patients and letting them walk over us. We're actually feeding their addiction and enabling it many times. So what's good for us is often what's good for them. That's amazing within itself, that that's how this is designed. So the next point is start small and practice living your limits.  You wanna start small and practice your limits and prepare for change. There's one limit that is important to discuss and that is violence. And this is something that is common in addiction and this is a phone call, email conversation that we have with many different relationships, many different types of relationships, of spousal relationships, parent-child relationships and other relationships as well. Point number one, take your feelings of being in danger seriously. When people use drugs and alcohol, they themselves act in ways that they regret later. So the argument that they won't go down this route because I know my loved one, it doesn't work because when intoxicants are in the picture, personalities change, people's instincts change, people do things that they themselves are very confused about. And it's important to understand that if you feel like you're in danger, you should take that seriously. Number two, it's number two because it's something that we should get out right away is call 911 or call the emergency services if you are in danger. That should be something you're willing to do because the violence to you is potential violence to other loved ones in the house. Number three, get informed. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is a resource that you can look up online and call to learn more in regards to how to navigate this problem. Getting support by learning about what to do, processing these problems and talking about them are gonna be important. The last three bullet points I wanted to mention. Number one is pack a bag. In situations when you feel violence is a theme or a possibility. That's an overnight bag with items you would need if you had to stay away and keep the bag in a safe accessible place and maybe a hidden place. The National Domestic Hotline again has a checklist of items that you can include. And then the second to last one is plan your exit. So when they escalate, you wanna escalate. They stand up, you wanna stand up, maybe be cognizant of where the exit is in that room or in the house. If you have children depending on their age you may wanna talk to them about safety and exit strategies. And they talk about more things here that are important to be aware of. This isn't gonna apply to everyone but for those that it does, I would take this seriously. The last slide is the reference to the book that we are going over here. We can open it up for questions. People in the webinar, you can ask questions, you can chat them in, they'll be private and nobody else in the webinar will be able to see it. And then we'll go from there.


Hey this is Brett and this 2018 Cadillac Escalade ESV Premium Luxury is stock number 13991Z. I am here at Summit Automotive in Vondellac, Wisconsin, you're new and used SUV headquarters. This 2018 Cadillac Escalade ESV comes with the 6.2 liter V8 gas engine. It is paired up with the 10 speed automatic transmission. It puts out 420 horsepower. This Cadillac has been fully safety and inspected by our service shop has a fresh oil and filter change. All the fluids have been checked and topped off and this vehicle is 100% ready to go. That being said, I'm going to go all the way around in this video. Inside underneath started up and take a look under the hood to give you the most accurate representation of the vehicle possible. Black Raven clear coats the color and I shoot all my videos in 4K. If you like the video, you can subscribe to my YouTube channel which is youtube.com slash summit auto. Click the bell notifications and you'll get updates on the videos I do each and every day as well as having access to one of the largest catalogs of vehicle and SUV walk-arounds on YouTube. 8,000 videos and counting. This one comes with the 22 inch painted alloy wheels with the chrome inserts. Very nice condition on those wheels. I didn't see any scuffs or scrapes on the front one here. Goodyear Eagle Touring Tyres. These are 285, 45R22s. They got all the tread left. They are brand new. You can still see the little wear knobs on there. We put those on in our safety inspection. Front fender is in excellent condition. So it comes with all the LED headlamps, running lights, fog lights. We're going to turn all those on at the end of the video so you can see just how nice and bright they are. You get the front bumper parking sensors on there. The chrome trim grille looks really good. Cadillac emblem is in nice shape. The hood is in fantastic condition. I didn't see any dents or dings on there. And the passenger side front fender is in excellent condition too. Passenger side front wheel, no scuffs or scrapes. And that tire is brand new as well. As you go down this side of this 2018 Cadillac Escalade ESV, take note of how clean that body is, how reflective and mirror-like that paint is. I take these HD videos so if you're far away or even if you're close by and you just cannot make the trip down, but you're still interested in purchasing the vehicle, you can see the vehicle, hear the vehicle, and have confidence in what you're looking at before you even get here. So when you do get here there's absolutely no surprises and you can make a smart and informed buying decision from wherever you're at. If this video helps you make that buying decision, let your salesman know that you saw the video, that it was helpful and that Brett sent you. Back wheel is in pretty nice shape. It does have a couple little scuffs on there. Back tire is brand new as well. And really this is the only imperfection I saw in the whole vehicle. Lower rockers and underbody are in fantastic condition as well. Comes with factory running boards. Didn't see any dents or dings on that rear quarter. Coming around the back of the vehicle. No major dents, dings or scuffs on that rear bumper. It does have the backup parking sensors. Receiver hitch, seven pin wiring. We do have the cover for that. I take them off so they don't go missing on the lot. Rear gates in excellent condition. This is a power raise gate. And that works nicely. There's your hitch cover. That's in nice shape as well. Back storage area is very nice and clean. You get storage underneath as well. And those third row seats do fold down. Now you've got to have the headrests fold it in on them or fold it down on them.  I'm just going to do the passenger side here. Oops. See how fast they go down. And then they go back up just as fast. You can see it does have the dual blue ray player up there. And to get this gate down you press this button right here. It does have the flipper glass as well. So you can get to your stuff. Even if you've got a boat, camper or trailer on your vehicle you can still get to your stuff and back. And you can see that those rear defrost cables are still attached nicely. That shuts nicely as well. You get the big LED tail lamps that go all the way up the side which is really cool. As you go down the driver side just as clean as that passenger side didn't see any dents or dings on there. And this back wheel is in just as nice condition as the rest. No scuffs or scrapes. And that back tire is brand new as well. Going down the rest of the side of the vehicle. Doors look really good. Didn't see any dents or dings on there. It does come with the blind spot monitoring heated mirrors built in directional signals.  No rips, no tears on the seats.  No rips or tears on these seats. Factory all-weather floor mats and carpet floor mats. Auto headlamps turned off four-wheel drive. Does have telescopic and tilt steering wheel. Does have the heads-up display. The suede insert on the dash. Wood grain trim on the door. Power windows locks and mirrors. These mirrors do power fold in. I always like showing both sides so you know that both sides are working properly. And then it does have the Bose sound system. Take a quick look at the back seats. They are just as clean as the front seats. No rips or tears back here. You do get the second row quad seating back here. I would assume these seats are heated. No rips or tears on them. You get the all-weather floor mat back here. There is your front Blu-ray player screen. And then you get two sets of headphones in here as well. These seats fold down and up like so. And the third row seats are in fantastic condition as well. All-weather floor mat back here. And right here you get two USBs. An AUX jack. An HDMI jack. And yeah, there are your heated seat buttons. You just can't. I just not lit up. You also get a 120 volt, 150 watt plug-in. And a 12 volt power point right there. Inside the back doors all look good. And the bottoms look great as well. We'll hop inside, check out the miles, the radio, and everything that this Cadillac has to offer on the interior. You can see that this one has 36,162 miles. You do get the digital speedometer on there, on that all digital instrument cluster. It comes with the heated and wood-grain trim and leather-wrapped steering wheel. Audio controls on the right. Bluetooth and cruise controls on the left. You also have your adaptive cruise controls, which it's got to be on for that to work. So we'll start in just a second. You also have the heads-up display that shows up in the windshield. This one has the Cadillac user experience or Q radio. It has the factory navigation system. There's Highway 41, so that is working nicely. And let's go to the different options. On here you can go to your radio. You get AM, FM, and Serious XM radio capabilities. You can do your menu on here as well. And just all bunches, there's your home screen. Buttons are a little bit different than on the Sperven. So you've got Projection Manager. You've got all these apps right here where you can project your cell phone to the screen, which is pretty cool. And then all your different apps right there as well. This is also where your backup camera shows up. And down here are your more tactile volume and tune and climate controls, heated and cooled seat buttons. There is a storage area right here. I think you just have to go like that to get it open. There's a USB right there and get it closed. Just kind of touch it again. There is a CD player there as well. You get the wood grain console here. Storage area, two USBs and a 12 volt power point. Cup holders, wireless cell phone charge pad. And your keyless entry with remote start and power lift gate and glass buttons. Passenger side format and seat are in excellent condition. Smells very clean inside this vehicle. I don't think it's ever been smoked in. And you get the power sunroof up top. Home link buttons for your garage door security systems and lane systems, on-star and SOS buttons and sunroof controls. You also get the rear view mirror that's a camera. So I'll show you that in just a second. Let's start it up. So it starts right up. No check engine lights or anything like that. You can see your head's up display right there. There is your rear view mirror camera. So it's actually a video display of what's going on behind you. Now if you didn't like that, you can just turn it off and it's just a regular rear view mirror. But you can see if the kids are watching their DVDs right there, you can't really see what's going on behind you. So it's nice to have that camera. Anyways, the other thing I wanted to show you was that you get the adaptive cruise control with this button right there. And you can do near or far and it adjusts your cruise control to whatever the person in front of you is doing. Alright, let's go take a look under the hood. Check out all those LED lights in the front as well. I would personally like to thank you for checking out the video today. And hopefully from this HD video, you've been able to verify the quality condition options and of course, cleanliness of this vehicle all the way around inside and out. There are all those LED lights. They are working nicely. And under the hood, we have the 6.2 liter V8 gas engine. 420 horsepower engine base. Very clean, runs very smooth. Once again, this vehicle has been fully safety and inspected by our service shop. It has a fresh oil and filter change. All the fluids have been checked and topped off. It has four brand new tires and it is 100% ready to go. There is the emission sticker. And I would highly recommend this Cadillac from a quality and condition standpoint. I would ship this one anywhere. California, New York, Texas, whoever is going to get it's going to love it. I mean brand new tires. The vehicle is super clean inside and out. And to see more pictures of this Cadillac or one of our other 550 new new cars, trucks, SUVs, minivans, Wranglers, you name it, we got to go to that website right there, summitauto.com. Full pictures and descriptions of every single vehicle all at summitauto.com. And if you'd like to check out more HD videos, you can go to youtube.com slash summitauto. Click the bell notifications. You'll get updates on the videos I do each and every day as well as having access to one of the largest catalogs of vehicle and SUV walkarounds. On YouTube, in fact, in a second, you will see a link to subscribe to my YouTube channel on the upper left. I link to more Cadillac Escalade vehicles that I've done in the upper right. I link to this vehicle on our website in the lower left. And I link to one of our latest YouTube videos in the lower right. 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The Ender 5 Pro is real. My name's Jim, and this is the Edge of Tech. Hey everybody, I just got done with about a two and a half hour live stream where I went through the Ender 5 Pro. This is a brand new machine from Creality. It's being released from Lux and Watts on Amazon, also from Creality on Amazon and Creality on their website as of today. I do have some links in the description below if you'd like to check it out.  That brings the price of this printer down to $349. And I'm here to tell you, this is worth it. It does come with the upgraded metal extruder and a metal bracket that puts it right onto that extrusion. It also comes with Capricorn PTFE tubing, which is much better than that white tubing that usually comes on these.  One of the first things we did when we got it unboxed is we opened up the case and looked inside. It does have the landy 350 watt power supply and it has the Creality silent 115 board. I turned this thing on and it is almost silent except for the fans. That is the loudest thing you get. But you do get everything that a classic Ender 5 has. So you get the cube design, the really easy build. If you've never built one of these before, it might take you 20 minutes. If I wasn't talking and on the live stream, it probably would have taken me about 10 minutes to get this thing built once it's unboxed.  It also comes with a mini spool of filament. So if you didn't order any filament with your printer, at least you can print something and it's more than just that little roll they usually give you. This is pretty awesome. A couple more things. On the stream, we tested thermal runaway towards the end, almost the end of the stream. I told the printer to start heating up. We pulled the red wires and after about a minute, it went into thermal runaway. Once it's heating up and you pull the white thermistor wires, it was immediate. It went into thermal runaway within seconds. It went into thermal runaway within seconds. So that is really good that they're actually listening and enabling thermal runaway on the boards. The other thing, this does have a bootloader installed from the factory as well. So when I'm done with this video, I'm actually gonna put the TH3D firmware on here because I prefer the TH3D firmware myself. So if you're looking for a new 3D printer and you're in the market for something like an Ender 5, definitely check out the Ender 5 Pro. There's about $70 to $80 worth of upgrades depending on where you buy them on this printer. Full disclosure, I did get this printer from Luxin Watts from Amazon. They gave it to me so I could do the promotion and do these videos for you. I wanted to say thank you so much for that. Thank you for letting me be your voice and I really appreciate it because I really do love my Ender 5s. This will be my third Ender 5 and if it's up to me and it's between an Ender 3 and an Ender 5, my personal opinion is if you can afford the Ender 5 by the Ender 5 every day. If you can afford the Ender 5 Pro, which right now is actually only $27, $29 more than the standard Ender 5 on Amazon, do the Ender 5 Pro. You get that silent board. You get the metal extruder and of course the Capricorn PTFE and those things are worth it. They're things that you're probably gonna upgrade anyway. If I had to answer the question, would I recommend this printer? I would say yes. Based on the other two Ender 5s I have that I absolutely love, I would highly recommend the Ender 5 Pro, especially with the upgrades. I just wanted to do a quick video on it because I know a lot of people didn't wanna watch two and a half hours of a live stream. If you did, thank you so much. But otherwise, check out the Ender 5 Pro. This thing is awesome and it's super quiet. Like I said, I hope you learned something and as always, keep printing. Thank you so much for watching the video today. Click that subscribe button if you haven't done that already. When we get to 5,000, we're giving away that printer. Click that like button if you liked the video, leave a comment below why you liked it or why you didn't if you clicked the thumbs down. And as always, the bell right over here if you wanna be notified when we go live or anytime a new video comes out.


The Christian missionaries regularly claim that the Tanach, the Hebrew Scriptures, contain numerous prophecies identifying Jesus as the Messiah. However, when these passages are examined in context, these claims can readily be seen to have absolutely no substance. It's interesting that the Christian Bible has a few times when Jesus himself makes the claim that a particular passage from the Hebrew Bible refers to him. One of these is from the book of Psalms, chapter 41 verse 10, in the Christian Bible it will be verse 9, where it says, Because even my own familiar friend, in whom I trusted, who ate of my bread, has lifted his heel against me. In John chapter 13, in the Gospel of John, Jesus refers to this passage and uses it to predict that Judas Iscariot would betray him at the Last Supper. And the problem is that any fair reading of Psalm chapter 41 will fail to reveal any reason to assume that it is forecasting that the Messiah would be betrayed by a close friend. Psalm 41 is very clearly a Psalm about King David. We know indeed that David was betrayed by numerous people in his life that were close to him. His own son tried to pursue him and kill him. His own father-in-law King Shaul Saul tried for a long time to kill David. There's nothing in the Psalm that indicates that tells us that it is speaking about what would be taking place in the life of the Messiah. Of course, it would be ridiculous and pointless for the Bible to tell us that one of the ways of identifying who the Messiah would be is that he would be betrayed by a close friend. Because the truth is that almost everyone in the world could report that at some time in their life they were let down by someone who was close to them. But there's a more serious problem here in that the speaker of Psalm 41 makes an important confession in verse 5. In verse 5, the speaker says, As for me, I said, O Lord, be gracious to me. Heal my soul, for I have sinned against you. For Christians who insist that Jesus was sinless and never in his life sinned, it is impossible for them to, on the one hand, say that verse 10 of this Psalm is Jesus speaking, but to deny that five verses earlier, the speaker is not Jesus, when any reading of the Psalm would reveal that the same speaker is speaking throughout the entire Psalm.