Part of the problem with living hard is that it leaves you without much spare time For instance  I already have a job  go to the gym in three of my five lunch hours  do Brazilian jiu-jitsu every night that there isn’t a compelling reason not to (drinking or date night  basically)  climb at the weekends  cook most of my own food and spend most of the rest of my time with my girlfriend  who is lovely and very tolerant of all the other stuff (though we do deadlift together sometimes)