So if you guys ever wondered what makes photos look like this, you know, you have like these images of time lapses of roads and they kind of have like cars driving on them and you see all the lights sort of stringy and time lapsey to make up a word. Well, this all has to do with shutter speed, just like this next image right here. This is another example of shutter speed being used by a photographer to do something really cool. And in this case, it happens to be capturing this bullet in mid-flight. That's very cool. I mean, this has to be a very, very quick photo. So all of this, like I said, it's shutter speed. Now this brings up two important questions. First of all, what is shutter speed? And second of all, what determines the speed of the shutter and why do you pick one shutter speed over the other? Well, for example, we're going to start first by explaining what the shutter does and we're going to do it on this page because the next page I've got something kind of cool to show you. So the shutter is kind of like a window. And say just for imaginary's sake, let's just imagine that behind that is your film. So here you've got your film or your sensor and maybe imagine that these are connected and they're not next to each other. So your light is shining through your window, going on to your film. But usually in front of your window, maybe you have a shutter and that's your shutter right here. And imagine when you open that shutter, the light streams in and then you close the shutter and the light stops streaming in. And that's basically how film is developed. Light needs to fall upon the film and expose it so you can see what's going on outside of the camera. Otherwise, you can't see what's going on. And then it closes again. So you can't go forever. It has to only has a certain amount of time. It wants to just capture one tiny little instant of light. And that is all determined by the photographer and the camera and the meter and lots of other things. So this, but this shutter speed is really important for determining the look of your photograph. So if you're wondering, this image right here is an example of a high shutter speed. So high meaning fast. So this shutter goes click and it's open and closed and story is done. You've captured your bullet.  Pretty exciting photo, right? And the photo before that is an example of a low shutter speed or a slow photograph. Now this image right here shows you an example of what those things look like if you were to put them all sort of right next to each other. This is actually three separate pictures that have been stitched together into one by some guy on Wikipedia who I think did a pretty cool job of explaining shutter speed with this image. So let's just imagine that this shutter speed right here is 1,500th of a second. And maybe this one right here is a 30th of a second and this one right here is a quarter of a second. So even a quarter of a second, that's pretty fast. I mean, a second is a pretty long time but a quarter of a second is a little, a lot less. A 30th of a second is pretty fast and a 500th of a second is very fast. And actually if you add some more zeros behind this you get into some shutter speeds that now exist these days with digital cameras that are pretty amazing. But a 500th of a second is pretty good for capturing action.  It looks exactly like it's standing still because you've captured it's moving. It's that shutter speed is so quick. But in the 30th of a second you can see that during the time that the shutter was open so the shutter goes open and the Daisy Wheel keeps moving and then click the shutter closes over here. So in that time this little arm of the Daisy Wheel has moved away and that motion is then captured in blur. That's just the color or sort of the impression because the light is falling off of it and each one of those little thousandths of a second between when the shutter opens and closes and it's landing on the film or on the sensor. And in the quarter of a second shot it's going even further. It's going a lot further actually and so it goes shutter opens here and then it's kind of the Daisy Wheel travels and travels and travels and then stop click photo is done. So it's traveled quite a lot longer. You can see it's traveled so long that the colors have started to mix. And so that's just the principle. Why the shutter speed captures the motion that happens while it is open. And that can that generally comes in the form of some sort of blurred motion. It can come in other forms too and generally it's in some sort of movement of the object. Now old shutter speeds back in the day were shutter speeds were determined by springs. There used to be all these springs inside of cameras and kind of like ding ding ding. You pulled the spring so tight and it would make the shutter go so fast and you pulled a little tighter and it would go faster. And over time the system developed itself in the way that each shutter speed back and on the traditional scale was either twice as fast or half as fast. So basically let's start with a thousandth of a second. That's the fastest image you could have taken with this camera back then. And they determined then we'll make a 500th underneath that which is one half. So that's one half the speed. Now it goes down in that pattern all the way down until you get to hear where the math gets a little funny. But that's not exactly a half. It's kind of like sort of a half. But basically as you're moving down the shutter speeds are cutting themselves in half allowing twice as much light in. So a 500th of a second allows twice as much light in as a thousandth of a second if everything else on the camera stays the same. Which we'll talk about that in the exposure lesson a little later. Now let's talk really quickly about some different shutter speeds that you can use for different situations. So we're going to be talking here about freezing motion. And this is really important for if you're out there shooting and you want to make sure that your images are clear and that your people aren't moving in them and things like that. So we're going to list off some here. Two, one, 25. Got one, two, 50th. One, 500th. And a thousandth. So let's start with a 30th. And I would say if you're a beginner photographer I would say leave this to professionals or for emergencies. This shutter speed when you get down below a 30th of a second things get really slow and you're taking really slow photos and any kind of motion blur anything like that is going to come up in your photos. So you want to make sure don't go quite that low when you're first starting out. Once you get a little more experience you're welcome to it. But now if you're out taking just sort of daily photos of things that aren't moving so we call them still life so still life portraits or even portraits of people. You can take a still life photo a 60th of a second with most lenses just fine. And I would say once you get above a hundredth of a second you can start using that for daily shots. That's just kind of like regular things people walking moving around but not too quickly. You'll see an example of that just a little bit here. A great all around speed is 250th of a second. So for most daily situations if you can you know and you want to freeze your motion you don't want to make some artistic sort of blurry photos. 250th is a great place to start trying out all around photography. 500th is so sort of for motion shots and so fast motion shots sort of people doing athletics and things like that that don't require too much moving. And then you've got a thousandth of a second for fast motion shot. So you've got someone maybe running by you on a track or something like that really quickly or maybe you're trying to capture a race car perfectly still without any motion. You can try about a thousandth of a second. So you can see here these are all different speeds and you'll understand them once you go out and play with your camera a little bit but just wanted to give you a general introduction. Now sometimes you're going to want to let that blur happen. I was out walking the other day in Berlin and I saw this water fountain and I thought oh I have a lesson coming up about shutter speed I want to make sure these guys have an example. So I took a really quick example here example shot and I have one here that is taken at one four hundredth of a second and I've got one that is taken at a 30th of a second and I'm guessing you can already guess which one was at a 30th of a second and you can see that in that four hundredth of a second this water but droplet here did not move very far it's pretty much captured it perfectly still and in this one the water droplets were moving really quickly and you can see that I'm catching each one I mean they're moving at the same speed but I'm capturing them more slowly so in that 30th of a second you can see the water moved a lot further while the shutter was open than it did in the four hundredth of a second same thing goes for the hands right here this is a I went to a concert of a friend of mine Sam who's playing the drum here and you can see his hands are pretty well captured in this four hundredth of a second they're a little blurry if you look at the full version because his hands are moving really fast I probably should have taken them at about a thousand but in this small version of the picture you don't see the motion is bad here you've got one twenty fifth of a second and some of the pictures his hands are moving a little more but you can still see there's a little bit of motion blur there and even on this hand in the big version you can see that there's a little bit of motion blur and then here I've got one thirtyth of a second so you can add ones the tops of all of these numbers here you can see I've completely lost all detail in his hands and you can actually see his shirt through his hands his fingers haven't fallen off I guarantee but he is just moving so quickly that the camera is not picking up his fingers anymore and even this hand is a little blurry which was he was holding very still at that one moment so you can see here that there's a lot just a very big difference and how the camera perceives motion according to how quickly it's taking that photograph alright so this is an example of intentional blur and so when you're a photographer you have to kind of ask yourself the question do I want to make a static picture or do I want to make a dynamic picture and sometimes you know you kind of want to do both sometimes you want to do one or the other and this one right here would it be an example of a photographer saying I want to make a dynamic photograph and you can see here you can then see the motion of the water so he's taken this photograph probably around I would say a quarter of a second and at that shutter speed you just got light the light shining off of this beautiful scene here with water moving all over the place and it's really capturing that motion of that water this isn't fog that's just water sloshing all around inside of all these rocks it looks like fog but that's just kind of the effect that he was going for it's actually called sometimes the cotton candy effect when you are dealing with water and you're trying to make it look all blurry and cotton candy like so that's how you do that you move your shutter speed down to a quarter of a second and see how it looks you can also try panning and this was taken at about a 40th of a second someone was just taking a photograph of a chicken you can do this with your little brother if you would like to or your little sister make them run around in the yard while you take their picture you can also try that speeds are lower than a 40th or higher but basically the camera just follows the motion the viewer looked in the camera and they tried to keep that chicken's head right in the middle of the camera and they just followed them as they were running and snapped the photograph and in that time the camera moved a little ways the land moved away the chicken moved away but this head remains steady because that head wasn't moving at all so that's kind of a very cool example of this is called panning I'll write that out for you and I hope you can see that I'm running out of time here so I'm not going to correct it alright now here you can see an example of just a little bit of motion blur in a daily picture this photograph was taken at one hundred and twenty fifth of a second and you can just see that this this happens I thought it was acceptable for this photo to have a little bit of motion blur and that was kind of dark and cloudy so I kind of needed that motion but that's what it looks like here you can also see an example of what happens when the subject is moving across a big section of your sensor this person up front is a little closer than the person back here so he's moving on the on according to the sensor less than this person to the left and so you can see that this guy is more blurred than this guy right here so that your distance to your subject is going to affect your blurriness as well and their size in the viewfinder and this last image is just of motion blur you can see here I've kind of zoomed in this is actually a zoomed in version of this little section right here and I keep choosing the wrong dark colors and you can see here during the taking of this picture I moved the camera a little bit I didn't mean to I just kind of shook my hand and you can see that then the image this end image in the back is totally blurry and if you zoom in closely you can see why it's because the camera moved a little bit so that's the danger of having a low shutter speed that's why I advise you know messing around with less than a 30th of a second only when you kind of know what you're doing otherwise it'll get up get a lot of blurred images this image was taken at about a tenth of a second alright so that is your lesson about shutter speed I want you guys to go out there and mess around with all of them and try everything out and when you're ready come back to allversity.org and check out more videos


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What's up you guys today? We're gonna be talking about one of the most important things when it comes to getting girls seduction And that's approach anxiety getting nervous before you talk to a girl getting scared If you can't handle if you can't manage this first step, you're not gonna be able to practice You're not gonna be able to get good at all So it's really important that you learn how to manage this in your life and really Everybody deals with this issue and that's why this video is so long now in this video You're gonna find a lot of tips a lot of the things that have helped us get over approach anxiety And get good. I got my buddy Chris Nova in here. I got evil stifler two guys that know exactly what they're talking about They got a lot of experience They're very successful when it comes to single life and getting girls and so what they have to say is Really important on this subject now I'm don't expect you to pay attention the entire time because it's such a long video, but during it We're gonna be giving you tips We're gonna give you things that I've helped us So if you have it in the background if you have it while you're on Facebook Or maybe while you're at work or doing something like that and you pick up one or two tips while that while we're talking That's the way to do it. So without further ado, let's get right into the video All right What's up you guys so we're gonna talk about a topic that a lot of people talk about and it's because it's extremely important Basically, I'm gonna say this right now your ability to succeed to do well with women to improve is dictated by your ability to handle your approach anxiety because there's a lot of people with titles like you know Cure your approach anxiety for good never get approach anxiety again. I see videos with titles like these Anyone who's telling you this sort of stuff is Lying okay, you're never gonna be able to get rid of your approach anxiety completely It's always going to be there. You have to face your fears. There's no magic bullet.  Okay, it's not like we're just completely immune to all those all the regular stuff that people have to deal with The difference is is we actually we don't bitch out. No all the time But we get over it we face our fears and we actually start doing it And it's important to understand that as Lloyd said You're going to be dealing with this no matter what like we've hooked up with hundreds of women and yet we still have this This still comes up So what what you want to do is you want to understand that this is going to be something that's gonna come up for you And you want to Find a bunch of different things that you can basically add as like tools in your arsenal to overcome this So that's what we've done yourself the question like why you're doing this Okay, because if you don't face your fears and if you don't accept the fact that you need to take action You're not gonna get better. It's not gonna happen. So what you need to get over this is you need leverage Okay, there's a reason why people got into this sort of stuff is the reason why people talk about success with women There's a reason people talk about pickup and for me at least dude It like I come from a place where it was like I wasn't having a whole lot of success through high school and college I'm like Chris here who killed it in high school in college. I wasn't getting a whole lot of girls So I was terrible in middle school So I have a lot of leverage man I remember going to class seeing all those hot girls that wouldn't give me the time of day I remember seeing all of like the guys that I hated growing up hooking up with all of these girls and me getting nothing I remember all of those things and so every time I got approaching anxiety every time I was nervous I would remind myself of those horrible things that I would not No matter what how much money you paid me I would not go through that again In fact at the time I was so committed to learning this that I was gonna like I was I was basically prepared I was gonna learn this I was gonna push myself and do everything I could to change it or I would rather die trying I would rather die. Yeah, I would rather die than be living as pathetic and as a much of a loser As I felt like I was at that period of time in college So you have to ask yourself if your leverage isn't enough and I'm not saying you have to go as hardcore as I was back Then but if your pain is there and your pain is is is fierce You need to find a way to solve it and it's not going to be easy It's going to take facing your fears It's going to take pushing yourself to that next level now There are things that you can do to get not to get rid of your approaching anxiety But to tone it down and actually before that's a perfect segue right before you go into that Yeah, I think it's really important Everything Lloyd said is on point and it's really important to before we go into the different strategies Techniques and techniques that you can use to start to tone it down as he said and to overcome approach anxiety What you want to do is you want to take that pain your feeling and you want to use that as your why?  Don't pretend it's not there use it harness it leverage it So that you can use it as fuel To add to the fire so that you can get what it is that you want I mean what Chris is saying is just absolutely golden. I mean that was really the difference I think that separate because there was a lot of guys in my position There's a lot of guys that weren't really like, you know, they weren't really succeeding in their goals They weren't really doing what they wanted to do and because they didn't step up and they didn't take action They didn't get better But my leverage was was I knew my leverage was bigger than them And I knew my why was more concrete and more secure than theirs And that's why no matter what happened no matter how bad things got which you will embarrass yourself You are gonna encounter situations where you don't look good like it's most of the time It's not gonna end well and for you to get over that stuff for you to truly push yourself You need to have leverage. Okay, so let's go into the tactics So one of the things that I like to do that I think really helps right off the bat is first of all Get a guy to go out with you get get a wing get someone to go Oh, yeah, I mean me being by myself and doing this and going up and talking to girls like it's It sucks man, you know It's infinitely better infinitely easier to have a buddy there to have a guy who's got your back And if you can't find somebody you can go online RSD nation has like people out there that you can search for just having a guy even if he's not even if he's not good Even even if he's totally miscalibrated It's better than being by yourself just to have a guy to bounce ideas off of to come back to having like a Little bit of a safe base like I would love especially in the beginning phases where you're you're really dealing with stuff for the first time It just acts as kind of like a support network to have at least one other guy there with you so that no matter what happens If the night seems to go badly you you still have that kind of that buffer of that other friend there with you Yeah, absolutely. I mean I would look forward to actually going out with Chris and going talking to girls But I wouldn't look forward to it Yeah, we're gonna have to continue that so more and more more cool stories coming up Okay, so and then the second thing that I would that I would say is a stop thinking like 10 steps ahead So a lot of times guys when they walk up and they talk to a girl They start already thinking about like oh, what am I gonna say next? What what's like the next move to be able to? Take her back to my food.  You're gonna you're not gonna do it You're gonna over rationalize just focus on like if you can't do anything Dude, just focus on walking up and asking for the time or just just something really basic So you can get that out of the way um small goals Anxiety can come from a lot of anxiety comes from thinking about things that aren't happening in the present moment And actually this reminds me of something very valuable. I learned that I'll share with you guys Which is the word fear, which is actually an acronym so fear, right? You're afraid. What is fear false evidence appearing real false evidence appearing real? Yeah, so you like that so I heard that for a while for sure So what that means and what we're getting at is you're afraid of something because you're Visualizing something that's either in the past or you're thinking of something that's might happen in the future But you're not usually feeling fear for the most part in the present moment So if you can bring yourself back to the present moment and you could focus on just the next thing that you can do What's the next step you can take so if you're approaching a girl or woman and you are Feeling afraid of doing that just focus literally you're like dude What do I have to do all I have to do is actually focus on just going up and talking to her That's there's nothing else happening.  I can go up and I could just I could say hey, what's up? I could be like, ah, well you could do whatever it is as long as you realize that that's all you're doing is just going up And and our very fluffy dog. Just walked up. What's up, Mr. Wolf? He's beautiful half husky wolf dog when you just realize that that's all you're doing is just going up and just Opening that's all it is and so it becomes a lot less scary. So hopefully you can you can integrate that and use it Okay, cool. So that's one thing I would start Don't think ten steps ahead start with the first basic point Which is that you're just walking up you're saying how you're talking to a girl and then on top of that I would also add start with small wins, okay? I think you gotta give yourself some small wins if you think that okay I've never approached a girl So I'm gonna go to the hottest club in Miami and I'm gonna start trying to talk to girls there You're gonna have a tough time man.  I have something that will be really helpful here and that is the idea of Systematic desensitization, and I think we've covered this we may or may not have covered this in other videos But this is something that I want to talk about it that I've covered in another video On my on my channel, but basically this is a really powerful idea and that is of System this is a really powerful idea and that is systematic Desensitization, so what does that mean? What is systematic desensitization?  It's like oh my name is Lisa and then you're like okay And then you go away the point is that each progressive time you are adding one sequential thing and by doing this in this way Using systematic desensitization you're gonna be able to progress from wherever you are to wherever you want to be far far faster Absolutely one trick that I used is I used to talk to like I would I would make conversation if we were at a restaurant I would make conversation with the waitress if I was at a store I would make conversation with like the person behind the checkout counter if I was getting a cup of coffee again making a Conversation these are these are kind of safe bases where like it's their job like they're at work Like they're gonna be nice to you.  I just talked to a stranger and I didn't shit my pants or like right nothing crazy Yeah, but you get you get kind of used to the fact that okay I can talk to a random girl who's a stranger and you once you get comfortable with that you prove yourself And so that once you're comfortable with doing that you can progress it to one step further and that's how it works That's how anybody in this game gets to be really good is by going from wherever they are to where they want to be by Just progressively sequentially moving along step-by-step.  You should be done with it for as far as approach anxiety goes, right? Yeah, so you shouldn't be like when someone asks you hey, how's it going with girls? You should be like well, I'm still working on my approach anxiety. He's like, dude You've been going out for three months. You're still working on that like you haven't gone past the first stage Like you should you should be moving along a little more faster than that Usually when you First start out that's when you're gonna be you're gonna experience the most approach anxiety when you first go out when you first Like first girl that you talk to that first set whatever it is Usually that's the hardest thing to do the first two or three of those once you push through those then that usually gets a little bit Easier unless you get really really bad Reactions if you get really bad reactions what I like to do is I'll go talk to just anybody if they're at the Dude at the bar if it's a fascic whoever it is just to get into the social mode So I'm able to talk to people a little bit more easily and I think that's that's a good tactic to start out with Just talk to anyone dude like just when you first get out like just make a conversation with idle people like maybe while You're standing in line to the club or maybe if you're at the bar ordering your jink If there's just a couple guys next to you just say hey, what's up man? How's your night going get into that social mode once you find out that it's easy to talk to strangers in general You're gonna have a lot a lot of easier time talking to the hot girls or the girls that you are actually interested in talking to And you're not gonna have as much reproach anxiety again exactly again This is a really prime example of this idea of progressive Desensitization because you could think of many everything falls within this understanding So you go in you're you go into a bar You're in a club or something and you you're you're not feeling very social You don't really feel like talking to people and you particularly don't feel like talking to hot girls So what you want to do is you want to go up and you want to first talk to anybody? So exactly as Lloyd said talk to some guys talk to someone else in line Talk to a fat girl talk to whoever it is get yourself into that more social state and then Go up to your first group of girls or your first girl And again anything you can do to open is going to be great and just to kind of get yourself feeling more social and once you usually once you get through that first initial point you're going to Start at least feeling better and you're going to start seeing some success and it's going to create momentum for the rest of the night Yeah, absolutely So that's one technique that I use once you get in the social mode You actually there's a certain point where people call it like you know the rsd guys They call it in state right where you're just so on it You're feel like such a such a social mode that you don't you're not getting approach anxiety anymore You're just walking up and you're talking to girls pretty effortlessly Everything seems fine people want that to be the norm they want that why can't every night be like this when I got well It's not gonna be it only happens when you're when you're doing really well, okay? So when the going's good, it's good when it's bad It's bad and this is what we're helping you out with when it's bad But we're teaching you techniques that you can kind of jump start that in-state that sent you know systematic desensitization So you're being social and you're not actually getting nervous the next early after talk to you By the end of the night if you've been talking to ten or eleven girls usually the twelfth one isn't that hard unless Unless you're having a really bad night then the whole right the whole time It could be kind of a whole painful stretch But if you're having a good night no problem things are things are pretty easy. I would say that this as I go out more This is one thing that I don't do quite as much of as it used to when I first started out I was like I got to talk to the first people that I see when I get into the club Now I don't really do that I'll actually sit back show loud if I'm with the buddy. I'll just kind of talk to him But I can kind of turn it on whenever I don't know if you have this too We're like you can just kind of turn it on when you need to and Although I might get a little nervous before the first goal that I talked to as soon as I start talking. It's fine I feel I can turn it on too, but I actually I think that I Still find it very useful to be able to just start talking to people right away And I would say especially when you're starting out more towards the beginning You want to make it a habit in the tendency that you're going to start talking to pretty much anybody that you see when you start To see them it just it just goes better that way It takes a little bit longer to get to the point that Lloyd's talking about which is great that he's at But the point that you're like, okay, I don't need to talk to anybody. I'm just gonna turn it on You can do that you can certainly do that and get to that point But for the most part especially in the early phases you want to just start talking to anyone as soon as you get into a venue And again, this has been deemed what's called the three-second rule And there's a lot of validity to it because it just forces you to get into that state right away right from the get-go and Leaves no room for bullshit or for any fucking excuses to pop in your mind all right, so one of the things that we were talking about and with approach anxiety is Even the big man evil stiffler sometimes gets nervous, but one of the things that I like to do when I'm When I'm getting a little nervous when I'm out is I'll do like I'll just start talking to anyone really like I'll even if there's like a Fat chick a dude whoever I'll just start talking to somebody randomly and I'll do that at the beginning in that I think helps out a little bit with some of the nerves that you get at the beginning of the night What do you think about that?  Yeah, you might get rejected. Oh Well, you might make yourself. All right, so here's deal Let's say you know, you're gonna get rejected.     It's disrespectful. It's disrespectful always introduce yourself first Hey, how's it going? I'm James.  Oh, hey, I'll be right back, you know And then they go the bathroom or like walk over to the to the to the bar Even if you don't have to do anything sometimes it's good to jump into a conversation Leave but the good impression let the girls talk it over for a second So you're not sitting there happen to impress them all the time and then come back in a minute after you go the bar to the Bathroom, even if you don't I need to get anything from the bar where the bathroom Just leave for a second and then come back and that gives you a little bit of space for them to decide if they like you But you'll have a better judgment on them and you'll also have a little more space to talk because You know, it's you don't look so thirsty. Yeah, exactly.    All right, so like let's say I went to go talk to some chicks and they totally tool me out Didn't go over well I'm not feeling that great. I've had a couple drinks.   Yeah, I don't know man.  I don't know.   Just like push them down bring themselves up I don't know and I am more than that. It's it's more of like an insecurity of They want to build a sexual tension between the two of them by like teasing, you know, which can work if you're good at it Yeah, they're not good at it. They just don't know how to break rapport. Yeah, so the approaching zady How to get over approaching today. I feel like it's it's such a Small topic. There's only a couple real answers. I think it's just comes down to like literally you gotta step up and want it Bad enough.   Yeah, I think that's the best one. She's like hmm. She's not that hot But in the reality of it if she's if you looked at her in the first place It was something that was attractive and you should go with your gut on that and you know Don't be so judgmental because Women definitely are not as judgmental of men as we are of them Guaranteed like if you put ten hot chicks and ten hot guys a pretty nasty man I know that but women statistically are not as judgmental as men Like they're studies on this. Okay.  There's no chicks.  Oh, are you here alone? Yeah, I'm in from out of town.  I Thought we were friends. I guess we're not friends anymore. That's makes you awkward.   Yeah, you have to keep hitting on shakes all the time and keep walking up to people and never That's how you get over anything. It's practice. Exactly.  It doesn't go too well I'll like tell him tell the story. He'll usually laugh.   I'm just thinking about the things that have happened to me Most of the funny stories that I tell most of the hilarious things that have my buddies cracking up for days Are things where I don't look that good or it doesn't turn out the way? I thought it was gonna turn out or maybe things didn't go well, okay? Those types of stories are hilarious We usually laugh about them and then we'll high-five and then we'll go talk to some other girls Okay, it's part of the process. It's part of the process of enjoying it going out having fun being social These are the things that happen man All right, you guys well, that's most of what we have for approach anxiety unless Chris Nova is any final thoughts I mean the tips that we kind of gave were basically, you know Everybody struggles through this realize that everyone's going through approach anxiety You're not special just because you're introverted or because you feel like you have intense social anxiety Okay, everyone has to deal with this I would I would add that it's not even Let's clarify. It's not that you're not special.   It's not an excuse. It's definitely not excuse It's not an excuse not to do it and it's especially not an excuse understanding that No matter how good you get with game with girls and no matter how many girls you've had sex with You're always gonna still have an aspect of this approach anxiety that you're gonna need to overcome Yeah, for the most part and that's what we want to leave you with is with these final thoughts Is that it's still something you're gonna deal with? It's just that you get better and better and better at fucking Preparing yourself for how to deal with it and subsequently overcome it So with that in mind it makes it a lot easier to be able to go out and to make sure it happened with women Absolutely, and then some of the tips that we have to basically cut down the approach anxiety again I'm gonna be able to completely eliminate it but cut down is first of all go out with a good wing That's gonna push you Stop thinking ten steps ahead start using that systematic Desensitization to take those little baby steps on to give yourself a little bit of confidence and then realize that Realize that women are just human beings to man Right realize that this is you're literally just going up and having a conversation with somebody There's nothing scary.   You guys check out. Do you want to say about that? 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