Welcome folks, this is Tom O'Brien of TFNN. We have five days a week, we go seven hours a day, we go 24 hours a day on the internet at TFNN.com. Always remember folks, whatever you think about, you bring about whatever. You focus on growth, hope everyone's having a great day, safe day, it's a wild one, that's for sure. Love coming out of you makes you happy. The whole world can love you, but that's not the love that'll make you happy. What will make you happy is to share all the love you have inside of you. That is the love that will make the difference. Make it wise, let's take a look at it out here. We have the Dow Industries down 22, Nasdaq's up 59, S&P's up 13 and a half, gold contract up $30, 10 cents, trade at 18.22 an ounce. We have Silver up 51 cents, $23.92 an ounce, Lightsweep crewed up 229, $75, 46 cents a barrel, notes and bonds, a 10-year note, up 28, six, trade in 114, 23, the 30-year up a point and a half, had $131.14 in Kingdoll, Kingdoll is down 1091, six, trade in 104.038, the year is at 106, the yen is out here at a price point of 135 and the British pound is at 123 to one US dollar. Our phone number's<PHONE_NUMBER>, it was a call folks, one note's going on in your world. In the world of the S&P's, let's take a look and we gotta bring the futures up first, folks, because if you're in front of a machine today, it's quite a day, there's no doubt about it. What you had when the CPI came out, the bottom line is that you had the S&P futures go up 160 points. They made it up to a price point of $41.80. Now that was only there for a split second, came back down, but then did they come, you know, another move back up to the $41.53 and then just gave it up in spades, man.  This is not cool, not cool if you want markets to go to higher price. We're gonna take a look at the NQs, what do you have with the NQs up here? NQs the same setup, you're up 73 points right now and the NQs, bottom line had a high out here today, folks, is 12,229, yeah, you're reading that right, okay, so inside of the NQs, we're talking about, it's already given up over 500 points, okay, just, this is the problem and the NQs are actually a little bit clearer too, cause you're gonna see that, what was that one, you're gonna see how you're coming into that downdraft, the downdraft that was created out here on the 13th of September, that's stopping things like, and that's ice, that's a classic ice by the way, okay, you know, you trade there, you drop below it, you come up to it, so, now let's go back to the spy again, because what we're gonna see also, now this is where it gets tricky, okay, is that you're gonna see this volume expansion there, but again, volume expansion, the kicker is that the expansion's not gonna be enough, and this is gonna be bottom line, a market that still wants to go south, you see the line that I have, that's the day of the 30th, see that 144 million chairs, we're only doing 93, you're not holding 407, that's saying you're going right back down to the bottom of the consolidation, you know, the gap is wide open again, so my take is that that's where we're going. We go into the end of the X100, we take a look at the end of the X, because we know that the volatility's gonna continue all week long, there's no doubt about that, so we take a look at the queues, and what do we have with the queues, the same type of step, now the volume of the queues is gonna be closer though, because they're gonna actually do it, because we're at 68 right now, you needed 74, you know, so that's divergence, what that specifically means is that, you know, when you get a higher price with higher volume, that's where the markets want to go, so you have the S&P like saying, nope, no way, not even close, this here, it's a toss up, you know, and then we go back into, well let's go to gold, because gold bottom line is held up, that being said, these gold equities, let's go to gold first, because gold did get 219,000 contracts, let me just check, I believe that's gonna be good contract volume, I know it's good contract volume, but I was just trying to, there it is right there, what is that, that's 226, we're gonna get 226, and price wise, price wise we're holding price to, I mean, anything over, you know, 818 is saying, hey man, you're gonna get higher price, so it's gonna be intriguing, man, watching how the market reacts tomorrow to, you know, power on a steam as to basically what they have to say. Now when we take a look at the dollar, the dollar came down with the vengeance, that being said, the bottom line is that, you know, we're 500 ticks above where we were, now that's not a lot, man, that's the bottom line, we're at 104.054, and in order to get basically in this higher range, you gotta get to 104.636. So overnight here, you're gonna see, well, not overnight, what we're gonna be dealing with is at two o'clock tomorrow afternoon, they come out with the statement at 2.30, they're gonna come out with a news conference. We get Tesla, oh yeah, Tesla, Tesla's a monster ABC down, folks, okay, Tesla's breaking the B point, breaking it with volume out here, this is, you know, you can see the break, the break is, yeah, it's even on a weekly ABC down, we're gonna have enough volume, even though we started on a Monday, for a weekly ABC down. You need volume of 439 million, oh no, 331 million on a weekly, we've already done 149. So your A point on this is 237, your B point is, what is that, 166, so we got, oh nice, oh 72, that's okay, that's a 120, Tesla here we come, yeah, he's got his problems, stay right there folks, we'll come right back.


Welcome to my YouTube channel. Yes, I am anti-SAM-E-TIC, and today we are going to discuss silent treatment. I have been accused of many things under the sun and quite a few things above the sun, but I've never been accused of silent treatment. If anything, I give people the verbose treatment, too much talk, as those of you who survived my videos know well. Today, a new point of view on silent treatment and what to do about it. So, welcome, chauvinim, and of course, chauvavot. Welcome, and let's delve right in. What is silent treatment? According to Kipling Williams, a professor of psychology at Purdue University, silent treatment is a form of ostracism. Actually, Kipling Williams designed the famous Williams model of ostracism in 1997. But people often confuse and conflate silent treatment with other social behaviors that reflect excommunication or shunning or shaming. Silent treatment has nothing to do with any of these. Silent treatment is an interpersonal behavior, behavior between individuals. So, it's very similar to stonewalling, ghosting, blocking, banning, and of course, deleting comments on Instagram. Okay, silent treatment is also not the same as tactical ignoring. Tactical ignoring is actually a strategy. It's when a person doesn't give an outward sign of recognizing a behavior. So, a person avoids eye contact, no verbal response, no body language that is reactive, no acknowledgement that a message had been read or heard. This is tactical ignoring. It's an active process. And the person who embarks, who engages in tactical ignoring does it in order to modify another person's behavior. So, there's active monitoring going on and acute awareness of the behaviors of everyone involved. Parents, for example, engage in tactical ignoring of the children. So, this is not the same as silent treatment. Now, the statistics are beyond shocking. Two out of every three people. Yes, you heard me right. Two out of every three people give the silent treatment and it is increasing as alternative models and modes of interpersonal communication become mainstream. Ghosting is a relatively new phenomenon and it has to do with social media. There are 14 attributes, 14 characteristics of silent treatment. And I'm going to review all of them. Second part of this video is dedicated to how to cope with silent treatment, how to fight back and how possibly to end it. My name is Sam Dakhnin. I'm the author of Malignant Self-Love, Narcissism Revisited and the most handsome former visiting professor of psychology ever to have graced a YouTube channel. Silent treatment, as I said, has 14 characteristics. Number one, it is efficiently punitive. It's a harsh punishment. In a minute we'll see why. Number two, it is a social act because it takes a perpetrator and a target or a victim. It takes two to tango and at least two to engage in silent treatment. Number three, it is manipulative, a control tactic. It's about control and manipulation. Number four, silent treatment is emotionally distant. There's emotional absence and emotional coldness, emotional void involved in silent treatment. It's as if the person were absenting themselves. Number five, silent treatment is exclusionary. It excludes the target or the victim. Number six, it is plausibly deniable. The person who does the silent treating can deny and often does deny. That is doing anything wrong. And in this sense, silent treatment is a form of gaslighting. Usually silent treaters, people who use silent treatment to punish, coerce, manipulate and control other people. Silent treaters usually say it's not abuse. I'm not being abusive. It's just who I am. Number seven, silent treatment is coercive. It forces the victim to apologize or to modify her behavior. Number eight, it's alloplastic. The person who does the silent treatment blames the other person. He says, you made me do it. I may be punishing you, but you deserve it. You misbehaved. So there is alloplastic defense. It's your fault. You are to blame. You are guilty. You should feel ashamed. You forced me to silently treat you. You backed me into a corner, alloplastic defenses. Silent treatment also preserves negative effects. The person who engages in silent treatment deep inside, they know that they are doing something wrong. So they have to justify themselves. And they justify themselves by stalking the fires of anger and resentment and frustration and hatred. So to justify the ongoing silent treatment, they become very negative about the victim or about the target. They develop negative effects. So silent treatment is self-feeding, self-reinforcing and self-perpetuating. Silent treatment is addictive. It's very hard to stop once you start. There is a question of saving face. There's an issue of waiting for it to work, expecting an apology. There is the bad blood that silent treatment generates. There is the victim's reaction and so on and so forth. So it's a very addictive process. It's extremely difficult to put a stop to it. Silent treatment is expressive. It expresses displeasure, disapproval, frustration, anger, disappointment and often contempt. It's therefore a mode of communication. Silent treatment creates uncertainty, especially in the victim's mind. It creates an unpredictable, arbitrary, capricious, indeterminate behavior. And in this sense, silent treatment is very similar to intermittent reinforcement and can lead, if it is used repeatedly and habitually, can lead to trauma bonding. Silent treatment is attention-seeking. The person who engages in silent treatment seeks the attention of the victim and the target. And the victim or target seeks the attention of the perpetrator or the offender. So they both seek attention. It's an attention coinage. And finally, silent treatment is negating. The message is, you're not there. You're transparent. I see right through you or I looked right through you.  You don't exist for me. It's negating and vitiating. Now the consequences are horrific. The consequences are really, really, really bad. Studies have shown that silent treatment activates the same area in the brain that codes for physical pain and emotional pain. It's known as the anterior singulate cortex. That part of the brain is in charge of interpreting pain. And so silent treatment, in other words, is painful, very painful. And there it creates engenders, feelings of alienation, confusion, incompetence, inadequacy, frustration, self-worthlessness. In short, silent treatment triggers the bed object. And when people with personality disorders are subjected to silent treatment, they are, for all intents and purposes, being tortured externally by the silent treater and internally by their own bed object via the harsh inner critique or the sadistic super ego, whatever you want to call it. And these feelings elicit usually maladaptive responses with these kinds of victims, very dysfunctional responses.  Silent treatment can end very badly, exactly like every other form of abuse. Now the people who give silent treatment belong in two camps. Everything Jewish belong in two camps. So the first camp, the control freaks, the manipulators, the abusers, the narcissists, psychopaths. These are the active givers of silent treatment. They knowingly use silent treatment, deploy it as a strategic weapon. They weaponize silent treatment in order to obtain favorable outcomes, manipulative and coercive outcomes. But then you have a second camp. These are the passive givers. These are the insecure people who are insecure, people who are schizoid, paranoid, withdrawn. And these people perceive silent treatment as graceful, dignified, the way out of a conflict. They are conflict averse and conflict avoidant. They regard silent treatment as a gesture of peace and goodwill, believe it or not. Now, ostracism can manifest in numerous ways. You know, someone walking out the room in the middle of a conversation. A friend looking the other way when you wave at them. Someone pretending not to notice you as you cross the street. A person addressing comments from everyone in a message thread except you. These are all ways of ignoring you, negating your existence pretending you're not there, totally transparent. Williams said, partial ostracism, for example, monosyllabic replies, a terse period at the end of a one word text message. These are partial forms of silent treatment. In serious cases ostracism, he said, can take a heavy toll whereby victims become anxious, withdrawn, depressed or even suicidal. Joel Cooper, a psychology professor at Princeton said, because we humans require social contact for our mental health, the ramifications of isolation can be severe. In the short term, the silent treatment causes stress. In the long term, the stress can be considered abuse. Phew, that's seriously heavy. Time for my wine break, inebriated to the gills, or to the gills. I'm sorry, I can continue. Now, silent treatment escalates from partial to complete a whole or full spectrum silent treatment. The more the victim cajoles, requests, pleads, demands, criticizes, the more the silent treater escalates his or her silent treatment. Silent treatment is both verbal and bodily, avoidance of eye contact, putting physical distance, recoiling when someone gets near you. These are all forms of silent treatment. Silent treatment generates in both the giver and the receiver, and this is very important to understand. Silent treatment adversely affects the giver and the receiver. Yeah, I know, counter-intuitive, shocking even, cosmic justice. Both of them experience threatened needs of belonging. Both of them suddenly feel that they don't belong. Both of them endure a decline in self-esteem. Both of them suddenly perceive their existence as meaningless. The only difference between the giver and the receiver is that the giver's perceived control of the situation and of the receiver is enhanced by silent treatment. That's how we know the silent treatment is actually about control. Paul Schroden, a professor of communication studies, reviewed 74 relationship studies which involved more than 14,000 participants. That's big in terms of psychological studies. He made an in-depth analysis, meta-analysis, and he discovered that silent treatment is tremendously damaging to relationships. It decreases relationship satisfaction for both partners, diminishes feelings of intimacy, and reduces the capacity to communicate in a way that's healthy and meaningful. Schroden says, it's the most common pattern of conflict in marriage or any committed established romantic relationship, and it does tremendous damage. It's an incredibly hard pattern to break because both partners lay the blame at the feet of the other. Partners get locked, says Schroden. Partners get locked in this pattern, largely because they each see the other as the cause. Both partners see the other as the problem. One partner will typically complain that the other is emotionally unavailable. The other partner will accuse his or her partner of being too demanding or too critical. And when couples become locked in this demand-withdraw pattern, approach avoidance, repetition, compulsion, demand-withdraw pattern, the damage can be both emotional and physiological, including anxiety and aggression, as well as erectile dysfunction, which now you know why I don't engage in silent treatment, erectile dysfunction and urinary and bowel problems. Oh dear, talk about poisonous silence. Okay, time for some remedies and recipes. What to do about silent treatment? Number one, chill. Simply chill. Don't give silent treatment and don't receive it. Instead, be cool about it, be calm and say, I cannot talk to you right now, but we can talk again about this later, shall we say in one hour? In this way, you buy yourself some time off or time out, and at the same time, you don't close the channels of communication. So whenever you're angry, frustrated, don't want to see the face of your partner or hear her voice, just say the following. I can't talk to you right now, but we can talk about the issues you are raising later, shall we say in one hour? Or two hours or three, whatever. Number two, if you are the subject of silent treatment, if you are the unfortunate recipient, voice your pain. Voice your pain of being ignored, that's a principle established by Margaret Clark, a professor of psychology at Yale. Say, I'm in pain, it hurts me, I'm anxious. Verbalize your pain, do not repress it, ignore it, pretend it's not there, act brave and so on and so forth. Wrong. Number three, set healthy boundaries. If silent treatment is the main mode of communication with your partner, make sure he is no longer your partner. Walk away. Silent treatment is abuse. It's non-verbal abuse. It's manipulative, it's coercive, it's controlling, and it's damaging to your health, to your health, mentally and physically. Why? Why should you endure this? If he refuses to open his mouth, open the door and walk away. Number four, establish communication protocols. Whenever you describe a problem, focus on yourself, on how the problem makes you feel, on what kind of help you need from your partner. We call this I statements. Don't use you statements. Use I statements. For example, don't say you make me feel bad. Say I'm feeling bad. Don't say your behavior is wrong. Say I am bothered by some things. I statements, not you statements. Number two, within this principle of communication protocol, name the situation. Name it. Give it a title. Describe it. Don't keep it hidden. Don't keep it forbidden. Don't put it under the carpet. Don't pretend that it's not there. Name the situation. Make it suddenly audible and visible and non-ignorable. There's an elephant in the room. Point to it. Pull its tail and twiddle with its trunk. I ran out of metaphors. Just make sure that both of you are on the same page of identifying the problem and copying it. The first step is to name it. Next thing, if an apology is called for, apologize for your misbehavior. But if no apology is called for, if you didn't do anything wrong, do not apologize. Do not reward silent treatment. Do not positively reinforce such misconduct in your partner. Apologize only when an apology is called for. Practice self-care.  Your partner is an abuser and very likely he is using other techniques. I don't know. Gaslighting, threatening, coercion. I don't know what else. Intermittent reinforcement, trauma bonding. If you are in the same room, let alone in the same relationship with an abuser, you are being damaged. Practice self-care. Love yourself. Attend to your needs. Next principle. Don't take it personally. People who engage in silent treatment are seriously flawed. They're either insecure or they're control freaks. They're abusers.  They don't know how to communicate. Their verbal skills are challenged. Or if they do have verbal skills, they misuse them in order to torment and torture other people. These are usually bad people. Don't take it personally. It's nothing to do with you. It's not about you and it's definitely not your fault. Of course, that's not a license to misbehave, to provoke. If you do, stop it and apologize for it. But in the vast majority of cases studies show that silent treatment is unjustified. It is more anticipatory. In other words, the abuser who engages in silent treatment anticipates situations, catastrophizes and tries to avoid them by tightening his control, his suffocating hold on you. So, don't take it personally. These are his internal dynamics with which you have little to do. Stay calm. Use humor. Abuses, if you look at them from a certain angle, abusers can be funny. They're comic. They're parodies of humans. Abuses are parodies of men, parodies of women. And like every parody, they can be pretty funny. Stand aside, put some distance, emotional and physical between you and the abuser. Watch, watch him. Watch how ridiculous, reasonable he is.   So use humor. It's a weapon of defense. Avoid, though, escalation. Do not provoke. Do not escalate. Do not blame. Do not shame. That's not the right time. Your partner, the person who engages in silent treatment, is in a bad state of mind. And so pushing him is likely to aggravate the situation and even cause aggression. Finally, seek help and succor. Rely on your friends, on your family, on your social circle, on your co-workers, on your neighbors, on social workers, on psychologists and psychiatrists. In extreme situations, if silent treatment is coupled with other types of abuse, there's always the police and the courts. Do not keep it to yourself. Launder the dirty laundry in public. Sunshine disinfects abuse. Let it all out. Expose him that way or her. That's the surest way to end the abuse. Good luck. And now I'm going to give you the silent treatment. I'm going to finish this video.


And now, our Miss Brooks, starring Eve Arden. When a girl like our Miss Brooks has gone with a fellow like Philip Boynton for a number of years, occasionally an argument is to be expected. But a couple of days ago, they had their worst argument so far. And Miss Brooks told him she'd never speak to him again as long as she lived. And I meant it, too. Even if I have to spend the rest of my life communicating with him in sign language. The bone of contention this time was Mr. Boynton's mother, a gentle but possessive woman whose slogan in life seems to be always a mother but never a mother-in-law. I'm sure that she would gladly give her son in marriage if there was some way she could do it without losing permanent custody. Anyway, last Tuesday, with his mother scheduled to arrive in town for a visit, Mr. Boynton proceeded to cancel his dates with me for the next two weeks. And I proceeded to cancel my relationship with Mr. Boynton. For two days, my landlady could sense how depressed I felt. And Thursday morning at breakfast, she made a brave effort to cheer me up. Connie, I heard the funniest story yesterday. Lydia Guilfoyle told it over the phone. Honestly, it's a screen. Want to hear it, dear? No. Well, it seems two old gossips were talking about a young couple who had just been married. And one of these old gossips said, I saw Mr. Jones sneaking into his house at two o'clock this morning. Well... Well what? My, you have lost your sense of humor. Either that or you've lost the joke. And that's the end of the story? It was as far as I was concerned. I had to answer the doorbell at that point. Now, didn't you ask Mrs. Guilfoyle to tell you the rest of it? I would have, dear, but I haven't the faintest idea who she is. And how did you begin speaking to her? Oh, I wasn't speaking to her. I was listening. You see, Mrs. Guilfoyle was speaking to Mrs. Henderson, the lady on our party line. But Mrs. Davis, why were you listening? Well, I had nothing else to do while Mrs. Graham was having lunch. Mrs. Graham? That's the other lady on our party line. She's good for three hours of juicy listening every day. At the moment, she's about to have an operation. But now, dear, that you're feeling a little better. Don't you want to let me hear about your problem? I'd love to, Mrs. Davis, but there's no one I can tell it to so you can listen. That is, it's really nothing you can help me with. Well, all right, dear. If you don't choose to discuss it with me, you know I'm never the one to pry. Well, thanks, Mrs. Davis. Actually, it only takes one person to handle my problem. Just as you say. But personally, I think it was all wrong of Mr. Boynton to break all his dates with you just because his mother is in town. And I think you're absolutely right to tell him you're never going to speak to him again. And I'm glad you're the one person handling my problem. Mrs. Davis, how did you find out about it? To be truthful, Connie, when Mr. Boynton called you at 10.33 last night to patch things up, I just happened to be dusting the receiver of our extension telephone. You must have been dusting it with your left ear. Mrs. Davis, I'm surprised that you would... Oh, excuse me, dear. Hello. Yes, this is Margaret Davis. What? You didn't. Oh, no. Well, maybe there's something you can... Hello? Hello? Hello? Oh, Connie, it's terrible. Simply terrible. Disaster has finally struck. Disaster? Well, what is it, Mrs. Davis? What happened? The telephone company has taken away our party line. They've given us a private line. Well, I'll contact the Red Cross at once, and the phone company has taken away our party line. Is that all? But Mrs. Davis, you filed an application for a private line years ago. Yes, I know, dear, but that was before I'd grown so attached to the Henderson's and the Graham's. Well, Connie, Mrs. Henderson is supposed to have her baby almost any time. Now I'll never know if it's a boy or a girl. What will happen with poor Mrs. Graham's operation? Listen to your radio tomorrow to old Dr. Gillespie. But, Connie, you broke the radio last October. I did? Don't you remember? You were listening to the whistler, and you tuned it up so loud he whistled out all the tunes. And you're such a wonderful set. Yes, 1931 was a good year for radio. Connie, I hate to say this, but you'll simply have to buy me a new radio now. The midget set costs only $20. Which sounds like a million to my midget salary. Well, I've got to leave for school now, Mrs. Davis. Walter isn't driving me today. But don't worry, I'll think up some solution to your problem before the day is over. But, Connie, without a telephone or a radio to listen to, what will I do all day? Well, it's 8.30 now. In about five minutes, Mrs. Mason and Mrs. Parker will begin gossiping over the backyard fence. Connie, you know I don't like to eavesdrop on anybody but strangers.  Oh, Mrs. Brooks. Mr. Boyden, I said I'd never speak to you again as long as I live, and I meant every year of it.  Please have the good manners to listen to me when I'm not speaking to you. I know exactly what you're going to say, and I understand fully that strange infantile attachment you have for your mother and that I can't ever break it, so let's just continue to pass each other by when we meet just as we're doing now. Mrs. Brooks, the only reason I stopped you was to tell you that your purse is open. Huh? Well, I'll just leave it open until somebody I'm speaking to tells me about it. Well, suit yourself. Now, if you'll excuse me, I must be getting to class. He's still so beautiful. Oh, Mrs. Brooks. It's no use trying to talk to me, Mr. Boyden, so you might as... Oh, it's Mr. Conklin. It took you two guesses, but you made it. Are you in the habit of strolling through the corridor with your purse looking like it's begging for bread? My purse? Oh, we're on speaking terms, so I can close it now. Good. You've made me a happy man. Now, if you'll follow me into my office for a minute, please, I have something to ask you. Yes, sir. Now, I'll come right to the point, Mrs. Brooks. Disaster struck my dear wife at 8.23 this morning. Oh, how terrible. What happened? They took out her party line. Apparently, the whole neighborhood is having its party lines removed and private ones installed. Mrs. Davis suffered the same loss today. My wife is driving me insane. All morning, since she received the terrible news, she's been in a state of shock. Shall I tell you how this dread disease got its first hold on my wife, Mrs. Brooks?  Precisely. How did you know? I happened to have a land lady with a larger cauliflower on her listening ear than Rocky Marciano. It's practically an addiction with Mrs. Davis. Addiction? That's just the word. How I pleaded with Mrs. Conklin to give up the habit. Tape her off. It turned into a normal life of private telephones, but no, it was too late. Telephone night has set in. Many is the long night I sat alone at the dinner table as she crouched in the corner of the room over the telephone, living in her fool's paradise of borrowed conversation. Poor Mr. Conklin. Poor, poor Mr. Conklin. I pleaded with her, begged her, and one night when I lost my temper and threatened her, she hit the earpiece like a drunken sailor and went on a wild listening binge that lasted until dawn. Poor, poor, poor Mr. Conklin. What happened then? Then one night I decided to cut her off abruptly, so I hid the phone in the chandelier. She found it immediately. I kept hiding it, she kept finding it until one day I decided to let the phone hang out of our second floor window. Well, that should have cured her. That same night after dinner the phone rang suddenly and for the next two hours I had to hold my poor wife by the ankle that she listened in. Oh, Miss Brooks, you've got to help me. Do you hear you've got to? Please, Mr. Conklin, get a hold on yourself. I'll be over tonight, I promise you. And if the phone rings, I'll spell you for a while on Mrs. Conklin's ankles. Oh, well, there's no need for that anymore, Miss Brooks. Since we have a private line now, I've hauled the phone back in. But we must do something, Miss Brooks. Well, I had planned to run down to the phone company during my lunch hour today and ask them to restore Mrs. Davis' party line. I could ask them to restore your wife's too. Oh, would you, Miss Brooks? Oh, thank you, thank you so much. Mr. Conklin, you can start chalking up your hands. Tonight Mrs. Conklin hangs by the heels again. Well, it wasn't bad enough that I had my problems with Mr. Boynton. But now I had the additional worry of getting their party lines restored to Mrs. Davis and Mrs. Conklin so they could go back to their normal, everyday, rubber-eared existence. Just before lunch, I was looking for Walter Denton to drive me down to the phone company when I rounded the corridor and literally ran into Harriet Conklin and her supercharged boyfriend. Oops. Oh, pardon me, Miss Brooks. It was my fault for running into you, Harriet. And excuse me, Walter, for knocking Harriet into you. I'll be my guest, dear teacher, as often as you like. And you can do the same for Mr. Boynton and me some... I'm glad I found you, Walter. I wonder if you could drive me someplace during the next hour. You see, I... Well, we'd like to, Miss Brooks, but right now we're in a terrible rush. Yeah, during my lunch hour, we've got to visit Mrs. Potter, Mrs. Grunyan and Mrs. Carrollay for my mother. Well, who are they, Walter? The women on her party line. Disaster struck our house at 8.31 this morning. The phone company gave us a private line. Now I'm Mom's only contact with the outside world. And she wants you to find out about those three women. Yeah, that's right. They're all in the north side of town. She's got my father working on the south side.  Oh, she's staying home so the other women can find out about her. The phone company might not know it, but they've got a bigger thing here than Scrabble. How can you contact all three women and be back in an hour? Well, I've got a regular schedule worked out, Miss Brooks. 12.15, we're due at the Potter's to find out if their unmarried daughter, Sally, is getting a second date with that Peoria Pickle salesman. And that should take five minutes, so we should be leaving there at 12.30, and then we'll... Whoa, wait a minute. If you arrive at Mrs. Potter's at 12.15 and you're only taking five minutes to inquire about her daughter, what's the other ten minutes for? Well, that's to give Mrs. Potter time to pump me about my mother's lumbago and sciatica. At 12.30, we stop off at the Grunyans to find out if Mrs. Grunyans' brother-in-law, Herman, is coming to live with them. He's rich and handsome, but Mrs. Grunyans hates him. Well, in that case, have her contact me. I'd be glad to... I think I understand how the schedule works. But if you'll drive me to where I'm going, I believe I can save you both a lot of trouble. Well, where are you going, Miss Brooks? To the phone company's nearest office, Harriet. I'm going to try to get party lines reinstalled for your mother and Mrs. Davis. And while I'm at it, I might as well get back Mrs. Denton's line, too. Oh, gosh. That'd be swell, Miss Brooks. Do you think you can swing it? I certainly hope so. And while I'm at their office, I think I'll also suggest that they change the name Party Line to something more in keeping with the way your mothers have been using it. What do you mean, Miss Brooks? To them, it isn't the party. It's a ball. In our then, Miss Brooks, what can the telephone company do for you? Mr. Horton, this morning at 8.23, 8.28 and 8.31 a.m., disaster struck. Good heavens, what happened? Three innocent women lost their Party Lines. In what hospital? Lost their Party Lines? In broad daylight. And I think it's disgraceful, depriving American citizens of their inalienable right to snitch an earful of dirt when the mood seizes them. Miss Brooks, if I understand you correctly, several of your Lady Friends have been switched from Party Lines to Private Lines. Is that right? Exactly what I say, sir. Is that right? All Mrs. Henderson wants is one boy, Mr. Horton, one baby boy. And I think that depriving Mrs. Davis of her Party Line at this critical... Just a minute, Miss Brooks. You meant Mrs. Henderson, didn't you? No, Mrs. Davis. Does she want a boy too? Only if he's over 60. She hasn't got a husband. Well, I'm sorry, Miss Brooks, but that is one service the telephone company does not supply. You don't understand, Mr. Horton. Right now, at this very moment, poor Mrs. Conklin sits and broods because Mrs. Hergishimer may decide not to take up the Tuba. Mrs. Conklin? Is that the one whose husband threatened to leave because his wife had her nose fixed? No, no. Mrs. Murdock is the woman with the nose. Mrs. Denton, on the other hand, has lost three pounds in the last day just worrying over Sally Potter and her pickled boyfriend. That is her Peoria boyfriend who sells pickles. I understand. This Mrs. Potter is one of the ladies who wants her Party Line back? No, now you're thinking of Mrs. Denton. She's the Tuba. That's Mrs. Hergishimer. And who's Mrs. Denton? Walter's mother. And who's Walter? A student at Madison High and don't hold your breath until he passes English. And who's English? Oh, that's a course. Now where was I? Between the Tuba and the nose. Well, it's really quite simple, Mr. Horton. Just get Mrs. Davis back on the same line with Mrs. Henderson and Mrs. Graham. She's the one who's having the operation. Mrs. Davis? No, Mrs. Graham. Well, anyway, I do hope the Conklins have a baby boy this time. Or was that the Potters? The Henderson's. We've got to get back to Madison High now, Mr. Horton. So please remember, Mrs. Conklin gets Mrs. Hergishimer and Mrs. Murdock on her line. Murdock, that's the nose. Like a ski slide. And Mrs. Denton gets Mrs. Potter and Mrs. Grunyan. He's the Pickle. Peoria. Now, have you got it all straight? Absolutely. And don't worry about a thing. I'll order all those Party Lines back by seven tonight. Thank you so much, Mr. Horton. And please don't forget those names. Don't worry, I won't. I never forget a name. Goodbye, Mr. Horton. Goodbye, Mrs. Hergishimer. Don't be so impatient, Mrs. Davis. In a few minutes, it will be seven o'clock and you'll have your old Party Line back. I hope so, Connie. I'm dying to know if Mrs. Henderson is going to have a boy. Pray for a boy, Connie. That's what I've been doing ever since I was 22. And certainly I'm praying for the Mrs. Davis. Oh, I'll take it, Connie. Hello? Mr. Henderson? What? Oh. Quick, is it a boy or a girl? It's a boy, Connie. Mr. Boynton, here. Tell him I'm not speaking to him. She says she's not speaking to you, Mr. Boynton. What? Well, I'll ask her. What does he want? He says, won't you please tell him you're not speaking to him yourself?  Now, let me have the phone. Now, see here, Mr. Boynton. Miss Brooks, please don't hang up. I must speak to you. Then kindly make it as short as possible. That's what you have to say within a half hour, and then hang up. Excuse me a moment, please. Mrs. Davis, if you don't mind, this is personal. No, I don't mind at all, dear. Just keep talking. You want me to leave the room. Just for a minute. Thanks, Mrs. Davis. Now, Mr. Boynton, I made it quite clear to you earlier today that I never wanted to speak to you again. Okay, I'll hang up. Don't you dare. At least not until I'm through talking to you. Believe me, Mr. Boynton, it's not that I dislike your mother. It's just that, well, at times, she can be quite narrow-minded. Miss Brooks, I invited mother to come with us to the movies tonight, but she insisted I take you alone. As I was saying, our argument had nothing to do with your broad-minded mother. Did you say the movies tonight, Mr. Boynton? Yes, they're showing Humphrey Bogart and beat the devil. And there's a delightful short with it and an apple for the teacher. It's all about the life of the apple from the time it's grown in the state of Washington until it arrives in the teacher's hands. I thought it was about cheering sheep in Australia. I'll be glad to go with you, Mr. Boynton. Gosh, that's swell, Miss Brooks. And I might add it's nice talking to you again. I'm awfully glad you decided to call. Well, mother said I should, and I did. Mother said?   Is that the way you wanted, Miss Brooks? That's exactly the way I wanted. Oh, no, she doesn't, Mr. Boynton, you know that. Mr. Boynton, I'll thank you not to change your voice when you're talking to me. I didn't change my voice, Miss Brooks. You most certainly did. Oh, no, I didn't. Oh, yes, you did. Oh, no, he didn't. Oh, yes, he. Walter Denton. Present, Miss Brooks. Walter, how did you get on my line? Oh, I don't know. I just picked up my phone, and there you were. The phone company must have put us on Mrs. Davis' party line by mistake. Well, please hang up, Walter. I'm enjoying a private fight with Mr. Boynton. Oh, but I can't hang up, Miss Brooks. Can't? Why not? My mother won't let me. Get off this line, Denton, and be quick about it.  Yeah, leave the kid alone. Who did you call a bully, Miss Brooks? You.   Sail into a void. Mr. Kotlin, is that you? No, Miss Brooks. This is a voice from outer space. Oh, I wish you'd push it back in. That is, how did you get on our line?  No matter in fact what are you doing on the school line? On the school line? Sir, do you mean that Miss Brooks' line is on Mrs. Denton's line and on the school line? Apparently it's on everything but the trolley line. Seems Miss Brooks went to the telephone company with the purpose of restoring my home party line and true to form in her own idiotically consistent fashion. She goofed.  Temper girl, temper. Mr. Boynton, beware of temper in the normal human female. I married one with a violent disposition. I should know. You should know what, Osgood? Mother! Mr. Kotlin! Walter! Now that we've called the roll, the class will come to order. Miss Brooks? Yes, Mrs. Kotlin? Stick to your guns with Mr. Boynton. I had my share of mother-in-law trouble and I should know. Oh, you should. Perfectly well, if it hadn't been for my dear mother's interference on your behalf, you might still be Martha Flyshacker. I think that's one of the reasons I resent her. The reasons she resents her? Oh, that's a good one. Oh, hang up this instant. Okay, sir. Oh, I can't, Mr. Kotlin. My mother won't let me. I will. Then I'll hang up. I'll see you all tomorrow. I'd better have these party lines straightened out first thing in the morning. Oh, no, Miss Brooks. Mom says not to do a thing. This is the greatest party line she's been on since Mrs. Blake strangled her husband. Hello, Mrs. Denton? She never talks on party lines, Miss Brooks. She only listens. Well, good night all. I guess I'll hang up now, too, Miss Brooks. Mrs. Kotlin, I'm sorry I got you on our party line by mistake, but I'll have it corrected in the morning. You will do no such thing. I am simply delighted with things as they are. Well, nighty-night, dear. Nighty.  Let's start speaking again, shall we? Whoever stopped. Well, I'm glad Mrs. Denton and Mrs. Kotlin liked their new party lines, but I'm afraid I'm going to have trouble with my landlady. Oh, you won't hear any complaints out of me, dear. Who's that? Welcome aboard, Mrs. Davis. I was just dusting the extension telephone. Really? When does it ever get a chance to collect dust? And you don't want to switch back to your old party line, either, Mrs. Davis. Oh, goodness, no, dear. With Mrs. Denton's lumbago, the Conklin's fights and your little spats with Mr. Boynton, I really hit the jackpot. Well, I'm afraid we're going to have to disappoint you, Mrs. Davis. From now on, Miss Brooks and I are through battling. Only married people, aren't you? Only married people? Well, that's the way I've heard it. Well, I don't know about you, Mr. Boynton, but I wouldn't want to disappoint Mrs. Davis for the world. Our Miss Brooks, starring Eve Arden, has been a presentation of the United States Armed Forces Radio Service.