Chronic Liars As Chronic Latecomers

Posted under I am Always Late on Tuesday 18 September 2012 at 9:50 pm

chronic liarsMany of us know that being always late is very common to those people who also have another bad habit: chronic lying. We all lie from time to time, some of us do this more often, and some of us do that less often. But chronic liars are those who use lying for making their way through, and usually do not care at all about how their lies harm other people. Chronic liars are living their lives thinking that they have some superior social skills, and most of those are convinced that their lies are never revealed. Since such people give no or very little concern about the feelings or time of other people, being always late is something absolutely acceptable and very common for them.

There are a few types of liars. Along with chronic liars, experts also define compulsive liars, pathological liars, or habitual liars. For all of them, lying is a normal reaction or an almost reflexive response to everything that’s going on around them. Chronic lying usually develops from childhood, and in adulthood telling lies seems the only right way to get through life. Lying people are trying to create around them a special atmosphere which is different from the reality. Such atmosphere brings them more comfort and makes them happier, that is why they are lying even though sometimes they know that lying actually can not bring to anything good. Liars are usually sociopaths who know how to manipulate people and achieve their most daring goals.

Why do they chose the way of lying? Some chronic liars can not accept themselves as they are. So they are ready for anything in order to create another personality of themselves, a visibly better, more attractive and more successful one. This can be a result of various factors. Some people have too low self-esteem and they are lying in order to look better in the eyes of others. Some people turn into chronic liars as a result of chronic stresses and negative emotions. For example chronic lying can be caused by severe criticism or forced social isolation that a person had to go through earlier in the life. Sometimes chronic lying can emerge as a result of a painful break-up or one-way love. People who lived that through use lying as a tool to protect themselves against possible failures in their social or love life.

Other chronic liars start lying because they can not stand on certain current events or relationships in their life. For example, a teenage son can start lying because he can not stand on living with his drinking parents, or if he feels embarrassed with a low social or economic status of his family. In this case, lying plays a role of protective mechanism against possible negative emotions and stresses caused by the mentioned factors. Lying allows creating a new personality, with a new interesting life and without the mentioned problems. Very often teenagers and young people turn into chronic liars as a result of a certain abuse by parents, teachers, peers, colleagues, bosses, and other people around them.

It is quite hard to cope with those people whose lying has turned into their second nature, and it can be twice hard if chronic liars are also chronic latecomers. The main goal is to make the person understand that his or her behavior hurts people around them and can end up with very serious consequences like ruining relationships, etc. Unfortunately, it is always very hard to make a chronic liar recognize the problem and start fighting against it. It can be effective to deal with chronic and compulsive lying by using the services of professionals and use counseling or other types of therapy.