By forgiving yourself (the cure is self-irony and a great deal of humor, I find) you are also forgiving them, and the statue will come crumbling down (whether you want it to or not).
चिन्ता गर्नुपर्दैन, भैगो क्षमा छ भन्दै मैले उनीहरूलाई माफी दिए“ ।