Hey, Psych2Goers, welcome back to another video. Before we start, we would like to thank you all for the support that you've given us. Psych2Go's mission is to make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone, and you help us do that, so thank you. Now let's begin.  Do you see things through rose-tinted glasses? Being described as a hopeless romantic means that you view the world in a more idealistic and fairy tale-like way. Compared to those who are more logical and realistic, you tend to have your head in the clouds, believing that love will always find its way into your life. Even if love has brought you all sorts of trouble, whether it's through failed relationships or bad breakups, you still believe that you'll find the right person for you in the end. Here are 10 signs that you are a hopeless romantic. Number one, it doesn't matter how many failed relationships are behind you, you still believe in the right one. Do you always hold faith that your next relationship will be better than the last? Sometimes people can feel hopeless after a failed relationship. They may even give up on trying to find the right partner after some time, but not you. As a hopeless romantic, even if you recognize a bad relationship, you still refuse to give up on hope that the right person will present themselves to you when the time is right.  Have you ever felt like your bed is a lot emptier without your partner around? The feeling of skin-to-skin contact can feel like the most natural thing in the world where you feel safe, warm, and secure. If you are able to still feel their love and connection to you, even when they may not be next to you, then that's a sign that you are a hopeless romantic. Number three, you're always excited for Valentine's Day. Are you a fan of Valentine's Day? Do you get incredibly excited about the festivities and the romantic atmosphere this day brings about? After all, it's the one day of the year where people like to publicly profess their feelings and love for each other. Even if you are single, you're still able to appreciate and get excited for the romance and love in the air. Number four, you love everything about life, even the difficult times. Have others told you that you have a child-like enthusiasm for life?  Even when life gets tough and you're going through a difficult time, you still try to look at the brighter side of things and believe that it's never as bleak as it may seem. Number five, you've dreamed about going on romantic dates around the world. Have you always dreamt about traveling to Paris or Venice for a romantic date? Perhaps you fantasized about going to some of the most beautiful and romantic places in the world with someone you truly care about, just so you can have that romantic experience with them. As a hopeless romantic, you want to take pictures, eat and drink some of the best food, visit the beautiful landmarks and make the best memories with your partner. Number six, you celebrate the small things in a relationship. Whether it's enjoying a cup of tea with a loved one or getting them their favorite snack, you take time to celebrate and show your love to those you care about. You don't shy away from paying attention to what's important and you aren't embarrassed by sharing special moments, thoughts and feelings with them, however small. Number seven, you may have high standards which may be unrealistic. Do you ever daydream about what your future partner might look like? One of the drawbacks of being a hopeless romantic is that you have almost impossibly high standards for the people you want to love. It's possible that by daydreaming about the person you want to be with, it creates a person that doesn't exist in reality. You may end up pushing away people who could make you really happy because they don't fit the image you have in your head. Number eight, everything makes you cry. Even YouTube videos.  Showing emotions is not a weakness, but a strength. Whether it's a cute animal video or a short animated clip that you're watching, you can't help but tear up at the sight before you. This may be because compared to others, hopeless romantics are generally more comfortable at expressing their emotions. Number nine, you love a good chick flick or love ballad. Are you a fan of romance? Well, of course you are. And as a hopeless romantic, sometimes all you need is to curl up and watch a cheesy romantic comedy or drama.  And number 10, imperfections are perfect to you. Everybody has imperfections or self-esteem issues from time to time, but hopeless romantics don't care about any of that. You don't see imperfections in others.  Since you're able to appreciate and find the beauty in the things they may not like about themselves, you end up making them feel more comfortable and loved. So are you a hopeless romantic? How many signs did you relate to? Let us know in the comments below. If you found this video interesting, be sure to like, subscribe and share this video with those who might benefit from it. And don't forget to hit the notification bell icon to get notified whenever it's like to go post a new video. The references and studies used in this video are added in the description below. Thanks for watching and we'll see you in our next video.


The challenge of the Yukon. It's Yukon King, swiftest and strongest lead dog of the Northwest, blazing the trail for Sergeant Preston of the Northwest Mounted Police in his relentless pursuit of lawbreakers. On King! On you Huskies! Gold. Gold discovered in the Yukon. A stampede to the Klondike in the wild race for riches. Back to the days of the Gold Rush. With Sergeant Preston and his wonder dog Yukon King as they meet the challenge of the Yukon. Roy Freeman rode hurriedly to the door of the small cabin he shared with his young wife Lucy and came to a quick stop. Ho, ho, ho, boy! Lucy!  Lucy, honey, I found the chance I've been hoping for. We're giving up this rotten claim and moving your town right away. Roy, do you really mean it? I sure do, honey. From now on our worries are over. What do you think of that? Oh, Roy, it's wonderful, but... But what? I thought you'd be happy about it. Oh, I am, Roy. Then what's the matter? Roy, where did you get the money to move to town? I know you're very honest and all that, but I don't understand how we're going to live in town. Give me a chance to explain, will you, honey? I didn't rob a bank or anything if that's what you're thinking. Well, after all you were so downcast when you left for town this morning and now you're rushing as though you haven't a care in the world. That's just the way I feel, too. We'll have our debts paid and there's a nice cabin waiting for us. We'll move there the end of the week. Now, if you'll calm down for a few moments, maybe you'll get around to telling me how this all happened. Remember that German file I told you about? Carl Desick? The man who set up a land agent office in town? Yeah, yeah, that's the one. Roy, isn't he the man you said was so disliked by everyone? No, they just don't know him. That's all. But you said the other day you didn't like him either. Roy, I... I've changed my mind. Now, look, do you want me to tell you about my good luck or don't you? Well, of course I do, dear.  Well, I went into town this morning, determined to raise enough money to pay the store what we owe and to get more supplies to see us through. Yes, I know. I stopped in the store to talk to Pat Duffy about our account. Desick and a couple of other men were there when I went in. Well, if it isn't me young friend Roy Freeman. Morning, Pat. I... I came to talk to you about my account. Oh, sure, and you didn't go worried about that, lad. I know you'll pay up when you can. Well, I'll pay when I get it, Pat, but... I know now our claim isn't any good. It may be some time before I can pay you. Oh, wait me, boy. Don't upset yourself about it. Well, what do you have? Did you come for something? No, no, thanks, Pat. As long as I can't see my way clear, I'm not going to run the bill any higher. Wish no, lad. You must be most out of supplies by this time. Well, frankly, we are, but we'll make out somehow. Maybe I can find a job someplace. I wouldn't be too sure, Roy. There's plenty of chichacos in town who are down of the luck and willing to work at anything for the price of a meal. I guess you're right about that. Sure name willing to say, though, that if anyone wants a lad that's as honest as the day is long, I'd recommend you, Roy, that I would. Thanks, Pat. Everybody knows about the time last year when old man Mooney gave his cabin and claimed to you because he thought it was no good? And how you made him take it back when you struck gold? He wouldn't have given it to me had he known gold was their patent. I just couldn't keep it. It didn't really belong to me.  Anybody else would have told Mooney to go fly a kite. Ah, maybe not. Anyway, I'll be in again to keep in touch with you. So long, Pat. Good morning to you, Roy, Milad. I left the store and walked up the street. A few minutes later, Desik came up behind me. What did he want? I'm coming to that, honey.  Freeman! Roy Freeman! Freeman, wait a minute, please. We followed you from the store. I overheard your talk with the storekeeper a few moments ago. Oh? You're Mr. Desik, aren't you? That's right. This is Leon Koto, who works for me. Hi, Freeman. Hello, Leon. Did you want something, Mr. Desik? You are in need of work. Isn't that so? Yes. But Mr. Guppy said about your honesty has impressed me very much, Freeman. Pat means well, but sometimes he talks too much. But he said a while ago it's for your own good. I need an honest young fella like yourself. I could use you in my business. Well, you're in the land business and I'm not a judge of claims, Mr. Desik. The claim I picked out proves that. No, I do not need you as an appraiser, my boy.  Well, Leon works for me. He will tell you I'm easy to work for and I pay well, Leon. Sure. It would be a fool to turn down a job when he needs one so much. Well, what sort of work would it be, sir? All taking papers to people for them to sign, looking after the office, things like that. Well, I... I do need work, but... I have just taken over a nice furnished cabin on the edge of town. You could move in there. You mean rent-free? Of course. Besides, I'll pay you $50 a week. At times, there'll be commissions. But I... I still don't understand why you... Oh, wait, uh... Perhaps you... you dislike me. Oh, I didn't say that. You people in this big, new country are quick to dislike anyone who comes from the other side or speaks your language with an accent. Oh, you're wrong about that, sir. I know lots of people who came here from different... Oh, never mind, never mind. It isn't important. If you do not care for my proposition... Oh, no, I'll take the job, of course. This was all so sudden, like... Fine, fine. You move to town the end of the week, huh? When your salary starts as of now. Come to my office in the morning to begin working. That's how it stands, honey.  What do you think about it? Wait, it sounds wonderful, Roy. But I'm puzzled a bit about why he wants you with him. You have no experience along that line at all. He thinks I can do the work and I'll sure try hard to learn the ropes. From now on, honey will be able to get along. And it's all because of Desi. I'll start working for him tomorrow. A few days later, Sergeant Preston of the Northwest Mounted Police arrived in Whitehorse. He was walking along Main Street with a great dog king at his heels when he met Roy Freeman. Hello, Sergeant. Hi there, kid. Hello, Roy. You're looking happier than when I last saw you. Things have straightened out for Lucy and me, Sergeant. Maybe that's why I'm looking happier. I'm glad to hear that your claims start paying off. No, that was about the poorest claim in the Yukon. In fact, Lucy and I aren't living on Bear Creek anymore. We have a cabin in town. What's all? When'd you make the change? Yesterday, as a matter of fact. I took a job a few days ago in Mr. Desi's office. He suggested we move here and he provided the cabin. You mean Carl Desi gave you a job and provided you with a place to live here in town? That's right. Maybe I've misjudged Desi. What sort of work do you do, Roy? Frankly, not much of anything. I watch the office when he's out, take papers to have signed, things like that. I see. What'd you do with your cabin and claim? Well, I offered it to Pat Duffy a security for the bill we owe. He said it wasn't worth anything since no one would buy a worthless claim. That owns several no-good claims. People turned over to him for unpaid bills. I know, Sergeant. Anyhow, Carl Desi said he'd take it off our hands for the amount due Pat, so we closed the deal. I think Desi could put out money for the place. Yes, it is. I felt rather guilty about it, but he insisted, so that's the way it is. Desi seems to have turned out to be a friend and need to you when Lucy has me. He sure has, Sergeant. I guess people have been all wrong about him. What do you mean? Well, he hasn't been very well liked. I've heard several people say they didn't like him or trust him. No Desi compressed others that way. You mean you didn't like him? Frankly, I still don't, Roy. What made you apply to Desi for a job? I didn't apply, Sergeant. He came to me and said he was impressed by my reputation for honesty. I told him I had no experience for the job, but he was insistent. That's interesting. I wonder if Desi had any reason for hunting you out for wanting to hire someone who was known to be honest. I haven't given that much thought. Frankly, I was glad to have a chance to straighten my affairs. Well, I have to go along now. Stop and see us while you're in town, Sergeant. We're in the cabin the Merrill's used to have. So long, Roy, until I see you again. Come along, King. A week went by uneventfully. One afternoon, Desi and his man Leon sat at a secluded table in the cafe. Desi was saying, Well, Leon, things are about ready for the big killing. Our honest young man persuaded his four neighbors who had claims along Bear Creek to sell out to me. I still don't get the angle, Desi. None of those claims are worth anything, so why'd you want to buy them? Leon, as you know, I bought a deserted mine at the end of that ridge for practically nothing when I first came here. Yeah, but why do you want it? You bought four no-good claims and I worked out mine. Now, listen, this afternoon, you and I are going out to that mine with a couple of shotguns on some gold dust. We'll go into the tunnel and salt that mine. Huh? But about the four claims you're going to... Those claims are on that ridge, Leon. When they hear we found gold in the ridge mine, they'll be sorry they sold, bought them back. Ah, nobody'd believe us if we said we found gold in that mine.  They will believe Roy Freeman, and I don't intend to be stuck with the claims either. I know human nature, Leon. When they hear about the gold, they'll start thinking I knew about it when I bought them. They'll begin to blame Roy. Then what? When I offer to let them buy mining stock with the money they got for the claims, they'll jump at the chance, and no doubt add more cash to it. They'll start the ball rolling when they buy the stock, and others will want to get in on a tour.  Well, you sure thought the thing out, didn't you? Of course. You will take Roy to inspect the mine in the morning. Let him discover the gold. I'll wait here in the cafe. His excitement in front of the crowd should be convincing. That's right. Now, listen closely. When the men who sold the four claims start protesting, I'll tell them I'll sell the claims back to them at what they paid. That would put me in a good light. Then you suggest that they take stock in my mining company instead of selling back to claims. Understand? Now I'm beginning to see why you did these things. Roy won't want his claim back anyway, so I'm counting on him to jump at the suggestion you make. Then the others will do likewise. Well, let's get going, Leon. The following morning, at an early hour, Leon and Roy were at work in the tunnel of the deserted mine. For a short time, Roy dug in the loose rubble at the back of the tunnel, while Leon picked away at one of the side walls. Suddenly, Roy stopped and picked up something. Hey, Leon, come here a minute. I know I have. Look, this ore is flaked with gold. And here's another. Being at the back of the tunnel could mean there's a vein running through the ridge. Wait a minute. Don't get all excited before you really know for sure. For my money, I'd say this is nothing but fools, gold, Roy. Fools, gold? You're crazy. I know real gold when I see it. I'm sure that's the real thing. I hope you're right. I'm sure of it. And to think the former owners were so close to a strike and then gave up, it's hard to believe. Yeah, it sure is. If we go back to town and report this, it's going to cause quite a stir, Roy. What if it does? We were sent here to inspect the mine and I'm going to report exactly what I've discovered. And if you're suggesting that we keep quiet about it, then you better change your... Now, take it easy. I see what people mean when they say you're so honest. Now, let's get back to town and find Desik. Then you can tell him what you please. Now, let's get going. All right. Easy, boy. Come on, get up there. Desik sat alone at a table in the crowded cafe, patiently waiting for Leon and Roy to return from their inspection of the mine. Finally, the door opened and Roy rushed in excitedly, followed by Leon. Roy, looking for me? Yes, Mr. Desik. We just came from the old mine. I brought this piece of ore back with me.  Gold? Are you sure? Sure it's gold. Leon and I were digging in the rubble at the back of the tunnel. That's where we uncovered it. I still say it might be fool's gold, Mr. Desik. Let me see that ore, will you? Of course. Sure, too, Roy. Oh, here. I'm sure it's gold. Huh? Yep. That's the real stuff, all right. Are you sure this came from the old mine, Roy? You can take my word for it, Hank. I dug that out myself. This could mean there's an uncovered vein running right back into that bridge. Roy, it could be to show my claim to Desik. Yes, old mine, too, up on that bridge. Maybe Desik knew about this gold all the time. Here. Come on. Wait. Wait a minute, all of you. Now, look, Mr. Desik. I acted in good faith getting these men to sell their claims.  Now, if you did know about this... Now, Roy, don't jump to conclusions. How could I have known? You just found out about that gold. I know, but... But you need not worry. Any of you. I'll sell those claims back to you if you like. Sure. I'm going to form a company and work that mine on a big scale. That is, if I can find a way to raise more capital to do it. Hey, I was thinking, if these men are willing, Mr. Desik, why not let them give back the money you paid for their claims and you sell them stock in the company? Well, I don't really know Leon. They may prefer to have bad declaims. Now, what about? Of course, if the main tunnel of the mine through the ridge was worked on a big scale, we'd all profit more. And if they tried to dig into the ridge from each separate claim, I guess I'd better just give up the claim. No, wait. If we each left those claims as land belonging to the company and then bought stock with the cash we have, you could use the money for equipment and maybe sell more stock and expand the company. Hey, Roy, we're with you on that. Yep, I'm for it. Well, Desik, what do you say? I'll give back my money and more, too, to get stock. Well, since you insist, come to my office in the morning and we'll sell stock to any who want to buy, up to a limit, of course. The ridge mining company will be the talk of the Yukon. The following morning, Desik's office was filled with men who wanted to buy stock in the mine. After several thousand dollars had been taken in, Desik spoke. Well, gentlemen, you are all stockholders in the ridge mining company. Luckily, I had the foresight to form the company and to have stock certificates drawn up in case the mine did produce. But, uh, there's one change I'm going to make it once. What's that, sir? Roy, these men all know and trust you. I decided to make you general manager at the company so that you can look after their interests. I don't know what to say. That's all right with us. Yep, we know we can trust Roy. I'll make arrangements at once to start work at the mine. And now I suggest we all go to the café and celebrate at my expense. Later that morning, Desik left the café alone and went to his office, where he was busy cleaning on his desk. A short time later, Leon entered hurriedly. I just heard something. What is it you heard? That old prospector, Hank, was talking to a sourdough as a cabin unit on the mine there. The sourdough used to work in the mine. What of it, Leon? He talked old Hank into going out later this afternoon to his cabin, getting a couple of picks and walking over to investigate the mine. The sourdough suspects something. I see. Bring our horses around to the back and get a can of blasting powder and a long fuse. What are you going to do? Put the blasting powder back against the wall in the tunnel and run the fuse up through the air shaft. We'll be watching from up on the ridge. When we see them enter, we'll light the fuse. What about when the bodies are found? People won't expect work to start in the mine for several days yet. And the two old men won't be missed. We'll head for Skagway tonight and be across the border when the facts come out. Honest Roy Freeman will be left holding the bag. Now let's get going. Later that afternoon, Desic and Leon watched from a hiding place on the ridge just above the mine entrance. Finally, they saw the two sourdoughs approaching the tunnel. There they are, Leon. They'll go inside in a moment. Lights are fused now. All right. Now let's get away from here quick. The power will blow in a minute now. They've gone inside. They won't have a chance. This is far enough. That's it. Yes, they have done for. Now we'll hit the trail for the border. I cleaned out my desk and locked the office. I left a note on the door for Roy, saying we'd be away for a few days on business. Let's get to the horses. That evening, Sergeant Preston, who had been on a routine visit to a few of the settlements in the vicinity, returned to Whitehorse and stopped to see Roy and Lucy. After hearing the news about the new mining company, Preston spoke. You sure you found gold in that mine, Roy? No, it was gold, all right. All the men who bought stocks seem to think they're going to be millionaires. Mr. Desick certainly has been nice to Roy. He made him general manager of the new company, Sergeant. Oh, really? He's even more generous than I thought possible. Sounds like several people at the door. I'll see who they are. I want to see Sergeant Preston, Roy. These men want to see you. Oh, come in, Constable. All of you, come in. Yeah, sure. What's the trouble, Constable? We want our money back. We think we've been jipped. Yeah. One at a time at the Constable talk. Sergeant, Jed Warren has something to tell. I sure have. Old Hank and I decided to investigate that mine today. I was suspicious. I'd been sorted. Huh? We went out there and entered the tunnel. Hank was walking ahead of me. I saw a light of fuse hissing down the air shaft. I yelled to Hank and threw myself on the ground. Hank got the burn of the explosion, was buried under rocks. I just got a bump on the head. His body's still out there. But how could there be an explosion? Just a minute, Roy. You told Desik about this, Constable? I know, Sergeant. We went to his office, but he wasn't there. Oh, he left a note on the outside of the door for me, saying he'd be away a few days on business. Somebody didn't want us to snoop around that mine. They deliberately set out to murder Hank and me. Well, most of you know I was in town all afternoon. Sure, but you're pal Desik and that man Leon weren't. I'm sure this whole thing is a frame. You're the one who told about finding gold, Roy. Yeah, we trusted you and bought stocks. If there's anything crooked about it, I didn't know it. I swear. I said Desik skipped out after sitting off that blast and took all our cash with him. After giving you your cut for him. No, I didn't get any of the money. Your general manager of the company, you're responsible for its operation. Please, please. Roy wouldn't do anything dishonest. I'm sure he wouldn't. That's what we thought until now. Constable, you'd better take Roy into protective custody until it's the first straightened out. But, Sergeant... Roy will get to the bottom of this, believe me. When we do, you'll be cleared if you didn't have anything to do with it. Come on, Constable. King and I will go with you and Roy and we'll investigate this matter thoroughly. Let's go, King. Come on, boys. Let's go. After leaving Roy at the jail as a protection against the angry townsmen, it was agreed that while Sergeant Preston and King went to Desik's office and picked up his trail, the Constable should get a few men and recover Hank's body at the mine. At the land office, Preston forced the door and examined the interior. Skipped out, all right, fella. There's an old glove in the bottom drawer. You can use that to get the sent, King. Now, look around that back.  Left for the back way. See the roof tracks. All right, King, I'll get my horse and we'll trail them. Let's go, fella. Though it was evening, the highlight of the Yukon night made it brighter off the sea. The trail led King and Preston to the ridge near the mine air shack. Oh, Blaggy. I'm the fuse up here to set off that blast, King. Constable, the men haven't arrived at the mine yet. We won't wait. Let's get going after Desik, King. Steady, Blaggy. Find them, King. Find fella. Get up, Blaggy. Come on out. Meantime, Desik and Leon had ridden about 20 miles to stop to the vacant trailside cabin. Leon had brought a few supplies and they decided to eat and rest. But they sat having coffee. Leon was saying... You don't intend to spend the night here, do you, Desik? We've wasted two hours already. We'll get a few hours sleep, Leon. Then start out. Remember, we'll have several days start before anyone suspects anything. I hope so. But if those two bodies are found in the mine... No one can prove we did it. And as for the investors in our company, Honest Roy Freeman will have to handle them. Is your plane in for a sucker? What a dope. His reputation for honesty and his need for cash played right into my hands. Good evening. Hey, come on in. Yes, and with a gun covering both of them. Come on in, King. There's no need for the gun, Sergeant. You have nothing on us. No. Why did you clean out your office and leave town so quickly, Desik? Oh, so it's the fools who have bought stock in the mine company think I have run off with their money, huh? Exactly. Desik, you said they wouldn't find out...  Sergeant, if that is what they think, I shall go back with you and give them their money. Then we shall leave on our trip. You're going back, but you won't be leaving, Desik. Oh, of course we shall, Sergeant. There will be no charge on which to hold us. Except perhaps the charge of murder. Murder. You must be joking. You have a grim idea of a joke, Desik.  No one can prove murder against us. That's right. I can't prove we set off that blast at the mine. I didn't mention a blast at the mine. The fact that you did is proof enough.   You're under arrest in the name of the Crown. You're not taking me back? Desik suddenly flung himself in the chair at Preston's knees, knocking the Mountie off his balance. What go? Shoot him, Leon Crick. I'll get it. As Leon went for his gun, the Crick dog King sprang forward with a snarl. A dog.  Take him, Desik. Oh, oh, oh. Gun King down, fella. Watch him, boy. Oh, oh, oh. Now I'll bring Desik to, and then we'll start back to Whitehorse. It was late morning when Sergeant Preston and King arrived at the jail with their two prisoners, Desik and Leon. Leon, frightened by the turn of events, talked freely in front of the constable, Roy, and the sergeant. Desik planned the whole thing. He would have killed me if I hadn't helped him set the blast off. He figured no one would find the bodies for several days, but they wouldn't find out about Sergeant Lamine. Go on.  Desik, everything you gained because of the Ridge Mining Company was the result of fraud and deceit. You might receive some leniency in court later. If you sign a paper relinquishing the cash and all your stock holdings to the Ridge Mining Company. Well, since the stock is valueless, I might as well do so. Error of paper and pen. Now go ahead. Sign over your holdings. Very well. All you could do with stock in that company would be to paper the cabin walls with it. Er... It states briefly that I hereby turn over my holdings and the cash to the company. Here, keep this, Roy. At least it'll put you in the clear with the others. I was a fool to trust Desik. Never mind, Roy, the truth's come out, and the cash is here intact. You'll be able to return it to the investors right away. Well, Sergeant, last night, when we went to get Hank's body, I threw some of the rocks that were blasted loose into a sack. He uses evidence that the mine had been solid. I'll get the sack. All right. You'll see, Officer Selkirk will be able to tell. I'll see what I have here. It was dark in a tunnel except for the lantern. There. You see there in the rocks? Hold on. Those rocks are streaked with gold. No one could possibly fake that. The blast must uncover the vein. That's right. This shows there's plenty of gold in that mine. It didn't have to be... Hold on. That mine belongs to me. You'll forget you signed over your holdings, Desik. Roy and the investors will profit greatly. But where you're going, you won't have any use for gold. You mean all of us will get gold from the mine after all, Sergeant? Yes, Roy. Plenty of it. You're the head of a real gold mining company. The cash taken in for stock can be used for equipment to start things going. You can't do this to me. You can't do it. You did it to yourself, Desik. You threw away a fortune and committed murder for the sake of trying to get away with a few thousand in cash. I wish I never met the crazy... You'll both hang, but Roy will still be known as an honest young man. And a wealthy one. This case is closed. In our next adventure, in his office at Mounted Police Headquarters in Dawson, Inspector Conrad was speaking to Sergeant Preston. Sergeant, I'm afraid we'll have to hold that young mining engineer, George Haywood, for the murder of Dave Kyle. As you know, Kyle was trying to blackmail Haywood. But Haywood came forward voluntarily and told me all about that blackmail attempt, sir. Kyle was already dead when Haywood came to headquarters and told you his story. It may have been just a clever move to throw off suspicion. I still believe he's innocent, sir. I'd like a chance to prove it. You'll have your chance. But in the meantime, I want you to place Haywood under arrest. George Haywood is trapped in a web of murder. And when Sergeant Preston tries to clear him, he may find himself facing death at the hands of the real killer. Be sure to hear this exciting adventure next Saturday. 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So boundaries is one of the most talked about conversation in the relationship realm, because it's a popular buzzword for the last few years. And I wanna express something about boundaries to men. When a man receives a boundary from a woman, it can actually remind him of his mother. There I said it can remind him of mother energy, as if it's telling him what to do.  So today we're gonna lean into boundaries today. And I'm gonna offer just a slightly different perspective on boundaries. Now, I like what Brene Brown talks about when it comes to boundaries. And she uses the following. She says a boundary is what's okay and what's not okay for me. I'm gonna repeat that. It's what's okay and what's not okay for me. And I think that's a very healthy thing to experience in a relationship is the ability to express what feels good for you in a relationship and what doesn't feel good. Now, typically we talk about this in the area of communication because that's where most relationship mishaps happen in the form of communication. In fact, it's funny how people talk about the importance of communication, communication, and communication. And yet do you realize most people are bad at communicating, at least in relationship? It's not that they're bad at communicating. Let me reframe that. For men, men tend to communicate from more of their rational, logical side of their brain. And women tend to communicate more from the emotional side of their brain. Now, this is a pure generalization. It doesn't follow exact suit, but women tend to operate from that perspective. So do you see how if men talk from their, what they believe their logical, rational side and women are speaking from their emotional side? It's more like this. Women are speaking the emotional side. Men are speaking, well, maybe let's do it this way. Men are speaking at the rational, logical side. Women are speaking at the emotional side. And you know that space in between what that's called? That's called drama. And why it's called drama is because there's, let's use this analogy again, women are here and men are here. You're trying to raise the guy up in the area of communication. And then many times you're using what boundaries in a way that isn't effective. Now, let me just be candid with you. I'm not a big fan of the word boundary. And yes, I talk about it frequently in my videos.   And none of that feels really authentic to me. From a, now while we can use these terms, I'm gonna offer something a little bit different today than a boundary. Now, I wanna share with you, I took a list of some things, examples of boundaries in relationship. I just Googled this. If you want, type in, what are examples of boundaries in relationship? And here's what came up. Expecting others to communicate during disagreements with a maturity. Now I thought that's kind of an interesting boundary. Let's lean into that in a moment. Letting go of codependency and having your own identity. I love that because that's leans into my book.  A journey of personal development, self-help and spiritual work. That, I love that phraseology because it's all about being, not being dependent on another. Oh, by the way, there's a link below to get a copy of all the books I recommend. But it's about not being dependent on another human being for your necess, your needs per se. There's a difference between a need and a want, okay? Needing something, like we need water, we need air, we need shelter. Those are needs or we would die, right? But in relationship, sex, well, sex could be a need for us men, but I was gonna say it's more of a desire in what? It's not needed to sustain life. It certainly benefits you when you have a relationship. And I went off on a poor tangent there, but going back to self love, when we don't need someone to love us to feel good about ourselves, we're in a good place, okay? Number four, asking for personal space and quiet when needed, okay? That's probably makes sense as a boundary because we all need some space to ourselves. I think two people that are fully Amesh 24-7 can probably have, can have some problematic aspects to their relationship, even though my beloved and I, there's Marie right there. We live together. She's been visiting her grandchildren for the last week. We've had space and when we need space, we take space from each other, even though we live in a relatively small home, okay? And number four, voicing your concerns rather than holding on to resentments. So I thought about these are boundaries, but these don't feel like the boundaries I hear about in the dating, mating or relating realm. And so I wanna talk about those boundaries because those seem like the ones that are most talked about and the most frequent one coming back to communication. It's interesting, it said expecting, it said expecting others to communicate during disagreements with maturity. It fascinates me because how many people disagree with each other and they're not coming from a mature place, not coming from a grown-up place because when you have a disagreement with someone, and let me just say this, for a relationship to be successful, you need to establish good conflict resolution skills. If you don't have good conflict communication skills to resolve conflict, it's gonna be problematic. One of the skills needed is to be a good listener. When your partner, it disagrees with you, it's not about you being right. In a healthy relationship is finding a way to be happy with one another. How can we find that place of happiness? More importantly, it's listening to your partner's point of view, acknowledging their point of view. In other words, just simply acknowledge what they said to you. You can literally repeat back what they said, validate that their feelings are valid for them. Don't ever diminish someone's feelings. Don't ever discount someone's feelings. Don't ever come from a place of contempt. And I'm speaking to the men here as well, okay? But when it comes to boundaries in relationship, we talk about communication, but one of the things that I think women particularly would like more of in their relationship. Because remember we said, what was it again? What's okay and what's not okay for me? Communication, for example, frequency of communication and frequency of the actual face-to-face time together. I think that's one of the most important things that women desire in relationship and they want some clarity around that. We're gonna talk about that literally in a minute. The second thing I think is most desired is the boundary of trust. And I call it the boundary of trust, but I'm really talking about the container of trust. And trust isn't just merely about fidelity. Trust is, does this person have my best interest at heart? You know, in the book by John and Julie Gottman, Eight Dates, and this is a great book. By the way, there's a link below to get a copy of all the books I recommend. This is a great book as a foundational piece to understand the mechanics to a healthy, happy relationship. And chapter one is about trust and commitment. Now, if you follow my channel, you know that I'm gonna say this whenever I bring up this book. Ladies, before the penis gets to go inside the vagina, you should have read this book and you should be very familiar with chapter one, Trust and Commitment. Do you realize today people will have sex with little or no trust and barely any commitment to one another? And commitment isn't just monogamy and exclusivity. It's sure those are important things to have, but real trust, real commitment is, does this person have my best interest at heart? Do my feelings matter to them as much as their own feelings matter to them?  Trust is the weakest link in many people's relationships today because they're not establishing commitment early on. They're not establishing the rules of engagement. Let me say that again, the rules of engagement. Do you know it used to be that in war times, there was rules of engagement and this is what you could do and what you couldn't do? It's funny, this is what you could do and this is what you couldn't do. There were rules of engagement, but we should have those same rules of engagement. This is why folks, I created my dating vows for you so you can establish these rules of engagement. If you're not familiar with it, here it is, a copy of it right here. These are the rules of engagement, the dating vows. I agree, you both say this to one another, I agree to explore the process of getting to know you with the intent to declare something serious within the next three to six months. I agree to be monogamous sexually while we're having regular sex together. I agree to not actively seek and meet and date others while we're in the dating process, including taking down our dating profiles. I agree to not actively seek to meet and date others while we're in the dating process, including taking down our profiles. I agree to speak up if it isn't working for me versus pulling back, ghosting and disappearing and I agree to invest regular time in the process of getting to know you which looks like this, which looks like three or four days a night a week together doing shared activities, hobbies, mutual interest, spending time with family and friends, traveling together, teamwork, building skills, both in our personal and our professional life. See, folks, instead of boundaries, I invite you to set up agreements. That's right, agreements. The rules of engagement, what are, if we're going to explore, if you want sex from me, dude, then this are my standards, okay, of what I seek in relationships. So first, a boundary, we're gonna replace the word boundary today with agreements, okay? But to establish your agreements, first you need your standards, your standards, okay?   Wow, why didn't someone teach me this in school? Why didn't my parents teach me this? I finally figured out what I want. By the way, if you need some help with that, schedule a discovery call with me to see if working with the coach is right for you. There's a link in the description below. Schedule that free call with me. I can't help you establish that.  Maybe you heard it in a previous video, but these dating vows as an example are agreements that you establish right from the get go. You don't have to do this on a first date.  And let me add this to your standard. Wow, I'm riled up. Okay, I'm obviously riled up with this one. Knowing how many times a week you wanna spend with someone is an important standard to get clarity on because here's the bottom line. People that see each other every day of the week have a better chance of succeeding than someone that sees each other six times a week or five times a week or four times a week or three times a week or two times a week or one time a week or one time a month or once every six months. Do you see the more time you spend together the greater chance you have of relationship success. So for those of you that are in long distance relationship where you spend all day incessantly texting each other and texting each other which is the weakest form of communication, by the way. It's the weakest form of communication. 80 to 90% of communication is non-verbal. It's the facial tones, it's the pheromones, it's the hand movements. So Leib says rant time, thank you so much. Okay, so coming back to you folks that are doing some of these long distance relationship where you're not spending significant time together.  So standards, what's okay and what's not okay for me? Use my dating valves as a template before you get involved with someone. And then when you get involved with someone, read the book Eight Dates by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. This has all the agreements you need or not all, well, actually, let me backtrack here. Read the other book by John Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work. Now, I know some of you don't like the M word. Just take out the word marriage and replace it with serious committed relationship. This gives you the blueprint. But Jonathan, you're making me read all these books. Oh my God, I had someone complain the other day. All you do is talk about books. Do you know books are knowledge? There's a reason why we spend so much money on libraries and bookstores because books are knowledge.  That's it, one chapter a day you could probably accomplish. Look, the book, where is this book? By the way, one of my favorite books, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. 19 chapters. Do you know what takes only 16 minutes to read a chapter? 16 minutes a day, 19 chapters and 19 days, you could literally every month finish two books. But Jonathan, I'm too busy. I don't have time for that. I just wanna magically hope that all of this stuff works out for me. Folks, many of you are delusion. That's not fair to say. You're in a fantasy land because you're not willing to put the work. You just expect that things are gonna work out easily. Well, they don't. So learning these things are critically important for your relationship success. I wanna recommend another book to you. This is the thinnest book on the planet. It's called The Couple's Communication Guide to Love and Happiness. I wanna read you some of these chapters because it relates to this dynamic of boundaries, expecting things to just work out, thinking there is no way out, communicating too much or not enough, making the relationship a target of collateral damage, wanting to be right, we talked about that, making assumptions always, never why, criticizing without giving positive reinforcement, taking down or being passive aggressive. Check out this book. You guys all talk about communication and it is the most critical next to trust. Communication by far is the most critical component within a healthy, happy relationship. Most of you focus so much on how tall he is or if he's balding or like, listen, character matters most, kindness, generosity. We gotta let go of our image of Brad Pitt or, who's my favorite? Well, Grace Kelly was pretty hot or Jacqueline Smith or Cheryl, or wait, Linda Carter, okay? But I know you guys are hung up on Brad Pitt and Ryan Gosling and George Clooney, okay? But what matters most is not what they look like. What matters most on the inside, can you communicate in a way to be seen and heard and understood by this person? And more importantly, are you with someone that you don't have to establish boundaries, you establish agreements early on because you set the rules of engagement to forge a healthy, happy relationship moving forward? Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. Please hit that like button. Please share this video. Please subscribe to my channel. There's a link below to all the books I recommend. There's a link to schedule a discovery call with me. I'd love to help you attract that amazing man in your life. God, universe, spirit. I'm in a healthy, happy relationship where we have great chemistry with one another and our communication is off the charts with one another and we can blend our lives together and we share the same values with one another and we build the deep roots of trust to sustain a healthy, happy relationship through our agreements that we make with one another. God, universe, spirit, I invite that in and I'm experiencing that in my life. That's my prayer for you all. Okay, post a comment, I'd like to hear about it. All right, if you're familiar with my format, it is time for Q and A. If you have a question for me, write the word question and post the question thereafter or you can purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat. All the monies from the Super Sticker Super Chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son, Connor Asley. That's him right there. It's my son who passed away a few years ago in his honor, he started a scholarship fund to donate to causes like the Hoffman process inside Institute and also sadly, a friend of mine lost his child and we're gonna make a donation on their behalf from the Connor Asley Scholarship Fund. So again, the little dollar sign, if you're watching the replay, hit the super thanks. I wanna thank Melanie for the $20 Super Sticker. Big hugs to you, thank you so much Melanie, I appreciate that. All right, let's keep swimming. Dorothy said, some men enjoy breaking boundaries because they wanna show other men how macho they are. Sometimes you need to say boundaries differently. Again, it is important to establish what's not okay for you. I prefer that you do it in the form of agreements and remember, I'm not dissing boundaries. I just wanna shift the conversation into agreements. One agreement you can make with the partner is I'd like us, can we agree to communicate more frequently with one another when we're not together? Can we agree to establish a phone call in the morning or a phone call in the evening? We can take turns who actually initiates that. That's an agreement. You don't have to use the term boundary, you can simply make a request. Okay, Wanda says question. How do you feel about Facebook dating? I went on there in 2021, scammers and no one of my race or age. I think it'd be the same thing now, what do you think? Surprise, I had really had high hopes for Facebook dating. But sadly, I didn't experience, maybe their algorithm just didn't work. It didn't really populate people in my general vicinity or within a 50 mile radius. It didn't populate very many people for me and I was a little surprised. Because again, I had high hopes for Facebook dating. So I don't know if it's changed, folks, it's so funny. So I haven't been on a dating app or my dating site for 10, 11 months now. And sometimes I'll be honest with you, I have an occasional withdrawal. And Marie and I actually the other day for fun, we went on to our mutual sites to read our profiles. I mean, the profiles are hidden, but they're still there. And it's kind of there not from a backup plan, it's there from a nostalgic perspective because we met through both match.com and millionaire match. And that's the other site we were both on. We were on match.com and millionaire match. So whenever once in a while, like I feel like what would it be like to swipe again? Like I have that feeling mainly because it was such, it was like I was addicted to the cocaine of it all, to the crack of it all. So yeah, but that's just my thoughts on that. I don't have really much to say about Facebook dating. By the way, I'm a big proponent. Try every single avenue because you never know the person you might wanna meet could be on that app. So, all right, Leaves has ran away. Thank you so much. Let's see. Standards are affirmative. This is what I do want. Boundaries reflect the negative. This is what I don't want. Once someone's using a boundary, it's too late. Yeah, that's why I'm not a big fan of the word boundary. It almost feels like when you have to establish it, it's too late. This is why set the rules of engagement early on and establish your agreements early on. Ladies, you have every right before sex. Or listen, let me reframe that.  Please forgive me.  Read this book to establish that place of confidence within yourself because I hate to, listen. I really wish I didn't have to take sex and make it something, if it sounds bad or anything like that. I just believe that sex should be reserved for two people who are in a committed relationship with one another. I do believe that. I didn't used to believe that. I was the guy who liked to sleep around. I didn't let me reframe that. I always wanted a committed relationship. I would do the whole relationship talk to get laid and I would pull the bullshit, three weeks in, six weeks in, 12 weeks in. I'm not ready for a relationship. Here after I poured my heart out to someone telling them I wanted a relationship, getting to have sex with them to say I'm not ready for a relationship, only to guess what I do next. I'd be on the dating sites because the reality was, I didn't want a relationship with them because I wasn't ready for a relationship and I wasn't ready for a relationship with them either. So we men, we kind of are jackasses in this way. I'm gonna call it for what it is. We use relationship talk to get laid. It used to be a man had to give a ring to get laid. He had to invest his assets with a woman to get laid and please forgive the getting laid terminology. I'm just saying it the way I feel about it. So these days you have every right to establish the rules of engagement before you have sex. Is this sinking in? Please let me know. Hillary asked, how soon do you introduce eight dates or any other books? Before the penis goes inside the vagina, I always say, read the book for yourself. Know chapter one and maybe have a discussion about chapter one, if the two of you plan to be intimate. At least have a discussion about the, tell them, hey, you know what, Tim? I've been reading this great relationship book on how to make relationships really good. Is that something of interest to you? Oh yeah, that'd be interest to me. No, we don't need relationship books. We can take care of it ourselves. Really, we can take care of ourselves? Look it, we've both been married twice. We both have had bad relationships. Why are we so good at taking care of it ourselves if we didn't learn from our past experiences? Oh, I learned from my past experience. I learned what not to do. And I will blindly go into this one, assuming it's gonna be better because I only focus on chemistry without any real understanding of the makeup of healthy, happy relationship. By the way, you can tell I'm just, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But my point is, folks, this is how naive many of you are. If a guy dismisses the idea of reading a book together as a way to improve your relationship, he's probably not very grown up to be in relationship.  It will reinforce your relationship or he's gonna run as fast as he can because he's not ready for a relationship with you where you only wanna get laid. Does anyone agree with me there? All right, Hillary, thank you so much for that question. I hope I answered it for you. Liske says, texting is low investment, exactly. Weakest form of communication and low investment.  So I get the book Jonathan recommends on Audible and put the hardcover on the table. Play them both, play them in the background and read it at the same time. Great job, Dorothy. Melendez or Melanie says, sadly, most people rather clickbait and quick fix. So instead of fixing the root of why you're still blank is not working out. You slap a band-aid on it, keep carrying it. Exactly, very good point. Leif says, libraries are amazing. Clear Patrick had the best library till it burnt down. I did not know that. Nancy wrote down, boundaries that are protect your health and mental wellbeing, financial, emotional, sexual, physical. Many men minimize these causing a woman not to feel safe within the relation. Exactly, and again, I prefer to establish your standards with agreements so you never have to put up a boundary. Because if you have to put up a boundary it's already almost too late. George Clooney married a brilliant lawyer, not a Hollywood star, that is true. Good for him. And he seems happily in love. I mean, he seems giddy and happy in love. Hillary says, yes, stop yelling. Okay, I'll stop yelling. And Leif says, it's resonating with me. Okay, do we have any question? Melanie says, Jay, he gets passionate yelling as part. It's only because he wants to get it through us. Exactly, okay. All right, so I'm gonna respond to Linda. Say what? Marie needs to set a boundary a.k.a. agreement with you still on the dating site. You're still paying for it, right? Okay, let me clarify that statement, okay? My dating profile, her dating profile is hidden. We are not paying for it, anything like that. The other day we both out of curiosity wanted to read what our written profile has said. Something that said, we were talking about something, I go, and because it's still in the ethers out there. And then we were saying, should we delete these profiles because we don't need them anymore? And we both said, and this was a mutual agreement, let's keep it on because we might wanna come back and look at it again for nostalgic reasons. Now, when I said I might occasionally get tempted to swipe, it's because, boy, I was addicted to it. That was all, that took a while to stop that. I think it's that hamster getting the cocaine pellet. It's, I do believe just like sugar, it creates an addictive quality within us. So I think it's completely unhealthy and I was experiencing that. Occasionally, I think part of I think about it is because I'm also in a profession where I talk about dating and relationships all the time. So maybe that's a component in it. But let me be clear, we both have made agreements. It was both of us who looked at our profiles together. So I hope that answered your question, Linda, thank you. And Melanie says they both, Linda, he said they're both on it as a nostalgia, exactly. Okay, a question from Jennifer. If a guy has already read eight dates, do we still need to read it together? I've read it as well. Well, there's other books you can read besides eight dates. I think, one of the things Marie and I do on a regular basis, once a month, we do what's called camping. What we do is we lay a nest out on the living room floor and we start on a Saturday at around 11 o'clock and we devote the day to exploring our relationship in ways to improve our relationship. Sometimes we watch a video, we have Gaia channel and we'll watch a video related to relationship. Sometimes we'll watch YouTube videos. Sometimes we listen to Tantric music. Sometimes we talk about our dreams and aspirations. Each month, we definitely devote time to building the relationship on a conscious level, on an intentional level. Now I would say throughout the week, every morning when we're together, we have coffee each morning. We talk about a variety of things, including our relationship. So we make time and I'm usually showing her videos to talk about for us. So my point is, is set up your regular time together to talk about the relationship, watch a YouTube video, read a book, watch something, a documentary, things that are designed to help build your relationship. Buy this book, how to build trust in a relationship. This is really skinny. This is only, but how many pages is this? 51 pages. And by the way, it's all double space. So it's really, it's all double space. So it's really a 20 page book, how to build trust in a relationship. Use that, okay? Hope that helps. Thank you so much, Jennifer. Our Warren writes, question, I'm in a new relationship. When do you suggest meeting each other's families and friends? Well, about the time that you begin to have regular sex together should be about the time to start getting to know a person at a deeper level. I believe Marie and I met each other. I met her daughter and she met my son the same day. It was about a month and a half into our relationship. And then we started to spend, I think she met some of my friends and I met some of her friends a little bit sooner than that. So I would say by the time you begin to explore a committed relationship together, you're having regular sex together, you've made the dating vows with one another, you've talked about exploring a relationship, that's the time to introduce family and friends. Or at least for me, it was that case. Hope that helps you, our Warren, thank you so much. Hey, I wanna thank Kathy for the $4.99 Super Sticker, thank you so much. Jennifer says, I like your camping idea with Marie. Thanks for answering my question. You're very welcome. Melissa writes, question, would you please post or read your in your sweetheart's profile message just to give us an idea of what to write down? Actually in my private coaching program, I do give copies of good online dating profile samples that I've read over the years. Certainly if you schedule a discovery call with me and you qualify for coaching, I would be happy to give you what I wrote in my profile. I think my profile started off, I will actually, here, hold on one second, let me see if I can actually pull this up. I don't know if the password is still working on this. But I started my dating profile with the following. Hold on a second, it started with the following. I'm gonna read the beginning. All right, here we go. Let me start with the following. I'd like to get remarried or at least live together. I'm seeking a woman who feels the same way. For me, this isn't about growing old with someone. I want to grow in life and love with a special woman. Plus I promise my next partner emotional maturity, lots of great sex, chocolate massages, blurry text messages, poetry travel and tacos on Tuesday. How does that sound? The reason why I'm on this dating site as well as a few others is I'm using any tool to connect with my soulmate and life partner. So you don't have to worry to be, you don't have to be concerned if I'm going to waste your time. And I hope you're the same, deal? And just so you know, in my world, commitment and partnership of what I want and the last thing I seek is something casual. Do you feel the same way? If yes, drop me a note and if there's mutual connection, meaning we're attracted to one another, let's talk. So it goes on, by the way, my profile was 4,000 characters. So anyway, that's to hope that Melissa, hope you got a gist of what my profile said. So thank you so much. Pam says, I don't think I'd show a guy the book Why Men Love Bitches. Why not? What do you have to be afraid of? It's a conversation starter. Do you realize that you can talk about this book and start conversations to determine if you're on the same page with one another?  Sorry, my rant, I'm done. That's so nice, John. No wonder you two look so happy and relaxed together. Thank you so much. Kristen writes, question, what is millionaire match? Okay, there is a website out there called Millionaire Match. By the way, you're supposed to have a net worth of $100,000, which we both did. It caters to some gold digger type women. It caters to the player type men. But I will tell you this, I gotta tell you, I met some really, I think I liked that site more than I liked match.com. I'm sorry to judge. I think the amount of money spent to be on the site elevates a person's maybe their sincerity. I'm not saying that as an absolute, but plenty of fish that's free is to me the bottom of the barrel. Millionaire Match, I just happened to meet some amazing women through that site. And actually, Marie believes we talked on that site first, even though she was using match.com, but we both use that site, millionairematch.com. So I hope that helps, so thank you. Melanie says, chocolate massages are great in theory. No, they're not. They're actually great in practice. We love our chocolate and we love our massages. So I wouldn't say that. Okay, if you have a question, write the word question and then post the question there after or purchase a super sticker, super chat. Art and Soul writes question. Do you agree with John Gray's idea about how relationships should ideally work? For example, ideas from his book, Men are for Mars and Women are from Venus.  Not that I don't respect some of his work, but I don't like to compartmentalize men in that they need their man cave and women operate a certain way. And I can't think specifically, I wonder if I have his book here handy. I don't, I think I do somewhere. I haven't looked at this in a long time. I'm not a big fan of this book. Let me open up a chapter to really quickly. You know, men like to fix things. Yeah, that's true. You know, to some degree, men like to fix things, but men break things all the time. So, you know, I'm not sure I agree with 100% of what he says, but there are some really good tools in this book to, for communication purposes. So I don't discount his book. I just don't like some of his narratives of pigeonholing men because look at this book is 30 years old. You know what? Here, I want to establish something. His book really talks about the following. The hunter, provider, protector versus nurture. It talks about hormones and pheromones. He talks about oxytocin and testosterone. And to some degree, he talks about socialization, gender-based socialization, boys and girls and the traumas they experience. What he doesn't get into in the book is imprinting our childhood wounds and traumas, the Amago love attachment style. What he doesn't get into the book is the difference with age and life experiences. Are they marriage-minded? Did they have adult traumas around divorce or job loss or kids in baggage? He doesn't address culture-owned religious issues, differences. He doesn't address the socioeconomic and education differences between people. He doesn't address physical health and appearance, fitness and attractiveness. He doesn't address emotional intelligence and he doesn't address radical honesty. So this book is missing. It's all based on biology and how men are different than women, but you'll find that men and women are actually more alike because we're all fucked up. We have a significant percentage of the population that's dysfunctional on an emotional level. We have a significant percentage of the population that's terrible communication skills and relationships that has nothing to do with men are from Mars and women from the Venus. If you wanna read a better book, this book, blow your mind.  So I check out the links below to all the books I recommend. And remember what I just said. We can talk about instinct, biology and socialization, but you really have to really concentrate on imprinting age and life experience, cultural, religion, socioeconomic, education, physical appearance, introspective work, emotional intelligence and the capacity to be radically honest. Okay, I hope that helps. Thank you so much for that question. I heard that he did update the book, but I don't believe it's updated in the way I just described. So thank you. Leif says, that's why we're here. Well, thank you so much. And Roller Girl wants to emphasize the book if the Buddha dated. I definitely recommend that. Question, what do you think of the Queen's Code? I was raised by a total frog farmer and it's awful when I hear women castrate men with her tone and eye rolling. And it's awful when I hear a woman. So where is the Queen's Code? Where is the Queen's Code? I know it's here. Oh, I have that book somewhere folks. Oh, here it is. The Queen's Code. By the way, it's listed below the Queen's Code and my, Jonathan recommends books in the description. So Alison Armstrong is a friend of mine. I've been invited twice to her workshops prior to COVID. And when I say friend, we're social contemporaries or we're professional contemporaries. I like a lot of what she says in the book. I think it is still a little, it can't have a submissive nature to it. Slightly it can be misinterpreted that way. But what I do believe is the Queen's Code is an empowerment book centered around understanding that men can operate differently, just like John Gray does. What the book doesn't dive into is the human behavior reasons why, what I shared before and why human beings can be rather dysfunctional because of childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas. So, you know, for example, childhood trauma, abandonment is a big childhood trauma for people. I know I haven't, what's known, by the way, if you're not familiar with love attachment style, so there's childhood wounds and traumas and love attachment. So there's a couple of books I want to talk about. The book attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, link below. Also the book, The Hoffman Process, this is a deep dive into healing childhood wounds and traumas, okay. Why am I bringing this up? Also the book, Harvelle Hendricks, Getting the Love You Want, okay? There's a point I'm gonna make, so bear with me a second. Harvelle Hendricks and Helen Hunt, okay, not the actress. So, what Queen's Code doesn't give us insight into is why men and women choose particular partners, number one. What our love attachment style related to, if we have a fear of abandonment, a fear of not being loved and love attachment, okay. So understanding these things, understanding how we were wounded as children, how that may result in how we show up as adults. Those books don't go into it. It's more of a simplistic way of treating men and women better. That's really what it's all about, is how we can treat each other better. And that's why I'm a big proponent. I'm not a fan per se, without having an understanding of human behavior so you can do a better job of leaning into communication with your partner. If you're not familiar with the book, I know it sounds like I'm just pitching book after book after book, but I want you to read a book called, I Hear You by Michael Sorensen. And let me give you an example of why I wanna talk about this book, because we talked about communication earlier, okay. So, for example, in communication, we can do what's called an invalidating response or a validating response. So let me give you an example of an invalidating response you might give someone. You might say, that's unfortunate, but you'll get over it. It could be worse. My neighbor caught the flu last year and was bedridden for almost a year. That's an invalidating response. A validating response might be, ah, that sounds miserable. It's so frustrating not being able to sleep when you're sick. I can't stand sore throats. So my point of bringing this up, that's a great book to read. All of these books, so you can have a better understanding of relationships because you're a frog farmer because you didn't do a good job of picking men. It's not so much about understanding men. It's about understanding human behavior.  You just gotta figure out this person's dysfunction and then you gotta decide, do I want to invest in this person's dysfunction or do I say run, forest, run? Is this sinking in? I hope so. All right, thank you so much. Dorothy says, question. Are there any couples games you could recommend? I got quizzes for couples. Sometimes a game is easier way to discuss disagreements. So on, let's see, where's card? So the Gottman Institute has what's called the Card Dex. Gottman Card Dex. This has all these different, basically questions you can ask. They're not games, but they're cards. It's called Card Dex. Go to Google or Apple Store, Play Store or Apple Store to check it out. Card Dex by the Gottmans, okay? Question, do you have any avoidant men friends? What are their takes on women? Are they attracted to anxious women and have they been turned off, if so? So yeah, I have friends who are men who are avoidants. And listen, anxiousness oftentimes shows up as neediness. Nobody likes neediness, whether it's a man or a woman. Nobody likes neediness. Being, now, so if you're aware of your, if you're aware that you're anxious, then you have an opportunity to work on that. Now, avoidant men, oftentimes there's a deep childhood wound and trauma that has gone unhealed, just like the anxious. So the best course of action is regular couples work together. I was listening to Louis Howe. Does anyone know who Louis Howe is? He has a podcast called The School of Greatness. And he was talking to a relationship expert the other day. And he was talking about his relationship. And he said, the first thing before he entered into a relationship, he wanted an agreement from the woman if they would, she would be open to doing either therapy or coaching regularly as a part of their relationship. Ladies, you have every right to ask the same thing. If you want, if this guy's gonna get his penis inside your vagina, then you establish the rules of engagement, which would include having regular coaching or therapy or reading books as part of the process.   By the way, I'll post the dating vows in the description later. But you have to establish the rules of engagement sooner rather than later. That's what a boundary is.  Is this sinking in? Is this resonating? Please let me know. Please hit that like button right now. Please share this video with friends. Please check out the links to all the things I recommend in the description, including setting up a discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you. All right, time for one or two more. Melissa says, love Louis Howe. Yeah, I do like him too. Love Louis Howe. I'm having a hard time with intimacy. Well, I wanna recommend a book if you have a hard time. Where is that book? Oh, here it is. Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters. I highly recommend reading this book. Okay, this will be the last question of the day, I think. I know, but I want to know what the guys are saying between men. Okay, Melissa, guys don't talk to one another. And if we do, we talk about getting laid. We talk about sports. We talk about business, okay? We don't talk about the relationships with one another. We don't talk about I'm an avoidant man. Well, now let me backtrack. I know men will say most women are crazy. Most men will say that.  So an anxious person has emotional outbursts and we think that's crazy. Here's the bottom line. If we like you, we're attracted to you.  We have great communication with you. It doesn't matter. And we're not gonna talk about it anyway. Do you got that, Melissa? I hope you got that. All right, one last thing. Leif said, Lewis Howe, former NFL in School of Greatness girlfriend, Martha. She's a Latina, one of the best channels anyone could go on from there, go on to many best specialists. Highly recommend. Yes, I highly recommend his channel as well. Can anyone get me on his channel? I want to be interviewed by Lewis Howe. If you have any connections, help me get on to Lewis Howe School of Greatness. I would be honored. All right, folks. I think this will be a great place to wrap up today. And again, just to remind you, if you like this content, hit that like button. Please share this video. Please subscribe to my channel. If you want to talk to me, schedule a discovery call with me to see if working with the coach is right for you in the description below. You can join my group called Midlife Love Mastery. You can follow me on Instagram. You can check out all the books I recommend. Again, I hope you found value in this content today talking about boundaries. And instead of boundaries, establish the rules of engagement with your standards and use my dating vows as a way to shift the narrative. Is this sinking in? I hope so. Post a comment. All right, we're gonna wrap up this video as I always do. First off, give myself a big, gigantic job at the Barrett of Self Love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to a friend, a pet, a teddy bear or pillow and give it or them a hug of love. There's a teddy bear because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. I wanna thank Andrea, Leif and Margaret and Lena and LaRue, Leif, Rollard Girl, Melissa, MC, Mr. C, Dorothy, Andrea, Stacy, PC, Love Mud, Liana and all those that donated as well. Thank you so much. You be well. Take care. Bye now.


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Are you making the best buying decisions when it comes to your optical inventory? Who makes your buying decisions? I hear opticians tell me all the time, I do all the frame buying here and I plan ahead. I check to see how many frames have been sold before the rep even comes in. Or I hear doctors all the time, we have Mary and Sam do all of our frame bang because they really know what our patients are wanting. Now listen, I'm not doubting that y'all know your stuff. It is clear that opticianry is a very proud profession and rightfully so, we're a very unique breed. We are healthcare specialists, artists, refined salesmen, fashion designers, precision light bending engineers, technology focused supergeeks, all rolled into one, an optician. We have a long history and we really should be proud. So when I come in, a gal from Boise, Idaho who starts questioning your optical decision making, it can make you a little uncomfortable. You might think she doesn't know me or my optical isn't like other opticals. We have a particular type of patient here. Hopefully by the end of this blog, I've caused you to think differently. Okay, hear me out. 95% of independent opticals have buying habits that closely resemble this. Sell one frame, replace one frame. Sell one frame, replace one frame. Here are a few examples. Optical A has about 500 frames in their optical. They like to wait until the rep comes in before they reorder. They have a nice little visit with their rep and they'll take a look at all the things that are new and between what's new and what's already sold, they'll end up filling up their board. Optical B has 3000 frames on their board between what's out in the optical and what's in backsock. They don't wait for reps to come around. They're far too busy for that. When their inventory gets low, they've got their optician who's their designated frame buyer who goes ahead and reorders what has just sold. And then when the reps do come in, they take a look at what's new and they might swap out or change out whatever they need, but essentially they're just replacing the frames that were already sold. When simplified, it's still sell one frame, replace one frame, sell one frame, replace one frame. I guarantee that this or a version of it is similar to what's happening in your office. Here's the problem with this concept. It displaces the focus from being able to optimize all of your optical sales. This hurts your optical in the three most damaging ways, time, energy and money. Now, what if you started to think of your optical as real estate and started to view your frame spots as investment properties? This analogy would make each frame brand the renter and make you the landlord. So let's run the same sell one frame, replace one frame scenario when we're thinking of it like real estate. So if you've got all these renters here that are paying their rent, you go, woohoo, they're paying their rent, yay. But what about all these bums that aren't paying their rent? You've got a big problem. You are going to go into foreclosure if you can't get them to start paying. And if they don't start paying their rent, you have to evict them. When you think of it as real estate, you realize that the typical sell one frame, replace one frame strategy is really hurting your optical sales. The way you are running your optical is distracting your focus from optimizing those sales. We are so focused on the green frames that are selling that we're not paying attention to the frames that aren't selling. What data are you using to guide you on what to order? What info are you collecting to help you identify the good renters and the bad renters?  About 50% of opticals do on a regular basis, but what is that inventory really telling you? It's only giving you a snapshot of what your frames and what your optical looks like right now. Others might pull an aging report to see how long a frame has been sitting there. But really, how far is that info going to get you? While some opticals will pull a sales report and be like, whew, we sold 15 frames. Well, that's fantastic if you've got 20 spots on the board, but if you've got 75 spots on the board and you sold 15 of that brand, that's not good. None of these common data pulling methods are offering you the insight that you need to make calculated decisions for creating a plan in your optical. You must build your optical plan on logic and analytics. The most beneficial analysis that you can run in your optical is to calculate your frame turnover or a frame turn. Your frame turn is the quantity of frames sold divided by the quantity of frames that you hold in your inventory. Because sales can be so cyclical in our industry, we run these numbers on a 12 month basis. The annual frame turnover would equal the quantity of frames sold in the last 12 months divided by the quantity of frames in your inventory. However, this gets your frame turn number for all of your inventory. This assessment becomes much more powerful if you break it down by brand. But this takes a lot of time and definitely some mathematical talent. But if you take the time to do it, you can get an assessment of your optical real estate. You can identify the good renters and the bad renters. And once you've identified the bad renters, if you need to evict those, you can do that in order to create room for the new renters that will be making you so much more money. You can also look at the renters who might be paying their rent, but they're messing with your home. Essentially, they're ruining your optical image. You can make a wise decision on who a better renter is to replace them with. That better renter that can fill the same function or niche, but be able to provide a better image for you like an independent brand. Here is the best part. When you run these assessments, it'll show you what your optical does, but also what your optical needs.  Your optical is telling you a story of how you can be most profitable, but are you listening? You need to start thinking of your optical as real estate. Once you are able to assess your optical, you can combine logic with your assessment and be able to completely optimize your optical. There is one small problem though. As an optician, the last thing that you have is extra time. The extra time to be running all these numbers every month and breaking down the info to create these optical plans. Well, this is where the gal from Boise, Idaho comes back in. I've spent thousands of hours working with hundreds of opticals to refine this concept. I've created a tool that allows opticians the convenience of being able to look at what's happening in their optical on an annual and a monthly basis. Break down the value of every brand and even offering assessments and guidance on creating a plan for your optical. Know your frame turn and the impact that it can make on your optical success is unmatched. Do your optical a favor. Stop making decisions on feelings, emotions and opinions. Start using logic and analytics and you will see amazing results.


Hi, it's Bridget. Welcome to Above Life Channel. The purpose here is to inspire your spirit and to fill you up with hope. Today, I wanted to do a bit of a follow-up. I did a channel with Freddie Mercury recently where I talked with him about glorification of death in his words and in our words, our context of human reality, the idea of having memorial or a place where people can go to remember the spirit since usually we do that through, like, cemeteries or graveyards or memorials or monuments to that person, whether it be a statue or that kind of a thing, or a place, you know, and so that video was pretty serious, I thought. Well, it wasn't, it was great, the context was great, but he was really specific about talking about the difference between who he is as a spirit and who he was as a person and how he's not connected to the Garden Lodge, for example, any longer because he's not a person, and so that's different. He's moved on from that energy. And so I want to talk to him specifically about that. I want to follow up and ask some questions that I think are going to be important for you to want to know.  So, so bright the sun is kind of setting over here, and it's just really bright. So beautiful weather, though, so I'm going to enjoy it while I can here in Minnesota where I am channeling from. So my cool glasses here to channel with Freddie Mercury in the afterlife. So Freddie, he says, yes, I have more questions for you. We need some advice. We, the viewers and I, we, we human beings need some advice, especially as your fans, as people who loved your work and just want to know everything about your life and are so interested in your career and your life as a person, as a human. How can we grieve? Because the grief process here in human body is very different than anything in spirit form. I think anyway, I can only imagine, I guess, because I haven't just been a pure spirit and remember all that right now.  I don't know. And so we feel loss in human body. We feel the loss of your human existence here, but there is remnants of it. There's like historical things that places people can go and things people can actually tangibly touch like an album or or a poster, a picture or read an article or see a video of a performance and feel you, feel the energy of you and capture that energy of your spirit, you know. How do we grieve? How do we grieve then? If there's not a place for us to go, like the Garden Lodge in London, your home, your beautiful home, it just, where you know, you had your parties and you had your experiences of of being able to celebrate your success and you know, collect little art pieces and books and things and momentos and stuff and decorate it and now there's like no access to it. No, it seems really not just private though. See, that's the thing. It doesn't just seem private.  I mean, right? Right, you guys? Have you seen pictures lately? Yeah, it looks creepy there to be honest. Like, what's up with that? We're grieving the public, the viewers want to remember you as a person because we want to feel a connection to you as a human that you were real as a person. You're not just a spirit guide.  It reminds us that we can pursue our dreams and goals too. Give us advice, Freddy. Talk about this with me. Help me to understand. I have so many questions about this, like confusion. It's just confusing. How do we come to terms with this?  Why? What can we do? What can we do with our grief? And he says, I don't know what to say about that. I'm not sure what to say about that. People handle grief in many ways. It's a very personal process and it's a processing of emotion which is something that is completely unique to human reality. There's only transcendence from my perspective now where there is only love and it's unconditional which means the condition of having a home, a place, a bed to sleep in, grounds to walk, trails to walk and flowers to sniff. There's no need for that for me now. Trying to relate to that old way is the old memory of of my life. As you well know, I can access and I don't always want to access it. It feels so much a a hindrance. It's more of a burden for you. For the fans of the music, they know that life is never ending because the music will always be. The harmonies and the notes will be something that carries such an important and powerful. It's a very personal experience, the music and connecting with the music and the the material things are not, they're not of matter. They're not what they actually are of mass and matter. But they're not important. They simply are not and to explain how it is important for some and not others and the way in which people observe a life, a lifetime is a personal choice and what you're really asking of me is if you feel my my choice of of errors was correct. And I feel that it was, it was and I wouldn't go back and change things and I owe Mary a great deal and it's not it's not really anyone's business how she chooses to carry on now and and the truth of the matter is is the truth is is that she is the owner of garden lodge now and can it in some ways I do regret it as a burden to her as a burden for her when it wasn't never meant to be that way. I never meant it to be a burden for her to have to have something to deal with or manage and I didn't didn't foresee her living there living out her days there or having to be there but to let it go stale and let it get cold and unlivable isn't something that I would have wanted either either way it doesn't really matter what is wanted because the desire of the spirit is simply to be in one in a whole state of being which is all that is possible as an afterlife energy as you know it is hard to be able to explain in a way that is going to be able to provide comfort for those who need it the grief process is very personal and it isn't something to be judged or rather it isn't something to be assessed by others outside and so too for Mary I feel in the human context of things the human state of affairs and emotion to give her space to do as she wishes it is my it was my desire for her to do as she pleases with whatever I could leave for her and are there things that I would like to have seen different perhaps if if there were time for me to really consider those things those possibilities perhaps what you've got to understand is not you you don't want to face your own mortality and once you have crossed over into this the place of not feeling where there is no pain and there's only love it's it is most difficult to come back and relate to the place where there is so much suffering I don't wish it upon anyone. I don't wish anyone to feel pain or to feel loss because of me I want you to feel alive alive and feel that aliveness in the music and the song not in the physical places not not in the stages or the the homes or the concert venues or the the the places because those things although although it seems as though those things are here forever that they are more permanent in stature they're really not they're really not you see it's not really it's it's out of the need for security that we create this illusion that that are our houses and we build these structures and these these things with brick and cement concrete and wood and we and we envision them as being solid structures that will last forever and and and it's true and it is true that these materials outlast us and our bodies many many times but doesn't have to be that way and the realness of this is to know that those things those structures are only temporary as well they're only temporary they're only a a symbol or a mark of what it really is to feel home and that is perhaps the most important thing from a human perspective home is very literal it's very real touchable and you can see it with your eyes and understand collectively what this means and the the symbolism of it but you can see it it says something you can see and and then know and when you speak of the spirit the afterlife for me the understanding of the of the the home is so is so different than that one place it's more of a a collective united bond of kindness and and love that is difficult for human words to use to describe I wish there was more that I could say to help you to understand and I know that there is not much comfort in words that the emotion is what you seek relief from is the ease of the pain or or the the contemplation all of these reasons you make up in your mind why you can't see my my former home or my studio or my my the place where I made my music or the place where I played my music I understand the that the the the mind can frame the the reality that that is historic and in many ways it's a context it's a conceptual it's a contextual contextual reality of of understanding in a way that is based on the past and it's not it's not current it's not updated it's not it's not what is real at this time so this is what I can offer so that I can say at this time about it I understand the confusion I understand and I don't believe there's anything I can say to help ease that for those who feel such a adept of sorrow I'm really not gone. I've not gone anywhere I've just gone into a state where you have to be a bit more creative about how you can access me Yeah, okay then Okay Thank you Thank you Freddie for that.  It seems more realistic to us. Okay But I understand here at above life channel that the goal is to inspire people's spirits to fill them with hope So that they'll live their best life and because of that Part of what you're saying is is to bring people up so that they can feel the energy Of their own spirits and their own soul Their own their own ability to connect so that they can then pursue their life life purpose life loves life Talents and skills and just to be themselves to be an expression of themselves And that's what you're an example of and so as an afterlife spirit You're an example of that you're also an example of relationships and heart-based Connections and that's what's true in the afterlife as well. So thank you for sharing today. I do appreciate that and thank you for this follow-up video had to probe a little more about How people can connect with you in the afterlife and why is it that there's not memorials that there's not You know a gravestone for you that there's not The ability to even look at garden lodge It's not even welcoming. You know why that is and and you I think have tried to expand on that a bit So thank you very much for the additional information Freddie and thank you here viewers at above life channel I'm Bridget. It's been my pleasure to channel with Freddie Mercury once again in the afterlife now There is a playlist here with all the Freddie. You can possibly want go ahead and take a look at the playlist Remember the purpose is always to inspire your spirit and to fill you with hope Every week on Mondays. 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So Kevlar, what's ultimately a frustrating evening for the last night? Can you put your finger on why it perhaps wasn't our evening? Not really, I find it difficult to explain that. 20 minutes I thought were excellent, did everything we set out to do. And when we conceded it was just stopped and it was almost as if they weren't allowed to score. Because it's the bottom of the league and when they did you could have had a pin drop around the ground which you'd expect and we didn't play from there on in and that's a really disappointing thing tonight. Yes, you touched on those in the evening side so well really, you know, Wes got his first goal for the club. We've got a couple of really promising opportunities, it looked like we were heading for a victory in the first 20-25 minutes. Yes, we scored two or three in that period really, we dominated it and like I said start the game how we planned but the game last 90 odd minutes, not 20 and 20 minutes we did well and then we went away from how we started. The atmosphere in the ground was difficult but you'd expect that any ground we're playing the team we were 10 points adrift at the bottom and we had to handle the situation better than we did and it's the first time for a long time that we really lost our way out there tonight and we did, we lost our way completely. I'm guessing.


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Hello, I'm Paul Linnett and I'm Sue Hendra and we've made a little book haven't we Paul? Mm-hmm, we have for the British Library and we would really like to read it to you. Can't wait in fact. Shall we do it now? Yeah, okay. The story of a story by Paul Linnett and Sue Hendra Once upon a time there were two Nippwits, one called Paul and one called Sue, who both loved to make up stories, draw pictures and create characters. They also loved adventures and it was on one of these adventures to a music festival that they took as selfie and made a startling discovery that Paul's head was was absolutely massive and Sue's was tiny. A potato and a pea! Sue and Paul had already made a story about a fish, a slug and a robot whose bottom falls off but they had always dreamt of writing their very own story about a superhero But who would play the starring role? Super cornflake! No, that just didn't feel right. Sue looked at Paul and Paul looked at Sue. The pair put their heads together and an idea started to take shape. Sue potato and the evil pea were born and everyone lived happily ever after. That's what you think!


My top advice is to develop an area of competence to really become an expert in something. And then to stretch that goal, stretch that picture, look for projects that stretch that competence into new areas. And there's an old saying about you either have 10 years of experience or you have the same year of experience 10 times. You really want that 10 years of experience and that comes from being competent and stretching yourself through new uncomfortable situations. But the last piece would be find the joy in all of it. I remember those things that gave me joy and that's what you'll hold on to. You'll project so much more energy and enthusiasm for any project when you find the joy in what you're doing.