I got my new chair hold on this light to right on ladies and gentlemen Y'all forgive me Want to pop in the blessed tribe haven't been able to connect with you here in a couple of couple of Weeks I feel like Tomorrow I'll be On vacation just finishing up my year just relax and give my mind right getting ready for 2021 so you know I'm not sure. I don't think I have any videos come up For the 27th through the 30th Unless I get opportunity to shoot something in the morning that I can you know pre-schedule, but if not Don't expect any videos from me Until the 31st or so 30 or for 31st So I'd be out of touch for the next few days just with the family relaxing Finishing on out this here year. So I wanted to pop in and do a little Q&A I Think I was uploading the video before I started this a little video small business Saturday and not sure if I get to do a Sunday sermon tomorrow either just cuz I think we are Playing and scheduled to leave at noon So just a little heads up and congrats to all of the new life coaches all the new certified life coaches this year You know seven billion people in the world Right now I coach about two to four people a week So it's always a lot of room a lot of people who need help want help growing progressing so the more Coaches mentors consultants that the world has to help those who are trying to go to that next level and just need some Accountability the better.  God bless you Now if you have a question put hashtag Q in front of it and it'll pop up on here I See cam. Okay popped up. God bless you cam. How do men view or see a woman with natural dreads? Nice and neat ones Well, that's kind of a it's not a one-size-fits-all when it comes to a man viewing a woman because every man has his own taste so but just in general What I will say the new turn is locks because those of us with locks We don't call them dreads no more cuz dread come its derivative of dreadful The root word of dreadful so now we call them locks all of us who got locks we call them locks and so But I know what you talking about with dreads But I called it dreads not long ago because that's what we call them Florida and somebody wrote me. Oh, it is locks so nice locks and What when you look at that to be honest with you it represents strength It represents strength when when I think of Samson who was strongest man ever I think locks, you know what when it talk about that long hair I think locks when I think of Samson.  So locks represents individuality Strength and so it takes certain type of man to appreciate a woman with locks and every man Respect them, but only certain type of man because you know your hairstyle does kind of Coincide with your personality So that's a good question, but I talk about that in my book Mrs. Right. I don't have Mrs. Right in here with me But back in the day the women who used to argue with me the most for me trying to do what I do Was women with natural hair? We used to argue with me the most and Then one time a lady told me it's because women with natural hair were more enlightened than women with relaxers And I was like, oh, okay. That's what y'all always arguing with me. I'm like ain't doing I'm trying to help But they ain't wanting to help Why do some women always get a ring? I recently saw Ariana Grande is engaged for the fourth time Well, then to be honest with you now, I wouldn't be Curious about somebody on a fourth time getting the rain, but It's different with somebody like that like a celebrity Because with because a lot of men see money a lot of men see status and probably the reason why it's probably her fourth time It's cuz she realized this is a person that's not genuine that that's not really here with my heart At their best in their best interest. They just want to be in my be in my light, you know be Plug in connect it be this, you know cookie cutter couple out of magazine. So Whenever a woman has money typically a woman has if a woman has money or status or power or position She could always she'll always have a ring She'll always get a ring at some point and a lot of women just can't tell the real from the fate Because a lot of men who go dig into and a lot of women don't realize that so When you look at it like that and then at the same time, you know some women just have that oil on them They just got that spirit. That's just a it's that's like a wife spirit and a lot of men Every man they meet want to be with them, but not every man can be mature enough to appreciate them. So a Woman ends up going through, you know multiple men to trying to find the one So that's how that happens sometimes, but As you see only chat only questions in the chat hashtag Q only questions We do that to try to keep this thing kind of clear so I could get to the question easier So you'll see the moderators deleting all extra conversation. This is not the shade room So all you know all the extra, you know commentary if it's good and positive Okay, good, but it's still get deleted just so we could try to keep the the thing Clear so I could get to the question. It's easier Go on about your business. God bless you now God bless Tony when a woman remains calm during an argument Breakup or during the silent treatment. Why do some men get upset?   You reinforcing the behavior.  It's like, oh wow She don't love me no more. I've lost my power I've lost my my influence in her life. And so that's what it is. It kind of shakes on me and up Guy was dating said his female friend invited him over 12 a.m. For drinks instantly cut them off. He still wants to exchange Christmas gifts $200 gone by to bed gone by to bed Come on Don't y'all wish y'all money for them kind of question Come on. This is a hard-earned man out here y'all donate that money to charity donate that money to charity Don't y'all wish y'all money for no question like that. Come on Come on now. Like I'll tell y'all ain't no question.  I thank you now, but come on Jessica God bless you. Hey Tony. I want kingdom and he wants normal. He's faithful Just not Holy Ghosts field. Do I stay and wait for God to mature him or let him go?  So That always let me know when we go to talk about somebody in Holy Ghosts field We just jumped off the porch just you know trying to get know the Lord and you got to realize we don't really know what the Holy Ghost is in in 2020 like it's just so many people speaking in tongues in church and You don't know if it's real or not. They be And Then get right out the church be don't call my effing phone no more. See this one. I'm tired of this s and you be like What? when you just Son the in the church. So you see I'm saying so Holy Ghosts field Don't mean you know Somebody shout in somebody, you know all falling out if the man faithful He got some kind of Holy Ghosts in them if he faithful and you always have to realize it's no two spiritual walks That's the same so never look at somebody else walk with God and compare it to yours if he ain't just blatant sinning and disrespecting God then he doing He on the right path Understand that though Hey Tony speaking from outside looking in I know coaching can be draining for you But please do not stop your videos or one-on-one coaching God bless you Cam Ain't gonna start the videos. That's not too draining But I am in 2021 gonna be taking a break. I guess you call it retiring but Michael Jordan came back from retirement, you know So it might be retiring in 2021 right now my one-on-one coaching is booked into mid-march My birthday is Early March. So I said I was gonna be retired my birthday from one-on-one just so that I could serve more people at once so And the reason why it's like if I could do videos a video could reach a thousand people If if I'm on the phone with one person I'm reaching one person for an hour Whereas I could teach a lesson for an hour and reach a thousand I could write a book for an hour in an hour and Or two hours for a little affirmations book and reach a thousand people write a book in a week and Reach a thousand people.  So if you don't beat me there I You might be out of luck on the one-on-one But I'd be here now when I say retired from coaching ain't like I'm feeling a fall-off face to the earth I still got to do the work of the Lord.   Do men lose respect for wives doing this? Ariana For one it depends on that man. Okay, how he view it and when you in marriage I'm not talking about marriage. So But me personally That's not something that I'm big on but a lot of men they swear by me personally. I Don't really want my wife doing Something that a lot of that a man go to a $2 Woman on the corner for like that on really, you know Not to say that is would be debasing The Bible don't speak to it specifically, you know In detail so it comes down to interpretation, but when you married That's when the bed is not defiled So that's to each their own on that and you have to ask your husband that you see it I mean because I'm not your husband So how would I feel about it? Your husband might feel differently and that's who you in Union with not with me. So my opinion don't matter in your marriage You should I mean and I don't I don't think any man. I don't think any man gonna look down on his wife for Pleasing him if he pleasing her whatever y'all doing. All right, this is not just not YouTube at the dark Okay, we're not trying to go there tonight. And so That I have to be a whole nother group can't be on the people channel Talking about My real God bless you not no question cold just wishing you and yours are all the best of the season and always things for But you do a blessing. I bless you now for those of y'all putting a little blue questions For the 499 I'm trying to get to him, but they disappear But y'all give him a give him a break real quick and let me answer someone in the regular chat Y'all keep pop popping up there with the great value questions and Let me answer the couple in his head chat. I had an ex I was 33 He was 29 at the time Now see this already a red flag question you had an ex so you asked him question by the ex You need to be healing on your necks and then say at the time. So this ain't yesterday So you asked him question way by the ex now come on now What y'all have to do is get beyond your ex. All right and start asking about your ex Who made an offhand comment that he stops making an effort because he already got the girl it Peeped me off. How do I respond handle this in the future? Lee the same way you did you handle it the right way. That's why he your ex you handle it the right way But that's but that let you know that's why I tell y'all stay off your back because That's how most men are if you give him the trophy before he done ran the marathon Then what's the use of running the marathon? He already got the trophy So you get on your back before he has married you for he didn't done anything for you then it's like Okay, nobody respect the reward without a process without the word Monique God bless you now lots of discussions encouraging black women to date outside their race saying successful black men are less likely to marry Than other racist thoughts Monique I'll be seeing that and it'd be a lot of black women too.  You don't tell me what to have to do Lindsey You know what that's one thing to go marry Shaniqua because I always hear you calling the n-word nothing to marry Shaniqua Get on my F-nurse Lindsey.  There's seven calls for the first seven days of 2021 and You sign up on Tony gasses Academy. It's phone calls where I'll be teaching a lesson there open up for Q&A Teleconference and you so when you go to Tony gasses academy.com you'll see it's a 2021 You click right there sign up for that for the cause you'll get the number the phone number to call in on the first but black women live me with You need that outside your race listen, you can go through the same stuff It's not that black men terrible and horrible and don't want to marry.  Don't don't think going to another race is the solution to your problem.  I know I'm a good catch.   I'm afraid he would cheat like he has done before if I abstain How can we work together on abstaining yourselves?  You said boyfriend Let me read this again Kitty you said boyfriend of seven years the video ain't free Boyfriend of seven years That man.   Y'all ain't falling in nothing.    They go on through a divorce They always people always come to me and say we was dating for seven years five years 10 years then we got married and now we just struggling it's a strength And that's because y'all was never supposed to be married because a man not gonna lead you on the shelf For those seven years if he see you as his wife So understanding that now I hate to be on here telling the truth because well, there's so much line going on online So much pandering going on online.  What's the impact of a woman's family? Is is a guy's perspective of her. What's the impact of a woman's family? Is a guy's perspective of her Okay, I get what you're trying to say And you maybe even in a guy's perspective of her. I get what you're trying to say. Um, yeah, yeah It's a heavy impact now.    Hey god bless you Birmingham, england all right Crystal prior god bless i like this man a lot. However, he doesn't have a car Should i look past those things or should i take this into consideration before we get serious? Well, yeah, take it into consideration now take it into consideration because if he don't got a car you got to First consider why he doesn't have a car now if this is a grown man Why he why doesn't he have a car because see that could be Speak that could speak to his character And when a man need a ride he's going to be amazing So you like him a lot because a man who got to walk Is going to be an amazing man if you have a car So that's what you first have to realize now because a man who got his stuff together Got his head on straight is going to be able to get a car. So if he ain't got no car It needed. Well, okay. Why don't you have a car? Do you have a license? Oh, is your license suspended? Oh, do you have a job? Oh, do you have credit? Like you need an explanation of why you don't got no car The only thing i'm trying to hear is he live in new york and everybody ride that subway. So ain't no need for no car You know, that's the only thing i'm trying to hear really other than that unless he just want to ride a bicycle for, you know exercise And he just he working on his calf muscles and he just like riding that bicycle because where he live at now, that's just something like that, but I really you know Husband and I are having trouble conceiving for two years. All tests came back normal. It's unexplained infertility He feels inadequate. So do I what to do y'all gonna need counseling sister That's counseling because see anything and see life coach won't deal with the body the body and medicine and you know medical stuff and all of that and You know depressing all of that. That's counseling.   So you remember me and just associate with the media So the answer is yes. Is it right? No, should it make you look promiscuous?   So a man assumes and so Perception is reality But see perception is the reality of the one perceiving you it may not be your reality So i'm explaining this to you to say yes, that is true, but i'm not saying that it's right. I'm not Excuseing it. I'm explaining it. So but understand it's kind of like if I ask you do gold teeth make me look hood It's like should it make me look hood? No But why does gold teeth make me look hood because most people who got gold teeth come from the hood if The people in the hamptons and knotting hill In cambridge war had gold teeth then gold teeth would represent wealth in prominence opulence But because people from the hood From the ghettos where gold teeth gold teeth look hood. You see what I mean? So black women with red hair or blonde hair It's typically not If michelle obama ward if kamala harris ward then it will be normalized because they at the top In their profession But when we see red and blonde hair you typically see it on an exotic dancer On a raunchy rapper On somebody in south carolina alabama Where the fashion sense is a little different because you're gonna have red hair blue hair purple hair blonde hair on on individuals who natural hair color Is black or dark brown? So then men just lump you in and associate Now if he takes the time to get to know you And then he finds out that you're not promiscuous now you become the exception to the rule and you break the mold now He's no longer lumping you in so the key is if you want to do something like if I had on me a diamond cuban chain right now Diamond cuban chain, but I'm giving I'm giving game and I'm talking with sense You'll be like man. Most people with diamond cuban chains are not articulate and they like rappers or thugs or dope boys But this a life coach with a diamond cuban chain Cuban length on like what's going on if I had a grill in my mouth But I'm still I'm giving game and I'm being who I am Now I start to shift the narrative And so that's what happened is you have to understand perception is reality So when I when I got started being a coach, I had six gold teeth I had four on top and I had two on the bottom That would have blocked me that would have put me in a box. Yeah, I would have carved out a little niche, but It would have put me in a box and a lot of the jobs that I got a lot of the clients that I got A lot of the opportunity that I got I wouldn't have got those with when I had dreads long gold tea and six gold teeth I wouldn't have got those why because perception is reality So understand that now. I know a lot of times y'all Barbara. God bless you now for that simple. Thank you God bless you. Latoya. Hey bless you now. Latoya I'm thinking y'all had a question y'all just blessing the brother.     I'll introduce you To multiple of my friends. We're all under 21 and you've helped us so much We're all virgins and waiting awaiting marriage as well.  You hear me keep doing what you're doing.  Okay, not english not spanglish manglish The language men speak when a man tells you that you on another level and he need time to work on himself That is manglish for You're not the one for me.  I found you back here at $15 question nine Somebody said I missed it. Hello me and my potential partner decided to fast from each other to make sure we hear God's voice In our decision to enter courtship no kissing and no until marriage sound like a good idea Yeah, that's a good idea now. That's a good idea, but I just want you to understand You may hear something different than he hear So be okay if he hears you not the one And you hear he the one Because for one nobody but God know who y'all hearing So, you know, so so Just understand that now So look some of these questions I'm gonna miss I'm trying to catch them, but I'm just one person over here And uh, so y'all forgive me Jess, how can you bless you now? How can you know for sure a man did not settle for you or with you out of convenience many men now Nowadays can be married for years and years only to leave when they feel like they reached a certain level You'll feel love you'll feel the love see love is so grand and love is so real That when it's present You're going to know it So you will know by how you feel You know, you won't have to ask anybody when a man is in love with you You won't have any Worries or concerns so love will show itself because love is is too Strong to be hidden But when you feel when you don't really feel all that love then you just kind of feel like you there Like you an accessory not a necessity Then that's when you know he settled for you And you just convene for him. He just need a help make but You're not really the woman of his dreams You're not really who he wants Joanna god bless you. I am over 60 and much blessed In all my relationships with men. Hey god bless you now. Thank you for being here Sabrina bless you. Is it my fault? I told him we should be honest no matter what He told me that he found someone very beautiful, but she was married I was so stunned that I wasn't able to leave him nice in him Um No, it ain't your fault, but you know You just don't ask for something if you don't want the answer if you don't want it So going forward, you know, don't don't ask and that what I tell y'all sometimes when I tell y'all You can't handle the truth a lot of times women y'all ask for The truth from a man and you really not ready for his truth. You really don't want his true That's why I asked my wife when we got together and once we was together and we like laid it down the line I said why you asked me how many women I had slept with Because she found out when she read my book my first book and she said because I didn't want to know the answer She's like I didn't want to I I wanted to get to know you for you and judge you for who you were And not your past and I know that if I would have asked you and there was a number I didn't like You probably would have never seen me again And that was her honest truth. She was like that was something she wanted to omit And so you got uh, you know And so my wife she never asked me what woman do you think is beautiful? Do you think this woman's more beautiful than me? She don't ask me a question like that. She don't ask me a question that she don't want to know the answer to And the answer may be in her favor, but just the odds that it could not be and you will never unhear that Just be careful what you're asked for Oh, sweet and love but god bless you Candy cane god bless you Now Miss till god bless you. Sorry. I guess I didn't give enough detail, but I've done coaching and counseling. I'm way better now I still feel a way about A way about her. Thank you so much. I love your channel um Yeah, you you need to work with the right coach then because you need to work with me You need to work with me So if you have done coaching and counseling you still feel that way Then you need to keep going till you And you keep going till you get the right person Who could really hear you and really ask you questions. That's going to move you forward That's going to move your life forward. That's going to really get you Get you going Hello, tony when you ask a guy if they're completely done For closure they ignore your question and give no response And that is intentional when a man does not give you closure That's because he wants you to remain stuck He wants you to remain stuck because if you're standing still Then a man can run in and out your life Hello, and I miss your question now the sec sec sec ck 50 Now what is that now sec sec What the country called that is I'm afraid to make plans and go after my dreams because I'm afraid my plans may go against God's plan Wrong way of thinking. Yes is the wrong way of thinking Yes, the wrong way.  God bless you. You will see God so When you make plans the plan that God got for you, that's going to work.  So I blocked him for good He ran me off, but technically he left me first. Was this ego or him telling me? I'm not the one. It was a little bit of both It was a little bit of both Hello, Tony. Oh, I seen that one As someone whose love language is physical touch how to navigate that while dating or having a boyfriend if I intend to abstain Until marriage Well, you got to you got to get to the root of why your love language is physical touch And you also got to understand that everybody love language might be physical touch But that's not the only love language I bet if a man affirm you with words and speak life into you and lift you up and you know Speaking right to you that'll feel good too Quality time is a love language. I bet if a man taking you out on a date Physical touch could be holding your hand Physical touch could be massaging your neck physical touch could be, you know, hugging you it ain't got the turn remember you have to Grab them draws And pull them down So before you get to that point You could stop You could say no, okay. I know this feel good.  He massaging that back you But that don't all necessarily got to turn in the Yeah, come on. Come on. Give me that. Oh that back row feel so good.  Let's hey calm down. Let's stop. No, we're getting a little too hot and heavy. It's all right. I'm We're not going there Just like that Breanne God bless your tony love how you break down manglish for us. Can you also please break down a man's ego? Since you want me to go and get the moon for you too But can you break down a man? It says do you want me to solve e equal mc square? says do you all right You do you want me to give you matter from heaven to break down a man ego? I will be here till We'll be here to december 26 2021 So listen here that right there you ain't gonna be able to fully understand that but you'll recognize it when you see it You'll recognize it when you see it and it's always there and it's always in play Very few men get beyond their ego very few men so Just know that But at the end of the day, you don't have to worry about a man ego What you have to worry about is how does he make you feel and how does he treat you? And if he's treating you wrong if you don't feel good and you don't feel respected and you don't feel love Then he's operating from the wrong side of his ego and that means you need to go point blank period For next god bless you now. Hey tony. Thank you for all you do here for us. What is a good course on building business? On the entrepreneurship with purpose course will bless you And then also the personal brand course will bless you Now it's principles in there, but it's not specific to any one type of business But the business principles will help you a lot Greatest love god bless you. What does a man think of a woman? in form-fitting dress Classy not trashy. My first question was miss. I know you're doing your best How patient should a woman be? While supporting a man's dream. Okay, so you know ask you two questions now, um again you know Every man perception could be a little different. They'll have a general perception but It really does not when you say form-fitting dress There's nothing wrong with a form-fitting dress, but different It's different form-fitting dresses if it's stopped at the high part of your thigh Then that sends a total different Thing in a form-fitting dress that come to your knee or to your mid calf or to your ankle so What it says overall is that this woman Is bold this woman bold enough to show every curve and crevice and cellulite of her body She okay being looked at she okay being stared at she okay being gawked over and She loved her body that she don't put together And she won't and this form-fitting dress is her Rewarding herself to say listen this woman hill got extra love on her handles Ain't no extra love on the handle just the right amount this woman over here Is insecure and shy and don't love her body. I love my body over here That's just really what it's saying to a man and at the end of the day is women who dress like Of roster suit and do not get on their bike And then this woman who dressed like a ceo of a fortune 500 company And will be on their bike in the bike seat of a chevy Riding down the highway So what what a lot of men are finding out is the women who look the most promiscuous A lot of times be the least promiscuous and the women who You know all professional a lot of times be ready to drop it like it's hot That's what a lot of men finding out Other hot patients should you be while supporting a man's dream The key with that is to identify if it's a dream or if it's a fantasy There's a difference between a man's dream and a man's fantasy. So a man's fantasy is to be a gangster rapper Just so he can get lambos and what have you a man's dream is to Do something that serves a purpose in the world Even if it's making good money, he want to make money so he could be an influence to the youth So he can mentor and and be listened to and respected because he's achieved a certain level of success Even if that's being a rapper, but he won't hit it's something he want to do with it He has a blueprint and that rapping is just you know The trojan horse to get him in To get him behind the line so that now the youth and the people are listening to him because they listen to rappers But if he just want to be A rapper so he could trick off in the club and just um make it rain. Then guess what? That's a fantasy.  I've been with my partner for 28 years married 11 years going through a divorce for 28 years married 11 year. Okay. See, uh, you know punctuation. So let's throw him off of that now 11 years going through a divorce my biological adult daughter 26 years old is not speaking to me at all. I feel bad about that, but I'm moving on husband very manipulative Well, tell her your side If you and if you're not in the wrong and if you're not nasty yourself She's 26. So she got sense and mind of her own So she might not be speaking to you for for your ways for your behavior But typically I ain't no 26 year old finna listen to her daddy.  That's just the you know, the hand y'all was dealt from the sin in the garden of eating but If you express yourself and you're not in the wrong and you lay out What her daddy did to you and why y'all in the place y'all in She at least got to read that text of that email and then do what she will with that But once you didn't spoke your peace and you did what you could do then that's on her, you know, she's grown You know, don't lose no sleep over that she's grown Tricia God bless your metta man says he's a man of God his social media pages quotes about God, but Ask me over for dinner at his house thoughts Well, I mean you met a man if y'all not dating if y'all not dating And you haven't gone on outside dates with him Then You'll need to be going to his house Until you truly know him. I always say a minimum of 10 You know a minimum of 10 Dates outside out and about y'all could walk the lake Y'all could sit downtown and have you a little cook sushi because no y'all don't eat no raw sushi How you look cooked sushi and y'all go out on a date like that You know do something that you could do with your mask on and don't go in you know That man house And and a good man of God ought to have enough sense about that and a lot of people who post all of them quotes I live with the Lord. You don't see me posting a bunch of scripts scriptures. I live for the Lord work for the Lord You don't see it in my bio, you know, because when you really buy that people going to see that on you They're gonna feel that on you they're gonna hear and see it in the way you move So a lot of men using that to get women To get women to drop their guard There's so many went men that's got all these scripts on they paid and they in full-fledged Fornication intensely and they plan with God and it's a hot corner in h e double l form And they're gonna not only would they spend eternity there and they don't get they live right But you're gonna see them suffer A whole lot here on earth for playing with the Lord a lot of these guys just shout out. They're just They're crazy.  I've been going on dates with this guy once a week We talk daily. He pushes me closer to God.  So the proof gonna be in the foot You'll know the tree by the fruit it bear. So In order for a man not to be a distraction is you need to be staying living right doing right He need to be encouraged you on your right walk on your righteous walk And also the other way, you know, a man is not a distraction is when you're not Putting down what you need to be doing to move your life forward to talk to him meaning Don't be on work Don't be at work talking to him when you're supposed to be working And if you get caught on that phone, you can get rolled up Don't be Talking to him when you're supposed to be studying so you could pass your test because you're in school That's when a man is a distraction But if he's not getting in the way of your Progression then that's not a distraction Shanice God bless you. Hello Tony. I broke up with my boyfriend in september because he did not believe in the holy bible He wanted to propose on his birthday december 22nd But my dad ruined it by telling me how do I go about this gone by your business? What do you mean?  You don't don't you ain't no going by this? He don't believe in the holy You don't believe in the bible Well, let me get my purse up I got to get a more expensive purse because the handle always gets stuck when it's time to go You know what? This is just gonna be a clutch. This is a clutch tonight Uh, you don't believe in the holy bible. Okay It was a nice note. You know what actually gonna get this candle. I just brought over here up. I'll see you later. Okay He don't believe in the bible. I got to go You don't believe in the bible. Okay. Yeah, I gotta go gotta go that That's gotta go I'll see you later Get your purse on the rock Listen got to go. Uh, that's the last thing you deal with how you go about this Let's put the shoes on go on by it like that right now. That's how you go about that Don't deal with no man that do that think he bigger than god if a man don't believe in the holy bible You hear me? That's the worst thing you could do that is that You'll be chopped up in somebody's freezer Come on now No, don't play with that now. Don't do not play with that. Ain't no other Does it get proposal? No, keep that you need to propose to the bible. You need to ask god for forgiveness Uh-huh got to go I ain't new don't play with it Baby girl. God bless you Tony can a man fully be over a divorce within a matter of months and he's jumped into another marriage already He's been planning to marry her. I guess he acts so unbothered by the divorce Um Technically no, but technically yes like if he'd been done he'd been gone way before the divorce Then he he was healing in the midst of the situation ship. So then when it was over he was already done Recovery and amber god bless you. Thank you for always showing up to bless us ain't bless you So understand that right there. So yeah, he could be over it. He could be over it But if he already jumped in another marriage He just got a lot of red flags going on even if he is over it it just Common decency and common sense you'll take like a year at least to just heal be by yourself focus on you work on you This man he he got a lot of issues. So Get it far from him as you can Uh Yamola god bless you An old friend of my boyfriend recently Reconnected with him an old friend of my boyfriend recently reconnected with him They were close But he said she saw him as a brother and she is in a relationship. He wants us all to meet and go on double dates thoughts um if if she got a man and y'all gonna double date That kind of cuts into it a little bit that kind of make things a little better, but i've seen crazy things happen in situations like that so You still got to tread lightly with that because some see because when people have a soul time They'll use their relationship as a You know disguise To get back in touch with each other and still in the feed at soul time So my hard and fast rule is no friends of the opposite sex when you in a committed relationship colleagues Associates that's not friends That's happy birthday. Merry christmas. Happy hanukkah. Whatever y'all serve whatever y'all do celebrate Uh happy easter That's colleagues associates But sitting on the phone chopping it up. How you doing how things going? Is that what you really want to do?  That's friends none of that none of that because She could be using that boyfriend as a disguise to get back in with your man and then your man they meeting up And the whole time they think they brown sugar Like the movie and they planning on how they finna lead y'all and be together. So listen I'm tell you as a man. I don't have now female friend Not a not a one. I got female clients Who they could text me a business question? But ain't no on the phone just shooting the breeze. How you doing? How things going? How business going? So what's your goal for 2021? No, ain't none of that ain't none of that because you can't play with that because humans the way humans work It's to get to that next level. You mean somebody getting on their back And so all that right there and it's a and it's the people that swear they got friends of the opposite sex and all that but Just don't know no better. Just ain't little long enough. Just the person they made they moved yet Or they look like the back of this cell phone case and so they friend really really truly do not want them And so understand that Humbling great for god bless. I got caught up with a married man He made it like he was with this white hit this wife for his daughter He is muslim. I am born again. I stopped it before Now we remain friends. I have feelings for him now though. What should I do?   You need to be talking to the lord You need to be praying as for forgiveness for falling for a married man Ask that you be healed that you be washed that you be cleansed. You need to get on my mentor dot life You've seen coach amber right here coach amber who?  You see what i'm saying You're messing yourself up um Fire group a y'all forgive me. It's just too many questions coming.  I don't even know how to spell google.  This is a free Q&A So if you is too impatient to put your question in the thing and wait till i see it Don't send money for an answer because if i miss the question I don't want to hear it in the chat. Oh, you missed my question. You missed my question When you see it's a thousand questions over here now. All right Fire group of god bless. Did that say fire group it? Let's say something totally different. You might want to work on that name Now that might mean something else over there. I don't know now. Hello tony this man I met a few years ago just started starting calling and having casual casual conversation last month Keep asking to assist me with doing work at my house. What should I do? No gone by the bit Gone by the bit because a few years ago and now y'all just not talking he wanted he would talk to you a few years ago Gone by the bit and then you had this man in your house Don't ever let a man. You don't know in your house this man will be in your house Hey, i'm gonna work over this over here and while you tackle that over there that way You know We work at the same time we kill two birds with one stone because you know me I'm from the street. So the way we do stuff we like to split and divide and do That thing, you know, this man putting cameras in your house This man got a camera in your shower. You don't even see it This man got a camera in your bathroom.  Take it off right there. Hey, you got out the view. Hey, you see what i'm saying That's what a man to do to you now That woman that report on espn. She was staying at a house need somebody Come come in my wife be respecting me like i'm in he'll be with presidents it's like Girl, it's your house.  Why i told my little house Why i told my little house Great I'm getting started now. Now. I don't forgot what i was saying Queen to walk in hell got what i was saying Oh, i was saying the young lady who reported for espn She was in a in a hotel room or something like that and the man was watching her The man had a camera watching that. So listen, don't let no man come in your house till you know him You now about need to know his social security number just so you can mess it credit up if he do something to your house And let god bless your height on it Is there ever a time where a man truly needs time to get himself together say after a divorce? Yes There is a time Anytime a man come out of relationship. He need time to get himself together But a man will get himself together while he's with you if he feels like you're the one If he don't feel like you the one Then he He gonna need time to get himself together Now y'all hold on right quick whole question. I'm trying to catch these questions some questions. I missed After talking with a new guy daily for a month and we both stopped communicating Recently for three days should I call and check on him or let him pursue you let him pursue you I'll we let the man pursue you Hannah god bless you how to end the soul tie god bless you and thank you go to tonigasteracademy.com I got a free course called soul ties. I believe it's free So because that's too that's too much for him T the origin god bless you he is telling a man Hey, it's telling a man calmly what goes around comes around Amasculating him if so why? Um, it's not about a masculine him. It's it's actually threatening him So what you the last thing what you want to do is tell a man, you know What go around come around Because what he might deserve is a a bus hitting him while he crossing the street And that's what he made picture. So now he's gonna feel like that's a threat And so he may he may call that a masculine him. But yeah, that's kind of like threatening him because What's already understood don't need to be explained. He already know what go around come around.  I'm single and been abstinent for 10 years How do I begin to attract the man for me? I stay in a small town and want someone on the same page as me Since you're gonna need coaching. Okay after 10 years Have 10 years. What's up? You're gonna need to look. Oh, you're gonna need to look coaching says 10 year We can't address. We can't address 10 years in two minutes. So you're gonna my mentor dot like my mentor dot like Hey, Tony, thank you so great that much. You're so right. I've used your my mentor dot life before and it helped me I'm going to move on. God bless you.  Thank you for opening my eyes or a real god bless you now Angela bless you for the blessing you sent. Okay. I've seen that question Jenae bless you. I like a 50 year old man. I'm 28. I block him to get myself together He's smart divorce. No kids. He wants to marry and have kids. How do I get a ring? Jenae I'm going by your business. That's your daddy If you 28 if I read this thing, right 50 year old man. I'm 28. That's your daddy classmate He older than your daddy That that's no, that's your daddy class. That's your daddy classmate You get a ring for this man.  Hey, classmate Uh, what you doing with my knee? Y'all y'all what? Y'all they need them a classmate Not not listening now. I I ain't trying to put my business in the street, but I'm dealing with a little bit of ed I know he gotta be dealing with ed Don't call hold on. I need I got the gold You see what I'm saying? That right there says, please Please we finna do Now when I get on the board or coaching when they get ready to regulate coaching I'm finna have them implement Baby powder slaps the way you just There's every cert every night in the client got to get a little bit of baby powder But sometimes just talking ain't gonna do it for you. Somebody might need to just To get that register going says come on now Like who you follow online? Do you follow all these young ladies online who got sugar daddy? It's like come on.  I said don't get that desperate nice So the issue right there is you got daddy issues. You got daddy issues And you looking for your daddy. That's what you have to understand.  I'm gonna tell y'all what my wife do Y'all hold your question for a little second now y'all hold your question for a second Hold your question for a second now if you send them money question you just you donate All right, I said hold your question don't send no money question right now Hold let me tell y'all what my wife do See my wife she do this thing. Well She used her energy her feminine energy she used her feminine energy so That she remains a prize like my wife. She respect me but she don't Kiss the ground I walk on And so and and my wife she's not nasty. We've been married for Going on 14 years.     She is a human being and she respect herself as a human So anything we do she got to feel like doing it whether it's talking whether it's On the date whether it's our private time as a as a couple She got to be all engaged and that's and I have to earn that So she don't she's not no robot for me It ain't just I pay y'all attention all day and then I just could go get my wife on her bike Hey girl, give me a girl come up girl. Give me some of that. No, I have to make love to her mind She own her body and yes, her body belongs to me But I got to respect her and I still have to serve her I got to love her. I have to earn her still I earn her every day She earned me every day. We still courting each other. So that's why you see me Get giddy when my wife come around. That's why I look at her the way I look at her because she's never Debased herself to be a love slave to be a robot she still Carried herself with love and respect and I might be like Hey girl Girl come on. Give me a piece of that You know, I might say something like that wrong to you and she'll be like Boy, I got to go. I I'm already running late. I got to go. I'll see you when I get back That's how she is whereas a lot of women they will with tears in their eyes Feeling like nothing get on their bike thinking this gonna keep a man faithful Let me tell you the more you do for a man the more likely you are to be cheated on Y'all ain't hit me. Y'all ain't hit me.  I don't curse. That's why I said ducking And I ain't and that's not a substitute for the f word Who always Shucking and jiving those the women getting cheated on Because what's intriguing to a man Is when a woman knows who she is And she do what she want to do how she want to do it when she want to do it So 14 years in my wife not going to bumblebee triple x to get no tricks from her Because bumblebee triple x don't have nothing on my wife So whatever my wife feeling like That's what she's feeling like and she ain't going to know another woman to say hey How you do this how you do that, you know, how you pleasure your man Please your man know because all that common sense All that common sense so it depends on what she's feeling like Because everything that bumblebee triple x When I'm saying that name I'm that's like I'm saying that's like a porn star or whatever Everything that she capable of The woman who do all the cooking and cleaning everything that they capable of The woman who know how to do business in the board room Everything that any other woman is capable of my wife is capable of But her response Is a response to my action So if I have inaction Then she's not going to be bending over backwards and serving me if I'm not doing right by her And that has been one of the secrets to the success of our marriage is my wife has kept her identity She's not a slave to my ego. She's not a slave to my Sex drive. She she don't work for me. She worked for god She ain't just You know doing and and that right there that's intriguing to me because he a real man He wants a challenge real men. We want a challenge We don't want a floor mat a real man don't want no do-girl a real man Don't want no robot a real man want a woman who that if we feeling hot and heavy But we ain't made love to the woman mind We don't want no woman to wear when we feel a hot and heavy and she got a migraine. She said, okay Come on. Let's just do it. Just or she pretend she don't got a headache to be on her back A real man don't want that A real man want a woman that's gonna say look, I'm not feeling good tonight I got a headache tonight.  Well, how can I solve this? Okay, she got a headache She stayed up late last night Doing laundry and preparing lunches. So tonight I'm doing the laundry and I'm preparing lunches So that that that way she could be done by 9 30 and she feeling good She could go to bed tonight because she was tired from staying up late last night She go to bed tonight. Then when she wake up, she's fully rested.    He earned that level of treatment So when you give him everything that he have not worked for Because see one thing about real men is we understand that it is of the essence That we work for a woman's heart So if a man not working for a woman's heart, he don't appreciate a woman who just give herself to him But see a grown boy Wants a woman who does not know her worth a grown boy wants a woman who's going to be a do-girl Who's going to be a robot because he don't want to have to sacrifice He don't want to have to give her anything He just won't her to literally just please him and be there for his every whim and her brain scheme and his sex drive So she literally is no different than a prostitute or a concubine That's what grown boy and the grown boys are flourishing today and that women are being okay With threesome.  You're not that's not going to keep a man That's the way to lose a man because you're feeding his lust and lust is not like thirst When you feed lust it gets stronger In order to quench Lust you have to starve it so When you feed lust it gets stronger and now he wants more Now he don't want just one woman. He want two women. Now. He don't just want two women He won't three women now. He'll just want three women He won't each of y'all lick in a different part of his body Then he wants y'all doing stuff today. Then he won't this then he won't that then he wants you in the back seat Then he wants you in the airplane Uh bathroom, then he wants you on a private jet Then he wants you in the library when you feed lust it gets strong and strong and strong And so that's why you see these women who bending over backwards kissing a man behind Serving this man because he got money or status or or just a good talk game or a good D game and she's serving him.  Thank you ma'am Ain't no do what I say when I say do it ain't no jump and they ask how high It's no you got to come correct or don't come at all and a man fall in love with that kind of woman and so Y'all listening to jezebel's Y'all listening to jezebel women telling you put on heels Look sexy have feminine energy. They confuse and feminine energy with Being bait on a hook With being lusted after that's not feminine energy feminine energy could be sweats with temmelin boots Feminine energy is a mindset. It ain't a perfume smell. It ain't an outfit feminine energy That's how you see yourself. Do you see yourself like a queen?  You got to be worked for when you get to that place That's when you get the best from a man But when you come and you serving a man and you on your bank and you giving to a man and he ain't even earned that level of you Now he don't respect you. That's what y'all got to understand That's what you got to understand So a couple y'all came in now see some people they don't hear the instruction because They'd be watching the video they come in and they don't they're not actually watching the live They asking what I said five ten minutes ago because they just hopped on you could pick up, you know where I was So i'ma grab a cup of tea her question. Hopefully I got that pointer crawl My wife she packing for our trip. I said baby, can I help you pack? She said no, you can't help me pack child Because she know how she do the packing and that's just her that's her, you know, she she good with Um So she told me no you could do a live because see I might not have no videos for the next three or four days So i'm doing a lot of night just to you know get some of the questions in Sarah god bless. I got engaged to a great man today Y'all got engaged there and you on here on the live? I got engaged to a great man today Single mom and stand off my back. You are doing the work of the lord and help me out Of a talk divorce. Thank you lord. Thanks on a god bless. Hey listen now. You see how what sarah doing?  They enough What what else you want? Oh, you want some extra soy sauce in there? Okay They enough twerking over the food. They got the thong on They in the uh, uh, uh, they got the music playing and they in the uh At this time of night They in there doing all that or you want some wine or you want some water now or what else I could do for you Give me that microphone They doing all that this is the hill got engaged today. She on the lie This is the only lie Give knowledge I had to read that again. I got engaged to a great man today. This is the only lie After she got engaged, you see what I'm saying? She let that man know like listen ain't your property Okay, just cuz we got engaged don't mean I'm finna be sniffing your booty 24 7 No, bro. Go on about your business now. I got something to do. I got a lie that's on tonight So guess what? He gonna respect her. He gonna respect her space. He gonna respect her mind because she know who she is Evil god bless. I broke off our engagement for a year and we have been back together since august Should I wait for him to propose or can I wear my engagement ring back? He is in Kenya and I am in Canada Tiff, I'm gonna tell you this for life now It's gone by the bill Gone by the bill Gone by the bill Gone by the bill The man in Kenya He in Kenya And you broke off y'all and gave it for a year. So you was able to do without him for a year For a whole year. You was able to do without him So Gone by the bill Okay, and and you in Canada You can walk around with garbage bags on he won't know he in Kenya. So definitely Definitely do not Winner rain because he has not Asked you to marry him again He earned you the winner rang again. He earned your love again. You said I mean So And since I'm gonna tell you that long distance for a man That that kind of long distance Kenya to Canada that kind of long distance that relationship is a figment of your imagination Their relationship not even real. I hate to tell you that that too real for tv is too real for this channel I know y'all believe Listen sis When you listen to all these women's stories You barely could trust a man that lived with you A man that lived with you still cheap What you think a man on another continent is doing That's that's that's not your band That's not that's your pen pal Pen pen pal Meaning your writing buddy that y'all just write letters y'all intercontinental Pen pals. That's not a relationship That is not a relationship relationship You active you in person. You could see each other. You could watch him. You could drive by his place To see if another car there And kenya y'all on two total server. He could have a whole wife And kid and you wouldn't know it Y'all time zones completely different.  I said Come on in if you are alone this relationship Y'all more than a four-hour drive apart.  How do you know When to leave and it's not a mistake. You'll regret example.  All right knife and to do this All right Parkour and get stale trying to watch some kind of movies. I feel like I've seen that movie though But the fact that I can't fully remember let you know And y'all got to start hanging on to your movies. All right That's that's the problem with a lot of people is you basically like decisions off of movies And yes, it's all right Stop that And then to listen if you feel like leaving it's never a mistake Because a man that's for you He's not going to push you away If he for you And if you leave it's never a mistake because even if you not gone forever Even if y'all get back together because he does the work Then he had to earn you back So it's never a mistake when you feel like leaving Always if you feel like leaving It's time to go because he obviously pushing you to that point Currently separated for seven months due to his infidelity He has an apartment and we have kids He calls every day keeps check on me seems like he's trying to keep me stuck while entertaining others And you would be Correct Alice for 500 You would be correct If he entertaining others, but he calling you every day, then that's exactly what he's doing keeping you stuck so If he cheated on you and y'all been apart for seven months, what you have to do is treat this like a business relationship This now has to be like a business relationship to where he can't just call you when he called you you let The child answer the phone or you call him on facetime But you let you put the phone in front of the child face and that's where his relationship need to be With the child not with You so understand that it becomes business at that point How should women respond once we receive a genuine apology from our man after three days of using the power of silence When she is still disappointed Um, if you receive a genuine apology You know you say thank you for You know doing that that means a lot for you to be man enough to apologize and to express that and so you know I need to see actions that follow that so if you're going to be with him and you plan you're not planning on leaving You just would be in silent for those three days The apology really does not mean anything because a genuine apology Is not words coming out of a mouth a genuine apology is the actions that follow the words that came out of his mouth so You really are not responding until you see the actions that Happen over the next three to six months Then you're responding and what I mean by that is when you have to Take a little break from a man and put him on that type of silent Treatment the three days When you have to do that that means that when you take him back everything need to be going slow-mo You need to be going slow-motion.  He got an entry level job. How much time do I give to see if he has ambition and motivation? well, it's it's uh It's less about ambition and motivation and more about his character and integrity So what you need to be looking at is does he smoke? Does he get drunk? Does he gamble? Does he curse? Even though that's smaller does he curse? Does he has he mentioned nasty movies pornography? Does he watch that?  Pressuring you to sleep with him Those are the things you need to be focusing on And because that first comes that's more important and if he has that then If he has that then him getting the job shows some ambition Even though it's entry level, but you also got to ask him why you got an entry level job So you need to look into his past to see if it's red flag so What's the reason for a reason for a 36 year old man getting an entry level job? So understand that okay, so it's a lot to go into that as bigger than just ambition Um beauty how to heal from an aren't a relationship 11 years two children and moved out of state with him Six years. He left three times told me It's my fault. He cheated You'll need therapy, you know as life coaches. We don't deal with Uh Labels that's a clinical term. That's although y'all misusing it a lot of times uh A lot of people misusing it because that is a clinical term But a lot of people throwing it around you're throwing you're willy-nilly slinging it everywhere Even though it's being overused as a life coach I'm not trained to deal with clinical terminology Clinical language because that's a diagnosis that comes from you know, somebody certified in those behaviors But uh, somebody made that word. This the first year I've been doing this 13 years. This the first year. I've heard So many people use the word Never before have I had a client say that word but somebody made that thing go viral Somewhere around last year the end round last year Somewhere somebody made that word go viral and now that is everybody's solution. That's everybody diagnosis for the x and I'm just like wow And but a lot of the time what y'all be diagnosing be every man So I'm like, okay I guess every man is one of those because what y'all describing is every man I've ever met a lot of time El Renee got this high Tony could you actually read if she would do a q&a with you? Maybe on the anniversary of when a woman's influence was published. Also. Have you all considered to do another audio? for which reads boys, thanks um No, we haven't considered doing another audio for it just because it's it's not our book It's published and the publisher, you know, they probably ain't gonna redo it because it's just probably a lot of work Probably work and money and stuff like that that the publisher don't want to invest and um And then as far as her being on here If I ask her she'll do it But also I know If she wanted to do it, she'll tell me she wanted to do it So I really don't ask her to do my my ministry because if she don't feel Call to answer questions Then I don't ask that of her and and she may have her own reasons why she Don't really see what we did the q&a we did that was kind of almost like a promo obligation with the publisher to show that You know, she helping promote the book Um, so that was more so business than her wanting to do it But she just don't like the limelight.  She's like Living life and actually doing it versus talking about it You know, I teach on it because that's what i'm called to but it's not her calling It's not her gifting and so a lot of people ask me that but Yes, it could be good for business But i'm not focused on it being good for business A lot of people drag they spouse into What they do To make more money because people like to see couple goals relationship goals which If I brought my wife in working with me a lot every day Our income probably a quadruple Because people just love to see that kind of stuff, but we're not in this for the money We really about living genuine life and the more that you put your relationship on the front street You could have One interaction that the two of you understand perfectly But other people read into it as some tension Or are they reading to it as?  Oh Oh and then you got all these people with all kinds of spirits in the comments speaking on your Relationship and words have power And so now when you put your relationship on the front street You open yourself up for attacks from the enemy And that's what the devil won't that's why you see most relationships who do reality tv They disintegrate not long after We've seen one relationship survive Perceivably, we don't know what's happening behind closed doors and that's rare one and his wife justine If that's her name, that's the only couple that I've seen Successfully From what we could see we don't know what they go into behind closed doors But they have not gone through no public fallout scandal or divorce every other relationship that you See that go on tv you later hear something about some cheating some some kind of stuff Because when you open yourself up and you put yourself out there the devil going to go to work because he want to get that that victory so for me A lot of them are working with this lady and she said Tony I tell my kids treat your relationship like a house And I use that and I expounded upon that and I and I even put it in my book I think make it work and that's how me and my wife do we don't tell all our business. We don't show everything Y'all see probably 10 percent of what we do Probably 10 percent y'all see and that's because I do this so I understand how this work And so that's I and see People will pay for a ticket to watch you set yourself on fire and jump off a cliff and I refuse for the real love that I've built to be entertainment or to be fodder for evil spirits because it's genuine people that want to know but If you know, you know Because you could just look at her pictures You could hear my story and what I say Because the thing about it is because this is my gift I articulate What she does and she don't even know she's doing it. So a lot of women say Hey chari need to give us the game, but it's not a game For chari a gaskins. It's not a game. That's who she is that her life She don't even know what she's doing like she she ain't write this down or she don't read She ain't reading a book about this. It's not on her.  That's why I could tell you she wouldn't even be able to tell you As good as I tell you because she just being authentic and just being her It ain't no game. It ain't something she's playing. That's just who she is That's who she became loving the lord walking with the lord, you know living and loving herself. So understand that I articulate and expound upon things that She don't even know that I know this She don't even know what I explained to y'all tonight I've never even explained that to her in full detail like that.  I'm just living, you know So understand that about my wife and I'm serious about that because see me I also understand that I could deal with this I could deal with this But I love her and I'm protective over her and it's nasty spirits and if one person says something That hurt my wife That have her crying I'll be trying to find that person And take them off the face of this earth and I know people say that's extreme and that's crazy But god know my heart That right there I love her the way christ lord of church.  She see what women Who their husband is in the spotlight and then they come out into the spotlight She see what they go through and she told me she said I'm not that type of woman. I ain't built like that I'd be ready. I bashed a woman head in if she come trying me disrespecting me because that's just how she is She's not with the games either and that's why our relationship worked because she don't play games So I got to respect her and so A lot of people think that I'm rough that I'm tough my wife.  She's not bought no games and So it's also me protecting her so that she don't have to go off on nobody And have to read nobody left or right Because she didn't know how she didn't get it a few time, but just nice in a nice way So y'all understand that everybody who's seeing this right here You could go follow my wife on instagram you she posts on her stories every day You see our life. You see my other half So you see how she is with our sons you see all of that You'll see all of that But me dragging her in the coaching and speaking and teaching That may never happen when she says she's ready I'm ready, but until then Because you got to be built for this because because you deal with a lot of evil spirits when you do it Just seen a god bless you now I broke up with my player ex-boyfriend that didn't want to commit He is now back and behaving a lot better. What are the signs? He is genuine and what are the red flags? um It's it's you know, it's really no blatant signs because Every man gonna play a role So he may not be genuine but playing the role of a genuine man The only thing that you could tell Is with time So a man can only fake for so long.  That's when you see if he really want to be there That's when you see that So be patient Don't just roll out the red carpet. Let him prove himself. Let him work. Let him court you Let him serve let him lead in love Pinky pink. God bless you. I'm dating a man who has his own business I'd like to know if I should keep dating him We've been together for nine months. The problem is His longest relationship was two years. I broke up with him, but he came back and together again I'm says, I don't know if y'all to keep dating him Because me he didn't he ain't said nothing that he did wrong. All you say he got a business. So You know why you broke up with him You know what I mean? So I that that ain't no detail for me to understand what's going on.  Thank you Much for your response.  Hey, Tony.  Thank you and God bless. Hey, thank you Thank you Keep watching. I your Bella bless. I found out last week my ex of 11 months has someone else He says I never meant anything. I know I must move on and let it go. Why does it feel like he got a pass? Because you can't see his behind the scenes. So that's why it feels like that You don't know what he's going through But that's why you can't worry about what he's going through and you got to worry about yourself Tori God bless you more and more guys today believe leading financially or taking complete care of a woman is simping How should women approach finances with men? Approach your finances If if a man feel like that Is being a simp then that's when you know, that's a grown boy But also You got to understand if he's saying he don't want to do financially For a girlfriend because a man leading financially and doing all that financially is a wife benefit So when you dating you supposed to be taking care of you and yours and he taking care he hit his and then But you need to understand that he believes In providing he believes his check goes to the household And it pays all the bills and all y'all money is one in marriage And that y'all money go into a pot it take care bills and y'all get y'all separate allowance So that you could buy what you want to buy he could buy what he wanted to buy He could shop for you without you knowing what he's getting and vice versa But it's not that oh, we're gonna split all the bills down the middle and then he made way more than you Know all y'all money come in to a pot when you marry So you just need to understand his mindset about it And if he believed that that that him leading financially is being a simp like him providing is being a simp Then that's let you know He a grown boy with mommy wounds or daddy wounds or ex-girlfriend wounds And he on youtube listening to the quote-unquote alpha males and mixtile men and red pill men Which is all which is a lot of them is lame They lames they they lost they hurting they them been dog died mistreated because they were sniffing a woman booty And the woman ain't want them But they wanted her for her body her booty and her beauty Instead of looking at her character, then she cheated on them and then not a ups They got upset.  He likes every picture I post we had a little something 10 years ago But lost touch due to me moving away. He still likes my pictures and i'm not sure if he's taking He has not sent me A flirty dm is he interested in me? um Not necessarily Not necessarily he could just be a nice guy. He could just be wanting to be nice and just kind of interact with you He could just think that that's what you do on social media He might not really understand social media So he see the heart there he could be liking every one of your pictures and every one of 10 other women pictures You see what I mean? So you can't read into social media if a man don't come to you and say hey I've been you know looking at you We we know each other from years ago And I really want to connect with you and build with you and and I want to know if you're single Until he says that is nothing. Don't look into it. Don't lose no sleep over it.  He dated married women before as long as relationship was two years. Should I keep dating him?  What is he showing you now?  But if you You know jumping ship just because you scared something might happen Then you never gonna find love because every man got to pass Every woman got to pass But hey, God bless y'all.   Lord willing for tomorrow And then but monday tuesday and Wednesday Um I'm gonna be on vacation, you know And uh going out going old utah to the snow My wife and my son's never seen snow So, uh, we're going out there You know be with with the old folks out there in old utah And um, they didn't be back And so I get back to work And I know here y'all telling all that even though you finna be gone Hey, come right on over. You know, well, you think I live I got 1015 addresses And 24 hour security. So come on Come on get laid down 24 hour security give me So hey, God bless y'all and um, I'll be back next week If you know me personally don't if you text me email me You ain't heard you're not gonna hear from I've been off all this week So any y'all know me personally if you didn't text me or email me And I ain't you ain't heard from and wait till after the new year January 2nd The send your message again and send your email or your text again.  We'll talk soon


Hi everyone, Joe for jaskiescasebrakes.com. Happy Wednesday, happy hump day, coming at you with some 2022 Tops Pristine Baseball. Four box pick your team, number six, all card ship, some potential for some really nice stuff in here. A big thanks to everyone here for making this happen and your part of the promo too. Details on jaskiescasebrakes.com. Ryan Harrell, last spot mojo with the Royals. Good luck to him, good luck to everybody. Thank you. Now, remember we marked this six, so we know that they're from the same case, so let's get this started. Some of you may remember a lot of packs to open here, that's what they did, otherwise this break would be pretty, a pretty quick break, but a lot of packs to work through. This is like the size of a bowman draft like Super Jumbo Box by the way, a lot going on here. I think we did this, did we do this first half before the national? I'll hide those in case cards back there. I think this might be a pre-national break. Right, Oliver has the A's. Yeah, Conseco seems to be pretty common throughout these breaks. Jason opened the second half all the way around. That can't be right. I'm doing the second half. Pick your team six, Pristine, or did he do the first? That's my writing, I think. We did the first half two nights ago. I'm very confused now. Pick your team four before, well either way, here's some more Pristine. This is Pristine six, I marked that on that case, that's my writing. Maybe there is a rogue case, a rogue case of Pristine that's out there, so he did number four. What happened to number five? I did number five. This is the right one. All blur is together for me now. Yeah, whatever, just get in that Conseco. What's on, at the Hall of Fame, I was at Cooperstown last week, Ryan, and there was a little section of the Hall of Fame that was playing that bit, that old who's on first, what's on second bit, in its entirety. There was a, it's kind of hard to explain, but basically near that station, where they were doing that, there's like a little TV screen of that bit and a little bench you could sit on and watch. Just a little, just maybe a handful of steps over was a bookstore. And there was this girl working, sitting at the register of the bookstore. I wonder if whoever works there is just driven crazy by hearing that on repeat over and over again, for hours on end. Or maybe you just block it out at some point, but that would drive me bananas. I think, that is number 50 out of 50, I was like, that looked a little different. Rob Chet going to Lujay's Michael Ossia, nice O'Neal Cruz rookie card. You know, Josiah Gray's actually been having a really nice season. I know pitchers don't sell as well as their, their hitting counterparts. He ended up going a six and a third, scattered seven hits, five strikeouts, two earned runs, not bad. Here's the other bits, there's Luis Gonzalez to 99 for the Diamondbacks. It'll be for Tanner and a Jesse Winker, a Winker, 15 out of 50 for the Reds, Austin with the Reds. And we've got a Steve Carlton, nice. Maybe a little, a little ink right there or something like that. But nice Steve Carlton jersey and on card autograph. I've not heard of Kodai Senga, might be another Japanese international coming to that LB. I did not see the steroid asterisk area. I, oh no, I did see that. Didn't have a, didn't have a natural asterisk, but they did a, who has the filly, Howard with the filly, there you go Howard. They did have a, they did have a little mention of it. Tigers fire their manager too? I know they fire their GM today. I didn't realize they fired their manager as well. All right, the encased cards, Shane Bieber, I guess they're clearing out the front office and the coaching staff, 38 out of 50. Guardians, Howard, although I don't think they're going to make the playoff. I don't know why they would, they just let them play out the season. Paul DeYoung for the Cardinals, Nicola Plant, J.D. Martinez for the Red Sox, that'll be for Nester, another Luis Gonzalez encased to 75, Tanner with the Diamondbacks, Joe Morgan, part of the Big Red Machine, 24 out of 50. That'll be for Austin and Captain Jack Flaherty. That will be for Nick and the Cardinals, there you go, Nick. Nice, good start, next box. Oh, Rex Menth GM, not the manager, all right. So what is going on in the baseball world today? It's a final in San Diego, Padres pounding out 13 runs. I guess they had a seven run inning, beefy giants.  Aaron Judge Homer watch, he hit another one today. I think he's at what, 44, 45 homers now? In extras, the Angels beat the As, five to four. Cubs beat the Nationals four to two. Brewers in extras, beat the Reyes four to three. Yeah, Ryan Heralting, Mets are good. That's what's happening in baseball, they sure are. They beat the Reds 10 to two, improving to 73 and 39. And that's it for the finals, and we've got a few games in progress with it. We've got the Marlins leading the Phillies two nothing, two nothing in the top of the fourth. Rain DeLay in Baltimore, Blue Jays and O's have not gone underway yet. Braves in Red Sox, scoreless in the bottom of the third. Guardians leading the Tigers three nothing in the top of the third. And I think there's still some games that are about to happen, haven't started yet. I think White Sox at Royals, they're about to start in about 10 minutes. Rangers Astros are about to start. Cardinals Rockies on the schedule two. Pirates are in Arizona and my Dodgers hosting the Twins. Yeah, then Mets are going to be pretty scary in the post-season. I mean, Jake DeGrom looks pretty electric right now. It's going to be pretty scary. Rex is already asking about biggest freeings in the off-season.  But there's still baseball to be played. Blue Jays and Mariners are leading the Wild... Remember, there's extra Wild Cards now. Blue Jays and Mariners have the top two Wild Cards spots. Rays and Orioles have Wild Cards spots, but the Guardians, Twins, half a game behind a Wild Cards spot. Coggle White Sox are pretty close to two games behind. Red Sox are a little far away, four and a half games back. In the NL, Braves and Phillies, Braves seem like they have a kind of a lock-ish on the Wild Cards spot. Phillies, half a game ahead. Padres with a Wild Cards spot.  And Giants are seven and a half games behind. So they're going to have to do some work if they want to get there. There's Juan Soto Nationals edition. Not that the Cubs are going to be in the free agent market anyway, Rex. Keep developing that young talent. That's what they need to do. Corbin Burns to 99 for the Brew Crew. That's going to be for John. And a Freddie Freeman, Jersey and Autograph. Slice of a Star, Jersey and Auto. These look pretty cool. Adam with the Braves, 47 out of 50 on that one. Nice one for the Bravos. Kyle Schwerber, 55 out of 99 for the Bow Sox. Nester with the Bow Sox. All right, now your encased cards. We got an Eloi Jimenez for the South Siders. That goes to Howard. 41 out of 50. Jonathan India for the Reds, Austin. 44 out of 75. Videl Bruhan, rookie card. That will be for the Rays. Ricky for the Rays. Got Jackson Kaur, rookie autograph for the Royals. Ryan Harold, last but not the mojo. 70% of the time, hits 100% of the time. Willie Mays, Willie Mays Hayes. That goes to Sean Healy and the Giants. And we got the Polar Bear. He looks fired up right there. Peter Lanzo. Yeah, let's go. 28 out of 99 for the Metropolitan's. That'll be for Howard. All right, halfway through this half case break. Yeah, I wonder when we're going to start seeing Freddie Freeman Dodger autographs in products. What's coming up? There's actually no new releases today. I don't know if there's any new releases on Friday. Take a peek at the new release calendar while I'm opening up a zillion packs here. All right, looks like, and all these dates right now are TBD, these can change at any time. I guess we got a clearly authentic at the end of the month. Stadium Club is TBD. I'm not sure if we'll see Freddie Freeman in there yet. Immaculate comes out in early September. Museum collection, maybe? Early September museum collection. Try maybe see some Freddie Freeman Dodger autos in there. And then Prism Baseball, Bowman Chrome Baseball mid-September. Valiant, Chronicles, Allen and Ginter. Maybe late September, Tops Chrome. Could there be some Freddie Freeman Dodger autographs and Tops Chrome? That'd be a nice one to get. Flawless is not even on the calendar right now. What else is going on through the end of the year? There's a gold label baseball. There's a Tops Gilded Collection Baseball. I would love to see them trimmed down to packaging in next year's pristine. What's inside pristine, these packs are pretty great. A little bit of a challenge for breakers though. Hashtag breaker problems. What else, what else, what else? Quick pitch, sometime in September, Gilded Collection, whatever that is. Archives Baseball in October. Again, all these dates could be TVD depending on, a lot of times these products have been delayed. An update series in October. Top Sterling, or Bowman Sterling in October. Luminaries in late October. Five Star late October. Bowman Inception late October. Cosmic Chrome Baseball in early November. Heritage Minor League, that's gonna be an in-store thing. Triple Threads is slated for around Thanksgiving. And no date for, or a November TVD date for Finest Baseball. Justin's been waiting for collegiate NT and Flawless and they're not on the calendar right? I wonder if they're just gonna, they may just skip that this year. Well, they're still releasing some collegiate product. Or yeah, maybe they'll see who they can get auto-lized before they start producing that. All right, finally, another box ripped open. Good luck, everybody. Packs are usually just base cards, some parallels. Nice Wander-Franco insert for the Rays. Ricky and the Rays. There should be an auto hiding in here somewhere, usually. There's Sammy Long, 46 out of 99 for Sean H. Giants. And there it is, Tim Anderson, poor Tim Anderson. I think Tora Liggeman or something like that, he's gonna be out for a good chunk of the remainder of the season in maybe four to six weeks. But this will go to the White Sox Howard with the South Siders. We've got a Yordon Alvarez to 99. And an Eddie Murray, nice little color match there. Orange parallel for the O's, the Orioles. Aaron with the Orioles. The Yordon goes to Ryan Stewart and the Astros. All right, encased cards. Kettle Marte, 54 out of 75. Tanner and the Diamondbacks. There's Jared Walsh for the Halos. That's for Richard. Here's an autograph, that's Larry Walker. That's gonna be for Tanner and the Rockies. Some great penmanship here. Great Larry Walker. Jim Palmer for Aaron Miller and the Orioles. Classic to 25. Mitch Hannigar, Mariners, Ryan Harrell. And by popular demand, another Tim Anderson for Howard and the Shy Sox. Final box coming up. Pick a team six part of the promo details on that. JaskiesCaseBrakes.com. That was already that time. No, I'm good, sir. Thank you. Adam's like, where are those Yankees? Maybe they're all hiding in this fourth box here. Yeah, Aaron was hunting a Ripken, but he'll take it. Finally saw that multiple videos of Met's Closer Edwin Diaz coming out of the pen. Yeah, but the horns and everything, it does get you fired up. Braves call up their top prospect, Grissom, to the majors. Ohtani Homers gets win to equal Ruth Milestone. Jackie Bradley Jr. joins the Lujays on a one-year deal. Phillies, Bryce Harper to say on the DH upon return. Yeah, Vaughn Grissom being called up. Is there any relation to Marquise Grissom? Arsia's on the IL, Ozzy Alvy's still hurting. Vaughn Grissom is being called up straight up from AA, like Michael Harris. I don't know, wonder if anything's changed in the ALNL rookie of the year race. There's no Julio Rodriguez according to Vegas. Still a comfortable favorite, minus 550. Jeremy Pena, Bobby Wood Jr., both at 11-1, 12-1 respectively. They may have an outside shot right there. And looks like in the NL, Spencer Strider minus 200, Michael Harris, plus 3-10. We got you some hits. Ryan, we got you some cards going your way. It's better than most on this list. It's all perspective, relative. There's a Wonder Franco rookie card. That's for the Rays, that's gonna be for Ricky. Will think Julio might get MVP votes. He just might actually. We got John Smoltz. Smoltz, one out of 50 for Adam. No Vaughn Grissom, no relation to Marquise Grissom, all of our same. And we got Randy Otto Zorania. Nice jersey and autograph. Nice one for the Rays, Ricky and the Rays. The AL, obviously Aaron Judge is running away with the, at least Cornyn Vegas, running away with the odds. 1999, Prince. He's minus 420 to win the AL MVP. Next closest is Otania plus 350. With Brian Reynolds to 99. You don't think Kulia Rodriguez will get any MVP votes? Surely someone in Seattle, some baseball right in Seattle might give him like a, give him a, not maybe not a first place vote, but. In the NL, odds on favorite, Paul Goldschmidt, minus 135 followed by Austin Riley plus 400. Freddie Freeman plus 750. Peter Lanzo's 18 to one. There's Julio Rodius, 42 out of 75 for the Dodgers. That's gonna be for John. By popular demand, that's Eloy Jimenez. Popular demand autograph, 15 out of 25. Howard and the White Sox. For the Diamondbacks, Tyler Gilbert. Tanner with the snakes. Nine out of 25. Any relation to Mariners pitcher, Logan Gilbert? There's Eloy Jimenez, Howard with the White Sox. Nice. We got Manning for the Tigers. That's gonna be Chad B. And last but not least, there is Joe Barlow, rookie card, 25 out of 75 for the Texas Rangers. And that is for Howard. There you go, gang. I'm Joe for jaspescasebreaks.com and that was Christine Baseball. Pick your team at number six. Everyone on this list right here, you are part of that promo that we got going on on jaspescasebreaks.com. Check out the details there. Thanks for watching. I'll see you next time for the next one. Bye-bye.


Hey guys, a little bit something different here. I always like to acknowledge and Point out when friends or former colleagues do something quite exemplary where they're it's making their own film Producing one making their own album are in this case becoming a published author Ashley Musbacher, this is an old friend of mine who used to work at the University newspaper I was associated with all those long long long years ago. She's now a published author This is her first book immortal zero the seven stones book one. This is the cover here. It looks pretty cool Right. I actually have to say that's a pretty nifty looking cover just publish this There are links for the book in the description below on Amazon. I'm really impressed. This is really good This is a big hefty book. It's got three near on 300 pages and you might be wondering what on earth this book is about We do the description, but I want to give it a little bit of dramaticism before I do so Fudge put the wrong arm Immortal zero after two decades of war a ceasefire is called as Lamora surrenders to Irva and agrees to sign a treaty Famous military hero general al-Mazadi Companies no more an Empress into an enemy territory with an expectation They may be headed for a trap while the generals preoccupied with protecting royalty a sly thief Lay's steel aims to take advantage of the political event for her own gains soon Both the general and the thief find their paths entangled in a labyrinth of lies Murder betrayal as the thief works to keep the general from escaping her grasp The general begins one ravel of plot that will endanger not only her country, but the entire world Believing layers may have the answers that will lead her to those responsible The general is forced to swallow her pride and try to outplay the thieves guild in a deadly game of cat and mouse That sounds pretty cool, right? Maybe the voice was kind of irritating, but the concept sounds really cool Anyways, again, if you guys want to check this out, like I said, there is a link in the description below Also, she actually did a little audio kind of session about how she created the character of the thief Lay steel part apologies if I'm saying any of these wrong Ashley It's really cool to see an author go into her own creative process And it might help those of you who are kind of want to be authors starting around your own story But having a little bit of issues yourselves watching that little video will help you kind of see how she went through her creative process And it might help you as well So again, check this out once I get around to reading it. I will do a little bit of thing about it myself I'm just I'm really bad at reading right now. I'm I haven't read a physical book in a while I've been just doing the audible thing for the last little while which by the way, she will be doing one when she gets around to it She's just trying to figure that out with the publisher and everything. Congratulations. See Ashley. This is fantastic for you I'm really really impressed and I hope that this book does well if you want to check it out The links to the Amazon is in the description below Anyways guys, thank you for watching this video Hope you liked it if you did leave a like and if you're interested in more subscribe. Otherwise, see you guys next time