God oh my god oh my god oh my god who could have focused who could have planned if I tried to pay a million dollars I could not have planned for a better two or three weeks all culminating with today culminating with today it's all over social media all over Insta Twitter facegram you book it's everywhere political pundit conservative commentator Tommy Lauren has gone viral with the video that she made on Instagram and for good reason if you guys haven't seen it it's pretty that gum and it's pretty it's pretty it's pretty amazing I would just put it that way it's pretty amazing and you see the title of the video I said Tommy Lauren has something to teach black women you need to listen to this black women yes you need to listen to Tommy Lauren but before we get into this thank you to all the moderators thank you to all the Patreons thank you to everybody that makes this channel possible yes talking about get a Red Bull sponsorship who know fragrance of the night Baccarat 540 extract the perfume in the Baccarat crystal oh oh oh oh oh oh but let's get into it let me go ahead and pop this chat box out over here because it's hard to see it over there moderators I can't really see what's going on in the chat room when we get over if we get over 2,000 people tonight I'll go ahead and switch it to slow chat move because it starts to move too fast but tonight we're gonna get into it man Tommy Lauren has got something to teach black women now I know some women are probably gonna already be upset because they're like who is Tommy Lauren who is Tommy Lauren who is Tommy Lauren this is Tommy Lauren and all her blonde hair hazel eyes or whatever that's Miss Tommy Lauren we're gonna put her right over there so she and all up in my candles this woman right here has something to teach black women I have been trying to do my best talking about you know trying to find out what men want you know men that are out there trying to become high value trying to become either blue Henry or Blake Henry or a hit squad trying to get out there become the best version of themselves getting the top 10% of all men masters of the universe that kind of thing and then the top 20% of women who are really tend to be drawn and attracted to that group of men you know it's far easier for it's far easier to communicate a direct message to a man as simple as that it's far easier to do that it's it's not crazy to say or to understand it some people have said you know like Rebecca and Pope why she no longer match makes for women color some of women's unrealistic standards my computer's running a little slow guy so I gotta try to get caught up over here a lot of women's unrealistic standards in today's dating scene and that really ticked quite a few women off because well it just did it simply did it simply did it simply did it simply did so instead of going back and forth back and forth with a bunch of people that I really don't know that you don't know I just say let's get into it let's get into the content and let's see what Tommy Lauren has to teach black women here we go here we go here we go here we go hold on to your hats this is gonna be a barn burner let's see can we get her she already talking yet are we doing tonight people nope it's not coming through yet let me start this again you build it as we fly baby won't you know that's what it is give me a second guys it's storming up with it is it is raining really hard down here in hot Lana too so if it goes out or something you know what you need to do just hit refresh and we'll keep it moving I'm gonna let you guys trickle in before I start talking because this is important did you guys get the notification so waiting for you guys to get here so normally I do final thoughts and I do Instagram lives and I do rants about politics and there's plenty to talk about politics right now do it every day it's a great time but something as of recently has been on my mind and I consider myself a teacher a helper someone who could possibly inspire people to be better so with that being said this is a PSA for all the men out there and all the boys who think they're men but they're actually boys this is gonna be the summer of canceling boys now from my own personal experiences and the experiences of all of my friends which range in age from 24 to 36 we've all got issues now I will also say this all of my friends are attractive all of my friends are successful all of my friends have something going on almost every single one of them have an issue with men and you have to start looking at that and thinking if an age range of that many people including myself living really all over the country and being blonde brunette short hair long hair I mean tan super white super panty these women range in every body type and every everything they're all successful they're all intelligent they're all good people but if all of these women including myself are having issues then I have to think it might not be us it might be you it might be men it might be men now I've often talked about the pacification of America and how men are no longer men I talked to my mom about this a lot and she says well maybe it's just the guys in Texas maybe it's just the guys in Los Angeles maybe it's just the guys just it is not just the guys in Los Angeles Nashville Dallas and it's not they're not any better in the Midwest they quite frankly I think they're trash all over this country and the age range of about 20 to I think about 55 maybe even 60 a lot of men are trash a lot of men don't how to treat women a lot of men don't know how to really quite frankly pull their heads out of the sand and pay attention so I am going to help you and these are some of the things that I've experienced and these are some of the things my friends have experienced I again I'm just gonna lay a few things out they haven't all happened to me some of them have just happened to my friends a lot of them have happened to me so the first thing and I've made notes by the way I've made notes this is how invested I am in this because I've been thinking about this for about two weeks solid now first question for men if you like a girl if you're even somewhat interested in a girl you need to ask yourself this question are you single no I don't mean are you kind of single seeing five people dating somebody still kind of in a relationship kind of broken up kind of on again off again kind of married kind of divorced are you actually single single that means single you have nobody you have no complications you have no attachments you are actually single that is the first question believe it or not that needs to be asked and ladies you should be asking it because in 2020 it's not a given anymore that a guy that's actively pursuing you is actually single so that's the first thing the second thing that I think is very important that men don't seem to understand there are very few women out there and I'm speaking from personal experience as well as from all of my friends and all the women quite frankly that I talked to there is not a woman out there that wants to be your pen pal she doesn't want to get your texts your good morning texts your good night texts your random through the day texts if they don't follow up with a plan to actually here's the kicker in person hang out now I know you're saying oh it's COVID people can't hang out in person this has not been a four month problem this has been a five year problem that I've experienced with men and my friends have experienced with men women do not want a pen pal we don't want a texting pal we quite frankly don't care if you text us all day or if you don't text us at all if you're not going to make a plan to actually see us in person not interested and if you do have a woman out there that just wants to be your pen pal it's probably because she has a boyfriend or a husband or a wife or whatever we don't want to pen pal would that also please me to my second point this is me backwards for you guys make plans make a plan not assume that you can text somebody randomly in the middle of the day what are you doing or text them at midnight or what I am or 2 a.m. or even just within hours of when you actually want to see them and think that they're going to be available I personally once I get home and I take my makeup off and I'm watching TV I'm no longer interested so if you didn't make a plan earlier in the day or better yet a day or two or three in advance I'm not interested I don't want to hang out anymore because that shit has sailed make a plan I want to hang out with you at this time it doesn't have to even be a date I want to see you at this time are you free at this time or when are you free I will accommodate my schedule to see you when are you free I want to see you I know it's not rocket science but men of 2020 it seems like it's pretty difficult for you to figure out and I'm not a feminist so please don't take this as a feminist rant I love men I think men are great I think men have failed themselves and they've failed us and I'm just trying to help you out because I think there are a lot of really great guys out there who need a little help and I don't think that there are a lot of women that are stepping up and saying these things and I swear to God quite frankly I don't think that there are a lot of women that aren't raging feminists that don't look like Lena Dunham they're saying these things to you so I'm gonna go ahead and say them because I need to be sad I am really so sick of my friends having to deal with trash men I am tired of dealing with trash men so I'm gonna help you out make plans so let's go through these lists again because I know y'all love a list number one are you single number two make a plan nobody wants a pen pal we want to actually see you if not don't text us because it's a waste of our time and we don't want to see it on our phones got it all right next thing value value okay value value take that in just repeat it to yourself until it makes sense okay if you want to date a girl that has nothing going on then that's fine but please do not mix in people like me and my friends who have something going on with your other girls that have nothing going on and by nothing going on I mean this I don't there is no job that is unimportant there is no job that's not valuable or that's not worthy it is but if you want to mix in people like me and people like my friends who are go-getters who work really hard who make their own money who are talented skilled ambitious please don't mix us in with the Tatiana's we don't want to be there if that's what you want find them please for the love of God do not mix us in with them because we don't want to be there and quite frankly we take it as an insult if we find out that you are also talking to five thoughts he honest who have nothing going on people like me and my friends are going to be insulted by that and there's almost really no coming back from it so if you want that kind of a girl the kind of girl who's just kind of happy going through the motion you tell me not really super ambitious hasn't really found herself yet doesn't really have a whole lot going on other than she's pretty please just go after them and please do not mix us in we don't want to be there I promise you so value value there's a lot of women out there that I know that are my good friends who have amazing jobs who work really hard but who can't seem to find a decent guy even if they go up in age 5 to 10 to 15 years because those guys want to be with 21 year olds who have nothing going on it's very unfortunate I don't think it's going to be fulfilling but I would say to the men out there try to maybe find a woman that you can talk to communicate with might actually have her shit together might actually be ambitious and have something going on or want to have something going on I don't care what she does she doesn't have to be on TV she doesn't have to be a PhD she doesn't have to be a television producer she doesn't have to own her own company but be ambitious and have something going on those women out there are going to be a lot more fulfilling to you you're actually going to enjoy your time and if you actually might want a sustainable and healthy and stable relationship that's probably the kind of girl you're going to need to find not the Tatiana's who just want to look cute and post instagram stories now I love a good instagram story y'all know I do I love a good boomerang I love a good whatever but if that's all you do men if that's all she does probably Houston we have a problem just gonna let you in on a little tip the next thing on my list is this consistency it really does not help me or my friends or any woman in general if you are really cool and you're really interested when you first start talking to them and then give it three four five days and all the sudden you're not consistent anymore you don't make plans you don't really care you kind of fade in and out you're talking to five other Tatiana's consistency is important now if you want to be inconsistent and you want to ghost and you want to fall off the radar that's fine but i'm going to give you a pro tip people like me and people like my friends we aren't going to really give a shit after that we don't really care the f's have been given and we're kind of done I'll tell you this from personal experience once I'm turned off I am turned off and I don't care anymore because they're at one point I probably did care at one point my friends they probably did care they probably did like you because you expressed interest and maybe you were cool maybe you were kind of underhang out with but if you're not consistent and you fall off the radar I give you maybe one to two chances to fix that because I'm a very direct communicator women this is important I will communicate to you if your communication isn't great I will let you know that I will let you know that more effort is needed but if you don't heed that warning and I have to warn you twice I'm done at that point because I don't really care anymore now I'm done now I don't care and I know my friends who are watching this are thinking and saying the same thing because we have these conversations on an almost daily basis once you turn us off we don't care anymore so let that be a warning to you you're probably not going to circle back they always come back they always come back but when you're ready to come back I probably don't care anymore so if you want to switch up stay there protein my last thing on my list is also very important don't be excuse my language don't be a bitch don't be a bitch don't be a bitch if you have been failed and you lost a woman of value like myself or my friends and then we don't really care anymore don't be a bitch don't be but hurt you did it to yourself okay and it's no longer my problem now it's become a personal problem of yours so don't be a bitch and by the way if i'm no longer interested because your effort is shitty that's not me being a bitch that's not me being difficult that's me having a standard in which I expect from people I do have high standards and high expectations my friends have high standards and high expectations do you want to know why we've worked for those okay we work hard we're successful we take care of ourselves we try to look cute we have a desire to be something more each day okay that's why we have the ability to be somewhat what you call difficult it's not difficult we just have a baseline standard and if you can't meet that standard that's okay a lot of men cannot but if you are one of those men out there and I have them all over my DMs sometimes I check them and you guys are like what would it take to be with someone like you what would it take to be with your friends what are girls like you what are they looking for I laid them out for you very simply there in order to have a shot with a girl like me or girls like my friends girls that are worth a damn you don't really have to be Brad Pitt you don't have to be famous you don't even really have to make a lot of money or have a really fantastic job you just have to be determined you have to be in some way successful in that you want to attain some certain kind of success for yourself you're driven you have goals you can handle a woman with standards that's not going to turn you off and you're going to put in the effort to be with somebody like myself or my friends we deserve that and we will not compromise our standards I tell you this it will be a cold day in hell when I chase a man and I know that's the same thing for my friends as well and if my friends are listening and they're thinking about chasing a man please for the love of god do not because there is not not one single man on planet earth okay that is worth making any woman feel like she is not good enough I don't care how hot a girl is how smart how successful how rich we have all dealt with men who treat us like we are not good enough no the problem is we are too enough and you can't handle it so those are my checklists again I will go through them for you one more time in case you are just tuning in number one are you single no really two make plans we don't want to pen pal three value value value someone who has value consistency be consistent don't be great and then fade out and then don't fade out and then think that you're going to fade back in because they ain't going to work and last but not least if all else fails don't be a bitch hope you guys have all enjoyed my ps a my instagram line I love you all hope I gave you some valuable tips and advice but hey those are just my final thoughts from Nashville Tennessee in my kitchen god bless and take care Tommy Lauren if you just took Tommy Lauren out and you could have just put any any sister in that was the same playbook and I mentioned that in my did that colorism stream that I said yes colorism does exist but it's not the main thing I tied it all into simply this Tommy Lauren is a high value woman from a resource standpoint and she wants a high value man a man that she feels like is on her hypergamic level but at best she is an eternal seven she is a she is a cute girl she's an adjustable six that could go from six to eight really dressed up but her life is really close to the six she's cute and her issue is that she wants high value men and she wants to be treated like a pretty beautiful or gorgeous woman and the way she's buying into these men you're not still muted man come on sound is fine sound is fine so she wants a high value man and she wants to be treated like a high value man let me let you guys catch up where you guys at man I know we hear you you guys need to understand something YouTube is on a delay we have weather issues going on here and you don't have to deal with it this is not live tv there's not 50 people in here there's one person here there's no cameraman there's no sound man there's no somebody on a teleprompter there's no lighting no somebody behind the script there's one freaking person so catch back up all Tommy Lauren was basically doing this she was running the I deserve a high value man playbook why because I'm the crap I'm a I'm a single woman I'm a high earner I'm this I'm that and she started out with her list but here's the problem Tommy Lauren adjustable six and adjustable six which means she can be a six up to an eight but for the most part she hangs in that cute range and she wants a man that's not on her looks level back into the list you got to be single I agree you need to be single but ladies like it or not you guys wanted this deregulated open sexual market this is what you got don't text without plans unfortunately you and your girlfriends women have lowered the value of lowered the price of casual sex so now you got Netflix and chill you won't find dining treatment in a fast food market make plans but here's the here's what she started go off the rails value value why why does she want you to value value because that's what she has to pay with she is not hot enough to be trying to demand the high price she's asking she's a solid Honda cord and she wants Mercedes prices how many times have we heard uh this same things come from too many of our sisters I got my degree I got a good job I got that all that I heard people in the chat room saying she sounds like a lot of sisters and that's true be consistent don't ghost her and don't be a bee that's what she said Tommy Lauren was reading out of the woman's playbook who she chose to she chose to become an ambitious career-driven woman and she said guys guys don't want a 27-year-old woman in the sange zone because she's 27 and in the danger zone guys don't want a 27-year-old woman in the danger zone sange zone they would rather have a 21-year-old who's just sitting over there being pretty and that's where we're at so black women remember when I said colorism colorism does exist it does it does but just like any but but like however isms I I rarely see a woman of any skin tone who is feminine beautiful inspirational cooperative easy to get along with friendly who has the kind of problems what did she say I'm a direct communicator that's another word for being a ball breaker her last point was don't be a bee and that's really what a lot of guys consider women like that so sisters what is Tommy Lauren teaching you she's teaching you that even if you're a thin white woman and you have this kind of attitude you cannot get a high value man to stick around she's teaching you that if you're a thin white woman with blonde hair if you act like this you'll give a harsh kind of treatment remember when I said it's not your skin tone as much as your attitude it's an attitude so yes I'm trolling in the title you dog on right I am because I need to get your attention so you can realize that Tommy Lauren has been getting drug in the media she is a conservative pundit people have been calling her a feminist left and right people are like crap she's lost it so much so so much so that we got to talk about something but before we get into that man we got to get these likes up and I'll go back and I'll cut that part of that segment out but here's the thing we gotta we got to get the likes up man because that what's going on over here she's been getting drug to death drug for filth in the media why because here's something that black men can learn black people can learn there's a let me take the back why is Tommy Lauren getting drug because she is playing the old game while you used to just say anything you want to about men but this cancel culture online men have been getting their voice and now they're finally pushing back and under four days this whole story went from what happened then to what we're about to learn now oh waiting for you all to just join on in here some of you I probably will answer some questions later on but I have some things I need to go through first all right so for those of you the other night I believe it was Monday night who watched my PSA for boyish men um it has since gained a little bit of traction I also posted it on facebook and I think it's sitting at about 1.5 million views right now so obviously it picked up a little bit of talks which is okay not like I'm not used to that I'm very used to it but I did want to clear a few things up about that video and just expand on it a little bit because that's always important you can never say everything you want to say in 15 minutes and I've heard a lot of comments on it a lot of praise a lot of criticism so I figured I'd just go through some of them if you all are ready all right so first of all that some of the the misperceptions and misconceptions about some of the things I said in that video that I want to go through real quick first and foremost okay I don't think all men are trash and I also want to again you mean to shut this shit down Tommy Lauren is teaching black women a very valuable lesson a very valuable lesson what is that you cannot just drag men and get away with it the point I made and I have to keep toggling because people are talking about echo we're gonna have to deal with the echo the point I made is notice Tommy's demeanor notice how she's coming in to fix this she said all men are trash that's what she said all men are trash she didn't edit anything she doubled and tripled down she was she was full of that uh uh uh because she didn't get any pushback because what is why because this playbook had worked in the black community for 50 years but see the white community other communities where they have family system uh patriarchy family values if nothing else they have seen what is happening in our community what happens you let this gender war take root men are pushing back and they are shutting this crap down Tommy Lauren has got something to teach you think about it this was going on in our community for 50 years this didn't even get a week she made a video on Monday and on Thursday she was back he was moonwalking backwards like a mug the question that I made between boys and men there is a big difference between boys and men and I'm not talking about an age difference I'm talking about a mentality difference if you are a man and you watch that and you thought that I was calling you trash I will apologize for that because I don't think all men are trash I don't think any men are trash at all I think that some boys who think that they are men have a tendency shall we say in 2020 to not quite act the right way and I'm not saying that girls act the right way mind you okay this is an equal opportunity situation here but I'm not a dude in case you haven't noticed I don't identify as a dude I'm not a dude so for me to do a video about how crappy women are in the dating scene I really don't think I could offer you that much knowledge on it because I've never dated a girl yet okay ladies Tommy's got something to teach you she said I just made a video talking about how crappy it is dating men in the dating scene but I'm not a dude so stop asking me to talk about how bad it is being a man in the dating scene because I don't date her see she is teaching she's got something to teach you black women when brothers or men start coming out talking about their experiences in the dating world stop at and you ask the same questions that she got from men she said it I'm a woman I got to give it to you from a woman's standpoint and I can't tell you what it's like to be you I'm just telling you what it's like to be me see that will work in an environment where they're actually trying to keep families together trying to keep relationships together but see people will come over to men or women in the black community and the men will ask the women to talk about talk about how bad y'all are and the women will ask the men talk about how bad you are this is a college level course and ladies what are you learning from Tommy she came in running the I'm strong and independent don't need no man I'm high value and I got standards and I got you don't chase no man I ain't gonna compete for no man don't do that you could have she should have been up there singing I will survive or go again and Beyonce could have been singing and dancing in the background but they shut that crap down because they're trying to keep their families they're trying to keep their relationships and now she's out here in a soft and more gentle tone doing this right so I can't help you there I'm not saying the girls are perfect and men are awful or boys are awful I'm not saying that never would say that I'm sure that there are many horrible girls out there that do many horrible things I myself am not perfect I acknowledge that I'm happy to acknowledge it so I wanted to clear that up men I don't think you're trash I happened to be on the time you had to be asked me especially real men who act like men and who treat women the right way and I'm going to get into that in a little bit but I want to clear up some other misperceptions about the video things that maybe you guys were confused about so I can help you out it was not in any way shape or form about my ex fiance okay my ex fiance is a saint my ex fiance is a great individual a great man and the woman that ends up with him is going to be incredibly lucky because all the things that I bitched about in that video he didn't do any of those things he's a great guy so I want to clear that up it wasn't me being scorned about a broken off engagement it wasn't me being scorned about a bad breakup I haven't dated anybody in months so it wasn't about that and it was about my ex fiance so I want to clear that up if he's watching or his friends are watching not about him so if you're new to my channel stop asking me all these questions you going to have to sit your butt down and pay attention all you people with short attention spans this is a place for people with intelligence and can think longer than two minutes where's the colorism part sit your ass down and listen and if you can't wait until I tie it all together leave like I said this woman can't have to come back and say oh first off let me clear this up about Brad Brad is a wonderful man it ain't about Brad Brad is who walks on water and about Brad or his friends or anything else she had to go apologize to white men because her money's on the line black men see when you control the economy that your women work in they have to worry about your image this is why I say brothers we got to build vertical as long as they're working for somebody else they can tear up our image because they're going to work in their companies oh we're gonna get a little bit of everybody's gonna get not got today because Tommy gotta go back and clear up Brad because Brad nim came for her and Brad nim can actually impose consequences black men you can't we can't impose any consequence on our women globally locally yes globally no four days actually it wasn't even four days it happened inside of four hours see it's not where the color is in part like I told you two or three weeks ago it's not your skin color it's your attitude she came in with the typical black girl attitude is that clear enough for you or do you need me to get you a picture book you need me to get the big crayolas out is that clear enough for you now she came in here with the typical black girl girl power playbook even though she's a conservative pundit she tried to touch that liberal feminine stuff and she got destroyed so understand something if you go in the world talking like Tommy Lauren does sisters and you think you get a bad response and you say well it's because I'm my dark yeah no no no no it's your attitude it's the attitude more than anything else yes it's always going to be a factor but it's your attitude another thing that I thought was kind of weird because I read some media headlines about it was that my video the other night was homophobic you're gonna have to explain that to me how that video was homophobic I don't think it was homophobic in the least I can't even wrap my mind around how do you wouldn't say it was homophobic that makes no sense to me so if anybody got that impression um maybe rewatch it because it certainly wasn't homophobic but I also Brad got so much power and got is is so dope he got her apologizes for the shit the she didn't even say we're trying to get our women to stop talking about stuff we're just trying to get them to say the truth stop saying it y'all out here making babies all over the place when 51 percent of black men are single and childless y'all out here broke dusting when the facts are 64 percent of black men are in the middle class see the facts are on your side brother and for too many of the sisters that got this Tommy Lauren kind of attitude won't even tell the truth they're telling a lie and we can't do nothing about it because you don't control the economy that they work in but when she goes out and tells a falsehood a lie stretches it even exaggerates brad can come down and say oh no no no no no no no not only are you going to go back and make sure you you put Brad back up on her own Mount Olympus you're going to go apologize to the gays and uh and the kittens and uh matter of fact who else do we need her to apologize to the audible deal dealers um who else the the the farmers um the airline association uh we need you to apologize to the major league soccer Boy Scouts of America um the junior colleges we need you to apologize to the janitors in the elementary school because if you don't we'll take everything that you think is so great about you that career you got how great and wonderful you are we'll take all of that we'll take all that ish yeah no more Fox or no blaze for you we'll take all of it and you'll just be an adjustable six blind out here in the danger zone trying to get a husband and you instead and we and we take all that from you that we gave you we gave it to you because we built it when we take it all love it from you you won't be sitting around and talk about all that that list of you'll just be happy to get a man period see you want cooperation and submission you better be willing to pay the price brother that's why when i made that video men should pay for everything and women should be hyperchemists here it is see if you want this kind of behavior from a woman you better we're gonna going to have to pay the cost oh yeah i want to talk a little bit about a couple of the responses that i got and once again kind of just reinforcing my point here so the kind of responses that i got from at least people that i know males that i know were two first of all most of the guys in my life they either thought it was about them and it wasn't and they apologized and they didn't need to or i had friends of mine that i've never dated where just dudes who messaged me and said hey this actually really helped me out because it's a jungle out there and sometimes men don't know how to act they don't know what women want they don't understand what they're doing wrong which was the whole point of my video it wasn't to give men i got now there's what point i'm going to cosine i agree with her list let me go ahead and tell you why i agree with her list let me go ahead and read it to you again you need to make sure you're single to tell the truth you got situations ships and married folks out and dating no yeah i agree to be in my facebook group you got to announce your current status and what you're looking for and if you're found to be false all she said is don't women don't want you to be text pals don't contact with our plans yeah i've said it to the nth degree cia you need to assert men if you aren't gonna take if you don't have a plan for a woman how you doing cutie how you doing sweetie no contact her with her plan i'm going out to dinner i'd love for you to attend with me i'm going out next Tuesday at seven will you be my guest that's a yes or no if she says no you go somebody else but don't the worst thing to do is contact what you want to do what you want to do mass week making plans but you in order to make plans you got to have plans in order to have plans you got to have a purpose in a life one of the biggest problems we're having back and forth with with women like this is they're outpacing men in social life women are far more active today this is where guys you can do better you need to have a life but i get pushed back when i tell you if you don't have a life that requires you to wear a suit from time to time you need a broader life you need a suit you need a dinner jacket you need to put on a tuxedo at least once a year oh man i don't need no tuxedo i don't need no suit okay and you call yourself a grown man right be consistent don't ghost her uh well tommy you're getting ghosted because you're shooting out of your league line of things they already knew it was to help you out in case there's some things you didn't okay maybe men don't know that we liked plans to be made maybe men don't know that consistency is important maybe men don't know that it's nice to be valued for what you bring to the table maybe some men don't know those things maybe they don't know how important community and notice that even though when she's still trying to take her shots at me she's doing it in a bubbly kind of just maybe she's not doing it in a teacher you ain't crap kind of way see if this were flipped and sister in this position was talking to men in her target area it'll be a completely different energy time it got something to teach you folks occasion is men and women think differently totally understand that so i got a lot of men that i know who are great guys who honestly messaged me and said hey this is helpful it's nice to know how women think it's nice to know how you and your friends think i like you i think you're a cool chick so he was great pointers and that again reinforces my point that is the difference between a man and a boy the men in my life that i've dated met gone out with or i'm just friends with they were really they either laughed i thought it was funny or they were like hey cool thanks for the heads up okay that's all right that's enough of that so for everybody to ran over because i put colorism in the title if you're that triggered by the word colorism you got something has too much control over you when i heard this woman speaking i didn't get offended i didn't get offended because i agree but let me ask you did she get drug because of her skin color let me ask you honestly for the colorism crowd if that had been um a dark skinned woman in the media and she had gotten drug fulfilled would you have said she got drug for her skin color or for her attitude men don't like bossy women period and women who are trying to get men outside of their looks level are going to be upset because you cannot make men value value you cannot make me value your education you cannot make me value your career your home your 401k you can't make men do that that's not how we're wired so Tommy had something to teach you black women number one how women who care about their men act Tommy has something to teach you black women how men who care about their women act because even with a public personality like that when her when the men of her race group started pushing back she came back and restated and apologized profusely a high value of white a white woman who thinks she's high valued came back humbled herself and apologized profusely why go ask her because they understand she understands that there's power in the group well if black men see i can understand suspicious like wait a minute but if black men built Wakanda then i would apologize no no no no no no no nope nope and black men built Wakanda i didn't know see you'll never get Wakanda until you stop fighting your men whatever it is you want to say if black men did this then you get that you'll never get that without working with your men other groups have studied the black community in infractured nature and all this they've said we don't want we don't want out of wedlock births because they are they are rising you've heard people in the gender war argument talking about well wait a minute out of wedlock birth rates are rising other places in marital rates are dropping other places too uh-huh then in 2019 what happened marital rates were up the highest since since 1960 divorce rates have been halved since 1990 other groups will do something to keep their families together their people together educated or not educated high value or not high value they won't destroy their family and it doesn't matter how one of them Tommy got on her instagram and got on one they will check that crap because it is a danger to the group now here's the question honest question if this had been a higher about if this had been a black woman in her position if this had been a black woman in her position political pundit uh when you say candid someone's that's not fair if that had been someone with her level of influence and a black woman would would we have seen any kind of retraction black men with with even when black men pushed back would there have been a retraction or would there be a double down and we know damn well we would get a double down because we see it all the time we've seen this happen here recently there was a woman here in Atlanta whose cousin was supposedly abducted or had was was feared being abducted remember and that whole to do and she called her cousin and her cousin got on instagram and and she drug black men for filth now this woman apparently was a supporter of brothers but all they took was her cousin calling her saying cuz i'm being followed by these black men and da da da da and then the woman in question saying it on social media and not getting the response she felt like she should get or wanted to get and she went off okay Tommy Lauren went off but then when brothers came back and responded did black men get a response like Tommy Lauren got know what we got was we got more lectures you got doubling and tripling down more war Tommy Lauren teaching you how you need to handle your high value position ladies if you want to have a shot at building Wakanda you cannot insult your men and let that stuff ride even a white woman knows that oh damn we went there we went there we went there you cannot insult and drag your men tell them their trash tell them there's tell them there and public and not pay a cost that's the net net of it now i know a lot of people don't know Tommy Lauren Tommy Lauren is a political pundit but the lesson is there the lesson is simply this a woman who is above average cute but very accomplished wanting a man in her economic or tax bracket but she is not in his looks range complaining about the treatment she's getting from high value men because they don't like women who are not really she can be girly but does that woman come across as feminine or masculine hot the men that she wants in her tax bracket don't want women like this black men are not or no different than any other group of men you heard a white woman saying high value men ghost me aren't serious aren't consistent and then they would rather have a girl who's airhead than an accomplished cultured woman no they just don't want a ball breaker let's open up the call line because something's going on tonight with youtube man something happened with the notifications the weather's going on out here so here's the thing my question is this what can you learn from this Tommy Lauren situation or can you learn from this Tommy Lauren situation if you go into a if you go into the halls of power with this kind of attitude you're always going to get pushed back and one of the sad things I think that have happened to so many of our sisters is they have been they've been useful to other people but you've been weaponized against your own men that doesn't mean in order to be and there's nothing what what do we need to just be barefoot and pregnant and uneducated come on man knock it off knock it off that woman's education and accomplishments are not an excuse for her attitude remember that lady that called in the other day who was a lawyer with all the attitude you mean to tell me you can't be a pleasant person and accomplished it comes down to what you really think of people and if you go into her backstory she's had a she tells you she had a horrible long-term relationship and what she's gotten therapy for and then she after that she came out with a with a new sex in a city girl's attitude well has a engagement that's broken off go look at her story because right now with all the access she has all the visibility she has everything that so many sisters will be like well they got easy over there they got easy over there you got a thin white woman who's financially successful popular in the halls of power and all these things and she can't get a man why that attitude keeps you single all right why do you have to get on the camera because i'm not going to have a bunch of trolls calling in so you don't have to be on youtube but you do need to get on the camera need to be able to see you jade yasmine you're in the chat room your pictures are up that's fine which one wants to go first jade or jasmine you can flip the camera around real quick and then flip it off but you don't have to but you're gonna have to at least show something all right you don't have to be on jade i see you all right jade how are you hello heaven or mr samuel i'm fine how are you i'm well what you got on the topic what can tommy learn teach black women well i i definitely thought colorism was an issue before i mean i still think it's an issue but okay why do you think what's the issue what did you think the issue about colorism is well i think that dark skin is kind of seen more i think that a dark skin woman has to be a lot more feminine than a lighter skin woman um for them to be considered on the same level and what okay as well okay and what are what examples have you seen of this in your personal life well i'd say almost entirely all the relationships that i have seen when the woman is no no no no no no no no no no i mean in your life not what you've seen because here's the thing you women like to do this oftentimes you like to look at things and then interpret and inevitably your interpretations are wrong you don't know so tell me about in your life where your skin where you've had to be more feminine to get the same attention or opportunities as lights going well i'll say that in my work experiences and also in dating experiences in your in what in your in your dating experiences and your what in work experiences okay give me an example i personally i personally uh well one example so i worked with a latino woman that was she was she was fit definitely but she was very loud um she cursed a lot but it was never a problem there was an encounter that i had with with with the older woman that was being very aggressive towards me and i'm going to be honest i didn't respond in the best way i also responded aggressively and they um and i was given a lot of negative energy that this latino woman was never given even though she was consistently loud okay okay okay okay okay this is a very vague story nothing specifically happened let me tell you what i just heard i'm speeding down the highway the speed limit is 65 or 70 miles an hour right and i'm going 100 and a woman and somebody next to me is going 103 cop pulls me over gives me a ticket cops are unfair were you breaking the law yep in your situation were you breaking the law yep i was but but instead of just checking yourself you go outside of yourself to assume some stuff that you cannot prove no that is true that is true and i did and like i said i i did admit that i was aggressive when i should not have been so oh oh let's stop right there i just asked you to prove or validate or substantiate what you say you believe and you have this the best you could give me well what i was trying to say is that i had one negative experience that that i could think of and in return i was respond i received a very negative response which was deserved but it was deserved yes but i'm saying there was someone that regularly behaved outrageously so man do you make room for the possibility maybe your perceptions are just off no it's possible definitely okay because here's what i hear a lot of times from this colorism argument i have i act bad because i've been treated bad and then i see other people who act as bad as i do but they don't get the same response well tell me about when you act good and when you act well are you still getting treated poorly generally no show over show over thank you guys for coming out tonight we're done i just saw the colorism debate when you act the way you want to get treated you tend to get treated well so you're 100 right no no i mean i really i mean here's the thing you give me a percentage but man but at the end of the day more times when you talk about this colorism thing it's an assumption it's a feeling and you and i rarely i've yet to have somebody tell me it was it was because of my skin color you can assume that but you rarely have somebody just being innocent doing nothing i know it's going to take some people off because they're going to mean no that's not right colorism doesn't yes everything matters you can have a latina woman and a black woman there's going to be prejudices and perception differences between both absolutely no difference that you can have a latina woman and a white woman a white woman and an asian woman everyone has prejudices but to say you get treated differently solely based on and that's the determining factor i'm still waiting for that story okay so what i what i was going to say that i learned from tomy loren is that it's good to be humble and i believe that i'm generally a pretty humble person i can admit when i'm wrong like you said like my perception about some things that may be off but generally i'm i try my best to be level-headed i try my best to not hurt anybody i don't want to offend anybody um ever so okay and and that's kind of one of the things that i took away from what she was talking about well tomy tomy loren like i said no one she made up a lot what i heard i didn't say she was wrong for wanting what she want but getting mad at people for what she cannot get she's out of her looks lane so okay but i'm gonna put you back in the um okay i've already got you this so thank you for calling in thank you for answering the questions at least trying to go down the path i appreciate it all right thank you so much all right hey uh jerry uh i can't see you the room is dark uh if you can't come on to the camera you can stay right there i'm gonna go i'm gonna go ahead and let you go go ahead and come into the light mr troll come on come on mr troll hey he's back come on jerry come on boy come on come on boy come on jerry come on jerry come on jerry amy come back to the uh camera real quick all right okay go ahead and i'll meet yourself okay so can you hear me yeah what can you learn from tomy loren if anything i think it's the attitude uh you keep on saying we have to be mindful of our attitude and our first video clearly showed that she came across as very aggressive uh to masculine and her second video even though she was making points but she was more feminine and came across as more respectful you know let me ask you a question amy let me ask you a question what she said men are trash three times in that first video if if a man had said something along those lines if a black man had said something along those lines or a man period or a black man in particular do you think he would have had a job the next day no i don't think so everybody will be on his case not only does she have a job she was allowed a chance to go back and make it right so um oh jerry left oh he had to go back to the pound poor jerry let me go ahead and get to uh who is this brissela because i do want to answer some some other questions too because i know this colorism thing we're going to do a standalone colorism show because we got to have a conversation about this brissela how are you i'm good so how are you i'm good all right did you see the video i did yeah was that the first time seeing it yeah it's crazy right it is it's scary actually what was scary about it um i think the amount of anger she had in the first video i it almost felt like something just happened like the night before and she was just like letting out the anger through that rant yeah so um how do i want to ask this that's a loaded question because yes we've seen this kind of rant from in this community we've seen our we've seen women say that stuff about men but there's really well what else would you like to put into it because i don't want to lead you down that path what else would you like to add about it um i think that it was very mature of her to come back and humble herself and apologize and i think that's the turning point because most of the times when we black women make a mistake we are afraid to come back and apologize and be humble because we think that the men might laugh at us to take advantage but it's a great way to show that it's okay to acknowledge you're wrong and say you're sorry and try to try to be better well and see that's what i kind of want to get to because usually what i hear says to talk about coming back and humbling it'll come back well yeah she came back because the white men own the economy so she had to come back because her money was online let's just say that's true she still had to come back i think a lot of times the sisters use that it's an excuse to not have to do better because it's saying if you own the economy we'd act like them too no if you like your men you wouldn't want to have that hanging out there about your men calling them trash so uh you said a lot of times you feel like sisters fear that men will take advantage what do you mean i mean there is always a there's this pride they want to hold on to um i don't beg a man they want to hold on to some power there is a fear to just be completely vulnerable and say i'm sorry and maybe the man is going to say well you were wrong you know and he's gonna like backlash at you for a minute which you deserve they don't want to be in that position of you were wrong just take it a hundred percent they want to hold on to some power i did this because okay nothing warrants you to misbehave i don't care how bad a man is to you you can walk away just you don't have to do that oh here's the thing i agree and i have something my my gut tells me that a lot of our unfortunately so many of our in our culture we don't trust each other there's not a lot of good faith so it's like well if i make a mistake uh like you said they're gonna hold this over my head they're never gonna let me go they're never gonna forget it and i'll never live it down never not thinking that you know what you're making a mistake they'll accept the apology and you can just move on because there's a lot of grudge holding so uh okay good good point let me get to uh let me get to moto what's this i don't i don't have a name here so we're gonna go moto you got to put your microphone on moto e5 play i have a sport when i speak to men and tell them to do this or do that to get yourself together to understand it's a jungle out there if you want to be seriously dressed like a man put on a suit cut your hair take off the Jordans take off the jerseys get out there and work 60 hours do all that stuff oh you love that women love that stuff but then when you turn around and say well guess what you're gonna need to be cooperative and work with your man in this no no no no unfortunately like it or not black women you have a reputation of being difficult to deal with and you don't change that reputation by trying to insult everybody that has the nerve to try to talk to you because unfortunately when you have 80 percent of our children being born out of wedlock one out of four being married you're not winning and you can't blame the fact that you're not winning on everybody else you but you can't blame it on everybody else and here's another thing every black man that you've tried to make your enemy is not here's the thing and the sad thing is it's a lot of younger women it's a lot of younger women and inevitably let me see how i can say this as politically correct as possible inevitably you have a group of we have a our culture has got to the point to where no one can tell women any truth in the late 80s early 90s a book was written by one Shaharazad Ali and it's called the black man's guide to understanding the black woman and in there she basically said that everyone has been kind of held to task or evaluated for their for their part in this issue that's the black community except the women this was a black woman and actually tried to write down and have a thoughtful way of dealing with it but people seized on one passage one sentence and everywhere that woman went instead of having an interview having a interview about it you had women and you had men so-called guys seizing on this and it was like blood sport this was before the internet this was before before things were very recorded so a lot of this stuff is now you're going youtube right now and see it but what you'll notice is in a lot of those audiences you had men standing up saying thank you for writing that book thank you because for the first time somebody's finally said you know what it ain't all your issue brother and it's hard dealing with this woman over here dealing with that over there are we and that happened but they effectively shot at her down and after that point for 30 plus years it's just been allowed to get to this point and the relationships between men and women have gotten further and further and further away my generation generation x gave birth to millennial single mothers boys raised with our dads and then you get this group zennials you can almost guarantee that the women the people who call in the people have the biggest issue with what i'm talking about are likely either one of these two things single mother or in that 80% that's overweight two things that have nothing two things have nothing to do with you can control those things but see you're not supposed to say those things and the fact that you actually say well all right those things no one is you you are not responsible for your situations but you are responsible for for doing something it's not your fault but it is your responsibility whatever situation you're in you got to do something about it and unfortunately we have a situation that a lot of black women don't want to hear nothing from nobody you're supposed to accept everything you do no one can say nothing the only people you like is the one that are telling you you're a king you're this or that and it doesn't matter if you said in a nice way or it doesn't matter if you cuss in the mouth so here's the question who do you want saying anything to you an answer it comes back to nobody it comes back to nobody and that's just not going to work it's not going to work because my generation millennials and zennial men are two different men zennial men are yeah the sister on her channel talking about how her name was ebony and her children one is her oldest daughter is dating a latino guy and her son doesn't want to date a black woman because he's 15 but he sees the ill treatment i mean do y'all not see it over here it's about men become the best version of themselves women become the best version of themselves and people being happy and i'm sorry when you are happy and doing what you're supposed to be doing you are going to attract angry upset hurt people you're going to you're going to attract hurt people i will i will tell you this i don't care about if you swirl or date out or whatever let me let let me let you any of the people in that community know you're not going to come over here and uh argue with me i got no argument with you if you have an issue with me you can't have an issue with what i say what is it like i said i don't fear a woman dating out i don't fear when we're talking about these guys over here are better i don't worry about brad i beat brad brothers what it comes down to is there are a lot of folks who are upset that you're actually trying to become better version of yourself there are a lot of women who are upset with the women who come over here and they want to call you pickies and and this and they want to down you you got to ask yourself why are so many people threatened by a man black men want to become better version themselves black women want to become better version themselves and black men and black women saying they want to deal with one another why are so many people threatened by that


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Hi guys it's Steph here from Little Bookish Teacher and welcome or welcome back to my channel. Today's video is probably going to be relatively short but I wanted to share with you guys some books that I have been buying for my future niece or nephew. So my sister is currently pregnant and we don't know the gender yet and I say niece and nephew you know loosely because at this point we don't really know how the baby will identify as they grow up but that said my sister and I are the only two siblings in our family. This is the first child for my sister and first grandchild for my parents and we're all very excited and I did tell my sister that I would not be buying all of the other baby stuff that everyone else is going to offload on her because they will because we come from quite a large family. I told her that I would be the book buying auntie and apparently she's okay with that so I've already started collecting some board books for her. She doesn't really have a kids book collection at all. I think she trusts me to pick books for her child so I wanted to share the first six books that I have picked up and that I'll be holding on to for a little while. I decided to go with board books because they're a little bit more durable initially. They're a little bit easier to handle. They're smaller in overall size and they can be chewed on thrown around and thrown into bags and pretty much nothing's really going to damage them too much. So I had to get an alphabet and a counting book just because that's kind of expected but I wanted to get something special. So I found these beautiful ABCs in 123 books by Bronwyn Bancroft. Bronwyn Bancroft is a First Nations author illustrator here. She has plenty of beautiful books but I just love these. Very simple interior, gorgeous illustrations. If we're going to go for the basics let's go for something very Australian and build up that respect for First Nations culture from a very young age. Next are two sort of classics here that I pretty much give to anyone who has a baby because I just love them so much. There is Where is the Green Sheep by Mem Fox. This is just a fabulous book to read in general.  It's great for teaching opposites and just generally being very bright and colourful and engaging to look at. I also had to include Diary of a Wombat which you know even though a baby is probably not going to appreciate the amount of writing in this book there's a beautiful style to it and it's just an absolute classic and an award winner and all of that and Mothball is one of my favourite Australian picture book characters. I have been collecting all of the books in this series for myself so I couldn't not get a copy for Future Baby. And then I also wanted to get some books that from a very young age will highlight that it is amazing to just be you. That you are loved, there are people who want to see you flourish and see you do exactly what it is that you can do. I had to get All The Ways to Be Smart by Davina Bell and Alison Colboys. This is just a book I have loved ever since it first came out. I received a review copy of it many years ago and just fell in love with it. It celebrates the uniqueness in every person and I think that's important from a very young age. Similarly by the same author and illustrator duo I have under the love umbrella which is just a beautiful book that celebrates joy and love and knowing that no matter what happens there are people who will love you and take care of you and I think both of these must have in any book collection but especially when children are young so they hear it from an early age they're getting these beautiful positive messages. All right so those are the books that I have started buying for my future niece and nephew. In the comments I would love to know if there are any picture books that you think are on the must have list for families with new children. If you want to let me know that you're here but you don't want to leave a comment feel free to leave an umbrella emoji down below. Otherwise I hope wherever you're on the world you're staying safe and healthy and I will see you in my next video. Thanks so much for watching. Bye everyone.


Hello, my name is Mark Sorrell, and I'm the development director at Hyde and Seek. The process of making a game creatively is extremely similar to the agile production technique, a very iterative procedure. When you first think of a game, you think of game mechanics, you are building a kind of abstract machine because games don't really exist in the real world of a very abstract form. The only way of testing them is to play them. If you think of a game of chess, for instance, you can look at the chess board as real, chess pieces as real, the rules of chess are a real thing, but the game itself is only experienced in the minds of the players, and not only that but it's experienced differently in the minds of each player. They both play a different game in their heads and nothing different things at different times. Games are kind of unique in that they only exist in that form. A book is the same for everyone who reads it. They might have different interpretations of different things, but the text is the same, whereas games are naturally enormously emerging. So, hence, when you come up with the idea for a game, the mechanics that underpin it, you have to then play it in order to find out whether or not it works. So, you have to follow a kind of agile and intuitive procedure. You play the game, see if it's any good, if your assumptions were correct, if they were, you would find them, if they weren't, you would throw out and start a game. So, it's effectively very much like a agile system. In terms of the original creative spark that lets you come up with that game idea in the first place, I'm a great believer in the Dom Draper kind of concept of think about something very, very hard, then forget about it, and the idea will come to you. Obviously, playing a lot of games is extremely important, and understanding very, very much how and why the games that you enjoy work, and how and why the games that you don't enjoy don't work, and not only that, but how the games that people enjoy that you don't enjoy work, and why they enjoy them. There's an awful lot of the psychologists, I think, to game designers, a lot of behavioural psychology, a lot even more behavioural economics, a lot of some enormously important in games. So, play lots of games, read an awful lot about how people actually think, and how they actually work, be very Machiavellian, care about how the world is, no matter how you wish it were, and then once you've thought about that problem very, very hard, then go away and forget about it, and the game will come to you in the shower. Usually in real life, people don't take all that kind of effort to learn stuff, if they are given feedback and they are told, this is no good, they never come back. In a game it's very different. People will keep getting clobbered at the same level, 15 times, 20 times, 30 times, they play for a month before they move to the next level. Why does it not happen? That's because the nature of what games are. Games are structured play, and play is how we learn effectively. The reason why children play a lot more than adults is because they are having to learn a normal amount of things all the time. They are learning machines, hence they are playing machines. When you play a game, what you are effectively doing is building a model in your head of how you think the game works, and then you are inputting into this sort of black box that you have made in your head and seeing what the output is. If you have predicted the output correctly, then you can assume that your assumptions about how this black box works are correct. Let's try another couple of tests to make sure you are really right. If you were right, you will move on to a different test to learn a different aspect of how it works. If you were wrong, you will go back. Again, it's an iterative procedure. The reason why games are so good at doing it is because they are constructing this thing in your head that you can test. They are playful and designed to be something that our brains enjoy learning about. There is a famous games article, Raf Costa, whose book, A Theory of Fun, is an excellent primer for this kind of stuff. He says that boredom is the absence of learning, and I think he's pretty much right. That's one with boredom when there's no new stimuli, so there's no different thing we haven't seen before. Nothing we can learn. Games are all about learning because play is learning. These games is play is learning. They are all the same thing. Our brains are designed to do this. That is what they do. They learn new things. Games teach new things. That's why they are so incredibly addictive and compelling to us to do. So if you had to create a learning experience for adults, what is it that we can learn from a game designer? What you can learn from a game designer is how much you shouldn't gamify things. The idea of a game, learning is intrinsically enjoyable. The reason games are enjoyable is because you are learning something. So if you want to teach someone something through a game, it's possible to do so, but it's important that what you do is let them play with the system or the information that you're trying to teach them. What you're not trying to do is add a game onto the process of learning. The process of learning is already massively fun. The process of learning is why we play games in the first place. Playing a game off of a game can often have disastrous results. If you look at the way the difference between learning and education I think is really interesting. People learn things all the time for their own enjoyment. They'll quite happily sit and read thousands of Wikipedia pages. If you ask any nine-year-old about whatever their favourite topic is, be it ponies or renaissance painting or fighting with sticks, it doesn't really matter what it is. They will know everything. They will be desperate to learn more stuff and desperate to agail you with their knowledge. Learning is fun. Learning is games. It's play. So if you want to teach people something through games, what you do is you just set up an environment that lets them play with the knowledge, with the system, with whatever it is you're trying to get across and let them then prod it themselves and see how it works. Present it as the black box and let them see their app and let them build up their own picture of how this thing works. If you're trying to teach people something that they don't want to learn in the first place, then rewards can come in handy, but you have to face the fact that behavioural psychology has long proven that extrinsic rewards replace intrinsic rewards. If you enjoy doing something for its own sake and you then offer to pay someone to do it, then they'll enjoy it less because they're now focused on the money on the extrinsic reward. So if you want to teach someone something they don't want to learn, then you have to accept that what you're going to do is, yeah, they might learn it, and they'll never enjoy learning it and that you will then, whatever system, whatever gamified system you've put in place to encourage them to learn is going to be the thing they're interested in. It might work in terms of getting them to learn the thing, but it works in the same sense that Havlove ringing his bell makes a dope drool, rather than in the sense of genuinely making someone who wants to learn about the subject and is interested in it. So games can make you do stuff, but they can't make you like stuff. Thank you very much for your ideas.


Sedentary lifestyle. A secondary lifestyle is a type of lifestyle with little or no physical activity. A person living a secondary lifestyle is often sitting or lying down while engaged in an activity like reading, socializing, watching television, playing video games, or using a mobile phone flash computer for much of the day. A secondary lifestyle can potentially contribute to ill health and many preventable causes of death. Screen time is a modern term for the amount of time a person spends looking at a screen such as a television, computer monitor, or mobile device. Excessive screen time is linked to negative health consequences.


So a couple years back I was at this business seminar and somebody asked the best piece of advice for someone whose life is completely off track and they wanted to reinvent themselves. And the guy said that he hired Gary Vaynerchuk before he was super famous for a large sum of money for a day. And this is Gary's main piece of advice for creating an amazing life that you actually love. And he said, figure out your perfect day and then go about reverse engineering it. Now in this video, I'm going to give a very short journaling exercise you can do to figure out what the perfect day looks like, but more importantly, how you want to feel on that perfect day. What's up guys, Alex Hein here, author of the book Master of the Day. So I think the big mistake that people make is they think kind of tactically like what do they want the outside aspects of their life to look like, right? So like being as a guy, I could be like, Oh yeah, my perfect day evolves going on date with super hot girls all the time. And this is kind of the outside in approach to living. And the problem is like with the dating example, everyone's been on a date with someone that was great on paper. But there was no connection or no spark. There was no feeling behind it. And so with the perfect day exercise, the most important thing is the visualize from the inside out, how you want it to feel first, and then what you want the outside details to look like. So first, we're going to walk through one part on how you want to feel, and then what you like specifically want the material aspects of your life to look like. So I think the very first thing in figuring out essentially what your dream life is, is how do you want it to feel internally. So you wake up in the morning, you get out of bed, and I want you to figure out what time you're getting out of bed, and how do you feel. Some people like me, they like getting up and knowing that they have one hour to get their stuff together, and then get out of the house and get to work. And other people, they know that they like that feeling of not being pushed and stressed and rushed. And so they want to take until 11 o'clock or 12 o'clock to get out of the house. So think about or feel how you want that to feel in the morning. For me, I'll go through my perfect day so you can kind of get a feel for exactly what I mean by this. So my perfect day in the morning involves, I wake up probably around eight without using an alarm, and I feel excited. The very first emotion I feel is excitement. Because the projects I'm going to be working on that day, I feel like are meaningful, and they're purposeful, and they're worthwhile. In other words, if I did not live, if I was not on planet Earth, these things would not have had the impact, and they would not have ever been created. So I get up, I come out to my desk, I pour some tea, and for 30 to 45 minutes, all I do is I just review my goals, and the things that I'm interested in and I'm passionate about, and the things that I want to create. And I feel a sense of excitement looking forward to the day. And the reason I put this emotion first is because for most of my 20s, this excitement was like the antidote to the lack of excitement I felt my whole 20s. I constantly felt like I had to drag myself throughout the day that the mornings were the worst part of the day because it was signaled a long day I wasn't excited for. I wasn't inspired about it had no impact. And there had no, it had no purpose. It was like if I died, it wouldn't even matter. And so what I highly like to feel internally is that what I'm doing matters for other people and for the world. So it's the primary dominant emotion for me. And after I have this little morning routine, I see myself going to a beautiful office filled with windows and sunlight where I see patients for most of the day. And I see myself attracting the kind of people that are fun, that are positive, that want to change their own lives, and that are showing up and they want to do the work. They're not people that are hypochondriacs that want to complain and blame that are coming to test me or have something to prove, but people that really want help. So I'm basically even as my patients, I'm visualizing them being people I like to be around, even as friends. Later in the day, I see myself going to the gym and then going out to dinner or grabbing drinks with a friend or a colleague or someone else that I like being around and I respect. And then at night, I kind of leave it open for an event that feels, again, exciting, like I'm meeting new people, and that there's always something fun and new to do. Because for me, the primary driver of becoming an entrepreneur was that I love variety. I love the feeling of excitement, working on very different projects. And that, you know, the next 80 years of my work life, I will always have new things where I'm reinventing and testing and trying things out. So when you know the dominant emotion you're trying to get from your life, some people it's consistency. They just want to have a nice job they show up to every day, a nice partner they marry or whatever. And that they want is that consistent, everything's smooth, those super high highs, no super low lows, they just want that consistency. But first, I want you to start with the dominant emotion you want to feel. And when you have that on paper, you can understand what your perfect day looks like. And so for me, I then throw in other things, like we talked about in the previous video on I want to spend three months of the year in Paris or in a different location. And that to me is just breaking up life at injecting more fun, being able to speak another language and injecting more variety into my brain and building off of a little bit of downtime. And so that feeling is, okay, maybe I've been doing a little bit of the same thing for nine months.  And for me, regular vacations once every 100 days, or even a three month sabbatical per year is the way I want to do that. Now the second part of your perfect day is obviously what do you want to do? Right? And I think the what do you want to do part typically comes in a few categories. First of all, what fills most of our day is like Freud said, work and love is most of life work because you're probably going to do it at least nine hours a day for your whole life. And then love because life is basically about people, whether it's the person you're dating or the person you marry, kids if you have them or not, your parents, your grandparents. So I want you to think about, okay, what am I doing for work? You win the lotto, you win $500 million. You never have to work again. What are you doing? Visualize that as being the what you do for your perfect day. Because if you do that, you already won the game. Like there's no amount of money that's going to be like, Oh, screw this job, I'm going to quit. I'm out of here. If you enjoy it, then it's infinite. Right? There is no pushing required to get you up in the morning. And the second thing is people. What does that look like in the morning? If you want to be married or you are married, what does the morning look like to you? Maybe you want to be up early and have an hour of complete peace. And then you want to wake up your kids or your partner and then all have breakfast together in a non rushed way. No one's on their devices. You're all there present. And then in the afternoon and the evenings, what does that really look like? Are you seeing your parents? Are you living near your parents? Are you seeing friends?  Are you going to an orphanage? What does that look like? Like what are the actual details? The Navy gritty once you already know the feeling that you want. And for you, maybe the feeling that you want is the feeling of connection or contribution or the feeling that like playing with your kids is something that it's like the one non goal or work related thing you do. That's important and meaningful. But it has nothing to do with you. It's for them.  What are the people you want to be around? And what kind of people do you want to be around? And then think about blocking out your ideal day. And just because the average person works nine hours doesn't mean you should think like that. In two to three hours per day, I make more than I made in my last full time job. So if your perfect day only involves working four hours, it's possible. I literally do it, figure out a way to actually turn that into your reality. So if you decide that you want to work four hours a day and run around with woodland creatures, then you can do it. And I think the thing is whatever you think is possible is going to be what you end up doing. So my biggest piece of advice is definitely echoing what Gary said, where figure out the perfect day. And for me, it's how I want to feel. And what do I want to do? And the biggest two, like the biggest two chunks for me, the big two stones are work and love, as Freud said. So if you can figure out those two things, what do you want to do for your work? Or what is your work with a capital W and then the kind of people you want to be around? If you can figure out those two things, I feel like you've got most of life covered and it's all gravy. So before you go, I want you to do that exercise and let me know what comes up for you. All right, guys, I hope that helps. Best way to stay in touch is to grab the free personal development and weight loss challenge at modernhealthmonk.com forward slash YouTube. And you can check out the last two videos that came out here and here and make sure you do that journaling exercise. And there are two other videos on the same topic that's related. So you can check those out as well.


This Sunday, April 5th is the beginning of Holy Week. We celebrated his Palm Sunday or Passion Sunday. We celebrate not only the triumphant infantry of Jesus into Jerusalem, but we also know that at the end of that week, that he will be put to death, death on a cross. As we end to think about Holy Week and what you're going to pray about and think about, I want to hold these persons up for your prayers and your thoughts. First, the medical personnel in all of our communities that are dealing with persons and seeking to bring compassion and care to those who are suffering from the coronavirus. I'm grateful especially for physicians and nurses and other medical personnel in hospitals and clinics who are on the front line and sacrificing their own health and perhaps even their own lives. I find them to be heroes for me and I think about them each and every day. In fact, I don't think about them just once but several times. But during the Holy Week in which we begin with again that celebration of Jesus entering into Jerusalem, I want you to think about people who are being faithful. They might not claim a faith, but they're being faithful to what we know is the greater cause of humanity and that is to really see themselves as living in a community in which they care for all. And that certainly is a value that we hold as Christians. So as we move through Holy Week and you will receive a devotional in an email each and every day from one of our cabinet members, I want you to read the devotional and read the scripture passage that goes with it and ask yourself some questions about how you can become an even more faithful follower of Jesus. I do hope that this is a most meaningful time for you. And I know that we'll not spend it in public worship together and local churches, but we'll worship online. We'll worship silently among our families. But let this be an authentic time for you, your families, the people you love, your friends, as they seek to walk more deeply with our God in Christ. May you have a blessed week.


We had a fun night here in Houston watching Deshaun Watson and this now high-flying offense of the Houston Texans take care of the Miami Dolphins and won five in a row. Simple question, how long does this run last for Bill O'Brien's team? Well you have to appreciate them, that's for sure, because they're hard to come by. And the fact that they dug themselves the hole to come into the year, they needed a run like this to just position themselves the way that they have. I think that you look at them, they've gotten better, I mean each week with each win they have improved. These games were hard to win for them a few weeks back and then the last two games, they just rolled through Jacksonville, they rolled through the Dolphins here tonight. I mean eventually they're going to lose a game more than likely but as long as they play the way that they did tonight and the defense you know is going to be there each and every week and they can be balanced and they can protect Deshaun Watson. They can play with anybody. I really like this team, much more impressed probably after watching them tonight than I had been coming in and I liked them coming in as well. Every other team in the South at the moment is under 500, the Texans have won five straight. They have a game at Denver, then they're by. They're a team you have to pay attention to now in the AFC. For Troy M. Joe, that's it from Houston.


What's going on everyone? Sam here with Layton Sports Cards, ripping 222 Bowman Draft Sapphire Edition Baseball and 222 Penini Absolute Football boxes for Jacob L. It's a good luck here at Jacob. Let's do it my friend. We'll start with your Bowman Draft Sapphire. Vente 2. What happened? Oh God. What? Vaughn just said oh. Yellow is Jose Ramos 2 out of 99. The Dodgers. Joshua Baez 1st. Parker Messick. Taran Baker. Oh my God. Trey Lipscomb. It's going to be a purple. Denzer Guzman 8 of 10. Nice one there for the Angels. You think there's a red in these sapphires? Brooks Lee 1st. Nice one there. That'd be sweet. Oh and an orange. Cutter coffee. That is 1st. Jared Mackenzie 1 of 25. Extra parallel. Very nice. Congrats to you on that one Jacob. Wilman Diaz. Brandon Barrera. Cole Young. Brooks Monroe Dugo. Admiral Schofield. Tennessee Volunteer Legend. Admiral Schofield. 1st Jackson Holiday. Nice one there. 1st of Drew Gilbert and Jonathan Cannon. 1st Noah Schultz. Thomas Harrington 1st. Robbie Snowing. Jacob Melton. Kevin Alcantra. Ron Helmartiness. 2nd box of 22. Bowman Draft Sapphire. Bowman 1st. 1 of 1 for Cutter Coffee. That's pretty solid. 1st Lamar King Jr. Yellow. Cole Young. 67 out of 99. Nice one there for the Mariners. Pretty solid prospect for Seattle. Roberto Campos. Green is Jake Bennett. 3 of 50. Carson Milbrant and Judd Fabian. Couple of 1sts in there. 1st Dylan Beavers. Dylan Leskow. 1st.  Essentially yes. Tanner Showable 1st. Colton Couser and Kumar Rocker. 2A3 now. 1st Dominic Keegan. Nate Savino. 1 sec. Alright. 2 absolutes now. Let's do it. Let's do it. Kaboom Kaboom Kaboom. Kenneth Walker to 100. There's a Tyler Algier Rookie to 275. And Kyle Hamilton. Nice one there to 199. And the rookie premier quad. Patch Auto. Congrats on that one there. Jacob. I'm jealous of that. Very, very jealous of that. Snoop Cotter to 100. Gretel Patterson. Skye Moore. Rookie Force. I'll remember that when we're ripping Luminance. 31 out of 49. Two-Colored Patch. What have I done? And Leo Chanel. 3 out of 50. You mean when I'm ripping Luminance? Yes. That too. Davey for breaking Luminance. Luminance to 23. I'll Hamilton again to 75 on the orange. There's Derek Henry. 2-Colored. 3-Colored Patch to 25. 23 of 25. 1 off Jersey number. Cortland Sutton. That is to 100 for the Broncos. Alright. 2nd box to absolute. Good luck. It was our big time birthdays. Ron Baker and Admiral Schofield. Good Lord. And Donny. Right, of course. Let's forget Donny. Let's not forget the important one. It's pretty tall. 14 of 25. Rookie for the Jets. I know. How are you ever going to do birthday shoutouts again? You've just peaked. It's a mere weight to 275 for the Raiders. And Bailey Zappi. That is 88 of 399 for the Patriots. Now we don't have to recappy the Zappi. Very true. We don't have to. We don't recappy Zappi for personal. Oh, that. Sean hated that one. Hated that one with a passion. It was awesome. In top loaders and like 5-Row cardboard boxes probably be my recommendation. Patch my homes to 50. That too. Alvin Kamara and Darnell Mooney. That's a good point as well. Uh, Terrell Davis. We've got Groundhogs, 47 out of 49. I gotta think of the things that you don't see them. True. And nice one here is going to be a Matthew Stafford. It's an auto of me. Nice one there. Wow. Wow. Matthew Stafford in the flush. 1887 to 1903. Wow. Guys, just so you know, I met Matthew Stafford once. He doesn't. He ignores you. He ignores you. Just, just let you know. He's not a great person. Yeah. That is my big brother. Aaron Donald to 100. Kirk Cousins. There's Jerry Judy. We've got Clyde Edwards-Hilaire. 45 out of 99 for the Chiefs. And last card of the break is going to be a Jonathan Allen. Autograph 52 out of 75 for the Commanders. That will do it for the break. Thank you. Or do it for your break there. Jacob, thanks again for the support. As always, my friend and group breaks and in person. Let's get them right out to you, buddy.