english: Even when my boyfriend and I have the occasional disagreement, his reactions to me show a lot of the kind of argument he has been spending decades having, and I understand better how I have to "retrain" him for our conversations: I am not going to consider him evil because we disagree on one thing; if I say I spend "a lot" of time thinking about something unhappy, it means about ten minutes a day several times a week until I push past it, not ten hours of every day.
non_english: うぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅうぐぅぅうぐぅうぐぅぐ～ぐ～ぐ～。。。。