Wait a second.  Cheating is one of the biggest betrayals in any relationship, but what happens when a spouse suggests an open relationship, to secretly justify their infidelity? This is the shocking and regretful story of a wife, who thought an open relationship would solve her problems, only to realize that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Before we start, go to the like button sock drawer, and turn all the socks inside out. This revenge story, might be upsetting to cheaters. Hello everyone, I never imagined that I would reach the point of seeking guidance from strangers on the internet, but here we are. My wife Lucy and I, have been together for 10 years and married for 8. We met in college and were each other's first and only love. I truly believe that we had a unique and beautiful relationship because of this, but it seems that this was just my perspective. Some time ago, my wife started working at a new company. At first, Lucy found it difficult to fit in since she has always been reserved. However, after my encouragement, she befriended a group of women, some of whom were single, divorced, or dating, but not married. Initially, I was glad she had made new friends. But then, she began going out for drinks, attending parties, and participating in various activities her friends had planned. I grew concerned about her changing behavior and attempted to discuss it with her, while also being careful not to impose any restrictions. This shift in her behavior began to affect our intimacy. My wife rarely initiated intimacy, and with her frequent outings, she was often too tired or not in the mood. At some point, her company hired a new manager who caught the attention of my wife and her friends. Lucy began mentioning him casually, but eventually started pointing out how he handled certain issues that didn't seem work related. When I asked her about her fascination with this man, she dismissed my concerns. She even inquired if I regretted not having more experiences with other women, to which I replied no, because she was all I ever needed. I could have sworn I saw a brief flash of sadness in her eyes, but she quickly changed the subject. She brought up the idea of an open marriage as a way to spice up our relationship, which surprised me because she had never been that type of person, nor was she particularly liberal in her sexual views. Initially, I refused and asked if this had anything to do with the new manager. Lucy denied any connection, but admitted feeling like she had missed out on experiences while not wanting to lose me. So this seemed like a safer option. I warned her that she was playing with fire, but naively and reluctantly agreed.  For a year, my wife went on dates and had one night stands. And as if I hadn't seen it coming, she eventually entered into some kind of relationship with the manager. On the other hand, I went on a few dates but didn't engage in any one night stands because it felt wrong to me. Lucy would ask if I was okay, but she didn't really change her behavior. Eventually, I sensed that the love I once had for her, that pure, special innocence of marriage, was gone, and it was eating away at me inside. I ended up going on a date with an amazing woman who had moved here from South Korea. Our conversation flowed easily. She had a quick-witted sense of humor, and her smile was so captivating that one could easily lose oneself in it. This, of course, led to more dates, and eventually, we became intimate. I had never experienced anything like the passion I shared with this woman. I didn't know a woman could be so giving and make one feel so desired. At first, my wife found it amusing, but as the months went by, she started questioning my relationship with my lover. I quickly reminded her that this was her idea, and that she was the one in a relationship with the manager I had been worried about. She fell silent, looking as if she wanted to say something but held her tongue. Lucy started coming home early to surprise me with dinner and made an extra effort to clean the house. She even began visiting me at work to drop off lunch and started initiating intimacy in the bedroom. Honestly, if it hadn't been for her opening up our marriage, which I'm also to blame for agreeing to, all this would have made me overjoyed. I barely gave into her attempts at intimacy, and when I did, it was simply to get it over with. Something inside me had died towards my wife, and I could see she felt it too. I asked what brought on this change in her and what was different. She responded that she wanted to show me that she loved me and was happy with me. I hadn't intended to, but I burst out laughing. I asked about her little group of friends, her manager lover, and her one night stands. She didn't respond that day and simply went to bed in tears. The next day, when I got home, I found her waiting for me. She told me she wanted to close the marriage, admitting that this whole experience had been a terrible mistake. She regretted everything and wanted us to be the focus of our relationship again. I asked her to be honest with me and reveal what had inspired all this in the first place. As it turned out, it was her group of friends that had planted the idea because of their numerous sexual adventures. When her manager came around, he surprisingly supported that lifestyle and encouraged my wife to live freely. Apparently, it had developed into an emotional affair and only became physical once the marriage opened, as if that made it any better. She described it as being drunk behind the wheel of a speeding car, thrilling and intoxicating, but the consequences of this decision have become too much for her to bear. She realizes now that she never needed a comparison, that what we had was truly unique and special. But she feels like she has destroyed our marriage and any chance of a life together. I told her I might never be able to see her as my wife again, and this made her break down in front of me. I simply held her in silence as she cried until she fell asleep in my arms on the couch.  However, I haven't ended my relationship with my lover. My lover, quite frankly, makes me feel like a man, like I can take on the world. And my wife hasn't made me feel that way in a while. The truth is, I don't know what to do in this situation. I would love to regain the special feeling we once had, if possible, but my lover essentially saved me when I was at my lowest. Please help me. I should also mention that we have our first marriage counseling session in a couple of hours, and I'm not sure how that will go.  Honestly, people have great lives and somehow they feel like they don't, and in the process of trying to fix what's not broken, eventually break it. Why didn't expect such a response? Thank you also very much for your support and advice. I will post an update on our therapy session because quite frankly, that in itself needs it on trade but I will answer some questions. My lover is not married, but she does have the open marriage. My intention for this marriage is still unclear, mainly because I feel as much as I love my wife. I cannot trust her yet at the same time I find myself unable to truly let go because of our years together, and the reason I agreed to counseling sessions was to figure out if I can come to a solution of sound mind and get off the indecisive train. I didn't demand her phone at first, because I didn't want to see an actual image of my wife with another man. The mental images and movies were bad enough, but to see the actual picture or whatever, would have shattered me more than I already am. Forget to mention, this morning as I got out of the shower, I saw Lucy holding my phone and silently shaking, as she read a message I had received. I just took it from her and didn't say anything. The message was from my lover, it said. Good morning handsome, I slept in your t-shirt last night, because I miss going to bed and waking up in your arms. I miss greeting the new day with a kiss, from you. I think this messed up my wife Lucy quite a bit, because she has basically been shadowing me for the past two hours even when I went for a jog, she never once jogged with me, not a single time during our entire relationship. The therapist seemed nice and experienced, appearing unbiased and genuinely eager to help. Even though it was our very first session, my wife took it as an opportunity to lay it all out, it seems. She confessed that her group of friends made her wonder if she had missed her chance at other experiences, as she had committed to her first boyfriend and had no other adventures like some of these supposedly amazing women had, some of whom are divorced but none of whom are married. The therapist pointed out that this can often be detrimental to a marriage due to the difference in mindset. My wife seemed to agree and added that after the new manager started approaching her, some of her friends encouraged her to see where it goes, suggesting it was a chance for her to explore or discover herself. She obviously felt guilty, or so she says, and didn't do anything physical until one of the divorced friends suggested an open marriage as a loophole, telling her that some couples come out stronger because of it. So, after regrettably, again, so she says, convincing me to open up our marriage, her so-called adventure began. It was intoxicating and blinding but lacked real substance, unlike the kind we had built over the years. She started to question her reasons for doing this. She said she could see the hurt in my eyes but told herself this was an adventure, she mentioned she'll never forgive herself for this, and a chance to have an amazing experience, so the gravity of it all never hit her until she noticed a change in me. At first, she assumed that because I went on dates, I would gradually accept her situation and be okay with it, but that all changed when my lover became a constant presence in my life. Apparently, I started to smile again for no reason, and my eyes would light up when I would get a text message or cheerfully leave the room to answer a call. She said she suddenly felt a pit in her stomach and started to experience many panic attacks, for no apparent reason. She went to her friends for advice again. But they told her, It's a totally normal reaction for him to have, during this adventure. However, when the same divorced friend who suggested the open marriage in the first place said, It looks like his lover makes him happy. The reality of it all finally dawned on her. The very real possibility that another woman, and not his wife, brought him joy nearly made her pass out. She realized how ridiculous this all was and begged her friends to help her win me back, but they just told her, If you can't deal with it, then why did you open your marriage in the first place? She knew then and there that these people were toxic and a threat to our marriage and the life we built, so she's been on a mission to win me back by any means necessary. I on the other hand, didn't share much, but I did let the counselor know about the situation on my side with my lover still in the picture. The counselor said no resolution could ever be reached with my lover still involved and suggested we book another appointment for the day after tomorrow. The counselor did mention that it was unusual for someone to stay with their first for this long and gave the impression that any storm can be weathered. I highly suspect she wants us to be one of her success stories. Sorry that it's long, but I figured I might as well give a full update. Let me get this straight, your wife was envious of divorced people's lifestyle?   One woman makes you happy and puts the twinkle in your eye. The other woman, you are tied to buy emotional bonds and time. One loves and wants you, the other does not want someone else to have you. This should not be a hard choice whether you love your girlfriend or not, this marriage will eventually end so why hurt the girlfriend and choose the wife? You are trying to be a good guy because that is who you genuinely are or how you see yourself. However, please remember you must be happy and sometimes that means making hard choices and putting yourself first. You loved her enough to give her space to do what she wanted to do, despite the pain it caused and now she cannot grant you a moment of happiness, does that not tell you something? Move on brother.  It showed that she was the prize. She got to go be wild and sexually free, leaving you at home pining for her and she loved it. Then you found someone that you enjoyed being with and she can't have that.  She regrets opening the marriage only because you found someone not because she saw your pain. If that were the case, she would have ended it quicker. And now it's the toxic friend's fault? She's grown. She made her choices. She knew it would hurt you and SHE didn't care. Frick that. She's selfish. Pick your girlfriend. I want to offer a very warm thank you to everyone who has reached out. I apologize for not being able to reply to each and every one of you, be it in the inbox or on the post. Anyway, here's the update so far. Again, thank you all for your support. It's quite literally been an episode of Jerry Springer. I have since moved into an apartment owned by my brother at a ridiculously cheap price, he owns properties and would have let me stay for free, but I refuse that. I've uncovered some information about my wife's behaviors and some unsettling things about her manager. During our second session of counseling, I asked some of the questions that Redditor suggested. First question, I asked if she was sure nothing physical happened before the opening of the marriage. She looked towards the ground and begged me not to make her say it, saying that if she revealed it, it would destroy us. But after some pushing, she shared that it wasn't physical, but they touched themselves in front of each other.  I was absolutely floored by this revelation, and she started shaking and hyperventilating. Tears and snot flowed as she cried and apologized to me. At this point, even the counselor was taken aback and wore a look of disbelief. My wife got on her knees and hugged my legs, saying how sorry she was. Second question, I then asked her what really changed her view of him. She said that after she started pulling back from the group as a whole, his behavior towards her changed. Then one evening, as she was leaving a meeting, she passed his office and overheard him speaking about her to another male colleague. He said he was surprised at how easy it was to get her, and that she was living proof that you can't trust the quiet ones. When the colleague asked if he actually fancied her, his response was, Oh no, she was a pleasant distraction though. But of course I have absolutely no intention of breaking up with my fiance. He even added that this was simply to get it out of his system, because the only woman who has ever understood him was his fiance, and he didn't want to break up with her. He also mentioned how he felt bad for me but made sure to add, You snooze, you lose. My wife, upon realizing that she was nothing more than a piece of meat to this man, and that she had betrayed me for a cheap thrill. In that moment Lucy actually felt like taking permanent solutions to a temporary problem, if you know what I mean. She said she left her workplace and vomited in the parking lot. She also added that her first thoughts were, What have I done? My love, please forgive me, I'm so sorry. Third question, I asked her if she still loved him and when exactly she had stopped loving me. With tears in her eyes, she looked at me intently and admitted that she had never stopped loving me, which honestly made the situation worse. She explained, He was just something different. I thought it was love, I believed it to be love. But now I realize, how foolish I was. Gripping my arm with unexpected force, she acknowledged her mistake and expressed how much she missed the bond we once shared. She even proposed that we move away and start anew, just the two of us, as it was always meant to be. However, I informed her that it wouldn't be fair to my current partner and that I needed time away from her to process everything. At these words, she seemed to unravel, sobbing uncontrollably and uttering incoherent phrases. Lucy clung to me as if I would disappear, and it took both the counselor and me some time to calm her down. The counselor eventually persuaded her that spending time apart might help us heal. I wish I could end this update here, but upon returning home and beginning to pack, my wife received a tearful video call on her laptop from one of her former friends. It turned out that after my wife's resignation, this friend and the manager had started a fling of their own. However, a pregnancy scare prompted the manager to show his darker side. To make matters worse, the friend had a boyfriend with whom she saw a future, and she had only pursued the fling out of curiosity, a strikingly familiar theme. The boyfriend discovered their secret through an email exchange discussing the potential pregnancy, and the manager subsequently accused her of trying to trap him with a baby. Naturally, the boyfriend left her, and she reached out to my wife, under the impression that we had salvaged our marriage, in a desperate plea for advice. With no words left to say, I turned and left. I've been staying in the apartment ever since. Once again, thank you all for your thoughts and valuable advice.  Absolutely nothing. I feel for her, but she is the one that made these choices. I don't know that I could see my way back into a marriage like this. Good luck with whatever you decide. First and foremost, I want to extend my gratitude to everyone who reached out to offer helpful advice, share their own relatable experiences, or simply lend a listening ear. Your support means a great deal to me. A lot has transpired since my last update. The former friend, who experienced the pregnancy scare, was indeed pregnant. However, the stress of losing her boyfriend and the humiliation of the affair led to a miscarriage. In response, she basically turned ballistic went full scorched earth on the manager, exposing him to upper management and his fiancé. Out of curiosity, I looked up the manager's fiancé on Facebook. She seemed to embody the archetype of a pretty, small town girl. According to her profile, she is a special needs teacher who values family and enjoys a quiet home life. My immediate thought was, why would he jeopardize his relationship with her by pursuing other women? The fact that men like him end up with women like her, remains one of life's great enigmas. The former friend reached out to me, seeking my side of the story as she gathered evidence against the manager. However, she insisted on meeting in person and I agreed. Upon seeing her, I could tell she was broken. The dark circles under her eyes and the redness of her irises indicated that she had not slept and was tormented by her thoughts. She thanked me for agreeing to meet and immediately apologized for her role in my wife's escapade. It turns out she and my wife had spoken again, which is when she learned I had moved out. She didn't try to shift blame and wanted to take responsibility for her actions, which is why she insisted on meeting face to face. I appreciated her efforts, but couldn't help wondering why she would go to such lengths. So I asked her. She said losing both a child and the love of her life changed who she was at the core. She said she can hardly look in the mirror without feeling disgust. She can hardly sleep, because all she sees is her exes. Face the day he found out. This woman clearly hated herself and this meeting might have been a form of punishment for her. She tells me since fraternizing among coworkers is a breach of conduct and more so because he was in a position of influence, he will most likely be fired and possibly blacklisted from that field as a whole. But the same may be true for her as well and she has accepted it. After sharing her story and apologizing once more, the former friend left. I needed to retrieve some belongings from our old place, so I chose a time when I thought my wife wouldn't be home. Unfortunately, she was there, and to my surprise, she had spread our wedding photos, along with other pictures, on the coffee table and was staring at them. When she noticed me, I could see she had been crying. She tried to hug me, but I gently pushed her aside. She offered me lunch, but I declined, explaining that I wasn't hungry and that I only needed to collect a few things. Before I could proceed, she insisted on showing me something. She pulled out her phone and displayed a message she had received two days earlier from her former manager, who had berated her. She had blocked his original number, so he used a new one. It seemed that my wife had assisted her former friend in exposing him to all the relevant parties, and he was furious. She mentioned that she had drawn inspiration from chump lady and marriage builders. By exposing the secret, she believed she was removing its power and giving us a fighting chance to rebuild our relationship. I told her I was glad she had the courage to do that, but it didn't change anything between us. I also informed her that I would stop attending marriage counseling and would pursue individual counseling instead. This news made her sob softly, and she said she understood. Although I'm supposed to feel either relation at the actions taken or raged because it took this long, I simply feel numb towards her. I know this isn't normal, which is why I want to address it in individual counseling rather than marriage counseling. I have also seen a divorced lawyer at my brother's recommendation just to be safe. As of now I am not really willing to fight for this marriage and it seems my wife can sense it. Before I left she tried to initiate intimacy, but when I refused she yelled and asked.  What does she provide you that I'm not? She yelled in a voice so loud, I am sure the neighbors heard it and by doing so, trying to force me to do whatever she wanted to make her stop. I shook my head and told if she still couldn't tell after all that's happened then it's clear where our marriage is headed and left. This is where I am at, at least for now anyway and once again, thank you all for your help. Your wife has indeed begun to face the consequences of her actions. The sad truth is that she would do anything to go back in time and avoid making the same mistakes, but life doesn't work that way. Perhaps she can put effort into understanding herself and becoming a better partner, but it likely won't be with you as she has already destroyed the life you shared. One thing you can be certain of is that she will always remember you and regret what she did. That is more than what many of us received from our unfaithful partners. They say the opposite of love is in hate, it is in difference. I think you have reached that point. Your marriage is probably over and I think you and your wife know it. Do your individual counseling and speak to an attorney.  Your marriage died back then, you both just didn't realize it.  Respect, loyalty and fidelity are the concepts that escape your former wife. She opened the marriage so the manager and any other man that she fancied could use her as the town bicycle for a year. Keep moving forward friend, there is nothing to return to. Your wayward wife happily gambled that you had less value as a partner than she did. That she could do as she pleased and you would be around if something better didn't work out. Don't forget dignity and support, all of which your new lover seems to bring to the table. You stay till the end, which means you're the one I make these episodes for. Imagine yourself in OP shoes, would you join the vengeful woman on her path of destruction, or would you strive to make things work? Put yourself in his shoes and be brutally honest. I'm curious to know your answer, what would you do in this situation? Subscribe for future uploads and show your vengeful devotion, by tickling the like button, without mercy. And I'll be seeing you, in the next one.


So we're looking at personal productivity and these are some practical things and I'm sure that all of us have some hacks to make our time, whatever work that we do to be productive and all that. So all of us have some things. So it would kind of be a repetition. Maybe some of these things you already know. So we started off by looking at one very basic thing which is organizing. Okay now it's so basic, so fundamental, so simple that it's overlooked and it can actually create so much of chaos. Simple things like filing away information, like filing away things that you can actually reuse. So that's the second thing, when we organize, then we are more effective. Let's say on your laptop, on your personal computer and most of us work with computers or laptops or even otherwise. How organized are we? And sometimes when you just look at the desktop of certain laptops or personal computers, it's like it's okay to get everything is there on the desktop. So we wonder how can this person actually access things when they require, maybe it's a Word file, maybe it's some picture, maybe it's some document that is required for the work. How can they access it? Or maybe if it's their emails, how are they going? Of course the search function has, it can definitely help. But if you actually organize it and categorize it and put it in certain slots, then it's even more efficient. So organizing things. So it works and in your area of work, in your area of ministry, simple things like, even personally if you look at your own wardrobe, where you put your things. Many times we actually search, where is that shirt, where is that socks? And it's all one big, one place, everything is there. And we spend a lot of time searching, we spend a lot of time searching for our keys, we spend a lot of time searching where our phone is, because we don't put it in a certain place. Recently we were searching for keys and actually my mother-in-law just stays opposite to where we stay. And so we decided, okay, this is where we're going to put, since she's old, we have a key to the apartment and whatever help, even if there's an emergency or anything, we can always let ourselves in. So it's very important that we have that key and we find that key. So then we decided, okay, this is where it is going to be. No matter what kind of hurry we are in, we will put that key. It's got a yellow key chain, so that yellow key, as we call it, has to be here all the time. It has to be there in that bowl with all those keys. So we know, we can immediately find it. So it's a simple thing. But if we overlook that, it can have consequences. For example, once she actually had a fall, she had a vertigo, kind of a disease spell and fell down and we had to go and intervene. So it had to be done immediately because she couldn't lift herself up. She is feeling weak and she couldn't lift herself up. So we had to find that key immediately. She couldn't open the door. We had to go. So you see, it's a very simple act. It's a very simple thing. But if we overlook that simple thing, it can have consequences. So also, many times we make fun of people who are organized. We make fun of people who are so regimented in their lives. Okay, I need to put this. Yeah, I know that there can be, you know, we can take things to a limit, right? Take things to one extreme limit. But having said that, you know, if we do this, it can make our life simple. It can make our life work a lot more productive. Okay, organized. Just look into your own life, your own, you know, area, work. What is it that needs to be organized? What is it that needs to be put together in certain batches? What is it that needs to be, you know, set in place, arranged in place? That will be that you know, you know, it's not like we did not know, right? Excuse me. We know that this will actually make things better. But our problem is we do not invest the time to make it organized. Because that's going to require time. Okay, and not just one time, but it's going to be, you know, from time to time. Frequently, you need to invest the time in order to make things organized, right? And also, we kind of tell our ministry, our worship teams, especially doing orientation, you know, don't search for your clothes Sunday morning. Make sure that that's one of the things that we're going to look at working ahead of time. Say, don't don't make that mistake Sunday morning, worship team, you're the first to go or the second team to be there. You know, after the setup and everything, the sound team is there, you need to be there for the sound check. So don't do not be searching for your clothes. Oh, where is this? I need to wear that. Oh, the button is missing. Oh, suddenly, oh, it's crushed. I need to iron it. Don't do that on a Sunday morning. You get it ready, maybe Friday or Saturday. So that Sunday morning, all you need to do is just take it and wear it and go. So when we organize our lives, organize our things, organize our time, then we can be efficient. And it can actually cut away a lot of frustration, a lot of frustration from the tasks that we do. So reuse for efficiency. So that's another thing. When we reuse certain things, we can be even more efficient. So for example, maybe pastors, you need to give certain letters, maybe you need to draft certain letters. Maybe a thank you letter, maybe a letter for reference for school admission or college admission. So if it's a Christian institution, they want to know what is your church affiliation, are you part of a church, etc. So there's a letter for that. Or maybe first, whatever, there are so many, there's so much of correspondence that is required. From a church kind of a setting, maybe people need letters for references for getting married. So you have all these things. So it helps if you have a template. So I have this template for those who ask for the church membership. They are members of the church and they've been members for such a long time, etc. And they either they for themselves or for their children when they are considering admissions. So I have a template. I don't have to go and start some scratch to whomever it may concern, etc. I have a template there and I just need to make changes. But make sure I just need to make sure that all the changes are done. It doesn't have the previous content over there. Maybe wedding bands announcing these two people are getting married in church. We have a template. So reuse that. Reuse that saves a lot of time. Maybe you're sending a welcome email, reuse it, but personalize it. So it doesn't feel like a form letter in which you send everybody personalize it, but you can reuse it. So personalizing it requires a very little time rather than starting from scratch. So you reuse things. What are some things that I can reuse? What are those routine routine tasks, routine processes that I have in place that I can actually reuse? Think of that. Okay. Working ahead of time. This is a big one. Some of us thrive on the 11th hour. If not for the 11th hour, like somebody said, none of these things would get done. Recently we were talking about how things work in an advertising agency. So this friend of ours was saying that even for a product launch, like some new phone launch, the timeline is very short in a sense. Sometimes it's five days, three days, and they're working on an ad film. A lot of things goes in at the shoot of that ad film, the models and everything. So they were saying how the music for that, sometimes they want original music and things to work. The jingle, the song for the ad product launch. So one of our other friends was saying, hey, sometimes they just give it in the evening and then say, and they ask, okay, when do you want it? And then they say, next morning, can I have it by 7 AM or 6 AM? You're giving it at 10 PM. So sometimes the realities, the deadline is like that, but we can always work ahead of time. When we know that, okay, if there are certain things coming up, we can work ahead of time. And I think some of the things we struggle in is, suppose somebody's birthday, somebody's anniversary, maybe in our family, friends, and you get invited and you're scrambling for gifts. The last minute, what do we give them this wedding? Well, we knew well in advance, but we didn't put in that time and effort to plan ahead. The last minute on the way, we are scrambling for some things and then we buy and say, oh, it doesn't, it's not good. I wish we had something better to give and so on. So working ahead of time always helps. And also when it comes to working ahead, this is a great help. And we put a time limit. Put a time limit and say, okay, for this task, it's not going to be 9 to 5, but it's going to be 9 to 10. Within this task, within this time, I'm going to finish it. Okay, try it. Like somebody said that the time within which you want to finish a task actually extends or expands to the closing time that you give. If you give yourself, let's say, I'm giving myself reasonably, reasonable time to do that. You can't be unreasonable in it. So with reasonable time to finish a task, let's say an hour and it requires some thinking, it requires some planning, and you give yourself an hour to finish it. If you give two hours to finish, well, you can stretch it for two hours. You would always, the task actually stretches to the deadline that you give it. So give it a reasonable limit and see how we work changes. So when you're thinking of tasks next time, you know, you have 10 things to do for each of those tasks. You know, you can either slot it, like we looked at Peter Bregman, the to-do list, which there may be six areas, looking at six areas, six core areas, and all these six core areas, you need some things to be done. You can actually have that, map it out, and each of those tasks, give it some time, time limit, saying that I need to finish it in 30 minutes and see how well you can do it. So where you end up doing it. So working ahead of time is that the fourth one is prioritizing. Okay, doing the most important work during our best time of day.  Is that 10 hours? Okay, 10 hours, okay, or eight hours, for example, nine to five, eight hours. There are some certain hours in a day when a person is highly productive. Okay, so you are very productive, you know that, and it differs from person to person, right? There are some times then that you are, some time of the day that you are very, very productive. You are sharper or alert, your energy levels are high, and do the, you know, that's the best working hour for you, right? Maybe it's not post lunch, but it's definitely, you know, those two hours or three hours before lunch, that's when you're, maybe that's how it is for you. Well, you know, do the best work, the most important work, right? That requires all of your energy and thinking and do it then, right? And also the important work and also the challenging work, the most challenging ones, which require a lot of energy, don't keep it for times when your energy levels are down, right? Okay, so those are some simple things where we can be efficient and do what you do best, delegate others, delegate the work to others who do it well, okay? So, so this is, you know, of course, if we have the luxury of a team, then we can do this. Where whatever we're doing best, whatever we are capable of or skilled to do, and we have got the information and got the learning to do it. But if you do not have expertise in a certain area, then you delegate it to others. You know, maybe, you know, sometimes you may not have the luxury of doing that, right?    But pretty soon, you can actually, you know, start things from the ground up, find faithful people, maybe it's one or two or three, we can delegate responsibilities, right? And especially when it comes to certain things which we are, you know, not so good at, right? Let's face it, you know, we are gifted in certain things and maybe, you know, the other person is more gifted, they are able to do things well, delegated to them. Don't completely cut off, but delegation would require supervision from time to time, so delegated. But you give the overall supervision direction, right? Like we saw when it comes to developing leaders, same way, you know, from time to time, supervise, give correction, give direction, delegate. Rest and refresh, rest and refresh for increased efficiency. Oh, before that, sorry. When it comes to delegation, what is, what you are required to do, you know, there's no one else to do that. Let's say you're the, you're the pastor and the preaching and teaching is done by you, you know, you are required to do that, right? So do that, right? What you must do, you do that and what others can do, delegate it, right? Maybe there are certain other tasks which others can actually do it, right? So find someone, train them, make sure that they have the equipment to carry out the job well and the skill to do it and delegate it to them, okay? But the main thing that you are required to do, do that and don't compromise on that. Don't delegate that part of it, right? The leading of the team and, you know, do that well and do it yourself. Rest and refresh for increased efficiency, okay? We all have a, you know, no one has unlimited energy throughout day in and day out.  Maybe you can, you're waking up early, staying up late, waking up early, staying up late. You know, we can do that for some time, maybe three days in a row, you can do it. But beyond that, you will realize that, you know, your work actually starts slipping, right? Because there's only so much energy, there's only so much you can focus and be alert and you can't do that all the time. So we need rest to refresh, we need rest to recharge. And rest is very important. You know, there's a whole lot on the theology of rest, right? And I think there's a message on rest as well. On the sermon series, you can check the ABC website and it'll be good, right? Okay, so rest and refresh, exercise to increase efficiency. Exercise, physical exercise. Very important. Physical exercise does so much. There is a release of, you know, adrenaline and endorphins. God has created our bodies such that whenever we exercise physically, there is, you know, our body actually gets revitalized and refreshed. So we do that and see the change, right? And many times we think exercise actually will drain us and we don't even attempt it. But if we want to see efficiency in our work, you know, you exercise, maybe not exercise to the point of, you know, just exhausting yourself, but, you know, so you'll be refreshed. Maybe it's some sport, right? Something that you can enjoy, you know, maybe it's a walk or a run. Something that just revitalizes you and you see the efficiency, right? You know, the alertness that happens. Okay, right. Okay, any questions here? Anything that you want to add on? What is your personal secret to efficient work? Anyone? In addition to what we saw, is there anything that you do personally that might help us? Anything at all? Anything additional faster? Sorry, what? I was saying nothing additional. Nothing additional, okay. Anything really good to remind us, yes, thank you. Okay, okay. Thanks, Paul. Thanks, John. Yeah. I mean, if there's anything, please do share, you know. It really helps us. Because these small things actually, it's like I'm always reminded of this dough hinge, right? Hinge is a very small, what do you call it, gadget, which you put on the dough, but it actually holds the weight of the dough and swings a huge dough. So these are quite important, right? Okay. Okay, let's move on. Maintaining personal strength, okay? Physically, spiritually, we need to maintain. Okay, so a lot of things happen at times of, a lot of mistakes, you know, people make mistakes as leaders. They're going through a season of exhaustion, right? That is when we let our judgment slip. We let our decisions and everything slip.  How did I, how on earth did I do that? How did I ever manage to say something like that, do something like that? Right?  It was at a low point, maybe emotionally. It was at a low point, maybe physically, right? You're feeling low and maybe there was some kind of a discouragement that happened and because of which you make certain choices there, which you're not proud of now. Okay? And the worst thing is this, that it has consequences. And when you're a leading and, you know, a spiritual leader, and there are people who are influenced by your leadership, who are in your realm of leadership and then everyone gets affected, right? So the important thing is to, for us to be renewed spiritually, for us to be renewed spiritually. And as we look at our strength, you know, physically and spiritually, and the thing is this that physical strength also influences our, our spiritually or lack of it, right?  We're not able to focus, you know, maybe we're not able to spend time in prayer. We're not able to read the word and so on. So these are connected. So we need to maintain our personal strength. It is our responsibility to maintain our strength. So do what it takes. Okay. Okay, let's look at this. Let's look at the scripture. I say 40, we know this. Have you not known? Have you not heard the everlasting God, the Lord, the creator of the ends of the earth? Neither feigns nor is weary. His understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the weak. And to those who have no might, he increases strength. Even the youth should faint and be weary. Shall faint and be weary. And the young men shall utterly fall. But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength. Verse 29, he gives power to the weak. And to those who have no might, he increases strength. So the key is this. He does not faint. He does not get weary. His understanding is unsearchable. Everything is limitless, infinite when it comes to the Lord. It does not reach an end. And he is the one who gives us of himself. And he gives power to the weak. He is infinitely powerful. He gives power to the weak.  So it comes from him. And that's why verse 31, those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength. So we cannot go on and on and on without our waiting on the Lord. So our waiting on the Lord has to be continual. It has to be daily. It has to be every moment our waiting on the Lord. And we cannot compromise on that. As verse 30 verse 15, Thus says the Lord, God, the Holy One of Israel, In returning and rest, you shall be saved in quietness and confidence shall be your strength. But you would not. In returning and rest, you shall be saved in quietness and confidence shall be your strength. So this time alone, of course, all of us know that. But just to reiterate, it is so important. It is so important for us as disciples, as believers in the Lord. And even more so as leaders. Even more so as leaders. Because there's a lot of influence. There's a lot of impact. And also the consequence for leaders. So even more so for leaders. So spending time with God is very, very important. And the Lord himself, when he appointed disciples, he said, So that they might be with him and that he might send them out. So that being with him is very important for us being sent out. Without that being with him, there is no sending out. And that sending out, again, depends on us being with him. So that's the thing. Second thing is to keep learning. There's a thing of progressive and continual growth. Keep learning, keep growing, keep reaching new levels as leaders. Because to the level to which we grow is to the level to which we can take others into. So it's an exciting journey. When we walk with the Lord, when we learn new things, when the Lord gives us new revelation, it is so that we might impart. Of course, first of all, it's for us personally that we might walk in it, and that we might impart to others that others might also come and walk in the reward or the fruit of that revelation. So that understanding that revelation of God, of his ways, actually gives us access to walk in it. And as we walk in it, we definitely experience the fruit of it. The reward of it, of walking in it. So the Lord wants us to, then there's so much. There's no limit. So we need to keep learning. And also, when it comes to other things, like practical things, like maybe new technology, maybe new skills, maybe new things that are happening, just to be aware and to learn new things and see how we can use it in our ministry, in our building bridges with people and so on. We know that the core thing is, of course, the Lord. We understand that these are all tools that we use. I'm talking about technology and other inventions, maybe new things, new discoveries. Yeah, these are just tools. But we also understand who is the one who makes transformation. Because of him, the lives are transformed. So there's no substitute for that. There is nothing that can substitute that. So that's the main thing. We understand that, but we need to keep learning, keep growing so that we can use everything else as tools. Interact with others who encourage and inspire. Take time to exercise and rest. Be thankful for everything that the Lord has done. Being thankful is a wonderful thing that we realize that there is so much that the Lord has done for us. There's so much that we have received from him. There's so much that he continues to bring into our lives. There's so much that he does. Many times we take things for granted. This is how it ought to be. This is how it is. But we realize that when the Lord is behind all that, the Lord is the source. Sorry. So let's be thankful. Let's have that attitude of being thankful, attitude of gratitude. Then lastly, keep the vision refreshed. It's also tied to our personal strength because it is possible. Like somebody said, vision leaks. We can get so encrossed in the details of what we are doing. Sometimes we could forget the big picture. What is it that we are actually doing? Why are we here? Why are we doing this? I mean, there is a possibility that that dims a bit. I won't say we will forget completely, but we did. That loses focus as we focus a lot on the tasks at hand. So refresh that vision. Step back. Take a few steps back and zoom out and look at the big picture and say, okay, this is why we are here. This is what we are doing. Now when we zoom in to the weekly, what we are supposed to do, suddenly there is a better clarity and there is a better way of doing things now. We can actually let go of certain things that are dead and not really contributing to the big picture, which are just draining our resources and we can put in better focus, effort at those things which enable us to move towards the big picture, like achieving the goals. Okay. The next, okay, so I hope there are no questions on that. If there are, you can ask and we are going to do another topic, which is leadership change, not just leadership change, but leadership continually. Any questions, anything? Yes, can I ask? Yeah, please. We were talking about working 10 hours and then at certain point of the day or certain period of the working hours, when someone is more effective at their certain time of the day, we are less affecting. Is it okay for a leader to take a time out during working hours and needs to rest for about an hour? Is it okay? Yeah, as long as it doesn't affect certain critical crucial tasks. You know, the thing is as a leader, and let's say I'm just thinking about a typical, let's say an organization where there are other teams and other leaders who are dependent on your input, right, on your guidance. And this one hour, if they are all going to be engaged and if they require your input, they are dependent on your input, then I would say we need to shift that one hour. You know, you need to have it at a time when others are not dependent on you. That one hour. Or you can definitely have an understanding between this time and this time. I would not like to be disturbed.  So they understand that okay, this time, we don't have to approach. Because other tasks also would require your input. Their decisions would depend on your decision, maybe. And they need to decide certain things, important things. And as long as you make it known, you communicate it in advancing, this time of day, I'm not going to be available. So then everybody understands. And then it's fine. You can take that time for rest or refreshing, whatever. You know, go for a walk, maybe during a lunch break. And yeah, that's absolutely fine. I hope that helps. Yeah, thank you, Pastor. Okay. Okay, so we're looking at leadership continuity, which is, you know, just like in a relay race, we see that, okay. There's a passing of the baton, right? Baton or baton, however you call it. There's a passing, you know, the one running at full steam. There's a passing of the baton. The person running behind takes the baton and runs ahead. And it's a race, right? So in leadership of ministry, this is what Pastor mentioned many years ago. Success in ministry is incomplete. If you do not raise successors, okay.  But if you, you know, when you say a ministry is going on, right, it's continuing on to do the good work, to continuing to influence and impact people, then we need to raise up successors, those who will carry the work, okay. So the other thing that you also mentioned was the day you begin any ministry, is the day you should start planning your departure.  So all that, right. So it takes time. It takes a little bit of, you know, a fair amount of working together and being there and journeying together. So if we are not allowed that to happen, it cannot happen overnight. So that's why, you know, the day we begin is the day we actually start planning. The day that I'm not there, it's not a, you know, it's not a negative thing. It's like, it's not a morbid thing, okay. But it's a very important thing to think about, you know, and not be uncomfortable with the day. So we understand that one day, or, you know, after many decades, whatever it is, but one that day will come, okay. The day we cannot escape, that day will come when we need to pass on from here, right. No, escaping that reality. Well, definitely God does want on, want us to pass on what we have received to the next generation so that, you know, before he comes, or till he comes, this good work does not stop, right. We continue on with the commission, reaching people, discipling nations, you know, different people, groups, everything. So this does not stop with us, or never meant it to stop with us, you know. This is what we see in Psalms 71-17, where Psalms says, oh God, you have taught me from my youth, and to this day I declare your wondrous works. Now, also, when I'm old and grey-haired, O Lord, do not forsake me until I declare your strength to this generation, your power to everyone who is to come. So he's talking about this generation and the generation to come, right. So what is he saying? Lord, I want to declare your strength.  And the Psalmist, you know, he's old. He has seen much, he has learnt much, he's old, he's grey-haired, but his desire is still, Lord, I want to declare to this generation and to the one that is to come, right, to everyone who is to come. They're not there on the scene yet, but to that, for the one who is to come also, I'd like to, you know, declare that. So the thing is what, a couple of things we understand that as us as leaders and ministers, this should be our perspective. So we do everything possible to pass on. So either by personal example, precept one-on-one, there's so much you can do, right. You can do it for this generation, maybe. But the generation that is to come, there has to be ways of maybe, you know, preserving what the Lord has done in you through you, preserving that so that that can be passed on. And of course, you know, we have technology to enable us to do that, right. Either audio, video, books, whatever, right. So whatever revelation, understanding God has given to pass on to the next generation as well, okay. So that is why, you know, we can, you know, from that scripture we understand that yes, we can actually raise up, pass on two generations, the one which is ahead, just be ahead, which is to come, and the one which is the present generation, okay. Second Timothy chapter two verses one and two, you therefore my son be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus. And the things that you've heard from me among many witnesses, commit these two faithful men who will be able to teach others also. The same thing like Paul is telling Timothy. He's saying, you know, whatever you've heard from me, now let it not just stay with you, but you teach to others. Okay, commit these, which means there is a, you know, there is a, I mean, it's careful handling and handing over, okay. Handing over, so you're committing, committing these two who, you know, people who are faithful and also who have the ability to do the same thing to others, right, who will be able to come at and hand over to others, who will be able to teach others also, right. So again, there we see the generation to generation, the perpetuating of what God has done in us till he comes again, of course, right. So for that, there needs to be certain things, you know, impartation of vision, the big picture, right, what drives the whole thing, impartation of vision, impartation of values, the things that we esteem highly, the culture, right. So when it comes to values and culture, of course, there's so much we can instruct. There's also some things that can be imparted, things that are caught, right, just by being there. And by interacting. These are, yeah, some, you know, a question. Somebody put a hand up. So how do you want to ask a question? Okay. Yeah, so these are some intangibles, right, when it comes to culture and these are things that are observed, these are things that are received. Okay. Is it ribby? You raised your hand. Do you have a question? So I'm not able to hear anything. I don't know if you're trying to ask a question. Okay. If it was a mistake, I guess we'll ignore that. But if you want, you can put it on the chat as well. I'm not able to hear. Since your mic is not unmuted. Okay. So impartation of vision, values and culture. Okay. Providing direction pointing the way ahead. You know, we saw that as we are grooming the next generation. And then also at, you know, at a stage where we say it's a, it's a stage of, you know, going past the growth stage, then starting to step aside so that the one who is being nurtured can step into that role. So, so this does not happen overnight. So the thing is to pray and, you know, plan ahead and see, okay, who can and always be open to the Lord to whom he may bring in and, you know, connect to the ministry, to the vision so that they can walk alongside and receive all this. So, so raising the next generation, of course, it's in the Kingdom Builders book by Pastor Ashish. There's a whole lot of information there so you can go through that and, you know, and I think the, the Paul and Timothy relationship is also a very, very useful, you know, study, which is also there, right, in Kingdom Builders. So, yeah, you could do that. Okay, so the next thing is about our life plan. So we're looking at, you know, it's, when we say plan, we looked at what a plan is, it's a series of steps, what needs to be done ahead, what needs to be done in the future. So when you look at a life plan, we are looking at, okay, personally, you know, we're not looking at planning for, you know, it could be planning for the ministry, planning for the organization, but also, you know, us as ministers, as a person, as a leader, what does God have in store? Okay, now, or what is it that God, the desire that God has put in your heart to do, and we plan ahead, and we say, okay, God, maybe it can be, you know, four years, five years, or blocks of four years, or blocks of five years, blocks of 10 years even, right? Saying, okay, God, in the next four years, in the next five years, this is what I want to see happen, or this is what I sense, the direction that you're leading me. And then, you know, put it together, and do it in a prayerful manner, right? We are, like any plan, maybe a loving God to really lead us in this whole planning process, right? We are involving him in the planning process. It's not without him, we are involving him, and also, we know that it can actually undergo change, undergo, so it can be refined over a period of time. That's fine, but then we need to have that, that plan in place. It helps to have that plan in place, right?  I feel that desire and thank God, so you know, you move in step with it, at the end of the second year, at the end of the third year, we are praying and persevering into the things that we want to get things done, you know, in our lives. And so, we'll get into the details of it in our next class, where we look at, this is something that we studied in our Sunday services also, right? Sunday sermon, when we started off in the month of Jan, so we will look at that in detail. I'll also share the link of the Sunday sermon, I'll put it on the screen so that you can listen to it and come and watch the sermon, and then we can meet, when we meet in our next class, we can talk about that, right? Okay, so we'll stop here, and then we'll pick it up next class. Thank you so much, God bless. God bless. Right, God bless.


Hello and welcome to NewsClick. Today we are going to discuss about the disability bill that has been recently passed in the parliament to discuss the issue we have with us, Murli Dharan, who is Secretary of National Platform for Rights of Disabled. So, welcome to NewsClick. Thank you. This bill has been passed in the parliament and it has been result of a long struggle that has been carried out by different disability rights organizations, activists. So, what are the provisions of this bill and how is it going to benefit people? Bill is actually in compliance to a convention that India has signed actually. We call United Nations Convention on Rights of Person Disabilities. The UNCRPD mandates once you sign a sign a international convention, UN convention, it is mandatory, it is obligatory on any signing country to harmonize its law in accordance with the convention that we have signed. It is to comply with this international obligation that this law has actually been, bill has actually been drafted and brought forward. So, India signed, India was one of the first countries to actually sign and ratify this treaty. Which year? 2007 actually. But it actually took now nearly. Almost a decade now. Almost a decade to actually get a lock pass to the country. This actually process began in 2009 actually. But 2012 a draft bill was brought about, there were problems with the draft and all that. 2014 actually February, the first bill was introduced in the in the in the rest of actually. Actually, UPA government was on its way out at that time and the bill was introduced. There were several issues with the bill which several concerns about the bill and we were not in total agreement with the bill. So, we had asked at that time, we had demanded rather at that time that this bill should not be passed in this form and it should be sent to a parliamentary standing committee. And the demand actually though we had raised it from outside, it was supported Sitaramachary from the CPM actually had raised this issue in the Lok Sabha and had demanded that admission to the standing committee. The chair agreed that it was sent to the standing committee. But 2000 May, 2015 the standing committee submitted its report to the to the new government. From May 2015 actually we have been asking demanding from the government that they bring in a bring in amendments or an action taken report based on the recommendation made by the standing committee and the concerns expressed by it. So, again this August at our central executive meeting we have decided that we should unless we exert more pressure on the government nothing is going to happen. So, again we started a campaign began a signature campaign then had state level demonstrations and mobilizations again it culminated in a rally in Jantar Mantra again this year also. December 3 is actually celebrated as international day of persons with disabilities but we were not celebrating either last year or this year actually but before December 3 actually December 2 on December 2 we came to know that actually a day before that the government had announced through a PIB release that the union cabinet has finalized certain amendments that is going to move it on December 2. So, we are cautious on December 3 because what the government is going to bring we don't know some announcements had been made some of them were actually positive in nature. Positive in the nature in the senses some of our concerns were addressed in the amendments that the government was going to bring about negative in the nature because some of the progressive things that were spelled out there were part of the 2014 bill were diluted. What are the positive aspects he asked me I would say see there was no definition about discrimination in the bill what constitute discrimination of the grounds of disability was not part of the bill that has been that has actually been introduced as an amendment this was one of our demands that we had raised and also the definition as well as what constitute disability has also been a bit more widened now as compared to the original bill this is one and there are more in the sense that you see what do you say sign language has been as a language has been recognized and the communication business video video video and audio the those things have been recognized now so there are there is and captioning TV captioning has been made mandatory now sign language things have been made mandatory now so all these things were not part of the original bill which have come in the form of amendments now which are welcome but at the same time the cons there are two major one major concern that we had actually talked about that this clause 3.3 which says that which is which says that a person with disability can be discriminated against if there is a legitimate ground for that to if it is to achieve a legitimate aim it is achieve a legitimate aim we had said this is an anti-discriminatory legislation you can't have a clause which legitimizes discrimination exactly this was one of our main contention or main concerns against the bill for which we said this cannot be passed in this form as it is this amendment that the government had brought official amendment that came to this bill was did not address that concern adequately instead of appropriate means they said it is proportional means actually not this actually does not alter the formulation in any any substantive manner so we asked for a we've is stuck to over this thing that this should also be this should be deleted this is where cpm MPs have actually helped us in parliament also they moved specific amendments asking for the deletion of this clause on our request the minister sitara maturi had raised it kk dargesh and cp Narayan had raised had moved specific amendments for deletion of this clause on the basis of the discussion on the basis of this amendment the minister the minister actually while replying to the discussion said that he will see to it that in the room while the rooms rules are being framed this taken this thing will be taken care of and it will be so done that it would not be to the disadvantage of the disabled that was a good assurance that was given the parliament and again when chair also said that minister cannot take go back on his assurance that was something one of the good thing second concern we had one of one of the second more major concern we had was about what we call employment section actually the employment currently there is a reservation of three percent after the 1995 act but this in this their provision original pool had a provision for five percent it has been reduced now through amendments this percentage of reservations has been reduced to three percent four percent sorry four percent the number of disabilities that are covered have risen from nine to from seven to 21 now okay so 14 new disabilities have been averaged while the criteria for reservation has been reduced percentage of the reservation has been reduced it's not I'm not saying that all of them are going to get reservation no one of them are not going to get reservation but even even other ways the scope has has been an ambit has been widened so you need to have a proportionally higher number of percentages to address this issue instead of doing that what you've done you've just added one percent to it which is reduced one percent from the existing five percent that has been proposed by the by the this thing existing is three percent what was proposed was five percent now it has been reduced to four percent this is one thing but second thing is much more dangerous thing what we felt out is there is a provision which says that this would be in post meant to be filled by persons disabilities see the earlier existing act also 95 act there was a provision which was misinterpreted by enforcement age by government or various state governments to see that reservations are given to disabled persons only in post that are identified for them see disabled are not employed or reservations are not against all posts all posts are not open for persons with disabilities there are categories or posts that are identified in which these disabled people are recruited so once you say identified it will be only on those posts they are given so it's it's also a more limited scope in yes it is open to misinterpretation so we had sent this clause that meant to be reserved for persons with disabilities should be deleted the same again CP MPs had moved the same amendment and our minister has given an assurance on that also to see that rules are framed in such a manner that that misinterpretation is not there the government signed the UN convention in 2007 was there no bill at all before 2007 or there were such similar bills or the bill of 95 which proposed reservation so I mean can you throw some light on that both internationally and in our country as well are the most marginalized sections of society India especially and of course in the west in Europe etc you can find disabled moving around the city like others like other other humans actually because through wheelchair it's much more accessible in the west in our country it's not that that much accessibility is still being discussed leave aside the implementation still being discussed now now you have the government coming up with an accessible India campaign a lot now now they're actually and its focus also on major cities cities like Delhi or metros and all cities we're not talking about going to the rural areas where the much of the disabled population lives that's that's a different issue but still I'm just trying to so 48 years after independence only you had a law no right until 1995 you had no law that would address some concerns of this of course you had the rehabilitation council of India act or there are actually four legislations that govern the disabled of the country 95 only this this act came into being so before that there was no talk of disability anywhere this is also come about because of some international pressure some local movement building up and all that you see if you talk about the constitution you see the in the constitution there are article 15 1 and article 16 2 talk about grounds on which discrimination is prohibited prohibited grounds of discrimination discrimination is prohibited on the grounds of caste on the grounds of religion on the grounds of language on the grounds of sex various other things but disability is not talked about in those so we have been from the right since our inception what we have been talking about is this this should be an amendment that should be moved to the constitution to make discrimination on the grounds of disability also prohibited you've talked about continuously how the member of parliament from the left organization specifically cpm have contributed in pushing this bill in the parliament but have they have been involved has there been involvement of any other political organization in your entire movement see disability as I said you see disability is still I said people are marginalized this is this is not an issue for most of the mainstream political parties the left especially the cpm has been taking up this issue in a serious and a concerted manner I'm going to talk to you so last three party congresses of cpm actually have adopted resolutions adopted resolutions on one issue or the other of talking about disability no other political party has actually talked about even talked about disability research if you go through the discussion the raj sabha you will find actually both the ruling party and the congress were for passing of the bill without any discussions they didn't want to move amendments either in the raj sabha there were actually all the amendments major amendments or substantive amendments were moved by cpm and peace the congress of sub-democracy made some made some amendments which were up which he didn't move also he didn't press for moving those amendments also just mentioned but that we're not substantive in nature as far as my this thing my reading goes so left has been serious support serious about this issue as it has been about other social issues as if we talk about your organization national platform for rights of disabled when was it formed can you throw some light on what was the need to bring this organization and how did it develop we felt the need actually there is a huge gap in terms of movement as far as disabled accounts there are thousands of organizations working in the country among disabled small small organizations most of them are most of them do is actually service delivery some do advocacy also but there there are NGOs actually there's not one problem between service service delivery and advocacy also some of them being but they are not membership based organizations they do not actually represent the whole movement as such some are specific disability specific specific disability like for the blind like the deaf or like that and they're not possible there are cross disability organizations also but they're small in terms of membership or the mobilization capacity is concerned so there was a huge gap at the national level to do advocacy and to bring pressure on the government to change in due policy interventions also we need to we needed to fill that gap and to also take this movement in a right direction actually we need to give a policy direction in a right direction to this movement so we felt the need we formed we came together at a convention Calcutta in 2010 we formed a representation from 10 states came and then we formed this platform for the national level out of formation of the platform of this national level we started building units in the states in many of the states now we have units in 14 different states and many of them who are not associated with us have no link with us or movements are now wanting to become affiliates of this platform or are applying for being become affiliates of this platform so with one step achieved what's the way forward what's what are your next plans and I mean what's the way ahead to take this entire bill so that I mean I've read the press statements so that the promises made are actually implemented on the ground first thing will be to see whether the other concerns can be addressed or not the assurance that the ministry has given in parliament through the MPs we would like to see that those are actually in whatever manner it comes in the rules he has said so we will have to keep a watch on how the rules are framed second thing is implementation is going to be a huge task even this 95 act only with seven disabilities one of the major things that we have been actually raising is about certification the certificate is a basic document for any entitlement the disabled has to get exactly but we do we distribute the census figures we say it is not it has not been a right counting even if you go by the UN standards or WHO standards it has not been a right counting it is an under counting even but even if you say that take the 2011 census as a correct figure even by those standards what the ministry says the annual report of 15 15 16 ministry of social justice department disabled FSA is there only 49.5 percent of disabled population identified with the 2011 census have been issued certificate so the majority of the of the disabled population or if you say 50 percent of disabled population do not possess certificates so all entitlements whether it be in the field for education employment or other concessions like rail travel or whatever the government has in schemes he is not entitled to he cannot even file a case under the act unless he has a certificate so all these things is deprived of now you have a huge task from 7th disabilities you have increased 21 who is going to certify them thanks a lot for giving us your time and as things proceed we'll be coming back to you on such issues thank you for watching news click


Hi everyone, Joe for Jaspy's casebreaks.com coming at you with our last filler for the Diamond Dozen Volume 2 Break 1. But first we gotta do that capstone break and then we'll do that randomizer. Big thanks to this group for making it happen. Appreciate ya. There are the teams right there. Let's roll it. Let's randomize names and teams two and a four, six times. Yeah, I would, did you, did you see, did you watch the video? I was yelling, Gilo, wake up! Two and a four, six times, one, two, three, four, five, six. I had figured. You got Jimmy, Dan, Jeremy, two and a four, six times, two different dice will for the giveaway part as always. Next Diamond Doesn't Break in the store right now, plus the fillers if you want to get in on it. Alright, so after six we got Yankees down to Marlene's. Alright, there's the first half of the list right here and the second half of the list right there. Yeah, I mean I should have been, I should have told everyone else to mute for like 10 seconds while I just, well I banged on the bell, try to get you to wake up. Alright, so this is a full box of capstone so I suppose there could be some surprises here. Here's the final printout. Hot off the presses. No trade, no trades in these filler breaks right here. The Diamond Doesn't coming up in the very next video. Alright, good luck everybody. We've got some baseball on the background here. Minnesota is in Boston. It's like sunny gray on the mound facing Jaren Duran Duran who's one for one on the day. Bottom of the fourth, Red Sox have a runner on second. Red Sox are up 1-0. Let me gray gets a ground out, runner moves to third. Most of the games haven't really gotten under, haven't gotten finished yet. I think there was an early Guardian Tigers game, Tigers 1-1-0. Philly's White Sox, Philly's beat the White Sox having 4 and then the second game of the doubleheader, Tigers hooping the doubleheader at 4-3. Oh, fourth game of the first game, 1-0 in the second game. Philly's White Sox team is also a doubleheader. The second one in progress, White Sox up 3-0 in the top of the third. Yeah, Angels Yankees this week. That seems to be the big thing that MLB Network is pushing. Otani versus Judge Week, trout not even in the conversation. What disrespect to Mike Trout. There is Seiya Suzuki, Capstone autograph for Jimmy and the Cubs. Hunter Green in the news today, got a nice little extension from the Reds. Seemed to be a little team friendly considering his ceiling. But hey, Hunter Green is locked in, doesn't have to worry about contracts. Can just focus on baseball for the next handful of years. There's Han Kraus for Philly, that'll be for Craig. There is Gavin Sheets, Duel Relic, White Sox, John McGee. And we've got Matt Manning for the Tigers. Autograph going to Tristan in Detroit. And there's a rookie Julio Rodriguez for Air Clicks and the Mariners. All right, what, Hunter Green, did he get hit by a line drive? Yeah, maybe not do that. We met Hunter Green at a Tops event way back when he's a local kid in the LA area. All right, so that's the break. Now let's see who's going to get into the next break. The diamond doesn't. So new dice, new lists. And it will be the top eight after four and a one, five times. One, two, three, four, and a one, fifth and final time. So it's going to be the top eight, so from nine on down. Sorry, Tristan. Very close, but just not quite. Nine through 30, thanks for taking the risk. Now we've got eight more of these diamond dozen cases. Nine cases total, so plenty of other opportunities to try to make your way in via filler. All right, top eight, congrats to you. You're in the break. Douglas is happy. So is Jeremy Tristan, you're in Tristan. John, Jimmy, Edward, Craig, and Victor. Congrats to the top eight. We'll see you in the next video. The diamond dozen, Jaspy's caseworks.com.


You've had to work through a couple of different things throughout the course of this year. It seems like you went down earlier with an injury. How did you try and get through that and how frustrating is that that continues to happen? I think it was a thing at the moment, it felt worse than it actually was. And so I was able to kind of get up and walk it off.   I'd like, I guess, your performance, you're pretty active on it. I know it's probably a couple of you would have closed the deal a little bit overall. How good did it feel to kind of be back and tributing and kind of feel like yourself again a little bit? I mean, definitely felt good to be back on the field. Like you said, I left a couple of them out there that I wish I had back. But, you know, I was able to contribute a little bit to keep the game. You know, just, I was just happy to be out there. What was maybe frustration level like already had a lot of chances? Had to set up a field goals and have to score some length. If you feel like maybe the shortcomings already came back to haunt you? It definitely did. We should have, we should have executed more in the red zone. I think ultimately that was our biggest problem right there. A lot of three points. We needed the six ultimately when it came down to it. And I mean, that's what it was. And heading into OT, did you feel good about where you were closed regulation with the scoring drive? What was it feeling like on the huddle as you took the field for the final quarter or overtime, I should say? I mean, I could say that that I didn't I didn't get the feeling that we were out of the game any time at any point in the game. So, you know, over time, my new defense was going to come in clutch for us. All we had to do was was do our thing on offense. A couple penalties brought us back and that was that was the story. These hurt more than maybe we want to get to Arizona where we're close.  I can tell you any any game that you lose, it hurts it hurts.


Hey guys, so I wanted to do a kind of video. I don't really do that much and that is hardware reviews Well, at least the hardware reviews of things that have been made in the past eight years or so But I got this webcam a couple days ago and or well, I guess I've had it a week or so and my Feelings on it are so positive that I sort of wanted to do a little video on it So this thing here is a Logitech HD webcam. It is a hold on C920 I don't know if you can read that but I had to write it in my hand But you know the model number isn't super important because other Logitech webcams are pretty similar I got this thing because I wanted to I wanted a decent quality webcam to record on my computer And this thing is actually blown away my expectations So if you're someone who say is you know looking for something to ask for Christmas I mean, I want to do this video before Christmas, of course And you want to get your mommy to get you something because you have delusions of being a YouTube Star this might be the best thing and it'll I bought this for about 50 bucks I think that's par for the course. I think it's definitely worth it So anyway, this thing, you know when I first got it. Well, let's just look at features So as you can see it sort of folds out You can have it just on a desk or something like that one thing I was originally worried about is It's ability to clip on different laptops and screens, but the design here is actually extremely good And it's very sturdy. I mean you can't feel it, but like it's it's very sturdy So pretty much can go on any laptop. I've run into or screen Pretty snugly. You just unfold it in whatever way is best and it's I don't know it doesn't really move that much It's a nice nice quality design in terms of that so this is an HD webcam and I guess originally I wanted to sort of use this in a couple of screencasts and stuff Maybe take pictures with it just different stuff like that And I've used it a couple times and it's already been great, but I should give some caveats Well, let me say this first It does work out of the box on Windows and Mac and Linux and Linux is of course what I'm running It does work on totally free Linux distribution So if you have you know, whatever the parabola or trisk will or something it should work fine You shouldn't have to install anything You just get it out at the dev folder and that's fine So I've been using this thing and it's pretty convenient for that But there are also some like added perks that I guess I didn't expect well actually let me let me do the bad stuff first Well, which isn't really bad considering 50 bucks is you know, not that much. I will say And this might not be a fault of the webcam camera might be my fault, but I've had a little trouble I mean when I use this thing usually I use the what 640 by 480 or whatever like that a lower Resolution because I usually have the the camera like in a side of my screen when I'm recording something So I don't usually use the HD You know webcam resolution But I have tried using it and I will say on my machines. It's a little stuttery I don't know if that's just because keep in mind. I do use computers that are around 10 years old They take a while to you know You know do rendering and stuff like that So it might not be the fault of the webcam, so I don't really want to detract points from that It can very easily. I still can take a video that's sped up over You know in HD quality and should be fine But you know, it might just be my I don't quite know how webcams work on Linux But besides the resolution it works out of the box like if you're using Linux You can just run MPV on dev video zero and this thing's gonna pop out Albeit not at the HD resolution at a more manageable one so in terms of perks There are a lot nice little things for example We got a tripod mount so I can mount this thing on the tripod I'm recording this on right now And use it so that is very convenient Additionally one of the huge benefits and this is one of the reasons I actually ended up liking this thing a lot is I didn't expect it to actually have a microphone and if it had a microphone I didn't expect it to actually be good So I use one of those enormous blue yeti's to record audio actually let me show you what it looks like Yeah, this thing so I use this to record audio in my videos And I think you know, it's a decent quality product You know, you can change the volume got a couple settings and how it picks up audio It's a really nice thing and it picks up good, you know good sound I guess so I do use this for my videos and I've been using it really since I started my youtube channel This was around a hundred bucks. I might do a video on this later But I will say I was I was not expecting So I'll go ahead and say the quality of the audio of this is less than the blue yeti But it is not noticeably less in most circumstances So if I'm just recording on the screen, this thing works pretty much as well as the blue yeti In fact, there have been a couple times when I was just recording and I didn't realize my computer was recording off This rather than the yeti and I didn't really notice it. I had to think about it Now if you play the sound from the blue yeti in this back You know right next to each other. You will notice the blue yeti's is noticeably crisper But depending on the acoustics of your room and you know depending how you know I'll say if you have a decent room with decent acoustics This thing is going to work just as well and of course as I said before this thing was 50 bucks So this thing was a hundred bucks So if you want to just like start screen casting or something or start making videos This thing is probably this is definitely sufficient just this 50 bucks bucks investment is enough That's not to say I don't recommend You know other audio quality, you know higher audio quality stuff, but yeah, this is pretty much good enough So that's one of the reasons I really like this thing So I'm gonna be going on vacation over December and some of January and when I do I used to Lug this thing around everywhere. I went through airport security and stuff like that, but I'm not gonna do that this time I'm just gonna take this and we're just gonna record video on that and Audio included and hopefully that'll be fine. I definitely think it will be um, so anyway, this has been the Logitech I gotta look it up again. Hold on C920. There are later versions of this There are earlier ones, so you might want to check those out as well But I I recommend this the only fault I said might not be you know the issue of the webcam itself It might just be I don't know exactly how to if you guys know how to do web camming on Linux and get The resolution you want at the frame rate you want just tell me in the video description I'm sure some of my Subscribers know but actually it's pretty sufficient for what I'm doing if I just use the base resolution and that works fine for me So aside from that pretty crisp video and audio I'm actually really surprised about this So you might want to actually check it out and get one for yourself if you have again If you have delusions of being some kind of YouTube star, so anyway, that's about it