Gregory, you're saying about how this conversation we were just having before we started recording about understanding or learning the market's wants versus only thinking about what we know they need, how that affected your framing of an upcoming blog post title. Yeah, it's something, as I was saying, it's something, this idea of the distinction between what the market, the audience wants versus what we need, I've been hearing for about six months, and it's registered in terms of logic. But it just this morning a moment ago, it hit me in a different way, which is, because I just wrote a new article and posted it yesterday and was kind of playing with the titles. I just dropped into, well, what do people think they want? And and and when I thought about that, I thought, oh, like, for example, with the article that I wrote, I thought the question that popped up that had not occurred to me yesterday was, what what happens when you or if you're a coach or therapist, what happens if you or someone you serve is feeling resistant to change? Like that's something that I think an audience person will go, oh, like, yeah, I want to I want to know that I want to know what what do I do when I'm feeling resistant to change? And then what I have to offer is this other take on, you know, on a solution to that. But so I really realized that really taking into consider it's in a way it's like love languages, you know, it's it's it's really saying, okay, you know, what's the language that my audience is speaking so that I can really meet, which is what we all do as coaches or consultants is, yes, I believe is we're constantly looking at how do I meet my audience where my audience is so that so that I can support them. And and then there's that collaborative synergistic thing that happens, where spirit or insight or wisdom is moving inside of them, it's moving inside of us and then together something happens, where there's a dance or a shift into new insights and possibilities. But it but it largely, at least from my perspective is predicated on, am I able to meet the person I'm sitting with, where they are, and this and this framing of of what you've what I've been hearing, but I just got on another level, it is really helpful. Yeah, that that's exactly right. I love that you brought in the love language. And it's like, for those who don't know the love languages was also very deeply impacting for me years ago. And, you know, it's about relationships and how it's not necessarily only romantic related this works or friends to and any relationship with other human beings is like understanding, they are, for example, much more sensitive to words of affirmation, or this other person is much more sensitive to gifts, gifting, or this other person is much more sensitive to acts of service, or things like that's like different people and this other person don't care about gifts at all, they can care less. But they really are sensitive to to touch so giving hugs and things like that it's a big deal for them. There's like different people have different receptors, right? And same thing, our audience may have a different receptor for our work. You know, compared to what we think, you know, we were coming together, we're coming here with a with a square with a square connector point, but they have a circle receptor and so let's soften our square to a circle receptor and that connects perfectly with what they what they want. So I love that you are thinking about that. And well, what about blog post titles? Yes. It's like, I know I've written about this. I think they need this. Now, how can I frame the title and the first paragraph or two to. Towards ah, this is something that I understand at this time. This is something that's going to really interest them. This is what they want. And of course, titles, we want to be sure that the blog or the video or the product delivers on the promise. It delivers them what they want, but it also gives them more importantly what we think they need. So, yeah, thanks for that. And Bird, what do you want? So you're laughing, but I just this is sorry, Gregory, just a second. I just want to say it's also animals. Animals, too.  Perfect. Perfect. Yeah. And they tell you. I was just approaching.  I taught a class and he told somebody else who talked to him an issue he had with me. And I was like, damn, I didn't know that I've had him for 20 years. They're like, OK, dude, I'm sorry. And now I mean, we were fine. We have a good relationship. But yeah, that piece, man, I just wasn't hearing it. So that's right. It's great. Really good. Yes, individuals in their lives, animals that helps us to to see, well, if that applies to marketing. So thank you. It it reminds me also. And I think there's a name for this in marketing. I don't remember what the name is. But I remember a few years ago being being intrigued, discovering that Apple, for example, when they take advertisements for the exact same product, but it's in a magazine that's directed for college students.  But for example, an iPhone, the a third of the copy might be about the music that that that can be played through the iPhone. And then because they're speaking to the need of who's who's in college and speaking to the one speaking to the to the to the ones. It's the exact same product. But then play place, placed in field and stream magazine. Yes, going to talk about, you know, fishing or whatever the thing. I love it. Our modality, our framework, our our process that we do with clients and customers, the product that we provide can be framed in many to serve many different ones. And so it's like the audience we're talking to. What do we understand about the ones? Thank you. And I want to bring forth a question here from Julie. About balancing what would delight me to create and bring to market versus so balancing what we would delight me to create and bring to market versus what the market may be asking for or telling me what they most want. And Julie, feel free if you want to unmute and say anything else about that. But essentially, yes. Hi. Hi. Yeah. So essentially, I'll take it from this point of view. The larger and warmer our audience is. The more luxury and leeway we have to just create what we what we want, but what we want, what we believe they need, but we what delights us. So, for example, it's delightful for me to have Mr. Bird, Mrs. Bird, they here with me, a gender neutral bird. And my audience, I think it's probably warm enough where they don't mind me having a silly bird here. But if I were, you know, if I were talking to a cool audience, you know, someone else's audience might not do something silly like this or maybe that is a good thing to do. I don't know. So, so, so, Julie, I think in your case, grateful you have quite a warm audience because that you've developed over the years and you have more leeway to create what you want, what delights you because in other words, you don't need to and need the now we're totally using the words in very confusing ways. You can you can create what you delight, but somebody who is just starting, let's start from there. Someone who's starting who doesn't have a large enough warm audience yet, especially in those cases, or if even if you do have an audience, but you need to make sales in the next quarter, either situation, whether you don't have an audience and need to get started or whether you do have an audience and need to make sales, either one, either way, we have to remember that our income is our audience's spending. Our ability to do the work, which is doing things to transform or impact positively other people is all dependent on our audience's decisions. So if we need the audience to decide yes, or to give us, you know, to say yes to our service or to our program, the more the more there is an incentive for us to do that, the more we need to say, well, what do you want? Then well, it's kind of like if you, you know, going to the movie and your your friend says, oh, I don't like that movie. And if you don't really need your friend to go with you, I don't know where I'm going to go by myself. OK, but if you want to hang out with your friend, then you need to listen to your friend's movie, you know, interests as well to say, well, I don't like that that genre. Can we look at this other genre that pleases both of us? Sure. Yeah, that sounds like a good movie. Let's go there. So the same thing is like how much do we want or need? Sorry for the language. How much we want or need our audience to come along with us? The larger our warm audiences, the more they're willing to come along just because they like who we are. And in other words, actually, the more we understand the larger the warm audience we have, the more we probably understand them because over the years we've done enough to build up the warmth, which means we've done enough interactions and engagements. But, Julie, can you want to say anything else about that or any other? Yeah, I've been pondering this as I as a question was percolating through the discussions. And I realized a principle I used to use years ago about mutual mutual delight and that that something, some experience that I was creating would delight me and delight my audience. It was mutually beneficial, mutually. Delightful, it felt good for all of us to like just like you were saying about the movie. And the other thing that I thought about or that I was I'm going to write about later was talking about looking at what my resistance is about. When I when I think, oh, that's a great suggestion. Yeah, that's great. And all the time I'm saying that's great. I'm thinking that's like the bottom of my list of what I want to create. Really interesting. I'm just glad you brought this up. Yeah, so I'm looking at the resistance that I have and making friends with the resistance and seeing what's underneath it. So kind of going through my own process will be interesting and fun. Really grateful you brought this up because we all will receive in the process of market research or just engaging with their audience, where all we are going to receive suggestions that we're like, yeah, not really interested in doing that right now. OK, it all comes up. But but but I want to I want to invite you to well, let's take a data driven approach. Are you receiving that same suggestion from just one person or from multiple of your ideal clients? Because if you're hearing that like same thing back to the movie thing, if you're hearing five of your friends that you have got to go see that movie, but you're like, I don't typically like this genre. No, no, you have to go see it. You have to go see it. Then you're like, well, OK, I have some resistance towards that genre, towards that idea, towards that movie, maybe towards a filmmaker, whatever, or actors, but they're they're they're asking. They're encouraging me to do it. Let's do it.   So so it's about whether or not it's an isolated suggestion. And also if it is getting suggested by multiple people, but you're still resistant on it, I would then invite you to dive deeper into what's behind that suggestion, what's underneath it? What is there? What's really their motivation and what's really their concern or their frustration or their or their or their passion? What's really the passion underneath it? Because maybe they're saying it this way, the suggestion this way, but the passion is connected to yours. And you're like, oh, I understand you think you want that. I was offering this. So let me just kind of phrase it a little differently. I'm still still going to be delivering the same thing. It's just going to be, you know, it's still going to meet your underlying passion or underlying concern. And Heidi, please go ahead. Yeah, I'd love to also offer my reflection. It's interesting as you were going through the some of the potential things we could do for the market research and just to be aware of like my brain's reaction, like, oh, no, that doesn't sound so good. And just I've been in in business long enough to notice that there are certain things that I'm comfortable doing. And where I'm at is partly the result of those actions. And so in order for me to change where I'm at, it's like I need to get out of my comfort zone. And so paying attention to where that resistance is popping up. It might be a sign that's like, OK, like spend some time here. There might I mean, if I've never done it before, like the results are probably going to be positive. I love that. Thank you. Yeah. So it is a professional development opportunity. And a personal growth opportunity for us, right? And so I appreciate that. And you never know until you try. And if you try it and the audience finds it beneficial, you'll probably be motivated to try it again. Or if the audience doesn't find it beneficial, they might give a suggestion and say, well, why don't we try? Why don't you provide this next time? This might be something that would, you know. So thank you so much all for this conversation and anyone who is, you know, has any reflections or questions do feel free to comment below. Thank you, Julia, also for writing about how it's about removing judgment. It's about removing judgment. Magical things happen when I drop my agenda and the space is created so that they can be exposed to a few little new ideas that feels expensive. Yes. So just be willing to try, be willing to experiment, even with something that we didn't think about doing before.


Alright guys, day two of the 21 convention in 2010, Stockholm, Sweden. First speaker up today is Orlando Owen. Story behind Orlando is that I heard about him from another conference called the Real Man Conference. So I knew about him from that and then I got to meet him about a week and a half ago in Munich, Germany for a talk we did together. I saw him speak for 30 minutes and the minute he got done I was like, damn. I'm so glad I got this guy speaking in my convention, it's going to be awesome.  Cool man, I appreciate it dude, thanks. Give him a round of applause guys. Cool to be here, thanks. Orlando Owen, as I was introduced, you probably haven't heard of me so much because I'm kind of like the quiet Illuminati guy behind the scenes, kind of like pulling a lot of strings. You might have heard of some of my books but you wouldn't know them by my name. I've written some ghost writing stuff for the community but I'm not a P-Way. I heard that word P-Way on the internet about four years ago, my mentor at the time, Steve Peay, you might have heard of him. Steve Peay and they call him Rasputin, Hypnotica. Eric, he hates that word Rasputin. Anyway, those guys were sort of like my mentors, particularly Steve Peay.   He's kind of like a Hells Angels guy. And I was like, okay, what is that? He said, it's these guys that are totally coming from black and neediness and they go out there and they're running all this kind of game, kind of like Neo. And that's like a religion, it's kind of like a cult. I was like, that's really interesting. So I didn't really know what that meant but I just knew that it wasn't my kind of thing. And I also knew it really wasn't my kind of thing when I went out with a bunch of guys in LA about that time, beginning of 2006. And these guys were doing some really weird crazy stuff. We have to approach. It's like, we have to get ourselves in state and we have to really go out there and approach and approach and approach. And I was like, okay, how many approaches have you done? About 3,000. I said, oh, okay, and how many lays? About one or actually none, really.   And they probably got them laid a little bit quicker than you with your 3,000 approaches. And it was really interesting because I was out there with these guys and they were going to do this kind of stuff. And I said, what are you going to do? We're going to approach that five-set there and we're going to like do the so and so open and the so and so open and the XYZ and I'm like, you mean you're going to talk to these girls over there? No, we're approaching a five-set. Okay. I don't know what that means, but go ahead and do it. I just want to watch you guys do this kind of thing. I'm like, okay, let's see what they're going to do. I was like, so I'm standing there. I'm thinking something bad is going to happen, something really bad, you know. I just knew it. And this was like four years ago. And these guys are walking up to his five-set. So translation, five girls are standing there. And they're kind of like snooty, LA bitches, whatever. And nothing good was going to come of it, right? And these guys are going to walk up there anyway. And the guys says, and they're like, the girls are like, okay, they see you coming, be careful. And sure enough, the first guy says something and he's kind of like a hit-and-run and blah-blah-blah. And he's like kind of waiting for effect. I was like, okay, I could read the girls' body language.  And then the other guy says, blah-blah-blah, blah-blah-blah-blah. And they're like, you could see their minds churning and they were just kind of getting ready for the kill. They were like going, like the cat in, what is it like, the cat with the Tweety Bird? A little clause.  Now he's going to do the so-and-so opener. He's going to ask us like, who lies more, spaghetti or dental floss? And the other, the alpha girl of the group kind of like steps forward and says, listen, pal, mystery method is so last year. This was 2006. This was not just now. 2006. This was already an old hat. This was like tired old stuff from like last year. And these girls knew the openers. They could analyze what they were going to do, DHV, demonstrating higher value. All this like geeky talk of like P-Way, like nerdyness. It's like, why is it that these guys are always doing this kind of stuff like, it's like programming these old Unix computers from the 80s or 90s. It's like you're trying to hack your way into some girl's pants. And I really, I have like, what Savage was saying yesterday, I was like, Jason, I was like, God, yes, finally somebody says it as it is. I've just never seen that brilliant breakdown along those two lines of like that triangle. It's like, yeah, okay, I could have never really been that analytical about it. It's just brilliant because it's a real, real cool system. But it's like neediness versus, you know, having, having inside, having, being already in that state. You can't attract something you don't have, a lot of attraction says you can't. It's impossible. And if you're coming from that kind of neediness and geekiness, you're going to attract that on some level or other. So let me tell you a little bit about where I'm coming from in this. I call this the law of attraction, of attraction. It's, you've all heard about the secret and all that kind of stuff. Now the secret was pretty much a weird marketing positioning billion dollar project where they stripped all the important knowledge out of it. Like Jerry and Esther Hicks, for instance, asking it is given that's like the basis for it. But they stripped those guys out because we're too greedy to pay it. They cut it out and they left the secret completely devoid of real secrets. It was about a dozen secrets that I'm going to give you behind the secret. They cut them all out of the movie. Every last one of them. There's nothing in that movie. And but people talk about the law of attraction. They think like, oh yeah, attraction.  Well, how are you going to do that? Let me ask you something. Do you guys truly enjoy going out to an environment that's about as noisy as the back of a 747 on takeoff? Do you actually enjoy that? Because I've got PTSD, like I think somebody is going to like shoot at me when I'm hearing, it doesn't give me energy. To me, it's like the most hostile environment on the planet. Clubs and bars. Guys that go there are trying to out cool each other, out man each other, out amog each other.  To me, this is like going in the trenches. To me, it's like military warfare. Do you really, is this the best place to meet women? Of all the places I've ever been to, I think it's the worst place. But I've talked to a lot of guys. Do you actually enjoy that? We hate it. Okay, do you like to approach women and open you up?  What are you going to do to me? If you do enjoy that, then by all means, I probably have nothing to say to you. But if you like me or like most guys that I know, if they're really honest about it, they hate that. They hate that process.  And most guys say, well, but if I could just meet women, it would be so cool. If I could literally attract them into my life, how cool would that be? And the PUA's going like, no, that's too easy, dude. That would be cheating. It has to be hard work.  By the sweat of thy brow shall thou approach women and in laboring pains shall you seduce them. Well, the law of attraction says it's going to feel like that. If it feels like work, if it feels like a chore, if it feels like a dare, to me it's like approaching a girl, to me it's probably, if I'm coming from the mindset of doing a cold approach, I think I'd probably rather jump off a 10 meter diving board than doing that. I just walk over and talk to them. But if I have to approach, and it's the mindset that I'm talking about here, because it's a contextual fear we're talking about, if I have to approach her, then it's like the most scary thing on the planet to me. And my philosophy is I'd much rather kind of like use magic, if you will. Like a very, it's not magic in the sense that it's trickery. I'm trying to employ some magic pill here. But I'd like to attract women into my life in a more playful way. I call it play, not game. And to me it's like, if it isn't fun, what's the point? I mean, if it feels like it's scary, it's hard work, I have to force myself to do something, then I don't feel comfortable. And then if I'm outside my comfort zone, then I feel like something scary is happening here. This doesn't feel right. It doesn't feel like that's something I want to do. I can go out there and do thousands of approaches. I know a guy who's done 21,000 approaches in two years.   I've probably done, in my entire life, I've probably done 30, 40 approaches. That's it.  And that's fine. Have I been with a lot of women? Some say. But to me it has to be fun. And I want to attract them, literally pull them to me in very natural ways. If it feels artificial, if it feels contrived, if it feels forced, then I'm not in my center, then I'm not feeling good about it. And the outcome will be like that. Who's done triple-digit approaches? Who's done quadruple-digit approaches? How many, honestly, how many lays did you get per 100 approaches? Okay. Oh, yeah? Yeah. Oh, good, good. Okay. But then it's something you enjoy. It's kind of like who you are, right? Yeah, I like the thrill of talking to people. Okay, that's different. I don't know if you notice a difference here. I don't know if this is really true for all of you guys. You, I believe you. But most guys have seen, yeah, I know I have to do this. And I have to hype myself up, and I have to spend 30 minutes under an ice cold shop or chanting affirmations that, yes, I can. I don't think you do that. I don't think you need to. You're natural that way.  If you're doing something that's not you, it will feel like that's not you. And girls will feel that. I mean, we've done some stuff at the Real Men Conference a couple of years ago. We did some stuff. We had some girls on stage, and we muscle tested them, kind of like this, or tested their stability and the intention of people approaching. The kind of feedback that girls can give you, they're like machines. They're like radar-intuitive, like supercomputers. And they pick up on stuff like you would not believe, and they can tell you exactly what's going on. The degree of your authenticity, the degree of game, all that kind of stuff. They'll give you feedback that is so unbelievably merciless that count your blessings that 99% of the time they're not telling you what they're feeling or seeing or picking up on. It's unbelievable. And let me tell you a little bit about my background.  I've only joined the community as it were probably officially about five years ago. I've been around these guys that are now like the superstars around 10 years. The reason I was even invited into that circle, and one of the people that actually formed this community in not so obvious ways, is that I've been working with women for 25 years. I'm a little older than you guys. And I've worked with women since I was about 25. And the way it started was I was with a girl, real hot girl, that I ended up marrying. And this girl was real fun. She was real hot. She was like these blonde Swedish, you know, Vixens. And tall, you know, like the total cliche of the perfect 10.  And the only problem with that orgasm was that it was real. She had faked an orgasm. I had never seen that in my life before. And I was like, stop. Come here. Give me a hug. And she was like, what's going on here? And she said, you know, my boyfriend's expect this from me. And you know, it's like, I'm like, no, no, chill. Just be quiet. Come here. Give me a hug. And she cried and said, like, there's no pressure. You don't need to be doing that. All right. Let's just chill and, you know, take all the time you need. I don't care if it ever happens, you know. And it set the stage for me working with women. And I've been working with hundreds and hundreds of women since then, teaching them how to have orgasm, how to have better orgasms, all that kind of stuff. I've trained strippers, porn stars, that kind of girl. I've done tantric seminars. And I've worked with women for so long and so much that I know a little bit about women. I've learned how they work, what really works with them, what they respond to. Not just their bodies, or not just their squirting orgasm, or any of that stuff, but how they really relate, what's attractive to them, how they really feel. And kind of like harkening back to what Jason said yesterday, Savage, about, it's almost like the Pua said, the Pua mindset. You're trying to extract something by force, by coercion, by trickery, by routines that women would be willing to give you freely if you could just kind of like step back and relax and really just know what their nature is and kind of like vibrate on the same frequency.  But my philosophy is there has to be a better way, there has to be an easier way. And for many years I've sort of like looked at what's really going on behind the scenes. I've studied magic, I've studied things like that. I've looked at the deep inner game, the ultra deep game of this stuff. Should we take a little break here? Okay, good, okay. All right, so the whole thing, my philosophy behind this whole thing is there has to be a totally different way to really bring women into your life unless you're totally addicted like most Pueys that I know are totally addicted to the process, they're totally addicted to their dysfunction, they're totally addicted to, I'm a terrible woman but I will do whatever it takes to get this handled.  It kind of goes hand in hand with a bunch of stuff. Most of the guys I know that are hardcore Pueys are also computer guys and there's a similar, there's some kind of like common commonality there. A limiting belief if you will or a bunch of issues that keep you from enjoying the process and trying to make it something because there's your peers, there's your peer pressure and unless you're doing all the right stuff and you're part of that culture, that subculture of pickup, you're really not anyone. Now my friend Johnny Soporno, he said a very interesting thing one day and even though I knew it and I had already heard it before, I'd never heard it quite like that. He said these guys aren't interested in women primarily. Men seek the approval of other men first and foremost. And they don't really seek the approval of anyone else, they don't seek the approval of women, they don't seek women first of all. They seek the approval of other men. And you have to be a man among men, you have to sort of like impress the other guys. It's kind of like driving the Ferrari or getting the girl and it's kind of like a trophy. You want the hot blonde, not so much because you really want to be with that girl but because you look good with her in your arm. You're the man.  And if you walked around with that mindset, always look a little deeper if that's really who you are, if that's really what you want. I mean I've been with a lot of really, really hot girls in my life.  Those are really, and some of those were real sweet girls but most of them were complete borderline syndrome kind of like messed up. And be very careful what you wish for a lot of those girls, a lot of these really hot looking perfect hens or as some people say, super hot babe, 12.7 or whatever the fuck. Hey, let me tell you one thing, at 340 in the morning, if you hang out those bars and you're gaming, you're wearing the furry hat, you're gaming those super models, there's only about 10 super models in the world.  You will never, ever meet a super model at 340 in the morning in some bar. Guess where that super model is at 340 in the morning? She's sleeping, she's been sleeping for four or five hours with like cucumbers and avocado masks on her face. She ain't no, she didn't know barfly, she's not hanging out there. And be real careful if you meet those girls that are hanging out, those super hot blondes at 12, 12.30, if you've had a couple of drinks, you know, what's the difference between a fox and a dog? About four drinks. Yeah, they may look like that, but turn on the lights and you'll realize that that's not, ain't no super model. And those girls are super attached to their ego, to their, if you define your sense of self-worth and self-esteem, but nothing but your looks, well, if one eyelash falls off, there goes your self-esteem. It's like they're only down to 99%, but it feels like they're down to 1% of their self-esteem. They're falling apart. If you've ever been with those girls, you know that it takes nothing. They break a heel and they're like, oh my God, my life's over and, you know, it's like, I need drugs. Be real careful. I don't think you guys really know what those girls are like. I don't think you want to meet with those girls. But let's say you are. How do you attract them? I mean, is this what you want? Or is it like something that your buddies say it's cool? Or like, yeah, I'm the man, I'm amogging, you know, the other guy. I'm like proving my worth by my ability to how much game I have and if I'm doing the routines correctly. If that's what you guys want, yeah, there's plenty of guys teaching that stuff. But I want to show you a different way. I want to show you a way that's not nearly as obvious. And I can see already a little bit of a passive resistance here. Where's this guy going? What's this? Where's the pickup lines? No, no, no pickup lines here. None.  It's not what I like. You may like it.  They're not going to knock on your door. No, they do. They do knock on my door. They come out of nowhere because I know how to attract them in a different way. I don't like to do games. I don't like all that stuff. I am interested in how I feel. If a girl doesn't make me feel good or even getting to know her doesn't make me feel good, then I'm not feeling good. She's not going to feel good. No one's going to feel good in this relationship, in this interaction. And I'm only interested in how things feel.   I've had a Ferrari 430 Modena Spider. It didn't make me happy at all.  Don't ever get one. Real overrated. Get a Corvette. It's a much better car. Faster, quicker, better handling, anything. Reliable. It starts up in the morning. Even at 20 below. Ferrari won't do that. And that's the same with those girls. Those perfect tens, they won't start up in the morning. And a pretty girl 6 is not my idea. I want a girl that's got a little bit of heart and soul because I want to feel good. I want to make her feel good. I want to feel good with her. I don't care if she's a 4, 5, 6, 7. It's not important to me. To me it's like, like hypnotica once said there's only ones and zeros. She's either the right for you or she's not. And where I'm going with this is what's the feeling behind all this stuff? If you want to be a millionaire.  Is this what you want? Do you want, like, well, our money is green dollars. But is this what you want? You want the feeling of having that or what you can buy with it? It's always about the feeling. Do you want to be a millionaire because it feels kind of cool, yeah, I did this? Or is it I want to have the freedom to travel the world? Well, you can do this for a lot less money than a million dollars. And I know many of billionaires. I know billionaires and they don't have time to travel. They have no freedom. None.  Do you have time to take a shit? No, I can't do it. Okay, well, I'm sucking it up then in my private jet. Like, what's the outcome? Do you want the security? Does it make you feel good? Is it that sense of accomplishment or is it truly coming from joy? Is the ultimate test for me? And if it isn't truly coming from joy, then wherever you are when you're manifesting something, we'll feel exactly like that. It's one of the secrets behind the secrets that's going towards one of those secrets. It's like the ultimate inner game. Most people think attracting something or the law of attraction means, okay, I'm sitting down, I'm making goals. I'm setting goals for myself. This is what I want. I want to have the Ferrari. I want to have the Perfect 10 better too. I want to have whatever. I want to have all these things. Then I'm a cool guy and I'll give respect and approval. And I'll respect myself because I've made it. Then I can be happy, the if-then trap. But is it really going to make you happy? Is this really what you want? Most guys will set those goals and then they do the affirmations. And then they go and do the motivational training. And then they stand underneath the cold shower for like 20 minutes and have these huge affirmations. No guys who do this all the time. They have these 10 affirmations. They're standing there shivering water and saying, yes, I can have that car. Yes, I can have that boat. Yes, I can have that house. Yes, I can have that million-dollar-a-year job. And that's one way to torture yourself. I would really look behind what's behind that. Maybe it's masochism. Maybe it's like, oh, in order to be deserving of something in my life, it has to be hard work. It has to be tough. I have to outman myself. I have to force myself to be that. If that's what you're into, that's cool. You can find some dominatrix and she'll tie you up and spank you. That's also a form of self-punishment. I'm sorry? To some it is. If that's truly fun to you, then there's nothing wrong with it.  But unless it feels like joy, the results will be joyless. And you will always attract into your life what you think you deserve. The law of attraction, most people think you have to set these goals, which is really nothing but a shopping list. I have to go out there and I have to get what I want in life by working down that list. And I set deadlines and I set frames and I have to define it and I have to sit there for like an hour a day and visualize. And again, what visualization means to most people is forcing images. I have to train my mind. When you study magic, this is the first thing you'll learn, how to hold images in your mind. Real magic that's deserving of the spelling of the CK, like the stuff you've heard Golden Dawn, Alistair Crawley, all this kind of stuff. Dark magic, light magic. This is mostly forcing images and holding them. And this is what most guys do. Most people that think they're using the law of attraction to attract something in their life by magic, are you really using that? And they'll get you these results. And I've done this. I remember one time, many years ago, a couple of decades ago, I had no money, zilch. And I sat down there and I manifested. For an hour a day, I sat down there to create a visualization. I read the book, Shakti Gavan, Gavan, I think it is. And I manifested. I said, I want a house on the water in Miami Beach.  And I want to have a girl that wants to have sex for four hours a day. And she has to be a super hot blonde, 15.43 and 7 tenths. I was very specific about my goals, right? And it took me exactly. And I was going to have that within 12 months, with about 600 bucks in the bank. I was going to have a million dollar mansion. And the interesting thing is, it did work. I got within one year from having $600 in the bank, I had a house for half a million dollars, right with a million dollar view. I had a sailboat, I had a powerboat, and I had a girl that was a Swiss supermodel, not supermodel. She was a hot model, but she was a supermodel.  High quality problem. And it worked. It really worked. And I should have been totally happy, right? Because I saw that ritual magic gets you results. Absolutely totally certain, if you know how to use it. But as it turned out, that house was so severely haunted.   And that house was it. It was almost like, when I first got in that house, it was almost like the Amityville horror. Almost I heard this voice, not kind of like verbally, but I was like, I should have trusted your instincts. That house, I mean, I had stuff flying through the house. It was like Poltergeist. Beautiful house. Everybody's like, Jesus Christ, if I could only have a house. It's yours, half a million dollars, it's yours. That girl was horny all the time. But I should have known that she had this little pinky fingernail that was a little longer than the others. And even though I wasn't quite naive, I didn't quite put two and two together. That if girls go out of coke, they're horny all the time. And I was always wondering why the family budget, as it were, was almost like a few thousand dollars a month short. I made so much goddamn money, I didn't even notice $5,000 a month missing. It was only when I finally did the books after she was gone that I realized she's been probably putting about $5,000 a month up her nose. And then a hurricane came, Hurricane Andrew, and it sank the sailboat, sank at the dock. And then I still had the powerboat, right? But then another hurricane came a few years later and sank that motherfucker. And there was always something wrong with these boats. And what I didn't realize, everything that I had attracted came from a real weird mindset, from a real dysfunction, because at the time that I did this a couple of decades ago, I was really dysfunctional.  I still made shitload of money, but it wasn't from joy. And everything was almost like a reverse Midas touch.  It didn't feel good. It should have, and so I was trying to psych myself up that it did feel good, but it didn't. It was shallow, it was empty, it was actually miserable.  And those were really a reflection of the demons in my mind, of all the unresolved emotional issues that I was carrying wrong with me. And for years I did this, and I couldn't figure out why everything that I attracted always felt exactly as miserable as I had when I had attracted those things, because that's what the law of attraction really says. It doesn't mean like, do the affirmations, set the goals, you know, like, yes I can. It's none of that. The law of attraction says one thing, one thing only. It says that, which is onto its, like onto itself, is drawn. In other words, if you're vibrating at 104.5 megahertz, like your tuner in your car is actually vibrating at a preset frequency, and that's how it attracts that radio station.  It's impossible. It's not in the same frequency. That's all the law of attraction says. It's like the law of gravity. It's a universal law, which means it's always true. You can't escape it, and it always holds in all circumstances. The law of attraction also says you can never attract a girl into your life that's emotionally healthier than you are. If you really think about that, that means if you want better girls, if you want girls of higher vibration, quality, or emotional sanity, you gotta fix your own dysfunction first. There's nothing you can do in the outer plane or in the outside that will attract better things into your life if you don't fix the inner stuff first. And you will always get in your life exactly what you think you're deserving of. If you think you don't deserve better than whatever you have, well, guess what you're gonna attract?  And it has to be hard work. That numbers game is not working in your favor. The only thing that it's probably gonna do for you and the only reason that it will ever work is not because your games are so good because statistical average for most guys that do that is pretty miserable. As I said, if you fall off your bar stool drunk, you probably have a better chance to get laid. Then 95% of all the guys out there doing routines will have. The reason most people do that and the reason they get the successes is because they feel deserving. I've done everything that Mystery said or I've done everything that Pickup says and I've done the hard work. It's almost like the American dream.  You're all American dream in the suburbs.  And if you feel like, oh, I've done 5,000 approaches at this point, I deserve to get laid because I've done the work. This is why people attract success. Action alone is wonderful, but action alone carries simply not enough power to get results. The inner state and the inner emotion behind it creates that. From a metaphysical point of view, from a point of true magic, as opposed to the path of the mundane, which most people go. If you really take the red pill of truly being a magician, meaning somebody who really knows what he wants from a deep sense of knowing yourself, that's the magician, really.  That's dark magic. But if you learn real magic, it means like you know that self.  You want the things for the right reasons and then you learn how to manifest them in your life by synthesizing the inner state, the inner state of feeling that you want and nothing else. If you've been like on welfare for 10 years and you're trying to manifest a million dollars, the reason it doesn't work is not so much because it's just so far out of your financial range, but it's because it's outside your vibrational range. You don't think you deserve that. You don't believe you can do it. It's like trying to, when Neo is trying to leap, who's seeing the matrix? That's it, really. Part of American culture, I don't know anyone, I don't know any American under 50 who hasn't seen the matrix. But you've heard the term the rabbit hole or the red pill, the blue pill. There's a scene in there where Neo is jumping from one building to another and it's pure mind power. It can't really be done, but it's only a video program so you can't do it.  It can't be done and he falls. This is what happens to people that try to manifest outside their vibrational range, outside what they can believe in, outside of what they really feel deserving of. If you're trying to attract the perfect 10, but you're looking in the mirror and saying, I'm about a 6.3, 7, 4, 1, and 5 tenth, whatever is the differential to the 10 is what you're missing in trying to manifest her from a sense of deserving. If you think I'm a 6.5, but she's a 10, you're 3.5 points short.  It's working against you. It's one of the biggest 10 most limiting beliefs you can ever hold is that 10 scale. And by the way, it's not from Mystery. It's from a movie from the 70s, the perfect 10, Bo Derek. That movie's older than you guys are. But no, Mystery didn't come up with that 10. That's an old hat. But if you're trying to vibrate, if you're trying to manifest something that's so far the vibrational range, like a million dollars if you're in welfare, Social Security, you don't feel deserving of it. And it's that delta, that differential, that part that you're short of, when you have 10 bucks in the bank and trying to manifest a million dollars, you're 990,000, 900, whatever, 90 short. And that's outside of your vibrational range. You don't feel like deserving of it. If you want to be rich, you need to feel rich. That part, the secret got right. That's in there. You need to feel rich. If you want women, you gotta, as Zan says, be, show up in the world of women. I'm paraphrasing, I think. He says it more eloquently than I can, because it's a smooth motherfucker.  He's unbelievable.  But it's like he's, if you know the cat, his secret is partly that he's already in the world of women. He likes women. He loves women. He feels the beauty of femininity. He's showing up in the world of women. He's vibrating on that range. He, a man who loves women is loved by women, he says. And that's absolutely true. If you're saying, oh, they're kind of bitches and it's like the digital fortress and that sort of have to get the right access code and hack my way into her panties, well, that's lack mentality. And if you're vibrating on that range, well, that's what you're gonna get.   Because it's the best service they can give you by showing you how limited your current mindset is. If you can truly see yourself surrounded by women, loved by women, if you love women, women will feel that instinctively. I'm not saying love every woman, but love their femininity, love their essence, love that which you really wanna have in your life. I very much doubt you guys wanna just have sex.  Have you ever had that? I've had it many times. I don't go there anymore, I know better. I see them coming from far away and I run.   You can probably do much better with your own hand than those girls can do. Most of them are terrible at sex, unless you train them right, which is what I do. But unless you've trained them, or I've trained them, they're probably not that great at sex, honestly.  Jesus, I've had like $5,000 and girls pay me money to show them how to deep throat. Like Steve P, I've done this. They pay me money to show them how to be better at sex. Because I know a lot more about the 99.9% of all girls about sex. I can give them 100 times the pleasure they'll ever give me, unless I've trained them or unless they're really good. I doubt that that's what you guys want.   Why, oh, I don't pay for money, I don't need to because I'm a P way. No, that's not it, you want something else. You wanna be the deepest desire of people is to be loved, to feel wanted.   I'm talking about a true sense of appreciation.  You do the soul gazing stuff. Learn this from Steve P, but I've already done it before. And I sit there and I'll do a breathing exercise with her for like 10 minutes.  I'm talking just presence.   I think that's what you want. The trick is not to visualize some arbitrary shopping list that you don't even know if you want those things. I don't think you want the perfect 10. If you've been with enough perfect 10s, my intuition is you probably wouldn't want that. If you've ever had it, you probably want it because you haven't had it yet. I'm pre-assuming that you haven't had it. But if you have been with enough of these models and whatever, those girls that you probably wanked to on the internet, if you've had enough of those girls, you don't want most of those, trust me.  And I don't mean that way.  No, they blow. I mean, they're terrible. You don't want them. The dysfunction junction. I don't think you want that feeling in your life. I sure as heck don't. And I don't want to put myself out there and set myself up for rejection or whatever. I never get rejected. The reason being that kind of energy can never show up in my life is I'm very, very clear about how I want to feel, what kind of vibrational feelings I want in my life. And if I'm, instead of setting goals, instead of manifesting some arbitrary stuff out of penthouse or out of the internet or out of some intellectual ideal life should be like, I just go and I look at what I want to feel. The fastest way, and this is where I'm really going with this, the fastest way, the most sure-fall way to get what you want in life is to feel it.  You know what the Gordian knot is? You ever heard of that? For those who don't, Alexander the Great went to some place and they had a puzzle or a riddle or some kind of thing to figure out. And what it was, it was like this huge as, it was like the hitch of some kind of like cart to the horses and it had like these thousands and thousands of cords over the years, leather, ribbons, whatever, have been tied together. I don't know how long. But it was a massive blob of like a huge as rubik's cube that nobody could figure out. And if he, whoever solved this thing, whoever could unhitch that thing from the horse was like the man, right? And everybody else tried to get into the content of this thing and try to unravel the mystery and like, okay, if I do this and if I do this, this is sort of like pickup. Okay, I go from C2 to C3 and then I get LMR to get the XLR to get the FC. I don't know what you guys talking about, but that's what most people would do on the path of the mundane. Think an insight of the box, get the myriad done in the content of this thing. Get in the routine, the goal, sitting, whatever. Alexander, being the great, great man he was, thought outside the box. He thought in the context of things and the meta structure, if you will. What do I want? What's the end result? What's my outcome here? The outcome is to separate that thing from that thing. What do you do? You took out his sword and cut right through it. It's called intention. It's a decision. You cut this from that. That's what De Cedar means to cut, the sword. And that's what he did. He went straight, he was thinking from the end. He said, what's my outcome? This is the outcome.  And the fastest way to manifest something is not to set goals or to manifest the force imagery. The fastest way is look at what's your outcome. What do you really want? You think you may want the perfect $10 million in a Ferrari. I've had all these things and not just once and it wasn't my cup of tea. But what are you really after? It's never a material thing. It's never something you can touch. It's a feeling that you'll have. It's always a feeling. It's an emotion. It's a deeply felt thing. You may think that's not so, but even if you think I'm Mr. Hardcore and I'm cool and I don't need that.  And that's the feeling you want.  Or the mobster, the mafia guy, whatever it is that you want, but it's always a feeling. Even if you want to be a serial killer, well, you enjoy that process of spilling blood. So be it, fine. But that's the feeling you're after.  And I think the feeling you're after is a feeling of being wanted, being sexually desired, feeling good in the presence of this girl.   But then I'm thinking, okay, if I'm starting to think not from here so much, but from here, then I gotta think, what's an hour or two later? This girl's gonna be in my house. What I'm gonna do, kick her out, unless I wanna wake up next to that girl or in her bedroom, I won't go home with her. It's that simple. And nine out of 10 times, 99 out of 100 times, I can't envision that, because I know I won't feel good, because I've been there many, many, many, many, many times.  She's pretty, but Jesus Christ, do I really wanna spend time with that girl or was I just thinking with my dick? And if I'm not feeling something more with her, why in the heck would I wanna spend time with her? To get my rocks off, there's quicker and better ways to do that. I don't think that's what you want.  If you want that, then think about how you can get that quicker. The law of attraction says the quickest way to get there is to already feel that frequency, to already feel that feeling, to already synthesize that. Like my main girlfriend right now, I have freedom, I did many, but I have one what they call a main squeeze. That's the girl I really love, that's the girl I really spend time with. A lot of time, several months a year. And I was always caught in this dichotomy between wanting the one, whenever I was with the one, I just wanted the many.  And then I was like getting empty and I just wanted the one. And I was lying to women, I was like Alfie.  If you ever look at Jude Law in the end of the movie, where he says, look, you know, it's like I'm young and single. You can see in his eyes, he can't be that good of an actor that he's faking that. He knows what that feels like. I cry when I can't watch that movie because I've lived that life for 20 years. I don't anymore, but I have. And if you think you want 100 or 1,000 girls, I've been with a lot. I don't know how many, but enough to know what that feels like. So my intention was I wanted the many. Yes, I wanted the freedom to have sex with other girls, but I wanted the one that I really felt connected to. And for years, I couldn't solve that dichotomy. I didn't think it was possible. I didn't think it could be done, but I wanted that feeling. I said, how can I have my cake and eat it too?  And instead of trying to figure this maze out, I just said, okay, what do I want to feel like? I want to be with one girl and yet have her totally be okay with me being with others. I won't tell her about the gory details, but I want that freedom. What would that feel like? And I went straight to that feeling and I stuck with it. And I would do these long walks in the wilderness. And I said, what does it feel like? What would it, it's probably not possible, but what would it feel like? If there were a girl that loved me, that I loved and yet was okay, that understood that if I'm doing some other girl out there, it's not going to mean anything for our relationship. I'm not going to bring back any STDs.  I'm not going to be lying, cheating or doing anything else. I don't feel like a cheat or I'm deceiving her when I'm with the other girls. I feel I'm totally okay and I'm already looking forward to coming back and I'm with her 100% when I'm with her. I didn't think that was possible, but I just kind of said, this is probably not happening, but what would it feel like? Is it possible? Let's say it was possible, what would it feel like? And I just completely went straight for that feeling and held that feeling for a few minutes every day. Just walking, just kind of, yeah. Okay, that's what it would feel like. Meanwhile, I was sitting in a little house that inherited in Germany in the Black Forest, which is about the most desolate, lonely place on the planet outside Antarctica. And I was like going crazy, but there's no girls up there, but I had to do the work, I had to create product, I had to write seminars, do workshops one a week, one every two weeks. So I had no time to go out and play and it's like a million miles away from there is the nearest girl. And on some place like Facebook or something like that, all of a sudden, when I was like completely in that state, yes, I can feel that girl. I know she's out there. I got this little friend request from some girl. It was like, I didn't even answer for like three weeks. I didn't do anything on the outside. I had no game, I didn't do routines, I didn't approach, but that girl showed up out of nowhere. She just literally knocked on my desktop. She was like, knock, knock, who's there? She was there. And I didn't do anything on the outer plane in terms of take action, affirmations, it has to happen by then. I didn't do any of that stuff. All I did was focus on what I really want. And I'll tell you one thing. At this time in my life, for the first time ever, I've had many long-term relationships. I had hundreds of short-term relationships, even a few one-night stands. But for the first time ever, I found a girl that gives me the feeling I'm after. And the only reason that she's in my life is that I manifested the feeling that I was actually, got rid of so many emotional issues through all the exercises I do. All the other stuff that I was finally feeling deserving of somebody. And she said, if we would have met a week before, it wouldn't have worked. And it's true. It was just like magic. Two things coming together out of nowhere. That's where I want to get you guys to go to. I think that's what you really, really after. Unless you're so attached to, oh, that's too easy. That can't work. I didn't work for it.  And that's possible. That if you're stuck in that mindset, that that's possible. You can't attract until you've done that. You might want to examine those limiting beliefs. You might want to really get into the deep structure of it or the deep feeling of it. What's behind that? What limiting belief tells you that you're not deserving of a girl in your life unless you've done 3,000 approaches? Part of you might buy into that. And if you're hanging out around enough PUAs, you probably are attached to that mindset. But really look at what part of you thinks or feels that that's what you need to do to yourselves. If that's what, if you need to work through this, then by all means do it, but really look at, look at what inner feeling of unworthiness might be behind this. That you think you need to do this to yourself or resort to routines or trickery or tactics or NLP or whatever it is. I don't know if you want to get there. If you're interested in going through the process, then understand that that's what you're doing and then do the process by all means. To me, that's like taking my head and running against the concrete wall. It's like banging my head. Remember the punk punks? Like 30, 40 years of Sid Vicious, Sid and Nancy. It was like banging his head against the wall until it's bleeding. It's like, head banging. It's great, if that's what you like to do, that's the proof of your manliness, wonderful. But again, look at what's behind the dysfunction of that. And it is, I have not seen too many PUAs who aren't severely dysfunctional, who aren't severely needy or unhappy. And my philosophy is, if you want to attract something on the outside, you got it. If you want better women, you got to become a better man. Okay, there's a few things, secrets behind the secret that I was talking to you about. If we're assuming that you want results, that you want to get something in your life that feels good, or if you want women in your life, who you're gonna feel good with, the only way there is to work on that interstate. Even if you think you do know all this outer stuff, oh, I've been visualizing, well, that's why it happened, or I've been doing 3,000 approaches, that's why it happened. Look at what's really happening on the inside, I've made you feel like, okay, now I've done my 3,000 approaches, okay, would the real girl please step up? There's a quicker way to get there. The secret, unfortunately, cut out just about every real secret there is. The secret, by the way, the term, the secret was coined by Napoleon Hill in a book called, Think and Grow Rich, that was written in the 30s.  By the way, he also, his editors, cut out the real secret, he said the secret is on every page. But if you read through that book, you realize pretty quickly the secret ain't in that book either.  The word vibration was too woo-woo for the public at that time, and it still is too woo-woo for most people. Because it sounds like woo-woo. But it isn't, it really works. Vibration, the law of the vibration, the law of attraction is the only real, coherent, consistent law in the universe.  Physics, quantum physics is still derivative of that original law of attraction. Things attracted to each other by like frequency.  They're saying, for instance, that guy's visualizing a car.  Well, that's great. And I have to really hear the engine. Submodality is the NLP guys would call it. And I have to really feel what that car, just Mazda, just feels right was a commercial 20 years ago in the US. You know, kinesthetic. You have to get the sense or an experience of that. But what all these people, all that visualization doesn't attract the stuff. From the point of metaphysics, what attracts the stuff is the emotion behind it, the feeling. That's the engine. That's the afterburner. That's your turbo charged, you know, whatever V8 behind it, your fuel cell. That's what makes it happen. The emotion makes it happen. So instead of just wasting time on all the, oh, I have to get the images exactly right and I have to force myself. You already so much in your head when you do that, you're missing the actual point. Now, not only of what you want, but also how to get it. So instead, what would that feeling be? If you want the Ferrari, there's perfectly nothing wrong with wanting the Ferrari or the 10,000 girls. The only point is, what would it feel like? Why do you want it and what would that feeling be? Like Alexander the Great cut right to the chase and goes straight after that emotion. Whatever it is that you want, I'm not judging what you want. If you want the Ferrari, absolutely. Like Tim Ferriss says, if you, on your shopping list, a wish list, don't ride world peace if you want a Ferrari. Right, you want a Ferrari and that's perfectly fine. I'm not judging it. I wanted one and I got one. It wasn't the greatest car, but that's not the point. The point is I wanted a certain feeling. I was living in Vegas and I wanted to know what it felt like to drive down the street in my own red F430 Modena Spider. And then I realized, I didn't quite do what I thought I would do. But it's the feeling that attracts the thing in your life. Unless you can manifest the feeling on the inside, you can't manifest it on the outside. It's like setting your tuna to that frequency. That's one of the first secrets behind the secret. That's out in that thing. The feeling state is all important. Number two, you're getting out there, you're manifesting. You're really manifesting.  I want it so bad. Listen to the deep structure of what you just said. I want it so bad. I want these girls so bad. How about, no, I want them so good. It's like, how do you feel when you have that?  You're already sending, you can't not use the law of attraction, you're using it every day. Those might be what computer geeks call zero footprint women. They have, they're either non-existent or they're virtual or they're not real. But that's what you've been attracting. If you're trying to manifest a woman in your life and there isn't, that means you're coming from a feeling, the feeling of not having it is so strong that you're transmitting strong on that frequency on the one that you want. You're looking at what you don't have. And that's what you're gonna get. You're gonna get more of what you don't have and don't want. If you say, I want, deep structure, if you're reading about like Grinda and all that kind of stuff, the deep structure of it is I don't have. Whenever you say, I want this, you are screaming to the universe with a big afterburner, turbocharged, massive nuclear reactor, I don't have. I want means, it's like in the Bible, the word want means lack.  You may not believe me, but I swear to God that this is the God honest truth that that's what you're doing. If you're trying to manifest women by whatever means and you don't have them, you have sent out a request for not having that woman and a story.  That's what it means.  And there's quicker ways to get that too, if that's what you're into. I'm not, I'm dominant, but that's what you want, fine. So that's what you're sending out. Be very careful. The more emotion you raise, the more you get yourself into state.  It's all in the secret, but they diluted it so much, they water it down so much that that's completely lost. It's in there, but not in a way that you can use it. You're sending out this, every wish comes with I want this and it's opposite, I don't have. Look at where you're going. I've done car racing many years, about boundaries. It's been probably about $40,000 in training in the 80s.  Anyway, the point of this is, we're driving down on a place called Sears Point in Sonoma County, San Francisco. And it's like the last mile or so is lined with these red and white tires about 20 feet tall. And you're doing about 150, 160 down there, depending on the car. I remember riding down there with Bob Bonder and he said, what are you looking at, dude? Where are you trying to go? And I said, I'm trying to go into turn 12 to go back to the pit stops. He said, then keep looking there.  You're trying to avoid those. And you know what? Right now we're only going 150. We're gonna go 175 pretty soon. You're gonna end up in those freaking tires, okay? You keep looking at those tires. That's where you don't want to be.  And that's what you're doing. You're looking at what you don't have. And guess what? You're manifesting more of what you don't have. Unless you really get into the feeling of, look, I have. How do you get there? You need to be able to believe it. It needs to be within your vibrational range that you can actually have that girl or whatever it is that you're after. The other thing they cut out of the secret is Jerry Nesterhicks emotional scale. Because that is determining your sense of self-esteem, self-worth, is all determining how you feel about yourself is what you think you can have. And then that's what you're gonna have. If you feel like I'm really kind of like a douchebag, but I want the perfect tenet and she has to be real sweet, you're gonna attract more douchebagness.   And the vibrational range that they're talking about, the emotional scale that they cut out of the movie, if your vibration is the lowest possible, they have these 22 scales. It's arbitrary, but that's a good one. And if you're vibrating at the lowest possible frequency, which is powerlessness, depression, unworthiness, then, oh, the modern day Buddhists tell me, happiness is the way, just be happy. Sounds like Bobby McFerrin. But it's like trying to jump from one building to another. You can't, because it's outside of your vibrational range. If you're truly depressed, you do not have access to total happiness and optimism. You have access to anger. It's about as close as it gets.   Because it's unpleasant for those around you when you're angry. And they say, no, no, you shouldn't have that. Handle your emotions, meaning suppress your emotions. Then you go straight back down to depression. And that's what most people stay at that oscillation between depression and anger. Nobody said you should get stuck in that, but from anger, if you stay in anger for a few days, get pissed again, then you can jump from that to frustration. You don't have access much higher up the scale. Go in baby steps. Yes, I'm happy. Yes, I'm rich. Yes, I'm lucky. Yes, I'm 10 feet tall. Yes, we can.  You're unconscious, doesn't believe that. And we'll shoot you back down because it doesn't feel like you're deserving of it.  Go in baby steps. There's a concept in psychology and neurology called neuroplasticity. It's a fairly new thing.  It takes about 30 days, I think it was Maxwell Waltz, to adopt a new habit. 30 days, 21 days. And if you wanna change your brain, you gotta do it slowly. But it will, after 30 days of staying with a better feeling, emotion, or kind of like working on yourself through baby affirmations, and wouldn't it be nice if there's a better affirmation? Yes, I can, every girl. No, you can't. Why would you? But wouldn't it be nice if I could have a better girl?  It's baby steps, it's stuff. Don't jump from one tile of the world. Okay, it's gone, but okay. Don't jump from one high rise to another. If you've never done this, you don't go in the gym and put like three of these big black plates on there.  If I went into the gym right now, I could probably not put on more than one plate. You know, 135 pounds.  But if I do this for six months and I can bench 125 pounds, it's a process. Don't use these giant affirmations that are completely unrealistic, completely silly, and completely unbelievable to you. Go and go into the feeling state. If you're totally depressed, work your way up to just a slightly better feeling thought. You have 60 to 90,000 thoughts a day, Lisa. It's a stream of thoughts. 90% of what you thought yesterday and 90% are probably not in your favor. Wouldn't it be a better thing if you could start learning how to just slowly and easily, like Aikido, redirect that stream of thoughts? Every thought has an emotion tied to it. You can use what Jerry Asterhicks call the Emotion Guidance System. What does the thought feel like? It's kind of like hot cold, that old game. You're looking around in the room, it's hot, no, it's cold, oh, I, cold, no, no, it's hot, yeah. Okay, you got it. Feel your way toward better feeling emotions and better feeling thoughts. Any thought that is bad or feels bad is bad. If a thought doesn't empower you, a thought doesn't give you energy, it takes energy or it's the best neutral. And the only way you can feel if thoughts are good for you is by kind of like going kinesthetic, not kino, and feel like, is this thought really making me feel better? If it isn't, change it unless you like having that thought. There's no reason to think the thought twice unless you like having that thought. It's not what most people do. You keep thinking the same thoughts over and over again even if they're not in your favor. Kind of gently feel, and this takes a little bit of practice, it takes a few days, weeks, months, whatever, feel always toward better feeling thoughts, baby affirmations, whenever it is. I talk constantly to myself very consciously at this point. I go down weird emotional paths too at times. And I can go, oh God, I'm frustrated. Like when I came from LA, Marina del Rey, I lived like a half a mile away from Vince Kilvin. And if you've ever been to Marina del Rey, it's one of the most beautiful places on earth. And girls are playful. I can banter with them, I can have fun with them, I can do all kinds of, yes, cocky and funny, whatever, but I'm playing with them. And I went to Germany, Munich, Germany, which has some kind of hot girls, but they're snooty, they're cold. It's my limiting belief. And I'm not feeling good around them. And they're flirt deficient. They can't do that. That's not in the nature of the German people. I mean, my dad was German, so I know. To take the slight German accent, that's why. Because I lived in Germany for a few years. And my God, I haven't lived in Germany for 35 years.  What's up with you? What's up with it? No, we don't flat in this country, no. Not great, okay. Well, it's a limiting belief too, but I don't wanna feel that way. I have to constantly, if I'm in that, and I do a lot of workshops in that country. So I have to be there about six months of the year, which is to me is hell, because I'm used to sunshine and not this kind of weather. I'm used to fun loving girls in LA and not cold hearted bitches. Okay, for all the Germans out there, I apologize, but aim my cup of tea, but I have to constantly, this is like an intergame challenge to me. Like, oh, a lot of attraction. And it's like, I'm going into these loops of self affirming negativity when I need to really work and this is why it's on my mind. Because I'm constantly having to talk to myself, no, they're not all like that. And I was like, doing this, I was walking like a week ago. I was walking, I was like, like Friday a week ago, I was walking around and I was like, oh no, they're not all like that. I was doing these baby affirmations for about two hours, I was doing strict intergame. Like inner, like raising my emotional state.  They're all, that's some nice girls out there.  I know that. The next morning the phone rings and these two girls that I met like six months ago call me up. Like, look, we're going to that lake. You wanna come with us? Like we spent all night together. It was unbelievable. I was like, that's some nice German girls. Jesus Christ.  And it was like, God, this was, that was easy. No, that was too easy. No, I can't, I was going through all these loops too. I was like, no, that was coincidence. Nah, I had nothing to do with that. No, it's like immediately. If I'm thinking, oh, it has to be a hard work, I have to kind of do marketing and I have to do sales letters and I have to do all this kind of stuff to fill my workshops. Then all of a sudden I'm like, nobody books these workshops. I'm like, okay, I'm off target here. I'm off feeling, I'm off center. Okay, what's wrong with this picture? Is this what I really want? No, it should be easy. It should be fun. It should be like the four-hour work week by Tim Ferriss. Okay, center, go back. What would I really want? What does it feel like? No, I wanna have my dream clients show up and book these workshops. Then I got pissed because my support guy wouldn't answer my emails for three days because he was busy doing one of the final exams in university or a week or whatever. And all of a sudden he puts all the bookings back on the drop box and it's like that workshop's full. I'm like, I thought I had two guys and there's like 12. I'm like, okay, it's law of attraction. It's like, what did I wanna feel like? I spent time, instead of doing marketing, I was spending time on, what would it feel like? Wouldn't it be nice if all of a sudden these workshops booked themselves? Meanwhile, I'm sitting here kind of like relaxing with these girls and here I am going back on the drop box. I don't know if you know what that is, but it's like a weird kind of internet thing. And it's like a full workshop. And I did zero zilch to fill it. I'm like, okay, that was the best few hours.  I was spending time, I was wasting time with these girls when I should have been marketing and writing sales letters and doing all this kind of stuff. And the workshop filled itself. $15,000 worth of bookings in like one week. I'm like, okay, maybe there's something to this law of attraction. I'm gonna talk to these guys about that, how that works. I don't know if you guys feel this. I don't know if you guys get this.  I just wanted to pick up lines and I wanna know how I get past the last minute resistance. Well, the law of the universe. The universe is a little bit like a girl. You have to feel her and you have to know what it is and you have to trust it, trust yourself and get better feeling thoughts about you, the universe. Wayne Dyer says, change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. And I say, change the way you feel about things. And the things you feel about change or will show up in your life. And if you really, the universe is like a woman.  If you read the New Testament, I'm not a Christian but I like kind of like what Jesus and all these guys are saying, Buddha. And basically it's a manual for using the law of attraction so it doesn't use you. You can't not use it. And if you're not using it in the context of meeting women or getting sexual fulfillment or emotional fulfillment, you're cheating yourself out of 99.9% of what's possible. That's my basic message to you. And if you have any questions, this is the time to ask them. Yeah, do you think mixing law of attraction with taking right action? There's no way around action. It's not what I'm saying. I'm not saying just sit there at home.  That's not what I'm saying. I'm just saying action alone. You can't mix, not mix the law of attraction because it's the universal law. It's like, oh, today I'm not gonna use the law of gravity. I shouldn't be using that today. It's gonna use you unless you're up in outer space and then it's still working in some weird ways. But, because planets circle around each other because the law of attraction or the law of gravity. Action is possible, action is necessary, but any action that is not rooted in joy or in feeling good, however you're feeling, this is one of the many secrets behind the secret, however you're gonna feel when you're manifesting something or when you're planning action or when you're taking action, that's gonna be what the results will feel like. Like Florence Scoville-Shinn, who's probably the mother of all law, she coined the term law of attraction to the best of my knowledge in the 20s. Florence Scoville-Shinn, one of the best books. The Game of Life and How to Play It, games like Books Like That, The Secret Door to Success. Those are some of the best metaphysics books out there. And she's talking about your dreary desires are dreary fulfilled. Your impatient desires will be violently fulfilled. And it's gonna feel like any action. Action is great and you need to take some if for no other reason than you'll feel deserving of it. But hard work gets you results, not so much because of the actual hard work, but because, oh I've done the work, now I've fulfilled my good old American period and work ethic. And now I feel so deserving now that that's when it comes. That's the real reason it comes. The action, it doesn't say like Matthew 10, 29, I sound like a goddamn Christian, but anyway, so like Matthew says like, I forget I'm paraphrasing. Look at the birds under the heavens, they son out, they reap not, they don't fill their barns and yet God feeds them or something like that. I'm for all the Christians there, sorry for my paraphrasing here, but it says something like that in the New Testament and that's really what it is. And you can literally attract the things if you feel deserving.  Aren't you all like powerful magicians or angels, whatever? You can, you shall all do what I did and more, he said. You can do all these things, but it's like you gotta believe that you can. If you have the faith of the size of a mustard seed, you can move mountains and says, why are you fearful, ye of little faith? That has a lot to do with it. And the action that you take has to be rooted in that certainty and that feeling, yes, that's possible. I may not be perfect, but I'm perfectly suited for the task and that's how I manifest what I want. Does it answer your question at all? Yes. Thank you. Anyone else? I got a bit confused because you were saying that images alone isn't enough, you should tap into what you feel. However, in my experience with doing visualization, which drained me a lot by the way, but I was doing a lot of images, more like movie kind of like, more like actually more like the Matrix program like Neo is in the scene. Right, right, right. And I consider those images and actually they really changed the way I felt as well. So what are you talking about then, the images? Ah, okay, that's a good question because I was going to actually get into that. The images, the visual part, the auditory part, the kinesthetic part, olfactory, whatever, serves to conjure up a state of where you can believe this. It helps you believe it because it's so vivid. The mind can't imagine between real and imagined, can't differentiate between that. And if it gives you that, it's primarily to clarify what you want. It's an essential part of visual, I mean, of manifesting, yes. But again, what does it feel like? Does it feel like, God, I'm a miserable popper and I'm trying to be the frogs and the princes? Or am I really feeling it already? Yeah, okay. If that component is missing, then you're probably not using 90% of it. And it's going to help you. Visualization is going to, I mean, the whole point of visualization is primarily to raise that feeling state, to making it so real that, wow, you can actually get a glimpse, even emotionally, what that feels like. So yes, it's important. Visualization is great. But if it feels forced, don't force images. Because a lot of magicians, I mean, it's part of magical training. It's not like abracadabra. It's more like, okay, holding images, like a pencil and making it float there for 10 minutes. That's magical training. That's how you do it.  It's disciplining your mind. But if it feels like, oh, this is effort and I'm forcing myself to hold this image of what I think, well, then the results will feel accordingly. So pre-feel that feeling that you're really trying to manifest. And if it feels like, oh my God, this is hard work and I can't hold this image. It's drifting off to some other image. Go there and see if you can't find a better feeling image and then manifest that. Did I answer your question? Yeah, so it was. Good. Yeah. Just one last thing, maybe not a question, more of a comment. But if I understood you correctly, you're basically saying that it's not so much becoming the person that you wanna be, but more about finding out what you're all about and just being true to yourself. That's the first step. You should always work on yourself and become a better. You're always perfect, including your desire to be a more perfect person. So to speak, I know that's kind of like a little mind fuck, but yeah, you should work on becoming a better person and becoming who you wanna be, but make sure that you really know what that is and that you're not doing somebody else's idea. If you think, oh, I should be whatever, the next Michael Schumacher. I used to have those ambitions in driving and I didn't quite have the talent and that was good, but not that good. And I tried to be that with force and it wasn't the right thing. So I realized those things I'm better at and that feel better. So yeah, go for that. So it's more of a name words, joining, you know? Yeah, I don't like to go too much into the inward thing because it sounds like wooboo and it sounds like, oh yeah, well, all you're doing is sitting at home and going home, you know, that's not what I'm talking about. Go out there and do stuff, but just really make sure it makes you feel good. And if you realize you're not, you're more of a introverted person, like my whole thing is more of a mysterious, kind of, you know, whatever magician kind of guy. I'm not so much the animated. Yes, la, la, la, la, la. You know, there's people who know that and if that's not who you are, if I tried to be that, I'd fall flat on my face and people say, that's not who you are.  Just really figure out what suits you and what makes you feel good. Wow. And just really feel your way toward what's right for you, who you really are and that's what I mean with, it's an inward journey in this sense, but you don't have to go inward and sit in a cave for nine months. Just kind of like, you can do this in real time as you walk and as you're talking, you can feel, okay, is this feeling right or is this kind of like going off center here? You can do this in real time, train yourself what I call mind, body awareness, the Buddhist emotional consciousness, the Buddhist call this mindful being. I would say they call it heartful being, call it soulful being. It's a physical. It's mind, body and soul and spirit all together and feel your way toward where you really want to be. Is this really who I am or is this like somebody's idea of who I want to be? Does it answer your question? Absolutely. Okay, cool. All right guys, I've done my time here and I hope you got something out of this, but if you want to find me, how would somebody find you? It's very easy. You find me on www.magicmail.com. And that's spelled magic as an M-A-G-I-C-K as opposed to, you know, stage magic. M-A-L-E, male as in, male as opposed to female. So it's magicmail.com. And there you can find some interesting stuff. Thank you. Thank you.


Tlo what's poppin? We are on twitch. We are not live But you can leave a like comment subscribe turn on your post notification bells Let's continue to grow the family from Chicago to the UK right behind me if you miss a live Just go on twitch replay the live man. It's as simple as that Don't forget. We do got patreon. We post there Monday through Friday. We just watched Luther I know it's Saturday, but you know we plant ketchup and we do got merch as well Man the link to all of that is down in the description. Now. This is a poncho. I've seen this story I've never paid attention to it because I'm like, oh, this is America Somebody got caught on the beach making an only fans video. Who cares? But I didn't know that all it is happen This back part like that's tough Let me hold on now now I'm interested on the afternoon of July 1st 2021 officers from the Tybee Island police this is from 2021 Department descended on Tybee Island Beach in Tybee Island, Georgia The police had been called by a member of the public because according to them a woman had walked past the callers at family tent several times and eventually found a spot a short distance away in front of it after placing a towel down on the sand the Caller said that the woman started touching herself inappropriately I Could hear moaning as you'll see the woman in question appears to be confused at first But when confronted by the claims that made against her She starts to give her version of events and tries to reason with her actions I Gotta see how this plays out. They got live webcam. I mean body hair footage. What's your name, ma'am? Alright, so someone called this I Officer do your job and say it Ma'am you was twirling that pebble. I would a man. Were you twirling ill pebble? Okay, I don't understand There was nobody I was just sitting on my town nobody was around me, okay And you were over at the beach like I was I was near the water Yeah, she got a roll-up time to she didn't have any of this And they saw you doing something you know, that's that's not true Okay, look, is there something that my phone should be off for or on or you couldn't Whatever you want to do. It's your right if you want to record this conversation But we are also recording Okay, can you can you show me who did I think I don't understand? What did I do? What did I do? She was Who saw that? Okay, because I was by myself Now I will tell you this the only way that somebody would have called you is if it was a military operation or if I can Do this Okay, so Nobody nobody was around. It was at an anonymous call. Is this one of my buddies? Okay, one of my buddies It's a family. Okay, look, let me let me show you Okay, is there anything in the bag? No, if I look through it, I mean if you can open it and I see the contents inside They trying to find that rose You trying to find that dole deal that's tough. I don't I don't really understand what y'all We're just here because I'm called and it's indecent exposure This is really how we offensive to me. I got it. I got you and that's why I'm trying to figure I was sitting on the beach and I just just okay. Do I need to get a ticket? so so You did have a vibrate Listen, I was sitting on the water like this and I just put it in there and it was covered up and I just had an orgasm I'm sorry. I was stressed out Okay, just hang tight for me I mean, yeah, people did see it. We didn't call for no reason. I swear to God I was sitting in the water. Nobody saw it. I got you Well, I mean if nobody saw this, they wouldn't have called right Somebody called somebody seen it. He was in that water. Oh to moon.  You gotta go on that list offer a little you know what I'm saying? You probably have a beach You probably have a hotel room. Why would you why are you on this voyeur? type situation I didn't have any of my It doesn't matter a family saw it. They had kids Nothing in here that shouldn't be in here Well, I'm just gonna throw this in here. Okay And they gotta walk her all through there So that's why you should do private stuff in the privacy of your privacy Privately And you know, it's crazy. She was probably by herself and nobody was around but the family had already seen she was already Ex suspicious and somebody spied on her from afar. You know what I'm saying?  Thank you so much. What's your name? All right, 95 that's crazy. She was on the beach trying to get a beachfront prop like relaxation moment She was Look at these officers They didn't got a moka like they why? She was probably literally like I'm either in my hotel room or I'm in my house You know what? I'm gonna go outside and and do it Like just be in the house and do it like why? Why even do all this? Because I'm probably sure she would have just got regularly arrested, but like there were kids around you You got to get registered.  How long is this footage? Not gonna lie. I don't want to see this All right, they got her arrested Yeah, all right, hold on wait for that. He's talking about nice Converted I mean, I should admit it to it.  You know, don't get caught. That's all I have to say, you know Thanks, so I mean I got nothing against you, you know Obviously 34 year old Christina Ashley Rebels Glick was arrested and charged with indecent exposure and disorderly conduct If you're not familiar with this story, then you may be thinking to yourself. Well, that's the end of it She went through the legal process. Yeah, this is what I thought like this is like This is what I thought like I seen it on a world star or something and I was like, okay Whatever It's not that, you know, and it's not that deep and received her punishment Mistaken Georgia, a first offensive indecent exposure is classed as a misdemeanor So you'd be right to think that she got a slap on the wrist But what if I told you she didn't even make it through the whole legal process? Because she passed just months after her arrest But the circumstances surrounding her death aren't as straightforward as you may think Christina's life leading up into the beach incident to being a quote wild one Yeah, that's what I'm saying. She's feel I feel like she lit She went on that beach and was going doing lit things according to one unnamed relative And although there isn't much information about her So I'm just happy to know the one how to make do with what's happening here. I don't know Anyway, at early life We do know that the beach incident wasn't her first running with the law She got in trouble got herself arrested. She went to prison in florida It isn't in time. Oh, she a habitual offender But we do know that she had been arrested on a handful of occasions in 2018 She was accused of stealing a car and in that same year. She was arrested She was living crazy public drunkenness Her life prior to the 2018 arrests was far from stable You see she had two sons with two different men a 19 year old from a relationship way back in the day And a 15 year old from a marriage that ended in divorce in 2015 Although the divorce went through in 2015 the marriage had broken down years before Just six months after the 15 year old was born She left the family home to go on her own journey in life. The child was left with his father Over the years she had a major contact with either of her children and their fathers But on at least one occasion she and her at the time husband rekindled After she spent time in jail her husband took her back But she was wild a short while after they got back together. She fell in with a real bad crowd She was drinking and taking drugs by 2020 Christina had made her own way in life once again And she had been living at a property in hindsville, georgia And we heard she worked at the strip club too She was always nice to talk to always smiled said hello to our kids when she was coming in and out She always paid her rent on time in that sense. She was a model tenant Then came march of 2022 On the 19th landlady felicity rollins contacted police to request a welfare check on christina She had missed her latest payment for rent a couple of weeks had gone by and felicity couldn't get hold of her When police arrived it was reported that quote negative contact was made then they left Remember ashley wasn't considered so she was there in the eyes of authorities And there were no reports to police that she could be in any sort of danger So there wasn't much they could do about it Over the next 12 days felicity continued to try and reach out to christina for all attempts failed Then the thief looked like she'd do class a's On the 31st of march 2022 felicity and her boyfriend Decided it was for the best to enter the property to see what was going on for themselves It was then a gruesome discovery was made I was sitting waiting in my truck when felicity and her boyfriend came down and said something's wrong We think there's a dead body in there. It smelled pretty much turned straight around when they opened the door I didn't believe it. I thought they were messing. So I went up When felicity's family friend gareth white entered the apartment He knew straight the way that someone had died. The smell alone was enough to tell him that And so there she was christina decomposing on the floor She had been dead for roughly a month After an investigation detectives concluded that she took her own life for reasons unknown But people connected to the incident don't really buy into that story and want police to explore the possibility that she may have been murdered After the discovery was made felicity asked her sister whitney philip No, hold on. Stop now. Let's keep it real. Let's look at her life. Let's look at her life decisions But this is what I'd be like no offense But this is what I'll be saying to these women who be out here partying partying partying partying partying There's a time where you're gonna reach an expiration date Like like let's the party expiration date There's a time where it's it's everything Mentally all these soul ties all the stuff that you're doing it's gonna hit you all at once And you're gonna go through a serious depression you can't step out here at 34 partying like you 24 still You're 34. It's a it's let it go. You got two kids that you do not take care of You know like like like think about you got a 19 year old That you didn't take care of or whatever Like you got two kids two baby daddies Uh two like you didn't take care of any of them. You're 34.  I believe it I believe she did it to herself Forward as the incident was too much for her to handle when whitney entered the property She noticed that there was blood in every room not only that but there was other evidence to suggest foul play There was blood in every room in the apartment But there were other things like she did it unopened packages things for the apartment Like she was expecting still to do things depression is the real stuff for the house Why would she still be paying her bills if she was planning to end it? She was never late on rent I didn't sleep right for a week after seeing the inside of that apartment You could see the marks on the wall where her body had been and on the carpet where it had laid To me it looks like she was panicking trying to get away trying to save her life Why would she be moving through the house like that? Yeah, she didn't want to she thought about it afterwards Jonathan Johnson and his wife jasmine downstairs neighbors Think christina was murdered too the johnsons believe they had the actual murder taking place But didn't want to intervene because they weren't too sure they say a man who ashley had been seeing Needs to be taken in for questioning. I believe that dude killed her We had a lot of commotion that one night Then we never saw her or heard her All right Well, I still say I'm by what I say But at the end of the day, you know police go ahead investigate do what y'all do Regain do why I asked should we call the police? But you're not too sure sometimes like if you get involved Maybe you'll get hurt too that guy was there all the time and his car was over there that night When we came out the next day it was gone that night It was like a lot of heavy walking and moving around going on after that. It was just silent up there And so it's been well over a year since police reached their conclusion We can't rule out that they'd ever change their theory and investigate the possibility that christina was murdered But we can say for at least now anyway that they don't think she was And that's tough man The moral of the story is you know, I'm saying take care of your responsibilities be safe out there When you when you wrapped up in a certain lifestyle you attract certain people you date certain people And these certain people might or might not have taken your life See a little leave a like comment subscribe turn on your post i'm gone